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The View From This Side MARCH 2019 Dear Readers, What. A. Month. There aren’t words to adequately convey all my family and I have gone through and the incredible tidal wave of love we’ve experienced.

On Monday, January 21st, my husband, Tim, collapsed from a stroke. It was the most terrifying experience of my life. An average, normal Monday evening with my husband and father — interrupted in one shattering moment. Thankfully, we’ve run enough articles on heart health over the years that I knew exactly what was happening and was able to call 911. That call began a flurry of activity that involved the kindest, most compassionate team of medical professionals, working together to save my husband’s life.

From the EMTs, hospital staff, helicopter transport team — God was working through all of them and I am beyond grateful.

As you may remember, I was diagnosed with breast cancer in November (Breast Cancer 2.0, as we’re calling it since this is my second round). Between dealing with that, a busy workload, and my husband’s active lifestyle and commitment to eating healthy — a stroke simply didn’t factor into the picture.

But God has a way of slowing us down. And sometimes our worst moments can allow the best moments to come from other people.

Between our family, friends, and church family — we were overwhelmed with prayers, love, and casseroles. We have been blessed beyond measure during this experience and are so grateful for the cards, texts, phone calls, messages, etc.

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Our family wasn’t alone, though — dear friends of ours, Cathy and Eric, whom we’ve known for over 30 years, were experiencing their own medical crisis.

Eric had a subarachnoid hemorrhage and they ended up being our neighbors when Tim was transferred to a rehab facility.

Cathy and I are both so happy to have a second chance with our husbands, and though we wouldn’t wish these circumstances on anyone, I was glad to have a good friend to lean on and who I could support during this time. We definitely knew how to pray for one another, and God has been good to both of our families. I have witnessed it first hand — God is good. All the time.

I would ask for you to continue to pray for us in the weeks ahead as Tim (who is back home, praise the Lord!) continues to heal, and as I begin radiation treatments. And again, I am so grateful to our friends and family for all their support! Our kids, Brooke and Tanner, have been so supportive, helping us out in too many ways to count!

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BY ADELE CASANOVA, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY Sandra Scarlette, Owner of Pat’s Body Shop & Towing, is a woman of perseverance, vision, and faith. She started her career washing cars for her brother, George Pat Scarlette, who first began the business in his home in 1964. The business eventually moved to its current location on Country Club Road in 1972. Sandra purchased the business from her brother in 1997and has led the company to explosive growth. Pat’s Body Shop & Towing now offers state of the art collision repair, 24 hour towing, interior work, mechanical work, custom painting, and restoration work, and works with all insurance companies.

Pat’s mechanical repair technicians are BMW and Mercedes master certified and work on all makes and models of cars using the latest in diagnostic and repair equipment. Pat’s interior repair expert has over 30 years of experience offering all types of interior repair. Pat’s towing service is on both the Winston-Salem City and NC Highway Patrol towing rotation, and serves a large local client base. They offer 24/7 emergency towing. “Our towing service stays very busy,” says Sandra. “I wish I had added this service years ago.” So along with collision repair, mechanical, custom painting, and restoration work, Pat’s does it all!

Sandra believes in a “Dream Big” philosophy through which she has built Pat’s Body Shop and Towing into one of the area’s few complete auto care facilities. Sandra is also recognized as one of the largest completely womanowned shops in the United States. And she is not done yet. Her faith in God guided her to stick with the business through both personally tough times and economic recession. “The recession of 2008 was a time of learning for me,” Sandra says, “I stuck to my faith and held on, even though everyone was telling me I wouldn’t make it through the recession.”

And make it through she did! Over the past seven years, Sandra has acquired three additional buildings along Country Club Road, adding needed space for the increased list of services Pat’s now offers. She is hoping to add another building in the near future to house the company’s new paint center. Her latest building acquisition, on the corner of Country Club Road and Styers Ferry Road, will house both a used car sales lot as well as a “Goodies & More” gift shop.

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Sandra is an avid car collector and President of Winston-Salem’s Generation Vettes car club. One of her buildings houses her “Girl Cave,” where she displays her car collection and where she holds music concerts, cruise-ins, church gatherings (she is also an Ordained Minister!) and car club meetings. This very fun, attractive space can be rented out for private gatherings such as wedding receptions and bridal showers.

Sandra values her staff and fosters a safe, happy work environment in which customers will always find exceptional service. The mission at Pat’s Auto Body & Towing is to “provide each customer with personal one on one service.” Pat’s Body Shop & Towing has been chosen the winner several times in the Winston-Salem Journal’s Reader’s Choice Award, including for both Body Shop and Detail Shop in 2018. Pat’s also carries an A+ rating with the Better Business Bureau.

Sandra lives her faith through the business and says, “Our real goal is to help people. We often get to know our regular customers and find ways to support them spiritually through difficult times.” This aspect of her work is the most rewarding part of owning and running Pat’s Body Shop & Towing.

And true to her “Dream Big” philosophy, Sandra has also started a music promotions business, Scarlette Productions, in which she helps up and coming musical artists, in a variety of genres, to gain public recognition. She hopes to host a music festival later this year at one of her Country Club locations, featuring Scarlette Productions music clients Pat’s Body Shop & Towing is located at 5720 Country Club Road and can be reached via phone at 336-945-3767 or email at patbodyshop@aol.com. For more information, please visit pats-bodyshop.com. You can follow them on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. Give them a call for a free estimate!

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While every eye drop is different in its exact size, all bottles are designed in such a way that the eye drop contains much more medicine than your eyeball can even handle. This means that you do not have to worry if excess medication drips down your cheek, and you can be assured that enough has reached your eye. This also means that you should not purposely instill 2 or more drops in an attempt to get more into your eye, as you will be wasting the medication. Another trick is to store your eye drops in the refrigerator. You will know that the eye drop has reached your eye when you feel the cold sensation. (Ask your pharmacist if it is okay to store in the refrigerator.)

To instill the eye drop, look up to the ceiling with both eyes. While tilting your head back, pull the lower lid of your eye down with one hand. This forms a little pocket in the lower lid. Place one drop in this little pocket.

When you close your eye, the drop spreads over the entire eye.

In order to help the eyedrop penetrate your eye more completely, keep your eyes closed for 2 minutes after instilling the drop because blinking activates the “pump” that drains your tears away from the eyeball.

This is a good time to relax and take a moment to refresh yourself during your day.

A second way to ensure penetration of the eye drop into your eye is to perform “punctal occlusion.” This involves pressing your finger (your index finger is recommended) near the inside corner of your eye for 2 minutes after instilling the eye drop. Your eyeball’s drainage system for your tears is in this area, and by pressing it closed you prevent the medication from draining away from your eyeball and into your nose. An added bonus is this maneuver prevents the medication from making its way into the nose, throat, and the rest of the body, so that any eye drops that could have side effects on your body as a whole are minimized. Therefore, the ideal way to instill your eye drops is to combine both methods: close your eyes and press on the inside corners for 2 minutes after a drop is instilled.

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Eye drops tends to be one of the most difficult, frustrating medications to utilize. While trying to insert them, we either miss the eye entirely, get a part of the drop in the eye, put it on our cheek, or think a drop came out, when actually nothing happened. None of the above are acceptable, as using drops for conditions such as glaucoma are as important as using any oral medication prescribed for other problems. Knowing the proper insertion method is extremely important as drops are being used more and more for so many eye problems in addition to glaucoma: allergies, dry eye, infections, inflammation, etc.

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The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery

A reflection you’ll love!

If you are a believer that the eyes are a true gateway to the soul, you also appreciate the warm smile and glowing confidence that comes from taking care of your body and being the very best version of your beautiful self!

Ask Dr. Neal D. Goldman of the Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery about the first expression he hears from potential patients, and he’ll share with you that so many women come to his office echoing the same sentiment: “My mother did this, but I never thought I would!”

These prospective patients admit they are hearing well-meaning friends ask if they feel especially tired, or sometimes, even angry. In most cases, that’s enough to start the thought process, and initiate a conversation with Dr. Goldman! He suggests standing at a mirror and lifting your brow up at the very end: Is that image looking back at you more the way you’d prefer to look?

If so, you’ve come to the right place. The Goldman Center for Facial Plastic Surgery – with its

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office in Advance, NC, and a satellite office in Boone, NC – knows your eyes speak volumes, and they are proudly dedicated to enhancing that already lovely face you see in the mirror. Dr. Goldman is double board certified, from both the American Board of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery, and the American Board of Otolaryngology Head and Neck Surgery.

“Prospective patients – most typically in their late 40s – can be nervous,” he says. “They tend to prefer instant gratification, such as a non-invasive cream.

But often they don’t realize what they truly need is actually eyelid surgery or a brow lift.”

Dr. Goldman explains that younger patients can often address the upper eyelids alone. The procedure, known as blepharoplasty, is a straightforward, 45-minute process. For the upper eyelids, the incision line is placed at the natural eyelid crease, and excess skin, muscle, and fat are removed. Since the incision is placed in a natural crease, it’s frequently almost invisible after surgery.

A number of options exist for lower eyelid surgery, but the most common approach at the Goldman Center is transconjunctival blepharoplasty, where the incision is placed inside the eyelid, invisible from the outside. Adding an endoscopic brow lift opens up the eyes, and promotes an overall more youthful look, lifting that heavy tissue that seems to fall more at the sides and can make us look tired and angry. Incisions can often be placed behind the hairline as well. A brow lift can also help improve vision in many patients, especially if heavy tissue has been hanging down a bit too far. The average recovery time for the upper eyelid procedure alone is eight days, while most patients who choose to do their eyelids and the brow lift take two weeks off work for recovery, unless bruising or swelling persists.

Some patients have more of a textural issue – such as crinkling on the eyelids –

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where Retin A can be used to tighten the skin and even skin tone. In addition, never overlook the value and life-long benefits of a good skincare regimen, which can offer suitable results for many patients. Dr. Goldman can assist you in choosing the most optimum daily care for your particular skin type.

Perhaps the best news of all, patients are not as self-conscious about choosing plastic surgery as they once were, and the Goldman team sees many who are even proud to share their stories of success.

“Times have certainly changed,” says Dr. Goldman. “When I came to North Carolina in 1999, it was more secretive.

Today, people aren’t ashamed to talk about it.”

With so many options available, Dr. Goldman and his staff look forward to discussing what’s best for your unique situation. Their office is located at 108 Dornach Way, Advance, NC, 336-245-9595, or at 717 Greenway Road, Boone, NC, 828-278-9230.

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Gifts & Gardens

The Garden Boutique at Reynolda Village is a splendid little gift shop where you can find unique and affordable gifts. But that is only the beginning! It is also the headquarters for the Garden Club Council of WinstonSalem and Forsyth County, a non-profit organization dedicated to the beautification of our community.

Established in 1932, the Garden Club Council represents 22 local garden clubs consisting of hundreds of individual members. Through community grants, awards and scholarships, the Garden Club Council supports the education of local gardeners, as well as conservation and restoration projects. The Garden Boutique serves as a source of funding for the Council with all net profits from gift sales dedicated to its programs.

The Garden Club Council, through its Beautification Fund, awards grants to local organizations such as neighborhoods, schools and other public spaces for needed landscaping projects. The funding is for plant materials, including trees, shrubs, and perennials, and the projects are given a three-year span for completion. Current projects include funding of plant material for the pedestrian passageway downtown between Cherry and Trade streets, and an erosion control project at Sherwood Elementary School on Silas Creek Parkway.

The Garden Council also hosts fun and educational events for the garden enthusiasts. A popular event held every other year is the Garden Tour Experience, when beautiful private gardens are opened up for participants to tour and appreciate. The Tour will be held again in the spring of 2020.

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The Council hosts an annual plant sale yearly in the Little Red Barn at the Dixie Classic Fairgrounds. Plants are donated by various club members and are available for sale to the public, with the proceeds funding the Council’s projects and programs. Mark your calendar for this year’s sale to be held on April 27th.

And finally, the Garden Club Council, through the Winston-Salem Foundation, awards two scholarships per year providing financial support for local students attending horticultural and landscaping programs at an accredited state school.

These are just some of the ways the Garden Club Council fulfills its mission to “protect, preserve and beautify our environment.” How fortunate our community is to have both the lovely Garden Boutique gift shop and a dedicated non-profit organization like the Garden Club Council working to continually beautify our wonderful city! To learn more about the Council and their programs, please visit them on the web at GardenClubCouncil.org.

You can support all of the Council’s initiatives by simply shopping at the Garden Boutique. This boutique offers many one-of-a-kind, affordable gifts that will surely delight any recipients. The Garden Boutique offers items you won’t see anywhere else in town.

Items include stylish and fun entertaining accessories for any occasion, plus seasonal pieces to jazz up your holiday entertaining. The boutique also sells special high-quality gardening tools, interesting garden accessories and a variety of gorgeous indoor and outdoor plant containers. Also available are decorating pieces to enhance both your indoor and outdoor spaces, such as candles and frames. Items are carefully selected to be of timeless quality, while still reflecting current styles. Everything at the Garden Boutique is of great quality at affordable prices – making it a real hidden gem in the Winston-Salem community!

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Beautiful plants are also available for sale through the Boutique in the walkway connecting to Reynolda Gardens. Proceeds from these plant sales go directly to support the gardens at Reynolda. “We have a wonderful synergy with Reynolda Gardens,” says Council (Club) President, Kristie Blanco. “You can purchase a lovely plant from the walkway, bring it into the boutique and one of our helpful associates will assist you in choosing just the right accompanying pot for a stunning gift.

In this way, you can support both Reynolda Gardens and the Garden Club Council.”

So, if you want to purchase something very pleasing for yourself, or a gift sure to please someone else, visit the Garden Boutique. What better way to support the beautification of your own community! The boutique is continually restocked with new, delightful items, so visit often for all your gifting needs.

The Garden Boutique is open Monday through Saturday from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. and is open Sundays seasonally. Call at 336-722-5640 for more information. The boutique is located at 100 Reynolda Village, the first shop on the right as you enter the Village from Reynolda Road. You can learn more about the Garden Boutique at ReynoldaGardenBoutique. com. You can follow the Garden Club Council and the Garden Boutique on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.

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Every month, I am in the (enviable) position to visit a local restaurant with fabulous photographer, Melinda Lamm of Photo Artistry by Melinda, to sample menus and learn about great dining opportunities in Forsyth County and the surrounding area! For March, Melinda and I (as well as my husband) were delighted to experience a new Clemmons restaurant, Three Bulls American Steakhouse! Because Three Bulls is a sister-restaurant to Fratelli’s Italian Steakhouse, another restaurant I’ve reviewed in the past, I knew we were in for a treat. Plus, our server, Savanna, was an absolute gem. The food I’m about to describe was exceptional, but Savanna’s attention to detail, knowledge of the menu, and friendly disposition just made a great experience even better. I know exactly whose table I’m going to be requesting when I go back!

First up – we sampled two appetizers. The THAI CHILI CAULIFLOWER was not a dish I would have usually ordered. There are only two vegetables that I’m not gung-ho over, and cauliflower is one of them (okra is the other – blame my mother who made me eat it as a child).

But this appetizer may have converted me. Don’t get me wrong…

I still firmly believe that cauliflower is a poor substitute for rice or potatoes, but this appetizer – I couldn’t believe how incredibly flavorful it was! It was a generous appetizer, and I confess, I may have accidentally-on-purpose knocked my husband’s fork out of the way in my zeal to get to an extra big piece he was reaching for (a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do). Lightly fried cauliflower was light and tender, with an incredibly flavorful Thai chili sauce. I will definitely order this one again. It was amazing!

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We also sampled the NOLA SHRIMP. NOLA stands for New Orleans, Louisiana, but don’t let the name fool you. While this dish has a definite Cajun influence, it’s not spicy as one would expect. It’s actually a pretty mild dish, served over a thick piece of cheese toast with a generous serving of Bayou gravy. It’s hearty and creamy. A very unique twist that seafood lovers would definitely enjoy!

Three Bulls American Steakhouse let us try all three of their house soups. First up – exactly what you’d expect from a steakhouse, JIM’S FAMOUS CHILI. I don’t know who Jim is, but he knows exactly what he’s doing. It’s a beefy chili, full of beans, and tons of flavor. Everything chili is supposed to be with a generous dollop of sour cream and cheese on the top.

We also tried the CLAM CHOWDER. While creamy as one would expect, it also had a bit of a smoky flavor that was quite tasty.

Made with potatoes and served with bacon and scallions, the Clam Chowder wasn’t fishy and is a delicious soup option.

My favorite soup, though was the FRENCH ONION SOUP. I absolutely love French onion soup, and I tend to be a bit of a snob about it. Though I confess I have never successfully made it myself, I do know what I am looking for when it comes to this particular recipe. Rich and cheesy. The Three Bulls take on this classic did not disappoint. I could have made a meal out of their French Onion Soup without any issues…

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Especially when Savanna brought out a bowl of FAMILY SALAD. This is something that Three Bulls American Steakhouse does just like their sister, Fratelli’s. And I love it. It’s a tossed salad for the table to share. It consists of lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, pepperchinis, candied almonds, onions, and cheese – all tossed with a creamy Italian dressing. It’s fresh, and there’s plenty to share. We enjoyed the rest of our soup and salad with a basket of fresh bread – CORN MUFFINS & DINNER ROLLS, served with herb butter that is decadently creamy.

On to the entrees! Our first dish was the CEDAR PLANK SALMON. No, it’s not a particular breed of salmon. This generous portion of fresh salmon is cooked on a piece of cedar wood, which gives the fish a light smoky flavor. It’s then drizzled with housemade maple mustard and pickled red onion. The salmon (including the board) is served atop a bed of perfectly steamed broccolini. Friends, I wish I could just take all of you with me to Three Bulls American Steakhouse so you could try this for yourself. Even if you don’t like salmon – try it. It is a fabulous entrée.

We also tried the LEMON CHICKEN, and this is, in a word, divine. Two marinated chicken breasts are served with a lemon cream sauce that has been sautéed with capers, mushrooms, and goat cheese. It is an exquisite mix of flavors that is unique and utterly delightful. Lemon is always a nice accompaniment to chicken, so that’s no surprise. But it’s the goat cheese and capers that give it such a distinctive flavor.

Chicken fans – you’ll love it! This entrée is served on a bed of mashed potatoes (YUM!), and house vegetable sauté of zucchini and squash.

It was a generous meal that would easily cover lunch the next day, too!

You can’t go to a steakhouse without sampling some steak.

And we were served a 6-OUNCE FILET MIGNON that was so tender, I could literally cut it with a fork. Ours was cooked medium-rare and Pittsburgh style (which is, in my opinion, the only way to properly cook a steak), and they paired it with a housemade demi-glace, which is made from a Worcestershirebased reduction. The filet was served with a generous helping of asparagus and a grit cake. My husband, who is from the north, wasn’t quite sure what to make of the grit cake, but we all enjoyed it. It’s not what you would expect – it’s actually quite creamy and very flavorful.

And oh, my goodness. I honestly don’t know if Three Bulls American Steakhouse has anything on their dessert menu other than their signature MORAVIAN SUGAR CAKE BREAD PUDDING. If they do – I can’t imagine why. Because with this as an option, you really don’t need other options. This nod to a Winston-Salem classic was, without question, pure and unfiltered dessert heaven. They’ve taken a traditional Moravian sugar cake and turned it into a bread pudding, with a homemade bourbon glaze, and topped with a cinnamon sugar ice cream. This is the dessert you dream about.

Needless to say, I went home in a complete food coma. And my husband happily ate all the leftovers before I could get to them. That’s okay though, because I know we’re headed that way again soon. And I hope you’ll visit them, too! Be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

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Keeping It Real MOVING PAST THE PAST

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

After heart-wrenching hours, the doctor announced that both this sweet girl and her babies were out of danger! But, the family asked, how would Missy ever walk again? The doctor explained that while Missy would carry the consequences of this trauma for the rest of her life, she would eventually adapt, finding a way to get around.

Sure enough, Missy eventually mustered the strength to toddle on those stubs. It was the strangest sight. Bizarre, I tell you!

Missy’s wounds mended, but the way she walked forever revealed the repercussions of her trauma.

The happy day arrived for the puppies to make their debut. Everyone fretted that the babies might have suffered consequences from the accident. But to their delight, every one of those puppies arrived healthy, showing no harmful effects whatsoever. The family breathed a sigh of relief. Celebration erupted at the hopes of the baby beagles’ bright futures.

Within days, these sweet pups pulled away from their mama’s breast to take on the world and find their cadence. Gratefully, each of these little ones walked with strong, healthy legs, except that every one of them… …walked just like their mama.

What do you dream for your children? Notice that I didn’t ask “if” you imagine greater for them, because I know you do. In this heroic mission of molding other human beings, we innately want more for our sons and daughters than got handed to us.

These miniature versions of us hold the most vulnerable pieces of our heart, don’t they? We do our best to prepare them for life’s inevitable curveballs. We seek to provide advantages for them.

We persist in the hope that they will run strong, unhindered by the weights that slowed us.

STAY WITH ME FOR A MINUTE.

I recently heard the story of Missy, a loving beagle who won the affection of her owners the moment they laid eyes on her. Their hearts danced to discover that Missy carried babies in her belly.

This pregnant snuggle-bug found her haven. Her new family found their prize.

One sultry summer day, Missy darted through the yard toward her owner as he mowed. Before he could react, she scuttled too close to the mower blades. In a horrific blink, the precious pooch laid lifeless, much of her hind legs severed.

Panicked, the family swooped their furbaby into their arms and sped to the vet. They wondered, would Missy live? What about the puppies?

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Do you see? Our children…the miniature versions of ourselves…they watch how we walk. If we carry unhealed wounds in our soul that keep us limping through life, they will too. They may not even know the reason for their limp. They carry no recollection of our trauma. They simply sustain scars—our scars— that leave them limping when they were created to run.

I don’t know what wounds you carry in your soul, but I do know you love your children too much to watch them bear the burdens buried deep within you. I am not dismissing the severity of your suffering. I’m simply saying you have allowed that anguish to occupy valuable space in your life far too long.

If you will not move past your past for your sake, then move forward for the benefit of your children and your grandchildren. No matter how gargantuan you dream for them, in the end, that won’t be what matters most.

In the end, what matters most will be how you walk; because, parents, in the end . . . they will walk just like you.

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Spring Thoughts for Your Décor!

After the passing rain and snow-filled winter days, we can look forward to getting ready for great weather. I know I am ready, how about you? For many of us, the spring season brings about a feeling of renewal, and spring cleaning often gives way to spring redecorating. It is also the season for social gatherings – baby showers, wedding showers, graduation parties, and Easter gatherings. If you plan to host a few spring events yourself, now is the time to consider sprucing up your home.

While the bright colors of spring can be inspiring, they can quickly take over the décor of a home when misused. The market trends of teal, coral, blue, and lime green are all beautiful when used in moderation. We saw new trends of brown, beige, and coral in ethnic settings at the Winter Market that are going to be popular this coming season.

Antique fabrics are being used along with long beads that are accented on coffee tables, sofa tables, and walls. If your color scheme for the walls and large furniture pieces are mostly neutral, you can have a field day adding bursts of color in accessories, throw pillows, throws, and area rugs.

Our favorite accents are corals and blues mixed with cream.

New lighting is another wonderful way to brighten up your room in both color and function. A colorful lamp here or there will go a long way.

Next, select some artwork that makes your space unique.

We represent many local artists at our design center and retail store, and I can think of no better way to add color and personality to your room. Original art is a great conversation starter when you have a bevy of guests in your

home. Bring the outdoors in with colorful sculpture that reflects nature.

Abstracts and geometrics are a favorite at our design center in both art and soft goods. The creative ways that fabric designers have come up with for these patterns keep your imagination alive.

If you have overnight guests, brighten your guest room with a brightly colored throw at the foot of the bed. This assures your guest the perfect temperature during their stay while adding a fun pop of color. A scented diffuser will ensure your house always smells as fresh and beautiful as it looks. A chocolate under the pillow is always a great treat for me when I stay with guests. A fresh rose or flower on the pillow is also a nice gesture for a guest when they go to bed at night, thereby adding additional color for your guest. Smell, sense, and comfortable rooms are important for you and your guests. I know for my guest room and my master, I have made them special.

We have a wonderful selection of accessories, lamps, pillows, artwork, and more. Whether you are remodeling or changing décor, visit our retail store and design center for inspiration on your spring project!

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Speech Pathologist Turned Game Show Winner

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

We all have those moments as we watch game shows when we think, ‘I could do that! I’d be great on Wheel of Fortune,’ or ‘I know a lot about a variety of topics…I’d love to be on Jeopardy.’ However, most of us will never get the opportunity to be a contestant on, let alone, actually say we won on, a game show. But Robert Evans, a speech pathologist from Clemmons, NC, recently won $185,000 on the newly revamped Deal Or No Deal.

Robert’s journey to being a big winner is quite the story…

Growing up in Yadkinville, NC, Robert Evans had many interests including acting and setting his sights on being on TV, two things that you may think were unattainable for him. Robert’s acting began at Forbush High School and stopped there for 25 years, while he focused on getting his BS in Education and his Master of Sciences degree, both from Western Carolina University. With his education, Robert became a preschool speech-language pathologist, first working for Davie County Schools, then for One Step at a Time Therapy Services, before in 2011, returning to public schools working for the Preschool Intake Department of Winston-Salem Forsyth County Schools. Five years ago, the acting bug bit Robert again and he started performing in productions with the Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance. With a rewarding career and an enjoyable outlet for his love of theatre, you’d think that maybe the ‘I want to be on TV’ goal would’ve passed, but not so.

“In May 2018, I saw an ad on Facebook saying that Deal Or No Deal was being revived on CNBC for winter 2018.

I submitted an online application and a short video that captured my personality. You need to set yourself apart from others, so I mentioned my family ties to Booger Swamp Road in Yadkinville, along with my love of soap operas in the video and application. How often do you see a 47-year-old man who knows the history of most soap operas?” said Robert. That eclectic personality makeup caught the attention of a casting producer. With follow-up calls and being told by producers that they loved ‘his energy, enthusiasm, and story,’ and playing a mock version of Deal Or No Deal with friends to show to producers, Robert was chosen a couple months later to go to the taping in Florida. He was told, however, ‘you aren’t playing until you are actually on stage.’ Regardless, Robert got his besties together, along with his aunt, Mattie Gay Swisher, from Yadkinville, NC, taking her first ever plane ride and flew to Universal Studios in August 2018. But little did Robert know, there was a very special

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surprise waiting for him during the show.

During his years as a speech-language pathologist, Robert met and helped a little boy, Xavier Harris, learn to speak and express himself at the age of two.

Robert and Xavier have a special bond, and Robert shared Xavier’s story with the Deal Or No Deal producers when asked about a rewarding time in his work as a speech pathologist. In fact, the producers were so touched by the story, that they flew Xavier and his family to Orlando, FL, for the taping to surprise Robert.

“I hadn’t seen Xavier for several years until he came to the show; I didn’t recognize him at first, but Howie Mandel, the show’s host, walked over to where Xavier and his family were sitting, and he asked if I knew him. I saw Xavier’s mom, Kim, and fell to my knees on stage and started crying.

Pretty much everyone in the audience and with the show was crying. It’s a moment I will never forget,” Robert recalled. With his supporters cheering him on, Robert took the whole experience of a lifetime in, every moment, and lived it to the fullest.

Sounds like a pretty good deal!

“I selected case 11 as the case I thought had a million dollars. I played down to 5 cases being left, keeping the million dollars in play the entire game. During my last round, the Banker, who oversees the show from behind the scenes, offered me $139,000 for my case and I made a counteroffer of $185,000, and she accepted it. Howie opened my case, and it had $750 in it, so I made a great decision to take the money. I am 47 years old, and I actually got to fulfill a bucket list item of appearing on a game show. Now, with my winnings, a local humane society will receive a sizable contribution, as this was one of my platforms of appearing on the show. I also hope to take a trip to New York City to see as many shows as possible. My debt will hopefully be gone, and I am going to put a down payment on a home. My 12-year-old dog, Aurora, needs a backyard. I also hope to help some local charities,” Robert said.

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What’s Cookin’ with Chef N’gai

BY CALEA BIDDIX, AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION

DO I NEED “SUPERFOODS”?

Not quite superfoods, but people should definitely choose “whole” foods. You want to go with whole foods when shopping and planning your meals. When he refers to ‘whole foods,’ he means shopping for foods by building around vegetables. Vegetables are generally a very filling category of food, so if you build around vegetables, it is likely that you will feel more satisfied, all while your body is obtaining the most nutrition. If you are shopping for nutritious, wholesome, and quality foods, you will not have to shop for as much food because you won’t have the urge to eat every 3-4 hours. It really comes down to the idea of quality over quantity.

BUT CHEF, AREN’T FRESH VEGGIES MORE EXPENSIVE?

Not necessarily. There are vegetables on the less expensive side, such as potatoes that can offer that same satisfied feeling. Now that is a one-two punch for nutrition and fullness!

DO I REALLY HAVE TO GIVE UP MY FAVORITES?

150,000. That is how many people are impacted by food insecurity in the Triad alone. Food insecurity is determined based on the accessibility a community has to fresh, healthy food. To put the astonishing total of 150,000 people into perspective, Wake Forest’s BB&T football field could be filled almost five times with families in our community struggling to feed their families each and every day.

Factors such as low-income and low-educational attainment are correlated with drastically lower life expectancy differences compared to those residing in high-income and high-educational attainment areas. The statistics are alarming, but rest assured that community organizations across the Triad are working together to move the needle on this issue.

The Hampton Family Mobile Kitchen is just one way the American Heart Association is helping to combat food insecurity in our community. Made possible by the generous funds from The Blairton Hampton Family and Mount Zion Baptist Church, these healthy cooking and eating classes instructed by Chef N’gai Dickerson are focused on helping families in underserved neighborhoods in Guilford County. These classes have reached over 10,000 families! Chef N’gai’s classes are now expanding into Forsyth County to reach even more underserved communities.

Do you think the idea of eating healthy and eating cheap is a paradox? If so, we are here to prove you wrong!

We asked Chef N’gai for tips on how to eat healthier while on a budget.

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Don’t worry! You can still offer your family the same meal that they love but with heart-healthy substitutions. Here’s a bit of advice that we could all use when it comes to being stuck in our ways: Get away from the names and look at the ingredients. I believe that having your own twist on something can really make it yours. Spaghetti is just one example! It is a very simple meal, but you can do things like make your own tomato sauce, find a chickpea or brown rice pasta and use leaner meats.

IS IT TOO COMPLICATED TO LEARN HOW TO REALLY EAT HEALTHY?

Not at all – the first part is to try something different! Just finding ways to break out of habits is a big part of increasing nutritional intake. Take the initiative to become more conscious about what is in your food. That is a monumental step when it comes to getting the most bang for your buck.

TIME – WHAT ANSWERS DO YOU HAVE FOR THAT ONE?

A factor almost as significant as money is time. Whether you are a college student or a working parent, time is of the essence.

We put food on the end of the day when it should be the first thing we are thinking about. How are you going to fuel yourselves throughout the day? When it comes down to it, our bodies function by and depend on the nutrition we provide it with. What gas are you putting in your tank to fuel your engine?

If cooking is not your strength, or cooking healthy sounds way too intimidating, you can sign up for one of N’gai’s classes. Guaranteed to have fun, learn something new and leave with the knowledge, healthy recipes, and a meal to try at home without putting any of your family budget at risk. For a list of Chef N’gai’s Hampton Family Mobile Kitchen classes, email Ngai.dickerson@heart.org or call 336-905-3348.

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Have you ever had a case of the Sunday scaries? You know, the time you realize on a Sunday night that Monday is coming? According to research, two-thirds of the population state that Monday is the worst day of the week. And why not? It is the start of a new week, the start of several continuous days of work and errands, and many days until the next weekend. In addition, research shows that people put pressure on themselves to start something new or quit something.

Let’s face it, we all have said, “We’ll start Monday.”

However, we can change that. We can change the way we think about Mondays and can make them one of our favorite days of the week. In fact, people across social media and online are already celebrating Mondays.

Recently, I read the book The Pepper Effect: Tap into the Magic of Creativity, Collaboration, and Innovation

by Sean Gaillard. This novel is meant for educators and included lessons on how to implement the ingenuity and imagination of The Beatles into schools.

Throughout the book, Gaillard touched on many topics, including why we should celebrate Mondays. After a quick Google search on the idea, I discovered that many people had already taken part in this concept.

For Gaillard, celebrating Mondays started with a desire to create bigger professional learning networks for teachers, while utilizing social media. To do this, Gaillard developed the hashtag #CelebrateMonday. Its purpose is to start each week with positivity and highlight the activities teachers are doing throughout the community, as well as teaching children to be responsible citizens online. Essentially, it is all about recognizing the good things happening in the world of education and sharing them with others worldwide. Since then, many people, mainly in the educational community, have been using the hashtag and starting the week off on a good note.

As for those who aren’t teachers, principals, or school administrators, there are still many ways we can celebrate Monday. After all, don’t most people dread the start of a new week and count down the days until Friday? Referring back to my Google search, I noticed one particular site that put a new perspective on the concept. Writer Marc Seigel posted on his blog, A Flipped Approach, the article “Let’s Start Celebrating Mondays.” In this post, Seigel stated that the second day of the week is a fresh start and a clean slate. In addition, he added the image with the caption “T.G.I.M.” – thank goodness, it’s Monday.

Usually, you say this for Friday, but have you ever thought about saying it for Monday? It might be time to start. Speaking of starting, T.G.I.M. is quickly rising in popularity, thanks to the lifestyle website, Thrive Global. This site has started the social campaign to change people’s way of thinking.

There are many opportunities for people to alter their attitude towards Monday. Start thinking of the day as a new beginning of a new week. However, don’t forget to celebrate your accomplishments and your goals.

For example, celebrate Monday by looking at how far you came the previous week or how much you have accomplished on a tough goal. Ease the pressure of the day; it is just another day of the week. Another idea is to celebrate those around you. Give your co-workers a high five in the lunchroom or tell someone you are proud to be their friend or ask them about the best thing that happened the week before.

Monday blues don’t have takeover your week. Instead, kickoff the next seven days with a celebration. Over time, more and more people will begin to start celebrating Mondays, and before you know it, Mondays will be the best day.

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Why We Should All Celebrate

Mondays

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

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BY MIKE MCGILVARY, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

One of the most important factors in making sure those getting ready to retire are confident with their financial plan is to know what their projected income in retirement looks like. What makes up my retirement income? Have I saved enough to create my own paycheck when I stop working full time? Over the years, the makeup of retirement income has changed dramatically. In previous generations, a person may work their entire career for the same corporation and be eligible for a pension. Retirees of previous generations must have felt at ease knowing they had their pension payment for the rest of their lives.

Additionally, the retiree could turn on their Social Security benefit to supplement the pension income.

As the years have gone by and people’s life expectancy has increased, corporations cannot afford to continue to offer this type of benefit.

What does this mean for workers who are planning for retirement today? For starters, taking full advantage of your employer’s retirement benefits (401(k)/403(b)/ SIMPLE IRA…etc.) is extremely important. Knowing what these benefits are and putting together a strategy to maximize your retirement savings in accordance with your budget is of equal importance. The difference between the savings plans of today and pension plans of yesteryear is how the employee derives his or her income. With pension plans, participants can typically choose a guaranteed income stream for the rest of their lives. With today’s 401(k)s and other traditional savings plans, a check for life is not usually an option.

This highlights the importance of how you claim Social Security benefits and how that integrates with your financial plan. Our firm believes you should establish a reasonable withdraw rate from your retirement accounts (401(k)s, IRAs, etc.), while also taking into consideration non-retirement accounts. We also recommend that you speak with professionals who understand the ins and outs of the Social Security system to ensure benefits are being maximized, based on the specifics of each family’s situation.

As financial advisors, we can help you plan for the longterm and put you in touch with other professionals that have a vast knowledge of the things that we do not deal with on a daily basis. Having a team of professionals with resources that can provide help to you and your family will put you at ease. Many people default to claiming Social Security at age 62, which is the earliest retirees can typically take it. Is that the best option? It depends on your spending needs and goals; it depends on your health and how long you expect to live in retirement. Please consider having a conversation with a professional before you make a final decision.

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Super Medicinal Herbs

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

At a time when agriculture was not a word, Paleolithic humans hunted wild game, and gathered leafy greens and a variety of nuts and fruits. Archaeological evidence in the form of clay tablets suggested the Sumerians used medicinal plants to treat illnesses. The knowledge known today was passed down through the generations. You may use rosemary to ease coughing, peppermint as a solution for stomach pain, or cilantro to boost energy levels. The glass bottles in your cupboard have a broader purpose than to add flavor. The following seven herbs have medicinal powers to help you achieve particular health goals.

BASIL

Renowned for its distinctive flavor, scent, and healing properties, it has a long history. Once used as an ingredient for salves prepared for royalty, or used in households for flavoring or medicinal purposes.

Most often, sweet basil is the herb of choice to treat irritability, anxiety, and fatigue.

Insect Bite: Mash a few basil leaves and apply to an insect bite for 15 minutes. The antibacterial properties can aid in relieving bites, stings, and swelling.

CAYENNE

Identified by its bright red chilies, only the fruit is edible as the leaves, stems, and flowers are toxic.

Cayenne assists in digestion and stimulates circulation throughout the body. Rich in vitamins A and C, cayenne is the herb need to boost the immune system during cold and flu season.

Experiencing Poor Circulation? Sprinkle a small amount of cayenne in your shoes. The result may create a warming sensation.

CINNAMON

Beloved by ancient Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans for preventing sickness, it contains anti-infectious compounds that can naturally lower blood sugar and LDL cholesterol.

Easing Menstrual Difficulties: In one cup of boiling water, add one teaspoon of chopped cinnamon bark and one teaspoon of freshly grated gingerroot.

Allow to steep for 30 minutes. Strain. Add honey to sweeten. Take small sips until cramps subside.

ECHINACEA

While it is a powerful immune-boosting herb, echinacea contains antimicrobial properties to lessen fever, flu, and colds. Teas will soothe a sore throat and ease a cough.

Growing Echinacea: Look in your garden for a tall purple coneflower. Whether it was planted or growing wild, echinacea may be fresh and readily available a mere few steps away. Easy to grow as a plant or with seeds, make sure it is planted with a hand full of rocks to promote drainage. Coneflowers thrive with little water.

GINGER

Feeling nauseous? Consider a meal which contains ginger. It can calm the digestive tract and reduce motion sickness with better results than an overthe-counter drug.

Meal Combinations: If wondering how to pair ginger with food, consider recipes including potatoes or Jasmine rice, and surprisingly, pears.

LAVENDER

Tall spikes of purple flowers grow in bunches. Its aroma not only attracts bees and butterflies but people, too. While this herb is widely known for its calming abilities, a few twigs placed in a bedroom relieves tension, stress, and insomnia. As an oil, its antibacterial, antifungal, and antiseptic properties can treat infections and nail fungus, and heal scrapes and wounds.

Herbal Bath: Immerse yourself in a giant cup of tea. Begin with a cotton bag; then, add lavender, chamomile, and rose or any combination you desire. Allow hot water to run through the bag for a few minutes transforming the tub water into an herbal infusion. Add cold water to the desired temperature. Great for adults and especially children.

TURMERIC

The plant, commonly seen as a red powder, often adds flavor to Asian and Middle Eastern cuisine. As a close cousin to ginger, its anti-inflammatory properties also decrease swelling, digestion difficulties, and pain caused by osteoarthritis. Studies prove turmeric can improve digestion, circulation, and promote brain health.

Heals the Skin: One ancient remedy was to create a paste using turmeric with water or milk and apply. While the enzymes aid in cleansing and increase healing, the overall benefit is to promote proper growth of the skin.

Continue learning about medicinal herbs by researching your favorites. It’s no wonder you enjoy the flavor and aroma of chamomile, peppermint, or rosemary; each one is a vital ingredient towards the promotion of well-being. With the herb thriving in your kitchen window, podcasts or books written by Rosemary Gladstar can offer tips and recipes to further your education in growing and harvesting beneficial plants as well as its conventional use.

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The Top 10 Reasons

We Love Our Jobs

BY DENISE HEIDEL PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

The process of buying or selling a home is so deeply personal that it makes sense to work with real estate experts who are willing to be invested in you and your family. A trio like the ladies of Southern Signature Properties are a self-made family who, while very different, share a love of real estate and a passion for helping others.

“We were friends first,” shared Jenny Edwards.

“It was easy to see, based on our friendship, how our different talents could complement one another if we united to pursue our common love for real estate. We all have entrepreneurial spirits, so it just made sense!”

Alison Vannoy concurred, and added, “We knew we could lean on each other through the process of building a successful business and figure it out together.”

“We also knew from the beginning,” chimed in Renea Burgess, “that if we were going to do this, it had to be different. We refused to be cliché.”

“Life’s too short,” Jenny said, while Renea and Alison nodded in agreement. “We wanted what we do to matter. And if we can love what we do, with people we love, while we make a career – all the better! That’s win-win-win!”

As such, these three dynamic women have identified the top ten things they love about their job. “It was hard to narrow it down to ten,” said Renea. “But these definitely encompass the core of our values and daily drive.”

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THE TOP 10 REASONS WE LOVE OUR JOBS 1. THE OBVIOUS FIRST – they love houses.

“We all love houses,” said Alison. “We never get tired of looking at them and seeing how they are made. We have a definite appreciation for fine craftsmanship and love to explore the way a house is put together, as well as the different ways people can personalize a house to make it into a home.”

2. EVERY DAY IS DIFFERENT. And different is good. It’s the “different” that allows this team to work together so efficiently and effectively. It’s the “different” that sets them apart from other realtors. “We are grateful that we can be in this fantastic industry, but do it with our signature style,” said Renea. “Every day brings its own set of challenges, but also its own set of rewards. We love the variety.”

3. THEY LOVE MEETING NEW PEOPLE.

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Within moments of meeting the ladies of Southern Signature Properties, their love for people radiates from the inside out. They each have a genuine heart for meeting and helping others. Alison shared, “All of us are sociable people who love a great conversation. Meeting new people keeps us inspired and motivated.”

4. THEY LOVE TO MAKE PEOPLE FEEL WELCOME. All three ladies have a great fondness for hospitality. “We love to make people feel comfortable. It’s fun for us to get to know likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests – these are the things that make us all individuals and help us find houses that are a great fit for our clients’ lifestyles.”

5. THEY LOVE TO HELP FACILITATE ONE OF THE BIGGEST DECISIONS MOST PEOPLE WILL EVER MAKE. “Buying a house,” they said, “is more often than not the biggest financial decision most people will make in their lifetime. It’s a tremendous responsibility, and we take that seriously. We are happy that we can offer our expertise and guidance to ensure that our clients are making fiscally-sound decisions over which they will be pleased.”

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6. THEY LOVE TO HELP COORDINATE PURCHASES THAT BRING ABOUT TRANSFORMATION. Within a few minutes of conversation, it’s evident that the ladies of Southern Signature Properties have a very clear understanding of this truth – a house and a home are two different things.

“We all have a soft spot for old houses,” said Jenny. “It doesn’t happen with every transaction, but when we can work with an investor who wants to renovate a house and return it to a place that a family can call home – that’s so rewarding. But restoration project or not – every house gets a buyer’s signature touch that personalizes it into a home.”

7. JENNY, RENEA, AND ALISON LOVE THE TRIAD COMMUNITY. They are all advocates for

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the unique and artistic quality of the city and surrounding area. “Renea and Alison are both natives,” explained Jenny. “I am originally from Texas, but Winston-Salem is home. I’ve lived here since I was a teenager and I agree with Renea and Alison that this area has so much to offer.

It’s a truly unique community.”

8. THEY LOVE TO GIVE BACK. The ladies of Southern Signature Properties are involved with Habitat for Humanity, Second Harvest Food Bank, Homes for Heroes, and the local schools. “We have been so blessed, and it’s our responsibility to be able to give back to others,” said Alison. “We are all moms and being able to give to families through these worthy organizations is a privilege.”

9. THEY LOVE WORKING WITH THEIR BEST FRIENDS. Jenny, Renea, and Alison love what they do in large part because they love spending time with one another. “These are my best friends,” said Renea. “We do life together, our families love one another, and because we have such a strong friendship, it’s enabled us to build something very special together. It makes work so much fun!”

10. THEY COMPLEMENT ONE ANOTHER. Jenny is the guts and gumption of the trio. She is a natural encourager who is always ready to remind the others “We can do it!” Alison is the glitter – the splash of fun who is always ready for a spontaneous adventure.

And Renea is the glue – the one who holds it all together. While all three sell real estate, it’s Renea’s organizational skills that help keep everything running efficiently.

Southern Signature Properties is a business built on passion and heart.

This list is only the tip of the iceberg of what drives them and what makes their approach unique. Jenny, Renea, and Alison welcome the opportunity to meet with their clients and work with them to create an experience that culminates into the purchase of an amazing home.

Southern Signature Properties is a part of Realty One. Their office is located at 3720 Vest Mill Road in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336.749.5388 or visit online at LiveSouthernNC.com.

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In the South, the pineapple is synonymous with hospitality.

It was a perfect representation of Jenny, Renea, and Alison’s values. They want their clients to feel welcome and engaged throughout the process. The sense of hospitality that transitions a mere house into a warm and inviting home is, after all, what the south is noted for! With that in mind, the Southern Signature Properties’ Pineapple Supreme cake is a great way to welcome guests into your home, or welcome a new family to the neighborhood!

PINEAPPLE SUPREME INGREDIENTS

White cake mix (any brand) 1 cup granulated sugar 1 cup all purpose flour 4 eggs 1 cup sour cream 1 cup water 1 tsp vanilla 1 tsp of pineapple flavoring 1 small package of vanilla pudding

DIRECTIONS

Mix dry ingredients together, incorporating wet ingredients and mixing until well-blended (no lumps).

Bake at 325 degrees for 25 minutes.

The recipe makes three 8” or two 9” layers.

BUTTERCREAM FROSTING INGREDIENTS

2 sticks of unsalted butter, room temperature 2 lbs powdered sugar 1 tsp vanilla flavoring 1/4 cup of water

DIRECTIONS

Cream butter with electric mixer. Add powdered sugar 1 cup at a time. Add water until desired consistency is achieved.

Cool, then generously fill each layer with crushed pineapple. Frost with buttercream frosting (recipe below).

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Live Large In a Small Space

“Interior design is rarely easy, but those who live in particularly tiny quarters know that it’s even trickier to decorate without the luxury of space.” ~ Mackenzie Horan My husband and I have lived in several houses during our life together. Some were small; others were larger. I have always said that no matter the house, I could make it home. When our daughter and son-in-law were looking for a new home in Colorado a few years ago, April said, “Mom, I don’t want a large house because then I’ll have to have furniture to fill it up.” There is a great deal of truth to that statement.

No matter how small the space, you can create an intimate retreat that feels cozy and inviting. So whether you have a small apartment, small home or a small room, there are some basic rules to help you make the most of your small space.

• Clear the clutter. Every inch of space counts in a small space. Donate or sell items you don’t need. Use baskets to store everyday clutter on open shelving, under a coffee table or open console table.

• Select furniture with no arms or tight arms and straight sides. Furnishings with exposed legs also help to visually add space to a small room.

• Consider a smaller version of the necessary furniture like a loveseat, instead of a full-size sofa or a full or queen size bed instead of a king.

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• Choose a round ottoman or coffee table to allow for better traffic flow in and out of the conversation area.

• Use fewer colors in a small space. Too many can make a room look messy. Use color to add personality to your space; not overpower it.

• Play up texture by varying the textures in a small space. The eye will be stimulated, but not overly so.

• Allow for more seating in a small dining space by using a round dining table. Consider using a glasstopped table to create the illusion of a larger space.

• Hang curtains high (to create height) and wide (to let as much light in as possible)….just a few inches below the ceiling or molding and 4” to 6” outside each side of the molding.

• Create a strong focal point by using a large or over-sized piece of art. This can actually open up a small space.

Using several smaller pieces of art scattered around the room will make the room feel cluttered.

• Make the space feel larger by using a light colored rug. Even in a small room, be sure to define the space with a rug.

• Take up minimal visual space by using clear (reflective or transparent) glass lamps and accessories, or Lucite or glass-topped tables.

• Buy furniture pieces that have a multipurpose, such as ottomans with built-in storage, nesting tables, a dining table with drop leaves, a daybed covered with pillows (can serve as a couch), etc.

• Add interest by using patterns in a small space: the ratio of 2:1 – two small-scaled patterns or textures with one sparsely used bold pattern.

• Decorate vertically with shelves. Open shelves work best in a small space. A bookcase or built-ins painted the same color as the wall will not distract from the space.

• Expand the boundaries of your room with a mirror. A mirror reflects light and can double the impact of windows.

Word of warning: Be careful what a mirror reflects. Reflecting clutter or the wrong view, a mirror can make a room feel more crowded.

• Light up your room. Good lighting is essential.

Overhead lighting (recessed lighting, unlike a hanging fixture, will not demand attention) is helpful but wall, floor and table lamps will spread light around the room. Lamps always make a room cozy and inviting.

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Tips To Be

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Gratitude is scientifically proven to help us cope better with stressful situations. It has been proven that gratitude works to give us a more positive outlook on life, and it certainly helps improve relationships. But how can we be more grateful?

We’ve all heard tips about writing in a gratitude journal or listing five things you’re grateful for at the end of the day. Those ideas are good and obviously have merit. But what other steps can we take to be more grateful throughout the day?

Don’t reserve your gratitude for the big things. Acknowledge the little things, too. Be grateful when someone lets you in front of them in traffic, or when you discover a hidden piece of chocolate in your desk drawer.

Dig deep, even in difficult circumstances.

As the saying goes, “There is always, always something to be thankful for.” Even in the direst of circumstances – being grateful that you or a loved one has access to a specialist in a medical emergency or being grateful that the airbags deployed to ensure your safety in a car crash. Look for the positives even in the negatives.

Volunteer. There’s nothing like doing for others

Smile at other people. Smiling will immediately improve your mood, especially when your smile is returned. By improving your mood, you’re more in the mindset to look for the opportunities to be grateful.

Eat right and exercise. Self-care is an essential part of feeling grateful. When we feel good because we are eating healthy and being active, we can feel gratitude more easily.

Be present in the moment. Nothing can rob us of a sense of gratitude faster than living in the past or worrying about the future. Stay in the moment and recognize the good exactly where you are.

Pick your words carefully. Negative words will bring you down. Train yourself to use positive, encouraging words that will uplift you.

Choose your company wisely. Some relationships are toxic, and when people bring you down, it may be time to consider stepping away from the relationship, or at least backing away a bit.

Refuse to compare yourself. Accept that

to make you grateful for the things you have.

Volunteering is a wonderful way to remind yourself that there are people in the world who have more problems than you do… there are those who live daily in situations that will make you want to hug your own issues with thankfulness that you have them.

you are uniquely made and while it’s fine to want to improve yourself – you are not and will never be someone else. So resist the urge to compare your life to others, and be grateful for the person you were made to be. After all – you are truly one of a kind!

Say, “Thank you.” Another popular quote says it succinctly -- “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” And as we all know, it’s better to give than to receive.

Say thank you and give others the knowledge of your appreciation.

Being in nature is always a good thing.

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Get outside and enjoy some fresh air!

Be humble. Pride will never experience gratitude the way a humble heart will. Embrace humility and allow yourself to marvel at all the ways you’ve been blessed.

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Trendy. Southern. Style.

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

Step into Swanky & Swag in Lewisville, and chances are you will have found your new happy place!

It’s really as simple as that, and owner Whitney Boger couldn’t be more proud of her winning combination of salon and boutique in one, a dream that grew out of her hobby of jewelry making, and her love for people.

“My daughter and I made earrings for teacher gifts one weekend, and we made so many I took them to my hair salon (Bangz Hair Studio) and sold them!” explains Whitney. “From there, I started doing vendor events and continued to add new items to my booth.”

Next, she bought a vintage camper and continued doing events all over the Triad during 2018, including Southern Charm at the Farm, and the Foothills Tasting Room Markets. By October 2018, Whitney was hard at work rebranding her business and joining her two passions.

“Hairstyling has been my passion since I was a little girl,” she says. “The boutique aspect is my new-found love. I love meeting new people!

She also wants shoppers to find things they wouldn’t find anywhere else, including small sizes to plus sizes. “I like to keep my items affordable for all shoppers, too,” says Whitney.

Swanky & Swag is quietly tucked into cozy retail space in Lewisville, but it’s made a big impact on local shoppers, with a diverse inventory that’s a nod to Whitney’s favorite Boho Southern style.

She’s also an enormous fan of the “buy local” movement and supporting artists in the area. Amid the boutique’s jewelry offerings are many locally – and beautifully handcrafted – pieces.

“As a business owner for the last 14 years, the community has supported me so much,” says Whitney. “Without them, I wouldn’t be where I am today,” she says of what she dubs “rock star” ladies in the community who are business owners themselves. “Their support for one another absolutely amazes me – it’s always community over competition!” she says.

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Swanky & Swag carries a wide array of fashionable, trendy items, from clothing, shoes, and handbags, to unique jewelry, and novelty décor, where you’ll notice some country music references sprinkled around, several super artistic jewelry lines, including Betsy Pittard out of Georgia, a line that Whitney discovered via a longtime salon customer, and a stunning solid copper collection called Torch & Hammer.

“One of our best sellers, aside from clothing, is probably our leather cowhide bags and fun leather jewelry,” explains Whitney. “I get excited every time I get new bags and jewelry in. Our bags are oneof-a-kind!”

As the sole buyer for the boutique, Whitney enjoys offering something for every taste. But she does admit to her own vintage, Southern soul, which she can’t help but reflect in the shop’s collections.

Browsing through the boutique – with wooden, whitewashed décor that’s as cozy and comfortable as it gets – you can’t help but notice novelty signs that read “Farmhouse” and “Sweet Tea” – setting just the theme and feel Whitney had always envisioned for the business. Her dream of opening her heart and her Southern roots to discerning customers is now a charming reality.

This past winter, Swanky & Swag invited customers to contribute gently used coats for Give a Kid a Coat, and they plan to participate in more “giving back” campaigns in the future.

“Whether it’s in the hair salon, at vendor events or here in the boutique, I get to know more and more about people who share my same passions,” says Whitney. “I am truly blessed to have so many friendships that I’ve made throughout my journey this past year.”

Plan a visit soon to Swanky & Swag, located at 1337 Lewisville Clemmons Road in Lewisville. Reach the salon and boutique at 336-778-0111, online at swankyandswagllc.com, and follow them on Facebook for events and brand new merchandise!

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Be the Most Encouraging Person in Someone Else’s Life Today

BY DEBBIE BARR

Chances are, you know someone who is going through a difficult time right now—job loss, divorce, cancer, miscarriage, or another hardship. If you know a person with a problem, you know a person who could use some encouragement. However, sometimes those most in need of encouragement won’t ask for it. Good encouragers, therefore, learn to sense the needs of others and take the initiative.

Here are three ways you can be the most encouraging person in someone else’s life today:

ENCOURAGING WORDS

Words have tremendous power. They can either lift others up or drag them down. As Solomon wrote in the ancient Hebrew wisdom book of Proverbs, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (18:21). Good encouragers use words to accentuate the positive in others’ lives. They express appreciation to those behind the scenes, saying “Tammy, all your hard work has really made a difference. Thanks for everything you did.”

Saying something positive about a person’s abilities, faith, past successes, or good judgment can light a beacon of hope in a hard time (“You have so much to offer. It’s just a matter of time until you find the right job!”) Your words can infuse your friends with the courage to keep powering on.

During a crisis, words can be a life preserver to someone in murky waters. Your kind words may be mentally replayed again and again in the months and years ahead. Too many words or a preachy tone, however, can increase another’s burden, which is the opposite of what you want. Simply offering a few heartfelt words and a listening ear often provides the best encouragement.

Words don’t have to be spoken to encourage. Because thoughtfully written words can express exactly what is in your heart, a handwritten note or email is sometimes the best way to deliver your message of encouragement. The written word is also more enduring than the spoken word. A note of thanks or appreciation can be reread months or years later.

Most everyone you know could use a little encouragement.

Caregivers or older people who are hearing impaired may feel alone and discouraged. Teachers and first responders may need to hear someone (maybe you?) say they make a difference.

Most of all, your family needs your encouragement. A note tucked into a lunch bag or backpack can deliver personalized encouragement that helps soothe math test anxieties or prepresentation jitters.

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TANGIBLE ENCOURAGEMENT

Encouraging words are hollow if they ignore an obvious physical or tangible need. While everyone can give verbal encouragement, providing tangible encouragement may require you to open your wallet or give of your time.

Of course, not everyone has resources to share. But if you have extra time or money, you have a wonderful opportunity.

For example, your elderly neighbor may need someone to shovel his sidewalk after a snow storm. That single mom on your block who was laid off from her job? She may need grocery money or childcare while she looks for new employment.

Even when it inconveniences you, providing tangible encouragement can be fun. You can reach out anonymously, just for the pure joy of helping someone. For example, leave an anonymous gift card on your coworker’s desk or an anonymous bag of groceries at your neighbor’s door.

Meeting practical needs presents a rich opportunity for teaching children about generosity and making faith practical. Your family could create an “encouragement fund” for reaching out to others. Each month, family members can take turns deciding how to use the money. The amount doesn’t have to be large. Maybe just enough to mail a “We’re thinking about you” card to a recent widow, or treating someone to lunch, maybe a teenager whose parents are divorcing.

EMOTIONAL ENCOURAGEMENT

Emotional encouragement is an “I’m with you in this” attitude that communicates support to another person. One way to express emotional encouragement is to listen sincerely and intently. This honors the person and shows them you value what they say.

Those who are grieving, however, may not want to talk. Their greatest need may be to have you simply sit with them in silence.

Eye contact is also important.

Eye contact is how human beings communicate safety and trust to one another. Positive eye contact tells another person that you are genuinely interested in them, and you can underscore your listening with a warm smile. A gentle touch on the arm, hand, or shoulder also communicates sincere concern by breaking into another’s sense of isolation in their trouble.

As you set out to intentionally encourage a friend, family member, coworker, or even a total stranger, watch their response to your words, tangible help, or emotional encouragement.

More often than not, that person won’t be the only one who is encouraged!

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BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

GET GOING ON YOUR GOALS

So, it’s been about two months since you fervently made your New Year’s resolutions for 2019. Did those resolutions include getting organized and making more money? If so, you can accomplish two goals in one by turning your clutter into cash.

Not only does cleaning and clearing your space help declutter and organize your environment but, according to experts, it also helps bring clarity to your mind and a sense of peace and satisfaction to your well-being.

Make it a goal to handle the stuff you have, decide what to do with it, and then follow through with it.

ONE THING AT A TIME

Think in terms of assessing and reflecting on the items in one room at a time, one closet at a time, or one drawer or shelf at a time.

Here’s where you can look for clutter to clean and clear: Shelves, drawers, closets, attics, basements, garages, other areas throughout house, and storage facilities.

BENEFITS TO BOAST

Although it can be a daunting task to declutter your household and make money off of some of your findings, the benefits are many.

It can involve some hard work, but it can also be a good workout. Plus, anything you sell is extra cash in your pockets!

You can stir up good memories by going through old belongings, and sharing the experience with family and friends can be a nostalgic and memorable time. Family stories may emerge that you want to record and reflect on.

TACKLE THE TASK

Tackle the task by breaking it down into bitesized pieces. Sort, prep and sell.

First, decide what you will keep, sell, donate or give away.

You may want to set categories of stuff into piles or put things into separate bags or boxes to keep them separated.

To determine what to hold and hang onto, and what to let go of, consider answering a few questions. Does this item have a worthwhile use? Does it make me happy? Does it have sentimental value and, if so, how much?

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CHUCK IT OR CASH IT

Gauge an item’s potential. Do a simple check before you chuck it. Is this something I would consider buying, or would it be better to give it away or just toss? If possible, consider reselling because getting something is better than nothing.

Also, consider the condition your things are in. Are they outdated or out of style?

It’s good news that most charities aren’t too picky.

Usually, they are grateful for clothes in serviceable condition, even if they aren’t trendy.

Consignment stores, which pay you a portion of the selling price when an item is purchased, are more selective and can be picky about wearable items they accept.

Clean and press all clothing you have decided to resell, so it is in the best condition and as appealing as possible.

RULES OF ONLINE RESELLING

To prep items that are in good condition for resale, be sure to do your research. Check what’s available online that matches the exact item or something similar and make note of the prices and where it’s sold.

Shipping can be costly, so be sure to factor that expense into your selling price. You’ll need clean packing materials. Try to include instructions and original product guides, if available.

So, where can you go to sell or donate items?

• Garage sales and yard sales • Flea markets and pawn shops • Consignment and resale stores • Buy/sell groups on social media sites such as Facebook • Sites: eBid, eBay, Bonanza, Etsy, Poshmark, Thredup, Craigslist • Apps: LetGo, 5miles, Gone, Offer Up, Dealo, SocialSell, NextDoor, Listia, Carousell Stick close to home and sell your items locally, or go global and sell online to a worldwide market.

TIPS AND TIDBITS FOR RESELLING

• Involve your loved ones and spread the word • Make your listing honest, specific and professional for best results • Write well and double check your copy • Make clear photographs in front of a solid white background to minimize distractions • Show the item in use to make the item stand out from the competition

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BY TABI FALCONE In 2013 Kathryn Johnson received the worst news that a mother could get: her unborn child had no heartbeat. Heartbroken, she began searching online for resources to help her through this difficult time and found them lacking. Determined to help other mothers and families going through this loss, she created her first “Hope Box” at her home and the bud of Hannah’s Hope began to form. When asked where the name came from, Kathryn states that “Hannah’s Hope is derived from the story of Hannah in the book of 1 Samuel in the Old Testament. Hannah longed for a child and prayed for God to give her a child. Many women who experience pregnancy losses are longing for children in the same way that Hannah did.”

With the help of a friend who is a fellow infant loss mom, she went to her church to pitch her “Hope Box” mock-up and was met with a great reception. Giving her the financial support she needed to get started, the partnership began. Since this initial meeting, Hannah’s Hope has grown into a stand-alone 501(c)(3) charitable organization, though her church is still financially invested in helping support this very important mission. Although she also offers online resources and speaking engagements, the most important portion of the Hannah’s Hope ministry is the Hope Boxes.

Hope Boxes include items that have been carefully curated by Kathryn which include a devotional book titled Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg, the placement of a Gideon’s New Testament in memory of your child, a plush lamb, and Christmas ornament to commemorate your child’s memory, forget-me-not seeds, scripture and song lists that will provide hope and healing, as well as coupons for hope necklaces available on Etsy. These boxes are most commonly purchased by friends and family of grieving women to help lessen their load and help them begin the path to healing. The lamb is especially symbolic for Kathryn as she and her husband had purchased one for their unborn child prior to learning of their loss.

Miscarriage is a subject which can carry a lot of weight, trauma, and grief for many women, with the current statistics showing that at least one out of four women have suffered a miscarriage during their lives. When asked if this particular call

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to ministry takes an emotional toll, Kathryn states that starting and then growing with Hannah’s Hope has been therapeutic for her grief. Having suffered through three miscarriages before welcoming their rainbow baby (the term for a child born after a loss, a metaphoric rainbow after the storm), she is able to speak through her own experiences to further help other women, which has, in turn, helped her. One thing she noted that is especially difficult but important to remember is that, “Every person’s story is their own,” adding that, “I am reminded that pregnancy and life are both so fragile, that we are not in control, and I truly believe every baby that is born is a miracle.”

Despite the 25% of women who are affected by miscarriage, it can often be incredibly difficult to know how to react to learning this news, and most importantly, how to help our friends and families who are grieving through this process. Kathryn advises “to do something to acknowledge the loss. That may be sharing a kind word, bringing them food, or ordering a Hope Box. Taking a tangible action – even when you aren’t sure what to do or how it will be received – is very important.”

Hope Boxes can be purchased through her website (HannahsHope.us) and cost $25 for a singleton, and $35 for twins (which include an extra lamb, ornament and NT donation), plus shipping.

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Easy Italian Home Cooking

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Not all of us have an Italian grandmother to make the kitchen smell nostalgically like garlic or the perfect Italian place to eat out, but fortunately, now you can make and share these classic Italian recipes in your own home. These recipes will become favorite Italian staples for your family and friends to enjoy for years to come!

SPINACH PESTO

BRILLIANT BRUSCHETTA

CAPRESE ITALIAN SALAD

EGGPLANT PARMESAN

4 servings

4 servings

4 servings

4 servings

4 cups baby spinach 2 sprigs basil 2 cups Parmesan/ParmigianaReggiano/Romano (shaved or grated) 1 1/2 cup toasted pine nuts, walnuts, or pecans 4 to 5 cloves garlic 1 ½ cup extra virgin olive oil (EVOO) 2 TBSP lemon juice 1 tsp lemon zest (optional) 1 TBSP crushed red pepper (for fans of the spicy)

4-5 diced tomatoes 1 diced onion (yellow, sweet or red) 4 to 5 cloves garlic (what Italian dish doesn’t have this must-have ingredient)?

1 cup basil 3 TBSP extra virgin olive oil (EVOO) 3 TBSP balsamic vinegar ¾ cup Parmesan/ParmigianaReggiano/Romano Ground black pepper & salt (optional: to taste)

Combine ingredients in food processor or high powered blender. Mix thoroughly until mixture becomes a paste.

If you are fan of pico de gallo and prefer fresh, raw veggies, simply mix your ingredients together in a bowl and serve up rather than cooking over the stove. Some of you, however, may prefer cooking the ingredients before serving. If so, drizzle your pan with olive oil and cook onions till translucent, then add garlic, tomatoes, and other ingredients. Add the basil last, then serve.

3 tomatoes (any kind heirloom, grape, cherry, etc.)

2 cups mozzarella 3 sprigs basil (rough chopped) 4 to 5 cloves minced garlic (raw or sautéed) ¼ cup extra virgin olive oil (EVOO) ¼ cup balsamic vinegar 1 TBSP honey (optional for those who love things sweet) Ground black pepper & salt (optional, to taste) 1 tsp ground mustard (optional) Bed of baby spinach or lettuce (optional)

1 eggplant (sliced, thin slices cook faster) 3 eggs (beaten) 1 ½ cup Italian or panko bread crumbs Spices (optional: garlic powder, basil, red pepper flakes) 1 cup Parmesan/ParmigianaReggiano/Romano (grated) 2 cups mozzarella (sliced) Handful basil (rough chopped or minced) 3 cups marinara sauce (tomato sauce) ½ cup all-purpose flour (if frying) ½ cup extra virgin olive oil (EVOO, if frying)

*Pesto goes hand-in-hand with tomatoes (whether fresh or sundried), roasted red peppers, mozzarella and veggies like eggplant, zucchini, yellow squash, sweet peppers, portabella and baby bella mushrooms. Pesto is terrific on pastas and is equally yummy on bread. Try it combined with bruschetta.

Recipe adapted from All Recipes for Spinach Basil Pesto (allrecipes.com)

* Bruschetta is usually served on baguette rounds, thinly sliced bread (drizzle with olive oil then toast, grill or bake) or crackers.

Cut the tip of the garlic clove and rub it on the bread before spooning the bruschetta on top.

Bruschetta goes well with olives, roasted red peppers, marinated artichokes and mushrooms.

Makes great hors d’oeuvres!

You can either mix all of the ingredients together in a bowl or you can make a pretty plate by alternating slices of tomatoes and mozzarella. Add salt, pepper and ground mustard (optional), then spoon minced garlic overtop.

Sprinkle fresh basil atop and get ready to celebrate! *Caprese is great by itself, served on a bed of spinach or lettuce, or over bread.

Recipe adapted from Tablespoon for Stacked Caprese Salad with Balsamic Vinegar: (tablespoon.com)

Recipe adapted from All Recipes for Balsamic Bruschetta: (allrecipes.com)

You can fry or bake your Eggplant Parmesan. To fry, dip eggplant slices in beaten eggs and roll in Italian bread crumbs, flour, grated cheese and spices (optional) mixture. Pour EVOO in the pan and set on medium-high heat.

Place each slice of eggplant in the EVOO gently (so it doesn’t spatter) and cook about two minutes (until golden brown). Turn with a fork or spatula and cook the other side.

To bake, dip eggplant slices in beaten eggs, roll in Italian bread crumb mixture and place in a baking dish. Bake for about 15 minutes on one side, then flip and bake the other side for another 15 minutes.

Serve with marinara sauce as a dip or add marinara sauce overtop, followed by mozzarella and fresh basil as a garnish. Bake approximately 5 minutes, until cheese is melted.

Recipe adapted from All Recipes for Eggplant Parmesan II: (allrecipes.com)

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Raising Awareness for All!

BY MARTIE EMORY

According to the American Cancer Society, about 51,020 people in the United States will die from colorectal cancer this year. “Fiftyone thousand people is too many – so we’ve made it our passion to spread encouragement and knowledge to patients who are putting off their screening,” says Dr. David Barry of Gastroenterology Associates of the Piedmont, P.A. (GAP).

March is recognized as Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month, which brings national attention to the importance of screening for prevention or early cancer detection. For those of us in the Triad, it’s an opportunity to encourage our family, friends, and neighbors to get screened! Putting off a screening appointment is easy to do, as work and family commitments seem to fill our days. However, it’s important to remember that reaching even one person who needs a screening could potentially save his or her life, impacting their family for generations.

GAP spreads awareness throughout the entire year with an outreach program dedicated to visiting doctors’ offices, health fairs, and a variety of community events to provide educational materials, discuss the importance of screening, and answer questions. As part of this mission to educate, they regularly sponsor and participate in the Get Your Rear in Gear 5k Run/Walk & Kid’s Fun Run – the largest colorectal cancer-focused event series in the United States. Funds raised

during this popular event are put towards efforts to increase screening rates and overall awareness of colorectal diseases.

This year’s Get Your Rear in Gear event will take place Saturday, March 9, at Quarry Park in Winston-Salem.

For more information, visit donate.coloncancercoalition.org/ winston-salem.

Did you know that colorectal cancer in those younger than 50 is on the rise?

“We’re trying to get away from the impression that screening is only for the older generation,” says Dr. Blake Scott. “Understanding symptoms and learning your family history may help determine whether you would benefit from earlier testing that could potentially save your life.”

polyps (growths on the colon lining that may or may not be cancerous) or Lynch syndrome (an inherited condition that can pose a higher risk of developing certain cancers later in life).

• Reach and maintain a healthy weight!

• Establish yourself with a primary care provider, and schedule annual wellness appointments – an important factor in maintaining better overall health.

• Get screened! Colorectal cancer is one of the few cancers that can actually be preventable with proper screening. The physicians at GAP can (literally!) nip those polyps before they turn into cancer.

The GAP team urges patients to: • Take ANY symptoms seriously.

There is no such thing as “normal” rectal bleeding.

• Learn your family history – but not only those cases that involve cancer.

It’s just as important to know if a family member has a history of

To discuss which screening option is best for you, contact any of GAP’s locations at 336-448-2427 – that includes offices in Winston-Salem, Clemmons, and NOW IN KERNERSVILLE! You can also learn more about their services at gapgi.com, or by following them on Facebook.

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The Reasons to Fall in Love with

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Mint

Breathe deeply! Before you know it, your legs have walked toward the fragrant smell that may remind you of a favorite tea infused with peppermint or a soothing mentholated massage. With each breath, the senses grow stronger, the body feels energized, and ready to conquer the day.

VARIETIES

“If any man can name all the varieties of mint, he must know how many fish swim in the Indian Ocean.” –Walafrid Strabo As a favorite botanical herb, the mint family includes hundreds of varieties, such as peppermint, spearmint, catnip, basil mint, rosemary, and oregano. There are plenty of interesting names, which may lead you to consider growing pineapple mint, apple mint, lavender mint, and licorice mint.

MEDICINAL BENEFITS OF PEPPERMINT

One variety recognized by its dark red stem, broad green leaves, and purple flowers intended to extract menthol is peppermint.

As a perennial herb, peppermint can grow in containers all year long or on the ground. Invasive as a species, the plant spreads to cover hills and extensive grounds while effectively deterring deer, mice, rodents and other animals.

In prescriptions, extracts of mint may be an ingredient to relieve nasal congestion, indigestion, colic, headache, and gingivitis. Chewing the leaves aids in a fresher breath, and teas infused with peppermint, lemon, and honey sooth sore throats, and reduce symptoms of flu and colds. When the body needs a pick-me-up of spirit, unconsciously a decision to order a salad, soup, or sauce containing mint may be the ultimate answer to a satisfying meal.

Tip: Peppermint infused tea is an

effective means to eliminate pain relief in place of an oral drug.

Tip: Applying mint oil as either a lotion or oil can produce the effect of calming and cooling the skin from irritations such as insect bites, stings, or rashes.

Tip: Peppermint oil is a safe,

effective way to treat abdominal pain or IBS syndrome. Use of enteric-coated capsules, a preventative to heartburn, is an alternative method of applying a topical.

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MINT LEAVES

Pinching off a few leaves from a thriving mint plant is a worthwhile effort. The leaves are a rich source of an alphabet of vitamins, including A, B, C, E, and beta carotene. Digesting the leaves provides benefits including dietary fiber and a list of micronutrients such as calcium, iron, magnesium, and potassium. Oil from the leaves is rich in anti-oxidants, which promotes energy.

Tip: Place a few individual leaves in the

freezer. Use them for a chilled drink, add to water, or chew for fresher breath.

Tip: Use spearmint for savory dishes and

peppermint for desserts. Try apple or orange mint in fruit salads, yogurts, or teas.

Tip: Add mint leaves to a nylon pouch

and hang in your shower. This effect will open sinuses impacted by hay fever or seasonal allergies.

Tip: To ease a headache, place a compress of mint leaves on your forehead.

PLANTING

Choose a location outdoors that thrives in direct sunlight with adequate drainage near a stream bank or embankment. Soil mixed with a hand full of stones will promote growth. Begin with plants approximately two feet apart. Mint will spread with ease, and grow to a height of two feet.

Tip: Buy only one healthy plant. Cut the

stems and place in water. Once a strong root system is apparent, plant.

Tip: In thinking about the potential height of

a mint plant, it is recommended to use a 12” pot. Kept outdoors in good weather, mint repels flies and mosquitoes.

HARVESTING

Before picking leaves, examine to the same extent as if selecting greens from the produce department. Leaves are at their prime before the plant is about to flower; therefore, spray the night before and harvest in the early morning. Stems and leaves require washing and drying. Gather stems together and secure the ends with a rubber band to hang. When the leaves crumble when crushed, consider placing the leaves in a glass jar with an airtight lid, and store.

Growing and harvesting your plants ensures you always have mint for every need, every time!

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Understanding Nature, Changing Perspectives

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

It is instinctive to fear. Flight or freeze is the unconscious reaction that occurs well before the mind internalizes the moment. The psychological changes in the body by the production of adrenaline results in the need to scream, jump onto a chair, run at high speed, duck and cover the head and face, or stand immobilized. Stories coupled with experiences from long ago remain in our minds grasping the fear that a specific flying, slithering, crawling, or walking creature is within our sight.

What if your ideas about a particular insect, reptile, amphibian, bird, or animal are incorrect? Belief and personal opinion may not be the whole truth to your fear. Can our inherent nature be proven wrong?

BEES AND WASPS

One bad winged insect ruins the outstanding benefits. While there may be a dislike for hornets, wasps, and yellow jackets considered either annoying or dangerous, or disfavored as nest builders, the positive implication is that the variety of bees and wasps play an ecological role in nature by assisting humans. Both bees and wasps are pollinators, increasing the yield and growth of the harvest and flowers.

In February of 2019, the bumblebee is a new addition to the endangered species list, due to pesticides.

Without our winged insects, the issue of parasites’ and insects’ pests would be exponentially unbearable. Imagine the insects it takes to feed their hungry brood!

Recommendations: Try and keep “sugary” foods away from the house.

Leave their nest alone. Guards often stand by that will attack if threatened. Always wear a veiled hat if attempting to remove a nest.

Most bees and wasps will not sting unless attacked; therefore, do not swing arms or tools to attempt to kill the bee or wasp.

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SNAKES

Nearly a third of adults have ophidiophobia, and will avoid particular locations and hobbies in fear of meeting a snake. Based on the characteristics of a snake, it often resorts to camouflage to protect itself from human attention. Under leaf mold or lumber, a snake will prey on populations of insects, rats, and frogs to control pests.

Recommendation: Eliminate weeds and clutter and fill gaps and holes around your house and buildings.

Begin researching the various types of snakes in your area. Learning to distinguish between a harmless and venomous snake is one way to ensure all snakes can assist the environment without causing unintended harm to a passerby.

SPIDERS

Six percent of Americans have an animal phobia, and at the top of the list is arachnophobia. The fear of spiders affects women four times more than men. Despite their reputation, few spider bites are matters of life or death. Spiders are not bloodsuckers and rarely venomous. Helpful to humans, spiders prey on insects, and other small creatures such as aphids, beetles, mosquitoes, and moths, which limit populations and the spread of disease. Look carefully at or below their webs to see the types of insects captured and devoured.

Recommendations: While spiders are a natural part of our environment and home, it is advisable to eliminate clutter in your home and dust frequently. Just remember, with the attempt to force out the house spider, you may discover a greater pest problem.

SOLUTIONS

Bats, birds, dogs, frogs, and mice are among a list of creatures in our world that people fear. Human nature is a sophisticated tool that is difficult to alter despite educational efforts and evidence of a creature benefiting humans. Just for the existence of creating webs, a house spider, who may have never ventured beyond the safety of your home may immediately be squashed simply for being a creature of fear.

Sometimes, animals are worthy of our concern; yet, they deserve respect and avoidance due to their abilities to aid humans and nature.

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Preserving History: The StoryCorps

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Do you remember sitting in your grandparents’ home as a child, listening to them talk about when they were young, things they experienced with their parents, how they grew up, or stories about family members you never met? Those stories, legends, and remembrances are the stuff that families love to preserve and cherish, sharing down through the decades with new generations. Are these stories, told and retold, worth saving?

Absolutely! With so many families living miles apart, saving these ‘legends’ of family members in their day-to-day lives, or perhaps their escapades and adventures, bring the family tree to life.

Without a doubt, delving into one’s heritage is on the forefront of America’s interest these days. Since the launch of Ancestry.com in May of 2012, approximately ten million people worldwide have submitted their DNA data to learn about where they come from. Many probably received DNA submission kits as Christmas or birthday gifts. There’s a tremendous interest in learning about our pasts.

An organization recently featured as a human-interest story on the national news is taking on this concept of preserving American heritage. Since its development in 2003, as an outgrowth from Sound Productions, StoryCorps, Inc. has the task of recording and preserving America’s stories. Founded by David Isay, a radio producer, StoryCorps, Inc., a non-profit organization, is preserving the oral history stories of Americans all over the country.

The first Storybooth was located in the Grand Central Terminal of New York City in October 2003. Today, there are also Storybooths in Chicago and Atlanta. In 2005, two Mobilebooths were added to travel the country and partner with local public radio stations for month-long trips.

Five books have been published as a result of these interviews. To date, 75,000 interviews with approximately 150,000 participants have been conducted, making this initiative one of the largest efforts to preserve the oral history of Americans.

For those who participate in one of these interviews, the process is relatively simple. Each interview of approximately 40 minutes is facilitated by a trained interviewer; the results are provided to the participant, as well as becoming part of the StoryCorps Archive, based at the American Folklife Center in the Library of Congress.

The idea of preserving an oral history is not new, and it’s been documented in some classic films and television shows. The Time Machine, based on H. G. Wells’ novel, is a classic illustration. The professor who has invented a time machine travels sporadically at first and finds himself disappointed at the number of wars and conflicts the future holds. In his despair, he goes well into the future arriving at a time where society seems to have disappeared into two groups of people – the Morlocks who live underground and prey on the Eloi, a simple population who live above ground. To find out how this division came to be, he is shown a room with ‘talking rings’ that tell the history of war, destruction, and how the social network evolved. Not to give away the ending, it’s an excellent movie that has stood the test of time.

Similarly, several episodes of the original Star Trek show have talking history creations to explain the places they explored on their quests.

Check out StoryCorps, Inc.’s website (storycorps.org). While participating in StoryCorps, Inc. is a great opportunity to share your family history, you certainly don’t have to wait for the Mobilebooth to show up in your town. At the next family gathering, take along a recording device and enjoy listening to the stories of your family, make copies for others to share, and keep your family history alive.

Each family story is unique and worth saving and cherishing for generations to come.

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Writers Who Read

Beloved Children’s Books

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

For many people, the love of reading starts at a young age, thanks to being introduced to classic children’s books. Growing up, I had multiple novels that I loved to read over and over again. To this day, I still remember those stories and the emotions they brought with them. If you are looking for a new book to share with the little people in your life, take a look at the suggestions from our writers below.

THE JUNIE B. JONES SERIES BY BARBARA PARK

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don’t like Beatrice. I just like B and that’s all.” This classic sentence is the opening to all of Park’s Junie B. Jones books. From 1992 to 2013, this series produced almost 30 books around this fictional 6-year-old, her parents, baby brother Ollie, her grandparents, friends, and Junie B.’s stuffed elephant, Phillip Johnny Bob. The series covers Junie B.’s journey of starting kindergarten in the first book, Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, to making it to first grade. Some of my favorites novels in the series are Junie B. Jones is a Party Animal, Junie B. Jones Has a Peep in Her Pocket, and Junie B. Jones Is a Graduation Girl. If you are looking for a fun-loving book series, written in the voice of a child, for the young ones in your life, Park has the perfect collection. In addition, she has written older books for middle school aged children.

THE OUTSIDERS BY S.E. HINTON

The book, The Outsiders, is another one of my favorites. It is geared towards middle-school aged children or older, but teaches many valuable lessons. First published in 1967, author S.E. Hinton describes it as a “coming of age” novel. It tells the story of two rival gangs, the working-class “Greasers” and the upper-class “Socs” and is told through the view point of Ponyboy Curtis, a teenager who is part of the “Greasers.”

The Outsiders is set in 1965 Oklahoma. What I love about this novel is that it shows society that socio-economic classes and their differences are pointless and they can cause more harm than good. The Outsiders is filled with themes of bridging the gap between the poor and rich, standing up for those who can’t, and the interactions between people. Many students read this novel in school, but if you haven’t, I recommend you do so. Also, fun fact: Hinton starting writing The Outsiders at the age of 15 and was only 18-years-old when the book was published.

There are many classic children’s books out in the world.

People have their favorites that they read over and over again. One of the best things, however, is when the love of a children’s book is passed from generation to generation.

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PHYSIK, BOOK 3 IN THE SEPTIMUS HEAP BY ANGIE SAGE

Author Angie Sage has created the Septimus Heap series about a young boy, Silas Heap, a wizard’s apprentice who is on the journey of becoming an Extra Ordinary wizard. In book 3, Physik, Heap finds a sealed-up room in a palace and releases the ghost of Queen Etheldredda, who has an evil plan of giving herself everlasting life.

Writer Lisa Doss loves the series. “It’s the 7th son of a 7th son who was taken as an infant from his family. Throughout time, he discovers who he is. It is a series about friendship, loyalty, self-discovery, and making choices,” stated Doss. “Quirky characters, magic, dragons, ghosts, and it’s not too scary. Good for girls and boys. I have read the series numerous times.

This time, I am enjoying it with my 8-year-old daughter and she loves it!”

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ENDOMETRIOSIS AWARENESS

BY JAMIE LOBER March is Endometriosis Awareness Month. This women’s health condition, unfortunately, does not get the attention it deserves as many people write it off as someone just having a bad period, when the reality is that it is so much more. In fact, there are around 176 million women suffering worldwide, which means one out of every ten women you know may be in this battle. Most of these women are in their 30s and 40s.

It is tricky because the only way to be definitively diagnosed is through a laparoscopy, which is not practical for everyone, so the diagnosis is usually about symptoms and tools like a pelvic exam or ultrasound. You want to rule out other conditions that may be responsible for your pain, such as ovarian cysts or uterine fibroids.

When caught early, endometriosis becomes manageable. If you do not pay attention to your body and ignore symptoms, it will wreak havoc on your reproductive system. If you have any of the symptoms below, speak up: • Painful periods and/or periods lasting more than seven days • Heavy menstrual bleeding • Painful intercourse • Bowel changes around the period • Long-term lower back and pelvic pain • Fatigue The toughest part is that the pain can affect your ability to work and maintain relationships, and can come along with medical costs. Pain can range from mild to severe and does not always correspond with the extent of the disease. The pain usually goes away after menopause when the body stops producing estrogen. Similarly, some women feel better, and their symptoms go away, during pregnancy. Everybody is different.

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TREATING ENDOMETRIOSIS

WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN?

If there were a solid answer, women would be effectively preventing endometriosis from happening in the first place. However, the Endometriosis Association has put out some theories: • Endometrial tissue from the uterus goes to other parts of the body • Genetic predisposition • Retrograde menstruation where menstrual tissue backs up through the fallopian tubes, implants in the abdomen and grows

The first line of defense is the typical non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug like ibuprofen. There are also some prescription drugs that your doctor may offer to help you with painful periods. Hormonal therapies like birth control with lower dosages of estrogen are increasingly popular for this reason. Alternative medicine has made a comeback with things like acupuncture, herbal medicine, and chiropractic care, but none of those have proven to be successful. If these fail, surgery is considered where the area of the endometriosis is removed. A hysterectomy, where both ovaries are removed, is an option for some but not always necessary.

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Lifestyle choices should be evaluated, as sometimes a small action like eliminating caffeine can make a difference when it comes to pain.

Physical activity, even just a little walk in the evenings around your neighborhood, can lower estrogen levels and make you feel better. When you have a lower amount of body fat, you have less estrogen.

To get the most appropriate treatment, it can be beneficial to document your symptoms and share that with the doctor.

Get treated. While you most commonly hear about the laparoscopy, there are other solutions out there. You do not want to sit in silence, as endometriosis can cause complications down the road such as infertility in over half of those struggling. Other potential challenges include endometriosis causing ovarian cysts, increasing your risk of developing ovarian cancer, causing inflammation and scar tissue to develop, and possibly causing intestinal or bladder problems.

Contrary to societal beliefs, painful periods are not normal.

The good news is that there is a lot that can be done to remedy the symptoms of endometriosis and help you live a better life.

WHAT CAN YOU DO? Talk about it. Many women are not aware that the condition exists,

while others may be afraid to talk to their gynecologist about it. You will likely be amazed at how many women are interested in learning more.

Write about it. Technology makes the world go around and especially if you are active on social media, a simple posting can make a big difference. Whether you want to write about your experience or start an online journal or just tell others that there is a condition called endometriosis and there is help out there, you are helping others.

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Closing the Opportunity Gap in Forsyth County

BY BOB FEIKEMA, FAMILY SERVICES PRESIDENT AND CEO

EDUCATION HAS LONG BEEN THE DOOR TO OPPORTUNITY & THE PATHWAY TO PROSPERITY IN AMERICA.

“The American Century” was made possible by the establishment of the universal public high school, which began around 1910.

At that time only nine percent of Americans had a high school diploma; by 1940, the number had increased to 50 percent.

Other innovations have followed. In 1981, North Carolina became the first state to require kindergarten to be offered to all children.

Winston-Salem can claim honors as the site of the nation’s first public arts conservatory with the opening of the North Carolina School of the Arts in 1963. And high school students today are earning college credits before graduation through advanced placement and dual enrollment.

Despite these innovations, achieving the American Dream has become a remote possibility for too many, especially for younger generations. An “opportunity gap” has opened up, as documented by Harvard political scientist Robert Putnam in his book, Our Kids: The American Dream in Crisis. Putnam found that:

…over the last 30-40 years, there is a growing gap for the opportunities and resources between those kids coming from affluent and well-educated homes, and opportunities and resources for those kids coming from poor, less-educated homes.

The point of my work is to say, ‘Here’s the reality.’ Now, how do we go about changing our current reality to move us back more towards the reality of the American Dream?

THE OPPORTUNITY GAP IS WIDEST IN FORSYTH COUNTY.

A 2017 study by two Harvard economists found Forsyth County to be among the worst counties in the U.S. for helping poor children move up the income ladder. We rank fifth worst out of 2,873 counties nationwide. Only four American Indian reservations are below us.

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Fortunately, there are proven ways to close the opportunity gap, most notably during the earliest years of life. Brain science has confirmed what most parents already know, namely, that the first five years of life are a time of tremendous physical, social, emotional, and cognitive development. These are the years when brain architecture is being built, with more than one million new neural connections formed every second. But just as seeds must be planted in good soil in order to grow, a child’s environment and life experiences shape and change the architecture of the developing brain, laying the foundation for all the development and behavior that follows, including how healthy and successful the child will become as an adult.

A recent Duke University study authored by Kenneth A. Dodge, whose team studied more than one million North Carolina public school children, found significant benefits from the state-funded Smart Start and More at Four (NC Pre-K) programs. These early childhood programs

…continued to have positive effects on the population of targeted students…as they progressed through middle school.

Higher levels of program funding improved students’ math and reading scores, decreased the likelihood that they would be placed in special education, and reduced the probability of repeating a grade. The More at Four program effects varied significantly across subgroups within the population, with larger positive impacts on children from less well-educated, more economically disadvantaged, and African American families.

Dr. Dodge will be our keynote speaker at our Raising Every Child benefit luncheon on May 23rd at the Benton Convention Center.

We hope you will come help launch our landmark initiative to elevate the well-being of all children in Forsyth County.

The time has come for Forsyth County to take this step on behalf of its youngest children—our future workers, parents, citizens, and leaders.

If not now, when?

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

These Days it Pays to Be Square: 3 Reasons Why Instagram is Worth the Effort This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

If your business hasn’t jumped on the Instagram bandwagon yet, I’m going to take a few guesses as to why: you can’t imagine adding one more thing to your list, you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing, and in the end, it doesn’t really pay off anyway.

Am I close?

Instagram has been, and will more than likely continue to be, one of my biggest lead sources when it comes to my business. Sure, it took time to learn the ropes, and it most certainly costs a small chunk of time during my week, but it is one hundred percent worth it in my business – and it could be in yours, too!

According to Instagram’s 2018 analytics, the quickly growing visual social platform has over 800 million active users. As a small business owner, I think the opportunity to have a slice of that pie is worth a little effort. After all, Instagram is now considered one of the top marketing tools with the highest user engagement rate and everything you need to access it, fits right in the palm of your hand.

REASON #1: NO MATTER WHAT SIZE YOUR BUSINESS IS, IT CAN THRIVE

Gone are the days where the mega-corporations like Coca-Cola and Amazon are the only brands able to access the top advertising tools. No matter the size of your company, Instagram is a tool that can help you connect with new audiences, showcase your product and service, and provide direct sales opportunities. Taking a few simple steps such as optimizing your profile and your feed of images to speak directly to your ideal customer can be a game changer for your business. Even small Etsy shops or local brick-and-mortars create incredibly successful businesses through utilizing Instagram and growing their social media presence.

REASON #2: MEET YOUR CUSTOMERS WHERE THEY ARE WITHOUT SPENDING A DIME

When compared to other social media platforms, Instagram ranks towards the top for audience engagement and user-generated content. This means that Instagram users aren’t just scrolling the app, but actually interacting with the accounts and brands that they follow. When it comes to user-generated content, the more, the better for your business, especially when the account is leading people back to your brand. Encouraging customers and clients to share photos of themselves using your product and tagging your account on Instagram is a simple way to gain traffic and often followers. This type of content is also a great way to get to know your ideal audience and help tailor your own content to meet them where they are. One of the best things about all of this? Until you are opting to create paid ads on Instagram, all of the other marketing and content creation for your business is totally free!

REASON #3: YOU CAN CREATE REAL RELATIONSHIPS THAT TRANSLATE INTO LOYAL CUSTOMERS

Social media can often feel like a one way mirror, especially if you’re just starting out. With a little time and consistency posting on Instagram, the quality of customer interactions is unlike other platforms. Instagram truly allows you to connect with your audience in a variety of different ways that help you feel like you’re building a community. Your profile and your posts help remind customers that you are there when they need you. This platform encourages business owners to think of each post as a conversation, not a sales pitch. Instagram is known for being the platform that truly grows connection from brands to their audiences. Allow your brand to show your audience what it can do for them and how it can make them feel, rather than constantly asking them to purchase something. This is how both new and repeat customers organically form. It’s because they feel connected to you and the value you offer.

Next time you’re brainstorming new ideas for how to get your business in front of the kinds of customers you are on fire to work with, grab your smart phone and head to Instagram and give it a chance. It’s going to be worth it.

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Local Weight Loss Guru Makes National News

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Can you imagine getting an email from People magazine, requesting to feature you in an upcoming story? Would you take it seriously? Liz Hronek certainly was skeptical when she was contacted by the national publication last October.

She genuinely thought it was spam and ignored the initial contact. However, the People representative reached out again, and after researching her name, Liz was stunned to learn that it was a legitimate request for an interview.

Those who know Liz aren’t very surprised. Because Liz truly does have an extraordinary story.

Today, Liz runs a successful business, Miss Fit Boss, and offers personal training and one-on-one coaching.

But she hasn’t always been the woman she is now. In fact, 13 years ago, Liz was twice her current size. After learning she was pregnant and then giving birth – all within 24 hours – Liz recognized that something had to change. She lost over 150 pounds and eventually, she competed in female bodybuilding championships.

And after picking up her story from an interview Liz gave to Fox 8 News in the summer of 2018, People magazine chose Liz to be featured in their annual, 2019 Half-Their-Size edition.

Liz flew to New York in November and began a series of whirlwind trips to share her story.

“People magazine flew me to New York City for a photo shoot,” said Liz. “But shortly after that, I had a call from Good Morning America. They wanted

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me to fly up for an interview to coincide with the magazine’s release. While I was up there, I was also invited to appear on Inside Edition and E! News.”

But her brush with all the attention has done nothing to diminish Liz’s natural humility. “It was totally a God thing,” she said. “I have had a great time with the experience. It still feels very surreal. It wasn’t something I was looking for, but through the process, I’ve made some good friends, including one of the other ladies who was featured in the magazine. Plus, I got to meet Michael Strahan, and I tried octopus for the first time! I have had so much fun, and I’m just honored to have had the opportunity.”

When asked what’s next on the radar, Liz shared, “Well, I’ve been invited to be on the Kelly Pickler show, Pickler and Ben. And beyond that, we’ll see!

I am focused on my business, being a national online health coach, raising my girls, and helping others.”

Liz Hronek’s personal journey has become an inspiration for many in the Triad, and now – thanks to her willingness to share her weight loss experience – thousands of women all over the country can count themselves inspired, too. After all, as Liz frequently says, “Anything is possible!”

Contact Liz Hronek at MissFitBoss. com, or email her at Liz@MissFitBoss. com. You can call or text her at 336.549.3015. Be sure to follow her on Instagram (@MissFitBoss) and like her on Facebook (@TheMissFitLife).

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BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

There is a magic to asking questions. We are encouraged to ask questions in school, at home, and at work. We ask questions every day, whether we realize it or not. We may internally ask ourselves questions about the meaning of life, about our personalities, and even as little as what we want to accomplish before we start our day. We even rely on technology every day (“OK, Google…” or “Alexa, play…). Here is why there is such power in inquiry.

Let me start off by sharing my childhood struggles with asking questions in class. I was tremendously shy growing up, so shy that I even recoiled from asking my own elementary teachers for help when I had questions about the lesson! As a result, when it came time to take tests, I wouldn’t score as high as I wanted to, all because I was too shy to satisfy my curiosity!

Fast forward to high school… I realized that I could not get by and live up to my scholastic potential if I kept all my questions inside of my head. So, I had to transcend my invisible barrier of shyness and push my questions out. Once I crossed over to inquiry, my fears and insecurities gradually vanished, I entered a realm of more learning and understanding, and I was more confident when I took tests. I hate how long it took me to break out of my shyness and fear when it came to asking questions; I was afraid of other classmates perceiving me as “clueless,” but I know now just how vital it is to ask questions about anything in life.

Who asks questions? Anyone! Teachers often ask questions although they are the ones answering the questions. Every great teacher is a greater inquirer; in order to know, one must ask. Scientists from past decades and today have an influx of questions to ask and that’s what leads them to some of the most groundbreaking discoveries (the physics behind gravity and how radium was used in the medical field, for instance).

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Activists often question social justice and equality, about how and why it came into the picture and how to rectify any social issue. Parents ask questions on how to raise children and entrepreneurs constantly ask questions on how to fortify their business. The more questions we ask, the higher we climb in our lives and the more we can give to others with our talents, intellect, and wisdom.

When to ask questions? There is no right or wrong time to inquire about something. Confusion can bind the mind and our potential. The only way to break that bind is to boldly embrace inquiry. Some people may believe that asking question after question makes them look clueless, but asking questions is a sign of intelligence. If we don’t ask for knowledge, we don’t receive knowledge. Why do you think that straight-A student is so academically successful? Because she is so inquisitive! She asks questions in class when she’s lost, she asks herself questions and seeks library books to satisfy her intellectual curiosity, she listens to new information and is open to receive it. So, any time is the perfect time to ask questions.

Why should we ask more questions in general? We create new ideas when asking thought-provoking questions. When we ask novel questions—either to others or ourselves—we may even birth new ideas for a business, organization, blog, book, or a social movement. [Fun fact: Polaroid was discovered when a toddler asked his father “Why do we have to wait to see our pictures?”] Asking questions challenges our thinking and keeps our minds sharp! Asking questions prompts us to take action. It triggers our creative and emotional skills that can serve us quite practically when solving complex issues.

There is no wrong in being inquisitive.

The next time someone complains about you being too inquisitive, take pride in being someone who seeks knowledge, wisdom, and creativity!

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Spring Cleaning for Friendships

BY TABI FALCONE

Have you ever gotten a text message from a friend and felt your gut flip with a familiar feeling of dread falling over you? This knee jerk reaction to hearing from somebody who should be considered a friend is not what most people would call a reaction to a healthy friendship. But other than this “gut feeling,” how can we identify toxic friendships or friendships that have simply run their course?

YOU DON’T ENJOY THEIR COMPANY ANYMORE.

Just like romantic relationships, sometimes people just “fall out” of friendships. This is a normal part of growing, and while it can feel uncomfortable, it’s often mutual.

Priorities change, and the friendships you struck up bar hopping in your early 20s may not hold as fast when you’re raising babies in your 30s. Likewise, childhood friends often go in wildly different directions, which is completely normal. While we can still grieve these lost friendships, we can also celebrate them for what they stood for at the time.

BOUNDARY CROSSING WITHOUT AN APOLOGY.

There are certain boundaries that should not get crossed, and when a friend crosses one, it’s hard to come back from that action. It’s especially difficult to salvage a friendship when a friend crosses a boundary and then doesn’t apologize for it. These boundaries are different for everybody, but our friends should know what they are and know where to draw the line.

THEY DON’T CELEBRATE YOU.

You can’t expect all of your friends to celebrate you all the time, but if you get a big promotion at work, or get engaged, or announce you are moving to Australia to finally achieve your dream of being a surfing instructor – a true friend will offer sincere congratulations and celebrate these successes with you.

YOU AREN’T A PRIORITY.

Yes, we know, we are all busy. This doesn’t mean you can’t make time for your friends on occasion – even if just for a 10 minute catch up phone call or a girl’s night every four months or so. If you are prioritizing your friends and they aren’t prioritizing you, this is a problem.

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THEY DRAIN THE LIFE FORCE OUT OF YOU.

This may be slightly dramatic, but if you feel drained every time you hang out with a friend it is a sign that this is a toxic friendship. It shouldn’t take all of your energy to spend time with a person, and that is a sign that it’s time for them to go.

Now that you’ve identified a friendship that has run its course, how do you hit that final nail in the coffin? It depends wildly on the friendship, and on you as a person. If you are somebody who is very practical, a straight-shooter, you will most likely want to go with the true honesty approach.

And if we’re being completely honest, you probably don’t need this article as you have already pruned your friendships as necessary. This is more for the people who worry about how to express their feelings to other people when those feelings may initially hurt somebody’s feelings. While we would all love to be able to say what we mean without any negative consequences, unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. In general, telling the truth is always the best policy, but sometimes a white lie can be justified in the pursuit of ending a friendship without hurting feelings.

Or, if you have extreme avoidance of conflict, you can go the avoidance route, which is to simply reduce the amount of interactions until the friendship peters out on its own. The most important part is to acknowledge when friendships are doing more damage than good, and backing out whichever way you are most comfortable with.

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Friendship Connected through the Stars

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Fate, as the expression states, is written in the stars.

Everyone has their own astrological story. Beyond the date and the precise hour and minute of birth, a sun sign is the first basic understanding most enthusiasts learn about themselves. While horoscope means, “tell the time,” the intrigue may derive from understanding how the alignment of the planets and the stars at birth influence the ego, the emotions, and other aspects of feelings, desires, and characteristics.

BELIEVING… DO YOU?

It always begins with a need to believe in something. Even the slightest glimmer of interest in astrology can influence learning about the impact planets have on individual signs. The full moon can empower plants to grow at a rapid rate and planetary alignments result in severe coastal flooding. Isn’t it possible for the influence of the planets to foster a similar character trait in each person based on a specific month, day, and hour?

THE BLENDING OF ELEMENTS

Have you ever considered why some relationships are as natural as breathing while time with others can feel similar to a walk in a desert – long and exhausting? The majority of your favorite relatives, lifelong friends, and work colleagues have a commonality about them. A study in astrology may aid in understanding traits in friends and bring harmony to a tolerant relationship.

A study of the elements provides insight into why Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and Air (Libra, Aquarius, and Gemini) are compatible; yet, lack harmony with the elements of Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) and Earth (Capricorn, Taurus, and Virgo.)

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Consider how the elements impact each other: • Fire meeting Fire results in hotter flames, which may cause burnout or light the darkness.

• Earth meeting Earth can create a tall mountain of strength or become an earthquake when agitated.

• Air colliding with Air offers no restriction and freedom of movement. Air may choose to be swept away by the winds of change, or quickly spin into a tornado.

• Air can encourage Fire to burn brighter or flicker until dim.

If Fire strengthens, it can eliminate all the Air in the room.

• Water seeks a home, found within the Earth. Water can enrich the soil of Earth and encourage plants to grow. Too much water and the Earth can transform to mud.

• Water meeting Water allows a continual stream of inspiration, building toward an ocean. When out of control, it can bring destructive floods.

PLANETS INFLUENCE SUN SIGNS

The elemental signs are just one aspect of understanding yourself and relationships. Another layer offers how the planets influence each zodiac sign. For instance, the planet Mars is recognized as providing the characteristics of matter-of-factness, independence and courage, and on the negative side, impulsiveness, to Aries and Scorpio.

Contrast that to the planet of Venus, which is credited with promoting communication, art, and the need to include everyone together. Mars and Venus have a different perspective, which makes their relationship a challenge.

You, too, can research how your sun sign, representative of an “ego,” connects to a planet. For instance, a person born between July 23rd and August 22nd has a planetary connection to the Sun, explaining why Leo’s “ego” enjoys attracting attention. Ruling planets can help astrology enthusiasts gain further understanding.

BIRTH CHARTS

Have you ever wondered why two individuals of the same zodiac sign possess different characteristics? To go even further in your study, learn how the positioning of the moon or emotional state adds to the understanding of yourself and loved ones. Creating a natal birth chart is the next step.

Books can assist in explaining how astronomy, mathematics, and graphs will lead to the information you are seeking as well as how to analyze the data.

May you find answers written among the stars, moons, and planets!

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JANINE BERARD

Janine Berard was born and raised in rural North Western Ontario, Canada. From a young age, she loved playing with make-up and nail polish. Around 12 years old, she went to her first spa, and from that point on, she was hooked! After finishing high school, she moved to the nearest city to attend Esthetic School. Straight after school, she opened her first business, Tranquility Day Spa at age 18 in her home town of Sioux Lookout. After successfully running it for a few years, she decided to sell and continue her education. Janine ranked top of her graduating class, valedictorian, and top CIDESCO student. Post-graduation, she headed back east to Winnipeg, Canada and continued to practice esthetics at an award-winning spa and later became Director of Education for a beauty distribution center. In her travels, she ending up in North Carolina. After two short years of living in the USA, it was time to open a new studio, Rave Beauty. “It was always a dream to open a new business,” said Janine. “With all the years of knowledge and experience, I can truly offer my clients the most effective treatments!” When she’s not at Rave Beauty or reading about the latest treatments, you can find Janine exercising, playing with her two cats or at a car show!

JENNIE HESS

Jennie Hess is a native of Clemmons and is proud to continue to call the area home. She attended UNC-Greensboro with the intension of studying interior design. Upon an internship with Pace Communications, her interest shifted towards a career in the publishing industry. After a 20-year career in advertising and then pharmaceutical sales, Jennie had the opportunity to focus once again on her lifelong love of events and design. With Co-owner Kristin Johnson, she successfully owned and operated an event planning company, coordinating many corporate and social events.

Jennie has recently joined the team of Foothills Brewing as the Private Events and Catering Manager aka “party girl.”

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KRISTAL PROVENCHER

Kristal Provencher is an esthetician from Cape Cod, Massachusetts. “I graduated from the Elizabeth Grady School of Esthetics and Makeup Artistry in 2011 and have been working as an esthetician since,” said Kristal. “I started my career with Aveda in 2012 in Winston-Salem and have always loved their products and mission. I took time off to have my two babies but am ready and excited to get back into the spa and am so thrilled to have been welcomed into Aeracura!

My newest and most exciting new service is Dermaplaning – an exfoliation treatment that gives you all of the benefits of a chemical peel without any redness or peeling.” Kristal has a special touch and makes women feel comfortable and beautiful. She wrote a cookbook when she was 26 and was featured in the Cape Cod newspaper for her expertise in homemaking called “Homemaking Makes a Comeback.” She has a blog called “Mama2Mama” where she shares stories of becoming a new parent away from family, healthy recipes and skin care tips. Growing up on Cape Cod, Kristal loves the ocean and all things nautical. Her two babies are her whole heart, and she adores her family and friends. She loves being around other women and sharing stories, laughter and positivity.

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SUZI EADES

Suzi Eades came to Pat’s Body Shop and Towing in 2017 after almost 20 years at Verizon as an operations specialist. Assuming the role of parts manager, Suzi quickly adapted and learned the challenging field of automotive repair. Her passion for cars, drag racing and motorcycles made her a natural fit for the fast-paced automotive field. Last year, Suzi became a licensed North Carolina Automobile Dealer and will be spearheading the company’s new endeavors at Scarlette Car Sales on Styers Ferry Road in Winston-Salem. In January of this year, Suzi was promoted to office manager for the Body Shop. In addition to her duties at Pat’s Body Shop and Towing, Suzi is very active in the community and especially with Winston-Salem Generation Vettes club where she is the club’s secretary. In her short tenure at Pat’s, Suzi has proven to be an integral member of the team and a vital aspect of the company’s continued success.

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Chrystal Yates, a 12-year veteran of the real estate industry, was recognized in February as a 2018 Power Player for Allen Tate Realtors! As a Master’s Circle member, Chrystal sold $7 million in real estate in 2018. A Clemmons-native, Chrystal knows this community.

She loves it and it shows in the care she offers to her clients. Chrystal’s commitment to excellence and ability to close the sale is why her clients trust her.

Her lifelong experience in Forsyth County make her the go-to expert for recommendations that go well-beyond the home purchase; she is an ongoing resource to her clients. This award is recognition of Chrystal’s commitment to help her clients navigate the oftenconfusing mountain of paperwork and negotiations involved in real estate sales. An expert in the market and industry – her stellar track record speaks for itself.

In her free time, Chrystal loves to spend time with her husband, children and dogs. She’s an avid football fan and loves to travel.

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BY DAVE MCCONNELL

THE DIET BEST FOR YOU It’s that time of the year. Spring is right around the corner and our thoughts turn to getting out of our hibernated state.

It’s time to start thinking about getting our shorts and spring clothes out. Before we know it, we’ll be working on our tans and all thoughts of cold days and snow will be forgotten.

If you are like the majority of people coming off a long winter, our spring clothes may be fitting a little tighter than what they were when we packed them up last year. It’s time to shed a few pounds, and we generally are looking for a fast way to do it as opposed to lifestyle changes which are generally better, but take more time. Even with fad diets, I believe it is important to know your body and understand what works for you, and also to know there should be general rules that can aid in making healthy choices no matter what diet you might choose.

Make sure your diet includes plenty of veggies and fruits. Use fats that are plant-based oils and unsaturated fats. Cut down on the beef and eat more seafood. Choose to eat 100% whole grain foods. Give yourself a reward day or two by enjoying your favorite sweets and baked goods but do so in moderation.

If you are looking for a diet to try, let me give my recommendations done from years of research and working with clients in the fitness industry.

The Mediterranean diet has shown great success and does not require calorie counting. It falls right in line with previously mentioned recommendations for any diet. It includes filling up

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on veggies, fruits, 100% whole grains, choosing lean protein, and even allows for some sweets in small amounts.

The Dash diet is also on the top of my recommendations. It emphasizes produce of all types, seafood, 100% whole grains, low-fat dairy, nuts, and seeds. Protein sources are poultry, pork, and seafood, with an emphasis on omega-3 filled fatty fish like tuna and salmon.

Another popular diet, which I have serious reservations about, is the Keto diet. Eating dietary fat for a majority of your daily calories means cutting fiber-rich foods (fruits, veggies, legumes) and lean protein sources—some of the most nutrient dense choices there are. When you restrict carbs dramatically from your diet, your body draws on glycogen for energy. This can cause a drastic loss in water weight that can encourage you to stick with it. But limiting most carbs and some protein can have a serious impact over time that will surely influence everything from energy levels to hormones.

These are just a few of the thousands of diets that are available to us. Before starting these or any diets, do your research and know what’s best for you. Diets that can lead to positive lifestyle changes are always going to be the healthiest in the long run. If there is a key to me for any diet, it would always be heavy in produce. To be inclusive of produce will generally guarantee that you have the building blocks of a diet that leads to a healthier life!

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“To Debate or Not to Debate ” FORTIFY COMMUNICATION SKILLS

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Many people shy away from debate—especially with loved ones—because they believe it will lead to conflict and offense. But debate has many positives!

The elements of debating help us grow and become better people…that is, when done with grace.

MENTAL EXERCISE

Engaging in healthy debate flexes our intellectual muscles. When we debate on a topic or an issue that we don’t really favor, we put ourselves to a challenge and form new patterns of analyzing what we already know, forming new connections and ideas, and enhance our reasoning abilities. Staying on the main topic helps our focus, while sharpening our critical thinking skills.

DISCOVER & TEST NEW IDEAS

If you’re one who spends alone time soaking in new thoughts and want to “test out” any new ideas, try debating them with another great debater! This is also the perfect time to research and gain new knowledge to back up your points. You may need some tough gator skin to verbally flesh out your new theories to see whether or not the fellow debater agrees with your or not, but this is another positive reason for debate.

GAIN PERSPECTIVE

Debating with someone who holds almost opposing views to yours can open your eyes to perspectives you didn’t even know existed. You may look at homelessness differently after a good, spirited debate; you may look at immigration from multiple viewpoints and develop a higher respect and understanding of foreigners. Debating is a unique way to learn something new and develop your outlook on different ideas.

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This world needs strong, effective communicators and debating can birth just that. Verbally debating our ideas helps us to “think out loud” and get our main points across. Being passionate and taking a strong stance on whatever side we’re debating helps us to communicate our points effectively, especially if we are attempting to get the other person to understand our point of view or gain their empathy.

A successful debate happens when both parties are direct, integral, and don’t beat around the bush. So, this strengthens communications by means of being concise and clear.

A written debate, whether a blot, book review, scholarly article, or school essay, can amplify written communication skills and create eloquent, effective writers. It’s the same with verbal debate: getting your audience to understand your side of the argument the same way you do, even if they don’t agree with you at the end. Taking something such as an argument-based research course will help develop young, effective communicators who can use their skills anywhere.

GET TO KNOW OTHERS

We discover great depth about a person through their ideas, personal convictions, social and political views, and general beliefs on certain ideas and situations.

Debate can reveal to us whether a person is more traditional, creative, proactive, or adventurous. Being on a debate team can help us meet likeminded people who share similar perspectives and beliefs.

BUILD SELF-ESTEEM

Debating pulls some people outside of their comfort zones, especially if they don’t particularly enjoy going back and forth about an idea. But debate can be healthy when done the right way! It can help build self-esteem by helping someone overcome public speaking fears. For students, it can give them the courage to participate and speak up more in class discussions. Debating also teaches humility!

Not everyone will win a debate every time, and it’s important to know how to lose gracefully.

HERE’S HOW TO DEBATE WITHOUT THE DRAMA:

Debate with those who debate for enjoyment. Some people find pleasure in talking out their ideas and seeing how sensible they are. People who enjoy debate usually have a tougher skin than those who shy away from it due to a strong dislike or fear of conflict.

You will get more out of your debate by debating with these people because chances are, they know how to debate without negativity. Have a mediator who can neutralize the situation if things go awry. Join a debate team to learn the proper etiquette of debate, stay logical and neutral and don’t interrupt the other party.

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OTHER TIMES, WE NEED TO LOOK AT OTHER FACTORS. Hormonal changes. Stress can bring about hormonal changes in the

body that may impact the body’s ability to cooperate with your regular antiperspirant/deodorant. Beyond stress, pregnancy, chemotherapy, and other medical issues that affect the body’s hormones may create problems.

Diet. Certain foods can impact our body odors. Some of the primary culprits include asparagus, garlic, onions, fish, and (sorry Happy Hour, enthusiasts) alcohol. But on the plus side – some very yummy foods will help fight body odor, including apple cider vinegar (though you may not think so while it’s going down!), citrus fruit, pineapple, celery, and parsley.

Haven’t you always wondered why it’s such a popular garnish – or at least it was in the ‘80s. Maybe it should make a comeback?

Hygiene. It seems obvious, but some people need a little reminder about the impact of good hygiene. For instance, bad breath (a different kind of body odor than what we’ve primarily focused on), may be helped by using a tongue scraper in addition to brushing and flossing. Washing your hair a little more frequently may help, and making sure armpits are totally dry before putting on antiperspirant/deodorant can make a difference. You may also need antibacterial soap.

BY DENISE HEIDEL It’s almost impossible for people to smell themselves. And if the global $72.7 billion antiperspirant and deodorant industry tells us anything, it’s that people worldwide are concerned with the same question – “Do I stink?”

The most accurate way to find out if you smell is, obviously, to ask someone. It’s recommended that the person you ask be a close friend or family member who is willing to get up close and personal to assess your situation… who will love you enough to be truthful. And who you trust enough to be incredibly vulnerable. But you can also remove your clothes and smell them – especially in the areas where you’re most likely to sweat (the armpit and groin areas).

Before we get into the main stink of the issue – let’s talk about our obvious options. There’s deodorant, which, as the name implies, deodorizes odor. That’s all it does. It helps mask the scent of bacteria our bodies produce.

Then, there’s antiperspirant deodorant. Antiperspirant’s main ingredient is aluminum-based. These products are designed to block sweat gland so that sweat isn’t released. But your sweat isn’t the culprit. It’s the bacteria on your skin that breaks down sweat and causes it to smell.

But let’s get back to the main question at hand – how can you tell if you smell? If it turns out that you’re sporting a bit of a malodorous scent, it could be as simple as changing your antiperspirant/deodorant.

Sometimes, our hormones change and are incompatible with the formula.

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Never fear though. We can be proactive in our war against body odor.

Some tips include: Spray perfume on your torso before you get dressed, and even behind your knees. Don’t go crazy with it (there’s no need to bathe in it), and don’t rub it in. Just simply mist and move on.

• Arm yourself with a mini-anti-scent tool bag in your purse. Include things like mini deodorant, gum, travel toothbrush and toothpaste, some wet wipes, and even foot spray.

• Watch your diet and avoid the major culprits.

• Spray your closet with Febreze to neutralize any odors.

• Add a few drops of oil to your laundry – something like lavender is fresh and smells clean without being overpowering. You can also add white vinegar, which is great at eliminating odors.

• Make sure you’re hydrated! Drink plenty of water to flush toxins from your body!

• Sprinkle baking soda in your shoes to absorb odors.

So never fear. There are easy ways to win the war on body odor!

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

THE FOUR-SEASON ROOM Additional space, ample sunlight, and affordability are three distinct reasons the decision to consider building an enclosed sunroom is made. Attached to the house and accessible from the indoors, the “every reason” room functions as an added living space for the family to gather or retreat when cold or rainy weather dampens outdoor festivities. The four-season room, well-insulated with windows and ventilation, and locked doors, increases the value of the home while fulfilling a distinct purpose.

DREAMING ABOUT UPGRADES

Screened Porch: Homeowners often consider adding upgrades to their home. Investing in a porch may include adding a roof as a protection from the sun, and establishing the perimeter with screens and a door.

Three-Season Rooms: Solariums are ideal additions for homeowners who seek to expand their living space in the spring through the fall. These extensions feature floor-to-ceiling single-pane to double-pane windows with UV protection; yet, are not insulated to provide air conditioning or heating. Options on roofing and room design can inspire a unique extension to your home, or as a stand-alone location on your property.

Hiring a professional is an investment of a relationship and cost for the exchange of experience, insight, and a customized room with a roof matching the color and style of your home. Kits or modular pre-fabricated solariums are possibilities to save on cost whether it is a do-it-yourself project or if it requires a contractor.

YEAR-ROUND SOLARIUM:

The advantageous need for natural light and warmth has a connection to our physical and emotional well-being.

Walls enclose our desire to be part of the natural world. Simply witnessing nature alters our emotions and eases stress levels. While the year-round solarium is more expensive than a three-season room due to the need of footers and foundation, insulation, and heating, opening the door to step into a fully enclosed room featuring floor-to-ceiling views of the outdoors is possible with the grace of financial flexibility and options.

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MAKING DECISIONS

• Resale Potential: If considering a resale, livable space and size of the room will impact the value. Planning for its purpose as a dining room, study, or living room is an added benefit to potential future buyers.

• Location: One of the first decisions is choosing the perfect spot. Most sunrooms take advantage of southern exposure, which provides the most extended period of natural light; however, “cooling” will impact comfort and cost. On summer days, well-chosen blinds or curtains can block the sun’s intense rays. With adequate ventilation, a space heater may be the solution to enjoying your nonheated space when occupied in the winter.

• Types of Materials: It is vital to discover how the materials offer weather protection. Will the new space be draft, moisture, and rust resistant? Consider the benefits of aluminum versus vinyl construction. While aluminum is temperature and humidity resistant, vinyl is often reinforced by inner frames made from aluminum or steel.

• Roofing: Diverse options exist in choosing the ideal roofing system for your project.

Gabled, single-sloped, wood or an existing roof are possibilities of a closed shelter; however, glass roof panels can transform a sunroom into a solarium.

• Windows: Insulation is a vital factor in the decision-making process. Single pane windows protect against the elements and are often standard in most three-season room packages; however, an energy rated window that offers UV protection, such as Low-E, can aid in maintaining cooler temperatures in the summer months and warmer temperatures during the winter.

Insulation will make a significant difference in the comfort of the room and usability throughout the year.

• Glass Tinting: Tinting glass is an option for single-pane and double-pane windows. In addition to shading while reducing solar heat gains, tinting increases UV protection.

• Accessories: Sunrooms provide attractive accessories such as electric-powered skylights and remote-controlled shades.

Additional options in your four-season room include cathedral ceiling, tile flooring, and ceiling fans.

Upgrading a porch is not just a daydream of possibilities. Your vision can inspire a location for family gatherings and social occasions. Surrounded by hanging baskets and potted plants, the addition can ease stress levels and promote wellness. For those who build a sunroom, it instantly becomes the most popular location in the house!

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OVERSHARING ON SOCIAL MEDIA

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

We are often tempted to share our life’s highlight reels on social media in an effort to show people the greatest version of ourselves, but are we guilty of oversharing the details of our lives? Is there a possible risk to oversharing?

WHAT DO WE OVERSHARE?

Generally, there is nothing wrong with sharing the following details below but oversharing some of them have unique risks.

Relationships. We all want the social universe to acknowledge

our joy and completion of our married or dating lives. We want to keep the public in the loop of every “coupie” (couples’ selfie), date, kiss, joke, vacation, et cetera, et cetera. But some of us subconsciously slip into the realm of spilling every ounce of our intimate passion tea on social media. When arguments rise and our feelings get hurt, we may take our problems to Facebook and overshare the details of our arguments or any turnoffs we have towards our partner. Even worse, some people go on social media and express thoughts or feelings that weren’t initially communicated with their partner which can lead to arguments. It may be easier to communicate with users on social media, but don’t let it taint the treasured communication between the two of you.

WHY WE OVERSHARE?

According to Psychology Today, we have a few reasons for oversharing our posts on social media:

1. Anonymity—users can create accounts that obscure their true identities which makes it easier for them to overshare any personal thoughts and feelings without anyone knowing who they are.

2. Invisibility—for most introverts, speaking to strangers, and sometimes even friends and family is much easier than speaking in person. This may give some people a sense of protection and, therefore, make them communicate more than what they would say in person without feeling the pressure of being looked at by others.

3. Delayed Communication—social media is

filled with asynchronous communication. This means that not all communication is live, and we can reply to our friends whenever convenient. This helps us take time to ponder our responses, and our inhibitions are lower, so we tend to share more than we would in person or in live communication.

Careers. There’s nothing wrong with flaunting our careers and promotions to the world. Hey, that’s what we do when we’re elated right? But there are instances when some folks share too much about their business, their work environment, and what things look like behind the scenes. Posting too much unnecessary information about the company or maybe your boss can get you terminated.

There are a lot of eyes on social media and people who are connected with your work family in different ways. Word can get around quickly and cause unwanted situations.

4. Filling in the Other Person—this is difficult to describe, but online communication takes away the tangibility of chatting in person. When talking online, we don’t see body language, facial expressions, or tone of voice which can make conversations feel “less real” and we may feel like we’re talking with ourselves and, as a result, disclose more about ourselves.

Children. So many mamas enjoy flooding up their feed with photos of their children. Every cute little mishap with food, play date with toys, brand new outfit, artistic masterpiece, school photo, and report cards is a Tweetable moment. Children are priceless!

But according to recent research by Barclay’s—a financial service center—sharing personal information such as a child’s birthday, school name, place of birth, a mother’s maiden name, their pets, or the car they drive can leave them vulnerable to financial and identity fraud. All pieces of information are like bank security questions. So be wise about posting about your babies!

Oversharing on social media may cause others to naturally tune you out (remember the popular adage, “the louder you yell, the less they hear you”). Here’s how to share less: know that people offline are more interested in your life than those online. Unless you have distant family who is only connected through social media, you can always fill them in privately. Also, don’t seek validation from “double tappers” who are superficially impressed. Our lives are precious gems and we must not dangle them only to please the social world.

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UnHumble:

Walking the Line Between Confidence & Arrogance

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Congrats.

No, really, I’m proud of you.

You should be proud of you, too.

That took a lot of work.

What am I congratulating you on? That thing that you didn’t want to talk about: the one that you were really excited about, that you were afraid to tell people, afraid to even tell your friends because you were worried that someone might think you were bragging or not being modest?

That one. Guess what? You don’t have to hide it.

Women have been ultimately taught by society to be modest, agreeable, and submissive. This isn’t something that men have done to us; think of the last time you participated in girl-on-girl crime a la Mean Girls. That catty talk when you feel a little jealous of the proud and assertive woman that accomplished something amazing?

Not helpful, and advocating for yourself is hard enough sometimes: a 2015 study by Joseph Grenny and David Maxfield of Vital Smarts shows that women’s perceived competency drops by 35% when they are judged as being ‘forceful.’

What about talking about our successes? While success is different for all of us, that Mean Girl mentality comes when we think that success is finite: if she gets that [job, raise, promotion, guy], then I won’t. Why talk about our success when someone is just going to hate on us?

Being humble is holding us back, and the solution is working on being UNhumble. We need to start proudly owning our accomplishments, and not letting it stop there – actively uplifting other women when they have an amazing win, all in order to make this the new normal. How do you get excited without seeming arrogant? Here are four ways to start taking up more space:

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BE SPECIFIC & SIMPLE

When you’re ready to talk about what you did, be specific on what you’re proud of.

Remove the fat and narrow it down to the core of what you are proud of. This will help with assertive language, which is often viewed as confidence.

By using ‘I’ statements, you’re stating facts. Try ‘I am proud of the social media work I did on this project’ versus ‘Well we did a lot of work together and I fixed things overnight, just a few things, but it was really a team effort.’ If this is hard to say out loud to others, write it down, and eliminate extra language.

REMOVE QUALIFIERS

Just the facts, ma’am. Get rid of the qualifiers – those words that attribute quality.

You didn’t ‘just’ do your job, it WAS a big deal, and it’s not some nerdy hobby of yours.

Speaking with qualifiers keeps you playing – and feeling – small, especially when you’re getting compliments. Get away from limiting beliefs, and start realizing that your feelings of pride are acceptable. Edit these out if you’re working this out on paper first.

“YES, AND” WITHOUT THE COMPARISON

Your accomplishment has nothing to do with someone else’s accomplishment – as their accomplishment had nothing to do with yours.

They are standing alone and should be viewed and treated as equal. The improv rule of “Yes, and” is a nice way to think about yours and another woman’s accomplishment, in case the ugly monster of comparison sneaks in. “Yes,” you did this amazing thing, “and” she did this other amazing thing is far more helpful than “Yes,” you did this amazing thing, “but” she did this other amazing thing. The “but” elevates one above another.

My writers: “Yes, and” that woman in your head, ok?

SHINE THEORY FOR THE WIN

Shine Theory is a pretty amazing idea penned by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow, hosts of the podcast “Call Your Girlfriend.” The idea is not to fear powerful, assertive and confident women; rather you should befriend them. Friedman asserts that confidence is infectious, and I have to agree – we get the energy we put out. Moreover, by surrounding yourself with bright lights, you are brighter – and shining your light on these other women. Shine Theory inspires us to be the best version of ourselves, and help our girlfriends, too. The best version of you is often the you-iest version of you. Let that one shine with confidence. Writers: time to find a friend!

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Managing MIGRAINES Without Medication 5 Tips to Reduce & Relieve

BY TARYN JEREZ

The head throbbing starts, the aura around the eyes appears, and suddenly everything sounds louder and looks brighter than it should.

A migraine has hit.

According to Migraine.com’s most recent statistics, the U.S. reports more than 38 million people suffer from migraines, with the majority of sufferers women: “18 percent of women compared to 6 percent of men.” While there are plenty of migraine medications out there to help ease the pain, sometimes simply making some changes in lifestyle and knowing what to avoid can be the best solution.

Here are five tips to help reduce and relieve migraines naturally.

#1 STAY HYDRATED

It comes as no surprise that the element that makes up 60 percent of the human body is often the answer to many health issues. While migraines often present themselves for a variety of reasons, being dehydrated is a very common reason for individuals. With society coming and going most of every day, the risk of not drinking enough water and not staying hydrated is actually very common.

Bringing a reusable aluminum water bottle is a great way to keep water accessible and at top of mind throughout the day, since its always there. This is actually one of the simplest and least expensive ways to avoid migraines. If it comes down to a taste preference, including cucumber, lemon, melon or another infuser can help increase the desire to drink up.

#2 AVOID TRIGGER FOODS

When migraines are an unfortunate and ongoing part of a person’s life, there tend to be a few patterns that become apparent. One of the most noticeable patterns that can be identified is linked to eating and drinking habits. What’s good here is that once a food or beverage is realized as the culprit, avoiding those things and removing them from your diet can be simple. Over time, studies have proven there are some common migraine causing food categories for people prone to these headaches to avoid. These include processed meats and foods containing nitrates such as hot dogs, cold cuts and bacon. Also, items including MSG, fake dyes and artificial sweeteners such as aspartame. Too much sodium and caffeine have also been linked as triggers.

#3 INTRODUCE ESSENTIAL OILS

While essential oils have grown in popularity in many American households in the last decade, not everyone knows the positive impact they can have on migraines. The most effective oil scents for migraines Peppermint, Lavender, Chamomile, and Spearmint. When the beginning signs start to present themselves, adding a few drops of oil to the temples or behind the ears can help to ward off the migraine from fully hitting. Additionally, mixing one to three drops of oil mixed with water into a diffuser can create a calming and healing effect in the atmosphere, and help side effects subside. Essential oil products specific for migraines, such as patches and rollerball sticks, are easily found in drugstores and online as well.

#4 GET ENOUGH SLEEP

Believe it or not, not getting enough sleep is one of the most common causes of migraines. It’s interesting to think that sleep is such a difficult thing for people to feel in control of, especially since it’s a necessary part of life. The National Sleep Foundation recommends adults get 7-9 hours of sleep every night. Lifestyle plays a large part in sleep habits, but there are definitely things that can be done to try and get the right amount of sleep and increase the quality of those hours. Taking time to review each week’s schedule and create a planned schedule that includes bedtimes and wake up times can help, even if not followed accurately each night. The important thing is to aim to be consistent to avoid feeling depleted and exhausted.

#5 MANAGE A HEALTHY WEIGHT

While migraines affect both men and women of different body types and body weight, there have been several studies that link both obesity and malnourishment to migraine patients. In 2017, a study was conducted by Dr. B. Lee Peterlin, Director of Headache Research at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine in Baltimore that proved this connection.

Research during the study found that “obese people were 27 percent more likely to have migraines than people who were at a normal weight and those who were underweight were 13 percent more likely to have migraines.” Many migraine sufferers notice a difference in the frequency of their headaches and the severity once getting to a healthy weight and managing it.

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Is That My Size?

The Drama / Trauma in the Dressing Room

BY VONDA HENDERSON Trying on clothes. Not a favorite activity for many, stressful and traumatic for some. You think you know your size, right? Well, not really – it depends on the manufacturer’s internal sizing guidelines to a large degree. And let’s face it, there are garments that no one gets excited about trying on – swimsuits being close to the top of the list. Beyond that seasonal trauma, just shopping for a dress or suit can be as traumatic because of this inconsistent sizing. How did this come to be?

Many years ago, most garments were made at home.

Patterns were adjusted or made to fit the person.

Enter the federal government. In 1939, the USDA studied 15,000 women and developed the Women’s Measurements for Garment and Pattern Construction (quite a lofty undertaking). Unfortunately, most of the sample group were from the same socio-economic background. However, the study persisted and the original 58 measurement points (can you believe there were that many?) were pared down to just five – weight, height, chest, waist, and hips. The weight measure was removed from the list, so four remained. But, wait, they weren’t done yet. In the 1940s the Bureau of Statistics joined in and added another group of women; the additional sample group were military women who were generally very fit and as a result of training tended to be slim. After a few decades the standard was again revised in the 1970s; however, by 1983 the standards were disregarded and here we are today with the same numbered sizes fitting so many different body types. Factor in the fact that, as a whole, the population has shifted to a generally heavier weight, and there you have it.

Back to the dressing room where we left you – bless your heart! If you’re trying on swimwear, be prepared and take someone along to pick up different styles and sizes once you’re in the dressing room. Otherwise, you’re in for quite a day of dressing and re-dressing to get options to try on. If the store has a limit on how many garments you can take in with you, then you are definitely in need of a shopping buddy. You may not

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need to go to the gym after an afternoon of pulling and tugging to get swimsuits on and off; it’s an ordeal at best. This is an example of Spandex at its finest; squishing all your parts into place while still allowing you to breathe comfortably. Some garment engineer spent hours creating that suit just for you! Once you finally find one that covers enough and hides what you don’t want to share, although this is at odds with the fact that it is a swimsuit of a limited amount of fabric, but perhaps those tucks and pleats are what makes the difference; don’t put it down until you have it safely paid for and in your shopping bag. You don’t want to go through this again (at least not this year)!

And what about day-to-day clothes? Some manufactures use European sizing so a size 2 might be your size in that line, but a 16 in an American sizing. And for those who are height challenged, trying on jeans is no fun when you end up standing on five or six inches of extra fabric. One tip is to look for capris; they might fit most just below the knee, but hit at the ankle for the shorter folks. No need to pay extra to have them hemmed – that’s a good thing.

Bottom-line, if it fits, it fits, right? Just forget about the size and go with what feels good to you. Being comfortable and feeling good about what you wear is the key. Dressed up or casual, you’re special in your own right!

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Classic Roast Chicken

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Roast chicken may have been put on the map after Meghan Markle’s engagement, but this dish is a classic in my arsenal. Whether it’s a simple weeknight dinner for your family or a part of your next dinner party, you cannot go wrong! It may seem intimidating to roast an entire chicken, but fear not. The recipe is simple and requires a whole chicken and a few pantry staples. Once you have mastered the technique, it’s easy to play with different herbs and spices -- think rosemary, lemon and garlic in the summer or leek, garlic and fennel in the winter. You can also add chopped vegetables beneath your bird for additional flavor and an instant side dish.

INGREDIENTS

DIRECTIONS

1, 5-6 pound whole chicken Kosher salt Freshly ground pepper 1 large bunch fresh thyme 1 lemon, halved 1 head garlic, cut in half crosswise 2 tablespoons butter, melted 1 large yellow onion, thickly sliced 4 carrots cut into 2-inch chunks 1 bulb fennel, tops removed and cut into wedges Olive oil

Preheat oven to 425 degrees.

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Remove chicken giblets and rinse chicken inside and out. Remove any excess fat and pat the bird dry. Stuff the cavity with thyme, both halves of lemon and garlic. Brush the outside of the chicken with butter and sprinkle with salt and pepper. Tie the legs together with butcher string and tuck the wing tips under the body of the chicken.

Place the onions, fennel and carrots into mixing bowl and toss with salt, pepper and olive oil. Spread around the bottom of the roasting pan and place the chicken on top.

Roast chicken for 1 ½ hours, or until the juices run clear. Remove the chicken and vegetables to a platter and cover with aluminum foil for about 20 minutes. Slice the chicken onto platter and serve with roasted vegetables.

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MARCH 7

KIDS ROCK MUSIC 11am, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Join us for live music, age-appropriate instruments and interactive movement! Kids Rock Music brings the joy of musical expression to children and families. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 723.9111. www.kaleideum.org

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feature a wide variety of original art at affordable prices including oils, acrylics, pastels, pottery, wood carvings, note cards, jewelry and more! This event is free, open to the public and lots of fun! www.seniorservicesinc.org

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MARCH 3

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Flow Club at the BB&T Ballpark. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org

FRASCARA & WAYNE CLARK TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! www.nitsas.com

NOW THROUGH SEPTEMBER 2

ENGINEER IT EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Explore the Design-Build-Test cycle through hands-on experiments. Discover DaVinci’s interlocking bridge, experiment with the Marble Run Station, build with Giant Blue Blocks and more! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 767.6730. www.kaleideum.org

NOW THROUGH SEPTEMBER 8

ICEVENTURE EXHIBIT Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Decorate a snowman, collect snowballs, go ice-fishing and slide on the sock-skating rink! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members.

723.9111. www.kaleideum.org

MARCH 2

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ART SHOW & SALE BENEFITING MEALS-ON-WHEELS 10am-3pm, Senior Services, 2895 Shorefair Drive in W-S. There will be 59 top-flight Piedmont-area artists selling their work, with event proceeds providing nutritious meals for the community’s homebound, at-risk older adults through Senior Services’ Meals-on-Wheels program. The sale will

FILM: “INVENTING TOMORROW: THE FUTURE IS BRIGHTER THAN YOU THINK” 7pm, Temple Emanuel, Sanctuary Building, 201 Oakwood Drive in W-S. INVENTING TOMORROW follows six young scientists from Indonesia, Hawaii, India and Mexico as they tackle some of the most complex environmental issues facing humanity today – right in their own backyards.

FAMILY FIRST WORKSHOP: BODACIOUS BUG WATERCOLORS 2-4pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Look carefully at (not-real) bugs and draw your own version, adding shapes and color to create a painting. We’ll look at works of art by Charles Seliger to inspire our bug-based paintings. Grades 1-6; registration required. Cost: $15/person; $10/member. All art materials are provided.

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MARCH 8-10

BRAIN AWARENESS DAY 9am-12pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Students will visit interactive stations to learn about neurons, anatomy, memory and other functions of the brain. School groups must pre-register by emailing Christy at cferguson@kaleideum.org. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 767.6730. www.kaleideum.org

MARCH 6-APRIL 10

MORNINGS AT THE MUSEUM (3-4 YEAR OLDS & 4-5 YEAR OLDS) 10-11:30am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. To promote reading readiness and visual literacy, you and your preschoolers will explore Reynolda through hands-on activities that encourage dramatic play, music, movement and art-making.

Registration required. Contact Julia Hood, manager of school and family learning, at 336.758.5599 or hoodje@reynoldahouse.org with questions. Cost: $45 per family per six-week session.

CONNIE ROBERSON & FRIDAZE TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of designer couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

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MARCH 8-18

SHAKESPEARE IN LOVE Times vary, Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 Spruce Street in W-S. The Little Theatre of W-S presents “Shakespeare in Love.” Cost: $22-$24/ person. www.thelittletheatreofws. org/shakespeare-in-love

MARCH 9

EYE AND LIP COLOR FOR SPRING, SUMMER 2019 FEATURING MARVIETTE USHER Purses Plus, 2705 Teresa Avenue. Lisa Kay, the owner of Purses Plus, will be featuring Marviette Usher with her Mary Kay products Lip and Eye Color.

RSVP preferred – 723.7678.

MARCH 9-10

SPRING CRAFT SHOW AND BAKE SALE Oak Forest United Methodist Church, 11461 Old US Highway 52. Vendor items and baked goods for sale. www.oakforestumcnc.org

MARCH 11

KIDS’ MORNING OUT! 10-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics & Swim, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. Free event. Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors! If you’d like to give the pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel! Children under 3 must be accompanied with a parent in the pool.

Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

MARCH 13

ANGEL BEAR YOGA: ST. PATRICK’S DAY! 11am, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Travel to Ireland with Angel Bear when we bring the book Jack and the Leprechaun to life!

Discover the Emerald Isle and make a wish on the Blarney Stone! Meet a special furry friend, too! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 723.9111. www.kaleideum.org

MARCH 14

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT! 5pm-until…, Mac & Nelli’s, 4926 Country Club Road in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy $5 drink specials and live music with William Nesbit! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

MARCH 16

ST. LEO – RUN LEO 5K, 10K AND FUN RUN 8am-12pm, St. Leo Catholic School, 333 Springdale Avenue in W-S. The luck of the Irish is upon us! Join us, whether it’s to complete your first one-mile fun run/ walk, earn your Beast shirt by running both the 10K and the 5K, don your most creative St. Patty’s Day outfit or to cheer on your friend. www.stleocatholic.com MEN WHO COOK 6:30-9pm, Bridger Field House, 499 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. The event brings together local male amateur chefs and their cooking teams who battle it out to please the taste buds of nearly 400 hungry attendees of the event.

Cost: $70/person; $140/couple. www. familyhousews.org/men-who-cook

MARCH 19

FILM: “EARTH, WATER, WOMAN” WITH DISCUSSION TO FOLLOW 7pm, Temple Emanuel, Education Building, 2nd Floor, 201 Oakwood Drive in W-S. A Story of Earth, Water and Community. This film tells the inspiring story of a sustainable agro-forestry community in Trinidad & Tobago West Indies, called Fondes Amandes, led by a charismatic Rastafarian woman, Akilah Jaramogi.

MARCH 20

ST. LEO CATHOLIC SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE 11am-1pm, St. Leo Catholic School, 333 Springdale Avenue in W-S. St. Leo meets the financial needs of families through affordable tuition rates and a tuition assistance program. Parents are invited to drop in during that time.

MARCH 21-26 (SELECT DAYS)

FORSYTH COUNTRY DAY SCHOOL DRIVER’S EDUCATION CLASS 9am-3pm, 1605 Westbrook Plaza Drive, Suite 403 in W-S. Join us for FCDS Spring Break class for ages 14.5-18. During this time, we will cover the NC required 30 hours of classroom instruction. At the completion of class, students will receive their driving schedules for six hours behind-the-wheel training.

To learn more and enroll, visit www. greenbriardrivingacademy.com. Cost: $450/person.

MARCH 22

REYNOLDA READ-ALOUD: BEARS 10-10:30am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. In this storytime program for prereaders, we will read children’s books together and participate in activities that relate to the stories. Contact Julia Hood, manager of school and family learning, at 336.758.5599 or hoodje@ reynoldahouse.org with questions. Free; registration requested.

MARCH 22-24

PRONOVIAS, BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. www.nitsas.com

MARCH 23

SILK ROADS OPEN HOUSE 1-4pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. Don’t miss your chance to meet a live Bactrian camel! Visit with Oscar the camel in the museum’s parking lot, then come inside for a hands-on experience of the many goods traded on the Silk Roads across Asia.

Admission is free. http://moa.wfu.edu

MARCH 23-25

JULIE GUDMESTAD WEEKEND YOGA WORKSHOP 10am-1pm & 3-5pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. This is an ideal workshop to take if you have never taken one before! *Prerequisite: Six months of yoga experience. This is an active workshop and is not appropriate for students w/ acute injuries or limiting conditions. Cost: $60-230/person. www.sunriseyoga.net/yoga-workshops

MARCH 24

SCI-FI SUNDAY 1-5pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Celebrate space exploration and science fiction!

Learn about recent NASA expeditions, enjoy space-themed crafts and demonstrations and encounter a variety of interstellar characters.

Costumes encouraged! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 767.6730. www.kaleideum.org

MARCH 25

INAUGURAL COMMUNITY FORUM WITH SHERIFF KIMBROUGH 6-7pm, Forsyth County Central Library, 660 West 5th Street in W-S. In a continued showing of his commitment to transparency and openness, Sheriff Kimbrough will be hosting his inaugural Community Forum. This will be an open forum event, and all community members are invited to attend! Sheriff Kimbrough and his Command Staff will answer questions and share the accomplishments of the agency as well as the vision for the future. forsyth.cc/sheriff

MARCH 30

STATESVILLE ARTISAN & CRAFTERS EXPO 10am-3pm, Statesville Fitness & Activity Center, 1875 Simonton Road in Statesville. Join us to find that unique handmade item! All handcrafted. Visit our Facebook page for details and updates! Don’t miss this opportunity to jump start your spring and support your local community. www.facebook.com PAJAMA JAM 6-9pm, Greensboro Science Center, 4301 Lawndale Drive in Greensboro.

Put on your jammies and join the Greensboro Science Center and Chickfil-A for a fun-filled, after-hours party designed especially for families with children ages 12 and younger! Dance to the rockin’ tunes of Big Bang Boom while enjoying plenty of farmyard fun...all for a great cause! Proceeds from Pajama Jam support the GSC’s conservation efforts. Cost: $10-$15/ person. greensboroscience.org

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APRIL: APRIL 12-13 SPRING FLING 3-8pm (12th); 9am-4pm (13th), B C Brock Gymnasium, 622 North Main Street, Highway 158 in Mocksville.

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Conversations with Your BFF Why Do I Keep

BY REBECCA COOPER

Falling for Bad Boys?

A very good friend of mine once said, “A woman will walk right past a ‘good guy’ for one that’s a ….” you fill in the blank with three words, but I think you get the idea. So are women actually attracted to bad boys and dump nice guys for them? Why would we do that?

I’m glad you asked.

THE IDEAL BAD BOY

As women, we get many of our ideas of the opposite sex from movies. Back in the 1950s, James Dean was the bad boy, the rebel with a dark side, drawing women to him. Over the years, the bad boy image progressed with movies like Grease, Dirty Dancing, Twilight, and Crazy, Stupid Love, convincing women everywhere that you could easily turn a bad boy good with a little patience and love. OK, step out of movie land and into reality because you can really get hurt and invest far too much time with a bad boy.

WHY WE ARE DRAWN TO THE BAD BOY?

Bad boys have the reputation and look that women are often drawn to: hot, scruffy, good-looking, arrogant, inconsiderate and inattentive; yet women flock to them. If you think about it, these are characteristics that we’d never accept in a friend, yet we will bend over backward to keep a man who really isn’t into anyone but himself. So what motivates us to chase these guys to the ends of the earth? Are we just trying to attain the unattainable? Are we challenged to make him fall in love and ‘capture’ the guy no one else has been able to?

Believe it or not, there’s a lot of research on this topic, and certain patterns have been detected in women who will fall all over themselves to get a guy who really shows little to no interest in them.

While some women are attracted to the elusive bad boy due to unresolved issues with their father, a topic that is very in-depth, let’s focus on other possible reasons for the pull bad boys have.

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Narcissism is a trait overwhelmingly found in bad boys. They exude an abundance of selfconfidence, entitlement, and are good at starting relationships, but not staying in them. It’s that sense of strength that they give off that lures us in. Bad boys are also psychopaths displaying a lack of empathy, yet displaying superficial charm that is often short-lived. As women, we love the challenge of taking a bad boy who has never been tamed and making him love only us. Once again, that only happens in the movies, so think more of yourself and realize the value and worth you bring to a relationship, and expect more than you’ve been settling for in the past. If you know the traits to look for, you can steer clear of bad boys, knowing the end will not be what you want.

With all that said, for women who are attracted to bad boys, if you are tired of being treated badly, then stop succumbing to the superficial pull of the

bad boy who doesn’t adore you, doesn’t make you a priority, and doesn’t want a future with you, and start focusing on opening your heart to a good guy who will not just treat you right, but amazingly well. With a bad boy, you are accepting the crumbs of his time, emotion and energy because no matter what you think, you, my friend, are an afterthought. Waiting for the next nibble of the crumbs that he throws your way is not what you deserve. Go for the good guy and leave the bad boy for your own good.

I recently read the following statement online: “While the saying is ‘good guys finish last,’ women need to realize that good guys don’t finish last…they just make sure the woman comes first.” Isn’t this what you really want?

Being made a priority is a good feeling once you have it and you won’t want to go back to sitting on the back burner.

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