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The View From This Side NOVEMBER 2019 But before we get into that – let me tell you about our Tour de Boutique in October! This may have been our best one yet. Our 15th shopping trip was a sellout, and we actually had to get an overflow van due to the demand.

An extra special thank you, once again, to our friends at Fraleigh’s Boutique, for the use of their store van! It was a huge help! We had a very enthusiastic group of shoppers who were excited to spend the day touring some of the best locally-owned boutiques in the area! This trip is so near and dear to our hearts because it’s all about local, local, local! We love that the day is all about supporting the “shop small” initiative! Thank you to all of our stores for their hospitality! And thank you to our shoppers for spending the day with us! We had a great time with all of you!

It’s the month of gratitude, and what can I say? It’s hard to limit my gratitude to a single month, so I don’t even try. Month after month, I recognize how blessed I am to do what I love, and it’s thanks to you – our readers and advertising partners!

Honestly – this is our busiest time of year. We are in production with our regular publications, but we have the November issue of Engaged! coming out and are starting to work on our annual magazine, Forsyth Community.

But shopping small doesn’t start and end in the retail world! We are delighted to feature our long-time friends and business partners, Jason and Bobbie Skinner of Paparazzi Hair Salon on the cover of this month’s magazine! Talk about two people with a heart for community! These two have such a love for Forsyth County and a tremendous love for their team. While they are a full-service salon, I love stopping by to get my hair braided. It’s especially helpful on delivery days when I need my hair out of the way so I can focus on getting these magazines out to you, our readers!

Because it’s November – that means this issue also features our annual gift guide! Check it out on pages 82 - 85! This is a great opportunity to see what fun and unique gifts you can get right here in Forsyth County!

I mentioned our seasonal publications earlier, so circling back to those – please be sure to pick up a copy of FW Engaged!

The cover is stunning, and our amazing photographer, Jon Eric Johnson, has done a tremendous job! We love it and are so proud of this magazine! Once again, my daughter has exceeded my expectations and produced another beautiful publication of which we can all be proud!

And please check out page 132 to learn more about our annual magazine, Forsyth Community!

This one is a true labor of love for the Lewisville and Clemmons communities! Plus, it’s a publication that has so many facets – its purpose has exceeded everything we originally envisioned! If your business is interested in advertising, the article explains all the perks and benefits!

As always, thank you so much for reading! It’s an honor that you choose us each month. Please let our advertisers know you saw them in this month’s issue, and until next time – have a very Happy Thanksgiving!

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Oops - seems like the record breaking heat from earlier this fall fried our brains!

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Setting Boundaries

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Boundaries used to be one of the hardest things for me to set and stick to, and to this day, I still struggle with them. As a people pleaser in recovery, I hate disappointing people. As a business owner and freelancer, if I don’t set boundaries, I will explode.

Boundaries are often described as “guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.”

While Wikipedia and Google can give great definitions of boundaries, you have to set your own and practice upholding the boundaries you set.

One of the biggest lessons my therapist taught me is that boundaries aren’t meant to feel good; they are meant to keep you safe. I think we often forget that when we’re holding up a boundary and the other person is pressing – it feels awkward and uncomfortable, and we think, oh! If we just give in, it will be fine.

(It won’t.) Here are three ways to set and keep your boundaries for the last few months of 2019 and well into 2020:

START SMALL

New to boundaries in your life?

Start small. Maybe it’s something as simple as not answering work emails after a certain time, or not accepting work texts. If you set one boundary to start with, and get comfortable with that one boundary, others will follow and will get easier.

I use a gym or working out comparison a lot – you can’t expect to wake up one day and just run a full marathon if you haven’t been training. If you’ve always been the ‘yes’ person, you can’t expect to have incredible skills setting and holding to boundaries.

Do a few easier ones with yourself and your time. Maybe you only take personal calls between 9 am and 7 pm, or you don’t text after 8 pm. Build your skills!

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BE CLEAR

The “best” boundaries are clear and specific. If it’s complicated, with loads of clauses and possibilities, people will either find loopholes or misunderstand it, creating a lot of opportunities for you to either hold the boundary strong or give in.

If you’re just starting to set boundaries in a situation, use the first-grader rule of thumb: be so simple that a seven-year-old can understand it.

Here’s an example that comes up with my entrepreneur friends: being asked to do things for exposure. Yes, you should do some things to add to your business and the social capital that comes with exposure. No, you can’t do everything for free because Duke Energy does not accept exposure bucks. Say your boundary is five “free” events a year. This is clear, specific, and concise. When you’ve done your five, and someone asks for your number six, and you physically cannot do that because you need to work, you can simply say, “I’m sorry, I’ve committed to all of the free events I can this year.

I’m happy to chat with you next year.”

TAKE TIME

If someone is pushing on a boundary, don’t be afraid to say you need some time to think about the decision they are asking you to make. That bit of buffer will give you the time you need to think about a response. If they keep pushing when you ask for some time (even if it’s five minutes), stop and think: this isn’t respectful for you, so feel free to say no.

An example that I hear about a lot is working extra hours above and beyond what you already have to do and outside of the scope of work. This happens more in non-profit work, I think, but I’ve seen it across the spectrum of professions. If someone is asking you for something like this, feel free to say, “Let me look at my schedule and get back to you tomorrow,” if you are feeling like you can’t immediately say no, or are struggling with the no. Then, take some time to practice the no, or send it in an email to avoid the conflict you might be adverse to.

There’s one overarching lesson I’ve learned about boundaries over the past few years of developing mine: the people that have the most trouble with other people’s boundaries are those who don’t have any themselves. Remember that, and you got this.

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Keeping It Real WHEN BOLD LANDS ON YOU!

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Just one encounter with the Son of God unlocked everything. This fearless spectacle recovered his sight and his soul. Of course, then the masses erupted in Praise.

(Crowds are so fickle!)

If their criticism had paralyzed Bartimaeus, nothing would have changed that day. If this beggar had buckled beneath the weight of disapproval, this most life-altering moment would have belonged to someone else, never to him.

How often does opposition shatter our resolve? How many times does disapproval obstruct our ability to see beyond it?

The pathway to success inevitably leads to those moments where we appear incredibly foolish to others. If we don’t break our approval addiction, we remain on the side of the road, invisible to most, still murmuring about our condition.

Maybe it’s my age. Perhaps it’s this ever-increasing pursuit to live like I belong to Jesus. Maybe it’s a little of both. I’m not sure. All I know is “bold” landed on me, and it won’t let go.

I spent entirely too many years living overly concerned with what others think. The truth is, I lived captive to what I perceived others think. (Chances are, they were not thinking about me at all.

What a prison!)

“Son of David!” The multitudes reprimanded the beggar. They demanded his silence, so he would remain invisible. After all, that’s precisely how they perceived him.

Bartimaeus refused to back down even a smidgen. If anything, their condemnation fueled him. The brazen beggar screamed even louder, “Son of David!”

As I read Bartimaeus’ story (Luke 18:35-43) this morning, I thought, “THAT’S the intensity of boldness I want to own!”

In Jewish culture, that title meant much more than lineage. It revealed Authority…Supremacy.

His declaration of Jesus revealed his great faith, in contrast to the crowds who fumbled in the dark to His reality! Did you get that? Blind Bartimaeus could see beyond what blinded the religious experts. He discerned Christ's truest identity.

Blind Bartimaeus begged as Jesus passed. The crowds chasing the Messiah clamored too raucously to hear the pleas. Bartimaeus then escalated, shouting,

Jesus abruptly halted, giving fullest attention to this daring dude. Bartimaeus stammered to the Messiah and bypassed every naysayer surrounding him.

Our need for approval becomes self-imposed slavery! You know that, right?

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Did you know that you are usually most celebrated when you become what others want you to be? If you are addicted to approval, you will certainly take the bait. But their expectations of you will inevitably shift with their own whims and issues. Maintaining their celebration of you becomes a treadmill. It’s all downhill from there. You’re trapped! (Self-imposed slavery, remember?)

Learn from my missteps. If you become who God wants you to be, you assuredly become who others need you to be. That’s your sweet spot! Desiring to please the One who loves you most and seeks your highest good . . . it quiets the noise and sets every facet of your life to such a harmonious rhythm.

Face it. Not everyone will understand your journey. That's okay! It's not their journey. It's YOURS! Don’t let applause or criticism knock you out of the race. Simply stay the course with your eyes fixed on the One who goes before you and makes your way clear. When you do, you will discover “bold” landed on you and it won’t let go!

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WINSTON-SALEM’S PREMIER LAUNDRY PICKUP AND DELIVERY SERVICE

BY ADELE CASANOVA

There’s a laundry-free world a click away!

How much do you just love doing laundry? Not feeling it? Well, how would you like a convenient, reliable, and affordable pickup and delivery laundry service to do it for you? Per your specific instructions, any time you wanted to schedule a pickup. Yes! You would love it! Laundry Matters is ready and able to provide that splendid time-saving service.

Laundry Matters has decades of experience in the laundry business. And they are now available in the WinstonSalem area to provide their premier pickup and delivery service for you and your family. Time is money, and your time is valuable! Laundry Matters takes the burden of doing laundry off your schedule, leaving you time to do more important things to enhance the quality of your life.

Once your laundry is delivered to Laundry Matters’ state-of-the-art facility, it is sorted by color, pre-treated for stains, pockets checked, and then washed, dried, and folded to your specification – and all done in modern high-efficiency machines.

It is easy and convenient to sign up. Go to LaundryMattersNC.com and within minutes you can create an account. You can easily specify any special instructions, from sorting and folding to the choice of detergents and fabric softeners. Sound like it’s too good to be true? Well, local resident, Marie Howlett took the plunge was thrilled she did!

“I was hesitant at first because laundry is such a personal thing, but my schedule is so packed with work and kids, I really liked the idea of being free from the time-consuming job of weekly laundry,” says Marie.” “Signing up was fast and the software was really easy to use. I chose my instructions and pickup and delivery times and that was all I needed to do!

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were coming and how to track the status of my laundry. Our clothes came back clean, fresh, and everything was folded beautifully, even the fitted sheets. How did they do that?” Marie was thrilled that all she had to do was put the clean laundry away. “My husband loved the crisp crease in his work pants, and an added benefit is that due to the clothes being folded so nicely, our drawers and linen closet will be more organized. I love that.” Marie also felt confident knowing that Laundry Matters will never wash her laundry with anyone else’s, and that her laundry is receiving individual attention.

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This quality, affordable service is a tool you can use to free up quality time to spend with your friends and family. Take some time to relax after work and on the weekends instead of doing hours of laundry! There are never any up-charges or hidden fees with Laundry Matters. Service area includes Clemmons, Lewisville, Pfafftown, Rural Hall, Tobaccoville, Walkertown, and Winston-Salem.

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A Sweet Partnership

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

What was your first Dewey’s Bakery experience? Mine was when I was visiting my then-boyfriend, now husband. He got me a pint of banana pudding ice cream and I was beside myself. First, I don’t think I ever had banana pudding (don’t shame me! I’m an NYCer!), and second, it was amazing, and I still think about that ice cream.

Scott Livengood, owner and CEO of Dewey’s, grew up having it as a reward. “I still remember going to get either a cream horn or an éclair after doctor’s appointments or tests.”

Dwayne Thompson, Director of ReStore Operations with Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County, remembers his first Dewey’s experience. “It was one of the assistant managers, and she brought in Pink Lemonade cake, and I kept thinking what is Pink Lemonade cake! I had it, and it was delicious.”

Chances are good that if you live in Winston or the surrounding areas, you, too, have a Dewey’s memory. Think about it. What treat was it? How did it make you feel?

Now take that warm and fuzzy feeling, and think about gifting it to someone, maybe someone who hasn’t had a Dewey’s memory yet – or – would love to have another one, because who wouldn’t? Couple that with knowing your purchase is going to be supporting a good cause, and you have a recipe for the right kind of holiday season, one that gives back to our community.

This holiday season, Dewey’s Bakery is partnering with Habitat for Humanity and local ReStores, offering their treats available for purchase at ReStores in Forsyth County, as well as others across North Carolina. Need some cheese straws for your party? Maybe some cookies to send to your friend out

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& of state? Or even Moravian Sugar cake for a hostess gift? Swing by a ReStore, and for every item sold, over one-third of the revenue is donated back to Habitat for Humanity.

Scott is also no stranger to the good work that Habitat does: he’s been part of the board and helped build two habitat houses himself. “The Winston-Salem community has given so much support to us; I’m happy to be giving back whenever I can.”

But what exactly does the ReStore have to do with it? If you’ve heard of Habitat for Humanity, you might know their vision of a world where everyone has a decent place to live. You might have also visited the ReStore to pick up some new or gently used furniture, home décor, appliances, and building materials, but you might not know that proceeds from the ReStores go to eliminating substandard housing by helping families in Forsyth County construct and purchase well-built and affordable homes. They also perform repairs for homeowners in the community to help the residents safely age in place.

When you’re looking to pick up your holiday treats or gifts, swing by one of the ReStores – you’re not only giving someone their own Dewey’s memory, you’re also giving back to the community – your community.

“As I talked to the customers more, and got to know them, some of them have never had a sofa or a mattress. Now because of the ReStore, they can have their first sofa or mattress,” Dwayne said. “I think we take that for granted.”

The partnership with Dewey’s Bakery isn’t the first – they had a successful test run this past July for their “Christmas in July” sale and sold out of all baked goods.

“We are extremely proud to embark on this new partnership and to support such an important mission,” said Scott. “We collaborated with the Habitat team to create this unique way to raise funds without the need for additional staff or extra retail space, and we’re excited to see what our teamwork can accomplish.”

Find Dewey’s Bakery products in stores now through December 31st.

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BENEFITS OF THE THANKSGIVING FEAST

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

Thanksgiving is a time that brings friends and family together like no other holiday. It can also be the one time of year where our eyes can be bigger than our stomachs!

There is nothing quite like the feasts we have with roasted turkey, green bean casserole, sweet potatoes – and we cannot forget the delicious pumpkin pies.

So that we do not feel too bad about overeating on this day, here are some Thanksgiving food facts to make us feel better.

Did you know some of the foods that we eat at this time of year have many health benefits, especially when it comes to your vision and eye health? Here are some of the few classic Turkey Day dishes that will leave our eyes healthier and searching for more.

Did you know that sweet potatoes are packed full of nutrients, including vitamin A, potassium, vitamin C, vitamins B5, and B3? Vitamin A is an essential nutrient for good optical health, which helps to prevent macular degeneration and age-related problems in the cornea and retina.

Vitamin C also helps to prevent this process while also helping to reduce the risk of developing cataracts.

Cranberries – this beneficial fruit can help to protect your eyes from many different types of eye conditions. Vitamin A and vitamin C are found in cranberries and have the same ocular benefits as those sweet potatoes.

Cranberries contain bioflavonoids, a large class of antioxidants.

Bioflavonoids are found in the pulp, skin, and rinds of foods that contain vitamin C. Both flavonoids and vitamin C help protect the eyes from free radical damage caused by pollution and the body’s normal metabolic processes. So, make sure you have extra cranberry sauce this year.

oxidative damage by blocking blue light from reaching the retina.

This can also help slow down or prevent macular degeneration, a disease that deteriorates central vision.

Pumpkin pie is one of the best sources of vitamin A. Not only is pumpkin pie a delicious dessert at this time of year; pumpkin pie is an eye-healthy dessert. In fact, one cup of cooked and mashed pumpkin contains more than 200 percent of the recommended daily intake of vitamin A. Remember from the sweet potatoes that Vitamin A provides nourishment and protection to the eye’s macula, lens, and cornea and can help to improve night vision.

Last but not least, no table is complete without the main attraction: turkey. This holiday staple is loaded with zinc, which provides many different benefits for our vision. Not only can zinc significantly reduce the risk of advanced age-related macular degeneration and its associated vision loss, but it also has a significant effect on the development and progression of cataracts. Turkey is also considered a good source of vitamins B3 and B6.

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You’ve probably heard of the idea of “manifestation” in your work or personal life if you follow any of the empowerment gurus. Folks can “manifest” anything – just want it enough and POOF like magic, it happens. The basic premise behind making manifestation work for you is if you believe it, repeat it, write it down – it will happen. You’ll make it happen.

action-focused steps. This is goal setting 101 – if you have a larger want and you can accomplish little pieces that contribute to the larger want, every step you take is a step in the right direction – even if it’s a different path than you envision. Once you’ve broken it down, decide what step is your first – and if you have to break that down more, don’t worry! Tiny steps are still steps!

While the power of positive thinking and belief is important, it’s equally important to acknowledge that often the “success” behind a lot of these manifested moments that folks talk about was already built in to their lives: the wealthy woman who “manifests” a business, the woman who has lots of free time “manifests” a healthy lifestyle, working out 6 times a week, and the socially checked in woman who “manifests” a key meeting with someone to help her on her big idea – these might be examples given of “manifestation” but take a moment to consider this.

Would it have happened to anyone else? Could it happen to another woman with a very different life, background, and upbringing?

You might come in contact with clear opportunities and challenges, and some days might feel more challenging than others. Take note of both of these, and know what might assist you and what might hold you back. There’s an idea if you’re running in the woods and something is chasing you, you’re going to be more and more scared if you never turn around to see what it is. The moment you see what it is, you can start strategizing. Just turn around. Don’t just pay attention to the challenges either. What can you tap into to get a win?

This being said, some principles behind manifestation can be incredibly valuable in “making” things happen in your life, with a little work. Here are a few things you can do that go beyond the right place and the right time:

WRITE IT DOWN

As simple as it sounds, this is possibly one of the most valuable steps. If you can’t write down what you want clearly and concisely, then how will you know when you’ve achieved it? Take a moment to write down exactly what you want as clearly as possible.

Read it out loud to make sure it makes sense and is as clear and concise as you may think it is.

BREAK IT DOWN

Take what you wrote down and break it down into bite-sized,

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Take action! So many people just talk about what they want to accomplish or worse, what they are “doing” that they don’t take action on the things they want to do! Do things that require action – not just words – and see what happens.

EVALUATE – RINSE, WASH, REPEAT

Every few days or weeks, take a moment to check-in and see where you are – making sure you’re moving in the right direction and still want what you thought you did!

Sometimes that can change, and that’s ok. Evaluate and then start the process over with another action item – and keep going until you’re there!

True manifestation – one that isn’t linked with privilege – comes from work, focus and a bit of luck. You can make it happen.

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How 6th Sense Health and Wellness is Disrupting the Industry with Facial Acupuncture

BY NIKE ROACH, MS, LMBT PHOTOS BY SALE OFF PHOTOGRAPHY Sixth Sense Therapeutic Massage, Health and Wellness Center launches a revolutionary lunch-hour cosmetic acupuncture program, ideal for time-constrained business professionals.

Sixth Sense Therapeutic Massage, Health, and Wellness Center celebrates the launch of a cuttingedge and non-invasive cosmetic acupuncture program for busy professions to avail themselves of during the lunch hour. After its success in popular cities such as New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Miami, and Austin, this procedure is now premiering in WinstonSalem. Senior acupuncturist Dr. Chelsea Wynter, ND, LAc is leading the innovative service where, unlike traditional Botox or plastic surgery, patients are not required to take time off from their busy schedules.

Facial acupuncture is considerably known as “The new Botox.” The treatment is a form of alternative medicine centered on beauty and anti-aging properties. Needles are gently inserted in a patient’s face to stimulate the production of natural and healthy collagen. The procedure enhances skin quality and prevents acne scars. A typical session involves the insertion of 40 needles in the face and 12 on the body, and left in the skin for approximately twenty minutes. This holistic healing approach addresses various skin problems, and each session is sufficient for timeconstrained patients to complete during their lunch break.

The treatment at Sixth Sense Wellness Center is a natural facial rejuvenation technique. It is expertly designed to provide comfort and improve blood flow, which allows optimum collagen production, for patients to achieve the ultimate glow and youthfulness in a short amount of time. Collagen production declines with age, which leads to wrinkles and loss of elasticity. Each session will stimulate the creation of new collagen through a strategic placement of needles on the patient’s face and body.

Facial acupuncture is a form of self-care to enhance peacefulness and relaxation while effectively reducing stress levels. After each session, a patient can return to work with a sense of tranquility.

Unlike Botox, facial acupuncture will not limit movement in the face, nor will it temporarily paralyze any muscles. It is more natural and chemical-free compared to Botox, and addresses the tissues under the skin more effectively. Although the results are not seen immediately, the benefits occur naturally and are long-lasting with a much more significant improvement. If a patient suffers from acne due to a slow digestive system or hormonal balances, facial acupuncture balances those hormones internally with the needles placed at specific points on the body. Those acupuncture points are energy lines that connect to the person’s organs to treat and heal all kinds of prevalent skin conditions.

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Patients are now welcome to book appointments by calling Sixth Sense Wellness Center or through their website.

Sixth Sense offers convenient payments for single facial acupuncture sessions, or patients can purchase the entire program upfront with a substantial discount.

Dr. Chelsea Wynter, ND, LAc enjoys fixing and solving people’s problems. Her innovative facial acupuncture treatment program is specifically designed for beauty and anti-aging prevention. She is a highly reputable doctor in the WinstonSalem area with a lot of compassion and drive to help people with all types of diseases or illnesses.

Sixth Sense Wellness Center encompasses a holistic wellness approach by providing expert services in acupuncture, therapeutic massages, and nutrition counseling.

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Improving Your View for 40 Years!

BY SUSAN FISHEL, PHOTOS BY LIZ NEMETH PHOTOGRAPHY Angelia

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its natural match when she formally joined the company after getting her MBA in 1999.

Now, as President, Heather and her team of dedicated Vista employees have grown the company to include the management of thousands of apartment properties, a multitude of homeowners associations, and an ever growing number of single family rental homes. They have earned a stellar reputation of wading a sometimes tricky investor real estate market to protect their clients’ interests and assets.

It is no small feat to maintain a family business for 40 years. Vista has thrived as a respected member of Winston-Salem’s robust and competitive real estate community.

In November of 1979, 40 years ago this month, Paul Mullican and Don Caudle were a part of the movement to develop affordable housing in the suburban areas around Winston-Salem.

With their wives, Barbara Caudle and Darla Mullican leading the helm, a partnership was formed to manage those properties. When other members of the Winston-Salem building and development community saw their

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efficiency and success, they were approached to manage additional properties. Never one to pass opportunity by, Vista Realty was officially established. They started a family business that grew to be a leader in the local property management industry and to provide rental investment opportunities across the triad.

After thirty years of dedication and success, the Mullicans confidently passed operations of Vista Realty over to their daughter, Heather Coleman. Heather had worked at Vista every summer of her childhood. Her passion for real estate and business administration found

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Spend five minutes with the employees of Vista Realty and it is clear what sets them apart from other property management businesses and other small businesses in general: loyalty. Of the fourteen employees of Vista Realty, nine have given over twelve years of service to the company. Mary Cash has been running the show as office manager for 19 years. Angelia Mauldin started as a receptionist in 1990 and today finds herself as the Director of Property Management and Sales. Sharon Hill, a property manager since 1992, is Vista’s leader for all other property managers. She trains them to serve their communities with the same efficiency and compassion she has shown in her own communities for nearly 30 years. Maricela Castro was hired as a property manager in 2008 and has recently joined Angelia Maudlin as an in-house broker, representing tenants in their pursuit of homeownership.

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Ashley Heather attributes Vista’s success to her staff’s loyalty and longevity, “Our staff and employees are my number one priority. Clients and tenants are, of course important, but without protecting the trustworthiness, compassion, and respectfulness of my staff, we couldn’t foster our dedication to customer service and our devotion to community.”

The most valuable lesson Heather has learned in her ten years of leading the company is to delegate responsibilities to those trusted staff members and maintain an open line of communication. In her view, this feeds back into the role of Vista as an advocate for all their clients, tenants and owners alike, “Empowering others and trusting them to make decisions has made this entire team strong and confident.”

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has assembled a team of knowledgeable and dedicated real estate professionals that are as eager as she is to launch this new chapter in the development of an outside sales department at Vista Realty.

With Heather continuing her role as Broker in Charge, Angelia Maudlin, Maricela Castro, and Susan Fishel will go beyond representing investors in purchasing rental properties. They will also be there for tenants in their pursuit of becoming homeowners themselves.

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Taking advantage of this milestone 40th anniversary, expect to see exciting changes at Vista Realty. A new, updated website is set to be launched in November, and several community outreach programs are planned to give thanks to the communities who have been the cornerstone of Vista’s journey. There is also focus on what the next generation of the Vista Realty family may bring to the next 40 years. Vista Realty is a womanled company, comprised solely of women, many of whom are mothers, and there is always an eye to the future.

After 40 years, it would be easy to focus on what’s already working and stick with property management, but Vista Realty hasn’t been around this long without keeping a close watch for opportunities to come. The future lies in building relationships with tenants. Angelia Maudlin shares, “As property managers, we make every effort to ‘hand-show’ our available properties. We want to be there for tenants, from the very beginning of the rental application process to solving work orders and maintenance issues, and then finally as a representative and trusted source in their search for a forever home.” Heather

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Pelvic Floor Pilates Health for

BY AMY DIXON, OWNER OF INNER STRENGTH PILATES & POLESTAR PILATES EDUCATOR

Unless you’ve had trouble with it, you likely don’t think of it: your pelvic floor! What exactly is that, you ask? Well, here’s all you ever wanted to know, (and then some) about your pelvic floor! There are so many commercials for incontinence products and so many items on the store shelves for constipation. It IS a big deal that no one wants to talk about. So, let’s go there, and maybe shed some light…

Your pelvic floor is the base of…. well, your pelvis! It is often likened to a hammock that runs from the pubic bone to the tailbone, and is made up of layers of muscles, ligaments, and fascia. The pelvic floor is the base of our core and works with other muscles to aid in respiration and spinal stabilization.

It’s a dome-shaped unit that has the complex job of holding everything inside the pelvic cavity and providing support to the base of the spine.

It allows us to hold onto our delicate faculties during coughing or sneezing fits, yet it also releases in coordination with the sphincters of the bladder and colon to allow for the passage of waste. And, let’s not forget its role in sexual function, pregnancy, and childbirth!

Many of us know the Kegel, (named in the 1940s after the doctor of the same name), as the exercise we use to stop urine flow, prescribed in response to the post-baby dribbles. The Kegel has served us well over the years! However, we know so much more about biomechanics and anatomy than we did way back in the day! After all, the big exercise trend in the 1940s was….um, well, nothing! Scientists thought that women who exercised were causing damage to their reproductive systems.

So why the dysfunctions? Alignment actually has a lot to do with it! As with all muscles, these tissues respond to the position of the bones they are connected to. For example: when your hamstring group is too tight, it causes the back of the pelvis to shift downward, which in turn pulls on the lower back, typically causing it to hang out in a lengthened position where it will weaken. Often, the result here is back pain and an inability to properly use the pelvic floor and ‘tush’ muscles.

According to the Mayo Clinic, half of all women over age 50 experience pelvic floor weakening.

Weak pelvic floor issues can range from prolapse of the bladder, uterus, or rectum, urinary or fecal incontinence, stress/urge incontinence, and diminished sensation during intimacy.

The opposite situation is too tight or “non-relaxing pelvic floor dysfunction,” symptoms can present as spasms, painful bowel movements, painful intercourse, pelvic pain, radiating pain to the thigh or groin, or SI [sacroiliac] joint dysfunction.

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Both of these scenarios can often be related to the position of the pelvis. Too much tilt in either direction affects the muscles in and surrounding the pelvis. It is vital to get the pelvis balanced back into a neutral position, so the muscles are in a balanced relationship to each other. Having the neutral position restored then allows the mobility of the structures to move and strengthen.

Our pelvic floor works in conjunction with the diaphragm in breathing. Or, at least, it should. When inhaling, the diaphragm and pelvic floor lowers to create the vacuum effect for air to fill the lungs. Then, during exhalation, both the pelvic floor and diaphragm lift. If we simply focus on the breath, many times the pelvic floor functions better as a result.

However, breathing can go awry, and the nervous system can get mixed signals. Fear, anxiety, stress, trauma, and surgery can all affect the natural breathing rhythm. Then the body is in a traffic jam, so to speak. Developing trust in the body to calm the nervous system is one way Pilates can help.

The good news, according to the International Urogynecology Journal, is that researchers found that a 12-week Pilates program can effectively improve pelvic floor muscular strength!

There are certainly exceptions, and when the pelvic floor gets wonky, there are specialized physical therapists to help! We’ve worked with PT specialists at Novant, Baptist, and Cone to assist in the rehab process.

As a Polestar Pilates Education Center, know that we are IN the know on the latest in Pilates research! At Inner Strength, you will learn the proper functioning, and exercises that will effectively both strengthen and stretch the pelvic floor.

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Bold Hues in Traditional Home There are many interior design strategies you can use now without creating added stress and wasting money. First, ask yourself, how do you really LIVE in your space? Use the answer to that question to determine where you should save and where you should splurge. For example, whenever you entertain, do your guests always seem to wind up in your kitchen and den?

This is where you should focus your interior design dollars. Also, it is better to invest in one great piece of furniture, than on a dozen sale priced items.

When selecting accessories and artwork, quality and classic design are best.

Avoid trendy items that are found in the clearance aisle.

Customizing furniture pieces is so easy, as well, and will be money well spent. Manufacturers are becoming more and more accustomed to designers requesting unique and different pieces, not to mention scale. A custom item might be a new ottoman with a fresh fabric for center focus.

Customization can be very practical, if you use inexpensive fabrics such as muslin or cotton, or use faux linen for window treatments and then more expensive “one of a kind” fabrics for pillows and accents. It will make a huge difference to spend your money on the focal points.

We really like artwork that is bright and beautiful, because it can add so much to a room. We have local artists’ work in our showroom.

We are constantly receiving accessories from our market trips and antique travels. Most customers say they love coming into our retail shop because they don’t see what we have in other places. Our retail location frequently has new and exciting home furnishings.

Finally, don’t forget that paying a professional to help with your projects will save you money overall. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been called to help someone who thought they were saving money by going online. Most of the time they find that when the item is delivered, it is not the same size, color, or quality they thought it would be. Then it is timeconsuming and frustrating to return the item. We take pride in the products that we offer. We value the quality and craftsmanship of great design and furnishings. June DeLugas Interiors offers a one-of-a-kind service that will tell the story of your home for years to come.

What have you been thinking about lately for your home: window treatments, remodeling your kitchen or bathroom, new upholstery furniture, pillows, a new rug, or all of these items? Take your time and get professional assistance to help create the

flow and expedite the process. Most customers are overwhelmed when they come to us. They have begun the daunting job of finding all the items they need, and if they have already started the remodeling process, they are really frustrated. If you let us plan and scale the first seed of what will look great and then implement it, I promise you it will go much smoother. What happens is sometimes clients see one piece they focus on in a magazine or online, but can’t find the essential pieces Please that work with it. This is enough to drive any person crazy. We have it all at our fingertips. I have for Our said this before, we start with a scaled drawing and go from there. We look at hundreds of fabrics, Christmas art, furniture, lighting, rugs, paint colors, and Open House accessories to create a complete and perfect November 19th design with no work for you.

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LASTER’S FINE ART & ANTIQUES An eye for beauty & detail!

With their stellar reputation as the place to visit for fine art and antiques in the WinstonSalem area, Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques – that’s the father and son team of Larry and Ryan Laster – are true experts in their fascinating field.

Laster’s carries treasures that will not only enhance your home’s décor, but also keep alive the precious memories and previous family heritage that accompanies each piece when it arrives in their showroom. After serving the Winston-Salem and surrounding community for over 40 years (Larry especially enjoys sharing his background in antiques with local clients), Laster’s is known for their dedication and commitment to excellence, and we’ve come to know their eye for beauty and craftsmanship.

These are items that have been interwoven into the lives of many families – each with its own story – and will now add beauty to the new home of a lucky Laster’s customer!

Ryan points out their extensive inventory of one-of-a-kind pieces – many from around the world – and artwork that has withstood the test of time. Customers know the quality and value of what they discover in the Laster’s showroom, and that includes unique, solid wood furniture, treasured books and maps, timeless home accessories, exquisite china and flatware, and even jewelry pieces. The options of perfect treasures for your own home is endless, because the Laster’s inventory is constantly changing.

That’s what makes the “hunt” so exciting!

Whether buying, selling, or consigning, Laster’s keeps their inventory priced to sell, and offers competitive prices to reach their ultimate goal of each and every customer leaving the store pleased!

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“We do know our customers well,” says Ryan. “We know what will sell!”

In addition to selling fine furniture, antiques, and art (either through direct sales or through consigning, where they work on a 6040 commission, with 60% going to the client), Laster’s is your go-to expert for estate tag sales, and by now you probably know they orchestrated the sale for Maya Angelou’s estate.

Different from an estate auction, an estate tag sale takes place over several days, with everything tagged and priced to sell – from large furniture pieces to the home’s kitchen accessories and table ware, even table linens. If there are special heirloom pieces the family doesn’t wish to part with, but would like to simply appraise, they can handle that as well, along with free, onsite art appraisals.

If you’re not settling an estate, but are simply downsizing, the Laster’s team can step in to help you find a happy home for the furniture and household items you no longer need – and that can include a wide range of items!

Perhaps it’s sterling silver, antique coins, paper money, or a huge collection of maps and prints, or even historical photographs and documents, fine art, family antiques, jewelry, sculptures, and other rare collectibles. Whether you have a particular need or are just in the mood to browse among their beautiful things, Laster’s Fine Art and Antiques is a wonderful place to unwind and discover!

Visit Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques at 664 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, 336-765-5919, Monday through Saturday from 10 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. Follow them on Facebook for updates on estate sales and new shop arrivals, and be sure to bookmark Lastersfineart.com.

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Transportation safety is so important. But often when we think about transportation safety, our minds go to cars and trucks.

And yes, that is the largest part of how people get from one place to another, but not everyone has that option, and some people enjoy walking or biking to incorporate a healthy activity into their daily commute.

It is also a great option for children to use to get to and from school. Unfortunately, there are a lot of safety concerns related to biking or walking in North Carolina. The good news is that the NCDOT has launched a statewide campaign, called Watch For Me NC, as a way to draw attention to these concerns and make bicyclists and pedestrians safer.

According to the Watch For Me NC website, every year over 3,000 pedestrians and 850 bicyclists are involved in accidents with vehicles in North Carolina. It also states that 15% of traffic fatalities that occur on North Carolina roads are made up of bicyclists and pedestrians. These statistics highlight the fact that North Carolina is one of the most unsafe states for walking and bicycling. The NCDOT decided it was time for them to make it clear that we are all responsible for keeping pedestrians and bicyclists safe, in addition to making our roads safe.

This program was started in 2012 and at that time was piloted in Wake, Orange, and Durham counties. Due to its initial success, they have been able to continue to grow the program. Each year NCDOT invites communities across the state to partner with this initiative. In 2018, the program had grown from the three pilot counties to 28 community partners statewide. When a community chooses to become a partner, they receive additional materials and training from NCDOT. It becomes a true partnership, where the program works to make sure the community is able to have the tools and training to successfully implement the program.

The Watch For Me NC program has two very important directives. The first focus is to educate bicyclists, pedestrians and drivers. The education component makes a slew of resources available to the public. Their website includes links to materials from PSAs to bumper stickers and more.

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statistics and frequently asked questions that relate to bicyclist and pedestrian safety. NCDOT encourages all communities to utilize these resources, whether they partner with Watch For Me NC or not, to help encourage bicycle and pedestrian safety.

The second focus is statewide enforcement effort by local police agencies. Their high visibility enforcement efforts are led on a local level. The program will work with area police departments to help them reduce traffic safety violations. They also list all the laws related to bicycle and pedestrian safety on their website. You can see the laws listed as they relate to driver laws, pedestrian laws, and bicyclist laws. Informing the public of the laws also helps local law enforcement reduce traffic safety violations. Using this twofold strategy of education and an enforcement effort creates the most successful program possible.

The website for Watch For Me NC is very informative. You can find so much information about the program, including crash statistics and safety resources.

All the program materials are accessible from the website, too.

You will also find links to resources and programs that are aimed at increasing transportation safety around schools, including Active Routes to School, SafeKids NC, Let’s Go NC and more.

If you would like more information about Watch For Me NC, you can visit their website at watchformenc.org. You will be able to access all their materials, as well as find information on how to help bring this program to your community.

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Luxurious Appetizers

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Turn up the heat this holiday season by providing your guests with these three heavenly appetizers that will grab their attention, yet only take you minutes of actual work to prepare. You’ll have more time to spend with your family and friends, but still be able to enjoy the deliciousness of the holidays. Impress your guests with these three luxurious appetizers to keep the holiday season loaded with sweet and savory goodness.

BRIE & CRANBERRY STUFFED MUSHROOMS

Servings: 12 • Prep Time: 10 minutes • Cook Time: 15 minutes •Total Time: 25 minutes

INGREDIENTS:

INSTRUCTIONS:

• 12 baby Portobello mushrooms • 2 tbsp. extra virgin olive oil • 1/4 cup cranberry sauce • 1/2 round brie • 1/4 tsp. black pepper • fresh thyme, for garnish (optional) • walnuts, for garnish (optional)

1. Preheat oven to 400F. Prepare your baking pan by lining it with parchment paper.

2. Remove stems from mushrooms and brush each mushroom cap with the extra virgin olive oil.

3. Slice the brie into bite-sized pieces and place one piece into the center of each mushroom cap.

4. Spoon a generous amount of cranberry sauce on top of the brie. Sprinkle each with black pepper.

5. Bake 15-20 minutes, or until the cheese is bubbling. Optional: Garnish with crushed walnuts and thyme.

RICOTTA & HONEY-ROASTED BUTTERNUT SQUASH BRUSCHETTA

Servings: 15-17 • Prep Time: 5 minutes • Cook Time: 30 minutes • Total Time: 35 minutes

INGREDIENTS: • 1 baguette, sliced into 15-17 crostini • 3/4 cup whole-milk ricotta • 2 tsp. honey

• 1/2 butternut squash, peeled, seeded and sliced into small bite-sized cubes • 2 tbsp. extra virgin olive oil

• zest of 1/2 lemon • 1/4 tsp. sea salt • 1/4 tsp. black pepper • 15 sage leaves (optional)

INSTRUCTIONS: 1. Preheat oven to 425F. 2. Evenly lay out the baguette slices on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Drizzle with a little olive oil and toast until golden brown, about 5-6 minutes.

3. In the meantime, toss together extra virgin olive oil, honey, and butternut squash cubes. Evenly distribute onto a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Bake until tender, about 25-30 minutes.

3. In the meantime, whisk together the ricotta, lemon zest, sea salt, and black pepper.

4. Generously spread an even amount of the ricotta mixture over each crostini. Then, add a generous scooping of the honey-roasted butternut squash.

5. Optional: Cook the sage leaves in a cast-iron skillet for 1-2 minutes with a little olive oil until the edges begin to curl. Garnish each crostini with a sage leaf.

GARLIC PARMESAN TURKEY MEATBALLS

Servings: 20 meatballs • Prep Time: 10 minutes • Cook Time: 20 minutes •Total Time: 30 minutes

INGREDIENTS: FOR TURKEY MEATBALLS:

• 1 lb. ground turkey • 1/2 red onion, finely diced • 1 large egg • 1/4 cup parmesan cheese, shredded or grated • 2 tbsp. fresh parsley, minced • 3 garlic cloves, minced • 1/2 tsp. salt

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INSTRUCTIONS: FOR GARLIC PARMESAN SAUCE:

• 4 tbsp. olive oil • 2 tbsp. flour • 1 cup chicken broth • 1 cup whole milk • 1 tsp. garlic powder • 1 tsp. black pepper • 1/2 cup parmesan cheese, shredded or grated

1. Preheat oven to 350F. 2. In a bowl, mix all of the turkey meatball ingredients together.

Then, use a cookie scoop to get an even amount of meat for each meatball. Roll out about 20 meatballs.

3. Heat about 1 tsp. olive oil in a castiron pan (or another oven-safe pan) over medium heat for 1-2 minutes.

Layer the meatballs in the pan and cook 2-3 minutes per side, until slightly brown and crispy.

4. Bake 12-16 minutes.

5. In the meantime, begin the garlic parmesan sauce by heating up the olive oil in a pan over medium heat.

6. Stir in flour over low heat, then gradually whisk in the milk.

7. Add in the chicken broth and cook until the sauce begins to thicken.

8. Finally, stir in the parmesan cheese, black pepper, and garlic powder.

9. Pour the sauce over the cooked meatballs.

10. Optional: Garnish with fresh parsley and grated parmesan.

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Rosie’s Hallmark The New

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Wow! Have you been in Rosie’s Hallmark on Robinhood Road? You will be pleasantly surprised! Redecorated and remerchandised with upscale, fashionable, and very popular, new brands of merchandise, you won’t know what to buy first! And just in time for the holidays!

Owners Brenda Spicer and Donna Goforth, sisters, bring over 30 years of retail and customer experience to guarantee personalized service for both long time, as well as new, shoppers. Stop by and enjoy the updated look and feel of the store. In addition to the new, exciting merchandise, you will still find the terrific selection of greeting cards, gift wrap, and stationery that Hallmark has always been known for.

You will also find a selection of modern, upscale gift items, jewelry, bags, puzzles, and even fashionable women’s outerwear.

So when you go, be prepared to shop!

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Named in memory of a beloved family member, Rosie’s is currently the only Hallmark in Winston-Salem, and Brenda and Donna work hard to keep it current and popular. They love what they do and experience great satisfaction in seeing happy customers go home with items they know they will love! Brenda has been the full-time face of the store for 23 years, and Donna is now re-joining her to work as a team to serve their valued customers.

Rosie’s Hallmark is a Gold Crown store, an important distinction as it allows them to offer their customers the Gold Crown Card.

This card is free for the asking and rewards customers with special Crown Rewards that come in the form of points earned through in-store and online purchases, which are converted into Reward Dollars good on products at Gold Crown stores and Hallmark.com. Plus, cardholders receive additional offers and coupons when they shop. With the holidays just around the corner, this is the perfect time to become a Gold Crown Cardholder!

WAY, WAY MORE THAN CARDS…

Just some of the cool brands you can shop at Rosie’s Hallmark include Sheila Fajl jewelry, Corksicle, Lumiela personalized necklaces by Mulberry Studio, Myra Bags, and Scout bags and lunch boxes. You will also find The Naked Bee skincare products, and the plant-based dermatologist-tested Frey Laundry Detergent and Air Freshener. Wow! Who knew all this cool stuff was at Hallmark? Well, you know now!

And don’t miss the exciting assortment of fashionable outerwear in the rear of the store!

Raincoats by Charles River Apparel, wraps, tops, and shawls by Coco & Carmen, Charlie Page, Live Happy, and Andre. With cooler weather finally here, you can even check out the beautiful hats and scarves!

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE, 11/8 - 11/17

Rosie’s Hallmark will be hosting their Holiday Open House from November 8th through the 17th. There will be specials on gift wrap and many other popular items. New Keepsake Ornaments will debut during this Open House!

This year’s Ornament Premiere includes the Holiday Parade Ornaments with each ornament featuring a festive snow character driving a delightfully-decorated parade vehicle. Also premiering is the Nutcracker First in Series Prince of the Forest, the first of a series of ornaments, each representing a unique nutcracker kingdom. Stop by and visit Brenda and Donna and enjoy cookies and hot mulled cider while you shop!

There are always specials and promotions going on at Rosie’s Hallmark! For instance, last summer, they ran the “Free Card Friday” promotion, and during Halloween, there will be greeting card promotions to enjoy. So go in and pick up your Gold Crown Rewards Card!

If you want to be treated with exceptional customer service, offered continuous specials, earn Gold Crown Rewards, and shop the latest, cool personal and gift items, go to Rosie’s Hallmark! Brenda and Donna are proud of the family investment of time and service they have made in the store and plan to be in the Robinhood Road store for years to come.

Rosie’s Hallmark is located at 3380 Robinhood Road in the Sherwood Plaza shopping center in Winston-Salem. They are open Monday through Saturday 9:30 a.m. to 6:00 p.m., and Sunday 1:00 to 5:00 p.m. You can call them at 336-760-4070 or visit them on the web at Stores.Hallmark.com.

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You’re Too Much.

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

You’ve been told that you’re too much.

You’re too emotional.

You just need to calm down.

If you weren’t so sensitive.

So loud.

So abrasive.

I’ve heard it all. I’m often too much of something for someone else. For a long time, I used to think something was wrong with me. If only I weren’t so direct, then people wouldn’t tell me I was too much, and I would be like everyone else.

Now, I’ve been told I’m “too much” since I was a kid. It took me well into my 30s to realize this isn’t my problem: it’s someone else’s issue.

If you’re struggling with the same kind of feedback from people in your life, here are a few ways I realized that “too much” wasn’t the problem and how I dealt with it:

CHECK IN

When someone says you’re “too much” of something – or really any of the things that I listed above (or anything that kind of sounds like it) how do you feel? And how did you feel when you were being “too much”? If you were comfortable, happy, joyful, the best version of you – and someone says something, it might very well be their own insecurities and have absolutely nothing to do with you.

CONSIDER THE SOURCE…

Who told you this? Do they have a reason to feel like this? Take a few moments to reflect on what’s going on in their lives. Is there a reason they might not be comfortable with you being yourself? Are they playing small, or living for someone other than themselves?

…AND YOUR JOURNEY

Where have you been? Have you started feeling more confident, more excited

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about your life, or even more like yourself?

Something I hear a lot: when a person in your life changes in any way, it’s like a dance partner changing the steps. It’s going to take a bit of time for your partner(s) to catch up, and sometimes, they don’t like the new dance.

KEEP YOUR GOAL IN SIGHT.

The world is changing for women. I think, now more than ever, we’re getting permission to truly be ourselves. One of the beautiful parts of modern-day feminism: you shouldn’t tell another woman how to woman, and they shouldn’t tell you how to woman. If you’re working on being the best version of yourself, and someone is telling you “Wait, not like that!” there’s a big possibility that they are not looking towards your goals: they are basing what you’re doing off of what they think they should be doing. Keep yours in mind.

CREATE BOUNDARIES OR CUT TIES

I think there are two ways to deal with people who think you’re shining a bit too brightly.

Boundaries are the first: you can limit the time you spend with that person or how you interact with them. Remember, boundaries aren’t there to make anyone feel good: they are there to keep you safe. Set some boundaries with this person if you still need them in your life.

If all else fails, there is little more to do than to cut ties with a person who believes you should be playing smaller than you’d like to play.

While walking away from a person is never fun, sacrificing who you are and who you’d like to be is far less fun – and far less fair.

When we are being the best versions of ourselves, the people around us should see the joy and authenticity that is only present when people are achieving that truth. Shine bright, supernova. You do not need to be a beige, square peg version of yourself.

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BY PHIL RAY, , OWNER OF BEST 4K9

Having a healthy pet presents itself with quite a few challenges, considering that domesticated pets are, unfortunately, following in their human companions’ unhealthy lifestyles.

That’s not an attack on our human friends; it’s the realization that we need to pay more attention to the specific needs of our pets and be more in tune with what a healthy pet looks like, acts like, and how to feed them based on their specific needs.

When you consider that over 50% of dogs and 60% of cats are overweight, that equates to an estimated 50 million dogs and 56 million cats that are too heavy, based on the 2018-2019 pet population projections provided by the American Pet Products Association. Obesity is just one of the leading ailments that dogs and cats suffer from. A quick and easy way to stay on top of your pet’s health is by keeping tabs on a few key items.

1. A Healthy Weight – Excess weight puts stress on joints, organs, and the ability to exercise effectively. Start by rubbing your pet’s side to feel for their ribs. If you can’t feel them, they are most likely holding a few extra pounds. If you can see them without rubbing them, they are on the thin side.

2. Clear Eyes & Ears – Regularly cleaning and grooming the eyes can help your pet avoid infections, relieve allergies, and contribute to their overall health. Ear infections are one of the leading reasons for vet visits, so contact your vet for symptoms of excessive ear scratching, head shaking, ear or eye discharge, and odor.

3. Clear Skin & Coat – A healthy, shiny coat is a sign of good health, proper nutrition, and a properly working immune system. If your pet suffers from excessive fur loss, chronic skin irritation, redness, and foul odors, a visit to the vet is most likely needed. Just like you, proper grooming and skin maintenance speaks volumes in maintaining a healthy coat and can help keep tabs on food intolerance and possible underlying allergies.

4. Healthy Teeth & Gums – Good oral hygiene starts with a good diet, healthy chews, and a consistent dental regimen. Chew toys can satisfy your dog’s natural desire to chomp while strengthening their teeth, massaging the gums and helping to keep their teeth clean by scraping away soft tartar. Once a week, examine your dog’s gums and teeth. The gums should be pink, not white or red, and should show no signs of swelling.

Their teeth should be clean, without any brownish tartar.

And if those pooch kisses start to smell a little bad, it’s time to get the vet involved.

5. Good Energy – And lastly, a good energy level is a good indicator of a healthy animal, one that is active and shows no reluctance to move, which may indicate illness or injury. Of course, just like us, we tend to slow down as we grow older, but having a pet with a proper weight, supporting it with a healthy diet, and giving it plenty of opportunity to burn off some excess calories is a recipe for a healthy and happy pet.

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Kinnaman’s Furniture Transforms into

Your Home MarketPlace

BY JULIE FRITZ

When you are shopping for home furniture and decor, you want to find pieces that fit your unique style. Things that won’t just find a place in your home, but will showcase who you are and match the design elements you enjoy. The same thing goes for buying gifts. You want to find things that people will cherish and will bring them joy, but that are also unique to their personal style. What if there was a place that was designed with all of this in mind? A place you could find the perfect pieces to accent your home and unique gifts you can share with others.

Your Home Marketplace, a new vendor space and shop, brings you all of this and more.

For the last 22 years, Michelle and Nikki Kinnaman have been coowners of Kinnaman’s Furniture on Stratford Road. This motherdaughter team has built a wonderful business bringing unique furniture and decor to the people of this community. And even though they still had a great business with a very strong following, Nikki was ready to retire. Nikki said, “I have loved being a part of this business for the last 22 years, but it is time for me to enjoy my retirement. Michelle, my daughter, still wants to keep the spirit of Kinnaman’s alive, but has the vision to update the space and bring a unique marketplace experience to this community.” And what a vision it is.

Since Kinnaman’s Furniture was such a popular place that everyone loved, lots of people were very sad to see it go, but Your Home Marketplace does not disappoint. Michelle’s concept is truly unique, and there are pieces of Kinnaman’s throughout the Marketplace.

Michelle said, “We wanted to create a place where we could bring together quality curated vendors and national and local artisans – to provide a place where you could find quality furniture, home decor, artwork and gifts that would be unique to an individual’s sense of style.

We also kept five vendor spaces for Kinnaman’s Furniture so people who have loved and supported us for 22 years could continue to find the quality pieces, at exceptional prices, that they have come to expect from the Kinnaman name.” And that is exactly what they have done!

When you walk into the new Your Home Marketplace, you will be instantly impressed by the updated style of the shop. They have embraced a bright, fresh, farmhouse style with light colors and shiplap walls. The space itself is quite beautiful. What looks like a quaint space from the front of the building is actually 11,000 square feet of space.

It is so much bigger than you would think, and is now filled with 69 vendors, each one more unique than the last. As you move through the space, you can’t help but notice the variety of offerings that are available.

Michelle was careful to select vendors who each bring a unique quality to the marketplace. They all come together to create a community that works together like a family and have created a space that feels like home. If you are looking for furniture and home decor, you will find quality items in many styles, including Farm House, Southern Traditional, Classic Vintage, and Vintage Modern. In addition to beautiful furniture pieces and decor, there is a variety of artwork available. You will find lots of local artists from painters and photographers to seasonal crafters. There are paintings of local places, original art, handmade wreaths for all seasons, handmade soaps and candles and much, much more. One vendor space is dedicated to

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handmade pet clothing and gifts, while another features the most beautifully unique handcrafted critters. There are a few vendors who bring in items you can purchase from around the world.

A vendor offers handmade African baskets of which a portion of the proceeds goes directly to help women prosper in Africa. Michelle wants you to know, at Your Home Marketplace, there is something for everyone. “We have such a unique experience in store for you here. We can help you find furniture, home decor, and gifts for everyone. If there is something special you are looking for, you will probably find it here.”

Your Home Marketplace Christmas Open House is Saturday, November 9th, from 10 am to 6 pm. Plan on joining them for door prizes and vendor specials.

Your Home Marketplace is located at 670 South Stratford Rd. in Winston-Salem. They are open Monday-Saturday from 10 am to 6 pm and Sundays from 1 pm to 5 pm. For more information, you can call them at 336-659-0099 or visit their website at yourhomemarketplacenc. com. You can follow them on Facebook and Instagram. Instagram is updated daily with pictures of the latest marketplace treasures.

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THE TOP 10 REASONS TO VISIT PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON

BY DENISE HEIDEL

When it comes to a haircut, most people fall into one of two camps. Either they don’t care who does it as long as the cut is good. Or they are incredibly particular about who they allow to touch their hair. Thankfully, Paparazzi Hair Salon addresses both points of view. There are many great reasons to visit Paparazzi Hair Salon. However, despite the many reasons why you should go, we’ve focused on the top ten.

1. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON IS FAMILY-OWNED.

Clemmons, NC is home to a strong entrepreneurial spirit, and Paparazzi Hair Salon is no different. Husband and wife team, Jason and Bobbie Skinner, opened the salon in 2013. From the start, they knew they wanted to have a family-owned business that would support a family of stylists and a family of customers. “We are very busy with our two girls,” shared Bobbie. “Our daughters keep us busy, so we wanted our business to allow us the flexibility to do business our way, while serving our customers the best way we knew how.”

Besides, family dynamics allow Jason and Bobbie to concentrate on what they do best. Jason is behind-thescenes handling marketing and business while Bobbie is a stylist who oversees the operation.

2. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON IS A FULLSERVICE SALON WITH WEEKLY SPECIALS.

Whether you need a cut, color, or perm, Paparazzi Hair Salon can do it all. They even offer specialty services such as Botox for Hair; Olaplex Treatments; Wellaplex Treatments; Nioxin Scalp Renew; and Keratin Treatments.

What does all that mean? It means this team collectively has over 145 years of experience in training in how to properly maintain and care for their customers’ hair. But for a better definition of these full-service treatments: • Botox for Hair is a deep conditioning and smoothing treatment. Just as Botox is known to combat signs of aging, so can Botox for Hair reverse years of damage to your hair. Botox for Hair leaves it lustrous, frizz-free, and manageable for several months after treatment.

• Olaplex Treatment protects hair from chemical damage.

It makes hair stronger, healthier, and shinier.

• Wellaplex Treatment helps hair that has been weakened and damaged by extensive coloring. It helps build up the structure of the hair, leaving it soft and smooth.

• Nioxin Scalp Renew helps remove build up on the scalp. Comparable to a facial for your scalp, the Nioxin Scalp Renew allows for scalp rejuvenation and enables the hair to grow stronger and healthier.

• Keratin Treatment is a way to smooth and de-frizz the hair without changing the texture of the hair.

In addition to a full menu of services, Paparazzi Hair Salon offers weekly specials, including the very popular “Manly Monday” where men can get a cut for $12 each Monday. On Wednesdays, customers can enjoy $5 off a brow waxing for “Wow Brow Wednesdays.” Other specials can be viewed on Paparazzi’s website!

3. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON HAS A REPUTATION FOR EXCELLENCE.

Word of mouth is always a stylist’s best friend, but for Paparazzi Hair Salon, the accolades pour in. Those who want others’ feedback before entrusting their hair to someone new should feel confident after reading glowing review after glowing review on Facebook, Google, and other online review platforms. Paparazzi Hair Salon customers frequently state that the staff is “friendly and knowledgeable,” “professional,” and the salon is a “wonderful environment.”

“We know the importance of a great recommendation,” shared Bobbie.

“When we say we want our clients to feel and look their best, we mean it. We want them to leave with a smile on their face, feeling good about themselves! Our commitment to that goal has earned us many loyal customers; we are grateful!”

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4. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON HAS A WELCOMING ENVIRONMENT.

Bobbie shared, “Our team is committed to the art of hair care but just the proper amount of Southern hospitality. We are proud of our salon.

We take care of it so that it’s always pretty and clean.

“Our lobby area,” Bobbie continued, “is comfortable and has a long table with bistro-stools to sit on and flip through a magazine or even work before an appointment. For those who want to sit in a more comfortable chair, we have those, too.”

Don’t be surprised either if you’re offered something to drink when you sit down. Paparazzi customers are treated as guests, and the team never forgets their manners!

5. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON OFFERS COMPLETE HAIR CARE FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY.

Paparazzi Hair Salon is an excellent place for the whole family. It’s an environment where both men and women feel comfortable. It’s not uncommon to see the entire family arrive for haircuts at the same time.

This whole-family convenience is a lifesaver for many on-the-go families.

With walk-in haircut appointments as an option, a family member can easily tag-along, and it’s a one-stop, win-win for everyone.

6. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON OFFERS ONLINE BOOKING. Few things are as frustrating as needing to make a hair appointment when it’s after hours, then believing the lie you tell yourself that you’ll remember to call in the morning. Ultimately, what usually happens is you forget again until it’s after hours. It’s a vicious, frustrating cycle that you just know your gray roots are laughing over!

But Paparazzi Hair Salon has made it easy. Their customers don’t have to wait for business hours to book their appointment. Appointments can be booked either on the website (PaparazziHairSalon.com) or through the Paparazzi Hair Salon Facebook page.

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7. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON HAS A STRONG SOCIAL MEDIA PRESENCE WHERE THEIR WORK IS FEATURED EVERY WEEK.

The stylists at Paparazzi Hair Salon love making their customers feel good and, as the name implies, getting them “camera ready.” With that in mind, they frequently take “after” pictures of their customers, and post on social media. Their Facebook and Instagram accounts are continually updated, meaning that customers can see a recent portfolio of their work.

“Social media has been great for us,” said Bobbie.

“It enables us to keep an ongoing library of the styles and looks we create. From cuts, colors, treatments, and up-dos, we have a whole catalog of work available on Facebook and Instagram.”

8. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON OFFERS THE BEST “HAIRAPY” IN TOWN!

“Hairapy” is defined by the urban dictionary as a place where you can go to be listened to, without being bogged down with advice, while having your hair done at the same time. It’s a stereotype that is applied to many in the cosmetology industry and memorably featured in “Legally Blonde” when a distraught Elle sought comfort at a salon versus a therapist.

While the team at Paparazzi Hair Salon are not licensed counselors, they are great listeners.

When you just need a pick me up, as opposed to true counseling, Paparazzi Hair Salon is an excellent place for some true hairapy!

9. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON HAS BEEN RECOGNIZED FOR ITS SERVICE.

Despite still being a relatively young salon of only six years, Paparazzi Hair Salon has received the 2017 and 2018 Reader Choice Awards from the Winston-Salem Journal.

“We’ve been fortunate,” said Bobbie. “Our customers have built our business, and through their efforts, we’ve received several awards, including recognition from Yelp.”

Additionally, Paparazzi Hair Salon has been recognized in both 2018 and 2019 by Expertise.com as a best hair salon in Winston-Salem. This recognition is based on more than 25 variables across five categories.

10. PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON IS COMMITTED TO ONGOING TRAINING IN THE SCIENCE OF HAIR CARE.

“The hair care industry is ever-changing,” explained Bobbie. “Our team knows how important ongoing professional development is. Being on top of the latest trends and techniques is crucial to both our individual success as professional stylists and our salon’s overall success as a business. With that said, we frequently attend workshops and conferences.”

Indeed, the Paparazzi Hair Salon team has access to some of the top educators in the industry, and as Wella professionals, they have been trained by the experts at Wella, including training at the elite Wella Studio in New York.

Visiting Paparazzi Hair Salon is an experience not to be missed. And as loyal customers can attest, this top ten list is only the beginning. Discover Paparazzi Hair Salon for yourself and add your own reason why you need to schedule another visit!

Paparazzi Hair Salon is located at 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court in Clemmons. Call them at 893-7169. Visit online at PaparazziHairSalon.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram! Walk-ins are welcome!

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Interpersonal Communication 101

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN Interpersonal communication can be the absolute best part of your day or the absolute worst. Since it’s simply the exchange of information between two or more people, it’s often overlooked when it comes to professional development training. A master class in conversation? Nah. Truth be told, we’re not great at this, and people are getting worse. Blame social media, busy schedules, whatever – people are not getting better at exchanging information. Between misreading emails, misunderstanding conversations and just not listening to people’s body language, we’re missing a lot, and not always thinking about the message we’re sending to another person. Here are three quick ways to start working on your interpersonal communication:

SLOW DOWN

Everything is moving 100 miles per hour and will only get faster as we speed towards the holidays. Between parties and networking and travel and dinners – we need to slow it down and take a breath. Whether we are speaking, reading, listening, or writing, slowing down will only allow you the time to not only proofread (or think about what you’re saying!), it will also allow you to be more thoughtful in your communication.

When you’re moving too fast, you miss information, say things incorrectly and fail to fully process what’s happening around you. By simply taking a moment and a breath for yourself, you get rid of some of that nervous energy that crops up when we are trying to do far too much. The less nervous energy in your communication, the more someone will want to listen to you.

THINK ABOUT YOUR AUDIENCE

Who are you talking to? If you are giving the same message to everyone in the same way with the same tone, cadence, and vocabulary, chances are you might be missing some of the meaning and connection. Would you talk to a firstgrader in the same way you’d talk to a high school student? Same difference.

Consider your audience when you’re communicating. What’s going on in their lives? What do they need out of this

communication, and how can you best reach them? If that’s adding some small talk moments at the beginning of a big ask, then talk about the weather, the family, a snack, or plants. If they are as busy as you might be, don’t be afraid to cut to the chase to be mindful of their time. Consider who you’re talking to and what they might need or want out of the communication. You’ll get a better result if you’re not just talking at someone – be sure you’re talking to someone and someone specific.

THINK ABOUT YOUR MESSAGE

What are you saying? Remember that whole “slow it down” point? The person you’re communicating with is probably busy, too, with a million things happening this season, so think about making your message as tight as possible. When you think about what you want out of communication or conversation, you end up at the point that much faster. Even if all you want is to catch up with another person, you then have a goal for your message and conversation. When you have a goal, you can measure success.

If you’re not just chatting to catch up with someone, this is the most important of all three tips. We’ve all been in that conversation where the other person is going so far off track (and maybe even been the other person!), and you have no idea why this person is even talking to you – and BAM! Suddenly they hit you with an ask or information that seems to come out of nowhere.

Don’t blindside people. Think about your message before you run so far from it that getting back on track feels like a sudden impact.

Start using these three ideas in your next interaction, digital or in person, and start leveling up your interpersonal communication skills.

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Take a Holiday Break & Meet the Experts!

BY MARTIE EMORY

As one of the major elements of their success in the Winston-Salem area, Dr. Scott L. Tucker, Dr. Hampton A. Howell, and the dedicated team at Salem Plastic Surgery know that evoking a certain level of comfort is key to maintaining their loyal client base, along with treating each patient with the confidentiality, understanding, and personal attention they deserve.

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Known for excelling at both cosmetic and reconstructive procedures, the practice gives a 100% team effort to making clients feel well cared for and always welcomed! This November 16, the staff of Salem Plastic Surgery invites you to a fun, festive, and informative event that will highlight their menu of nonsurgical services, introduce their experts, offer specials on services and products, and provide a much-needed break from your holiday preparations!

From 11:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. that Saturday, take some well-deserved time for yourself and explore new options for your face and body in the New Year! With a festive brunch by Famous Toastery – including wine and mimosas -- goodie bags, and fun prize drawings, it will also be an amazing opportunity to meet members of the Salem Plastic Surgery staff.

Plus, you’ll be receiving the very best specials of the entire year on this one day!

Esthetician Sherri Harvey will provide mini consultations on everything from laser skin rejuvenation and rejuvapen micro-needling, to chemical peels. Product representatives will do free mini consultations on skincare, Botox, and Coolsculpting, and you’ll have a chance to compare before and after photos of both surgical and non-surgical procedures, and learn more about the benefits of each.

Donna Langley, RN, and nurse injector, will offer mini consultations on Botox and other injectables, along with AquaGold, a medical-grade treatment and alternative to more invasive skin treatments.

During each consultation, Donna will discuss with patients how to identify their exact needs, and customize their solutions.

The event will also introduce -- and demonstrate -- Emsculpt, an impressive new piece of equipment recently purchased by Salem Plastic Surgery that has proven successful for both women and men who want to build muscle and sculpt their bodies.

“It’s a great option for building muscle, toning, and re-contouring the abs, thighs, butt, and arms,” says Dr. Scott Tucker. “It’s a thirty-minute session with no down time, and equivalent to doing 20,000 sit-ups.”

This non-invasive procedure works by inducing powerful muscle contractions, which the muscle tissue must adapt to with deep remodeling of its inner structure.

Then, for some last-minute beauty tips to highlight your holiday season, stylist and colorist Rachel Robinson from The Escape Salon will be showcasing Jane Iredale make up, as a treat for event attendees.

Mark your calendar for November 16 and plan to join the staff of Salem Plastic Surgery for this special event, and visit them online at salemplasticsergery. com to learn more about their many services to help you achieve your very best! Salem Plastic Surgery is located at 1345A Westgate Center Drive in Winston-Salem, 336-768-8483.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense 4th Quarter Financial Checklist

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BY MIKE MCGILVARY, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

As we approach the end of 2019 (hard to believe!), the team at Marzano Capital Group wants to put emphasis on a handful of important items when it comes to personal finance. Together, we feel that reviewing the five bullet points below with a team of financial professionals can add value to your overall situation:

BENEFIT CHANGES AT WORK

The window for open enrollment and workplace benefits typically lands on November 1st of each year.

It is important to know what changes may affect your healthcare coverage and retirement plan benefits (401(k), 403(b), SIMPLE IRA, etc.). Employers may change certain aspects of your healthcare insurance or retirement plan, so please do not gloss over those.

Always get a second opinion if you are unsure!

Many employers also offer life and disability insurance during these open enrollment windows. If you had a life change during 2019; such as the birth of a child, new purchase of a home/property, or changes in income, it could be beneficial to add some coverage through your employer as premiums can be very reasonable.

BENEFICIARY REVIEW

Performing a beneficiary review on your financial accounts is always a great idea! In the event something unexpected were to happen to you, it is important that your assets transfer to the ones you currently intend them to go to.

Make sure your retirement plan at work, additional investment accounts, bank accounts and life insurance have the proper information listed under beneficiary designations.

We recommend performing this review every year. If you are unsure how to review your listed beneficiaries, please reach out to a financial advisor. They should be able to point you in the right direction!

BE AWARE OF GAINS & LOSSES

As an investor, you should be cognizant of how much you have realized in gains and/or losses inside your non-retirement investment accounts. It is a financial advisor’s job to help try and grow your assets, but it is also important to be prepared for any taxable consequences at tax time. Know that measures may be taken in certain cases to try to achieve this in a more tax-efficient manner. Ask your financial advisor about your realized gains and losses as you prepare for year-end.

Now this is a good time to involve your tax professional. Allow you financial advisor and tax professional to work as a team in an effort to make sure that you aren’t caught with any surprises come tax time!

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REQUIRED MINIMUM DISTRIBUTIONS

If you turned age 70 ½ during 2019, you are now considered Required Minimum Distribution stage per the IRS. This means you are required to take dollars out of your retirement accounts (IRAs, 401(k)’s, 403(b)’s, etc.) this year and every year moving forward. Please make sure you do not overlook this, as the penalty can be rather steep if you do not take your RMD. Your investment team should help you keep up with this. It may be time, at this stage, to consider consolidating your IRAs to one custodian to help keep up with what amount you must withdraw.

Another topic that investors should consider as it relates to Required Minimum Distributions is charitable giving. Take time to speak with your financial advisor and tax professional about Qualified Charitable Distributions (also known as QCDs).

They should be able to determine if this is an appropriate option for you and/or your spouse. Doing a QCD can help fulfill your duties to take money from your IRA by donating it directly to charity and eliminate the 1099 on the donated amount.

ACCESS RISK

Last, but certainly not least, please take time during your year-end portfolio review to ask your investment professional about the risk level of your investments. Your team of investment professionals should utilize tools that clearly articulate this to you. It is important to know roughly how much downside and upside you can expect in different market conditions.

These items certainly do not cover everything, but they are a great starting point! At Marzano Capital Group, we feel this article can serve as a great financial outline for a successful 4th quarter. It is important to be holistic in your planning.

Having a great team of professionals behind you can build confidence that you are continually keeping track of what needs updating and monitoring.

Have a great end of your year!

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SIMPLY SOUTHERN Feasting CUISINE: The Starts Here!

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1. You can stop by and pick up dinner hot, or pick up dinner frozen. The choice is yours, whatever suits your hectic holiday calendar.

2. If your gift list overflows with hard-to-buy-for friends and relatives, a gift card to Simply Southern Cuisine can save the day! Available in any denomination, gift cards are perfect for older relatives, or young mothers, who can always use a helping hand around meal time.

3. Do you need a delicious main dish or a luscious dessert to serve at a weeknight gathering for out-of-town relatives?

Pick up their family-size meals hot and ready to eat, in 9 x 11 pans which serve approximately 20 people.

4. When you’re in charge of planning a holiday meal for your office, Simply Southern Cuisine offers completely catered meals for ten people and up.

5. The catering menu offers a variety of melt-in-your-mouth options for large family gatherings during the holidays as well, and yes, Simply Southern Cuisine will deliver right to your home!

It’s November, the holidays are upon us, and who isn’t carrying around a detailed list or two?! While you’re putting together your gift list for others, consider a “wish list” for yourself – including ways to make your holiday happenings less stressful and much more enjoyable!

At the top of your personal wish list should be the phone number for Simply Southern Cuisine in Clemmons. Family owned and famous for homemade goodness in every dish, consistent quality, and the absolute freshest ingredients, owner Lisa Miller knows good food, and her goal is to become a tasty part of your holiday traditions.

Besides the standard favorites of turkey and ham, their number one seller – chicken pie – is a warm taste of comfort and home, as is their Swiss chicken, baked spaghetti, macaroni and cheese, and a medley of wonderful homemade desserts that cater to every sweet tooth!

Now that we have your attention, we’re sure committing to memory these “Top 10” reasons to count on Simply Southern Cuisine this holiday season will bring you back again and again, for the best homemade dishes you didn’t need to toil over – but will be ultra proud to serve your family!

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6. For the star occasions -Thanksgiving and Christmas -- they offer complete ham and turkey dinner options for six guests or 15 – ready for you to pick up (fresh or frozen) the day before Thanksgiving or Christmas – and cooked in the comfort of your own home!

7. If you have aging parents, Simply Southern Cuisine has single-serving sizes of their favorite dishes, ready to pop in the oven and take another task off your to-do list. (A great idea for the winter months, too, when they have difficulty getting out.)

8. Stop fretting over neighbor gifts this year: Think chocolate chess pie, pecan pie, banana pudding, or chocolate chip cheesecake to bring a little holiday cheer.

9. When it’s time to send your college students back to campus after the holidays, seeing them off with homemade meals is the best way to show your love.

(We guarantee you’ll receive a grateful call or text one night when you least expect it!)

10. Grab an extra serving of YOUR favorite dessert, to enjoy after a long day of shopping, and thank Simply Southern Cuisine for being part of your most delicious holiday memories!

A go-to for mouth-watering meals year-round, but an absolute must for the holidays, Simply Southern Cuisine is located at 3570-C Clemmons Rd. in Clemmons, NC. For more information, call 336-712-4636 or visit their website at MySimplySouthern. com, where you can click on the Holiday Menus tab for ordering details. Saturday, November 23 is the Thanksgiving deadline for ham, turkey, and desserts, and the Christmas order deadline is Thursday, December 19. Visit Lisa, Vickie and Jeana at the store Monday through Friday 10am - 6pm, and Saturday 10am - 5pm.

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Accessorizing for the Holidays

RECIPE FOR A THANKFUL LIFE “Rejoice in the family and friends that surround you, as crazy as they may sometimes be. Remember, some have only themselves as they walk through this life.

Give thanks for the simple things, the traditions handed down from generation to generation.

Be thankful for what you do have instead of lamenting about what you have not achieved or yet obtained.

Acknowledge your talents as blessings and share them with the world.

Live in the moment with the people that cross your path, give thanks for the lessons they bring you.

Our homes are our sanctuaries from the world. Be thankful for them and the family, friends, and loved ones who walk through the doors as they enrich our lives and feed our souls as no money or food possibly can.” ~ Author Unknown

Do you ever feel Thanksgiving gets lost between Halloween and Christmas? Giving thanks was so important to our forefathers that they made it a national holiday. As you gather with family and friends to celebrate this Thanksgiving, take time to honor the day with thankfulness and gratitude.

As I approach this season of Thanksgiving, I am reminded of all the blessings in my life. Being a part of this wonderful magazine is one of those blessings and so are you. To my wonderful clients who trust me to assist them in making decorating decisions for their homes, thank you.

It is my pleasure to encourage you to create a beautiful home and I am thankful for the opportunity.

Many of you will begin decorating your home for the upcoming holiday season this month. Just a few reminders for accessorizing: 1. Arrange accessories in odd number groupings. Even one large accessory works in the right space.

2. Vary the heights of the accessories in the grouping. Don’t forget: if an item isn’t tall enough, you can use books or a box to raise the item.

3. Group like items together rather than scattering them throughout the room. For example: keep your collection of Santas together for more of a visual impact. I have a collection of Christmas photos of our family in pretty frames that I like to display together. It’s fun to see how we have changed through the years.

4. Corral items on a tray as a centerpiece on your table, ottoman, coffee table, sofa table, etc. This showcases the items. Especially on your dining table, it is a great alternative to a single centerpiece.

5. Include plants and flowers to add life, color, and texture to your groupings.

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6. Use large scale accessories if your rooms are large. Small items will just get lost in your rooms.

7. Create backdrops for your accessories on bookcases, shelves, mantles, china cabinets, etc., by using platters, plates, mirrors or trays….even plate chargers.

8. Resist the urge to fill every inch of the shelf and tabletop space. The eye needs a place to rest, and this will also help you to focus and enjoy the other accessories.

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IT’S NOT THE

HOLIDAYS WITHOUT CHRISTMAS MOVIES

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Did you know that the Hallmark Channel is premiering 40 original movies during this year’s “Countdown to Christmas”? This record-breaking number is just an example of the love viewers have for these classic movies. In fact, Lifetime is now catching onto this craze that began on Hallmark in 2009, but that’s another story. Shortly before Halloween, and going up through the New Year, the Hallmark Channel shows nonstop, 24/7 Christmas movies. That’s right, you can wake up in the middle of the night and a Christmas movie will be on. This extensive marathon is another reason why people love all of the “Countdown to Christmas” movies. So, what exactly about these films make them so beloved? Let’s take a look.

• Hallmark Channel prides itself on showing Christmas movies that are carefree, family-friendly, and tell a happy holiday story. If there is a conflict in the show, it is solved within two hours. After all, isn’t this what many people want to watch during the holidays? A happy, joyful movie without any sadness, cursing, or violence? Think about the beloved Christmas classics, such as Miracle on 34th Street or It’s a Wonderful Life. These films draw viewers back to the meaning of the holidays, just like the “Countdown to Christmas” movies do.

• As mentioned above, Hallmark movies are family-friendly, for any age.

Parents and guardians can feel safe to sit down and watch a story about a town struggling to carry on their annual Christmas festival without having to hide their young children’s eyes. Viewers, young and old, can all enjoy a meaningful holiday movie together. Some of my favorite memories include watching Hallmark Christmas shows with my grandmother.

• There is a sense of familiarity and comfort with Hallmark’s simple yet predictable format. The holidays are all about traditions, reminiscing about old memories, and spending time with loved ones, family and friends. Within the first five minutes of most “Countdown to Christmas” movies, a viewer can guess what will happen and how the movie will end. However, as part of this predictable format, a person knows the main character will have supporters, such as family members or friends, a happy ending, and moments of doubt and hope. These movies’ plots reflect this time of the year and its “values.” Some may call them “cheesy,” but don’t we all love cheesy movies?

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• Another resemblance to the holidays, these movies are mainly set in a winter-wonderland, a.k.a. they are shot in Vancouver, Canada.

All the elements of a true Christmas story are included. We see actors and actresses sipping on hot chocolate, eating Christmas cookies, decorating Christmas trees, walking through snow while bundled up in sweaters, boots, and scarves. “Countdown to Christmas” movies describe what most people think and want for a perfect holiday. They fill a void in a person’s life.

• While a majority of the movie is perfect, there is always a conflict or challenge the main character goes through that viewers can connect with. Whether it is getting downsized, losing your Christmas spirit, or being disconnected from a family member, the Hallmark Channel takes these situations and turns them into the positive. Therefore, the audience members, who might be dealing with similar challenges, are given hope.

Hallmark Channel’s “Countdown to Christmas” movie marathon is a unique and special tradition, especially for a cable television station.

Every year, millions of people feel at home, watching these classic and family-friendly Christmas films. In the article “Why the Hallmark Channel’s Popularity Is Growing Despite Cable Cutters,” author Rachel Carrington states, “There’s a reason why the channel refers to itself as the Heart of TV. There is little ugliness to be found on these shows and movies. You can always find a smile on the faces of the characters, even though there may be some tears as well. But there’s not a lot of arguing and disagreements. What disappointment you find is often fleeting, as is the sadness, because Hallmark knows we watch to be uplifted. Hallmark Channel is, indeed, a happy place.”

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PUBLIC SPEAKING BOOT CAMP:

Deer in the Headlights

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Public speaking. It’s a skill that can make or break your career path. If you freeze up every single time you talk and can’t express yourself clearly and authentically, you’re going to be held back. Communication is incredibly important in every single career, and public speaking is still one of the highly feared tasks for many people.

Before you say, “I’m just not good at this,” or “I don’t need more skills!” take a step back and take a deep breath. Over the past few issues, we’ve run a public speaking boot camp to level up your public speaking skills. Whether you’re ready for your first meeting or first TED Talk, these skills will start the trajectory to you being the best version of yourself. Last month we discussed being in the moment with a brain lock and before that, warming up. Both are critical skills, but what happens when things seem to always go wrong? Then what?

This month we’re focusing on preventing those Deer-inHeadlight moments. Sure, life always happens, but speaking is still a skill, and skills can always be improved and refined.

Here are three easy ways to build your skills to limit those “let’s crawl under a rock” moments:

MAKE NOTES, NOT A SCRIPT

When you’re working on what you want to say, make notes, not a script. If that’s hard for you, work backwards if you have time: write a script, then cut it down to notes. Notes should be keywords and phrases that connect to your larger ideas. They should cue you to remember the larger points – and notes will also make whatever you’re saying more conversational, because you won’t be overly memorized. While we’re on the topic of preparing…

REHEARSE

The best way to get better at public speaking, speaking up, communication skills and the whole gamut? Practice. Not just before, which is imperative: do it as much as you can. The more you do something, the better you get.

The phenomenon of Going Against The Grain is in play here: you do the same thing over and over again, and nothing changes. When you try something new, your performance drops. If you stop doing that “new thing” you don’t grow – but if you keep with it, you rise above past performance.

If practicing with notes doesn’t immediately work, stick with it. This applies to meetings, work conversations, talks – the whole spectrum. Which leads to…

REFLECT

Quick! Channel the last talk you led or meeting you spoke up in! How did it go? What worked, what didn’t? What can you do differently and improve?

When I coach people I always hope I get them before they work through everything they are going to say. Why? Yes, it’s more work, but it helps me caution against making a script.

If you can’t quickly answer these questions, chances are you’re not reflecting.

I might sound a bit like a broken record with this advice, and that’s ok. The more you hear it, the more you’ll do it!

Think about the last talk you gave. Did you write everything out word for word? If you did, you might have forgotten huge chunks: this happens when you memorize just enough to remember word order versus meaning and intent. Try saying the ABCs and skip the letters K, F, R, and M. It’s a struggle, right? Same thing.

Consider feedback: if it doesn’t happen immediately or close to the behavior it’s responding to, it’s not effective. The same is true with reflection. Make a habit of thinking about what went well, what didn’t, and how you can improve. By continually refining what you’re doing, you’ll always be improving.

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Fly Fishing Helps Veterans Overcome Traumatization

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

The peaceful and quiet serenity of nature is encompassed in every aspect of fly-fishing.

From the calming streams to the beautiful natural landscape, fly-fishing is a journey through a moment in time. With the hustle of today’s world, fly-fishing has its own way of closing in that separation between man and God’s marvelous creation, bringing satisfaction to the soul. With that being said, does fly-fishing really help veterans overcome traumatization?

Project Healing Waters is helping these courageous individuals heal remarkably better than medication. Whether one’s disability is physical or emotional, Project Healing Waters offers the opportunity for these individuals to bond with each other as each go through their individual healing process. Whether learning to work with one hand or no legs, they offer every possible device so that the veterans feel that their disability is no longer a disability.

Let’s take a quick peek into the journey of fly-fishing through the eyes of veteran Chris Wikel. Although he grew up fishing all his life, physical injuries sustained while on duty left Chris limited for almost a decade and retiring earlier than he hoped for. About 3 1/2 years ago, an article about the last flyWith bravery and sacrifice, many men and women fishing show in Winston-Salem caught his attention in the Sunday newspaper. join the armed forces to protect our country every It just so happened that the folks of Project Healing Waters were attending day. And a growing amount of these courageous the show. After learning about their program, Chris attended their meetings individuals inevitably winds up with post-traumatic for several years, learning how to build his own fly-fishing rods in the stress disorder (PTSD). According to U.S. News, process. Remarkably, the very first fly-rod that he built won first place at a the suicidal rate of veterans stemming from PTSD national competition with over 1,000 entries, then became the first two-time was 1.5 times higher than non-veteran suicides. On fly-rod winner last year, as well. Now, Chris has been given the opportunity another note, a study by the Veteran Affairs Health to personally mentor ten veterans through Project Healing Waters, which System found that veterans are twice as likely to die he says is far more meaningful than any award. from an accidental opioid overdose compared to nonChris Wikel described fly-fishing as bringing together like-minded veterans. With this in mind, fly-fishing offers a natural individuals who at some point dedicated their lives to protecting and stress reliever to help veterans effectively recover and serving our country. This common bond helps them to continue to live overcome physical and emotional debilitations. out the brotherhood they learned to love. When asked about the magic So how is fly-fishing specifically helping veterans behind fly-fishing, Chris replied, “You are never in an area of God’s overcome PTSD? Instead of becoming easily trapped creation that is not beautiful.” He further explains how fly-fishing in their own mind with a jumble of flooding memories, reintroduces veterans to what’s “important and good in life.” Plus, veterans have the ability to take it all to the water. With what better way is there to spend your day then in a trout stream? the surrounding nature offering tranquility and peace, According to the Recreational Boating and Fishing Foundation, veterans reduce their stress by not having to worry about fly-fishing has become a natural stress reliever for many individuals. competition, fight-or-flight mode, safety, time, and so on.

If you or someone you know is struggling with managing their Fly-fishing requires the utmost concentration, so all problems depression, then find a rod and take a beautiful drive over to tend to fade away into the background during this time, a local streamflow. There is no doubt that you will become bringing tremendous relief to the veteran. On a similar note, mesmerized by the calming streams and become more tying flies brings veterans into their own world where hours can relaxed by the escape of the daily hustle. And pass by without notice, making it very therapeutic. never forget to take the time to show your To let veterans know that they are not alone, there are many nonappreciation for a veteran, even if it profit organizations with programs nationwide that teach classes just is a simple ‘thank you.’ from basic skills for beginners to intermediate classes for previous fishermen trying to learn new skills. For instance, Project Healing Waters provides all equipment, classes, and guided fly-fishing trips at no cost. Serving veterans and disabled active military members,

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Trends or Lifestyle?

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

What do we want out of life? Do we want to impress others or do we want to live for our own purpose? What is going on in the world? What things are popular and what things do people make into a lifestyle? With the media buzzing with the hottest trends to “try now,” it’s no wonder why most folks eventually abandon those trends and hop on the next boat that sails along. Trends don’t last long, and they are rapidly changing with the speed of technology.

Some trends are healthy for us, while others are either unhealthy or just catchy. But are some of the trends swarming around nowadays worthy of adopting as a lifestyle? If so, how do we make those trends a lifestyle?

Why do we follow trends at all and why do we get over them so quickly?

“BUT EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING IT…”

Sure, while growing up we wanted to gain admission to the cool table.

We applied by adopting the latest trends, trying to convince the executive board members of that cool table that we deserved to sit with them.

We follow these trends because it’s easier to do what is currently promoted. Though some folks will argue, a lot of inhabitants in this world would rather follow current trends and be more relatable to the person next to them. They want to sit at the “cool table” of life by doing things that are popular. Growing up in school, we often see other kids being teased because they are the outliers of the student body. They don’t quite fit the mold of normalcy and are picked on for being too quiet, too artsy, too nerdy, et cetera, et cetera. We sometimes tell ourselves, “Man, I don’t want to be on the receiving end of that!” So we try our best to follow the crowd and put a guise on anything that sets us apart. But many of us believe that stage of our lives is shoved into the high school vault of our memories.

But have we really matured out of that stage? I believe this world is only an advanced version of that stage because so many people are still trying to sit at the “cool table.” Perhaps it’s because we genuinely want to keep up the latest trends and fashions, or because we are afraid of getting the public side-eye for being different?

WHEN THINGS BECOME TOO TRENDY…

Nowadays, there are amazing lifestyle habits that are becoming shallow trends. Social media is great at capturing and promoting these kinds of trends by having everyone doing a “monthly reading challenge,” the “30-day vegan challenge,” or the “healthy hair challenge.” The problem with these trends is that they tend to die out and change as quickly as the latest fashions, hairstyles, and technology. This is because the hype over these trends are short-lived and just like tangible trends, people get excited about the next big thing and gravitate towards it.

Promoting such positive habits as trends causes us to look at deeper behaviors superficially. This is problematic because we miss out on the value of actually engaging in these habits and don’t quite enjoy the fruits of taking them on as lifestyles. Do we do this to impress the world by putting on a certain image, or is it something we truly believe will benefit us and add quality to our lives?

FROM TRENDS TO LIFESTYLE

There are actually plenty of trends that are worthy of adopting as a lifestyle. Eating healthy, reading daily, and getting more educated, meditation, and going makeup-free are all quality trends that are capable of becoming a part of our lifestyle.

But how do we find the willpower to do this? It begins with knowing ourselves: knowing what we gravitate towards, what repels us, and distinguishing between what we need versus what we want (sometimes what we want is not what we need!). We need to ask ourselves: “Should I change my hair?” “Should I express myself more with my clothing?” “Should I read more books?”

Sometimes trends speak to us, other times they’re just for enjoyment. Be intentional about what trends you make into a lifestyle!

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s t i b d i T & s p i T LOVE YOUR LIPS!

Lovely, lovable lips are one of a woman’s most attractive features. Pucker and plump up your pretty pout using the right lip care routine and healthy products and recipes guaranteed to make your smacker shine and shimmer sweetly.

Don’t neglect them! Lips are one of the most important features on your face and are always there for you through all your eating, drinking, kissing, singing, chatting, and laughing.

Avoid dry, chapped, split lips. Keep them healthy, and keep on smiling!

KEEP ‘EM COVERED

Skin is thinner on our lips than on other parts of our bodies, so lips are more susceptible to chapping and splitting. With fewer oil glands and no ability to create the sun-filtering natural melanin, lips often stay on the dry side. The solutions? Exfoliate, moisturize, and protect from the sun with SPF 15 or 30+.

Whichever healthy lip care moisturizer you decide on, keep those lips covered as much as possible and use sun protection to prevent harmful UVA/UVB rays from doing any sun damage. Remember that your lips are covered in skin, so they require sun protection. Wearing sun protection on your lips, even on cloudy and cold days, can slow down the aging process and helps lips appear healthy and youthful. Remember to reapply every hour or so. As temperatures become colder and we battle cold winds and snow, lips can become chapped, so cover those lips with nourishing balm before you head out.

DIY LOVED LIPS LIP BALM (HONEY LAVENDER)

INGREDIENTS

• 1 teaspoon avocado oil • 4 teaspoons almond oil • 2 teaspoons honey • 10 grams cocoa butter • 10 grams beeswax • 15 grams shea butter • A few drops of lavender essential oil or essential oil(s) of choice

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DIY Recipes

for Luscious, Luminous & Lustrous Lovable Lips

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Don’t be bashful about donning the balm and keep those babies moisturized! Aloe vera, coconut oil and vitamin E (just crack open a capsule and slather it on) make ideal luscious lip moisturizers.

regularly, gloss solo, or over color. Add lip liner, followed by color, and highlight your bottom lip with a lighter shade to make lips appear fuller.

NO TOUCHING (OR LICKING) POLICY

Try our DIY recipes for homemade lip care products, and make a few extras as gifts!

Creative note: You can recycle empty Altoids containers or even use bottle caps for your lip balms!

Try not to touch your face at all, and leave licking your lips alone. Forgo those bad habits, and your lips (and face) will thank you.

EXFOLIATION SENSATION

Keep those lips healthy and prevent dead cell buildup by gently scrubbing your lips with an exfoliating lip care scrub. It’s time to shed what you don’t need hanging around. Sloughing off dead skin cells gives your lips a glow and keeps them oh-so-kissably soft and smooth. Use a damp washcloth, toothbrush or sugar scrub and be gentle. Remember, you’re not trying to rub them raw; you just want to remove dead skin cells.

TRY DIY

LOVE LIP BALM?

Lucky for you, lip balm is so compact it’s portable and is a must-have for every purse or pocket. Enjoy our DIY recipe for lip balm. Lip balm is da balm!

HYDRATE, HONEY!

Lips are a lot like a sponge, so keep them well hydrated and drink plenty of water. With water, they plump up and retain moisture, but when dehydrated, they shrink and become dry. So, take a water bottle with you when on the go and sip up - it’ll do your lips, skin, and overall health wonders.

PLUMP + PUCKER UP YOUR POUT

With so many different lip products, including balms, tints, stains, glosses, and lipsticks, you’ll never get bored. Use lip balm to condition your lips

INSTRUCTIONS

1. Melt beeswax, cocoa, and shea butter in a double boiler.

2. Stir in avocado oil, almond oil, and honey.

Stir until liquid.

3. Add honey and essential oil(s).

4. Blend ingredients with a milk frother.

5. When medium-thick consistency, pour into jars to set

FRUITALICIOUS LIP GLOSS (4-INGREDIENT WONDER)

Mix 1 package Kool-Aid with 1 teaspoon sugar.

Add 1 teaspoon water and stir to dissolve. Add 1 Tablespoon coconut oil and stir till blended.

Transfer to a small container and let set in the refrigerator.

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Clemmons For All Your Packaging, Shipping & More!

BY VONDA HENDERSON

With the holidays looming on the horizon, it’s time to think about how you’re going to get everything done on your “things-to-do” list. Are you dreading all that packing and shipping to friends and family? Plus, facing the additional stress of making sure their packages arrive on time and in good shape? Mark all that off with one giant checkmark --- take it all to Goin’ Postal Clemmons!

Vic and his team have the packing and shipping skillset for pretty much anything down to an art. “The choice of how to send packages and attention to detail is as important to us as it is to our customer,” Vic explained. “ We treat each customer individually and help them make the best choices on how to get packages, at the holidays or any other time, to their destinations by the fastest and most economical means possible. We ship via Federal Express, United Parcel Service, the US Postal Service, or DHL International on a daily basis. We will have the final ship dates for the holidays posted as soon as they’re available.”

Don’t be concerned about odd-sized packaging needs. Vic shared that they have packaging readily available for guitars and their cases, golf bags, baby strollers, and any other shape. If needed, they are adept at creating customized shipping containers. As good environmental citizens, whenever possible, they reuse materials and environmentally-friendly packing fillers such as air pillows.

Packing fragile items is a routine event for the Goin’ Postal Clemmons team. Double-boxing fragile items, creating an additional buffer, is common to ensure a safe delivery. “Call ahead so we can help with getting your heavy or bulky packages from your car to our counter.”

Shipping and packaging are one of the services offered by Goin’ Postal Clemmons. Yes, they do so much more!

Need a notary? There is always a notary public on-site to provide notary service. As Jean, a frequent customer shared, “The notary service, along with their copy, scan, and document shipping options certainly made it less stressful to handle legal and financial needs in one stop with people I trust. Their handling of confidential documents, ensuring that once processed, they’re immediately deleted from their server, has certainly put my mind at ease.”

Faxing services are still needed in some businesses, more frequently than most realize, and Goin’ Postal is ready with new fax equipment.

Copies? Goin’ Postal offers color as well as black and white copying. Color copies are $0.47/page; black and white, $0.10/page.

To ensure the best quality copy, Vic recommends e-mailing documents as PDF files. Your copies will be ready when you stop by.

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Shredding. What to do with documents you needed for a time, but are now just taking up space? Drop them off at Goin’ Postal into one of their secure, locked containers (be sure to remove binder clips). The cost is only $0.99/lb. Vic contacts a reliable shredding service when the bins are full, and they shred everything on-site.

Mailbox services. Have your mail delivered to Goin’ Postal for pick-up during their office hours, a true advantage for small business owners with home offices.

Digital mailbox service is available, as well. Utilizing ipostal1, Goin’ Postal photographs mail and forwards to clients. Clients review the envelopes and decide how to handle each piece of mail. This service is ideally suited for those who travel extensively, domestically or internationally, but need some means of taking care of personal correspondence and bills.

Other Opportunities: Convert VHS, 8m, super 8, or even photos to DVD. Goin’ Postal coordinates with After Image Video Productions (afterimagevideo.com), who design up to a two-hour DVD with music as appropriate.

Goin’ Postal buys textbooks at competitive prices, as well as video games, and calculators.

Miscellaneous: Goin’ Postal carries basic office supplies. Also, Leanin’ Tree cards are available; select one to include in the shipping container.

Bring the kids. The Goin’ Postal kid-sized table for play and coloring is well-used.

Vic Bragman, Priscilla, and the rest of the staff are ready to lend a hand with and make your day-to-day business needs easier to manage.

Stop by Goin’ Postal in Clemmons located at 6255 Town Center Drive (next door to Mossy’s Sports Bar and Utopia Day Spa). Their hours are Monday through Friday, 9:00 am to 6:00 pm; and Saturday, 9:00 am to 2:00 pm. Contact them by phone at 336.712.0505 or via e-mail (clemmons@goinpostal.com). Follow them on Facebook. They can also be located from the Goin’ Postal website (goinpostal.com by location).

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Building the Foundation

for the Future of Forsyth County

BY BOB FEIKEMA, FAMILY SERVICES PRESIDENT AND CEO

There is clear evidence that pre-kindergarten has a profound impact on children’s learning and a lasting impact on the quality of their lives as adults.

The first five years are a once-only window of opportunity to develop the social, emotional, cognitive, and academic readiness that enables children to succeed later in life. A young child’s brain architecture forms at an astounding rate, with more than one million new neural connections created every second. But it’s not only what’s happening inside the brain that matters. A nurturing and enriching environment is required for optimal brain development, the kind of environment provided by the skilled teachers, and “resource-full” classrooms found in quality Pre-K programs.

Every year there are approximately 4,500 four-yearolds in Forsyth County. While 2,700 are eligible for publiclyfunded Pre-K based on family income, only 1,300 are enrolled, due to insufficient state and local funding. At the same time, middle-class families constantly struggle to find affordable, high-quality Pre-K programs.

In June 2014, Family Services launched The Pre-K Priority, an initiative involving over twenty organizations from the early learning field, with the goal of making quality Pre-K programs available to all four-year-olds in Forsyth County. This initiative assumed even greater urgency when, in 2017, a Harvard study came out that ranked Forsyth County 5th worst out of 2,873 counties nationwide for helping poor children move up the income ladder.

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Quality Pre-K is an effective means for closing the widening opportunity gap for children in Forsyth County. It prepares children to achieve academic proficiency during the elementary school years, providing the foundation for successful learning throughout high school and beyond. A recent Duke University study of more than one million North Carolina public school children confirmed this, finding significant educational benefits from the state-funded Smart Start and North Carolina Pre-K programs.

These findings have been a spur to The Pre-K Priority’s launch of a public education and engagement campaign, with the goal of increasing public awareness and support for quality Pre-K in Forsyth County. Over the coming months, this campaign will show up everywhere—on billboards and buses, on radio and television, in newspapers and on social media. Our aim is to ignite public sentiment and create a movement to make Forsyth County a place that makes smart investments in its young children that will ensure the future vitality and well-being of our community. We are grateful to the Kate B. Reynolds Charitable Trust for funding the public education and engagement campaign.

Through our recent scientific survey of county residents, we found that the vast majority recognize the importance of early childhood education and believe we should be doing more to support quality Pre-K. Our goal is to translate that recognition into a commitment to develop and fund a system of quality Pre-K programs in Forsyth County. The time is now to take this step on behalf of our youngest children. After all, they are the employees, parents, citizens, and leaders of the future.

As we like to point out at the Pre-K Priority, “The future is four years old.”

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Say Yes to “NaNoWriMo!”

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Marathon participants are getting ready for the month-long race. Notes scatter the desk as well as possible outlines.

Shoes, of course, are not necessary nor a regime of heavy lifting or long-distance running. The day, however, is coming close. Once November first arrives, 600,000 people will rush to their keyboards and begin this year’s National Novel Writing Month (aka NaNoWriMo).

STEP #1: COMMIT TO ENTERING THE RACE!

First launched 20 years ago in 1999, the goal continues to motivate writers in the quest of completing a 50,000-word manuscript by midnight on November 30th. That number equates to 1,667 words per day totaling 200 pages. Even if you just guffawed at the mere implication of completing a novel in 30 days, you can join the national movement by writing throughout November.

STEP #2: GO TO THE STARTING LINE. START. DO NOT TURN BACK!

The excuses are what often prevents any task from starting. Take the time to decide where to write, what time to start, and for what duration.

• Accept the arrival of interruptions and delays from your job, family, and household.

• Decide upon a viable time of day to write.

• Eliminate writer’s block by planning either a loose or detailed story structure that includes chapter summaries.

• Set a timer for 20 minutes to build the momentum of writing. Continue to reset the clock.

• Make a promise never to reread or edit, and especially do not delete any paragraphs from the previous day’s work. The goal is to move forward and finish!

• Not everyone can fulfill the expectations of the NaNoWriMo challenge; instead, set a realistic date to finish the book and stick to it!

STEP # 3: CELEBRATING THE MOMENTUM

What are the reasons a novel compels you to pick it up and delve back into the story? Author Alan Gratz decided to write about the themes he loved most as a kid; therefore, he included robot ninjas, ray guns, mind-control, electric cannons, evil monsters, and seven heroes in his Steam-Punk novel, “The League of Seven,” which became a SIBA, Young Adult Book Award Winner in 2015.

The topics that motivate you to weave your words within a story and characters will draw you to the keyboard each day.

The compelling story that drives your passion will become a beloved story for readers, too.

STEP #4: HITTING THE WALL

It happens to the best of authors. They arrive at the middle of the story and find a gaping hole in the plot. J.K. Rowling claimed her plan for the first three Harry Potter books did not fail

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her; however, for the fourth novel, Rowling wrote, “…I should have put that plot under a microscope. I wrote what I thought was half the book, and ‘Ack!’” Author Jerry B. Jenkins stated, “I think getting stuck in the middle of a book is a common thing for nearly every author, writer, and blogger. It happens when your idea is slowing down before it gets to the end or reaches the climax.”

The solution is to: • Commit to writing and tweaking an outline. Most writer’s need to work through tight corners and problems.

• Create a subplot that creates tension, action, and encourages dialogue.

Use your character’s hobbies and interests, talents and natural gifts!

J.K. Rowling, for instance, cleverly used Quidditch to help tie in problems and solutions across the seven books.

• Minor characters help to advance the plot and support the development of the main character. The protagonist’s friends can improve a story through acts of loyalty, compassion, and logical thinking.

STEP #5: THE FINISH

Exhaustion slows a writer down in the final stretch when it is time to reveal the twists, expose the antagonist’s major or fatal flaw, or lead to the heart-racing climax. You may want to: • Write shorter scenes and chapters to increase momentum.

• Create an obstacle to prevent characters from reaching their objective.

• Include minor characters to help lighten the mood or take action to affect the protagonist. a • Allow the underdogs to save the day and shine!

We all have a story within us to tell, whether it involves magical worlds, the Victorian era, current day, or in the future. With practice and daily dedication, the goal to write a book is different for everyone. You never know what may result for you in this year’s National Novel Writing Month; but, first, you must enter the competition!

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Tips for Surviving the Holidays

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

For many, the holiday season can bring a mix of emotions.

For those who are in happy, thriving relationships with wonderful family dynamics, it can be an enjoyable time for all to reconvene. Yet, for many others, this is a time of anxiety and pressure.

First comes the constant barrage of questions: So [insert name here] when are you going to find time to settle down and get yourself a husband? [Insert name here], isn’t it time for you and [insert name here] to go ahead and have those kiddies?

Next, comes the rebirth of arguments from family members who can’t seem to get over “that one time that family member did that thing.”

While this is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year,” for many, it is a roller coaster of content, then depressing feelings.

Sometimes when we see family members, we revert to old childhood patterns which may hurt us and remind us of challenging times. Even if we think we had worked through these patterns, they just can’t seem to stop popping back up. While depression can occur during any time of year, the stress and anxiety during the months of November and December may cause even those who are usually content to experience loneliness and a lack of fulfillment.

On top of the influx of feelings, the holidays are known to be a heavy drinking season. When attending parties, especially if one is already feeling upset, many tend to “overindulge.” This leads to the snowball effect of feeling depressed.

Feeling anxious already at the thought of this season? Rather than simply “grin and bear it,” there are numerous coping methods to overcome holiday anxiety and depression. Read on for five tips for all to ease the barrage that this joyous season can instantly bring.

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TIP #1: ROUTINE, ROUTINE, ROUTINE!

Yes, this season brings on countless schedule changes. However, if you can stick to your normal routine of, at least, exercise, this can help alleviate the anxiety this season supplies.

Do you normally go running in the morning?

Set out on a new trail when traveling for a holiday family visit. Yoga on Wednesdays?

Continue by attending a new yoga studio.

Lucky for all. there are plenty of exercise-onthe-go apps that allows you to attend gym classes everywhere!

TIP #2: DO ALL “IN MODERATION.”

Yes, of course, all should be encouraged to drink in moderation, but what about the other activities that this season brings. From shopping to decorating to eating, we all should strive to not go overboard. Rather than get each of your siblings a gift, think about doing a “Secret Santa” raffle where you only must shop for one sibling. Wanting to decorate the entire outside of your home in lights? Don’t. This not only is a huge electric bill, but there is something stylish of the simple classic wreath. Love the sweets that the holiday parties provide? Rather than enjoying them all, pick one and enjoy after a healthy dinner.

TIP #3: TIME FOR SOME NEW TRADITIONS!

If you go to one relative’s house every year which seems to bring on stress, try switching it up. You could do this by either inviting them to your home or asking another family member to host. The new location can be beneficial if closer to where you live, as well as bring new, happier memories.

TIP #4: GIVE UP UNNECESSARY SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS.

According to the WebMD article, “Home for the Holidays,” there is no need to fill certain roles. “There’s a lot of cultural pressure during the holidays,” the article states. “We tend to compare ourselves with these idealized notions of perfect families and perfect holidays.”

If you have negative feelings, don’t try to reject them. Remember that there’s nothing wrong or shameful about feeling down during the holidays.

TIP #5: STAY CONNECTED.

It is vital to stay in touch with those family and friends who love you during this stressful time. Make sure to leave time to spend with those who value you.

If they don’t live close by, call them for a “reality check” or some “grounding.”

Remember to ask for support if you need it.

Make great memories with your family, and be careful driving.

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PHOTO ARTISTRY

BY MELINDA Specializes in captured moments and memories.

Gift Certificates are available for family portraits, maternity, newborn, weddings, headshots, senior portraits and much more!

See ad on page 131.

HIP CHICS BOUTIQUE Wrap yourself in luxury! The Barefoot Dreams collection features the world’s softest and most luxurious hand-knitted cardigans, sweaters, and accessories!

See ad on page 15.

AERACURA SALON This is the Aveda Damage Remedy Trio available only for the holidays! In this kit, you receive Damage Remedy Shampoo, an intensely moisturizing Damage Remedy Conditioner, and the infamous Daily Hair Repair Leave-In Conditioner. This trio works to visibly reconstruct and improve the integrity of your hair, making your hair feel soft and healthy! 20% off now only at Aeracura Salon located in Reynolda Village, 336.448.0792.

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WOOD & THREAD BOUTIQUE Give the gift of style from home to closet this holiday season.

With gifts ranging from pottery, fragrance, jewelry, and more, we’re sure to have something for everyone on your list.

Wood & Thread is located at 301 Brookstown Ave. Suite 500 in Winston-Salem or give us a call at 336.842.5761.

NOVANT HEALTH VEIN SPECIALIST

LOOK PHOTO READY & FABULOUS! Treat yourself or someone you love to less wrinkles and great photo memories this holiday season. Enjoy our special holiday rate on Botox Cosmetic® and take away years in just a few seconds! Reduce wrinkles, frown lines, forehead lines, and crow’s feet. Our board-certified doctor can help you show off your confident side. This November and December, all clients get our best price on Botox Cosmetic®.

Call for holiday pricing. Gift Certificates available.

Two Locations in Winston-Salem and Kernersville.

336.306.8027, salemveins.com *Treatment must be received by 12/31/19 to qualify for special pricing.

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CAMEL CITY BOUTIQUE Capri Blue holiday candles have arrived and make a perfect gift for anyone on your list!

The classic Volcano scent is loved by everyone!

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BEST4K9 Give the Gift of Grooming for your pet-loving friends and family this holiday! Call now to schedule appointments for your pets and your family’s pets, too!

Meet all of your pets’ holiday needs at Best4k9.

See our ad and informative pet health article on page 46.

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LAUNDRY MATTERS Give your family what matters most during the holidays: time. Laundry Matters delivers a convenient, affordable, and customizable Laundry Pick-up and Delivery Service.

Learn more about Laundry Matters; see story on page 20 and ad on page 45.

ACCENT PRONE We carry a large variety of unique jewelry, with fun fashion pieces starting at $20 to fine handmade pieces that range up to $400. From dainty to bold, we have something for everyone. And don’t forget our complimentary giftwrap to make your shopping easy!

See ad on page 93.

MOJI COFFEE + MORE is proud to provide meaningful employment to individuals with differing abilities in a colorful coffee shop that will leave you with a jolt of joy! Give your loved ones any of our handcrafted art, fresh coffee beans and a mug for home brewing, or our swag – or all of it with one of our gift baskets.

Located on 690 Trade Street, Winston-Salem, open 7am-7pm daily. 336.939.6654.

See ad on page 140.

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AERACURA SALON This is the Aveda Cherry Almond Softening Detangling Gift.

This gift includes our #1 seller, Cherry Almond Shampoo and Conditioner, with a limited-edition Cherry Almond Hand Relief and a bonus Aveda Detangling comb. This combo is a musthave with Aveda’s signature scent of Cherry Almond! Available only while supplies last at Aeracura Salon located in Reynolda Village, 336.448.0792.

WINDSOR JEWELERS Handcrafted and hand-hammered in silver and 24k gold, designer Gurhan’s Mango Jewelry Collection design was inspired by the gently dimpled surface of the sea.

With pieces starting at $295, they are great for gift giving.

See these and the other gorgeous designs from Gurhan at Windsor Jewelers today.

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ROSIE’S HALLMARK KIM TAYLOR & CO. Be the life of your holiday party with our karaoke microphone!

You can play music directly through the speaker and sing along with the microphone using Bluetooth technology.

Clear, crisp vocals with eight hours of battery life.

Go ahead and sing the night away! Visit us at 253 South Stratford Road, or give us a call at 336.722.8503.

See ad on page 95.

Celebrate friends and family this holiday season with Willow Tree figurines by Demdaco. These beautiful handcrafted figurines lift the spirit and bring special meaning to the holidays. Come shop Rosie’s Hallmark for a great selection of Willow Tree!

For more great gift ideas, see our story on page 44 and ad on page 45.

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My First

Turkey I Need My Mother After All

BY TARYN JEREZ

There has been more than one occasion where something my mother has said to me received the response, “You really shouldn’t have raised such strong independent daughters.” To which her quip back to me often includes a bit of laughter and referring to me as a “smarty pants”- or something more PG13, but to the same effect.

I moved out of my mother’s house at eighteen years old for college and three years after graduation moved 650 miles from home to North Carolina. I’m sure my mother recalls my childhood from time to time wondering what she could have done to keep me from leaving her house - as in ever. I can also say with some certainty that she is somewhere right now perfecting her pitch on the benefits of adding a mother-in-law suite to my husband’s and my new home.

My mother is one of the proudest parents I’ve ever known when it comes to her kids. Yet, I genuinely do think sometimes she wishes we needed her more at this stage in our life. We embraced adulthood too quickly for her taste and I think many parents of adult children can relate.

As that grown up child, just as you think you have mastered your independence, through the strange and mysterious experience of hosting your first solo Thanksgiving, you realize it’s not true.

It’s not true at all.

When you’re a kid traditions mean a little more to your parents than they do for you and then one day that changes.

Suddenly, I had my own home to play the canvas to my memories of Thanksgivings past. I asked myself the question: how could I recreate it and did I want to?

The wake up on Thanksgiving coming from way-too-early smells in our kitchen instead of my usual alarm clock. Each sprinkle of thyme over the stuffing and my mom’s yearly eye-roll deserving joke about “never having enough.” (Get it?

Not enough thyme?) Trying to locate the same serving dishes we seem to lose every year for their one moment in the spotlight. My mom’s turkey, late to the table, but straight out of a Norman Rockwell painting.

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My first Thanksgiving living miles away and I was excited to start our own traditions and embrace whatever holiday style I wanted; my mother had hers and this would be mine.

I was somehow up before the sun with onions chopped, seasonings covering our counters, apron on and way-tooearly smells from my own kitchen. I was sprinkling thyme over the stuffing as the bottle ran out and made an eye-roll worthy joke about how it really does go too fast. (Get it? Thyme goes too fast?)

When my husband came downstairs he was set to the task to search for the turkey shaped porcelain tray that had been purchased years before on clearance at Target for such a time as this. My turkey? Much larger than anticipated, still half frozen, a gross little bag inside, and absolutely terrifyingly life-like.

My husband stared at me as panic flashed across my face with my hand stuffed inside our giant frozen bird. He dug the instructions for our poor turkey out of the trash and started to read.

Next we Googled and watched multiple YouTube videos. And then...I dialed.

I made the call home to my mother.

Within 10 minutes I not only knew how to defrost the rest of Big Bird; I learned my stuffing needed more butter to taste like my dad’s, I should cover the wings of the turkey so they didn’t burn and to always buy a second bottle of thyme because it really does go too fast. We both laughed.

Six hours later there it was - my very own Norman Rockwellesque turkey. I snapped a million photos on my phone and sent them to my mom. You would have thought I won the Nobel Peace Prize by her reaction!

The point is, even us independent, strong willed, often sassy daughters need our mothers. It may not be easily seen or spoken as often as they would like to hear, but in those moments when we’re holding a naked bird the size of a toddler over our kitchen sink for the first time while crying into the phone, trust me, they’ll know.

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BY JULIE FRITZ

is Building Community Partnerships In The Triad

The face of radio has really changed over the years.

From its earliest days, it has been a source of bringing the joy of music into our lives, as well as helping to keep us informed of the world around us. And even though that purpose remains the same, people are consuming radio in a much different way. We are able to access the radio stations we love from anywhere in the country through our phones, computers, cars and more. iHeartMedia is one of the best ways to access the radio we love, but it’s not just a radio company anymore. iHeartMedia is the #1 media company in the US. They have 850 radio stations across the country and reach over 275 million people on a weekly basis. Though they are well known for their radio stations, they have much more to offer. The company has expanded in the last several years to include large events, concerts, and selling digital assets, and is also the #1 commercial podcasting company. The free iHeartRadio app is available as well and will allow you to listen to any radio station and build your own playlists. A few years ago they changed their name from Clear Channel to iHeartMedia because, as a company, it encompasses so much more than just the radio portion of the brand.

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The Greensboro division of iHeartMedia is home to a new President, Kellie Holeman.

She came to the area in May 2019 to start her new position, and her goal is to build a team that can better serve this community and form relationships with existing and new community partners.

Holeman said, “I am so excited to work with this group of radio stations and the community because there is so much good we can do. I know our listeners count on us, not only to advertise their businesses, but to be a part of making this a great community to live, work, and play. I am overwhelmed with the warm reception I have experienced since moving into this community, and I can’t wait to get to know more of the people and work to build partnerships that will help this community grow. I could not be more excited for this opportunity.” iHeartMedia Greensboro has already planned a St. Jude Radiothon fundraiser on December 12th and 13th on 104.1 WTQR and Holiday Marketplace on December 7 from 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. and are looking to sponsor more local fundraisers and events.

Here in the Triad, iHeartMedia hosts five local radio stations. 99.5 WMAG is the adult contemporary station and in November and December plays holiday favorites, 100.3 KISS FM is the pop music station, 94.5 WPTI has news talk radio, Q104.1 is #1 for new country and 105.7 Man Up! plays classic rock hits. These

stations reach over 700,000 people in this community on a weekly basis. This makes for a very exciting platform to advertise local businesses and reach your target market. They also have the unique ability to customize an advertising package for your company that can even include other areas of the country. Holeman went on to say, “Because iHeartMedia is a nationwide company, we can work with businesses that have multiple locations to meet their advertising needs. For instance, if you have a business here in the Triad and other locations across the country, we can help you accomplish your marketing goals in both places. It is a very exciting part of what we can do.” iHeartMedia is also expanding their footprint in the Triad by hiring for several positions in the areas of sales, programming, and promotions.

They are proud to serve the needs of this community by fostering existing partnerships, forming new ones, and providing additional job opportunities in the Triad.

If you would like more information about iHeartMedia, you can visit their website at iheartmedia.com or find them on Facebook, Twitter and Linked In. If you would like more information about community partnerships, advertising or available positions, please contact Kellie Holeman at 336-822-1015 or kellieholeman@iheartmedia.com.

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Create, Preserve & Treasure Your Best Memories

BY ADELE CASANOVA

We all want to create and experience memorable events, such as weddings, family reunions, birthday parties, and even business or corporate events. And we want to record and preserve the memories of our events in photos and videos. We also want to be free to enjoy our events as they unfold, free of the details needed to create and preserve the magic. That is where 201 Media Productions comes in. 201 Media Productions, celebrating ten years in business, is a unique collection of creative professionals experienced in providing support for flawless, exciting events.

Owner Matt Hall creatively assembled a talented team of media and entertainment professionals including photographers, videographers, DJs, and graphic designers in order to offer clients seamless production and preservation of successful events.

“We are a unique, full-service media company specializing in making our clients’ weddings and events uniquely special. We provide every aspect, from graphic design of invitations and announcements, to entertainment, to preserving the event by capturing it in professional photography and videography,” says Matt. 201 Media Productions also offers customized DJ services and a fun, very popular photo booth for guests to record their own personal memories. 201 Media Productions ensures that the fun will be had by all, and the memories will be treasured forever.

CAPTURING THE MOMENTS ON FILM

“Our wedding clients especially value the service of videography to record the treasured moments of the day,” says Matt. Often the wedding day is so filled with momentous events that fly by and become a blur of memories, but a video helps the wedding couple and family relive and fully grasp every detail.

Professional photography should also not be undervalued. The difference between professional and amateur photography lies in the trained eye of the professional photographer who knows how and when to capture the best moments. Professional photographers and videographers are experienced in knowing when the special moments will happen and are ready to capture them forever on film.

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REVEL ON THE DANCE FLOOR & IN THE PHOTO BOOTH!

Hiring a DJ for an event not only provides entertaining music, but a professional DJ brings energy and charisma to the party, making everyone feel good in the moment. Let the professional DJ create a compilation of music representing your tastes, so there is no need to worry over a long list of song selections. Let the professional handle it! And 201 Media’s photo booth is always a hit at any event, allowing people to relax, have fun and create memories.

CORPORATE & BUSINESS SERVICES: HEADSHOTS, TRAINING, MARKETING & MORE

And in addition to enhancing and recording personal and social events such as weddings, milestone birthdays and anniversary celebrations, 201 Media Productions can also provide the same great services for corporate and business events. Professional photography is a must for quality headshots and on-location event photos. Videography is also a valuable tool in preserving corporate and training events and can serve as a tool in future marketing and recruiting. Professional graphic design of printed materials gives a corporate or business event a polished, credible look. 201 Media Productions can design professional programs, business cards, and marketing materials for any type of business or event. Corporate events can also be enhanced by the sounds and energy of a DJ, and a photo booth at a business event can be used for breaking the ice and team building in a fun, non-threatening way.

RECREATE HISTORY

In addition to all of the above services, 201 Media Productions also offers affordable VHS and cassette transfer to modern media so that old cherished memories can once again be shared. Also, consider the service of having old photographs retouched and presented in a video set to music to create a commemorative tribute to an event or a loved one.

Call 201 Media Productions for your special event and join their many satisfied clients!

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LISTEN UP!

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

You spend up to 80% of the day engaged in some form of communication and 55% of that time devoted to listening. And you remember 17-25% of the things you listen to.

We are, collectively, terrible listeners. Just ask your friend/partner/parent/coworker.

Or maybe you already knew that – too often we’re spending time thinking of what next, whether that’s what we have to accomplish today, what our email box is doing or what we’re going to do for lunch/dinner/work function. Multitasking isn’t humanly possible: studies have proven that our brains, no matter how hard we push them, can’t multi-task.

What happens when we try? That moment when we think, ‘Oh! I’ll just plan dinner for the week during this meeting and… wait – did they just say my name?’ We don’t listen and then we have miscommunication, conflict, and stress because of it.

To make things worse, we think our conflict management skills need work – and while sometimes they do, often times we need to go back to the basics and think about developing our listening.

Aside from taking a class in listening skills (I truly wish this was a life requirement), here are three ways to focus your listening – and show that you’re doing more than just smiling, nodding and thinking about what you’re doing this weekend:

We, as a collective group of people, are constantly overstimulated, and it’s hard to focus with so much noise! Make a point to know what you’re listening to and what you’re listening for. When we are thinking about the person (or sound) we are listening to, we can filter the static by focusing.

Spend some time thinking about why you are listening! Are you listening: To learn?

To evaluate?

To understand?

For enjoyment?

When you know why you’re listening, you can zero in on specifics. If you’re listening to a friend talk about their terrible day at work, are they going to want you to enjoy the conversation or better understand the problems they’ve dealt with? How about listening to your boss talk about a new sales initiative – are they looking for evaluation or learning and understanding?

SHOW HOW YOU LISTEN!

Stop smiling and nodding while you think of other things. You’re not fooling anyone.

I can’t say this enough – people can tell when you’re spacing out and thinking about something else – your eyes glaze

over, you look disengaged and – the worst – you might speak or laugh or smile at the wrong time. There are some effective ways to show that you’re listening that aren’t smiling and nodding. First, look at the speaker directly. Stop checking out their eyebrows or forehead, and zero in on their eyes. Don’t get weird and stare them down without blinking, but make clear and deliberate eye contact. Pay attention to more than words – body language is a huge part of communication, and your body language while listening matters too! Make sure you’re sitting in a way that is open and welcoming – watch those crossed arms. When there are moments to chime in, don’t just change the subject or Mmmhmm your way through a silence.

You can reflect what they just said by paraphrasing or…

ASK QUESTIONS

One of the best ways to show you’re listening is to ask questions. These aren’t the kind of questions that insert you into the conversation, or simply reiterate what has just been said. Questions that come from curiosity and a desire to learn more, or to clarify information, are the best at showing that you’re listening.

The key with questions: focus in on what you care about, because then you won’t have to pretend to listen, you’ll truly be present and listen.

Listening is a choice – you’ll have to make it to see the benefits.

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Honoring Lost Loved Ones

Through Thanksgiving Traditions

BY TARYN JEREZ

Thanksgiving and grief often go hand in hand when a family has experienced the loss of a special part of it. Whether you are approaching the first holiday without that person or you’ve lost count of the last time they were part of the festivities, sadly, that absence is always present.

During a time of year where tradition can so easily bring us back to times where our family felt complete, there are so many special ways to honor those who are no longer with us. Here are a few unique new traditions to choose from to help you feel close to those who can’t be at your table this Thanksgiving, but who remain in your heart.

OPEN WITH A SPECIAL THANKSGIVING PRAYER

Whether you typically start your Thanksgiving dinner off with a prayer or not, this year it may be a nice addition. You can gather everyone around the table or join together in the living room before your meal and take a moment together in prayer. After choosing someone to lead this moment, they can give thanks for the opportunity to come together and honor your lost loved one and give thanks for the amazing person that they were.

SHARE THEIR FAVORITE DISH AND RECIPE

There is something about home cooking that can bring you right back to your childhood or happiest of memories. It’s amazing what taste and smell can do! If the person you are missing most had a delicious dessert or side dish that they were known for, perhaps nominate a guest to recreate it this year and bring for dinner. You can even create a recipe card and make copies for each family member to have as a keepsake and reference when they are missing them.

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LEAVE A SPECIAL PLACE AT THE TABLE

While that person already has a special place in your heart, leave an empty chair at the table in their memory. You can create a special place setting that has their name or special pet names you had for them. You can have children or grandchildren draw pictures to display or put together personalized notes from each of you in a dish at their space. Carve out a space at the table to remind you that they are still with you in spirit.

MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THEIR NAME

This time of year, there are often fundraisers, food drives, and other festive ways to make a difference in the community. If your loved one had a big heart for a certain cause or organization, this may be a great time to make a donation or donate your time in their honor. You can get a group of family or friends together to chip in or attend an event and make it a special time for all of you.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE WITH YOUR FAMILY

It can be so easy to concentrate on the somber feelings of missing someone that they can sometimes cloud all of the wonderful memories you have. Be intentional this holiday to open your heart and mind to the moments you miss the most with them. Look through photos, watch videos, reread old cards and sentiments as you can. There will be hurt and sadness at first, but the joy of those memories come pouring in as well. Take your family gathering as an opportunity to practice gratitude for the person you miss most and the time you had with them and the lasting effect they made on a beautiful family.

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Staying Motivated to Exercise

During the Holidays

BY DEBBIE BARR

True or False?

Most Americans gain weight between Thanksgiving and New Year’s.

Answer: True (but the amount of weight we gain may surprise you!)

You have probably read or heard media reports proclaiming that the average person is likely to gain five, eight, or even ten pounds during the holiday season. If so, here’s some great news: those predictions are greatly exaggerated! In a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine, the majority of the 200 study participants gained an average of just .37 kg (less than one pound) over a six-week holiday period.

Fewer than 10 percent of the participants gained five pounds or ] more.1 So…should we dismiss holiday weight gain as nothing to be concerned about? Well, not exactly. The study also found that most participants’ holiday weight gain was never lost after the holidays. The investigators noted that because holiday weight gain occurs year after year, it adds up to an increase in body weight over time. Perhaps the most useful finding of the study was the fact that those who reported being much less active during the holidays were the ones who gained the most weight. That’s information we can use!

According to the National Council on Strength and Fitness, “The normal caloric mediator for adults is physical activity. When the caloric balance is thrown off, weight gain is the common outcome.”2 During the holidays, caloric balance is thrown off by an abundance of high-calorie goodies, heightened stress (which triggers snacking for many people), and an increase in alcohol consumption, which elevates ghrelin, the hunger-stimulating hormone.

Because the holiday season stacks the deck toward weight gain, many health promotion and exercise professionals now recommend that people do not focus on weight loss during the holidays. Instead, they suggest people just focus on simply maintaining their current weight.

The most effective tool for maintaining weight during the holidays is— you guessed it—exercise!

You can use a calendar as a visual planning tool to keep yourself moving in spite of a hectic holiday schedule.

Here’s how:

Step 1. Block out your cheat days ahead of time.

Cheat days are the days you designate in advance as days when you will not exercise. For many people, these will be days such as Thanksgiving Day, Christmas, or travel days.

Step 2. Schedule time to exercise on your non-cheat days. A calendar helps with this because

it enables you to plan around office parties, family gettogethers, church programs, and other holiday activities.

During the holidays, reward yourself by putting a checkmark on each day you do work out on your designated exercise days. You’ll see at a glance how much exercise you are actually getting.

Step 3. Commit to a “no days off” exercise policy.

This is a contract you make with yourself. A “no days off” policy means that on any day you miss a planned workout, you must still do something—a 10-minute walk, climbing your own stairs multiple times, or dancing to music as you clean your house, for example. For self-encouragement, place a different color checkmark on your calendar on the days you keep your “no days off” commitment.

Do you worry that you won’t be able to stick to a “no days off” policy? Consider this: even on your busiest days, you will still have a few minutes of downtime while microwaving your lunch or waiting for an elevator, for example. So, don’t just stand there—move it! If you do calf raises, arm circles, squats, bicep curls, or other “mini” exercises for three minutes ten times throughout the day, you’ll have exercised for 30 minutes. Checkmark earned!

1. A Prospective Study of Holiday Weight Gain. New England Journal of Medicine, March 2000; 861-867.

2. Holiday Weight Gain Multifactorial. National Council on Strength and Fitness web site (ncsf.org).

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never say never

Once again, I see the metaphor of that moment and the last 18 years - me hoping to do it right, trying to remain calm, trying to remember the steps. My son, enthusiastic, challenging in the best ways, rarely worried, and as the moving date for college loomed very, very ready.

Before I knew it, I was on the outside of that airplane moving at a rate of speed that isn’t normal for the human body. After about 45 seconds, the parachute deployed and the freefall ended and we began to float.

I immediately looked around for Beau’s parachute, expecting it to be behind me because I had gone first. Instead, I spotted it below me. Beau and his instructor had chosen to spin on the way down for an extra thrill.

Extra thrill? I am skydiving for crying out loud; this is all the thrill I need, thank you!

BY TABATHA RENEGAR

Bucket List.

It’s an expression that gets used a LOT lately.

From exotic travel destinations to facing-yourfears experiences, almost everyone has a list of “must do” things.

Skydiving was never, ever and I mean NEVER on mine! I don’t love to fly, even after a happy and travel-filled decade working for an airline.

I get on an airplane to get someplace, not because I enjoy it. And heights? Not technically afraid of them but certainly not in a hurry to be high above anything where there is even the tiniest possibility of coming down a different way than I went up!

So obviously, skydiving, the combination of a tiny aircraft and jumping out of that same aircraft, is best left to more intrepid souls.

As a young woman, motherhood was also not on my “must do” list. I loved kids, always have, but I had decided that I was going to travel the world and be in control of my own schedule, my own plans, my own choices, ALL the time!

And yet, here I am: a mom who jumped out of an airplane on her son’s 18th birthday! How the heck did that happen? Well, both were very simple really - I met the right partner in life, and suddenly my heart simply flipped and becoming a mom wasn’t only a desire but a deep passion that seemed to have clearly been there all along, just hiding.

As for skydiving, after watching my husband and mom enjoy it SO much when they went together in 2017, I opened up my big mouth and said, “OK, I’ll do it on Beau’s 18th birthday with him.” I was absolutely certain this pronouncement would be forgotten over the next two years and that nobody would actually hold me to it. To that I now say this: never underestimate the memory of a teenager who has been promised something crazy!

The weeks leading up to our August 7th skydiving date were emotional ones. My only child graduated high school with plans to attend college out of state and he was about to turn 18. My husband and I were being asked almost daily about our preparedness plans for the “empty nest.” These were draining and fabulous days! And I began to see how that skydiving plan on the calendar was a metaphor for motherhood.

In both cases, once I had made up my mind, I was all in! Pep talks to myself became a common occurrence.

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“You can do this!”

“Many have gone before you and succeeded.”

“It will be over before you know it!”

(That last one there, fellow parents, it stings a little, doesn’t it? 18 years. What seemed like an eternity lying ahead of us when we were holding a screaming baby at 3:00 a.m., is now behind us in a blur of laughter, anxiety, joy and fear. What is now ahead is a big, fat, huge question mark!)

August 7, 2019. My baby turns 18, and together, we are both going up in the sky in a tiny plane and then we will jump out.

(Side note: tandem jumping is how all firsttime skydivers begin so we were both to be strapped to professionals who had 1,000s of jumps on their resume). As the Cessna 172 ascended, a strange sense of calm came over me. Either way, in 30 minutes, this was going to be behind me. I remember a similar feeling during the last few days of pregnancy, too. This is happening, there’s no turning back, and you will be fine.

On this day, I was going first.

When we reached an exhilarating 2 miles above the earth, the door beside me opened.

All reasoning and assuredness got sucked right out that door, and I felt sheer terror. Yet, I didn’t panic and I tried to remember the steps our instructors provided for this moment. And I looked at my son’s face. In it I saw confidence, enthusiasm, and joy. He couldn’t wait to get out of that airplane! He had absolutely zero fear when that door opened - it thrilled him! He was that much closer to the adventure. Quite simply, he was ready.

I looked around, taking in the amazing beauty of the blue sky, the clouds, the landscape below me and the bold red of Beau’s chute making its way back to the planet. I made a concerted effort to take it all in and appreciate it, knowing it’s a moment that I’ll never experience again. If only I had done that more these last 18 years. If only I had known then how fleeting the thrills would be. But I know it now and each day forward, I will do my best to take it all in and appreciate every second because really… every day is a bucket list!

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SURVIVAL TIPS FOR

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

HOLIDAY TRAVEL

Don’t let traveling this holiday season overwhelm you – try testing out these survival tips to master the holiday madness on the road and in the air.

1. PREPARATION IS KEY

The more you plan for the unexpected, the better you will be able to handle those little surprises thrown at you. Pack along some healthy snacks that are lowsodium and non-perishable.

Great options include dried fruit, popcorn, granola bars, and nuts. The TSA does approve packing fresh fruit in carry-on bags when traveling in the continental USA. Packing snacks helps to prevent both kids and adults from being hangry and having emotional breakdowns from the stress of holiday travel.

When traveling long distances in the car, be sure to get your car inspected a few days prior to your expected departure. Check to see if your lights and windshield wipers are working properly, your car tire pressure is adequate, and ensure that you have plenty of bottled water. It is recommended that you pack along jumper cables, blankets, and a first-aid kit, as well.

2. PACK GIFTS WISELY

It is always best to ship your gifts to your destination 4-5 days prior to your departure via UPS or FedEx Ground, when traveling domestically.

When buying online, try shipping them directly to your destination. Not only will it lighten your load, but it may end up being cheaper than checking a bag solely for your gifts. But some of us just can’t help but find the perfect gift the night before departure.

Keeping in mind that TSA has the right to unwrap and inspect your gifts, it is recommended that don’t wrap them until arrival at your destination. And if you do end up wrapping them, try to dedicate your carry-on luggage to holding them. This will prevent any presents from getting caught up in the lost luggage madness.

3. KEEP IT ENTERTAINING

When traveling long distances in the car, do a little research to map several fun pit-stops along the route. Whether museums or restaurants, a change of scenery and focus can help make the trip less grueling and more enjoyable.

On another note, keep in mind the necessities. Mapping out a few gas stations that are known for their cheap rates and places that have clean restrooms will make for a smoother journey.

Along the same lines, prepare lightweight and accessible entertainment. Noise-canceling headphones can be magical when it comes to a crying baby on the plane or restless siblings in the car. Whether traveling by car or in the air, skip streaming and try downloading as much as possible. This is where those backup chargers will come in handy! Of course, it is always recommended to bring along a book, because that never runs out of power.

4. LET’S PREVENT GETTING SICK

Being sick around the holiday season is never fun. Try preparing your body 48 hours prior to traveling by drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated and getting lots of sleep to help strengthen your body’s defense mechanisms. Never feel guilty about enjoying one too many sweets this holiday season, but do keep in mind that eating a well-balanced diet will help support a healthy digestive and immune system. The CDC also recommends that travelers who opt for the flu shot should try to get it two weeks prior to traveling, so that the vaccine immunity has time to kick in.

5. TAKE A DEEP BREATH

You may not be able to control the things around you, but you can control how you react. When hit with a stressful moment, try closing your eyes while you take deep breaths as you inhale through your nose and exhale out your mouth. Try walking a few laps around the terminal as you wait to board your plane and bring the kids along with you to give off some of their cooped-up energy.

And please keep in mind that getting snippety with the airline staff can only make matters worse.

No one can help unexpected weather conditions, so instead, try giving them a compliment and watch the smile that you put on their face grow.

Other preparations may include extra copies of travel documents, carrying prescriptions in their original bottle, mapping out routes, and packing backup chargers. It is never guaranteed that you will have access to an outlet, especially as the airports become packed with holiday travelers. On a similar note, when traveling in the car, be sure to bring a dual-port car charger to keep up your mobile devices’ batteries.

With these life-saving tips in mind, you will be an expert traveling this holiday season. Stay safe and happy holidays!

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Speak the Language of a Victor Echo Tango Echo Romeo Alpha November

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

“I can’t hear you. Can you speak slower and louder?” There are frequent situations when poor reception or noises in the background result in the need to use a phonetic alphabet. NASA devised the International Radiotelephony Spelling Alphabet, IRSA; the quickest and perfected form of communication used by the United States Military and 18.8 million veterans. In any large organization, there are terms, acronyms, phrases and countless slang terms to ensure clear understanding in quick time. Despite the PG version of selected examples, the following list might be an eyeopener, helpful or adopted into your work environment, team or family!

refer to a member of the military or veteran as a slang term. As you have not shared the same experience, it is offensive.

“MILITARY TIME”

“SNAFU”

Rather than presenting time in two 12-hour periods, the military and international countries use a 24-hour clock numbered 00 to 2300. From 1:00 to noon, the time is 100 hours to 1200 hours. Keep adding. By 6:00pm, the hour is 1800 until midnight, or zero-hundred hours. Quarter hours register as zero-15.

“ZERO DARK THIRTY”

A literal interpretation refers to the time of zero-thirty; however, a second definition implies a time of wakefulness well before sunrise.

“CHECK YOUR SIX”

In the Air Force, the expression “check your six” is a discrete or vital means to say, “watch out behind you,” especially at the six o’clock position.

“STANDBY TO STANDBY” OR “HURRY UP AND WAIT!”

As a sometimes-non-efficient unit, the order requires the troop to be alert and standby. Leaving may happen at an undefined time; therefore, expect to wait for long periods.

“STAY IN YOUR LANE!”

An expression to encourage a team to do their job as commanded and trust that additional information is outside of their “boundaries.”

“CIVVIES”

Defined simply as wearing clothes of a civilian.

“SECRET SQUIRREL”

The youngest in the family would love to be a secret squirrel and report for duty! The squirrel is given a classified op or task to learn “secret” information and return without detection!

“MANDATORY FUN”

Office parties or gatherings are not always optional. You are expected to be there on time and have a good time – that’s an order!

“VOLUNTOLD”

Yes, sometimes, the order isn’t optional.

It is in your best interest to perform a task.

“GRUNT BY ASSOCIATION”

Every branch in the military has a term of endearment. Grunts are slang terms for infantrymen in both the Marines and Army. There are other terms such as jarhead (Marines), ground pounders (Army), wingnuts (Airforce) and squibs (Navy). It is wise for a civilian not to

A grunt, however, is a lowly ranking individual, who is tired, sweaty, footsore and first in line to perform any less-than-desirable job. While a compliment, the grunt worked tirelessly and daily alongside the infantry.

Dating back to World War II era, the PG acronym represents, “Situation Normal, All Fouled-Up.” A “snafu” is any mistake or problem.

“IT’S LOOKING LIKE A SOUP SANDWICH”

A bad situation occurred. Everyone will have to take a bite and suffer the consequences.

“IF IT AIN’T BROKE, DON’T FIX IT!”

This expression has multiple interpretations.

Regardless of how much a piece of equipment or routine works, its functionality depends upon the user. Why fix something if it’s still working?

“IF IT AIN’T RAINING, WE AIN’T TRAINING!”

If training occurs in the best conditions, how will everyone perform in rain, sleet, hail or freezing temperatures? The expression translates into a miserable climate will prepare a group for the real world.

“THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN ATHEIST IN A FOXHOLE”

During a moment of fear, this expression conveys the need for religion. A request for a miracle from a higher power.”

“IF YOU HAVE TIME TO LEAN, YOU HAVE TIME TO CLEAN!”

Rank certainly has its privileges. Senior troops do not like to see juniors appearing bored; therefore, if caught, then chances are a new task will involve cleaning.

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE The Key to Success

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

When we look at immensely successful people such as Oprah Winfrey, Barack Obama, Mother Teresa, and Eleanor Roosevelt, they all have one major common denominator: they are all incredibly caring and unselfish individuals. They made an impact on humanity by giving tirelessly to not only those in need but to people in general.

They are compassionate, understand the emotional needs of others, and satisfy those emotional needs. These famous individuals likely have a very high degree of emotional intelligence. This means they are aware of their own emotions, the emotions of others, how to manage their emotions and how to use human emotions to their advantage.

What if someone told you that your emotional quotient (EQ) determined your personal success more than your intelligence quotient (IQ)? Well, according to Emotional Intelligence 2.0, a book written by Travis Bradberry and Jean Graves, your emotional intelligence can be a great predictor of your success. Even Oprah Winfrey stated, while speaking to one of the authors on her podcast, that although her IQ wasn’t as high as some of her peers and although she may not have made the highest grades in school compared to some other students, she is still much more successful than they are today. She concluded that her success was ignited by her emotional intelligence, her natural gift of empathy and giving to humanity.

The truth about success isn’t about how much knowledge or even how much skill we may have (though those factors do make a difference), but it’s more about how well we connect with others and how we tend to their emotions, versus ruling emotions out as human weakness. This is a social world filled with people and in order to thrive in it, we must have the emotional intelligence to effectively communicate, encourage, and empathize with them, as well as truly give to them.

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EMOTIONAL AWARENESS

Everyone’s brains are wired with a unique technology. Some folks are more logical and rational, while others may be more emotional and nurturing. Some people are naturally in touch with their emotions, while others need more time to process what they are feeling. Emotional intelligence begins with being aware and attuned with our feelings: what we are feeling at the moment, how we show them, and how we manage them. Here are some helpful ways of becoming more aware of our emotions, according to Emotional Intelligence 2.0: • Know your stressors and pay attention to how they make you feel at that moment.

• Keep a daily journal of your emotions throughout the day. Write down what made you joyful, anxious, excited, or fearful. How did you respond when you felt those emotions? Write down why you believe you felt such emotions.

• Pay attention to your physiological responses. Strong emotions such as fear, excitement, love, and anger are accompanied by intense physiological responses such as increased heart rate and changes in body temperature. Notice how your emotions match these physical responses.

• Engage yourself in books, movies, or music and identify the emotions that arise within you. Spending time alone will help you turn inward and become more attuned to your emotional makeup.

EMPATHY MATTERS

While sympathy means feeling for others, empathy is feeling with others, as though their feelings and situations are our own. How does empathy boost our emotional intelligence? It helps us see and feel things from the other person’s perspective. Empathy strengthens our connections with others and makes us more aligned with the human condition as a whole. With advanced levels of empathy, we become more sensitive to the needs of others with a natural desire to give without expecting anything in return.

Being emotionally intelligent helps us in all areas of life: work, home, socially, and in our personal life. Our jobs can be stressful! With our bosses constantly commanding us and critiquing our work with very little or no positive reinforcement, it’s hard to stay positive. But whether you are in management, or working underneath it, every workplace needs encouragement and emotional support because it fuels our performance. Having strong emotional intelligence at home helps us within the family to improve relationships. It also helps marriages last and keeps us emotionally intimate with ourselves.

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Banish Your Fear of Giving Feedback

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

According to a recent study

by LinkedIn Learning, 75% of respondents believe feedback is valuable, 60% reported they would like feedback on a daily or weekly basis and less than 30% said they actually receive feedback.

That last one is not a typo.

Feedback is hard – people could get defensive, we don’t quite know how to give it (or how to take it) and when it doesn’t happen it’s often not followed up on or given with action items, so it’s like giving someone an IKEA bed without instructions. You might figure it out, and you might get frustrated and throw a wrench.

Here are three tips for giving feedback.

GOOD AND BAD

If you are only giving someone feedback when they do something wrong, feedback is going to be a scary looming monster on a professional – or personal – relationship. Think about it: you hear nothing until something fails. What will you remember?

The silence leading up to it or the negativity?

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When giving feedback, remember that it can be given when something is going right and when something isn’t going according to plans. I like a “glow” and “grow” idea – if something is great, tell them about this glow! What are they doing right? If something needs work, that’s a “grow” – it’s not a failure, just something that needs time to develop.

it the million question toddler treatment. What does great mean? What was great? Can you describe what they did that worked well to someone that wasn’t there?

The side point here: make feedback a regular occurrence. It becomes part of your culture and life if it happens all the time, and that makes the negative feedback that much easier because it’s all part of the same system – not just something scary that comes up when folks are in trouble.

You’ve made feedback a regular thing! You’ve got specific, concise and immediate! And…nothing changes.

SPECIFIC AND IMMEDIATE

This one is simple: when you’re thinking about giving feedback, don’t wait too long. If you do, you’ll end up either forgetting what it was for or not associating it with the behavior you’d like to either change or affirm.

The slightly more complicated side: it has to be specific. “You did a great job” is very different than “Your empathy with that customer was great, they seemed to feel much better after talking to you.”

Being specific is HARD, and that’s ok!

Start with the simple statement and give

The specificity works for negative feedback as well: if you aren’t clear and concise with what you want to be different – or what you’d like them to “grow” – then how will they know what to change and how to change it?

PLANS PLEASE

If you’re not following up the feedback with a plan and then following up on that plan, why would it get done?

Sure, we like to think we’re all independent workers in the remote day and age – but, sometimes we aren’t the best at accountability, which is why so many people look for coaches and trainers when they go to the gym. At the same time, if no one is giving you a plan to improve – or to grow – how can you? Many of us can figure something out on our own, but when you’re stuck in the trees it’s hard to see the forest.

If you’re giving “grow” feedback, take a moment to step back and also think of a plan, or at least a few action steps you can work on with this person. Even if it’s as simple as “let’s follow up in a few weeks to see how this is going” you’ve given them a point to work towards and a date to check in – which creates accountability.

Feedback doesn’t need to be a scary professional moment – use it to your advantage to rise above the status quo!

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College with a degree in exercise and sports science. She recently passed both her property and casualty licensing exams on the first try.

She has sold more than $11,000 worth of premium in her first month of working as an insurance account representative at The Nunn Agency in Kernersville. “I try to educate and inform everyone I speak with about their policy and explain what they need to be sufficiently covered,” said Kendall. “I try to make sure everyone who talks to me is more knowledgeable about their insurance policy after we speak. I also make sure that people are covered in case of an accident, and I am available if anyone ever has a question about their policy or if anyone needs a quote!” In her free time, Kendall enjoys knitting, lifting weights, teaching group exercise classes at the YMCA, playing with her dogs and going to the beach.

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strategist for women-owned small businesses.

She helps entrepreneurs design a customer experience that turns leads into raving fans like clockwork, so they have time to focus on the work they were put on Earth to do. She’s spent her career creating seamless systems and automations for service-oriented entrepreneurs, so they can grow their businesses while spending more time working within their zone of genius, or what she calls your “secret sauce.”

She lives in Lewisville with her husband, Tyler, and the world’s most stubborn bloodhound, Wyatt. She also hosts a weekly podcast called “The Secret Sauce Podcast.”

Grace Mauk has always seen animals as a source of

comfort. As a child, she could be found in the creek looking for crawdads or pulling snakes out of the ivy in the yard. But, she went through a difficult period when not even animals brought much joy. After a struggle with depression, trichotillomania, and a suicide attempt after 11th grade at Reagan High School, Grace spent one year at the UNCSA Wig and Makeup Program. She did volunteer work at a reptile rescue close to home and realized her life passion is exotic animals. She is now a student at Davidson County Community College Zoology Science Program. This hands-on program will prepare her for a career focusing on animal care, conservation and behavioral training. The school has recognized her as being a leader among students, and she has been selected to join the National Society of Leadership and Success. When she isn’t at school, she is a shift manager at McDonald’s on Reynolda Road.

She is also a talented artist. She had one painting featured in Forsyth Family Magazine and won two blue ribbons for sketches at the fair. Her free time is spent with her family and friends, and her beloved pets. She is a mom to a turtle, several rats, a tegu and her ball python named Millie.

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nonprofit professional, prolific grant writer, awardwinning writer and journalist. She graduated from Marquette University with a degree in journalism.

Robin designed and implemented impactful bridgebuilding community programs, equity initiatives and projects that strengthened relationships across lines of difference. She is active in community programs including the Black Philantrophy Initiative, W-S Tennis Leagues, a former member of the Minority/ Women Business Enterprise Advisory Council, the Recreation and Parks Commission, the Hope VI Project and the founding board of the Triad Affiliate of the Komen Foundation and president of W-S Tennis Inc. Board of Directors. In her spare time, Robin enjoys playing tennis, spending time with her dog (Treat), writing, building bridges to understanding, watching the Dallas Cowboys and BINGO. Her fundamental passion is working to inspire hope and vision among the marginalized.

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September of 2000, assigned with handling reception, apartment leasing and assisting current residents.

She quickly realized she had found her passion with real estate, as she loved helping residents find the right property to suit their needs. In 2011, she decided to expand her expertise to include the sales market by completing the NC Real Estate Broker Course and State Licensing Exam. After becoming a licensed Broker for NC, she joined the Winston-Salem Regional Association of Realtors where she proudly accepted the 2012 Rookie of the Year Award. Nearly 20 years later, she is the Director of Property Management and Sales for Vista Realty Inc. The most rewarding part of job is helping her clients each day and having the opportunity to see them through the process of renting their first apartment, to buying their first home, to finding their forever home. In addition to her career, Angelia loves spending time with her husband, Michael, and daughters, Mikayla and MaKenzie. She enjoys coaching cheer for the North Davidson Jr. Knights, crafting with her daughters and playing with the family dogs.

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Property Management Division of the Winston-Salem Region Association of Realtors, Inc. and was the past president in 2009 and 2010. She earned her degree in business marketing from UNC Wilmington and her MBA from High Point University. She received Property Manager of the Year Award in 2011 for her “Outstanding service and contribution to the field of property management.” “I am honored to be registered as a candidate for Town Council for Town of Bermuda Run on the November 5, 2019 ballot,” said Heather. “I believe giving back and being here to serve others is important for a prosperous and fulfilling life. Through my business, we are able to give people clean and affordable homes. We try to work with nonprofit organizations as we can to move people in difficult situations to communities that will help them thrive.” In her spare time, Heather enjoys watching and being involved in her kids’ sport events and school activities; trying to make them all! She also loves spending time with her family and her dog, Riley, gardening and watching Hallmark movies.

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French Toast Souffle

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I’ll be honest – I am not a big breakfast person, and I never have been! But there is something about a slow Sunday morning with a pot of hot coffee and a warm breakfast slowly cooking that makes every weekend feel magical. One of my go-to recipes is this French Toast Souffle. Whether you decide to make it in individual ramekins, like I did, or in one casserole dish, it is a simple way to enjoy your weekend.

INGREDIENTS

1 small loaf of French bread, cut into 1 ½ inch cubes 4 large eggs 1 cup half and half creamer ¼ cup maple syrup, plus more for serving 1 teaspoon vanilla 2 teaspoons cinnamon For serving: ¼ cup powdered sugar Maple syrup

DIRECTIONS

In a large bowl, combine eggs, half and half, vanilla, syrup and cinnamon. Add bread cubes and toss together until all cubes are coated. Pour into individual ramekins or souffle dish.

Cover and chill for at least one hour or up to overnight.

Bake at 375 degrees for 20 to 25 minutes for individual ramekins or 30-35 minutes for souffle dish.

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Multitasking Isn’t a Strength

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How many hats do you wear in your business, currently?

If you are anything like me, you may have quite the collection. Some days, I wear my marketing hat, CEO hat, coaching hat, mail clerk hat - and that’s just naming a few!

Imagine coming to a meeting, and you see me wearing all of my “hats” at the same time with each taking the form of a baseball cap or fedora stacked one on top of the other atop my head. You would think I looked a little ridiculous, wouldn’t you?

And, friend, I wouldn’t blame you. Especially when they all came crashing down around us.

THIS IS WHAT MULTITASKING IS LIKE IN OUR BUSINESS AND OUR LIFE.

We try to be and do everything at once because, quite frankly, what other option do we have? What we fail to realize is that even when the plate is full, the choice of how we work is in our power. We have been fed the popular lie that multitasking is this incredible skill when really, it does more harm than good by robbing us of time and energy.

being pulled into other things. If your teenagers are playing video games in the living room, maybe go upstairs to work. Chatty Cathy team member in your office? Book a meeting room to crank out the rest of that project in peace.

Stanford University performed a study in 2009 that showed “heavy multitaskers were less mentally organized, struggled at switching from one task to another, and had a hard time differentiating relevant from irrelevant details.” As good as we can be at managing the millions of things life demands us to, our brain can only fully focus on one thing at a time.

We actually lose productivity when we keep jumping from one task to another without ever completing anything.

#3 DON’T LET SMALL TASKS INTERRUPT LARGE ONES

So, how do we stop the multitasking mentality? Here are five tips I want to share that have helped increase my productivity in the last six months.

#4 EMBRACE SAYING “NO” TO THINGS THAT ASK FOR YOU “NOW”

#1 WRITE DOWN YOUR PRIORITIES

Wasn’t it Cinderella who sang the words, “A dream is a list your heart makes?” (OK, maybe those aren’t exactly the right lyrics!) Don’t let your tasks get out of hand by not having a plan to work towards your goals. Take time as you approach each new week and every day to write down what projects need your attention and the tasks it will take to get you there. Seeing it in front of you helps you create a plan of action and know what to prioritize.

#2 REMOVE DISTRACTION TO HELP STAY FOCUSED

Unless you are working from your smartphone, it’s a good idea to keep it out of sight when possible. As helpful as these devices are, they can also be a huge distraction and major time suck! Also, be mindful of your environment and make sure it’s somewhere you can get things done without

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If you have large tasks that are anchored by a deadline, resist the urge to jump into the simple things on your list. It may feel good to add that checkmark in the box, but it will delay you from getting the harder, more time-consuming things completed.

What may seem like a quick five minutes here or there, after several interruptions, can literally swallow hours of your time and productivity. Reward yourself by holding onto the quick, fun stuff for later!

When someone needs you “real quick” remember that the moments with them are not all they are asking for. You lose productivity by exiting your current concentration and workflow as well as the time it will take to get back into it afterward. Embrace saying “no” and “not right now.” This includes email! Turn off notifications on your phone and stop repeatedly checking your inbox. There are always going to be new emails coming in, and I promise, they can wait. Instead, carve out time in your day ahead of time for email and check it during those times to stay on track.

# 5 COMPLETE SOMETHING BEFORE MOVING ONTO THE NEXT TASK

We live in a world where 90% of job applications list “multitasking” as a necessary skill. Imagine if we concentrated on the ability to focus and complete projects productively instead? It may sound like the same thing, but it’s not. Let’s stop stopping what you’re working on and moving onto other tasks. That email you have open? Finish it before you move to the next one. The QuickBooks tab waiting for you to upload receipts? Scan them in and assign them to your transactions before starting to create that social media post.

REMEMBER – MULTITASKING CAN DO MORE HARM THAN GOOD!

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What is YOUR Success?

BY KEELA JOHNSON

Last month I wrote about the Sober Sis site and Jenn Kautsch’s 21-day Reset Challenge to examine your alcohol habits and have your “own journey to a more mindful approach to their drinking.” I was actually surprised at how many women I talked to who said that alcohol was just a part of their lives that they hardly thought about anymore. They were glad they had a reason to actually re-examine why and when and how they were drinking. No, not everyone became alcohol free (AF), but several did for a while, and all became more deliberate and mindful about their drinking. I call that a success, don’t you? Speaking of success, the Sober Sis website collects success stories from real women who have joined the 21-day Reset Challenge. If you are trying your own reset challenge, or are thinking about doing one, maybe one of these women will inspire you!

LINDA F. TO SOBERSIS

I just had an “A-Ha” moment. I bet some of y’all have had this moment too!

I remember when I first started in June (my birthday month no less) listening to Jenn and the podcasts and such..... and I specifically remember Jenn saying so nonchalantly “I’ve chosen to be AF in my life, but you don’t have to.... just learning to be mindful.......” something like that, right? Well now WHO first thought when you heard that “yeah right!

That will never be me! I will always miss it and always wonder why I can’t drink!”

Right?! I know I had those thoughts - like how can it be SO easy for Jenn and the other girls to just to adapt HAPPILY to being alcohol free forever?! Tonight, in speaking to someone about MY journey, I have realized that without really purposely pushing myself to it or forcing myself to abstain - that I AM actually HAPPILY choosing not to drink! Happily and easily! All those arguments that were in my head - (Jenn, do you remember me questioning you about the mental struggle?! That was the worst part initially- the constant fight in my head!) well all those arguments are GONE! It’s so weird and such an amazing blessing!!!

I swear to you- I never prayed for this existence because I didn’t even think it existed. Now, I also choose happily to be AF and it’s no big deal! I’ll gladly have a mocktail thank you very much!

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JENNIFER H. TO SOBERSIS

Tomorrow will be 90 days AF in this new season of soberminded, present living for me!

Such a miracle to have such a mind shift! I can’t believe this is me... and that I actually enjoy not drinking wine... now I have had to battle thoughts on the social level but as the thoughts pass and good times are had alcohol free I stand amazed!

Thank you Jenn and each of you in this tribe for being here! This safe place to find encouragement is a powerful force in the journey!

Jenn’s passion and leadership, means the world and draws me further. I am learning who I am AF, discovering what a blessing it is to be present in my relationships and experiencing positive changes, proud to stand counter culture, feeling ups and downs as that is real life, and the list goes on. I have June 28th as a day of intervention

by God to show me the way to heal and be restored! A defining moment! I am forever grateful for all the beautiful, powerful, creative voices that I have met in Sober Sis! For those struggling, keep going ... keep reaching out... keeping learning ... the shift is real and will come! We are on this journey together! We must keep climbing!

PAULINA G. TO SOBERSIS

Hi sober sister October resetters! I want to personally welcome you to our tribe and encourage you to connect and lean in. I’m a September resetter who’s 26 AF (so far) and this program has far exceeded my expectations. Having done many seasonal resets on my own only to return to the daily wine o’clock witching hour habit, I finally found the information that will help me change my relationship with alcohol forever whether I try and moderate or not. I’m truly not the same person with the same mindset from 8/30. I’m still figuring it all out but this movement and tribe is truly a God send and thank you Lord for using Jenn to lead the way!

So please don’t be shy and introduce yourselves and feel free to ask questions, vent and share your ups and downs because this tribe will be there to rally around you and root you on!

RAMONA H. TO SOBERSIS

I want to say thank you to my sisters in this tribe and to Jenn. Because of your support in the month of September and everything I have learned, I was able to be sober-minded yesterday as we buried Stanley, the man who was a strong positive influence in my sons’ lives. I was able to be a quiet behind-the-scenes support for the entire family. I know that prior to my training through SoberSis in September, I would have acted differently. For one thing, I would have been hungover from a week of nightly bottle of wine consumption, but I also would have been a mess of emotions. Learning how to go to the think-feelaction mode when my emotions start to get wonky has been a game-changer for me. THANK YOU all.

Feeling grateful.

CARA P. TO SOBERSIS

Sisters, last night I stayed up late chatting with my 3 teenage sons about life. One wants a girlfriend, one needs more friends, and one is having a birthday on Friday.

It was beautiful and rich. And impossible if I had had wine. 2 weeks ago I would have been asleep by 9. Last night I could have kept going and it was 10:30! I am so grateful to be AF.

ELLA S. TO SOBERSIS

First night in a restaurant without wine. Sparkling water and hot tea with dessert. When the check came, and was about half the amount of a normal dinner for us, my husband, who hadn’t even noticed that I hadn’t ordered any wine, said, “Don’t they have wine here?” I said “Yes. I’m not drinking alcohol.” “Ever?” “For now. Aiming for 21 days.” He said, “We should celebrate that every day.”

He hardly drinks, but never gave me any grief about my drinking, except when he paid restaurant tabs and they were half alcohol.

SHELLEY H. TO SOBERSIS

Great Saturday morning. I am on track and going strong thanks to Sober Sis. Starting to physically feel really good again. I will be 62 in November and have been a dedicated over-indulger for most of my life. I will be retiring in 3 years and don’t want to be drunk the whole time. My wonderful husband and I have a blended family of 5 kids and 11 grand kids. I want to be alive and present in their lives as well as ours. I have tried to quit many times and decided I am one of the lucky people that just shouldn’t drink because one is never enough therefore one is too many. I want to thank everyone for their stories: you all have been so helpful and I see myself in so many of you ladies.

MEL R. TO SOBERSIS

WOW - Thanks for today’s email Jen! My friends & I used to “joke” about having PDD (post-drunken depression) after a night of heavy drinking. I thought it was just related to the regret about things we might not remember or stupid things we did or said the night before (plus the obvious miserable physical symptoms.) It makes so much sense that it’s the brain chemistry driving all of this. I love gaining understanding into the neurological aspects of this; it’s helping me want alcohol less and less. Thank you!

JEAN G. TO SOBERSIS

I have noticed that each month as new resetters join this amazing group, there is a sense of fear that you don’t belong, or you think that you drink more or drink less than everyone else. OR, don’t want to give up alcohol forever and feel scared that you might have to.

Some feel they aren’t doing it right and worry that they uniquely are unhealable or unlovable. Just want you to know I went through all of this too and on day 70 I can say, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. You can do this! WE can do this. We can be returned to ourselves with ease and grace. And love from this tribe. GREAT JOB just getting here! Press on my sisters!

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GET OUT OF THE DARK AGES & START PUMPING THAT IRON

BY DAVE MCCONELL

Resistance training helps a female maintain the curves that are desirable, promotes quality sleep, gives increased energy, decreases heart disease risk factors and the risk of osteoporosis, and can always be a great stress reducer.

If we really went back to the start of women’s rights, it goes back to 1919 when Congress passed the 19th Amendment guaranteeing all American women the right to vote. Yes, it’s been 100 years of women suffrage as they lectured, marched, lobbied and practiced civil disobedience to get where they are today. Even in the world of fitness, the idea of females partaking in strength training was unheard of until subtle changes started in the late 80s. Now, strength or resistance training has become not only acceptable, but a necessity for women of all ages.

Here’s why: Just like their male counterparts, female athletes now realize resistance training can add up to a faster, more explosive athlete in all sports. The thought of becoming too muscle-bound was always a fear of many females. Most female bodybuilders take supplements just so they can gain the necessary bulk to compete. For the average female, lifting weights will help to burn fat

and get the toned look that women are after. For the young athlete, working on full-range motion, explosive movements can create a distinct advantage over a nontrained athlete.

For the female of any age wanting to achieve optimal fitness, strength training should be a priority in your regimen.

Resistance training is actually the best way to burn calories while working out. After a heavy bout of strength training, you continue to consume additional oxygen for hours. This is known as post-exercise oxygen consumption. When your body uses more oxygen, it requires more caloric expenditure and an increased metabolic rate. As you increase strength and lean muscle mass, your body’s metabolic rate is higher. Your body requires more work to maintain lean tissue than it does to maintain adipose (fat) tissue. The more muscle you have, the higher your metabolic rate will be. So, when it comes to weight loss and management, it is extremely important to keep those muscles toned as we age.

If you’re still living in the dark days when strength training was a no-no for women, it’s never too late to get started. Strength training can benefit all aspects of life including becoming a better athlete, fitting into our jeans, moving furniture and dealing with a stressful career. Get started now and feel stronger, healthier and more confident!

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Successful for All the Right Reasons!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

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Their company tagline reads “A maid service worth talking about,” but even that seems to be an understatement when speaking of Two Maids & a Mop in Winston-Salem. Far beyond shiny surfaces and pristine countertops, this is a business that defines the term “labor of love.”

For owners Todd and Crystal Scott, who purchased the professional residential cleaning franchise in June 2018 and officially opened that August, there are many sides to their business. Their growing family – and a quest for more quality time to spend with them – had sent the two in a new direction, and finding this franchise opportunity was absolute perfect timing. It’s easy to feel their pride in both their business plan, and their loyal employees.

“I knew I could not sell something that I would not use myself,” says Crystal. “I hired cleaning services in the past that did a great job in the beginning, but it always seemed like you needed to replace them after a couple of months.”

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The Scotts were drawn to the company’s established “Pay on Performance” strategy, and feel it’s a comfortable way for customers to let their cleaners know what is important to them, and if they are lacking in a certain area. Each cleaning visit is rated on a scale of 1 to 10.

“I think it’s common in this field for customers to cancel a service without the company owner having any idea there is a problem,” says Crystal. “Pay on Performance gives them an opportunity to let us know if we need to work harder to meet their expectations. It also gives my employees a sense of control – almost like they are owners themselves – in that the harder they work, the more money they make. It is hard in this business to feel like you are moving up, and it’s easy to become stagnant in your job. When you know your customer determines the amount of commission you receive, it’s easier to do a good job and develop a relationship with them.”

The staff never sees feedback as complaints and encourages customers to reach out via text, email, or through their company surveys. Keeping that client relationship strong is reminiscent of the true family feel among the staff at Two Maids & a Mop. As family, Crystal, Todd, and their team had the opportunity during this past year to rally

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around one employee, Beth Reeves, whose husband, Don, has been undergoing cancer treatments. As his illness intensified, Beth has often been out two or three days a week to care for him, and both Crystal and Todd have stepped in as needed to fill Beth’s scheduled cleanings. Throughout her own personal ordeal, Beth has remained a dedicated employee, and as part of her duties, does cleanings for customers who are referred to the business through Cleaning for a Reason. As a partner with this vital non-profit organization, Two Maids & a Mop provides two free cleanings to people undergoing cancer treatment.

“It has really opened my eyes to what cancer not only does to families, but also to employers,” says Crystal. “I understand the toll it takes on businesses, but I also understand the family difficulties. We have made a pact here to do everything we can to cover Beth so she can spend this time with her husband.”

Being partnered with Cleaning for a Reason has been a constant reminder to Crystal that life can change in a second, and that regular screenings are vital to your health.

“Our first Cleaning for a Reason patient, Charlene Richey, (who passed away this year from breast cancer) motivated me to get my own mammogram and keep up with regular screenings,” says Crystal “It is an opportunity for us to give back to those in need because we never know when we will be one of those people.”

Crystal is proud to say customer satisfaction is their number one motivator, and a positive review from a client can be very rewarding. It shows appreciation for a job well done, which is wonderful encouragement.

“Sometimes compliments are worth more than money, and can have a huge impact on not just someone’s job, but their life as a whole,” she says. “I tell my team we accept both compliments and criticism -- and it takes both to grow!”

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Writers Road Who Read Trip Classics It is officially November, which means time for holiday travel. Whether you are traveling near or far, and no matter what type of transportation you take, it is hard to keep yourself occupied while on the go to your destination. One of the best ways to pass the time is by reading one of these road trip classics.

EAT, PRAY, LOVE

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

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You may be more familiar with the movie version of Eat, Pray, Love, but the book is a can’t-miss. Author Elizabeth Gilbert travels the world to find… something she was missing. During her thirties, Gilbert had it all: a husband, a fancy home, and a successful career. However, she wasn’t happy and was filled with confusion. Eventually, she left it all behind and set forth on a year of travel. First, she spent four months in Italy, eating her heart out. Then, she found herself and her spiritual side again in India. Lastly, Gilbert traveled to Bali in Indonesia, where she discovered balance, and along the way, love with a Brazilian businessman. Readers can resonate with Gilbert’s feelings of loneliness, panic, and a lust for finding order in life. Even if you are unable to take a trip to various countries, the advice and guidance Gilbert dishes out in her novel is still helpful.

Published in 1996, Under the Tuscan Sun tells the story of author Frances Mayes and her husband, Ed’s, journey of renovating their Tuscan villa in Bramasole. Mayes, a published poet, cook, and travel writer, takes on the task of restoring an abandoned villa and rediscovering herself. Throughout the book, she continues to inspire readers to take on their own journey, at home, or in another country, while providing readers with a taste of Italy, as in speaking of food.

As described by a USA Today review, “This beautifully written memoir about taking chances, living in Italy, loving a house, and always the pleasures of food, would make a perfect gift for a loved one. But it’s so delicious, read it first yourself.” Mayes follows up her book, Under the Tuscan Sun, with two sequels: Bella Tuscany: The Sweet Life in Italy and Every Day in Tuscany.

Turned into a blockbuster hit in 2017, the original novel, The Mountain Between Us, tells the story of love and survival in the High Uintas Wilderness, a long and remote land in the western part of the United States. Shortly before Christmas, strangers Ashley Knox and Dr. Ben Payne take a charter plane out of Salt Lake City, after the last flight is canceled due to an upcoming snowstorm. The need for a flight is important as Ashley is flying back East for her wedding, and Ben is trying to get to his patient for a surgery. However, drama ensues as the pilot of the charter plane has a mid-flight heart attack and crashes into the wilderness. Without a pilot and both injured, Ben and Ashley must find their way to help with no sign of civilization around for miles. Days turn into weeks as the race to survive becomes paramount. However, the two find strength and love in each other, which gives them the hope and drive to persist onward.

After enjoying these three road trip classics, snuggle up with a cup of hot chocolate at your destination and watch the movie versions.

As with any book turned into a movie, the two versions are a tad different, so always read the books first and trust me, these books are ones you won’t want to miss.

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Questions for Gladys West: Black Woman behind the GPS

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

We couldn’t be more familiar with the modern GPS (global positioning system). We rely on it almost daily for travel, finding addresses, riding Uber, and also for delivery. But have we ever thought about who pioneered the technological innovation? This piece of information has never been widely known until now because the mastermind behind it was recently inducted into the United States Air Force Hall of Fame in 2018…and her name is Gladys West, an African American U.S. Navy mathematician. Let’s find out a little bit more about her and her humble journey towards her technological breakthrough!

HOW DID SHE APPROACH EDUCATION?

Growing up in southern Virginia during the 1930s and 1940s, West would see her parents toiling daily. One parent worked in the fields, picking cotton, corn, and tobacco while the other parent worked in a factory making cigarettes and pipes. Although West saw her parents working on a daily basis, she strongly believed, deep down, that she would not end up working in the fields when she grew up. She knew her education was her way out the cycle of being black and working in the fields, so she set her mind to strive hard in school to ensure she could pursue a more intellectual career.

West learned during her school years that the valedictorian and salutatorian from her high school normally earned a full scholarship to Virginia State College. With this knowledge driving her forward, she worked and studied hard, and graduated at the top of her class. After earning her bachelor’s degree in mathematics, she taught briefly at Sussex County before going back to school for her master’s degree. West was always about education, learning, and working her way up. Her passion and dedication to math have led to many breakthroughs.

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HOW DID WORKING FOR THE MILITARY INFLUENCE HER WORK BEHIND HER CONTRIBUTIONS TO THE GPS?

After a short-lived teaching career, West began working for the Naval Surface Warfare Center, Dahlgren Division, in 1956. As the second black woman ever employed there, her work involved collecting data from satellites. After multiple promotions, West’s supervisor urged her to be the project manager for the Seasat radar altimetry project (the first satellite that could sense oceans!). Soon after, West moved up as a programmer in the Dahlgren Division for high tech computers and as a project manager for other data processing systems used for satellite data.

She went on to publish scientific literature named “Data Processing System Specifications for the Geosat Satellite Radar Altimeter” and the Naval Surface Weapons Center guide. These guides explained how to increase the accuracy of satellite movement. She also programmed an IBM computer to come up with accurate data to model the shape of the earth. This allowed her to work with intricate algorithms, and her collected data helped to develop the GPS. West worked for Dahlgren for 42 years and retired in 1998.

HOW DID HER CONTRIBUTIONS TO GPS TECHNOLOGY BECOME KNOWN?

Gladys West was a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha sorority. It is believed that her groundbreaking contributions were discovered by a fellow sorority member when she read a biography about West, which West submitted for an alumni event. Humble, quiet, and always dedicated to her work, West had no idea how much her work would impact the technological world.

She never boasted about her accomplishments at Dahlgren, no matter how novel they were. At the time, her greatest concern—if not her only concern—was getting her work done the right way, because accuracy was, and is, paramount in such a job as this! Thankfully, West lived to see her contributions to GPS technology not only come to fruition, but to see it still evolving.

Surely, Gladys West fulfilled her life’s dreams. She escaped the possibility of working in the fields and factories like her parents, and pursued the best education she could. She connected with great, likeminded individuals who helped her rise to her success and pushed her to her highest potential to become a pioneer in technology.

Gladys West is truly deserving of her national recognition.

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The Hidden Treasures in North Carolina that Everyone Should Visit

BY MEGAN TAYLOR Every day on my way to work, I pass by the old Shell Gas Station on Sprague and Peachtree Streets in Winston-Salem. This little hidden treasure has a longstanding history in the Triad. First built in 1930, the station was created to bring awareness of Quality Oil Co. in the Triad. In 1976, the building was put on the National Register of Historic Places. Now, you might be wondering what makes this Shell Gas Station so special; after all, they are all over town. The answer – the station is in the shape of a giant scallop shell. Also, it is the only one of at least eight left in WinstonSalem. After researching this unique, but unknown gem in my city, I began to wonder what other sites in North Carolina I was missing. I bet many people don’t know about these hidden treasures that everyone in the Tarheel State should visit at least once.

THE LAND OF OZ THEME PARK IN BEECH MOUNTAIN

This attraction might not be as hidden as some of the others, as it has been gaining in popularity the last few years. The Land of Oz theme park first opened in 1970 and was built as a complement to the Beech Mountain Resort. Unfortunately, the park closed down in 1980 after a fire. However, the Land of Oz is currently a private property and opens a few times a year for events, including the Autumn of Oz, Journey with Dorothy, Dining with Dorothy, and Showcase Saturdays. Visitors can take a walk down the Yellow Brick Road, meet Dorothy, the Tin Man, the Lion, and the Scarecrow, the Wizard of Oz, and other characters, and experience sites from the classic film. For more information about the Land of Oz, visit: landofoznc.com/.

KINDRED SPIRIT MAILBOX ON BIRD ISLAND

This hidden NC treasure sounds like something right out of a Nicholas Sparks’ book. For over 30 years, a communal mailbox, known as the Kindred Spirit, has sat in the sand on Bird Island, which is a short distance from Sunset Beach. Local residents and volunteers run this site, which includes journals and pens inside the mailbox. The journals hold messages, secrets, letters, and more for visitors and residents who travel to the Kindred Spirit mailbox. According to an article from Our State magazine in 2015, it is estimated more than 100,000 people have visited

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the site. So, the next time you make a trip to the coast, make sure you stop by the Kindred Spirit mailbox and leave a note.

You can learn more about this hidden treasure at thekindredspirit.net/.

THE MUSICAL PARKING GARAGE IN CHARLOTTE

We can all admit parking garages aren’t our favorite things. Yet, add in a little music and the stress of a parking garage could be erased. The unusual 7th Street Parking Garage, also known as the “Touch My Building” in Charlotte, was designed by architect and sound artist Christopher Janney and includes nine-stories of transparent blue and purple rectangles, which are connected to 30-foot tall red fins. All guests have to do to get the party going is touch the fins, which then will light up and play music. The unique parking garage is part of the Janney’s “Urban Musical Instruments” series. For more information, visit: janneysound.com/ project/touch-my-building-charlotte-nc/.

“UNTO THESE HILLS” AT THE CHEROKEE MOUNTAINSIDE THEATRE IN CHEROKEE

You may be familiar with the outdoor play, “Horn in the West,” which describes the life of frontiersman Daniel Boone and the settlers of the Blue Ridge Mountains. This drama is performed at the Daniel Boone Amphitheatre in Boone. After seeing this historic site, visitors can travel up the mountains just a little more to Cherokee and take part in another outdoor play, “Unto These Hills,” at the Cherokee Mountainside Theatre. Performed from June through August every year since its debut in 1950, “Unto These Hills” portrays the story of the Cherokees’ history from 1780 to the twenty-first century. Audiences will see the Native American’s hardships, triumphs, broken agreements, and more.

According to the play’s website, the show is a “family-friendly production that is a “keep you on the edge of your seat” experience.” Learn more about this can’t miss show at visitcherokeenc.com/play/ attractions/unto-these-hills-outdoordrama/.

The list for the hidden treasures in North Carolina doesn’t stop with these four.

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This Winter Check Off Your Bucket List Outdoor & Indoor Fun for Family & Friends

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER Vacationers and trip takers: Ready, set and let’s go! Snow or not, take some trips this winter to destinations you’ve always wanted to visit and make cross-offs on your winter bucket list. Whether you’re headed to the beach or to the mountains - skiing, snowboarding, Christmas caroling or lightseeing - there’s plenty to do for sightseeing.

Seek out adventure this winter and banish boredom, whether indoors or out.

Explore new and exciting ideas for traveling locally. Jet set like the Jetsons via car, bus or on foot, and take in the scene with journaling and pic taking. Reach your goals and do more with your time. Enjoy fun excursions, either solo or surrounded by your family and friends.

DAY TRIPPING OR STAYING IN TOWN? SO MANY PLACES TO GO!

Dry Falls near Highlands – Sugar Mountain Resort and Beech Mountain ski resorts – Outer Banks – Childress Vineyards – Biltmore House – Pilot Mountain – Hanging Rock State Park – Great Smoky Mountains National Park – NC Museum of Art – Grandfather Mountain – Mint Museum – Blue Ridge Parkway – Reynolda House Museum of American Art – SECCA – Croatan National Forest – The High Point Museum – The Red Dog Art Gallery – Bethabara – Tanglewood Park – Old Salem – Linville Falls Visitors Center – The Chinese Lantern Festival in Cary – NC Aquariums – North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences

STAYING HOME? THE “WHEREVER YOU ARE” WINTER BUCKET LIST

The cold may have you feeling cranky and crabby, wanting nothing more than to hibernate, but don’t let it get you down.

Here’s a creative list of what to enjoy whether you decide to go out or stay in, travel, or stay at home.

1. Sit by the window and watch the snowfall, catch snowflakes on your tongue, make snow angels, snow forts, snowmen, snowballs, snow cream, and cut out paper snowflakes to hang on your tree.

2. Go tubing, sledding, skiing, snowboarding, ice climbing, and ice skating.

3. Take a bubble bath while you watch a movie or read a book or magazine.

13. Winter cleaning: Make your indoor environment spic and span by cleaning and clearing your space of clutter or chaos.

14. Do a winter photoshoot, whether it’s people portraits, pet portraits or landscapes and nature.

15. Create a winter song playlist, blast those tunes and work out or dance to it, or get some R & R with a bath or massage with aromatherapy.

4. Camp indoors with candles or by the fireplace with lots of blankets and toast marshmallows.

16. Host a game night. Get your trivia on, play charades, or sing karaoke. Still bored? Have a board game or card game marathon- Uno, War or poker, anyone?

5. Get cozy by the fireplace with a cuppa cocoa and knit a scarf, sweater, socks, hat or blanket.

17. Have an afternoon tea party complete with cucumber sandwiches, sugar cubes, and fine China - pinkies out, everyone!

6. Have an outdoor bonfire and invite people over to toast marshmallows, sing songs and dance ‘round the fire.

18. Host an International Pot Luck. Have your guests bring dishes from around the world sushi time!

7. Decorate the tree and whole house, listen to Christmas music, and sing Christmas carols.

19. TV show and movie marathon: Hello, Netflix, Amazon Prime, and YouTube! Pop some popcorn and binge-watch your favs.

8. Attend a Moravian love feast at Old Salem in Winston-Salem.

20. Get crafty and have an art-and-craft-athonMake jewelry or ornaments. Draw, paint and sculpt up a storm with a live model, objectsubject or photo reference, and give your creations as gifts.

9. Bake up a storm (pumpkin spice muffins, chai cupcakes, gingerbread, and sugar cookies in festive Christmas shapes, apple pie or crumble) and give them to your neighbors.

10. Get involved with local non-profit charities and volunteer.

11. Make your Christmas cards and homemade gifts.

12. Donate food, water, coats, blankets, toiletries, and other items to a homeless shelter.

21. Host an indoor spa girls’ night in - make your own DIY spa and beauty products, play New Age music and serve refreshments to your guests 22. Watch a hockey game: Carolina Hurricanes in Raleigh, and the Minor Leagues’ Charlotte Checkers, Fayetteville Marksmen, and Carolina Thunderbirds in Winston-Salem.

23. Get ahead of the game and start setting your New Year’s resolutions for 2020.

However far you travel, or however close to home you stay, make progress by crossing things off your winter bucket list! Get strategic and plan ahead, or be spontaneous and do things on the spur of the moment. However y’all decide to check ‘em off your list, feel good about the progress you’re making, and always enjoy the process!

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Lessons from Toni Morrison

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

There is so much to say about the late Toni Morrison. She was a worldfamous, Pulitzer-prize winning African American author, professor, and editor whose novels were filled with history, folktales, heartbreak, black culture, and inspiration. She was born Chloe Anthony Wofford on February 18, 1931, in Lorain, Ohio. She grew up with a tremendously hardworking father and a domestic mother, both of which instilled a love of literature, reading, music, and folklore. Her upbringing is the reason she pursued an enlightening and groundbreaking career in literature.

She was always passionate about her studies, although the integrated schools she attended created racial disparities. But the idea of race would later become prominent themes in her novels and essays.

Toni Morrison recently passed away in August 2019, but she left us with precious and realistic characters, poignant novels, and timeless life lessons that will always be relevant. Here are some of my personal picks from Morrison’s rich archive and how the messages spill over from fictitious worlds to tangible life.

THE BLUEST EYE

Morrison makes her writing debut with a dark, realistic, and thoughtprovoking novel. It primarily focuses on Pecola Breedlove, a darkskinned girl who is often regarded as “ugly” by her family and schoolmates. She continuously believed that if she had blue eyes, she would be more beautiful. Her strange ideal stemmed from the white blond-haired, blue-eyed dolls that were given to her as a child; she always admired them for their beauty. The novel contains rape, incest, and self-hatred. While Pecola never gets the blue eyes she wanted, she is the scapegoat for other black children to help them feel more beautiful.

The lesson I grabbed from this heavy read: don’t rely on other people or the media to validate your beauty. People will always find something to pick at, so know your own beauty, have strength in it, and don’t compare your physical attractiveness to the next person.

GOD HELP THE CHILD

This stunning, thought-provoking 2015 novel focuses on a blue-black young woman, nicknamed “Bride,” who is abused by her light-skinned

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mother for being “too dark.” Her mother often punished her for her dark skin and, subconsciously, wanted to protect Bride from the prejudice and discrimination she would likely face in the world. Despite her challenges, Bride grows into a beautiful and successful woman with her own cosmetic business who only wears white to emphasize her beauty. With her past still dangling in the back of her head, she has found a way to be comfortable in her own skin…as comfortable as she possibly can be. She was always taught, “The lighter you are, the better.” After her boyfriend, Booker, walks out on her, she is on a journey to find him. During this journey, she notices her body is changing: her womanly curves are straightening out and shrinking down a child’s body. Only she can see this change; nobody else can. Though with a good ending, Bride’s body begins to return to normal.

The lesson I took away: overcome any insecurities created by your past or else they will follow you into adulthood and eat away at your selfesteem and emotional well-being. Bride’s body was aging backward because she needed to face her childhood insecurities and overcome them and come back as a more stable adult!

BELOVED

One of Morrison’s most popular novels, Beloved is a complex novel inspired by a true story. Sethe, the protagonist, flees from slavery with her children. She plans to take her children’s lives so they won’t live with the risk of returning back to slavery. She ends up taking the life of her youngest daughter, called “Beloved.” Sethe’s home soon becomes haunted by the ghost of her child, marinating Sethe in guilt and fear.

Later on, a young woman who calls herself Beloved enters Sethe’s life, and Sethe suspects that she is her daughter reincarnated. This turning point in the novel brings on various events that help the complex novel take shape.

My lesson from Beloved: be careful of the present decisions you make.

Making rash, unwise decisions will reap consequences that will always tap on our shoulders until we face them.

A unique author who always stirred our imaginations and made us wonder, Toni Morrison’s legacy will live on eternally.

Rest in Paradise, Toni!

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From Jen Brown, the Founder of The Engaging Educator and Fearless Winston Salem, Think on Your Feet has already been called “a helpful maven’s guide ideal for anyone who views a podium with fear and trembling” by Publishers Weekly and “One of the best presentation books of all time”

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

One of the most common uses of salt is on food.

Salt has been used for generations as a seasoning for tasty foods. In addition, there have been conversations on whether or not there are true health benefits of salt, more specifically, table salt.

Don’t worry – there is good news. Overall, salt has been known to regulate blood pressure, improve blood sugar control, maintain a person’s stomach pH, and support a healthy metabolism, as well as, strengthen a person’s immune system, along with many other benefits. In addition, there are other types of salt with their own benefits, such as Himalayan pink salt, sea salt, and Epsom salt.

HIMALAYAN PINK SALT (CAN BE INGESTED)

• Improves sleep.

• Decreases inflammation by helping control a person’s water levels in their body.

• Reduces muscle cramping.

• Helps alleviate allergies and asthma symptoms.

• Supports thyroids.

• Can help reduce anxiety and depression.

• Boosts brain health and energy.

• Decreases congestion and improves respiratory function.

SEA SALT (CAN BE INGESTED)

• A sea salt bath can help rejuvenate a person’s skin and relieve osteoarthritis symptoms.

• Apply under your eyes and rinse to remove dark circles.

• Can be used to exfoliate and treat psoriasis.

EPSOM SALT (EXTERNAL USE ONLY)

• Destresses and eliminates toxins from the body.

• Helps headaches through a salt bath.

• Fights cold and flu symptoms through a salt bath.

• Can add volume to a person’s hair by mixing a little bit into conditioner.

• Restores magnesium.

• Can be used to relieve itchy bee stings and bug bites.

• Exfoliates and cleans skin.

• Can be used to remove foot odor and decrease swelling.

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There are more uses for these three salts, but each can be used in different ways for a person to receive the benefits.

Dry Salt Therapy – Formally known as halotherapy, dry salt therapy occurs when a halogenerator crushes pure salt into particles and disperses them into a salt room, salt cave, or salt chamber. This safe and natural form of therapy benefits adults, children, athletes, and even animals. A person can use dry salt therapy as a complementary treatment for asthma, sinus infections, ear infections, cystic fibrosis, chronic bronchitis, COPD, and allergies. In addition, it can aid a person’s acne, psoriasis and eczema, as well as reduce their stress, anxiety and fatigue.

Himalayan Pink Salt Sole – A salt sole is basically pink water that is saturated with Himalayan pink salt, a natural, unprocessed salt that is known for its healing qualities. In addition, when Himalayan pink salt is combined with water, the salt’s electrolytes ionize, meaning when a person drinks this, their body sends electrical charges between cells, therefore, creating benefits. To put it plainly, a salt sole is rich in minerals and helps the body break down and absorb vitamins and nutrients. To make this combination, use a glass jar and add together Himalayan salt grounds or chunks and water. Let the mixture sit overnight and add a teaspoon into a cup of water in the morning. Stir together with non-metal utensils and drink.

Salt Baths/ Salt Water Remedies – I have eczema, and every time I go to the beach and get into the ocean, my skin clears up. To recreate this experience at home, you can fill a bathtub, bucket, or foot basin with water and a type of salt, usually Epsom salt. Sit in the mixture for 15 – 20 minutes. Afterwards, you’ll discover that your skin is exfoliated, dry skin on your feet can be easily removed, and more. Plus, negative energy is also removed from your body.

There are many positives to salt that people aren’t aware of. If you have sworn off table salt from your diet, try other alternatives and practices to reap the benefits of this powerful mineral.

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When we hear the word “community,” we feel a sense of fellowship, inclusion, and pride. Those are the very characteristics we put forth in our annual editions of Forsyth Community. As we near publication of our sixth edition of this magazine celebrating the communities of Clemmons and Lewisville, we reflect on the amazing support we have received from local businesses and civic organizations. Forsyth Community has evolved into a celebration of life, work, and play in the Lewisville and Clemmons communities of Forsyth County. It is widely embraced as a community resource, relocation guide, and visitor’s guide all rolled into one.

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BEST REASONS TO FEATURE YOUR BUSINESS

Forsyth Community highlights local businesses such as restaurants, retail stores, health services, Realtors, and so much more. Information about Lewisville Clemmons Chamber of Commerce, the Clemmons Rotary Club, Clemmons Community Day, and the Clemmons Community Foundation is included. Forsyth Community publishes a yearly calendar of events not to miss, along with local sports venues, arts and entertainment events, schools, churches, and parks. It is a comprehensive guide to fully exploring the community whether you are a long-time resident, a visitor, or someone new to the area (or thinking of becoming a new resident!). You will also find valuable information about budgeting, health and fitness, education and more.

Forsyth Community is distributed via LewisvilleClemmons Chamber of Commerce Welcome Bags; Realtors; all 12 North Carolina Welcome Centers across the state; and also has extensive distribution in and around the Lewisville and Clemmons communities.

Additionally, the Village Inn in Clemmons provides a copy in each guest room for their more than 66,000 annual guests to use as a guide to shopping, restaurants, and fun local activities.

SO, WHY ADVERTISE YOUR BUSINESS IN THIS ANNUAL PUBLICATION? Community Trust – Forsyth Magazines

have been around for many years and have developed a solid reputation for support and celebration of all things good in the community.

By providing quality publications containing a perfect mix of informative lifestyle articles, along with feature articles about local businesses, quality photography, and professionally designed ads, Forsyth Magazines continues to consistently inform, entertain and educate residents while spotlighting and helping to build local commerce. By advertising your business in Forsyth Community, your business can become a part of the enhanced goodwill shared by the community.

Targeted Exposure – Forsyth Community speaks directly to the residents of LewisvilleClemmons and surrounding areas. Your business can be spotlighted in Forsyth Community, specifically in front of the market you most desire to reach. The roots of community pride run deep in Lewisville and Clemmons, and there is plenty of content in the magazine to prove it.

Personal Attention – Your business will receive the individualized attention that the Forsyth Magazines’ team have prided themselves in offering each local advertising business. Forsyth Magazines knows and understands the local residents who patronize their advertisers. Residents of the LewisvilleClemmons neighborhood support each other in the pursuit of creating a high quality of life for everyone. What better way to reach these supportive residents than through a personally targeted magazine?

Staying Power – Forsyth Community

continues to be distributed throughout the year within the Lewisville-Clemmons area, as well as distributed where visitors and potential new residents can use it as a resource guide.

Much of the information in the magazine stays relevant for the entire year, so it continues to be timely for readers. Many hours of brainstorming, planning and teamwork go into the publication of Forsyth Community. Collaboration with business partners and leaders within the community results in a relevant and vibrant publication. We are dedicated to producing a publication in which you would be proud to advertise your business.

Keela Johnson, publisher of Forsyth Community, reflects, “As a small business, Forsyth Magazines knows and values the effort and contribution of local small businesses within our community.

We strive to offer advertisers value while celebrating the small-town charm that defines the Clemmons and Lewisville communities.”

If your business is interested in joining the pages of Forsyth Community, please reach out! We have extremely affordable rates for our magazine, and members of the LewisvilleClemmons Chamber receive a generous discount as an additional perk! Email Advertising@ ForsythMags.com or call 888.892.3204.

Community starts at home. Be a part of Forsyth Community... a celebration of life in Lewisville & Clemmons

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING

11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

Learn more at PWWS.org

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CULTIVATE™ FINE ART CLASSES FOR KIDS

Twin City Bible Church, 1337 Ebert Street in W-S. CULTIVATE™ offers weekly lessons (90 minutes) in two tracks - homeschool and after school sessions – taught by professional artists Emily Drew Mash & Beth Glover. Both encourage your child’s inherent creativity through drawing and watercolor fundamentals.

Every child will be encouraged to explore their own curiosity and individuality at any skill level. Cost: $100/month. emilydrewmash.com/cultivate

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 7 EXHIBIT: LIFE AFTER DEATH: THE DAY OF THE DEAD IN MEXICO

10am-4:30pm (Tuesday-Saturday), Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The MOA’s annual exhibit celebrates the unique Mexican observance of the Day of the Dead. The exhibit’s centerpiece is a traditional ofrenda, an altar with food and beverage offerings, flowers, sugar skulls and photos of deceased family members. Admission is free. moa.wfu.edu

NOVEMBER 1

GALLERY HOP AT RED DOG GALLERY PRESENTS “ART UNWRAPPED” EXHIBIT

Wine Merchants WINE SHOP HOURS Monday CLOSED Tuesday - Saturday 10:00 AM to 9:00 PM Sunday 10:00 AM to 3 PM

7-10pm, Red Dog Gallery at AFAS Center for the Arts, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. Come out to meet some of the artists and see the show. The second floor Artivity Studios will be open from 7-10pm for Gallery Hop. Check out the calendar on our website or the latest newsletter for more details. www.theafasgroup.com

KARAOKE PARTY TO SUPPORT UNCHAIN WINSTON

7:30-10pm, Old Nick’s Pub, 191 Lowes Foods Drive in Lewisville. Come out and show off your best karaoke skills at this fun event to support Unchain Winston in their mission to provide free fences and resources for chained dogs in Forsyth County. For a suggested donation of $2, singers can show off their vocal skills or have even more fun with challenge donations.

Prizes will be given in several best singer categories.

Free admission and plenty of convenient, free parking. www.facebook.com/unchainwinston

NOVEMBER 1-2

COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW

BISTRO HOURS Dinner: Tuesday - Saturday 4:00 PM to 9:30 PM Lunch: Friday 11:30 AM to 3:00 PM Brunch: Saturday & Sunday 10:00 AM to 3:00 PM

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9am-8pm (1st); 9am-3pm (2nd), Kernersville Community House, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville. Unique handcrafted gifts, home décor, jewelry, yard art, pottery, holiday decorations and baked goods. Proceeds from raffle benefit Trellis Supportive Care. www.facebook.com/CozyCottageCraft

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NOVEMBER 2

COLFAX PERSIMMON FESTIVAL

10am-4pm, Historic Stafford Farm, 558 North Bunker Hill Road in Oak Ridge. The 11th Annual Colfax Persimmon Festival celebrates the persimmon and tradition farming. Live music, demonstrations, arts & crafts vendors, persimmon products and food vendors. Parking off-site at Shady Grove Wesleyan; shuttle provided; handicapped on-site with tag.

Cost: $10/person. www.colfaxpersimmonfest.com

VIETRI ARTISAN EVENT AT SOUTHERN HOME & KITCHEN

1-5pm, Southern Home & Kitchen, 200 South Stratford Road in W-S. Join us for a memorable event featuring Italian artisan Mirko Pucci and Vietri Founder Susan Gravely! Watch Mirko demonstrate his painting techniques during the event, plus have your Vietri purchases personalized. Enjoy a glass of Prosecco, chat with Susan and receive 15% off all Vietri purchases! www.shopsohonc.com

NOVEMBER 3

RUSSIAN BALLET THEATRE PRESENTS “SWAN LAKE”

6pm, Stevens Center, 405 4th Street in W-S. Swan Lake, which has mesmerized audiences for more than a century, is based on a German fairy tale. Cost: $36-71/person. russianballettheatre.com/

NOVEMBER 7

RESTORATION MEDSPA OPEN HOUSE

Restoration MedSpa, 250 Executive Park Boulevard, Suite #105 in W-S. Celebrate our 4th anniversary with us by attending our open house! Receive door prizes, extra special packages, refreshments and so much more! restorationmedspa.com

NOVEMBER 8

KALEIDEUM AFTER DARK: SCIENCE TRIVIA 6-10pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Test your scientific knowledge at this event for ages 21 and up. Categories will include science in the news, pop culture science, famous scientists and more! Teams limited to six people. A cash bar and food truck will be available for dinner and drink purchases. Purchase tickets at www.kaleideum.org. Cost: $10/person.

NOVEMBER 9

62ND ANNUAL GREEK BAKE SALE

8:30am-7:30pm, Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church, 435 Keating Drive in W-S. Greek pastries all day, lunch & dinner (11am-7pm), free baking demonstration at 2pm. Download a pre-order form at wsgoc.org or by emailing wsgreekmedia@gmail.com. wsgoc.org

ARDMORE NEIGHBORHOOD ASSOCIATION 10am-3pm, Miller Park Recreation Center, 400 Leisure Lane in W-S. 45 local crafters sell their handmade items. Food truck on sight. If you live in Ardmore, you can sign up to be a member of the Ardmore Neighborhood Association for a fee of $10/year.

HAYLEY PAIGE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW

YOUR HOME MARKETPLACE CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE

NOVEMBER 1-3

CHRISTMAS IN THE WOODS: A VINTAGE & CRAFT MARKET

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

CINDY DOLLAR WEEKEND YOGA WORKSHOPS

Times vary, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons.

Register for individual workshops or for all days to save! Cost: $45-210/person. sunriseyoga.net/yoga-workshops/

10am-6pm, Your Home Marketplace, 670 South Stratford Road in W-S. There will be drawings for a $100 gift certificate and door prizes. Make sure to check out all the vendor booths for special discounts given for just this day. Holiday beverages and snacks will also be provided. www.yourhomemarketplacenc.com

Carolina Christian Academy, 367 Academy Drive in Thomasville. Come on out and enjoy a touch of the holiday spirit with this Christmas themed craft & vintage market. Our vendors will have handmade crafts, vintage items, sweets and more for you to purchase and check off your gift list this holiday. vendorevents.iplannerandcompany.com

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7:30am-1pm, Kaleideum North. 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Forsyth Astronomical Society is hosting a free observation of Mercury’s transit across the sun! (The next one won’t occur until November 2032!) Solar telescopes available for safe viewing. www.kaleideum.org

8:15am, Showplace Courtyard, 211 East Commerce Avenue in High Point. Cost is $15 for the fun run and $25 for the 5K. Register with your school club, online club, family or friends. After the race, celebrate with vendors, food and music. GO FAR is a nonprofit running program that teaches children of all abilities about healthy eating, goal setting and training for a mile or 5K. For details, visit runsignup.com/gofar. Cost: $15-25/person.

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT!

5pm-until…, Providence Restaurant, 5790 University Parkway in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy half-priced appetizers, $3 desserts, $5 wines by the glass and a fabulous menu! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

NOVEMBER 12

ANGEL BEAR YOGA: MY WORLD OF COLOR

11am, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Join Angel Bear for a class full of color! We’ll read “My World of Color” while opening our eyes to the beauty around us, giving thanks for all that we have. We’ll even visit with a sweet bunny! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

NOVEMBER 13

TASTING ROOM – GIRLS NIGHT OUT & NETWORKING SOIREE

5:30-8:30pm, Tasting Room, 631 North Trade Street in W-S. Shop, network and sip tasty wine and beer in one of Winston Salem’s favorite settings. We will have some free light snacks available and you are welcome to bring in your own food or order from the local restaurants. www.facebook.com/events/374300920123983

WORKSHOP // DESIGN + EMBOSSING HOLIDAY CARDS WITH ARTIST BETH GLOVER

6-8pm, Awake Church, 7840 North Point Boulevard, #120, in W-S. In this workshop, Beth will teach you how to create and emboss your own cards, just in time for the holidays! Kids 6+ are welcome to register with a parent or an older sibling. Light snacks and drinks will also be provided. This workshop is designed to be a fun time for creativity, craft and community. Cost: $30/ person. www.bethglovercreates.com/workshops/ embossing-cards

NOVEMBER 14

KIDS’ MORNING OUT!

10am-12pm, Jerry Long YMCA, 1150 South Peace Haven Road in Clemmons. Come check out the new indoor pool and slides at the Jerry Long Family YMCA in Clemmons! FREE event, limited space, check Forsyth Magazines’ Facebook event page for registration information. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous Forsyth Family Magazine prize board!

TMS SNEAK PEEK: CHILDREN’S HOUSE

6-8pm, The Montessori School of Winston-Salem, 6050 Holder Road in Clemmons. TMS invites all parents of children ages 1 to 5 years to learn more about our Children’s House program. The Children’s House at TMS starts at age 3 and goes through the kindergarten year. For additional information on The Montessori School of WinstonSalem, contact the Office of Admissions at 336.766.5550 or visit their website wsmontessori.org.

NOVEMBER 14-16 BOOK SALE

Friends of the Southside Branch Library, 3185 Buchanan Street. 9am-6pm (Thursday & Friday), 10am-5pm (Saturday). Hardback books $2 each, large paperback books $1 each, paperback books and children’s books 50 cents each.

GO FAR FAMILY 5K & FUN RUN

UNCSA NUTCRACKER PREVIEW EVENT

10:45-11:30am, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Enjoy storytime at 10:45 am, then watch cast members from the UNCSA production of “The Nutcracker” perform dance steps from the ballet. Museum guests will be invited to learn some steps too! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

WINE SHOWDOWN AT HARVEST GRILL

6:30-9pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Two teams will make wine pairing suggestions to a Vintner’s Dinner. As our guest, YOU will decide your favorite wine pairing with each course. At the end of the evening, we will count all the votes and determine who will be the recipient of the 2019 Wine Showdown Award!

Cost: $75/person plus tax and gratuity. Make reservations by calling 366.3590 or emailing harvestgrill@sheltonvineyards.com.

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FALL MEANS FOOTBALL! NFL SUNDAY TICKET HERE! Watch all Games on our 60” TV’s

NOVEMBER 17

YOGA WALL WORKSHOP AT WAKE FOREST UNIVERSITY W/ VALERIE KISER

1-4pm, Wake Forest University Campus, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. Valerie has been teaching with the Yoga Wall since 2007 and has completed Level 1 and 2 training with Bryan Legere, the creator of the Yoga Wall. Join her for a workshop to explore a different yoga perspective and deepen your practice with an in-depth Yoga Wall. sunriseyoga.net/yoga-workshops/

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NOVEMBER 21 & 23

GREENSBORO SYMPHONY TANGER OUTLETS 2019-2020 MASTERWORKS SEASON

Dana Auditorium, 5800 West Friendly Avenue in Greensboro. Italian Inspirations. Cost: $15-75/ person. www.greensborosymphony.org

NOVEMBER 21-24 PRONOVIAS

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

Don’t Miss our NEWEST addition of Entertainment

UPTOWN DUELING PIANOS! November 14th 7:30pm

NOVEMBER 23

THE TURKEY TROT: THANKSGIVING PUPPET SHOW AND CRAFT

10-11am, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. Follow along with Tom and Honeysuckle as they trot a flock of turkeys to Washington, D.C. and have a surprising encounter with Abraham Lincoln. Puppet show tickets are $5 per person (over the age of 2). Seating is limited; advance reservations are strongly encouraged.

STARGAZING AT PILOT MOUNTAIN

5-10pm, Pilot Mountain State Park, 1792 Pilot Knob Park Road in Pinnacle. Join Forsyth Astronomical Society and Kaleideum for a free astronomy observation at the Pilot Mountain State Park summit. Telescopes provided. In case of bad weather, check Kaleideum’s website or Facebook page after 4pm for an update. (Rain/snow date is November 30th.) www.kaleideum.org

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Conversations with Your BFF Family Time at Thanksgiving- Does Your Family put the ‘Fun’ in Dysfunctional?

BY REBECCA COOPER

For some families, Thanksgiving is another excuse to get together to eat good food and to have a good time. That’s never been the case with me and the families I have been a part of in my lifetime. If you have a challenging family, it’s only human to be a bit jealous to see your friends’ families living the holiday dream on social media, like a Norman Rockwell painting, where you’re just trying to live through the day. So if your family puts the ‘fun’ in dysfunctional, can you have a good Thanksgiving without needing bail at the end of the day? I’m so glad you asked!

A MUCH NEEDED SURVIVAL GUIDE

Making it through Thanksgiving with a less than ideal family begins with a bit of planning and social engineering so that you can take control of the situation.

First, examine the ‘givens’ of your family. For example, it’s a given that your sister-in-law who can’t cook always gets jealous when everyone eats your side dish and leaves her mac and cheese to get dusty, and your grandmother who gives an ‘organ recital’ on every part of her body from her liver to her ingrown toenail is probably going to over share like always, and your uncle is going to bring his flask and take a nip thinking that no one knows that he may have a drinking problem.

It happens every year, so don’t think things will change this year. However, you can prepare yourself by doing a few things.

FIND A PARTNER IN CRIME

Chances are you’re not the only one who is irked by your family’s dysfunctional routines. Figure out who you can call on to spend your time with on the holiday.

Agree on doing a tag team when conversations get too much and just adjourn yourselves to another room. No one said you have to sit through a discussion on politics or the black sheep of the family and what they recently did.

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AVOID ADULT BEVERAGES

Rarely do people, especially family, ever act better with a few stiff ones under their belt. Alcohol allows for any inhibitions to come out, and subjects that may normally be off-limits seem to be good topics. Stick with tea, soft drinks, and water to keep everyone on their best behavior.

DON’T TAKE THE BAIT

Is there a relative who always gets a rise out of you?

Decide ahead of time that it takes two to tango and don’t engage with them. Either change the subject or excuse yourself to another room…do what’s best for your sanity.

DON’T MAKE A DAY OF IT

If you’re hosting Thanksgiving, consider serving dinner later, like 6 pm and ask people to arrive late, around 4 pm. Then, at most, you only have to get through 5-6 hours rather than an entire day of continual grazing.

Also, have to-go boxes ready to load if anyone wants more to eat later. If you’re a guest, justify showing up a bit late by volunteering to deliver meals to the elderly or working at the local homeless shelter. No one can make a negative comment about when you arrive if you’re helping others, right?

INVITE A ‘BUFFER’

Most people’s manners improve when outsiders enter the scene. If you can count on your family to put their best feet forward for company, then invite some friends. If not, don’t make anyone else suffer with you. Hard to believe, but some people would actually love to have somewhere to go for the holiday even if there are a few nuts from the family tree present. You might want to warn your friends ahead of time just so they aren’t too surprised.

MAKE A SEATING CHART

Put family members who rub each other the wrong way at opposite ends of the table, or set up satellite tables in other areas of the house and get those who tend to start arguments in other rooms. Nothing like having a wall or two between troublemakers!

No matter how anxious you are about spending time with your family this Thanksgiving, remember at some point in the day to be thankful for them.

As some of them might already be reminding you, they won’t always be around…when that happens, you can strive to be the annoying relative that the rest of the family complains about!

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