Forsyth Woman - October2017

October 2017

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is a certified sex therapist and author of Wanting Sex Again. She is a regular radio guest and has appeared in Triad-area morning drivetime radio shows 2 Guys Names Chris on Rock 92 and Jared and Katie on 107.5 KZL.

Follow her popular podcast, FOREPLAY-Radio Sex Therapy (available on iTunes and a foreplayrst. com), which helps committed couples keep it hot!

Laurie lectures at the medical schools of UNC-Chapel Hill and Duke and trains and consults with all the therapists at Awakenings Center.

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Shalisa Bynum, LCSW

licensed clinical social worker and graduate of UNC Charlotte will serve as our first clinician in our new Winston-Salem office. She has experience in couple’s therapy and is training as a sex therapist. Ms. Bynum has a passion for helping veterans and their spouses during their transition back to civilian life. She also has tough experience with mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and trauma. Her therapy style is non-judgemental and open to all cultures and backgrounds.

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COVER STORY June DeLugas Interiors: Syle. Life. Love.

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Denise Moseley Celebrates 40 Years in Business

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10 Reasons Not to Give Up on Love

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The Importance of Saying Yes

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Keeping it Real: Get Off The Sidelines!

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Dear June…

Irresistable Linens

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Style File: How to Interpret the Fall 2017 Runway into Your Own Wardrobe

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ReDESIGNS by Ava: Mix It Up

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B.E. Healthy: Love How You Eat

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Crazy Perfect Life: Don’t Wait, Seize the Day

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To Your Health: National Physical Therapy Month

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Constructing Dreams: Insulation is More Than Just Pink

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A Novel Idea: Crush Cancer

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108 Recipes: At Home Pumpkin Spice Latte That Make You Blush: 120 Things Falling into the Wrong Relationship Humor: 132 Boomer Whose Memory Is It, Anyway?

City Creates: 134 Camel Director / Actor Cheri Van Loon Another Thing: 146 &Hold the Moon in Your Hands and I Mean That Literally!

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The View From This Side OCTOBER 2017 Hello, Pumpkin. Whether you want to take that as a term of endearment or a reminder to pick up a pumpkin spice latte during your next round of errands, it’s October, y’all! Pumpkins surround us.

But for me, the month is much more than fall leaves and pumpkin-flavored-everything. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and as I celebrate 10-years cancer-free, it’s especially important. As you all know, my business partner, Robin Bralley, has been undergoing her own battle with breast cancer, and a few weeks ago, we surprised her and her family with a “Breast Vacation Ever!” surprise trip to wrap up her surgery, chemo, and radiation journey. While Robin hasn’t gotten her official “clean bill of health,” she’s feeling great, and I’m proud to have her join me, our dear friend Sandy, and my sister-in-law Donna, in our local “Breast Cancer Survivor Club!”

This month, we are co-hosting a fundraiser with Village Inn Event Center in support of Triad Pink Heals. As you may remember, Triad Pink Heals recently visited Robin to offer her encouragement, and it’s our privilege to show our support to them! We hope you’ll make plans to join us for an extra special GNO event on October 10th! The guys are invited, too. We’ll have food! Music! 50/50 raffle! And an auction! All proceeds will go to Triad Pink Heals and it’s an event NOT to be missed!

(Check out our ad on page 43 and read our article on page 44 for a full list of auction items.)

In addition to our support of Triad Pink Heals, we’re excited to invited Forsyth Woman columnist, Dara Kurtz, to participate in our event! The international blogger of CrazyPerfectLife.com, Dara is a breast cancer survivor herself and has just released her first book, “Crush Cancer.” Within 24 hours, her book jumped to #1 on Amazon’s book list for its category! Dara will be joining us and autographing her new book, and a portion of any books sold will also help support Triad Pink Heals! (Be sure to check out her book review in this month’s “A Novel Idea,” on page 94.)

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A doctor’s referral is no longer required (in most cases—including Medicare) to see a specialist for your pain or discomfort from NEUROPATHY and ALL INSURANCES WILL PAY FOR SOME OR ALL OF THESE TREATMENTS. Have you tried medicine after medicine, seen multiple doctors or tried many different things with no relief of your symptoms? Ever had a doctor or loved one tell you, “There’s nothing more you can do about it – you’re just going to have to learn to live with it”? Well, times and medical advancements have changed with NEUROPATHY.

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If you suffer from ANY kind of NEUROPATHY, or are just plain tired of living with discomfort, pain, burning or numbness and are ready to get your life back, then you need to call Brett at Complete Rehab. Pain, burning, tingling, numbness, stabbing, jolting, or throbbing sensations, weakness, or general discomfort are all common symptoms he treats regularly.

Brett’s Specialty: NEUROPATHY

Something as simple as irritating sensations in your arms, legs, feet or hands can all be indicators of some form of NEUROPATHY—even if you have not been “officially” diagnosed with it. Brett Duffey is an Occupational Therapist who specializes in pain control and all types of NEUROPATHY. He has treated over 2500 patients in the last 12 years and has had a very high success rate in dramatically relieving or completely eliminating the aforementioned symptoms. He understands that no two cases of neuropathy are the same, or necessarily respond to the same medication, and will commonly require two SIMILAR but different treatment programs.

Brett will take the time to develop a specific INDIVIDUALIZED treatment plan for you. Brett believes in small, patient-focused care and because of that, he’s not a part of a hospital system. The majority of his referrals are from other independent physicians, such as private-practice neurologists, not to mention current and former patient referrals. He receives calls weekly from people who have tried “everything” without results, but have heard their friends’ and families’ success stories with Brett.

After treatment with him, many feel the best they have in years and wish they had seen Brett sooner!

Brett will take the time to develop a specific INDIVIDUALIZED treatment plan for you.

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WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT “THE SILENT VISION THIEF”

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD Glaucoma is known as the “silent thief of sight,” because in the most common form, there are typically no early symptoms as the disease sneaks up on its victims, robbing them of side vision first and then, over time, zeroing in until it’s like looking through a narrow tunnel. Finally, glaucoma takes away vision altogether.

Glaucoma is a major cause of vision loss in the U.S. Today, it affects about three million Americans; but according to the National Eye Institute, that number could more than double by 2050. And according to the World Health Organization, it’s the second leading cause of blindness in the world.

In the most common form of glaucoma, called primary open angle glaucoma, nerve damage results from increased pressure inside the eye.

This pressure happens when the fluid that circulates in the eye drains too slowly. To maintain a constant healthy eye pressure, your eye continually produces a small amount of aqueous humor while an equal amount of this fluid flows out of your eye. If you have glaucoma, the aqueous humor does not flow out of the eye properly. Fluid pressure in the eye builds up and causes damage to the optic nerve fibers.

The optic nerve acts like a data cable with over a million wires and is responsible for carrying images from the eye to the brain. When the nerve cells or “wires” in the cable are damaged, the flow of visual information is disrupted. Unlike a TV, which might be fixed with a new cable, there is no way to reverse damage to the optic nerve.

Over time, raised intraocular pressure (IOP) causes damage to the nerve fibers. If the drainage angle becomes completely blocked, eye pressure rises quickly, resulting in a narrow-angle glaucoma attack, with severe eye and brow pain, nausea and vomiting. This kind of glaucoma attack is a medical emergency and must be treated immediately. This is unlike the open angle glaucoma which has no symptons until visual loss is experienced. People of Asian descent and those with hyperopia (farsightedness) tend to be more at risk for narrow-angle glaucoma (also known as angle-closure glaucoma or closed-angle glaucoma).

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Damage to the optic nerve can occur at different eye pressures among different patients. Your eye doctor establishes a target eye pressure for you that he or she predicts will protect your optic nerve from further damage. Different patients have different target pressures. Some patients have an eye pressure that is consistently below 21 mm Hg, but optic nerve damage and visual field loss still occur. Adults with no symptoms of, or risk factors for, eye disease should have a complete eye disease screening by age 40 — the time when early signs of disease and changes in vision may start to happen. Populations tending to have a higher risk factor for developing glaucoma include those who: are age 40 and up; have a family history of glaucoma; are of African or Hispanic ancestry; have farsightedness or nearsightedness; have elevated eye pressure or past eye injury; have a thinner central cornea; do not have eye examinations when they are recommended; have low blood pressure; or have conditions that affect blood flow, such as migraines, diabetes and low blood pressure.

Based on the results of the initial screening, your eye care provider will let you know how often to return for follow-up exams. Adults 65 or older should have an eye exam every year or as recommended by your provider.

If you do not have an eye care provider, our Summit Eye Care staff welcomes you to make an appointment for an examination.

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Considering a Cosmetic Procedure?

10 Things You Need to Know

BY MARISA FAIRCLOTH, PA-C | Founder and Owner, Restoration MedSpa

1. There was a time not that many years ago when serious surgeries requiring general anesthesia were the norm in anti-aging procedures.

But those days are long gone. Now, the clinical cosmetics world includes both surgical and minimally invasive surgical procedures. While both can shave years off your appearance or improve your body, minimally invasive procedures can offer dramatic results with far less or no down time and far fewer risks.

2. Minimally invasive procedures now out-number traditional surgeries more than 8 to 1. Especially when it comes to the face, lower costs and less invasive procedures appeal to a much broader range of patients.

3. We are quickly approaching the turning point when noninvasive procedures can provide the same or better results than invasive surgeries.

In fact, invasive plastic surgeries declined 6% between 2000 and 2016, while minimally invasive procedures saw a 180% increase.

4. Even when choosing minimally invasive procedures, it’s very important to find the right provider. Just because a surgeon is board certified, there’s no guarantee that he or she has the expertise or rigorous training needed to get the best results from less invasive procedures. When choosing minimally invasive, go where the experience is. Ask for credentials and to see before and after photos – and insist that your clinician spend some time getting to know you and your goals during an unhurried consultation.

5. Cosmetic procedures change appearance by altering or reshaping parts of the body that you don’t like.

However, while you can anticipate improvement, you shouldn’t seek perfection. In my experience, those who are the happiest with either a full facelift or a minimally invasive procedure are those who have realistic expectations. If you’re thinking that you want to look healthier or rested – a better version of yourself that brings out your natural beauty – then minimally invasive procedures are probably a good choice for you.

6. Cosmetic procedures in general are not covered by most health plans. The investment you’ll make for a procedure includes the cost of the product and the time and experience of the provider.

7. You may want to think about lifestyle changes in order to get a true value from your treatment options. For instance, most of the external damage we have on our skin is from sun exposure.

So, you’ll definitely want to avoid tanning beds and start using a good sunscreen with both chemical and physical protection during the daylight hours. If you smoke, you’ll want to consider quitting. Not only will you get better results from cosmetic treatments, your overall health will improve.

8. Skin is nourished by good eating habits. Well hydrated skin with hormonal optimization (in perimenopausal and menopausal women) and the use of medical grade skincare products are a must for getting the full value from any procedure. No surgical or non-surgical procedure will look as good with poor quality skin.

9. Cosmetic procedures can enhance your confidence and improve the way you look, but they can’t save a relationship. The decision to seek treatment should be yours and yours alone. After all, if you’re changing the way you look, then it should be about feeling more comfortable in your own skin and not about pleasing someone else.

10. The top five minimally invasive procedures include wrinkle reducing injectables like Botox; dermal filler injectables like Juvederm to eliminate facial hollowing; laser skin resurfacing to reduce signs of aging and blemishes; chemical peels to remove damaged skin and uncover healthier skin below; and fat removal for pockets of fat that are resistant to dieting with treatments such as CoolSculpting.

Marisa Faircloth, PA-C is the owner and chief practitioner at Restoration MedSpa, which provides the latest non-invasive cosmetic procedures, laser treatments, unwanted hair removal, luxury facials and permanent fat reduction. A graduate of Wake Forest University School of Medicine, Faircloth has dedicated more than 35 years of her health care career toward aesthetics, plastic surgery and weight loss.

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Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem Helping You Maintain Good Eye Health

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

Take a moment to think about how important our sight is to our lives. Our vision allows us to admire nature’s beauty around us, enjoy a good book, and appreciate the faces of family and friends. Vision is so important in our daily life that in a recent survey by the American Optometric Association, 40 percent of Americans worry about losing their eyesight over their ability to walk or hear. Despite eyesight being one of our most treasured senses, we don’t often take the steps needed to maintain our eye health throughout our lives. Caring for your eyes has been the mission of Duke Eye Center of WinstonSalem since 1999, providing state-of-the-art care for your eyes with knowledgeable and experienced physicians.

Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem has a long history with our community. Dr. Carol Ziel, Medical Director and Cataract/Glaucoma Specialist with Duke Eye Center of WinstonSalem, said, “In 1998, Dr. Phil McKinley, a long-time local ophthalmologist, partnered with Duke University in an effort to offer more eye care specialists in the WinstonSalem area to care for his more complicated patients. Upon his retirement, Dr. McKinley donated his practice to Duke University. I joined the practice in 1999 as the cataract and glaucoma specialist, and as the practice grew, we have added specialists in cornea, oculoplastics, glaucoma and, coming this November, pediatrics.” The physicians at Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem are fellowship trained. Each physician has three years of training in ophthalmology after medical school and at least one year of specialty training in their chosen area. Along with the specialty training, the physicians at Duke Eye Center are on faculty at Duke University School of Medicine, and have available to them the latest in research, education, techniques and testing equipment for bringing world-class patient care to Winston-Salem. Each physician also assists in the training of ophthalmologists at the Duke Eye Center in Durham, NC. Duke Eye Center is also certified by the Joint Commission on

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Accreditation of Hospitals, ensuring the facility is in compliance with regulations on cleanliness and safety.

“Dr. McKinley pioneered the practice of partnering with local optometrists so that patients could remain with their lifelong optometrists, yet come to Duke for eye surgery and specialty care. The Duke Eye Center physicians provide annual, quality, continuing education for area optometrists,” commented Dr. Ziel.

Since the eye is one of the most sensitive and important organs in our body, extreme care needs to be taken to prevent and address abnormalities. Problems in vision arise due to a variety of factors. “One of the most common reasons for vision difficulties or eye disease is age. Vision problems are more common once we grow older. If we live long enough, most of us will develop cataracts, glaucoma or macular degeneration and today we can address each in many ways. “Eye care services offered at Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem include diagnosis and treatment of cataract, corneal diseases, glaucoma, eyelid problems, dry eye and laser vision correction, including Lasik. We are thrilled to have a specialty-trained pediatric ophthalmologist join us this November, treating strabismus and amblyopia, or lazy eye, and other pediatric problems. We will be expanding our oculoplastics division, which takes care of reconstructive eyelid and cosmetic surgery, including the use of Botox and filler,” Dr. Ziel stated.

As Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem continues to grow, they remain committed to their patients’ care.

“Over our lifetime, we take our eyesight for granted until there’s an issue and when a problem may arise, you need an experienced specialist,” said Dr. Ziel. At Duke Eye Center, each physician has over a decade of practice. For example, Dr. Ziel has performed over 20,000 surgical procedures in Winston-Salem. “Patients come to us because they have family and friends who have had positive experiences with our Duke physicians.

Our clinical expertise and highest quality patient care are our priorities, now and in the future,” commented Dr. Ziel Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem is located at 1340 Creekshire Way, Suite 100, Winston-Salem, NC. For more information call 336-768-3240 or visit dukehealth. org/locations/duke-eye-center-of-winston-salem. Hours of operation: Monday - Friday 7:15 am- 5 pm.

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PULITZER PRIZEWINNING CONTEMPORARY OPERA COMES TO WINSTONSALEM

BY MARY-KATE APPANAITIS This year as the United States observes the 100th anniversary of its entrance into the Great War, Piedmont Opera will produce a new opera by Kevin Puts and Mark Campbell, the Pulitzer prize-winning contemporary opera Silent Night. The opera is based on the true story of the 1914 Christmas truce which was also the inspiration for the 2005 French film “Joyeux Noël.” The production examines the experiences the men had in the trenches of WWI and poses questions of why we go to war, who benefits, and ultimately, the emotional cost.

Last season Piedmont Opera celebrated strong women in opera. Due to the nature of war, Silent Night is an opera rich in male roles, especially for baritones. Piedmont Opera sat down with two of its principals who sing the roles of the French Lieutenant Audebert (Gabriel Preisser) and Scottish Lieutenant Gordon (Gregory Gerbrandt) to learn more about the strong and not-so-silent men of Silent Night.

Gabriel, you created the role of Lt. Gordon in Kevin Puts Pulitzer Prize-winning Silent Night at Minnesota Opera with subsequent performances at Opera Philadelphia, Cincinnati Opera, and Michigan Opera Theatre. You are “known” for this role but are cast as Lieutenant Audebert in PO’s production.

How to you feel about assuming a new identity in Silent Night? What are some of the pros and cons?

Gregory Gerbrandt, who will perform the role of Scottish Lieutenant Gordon, has created the lead baritone in four World Premieres. He is frequently asked to sing contemporary opera and has performed most recently the lead role in new productions. He now adds Silent Night to that list.

How are you preparing for the role of Lieutenant Gordon?

Preisser: Silent Night is very near and dear to my heart. I actually covered (the role of) Audebert in the premiere at Minnesota in addition to singing Gordon so I have been eager for the chance to do Audebert. The truth of the matter is any role in Silent Night is a special one because the opera is so special. The combination of an actual piece of history replicated on stage that celebrates pure humanity amidst abject brutality and composer Kevin Puts’ rich, expressive score makes Silent Night an instant classic in my humble opinion. It is truly a masterpiece.

Gerbrandt: I’ve found out as much about the piece and history surrounding the event as possible. Gaining a contextual knowledge of that time in history really helps me visualize these characters and events. Then I start on the music and text. As Gordon interacts with many individuals who are speaking languages other than my own, I make sure I know the translation of each word for literal, idiomatic, and phrasal meaning. Only then do I start to learn the music and how it lives with each statement I, and every other character, make. Then there’s the whole Scottish thing...I’m still working on that!

What challenges will you face in preparation for this role?

What has been your most memorable stage moment – good or bad?

Preisser: The tricky thing for me will be making sure I don’t start singing the wrong part! I promise I won’t step on Lt Gordon’s lines. I promise! The other challenge with Silent Night is there is an added layer of expectation to be true to the characters as they really lived, really existed, and what they experienced in those trenches really happened. It is an exciting challenge as a singing actor.

You have been active in several new operas. What draws you to contemporary opera?

How do new works fit into the future of opera?

Preisser: I have been very fortunate to be involved with several contemporary operas and I continue to be drawn to them because in many ways they are our living legacy and the music and stories have an immediacy and relevancy that instantly draws me in. They are also just plain fun. Quite often the musical language is eclectic and challenging, which stretches and challenges me as a singer/artist, and the characters are often contemporary or from recent history, so as to be more familiar and interesting to recreate. It is a rewarding experience and Silent Night especially so with it being such a special, beautiful, and tragic moment in our history.

What do you do when you aren’t performing/rehearsing?

Preisser: Aside from performing, I just so happen to run a little opera company back home - Opera Orlando. It keeps me busy, but my biggest joy is spending time with my wife Christina and two kids Grayson and Cora. Of course, my three-year-old son Grayson has now gotten in the habit of saying “Dada, no singing!” Everyone is a critic.

Gerbrandt: I’ve experienced so many wonderful, fulfilling, scary, and never-to-be-repeated moments I don’t even know where to begin! Let’s just say these moments will live in my mind and heart until I can get them down on paper, and then you can experience all of them with me!

What do you like to do when you’re not performing?

Gerbrandt: I love to fish, and have caught nearly every fish in my home state of Colorado this summer....twice! I also really enjoy traveling, sports (both playing and observing), songwriting on my guitar, staying active physically and in the community, reading, and scratching behind the ears of each fuzzy dog I come in contact with on the streets.

Silent Night makes its North Carolina premiere on October 27th at 8:00 PM and runs on October 29th at 2:00 PM and on October 31st at 7:30 PM at the Stevens Center of the UNCSA. Piedmont Opera offers half price tickets to students and has Student Night on October 25th at 7:30 PM during the final dress rehearsal. Crosby Scholars are invited to attend Student Night for free by calling the box office.

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Tickets are available by calling 336.725.7101 or PiedmontOpera.org.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

There’s something new in the Massage Envy family. The massage and skin care provider has added a total body, assisted stretch service, Total Body Stretch, utilizing the proprietary Streto Method™, to their long list of services. Assisted stretching can help with flexibility, mobility, and performance in whatever it is that you do.

“Over the years, Massage Envy has added massage and skin care services to help with total body care. People of all ages are adding stretching more and more into their lives, and Massage Envy is ahead of the curve,” said Massage Envy Winston-Salem Market franchise owner, Jeff Holmes.

The Streto Method is an assisted total body stretch, where massage therapists or stretch service providers use ten targeted stretches to help loosen muscle groups from head to toes. It starts at your neck and goes downward, to help your nerves and muscles relax by the end.

The treatment is customizable to your needs and daily routines, and there are options for a 30 or 60-minute stretch session.

“Some people will come in and get a stretch before a massage or will just get a standalone stretch session. One of the good things about this service is that all ages, starting at eight years old, can get this service. There are so many advantages to stretching at any age,” said Holmes.

According to Holmes, parental consent is required for anyone under 18 years of age. The Streto Method was first introduced nationwide across the Massage Envy franchise network on July 1. The Streto Method was developed through the research of a chiropractor and an ergonomist. In addition, movements of professional athletes and performers were studied to combine the best total body stretch methods possible. Thanks to the strong foundation, the Streto Method has received a huge, positive response from Massage Envy clients.

“For stretching, you’ll wear workout style, loose fitting clothes. A massage therapist or stretch service provider then completes the stretch protocol,” said Holmes.

Holmes knows firsthand the benefits of the Streto Method. During training for the employees, all massage therapists or stretch service providers completed practicals. Holmes volunteered to be one of the clients and ended up loving the experience.

“Over the course of about a month, I helped about 30 therapists with their required practicals. It was great,” said Holmes.

The Streto Method’s success and advantages have even reached the PGA TOUR. Massage Envy has signed a four-year partnership with the PGA TOUR as the Official Total Body Care Sponsor of the Player Performance Centers. In the mobile training and wellness trailers, professional golfers are able to be stretched with Massage Envy’s Streto Method. In addition, the company has tapped ten golfers from the TOUR, including Justin Thomas, recent winner of the PGA Championship and Henrik Stenson, the latest Wyndham Championship winner, as ambassadors for the brand.

“Massage Envy, collectively through its franchised locations, is the largest provider of massage and skin care services in the nation. It’s a big thing because stretching is becoming more and more popular. Having a provider stretch your muscles is more effective than doing it yourself.

We are excited to see what the future of Total Body Stretch holds,” said Holmes.

Massage Envy is located at 3350 Robinhood Road and 1031 Hanes Mall Boulevard in Winston-Salem. Call (336) 774 – 8777 for the Robinhood location or (336) 774 – 9994 for the Hanes Mall Boulevard location or visit online at massageenvy.com. Be sure to follow them on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube.

* All employees at franchised locations, including massage therapists, estheticians and stretch service providers, are employed by Massage Envy franchisees who collectively provide more massage and skin care services than any other service provider in the US.

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Do You Know Your Numbers?

BY DEBBIE BARR

While those with prediabetes are at greater risk for developing diabetes, the good news is that as long as it is “pre” there is still time to intervene and keep it from progressing. While 1 in 3 Americans has prediabetes, because it is symptom-free only about 10% are aware that they have it.

KNOW YOUR NUMBERS!

You know the number to call in case of an emergency, right? It’s 911, of course! But did you know that there are three other numbers that also have the potential to save your life? These are critically important numbers that all of us should know, but most of us don’t. They are not phone numbers; these numbers are indicators of your personal health. If you’re thinking, “Well, I’m healthy, so I don’t need to worry about those numbers,” think again.

These are the numbers that let you know if you’re really as healthy as you think you are!

NUMBERS “UNDER THE RADAR”

Some health problems have no symptoms at all. When a problem is progressing silently, there is no clue to suggest that anything is wrong. This means a person can feel perfectly healthy even when she is not. Three conditions that exist completely “under the radar” of symptoms are: • HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE. Except in extreme cases, high blood pressure has no symptoms. In fact, of the 85 million Americans with high blood pressure, 1 in 6 are completely unaware that they have it. The saying “ignorance is bliss” doesn’t apply to high blood pressure. Undetected high blood pressure goes untreated, paving the way for a stroke, heart attack, kidney disease, loss of vision, and even sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

How can you stay healthy when there are no symptoms to alert you to these serious health problems? There is only one way: you must know your numbers! You won’t find those numbers by accident; you must deliberately check for them. High cholesterol and prediabetes can only be discovered with blood tests. The only way to detect high blood pressure is to check it with an inflatable blood pressure cuff.

You can check your own blood pressure at the health station kiosk in drug stores and grocery stores. However, because of the “one size fits all” blood pressure cuff, these readings are not always as accurate as ones obtained with a home blood pressure machine or in your doctor’s office. For the blood tests, you’ll have to visit your doctor. He or she is the best person to help you understand what your numbers mean and what you can do to keep these numbers in the normal range.

WHAT’S “NORMAL”?

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The optimal numbers (the ones you should aim for unless your doctor advises otherwise) are generally considered to be:

• CHOLESTEROL (measured as milligrams (mg) of cholesterol per deciliter (dL) of blood) • LDL “Bad” cholesterol (builds up in arteries): less than 100 • HDL “Good” cholesterol (removes cholesterol from arteries): 40 or more (the higher, the better) • Total cholesterol: less than 200 BLOOD PRESSURE (measured as milligrams of mercury) • Less than 120/80 The top number is the pressure exerted on the artery walls when the heart beats; the bottom number is the pressure between beats.

BLOOD SUGAR The A1C test measures the percentage of sugar attached to the hemoglobin protein in the blood.

• Normal A1C: below 5.7% • Prediabetic A1C: between 5.7% and 6.4% If it’s been a while since you’ve had a thorough medical checkup, put “see my doctor” at the top of your to-do list.

Checking the numbers found “under the radar” is the only way to be sure you are—and stay—as healthy as you can be!

• HIGH CHOLESTEROL. Because it has no symptoms, many people have no clue that their cholesterol is too high. Cholesterol is a waxy substance that can build up on artery walls and narrow the flow of blood to the heart. This deprives the heart of blood and oxygen and may lead to a heart attack. High cholesterol doubles the risk for heart disease. In the US, nearly one in every two women has borderline or high cholesterol.

• PREDIABETES. A third symptomless health problem is prediabetes, also called borderline diabetes. Prediabetes means that a person has a higher-than-normal blood sugar level, but not high enough to be classified as diabetes.

1. To learn more, search these topics online at National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute (nhibi.nih.gov); American Heart Association (heart.org); Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (cdc.gov); Mayo Clinic (mayoclinic.org).

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isn’t just a place to shop, it’s an experience!

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Denise Moseley

Celebrates 40 Years of Business

BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT

I think this is how Denise Moseley feels and what she misses in her current space.

She hopes her new endeavor will give her clients an escape from the chaotic schedules they create for themselves and the workload that never seems to get smaller.

Some people really seem to get what is really important in life. While so many are running around trying to keep up with the hustle and bustle of everyday life, others focus on the little things in life that make it worth living and really know how to savor the important moments. As we routinely see an adorable image or a breathtaking view, our first thought is to capture it on film; I can’t help but wonder why we don’t just sit back and enjoy it at that moment. No matter how nice a camera you have, enjoying the moment while you are actually in the moment is priceless and can never be duplicated.

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“I really miss the good old days when people had time to stop and hang out, and people weren’t overbooked with every minute scheduled already,” said Denise Moseley, owner of Farrago. “It seems like everyone that’s still working is overwhelmed all the time, everyone’s life is so heavy right now, and most people look at you like ‘Don’t add another thing to my plate.’ I also notice how much harder it is on people to wait even 10 minutes. We have got to slow down. I plan to do just that which is why I’m looking so forward to being back in Lewisville with its laid-back-small-towncommunity easy feeling. Farrago on Griffith Road was a lot of fun but also

almost too big a space (5,000 square feet) and too much going on in too many directions to keep a relaxed, intimate feeling,” said Denise. “I look so forward to a more manageable 1,700 square feet in Lewisville. We’ve downsized our artists and are going to be much more scrutinizing of the artistic work, determined to take the quality up a notch; however, we will still have a very nice mix of items for gift purchases, home décor, clothing, and jewelry.”

For Denise, it all started when she was 19 in 1977, bought a barbershop for $3,000 and promptly turned it into a “style salon.” “Starting out in a small area was perfect for me, and that became very clear when I got a call on my second day there for a referral by a cut I did on the first day! A lot of my friends of 40 years now used to get off the school bus at my shop, get a haircut and wait for their parents to pick them up there.”

Several moves, and ups and downs in life later, Moseley says she realizes at almost 60 that she has made the third turn around the track and is determined to put it on cruise for the final stretch of her life and career. A new beginning for a seasoned professional! “I always wanted to own the business to control

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the atmosphere, etc.,” said Denise. “I have especially loved the part of fixing up the spaces, getting creative with the structures and decorating and creating a positive energy leaning towards relaxing when you walk in. The music we play in the shop is important to me. I want no commercials and try to pick something that everyone likes, to set the mood. I love the sound of water trickling and like having a fountain large enough to calm people down.” This is the same environment she has created in Lewisville for her clients and friends.

Farrago in Lewisville’s grand opening is Sunday, October 22nd from 2-5pm at 6301 Shallowford Road in Lewisville, the space previously occupied by “Accessorize This.”

Guests will enjoy music by Hoots and Company, wine from Flint Hill Vineyards and food provided by Farrago. For more information, call 336.946.9128, or visit the website at farragonc.com.

• Spa • Boutique • Local Artists

NEW LOCATION CELEBRATION!

Sunday, October 22nd 2pm - 5pm

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Enjoy LIVE music from Hoots & Company; great sips by Flint Hill Vineyards; hors d’oeuvres; door prizes; & more!

Massage • Hair • Skincare • Makeup • Gifts • Art Gallery 6301 Shallowford Road, Lewisville, NC 27023 | 336.946.9128 | FarragoNC.com October 2017 | 31

BROOKSTOWN CATERING

BY ALLISON SOUTHARD

We thank you for considering the Historic Brookstown Inn to cater your special event or meeting. We offer a wide range of menus from traditional southern to international cuisine. Planning an event can be a detailed process. Our sales team is here to help your every need. We can create a customized menu for your specific occasion and all the items needed for your special event. Our goal is to exceed our guests’ expectations.

Catering and beverage services at our venue are provided by the Historic Brookstown Inn’s culinary team. Our Chef helps you create a customized menu.

Wedding essentials, such as tables, chairs, linens, china, silverware, and glassware are provided by the venue, so there is no need to rent these items from an outside vendor. Catering staff and managers are also provided. Audiovisual equipment is available to create personalized presentations during the reception. * We use locally sourced ingredients when available.

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* Our menus are very flexible, with a wide range of options, from traditional southern to international cuisine.

• Our Grand Ballroom features chandeliers, columns, and a dance floor • We can accommodate board meetings, business retreats, elegant banquets and more, from 20 to 250 guests • Two beautiful courtyards • On-site catering services • Our rates are affordable • Complimentary high-speed internet access • Podium, easel, flip chart, and white board • Audio visual rental arrangement • Plenty of free parking just outside our front door

OUR CATERING IS PERFECT FOR EVENTS:

• Breakfasts • Lunches • Dinners • Weddings • Rehearsal Dinners

• Cocktail Parties • Meetings • Reunions Menu prices are exclusive of 20% service charge and 6.75% sales tax.

CATERING SERVICES INCLUDE:

• Tables • Chairs • Linen • China • Silverware • Glassware • Customized Menu Planning • Catering Staff and Management • Complimentary Tasting • Full ABC License • Space Layout If you are interested in the Historic Brookstown Inn meeting or event space, please contact the sales department at (336) 725-1120. * We love to see pictures of events and our catering services.

Please, tag us @brookstowninn.

Check out our Facebook at facebook.com/ TheHistoricBrookstownInn and follow us on Instagram at instagram.com/brookstowninn.

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GET OFF THE SIDELINES!

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

I recently chatted with friends attending their high school class reunion.

Thoughts of seeing folks you haven’t engaged for decades can trigger incredible excitement fastened to sudden episodes of panic, can’t it?

We wrestle with wrinkles and weight, comparing our imperfect lives to the perfect plans we finely crafted for ourselves all those years ago.

We compare the journey we imagined to the one we now possess.

When we envisioned our future all those years ago, did any of us believe it would look like this? Let’s face it. We are not exactly what we dreamed for ourselves. For many of us, we’re not at all where we intended to be in this journey called life.

It’s funny how age changes our perception, isn’t it? In our twenties, we set out to conquer the world. We feel invincible, unstoppable really.

Our goals are grand. Our dreams are lofty. No one can slow our pace or diminish our pursuits. We will achieve!

Thirty hits. (Time out! Why didn’t someone bother to tell us that time speeds up when you become an adult?) We’re not as far along the trajectory of our dreams as we initially planned, but we’ve still got time.

After all, we’re just thirty.

Forty comes out of nowhere! (Someone hit the panic button!) Much has gotten in the way of our dreams, mainly us. Our hopes are fading faster than we can fulfill them. We realize some of those noble ambitions are never going to materialize. Consequently, we try to recapture our youth, otherwise known as a mid-life crisis. (I don’t recommend this. It gets ugly.) Or we simply begin going through the motions. It’s as if the life has been squeezed right out of us.

By the time we reach our fifties, most folks realize their ambitions got buried somewhere along the way. They can’t remember when it happened or how. They just can’t recall the last time they actually contemplated their dreams. Tragically, too many people choose to sit on the sidelines at this point, cheering on their kids as they pursue their goals. These precious individuals genuinely believe their time has passed. NEWS FLASH! Nothing could be further from the truth!

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Whoever you are, wherever you find yourself, if you’re breathing, I need you to listen to me! You were not made for the sidelines! God’s not even close to finished with you yet! I know, some of you feel the need to explain all the reasons you’ve been disqualified. It sounds something like this: “I’m in this predicament because of my own stupid mistakes!” “My kids are a mess because I’m a pathetic parent.” “I’m paying for my past!”

Have you forgotten that we’re talking about the all-knowing God? He knew you were going to mess up before you messed up. He realized your mistakes before He infused you with purpose. Your failures didn’t cause God to retreat even one inch in His plans for you. With full knowledge of your flaws, God dreamed big for your future!

In fact, God does some of His best work in the lives of those who have gotten to the end of self. When you hit the wall, realizing you don’t have what it takes, you become the perfect candidate for God to reveal all that He can achieve through you!

If you’re sitting on the sidelines, I’m talking to YOU! God is calling YOU to an adventure! When we allow God to write our story, it’s always better than we deserve and greater than we can imagine for ourselves! I’m living proof! I never cease to be amazed at God’s incredible assignment upon my life. If He can do what He’s done in me, there’s no end to what He can accomplish in you!

It’s time to get off the sidelines and taste the adventure. God’s got big dreams with your name on it! Friend, He’s not even close to finished with you yet! In fact, He’s just getting started!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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M OVI N G ?

AME R I C AN M OVI N G IS AT T HE RE ADY

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Are you planning a move? Relocating can be an exciting and stressful event, both at the same time. Let American Moving & Hauling handle your move and take the stress aspect off your plate so that you and your family can concentrate on getting settled into your new environment. Amy Cushman, owner of American Moving & Hauling, understands the stress associated with moving, having recently moved her own family. With 12 years of experience in the industry, she and the team of professionals at American Moving & Hauling are on hand to move you locally or within a 900-mile radius.

Amy shared some tips and good-to-know information for those planning a move.

IS THERE A ‘BEST’ TIME OF YEAR TO PLAN A MOVE?

“We schedule moves throughout the year. May through July is generally the busiest time for most moving companies; folks want to get their children through school and resettled before the next school year starts,” Amy explained. “Usually, we see things start to slow down some by August, and September is usually not an active month for moving. We’ve found that October brings renewed activity – fall weather is cooler and it’s usually an easier month to get the move date clients want. The best rates are during the fall and winter months. We may have to be more aware of weather conditions during the winter, but generally, there are no issues our team can’t overcome.”

ARE THERE DIFFERENT RATES FOR WEEKDAY VERSUS WEEKEND MOVES?

“No, we charge the same rate no matter what day a client needs to be moved,” Amy explained. “Additionally, we do not charge overtime rates. Our goal is a smooth, seamless moving experience for our clients. That means that for household moves, we set up beds, attach mirrors to dressers, and reassemble any furniture that required a breakdown at no additional cost.”

WHAT OPTIONS ARE AVAILABLE IF THE NEW HOME IS NOT READY AT THE TIME OF THE MOVE OR A HOME SELLS BEFORE A CLIENT HAS NEW HOUSING LINED UP?

“American Moving & Hauling has storage space available for these situations and offers competitive rates. Actually, effective in September, our storage space doubled from 6,000 to 12,000 square feet. The space is fully enclosed and secure with no access other than our team.”

Other moving tips from Amy

• Taking the step to declutter before packing is an excellent idea. We all have those items we no longer use. Why pay to move something that’s not being used?

• Everything needs to be packed. Loose items are not put onto moving trucks. For clients who pack themselves (and that is the industry norm), do a room-by-room check to ensure that everything is packed, padded, and secured as appropriate.

• Be sure that all packing is complete and ready to go the day prior to the move. Clearly marking where boxes are going in the new location and having someone there to direct the movers as the truck is emptied helps the move go smoother and faster.

American Moving & Hauling has grown from a team of four to a staff of 22 since their business opened. With a fleet of four 26’ trucks, one 15’ truck, and two packing vans, they’re ready to assist you with your next move. As Amy shared, “We are a family-owned business. We work together as a team to ensure our clients have the best moving experience possible.”

For rates, tips, packing materials, general information and to schedule your move, contact Amy Cushman and the American Moving & Hauling team at 336.765.3499, via e-mail at amycushman@hotmail.com, or via their website (AmericanMovingandHauling.com). They are conveniently located at 535 E. Clemmonsville Rd., Winston-Salem. Their office hours are 8:00 am to 5:00 pm Monday thru Friday, Saturday 8:00 am to noon.

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Dear June…

Irresistible Linens We all deserve a little luxury in our day-to-day lives, and there’s no better place to start than your master bedroom. Even when you’re redecorating, the bedroom often slips to the bottom of the list.

So, start thinking dreamy: Don’t leave your bedroom as a last thought. Do give it – and yourself – some well-deserved love.

Let’s consider your master bedroom one of the most important rooms of the home, and let’s update it to bring about instant Zen as it becomes your haven for relaxation and peaceful slumber.

Now, let’s talk linens. We make it a pleasure to select your new linens and bedding accessories with one easy visit to our retail store. Just imagine the possibilities!

Does a romantic bed straight from a Tennessee Williams novel sound appealing? From our collection of 10 luxury lines, Bella Notte has you covered with its scalloped edges, all-over embroidery, rich silk or cotton velvets, ruffles, lace and buttery-feeling linens. Even the soft shades – mineral, powder, champagne and sea glass – evoke pure tranquility. These irresistible linens are manufactured in the United States with non-toxic dyes and only get softer with each washing.

If a crisp, more tailored look is your style, then I recommend Sferra, an Italian bedding we carry that uses premium Egyptian cotton that is so fine, it is referred to as “The Queen of the Nile.” With double-faced sheeting, the reverse side is as sleek as the front side, delivering elegance with easy care and durability.

Peacock Alley believes in the beauty of simplicity enhanced by exquisite detail, and if you prefer a classic look, this bedding line will catch your eye.

We offer several selections of beautiful Matelassé coverlets and fine Italian linens in a variety of shades from neutrals to vibrant colors.

The smart, sophisticated look of Legacy Linens runs the gamut of fretwork designs and follows dressmaker detailing such as menswear windowpane and Jacobean prints. Manufactured in the U.S., the line is fashioned from luxurious Italian 340-thread count long staple cotton sateen.

Exquisite Taylor Linens, made in Belgium, offer French linen curtains as well as nostalgic and vintage coverlets plus specialty pillows with a fresh feel you’ll fall in love with immediately.

We also carry Traditions Linens, Eastern Accents, Pom-Pom at Home and White Linen Bedding right in our store, and once you’ve chosen your favorite from among our fine linens, we can also custom make finishing touches such as dust ruffles and pillows. Call us at June DeLugas Interiors, and let your next design project be the creation of a completely new dream bedroom!

Don’t miss the 2017 Fall Parade of Homes, October 14th-15th and October 21st-22nd, from 1 pm – 5 pm, where our showcase home at 340 Fairfax Drive in Winston-Salem will feature master bedroom bedding from Legacy Linens and Bella Notte as well as custom accent pillows. The June DeLugas Interiors design team was involved in every element of this house from plumbing, brick, siding and roofing selection to paint choices, cabinets, furnishings and other décor. We hope to see you there!

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God Bless

Residential & Commercial Strategic Planning North Carolina’s Premier Interior Design Firm 2575 Old Glory Road, Clemmons 336/778-1030 www.junedelugasinteriors.com

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BY ROSEY

Providence Restaurant & Catering is one of those restaurants where you can feel good about going out to eat. Not only do you get a great dining experience, but you have the opportunity to give to a good cause at the same time. Before I dig into my recent night of deliciousness, a bit of background on Providence. Located inside the DoubleTree by Hilton on University Parkway, all profits from Providence go to support the Second Harvest Food Bank’s Triad Community Kitchen (TCK) Culinary Training Program. BONUS: many of the employees are apprenticed from the program and are getting their training in a top-notch restaurant environment. I absolutely love this concept, and with high-end cuisine that is both creative and delicious, it’s the best of everything good about dining out!

I was invited to sample their new fall dinner menu and let me tell you, friends… wow. Chef Jeff and his team, featuring Executive Chef Vanessa Lanier and Sous Chef Matthias Gomez, have created a delectable assortment of options that are guaranteed not to disappoint! We started, of course, with appetizers. First up – FLASH FRIED CAULIFLOWER. I tend to think of cauliflower as one of those veggies that you either love or hate. But if you’re in the “hate it” category, I still encourage you to try this. Admittedly, cauliflower isn’t usually my first choice, but I will definitely be ordering it again when I visit Providence next time! Beautifully breaded, this dish is served with a spicy-sweet blend of curry spice and cilantro mint chutney.

AH. MAZ. ING. We also sampled the SWEET POTATO FRITTERS. Warm. Gooey.

Decadent. A sophisticated twist on one of my favorite comfort foods.

Sweet potatoes have been mashed to a velvety creaminess and mixed with cheddar cheese. With a savory breading, the sweet potato fritters are flavored with jalapeno bacon, Bomba sauce, and a side of petite greens. You should share, but you may not want to.

As far as the MISO GLAZED PORK BELLY… just order your own and leave my plate alone. I’m not sharing this one. Thickly sliced pork belly is perfectly seasoned and served with crispy Brussels sprouts and smoked onions. It sits on a nest of kimchee grits and is garnished with pickled radish. If I didn’t need to sample a host of other dishes for this review, there wouldn’t have been any left. When I got home, the one piece that remained was quickly devoured by my husband. I don’t know if I will ever be able to cook pork at our house again. I am slightly intimidated. Thank goodness Providence is just up the road.

Next up – we tried a couple of salads. The FARRO AND KALE SALAD was a delightful combination of flavors that were mellow, yet rich. I don’t usually apply the term “hearty” to a salad that doesn’t have meat in it, but this truly was a hearty salad. Made with kale, farro pilaf, cornbread crumble, and goat cheese, it’s tossed with a flavorful maple cider vinaigrette. Delicious and perfect for fall weather!

But you can’t get any more autumny than Providence’s new HARVEST SALAD. Truly, this is fall on a plate. Fresh greens were topped with sliced local beets, Moroccan carrots, spiced pepitas, apple slices, and tossed with a sweet and tangy fig vinaigrette.

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5790 University Parkway, Winston-Salem, NC 27105 336.744.3456 | ProvidenceRestaurantWS.com HOURS: BREAKFAST: Monday – Friday, 6 – 10 am; Saturday & Sunday, 7 – 11 am LUNCH: Tuesday – Friday, 11 am – 2 pm DINNER: Tuesday – Saturday: 5 – 10 pm

Throughout our appetizers and salads, we also had a basket of fresh WARM HERBED BREAD on the table, complete with a plate of seasoned olive oil for dipping. For a girl who loves her carbs, this was a form of torture. I reluctantly told our awesome server, Freddy, that he could take it away since I needed to save room for the forthcoming entrees.

First, we sampled the MARKET NC FISH, which for us, meant Mahi-Mahi.

Tender, meaty, and not remotely fishy, the Mahi-Mahi was mild and flavorful. Chef Bacon did an incredible job, creating a seafood option that can be savored throughout the meal. The fish was served with forbidden rice and leek fondue as well shitake mushrooms. This is a seafood dish worth raving over!

At this point, I was stuffed, but knew I had to go on. But with that said, they say a full chef is a better judge of food, and I must assume that applies to me, too, as the restaurant reviewer. With that said, I can honestly say that the ROASTED JOYCE FARMS HALF CHICKEN is fantastic. Chicken that is tender, juicy, full of flavor, cooked on the bone to give additional flavor – it’s hard to beat this one. Served with an assortment of veggies and heirloom potatoes, this is a southern comfort food delight!

I’m a beef girl, through and through, and Providence must have known that about me when they prepared the JOYCE FARMS NAKED BEEF RIBEYE. Friends, I have rarely had a steak this good. It was so tender; it was melt-in-your-mouth rich and delicious. Served with Brussels sprouts that have been fried with bacon (drooling), this steak is served with red skin mashed potatoes and is topped with a peppercorn mushroom demiglace. With a generous portion, you’ll have some left to enjoy the next day (if it lasts beyond getting it home in the first place!).

Finally, we were on to the desserts. We sampled three. First, the APPLE TART. The wholesome apple becomes a temptation of epic proportions when served in a rich crust, thick honey caramel sauce made with honey from Chef Bacon’s own bee hives, and topped with a homemade Fireball Marshmallow. (Yes, you read that right.) This culinary delight was created by Chef Janis Karathanas with the TCK students.

We also sampled DJ’S PUMPKIN CHEESECAKE. DJ is a TCK alumni who now operates a cheesecake bakery – he really knows what he is doing.

Creamy, with a graham cracker crust, this is a flavorful fall dessert that will be a favorite for sure!

As great as these two desserts were, my absolute favorite was the SOUTHERN BUTTERMILK PIE with jalapeno burnt sugar, created by Catering Chef, Charles Sellers.. Let me tell you just how good this dessert is – I asked Chef Bacon if I could order a whole one for my birthday in December. Y’all, in almost 43 years, I’ve never asked for any dessert for my birthday other than the cake my grandmother makes.

Seriously – it’s that good.

I am beyond excited about Providence’s new fall menu, and I know you will be, too! Make sure you pay them a visit soon and let them know that Rosey sent you!

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$25 SIMPLY STERLING & CO. Tatum Yates

ROUND OF GOLF FOR FOUR AT SALEM GLEN CC Kathy Cooper

$50 NITSA’S APPAREL Carole Barber

$25 STILL LIFE MARKET Barbara Longo

$25 FEATHERED INC. BY CARRIE Bridget Jennings

$25 RESTORATION MEDSPA Karen Young

$25 MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE Angela Messick

$25 PENNY LANE BOUTIQUE Martha Clark

$25 MUDDY CREEK CAFÉ Nyota Parris

$25 DALTON’S CROSSING Alicia Jackson

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$25 MELLIE & EMILIA Sharon Nisi

$25 PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON Iris Gress

$25 MAC & NELLI’S Paige Reeder

1 HOUR MASSAGE WITH RENEE @ INNER STRENGTH PILATES Crystal Ferguson

MYSTERY PRIZE ($25 CHRISTINA’S DESSERTERY) Pam Blackstock

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PHOTOS BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

$25 SOUTHERN HOME & KITCHEN

Join us for a guys are welcome too!

Village Inn

Tuesday, October 10th 5pm - until 6205 Ramada Drive, Clemmons, NC (located off I-40 Exit 184)

$10 admission includes all-you-can-eat brunch & a mimosa!

Cash Bar | DJ | Silent Auction | 50/50 Raffle Pink Long Sleeved Tees for Sale Benefiting Triad Pink Heals Book Signing with Dara Kurtz, international blogger of CrazyPerfectLife.com & new author or “Crush Cancer”!

Wear PINK for an extra prize board ticket!

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BY DENISE HEIDEL On July 24th, through the combined efforts of Lana Schlotfeldt of Village Inn Event Center and the Forsyth Magazines team, dozens joined Triad Pink Heals to surprise Forsyth Family publisher, Robin Bralley with a visit from a pink fire truck! We were so moved by the extraordinary love and compassion shown by the Triad Pink Heals volunteers, we decided to coordinate a fundraiser for them – our small effort to give back to them what they so selflessly give to others.

Our October Girls’ Night Out (GNO) event will take place on October 10th and will be a night of fun, celebration, and most of all – an opportunity to thank those who spend their free time offering encouragement to those who need it most.

What you can expect: • 50/50 Raffle!

• T-shirts for sale, with proceeds going to support Triad Pink Heals!

• A silent auction with some amazing prizes (list below!)

• Our GNO Prize Board (and if you wear pink – you get an extra door prize ticket!)

We will also have brunch for dinner (hello, pink pancakes!), as well as cake by Christina’s Dessertery and 201 Media’s DJ services will be there to keep us entertained. $10 admission includes an all-you-caneat brunch and a mimosa!

AUCTION ITEMS Gift set ($550 value) will includes: A Clarisonic Mia Fit, iS Body Complex, Skinmedica cleanser, Baby Foot peel, gift set, including a gift certificate for facial and skincare consultation with an esthetician. (Valued at $550)

donated by…

Salem Plastic Surgery

A $500 gift card and product kit basket

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Restoration MedSpa

A basket filled with assorted skincare products (suitable for a man or woman of any age) will include a $50 Gift Certificate. (Valued at $425)

donated by…

Forsyth Plastic Surgery

50-Unit Botox treatment (valued at $600)

donated by…

Dr. Neal Goldman

Pilates Intro Pack (valued at $200)

donated by…

Inner Strength Pilates

Pair of lamps and a consultation (consultation within 30 miles round trip of Clemmons) (valued at $250)

donated by…

June DeLugas Interiors

One hour consultation (within 30 minutes of Winston-Salem) and ITEM (valued at $XX)

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ReDesigns by Ava

Painted Table (valued at $200)

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Dahlia’s

$250 Gift Certificate for florals

donated by…

George K. Walker Florists

Pink Sun 26” Revolution Ladies 1-speed Coaster Brake Cruiser (valued at $249.99)

donated by…

Clemmons Bike Shop

Home-themed basket (valued at $250)

donated by…

Chrystal Yates of Allen Tate Realtors

Six-Month Protection Package for automobiles (valued at $250)

donated by…

Salem Detailing

Four Tickets for “A Wrinkle In Time,” including concession and backstage tours (valued at $120)

donated by…

The Little Theatre

Charming Carolina Events & Weddings - Wedding Package (valued at $500)

donated by…

Charming Carolinas

Autumn Wreath (valued at $200)

donated by…

Lael Building Group

An overnight stay and dinner for two (valued at $125)

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Village Inn Event Center

Lewisville Laser

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Developing Financial Literacy through Piedmont Federal Savings Bank

BY DENISE HEIDEL

THE ONLINE MODULES

The online modules can be accessed through PiedmontFederal.com. Under either the Banking Services tab or Home Loans tab, visitors can find the link to “Financial Wellness.” This takes the user to a new page where 24 modules are accessible 24/7.

Easy to use, these modules range from the basics on savings and checking accounts to guidance on credit cards, credit scores, home loans, estate planning and 529 Plans.

Kelly shared, “We have completed the modules ourselves, and can speak to their ease and functionality. Most of all, the results are private, and promise the user anonymity since they don’t even have to sign up to use them!”

Jennifer agreed. “Our customers have loved learning more about their financial options, and even our students at the Street School have been very eager to participate.

It’s empowering! When you understand that you have the control over your money and where it goes, it’s a truly liberating experience.”

For over 100 years, Piedmont Federal Savings Bank has been a trusted resource for the community. They recently developed a financial literacy program that offers everyone – customer or not – a wealth of financial knowledge, all from the convenience of their home computer!

WHAT IS FINANCIAL LITERACY?

Financial literacy is the knowledge, skills, and ability to make financial decisions and utilize financial resources to maximize longterm and even lifetime financial well-being.

Ginger Salt, Senior Vice President and Chief Marketing Officer of Piedmont Federal Savings Bank, shared, “Financial literacy is more than simply knowing dollars and cents; it’s about knowing how to make your money work for you. It’s a matter of managing money, rather than letting it manage you! We are proud to offer financial literacy training to the community, and in organizations throughout the community.”

WHAT IS PIEDMONT FEDERAL SAVINGS BANK DOING WITH FINANCIAL LITERACY?

Assistant Vice President and Branch Manager, Jennifer Evans, said, “We know our customers have questions. But talking about finances doesn’t have to be complicated. You don’t need an accounting degree to be financially smart, and to that end, we’ve decided to bring a free, online tutorial system to the community. You don’t have to be a customer of Piedmont Federal Savings Bank to utilize it.”

Kelly Minor, Marketing Communications Specialist, agreed.

“It’s been a great tool and those who have used it have loved the simplicity and interactive nature of this resource.”

THE SCHOOL INITIATIVE

The team has taken financial literacy on the road, and presented learning opportunities through the WinstonSalem Street School, Habitat for Humanity Summer Camp and Junior Achievement, where young children can begin learning financial literacy from an early age.

“Students as young as first grade can easily understand the differences of wants versus needs,” said Kelly. “Whether we are teaching elementary students or high school students, we are approaching financial literacy from real-life, relatable situations, even using ourselves and our personal experiences as examples. By being transparent with our students, we remove the intimidation factor that is often associated with money.”

Piedmont Federal Savings Bank wants to encourage YOU to utilize their Financial Wellness program.

The first 10 people who participate with a login between October 1st and November 30th will win a $25 gift card!

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The ladies who comprise this educational team at Piedmont Federal Savings Bank have discovered a passion for helping others learn about financial literacy, and embrace it for themselves and their families. Ginger shared, “I have always loved my job, but through this new initiative, we have all found a higher calling and purpose! It’s exciting! We are eager to help anyone who wants to learn.”

Learn more about Piedmont Federal Savings Bank or the Financial Wellness program at PiedmontFederal. com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram!

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How to Interpret the Fall 2017 Runway into Your Own Wardrobe

BY MADISON SKAKLE

What is my absolute favorite season for style? Fall! I love the layering, denim, sweaters, light coats, scarves and fun boots. Here in North Carolina, the weather is pleasant with just a little bit of chill in the air, which is perfect for fall fashion. I’m sharing the upcoming 2017 fall fashion trends from the runways and how you can interpret these for your wardrobe!

Something I’ve learned in my many years of obsessing over fashion: not every trend is going to be your trend.

It’s okay to see a trend on the runway or in the magazine and think, “No way am I going to try that!” Fashion is all about personal style and expressing yourself, and sometimes that means saying “no” to a trend.

Fall Fashion Trends from the Runway

1. VELVET, VELVET, VELVET!

Velvet is everywhere this fall. On the runways, designers are styling full-on velvet outfits. I’m talking velvet pants with a velvet blazer and velvet scarf.

Now, if you ask me, that is a bit too much (a lot too much actually). However, I do love velvet but in small quantities.

I’m utilizing the velvet trend by styling a velvet sleeveless top with skinny jeans and a navy blazer. You can also purchase a velvet blazer and pair that with denim on the bottom.

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2. CHOCOLATE BROWN.

Chocolate brown is another trend I can get behind because this color is more universally flattering than everyone’s go to: black.

Chocolate brown is a rich, deep brown and is not as harsh as black can sometimes be. It’s a great neutral to pair with pops of color! On the runway, designers took chocolate brown to a whole new level by wearing the color from head to toe for a monochromatic look.

This is beautiful, but not necessarily something I can see myself doing. Instead, I am going to layer my chocolate brown sweater on top of a button down during the cooler fall months.

3. MID-LENGTH SKIRTS.

Now, these aren’t your grandmother’s skirts if you style them correctly! Mid-length skirts hit below your knee – think between knees and ankles. The designers paired their mid-length skirts with flats, specifically loafers. This looks good on the runway, but not in real-life. I would definitely pair my mid-length skirts with heels because you want to elongate the legs and pairing a longer skirt with flats can immediately cut you off. Also, make sure your mid-length skirt is fitted well in the waist with an A-line cut to showcase your silhouette.

4. BELTED COATS.

I love this trend, too. Belted coats are classic and if you ask me, never a trend because I wear my belted coats every single year.

Hello, trench coats! I would recommend owning a belted coat because the belting adds a sophisticated level of style and creates an hourglass shape.

5. FRINGE.

The fall 2017 runways definitely took the fringe trend a little overboard but then again, that’s the point of the runways – to take something small from something extreme. Interpret for yourself! Instead of having a whole outfit of fringe and channeling Tina Turner, why not choose a blouse with a little bit of fringe on the bottom or even rock a fringed necklace?

With all of these trends, remember to use what you are drawn to and don’t force any trend on yourself. A general fashion rule that I always recommend thinking about when you’re in the dressing room or your closet: if you try something on and you don’t feel like yourself, then don’t wear it! The purpose of fashion is to express yourself and own who you are. Whatever you do, wear your clothes with a smile and confidence, and you’ll be good to go.

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Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery Rhinoplasty: Know the Facts

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

“Can you remove my bump?” “I have always hated my nose!” “My nose is just too big here.” “Can you make my nose shorter?” “I just want to be able to breathe!” “It’s crooked after I broke it years ago and I never got it fixed.”

Before

These are typical things Dr. Neal Goldman hears from patients interested in rhinoplasty.

Rhinoplasty is nasal surgery, and can either be cosmetic or corrective. There are two reasons for rhinoplasty: to help your appearance or to help your breathing.

Either way, you want an experienced surgeon to discuss your options and address your concerns.

Dr. Neal Goldman of Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery in Winston-Salem, NC and Boone, NC, offers something unique in plastic surgery. Dr. Goldman’s practice focuses completely on facial aesthetics, so patients truly get a facial cosmetic specialist. “Patients who are thinking about rhinoplasty or any facial cosmetic surgery want an experienced physician.

My patients know I deal specifically with the face and only the face on a daily basis,” said Dr. Goldman.

COSMETIC RHINOPLASTY

After

“All noses are different and I try to make changes that work best for each individual patient. Some patients want a bump on their nose removed, or maybe they aren’t happy with the tip of their nose; my goal is to make the changes subtle.

Our first consultation is spent getting a clear understanding of what they want, their goals and the results they are looking for. We sit in front of my computer with different views of their nose, side, angle, etc., and make the changes on the computer. This helps ensure we understand what they want and also ensure they understand what we can do. I also suggest that they bring in pictures of noses they do and don’t like and tell me why. Many times when a patient describes what they want and don’t want, it is best understood through a visual representation. I make sure I have an understanding of what they are hoping for and also what they want to avoid in their surgery,” commented Dr. Goldman.

The ideal situation for cosmetic rhinoplasty is when the patient is having septoplasty.

“A patient who is having septoplasty is in the best place for cosmetic nose surgery because cartilage taken from that procedure can be used to reshape their nose and make it strong enough to hopefully last a lifetime. After surgery, recovery will depend on what is done. Most

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patients take about eight days off from their regular life and three weeks from rough activity and exercise. Pain medication is available, but many people have very little pain. They are bothered more by the temporary nasal obstruction after surgery that feels similar to having a cold. There can be some swelling, usually most noticeable for the first couple of weeks. There may also be some bruising around the eyes, but not always. Cosmetic rhinoplasty is convenient when the patient is transitioning from life stages, like from college to a job or over Christmas or summer breaks, because the timing works best in their life.

Usually, however, there just comes a point when someone has been thinking about these changes for years and they just want to do it and get it done,” Dr. Goldman said.

FUNCTIONAL RHINOPLASTY

“Functional changes are about helping patients breathe better. Sometimes changing the shape of the nose can make a big difference in breathing. For example, when a previous injury was never addressed, or a previous surgery now causes issues. In 2004, after seeing so many people who were desperate to breathe better, even after previous surgery attempts, I developed a new technique.

I can place a thin piece of titanium metal under the skin, across the nose, much like a permanent Breathe Right strip. The beauty is it does not require tape. Most of these patients have already had a septoplasty, where their septum was straightened, but struggle to breathe because the side of the nose collapses in when they take a breath. Lifting your cheek away from your nostril to see if breathing becomes easier is an easy test to determine if you’re an ideal candidate for this procedure. There are new devices that can be placed with only local anesthesia and have even less recovery time, allowing the patient to go on with their life,” Dr. Goldman stated. For some, this might be just the answer they’re looking for: nasal airway improvement without surgery, anesthesia or nasal packing. It’s an in-office procedure that only takes a few minutes with local anesthesia.

More than anything, when considering rhinoplasty or any facial plastic surgery, you want a surgeon with in-depth experience with nasal surgeries. Dr. Neal Goldman commented, “I love seeing my patients happy after surgery. Helping them through the process to that endpoint is the best feeling and makes what I do so rewarding.”

The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery is located in Kinderton Village at 108 Dornach Way in Advance, NC. Call 336-245-9595 or visit FacialPlasticSurgeryNC.com.

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Aesthetic Images

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Style. Life. Love.

BY MARTIE EMORY

As a creatively inclined young girl, June DeLugas accompanied her uncle to furniture auctions, fell in love with design at the tender age of 14, and never missed an opportunity to study the intricacies of great style.

It was her uncle who refinished her first purchased piece – a writing desk made of birdseye maple. Always busy with a craft project, June also strongly felt the influence of her two talented grandmothers: one sewed quilts from a rack that came down from her ceiling, and the other collected pottery and family heirlooms that she would give June, one sweet treasure at a time.

“I have now begun to pass them to my daughter, who appreciates the heritage and sentimental value of such things,” says June, as she reflects on her career of over 25 years imparting design wisdom to grateful clients in the Triad, Charlotte, and Lake Norman area, as well as Wilmington, and as far as Atlanta.

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In 2002, June opened her well-known design firm in Clemmons to showcase furniture, art, lamps and lighting (she admits to a slight lamp fetish!), window treatments, carpeting, accessories, and even luxury bedding. And no doubt you are familiar with the both trendy and timeless design advice she offers through her Forsyth Woman blog, “Dear June.” Although she had previously put together a small showroom in the basement of the home she shares with her wonderfully supportive husband, Fred, his nudging that her collections were slowly “taking over” inspired her to examine the real benefits of an actual – and larger – retail space.

“Fred is a huge help to me,” says June, pointing out his handmade adjustable walls that roll to create various vignettes around the store.

“Customers love seeing, touching, and feeling what they are about to purchase,” she explains. “Having a retail showroom makes us more resourceful when pulling a house together. We also render their rooms in color, either by hand or by computer drawings, and when customers see the furniture, fabric, and colors of a room in a drawing or here in the store, presented on a computer screen, it comes to life for them.”

While stepping through the front door immediately energizes your creative juices, and you make mental notes of a quickly forming list of things you already want to purchase, June and her employees know that potential customers come in to get a feel for how they work as a team, and how their talents would complement their own design vision.

“We are a one-stop shop, both retail and design,” says June. Most of their regular vendors tell her she has the largest fabric library of all the designers they service, which is indeed one of her personal goals.

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“It we don’t have it, we go to markets four times a year to make sure we can put our hands on it for you,” she explains. Both design clients and walk-in traffic are treated to her down-to-earth personality and passion for what she does.

A multi-faceted company, June DeLugas Interiors also operates as a construction designer for new homes, providing turnkey remodeling for residential projects, and specializing in kitchen and bath remodeling, which is about 80% of their business.

“There are 400,000 decisions to be made for a normal size new home,” says June. “The builders give us a schedule, and we make sure the decisions are made so they can keep the project on time. It’s our job to help the client make those important decisions because we can create a canvas in our head, knowing what works best with what – colors, textures, cabinets, granite, tile, hardware and furniture.”

You can feel the love among the staff as June rounds out what she calls her “Dream Team,” with Associate Designer and Business Manager, Logan Allen; Sales Associate, Sample Manager, and Artist, Janet LaRowe; and Senior Designer, Elizabeth Lovette. As part of a small business, everyone embraces multiple responsibilities.

“We help each other, and we have fun, too!” says June.

Some of their biggest inspiration comes from design projects, including this month’s Fall Parade of Homes, where June is the designer and trend expert. “This project is high tech and high style,” she states.

“Everything works from phones and iPads – the TV, security system, lights, blinds, etc.”

You’ll also notice a focus on the kitchen in new construction, as it’s still the area that draws the family close. June’s inspiration can spring from a simple piece of granite for a countertop or a small swatch of fabric or even the home’s brick exterior, and the momentum for style and color keeps building as all the elements start to come together.

June and her staff work with new construction from beginning to end, and have collaborated with Don Hamrick of Custom Homes by Hamrick for the past ten years on new and truly unique family homes.

They have won both service and design awards for the Best of Houzz 2017, and several platinum awards from the Parade of Homes.

While she keeps busy with new construction and a wide array of remodeling projects as well, June is ultra-proud of the store that’s her home base and pleased that so many of the items sold there are part of her personal collections from over the years. She calls her love of collecting a “good addiction” and has come into her own as a business owner and trusted consultant.

“Working for yourself is all about motivation,” says June. “You have to love it to get up every day!”

Along with quality, American-made furniture brands – many of them manufactured here in the Triad – June DeLugas Interiors can oversee your order of custom window treatments and custom wood shutters from a local source, plumbing fixtures, granite countertops and even hardware for updated cabinets, while a seemingly endless array of carpet and upholstery fabric samples lines the walls. Perhaps the finishing touch, your master bedroom, can take on new life and offer much-deserved comfort with soft linens in soft colors from one of the ten lines of bedding they carry, paired with a down comforter and even a custom headboard to match.

The store’s inventory is an eclectic mix of antique, modern, and transitional, and that brings a rich mix of possibilities to every new project.

“Younger clients may think they want modern, but they still like the idea of having a favorite family piece or two in the mix,” says June, pointing out a traditional walnut secretary for sale in the store, that’s enhanced by a few modern accessory pieces.

Having relied on her stellar intuition for her business success, June is the buyer for everything in the retail store, with a well-crafted knack for selecting the right piece for the right space.

To usher in the holiday season, the store will host an open house, “An Artful Christmas,” on Tuesday, November 7, from 10 am – 7 pm. Four local artists will display their work, and you’ll enjoy inspiring holiday décor while browsing June’s collections – all treasured pieces that brought her happiness as she gathered them, and that are sure to find a perfect spot in your home.

“Customers know what they love, but they know they can’t quite put it together themselves. We love it when they come in and say it feels like home, and they feel like pulling up a chair and having a cup of coffee,” she says. “We befriend our clients for life!”

Get to know the creative team at June DeLugas Interiors by visiting junedelugasinteriors.com, or at their retail showroom conveniently situated at 2575 Old Glory Road, #100, in Clemmons. Showroom hours are Monday through Friday 10 am – 5:30 pm, with Tuesday hours 10 am – 7 pm, and Saturday by appointment only. For consultations call 336-778-1030 and follow them on Facebook and Instagram, as well as June’s trend updates on WSJS radio and a monthly column in Forsyth Woman.

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WHAT ARE SOME PROGRAMS UTILIZED IN THE TRANSITION?

Rapid Rehousing is one of the primary programs employed to transition families back into independent living.

The program is designed to help return families to permanent housing via a referral process. It is available only to women and children at the shelter or those living on the streets. Assessment findings are relayed to the coordinated assessment team who recommend housing solutions such as income based, or permanent supportive housing (for chronic homeless or disabled). Initially, the program may pay rent or provide limited financial assistance (such as rental payments, housing deposits, or moving expenses for a limited time period). The ultimate goal is independence.

Greenest, a local non-profit agency, provides home furnishings and accessories on a referral basis. Brittany shared that the Shelter also welcomes donations of household goods, clothing, and cell phones.

Transitioning from Victim to Survivor

BY VONDA HENDERSON

OCTOBER IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH

We read their stories. We watch movies about them. We see their heartbreak on the nightly news. It’s so easy to put distance between them and us. They are the victims of domestic violence; they are our friends, neighbors, relatives, or co-workers. They are us. But most of all, they are survivors.

As a major provider of resources, shelter, counseling, and support for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in Forsyth County, Family Services provides victim advocacy and emergency shelter and programs that help women and their children transition toward healing and independence. Last year, 202 women and children sought emergency shelter for 3,646 nights.

The team members who help in the transition process are dedicated to the goal of helping victims become survivors and finding safe, affordable housing when they leave the shelter.

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MEET A FEW OF THE TEAM MEMBERS:

As Case Manager/Victim Advocate with Family Services, Brittany Homes, MS, supports families who find themselves homeless as a result of domestic violence and assists primarily with the Forsyth County Rapid Rehousing Program. Last year, 69% of 91 families who left the shelter secured safe housing outside of their previous relationship. “As I help coordinate these services to strengthen the well-being of victims and their families,” Brittany shared, “I see the growth they have made from coming in as victims to transition to being empowered as survivors.”

Ann Marie Tucker, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), is one of the counselors at the shelter and provides individual counseling to some of the women and the children.

“Having a chance to tell their story and be believed, not judged, is an important step along the path of healing and wholeness,” Ann explained. She said that counseling, whether with adults or children, offers an opportunity for clients to receive the affirmation that they deserve to be treated with honor and respect, and to know that they are not responsible for being mistreated. “It is gratifying to hear them begin to talk about their future and choices, instead of being limited and defined by their past.”

“I consider the work I do to be my ministry,” said Pat Dean, who is the Victim Services Coordinator for Safe Relationships. Pat is responsible for coordinating services and resources for victims of domestic violence. She also supervises Victim Services staff, provides individual and group counseling for victims, oversees the Court Advocacy Program and builds networks of resources for victims. In August, she began helping to implement the new electronic filing system at Family Services for 50B protective orders for victims of domestic violence in Forsyth County.

Employment assistance is also provided.

Job readiness skills are developed in partnership with Goodwill programs that teach interviewing skills or resume building skills. Dress for Success or clothing donations are important for interviews or re-entry into the workforce.

The shelter provides transportation as needed, including bus passes. Local business referrals, counseling, financial empowerment, and other supportive services are offered to ease the transition and help the women begin to realize their full potential.

Once families have transitioned, many find participation in the Domestic Violence Survivors Coalition important.

The group meets in an informal setting to discuss issues, provide mutual support, and act as advocates for others who have experienced domestic violence.

The numbers (available 24/7) to call for help are: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Family Services domestic violence hotline -- 336.723.8125 The National Domestic Violence hotline -- 1.800.799.7233 SEXUAL ASSAULT: Family Services sexual assault hotline -336.722.4457 The National Sexual Assault hotline -1.800.656.4673 For information about domestic violence prevention and other programs offered through Family Services, contact them at 336.722.8173, tollfree 800.316.5513, via e-mail at info@ familyservicesforsyth.org, or visit the website (familyservicesforsyth.org).

Family Services’ main office is located at 1200 S. Broad Street.

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BY DINAH MYERS

y a d ring for the Holi

Would someone please tell me where 2017 went? It seems like only a few weeks ago it was spring, and now we are into fall! What a short summer, and year, for that matter!

With October comes the planning of our fall and winter holidays and activities. If your holidays always involve food, then you are like most of us. Cool evenings bring on memories of hot chocolate and toasted marshmallows by the fire. Family and friends gather for special meals whether home-cooked or enjoyed at favorite restaurants.

As the holidays arrive, remember my motto – “preparation prevents desperation.” Stay stocked up on healthy choices, especially before and during the holidays. Look for opportunities to make healthy choices. At parties, start with the veggie and fruit trays. Limit the added dressing so that you are not picking up extra calories.

Dip the vegetables or fruit in the dressing rather than pouring it over these items. Even better, dip your fork in the dressing, then pick up the food bites. You get the taste of the dressing but only add a tiny amount! Another helpful trick is to go ahead and eat a balanced meal prior to going to a party or reception but leave off a vegetable serving and fruit serving, so you can still eat at the event but not overeat. Also, drink water frequently, so you won’t be thirsty or tempted to consume punch or other sugary beverages. Focus on enjoying the conversation, catching up with old acquaintances and meeting new ones. When you make a less than healthy choice, the most important thing to do is to avoid allowing one instance of eating unhealthy to become a week or month of unhealthy choices! I often hear folks say, “There’s no point in dieting now; I will just blow my diet with the next event.” It’s far better to stay focused and get right back to eating healthy rather than giving up and just eating poorly for weeks!

Holidays can bring up a lot of emotions/memories that are below the surface. If you are a stress/emotional eater, these times can be huge diet pitfalls. Again, stay stocked up on healthy choices so that when you do feel the need to eat, you’ll be eating foods that are nutritious! Holiday meals may involve lots of sauces and gravies, calorie-laden casseroles and desserts. Plan your meals in advance with fresh vegetables, and make substitutions in recipes when possible to lower the amount of fat and sugar. For me, sugar is a “drug” I just can’t get enough of once I start eating sweets. At large gatherings, I prefer to just eat a plate of desserts! To prevent overindulging, I eat plenty of

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lean protein and vegetables, minus sauces and gravies. I also avoid casseroles as these usually have a fairly high fat content.

I will then limit myself to only one serving of dessert (it might consist of bite-sized portions of several treats, though). I also try to get on the treadmill every day during the holidays so that I burn those extra calories and rev up my metabolism!

And, then there are the endless photo opportunities…do you feel your anxiety level rising when someone whips out his or her camera or smartphone for pictures of you or the group?

When you see pictures of yourself at holidays, do you cringe and say, “Oh, I never look good in pictures?” Cameras are accused of “adding” at least 10 pounds to our images. If we are already 20 pounds over our desired weight, then our pictures will look like we are 30 pounds overweight which equates to three dress sizes! No wonder so many parents have lots of pictures of their children at holidays but are rarely in these pictures themselves. Look back at your photo albums and see if that is true for you. In the years to come, your children will ask you why you are not in the pictures. Don’t let this year be another one with no holiday pictures of you!

Start getting ready now, and you can easily be down two to three dress sizes by Christmas. Give yourself a gift of “loving yourself” and being healthy!

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Mix It Up “There was a time when mixing metals, whether in home décor or jewelry, was considered a faux pas. While the idea still meets resistance with some, designs that employ a strict rule of not mixing metals often fall flat… mixing and matching metals is a sure-fire way to bring a layered richness to any space.”

Not long ago I was standing in line to check out at the grocery store, and a lady said to me, “You dress so youthful.” At my age, that definitely caught my attention! I had on nothing more than my exercise clothes. Then she proceeded to tell me that she had read recently that in order to look more youthful, you should not match your purse to your shoes. Remember when the style was to match everything? Not just in fashion but in the home? To be “in style” meant matching, wood tones and style, the end tables and coffee table and all the pieces in the bedroom, family room and dining room… it all had to match! This look may be neat, but it can result in a predictable, boring décor.

I am often asked the question, “Is it okay to mix the metal finishes in my home?” Most often the homes of folks who ask were built in the ‘80s and ‘90s, and all the hardware in their home is polished brass. You can open a “can of worms” when you start replacing all the door and cabinet hardware and light fixtures, plus spend a great deal of money doing so. Yes, it is okay to mix the metal finishes in your home, and in doing so, you will add depth and visual interest to your space.

Keep these thoughts in mind when mixing metal finishes in your home: • Mixing metals will keep your décor from being too defined by a trend or time period.

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BEFORE

AFTER

BEFORE

AFTER

• Maintain some consistency: for example, brushed nickel knobs and pulls on your cabinets call for brushed nickel hinges.

• Choose a dominant metal (this gives unity to your space) and then select at least one, possibly two metal finishes for accents. For example, oil rubbed bronze as the dominant with antique brass and copper as accents.

• By using a different metal as an accent, it will not look mismatched if the metal is repeated a few times through the room.

• Keep in mind the style of your home and mix that with what you love and it should work.

• Vary the textures of your metal finishes by combining matte, brushed, polished and hammered finishes.

• Consider using warm metals (brass, oil rubbed bronze, gold, and copper) as accents for cool metals (chrome, nickel, pewter) together to add interest. Don’t say silver and gold can’t be friends.

• Match the metals in a tiny bath… hardware, light fixtures and plumbing fixtures. The metals will be in close proximity, and the room will look more balanced with the use of just one finish.

• To keep a look cohesive in a kitchen: appliances should match, all door knobs and hinges should match, cabinet hardware can be an accent metal, as can light fixtures, sinks and faucets.

Just remember to choose one dominant finish, one accent… or maybe two. More than that can keep your space from coming together.

• Use natural iron as a neutral. “It (iron) is a modern industrial touch that adds a dark element to a palette that needs to be grounded or toned down. It won’t clash with other metal tones, and it also helps warmer metals such as gold, gain a stronger pop of color.” (Kathy Kuo)

The choices of metals are endless. Have fun mixing and matching!

“My youthful look”…..a pair of gray knit crop pants, a turquoise shirt and hooded sweat jacket, turquoise and lime tennis shoes and a hot pink purse. Definitely not boring… but youthful!

Need help updating your décor and getting your home ready for the holidays.

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5. They don’t want to make an expensive purchase they’ll regret.

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7. They desire a home that feels good and looks good yet reflects who they are.

8. They want rooms to function better.

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6. They are blending 2 households of furnishings and want professional help with what to keep and how to make it work.

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It is common knowledge for most that when it comes to weight loss (or even weight maintenance), what you eat is far more important than how much you are exercising. Research varies, but if you have a weight loss goal, 75-90% is diet related and the remaining 10-25% is exercise. In other words, you can’t out train a bad diet. This was shocking news for the girl who used to think she “earned” that milkshake, burger and fries after completing a long run.

It makes sense if you think about it… It’s a lot easier to eat 500 fewer calories than it is to burn off 500 calories by exercising. What does it take to burn 500 calories? 45 minutes of jogging at 6.5mph, a 45-minute spin class, or an hour of swimming laps… You get the picture. What does it take to eat 500 calories? Well, I can promise you the above-referenced milkshake, burger and fries consist of far more than 500 calories. Regardless of how much you exercise, regularly rewarding yourself with a meal like this isn’t a good idea.

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The flip side to this is the need to “make up” for overindulging in food or alcohol by doing a ton of exercise. The bottom line? This doesn’t work. Jill Coleman with JillFit physiques refers to this as the ‘deprive and binge’ cycle. The more you feel deprived, the bigger the need becomes to overindulge later. It’s a vicious cycle that no amount of exercise will ever fix. Exercise should not be used as punishment; it should be something that you look forward to doing! If you don’t look forward to it, you probably should look into changing up the type of exercise you are doing.

Since what we eat is so vital to weight maintenance and weight loss, it’s just as important that we create an eating lifestyle that we enjoy. Dr. Yoni Freedhoff says, “The simplest litmus test question to ask is, ‘Could I live like this forever?’ and if the answer is, ‘No,’ you’ll need to change something up.” I couldn’t agree more. It isn’t realistic to think that you can sustain a lifestyle forever that you aren’t enjoying—and this relates to both exercise and eating.

The answer? Eat in a way that does not cause you to feel super deprived, but that also doesn’t make you feel miserable from overindulging too frequently. Find that middle ground!

A FEW TIPS:

1. Drink LOTS of water. Staying hydrated is an important key to a healthy lifestyle. Research shows that drinking water before and after meals causes you to consume significantly fewer calories.

2. Eat fruits and veggies- but only the ones you like! If you hate carrots, by all means, don’t eat them! Do some experimenting and find the fruits and veggies that you love and incorporate them into your diet as much as possible. DO try to step out of your comfort zone and try new things – even things you hated as a kid. You may surprise yourself and love the taste now!

3. Save room for indulgences. I’m not saying go out and get a double scoop of ice cream in a waffle cone every day but do indulge in a few bites of something sweet (or salty) occasionally.

Why? Because life would be disappointing if you thought you could never, ever enjoy your favorite not-so-healthy foods again.

Constantly depriving yourself is not a maintainable (or enjoyable) way of life.

4. Eat plenty of protein. I’ll let you do your own research on exactly what kind of protein you choose to eat. Bottom line, protein keeps you full!

5. Eat when you are hungry and stop when you are (almost) full.

Sounds simple, right? In theory, it is, but many struggle with this one. Which brings me to the last tip…

6. Eat mindfully. Taste every single bite that you are eating.

Eat slowly and make eating your sole task. Watching TV, driving, or doing anything else while you are eating… is not good. You cannot mindfully eat if your brain is focused on more than one thing.

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MEDALONI CELLARS:

Vine-Based Friendships

BY DEBBIE LINVILLE

“Here at Medaloni, folks come as strangers and leave as friends.”

Medaloni Cellars’ beginnings date back to 2011 when Joey and his family acquired a heavily wooded 22-acre tract in the heart of the Yadkin Valley wine country. Over the next 12 months, the property was cleared and developed and, in 2012, the main tasting room, with a stunning view of the Blue Ridge Mountains, opened to the public. A bottling room behind the tasting room was built in 2013, followed by a second tasting room closer to the winery entrance in 2014 and then, in 2015, the barrel room (where the magic happens) was completed.

Joey shares that his background is in hospitality management and it shows! The attention to detail and focus on making people comfortable is palpable at every turn. “This is our home, and we love sharing it with friends,” said Joey. The back label on the signature wines says it best: “From our home to yours.” Ensuring visitors feel welcome, have a great time and “make new friends at the vine” is the number one priority at Medaloni.

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I pull into Medaloni Cellars on a historic day, Eclipse 8.21.17, and Joey Medaloni, owner and winemaker, greets me with a glass of wine. This particular wine, made from leftover white grapes of the season (chardonnay, traminette and viognier) is in the initial stages of the blending process.

I ask about the unique concrete fermentation tank, and he explains that it is the only one like it in Yadkin Valley and it serves to add minerality to the wine; giving it another layer of complexity. At this early stage, the white blend is already spectacular! Following a brief tour of the barrel room, we head to the lower tasting room where he opens up a chilled bottle of Markus Joey Flight Series White Blend to toast our interview and our new friendship.

“What is better than a blend of the beautiful scenery of North Carolina’s wine country, friends, family and wine? Nothing!”

Joey started making wine in 2008, and after repeated failed attempts over the next two years, he began having one success after another. Joey shares that making wine is a bit like cooking. “The more you do it, the more you learn about what works best, and when you find something that works, you keep perfecting it.”

MEDALONI CELLARS “KEY INGREDIENTS” IN WINE MAKING:

1) REDUCTION SAUCES. “I make the reductions directly from the barrels, I don’t use sugar to sweeten the wine and I don’t chemically alter it. If it can’t be balanced with our other wines to get the correct pH, then I don’t use it,” said Joey.

2) FRENCH OAK BARRELS. Joey explains, “Different cooperages produce different barrels customized to my unique specifications. Depending upon the processing of the barrel (toasted – light, medium, heavy, steamed, etc.) the wood adds flavor compounds like vanilla, cocoa or smoke.”

Insieme is Italian for “together” and represents a friendship and a blending of wines by two winemakers from America’s east and west coasts.

Joey met Markus Niggli of Lodi, California on a flight to California several years ago. Neither asked the other their profession or where they were going, so imagine Joey’s surprise the following day at a wine trade show when he saw Markus behind one of the vendor booths. Markus invited

Joey to dinner, and they spent the following day together talking about all things wine. A bicoastal friendship was born, and a fruitful (pardon the pun) wine making partnership began. “Markus changed the whole dynamics of wine for me,” said Joey. Following in the footsteps of the old French Bordeaux wine masters, Joey learned the process involved in using wine to make wine; no chemical altering of acid and pH levels. The result…the highly successful Markus Joey Flight Series project featuring Flight Series White, Flight Series Red, Torrontes, Voigner and more. The Markus Joey Flight Series label was designed by Michael E. Leonard and is a tribute to the passionate work and friendship of the two winemakers, Markus Niggli from the West and Joey Medaloni from the East.

MEDALONI WINE CLUB:

In response to the locally driven desire for a threetier wine club membership, Medaloni recently revamped its program: Silver: 3 bottles, 4 times a year Gold: 6 bottles, 4 times a year Case: 12 bottles, 4 times year While you may request all white, all red or a mixed order, Joey encourages you to “Try them all, and you’ll be hooked.” If you think you are not a fan of white wines or red wines, the new releases are the perfect opportunity to widen your wine palate.

An extra perk for case club members who live within a 90-mile radius – Medaloni Cellars will make a house delivery!

Medaloni Cellars is located at 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Tastings and tours are available Friday, Saturday and Sunday 11 am – 6 pm and Wednesday and Thursday by appointment. For more information, call 336.946.1490, or visit medalonicellars.com.

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Living With History:

A Look at Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques

BY DENISE HEIDEL

After 40 years in the art and antiquities business, the Lasters are experts. They’ve facilitated hundreds of estate sales, including Maya Angelou’s, and they’ve educated thousands on the history of various antiques. Laster’s Fine Arts & Antiques, owned by father-son team Larry and Ryan Laster, has been the Triad’s trusted resource for the finer things of art and antiques since 2011.

THE HERITAGE OF QUALITY ANTIQUES Buying a piece of furniture at Laster’s isn’t just about the furniture. It’s about an appreciation of heritage and craftsmanship. Ryan Laster shared, “The quality of yesteryear endures. Each piece that comes to our store is a piece that has withstood the test of time and will continue to serve for years to come.”

And with almost 2,000 square feet of retail space, there’s plenty of history and art to be absorbed! Laster’s is a veritable playground for any history buff who

enjoys browsing quality antiques and admiring fine art. “These are one-of-akind pieces,” said Ryan. “We appreciate the wisdom of investing in quality pieces because you get what you pay for.

People know this.”

AN EVER-CHANGING INVENTORY

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques offers a wide variety of options – from furniture to books to antique maps…even a selection of jewelry and home accessories.

“We are constantly getting new pieces,” said Ryan. “Since we aren’t a box store, everything we sell is unique, making it a great place to shop for those who want high quality and unique furnishings in their home. We have a lot of people who visit us, who visit simply because they know our ever-changing inventory promises to bring increasingly rare opportunities to admire and appreciate antiques close up and personal!”

ESTATE SALES

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques offer estate

tag sales. Different than estate auctions, an estate tag sale takes place over a series of designated days, and everything is tagged, and priced to sell.

“Estate tag sales,” shared Ryan, “are a great way to handle everything from the furniture to the pots and pans, including the living room curtains and guest bedroom sheets.”

To keep up with upcoming estate tag sales, be sure to follow Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques on Facebook!

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques is the place to go if you're looking for something unique that tells a story. If the walls of Laster's could talk, oh, the stories they could share from the pieces that have passed through the store!

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques is located at 664 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

Give them a call at 336.765.5919 or visit online at LastersFineArt.com. Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques is also on Facebook!

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques is proud to announce plans for an exhibit of A.R. Ammons’ work in October! A world-renowned artist and poet, the work of A.R. Ammons has significant ties to Winston-Salem and Wake Forest University.

This exhibit ties in with the release of “The Complete Poems of A. R. Ammons: Volume 1 1955-1977” and “The Complete Poems of A. R. Ammons: Volume 2 19782005,” both of which are scheduled to release on October 31, 2017.

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I was in the car, on my way to a meeting, and thinking about a presentation I was making. I admit I was a little stressed about it. Then a song came on the radio that caused me to contemplate a few things.

The artist sang out the following words, “Make sure you live like you’re dying.”

The moment I heard those words, everything changed.

Don’t Wait, Seize The Day

BY DARA KURTZ

It made me think.

It made me pause.

The meeting didn’t seem very important anymore.

What would I do if, God forbid, I was dying? Would I live differently? What would I change? Maybe I would pack my bags and run away to Europe. Perhaps I would care less about keeping my house clean? Would I share unspoken words to my loved ones?

Even for me, a breast cancer survivor, I don’t think about death and dying. I focus on living.

When I first got diagnosed, and we didn’t know what we were dealing with, I had a lot of scary thoughts. How could I not? Those first days were some of my hardest. I had been told the pathology of my biopsy indicated that I did have breast cancer, but

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I didn’t know if it had spread. I didn’t know if it was contained or if it was in other places throughout my body. Gulp.

I didn’t know what I was facing or what it meant. It was a scary time.

I thought about how much I wanted to live, especially for my family, and I spent a lot of time crying. Fortunately, I was very blessed, and tests later indicated I had found my cancer early. I did ask those hard, “What if? questions that most of us don’t think about. Most people don’t think about death unless something happens in their lives that causes them to go there.

Hearing the song on the radio, on the way to my meeting, reminded me of the importance of seizing the day. Of grabbing life by the collar, with both hands, and living fully and abundantly well.

It was a good reminder to me, and I hope to you.

It’s easy to put off doing things today because we assume we can do them tomorrow. But, don’t wait. Don’t put off doing something you really want to do just because you expect to have time in the future.

You aren’t guaranteed to have time.

Want a new job? Career? Hobby? Relationship?

Start thinking about a way to make it happen now. Are you holding back on your feelings?

Don’t presume you’ll have time in the future to tell the people you love how you feel, tell them now. Today.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t plan for your future. Of course, you need to make responsible decisions and think about what you want your future to look like. However, consider this a friendly reminder to seize the day.

Don’t wait – whatever it is, go for it. Now.

Find meaning each day,

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Great Fashion, Fantastic Prices

BY DEBBIE LINVILLE

Style Encore is distinctively different from local retail and consignment stores. They have all the top brands in clothing, shoes, and accessories, but at a fraction of the cost. Shannon Kemp, owner, and her staff make it easy to find exactly what you are looking for without breaking the bank, and because the inventory changes every day, it is always the right time to shop!

What puts Style Encore in a class of its own:

1. PAY CASH ON THE SPOT. The processing is quick and easy. Style Encore pays cash on the spot when you bring in your high quality, gently used women’s casual and business clothing, handbags, shoes, and accessories. Depending on the style, condition, brand, and the store’s current stock levels, customers, on average, can expect to receive 30-50% of the resale price Style Encore places on the items.

2. TRADE UP. While buyers review your items for purchase, you will have time to check out the latest styles in the store. Shannon reports that the majority of customers trade up; meaning once they accept the offer for purchase, they leave with a new outfit (or two) and some extra cash in their handbag. Style Encore is the local answer to Poshmark!

3. NO APPOINTMENTS NECESSARY. Style Encore buys clothing for all seasons – all day…every day…so you get to decide when you are going to sell, based on your schedule.

There are no specific days of the week set aside to bring items in or seasonal clothing restrictions.

“This is not your average women’s resale store.”

4. SIZES 0-4X. You will find an expansive selection of trendy casual and business clothing in great condition at a fraction of the cost in a wide range of sizes.

5. FASHION FORWARD WOMEN. Style Encore focuses on women’s clothing, shoes, and accessories – no attire for teens or juniors. Shannon reports that her customers are smart, stylish, and expect ultra-high value and quality in their fashion.

From recent college graduates embarking on a new career to chic grandmothers, classy attire and accessories are at their fingertips.

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What’s trending for fall: • Bojo – fringe, lace, embroidery, layered jewelry, and all things shabby chic • Metallics –silver and gold clothing, shoes, and accessories; shiny is in!

• Ankle Boots and Booties – short boots in all colors, and styles– leather, tapestry, casual, and dressy “Designer looks. Desirable prices.”

6. FUN, FRIENDLY SHOPPING ENVIRONMENT. Arranged by garment type (e.g., dresses, skirts, tops by sleeve length, pants), size, and color in each section, the store is a rainbow of stylish apparel and accessories. Style Encore’s staff enjoys helping customers find the fashion deal of a lifetime.

7. AMAZING PRICES. Customers will enjoy huge savings off retail prices for gently used clothing and accessories. White House Black Market, Talbots, Lilly Pulitzer, Chico’s, and Ann Taylor are just a few of the great clothing lines you will find here.

Style Encore targets spending savvy, fashion conscious women!

Best selling items: • Handbags – totes, crossbody bags, wallets, and wristlets • Fashion: Vince Camuto, Big Buddha, Spartina, etc.

• Designer: Michael Kors, Kate Spade, Tory Burch, Coach, etc.

• Apparel – dresses, tops, and bottoms: J. Crew and Limited, etc.

• Jewelry – costume and designer: Pandora and Tiffany, etc.

“Ladies, discover Style Encore this fall.”

8. BUY ALL BRANDS. From items purchased at Target to department/mall stores and boutiques, Style Encore buys and sells a plethora of fashion lines. There is truly something for everyone! You can follow Style Encore on Facebook and Instagram to see the most recent inventory.

9. FREE PERSONAL STYLING. The customer completes a style profile and the staff at Style Encore will pre-shop through the store to design a customized “capsule wardrobe” - a few key pieces that can be used to create a number of outfits that will take you from day into night. This is the (free) local answer to Stitch Fix!

10. LADIES’ NIGHT OUT EVENTS. Throughout the year, Style Encore hosts a number of large events to raise money for local organizations and causes like Breast Cancer Awareness, Women’s Heart Health, and Teacher Appreciation. Additionally, Style Encore provides the perfect venue for smaller groups of women to get together and have some fun (e.g., book clubs, running groups, dental practices, law firms, etc.). When you couple wine, food, door prizes, a style makeover or scarf demonstration with a private shopping adventure, you have a night to remember.

“Something as simple as a good look can make a big difference in a woman’s day.” – Shannon Kemp There is no better time than now to clean out a little room (or a lot) in your closet and add new pieces to your wardrobe with the hottest looks of the season. If you have not discovered this local resale gem, you are missing out. Come in and see what everyone is talking about!

Style Encore is located at 243 South Stratford Road in WinstonSalem. Call the store at 336.893.9146, or visit online at StyleEncoreNCTriad.com. Be sure to also “Like” them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram! Style Encore is open MondaySaturday from 10am-8pm and Sunday from 12-6pm.

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BY PATRICIA JUSTICE

Have you ever had some ideas on recreating or refining a space or some rooms in your home (or even outdoors), but were overwhelmed as to how to pull it together? After all, there are so many choices, colors and finishes out there to choose from!

Maybe you’ve seen some ideas out there on Pinterest or even ripped a few pages out of your favorite magazine, but still… you are stopped dead in your tracks in moving forward?

Is it fear? Overwhelming? Maybe you are just too busy and are afraid if you get started you may never get your project(s) completed? Most people today hang tight to their funds until they are 100% sure of their decision. Trust me. I get it. Saying “yes” to a project can be scary unless you feel you can trust how your funds will be spent, how it will look overall and how the process will flow.

What I have found when working with people is that even though they don’t know it, they already want three things right out of the gate: 1) They need a little nudge; 2) They already know their tastes, but don’t know how to completely define them; and 3) They need someone they can emotionally connect with.

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SO, just for fun, here are a few pointers to get the ball rolling:

would it be? That awful bathroom color?

The mudroom that looks like an explosion hit it every single day? Does the room just not feel very cohesive? There’s a starting point.

3. WHEN YOU WALK THROUGH A STORE, WHAT THINGS DO YOU GRAVITATE TO?

Are you motivated by lots of bling, or is rustic something that calls your name?

Whether you decide on a DIY project or hiring a pro for anything, the key is to get started, find a timeline (or the project will continue into infinity and beyond), be realistic with other life events going on and use a few inspirational pieces, such as a piece of art, a favorite rug, etc.

If you desire to hire a designer or redesigner, you will need to know what your budget is. Be realistic about that.

Be sure that you connect with them emotionally and that you understand their expectations while they, in turn, understand yours.

Designers can breathe new life into a space, create a vision and think of things that often may be overlooked, such as proper lighting, flow, etc. Steve Jobs said it best, “A lot of times, people don’t know what they want until you show it to them.” Gotta love it!

1. USUALLY, PEOPLE ALREADY KNOW WHAT THEY LOVE.

One thing I love doing is looking at the overall home, and I can help you make wise investments because I also stage homes and love bringing extra value to those properties. I also love thinking outside the box and keeping the process enjoyable.

2. PEOPLE USUALLY ALREADY KNOW WHAT FRUSTRATES THEM.

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10 Reasons Not to Give Up on

Love

BY ELISA WALLACE

Love. The word alone has led to countless debates. What is the true meaning of “love”? For centuries artists have dedicated their craft to unraveling the mystery of what makes love so powerful. Yet to anyone in the past who has been burned by this four letter word, it seems much safer to give up on love. Those who have been through a breakup, know firsthand how painful it can be. As Gabriel Garcia Marquez says, “perhaps this is what stories meant when they called somebody heartsick.”

Marquez explains, “your heart and your stomach and your whole insides felt empty and hollow and aching.”

If love can be so toxic, why should we not give up on love? Why should its victims give it another chance? The science of love can answer why it can benefit your health to let your guard down and let love take over.

According to research recently conducted by Syracuse Professor Dr. Stephanie Ortigue, the feelings associated with love can happen within a fifth of a second of meeting someone. In the article, “Why does love feel so good?” Ortigue explains that, “Romantic feelings originate not in the heart, but in the brain.” Ortigue goes on to detail how, “When you fall in love, twelve areas of the brain sync up to release ‘happy’ chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine and adrenaline.”

However, this is not to discredit those

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romances that take longer to develop.

There are some people that develop feelings over time, yet “realizing we were attracted to them feels like an epiphany…the euphoria was just as striking.”

If this is not enough to make one want to give love a chance, read on for ten extra reasons why it can be a good thing to let cupid’s arrow hit you.

REASON #1:

You can heal your broken heart.

Contrary to what you may believe, you can take steps every day to move forward from a breakup. While there is no magic elixir to take away the pain, through taking the time to heal and believing the best about yourself, you will naturally move forward. That new light within you will naturally attract a better match.

REASON #2:

Love is all around us. You never know what may be just around the corner from you. While you have to allow yourself to properly heal after a tough heartbreak, romance can take place at any time and any place.

REASON #3:

You can learn from the past. Your past mistakes in love can actually help you find a stronger and more stable relationship. When you learn from the past and can let it go, it is easier to attract what you do want instead.

REASON #4:

Everything takes work in life. Nothing in life is easy. Dating while you are in your 20s is easy, because you meet people often through school, work, bars, etc. When you get older, you have to work at meeting people, but this shouldn’t stop you! Staying socially active can help you meet your future love!

REASON #5:

Fear is natural, but not forever. It is completely understandable that you may be scared to give love another chance. However, if we constantly

put up our emotional armor, we may defend ourselves against a great potential match. We have to be open to love to find it.

REASON #6:

You do deserve true love. The biggest issue with dating is that after someone is rejected, they begin to doubt that they are lovable.

Do not believe this. Just because one person doesn’t choose you, doesn’t mean the right person won’t.

REASON #7:

Think outside the box. After a tough breakup, it is time to reevaluate the qualities that make up your “Mr. or Ms. Right.” Consider whether there may be a pattern of negative qualities in your past partners.

Take a chance by looking for new personality qualities, and get ready for a wonderful surprise.

REASON #8:

You have the power to change your point of view. We can rewire our minds to be open to love. Practicing a hopeful outlook will increase your endorphins, which leads to an elevated mood that ultimately attracts love. To do so means being open to blind dates, accepting invitations to events, and being open to meeting new people.

REASON#9:

It can make everything looks, taste and feel better. Think about how amazing everything is when you’re in the midst of being “in love.” The sky is a brighter shade of blue. Your morning latte has an extra delicious kick. You push easily past your normal running time of three miles.

Love always looks good on people.

REASON #10:

As humans, we are wired for love.

Blame it on our genetic makeup.

As human beings, we naturally seek companionship. According to Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology at the University of Washington, “Our drive for union is part of our species, as it is for almost all mammals.” He adds, “Our survival is more likely when we bond to another and face the world as a team.”

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BY SARA MIGLIARESE

NATIONAL PHYSICAL THERAPY MONTH October is one of our favorite months for scary costumes, scary movies, and scary decorations.

It is not supposed to be a month for something scary like pain. Many adults turn to opioid use to manage pain symptoms resulting from a variety of conditions, such as arthritis or low back pain, and some of these people eventually misuse these pharmaceuticals in an attempt to alleviate their pain. Each year 116 million Americans experience chronic pain. As our nation faces a health crisis resulting from an increased use of prescription opioids, the American Physical Therapy Association is making October National Physical Therapy Month, an opportunity to bring attention to this problem and offer safer solutions to pain management.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) urges both prescribers of opioids and users of opioids to reduce their reliance on these prescriptions and try safer alternatives for addressing chronic pain. Several types of chronic pain respond “as well or better” to physical therapy as to prescription pain medications.

Through movement and exercise, physical therapists treat pain by improving muscle strength, flexibility, and range of motion, while educating their patients on pain science and increasing their control over painful symptoms (moveforwardpt.com). A physical therapist will conduct an in-depth interview, perform an examination of movement and activity limitations, and develop a treatment plan that can relieve pain and increase participation in desired activities that were previously restricted by pain. A physical therapist (PT) may use different types of treatments and technologies to control and reduce pain, in addition to prescribing exercise designed specifically for each patient. A PT will monitor reductions in pain and adjust an exercise program in a safe and effective manner so that the patient can return to activity. Becoming more physically active is crucial for avoiding illness, falls, injury, dementia, and conditions like diabetes, hypertension, and osteoporosis. And this is a short list of how increased activity and exercise can benefit persons in pain. A PT can help break the pain cycle that continues to perpetuate the use of prescription pain medications: pain = less activity & less activity results in more pain, & more pain = even less activity, and so on and so on. A PT can help break this cycle.

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The National Institute on Drug Abuse provided the following explanation for the opioid epidemic. “In 2015, more than 33,000 Americans died as a result of an opioid overdose, including prescription opioids, heroin, and illicitly manufactured fentanyl, a powerful synthetic opioid. That same year, an estimated 2 million people in the United States suffered from substance use disorders related to prescription opioid pain relievers, and 591,000 suffered from a heroin use disorder (not mutually exclusive). Here is what we know about the opioid crisis:

The most common opioids are codeine, Fentanyl, Hydrocodone or dihydrocodeinone (Vicodin®, Lortab®, Lorcet®, and others), Hydromorphone (Dilaudid®), Meperidine (Demerol®), Methadone (Dolophine®, Methadose®), Morphine (Duramorph®, Roxanol®), Oxycodone (OxyContin®, Percodan®, Percocet®, and others), and Oxymorphone (Opana®).

Hydrocodone and oxycodone are probably the most familiar names of pain medications. If you have had a recent surgery or pain-causing procedure, then you may have noticed that physicians are limiting opioid prescriptions and asking patients to use other pain relief such as ice, heat, or over the counter pain meds. This is a positive step in limiting unhealthy reliance on opioids.

• Roughly 21 to 29 percent of patients prescribed opioids for chronic pain misuse them.

• Between 8 and 12 percent develop an opioid use disorder.

• An estimated 4 to 6 percent who misuse prescription opioids transition to heroin.

• About 80 percent of people who use heroin first misused prescription opioids.” (drugabuse.gov/drugs-abuse/opioids/ opioid-crisis)

Persons who are struggling with chronic pain are urged to try alternatives to opioids, and October would be a great month to try physical therapy, one of the evidence-based, effective alternatives to prescription medications. To find a physical therapist, check the American Physical Therapy Association website (apta.org), ask your primary care provider, or ask a friend or family member who has benefited from physical therapy. I am proud to be a physical therapist, especially during National Physical Therapy Month. Don’t let pain “scare” you this October.

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From the Winston-Salem Time Traveler

Take Me to the Fair!

BY MOLLY GROGAN RAWLS

Autumn is in the air, and in WinstonSalem, that means it’s time for the Dixie Classic Fair. Children eating candy apples, popcorn, and cotton candy; 4-H Club members showing their livestock; fruits, vegetables, and pumpkins on display; and the midway lights and rides with fireworks overhead. There’s something for everyone at the Dixie Classic Fair!

The fair’s beginnings date to 1882 when Rosa Mickey Fries, the newly married Mrs. Henry Fries, helped organize a “Wheat Fair” at Pace Warehouse. The fair was so successful that organizers planned a fair for the following year. Tobacco was increasing in importance in Forsyth County, so in the 1890s, Richard J. Reynolds suggested that tobacco be included in the fair.

By 1898, the fair was nicknamed the Tobacco Fair or Exhibit.

Tobacco companies prepared elaborate displays to show their products. Agricultural products, cattle, and flour were still included, and entertainment was added to the program.

In 1898, the Piedmont Park Company was formed to operate the fair. Shares of stock were sold – the first 500 shares sold for $10.00 each. Plans were made to purchase land off N. Liberty Street to relocate and expand the present fair. Once land was purchased, the director persuaded the streetcar company to extend its line up Liberty Street so people could get to the fair. The streetcar company was concerned the line would have limited use, so the fair promoters offered discount fair tickets to anyone who rode the streetcar to the fair.

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The fair was held in the N. Liberty Street location from 1908 to 1950.

During that time, adjoining tracts of land were purchased so the fair could expand. William Neal Reynolds helped the fair expand in the 1920s and 1930s by promoting horse racing and financing a race track and grandstand. Mr. Reynolds loved horse racing and would end his racing season at the fair. Audiences came to watch all types of racing – foot, harness, and motorcycles, as well as variety shows that performed at the fair. The agricultural theme of the early fairs was continued in the new location.

By the late 1940s, the fair had again outgrown its location. In 1949, Charles H. Babcock offered land for a new fairground adjoining Cherry Street Extension and facing on 30th Street.

In 1951, the fair opened in its new location with all new buildings. People still came in large numbers to see their favorite attractions. A new grandstand was built and has been used over the years for political rallies, stock car races, shows featuring top-name entertainers, and the daredevil tricks of Joie Chitwood’s Thrill Show. In the 1950s, school children were treated to free fair tickets and half a day out of school to attend the fair.

Some people go to the fair for the variety of food offered at the booths run by community organizations.

The aromas from all the eating places combine for a memorable fair experience. Jelly, bread, desserts, and vegetables are judged and displayed for fairgoers to see, along with handicrafts, antiques, photographs, and flowers. Livestock, poultry, and other animals fill the barns and are heard all over the fair.

The midway featuring the James E. Strates Show, and before that the World of Mirth, gives fairgoers thrills and chills with exciting rides. The Village of Yesterday shows how life was in another time and an education building opened in 1991 to house many exhibits. As night falls at the fairgrounds and the colorful lights on the rides and booths appear, the fair is a magical place. Then the fireworks light up the sky to signal the close of the fair day.

The fairgrounds are used year-round for events such as picnics, weddings, exhibits, and shows. The Dixie Classic Fair, second in size only to the State Fair in Raleigh, has been operated by the City of Winston-Salem since 1969 and is self-supporting – no tax dollars are used for its operation. While many things about the fair have changed over the years, one thing is the same as the first fair in 1882. Fairgoers came to the fair for a good time and were not disappointed.

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Steps in Beautifying Your Yard

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The autumn season inspires not only homeowners to venture outside their homes to tackle projects in the yard, but drivers are slowing their journeys to view eye-catching landscape ideas. Have you ever asked yourself, “What caught my attention?” Was it the trellis, the use of stones and rocks, or the flower garden? The ideal yard we dream of is found in various sources, and the image is often saved under the category “Landscape Ideas.” However, our own yard remains untouched for two reasons: 1. Choosing the right foliage for a specific location can be daunting task 2. Removing overgrown shrubs is back breaking work for one, if not, two people.

STEP 1: WHAT IS NEEDED? TIME!

The fall season, whether the task begins in October or November, is the perfect time to begin altering your yard. Large tasks do not take a weekend or even a month to complete. In doing the job correctly, give yourself the fall and spring season to prepare the soil and effectively plan.

The shrubs near the house, for instance, may be too tall and wide and prevent either natural light from entering the first-floor windows or appear wild in the backyard. If you are tired of trimming, consider removing them. Most mature shrubs can cause maintenance issues and severe damage; therefore, take the following steps: • Contact your utility service to discover where the pipes and wires are located underground.

• Use either a chainsaw or lopper to begin removing one section of branches at a time. (Leave a few branches in case you need to pull or push the stump.)

• Thoroughly soak the ground around the stump to ease digging around the stump. A small ax can help remove sections, or use a chain and force, and extract both the stump and its roots system out of the ground.

• Consider renting or borrowing a chipper shredder to receive well-needed mulch chips for your efforts.

STEP 2: PREPARE THE SOIL

Once a row of shrubs has been removed, it is time to prepare the soil. Take your time. Visit landscape companies to view the options, such as using stone

as your focal point or border. How would a few large rocks look among selective flowers, a line of medium sized rocks as a low border, or building a one-foot stone wall? Are you able to transport one part soil and one part soil conditioner to your home? Asking question is all part of the preparation process.

STEP 3: CHOOSING YOUR FOLIAGE WISELY

One aspect that is desired in picturesque landscapes is viewing foliage less than five feet tall and under two feet wide. Slow growing foliage that does not consume space and overwhelm other plants is ideal. Be advised, however, that the word “dwarf” does not necessarily mean the tree or shrub is compact. For instance, the dwarf Alberta spruce will mature to reach 12 feet in height while the dwarf hydrangea can aspire to four feet height and width.

It’s important to read labels and measure the magnitude of the span consuming your preferred space. The goal is to select plants which can offer beautification and low maintenance.

Here are a few ideas: • Frame lattice and plant clematis, bougainvillea, climbing hydrangea, or confederate jasmine away from a structure or tree. Vines especially need a defined and controllable location.

Thoroughly research your plant first before buying it. The climbing

hydrangea, for instance, will leap to broaden its territory. While you may know and love wisteria, it can destroy foundations, seep between cracks, and climb walls.

• Create a layering effect with a line of tall flowers such as asters, coneflowers, delphinium, lavender, sage, or Veronica, and shorter flowers near the front based on your color scheme.

• What are your thoughts about a wildflower garden, forever prospering with perpetual flowers, and eliminating the constant seasonal weeding?

• Seeking privacy? With two landscape timbers buried in the ground, safely avoiding wires and pipes, stretch canvas and secure with eyelets to create a temporary wall of privacy. Enhancing this location can be accomplished with a variety of potted plants.

• A second idea for privacy is to research the phrase, “living willow structures.”

Willow planted in 12-inch strips, and tied together can grow - with your help - to form various unique designs. While you can control its height, the natural world, especially birds, will enjoy it too. The “willow” is a viable option and will need to be planted in early spring.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF SAYING Yes

BY MADISON SKAKLE

I’ve always been what I like to call a “nicely-stubborn” individual.

Lately, however, I’ve changed some of my ways – yes, I’m still stubborn, but I’ve modified one aspect of my life for the better. I’ve started saying YES to opportunities! I’m sharing with you how the simple act of saying yes can change your life.

Before I met my husband, I was the type of person that liked to do the same thing every single day. I could eat the same foods every day, go to work at the same time and the same place every day, watch the same television shows every day, and much more was involved in my routine. I liked to stay in my lane and do what I expected myself to do.

Then, came my (now) husband, Austin, into my life. Austin is a spontaneous individual and likes to do activities on the whim.

Initially, we butted heads because I’d say no to most of his ideas.

For example, “Let’s drive down to the beach this weekend to watch the solar eclipse.” My response, “What? That’s not in our plan!”

I liked to have everything planned to perfection and exactly how I wanted it. This was selfish of me and looking back at that, I’ve definitely realized it.

Slowly over the years, he started to wear me down (in a positive way) to saying yes more often. Now, I’m never going to be as spontaneous as he is, but I’m a much more balanced individual now that I say yes to opportunities. Let me give you some personal examples. Recently I left my full-time marketing job to pursue fitness full-time because my husband asked me, “Are you as passionate about fitness as you say you are? Then why not teach

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fitness classes full time?” The old, more rigid Madison would have said, “No way, Jose!” Instead, I did just that! I left my marketing career in the dust and have been involved in the fitness industry full-time. Thankfully, I’ve recently accepted a full-time job at the YMCA as Engagement Director of Group Fitness. My passion has evolved into my full-time job. All because I said yes and didn’t immediately rule myself out.

Another great perk of me saying yes more often: I have more friends. I am busier with social activities because I try to say yes to several social outings each week. Hanging out with friends and connecting is important in my life and I’ve realized that my house doesn’t have to be 100% spotless for someone to come over. “Yes, you can come over!” “Yes, I will cook dinner for us!” True friends and family could care less if there is some dog hair on the floor that you didn’t have time to get up. Friendship is about experiencing life together!

It’s simpler to say no and give an excuse as to why you cannot do something. That’s easy. But is it fulfilling? It wasn’t for me. I’ve found that the more often I’ve said yes to things, the happier and happier and happier I’ve gotten. I actually even see the world with a positive filter on top. We are only in this world for a little while and might as well experience as much of it as we can.

I’m thankful to my husband for helping open my eyes to the phenomenon of “yes, ” and I’m also thankful that I can share the importance of yes in my life with you. Give it a try – say yes more often and see what happens!

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

INSULATION IS MORE THAN JUST PINK! Whether you plan to build or buy a home, remodel a room or seek ideas to expand your “green” footprint, we are all in the beginning stages of constructing our dreams. Each month, this column will invite you to look beyond the usual ideas and consider alternative cost-effective and eco-friendly options. With so many topics to explore, from top to bottom, room to room, inside and out, the goal of a vision is to take a firm step forward and begin living the dream.

We all desire a lifestyle of energy efficiency, especially when it applies to a lowered electric bill. Our solution often focuses on what is visible, such as the thermostat, drafty windows or doors, and types of window coverings. There are greater questions to analyze: • Does your home feel drafty in the winter?

• How long does your heating or cooling unit run?

Is it constantly?

of air. The higher the value, the greater the resistance. In North Carolina, we require R-38 to R-60 in our attics. On the attic floor, the recommended amount of insulation is a minimum of 13 inches. (One key tip: If you are using rolls of batting insulation, ensure the paper is facing outward to serve as a moisture barrier.

You can also staple sheets of plastic over the batting.)

• Do you battle dust?

Facts:

The solution is found in one location we rarely venture or even consider, the attic.

• Fiberglass batting now comprises 40% of recyclable materials, decreasing the amount of airborne fibers. (Yes, insulation is not just pink, but eco-friendly, and green!)

• Do you experience uneven temperatures between rooms or in the hallway?

SEALING LEAKS

Without the effort of sealing leaks in your attic, the tasks of laying insulation become futile. Wet insulation will create a larger problem than energy efficiency. If you have problems with drafts, uneven temperatures between rooms, and greater amounts of dust one level below your attic, begin searching for gaps or openings surrounding pipes, light fixtures, electrical wiring and outlets, heating and air conditioning ducts, vent stacks, and anything which can penetrate through the ceiling. You may need to remove existing insulation to check for holes or water damage.

• Large gaps: Try low-expansion polyurethane foam, which can plug openings 1/4-inch to 3-inches wide.

• Small gaps: Consider using a silicone caulk for openings less than 1/4-inches wide.

Facts: Sealing leaks can save 30% of energy costs.

THE “R” VALUE

All insulation works, essentially, the same way. Air is trapped in tiny pockets, slowing the movement of heat out of the home in winter and into the home during summer. The “R” value determines how effective the insulation will resist the movement

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• Cellulose comprises 85% of recycled materials and 15% of environmentally friendly fire retardants. Whether blown in dry or sprayed, the “R” value is higher in cellulose than fiberglass and comparable in cost.

• The highest performance is a low-density spray foam insulation.

In forming a lock-tight bond, the foam will never sag. In fact, the foam will offer strength and support to the structure.

Despite the initial expense, the advantages offer even lower heating and cooling costs.

RADIANT BARRIERS: ATTIC FOIL

The attic is truly a viable space that can be used for greater purposes than storage. If a radiant barrier were placed over the insulation, the sun’s intense rays would reflect 97% of radiant heat outward, and reduce cooling costs. These thin sheets of shiny aluminum bonded to a foam board or sheathing are not technically insulation, but they can be a beneficial barrier for our climate. Attic foil is easy to install to any new or existing home.

With this option available, you may discover the attic can both save you money, and provide a new room.

Next Month: The Benefits of a Basement

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Eli’s Pack & Ship:

Service Like It Used to Be

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Since 1990, owner Eli Bradley has made sure he went the extra mile to take care of his customers at Eli’s Pack & Ship. From his own experience, he knew the value a personal touch can have on a person.

This special quality has contributed to the long-running success of Eli’s Pack & Ship.

“After working at Sara Lee Corporation, I decided to bring the California business concept of a pack and ship to North Carolina. This concept was started by independent businesses and then it was copied

by UPS and FedEx. When I started Eli’s Pack & Ship, I was located in Thruway Shopping Center and stayed there for 26 years. While there, I branded and personalized the business through the name and services we provided. In addition, we have continued to take customers’ items from point A to point B and have always given the white glove treatment” said Bradley.

Currently, the company provides 24/7 mobile onsite service, nationwide shipping, a 24/7 notary, and a storage and conference meeting area space in Universal Storage Solutions.

However, one thing has changed for Eli’s Pack & Ship throughout the years – they no longer have a brick and mortar presence and are only online.

“The building became a huge expense and difficult to handle, so I decided to change my business model a little and incorporate more ways to give service like it used to be,” said Bradley.

According to Bradley, the company’s motto “service like it used to be” reflects the business service model of the 1950s. He began coming to customers’ homes for all of their packing, shipping, and moving needs.

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“I wanted to base the business on this service model, because back in the ‘50s, “Leave it to Beaver” era, people and businesses gave that personal touch. You had the milkman, doctors, and more come to you, instead of vice versa. Today, service has gone downhill, and you have to call 1-800- such and such and can’t talk to a person. I didn’t want that to happen, and wanted my customers to deal with people they know,” said Bradley.

To do this, Eli’s Pack & Ship is equipped with vehicles to transport items of all sizes.

The company has a moving truck for large moves, a van for standard moves, and a special truck for small moves. This truck is a design taken from the classic SSR truck, a vehicle Bradley has always admired. To find just the right one, Bradley enlisted the help of neighboring business, Flow Motors.

“I have known Don Flow, the owner of Flow Motors, for years. Our kids even went to school together. So, I knew he was the right guy to help me. We searched for over twelve years to find the exact truck. It is a rarity and hard to find. It ended up that a guy in Clemmons collected cars and had this vehicle in his garage that he wanted to get rid of. It turns out it was an SSR truck, and it was a perfect match,” said Bradley.

This triumphant search also enhanced the relationship between two local businesses. From the beginning of Eli’s Pack & Ship, Bradley recognized the

importance of staying local and businesses helping each other.

“I’m thankful and appreciate the gratitude several businesses in the area have given me. For example, all of my automobile service needs have been done by K & G Auto, printing needs by Nu Expression, BB&T gave me a display in their lobby for two weeks, we’ve used Polly’s Alterations, and more. B/E Aerospace also helped me with my training in corporate learning and expediting. I try to work with small businesses 99% of the time,” said Bradley.

Eli’s Pack & Ship is known for its personal and professional service and helping businesses throughout the community.

Bradley hopes more businesses will assist each other and bring back service like it used to be.

Visit Eli’s Pack & Ship online Yelp.com/biz/ elis-pack-and-shipwinston-salem. Call (336) 721-0596 or (336) 830-4044.

Be sure to follow them on Facebook.

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TOOTH FAIRY DIET (Or, What to Eat to Keep Your Teeth)

BY SHARON REID Having a sound nutritional strategy to maintain healthy teeth and gum tissue is essential for keeping teeth for a lifetime. What you eat and the vitamins and minerals that you take are key to keeping teeth and gums strong. Without teeth, you can’t chew…period. Just close your eyes and imagine your favorite meal and how delicious each bite tastes with every chew. Next, imagine having no teeth and experiencing the same meal. Not quite the same visual, is it?

You have to have strong teeth and gums to eat foods that are good for you, and you have to eat nutritional foods to have healthy teeth. You can’t have one without the other.

When your diet is not healthy, one of the first signs is a decline in your oral health. Whether we like it or not, we are what we eat. If a diet is high in processed foods, high in fat and high in sugar (think candy and soft drinks), the teeth will be much more susceptible to decay and the gums much more likely to have inflammation, which more often than not, will lead to periodontal disease over time.

The good news is that there are many delicious and nutritious options out there that will help fulfill the “double” duty of keeping both the teeth strong and the gums healthy. Here are a few that most of my patients find appetizing.

APPLES:

If you have a “sweet” tooth, this versatile fruit can satisfy that craving.

Apples are very high in fiber and water which is also very good for digestive health. When chewing, their fibrous texture produces extra saliva to rinse away bacteria and food particles.

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CRANBERRIES/BLUEBERRIES/ RASPBERRIES:

These plant foods are rich in anthocyanins (or water soluble pigments) which can prevent bacteria in the mouth from sticking to your teeth and gums to thwart tooth decay and gum issues.

ALMONDS:

Almonds are an excellent source of protein and calcium and are also low in sugar, which makes them great for teeth and gums.

CHEESE:

Seriously… who doesn’t love cheese? Now you have another reason to indulge in this tasty food.

Studies show that eating cheese changes the PH (the acid/base balance) in the mouth, making the mouth more alkaline, which lowers the incidence of tooth decay, plus it contains calcium and phosphorous which will strengthen enamel.

LEAFY GREENS:

These foods (especially spinach and kale) are high in calcium which fortifies tooth enamel. They also contain folic acid which promotes healthy gum tissue. The added benefit is that they are low in calories, so munch on!

YOGURT:

Most yogurts today advertise the benefit of probiotics or beneficial bacteria which is “good” for oral health because these “good” bacteria don’t allow the “bad” bacteria (that cause cavities and gum disease) to take control. They are also a great source of calcium and protein (just choose one with no added sugar).

These are just a few of many excellent sources for meals and snacks that will benefit your dental health and longevity. I hope these suggestions have given you something to chew on.

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Dara Kurtz:

Crush Cancer

BY VONDA HENDERSON

About the Author:

Dara Kurtz recalls vividly the day her life changed. She had cancer. In her words, “Cancer was brewing inside me.” She now segments her life into two categories: BC (before cancer) and AC (after cancer).

In her BC period, Dara was like many professional working women, juggling a full-time job and family, keeping up with everyone’s activities and not saving much time for herself. However, at age 42, she heard those dreaded words and had ‘a pause button moment.’

Now in her AC life, Dara considers herself a changed person. She has a more intense value for life, her family and friends, and the pursuit of the things she finds joyful. Although a financial advisor in the banking industry, she always dreamed of writing; she had written in her high school and college newspapers. She started her blog and began working on her first book, Crush Cancer. Going forward, Dara plans to write another nonfiction book, and has a novel concept under development.

Inspiration for Crush Cancer:

Inspiration may be an odd choice of words for Dara’s intent to write Crush Cancer, but for those in the thralls of treatment or in survivor mode, this book/workbook is a blessing. She’s chosen to share her cancer journey as a means of providing insight to anyone facing a cancer diagnosis covering any and all aspects of what to expect, with tips at the end of each chapter on dealing with them, plus a special tip section for friends and family (tribe tips).

About Crush Cancer:

Dara holds nothing back in sharing her cancer story, and therein is the value. Hearing from her first-hand experience what to expect is of value no matter which side of the equation you happen to be on (from her personal emotional roller coaster, telling family and friends, loss of hair, etc.). For instance, the flowers that she received in abundance were a source of stress to her daughters as they reminded them of funerals. In chapter 4, Dara provides a practical list of what to take to chemo treatments. Her words on waiting to go into chemo are food for thought, “It takes courage to sit outside a chemo room and wait for your name to be called.

I learned these people were soldiers on a battlefield about to go to war, and they were ready to fight.”

Each chapter in Crush Cancer documents a stage/segment of Dara’s cancer journey; the first section is her cancer story, the second is thriving after cancer. The accompanying workbook is designed to follow the chapters with prompts to document the reader’s personal insights. For those not comfortable with journaling, this workbook is a means to get some emotional baggage out in the open for personal reflection and possibly dialogue, and that’s a positive step to embrace on this or any other challenging life journey.

Where to find Dara Kurtz’ Book: Crush Cancer and its accompanying workbook were released in September 2017 and are available in softcover. Both are available on line via Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and other online book retailers. Crush Cancer,, excluding the workbook, is also available in digital format.

If you attended the recent Bookmarks Festival of Books and Authors, you may have heard Dara speak during one of the non-fiction author segments.

Dara is available for speaking engagements and enjoys interacting with her audiences.

Contact her via her website (crazyperfectlife. com) to request a media kit for more information on her availability and suggested topics.

Follow Dara on social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest) and check out her website (crazyperfectlife.com). Follow her blog, Crazy Perfect Life, which has 165,000+ followers and is still growing. Dara also has a monthly column in Forsyth Woman (Crazy Perfect Life); keep up with what she has going on in her life. She loves life and lives it enthusiastically! An excellent example for us all!

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Dance Psychology

BY BRITTANY ORIE

It’s no surprise that dancing can have astounding effects on our physical appearance. But what impact can dancing have on our minds and emotions?

Here’s a little bit of dance psychology for you:

DANCING HELPS RELAX & ENHANCE OUR MOOD.

Physical activity is highly suggested when we’re trying to alleviate stress. When we are physically active, our endorphins—a brain chemical that reduces stress and pain—begin to release and swim around in our brains and quickly elevate our mood. Here’s an interesting fact: dancing helps fight off depression more than aerobics or listening to music can. People who dance are often mentally calmer than those who don’t. So do you want to feel calmer and more stable? Dance!

DANCING IMPROVES MEMORY & COGNITIVE FUNCTIONING!

Because learning new dance steps stimulates the mind and keeps it active, dancing sharpens our cognitive functioning and memory. It also strengthens our muscle memory—meaning the more our bodies engage with the dance steps, the more fluid our movements are, because our muscles learn the dance moves by repetition. Because we move our limbs with zesty tunes, dancing helps our bodies and minds get accustomed to multitasking. Another fascinating thing about dance and memory involves the aging brain. Research shows that dancing often reduces the chances of mental diseases by 76 percent and that includes diseases such as dementia and Alzheimer’s (which are diseases that sometimes come with age)!

DANCING IMPROVES OUR SOCIAL SKILLS.

This happens for many reasons. For starters, if you take an exciting dance class with new people, more than likely, they will share some of the same or similar interests. It’s easy to start conversations with something like, “So what led you to take up African dancing?” The common ground is already established so you can build a conversation on dance.

Partner dancing is another way to quickly build social skills because we find a way to bond with other dancers. Watching television shows like Dancing With the Stars, we can see how dance partners build a deep connection—whether a close friendship or, sometimes, a romantic one. It’s difficult to not have a good connection with a dance partner, or those in our dance group (unless you just don’t like the other person, but we’re not going to talk about that!). Doing partner dancing, such as the tango, brings us outside our comfort zones and breaks down any social barriers between us and our partner. It’s also a great confidence builder for those who are timid.

Club dancing and contra (line) dancing benefits our minds and will socialize us in a fun way. This helps those who may have stage fright and abhor everyone looking at them. If others are doing the same dance with that person, she may loosen up, feel more confident, and forget that everyone is watching. Again, dancing releases endorphins and makes us joyful!

Lastly, improvisational group dancing socializes us by bonding us with other people; no words are even needed! Improvisational dance is when we create choreography on the spot. We simply marry our bodies to the music while letting our movements take the lead. When doing this in a group, we start to feed off other dancers’ energy and movements.

Sometimes we mirror their movements, make physical contact, and create shapes. While doing this, we form connections with other dancers, perhaps without even realizing it!

So if you don’t have dancing shoes, a leotard, hammer pants, or a lappa, go shopping and shimmy yourself to euphoria and confidence!

SOURCE: vivafifty.com, “The Mental and Emotional Benefits of Dancing”

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BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT It is amazing what just one person can accomplish with a little bit of dedication and determination. When Dr. Mike Barringer learned of the struggles of Haitian immigrants in the Dominican Republic during his medical mission work, he knew he could do more. These hard working people lived in villages with extremely poor housing and little medical care available.

After forming a relationship with a local church in a town called Barahona, he began taking a medical and surgical team annually. In 2006, a similar team of medical and surgical professionals formed in Winston-Salem with the goal of traveling to the area each February to make a difference. In 2011, a June team was added.

“Originally, the group from Shelby operated through a church, and our Winston-Salem group was an off-shoot,” said Kandace Thomason, Hands of Hope NC board member and active medical team member. “Later, as our team became established, we decided to form a 401c3, Hands of Hope NC (HOHNC). We felt this was more inclusive of our many medical volunteers of varying backgrounds. Hands of Hope NC is a non-profit NC-based medical team focused on providing free medical and surgical care to the people in and around Barahona, Dominican Republic. Each year, our team is composed of approximately 30 volunteers, including pharmacists, surgeons, nurses, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, nurse anesthetists, surgical technicians, medical doctors and other support staff. Generally, our team will see about 700 patients and provide approximately 2,200 free prescriptions during the week. In addition to volunteering nine days of his/ her time, each team member is responsible for paying his/her own way. The individual costs cover flights, in-country lodging, meals, translators, ground transportation, insurance and a portion of team supplies.”

Though each team member pays his or her own way, there are still massive costs associated with providing this care that the non-profit must cover.

“HOHNC must purchase thousands of dollars worth of medical supplies (sterile drapes, gowns, gloves, dressing material, anesthesia supplies, IV solutions, suture, etc.) and medications to be used while in the Dominican Republic,” said Thomason.

“This area of the country is extremely poor and unable to provide anything for our team to use.

The hospital does not even have blankets or gowns for the patients who are having surgery.

Another area that is a huge expense is shipping of supplies. On two occasions, we had to ship an entire anesthesia machine, which, at 700 pounds, is no cheap task!”

This is why HOHNC has partnered with others seeking to make a difference to hold a fundraiser at Medaloni Cellars. “We don’t like asking for money,” said Thomason. “Medaloni Cellars is a beautiful venue that is home to many fun events. Several of the team members have regularly attended these events, and we thought this would be a great place to host a fundraiser. A portion of wine sales will be donated directly to the mission. This is a family friendly event that will be held rain or shine; in case of inclement weather, it will be moved inside into the larger venue. No admission will be charged, but we will gladly accept donations! Gifts are tax deductible. There will be complimentary hors d’oeuvres, a taco truck, a cozy fire pit, comfortable seating, live music by The Tucker Niblock Clark Band, as well as a small silent auction and a fun photo booth. Medaloni has graciously agreed to donate $1 per glass of wine sold at the event!”

Additionally, members of the HOHNC team will be there to answer questions about the trips.

There will also be a short video available to showcase what goes on during these missions.

“February of 2018 will mark the 19th HOHNC team trip,” said Thomason. “I believe we have significantly impacted the healthcare of the Haitian immigrant population (and their descendants) in the southwestern area of the country. We have formed strong bonds in the community, as well.

In addition, each year we have medical students, nurse anesthetist students and surgery residents who are part of the team; they have an opportunity to strengthen their educational experience while giving back to others at the same time.”

The Hands of Hope NC fundraiser will be held at Medaloni Cellars on Saturday, November 4th from 1-5pm. Medaloni Cellars is located at 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. For more information, visit the Facebook page (@ HandsOfHopeNCMedicalTeam or facebook.com/ HandsOfHopeNCMedicalTeam). You can also learn more and make donations directly by visiting the website at handsofhopenc.org.

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Celebrating 10 Years

with the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce

PHOTO BY THE PORTRAIT GALLERY

BY DENISE HEIDEL

A chamber of commerce serves as a way for local businesses to network, collaborate, and further the individual interests of each participating organization. In Forsyth County, several chambers serve hundreds of local businesses, and for the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce, October marks a milestone: ten years of service and support to local entrepreneurs and businesses!

It began with an idea by John Byrd. A local businessman, John wanted to collaborate with other businesses, find commonality, and discover ways to support one another. He put the word out to garner interest, and the first meeting attracted 52 people. While the original focus was based on business in Lewisville, the chamber found their meeting spot at the Historic Broyhill in Clemmons, and embraced the name of the road that connects the two communities – Lewisville-Clemmons.

Within five years, the chamber membership grew to 160. While this was an auspicious beginning, the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber hit its stride in 2012 with the arrival of director Ginny Chase. Ginny has helped facilitate growth as well as streamlined operations, maximizing the overall experience for the chamber members.

With membership at 265+ and growing, the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce is thriving.

Monthly chamber meetings are the second Tuesday of each month and average 120 representatives per month. Each meeting offers a delicious catered lunch and educational speaker with topics designed to be informative and offer professional development opportunities.

In addition to the monthly chamber meetings, the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber has three active leads groups who meet regularly and offer smaller, focused networking opportunities. With those leads groups limiting the number of representatives per business type, a new Open Networking Event (O.N.E.) is now available on the last Friday of every month at Village Square Taphouse in Clemmons.

The signature event for the LewisvilleClemmons Chamber is the Annual Clemmons Community Day. This event, started by Jody Peske and John Bost in 2010, has become an anticipated community event, enjoyed by 1600+ people each spring. The 2017 event attracted over 150 vendors and gives local businesses an opportunity to meet their neighbors. Plus, since it’s a familyfriendly event, there’s something for everyone to enjoy!

“Some chambers get so large, it’s easy to get lost,” shared Ginny Chase. “We pride ourselves on our commitment to small business. The LewisvilleClemmons Chamber of Commerce is a perfect fit for small entrepreneurs. The membership fee is reasonably priced for any budget and opens the doors for network opportunities that may not be possible otherwise! While we do have many small businesses represented, we also have large businesses, franchises, and non-profits. We are very excited about our non-profit growth. Non-profit funding is cautiously spent, for obvious reasons. When you consider that 10% of our chamber members are non-profits, it speaks volumes to our ability to help organizations grow. They trust us to help meet that need, and after ten years, many of our charter members are still with us!”

There are many reasons why one would join a chamber, but joining during the peak of a milestone celebration seems an especially good time. In fact, there are $25 worth of good reasons why you SHOULD join this October! During their celebration month, the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber is waiving the $25 application fee for new members! This is a time of great energy and excitement for the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber and they are eager to welcome you! From monthly membership meetings, leads groups, ribbon cuttings, business after hours events, chamber ambassador programs, Clemmons Community Day, and more – the value and benefits can help make a business soar.

Learn more about the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce by visiting online at LewisvilleClemmons.com or call 336.970.5100. Be sure to “like” them on Facebook!

JOIN THE 10TH “DIAMOND” ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION OF THE LEWISVILLE-CLEMMONS CHAMBER OF COMMERCE! October 10, 2017 • 11:20 AM – 1 PM | Historic Broyhill | 3540 Clemmons Road • Clemmons $10 for lunch | RSVP by emailing Ginny Chase at LewisvilleClemmonsChamber@gmail.com The Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber is happy to welcome the current board as well as all former chamber presidents at this special anniversary luncheon! The luncheon will include networking, a highlight reel of the last ten years, and live music! This will be a celebration in every sense of the word!

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Rethinking Drinking:

5 Facts Every Woman Should Know

BY DEBBIE BARR

If you drink alcohol, you probably know the recommended guideline: no more than one drink per day for women and no more than two for men. The guideline is more stringent for women than for men because, as you might guess, women are more prone to alcohol-related problems.

But why is that? How are women impacted by alcohol so differently than men? The answers may surprise you.

Here are five facts that have some women rethinking drinking:

#1. IT’S ALL ABOUT WATER.

Specifically, it’s about the amount of water in the female body. When alcohol is consumed, it is dispersed throughout the water in the body.

The more water in a person’s body, the more the alcohol is diluted.

Women are at greater risk for alcohol-related problems simply because we are smaller than men and have less water in our bodies.

Thus, alcohol is more “full strength” when it reaches the female brain and organs. This also, unfortunately, means that women are exposed to more of the toxic by-products that are produced as the body breaks down alcohol.

#2. ALCOHOL INCREASES BREAST CANCER RISK.

If you or anyone in your family has had breast cancer, you should know that the link between breast cancer and alcohol is solid. Alcohol blocks the absorption of folate, a nutrient that is protective against breast cancer. On its website, the American Cancer Society states, “Drinking alcohol is clearly linked to an increased risk of developing breast cancer.”1 The text goes on to explain that women who adhere to the “one drink per day” guideline have only a very small increase in risk. For those who drink more, risk increases as the daily amount consumed increases.

According to the Harvard School of Public Health, 30% of alcohol-related breast cancers occur in women drinking less than 1.5 servings a day.

#3. ALCOHOL HARMS THE UNBORN.

If you are planning a pregnancy, stop drinking now. Alcohol is a teratogen, a substance known to harm a developing baby. It is not safe to drink any amount of alcohol at any time during pregnancy.

Drinking can increase the chances of premature birth, low birth weight, and miscarriage. Babies born to women who drink during pregnancy can have problems with hearing, vision, thinking, remembering, and behavior. More rarely, facial deformities, heart conditions, and mental retardation can result. (If you are pregnant and cannot stop drinking, seek help immediately. See resources below.)

#4. ALCOHOL WEAKENS THE IMMUNE SYSTEM.

Drinking makes the body more vulnerable to disease. Women who drink a significant amount of alcohol are more likely to get diseases like pneumonia and tuberculosis.

However, just one bout of drinking to the point of intoxication can increase the risk for illness. One study found that the body is less able to fight off infection for up to 24 hours after getting drunk.

#5. ALCOHOL IS A CARCINOGEN.

The International Agency for Research on Cancer, part of the World Health Organization (WHO), and the National Toxicology Program list alcoholic beverages as human carcinogens. A carcinogen is a substance that can lead to cancer. Because women absorb alcohol more slowly, it stays in our bodies longer, exposing us to carcinogens for a longer time. In addition to breast cancer, noted above, alcohol is linked to cancers of the mouth, throat, voice box, and esophagus, especially in smokers. Alcohol is also linked to colon cancer. Experts speculate that bacteria in the colon may convert alcohol to acetaldehyde, a chemical that damages the genetic material in cells.

On its website, the American Cancer Society reminds us, “...the amount of alcohol someone drinks over time... seems to be the most important factor in raising cancer risk.” This underscores the importance of the “one drink a day” rule for women.

1. “Lifestyle-related Breast Cancer Risk Factors,” cancer.org.

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ALCOHOL Q&A Q. HOW IS “ONE DRINK” DEFINED?

A. A drink is 14 grams of alcohol: a 12-ounce beer, a 5-ounce glass of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof distilled spirits.

Q. IS ALCOHOL ABUSE THE SAME AS ALCOHOLISM?

A. No. Alcohol abuse is a drinking-related pattern that is harmful to the drinker and/ or others, such as repeatedly missing work.

Alcoholism means that long-term drinking has actually changed the brain’s response to alcohol, giving the drinker a compulsive craving for alcohol that is similar to hunger for food. This dependency on alcohol is medically diagnosed as alcohol use disorder or AUD. In the US, 5.3 million women have AUD.

Q. WHERE CAN I GET HELP TO STOP DRINKING?

A. You can contact the Winston-Salem Area

Alcoholics Anonymous group via their website (w-saa.org) or by phone (336-725-6031). You can learn more on the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism website (niaaa.nih.gov) and the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence website (ncadd.org).

HANDS HOPE

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A MILLENNIALS’ GUIDE TO BUDGETING START AN EMERGENCY FUND & SAVINGS FOR RETIREMENT:

I’m a millennial. I was born in the early 1990s, and I am still learning about life as an adult.

For the past several years, I have been budgeting my money and keeping track of my savings and earnings. However, when you are starting out in life, it can be hard.

Budgeting is something I’m still learning, just like everyone else. Below are some budgeting tips for millennials, but they can be useful no matter how old you are.

MAKE YOUR OWN FOOD:

Yes, it can be time-saving to quickly grab your lunch or favorite drink out, but it isn’t money-saving. Instead, prepare your meals at home either the night before or in the morning. Also, consider preparing your meals for the week during the weekend.

Buy unperishable items in bulk and don’t let perishable items expire. Always plan out your meals before hitting the grocery store and stick to your list. Unnecessary items will soon add up, destroying your budget.

In addition, preparing your food at home will be healthier than stopping at a fastfood restaurant.

DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS:

With the world of social media, it can be hard to not compare our lifestyle with others.

You might see your friend going on a twoweek vacation to the Bahamas and think, “How did they afford that?” Rule of thumb: don’t compare your life to the lives of others.

Doing so will lead to unneeded spending.

Instead, live within your means and stick to your savings plan. In the long run, you’ll be happy you did.

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It can be tough to set aside money for the future when you are currently struggling financially. However, having an emergency fund helps prevent wiping out an entire month’s paycheck when something unexpected happens.

There are a few different ways to create an emergency fund. Start small by collecting your loose cash and change into a jar. Once you have a sizable amount, transfer it into a savings account. Then, continue with allotting an amount of your earnings to go towards the fund. Before you know it, you’ll have money for when emergencies strike. As for retirement, it’s never too early to start thinking about it. There are two avenues to help you begin investing: a 401(k) and an IRA account. A 401(k) is done through an employer. It allows a portion of your paycheck to be taken out before taxes.

Taxes are then paid when the money is withdrawn. Talk with your employer about what they offer in regards to retirement savings. As for an IRA account, it is an individual retirement account with many tax advantages. You can choose from either a traditional or Roth IRA.

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

USE TECHNOLOGY TO HELP BUDGET:

Speaking of social media, there are also advantages to using these sites, and technology in general. Make budgeting more organized and convenient with using free apps and websites. A few trustworthy apps are Personal Capital, Mint, LearnVest, and Level Money.

Personal Capital allows you to link all of your financial accounts into one place. It has tools to help you understand your cash flows, optimize investments, etc.

As for Mint, this app tracks all the activity from your bank, credit cards, loan, and investment accounts. In addition, you can create a budget with certain categories and receive notifications for bills when they are due.

LearnVest gives you the option to link your accounts and file purchases into category folders, as well as access to informational articles on managing your money. Lastly, Level Money provides a general overview of how much cash you have available for the day, week, and month.

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The term “credit card” can be scary for some. It can bring financial distress, but when used correctly it can build personal credit. You’ll need credit when renting an apartment, buying a car, and more. When looking into a credit card, do your research. Get one that has plenty of rewards and a low-interest rate, that way you can stay on track and pay it off sooner rather than later.

There is no perfect solution to budgeting, and there is no “one size fits all” method. Setting your financial path can be challenging, but when planned correctly and using the tips above, it will become easier.

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Crafting for a Cause

BY VONDA HENDERSON

“You can’t use up creativity – the more you use, the more you have.” ~Maya Angelou You’re a crafter. You must be working on a project (or two) all the time. You’ve made a scarf, hat, blanket, sweater, quilt, dress (fill in your craft specialty) for every relative and friend you care to name for all the major holidays. The list is exhausted, but you love to make crafts! What to do? Well, let’s turn our attention to crafting for a cause. There’s a vast need for handcrafted items for any number of organizations. Check out these opportunities for ways to continue to enjoy and share your crafting talents with those who could really use them. It’s a win-win all around.

Here goes!

CROCHET / KNITTING

CrochetForCancer.org – “Caring for others one stitch at a time.” The site includes how-to information on donating, with specific guidelines provided.

AllFreeKnitting.com – In addition to their all-inclusive knitting site, they have a knitting for charity section, which includes 30 free patterns.

RedHeart.com – This site includes a variety of crochet and knitting ideas, lists of organizations that need handcrafts, including the type of items and yarns recommended, plus patterns.

HandCraftingWithLove.net – The site includes agencies that need handmade crafts, links to other lists with additional information, and tips on finding local places to donate.

SEWING

Craftsy.com – Check the sewing blog – 6 ways to share your sewing

skills with those in need. Included are pillowcase dresses, walker caddies, and more.

QUILTING

Craftysy.com – Information on Quilts of Valor (quilts for returning military service people), Project Linus (for children in need), and more.

Quilting-in-America.com – check the topic list for quilting for charity (project listing included) with background history on the charity organization.

Blog.MissouriQuiltCo.com – The Cutting Table – Includes organizations that take handcrafted items with sizing suggestions.

GENERAL CRAFTING

Pinterest – 275 best crafts for charity and fundraising images.

This is a small sampling of websites available. To see more, just key your craft (such as knitting for charity), and more options will be available for you to research and select from.

LOCAL IDEAS

If you prefer to focus your craft on local organizations, review these opportunities: Ronald McDonald House (rmhws. org) has a need for knit/crochet blankets, preemie size in particular.

Contact them to confirm their current needs (plus check their wish list for non-crafted items).

Operation Christmas Child (Samaritanspurse.org) has a suggested listing of items to pack in OCC shoeboxes. Pillowcase dresses, scarves, mittens, and small stuffed animals are popular options.

Senior Services – Many local banks have donation dropoffs. If you happen to have a surplus of scarves, etc., bag them up for a good cause.

Forsyth Piecers & Quilters Guild (forsythquilters.org) has several donation projects (Quilts of Valor, Preemie Blankets, Nap Blankets) on a regular basis. Plus it’s a fun way to enjoy your craft.

Sewingly Yours (sewinglyyours.net) also has charity projects for those interested (baby quilts for Brenner Children’s Hospital).

Check their calendar of activities on their website.

Ask the teachers in your family or circle of friends if they could use some of your leftover craft supplies. A little imagination can turn fabric or yarn into a piece of art in no time.

As crafters, we enjoy what we make and get pleasure from sharing our craft with others. Visit some of these sites or call some local agencies to inquire about donating. You’ll get the fun of making something, and someone else will get the benefit from your labor of love.

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At Home Pumpkin Spice Latte It’s here! The Pumpkin Spice Latte, or PSL, the fall staple that everyone seems to love to hate! ‘Tis the season for this festive and seasonal latte but if you want to make your own at home, we have your back!

One advantage of making your own PSL is having the peace of mind that this version has actual pumpkin and does not require a fancy espresso machine, not to mention it can spare you a few bucks and a wait in the drive thru line. So, go ahead, make this year-round if you like! And don’t forget the whipped cream.

• 1 ½ tablespoons sugar • 2 tablespoons pumpkin puree • ½ teaspoon pumpkin pie spice • ½ cup (4 ounces) strongly brewed coffee • ½ cup (4 ounces) milk – I recommend 2% or more

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No MoreViolence

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According to National Coalition against domestic violence, on average, nearly twenty people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year this would equate to more than ten million women and men. One in three women and one in four men experience intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner sexual violence and / or intimate partner stalking in their lifetime.

Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion or nationality. It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a function of a systemic pattern of dominance and control.

SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Victims of domestic violence are often anxious, depressed, have frequent injuries or make claims of “accidents,” and have inconsistent attendance at work, school, or other social activities. Other signs include excessive clothing or accessories to hide signs of physical abuse, low self-esteem or self-worth, personality changes, and limited access to friends, family, transportation or money.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF ABUSE

We often think of just the physical abuse which includes biting, scratching, slapping, punching, kicking, stomping or throwing objects. There is sexual abuse which includes sex on demand, withholding sex, physical assault during sex and non-consensual sex. Emotional abuse consists of name calling, withholding approval or affection or playing mind games. Mental abuse often involves confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation and intimidation. Economic abuse is where an abuser prevents their partner from getting or keeping a job, or possibly withholding funds. Abuse also includes using isolation by limiting outside involvement or restricting use of a vehicle. Using intimidation as a type of abuse often involves destroying property, displaying weapons, threatening to take children away, making a partner feel guilty about their children or using children to relay messages.

REASONS VICTIMS STAY

People are quick to say and wonder why the abused partner stays in the abusive relationship. Some reasons victims stay are:

Love. Abusers have loving moments that give

victims hope that things will change.

Finances. They feel that if they leave they will have no way to support themselves and

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their children. If the victim is a stay-at-home mom, an abusive marriage seems better than the idea of leaving with nowhere to go and no money to take with them.

Religious beliefs. Some victims feel divorce goes against their beliefs and against the church.

Low self-esteem. Victims feel they deserve the violence.

Fear. Afraid they will never find anyone else.

Faith. May not have enough faith in themselves that they would survive on their own.

Children. Abuser threatens to take

kids away.

Death threats. Abuser threatens to kill them and children if they try to leave Shame. Victim feels responsible for abuse and feels he or she has failed in some way.

Shame may keep victims from asking for help or talking to others about what is happening.

BY BERTHA SANCHEZ

• Refer victims to available community resources.

• Let victim know and state clearly that no one deserves to be beaten or abused.

• Provide education to peers / public to increase awareness of domestic violence.

By reaching out to victims of domestic violence, we can help them become a survivor. Some of the emotions victims of domestic violence may experience include: anger, fatigue, depression, isolation, feeling shattered, fear, weakness or sadness.

Providing love and support to victims of abuse can help them turn shattered into restored, scared into courageous, sad into happy, weak into strong. Thanks for allowing me to bring attention and continued awareness to domestic violence. I would like to conclude this article with a quote from Mariska Hargitay founder of Joyful Heart, an organization that works toward a world free of sexual abuse, domestic violence and child abuse. “It’s simple physics; the greater number of people willing to lift, the lighter the load that each individual must carry.”

Isolation. The abuser threatens the victim and the abuser’s need for control can cause the victim to believe she has been cut off from the community, friends and family. The abuser becomes her only support system.

Domestic Violence can cause a victim multiple problems and impact a victim’s life in many ways. Effects of domestic violence include but are not limited to: low self-esteem, substance abuse, psychological stress, emotional stress, physical stress, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, suicidality, heart disease, hypertension, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

We, as healthcare workers, friends, coworkers, family, neighbors, human beings, can reach out and help victims of domestic violence by giving and promoting encouragement, education, and empowerment. Things we can offer a victim of domestic violence are: • Listen and provide therapeutic support.

• Be patient, non-judgmental and respectful of their decisions.

Be sensitive.

• Be aware of signs and symptoms of abuse.

• In the healthcare setting, do routine domestic violence screenings.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR Did you know October is National Pizza Month? This yummy food was given its own month back in 1984 by the founder of Pizza Today magazine, Gerry Durnell. Durnell chose October as the month to recognize the famous Italian pie because the first issue of his magazine was to debut in that same month and year. As a pizzeria owner in Santa Claus, Indiana, Durnell noticed there was little public information on the pizza industry and in return, he created a national pizza-oriented magazine and national pizza month. Today, pizzerias throughout the country celebrate the delicious flatbread topped with tomatoes, cheese, meats, and veggies. However, people’s love for pizza goes back to the food’s creation in Naples, Italy in the 1700s.

HISTORY OF PIZZA

The word “pizza” was first recorded in a Latin manuscript from Central Italy in the 10th century. Modern pizza, the types we know today, were created in Naples during the 1700s and 1800s. According to Carol Helstosky, author of “Pizza: A Global History,” during this time Naples was a waterfront city known for the working poor. Due to their lifestyle and occupations, the Neapolitans (citizens of Naples) needed food that was inexpensive and could be consumed quickly. The idea for pizza came about and was sold by street vendors and informal restaurants. The earliest form of pizza is Jeyoun, which takes the traditional style of pizza and adds ingredients to the dough.

As for toppings, they included tomatoes, cheese, oil, anchovies, and garlic.

There are three common types of Neapolitan pizzas. The first is the more traditional Pizza Marinara. This type has tomatoes, garlic, oregano, and olive oil. Then, there is Pizza Margherita, which has tomatoes, mozzarella, basil, and olive oil.

Legend has it that this pizza

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was created around 1889 when King Umberto I and Queen Margherita visited Naples. During their visit, they wanted a variety of pizza from the city’s Pizzeria Brandi. Their favorite type was the pizza mozzarella, a flatbread topped with cheese, tomatoes, and basil. This pie then became known as Pizza Margherita, after the Queen herself. Lastly, there is Pizza Margherita Extra with tomatoes, mozzarella from Campania, basil, and olive oil.

Italian immigrants brought pizza to the United States. Opening in 1905, Lombardi’s in Manhattan was the nation’s first pizzeria.

The famous pie was also introduced after World War II when soldiers from the Italian Campaign came home. For example, Ira Nevin served in Naples and came back from war with pizza ideas. His family was in the oven business in New York, and once home, Nevin invented the first gas-fired, ceramic deck pizza oven. Thanks to his invention, pizzerias and pizza spread throughout the country.

Currently, there are several different types of pizzas and pizza restaurants, and chains are familiar sites in every city. Everyone has their own favorite piece of pie, and there is much debate as to which type is the best.

TYPES OF PIZZA

As for me, I am a little boring when it comes to my favorite type of pizza. I prefer all cheese, hand-tossed pizza and nothing else. However, there are many different toppings you can add and different crust thicknesses. Different types of pizzas include the Chicago deep-dish, New York style, the Sicilian, Greek pizza, and California pizza. Others include the Hawaiian Barbeque Chicken, veggie, and seafood. All are unique in their own way and have either thick or thin crust. You can really put anything you want on pizza as a topping. Some common ingredients are cheese, beef, pepperoni, anchovies, onions, garlic, pineapple, peppers, spinach, black olives, chicken, and ham. You can garnish your pizza with varieties of sauces, such as pesto, béchamel (a white sauce), barbeque, tomato, and salsa.

When it comes to pizza, the choices are endless. As a matter of fact, thanks to the loving nature of this Italian pie, about thirteen percent of the U.S. population eats pizza every day. Sounds like it might be time to get me a slice!

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A CHINESE EDUCATIONAL TOUR GUIDE

BY MALLORY HARMON

Chen Chong, known by her American tour groups as Mary, waited patiently in the hotel lobby, yellow stuffed-animal duck in hand.

Mary was in Beijing, the bustling capital of China, preparing herself for day two of what would be a week long adventure in her home country.

When all 19 members of her group had assembled before her, already dressed and fed with a delicious authentic Chinese meal, she began the day with warm greetings and by escorting them outside to locate their tour bus.

The day was warm with a thick, moist humidity to boot. Mary had anticipated her tour group’s discomfort and had brought along a large silk Chinese fan for each of them.

Mary’s tour group contained five high schoolers from North Carolina and their leader, along with ten middle school boys from Texas accompanied by three leaders of their own.

When all of her charges were seated on the bus, Mary picked up the microphone, plugged in at the front and called ‘Ni hao.’

The group called a discordant but enthusiastic ‘Ni hao’ back.

“Your Chinese is very good!” Mary assured her guests. They smiled, and some of the boys repeated the words tasting their unfamiliar inflections. Mary laughed. “Yes,” she said and began to explain the agenda for the day.

Their first stop was to the Temple of Heaven.

On the bus ride over, Mary told of the custom of students in Beijing to travel home during the holidays. “The city is very crowded, so it is very hard to purchase a train ticket home. So, during the holidays, when they greet someone, instead of the customary ‘Ni Hao’ (hello) or ‘Chile ma’ (have you eaten) they say ‘Have you gotten a ticket?’” She tittered at the amused expressions and with a final, “Yes,” assured them it was true.

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She held her yellow duck, perched atop its metal pointer, high, as a soft breeze, whispered of oncoming rain. They wound their way through the tree-punctuated temple courtyard until Mary greeted, in Mandarin, the Tai Chi master who stood waiting for them. Mary watched as her group took a 45-minute lesson in traditional Tai Chi, occasionally translating the instructor’s commands.

After the lesson, Mary directed the tour group to a section of the courtyard where a gathering of retired Chinese locals was playing hacky sack or else guarding laminated slips of paper displayed on the ground in front of them.

Mary stopped walking and beckoned her group to gather around her. “As you can see, many retired parents or grandparents will come to this courtyard with their children’s resumes during the day.” She indicated a nearby piece of paper. “The resume will tell about the son or daughter’s education, personality, and even health. The adults will walk around the courtyard reading the resumes, and they will set up dates for their children.”

Mary looked around at the faces of the American group; they looked bewildered and surprised at such a method of socialization, and she smiled to herself, knowing what reaction the next bit of information she was going to give would cause.

“In America, you might ask if someone is single or married, but here in China, people ask if someone has ‘solved their personal problem.’”

Sure enough, the group gasped, and some laughed in surprise. She then allowed them to wander among the resumes and soon many of the children began playing hacky sack with a group of the elderly folks.

After touring the Temple of Heaven, the tour group crowded back onto the bus and Mary directed the driver to take them to Tiananmen Square.

As they crossed the street toward the square, a troop of soldiers in pressed, green uniforms marched past, their young faces focused ahead and their gait disciplined. Mary let her group explore Tiananmen Square, reminding herself to explain to them the reason why many of the Chinese tourists asked to take pictures with the Americans. It was due to their fair skin, a trait considered highly attractive in China.

They entered the Forbidden City under the enormous portrait of Communist leader Mao. Once inside, Mary explained about the concubines of the emperors of old. The girls would be chosen between ages 12 and 17 and would live out their lives in the Forbidden City with no contact with the outside world. She also told them about a prime minister who disapproved of the next heir to China. When the Emperor died, the prime minister altered his Will, so it demanded that the firstborn son commit suicide. Such was the importance of respect for and obedience to authority during those days that the firstborn obeyed and his brother became Emperor.

As she got to know her group, she looked forward to seeing her husband again. Her husband of only a few years would be eagerly awaiting her return home. Mary directed her tour with excellent language skills and social experience through China for the rest of the day and following week, endearing herself to the group with her jokes, sweet mannerisms, and patient explanations of Chinese culture.

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IT SOLUTIONS TIMES TWO!

BY MARTIE EMORY

If your small business uses a mix of Apple and Microsoft operating systems, you already know the challenge of solving an issue when something goes wrong – and often the inconvenience of having to call in two support teams.

Why would you want anyone in your corner other than a true team of professionals in both platforms?

Founded by Robert Phelps, who started Triad Mac in 2012, Creative IT in Kernersville fills a much-needed niche for companies in the Triad who need expert support for both Apple and Microsoft products. If your business often needs experts and quality care in both, get to know the technology team at Creative IT, and see why their present customers know they are in good hands. Robert and his well-qualified staff know your IT support folks absolutely have to be honest and reliable, as well as fully trained in their craft, and Creative IT is the only company in the Triad with experts immediately available in both operating systems.

“With not only experts in both technologies – but with two teams who work closely together – we solve issues every day for companies who run into problems because they run Macs and PCs together in one environment,” says Robert.

Their “team” concept is based on hiring individuals with proven expertise in their respective fields. Given that technology is constantly changing course, no one can be proficient in every single area, and it’s important to know the IT support group you call isn’t guessing at a viable solution. Besides Robert, the fivemember staff includes the Apple team of systems engineer, Josh Spencer, and engineer, Marc Helke, along with the Microsoft team of systems engineer, Wes Edens, and engineer, David Pataky.

Kernersville has proven to be an ideal location for Creative IT, being centrally positioned to reach clients quickly, something

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These guys are your go-to for support services for servers, networks, Macs, and Windows-supported desktops. Online (visit their website at creativeit.com), these friendly experts provide a substantial amount of remote support, with an average of a five-minute response time for clients in a time crunch, when their business needs answers fast. Their commitment to not keeping clients waiting is a serious one, and many support requests can be performed remotely with their secure management tools.

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W OAM T EC

BY KELLY DIXON

The business networking group, Women on a Mission to Earn Commission has brought together successful business professionals here in Winston-Salem for the last six years.

The local chapter, part of a larger, national organization known as WOAMTEC, has a simple mission — to provide a stressfree, social networking opportunity for women who are interested in growing their businesses and increasing their bottom lines.

WOAMTEC Winston-Salem meets twice monthly for lunch and a brief meeting at Bleu Restaurant, but members can also enjoy conferences and networking with women all over the country. Additionally, members have access to the WOAMTEC online directory, giving them an instant connection with more than a thousand other professional women across the country who stand at the ready to help out with branding, marketing, and advertising ideas.

WOAMTEC is not just for commissioned sales reps, but business owners and other professionals who are seeking to increase the overall sales revenue of their businesses.

The national WOAMTEC organization is led

by CEO and president KiKi Koymarianos, a Broker Associate Realtor with Keller Williams Realty, who is licensed in Texas and Florida. Closer to home, however, WOAMTEC Winston-Salem is currently led

by Robyn Chavis.

The Winston-Salem chapter was started by Gina Mounce in 2011 as a way of finding other women who shared her passion for business and who also wanted to network and grow their businesses. Chavis took over as Executive Director in August 2017.

Chavis, formerly known as Robyn Tatum in the marketplace, brings to the organization a wealth of knowledge from the advertising, marketing, sales and ministry arenas. Robyn has worked with several regional media companies as a former Fox 8 account executive, and also in the radio industry with Truth Broadcasting.

A highlight of her career – starting her own radio-ministry talk show – came while working with Majic 99.9 FM based in Lexington, NC. A Voice to be Heard was birthed out of her own traumatic life story. “I knew the Holy Spirit placed on my heart the idea that regular people had amazing stories that needed to be told and a talk show could allow them to do that,” said Robyn.

Robyn’s instincts were correct and she, herself, had an incredible story to tell.

Confident, attractive, well-dressed— Chavis’s outward appearance on business calls and at WOAMTEC gatherings did

not match the turmoil she was feeling on the inside. She was hurting, angry, afraid – and homeless. Yes, Robyn had become the new face of homelessness, for women in Winston-Salem and the surrounding Triad area.

“It was never a situation that I expected to find myself in,” Robyn said. “I was hardworking and educated, but financially devastated after a mortgage gone bad.

I was living month-to-month and was eventually forced out from the home I’d bought myself and my youngest daughter nine years earlier. I had nowhere apparent place to go.”

Tapping into her strong faith, Robyn prayerfully considered her options and was led to an amazing temporary situation through a pastor she’d met on a business call. Robyn, with the help of the pastor who owned a business inside a local hotel in Winston-Salem, was handed two keys – one for her and one for her young adult daughter who, at the time was in school and a ministry program in Charlotte NC. While living in the hotel, Robyn says she was treated like ROYALTY. But she also learned that God had a sense of humor.

She eventually found out the hotel she was living in was also in foreclosure.

After six months, Robyn was back on her feet, but God had birthed a vision inside her: to help the hurting. From that vision, the Trinity House of Refuge, a home for local women facing similar traumatic life situations, was born. Robyn is currently seeking 501c-3 non-profit status for her ministry, and plans to eventually own several homes that would house women and children who are homeless due to crises beyond their control.

Robyn faithfully attends BSF (Bible Study Fellowship) an international Bible study held locally in Winston-Salem. She is also certified through Abundant Life Ministries as a Leadership Coach, Chaplin, Substance Abuse Counselor and Biblical Counselor.

Robyn is certified through TRIUNE coaching as a Life Coach.

Robyn just recently launched Chavis Coaching and Consulting Group. You can meet Robyn and the WOAMTEC WinstonSalem group the first and third Thursday of each month from 11:30 am until 1:00 pm at Bleu Restaurant and Bar, 3425 Frontis Street in Winston-Salem. WOAMTEC is always looking to grow and expand. If you are interested in networking or starting a chapter in another city, please email Robyn at ladydvn@gmail.com or come join the group for lunch. WOAMTEC is also always looking for a few good men.

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Falling into the Wrong Relationship

BY OMAR & CHRISTIE Have you ever fallen for somebody that appears to be perfect for you in every way, except for that one characteristic that you view as a “deal breaker flaw”? If not you, then maybe a friend of yours has fallen into the wrong relationship? Let’s talk about some potential flaws that might signal a challenging relationship. Your new love interest might be handsome, smart and funny, but cheap. Or maybe he enjoys a fulfilling career, dances like Fred Astaire, but smokes and you don’t.

Or curses and you don’t. Or has debt, and you don’t. Or hates to exercise and you love it. Some Republicans might say that being a Democrat could count as a relationship deal breaker or vice versa. And at this time of year, what if your new love interest would rather be in a relationship with the quarterback of his favorite football team, and you don’t like threesomes? Whatever the red flag might look like, almost all of us have fallen for the wrong person at least once in our dating journey. So why do we fall, knowing it is a risky chance to take?

Some of us may think we are miracle workers and try to change an undesirable characteristic into something more acceptable. This hardly ever works and can become a problem later in the relationship when the behavior doesn’t change. This can lead to resentment and anger and a more difficult breakup once both parties are at the end of their ropes. While not impossible for adults to change, it sure is hard. Another reason for falling into the wrong relationship could be a sense of edgy adventure with a “bad boy” who provides a break from an otherwise normal dating routine.

A bad boy could be described as someone who doesn’t have classic good looks, but who is attractive in a rugged, Johnny Depp way. He looks hot, but there are red flags tattooed all over him (so to speak). He won’t open your car door, but he’ll show you a good time on the back of his Harley. Typically, these bad boy adventures are short lived and not what women desire for a long-term relationship.

For some women, falling into a bad relationship is better than being alone. Both men and women sometimes fear growing old alone, without a partner, and being by themselves in their twilight years, or in any year. They may dread eating alone, sleeping alone, sitting in church alone, showing up solo to a party,

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or being the fifth wheel at events where all of their friends are in relationships. Almost everything is more enjoyable when shared with someone special, so it is understandable that people stay in relationships that are less than perfect. Sleeping with someone who may not be their ideal partner, sure beats sleeping with their Rottweiler.

In some cases, finding a partner who is sexually available takes priority over recognizing any red flags. And if the sex is good, that makes it even harder to see obstacles to a long-term

relationship. This probably goes hand in hand with feeling alone, sleeping alone, and craving physical attention from a companion. It’s human nature to desire love, in whatever form it is offered.

Partners with red flags can provide entertainment, excitement, and a break from the norm. While this might be fun short-term, like a roller coaster ride at the fair, this type of relationship may not be healthy, practical, or stable in the long run. But who ever said that roller coasters were healthy?

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BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT There are many after-school programs to choose from in our area, but some are certainly better than others.

Working parents want their children to get the most out of an after-school program, so it is great to find a place that combines learning and physical activity for active students. GRIT is that place. Standing for Game Ready Intense Training, GRIT opened in 2016 when Owner Jason Culler decided to fulfill his dream of combining his baseball coaching experience with his love for the sport itself.

He quickly realized that an afterschool program would be a fantastic addition to his business, and his team of experts made that possible. “The GRIT Performance after-school program was started last winter with the vision that this is a one-stop shop for kids to come and get their homework done (tutor supervised), cross training and baseball (hitting, pitching, catching) in

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The after-school program includes training in speed and agility, strength, hitting and pitching, recreation and tutoring – all for just $75 per week. GRIT also takes into account that working parents typically can not pick up their children until after 5pm, when most afterschool programs end for the day. “As a working parent myself and having kids in extracurricular activities, it’s hard to get off work at 5pm to get them picked up from their after-school program and to practice/lessons on time while driving through some fast food place to get it all in,” said Culler. “At GRIT, we offer a onestop shop for parents of young athletes who strive to better their game.”

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Quickly outgrowing that entry-level position, her dedication, attention to detail, and focus on customer service earned her a recent promotion to executive operations assistant. Now, Delonica supports the company’s chief operating officer and the management team. Delonica attended NC A&T State University and UNC Greensboro, and her previous career positions were in retail, promoting the Michael Kors brand and overseeing sales of high-end fragrances in Cary area stores. Her personal interests include writing poetry and short stories, creating collage crafts, and scrapbooking. She, her husband of seven years, and their two sons are enjoying discovering all that the Triad area offers. Delonica is adept at mirroring her family roles within the community. “As a mother, I have learned to resolve conflict and use critical thinking skills that I incorporate in my daily life,” she explains. “As a wife, I have learned to compromise and show empathy, characteristics that enhance interactions with others.

As a daughter, sister, and aunt, I have learned the importance of laughter, the selflessness of giving, and the ability to love – all of which help me enjoy the diverse world we live in.”

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Knocking on Wood Since When…?

BY BRITTANY ORIE

Many of us hear about the following superstitions growing up. Some of us may have actually believed them. But how often do we stop to think how these superstitions floated to the surface? Here’s the historical scoop!

Black cats are known to leak bad luck

when they cross our paths, but why does the mere color of their fur evoke such superstition? Essentially, it began back in the Middle Ages, also known as the Dark Ages because there was a strong lack of knowledge in nature and

spirituality. People living in this time period were highly superstitious (especially in Europe) and believed that black cats were a symbol and warning of death. They also believed that witches shapeshifted into black cats to spy on people and cause misfortunes to spew all over. Later on, black cat superstition traveled with the earliest settlers of the United States. New England primarily possessed the belief that black cats were bad luck and it eventually traveled throughout the nation.

Walking under ladders supposedly invites

misfortune in our lives but for a few different reasons. One belief stems from the medieval times where the gallows was being used often.

If you’ve seen a gallows, you’ve probably noticed a ladder leaning on it. Perhaps this conditioned many superstitious people into believing something unfavorable will happen to them if they walked under a ladder. Another belief comes from ancient Egypt where a ladder leaning against a wall resembled the sacred pyramids. So if one walked under a ladder— symbolically walking through a pyramid—it’s believed that the special pyramid powers are disrupted.

Finally, walking under ladders was deemed unfortunate because of Christian beliefs.

A ladder leaning against a wall resembled a triangle. Three was believed to be a holy number because of the Trinity— the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. So the act of walking under a ladder was actually believed to be blasphemous and invite misfortune in one’s life.

Breaking mirrors are

said to cause misfortune because of an ancient myth claiming that mirrors have magical powers, such as foresight into the future, and that

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they were also linked to the heavens. So if one broke a mirror, he or she would be stained with misfortunes unless it was somehow reversed. “Seven years” of bad luck came from the ancient Roman idea that it took seven years for one’s whole body and life to be restored. The curse of the broken mirror was believed to end after a seven year period.

Stepping on cracks in the pavement originated back in the late 1800s and early 1900s where racism roared through the country. Interracial marriages were shunned at the time so ‘stepping on a crack’ made it likely that a non-black person would marry a black person and have a black child. It’s not entirely known how the rhyme, “step on a crack, break your momma’s back,” originated – perhaps it was tossed around just for a little crude humor.

Knocking on wood has been around since the 1800s, and there was a pagan culture called the Celts who believed that spirits and gods lived in trees. They would knock on trees to channel and rouse these spirits to bring good fortune among them. They would also knock to ward bad luck off. This origin may have brought further superstitious beliefs when people would knock on trees to chase away evil spirits or keep them from hearing about the good luck that people would boast about (in an attempt to keep evil spirits from spoiling any good luck).

Spilling salt became a superstition back in ancient times when it was a hot commodity. Salt used to be preserved for special occasions, early rituals and practices. It was believed to be a magical substance. It was very expensive at the time so spilling it, even accidentally, was considered wasteful. Interestingly, in DaVinci’s The Last Supper, Judas, Jesus’ traitor, is seen spilling the salt! So that serves as another connection as to why spilling salt is so unfortunate.

Now that we have a clearer understanding of where superstitions originate, it’s important to know that luck only exists in our minds and not around us. Only we decide what to believe.

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HOW TO TAILGATE THE HEALTHY WAY

BY MADISON SKAKLE

We’ve all tailgated before, and we’ve all come home bloated and regretting some of our food choices. Surprisingly, there are tons of ways to eat healthy at a tailgate and still have a good time!

I’m like you – I love a good tailgate and actually have been known to only tailgate and go home to watch the game on my television. To be honest, I’m not much of a football lover (shh…don’t tell anyone), I’m more into the tailgating part. If you are like me and love to tailgate but also want to make healthy choices, here are several ways to do just that.

1. SET A GOAL AHEAD OF TIME & STICK TO IT.

2. REMEMBER THAT TAILGATING ISN’T ALL ABOUT THE FOOD.

3. DRINK MORE WATER.

How many times have you gone to a tailgate before and said, “I’m not going to pig out this time!”? I’ve said that before, and I end up eating my fair share of junk food. Make a concrete goal ahead of time instead! For example, “I am only going to have one drink today and not eat any fried foods (bye bye, Bojangles fried chicken).” Setting a goal puts it in your mind, and you are more likely to stick to it if it’s a specific goal.

Yes, tailgates do have tons of delicious food, and that’s usually the centerpiece of the celebration. However, tailgating is about friendships and connecting with each other over a shared love for a sports team. Put more emphasis on having a good time with conversations and games instead of hovering over your plate.

In general, the more water you drink, the fuller you are. Sometimes we mistake dehydration for hunger. For every nonwater drink you enjoy, make sure you drink 12 ounces of delicious H20. Yes, this may mean heading to the port-ajohns more often, but that’s okay. Just make sure you have extra hand sanitizer!

4. EAT AHEAD OF TIME. Don’t starve yourself all day to prep for a tailgate. You end up gorging on thousands of calories at the tailgate when you have not eaten all day. Eat a healthy meal ahead of time, so you don’t show up hungry. Make sure your meal before the tailgate is well balanced with protein, fat, and carbs. If I am going to an afternoon tailgate that starts at noon, I like to have a hearty breakfast of scrambled eggs, a piece of peanut butter toast and an apple.

Then, I’m full for hours and don’t inhale the tailgate food like it’s going out of style.

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5. EAT HEALTHY AT THE TAILGATE TO SAVE UP FOR ONE TREAT. Identify what you do want to indulge in and have one serving of that. For me, that’s always a cheesy dip.

I try to eat as healthy as possible but then really savor my cheesy dip for my splurge.

6. WHAT DO I ACTUALLY EAT?

7. PLAY GAMES!

Identify the non-fried and non-cheesy foods at a tailgate and gravitate towards those. Offer to bring a healthy side to the host of the tailgate! I usually bring hummus and vegetables because most people love that and it’s a healthy option for me.

Fruit skewers drizzled in honey is a great option and is refreshing during the warmer tailgate months. Chili is another healthy option if not loaded with cheesy toppings.

Try not to stand around and hover over the buffet at your tailgate. Step away from the buffet and play games! If you’re congregated over the food, you will likely eat more. Examples of games to play: throw a football or baseball, participate in corn hole or engage in redneck golf.

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Building Friendship in Marriage through Communication

BY TABATHA RENEGER

“I love you.”

“I love you, too.”

Those just might be the seven most hoped for, yearned for, worried about, sought after, and dreamed about words in the English language. And for those of us in a committed relationship, we’ve reached a point where they come pretty easy. But when was the last time you looked your significant other deep in the eyes and said, from the bottom of your heart: “I like you!”

Or “I am so glad we’re friends.”

It’s probably been a while right? Or maybe it’s been since, well…. Never. We are all so busy trying to find our soul mates and the loves-ofour-lives that we lose sight of the friendship that almost certainly started the loving relationship that you and your spouse are in now. So how can we nurture that friendship now that we’re so deep into this love thing?

And why is it important?

Every expert under the sun will tell you that friendship is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. Not money, not success, not having cute kids together, not even sex…. Friendship!

Being friends with a spouse has proven time and again to be the main characteristic of happy, lasting marriages. Keeping that friendship solid depends on many factors – kindness, patience, etc. However, I think the common denominator to all of those feelings is one BIG thing:

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COMMUNICATION The daily exchanges that you and your husband or wife are having may or may not count as actual communication. “I’m picking up the dry cleaning after work and then running Sarah to field hockey practice – there’s leftovers in the fridge,” does not count as effective communication. Let’s look at some steps that you both can take to ensure that your marriage is infused with the kind of communication that will sustain the cherished friendship with the person you married.

1. SPEND TIME TOGETHER TALKING EVERY DAY Not about the bills, grocery lists or recent car troubles but about each other and what’s happening in your lives. How does she feel about being passed over for that promotion at work? Does he need to talk about his concerns for an aging parent? Turn off technology and let your spouse share what he’s feeling and listen… really, really listen. Ideally, you should carve out 20-30 minutes for this daily.

2. BE SPECIFIC WHEN ISSUES ARISE Let’s face it, even in the closest friendships conflicts will appear. Do your best to avoid sweeping generalizations that make your partner feel targeted. “You never make dinner!” is too broad and accusatory and won’t start a healthy dialogue. Instead, try “I would be grateful if we could take turns making dinner or if you could make the salad while I prepare the chicken.” It’s hard for the recipient to get defensive when you’ve stated your feelings as a respectful request.

3. LISTEN WITH AN OPEN HEART – NOT DEFENSIVELY

Your best friend should be able to express his feelings to you without being met with a counter-attack of defensiveness. Yes, it’s hard to hear when our actions or words have impacted someone in a way we didn’t intend them to. But take a deep breath and listen so that you can truly learn from the feedback and move forward in a positive way.

4. ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS AND GIVE THEM FREQUENTLY

Sometimes when someone who knows us inside and out tells us something nice, we’re inclined to say “What? You know I didn’t have time to condition my hair this morning!” when a simple “Thank you” would have sufficed. I am not sure why it’s human nature to give compliments easier than accept them but let’s all work on that! Especially in our marriages where it’s so easy to be comfortable and not appreciate the blessing of your life partner finding something positive to say about us!

And while we’re working on taking them, try handing out more compliments to your spouse.

Little things you notice and take a moment to say something nice about will begin to build a sweet sense of intimacy between the two of you. After all, who else is going to appreciate how nicely his nose hair trimmer is working?

Being married to someone you love and cherish is, undoubtedly, one of the greatest blessings in this life! Being able to call that person your best friend is just icing on the cake! If we all try to invest good energy into that friendship, it’s going to reward us for many years to come.

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WHOSE MEMORY IS IT, ANYWAY?

BY MADISON FREDERICK

I don’t want the kids to have to go through all this junk when I’m gone.

Baloney! Why rob your kids of this unique experience?

The time I spent going through my parents’ things was a marriage therapy exercise for my husband and me.

After a family member passes, you really get down to the essence of their lives when purging their belongings.

We had a chance to reminisce about them and laugh and cry (and fuss about what I should keep!). It was a beautiful thing.

I couldn’t believe it! I was totally shocked. My husband called me a hoarder the other day. Imagine my surprise and pain when he blasted me with this label.

I am not a hoarder! I am a keeper of special memories.

Many times those memories are attached to things. Let me clear up another issue. I am not a “Material Girl” either (apologies to Madonna). Memories are often connected to things in my house. Those memories bring me joy and comfort. The objects (I did not say “clutter”) in my home are very special to me because they represent people, relationships, and events which are important to me.

My husband’s response is that he doesn’t need things to remind him because he has the memories of these special events and people which no one can take away. News flash!

Your memory is not what it used to be, Big Guy! Truthfully, being a former theatre teacher, I have to fight the urge to “collect” all things that might be useful in some future under-funded production. However, I can recall many instances when my keeping a trendy piece of clothing or an outdated accessory has been needed.

One example of this is when my girlfriend who was an HR executive was preparing for a themed ‘70s conference and called to ask me for help. I gave her a pair of platform shoes and a fringed vest and voila! She was strutting to strains of Stayin’ Alive.

In fairness to my hubby, his response to this justification is: “You can rent this stuff. We don’t have to keep everything.”

But there is something to be said for AUTHENTICITY. The lament I have heard from many Boomers is:

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Have you ever had your feelings hurt when you try to give something you cherish to your adult child who gives one of these responses?

“Mom, we don’t have room for that.”

“We don’t need that.”

“No thanks. We wouldn’t use it anyway.”

I rest my case. Hang on to the things you love for as long as they bring YOU pleasure. Don’t risk pain by expecting your wonderful children to treasure your treasures.

I have been blown away by what my children wanted to keep from their grandparents’ houses. The lovely antique tea cup passed from generations ago was tossed aside along with the carefully preserved 100-year-old Christening gown for the worn out Lazy Boy recliner used by a granddaddy.

Could it be those memories of sitting on Granddaddy’s lap?

It is just possible that one day after you have passed, your adult child will thoughtfully say, “Oh, I remember this.

My mom used to love this.”

And THAT is when your treasured memories will be valued.

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BY KRISTI JOHNSON

Cheri Van Loon is a “Jane-of-all-trades” and an asset to the Triad arts community.

The freelance artist is a director, choreographer, dancer, singer, actor, writer, scientist, teacher and pet-rescuer. She holds a degree in medical technology (now clinical laboratory science) from UNC, but has been onstage since the age of 12, when she appeared as a member of the children’s chorus in the ECU Playhouse production of La Boheme.

in teaching, administration, operations, fundraising and grant writing for many non-profit arts organizations. She has also written plays and her own adaptations of Romeo & Juliet and The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, performed at The Little Theatre in Winston-Salem.

In 1990, Cheri was working for a medical company in California and was transferred to Winston-Salem.

“I grew up in Raleigh, so I was excited to move my family back east. I liked that Winston-Salem has lots of trees, many artistic offerings and virtually no traffic!” said Cheri.

Cheri is also an instructor for the DANCING CLASSROOMS program offered by Take the Lead NC to WSFCS 5th graders. This is an amazing 10-week/20-class artist residency that teaches children teamwork, self-confidence and respect through the medium of ballroom dance.

“It is amazing how much the theatre/arts community has grown since I moved here in 1990. On any given day there are so many arts events to choose from, I can’t get to everything I want to see! I do hope our City of the Arts can get to a place to offset some of the venue expense for the theatre groups.

Producing shows is expensive! And I do hope our school system can maintain/expand the arts that they have. The arts are just as important and impactful as literature, history, math and science, and can always be tied in to those core subjects.”

Cheri is currently working on projects with Theatre Alliance, Spring Theatre and Take the Lead North Carolina. She has been featured in dozens of radio and television commercials.

She has directed, choreographed and costumed shows like Into the Woods, Jr., West Side Story, The Outsiders, Romeo & Juliet, Finding Nemo, The Wizard of Oz, Peter Pan, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, Grease, Footloose, Pippin, Rent and more. And she has more than 50 onstage and movie roles to her credit. Cheri has many years of experience

She is busy now rehearsing for Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, at Theatre Alliance, opening October 13, 2017, and is directing a holiday review she wrote for Spring Theatre called, There’s No Business Like Snow Business.

Of the shows she’s been a part of, some of her favorites she’s directed include The Outsiders, Anne of Green Gables, West Side Story, Romeo and Juliet, and Jungle Book.

As an actor, some of her favorite performances were Jesus Christ Superstar, The Rocky Horror Show, Cabaret, Chicago, Little Shop of Horrors and ‘night Mother.

In addition to her artistic offerings, Cheri recently started the business, UNSTUFFED, with her sister, Lisa, with a mission to help people live better with less! Find it at getunstuffed.com.

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Scared?

Can I Open My Eyes Yet?

BY VONDA HENDERSON “Is it worse to be scared than to be bored? That is the question.” (Gertrude Stein) Fill-in the blank: “I’m scared of _____________________.” There’s always something to put on that blank line, maybe a whole laundry list of things. It’s interesting that some of us have specific fears of the very things that others gravitate toward – why some people thrive on that adrenaline rush that something scary or risky creates baffles the rest of us.

Think about it. Some things would not exist if not for people who love to be scared.

Movies: Horror movies are a good illustration. Even the silent movies had their horror films. From campy to gory, a new horror film draws a crowd. Who knew a movie about raining sharks would turn into a series?

Rocky Horror Picture Show is a class by itself. Michael Myers and Freddy Krueger (among others) all show up on movie channels this time of year to scare yet again.

Disney even got into the act with Hocus Pocus. Phantom of the Opera has been around for years. Initially, the Phantom was quite scary, but over time has become a romantic, misunderstood figure with fans rooting for Christine to pick him in the end.

Music: Jaws. Time to leave the water! Just the sound of those two notes of music brings an instant visual of a wideopen mouth filled with razor sharp teeth aiming for some unsuspecting swimmer. And remember the introductory music for The Twilight Zone? That was my cue to exit the room and go hide under my blanket as a child.

Roller Coasters: The one and only time I ever got on a roller coaster was more than enough. I do recall screaming the entire ride at the person who talked me into it. I’ll pass on anything that roars down a cliff to a bone churning finish. Nope, not my cup of tea. I saw a video on Facebook recently of a new ride atop a hotel in Las Vegas – the X Scream. It’s over 800 feet from the ground and goes about 29 feet over the edge of the hotel at about 30 mph. Who dreams these rides up? And, the bigger question, who takes the test rides? Talk about an adrenaline rush – being the first person to try one of those rides must be the ultimate rush.

For those who prefer the role of spectator, watching those death-defying risk takers is enough of a rush. Even some of the Olympic sports are scary, like bobsledding or flying off the end of a ramp. Watching Nik Wallenda walk across that Grand Canyon gorge or some extreme sport is a nervewracking experience. We tend to forget that those risk-takers spend countless hours in training and planning to succeed in those events.

As John Wayne said, “Courage is being scared to death . . . and saddling up anyway.” So, we all saddle up and face those scary moments in our own fashion.

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY AMANDA SOMERVILLE.

Congratulations to Jordan Middletwon & Will Holbrook who were recently engaged!

This beautiful couple plan to be married on March 31st, 2018 at the Reynolda Barn in Winston-Salem.

Congratulations to our friends, Keith and Emily Davis, the owners of Fleet Feet Sports and New Balance. They have been awarded the Hospice & Palliative CareCenter’s Living Your Best Life Leadership Award! We are so happy for this power couple who not only embrace their entrepreneurial spirit in our community, but who regularly encourage others to reach their own potential.

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Congratulations to this beautiful couple! Jordan and Jon Eric tied the knot on August 19th at Triple J Manor House!

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OCTOBER 5-6

AN EVENING OF CHANT, REFLECTION & MEDITATION WITH MIRANDA MACPHERSON

Congregational United Church of Christ, 400 West Radiance Drive in Greensboro. Give yourself the gift of a heart-centered evening to renew and awaken to the presence that is alive at the core of each of us. All are welcome! WomenAndWisdom.com

OCTOBER 6

FEEL GOOD FRIDAYS FOR CANCER PATIENTS

WEEKLY DINING SPECIALS Monday & Wednesday – 35 Cent Chicken Wings Tuesdays – AYCE Pasta - $9.95 – Half Price Wine Thursdays - $5.00 Classic Burger Night Friday – Saturday & Sunday Brunch – 11am – 2pm (regular lunch menu also available) Friday Dinner – Slow Roasted Prime Rib – AYCE Peel- N-Eat Shrimp - $12.95 Saturday Dinner – Slow Roasted Prime Rib Sunday Funday Football Menu

MUSIC & EVENTS 10/2 Mike Bustin – 6-9pm 10/3 Trivia Tuesday – 7:30

10/17 Tuesday Trivia – 7:30 pm – World Series of Trivia

pm WORLD SERIES TRIVIA $1000.00 CASH AFTER CHRISTMAS STARTS

10/18 Karaoke – 7:30pm

10/4 Karaoke – 7:30pm

10/20 Stephen Henson –

10/5 Jukebox Rehab – 7-10pm

10/19 Jukebox Rehab – 7-10pm

5-7pm - LATER – Darrell Hoots – 8-11pm

10/21 Mac & Nelli’s 10/22

10/6 Stephen Henson –

5-7pm - LATER - Brothers Pearl – 9:30-12:30

10/7 Live Music 10/8 NFL SUNDAY TICKET – 10 BIG SCREEN TV’S

10/9 Mike Bustin – 6-9pm 10/10 Trivia Tuesday – 7:30 pm - World Series of Trivia

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10/23 Mike Bustin – 6-9pm 10/24 Tuesday Trivia – 7:30pm – World Series of Trivia

10/25 Karaoke – 7:30pm 10/26 Darrell Hoots – 7-10pm

10/27 Stephen Henson –

10/11 Karaoke – 7:30pm

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10/29 NFL SUNDAY

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NOW THROUGH OCTOBER 30

BRADLEY METHOD® NATURAL CHILDBIRTH CLASS

6:30pm, Novant Health Midwifery Associates, 150 Charlois Boulevard, Suite 100 in W-S. Bradley Method® is a comprehensive, 12-week, smallgroup course equipping couples to birth their babies naturally, covering nutrition, exercise and relaxation to prepare for labor and birth; breathing, relaxation and positioning to handle labor and birth without pain medication; Dad or other partner’s role in coaching Mom through pregnancy and birth; physical and emotional stages of childbirth; breastfeeding and newborn care. BradleyBirth.com/LanetteTyler

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 8

ESCAPE THE MUSEUM: CENTRAL AFRICA

10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. This student-curated interactive exhibit explores the traditional arts of Central African peoples while also serving as the setting for a series of puzzles similar to an “escape room” game. Visitors to the exhibit can use cryptic clues and notes found in the text to solve the puzzles in a specific sequence, ultimately revealing the solution to a mystery. The museum is open Tues.-Sat. (10am-4:30pm).

VIENNA: A CITY OF CULTURE & CONTRAST

10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. Vienna, Austria is a renowned icon of world culture, the birthplace of classical music and a sophisticated example of a planned urban environment. This exhibit, based on WFU student research conducted in the city, explores the social geography of Vienna and the inherent tensions between the urban elite, the city government’s historic program of social housing and the diverse cultures of its residents. Admission is FREE.

OCTOBER 1 NOVEMBER 1

PARTNER WITH MAKE-A-WISH FOUNDATION

Mainstream Boutique of Winston-Salem, 110 Oakwood Drive. Mainstream Boutique will partner with our local Make-A-Wish Foundation to raise money to grant wishes for children in our community living with life threatening medical conditions.

OCTOBER 2 DECEMBER 1 POTPOURRI

The Keener Gallery, Allegacy Federal Credit Union, 1691 Westbrook Plaza Drive in W-S. Art Show: Paintings by Linda Fowler and Laura Reynolds.

Meet the Artists: Friday, October 6th from 5-7pm.

9:30am-1pm, 3333 Silas Creek Parkway in W-S. We need two or three volunteers to join our team of Reiki and Healing Touch practitioners as we work on cancer patients and their caregivers on the first Friday of each month at the Derrick L. Davis Cancer Center at Forsyth Hospital. We meet in the chapel of the center.

EWD OPEN HOUSE & CAREER EXPO

10am-2pm, Forsyth Tech-West Campus, 1300 Bolton Street in W-S. Discover Your Course: Come see what EWD can do for you! Get your certification, start your business, explore your creative side, improve your job skills and meet with employers! Speak with an advisor, and register for class on the spot! ForsythTech.edu

OCTOBER 6-8

KINGDOM YOUTH CONFERENCE

Cathedral of His Glory, 4501 Lake Jeanette Road in Greensboro. Kingdom Youth Conference is a youth event that combines powerful worship, dynamic teachings, as well as your students blessing others in the community. Cost: $40/person.

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OCTOBER 6-9

SURRENDERING INTO GRACE

St. Francis Springs Prayer Center, 477 Grogan Road in Stoneville. A three-day weekend retreat with international spiritual teacher Miranda Macpherson, known for her depth of presence and capacity to guide others into direct experience of the sacred within an atmosphere of unconditional love. at WomenAndWisdom.com and MirandaMacpherson. com Cost: $450/person.

OCTOBER 7

BETHANIA MILL MARKET

10am-4pm, Muddy Creek Music Hall, 5455 Bethania Road in W-S. Join the Muddy Creek Cafe and LuLaRoe for a Bethania Mill Market Place event featuring food, art and crafts, handmade goods, jewelry and the latest fashions by LuLaRoe! Family fun and delicious food at the cafe! Facebook.com/events/274721893013414

OCTOBER 8 THE EMBERS

12-6pm, Medaloni Cellars, 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Special Concert Event -- The Embers!

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OCTOBER 10 KIDS’ MORNING OUT

10am-12pm, Legacy Saddlebreds, 4151 Thomasville Road in W-S. Free event for kids of all ages! Gallop into fall with a fun Kids’ Morning Out at Legacy Saddlebreds! Pony rides, several activity stations and a hayride! Adults receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

GIRLS’ (& GUYS’) NIGHT OUT – PRETTY IN PINK PANCAKE PARTY

5pm-until, Village Inn Hotel & Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy a DJ, SILENT AUCTION, cash bar, 50/50 raffle, shirts for sale and a book signing with Dara Kurtz! $10 admission includes all-youcan-eat brunch and a mimosa! TONS of prizes and giveaways! Wear pink for an extra prize board ticket.

OCTOBER 13-14

TRAIL OF TREATS AT BOLTON PARK

5:30-7:30pm, Winston-Salem Recreation & Parks, 1600 Burke Mill Road in W-S. WinstonSalem Recreation and Parks Department is hosting “Trail of Treats,” a Halloween-themed community resource fair for elementary-age children and their families. Admission is free.

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OCTOBER 13-15

FRIENDS OF THE LEWISVILLE LIBRARY SEMI-ANNUAL BOOK SALE

Lewisville Library, 6490 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Times vary…Saturday is “Bag of books for only $5 sale.” Admission and parking is FREE and handicapped accessible!

OCTOBER 14

WINSTON-SALEM DASH FALL BASEBALL CAMP WITH C.J. BEATTY

8am-12pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. The cost is $50/camper, and parents can reserve their child’s spot by contacting Brittani Stewart at 714.6865. milb.com

OCTOBER 14-15

MIMOSAS, MUNCHIES & FAIRY HAIR

10am-6pm, Mainstream Boutique of WinstonSalem, 110 Oakwood Drive. Call 448.1485 to schedule your Fairy Hair appointment.

OCTOBER 15

LIVE MUSIC WITH JOEY BARNES & PATRICK ROCK

12-5pm, Medaloni Cellars, 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Live music with Joey Barnes and Patrick Rock.

OCTOBER 16

SENSORY-FRIENDLY MONDAY

9am-12pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Allows children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and sensory processing differences to have a fun, enjoyable and interactive learning experience in a comfortable and accepting environment!

Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. Kaleideum.org

OCTOBER 18 & 30

DROP-IN SPOOKY GINGERBREAD HOUSE WORKSHOP

Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Make-and-take a mini gingerbread house for $6.50 while supplies last! Build your creation with a mini milk carton, graham crackers, icing and a variety of sweet fall and Halloween-themed treats!

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OCTOBER 19 STYLING FOR HOPE

6-8pm, Mainstream Boutique of WinstonSalem, 110 Oakwood Drive. We are partnering with our Make-A-Wish Foundation for an evening Sip and Shop. 10% of all sales will go to our local Make-A-Wish Foundation.

Open seven days a week.

COMMUNITY SHRED DAY

9am-12pm, SECU Family House, 1970 Baldwin Lane in W-S. Shred your important documents with COR365 Information Solutions at the Family House! A suggested donation of $5 a box/bag will benefit the families staying at the Family House. FamilyHouseWS.org

GIRL SCOUT PATCH PARTY: PLAYING THE PAST AT KÖRNER’S FOLLY

9am-12pm, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville.

This event has been moved from September 30th to October 21st. Cost: $6. KornersFolly.org

WOMEN OF NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF BLACK ACCOUNTANTS 2ND ANNUAL BRUNCH 11am-1pm, Starmount Country Club, 1 Sam Snead Drive in Greensboro. The Women of NABA Brunch is a professional and personal development program focused on our women members as well as women outside our organization. nabagreensboro.org

FREE MOVIE NIGHT AT BB&T BALLPARK

5-10pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. View the movie “SING” while interacting with members of the WSPF. Free parking and entry, but cash or blanket donations are encouraged; no outside food, beverage or lawn chairs. Kids’ zone and concession stands will be open.

OCTOBER 22

LIVE MUSIC WITH MIKE BUSTIN

12-5pm, Medaloni Cellars, 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Live music from Mike Bustin from 2-5pm and the Taco Truck from 12-5pm.

OCTOBER 24

NEWCOMERS AND NEIGHBORS OF GREATER WINSTON-SALEM

1416 Bolton Street in W-S. WSnewcomers.blogspot.com

OCTOBER 27-29 & 31 SILENT NIGHT

The Stevens Center of the UNCSA, 405 4th Street in W-S. Piedmont Opera’s Silent Night honors the 100th anniversary of America’s entrance into the Great War. This is the first time the opera has been produced in NC. The fascinating true story takes place on World War I’s western front when weapons are laid down for an evening of peace. Cost: $20-98/person.

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 28 9 AM - 5 PM

TANGLEWOOD PARK $5 PER CAR PARKING FEE NO GATE FEE / FREE ADMISSION Hosted by Dahlia’s Floral Design & Vintage Rentals

Southern Charm at the Farm of the area’s best artisans & craftsmen

OCTOBER 29

HALLOWEEN COSTUME PARTY WITH THE GB’S

12-5pm, Medaloni Cellars, 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. Halloween costume party all day. Live music from The GB’s. Visit MedaloniCellars.com for more event information.

TRUCK & TREAT

1-5pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. This popular annual event will feature more than 25 vehicles parked outside of Kaleideum Downtown. Explore the vehicles, trick-or-treat for novelties and candy, enjoy DJ music, create a craft and more! Halloween costumes are encouraged. Cost: $5/person for both Kaleideum members and nonmembers (museum admission included).

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OCTOBER 31

8:30am-12:30pm, Bridger Field House, 499 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Enjoy breakfast with your favorite princesses, superheroes and storybook characters! Tickets are $25/ person and may be purchased at rmhws.org or by calling 970.5659.

5:30-7:30pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and sensory processing differences are invited to have a fun, enjoyable and interactive learning experience in a comfortable and accepting environment! Admission is $3 (+ tax) per person for both Kaleideum members and non-members.

8TH ANNUAL FRIENDS OF THE RONALD MCDONALD HOUSE CHARACTER BREAKFAST

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SENSORY-FRIENDLY NIGHT: “HALLOWEEN ADVENTURE”

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Kortney Bean Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Kyle Duncan Photo. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131

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Lael Building Group . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Lamberti’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Lewisville Laser . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 Little Theatre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Live 2 Lead . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

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Mac & Nelli’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 142 Mainstream Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Mary’s Professional Cleaning . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 Massage Envy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Medaloni Cellars. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Mellie & Emilia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 Midtown Cafe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Mountain Valley Hospice. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107

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Nitsa’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 Nouveau Soul Revue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119

Salem Detailing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Salem Gymnastics & Swim . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Salem Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Salem Smiles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Schneider Stone . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 Sharon Reid. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Simply Southern Cuisine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Simply Sterling. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Singing Bird Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 Smokin’ Harley Davidson. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Southern Charm at the Farm . . . . . . . . . . . 143 Starboard Accounting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Still Life Market . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Stitches . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 Style Encore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Summer Family Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Summit Eye Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18

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Treasures Decor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Tre Nonne . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 Triad Eye Doc. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Triad Mac. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Triple J Manor House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113

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United Way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

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Village Inn Event Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43,67

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Wayne Collins Electric . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 WFBH Imaging . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 WFBH Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Wilson Park Athletics. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Windsor Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Wolf & Sons Window Washing . . . . . . . . . . 140 WomanCare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

All Things Basementy!

October 2017 | 145

BY MARK MATHOSIAN

HOLD THE MOON IN YOUR HANDS AND I MEAN THAT LITERALLY! Sounds pretty cool, doesn’t it? Well, not so long ago that was nearly impossible.

The only samples of moon rocks were those brought back by astronauts, and US law forbids private citizens from owning them. Fortunately, over the past several years lunar meteorites were discovered on deserts around the world by experienced collectors and local nomads who earn a living selling them to collectors and dealers. While moon rocks are still rare – making up less than 1% of discovered meteorites – they are available for purchase in small to large specimens by novice collectors.

A moon meteorite is called a lunaite.

They are rocks ejected from the moon by violent asteroid impacts, captured by earth’s gravitational field and drawn into orbit around the earth. They remain in orbit for up to thousands of years before finally surrendering to earth’s gravity and falling to the ground. Because we have over 800 pounds of lunar rocks and soil collected during the Appolo missions, a comparison can be made to the composition of meteorites found by nomads to verify their lunar authenticity.

As of today, over 50 discovered meteorites have a unique chemical composition indicating they originated on the moon.

Many lunar meteorites have been found in the hot deserts of Northwest Africa in the regions of the Morocco-Algeria border, and they are systematically labeled with the designation NWA. A number follows the NWA label and the meteorite is named after the place where it was found. Lunar meteorites have also been discovered in Libya, the Arabian Peninsula, Antarctica, and Australia.

Interestingly, no lunar meteorites have ever been found in North America, South America or Europe. Perhaps this is because meteorites are easier to spot on barren desert sands and on the vast Antarctica icecap. Samples of the meteorites are provided to qualified laboratories for analysis and validation.

In my collection, I have a tiny rock fragment from NWA 3163 and small amounts of pure cutting dust from lunar meteorites NWA 482 and NWA 5000.

A sterilized saw was used to cut the meteorites to guarantee they were not contaminated by terrestrial materials.

All three lunar samples were purchased on-line from reputable meteorite dealers and came with guarantees of authenticity.

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By now you are probably wondering how much lunar artifacts cost, where to buy them and what to expect. Simply put, you can spend as little or as much as you want. Just remember that because they are rare, fragments of the moon are often sold in sizes equal to a grain of sand. These small fragments are usually capsulized in clear plastic display boxes with a moon scene behind the piece of meteorite. There is nothing wrong with buying small lunar samples as long as you know what you are getting. Tiny moon rocks and bottles of lunar dust with certificates of authenticity can be purchased for as little as ten to fifty dollars on-line at eBay or from meteorite dealers. Prices go up from there with larger and more alluring meteorites costing more. Collectors have been known to spend thousands to millions of dollars for large moon specimens.

Personally, I don’t believe you must spend big bucks to get the wow effect.

The fact that I can hold a piece of the moon in my hands, no matter how small, puts a smile on my face.

Another shopping tip is that you should become familiar with weights and sizes.

Meteorites are usually sold by gram weight, and they tend to look bigger on computer screens than they actually are.

You don’t want to be disappointed when your meteorite arrives in the mail, and it isn’t what you thought it should be. Also, if you go the eBay route, be sure to read eBay’s informative help page Buying Meteorites on eBay: A Beginner’s Guide.

Finally, before buying your first lunar rock, learn a little more about meteorites in general. A book I recommend is Rocks From Space by O.Richard Norton. Considered one of the bibles of meteorite collecting, Norton explains everything you need to know about asteroids, comets, meteors and impact sites. You will learn about the different kinds of meteorites and receive helpful collecting tips. Another favorite of mine is The Art of Collecting Meteorites by Kevin Kichinka. Kichinka’s book also receives high praise in the meteorite collecting community for being a practical and useful guide for collectors.

Kichinka’s words flow on the pages, and The Art of Collecting Meteorites is a fun read. I have reread my copy many times to absorb his many tips.

Bloomday Granite & Marble

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