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COVER STORY Piedmont Advantage Credit Union: Members Come First

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The Importance of Date Night

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The Women of Foothills Am I Rich?

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The View From This Side JULY 2019 Dear Readers, Many of you know that just as we went to print with the June issue, my dad passed away. We were overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and support we received and continue to receive. My dad was a vital part of the Forsyth Magazines team. He helped out in so many ways, especially with our distribution. Our family misses him so much. We just wanted to thank you again for all you did to help us celebrate his life and remember him.

With all that’s happened, it’s a reminder that sometimes friends become family. That’s certainly the case with the Forsyth Family publisher, Robin Bralley, who is like a sister to me. Our friendship goes WAAAAAAAAY back – to the time our children were babies! We’ve been through a lot the last few years, both of us have battled breast cancer, but I can say without a doubt, we are blessed beyond measure. Robin and I even share an almost-birthday. Mine is on July 15th, and hers is on the 16th. So it’s not uncommon for us to celebrate together, though this year is going to be a BIG one for me… the big 6-0.

My mom and Robin, both of whom are party-throwing gurus, are both disappointed that I declined their offer to host a big 60th party on my birthday… But I had the opportunity to host Forsyth Woman’s GNO on my birthday, and what can I say??? I want to celebrate with YOU! I hope our readers will make this our biggest GNO ever at Providence Restaurant on July 15th!

Besides being a milestone birthday, this will be my first alcohol-free birthday! I’ve gone alcohol-free in the last few months, and feel better than ever. Details are in my new column starting next month.

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SPARKLING BERRY CUCUMBER

Ingredients (for 1 serving):

BEAT THE HEAT WITH HOMEMADE MIXED DRINKS

Cocktails & Mocktails

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

• 8 fresh blackberries or 10 fresh blueberries (leave some to garnish) • 3-4 slices cucumbers • 1-1.5 ounces gin or blackberry whisky OR leave out for mocktail • 1 cup tonic water or seltzer/ club soda • 1 mint sprig to garnish Put 5 or so berries in the bottom of the glass and mash with a fork until desired, add liquids and then cucumber slices, additional berries and garnish with mint.

Recipe adapted from: thewoodenskillet.com/blackberrycucumber-gin-and-tonic/

Sip on a special drink this summer. . .

Whether you prefer alcoholic beverages or stick with the virgin, enjoy summer cocktails and mocktails that offer refreshment in every sip! Tired of the bar scene? Whip together your fav mixed drink you can enjoy from home. Cool down from the summer heat and get refreshed!

THE PERFECT PAIRINGS

The sky’s the limit. Use your senses as your guide to put together the perfect mixed drink that pleases your palette. Possible ingredients: coconut milk, coconut water, seltzer/club soda, tonic water, kombucha, fruit juice, vegetable juice - even cold tea and coffee! Consider adding elements that are citrusy, minty, nutty, sweet, spicy, floral, bitter, tart, tangy, or creamy.

DRESS IT UP

Choose the perfect garnish, whether it’s olives for your martini, a celery stick for your Bloody Mary, a sliced strawberry for your margarita, fresh mint leaves for your mint mojito, a maraschino cherry for your Shirley Temple, or a pineapple and parasol for your pina colada - have fun and be creative! Depending on the type of drink, you can line the rim of the glass with salt or sugar and decorate a toothpick with olives, berries, other fruit or herbs.

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• Cocktail shaker • Fork for mashing berries • High-powered blender Enjoy sharing these summer sips with the whole family, whether with alcohol or sans.

Virgin drinks are just as sip-worthy and can delight even the youngest at your next get-together or gathering. Cheers y’all!

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CITRUS WHITE WINE SANGRIA

SPICY BELIZEAN BARBACOA BLOODY MARY

Ingredients (for 4 servings):

Ingredients (for 1 serving):

• 1 bottle white wine (or rose) OR substitute tonic water/ seltzer/club soda for mocktail • 1 lemon (thinly sliced) • 1 lime (thinly sliced) • 1 orange (thinly sliced) • 2 tablespoons sugar • 2 tablespoons water • 4 mint sprigs to garnish

• ¾ cups spicy tomato juice (e.g. V8) • 2 dashes Worcestershire sauce • 2+ dashes hot sauce (e.g. Maya Mike’s Belizean Barbacoa or other hot sauce) • 1 jigger vodka OR leave out for mocktail • 3-5 ice cubes • Dash or more sea salt (plus some to rim glass) and ground black pepper • 1 stalk celery and green olives(s) to garnish

Mix water and sugar together in a saucepan and heat until sugar is dissolved. Let cool. Add 1 tablespoon sugar mixture into each wine glass. Squeeze the lemon, lime and orange slices into each glass before adding the wine or sparkling water. Garnish each glass with citrus slices and mint.

Salt the rim of a tall glass by pouring salt onto a small plate, moistening the rim of the glass with a damp towel and pressing on the salt. Fill glass with ice cubes. Mix together ice, juice, Worcestershire sauce, hot sauce, vodka, salt and pepper. Shake vigorously and strain into glass. Garnish with celery stalk and olive(s) on a toothpick.

Recipe adapted from: allrecipes.com/recipe/65037/classicbloody-mary/

Recipe adapted from: minimalistbaker. com/mint-and-citrus-white-wine-sangria/

TROPICAL PINA COLADA

Ingredients (for 2 servings): • ½ cup pineapple slices, frozen • 2 ounces pineapple juice • 2 ounces coconut milk • 1½ ounces rum + 1 ounce tequila (optional) OR leave out for mocktail • 2-3 ice cubes (for desired coldness) Combine ingredients in blender and mix until smooth.

Recipe adapted from: foodnetwork. com/recipes/pina-colada-recipe

BERRYLICIOUS MARGARITA

Ingredients (for 2-4 servings):

• 8 ounces fresh strawberries (hulled) • 8 ounces fresh blueberries • 1 cup tequila OR leave out for mocktail • ¼ cup Cointreau or Triple Sec (or any orange liqueur) OR leave out for mocktail • 1/3-1/2 cup honey or agave (for desired sweetness) • 3-5 ice cubes • Sea salt to rim glass • Extra fresh strawberries, lime or 2-4 mint sprigs to garnish Combine all of your ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth. Pour into a salt rimmed glass and garnish with berries and mint.

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The Importance of Date Night

BY JAMIE LOBER

If you think date nights are a thing of the past or only for singles, think again. Do you remember the feeling of excitement and anticipation knowing you would be spending quality alone time with your significant other? There is no reason you cannot maintain that special feeling and make your relationship a priority, whether you are dating, a newlywed or celebrating 25 years of marriage. The secret to keeping the spark in your relationship just may be as easy as scheduling a routine date night on your calendar.

All relationships require work.

Between your career, kids and their soccer games and other activities, there may be little time to connect with your partner. Research from the National Survey of Families and Households shows that couples who spend alone time with their partner at least once a week were four times more likely to be very happy in their relationship. The National Marriage Project said that one-on-one couple time fosters higher quality and more stable marriages, and found many benefits to date nights including: • Improved communication • More novelty • Heightened romance • Stronger commitment • Stress relief The best dates are ones that are completely out of your ordinary routine and allow you to try something new. It is spending time together that matters, whether there is a cost and planning associated or it is free. Some creative and fun ideas for your next date night include: • Experiencing a new restaurant • Having a candlelit dinner at home • Wine tasting • Exploring a botanical garden • Having a couples massage • Going on a picnic and watching the sunset • Taking a carriage ride • Playing miniature golf • Starting a new hobby together • Walking through an art museum

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• Going biking or rock climbing • Taking a mini road trip or going on a scenic drive • Making time for sex • Going to a park • Volunteering together for a cause that you both care about • Taking a class in dancing or painting • Camping out and stargazing • Going to a sports game During your date, be sure that your one and only focus is each other. It is a good idea to make eye contact and put your phone on silent, as the rest of your life should be put on hold during this precious time.

Remember that according to the American Psychological Association, healthy couples make time to check in with one another on a regular basis. To stay connected to your partner long-term, it is important to have open conversations about deep and personal subjects. Avoid topics such as your angry boss, child’s grades, household chores, or upcoming dental appointment when you are on a date. Always make your best effort to find out how your partner is feeling and try to understand his point of view.

The National Marriage Project found that couple time is linked to higher reports of better communication, sexual satisfaction, and commitment for both partners.

After your first date night, you will find yourself counting the days until your next one. Dates are a great way to continue getting to know your partner and sharing new experiences that will leave you with lasting memories. You are also setting an example for your kids as to what a happy and healthy relationship looks like. By stressing the value of date nights, you are prioritizing your partner and showing you care, which teaches your kids what to have in their own relationships. It helps you focus on your partner’s best attributes and reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place.

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HOME WITH A VIEW

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

The popular phrase “location, location, location” couldn’t be more perfect to describe Brookridge Retirement Community in Winston-Salem.

Besides every amenity you could imagine, the natural beauty of the Brookridge campus is simply unsurpassed, while the luxury of how convenient it is to the entire Triad area is a delightful bonus. Situated on 46 wooded acres – some say it rests in the very shadow of Wake Forest University – residents find it incredibly easy to call Brookridge home, and its natural setting is reminiscent of cozy mountain retreats they’ve visited in years past!

No matter what level of retirement living accommodations you’re seeking, you’ll find the perfect option here. Independent Living includes two-bedroom garden homes, studio, and one- and two-bedroom apartments. There is also an option for Independent Living with Assisted Services. Healthcare Options include assisted living private rooms and help with daily living tasks, or more specialized care options as needed.

The Kulynych Memory Enhanced Residence offers a care approach for residents with dementia-related disorders. You’ll find a cluster of private rooms with an open, home-style atmosphere that allows freedom of movement and plenty of creative opportunities – where housing includes a private room and bath. The Prince Nursing Care Center at Brookridge provides care during short-term illnesses or continued care after a hospitalization, or even long-term care if the situation arises. Residents are more than comfortable in private or semi-private rooms, and enjoy the very best care by licensed and certified health care professionals.

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You’ll also find current residents raving about the warmth and kindness of the Brookridge staff and how they join residents in working together to create a truly home-like atmosphere. With activities such as yoga, Tai Chi, water aerobics, bingo, corn hole, oil painting, social celebrations, and an array of cultural and educational outings, daily life offers a little something for every interest. Residents’ personal journeys tell the Brookridge story best!

Current resident Jo Ellen Scott says a beautiful setting was definitely on her list of must-have qualities when she began exploring options for retirement living.

“I was looking for an active community that felt like home,” she tells. “It was also important to me to have an outside space – a door that opened to the hallway and also a door to the outside. When I walked into the first apartment, saw the kitchen and balcony, I knew it would be my home.” Jo Ellen also finds that when she travels away from the area for a vacation with good friends, she feels a bit homesick for her Brookridge “family!”

Several years ago, Brookridge residents Frank and Betty Joiner began to miss the fellowship of friends who had already relocated to retirement communities. They also realized that maintaining their large house and yard had become more and more difficult. “After we had experienced a couple of accidents involving trips to the emergency room and further medical attention, we decided that it was time to move,”explains Betty. “We also wanted a community that provided medical services.”

The Joiners echo sentiments that the Brookridge staff was helpful and welcoming from their initial contact through their entire move. With their accommodations, meal plan, financial obligations, and available medical care all perfectly aligned with what they needed, the couple agrees the friendliness of the staff – and fellow residents! – forms a bond truly mirroring home. “When you consider that you are living among many different personality types, the camaraderie at Brookridge is amazingly good!” says Frank. “Betty and I are exceedingly pleased at the quickness with which we were accepted into this community!”

Brookridge Retirement Community is a CCRC – a Continuing Care Retirement Community. Baptist Homes of North Carolina is dedicated to the needs of older adults and makes a heartfelt promise to all its residents: “Once you become a resident of our Independent Living Community, we will take care of you for the rest of your life!”

Visit Brookridge Retirement Community at 1199 Hayes Forest Drive in WinstonSalem, or call them at 336-759-1044 to schedule a tour. For a closer look at this beautiful community visit Brookridgecommunity.org.

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A LOCAL GEM

BY LUANN JORDAN

“It’s good energy, like you’re hanging out with your girlfriends shopping,” says Juli Mills, the artist behind J. Mills Studio, when asked about Hip Chics Boutique. “Hip Chics is a great venue for J. Mills Studio Designs because they carry the best selection of the line.”

Juli Mills graduated with a degree in fine arts from Georgia State University. After taking a metalsmithing class in college, she began to explore the art of jewelry design and metalsmithing, and eventually opened her studio in Murphy, NC. Specializing in handforged metals, Mills’ original designs are both delicate and feminine with a mid-century modern aesthetic. Her use of natural gemstones, both faceted and tumbled, create a subtle elegance with an understated sophistication that her clients love.

The artist’s hands touch each piece of jewelry she makes. Her care and effort are apparent in every piece. Mills loves the mechanics of jewelry making, and clients are delighted by necklace designs that can be worn three different ways or bracelets that can be worn as necklaces.

None of her pieces are out-sourced – all are made in her North Carolina studio. Hip Chics Boutique is one of approximately 80 stores in the US and Canada that carry the line. The Hip Chics store in Clemmons, NC “is like a J. Mills Studio designer showcase,” says Mills.

Come and see for yourself: Clustered blush and African blue opals, pearl and aqua chalcedony faceted gemstones, bar necklaces, silk cords, quartz crystals, Kingsman turquoise, a wide selection of pearls, Herkimer diamonds from Upstate NY, marquis earrings, natural labradorite, leather components, and so much more. All metals are either 14k gold filled or sterling silver.

Hip Chics would love to help you experience the beautiful and elegant designs from J. Mills jewelry. Hip Chics Boutique is located at 2668 Lewisville-Clemmons Rd in Clemmons.

2668 LEWISVILLE CLEMMONS RD, CLEMMONS, NC

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SWIMMING HEALTH FOR YOUR EYES

BY DR. KHEMSARA

Summertime means swimming in pools or splashing and swimming in the ocean. Is this safe for your eyes? Does the chlorine water or salt water harm your eyes?

Whether you enjoy a leisurely dip in a hotel pool or compete in the Olympic 200-meter freestyle, you may be familiar with the stinging, burning and redness of “swimmer’s eye.” While swimming is a great form of exercise and a relaxing way to cool down, it can be hard on your eyes.

A thin layer of tears called the tear film coats the surface of our eyes. This tear film keeps our eyes moist, smooth, and clear. Chlorine and other chemicals used to keep pool water clean can wash away the moist layer of tear film, leaving eyes uncomfortable and red.

People who swim frequently may develop dry eye, where they don’t produce enough tears or the right quality of tears. The eyes can feel gritty or vision can become blurry due to the dryness. Without the protection of a fully functioning tear film, eyes are exposed to harmful pool chemicals and lingering bacteria. Of course, persons who already have “dry eyes” will be more prone to worsen their condition. Chlorine itself can cause a reaction, leaving the surface and edges of your eyes red, itchy, watery, and uncomfortable. If bacteria survives the chlorine, this can lead to an eye infection, such as pink eye (conjunctivitis).

Wearing contact lenses in any type of water – including a pool, hot tub, ocean, or lake puts you at a higher risk for corneal infections.

Bacteria can remain on the lenses even after a short swimming period.

The bacteria can be transferred to the eye and lead to an infection or corneal damage.

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What about the ocean? The salt water in the ocean and tears are pretty much the same thing. That makes it safer to open your eyes in the ocean.

It’s a lot like the saline solution you use for soaking your contacts so it doesn’t bother your eyes as much as chlorine. However, as we all know, some ocean water is not clean, especially near the shore. Precautions should be observed here as well to maintain good, healthy eyes.

Here are some ways to keep your eyes healthy while swimming:

WEAR GOGGLES — Wear a pair of swim goggles. Goggles keep pool chemicals out of your eyes, helping to keep your tear film healthy.

WASH YOUR EYES — Splash your closed eyes with fresh water immediately after swimming. This washes chlorine and other chemicals off your eyelids and eyelashes.

USE EYE DROPS — Use over-the-counter lubricating eye drops or gel tears before and after swimming to keep the tear film balanced and eyes comfortable. Check with your eye care provider for recommendations on the best eye drop for your needs.

DRINK LOTS OF FLUIDS — Don’t forget to drink plenty of water.

Staying well hydrated is an important part of keeping your eyes moist and comfortable.

If after swimming you experience redness, itching, irritation, discharge, swelling, or any other unusual symptom related to your eyes, seek medical attention. It could mean preserving your vision.

Summit Eye Care is located in Winston-Salem. We would like very much to offer our assistance to you for any eye care needs you may have. Our doctors provide routine eye care, treatments for glaucoma, premium cataract surgery, laser floater treatment, and much more. 336-765-0960

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The

Women of

OOTHILLS

growing with & for the community

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

“Craft Brewery” and “Women” often do not go hand in hand: a 2014 study by Auburn University found that in the 4,141 breweries (a number that’s increased to nearly 7,500), only 29% of the workforce are female. Lucky for us, our local awardwinning craft-brewery plus coffee and event joint has a strong team of women guiding the leadership team – so much so that they are committed to evolving with the developing Winston-Salem community. In case you didn’t know, we’re talking about Foothills Brewing.

But which one, you might be asking?

Maybe you’ve visited Foothills Brewpub, the staff monikered “mothership” on West Fourth or the 28-tap Tasting Room on Kimwell Drive or the newest addition with house-roasted coffee connected to Bookmarks, the aptly named Footnote.

One thing is for certain: Foothills has the community in mind in all of their locations.

Sitting down with the women of Foothills I was delighted to be surrounded by not a few strong women – but seven! – a sure sign that Foothills is challenging that previously mentioned 29%. Aside from the craft brewery gender gap, Foothills is pulling ahead of the craft brewery boom in Winston by sticking to their roots and focusing on growing with their community.

“We were one of the very first restaurants that went downtown, before everyone else did. We did it because we wanted to help with the revitalization

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of downtown,” said Meredith Masten, Co-Owner and Comptroller. “We’ve always looked at it as a rising tide floats all boats.

We wanted more businesses down there.”

This rising tide sentiment is woven throughout all of their work, at all of the locations. Pick a month and you’ll probably see an upcoming Hops and Shop event at the Tasting Room – fun shopping events that support local businesses and vendors, some that don’t have a brick and mortar to traditionally sell. Ask a local their opinion about the business and you’ll hear some aspect of what Foothills fan Erin Henderson Goliszek said: “They are always willing to help out. I’m a teacher, and my students worked all year in collaboration with graduate students at NC State to study the effects of single use plastics – and Foothills is letting us host a community event there. And their Craft Happiness Project IPA for June will benefit ocean conservancy efforts.” “We live in a community that supports us very strongly, so we try to give back in every way we can,” Masten said.

But this isn’t just a company giving back – this is a movement called “Craft Happiness,” a series of monthly-ish IPAs that since inception in January 2017, have donated over $14,000 to organizations that help with needs in the area, from homelessness to companion animals to the previously mentioned ocean conservancy. And these aren’t recycled or dated beers; Craft Happiness Project is constantly evolving. “We stay very current on the new hop trends and hybrid styles,” states Co-Owner and Chief Operating Officer, Sarah Bartholomaus.

Aside from their charitable efforts in the community, Foothills is invested in evolving with the residents and city, and sharing special life moments – all with a nurturing service heart. A collective favorite story: one of the first years they were open, a couple got married at Foothills. They opened a bit early, she walked down the staircase, and got married. Turns out, the couple had their first date at the pub – and celebrated a first anniversary, you guessed it, at the pub. Another story: the first wedding at the Footnote space celebrated their first anniversary on location, complete with the staff playing their first dance, and an impromptu second-first dance. “People come and grow with us,” Bartholomaus said.

The dedication to experience doesn’t stop at special events – this attention to detail and love threads from beer to moments to even food. Case in point: they make their own ketchup and mustard. Seriously.

Whether you’re looking for a fun night out with an eclectic crowd (with that homemade ketchup and amazing food), a coffee meeting, a taste of the newest Craft Happiness IPA or that place to celebrate your next life moment, the Foothills family has you – and the city of Winston-Salem – covered.

Find Foothills on Facebook & Instagram, or at your favorite off-line local spot: Downtown Brewpub, 638 West Fourth Street, 336.777.3348; Brewery & Tasting Room, 3800 Kimwell Drive 336.997.9484; Footnote, 634 West Fourth Street, 336.602.1087.

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$25 SWANKY AND SWAG BOUTIQUE Tina Shields

$25 URBN GRL Patsy Reece

$25 FOOTHILLS BREWING Carolina Suesbee

$25 GIFTS & PAPER ON PLAZA Marion C. Tyson

$25 RESTORATION MEDSPA Lauren Baker

COMPLIMENTARY WINDOW TREATMENT FROM BUDGET BLINDS Betsy Harris

PRIVATE PILATES SESSION AT INNER STRENGTH PILATES Chrystal Belcher

$25 LEWISVILLE LASER & AESTHETICS Kristen Hill

$25 SIMPLY STERLING & COMPANY Amanda Melton

$25 WINE MERCHANTS Jazmyn Oquendo

$25 ACCENT PRONE Tabatha Renegar

$25 PROVIDENCE RESTAURANT Paula Edwards

$25 CAMEL CITY BOUTIQUE Ashley Barnhardt

$50 HALO SALON & DAY SPA Linda McDaniels

$25 KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY Suzanne Tierney

$25 CAROLINA VINTIQUES Jennifer Hansell

$25 MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE Karen Ranson

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BY ROSEY, PHOTOS BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

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If you’re going downtown in WinstonSalem, and you’re looking for a great, locally-owned restaurant that serves local produce and a diverse menu that ranges from comfort food to a more eclectic dining experience – look no further than Jeffrey Adams on Fourth. Directly across from the Stevens Center, this is a restaurant full of sophisticated charm and hospitality, and is all that’s right with the Winston-Salem foodie movement. (Not sure there is actually such a movement, but there should be. Let’s start one.)

For this particular Rosey’s Review, we invited two friends along who have never experienced the joys of a Rosey’s Review.

So besides an evening of great food, we had a lot of fun watching some friends experience a restaurant review for the first time. I think that after this meal, our friends will be ready to clear their calendar any time they are invited to join us!

Any time you visit Jeffrey Adams, the first thing that arrives is a basket of warm yeast rolls with soft honey butter. And really, is there a better way to start a meal? The dangerous thing, of course, is the possibility (probability?) that you will overfill on bread before the meal arrives.

But hey… that’s a risk you just have to be willing to take.

Before our appetizers arrived, we were treated to a few drinks from the bar.

First, we sampled the Strawberry Sangria. A blend of Skyy Strawberry Vodka, white wine, soda water, simple syrup, locally grown strawberries, and a house-made sour mix – this is a drink that is a perfect summer refreshment. So much flavor and a great drink to unwind with at the end of a long week.

We also tried the Effen Delicious Martini, which is made with Tito’s Vodka, Effen Cucumber Vodka, house-made sour mix, jalapenos, muddled watermelon, and cucumber! WOW! But don’t let the jalapenos scare you… this is actually a light, cucumber-flavored drink that is quite refreshing.

Our third drink of the evening was the

JA Mojito. Two words for you, my

friends – Fresh. Mint. So good! I love fresh mint anything, but this is an excellent cocktail for summer! You’ll be asking the bartender for the recipe… or you may just have to bring your cookout to Jeffrey Adams. That’s actually not a bad idea since they handle the clean-up, too…

Our appetizer arrived, and it was a Southerner’s dream: Fried Green Tomatoes. Be still my beating heart.

There are few dishes that can compete with fried green tomatoes, but even if you think you have this recipe nailed, Jeffrey Adams has it beat! They serve their fried green tomatoes with goat cheese (YUM!), fried spinach (yes, fried and it’s amazing), and a roasted red pepper orange coulis.

In a word, this appetizer is divine.

And if you order it and refuse to share it, I promise – no judgment. I completely get it.

Entrees began to arrive – just in time because we were on the edge of a battle over the last bite of Fried Green Tomatoes when we were distracted… First up, the Land and Sea. This is the perfect entrée for the meat lover/seafood lover who simply can’t make up their mind. It’s a culinary masterpiece of beef tenderloin that is topped with butter-poached lobster and a decadent béarnaise sauce. It comes with a side of scallops, as well as mashed potatoes and grilled asparagus. Incredible.

Ahi Tuna is a popular appetizer at Jeffrey Adams, but it’s also available as an entrée.

And no one does Ahi Tuna better than Jeffrey Adams! It’s seared and served with Asian slaw, and has a chili ginger glaze, wasabi, and soy reduction to enjoy with your tuna. And on the side – grilled asparagus and mashed sweet potatoes, which I’m assuming are whipped up by angels because they are just that amazing.

For the salad-for-dinner people, Jeffrey Adams has a great salad menu, and we had the Tomato Stack. This was a fantastic entrée-salad that is great as is, or you can request chicken, shrimp, salmon, or tuna for some protein. The feature of this salad is a stack of tomatoes served on greens, but the true rock star on the plate is the basil pesto. I could literally drink it with a straw. The salad also includes goat cheese, cucumbers, and is drizzled with a balsamic reduction and topped with pickled red onions. It’s beautiful. It’s flavorful.

And it’s filling!

As great as all our entrees were, our table unanimously agreed that the last entrée was the favorite. The Beef Tenderloin Risotto was AH. MAZ. ING. The creaminess of the risotto along with the tender cuts of beef… cabernet demigrace, melted Gruyere, wild mushrooms, and spinach – this dish is a step above your standard comfort food. An absolute win!

Jeffrey Adams created a delicious entrée that is sure to be a favorite of many!

What’s the end of a meal without dessert, right? We ended our Jeffrey Adams experience with a Hot Apple Crisp. And everything you need to know about this signature dessert is in the name. Warm and rustic, it’s bursting with fresh apples and cinnamon goodness and topped with a rich vanilla ice cream.

And so, another Rosey’s Review was successfully completed, and we left miserably stuffed. Such is the life of a writer and a photographer who, every month, visit a different restaurant in order to sample menus for Forsyth Woman magazine. It’s a hard job, but someone has to do it.

Visit Jeffrey Adams soon, and be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

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Keeping It Real IT’S IN THE EYES

BY PASTOR KAYLYN LANIER

Have you noticed how much we can discover by simply looking into someone’s eyes? What do they silently whisper? Does joy dance there? Or do they guard scars? Every face tells a story, and it’s in the eyes.

I recently traveled with a ministry team to Guatemala. I have been blessed to travel throughout Latin America since I was nine years old. I have engaged cultures incomparably different from mine. I’ve witnessed tremendous need. Each experience has stretched me further beyond my circumference of comfort.

But this fresh experience created a new space of “completely unfamiliar” in my soul.

We walked cobblestone paths into remote Mayan villages. These indigenous people live invisible to the outside world. Most of them had never left that mountain. Multiple generations inhabit tiny spaces together. They gaze into the distance toward regions inhabited by those sharing more similarities than differences.

Yet, they will likely never step beyond their familiar trek.

Each morning our teams stepped into these forgotten places to offer lasting hope. We installed filters that remove deadly parasites from their drinking water. (Water-borne infections are the leading cause of death in that region.) We also installed vented stoves to replace open fires for cooking and heating inside their tiny hut-like homes. (Lung diseases caused by smoke inhalation are the second leading cause of death.)

As we assembled filters and stoves, we built something even more beautiful . . . relationships. We prayed with each one who allowed us the privilege. We left exhilarated to watch God heal bodies before our very eyes. Truly, we witnessed miracles on that mountain!

We spent our afternoons ministering to boatloads of beautiful children. Our team held some preconceived ideas of what fun with these young ones would look like. Kids know how to laugh and play, right? Not these children.

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Many of these young ones had been working in the fields all day instead of attending school. Some didn’t know their age. They likely didn’t know their birthdays either. Small boys carried machetes for their laboring. Young girls lugged siblings around their bodies in multicolored slings. Children bore the burden of caring for children. Their faces carried sweat from their striving. Their eyes carried fatigue from their living.

It was as if these little ones didn’t know how to be children. They struggled to smile. They stared intently at the fun activities, longing to participate but feeling the heaviness of parental responsibility.

Eventually, we convinced the boys to lay aside the machetes. We persuaded the girls to give us their siblings while they played. For brief moments, we watched God kindle fresh hope into their weighty souls. These exhausted little ones became children for a day. They ran. They played. They laughed and felt the delight of pure love that makes room to breathe again.

The day we left this mountainous village for the last time, our team couldn’t hold back the tears.

We had looked deeply into the eyes of a people hidden from current culture. We read in those eyes an ancient mystery desperately longing to be known. Because we allowed their lives to mark ours, we see differently. Looking into their eyes changed our eyes, too.

Friend, you may never travel to a remote village in another nation. But each of us carries the same longing to be known. You and I encounter people every day who are desperate to know that someone sees them…that He sees them!

Let this become your prayer as it has become mine: “Lord, let me slow down enough to be present right where I am and look into a person’s eyes. I want to know them, and I desperately want them to know You!”

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Details! Details! Details!

Summer months are spent with children home from school, vacationing, and catching up on those long overdue projects. We normally remind our clients that if you are thinking of remodeling a bathroom or a kitchen, you should start early in the summer to be able to finish the project by the holidays. Yes, it does take that long!

Before you begin a remodeling project, you must gather all the requirements and then move on to planning and CAD drawings. After that, you have to look at many selections for cabinet styles and finishes, granite countertops, tile for flooring and enclosures, cabinet pulls, plumbing fixtures, paint colors, and especially lighting. It is overwhelming for most, but for us, it comes naturally.

Many people don’t know that we offer remodeling services from start to finish. We begin with CAD drawings to propose a practical design. We ask many questions to gather your input and requirements. We want to know what you see in your mind, your vision, and how you want to change what you currently have to create your future state. You may not imagine a tub in your master bath because you desire a walk-in shower with updated chrome fixtures, or nowadays soft gold fixtures (not shiny brass). A tile backsplash is an important decision and design element in the kitchen.

Much thought should be put into the new appliances, as well.

work with our design firm, you have three heads reviewing your project instead of just one. You will have the best possible design and we do all the work. We act as the project manager and have our own group of highly skilled and bonded contractors who work with us, including plumbers, electricians, craftsmen, and installers. We value all of our installers’ quality of work and professionalism.

With our CAD drawings, we can rearrange a room to make it more efficient and visually flowing, in addition to providing details such as a lighting plan. When you

Are you thinking about a remodel project but don’t know where to start? Start with us! We are ready to help you begin your journey today.

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Flip House Accent Prone’s : An inspired labor of love!

BY MARTIE EMORY

While also getting ready to celebrate the seventh anniversary of Accent Prone – their home décor, furniture, and fashion boutique – Justin and Cheri Lingafelt achieved another lifelong dream. The creative couple flipped their first house!

The inspirational entrepreneurs behind one of Kernersville’s most popular shopping destinations combined their passion for style and design to totally renovate a ranch-style, three bedroom, two bathroom home at 5861 Hedgecock Road in Kernersville.

BEFORE

“We’ve always wanted to flip a house, and yes, we would definitely do it again!” says Cheri.

AFTER

Besides adding a half bath to the house, they made the decision to knock down all the walls, and completely gut the interior, while also replacing the plumbing and electrical wiring, and adding on a brand new roof.

“We updated the entire layout and flow of the house as well,” explains Cheri, adding that she and Justin wanted the home’s new, updated version to be unique and even a little funky.

“We knew somebody would immediately fall in love with it!”

(And yes, as of this printing, the house is already under contract!)

Cheri and Justin each bring a unique eye for design and detail to their projects and their shared passion for what they do is brilliant. While there were challenges over the three-month renovation period, there was also much excitement!

“Seeing a vision in your head for so long, then seeing it come to fruition is so much fun!” says Cheri.

Every room of the house is filled with furniture and décor from Accent Prone, mirroring the same unique product lines and stylish decor you’ll find at the Kernersville store.

Take a quick glimpse of the finished product and you’ll immediately see – and feel – Cheri’s love for mixing styles and finishing each room with a clean aesthetic. You’ll notice the couple’s wide use of raw woods – another Cheri signature – and the supremely relaxing combination of blues, whites, and grays.

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While Cheri and Justin loved every aspect of flipping their first house together, both agree the master bathroom is a favorite focal point. “Justin and I both loved the way it turned out for a number of reasons,” says Cheri. “Not only does it exude my personal design style – rustic modern – but the juxtaposition of the clean modern lines mixed with raw wood was such a beautiful combination.”

She also details how much engineering and thought went into making the shower a curb-less, barrier- free shower with no ledge at the entry. “The cement-look floor that runs seamlessly through the entire space gives it a spa-like feel,” she says.

“That herringbone design in the shower was done out of a handmade tile, so when you see it up close there is a slight wave that carries throughout, and gives it so much character.”

The beautiful raw wood vanity was actually a piece of furniture for sale at Accent Prone that the two converted into a double bath vanity with a marble top and floating sink bowls. There’s a rainfall water head in the shower, and a warm chandelier above the inviting, freestanding bathtub.

“This is a favorite room because of the combination of good design, good craftsmanship, and lots of character!” says Cheri.

Perhaps the single biggest challenge for Cheri and Justin was adjusting to renovating an entire house, instead of simply a single room or kitchen, which they are accustomed to doing regularly for Accent Prone clients.

“Doing an entire house with so many decisions that have to happen all at once was the challenge,” says Cheri. “We learned a great deal, which will make the second time around much smoother!”

Known for their original, innovative style and fashion sense, Cheri and Justin invite you to visit Accent Prone at 1030-F South Main Street in Kernersville, where you’ll find furniture (including market samples), fashion, jewelry, and always the perfect accent for your home! Reach them at 336-310-4753 and at accentprone.com.

Store hours are Monday – Friday 10 a.m.

– 7 p.m. and Saturday 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. All home design and furnishings for the Flip House by Justin and Cheri Lingafelt at Accent Prone; Renovation by Zack Suit of @Zackshomeimprovement; Photos by Bay O’Brien Photography; Countertops by @amanzigranite in Kernersville; Tile by @studiotileanddesign.

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Your Words Matter

BY DENISE HEIDEL

The average woman speaks 20,000 words a day, and the average man speaks about 7000. However, this article isn’t about communication quantity. It’s about communication quality.

Either way you slice it, we are speaking thousands of words per day and the question is this: do they matter?

More than ever.

With so many methods of communication possible, we are constantly open to misunderstandings. Making the most of your words and choosing them carefully is a critical method to preserving relationships and ensuring that what we say is what is heard.

The truth is – there’s very little truth to the old sing-song rhyme from the playground, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me.”

Words hurt. Words are often the most damaging weapon we will ever use against another person.

With that in mind, if you want your words to matter, there are five questions to consider before speaking.

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1. Is it true? Are the words you are going to

speak based on fact, hearsay, or emotions that are running out of control? So often we make declarative statements in the heat of an argument that put the other person on the defensive. Or we repeat what others have said without taking the time to determine the validity of the statement.

2. Is it helpful? Are we making the most of our thousands of words per day? Do they offer value?

Do they uplift the hearer or do they tear someone down? Are we simply talking to hear ourselves speak because we can’t stand the deafening echoes of silence? If the words we speak are counterintuitive to being productive and helpful, perhaps we should make friends with Silence.

3. Is it inspiring? Not everything we say is going to be inspirational or quotable. But wouldn’t it be nice if our words inspired someone else to “pay it forward” with their words? Wouldn’t it be nice if we spoke words of inspiration that had a domino effect on the world around us?

4. Is it necessary? Not every comment is worthy of a comeback. Sometimes, the best response is simply to walk away. After all, as many wise Southern Mamas have said – you don’t have to show up to every argument you’re invited to.

5. Is it kind? What if,

before we said a single syllable, we took the time to pepper our words with kindness?

What if we were intentional about uplifting the people we spend time with? What if we made a choice to look for the good?

What if we stopped complaining? And what if we spoke with a smile in our voice? The world might look very different if we did.

American novelist Nathaniel Hawthorne once said, “Words: So innocent and powerless as they are, as standing in a dictionary, how potent for good and evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them.”

Words can build up. Words can tear down. Combine them well.

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BY DENISE HEIDEL

Administrative professionals and event planners have one common need: great meeting space that is affordable. And if that meeting space is also charming, centrally located, full of history, and includes a resident cat named Sally, all the better. For those who are planning meetings in the Triad, look no further than WinstonSalem’s own Historic Brookstown Inn. A gateway location that is between the historic district of WinstonSalem and downtown, plus conveniently accessible to Clemmons, Kernersville, High Point, and Greensboro, the Historic Brookstown Inn is a perfect example of what happens when an entrepreneurial spirit meets (and appreciates) historical architecture. The building dates back to the 1840s and was once used as a cotton mill.

Visiting the museum turns a meeting into an experience because it’s no longer just a standard hotel… it’s a place to discover the rich history of Winston-Salem. It’s a living museum where a group can enjoy stellar service and comfortable meeting accommodations.

Allison Watts, the Director of Sales, shared, “We love hosting meetings at the Historic Brookstown Inn because we really are a one-of-a-kind property. It is great to welcome our guests and show them all the fun nuances that make us unique. We’re especially excited to welcome guests now because our ballroom has just been updated with new carpet and drapes! It has always been a pretty room, but we love the updated look.”

The Historic Brookstown Inn has been hosting meetings for years, but the team recently updated the meeting space packages. “We saw a need and opportunity to simplify,” said Allison. “We know our clients want this to be easy, and we certainly want to make it easy for them. They are busy trying to coordinate the content they need to meet about… they shouldn’t have to worry about all the details of a meeting set up. Our new packages have significantly simplified things for everyone.”

The meeting packages offered at the Historic Brookstown Inn include a partial day option, half-day option, full day option, and a full day with dinner option.

“Our clients love these packages. It’s much easier to stay within the budget if you don’t have to try to keep factoring in a la carte options,” said Allison. “All of our packages include at least one snack for the group, beverage service, audiovisual equipment, complimentary parking, and special room rates – if overnight accommodations are needed.

“That’s the baseline for partial day meeting rental,” continued Allison. “For half day options and up, at least one meal is included by our incredible catering staff. It’s all packaged together, and the only optional add-on that a planner needs to worry about is whether or not to participate in our nightly wine and cheese reception!”

An additional benefit to planning a meeting at the Historic Brookstown Inn is the parking. “Parking downtown can be a nightmare,” conceded Allison, “But our property has free, onsite parking for our guests. That’s kind of hard to come by when you’re dealing with events that are downtown. Especially since our parking lot is actually quite large and secure.”

But the biggest difference planners will find is in the communication. “We have a very hands-on approach to meeting planning,” said Allison. “Our team is very involved from start to finish. We believe in the personal touch, and it shows in the quality of our service and the attention to detail. We make sure everything that is discussed between our team and our clients is communicated to those who are involved in set up and catering.”

Planners can be confident in the stellar reputation for which the Historic Brookstown Inn is noted. Also, the property can accommodate groups as small as 20 and up to 200.

For those who need to plan a meeting, the Historic Brookstown Inn is a memorable option that groups love. Contact Allison soon to reserve your space and learn more about the meeting packages that are available for your group.

The Historic Brookstown Inn is located at 200 Brookstown Avenue in Winston-Salem.

Visit online at BrookstownInn.com or call 336.725.1120. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram!

“We held our conference here for the 2nd time! Why? Because this is the best place, accommodations are so comfortable, and the staff is very friendly and helpful. And, the cookies at night are delicious!”

– Jenny G.

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“The staff was always courteous and met all our needs. I would like to personally thank Rebecca Woodcock for all her hospitality throughout the stay.

I have had several meetings at the hotel and always get great feedback from our clients.”

– Kristie N.

I was there for a business meeting, and the staff and the food were top notch. Highly recommend as a business meeting location or just for a getaway.”

– Rebecca S.

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10 Snack Foods Under 100 Calories

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

A healthy lifestyle doesn’t necessarily mean you must deprive yourself of a snack. Check out some of the tastiest treats under 100 calories to keep you energized throughout the day.

1. BLUEBERRIES

According to WebMD, one cup of fresh blueberries is only 84 calories! Each cup of fresh blueberries contains 4 grams of fiber, 1.1 grams of protein, manganese, vitamin C and vitamin K. Try blending together 2/3 cup frozen blueberries with 1/3 cup nonfat Greek yogurt and ice for a refreshing smoothie worth only 93 calories!

Blueberries may be low in calories, but they are remarkably high in nutrients. Since blueberries are nearly 85% water, they are considered to have one of the highest antioxidant levels out of all berries. Blueberries are believed to benefit individuals with high blood pressure, as well as improve one’s memory.

2. PLAIN GREEK YOGURT

A single-serving of plain Greek yogurt that is 5.3 oz to 6 oz in size can range from 80-100 calories, depending on the chosen brand.

It can be served with granola, on top of pancakes, replace sour cream with baked potatoes, and so on. Plain Greek yogurt is a light way of consuming protein that is necessary for building muscle and fighting off illness. Packed with probiotics and vitamin B12, plain Greek yogurt will keep your digestive system clean and healthy.

This sweet fruit contains only 82 calories in each cup of fresh pineapple chunks!

Although they contain over 12 nutrients, pineapples are especially high in vitamin C and manganese. Vitamin C is crucial in boosting a healthy immune system, while manganese is fundamental in maintaining a healthy metabolism.

6. VEGGIES & HUMMUS

Try out the bright combination of 2 tbsp. of traditional hummus, 1 medium carrot sliced, and 1/2 cup sliced cucumber to reach a total of 83 calories! Feel free to replace with your favorite vegetables, since the 2 tbsp. of traditional hummus is only 50 calories.

Hummus is a scrumptious plant-based protein and is rich with powerful antioxidants.

7. HARD-BOILED EGG

Did you know that a large, hard-boiled egg is only 78 calories? Not only does each egg provide about 6 grams of protein, but they are also believed to be big components in promoting bone health. Several studies show that hard-boiled eggs contain lutein and zeaxanthin, which are powerful antioxidants that promote healthy vision.

8. PINK GRAPEFRUIT

One whole pink grapefruit is only 52 calories! Several studies have shown that this sweet citrus fruit can increase an individual’s metabolism while decreasing their cholesterol levels.

3. WATERMELON

9. EDAMAME

4. POPCORN

10. APPLE SLICES AND PEANUT BUTTER

According to WebMD, one cup of chopped watermelon is only 46 calories! Since watermelon is 92% water, it will keep you hydrated and full until your next meal. It is loaded with fundamental nutrients, such as potassium, magnesium, and vitamin A. Watermelon is also rich with lycopene and vitamin C, which is believed to help lower inflammatory levels and benefit brain health.

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5. PINEAPPLE

Did you know that one cup of air-popped popcorn is only 31 calories? Air-popped popcorn is the easiest method of making popcorn without any oils and/or butter. If you don’t have a popcorn popper at home, try placing 3-4 tbsp. of plain kernels into a brown paper bag. Fold over the top of the paper bag two times to seal it, then microwave it for two minutes or until the popping slows down.

Drizzle with 1/2 tbsp. extra virgin olive oil to increase its contents of polyphenols, which have been shown to reduce heart disease and cancer.

According to WebMD, a 1/2 cup of edamame is only 95 calories! A young soybean that is vibrant in its green glow, edamame has more than 8 grams of protein and provides essential amino acids that will help keep your body active. Edamame is high in isoflavones, iron, and riboflavin. Several observational studies show that the early consumption of isoflavonerich foods can slightly reduce the risk of breast cancer later in life.

According to WebMD, one small apple with a thin spread of peanut butter or almond butter on each slice will rack up at only 90 calories!

This salty and sweet combo will curb your appetite, especially since it is high in fiber and water. This snack is another rich source of polyphenols that help to treat digestive system issues, diabetes, and more.

Next time you are hungry in between meals, listen to your body and say yes! Snacking without guilt! Who knew?

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ALL CHILDREN SHOULD WAKE UP SAFE, READY AND SUPPORTED

BY FAMILY SERVICES Winston-Salem has a lot to be proud of. In recent years, it has been hailed as: • One of the 14 best places to travel in the U.S. • Highest average growth in number of small businesses—tied with Charlotte and Austin • 33rd of Best Large Cities to Start a Business • 37th on the list of best places to live, out of the 100 most populous cities in the country • 6th best place to retire All these accolades would seem to suggest that Forsyth County is filled with promise for the 24,000 children under age five who live here—all of whom deserve to wake up: • Safe in their home and neighborhood • Ready to succeed in school • Supported within a strong family Unfortunately, 8,000 of those young children (about one-third) do not wake up this way.

Family Services is working to change that, and you can join us by participating in the Wake-Up Walk & 5 K on August 24th at Bailey Park.

Every step we take together has the power to close the opportunity gap that is preventing our most vulnerable children and their parents from reaching their full potential.

That’s why we are asking you to become their champion and help eliminate the constant stress and pressures of living in poverty.

Your support helps to: • Ensure that all preschoolers are prepared for success in school.

• Provide access to resources, so that parents can improve the safety and security of their families.

• Reverse the generational cycle of disadvantage in Winston-Salem/ Forsyth County.

• Build a better future for all of us.

• Create more opportunities and pave the way for quality Pre-K development programs that will give every child the opportunity to succeed and achieve the American Dream.

When we step up together, we can help all our neighbors rise and shine.

We invite you to help our community put its “best feet” forward by joining us this year for the annual Wake-Up Walk & 5K. Learn more at WakeUpWalk.org.

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MEMBERS COME FIRST

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY

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Money management is so important right now, and Piedmont Advantage Credit Union takes its role as educator, friend, and number one financial cheerleader just as seriously. People come first here, period!

Like any healthy relationship, trust and communication are imperative, and here you’ll find both in plentiful supply, as well as inspiration to make your dreams come true! While they have served members since 1949, Piedmont Advantage Credit Union has seen their role evolve with the ever-changing technology industry and financial climates. The energy behind employees’ confidence in their solutions to members’ life events has never been more contagious! The company’s business journey began as the credit union partner of Piedmont Airlines, and now, in 2019, the Piedmont Advantage Credit Union team finds themselves enhancing lives through education, respect, and a constant dedication to one-onone communication when it matters most.

Having worked in a variety of departments, April has been grateful for the opportunity of flexible schedules, in order to obtain her associate’s and bachelor’s degrees in business administration. She now oversees a team of staff members who carry her commitment to serving members and the community, and appreciates the camaraderie when working through daily business challenges. “I strive every day to make a positive impact on each person that walks through our doors, visits the drive-through, or phones us,” she says.

Amy Latham, Branch and Community Development Manager, calls this place her second home.

“I have had the support of fellow employees and members through my most life-altering experiences,” says Amy. “I survived cancer, became a mother, and experienced the loss of my father with the support of my Piedmont Advantage Credit Union family. I believe in our credit union’s personal focus, and am proud of what I do.”

As a member-owned financial institution, they are committed to the core value of members coming first. Besides offering the expected banking solutions including checking accounts, savings accounts, mortgages, auto loans, Share Certificates, IRAs, and more, Piedmont Advantage Credit Union proudly offers a Financial Wellness Learning Series, a free monthly program of learning opportunities for members. Empowering them with the tools they need for every financial stage of life is key in the member Financial Wellness Program.

The program has seen over 2,000 members attend in-person retirement planning seminars, and also offers monthly financial webinars from the Piedmont Advantage Credit Union website. For the Forsyth Woman, knowledge is power, and keeping up-to-date with financial trends and opportunities is an invaluable tool for every family’s future. For this particular trio of dedicated women – valued Piedmont Advantage Credit Union team leaders who add a spark to the office every single day – meeting members’ needs and keeping their best interests at heart has been at the core of their professional journey since day one.

For University Branch Supervisor, April Young, whose knowledge in Piedmont Advantage’s solutions is stronger than ever, stand-out career moments include one-on-one coaching from managers to pursue her professional goals.

She has witnessed the “credit union difference” up close and personal, knows it is absolutely life-changing, and is anxious to introduce new credit union members to what they’ve been missing “I love helping people,” says April, who starts her day with meditation to let her ears and eyes be attentive to what her customers need that day. “There is a great sense of fulfillment when you can help change another person’s life.”

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She embraces the idea of being a strong female role model, and while she started as a teller, she has been involved with nearly every department of the credit union since then. She credits her mother’s strong teaching spirit for the way she personally interacts with credit union members, and says both her parents taught her early on to find a career path that would make her proud.

“While in member services, I approached my interactions with our members by identifying the opportunity for them to gain their own financial knowledge,” says Amy. “I created the lending training course for all lenders when I was the first Consumer Underwriter for the credit union, and I was also the Learning Leader for our organization for several years, where I made it a priority to continue the development of an internal resource for all employees.” Through Amy’s experience, she has taken the philosophy of helping people to heart, and incorporated it into her personal life as an avid community volunteer. “The fact that we are not for profit and live out the philosophy of helping people every day – that is a blessing,” she says.

In her current role she works with her branch teams in listening and providing them with the guidance they need to feel confident and successful in their own roles. “I truly believe in the principle of the ‘why?’ When you understand the ‘why’ of helping people, you have the knowledge and the added confidence in what you are doing,” she says.

Angela Vincent’s career began at a smaller credit union when she was a newlywed and college student. She’s familiar with the financial challenges young couples and young professionals starting out face. With determination, dedication, and mentoring from some of the best in the business, she’s embraced the lifelong lessons of treating people with professionalism and 44 | ForsythWoman.com

kindness always! As she’s shifted gears – and departments – throughout her career, she’s quickly learned to adapt to new policies and procedures, always with steadfast integrity. “It was always fascinating to be a part of developing solutions for our members, and watch the membership’s use of them grow,” she says.

Angela was also part of the first merger credit union endeavor with Winston-Salem based Piedmont Aviation Credit Union – currently Piedmont Advantage Credit Union, of course.

You can find this savvy Financial Services Officer (with the brightest smile!) in the Piedmont Advantage Credit Union Greensboro office.

Piedmont Advantage Credit Union team members recall countless scenarios where they have gone the extra mile to help a member, and been touched by the outcome themselves.

One employee remembers working quickly, late in the business day, to secure a first-time auto loan for a local college student, allowing her to drive away from the branch in her first car! Another describes a recent chance encounter at a local airport when a credit union member recognized her. The member took the time to relay how much Piedmont Advantage Credit Union taking a chance on her for a loan roughly ten years ago had literally changed her entire life! A loan to consolidate her debt at the time had helped turn her less-than-perfect credit around, and put her on the road to a more solid financial future, and brought her to a comfortable place today.

For all Piedmont Advantage Credit Union employees, their work is about real lives, real people, real solutions, and a readiness to always be that positive, knowledgeable influence. Stop by to meet April, Amy, and Angela, and you’ll glimpse firsthand the spirit that is launching Piedmont Advantage Credit Union into an exciting future!

Serving local members in WinstonSalem, Eden, and Greensboro; with offices on the coast and across the Charlotte area, with its strongerthan-ever spirit of helping people, Piedmont Advantage Credit Union’s Winston-Salem branches are located at the following addresses: Advantage Way Branch 3530 Advantage Way Winston-Salem, NC 27103 University Branch 4997 Home Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27106 Check them out at Pacu.com or reach them at 800-433-7228 to learn more about their business philosophy and financial services.

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BEFORE

AFTER

Does Your Home Need An Update?

“We have all heard how you can tell the year a woman graduated from high school by the way she wears her hair and makeup. It is a dead giveaway if she is still wearing a poodle skirt and a flip; we know she probably grew up watching Dick Clark’s American Bandstand.” ~ JoAnne Lenert Weary

More and more of my business is interior decorating. Clients contact me because they want help updating their homes.

Help with choosing paint colors, flooring, countertops, fabrics, light fixtures, or new furniture…… my job is to help them make wise decisions.

Besides being bored with how your home looks or how your home is deteriorating around you, just how do you know if you need to do some updating? Here are some dead giveaways: • Does the fabric, wallpaper, or paint have a country look with blue and mauve? What about the ‘90s look with burgundies and hunter green?

• How about your kitchen? Are the countertops ceramic tile or laminate?

• And your lamps….are they tall and have an eagle on them? Is the shade showing its age by the style…..or by the dust?

• Dust can be an indicator when it comes to your floral arrangements or if the arrangement itself is dense and compact.

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• Have your accessories sat in the same spot for so long you don’t even notice them anymore, or do they have a permanent ring around them? Are your tabletops filled with years of accumulation of picture frames, knick-knacks, paddy whacks ….and is there a bone?

• A sure sign of age is too much clutter! Not just magazines and papers, but too much stuff! You bring it in one piece at a time and then never want to give it up or give it away.

• Is the artwork staggered on the wall? Is the artwork purchased from a Home Interiors party circa 1989? Or is it the kids’ school photos but now the “kids” have kids of their own?

• Does your home have popcorn ceilings, paneled walls, polished brass door and cabinet hardware?

Unfortunately updates or remodel projects don’t happen as fast or as cheap as they do on HGTV. It takes time, money and planning….. and lots of patience! Kitchens and baths are the most important rooms in a home, not only for the homeowner but for a potential buyer if you ever decide to sell. Your home is worth more if these rooms are updated….plus; you’ll enjoy your new space.

Keep your hair and makeup updated, so you look younger and hipper than your age! Take good care of yourself, and everyone will be amazed when you disclose your true age. Do the same for your home…..call ReDESIGNS by Ava to help you with some simple fixes or help with your project, so no one really is sure when the last time you updated your home.

10 Reasons People Choose ReDESIGNS by Ava: 1. They’ve seen the results on TV Home makeover shows or in a friends house.

2. They want a fresh, designer look but haven’t been able to create it.

6. They are blending 2 households of furnishings and want professional help with what to keep and how to make it work.

7. They desire a home that feels good and looks good yet reflects who they are.

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3. They want great results without great expense.

function better.

4. They don’t know where to place the “old” furniture in a new house.

9. They want to prepare their home to maximize market appeal for a quick, top dollar sale.

5. They don’t want to make an expensive purchase they’ll regret.

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Am I Rich?

BY ADELE CASANOVA

What does it mean to be rich? How do we define wealth? Where and how we live will influence the answers to these questions. Wealth can be defined by two measurements: standard of living and quality of life.

Understanding the difference between the two can help us evaluate our true wealth.

Standard of living is measured by material aspects. This represents the availability of goods and services, some necessary and some for added comfort. In other words, how much is available to us that we can afford to enjoy? Income versus the cost of living. When rating over 190 countries by assessing the individual’s purchasing power, Global Finance Magazine rated the U.S. as 12th with the median annual wage of $64,000. Rated at the bottom is Brundi in East Africa where the median annual wage of $727 leaves little room for the average person’s purchase of luxury. We have all experienced leaner financial times and would consider more money welcome to improve our lives, but next time we feel like complaining about the financial pressures we face daily, it might be helpful to keep these global comparisons in mind. In comparing wage against cost of living, Global Finance states, “When considering whether it is better to be rich in a poor country or poor in a rich one, the best chance of enjoying an excellent living standard is to reside in a richer nation,” regardless of how your wage compares to the average. The United States is rich with opportunities and ways for us to manage and spend our money.

Quality of life refers to a more subjective measuring of wealth that may include happiness, safety, health, freedom, and the value placed on the worth of life itself. Certainly quality of life can be influenced by the availability of a high standard of living, however, in asking “Am I rich?” perhaps it would be easier to answer if we look closely at our quality of life, which tends to be less influenced by the availability of material things and more by our attitudes and choices.

With this in mind, does material wealth in dollar figures determine the answer to the question, “Am I rich?” Perhaps if we step back and think of all that we have instead of all that we don’t have, we will sense a greater quality of life. Quality of life is basically a measure of happiness.

Happiness is reinforced by the presence of options. We are free to pursue many options in our country. We can make personal choices in education, job training, career paths, diet, and healthy lifestyle. We have the freedom to marry who we want and build unique family units that are inclusive of everyone. We have freedom of expression and freedom of religion to follow our chosen faith. These freedoms and choices determine our quality of life, our wealth of satisfaction, and happiness.

People who enjoy this happiness and satisfaction with life often have a positive attitude and an entrepreneurial spirit. Gratitude can play a large part in quality of life, as well as management of one’s wealth and assets.

Ask yourself what being rich means to you. Is it being able to pay for basic needs without scrapping money together? Are you rich because you have a car, a washer and dryer, a bicycle, a flat screen television, a cell phone and can still afford to go the doctor if needed? Are you rich because you have running water, heat, air conditioning, and leisure time? Are you rich with caring loved ones and an inclusive culture and freedom to pursue the lifestyle of your choice? More importantly, how do you want to define being rich? By material wealth or quality of life and happiness?

Evaluating our level of happiness and satisfaction is an easier measure of wealth and can be influenced by us through our attitudes and our lifestyle choices. A high level of material wealth never guarantees happiness. So, “Are YOU rich?”

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Making Dollars, Making $ense Finding Balance This Summer

Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY MIKE MCGILVARY, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

For many, summertime is a most joyous time of year.

Local students trade their notebooks and pencils for fun in the sun. The annual family trip that everyone looks forward to is finally here, and sometimes even full-time working professionals can take well-deserved time away from their daily responsibilities.

However, I have found that many full-time workers are still performing tasks related to their careers during their time off, especially business owners. I have even found myself doing this on a recent vacation and realized that prioritizing your time, even while away, is important. The following are a few items that have helped me see the bigger picture:

1.) Prioritize. If you must focus on work items while

on R&R, create a list and tend to the items that are the most time sensitive. As a working professional, you know your time is valuable and your time on vacation should be treated the same exact way.

2.) Productivity. If being out of the office makes you

feel behind and you feel the need to work on a few items while away, focus on the items that are most productive to your business. Is the item you are working on benefiting a customer or client? Or is it something you can cross off your list when you return?

3.) Team Effort. If you have partners in your business

or employees/work associates, lean on them. Not everyone can do every single task to keep the business running; therefore, if you are out of the office and your work associate is not, consider reaching out to them for assistance. You will return the favor next time they are out of the office and are in a time crunch.

4.) Time-Block. Just as you would during your day at the office, block off time where you can make sure you are focused. Consider returning e-mails and phone calls only at certain times in the day, so the rest of the time you can focus on your time off!

5.) Enjoy. Lastly, and most importantly, don’t miss out on precious time with family and friends. You have worked hard to earn time off, so enjoy it!

Sticking to these guidelines helped me enjoy my recent vacation. Like many professionals, I do not like feeling behind on my work-related task, but I also want to make sure I am able to enjoy the time away with my family.

Give these a try and I hope they work for you. From all of us at Marzano Capital Group, enjoy your summer!

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BY VONDA HENDERSON Crystal Cleaners is a family owned and operated business that has been serving customers for the past 18 years. As Aaron Sturdivant, owner, shared, “At Crystal Cleaners, we treat all of our customers’ orders with the same care and attention we would give to our family to make sure they are all correct. So, when you trust Crystal Cleaners with your clothes, or whatever else you need us to take care of, you are treated like family.” Aaron and his wife, Jane, enjoy their work and the fact that their family is actively part of their business.

The professional team at Crystal Cleaners takes pride in the quality and attention to detail that they extend to every customer. Their standards are high, and they aim to deliver consistent value to their customers – every time.

What are the services offered at Crystal Cleaners? Take a look at all the options: • Dry Cleaning • Laundry • Wash, Dry and Fold Service • Alterations • Comforters (including comforters, blankets, sheets and full comforter sets) • Wedding Gown Preservation Check out details about some of their services.

WASH, DRY AND FOLD SERVICE

Is it a challenge to keep ahead of your laundry? Are you convinced that it multiplies overnight in that overflowing laundry basket?

Keeping your clothes clean and ready to wear at a moment’s notice can be a time-consuming, daunting endeavor. Really, is laundry what you want to do at the end of a busy workday? If a resounding NO is the response, Crystal Cleaners in Clemmons has the solution! Take advantage of their wash, dry and fold service.

It’s simple to sign up for this service. Then, just load up your laundry basket and drive it over to Crystal Cleaners. They will sort, wash and fold your clothing.

All you have to do is pick your clean laundry, drive it home and put it away. Be assured that they check each garment for any special instructions. You can have all your laundry done and picked up in two to three days.

Just think of all the advantages gained by having Crystal Cleaners do the laundry: • Free time at the end of the day, on weekends and after vacation.

• In the summer, no added heat in the house to run up the air conditioning bill.

• Peace of mind that the professionals at Crystal Cleaners will be sure you look your best.

SAME DAY SERVICE AVAILABLE

Same day service is also available upon request. To take advantage of this, simply bring your items before 9am. There is a small fee of $3 for same day service, but it’s worth it when you’re in a rush.

COMFORTER CLEANING

Have you ever tried to wrestle a comforter into your washer and realized that besides hardly being able to cram it into the machine, it’s probably not going to be clean when you take it out? It’s too tightly wedged in the washer to come out clean.

And then, there’s the time it takes in the dryer.

No way it’ll be dry in one cycle. What to do?

Take those bulky comforters and blankets (in fact, all your bed linens) to Crystal Cleaners. Their machines are oversized, and your items will be cleaned in separate loads, so there’s room to get them clean. You’ll find that comforters and bed linens keep their colors better, as well as their shape, when cleaned professionally.

WEDDING GOWN PRESERVATION

Do you dream of having your daughter wear your wedding gown on her big day? Crystal Cleaners ensures that your gown will be in pristine condition for her.

Gowns are hand-washed, steamed and boxed in acid-free containers and protected with acid-free tissue paper. “Anything that touches your wedding gown is acid-free,” Jane explained. “That’s the safest way to protect and preserve a gown and protect its color.”

Stop by for a Crystal Cleaners welcome, and let their professional team keep your clothes, linens and more look great. Their hours are Monday through Friday from 7am to 6:30pm and Saturday from 8am to 4pm. They are conveniently located at 3608 Clemmons Road. Got questions? Give them a call at 336.712.3155. Be sure to follow them on Facebook and take note of their specials.

Leave home looking pressed, polished and ready to face the day! Thanks to Crystal Cleaners!

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But I Feel Like a Fraud Imposter Syndrome and How To Beat It

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I can’t do that; I’m not important enough.

They are going to figure out I shouldn’t be here.

Why did they pick me? I’m just me.

Chances are you’ve thought this or something like this at least once. And I would be willing to bet my very best and beloved houseplants that you aren’t some fraud sneaking into spaces that you shouldn’t be in, and no one is looking to “out” you for being an imposter.

Imposter syndrome is a real psychological phenomenon when people doubt their accomplishments and abilities and have an innate and persistent, and often internalized, fear of being exposed as a fraud. You might write things off to chance or luck. The problem with imposter syndrome isn’t just being your own worst enemy: it’s the opportunities and chances you don’t take because you doubt your own abilities.

There are a few things you can start doing that might help you deal with the nasty inner voice that is surely holding you back:

LOOK FOR EVIDENCE

What have you accomplished? Take a moment to write out a list of your accomplishments and keep it with you. I’m not talking about your full-on professional resume: I am talking about being aware of your worth. You are worth it, you have accomplished things, and you deserve to be here.

Remind yourself.

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If you’re struggling with this, write out three things that you’re proud of. It can be as simple as meditating once a week, making your bed or remembering to floss.

Be specific, and honest.

KEEP IT QUANTITATIVE

Too often we’re adding “Oh, I’m just…” or “It’s not a big deal” or “I just got lucky” to our accomplishments. Get rid of anything qualitative, and stay with quantitative things. Stick to the facts.

Take a look at your list from the last point: did you rationalize any of it with a “well this is nothing” or some other qualitative statement that offers worth to something?

Try to eliminate it. And now, add one or two more things that are “bigger” than those on the list. Maybe you did a great job on a work project or were assertive when you needed to be. Say all four to five things out loud in a clear and concise way.

Don’t add any emotion to it!

PRACTICE THE POSITIVE

You get the energy you put out. If you’re giving yourself all negative energy, you’re going to keep getting it back. Be nice to yourself and practice complimenting

yourself. Think of one thing that you do feel good about: maybe you’re great at raising plants, or really amazing at copyediting. Give yourself a few compliments, and start to avoid the negative self-talk.

Take the things you’re proud of from the previous exercises, and turn one of them into a compliment. For example, if you are proud that you were assertive when you needed to be, maybe the compliment is, “I do a great job being assertive when the time calls for it.” Again, say it out loud, and start changing that negative self-talk to positive.

REMEMBER: YOU ARE HUMAN

It’s ok to feel like this once in a while.

We’re all human; we might have a few negative thoughts. Don’t let them outweigh the positive. Imposter syndrome becomes an issue when it holds you back from potential opportunities. While we all do have some negative self-talk, if you immediately go to negative when anything positive happens, it might be a problem.

Give yourself some grace. If you’re not good to yourself, who will be?

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Teddy Bear Trims Dog Grooming

Luxury House Call Grooming Service

BY ADELE CASNOVA

Would having a caring and knowledgeable pet groomer come into to your home and offer your pet a fear-free grooming experience be a dream come true? That experience is now a reality in the Winston-Salem area with Teddy Bear Trims Dog Grooming. Sydney Eley has created this new business in order to offer dogs comfortable, luxurious, low-stress, in-home grooming.

Sydney Eley has always known she would one day work with animals. Growing up in a home filled with well-loved pets, including dogs, cats, rabbits, hamsters and even horses, prepared Sydney for a career in caring for animals. Sydney grew up homeschooled by parents who were role models for independence as small business owners. She saw in her parents, not only the rewards of hard work and commitment, but also the freedom and independence that comes with being one’s own boss.

When Sydney reached the point of choosing a college to attend, she concluded, after reviewing 8 college choices and several scholarships, that the path to owning her own pet grooming business was not through college courses, but rather through an intense thirteen-week course in dog grooming at Rockingham Community College under Master Dog Groomer, Jeannie Oakes. Sydney also attended extra lessons in specific dog grooming cuts, and she specializes in the Teddy Bear cut. Sydney has completed the Fear Free Groomer Certification Program, which ensures her ability to make the grooming experience as enjoyable as possible for every dog, helping each dog to come to love, not fear, the grooming experience.

Sydney is excited to be now offering her house call, low-stress grooming service. “I have always loved bathing and grooming dogs, and it is gratifying to be able to offer that service in the dog’s home environment where stress and fear can be reduced, and the grooming experience actually be fun for the dog,” says Sydney. She brings everything needed, including high-quality equipment such as her grooming table, blow dryer, and vacuum. Sydney uses all-natural products in bathing and grooming dogs. When finished, Sydney provides a thorough clean-up for the convenience of the homeowner.

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their dogs to the groomer, and older clients who have trouble traveling outside the home to attend to their pets’ grooming needs. Sydney makes the grooming experience low-stress for the dogs with crate free grooming. This is especially important for high strung dogs and older dogs who do not fare well physically if restricted to a crate for long periods of time. “Dogs really enjoy the one-on-one grooming experience in the familiar environment of their own home. I can establish familiarity and trust with the dog and relax the animal to actually enjoy the groom,” states Sydney. Dog owners often enjoy watching the grooming experience and can feel part of the event. One recent client commented, “You did an outstanding job! Hands down the best cuts and experience our dogs have ever had getting groomed.”

In addition to being an expert dog groomer, Sydney is also an artist. She paints, crochets and sews. She puts these talents to work to enhance her pet grooming service.

Sydney provides each dog with a complimentary, colorful hand sewn collar, adding creative flair to the groom. Sydney also paints pet portraits, something she loves doing as she sees it as a personal celebration of her love for animals.

Sydney’s future goals include one day opening a dog grooming salon where she can continue to offer crate free, low-stress grooming. She would continue with her house call grooming as well, so as to serve the clients and dogs most in need of the home grooming experience.

If you would like your dogs to enjoy this luxury, low-stress house call grooming experience, you can reach Teddy Bear Trims Dog Grooming by calling or texting 336692-4690. Please follow Teddy Bear Trims on Facebook at facebook.com/TeddyBearTrims and on Instagram @Teddy Bear Trims. Teddy Bear Trims Grooming services clients in WinstonSalem, Lewisville, Clemmons, Pfafftown and Mt. Airy, and is a fully insured business.

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5

Tools You Need

to Become the Strong

Female Leader You Were Made To Be

Women are natural born leaders. We see it everyday in the way that they show up for their friends, care for and keep their families running, make changes in their communities, serve in their churches, and find new ways to elevate themselves, regardless of their situation. So, when it comes to leadership roles across industries and opportunities, it’s mindboggling to see how underrepresented women are.

In a recent article from Forbes.com, findings from the 2017 study done by LeanIn.org and Mckinsey & Company stated that, “Women continue to be underrepresented at the leadership level. White women make up only 18% of the C-suite [the group of titles tending to start with “C” for “Chief” – like chief executive officer (CEO), chief financial officer (CFO), chief operating officer (COO)], and women of color make up only 3%. And both groups of women earn three times as many degrees as their male counterparts.”

While there are many layers to what is holding women back in these levels of leadership – some of which have been placed there unfairly for generations – there is one important piece that a woman can begin to work on for herself: harnessing her own self-image as a leader.

There are so many resources and routines you can implement that can help harness the beautiful and brilliant leader that you are already are, while helping you to step out and own that role.

CONTENT THAT CREATES CONFIDENCE

We become what we surround ourselves with. From books and movies to podcasts and blogs, there is so much content out there in the world with the sole purpose of building strong leaders. The next time you find yourself consuming content online or purchasing a book from your local bookstore, challenge yourself to find options that will help propel you and your mindset forward. Find out what other leaders you look up to are consuming. Do they have a favorite podcast show or a documentary that was life-changing or affirming that they recommend? Dive in and you’ll notice the changes in your focus, drive, and confidence as a leader.

MENTORS MATTER

Finding a mentor that you can learn from and lean on when you are working towards your personal journey of growth is

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BY TARYN JEREZ

vital. If you’re not sure how to find a mentor, look for local leadership events and women-led organizations, online communities geared toward female leaders, and even in your place of work. When you begin to interact in more of these types of spaces, don’t be afraid to reach out to someone who’s in a position you’d like to be in someday and see if they’d be willing to meet with you. Make sure you find a mentor that you can be yourself with while being vulnerable about your goals and feel a true connection with.

STRENGTH IN YOUR CORNER

When is the last time you took inventory of your inner circle?

It’s easy to have friendships that are there out of habit and less out of love as time moves on. Take inventory of who you keep in your life and who you let in. Is your circle linked together with women who are equally ready to embrace your role as a leader and the things you are passionate about? Do they cheer you on from the sidelines, and can you do the same for them? As you embrace the leading role you were meant to play, find other leaders that are not intimidated by this change and instead are there to cheer you on and help you grow.

GOAL GETTER LISTS

Something most strong leaders have in common is they don’t shy away from setting goals, even the scary ones! Keep a record of the things you want to achieve and create lists to help you get there. Every time you find yourself daydreaming about what that next shift in your life can be, write it down and allow your brain to process the small steps you would need to take to see that come to fruition. If you want to be the CEO of your company one day, write it down. If you want to speak at a conference with an audience of one thousand attendees, write it down. Encourage yourself to stop playing small and lean into the big and scary goals.

STEP OUT STRONG

Don’t wait until you’re ready to be a leader and definitely don’t wait until someone of authority gives you permission to lead. Strong leaders give themselves permission. When you read that women are natural born leaders, it’s important to remember that this doesn’t mean that claiming the role comes naturally. That part can take time and sometimes a shift in mindset. Curate your life to be surrounded by people, experiences, and things that remind you that you’re meant to step out and be the strong female lead of your own life.

Congratulations to Dr. Gibbs on his retirement In 1979, Dr. Gibbs co-founded Salem Gastroenterology Associates, now known as Gastroenterology Associates of the Piedmont.

A New Adventure After 40 years of treating patients in the practice he grew from the ground up, Dr. James Gibbs has made the decision to retire. Even with new adventures on the horizon, his main focus is still on getting his patients the best care possible. “I have patients who I’ve treated three generations of their family. I’m glad to know that I can fully trust their care to our providers. Your biggest fear is that when you retire, your practice won’t sustain itself; I’m glad to know that will not be happening in this case.”

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Dr. Gibbs wishes to thank every patient and staff member who have made his career possible over the years.

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The Diary of Sojourner Truth Part 2

BY SOJOURNER TRUTH

Sojourner Truth, a 19th century women’s rights activist, was a preacher and abolitionist speaker in her time.

This is what I, Sojourner Truth, recall from the later years of my life. My callin,’ my preachin’, my activism, an’ service.

Religion Without Humanity

In 1832, the Holy Spirit led me to a man named Robert Matthews. He called himself Matthias. Lord have mercy! At first glance, I can say this man was sent by God Himself to do His work. He really looked like one of Jesus’ disciples.

I ended up workin’ with him at a religious community, The Kingdom. I learnt fast that Matthias was not of God. Matthias was always beatin’ me and giving me all th’ heavy work. After some stuff went over, I couldn’t believe how wrong I was about Matthias! I lost a lot of trustin’ in religious ministries. I tell you I can’t read a book, but I can read the people and religion without humanity is poor human stuff!

But all I ever had was Jesus. He loves me through it all!

I can feel it! I can see it! His Holy Spirit leads me, and I must go because it ain’t about me. ’Spite it all, I was still tryin’ to find my way as a preachin’ black woman. I had my people in mind to keep me strivin’ for a better life for all us downtrodden folk.

NameChange

I had my freedom, my freedom had me. I know freedom made me change, but I needs a new name now. Isabella don’t fit me no more, so I asked God to name me. The Lord gave me ‘Sojourner,’ because I was to travel up an’ down the land, showin’ the people their sins an’ bein’ a sign unto them. Afterwards, I told the Lord I wanted another name ‘cause everybody else had two names, and the Lord gave me ‘Truth,’ because I was to declare the truth to people.

Called

I felt a call to preach on June 1, 1843 and what a glory to God! This happened ’round Pentecost! The Holy Spirit led me east to preach and I let ’em all know my new name, Sojourner Truth. My preachin’ was full of my ’xperiences in life, the Bible, and my idea of God. I guess I had a strong presence ’bout myself because Imma six-foot-tall, outspok’n black woman speak’n up at a time when women didn’t speak none. Things was looking up from here!

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A Woman Who Speaks?

In the 1840s, I rose to fame as a woman speaker and lecturer.

I was the first woman to emerge as a prominent abolitionist speaker! In the 1850s, I was on tour travelin’ 22 states speakin’ on abolit’n, religion, women rights, and politics.

Although I was an uncultured negro with little elegance, I found success along this route. I won’t ever ’fraid to put my ideas in the oddest forms…I was outspok’n and direct!

In 1851, I gave one of my greatest speeches at a Women’s Convention in Akron, Ohio, “Ain’t I A Woman?” In it, I was blunt and argued a woman’s rights. I felt the need to challenge folks’ mind at all times.

Helping Out Wit the War

In 1861, the U.S. Civil War had broken out real bad and my health was sufferin.’ But ’spite all that, God still led me to good works. I helped recruit troops to fight for Union, I encouraged Union to make abolition one of their reasons for war, and even met good man Abe Lincoln! I helped to free people and helped them adjust to life outside of slavery.

I taught them homemakin’ skills and gave them hospital patient care. I also advocated adding women’s rights to the reconstruction amendments.

A Ttime to Transition

I lived a good life, a trying life, a giving life, a courageous life, but a promising life. But now in 1881, my sufferin’ health is really getting to me. I caught diabetes but was being cared for my by daughters and doctor. I know I ain’t got too much longer to go, but I ain’t stressin’ ’bout it because I knows I completed God’s good work in my life. So now I want to tell y’all this: be a follower of Jesus. I ain’t goin’ to die, but I’m going home like a shooting star.

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Becoming a Better Morning Person

BY JAMIE LOBER

If you find yourself hitting the snooze button more than you would like, you are not alone. Some women jump up at the crack of dawn and are eager to start their day while others do not share those sentiments. The good news is that there are things you can do so you are able to face the morning sunrise with a smile and no longer pull the covers over your eyes. You can start by getting rid of your clock’s (or your phone’s) annoying alarm tones. Download a favorite song or jingle to your phone that you will actually want to hear. It’s even better if you put it out of your reach, which forces you to get up in order to turn it off.

Lifestyle matters. How much sleep you need depends on your age. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention said that school-aged kids from 6 to 12 years-old require 9 to 12 hours; teens require 8 to 10 hours, and adults require 7 to 9. To get the best quality of sleep, you may need to form new healthy habits. The National Sleep Foundation made recommendations that are easy to implement into your routine, such as: • Stick to a schedule of the same sleep time and wake time, even on weekends • Create a relaxing bedtime ritual • Avoid naps in the afternoon • Exercise daily • Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, caffeine, and heavy meals in the evening • Avoid electronics • If you cannot sleep, go into another room, or do something calming until you feel tired • Use your bed only for sleep and sex

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Now it is time to take a look at your environment.

Sometimes making a small change can make a big difference. Going down this checklist can be helpful.

• Keep the room at a cool temperature • Keep the room free from noise • Keep the room free from light • Sleep on a comfortable and supportive mattress and pillows that are free of allergens • Remove any objects that can make you slip or fall Scheduling something that you look forward to will help you rise and shine. Have a routine that puts you in a good mood such as reading the newspaper, doing yoga, or meditating.

Create an atmosphere that welcomes the new day by making sure that you have window coverings that allow the light to come in your room. Getting outside to breathe fresh air and take a short walk can be a great way to kick off the day. Being exposed to natural light keeps your body on track. You also want to make sure to have breakfast, which helps you focus throughout the day. Preparing something the night before can make things easier and less stressful in the morning.

If getting a good night’s sleep and waking up bright and early is still not your forte, do not be afraid to consult with your family physician or a sleep medicine doctor in order to rule out any underlying medical conditions. Nobody should allow sleep (or the lack of) to interfere with their work, family, or productivity. It can be beneficial to keep a sleep journal and look for any patterns or issues with your habits.

Remember – the early bird catches the worm!

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Nationally Known Political Icons and Strategists Set To Speak In Winston-Salem Trellis Supportive Care Pulls In Extraordinary Panel for Annual Living Your Best Life Event Trellis Supportive Care (formerly Hospice & Palliative CareCenter) is excited to announce the fourth annual Living Your Best Life Speaker Series scheduled for September 25, 2019 in WinstonSalem. This year’s event brings three nationally known political icons and strategists, each with decades of notoriety and recognition as frequent guests on network and cable news shows; Ann Compton, Mary Matalin, and James Carville.

Ann Compton will share her insights and moderate a discussion between the powerhouse husband and wife duo, Matalin and Carville, who hold deep and divergent political views. The couple is best known for their highly passionate expression of opposing political views. While on opposite sides of the aisle, they have a long marriage where their political differences have not become personal differences.

With our prestigious panel of key players who have been on the frontline of the national political scene, we will explore political polarization, ways back to civility, and consider how we can be part of the solution. This year’s Living Your Best Life Speaker’s Series will highlight our ability to create a richer and more meaningful life through constructive engagement, promoting both advocacy for causes we believe in and volunteerism for organizations that serve people in need.

These nationally known speakers have impressive resumes. Ann Compton joined ABC News in 1973 as the first woman assigned to cover the White House by a television network. From her front seat at the White House for ABC News, Compton covered seven presidents as well as innumerable life-changing and globe-altering events that made the daily headlines. She knows firsthand of the people and issues that are shaping the future of this country.

Mary Matalin is one of the country’s foremost conservative political strategists and commentators, admired for her astute insights, intellectual integrity and her outspoken views on Congress and the future of the Republican Party.

Matalin was deputy campaign manager for President George H. W.

Bush, assistant to President George W. Bush, and counselor to Vice President Dick Cheney.

James Carville is one of the most recognizable figures in politics. He is an insider, frequently seen on TV analyzing the Trump Administration, Congress, the 2020 Presidential election as well as the global political landscape. He is well known for his bombastic, enthusiastic, shoot-fromthe-hip, political commentary. His quick wit and Southern drawl earned him the nickname “Ragin’ Cajun.”

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The team at Trellis Supportive Care started this communitychanging and life-altering event in 2016. The event is designed to inspire the community to live their very best lives – now, and for the rest of their lives. “We named this event Living Your Best Life to help spotlight our mission of helping people live fully and comfortably, making the most of every day,” shared Linda Darden, President and CEO of Trellis Supportive Care. “I’m thrilled with the level of expertise we are bringing to the region and I suspect these powerhouse speakers will bring a whole new level of excitement and a glimpse into the 2020 presidential race,” she continued.

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Small Talk 101 Getting In & Getting Out

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Once you start enjoying small talk, it all becomes a little easier. Asking questions, listening, understanding how to introduce yourself – when you have these skills down, you can usually handle most, if not all, networking situations.

But how do you get into a conversation? And scarier, sometimes, how do you get out?

There are a few easy ways to both find a conversation to get in to (and get into it!) and to get out of a conversation when you need to.

GETTING IN

This is arguably harder than getting out of a conversation. You have your elevator pitch all ready, you’ve planned your conversation topics, and you have lots of curiosity questions. You walk in…and freeze. Everyone is talking to everyone else, and there aren’t even any single people you could try to talk to. Now what?

LOOK FOR AN OPEN GROUP

When you’re looking for a group to go up to, pay attention to their body language. If folks are standing in a tight circle with their heads down and shoulders curled, you might want to avoid that group; they are probably discussing something personal to the group, and won’t be the easiest for you to chat with. If you see a group where people are facing both their smaller group and out toward the larger audience, gesturing openly and not full of serious faces, go for it!

SAY HELLO, AND LOOK AROUND

The first thing you should always do when you meet someone for the first time? Say hello!

Introduce yourself, and get their names. Then stop: look around. Find something to talk about!

The room, the food, the music, the drinks, the crowd – anything you can see and comment on (and not in a snarky manner – keep it positive!) is a great place to start conversation with a new group that doesn’t feel like a job interview. For example, there might be a cool plant – asking

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about it, if anyone knows what it is, if anyone else likes house plants…and then start listening and asking curiosity questions. Boom, you’re out of the gate, and the rest is conversation.

GETTING OUT

Oh, we’ve all been there. The conversation that just keeps going, and going and you’re going to spend the entire night talking to this person or pretending that you just got a very important phone call that you have to step outside and take.

Instead of lying to the person you’re talking to, there are a few ways “out”:

PROPOSE ANOTHER TIME TO FOLLOW UP, GIVE A CARD

You know you are done with this conversation, and it’s nothing against the person you’re talking to. Maybe you have someone else to talk to, or maybe you just want to move along. You don’t need a reason! There is a very simple way to end a conversation with someone you just met: thank them for their time and propose your next follow up. I’m a fan of transparency – mainly, when you full on state, “This has been such a great conversation; I would love to set up time to chat more.”

Simple right? You can now exchange a card and follow up afterward. You don’t need to over-explain, or offer excuses. Done and done, and leave. If that doesn’t work, you can do it in conjunction with the next tip to…

FIND A NEED, GIVE A CARD

Best foolproof way out of a conversation? State a need. It’s hard to argue with, “I need to go to the bathroom” or “I need to grab some food” or “I need to talk with my coworker over there.” The phrase, “I need” is both assertive and firm – and few can dispute a need. State your need, thank them for their time, offer a card and a time to follow up.

Getting in and out of conversations doesn’t have to be creative – it can be as straightforward as the ideas above. Or even more so as in, “Hi, I’m Jen – I don’t know anyone here! What’s your name?” and “We’ve talked for a while, and I want to meet a few other folks tonight – can we talk again soon?” Keep it real, and good luck!

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OVERCOMING GAPS A Three Part Series PART 1

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

CONFIDENCE GAP Women face different challenges in life.

Quite literally, research has shown that the world is built for men and by men: from the average office being about five degrees too cold for women to function at their highest ability, all the way to the “standard” dust, hazard and eye mask, which was built to fit the average US male face shape, women deal with varying degrees of inequity in the world.

The Gender Gap is quite simply, the discrepancy between men and women.

The phrase itself is vague and doesn’t specifically connect with any one challenge that women face. This threepart series will include the upcoming two issues, and will detail one gap, a thought exercise around it and some ideas on overcoming it. The first: Confidence.

In 2011, a study from the Institute of Leadership and Management in the UK found that half of the female respondents reported self-doubt about their job performance when they were asked about how confident they feel in their professions. Less than a third of male respondents reported self-doubt when asked the same question.

This isn’t the only or first study that indicates a Confidence Gap between men and women that affects women in their lives – take a moment to Google the Confidence Gap to learn a bit more.

Worse, the studies that dispute the Confidence Gap actually show that while women might be just as confident in their abilities and leadership as men, they are unable to promote themselves, which leads to them asking for less raises, negotiation, positions of leadership and more.

Even worse: in order to appear confident, studies show women have to not only be competent in what they do, they also have to be liked, and in order to be liked, they have to be nice. (Which, should have nothing to do with appearing confident.)

This need for female niceness often leads to something called the “Backlash Effect” – an avoidance mechanism that women have developed, which leads to women self-promoting less because of perceived social consequences.

So… whew! What do we do with all of this? First, take a moment to see if confidence – either a lack of or the inability to show – has affected your life in a negative way or caused discomfort. Sit down and write without editing, and don’t hold back. Remember, you’re thinking

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about places or moments where you didn’t make a choice or move because of your confidence, or lack of.

WHAT’S CONFIDENCE ANYWAY?

Before we can continue to work on confidence, we need to think about what it actually is to you – and individually you! Confidence for me will be different than confidence for you – and while we might perceive confidence as specific stereotypical characteristics, you have to see what that looks like on you. Take a few moments to think about what “being confident” means to you, and write down…

One Physical Action…

One Mental Thought and…

One Emotional Moment… …That you exhibit or experience when you feel confident. For example, say when you feel confident, you walk with purpose, or you feel happy and driven.

When you know how you show confidence, think about what makes you feel confident. Accomplishing something big? Making the bed every morning?

Getting a project finished on time?

Full stop: this might be hard for you – women have a Confidence Gap, remember? I was judging a scholarship competition and we were interviewing students for the final stage, and each judge was asking a question. Mine was: “What is an accomplishment that you’re proud of?” One of the other interviewers commented how much she didn’t like that particular question because, “It sounds like bragging.”

It’s not.

Being proud of yourself and showing confidence because of that pride is not bragging! As women, we go to that dark place a lot, unfortunately. We’re essentially undoing a lot of the stigma we might have about confidence.

Once you understand how you show confidence and what makes you feel confident, take some time to think about what you can do to bring more of that in your life. Don’t worry if you’re starting small: little rocks still cause ripples in the water, and a small change can have big effects.

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What Size Should I Buy?

BY TABI FALCONE

So you’ve decided to buy a house: congratulations! Now the real work begins. How do you know what kind of house to buy? Besides the aesthetics, in reality, do you know how much space you actually need in your new dream home? There are a lot of things to consider before making that decision, so let’s overview a few of the deciding factors to consider how big you really need your home to be.

The first thing you need to do is look over your budget.

Do not even call a realtor until you’ve considered how much money you have for a down payment, how much you can afford in a monthly mortgage, and have received a pre-approval letter from a lender (often your bank). It’s recommended to keep your mortgage at or below 30% of your gross income but consider your other expenses as well. If you have a significant amount of student debt or other payments such as cars, you may want to look in a lower price range than 30%. The last thing you want to do is buy a beautiful house, and then be so house poor that you have no furniture for it and can no longer afford to enjoy your lifestyle. Remember that just because you are approved for a certain amount, does not mean you have to spend that amount, and there are also additional hidden costs of owning a home, such as repairs, that will need to be budgeted in as well.

Next, let’s talk about who will be living in the home. Do you have children, or are you planning on having children? If not, go

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ahead and skip to the next paragraph. If the answer is yes, however, read on: how many kids do you have/want?

Are you planning on having them share their bedrooms, or will they all need their own rooms, and how much space? In general children’s bedrooms don’t need to be very big, as many parents would prefer that they spend most of their time with the family, but that’s a personal preference. The size of the rooms also depends on the ages of the children, and if there is a dedicated toy room/area in the home – if not then it’s important to account for the space needed for their toys.

How long do you plan on living in this home? If you are planning on living in the home for 5-10 years, it may be acceptable not to have all of the items on your wish list checked off, but if you are planning on retiring in this home, you may choose to be pickier. If you are somebody who greatly enjoys home improvement projects then you can have more wiggle room on this, but if you know that you aren’t the kind of person who is going to want to do any extra work when you’re in your new home, it’s a good idea to look solely for a turn-key ready home.

In that respect, how much maintenance are you realistically willing to keep up with? The amount of cleaning you are willing to do, or willing to fit into your budget to pay somebody else to do, is an important thought to consider when deciding the size of your new home. This applies to your yard as well. It takes time and effort to keep up with a large yard, so if this is not something you want to commit to it may be a good idea to add to your list a smaller yard or extra room in the budget for a landscaper. When you have considered all of these factors, consider the size of the home you are currently living in as a comparison. Then talk it over with your realtor to narrow down a range of square footage that you are comfortable with, and happy hunting!

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Tips on Managing a Corporate Career and a Family

BY TABI FALCONE

Let’s go ahead and start this out with what we all know to be the truth: “Work-Life Balance” is a LIE. That’s right; it’s a big old lie. As much as we would all love to be able to achieve this mythical perfection of being able to equally balance our home lives with our careers, unfortunately, life does not work this way. This myth has been perpetuated since the early days of feminism as a goal for women to reach, and was mistakenly brought from the idea that men had this. There was a belief that they were able to balance their families and careers, when in reality, they were able to balance all of this because they had somebody at home to pick up the slack.

This is absolutely NOT to say that you can’t “do it all” as so many of us strive to do. This merely means that you need to understand that managing a corporate career and a family is more of a juggling act than a perfect balance. The first step to helping you manage this is to start writing out your priorities on a weekly and daily basis. Making reasonable weekly goals can help you center yourself and get a handle on your week, and then by transferring this into a daily priority list, you will help yourself stay organized. There are many great day planners that have formatting for this type of planning, or if you prefer an electronic presence, there are a lot of great apps for your phone that have similar functions.

Make this the first thing you do in the morning when you get into work, and you’ll notice a difference quickly.

Installing a metaphorical “firewall” into your life is a great next step. Logistically, this will look differently for everybody, but a good place to start is to put up your electronic work devices (phone and laptop) as soon as you get home to create a safe zone. Make sure that your coworkers know about this firewall as well, especially if they have your personal cell phone number. It’s absolutely okay to state that while you have no problem with them sending you a funny meme on personal time (depending

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on your relationships with your coworkers of course), you will only discuss shop during business hours. There may, of course, be some exceptions to this, such as pressing deadlines and when you’re traveling for business – or even if you are trying to get ahead so you can leave early for a child’s play at school. The important thing is to make sure you are not available 100% of the time.

This “firewall” naturally leads us to scheduling time out. Schedule time out from both working and from parenting. It’s important to take time to be you, and remember that it’s okay to take time to be yourself even with working full time. You were an entire person with interests and hobbies before you had your children, and you should continue to be that person as a mom. If exercise is something that is important for you, schedule time out in your way to fit that in. Whatever it is that you do that makes you feel like you, whether it be hanging out with friends, reading a book, or just going on a walk alone – make sure to make the time to do it. By scheduling this time on your calendar, you will be forced to actually do it instead of getting to the end of the week and realizing you never had time for yourself.

And remember, this is a constantly changing scale, so it’s okay if some things slide some days. Pick yourself up, remember that you are an amazing mom who is doing amazing things, and use these tips to try again tomorrow.

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The Types of

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Where would our kitchens be without salt? Pretty bland. Salt is a natural food preservative, and it improves flavor. It enhances the sweet and balances the bitter. It’s a small, yet critical, part of almost every recipe in existence. It’s safe to assume all salts are the same, right? Wrong.

Table salt is the most commonly used. In the process of making table salt, though, essential nutrients can be stripped away. Therefore, some table salt manufacturers will add iodide, which helps the thyroid’s production of hormones that regulate the body’s metabolism. Common table salt that has not been enhanced with iodide would be labeled, “Not a source of iodide.”

Kosher salt isn’t necessarily kosher, but is the larger crystal salts that are used to make kosher meats (dry brining). Kosher salt has a more pure flavor than traditional table salt because it hasn’t been stripped of nutrients and does not have any additives. Moreover, the larger crystals actually help cooks ensure better salting than the tiny granules of table salt.

Sea salt is made from evaporated sea water. Many chefs swear by the flavor of sea salt as a vast improvement over table salt. Sea salt has been used for thousands of years in a variety of ways beyond cooking though… For instance, the salt from the Dead Sea (which is one of the saltiest bodies of water in the world), has long been valued for its ability to keep the skin moisturized and eliminate inflammation.

The award for the purest salt in the world goes to Himalayan salt, which comes from the Himalayan Mountains in Pakistan. In terms of flavor, it offers the boldest taste and is a staple in many kitchens. Moreover, this pink salt is bursting with minerals… 84 actually.

The very same 84 natural minerals and elements that are found in the body. As a result, Himalayan salt is used in spa treatments, and many people swear by the benefits of Himalayan salt lamps.

The name Celtic salt would give the impression that it’s from the shores of Ireland, but this grey salt comes from France. It’s a salt with a bit more of a briny taste and is popular for cooking fish and meat.

France also produces the Fleur de Sel salt. It’s quite expensive, as the process for drawing it from the tidal pools in Brittany, France is quite labor intensive.

It’s a finishing salt used to add flavor to any entrée or dessert.

Black Hawaiian salt is, as the name implies, harvested from the Hawaiian Islands.

It’s also known as black lava salt, and the color comes from the addition of activated charcoal. It’s popular for both seafood and pork.

Similarly, Hawaii also harvests a red salt. Red Hawaiian salt is unrefined, and the red comes from volcanic clay. Another popular kitchen salt, it’s frequently used in Hawaiian cuisine and has been long-popular for purification and cleansing.

Pickling salt is a fine salt that easily dissolves in brine. Because it does not have an anticaking ingredient, it has to be kept airtight. While other salts can be used for pickling vegetables, pickling salt is the preference because it does not affect the quality of the pickling due to any additives or iodide.

And that’s just the tip of the salt block! Who knew there were so many differences in salt, right?

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A Weed or Not a Weed

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

“A weed is a plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered.” --Ralph Waldo Emerson In the early summer mornings, one of the most pleasurable sensations is to stride bare-footed across the plush blades of grass.

A sea of green pleases the mind – until an ill-favored sight catches the eye. The plant may possess white or yellow flowers, long spiky green-leaves, extend to great heights, or have jagged or thorny leaves. A plant out of place is the most direct definition one will find. Weeds grow in unwelcomed locations extracting nutrients and other essential vitamins and minerals away from native plants.

Not all, but some, weeds can possess positive attributes and even medicinal benefits.

DANDELION

A sneer may be the first instinct in finding the arrival of dandelions growing throughout your yard. Despite the negative feeling, the dandelion’s leaves, roots, and flowers are edible. In traditional herbal medicinal practices, the plant can treat a myriad of physical ailments, which may include cancer, acne, liver disease, and digestive disorders. The greens, whether cooked or raw, contain vitamins A, C, and K, and include generous amounts of calcium, magnesium, and potassium. In the culinary world, the flower heads improve the flavor when added to soup or sautéed with olive oil. And generations of families annually make batches of Dandelion Wine, and describe the taste similar to drinking the best of summer! Not just for humans, it also is a source of nectar and pollen for honeybees and other beneficial insects!

The dandelion is only one edible weed growing in your yard; perhaps, an introduction to other purposeful plants is necessary.

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Most plants have a recognizable quality. Lamb’s quarters, also termed pigweed, goosefoot, and wild spinach, has a coating on the wedge-shaped leaves, soft as velvet, and light, similar to a powder.

The flowers appear as small dense clusters, arranged in spikes.

Despite the ease and health of the weed, it can grow in locations where there is little dirt. Similar to the taste of spinach and Swiss chard with a slight nutty aftertaste, a one-cup serving offers 10 times the daily recommended dose of vitamin K, three times the dose of vitamin A, and the recommended serving of vitamin C, not to mention that it contains essential beneficial minerals such as calcium, iron, manganese, niacin, potassium, and riboflavin. Simply boil, steam, or sauté until the leaves turn dark-green. The leaves,

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shoots, seeds, and flowers can boost nutrition when added to soups, salads, smoothies, and integrated into meals.

THE PLANTAIN

The appearance is unmistakable. The leaves are either broad or smooth and oval with a center stalk containing seeds from the base to the tip. Although the seeds have nutritional benefits, each blade offers antiseptic properties. The next time you receive a mosquito bite, consider rubbing a crushed leaf on the spot to reduce the itching and redness. The plant also produces mucilage, which is known to heal inflammation in the digestive tract and soothe a sore throat. Never fear, despite the conditions of drought, shade, or flooding conditions, the plantain will thrive and multiply in grasses, ornamental beds, among rocks, and cracks of concrete. You’ll always have an adequate supply!

YARROW

One of your favorite flowers may be a tall and slender plant blooming between April through September, which yields clusters of bright yellow flowers, called golden yarrow. Grown in a wild variety, it has a spectrum of colors: white and cream, pink and red, and multi-colored, too! Whether fresh or dried, the base leaves can be ground into a powder and used to help stop bleeding and heal a wound. Additionally, the leaves add nutrition to a salad, while the flowers are beneficial in teas.

A plant’s primary purpose is survival. Before you purchase an herbicide, remember that some weeds are medicinal, nutritious and edible, valued by young children, and produce pollen for the honeybees. Not all weeds are weeds. Unwelcomed, yes!

Unsightly? Perhaps! But specific plants, although wild, are essential to nature!

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Taking Space

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Over the past few months, I’ve been researching women and space. There’s a pretty big self-help slash self-confidence craze happening right now, and rightly so. It feels as if we’ve hit a moment in time that we as women need to start taking our space and doing it together.

BUT WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, TAKING SPACE?

Women often “play small” – they are either shrinking their bodies (thanks, diet culture), the space their bodies take up that isn’t diet related (thanks, society), or being “nice” in their work, personal and professional lives because research shows that not only do women have to appear confident, competent and nice to be liked and seen as capable, but they also face a phenomenon called the “backlash effect” if they are too confident – or too much – for the person who calls the shots.

My use of person is deliberate: women request this behavior from other women as much as men, and it’s really all exhausting.

Instead of calling it a day and moving to Themyscira to hang with Wonder Woman and the Amazons, we can start taking the space that belongs to us and stepping up in ways that work for us.

1) DEFINE CONFIDENCE FOR YOU

For about a year, I read every single confidence and self-help book I could get my hands on. I was exhausted with all of the expectations everyone else had of me. From manifestation of my confidence in washing my face to saying YES! to everything – there were good and bad parts of each book I read. All of them seemed to be lacking on thing though: what was confidence to me? Because of my background as an improviser, I think I take more risks (not unplanned – always calculated!) than many folks, so I don’t pretend that my confidence looks like everyone else’s.

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That’s the critical point: confidence has to be felt internally, and unfortunately, externally, people can and will judge us. You have to look out for yourself first, though. Take five minutes and either write down or record on your phone what confidence looks and feels like for you.

For example, you might feel confident when you’re taking care of yourself, or when someone compliments you. Don’t base it off someone else, or another person’s ideas.

2) LITTLE CHANGES MAKE RIPPLES

After you understand what makes you feel confident, it’s time to think about doing those things more, and to a higher degree. For example, if you feel confident when you’re taking care of yourself, maybe you start to schedule time every week to just do you: whether that be reading a book, having a meal without your phone or posting that cute selfie.

This conscious effort to add things that make you feel confident is going to increase that confidence, and it will start to bleed over into other areas of your life. Think of a drop in water: it might be tiny, but there are always ripples. What you start doing might feel tiny – but there will be ripples in all areas of your life, even with the smallest change.

3) GET UNCOMFORTABLE

Once you’re comfortable with the little changes, it’s time to get uncomfortable.

Remember that exercise of what makes you confident? Take five minutes and write or record thoughts on where you are playing small – where do you wish you had more confidence?

This isn’t about where someone or something might think you need to be more confident. This is about you and where you want to take up space.

When you have that area or instance, think of step two – little changes make ripples that affect everything. Make a little move and slowly but surely, you’ll get that space that you deserve, because it belongs to you.

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NATIONAL

Give Something Away DAY: J U LY 1 5 , 2 0 1 9

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Don’t you think that as a whole, we’re a generous people? In spite of all the negativity in the news and social media, most people do reach out a helping hand. We donate, contribute, volunteer, or pitch-in where we can. But, sometimes we just need a nudge to get started. Otherwise, those good initiations become elusive and the ‘get around to it’ days end up somewhere off in the future. So . . . . . there’s a day set aside for those situations. And, it’s coming up this month!

National Give Something Away Day --- mark your calendars for July 15 and do what the name says --- give something away.

What can you give away? Anything someone else would appreciate or need or be unable to get for themselves.

Take a look at these suggestions and make plans to join in on

that day. You can post your activity at #givesomethingawayday if you’re so inclined.

Perhaps you see someone every day at your favorite coffee bar. Pick up their tab and let them have a nice surprise when they get ready to head out. Giving without any expectation of a thank you in return can be an exhilarating sensation that does as much for the giver as the one who receives. Jean shared that during lunch several months ago, she paid for two police officers’ meals who happened to be seated nearby. She said that she didn’t look around, just paid her and their tabs at the counter and left.

It was something she’d wanted to do for a long time, and that day was ‘the day.’ “I left feeling good and had a special day, just from being able to fulfill that goal,” Jean shared.

This may seem a lot like the well-known pay-it-forward

concept that’s been around for a while, but just imagine the number of people giving something away on the same day! Now, that’s going to be a special day indeed!

Thinking on a larger scale, what about all those things that are no longer used by anyone in the family: toys kids have outgrown, small appliances you never use, clothes no one wears, projects that never got off the ground, etc. You get the picture. What’s in the way for you may be something that another person/ family would love to have. Toys that still work can be cleaned up and donated to a service organization or given to someone you know with kids younger than yours. We all know that kids seldom wear out their clothes; they outgrow them so fast that some hardly get worn. Give them away to someone else.

And, while we’re thinking about giving something away, let’s not forget those fur babies in rescue centers waiting for their forever homes. Those towels, blankets, or pillows that are in the way would be a cozy place for them to pile up on for a nap. Or, perhaps buy an extra bag of food and donate it to a shelter.

It’s sometimes easier to just make a monetary donation, but think about giving away some of your time volunteering someplace that touches your heart on July 15. Perhaps a soup kitchen, food bank, rescue shelter, donation center --- the list is long and varied. You may find that volunteering enriches your life to the extent you make it a part of your regular routine.

What’s in it for you? A sense of pride that you helped make a difference. July 15 is a designated giveaway day, but it can be any day, anywhere, and anytime. Let’s join in and give something away on July 15!

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Hit a Home Run with Your Celebration

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON, PHOTOS BY STEVEN HARRISON/CHICAGO WHITE SOX There are few things that can add to the fun and excitement of a celebration like a birthday, anniversary, or retirement party, but when you celebrate at a Winston-Salem DASH game, your special day reaches a level of fun you may not have thought was possible!

DOING YOUR PARTY UP RIGHT!

If you want a different way to celebrate your special occasion, the WinstonSalem DASH has party packages available to meet your budget.

“We really strive to accommodate any get together you may have,” said Paul Stephens, Director of Ticket Sales for the Winston-Salem DASH. “Packages start as low as $16 per person, which includes seating for the group, hot dog, chips, drink, and cupcakes by Lowes Foods and DASH hats for the guests.

There’s also a shout-out on the scoreboard during the second inning. This package is popular for kids’ birthday parties. For $24 per person, you get the same food as the $16 package, but also have a suite. Should you be celebrating with a group of kids, this package offers unlimited access to the Kids Zone and the opportunity to play catch in the outfield prior to the game. Then we have our $30 per person package with unlimited food and beverages in a suite that includes a visit from Bolt. This package is popular for adult birthdays, retirement parties and anniversary gatherings, too. We pride ourselves in being able to accommodate any party that you may have. Our space at the park is very workable for whatever your needs are to have the celebration you want.”

Beyond the parties that can be at the ballpark during a game, the DASH also has special events for all guests throughout their season.

FUN TIMES BEGIN AT THE WINSTON-SALEM DASH!

Whether you are celebrating or attending to watch the game, the DASH always has something going on.

“We make sure that all our guests have a great time with a family-friendly atmosphere. Each week we have Thirsty Thursday, not including July 4th, with discounted beer specials, sponsored by Lowes Foods. Our outfield bar is always popular, but on these special days, we have additional bar carts stationed throughout the park. Beers are $2.00 and include Miller Light, Coors Light, Yuengling, and Foothills 1000 Smiles. Each Friday night home game is followed by a fireworks spectacular sponsored by different companies each week. On Saturdays, we have live music and Sundays are family days. Select Saturdays throughout the year we offer a package for $8 per person for a Chick-Fil-a four pack. There’s something for everyone at a DASH game,” Paul commented.

Two Sundays this season are designated as Sippin’ Sundays, offering guests a chance to use their artistic abilities and taste wines from a local winery.

“Sippin’ Sundays are on June 23rd and August 11th this year. Childress Vineyards and Wine & Design are partnering on these days, offering a time of painting a pre-sketched design on a wine glass along with a tasting of wines from Childress Vineyards. Sippin’ Sunday begins with the painting at 1 pm, followed by the 2 pm game. Unlimited food is provided and you also receive a glass of wine to enjoy as you watch the game. Reservations are required for this event, and it is $30 per person,” stated Paul.

Instead of doing the same thing for your next celebration like you always do, think outside of the box and bring your party to a DASH game!

For more information or to schedule an event, call Paul Stephens at 336-714-6878.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Dictionary.com defines “life coach” as “a person who counsels and encourages clients on matters having to do with careers or personal challenges.” The role of a life coach includes helping others set goals, organizing different areas of a person’s life, making a huge change or decision, overcoming a tough challenge, and more. They are there to provide support and accountability during a time of improvement in a person’s life. Most of the time, people turn to a professional life coach for assistance. Yet, did you know you can be your own life coach, also known as a self-coaching, and assist yourself in these same situations as a life coach would?

recommends using a scale of zero to ten and rate your quality of life daily. Ten is super happy and zero is miserable. In the same article, she says, “The purpose is to look back and see what you were doing on the days you felt bad. It’s a way of looking at: where did my happiness go? Where did I find joy?”

According to professional experts, self-coaching occurs when you apply the same techniques as a life coach would to your own life and do it yourself. It is important to understand that determination and dedication are needed to self-coach. As a teacher, I encourage my students to use a growth mindset.

This type of thinking means a person’s abilities, goals, and skills can be developed and accomplished through dedication and hard work. It is a mindset that energizes people to never give up and stay positive. When a person self-coaches, having a growth mindset is a must and a basis for it all. Along with the support of using a growth mindset, a life coach can provide timeliness, accountability, and motivation. All of which a person can provide for themselves.

Anyone can be a life coach for their own lives. Through using the techniques of self-coaching, you can be on the way to a better and happier you. Plus, you’ll feel empowered for accomplishing goals you might have been putting on the back burner for a long time.

One of the hardest things can be deciding when to start something new or make a change. Think about the situation and what you are changing or working towards. Did you receive a promotion or new job offer?

Are you wanting to lose weight? Then, ask yourself: are you anxious, depressed, or restless about a certain part of your life? Are you ready for something new? Will this make you a better person? Honestly answering these questions can signify to you whether you are ready or not to self-coach.

Now that you have decided the time is right, try to focus on only one aspect of your life at a time. Go back to your answers for the questions above and think about the situation to which they applied. Was it for your career, health, finances, etc.? Sometimes it is not possible to focus on only one area. If this is the case, break your actions for the different areas into small steps and complete one at a time. Martha Beck, a professional life coach, states in the article, “Tips from the Pros: How to Be Your Own Life Coach,” to start with the “area of least satisfaction. If a person has a good life, but there are some things that aren’t great, work on the stuff that’s not great. If you have a terrible life, work on what’s most terrible.” Then, turn your area for improvement into a goal with a timeline.

According to Doctor David Rock, author of Your Brain at Work, goals should be short and able to be stated in three to seven words. As for the timeline, the goals should be approachable, achievable, and realistic. For instance, if your goal is to lose 10 pounds, consider how much time you realistically need to accomplish it. However, don’t be too hard on yourself if you need to make a change here or there. Just don’t stray too far off track. A way to hold yourself accountable with your goals is by using a journal. Write down everything you do each day that pertains to that goal – good and bad. In addition, use your journal to rate your “quality of life” as you are working towards something. Beck

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Lastly, be sure to use a growth mindset and change how you think about your goal. Instead of thinking that you have to do something, think about it in terms that you get to do something.

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Time in the kitchen to prepare and cook, clean-up, and wipe down countertops, fill, set, and empty the dishwasher is one of the ritualistic ceremonies of adulthood.

In establishing personal rules of kitchen preparation and organization, everyone has their methods; yet, the need for advice to make the hours in the kitchen few in number and count is always welcome!

PREPARATION TIPS:

Read the Recipe Thoroughly: Sounds logical; however, too often, only the ingredient list is the test for following a recipe. By taking just a few minutes, you’ll save stress in understanding the order of steps and combining tasks and reusing tools. It may prevent you from making an irreversible mistake.

Medium Bowl and Cutting Board: Cutting, slicing, or

peeling vegetables, toss all of your compostable goods in a bowl to eliminate the back and forth effort of using a trash can; afterward, use the compostable items to enhance the quality of your soil. Dig a six inch by fiveinch trench in your garden, and cover with earth when it reaches the surface.

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Kitchen Preparation & Organization Made Easy!

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Grating Butter: Eliminate the frustration of working with butter by freezing it first; then, grating. Simplify your efforts by adding flakes of butter to flour, baking mixes, or pizzazz meals and use it as a topping.

Peeling Tomatoes: Slice the top off of a

fresh tomato; then, score an “X” at the bottom.

Add to boiling water for 10 seconds. Remove, and peel when the fruit is cool to handle.

Reduce Snacking Tendencies: As you are

preparing a meal, slice up an apple or place a small bowl of grapes on the kitchen counter, and term it an “appetizer!” Ah, add a carafe of lemonade or water with cucumber and a few tumblers on a tray. Preparing food choices and a beverage can help ease the demands of starvation!

Say Yes to Acids! One squeeze of

lemon juice added to sautéed vegetables boosts coloring. A dash of soy sauce to mushrooms improves the taste. Likewise, a few tablespoons of vinegar to soup or stew may alter thickness to flavorful. Start keeping lemons and limes, and various types of vinegar on hand.

Fresh Herbs: To extend the life of fresh picked or store-bought herbs, treat them similar to flowers. Place the herbs in a container with water and drape a damp paper towel over the leaves. Refrigerate. You may end up with roots. Better to have a plant than compost!

Freezer Packs: While the plastic frozen block is convenient, it also can weigh a bag down; therefore, use a plastic bag of frozen grapes!

ORGANIZATIONAL TIPS:

Are Small Appliances Taking Over? It happens, we are in love with the newest and latest gadget. Yes, everyone needs a crockpot and an immersion blender. Many appliances only serve one purpose. Time to reduce your numbers!

Magnetic Strips: Hang knives on a

magnetic strip tacked to the backsplash in an easy-to-reach location; yet, away from young children.

Too Many Measuring Cups, Assign Task: One educational activity for children is to give them all of your measuring cups, and assign the task of determining which set of cups are accurate. In future baking endeavors, you will likely favor just one grouping, or consider the reliability of using a digital scale!

Save Freezer Space: Think about the ease of use, first; therefore, consider convenient portion sizes such as an ice-cube tray or a Ziploc plastic bag. Efficiency matters with items such as chicken stock, stews, and ground beef. Use a cookie sheet to develop the mold.

The Bottom Shelf for Kids: Whether it is a pull-out drawer in the cabinet or pie-safe or the bottom shelf of the refrigerator, give the kids an opportunity to reach a healthy snack.

Subtracting time with handy tips for the most demanding room in the house, the kitchen, can make all the difference, especially when there is a keen desire to enjoy company or sit and relax!

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Scottish Fare and Festival

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Say the word highlanders and the majority of people will know you mean Scottish folk. Tracing back to the eighteenth century, the largest concentration of immigrant Scots relocated to the mountains of North Carolina. At that time, the treacherous, wilderness territory with ample rains, mountains, and beautiful vistas could rival the homeland, at least in some aspects. The hog and hominy diet comprised of the simplistic and inexpensive fare of pork and corn-based meals. Call it comfort food or a treasured-dish not typically found today. Scottish fare is not a new concoction. Many of the meals, desserts, and appetizers comprise similar ingredients with a unique name. Whether you dine in a Scottishthemed restaurant or visit the annual gatherings of the Highland Games, you’ll certainly find amazing flavors, great spices, and a feeling of comfort will with every bite.

and one tablespoon of Worcestershire sauce. Once the concoction boils, add the Bouquet Garni. Reduce to low heat, cover with a lid, and allow to simmer for three hours. Afterward, discard the cheesecloth bundle, skim the clear fat from the surface, and set a plate to serve.

Scotch Eggs: Oddly enough, Scotch eggs have nothing to do with Scottish fare or Scotland, but their nutritional value and portability aided their arrival as an economical and straightforward lunch derived from leftovers. By the 18th century, Scottish folk ate the British, or perhaps Indian, inspired treat. Similar to the meat-pastry or Bridie, the Scotch egg consists of a hard-boiled egg, wrapped in sausage meat, coated in bread crumbs, and either deep-fried or baked. Ah, and do not forget to add a pinch of cayenne pepper! Delicious!

SHEPHERD’S PIE

Before the well-known classic meal Shepherd’s pie arrived in the early 18th century, the most affordable crop of the cottage folk was potatoes and beef. While the recipe has many variations, the ingredients offer a delicious flavoring of meat, spices, and vegetables covered with mashed potatoes. A meal that well-defined comfort!

BRIDIES

Typically, bridies were a traveling food comprised of a flaky pastry, either formed in a semi-circle or triangular, and filled with beef and onions. The name Bridie derived from a traveling food seller named Maggie Bridie, who was the first to sell hot, savory pies.

RAGOO’D PORK

During the 18th century, every person consumed at least five pounds of pork for every pound of beef. One meal called “Ragoo,” made from boneless pork shoulder, added spices to mean, “revive the taste.”

Recipe: Using four pounds of boneless pork shoulder, cut into six pieces. Dredge in flour, salt, and pepper mixture and fry in butter until brown on-all-sides; then, tie two bay leaves, one sprig of rosemary, two thyme springs, and two thin strips of lemon zest into cheesecloth and tie with a string. Returning to the resting pork shoulder, sauté one large sliced onion. Add one tablespoon tomato paste, stir, and one cup of red wine. After a minute, add one cup chicken stock, three cloves of garlic,

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JOIN THE SCOTS JULY 11TH-14TH

The traditional pilgrimage to the mountains near Linville, North Carolina to reconnect with kith and kin occurs every second Thursday through Sunday in July at MacRae Field on Grandfather Mountain. The annual pilgrimage begins Thursday night with the bagpiper’s calling of the clans to allow the gathering to begin! Generations of families attend the Scottish Highland Games to promote the tradition of culture. While there are impressive athletic competitions, opportunities to experience traditional dancing, piping, and drumming, and to experience a wide range of traditional Scottish fare, the Scottish Highland Games emphasizes the belief that today’s children are tomorrow’s future!

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Are Thank You Cards a Lost Art? (And Other Things That Have Your Mother Questioning If the World has Gone Crazy)

BY TARYN JEREZ

My baby niece, the first of the greatgrandchildren, in a large collection of grandkids, was circled by presents as she sat on my sister’s lap ready to experience her first birthday party. Amidst the bags and boxes with bows larger than her little head were two family members holding large garbage bags at the ready. I had my camera in hand prepared to capture each silly expression as she saw what each person had gifted her. It seemed that all systems were go for “present time” as my family affectionately called it.

to the spike of food allergies such as gluten and peanut, schools now have rules around what parents can bring into the classroom. Specifically, parents are no longer competing to be the Betty Crockers or Martha Stewarts of their child’s classroom with only prepackaged, store-bought items allowed. To the generations of mothers who slaved away baking the perfect cupcakes to celebrate little Jimmy’s birthday, I’m sure this is a travesty!

ACCORDING TO MY MOTHER, HOWEVER, SOMETHING WAS MISSING.

When losing a loved one, the mourning period often can be reflected in the clothing worn by the family. In many cultures, funeral garments were typically black, dark navy or gray until more recent generations began reimagining traditional funerals as “celebrations of life.” With this, a change of attire was brought on. Bright colors like yellow, blue, red and orange can now easily be spotted at services and for some, this has taken some getting used to.

“Who has a pen? Where’s a notebook?” she yelled out as she made her way into the kitchen searching for her purse. After a few seconds, she re-joined us with the writing tools in her hand and gave us permission to continue as we all rolled our eyes. She looked around in shock and said, “You were going to let her open gifts before I had a chance to write who got her what! You’ll need this for the thank you cards!”

How could we forget about thank you cards? Maybe because this tradition is one kept alive by women like my mother, which in turn has become women like my sister and myself. Yet, we live in a time where the many traditions have gone out the window or been reimagined altogether, leaving some to think the world has simply gone crazy!

WRITING THANK YOU CARDS

When someone goes out of their way to show you an act of kindness or bring you a gift, a thank you card has traditionally been a great way to acknowledge their gesture.

In fact, many households had personalized stationery in a drawer at all times for this exact purpose. While this tradition is still one followed by many people, it’s definitely not as commonly practiced.

With technology at our fingertips, many people will send a quick text message of appreciation or drop an email into the generous person’s inbox as a way of thanks.

BAKING FOR YOUR CHILD’S BIRTHDAY AT SCHOOL

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WEARING BLACK AT FUNERALS

WELCOMING NEW NEIGHBORS

Your mother or grandmother may have moved into a new neighborhood and experienced a more “Leave it to Beaver” form of welcome than you’re used to. A knock on the door after moving in often resulted in a freshly baked pie or a basket of muffins brought from a new neighbor.

Sometimes a card saying, “Welcome to the neighborhood!” would arrive following the family’s move in. While many new neighbors still experience a nice introduction or warm smile and wave from the people across the street for instance, the added gesture and personalization is not as common.

MAILING INVITATIONS FOR EVENTS

Baby’s first birthday or son’s graduation coming up? Finding the perfect invitations to send and coordinating stamps would be on your party checklist. You can now add stationery to the ever growing list of industries that millennials are being blamed for killing.

Facebook invites, wedding websites, and group texts have taken the place of traditional invitations for many people. Who needs to spend an extra dollar per guest on RSVP cards when they can mark their attendance by going online?

GIRLS ONLY BRIDAL AND BABY SHOWERS

The “no boys allowed” sign is coming off of what was commonly known as “girls only” celebrations. A new, more inclusive and less traditional generation invented “Jack & Jill” showers where a mix of genders are in attendance. Bridal showers can be replaced with a “His & Her” shower, embracing a shindig that allows the bride and groom to celebrate together with their friends and family. Baby shower themes like “Brews and Baby-Q” allow the mommy-and-daddy-to-be to be showered together in love and gifts for their bundle of joy.

We can all agree that the world is changing at an alarming rate, especially when we compare it to the one our parents remember growing up in. When it comes to things like etiquette and traditions, we are the ones who are in control of just how fast these changes are made in our lives, if at all. Don’t be too quick to dismiss the ones that help you feel connected to your upbringing or your personal style and flair. If my own mother has taught me anything, it’s that everything old comes back again; from bell bottom jeans to wedding trends. Some of these old ways may soon make a comeback and until then, decide which ones you’re happy to say goodbye to and hold onto the ones that feel right.

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Diverse Dance: A Movement Medley

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Celebrate National Dance Day on the last Saturday of July – July 27, 2019!

This special day was founded by Nigel Lythgoe, the co-creator of So You Think You Can Dance and co-president of the Dizzy Feet Foundation.

WHY DANCE?

Ever tried dance? It’s time to get moving! With so many different kinds of dance – from ballet to belly dance – try a healthy variety and stick with your favorite(s). Not only will you get a good workout, you will have fun along the way and may make some new friends.

TAP - Rhythmic dance and performing art with theatrical roots are especially popular on Broadway, classic musicals, and old films. Foot movements may include shuffling, chugging, scooping, and brushing in different patterns.

Dancing can be an exciting social experience.

Meet new people and bond with them in your dance class or event. And enjoy dancing at almost any age. Enroll your toddler in creative movement classes or your grandparents in social dancing classes and events. Dare to be a dancer. You will learn and practice new skills that will keep you challenged as you explore a new vocabulary and way of thinking and moving, which is a lot like learning another language.

ETHNIC DANCE - Rich roots of dance are worldwide and many cultures express themselves through movement. Explore Indian classical dance, Chinese fan dance, African dance, Latin dance, Irish dance, and many other types of dance from different areas of the world.

WHAT KINDS OF DANCE?

SOCIAL DANCE - Grab a partner and have fun with

Can’t choose just one? Go for a dance medley.

But first, start with ballet…

BALLET - Known as the backbone

of dance, learning the basics of ballet can provide an ideal foundation to branch out into other forms of dance.

Find your core and get more centered, adopt the grace and fluidity that’s unique to ballet, and develop a framework to build on.

Ballet combines technique with artistry and athleticism. Whether you’re a newbie or a professional, take ballet on a regular basis to stay sharp mentally and to stay in shape physically. The more advanced ballet dancer can take pointe classes (12 years old or older) and will be challenged dancing with a partner in pas de deux classes.

MODERN/CONTEMPORARY - Modern dance tends to be

more free-form and abstract, whereas contemporary dance combines movements from various styles of ballet, modern, jazz, and hiphop.

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HIP-HOP/JAZZ - Both styles emerged from American and African-American culture. Jazz began in the 1920s, whereas hip-hop came about in the 1970s, gaining popularity with street dance. Michael Jackson’s moon-walking is a jazz technique, whereas pop-locking, freestyle, and break dancing belong to hip-hop.

ballroom, foxtrot, country western, contra dance, swing, folk, Latin, salsa/bachata, and tango.

DANCE FITNESS - Have fun and get fit! Pick up the pace, get your heart rate up, and burn calories with aerobic dance fitness classes you can take at your local gym or online. Try belly dance, Zumba, and cardio dance.

IMPROVISATION - Spontaneously creating and exploring movement is an exciting way to express yourself artistically. Challenge yourself to be different and dynamic with lots of level changes. Try moving from floor work to turns and jumps. Stay mindfully present as you freely exercise your mind and body.

CHOREOGRAPHY - Enjoy the challenge of learning, memorizing, practicing, and even performing a designed dance, known as dance composition. Whether it’s your own choreography or that of a choreographer’s, focus on details and patterns you link together seamlessly as you dance.

Want to know and grow outside of your dance class or event? Do a search on YouTube.com for dance tutorials and instruction in any form of dance, and go at your own pace. Learn and grow by leaps and bounds!

And remember to move through that space with a smile on your face. Dance isn’t just for the elite. You may think you have two left feet, but you can always move to the beat!

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

How to Motivate the Heck Out of Yourself This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Let’s get real – motivation comes in waves. There are days where you are fueled by the mere thought of success and reaching your goals, and somehow the next 24 hours can have you feeling like curling up in a ball doing nothing, with motivation nowhere in sight.

When you’re running a business, you often have to wear a lot of different hats, and “cheerleader” is definitely one of them! Of course you want to do your best and push yourself forward in your business but honestly, it’s not always that easy. Life happens, and even entrepreneurship, with its ups and downs can get a little monotonous at times, making it difficult to keep that motivation and momentum going strong.

Over the last five years of running my business, I’ve found that in those hot and cold moments, there are steps I can take that help me rise up in my business and put the pedal to the metal – metaphorically speaking of course (I’m a creative business coach, not a NASCAR driver!).

If you ride the struggle bus to motivation sometimes, here are a few things you can do to help pick up your pom-poms and cheer yourself on to meet those incredible goals you have for your business.

CREATE A ROUTINE AND EMBRACE IT

The term “creature of habit” is actually one we should all aspire to be. The days where you don’t feel like getting things done, or you can identify procrastination taking over, how you set your day up may be one of the factors. When we don’t have a routine in place for how we tackle our work, there is too much room for interpretation on when and how we will actually get things accomplished. Once you decide to set up a routine, think back to the days or weeks where you felt like you were unstoppable! What do you think made the difference?

Did you wake up early and get right to work in your office or did you do a yoga class first and work from a coffee shop all day? Are you someone who needs to have time to work without interruption and then have meetings stacked together? Think about what type of flow helps you be your most productive and try to create a routine around that. Try it out and see how your motivation to tackle the day changes!

SHIFT GEARS AND REDIRECT YOUR ENERGY

Do you ever sit at your computer with the cursor blinking back at you and the clock moving forward faster than you thought possible?

When we force ourselves to work on something past the initial moment of feeling lost or uninspired, we definitely don’t create our best work. In fact, the most helpful thing to do in that moment is to shift gears entirely. Close out what you are working on and go to the next task on your list or move away from what you’re doing entirely. Compare yourself to a young child sitting all day in a classroom without ever going to recess or gym class. Your energy and focus would start to diminish without that break in between. It allows students to come back refreshed and ready to get back to work. As adults, we need that same redirection sometimes!

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KEEP A RAINY DAY FILE NEARBY

One of the best pieces of advice I received from a friend was to create a “rainy day” folder in my email inbox. If you’re unfamiliar, this folder is meant to be a place where you can store those emails and sweet messages of encouragement, praise, and rockstar moments in your inbox. It could be a review from a client, a thank you from a friend, or anything that makes you smile and reminds you that you’re doing amazing things!

Life can get a little hectic to say the least, especially when you’re juggling all the normal aspects of adult life and running a business. Sometimes the motivation we need is hidden in those sweet reminders. I’ve kept my own folder and have had plenty of days where what I needed to feel my most motivated was to read just a few of those emails. Challenge yourself to create one of your own today!

REMIND YOURSELF WHY YOU STARTED

When you first create a brand, one of the factors that people concentrate on first is typically curating their brand’s mission or vision, and they have to really think about the “Why” behind their business. Long after they launch and the reality of working in their business takes over, that “Why” can be something that just gets left typed up on a page somewhere. One of my biggest weapons against feeling unmotivated is remembering my “Why.” Write your “Why” down somewhere you can see every day: inside your planner, a post-it at your desk, or on your bathroom mirror. When all else fails to motivate you, pause, and remember why you started in the first place!

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BY DAVE MCCONNELL

BAD HABITS THAT AFFECT YOUR HEALTH In my recent articles, I wrote about things we can do in our lives that have a positive impact on our health. With the “Do’s” hopefully still fresh in our mind I’m going to now put up my “Don’t’s” that I believe to have the most negative effects on our long term health.

In 1964 the Surgeon General put a warning on cigarette packs that smoking can be detrimental to your health. The tobacco companies, just like the one in our county, were very powerful and influential companies. To be able to make such a statement on the product of these companies goes to show the serious risk one was taking when they smoked. Fiftyfive years later, these risks have not changed.

Cigarette smoking has so many negative side effects on acute and chronic health that it needs to be at the top of all our lists of habits we shouldn’t do. E-cigarettes have been a so-called healthy alternative to smoking; however, several studies I’ve read

about link using e-cigarettes to a high risk of depression and heart disease. The best choice for your health is, if you put something in your mouth, you shouldn’t have to add fire to make it enjoyable.

Next, on the don’t list is drinking high sugar beverages. Recent studies are now becoming more consistent and conclusive that sugar-sweetened beverages can influence kidney disease risk. While further research is necessary to comprehensively evaluate all types of beverages in association with kidney disease risk, there’s little doubt that drinking water would not only be healthier but could also initiate losing a few unwanted pounds.

Not getting enough sleep is another no-no on my list. Poor sleep has been linked to heartrelated deaths, but the impact it can have on how long we go about our daily lives can also be significant. Some sleep problems are severe enough that medical attention is required, but for many of us living in today’s world it all comes down to what’s going on in our mind when we decide it’s time to shut down for the day. After a car crash that nearly took my life when I was in my early 40s, I made a promise to myself to be thankful for every day and not let the little stressors in life get to me. I put my life into God’s hands on that day, and after he brought me through that, I realized there wasn’t a problem or issue I faced that was worth taking to bed at night. I sleep like a baby and wake up feeling like a million dollars! Get your rest and you will, too.

Don’t spend the majority of your day with your head looking down at your computer or phone. There are those that might find it necessary due to their jobs, and while there may be some chronic health issues associated with constant screen watching (such as neck pain), this is not what

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I’m referring to. The rise of the smartphone has completely changed the way we live. The younger generations have become addicted to social media, games, and the many other things they do on their phones. Every time I go out to eat, I watch parents with children pull out their smartphones and neglect the little family time we seem to have. Now you might not think this is a health risk, but there, too, you may be wrong. Studies suggest too much screen time could trigger insomnia and depression. It’s also highly likely that if you do have this addiction, there’s probably going to be use while driving, working, and other times that put you at risk.

In conclusion, I do want you to understand that while this list is somewhat my opinion, I am constantly reading up on the most recent research done in all areas of health. This, along with 60 years of living and watching the changes throughout my lifetime, has allowed me to form reasonable opinions that I would ask you to think about.

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AMY JORDAN

Amy Jordan has been appointed to Executive Director for the Sawtooth School for Visual Art, a non-profit community art school. She has served in the role of interim executive director for the past three months, and before that, she served as the vice president of arts and innovation and in other roles at Sawtooth for seven years. Amy is credited with establishing new programs, reinvigorating others and opening new studios for printmaking and textiles at Sawtooth. She has a bachelor’s degree in fine arts from Salem College, and she developed Sawtooth’s Art and Wellness program, which uses visual arts to help oncology patients and their caregivers cope with stress and complex issues. “I’m so excited to lead an arts organization that has had such a profound impact on my life,” she said. “Sawtooth turns 75 next year, and my goal is simple: to work with our talented board and staff so that we can continue to provide outstanding arts and crafts instruction and inspire creativity in our community.”

SHANNON HODGE

Shannon Hodge is the newest addition to the Nitsa’s Apparel family. We welcome her as the manager of the SkinCare Boutique @Nitsa’s and the lead esthetician providing all facial, waxing and makeup services. Shannon is an Aveda-trained expert and has used her holistic education to educate and guide her clients to healthier choices as they care for their skin. She has a keen eye for spotting what her clients need and is always ready to provide suggestions or advice. However, her priority is to listen, serve and help each and every client feel and be beautiful. Shannon struggled for most her young adult life with acne and has a compassion and understanding when it comes to skin frustrations. She firmly believes in exhausting all organic options to mend troubled skin and using medications as a last resort. Shannon uses Eminence Organics in The SkinCare Boutique @Nitsa’s and is proud to offer their award-winning formulations as the only Eminence Spa in Winston-Salem. If you have a lack of confidence because of your skin or know a teen with acne issues, Shannon would love to talk to you! In her spare time, Shannon loves to travel with her fiancé and snuggle with her pups, Chuck and Ellie. She enjoys cooking for friends and being with family.

NANCY MARSHALL

Nancy Marshall takes pride in her diligence to market and sell properties believing the extra steps that she adds in her real estate research and counseling is a great value to her clients. Nancy’s strength is that she pays attention to the smallest details yet sees the “big picture.” Then, given a clear idea of their choices, her clients can make effective decisions. She enthusiastically applies her talents to assisting her clients in purchasing their special property as well as in marketing properties for quick, uncomplicated sales. Nancy enjoys solid credentials with a real estate history of more than 30 years. Besides in-depth experience in residential brokerage and relocation services in Winston-Salem and Hilton Head Island, SC, she also has a history in municipal government as an elected Bermuda Run Town Councilwoman and as a member of the Grievance Committee for South Carolina Association of Realtors, a state board dedicated to enforcing the REALTOR® Code of Ethics. Prior to residential brokerage experience, Nancy formed a solid real estate development practice with companies including General Mills (San Francisco), The Great Atlantic & Pacific Tea Co. ‘A&P Foods’ (Chicago) and Dunkin’ Donuts (Chicago) within their real estate divisions.

A recent move has brought Nancy back full circle once again to Winston-Salem and into real estate joining leading independent brokerage, Leonard, Ryden, Burr. In her spare time, Nancy enjoys spending creative cooking time with friends and family often with interesting results! And, to keep the balance she has kept a serious commitment to maintain a fit and healthy lifestyle.

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LAUREN SEPHTON

Lauren Sephton is currently a Junior in Liberty University’s online program studying digital marketing/advertising and creative writing and has been named to the Dean’s List. In the past year, she has self-published her first cookbook (Farmers Market to Family Gatherings), established her blog and is anticipating the August, 2019 release of her first app, “Farmnic,” that will include healthy lunchbox recipes for all ages.

Lauren is a self-taught baker who is in love with the idea of creating recipes that inspire others in the kitchen. Lauren founded ABrightMoment.com blog to assist with her cookbook in hopes that it will help save a little time for those with busy schedules including parents, college students and anyone that needs a tasty and health-minded recipe after a busy day. Lauren believes each of us has a choice to make a positive impact in someone’s life. Lauren is hoping her new Farmnic app with 40+ yummy lunchbox recipes will release in August, 2019. Farmnic comes from her childhood memories of thoughtful lunches, picnics and picking fresh produce from local farms. For more details, visit abrightmoment.com.

AUSTEN COATS

Fleet Feet Winston-Salem is excited to welcome Austen Coats, a native of the Triad, as its new Training Program Coach. Austen is a recent graduate of Charleston Southern University where she earned a Bachelor of Science degree in kinesiology. She brings her passion for fitness to Fleet Feet Winston-Salem in its 14th year of offering training programs. Fleet Feet’s mission is clear: “We stand by our mission to create. To create a work environment that enables healthy, balanced lifestyles. To create a comfortable shopping experience that inspires others. To create a catalytic engine for community improvement and inspiring others to live fit. To create a family owned business based on Christian values.” Austen will be a great addition to the team, and the staff is very excited to welcome her and continue that mission!

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Faith McKnight is the owner of the Sweet Truth Bakery and Catering, a certified home bakery located in the Boston Thurmond area. Faith was born in Mt. Vernon and came to North Carolina at the age of 12. Her dad was from Thomasville, and she picked up her baking skills from him as well as her great grandmother who owned a bakery in Birmingham, Alabama. Faith offers custom products that the big-name bakeries don’t, featuring cake pops and specialty cupcakes baked to order. She also delivers. Faith credits her family as her biggest motivator, and she hopes to one day open a storefront.

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Classic Dutch Baby

BY SARA WILES

Imagine a large, fluffy pancake for breakfast, lunch, dinner or dessert.

It comes together in about five minutes and can easily impress (and feed!) a crowd. Season with cinnamon and vanilla for a classic taste or add Nutella and whipped cream for a late night sweet treat. This pancake variety may become a new staple in your recipe arsenal if you choose!

INGREDIENTS 3 eggs ½ cup all-purpose flour ½ cup milk 1 tablespoon sugar Pinch of cinnamon 4 tablespoons butter Syrup, confectioner’s sugar, lemon curd or cinnamon sugar

DIRECTIONS Preheat oven to 425 degrees.

Combine eggs, milk, flour, sugar and cinnamon into a blender and blend until smooth. **Note that batter can be mixed by hand but best results are achieved with a blender Place butter into a heavy 10-inch skillet or baking dish and place in preheated oven. As soon as the butter has melted, add batter to pan. Return pan to the oven and bake for 20 minutes until the pancake has puffed and is golden brown. Lower oven to 300 degrees and bake five minutes longer.

Remove pancake from oven, cut into wedges and serve once topped with desired toppings, such as syrup, preserves, lemon curd or fresh fruit.

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All About Al Dente

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

When it comes to pasta, nothing can be more of a dish-killer than limp, lackluster and lifeless spaghetti, angel hair, penne - you name it! As a general rule of thumb with cooking, timing is everything!

A pasta dish that is palette pleasing is neither undercooked nor overcooked.

Get the timing off and you could be eating blah noodles you can’t even redeem with garlic and butter. So, set the standard of your home Italian cooking to ideal. Here are some tips, tricks, and tidbits for awesomely al dente pasta that’s just the right amount of firm with a textural treat.

ALL FOR AL DENTE

Al dente translates as “to the tooth” in Italian, giving pasta a soft chewiness rather than going mushy and limp with each bite. Eating al dente pasta even has health benefits since firmer pasta takes longer to break down the carbohydrates, resulting in more balanced blood sugar levels. You end up feeling fuller faster so you might have less of a tendency to overeat.

PASTA’S MANY FORMS

Pasta is diverse and comes in many types, including: spaghetti, ravioli, angel hair, penne, vermicelli, macaroni, manicotti, mafalda, rotini, rigatoni, rotelle, tagliatelle, tortellini, fettuccine, bucatini, fusilli, orecchiette, farfalle, farfalline, fideo, fuselli, agnolotti, cavatelli, cavatappi, capellini, ziti, and many others.

It’s estimated that there are over 350 types of pasta, each with its own size, shape, and texture, but if you’re only familiar with the first few names on the list you can still make a perfectly cooked pasta meal!

AL DENTE TIPS, TRICKS & TIDBITS

Use a large pot: Make sure you have enough water in your pot and that your pot is big enough for the water and pasta. Aim to use a large pot and four quarts of water per

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pound of pasta as a general rule. Pasta needs plenty of room to move around while cooking, and a too-small pot clumps the noodles together and leaves them gummy.

Add salt: Once the water is boiling, add sea salt. There are differing opinions, but most experts agree that salting water so it “tastes like the sea” is essential for great tasting pasta.

Remember, after the water is drained away, the pasta retains only a small fraction of salt. One tried and true magic formula for cooking one pound of pasta in four quarts of water is to add one tablespoon sea salt for a perfectly seasoned pasta dish.

Don’t add oil: Don’t add oil to your pot of water! Some people think oil helps keep the pasta from sticking, but oil prevents the sauce from sticking to the pasta and makes the dish less flavorful.

Add pasta and stir: After the salted water is at a full boil, add the pasta. Let the noodles sink slowly into the water and stir for the first few minutes so the noodles don’t clump and stick together, but you only need to stir occasionally after that.

Taste test the texture: Note the cooking time listed on the package, but remember those times are approximate. To be sure your pasta is cooked al dente, you’ll want to be a taste-test texturechecker. Lift out a noodle from time to time as the pasta cooks and bite it. The pasta should be soft enough to bite, but not crunchy. If it’s crunchy, it’s still uncooked. If you look closely at the noodle, you’ll see a lighter spot in the very center and that tells you the pasta is perfectly al dente.

Drain, don’t rinse: When you know your pasta is sufficiently al dente by trying a noodle, bring to the sink to drain immediately. There’s a lot of debate about this, but don’t rinse your pasta unless you are making a cold pasta salad. You’ll wash away the flavor, nutrients, and starch that the sauce needs to stick to.

Shortly after serving, it’s time to mangiamo!

(Italian for “eat up”). Dress your ah-mazingly al dente pasta up and enjoy!

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WritersDelicious WhoCookbooks Read

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

There are many benefits that come with summer: warmer temperatures, longer days, and more time outdoors. For most people, summer also includes having BBQs, cookouts, and eating outdoors. However, it can be tough to create a diverse menu for your summer event when the usual dishes are hamburgers, hot dogs, potato salad, and more.

For July’s “Writers Who Read,” I’m focusing on some of my favorite cookbooks to help you branch out on your menus.

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Based on the popular Food Network show, The Pioneer Woman, cook Ree Drummond gives readers 125 dinnertime recipes that are simple, quick, and enjoyable for the whole family. According to the cookbook, it answers the “age-old question-what’s for dinner?” Within the recipes, Drummond includes meals that are classic comfort, 16-minute meals, freezer-friendly foods, soups, main dishes, salads, and breakfast meals for dinner. The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Dinnertime is perfect for any person or family. Some of my favorite meals are Salisbury Steak, Oven Barbecue Chicken, and the Beef Stroganoff. Plus, Drummond offers tasty desserts to conclude any evening meal. Lastly, the cookbook includes photos, beloved stories, and a colorful layout. What more could you want?

During the summer, I like to get lighter, smaller meals. There is just something about a heavy meal during the hot, summer months that doesn’t sit right. Lisa Lillien, the founder of hungrygirl.com, helps readers enjoy delicious dishes, while also watching their calories. The cookbook is divided into various chapters, such as Hungry Girl Staples, Morning Minis, Dip It Good, Mini Meal Mania, and Scoopable Salads. Step by step instructions are given for each recipe. Just a few examples of some of the dishes offered: Cheesy-Good Cornbread Muffins, Cheeseburger Lettuce Cups, Chocolate Chip Cookie Crisps Pudding Shake, Holy Moly Guacamole, and Hot Boneless Buffalo Wings. Hungry Girl 200 under 200 is a great cookbook to use if you are hosting a summertime party or taking an appetizer, dish, etc. to a family or friends’ event!

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THE LADY & SONS SAVANNAH COUNTRY COOKBOOK COLLECTION

by Paula Deen

This cookbook is an oldie, but a goodie. Based off recipes from her restaurant, The Lady and Sons, in Savannah, Georgia, cook Paula Deen creates two family-friendly cookbooks with hundreds of easy dishes, The Lady & Sons Savannah Country Cookbook (Deen’s first and best-selling cookbook) and The Lady and Sons, Too! Together, these cookbooks consist of mouth-watering recipes that are quick and easy to make for any occasion. Some of the dishes include Chicken and Waffles, Oven-Fried Catfish, Sweet Blueberry Cornbread, and many desserts. One of my all-time favorite recipes from the collection is the Ooey Gooey Butter Cakes. This dessert is rich and decadent. Plus, it can be made in different flavors, such as vanilla, chocolate, etc. Trust me, this is one recipe you can’t and don’t want to resist!

I’m a foodie and I love to eat. These are just a sampling of cookbooks I love to use, not just during the summer, but throughout the entire year.

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Safe Cosmetics

BY JAMIE LOBER

Consumers are paying more attention to labels and what they put on their skin, hair, and faces. The best shopper is a smart shopper. Most women will go to great lengths to get glowing, radiant skin, but should never sacrifice their health or safety.

Fortunately, there are actions you can take that will make a difference.

The Campaign for Safe Cosmetics has some basic guidelines to help you stay away from hazardous chemicals that could be hiding in your products. The main thing to recognize is that the shortest ingredient list is likely going to be the one that is free of synthetic chemicals. Companies in the United States are required to list ingredients in the order of what has the greatest quantity. Anything that has the word fragrance on the label should not touch your skin. It is important to remember that there are not a lot of regulations on makeup and other beauty products. The Campaign for Safe Cosmetics reinforces that there is no legal standard for labels such as pure, natural, or organic, so you have to do your own investigating.

Breast Cancer Action encourages women to stay away from cosmetics that contain parabens and phthalates as studies link them to cancer development. They define parabens as chemical preservatives that are estrogenic and disrupt normal hormone function. The phthalates are shown to cause

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birth defects and reproductive problems, as well as increase breast cancer risk. The exposure to these bad chemicals is the most harmful to kids and those who are still developing.

Some women like to take matters into their own hands and make their own products. It can be fun to do as a family, host a girls’ night or do by yourself. You may be surprised to learn that you probably have everything you need in your pantry, such as coconut oil, honey, tea tree oil, aloe vera gel, sea salt, oatmeal, sugar, and shea butter. These basics will help you moisturize, exfoliate, and cleanse. You will be proud to enjoy salt scrubs or body oils that are your very own creations. It takes making a conscious effort and getting your family on board to be successful. It can be hard because most people use many beauty products, and some studies have shown that many exposures over a period of time can lead to damage like birth defects, asthma, cancer, and learning disabilities.

Talk to friends and neighbors about what products they are using and share your knowledge. The more informed you are, the better. There are even apps out there like Think Dirty that rate products 1-10 and propose healthier alternatives. You can also go to madesafe.org to see if a certain product is certified. Made Safe is a nonprofit

organization that offers a comprehensive certification for nontoxic products that have passed ingredient screening for known behavioral toxins, carcinogens, developmental toxins, endocrine disruptors, fire retardants, heavy metals, neurotoxins, pesticides, reproductive toxins, toxic solvents, and harmful VOCs. Last but not least, the easiest precaution may get overlooked sometimes. Do not underestimate the value of applying sunscreen. The American Cancer Society said to be sure to read the label and look for a product that is marked broad spectrum, meaning it protects against both UVA and UVB rays and has a sun protection factor value of 30 or higher. Always check the expiration date to make sure you are well protected. When you apply it, you want to pay close attention to areas that may not be covered by clothing, and reapply every 2 hours. Lip balm is also available with sunscreen. If you are looking to accessorize, stylish sunglasses and a wide-brimmed hat will make a fashion statement and protect your delicate skin. The American Cancer Society recommends sunglasses that are labeled as having UV absorption up to 400 nm or that they meet ANSI UV requirements.

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Taking Self-Care Seriously

BY JULIE FRITZ

Self-care is a lost art. With busy lives and even busier schedules, most people forget the importance of taking time out to spend some time with yourself. Unfortunately, when you don’t take the time to do this, it can cause extra stress and keep you from being your best self. We all need to make self-care a top priority in our lives because if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of your families and friends to the best of your ability. Here are a few ways to help you prioritize self-care in your life and make it more simple to implement.

MAKE THE TIME

Everyone keeps a schedule. Maybe it’s a work schedule or a family calendar where you keep track of where you need to be on any given day or time. We all schedule appointments, meetings, activities, and social events. But most people forget to schedule time to put ourselves first and recharge. Look at your calendar and/or daily schedule and see where it might fit in. Schedule a time for yourself, daily if possible but at least weekly, to do something that will refuel you. You deserve it.

EXERCISE

Exercise is a great way to recharge your body and mind. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy, unless you want it to be. It can be as simple as taking a 30-minute walk a few times a week. Maybe even on your lunch break. Join a gym or take an exercise class with friends.

Just get up, get moving, and do it for you!

MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS

Meditation and mindfulness go hand in hand. It is a chance for you to reflect on your life in a thoughtful way. There are apps for your phone, books you can read, and even online classes you can take to help you learn how to add this into your life. By learning to clear your mind and take in your thoughts in a mindful way, you will naturally become more relaxed and be able to deal with yourself in a more productive way.

LEARN TO SAY NO

This one is really hard. Everyone wants to do all the things, all the time and not miss out on anything. That just isn’t possible. It is so important to learn to be selective in how you spend your time so you don’t get overwhelmed, overworked, and exhausted. It’s okay to say no, and people will understand. You can’t run yourself ragged to meet the

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needs of everyone else without considering your needs, too. This applies to families as well. It’s okay to say no to activities that keep you running across town all weekend. Your kids will get over it and you might even find that you get in some more family time, too.

TREAT YOURSELF

Go get a pedicure, a massage, or a facial. Treat yourself to something you enjoy that makes you feel relaxed. Take that time to enjoy the experience and put yourself first. This is a sure fire way to help you feel more relaxed and refreshed.

DON’T LET YOURSELF DOWN

No one wants to let someone down. It’s in our nature to want to please others with our actions. And it is very important to follow through with your commitment. The place where people often fall short is living up to the commitments we make to ourselves. Don’t let yourself down.

The commitments you make to yourself are just as important as the commitments you make to others. When you figure out what things you need to do to care for yourself, and make them a priority, follow through with doing them.

Just remember, the goal of self-care is reducing stress and feeling recharged. You have to make that a priority so that you can be your best self. When you take care of yourself, you are more prepared to help others in your life and find joy doing it. And don’t forget, you are worth it!

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Good Gravy!

BY DENISE HEIDEL

The term “gravy” is practically synonymous with Thanksgiving. So why are we talking about it in July? The history of gravy goes back to the Middle Ages, and for Americans, it’s a staple. While your first image of gravy may be a dish served beside a perfectly roasted turkey, it’s a creation that is diverse with seemingly endless possibilities. The way you enjoy your gravy is timeless and can be relevant for any season.

America’s love for gravy is actually rooted in ingenuity. During times of scarcity, the concept of using drippings and juices resulted in thick, delectable additions to otherwise bland meals. Basically – many of our favorite ways of eating gravy come from creative ancestors who were using the most of what they had.

Milk Gravy. Milk gravy is sawmill gravy without the meat, just use bacon drippings instead. Crazy easy to make and absolutely delicious.

Mushroom Gravy. Finally, a gravy that can be vegetarianized. Butter, mushrooms, flour, broth (beef or veggie), and thyme make this a wonderful option. It’s great on beef, chicken, or potatoes!

Let’s review some favorites:

Onion Gravy. Made from thinly sliced onions, butter, flour, beef broth, and Worcestershire – this is a staple for the British Bangers and Mash (pork sausage and mashed potatoes). It’s a thin gravy with a powerful flavor punch.

Redeye Gravy. A Southern staple, this gravy is made from the

Chocolate Gravy. Oh, yes, it’s a thing. And if you

Brown Gravy. Made from the dripping of roasted beef or poultry, the

haven’t had it – your world is about to be changed. Cocoa, flour, sugar, milk, and butter – combined in a decadently sweet mix of gravy and poured over hot buttery biscuits. Dessert for breakfast? Yes, please. And we likely have an indulgent Appalachian grandmother to thank for this one.

drippings of ham. The pan is deglazed with black coffee. Chicken broth and a bit of sugar are added. As it simmers and thickens, butter is added, and the gravy is whisked. Serve with ham.

drippings are cooked over high heats with onions and then thickened with a mix of water and flour (or cornstarch). This is the gravy most often used on mashed potatoes or served with the Thanksgiving turkey.

Sawmill Gravy. Made with sausage (or earlier recipes used bacon),

flour, whole milk, salt, and pepper – sawmill gravy is the ultimate in traditional Southern breakfasts, which we eat all year long. So if you’re still thinking of gravy for Thanksgiving, ask yourself how you’d feel if biscuits and gravy were seasonal. It also goes by the name “Sausage Gravy.”

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Hungry yet? Still think gravy is just for the holidays?

Think again… Gravy can be enjoyed on pot roast, hamburger steaks, chicken, pork chops, meatloaf, turkey, and of course, biscuits.

While most gravy recipes are relatively simple, it’s recommended that you practice often – just to make sure.

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When it comes to sports, almost every group gets a chance to showcase their talents. But during one period in time, those with special needs and disabilities were left as spectators; they were not allowed to enjoy that type of play. But this changed in 1968 when John F. Kennedy’s sister, Eunice Kennedy Shriver, started a summer day camp for mentally disabled people in her own backyard. She wanted to change the way the world perceived those with special needs. In July 1968, she launched the first International Special Olympics Games at Soldier Field in Chicago. Later on that year, the Joseph P. Kennedy Foundation incorporated Special Olympics and the program has grown exponentially ever since.

The impact of Special Olympics continues to expand today. Parker Prysiazniuk, a rising senior at Davie High School, has developed a passion for creating opportunities for special needs individuals. It all began with his great uncle, who had Down syndrome. “My mother saw the lack of opportunities that were available

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to him and always sought to make a change in the lives of individuals with special needs,” Parker says. This inspired both Parker and his older sister, Logan, to get involved with the Special Olympics organization.

Parker was led to launch the first Special Olympics Track Program in Davie County after receiving many requests for a greater variety of sports in the community. As a varsity cross-country and track runner at Davie High School, Parker felt that he could use his skill set and passion for helping those with special needs to expand the programs available in the county. To meet the financial needs required to start this program, Parker presented a grant request to the SURF Board, a board led by students that helps fund youth-led projects in the community. After SURF agreed to Parker’s vision and funded his program, his track teammates and friends volunteered to help coach, and his track team of seven athletes was formed. After five weeks of practice, Parker had a team up and running, ready for the state competition in Raleigh.

On June 1st, Parker and his team of volunteers, along with the seven athletes, traveled to St Augustine

University in Raleigh to showcase their newly acquired track skills. Each of the athletes competed in three different events, ranging from shot put, long jump, relays, and running events. “I could not be more proud of this team,” Parker says. “Not only did the athletes’ hard work manifest itself during the competition, but their positive attitudes and support for their teammates made me the most proud.” The Davie ‘Eagles’ came home with 17 gold and silver medals - a feat unheard of for a first year team.

Parker hopes his program will continue to thrive after he goes off to college and that this will inspire his peers to make a difference in the special needs community. “I would like to thank the Davie County community for the overwhelming support of myself and the athletes,” says Parker. “It is truly heartwarming to see the outpouring of encouragement that individuals give to the athletes whether it is in the school cafeteria or at a Friday night football game.”

He encourages all individuals to be a part of the Special Olympics program, whether that be through donations or volunteer work. Not only will you be making a difference in the lives of those with special needs, but it will make a difference in your life as well.

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Congrats to Rachel Dixon! A Summa Cum Laude graduate from Forbush High School who is headed to UNC Charlotte to pursue a degree in Exercise Science.

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Congratulations, Tedi Brianna, the kindest girl in the world!

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Forsyth Country Club was awarded the prestigious Distinguished Club award by BoardRoom magazine, recognizing private clubs who demonstrate member experience excellence.

Congratulations Beau Sebastian Renegar on your graduation from R. J. Reynolds High School! We have nothing but pride for the way you navigated your way through High School, taking on every challenge with confidence and courage! Best wishes for continued success at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University this fall!

Love, Mom & Dad

Way to go India Wood! Goodbye Reagan High, hello Wake Forest University!

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For most of us, our high school years can be the most influential period of our lives.

This time of being judged by our peers and striving for acceptance is usually pivotal in every teenager’s life. Alexandra Johnson is no different as she has made her way through the trials and tribulations many of us have faced in our teens.

As she graduates from high school and prepares to enter college, her mom and I could not be prouder of her. She has an ability to adapt and a tenacious attitude, coupled with a determined (and sometimes demanding) approach that has made her mature beyond her years. Yet she is also still a playful, loving and kind-spirited young woman.

While preparing a young person for LIFE and THE REAL WORLD is arguably one of the biggest challenges any parent can take on and endure, I am confident that Alexandra is prepared for the next chapter of her young life and will accomplish whatever she sets her mind to.

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Becoming a Gardner

BY JULIE FRITZ It’s easy to appreciate a beautiful garden. Beautiful flowers in an array of colors draw your eye, and you can’t help but enjoy it.

However, it may be overwhelming to think about learning to garden if you have never tried. But don’t fret, if you start out small and give yourself a chance, you might find you really enjoy it. There is something very special about getting your hands in the dirt and watching something you have planted grow. Have you ever thought you might like to try your hand at gardening? If so, these tips are for you.

DECIDE WHERE YOUR INTEREST LIES

There really are a lot of things you can choose from. Are you more interested in flowers or vegetables? You might find you want to make your yard more colorful or grow some herbs to use in your kitchen. It really makes sense to narrow it down before you dive in. You will keep yourself from getting overwhelmed by deciding what you will enjoy the most and focusing on that.

TALK TO YOUR NEIGHBORS

We all have neighbors that have beautiful yards and gardens.

Now is the time to get to know them and ask them for some advice. Most people who enjoy gardening also enjoy sharing their knowledge, especially if it means making the neighborhood more beautiful. Look around your neighborhood and see what you like, then talk to those neighbors and ask them about their gardens.

Chances are they will have some helpful information and guidance.

If you are really lucky, they might share clippings of their plants with you and may even be willing to lend a helping hand.

DO SOME RESEARCH

When it comes to gardening, there is so much to learn. You can look online for information related to the types of plants that will grow best in our area and how much shade or sun they might need. You can look for resources about what things grow well together or how to design your flower bed or garden. Be careful with this though – you don’t want to get overwhelmed. Researching

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general topics to help you determine what you might like to do and researching specific needs for a specific project are more productive and will keep you on track.

PICK A PROJECT

Once you are ready to get started, it’s time to pick your first project. Take into consideration all the things you have learned from your research and from talking to others when you make this decision. It is recommended that you start with something small. Redesigning your whole front yard might be more than you want to take on at first. But everyone is different, so just make sure you decide on something that will be fun and bring you joy. Here are a few ideas that you might enjoy for your first gardening project.

• Redo an existing flower bed • Window boxes with flowers • Plant flowers around your mailbox • An herb garden • A raised bed vegetable garden

CHECK OUT OUR LOCAL GARDENING STORES

Once you have picked your project, make a list of everything you need and head out to a local gardening store. We have some great local shops and greenhouses around Forsyth County. The staff at these places are knowledgeable and helpful for anyone just getting started. They can help guide you on planting choices and will help make sure you have everything you need to make your garden grow. It’s also a great opportunity to support local business.

TAKE TIME TO ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE

Set aside an afternoon or weekend to work on your project.

Give yourself grace as you get started and know you might make a few mistakes along the way.

Just remember to have fun and enjoy the experience.

When you decide to become a gardener, the possibilities are endless. It is a great opportunity to challenge yourself to learn about something new and also enjoy a new hobby that will be very rewarding.

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Switch It Up With Snazzier Summer Salads

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER You know the old adage. . .

“An apple a day keeps the doctor away,” but how about a salad a day? Your body, mind, and overall health will benefit from eating greens on a daily basis. Keep diseases and aging at bay with a salad a day!

SWEET SUMMER SALAD

1-2 handfuls baby spinach 4-5 strawberries (chopped) 1-2 handfuls blueberries 1-2 handfuls pecans/walnuts (chopped or whole) 1-2 handfuls goat cheese or your favorite cheese (optional) CITRUS MINT VINAIGRETTE 3-4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil 1-2 tablespoons orange juice 1-2 tablespoon lemon juice 1-2 sprigs fresh mint leaves (minced to garnish salad) Recipe adapted from Spinach Berry Salad With Sweet Poppy Seed Dressing - Modern Honey: modernhoney.com/spinach-berry-salad-with-sweetpoppy-seed-dressing

SIMPLE SUMMER SALAD

GREEK SALAD

1-2 handfuls mixed greens, kale, and/or Swiss chard 1/3 red onion (thin round slices) 1-2 handfuls feta cheese (crumble on or chop) 5-6 Kalamata olives 2-3 pepperoncini peppers 4-5 grape or cherry tomatoes (optional) 4-5 cucumber slices (optional) 4-5 bell or sweet pepper slices (optional) 4-5 avocado slices (optional) GREEK VINAIGRETTE: 3-4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil or avocado oil 3-4 tablespoons balsamic or red wine vinegar 1-2 dashes oregano 2-3 cloves garlic (finely minced) or garlic powder (optional) Sea salt and ground black pepper (to taste)

CHICKEN CAESAR SALAD

The reasons to go for greens are many. Greens increase your fiber intake, improve digestion, boost your immune system with powerful antioxidants, and help maintain a healthy weight.

1-2 handfuls arugula 4-6 watermelon slices (OR 4-5 grapefruit slices, OR 4-5 avocado slices) 2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese 1-2 sprigs fresh basil (rough chopped to garnish salad)

Vegetarians and vegans can chop up some tofu or tempeh and include beans and legumes to pack on protein, while meat lovers can include sliced chicken, pork, turkey, or beef, and fish lovers can add some salmon or ahi tuna.

LEMON VINAIGRETTE: 3-4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil or avocado oil 1-2 tablespoons lemon juice + ½ teaspoon lemon zest 3 tablespoons rice wine vinegar or white balsamic vinegar (optional) Sea salt + white pepper (to taste)

CAESAR VINAIGRETTE: 3-4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil or avocado oil 3-4 anchovy filets 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1-2 teaspoons Dijon mustard 1 tablespoon mayonnaise Sea salt + ground black pepper (to taste)

Recipe adapted from Watermelon and Arugula Salad Barefoot Contessa: barefootcontessa.com/ recipes/watermelon-arugula-salad

Recipe adapted from Caesar Salad Supreme All Recipes: allrecipes.com/recipe/14172/ caesar-salad-supreme/

Pack a punch in the nutrition and flavor departments by adding a handful of fresh herbs to your salads. Rinse and rough chop herbs like cilantro, parsley, thyme, oregano, basil, rosemary, chives, and dill. So yummy!

½ head romaine lettuce (chopped) 1 grilled or baked chicken breast (thin slices) 1-2 tablespoons Parmesan, Romano or Reggiano cheese (shaved or grated)

Try adding sprouts, mung beans, clover, wheatgrass, or alfalfa.

Beans and legumes, such as edamame, chickpeas, kidney beans, black beans, Northern beans, and peas, complement a salad and add protein. A handful of nuts can be a healthy addition, and almonds, pecans, walnuts, cashews, peanuts, or hazelnuts will dress up your salads.

For salad dressings, you can whip together something creamy (think Caesar, ranch or blue cheese), citrusy (fresh juice plus zest), or nutty (try Thai style with peanut butter). Or just stick with the basics and add lemon juice or oil and vinegar.

These recipes for snazzier summer salads will satisfy your cravings for fresh, raw foods and will make you healthier. The recipes are for one person, but can easily be doubled or made larger to accommodate more people.

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Get creative and feel free to try different combinations. Your taste buds will tell you what works, and the sky’s the limit when it comes to food pairings and dressings.

Be inspired to make new culinary creations using your senses and thinking visually, like an artist. Instead of all green, opt for a rainbow of different colors.

Add a salad daily to benefit your health, and enjoy a food fix that is both delicious and nutritious.

Get creative with clean eating and put a swing in your step with snazzier salads!

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PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org

come for the food, stay for the fun!

CHEF ANTWAN HAIRSTON has joined our staff preparing a whole new look for Mac & Nelli’s!

NEW AMERICAN SOUTHERN MENU!

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EMPOWERED! GIRLS SUMMER CAMP 7:45am-5:30pm, Garden of Prayer, 1004 North English Street in Greensboro. We are an experienced summer camp provider here in Greensboro for almost 15 years, and you are your girls ages 6-18 are all invited to attend our annual summer camp! Cost: $85/person.

Call 790.2763, visit www.empoweredgirlsnc. org or email camp@empoweredgirlsnc.org.

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ENGINEER IT EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Explore the Design-Build-Test cycle through hands-on experiments. Discover DaVinci’s interlocking bridge, experiment with the Marble Run Station, build with Giant Blue Blocks and more! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members.

767.6730. kaleideum.org

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ICEVENTURE EXHIBIT Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Decorate a snowman, collect snowballs, go ice-fishing and slide on the sockskating rink! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. 723.9111. kaleideum.org

JULY 4

SALEM BAND “STARS & STRIPES” CONCERT 7:30pm, Salem Square, Academy & Main Streets, Old Salem. Honoring veterans in our community with music of Big Bands, Yankee Doodle, the Armed Forces and marches. Don’t miss Salem Band’s brass and piccolo players in “Stars & Stripes Forever.” All concerts free in Salem Square. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. Rain date: July 5th. Salemband.org or Facebook.com/ SalemBandFan/

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JULY 6

MUSIC ON THE TERRACE FEATURING EMMA LEE 1-4pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Relax on our terrace and enjoy live acoustic music by Emma Lee! Picnic lunches will be available from Harvest Grill along with beer and wine. Kick back and enjoy the day at Shelton Vineyards!

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FAMILY SUNDAY WITH THE DASH BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Bring the kids out for our Lowes Foods Family Sunday! A couple of Dash players will be available for pregame autographs on the concourse, and the Kids Zone will be available for free for all children ages 12 and under. Cost: $8-$16/person.

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JULY 7-11

VBS – BETHLEHEM, JESUS IS KING 6-8:30pm, Emmanuel Church of Winston-Salem, 407 Petree Road in W-S. We will travel back in time to Bethlehem and unpack the truths from the Bible on how Jesus saves!

We will get a glimpse of what life was like in the early days of the church. VBS is free and is for ages 3 (potty-trained) through 5th grade.

Register at emmanuelws.com/ ministries/vbs

JULY 8 & 22

FREE FOOD MONDAY WITH THE DASH 7-10pm, BB&T Ballpark. 951 Ballpark Way. It’s the craziest deal in sports!

Each ticket comes with all the free hot dogs and French fries until 8:30pm. Also, free corn dogs will be served while supplies last. The best part? Normal ticket prices apply.

Cost: $8-$16/person.

JULY 8-13

MISSOULA CHILDREN’S THEATRE: PINOCCHIO 10am-2:30pm, Andy Griffith Playhouse, 218 Rockford Street in Mount Airy. Children will work with Missoula Children’s Theatre professionals and learn auditioning, acting and staging skills. Ages 5-18 (completed Kindergarten).

Performance on 7/13 at 2pm. Cost: $150/person. Performance tickets: $6/person. surryarts.org/programs

JULY 9

KIDS’ MORNING OUT! 10am-12pm, Winston-Salem Open, Hanes Park, 625 West End Boulevard in W-S. Free event! Enjoy games, activities and prizes! Kids must have tennis shoes on. All other gear will be provided. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

JULY 11

MANIFESTING WITH MERCEDES 6:30-8pm, Wake Downtown, 455 Vine Street in W-S. Mindset Management and Manifesting: Proven Principles, Practical Application, Profound Results. bit.ly/ ManifestingJuly11

JULY 13

RONALD MCDONALD HOUSE OF WINSTON SALEM 1ST ANNUAL DRIVE FOR SANTA DISC GOLF TOURNAMENT Triad Park, 9652 West Market Street in Kernersville. With an entry fee of only $20, players are encouraged to bring a toy to stock Santa’s Workshop at the Ronald McDonald House for families during the holiday season. For more information and to register, please visit rmhws.org/events VICTORIAN PARLOR SERIES: HISTORICAL BOTANY 10am-1pm, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. This progressive program will begin with a lecture at the Ciener Botanical Garden. We’ll learn about which houseplants were used in Victorian home decorating and why, as well as the fascinating botanical trends of the era. Then we’ll move down the street to Körner’s Folly for a flora-focused tour of the historic house museum highlighting architectural details, paintings and objects. Cost: $15 for adults; $10 for under 18. kornersfolly.org

JULY 15

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT! 5pm-until…, Providence Restaurant, 5790 University Parkway in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy ½ priced appetizers, a delectable menu, drink specials and a special birthday toast to Forsyth Woman Publisher Keela Johnson! Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

Reservations can be made at providencews. org/gno

JULY 20

A KERNERSVILLE CHRISTMAS IN JULY 9am-2pm, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. A great opportunity to shop local vendors for the best in woodworking, ceramics, textiles, jewelry, food trucks and more, this market will help you get a jump on your holiday gift list and support local makers at the same time. kornersfolly.org AMERICAN FLATLAND BICYCLE CONTEST 10am-7pm, The Ramkat, 170 West 9th Street in W-S. National BMX bicycle contest.

Come watch some of the nation’s best compete for prizes – free for spectators.

Great for kids if interested in bikes.

CHICK-FIL-A FOUR PACK NIGHT WITH THE DASH 6-9pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Don’t miss out on the best entertainment deal in the Triad! For as low as $32, fans can receive tickets to the Dash’s game against the Down East Wood Ducks on Saturday, along with four Dash hats and four chicken sandwich vouchers redeemable only at the Chick-fil-A at Thruway Shopping Center. This deal must be purchased in advance by calling 714.2287. milb.com/ winston-salem/tickets/chick-fil-a-four-pack

SUMMER CONCERT SERIES FEATURING TOO MUCH SYLVIA 6-9pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson.

Purchase tickets online or call the winery at 366.4724. Day of concert all tickets will be $25 at the gate. Tickets purchased in advance receive $5 off ticket price.

Wine Club Members advance ticket price is $15. Season passes available. Sheltonvineyards.com

JULY 22

COCKTAIL AND CRAFT AT DICK AND JANE’S 6:30-8:30pm, Dick and Jane’s Martini & Tapas Bar, 109 West Clay Street in Mebane. Join us for a fun night of crafting. We will make gemstone bracelets and earrings! Tickets are $25; all materials included. To register, come by our store location, or call Kat 919.593.6928. Attendees must register by Sunday 7/21.

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JULY 26

BALLOONSTRAVAGANZA AT WALKERTOWN BRANCH LIBRARY 3-4pm, Walkertown Branch Library, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown.

Come and see everyone’s favorite balloon twister this summer at Walkertown Branch Library. Marvel at all of the amazing creations of W-S’s own Balloon Lady! Please leave all porcupines, cacti and scissors at home. Presented by the Balloon Lady for all ages. Forsyth. cc/library/Walkertown

JULY 26-27

DISNEY’S FROZEN JR. Times vary. Mountcastle Forum/ Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. Based on the enchanting animated movie and the 2018 Broadway musical, Frozen Jr. brings Elsa, Anna and the magical land of Arendelle to life onstage. Fun for the whole family! Cost: $15/ person. ltofws.org/summer-camps

JULY 30

SALEM BAND “PLAY ON!” CONCERT 7:30pm, Salem Square, Academy & Main Streets, Old Salem.

Chosen by our fans, this program includes Shenandoah, 1812 Overture, Southern Harmony and local favorite, Morning Star Polka.

Pre-concert music by the Salem Saxophone Quartet. All concerts free in Salem Square. Rain date: August 2nd. Salemband.org or Facebook.com/SalemBandFan/

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Conversations with Your BFF What’s My Reason

BY REBECCA COOPER

for Being Here?

We all come to a point in life when we start questioning if we are doing what we are supposed to be doing. That may come in your 20s, but it usually comes in your 40s or later. The shorter our lives become, the more we want to make our days and years count.

So, how do you know if you’ve found your ‘calling’ in life? I’m so glad you asked…

Just to make sure we’re on the same page, the definition of ‘calling’ is: a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action especially when accompanied by conviction of divine influence.’ Sometimes a calling can be a drastic career change, but can mean returning to a hobby or a pastime that helped you during stressful times in your past. Then there are times when you know what your calling is, but you have a defeating conversation in your head of, ‘What will people think if I do that?’ or ‘I don’t have time to do that!’ or ‘It’s not practical at this point in my life to make this change.’

Whether you know or are still searching for your calling, or what you want to be when you grow up, there are a few steps that you can take to figure out your next step in life.

Steps to Finding Your Calling in Life

WHAT DID YOU LOVE AS A CHILD?

Many times our calling comes to us early in childhood. For me, from the first grade, I loved writing and sharing stories with others.

But as I grew up, although I never lost that love and returned to it when I turned 40, I let the practical side of me take over instead of pursuing my passion. I didn’t realize that I could be practical with a ‘grown-up’ job and still write.

WHAT DO YOU LOVE TO DO NOW?

Make a list of 25 things you love. For example, exercising, baking, gardening, etc. may bring you enjoyment, but those things could also be your calling. Look at your list and make a plan to do two of those things next week. While they may not be your calling, therapists say that when you do something that brings you a high level of joy, you are more open to listening to your intuition or gut on making life decisions.

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WHITTLE AWAY THE DISTRACTION IN YOUR LIFE

We live in a world full of distractions that don’t serve us well. From too much TV, to way too much time devoted to social media, or attention to the electronic devices that fill our waking moments. Things can also be distractions like stuff, clothes, things that you don’t use, but you don’t want to let go of. Clearing things and activities that don’t bring you joy out of your life frees up space in your mind and life so you can follow that which serves you. I once read that, ‘Saying no to what you don’t want or need means saying yes to your calling.’

COMMIT TO BABY STEPS

My move back to my love of writing came after being downsized from my job and having free time on my hands. I had little confidence in my ability, but I found an online program that would allow me to write and be ‘graded’ by published authors. I had decided that if a real author said I should try my hand at something

else, I would move on. But the opposite happened and I got great accolades and moved on from there to write for a local publication and then to writing now for Forsyth Woman. I took baby steps back to my love of writing. I didn’t set out to write the next self-help book or a novel. I took deliberate, but small steps which made all the difference.

KEEP FOLLOWING WHERE YOU THINK YOUR CALLING IS GOING

I recently read that seeking one’s calling is ‘a continuous process of shedding what we don’t need so we can get closer to the person we were born to be.’ If it takes a month to find your passion and calling, take that time to get to know yourself, or if it takes years, it will be time well spent. And don’t tell yourself ‘I’m too old for a change.’ Happiness and joy have no time limit as long as we are alive. Set time aside to listen to the voice within you because our deepest regrets almost always come from those chances we don’t take.

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