Forsyth Woman - May 2018

May 2018

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COVER STORY The Secrets Your Florist Wished You Knew: The Inside Scoop from George K. Walker Florist

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The Best Trails in the Triad

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The Power of Make-Up

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Keeping it Real: If These Walls Could Talk

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Recipe: Penne with Grilled Chicken, Spinach & Cherry Tomatoes in a Lemon Parmesan Sauce

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Hustle & Heart: The Positive Side to Losing Followers on Social Media

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ReDESIGNS by Ava: I Wish I Had a Magic Wand

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B.E. Healthy: Mother / Daughter Workouts

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Style File: Annoying Fashion Problems That All Women Will Understand

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Novel Idea: 102 ASaddle Up (The Story of a Red Scarf )

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Dreams: 118 Constructing Apron Sinks & Deep Wells

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The View From This Side MAY 2018 I saw a meme on Facebook as we were preparing for the May issue that said we had a new season this year called “Sprinter.” A combination of spring and winter.

It certainly has felt that way, but I’m hoping and praying that we are FINALLY in the warm weather season. I am more than ready for it. How about you?

I love spring. It’s such a beautiful time of the year and of course, so much to celebrate! Most importantly – moms. My mom is the best, and honestly, I don’t really need a reason to celebrate her. I am so blessed to have her in my life. She has the most infectious smile as well as a genuine love for everyone she meets. There really aren’t enough words to describe how special she is, but Marianne Schuler – please know how much I love you and how much you mean to your family. I am so proud to be your daughter!

If you’re looking for the perfect Mother’s Day gift – make sure you read our cover story! We are thrilled to share more about a longstanding local business, George K. Walker Florist! George K. Walker has been a trusted resource to the Triad for years, and Forsyth Woman is proud to feature them on the cover of our May issue.

With May, I have another reason to celebrate! I’m superproud of my daughter Brooke as we unveil another issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged! this month. Our biannual wedding publication has everything local brides need to plan their special day! Brooke has done an outstanding job organizing this issue. If you or someone you know is getting married, please be sure to pick up a copy!

A great big thank you to everyone who has supported our Komen team and online auctions to raise over $10K! We are so thankful for all your generosity as we collectively work together to support a great cause!

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Let’s keep the celebrations going! Whether you’re celebrating Mom, a new graduate, a birthday, a wedding, or simply a gorgeous day to dig in the garden – thank you for letting us be a part of your month!

With all that said, it’s time to read the newest issue of Forsyth Woman!

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The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery

Lifting Faces & Souls

BY MARTIE EMORY

Bringing out the best in every person whose path crosses his, Dr. Neal D. Goldman is proud to serve our community and equally proud of his heartfelt charitable work through the HUGS organization: Help Us Give Smiles.

Giving smiles – along with newfound confidence – has always been the goal of The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery, which focuses solely on cosmetic facial rejuvenation. The best news: Sometimes the results rejuvenate the soul as much as the beautiful face!

As a 100% facial specialist, he concentrates only from the neck up, and does not perform hand work, breast work or any other type of surgery. That’s how patients through the years have known he is both knowledgeable and completely focused on improving their facial features. While he and his staff always look for ways to assist a patient non-surgically first, such as laser treatments and specific skin care treatments or injectables, every case is different. He likes to examine every element of a patient’s life to put together the best personal options.

Dr. Goldman is double board certified with both The American Board of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery and The American Board of Otolaryngology Head and Neck Surgery. His goal is to focus on the individual’s aging face concerns. “Everybody sees something different in the mirror,” said Dr. Goldman.

“I’ve been taking care of aging faces in Winston-Salem since 1999,” said Dr. Goldman. “People always ask if a facelift or neck lift is the only answer for lifting jowls.” As we age, the soft tissue and skin of the lower face begin to descend. Fillers are temporary treatments that can work for early signs of jowling. “The tried-and-true method of a lower facelift with an experienced surgeon really provides the best and most longlasting result,” he said.

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Dr. Goldman uses computer imaging to project the patient’s face and neck area from all angles, and honestly address any potential limitations, giving patients a clear view of what they can realistically expect. Most of the center’s facelift patients are in their 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s, but Dr. Goldman states most people begin to examine their necks while still in their forties. “It is not about the patient’s age, but rather about his or her overall health and outlook on life that makes for a good candidate,” said Dr. Goldman. We all know the eventual loosening of skin is inevitable with age, but factors such as genetics, sun exposure, stress and diet can accelerate the process. A facelift is designed to remove excess skin and fat, while repositioning the skin, muscle and deeper tissues.

“People are interested in minimizing downtime and ask about a mini-lift or weekend facelift. Everyone is an individual and should do what is best for him or her and the current situation,” said Dr. Goldman. “We can provide a quicker recovery period with more subtle results with a minilift that address the skin but not the muscle layers, or we can perform a more traditional facelift which has a longer recovery but will give the long-lasting results that women (and more and more men) seek.”

Mingled with his busy practice – both locally and an office in Boone, NC – Dr. Goldman believes strongly in giving back to his community, as well as on an international level, and is active with HUGS mission trips where he performs surgery multiple times every year on children with congenital deformities in foreign locations such as Guatemala and Hanoi, Vietnam.

If you’re thinking it’s time for a professional consultation as you look to rejuvenate that beautiful face of yours, contact Dr. Neal Goldman and his dedicated staff at 336.245.9595, or visit FacialPlasticSurgeryNC.com for more information on their services. The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery is located at 108 Dornach Way in Kinderton Village, Advance, NC, along with a cosmetic and reconstructive practice located in Boone.

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AH-MAY-ZING Weddings in the May Issue of

BY DENISE HEIDEL

It’s May, and that brings a new issue of AH-MAY-ZING local weddings in our biannual issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged! This issue is bursting at the seams with creative wedding ideas, wedding trends and, of course, featuring some beautiful local brides who are kind enough to share their special day with our readers! If you or someone you know is recently engaged, it’s an issue you won’t want to miss!

This issue includes: • Tips for Unique Touches • How to Propose to Your Bridesmaids • Unique Guest Book Ideas • Seating Chart Dos and Don’ts • How to Handle Stressful Situations • Keeping Reception Food Fun • Cultural Wedding Traditions • Tips on Including Children in the Wedding • Wedding Etiquette • Writing Your Own Vows

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Our newest issue also features advice from the experts. Brides will love the professional advice from local resources such as: • Getting Wedding-Ready Skin…tips from Restoration MedSpa • Customized Cakes…the sweetest advice from Gigi’s Cupcakes • Catering to a Crowd…advice from Catered Affairs Five Points • When Heart and Money Talk…wise words from Piedmont Federal Savings Bank • Dressing the Bride and Bridesmaids… guidance from Nitsa’s Apparel • Planning the Wedding…advice from Perfect Pair Events • White Knights and Prince Charming…a word from Legacy Saddlebreds • Fashionable Choices…tips from Fraleigh’s Boutique • Invitations and More…etiquette guidelines from Nu expression • The Perfect Print! …guidance from Nu expression And much more!

Callie and David Kaszycki are the gorgeous couple on the cover of the May 2018 issue, and we were thrilled to feature their wedding! Married on September 16, 2017, Callie and David’s wedding was a beautiful reflection of the local expertise and resources available in Forsyth County – everything Forsyth Woman Engaged! is designed to celebrate!

If you know someone who is getting married, be sure to pick up a copy of Forsyth Woman Engaged! for them. It will be the perfect gift to help them start the rest of their own happily ever after!

And brides-to-be! Don’t forget copies of Forsyth Woman, Forsyth Family and Forsyth Community for your out-of-town guest bags! Your out-oftown guests will appreciate this thoughtful detail in their rooms as they navigate Winston-Salem and discover for themselves how special our community really is! Email Brooke@ForsythMags. com to coordinate! And, best of all, don’t worry about a budget! Copies of Forsyth Magazines are always free!

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The Best Trails in the Triad

BY TARYN JEREZ

After a cold and wet winter season, there is never a better time to get outside and get moving! Spring is here and with it comes the reminder of what a beautiful place the Piedmont Triad really is. There are so many beautiful, well maintained trails to choose from, whether you are looking to go on a short hike with the family, take a run with your pup, or enjoy a scenic Saturday morning bike ride.

Even if you’re not new to the area it seems that the Triad continues to add new trails and outdoor adventure spots to the area each year. If you are looking for a few new spots to get outside and enjoy the sunshine, check out this collection of Triad trails to add to your list.

• WASHINGTON PARK 1490 S. Broad St., Winston-Salem Distance: 4.5 miles Perfect for: Family walks and bike rides

HIGH-POINT • UNION CROSS PARK & TRAILS 1935 Union Cross Rd, Winston-Salem, NC 27107 Distance: 11 miles Perfect for: Walking, bicycling, hiking

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• PIEDMONT ENVIRONMENTAL/ GREENWAY TRAIL *multiple trails in one* 1220 Penny Road, High Point Distance: 11 miles Perfect for: Hiking trails, walking and biking

• LONG BRANCH TRAIL *Just Opened Spring 2018* Fogle Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27101 Distance: 1.7-miles Perfect for: Running, walking, on-leash dog walks

• GIBSON PARK 5207 W Wendover Ave, Jamestown, NC 27282 Distance: <2-mile intermitted trails and loop trails Perfect for: Light hiking, nature walks, mountain biking

• MUDDY CREEK GREENWAY 285 Meadowlark Drive, Winston-Salem, NC 27106 Distance: 2.9 Miles Perfect for: Walking and biking

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• SALEM LAKE 1001 Salem Lake Rd, Winston-Salem, NC 27107 Distance: 7 miles Perfect for: Walking, running, biking

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• OWL’S ROOST TRAIL 5834 Bur-Mil Club Road, Greensboro, NC 27410 Distance: 4.4 miles Perfect for: Hiking and mountain biking

• ATLANTIC & YADKIN GREENWAY TRAIL Country Park Access 3905 Nathanael Green Dr, Greensboro, NC 27455 Bur-Mil Park Access 5834 Bur-Mill Club Rd, Greensboro, NC 27410 Distance: 7.5 miles Perfect for: Nature Walks/light hiking, long runs, biking • BOG GARDEN AT BENJAMIN PARK 1101 Hobbs Road, Greensboro, NC 27410 Distance: 2 Miles (Nell Lewis Trail & Creekside Trail) Perfect for: Nature walks and boardwalk strolls • GUILFORD COUNTY NATIONAL MILITARY PARK 2332 New Garden Road, Greensboro, NC 27410 Distance: 2.5 miles Perfect for: Biking, walking, running, strollers, on-leash dog walks Get out there and have some fun exploring some great parks and trails in the community this spring and summer. Remember to always plan ahead when you are heading out!

Wear the appropriate footwear and clothing for your walk, run or ride, and always bring enough sunscreen for protection and water with you to stay hydrated. If you are going alone, it never hurts to let someone know which trail you’re planning to enjoy and how long you think you’ll be gone. Keeping a GPS tracker on you like a Fit-Bit or Smart Watch is also a great way to see where you are and keep track of time.

Of course, stay safe and have fun out there!

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HOW TO PREVENT DRY EYES

BY KEITH BIGGS, O.D.

Last month, I wrote about Meibomian gland dysfunction (MGD), which is the most common form of dry eye, and what can be done to treat dry eye disease. What about preventing it to begin with?

Preventing the scratchy, burning and itchy sensation often associated with dry eye may be achieved by taking daily care of our lids with basic hygiene practices. We regularly wash our face, shower, brush our teeth and wash our hands, but, unfortunately, most of us do not take the same care of our eyelids. Caring for our lids on a regular basis, as children and adults, can go a long way to managing and possibly preventing MGD. In many cases, good lid hygiene is the first line of defense against MGD. Most of us grew up with parents that made sure we washed our face and brushed our teeth. What’s the reason behind this? Simply put, to remove plaque and buildup from those areas. Without cleanliness of your teeth, you will increase your likelihood of cavities and gum disease. We must think of our eyelids in the same way. In order to prevent buildup around our eyelids (termed blepharitis and Meibomian gland dysfunction), we must get into a habit of good lid hygiene.

One of the worst things you can do for your general eye health is sleeping in makeup. I know, it’s difficult to remember to take it off and even more difficult after working a long day and lying down for a few minutes.

However, leaving eyeliner and other cosmetics on can lead to Meibomian gland dysfunction and cause eyes to not function properly. Many makeup cleansers and facewashes contain certain ingredients that aren’t to be used around the lids, however, so make sure it’s safe before using.

Ocusoft lid scrubs and lid spray is one that we use at Summit Eye Care that we feel is safe.

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One of the most common habits that lead to dry eye disease is the growing trend of electronics, tablets, and computers. Studies show that while using these devices, blink rates decrease. Blinking activates the Meibomian glands in our eyelids to release and spread essential protective oils across the tear film on the eye surface. Partial and infrequent blinking are highly associated with reading and use of digital devices. Chronic use of digital devices impairs healthy gland function. Blink awareness and blink exercises can help our glands stay healthy without giving up our digital devices. To promote healthy gland function, follow these simple steps.

1. Close your eyes, then squeeze your eyes closed, then relax the squeeze but keep your eyes closed.

2. Open your eyes and repeat this sequence 5 times in a row.

3. Perform 3-4 times per day.

4. Associate this with an activity that you do routinely, such as the restroom, eating, or while waiting on the light to turn green.

This helps to prevent Meibomian gland dysfunction. Partial and incomplete blinks increase our risk for MGD and dry eye disease. One rule I tell patients is about the 20-20-20 rule. Every 20 minutes, take 20 seconds to look 20 feet away. This helps to decrease strain of our visual system, as well as awareness of healthy blinks.

It’s time to take care of our eyes as much as we do our teeth. Unlike teeth, you only get one pair of eyes!

Summit Eye Care has the latest medical equipment and treatments for dry eye disease. For more information or to schedule an appointment, please contact our office at 336-765-0960. The excellent staff of our dry eye center is waiting to assist you.

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Legacies of the First Ladies of the United States

BY VONDA HENDERSON

“There is no job description for the first lady and she’s only there because her husband got elected president.” ~Nancy Reagan “Being first lady is the hardest unpaid job in the world.” ~Pat Nixon “The First Lady is such a fascinating office to hold. You’re not elected, but it’s very much official. You can see the latitude of power of that office.” ~Bellamy Young First Ladies of the United States hold unique positions as noted in these quotes. While not in an elected role, their ability to influence and bring social causes to the forefront of the nation are unquestionable. The impact of modern-day first ladies over the years has created legacies that shaped their time in the White House.

Lou H. Hoover loved the outdoors and seems to have had quite an adventurous streak. In 1921, she drove cross-country from California to Washington, D. C. camping out along the way. She is credited with founding the National Amateur Athletic Foundation and served as the honorary president of Girl Scouts while First Lady. In her First Lady role, she encouraged women to be more active, enjoy nature and the outdoors, and advance their educations.

Eleanor Roosevelt is considered one of the most influencial First Ladies and a pioneer of her time. In her role, she built a staff to assist her, traveled, and conducted

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her own meetings and press conferences. As a well-documented humanitarian, she helped to create the United Nation Charter on Human Rights.

Jackie Kennedy used her office as First Lady to re-establish the dignity and beauty of the White House. Her televised tour of the White House was a landmark event of her tenure in the role.

Betty Ford was an advocate for a number of causes. Notable among them was her open dialogue about her alcohol addiction and subsequent launching of The Betty Ford Clinic. She was also an advocate of breast cancer awareness and supported equal opportunities for women.

Nancy Reagan’s legacy is her ‘Just Say No’ campaign. Using celebrities to speak out and publicity to champion the cause, the campaign addressed the nation’s drug problem and provided youth with ways to say no to drugs and the associated peer pressure to use drugs.

Hillary Clinton has long been associated with health care reform efforts while First Lady. In addition to that work, she also worked toward historic preservation of national treasures and was the honorary chair of Save America’s Treasures Committee.

Barbara Bush and Laura Bush during their respective times as First Lady supported education, particularly literacy and reading programs. As a former librarian, reading reform programs were important to Laura Bush.

Michelle Obama launched a campaign to overcome childhood obesity and promote healthier eating as her social platform. Her fitness program ‘Let’s Move’ was designed to encourage physical activities for kids.

Melania Trump is addressing the issue of cyberbullying and its impact on the current and future generations.

Presidential candidates spend months and years strategizing what they hope to achieve as the President of the United States. The First Lady of the United States selects what the focus of her work will be after assuming the role. The projects or causes selected, however, can have far-reaching influences, bringing attention to social issues that might, under normal circumstances, not get as much attention. Their ability to influence and effect change is remarkable and noteworthy.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

On Sunday, May 13th, many people will honor their mothers and grandmothers. Every year on Mother’s Day, we celebrate the women who have raised us and taught us about life. Mothers spend time teaching their children, cleaning up after them, staying up all night when a child is sick, and making sure we have food to eat and clean clothes to wear. Growing up, they were our chauffeurs, chefs, nurses, cheerleaders, and life planners. No child will ever understand what a mother goes through for 18 years, all the worry, joys, and tears. One of the biggest things a mother does for her child is teach them lessons about life. These lessons are different and vary from family to family. We also learn knowledge from our grandmothers. Most of this knowledge has been passed down through the generations and is timeless.

I was raised by the hardest working single mother I know. She always made sure my sister and I had what we needed, even if it meant she went without certain things. Growing up, my mother, sister, and I lived with my grandparents. To me, my grandmother is more than just a grandmother. She is an inspiration, just like my mother. There are many lessons that these two women have passed down to my sister and me, and I have picked out a few of my favorite to share below.

1. ALWAYS SAY “I LOVE YOU.”

One time I remember being on the phone in the same house as my mom. We were in two different rooms at opposite ends of the house. As we hung up, she said “I love you.” I didn’t think much about it at that time, because it was a common phrase we said as we hang up phone calls.

However, thinking back, this little phrase can mean the world to someone and make someone’s day. It is a little phrase one can say at any time to just show someone they are thinking about them.

2. ALWAYS CELEBRATE BIRTHDAYS.

My mother goes all the way for birthdays. She decorates the house with a theme, days before the actual day, allowing the birthday person more time to enjoy it. Go overboard for this person because, after all, it is just one day a year and everyone deserves their special day.

3. ALWAYS STAY STRONG AND NEVER GIVE UP.

I could write a book about all the trials and tribulations my mother and grandmother have gone through and are still standing. My 85-year-old grandmother is a two-time cancer survivor and stroke survivor. Her doctors call her the “energizer bunny.”

Their actions are perfect examples to always keep going, no matter what life throws at you, and that you are stronger than you think.

4. ORGANIZATION IS THE KEY.

My mother is always organized with everything she does. On the other hand, I am not. I’m always learning ways to keep my papers, forms, and life in order from my mother. There is no shame in color-coding, having separate notebooks, and a place for everything in the house.

5. FAMILY COMES BEFORE EVERYTHING.

My family is very close-knit and I wouldn’t have it any other way. After my grandfather passed away, my grandmother, mom, sister, and I relied on each other for strength. We have an unspoken motto that whenever someone battles anything, we battle it together. They are “my tribe.”

I am lucky to have a mom and grandmother who are also my friends. My mom is one of my best friends and I know nothing will change that, no matter how many times we disagree and see things differently. Like my grandmother, my mom is my role model and one of the strongest women I’ll ever know. Because of that, thank you Momma!

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Piedmont Federal Savings Bank

INTRODUCES SMALL BUSINESS ACCOUNT OPTIONS

BY VONDA HENDERSON A visit to the Piedmont Federal Savings Bank website (piedmontfederal. com) brings up three phrases that define Piedmont Federal’s approach to their customer relationships: Founded by Neighbors, Run by Neighbors, Helping Neighbors. Ask a Piedmont Federal customer and they’ll describe the bank they frequent as ‘their’ bank – it’s the way the staff at each branch makes their customers feel and what gives each office its neighborly atmosphere when customers walk through the doors. That neighborly feeling is now extended to local businesses with the launch of small business account options.

Following the trend of shop local/buy local, Piedmont Federal Savings Bank has launched banking options ideal for small business owners – to bank local.

Piedmont Federal conducted several focus groups (in-person and on-line) to hear from local businesses about what they wanted in banking, what they needed, and what would help their businesses to thrive. Using their headline ‘Everything You Need and None of What You Don’t,’ Piedmont Federal developed options targeting small business customers.

YOU MAY WONDER WHAT TYPES OF BUSINESSES WILL BENEFIT FROM THIS NEW SMALL BUSINESS ACCOUNT INITIATIVE.

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE OPTIONS OFFERED FOR SMALL BUSINESS ACCOUNTS?

Pick up a Business Banking brochure or meet with your local branch for additional details. Some basic information includes: • Checking and Savings Account Options with guidelines on which program may be best for a particular business o PF Business Connect provides banking essentials plus online and mobile banking services o PF Business Choice is for businesses with higher balances and activity levels o PF Community is ideally suited for non-profit organizations o PF Business Savings is a simple savings option to earn interest on excess cash o PF Business Market is a tiered account for those who desire higher interest with liquidity and flexibility

In general, businesses that will likely find these opportunities beneficial include:

• Debit cards with unlimited free ATM withdrawals

• Sole proprietorships, small firms/retailers and nonprofit organizations • Businesses who value online and electronic service options

• Remote Services such as mobile deposit and on-line banking options. For smaller businesses, going to the bank can be problematic. With remote options, owners can make deposits and conduct banking while still being at their place of business to assist customers.

• Businesses with limited cash and transaction volume

• Ease of banking with a local resource for any questions or needs.

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• Cash management services

THE PIEDMONT PERKS PROGRAM IS ANOTHER WAY PIEDMONT FEDERAL SUPPORTS LOCAL BUSINESSES.

This program was developed to partner with local companies, offering discount options for customers who purchase goods or services using their personal Piedmont Federal debit cards. In turn, Piedmont Federal provides advertising and marketing materials to promote the business and discounts – a win-win for all. For information on how to join this program, check the Piedmont Federal website or speak with your local branch staff. Currently, there are 24 businesses taking advantage of this program. Maybe it’s time for your business to join?

PIEDMONT FEDERAL ALSO OFFERS SMALL BUSINESS CREDIT CARDS.

Based on business needs, owners may select one of these options: • Small Business Visa which features no annual fee plus a competitive interest rate with savings on car rentals and travel insurance • Small Business Rewards Card with no annual fee, competitive interest rates and rewards program, redeemable for merchandise or travel • Small Business Cash Rewards Credit Card with no annual fee, competitive interest rates and 1% cash back for every net dollar spent • Company Rewards expense charge card featuring no annual fee, employee cards at no additional cost, plus the option to earn rewards redeemable for merchandise or travel with the balance paid in full each month Explore your small business account options with your local branch team at Piedmont Federal. They’re looking forward to helping you make your business thrive! Neighbors helping Neighbors! Live Local.

Bank Local. At Piedmont Federal.

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IF THESE WALLS COULD TALK

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

It’s been a year since my sweet Mama passed.

My siblings and I have spent these months packing up a lifetime of memories into cardboard boxes. All the while, we’ve unpacked some sweet memories, too, vivid remembrances shared within those walls.

A few weeks ago, the time came to sell our childhood home and give away the keys. The thing is, that house was built for us. No one ever lived in that hallowed space except my family. My dad contracted every part of its design with us in mind.

As I stepped inside that haven for the final time, my emotions burst open like a piñata. My thoughts raced up and down those halls with childhood recollections that seemed so near, yet lifetimes away.

I kept thinking to myself, “If these walls could talk….”

Hmm. If these walls could talk, they could share longings and losses reverberating inside those doors. They could describe the calm and the crazy (teetering heavily toward the crazy). They could testify, for that single mom with four kids . . . there was never a dull moment.

But if these walls could talk, I’ve got to believe their most pressing conversation would be altogether different. They would talk about the prayers they heard my Mama pray and how they watched God answer them. Those walls know better than most that mama’s prayers held everything together while holding us together, too.

Through even the most tumultuous times, Mama believed God is Faithful to do everything He promised, whether we see it in this moment or not. She clung to that Truth like it was her lifeboat through storm-tossed waters. When life’s waves sought to pull us under, this lifeboat secured our safety. It kept us together. It surely kept us through it all.

I don’t know what you think about daily conversation with God, but you can’t talk me out of believing in its power. Growing up in that house schooled me on the power of prayer, “ivy-league” style. I watched God do the impossible time and again. I eavesdropped on Mama’s prayers inside her bedroom when she didn’t know anyone heard. She poured herself out to God. Then I watched God pour Himself into her.

If these walls could talk, they would shout resoundingly this Truth my Mama built her life upon: “For He who promised is Faithful” (Hebrews 10:23). God has never once out-promised Himself. He has never offered a check He could not cash. He’s never made a promise He cannot keep.

If your walls could talk, what would they say? What do you want them to say of you when you are gone? This is a question I have been pondering for myself.

As I spent those last moments in that cherished space, I decided those walls needed to keep talking. The new owners planned to re-paint, so I began writing on those walls the many Scriptures I watched become reality there. I just kept thinking of promise after promise God kept in that place of protection.

I don’t know the folks who will live in the place I once called home, but I do know they will live in a blessed place. They may not know why the Peace of God dwells so thick up in there. They may not understand why the goodness of God keeps invading every step they walk in that house, but I do. It’s because those walls are still talking and declaring what they have witnessed from the beginning: “He who promised is Faithful!”

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TWO MEN AND A TRUCK® Kicks Off Movers for Moms® Drive to Help Mothers in Shelters Community-Supported Program Aids Moms in Crisis on Mother’s Day

Though Mother’s Day is intended to be a joyous occasion for women across the country, thousands of moms will be overlooked on this special holiday because they are forced to live in shelters as a result of domestic abuse or homelessness. Heartbreaking statistics from the Domestic Violence Resource Center state that one in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime, and an estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year. Moreover, studies have shown that approximately 25 percent of homeless women are homeless because of violence in the home.

MOVERS FOR MOMS®

To ensure moms in crisis receive the love and appreciation they deserve this Mother’s Day, TWO MEN AND A TRUCK® Winston-Salem is hosting its Movers for Moms® collection drive to provide critical gifts to local women staying in community shelters. This spring marks the 11th anniversary of Movers for Moms®. Since its introduction, the program has expanded nationally to all 39 states and more than 300

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franchises. Last year was the program’s most successful year to-date, with more than 285,000 items collected for donation to hundreds of shelters across the country. This year, TWO MEN AND A TRUCK®’s goal was to collect more than 300,000 items for moms in need across the country.

FORSYTH FAMILY SERVICES

In 2018, TWO MEN AND A TRUCK® is working with local community partners to collect essential and comfort items for local moms, and they will be donated to Forsyth Family Services.

Family Services is a non-profit organization serving Forsyth County, NC, by providing professional services and participating in partnerships that foster the development of children, advance the safety, security and success of families and individuals, and help build a sustainable community.

As the group has stated, “Over more than 113 years, Family Services has provided high quality programs and services that help families resolve crises, protect victims of family violence, and prepare preschoolers to be ready to succeed in school. We are reaching beyond the 10,000 families we serve each year to pursue to major goals that are essential for the well-being of our entire community: 1. Making quality early childhood development programs available to

every child in Forsyth County, and 2. Ensuring that all children and families are free from the threat of family violence. To do this we are building an unprecedented network of local organizations and action-minded leaders who share our commitment to community-wide change. These partnerships are generating innovative ways to help every child and family in Forsyth County reach their full potential.”

JOIN US IN SUPPORTING LOCAL MOMS!

TWO MEN AND A TRUCK® welcomes local businesses, schools, and organizations to join in the effort of bringing relief and comfort to moms in need. Anyone interested in this cause can bring donations to TWO MEN AND A TRUCK® of Winston-Salem, located at 130 Stratford Court, Suite A. All donations are welcome, but below is a list of the items needed most by the shelter: • Household linens • Cleaning Supplies • Paper products • Diapers and pull-ups • Household items for families leaving the shelter For additional information, check out twomenandatruck.com/ moversformoms, facebook.com/MoversforMoms or @MoversforMoms.

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Treasures Décor

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BY VONDA HENDERSON

Treasures Décor Too (the new store) is filled with new merchandise and market/showroom samples. You can also place custom orders from Craftmaster, as well as from other manufacturers, at Treasures Décor Too. Their market/showroom samples come from High Point, Atlanta, and other markets from around the country. Customers can furnish their entire home at Treasures Décor Too. Styles in the showroom range from mid-century modern to French country to traditional. With the current trend to mix and match styles, there’s something for every taste.

Tony Hinkle, the new store owner, has an experienced team of designers and assistants to help clients find just what they need. Treasures Décor Too is managed by Rusty Lee who has years of retail and furniture experience. Tony has built a team of professionals who are eager to work with current and new clients, helping them with their selections and making recommendations from a design perspective as requested. Tony shared that there are a number of designers who regularly shop the stores for their clients. “We were thrilled to have furniture and accessories from Treasures Décor Too featured in the 2017 and 2018 spring Parade of Homes,” Tony stated.

“Our furnishings have also been used by real estate stagers to showcase homes during open house tours.”

As shoppers familiar with Treasures Décor know, when you see something you like, buy it; it’s likely to be gone the next time you visit. The landscape changes on a daily basis. “With warm weather coming, now is the perfect time to consider consigning outdoor furnishings,” explained Mindy Bradley. “Sending us a photo for an advance review is also a good idea.”

With the addition of the new storefront, the overall shopping space has grown to 20,000 square feet. That’s great news for new customers and their 5,000 plus consignees. As Mindy, sales/ design consultant, shared, “We are blessed with great consigners and customers from Clemmons, Lewisville, Winston-Salem, Jonesville, Elkin, Mt. Airy, and the surrounding areas. We always welcome new consignees.”

Pick-up and delivery options are also available via a third party contractor who has worked with Treasures Décor for a number of years. The staff will be happy to provide that contact information as needed.

“We are excited to offer our customers financing opportunities with their purchase of $500 or more. Check our website or ask about financing when you shop with us,” Tony shared.

“We continually explore ways to improve our customers’ shopping experience with us.”

Stop by and shop at Treasures Décor and Treasures Décor Too located at 110 Westwood Village Drive (just off Lewisville-Clemmons Road). Their hours are Monday through Saturday from 9:30 am to 6:00 pm, Sundays from noon to 5:00 pm. Contact them via phone at 336.306.9341, by e-mail (treasuresdecor@yahoo.com), or their website (treasuresdecorconsignments.com). Their website will be redesigned and refreshed soon to improve ease of use and enhanced navigation options. Also follow them on Facebook to check out their latest treasures. You’re likely to find just the right touch to finish the look of your home. Happy shopping!

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Did you know that Treasures Décor has two locations, two doors apart to make your shopping experience even more treasure filled? Yes, indeed.

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Women of Winston-Salem Advocate

BY SHAMIKA STARKE

The definition of advocacy is: public support for or recommendation of a particular cause or policy.

Women of Winston-Salem, what does advocacy mean to you?

Advocacy, to me, is action inspired by a personal conviction to ignite positive change in others, especially related to issues that have a personal impact.

Advocacy, to me, is having the courage to use my voice - uniquely fashioned and all-inclusive - in support of women and girl empowerment. To be an example, while remaining true to who I am. To be an agent of social change - this is advocacy to me.

and so much more - my voice encompasses a perspective that, although unique to me, has the power to promote positive change in others and ultimately our community as a whole.

By educating the public and forming key relationships, my voice now represents a bridge between policy makers and the women and girls in our community awaiting social change.

By embracing the power of diversity, and forming connections with other passionate women who are inspired by shared values together, we can create a lasting impact on the lives of other women and girls in our community.

As a community, many of us witness and respond to the impact that public policy has on the people we serve and interact with on a daily basis. Advocacy encompasses such a wide range of activities - from network and relationship building, to hosting a public meeting to raise awareness on a particular issue - all of which have the power to influence key decision makers.

For more than twelve years, the Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem has maintained its commitment to engage our community to build economic security for women and girls in Forsyth County. A community of passionate women creating social change, the Fund has worked to carry out its mission by cultivating a culture of philanthropy while embracing a model of inclusiveness, so that all women and girls in our community may realize their power to make a difference.

Having overcome some of the same issues which affect other women and girls in our community, I am humbled by my successes, and I also celebrate those who have advocated on my behalf. As a woman, a person of color, a Christian, a Belizean-American, a victor over the violence of robbery and sexual assault, a mother, the wife of a policeman, a WFU Demon Deacon, a mildly goofy personality,

Women today are disproportionately affected by many issues such as poverty, lack of health care, pay inequity and violence. This is why as women, we must take the lead in advocating for others in our community. By supporting programs that create opportunities to improve the economic, educational, physical health and emotional well-being of women and girls, the Women’s Fund believes that we can improve the overall quality of life in our community.

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As part of its commitment to engage and promote shared community support amongst other women, the Women’s Fund will release The Advocacy Playbook this spring, which will be available for download in early May. This resource will explore a range of advocacy activities and highlight different tactics that individuals and groups can use to promote social change in their communities.

You can learn more about this amazing resource, practice a variety of advocacy tactics, and build a personal advocacy action plan at the Women’s Fund’s next Social Change Exchange event being planned for early June 2018.

In the meantime, we’d love to meet you at Forsyth Woman and 6th and Vine’s Girls’ Night Out on Tuesday May 8th from 5pm unti… (see ad on page 49) Meet Women’s Fund members and celebrate National Teacher’s Day by making a contribution of school supplies to The Educators Warehouse, who will have a collection box at 6th & Vine that evening. Receive an extra GNO prize board raffle tickte for every donation or $1 donated to recognize the amazing teachers here in Forsyth County.

To learn more about the Women’s Fund, upcoming events and resources, and how you can connect with a community of passionate women creating social change, visit our facebook page or our website: womensfundws.org

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TRAINED FOR SERVICE, WILLING TO HELP

BY LISA S.T. DOSS AND NATOSHIA MILES

Officer Vestal joins student at his resident for a birthday party.

On April 11, 2017, a Winston-Salem Police officer responded to a call regarding damage to personal property. Active in the Department since 1993, Assistant Chief Natoshia Miles shares, “When we meet people in the community, it usually is because of a crisis. People are at their lowest when they reach out to us. Not all calls are routine or of a police nature and you never know how an officer’s response is going to impact someone or, better yet, how the officer will be impacted. For our officers, they’re empowered when they do something nice, even without acknowledgement.” The officer, on this particular call, learned the trampoline had been damaged shortly after it was purchased as a birthday gift for a child, and set up.

Knowing the trampoline would be difficult for the family to replace, the officer reached out to the business and provided his credit card, purchasing a new canopy for the trampoline. Once the business learned of the officer’s generosity, they, too, paid kindness forward by waiving the shipping charges. Celebration day arrived when the officer delivered and installed the new canopy, turning a distressing circumstance into a happy ending.

COMMUNITY PRIORITY PATROL

Officer Morgan poses with Special Olympic Athletes after receiving the 2017 President’s Award for her service and support of Special Olympic NC.

As new situations are making bold headlines in the media, the Winston-Salem Police Department is staying in front of information by incorporating strategic approaches to building relationships in the community. As patrol cars are parked and vacated, one approach called “Community Priority Patrol” (CPP) is picking up momentum.

In lieu of observing the community from a distance, officers are knocking on doors and engaging citizens in conversations. “We are interested in knowing what their needs are and how we might be able to help, nothing else,” shares Miles, “Members of the WSPD refer to this and other efforts to bridge the gap between the community and the police as the “soft side” of policing. Sometimes people just need someone to talk to and we are not above just listening.” Through adverse times, Miles admits that these connections have been instrumental in bridging gaps between the police and the community.

We measure our success by the constant outpouring of support that we see from the Winston-Salem community. We didn’t get to where we are overnight and we are always thinking “outside the box” for ways to improve community-police relations. Thus, making even the smallest of changes to our routine, has proven to be beneficial.”

TRANSPARENCY

Seeking to know what is happening in your community, a couple of features offered by the Winston-Salem Police Department are “Police-to-Citizen” (P2C) and Crime Mapping (crimemapping.com) information portals. The WSPD offers transparency on calls for service through the Winston-Salem community. Updated daily, crime statistics and other information is readily available, as well as the option to receive “alerts” or “notifications,” instantly. This is one benefit in lieu of calling the police department. While the media may not always share positive stories about police, the WSPD recently started featuring its own stories such as “Tea Time Party for Women” and “Trust Talks” through social media, including Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Next Door.

WELCOMING THE NEXT GENERATION

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At times, a grand decision arrives on a piece of paper in the form of a flyer. The Bonner-Redd-Surratt-Davis Scholarship Program was named after former police chiefs and staff who promoted or represented diversity within the WSPD. With a promise to maintain a GPA of 3.0, the scholarship offers recipients not only tuition, book costs, and fees to minority students, but an agreement to become an employee with the Winston-Salem Police Department upon graduation. WSPD maintains its commitment to diversity and strives daily to be reflective of the community it serves.

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Window Treatments are Back In When we start a project with our clients, we don’t know where it is going to take us, or them. A more recent client brought us into their home to view their family space. They were ready for new curtains, a new rug, and some really updated furnishings. Furnishings can also include new end tables and new lamps, along with art to complete a room. At this point, we measure the room and windows for curtains and take photos so that we can lay it all out and work from our notes. We first create a scaled room drawing so we can select the correct size for the furnishings. Once we do that, the fun begins with mounds of fabrics and creative ideas of how to use the fabrics. There is the cleanable, sustainable fabric for the sofa and then there are the pillows.

The pillows have become as important as any element in the room. Those little guys can bring out additional colors and can be changed seasonally. In planning, we select the sofa from the manufacturer that will accommodate the size we need; the vara tilt recliner, ottoman or coffee table, end tables, and lamps. We lay all of them out and then think about what fabulous window treatments we can conceptualize. Prints are back in, as well, for window treatments. We love the excitement created around prints, yet sometimes the room calls out for a more transitional solid linen with a bold trim. We love all of it because we are here to tell you that it absolutely completes a room, cuts down on noise, and warms and cozies any room. We love the uncomplicated simple panels, whether it’s prints or solids with trim. We simply love fabrics! It is the candy that feeds a designer’s soul.

If you will look at this home on the left page, the same dining room treatments are still in place fifteen years later (hint hint, June’s dining room). Blue and White Schumacher fabric, that is timeless, was used. The blue and white is so transitional that even our modern homes love the bold multiple colors of blue or the softer hues of blue. You can’t go wrong for a timeless look.

Sometimes the reasons are different why clients call us for window treatments. They may have sun issues or privacy issues. We analyze their needs and sometimes we recommend a product we sell from Hunter Douglas that is remote controlled. If you need to pull something up and down every night and morning, we, in general find that to be way to much interference with the day. So remote is the answer in many cases, especially if you prefer to see the outside without interference. Although, we love shutters, two-inch blinds are more economical.

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Winston-Salem. “The city of Winston-Salem is just the right size to support the bike race; too big or too small can be problematic for the race operations,” declared Race Director Ray Boden. “The city and local sponsors have been amazingly supportive of this event and that really helps us along on our path of becoming the biggest and best cycling event in the country. It also allows us to operate a family-friendly music event for many people to come enjoy.”

Four Days of Music & World-Class Bike Racing

BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT Known as “the biggest party on two wheels,” this weekend event is not to be missed! Scheduled for May 25th–28th, the collaboration of events offers something for everyone to enjoy. During the four days, those in attendance will enjoy family-friendly entertainment; concerts from bands such as Blues Traveler, Jason Isbell and the 400 Unit, and the Muddy Creek Players; a community day, as well as one of the country’s most prestigious bicycling events.

All of the weekend’s bicycling events are free and open to the public, though there is a registration fee associated with the competitive events. General admission tickets for the concerts are available through Ticketmaster or at the Winston-Salem Fairgrounds and Annex ticket office. The concerts will be held at Bailey Park in downtown Winston-Salem.

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The Winston-Salem Cycling Classic draws more than 400 cyclists from international cycling teams to compete professionally. “The quality of the cycling is unparalleled outside of the big tour races,” asserted Boden. “Teams from all around the world come to Winston-Salem to see how great a race we have. For the road race, a team must be a national federation team from a foreign country, or at least a UCI-registered pro team. For the Criterium event held on Saturday night, teams must be registered as pros with USA Cycling or above. Saturday’s event with UCI and USA Cycling pro teams makes for some exciting racing.”

While the Winston-Salem Cycling Classic is in its sixth year, the Gears & Guitars Music Festival is only in its third year.

But the partnership between these two events is a perfect match! “The Gears & Guitars Music Festival is engineered to be a great value and a fun event,” explained Boden.

“We think both the festival and the Winston-Salem Cycling Classic are must-see events. As always, we hope for a safe, fun-filled event with great crowds. We want as many people as possible to attend, of course, the paid events— but also the free ones. The more people who come out and support us the better, because we hope in the next few years to add more cycling categories, and also to scale the music event to higher levels and attendance.”

Saturday, May 26th, will feature the Empty Bowls 5K Criterium Run/Walk to benefit the Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest North Carolina. There will also be a family “Walk & Roll” held on Monday, May 28th, during the same time as the road races. This will allow those in attendance to bike, walk or skate down a section of Fifth Street with no traffic! This event will coincide with live music, activities and exhibitors, food trucks, tents and a Bike Rodeo. For more information, visit www. winstonsalemcycling.com or www.gearsandguitarsfest.com.

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Midtown Cafe & Dessertery has enjoyed over three decades of local success. Their attentive service, great menu, central location, and overall commitment to excellence have contributed to their longevity in WinstonSalem. For my family, Midtown is a regular. We all love their menu, and any time I can have breakfast for dinner, that’s a win in my opinion. I was delighted to be invited to sample their upcoming summer menu, which in the words of owner Jeff Cayton, has been designed with a picnic in mind. The culinary team nailed it.

For starters, we enjoyed warm, chewy PRETZEL STICKS that were paired with a creamy butter that was mixed with stoneground mustard and honey. There was a sweet tang in the creaminess that added the perfect touch to the pretzel bread! And you know how pretzel bread can turn hard pretty quickly? This bread stayed soft and delicious, even after it cooled. It was very hard to slow down and remember – more food was coming!

Our first entrée for the evening was PULLED PORK with SLAW and VEGETARIAN BAKED BEANS. Southern comfort food on a plate, friends. The slow roasted pulled pork is cooked with apple barbeque sauce that adds the perfect hint of traditional southern sweetness to tender pork. And the slaw (a staple on any plate piled high with barbeque!) was creamy goodness and everything traditional slaw is supposed to be! And, y’all – I don’t know what it is about baked beans, but I always prefer vegetarian baked beans.

So I’m delighted that they are on the menu, and of course, the non-meat-eaters will be, too! These are churchpotluck-quality baked beans you’ll dream about!

The next entrée served was based on a dish that’s already a favorite of mine – the GRILLED PINEHURST CHICKEN SALAD. If you’ve never had Midtown Cafe & Dessertery’s famous Pinehurst Chicken Salad (YUM!), do yourself a favor and go to Midtown for lunch tomorrow. But this time – instead of slicing the chicken, they’ve seasoned and cooked their chicken in their traditional way, but topped it with grilled onions, mushrooms, and provolone cheese to make the LOADED PINEHURST CHICKEN. Divine. Absolute mouthwatering deliciousness. This meal is served with MAC AND CHEESE and CINNAMON APPLES. You know that big ‘ole casserole dish of Mac and Cheese that Grandma always made? She must have shared her recipe with Midtown because their version is every bit as cheesy, creamy, and comforting as hers. Let’s just leave the carb counting at the door. Enjoy and savor every single bite.

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Next to the table was the ultimate picnic staple: BUTTERMILK FRIED CHICKEN. But, wait for it… the geniuses at Midtown Cafe have created a fried chicken recipe from a boneless AND skinless chicken breast. I honestly didn’t think you could fry chicken without the skin. It was wonderful! Not greasy or heavy, but the chicken is tender and juicy with that crispy outer shell of fried goodness. Major kudos to my friends at Midtown for this one!

Plus, they paired it with fresh CORN ON THE COB and BAKED POTATO SALAD! Let’s talk Baked Potato Salad for a minute – another southern classic that the thoughtful team at Midtown has vegetarianized!

Large chunks of baked potatoes are creamy, mixed with cheese, scallions, and full of flavor. For the vegetarians out there, you’ll love this option as a side choice, and it’s even offered as a side during the lunch hour!

For the rest of our meal, we took a little detour from the traditional picnic theme for two seafood entrees you won’t want to miss. First up, GRILLED CITRUS TERIYAKI SALMON. As we set up the plate to be photographed, I felt bad for the lady dining next to us because she really wanted to try this dish. But since they were still testing out the summer menu (I’m always happy to be the guinea pig!), it wasn’t available for her on this particular evening. I didn’t catch my new friend’s name, but I hope she returns soon to try it for herself because it was Ah. Maz. Ing. What I really loved about this dish is that, yet again, the kitchen staff has paid attention to specific dietary needs. This generous portion of salmon sits on a bed of FRIED CAULIFLOWER RICE and a side of STEAMED BROCCOLI. For the carb-conscious, you are going to LOVE this meal. Bursting with flavor, I can honestly say – the carbs won’t be missed. If you indulge yourself too much on the Midtown Mac and Cheese one night, you can go back the next for this one and erase all your guilt.

Finally, our last entrée for the evening was SHRIMP TACOS. Yum. Two soft tacos filled with grilled jumbo shrimp, corn salsa, avocado crema, and shredded cabbage and cilantro! The shrimp is fresh and firm, and if you’re looking for a delicious seafood taco, right here it is. This is what you’re looking for. The Shrimp Tacos are served with a side of Midtown’s hand-cut French Fries!

Of course, menu favorites such as Midtown Meatloaf and Hearty Meat Lasagna are always available!

And how can you visit Midtown Cafe & Dessertery without sampling dessert? You can’t. So I tried my absolute favorite – Midtown’s own twist on the STRAWBERRY SHORTCAKE. Midtown’s signature, five-flavor pound cake is topped with sugar-soaked strawberries and a generous pile (“dollop” doesn’t cut it) of whipped cream. It’s big enough to share, but no one will blame you if you refuse. Midtown will happily make one for everyone at the table. There is a time and a place for sharing, but this isn’t one of them.

I am so excited about Midtown’s summer menu, and I can’t wait for you to try it, too! Whether you’re dining with the family or dining with your friends, make sure you tell them Rosey sent you!

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Buglas, Bewae!

BY ELISA D. WALLACE

The numbers themselves should propel all homeowners into action. According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation, “Home breakin (burglary) is the most common threat to our home.” The bureau also reports that in the United States, “A home burglary occurs every 13 seconds. Even more startling is that 1 out of 3 residential assaults is a result of a home break in.”

While most property owners greatly fear the nighttime burglar, home break-ins most often occur during daylight hours. These thieves usually stalk the home and familiarize themselves with the family’s daily schedule. Then they can decide when would be a good time to enter. This is often when the homeowner is making a routine errand, like running to the grocery every Monday morning, or taking a child to day care, etc.

While all of this information is troubling, a few recent statistics should allow every homeowner to breathe a small sigh of relief. Also according to the FBI, “From 2007 to 2016, the burglary rate in the US declined by 30.8%.” Whether this decline is due to an increase in technology or improved law enforcement tactics is unclear; regardless, as the years have progressed, the techniques available to deter burglary have certainly improved. If you are a homeowner, you can greatly decrease the likelihood of a home breakin by buying a home security system. However, there are a number of other less expensive and quite effective methods to deter thieves from visiting your home.

TIP #1: NEVER MENTION OVERNIGHT PLANS ONLINE.

Yes, at the time it may be tempting to post a cute selfie of and you and your loved one in the airport as you’re about to leave for a ten day trip to the Bahamas, but it’s wise not to. Simply put, mentioning travel plans in a public forum, such as Facebook, is extremely dangerous. Now not only all of your friends know that your house is available, their (quite possibly) unsavory friends and/or relatives could easily find out, too.

TIP #2: MAN AND HOME’S BEST FRIEND.

Highly consider getting your own furry personal security system that will deter robbers and love you unconditionally. When given a chance to burglarize a home at random, most burglars are less likely to target a home that has a dog. Large dogs can be extremely intimidating because of their bulk and frightening bark, but even a small dog can be effective in warding off intruders.

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TIP #3: LIGHT IT UP!

Installing bright, effective outdoor lighting is an easy method to maintain a safe property.

Remember, it is great to have a wonderfully well-lit front porch, but that is pointless if the back yard is shrouded in darkness. Installing motion detection lights in specific corners of your property can easily help solve this problem.

TIP #4: JOIN OR FORM A NEIGHBORHOOD WATCH GROUP.

Most neighborhoods already have one functioning, however if residing in a newer neighborhood, you may need to begin this on your own. A successful neighborhood watch is one that involves an entire community of vigilant neighbors who work together to safeguard each other’s’ property. If one spots a suspicious character surveying or walking around on the premises, a simple phone call to the owner can help end a future break-in.

TIP #5: WATCH FOR LANDSCAPING.

While it may seem like a great idea for privacy to install several large shrubs near windows and doors, this could actually backfire as an easy location for a robber to hide. Scale back on the shrubs and large trees. Your home and your valuables will thank you in the end.

TIP #6: ONE MAN’S TRASH IS ANOTHER MAN’S TREASURE.

Yes, the old adage is very true when it comes to home break-ins. Not only can identity theft easily occur if you throw away bank statements or emails, but trash can also let a burglar know if you just bought that brand new flat screen. Always shred any financial or personal documents before throwing them away. Also, make sure to hold onto large appliance/ electronics boxes, until the day of trash or recycling pick-up.

TIP #7: DO NOT ALLOW A BUILD-UP OF MAIL TO HAPPEN.

If going out of town for a longer trip, it is clever to have a trusted neighbor or friend come by and pick up your mail. An easy way for a thief to know you are gone is to spot that your mail or newspapers have piled up.

TIP #8: CONSIDER GETTING A HOME SECURITY SYSTEM.

Today these systems are not only quite advanced—some even use your phone to show you real-time images of your front stoop— they are often reasonably priced. Having one of these system can not only help safeguard your home from theft, but also greatly add to your peace of mind. Just make sure to do your homework and find the best system that works for you and your bank account.

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Relationships are at the

BY CAROLYN PETERSON, PHOTOGRAPHY BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY

Your house is likely your largest investment and chances are good that between sleeping and waking hours, you spend more time there than anywhere else. Making your house a home begins with adding colors, fabrics, textiles and accessories that tell the story of ‘you.’ But knowing how to pull a room or an entire house together can be overwhelming.

For the past 32 years, Kim Taylor, interior designer and owner of Kim Taylor and Company, a home accessory and gift store, has been working with clients to give their living spaces a personal touch.

A PERSONAL PROCESS

If you haven’t used a designer before, it’s a very personal process. You spend a lot of time with your designer and will share information of your tastes, likes and dislikes that will make your result one that you and your designer can both be proud of. “From my very first client, what I do has always been about the relationship I establish with my client. When I meet with a client for the first time, I get a feel for not only what they do like, but sometimes, more importantly what they don’t like. I like to know as soon as possible if something I suggest is liked or not; I have thick skin and my feelings aren’t hurt if my client says, ‘I don’t like that fabric or style.’ My job is to make your house a reflection of you, not of me. When asked ‘If this were your house, what would you do?’ I’ll tell them, but in the end, giving your house the look and feel that you want is what I am here to do,” said Kim.

DESIGN-BY-THE-NUMBERS VERSUS MODERN MIX OF STYLES

One thing that sets Kim Taylor apart from designers you may see on social media sites, is that she doesn’t believe in ‘design-by-thenumbers,’ but prefers a more modern mix.

“I think a room is more interesting and has a timeless look with varying shades, furniture and accessories that don’t match. For instance,

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Heart of Interior Design mid-century style is very popular now, but you don’t want an entire room or house done in that. But you can work items from that style into a room. A room should look like an original piece of art and not a ‘paint by the numbers’; by mixing in traditional, contemporary and other styles, as well as a client’s personal touches, you get a room or house that makes the statement the client wants,” commented Kim.

A CLIENT’S POINT OF VIEW

One of Kim’s long time clients is Lori White of Clemmons, NC. She originally worked with Kim when she and her husband built their home in 2001 and has done several renovations with Kim over the years.

“I first met Kim when I was shopping in her store many years ago. When we built our home, Kim and I already had a friendship and I knew we would work well together. We are currently working on a renovation at our home, and once again, Kim has been a great designer and friend in the process. She really focuses on getting to know you and what your ideas are for your home and more than anything, she is about our relationship as client and designer and as friends. I get a lot of ideas from Instagram and I bring those ideas or maybe a vision I have for a room to Kim, and she pulls it together. I am a collector of blue and white porcelain and also like more contemporary black and white art, and she is able to mix those antique porcelain items with my art, working in traditional furniture.

One thing that I really like about Kim is that unlike many designers online, Kim doesn’t have a repetitive look. She is about bringing a fresh look to her designs. She also focuses on what I like, not what she likes. From the first time we worked together, she has always stressed that she wants my house to reflect my husband and mine’s tastes, not hers. I also appreciate that she can work with our budget; she can choose fabrics and accessories that are affordable and financially-friendly,” said Lori.

QUESTIONS? HERE’S A SUGGESTION…

In case you don’t know Kim on a personal basis like Lori and her husband, Kim has a suggestion for you.

“I have met many clients over the years through my store, like I met Lori. I suggest that if you want to see what I am about and get to know me, come by the store and we can chat. I not only have home accessories and gifts in my store, but I also have my design business there, too, and have fabrics and ideas that you can look at to get a feel for what I am about as a designer. At the end of any project, the client should feel that they had help creating a space that reflects them and their style—one that tells a personal story and that they can kick back and enjoy a space that exceeds their expectations,” Kim stated.

Kim Taylor and Company is located at 153 S. Stratford Road, Winston-Salem, NC. Hours of operation: Monday - Friday 10 am - 5:30 pm; Saturday 10 am- 3 pm. Closed Sunday. For more information, call 336-722-8503 or visit kimtaylorandco.com.

You can follow Kim Taylor & Company on Instagram @kimtaylorco and Kim Taylor, herself, @kimtaylor42.

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Isabella loves to recite her ABCs.

Ethan believes he can become anything.

Ellie is smart and loving.

It Almost Didn’t Happen Thankfully, these children benefited from enrollment in Family Services’ Head Start and Early Head Start child development programs—and from services that helped their parents set goals and work toward self-sufficiency.

With a solid developmental foundation and a more secure family life, Isabella, Ethan, and Ellie and other disadvantaged Forsyth County children are now ready to succeed in school – and in life.

AND THAT’S NOT ALL,

• Four-year-olds from our child development programs are entering kindergarten every fall, prepared to learn and eager to succeed.

• Our three-year-olds are developing the social and emotional skills that will help them overcome the effects of traumatic experiences, so they can begin to thrive.

• Hardworking single moms, living in poverty, are benefitting from resources to help their young children and gaining the confidence to become the parents they long to be.

These achievements are the direct result of our community coming together as never before and working with Family Services to close the “opportunity gap” in Forsyth County.

IT’S WORKING.

But there is still work to be done. There are 24,000 children under age 5 in Forsyth County. One-third of them remain threatened by the constant stress and pressures of living in poverty. In fact, because of limited funding and capacity only 1,200 out of 2,600 four-year-olds who are eligible for publicly funded quality Pre-K programs are enrolled.

Science has proven that if left unaddressed in young children, these conditions will lead to emotional, social, behavioral, health and learning problems which can follow them into adulthood.

TOO MANY LOCAL CHILDREN ARE ON WAITING LISTS FOR OUR SERVICES.

Our community must work together to elevate more vulnerable children and their families to reach their full potential.

Why? Because studies show that the first five years of life are a time of rapid brain development—a critical, once-only window of opportunity for developing reasoning, self-control and other skills that are essential for success in life.

ONCE THAT WINDOW HAS CLOSED, HOPES AND DREAMS ARE INFINITELY HARDER TO REALIZE.

And that’s why Family Services continues to build an unprecedented network of local organizations and action-minded leaders who share our commitment to community-wide change. These partnerships are generating innovative ways to help every child and family in Forsyth County reach their full potential.

Community change is dependent upon community engagement. We need the help of more life-changing champions to expand the results we are seeing, by • Supporting programs that raise the social and emotional well-being of young children and their families.

• Creating a pathway to school readiness for every child in Forsyth County.

• Ensuring that children and families are free from the threat of family violence.

When our community comes together, great things happen.

The evidence is easy to see in the faces of our children. There has never been a better time to expand the solutions that are working.

We invite you to join the community of solutions today.

For more information about Family Services, or how you can donate or volunteer, please visit www.familyservicesforsyth.org, or call 336.722.8173.

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BY TARYN JEREZ

The Positive Side to Losing Followers on Social Media This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Raise your hand if you have ever lost a follower on social media.

If you could look around at everyone who’s read this, you’d see a whole lot of hands!

So, what’s the deal?

Someone saw your profile and thought you were awesome and worth following, but then suddenly decided that you suck and hit unfollow. Surely, this must be it. Was it that photo you posted yesterday that did it? Maybe it was the caption that threw them off? What made them decide that they don’t want to see you, or your brand, show up in their feed anymore?

You know what? You don’t know the real reason.

None of us do and probably never will. Nine out of ten times, they didn’t put any real thought into it at all. And I promise you, 100% of the time, it’s never because you suck.

Every unfollow should not determine your likability or make you second guess your business. Seeing a drop in follows should be anything but an identity crisis! (Even though we’ve all been there!) Instead, there are plenty of reasons why those unfollowers and unsubscribers are doing a huge service for your business.

Believe it or not, there are actually a few reasons why you should be thanking some of those unfollowers.

SOCIAL MEDIA IS NOT A POPULARITY CONTEST, EVEN IF IT FEELS LIKE IT IS SOMETIMES.

When you post to your social media business page, what exactly are you waiting for? Likes, comments, shares? Signals that what you are posting is worthy of praise or at least of interest to the people who follow you? Remember, while the amount of likes you get on a photo might be a nice ego booster, it really means nothing if none of those people are buying your products and services.

Social media provides us with a direct way to get in front of a much larger audience than we could ever see in-person on a given day. For a business owner there is so much more to get out of Instagram than just the popularity factor. Just like your mama told you growing up, it’s not about how many friends you have, it’s the quality of the friends that matter.

Surround yourself with people who want what you are offering and let the rest go.

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QUALITY OVER QUANTITY ALL THE TIME.

There’s a reason social media marketing is such a big part of promoting a business these days. Consumers have so much fighting for their attention that platforms like Twitter and Facebook allow businesses to make connections with consumers by meeting them right where they are: on their phone screen!

What’s important to remember is that having an account filled with followers who are just there because they clicked “follow” or “like” isn’t what social media is all about. And really, this does nothing for you in return but add to your numbers. I will tell you right now that having followers that regularly interact with me and have conversations through comments and messaging is so much more valuable than those who aren’t interested in creating community and just sit in the background.

The more refined of an audience you have, the more you know what you are saying is reaching the people who matter. You want to be sharing your product, services or events with people who are going to be receptive to those things. The ones who are a part of your audience because of those things.

INVEST IN THOSE WORTH INVESTING IN.

Focus on engaging with your already awesome followers as much as you do on growing your audience. This is so important, and yet so many people forget to put their efforts here. Social media is all about connecting and getting conversations to thrive with your audience. Three hundred engaged and devoted followers are better than 25,000 who are just there because of a giveaway you ran or one photo they liked.

When we think of unfollowers as quieting the noise to get through to the people who need our product and mission, it’s amazing how that changes the game.

WHO DOESN’T LIKE TO BE LIKED?

We all want to be liked – it’s a natural part of being human I think, especially when we put ourselves and our work out there into the world. You just have to remember the reason you’re doing what you’re doing in the first place and focus on growing community and engagement with the kind of people you want to work with and buy from you. So next time you notice your following go down, remember that it’s helping to get you in front of the audience that matters most – the one that scrolls their feed hoping to see your post each day.

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Assessing Your Pantry: Do You Have What You Need?

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

It is no surprise that today’s home owners have placed a spacious pantry on their top five “wants” list. While it is the “go-to” location to obtain canned or processed goods, the pantry has evolved into holding more than just our favorite items. More and more households are considering the value of storing essential bulk or emergency items. What do you have in your pantry? How long would the variety of ingredients minimize your need to go to the grocery store? Now that spring cleaning is around the corner, it’s time to clean out your pantries, and see what you have, what you need, and what the potential is for other storage items.

CONTAINERS

Store bought goods do not always come in quality packaging. The solution is transferring dry foods or powders into an insect-proof container without crushing the contents. One of the simplest and reliable options is to vacuum seal items such as pasta, and dried soups, coffee and packages of tea bags into Mason jars using a food saver. The items are clearly visible, properly sealed, and labeling and reusing jars and lids couldn’t be simpler. For larger items, such as flour and sugar, consider using a three or five gallon bucket with a Gamma Seal lid. Large containers with rubber lids do create a seal, but this process works only when ingredients are intended for continuous use.

ALL-PURPOSE FLOUR & SUGAR

It’s not cost effective to buy a two pound bag of flour or sugar. At most warehouse stores, a large bag cost just a few dollars more. Just think how often you are breading meats or vegetables, making pancakes, or baking homemade bread or cookies. The need for all-purpose flour is an essential pantry item! And, of course, sugar is just as important!

Canned Foods: We throw thousands of dollars away annually simply because we misunderstand the date stamped on canned foods. Most often, the “best by” dates refer to the optimal freshness of the product, while “sell-by” is a reference to sell or remove the item from the grocery store shelves. It does not imply the item is bad! In your pantry, canned tuna, chicken, fruit, and vegetables are simply staple items! (Don’t forget to place upcoming dates to the front of your pantry.)

OILS & VINEGARS

For cooking, baking, and flavoring purposes, we rely upon flavorful nut and seed oils, and balsamic and red wine vinegar. Once purchased, you have one year to use; otherwise, an opened bottle requires six months in a cool and dark location.

PASTA

Delicate in nature, from angel hair to ribbon pasta, one of the easiest ways to eliminate the bags and various sized boxes is to contain individual types of pasta in jars. With this concept, you’ll never have to worry about broken pieces and an adequate supply will always be on hand. And stock extra jars of store bought tomato sauce or your own homemade recipe.

RICE

What is our favorite rice? Do you find your family prefers to eat brown and jasmine rice? Why not save money and buy it in bulk? Package a few quarts in Mason jars, and place the rest in a food grade bucket.

SPICES

The spice bottles you purchase at the grocery store are usually ground, lasting a mere six to nine months for maximum flavor. Instead, consider buying “whole” spices, and vacuum sealing them in similar sized Mason jars for long term preservation. And not just your favorite spices require special attention; start preserving all of your spices! Don’t forget to have a supply of salt, and black and red pepper, too!

POTATOES

We often buy a five pound bag of potatoes, and place the bag in a dark location, our pantry. While the mesh bag is a temporary container, start keeping your potatoes in a paper bag. Make sure the room is cool and dry. Do not store potatoes near your onions. The gases from onions will cause your potatoes to sprout, early.

EMERGENCY ESSENTIALS

The lights go out at the worst moments, and having readymade meals on hand can ease the most stressful situation. Recipes are available to purchase or make yourself. The Mason jar makes the perfect storage container!

Every cook needs a well-stocked kitchen. With a few essential ingredients well contained and close by, you will always be able to prepare a great meal.

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The Secrets Your Florist Wished You Knew: The Insider Scoop from

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Fifty-seven years. Can you imagine? That’s how old George K. Walker Florist is. Since 1961, they have been the floral experts Winston-Salem residents and the Triad have relied on for flowers.

They know the ins and outs of the floral industry, including all the insider-secrets they wish their customers knew! George K. Walker Florists’ owner, Kevin McCarthy, gives Forsyth Woman the inside scoop.

Our clients could enjoy their flowers longer. Many people trim their flowers with scissors,” said Kevin. “However, that squeezes the stem and prevents them from getting water. Flowers should be cut at the stems at an angle, with a sharp knife. We also advise customers to change their water every couple of days. After all – you wouldn’t want to drink stale water, and neither do your flowers.” Kevin also shared that flower food helps and recommends a clean vase since bacteria can kill flowers. And even more inside scoop? “Keep your flowers out of the sun and away from fresh fruit,” continued Kevin. “The fruit’s ethylene gas can damage fresh flowers.” Finally, for smaller arrangements less than 10 inches, refrigerating them at night or while you’re at work will keep them fresh. Just make sure the refrigerator’s settings aren’t too low!

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Our clients who look at Pinterest for ideas may be disappointed if flowers aren’t in season. But no worries! The experts at George K. Walker Florist can make great recommendations for alternative, in-season blooms that may even be easier on the budget! But for those who have their heart set on a certain flower, George K. Walker is connected to farmers and growers from all over the world. In most cases, they can get the freshest flowers, in or out of season, for the best prices.

When our clients are planning a wedding, having a florist who knows the venues is an important consideration. “At George K. Walker,” said Kevin, “We are familiar with the local venues. We know the atmosphere, so when brides come in to discuss florals, we can make recommendations based on what works best in the venue.”

When brides want to DIY their wedding day flowers… “We love DIY,” said Kevin. “However, DIY fresh flowers on the day of the wedding is a tall order. George K. Walker has come to the rescue many times for brides who found themselves

overwhelmed from trying to do it all themselves.” While the George K. Walker team is always happy to don their superhero capes, they discourage it. “We want brides to have exactly what they want, and while we do all we can to make her flowers perfect, planning ahead of time is always the best option.”

When it comes to budgets… The professionals at George K. Walker can give suggestions for the prettiest, most affordable options. “We can work within any budget,” promised Kevin.

Our clients know we deliver. Literally. “We are open seven days a week,” said Kevin. “And we can deliver flowers the same day they are ordered on almost every day of the year. But with that said,” he laughed, “It’s not too early to place orders for Mother’s Day!” We want our clients to know our team. Kevin shared, “We have a dynamic team of experienced floral designers who can create custom pieces.

We can even order specific, custom flowers with just a few days’ notice.

It’s important to note that, like all industries, not every professional is created equal. However, we are so proud of our team who represent years of experience and an unmatched passion for flowers! They really do love what they do, and they are among the best in the business.”

We know the trends in the floral industry. George K. Walker Florist knows what’s on trend, but they also appreciate the classics. “While earthy, free-flowing bouquets are popular right now, one can never go wrong with classics such as long-stemmed roses.”

Besides the market trends, the experts at George K. Walker Florist can also make recommendations about which flowers will last the longest!

The experts at George K. Walker are available daily to answer any questions or help their clients choose the best flowers to make the perfect statement. With decades of expertise behind their name, they are the premier choice for sending flowers in the Triad!

Visit George K. Walker Florist at 1419 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336.722.7673, or visit online at GeorgeWalkerFlorist.com. Make sure you follow them on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest!

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15 Outside-the-Box Reasons to Send Flowers

When it comes to sending flowers, the reasons are countless!

Far beyond the traditional birthday and anniversary, consider sending flowers for: 1. Meeting a weight loss goal. Flowers don’t have calories!

2. Encourage a friend to relax. The natural aromatherapy is a great way to de-stress!

3. Just because. You really don’t need a reason!

4. Your friend completed a big project at work. Make sure they are recognized for a job well done!

5. For young parents celebrating a new milestone with their children. Successful potty training is definitely worthy of a celebration!

6. A friend who just returned home from a vacation or business trip. Let them know you missed them!

7. To make a great day even greater. You know the reasons; flowers will just make that bright smile all the brighter!

8. To brighten a guest room when you are expecting company.

What a beautiful way to make someone feel welcome in your home!

9. As a hostess gift. Show your gratitude for their hospitality with a lovely arrangement. Plus – no gift wrapping necessary!

10. A housewarming gift! A new home deserves flowers!

11. To say you’re sorry. Flowers are a universal way out of the dog-house!

12. When words just aren’t enough…. Let flowers say the rest.

13. Because flowers make people happy. Science has proven it.

14. For date night! Whether it’s a first date or a 10,000th date – doesn’t matter. She’ll love them.

15. To make yourself feel good. Yes – giving flowers is also good for the sender!

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Challenge Yourself:

5 Way to Practice Self-Love

It is often that women find themselves reminded of the notion that love from another is key in helping them feel fulfilled or validated. How much of the fashion and beauty industries put millions of dollars into marketing campaigns aimed at women with the goal of looking good to gain someone’s affection? Even when there are plenty of reminders out there that love comes from non-romantic relationships like friends, parents or siblings, there’s one person we sometimes don’t look to for that same feeling of admiration and acceptance: ourselves.

Robert Morley said, “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” There is so much to be said for practicing self-love! When we take time to remind ourselves how unique we are and the things we like about ourselves, it’s empowering. Showing yourself, kindness, grace and appreciation can make you an even better friend, partner, teammate, and spouse.

What if you challenged yourself to fall in love with you?! I’m not talking about sending yourself a Hallmark card or one of those heart-shaped boxes of assorted chocolates, but spending a little time reminding yourself how awesome and one-of-a-kind you are.

Here are a few fun ways you can practice a little self-love.

#1 CHECK IN & TAKE NOTE OF WHERE YOU ARE

Life has a way of moving so fast that we can’t remember the last time we took a breath and took inventory of where we were in the grand scheme of things. Take some time to check in with yourself to see how you’re doing and what your current needs are.

Maybe you’ve been running around with the kids non-stop the last few weeks and could use some alone time? Push yourself to ask for help from your spouse or parent to watch the little ones for a few hours so you can

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get that time in. Perhaps your job has you committed to some extra late nights lately and you’re missing the outdoors? Make time to eat lunch outside and give yourself that sunshine you’re craving.

#2 TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE

Who says you have to wait for Mr. Right to check out that new spot downtown you’ve been wanting to try? That’s right – no one. A delicious meal and a glass of wine may be calling your name or maybe a sweet treat from your favorite local bakery and a good book? Think of the kind of date you’re in the mood for and treat yourself to it.

Sometimes having a little “you” time is just as important as sharing a date for two. Make it a priority and set some time aside to take yourself out. You deserve it!

#3 HOST A GIRLS’ NIGHT

Part of loving ourselves is surrounding ourselves with people that make us feel supported. Having your favorite women around you is a great way to remind yourself how lucky you are to be you. Get some friends together for a Girls’ night and celebrate one other.

You can indulge in some of your favorite foods and even do a fun empowerment activity. (It may sound cheesy but remember, sometimes cheesy is just what you need!) A fun idea is to have everyone bring a favorite photo of themselves, tape it to a piece of paper and pass it around for everyone to write words that describe that person. At the end, everyone gets their paper back and gets to read all the wonderful things friends wrote.

#4 TREAT YOURSELF TO SOMETHING SPECIAL

While shopping may be a popular pastime among many women, it’s rare that a purchase is made for the sheer purpose of bringing joy to yourself without any guilt involved. Head to your favorite shop and look around for something special. A month-long vacation to Bali may sound like exactly what you deserve, but just make sure you choose something within your budget! (You will love yourself a whole lot more later.)

#5 WRITE YOURSELF A LOVE LETTER

OK, so you’re not William Shakespeare or Emily Dickinson. It doesn’t mean you don’t have something to say and maybe there’s something you need to hear that only you can put into words. Put aside a moment or two to write yourself a letter with reminders of the things you like about yourself and are proud of. Take time to reflect on challenges you’ve overcome, growth you’ve experienced, goals you’re looking forward to working toward and things that make you, you! Read it right away or save it for a rainy day where those words might mean even more.

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Saturday, May 5, 2018 • 10 am to 2 pm

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What I’ve Learned About Myself from Being Pregnant

BY MADISON SKAKLE

As I am writing this, I am 7 and a half months pregnant sitting on my sofa with my aching feet propped up. I am going to be completely honest with you and tell you that since the beginning of my pregnancy, I have not been one of those women that “loves” being pregnant. I’ve had countless women come up to me and say, “Don’t you just love how you feel being pregnant?” And I always answer, “I am excited to have my baby boy, but pregnancy is hard and it’s not glamorous.”

While reading this, I want to make sure you understand how excited I am to bring our child, Everett, into this world. The thought of holding him after delivering him is really what keeps me positive and is my motivation. I am so excited to be a mom!

I’ve learned quite a bit about myself since I’ve been pregnant. I’ve learned that body image is a very real thing. When I first started putting baby weight on in the first trimester, I really struggled with it. I felt like I was not myself and like I had no control over my body. Partner this with hormones and exhaustion and I was crying to my husband weekly about how I felt.

Starting in the second trimester, there came an epiphany: this isn’t about me.

Carrying my child is about him and how I can get him into this world as healthy as possible. A number on the scale and backaches are nothing compared to having a healthy baby. The miracle of childbirth is such a wondrous thing that I am still wrapping my mind around. When I catch myself getting negative about myself and my body, I am now working on focusing on my baby instead of myself. Working out (with modifications and lower impact movements) helps my mood tremendously and I would recommend that to every pregnant woman that is able to do so.

Something else I’ve learned while being pregnant: accept help from others, and even ask for help when you need it! Before I was pregnant, I basically wanted to do everything myself. My husband has a job that requires him to work a lot of hours a

week and this made me more independent around the house to take care of things.

One Saturday morning when all I really wanted to do was rest and watch a couple of movies, I committed myself to working on the nursery and putting together some of our registry items. This was after grocery shopping, cleaning the house, prepping something in the crockpot and working out, OH! and “Shouldn’t I walk the dogs, too?” I was used to doing all the things at night after work and on my days off.

Now I get overwhelmed and tired more easily so I ask for help. My husband, bless his heart, does work long hours but he’s not pregnant and he is willing to help as much as he can.

All I have to do is ask for help.

I’ve also learned something amazing in this pregnancy journey and that is that I have an amazing support group. My family and friends have rallied beside us in every way and are always there offering support. The outpouring of necessities from our registry has me overwhelmed with gratitude. It’s amazing to think our child is already so loved before even coming into this world!

To wrap this up, being pregnant is not all fun and games.

There are backaches, achy feet and too many people touching your belly. However, even more than that, there is love all around. I’ve learned to love my body and the miracle it is growing. I’ve learned that it’s okay to ask for help. These important lessons will carry me way past my pregnancy!

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

Financial Complexities of a Longer Life Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP®, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

Americans are living longer. That’s the good news. The bad news is that most people aren’t financially prepared. Many Baby Boomers will be in retirement for over 20 years and unfortunately, many aren’t saving and investing with a longer lifeexpectancy in mind.

There are serious consequences to financial planning around the wrong life expectancy.

Some retirees are working later in life; some live in fear of running out of money, while others are leaving less of a legacy than they hoped. No one wants to run out of money in retirement.

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU EXPECT TO LIVE?

The Social Security Administration notes that at 65-years old, the average man can expect to live to roughly 84.3 years of age, whereas the average 65-year old woman can expect to live until age 86.6. This means that on average, Americans can expect to spend about 20 years in retirement.

However, there is a strong chance that you should plan to be in retirement much longer than 20 years. One out of every four 65year olds will live past the age of 90, and one out of every 10 will live past the age of 95. Are you prepared for three decades of retirement? Most people aren’t.

With these figures in mind, here are 3 steps that can be taken to ensure your financial longevity:

STEP 1) DEVELOP A CLEAR VISION OF YOUR RETIREMENT LIFESTYLE

To create a well-conceived plan and have the will to faithfully execute it, you need a clear vision of your lifestyle in retirement. Start by defining your goals and asking yourself: • Where will I live?

• Where will I travel?

• What will I drive?

• How will my hobbies change?

• Where will I donate my time and money?

It’s important to factor realistic spending assumptions into the cost of your retirement, based on your goals and desired lifestyle. Your plan should also include contingencies for health care costs and unexpected expenses.

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STEP 2) ADJUST INVESTMENT STRATEGIES

Start to plan for a longer retirement by adjusting your investment strategies — like saving more, being slightly more (or less) aggressive with your investment strategy, etc. We ensure our clients have these bases covered, so consider calling us if you’d like someone to review your investment strategies. We’re experienced in retirement planning if: • You are within 5 years of retirement • You have recently experienced a significant change in your income • Your investment accounts are exposed to higher risk due to natural market fluctuations • You aren’t confident that you are still ontarget for your retirement and legacy goals

STEP 3) CONSIDER HEALTH INSURANCE OPTIONS

Health insurance is the most expensive and bothersome insurance the average individual carries. Unfortunately, many people approach retirement and believe that the burden of health insurance will be lifted. In reality, even when covered by Medicare and other supplemental insurance plans, there are still substantial costs left for the individual to pay.

In addition to premiums, deductibles, and co-pays, prescription drug costs are likely to rise. In the last decade, the average annual cost of one brand-new drug used to treat chronic health conditions cost a senior $5,800 (2015), compared to $1,800 less than a decade earlier (AARP). Planning for a longer retirement requires keeping a keen eye on the rising cost of healthcare in the US. Understanding the stresses that come with ensuring your financial longevity, we’re here to help you sort out the complications of an ever-changing financial plan. Contact us to review your retirement, legacy, and estate plans. Together, we’ll create a clear strategy that points you toward a comfortable retirement, whether it lasts one decade or three.

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“I Wish I Had A Magic Wand”

I am always saying, “I wish I had a magic wand!” in order to make my clients’ remodels or updates happen faster….or at least as fast as they seem to happen on HGTV. The remodel being showcased actually began in August 2017 when I first consulted with my clients.

Projects take time… time to gather my clients’ wants, needs and budget, time to make a plan, time to pull together the construction and all the elements involved, and time to shop for fabric, furniture and accessories. It’s a huge undertaking to pull all the elements together to achieve the finished room. This project actually got underway the week of Thanksgiving 2017.

Living through all the mess during the holidays wasn’t easy and my clients deserve a gold star or two! Project was completed first of March 2018.

No, I do not have a magic wand (although I did find some for sale online for less than a dollar!), but what I do have is great people to work with to achieve a beautiful finished project.

CLIENT TESTIMONIALS:

VENDORS USED:

• “Ava, we cannot thank you enough for all you’ve done.

You truly turned our house into a home and we will forever be grateful to you for that!!”

• Tesh Construction • Poindexter Lumber (Frank) – mantel • Sharp Stone Supply – fireplace • Butler Lighting – chandelier • Carolina Shutter and Blind • 1502 Fabrics • Bill Hege Carpet • Bowen Town and Country Furniture • Meg Brown Home Furnishings • Stitches (custom drapes) • Castlehouse Upholstery • Photo Artistry by Melinda • McCullough Tile

• “Besides raising your children, renovating one’s house to a home can be one of the most gratifying projects a couple can go through. It can also be the direct opposite; Ava accomplished the former. With her passion and drive she blended older keepsakes with a keen eye on the most updated and trending pieces that intertwined in a unique personal style…..a treasure that could never be duplicated by also bringing a family closer together in every sense of the word. She is a person that wears many hats and wears them all well!”

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Neighbors Helping Neighbors: Eat Out & Help Out on May 1st For almost three decades, Forsyth County residents have spent the first Tuesday in May eating out for a good cause.

Once again this year on Tuesday, May 1, families and friends from all corners of the county will dine out to support Crisis Control Ministry through Hope du Jour—a day of hope. Since 1991, Crisis Control’s Hope du Jour event has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars to help individuals and families right here in Forsyth County. Whether you live in Winston-Salem, Clemmons, or Kernersville, there are some 140 participating restaurants to choose from, all donating 10% of their sales on May 1 to Crisis Control.

Hope du Jour is first and foremost a fundraiser to help those in need and give support to the families in our community who are struggling to pay bills for basic needs. For the past 45 years, Crisis Control has assisted residents of Forsyth County who are experiencing a financial crisis with food, rent/mortgage, utilities, and prescription medication assistance.

Hope du Jour is the agency’s signature fundraising event with the proceeds used to support its mission: “To assist people in crisis to meet essential life needs and to become self-sufficient.” This volunteer-oriented nonprofit operates client choice food pantries in Winston-Salem and Kernersville, and last year served nearly 5,000 families with food orders to last them for two weeks at a time. Overall, the agency’s programs served more than 15,000 individuals and families last year.

The list of participating restaurants is long, including both recently-opened and longtime favorite eateries, with something for every taste—breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

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“Community is very important to us,” says Mary Haglund, owner of Mary’s Gourmet Diner in Winston-Salem. “We believe in supporting those in our city who are in crisis whenever we can. Hope du Jour makes that an easy goal to achieve.” A complete list of participating eateries is available at hopedujour. org. The event website also allows you to find restaurants close to your location and provides links to restaurant websites, including phone numbers and directions.

Hope du Jour would not be possible without the commitment of the restaurants and diners who take part, as well as the event sponsors.

Wall Babcock LLP has been the presenting sponsor for the past ten years. Other sponsors include Wake Forest Baptist Health, Garner Foods, Eastern Food Equipment, Maynard & Harris, and Piedmont Natural Gas. As Jim Wall, Managing Partner at Wall Babcock explains, “Hope du Jour has become a springtime tradition for us. We look forward to spending time with colleagues, families and friends at participating restaurants to support Crisis Control Ministry. We urge everyone to visit the Hope du Jour website to select a restaurant, or two, for dining on May 1.”

Hope du Jour is a popular community tradition for several reasons, according to Patricia Murphy, Director of Special Events & Marketing at CCM: “It’s simple. Just eat out at one or more participating restaurants on May 1 and a portion of the restaurant’s sales that day are donated to Crisis Control Ministry. It’s fun. Plan your business meeting that day, have lunch with

an old friend, or take the family out to dinner. It makes a difference. From a cup of coffee to a five-course meal, it all adds up and helps to support Crisis Control Ministry as we assist our neighbors in need.”

For those in the community unable to dine out on May 1, but who wish to make a donation, Crisis Control has just introduced a text donation option. “Donors can now simply text HDJ to 41444,” notes Margaret Elliott, CCM Executive Director.

“We hope this is an opportunity to reach more supporters and provide a convenient way to help make a difference.”

Hope du Jour. It’s a day of hope on May 1. Whether breakfast, lunch, dinner, or something in-between, by eating out you’ll be providing hope and help to those who are struggling to meet their family’s basic needs.

For more information on Hope du Jour and for a full list of participating restaurants visit hopedujour.org or contact Tricia Murphy at 336.724-7875, ext. 1040 tmurphy@crisiscontrol.org.

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A Cry for Help: Recognizing the Signs National Mental Health Month

BY LISA S.T. DOSS The words “I am not okay” are spoken with honesty; yet, this one warning may be placated with gentle words such as, “I can figure this out!” Shoulders will ease from tension, and the worry will soon dissipate days and weeks beyond. We want to believe our loved ones are truly okay, but the reality is the words “mental health” has a stigma of negativity. No one wants to admit they are affected by a trauma impacting emotional and physical abilities. It takes courage, a willingness to identify the problem, and surrendering in a plea for help. One in five adults will experience a mental health condition; however, everyone is affected by mental illness through a relationship, whether it’s family, friend, or colleague. Recognizing the symptoms through “silent screams” is one way to determine if help is needed, and what must be done.

3. BINGE EATING DISORDER, BED:

ANXIETY DISORDERS:

A traumatic event can occur as early as one year old and have lasting effects on a person’s mental health, which becomes known as PTSD. Most are affected by this condition without a diagnosis; yet, once diagnosed, 37% are classified as “severe symptoms.”

Recurring memories or flashbacks, which may appear as bad dreams or intrusive thoughts, feeling anxious and depressed, and have sudden outbursts of anger are all symptoms. PTSD is associated with depression and anxiety, and substance use disorder. Solutions such as therapy, self-management strategies, and medications can lessen symptoms, but not eliminate them.

Approximately 18% of Americans, roughly 40 million adults, and 8% of children and teenagers experience an anxiety disorder. While a person may experience one or more of the symptoms - apprehension or dread, restlessness or feeling jumpy, a pounding heart and shortness of breath, upset stomach or frequent urination - they commonly have fear or worry in situations that are not threatening.

Generalized and Social Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, and Phobias all fall under the category of “Anxiety Disorder.” There are different types of solutions that range from stress and relaxation techniques to cognitive behavioral therapy to medications.

An anxiety disorder cannot be considered a mild condition. As symptoms increase, a person may experience depression or difficulty sleeping, develop an eating disorder or self-medicating with either drugs or alcohol.

BIPOLAR DISORDER:

Usually beginning at the age of 25, bipolar disorder affects a person’s mood, energy, and the ability to think clearly through dramatic shifts. These high and low moods are known as mania (moods can rapidly become more unpredictable, behaving impulsively or making reckless decisions) and depression, quite different from the mood swings most people experience. Untreated, the symptoms can worsen, which implies long episodes of mania or depression, and may include hallucinations or delusions. Help can be given with psychotherapy and medications. With early identification and treatment, a person can live a balanced life.

DEPRESSION:

The struggles of depression are real, a feeling like trudging through molasses without energy or appetite, and desiring nothing more than to sleep, or perhaps not being able to sleep at all. Depression affects roughly 16 million people. A working treatment plan, which may include a defined therapy, exercise, medications, and perhaps meditation and nutritional assistance as well, can be valuable solutions to ease the level of depression.

EATING DISORDERS:

One early sign is an attempt to cope with overwhelming feelings and painful emotions through the preoccupation of food and weight. The condition can cause serious emotional and physical problems that may lead to serious medical complications or suicidal tendencies. It helps to recognize the three different types of eating disorders.

1. ANOREXIA:

A person will deny themselves food and refuse to eat.

Practicing self-starvation, they will either purge the food or exercise to the point of exhaustion.

2. BULIMIA:

While large amounts of food will be consumed, the cycle will be linked to vomiting, use of laxatives, or excessive exercise.

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Eating will occur when the person is not hungry or uncomfortably full. Afterward, a feeling of embarrassment, guilt, or depression will occur.

A BED disorder is not connected to purging.

Solutions are not simple. Sometimes, it will take a lifelong understanding of talk therapy, medication, and nutritional counseling and monitoring.

POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER:

May is National Mental Health month. It may be father-in-law or mother, sister or best friend, long time coworker or neighbor, who can receive help. We must start listening, and walking with them during that first giant step; perhaps, that someone is you!

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Caring for You... While Caring for Others

BY DINAH MYERS

In my last article, I asked you a lot of questions, “When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?”; “Do you use shapewear to attempt to smooth and squeeze in your mid-section?”; “Do you only wear long or ¾ length sleeves because you carry fat on your arms?”; “Do you always seek out stretchy pants so that you don’t have to go up a few sizes?.” I apologize if I put you on the spot or made you sad! But these are questions worth considering if you are serious about your health.

Don’t put off taking care of YOU! In May we have a chance to recognize our mothers and other ladies that have nurtured and helped us along in life. Moms don’t really get a day off and we never retire from motherhood, whether we are nurturing our own children or the children of others (including our “4-legged children”). Unfortunately, that means we often put ourselves last on the list when it comes to health. Are you a mom that never seems to have time to eat healthy or get in some exercise?

Please don’t put it off any longer! One in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer. There are many published clinical studies that establish the link between obesity and a risk of breast cancer.

Within a year of being diagnosed myself, there were 8 women in my life that were also diagnosed with breast cancer. That is one of the main reasons I decided to be a Diet Center owner. If I can help just one woman avoid surgery, chemotherapy, or radiation treatments, then my investment has been worthwhile.

Whether a mother works outside the home or not, we are all “working moms.” Our work is never done either! It is easy to put off caring for ourselves because sometimes we just run out of hours in our days. After pregnancy and childbirth,

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our bodies change (as if you ladies needed to be reminded). It is especially important to stay on a healthy diet to prevent the pounds from creeping on year after year.

Sooner than we would imagine, that “baby” is approaching 30 years old and we have added 30 pounds of fat through years of not managing our weight! And throw hormonal changes in with a poor diet, we could be carrying around 50 pounds of excess weight.

Not only has a woman increased her risk of breast cancer (and other forms of cancer), but she has increased her risk of diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, joint and muscle problems, as well as a host of other diseases. We cannot give others our best care if we are in poor health ourselves! Even losing 10 pounds (a dress size) can have a dramatic impact on your health.

So, what are you waiting on? Do you have 30 minutes a week that you could spend on yourself if it meant liking what you see in the mirror? We have programs to fit every lifestyle, including busy parents.

Our programs don’t require you to take potentially harmful “diet pills” or “weight loss injections.” Diet Center has been a national brand for 45 years and here in Winston-Salem for 35 years. We have seen many competitors come into town and then vanish. We offer no miracles and no magic pills. We don’t push laxatives and diuretics. We promote healthy lifestyles based on sound nutrition and selfdiscipline. Our programs work because the weight loss is fat loss, not water loss. Yes, there are competitor programs that promise rapid weight loss, but what happens after

these programs end? The weight loss is not sustainable. Diet Center guides you through stabilizing your ideal weight and has a plan that ensures the weight loss is maintained.

Our success is measured in the vast number of clients that have lost weight on our programs and sustained that weight loss for many years.

As a working mom, breast cancer conqueror, and a “constantly on the go” woman, I truly understand the struggles of weight management. With the help of Diet Center programs, I have kept my extra 30 pounds off for 2 years now. It’s something I work at daily, I would love to share my story with you and help you make changes for a healthy, happy you! Isn’t it time you became one of our weight loss winners?

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Along with warmer temperatures and college graduations, May means Mother’s Day! And who doesn’t love celebrating their mom? I am fortunate enough to be able to work with my mom every day, and while most people would think we’d get enough of each other from that, she is also my favorite workout partner!

We have been working out together for about 10 years. Although we are at different fitness levels and have different goals, working out together is still fun, effective and a great way for us to bond outside of work.

Finding a workout partner, in my opinion, is the key to success.

The accountability factor is huge. It is much harder to skip a workout when you know you have someone waiting for you and counting on you. In fact, research shows that if we tell others our goals and plans, we increase our chance of success by 95%! That fact alone should be enough to convince anyone to find a workout buddy.

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Mother/Daughter Workouts Finding the Right Accountability Partner

If you and your mom don’t live in the same town, you can still hold each other accountable via phone calls, emails, texts, weekly checkins, etc.! (Though I would recommend finding an additional workout partner who does live in the same area as you.)

The accountability of a workout partner shouldn’t end with exercise. Hold each other accountable to your nutrition standards as well. Utilize each other for healthy recipes, ask opinions on what to order at particular restaurants and help each other with meal prepping.

I reached out for a few quotes from family and friends to see how (or if) having a workout partner has helped them reach their goals.

“I have quite a few workout partners. For the past eight years, I have had three people who take cycle at the same time and day as I do, and knowing that they are there and that we have the absolute best time makes me want to go even more! If one of us misses, we check to make sure no one is sick, etc. It makes such a difference having my buddies with me, and we cheer each other on.

They’re the best!” ~ Carolyn S. Peterson “I absolutely love to work out but have no discipline, so a workout partner is vital to get me to the gym. She’s a great inspiration, and I go because she’s there and is a reminder of how good you can look when you are consistent!” ~ Kimberly Van Scoy “I hired someone to be my nutrition accountability coach.

Personally, when I add money to my accountability for a period of time, I’m more focused!” ~ Kimberly Kestner “I workout solo because that’s my time to focus, think and just be in the zone. My schedule is too crazy to sync up with someone regularly. With that said, I love an accountability partner. My best friend in Florida and I commit to certain things and will text each other or shoot over a gym selfie to encourage one another and stay accountable.” ~ Taryn Jerez “I have just started a nutrition accountability coach. In talking to the person that has inspired me to do this, he made me realize broken promises and commitments to myself are even worse than others because I should have enough self worth to keep my word to myself!” ~ Melinda Childress Payne

TIPS FOR BEING A GREAT WORKOUT PARTNER: • Be positive.

• Remind your partner of their goals.

• Be flexible.

• Check in frequently.

• Be on time.

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BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHER

r e w o Girl P s t e e M ! e l y t S y v v Sa

Katie Shaver’s excitement over opening her very own business is a double dream come true.

Not only is she lucky to have the chance to express herself and her unique style through her ridiculously cute new boutique, Urbn Grl, she’s also immersing herself in the small business community, a venture she feels holds enormous possibilities!

Visit her brand new boutique on Burke Street – it opened mid-April – and you’ll be charmed by its Boho modern aesthetic. It’s a little bit rustic, with cool wood accents, nestling an eclectic collection of awesome tees, sunglasses, candles, purses, jewelry and supremely witty cards – a little bit of everything, and everything with its own unique personality.

You’ll immediately notice distinctive gifts, accessories and vinyl (yes, vinyl, and even a turntable), but there’s so much more behind her product choices. Think #grlpwr, and you’ll be channeling Katie’s plans.

“It’s cool, small and emerging brands,” said Katie. “I have always been a lover of cool, unique things that no one else has.”

With a degree in fashion marketing and merchandising, Katie knows the nuances of blending style with what appeals to her target market – which she affectionately describes as the “everyday boss babe!” Just after graduating, she worked for a small woman-owned brand and immediately felt a connection to the difference she could make as a small business owner right here in Winston-Salem.

The instinct comes naturally as Katie’s parents, Art and Lori Shaver, own Mac & Nelli’s Restaurant, a local favorite in Winston-Salem. She was inspired at a young age to follow their lead and build her own business from the ground up, and she’s also passionate about small businesses in the area working together for the good of all.

Katie says it was literally love at first “site” as she knew immediately upon driving by the trendy Burke Street location – her

store’s home – that it was perfect for the launch of Urbn Grl. “This has always been my dream,” she said. “To see it come to life is empowering. It’s been a blast working with so many cool small businesses. Every day is like Christmas morning – opening new orders that come in!”

In a multitude of ways, she says seeing her dream come to life has been empowering.

“I believe in collaboration and not competition,” said Katie.

“I am open to working with any business to promote growth for all.”

Much of the amazing inventory showcased in the new store is local – handmade goods from Forget Me Not Design Co., handmade coffin shelves and bookshelves from Witch Crafty Caitlin and Charmingly Cheeky Prints and Décor from Farm Girl Designs. Several brands are local to the Charlotte area, including out-of-this-world handmade porcelain from Powder Studio, fiber jewelry and modern art from Twenty Two West and one-of-a-kind handmade jewelry pieces from Mere. Other totally North Carolina vendors she plans to carry include Green Blanky of Brevard, North Carolina and Dirty Little Love Notes from Wilmington.

If you’re thinking like this writer, you’ll be stopping by to check out the “Good at Naps” throw – who doesn’t need one of those?

See what the buzz is all about by stopping in to meet Katie and glimpse her unique collection of seriously irresistible things. Urbn Grl is located at 908 Burke Street in WinstonSalem. Call 336.955.2303, or email Katie@urbngrl.com. Follow the boutique on Instagram and visit the website at Urbngrl. com. Hours are Tuesday-Saturday from 11am-7pm. The boutique is closed on Sunday and Monday.

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Makeup

The Power of

BY BRITTANY ORIE

From the ancient Egyptian women who painted their faces to please the gods, to the Roman women who beautified themselves to please one another, to the way we enhance ourselves today, some women are aware of the power that wearing makeup has while others are not. Some women see it as a complete transformation, putting them on a higher seat of confidence, while others who wear it faithfully may see it merely as a daily beauty routine. No matter what the media may project, we are stunning without it! Let’s be honest, women who do love to “beat their faces,” even occasionally, have positive reasons and may even have negative reasons for wearing makeup.

POSITIVE REASONS TO WEAR MAKEUP

A healthy purpose for wearing makeup is to enhance what you already have, not to completely change how you look. Many women wear it to “cover up” what they believe are flaws. There is no need to cover up the features that give you your distinction: moles, freckles, beauty marks, and scars—yes, I said it, scars!

Don’t pile that foundation on so heavy that the person in the mirror becomes a stranger. If you’re feeling bold, find a sheer, light coverage foundation that will only partially cover up your beautifully distinctive marks. Look into the mirror, find your favorite facial features, and see how you can enhance those features and make them more noticeable. Brighten up your eyes with mascara and eye shadow, your cheekbones with highlighter, or your lips with a flattering shade!

Another great purpose of makeup is to brighten a morning face. Not many people want to go to work looking tired and out of it. Even a little bit of concealer will quickly cover up any sleep-ridden eyes. No shame here, ladies! Looking awake will make you feel better as well.

Speaking of work, wearing a fair amount of makeup shows good professionalism, but wearing too much can be a bad distraction.

It’s a good move for a job interview, a meeting, or just a day at the office. Wearing makeup is one way to show good presentation.

NEGATIVE REASONS TO WEAR MAKEUP

One of the unhealthiest reasons to wear makeup is to improve your appearance. The media succeeds in injecting young women with insecurity by telling us to hide our freckles, moles, fill in our eyebrows, or lighten or darken our skin tones. Here’s what I want to say, dear one: you cannot improve what is already made perfect.

Makeup should be a tool for beauty enhancement and not vanity or to feel “better” about yourself. Remember the true idea of wearing makeup is to make it look as though you’re not wearing any (yes, make it look natural)!

WHY DITCH IT OCCASIONALLY?

Going without makeup, even for a day, will give you a sense of freedom from societal standards and from what other people may say or think. You will feel like yourself and not like the other person you draw on your face every day.

Letting your face run naked occasionally will gradually help you become more secure in your own natural beauty and feel more attractive without having to rely on those brushes and eyebrow pencils. Also, if you have sensitive skin that doesn’t handle makeup too well, it’s best to lay off a bit to avoid aggravation.

Other than makeup, another beauty enhancing application is inner beauty. What are your greatest character assets? What is it about you that people will benefit the most from? Magnify those traits!

Remember, makeup is temporary, and we can always scrub it off, but inner beauty is water-repellent.

Lastly let others see who you really are, especially your boyfriend who will see you without it eventually. Show him who you are early in the relationship. When you’re relaxing indoors, let your face be free.

Even when out on a date, let him see the true you.

You don’t beautify yourselves by applying makeup; you become beautified by taking it off.

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BY DAVE MCCONNELL

GETTING THE MOST OF OUR YOUNG ATHLETES All parents that have kids participating in sports want them to enjoy what they are doing. Sports at an early age can lead to lifetime lessons that can be valuable for all kids. But for the kid and the parent, the ability to compete at a moderate level can enhance the enjoyment for all. Unfortunately, all kids are not born with the physical and athletic prowess to be the stars of the team.

If there’s one thing I’ve seen in my 30 plus years of coaching and training it’s that with a minimal amount of athletic ability, an athlete can compete if they are willing to work. The below average athlete can become average, the average can become good, the good can excel and your superior athletes become the superstars. Before we go any farther I must state one important fact of this philosophy.

This must be something the young athlete wants instead of the parent pushing the kid beyond their realm of work ethic. There is a fine line between encouraging and an obsession for our child to become great. Let them decide how much extra time they want to put into a sport and it will result in a happier and more fulfilling experience for all.

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Now that we have a commitment, here are some things that I believe to be essential in the training of a young athlete. While most kids are willing to practice the specific skills involved in the sport they play, I believe other training is necessary to maximize one’s ability. There are many programs and training tools that can benefit athletes today, but due to the active schedule of our kids and the costs, it is not always feasible to get this training.

However, there are things a parent can do at home with their young athlete that can be quite beneficial and take very little time to do.

In my opinion, explosion from the knees to the hips, flexibility in the hamstrings and hips, and core strength are the areas that are vital in athletic performance. Training young athletes to flex at the waist as opposed to bending with their back is a little thing but is most beneficial when it becomes natural. To have power in the lower body you must be flexible in the hips and hamstrings. (These stretches can be seen in the picture) Another exercise that can be done from home to enhance hip flexibility and explosion are explosive jumps (shown in the pictures). Use a light weight or even a basketball and hold with

both arms to the chest. Make sure the back stays straight and the glutes drop as close to the ground as possible. Then do repeated jumps in sets of 10-15 reps. If a young athlete can master this technique, it can go a long way in maximizing their potential in their lower body.

Strength or resistance training will become important as the young athlete progresses, but core strength can be done at an early age with little or no risk. Everyone knows exercises that can strengthen the core. My only suggestion would be to make planks part of the core workout.

So there you have my 20 minute workout that can be done at any age right from home. To make it more fun, you can participate with your child. If time is not an issue and you are looking for a more advanced program for your child, call me at 336.407.3143 about our athletic performance classes for all ages at Wilson Park Athletic and Training Center.

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How to: Sound Like a Wine Aficionado

BY MADISON SKAKLE

In the past 5 years, I have begun to love wine. I am currently pregnant as I’m writing this article and so I am counting down the days until I can have my first post-baby glass of chilled white burgundy (my favorite). Before I began to research and understand wine, I really only knew there were whites and reds.

I did not understand the different blends or types of wine. Below, I’m sharing some tips and tricks on how to sound like a “wino.”

1. KNOW YOUR GLASS.

If you aren’t attending a medieval time banquet and if you aren’t part of the Mickey Mouse Club, you should not hold your wine glass by the goblet.

Hold your wine glass by the stem. Additionally, there are different glasses for different wines. The bigger wine glasses are traditionally for red wines and the smaller wine glasses (with a smaller goblet) are for white wines.

2. BREATHE YOUR WINE.

When in doubt, decant it out. Wines need to breathe and decanting them for at least 30 minutes can make a big difference in the taste of the wine.

3. KNOW THE FIVE S’S OF WINE TASTING.

If you do a couple of these 5 S’s, you’ll be good to go and look like a pro: see, swirl, sniff, sip and savor. To me the most important “S” of the bunch is the savor part. Do not gulp your wine because you won’t experience optimal taste. Let the wine sit in your mouth for a little while before swallowing. This will allow you to taste all the flavors of the wine you’re drinking.

4. LEARN THE BASIC WHITES.

There are countless white wines, but it’s important to know the basics. Let’s start with Chardonnay. Chardonnay is versatile and popular around the world. The flavors include green apple, citrus and pineapple. Pinot Grigio is another popular option, especially when pairing with foods because it is typically light and “zippy” in flavor.

Flavors include citrus, pear and melon.

Sauvignon Blanc is another delicious white wine with

flavors including herb, citrus, grass and pineapple. And lastly, another basic to know is Moscato. It is a sweeter wine that typically new winos start with to wet their palate for wine. I started with Moscato but now I cannot drink it because it’s entirely too sweet for me.

5. LEARN THE BASIC RED WINES.

Merlot is a great wine to start with because it’s easy to drink and pairs well with basically any food. Flavors of this wine include blackberry, plums and herbal flavors. Next red wine basic: Cabernet Sauvignon. Cabernet pairs well with red meats because it is full bodied and very rich.

Malbec is another tasty red wine that is flavored with plums, berries and spice. There are lots more red wine varieties but these are great ones to start with.

6. ASK THE SOMMELIER.

The Sommelier is a wine expert typically at nicer restaurants and grocery stores. If you do not know which wine will pair best with your dinner, simply ask them what they would recommend. However, make sure you tell them the price range you are thinking before they make you fall in love with a bottle of wine that is outside your price range! I’ve made that mistake one too many times.

7. SOME FUN FACTS!

Did you know that red wine gets its distinct red color because the skins are left to ferment with the grape juice?

White wine does not have the same color because the skins are removed.

Another fun fact: the Vatican has the highest consumption of wine per capita – even more than Napa Valley and France!

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Lavender Growing and Enjoying

BY LISA DOSS AND DENISE HEIDEL

An herb from the mint family is often used for its medicinal properties or aromatic qualities. While lavender is a hardy perennial, the beautiful, bushy shrub is often featured in locations among rock gardens as a landscape feature or in well-drained soil to complement flowers or compatible herbs and vegetables. Additionally, lavender thrives in sturdy containers. With all the wonderful purposes lavender offers, you, too, can reap the rewards of growing this diverse perennial.

STARTING SEEDS

Patience is the first step in growing lavender. Don’t give up when the seed does not begin to grow. It may take up to one month to germinate; therefore, mark your calendar from the day of planting. To ensure proper drainage, use a light potting soil such as Miracle Grow. Once the seed is planted, cover with a mere 1/8 inch of potting mix. This allows the seed to remain protected and provides ample sunlight to encourage growth. Choose a location that maintains 70 degrees in temperature. Seeds should be watered in the morning to allow the soil to drain. If the seeds remain wet by evening, it could result in fungus forming, killing the seed. Once the seeds sprout true leaves, containers can be placed in a location that receives direct sunlight. Once leaves have fully matured, congratulations, it is time to transplant.

TRANSITIONING OUTDOORS

To grow a successful lavender plant requires well-drained soil.

Gardeners can consider tilling the location or digging a wide hole. If using a container, wash and dry thoroughly before dusting the edges with baking soda. (This is a healthy way to start all of your potted plants.) Whether the container is the ground or a pot, place a handful of rocks at the bottom.

And, surrounding the plant, mix crushed eggshells and coffee grounds, if available, to your light potting soil. (Compostable items boost minerals and vitamins to your soil, improving the vitality of your plant.)

Remember, lavender can expand; so

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space each plant at a minimum of 18 inches apart. Observe plants, especially the first year, and water only when dry. Expect lavender to grow slowly the first year; yet, by year two you will start to enjoy this amazing herb!

BENEFITS OF LAVENDER

Now that you know how to grow lavender, you’ll be amazed at all the benefits from this humble little plant. Of course, lavender is well known for its relaxation benefits.

It’s been used to help treat insomnia, stress and even depression.

Scientists have used lavender to protect against diabetes symptoms and improve brain function. Lavender is noted for its anti-inflammatory properties and can help with bug bites, minor burns, pain and even helps alleviate headaches.

Lavender is also great for the skin and can help reduce acne and treat eczema.

WAYS TO USE LAVENDER

Lavender can be used in a number of ways. From culinary uses to household cleaning to laundry to the aforementioned health benefits, lavender may be the most useful and versatile herb in your garden. Some favorite uses include: • Use Lavender Essential Oil after shaving to help minimize the effects of razor burn.

• Pregnant moms-to-be will love lavender oil to help with itchy baby bumps and help prevent stretch marks.

• Mix eight drops of lavender oil with a quarter cup of oatmeal for a great (and relaxing) facial scrub.

• Help the kiddos (or yourself) get some sleep by making a small pillow of lavender buds, or even rub lavender oil on the bottoms of feet.

• Add up to six drops of lavender to a bottle of white vinegar for natural cleaning.

• Culinary lavender is a delicious add-on to a latte, and it makes wonderful tea!

• Baking with lavender is a great way to add a touch of elegance and sophistication to your cooking.

• And, in addition to all these ideas, if you’re crafty, you’ll have a ton of fun making soaps, sachets, candles, wreaths and more!

Lavender is a highly popular herb for many reasons. Relax and enjoy this easy-to-grow plant, and take advantage of its many uses!

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A Delicious Look into Cookbook Book Clubs

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Book clubs have been around for decades and have introduced the love of reading to many people. However, there is a new type of book club that is gaining in popularity – a cookbook book club. Basically, it is a book club where attendees bring food. The premise behind this type of club is attendees choose a recipe from a cookbook, prepare the dish, and bring the dish and the cookbook to the meeting.

STEPS TO BEGINNING

The first step to starting a cookbook book club is deciding on the logistics of the club. Think about who will join, family and friends, where you’ll meet, and when you’ll meet. Will the club meet at the same place at the same time or will it rotate between members’ houses and dates? Also, organize how you’ll pick the cookbooks. For example, is each attendee going to be making recipes from the same cookbook or different ones? Try to get at least 5-10 members, so you’ll have enough attendees to showcase a wide variety of dishes. Be careful your club isn’t too small or too big – remember you are going to be eating, so there will be some cost involved in preparing the meals. Lastly, all members don’t have to be culinary geniuses. This is a time to share dishes, as well as cooking tips and tricks with others.

Next, plan your inaugural meeting. Remember to set your date and location. Then, choose your cookbook, if you decide to use one cookbook for all members. Your next step is send out invitations, printed or digitally. You could even create a group on social media for members to communicate. If you decide on members choosing their own books, this is a great avenue for attendees to say which cookbook they are using for that meeting.

Associate meetings with themes. For example, host a meeting that is family favorite recipes from tried and true cookbooks or only dessert recipes. You could also assign a meeting to honor a famous chef. Maybe it will be the Barefoot Contessa night and attendees will choose one of her cookbooks and prepare a dish.

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One of the benefits of having a social media group of attendees is that it allows for better organization of the group. There is generally more cost involved with this type of book club, compared to your traditional one; create a list on the group or in a google doc for members to list what they are bringing, in regard to recipes, plates, cups, napkins, and silverware. All responsibilities shouldn’t fall on the meeting’s host, unless otherwise decided upon in the club. Also, members can discuss recent recipes and cookbooks within the club when a meeting time isn’t near.

Don’t forget about the drinks. It can be as simple as having bottles of water for everyone. It can also be as extravagant as bringing new drink recipes to share. This element should also be discussed with your club’s online group.

Think about ways to make the meetings interactive and fun. Of course, food makes everything more fun, but also include possible games and conversation starters. Try going around and having members share why they chose a particular cookbook, or recipe, and their process for making the dish. You can take it a step further and focus on a single dish per meeting. For example, each member could host the event and choose the dish. Then, at the meeting, attendees will prepare the dish together and receive copies of the recipe.

Speaking of recipe copies, always have them for members to take home.

This is especially important if the recipes come from different books.

However, if you chose to use one cookbook per meeting, share the book between members. That way, every member won’t feel as if they have to purchase the various cookbooks for each meeting.

There is nothing better that brings people together than food and a cookbook book club does just that. Ease your members into this new concept by letting them prepare dishes from a cookbook they have at home and then let your creativity run wild. There is no rhyme or reason, rules or laws to what a cookbook book club should entail.

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More Than Just Delicious!

Grandmothers know everything, don’t they? Mention the slightest stomach pain or feeling of congestion, and a young girl may fondly recall her grandmother reaching into a handbag to reveal a red and white candy wrapped in clear plastic. For decades, I thought the solution of a peppermint candy was a remedy of distraction. Come to find out, my grandmother had knowledge of ancient cultures. Spanning thousands of years, peppermint has inspired improved health through its uncanny medicinal properties.

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in both commercial and medicinal products.

Among teas, candies, and drinks, peppermint is used in popular fragrances, specifically soaps and cosmetics, and as a flavoring agent for prescriptions and over the counter medications.

To see what is aiding your good health, it is a wise to read all ingredients on products you are using or digesting.

MEDICINAL PURPOSES

If you are near a peppermint plant, you can close your eyes and breathe deeply from a fair distance off and detect an aroma of mint. The smell encourages pleasant memories, a strong mentholated taste found in candy or added to creamy or hot drinks, such as hot chocolate. This is perhaps why peppermint is the number one selling flavor among non-chocolate hard candies.

While fresh and dried leaves can be purchased, often in bulk, peppermint is also available as a tincture or tea, oil capsule or tablet, and as an essential oil. Is it wonderful to know peppermint has several dietary uses and health benefits!

In the late 1600s, the natural hybrid combining water mint and spearmint was discovered and named peppermint. Reaching 36 inches in height and expanding 24 inches in width, the plant can be quickly identified. If you have ever desired to grow “mint” in your garden, please be forewarned that all 25 species should be planted directly into a pot; otherwise, your garden will allow no other plants to grow except for those in the mint family.

1. COUGHS & COLDS: Menthol, an active ingredient in peppermint, acts as an expectorant and decongestant, can offer relief to sinus inflammation and respiratory symptoms connected to congestion and coughing, or to ease breathing difficulties.

This wonderful herb can build a stronger immune system, and boost antimicrobial and antioxidant quantities.

Tip: To harvest, collect the leaves in the morning before the plant begins to bloom. This event often occurs during dry weather, July through August.

2. DIGESTION: While peppermint eases painful digestive problems, including gas, bloating, nausea, morning sickness, and cramping associated with the menstrual cycle, one study has also showed that 75% of participants, who took a dose of peppermint oil daily showed significant relief of the symptoms associated with irritable bowel syndrome.

PEPPERMINT OIL, A NATURAL EXTRACT

It is a natural reaction to touch the leaf of an aromatic herb, rub your fingers together, and then smell. Most often, the aroma is produced by specialized cells on the underside of the leaves. The oil in peppermint is extensively used

3. PAIN RELIEF: Applying the oil as a topical, the soothing sensation of peppermint is as powerful as 1,000 milligrams of acetaminophen.

It has relieved an extensive list of pain symptoms from a headache and general body aches, to muscle and nerve pain.

4. SKIN ENHANCEMENT: Peppermint oil added to water is capable of alleviating rashes and dry skin or scalp.

5. ENERGY: The proximity to peppermint encourages a deep inhalation. The effects are instantaneous. The body will start to feel energized and alert.

Peppermint is wonderful herb for the soul, the skin, and the solution to feeling unwell. While there are wonderful teas featuring this incredible super ingredient, and several holidays to celebrate peppermint drinks and candies during the winter months, consider it a year-round remedy of deliciousness. This month, grow a peppermint plant in a semi-large container and watch how your health will bloom in new and unexpected ways.

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Worldwide, stroke is the second leading cause of death and a leading cause of serious disability. Stroke is the 5th leading killer in the United States and is the 4th leading cause of death in Forsyth County. About 60 percent of all stroke deaths occur in women. Stroke happens when a clot or rupture interrupts blood flow to the brain.

Without oxygen-rich blood, brain cells die and every minute matters.

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An estimated 85.7 million Americans have high blood pressure and nearly one in every six Americans that has high blood pressure doesn’t know he or she has it.

One common misconception is that high blood pressure rarely affects women. However, nearly half of all adults with high blood pressure are women. At 65 and older, women are actually more likely than men to get high blood pressure. While high blood pressure isn’t directly related to gender, throughout a woman’s life, health issues like pregnancy, pregnancy prevention (birth control) and menopause can increase the risk

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Smart Food: Eating the Best Foods for Your Brain

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Our brains control our bodies, keep our hearts beating, regulate hormones, aging, and emotions.

We must take care of them if we want to keep them healthy and sane. Here’s the ideal “brain food” menu!

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vitamins are paramount in brain health. Vitamins B12, B6 and B9 (folate, or folic acid). They help to slow down cognitive decline in diseases such as dementia and Alzheimer’s, and decrease the risk of brain shrinkage associated with those diseases. Being wealthy in B vitamins gives one clear, sharp thinking, good focus and concentration, and a hefty memory. Of course, being deficient in B vitamins, especially in B12, can result in memory problems, brain fog, and poor concentration. Bank up on B vitamins! B6 is found in meats, wild salmon, bananas, avocados, potatoes, and sunflower seeds. B12 is found mainly in seafood, dairy products, soy milk, and eggs. B9 (folate) lives in fresh, raw, leafy greens, a variety of beans, and lentils.

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eading a book every day for at least 30 minutes to an hour is one of the brain’s favorite foods! Studies show that reading novels improves the brain’s connectivity and functioning. Reading definitely improves intelligence and amplifies brain power. Reading is a mental exercise that improves your memory and may help with cognitive decline that comes with age. Engaging the brain in reading may also prevent Alzheimer’s disease. Avid readers are 2.5 times less likely to become diagnosed with the cognitive disease than those who engage in less stimulating activities in their downtime.

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lmonds, aerobics, avocados, and asparagus all benefit the brain in a unique way. Almonds are high in omega-3 fatty acids and vitamin E which are brain-protecting antioxidants. Aerobic exercise helps create brain growth and protective hormone called BDNF that targets brain cells.

Avocados are loaded in monosaturated fats that protect brain cells and also help maintain healthy blood pressure levels. And asparagus is high in antiinflammatory nutrients and folate.

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ron is a critical brain food because it aids in development and helps to create neural pathways that prevent cognitive decline. Iron is needed because it helps supply oxygen to the brain by means of blood flow. Foods that are rich in iron include spinach, lentils, legumes, soybeans, broccoli, leafy vegetables, breads, and cereals.

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uts have an adequate amount of antioxidants, healthy fats, and vitamin E that benefit the brain. Eating nuts regularly can help create a sharper memory and prevent neurodegenerative diseases, especially walnuts, which are rich in omega-3 fatty acids.

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un, mind-stimulating games such as chess, crossword puzzles, word games, and memory games are enough to keep your mind active during your down times.

Luminosity.com is loaded with brain-training games. mega-3 is practically a building block for your brain. It uses omega-3 to build brain and nerve cells and helps with learning and memory. Fatty fish such as salmon (especially when wild), trout, and sardines have a great wealth of omega-3s. A lack of omega-3s is linked to learning impairments and even depression. If fish is not on your personal menu, you can find omega-3 in canola oil, flaxseed, chia seeds, wild rice, eggs, soybeans, walnuts, and in dairy foods.

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ils such as olive oil and coconut oil also serve as brain food. Olive oil is rich in polyphenols which are amazing brain protective antioxidants. Coconut oil helps the brain’s neurons to use energy while fighting off free radicals. It also has saturated fat, a nutrient good for the function of brain cell membranes. Cooking with these pure oils, using them as salad dressing, or in a dip will do!

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ark chocolate provides brain boosters such as flavonoids, caffeine, and antioxidants. Flavonoids are plant oxidants that settle in the areas of the brain that control learning and memory. This compound may improve memory and slow down age-related cognitive decline. Dark chocolate is also a great mood booster!

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tacking up on blueberries is as equally rewarding as they are delicious. They send anthocyanins—an antiinflammatory antioxidant—to the brain. This compound helps fight against stress and inflammation which, if prolonged, may contribute to neurodegeneration. The antioxidants in blueberries seem to help the communication between brain cells.

Eating blueberries can also improve memory and delay short term memory loss.

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Annoying Fashion Problems That All Women Will Understand

BY MADISON SKAKLE

We’ve all been there…in a dressing room trying on clothes and not knowing what to do or questioning our style existence!

I’ve honestly said out loud in a dressing room before, “Is this dress supposed to be made for a doll?” I’m sharing my favorite annoying fashion problems that I am sure you will understand and relate to! It’s not just you, ladies! There are tons of fashion issues that we all face.

1. THE STRAPLESS DRESS DILEMMA. I wasn’t blessed with large “friends” up top, if you know what I mean, and I even struggle with the strapless dresses.

I am constantly pulling my dress up!

I cannot tell you how many pictures there are of me in strapless bridesmaids dresses heaving the dress up. I have found that what works for me, a woman with small breasts, is to have cups built into the dress. Go to a nice tailor shop and have them sew the cups into your dress. It’s relatively cheap and worth the price! For ladies with larger breasts, going with a strapless bra and corset is the best option. Strapless bras tend to fall down and if you have the corset/ control top underneath that goes to your waist, the bra will stay up and hold your dress into place.

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2. LIMPING AROUND IN HEELS TO GAIN A FEW INCHES.

I’ve been there and done that. “Oh, these stilettos make my legs look oh-so-good. I can last a few hours in them if I just stay seated most of the day.” This never works in my favor. By the end of the day, I look injured even walking to the bathroom. Thankfully, there are tons more heel options now that won’t ruin your feet! I am all about the chunky heel or wedge heel. Both of these options provide height and also support your back because they don’t unnaturally put all your weight on your toes. The key is to distribute your weight across the shoes instead of all on one spot.

3. PUTTING ON SPANX.

Oh, my goodness, putting on Spanx or anything control top is absolutely horrendous and a hard workout. And the worst part of it is taking it off and then feeling like a busted can of biscuits. Spanx are a great invention and absolutely streamline our silhouettes but, wow, they can hurt! If you are in pain wearing your Spanx, I recommend sizing up. You will still get the benefits of smaller waistline but you’ll be more comfortable, and thus a nicer person.

4. BUTTON DOWN SHIRTS.

I will always stand by this statement: women’s button down shirts need to be tailored. The most ill-fitting single piece of clothing ever is the button-down shirt. Ladies either buy them too small and have the awkward gaping holes that expose our bras or they buy them too big and it looks like your husband’s shirt. Either get your button down shirts tailored or shop at Brooks Brothers or a place that has more specific sizes than S-XL.

5. SHOPPING ALL DAY & FINDING NOTHING.

Ladies, this is super frustrating and we all have our good shopping days and our bad shopping days! I love to shop and almost always can find something to buy when I am out and about (this is both a curse and a blessing). However, I’ve had days where I ask, “Is anything fitting me today?”

The key to a successful shopping experience is to have no expectations. Don’t have the mission of finding a blue and white strapless dress with a sweetheart neckline and A-line skirt. You cannot be so specific! Go into your shopping experience with an open mind and be willing to try on clothes you haven’t thought to try on before.

Your mind will be blown as to what looks good on you that you never thought you would buy!

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Halshack

BY DAVID WILLARD

Nick Hornby wrote in the book, Songbook, “I love the relationship that anyone has with music ... because there’s something in us that is beyond the reach of words, something that eludes and defies our best attempts to spit it out. ...

It’s the best part of us probably ...” Music has that effect on our lives. It makes us feel. It makes us think. It helps see who we really are. In this month’s edition of “For Your Listening Pleasure,” the focus is on a local podcast that finds the best local and indie music around and brings it home to the Triad.

Halshack is local podcast that focuses on indie and local music. Produced by Hal Jester, the show is an outlet for these artists to “show their stuff” and give listeners a taste of the talent that is out there but maybe not heard by a huge audience. It is a haven that looks for emerging artists and unsigned acts. for

bands that I had found over my years.

I got to do some guest spots, it was a lot of fun and an amazing experience,” says Jester.

“Once I acquired enough bands, John Summers (former Virgin Records A&R and the owner of Reputation Radio) offered me my own show which allowed me to become entangled with some really cool people like Pete Ringmaster (Ringmaster Review -- UK) and Tom McNeil (Bombshell Radio -- Canada). Both of which I am still working with today!” he continues.

Hal Jester began his career as a local promoter in the area in 1998. He started small with two other business partners, and put on a few shows within the state, but life took him in a different direction when he became a father. Jester continued his career behind the scenes, helping push and promote a band he founded called On Second Thought.

This led Jester to helping with Road Runner Records Sign Me Too website and eventually the caught the attention of others at the label. Thus, began his journey to Halshack.

The rest is podcast history as Jester only needed to find a name for his show. “Soooo, I needed a name. I went through a few variations from, Howlin’ Hal to The Band Stop to Hal’s Bands.

Then I reluctantly decided on The Band Shack, but I wasn’t crazy about it. I was doing some brainstorming with my good buddy Matthew (aka Rango the Dog) and he blurted out, and I quote verbatim, ’Call it Halshack and hashtag the $#!^ out of that.’ But it had to have more than Halshack, so I thought ‘podcast’ … ugh, too boring and then a braingasm hit me: ‘rockcast.’ And I thought, yeah, that’s different, and the HALSHACK INDIE ROCKCAST was born. The first episode went live on Oct 16, 2014,” concluded Jester.

“Shortly after Road Runner’s demise, I befriended an awesome internet radio DJ from Seattle, WA, who is now my good dear buddy Matthew Meadows.

He offered me a guest spot on his popular indie show ‘Rango Unmuzzled’ (which was part of the Reputation Radio Network, an internet radio station based in the UK) to help promote some of my

Jester’s has no shortage of energy when discussing his show and the role he wants the show to play in the community. “I am passionate about this project. I make no money from what we do and certainly take no money from the bands. It is my goal to catch the attention of radio stations and networks, satellite radio, also the

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major record labels to possibly open doors and make contacts for all parties involved and especially to promote the BANDS and get them noticed. I am passionate about indie music and discovering hidden talent. I strive to find bands and artists (which are relatively unknown but have proven themselves successful in building their image and fanbase) that can compete with today’s industry standards,” he further comments.

Jester is also very proud of what makes his podcast unique and relevant. “I’m the one-stop shop for ace level indie bands and solo indie artists that can compete with or rival today’s stars that have their own potential hit songs, and some of them have several hit songs at that. So apart from offering some of the best (unknown) unsigned indie bands and artists, my show and my website are chock full of reasons why we are ‘unique.’ This is the only place you will find all these same acts under one roof. I offer a platform that no other radio show or podcast offers. I blend rock, pop, and alternative with a smattering of reggae, ska, punk, Americana, funk and modern blues,” he concludes.

Halshack is not a podcast for mainstream music lovers, but it is a podcast for music enthusiasts who yearn to hear something new or find the “next big act” in the music industry. It is a podcast for those who listen to find connections with songs from bands that they have never heard till now. In short, it’s a podcast for music lovers from true music lovers, and Hal Jester wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Meet Don Timmons

A Heart for Serving Veterans

BY VONDA HENDERSON

For those veterans who attend the veterans coffee events sponsored

by Hospice & Palliative CareCenter and Rowan Hospice & Palliative Care, Don Timmons may be a familiar face. He is also instrumental in planning and coordinating the events saluting veterans from World War II, Korea,Vietnam, and the upcoming Saluting Women Veterans scheduled for June 10 (see sidebar for additional information). He truly has a heart for service, especially for veterans. Like many who enjoy giving back to their community through their work or volunteer efforts, he’s not one to talk about himself much. He’d rather listen to others and talk about what’s planned for veterans.

Don is a veteran and served in the Army for two years with a tour of duty in Vietnam and Cambodia during 1969-1970. He served in the artillery with the First Infantry Division, 11th Armored Calvary. He was at Ft. Knox, Kentucky for his basic training and Ft. Sill, Oklahoma for advanced individual training. When honorably discharged from the Army, he was a Specialist – Fifth Class. He is proud of his service and that his family has a long history of service to our country.

After leaving the Army, he owned a business with his wife for a number of years. He had a strong interest in non-profit work and volunteered for nine years with the Make-A-Wish organization, becoming a staff member for four years. He also served on the board of Big Brother/Big Sisters and served twice in a big brother role. Don shared that one of his little brothers went on to join the US Marine Corps as his life’s plan.

Although semi-retired, Don shared he wanted to do something in the community, something that would make a difference. He found it. Don is now the Community Partnership & Veterans Support Coordinator with Hospice & Palliative CareCenter and Rowan Hospice & Palliative Care, and has been with the organization for 4 ½ years.

The veterans coffee events, which began about four years ago, are held monthly in 13 counties. “We found that these coffees continue to grow; they’re therapeutic for the veterans, they’re not political in any way, and are a way for veterans to get together in a comfortable, friendly environment,” said Don. “One of our objectives is to make sure veterans are aware of our services. We do so much in the community, from advance care planning, to providing hospice care, and extensive grief counseling, and most of services are at no cost,” he added. “We began inviting other organizations in to raise awareness about their services for veterans, too.” The coffees have become a place for fellowship and have developed a life of their own.

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“The veteran community has come to treasure our coffees and special events; and the relationships that have been established as a result seem as deeply rooted as lifelong friendships. We want all the veterans we connect with to be well informed about our supportive care and programs.

We also love how our coffees have connected veterans to one another, ” Ann Gauthreaux, Regional Director of Public Relations, Hospice & Palliative CareCenter and Rowan Hospice & Palliative Care shared.

For additional information about the services provided

by Hospice & Palliative CareCenter and Rowan Hospice & Palliative Care, contact them at 336.768.3972, or visit their website at HospiceCareCenter.org. For more information about the veteran coffees and other veteran programs, contact Don Timmons at 336.331.1309 or Don.Timmons@ hospicecarecenter.org. The veteran coffees are open to all veterans and are a wonderful opportunity to share a part of your life that no one but another veteran would understand.

Join them at the next veteran coffee near you!

Meet other fellow veterans at a special event, just for you, with a group photo, dinner, program, and entertainment.

Join us as we celebrate and thank you for your service!

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Dressing for

the Derby

BY VONDA HENDERSON

The attire for the Kentucky Derby is certainly spectacular, classic, timeless, or outrageous. It’s a time to see and be seen. For the grandstand, most outfits work well with the adjectives of classic or timeless, although the hats are in a category all their own. In the infield, well that’s a different story – the more outrageous, the better.

Homemade hats depicting the twin spires, a racetrack headpiece, a bouquet of roses – anything goes. All in all, it’s a kaleidoscope of colors no matter where you happen to be seated.

The jockeys who ride those beautiful three year old thoroughbreds to victory are decked out as well. Their basic outfit hasn’t changed much over the years. There have been some advances in fabrics and safety features added, but the overall scheme is fairly constant, and each part of their uniform has a purpose.

Overall, the jockey’s clothing is referred to as silks. In earlier years, the jacket was made from silk. The fabric was light, flexible, and airy – ideally suited to a sport where the weight of the rider is so important. Lycra has replaced silk as the predominant fabric, mostly due to its durability, and the fact that it also retains all the preferred properties of silk. The silk jacket worn is determined by the registered colors and pattern design of the owner or trainer. There are 18 colors available and registration of colors can range from one year, five years, ten years, or lifetime. Red has been a component of the most Derby wins, white is considered the luckiest color, brown is the least favored color. Most silks are comprised of at least three colors. The owner or trainer provides the jackets and all are one size fits all. If a jockey is riding in multiple races on a given day, all he needs to change is his jacket to

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designate who he’s riding for in that race. Under their jackets, jockeys now wear protective vests to help prevent broken ribs in a fall. A cravat finishes out the look.

A jockey’s riding breeches are white, tightly fitted, and usually tucked into patent leather riding boots. Jockeys usually have several pair in different weights for cooler or wet weather conditions.

The caps that jockeys wear are for protection from head injuries and are replaced if they are ever part of an accident. Their cost ranges from $500 to $900 each. Caps are covered in the same colors as their jackets.

Goggles are important eye protection for jockeys, especially if the track is muddy. Jockeys may wear as many as nine pair at the start of the race and as they get splattered, pull that pair down under their chin and keep going. There’s no limit on how many pairs of goggles they can wear; the goal is obviously to still have a pair on by the end of the race.

What is the ultimate item that a jockey and thoroughbred want to wear on Derby Day? They run for that garland of roses! There are approximately 460 roses that are hand selected from over 7,000 roses shipped to Churchill Downs. The garland, once completed, is 122 inches long by 22 inches wide and weighs over 40 pounds. The winning jockey receives his own bouquet of 60 long stemmed roses.

If you’re lucky enough to be at Churchill Downs, great! If not, join the televised show on the first Saturday in May for the Run for the Roses! There’s nothing that compares to the Kentucky Derby!

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John C. Hedley, LTC USA, Retired

Saddle Up (The Story of a Red Scarf)

BY VONDA HENDERSON

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

John Hedley grew up as an Army kid. His dad served in the Army until John was 10 years old. During those years, John lived in Japan for three years, France for three years and, finally, in the United States in California and at Fort Benning, Georgia. Upon retirement, John’s dad relocated his family to his hometown of Rochester, NY where John lived until he graduated from high school. After graduation, he enlisted in the Army and was sent to Fort Dix for basic training. He had dreamed of attending West Point and learned that the Army offered a preparatory school for regular Army and reserve soldiers who wanted to go to West Point. John was accepted into the USMAPS program at Fort Belvoir, VA for a year of intense academic study. After that, he was off to West Point.

Upon graduation in 1968, John volunteered to serve in Vietnam as his first assignment. The experiences John shares in his book are a testament to the bravery of the men who served and their friendships forged in knowing that each one protected the other at all times.

Nowadays, John can be found at Richard’s Coffee Shop in Mooresville, NC. The shop is a non-profit shop designed with veterans in mind but open to everyone. Visiting to enjoy a cup of coffee, taking in the military items on display and listening to veterans swap stories is a unique experience, not to be missed.

ABOUT: SADDLE UP (THE STORY OF A RED SCARF)

John shares his experiences in Vietnam from first stepping off the plane in the searing heat to the jungles so dense it was hard to see through the foliage. He takes his readers along on reconnaissance missions where each step is taken quietly and carefully, knowing that the enemy may be anywhere, watching and waiting. Written in the first person, with commentary from other platoon members, this book paints an unvarnished picture of the life of an Army soldier.

INSPIRATION FOR SADDLE UP (THE STORY OF A RED SCARF)

John shared that he had two primary reasons for writing Saddle Up. “I wanted to document the legacy of this unique, special group of men it was my honor to lead in 1969 – the reconnaissance platoon known as Fox Force (1st Battalion, 14th Infantry, 4th Infantry Division),” he said.

“Members of Fox Force earned their red scarves as an award of valor from a South Vietnamese unit, and wore them all the time, even on missions. We learned through a POW that the North Vietnamese had a $10,000 bounty on us for anyone who could kill a Fox Force member and claim his red scarf. To my knowledge, no one ever succeeded.”

John’s second goal for the book was to dispel the perceptions that Vietnam veterans experienced upon coming home. He has firsthand experiences of ridicule from protesters when he reached American soil; it was quite a shock. The majority of those who served in Vietnam did so with valor and honor, putting their lives on the line every day. They deserved a better homecoming.

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John captures the strength of friendships that sustained them after their service and how they kept connected over the years. It’s an account of bonds that are forged and unbreakable, of men who continue to have each other’s backs even now. John brings readers full circle, from Vietnam to present day, sharing friends and extended families that have stories worth sharing and remembering.

WHERE TO FIND SADDLE UP (THE STORY OF A RED SCARF)

Saddle Up (The Story of a Red Scarf) was published by A15 Publishing Company (a veteran-owned business) in late 2017. The book is available on Amazon.com and on John’s website (Saddleup-redscarf.com), which has a link back to Amazon.com for ordering.

Copies of Saddle Up (The Story of a Red Scarf), signed by the author, are also available at Richard’s Coffee Shop. The shop, located on Main Street in downtown Mooresville, is a non-profit offering coffee and a “Welcome Home Veterans” ever-growing display of memorabilia. Their hours are Monday through Saturday from 7:30am to 3pm. If you’re a veteran, Thursday is your day – coffee is free to veterans that day. On an average Thursday, about 100 to 120 veterans stop by to enjoy a cup and visit with each other. Saturday is also a high attendance day with live music in the morning. However, you don’t have to be a veteran to enjoy the warm hospitality of Richard’s Coffee Shop. Stop by for a copy of Saddle Up, to see the displays and enjoy a taste of history, served with a hot cup of coffee. You shouldn’t miss a deal like that!

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THIS MOTHER’S DAY, HELP MOM IN THE KITCHEN

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Mom is not going to tell you what she wants for Mother’s Day. And if she gives you any hint, it’s only going to be that she wants to spend time with you (which, of course, she does!). Just don’t expect her to give you an idea. That’s not what moms do! But more than likely, you can pull a memory or 2,000 from your memory bank, and remember all the times Mom asked for help in the kitchen. She worked hard, came home, and got to work on a meal to feed you and the family.

With that memory in mind, wouldn’t a Dream Dinners experience make an extraordinary Mother’s Day gift? “Here, Mom! Dinner is prepped and ready to make! You don’t need to worry about cleaning cutting boards or getting out knives or measuring spoons, or anything else. It’s all measured, packaged, and ready to cook!”

Few moms are going to turn THAT offer down!

Home-cooked. Nutritious. Delicious. All the things she gave you.

Now, it’s your turn to give to her.

Owner Pat Gattis and his wife were regular customers of Dream Dinners for years before they bought the Clemmons location in 2016. “Dream Dinners was the perfect solution for our family and our busy lifestyle. We love helping families discover delicious dinner options at home that are both affordable and nutritious. Moms – at any stage of motherhood – absolutely love the convenience and practical solution to meet dinner needs any night of the week!”

For new moms who are learning how to manage the responsibilities of a new baby, to the seasoned moms who are juggling soccer schedules and ballet practice... to the empty-nest moms who haven’t mastered the art of cooking for a couple instead of a family… Dream Dinners is the perfect solution for every mom at every season in her mom-career.

The May menu promises some great options she’ll love, including: • Cubano Chicken with Black Beans and Rice • Chipotle Shrimp with Mango Salsa • Chicken Costoletta with Almond Green Beans • Homemade Turkey Parmesan Meatballs with Cavaatappi • Flank Steak Chimichurri That’s just a few of the mouth-watering options! But whether you select and prepare meals for her, or give her a gift certificate to enjoy the experience together (yes – she’ll want you to go with her!), Dream Dinners is a delicious gift she’s going to savor. She will thank you with every bite!

Dream Dinners Clemmons is located at 6276 Towncenter Dr., in Clemmons. Call 336.766.0644 or visit DreamDinners.com to see the current and upcoming menu. Be sure to like them on Facebook (Dream Dinners Clemmons).

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Big Girls Can Cry, Too

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

When you were only six years old, wailing out in disbelief because your favorite toy broke, your mom would probably tell you, “It’s okay, don’t cry. Big girls don’t cry!” As a child, you likely believed that “grown-ups” don’t cry. After all, your six-year-old self has probably never seen your mother cry, or your grandmother, or any other adult shed tears. Perhaps you thought that growing up meant you had to pack your tears in a suitcase and ship them away. Even as an adult, you may still feel that shedding tears will make you feel immature or weak. Well, here I am to tell you that big girls can cry, too! There are some powerful positives of releasing tears.

TEARS RELEASE TOXINS

Just like sweating and urinating, our bodies remove toxins every time there is a liquid discharge. This includes crying as well. Shedding tears is a discharge from our eyes that release toxins and chemicals like cortisol. Cortisol builds up during emotional stress which helps with the fight or flight response. But too much cortisol built up in our systems will cause lower immunity, high cholesterol levels, high blood pressure, weight gain and lower bone density, and will weaken learning and memory areas. So, if you need to cry, don’t hold back. Release that extra cortisol your body doesn’t need!

CRYING RELIEVES STRESS & UPLIFTS MOODS

If you have a habit of holding back the tears, drop that habit! Built up stress and frustration cause physical health problems such as headaches and high blood pressure, and crying is a release that can prevent those issues. Have you ever noticed that your mood is uplifted a little and your body is more relaxed after you let your tears out? Do you feel a little less stressed afterwards? That’s because crying is more self-

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soothing and mood-elevating than antidepressants! Crying is a safe and effective way to deal with stress by releasing built up emotions.

So, whether you’re at work, at home, at the store, or in the doctor’s office…wherever you are, if you need to find a private place to release it all, cry in that place. Your body needs it.

TEARS IMPROVE OUR VISION

It may be a lesser known fact, but crying could help you see better!

Tears are designed to lubricate the eyeballs and eyelids, and wash away dust and debris and keep them moist. Dry eyes have a blurrier vision that can be improved by…yes, crying!

CRYING LOWERS BLOOD PRESSURE

It’s true! Crying is a form of relaxation and is shown to alleviate stress and blood pressure by releasing unnecessary cortisol which can cause high blood pressure if the body builds up too much of the hormone. Therefore, therapy sessions—or any situation that resembles a therapy session—are so destressing and liberating (especially if there’s someone on the other end who can empathize with you, offer perspective, and help you with your situation).

CRYING REDUCES MANGANESE

What is manganese? It’s a mood-affecting mineral that is found mostly in tears and, to a much lesser degree, in blood. High levels of manganese is associated with anxiety, aggression, and irritability.

So, holding back tears does more harm to your mind and body than you think. Believe it or not, crying when you really need to makes you a happier, calmer, and younger looking person, when you really think about it. You’re unleashing all the stress that ages you, empathizing more with others, and cleansing your body.

No matter what this world says, crying is an act of courage and healing and not a weakness. So go on, big girls can cry, too!

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Choosing a Groomer

BY NICOLE TILLER, OWNER OF BARK OF THE TOWN

Choosing a groomer for your beloved fur baby can be a confusing experience.

There are so many different types of salons, and each can greatly vary in how they operate. Asking some of the following questions can help narrow down your options, and help ensure that your baby is handled safely, in an environment in which he or she is most comfortable, and receives a top quality grooming service with results that will last.

First and foremost, always make sure that your groomer is qualified to groom dogs. Many pet parents are not aware that grooming is a completely unregulated industry. Anyone can advertise themselves as a groomer, regardless of training or experience, and this can lead to tragedy. Always verify that a business is legitimate and carries insurance, and that the groomer has been properly trained. If the groomer has a website or social media, check out the photos of their work, and be sure to observe the background.

Does the pet in the photo have a clean, balanced trim? Does he or she look happy? Does the grooming area appear to be clean and safe? Always trust your instincts.

Second, how long will your pet be at the salon, and where will he or she be housed while there? At Bark of the Town, we typically ask 3-5 hours for your fur baby’s spa day so they can have breaks and some play time, and we are a mostly kennel free salon. Our dogs hang out in a daycare type environment and are only separated or kenneled if needed. While this works for our

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clients, some pet parents may choose a groomer that has only one pet at a time and grooms them straight through, or a salon where pets are housed in kennels.

Many people prefer to use a mobile groomer where a van that has been converted into a salon comes to your home and grooms your fur baby in your driveway. Each groomer operates his or her salon in the way that works best for themselves and their clients, and there is always someone out there that will have the type of environment and scheduling that will work for your family.

After you have narrowed your choices down to a few businesses that are trustworthy and will have an environment where your fur baby will be comfortable, social media can be a great tool to help make your final decision. Check out the grooming salon’s reviews to see what others are saying, and ask for recommendations in your local community groups to see where others are going.

Once you have found your groomer, be sure to call and get on their schedule as soon as possible. The best groomers fill up quickly, and many have clients who are already booked out for the year, limiting their schedules. This is a good sign that they have happy clientele, and that your fur baby will be safe and happy in their care!

Bark of the Town is located at 2668 Lewisville-Clemmons Road, Unit #8, Clemmons, NC. For more information, ‘like’ Bark of the Town Pet Salon & Spa on Facebook or call / text Nicole at 336-354-7955.

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#3 OF 4: THE INTERIOR’S NOOKS & CRANNIES

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The car’s cleaning supplies are often located in a handled bucket filled with a variety of towels, sponges and long and short armed brushes. And, when car enthusiasts have finished extending their arms to reach uncomfortable narrow grooves and crevices, the words, “not clean enough” may hang silently in the air. What drivers truly seek is a deep clean where lint, dirt, dust and crumbs are eliminated and replaced with what is longed for…the new car smell. Stock your pockets with rolled newspaper, toothbrushes, Q-tips and delicate sponges and brushes, this month we are getting into those tough nooks and crannies.

Air Filters: If a lurking stench has lingered for several weeks, one place you may want to access is the air filter. Check your car’s manual to find its location. The air filter may be harboring debris that can easily be cleaned with a brush, or mold, which will result in its replacement. Make a note to check your filters, regularly!

Air Vents: It is not healthy to breathe in the dust surrounding your vents. The one tool for this job is a thin foam brush. Gently clean the top and bottom of the vents with the panels opened and closed while having your vacuum attachment tool close. (Don’t forget to thoroughly vacuum your brush after use to ensure the excess dust doesn’t become lodged into another location. Lastly, spray two quick jets of compressed air into the vents to clean out any residual dust.

Console: The console is a large task. A towel can be used to wipe large surfaces; however, more delicate tools are necessary such as a Q-tip to follow the grooves and other indented or raised areas. When using a brush to clean the knobs and buttons, a vacuum tool used for suction can remove all the dust. If dirt is embedded into the vinyl, use a toothbrush to scrub.

Cup Holders: While a thin towel may fit inside a cup holder to remove the grime, you will need a useful cleaning tool to access the tiniest of crevices. Ah, a Q-tip! Buy 1,000 for

your bucket! Once clean, place a cupcake baking cup to eliminate the future mess.

Dashboard: After cleaning the surface with a microfiber towel, the tools in cleaning the dashboard are a toothbrush and Q-tip. It will be a preference how you achieve removing dirt from the crease between the windshield and the dashboard.

Windows: One of the best tools for your windows is not a towel but crumpled up newspaper. It will remove all the dirt and clean your windows beautifully. If your interior window is grimy from fingerprints and food, try mixing a teaspoon of dishwashing soap with lukewarm water and a half cap full of white vinegar. A cloth can be dipped into the mixture and used to clean the window.

Tip: Keep a bottle of clear nail polish in your console. To prevent a crack from expanding, dab clear nail polish on and surrounding the crack.

A NEW BUCKET OF SUPPLIES

Looking into your bucket of car care cleaning products, it may contain new items such as freshly laundered towels and wellcleaned brushes or new sponges. In lieu of dishwashing liquid, a bottle of shampoo is present to clean your vehicle and tires. And, perhaps, even a preferred polish and wax.

In clear plastic Ziploc bags, there may be Q-tips and labeled toothbrushes (for their intended purpose). The rewards of car care and maintenance is paying off! Friends will soon comment on your vehicle’s shine or the interior’s cleanliness. Don’t worry when the dog nose smears or the child’s food stains return on the windows, you have a plan for quick removal! One area of “Car Care” remains. June presents how to clean the upholstery!

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Rolling Thunder® NC 2

Providing Support to Veterans

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Perhaps you’ve heard of Rolling Thunder®. Do you equate them with the massive motorcycle ride to Washington D. C. over Memorial Day Weekend? That event, known as a demonstration ride, is perhaps their more visible undertaking; however, their work for and support of veterans goes so much beyond that weekend. As Sonny Deal, President of Rolling Thunder® NC 2, shared, “We have six Rolling Thunder® chapters in North Carolina and over 90 chapters across the United States. This coming September will be our chapter’s 20th anniversary; currently we have 65 to 70 active members. The main thing that someone needs to become part of our chapter is a heart for helping veterans; you don’t have to own or ride a motorcycle to become involved.”

The national mission statement of Rolling Thunder®, Inc. is: “The major function of Rolling Thunder®, Inc. is to publicize the POW-MIA issue: to educate the public that many American prisoners of war were left behind after all previous wars, and to help correct the past and to protect future veterans from being left behind should they become prisoners of war-missing in action. We are also committed to helping American veterans from all wars.”

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE CHAPTER’S KEY ACTIVITIES? THE DEMONSTRATION RIDE

In the 2017 demonstration ride, over one million motorcyclists participated. After arriving in Washington D. C., typically the ride begins at the Pentagon, riding down Constitution Avenue past the White House, and ends at the Lincoln and Vietnam Memorials. The event includes guest speakers and special musical performances.

“I have been privileged to participate for the last eight years,” Sonny shared.

THE MISSING MAN TABLE

This presentation is a moving tribute to the men and women missing in action as a result of their in service to our country. It is a humbling visual reminder of those men and women who never came home.

The narrator explains the symbolism of each item on the table – the overturned goblets indicates a missing person, a single rose, a red ribbon, and chairs draped with MIA flags. As the narrator calls out each branch of service, a chapter member marches in carrying a dress cap from that branch and takes their place behind one of the chairs.

At the conclusion, a cap is placed at each table setting.

Sonny shared that this tribute is planned for the Veteran Coffee event at Richard Childress’ race shop on Wednesday, May 2. The event opens around 8:00 am with the program planned to begin at 8:30 am.

“There are still 38 NC veterans unaccounted for who served in Vietnam and who still need to come home,” Sonny shared.

“Whenever possible, we ride in tribute and escort returning veterans to their final resting places. We have been honored to do this for veterans who served in World War II, Korea, and Vietnam.”

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BINGO NIGHTS AT THE VA

On a monthly basis, chapter members visit the VA in Salisbury to visit and play bingo with veterans. The chapter provides treat bags for each veteran based on their individual dietary restrictions. Rhonda Deal, Rolling Thunder® NC 2 Secretary, shared, “Most of these veterans don’t have families to visit them. They look forward to our time together and we get so much from spending time with them. We usually start playing around 6:30 pm; it’s a fun evening for all of us.”

FOOD DRIVE

Twice a year during the spring and fall seasons, the chapter sponsors a food drive for the Asheville Restoration Quarters, a recovery center for drug and alcohol abuse targeting veterans dealing with PTSD. The primary goal of the facility is to assist veterans in recovery and support them as they get their lives back on track.

4TH OF JULY PARADE

Faith, NC, a small town near Salisbury, hosts one of the largest 4th of July parades in the country. In fact, US presidents have attended the event. Rolling Thunder® NC 2 participates annually with at least 10 to 15 motorcycles decked out with flags unfurled. This is heartland at its best, celebrating with fire trucks, floats, and vintage cars, with plenty of good food, and friends and neighbors congregating to celebrate our freedoms.

CHRISTMAS EVENTS

For Christmas 2017, Vickie Fraley, Chapter Treasurer, felt they needed to plan something special. The chapter created individual Christmas presents filled with socks, gloves, sweatshirts, and other items in each veteran’s size and delivered at their Christmas party for homeless veterans. All total, 250 presents were presented. In addition, Christmas boxes were delivered to the NC Veterans Retirement Home (on the campus of VA Hospital in Salisbury) filled with toiletries and things to benefit veterans on a daily basis.

For more information on donations, events, or membership, contact Rhonda Deal, Rolling Thunder® NC 2 Secretary, via phone (336-4693415), or by e-mail (rdeal5900@gmail.com). Or, you may also contact Sonny Deal, Rolling Thunder® NC 2 President via phone (704.929.0477) or via his e-mail (sonnydeal@hotmail.com). Follow the chapter on their website (Rollingthundernc2.org) for upcoming activities.

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& Brett Duffey: Specializing in Neuropathy to Help You Feel Better!

BY MARY V. HOLLINGSWORTH

technician! “I interned with Complete Rehab while I was in school at Guilford College,” shared Emily. “I loved the experience I had during my internship and I was thrilled to be able to officially join the team after graduation!” Emily earned a bachelor’s in exercise sport science and her role at Complete Rehab is to make sure things run smoothly and efficiently.

She ensures that supplies are where they are needed and the overall experience of the patients goes smoothly. “I love being with people,” said Emily. “This clinic is the ideal setting for relationship building, and forming quality relationships that make each person unique.” In her spare time, Emily enjoys anything that takes her outdoors; she loves the mountains and dreams of one day living at the beach.

Complete Rehab is thrilled to welcome Tayler Saxton, OTR/L. Tayler is a graduate from Winston-Salem State University where he received his Master of Science in Occupational Therapy and Complete Rehab is delighted to welcome him to our team!

Before beginning his journey to becoming an occupational therapist, Tayler received his Bachelor of Science in exercise physiology and also studied kinesiology at Campbell University. After receiving his bachelor’s degree, he had the pleasure of working as an exercise physiologist specializing in orthopedics and amputations in Fayetteville, NC. As an exercise physiologist, he also worked with patients through the Wounded Warrior Project, which ultimately led him to pursue a career in occupational therapy due to the individualized, and personal care the profession allows therapists to provide to their patients. Tayler says, “I love getting to know each and every one of my patients and strive to provide the best care possible. In my free time, I love exercising and woodworking. I have a personal goal to one day become the next American Ninja Warrior!”

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At Complete Rehab, Brett Duffey is an occupational therapist who specializes in the treatment of neuropathy and pain. He has treated over 2600 patients with neuropathy in the last 12 years. He has achieved a VERY high success rate in dramatically relieving or completely eliminating the aforementioned symptoms. Because he specializes in neuropathy, he understands neuropathy, the different types, and how the 3-part neurological chain works. He stays current with all the latest medical breakthroughs and findings. Unless your doctor specializes SPECIFICALLY in neuropathy, Brett is aware of some things they likely have not even heard of yet.

Therefore, if you are having any abnormal symptoms in your arms, hands, legs, feet, or anywhere else on your body, you likely have some form of neuropathy...

EVEN IF YOU HAVE NOT PREVIOUSLY BEEN DIAGNOSED BY YOUR DOCTOR! If you have seen multiple doctors and feel like it has been a waste of time, you truly need to see Brett. His experience is unmatched, and his track record is PHENOMENAL! There are very few insurance companies that even require a referral from your doctor to see Brett. He accepts Medicare and is in nearly every other major provider network. If you call him, he can

tell you what your plan requires and can even give you a free consultation on the phone or meet you in person at Complete Rehab to discuss your problems and determine if he can help you. Whether you’ve been diagnosed with neuropathy or not, Brett truly understands neuropathy, how it works, and how to treat it. After seeing Brett, you will likely join his rapidly growing list of satisfied customers, some who have come from as far as Georgia and West Virginia to receive his treatment.

Feel free to visit his Website at CRTherapy.com to learn more or listen to some previous patients’ testimonials about his treatments. If you are just plain tired of suffering and need answers or help, you owe it to yourself to pick up the phone and give him a call today! He is in Clemmons at Complete Rehab, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall, Suite 22 (beside K-Mart) and his number is 336-778-0292.

A doctor’s referral is no longer required (in most cases—including Medicare) to see a specialist for your pain or discomfort from neuropathy, all insurances will pay for some or all of these treatments.

Have you tried medicine after medicine, seen multiple doctors or tried many different things with no relief of your symptoms? Ever had a doctor or loved one tell you, “There’s nothing more you can do about it – you’re just going to have to learn to live with it”? Well, times and medical advancements have changed with NEUROPATHY.

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BRETT’S SPECIALTY: NEUROPATHY

Something as simple as irritating sensations in your arms, legs, feet or hands can all be indicators of some form of neuropathy—even if you have not been “officially” diagnosed with it. Brett Duffey is an occupational therapist who specializes in pain control and all types of neuropathy. He has treated over 2600 patients in the last 12 years and has had a very high success rate in dramatically relieving or completely eliminating the aforementioned symptoms. He understands that no two cases of neuropathy are the same, or necessarily respond to the same medication, and will commonly require two similar but different treatment programs.

Brett will take the time to develop a specific INDIVIDUALIZED treatment plan for you. Brett believes in small, patient-focused care and because of that, he’s not a part of a hospital system. The majority of his referrals are from other independent physicians, such as privatepractice neurologists, not to mention current and former patient referrals. He receives calls weekly from people who have tried “everything” without results, but have heard their friends’ and families’ success stories with Brett. After treatment with him, many feel the best they have in years and wish they had seen Brett sooner!

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Mirabella’s Miracle: Music to Benefit Preemie Babies

Max Petruzzi was only five years old when his little sister, Mirabella, was born three months premature.

At age five, Max didn’t quite understand the severity of Mirabella’s condition, but looking back at this time, a little older, he realized that his family truly endured an emotional trauma. During her NICU stay, Mirabella contracted a very serious septic infection and almost died. It was a blessing to have eventually been able to bring Mirabella home in perfect health.

BY SAVANNAH NORRIS As a result of Max’s personal the charity and funds he raises via music. From Daisha, mom of Amora, 31-weeks-old, “The small provisions are so impactful and nurturing to experience, at age fourteen he created a family who has a baby in the NICU. All of the snacks, meals, and gifts Mirabella’s Miracle to help other families going through a similar experience. for the baby and family make it a bit easier to be here.”

The official 501 (c) (3) non-profit While Max has many videos on his YouTube channel under the name organization provides care packages Max Petruzzi, including one of his more famous YouTube videos, a and meals to families in NICU, in hopes “Talking to the Moon” Bruno Mars cover with about 100K views, his of offering them a little comfort in an goal was never to be famous. Max only wanted to generate funding to uncomfortable and scary time. Since help others in need. Most of the videos are meant to fund Mirabella’s 2014, Mirabella’s Miracle has helped Miracle, though some of them were created to assist in hurricane those in North Carolina, New York, and relief and to encourage donations for the Second Harvest Food New Jersey.

Bank. Creating and producing music has proved an incredibly unique To generate donations for the care platform that pays off. packages, Max began producing music Max is now eighteen-years-old and is making even more strides with videos, gaining more than 200,000 the charity now while attending the University of North Carolina at views on YouTube, numerous news Chapel Hill. He has just started a university club called Mirabella’s interviews, and internet stardom. While Miracle at Carolina that is based on the official 501(c)(3) Mirabella’s he’s no Backstreet Boy or One Direction Miracle Charity for students to help with delivering care packages member, Max is a miracle worker, and dinners to UNC Children’s Hospital, organizing fundraising positively affecting the stay of many events, as well as raising money and awareness through music. families in the Currently Max is working with Savannah Norris, Jake Donofrio, Aidan NICU through Cundiff, and Nightsound Studios in Carrboro, North Carolina, to produce an original song written by Savannah Norris. The song, “In Time,” is to be released on iTunes in the upcoming months. It will be performed on campus at a corn hole tournament fundraiser to benefit Mirabella’s Miracle, as well as a few live jam sessions at various popular UNC-CH campus locations to promote campus life and student involvement. More information on “In Time” will be available at MirabellasMiracle.com and on Max’s YouTube Channel under the name Max Petruzzi once released.

Max and everyone involved with the charity are working hard to make a difference in the lives of families in the NICU. You can make a difference, too. Any donations towards the charity are welcome. You can donate directly on MirabellasMiracle.com where the charity’s PayPal is linked. Feel free to follow Mirabella’s Miracle on any social media, as well @MirabellasMiracle to keep up with the charity’s influence on communities. Please email mirabellasmiracle@unc.edu with any questions. We hope you enjoy our next project and original song, “In Time” and look forward to using any donations to create more projects and to help comfort more families.

Max and his sister, Mirabella, at the hospital before his family was able to take her home. Mirabella spent 6 weeks in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit.

Mirabella was born at only 3 pounds, 2 ounces and was about the length of a ruler.

Max was not able to see Mirabella for the first month of her life, so he was thrilled to finally meet her.

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

APRON SINKS & DEEP WELLS Whether you plan to build or buy a home, remodel a room or seek ideas to expand your “green” footprint, we are all in the beginning stages of constructing our dreams. Each month, this column will invite you to look beyond the usual ideas and consider alternative costeffective and eco-friendly options. With so many topics to explore, from top to bottom, room to room, inside and out, the goal of a vision is to take a firm step forward and begin living the dream.

Within our home, the heirlooms of our heart rest in special, eyecatching locations. Beyond the bowls or vases, china patterns or antique chairs connected to a fond memory, we find household fixtures an additional link to our past. Do you recall a deep basin in the kitchen, back porch, or basement of your grandparents’ or great aunt and uncle’s home, referred to as a farmhouse sink or deep well?

THE APRON SINK

Not that long ago, water was hauled from wells or pumps to wash dishes or to be boiled for food or wash clothing. Before a plumbing system, dry sinks were used that required a manual drain. The women worked tirelessly bending and pulling to ensure the household chore was done well. One convenience was the creation of the apron sink, also referred to as a farmhouse sink. Designed for comfort, it offered a forward orientation to ease the strain from leaning over and straining the back muscles.

Today, an apron sink is still valued for its deep basin accommodating large pots and pans, and how easy it makes washing large items such as griddles and baking sheets. It is not just for the women who spend a substantial amount of time washing or preparing meals, though. The beauty of the exposed basin jutting forward a few inches from the countertop has become an important design feature of the kitchen. For the practical side of beauty and space, comfort and function, the apron sink is a wonderful choice if seeking a striking kitchen fixture for your home.

They come in a wide variety of sizes ranging from 20 inches in length to 60. Knowing how you will use the sink can help make a decision. Additionally, consider asking yourself whether your current sink is adequately sized, or too small to accommodate cumbersome items. If the apron sink appeals to you, finding the size you need is an easy task. As an owner of a 39 ½ inch ivory apron sink, we simply love ours!

THE DEEP WELL

In thinking of the multitude of purposes a deep basin, large enough to bathe a small child, could serve, there is another type of functional sink called the deep well. Homes constructed in the early 1900s had deep wells made of concrete, often located in basements to assist with the family washing, whether it was laundry or young children. Today, these enlarged sinks of varying

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sizes and depths serve a different purpose. Imagine having a deep sink in your laundry room to soak stained garments or to simply wash your hands after touching dirty clothes and detergents. In the basement, the deep well could be situated just inside the doorway to aid in cleaning dirty paws or muddied boots or used as a means to wash fresh produce from the garden.

The sink comes with the option of sturdy legs, or it can be placed on a wooden platform. You may recall Grandma personally sewed a skirt with pockets and an elastic band that held against the sink’s belly to hide the legs and a box of frequently used items. Despite the deep well’s lack of elegance in comparison to the apron sink, the rustic appeal has a multitude of uses, and memories to create!

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The Ins and Outs of an Indoor or Outdoor Wedding

BY BRITTANY ORIE

One of the first steps in wedding planning is choosing between an indoor or outdoor venue. Here are some pros and cons of each to narrow down your decision!

PROS

CONS

Spacing. Space constraints can be a problem if you’re opting for a large crowd. Have in mind the size of your guest list before and during your venue search. If the space is too small, guests may feel cramped and it’s not good to have a vast area with very few guests (which is also not good for your pockets).

Weather protection. Because weather can be so unpredictable, indoor weddings can be ideal. Of course, you will need strong shelter to protect from the rain, snow, wind, or scorching heat.

Indoor venues are handy because they provide cool shelter on 100-degree days and a warm, dry shelter from cold, wet and wintry days. So please keep the weather in mind when contemplating venues.

Venue pricing. Depending on your venue of choice, prices will fluctuate. It’s probably more affordable to hold your ceremony at a church. The more elegant, elaborate, and spacious your spot is, the higher the prices will be. Unless the venue offers wedding packages, remember that you still must pay for other goods such as catering, music, and decorations.

Indoor Wedding

Creative venues. Indoor wedding choices can range anywhere from your home church to a ballroom to one’s own living room!

Based on your style and personality, you may even opt for a nontraditional venue such as an elegant, historic library or an art museum, if they offer wedding venue rentals.

Numerous design options. Depending on the type of indoor venue you choose, you can allow your creativity to explode when tinkering with design ideas. If the venue alone doesn’t offer much range of visual design, you can get inventive with decorating seats, the aisle, pews, or the altar. Keep in mind, the simpler the venue appears the more you can decorate it and the more intricate the venue is designed, the less you may have to decorate.

Intimate setting. Most of the time, being indoors compels intimacy between guests and loved ones and will help cultivate conversation. So, an indoor wedding will definitely add an intimate mood to the atmosphere and will help everyone to focus their attention on the couple.

Nice and private. Say you don’t want to publicize the wedding to the point where it begins to feel as though you were putting on a glam show rather than focusing on holy matrimony. If you want a small ceremony that is closed off from the public with a limited guest list, then an indoor wedding is perfect!

Family-friendly. Outdoor venues usually offer space for children to run around during the reception. Kids love playing outdoors, so make sure they can be content as well.

Offers adequate scenery. Many couple and guests will enjoy the natural beauty that surrounds them. Attractive scenery also provides a natural backdrop for photos, natural lighting, and even less decorating!

Wide selection of venues. Just like indoor ceremonies, outdoor ceremonies carry on a wide range of venues. Couples can opt to wed at a garden, a park, on the beach, in a vineyard, or even a farm!

CONS

Venue pricing. If the outdoor venue you choose doesn’t come with a package deal, you will have to pay for the other wedding goods and these expenses can add up. Make sure you save your money and plan well in advance.

Unpredictable weather. These days, it’s hard to predict the weather. It’s especially stressful when planning an outdoor wedding. Be mindful of the time of year and location, coupled with the weather. A great back up plan is doing the wedding and reception in an elegant, sturdy tent.

Lastly, keep the needs of elders and children in mind when narrowing down your options, as your guests’ contentment matters, too!

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Spacious. You wouldn’t have to worry about space constraints here! The majority of outdoor venues naturally have more space than indoor ones. Most of the time, receptions are held in the same area rather than indoor ones where the guests may have to drive to the reception.

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Jenni Carowan is a real estate sales professional in Lewisville and has joined the Keller Williams Triad Market Center after working as a teacher with the WinstonSalem/Forsyth County Schools, most recently at Jefferson Elementary School.

She received a Master of Arts in Teaching from Salem College in 2006 and has been a board member for the North Carolina Reading Association and the Forsyth County Reading Association. “Working in the real estate industry combines my passion for teaching and helping others with very important decisions,” said Jenni. “At Keller Williams Realty, I love that they truly care about their agents, provide excellent training, and are so involved in community service.” Jenni and her husband Jeff have lived in Forsyth County since 1992 and have two sons, Andy and Sam. She has volunteered with several organizations including Pinedale Christian Church and Operation Christmas Child and is a breast cancer survivor! “Going through that experience heightened my passion for helping others and gave me a new perspective on life,” said Jenni.

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Anita Dean Arnette is a radio personality and marketing specialist with The Light Gospel Radio. She attended Livingstone College and has now been in radio for more than 35 years. She enjoys music, writing poetry and has a passion for helping young children and the elderly. Her platform is “…a ministry of love and compassion; to encourage and promote God’s love for HIS people even in hard and critical times,” said Anita.

She believes she has truly been blessed by the Lord and gives Him all the praise. Since she has been in Gospel radio, she is recognized more and more for her “labor of love.” She has received many awards, but just recently she was honored by The Winston Salem Chronicle with the Lifetime Achievement Award. “To God be the glory,” said Anita. “I just want to tell Him ‘thank you.’” She has been giving to her community for more than 30 years and she is big on family as a wife, mother, grandmother and, most of all, as a Christian woman that loves the Lord.

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Donna Bates is the new communications coordinator for the Lewisville Clemmons Chamber of Commerce. “I love the sense of community in Lewisville and Clemmons and am excited to be a part of this neighborhood of people,” she said. A long time resident of Forsyth County, Donna graduated from R.J. Reynolds High School. She earned her associate of arts from LeesMcRae College and her bachelor of science degree from Appalachian State University. Donna has a strong marketing background having worked for more than 26 years with Hanesbrands, Inc. as a promotions marketing professional. “I have a heart for serving others and have volunteered at Wake Forest Baptist Health and in multiple capacities at my church over the years,” she said. Donna enjoys spending time with her husband, Tony, two grown daughters and sons-in-laws and adores her five grandchildren!

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Who N eed s a Vacation ?

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Vacation is defined by Webster as “an extended period of recreation, especially one spent away from home or in traveling.” Hmmm, that sounds a bit bland. Let’s get down to some basic questions.

What is a vacation? A break from the day-to-day grind.

Who needs a vacation? You do; we all do.

What do we do on vacation? “A vacation is having nothing to do and all day to do it.” (Robert Orben, comedy writer) The sad irony is that Americans leave a lot of vacation days on the table, never to be used. According to the US Travel Association, in 2016 a total of 662 million vacation days went unused. Glassdoor statistics indicate that the average American only takes half of their allotted vacation days on an annual basis and that this trend has been going on for some time.

Why don’t we take vacations? There are a number of reasons.

Fear tops the list of reasons. Going on vacation and being out of touch with the job means to many people that they are replaceable and that’s a scary concept. With the prevalence of ‘employment at will’ in many US companies, fear of job loss is the number one reason to avoid taking a vacation.

“No one can do what I do.” Many people feel that way.

Perhaps it’s true in some cases; however, most companies have cross-trained employees who can step in when needed to cover critical areas.

Try getting a dedicated employee to take a few days off. It’s a tough sell, likely impossible. For some, the job is who they are and taking a break is just not an option in their minds. They live and breathe work; it’s what they get up for in the morning.

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Dedication coupled with the intent to meet all the goals set for them equates to a laser-focused employee. Vacation is not an option – ever.

Inability to disconnect from the job thanks to technology impacts vacations. For those who actually do take a vacation, that cell phone and laptop you brought along means your office is right there with you. While your family members are lounging on the beach, golfing, or enjoying a leisurely stroll, you’re on the phone or typing away. You just moved your office to a nicer view (assuming you look up once in a while to get a glimpse).

My, my isn’t this depressing? What can we do about it?

Let’s explore!

First, try managing the fear factor. It’s true that today’s work environment is intense, but working yourself into the ground is not going to benefit you or your work. A mental break to a different place will result in a refreshed spirit with a hefty shot of energy to boot. That’s a good thing.

Knowing that the weight of a job isn’t dragging you down, that the office can function without you for a short period will relieve stress. Take that weight off; lighten your load and that will help you enjoy your work once more.

There’s no fault in dedication or goal achieving, as long as it’s not at the sacrifice of your health and well-being. Ensuring a good work/life balance is a win-win for you and the work you take such pride in.

Perhaps taking a day or two off before trying a weekend-toweekend vacation is a good way to ease into actually enjoying time away from the office. Use that same rationale for unplugging from technology. Allow a set amount of time to check in, then unplug and enjoy your family and have some fun.

You need your vacation! Make some get-away plans for the summer. Have fun!

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I Won the Lottery!

Now What?

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Statistically speaking, we all know that the odds of winning the lottery are low – really low – a one in 175 million chance.

However, dreaming is free, fun, and opens up some selfrevelations that might be surprising.

Having just conducted a grassroots, completely unscientific survey, let’s review the findings.

• First, there’s a running theme of generosity throughout the responses received. The first and foremost response was taking care of family and friends; 35% fell into this category.

Paying off debt, sharing winnings, paying off mortgages, building cabins, becoming self-sustaining, and for fun, taking everyone on a cruise were some of the specifics you’d do if you won the lottery. Evidently, sharing in the riches is something you’d enjoy as a winner.

• Contributing to causes was second at 22% of the total responses. Giving a tithe to church led the category, followed by some specific non-profits. Monies to reduce and help victims of domestic violence, providing financial support to TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors), and ending gun violence were specifically mentioned.

• Helping others, besides family/friends, was third at 16%.

Providing financial assistance for veterans, building a nonprofit farm, establishing an educational clinic for tutoring kids and those seeking their GED, providing housing, building a facility for animals and disabled children to interact were some of the suggested

ways to provide for others. Clearly, a lot of thought went into these responses.

• Surprisingly, using lottery money just to benefit the winner was only 13% of the overall comments. Only one response was received for quitting work; one was to continue working with the peace of mind that it wasn’t necessary.

• Using money to help abandoned animals and shut down killshelters were also a goal.

• The last two categories were travel and relocation, each with less than 6% responses. Only one responder mentioned moving.

What do these statistics indicate? It seems that most perceive winning the lottery as a means to help others. Isn’t that a welcoming thought! Caring is foremost on our minds!

Now, how do these findings stack up against comments from actual lottery winners and what they did with their money?

According to statistics, 48% of the winners continued to work in some fashion. Some continued in their same job for a while, some changed jobs, and some used the winnings to open their own businesses.

A full 83% reportedly shared their winnings with their families.

Sadly, many reported that they lost friends after winning.

Friends either felt left out, were jealous, or couldn’t keep up with their new lifestyles and just drifted away. Any major life change can result in a change in friendships, so perhaps this is not that surprising.

Many winners reported that winning the lottery brought much stress into their lives. Winning was stressful and the money caused problems.

Managing and investing was difficult and proved the old saying that money doesn’t buy happiness. Perhaps this contributed to the fact that over half of the lottery winners lost their money within five years.

So, what did we discover in this lottery winning situation? We care about each other and want to help make lives better for our friends and families, and benefit others along the way. That’s a good thing! Give yourselves a hand!

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Why Families Love the Dash!

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

The team also has a little excitement to share with fans, too!

The Dash’s new manager this season is three-time MLB All-Star Omar Vizquel. He played for 24 seasons in the Majors and most recently was the first base coach for the Detroit Tigers.

The Dash had 12 out of the top 30 White Sox prospects, per MLB.com, on the team at some point last year, giving fans a great chance to see players who could be on their way to the Majors.

This year will likely bring big-name prospects as well, including former Wake Forest University player, Gavin Sheets.

There’s nothing like a summer night at BB&T Ballpark for you and your family. If you’re a Winston-Salem Dash fan, you know the fun of a game, but in case you’ve never been, you need to know what you have been missing!

The Dash is all about families and giving mom, dad and the kids the best time each and every game. Joe Weil, Dash Broadcast and Media Relations Manager, believes this year’s games have so much in store for families, from great games to good food, fireworks, and special events.

“Everyone loves fireworks. Every Friday night, we will have a spectacular fireworks show after the game. Fireworks will also follow our Fourth of July game. After our games on Friday, Saturday and Sunday, kids get to run the bases, powered by New Balance of Winston-Salem.”

Weil also notes that families have a special day for them with the team’s Family Sundays, sponsored by Lowes Foods, with free popcorn for kids. Meanwhile, a few players will sign autographs before each Sunday home game.

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The Dash also offers a great place for a birthday party.

With group seating available, a picnic terrace and reserved seating for birthday parties of 10 or more, party food, dessert, Dash hats and recognition on the big board at the park, there’s no better place to celebrate than BB&T Ballpark.

On top of that, the Dash will hold three sessions, June 13-15, July 24-27 and August 6-8, of their Youth Baseball Academy. “This is a great way for kids to get instruction from our coaches and players to improve their own skills. Our Youth Baseball Academy package also includes Dash tickets, a t-shirt, lunch each day and the best baseball instruction you will find,” said Weil.

“We appreciate the support of the community and love to have the support of our local schools. Our Dash MVP Education Program gives students an incentive to excel in their academics and attend a couple of our day games. The ballpark comes alive with the students and teachers in the stands,” Weil commented.

Whether you want a good place for a date night, a fun time for your family or a great night out for your company, the Winston- Salem Dash has something for everyone!

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What’s that Musty Smell and How Can I Fix it?

As the warm, wet spring and summer months approach, many homeowners are starting to get that musty smell in their home.

WHAT IS THE CAUSE?

Mold and mildew. The places that have the highest relative humidity in your home in the summer are the basement and crawl space - a perfect place for mold to grow! The mold is fed a constant source of moisture, even without any noticeable water intrusion. It doesn’t have to be WET to grow, just humid.

WHAT IS THE FIX?

To reduce the water in the air, you must dehumidify the space. Prevention is the key. When we control the moisture, we control the mold. A dehumidifier is the best way to keep your basement and crawl space dry and mold-free during the wet, humid summer months.

BELOW ARE SOME THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN SELECTING THE RIGHT DEHUMIDIFIER FOR YOUR HOME:

1- Is it self-draining? It should be.

2- Is it Energy Star rated? It should be.

3- How powerful is the blower? Does it have a 250-cfm blower or greater to handle the air movement in your basement?

4- Was the unit designed to perform in extreme environments, such as a basement or crawl space?

5- Does the unit run constantly or shut off when the air is dry? It should not run constantly (that is a waste of energy).

6- Can you monitor and adjust the dehumidifier from the upstairs of your home?

7- Is there a notification light that lets you know if/when your system needs maintenance?

8- Can it be ducted to help dehumidify other areas of your home?

If you answered “no” to any of these questions, then you may not have the right dehumidifier for your home.

A commercial-grade dehumidifier is an essential element for keeping a basement or crawl space dry and mold-free during the humid months. If you are beginning to get the “musty basement smell” in your home, contact Tar Heel Basement Systems for a moisture reading and inspection.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

As we enter May, many people start thinking about summertime. However, for some people, summertime is closely associated with the dollar sign and all the expenses the season involves. There are vacations, camps, air conditioning, and more that makes summer one of the more expensive seasons. According to the managing vice president of Capital One, Shane Holdaway, March is the most expensive month of the year. (Yes, I realize it is May and we are talking about March – but stay with me here.) In an article on Oprah.com, Holdaway states this is because March is an in-between month, between seasons, where people are getting cabin fever and thinking about their summer plans. And with the summer plans, people are spending money. So, now back to May, if you were one of these people, how do you recoup some of that money to put more back into your wallet this summer? Continue reading below to find out.

• Create a plan for paying off your debt and big

• Assess the damage. It can be hard to admit you

• Set a deadline to get back on track. Summer

went on a spending spree and see how much you spent.

However, it is necessary. Think about the expenses you have already made or are going to make during the summer and see where you can pare down. Maybe you purchased a suite at the beach and you really don’t need it. See if a friend or family member might be willing to pay you and use the suite for their vacation. Another option is to try to find another family that will go on a beach trip with you and would be willing to split the costs.

• Get back on track with your budget. Unfortunately,

there are just some expenses you won’t be able to recover. Factor them into your budget and rebuild from there. Sometimes it is best to start from scratch with your budgeting. First, write down all of your fixed expenses, such as car payments, utilities, insurance, etc., and then see how much of your income is left over. Stick to your new budget until you have regained what was lost.

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expenses. Let’s face it – a vacation can be expensive.

If you under-budgeted and over-spent, create a well-organized repayment plan. Think about the last trip, refigure your budget and see exactly how much money you have to spend. Paying off your debt or big expenses should become a fixed expense. Go on a spending diet and don’t spend money on anything unnecessary until that purchase is paid off.

• Always, always, always track your spending.

Whether you made the purchase months in advance or that day, write it down in whatever method you prefer.

This will help prevent a downfall if you accidently forget an expense that was made in March, but the money wasn’t taken out until May.

doesn’t have to be a time to lose money. It can be a time to gain it. For example, create a deadline and commit to it for reorganizing your spending and paying off summer expenses. This can be at the beginning, middle, or end of summer. Whatever works for you.

• See what went wrong. To be honest, something

went wrong somewhere in your budgeting method for some expenses to slip through. Determine how that happened. Maybe it was an impulse expense. There is nothing wrong making purchases ahead of time; just make sure you have budgeted them in and keep track of them.

Summertime can be a time to make memories with your loved ones. But, it can also be a time to save money and get back on track after the summer expenses have been made.

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Critique, Critique, Critique!

BY BRITTANY ORIE “There’s only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” ~Aristotle Do you hate being criticized? Do you feel inadequate or complain when someone critiques you or your work? Or what if you’re someone who gives harsh critique? Here are some joyful ways—that’s right, joyful—to accept critique along with more productive ways to give it.

Be thankful for the critique. There is a degree of truth and wisdom in every slice of criticism. Remember that it points out a flaw in your work or character. What is it that you are being critiqued on? Is it character flaw such as laziness or selfishness? Is the critic pointing out something you never even noticed about yourself? We never know the things we need to improve on unless somebody tells us.

Joyfully and quietly accept it. Don’t cut off the other person, complain, or give any excuses for yourself. No one is “too perfect” to be criticized because everyone has a unique preference or system for how they want things done. So, as difficult as it may be, train yourself to not argue with the critique and just respond with a “thank you.” This is where Ms. Humility is a great teacher and will strengthen you to receive hard critique over time.

Ask yourself, “Is this critique helpful or more harmful? Is it petty or nitpicky?” Is the critique something you really need? There are people who critique others with genuine intentions to help, and there are those who critique just to feel superior. Try to assess the difference to know whether to heed it, or not to let it have dominion over you.

Apply it! Criticism is there to help us and make us better individuals, workers, children, parents, and students. Even harsh criticism can be helpful if the critic’s intentions are good. It may be painful now, but at the end of it all, you’d rather something had been said if nothing at all!

How can something or someone be improved if nothing negative is said? How can we grow and move forward in a world full of perfection

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and positivity where everyone withholds the necessary truth? After digesting the critique, apply it to your everyday life when needed and see how you and the atmosphere improve.

NUGGETS FOR THE HARSH CRITIC

Deliver it with love and patience and not with any abuse (cursing or name-calling). Don’t just tell the person they are “no good” or call them “stupid” for their mistakes and shortcomings. Anything you speak to a person, whether good or bad, will manifest in their behavior and actions. If you critique them with a good, honest, and loving approach, you will likely see a more confident and competent individual. But if you constantly show no faith in the other person, they will, depending on personality type, lack confidence in themselves and be slow to improve. So, remember that you are there to help the other person.

Before you give any critique, ask yourself if it’s coming from a place of love, protection, and a desire to see them do well in life. This may sound corny to some, but it’s vital!

Show appreciation and point out the good, even while critiquing. This is hard to do, but not impossible. If you only address the negatives and leave out the positives, the person on the receiving end will probably feel inadequate, thinking, “Seriously? I’m doing my best, and I’m still coming up short?” Try to remember to tell the other person how good they’re doing when offering critique. Also, look for the positives and address them along with the criticism. This will show that you have confidence in their abilities.

Be honest, but not cruel. And don’t sugarcoat either! We must lovingly warn those who are wrong. And when we do warn, we must be honest; we must not be reckless, but we must not sugarcoat our words either.

Sugarcoating is just as harmful as being “cruel” if not even more dangerous because it partially keeps the truth from others and they don’t get the full version of what they need to hear. So, make sure your critique is constructive and not destructive.

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Richard’s Coffee Shop: A gathering place for vets with a thought-provoking military museum.

BY MARK MATHOSIAN, PHOTOS BY DOUG MAGRUDER If you are a veteran or have an interest in our country’s military history, you should visit Richard’s Coffee Shop in Mooresville, North Carolina.

Richard’s is not your typical café – it houses a living military museum honoring America’s veterans. Here is information you need to know from Lieutenant Colonel John Hedley, USA, President of a non-profit organization operating Richard’s.

Army veteran Richard Warren founded Richard’s as a gourmet coffee shop about 20 years ago. Warren was a combat pilot in Vietnam who flew a Huey attack helicopter with the call sign “Mustang 53.” In the early days, the coffee shop was known as Pat’s Gourmet Coffee Shop. With his military background, Mr. Warren extended a warm welcome to all veterans and began a tradition of providing free coffee to veterans every Thursdays, with that tradition continuing today. In 2009 Mr. Warren passed away from complications of exposure to Agent Orange while serving in Vietnam. The coffee shop temporarily shut down but re-opened in 2009 with the name Richard’s Coffee Shop, in honor of Mr. Warren.

Over time, word spread that Pats, and then Richard’s, was a veteran friendly place. From the beginning, military veterans and family members of veterans brought in personal military memorabilia to put on the walls and shelves to be shared with all coffee house patrons. Today, these personal effects have grown into quite a collection.

“We have many photographs, weapons, unit plaques, uniforms, and unique one-of-a-kind items, such as an original copy of a document from the Japanese surrender during World War Two. We also have items from Adolf Hitler’s personal desk. People bring in memorabilia to share so that family members can be memorialized. Everything we have has been donated

Keela Johnson with family and friends on a recent visit to Richard’s.

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and that gives us a direct emotional connection to our donors. We hold the materials for them and will be happy to return them upon request. We consider ourselves a temporary holding facility,” reported Mr. Hedley.

At first Pat’s Gourmet Coffee Shop started out small, however, over time it outgrew its facility. Hedley said they found a new location for the coffee shop in downtown Mooresville, “across the street from the original Pat’s in a location that was the heart and soul of Richard Warren because out the backdoor was the site of the house in which he passed away.” They made an offer to buy the 5000-square foot building and spent “about 9 months raising over one hundred thousand dollars, primarily through the efforts of our vets.” The grand opening for Richard’s Coffee Shop was held over Armed Forces Day weekend in May of 2012 with much fanfare, including a meet-the-author social.

Joseph L. Galloway, coauthor of a popular military book about his time in Vietnam, “We Were Soldiers Once… and Young,” spent three days at the coffee shop greeting fans and autographing over 500 books with profits going to the museum. Galloway is a steadfast supporter of Richard’s. “The Welcome Home Veterans coffee shop and museum in Mooresville is a living testament to the strong bonds that bind veterans of all our wars together as brothers and sisters.

Here, any veteran can find a warm welcome, good company and a free cup of coffee. It is also a symbol of all that is good and right about small-town America,” Galloway said. Galloway and his wife try to stop by Richard’s at least once every month to enjoy the warm welcome and the fellowship.

Joe Galloway greeting three young Marines on a recent visit to Richard’s.

Today, Welcome Home Veterans Inc. Living Military Museum at Richard’s Coffee Shop provides adequate space for coffee house patrons, military memorabilia, and social events. The museum and coffee shop remain a gathering place for veterans.

Social events are regularly hosted, including musical events and book signings by authors. On occasions you can hear great country, bluegrass and traditional music played by local entertainers.

You may be wondering why the words “living military museum” are in the coffee shop’s title. I asked Mr. Hedley about that. His answer was direct and sincere. He explained that the “living”

part comes from the fact that when you visit Richard’s you will usually meet one or more of the veterans who gather there daily. Memories and stories are shared amongst themselves and with visitors. Hedley also says you should bring children along because honor and courage cross generations.

Warrant Officer 3 Richard Warren, The Inspiration for Welcome Home Veterans at Richard’s Coffee Shop

For a thorough understanding of this unique establishment, I encourage you to visit Richard’s website. There is also an entertaining music video on YouTube that was shot at Richard’s.

The website is welcomehomeveteran.org/ and the video is at youtube.com/watch?v=Ouzqp_m3Nn8.

“Richard’s is the ONE place in North Carolina that was created BY veterans FOR veterans ABOUT veterans! It is the one place every veteran should stop by and visit to join WITH other veterans.” ~Joe Galloway, famed Vietnam War news correspondent and Bronze Star Medal recipient

Joe Galloway with wife, Gracie, and John Hedley.

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PHOTOGRAPHY OF TIMOTHY KINCAID.

LISA MAY PHOTOGRAPHY

Congratulations to Katie and John Hanes, who were married on March 10th in Winston-Salem!

The couple celebrated their wedding based on the Bible verse, Ecclesiastes 4:12, “A cord of three strands is not easily broken.”

Congratulations to parents Rick and Candice Babusiak who, with sister Violet, welcomed Ethan David to the world on March 8th!

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PHOTOS BY LOVE LEE PHOTOGRAPHY

Matt and Juawana Hall added a little pink to their lives with the arrival of Abigail Leigh!

Abigail was born on March 22nd and joins big brothers, Caleb and Landon, to make the Halls a family of five!

PHOTOS BY AMANDA SOMERVILLE PHOTOGRAPHY

Jordan Middleton and Will Holbrook celebrated with love and laughter when they married on March 31, 2018! Congratulations to this beautiful couple!

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FIRST TUESDAYS (THROUGH OCTOBER) IRISH MUSIC SESSION 6:30-8pm, Central Library

in downtown W-S. Goilin will host an Irish music session in the auditorium at Central Library! All levels of musicianship and listeners are welcome. Come out to learn and share some tunes with us. You can download our standard tunes at http://tiny.cc/WSirishsession.

SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTONSALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Flow Club at the BB&T Ballpark. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

Learn more at PWWS.org

NOW THROUGH JUNE (SELECT DATES) VETERANS COFFEE 8:30-10:30am, locations vary.

As proud participants in the “We Honor Veterans” program, Hospice & Palliative CareCenter and Rowan Hospice & Palliative Care are pleased to present the 2018 schedule for Veterans Coffee. Veterans of all ages and military service are welcome, both male and female. Enjoy coffee, doughnuts and conversation! Most coffees will include an information presentation by organizations who provide services to veterans. To learn more, visit www.HospiceCareCenter.org. Kernersville (Linville Forest Church of Christ on every fourth Monday of the month); King (Town and Country Restaurant on every fourth Thursday of the month); Mocksville (Sagebrush Steakhouse on every first Thursday of the month); Mount Airy (Sagebrush Steakhouse on select Mondays); Welcome (Richard Childress Racing on every first Wednesday of the month); and Winston-Salem (PDQ Restaurant on Stratford Road every third Thursday of the month).

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NOW THROUGH OCTOBER 17 PFAFFTOWN FARMERS’ MARKET 4-7pm,

Remedy Apothecary, 4725 Yadkinville Road in Pfafftown. Come together for fresh and locally grown food, fun and music! Support the efforts of your local farmers and food producers!

MAY 1

Join weight loss expert Liz Hronek in the MissFitBoss community to sky rocket your weight loss journey!

BODY • SOUL NUTRITION www.MissFitBoss.com liz@missfitboss.com

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HOPE DU JOUR Find participating restaurants on

our website (hopedujour.org). Eat at participating restaurants that donate 10% of their sales to Crisis Control Ministry. CCM provides food, housing, utilities and prescription medication to individuals and families experiencing a financial crisis.

MAY 1 & 22 FREE FOOD TUESDAYS WITH THE DASH 7-10pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. It’s the craziest deal in sports! Each normally priced ticket comes with all the hot dogs and burgers you can eat through the seventh inning. Cost: $8-16/person. wsdash.com

MAY 2 BOOTLEGGERS (1927) BY THOMAS HART BENTON 1pm, Reynolda House Museum of American

MAY 3-5 SALEM COLLEGE PRESENTS SPRING CONCERT: A CELEBRATION OF STUDENT CHOREOGRAPHY 7:30pm (3rd-

4th); 2pm (5th), Drama Workshop, Elberson Fine Arts Center, 500 East Salem Avenue in W-S. This performance features student choreography, including dance forms ranging from ballet and contemporary modern to hip hop. No reservations.

Tickets sold at the door. Cost: $5-10/person. www. salem.edu/cultural-events

MAY 3-6 31ST ANNUAL SHEPHERD’S CENTER USED BOOK SALE Times vary. Education Building, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds, 400 Deacon Boulevard.

The book sale is one of the largest in our state!

Parking and admission are free! All proceeds of the sale benefit the ministry’s programs and services for older adults in our community. During 2017, the Shepherd’s Center provided services to more than 5,500 individuals. www.shepherdscenter.org

MAY 4-21 AGATHA CHRISTIE’S “MURDER ON THE NILE” 8pm (Fridays and Saturdays); 3pm

(Sundays), The Stained Glass Playhouse. This play is a mystery. Cost: $17/adults; $14/seniors and teachers; $12/children and students. stainedglassplayhouse. org

MAY 5 GO FAR FAMILY 5K & FUN RUN 7-11am,

Piedmont Centre, 4050 Piedmont Parkway in High Point. The Fun Run begins at 8:15am, and the 5K starts at 9am. Cost: $15-25/person. For details, visit runsignup.com/gofar or call 336.508.4380.

RACE FOR THE CURE 9:30am, Center of Design

Innovation, 450 Design Avenue in W-S. The Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure is the world’s largest and most successful fundraising event for breast cancer.

Race for the Cure is a 5K run or walk designed to raise funds for Komen’s mission, celebrate survivors and renew hope for a world without breast cancer. www.komennorthwestnc.org

KENTUCKY DERBY BENEFIT EVENT

4-7:30pm, The Milliennium Center, 101 West 5th Street in W-S. We are inviting the community to watch the most exciting two minutes in sports at our inaugural Kentucky Derby Benefit Event! Enjoy live entertainment by Radio Revolver, viewing of the 144th Kentucky Derby Race, some of Winston’s culinary favorites, Trophy Room’s Pop Up Bourbon Bar, tasty mint juleps, hat and bow tie contests, and some wonderful surprises. Cost: $50/person. www.

UnitedWayDerbyDelight.org

MAY 5-6 SPRING FLING AND FOOD TRUCK FEST

Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson.

Admission to the event is free, and we will be offering free tours and tastings all day long. Local artisans and antique vintage vendors will be onsite selling one-ofa-kind pieces.

Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. This series on the first MAY 6 Wednesday of the month features Reynolda House 3RD ANNUAL RUN FOR NICU HOPE 5K curators, educators and guests sharing a one-hour, in-depth look at one object – painting, print, sculpture, 8am-2pm, Shallowford Square, 6555 Shallowford photograph or decorative art object. reynoldahouse.org Road in Lewisville. Run/walk, food trucks, vendors, entertainment, professional face painting, t-shirts, MAY 3 Mommy and me photo shoots, raffles, awards, goodie bags for the first 50 families (one per family) and PARTNERS IN DESIGN: FREDERIC CHURCH, Come support the Capturing Hopes NonCALVERT VAUX AND THE MAKING OF OLANA more!

Profit Program by registering to race, be a vendor or WITH SEAN SAWYER 5:30pm, Reynolda House sponsor the event. Cost: $30-40/person to race; free Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. to attend. www.capturinghopesphoto.org/5K This event is co-sponsored by the Institute of Classical Architecture and Art, North Carolina Chapter. Cost: $10- WALK MS: WINSTON-SALEM 11:30am, Bridger 25/person. reynoldahouse.org Fieldhouse at BB&T Field – Wake Forest University,

499 Deacon Boulevard. Walk MS helps us team up with friends, loved ones and co-workers to change the world for everyone affected by MS. Register for Walk MS now at www.walkms.org.

MAY 6, 13 & 20 ARTS ON SUNDAY FESTIVAL SERIES

1-5pm, Arts District on Liberty Street in Downtown Winston-Salem, 630 North Liberty Street. Our traditional kick-off festival featuring Blues-style bands, etc. The AFAS Group organizes and sponsors an afternoon arts and crafts festival on three Sundays in May. Each festival features more than 60 artists and includes free kids’ corner projects every week! Free to the public. theafasgroup.com

MAY 17 AESTHETIC SEMINAR 5-7pm, Restoration MedSpa, 250 Executive Park Boulevard #105 in W-S. Join us for a BioTe Educational Seminar! Balanced hormones are necessary for good health & disease prevention. Learn how we help you look and feel your best by balancing your hormone levels naturally! We can help you regain energy and strength, increase mental clarity, prevent age related illness, restore your sex drive, feel younger and happier again! restorationmedspa.com

MAY 18-21 GREEK FESTIVAL Annunciation Greek Orthodox

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Church, 435 Keating Drive in W-S. Greek festival featuring full course meals, a la carte, take out, live music, dancing and shopping. www.wsgoc.org

KIDS’ NIGHT OUT 5-7pm, Chick-fil-A Clemmons,

MAY 19

2551 Lewisville Clemmons Road. FREE event. Family Night at Chick-fil-A in Clemmons! Enjoy a FREE kids craft and delicious food (menu prices apply). Adults receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…, 6th and Vine,

209 West 6th Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy $5 sangria, $8 rose garden (sparking rose, ginger & raspberries) and $8 flat bread pizzas. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! In honor of National Teachers’ Day, Women’s Fund and Forsyth Woman will be collecting schools supplies and monetary donations to support Educator Warehouse. Receive an extra prize board ticket for each donation of school supplies or $1 donated.

CHARLOTTE LUNGE FORWARD 5K WALK, RUN & RALLY 7:30-11am, Park Road Park, 6220 Park Road in

Charlotte. From the 5K race to the celebration rally to the kids’ dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family. The Charlotte LUNGe Forward will be a day of celebration and remembrance, as well as a day to take action and provide hope to those impacted by lung cancer. Cost: $30-35/adult; $15-20/child; Free for survivors; $25/Lounge for LC. www.lungcancerinitiativenc.org

MAY 19-20 RUNNING THE VINES 10K, 5K & 1/2 MILE FUN RUN Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson.

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Proceeds from this race benefit the Parks & Recreation services of Mt. Airy and Surry County. More details at www.sheltonvineyards.com/news-and-events/cat/wineryevents/post/running-the-vines-10k-5k.

WALK 4 OUR KIDS 5K 8am-12pm, Fourth of

THE HEART + SOUL PROJECT Triple J Manor House,

July Park, 702 West Mountain Street in Kernersville.

We are local non-profit that supports kids with cancer and their families that are being treated at Brenner Children’s Hospital. Registration for the event begins at 8am. We will have lots of raffle prizes. www.walk4ourkids.org

362 Interstate Drive in Mocksville. The Heart + Soul Project is a one-day event designed for women to uncover your vibrant spirit, find your intention and build lasting friendships with like-minded ladies. Cost: $89/person. www.heartsoulproject.com

MOTHER’S DAY OPEN HOUSE 1-4pm,

MAY 22-23

MAY 13

College, Fleer Center for Adult Education, 601 South Church Street in W-S. The Fleer Center staff will be set up in the lobby of Main Hall to meet with adult students (23+) interested in enrolling at Salem College for the fall 2018 semester. Potential students that take advantage of the Fleer Admit Days event will leave with a provisional acceptance [once documentation and criteria are reviewed] and a preliminary schedule. www.salem.edu/adultstudents

Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. In celebration of Mother’s Day, bring your mother to the museum for the last chance to view our exhibit “Mother Goddess: Fertility Figures from the Ancient Mediterranean.” Art activities and light refreshments will be provided. Admission is free. http://moa.wfu.edu

LETTERS FROM HOME “WE GOTTA GET OUTTA THIS PLACE: A TRIBUTE TO VIETNAM” High Point Theatre, 220 East

Commerce Avenue in High Point. Honoring veterans, active military and families, Letters From Home offers this tribute to Vietnam with live big band, high-energy singing and tap-dancing. Cost: $25/person. http://lettersfromhomesingers.com/ highpointtheatre.html

ADMIT DAYS 10am-2pm (22nd); 2-6pm (23rd), Salem

MAY 25 HISTORIC REYNOLDA GROUNDS AND GARDENS WALKING TOUR 2-3:30pm, 2250

Reynolda Road in W-S. In honor of Historic Preservation Month, explore the historic grounds of Reynolda as they existed 100 years ago. Your guides will highlight some of the hidden sites and stories of one of our city’s most recognizable landmarks. reynoldahouse.org

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MAY 26-27

BETTER MARRIAGES DATE NIGHT 6pm,

CORVETTE AUTO SHOW 10am-3pm, Shelton

Trinity United Methodist Church, 3819 Country Club Road in W-S. Join us for a fun evening. Dinner at 6pm; program begins at 7pm. RSVP for dinner and childcare to Jean Brewer at 336.978.8611. Cost: $10/person.

SALEM BAND “SCHOOL OF MUSIC” CONCERT 7:30pm, Salem Square, 600 South

Main Street in W-S. Salem Band opens its “ABCs of Music” summer season with vocal soloist Cristy Brown performing “I Feel a Song Coming On.” All concerts are free in Salem Square, Old Salem. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. www. salemband.org

Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Come join us for our 8th annual Corvette Auto Show. Food will be available for purchase at the Harvest Grill Express, or you may bring a picnic while you enjoy the beautiful Shelton Vineyards grounds as well as the Corvettes on display. Free admission.

MAY 29 SALEM BAND “SCHOOL OF ROCK” CONCERT

7:30pm, Salem Square, 600 South Main Street in W-S. Rock out with Salem Band as we present popular music from the 1950s through the 1980s. All concerts are free in Salem Square, Old Salem. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. www.salemband.org

WEEKLY DINNG SPECIALS

Monday & Wednesday 35 CENT WINGS (dine in only) Tuesday – AYCE Pasta - $9.95 HALF PRICE WINE (glass only) Thursday - $5.00 Classic Burger Night Friday – Saturday – Sunday Brunch 11am – 2pm - $1.00 Mimosas Friday & Saturday Dinner – Prime Rib Night

WEEKLY EVENTS

EVERY TUESDAY – LIVE TRIVIA WITH JONATHAN 7:30PM – Cash Prizes EVERY WEDNESDAY – KARAOKE WITH DJ CHRISCHRISBEST KARAOKE IN THE TRIAD – 7:30PM SATURDAY MAY 5TH – KENTUCKY DERBY CINCO-DE-MAYO PARTY! - CINCO-DE-DERBY!!

Mac EVENTS & Nelli’s SPECIAL & MUSIC

5/3 – TBD 5/4 – Happy Hour Music – Stephen Henson 5-7pm – LATE MUSIC – Shannon & Kevin – 9-12 5/5 – Southern Eyes – 9:00-12 5/7 – Megan Doss – 6-9pm 5/10 – Darrell Hoots – 8-11pm 5/11 – Happy Hour Music – Stephen Henson 5-7pm – LATE MUSIC - JT Parrothead – 8-11pm 5/12 – POPGuns – 9-12 5/14 – Mike Bustin – 6-9pm 5/17 – JukeBox Rehab – 8-11pm 5/18 – Happy Hour Music – Stephen Henson 5-7pm – LATE MUSIC – Brothers Pearl – 9-12 5/19 – James Vincent Carroll – 8-11pm 5/21 – Darrell Hoots – 8-11pm 5/24 – Karla Kincaid – 7-10pm 5/25 – Happy Hour Music – Stephen Henson 5-7pm LATE MUSIC – Bullmoose – 9-12 5/26 – Whiskey Mic – 9-12 5/27 – 5/28 CLOSED FOR MEMORIAL DAY HOLIDAY 5/31 – Darrell Hoots – 8-11pm

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All That Glitters… Tips on selling your gold jewelry

BY MARK MATHOSIAN

As I write this column, an ounce of gold is over $1300. At that price, you might consider selling gold jewelry you don’t wear anymore.

However, before gathering up your valuables you should know how gold is priced, bought, and sold in today’s marketplace.

Typically, the weight and karat of the gold determines value. The higher the gold content, the more valuable the jewelry. Somewhere on your jewelry you should see a number followed by a symbol such as K, Kt, or kt. For example, a 10-karat gold ring might be stamped 10k. A 10k ring is 42% pure gold with 58% other metals such as zinc, copper and nickel.

A 14k ring is 58% pure; 18-karat is 75% pure, and 24K contains the most gold at .999%. Most jewelry is between 10 and 18 karats because 2224K is too soft and malleable. There is also a mathematical formula for determining gold content. Divide the karat number by 24 and multiply by 100. For example, 14K divided by 24 x 100 = 58%.

The first tip for selling gold is that you request jewelry with different karats be weighed separately. Some dealers weigh all jewelry together and offer you the lowest karat value. Avoid that pitfall. If you weigh jewelry yourself, remember that most jewelers use a measurement standard called a Troy ounce. A U.S. scale measures 28 grams per ounce. However, a Troy ounce equals 31.1 grams. To confuse things further, some dealers also use a system of weights called pennyweight to measure a Troy ounce, while others will use grams. A pennyweight is the equivalent of 1.555 grams.

Gold jewelry also has a value based on its history, age, and context. For example, vintage or antique family heirlooms may be more valuable than their original cost, whereas newer jewelry may be worth less. A good example is a gold watch, running or not. You may be offered a higher price for the watch if you proffer it as an antique and not just for its gold content. That’s because a collector may want that particular make and

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model and is willing to pay a premium for it. The key is to know what is in your collection before contacting buyers, and understand that most gold pieces will be melted down, but not all pieces. Also, don’t expect something to be worth more simply because it’s a memorable piece such as an engagement or wedding ring. Sentimentality does not equal higher value.

There are three main buyers for your gold jewelry: jewelry stores, pawn shops and dealers. All three are in Winston-Salem and surrounding cities. Some experts suggest you try selling jewelry to a jewelry store first, especially major jewelry stores. The theory is that buying your gold is not their major source of income so they are less likely to give you a bad deal. Personally, I have dealt with all three types and found the ones I frequented to be honest and fair. Again, showing you understand the ins and outs of gold transactions will assure fair treatment. You should also seek several quotes before selling. Different buyers may offer more or less depending on the percentage they earn for acting as the middleman.

Before visiting a dealer, organize your gold. Remove items that are not gold or have so little gold parts that they are not worth recycling.

For example, if the clasp is the only part of a necklace that is gold, the gold buyer may not want it. Likewise, you won’t be offered much, if anything, for gold plated jewelry. Here’s something you can do to weed out items not worth much. Apply a strong magnet to your jewelry. If the magnet sticks, it is not solid gold. Look for “GF” or “GP” stamped on the jewelry. That means it is gold filled or gold plated. After sorting your jewelry according to gold content, put like items in plastic baggies.

That makes it easier for you and the buyer when you bring them in for estimates. Finally, don’t act on impulse. Be sure you really want to sell that particular necklace, ring or family heirloom. Selling sentimental items can create feelings of guilt long after the deal is done.

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