Forsyth Woman - November 2018

November 2018

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Small Biz Crawl: Community Over Competition

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The View From This Side NOVEMBER 2018

How. On. Earth. Have. We. Already. Gotten.

To. November?!? Seriously, doesn’t it seem like the earth has sped up its rotation around the sun? I can hardly believe we are only two months from closing a chapter on another year... But we have a great new issue for you to enjoy!

This is a very special issue, too. Our friends at Trellis Supportive Care are our cover story! This has been a big year for Trellis - formerly known as Hospice and Palliative CareCenter. In September, they debuted their name change and their cover story is a special part of that announcement.

In addition to a great cover story, and great content, our November issue also includes our annual Holiday Gift Guide! This gift guide is published every November and December and is a great way to get started on your local holiday shopping! As you start making purchases for the holidays, please remember to be “loyal to local” and utilize our gift guide, as well as our advertising partners throughout the magazine!

Also new this month, we have the November 2018 issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged! My daughter, Brooke, oversees this publication and always does an amazing job with it. It’s chock-full of great content for local couples who are planning their special day, along with the incredible local wedding professionals who are eager to make their special day everything they dream it to be. And when you pick up a copy (whether for yourself or someone you know who is getting married!), you’ll notice a new logo! We’ve simplified and cleaned up the name of our wedding publication. We hope you love it as much as we do!

PUBLISHER Keela Johnson Keela@ForsythMags.com

ASSOCIATE EDITOR Brooke Eagle Brooke@ForsythMags.com

SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Tamara Bodford

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Brooke Eagle • Heather Spivey

ADVERTISING Advertising@ForsythMags.com

COVER PHOTOGRAPHY Jon Eric Johnson Photography

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Andrew Bowen Photography Jon Eric Johnson Photography Photo Artistry by Melinda

CONTENT EDITORS Kim Beane Meghan Corbett (Assistant)

SENIOR STAFF WRITERS Meghan Corbett Denise Heidel Carolyn Peterson

As always, when we think of November, we think of Thanksgiving. And I would be remiss if I didn’t give a great bit shout out and thank to our advertisers, our readers, and our team. We value each of you so much and are so grateful for your support, encouragement, and for the privilege of being a part of your life every month!

From my family to yours, I hope you have a very Happy Thanksgiving!!

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Debbie Barr • Keith Biggs • Jenn Brown • Adele Casanova Elisa Coppede • June DeLugas • Lisa Doss • Martie Emory Julie Fritz • Gwen Frisbie-Fulton • Abigail Gleason • Ray Goodrich Tracy Harris • Denise Heidel • Vonda Henderson • Taryn Jerez Debbie Lanier • Ava Lewondowski • Mark Mathosian Dave McConnell • Mike McGilvary • Dinah Myers • Brittany Orie Rosey • Kim Smith • Connie Song • Shamika Starke Megan Taylor • Sara Wiles

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Trellis Supportive Care

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A Magical Holiday Tradition: UNCSA’s “Nutcracker” It’s beginning to look a lot like the holidays! Decorations are being prepared for display, children are beginning to make their wish lists, and the UNC School of the Arts is hard at work on the most cherished of local holiday events: “The Nutcracker!” Presented by Wells Fargo, the 2018 production of “The Nutcracker” is one of the mostanticipated and magical holiday traditions in the Triad.

The UNCSA acclaimed production of “The Nutcracker” will feature ten performances December 7-16 at the Stevens Center in downtown Winston-Salem.

The heralded ballet has received rave reviews from critics and enthusiastic audiences since the reimagining of the production by former Dean of the UNC School of the Arts’ School of Dance Ethan Stiefel.

“Our annual production of ‘The Nutcracker’ showcases some of the finest talents at UNCSA and engages a broad spectrum of our community with beautiful music, superb performances, and excellent stagecraft,” said UNCSA Vice Chancellor of Strategic Communications Claire Machamer.

“We are honored to be supported by one of the leading financial institutions in America through our partnership with Wells Fargo.”

The full performance schedule for the UNCSA production of “The Nutcracker” is Dec. 7, 8, and 12-15 at 7:30 p.m.; and Dec. 8, 9, 15 and 16 at 2 p.m.

For the best deal in town, take advantage of the great prices on The Nutcracker “Family Four Pack” for the evening performances on Thursday and Friday, December 12 and 13. Family Four Pack tickets are only $148 for Orchestra Side/Front Balcony and $110 for Center Balcony. The “Family Four Pack” offer is subject to availability.

Get the best seats now! Be sure to purchase your tickets today for “The Nutcracker!”

Get Tickets Now! uncsa.edu/nutcracker 336-721-1945 Stevens Center Box Office

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Massage Envy

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D I A M O N D

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BY CONNIE SONG, CERTIFIED GEMOLOGIST, WINDSOR JEWELERS

Choosing a diamond ring is a big decision and a personal one. Diamond jewelry, especially your engagement ring, will last a lifetime and should reflect your taste and personality, but before buying a diamond, you need to do a little research so you have an idea of what you want before you start shopping. Working with a GIA (Gemological Institute of America) Graduate Gemologist or trained jewelry store associate can guide you through the process, helping you understand all about diamonds.

The 4Cs describe a diamond’s core characteristics – its cut, color, clarity, and carat weight – and play a role in determining a diamond’s value. However, there is much more to a diamond’s value – and beauty – than just these four traits. With Forevermark diamonds that we feature at Windsor Jewelers, we go beyond the 4Cs. Every Forevermark inscribed diamond comes with a promise that it is beautiful, rare and responsibly sourced. This promise is symbolized by the unique inscription at its heart.

Forevermark individually selects diamonds against additional rigid criteria to ensure that only the most beautiful diamonds become Forevermark.

This assurance comes from Forevermark’s exacting selection process that is so rigorous, less than 1% of the world’s diamonds can become Forevermark.

For most, shape is the top criterion in selecting a diamond, and everything else follows from there.

However, knowing your budget is key when shopping for a diamond. You should buy the best ring you can without going into major debt. Looking at a diamond in person is always your best option to help you find the most scintillating diamond that speaks to you.

Nothing compares to being able to rotate a diamond and seeing the color and sparkle first hand.

When shopping for an engagement ring, it helps to have an idea of what style mounting you want. Halo settings are extremely popular, as is the classic 4 or 6 prong Tiffany setting; however, with the diversity of settings available, it still may be hard to choose the perfect one, and custom design may be the best option. You can take pieces of different mountings that you like and combine it all in one, or describe your perfect ring to our custom designer and get an original ring that belongs to only you.

Visit the Windsor Jewelers showroom at 526 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem (336.721.1768), or at their second location at Phillips Place, 6809-D Phillips Place Court in Charlotte (704.556.7747).

For more information, visit Windsor-Jewelers.com, like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram.

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United Way

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Vic Khemsara, MD | Keith Biggs, OD

Laser Cataract Surgery Glaucoma Treatment • Diabetic Treatment Multifocal Lens Implants • General Eye Exams

Keeping our eyes on what’s important this Thanksgiving.

Summit Eye Care

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.

– 1 Chronicles 16:34 www.summiteyecare.net • www.facebook.com/SummitEyeCare 336.765.0960 • 3073 Trenwest Drive • Winston-Salem, NC 27103

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BREAKING NEWS

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

• Local Clemmons patient with 20/70 vision in danger of losing driver’s permit. Local surgeon performed cataract surgery, and patient now has 20/25 vision and his independence has been restored and driver’s permit has been renewed!

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• Local Winston-Salem citizen who experienced sudden vision loss had sight restored after retinal detachment surgery performed by local retina specialist.

Wouldn’t it be great to turn on the TV or open social media and hear about the good things happening around us! Rather than be reminded of all the grief and turmoil, hearing about medical breakthroughs, successful surgeries, and success stories in general would be very uplifting.

This article from Summit Eye Care for the month of November is just that – a feel good story and thankfulness notification.

Patients are having their vision preserved every day of every week in and around Winston-Salem, through cataract surgery, retinal surgery, cornea surgery, retinal injections, the correct spectacle or contact lens prescription, and so very much more. Eye comfort and healing occurs every day through the correct prescription for dry eye treatments, antibiotics, anti-inflammatories, etc.

The good news for this month is that Winston-Salem and the surrounding communities are very blessed to have the most advanced technology within a few miles to help diagnose and treat vision issues. More than one billion people globally are not so fortunate. They cannot afford or do not have access to eye care or eyewear. An estimated 285 million are estimated to be visually impaired which means 39 million are blind and 246 million have low vision. An estimated 82% are age 50 and above.

Of all visual impairment, 80% can be prevented or cured. There are many world organizations striving to improve eyesight throughout the world.

At Summit Eye Care we treat patients with glaucoma, diabetes, cataracts, dry eye, infections, refractive errors and more. If you do not have an eye care provider, we would be happy to care for your vision needs. Vision is one of our most valuable senses. Let’s preserve it so life can be enjoyed to the fullest.

Remember: HOT OFF THE PRESS! Good vision care is just a phone call away!

Happy Thanksgiving.

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BY ADELE CASANOVA

E V E R Y T H I N G C O L L E G I AT E & S O M U C H M O R E !

The Collegiate Shop Apparel and Gifts is celebrating six years in business in their new expanded location in historic downtown Kernersville. Now at 128 W. Mountain Street, the shop offers even more exciting collegiate items as well as custom embroidery and vinyl stamping. Owner Lisa Bugg has successfully grown her business through enthusiasm, integrity, and attention to detail. Customer satisfaction is always her end goal.

Lisa has stocked her shop with items to please everyone, including students, alumni, parents, and grandparents. Both guys and gals will find items they will love to wear, use at home or when tailgating, or to give as gifts. The Collegiate Shop carries logoed items from all the big local and regional colleges, as well as some of the smaller, but popular schools.

Lisa meticulously stocks only collegiate items that are “Officially Licensed Collegiate Products” so her customers can buy with confidence. She not only carries the high-quality t-shirts and hats that you would expect, but also a variety of fashionable collegiate apparel with color matching jewelry and accessories. You can find apparel from Colosseum Apparel, Emerson Street and other fine clothing lines, as well as trendy fashion, purses, and jewelry from Caroline Hill.

Don’t forget to “dress” your home or dorm room with collegiate décors such as pillows, dish towels, glasses, and mugs. Lisa carries the popular Catstudio Geography and Collegiate line of décor items. How about an indoor/outdoor throw pillow with your favorite team’s logo for your patio or dorm room? Or choose a popular collegiate Corkcicle tumbler.

Enhance your tailgating and “homegating” parties with your favorite team’s logo on coolers, tailgate chairs, and blankets from

Logo Brand, or plates, silicone pans and ice trays from FanPans and Magnolia Lane. How fun to add some delicious gourmet items to your gathering such as Virginia Diner Nuts – each can be decorated with your college’s logo. These make great take-home gifts for your guests as well!

But now for the “So Much More” that is offered at The Collegiate Shop!

Lisa also offers custom embroidery and vinyl stamping on an infinite variety of items. Her in-house six needle commercial embroidery machine allows Lisa to create custom embroidery on just about any clothing item. Clothing can be purchased from The Collegiate Shop, or you can bring in your own items for embroidery. Lisa’s vinyl cutter and heat press produce vinyl images that can be applied to almost any item to represent your college, recreational sports team, favorite non-profit group or company logo. The possible applications are endless! Any size business can enhance credibility and build brand recognition with custom logoed apparel from The Collegiate Shop. And just think how fun to add custom logoed or monogrammed items to your family reunion, birthday party, bridal party, wedding, etc.

Imagine the fun gift ideas you could create for the upcoming holidays!

Turnaround time is 3-7 days, and the best part is that there is no minimum!

Need ideas? Lisa and her staff gladly offer knowledgeable consultation.

Head to The Collegiate Shop today for everything collegiate, as well as fun, unique decorating and gift giving ideas. There is plenty of parking across the street in a new public lot, as well as both on the side and at the back of the building. The shop is open Tuesday through Friday 11:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. and Saturday 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Be sure to like and follow the shop on Facebook to stay up to date on new arrivals!

The Collegiate Shop is located at 128 W. Mountain Street, Kernersville and you can reach them by phone at 336-992-9900.

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Leonard Ryden Burr

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FOOTNOTE: THE LATEST ADDITION TO THE FOOTHILLS FAMILY

BY RAY GOODRICH, DIRECTOR OF MARKETING - PHOTOS BY JON ERIC PHOTOGRAPHY

Maybe you have a third kid. Maybe you ARE a third kid.

If so, then you might know a bit about how we felt when we opened our third location earlier this year. Footnote, which sits right next to our original downtown location on 4th Street, is Foothills Brewing’s newest place. And like our brewpub and tasting room before it, Footnote is a hybrid of the things we love – namely, good drinks and great times.

Ironically, our ‘third kid’ has three ways to deliver those things.

COFFEE: Believe it or not, coffee is almost as popular a beverage with us as beer. Co-owners Jamie and Sarah got a coffee roaster as a wedding present when they married (yes, the reception was at our brewpub). Ever since, they’ve had a passion for coffee and coffee roasting. As a result, Footnote has its own commercial roaster and features responsibly sourced coffee beans from four different continents, prepared at a variety of different roasting temperatures (light to French roast). But hot coffee’s not the only brewed beverage on the menu – there’s cold brew and nitro cold brew, French press, espresso, several different teas, specialty coffee drinks, seasonal smoothies . . . a little something for everybody.

What makes good coffee better (besides cream and sugar)? Good food.

Foothills’ own Executive Chef Shane Moore and his talented pub kitchen staff have created a large assortment of goodies that complement Footnote’s coffee – all prepared fresh and from scratch daily. There’s plenty to choose from for breakfast or lunch in our Grab n’ Go cooler, and a variety of small plates are available from 11 am ‘til closing.

Here’s where we should do the neighborly thing . . . and mention our neighbor. Bookmarks, Winston-Salem’s premier literary arts nonprofit organization, has a bookstore that connects to Footnote. They’ve made it their mission to foster a love of reading and writing in our community.

Any beverage you purchase at Footnote is welcome in Bookmarks as you browse the store – and of course, any book you acquire in Bookmarks is welcome to be enjoyed in Footnote.

DRINKS: While coffee and food are available all day every day, we’ve also built in some fun libations to help ‘transition’ your day into afternoon and evening (hey, we’re a brewery). We, of course, always have plenty of our craft beer available – 10 taps worth in fact. We’ve

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also put together what we think is one of the more comprehensive cocktail-slash-premium wine and liquor menus in the city. Signature cocktails unique to Footnote dominate our drink menu, with ingredients ranging from our own cold brew coffee and made-from-scratch clover honey syrup to house-smoked salt.

EVENTS: Perhaps the biggest impact Footnote has had on downtown Winston-Salem has been in offering the most unique new event space in town. Spacious, unassuming, versatile, surprisingly intimate – our event services can handle everything from a small business breakfast or lunch to a shindig with 250 guests. All events are supported by a state-of-the-art audio/visual system, full catering and beverage options, and plenty of parking right outside.

Need more? We put patios on both sides of the building for those memorable Carolina afternoons and evenings. And we regularly host a full range of events for interests of every kind – yoga every weekday morning, live music every Friday in our breezeway, salsa classes the second Thursday of every month – just to name a few!

Bottom line? Any time you’re looking to take a little break – or throw a big party – Footnote provides a refreshingly relaxing alternative.

Footnote is located at 634 West 4th Street, St. 120 in downtown Winston-Salem, NC. Open 7a-11p Mon-Sat, 9a-4p Sunday.

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Gift Guide

DALTON’S CROSSING For all the stylish women on your list, Dalton’s Crossing is the place to go for a great selection of Brighton Jewelry and Handbags! Women love these high-quality, affordable accessories that can be enjoyed for years to come!

Located at 102/104 East Dalton Road in Downtown King.

336.985.5464 See ad on page 33. @daltons_crossing

GARDEN BOUTIQUE IN REYONLDA VILLAGE FLEET FEET Eternal Apparel is inspired by the Holy Spirit and designed by Fleet Feet Winston-Salem owner, Emily Davis.

Available in tanks, tees, hoodies, and long-sleeve shirts, Eternal Apparel is continuously being updated with new designs and messages. The simple designs, featuring simple truths, are locally made, and only offered at Fleet Feet Winston-Salem!

Located at 278 Harvey Street, Winston-Salem 336.722.8477 fleetfeetws.com @fleetfeetws

For over 60 years the Garden Boutique has provided an incredible selection of fine gifts, garden accessories and home decor. Shop the Boutique this holiday season for all your gift-giving needs.

Located at 100 Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem 336.722.5640. @thegardenboutiquews

AERACURA SALON The Candrima™ Candle can lift your holiday spirits and give your space serenity with the spicy Aveda Aroma of certified ginger and ginger lily. Save 20% at purchase.

Available at AeracuraSalon, 101 Reynolda Village, Winston-Salem 336.448.0792 @aeracurasalon

MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE Give the gift of style with a gift certificate to Mainstream Boutique! It’s the perfect gift you know they will love!

Located at 110 Oakwood Drive in Winston-Salem (Across from Thruway Shopping Center) 336.448.1485 See ad on page 85. @winstonsalemmainstream

URBN GRL For a bold, new scent to give this holiday season, try "unsettled co." - the exclusive fragrance from URBN, with notes of black spruce, bergamot, frankincense, sandalwood, jasmine, blue tansy, cypress, and ylang ylang. It is toxin-free and handcrafted in Winston-Salem. Located at 908 Burke Street in Winston-Salem. See ad on page 103.

336.955.2303 @urbngrlwsnc

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PENNY LANE BOUTIQUE As a small business, Penny Lane Boutique values the importance of giving back. To that end, they have partnered with Oak River Company, an organization that gives back to local communities.

Located at 6311 Stadium Drive, Suite B in Clemmons (between Lowes Foods and K-Mart) 336.661.8336 @penny_lane_boutique

WINDSOR JEWELERS World traveler Temple St. Clair is known for her contemporary style, signature amulets, timeless elegance and beautiful gold craftsmanship. See her precious collections of amulets, earrings, bracelets and rings, only at Windsor Jewelers.

Located at 526 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

See ad on page 5. @windsorjewelersnc

MELLIE & EMILIA The place to shop local this holiday season! Mellie & Emilia features handmade jewelry from North Carolina artists.

Give her a unique and stylish gift this season.

Located at 365 Peters Creek Parkway in Winston-Salem.

336.930.5303. See ad on page 99. @mellieemilia

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URBN GRL For the contemporary girl with a dash of edge and a shot of sass, URBN GRL, a fun and quirky down town Winston-Salem gift shop, is just the ticket this season. And a gift card will let her get exactly what she wants! Located at 908 Burke Street in Winston-Salem.

See ad on page 103. 336.955.2303 @urbngrlwsnc

AERACURA SALON A gift to accentuate her beautiful smile!

Two Nourish Mint™ Rehydrating lip glazes, packaged together for a perfect stocking stuffer for any lady ready for the holidays.

Special Aveda holiday colors: Bright Cherry Nectar and Glowing Golden Lily. Available at Aeracura Salon, 101 Reynolda Village, Winston-Salem 336.448.0792 @aeracurasalon

WINDSOR JEWELERS

HIP CHICS BOUTIQUE

From famed Italian designer Roberto Coin, the jewelry of the Princess Flower Collection is handmade in 18 karat gold with and without diamonds. See these delicate flowers today at Windsor Jewelers.

Located at 526 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

See ad on page 5. @windsorjewelersnc

May her Christmas be merry and bright with unique gifts, beautiful jewelry, charming accessories, chic clothing and gorgeous formal wear from Hip Chics Boutique! Located at 2668 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons. 336.766.8122.

See ad on page 31. @hipchicsboutiqe

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KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY The prettiest gift of the season! Flower soaps that are beautiful and fragrant. They are made with blends of shea butter, goat’s milk, coconut oil and fragrance oils. Pluck a petal for a quick hand wash or luxurious bathing - or throw a couple into the tub for a fragrant soak. Come pick a flower from our array of styles like vintage rose, gardenia and magnolia. Kim Taylor and Company 153 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, next to Midtown Café and Dessertery. Check us out on Instagram @kimtaylorco and Facebook @KimTaylorandCo 336-722-8503 kimtaylorco@msn.com See ad on page 77.

WOOD & THREAD BOUTIQUE Personalized bamboo key rings are multi-purposeful and make for the cutest accessory as a bracelet, too!

Never lose your keys again and always look adorable using them. Located at 301 Brookstown Avenue, Suite 500 in Winston-Salem 336.842.5761 @woodandthreadboutique

THE LITTLE THEATRE OF WINSTON-SALEM Give the gift of a Little Theatre this Christmas! A Holiday Membership Package is just $85 and includes four flexible tickets, good for any of our upcoming productions (An Old Salem Christmas Carol, Shakespeare in Love, Man of La Mancha, and Das Barbecu). Please visit LTofWS.org, @littletheatrews call 336.725.4001 for details or to purchase.

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KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY Santa is making his list! Have you made yours? Don’t forget to add Julie Vos jewelry. This beautiful collection is created with 24K gold plated nickel free brass and semi precious stones. All that glitters is gold when you are wearing Julie Vos, the perfect finishing touch to your winter wardrobe.

Kim Taylor and Company 153 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, next to Midtown Café and Dessertery.

Check us out on Instagram @kimtaylorco and Facebook @KimTaylorandCo 336-722-8503 kimtaylorco@msn.com See ad on page 77.

ACCENT PRONE Kendra Scott jewelry was created in 2002 in Austin, Texas, and since its launch has taken the fashion industry by storm!

Each piece is carefully crafted and looks great simply worn by themselves or layered up. Kendra has created collections of timeless pieces that have won over loyal fans, media and celebrities alike. Retail price starting at $50.

Located at 1030-F South Main Street in Kernersville.

336.310.4753. See ad on page 57. @accentprone

SIMPLY STERLING & CO. Life is such a beautiful journey…Simply Sterling & Company is the perfect stop to find just right gifts of sentiment and thought for each unique person on your list. Located at 5275 Robinhood Village Drive at the intersection of Robinhood and Meadowlark you will be pleasantly surprised with our vast selection of lovelies. 336-896-0077 @simplysterlingandcompany

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“Winston-Salem is full of amazing makers and small business owners,” says Danielle, “and as a small business owner myself, I wanted to create an opportunity to raise awareness about what this community has to offer.” Danielle actually first approached me at Fearless about her idea, and since my whole purpose is to elevate women, I leaped at the opportunity to do what the space was made to do.

After that single conversation, I spoke with Alyson about how we could collaborate on events, since we were in such close proximity, and immediately asked her to participate as another location. She added the idea of a scavenger hunt with local brick and mortar small businesses. While discussing how to make the event come together, we knew we had to reach out to Taryn, who coaches creative entrepreneurs on how to grow their handmade businesses.

She was able to connect us with more awesome local vendors.

Alyson Lawton, Jasper & Fern

SEE THE PATTERN?

Community Over Competition What Four Local Business Owners are Bringing to Winston-Salem This November

BY JEN BROWN

Spend a day around a local small business owner – especially a female – and you’ll probably hear the phrase ‘community over competition.’ Search the hash tag on Instagram, and you’ll got 2.6 MILLION hits.

The phrase makes sense. Small business owners often feel isolated, alone, stressed. When all their friends have gone out to play, they usually are still working and often by themselves. This is why community is so important.

When you can commiserate with another business owner, suddenly you aren’t the odd person out – you’re part of the group. That value is worth more than the feeling of scarcity and fighting for a customer or dollar. There’s enough business to go around, and we celebrate the community more than fret about the competition.

BUT WHAT DOES THE PHRASE LOOK LIKE IN REAL LIFE?

For Alyson Lawton of Jasper & Fern, Danielle Hoover of Southern Comfort Boutique, Taryn Jerez of One Crafty Miss and me, Jen Oleniczak Brown of Fearless Winston Salem, it looks a lot like the Small Biz Crawl 2018.

Small Biz Crawl 2018 will showcase 17 local vendors as well as ten brick and mortar businesses on Small Business Saturday, November 24th, from 10 am - 4 pm. The vendors and their wares, from soaps to snacks, will be housed at Jasper & Fern and Fearless Winston Salem, complete with a scavenger hunt of brick and mortar businesses located between the two locations.

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Danielle could have never reached out. I could have thrown my own Small Business Saturday event. Alyson could have said no, and done her own. Taryn could have seen it as a conflict of her interests and gone off on her own with a separate event.

THE REALITY IS OBVIOUS: WE’RE STRONGER TOGETHER.

Jen Oleniczack Brown, Fearless Winston-Salem

That’s also why shopping local is so important. When you ‘shop small,’ you’re directly impacting a someone you might see in ANOTHER local business. Local businesses aren’t supported nationwide – someone in Oak Creek, Wisconsin, won’t necessarily buy something from a store in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, unless they are visiting.

YOU, DEAR READER, WHO LIVES IN PFAFFTOWN OR BUENA VISTA OR CLEMMONS, WILL.

The mini-painting of an avocado by a local woman who lives in a rainbow house and fosters kids, or the cupcakes from the woman that opened her bakery while her husband was dying of cancer, or the gender-neutral handmade baby gifts made by the woman who also teaches sewing classes – those gifts and treasures are made by a person you might also see in line for coffee. So remember, when you’re buying that painting or that cupcake or the cute bib, you’re supporting that community that thrives by working together. Small businesses are supported by locals – locals like you!

In the spirit of small business, community over competition and your friendly local business, we hope to see you at the first of what we hope will be a yearly tradition – Small Biz Crawl.

Danielle Hoover, Southern Comfort Boutique

Taryn Jerez, One Crafty Miss

Accent Prone

Small Business Saturday is November 24th!

Come shop with us that day and 20% of your purchase will be donated to charity!

We will also have more deals throughout the store as well as complimentary beverages and hors d’oeuvres!

Furniture • Home Decor • Jewelry • Clothing • Gifts & More!

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Wine Merchants: The Most Unique Place In The Triad

BY JULIE FRITZ

If you have any interest in wine, great food or craft beer, then you must check out Wine Merchants in WinstonSalem. This place is a unique blend of a gourmet wine shop and a farmto-table bistro with 21 wines and 16 beers on tap. Wine Merchants was nominated by the Winston-Salem Journal this year for Best Wine Store, Best Wine Bar and Best Place to Take a First Date.

Proprietor Alan Miller and Vine Commander Caleb Flint became majority partners in Wine Merchants and The Bistro at Wine Merchants in October of 2016. They want it to be a place where people can go to get great food and drinks, with the assurance the ingredients came from local farms and sources.

Miller said, “We want our guests to know we always use small, sustainable farms and provide locally-sourced organic and natural food as much as possible. It is important to us that we sell handcrafted boutique wines that are made in small batches by ‘mom and pop’ wineries and small production beers. Wine Merchants is the place to try the local flair.”

MEET THE TEAM Alan Miller

Alan is the man behind the scenes. He has a true passion for providing guests with a unique experience and the freshest, highest quality products available. You can find him having dinner in The Bistro every night it is open. Alan’s wife, Sarah Shoaf, makes all of the homemade bread and desserts for The Bistro.

Caleb Flint

Caleb is the managing partner. He has 20 plus years experience in the restaurant business, spent ten years as the beverage manager at Foothills and was the 2016 Bartender of the Year. He met Alan when he was bartending at Foothills, and they attended charcuterie classes together at NC State.

Michael Croezen

Michael’s focus is managing and organizing the wine shop. He spends his days gaining knowledge of boutique wines and maintains the shop’s inventory. Many of the wines are not available in other retail shops.

Chef Justin Pinch

Justin is an experienced chef who has worked in kitchens all over the world. He is the head chef for The Bistro at Wine Merchants and has handcrafted the menu. He works to create unique specials that change daily based on the fresh ingredients that are available.

IT’S NOT JUST A SHOP & BISTRO One of the best parts of Wine Merchants is there is something for everyone. Whether you know everything about wine or you are a novice, they have created a prime place to learn about wine, wine tasting, and wine pairing in a relaxed non-judgemental environment.

Wine Tastings

The first Monday of every month at 6 pm Wine Merchants brings in boutique wine distributors and provides you the opportunity to try, discuss and then pre-order unique wines at better than retail prices.

Wine 101

The third Tuesday of the month is the Wine 101 Class. You will learn about wine – where it is produced, the main wine growing regions, and other information from a certified sommelier. Each class is subject based or has a regional theme.

Wine Pairing Dinners

This is an event you will not want to miss.

Enjoy an intimate dinner where wines are paired with each course to provide you with an incredibly fresh and delicious experience.

You will have the opportunity to talk about the wines with a knowledgeable representative and also speak with the chef.

Brunch

To help celebrate the weekends, The Bistro has Brunch each Saturday and Sunday from 10am-3pm. Wonderful wine cocktails, as well as daily specials such as omelets, waffles, poutines, and charcuterie dishes, are featured and change daily.

Friday Night Music

Every Friday night, you can enjoy dinner and drinks to the sound of live, acoustic, adult contemporary music.

Private Events and Parties

The Bistro at Wine Merchants can host 4050 people for business or private events.

Intimate dinners or large parties can be accommodated easily for tapas or even four-course meals.

Catering

The Bistro at Wine Merchants is also available for catering throughout the local area.

Whether you want to pick up the perfect bottle of wine, enjoy one of their unique events or just have a fantastic meal, Wine Merchants and The Bistro at Wine Merchants will not disappoint. You cannot help but notice their passion for excellence throughout your experience. It truly is the most unique place in the Triad.

Located at 205 S. Stratford Rd, Suite N, Winston-Salem, NC. 336-765-8175. For more information, see their website at vin205.com.

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Simply Sterling & Co.

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Keeping It Real STANDING ON THEIR SHOULDERS

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Fast-forward to 2018. I recently enjoyed an excursion to Boston with my boyfriend of thirty-five years. :-) “Google” suggested we visit Fenway Park while in the area. So, off we went.

As I hopped off the subway and emerged above ground, an imposing scene stirred an unexpected sea of tears. There I stood . . . in that very place so far beyond my family’s reach. What had been utterly impossible for them came with incredible ease to me. In that moment, I caught a penetrating awareness of generational blessing. I stood on the shoulders of those who came before me.

This should not catch us by surprise.

Our amazing God fully intends for us to stand on our predecessors’ shoulders. He dreamed hugely for our generations AND dreams hugely for us. He expects their ceiling to become our launching pad.

Our Good Father is building something in us and through us that is unimaginably grander than who we are in this moment.

He longs to accomplish something through our generations that reach beyond our loftiest imaginations.

Meet my Uncle Bennett. Actually, he was my great-uncle. When I was a little girl, his towering 6’4” stature scared the bejesus out of me. Uncle Bennett pitched for some of the greatest Major League Baseball teams throughout the 1950s. He retired with a pretty impressive record. But, like most of that greatest generation, he never mentioned his successes or drew attention to himself.

I’m such a girl when it comes to sports, but I do know Fenway Park is the oldest Major League Baseball venue in history. Fans and non-fans alike revere this place. My Uncle Bennett actually pitched on that famous mound back in the day as his teams’ adoring fans went wild.

Without a doubt, this small-town, big-league knuckleballer quietly savored those larger-than-life moments for the rest of his days.

Perhaps as you consider family who paved the way before you, you feel three steps behind everyone else. Maybe your parents got some things so very wrong.

They likely replicated the jagged pieces handed to them.

You may feel as if you come to the table with every disadvantage. You find no strong shoulders to stand upon. Stop!

Hear me! God can begin right here, right now, with you—YES, YOU!

But consider this. The people who mattered most to Uncle Bennett never saw him play Major League Baseball. His family surely fought for front row seats throughout his high school and college shutouts. But as he soared in the big leagues, those moments shifted out of reach. His parents, my great-grandparents, were simple folk of humble resources.

The very idea of buying plane tickets to see their son play? Unthinkable!

Regardless of what has been done to us, despite what has been withheld from us, may we stand with arms wide-open and declare, “Lord, let it begin with me! Let my generations stand on my shoulders of Faith and do great things! May my difficulties become increasingly simplified for those who come behind me.”

Pa and Ma Flowers never even watched their favorite player on television. Television was still a luxury, even a fantasy, for average families in the 1950s. Uncle Bennett’s loved ones likely huddled around a radio instead. They would have strained to hear through the static, to envision the commentators’ depictions of each play. My family longed for a thing so completely beyond their grasp.

When we let the Lover of our souls begin this work in us, we tap into the deepest dreams of His heart. May our children and grandchildren stand on our shoulders and do the impossible! It’s possible, you know, starting NOW, starting with YOU!

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For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Dalton’s Crossing: Inspired by fashion & family!

Personal success is measured in countless ways, and success means nothing if you can’t share it with those you love most.

For Joyce Mauldin-Ray and her husband, Wayne, success has been a strong marriage of family, creativity, and a clear vision of the future of their beloved business – Dalton’s Crossing located in King, NC. It’s a journey they could not accomplish without each other!

If you live in Winston-Salem, the town of King is a mere 15 minutes away, and this popular shopping destination is worth every mile, for an “experience” that will keep you coming back, and bringing friends.

For the past seven years, Joyce, Wayne, and their wonderful part-time employees, Stephanie, Amy, and Tami, have welcomed shoppers with what they like to call the “feeling of home” – where the staff knows your tastes, your sizes, and what fashions and accessories will make you feel most beautiful.

Their vision is growing and thriving, as Joyce and Wayne are furthering their commitment to the community – and to their exceptionally loyal customer base – with another expansion. Not to worry, the hometown feel will be more present than ever, and new customers will soon learn it was oh-so-worth the drive to shop at Dalton’s Crossing!

“We have acquired the historic Old Bank Building (circa 1900s) in downtown King, to complement the adjoining building we purchased about four years ago,” Joyce is thrilled to share. “Nothing will change about Dalton’s Crossing’s location, but we will own both buildings now, giving us security and peace of mind for the continued growth of our business.”

In addition to feeling relaxed and comfortable amid the Dalton’s Crossing ambiance, the “Shop Small” trend clearly resonates with the store’s target market.

Family owned and operated, Joyce loves the fact that her customers know they aren’t shopping with just another franchise, but with a business who so appreciates its customers that they continue to spread their entrepreneurial “wings” to continue providing the best atmosphere and the best collections. Joyce is thrilled that their clientele comes from the Triad and beyond, and she is most proud that the store’s success has come from honest hard work, and dedication to their audience. Both sides of their families share Stokes County roots, and Joyce and Wayne make their home in King as well.

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“We opened the store because we wanted to bring something to King that was missing, and something to attract the types of people you want traveling to visit your town,” says Joyce.

While she may be the most visible half of the Dalton’s Crossing family team, it’s her heartfelt wish to tell customers that much of the store’s success is due to her husband’s creativity and diligence towards every new project.

“Without him, this would never have been a reality,” says Joyce, proudly. “He is the silent partner, but sometimes those who are silent speak the loudest!” Wayne’s influence – from store layout and functionality to the much-loved memorabilia that adds still another touch of home – is apparent.

“We hope our regular customers and potential customers understand we are in this for the long haul and look forward to building strong relationships with our patrons,” says Joyce. We want to emphasize to those making the trip to King, NC they will experience excellent customer service, quality women’s apparel, and accessories, along with the hometown feel so many of us miss these days.”

Then, there’s the obvious personal reward for shoppers: stylish attire selected to flatter a variety of shapes, sizes, and personalities, lovingly chosen by Joyce herself. Always nurturing her life-long love of fashion, Joyce is excited about several new lines coming in for Spring 2019 and pleased that a new line from this past year – Neon Buddha – has been such an excellent customer fit. It’s also important to the Dalton’s Crossing team to showcase their Made in the USA lines: Cut Loose, Prairie Cotton, Chalet, Et’ Lois, Fresh Produce, Sea Breeze, Plume and Thread, and Salaam. While you’re trying on new favorite pieces, there’s also a lovely seating area for friends waiting to offer their vote.

(Plus, it’s the perfect spot for tired shoppers to pause and rejuvenate for another circle around the store!)

Make sure a visit to Dalton’s Crossing is on your holiday shopping itinerary, as well as in the New Year when you’re updating your wardrobe or even embarking on a new career. Dalton’s Crossing is located at 102/104 East Dalton Road in downtown King, NC. Visit the store Monday – Friday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m., or Saturday 10 a.m. – 3 p.m., or online at daltonscrossing.com. For more information, including details of their November 3rd CK Designs Jewelry Trunk Show, call 336-985-5464.

isn’t just a place to shop, it’s an experience!

CK Designs Jewelry Trunk Show, Saturday, November 3rd from 11am-2pm Dalton’s Crossing

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Complimentary Gift Wrapping Locally Owned & Operated the perfect gift!

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Is it Soft? Is it Luxurious?

Is it Timeless?

These are questions that our clients often ask when we are planning a redo for their bedroom.

My answer to these questions is typically yes. Bella Notte, Sferra Fine Linens, and Peacock Alley all are welcomed in our Clemmons retail store, and we think they are good answers to the above questions.

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Of course, my favorite accent color is blue, so we use it often in bedrooms.

The reason is because blue is simply soothing, relaxing and romantic. I recently painted our showcase house master bedroom and bathroom Paperwhite by Benjamin Moore. It is one of the most pleasing colors, and I am in love with it. It’s a very light, crisp blue. In our showcase house, we accented the blue with lots of white and a bit of grey in the tile. We also provided the bedding in multiple layers of blue from the above two bedding lines, and added Peacock Alley for the print duvet and shams.

Our clients ask us for elegant spaces.

We begin with soft fabrics, a tufted tall headboard for the bed, and designer lighting for the bedroom.

Nightstands can be painted or a stain, whichever the client prefers.

We show them both. Now, can you imagine this canvas? Couture textiles that fit our everyday living are what I recommend. The three bedding lines above are all washable and the best cotton and fabrics you can purchase for your bed.

Home furnishing styles can change, but your master bedroom can be classic and timeless. Select furnishing for your bedroom that will fit your inspiring, artistic lifestyle.

Remember, everyday living should be easy, and your home can be an extension of safety and comfort.

An investment in your home and the subject matter, our bedrooms, should make you want to “fall in love” again with your choices.

Get a good night’s sleep.

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$25 GIFTS & PAPER ON PLAZA Gail Hairston

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7 Tips

for a Stress-Free Holiday Season!

The holidays are upon us again. While this is the time for traditions and cheer, it can also be the most stressful time of the year. It is important to make sure you take the time to enjoy your holiday. Start now, with the tips below!

PLAN AHEAD.

Map out your season and identify stressors. Walk through who is coming to visit, who you need to buy presents for and even how much time you will devote to decorating. Troubleshoot and work through any potential problems, before they become problems.

FIGURE OUT WHAT IS IMPORTANT.

Understand that you can’t please everyone and attend every function.

Determine what your priorities are and figure out how much time you have to dedicate to each. If you have time to send Christmas cards, wonderful.

If you are running short on time, e-cards are a great option too. It is okay to attend only half of the parties you are invited to. Figure out what can be cut.

Do less, enjoy more.

SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.

We all would love to decorate like Martha Stewart. Don’t stress yourself out by setting expectations that require you to pull all-nighters to create that perfect look. Putting that much into every detail requires time and effort, both of which will already be spread thin this time of year.

START NEW TRADITIONS.

As we take on more in our daily lives we have less and less time, especially around the holidays. If old traditions are too time consuming or too stressful, start new ones. If there are too many people on your list to buy for, draw names or set up a Secret Santa instead. To make meals easier, have a potluck or serve food buffet style. Want a no stress option? Find reasonably priced catering, or have everyone attending chip in for something a little fancier.

ENLIST HELP.

Be as clear as possible ahead of time about what you will and won’t be able to do. If you need some help, ask for it! Have your siblings organize dinner or have your aunt come over and help decorate the tree. It may come as a surprise, but including others in the preparation may lead to a new tradition that relieves some stress! Just remember, the holidays are for everyone to enjoy, even the hostess.

GIVE YOURSELF “ME” TIME.

Be realistic in making plans and allow for rest and relaxation.

Surround yourself with happy, optimistic people. Stay focused on how much fun you are having and enjoy the season. Don’t allow others to drag your spirit down or waste your valuable time.

Make sure to keep your schedule and set aside time for routines that keep you in a good place, such as a weekly yoga class.

REMIND YOURSELF WHAT THE SEASON IS ABOUT.

Focus on the thoughtfulness of gift giving rather than spending beyond your means. Take time to donate to a charity or volunteer at a soup kitchen. Helping those less fortunate will give you a feeling of fulfillment and pride.

Allow yourself the time and energy to enjoy the holidays this year. Try not to allow yourself to get so consumed that it flies by in a blur. Prioritize your self-care, so you will be able to enjoy the festivities you have put so much time and effort into planning.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense What Are You Thankful For?

Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY MIKE MCGILVARY, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

There is something about this time of year. College and NFL football are in full swing (Go Panthers!). The leaves on trees have changed color from bright green to deep red and are falling off branches. The holidays are right around the corner, and family trips are typically on the upcoming agenda. This season is wonderful, but sometimes can feel rushed and hectic.

If your holiday season is anything like my family’s, you may feel so busy traveling, planning, shopping and cooking that you don’t have enough time in the day for yourself or to enjoy family time.

With this being such a busy time of year, I believe family sometimes can be pushed aside for the current task at hand.

I have found as I grow in my professional career that it is important to take a moment to enjoy the little things in life. For instance, throwing a football with your nephew after watching the Cowboys play on Thanksgiving Day, spending time visiting with your grandmother after she has made a long trip from out of town, or taking the opportunity to introduce a newborn to their cousins for the first time. Simple, yet life-changing moments are an important part of this time of year. There have been many years during this season where I wished time would slow down just a bit.

I challenge the readers of this article to stop and think about something. What are you most thankful for? Family? Friends?

Business? Family comes first for me. This community comes in at a close second. Growing up in Forsyth County, I have seen many positive changes occur in the area. Our community continues to progress and thrive. Small businesses continue to open throughout Lewisville and Clemmons. Winston-Salem has been revitalizing itself and corporations have repurposed older structures and warehouses, giving new life and opportunity for businesses to open their doors to the public.

I am personally employed by a small business in Clemmons, and I feel very privileged to work in the area and work with the amazing people of this community. I speak for our entire company; we are so thankful for the above-mentioned towns and city. We are even more thankful for the people that live here. Without the great people of these communities, we have no business. Without the many businesses that employ the population here in Forsyth County, we have no business.

Making sure our community knows how thankful we are for them has always been a priority to myself and the company that employs me, and we would like to reiterate this as we welcome the upcoming holidays.

From all of us here at Marzano Capital Group, we want to wish everyone in Forsyth County a happy upcoming holiday season.

Be kind to your neighbor, take the opportunity to let the family and friends around you know how special they are to you, and please take time to remember all that you have to be thankful for during this special time of year!

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CONSTRUCTION WILL OFFER NEW BRIDGES, ROADWAY, & NAME

One of North Carolina’s most heavily-traveled highways, Business 40 through downtown Winston-Salem, will be closing in November for a major overhaul. The result will provide a better driving experience with wider lanes, nine new and higher bridges, longer ramps, an increased speed limit, a modern look, and a new name – Salem Parkway/U.S. 421.

Additionally, there will be two pedestrian bridges and a tunnel. The footbridges will tie into the city’s greenway project, providing a walkable route from the Long Branch Trail at the Innovation Quarter in downtown to BB&T Ballpark.

Business 40 will be closed between U.S. 52 and Peters Creek Parkway for up to 20 months.

Drivers are encouraged to find alternative routes ahead of the closure to get through the city.

Westbound drivers can take either Fifth Street, MLK, Jr. Drive or U.S. 52 to get downtown. Once on U.S. 52, motorists can get to the heart of the city by taking either Research Parkway, Liberty Street or MLK, Jr. Drive.

Eastbound drivers can take either Cloverdale Avenue or Peters Creek Parkway. From Cloverdale Avenue, take First Street to get downtown. From Peters Creek Parkway, drivers can take Second Street.

Additionally, the following bridges over Business 40 will be closed for construction: Fourth Street; Broad Street; Brookstown Avenue; Marshall Street; Cherry Street; Liberty Street; Main Street; and, Church Street. The Strollway and Green Street pedestrian bridges will also be closed.

The Spruce Street bridge will be removed permanently later during construction. The Broad Street bridge has already been removed, but is slated to re-open in the spring of 2019, allowing easier access to downtown.

Additionally, the speed limit will increase from 45 mph to 55 mph. New sound barriers will be installed, and bridges will be designed with brick to tie into the look of downtown Winston-Salem.

Winston-Salem Mayor Allen Joines said, “Once completed, the project and the additional aesthetic features will give Winston-Salem an impressive and beautiful new front door.”

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While a lot is happening now, this project has a history. Built as the first section of I-40 in North Carolina, the East-West Expressway as the road was called, opened in 1958. For North Carolinians, it was a novelty, as there was no other interstate here.

Winston-Salem was the second-largest city in the state, an economic hub with a vibrant downtown. Restaurants here were known far and wide; two of them were the K&W Cafeteria and La Chaudière French restaurant in Reynolda Shopping Center.

To this day, people across the state remember that exit off I-40 and the 1988 explosion that left the cafeteria, and much of the shopping center, in rubble.

By 1989, the I-40 bypass had opened south of downtown. It relieved some traffic, but there are still some 80,000 vehicles on Business 40 each day.

Compared to today’s standards, the Business 40 lanes are too narrow and the ramps too short. The bridges which cross over it are too low and need to be replaced. The roadway is just worn out.

NCDOT officials knew that replacing the highway would require a lot of work.

Other roads and bridges needed to be built and utility lines would have to be moved. Plans moved forward. Since the early 1990s, five of the Business 40 projects have been completed. The last remaining portion is the 1.2-mile stretch between Peters Creek Parkway and U.S. 52.

Officials credit the public, local governments, the Winston-Salem Chamber of Commerce, the WinstonSalem Downtown Partnership, hospitals, universities, elected officials and the Federal Highway Administration for their support in moving the Business 40 project forward. They spoke, and NCDOT listened.

Between 2007-08, a survey was conducted to receive input from drivers, business owners and employees, church members and people who lived and worked near the construction area. More than 11,000 completed surveys indicated that nearly 70 percent of people preferred for the road to be fully closed and the work to be completed in two years.

“Their overwhelming response was to get in and get out. They chose the fastest way for us to do the project,” said NCDOT Division 9 Engineer Pat Ivey.

“We started more than a decade ago to prepare alternative routes that would allow drivers access to their destinations,” Ivey explained.

This is the first time that a major interstate highway has completely closed in North Carolina for a construction project.

To prepare for traffic flow when Business 40 is closed, U.S. 52 was widened to accommodate extra traffic as part of the Salem Creek Connector project.

The revamping of Peters Creek Parkway came next, along with several smaller projects in downtown Winston-Salem -- all in preparation for increased traffic flow.

Additional turn lanes were installed in downtown and traffic lights were adjusted.

Business 40 was officially renamed Salem Parkway/U.S. 421 at the Oct. 21, 2016 construction groundbreaking. New road signs will be installed where I-40 and Business 40 split near Clemmons and the Piedmont Triad Farmers Market.

For detour and revised timeline information, visit Business40NC.com, facebook.com/business40nc/ or #Biz40NC. A special phone number, 336-747-7855, has been created for persons who would rather hear detour routes. If you have questions, you may call 336-747-7800 or email business40@business40nc.com.

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BY DENISE HEIDEL, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY

When a Framework of Support Makes a World of Difference For 39 years, the Piedmont Triad community has benefited from the care and service provided by Trellis Supportive Care, formerly known as Hospice & Palliative CareCenter.

While much in our world has changed over the better part of four decades, the five things people want at the end of their lives remains consistent: 1. To have good symptom and pain management 2. To be at home 3. To achieve a sense of control 4. To relieve the burdens on the family 5. To strengthen relationships with loved ones Trellis Supportive Care is in the business of making all that possible and more. “We believe our care has always set us apart, and now our name does, too. Trellis Supportive Care immediately felt like the right name because it represents our team being a framework of support. And the imagery of a garden trellis evokes the peace of mind we want our patients and families to experience,” shared Linda Darden, President and CEO, when sharing the meaning of the new name.

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SERVICES OFFERED BY TRELLIS SUPPORTIVE CARE Hospice Care: While many find the term “hospice” to be intimidating, or even scary, hospice is about patient care where the focus is on quality of life, comfort, dignity, and peace of mind. While those who are in hospice care no longer receive aggressive treatment, hospice care actually helps extend the patient’s life. Moreover, the hospice care offered by Trellis Supportive Care is available through in-patient service or at-home care.

Ann Gauthreaux, Regional Director of Public Relations, said, “It’s important to note that by ‘home-care,’ we mean wherever a patient is currently residing. Many families do not realize that our hospice care is provided in assisted living facilities, nursing homes, or even hospitals. We go where we’re needed.”

Palliative Care: With an emphasis on quality of life, palliative care is offered to anyone who is dealing with a serious illness. Palliative care is available any time after diagnosis, or before, during, or after treatment has begun.

Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home: Not all hospice organizations are created equal, and a major resource offered

by Trellis Supportive Care is through in-patient care at Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home.

“Our Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home is a home away from home environment,” shared Ann Gauthreaux. “It’s designed for patients who need more intensive care than can be provided at home, or for patients who lack the caregiver support at home. It’s a wonderful environment, complete with full amenities and a homey environment.”

Grief Counseling: Whether a patient has been through Trellis Supportive Care or not, grief counseling is available to anyone in the community who needs help processing a loss.

Whether the loss was due to long-term illness or was sudden and unexpected, the grief counselors of Trellis Supportive Care are trained professionals who are committed to offering compassionate support during dark and difficult days.

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Advance Care Planning (aka Got Plans?):

We Honor Veterans: Very often, veterans have stories and deeply ingrained

Complementary Therapies: Sometimes, medicine

These programs and services represent some of the ways Trellis Supportive Care is touching hundreds of families in our community every day. Trellis Supportive Care welcomes your questions and the opportunity to share more information. The number one piece of feedback they hear is, “We wish we had called sooner,” so please don’t hesitate to reach out to them if you think you could benefit from their supportive care.

Trellis Supportive Care has seen too often how difficult end-of-life care can be without specific care instructions by the patient. Families agonize over choices, wondering if they are honoring the wishes of a loved one who may no longer be capable of speaking for themselves. Trellis Supportive Care’s ‘Got Plans?’ initiative helps facilitate discussion and future care instructions at no charge. This is a service available to anyone in the community.

isn’t always the best medicine. The team at Trellis Supportive Care offers a full menu of complementary services designed to help patients and families enjoy their lives in more holistic ways. From animal-assisted therapy, aromatherapy, music therapy, and gentle touch therapists – complementary therapies often go hand in hand with traditional medicine.

memories they’ve never shared. And often, at the end of their lives, they need to let go of past heartache. Trellis Supportive Care has tremendous respect for America’s veterans, and as such, they have specially trained professionals to help patients and families with military backgrounds. In addition to specialized care, Trellis Supportive Care has an unparalleled veterans’ outreach program, including eight monthly Veteran Coffees that attract hundreds of veterans each month.

GIVING BACK TO TRELLIS SUPPORTIVE CARE Though the organization has recently undergone a name change, it is still the same non-profit, community-supported organization it’s always been. In addition to the 350 full-time and part-time staff of Trellis Supportive Care, the organization is dependent upon 430 volunteers. It’s a calling to be a part of a hospice-mission, and these caring individuals spend countless hours to help families and patients during difficult times.

And while Trellis Supportive Care is designed to support others, there are ways the community can give back to Trellis!

Volunteering: Volunteers are an integral part of the Trellis Supportive Care system.

Volunteering takes many shapes – from administrative functions to animal therapies, to cooking, baking, and providing food to families, to veterans seeking to support other veterans. There are countless ways people can give their time to support Trellis Supportive Care.

Financial Giving: While Medicare, Medicaid, and insurance covers hospice

care, and patients rarely have out-of-pocket costs, there are still costs to be covered.

As a nonprofit organization, Trellis Supportive Care depends on private and corporate donations to help with operational costs and to continue expanding the scope of services offered to families throughout the Triad and 13 counties in North Carolina.

Gifts and endowments can be made to Trellis Supportive Care either online or by mail.

As one of the largest hospice care providers in North Carolina, and the largest in the Triad, Trellis Supportive Care is committed to their long-standing history and reputation for excellent and compassionate care. And as the name implies – support for those they serve.

Community Partnership for Compassionate Care: Trellis Supportive Care has

In September 2018, Hospice & Palliative CareCenter announced a name change to the community.

Trellis Supportive Care is a name designed to reflect the framework of supportive care services that the organization is known for. Ann Gauthreaux, Regional Director of Public Relations, said, “So much thought went into our new name.

Selecting it was the collective effort of many to create an identity that represents who we are and what we do. We believe the imagery of a trellis beautifully represents our team as being there as an unwavering structure of support for the patients and families we serve!”

partnered with all of the Triad’s major medical centers.

“By fostering and building those relationships,” said Ann, “Medical providers are better equipped to help guide patients and families to the services needed for endof-life-care. By educating medical professionals in the community of our full spectrum of care services, more families can benefit from our comprehensive programs.”

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Trellis Supportive Care is headquartered in Winston-Salem at 101 Hospice Lane. They support 13 counties in North Carolina and offer extensive support, including care at home, inpatient care at the Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home, grief counseling, advance care planning, veteran-centered care, complementary therapies, and much more. Learn more at TrellisSupport.org, or call 336.768.3972 or 888.876.3663. Be sure to like their page on Facebook!

All of the services outlined circle back to the five things patients want at end-of-life.

1. To have good symptom and pain management: Trellis Supportive Care has a team of trained medical professionals who will work with primary care physicians, patients, and families.

2. To be at home: Wherever the patient calls home, that’s where Trellis Supportive Care will go. And if in-patient care is required, the Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home is the next best thing.

3. To achieve a sense of control: Trellis Supportive Care is about honoring the dignity and respect every human is due.

“In a time of crisis, the idea of families choosing a hospice care organization is stressful, and it is further complicated by a commonly held misconception that all hospice organizations are the same. We want families to know that by choosing Trellis Supportive Care, they have made the best possible choice for care. We are proud of our comprehensive service offerings, and hope that patients and families will ask for us by name when they can benefit from our care,” shared Linda.

4. To relieve the burdens on the family: Trellis Supportive Care is there to guide families through difficult decisions and offer professional guidance and grief counseling. Additionally, because Trellis Supportive Care is designed for anyone – regardless of socio-economic standing – the comprehensive services offered are more cost-effective than piece-milled services. Plus, hospice care is covered by Medicare, Medicaid, and most private insurance companies. Patients and families rarely have out of pockets costs associated with Trellis Supportive Care.

5. To strengthen relationships with loved ones: Communication and compassion are at the heart of every service offered by Trellis Supportive Care. By making end-of-life-days as comfortable as possible, families and patients can focus their energies on one another, rather than dealing with difficult decisions on their own.

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Military Dogs & Handlers

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Dogs may be known as man’s best friend, but the relationship of a military dog and his handler goes far beyond that concept. It is a relationship built on partnership and forged in intense training. Their dependence on each other is a 24/7 relationship; their lives depend on that trust.

Dogs have long been part of the military from ancient times forward. In the US, military dogs have participated in some fashion in every war. In World War I, Sergeant Stubby was a mascot with the 102nd infantry, Yankee Division; however, he was actually smuggled into the battle zone.

Stubby was credited with detecting deadly gases, warning of nearby enemy soldiers, and locating wounded men on the battlefields. He set the bar high for the future of military dogs.

During World War II, a war dog named Chips, a German Shepherd, Collie, Siberian Husky mix, captured 14 enemy soldiers in one day. Chips was the most decorated dog in World War II. The first airborne dog jumped with British paratroopers on D-Day. During this war, military leaders finally recognized the value of military dogs and the contributions they could make. In recent years, Cairo, a Belgian Malinois, was part of the SEAL team who located Bin Ladin. Lucca, a German Shepherd, was awarded the highest medal the USMC could bestow on a military dog for her service; she completed over 400 bomb detection missions in Iraq and Afghanistan with no loss of human life.

Sources: Dogster.com, barkpost.com, military.com

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Currently, there are approximately 2,500 actively serving military dogs with 700 deployed on overseas assignments. The Department of Defense Working Dog Training School is housed at Lackland Air Force Base where an average of 1,000 dogs work in various stages of training based on their natural abilities of focus or aggression. Like other intense military training programs, the drop out rate is high; about half of the dogs wash out of the program.

What are the qualifications for a military dog? Currently, about 85 percent of the US military dogs are bred in Germany or the Netherlands; their bloodlines are rooted in military service. A potential military dog must have no physical issues, must be highly reward motivated, and must be able and willing to follow commands. A candidate must have a balance between aggression and excitement, and must not be too submissive or too strong-willed. The dog must enjoy working with humans and be well socialized. They must be adaptable, as most of them will work with more than one handler during their military careers. Some of the most prevalent breeds that do well in the military environment include German Shepherds, Labrador Retrievers, and Belgian Malinois. Military dogs may specialize as scouts, sentries, or detection operators. The average success rate for a fully trained bomb detection dog is 98 percent. Many on active duty work with a price on their heads; their skills are that well known by enemy forces.

Military dogs who give their lives in service to our country have their own honor ceremony. Their food bowl is ceremoniously turned upside down, their leash and collar are hung up, and their kennel door is left open. In many services the poem, Guardians of the Night is read. The poem’s author is unknown, but certainly, the writer had a love and respect for dogs whose job it is to protect and serve; it is a beautiful tribute. The poem’s opening stanza is “Trust in me my Friend for I am your comrade.

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FIVE STEPS TO HELP YOU GET READY FOR THE HOLIDAYS

BY KIM SMITH

“What can I do to look my best at next week’s Christmas party?” is a question the doctors at Forsyth Plastic Surgery often get in December.

But planning to look great at those holiday parties should start now. A week before the big event is sometimes too late.

“Preparation for the holidays is key,” says Dr. John Fagg, one of the five surgeons at Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “Just like it’s best to start your shopping early, we stress to our patients that starting a few months before the holidays will give us time to come up with the best plan of action for each patient.”

Dr. Fagg notes five steps that can help you look your best all through the holiday season:

ONE: THE TIME FOR SURGERY IS NOW.

“Cosmetic surgery – such as a tummy tuck, breast lift or even a facelift – can make a dramatic difference in how one feels about his or her self,” says Dr. Andy Schneider of Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “And usually people recover in only a few weeks. So if you are thinking about having a surgical procedure, it’s best to plan early and give yourself at least two weeks to recover.”

Dr. Schneider notes that December is a popular month for cosmetic surgery because patients often have time off around the holidays. So plan early, he says, and the sooner you come in for a consult, the better.

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TWO: MEDICAL STRENGTH SKIN CARE MAKES A BIG DIFFERENCE

Just like your teeth need regular brushing, and your muscles need exercise, your skin needs attention in order to look its best.

“Good quality skin care products can take years off your face,” says Dr. Gil Kingman, one of the surgeons at Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “A regular skin care routine helps the overall complexion, and reduces fine lines and wrinkles.”

And Dr. Kingman notes that just a few weeks of using medical grade skin care products can make a difference. “Starting in November will show results in December – so start soon to see the difference.”

THREE: INJECTIONS ARE QUICK PROCEDURES WITH ALMOST INSTANT RESULTS

“Botox and fillers are one of the key procedures we do at the holidays to help our patients look their best,” explains Dr. George Lawson. “And at Forsyth Plastic Surgery each injection is done by one of our physicians. The results are often immediate, and remember that there is always a potential for a small bruise.

So make sure you give yourself a few days before a party or big event.”

FOUR: NON-INVASIVE PROCEDURES HAVE NO DOWNTIME AND SHOW RESULTS IN JUST A FEW WEEKS Forsyth Plastic Surgery offers many procedures that do not involve surgery.

“In addition to surgery, we offer procedures that do not involve any incisions or anesthesia,” says Dr. Leslie Branch of Forsyth Plastic Surgery.

“We have several lasers, and offer CoolSculpting, Exilis, and Kybella.

These can melt fat, tighten skin, and make you look younger with almost no recovery. During your consultation, we can determine whether you are a good candidate for one of these procedures.”

FIVE: A GIFT CERTIFICATE TO FORSYTH PLASTIC SURGERY IS AN EXTRA SPECIAL GIFT

Maybe your loved one has thought about seeing a plastic surgeon, but felt embarrassed or never found the time. Forsyth Plastic Surgery offers gift certificates that can be used for any of the products or procedures that are offered.

“You may be uncomfortable giving someone special a gift certificate to a plastic surgeon’s office,” says Angela Elliott, cosmetic coordinator at FPS, “but sometimes it’s a great way of saying ‘Go for it – you deserve something that is just for you.’”

For more information about Forsyth Plastic Surgery, visit the website at forsythplasticsurgery.com.

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AFTER

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Thanks Giving

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough….and more.” ~ Melodie Beattie This has been a busy year! I’ve done interior redesigns, paint/color and fabric consultations, interior decorating projects, updates and remodels, hung many pictures, shopped furniture and accessories for clients, sent out a few newsletters, and written a monthly article for the magazine. As a small business owner, I wear many hats. Keeping up with my family, home, church activities and my business definitely keeps me on the go….and that’s a good thing!

At this season of Thanksgiving, I am thankful for ReDESIGNS by Ava, a business where I am able to use the talents God gave me to encourage and help others create a beautiful home. I am thankful for each job and each opportunity to meet a client. Seeing a decorating project come together is very rewarding. I am truly blessed!

Many of my clients just want to freshen and update their homes. Sometimes that may mean a few new fabrics or accessories. Or it can mean

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new furniture, accessories, rug and window treatments, as the before and after pictures in this article. What fun it was to shop for art that would become the inspiration piece in my client’s room!

This is the thank you note I received from this client…words like these make me smile!

“I so appreciate all you did to transform tired furnishings into a house with pizzazz! I love love love it! Proof of that is when I just stand in my living room admiring the finished project. You are the best and so talented.

With hugs and gratitude…….”

I am thankful and honored that you read my article each month. It is my pleasure to share decorating ideas to help you create a beautiful home. Give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call to help with your next decorating project.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

10 Reasons People Choose ReDESIGNS by Ava: 1. They’ve seen the results on TV Home makeover shows or in a friends house.

2. They want a fresh, designer look but haven’t been able to create it.

6. They are blending 2 households of furnishings and want professional help with what to keep and how to make it work.

7. They desire a home that feels good and looks good yet reflects who they are.

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The Place for Vintage, Collectibles, Antiques & More

BY VONDA HENDERSON

The Shoppes of Lewisville Vintage have been part of the Lewisville landscape since 2015 and are nearing their four-year anniversary. Jim Coffey and Chris Blocker, the Shoppes’ owners, have built a dedicated team of associates who enjoy working with their 50 plus dealers and their customers. Wendy, Allie, Jackie, Carol, Barbara, and Loretta work together in the three shops that make up The Shoppes of Lewisville Vintage. “We all work together and may be in any of the stores,” explained Wendy. “If a customer has a specific item in mind, we may walk them to one of the other shops to help them locate it. We work closely and know the inventory of each shop.” As Wendy explained, each shop has its own unique focus: Lewisville Vintage has vintage, nostalgic items that change frequently (from clothing, housewares, accessories, books, handcrafted items, and more); The Gallery focuses on upscale antique furniture and art consignments; and The Market targets rustic-styled, farm-inspired artifacts and farmhouse vintage.

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Booths are rented to dealers who showcase their merchandise based upon the shop guidelines. In some cases, associates may assist with presentations and displays. As with most consignments shops, merchandise turnover is frequent. If you see something you like, it’s best to buy it; it is likely a one-of-akind item. What can you find? Vintage tools, glassware, dishes, cookware, hand-beaded evening bags, vintage clothing, artwork, furniture, hard-to-find book editions, and so much more. Give yourself time to browse the booths and aisle ways in comfort. The shops are well designed to accommodate the displays and for customer comfort.

What about upcoming or annual events?

The Annual Chicken Stew has become a tradition at The Shoppes of Lewisville Vintage.

In addition to their regular merchandise, look for shop specials, let the kids enjoy face painting, local musicians, and of course, the chicken stew. What goes with the stew? That southern dessert staple – banana pudding.

Try the collard green dip as well while you enjoy the live music. Plus, it’s a free event to celebrate the community at large.

Pop-Up Flea Market Under the Oaks is a warm weather event that usually runs

from spring to fall on the second Saturday of each month. Additional dealers will participate and showcase their products outside, weather permitting.

Christmas is a special time at The Shoppes of Lewisville Vintage. Jim, Chris, and the team go all out in decorating the shops. You’ll see traditional Christmas trees, vintageinspired trees, trees filled with collectible ornaments, and one special tree with free ornaments for children to select as a gift.

Look for shop specials as well. Be sure to stop by to find your Christmas spirit or share it with your neighbors!

Lewisville Vintage is located at 6770 Shallowford Road in Lewisville; their phone number is 336.946.6163. Their hours of operation are Wednesday-Saturday 11am - 6pm and Sunday 1pm-5pm.

Please follow their social media pages (Facebook - @Lewisville Vintage and Instagram). Following their Facebook page will ensure you keep updated on planned events and community-related endeavors.

Remember, it’s a new experience with each visit to Lewisville Vintage! Happy shopping!

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BY DINAH MYERS

ENJOY THANKSGIVING MEAL... WITH NO REGRETS! Happy November! November brings in the start of our winter holidays with Thanksgiving just around the corner. If your holidays always involve food, then you are like most of us. Visions of roast turkey and dressing, casseroles, and lots of planning, plus hard work are playing in our minds.

protein and vegetables, minus sauces and gravies. If you must have something sweet, choose dark chocolate in moderation, as it has been identified as a food that has many health benefits. Make extra efforts to exercise during the holiday season to reduce stress effects and keep your metabolism going at a good rate.

As the holidays arrive, remember my motto, “Preparation prevents desperation.” Stay stocked up on healthy choices, especially before and during the holidays. An often overlooked healthy fruit choice is grapefruit. Half of a grapefruit is considered a fruit serving. The pink and red varieties have a little more vitamin C and beta-carotene than the white varieties. All varieties of grapefruit help the body to better utilize iron when eaten with other iron-rich foods. We don’t usually think of winter as a time for fresh fruit, but it is an important part of our nutrition. During the holidays, offer fresh fruit as an alternative to sugary starch desserts. Also, continue to drink water frequently so that you are not feeling thirsty and tempted to consume punch or other sugary beverages. Even your brain needs water to function at its peak capacity!

When you make a less than healthy choice, the most important thing to do is to avoid allowing one instance of eating unhealthy become a week or month of unhealthy choices! It’s far better to stay focused and get right back to eating healthy rather than giving up and just eating poorly for weeks! Keep a journal of the food eaten each day to help stay on track to consume the required foods, and at the same time, be a reminder of what has already been consumed each day. Awareness is key to staying on track with any weight reduction program.

We have many current and former Diet Center clients who live by these tips, and they have lost fat pounds and inches. Most important, they have maintained their weight/fat loss for years, not just a few months.

Do you know anyone that has lost weight and, once the reducing program is over, they have gained back what they lost plus more? This rebounding effect does not happen with Diet Center’s programs. So you are probably thinking, “Why are Diet Center’s programs different?”

We tailor each program to meet the nutritional needs of each person.

Our programs are designed to burn fat and preserve lean muscle tissue.

After achieving the goals for weight and body fat percentage, our programs are designed to enable each person to sustain these goals over a lifetime. This is where other commercial weight loss programs fall short, and this includes “fad” diets. Reality means you cannot go back to your previous unhealthy habits, but it doesn’t prevent you from being able to enjoy life!

If you are a stress/emotional eater, holidays can be huge diet pitfalls. Plan your meals in advance with fresh vegetables and make substitutions in recipes when possible to lower the amount of fat and sugar. Sugar can be somewhat of a “drug” – the more you consume of it, the more you want! To prevent overindulging, eat plenty of lean

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Cameras are accused of “adding” at least 10 pounds to our images.

If we are already 20 pounds over our desired weight, then our pictures will look like we are 30 pounds overweight, which equates to 3 dress sizes! No wonder so many parents have lots of pictures of their children at holidays, but they are rarely in these pictures. Look back at your photo albums and see if that is true for you. In the years to come, your children will ask you why you are not in the pictures. Don’t let this year be another one with no holiday pictures of you! Start getting ready now and you can easily be down 2 to 3 dress sizes by Christmas. Give yourself a gift of “loving yourself” and being healthy!

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

How to Kick Insecurity to the Curb to Get the Profit You Deserve in Your Business This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

When you ask a small business owner what they do or why they love their work, the passion is so clear and easy to see. They can talk about their product or service and how long they’ve been in business or what inspired them to start. They get pretty comfortable speaking about their unique story and letting people know what new things they are working on and where they sell their product.

So, why is it that when it comes to the question “How much do you charge?” all that passion and knowledge tends to shy away?

THE ANSWER? CONFIDENCE.

Many business owners, particularly women, have a tough time finding the confidence to speak to their product or services when it comes to the money aspect. Let’s face it, money can be a little awkward to talk about.

So how do you get comfortable and get past the awkward to bring in the profit you deserve in your business?

ADDRESS THE FEAR

That well of anxiety in your stomach that sometimes creeps up on you when speaking about your pricing comes from a place of fear. Fear that people will judge us on what we charge for our work or that the price will give a reason for someone not to purchase from us. Here’s the thing: there will always be people who will think your prices are too high and there will always be people who think your prices are too low. Everyone will have an opinion! The good news is those people’s opinions don’t matter.

Don’t let fear and scarcity drive your business. When you are trying to make those first dollars, or you need to make your business work, pricing can feel scary. Your selling efforts may come from needing more and trying to show the world you can do “this.”

It’s not a good place to come from, and it will show.

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DON’T LET MONEY & EMOTIONS INTERSECT

Each of your transactions make for great happy dance enhancers, but they should not be validation for who you are and what you are doing. You’re so much more and so is your business!

Start looking at money more black and white. And get rid of the “Who do I think I am?” mentality so many women have when it comes to charging their worth! Don’t worry about what others will think about your pricing. All of the dollars and cents that you earn come from offering a value to your customer and clients.

BE PREPARED

When you have a strong pricing strategy, it’s easier to remove emotion from it. If you’re making things up as you go and lowering and hiking up every other sale, that’s part of the problem. How can you be confident speaking to your pricing if you aren’t

confident about the price itself? Do your research and look at competitor pricing to get a feel for where you fall in the market. Remember that what works for them, may not work for you, but knowing where you stand is important. You may find you’re also insecure that the amount you charge doesn’t represent your work. Know what your bottom line profit needs to look like. Always take into account the cost of your raw materials and the time it takes you to produce what you sell along, with your fixed costs like rent, software charges, and anything that never changes. There is no magic formula for how to price your products and services, but knowing what money you need to take home versus what you need to charge will help you feel prepared.

OWN YOUR PRICING STRATEGY

Remember that your pricing is not what is going to set you apart as a small business. You are! So, plan and prepare and feel confident in what you charge for your product or services, knowing you are the reason your customers will come back.

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Gossip Girl

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Gossip, gossip, gossip. It happens everywhere: at work, at school, online, and even at home. Sadly, gossip has become a part of Western culture and a way for those “mean girl” cliques to form in high school. Here’s where gossip stems from and how the gossiper can break the habit.

WHY WE GOSSIP

Insecurity leads a person to continuous gossip. Gossipers are likely walking around with a halo of low self-esteem dangling over their heads. They lack self-confidence and will find any slanderous thing to say about a certain someone they feel threatened by. Insecure people who are prone to gossip want to feel bigger and better than their target, so they spread lies and puff up the things they find negative or unusual about that person and spread it around. This makes the gossipers feel better about themselves, but that feeling does not last long.

It’s addictive. Gossip circulates all around us, and it’s easier to speak negative things about others than it is to speak good things. Gossip attracts cliques of people and here’s why: it creates social bonds between others who share social dislikes.

We enjoy connecting with others who share our likes and dislikes. We seemingly expend more emotional energy talking about our dislikes than our likes because it’s like venting; we allow ourselves to release our negative emotions. We don’t always have the most confidence in ourselves or our abilities, so spreading negative lies about others becomes addictive because it makes us feel like we’re better, more talented, and smarter than those we gossip about…and that’s what we want: superiority.

THERE ARE MULTIPLE MODES OF GOSSIP

Listening to gossip can be just as harmful as spreading it. If you eagerly listen to slander with a hungry ear but not spread anything, you will still be guilty of gossip. When the lies you’ve hear begin to float around in your head, they end up clouding your judgment about what you think of the “gossipees” (those who are gossiped about). This is especially harmful if someone is gossiping about your friends or family members. And eventually, if you keep holding on to those senseless rumors in your mind, they will eventually spill out if you’re not careful, thus giving in to the act of gossiping.

Social media is full of gossip. Social sites like Facebook and Twitter are swarming with gossip bugs who seek and find rumors to create, “like,” and share. Because social media sites wear freedom of speech like a form-fitting glove, both ethical and malicious people have a voice. And unfortunately, more slander is spread online than uplifting encouragement.

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Tabloid media such as weekly magazines, gossip websites, and some entertainment news programs are, perhaps, built on gossip. These media inject celebrity gossip into our heads making us feel like we can identify with them.

This is another reason gossip is addictive because many people want to identify with these Hollywood residents on a personal level! Tabloid media gives us the quickest access to gossip because it’s found everywhere: grocery store waiting lines, television, word of mouth, and nowadays at our fingertips. Although tabloid media lurks from nearly every corner, it is very unhealthy for us to indulge in it.

HOW TO GOSSIP LESS?

Don’t listen to it. The best way to avoid spreading gossip is to avoid feeding your mind with it. If you’re adamant about letting go of this habit, do what you can to cleanse yourself and your atmosphere of gossip. Log out of social media; turn off the television when the entertainment news comes on if you watch only for the latest gossip; spend less time with those who gossip about others. Another great tip is to let others know that you don’t like gossip. They will respect you for that and share less gossip with you. Even if they don’t, just walk away when the gossip party begins. Developing this habit will build a distaste for gossip, and you will no longer have the urge to speak or spread slander about others.

If you absolutely cannot stop gossiping, try to spread positive gossip. Instead of slandering people, try using your gift of communication to edify, motivate, and compliment them.

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Homegrown Herbal Remedies

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Two steps away from the kitchen window is a means of supplementing homegrown health. The small pots containing your favorite herbs may be considered a flavoring to meals; yet, the reason why you enjoy garlic, for instance, is more than just taste. It has the propensity to lower cholesterol levels and prevent cancer.

Today, an estimated 25% of all pharmaceuticals are derived directly from plants. Regardless of whether you have a green thumb or not, learning how herbs can boost your energy, improve circulation or memory is a step forward in maintaining a state of well-being.

Aloe Vera: Having an aloe

plant on hand in a pinch can instantly help burns or infections as a topical medicine. While it contains powerful antioxidants, the aloe ingredient may be found in tablets or capsules to relieve indigestion, peptic ulcers, and inflammations.

PLANTING TIP: As a succulent, aloe vera thrives if planted in a cactus potting mix, perlite, or sand in a pot with plenty of holes for drainage. Similar to cacti, aloe vera is content in dry conditions.

Cilantro: While it has a unique

PLATING TIP: Growing ginger is not complicated, and is wonderfully aromatic. Get started by planting a ginger root in a pot and transfer after the last frost. Just remember, ginger plants take 10 months to mature.

PLANTING TIP: Thrives in colder temperatures. Plant after the last frost.

Lavender: Usually planted as an eye-catching flower, the sweet

flavor, cilantro is a powerful digestive aid that can remove heavy metals and toxic agents from the body.

Garlic: Used thousands of years

ago in Ancient Egypt, garlic was used as a flavoring and for health and therapeutic purposes including treating respiratory problems, parasites, poor digestion, and fatigue. Today, garlic is a remedy for conditions linked to the heart such as high cholesterol, heart attack, and hypertension. Garlic is also used to help prevent breast, colon, lung, prostate, and stomach cancers.

PLANTING TIP: Softneck garlic (the most common type found in grocery stores) is best if planted by October 15th; however, refrigerate bulbs below 40 degrees for at least two weeks before planting in the spring.

Ginger: Beyond flavoring your

food, ginger is used to treat various types of stomach ailments such as morning sickness, nausea, gas, diarrhea, vomiting, or appetite loss.

Additionally, it can help joint or muscle pain and fight the flu and common cold. Why not try drinking ginger tea?

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aroma has a long history in medicinal medicine. With a long history dating 5,000 years ago, lavender was used to treat anxiety, depression, headaches, insomnia, and skin irritations. The least challenging herb to use, fresh lavender can be placed in a room. By merely inhaling, the fragrance can reduce stress and even mild pain. Topical use of lavender oil has improved skin conditions and balding spots.

PLANTING TIPS: Best planted when the soil is warm in poor to moderately fertile soil. Add organic matter to improve drainage.

Lavender does not thrive in wet, moist locations.

Lemon Balm: Even though the aroma is a lemony scent, the

leaves are green. As a member of the mint family, lemon balm is an extraordinary herb with a list of benefits including stress and anxiety, memory and cognitive function, insomnia, indigestion and menstrual cramps, headache and nausea, and toothache. From dried leaves, lemon balm is gentle enough for children. Do not consume lemon balm for long periods of time.

PLANTING TIP: With shallow roots, lemon balm can grow an almost any soil. It should be contained in a pot to prevent spreading.

Lemon balm can tolerate shade.

Peppermint: Easy to

grow and will spread if not contained, peppermint can soothe symptoms of common illness such as a sore throat, headaches, or upset stomach. Peppermint added to tea can boost energy levels.

Writing down your favorite recipes is a common endeavor; yet, have you ever recorded your experiences with herbs? You may discover a noted improvement such as a boost of energy when using peppermint or a way to ease a sore throat. Think about combining herbs such as steeping fresh peppermint and lemon balm leaves in hot water, and then adding honey. When you find great combinations, you’ll certainly want to remember them!

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Medaloni Cellars Wine Club Exploring New Tastes Together!

BY MARTIE EMORY

Wine Club Manager Alyssa Tull

Wine Maker Joey Medaloni

Few things can top sipping a glass of excellent wine on a relaxed afternoon at Medaloni Cellars in Lewisville. Located just 10 minutes outside of the bustle of downtown Winston-Salem, true connoisseurs of Medaloni’s superior wine collection also know that joining the vineyard’s exclusive Wine Club brings even more rewards and plenty of good times! Savoring your favorite Medaloni wine in the comfort of your own home, for one, and knowing in advance what delightful new offerings are just around the corner.

Lucky Wine Club members are privy to the winery’s newest introductions in advance, and Sunday, November 4, marks the next Wine Club tasting, where winemaker – and visionary – Joey Medaloni will personally oversee a delightful tasting through the wonderful new releases. He loves the chance to interact with Wine Club members and enjoys hosting these exclusive club tastings while sharing his knowledge of the industry, and the nuances that make his wines unique. Having spent several months in Bordeaux, France, before establishing the vineyard in 2011, and opening to the public in 2012, Joey learned from the best and passionately cultivated his own winemaking skills.

“There are new wine releases every three months,” explains Wine Club manager Alyssa Tull, who coordinates club events with members who reside all over the United States. The group celebrated its one-year anniversary this fall, with approximately 200 members who know and fully appreciate the art of fine wine.

Perks and other specials for members include a 10% discount on the order of three bottles every three months, a 15% discount on six bottles every three months, and a 20% discount (plus free shipping) on a case order.

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“Becoming a member of the Wine Club – which is absolutely free to join – is a great opportunity because you’re paying for wine you’d be buying anyway, but with the advantage of discounts and special outings,” says Alyssa. Members can mix whites and reds within their order, stick with a tried-and-true favorite, or enjoy the chance to give the newest introductions a try as well. Wine Club membership is the ideal way to expand your palate a bit, and discover a brand new favorite every three months.

Truly a feast for all the senses, Medaloni Cellars sits on over 20 acres of land and walking trails that overlook the Blue Ridge Mountains, and is situated right at the beginning of the Yadkin Valley Wine Trail. Joey and his staff blend experience in the hospitality industry with their passion for winemaking, creating the perfect venue for weddings and private parties, plus there are cozy rental cabins for fun and relaxation right on the property. But amazing wine remains the heart of the business.

“Our wine sets us apart from other wineries, it’s as simple as that,” says Alyssa, who encourages visitors to the vineyard to join the Wine Club for fun, fellowship, and a chance to share their love of good wines.

For more information email Alyssa at wineclub@medalonicellars. com or visit Medalonicellars.com. Tastings and tours are available Wednesday and Thursday 1 p.m. – 6 p.m., Friday 12 p.m. – 7 p.m., Saturday 11 a.m. – 6 p.m., and Sunday 12 p.m. – 6 p.m. Medaloni Cellars is located at 9125 Shallowford Road in Lewisville, 336-946-1490. The next exclusive Wine Club event is Sunday, November 4, followed by live music from Mike Bustin (note: music is open to the public!).

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Be Our Guest

BY TARYN JEREZ

Who doesn’t love a home away from home? As the holiday season sweeps in, many families will begin making plans to welcome overnight and out-of-town guests into their homes. Whether it’s close friends or family members coming to stay, it’s nice to create a welcoming space that makes them feel comfortable. Here are some simple tips and inexpensive touches that can make your home not only impressive to your guests, but a space they will appreciate and love.

MAKE THEM FEEL WELCOME

More often than not, overnight guests or those staying a prolonged time have been arranged with advanced notice, therefore, make sure to create their accommodations ahead of time, too.

You don’t want to make them feel like an inconvenience by first moving things around your home to make room for them once they arrive. Thinking about simple things like the number of people coming and how much luggage they may be bringing can help you make arrangements. Asking your guests what kind of dietary restrictions they have or what type of coffee or tea they like ahead of time to keep in the house also ensures they feel welcome.

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Tips on Creating a Welcoming Space Your Guests Will Love

ADD SMALL COMFORTS

Whether you have a guest room with a bed or are offering a pull-out couch, be sure to have freshly cleaned sheets ready for your new arrival. A seasonal candle with some matches nearby or a soft throw blanket draped across a chair are simple ways to make a space feel more welcoming. Additionally, you can create a drawer or a container of items that may come in handy that your guests may forget at home.

Ideas can include travel sized toiletries left from a hotel stay, over-the-counter medicine, grooming items and even a nice new pair of slipper socks.

PROVIDE ALL NEED- TO-KNOW INFO UPFRONT

If you have pets, let your guests know ahead of time. Keep some Benadryl or Claritin nearby in the event your guest has allergies to your furry friend. If you have a dog or cat that tends to shed a lot, keeping a lint brush available will be appreciated. Do you have a home alarm they need to be made aware of?

Provide a guest code if they will be coming and going from the home without you, and make sure they know how to access the alarm. Of course, who could forget the most commonly asked question when guests arrive: “What’s your WiFi password?” Leaving a small frame or note where they are staying is a muchappreciated gesture.

GIVE THEM A LITTLE SPACE

We’re not talking about the size of the space in which they are staying, but something pretty important. When you are staying in someone else’s home, no matter how close you may be, people tend to like their privacy. Make sure not to bother your guests by checking in too frequently.

Let them know from the beginning that if they need anything, to ask, and remind yourself that they will come to you on their own. If you don’t have a separate guest room, try to still steer clear of the area they are staying and let other family members in the house try to as well.

Remember, while having house guests can be fun it can be a little hectic with more people in the house.

Just try to have things put in place ahead of time and enjoy the extra time with your guests and make them feel as welcome as you can.

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Saranda Sturdivant’s office is tidy and surprisingly calm, considering that it is nestled between Second Harvest Food Bank’s active warehouse space, full of beeping forklifts and busy volunteers, and Providence Culinary Training’s teaching kitchen, where students are busy peeling potatoes and boiling large pots of soup for community meals.

Saranda is adept at carving out peaceable spaces in unlikely places.

She’s a young mother and has had a lot of practice at making do. It was only a few short months ago that she and her toddler son were living together in a local family shelter, a place where she had to create normalcy and parent in a very public setting. Living in the shelter for several months, Saranda learned how to create bedtime routines, play spaces, and a sense of home for her child, sometimes amidst chaos. “That’s what mothers do,” she says ruefully.

MOTHERS ALWAYS FIGURE THINGS OUT

BY GWEN FRISBIE-FULTON

Mothers figure things out, sometimes against all odds. After leaving an abusive relationship, Saranda was committed to supporting her family on her own. While living in the shelter, Saranda got up at 2 AM each morning, buckled her son into his car seat, and drove to the Winston-Salem Journal’s distribution warehouse to load her vehicle with newspapers. Her delivery route, she confesses, should have only taken a couple of hours, but because she would need to tend to her son (even pulling over to breastfeed him in the dark on the side of the road), it would often take twice as long.

During the day, Saranda went to classes at Goodwill Industries. Her father would stay with her son in the parking lot while she was in class.

Looking for a career that would not off hand reject her because of her past, someone recommended that she look into Providence Culinary Training (PCT) at Second Harvest. “I did always like to cook,” she says. “But once I toured the kitchen, I knew this was for me.”

Knowing that food insecurity is a symptom of a larger issue of poverty, Second Harvest’s PCT is a 13-week culinary program, designed to move graduates into family-supporting wage jobs. This is exactly what Saranda needed. Beyond simply employment, she needed a job that paid wages that would cover her family’s most basic needs, from housing to transportation to childcare to food.

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Saranda’s first attempt to attend PCT disintegrated after her childcare fell through, but she was persistent. After receiving childcare assistance, Saranda returned to PCT to try again. For 13 weeks she worked alongside her peers, learning knife skills, culinary terms, food safety, and prepping ready-to-heat meals for Second Harvest’s partner network. “Our team came together like a family,” she says. “Beyond the skills, I gained a support network. I even met my best friend at PCT.” Saranda says that this encouragement and camaraderie was vital to her success— especially because while she attended the all-day PCT classes, she was preparing to welcome a second child.

“It’s amazing what you can do once you are given the support and space to do it,” she says.

By the time Saranda came to her graduation, she was a new mother to a little girl. The credentials couldn’t have come at a better time. Now with two children, launching her new career felt more important than ever.

Saranda interned with a local baker, and was looking at restaurants in town for employment—but the folks at Providence had another track for her in mind.

Impressed by her sheer willpower and dedication, PCT invited Saranda to join their team at the food bank as their Client Services Assistant. “Saranda stood out to us because she is everything we look for in a student and an employee—the ability to persevere despite all odds to better themselves and their subsequent generations,” explained Heather Martin, Director of Finance and Development for Providence.

Saranda is quick to point out that she is not an exception; that her resiliency and perseverance are something she learned from her community.

She says that it is no different for others coming into the program at PCT. “They are hardworking, they are smart, they are ready to do what it takes. We all just need the opportunity to prove ourselves.”

Saranda now lives in a new apartment where she can create new routines and new traditions for her small family.

At work, she can help to guide and encourage people who are standing, literally, in the same place she was only months ago. “I can stand in front of someone here and say, ‘I did this, and I know that if I did it, you can.’ And they will believe me and know it is true because I’ve been there, too.”

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It’s Holiday Season at Gifts & Paper on Plaza

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Holiday shopping at Gifts & Paper on Plaza is special. And, it’s fun. The shop layout changes often and there are so many options to consider as gifts for friends, family, co-workers, teachers – basically anyone you have on your gift list, including yourself.

Getting your home ready and in a festive spirit may be high on your todo list. Visit Gifts & Paper on Plaza to add those special touches to share during the season, from seasonal pillows to ornaments and more.

Create a memorable Thanksgiving table with serving pieces and place settings that set the stage for the meal you’ve prepared for your loved ones. For food storage, check the Bee’s Wrap line; they’re organic, reusable wraps that last for up to a year, made from beeswax. Candles always add a special touch to a table or any room, especially in holiday fragrances. To reduce cleanup, while adding some cheer to your gatherings, check the disposable wine glasses in festive colors.

Gifts & Paper on Plaza now carry the Beatriz Ball line from serving platters, bowls, to coasters, and more. As a gift or on your table, each piece is designed for function with elegance in either white with white beaded rims or white with silver beaded rims. Add a spoon rest shaped as a holly leaf in forest green for a touch of whimsy on your table.

Looking for a special dip or jam to serve guests? The Segreti de Sicilia line offered at Gifts & Paper on Plaza may be just the right unique taste treat. Select from green olive spread, black olive spread, blood orange marmalade, Sicilian onion jam, Sicilian basil pesto, and more.

Serve with flair in a Beatriz Ball dish!

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Perhaps your tradition includes a new ornament each year. Check the selection of ornaments from JingleNog collectibles, glittering stars, Caspari crackers (with a joke, trinket surprise, and hat in each), porcelain angels, gnomes, and more. Great ideas for hostess gifts, teachers, or anyone in fact.

Linen towels with fur babies decked out in holiday gear are fun and functional for your home or as a stocking stuffer for any animal lover. Pick up a stocking idea for your pets; what cat wouldn’t love a fresh treat of catnip? And don’t forget the outdoor animals. Why buy a boring bag of birdseed when you can give them a birdhouse or wreath made of birdseed with their own holiday trimmings?

Gift ideas for children include unique toys, puzzles, and books that encourage creativity and imagination. Men may enjoy the challenge of True Genius wooden puzzles; they may seem simple, but looks are deceptive.

Keep a few as coffee table puzzles; they work well as conversation starters.

Do you need something new to set-off that holiday outfit? How about a faux fur wrap to step out with style? Or something from Cheetah or Tweed?

Top off that outfit with an accent piece of jewelry from ali & bird. Each piece of ali & bird jewelry is uniquely different, hand-made in Atlanta, Georgia, and features semi-precious stones or other handcrafted materials.

Gifts & Paper on Plaza is conveniently located just off Stratford Road at 3301 Healy Drive with hours from Monday through Friday, 9:00 am to 4:00 pm, Saturdays from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm. Contact the team at 336.768.9909 or via e-mail (shop2@goslenprinting.com). Shop on their easy to navigate website (giftsandpaperonplaza.com) anytime. Follow them on social media as well (Facebook, Pinterest, or Instagram). Happy holiday shopping!

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BY DAVE MCCONNELL

FINDING QUALITY TIME WITH OUR KIDS… HOW ABOUT A WORKOUT? In our fast-paced world of living, it can be difficult to spend quality time with our teenage kids. What better way to promote a healthy lifestyle, have fun, and spend a few hours a week with your kid than working out together? Instead of watching their kids work out in my athletic performance classes at Wilson Park, I have offered the parents the opportunity to join them. Here are three that took me up on my offer.

TONIA & QUAY

Quay is a rising 9th grader at West Forsyth High School who plays football and basketball.

He enjoys having his mother work out with him because she motivates him and he enjoys having someone to talk to while he’s working out. Tonia has fun spending time with the kids and doesn’t mind Quay pushing her when she gets tired or wants to stop.

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LEIGH & CAROLINE

Caroline is a rising 10th grader at Davie High School that plays golf and soccer. Caroline likes to poke fun at her mom but is continuously reminded she better not slack off because someone’s watching. It’s also extra motivation to “not let your mom outrun you.” Leigh likes to set an example of taking good care of yourself and working hard. She also realizes she’s on her daughter’s turf and tries not to do anything to embarrass her.

CHRISTINE & MEGAN

Megan is a rising 10th grader at West Forsyth High School. She plays competitive soccer year round and was a starter on the Titan varsity soccer team. She likes working out with her mom because it makes her more competitive and it gives her no excuses not to do something her mother is doing. Christine likes the competitive nature it brings out, because no kid wants to get beat by their mom. She also enjoys getting to know her daughter’s friends and peer group.

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SUCCESS IN LIFE IS A CO-BRAINER. For one-third of Forsyth County’s youngest children the first five years of life are threatened by the constant stress and pressures of living in poverty – which leads to emotional, behavioral, health, and learning problems. As a result, too many of our youngest children are stranded on the far side of opportunities that could help them thrive.

We know that children who have access to high-quality, early childhood development programs in the first five years will be better prepared both intellectually and emotionally – to become healthier, happier and more socially responsible adults.

That’s why we have launched the Raising Every Child campaign to improve the physical, social, and emotional health of 1,500 young children annually. Benefiting children, families and preschool teachers, Raising Every Child helps build a better future for our community.

We cannot do this alone.

We need your help.

The Raising Every Child campaign addresses Forsyth County’s immediate needs of the most vulnerable population, children from birth to age 5.

The goal for Raising Every Child is $3.75 million. More than $3 million or 87% of this goal has been raised from community foundations, businesses and private donors.

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• Provide 100 teachers in 50 classrooms with training, coaching and mentoring in how to address the behavioral and emotional challenges of 3- and 4-year-olds • Partner with Wake Forest Baptist and Imprints Cares to expand physical, social, and emotional health services to 500 young children and their families annually • Establish a county-wide engagement campaign, The Pre-K Priority, to make highquality Pre-K programs available to all four-year-old children in Forsyth County The need is great in our community as too many of our children who enter kindergarten in WinstonSalem/Forsyth County schools are at risk of falling behind, particularly in reading, from the first day they start school. In addition, a 2017 Harvard University study ranked Forsyth County one of the worst counties in the United States in helping poor children up the income ladder.

These children are no less precious, and we don’t see them as victims. They are just under-resourced.

When you are born into poverty, it doesn’t make you less gifted; it only gives you fewer options – and more obstacles. We want to remove those obstacles so that every child in this community has the opportunity to use their gifts and grow in their own way to support themselves and their futures.

Working together, our community can make this happen. Success in life is a co-brainer.

Join us in reaching more children and their families than ever before – ensuring that they are safe, secure and able to reach their full potential.

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, Grandma s RECIPE: Green Bean Casserole

BY SARA WILES

If green bean casserole isn’t on your Thanksgiving table, then you are missing out! From Thanksgiving, Christmas, and even Easter this casserole doesn’t miss a holiday in our household. This recipe is not only easy, but KID FRIENDLY, making it a win-win in my book.

Because of this recipe’s simplicity, it is important to use high-quality ingredients. Fresh green beans, as opposed to canned, really provide a fresher taste. Canned green beans are certainly an option, but the fresher, the better. Simply trim off any strings and microwave in water for 5-7 minutes until they are tender.

Ingredients

Directions

2 ½ lbs. French green beans, or 6 cans if using canned

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

2 cans (10.75 oz.) condensed cream of mushroom soup 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese 1 1/3 cups fried onions (French’s)

Using fresh green beans: trim the ends, put in a microwavesafe dish with a tablespoon of water and cover with a wet paper towel. Microwave for 5-7 minutes. Drain and pat dry.

Using canned green beans: Drain well and pay dry, no need to microwave.

In a large bowl mix the green beans, mushroom soup, cheddar cheese and 1/3 cup of the fried onions, then add to a baking dish.

Cook in the oven for 25-30 minutes.

Top with the remaining fried onions and cook an additional five minutes before serving.

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Professional Women of Winston-Salem meets on the second Wednesday of each month in the Flow Club at the BB&T Ballpark from 11:30 am until 1 pm

Please join us for 2018 Annual Business Meeting on Wednesday, November 14th from 11:30am - 1pm.

Professional Women of Winston-Salem We will review 2018

and share organization financials and membership stats.

Learn about what's in store for 2019 and meet our 2019 Board of Directors.

There will be plenty of time for networking!

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Should a Bride and Groom See Each Other Before the Wedding?

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON Ever wonder where the superstition of a groom not seeing the bride before the wedding started?

During Medieval times when arranged marriages were customary, based on financial gain or bettering a family’s standing in the community, the betrothed couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. Therefore, it became tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind.

What if the bride didn’t like the looks

of the groom? I guess that’s a topic for another article, so back to the one at hand. Should a bride and groom see each other before the ceremony?

KEEPING TRADITION ALIVE OR NOT?

In 2018, most marriages are not arranged, and it’s less likely your partner is marrying you for the sake of acquiring a handsome cow or a few goats or securing a business deal with your parents, so it’s unlikely anyone will back out just because they see each other. If either of you backs out, odds are it’s probably because of something that happened way before walking down the aisle.

The main reason couples today seem to keep the tradition of not seeing each other before the ceremony, is because they believe it builds up the anticipation of seeing each other for the first time.

However, a large percentage of couples are choosing to meet before the wedding, getting a ‘first look’ as the idea has been named.

Meeting before the ceremony, when you’re free from the must-do tasks and strict needs of the ceremony itself, gives you more personal moments and experiences together, which adds wonderful memories to your special day. Some brides prefer to take photos earlier in the day when their hair and makeup are at their best, and outdoor photos can be taken in natural light which may not exist after the ceremony.

Today’s professional photographers are making the ‘first look’ as special as the traditional meeting of the bride and groom.

Most ‘first look’ moments take place in an area away from any wedding party members, perhaps in the corner of a garden with the groom standing, eyes closed, as his bride-to-be walks up and he sees her in her dress ready to become his wife. Or the bride is waiting for her husband-to-be, and he walks up behind her and surprises her. These moments are arranged, yes, by the photographer, who is ever-ready with the camera, but also far enough away that there is little intrusion in that ‘first look’ moment. The couple are able to share intimate moments about what they are feeling and really take in how special this day is to them.

Many couples say that having that time just to themselves brought even more magic to meeting at the altar. Spending that quality time together earlier on the wedding day ramps up and fuels the emotions for when the magical moment arrives. Beyond having a little time together before the craziness of the wedding begins, taking photos before the wedding also allows for more time with your guests.

We’ve all been to weddings, probably most weddings, where the couple and the wedding party have photos taken after the ceremony, meaning it’s about an hour at least, if you’re lucky, before the new Mr. and Mrs. arrive at the reception. Photos taken beforehand mean that the bride and groom have more time to spend with their guests at their reception, the most relaxing part of the hectic day. But there’s still something to be said for keeping tradition…

If you have dreamed of the perfect wedding, with the princess dress, walking down an aisle bathed in flowers with family and friends looking on as you and your husband-to-be see each other for the first time, then go for it! In many ways, as a society, we have fallen away from the traditions of generations and having the something borrowed, something blue, and that first look at the altar is special.

Whether you see each other before or during the ceremony, don’t make your decision based on a superstition that makes no sense today.

What is important is that you and your partner are both happy and comfortable with your decision….just one of many it will be helpful to agree on in life!

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Hear the Beat?

The Benefits of Playing Drums

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Exercise and health benefits come in many forms. Playing the drums is one of those means. Does that surprise you?

Playing drums can help you relax; it’s considered a stress reliever. Think about it. You’ve had a busy day, filled with meetings, interruptions, and to-do lists that can’t possibly be completed within a regular workday. You get home frustrated and worn-out. You need some stress relief!

Go beat out a few tunes on your drums to clear your head.

Those frustrations fade away, and you get lost in the music.

Now you can relax and enjoy the evening. You’ve not only lowered your stress level, but you’ve also given your spirit a shot of self-expression and creativity, which translates to a happier you.

Playing drums can also help with pain management.

The concentration and focus needed to play drums help to redirect attention, and act as a distraction from pain.

Playing for the joy of playing has its own rewards. As Wayne Heidel, drummer with local bands Audio Proxy, Hawthorne Curve, and Susan B & The Deep River Band, shared, “Playing drums is fun, it’s a physical activity, and it’s an extension of my musical expression. The cardio benefits and mental stimulation are important, but the music for me is centerstage. I consider this talent as my spiritual gift according to my life verse, “A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps (Proverbs 16:9)”.” With 30 plus years of drumming, playing every day and sharing his talent is part of his normal activities.

Dana Bryson, Owner of KZ Hotels & Services, has also enjoyed drumming for years. She tracks playing the drums as part of her exercise regimen. “I wear my Fitbit while playing, and other than scoring steps, my heart rate always increases and calories are burned. When I was in college, I wrote an essay for a physical fitness class on the health benefits of drumming. Back then, I’d play for a set length of time, stop and check my heart rate, and record my findings.

I found that I could get a good ‘seated’ workout while playing the drums as long as my heart rate was up. Playing some upbeat tunes works!” Dana now shares her talent as part of the praise band at Clemmons First Baptist Church.

“My favorite part of playing drums is the camaraderie of playing in a band and writing or creating music. When everyone plays their part well, beautiful music can happen.

Whether I’m playing familiar tunes or something I’ve written, using a God-given talent to ‘make a beautiful noise’ is what makes it so enjoyable.”

You’re never too young or too old to learn a musical instrument. Noah Hauser, age nine, has been taking drum lessons for a few months. He shared, “I enjoy drumming because of the beats and think that drumming makes people happy!” His mom shared that, for now, he just enjoys drumming for fun and learning new techniques to practice.

Perhaps someone has added drums to their wish list this holiday season. Now that you know the health benefits, how about it? Maybe you should try your hand at drumming, too? Who knows what hidden talents you might find?

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Red Dog Gallery celebrates its 8th year anniversary this month. The Gallery is owned and managed by Art for Art’s Sake, known as the AFAS Group, a volunteer-based nonprofit organization in Winston-Salem. Our mission is to “Build, Educate and Celebrate Community Through Art.” We work with local artists of all levels in their careers, from aspiring artists to those with established careers, to help them reach their potential. To become an AFAS artist, visit our website at theafasgroup.com.

The AFAS Group’s Red Dog Gallery showcases the works of a variety of talented local artists and craftsmen. From rich paintings and raku pottery to handmade jewelry and whimsical sculpture, the items and styles on display at the gallery are constantly changing – and there’s always something new to discover for every sensibility and budget. A popular feature is the Art-o-mat®, a retired cigarette machine that has been converted to vend art.

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Jill Aguilar knows how important the annual reunion is. As a parent of two children who both spent time in the NICU, Aguilar enjoys catching up with the doctors and nurses who cared for her children and meeting other NICU families.

The Forsyth Medical Center NICU cares for nearly 1,000 children each year, and this annual event provides an opportunity for doctors and nurses to reconnect with those former patients in a fun, relaxed environment.

“Everyone has had a variety of experiences,” says Aguilar, who also serves as chair of the Forsyth Medical Center NICU parent advisory board.

“It’s really special to see all of these babies come together today and see how well they’re doing months, and sometimes years, down the road.”

“This event began more than 25 years ago as a celebration of our former NICU patients and how far they have come,” says Ann Smith, director of women’s and children’s health at Forsyth Medical Center. “It’s extremely rewarding to know that all we do and all of the strategies we implement really come to fruition and lead to the best outcomes for our babies and their families.”

As part of the celebration, several team members dressed up as superheroes, including Thor, Spider-Man, Wonder Woman, Black Panther and Batman. The event also featured crafts and games for the children.

“Many of our nurses and team members keep in touch with the families that come in and out of the NICU, and it’s great for the parents to be able to reconnect with them here today,” says Bridget Boyles, assistant nurse manager of the Forsyth Medical Center NICU. “We’ve had NICU graduates as old as 21 come to these reunions. Seeing this is really what makes our jobs worthwhile.”

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Do You Fear

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BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Achievmephobia is a real thing.

Many of us may think, “Why be afraid of such a positive circumstance?” Just as every other fear, the fear of success is learned and can be overcome.

Here’s a magnifying look at achievemephobia.

WHY FEAR SUCCESS?

A lot of people are afraid of change.

Success brings a change in lifestyle that is likely difficult to adjust to.

It can bring about an increase in popularity, a change in venue (such as moving to a new city or state), more money than you feel like you can manage, heightened exposure to yourself and your craft, and more publicity. Success may also attract different breeds of people into your life, whether they be consumers or, say, business partners. Many folks who value complacency may also be afraid of what success will bring them. They may not want to experience life outside of their comfort zone. For instance, a family-oriented person may not want a new career to uproot them from their hometown, and if that happens, may feel out of place due to culture shock.

A larger platform can create more pressure such as the need to please everyone and living up to everyone’s fantasies and expectations—which is impossible and unrealistic. There is a need to nail accomplishments back to back to maintain the admiration of everyone who is watching you. Speaking of being “watched,” the greater publicity can also put you under a microscope, especially in the social media world where everyone is vulnerable to scrutiny and criticism.

Not knowing how you will be after success is another reason some people fear success. You may not know how to remain humble with so much adulation from your audience or consumers. You may be afraid that a higher income, a new set of friends, and a popularity that you’ve never experienced before will cause you to give into self-inflation.

You may also be afraid that a high status will make you forget your upbringing, your family, and values.

WHAT DOES FEAR OF SUCCESS LOOK LIKE?

Procrastination — being afraid of accomplishing great tasks that eventually brings one closer to success Perfectionism — the need to overperform because of feelings of inadequacy or fears of criticism

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Turning down good opportunities — those who fear success may refuse to partake in anything that will catapult them into success.

Refusing to set goals — not being willing to work towards success Complacency — limiting oneself to tasks that are “too familiar” to them; not wanting to grow or develop, and avoiding challenges

DON’T BE AFRAID OF YOUR OWN GREATNESS!

Fear of success means being afraid of your greatness! Here are some reasons people may not want to encounter their own greatness:

Stirring up envy from our loved ones — say our success brings us “ahead” of a friend, sibling, or even a spouse.

We may end up making more money, gaining more attention and supporters for our business or craft, and getting more opportunities and promotions than our loved ones. You may be concerned that your folks will be jealous or bitter because of your favor.

“Center of attention” scare — this can be true especially if one is shy or socially anxious. To those who are timid, success could mean publicity that they don’t feel like they are prepared for.

Childhood trauma — one who has been bullied and taunted for being the “smart one” in class or for being a high academic achiever is likely to fear success as an adult because they may fear the same retorts from even more people.

Losing sense of self — you may not know who you will be after you succeed and this fear of the unknown may frighten you. That’s why it’s important to establish a strong sense of self before determining what you want in life.

HOW TO COMBAT IT?

1. Seek the root of your fears — why do you really fear success? Learn how to minimize that fear.

2. Positive self-talk — speak a wave of confidence over yourself.

3. Become comfortably uncomfortable — success takes you outside of your comfort zone, practice this daily.

4. Think ahead — near the end of your life, do you want to have any “dang! I should’ve…” moments?

Remember you are here for a reason. Don’t let your purpose go to waste because of the illusion of fear.

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SUSAN SCHABACKER

Susan Schabacker was blessed to be adopted as a baby and made her journey from South Korea to Massachusetts where she arrived safely into her adoptive mother’s loving arms.

She later moved to New Mexico and then to Winston-Salem to study classical ballet at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts from the eighth grade through high school. Susan has lived in the Piedmont Triad area for nearly 20 years and had the opportunity to travel to Budapest, Hungary, London, the UK and Beijing, China, where she studied abroad through Elon University. In Stockholm, Sweden, she had a marketing internship at Hachette-Filipacchi, publisher of Elle and other magazines.

She graduated with a B.A. in corporate communications and a minor in dance from Elon University. Susan loves to write and is pleased to have written for Winston-Salem Journal’s “Teen Page,” Triad Living, KernersvilleMagazine and, of course, Forsyth Magazines. She is a co-author of a children’s book, Huckleberry Robin, based on a three-generation true family story. Susan is grateful for her faith, family and friends and is happy to be part of the Forsyth Magazines team. She spreads the word about Forsyth Magazines and enjoys reading and sharing them with her family and friends every month.

CAITLIN STAFFORD

Caitlin Stafford grew up in rural Virginia at the base of the Blue Ridge Mountains. She received a BFA in acting from Virginia Commonwealth University in 2007, and shortly thereafter relocated to Winston-Salem where she has been participating in the local theatre community since. After working with The Little Theatre for a few years as the Assistant Technical Director, she started a small theatre company with Michael Ackerman and Rene Shepard. Spirit Gum Theatre Company is now in its 6th season and has just achieved its 501c3 non-profit status. Recently she has directed several shows for The Little Theatre including “Tuesdays with Morrie” and the very recent “Calendar Girls” as well as directing “The Pillowman” for Spirit Gum. She is proud to be a part of changing the gender and age dynamics of our local director pool but does look forward to getting back onstage, hopefully in the near future.

TRACEY WOLFE

Tracey Wolfe is a native of Winston-Salem. She attended Forsyth Technical Community College for business administration and business management and graduated as the valedictorian from Carolina Beauty College as a licensed cosmetologist. The creative skills acquired from these educational institutes and continue trainings have enabled her to branch out as an entrepreneur of various businesses. She is the owner of Flawless image-beauty-fashion where her passion is to coach people on their inner and outer beauty, helping individuals with their personal brand and professional image development. As Chief Executive Officer of TRW Management, Tracey and her professional staff manage people, events and small businesses with excellence. Tracey serves as a member of the Piedmont Triad Women’s Forum, National Association of Professional Women, a member of Dress to Success and on the board of directors for Phenomenal Woman. She is also a part of mentoring programs and outreach ministries.

Tracey is the author of two E-books “8 Ways to Raising Them to Be Better Not Bitter” and “How to Start a T-shirt Business Flawlessly.” She is also on two book collaboration projects “Wake. Pray. Slay. A Woman’s Guide to Being Unstoppable” and “C.H.U.R.C.H. Girls Stories of Victories, Success and Triumph.” She is the proud mother of two beautiful daughters. Tracey’s mission is to empower men, women, boys and girls to Keep Shining 365 regardless of their circumstances!

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DR. SHARON H. PORTER

Dr. Sharon H. Porter is originally from Winston-Salem. She has served as an educator for more than 25 years.

Currently, she is a Leadership Development Coach working with firstand second-year principals and assistant principals. In this role, she serves as the Assistant Principal Induction Program (APIP) Coordinator where she assists in the development of novice assistant principals in a large urban school district in Maryland. She is also a published, bestselling author, entrepreneur, podcaster and talk show host. Dr. Porter is the CEO of Perfect Time SHP Coaching, Consulting and Book Publishing Firm, founder of the GRIND Entrepreneur Network and Write the Book Now, and the host of the I Am Dr. Sharon Show. www.IamDrSharonShow.com. Prior to her current role, Dr. Porter served as principal at Imagine Andrews Public Charter School, Lamont Elementary, Greenbelt Middle School and Kernersville Middle School in Forsyth County in North Carolina. She graduated from Winston-Salem State University in 1992 with a degree in elementary education, National-Louis University in 1998, Johns Hopkins University in 2000, Walden University in 2012 and Howard University in 2017 earning her doctorate in educational leadership & policy studies. She enjoys volunteering in the community and mentoring middle and high school female students as well as undergraduate aspiring school leaders. She also finds joy in mentoring aspiring entrepreneurs.

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Fayth Caruso is a professional dancer, choreographer and teacher who has performed, choreographed and taught in New York, Chicago and internationally and is the newest member of the Inner Strength Pilates team in Winston-Salem.

She was awarded the Kenan Fellowship at Lincoln Center Institute where she was able to teach and premiere her choreography in New York. In 2011, Fayth founded and opened Sixpax Incorporated, a Pilates and movement studio in downtown Chicago. Fayth has owned and operated Sixpax and developed many programs within it including community volunteer programs called Reach Out. Give Back. and the Exercise Your Mind Book Club which have grown to serve dozens of local organizations from schools to Chicago’s Shedd Aquarium.

Sixpax expanded internationally holding its first international wellness retreat in Costa Rica in 2014. Fayth holds her full Pilates certification through the Pilates Method Alliance and has additional certificates from Pilates Academy International and Stott Pilates. She is also an ACE certified personal trainer and Certifying Instructor for Pilates Academy International. She has taught courses and workshops educating in special conditions and injuries, programming for breast cancer survivors, pre and postnatal work, suspension training, rebounding, anatomy, dance technique and improvisation. She is a New York City native and holds a B.F.A. in dance from the University of the North Carolina School of the Arts and a M.F.A. in dance from Hollins University in association with The American Dance Festival (Duke University), The Frankfurt Conservatory of Performing Arts (Germany) and The Forsythe Company (Germany).

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Simply Southern Cuisine: Deliciousness to go!

BY MARTIE EMORY

Families gather together in different ways -- over a variety of occasions – but there’s always incredible food involved. We all have certain dishes and desserts that bring back memories and make us feel “at home” no matter where we may land. From those catch-up family suppers during the week, to birthdays, graduations, and extended holidays, getting together around the table is always something special.

As a family-owned business in Clemmons, Simply Southern Cuisine has honored its name every single day for over ten years, with a popular menu that gives “food to go” an entirely different meaning. No fast-food hangover here, just the freshest ingredients blended together in tried-and-true recipes customers can’t seem to order enough of.

From portion sizes that are just right for your family’s weeknight dinner, to a catering menu that includes choices for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and even appetizers, one of the most important ingredients in Simply Southern Cuisine’s successful recipe is impeccable customer service.

“What sets us apart is our customer service, and that we genuinely care about making our customers’ lives easier by solving their issues with “What’s for dinner?” says owner Lisa Miller. “Our food is handmade, and we make every effort to be consistent in our preparation of every dish.”

“New this season, we have added a new point of sale system and a new loyalty program, as well as gift cards,” says Lisa. “The new loyalty program gives customers one point for every dollar spent, including an app for your phone that shows all your receipts from Simply Southern, and the points you have accumulated.”

She adds that gift cards can be purchased for any denomination – and certainly make wonderful Christmas gifts!

That’s excellent news as the holiday season approaches, and afterwork hours are dedicated to shopping and festive get-togethers, and not so much to spending time in the kitchen. November and December are perfect months to sample some of their specialties

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in individual servings (stop by on your way home!), or mix and match entrees and sides (including vegetarian and gluten-free options upon request) and keep your family happy, healthy, and well-fed amid the holiday bustle!

If you’re the Thanksgiving or Christmas Day hostess this year, Simply Southern offers complete meal packages for six people, or 15 people, which includes ham and/or turkey, three side dishes (yes, they have traditional stuffing, green bean casserole and sweet potato casserole!) and a selection of one of their more-thanincredible desserts.

“These dinners are available by ordering ahead of time, and can be picked up fresh or frozen,” says Lisa. “Both Thanksgiving and Christmas menus are available online or for pickup at our store.”

Simply Southern also offers all of their family-size meal items in a larger 9 x 11 pan, which typically yields 15-20 servings, along with specific catering menus for office holiday parties of ten or more people.

Now for the best idea we’ve heard lately. Once the holiday rush has settled a bit and the New Year approaches, your college students will be heading back to campus and no doubt already missing the comfort foods of home!

“Our individual servings are ideal for sending food back with your college student,” explains Lisa. “All of our menu items are available in single-serving size, and for extra hungry fellows, you might consider the 7” size which is enough for two or three servings!”

In case you were wondering, Simply Southern’s top favorite best sellers are Chicken Pie, Swiss Chicken, Baked Spaghetti, Lasagna, Macaroni and Cheese, and Broccoli Casserole. We’ll be right over!

Discover all the deliciousness Simply Southern Cuisine has to offer at mysimplysouthern.com, where you can also complete a questionnaire for larger catering orders. Visit Lisa and Vickie at their store at 3570 Clemmons Road, Clemmons, NC, Monday – Friday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. and Saturday 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. For special requests or other questions call them at 336-712-4636.

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When Silence Is the Best Response

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Sometimes, not saying anything is the best answer. You see, silence can never be misquoted. ~Unknown So many people are uncomfortable with silence. It feels awkward, and in our argumentative, combative world, the concept of answering with silence is practically unheard of. To some, it may appear weak. But silence is a valid form of response, and frankly, sometimes, it’s the very best way to communicate.

When you aren’t sure what you’re talking about. It’s hard to

Consider the following situations.

Talking with a friend who is grieving, going through a divorce, or dealing with sickness. These are the friends who need to be heard. They don’t need to hear, “I understand,” or worst of all, “I know exactly how you feel.” Because even if you have gone through loss, divorce, or sickness – every situation is unique. These are the conversations where quiet, empathetic listening is the best conversation you can offer.

When a conversation about a problem makes you move into “fix it” mode. Not every problem that’s discussed is looking for a solution. Sometimes, a friend just needs to state the problem, then figure it out for themselves. It’s not up to us to find solutions for every problem that crosses our path.

When you wonder if a joke or statement would be considered offensive. If you’re uncertain, it doesn’t need to be said.

Just be quiet.

fake expertise when it’s a subject you’re not familiar with… and a quick scan of Wikipedia or watching a handful of YouTube videos doesn’t qualify someone as an expert. If you’re not sure what you’re talking about, silence is your friend.

When you ask someone a question. Then give them the courtesy of silently waiting for them to finish their response, without interrupting, or interjecting additional thoughts or statements.

When a social media post goes up that you disagree with.

There’s this amazing thing we can do on our computers and smartphones -- we can keep scrolling. It’s really not necessary to participate in online disagreements. In almost every situation, silence is your better response.

When you’re angry. Ah, words spoken in anger. They feel good

at the moment, but most often they leave a bitter aftertaste of regret.

Take a few moments, a couple of hours, even a day or two before responding. And maybe, even after cooling down, you’ll still find silence to be the better option.

We’re not obligated to participate in every argument we’re invited to, or have answers for word that comes our way. Silence is golden. And as previously mentioned, though some may view it as weakness, the self-restraint involved in staying silent is actually indicative of great strength.

So next time you’re in a position to speak up, ask yourself if it’s better to stay silent.

“Silence at the proper season is wisdom, and better than any speech.”

– Plutarch

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“Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute.”

– Josh Billings

“He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.”

– Elbert Hubbard

“Work hard in silence, let your success make the noise.”

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WritersWisdom WhofromRead Others

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

We all have our favorite genres of books.

Some prefer fiction, science fiction, fantasy, while others choose nonfiction, memoirs, and biographies. For this month’s “Writers Who Read,” let’s take a look at some of our writers’ favorite memoirs and autobiographies.

ONE MORE TIME BY CAROL BURNETT

Published in 1986, One More Time is a memoir about legendary comedian Carol Burnett’s experiences.

Readers are given insight into Burnett’s earliest memories in San Antonio, to growing up in Hollywood during the Great Depression, and her early years in New York. According to writer Denise Heidel, the book is actually a letter to her daughters. In fact, Hollywood Arms, a play written by Burnett and her daughter, Carrie Hamilton, is based on the story. “It is a way for her daughters to know the grandparents they never met, as well as, Carol’s own grandmother who raised her,” Denise said. She also adds that One More Time is filled with humor and heartbreak.

“Carol Burnett is one of the top two people I would love to meet (Tom Hanks being the other). Without question, this is my favorite biography/ autobiography I’ve ever read.” If you are a fan of Burnett or want a good laugh, this is a pick for you.

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CORETTA: MY LIFE, MY LOVE, MY LEGACY BY CORETTA SCOTT KING WITH THE REV. DR. BARBARA REYNOLDS

Wife of the iconic Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Coretta Scott King describes her life from birth to death in this autobiography. Along with excerpts from interviews and conversations with Dr. Reynolds, Mrs. King tells readers about her marriage, her family’s raciallycharged tribulations during the Civil Rights Movement, and her accomplishments after the assassination of her husband. Writer Brittany Orie explains that Coretta: My Life, My Love, My Legacy showcases the strength, intelligence, and perseverance of a woman who didn’t fit the mold of a wife and mother during that time period.

“Mrs. King was very quiet and reserved, but spoke out when she felt led to,” commented Brittany. “She was the true architect of her husband’s legacy and taught her four children to beautifully perpetuate the legacy of nonviolence and civil rights through the decades. Mrs. King’s story shows the capabilities of any woman if she believes in something strongly enough.”

I’D LIKE TO APOLOGIZE TO EVERY TEACHER I EVER HAD: MY YEAR AS A ROOKIE TEACHER AT NORTHEAST HIGH BY TONY DANZA

I have always been a fan of Tony Danza and watched Who’s the Boss? reruns growing up. One day, while on Amazon, I came across this book. It looked like a good read, so I thought “Why not?” and bought it. I’m so glad I did because this book was one I couldn’t put down. I’d Like to Apologize to Every Teacher I Ever Had is a memoir about the year Danza spent teaching tenth-grade English at Philadelphia’s largest high school, Northeast High. He took on this challenge to film a documentary about teaching in America. What I love about this book is that Danza truly fills the teacher role, by lecturing on various classic novels, helping coach the football team, taking students on a field trip, and organizing a talent show. Throughout the novel, readers are given laughter, tears, and wisdom. In the end, Danza learns how hard it is to keep students engaged, the many different roles teachers play in a day, the life outside of school that students bring into the classroom, and just how committed teachers are to the profession. Whether you are an educator or not, I’d Like to Apologize to Every Teacher I Ever Had is a story everyone should read.

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Teaching Kids How to Save Money

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

For a family, it is all-hands-on-deck when it comes to budgeting. All members need to have an active role in saving money, and it is never too young to start learning how. Whether your child is two or 12, parents and guardians need to teach the younger family members the necessary financial skills that will carry them through life. There are many ways to include your family in financial decision making and budgeting. However, it is important to remember to start small and build up from there. Here are some of my favorite ideas for making saving money a family affair.

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. First, kids need to learn where money comes from and how to earn it. When a child understands that receiving money is closely tied to working, they’ll hopefully be motivated to save the money they earn. Having chores is a common way to teach this life lesson. Create a chore chart with age-appropriate tasks and a pay rate. For example, loading the dishwasher might be worth 50 cents or folding the laundry might be worth 75 cents. Give your child a goal, either financial (i.e., earn $5.00) or timeframe (i.e., every two weeks), to accomplish. Once achieved, they can cash in their earnings and start from scratch. Another avenue for kids to obtain money is by selling handmade items.

When I was younger, I created cards and sold them to family members. Many children set up lemonade stands or hold bake sales. Get creative and make sure whatever activity you choose, your child enjoys it.

Learning that work can be fun is a valuable lesson to understand at an early age.

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. Once a child receives money, the next step should be separating it into the three money jars: saving, spending, and sharing. Several rules of thumb for adults include dividing their earnings 50-30-20 (50% towards necessities, 30% to wants, and 20% to savings) or tithing 10% of their total income. For children, separating between the three jars might be a little different. Always start out with a goal, either long-term or short-term. Discuss with your child what they want to purchase now, for what they want to save, and with whom they want to share their money, such as a cause or organization. For example, your child might choose to immediately buy a candy bar, save for a new bicycle or car, if older. Then, they decide to share a portion of their income with the local animal shelter, their church, or national park. Parents and guardians can help kids take ownership with deciding on where their money goes and how to avoid impulse purchases. Take time each night or a couple of times a week to count the amounts in the three jars. Also, talk with your child about how much more they need to save, earn, etc. for a certain goal. Lastly, put an emphasis on giving back. Stress that no matter the amount, the giver and recipient will gain something positive from the experience. The more children are involved in making financial decisions, the more they learn and absorb.

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. Speaking of getting kids involved, take them on grocery store runs, bank errands, and more.

Include them by letting them hold the coupons for the grocery store, or sitting in on a discussion with a financial advisor about how to save more money. Be aware that the examples you set with money should be positive and healthy. When discussions about finances become strong and angry, change the tone to show your child that money isn’t always negative.

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. Lastly, part of getting kids involved means teaching them about contentment.

This skill is important for children to learn young and can prevent headaches later, especially when it comes to the teenage years. For example, parents of a 16-year-old might hear “Sam just got a brand-new car. Why can’t I have one, instead of driving a 20-year-old one?” Having the newest and latest items comes with a cost and children need to realize that. With contentment, it all starts with the heart. Parents and guardians need to show children how to be grateful for what they have and that material items aren’t the end-all, be-all.

Budgeting and saving money isn’t always a fun task, but it is something that must be done.

Learning the pivotal skills early are essential for children. However, if it is to be successful, it is also essential to make the process fun and exciting.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

November is National Family Caregiver month. Each year, caregivers are celebrated for their contributions and efforts in assisting others. This month also raises awareness for the stress caregivers experience while putting others before themselves. According to the Mayo Clinic, about 1 in 3 adults in the United States are caregivers, and a caregiver can be defined as anyone actively helping others. This includes family members providing for older adults. While the job is wonderful, selfless, and rewarding, many caregivers experience emotional and physical stress. They may feel overwhelmed, constantly worried and tired, have frequent headaches, gain or lose weight, deal with depression, and become easily irritated or angry. If you are a caretaker and are showing some of the symptoms below, it might be time to reenergize. Below are some tips to help manage some of the caregiver stress.

• Focus on how you can assist and what care you are able to provide: No one can be there to help with everything all the time. The important thing to understand is that you are doing the best you can and shouldn’t feel guilty about not being the perfect caregiver.

• Ask for and accept help: There is no shame in asking for others to assist you. Create a list of things others can do and let them decide on the task. For example, the helper could cook dinner one night, or run an errand. You never know who will lend a helping hand until you reach out.

• Find support for yourself: Most communities have caregiver resources. Types of aid include support groups, caregiving services (transportation, meal delivery, etc.), and health professionals. Also, stay in touch with your family and friends. Your loved ones can offer emotional support without being judgmental.

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• Practice self-care: Sometimes there is nothing better than a hot bath after a long day. Set aside time each week to focus on yourself and relax. Go for a walk each night, read a book before bed, etc. It is important to create a good sleep routine, eat a healthy diet, and drink plenty of water. Don’t forget to be physically active at least three times during the week.

• Talk to your doctor: Before starting, make sure you are up to date on vaccines and your yearly physical.

Plus, this helps establish a deeper relationship with you and your physician. That way, whenever something occurs, or you need someone to talk to, your doctor is able to offer assistance.

In addition, establish a relationship between you, the care recipient and the care recipient’s physician. Most of the time, the caregiver takes the care recipient to doctors’ appointments. Because of this, the caretaker needs to be on top of medications and treatments. Creating this relationship allows for more communication and understanding of how to better provide for the care recipient. If needed, prepare questions before the appointments to make sure the caregiver understands the care recipient’s healthcare plan. Lastly, don’t be afraid to call nurses or doctors with any questions or concerns.

If you are a caregiver and feeling stressed, try some of these activities. Remember to take time for yourself and relax. After all, you can’t take care of others without taking care of yourself.

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BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Here’s how to use kindness as our weapon against negativity:

Let go of anger. Anger lies at the root of many sins such as envy, violence, slander, and bullying. It’s normal to feel anger, but holding on to it for a long time creates inner wounds that eventually make their way outside and harm others if you are not careful. That’s why it’s best to find a healthy outlet for anger when the emotion is fresh, so that you avoid taking it out on others. Of course, not all anger is harmful. There is negative anger, and there is righteous anger. Righteous anger is when one is stirred up with the world’s issues such as poverty, hate crimes, and injustice of any kind. Channeling righteous anger towards any of these issues will motivate you to become a catalyst for positive change.

kindness to others. So instead of focusing on crushed pride, remember that the one who offended you may be harboring more wounds on the inside (“hurt people hurt other people”).

Consider what woes the offender may be going through; everyone’s insult comes from somewhere.

Give a “soft answer.” In a typical argument between

Empathize. Sometimes cruel people seem to lack humanity

parties, you normally see folks having a shouting match going back and forth. Responding with a gentle answer when someone yells at you keeps the situation calm whereas yelling at them in return creates more chaos. Eventually, the louder person will become more tranquilized by your soft responses. Try not to feed off their loud energy in these moments, thereby gassing up the conflict. Think of this on a larger scale: when the world gives us something to be angry about (homelessness, abuse), your “soft answer” can be manifested in activism, nonviolent approaches, giving, and donating.

The Golden Rule. We all know the golden rule: treat others

Edify! Be bold and promote good ethics and morals to those who add poisonous ingredients into the pot any way you know how. Even if others reject your edification, keep persisting and don’t grow weary in well doing. By doing this, you will be planting seeds of goodwill into the barren hearts of difficult people and eventually, they will take heed of your kind, edifying words. You may think some people aren’t listening to you now, but they are treasuring your words on a subconscious level.

Employ selflessness. What I mean by this is don’t be so

Educate. Lack of knowledge is one thing that causes folks to give in to anger, violence, and bigotry. It’s not knowing our history. It’s not understanding human nature. It’s being uninformed of various cultures and what goes on in different countries. It’s being unaware that absolutely everyone has good inside of them, but the ones who hate are too reluctant to search for that good that hides inside of them. So, educate! Educate others about our history. I’m talking about the history that didn’t make the textbooks; offer a first-person perspective on worldly crises – teach others about different cultures and their lifestyles.

because of their short supply of compassion and love. It’s important to understand that they have needs just as we do, and they are not greater than us or vice versa. Where does their anger come from? What led them to be the offender in the situation? Seeing them as real people and, perhaps, identifying with them on a common level, will help ease your anger towards them and help you show genuine kindness to them instead.

how you want to be treated. I don’t say this to sound cliché, but this piece of advice is perpetual! If you shouted at a coworker for spilling coffee on your brand-new white blouse, would you want them to apologize and offer to buy you a new shirt? Or would you rather them shout back, “Well, you should not have been in the way”? Think of how you would feel if someone responded to your offense in an uncommonly loving way. Would you want to share that same piece of love to others, no matter how nasty they act?

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Eve Johnson Roser: Animal Rescuer Helping Those Who Have No Voice

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON It is often said of those who rescue animals, ‘You can’t save them all,’ which, unfortunately, is true, but for Eve Johnson Roser, a native of High Point, NC, that comment has never defeated her efforts to save as many animals as possible.

Eve’s rescue mission began in March 1995, but her love of animals started as a little girl with parents who took in strays and instilled in her compassion for all living things.

“When I was five years old, a family friend found a nearly frozen and starved terrier mix pup behind his business during a snowstorm. He called my dad, and we adopted the pup, who I named Fido, and he was my constant and loyal companion until I went to NCSU my freshman year; I was heartbroken to lose him later that year,” recalled Eve. It wasn’t until March 1995, when during a regular vet visit with her dog, Tara, that the cold, hard truth of what happens to abandoned animals came to light for Eve. “I pulled up at the vet’s office with Tara and saw the animal control truck was there. I asked my vet tech why the ‘dog catcher,’ as I had called it since childhood, was at their office.

She explained that my vet had been contacted by the county to euthanize all puppies and kittens under 16 weeks. She described to me the shelter used a carbon monoxide chamber to kill animals and that the younger unwanted animals, wouldn’t succumb to that method, so they brought them there for a lethal injection. I honestly couldn’t believe what she was saying.

Tears filled my eyes as she detailed the number of animals euthanized annually in Davidson County, where I live, and the overcrowding of the shelter,” Eve said. After taking her dog home, Eve drove straight to the Davidson County Animal Shelter with her 18-month-old son in tow and walked in, seeing first-hand the awful conditions at the shelter and the many abandoned animals who were failed by humans.

Eve found the most frightened and sickly puppy, covered in fleas and mange mites, adopted the puppy, named her Twiggy, nursed her back to health and found her a forever home.

That was the beginning of Eve’s mission of helping the abandoned and neglected animals in our community.

“I returned to the shelter almost daily for the next six years. On one occasion, I adopted 28 kittens; I literally took every single kitten. I got them the care they needed and was warned by my veterinarian, who was concerned for my financial and emotional wellbeing, that ‘Rescuing animals is like trying to catch raindrops; the rain keeps coming.’ I understood his practical advice, but I am so glad I didn’t let his words deter me,”

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commented Eve. Along with helping the animals who continued to come into the shelter, Eve played an integral role in raising money for the building of the new Davidson County Animal Shelter which opened in 1999. Eve and her husband, John, donated to the building fund and have a room at the shelter named in their honor. John, a furniture designer, was able to get all the furniture donated to the shelter. Eve hasn’t worked all the years on behalf of animals alone, her husband and son, Dillon, have been supportive in her efforts as well.

In 24 years of working on behalf of animals, Eve has personally rescued, fostered or found homes for over 8,000 abandoned and unwanted companion animals. Eve and her family, who live on 60 acres, a true animal sanctuary, have continued to care for animals in their own home over the years, including the 19 dogs that are currently in their care, along with 22 rescued cats. “I am extremely fortunate to have unconditional love and support from my husband, John, and son, Dillon. They have lived this crazy rescue life with me; John feeds our 19 dogs every morning, and Dillon has been my right hand since he was a year old. They provide the foundation, strength, patience, and love to make my rescue efforts possible.

I am often asked if John loves animals as much as I do, and I say that ‘I know John sure loves me!’” Eve said. The Rosers also foster animals as they await forever homes. As the owner of Fur Babies Boarding and Grooming, in High Point, NC, Eve is able to give the fosters a new look, as well as discounts to other nonprofit animal rescues on boarding and grooming.

“We are physically, financially and emotionally invested in the rescues’ wellbeing. I can’t save every animal, and I can’t ‘un-see’ the faces of abuse, neglect, and abandonment. What I do can be overwhelming with moments of despair and hopelessness, but my faith in God always sees me through the darkest of times,” commented Eve. Besides her work with her business, Eve is also the VP of Susie’s Hope Non-Profit, which houses rescued animals until homes can be found. With all the pain that Eve has seen, you might think it would be too much, yet she presses on.

“There’s no greater joy or reward than when a rescued animal that was abandoned, abused or neglected gets adopted into a loving home.

I dream of a world where every companion animal has a home and violence is replaced by compassion and love,” Eve stated.

For information on adopting an animal, visit Susie’s Hope on Facebook.

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BY SHAMIKA STARKE For many, the “American Dream” signifies the epitome of freedom and one’s right to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”; it represents the opportunity to prosper and achieve ones’ individual version of success, regardless of race, class, gender, or circumstance of birth. But the reality is that the American dream encompasses a set of ideas that are not equally accessible to all.

Although I have achieved what many would term success according to societal standards, to reflect on my personal journey in pursuit of the “American Dream” triggers both a sense of pride and tangible feelings of discomfort.

Pride that emanates from the firm foundation upholding my success; a success rooted in the power and impact of a strong, wide-spread support system. And discomfort, triggered by the consideration of intersectionality that factors into my personal experience – as a black woman, a daughter to immigrant parents and one who has risen from poverty; to survive and thrive in this society requires that I also learn to navigate formidable challenges to my rights, worth, intelligence and humanity.

But even within my discomforts, there is still hope.

Hope that is derived from the empowered action and philanthropic efforts of countless individuals, non-profit organizations and initiatives like The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem, that continue to advocate for women and girls so that we may all know and experience justice, prosperity and personal success.

The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem envisions a community where all women and girls of all backgrounds are engaged at all levels of society and have equal opportunities, skills and access to resources which empowers them to be independent, self-sufficient and contributing members of the community. Since 2007, the Fund has provided grants to community and grassroots organizations whose programs have worked to address systemic and social issues affecting the economic security of women and girls in Forsyth County.

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Good and impactful work is taking place by committed individuals and community organizations, but more work still needs to be done. Significant challenges and disparities continue to harm the economic security of women and girls in our community. Lasting and impactful change demands that we leverage our individual and collective voice and resources to champion women – to take action in support of causes or issues that are important to you and ultimately for the benefit of all humanity.

As you think of ways that you can have an impact, The Women’s Fund has provided Seven Ways to Champion Women, for your consideration: 1. Support Women – support access to affordable essential needs such as housing, healthcare, food, and transportation; 2. Encourage Women – encourage entry into high-paying jobs, such as in the fields of science, technology, engineering and mathematics (STEM); 3. Pay Women – pay a livable wage with adequate benefits and help close the gender wage gap; 4. Mentor Women – mentor those in your professional and personal lives to help women identify and develop their talents; 5. Promote Women – promote those in your professional and

civic organizations into leadership roles; 6. Empower Women – empower through funding and training opportunities for women’s micro-enterprise development so that women start, maintain, and grow their own business; and 7. Recognize Women – recognize women’s achievements and acknowledge those who have opened pathways for others in the community.

To promote a shared future where all women and girls have access to equitable opportunity for success, it is important that we take the lead as Champions of Change – to advocate on behalf of women and girls in our community.

By supporting programs that create opportunities to improve the economic, educational, physical health and emotional well-being of women and girls, the Women’s Fund believes that collectively, we can improve the overall quality of life in our community.

To learn more about the Women’s Fund, and the collective economic impact that women like you and I can have as champions of change in our community, visit our Facebook page or our website (womensfundws.org). And, please join us at our 13th annual luncheon on November 15th at the Benton Convention Center from noon to 1:30 p.m.

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See Your Home in a New Light

BY JULIE FRITZ

Your home is your castle and maybe it’s time you saw it in a new light. Castlelights is the Triad area expert in creating a unique lighting experience for your home. They specialize in designing artistic architecture and landscape lighting systems to accent your home and its beautiful features. Experienced lighting designers create texture and depth by using light and shadow to turn your property into an artistic masterpiece.

ABOUT THE OWNER

Owner Tim Burge started Castlelights in 2003 after finding he had a passion for architecture and landscape lighting design. “On a trip to California in the early ‘90s, I was inspired to return home and design new outdoor lighting for my own home. When I finished my project, my neighbors and friends were anxious to have me work on their homes as well. I realized I had a creative vision for lighting design and I enjoyed sharing it with other people,” said Burge. What started as a home improvement project, turned into a way for Tim to express his creativity and design skills. He now has over 20 years of experience in this business and has owned the #1 architectural and landscape lighting company in the Triad for over 15 years.

WHY CHOOSE CASTLELIGHTS

Castlelights sets themselves apart from the competition in more ways than one.

Attention to Detail

Paying close attention to details is a part of the experience when you work with Castlelights. They are very thorough and detailed oriented, from the overall vision for your property, down to the nuts and bolts you will never even see. They understand that everything they do affects the integrity of the system and the final product.

Artistic View

Another thing that sets them apart is that they offer an artistic view that is design based. They are able to define light and shadow to present the best effect possible and the designers take the time to design each property as if they were designing for their own homes. Other companies may take a one-day class in lighting design, but they just don’t have the comprehensive vision that sets Castlelights apart.

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Quality

Castlelights chooses quality every time. They use the best products and equipment to ensure your project will be done right the first time. This means you will have fewer issues over time and you will enjoy a great product for many, many years to come.

Professionalism

You will never be disappointed when it comes to the professional team that will work on your property. The team at Castlelights always goes the extra mile, from making sure you understand your home’s plan and having all your questions answered, to leaving the property clean and pristine when the project is complete.

All of these things combined make Castlelights the best in the business.

THE ADDED BONUS OF SAFETY & SECURITY

Having beautiful, artistic lighting won’t just enhance the appearance of your property, it will also help protect it. Having a well-lit property makes your home less likely to be a target for criminals and will give you an added sense of safety and security.

LIGHT YOUR HOUSE FOR THE HOLIDAYS & ENJOY IT THROUGHOUT THE YEAR!

This is the perfect time of year to think about changing the lighting on your home. Not only can Castlelights create the perfect lighting – that same lighting can also enhance your holiday decorations. You can have a perfect holiday display and when the decorations come down, you will continue to enjoy beautiful architecture and landscape lighting year round.

If you have been thinking about changing the outdoor lighting around your home, contact Castlelights today. They will be happy to help you with design, installation and service for all your architectural and landscape lighting needs. Their experienced customer service professionals are available to answer your questions and set up an appointment for your consultation as soon as possible. Visit their website at castlelights.com or call them at (336)505-4913.

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Two Therapeutic Methods for Handling Grief

BY ELISA W. COPPEDE

While there is no true solution for managing grief, there are supportive methods to help one cope. The first thing to do, is to realize that the loss of a loved one is life’s most stressful event. As a result of this event, one may experience a vast range of emotions, even when the death is expected.

One of the first feelings many report after first learning of a death is an initial stage of numbness. However, there is no real order to the grieving process. A few other emotions one could experience may include denial, disbelief, confusion, shock, yearning, anger, humiliation, despair, guilt and finally, great sorrow.

After the death of someone you love, you experience what is known as “bereavement,” which literally means “to be deprived by death.” Considering that this loss can lead to a catastrophic emotional crisis, it is vital to learn methods to help one handle their sorrow. Read on to learn more about two well-known and respected, therapeutic methods to help one handle their grief.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ Five Stages of Grief:

In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what is now widely known as the “five stages of grief.” These were based on her studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness, but many have used and generalized them to help handle other types of negative life changes and losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break up.

DENIAL: “This can’t be happening to me.”

This is often one of the first stages one could go through and is often accompanied by an intense feeling of numbness.

ANGER: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?” This is a very common feeling to occur, and shouldn’t be discredited.

BARGAINING: “Make this not happen, and in return, I will ____.” This stage can often go with denial, as a method to help the mind deal with the trauma of losing someone they love.

DEPRESSION: “I’m too sad to do anything.” While all stages are extremely devastating, this is one of the most. Those suffering within this stage, are advised to seek additional outside help (therapy/ counseling) to help move through this stage.

ACCEPTANCE: “I’m at peace with what happened.”

This final stage could occur much earlier. However, it is important to know, that at some point, everyone going through grief, can and should have this as an end goal.

While some may experience going through all of these stages, Kübler-Ross does point out, contrary to popular belief, one does not have to go through each stage in order to heal. In fact, some people resolve their grief without going through any of these stages. However, it can help many to know about these.

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William Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning: Psychologist J. William

Worden provides a framework of four tasks that help us understand how people journey through grief. His theory, titled the “Four Tasks of Mourning,” explains that healing happens gradually, as grievers address these tasks, in no specific order, going back and forth from one to another over time.

TASK #1: Accept the Reality of the Loss: While one may know in their mind, that their loved one has died, at first they may experience a sense of disbelief. In order to fully understand the reality of their death means mourners have to “take it in” with their whole being.

For some, the reality may start immediately after the death, when one has to call the mortuary, attend the memorial, or pick up the ashes.

Afterward, this acceptance may reappear during the weeks, months or years later, when special occasions arise where the loved one normally would be in attendance. Again, this stark reality will hit as one realizes that their loved one has died.

TASK #2: Process the Pain of Grief: Since grief is experienced emotionally, cognitively, physically, and spiritually. With all types, it is vital that one “leans into the grief.” Meaning don’t be afraid to cry, scream, yell, etc. as one goes through their own grief process. If some people are telling one to: “Get over it; move on; be strong,” this task is the opposite. In contrast, this task aims at encouraging the safe expression of all the natural grief reactions.

TASK #3: Adjust to a World without the Deceased: As one begins going through life, they have to make specific adjustments to living a life without their loved one. External adjustments include taking on responsibility and learning new skills.

Internal adjustments include adapting to a new identity. Finally, spiritual adjustments include grappling with questions about one’s own belief system, purpose, and meaning of life.

TASK #4: Find an Enduring Connection with the Deceased in the Midst of Embarking on a New Life: This is a step that takes the most time. It occurs when one can acknowledge that yes, their loved one is gone, but they will always be with them in another sense. This occurs when one can create a unique balance between remembering the person who died and living their own full and meaningful life.

As someone who personally just went through the loss of a loved one (my father succumbed to a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease last May), I know the difficulty that grief can inflict on a person’s life. While there is not one day that goes by that I don’t miss my father, I will say that these methods did help me get through the beginning of my own grief journey.

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Blood Pressure FAQ

(& How to Lower Your Blood Pressure Naturally)

BY DEBBIE BARR

WHAT IS BLOOD PRESSURE?

Blood pressure is the force of your blood as it pumps through your body.

Blood pressure is expressed as a fraction such as 120/80.

The top number is the pressure exerted on your vascular system when your heart contracts. This is the systolic pressure. The bottom number is the pressure exerted when your heart rests between beats. This is the diastolic pressure.

WHAT IS “HIGH” BLOOD PRESSURE?

High blood pressure is called hypertension. According to the American Heart Association guidelines, which were updated in 2017, a systolic pressure of 130 is now considered high. (Previous guidelines defined “high” as a systolic pressure of 140 for those younger than 65 and 150 for those 65 and older.)

The new guidelines were created following the Systolic Blood Pressure Intervention Trial (SPRINT), which was conducted at about 100 medical centers and practices across the country, including Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center locally. More than 9,300 people took part in SPRINT, including about 400 Winston-Salem area residents.

According to the updated AHA guidelines (see chart below), many more people now have blood pressure that has been redefined as high.

WHY IS HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE A CONCERN?

High blood pressure places an extra burden on your heart and blood vessels. Over time, high blood pressure can pave the way for very serious problems such as: heart attack, stroke, vision loss, memory loss, kidney disease, sexual dysfunction.

High blood pressure also damages the lining of the blood vessels, allowing “bad” cholesterol to build up in the artery walls. Over time, this buildup of plaque can reduce blood flow to the heart and brain.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I HAVE HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE?

Many people have high blood pressure and don’t know it. That’s because high blood pressure typically has no symptoms. (Extremely high blood pressure may cause headaches, vision problems, or chest pain.) Usually, the only way to know if you have high blood pressure is to measure it with a blood pressure cuff. If you only see a doctor once a year, it’s wise to take your own blood pressure from time to time. If you don’t own a blood pressure machine, you can use the automated machine found in many grocery stores, gyms, community centers, or pharmacies. But did you know there’s a right way and a wrong way to take your blood pressure?

HERE’S THE RIGHT WAY:

• Don’t consume caffeine or alcohol for 30 minutes before taking your blood pressure.

• Sit with your feet flat on the floor and your back supported.

Do not cross your legs.

• Support your arm so your elbow is at or near heart level.

• Place the cuff over bare skin.

• Relax and sit silently for five full minutes before you begin.

• Do not speak while the machine is working.

After the cuff deflates, leave it in place, wait one minute, and then take a second reading. If the results are close, average them. If not, take a third reading and then take an average.

IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO LOWER MY BLOOD PRESSURE?

Yes! There are five lifestyle changes you can make to lower your blood pressure naturally. Even if you currently control your blood pressure with medicine, you will still greatly benefit from making these changes. To lower blood pressure naturally:

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Blood pressure tends to rise as weight increases. Being overweight puts extra strain on your heart and increases your risk for high blood pressure.

For many people, losing as little as 10 pounds lowers blood pressure. If you’re not sure what weight to aim for, or what the best weight loss method for you is, talk to your doctor.

Be Physically Active

Regular physical activity can lower systolic blood pressure by 4-9 mm/Hg, making it equal to the effect of some medicines.

Be moderately active at least 30 minutes a day most days of every week. Moderate activities include walking, biking, gardening, mowing the lawn, dancing, and swimming. All activity is helpful, even little things like taking the stairs or parking farther away.

Consume Less Sodium

Sodium causes fluid retention, which increases the pressure on arteries, raising blood pressure. No one should consume more than 2400 milligrams of sodium (about a teaspoon) a day. Senior adults should consume even less—no more than 1500 milligrams daily.

Read the labels in your pantry and at the grocery store, do the math, and see how much sodium you consume in a day (you may be amazed!). Don’t add salt to your cooking; instead, flavor food with herbs and spices. Use more fresh ingredients and fewer pre-packaged “convenience” foods.

According to the Mayo Clinic, you can lower your blood pressure by up to 11 mm Hg just by changing your diet!

To lower blood pressure, your menu should be rich in whole grains, fruits, vegetables, and low-fat dairy products and low on saturated fat and cholesterol. The best eating plan is the DASH diet (Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension).

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Alcohol raises blood pressure. If weight is an issue for you, remember that alcoholic beverages are also high in calories.

If you drink alcohol, drink moderately: for women, only one drink a day; for men, no more than two.

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Tournament for Wome r e c c n Ch al So u amp n n A i on th f Thank you, Winston-Salem! i s F On October 6-7th, 2018, Celebrate the TaTas Fifth Annual Soccer Tournament for Women Champions celebrated its third year in their favorite location, Hine Park Soccer Complex, Winston-Salem.

The TaTas Tournament is the brainchild of North Carolina Adult Soccer Association and Charlotte Hadassah, the largest women’s volunteer organization in North America. The focus of the tournament is to compete on and off the field for breast cancer awareness and to raise funds for breast cancer research so that future generations won’t have to worry about this disease.

Every year it is emotional. Every year it is competitive. Every year is better than the last. So, what made this year’s event so incredible?

Let me set the stage -- the weather cooperated with sunshine and the perfect

amount of cloud coverage. That made our volunteer photographer, Andrew Bowen, very happy. We had very few minor injuries, so that made our volunteer trainers from Novant Health happy. We offered an educational session of breast self-exams, offered by Novant Health, and that made all the women very happy. Our tournament DJ (thank you Split Second Sound), rocked the fields and added that extra bit of energy that made everyone smile. In addition, and perhaps most importantly, the variety of lunch foods arrived on time, so players and referees were well fed. And because we could not do this without the generosity of Winston-Salem eateries, we want to thank them for the joy they brought us: Whole Foods, Lowes Food Stores, Harris Teeter, Krispy Kreme, Walmart, Mozzarella Fellas, Brixx Wood Fired Pizza, PDQ Chicken, Firebirds, and the Famous Toastery. We could not have fed hundreds of players and volunteers without their generosity!

Celebrate the TaTas is grateful to all the incredible volunteers, the generous sponsors, and the committed players. But at the end of the day, we are humbled by the generosity of spirit we feel year after year from the folks that call WinstonSalem their home. We thank you and can’t wait to return next year.

Join us in raising funds for breast cancer research. It is never too late to make a donation in memory or in honor of a loved, one so please visit celebratethetatas.org.

Allow me to circle back to what made this year so special. For the first time in the history of the TaTas With gratitude, The TaTas Soccer Tournament, we had four states participating in the Committee 2018. competition …. NC, VA, TN, and GA! And, if that wasn’t enough… the Florida Referee Association flew female referees to Winston-Salem for the sole purpose of officiating the games. Clad in heels, cleats and shining pink lipstick, REW ND APHY A this fierce group of women dominated Y S B TOGR the fields and then joined one TO HO N PHO P hundred women and their families WE BO for a tournament dinner at the Carolina Ale House. It was moving, inspirational, and heartwarming.

While we are on the topic of great women, here’s another visual. Twentyfive of Queens University women’ s soccer players marched onto the fields and offered assistance with anything and everything. They

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Lisa Barnard-Grezmak

The Trip of a

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On October 1, 2017, at the Route 91 Harvest Country Music Festival in Las Vegas, NV, the largest mass shooting in US history took place, killing 58 and injuring 527. For those watching the massacre on TV, it was surreal, but for Melissa Wall of Ararat, VA, a mom of two little girls, attending the concert with a friend, it was a life or death experience. Melissa’s memories of that night have remained fresh in her mind. “I was near the front of the stage waiting for Jason Aldean to come perform. It was a time of people being happy, smiling, even turning cartwheels, a lot of laughing.

Some say the gunshots sounded like fireworks, making people wonder what to do in those first moments, but I knew immediately it was gunfire. People screamed ‘Get down!’ I watched people crouched over others, but my first instinct was to RUN and zigzag as I did,” recalled Melissa. With her senses heightened, she was scanning the venue as she ran, trying to process where in the chaos, she might find safety, while at the same time she wondered if this was the end and thought of her two little girls, Makenzie, 7 and Adelyn, 5. Melissa called her parents to ask them to tell her kids she loved them. Making it to the MGM Grand, Melissa and others filed into an open elevator and then stayed in the room of a couple of ladies they met on the elevator until it seemed ‘safe’ to venture out. A year later, Melissa has adjusted her view of life. “I lived, and it was for a reason. The experience gave me a new meaning for my life and that of my daughters. I am pursuing dreams I never thought I would and don’t want to miss any opportunities that life has in store,” said Melissa. Little did Melissa know, but life had another trip to Las Vegas in store, this time with her aunt Lisa Barnard-Grezmak, almost a year to the day of the massacre.

After several weeks of trying to win a trip to Las Vegas for the iHeart Music Festival through Q104.1, Lisa texted the word ‘Vegas’ at the right time and was in shock when she got the call that she had actually won a trip for two to the event and her name would be put in a drawing for the grand prize!

“There was never a question on whom I would take with me. My niece, Melissa, who I often travel with, is like the daughter I never had. I knew Melissa was hurting from what she’d been through a year ago at the Route 91 concert and struggling on why her life was spared that night. This would be a way to get a bit of peace for her, maybe,” said Lisa. The week of the trip, Lisa got another call from the radio station informing her that she indeed had won the Grand Prize, a trip valued at $21,000, tax-free!

Lisa and Melissa knew this was the trip of a lifetime and they made the most out of every minute they were in Las Vegas.

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and Melissa Wall

Lifetime Brings Healing to the Soul “Melissa and I were treated like royalty; we were going to meet celebrities, and yet we felt like celebrities ourselves. From the first class airfare to limo transportation, to four nights at the Park MGM, fully stocked bar with our favorite beverages and snacks, dinner at Bavatte’s Steakhouse with a $500 limit, not something this girl from Pilot Mountain, NC sees often, poolside cabana, front row seats to both nights of the iHeart Music Festival, backstage tours, a VIP golf experience with artist Dustin Lynch, a pre-show toast with Jason Aldean, a commemorative guitar signed by the performers, personal assistants to keep us on schedule and we met several of the performers. It was an amazing, unbelievable and surreal trip.

Meeting Jason Aldean and sharing with him that Melissa had been at the Route 91 concert a year before, as had he, was a special time for them both. The #VegasStrong has great meaning for Melissa and those who survived that terrible night.

Melissa and Jason wear matching purple bracelets honoring the 58 angels who died that night,” Lisa commented. Meeting Jason was special as was the time they spent with Carrie Underwood, but getting a photo with Mariah Carey was filled with instructions to not touch her, stand only on her left side and

don’t ask for an autograph. With all the celebrity encounters, Lisa and Melissa took some time to try and make peace with the memories of the Route 91 events.

As with any tragic event, a memorial area was established to honor those 58 souls who left this earth October 1, 2017, and the many lives, like Melissa’s, that were changed that night.

“I walked through the healing garden and saw rocks that were painted with kind words and Bible verses. I saw VEGAS STRONG everywhere and felt understood. Being in this sacred place, honoring those lost, seeing their pictures, wondering if maybe I met them that night when everything changed. Having my aunt by my side as I went through this time meant so much to me,” stated Melissa. For Lisa, although the time didn’t mean what it did to Melissa, it was special.

“I felt honored to be with Melissa as we retraced her steps from that horrific night and she explained to me what happened. We visited the memorial for those lost, and I felt like she had some closure. Giving Melissa this experience and the ability to walk away from Vegas this time, instead of running was a great gift for us both,” Lisa said.

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Minimizing

Holiday

BY JULIE FRITZ

The holidays can be such a stressful time for everyone. Between the shopping, planning holiday events and gatherings, decorating, and maybe even traveling, it can be overwhelming. There is such an urge in our society to make everything perfect that we sometimes forget that it is really supposed to be a time to enjoy our family and friends.

If we forget to focus on this and let the stress take over, there may not be any enjoyment at all. With all this in mind, here are some tips to help you minimize your holiday stress so you can enjoy the best season of the year.

GET YOURSELF IN THE CHRISTMAS SPIRIT

This tip can mean lots of different things to different people. Search within yourself and think about the things that bring you to your holiday happy place. Maybe it is music, baking, decorating or holiday-themed movies. Use those things as tools to bring you joy throughout the season. If you feel like you are getting too stressed, put on some of your favorite Christmas carols while you get things done. You could watch your favorite holiday movies while you wrap the pile of gifts that need wrapping. There is something special that will make you remember why you love this season and let it bring you joy.

REMEMBER, IT’S OKAY TO SAY NO

This time of year, the amount of events and parties that pop up can be overwhelming all on its own. People are often afraid to disappoint others or miss out on an experience that they have been asked to participate in. The truth is, no one can do everything, and overbooking yourself and your family will not make for a stressfree holiday season. Picking out a few things to enjoy and allowing your family to provide their feedback about what they would like to participate in is a great way to help you enjoy the things that are happening, but not be overcommitted.

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Stress SHOP LOCAL THROUGHOUT THE SEASON

Winston-Salem has some of the best local shops and boutiques around to help with your holiday gift list. Set aside an hour or two each week leading up to the holidays shopping in them to find the right gifts for your friends and family. Kick it off with Small Business Saturday, a nationwide initiative that promotes shopping at small businesses in your community the Saturday after Thanksgiving. Shopping at smaller local businesses will allow you to provide unique, thought provoking gifts for everyone on your list. They will also provide great customer service to help you have a more pleasant, stress-free shopping experience.

SIMPLE HOLIDAY CARDS

We all want the perfect family photo on a beautiful holiday card to be delivered to everyone on our list the week after Thanksgiving, right? But don’t let making that happen start your holiday season off with unrealistic expectations that make you feel stressed. If you don’t have a family portrait ready to go, it’s okay. People just want to see pictures of you and your family, and they don’t care if everyone looks perfect. Thanks to our cell phones, we all have snapshots taken throughout the year in the palm of our hands. A nice collage of those pics will be just fine. Save time by putting your address book in the computer so you can print your envelopes every year. Buying address labels is another time saver. Get everyone involved by setting up an assembly line to sign cards, stuff envelopes, stick on stamps and return labels and seal them up. Play holiday music and eat Christmas cookies while you do it. It will go faster and make a great memory, too.

It really is important to minimize holiday stress and make this season enjoyable for you and your family. There is no reason to let stress take over and ruin the possibility of having fun enjoying family and friends all season long. This is such a special time of year where we can reflect on the year that has passed and look joyfully ahead to the year to come. Make the choice to enjoy the season and share the love and joy it represents.

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The Health Benefits of Lemons

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

They say, ‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,’ which it turns out is a pretty good idea. So if life does give you lemons, you are in luck! Lemons are full of vitamins, antioxidants, phytonutrients, and minerals. They are also especially good sources of vitamin C and folate.

A BENEFICIAL FRUIT

Lemons are one of the most popular acidic citrus fruits, with its roots traced to Northern India, and they were brought to the New World by Christopher Columbus in 1493. Today, California and Arizona are the leading lemon producers in the U.S., along with Italy, Spain, Greece, South Africa and Australia around the world.

While lemons are available throughout the year, summer is the peak season for them. Lemons are a very versatile fruit, meaning you can eat, yes, eat them, in slices, sip healthy lemon water, make lemonade (as the adage suggests), garnish food with them, candy their peels and use their juice and peels, often called ‘zest,’ in cooking, and more. Lemons are also a pretty good addition to a cold glass of iced tea!

According to the latest lemon statistics, a quarter cup of lemon juice contains 31% of the recommended daily intake of vitamin C and 3% of folate and 2% potassium, all for around 13 calories. A whole lemon contains 139% of the recommended daily vitamin C and has 22 calories. But lemons are just good on their own for your body – they work and ‘play’ well with other foods.

Studies have examined the role of lemons in accessing carotenoids, which are beneficial phytonutrients, from other foods during the digestive process. Carotenoids, like carrots, can have low accessibility and availability, meaning that even though you may eat a carrot, your body might not absorb many of the carotenoids. So you think you’re doing something good for your body, but your body isn’t sure what to do with all that goodness.

Lemons not only have nutritional properties on their own, but they can also unleash benefits from other foods when combined with them.

HEALTH BENEFITS

Lemons are a great choice in boosting your vitamin C, which plays a major role in stimulating the production of white blood cells, protecting the cells involved in your immune system. Beyond giving your immune system a bit of a boost, lemons can also address heart health.

Folic acid has been shown to aid in the prevention of strokes and may contribute to cardiovascular health. Results from clinical studies examining folic acid and heart attacks were inconclusive, but folic acid consumption can result in a modest improvement in stroke reduction.

Vitamin C is also linked to a reduction in the risk of cardiovascular disease.

A 2015 study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition looked at more

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than 100,000 people and found that those who ate the most fruits and vegetables had a 15% lower risk of even developing heart disease. The theory is that vitamin C may have cardiovascular benefits because it is an antioxidant that protects against dangerous free radicals. It also may lower bad LDL cholesterol and keep arteries flexible.

Lemons and limes contain the most citric acid of any fruits, which makes them beneficial to those who suffer from kidney stones. Studies have shown citric acid deters stone formation and also breaks up small stones that may already be forming.

The more citric acid in your urine, the more protected you are from forming new kidney stones.

Nutritionists suggest that lemons are a great low-calorie way to flavor drinks and food. Studies with limited participants have shown that adding lemon water to your daily activity can help promote weight loss.

In general, lemons are quite good for you in whatever form you choose to add them to your diet. So the next time that life throws some lemons your way, actually make some lemonade and let your body reap the healthy benefits.

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Navigating the Miles Between You & Loved Ones

The world we live in is filled with tools perfectly matched to long distance relationships and communication! While you may sometimes find yourself overwhelmed with technology and wanting to feel unplugged, it’s a phenomenal resource for staying in touch with people. Social media is one of those ways to feel like you are still connected to your favorite people and allows you to see photos and updates from their daily or weekly lives. It can help you share and see things that you may not necessarily bring up on the next phone call. I don’t even know where I would be without the invention of Facetime and Skype! Being able to speak face-to-face from miles away makes you feel closer. Find out which app your family finds easier and make sure to utilize this whenever that homesickness starts to creep in.

FIND A TIME THAT WORKS FOR EVERYONE

There is so much going on in everyone’s lives that one of the hardest parts about staying in touch can often be navigating everyone’s schedules. Finding a time that works once a week or once a month for both parties can be a great way to make sure too much time doesn’t pass in between conversations. My sister-in-law calls every Friday night for a quick catch up phone call with my husband and me since that’s the time that works best for all of us. If the schedule doesn’t work all the time, that’s ok- the important thing is that having a time set aside keeps each person on the other’s mind.

After receiving a job offer that could majorly affect the trajectory of my career, and mine and my husband’s future, we left our home in Florida and moved to Winston-Salem nearly four years ago. While moving out of state can be scary in itself, we were also leaving all of our friends and family behind and the state we had each called home for close to all of our lives. When people ask me if I miss Florida, I always reply, “I miss my people.” Truly, living long distance from your loved ones can be challenging.

When I relocated one of my biggest concerns was staying in touch with friends and family and not losing our closeness. I realized there are so many little ways to keep those relationships going even when there are hundreds of miles between you.

As long as you and your loved ones have the want in your heart to stay close and the motivation to do what you can to keep in touch, there is no reason to worry.

After all, don’t they say absence makes the heart grow fonder?

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SEND SOME HAPPY MAIL

While technology offers us an immediate gratification of sorts, there is still something to be said for good old fashioned snail mail! Who doesn’t love opening the mailbox to find something other than bills? Create a document with all of your long distance contacts’ mailing addresses, so you have them on hand throughout the year. Birthdays, holidays and other special occasions are perfect opportunities to show some love from across the miles with a gift or card. Pick up a book of stamps every few months so that when the mood strikes to write a quick note when you’re missing your parent or to cheer up a friend, you don’t have anything standing in the way. Next time you order something from Amazon, save a few boxes and bubble wrap, so that if you want to ship a care package, you have what you’ll need on hand!

DON’T LET HOMESICKNESS GET YOU DOWN

There have been times when living far away from some of my closest family and friends has really weighed on my shoulders. Being homesick is such a normal part of living long distance! Particularly times where you feel like you’re missing out on making memories with people, such as during the holidays or at celebrations. Do not let these moments be spent alone. Instead, reach out to the person you’re missing and remind them how important they are to you. On the other hand, also take those moments to spend time with the friends or family that you do have nearby. It’s possible to embrace the life you have around you and send your love to the ones you wish were nearby.

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Words Matter

People’s words, though intentional or not, can have a big effect on someone’s life.

For most of my life, I allowed words to have an impact on what I thought about myself or how I shaped my life.

When I was a freshman in high school, I played for the junior varsity volleyball team. I loved the sport and dreamed about playing in college. One day I told the varsity coach my dream, and her response shaped the rest of my playing career. She told me I was too short to play in college. That was the end of the conversation. There was no motivational speech on how I could work hard to overcome my height or how I could play a position that was not height based. It was just a, ‘No, you are too short.’ In her mind, she was giving me what she felt was the best advice. Well, I ended up playing through college but how definitive she sounded that day about my inability to succeed in college volleyball shaped how I viewed myself in the sport.

We are all guilty of saying things out of anger or hurt that we don’t mean, but what about when we say things meaning to be helpful that do damage?

Sometimes our most well-meaning intentions can be more harmful than we realize.

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There is a story about a group of frogs that were traveling through the woods one day when two of them fell into a deep pit. Now, all the remaining frogs crowded around the pit. Realizing how deep it was, they started yelling at the two frogs that there was no hope left for them. However, the two frogs decided to ignore what the others were saying and proceeded to try and jump out of the pit. The two frogs kept getting close, but that didn’t stop the group of frogs at the top of the pit from telling them that they should just give up. That there was no hope.

Eventually, one of the frogs took heed to what the others were saying, and he gave up, falling down to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop and just give up.

He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, “Did you not hear us?” The frog explained to them that he was deaf and thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

I find myself having to really stop and think about what words I use with my kids. They will ask my opinion on something or tell me about an idea that

they have. On the one hand, I believe in giving honest feedback, but I also don’t want to limit their imagination or stifle what their dreams are, so I always encourage. If an outfit my daughter puts together isn’t something that I would pick out, I encourage her creative sense.

If my son cooks something that doesn’t taste good, I encourage his ability to try new things. No matter what, I always stop and think about how what I might say could make a lasting difference in their lives.

Carl Rogers, an American psychologist, said it best when he said, “People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, soften the orange a bit on the right-hand corner. I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”

Try to think about the words you use the next time you are giving your opinion or are trying to tell someone what you think. It might just be the difference that changes someone’s life.

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Ready Player One's Message

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Science fiction is an insightful genre giving a unique perspective into a strange, yet potential, future. How many times has a book concluded leaving the reader with a distinct impression of the writer’s invented world? Some books, however, create a stepping stone from the current day into that unknown and an eerily familiar possible future.

In 2011, author Earnest Cline published a novel set in the year 2044. Due to the collapse of global economies, the problems of the average citizen were too overwhelming to fix. The solution to escape the realities of poverty arrived in the form of an online virtual reality platform available to everyone. By designing a body and establishing a private name, the “player” only had to slide the virtual mask over his or her eyes and enter the realm of the Oasis. Without limits, the “player” could travel anywhere in the world or universe, climb the tallest mountain, or connect with friends thousands of miles away in seconds.

The platform provided children a place to attend school and adults the opportunity to connect with colleagues and friends, achieve financial gain, find entertainment, and feel empowered without leaving the house. Our escape is already in real time, although not quite as advanced. Are you “Ready Player One?”

AVATAR

The reference to being anything you want resonates a clear message not only in the book but in our own time. Similar to establishing your online settings, in the Oasis, the “player” must design a computerized body known as an avatar, implying you can walk, see, talk, and aerobically move in a frame. Would you prefer to be a seven-foot-tall giant, a curvy supermodel, a superhero with a mask, or perhaps an alteration of yourself? Would you choose to be male or female, younger or older, slimmer or taller? In the form of an avatar, the options are unlimited. When the challenges of the day are spent relaxing behind a computer screen, our avatar is apparent through a perception. Pictures and words offer friends an alternative reality into our lives by revealing our proudest and happiest moments.

AN ALIAS

With a creative name such as “Parzival,” a character of legend who seeks to find the Holy Grail, or “Art3mis,” known as the Greek goddess of the hunt, an alias conceals your identity. And, under the veil of secrecy, how does a “player” know whether a best friend or an adored girl is who they are? One distinct message readers and moviegoers will discover is that reality requires a leap of faith and trust to live, truly live, in the real world.

While friends are found through an online platform, discarding the secret identity, and the game, can lead to happiness.

BACK TO THE FUTURE

If you were a child of the 1980s, you might recall the Atari 2600 with video games named Adventure, Asteroids, or Donkey Kong. Years were spent learning the rules, resetting and starting over to achieve an improved score. And, perhaps, two of your favorite movies were “The Iron Giant” and “Back to the Future.” It’s relevant information because the theme of the book centers on knowledge of ‘80s nostalgia. With time on your hands to revisit the past concerning the people and places, novels, movies, and television, the comprehensive history is a valuable advantage to save the future citizens in 2044.

TECHNOLOGY

Drones may one day deliver everything from a package to an extra-large pizza. With every desire arriving at the front door, how will people of the future exercise? That, too, requires technology and acquiring pricey gear.

Imagine a multi-directional treadmill along with a fully functional mobile suit specialized for acrobatic movements such as jumping, flying, and somersaulting in a safe location. With the ability to play the game well, an avatar can accumulate prizes such as coins, distinct powers, or specialized items. And, if the game ends, the player cannot resolve matters by a simple reset.

GAME OVER

Science fiction is an eye-opening genre.

A dystopian setting is a premise of possibilities; yet, the message in Ready Player One can be stated in one quote, “As terrifying and painful as reality can be, it’s also the only place where you can find a warm meal and true happiness.”

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Here We Go Do-Si-Do! Celebrate Square Dancing Day – November 29

BY VONDA HENDERSON

“Square dancing is like a game of ‘Simon Says.’ Just pretend the caller’s name is Simon and do whatever he says!” (Facebook.com/squaredanceUSA) What do you think of when you think about square dancing? Is it something that was forced on you in your grade school gym class, something your grandparents did, or something you saw on a country music show?

In your mind, do you recall girls in gingham dresses with lots of brightly colored crinolines fanning out as their partners wearing matching shirts twirl them around? But, have you ever considered the health benefits associated with square dancing? There are many aspects that can contribute to your health. Let’s explore them, shall we?

It’s a fairly easy assumption that most of us don’t get the exercise we need. We make resolutions, we promise our doctor at every annual physical, and we tell ourselves each evening, ‘Tomorrow I’m going to get started on my exercise routine.’

Now, those are some tall tales! However, what if exercising was set to music and there were lots of people focused on doing the same thing you were, so you didn’t feel like you were standing out in a crowd? Would you give it a try? That’s a simplified explanation of square dancing. It’s estimated that for each half hour of square dancing, most folks will burn off 200 to 400 calories and reduce their cholesterol levels if done on a regular basis. Since square dancing is classified as a weight-bearing activity, your bone health will also improve. The continual movements help to lower blood pressure and reduce stress. That’s good for your heart; however, it’s recommended that you check with your doctor if you are already under care for heart-related issues before starting any exercise program.

Square dancing is also mentally stimulating and improves focus.

Concentration is key to keeping up with the rest of the group and following the steps of the caller who guides the dance. Coordination is needed to be sure you don’t run into your partner or the couple beside you, while at the same time you follow along in time with the group. There’s no mind wandering on the dance floor; focusing on the steps and anticipating what’s ahead is good mental exercise. As Dot and Melvin who square danced for ten plus years shared, “The more you dance, the more complex patterns you learn.”

Memorizing various steps improves not only your dancing but also exercises your mind.

Along with the dancing and gaining those mental and healthy benefits, you also get to socialize with others.

At its heart, square dancing is a social activity. “Square dancing is a great way to meet new people,” said Dot and Melvin. “We enjoyed traveling to different parts of the south with our club, dancing to callers we liked and helping to teach newcomers the steps. We made a lot of friends and went to places we might not have visited otherwise.”

Try square dancing for the fun of it; the health benefits are just that -- benefits. Research your area for places to take lessons or check out local square dancing clubs. Get a few other couples to join in or just show up to make some new friends. As the saying goes, ‘Dance like no one is watching.’ Hear the music? Get on your feet!

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Have you ever wondered why so many Americans love watching reality T.V.? There are fans of Survivor, American Idol, The Voice, Master Chef, and the list goes on and on. Also, there are numerous shows throughout the different channels; many shows with the same plot. What exactly are the reasons people are addicted to this type of T.V. show? Why makes reality T.V. so popular?

If you find yourself asking these questions, take a look at the facts below as we investigate the meaning behind this T.V. phenomenon.

• According to the article, “We Are Living in a Golden Age of Reality Television,” reality T.V. is so popular because it gives people an insight into the lives of others. They see how people handle and react to different situations and are given a look into people’s private moments. Lastly, people enjoy watching reality T.V. because it is a chance to compare ourselves with others and feel greater satisfaction in our own lives by not having to deal with a situation that our favorite celebrity is going through or see things we don’t normally see.

• The most popular type of shows in this genre are cooking, competition, docu-soaps, and the supernatural.

• A few critics debate the authenticity of this genre.

Some say the shows are pre-scripted. This “scripting without paper” scenario allows for T.V. crews to write and develop certain situations for the characters. Others say that during editing, events are arranged in a different order than filmed to add more drama. In an article for The Washington Post, T.V. producer Mark Burnett called the genre “unscripted drama.” These tricks are used to create more compelling television and more outlandish behavior, thus raising the show’s ratings. Survivor, Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, The Hills, and The Bachelor and The Bachelorette have been accused of editing the series’ authenticity, and some have admitted to doing so.

• Reality T.V. first made its appearance in 1948 when Allen Funt turned his radio show “Candid Microphone” into the television show Candid Camera. The premise of Candid Camera was to film unsuspecting viewers’ reactions to unusual scenarios.

• Along with criticism, there are pros and cons for reality T.V. As for the pros, contestants on competition shows receive awards, prizes, and a sense of achievement for their worldwide success. Plus, America is introduced to unknown talent and skills. Also, it is a cheap source of entertainment that propels unknown strangers to instant celebrity status.

Reality shows are less expensive to produce than scripted T.V., causing more shows to be developed. Lastly, it promotes various brands, regions of the country, and a better understanding of the world around us. For example, viewers can see what it is like in other countries, thanks to Survivor, The Amazing Race, and other travel/competition shows. For the cons, some say these series don’t portray reality, cause wrong notions about certain situations and ways of life, exploit individuals and families, promote aggressive behavior and fake personalities, and are wastes of time and energy.

• Research states that some of the reasons people watch reality T.V. is because it is mindless, they like the drama, it helps them forget about issues in their life or in the world, they become invested in the characters, and it helps them stay informed with pop culture.

Whether you watch reality T.V. or not, one can admit this genre has a huge following. Throughout the years, these series have skyrocketed to popularity with more shows being added each year. What is your favorite, can’t-miss reality T.V. show?

• This type of T.V. genre classifies shows into three different categories: contests, structured reality, and docu-soap. Examples of contest shows include Cake Wars, The Bachelor, and Project Runway. As for docu-soaps, this category is known to dominate reality T.V., because it includes celebrities and drama. These series include The Hills, the Real Housewives franchise, and Keeping Up with the Kardashians.

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Take the Wheel, Stay in Your Lane!

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Advice comes from every direction: bosses and colleagues, family and friends, social media acquaintances, and even bumper stickers! It is uncanny how a mere four emblazoned words placed on a small rectangle can feel like a billboard in bright lights. “Stay in Your Lane” is a compact credo of inspiration to refocus the mind, ignore hurtful words and people, and reinstate the concepts within your control.

THE IMPACT OF THE DRIVE-BY

Highways and backcountry roads are filled with drivers who feel the need to pass because others are driving too slowly for them. Indirectly, these strangers can impact our mood. When a complete stranger zooms around you in a blur, you often become frustrated and angry. In retrospect, you didn’t expect to find yourself in such a low place. You may lash out angrily at the driver’s tail lights, heading down the road ahead of you. Just remember, you are made of steel! No bodily damage or bruises.

You are fine! Words may have rolled off the tongue as easily as water pouring out of a glass, but no one heard it. Breathe and exhale, and then resume driving in your lane.

TAKE THE SCENIC ROUTE

The congestion and competition of the highway may require going a different route. The road, at first, may be bumpy, and you’ll have to take care through the winding curves, but sometimes the scenic route is a nice change of pace. Maybe you can look out over a mountain vista, or see small birds, a log cabin, or people trudging up the mountain. If you relax, you will almost certainly see things that went unnoticed before.

Maybe this will be your lane for a while.

JESUS, TAKE THE WHEEL

When the day has ended, and you find yourself back in your car, edging into traffic, listening to the sounds of sputtering, coughing, and repeated knocks, all you can do is refocus, and find an opening to slide over. It doesn’t matter who is exceeding, maintaining, or driving under the speed limit, or who is sporting an Aston Martin Valkyrie, a Dodge Journey, or a Volkswagen Karmann Ghia. We are all travelers on the road with various goals and destinations. Not everyone will wave hello or smile. With your mind focused, you can stay in your lane and know that, “It’s going to be okay!”

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Buttons – Buttons Who’s Got the Buttons?

Celebrate Button Day – November 16

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Buttons are such a part of daily fashions it’s hard to imagine a time that they were only used as status symbols for ornamental purposes. They were originally made from wood, bone, brass, pewter, gold, or silver. Not only were they status symbols, but they were also used exclusively on men’s clothing. It wasn’t until the 19th century that the use of buttons transitioned to women’s clothing. Up to that time, women relied on hooks and lacings.

You may remember a time when it was common to cut the buttons off of old clothes to be used for another project later on. And if you, your mom, or grandmother sewed, no doubt there was a button box around to hold all the extra buttons for sewing or other crafts. You learned not to throw a button away; they could always be repurposed.

November 16 was designated by the National Button Society as Button Day years ago to commemorate collectors and crafters.

Today, buttons are created from organic, natural materials, plastics, and polymers, as well as the original metals. You find them in any size, color, or shape imaginable. As far as crafting, let your imagination drive the creative ideas designed with buttons. To get a jumpstart on holiday crafting, consider a few of these suggestions.

• Using transfer paper, layout the letter shape onto the fabric.

Steady hands may be able to lightly sketch the design onto the fabric.

• You can use an embroidery hoop if desired but for a large letter, an already stretch fabric frame may be easier to work with.

• Build the letter using your imagination with the button sizes and shades. Use the smaller accent buttons sparingly to jazz up the letter. For a child’s room, add a few character shapes depending on his or her interests (such as cars, butterflies, ladybugs, etc.). Be consistent on the way you sew the buttons on (i.e., crossover in the same direction each time just as you would when cross-stitching).

• Finish off with a frame suited to the room or leave as a canvas.

OTHER SUGGESTIONS FOR BUTTON CRAFTS INCLUDE:

BUTTON CHRISTMAS TREE

Materials needed include a green Styrofoam cone, a variety of green buttons in different sizes, and color-headed pushpins or straight pins, adhesive green felt • Make a circle using the Styrofoam base with the adhesive felt and secure it to the bottom of the cone.

• Beginning at the base, use one pushpin per button to cover the cone. Double stack with smaller buttons occasionally. Start with larger buttons at the base and mix the sizes and colors to create depth and the illusion of colored ornaments.

• Depending on the size cone selected, this could be a centerpiece, a desk tree, or an early Christmas gift. Make several sizes for a table forest of trees. Add gold or silver bead strings for garland. For a more elegant impact, design with a white cone and all white buttons using gold or silver color headed pins.

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Materials needed include a pattern of the letter, linen or fabric stretched over a frame, selection of buttons in shades of the desired color, matching embroidery thread, small accent colored buttons in brass or pearl, embroidery needle, scissors

• Christmas ornaments made using fiber covered balls, hot glue gun, and selection of buttons. You can also make them using Styrofoam balls and pushpins. Make them all one color or add in a small tree, snowman candy cane designed with tiny buttons.

• Make your own custom note cards with small flat button designs • Add magnet backs for customized magnets • Create a charm bracelet made with vintage buttons hung onto a sterling silver bracelet • Create a unique button-rimmed picture frame or mirror What else can you make with buttons? Basically, whatever you dream up, give it a try. Don’t throw away those buttons!

There’s crafting to be done!

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Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. American pop culture has had a recent fascination with African cultural objects. This exhibit showcases some of the actual African objects that have inspired these pieces of American pop culture. Admission is free. http://moa.wfu.edu

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Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Travel back in time to when there were no cell phones or video games and batteries were never included! Engage and delight in tumbling, sliding, rocking, spinning, dancing and flying folk toys that demonstrate the effects of gravity, inertia, rhythm, harmonic motion and mechanics. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

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5pm-until…, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth, 321 West Fourth Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy ½ price wine, nachos, wild mushroom and artichoke dip, and cheesecake! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

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GREENSBORO LUNGE FORWARD 5K WALK, RUN & RALLY

8-10:30am, Center City Park, 200 North Elm Street in Greensboro. From the 5K race to the celebration rally to the kid’s dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family. However you choose to participate, your support will make an impact in the fight against lung cancer in North Carolina. Cost: $15-$35/person; survivors free. www.lungcancerinitiativenc.org

BONE HEALTH WORKSHOP WITH AMERICAN BONE HEALTH AND WAKE HEALTH

9:30am-12:30pm, Bowman Gray Center for Medical Education, Conference Room 5206 and 5207, 475 Vine Street in W-S. American Bone Health is partnering with Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center to bring a free workshop to Winston-Salem, for adults to learn how to build their own roadmap for better bone health. Registration begins at 9am in the 5th floor lobby (right off the elevators).

Free parking is available in the P7 Innovation Quarter Lot, entrance at the corner of 4th and Vine streets. https://americanbonehealth.org/

CRAFT AND VENDOR SHOW

BY ARDMORE NEIGHBORHOOD ASSOCIATION

10am-3pm, Miller Park Recreation Center, 400 Leisure Lane in W-S. Crafters from crochet to stained glass, and vendors from Pampered Chef to “31” Totes.

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STATESVILLE ARTISAN AND CRAFTER’S EXPO

Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church, 435 Keating Drive in W-S. The lunch and dinner menu includes Mousaka, Chicken Riganato with rice and Pork Souvlaki with rice. All meals are $13 and served with Spanakopita, Greek-style green beans, Greek salad, a roll and beverage. Pastries for sale include Baklava, Koulourakia, Kourambiedes, Finikia and many more. 100 percent of the proceeds benefit local and national charities. www. facebook.com/WSGreekFestival/?tn-str=k*F

10am-3pm, Statesville Activity & Fitness Center, 1875 Simonton Road in Statesville. Something for everyone! More than 70 vendors. No direct sales. All handcrafted. Visit Facebook event page for more information – www.facebook.com/events/617799398577236.

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6:30pm, Harvest Grill at Shelton Vineyards, 230 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Two teams will make wine pairing suggestions to a Vintner’s dinner created by Chef Paul. As our guest, you will decide your favorite wine pairing with each course. At the end of the evening, we will count all the votes and determine who will be the recipient of the 2018 Wine Showdown Award! Make your reservations by calling Harvest Grill at 366.3590, or email at harvestgrill@sheltonvineyards.com.

61ST ANNUAL GREEK BAKE SALE

SOUND IMMERSION WITH PERCUSSIONIST BILL SMITH AND RESTORATIVE YOGA WITH CATHY HOWE

5-6:30pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct. #1 in Clemmons. Discover a deep sense of tranquility as you the let the vibrations of gongs and bells wash over you as you relax through a series of restorative yoga poses. www.sunriseyoga.net/workshops

NOVEMBER 13

KIDS’ MORNING OUT

10am-12pm, Legacy Saddlebreds, 4151 Thomasville Road in W-S. Free event! Come check out the amazing facility at Legacy Saddlebreds. Pony rides, several activity stations and hayride (weather permitting). Each adult will receive four raffle tickets from Forsyth Family for the door prize drawing.

FIGHTING FOR FORSYTH: WHAT IS FORSYTH COUNTY DOING TO COMBAT THE OPIOID CRISIS?

7:30-8:30pm, Goodwill of NW North Carolina, 2701 University Parkway in W-S. Join The Fellowship Home of W-S for a discussion with guest speakers. www. thefellowshiphome.org

NOVEMBER 16

CHEERS! TO BRENNER CHILDREN’S

7-10pm, The Millennium Center, 101 West 5th Street in W-S. Mix and mingle with celebrity chefs, enjoy gourmet food from W-S’s finest restaurants, wine, craft beer, a live auction, games and much more! Funds raised at Cheers! support the campaign to build a new Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at Brenner Children’s Hospital. Purchase your ticket and support Brenner Children’s by visiting brennerchildrens.org/cheers.

NOVEMBER 17

GO FAR FAMILY 5K & FUN RUN

7-11am, Showplace Courtyard, 211 East Commerce Avenue in High Point. Families are encouraged to join their children. Registration will also be held on race day from 7–8:30 a.m. After the race, enjoy vendors, food and fun. GO FAR is a nonprofit running club that teaches children of all abilities about healthy eating, goal setting and how to train for a mile or 5K. For details, visit runsignup.com/gofar, or call 508.4380. Cost: $15-$25/ person.

MAYBERRY HALF MARATHON 5K AND 10K

8am, Downtown Mount Airy, 259 North Main Street in Mount Airy. Come run our flat, fast courses through Historic Mayberry and the beautiful Granite City Greenway along the Ararat River and Lovill’s Creek – featuring cash prizes, custom medals, half marathon finisher medals, long-sleeve technical t-shirts, and an awesome swag bag. http://mayberryhalf.itsyourrace.com

WINE SHOWDOWN AT HARVEST GRILL

WAKE FOREST FOOTBALL VS. PITTSBURGH

BB&T Field, 499 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Come cheer on the Demon Deacons on Senior Night and last home game of the season!

NOVEMBER 17-18

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE

11am-5pm (17th); 12-5pm (18th), Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Free admission. It’s the holidays! Come and join us for all the sights, sounds and tastes of the season!

NOVEMBER 18

CLEMMONS COMMUNITY THANKSGIVING SERVICE

7-8pm, Holy Family Catholic Church, 4820 Kinnamon Road in W-S. The Clemmons Clergy Association is pleased to invite everyone to the annual Worshipers are invited to bring canned goods or cash or check donations to share with the Clemmons Food Pantry.

West End Holiday Homes Tour

NOVEMBER 23-25

RIVINI & ALYNE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. www.nitsas.com

NOVEMBER 23-DECEMBER 29 TWEETSIE CHRISTMAS

Tweetsie Railroad, 300 Tweetsie Railroad Lane in Blowing Rock. Advance tickets required. Enjoy the wonder of the park dazzlingly lit for the holidays, with a nighttime train and more. Cost: $38/person. http://tweetsie.com/special-events/

NOVEMBER 29-DECEMBER 9 CANDLE TEA

Single Brothers House in Old Salem, 600 South Main Street in W-S. Singing, candle making, sugarcake and Moravian coffee as well as experiencing the Nativity story. Profits go to outreach.Cost: $5/adult; $1/child. www. homemoravian.org/candletea

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Carolina Characters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 Castle Lights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Chermack & Hanson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Chest Caddy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 Christina’s Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 139 Clemmons Bicycle Shop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Clemmons Rotary. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Collegiate Shop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Coolhouse Cryotherapy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Crossfit Polydamas. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Crystal Cleaners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107

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Dalton’s Crossing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Davie Craft Association . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Davie Flooring. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Davie Tavern . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Dawson Tree Service . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Diet Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Dream Dinners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133

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Jeffrey Adams on Fourth . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 June DeLugas Interiors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35

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Emerson Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133 Family Services. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Farrago . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Farrago, Abby Marie. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 Footnote . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 Forsyth Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 Fraleigh’s Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Furniture Mattress Warehouse . . . . . . . . . . 125 FW Engaged . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101

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George K. Walker Florist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Get Vocal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Gifts & Paper on Plaza . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 Gingerbread Craft Fair . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Goin’ Postal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Goldman Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61

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Habitat ReStore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 HakkaChow. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 Hauser Rental . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 Hillcrest Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Hip Chics Boutique. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31

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Nitsa’s Apparel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Northern Family Medicine . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101

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Salem Detailing, Evan Wiles . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Salem Funeral Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Salem Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Salem Smiles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Salemtowne Retirment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55 Second Harvest Food Bank . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 Sharon Reid, DDS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Simply Southern Cuisine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Simply Sterling & Co. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29

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Village Inn Event Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Vow to Be Different . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141

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Another Thing Was That a Sasquatch?

Sightings in North Carolina suggest it just might be…

BY MARK MATHOSIAN

Is it a Sasquatch (aka Bigfoot) or a man in a gorilla suit? That is the question after hearing about alleged Sasquatch sightings in North Carolina. Here are a few reports – you be the judge.

In 2010 a western Cleveland County man saw a strange creature in the backyard of his mountain home. He was outside calling coyotes with a game caller, but instead of coyotes he saw a 10-foot tall creature in the nearby woods that had long “beautiful hair.”

“I tried to call him,” he said, but then thought it over and instead pointed a stick toward the Sasquatch and told it “Git, git, git.”

After thrusting the stick several times, the Bigfoot wandered off on a dirt path in the woods.

The man called 911, and at first, they didn’t take him seriously, thinking he had too much to drink. However, a deputy from the Cleveland County Sheriff’s Office was dispatched for an official report. The deputy later wrote a “suspicious person report.” That same deputy later told a reporter this was not the first Sasquatch sighting in Cleveland County. He remembered that, as a child, there were reports of a “hairy man looking” creature about 8-10 feet tall breaking into chicken houses. This latest Sasquatch sighting made national news and the Cleveland County resident described the Sasquatch to CNN’s Jeanne Moos as looking “like a giant ape with a man’s face.” So far, the Cleveland County Bigfoot has not been photographed or caught.

In 2016, several people reported seeing a large, furry looking animal running through the woods in the town of Littleton in Halifax County. A resident said one morning she heard something near the woods behind her house. When she walked outside, she saw a “very large” creature weaving through her yard, and its “hair was super long.” When people challenged her by suggesting it was a coyote or bear she insisted it was neither of those, commenting she “had never seen anything like that, whatsoever.”

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Bigfoot researchers suggested that logging in the area may have disturbed the creature’s home territory and that was why it was on the move. To support this hypothesis they provided castings of extremely large, abnormal footprints about 18 inches long by 8 inches wide found in nearby Medoc Mountain State Park. The sightings resulted in so much publicity that a local man opened a museum in Littleton named the “Cryptozoology & Paranormal Museum.” The museum has an image of a Sasquatch on its signage, and inside there is lots of information about Sasquatch sightings and other strange phenomenon.

Another witness from Littleton named Tifanie reported, “When I looked out the window I saw a large upright black bigfoot type creature with long black hair.” She said it was so close she heard branches being crushed. No footprints were found, but her dog allegedly picked up the creature’s scent and started heading in the same direction as the Sasquatch. Information about this sighting is on the museum’s website at https://crypto-para.org.

In a more recent sighting, on August 4, 2017, a group of Bigfoot researchers reportedly came face-to-face with a Sasquatch just northwest of Charlotte.

According to an article in the Charlotte Observer, a “large bipedal animal covered in hair” was observed just before 11 p.m. in a forested area in McDowell County, about 100 miles from Charlotte. The article said no one was injured and the group reported the event on their Facebook page, Bigfoot 911.

A member of the group, John Bruner, said they were out scattering glow sticks in the woods to attract a Bigfoot. Soon they spotted a glow stick moving through the woods. He turned on his headlamp and “saw a large bipedal animal covered in hair.” The animal hustled away and Bruner ran after it, eventually prompting a brief stare-down. “Its face was solid black, no hair on it. The hair looked shaggy all over,” he said. As in other cases, the Sasquatch quickly ran off into the deep forest.

Well, there you have it. Just a few of the alleged Sasquatch sightings in North Carolina. Is the Sasquatch real? Hopefully, we will someday find out.

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