Forsyth Woman - January 2020

January 2020

January 2020 | 1

Wake Forest Baptist Health

2 | ForsythWoman.com

Piedmont Federal Savings Bank

January 2020 | 3

Sixth Sense

health and wellness center

WANT A FRESH NEW LOOK FOR A FRESH NEW YEAR? TRY OUR NEW YEAR COSMETIC ACUPUNCTURE FOR JUST $75 Sixth Sense Health & Wellness (REGULALY $150)

Offer valid through 01.31.20

MASSAGE

ACUPUNCTURE

NUTRITION

STRETCH

DETOX

336-723-4400 • www.6ths.com DR. CHELSEA WYNTER, LAC, ND

4 | ForsythWoman.com

1012 BROOKSTOWN AVE • WINSTON-SALEM NC 27101

Swanky & Swag Boutique

5 OFF

$

purchase of $25 or more

www.facebook.com/swankyandswag | @swankyandswag 1337 Lewisville Clemmons Rd | Lewisville, N.C. 27023 | 336-778-0111 January 2020 | 5

Serving Forsyth for more than

20 years

Dukeeye.org | 336-768-3240 1340 Creekshire Way | Winston Salem, NC 27103

Meet our New Ophthalmologists

JIAXI DING, MD

FARAMARZ HIDAJI, MD

Glaucoma Specialist Cataract Management

Pediatric Ophthalmologist Oculofacial Specialist

ROSHNI RANJIT-REEVES, MD “DR ROSH” Oculofacial Specialist Facial Rejuvenation Aesthetic and Reconstructive Surgery

Duke Eye Center

KENNETH WEINLANDER, MD Cornea Specialist Cataract Management Laser Vision Correction

Our expert eye care specialists provide the latest treatment strategies personalized to your needs.

FRANK J. MOYA, MD

WILLIAM B. RAFFERTY, OD

Glaucoma Specialist Cataract Management

Optometrist Dry Eye Treatment

DIANNA L. SELDOMRIDGE, MD

TERRY M. SEMCHYSHYN, MD

CAROL J. ZIEL, MD

Comprehensive Ophthalmologist Dry Eye Treatment

Cornea Specialist Cataract Management

Glaucoma Specialist Cataract Management Medical Director

6 | ForsythWoman.com

Imagine retirement in a friendly, retreat-like setting situated on forty-six wooded acres while being only minutes away from Retirement the amenities of a larger city. Brookridge Brookridge offers a thriving Independent Living Community that includes an active lifestyle through engaging activities ranging from yoga and water aerobics to art classes and trips to the theater. Our location and lifestyle, combined with the predictability of Life Care, make us the most unique community in the area. You will feel secure knowing that all levels of care are available to you on our campus at competitive costs.

1199 Hayes Forest Drive Winston-Salem, NC 27106 | (336) 759-1044 | www.brookridgecommunity.org

January 2020 | 7

Twin City Fashion Week

COMING APRIL 2020 @twincityfashionweek

8 | ForsythWoman.com

GOLDMAN CENTER for Facial Plastic Surgery Facial Rejuvenation Minimally Invasive Surgery Skin Rejuvenation & Fractional Laser Therapy Fillers & Injectables Aesthetic & Functional NasalGoldman Surgery Center Hair Restoration Surgery

With Offices Serving the Piedmont & the High Country 108 Dornach Way | Advance, NC (336) 245-9595 Kinderton Village – across from Bermuda Run

717 Greenway Road | Suite A | Boone, NC (828) 278-9230 NEAL D. GOLDMAN, MD Double Board Certified Facial Plastic Surgeon

FacialPlasticSurgeryNC.com January 2020 | 9

The View From This Side JANUARY 2020 I am always surprised when January rolls around.

The year has flown by, right? I remember when I was a little girl, my mom always told me time would speed up when I got older. As she has proven many, many times over the years – Mom was right. But, this January is significant. It was a year ago this month that my husband, Tim – the love of my life – had a stroke. While this certainly was the most terrifying experience of my life – watching my husband fight for his life – I’m so grateful and blessed. The experience has left us far more joyful and willing to embrace life because every moment is precious.

Tim continues to do physical therapy twice a week. He amazes me. He has worked SO hard to recover and continues to push forward every single day! One step at a time! Plus, while Tim was already very health-conscious before the stroke, we both made decisions to make better choices, including our drinking. We’ve both given up alcohol and feel great!

All I can say is embrace your loved ones! We were so fortunate that God gave us more time together.

Also, this month – January is a little like “Birthday Month” for our family. We have my husband’s birthday and my son, Tanner’s, both of my brothers were born in January and, of course – my mom! While all of these people own a piece of my heart, my mom is the foundation of us all! She’s the reason we’re here! Never mind that at 80 years old, my mother can still run circles around all of us; she’s also the sweetest, most caring, loving and beautiful woman! I’m so thankful that I get to call her “Mom!” Please take a moment to read the beautiful tribute to Mom that my younger brother, Brent, wrote. It can be found on page 22.

You can also enjoy a highlight from my step-dad’s new book! “The Schuler Saga” by Charlie Schuler!

This book is a family gift to the family of Charlie and Marianne Schuler, but it’s also for anyone who “loves adventures, loves sailing and loves God!” Important news! Coming soon is our annual edition of Forsyth Community! We can’t wait to share this new magazine with you, so please look for it at the end of the month! Hours have been invested in making this multi-functional magazine come to life! It’s a celebration of life, work and play in the Lewisville and Clemmons communities! This magazine is used for a residential guide, visitor’s guide and relocation guide! We love bringing this to readers across the area and state!

As always, it’s such a privilege to be a part of your life. Thank you for picking up the magazine and reading! We have now done this 173 times – can you believe it? And, that’s JUST Forsyth Woman! It never gets old! Thank you for reading!

Please let our advertisers know you saw them in this month’s issue!

Until next time,

Keela

PUBLISHER

ADVERTISING

OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Keela Johnson Keela@ForsythMags.com

Advertising@ForsythMags.com

EDITOR

Vonda Henderson

Debbie Barr | Keith Biggs | Jen Brown | Adele Casanova Rebecca Cooper | June DeLugas | Lisa Doss | Martie Emory Julie Fritz | Brent Groce | Denise Heidel | Vonda Henderson Taryn Jerez | Jean Marie Johnson | Kaylyn Lanier Brittany Leak | Ava Lewandowski | Jon Marzano Dave McConnell | Olivia Orme | Phil Ray | Rosey Tim Sellner | Lauren Sephton | Megan Taylor | Sara Wiles

Brooke Eagle Brooke@ForsythMags.com

EDITOR’S ASSISTANT & EVENT SPECIALIST Madison Hill

SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE

EDITORIAL DIRECTOR CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS JEJ Photos Jodie Brim Photography Photo Artistry by Melinda

CONTENT EDITORS

Tamara Bodford

Kim Beane Meghan Corbett (Assistant)

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES

SENIOR STAFF WRITERS

Brooke Eagle Heather Spivey Adele Casanova

Meghan Corbett Denise Heidel Carolyn Peterson

GRAPHIC DESIGN & PRODUCTION

Emerson Designs

WEB DESIGN/MAINTENANCE

Nu NuExpression.com

IT SUPPORT

Creative IT creativeit.com

CONTACT

ForsythWoman.com 888-892-3204

FORSYTH WOMAN DISCLAIMER: Please note that the inclusion of stories and articles in Forsyth Woman magazine does not imply endorsement of products or people. The views of the authors are

presented for information and entertainment only, and may not necessarily reflect the views of Forsyth Woman. Specifically, Forsyth Woman in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well being with respect to any particular person. We disclaim all warranties, express or implied, including, but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. We will not be held responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any loss or damage that is caused or alleged to have been caused in connection with the use of, or reliance on, any content in this magazine. Forsyth Woman reserves the right to deny any advertisement or listing that does not meet Forsyth Woman standards. Submissions are welcome but unsolicited materials are not guaranteed to be returned. Forsyth Woman assumes no responsibility for information, products, services or statements made by advertisers or editorial contributors. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher is prohibited. ©2005 by Forsyth Woman, Inc.

10 | ForsythWoman.com

Restoration Med Spa

January 2020 | 11

F E AT U R E S 50 48 80 38 50 COVER STORY Inner Strength Pilates: A Unique Pilates Experience | 16 Why Faking It Should Get Canceled 22 “The Schuler Saga” Book Review | 30 Can We Make the Four-Day Workweek Happen For Everyone?

56 What Does Your Handwriting Mean? | 66 Here We Go Again…Lessons in Weight Loss The Millionth Time Around

12 | ForsythWoman.com

Medi-Weightloss

January 2020 | 13

EVERY ISSUE

118

100

74

32

18 Keeping it Real | 36 Dear June… | 58 Making Dollars, Making $ense | 62 ReDESIGNS by Ava 68 NEW! In the Spotlight | 102 Recipe | 104 Hustle & Heart | 108 To Your Health 110 Writers Who Read | 126 Calendar of Events | 130 Conversations with Your BFF

14 | ForsythWoman.com

Hip Chics Boutique

January 2020 | 15

Why Faking It Should Get Canceled

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Why Faking It Should Get Canceled Fake it till you make it! Fake it till you become it!

Control the message you’re sharing! Spin to the positive!

I am so tired of this sentiment, and I 100% bought into it a few short years ago. till2017, you and Come talk to me inFake 2016it or make it! Fake it till I would have told you to fake it until you become it! you make it. the Andmessage while I still believe Control you’re insharing! a bit of Spin hype,toI think we need to the positive! get rid of this in 2020.

I am so tired of this sentiment, and I 100% bought into it a few short In caseago. you haven’t heard of this years

motivational idea before, you Come talk to me in 2016 or 2017, and fake confidence until you become I would have told you to fake it until confident.

The foundational you make it.

And while I still thought believe is you’ll either become confident in a bit of hype, I think we need to get rid of it this 2020. by faking or inyou’ll succeed while you’re it” and thenofPOOF! In case“faking you haven’t heard this You’ve got what needyou to become motivational ideayou before, fake confidence until you become confident. confident. The foundational thought is you’ll either become confident Here’s theitcatch: what happens if you by faking or you’ll succeed while don’t feel confident through faking you’re “faking it” and then POOF! You’ve got get whatwhat you you need to become it, or don’t need to feel confident.

confident through pretending?

Here’s the catch: what happens if you Playing make-believe is exhausting don’t feel confident through faking – it, or don’t you’re get what you need to feel essentially focusing on being confident through pretending?

someone you aren’t. As someone who was an actress for many, many years– Playing make-believe is exhausting essentially you’re focusing on being – there’s a reason it’s a profession someone you aren’t. As someone who and career. It’s exhausting to truly be was an actress for many, many years aren’t to keep it up –someone there’s ayou reason it’sand a profession overcareer. a long It’s period!

Sure, you don’t,be and exhausting to truly someone you aren’t andyou to have keep to it up and shouldn’t, feel like over a long period! Sure, you don’t, share all of your trials and troubles – and shouldn’t, feel like you have to but pretending great is one of share all of youryou’re trials and troubles – but pretending you’re great is oneof of the reasons we’re all at the mercy the reasonsand we’re all at the mercy of Instagram hustle culture.

Instagram and hustle culture.

16 | ForsythWoman.com

Practical talk, think of this: you’re portraying that you’ve “got it all” – why would someone think you need to learn anything if you’re acting like you have it all? You’re going to get fewer opportunities to learn and grow if you’ve already arrived.

Adding to that: studies have shown for years that people value authenticity, with Practical talk,whether think of that this:isyou’re portraying you’ve “gotFolks it all” – individuals that or with brands. why you need don’twould want someone to just seethink the “highlight to learn anything if you’re acting reel” of your – soYou’re why are weto like you have life it all? going still dealing with this almost 6 years get fewer opportunities to learn and grow you’vepublicized already arrived. after aif highly study from global communications and Adding to that: studies have public firm Cohnvalue & shown relationship for years that people authenticity, whether is withone Wolfe showed that thethat number individuals or with brands.

Folks quality people demand of brands don’t want to just see the “highlight is “communicating honestly about reel” of your life – so why are we products andwith services”? still dealing this almost 6 years

after a highly publicized study from At thisglobal point,communications you’re probablyand public relationship firm Cohn & cheering, or over mytheconvincing that Wolfe showed that number one we needpeople to stop faking of it –brands so how quality demand is “communicating about does that happen? honestly A few ways: products and services”?

BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

At this point, you’re probably cheering, or over my convincing that Ifweyou aren’t honest with yourself, need to stop faking it – so how you’re going to haveA afew hard time does that happen? ways:

being honest with other people, BE HONEST WITH especially in social mediaYOURSELF land. Take If you moments aren’t honest yourself, a few eachwith morning and you’re going to have a hard time evening to check in with yourself: being honest with other people, How do you feel? What youTake need? especially in social mediado land. a few do moments eachWhat’s morning and What you want? bothering evening to check in with yourself: you and what’s making you excited How do you feel? What do you need? aboutdo your lifewant? right What’s now? bothering What you you and what’s making you excited about yourhonest life right The more withnow? yourself you

are, the more you can tell when The more honest with yourself you you’re andcan justtell putting are, thefaking more ityou when things you’re fakingWhen it and you just realize puttingwhen things on for show. on When realize youfor doshow. that, you canyou stop it, orwhen simply you do that, you can stop it, or simply

keep it to yourself if you’re not ready to let all the authenticity hang out.

UNDERSTAND

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN EVERYONE IS HUMAN

We all have bad days, and if you decide to be honest about one of yours, surprise and congrats! You’re a human, too!

As a publicly privateif you’re person,not youready do not keep it to yourself to let have tell everyone everything about your all thetoauthenticity hang out. bad day/week/month/year. You can simply UNDERSTAND say “I’m having a stressful time right now” EVERYONE HUMAN or something toISthat effect, and when We all have bad days, and if you decide to pushed, “Thank you for your concern, I be honest about one of yours, surprise and don’t wantYou’re to talka about End of story. congrats! human,it.” too!

As a publicly private person, you do not have to tell everyone everything about your bad day/week/month/year. You can simply say “I’m having a stressful time right now” When you starttosharing that and you’re having or something that effect, when apushed, tough time, or you evenforjust thatconcern, everything “Thank your I don’tsunshine, want to talk aboutand it.” rainbows, End of story. isn’t unicorns, you

START SHARING SMALL, HAVE GRACE

can start very small. Some of you might START SHARING SMALL, think that saying “I’m having a stressful HAVEisn’t GRACE time” small – and you’re right! For When you start sharing that you’re having some of you, huge!just It might be as a tough time, it’s or even that everything simple as not defaulting to “Great!” when isn’t sunshine, unicorns, and rainbows, you can start very Some of you might someone askssmall. you how you’re doing or think that saying “I’m having a stressful how work is going. time” isn’t small – and you’re right! For some of you, it’s huge! It might be as The second of this istoharder: have simple as notpart defaulting “Great!” when someone asks you how you’re doing grace for yourself. I told a group of or how work is going.

professional women to have grace for themselves fewofweeks and have I was The second apart this isago, harder: grace fortoyourself. told aofgroup stunned find outI none themofknew professional women to have grace for what I meant. Stop being so hard on themselves a few weeks ago, and I was yourself youout know thatofyou’ve been stunned –toiffind none them knew what I meant. being hard on on “faking it” for Stop a while, andsoyou intend yourself if you know thatand you’ve building –your authenticity slip been up, don’t “faking it” for a while, and you intend on beat yourself up over it.

Give yourself building your authenticity and slip up, don’t someyourself grace. up over it. Give yourself beat some grace.

Maybe if you stop faking it, we all will, too.

Maybe if you stop faking it, we all will, too.

Massage Envy

January 2020 | 17

Keeping It Real FILTER YOUR LIFE

BY KAYLYN LANIER

Alright ladies: real talk. It’s January, and I won’t try to tell you how to lose weight, stay unstressed, or make the best recipes. There is more than enough information out there for that. But I am here to tell you, as you step into this New Year . . . filter your life!

I don’t mean “filter” the way you’re probably imagining. I’m not saying you need to edit every social media post to make your life look like something it’s not. I’m saying, filter your life! Have some standards and refuse to negotiate on those.

I am a single, 28-year-old woman, and let me tell you, today’s dating world is terrifying! I could tell you stories that would make your head spin, make you never want to leave your house again, or make you laugh until you cry.

OR, just cry. Believe me. I’ve seen it all.

Yes, I’ve tried online dating.

One of the ONLY beautiful things in that world? There are these things called filters. They help you clarify what you’re looking for, so you see only the profiles which meet those parameters. That may sound like way too much forethought for some people, but let me tell you, standards matter.

I’m not saying the potential date must meet a long list of ridiculous criteria. I start pretty basic. He’s got to be tall. (No, I’m not shallow! It’s called #TallGirlProblems!) And, He’s got to be a Christian. I don’t mean that he just checks off “Christian” in the multiplechoice of life. I mean someone who truly lives his faith every day in every situation. That’s just what’s important to me.

Do I have other preferences?

Absolutely. But these two things . . . they are my nonnegotiables. Now, I could turn

18 | ForsythWoman.com

off the filters and have more “choices”; but trust me when I say, I will never do that. The filters weed through the masses for me, without me even knowing it, and I’m so grateful.

What would happen if we started to live our lives filtered?

I’m not just talking about dating or romantic relationships.

Friendships… family… you need to have some standards and non-negotiables for the relationships in your life. Be kind to everyone. But when it comes to the real relationships, the ones with you in the nittygritty through every season, make sure they are people that you want running the marathon with you. It’s not a sprint, you know. You need people who believe what you believe. You need people who respect you.

You need people who are going to encourage you… who know how to make you laugh… and who will tell you the truth, even when it hurts.

It’s high time we stop accepting toxicity just because it looks good or says what we want to hear. It’s time to stop settling for benign relationships that drain us. They aren’t worth all the love and energy we could be devoting to those who matter. We shouldn’t live this way! We weren’t meant to!

Starting now… filter your life. Truly reflect upon those essential standards. What are the things that matter most to you? They are called non-negotiables for a reason.

Don’t lower your standards just because you’re lonely or life gets hard. Don’t compromise who you are just to make someone stay in your life.

Tragically, we are more detailed and intentional about our coffee orders than about the people we allow in our lives. God has assigned specific people to your journey to do life with.

Don’t settle! Filter on!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

Budget Blinds

January 2020 | 19

Even more to love in the New Year!

BY MARTIE EMORY A continued commitment to authenticity has certainly paid off for Dr. Leigh Summer and the dedicated staff of Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics.

Their devotion of every ounce of energy to superb patient care has earned them First Place in the Winston-Salem Journal’s Best of the Triad Competition for Best DaySpa. “We really appreciate the support of our loyal family of clients,” says Dr. Summer.

That steadfast appreciation for patient relationships has been present since the practice opened in 2009, and while always striving to improve their services and techniques, Lewisville Laser is launching into a New Year with boundless possibilities and an exciting expansion! “Construction is already underway for our expansion!” says Dr. Summer. “We will be adding additional treatment rooms, a relaxation pod called ‘The Oasis,’ improved space for events and ‘learning lunches,’ and expanded space to comfortably care for more people.”

They will also add exciting new services such as state-of-the-art tattoo removal using Picowave laser therapy (a highly customizable treatment targeting multiple tattoo ink colors), and reduced downtime skin rejuvenation, with even more new services to be introduced throughout the year. Everything the future holds will enhance their well-known motto: Well Beyond Beauty! “We like to take a broader approach to aesthetics,” explains Dr. Summer. “We want patients to have access not just to the latest injectables or treatments, but also to the very best science in physician-grade skin care as well. If you’re going to invest in your face and body, it’s important to maintain that investment.”

Join them in celebrating a new year – and the excitement of their expansion news – by discovering new ways to enhance your own selfconfidence. January is the ideal time to explore treatments which require low sun exposure or untanned skin – including any laser treatments, laser hair removal, pigment treatment, and skin resurfacing. It’s also a very popular time of year to try a peel for the first time, and while Botox is a successful treatment to enjoy all year long, starting now can be a perfect way to refresh, without any downtime.

20 | ForsythWoman.com

Heading into 2020 gives us all so many opportunities to think about increasing our confidence, with some easy changes, and putting our best selves forward for a new decade! “Having a natural, refreshed appearance really does go a long way toward boosting how you feel in general,” says Dr. Summer “It seems counter-intuitive, but often when you feel really good about how you look, you’ll find you actually think about yourself less! We’re grateful for the opportunity to help all our patients – current and new! – look and feel their absolute best, so they can spend their time and energy on the things that matter deeply to them.”

More than ever, Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics is proud of the relationships they have built with their loyal patients, and with their own resolutions to have every person who walks through the door feel welcome and heard. With this objective, the Lewisville Laser “family” is sure to continue growing!

Just an easy 10-minute drive from Winston-Salem, Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics is located in downtown Lewisville at 6580 Shallowford Road, Suite 130. For a complimentary consultation, call 336-945-2076, and visit lewisvillelaser.com for more information on their expert services and talented staff!

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics

January 2020 | 21

If you’re a regular reader of Forsyth Woman, as so many of the magazine’s readers are, you may recognize the book review reprised below.

We’re running it again – with additional comments at the end – in celebration of our mom, Marianne Schuler’s, 80th (!) birthday. Enjoy!

“The Schuler Saga” Book Review by Tim Sellner “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” ~ Chinese proverb

If you ask him how he’s doing, the answer is always the same: “Fantastic.” If you want to know how things are going, she’ll constantly tell you, “Fantastic.” If this answer were forced or untrue, you would sense it right away, but it never is. Marianne and Charlie Schuler have found a way to look at life which makes them feel fantastic and happy to be alive. Much of this is due to their vibrant faith, much to the knowledge of a life well lived. “Well lived” has meant for them a life filled with adventure and service, but a life which only became a reality after long years of planning and waiting.

Marianne and Charlie met while both were employed at Western Electric in Winston-Salem in 1970. Working together, they gradually fell in love and married in 1982. It was the second marriage for both. As “goal-oriented people” (Charlie’s phrase), they then immediately began planning their life together. They continued working until each could retire early, then sailed to “all the nice places” on a sailboat which would become their home. The latter part of this decision might have taken some persuading on Charlie’s part, since neither of them had ever sailed long-distance in a sailboat before! Nevertheless, as “dreams with deadlines” often do, the first part developed a glitch right away. When Charlie retired, Marianne discovered to her dismay that she would have to work another two years in order to retire along with him! So, Charlie rolled up his sleeves again and worked those extra two years as well, just to attain their goal as originally planned. On the last day of summer, 1982, their new life began – they departed on a week-long trip from Sea Bright, NJ, in

22 | ForsythWoman.com

a 25-foot sloop named “Seagull” with no destination in mind, “except to fulfill a longtime dream.” What followed over the years were many adventures at sea, some of them exciting and even dangerous (to the eye of the landlubber), but most of them tranquil and infinitely relaxing. These included voyages in various-sized sailboats (the last no less than 42feet long) up and down the eastern seaboard from New York City to the Bahamas. All in all, they left more than 20,000 miles of water in their wake during years of two-person sailing.

They lived on the longer boat for four years until they finally found the perfect home port in Little River, SC (near Myrtle Beach). There they built a house when the first of their six grandchildren came along. During summers they spent time with the local Power Squadron, teaching and honing their sailing skills; during winters they sailed to the Bahamas. In between sailing trips, they visited the non-navigable destinations they had always wanted to see – the Grand Canyon, Hawaii, Portugal, Australia, Alaska, Costa Rica, Mexico, the Panama Canal, Uganda, Israel, Greece and Germany.

While at sea, the couple, especially Charlie, had also embarked on a spiritual journey paralleling their travels in the world. Charlie had read religious works for years without becoming completely convinced. Then, one perfect night on entering Chesapeake Bay, he knelt down in the cabin of their boat and told Marianne he now believed in Jesus. Still, he remained a stranger to the Church. When they had married, Marianne, a churchgoer since childhood, had decided she was not going to sit home every Sunday morning and went go to church without Charlie, even if she had to sit alone. For a time, she did just that. Gradually, this arrangement began to trouble Charlie – who was his vivacious wife sitting with every Sunday? In the end, his worry began to get the best of him. He got up one Sunday, dressed for church and announced that he was going with her. For both of them, that was the start of a dedicated Christian life of faith and service which has taken them nearly around the world.

The Lord does indeed work in mysterious ways, his wonders to perform.

The Schuler’s have compiled their adventures in a recent book, The Schuler Saga; Adventures of Charlie and Marianne, which they have self-published for their family, especially the grandchildren. You can order this book about their “fantastic” adventures at www.Lulu.com, by typing in “THE SCHULER SAGA.” If you would like to share sea stories, faith journeys

or anything else with Charlie and Marianne, their email address is Charlie34@sc.rr.com. This is truly a book for those who “love adventure, love sailing and love God.” We’re ecstatic to report that these two are still going strong and doing their thing. In honor of Marianne’s 80th birthday we wanted to revisit their published story and then highlight some specific “Mamaw” moments.

To spend time with Marianne is to know what it means when someone talks about a “glass-halffull” attitude. Everyone gets a smile, whether you’re a busy clerk at the store, a happy child in a stroller, a grumpy flight attendant or an impatient driver. You don’t have to earn it from her; you just have to deal with it. In fact, that’s one of her favorite phrases – “Deal with it!”

Marianne has no time to be drawn into your latest micro-drama about politics or how you’re feeling awfully “hard done by.” Don’t get me wrong, she’s totally empathetic to people’s problems (and even if she wasn’t, she’s southern enough to fake it). You can count on a shoulder to lean or cry on, but what she mostly likes to give is encouragement, hugs and lots of laughs and smiles.

It’s also worth pointing out as she clocks in at 80, that she hasn’t lost any of her spunk.

If there’s a project to be done, party to be planned, country to be explored or a visit to a (fellow) senior to be made; she’s on it. We suspect she’s sneaking in naps more than she used to, but we can’t prove it by any drop-in productivity. It remains a little frustrating to try and find time on her calendar but we – and she – wouldn’t have it any other way.

On the marking of Marianne’s 80th birthday, we give thanks for her love, joy and health and look forward to sharing all those things with her for many more years.

Happy Birthday, Mamaw!

We Are Here When You Need Us!

Pat’s Body Shop

336-945-3767

Gift Certificates Available

COLLISION, DETAILING, INTERIOR, MECHANICAL & TOWING

January 2020 | 23

Vic Khemsara, MD

Summit Eye Care

2020 is the year to take “Dry Eye Disease” seriously Keith Biggs, OD

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.

– 1 Chronicles 16:34 24 | ForsythWoman.com

Laser Cataract Surgery • Dry Eye Center Glaucoma Treatment • Diabetic Treatment Multifocal Lens Implants • General Eye Exams

www.summiteyecare.net • www.facebook.com/SummitEyeCare 336.765.0960 • 3073 Trenwest Drive • Winston-Salem, NC 27103

INTENSE PULSED LIGHT

PHOTOREJUVENATION TREATMENT TO IMPROVE DRY EYE & VARIOUS SKIN CONCERNS

BY KEITH BIGGS, O.D.

Intense pulsed light (IPL) is a non-invasive treatment that delivers high-intensity light into the layers of the skin to improve fine lines, wrinkles, sun spots, and redness. By using specific wavelengths of light, IPL is able to treat skin conditions in a very specific manner.

Dry eye disease is caused by a myriad of factors, with almost all of these factors creating inflammation. The most common cause of dry eye disease is meibomian gland dysfunction.

This is a condition that affects the oil glands in our eyelids, which is responsible for the oil component of the tear film.

Helping to unclog these oil glands with IPL has proven to be an effective treatment in reducing dry eye disease and improving associated symptoms.

Many patients with dry eye have been diagnosed with rosacea.

Rosacea is a common condition that causes redness and visible blood vessels in your face. This can result in flare ups that can last weeks or months. In patients with facial rosacea, it’s common to see this redness and inflammation along the cheeks or brow.

Many patients that have facial rosacea, and many that have no signs on their face, can have ocular rosacea. With ocular rosacea, the abnormal blood vessel growth in the eyelids can lead to inflammation, thus resulting in dry eye.

Salemtowne Retirement

Intense pulsed light has been around for a long time; however, it wasn’t long ago that it was discovered to treat dry eye. By using specific wavelengths of light, these abnormal blood vessels can be treated to help reduce inflammation and improve dry eye symptoms. The improvement that you will see cosmetically is an added benefit.

Helping to improve ocular health and allow patients to focus on other things is what the doctors at Summit Eye Care strive to achieve.

If you would like to speak with a doctor, please contact Summit Eye Care to schedule an appointment to discuss if IPL is the right treatment for you.

January 2020 | 25

Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates

Caring for women for a lifetime

BY MARTIE EMORY

Originally from northern Ontario, Canada, Dr. Kesty received her Bachelor’s degree in Biochemistry and Molecular Biology in Minnesota, and then attended Wake Forest Bowman Gray School of Medicine, following by completing her residency at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. She’s delighted to have been able to return to the Winston-Salem area!

A Junior Fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Dr. Kesty’s professional interests include contraceptive counseling, high-risk obstetrics, vulvar dermatology, robotic and minimally invasive gynecologic surgery, and urogynecology. When not treating patients and learning more about her professional focus, she enjoys running, biking, traveling, spending time with her family, and discovering new places to swim.

Also recently joining the practice, Dr. Nicholas Schoenbachler completed his residency at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center, and remaining in the area was an easy choice.

Turning 50 years old in 2020, Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates first opened its doors in 1970 and has served women in the Winston-Salem and surrounding area well by sharing ideas and resources among its physicians and focusing on continued education in new and advanced methods for changing women’s lives.

Consider the term “woman care,” and you’ll immediately realize women of all ages and backgrounds present with different healthcare needs, at all stages of life. The strong, personable Lyndhurst team of physicians, physician assistants, nurse practitioners, and dedicated staff are the trusted professionals to have on your side through every one of those stages!

Starting with complete physical exams, pap tests, breast exams, wellness exams and overall good health promotion (now that it’s a bright new year!), the range of Lyndhurst’s professional services also includes complete obstetrics, birth control and family planning counseling, mammogram counseling, menopause counseling, and hormone therapy.

They also offer ultrasound evaluation of pelvic pain, help for painful or irregular menstrual cycles, osteoporosis screening and bone density testing, as well as minimally invasive laparoscopic surgery, vaginal hysterectomy, and reconstruction for prolapse, and laparoscopic hysterectomy.

Dr. Kendra Kesty joined the practice in September of 2019 and is proud to be part of the Lyndhurst tradition.

“Our team at Lyndhurst has a shared vision of providing the best womancentered healthcare possible,” she says. “We stand on the shoulders of our founders and long-standing partners, who have molded this practice into the best place in the world for women to get preventative and obstetric/gynecologic care.

A unique and valuable aspect of our practice is a shared attitude as providers to “never sweat alone.”

For example, we discuss and reexamine difficult cases together in order to continually improve our practice and care.”

“I grew up in a small town in Mississippi, and when my wife and I were considering where to plant our roots and raise our family, we knew we wanted a place that retains that small-town feel. We found that to be true here in Winston-Salem!” says Dr. Schoenbachler. “I like that Lyndhurst has been a staple in this community for 50 years, and multiple times a week I have the opportunity to meet a patient who has been receiving care from our practice for 30 plus years, or an expectant mother who tells me they were personally delivered by one of the late partners.”

Dr. Schoenbachler graduated with a B.S. in Biological Sciences from Mississippi State University, and then attended the University of Mississippi for medical school. His clinical interests include obstetrics, minimally invasive and pelvic surgery, urinary incontinence, pelvic floor disorders, and general gynecology.

In his free time, Dr. Schoenbachler enjoys spending time with his wife Morgan and their two children, Dawson and Hart, attending Twin City Bible Church, and enjoying the great outdoors through hiking, fishing, and camping in the North Carolina Mountains.

Last fall, the practice added a pair of talented new physicians, each with specific areas of focus, both with the Lyndhurst dedication to excellence.

To learn more about the full range of services at Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates, visit lyndhurstgyn.com, or call the Winston-Salem office at 336765-9350, the Kernersville office at 336-993-4532, Mount Airy office at 336-789-9076, or King office at 336-765-9350.

26 | ForsythWoman.com

Proud Home of CenteringPregnancy®

Lyndhurst

CenteringPregnancy® is a model of prenatal care that combines the traditional prenatal visit with an educational session within a group setting. During your pregnancy, you’ll meet with your provider and a small group of other women who are all due around the same time for 8 sessions. CenteringPregnancy® adds an element of social support where moms share experiences and learn from each other. This model of prenatal care also promotes active engagement in your own healthcare and provides detailed and thorough education to prepare you for pregnancy, childbirth, and the postpartum phase. Call us today for more information!

111 Hanestown Court, Suite 151 Winston-Salem, NC 27103 336.765.9350

www.lyndhurstgyn.com

We are in the Novant & Wake Forest Baptist Health Networks.

January 2020 | 27

DO’S & DON’TS

of professional disagreement

There is a 100% chance that you’re going to disagree with someone at your job or along your career path. The phrase, “Disagreement is inevitable, disrespect is optional” is a mantra of my own that I use in life and when coaching professionals, and I’m often surprised when folks tell me how much they hate voicing their opinions because it’s always going to end in an argument.

Not only is that very false, but it’s also unhealthy and a great way to enforce a toxic work environment. You can voice your professional opinion in a way that doesn’t involve you being a doormat or the office “jerk” with a few simple tips:

DON’T ALWAYS GO INTO A “FEEDBACK SANDWICH”

I would like to find the person who started the idea of the “feedback sandwich” and ask them to recall it for a few years.

One of the first things people usually say when we start a conversation about feedback is, “Oh! I know all about the feedback sandwich! Put the constructive feedback in the center of two compliments.” This… is not the best idea. Some people need direct information, and by adding more sentences or ideas around it, that constructive feedback or disagreement gets lost.

Also, when you’re disagreeing with someone, starting with an affirmation often leads to the word “But” in front of your opinion – which automatically elevates it. Is your intention to elevate your opinion over someone else’s? No? Then don’t sandwich just because you read about it once in a business article.

DO USE “I” STATEMENTS

Assertive language is always a good idea in disagreements – and remember, assertiveness is not the same as aggressiveness. Being assertive means you are using an “I” statement to not only state a personal opinion, but you’re also taking care of yourself, and not at the expense of others.

If you’re making a statement in a disagreement, it’s much more effective to say “I think” or “I feel” versus “Everyone feels” or “You think” – because you aren’t everyone and you aren’t that person! By using an “I” statement, you’re speaking for yourself and only yourself.

28 | ForsythWoman.com

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

DON’T IGNORE YOUR EMOTIONS

How do you feel about disagreements? Does conflict make you freeze up or stress out? Check in – take a moment right now to identify how you feel about conflict. If it stresses you out just to think about it, you probably bring that emotion into all of the conflicts you’re part of. That fight or flight feeling (or freeze, for some people) spreads to the person you’re talking to and elevates the conflict.

Think of the last time something got so blown out of proportion, and when you look back on it, you’re like, “Whoa, this was nothing, and not a big deal.” Emotions probably snuck in, got in the way, and overcomplicated things.

Be aware of what you’re bringing in to any conflict. If you’re emotionally involved with whatever you disagree with, your responses are going to be heightened and more so than they would if you were emotionally attached to it. Don’t ignore the emotion – by better understanding them; you’ll be more likely to either keep them in check or admit they are getting in the way of the professional disagreement staying professional.

DO STICK WITH FACTS

This one ties into the last – when you’re paying attention to your emotions, you need to also pay attention to the facts.

One of the best ways to be sure you are, indeed, aware of any biases or heightened emotions, is to pay attention to the facts.

By sticking with the facts, your “side” of the argument will be more than a rant. If you’re also using assertive language, a statement starting with “I feel” is fact – it’s how you feel, and a statement of your opinion.

Finally, and perhaps the largest Do and Don’t – do remember you and the person you’re disagreeing with are professionally connected. There’s no need to be a jerk or disrespectful. It’s better to walk away than be rude – for both of you.

Homestead Hills

January 2020 | 29

Can We Make the Four-Day Workweek Happen For Everyone?

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

By now, you’ve probably read more than a few articles and thought-pieces on the idea of the four-day workweek. In case you missed it, employees at Microsoft Japan worked four days a week all summer – getting three-day weekends and a normal five-day paycheck. The result wasn’t just happier employees, but also a productivity boost of 40%. This information essentially took the career world by storm, causing several businesses to test out this concept to similar results.

Beyond productivity, there were some even better outcomes, as meetings were cut from 60 minutes to 30, attendance at these meetings was limited to five employees, electricity use fell 23%, and printing dropped by 60%. Less pointless meetings, more focused attendance on who needs to be in these meetings, instead of meetings for the sake of meetings, and less energy and waste?

WOW right? I don’t know about you, but I’m already planning what to do with my extra day: trips, sleep, books, more plant shopping. One extra day might stave off the Sunday Scaries, that anxiety that kicks in Sunday midday that you’ve wasted the weekend catching up on life and adult things – or just sitting in your PJs on the couch watching Disney Plus. Hold up though: like many things in the workplace, this idea isn’t for everyone.

What might this look like in practice? Well, for starters, you’re not working 8-hour days – you’re still logging 40 hours a week, only in 10-hour days. This can be good and bad: yes, you’re opening up a full day for folks to have personal time, reduce stress, do their work smarter and ultimately, faster – you’re also creating a bit of a problem for working parents who live by daycare hours, or businesses that might need customer support five days a week.

Also, ten hours of work is A LOT of work hours in a row – some folks might not be able to concentrate that long. If you start work at 6 am, you’d be done by 5 pm with an hour lunch, but if you start at the normal 9 am, you’re in the office until 8 pm – what happens to home tasks that have previously been spread out during the week? Do they all get done on that extra day off, essentially negating that day for “stress relief” – because I don’t know about you, but doing all your adulting on one day seems pretty stressful to me?

But are four-day workweeks the next big thing in a long line of employee “perks”? Employers are pulling out all the stops in attracting talent in the competitive job market – from the shortened week to pet insurance, incentives are getting greater and grander, but is it all for nothing when it’s shown most people simply want a flexible work environment?

Consider the opportunity to work four days a week versus the idea of working remotely – or even the option of remote work. Would you rather pull four 10-hour days in a row, getting either Monday or Friday off in addition to your weekend, or have the opportunity to work remotely when you would like, logging in a half-day at home once in a while?

The answer isn’t so simple: while studies show that the four-day workweek increases productivity at many workplaces, so does the option of remote work and a flexible schedule. The truth is, nothing is going to be the perfect fit for everyone. Some employees will find productivity in four days, others need the constrictions of five, and some need the ability to work on the road or at home with their families without being penalized or chided for the flexibility.

Before you kick the idea off in your workplace – or kick it to the curb – spend some time talking to your employees and employer about what folks need. Don’t jump on a trend to be trendy – meet the needs of the people that matter and watch your productivity soar.

30 | ForsythWoman.com

RELAX • RENEW • RESTORE

Beauty | Wellness | Culture

Halo Salon

New year, Most Beautiful You!! $20 Gift for Hair Color $20 Gift for Facials mention this ad. restrictions apply.

haloaveda.com (336) 893-9604 Hours 10:00 AM - 8:00 PM 690 Jonestown Road Winston-Salem, North Carolina 27103

Adjacent to ETC consignment & Tinderbox Fitness

January 2020 | 31

517 N. LIBER T Y STREE T • WINSTON-SALEM • 336.955.1463 • THE TROPHYROOMWS.COM

BY ROSEY, PHOTOS BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

32 | ForsythWoman.com

Sometimes, we like to shake things up a bit with Rosey’s Review, and what better way to kick off a new year by doing exactly that. And what that means for this month is a review of The Trophy Room – a bourbon bar in the heart of Winston-Salem. (Lest you’re confused – we did sample food as evidenced by the gorgeous photos by Photo Artistry by Melinda.)

To explain things, The Trophy Room is a part of Dogwood Hops and Crops, and the soon-to-be-open Young Cardinal Café. Owners Adam Andrews, Austin Ridge, and Joey Hurdle have been lifelong friends, and together, they saw a unique opportunity to offer a different kind of bar experience in the heart of the Triad.

Open since 2017, The Trophy Room specializes in bourbon.

Head bartender, Al Lamaur, oversees the operations and works with Austin and Adam to source bourbons from around the world. “North Carolina has some pretty strict laws on alcohol,” explained Al, “but if we can get it – we will.” The bar prides itself on offering variety, and a look at the shelves will leave one in awe – certainly, I had no idea that there were so many different brands of bourbon on the market! But if you’re confused – just ask Al. She is the resident expert on everything bourbon.

Al has worked as a full-time bartender for seven years, with six of those years focused on the art of bourbon. “I’m passionate about bourbon and have even completed the Bourbon Trail of Kentucky,” she continued. “We have award-winning bourbons we serve – hence the name of the bar, ‘The Trophy Room.’”

But let’s talk ambiance before we get to food (and how it happened to be served in a bourbon bar). The Trophy Room is like stepping into a speakeasy of unparalleled sophistication. It’s a moody, dark space that oozes an elegant kind of gloom, yet the atmosphere is vibrant with personality and warmth. It’s a great place to escape from the stress of the outside world.

And that’s precisely what they’ve designed it to be.

Patrons of The Trophy Room have the opportunity to invest in lockers where they can store their own personal bottle of bourbon (purchased through The Trophy Room), complete with a nameplate and a signature keychain that denotes their standing. Obviously, space is limited, but it’s a unique way to make The Trophy Room home to bourbon enthusiasts of Winston-Salem. Moreover, Al explained that those who are locker key holders never have to worry about a tab or upcharges on cocktails. Simply rent the locker, tip your bartender accordingly, and rotate your bottle every four months, and the locker fee is waived after the initial investment.

Pretty cool, right?

But let’s get to the food. The Trophy Room has partnered with Jeffrey Adams and every third Wednesday of the month, they feature Prime Rib night. Plus, they occasionally feature pop up dinners! This month, we were invited to try it out.

Obviously, seating is limited, so you’re going to want to go online (TheTrophyRoomWS.com) and make sure you reserve your seat quickly! The fee of $55 covers a generous portion of prime rib, salad, sides, dessert, and three samples of bourbon, so tuck in and let me tell you about our dinner.

We started the evening with Arugula Salad with Balsamic Dressing. While the salad on Prime Rib night may rotate from time to time based on the freshness of the greens and veggies, I hope, for your sake, this one makes a frequent appearance. A delightful bed of arugula is topped with pickled red onions, mandarin oranges, dried cranberries, cashews, and goat cheese crumbles. It is, in a word, divine.

There was so much flavor in every bite!

Our salad was served with Basil Hayden’s Bourbon, which was not as strong as your typical bourbon. It’s a drinkable bourbon that has a softer side, versus the typical bite and burn on bourbon. A Kentucky bourbon, it’s only 80 proof, making it a lighter option and with a slight hint of spice and cinnamon.

Our entrée was, of course, Prime Rib. Y’all – I love me some prime rib. This generous cut was served with au jus and of course, spicy and creamy horseradish sauce. With a peppered crust, the prime rib is melt-inyour-mouth-delicious. I loved the flavor.

Honestly, I could have just been happy with the prime rib, but then they said, “Smoked Gouda Mac & Cheese.” Be still my beating heart – this smoky interpretation of mac and cheese is nothing like you’ve ever tasted. With a delicious bread crumb topping, it’s a carb-lovers dream with lots of cheesy goodness and a hint of smoky flavor that just adds to the perfection of this dish.

Before we ate our meal, we were told about our dinner, and when they said “assorted veggies,” I didn’t give that a whole lot of thought. I was thinking of the traditional squash and zucchini medley. But they were just being modest. This was so much more – a generous and colorful assortment of mixed vegetables – roasted peppers, asparagus, portabella mushrooms, and my personal favorite: Brussels sprouts!

The entrée was served with a bourbon called Angel’s Envy. Another Kentucky bourbon (fun fact – 95% of the world’s bourbon is from Kentucky), Angel’s Envy is 86.6% proof and finished in port wine barrels. It packs a little bit of a burn, and it was a perfect complement to our dinner.

We were told Chocolate Crème Brûlée was next, so like any self-respecting Southerner, I finished my vegetables so my mother would be proud of me, and asked for a to-go box for everything else so my husband would be happy when I got home. And I prepared myself for dessert. Of all the Crème Brûlée desserts I’ve tasted – both before and since my life as a restaurant reviewer – I’ve never had a purely chocolate Crème Brûlée. I’ve had white chocolate and Crème Brûlée with chocolate swirls. But creamy, decadent, goodness that leaves one without words but only happy memories – this was a first. And oh, yes, there was fresh whipped cream. It honestly reminded me of a rich brownie flavor, but with that signature burnt sugar on top of creamy Crème Brûlée custard.

For dessert, our bourbon sample was back to the Basil Hayden brand, but we tried the Dark Rye edition.

This was a more luxurious bourbon, with an oaky flavor, and a hint of caramel sweetness and dried fruit.

This was a definite first for me, and I hope you’ll experience it for yourself. It’s was an unexpected surprise for me, and I loved it! The food, the ambiance, and the character of the bar made for a great evening!

Book your own prime rib dinner at The Trophy Room, and be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

January 2020 | 33

Five Tips for Staying Safe in Snowy Weather

BY DEBBIE BARR

WINTER WEATHER TERMS YOU NEED TO KNOW

Freezing Rain Rain that freezes when it hits the ground, creating a coating of ice on roads, walkways, trees and power lines.

Sleet Rain that turns to ice pellets before reaching the ground.

Sleet also causes moisture on roads to freeze and become slippery.

SHOVEL SNOW SAFELY

The snow, ice, and colder temperatures of winter call for a little extra vigilance. To keep yourself and your loved ones safe this winter, follow these tips:

USE SUNSCREEN

What—sunburn in December? Yes, believe it or not, it can happen! Snow can reflect up to 85% of the sun’s rays. If you are going to be spending time outdoors when there is snow on the ground, it’s smart to use sunscreen.

DON’T DRIVE UNLESS YOU HAVE TO

Driving in the snow can be a challenge for anyone, but especially for southerners because we don’t get much practice navigating snow-covered roads. Even if you’re an expert at foul weather driving, many of those you’ll encounter on the roadways aren’t. So if you don’t absolutely have to drive in the snow, don’t. Stay home until the roads have been plowed. If you must drive, follow these tips: • Allow three times more space than usual between your car and the car in front of you.

• Do not attempt to pass snow plows and sand trucks. They have limited visibility.

• Keep sand, kitty litter, salt, or gravel in your trunk. If you get stuck, pour it in the path of your tire path to increase traction.

34 | ForsythWoman.com

If you are a smoker, have high blood pressure, have had a heart attack or are sedentary, shoveling snow may put you at risk for a heart attack. Ask your doctor if it is safe for you to shovel show.

Everyone who shovels snow should follow these tips: • Avoid nicotine and caffeine before you shovel snow. These can increase your heart rate.

• Drink water so you do not get dehydrated.

• Use a shovel with a smaller blade so you don’t lift too much snow at one time.

• Protect your back by bending from the knees and tightening your stomach muscles as you lift. Keep your feet hip width apart to maintain your balance.

• Take breaks and stop if you begin to feel pain.

FOUR TIPS FOR PROTECTING YOUR PETS & OTHER ANIMALS

• If you have dogs, wipe their paws, legs, and tummy after they’ve been in the snow. If you don’t do this, their paws could be irritated by salt, de-icer, or antifreeze. Worse, they could ingest these substances when they lick themselves.

• Never leave a cat or dog in the car when the weather is cold. The car can act like a refrigerator and your pet could freeze.

• Dogs get lost more often in the winter. In snow and ice, they can lose their scent and be unable to find their way back home. Protect your dog with an ID tag and a microchip.

• Move outdoor pets indoors and move livestock to sheltered areas where their drinking water will not freeze.

WATCH FOR SIGNS OF FROSTBITE & HYPOTHERMIA

Signs of frostbite include loss of feeling and a white or pale appearance in extremities such as fingers, toes, ear lobes, and the tip of the nose. If any of these are occur, seek medical attention right away. Signs of hypothermia include uncontrollable shivering, memory loss, disorientation, incoherence, slurred speech, drowsiness, and apparent exhaustion. If you suspect hypothermia, get the victim to a warm location, remove any wet clothing, warm the center of the body first, and give warm, non-alcoholic beverages if the victim is conscious. Call 9-1-1 and cover the person with a blanket if possible.

Winter Weather Advisory Winter weather conditions are expected to cause significant inconveniences and may be hazardous.

When caution is used, these situations should not be life threatening.

Winter Storm Watch A winter storm is possible in your area.

Tune in to NOAA Weather Radio, commercial radio, or television for more information.

Winter Storm Warning A winter storm is occurring or will soon occur in your area.

Blizzard Warning Sustained winds or frequent gusts to 35 miles per hour or greater and considerable amounts of falling or blowing snow (reducing visibility to less than a quarter mile) are expected to prevail for a period of three hours or longer.

Frost/Freeze Warning Below freezing temperatures are expected.

Source: ready.gov/ winter-weather

GRAND OPENING

THE PROM SALON at Nitsa’s

Jovani Sherri Hill La Femme Mac Duggal Faviana

Nitsa’s Apparel

Winston-Salem 336.725.1999 107 South Stratford Road, Stratford Village

nitsas.com #wewearnitsas January 2020 | 35

What’s on Your Window Treatment List for 2020?

It has been about a year since I wrote about window treatments. I am bringing this up again because we feel it is an important element to add to your home. There was a period that window treatments were not as important, and customers thought they wanted to leave their windows bare. There are times that I will suggest leaving them off.

For instance, if there is no one behind the home, and you have a grand view of the outside, you might not want anything to impede your thoughts or view. However, most clients don’t understand that panels of fabric can frame a window and bring the outside into the room. It is like a picture frame that frames someone you love. Window panels are really a beautiful addition. The fabric warms the space. Fabrics on windows finish off your ensemble.

We usually fashion panels along-side the windows and sometimes use Roman shades. As a retail store and design center, we have everything at our beck and call, including samples of fabrics, trims of all colors, and hardware books that offer about anything you want and in any finish. The trend now is to use French returns on small metal poles. It is a cleaner look without finials. Sometimes we do use acrylic poles, normally with gold finishes on the rings and brackets.

This is a modern classic look. Many times, we add trim down the sides of linens. Trims can be geometric neutral, geometric colorful, or embroidery designs, which are very popular. We generally add the trim at the hemline, but sometimes the trim is wide enough to take it to the edge.

We typically use trim on solid fabrics. Prints are also back in style, and there are some beautiful modern prints that make spectacular curtains. As a matter of fact, we can’t wait to see our new fabrics come in from the manufacturers, which is like candy to a child. Colors and patterns are in our blood.

Let’s get your to-do list back out this year and start on the room that you have been putting off by adding window treatments.

Merry Christmas You will not regret it. & Blessings, Window treatments are back in!

© JAY SINCLAIR

Putting a window treatment together can be stressful for most. Therefore, we suggest you get professional help.

We custom make window treatments with the proper lining, proper pleat, and to the proper length. We have our own installer and he is a jewel. Installation is an important detail and some people think they can hang the curtains themselves, until they try it.

I don’t suggest that you select different prints for every room. Mix solids in the group. Prints are wonderful, but with grace. For my home, my guest room has solid linen panels with a geometric trim down the sides. For my dining room, I have blue and white print panels. For my upstairs guest room, which was my daughter’s room, there is a pair of linen embroidery sheer panels. I have not updated her bedroom in ten years, but the time is coming. It is not on the priority list for now. Most of the time, because it has a king bed, guests like to use that room.

The good thing about our house is that it has four additional beds other than the master. We have room for all our family to visit and love the fact that we can entertain everyone at our home during the holidays.

North Carolina’s Premier Interior Design Firm 2575 Old Glory Road, Clemmons | 336-778-1030 36 | ForsythWoman.com

© JAY SINCLAIR

Details, Color & Design

June DeLugas Interiors

It All Begins with

Extraordinary Design Strategic Remodel Planning • Luxury Residential Design • Home Furnishings & Accessories 8 Years!

2018, 2017, 2016, 2016, 2013

2019 WINNER!

Check out our website & Facebook page for Design Tips & Weekly Blog!

www.junedelugasinteriors.com Facebook ∙ Instagram

January 2020 | 37

Your 2020 S olution Hillcrest Vision has spent over ten years building a great reputation for friendly eye care solutions. Led by Dr. Juawana Hall, Hillcrest Vision boasts a comfortable and recently renovated office that utilizes the latest in eye technology. And… that’s the end of the boring part. The fact is, Hillcrest Vision is too awesome of a doctor’s office to present it in any way other than pure 2020 greatness. In fact, I could do an entire article on the full year of puns that will go hand in hand with 2020. Bet you didn’t see that coming, did you? Ba-dum-dum. Instead – don’t take my word for it. Let’s discover what others have to say about Hillcrest Vision!

“The service you receive from Hillcrest Vision goes above and beyond.

The staff is friendly and work well together, and they complement each other in knowledge and strengths. The waiting area is clean and welcoming. Dr. Juawana Hall is a straight to point type doctor that will give you the information you need for your eye health, and the rest is up to you to follow. If you need vision care, consider Hillcrest Vision Center in Winston-Salem, NC. I did, and I live in South Carolina, and I don’t mind the drive to go to someone I know cares.” ~Jackie G. WOW! A patient willing to drive from South Carolina speaks volumes, but her point about Dr. Hall being a straight-to-the-point doctor is 100% accurate. Dr. Hall is friendly, fun, and willing to engage in a conversational, down-to-earth style. But she knows her stuff. And she won’t beat around the bush – she will give you her recommendations in a way that is personable and easily understood.

“This visit was the second time I’ve had an emergency eye problem and was able to get worked in fairly quickly and came out much relieved! Dr. Hall is very calming and caring every time I see her. She explains what is wrong and what she’s doing as she works, which makes for a great visit.

Took care of my problems once again. She’s my hero!” ~Charlotte B. We know the frustration of needing to see a doctor quickly, but also recognize that doctors’ have schedules. It’s nice to know that Dr. Hall is flexible enough to accommodate urgent visits as they come up because – no pun intended – we can’t see the future issues we may have! Dr. Hall has demonstrated to more than one patient her willingness to go the extra mile!

“Hillcrest Vision is a great practice! The office is extremely well-run, and I always feel like my eye care needs are being met. Dr. Hall is extremely thorough and does a great job explaining specifics related to eye care.” ~Emily E. UGH! Don’t you hate it when doctors talk over your head? Some seem to have an extra degree in how to make things more intimidating and frustrating for their patients. But Dr. Hall approaches her patients with a communication style that speaks TO her patients – not AT them. And there’s a big difference.

“Always a pleasure to come to your office. Very courteous staff.” ~George K.

38 | ForsythWoman.com

BY DENISE HEIDEL, PHOTOS BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

While Dr. Hall is the foundation of Hillcrest Vision – she’s put together a dynamic team that excels at taking care of her patients.

Fun, friendly, personable, and engaging – the whole team at Hillcrest Vision exudes a sense of family. They genuinely like one another and invite their patients to be a part of their warm and caring environment.

So there you have it! And I can complete this article with total confidence because I am a Hillcrest Vision patient, too! And Dr. Hall is amazing! I actually look forward to visiting with the team when I go in for my eye appointments and appreciate the extra mile they always go to make sure I have everything I need to see 2020 in the best possible way – and in all the years to come as well!

Hillcrest Vision is located at 2431 Winterhaven Lane in WinstonSalem. Call them at 760.2020, visit them online at HillcrestVision. com and be sure to “like” them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram.

WITH EVERY HAIR BOTOX SERVICE RECEIVE A FREE TRAVEL SIZE CONDITIONING MASK TO PROLONG YOUR RESULTS AT HOME.

Paparazzi Hair Salon

For up to 95% more resilience against breakage*, designed to repair and protect the hair against breakage and damage. Our formula is fortified with the silksteel fusion program, inspired by spider silk, one of the strongest fibers in nature. It penetrates deep down the cortex and instantly recovers hair fiber and helps to prevent future hair breakage. Even the most damaged hair feels renewed, smooth, elastic and resilient against breakage. * vs. non-conditioning shampoo

NEW CLIENT SPECIAL 20% ANY SERVICE (Mention Forsyth Woman when booking).

Paparazzi is the best salon I have ever been too.

The atmosphere is friendly and relaxing. The hair stylists do a great job and the prices are reasonable.

I highly recommend this salon Dolores H. Love this place! Great atmosphere and knowledgeable staff.

Angie S.

MONDAYS ALL DAY Men’s cuts $12 w/hot towel Age 12+

WEDNESDAYS Wow Brow Waxing $10

I love Paparazzi Hair Salon.

They always do a great job on my hair. Very talented people.

They know how to do hair.

Tammy W.

VOTED #1!

6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court • Suite 6A • Clemmons, NC 336-893-7169 • www.paparazzihairsalon.com Monday - Friday 9am - 7pm | Saturday 9am - 4pm

January 2020 | 39

New Year,

Skip New Resolutions

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Let’s talk about failed resolutions, shall we?

I am going to go to the gym 5-6 times a week, crank out some cardio and lift weights. I cannot wait to see how amazing my transformation is going to be! …come March 1, I’m maybe going once a week, and judging by how few people I see on the elliptical now, I’m not alone.

I am going to stop getting takeout and coffee from the coffee shop. I’ve been Pinterest-ing so many great meals for the week, I bought a new coffee pot for home, and I am ready to save all of that money! …come February 20, I’m surrounded

by Starbucks cups and expensive salad bowl receipts.

I am going to meditate/journal/take time for me every day! Look at this fancy journal I got to log my process to Zen. …come March 30, that journal is buried and that meditation app hasn’t been opened in weeks.

This isn’t just me – a 2016 study out of the University of Scranton estimates that less than 10% of New Year’s resolutions are achieved. Not surprising, especially when behavior is so difficult to change, especially when you don’t think about the science behind it. If you want to change a habit, you have to essentially create a new one, and start easy and small. For example:

40 | ForsythWoman.com

In 2020 I’m going to exercise more!

This isn’t small or easy. Think of everything that goes into exercising more! You’re taking time out of your schedule, which is probably already pretty busy. You’re pushing yourself physically.

Depending on how much your exercise now, you have to decide what “more” actually is – and be specific about it!

You also need to change what people refer to as “self-stories.” We all have current stories about how we interact with the world around us. By rewriting your self-story, you can break the habits you’re effectively trying to change with a new resolution. That’s usually what resolutions are, right? You’re trying to get rid of an old habit that isn’t serving you well and create a new one that will make life better. Back to my earlier examples: Resolution: Going to the gym more New Habit: Exercise and being “healthy” Old Habit: “Unhealthy” behaviors Resolution: Stop eating out New Habit: Frugal choices with food spending Old Habit: Excessive spending on takeout Resolution: Meditate and journal New Habit: Take care of mental health Old Habit: Disregard or little attention to mental health

To change the story around those habits, you need to understand where the story is right now. Let’s take the first one, going to the gym more: The story is that you haven’t been taking part in behaviors that make you feel your best. You haven’t been prioritizing them, making time, or making enough of an effort, whether that be completely on you or on outside factors (both are valid).

The NEW story might include you taking time out to make extra physical effort – maybe that starts as simple and specific as taking the stairs to your office or parking in the back of the parking lot to start adding physical activity to your day, especially on weeks you know you’ll be too busy to make it to the gym as much as you’d like.

This might seem simple – but stories, specifically the one we tell ourselves – are powerful. And while you might be thinking, “Oh, this won’t work,” I would love to hear your success record for your resolutions – even the ones from last year.

That’s what I thought.

See you on the other side of your new, specific, and easy story that will guide you into the New Year.

WINNER

Best Chinese

HakkaChow

WINNER

FINALIST

Best Asian

Best Sushi

MONDAY | Draft Beer $3 TUESDAY | Selected Martini Cocktails $5 WEDNESDAY | Selected Cocktails $6 THURSDAY | Half Price Wine by The Glass FRIDAY | Flavored Sake Half Price

Catering

by The Glass BEST ASIAN 2015 | RUNNER UP FOR BEST SUSHI 2015!

SUNDAY | SUSHI SPECIAL

BoGo Half Price Bloody Mary & Mimosa $5

Sushi Happy Hour Mon-Thu 4-6

*selected menu bar top only

EVERYDAY LUNCH SPECIALS $6.95 - $9.95

Poke Bowls & New Sushi Rolls

(336) 893-8178 | hakka-chow.com 615 Saint George Sq Ct | Winston-Salem, NC 27103 | M-Th 11:30a - 9:30p | F 11:30a - 10p | Sa 12p - 10p | Su 12p - 9p (Right off Hanes Mall Blvd. across from the Wynnsong 12 Movie Theater)

January 2020 | 41

42 | ForsythWoman.com

Second Harvest Food Bank

January 2020 | 43

A 12-Month Reference Guide

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

An aching body leads to a feeling that soon, additional symptoms will arrive. We often bypass overthe-counter medication in hopes a hot shower and a good night’s sleep is the cure. The solution is in understanding the power of medicinal herbs. In loving the smell and taste of peppermint, chamomile and lavender, for instance, every herb or combination can eliminate symptoms, especially in the onset of sickness. With a list of home remedies, you can relieve, recover and restore!

Common Cold: One of the remedies of sneezing, coughing and body aches is to find a couch and become enveloped by fleece blankets while holding a mug of fragrant tea. Not just any teabag will do. The vital ingredients are: • Echinacea: It stimulates the immune system while impacting bacterial infections and viruses.

It also contains antioxidants.

• Chamomile: A popular herb, chosen for its soothing properties to ease stomachaches and body pain, and promote sleep.

• Peppermint: The leaves of this wonder herb contain antibacterial, antiviral and anti-inflammatory properties. It can boost energy levels, improve feelings of nausea and fight clogged sinuses.

Beyond the steeped cup of tea, don’t forget to add lemon (to alleviate the congestion) and a teaspoon of raw, unfiltered honey (to soothe the throat.) Drinking hot tea warms the body, potentially promotes sleep and aids hydration.

Flu Symptoms: The berries of elderberry are full of antioxidants and vitamins that promote a boost to the immune system. The syrup is a versatile solution for all ailments. While it aids inflammations and stress, it can significantly reduce the symptoms of body aches and colds, too.

Excessive Dry Skin or Rashes: Make a cup of chamomile tea. After soaking a cotton cloth within the infusion, apply it as a compress and repeat two or three times a day (depending upon the severity of the rash).

Chapped Lips: The change of weather from hot to cold doesn’t just alter our wardrobe. It also affects the moisture in our skin and lips. And, there’s nothing worse than chapped lips. The difficulty with topicals is that they take time to work. A solution that possesses both antioxidants and can hydrate parched skin is possible.

Try using a cooled tea bag of green tea. Place on your lip for a few minutes. To help promote moisture in the home and air, use a humidifier throughout the dry season, especially in the bedrooms.

Mouth Pain: Mint is a powerful herb to aid in moments of pain, whether it is a sore throat or mouth pain; therefore, consider drinking peppermint tea with a teaspoon of honey!

Tired Eyes: After drinking a cup of chamomile tea, place the tea bag in the refrigerator for 20 minutes. Rest the bag on your eyes for 10 minutes and feel the difference!

44 | ForsythWoman.com

Seasonal Allergies: One teaspoon of raw, unfiltered honey during allergy season can reduce inflammation in the cell membranes while promoting the body’s health. Store-bought honey does not contain sources of antioxidants or possess antibacterial and antifungal properties. Both garlic and rosemary are natural antihistamines and can improve the immune system. During the winter, seek out recipes that include herbs, especially garlic and rosemary.

Bug Bites: Rather than spending the summer covered in pink lotion, try an alternative approach – oils. Lemon eucalyptus, peppermint, lavender or lemongrass may be the solution you require. A small dab to the infected area eliminates the need to scratch and also promotes healing.

Eczema, Diaper Rash, Sunburn: Of course, you can buy a lotion; however, a homemade container of infused coconut oil and chamomile works great and is less expensive! The mixture boosts healing due to the antibacterial properties of coconut oil and the soothing effects of chamomile.

Directions: In a four-ounce mason jar, add a half-cup of coconut oil and either one teaspoon of chamomile flowers or one chamomile tea bag. Make sure the flowers or bag is fully covered. Screw on the lid.

Place the jar in a crockpot. Add hot water until it consumes half of the jar. Set on warm for four hours. Afterward, strain the flowers through a cheesecloth or remove the teabag. Wait until the oil hardens to use. Good for six months.

Trellis Supportive Care

January 2020 | 45

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON, secondstagelifestylecoach.com

“You are the Queen of Reinvention,” my trusted co-worker and friend declared. The translation came easily: he was impressed with my ability to be intentional and disciplined about initiating change. The unexpected moniker brings me back to who I was then: a young professional peering down the fast track, looking for another lane. I didn’t want the MBA or the traditional trajectory that would make me a female success story in a corporation eager to promote my gender. While I respected the intent and was deeply grateful for the belief in my potential, I had the undeniable sense that it wasn’t for me.

The Queen of Reinvention would have to create her own lane.

True to my Capricorn nature, my approach was organized and sure-footed. A time before cell phones and iPods, I carried around a three-ring binder sectioned off by the different professional roles I was exploring. In each section, I had the names and office phone numbers of people I was pursuing for informational interviews, including dates of contact, follow-up notes, and next steps. As much as I relished the idea of a crown, this “Queen of Reinvention” thing felt like a misnomer; something about it wasn’t sitting right with me. I was keenly aware that I wasn’t reinventing myself, as in “You’re out of here and good riddance. Time for something new.” It was far more nuanced and self-respecting than that. I knew intuitively that reinvention didn’t have to be a dismissal of who or how I had been in my life or in my professional roles. Instead, it could be a natural evolution informed by my introspection, honesty, self-awareness, and courage. That lane had my name written all over it, and I set off. It proved to be the genesis of my “reinvention,” one that aligned with my interests, my values, and how I wanted to grow as a person and as a professional.

46 | ForsythWoman.com

You may be thinking that it’s easier, safer even, to travel those well-paved, familiar lanes. And besides, traveling in your own lane sounds like a whole lot of work and you’re not sure that you want to go there. I get it, and you don’t need to make a hasty decision. Pull into a rest stop and consult with your inner GPS to envision what might be possible if you took one or more of these five actions: • examined your choices as a series of connecting lanes on a journey called “My Life” • claimed what has always been true and right for you based on your passions, values, and priorities • reclaimed what you have lost, put aside, or been talked out of • unloaded some baggage that continues to weigh you down • said “No” to someone else’s well-intentioned idea about what’s next for you Get ready to be amazed as you discover that being a Queen of Reinvention means traveling a lane named “Right for Me.” The journeys of reinvention of the women I know and admire were marked by many a “GPS consult” that yielded insight and greater authenticity. A friend in mid-career unloaded a ton of old baggage and rediscovered her joy and ambition in the process.

Another found herself traveling in a traditional post-retirement lane, then got her groove back in a new way in a lane of her own making.

Look around. Take inspiration from the Queens of Reinvention in your own circles of connection.

Then, consider this: before you engage in the love-hate dance of making resolutions to kick start your 2020, pull over. Reconnect with your inner GPS and stay there a while. Once you know you are in the right lane, craft your resolutions so that they support your journey – the one you want to be on.

mak

Goo

es e

d fo

od…

ven b

ette

r ne

ighb

ors

Social Southern Kitchen Stoked Wood Road Fired Pub Robinhood

5232 Robinhood Village Dr | 336.893.8737

5312 Robinhood Village Dr | 336.815.8000

Tue - Sat 5:00pm - 10:00pm

Tue - Wed 4:30pm-10pm | Thu - Sat 11:30am - 10pm | Sun 12pm-8pm (nfl package)

socialsouthernkitchen.com

stokedwoodfiredpub.com

Proudly Serving the Triad for 40 Years in Property Management & Real Estate

Vista Realty

Happy New Year!

(336)768-1433 www.vistarealtyinc.net #improvingyourview

January 2020 | 47

TRELLIS SUPPORTIVE CARE

COMMEMORATING 40 YEARS OF CARE IN OUR COMMUNITY WINDING OUR WAY DOWN MEMORY LANE An impassioned young nurse, Linda Scherl, was sitting in an association meeting in 1977 when she first heard about the concept of hospice care. She followed the presenters out of the room and said, “This is for me.” She soon became our first Executive Director and pacesetter of the hospice movement in North Carolina.

Linda Darden, the current president and CEO, had the same feeling many years later under different circumstances.

She had enjoyed a long career with Wake Forest Baptist Health when she realized that the work of hospice, and this organization, was for her.

Join us for a walk down memory lane with both Linda and Linda.

1977 – 1979 It all began with volunteers, also known as the “Back Porch Gang,” who officially organized and opened Hospice of Winston-Salem/Forsyth County as the first hospice in NC and cared for our state’s first patient in 1979.

1978 1980 Hospice successfully graduates first volunteer training class.

48 | ForsythWoman.com

Our philosophy of care was embraced!

Winston-Salem’s major medical centers began referring patients for specialized, compassionate, homebased hospice care.

1985 Nationally, hospices were being recognized as the exceptional model of care, so much so that hospice became a Medicare Benefit in 1985.

1990 – 1991 We expanded our grief counseling services to anyone in the community seeking support after the loss of a loved one. Camp Carousel was established as a bereavement camp – serving as a model for hospice organizations throughout the country.

1998 Our Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home (KBR) opened and served 405 families in the first year – providing a beautiful, home-awayfrom-home for patients and families needing 24-hour support.

(L-R) JoAnn Davis, Linda Scherl, Deborah Dailey) Since our inception as Hospice of Winston-Salem/ Forsyth County, these five individuals have been the fearless leaders of this organization.

Linda Scherl - 1979 - 1988 Deborah Dailey - 1988 - 1995 JoAnn Davis - 1995 - 2011 Brian Payne - 2011 - 2014 Linda Darden - 2014 - Present

2000 We changed our name to Hospice & Palliative CareCenter to better reflect our services and spotlight palliative care.

2001 We established a Community Partnership for End of Life Care, bringing together 250 community organizations and individuals committed to end-of-life care.

2003 – 2006 We begin serving families from dedicated offices in Salisbury, Mocksville, and Walnut Cove.

In 2005, we moved from rented office space on Stratford Road and dedicated our beautiful campus on Hospice Lane in Winston-Salem with our Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home at its center.

2011 – 2012 We dedicated our Wells Fargo Veteran’s Garden at KBR and became a leader in caring for veterans, joining the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization’s We Honor Veterans program.

2018 We changed our name to Trellis Supportive Care to stand out amidst a growing number of hospice care organizations while promoting our philosophy of a framework of support.

As Trellis Supportive Care commemorates its 40th anniversary, president and CEO Linda Darden shared, “I have to say what an honor it is to share the vision of our founders and to work with a devoted team striving to create the best possible care experience for every single patient and family. We can’t make saying goodbye any easier; yet we can ease the pain and provide caregivers with the peace of mind that they have made the best choice for their loved one’s care. We will always treasure our deep roots in the community and the decades of support that have allowed this special organization to care for so many families, friends, and neighbors.”

January 2020 | 49

BY AMY DIXON, OWNER OF INNER STRENGTH PILATES

Amy Dixon is celebrating 18 years of studio ownership! She began in 2002 with a teeny yoga studio that held one reformer for private sessions. Throw in six location changes, a couple of business name changes, and here we are! Inner Strength Pilates (ISP) is officially eight years old! We are a fully outfitted Pilates Studio with the best staff in Winston-Salem! Our staff of 13 have over 170 years of combined experience. “We have been blessed beyond measure, and we are so grateful to be able to share our love of Pilates and wellness with you!”

A UNIQUE PILATES EXPERIENCE What happens when you take the most qualified, experienced Pilates staff in the city and place them all under one roof? You get the best possible Pilates experience customtailored to fit your needs!

Changing the Posture of Winston-Salem, one spine at a time!

50 | ForsythWoman.com

January 2020 | 51

PILATES

Pilates is a unique form of exercise developed by Joseph Pilates.

At Inner Strength Pilates, our focus is proper form and function to create a strong and stable core. Pilates ensures a stable foundation on which to build. Once there is a stable foundation, we can construct the rest of your house! Alignment, strength, and endurance will all improve. Conditioning your body with precision of movement will also improve one’s lean muscle mass, flexibility, muscular balance, and posture.

Come in and see one of our nine Certified Pilates Teachers to get started!

A regular Pilates practice can enhance athletic ability, help to reduce stress, promote healthy breathing patterns, and create a deeper mind-body connection. In today’s society, Pilates has become increasingly relevant, since so many of us sit for prolonged periods of time. Core strength training and therapeutic exercise have become even more valuable in order to avoid or manage many common injuries.

Interested in teaching? We also offer Polestar Pilates Teacher Training. Amy is teaching the next series soon!

The question isn’t, “Should I do Pilates?” The question is, “Why aren’t you?”

MOVEMENT RESTORE THERAPY

Movement Restore Therapy is a combination of 26 years of Amy’s experience and learning. Movement Restore Therapy is ideal for all rehabilitation situations, whether it is chronic pain and illness, joint surgeries, breast cancer, pregnancy, or post-partum. In spine and disc pathologies, it can help align, strengthen, and decompress injured vertebrae. Amy also specializes in Scolio-Pilates and Pilates for Osteoporosis, as well as NeuroMuscular Reprogramming.

Clients in pain often experience a Catch-22—movement is essential to healing, but movement hurts; it is easy to get stuck in a pain/ fear-of-movement cycle. In Movement Restore Therapy with Inner Strength, you will learn gentle, safe movements that can break

52 | ForsythWoman.com

the pain cycle, and help prevent the guarding and tension that inhibits recovery. We work with many local Physical Therapists and Ortho Doctors to help bridge the gap for patients on their recovery and wellness path.

THE EGOSCUE METHOD

Egoscue Postural Therapy is not a form of treatment that chases after short term relief of symptoms. Our primary objective is to eliminate musculoskeletal system disparities and the resulting postural dysfunctions that interfere with pain-free living. The only Certified Egoscue Therapist in NC is located at ISP. Here’s a great analogy…..If your right front tire keeps going bald from that pothole you hit a few months ago, you don’t replace the tire over and over again, right? You go to a trusted mechanic for an ALIGNMENT! So the same can be said for the frame of your body. Out of whack means a joint is grinding or a muscle is sleeping at the switch somewhere. So the pain is the red flag – listen up! Go to the source and fix the reason WHY the pain has developed!

MASSAGE THERAPY

Our Licensed Massage Therapists, Teresa Hucks and Rene Reynolds, each have 20 years’ experience. Massage Therapy reduces muscle tension and increases circulation. Teresa and Rene have many years of specialized training in Myofascial Release, Deep Tissue, Trigger Point, Structural Integration, NeuroMuscular

Reprogramming, Hot Stones, Cupping, Moxabustion, and Eastern Medicine Techniques. Really, need we say more?

ESTHETICS

Come visit our Licensed Esthetician, Charity Dobbins, who has more than 20 years in skin care. She makes skin radiant, specializing in custom facials with a focus on overall relaxation and well-being. Charity offers microdermabrasion, dermaplaning, brow and lash tinting, and chemical peels. In addition to skin care, she also provides full body waxing services.

LYMPHATIC ENHANCEMENT THERAPY

Lymphatic Enhancement Therapy uses a gentle, non-invasive, relaxing technique. Therapy wands used on the skin emit a low energy field of dynamic wave pulses of low frequencies, light, and electro pressure. This stimulation of the lymph nodes increases the flow and drainage of the entire lymphatic system. This assists the immune system to remove impurities and fight infection in the body. Our certified lymphatic practitioners, Paula Faub and Summer Thomas, are ready to help you relieve symptoms due to Lyme disease, mold and metal toxicity, surgical recovery, lymphedema, and more. Maintaining a healthy lymphatic system correlates to maintaining a healthy immune system!

Inner Strength Pilates has many offerings to take care of your needs. Let us help you find YOUR inner strength!

MASSAGE THERAPY • LYMPHATIC ENHANCEMENT THERAPY • POLESTAR PILATES EDUCATION CENTER

ISP CELEBRATION SPECIAL!

Inner Strength Pilates

FREE ISP tee with the purchase of a 15 session package!

FREE ISP window sticker with a 10 session package! T-shirt and sticker promo while supplies last during January

Check our website for information on workshops and Pilates teacher trainings!

PILATES • EGOSCUE METHOD THERAPY • ESTHETIC SERVICES • BARRE

Where does YOUR Inner Strength come from?

Philippians 4:13

Our next Pilates Teacher Training begins in January www.InnerStrengthPilatesNC.com Amy@InnerStrengthPilatesNC.com 336.813.5320 Inner Strength Pilates is located at the corner of Peacehaven & Country Club Roads, in the Harper Hill Commons Shopping Center, right around the corner from Harris Teeter!

January 2020 | 53

HO N E Y

An Ingredient for Pampering

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

How long ago have you surrendered to the invitation of a reclined chair and prepared yourself for the moment warm skin touches your own? In that first connection, the words arrive in your mind, “I needed this!” Our fast-paced lives require time to stop, sit and provide, if not an hour, perhaps a few minutes of self-indulgence. While you may resist a skincare treatment containing honey, there are plenty of reasons why you should say, “Yes!”

THE AMAZING QUALITIES OF HONEY

Of all the natural foods, honey will never spoil. Raw, unfiltered honey, not tampered by additives or heat, is full of nutrients, antioxidants and contains antibacterial and anti-inflammatory properties. One application can moisturize dry skin, clear acne, unclog pores, soften wrinkles and improve other signs of aging. When buying raw honey for facial and body applications, choose wildflower or similar dark-caramel hues. An eight to 10-ounce jar is an adequate size.

BUY TRUSTED HONEY

Labels, such as “Grade A” or “USDA Approved” are faulty gimmicks to encourage a consumer to trust a product. Instead, visit a farmer’s market, an old country store or contact your local beekeeper’s association. Remember, pollen season spans from April through June; therefore, be wary of honey purchased in the winter months.

COCONUT OIL AND HONEY FACEMASK RECIPE

Coconut oil is an ideal versatile product. It can heal wounds, moisturize skin and reduce inflammation. It is best to use raw, unrefined coconut oil.

Recipe: Combine equal amounts of honey and coconut. Start with one heaping tablespoon.

While optional, you can add three drops of essential oil. For complete relaxation, choose lavender! Peppermint, on the other hand, will boost energy levels. Stir well; then, apply a thin layer to your face and wait 30 minutes before rinsing with warm water. Pat dry.

The result will aid in unclogging pores, reducing wrinkles and promoting a radiant glow.

BROWN SUGAR & HONEY SCRUB

Not just for baking, the granulated particles of brown sugar have a multi-skincare function.

Containing antibacterial properties and glycolic acid, it can exfoliate and moisturize your skin.

Recipe: Equal portions of brown sugar and honey comprise the complete

54 | ForsythWoman.com

process; therefore, if you are going to make enough for one use, mix one teaspoon of each ingredient.

Apply half a teaspoon to wet skin and gently massage in a circular motion. Remember, the scrub is edible; so, do not avoid the lips, especially if they are chapped! Rinse and pat dry.

HYDRATING HAIR TREATMENT

In the extraordinary benefits honey offers to the skin, it has a similar effect to the hair. If the strands appear dry and lack bounce, try a natural application.

Recipe: Blend two ripe bananas, a half-cup of honey and one-quarter cup of olive oil. Once applied, allow to moisturize for 25 minutes; then, rinse. Comb hair and rinse again. For excessively dry hair, use weekly.

A CLEOPATRA BATH SOAK

Known for her radiant skin and beauty, Cleopatra used a daily skincare routine consisting of donkey’s milk and honey. In considering the characteristics of dairy milk, it contains vitamins to soften and cleanse the skin.

And, lactic acid improves skin tone and reduces pore appearance.

Recipe: To begin, post a “Do not disturb!” sign on the door; then, add two cups of milk, ¼ cup of honey and, for decadence, either an essential oil or a handful of rose petals. Swirl with your hand. Enter. Sit back, and enjoy it!

CLEANSING FACE WASH & EXFOLIANT

Women want a clean face without the worry of unknown ingredients. Honey is the solution. It has a natural antimicrobial quality, which can safely remove dead skin cells and leave the skin feeling rejuvenated.

After wetting your face with warm water, take less than a teaspoon of honey and rub a few dabs into your palm to soften. Apply in a circular motion to your face and neck; then, wash off with warm water. No feeling of stickiness; just refreshing tingles!

A CUTICLE MOISTURIZER

In the minute or two that you are waiting, apply a small dab of honey to your cuticles.

The fingers and toes must also receive a fiveminute treatment!

Honey, the perfect pampering solution from head to toe! Enjoy!

Salem Plastic Surgery

Butcher & Bull

January 2020 | 55

What Does Your Handwriting Mean?

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

LOOPING OF THE LETTERS

Have you ever looked at people’s handwriting and noticed how different the styles can be?

Why do some people write in cursive and others print? Why is some handwriting neat while some is sloppy? The week of January 20th – 26th is known as National Handwriting Analysis Week and celebrates the uniqueness in an individual’s handwriting. In fact, handwriting analysis is officially known as graphology. This field of study can help reveal a person’s character, personality traits, abilities, behaviors, etc. by looking at the various styles and ways a person writes.

Interested in knowing what your handwriting could mean without having to become an expert in graphology? No worries – I’ve got the fast facts below.

Look at letters in the alphabet with loops, such as the “l, e, and a” and you may notice narrow or wide loops.

• Narrow Loops – Can be tense at times and can be skeptical of others. You don’t let your emotions influence you and like to be in control.

• Wide Loops – Relaxed, openminded, and go with the flow most of the time, as well as liking to try new experiences and meet new people.

SIZE OF YOUR LETTERS

DOTTING YOUR I’S AND CROSSING YOUR T’S

The larger you write, research states, the more outgoing, people-oriented, and outspoken you are. Average size letters show a person is well-adjusted and able to adapt well to different situations. If you print on the smaller side, you are shy, studious, and concentrated on the tasks at hand.

SPACING BETWEEN WORDS

I have never put much thought into the spacing I place between my words until now. However, wide spacing means you enjoy your freedom and don’t like to be overwhelmed or feel crowded.

Narrow spacing shows you can be intrusive at times and prefer to be with people.

SHAPE OF LETTERS

• Rounded Letters – Creative and artistic.

• Pointed Letters – Tend to be curious and are very intelligent.

• Connected Letters, such as cursive writing – Logical, systematic, and make careful decisions.

SLANTING OF LETTERS

• No Slant – Logical, practical, and don’t let your emotions interfere with your decisions.

• A Slant to the Right – Open to new experiences and enjoy meeting others.

• A Slant to the Left – Tend to be on the more private side and keep to yourself. In addition, you work more “behind the scenes” on projects. However, the exception to this research is if you are right-handed and your handwriting slants to the left, you are rebellious in some ways.

56 | ForsythWoman.com

Most people have heard of the quotes about “dotting your i’s and crossing your t’s,” meaning the person pays attention to all of the small details in a task. Yet, in our case, we are actually talking about dotting and crossing the two letters.

• Dotting Your I’s – • If the dot is high over the I - very imaginative.

• If the dot is left over the I – tend to be a procrastinator.

• If the dot is to the right very detailed-orientated and organized.

• Just a circle dot, not filled in, over the I – you are a visionary.

• Lastly, instead of a dot, you include a slash, means you can be self-critical with little patience.

• Crossing Your T’s – • At the top of the t, as in writing with an uppercase letter, shows you are ambitious, optimistic, and have a positive self-esteem.

• Right in the middle means you are confident and comfortable.

• Long Crosses – Very determined and enthusiastic, yet, can be stubborn at times with a resistance to change.

• Short Crosses – Can show a lack of determination and motivation.

SIGNATURE

• Not Legible – Very private and can be hard to read or understand.

• Legible – Confident and comfortable in your own skin.

After researching the “logistics” behind a person’s handwriting, I decided to take a look at my own. First, I started with my signature, which is not legible, therefore revealing that I am private. This trait is something I do see in myself.

Next, I wrote the phrase “smart person” and discovered that: • My letter size is large and at times, I can be a people person.

• Spacing between the two words is a little on the wider side and I can completely relate to the feeling of being overwhelmed or crowded.

• Shape of my letters was rounded. From this detail, I am creative and artistic, which I can agree with.

• No slant and wide loops mean that I think logically and can be relaxed, open-minded, and “go with the flow.” All of these traits are part of my personality, yet, reveal themselves depending on the situation.

• The cross in my t was long and right in the middle.

Depending again on the situation, I can be confident, comfortable, determined, and stubborn sometimes.

Want to know what your handwriting means? Analyze a few words with the explanations to see!

Your Home Marketplace

Your Home MarketPlace Be Inspired

Vintage | Farmhouse | NEW | Cottage Multi-vendor Market — 336.659.0099 670 S. Stratford Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27103

Hotel Indigo

$75 per person

Sir Winston DINNER WINE January 16th • 7:00pm Enjoy a 4 course Dinner Paired With 8 Wines prepared by Chef Andre Jones

Napa vs Sonoma With Special Guest Speaker, Laurence Vuelta with Trinchero Family Estates

Limited to 50 people • Reservations Required, please call 336-722-0795 104 West 4th St • Winston-Salem, NC 27101 • 336.722.0795 • sirwinstonrestaurant.com January 2020 | 57

Making Dollars, Making $ense The Fish Story

Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY JON MARZANO, MANAGING PRINCIPAL

For our January “Making Dollars Making Sense” column, we wanted to share an article written by Brian Wesbury, Chief Economist at First Trust Portfolios. In this article, Brian retells the parable of the Fish Story from Paul Zane Pilzer’s 1990 book, Unlimited Wealth. This parable helps to explain the dangers of taxation and redistribution of wealth, a topic being talked about again this year by presidential candidates looking to take the job of POTUS. The story goes like this…

Imagine ten people live on an island.

Each day they wake up, catch two fish, eat them, and go back to bed. It’s subsistence living at the most basic level. There are no savings – no stored or saved wealth. If someone gets sick and can’t fish, there’s no way to help them. No one has any extra.

Now imagine two of these people dream up a boat and a net. They spend six days catching one fish per day, slowly starving, but they make the boat and net. On the 7th day, they go out into the ocean and catch 20 fish in the net – it worked!!!!

At this point, the island can go one of two ways. First, since two people now produce what previously took ten, resources are freed up to do other things. Farming corn, picking coconuts, cleaning fish, cooking, repairing the boat and net, the possibilities are endless. The island ends up with more (and better!) food, new technologies, higher standards of living, more assets, more wealth, and they can now afford to take care of their sick and vulnerable!

Or...the eight people who don’t have a boat and net could become envious.

Two now produce ten fish per day, while everyone else can only produce two. Income inequality now exists: it’s no longer 1:1, it’s 5:1. So, they devise a plan to tax 80% of the income of the boaters (16 fish) and redistribute two fish to each of the other inhabitants.

If the second plan is adopted, no one is better off. Each inhabitant still only has two fish. Moreover, the entrepreneurs have no incentive to fix their boat and net. The island will eventually revert to subsistence.

This is the problem with taxation for redistribution: it robs the economy of the benefits of new technology.

Certainly, some of our brothers and sisters need help, sometimes permanently, sometimes temporarily.

However, taxation for redistribution doesn’t make the economy stronger; redistribution hurts growth.

Everyone on the island is better off because of the boat and the net. Taxing the inventors’ wealth or income and redistributing it removes resources from a highly productive new technology. Moreover, the income inequality that exists on the island is a sign of more opportunity, not less.

There are things the government can do that add to productivity – police and fire protection, national defense, enforcing the rule of law and protecting private property – but once government goes beyond this, it begins to undermine growth.

Today, 17% of all personal income is redistributed by government, while around 40% of all income is taxed and spent by the federal, state, and local governments, combined. This is the reason the US economy has not attained 4% real GDP growth.

European economies tax and spend even more and this is why they have grown slower than the US in recent decades.

In the meantime, government leaders around the world blame slow growth on a lack of investment by companies and attempt unsuccessfully to use negative interest rates to stimulate lending and investment. They also propose even more government spending and redistribution to help those that big government is holding back.

These policies won’t boost growth, and proposals to tax wealth and income because of the perceived problem of income inequality will ultimately reduce living standards.

Increasing living standards requires less government, not more (Wesbury, 2019).

Sources: Wesbury, B. (2019). Income Inequality, Taxation, and Redistribution. [Blog] First Trust Economics Blog.

Available at: ftportfolios.com/Blogs/EconBlog/2019/11/11/income-inequality,-taxation,-and-redistribution.

58 | ForsythWoman.com

Orthodontics for Children & Adults • Eat without restrictions • Most experienced Invisalign practitioner in the Triad • NEW iTero Scanner eliminates gooey, messy impressions Salem Smiles • Many treatments last only 15 months

Call today for your FREE consultation!

1063 W. Northwest Blvd. Winston-Salem, NC 27101 | 336-725-5757

salemsmilesortho.com

Accent Prone

Let us help you create your dream home in 2020!

1030-F South Main St., Kernersville NC 27284 | 336 • 310 • 4753 | www.AccentProne.com | Mon-Fri 10-7 | Sat 10-5 facebook.com/accentprone @accentprone January 2020 | 59

Waking Up to Success Morning Habits for the Successful Woman

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK A secret lies behind the greatness of successful women such as Oprah Winfrey, Marie Kondo, Michelle Obama, and Arianna Huffington. This powerful secret is more than just ideal nutrition, sheer talent, and sharp motivation. Believe it or not, it’s how they wake up in the morning. It’s how they stimulate their minds once their feet touch the floor immediately after opening their eyes. It’s how they take time for themselves and set their mood for the day ahead.

DON’T RUSH; TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.

With the busyness of our lives, our mornings are likely to be rushed.

We barely roll out of bed with just enough time for us to get ready for work. Naturally, make enough time to shower, brush our teeth, make coffee and a quick breakfast, get dressed, do our hair, and, if we’re lucky, our makeup. But one additional thing is necessary: to make time for ourselves. We need to get in the habit of making time for activities such as prayer, meditation, and reflection, even if it means we have to wake up 30 minutes or an hour earlier. This is practical for those who are prone to nervousness and anxiety, as a rushed morning would only make an anxious person even more neurotic. Making that tranquil alone time for ourselves will help set a positive mood for the day.

PUT AWAY THAT PHONE!

Yes, we live in an era that is dominated by the use of smart technology. Our phones and tablets have become almost too dependable and entertaining, to the point where we feed ourselves with social media while our heads are still resting on our pillows! This is because most of us use our phones as alarm clocks.

Although smart devices can be used productively, too much contact with them can get in the way of our productivity. So, instead of using our smartphones as alarm clocks, invest in traditional alarm clocks to remove your mobile phone as a distraction.

That phone gets in the way of us having our needed alone time.

FORTIFY YOUR BODY.

60 | ForsythWoman.com

Our physical bodies need nourishment and hydration to give us strength for the day ahead. As fast-paced as today’s world is, it is easy to forget to make a quality breakfast before we leave the house.

Some folks just make a cup of coffee and head out the door. But running

on an empty stomach is dangerous.

Try to do a simple, balanced breakfast (it doesn’t have to be an IHOP feast) with some fruit, grains, and some dairy if you can tolerate it.

Pair it with a warm beverage, such as fresh lemon water with honey or an invigorating herbal tea. Give yourself some substantial brain food before leaving home.

FORTIFY YOUR MIND.

It’s important to wake our brains up in the morning. What do you like to do to stimulate your mind and keep it sharp? Get into the habit of reading for a few minutes every morning. It could be a novel, a selfhelp book, a news article, or some Bible verses. Listen to some uplifting music. You can even do some quick exercises if it suits you—this gets your blood pumping and sends oxygen to your brain so you can think more clearly.

STIMULATE YOUR SENSES.

Waking up our physical senses, such as sight, smell, and taste, helps us to focus, which is something we need to master in order to become successful! Diffusing essential oils or burning your favorite candle as you get ready helps to wake up your mind. Drinking coffee, opening up your blinds to let in the morning light, and splashing your face with cool water are all ways to make you more alert in the morning and prepare you for your day.

SPEAK LIFE INTO YOUR DAY.

Try asking yourself every morning, “What do I want out of today?

How can I make this day matter?”

Whatever your answer is, speak it and believe it! Speak some holy scripture over yourself or some of your favorite quotes. Plaster them over your walls and your mirror if you have to.

Success will become a lifestyle once you adopt these morning habits.

New Year’s Resolutions for You & Your Pet

BY PHIL RAY

Have you heard, we’re leaving 2019 behind and quickly heading into 2020 full steam ahead? Just like their human companions, our pets can benefit from some New Year’s resolutions as well. We all think about starting the New Year on the right feet (we only have two) by losing weight, eating healthier, hitting the gym, and putting down the phone to make more time to engage in things that really matter. And sure, those are your great goals, but what about your pets? Whether you know it or not, by having a pet in your home, you are already on a “healthy plan.” Studies have shown that pets in the home reduce your stress and greatly improve the quality of your mental and physical well-being. So it’s time to give back and start rewarding them with a simple lifestyle review and set some goals that may benefit everyone involved.

Here are three easy steps to get started that will get everyone healthier, happier, and make 2020 more than just hindsight;

MAINTAIN A HEALTHY WEIGHT

This is probably the most important thing you can do for your pet. With over 50% of all pets in the US overweight or obese, maintaining a healthy weight greatly reduces potential health issues such as heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, and even certain forms of cancer. Weight control all starts with eating a healthy diet along with regular exercise. If this sounds all too familiar, it is. The same holds true for you as well as your pet. We can tailor a diet plan for your pet that will help them stay healthy and fit, and who knows? Maybe you’ll pick up a few pointers as well.

GET MOVING

A tired pup is a healthy and happy pup. Make sure to make the great outdoors part of your day, and soak up some outside time.

Maintaining a regular regimen of walking, playing, and focused training will not only improve your pet’s health, but it will do wonders for you as well. It’s a proven fact that there are numerous health and social benefits that both you and your pup will enjoy from a brisk walk. And, it’s a great time to bond with your pet and create an event they are always eager and willing to participate in.

It’s time to rethink your pet’s health for a happier, healthier 2020 Your Pet’s New Year’s Resolutions: Healthy Diet • Quality Ingredients Optimal Weight Management Active Lifestyle (a tired pup is a happy pup!)

Grooming Routine for Healthy Eyes, Ears, Skin & Coat.

We offer Best a large selection of 4K9 Toys & Treats • Supplements Coat Care • Collars & Leashes Canned & Bagged Foods Large Cat Items Section

ESTABLISH A GROOMING ROUTINE

A good “groom” is more than just keeping your pup clean; it also helps with maintaining a watchful eye on skin, coat, eyes and ear health, along with keeping their weight in check. When you or others engage with your pet on a touchy-feely level, it is a perfect opportunity to monitor their health. So go ahead, get touching, they will love you even more for the great care given.

By incorporating these simple steps, you and your pet can be on the way to a healthier 2020. It’s sometimes easier to start simple so that you and your pet can maintain the momentum going forward. Come in for a visit and let us tailor a nutritional program designed specifically for your pet. We know pets and can help guide you into a healthy and happy New Year.

www.best4k9.com 3 Locations Serving the Triad WINSTON-SALEM* 3382 Robinhood Road (336) 829-5993

OAK RIDGE 2205 Oak Ridge Road (336) 298-7781

GREENSBORO 5820 N. Church Street (336) 441-8437

Come visit the premium grooming center at Robinhood Road! *premium grooming by appointment

January 2020 | 61

Dress Your Home for Success…

Dwelling or Selling

“With a few tips and a little work on your part, your home can look fabulous whether you are dwelling or selling.” ~ Anonymous

Does putting away your holiday decorations make you want to rearrange and de-clutter your home? It puts me in the mood. Having lived in our present home for 15 years now, I need to clear out, clean up, and get rid of clutter. I have said that the only thing good about moving is that it makes you do just that. After a little hard work, I love that feeling of a clean, organized, and de-cluttered home. I would rather not move in order to get that feeling though.

You may not be planning to sell in the New Year, but whether you are dwelling or selling, with a little hard work on your part and a few tips, your home can look fabulous.

1. Make a good first impression. The outside of your home is the first thing guest see.

Give your front door a fresh coat of paint in a color to complement the brick, siding, and roof. Clean or replace the hardware on your door. Don’t forget the house numbers and porch lights. A new welcome mat and seasonal plants will help say welcome to your guests.

2. Clear out, clean up, and get rid of clutter.

We all have too much stuff! Don’t get overwhelmed. Do one room at a time.

You will feel a sense of relief when you accomplish this task, and your home will look so much better.

62 | ForsythWoman.com

3. Less is more when it comes to furniture. Look at what you have and consider what pieces are really necessary.

4. Have fun with furniture and accessories. Do some “redesigning” on your own. Move things around. Create conversation areas. Shop your home. Think of ways pieces can be used in rooms other than where you would normally place them. It might be fun to give that old dresser a facelift with a fresh coat of paint and new hardware and give it a new home in your foyer or used as a buffet in your dining room.

5. Clean windows and open window treatments to let natural light in.

You’ll be surprised that something this simple can make your room seem larger.

6. Lighting is so important in your room. Whether it is task lighting in your kitchen or bath, or lamps in the other rooms. I say, “Have at least three lamps in a room placed to form a triangle to distribute light around the room.”

7. Add splashes of color. A fresh coat of paint gives you more bang for your buck than anything else you can do to give your home a new look. Whether you choose color on your walls or in your accessories, color will give a room new life.

8. Hang artwork where it will be pleasing to the eye. Consider the size wall and the furniture it will be hung above and choose art proportionately. To hang art that will be viewed while standing, measure height of piece, find center, measure 60” from center to floor. If it will be viewed while seated, hang approximately 57” from center to floor.

9. Accessories are important, but too many add clutter. Choose carefully. A few larger pieces are better than lots of smaller ones.

Group in odd numbers varying heights.

10. Bring in nature by adding green plants, fresh flowers, etc.

Dwelling or selling? These tips will set you on a course to having a beautiful home.

I am honored that you read my column each month. It is my pleasure to share decorating ideas to help you create a beautiful home.

Need help? Give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call to schedule an appointment 336-345-2929.

10 Reasons People Choose ReDESIGNS by Ava: 1. They’ve seen the results on TV Home makeover shows or in a friends house.

2. They want a fresh, designer look but haven’t been able to create it.

6. They are blending 2 households of furnishings and want professional help with what to keep and how to make it work.

7. They desire a home that feels good and looks good yet reflects who they are.

ReDESIGNS

by Ava 8. They want rooms to

3. They want great results without great expense.

function better.

4. They don’t know where to place the “old” furniture in a new house.

9. They want to prepare their home to maximize market appeal for a quick, top dollar sale.

5. They don’t want to make an expensive purchase they’ll regret.

10. They believe that when you want professional results you hire a professional.

Novant Health Vein Specialists

Ava is the ReDESIGN expert in and around Forsyth County!

Contact her to find out how you can fall in love with your home — either all over again, or for the first time!

336.345.2929 ReDESIGNSbyAva@SalemGlenCC.net ReDESIGNSbyAva.com Meet Ava on YouTube: tinyurl.com/ReDesignsByAva January 2020 | 63

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM

CELEBRATING 30 YEARS OF EMPOWERMENT & INSPIRATION

BY ADELE CASANOVA Professional Women of Winston-Salem (PWWS), a professional and personal development organization for local businesswomen, is celebrating 30 years of empowering women to be their best selves. PWWS is a community where women can gather to grow professionally, set and attain their goals, and build strong, long-lasting relationships. 2020 marks the beginning of exciting new opportunities for the local business community to engage with PWWS through deliberate and rewarding sponsorship opportunities. Also in 2020, PWWS will launch expanded philanthropic scholarship offerings for deserving women in the community.

Andrea Kimura, newly-elected president of PWWS, shares, “PWWS is expanding our vision of professional growth for members by ensuring we offer the preeminent place for women to be comfortable and authentic while engaging in shared mentoring experiences and friendships. Our group provides a welcoming atmosphere for women in all industries through our monthly luncheons.”

PWWS luncheons are held the second Wednesday of each month in downtown Winston-Salem at Footnote Coffee and Cocktails on 4th Street, 11:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. These meetings not only provide networking and camaraderie, but also offer a series of highly-accomplished guest speakers sharing invaluable professional development skills and lessons learned.

PWWS has expanded its tool box of professional development opportunities by becoming an affiliate member of The International Alliance for Women (TIAW). TIAW is a global charitable foundation dedicated to being the world’s leading network for women’s economic empowerment, leadership and innovation. PWWS members now have access to the global networking and learning opportunities offered by TIAW. More information about TIAW is available at tiaw.org.

PWWS is excited to announce that in addition to individual memberships, they are now offering corporate and business sponsorships at various levels which include open seats and promotional opportunities at luncheons, social media mentions, promotion in their monthly e-newsletters, as well as potential speaking opportunities. PWWS encourages businesses of any size, from large corporate organizations to individual entrepreneurs, to sponsor and participate in their inspirational programming, leadership training, career advancement strategies and much more.

PWWS has a history of philanthropy, beginning in 2000, through raising funds and donating them to its scholarship program for employed single working mothers in Forsyth County who are working towards the completion of a college degree. Now in its 20th year, this philanthropy program will be continued and expanded with additional scholarship opportunities for single working mothers pursing training and education in the trades. Scholarship funds are raised through the PWWS annual silent auction, and in 2020, from the new corporate and business sponsorships.

PWWS is an inclusive organization offering women from all industries in all stages of their careers opportunities for networking, professional education, leadership training, personal and professional recognition for career achievements and milestones, philanthropic opportunities, and a venue in which to build strong long-term relationships with other business women in their community. PWWS members value honesty, positivity, passion, authenticity, resilience, curiosity, collaboration, commitment, inspiration, and most of all, self-empowerment.

For more information about membership or sponsorship opportunities, as well as updates about ongoing programs, visit pwws. org or email info@ pwws.org. Scholarship donations are also accepted on their website.

2020 PWWS Board of Directors: Andrea Kimura - President, Julie Bell - Secretary, Katherine Brown -, Treasurer, Natalie Dillard - Membership Chair, Erika Mielke- Programs Chair, Jennifer Kiger Chapman - Marketing Chair, Peg Weir Scholarship Chair, Wendy Strader - Special Events Vice Chair, Rita Bottoms – Membership Vice Chair, Susanne Traub – Membership Vice Chair/Database, Jean Marie Johnson – Scholarship Vice Chair, Barb Smith – Past President/Corporate Sponsorship.

64 | ForsythWoman.com

Cosmetic & Plastic Surgery

Juvéderm VOLUMA® XC BEFORE

AFTER

Over time, age-related volume loss can cause the cheeks to flatten and the skin to sag.

Juvéderm VOLUMA® XC is designed to add volume to Lift and Contour cheek area.

for JanuarySurgery 2020 WFBH CosmeticSpecial & Plastic Purchase two syringes of Juvéderm VOLUMA® XC and receive 20% off.

Special expires January 31. 2020 Cannot be combined with other offers.

Our Doctors

• Lisa R. David, MD, FACS • Malcolm Marks, MD, FACS • Anthony DeFranzo, MD, FACS • Ivo Pestana, MD, FACS • Adam J Katz, MD, FACS

WakeHealth.edu/plastic

wfuplasticsurgery.org

Se Habla Español

336-713-0255 | Wake Forest Baptist Health Plastic Surgery | Vest Mill Professional Park | 1450 Professional Park Drive, Suite 300 | Winston-Salem, NC 27103

Laundry Matters Convenient, Affordable, Customizable 3 Minutes to Freedom, There’s a laundry-free world a click away.

Sign up today at

LaundryMattersNC.com

YOUR FIRST PICK-UP! Promo code: forsyth Minimum pick-up of $25

January 2020 | 65

H ere W e G o A GAin L essons in W eight L oss the M iLLionth t iMe A round

BY TARYN JEREZ

The United States weight loss industry is quoted at a value of 72 billion dollars. Of course, it’s no wonder it would have some repeat customers along the way! While our bodies continue to change throughout our entire lives, for some adults, weight can be a more constantly varying part of these changes. While it can seem like you are going in circles some years with your body, know there are mindsets and habits to take inventory of that may make all the difference. Here are a few tips to consider as you work to both accept and improve the season of life your body is in.

STOP COMPARING WHERE YOU ARE NOW TO WHERE YOU WERE LAST TIME.

If you knew all the answers to losing weight and staying healthy the last time around, you wouldn’t be where you are now. Celebrate that you didn’t learn everything last time around because that means this time around there are still things to learn! It’s so easy to compare your current body shape or weight to where you were during a previous time in your life, but remember, you’re working towards a new goal and that’s ok. You have so many resources at your fingertips during this part of your journey that possibly wouldn’t have been the right fit for you the last time. Embrace your new goals and the things you’re excited to improve on, and take it one day at a time without comparing each day to an old one.

START UNPACKING THE WHY BEHIND THE WEIGHT GAIN.

Sometimes it’s small choices that add up or big choices you weren’t even aware had been made. Regardless, our bodies fluctuate in pounds for many different reasons. It’s when that shift begins to go in a direction that isn’t aligned with your best health that it becomes a problem.

So what’s your why?

When is the last time you dove into the reasons behind your weight gain? When

66 | ForsythWoman.com

you gain weight repetitively over the years, it can seem as though the cards are simply stacked against you. The reality is that diving into your lifestyle, nutrition choices, behavior patterns, and emotional triggers can all reveal different answers. While it can be scary, taking time to unpack the possible reasons can be the exact answer you’ve been searching for.

CONTINUE FIGHTING FOR THE HEALTHY LIFESTYLE YOU KNOW IS POSSIBLE.

It may not always be easy to see the positive side to trying to lose weight yet again, but there is something very important to acknowledge and appreciate.

While you are facing the challenge, the fact is that you are facing it. You decided you want to be healthier and even though you’ve been given a weight loss journey with ups and downs that seem to repeat themselves, you are determined to seek out change. You aren’t going to let anything stop you, and you stay focused on being a healthier version of yourself. (Even when it means learning new things and pushing yourself.)

REMEMBER, THE SCALE SHOWS YOU A NUMBER, NOT YOUR VALUE.

Lighter or heavier, when you place both your feet on top of that scale, you should stand just as tall in who you are, regardless.

Battling your weight can be a lifelong challenge for some; why make it even harder by allowing your self-worth and self-love rise and fall with it? It’s much easier said than done, but it’s important to remember that your value can be found in so many different aspects of who you are and the life you lead. It has nothing to do with what dress size you wear or the number on the scale.

If it makes you happy, pursue that ideal healthy weight but also be vigilant in the pursuit of loving yourself.

New Year, New Product!

Mention this ad when booking to receive a free deep conditioning treatment ($20 value)

Simply Sterling & Co

Grassroots Salon

3283 Robinhood Rd. (beside Freshmarket) 336-774-4777 | grassrootssalon.com @grassroots_aveda January 2020 | 67

In the

Sp tlight

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Amazing Women Now accepting nominations.

I don’t know about you, but I am consistently surrounded by incredible women, and I get a little more than frustrated that I can’t nominate them for an award or write a big nationwide think-piece on their awesomeness.

These women aren’t the people who are always featured in local lists – they aren’t necessarily business owners that are doing amazing things (love to my fellow entrepreneurs!), non-profit mavens that help the community, or philanthropists that head and help incredible organizations. These women are doing something outside of their career and work-life that just needs to be celebrated.

I’ve written time and time again that we’re all more than our work, and if you talk to me long enough, I’ll tell you that we need to celebrate people a bit more. Celebrations are wonderful! They also build community, make people feel magical, and show appreciation.

You see, folks are afraid to talk about their accomplishments – women especially! And this gets worse when people are doing things outside of their normal “work,” and they feel their accomplishment just isn’t enough to warrant more than a selfdeprecating post on social media or a shy mention to a friend. Cue this new column, In the Spotlight, specifically created for celebrating those everyday moments of someone just being amazing.

68 | ForsythWoman.com

Call it uplifting women. Call it empowerment. Call it a confettifilled party bus for someone that is just rocking life. We’re looking for everyday women that need to be celebrated. We ask for your patience and understanding – and input! – while we shape this new column together. It came from a place of wanting women to feel unapologetic about their everyday accomplishments.

Maybe you’d like to nominate someone like Natasha Smith for getting her blue belt in Tae Kwon Do. How about Lana Skrypnyk for organizing a fundraiser for the Rose family and their medical bills, or Carla Day for raising awareness with Latina Equal Pay Day or Lydia Collins for being an amazing and hardworking parent…I could go on forever with women in my life, but I would much rather see and uplift the women in YOUR lives.

Take some time out of your day today and send us some folks who need some spotlight in their lives. It’s as simple as sending us a name, why they are amazing, and their contact email – please keep this to everyday moments and accomplishments and save our amazing local women in business for one of Forsyth Magazines many opportunities to showcase local entrepreneurs. Please contact Brooke Eagle with questions and submit your nomination – and feel free to self nominate! – to Brooke@forsythmags.com.

Forsyth Plastic Surgery

Providence Restaurant

January 2020 | 69

Food to Help You Survive the Cold

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Warm nights snuggled with hot cocoa by the fireplace during shivering winter months with frosted ice glistening on the windows can be a cozy feeling. However, the constant sniffles and nasty fevers that often try to tag along are not so ideal. With that being said, enjoy a few tips below that may help you survive the cold this winter.

Foods that take longer to digest may help raise your body temperature. This process is called thermogenesis. The increase in body temperature, produced by food metabolization, is transposed into body heat that leaves you feeling warmer. Therefore, keep a lookout for complex foods that are rich in protein, healthy fats, and carbohydrates. Yes, carbs!

SWEET POTATOES

Root vegetables, such as sweet potatoes, require more energy to be properly digested, which results in an increased body temperature. Not only do sweet potatoes have a positive impact on your eye health, but they also provide essential dietary fiber.

OATS

GINGER TEA

It makes total sense that ginger root is harvested in the fall since it can benefit our bodies in a season of sniffles. Simply chop your fresh ginger into smaller pieces and steep in water for at least 10 minutes.

Either remove the ginger with a slotted spoon or leave in your teacup as you sip all the glorious benefits. Sweeten your magical tea with a little local honey or 100% pure maple syrup to enjoy the anti-inflammatory gingerols that can help quickly relieve any signs of a sore throat. Already sick and ready to combat this cold quickly? Try drinking 3 to 4 cups of fresh ginger tea daily until your symptoms are relieved. For smaller children, just reduce the concentration of the amount of ginger to water ratio.

Ginger also contains salicylates, which may act as a blood thinner since it is a common chemical in aspirin.

BUTTERNUT SQUASH

Brimming with high levels of vitamin A, vitamin C, potassium, and many other nutrients, butternut squash may boost your immune system. Try roasting it in pure maple syrup to enhance your dietary fibers that will keep your digestive system strong. Maple syrup is often referenced as a sugar substitute for diabetics, but be certain your maple syrup is tapped directly from the tree without added sugars, and always check with your doctor.

Throw some sprouted oats or other whole grains in a blender to make flour for your delicious vanilla-infused fluffy pancakes or waffles.

Make it extra delicious by tossing on chopped kiwi, strawberries, and bananas. A heart-warming porridge with oats is also an excellent source of fiber that can improve your cholesterol, as well as keep you fully satisfied until lunchtime.

BANANAS

COFFEE

Need some immediate warmth and energy? Start your morning right with a hot cup of joe that’ll warm your ice tingling hands. Whether hot or cold, the caffeine in coffee is the key to increasing your metabolism to ultimately raise your body temperature.

Magnesium and vitamin B are just a few of the minerals that are hidden inside those tasty bananas. In fact, many nutrients found in bananas are essential to the regulation of your adrenal glands and thyroid, which affect your body temperature.

DRINK WATER

Water is the easiest way to keep your body functioning properly this winter. Therefore, it is essential to drink appropriate amounts of water each day to keep your body temperature regulated and flush your system of toxins. Investing in a water bottle will remind you to drink more water as you carry it around with you everywhere you go. Fun fact: dehydration can cause a dramatic drop in your core temperature, which induces hypothermia. Acetaminophen used for fever reducers and cold medicines may increase dehydration, so keep a watch on your water intake.

SWAP OUT SUGAR FOR HEALTHIER SUBSTITUTES

FISH & EGGS

Try incorporating more fish, such as wild salmon, and farmfresh eggs into your weekly grocery list to increase your intake of vitamin B12. Vitamin B12 is an important contributing factor to healthy-functioning immune systems.

They may also reduce fatigue and naturally produce energy.

As the holiday festivities wind down, there is no need to constantly resist the subconscious urge to accommodate your daily sweet tooth. Instead, simply replace the sugar in your teas and baked goods for local honey or pure maple syrup. For instance, try replacing your favorite ice cream for vanilla bean yogurt with blackberries.

Or how about slicing up a few naturally-sweet Honeycrisp apples?

Keep active this winter by incorporating these tasty foods in your diet to fight off that unwanted cold. Until the spring blossoms, stay warm and stay full!

70 | ForsythWoman.com

Fraleigh's Boutique Annual Winter Sale

Starts January 2nd Fraleigh’s Boutique

Up to 70% Off

Select Winter & Fall Merchandise* *All sales final

336-766-7440

Monday-Friday 10am-5pm | Saturday 10am-4pm 2626 Lewisville-Clemmons Rd. Clemmons, NC 27012

www.FraleighsBoutiqueNC.com

Gifts & Paper on Plaza

January 2020 | 71

calming chamomile Herbal Healing:

BY LISA S.T DOSS

Every culture has an herbal lore, promoting effective remedies for healing, beauty and body care. Despite the commercial ease of purchasing creams and lotions, oils and teas, the knowledge may still be in our genes, waiting to germinate and blossom as wildly as a vine. Tea drinkers, users of essential oils and aromatherapy have a deep-rooted belief that the dried herbs or extracted oils can either relieve an ailment or improve symptoms. In the desire to expand your roots to seek a means of personal wellness, let’s take a 12-month journey to learn the value of healing with herbs.

At first glance, the chamomile flower appears similar to a smaller version of a daisy roughly two and a half centimeters wide; however, the cone-shaped yellow center is much larger with shorter white flowers.

Standing tall, roughly one to two feet, smaller branches split near the top and produce flowers.

The leaves are surprisingly feathery. And, best of all, the aroma is sweetly intoxicating and mildly bitter.

While seeds are not tangible in packets, use the teabags to grow chamomile seedlings. As a spreading perennial, it is best to plant within a container; otherwise, the plant will spread.

MAGICAL BENEFITS

CHAMOMILE AROMATHERAPY

A fragrance diffused into the air offers a powerful solution to the mind and body.

For instance:

• Cold and Flu: Add three drops of chamomile oil or six tablespoons of dried chamomile flowers to a steaming pot of water (not boiling) and breathe deeply for 10 minutes.

The result is that the aroma will heal the lungs and sinuses while the heat drains the mucus from the body. And, for a bonus, the skin will glow due to the detoxing properties against the skin.

If you think about it, saying to an individual, “if you drink this, you’ll feel much better” has substantial power. Chamomile is more than just a calming drink safe for children and adults; it has anti-inflammatory, antibiotic and antispasmodic properties.

• Headaches: After steeping the herb in hot water for 10 minutes, add a few drops of the essential oil; then, dip a washcloth into the stirred liquid. Place on your forehead and relax.

You would ingest the tea to improve anxiety, insomnia, headaches, sore throats and to relieve colicky children and reduce intestinal maladies and digestive pain. Additionally, the flowers of the plant can strengthen the metabolism and cleanse the blood.

• Insomnia: Add a strong brew of tea to a warm bath and supplement with three drops of essential oil. The heat, combined with the soothing effects of chamomile, will ease the mind and encourage sleep.

• Added to your daily diet, especially during allergy and flu season, it will increase antibacterial activity within your body and prevent sickness.

72 | ForsythWoman.com

• Anxiety: Carry a vial of the essential oil in your purse. Before a big meeting or presentation, take a sniff and exhale. The aroma will help you focus on what’s important.

THE SACHET

Grandmothers and the elders of the family often kept a bag of herbs in drawers, tucked underneath a pillow or carried in a secret compartment of their purse. Some fragrances were everywhere with purpose.

In knowing the extraordinary benefits of chamomile, you, too, may want to carry the magical seeds and flowers in a small pouch.

FOOD

Of course, you’ll want to eat the benefits of chamomile, too! Think of what you use most, sugar. In a quart-sized Mason jar, add a halfcup of dried chamomile flowers to two cups of sugar. Shake every day for two weeks until using.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised by its taste. (Try to make infused sugar with other favorite herbs!)

Find a double-boiler recipe for “Chamomile-Infused Honey” to treat coughs, sore throats and colds, or add to hot teas or in replace of buttered toast.

Having the key to wellness is the best medicine!

Next Month: Herbal Healing focuses on the extraordinary versatility of elderberry!

WomanCare

AME R I C AN M OVI N G

Local & Long Distance Moving Boxes & Packing Supplies Moving & Packing Secure Storage

American Moving & Hauling

woman owned

Full Service Cleaning Free Estimates

Wishing you a Happy New Year!

Licensed & Insured NCUC-2411 DOT 200-7351 | Angie’s List Super Service Award Winners 2014-2018

AmericanMovingAndHauling.com | 336.765.3499 January 2020 | 73

PHOTOS BY MADISON HILL

Check out pictures from last month’s Girls’ Night Out at Sapona Country Club

74 | ForsythWoman.com

GRAB YOUR MOTHER, YOUR SISTER, YOUR FRIENDS AND JOIN US FOR

Village Inn

Tuesday, January 14 • 5pm - until… th

6205 Ramada Drive, Clemmons, NC (Located off I-40, Exit 184) Reservations Recommended

AUTHENTIC MEXICAN TACO BAR $10 PER PERSON

Pico de gallo• Salsa verde • Salsa de molcajeto • Ensalada de rabano Ensalada de cebolla • Ensalada de repollo • Guacamole Mole Mexicano • Pollo Asado • Soft Corn Tortillas

DRINK SPECIALS $7 Coconut Snowball Martini Chocolate Martini

336.766.9121 | info@TheVillageInn.com | www.TheVillageInn.com 6205 Ramada Drive, Clemmons, NC (Located off I-40, Exit 184)

January 2020 | 75

We are Family Services.

The people we serve, volunteers, staff, donors, friends — together, we’re building a healthier Forsyth County.

Right now, too many families in our community struggle with poverty, unemployment, and domestic upheaval that threaten not only the lives of their own families, but also our collective future.

When someone hurts, we help.

This is what we do.

76 | ForsythWoman.com

Because we’re a trusted friend to local families, our neighbors turn to us when life is too stressful to handle alone. The entire reason Family Services exists is to help make positive and lasting changes in Forsyth County; strengthen families; build a healthier, more stable community; and build a better future for all of us.

Whether it’s preparing children for success through The Pre-K Priority or facilitating healthy resolutions to overcome complex behavioral and emotional issues by establishing a Family Justice Center, we partner with more than 90 other agencies to improve life for all in Forsyth County.

At Family Services, we can’t respond to the call of those in need without your help.

Your support helps create life-changing opportunities for families throughout Forsyth County.

We invite you to be a part of the community of solutions that is dedicated to building a better future for all of us.

When you give to Family Services, you help families have the stability, security, and opportunity that allow Forsyth County to flourish, both now and in the future. A little generosity can make a huge difference.

Together, we are building a healthier Forsyth County.

Family Services

January 2020 | 77

Internal

Validation

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

Too often, we seek external validation from other people in the form of compliments, strong, positive reactions, or just a nod of approval.

Let’s be honest, a lot of us get a significant buzz when we gain the social approval of others by way of breaking one hundred likes on an Instagram selfie, our husband’s compliment on our date night ensemble, or getting invited to a social gathering. But is it possible that our selfesteem is contingent upon external validation? If our parents all of a sudden stopped telling us they’re proud of us, if our spouses stopped calling us “beautiful,” or if we no longer got invited to parties, would our self-confidence still be as strong as it was before? Or will we feel less valued?

In such a social world, it’s easy to give our peers the freedom to make us feel confident about ourselves. But the question is, do we have enough internal validation? Do we know how to find and maintain that same acceptance within ourselves to the point where we don’t need the validation of others? Here are some ways to seek internal validation and tap into that unshakeable confidence.

KNOW YOUR TALENTS AND STRENGTHS

Everyone comes into this world with a set of talents and special abilities.

We all have gifts that set us apart. But at some point in life, whether it was in our past or now, we have tried to mimic admirable people who we thought were more interesting than us. We have looked at their talents and wished that we had them ourselves while disregarding our own. The thing is, we cannot undermine our talents because there are many people who would love to have your abilities; they are trying to learn something that comes so naturally for you! Our worth is not defined by what we wear, where we live, who we hang out with, what our bank accounts look like, or what our socioeconomic status is. What gives us our worth is what we put out to the world through our gifts and talents. No talent or gift is greater than the next; they are all equally worthy of contributing to the world. There are people who are waiting on you to use your gift.

78 | ForsythWoman.com

COMPARE YOURSELF TO YOURSELF

Too often, we compare ourselves to the next person to see if we measure up: “Am I as pretty as she is? As talented? As successful? As sophisticated? Or as intelligent?” Comparison is a confidence vampire, sucking up all the self-esteem we may have already had. There is something so priceless about being yourself. You were designed with divine intentions, with a purpose that no one can fulfill but you. Trying to be “better” than the next person isn’t worth it. The only person to be greater than is the person you were yesterday.

KEEP A JOURNAL

Do you enjoy journaling? This exercise will help you seek internal validation like no other! Even if you don’t like journaling, doing so will give you great self-revelations. Keep a journal of the things you’ve accomplished daily, what you believe you’ve done well that day, or any personal victories or things you’ve overcome. Make your entries exclusively about yourself and write down how you felt when you made those accomplishments. They don’t have to be major (“job promotion”); they can be minor, such as trying a new recipe or breaking a new personal record at the gym. Also, as you write your accomplishment, write down how proud you are of yourself, and don’t hold back on giving yourself credit. Write, “Go ’head, girl!” if you need to! Looking back on your journal entries—and even writing them down—will give you a boost of inner confidence and strength, mainly because you are the one telling yourself these things instead of other people.

LIVE LIFE THE WAY YOU FEEL LED

In this particular culture, we are expected to live our best lives at parties, concerts, and other thrill-seeking activities. But some of us are more introverted and enjoy a quiet time with a good novel or Netflix. The key to happiness and fulfillment is to enjoy life the way we see fit, not how we are expected to enjoy it.

In what ways will you seek internal validation for 2020?

The New

Exciting

Experience!

Come Shop the Remodeled Store Filled with Popular Brands

Rosie’s Hallmark

Fully stocked card selection including the Signature Line Willow Tree | Collectibles Keepsake Ornaments Sherwood Plaza Shopping Center 336-760-4070

Rosie’s Hallmark

3380 Robinhood Road, Winston-Salem, NC 27106

PHOTO BY JEFFTHROWER.COM

New Year, New You… Sharon Reid, DDS, PA & Tyler Wynne, DDS

* ACTUAL PATIENT

Call today for a complimentary consultation

Cosmetic & Restorative Dentistry

Mercury Safe • One-Visit Porcelain Restorations • Conscious Sedation • Nitrous Oxide • Invisalign® • Teeth Whitening • Sleep Apnea/Anti-Snore Dental Devices

336.778.2477 • 100 Stadium Oaks Drive, Suite A • Clemmons, NC 27012

General Dentist • Dr. Sharon L. Reid & Dr. Tyler Wynne • Accredited Member: International Academy of Oral Medicine & Toxicology (IAOMT)

January 2020 | 79

Alkali hAIR Studio

BY ADELE CASANOVA Stylists at Alkali Hair Studio are true artisans of their trade.

Expert colorists and stylists, always updating their portfolios and learning the newest techniques, the professionals at Alkali deliver creativity and confidence to their clients. The Alkali experience starts with a beautifully appointed studio offering private rooms for the delivery of services. A wide variety of services are offered at both Alkali Hair Studio and their companion business, Air by Alkali dry bar. Alkali stylists not only offer extensive coloring techniques and precision cutting, they also specialize in beautiful, natural-looking hair extensions.

For clients looking for more volume, length, fullness, and even color, the stylists at Alkali are experts at applying easihair pro tape-in extensions. These natural hair extensions are fast and easy to apply, as well as being lightweight and damage-free to clients’ own natural hair. Alkali uses only ethically sourced hair extensions, purchased at the source at a fair price and of the highest quality and craftsmanship.

These extensions are easy to care for and last several weeks.

The hair itself is warrantied to offer many re-applications, making wearing hair extensions an affordable option. In addition to these fabulous tape-in extensions, Alkali also offers Revive by easihair pro, for women experiencing female pattern baldness or hair loss due to medical issues. Women experiencing hair loss due to these issues can experience a loss of confidence and suffer embarrassment and isolation.

The hair artisans at Alkali can expertly apply the Revive hair extensions, resulting in beautiful, natural-looking, thick, healthy hair, restoring client confidence. Revive application requires no shaving or cutting down of existing natural hair. There are no links, strings or sewing involved, and no bonding. Hypoallergenic tape in an exclusive H2O Floating System is used to secure 100% intact Remy natural hair. The process is comfortable for the client and lasts four to six weeks of natural wear. “All stylists at Alkali are required to complete hands-on certification with the hair extensions,” says studio owner Amber Woodall. “I have ten years of experience, and collectively, we have over 17 years of experience. It is not uncommon for us to do these services daily.” Clients can be assured of beautiful, lasting results!

Amber, a former educator, invests in her staff with continued educational opportunities to keep them on top of the beauty industry. That, combined with the relaxing, private environment of the studio and the superior, luxury product lines, Oribe and R+Co, guarantees an unsurpassed experience for clients. In addition to the original Alkali Hair Studio, Amber also offers her specialty Air by Alkali dry bar, a separate facility that focuses on relaxing, basic cuts, shampoos, and blow out styling. “We have a main menu of five ‘go-to’ looks at the dry bar, and most include some sort of additional heat treatment at no extra charge,” says Amber. A typical service includes a shampoo, blow-dry, and customized styling. In addition to blowouts, Air by Alkali offers makeup service, and keratin and conditioning treatments. Getting blowouts as part of a regular beauty routine can definitely save a lot of time and energy. For busy moms especially, it may be the only time to truly relax and feel pampered. Monthly memberships include two blowouts a month, a free blowout on your birthday, and 10% off product purchases in the salon — also a great gift idea for working professionals and new moms!

80 | ForsythWoman.com

Also offered at Air by Alkali are fun opportunities for private events. Book an entire day or a half-day before your wedding for your own private party, including champagne — and yes, they create lots of up-do’s! On-site wedding day services are available as well. For weddings, ask about special packages, with pricing available upon request.

So, for expert precision cuts and coloring, or lovely, natural-looking extensions, Alkali Hair Studio is the go-to place in Winston. And for specialized hair extensions for female pattern baldness or hair loss due to medical issues, the hair artisans at Alkali offer compassionate, professional application of natural hair from easihair pro Revive.

And remember Air by Alkali for relaxing blowouts and conditioning treatments.

Alkali Hair Studio is located at 301 Brookstown Avenue, Suite 200, in WinstonSalem. You can reach them at 336-724-1453, or on the web (studioalkali.com). Air by Alkali can be found at 107 W. 4th Street in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336-725-4248 for more information and to schedule a relaxing appointment! Hours are Wednesday 9 a.m. – 7 p.m., Thursday 11 a.m. – 7 p.m. and Friday 11 a.m. – 7 p.m. Air by Alkali is closed Sunday through Tuesday.

Air by Alkali Hair By Alkali

Winston Salem’s only Uncompromising blowdry bar dedicated to the art standards, gorgeous of blowouts and styling.

cuts, master colorists.

Downtown Winston-Cuts Offering Blowouts, Updos, Makeup, Monthly Memberships • Private Parties Salem’s most exclusive On site services & intimate salon.

(336) 725-4248 | www.studioalkali.com | 107 W 4th St |Ave Winston-Salem, North Carolina 27101 336-724-1453 | www.studioalkali.com | 301 Brookstown Ste 200 | Winston-Salem, NC 27101 January 2020 | 81

What Kind of Communicator Are You?

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Ever think about your communication style? Maybe you’ve stepped back after someone told you that you were being passive-aggressive or longed to be assertive. Or maybe, just maybe, you haven’t thought of this!

Knowing your communication style might be more important than knowing your blood type (maybe). We spend most of the day communicating – and if you do it well, you can and will rise in your career, no matter what position or field you are in.

I was coaching a woman who was vying for a promotion at her work. One of the most stressful things for her was interpersonal communication. She felt like she just couldn’t figure out her coworkers and how to communicate with them, and this was leading to a lot of miscommunications and misunderstandings. She knew that she had to work on this area not only because it caused her a great deal of strife at work, but it also was brought to her attention by her manager: if she wanted the promotion, she had to be able to connect to the other folks she worked with.

Diving in, she started like many people, saying, “But I’m just not good at this!”

Ah! No one is unless they’ve been working on it.

We started to not only categorize her communication style, but also the styles of the people she worked with. There are four main communication styles:

82 | ForsythWoman.com

PASSIVE

You’re yielding to everyone else. You don’t often express yourself. Maybe you’re misunderstood a lot, avoid confrontation and have a lack of eye contact. You find it hard to say no; people say you’re easy to get along with because you go with the flow, and you’d rather keep the peace than speak up.

AGGRESSIVE

You’re loud, controlling, intimidating, and dominating. You have intense eye contact, get what you want with threats, criticism, attacks, and blame. Commands are your thing, as are rude questions and a lack of listening. You might think that you need to get your way, no matter what.

PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE

You’re bits of the last two. You’re passive on a surface but building resentment that leads to muttering, indirect communication, and difficulty hiding anger. Lack of communication is your MO – rumors behind someone’s back, the silent treatment, and a lot of veiled aggression.

ASSERTIVE

You’re open, but not overbearing. You can express your needs AND care about others.

You aim for both sides to “win,” and you care about the rights and well-being of others.

“I” statements are often present, as you own your thoughts and feelings and don’t blame other people. +Understanding your communication style as well as the communication styles of other people around you is crucial to good communication skills. Sure, we strive to be assertive communicators, but do you go into passive or passive-aggressive land when you’re dealing with people at work?

Maybe you tap into aggressive when you are frustrated or angry, and you really would LOVE to be assertive, but you can’t figure out the difference between being direct and abrasive.

Here’s something to remember, no matter what: you can’t change how someone else communicates. You can only change how you respond to their communication.

Spending hours on figuring out your communication style in multiple situations and emotions can only go so far. When you’re tapping into other communicators, here is a good rule of thumb: When you’re communicating with PASSIVE communicators, it often helps to ask them to get back to you. You can give them some time to think, and a less confrontational response by using email communication versus in-person communication.

If it’s an AGGRESSIVE communicator, you’ll need to come in as directly as possible, and be prepared to ask them to stop doing what they are doing. Here’s another person that might be better dealt with over email, as you can craft your response after a bit of thought – and a bit of their cool down.

With PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE communicators, you want to treat them with the care of a passive communicator and the directness of an aggressive communicator. Ask them clearly what they want, and when they say it, go with it – if you leave spaces for their snarky comments, that’s all you’ll have to deal with.

Finally, ASSERTIVE communicators.

Give them a high five and model your communication after their direct and empathetic style.

Piedmont Advantage Credit Union

Habitat ReStore

January 2020 | 83

The No Complaining Challenge Have you tried it?

BY VONDA HENDERSON

What is the No Complaining Challenge? Whether you see this as the next social media idea or not, at its root, it’s a good thing. Just think, spending seven consecutive days without complaining about what you don’t have or about the people in your life (family, friends, co-workers, or strangers you encounter day-to-day); it can be quite an eye-opening experience. Making the conscious decision to be content, happy, or pleased with what you have and the folks in your life; what an uplifting experience. Where can you turn around a complaint to a positive experience? A few ideas include:

MORNING ROUTINE

Getting to work on time is, for many, an exercise in frustration. You have to get yourself ready, the kids need to be prodded to wake up and get dressed for school, everyone needs breakfast, and you’re on a tight timeline. Wouldn’t this be a typical opportunity to get off on the wrong foot by yelling at everyone from one task to the next, so that by the time you’re out the door, your mood is already in the ditch, and you’re not even in the car yet?

Instead, perhaps get yourself up a little earlier (15 minutes can make a huge difference), and greet each person with a smile and reminder that everyone needs to be dressed and ready to go in an hour. Have clothes laid out the night before and bags packed with completed homework. Have breakfast prepared along with lunches packed to go. Depending on their ages, make your kids responsible for themselves and have the older ones help the younger siblings dress.

The upside: no one starts their day with screams in their head. You’re not stressing on your drive to work. It’s a better start, certainly. No complaints rattling around in your head, just a family going about their day with a smile to start it off.

TRAFFIC

Bumper to bumper traffic is a nightmare, no doubt about it. Is there anything you can do about it? Probably not. Does blowing your horn incessantly help the situation? Absolutely not. And certainly you don’t want to be part of a road rage situation; so, keep your hands off the horn.

What to do? First, take a deep breath. If you have an appointment, call ahead and let them know you’ll be there as soon as possible; there’s a traffic jam that you’re stuck in. If nothing is moving, use that time to catch-up on emails (as long as you’re not inching along). If you are moving slowly, then listen to your favorite music or audiobook to pass the time. Remember, it’s better to be late than not get there at all.

HURT FEELINGS

With all the social media options, anyone can take exception to any random comment and blow it all out of proportion. Don’t you sometimes wonder how we got so thin-skinned? Everyone has an opinion; however, it’s not necessary to always share it with the social media world.

Rather than having your very own pity party (which no one wants to go to anyway), realize that an opinion is just that. It’s what someone else thinks that may be polar-opposite to your point of view, but it’s their opinion.

Rather than venting to the world at large, take a moment to realize that each one is within their rights to have an opinion.

Our differences make us each unique in our own right. The ‘I’m right and you’re not’ mentality needs replacing.

Are you game for trying this seven-day challenge? You don’t have to aspire to rose-colored glasses or channel Pollyanna, but merely avoiding negativity and seeing the blessings around you can give you a more positive frame of mind. And, really, don’t you enjoy being around upbeat, positive people?

Have a blessed day!

84 | ForsythWoman.com

Brookstown Inn

Kingery & Kingery can help you create your perfect smile.

Straight teeth.

Less Time.

Clear Braces for Adults

Kingery & Kingery

You can have a straight smile in as little as 6 Months!

Call us today for a FREE ortho consultation.

Kingery & Kingery DDS, PLLC William Kingery D.D.S. & Mary Kingery D.D.S. 2554 Lewisville-Clemmons Rd | 366-766-0511 Winston-Salem Journal Readers Choice 2007, 2010, 2011, 2012, & 2013

KingerySmiles.com January 2020 | 85

Think Before You Pile On

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

With the addition of social media to our everyday lives, we have a whole new medium for communication, information, promotion of our businesses, and side hustles – we also have an entirely new world of bullying. Chances are, you’ve probably participated in some kind of online bullying – and I’m not just saying that because I manage an online group of over 4,000 women in the area and see it weekly.

It’s easy to just take part in the bullying and not pay too much attention to the dozens, sometimes hundreds, of other people doing the same thing. Sometimes, you don’t even realize it’s

bullying. A social media pile-on isn’t a new term: I do think it’s something that needs to be addressed more often.

A social media pile-on can happen in a few ways. Here are two examples I’ve seen first hand: The first: A person posts about an organization. They are upset about something that the organization has done or said – and they tag the organization or the person responsible. Comments start rolling in that are akin to an angry mob – folks adding more and more aggression and hate to the original post, and that tagged person or organization may or may not respond, but it doesn’t matter – no one is thinking about the actual individual involved. They are thinking about the fight.

The second: A person or organization posts an opinion, and it’s either a bad take or unpopular. Bring out the pitchforks, and everyone goes to attack mode behind their keyboards, insulting that person or organization.

The angry mob forms again

and conversation is worthless here on out. And if the person or organization deletes the offending post? It might be worse for them because, hello screenshots.

Full stop before we move forward: if the take is something racist, hurtful, damaging in itself, and people are standing up for a group of folks, this is a very, very different thing. Hurtful and harmful things have no place being out there in the first place. I’m talking about events like the recent famous author pile on that happened when a 2017 Northern State grad didn’t think novelist Sarah Dessen’s work was worthy of inclusion in a university program Specifically, graduate Brooke Nelson said “She’s fine for teen girls but definitely not up to the level of Common Read. So I became involved simply, so I could stop them from ever choosing Sarah Dessen.”

Sounds harmless enough, right?

Authors write books, and not everyone is going to love them. And that’s OK! Or not…Dessen tweeted a screenshot of the article saying that authors are real people, too, and she hoped “it made you [Nelson] feel good” because Dessen was having a “hard time” with how “mean and cruel” the sentiment was. Cue other best-selling authors like Roxane Gay, Jodi Picoult, Jennifer Weiner, Jenny Han, and Angie Thomas – all piling on, insulting Nelson for her opinion, from namecalling to saying how Nelson has a nemesis, implying that Nelson was being sinister and misogynistic on books written for teenage girls.

You might be reading this in shock – and yet, you might have contributed to a social media pile-on by liking criticism of an opinion, commenting, or being a keyboard warrior from the comfort of your home, saying things you would never say in real life to someone’s face.

While this piece is more to make you aware of it, and hopefully give pause to your next pile on, here’s a pro tip moving forward: Don’t say anything online that you wouldn’t say in real life to that person or organization’s face.

86 | ForsythWoman.com

WFBH Outpatient Imaging

2019

Move

| P l ay

| Vi s i t

Fo rs yt hM

| Dine

| Shop

ag s.c om

| Open

| 88 8. 89

a Busi

ness

2. 32 04

y 2020

Januar

Emerson Designs

emerson designs graphic design services

252.558.2331 | aron.emersondesigns@gmail.com

proud supporter of Forsyth Magazines January 2020 | 87

Key Responsibilities to Know for the

Power of Attorney

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Over the course of a person’s life, they have to make decisions about their future, one being who will be their power of attorney (POA) if the time comes. According to the American Bar Association, a power of attorney is one or more people who can act on a person’s (the principal) behalf as their agent. It is a signed legal document giving the person, a trusted family member or associate, authority to participate in the person’s financial and/or medical matters. One of the purposes of having a power of attorney allows for the person’s decisions to continue to be made if they are unable to do so. However, a power of attorney has multiple obligations to follow when acting on behalf of someone. If you are in this position for a loved one, keep in mind the responsibilities below.

HEALTHCARE POWER OF ATTORNEY

• Decisions for the healthcare POA can sometimes be dependent on the financial POA. However, the healthcare’s main responsibilities are to help with deciding what medical care the principal receives, such as hospital care, treatment, and therapy, as well as which doctors and care providers the principal can use. You are expected to uphold the principal’s wishes and can be called the healthcare proxy or healthcare surrogate.

• The agent also participates in determining the lifestyle of the principal, if the principal is unable to live by or take care of themselves. The agent will assist in settling the residential care, whether it is in an assisted living facility, nursing home, etc. In addition, they’ll look at who will come in during the day and night to provide help with everyday tasks.

FINANCIAL POWER OF ATTORNEY

• While you will be working with the healthcare POA, the financial agent has separate duties, such as accessing the principal’s finances to pay bills, housing needs, and healthcare.

• The financial POA will also file taxes and make investment decisions on the principal’s behalf.

88 | ForsythWoman.com

• Lastly, they’ll collect debt, manage property, and apply for public benefits.

TIPS TO REMEMBER FOR BOTH

• A POA’s authority can be effective when the legal document is signed or the POA can be set to a “springing” POA, meaning their actions take effect at a certain time or event.

• Be aware of what duties are given to you.

Some examples include signing documents for transactions, completing banking actions, making donations, etc.

• Keep records of all the duties you perform for the principal. If for any reason the principal or court asks for the records, you’ll be able to provide them.

• Understand your rights as an agent. Read all the documents and information given regarding a decision before finalizing or signing. Also, understand your obligations once the principal passes away and what you will still be responsible for.

WHAT AN AGENT CANNOT DO

• Change the principal’s will.

• Continue to make decisions after the principal’s death, unless the agent is named the executor of the person’s will; or if there is no will, the agent can petition to become the administrator of their estate.

• Transfer the POA to another agent. A current POA can decline their responsibilities; however, she cannot choose someone else for her position.

• All actions should be in the best interest of the principal.

The Power of Attorney is a helpful position, but one that comes with great responsibilities. Most of the time, siblings, spouses, or children will become a person’s agent. If you are a POA or know someone who is, be sure you know your responsibilities and limitations, all while acting in the principal’s best interest.

T H E G R I L L E AT T H E G L E N

Grille at the Glen

Come discover one of the best kept casual fine dining secrets in Clemmons!

Open to the Public – Make Reservations Now

JANUARY EVENTS 1/18 – Bingo with a Mexican Buffet 1/25 – Wine Tasting

www.GrilleAtTheGlen.com

1000 Glen Day Dr., Clemmons, NC 27012 | (336) 712-1010 | Mon-Tues 10:30am - 5pm | Wed-Thurs 10:30am - 9pm | Fri 10:30am - 10pm | Sat-Sun 10am-5pm

Clean up your life in 2020

Two Maids

GIFT CERTIFICATES AVAILABLE! • Many packages to choose from! • 336.448.4640

336.448.4640 • winstonsalem@ineedamaid.com • 3909 West Point Blvd. Suite A • Winston-Salem, NC 27103 January 2020 | 89

Learning How to enjoy exercising

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

With the New Year, comes New Year’s resolutions. But let’s be honest – how many of us truly keep strong with that resolution of “going to the gym more often”? Most of us start determined until we slowly fall off the exercise wagon as we start citing legitimate excuses: weather, work trips, vacation, illness, and anything else that seems reasonable.

Sound about right? Therefore, the challenge this year is to simply rephrase that resolution to “being active more often.” Find out below why this simple adjustment will keep you motivated throughout the year.

The cardinal rule in learning how to enjoy exercise is to keep your primary motivation far away from the ever-sopopular weight loss determinant. Studies show that the average adult becomes unmotivated to exercise when they view it as punishment for not being ‘fit’ enough. However, your weight loss journey is comprised of a variety of factors, such as eating habits, drinking, and sleeping.

Fun fact: a psychologist at the University of Michigan conducted a study showing that women who place weight loss as their primary motivational determinant tend to exercise less than those with other motivations. This year, maybe try to view exercise as a way to improve your mental or physical health. As a matter of fact, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services recommends that adults integrate regular cardio into their routine, with a minimum of 2.5 hours of “moderate-intensity” training per week. To simplify the term “moderate-intensity,” just remind yourself that you should have the ability to talk but not sing. The basic goal here is to truly appreciate every small achievement you make while trying to bear the minimum of 30-minute walks at least 5 days a week. With that being said, view exercise as an exceptional investment in your health.

Don’t be afraid to try something new!

There is often a misconception that for exercise to be effective, you must have a rigorous, hardcore training session.

However, there are plenty of exercise routes that won’t push you to your breaking point. First, start off with a long-term goal that works best for your health. Maybe it’s a 12 - 24 months plan.

If you finish you goal early, then more power to you! Some options to break up the mundane days may include a short drive to the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains to appreciate the serenity of

90 | ForsythWoman.com

nature as you hike along a marked trail. Hiking is a perfect opportunity to catch up with your family at the end of a busy week. You could also simply grab a friend or your dog to take a casual walk around the neighborhood or nearby park. Have confidence in yourself as you try out a new yoga studio or cycling class solo. Who knows? You may end up meeting new people that become life-long friends. As you try out the variety of exercises, focus on which ones truly make you happy and excited to go back.

Explore the wonderful world of exercise with some of the most unconventional fitness routines edging away at fun. Martial arts is an excellent way to improve balance and coordination, and has also been known to combat depression. Did you know that an hour of rollerblading can burn roughly 400 calories?

It can be an enjoyable way to tone your legs

and work those abdominal muscles, as well.

Or simply bring your heart rate up by laughing and dancing to the booming volume of your favorite music. Incorporate a classic stretching routine or old fashion push-up to tone your muscles. If you can’t do a push-up, try 2.5 lb. hand weights as you walk. Pilates helps to strengthen and lengthen all body muscles, with a particular emphasis on the core muscles.

Another invigorating option to improve your overall heart strength is kickboxing. Enjoy the positive energy that roams the room during a kickboxing class, as the high-intensity training activates both your lower- and upperbody muscles.

The options are endless! It is just a matter of finding what you love and learning how to properly motivate yourself to keep up the routine. And don’t forget to pat yourself on the back for each triumphant day.

JEJ Photos

January 2020 | 91

In Traffic

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Picture this: you’re driving along the highway, listening to the radio, on your way to something important to you. Work, a party, dinner, meeting friends – you’re not driving just to drive, you have a destination. You’re in the center lane (because you’re not late! That’s not like you, and the left lane is for passing – and you’re not exiting, because you’ve got a bit to go! The right lane is for that, right?)

You see a sign that the left lane is ending in two hundred feet. Some of those left laners immediately turn their blinker on and move over the moment the sign is visible. Others wait until the lane is ending, zoom on over (still with a blinker, thank goodness!) and essentially cut in front of you and the other polite people.

Is this rude? Is this a useful use of the road that is there for you?

Take a moment to think about how you feel about the idea of “zippering” or the “zipper merge” – essentially the idea of drivers staying in the closing or ending land until the end and taking turns to merge right at the end of the lane.

There have been plenty of think pieces on this idea, and several states are even undertaking projects to teach drivers how to do this. Colorado even posted zipper instructions on their highway Facebook page while experimenting with signage along the way. Kansas created an animated video explaining the idea, and studies show these zippering experiments led to a 15% increase in traffic flow through the tested work zone and a 50% shorter merge line!

92 | ForsythWoman.com

Cringing yet? Me, too, because I think this “wait until the last minute” idea of merging is rude – and it’s probably due to what we’re taught about taking our turn.

Think about it – you see a sign that tells you that something will happen, or you get a notification that something is due. Maybe it’s an expiration on food or a library book or replacing your debit card. Do you wait until the very last minute to do it? (No judgment if you do, just a question!) We’re conditioned to believe that procrastination is bad – waiting until 11:59 pm on the day something expires or on the day a bill is due doesn’t always yield positive results! You might forget the expiration date (totally did that recently on dog treats!) or miss the bill deadline (hello autopay!).

So why do this when you’re merging with a hunk of metal that weighs 1000s of pounds?

Are you the zipper merger or the person that gets angry at the seemingly selfish person waiting until the last minute to merge, possibly getting a few hundred feet ahead in traffic? Do you see the merge as using resources made available, in this case, the road, or as someone who feels their time is better spent not losing a few seconds merging early and getting to that job/meeting/dinner 5 minutes early instead of 5 minutes late?

While I’m not sure if we can recondition ourselves to think waiting until the last minute is a good idea – especially if we’re Type A Overachievers, like myself – I do think we can be a bit kinder to those just using the resources and road given to them. At least don’t do what one person did during the zipper study in Colorado – a traffic coordinator was testing the idea during construction and ended up getting a burrito thrown at his car by another motorist. Aside from a waste of a burrito, approach the situation as a positive – folks just want to use all of the road given to them!

Simply Southern Cuisine

3570 Clemmons Rd, Clemmons, NC • (336) 712-4636

FEBRUARY

˜

7-9 & 12-16

—

˜

Thursday-Saturday 7:30pm | Saturday & Sunday 2pm

Reynolds Place Theatre

in the Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts 251 N. Spruce Street in Winston-Salem book and lyrics by Robert L. Freedman music and lyrics by Steven Lutvak

Winner of four Tony Awards

2014 Best Musical

Little Theatre

Tickets: 336-725-4001 or www.LTofWS.org

show sponsored by

When penniless clerk Monty Navarro learns that he’s a distant heir to the D’Ysquith banking family fortune, he sets out to speed up the line of succession by bumping off a few inconvenient relatives in a most gentlemanly manner, of course.

One actor playing all of the D’Ysquith heirs only adds to the fun of this fresh new musical comedy.

January 2020 | 93

94 | ForsythWoman.com

Nu

January 2020 | 95

u o l c d I h s i w I RSON

A HENDE

BY VOND

Sleep deprivation is a significant issue for many people. Remedies are in the news and on social media nearly every week. It’s become a real issue in this country. Why can’t people sleep?

There are any number of reasons – anxiety, stress, depression, insomnia, and more. No matter the reason, the lack of sleep can wreak havoc with a person’s daily life.

What’s it really like for someone who can’t seem to get to sleep or stay asleep? Let’s take a look at a friend willing to share her sleep challenging story. We won’t use her proper name to protect the sleep-deprived; we’ll call her Jean.

back to the den. Since we’re in the den, he wants to go out; then he gets into his favorite chair and goes right back to sleep. I turn the TV back on to some old reruns hoping to get sleepy.

2:15 am: Seems to be working, so I stretch out on the sofa with a blanket. Dog decides to join me and lies on my legs. I drift off to sleep.

4:00 am: Where am I? I’m awake and am cramped up on the sofa.

Dog has pushed my legs off so he can stretch, so I’m half on and off the sofa.

Jean describes herself as a typical night person; she likes to sleep late and stays up well after most others are in bed. She shared, “I guess from years of working long hours, I still tend to work on projects in the evening. I find I get ideas and plan what I’m going to do the next day. I usually work on my calendar late at night.

Bedtime for me is generally not before midnight. Getting to sleep is a chore.” Jean describes her sleep sequence as:

4:15 am: Back to the bedroom and back in bed. Dog again curls up, and after glaring at me, he’s sleeping. Lights out.

Midnight: Start winding down, turn off the TV, or put down the book. I’ve been told many times to read myself to sleep, but that doesn’t work for me; I will end up reading all night or until a book is finished. Get a glass of water and take the phone to the bedroom. Take daily meds, read devotional, and turn-down bed.

8:30 am: Up and headed to make coffee. Dog wants out again. He’s back to sleep. My day has started, and I’m already exhausted.

12:30 am: Finally in bed. Dog is settled at the end of the bed and already curled up to sleep. Turn off light and get into a comfortable spot. The room is totally dark; I can’t sleep with any type of light.

1:00 am: Still awake. Can’t turn off the thoughts in my head.

Try mental relaxation exercises and deep breathing. Works for a few minutes, then I feel myself tensing up again. Try a few more times.

1:45 am: Nothing is working. No point in just lying here. Turn on the bedroom lamp and get back up. We (me and the dog) go

96 | ForsythWoman.com

4:30 am: Turn over to other side and feel myself drifting off . . . finally.

7:30 am: Alarm goes off. Are you kidding!!! Smack it and sleep another hour.

Does that sound like a good night’s rest? Certainly not, but it’s normal, according to Jean.

What changes has she made to improve her sleep? She shared that she’s tried several. “Sleeping pills, even over-the-counter ones, make me so fuzzy-headed the next day, that I don’t take them. A cup of hot tea or coffee (which never keeps me awake) works. Weaning myself off the iPhone at night helps; I admit that I spend too much time reading Facebook and news feeds when I first go to bed. I recently got a weighted blanket, and that works better than anything else I’ve tried. My advice, is to try different techniques until you find what works for you.”

Now, for a good night’s sleep! Goodnight, all!

Now Open To The Public Sapona Bar & Grille

At Sapona, the views from the Clubhouse windows make every dining experience a memorable occasion. Enjoy your favorite beverage at the Sapona Bar while overlooking our dual 9/18th green; or dine open air on our covered patio with plush seating and fire tables. Sapona is now open to the public with a casual fine dining menu that appeals to everyone’s desires. Thick Juicy Burgers, Flatbreads, Grilled Bone-in Chops, and Fresh Seafood are just a taste of what our inspired culinary team prepares daily. Join us at the Sapona Grille after a round of golf, for a special occasion, or just a night out with family or friends for the best dining experience in the Lexington area.

439 Beaver Creek Road | Lexington, NC 27295 336-956-6245x2 | pga@saponaclub.com Lunch: Tuesday - Sunday 11am-4pm Dinner: Wednesday - Friday 5-10pm Brunch: Sunday 11am-4pm

D RE SS F OR SUCCES S ® WI NSTO N- SA LE M Going Places. Going Strong.

A Gently Loved Designer Clothing Sale

Dress for January Success29 & Friday January 30 Thursday 12pm - 7pm

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS!

Shop Ming Wang, Carlisle, Doncaster, Coach, Kate Spade and much more, all while sipping wine and munching hors d’oeuvres.

ALL AT AMAZING PRICES!

All proceeds from the sale go to help women in need in our community.

624 6th Street at the Winston-Salem Center

WinstonSalem.DressForSuccess.org January 2020 | 97

BY LAUREN SEPHTON Between the hustle of our daily routines and the brittle winter wind, water can sometimes make its way off of our priority list. So, what are some creative ways to drink more water? And why is it essential to drink plenty of water during these brutally cold months? Keep reading to find out.

Fun fact: did you know that most infants are born with body compositions that contain up to 80% water? However, the average adult human body is made up of only 60% water or less. Why is that? Well, simply the fact that fat tissue does not contain as much water as lean tissue.

Now, why is water essential to our health?

First, water is the defining factor in forming saliva. As random as it sounds, the benefits are off the charts. Saliva is a key element that signals a healthy body and proper digestion. It keeps your teeth strong, helps you swallow your scrumptious food, prevents unwanted bad breath, as well as contains minerals and proteins that protect tooth enamel. Did you know that the average adult human body produces about 2 to 4 pints of saliva a day? That’s crazy! Second, water helps deliver the much-needed oxygen to all parts of the body. By drinking good ol’ water, your body is transporting wholesome nutrients and oxygen to your cells, as well as picking up any waste material to eliminate through urination. Third, water improves blood circulation that’ll keep your body temperature regular, allowing you to say goodbye to those dry skin spells and unpleasant hot flashes. Don’t forget how good water is for our eye health and many other functions in our body either.

Follow these four simple methods to keep hydrated this winter:

ENHANCE YOUR WATER PITCHER WITH NATURAL FLAVORS

Throw in some tasty and fresh add-ins that will not only make your water pitcher aesthetically-pleasing but, also add nutrients. The most satisfying part is that the longer the fresh fruits, herbs, and vegetable slices relax in the water, the tastier each sip of water will be! Consider adding strawberries, grapefruit, and oranges as a vibrancy. Create festive combinations with thinly sliced veggies,

98 | ForsythWoman.com

such as ginger, cucumber, and celery. Toss in a few twigs of rosemary, mint, or sage to achieve an intricate taste. For instance, try combining lemon slices, lavender, and cucumber slices to calm anxious nerves. Try out a joyful blend of whole blackberries, basil, and Honeycrisp apple slices as you catch up with friends. Be creative as you play around with exciting (and sometimes questionable!) combinations to toss into your water pitcher!

INVEST IN MOTIVATION

Take a short drive to your favorite retailer to find a stylish water bottle that will motivate you to bring it everywhere you venture.

If possible, try to keep that water bottle always filled to the brim and nearby.

SKIP SODA, CHOOSE SPARKLING

Resist the urge to wander to the nearest vending machine for junk food at work or drive-thru windows during your lunch break.

Instead, try substituting those sweet drinks with sparkling water. Cure that need for something fizzy by adding a little splash of lime juice or lemon juice into seltzer water.

EAT FOODS RICH IN WATER

A sneaky way to consume more water is through your diet. Many tasty foods are rich in water content and can be easily added to your meals. For instance, zucchini is 95% water, cucumbers are 96% water, and grapefruit is 91% water. Although the water percentages may slightly vary depending on the way each crop is grown, the water content remains high enough to make an impact.

Keeping hydrated this winter has just been made even easier through the simplest measures. And trust me, your body will be thanking you!

Busy as a Bee Concierge

C E L E B R AT I N G Y O U R TA L E N T S + PERSONAL BRAND

Jody Brim Photography

w w w. j o d i e b r i m . c o m

| 336.997.9487

@jodiebrimphotography January 2020 | 99

NATALIA PEREZ

Natalia Perez has been with Crystal Cleaners for more than 15 years and is the current manager. She has been a shining example of what a loyal and dedicated employee should be.

Throughout her career with Crystal Cleaners, she has improved each and every year, even being asked by past managers, sometimes even the owners, about how to handle a certain situation.

She recently hit another huge milestone by attending the only dry-cleaning school (Dry Cleaning and Laundry Institute) in the country! Natalia has big aspirations within the company and loves serving the people of Clemmons! She has two sons and loves to hike in her free time.

JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Jean Marie Johnson is a new writer for the Forsyth Woman team. She is the first to say that she entered this life “with an inquisitive mind, a mush-melon heart, a significant degree of sass and a passion for all things beautiful.” She secured her first full time summer job at the age of twelve as a babysitter, sold Avon and babysat throughout high school, won a scholarship to a commuter college and tutored and worked in the placement office for extra cash. The ensuing decades filled her mind and her heart with the experience of the professional workplace. Over time, she evolved as a writer, speaker and provocateur, channeling years of life experience to support women on their journeys to embrace and express the person they were born to be. She currently authors the blog, “Second Stage Lifestyle Coach.” secondstagelifestylecoach.com/ which focuses on personal style while offering insight and inspiration for cultivating an authentic, “perfectly-imperfect” life.

Jean Marie holds a BA in Social Work and a master’s degree in Human Resource Development and Counseling. In her spare time, she can be found walking, tending her herb garden, feeding her backyard birds, hunting for great finds and always cultivating the beauty and the raw authenticity around her.

SUSAN MAIER COLON

Susan Maier Colon is a full-service real estate service provider with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices. She has been recognized with awards of her remarkable achievements year after year. Most recently, Susan is part of Berkshire Hathaway’s Chairman’s Circle Platinum for working in the top 1% of sales professionals. Along with her husband, Raul, she received an award for the Triad’s Emerging Philanthropist after co-chairing the Kaleidoscope Ball in May of this 2019. She is on the Board of Directors for the Home Builders Association and has spent a great deal of time giving back to the community through the Junior League of Winston-Salem, Big Brothers/Big Sisters, Girls on the Run, Tour of Fine Spaces, Arts Nouveau Society, Young Leaders United and the United Way, Women’s Council at Forsyth Hospital and Rotary. In her spare time, she enjoys renovating homes, reading a good book and spending time with her husband and three young kids (Brayden, Leah and Bennett).

100 | ForsythWoman.com

CRYSTAL SCOTT

Crystal Scott is a licensed professional counselor. She began her career working in a group home for at-risk children and then to the Department of Social Services as a Child Protective Service worker. Upon moving to NC in 2006, Crystal worked in community mental health for several years and then to inpatient psychiatric on the adolescent girls’ unit. “I am very passionate about my position as a therapist and helping people try to transform their lives into something positive,” she said. Along with her husband, Todd, Crystal purchased a professional residential cleaning franchise in 2018 and quickly found a way to turn that into a venture that could give back to her community. Her company, Two Maids and a Mop, partners with Cleaning for a Reason, a non-profit organization that offers free home cleaning services to those receiving treatment for cancer. “It is an opportunity for us to give back to those in need because we never know when we will be one of those people.” In her spare time, she enjoys spending time with her children, Carley, Parker, Griffin, Julia and Evan as well as doing machine embroidery.

DENISE HEIDEL

Denise Heidel has been a long-time writer with Forsyth Magazines and has more than 25 years of experience in corporate America. Her background has included a demonstrated track record for excellence, including the development of many of the operating systems used by Forsyth Magazines. In 2019, Denise began her own company, The Office Nerd Virtual Assistant. At the end of January, Denise will celebrate her first full year in business, and though she can work remotely for practically anyone anywhere, her focused efforts have been local, as she has a genuine heart for local, small businesses. Throughout the year, she has enjoyed the diversity of working across many industries and helping other small businesses grow and be successful. Denise is married to Wayne Heidel, a drummer for the local band, Hawthorne Curve. She has a grown son and loves to spend time with her family, as well as her dog and four cats. She is an avid reader and enjoys knitting and cooking. Denise is also actively involved in her church and writes a daily devotion for her blog, My Grace-Full Life.

If you are interested in submitting yourself or someone you know for a future Woman on the Move profile, visit our online application link – Women on the Move (WOM...tinyurl.com/ForsythWomanWOM).

January 2020 | 101

With so few ingredients, you really can’t believe how delicious this salmon recipe is. Whether you’re starting 2020 by being paleo, keto, Whole 30 friendly, or just simply trying to make an effort to watch your waistline, this recipe checks off.

INGREDIENTS ¼ cup butter or ghee if making Whole 30 or paleo compliant 6-8 cloves garlic, minced ¼ cup chicken broth ¼ cup lemon juice Sea salt Avocado or olive oil 4 salmon filets, about 6 ounces each patted dry Fresh cracked pepper if desired 2 tablespoons freshly minced parsley Fresh lemons sliced if desired

DIRECTIONS Make the lemon garlic sauce: In a small saucepan, melt ghee or butter over medium heat. Add garlic and saute 1-2 minutes or until fragrant.

Add in chicken broth, lemon juice and a few generous pinches of salt. Simmer this mixture until reduced by 1/3 to 1/2. The sauce will turn from a thin liquid to a thicker, more bubbly boil.

Remove from heat and set aside.

Make the salmon: Remove the salmon from the fridge 10-20 minutes before cooking. Sprinkle both sides liberally with salt and season with fresh cracked pepper, if desired.

Heat the oil in a large saucepan over medium-high heat.

Carefully place salmon filets skin side up and cook until lightly browned on the bottom, about 2-3 minutes or until crispy. Use a spatula to carefully flip, being sure not to take off any flesh.

Cook 3-4 minutes on the second side, or until the skin is crisp and fresh begins to feel firm to the touch.

Remove pan from heat and pour lemon garlic sauce over. Sprinkle with parsley and arrange lemon slices over for garnish, if desired. Serve with skin or easily removed with a spoon.

102 | ForsythWoman.com

Healthy Lemon Garlic Salmon

BY SARA WILES

Christina’s Dessertery

Cakes ,

from simply elegant to luxuriously extravagant!

336.712.0300 ChristinasDessertery.com

Playing all your favorites Hawthorne Curve (& then some!) just around the bend.

Follow on Facebook and Instagram for upcoming shows and performances.

Available for private parties.

Contact Wayne Heidel to book Hawthorne Curve! 336.247.5705 (phone or text) or HawthorneCurve@gmail.com.

Goin’ Postal

• Fax • • B&W & Color Copies • • Mailbox Rentals • • Shipping Supplies • • Greeting Cards • • Notary Public • Stamps • Passport Photos

6255 TownCenter Drive, Clemmons (located next to Mossy’s)

336-712-0505

January 2020 | 103

BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

Embracing Collaboration for Your Strongest Year This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Imagine if you took all of your amazing ideas, passion, talent, and drive and fit them into a small box that fits into the palm of your hand. Now, what if I told you that the only things you could fit inside that little box were what you could hold onto in your business? Whatever couldn’t fit into your own two hands had to go.

That is what working alone looks like.

Now imagine what happens if you could spread your arms wide open and grab onto other outstretched hands?

The amount you could carry and hold onto would quadruple, if not more! I’m talking about Oprah show giveaway haul capacity! That is what collaboration does for your business. It allows you to expand in so many different ways by partnering with others!

This year, I want to challenge you to think about how you can build your relationships and your revenue through collaborating. Here are a few ways you can get started no matter where you’re at in your journey.

#1 KNOW YOUR GOAL What do you want or need to accomplish this year?

Don’t just think about the daily to-do list tasks or revenue goals, but the big accomplishments you are dreaming about.

What is something you feel you could achieve by collaborating with others that you haven’t or can’t do on your own? Think about something you’ve perhaps done before, but know you could expand on and really blow out of the water if you were to team up this time. Make a list of some of your goals and brainstorm ways you could see adding collaboration into the mix to make them happen.

#2 KNOW WHAT YOU BRING TO THE TABLE

Remember that you are already a rock star at so many things!

You have talent and passion for what you do and experience that’s gotten you through your journey so far. This is important to remember for two reasons. First, you don’t need another you! Great collaboration comes from working alongside others with different skill sets and experiences of their own. You want to continue to work in your zone of genius and partner with someone who can do the same in theirs. Second, you have so much value to bring to a collaboration in who you are.

Never hesitate in knowing if you are someone worth teaming up with – you have so much to bring to the table!

#3 FIND YOUR PEOPLE + BE BOLD TOGETHER

The possibilities to collaborate can seem endless when you start to look around. You want to really hone in and find your people!

Look at your current friend and business circle and reach out to those candidates with whom you really think you could make some magic. Figure out some of your common goals and how you may be able to work towards a new product, service, or initiative. Also, don’t forget to look closely at those who aren’t currently in your direct corner, but you can see the potential of connecting. Be bold and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and start a conversation.

You never know where it can lead and the power your connection can have in your business.

#4 MOVE THE NEEDLE FORWARD

Not all collaborations are created equal! You never want to fill up your calendar with being busy in your business – you want to be productive! Those hard-working hours are already going toward so many things in life that if you choose to collaborate, you want it to be intentional. You want to choose things that are going to move you forward in success.

What that success looks like can be different for everyone and come in the form of numbers, profit, confidence, exposure, driving mission, and other measurable things. Just be sure you are selecting the right goals to work towards and the right people to work on them with before committing to something!

Know that collaboration can look however you want it to! You can create relationships with brands both big and small and curate projects that lead you to work together in person or online. Decide what feels best for you and your goals, and work towards building collaborative efforts that make you feel fulfilled and excited about the year ahead.

104 | ForsythWoman.com

Excel Nerd Nerd meets Wordsmith with over 25 years Office of experience in project management, writing, and social media management.

Denise Heidel

336.413.7610 • Denise@TheOfficeNerdNC.com www.TheOfficeNerdNC.com

P R O F E S S I O N A L W O M E N O F W I N S TO N - S A L E M

sponsored by

BUILDING YOUR BRAND Join us Wed., January 8th, 2020 | 11:30am - 1pm

Early Bird Price: $20 | Regular Price: $25

Register Online at PWWS.org

Professional Women of WinTimogi Jackson ston Salem

understands the importance of building of a strong and durable brand. As a single mother Timogi emptied her savings to hire the best marketing team possible and lay the foundation for her brand.

Today,Timogi is a bestselling author of 7 books and an award-winning speaker and educator. She is a Lady & A Woman known as The Empowerment Specialist.

Professional Development Connections • Support For meeting reminders, subscribe to our mailing list! PWWS.org

Suzie Phelan, Seamstress 336.414.4916

Stitches

Custom Drapes | Valences | Shades | Comforters | Dust Ruffles | Pillows January 2020 | 105

TRIAD WOODCARVERS

BY VONDA HENDERSON What do you picture when you think of woodcarving? Perhaps a stereotypical picture of guys sitting on a front porch with sticks of wood and knives in hand with a pile of shaving on the floor? Nope.

The Triad Woodcarvers has an active group of women carvers who bring their own unique spin to this art form.

Woodcarving, one of the oldest of all the arts, is an art form that allows for individual expression using natural, organic elements, i.e., wood. Consider the artifacts found in museums: tools, utensils, home furnishings, toys, etc. Most of them were carved from wood. You likely noticed additional embellishments to make them pleasing to the eye while retaining their functionality.

The Triad Woodcarvers, founded in 2009, is the most active woodcarving club in the Carolinas and is comprised of members from around the Triad and Yadkin Valley. Members work to enhance their skills and enjoy teaching this art form to new members. They embrace the concept of giving back to the community through specific projects, such as Ronald McDonald House. They do enjoy sharing their talents and enjoy healthy competition, as reflected by the numerous awards they have won at regional and national events. Presently, their membership is at 92, with 28 of that total women carvers.

Who are some of the ladies of Triad Woodcarvers?

Meet Ruth McHenry. She is Director of the Ronald McDonald House “Angel of Hope” program. So far, the

106 | ForsythWoman.com

woodcarvers have created nearly 100 angels and birds for the children and families of Ronald McDonald House. As Ruth stated, “Sometimes, you just need a little something to hold onto.” These small artifacts are designed to be handheld for comfort and are finished to a satin-like sheen. Some are natural, while some of the birds are brightly painted.

Ruth shared that a new delivery is taken to the House about every four to six weeks. Ruth is an active volunteer; she also works with the NC Baptist Men who renovate homes after hurricanes as a member of the kitchen crew.

Lynne Patrick joined Triad Woodcarvers just over a year ago. Her medium is pyrography (writing with fire), which involves using a heated metallic point to burn a design into wood. The detail she achieves in her work is quite amazing. She also serves as the Club’s Director of Social Activities, including responsibility for the annual picnic and annual December Christmas Social.

Carol Mock has been with the club for about two years. She and her husband are active members; Tom is currently the club president. Her niche is carved wooden jewelry in unique designs (fox heads, crucifixes, hearts, and more). Her imaginative pendants make a statement.

Tom and Carol have served as Santa and Mrs. Santa at Christmas events in Davie County for many years.

Judith Ruff joined the club about a year ago and serves as the Club Photographer to showcase the club’s work.

She is also on the Board of the Senior Games.

Stephannie Walker Seaton is also a relatively new member.

She relocated to the area from Utah and has been active in promoting the art of woodcarving at events attended by the club.

Interested in trying your hand at carving? All you need is an interest and a willingness to learn. Plan to visit one of the Triad Woodcarvers meetings. No need to bring anything and no prior experience necessary. They meet weekly each Monday from 3:00 pm to 8:00 pm at the Miller Park Community Center (400 Leisure Lane, Winston-Salem). The club provides tools, wood, patterns, basic instructions on safety, tools, and how to get started. Classes are free and include up to four weeks of lessons. You’ll learn about different carving techniques -- chip carving, relief carving, wood burning, cottonwood bark carving, carving in the round, painting, and Christmas ornaments -- to help find your area of interest.

For more information, visit their website (triadwoodcarvers.com). You can also follow them on Facebook. Check their 2020 schedule of activities and enjoy their creativity and talent!

They’re a welcoming group and would love to have you visit!

Mountain Valley Hospice

201 Media

ALEXANDER’S

A U T O M O T I V E Alexander’s Automotive

336.766.5658 | 336-766-2132 u haul

Mon-Fri 8am-6pm | Sat 8am-4:30pm | 1601 Lewisville- Clemmons Rd., Clemmons

Propane refilling station | A/C & Auto Repair State Inspections | U-Haul Rentals | 24 hour Towing January 2020 | 107

a family, working, and doing daily tasks that leave limited time for lengthy workouts. With this said, in order to lead a healthy, productive, and sane life, it is imperative to take the time to work out and eat healthy to some degree. So even if we are not of movie star status, there are important reasons to maintain an appropriate BMI. In our society, BMI is strongly and inversely associated with socioeconomic status (the higher the BMI, the lower the status), especially among women (Glass, 2010). Research shows that heavier women tend to earn less money than non-heavy women in both professional and blue-collar occupations; they obtain less education and experience more exclusion from managerial positions. Young women who are not heavy experience more career success and are considered cooperative, intelligent, and competent while heavier women are considered to lack self-discipline, be less productive, and have less supervisory potential. This level of employment discrimination is not found for men. A recent study by Glass and associates followed over 10,000 females from their adolescent years and throughout their careers, and related an elevated BMI, especially if higher in the adolescent years, with less education, and thereby less career success.

I NEED TO LOSE 10 POUNDS!

BY DAVE MCCONELL

Working as a fitness instructor, one of the most common questions asked of me is, “How can I lose about 10 pounds?” If I were going to give a totally sincere answer, to about half of the folks I would say, “You don’t need to lose 10 pounds,” and the other half, I would say, “You really need to lose more than 10 pounds.” It’s a funny thing how our perception of ourselves differs from the way other people see us.

Let me first address the initial group that, from a health standpoint, is probably well within the weight range for their ideal Body Mass Index (BMI). BMI is also defined as the weight-to-height ratio, calculated by dividing one’s weight by the square of one’s height and is an indicator of obesity or for being underweight.

Often the true BMI does not match someone’s mental selfimage. Unfortunately, perception of an ideal body image can be skewed by the beauty and physique of models, movie stars, and even professional athletes that appear daily on television and in magazines. Society admires these celebrities and asks the question, “Why can’t I look like that?” The answer comes in two words… time and money.

One must remember that being a model, movie star, or professional athlete requires that these professionals depend, in a major part, on their looks. Not only do these professionals make movies, star in commercials, or play sports, but they also spend many hours a day on vigorous workouts with professional trainers to achieve and maintain that perfect body. That’s where money and time become crucial factors. First, being paid millions of dollars to have a perfect body would motivate almost anyone to work out and eat right. Secondly, celebrities can afford to hire professional help to cook nutritious meals, raise their children, landscape their yards, grocery shop, do the laundry, clean the house, etc. Most of us “normal” folks work 8-12 hours a day at jobs with salaries that fall far short of a million dollars a year. We spend our time raising

108 | ForsythWoman.com

So, what is really the best way to lose those extra pounds and keep the weight off? Find a lifestyle change that eliminates 500 calories from either your daily energy intake (food consumption) or increase your energy output (exercise) by 500 calories. A combination of cutting calories and starting or increasing one’s workout regimen has been proven to work the best for long term results. The first step involves determining the amount of calories burned during a typical workout. Websites such as caloriesperhour.com can help you calculate calories burned if you do not utilize exercise equipment that calculates this for you. Second, keep track of the calories ingested on a daily basis. (caloriecount. com) for about one week, and review this log to find a way to cut about 500 calories from your typical diet. An easy way to start might combine a 15-minute increase in workout time per day or adding a day to your weekly workout regimen, and skipping the morning latte and choosing black coffee instead. Whatever you decide, remember that little changes over a long period of time can make a big difference.

Now make out your plan and get started on your way to a healthier, happier life!

Architectural & Landscape Lighting for Your Castle! Castle Lights Mention this ad for

$100 OFF 10% OFF

new installations or LED conversions

*Minimum purchase required. *Offer expires 01/31/20

336.505.4913

Call TODAY for a Complimentary Consultation www.castlelights.com

Home Maids Services Marsha Wise Owner

Marshacwise@aol.com

336-765-0260/336-416-6163 4825 Country Club Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27104

Locally-owned & operated.

Providing excellent care in the Triad for 11+ years.

G re

Hillcrest Vision at e y e

health b

egins with preventative e

ms a x e ye

.

2341 Winterhaven Lane | Winston-Salem, NC 27103 | 336.760.2020 | HillcrestVision.com Call to schedule an appointment today.

January 2020 | 109

Writers Who Read High School Reads that Are Still Loved

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

While in high school, most people read the “standard set of books,” the books that are classics, but that you may not have chosen to read at that age. Yet, looking back years later, I have realized those books are now some of my favorites.

THE STRANGE CASE OF DR. JEKYLL & MR. HYDE

by Jane Austen

by Tim O’Brien

Published in 1886, the novel The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde has withstood the test of time. Readers are introduced to a man, and his two alter egos: Dr. Henry Jekyll and Mr. Edward Hyde. London lawyer John Gabriel Utterson begins to see strange occurrences between the two, and decides to investigate exactly what is going on. The characters, Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, are opposites in personality.

Dr. Jekyll is a well-known older man who constantly battles between his good personality, himself, and his evil personality, Mr. Hyde. To help with the challenge, he creates a potion that transforms himself into the young and cruel Mr. Hyde. However, over time, Mr. Hyde’s traits take off on their own, causing Dr. Jekyll to rely on the potion to maintain his dual egos. The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde is a classic story that details the public versus private life of a well-known citizen.

Even if you haven’t read the novel, many people will know the story of Elizabeth Bennet and the eligible, good-looking bachelor, Fitzwilliam Darcy. When Elizabeth first meets Mr. Darcy, it isn’t love at first sight. She thinks he is arrogant and conceited, and her disgust grows when she discovers that he has been causing trouble between his friend Bingley and Elizabeth’s sister, Jane. Yet, the two’s views of each other change throughout the course of the novel and portray the theme that first impressions are sometimes incorrect. In fact, the original title for the novel was First Impressions. Readers are also given insight into the complexities of life for middle-class England during the early nineteenth century.

Since its publication in 1813, Pride and Prejudice has received numerous awards, adaptations in movies and television, and has been placed on PBS’s list of The Great American Reads. Trust me, Pride and Prejudice is a must-read for everyone.

Published in 1990, The Things They Carried is a collection of short stories about American soldiers during the Vietnam War and is based upon O’Brien’s experience as a soldier in the 23rd Infantry Division during this time period. Readers see the war through the eyes of multiple characters. The novel is a combination of fiction and nonfiction. For example, in the story, Alpha Company takes the place of the 23rd Infantry Division. In addition, the audience is taken on a journey of physical and emotional burdens that the characters carried during war time, as well as understanding how the characters use the fear of shame as a motivation. Examples of the short stories are “Love,” “On the Rainy River,” “How to Tell a True War Story,” and “Speaking of Courage.” The Things They Carried is an insightful, well-written novel about experiences many people don’t have.

Plus, it is one that reinforces the importance of honoring and remembering veterans.

by Robert Louis Stevenson

PRIDE & PREJUDICE

THE THINGS THEY CARRIED

The books we read in high school gave us a chance to experience classics and beloved tales that we may not have experienced otherwise.

What books did you read during those four years that have since become your favorites?

110 | ForsythWoman.com

Youth Development Training | Athlete Strength & Conditioning | Speed & Agility

Strength & Conditioning Fitness Classes for Adults

Hillcrest Vision ADAM BARBER

336.462.3162 + adam@torquepf.com + www.torquepf.com

JESSICA BARBER

336.749.7390 + cfpolydamas@gmail.com + www.cfpolydamas.com

+ 5539 Hwy 158 Advance, NC 27006 +

Triad Mac

THANKS FOR BUYING LOCAL!

FOR THE YARD & GARDEN! Ferns • Mixed Container Pots • Herbs Geraniums • Vegetable Plants Annuals • Perennials • Million Bell Baskets Potting Soil • Garden Flags • Bird Feeders Mailbox Covers

Clemmons Country Store

LOCALLY MADE JEWELRY, POTTERY, SOAPS & CANDLES • WE BUY & SELL NORTH CAROLINA PRODUCTS 2690 LEWISVILLE-CLEMMONS RD. | (336) 766-8988 | WWW.CLEMMONSCOUNTRYSTORE.COM January 2020 | 111

5 Essential Tips to

Entertaining

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Find joy in gathering together with your family and friends without the extra chaos. Whether you are simply inviting loved ones over for tea filled with botanicals or throwing a more ambitious and spontaneous gathering, try these five essential tips to keep your guests entertained with a warm welcome.

BE PREPARED

Establish the basics by confirming the date, number of guests, your budget, entertaining location, including indoors/outdoors, food allergies or restrictions of guests, and possibly consider recruiting any help that you might need.

Then, use your findings to organize these basics into realities. For example, simply make phone calls or RSVPs in advance to determine if the desired date is favorable and/ or to get an accurate headcount of attendees. Try making all cooked dishes the day prior or prep them to be assemble-only. Also, consider what ingredients can be prepared in advance and stored until ready to use. Maybe you wish to incorporate catering for some of your dishes, so be certain you book these in advance, especially if your celebration is close to a busy holiday. Plan a date that is not pushing the limits. In other words, take a few moments to review your family calendar and arrange a date(s) that works for everyone.

112 | ForsythWoman.com

MUSIC & ENTERTAINMENT

Bring life to the party by creating a specific playlist that is tailored to your guests’ preferences and style of entertainment. For instance, a simple affair would be more fitted to play casual instrumental music for background support. When considering the demographics of your guests, you may want to opt for less controversial and softer-toned music with varying generations. For a more theatrical occasion or an evening meant for dancing, consider investing in quality speakers or think about hosting live music. Inquire about local neighborhood bands, swing bands, and student musicians. Be sure to consider the preferences of your guests, while remaining true to yourself.

MAKE LIFE SIMPLE

Keep it as simple as possible to allow yourself more time to perfect your food and decor choices. Allow the season to inspire the menu and be creative as you organize a party that you would want to attend. Be both festive and functional by placing more emphasis on a few little details that’ll give your party character.

However, make sure each component is intentional.

For instance, use outdoor lighting as a focal point for decorating an outside event. The outdoor lighting radiates warmth and romance, and is also functional in providing necessary light when the sun sets for the evening. When the festivities for the evening come to a closure, the last thing you want to do is face the colossal pile of dirty dishes in the sink alone. Therefore, call in some relief ahead of time to help you in the after-party clean up. Or save yourself the trouble by splurging on some festive disposable ware for serving.

CULTIVATE A WELCOMING ENVIRONMENT

Ensure that everyone is comfortable. If your guests will be lodging at your cozy home for a few days, encourage them to feel at home and make simple requests. This is the perfect excuse to stock your fridge with your favorite snacks, as well as some snacks that your guests will enjoy.

If your guests still feel uneasy about making their way into your pantry, then make an effort to offer them drinks and snacks quite often.

Temporarily remove any personal belongings from your spare bedroom so that you can avoid the space while your guests lodge there. Make sure your spare bedroom has clean sheets and bath towels, as well as explain to your guests any technological gadgets that may be difficult to learn.

ENJOY YOUR COMPANY

Throwing a party or small gathering is about more than the food on the table or the decorations on the walls, it is about the quality time spent with loved ones and the memories that will last a lifetime. With that said, don’t be too hard on yourself and learn to enjoy each moment as it comes.

By simply utilizing a style of entertainment that is relaxed and expressive, you will be sure to please everyone at the party, including yourself!

Salon •

• Spa • Boutique • Local Artists

Massage • Hair • Skincare • Makeup • Gifts • Art Gallery

ra M g n i d n Farrago e Bra n i l e m i T ing a c i i r d e P M g l n a i t i Soc arke g M n i l g l n e i S d n a The right bag to carry r y ivity eB ivit t t n c c i u u l e d d o o m r r i P T P ing new year. cthe cing dia i e i r r M P P you into l a g g i cial n n c o i i o t t S e e S k k r r g g a a n n i i M M l l l l e ding nding ty S ty Se i a i v r v i t i B t c c e u u n d line i d o e l o r e r m P i m P i T T g g n n a i i c i a c i i d i r 6301 Shallowford Road, Lewisville, NC 27023 | 336.946.9128 | FarragoNC.com Med l Me g P g Pr n l a i i a t c i e o c k o S r S a g M n g i n l i Marg l l n e l i e S g d S n n i a y d r t n y i t B a v i r i v t e i c ine B duct rodu l melin e i P T m i g T a n i i c ing d i a c e r i i r d M P e P l M g a n i g l i c n t o a i e t i S Soc Creative nding Marke Mark g ling n i ReadySto Take Your g n l i l e d n a r y Bra it eB vity vBusiness n i e i t t i n c c l i u e u l e d d m o o i to the Next Level? m r r i T P T P edia cing cing dia i e i r r M P P l a g g i cial n n c o i i o t t S e e S Let’s do it together! k k r r g g a a n n i i M M l l l l e nding ty S ty Se i a i v r randing v i t i B t c c e u u n d line i d o e l o r e r m P i m P i T T g g n n a i i c i a c i i d i r P l Me ngMiss a i i t c e o k S keting Pr Selling Social Med One r a g M n Crafty i l Marg l n e i S g d n n i a y d r t n y i t B a v i r i v t e i ine B roduc l melin e i P T m Product i g T a n i i c ing d i a c e r i i r d M P e P l M g a n i g l i c n t o a i e t i S Soc arke Mark Call www.onecraftymiss.com/coaching g M n i g n l g Selling Sign UpiNow i l n e i d n S d n a r for Your Free Connection a r y B B it e Jerez vity vwww.onecraftymiss.com n i e i t t n c c l i u e u l e d d m o o i m r r i T P T P Taryn | Taryn@onecraftymiss.com | cing cing dia i e i r r Media M P P l a g g i cial n n c o i i o t t S e e S k k r r g g a a n n i i M M l l l l e e Crafty Miss nding ty S ty S@One i a i @0necraftymiss v r v i t i B Branding @onecraftymissblog t c c e u u n d i d o l o r e r P P im Timel T g g n n a i i c i a c i i d i r r e d e P P M M eting ocial cial k o S keting r S a g M n g i n l i Ma g l l n e l i e S g d S n n i a y d r t n y i t B a v i r i v t e i ine B roduc l melin e i P T m Product i g T a n i i c d i a e r i rici d M P e P l M g a n i g l i c n t o a i e t i S e c k r o k r a S g a M ing ng M l g Sellin i l n e i d n S d n a r a r y B t B i e vity v n i e i t t i n c c l i u e u l e d d m o o i m r r i T P T P cing cing dia i e i r r Media M P P l a g g i n n c i i o t t e e S ing Mark Mark l l e g g n S n i i d d n n y t a a i r r v B ine B ducti l o e r m P i T g n i a c i i d Rental keting Pr Selling Social MeHauser ty Productivi I help Makers and Creatives have the confidence to go after what they want in their business and make more money doing what they love.

Through one-on-one coaching and personalized strategy sessions, we’ll work together to help you get clear in your vision and accomplish your goals.

Let’s give your customers a business they can’t get enough of!

If you’re ready for clear action steps, honest mentorship and fierce accountability this is for you!

January 2020 | 113

Taking Time Out for

BY JULIE FRITZ

Life is busy. And crazy and hectic and over-scheduled and so much more. As women, we feel the need to be all the things all the time.

We are mothers, sisters, daughters, wives, friends, employees, employers, volunteers, and household managers. Sometimes it can be overwhelming. We can put ourselves last to take care of the needs of others. Even though women are nurturers by nature, we often forget to nurture ourselves.

2. Sit down in a quiet and calm space.

Lack of self-care can lead to us feeling tired and getting sick. It fuels depressive feelings and can cause us to break down. It is so important for us to remember that in order for us to be our best selves, we have to take time out to take care of ourselves. One way to start small with this task is to take time out for meditation.

4. Watch out for a wandering mind. When your thoughts start to wander, try to move them to the side and go back to focusing on your breath.

Meditation has so many helpful benefits. Starting this practice in your life can help you lower your stress levels, improve your ability to focus, help you control an overactive brain and racing thoughts, and teach you to be more present in all of life’s moments. Many people report that adding meditation to their daily routine adds a general sense of calm to their world.

The best part about meditation is that you can start right now and it only takes a few minutes. Let’s be real for a minute. Nobody has a bunch of extra time in their day, but we could all probably find five to ten minutes. And for meditation, just five to ten minutes is a great place to start. You don’t need any fancy equipment, special clothing, or even a specialized space for meditation. Just you, just as you are, in a quiet place.

If you want to give meditation a try, here are a few simple steps to follow as you give it a go.

1. Before you get started, set an intention and time limit.

(An intention can be as simple as “try to mediate” or “clear your mind” and a beginner time limit of 5 to 10 minute is just fine.)

3. Notice your body and your breathing.

Take note of how your body is feeling and adjust your position to be as comfortable as possible. Start to notice your breath as you breathe in and breathe out. Focus on making it an even flowing breath.

5. Be easy on yourself. When your mind wanders and you have a hard time focusing, give yourself some grace. When you are new to something, it isn’t always easy right away. Over time you will get better at it and it will become easier to accomplish.

6. End with a renewed sense of awareness.

When your time is up, open your eyes, look around, notice the calm that you feel, and take into account the details of the environment surrounding you. Feel appreciation for it all, and thank yourself for taking time out for you.

Following these six simple steps will give you a small perspective into the world of meditation.

If you enjoy it, there are lots of ways you can expand on the experience. There are a great deal of resources online to help you continue the journey. Many websites and apps offer guided meditations where you can listen as someone walks you through a meditative session. There is also music available to help you relax through it. If you decide that it can be helpful in your life, the possibilities are endless when you take time out to meditate.

Meditation 114 | ForsythWoman.com

PAINTING, LLC

BOOKKEEPING | QUICKBOOKS CONSULTING | PAYROLL

FA Madden Painting

Starboard Accounting

Free initial consultation for bookkeeping

FRANK MADDEN, OWNER

The Starboard Guarantee Complete, Accurate, Timely Bookkeeping & Financials

Office 336-766-7030 Cell 860-839-4575 famadden.painting@yahoo.com

336.397.4974 www.StarboardAccounting.com

Crystal Cleaner in Clemmons

QuickBooks Certified ProAdvisor

Hit those new year goals before you even get to the office.

Crystal Cleaner

Clemmons Bicycle

Keeping that business look on-point. NEW LOCATION

3608 Clemmons Rd. 133 Oakwood Dr. Clemmons, NC 27012 Winston-Salem, NC 27103 336-712-3155 336-725-3773 CrystalCleaner3155@gmail.com

Kerri Stewart

1 YEAR FREE SERVICES WITH BICYCLE PURCHASE.

!

Serving Forsyth County Families for Over 40 Years TRI • Road • Mountain • Comfort • Hybrids • BMX • Kids Bicycles Tricycles • Scooters • Bob Strollers • Unicycles

336.766.5564 • www.clemmonsbicycle.com 2703 Lewisville-Clemmons Rd, Clemmons, NC January 2020 | 115

e R g inkin

Reth

s n o i t u l o s

R AYLO AN T

EG

BY M

t to se okay re you s i t i u so, ake s can e. Al ictur owever, m ltitasking e p r e h th mu igg ugh year; he b mes ct out t hout the . Someti o fall thro est impa y r r a t t e g c a u s m e i u o g , r t r o n n g i h y a he th he help le goals t goal at rst. T ause ave t one ing and c at will h benefit fi s. ltip . u s y l n m n o h uti ost on o goal oal t helm resol ches work e overw ut the g ave the m ish other new and swit r o l h m o rt b p f o n a 1st bec . Think com ime t ca eat o cha s tha ted to ac s it is t cember 3 ging to lity t hing i k e s , b c n t n a a e o a r c lis va the me De pled habit. Y u and g omp moti al is hich n ht on ill be on yo be more T go ch as acc of crossin st R ear, w s midnig eople w k a certai roken by s y A u M ju l w l s S g ’ e t p b e I , n a n u n k i e . e y i l e e o o t i h r r a y of t r tim s the fee concep It is ck st 020, man ten, or b ons will b ’s resolut w t e o the o v fi l e o c e r e f 2 r ti o ov t see r ben progress one love a simila m e As th uary 1st, e more o se resolu New Yea on’t foll d h t n can rt a w ery s is a is n Ano e your e e s. Ev t and thi h one pa . that you lihood to Ja ier, exerc me of th ger mak probably ch, I had e p s e t d s s s n i r n l o li h a I tc ike smal to fin healt unately, s ry. I no lo ing that me resea work. o-do ge, e the l r o a w those off their t ewarding hart, ima increase eld more dar. rt n h c unfo d of Janu on of kno er, after s n’t stick o r s v n s item ood and g a visual e you and , you are n the cale o the e sole rea m. Howe lutions d n g t o n i a o o s i g l y v v s t s nc di ha e kin oti e o fee ason er, to m oal. In ad consiste hen wor festyle Plus, for th h with th y my res Insid mmon re Many ext. ay helps e h li w g g n h s w u r ” t e s k o f u h e e r t a ” o o o th usin three c ry d aking y e you se k a stre ware of lure. , or truly dea B e i i That v a n r f . i e e t a t e r n bet t br ivity how caus to “bre others a r suppo r way. rticle there are ns end i t o e i a s n b e o f e i h o e e e bl utio med in p tic and s g to t ist says make le lik noth ed, or th unta resol p rding ra tin lis acco any peop ing. Also, and ask f n track a as plann Acco chothera ew Year’s nough, f s are rea out crea a o o h s m et but e ing b ’t g res n N o sy Not s som our prog le to stay ings don wagon,” ake, “A p people’s t specific ese reaso lution is a lution int So, d r a h w ’ h n to dy tab if t mist the hat. reso reso many tions are . All of t ge an e accoun yourself “fall off dge the to a ning the ing just t ction n a n g u h o n l i r c e s u itt do tur to a reso the per rd on nowl you a es yo comm ge in u are t t and ? way, be too ha ill be tim rself, ack abou metimes h mindse g that yo tyle chan esolution u t w o ’ t r ach hy in so es Don h. There ith e e wit that tive/grow and think et and lif w Year’s a oug e ionat es. W to s h si s s s e N t d i s s o g n a e a i n p n c m g a c nt tio ha mp ig su itme that yle c t this settin esolu hat be co ove one. lifest o you pu you are and b er comm yourself tyle r eciding t the s e m l e t f t d i h i l l g d an late and furt he This rself in d change the how t realizin pier ate t ke a gratu self. , u elebr , you ma and con you a hap your with you ge. Also tation to th c , witho h y t l i t u Last ou make ud of it o make chan est w onno he tr ones t y ro e hon are. Be h new or a better c ly, state t to b g. , step oal. Be p mething t s a c t r d g Fi idatin g selfthin There is so . Las suppose en r m t i e f u t g e o m o n s n i i y o i d w ll do ’re o th form serve s to goal. and min u are u. e cary view them itive what you for you, s ant to o s d n s y o o e u i t p o b o w u t y a re ry an ou best resol o, no f you e pires e mo bette ow y ons c word nd it ins want to d rtant and hrough. I ter and b oluti et and h ing you b s e r a o t t s p word what you hat is imp that goal o feel be Year’s mind hem. e hel t t New ing your therefor ng with t w i , abou cide on ed to see you want u so. g k g e o Chan verythin ually stic at e cific, do. D be motiv t becaus ety tells y e ct – Spe tting a d i i o alter ted to a l c l h o ’ e t o you eight, d cause s tiva al me -based. S omplish o o g m e w RT acc ime lose ier, not b SMA k to nd T h e the levant, a ecific tas how big l s healt u , e il als er sp ble, R te a matt eps w of go king , Achieva u to crea t doesn’t maller st a e p I S le yo os urab tails. ows n int Meas T goal all s and de g it dow p n R i e SMA ecific st e, break sp hav u o with y goal of a

116 | ForsythWoman.com

Laster’s Antiques & Fine Art

Cuppa Love Teas

The ultimate tea experience, enriching tea lovers’ lives and inspiring the sensesone sip at a time and one cuppa at a time.

a/ptr

Barbara Mory $875

Unique Gifts: Original Artwork, Pottery, Books, Maps, Silver, Crystal. Gifts from $25 & up.

For over 40 years, we have specialized in estate settlement.

Don’t sell your items for less than they are worth! Come see us today!

CuppaLoveTeasWS.com CuppaLoveTeas@gmail.com • 301 Brookstown Ave. #300, 27101

336.765.5919 • WWW.LASTERSFINEART.COM 664 S. STRATFORD RD WINSTON-SALEM

Wayne Collins Electric

Chermak & Hanson

Experience • Quality • Customer Service Dr. David S. Chermak • Dr. John C. Hanson Orthodontics for Children & Adults

Never Underestimate the Power of a Smile!

WINSTON-SALEM 336-760-1491 • CLEMMONS 336-766-8244 • KING 336-983-4551

January 2020 | 117

Congratulations to the Yates family who welcomed Olive Jordyn to the family on November 8th!

She arrived weighing 5.7 lbs and 18 inches long! The proud parents are Zane and Taylor Yates!

Olive is the firstborn grandchild on her father’s side, but the second born on her mother’s. Big cousin, Stella, is excited to have a girl cousin to grow up with! Photos by Kristin Deavers Photography

Congratulations to newlyweds Zack and Kendall Bodford who were married on October 6th!

We wish you a lifetime of happiness!

118 | ForsythWoman.com

Brad and Jennifer MacDonald were married on June 29, 2019 in the Reynolda Gardens and had a beautiful reception at the Barn at Reynolda Village in Winston Salem.

PHOTOS BY SARAH C. STEWART PHOTOGRAPHY

Billy & Donna Merriman Celebrating 40 wonderful years of marriage!

January 2020 | 119

ME GA N TA YLOR

f o c i g a M e Th Y

B

Snow during the winter brings either joy or dread. For me, I am on the joy side. Whenever the forecast predicts snow, there is a feeling of lightness and magic in the air as people rush to the store for last-minute essentials, roads are salted, and the anticipation of snow days begins. Then, as the first snowflake falls from the sky, a calmness sets in and once again, we see the beauty around us. The magic of the first snowfall of winter or the first flake for every snow can only be felt a few times each year.

Now, you may be wondering why some people can get excited when cold rain falls from the sky. In an article featured on BBC News, they state, “Snow is something special, something we get sentimental about, something fascinating.” Snow can connect people to the feeling of the holidays. After all, we do sing about “Dashing through the snow,” “Frosty the Snowman,” and “Since there’s no place to go…let it snow, let it snow, let it snow.” In addition, we see Christmas cards with snowy scenes, wrapping paper with snowflakes,

and for some, an ideal Christmas is a white Christmas. When the white flakes fall from the sky, people remember the holiday spirit and experience similar feelings of that season. Also, researchers say snow can remind people of their youth, the memories of snow days, sledding, and building snowmen, and the smells of snow. I still remember the nights and mornings watching the news or waiting for the school to call with the news for the day. These days were exciting, because they only happened a handful of times each year and were special. Psychologist Dr. Sandy Mann relates this feeling to a person’s emotional memory in the article Why Do We Get So Excited About Snow? “Our memories are emotions – so that when we remember events, we also remember the emotions associated with them.

Many of us have happy childhood memories of playing in the snow, so when we see those fat, fluffy flakes twirling from the sky, these memories kick in, and we feel happy.”

In addition, Dr. Mann states that snow gives people a break in their normal routine. The winter weather causes travel issues and cancellations. It allows many to stop and see the world in a different way. Aren’t we all looking for a change in our lives at times, a change that we know isn’t permanent, but “forces” us to stop and relax? Snow provides just that. When roads are closed and we are stuck in our homes, there isn’t anything else to do, but enjoy the present.

Along with a pause in your daily life and connection to childhood memories, snow has a romantic sense. It is the extra effect added in movies, books, television shows, and reality to create a more romantic atmosphere between people. Take away the romantic aspect; once the world turns into a winter wonderland, a person can go on walks and hikes and discover new beauties of familiar landscapes. Don’t forget about skiing, ice skating, and snowboarding.

For those who don’t like to venture outside when it snows, the extra time indoors is great to catch up on a good book, cook something new, or have a movie marathon of your favorites.

Seeing snow when it starts falling or for the first time that year brings excitement and joy to many people. It reminds them of past times, to stop and enjoy the break in their busy lives, and to always look at the beauty around them. One of my favorite things to do is look out at the snow-covered ground at night, when all the lights are out. There is a sense of peace and ease in the world, a sense that all is right, and that is the magic of the snow.

120 | ForsythWoman.com

Homestead Hills

Photo Artistry by Melinda

PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

PHOTOARTISTRYBYMELINDA@YAHOO.COM

336-407-3655 January 2020 | 121

Rodan + Fields, Kelley Carnall Carolyn’s Baby Cakes

Carolyn’s Baby Cakes

336.682.1311 • CarolynsBabyCakes.net

Liz Fit Carolina Characters

Salem Detailing Moji Coffee + More mojicoffee.org

NEW HOURS. Mon-Friday 7-5pm and Saturday and Sunday 9-5pm

122 | ForsythWoman.com

Kortney Beam Designs

Dawson Tree Service

Singing Bird Salon

HAIR Hair ZOE Zoe

100% Virgin Hair Quality That Lasts 2 Years With Proper Care!

3.5 oz per bundles (normally 3 bundles will do a full head) | 8 – 30 inch available

call or text (770) 527-9669 for more information | MyHairZoe.com

345-2572 • 766-1169 • DawsonTreeService.com Susanna Nunn Insurance Agency, Inc.

Kendall Bodford State Farm, Kendall Bodford

Insurance Account Representative

Chrystal Yates

Bus 336-993-4600 Fax 336-993-4615 kendall@nunnagency.net

805 N Main St | Kernersville, NC Find us on Facebook Susanna Nunn State Farm Insurance

ChrystalYates.com

Liv for Sweets

Finding God’s Grace EveryLife Day. My Grace-Full MyGraceFullLife.com

Read My Grace-Full Life each month in Forsyth Family!

January 2020 | 123

Keeping Time & Time Keepers

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

From a watch to a cell-phone; a clock tower to church bells chiming, we take for granted the frequent sources to access the precise minute in time. Long ago, the people of ancient times used nature as a tool of measurement. A mountain or a lone tree offered the study of moving shadows to indicate midday or the waning hours of daylight. Patterns aided the first people to read the heavens, the trees, the rains, the mating habits of animals and birds, as well as the drastic changes in daylight. All the initial signs became prominent in the quest to understand time.

THE SUNDIAL

The Ancient Egyptians, in 3500 B.C. created obelisks to recognize two parts of the day – morning and afternoon. Timekeepers in 1500 B.C. Egypt constructed the first device to utilize the sun’s shadow to track the concept of hours.

THE EQUATION OF TIME

As the sun moves across the sky, changing shadows in direction and length at different times of the day, an Indian astronomer in 1100 B.C. founded the idea that Earth travels in an elliptic orbit at a tilt of 26 degrees.

The equation of time led to a correction in “sundial time” and future “equation clocks.”

THE CANDLE CLOCK

Based on the writings of a Chinese poet named You Jiangsu in 520 A.D., the passage of a specific period can be done using his candle clock. It measured 12 inches tall and divided into 12 sections of one-inch lines. Each mark represented 20 minutes; therefore, the candle would remain alit for a total of four hours.

SAND-GLASS

In the 8th Century, a French monk designed a new timekeeper comprised of two pieces of glass connected vertically by a narrow neck.

Mathematics weighed heavily on the calibration in developing what became the hourglass. The factors were: • The size and angle of the glass bulbs.

• The ratio of the width of the neck to have a consistent rate of flow.

124 | ForsythWoman.com

• The quality of the granular material.

• A tight seal to prevent moisture from adding weight to the sand.

• A flat surface!

In the Age of Discovery, European ships kept hourglasses on ocean voyages. Due to the bobbing waves, the movement did not affect its accuracy.

A MECHANICAL CANDLE CLOCK

By the year 1206 A.D., an Arab by the name of Al-Jazari known for his interest in mechanical engineering, inventing and tinkering created a sophisticated candle clock. From the heat of the candle, the counter-weights recognized the change and forced the pulleys to shift. The outcome was the operation of a mechanical device to display the correct time.

MECHANICAL CLOCKS

Drawings of weight-driven clocks first appeared in 1275 A.D. Seventy-five years later, clock towers appeared in several cities. Documentation suggests the clocks had a fundamental problem, which prevented its operation; the driving force of the weights and friction hindered movement during the time needed for oscillation.

PENDULUM

Fascinated by the movement of a swinging lamp in the Cathedral of Pisa, Galileo conducts a test using his pulse rate. In journal entries, pictures accompany his thoughts to construct a clock. Despite not surviving to start construction, a Dutch mathematician, 80 years later, in 1656, invented a clock controlled solely by the motion of a pendulum. Christiaan Huygens’ timepiece had an error initially of one minute per day before refining it to less than 10 seconds.

THE LIGHT CLOCK

In the 1930s, Albert Einstein proposed a theory of relativity by linking the force of gravity to the curvature of space and time. In using the premise of a pendulum clock, he intended to cause mechanical stress on an electric field by using a quartz crystal. Through vibrations, the outcome was an electrical circuit. Einstein was the first to develop an electronic clock display. How many timekeepers do you possess? A sundial may be in your garden. Does an hourglass rest on the kitchen counter? And, throughout the home, can you hear the soft swings of a pendulum accompanied by chimes on the hour. The keepers of time designed extraordinary timepieces that are still relevant in the 21st Century.

SAVE THE DATE 2.20.20 7:00 - 8:30pm

Self love.

Self care.

LEVEL UP IN 2020.

For more information, head to @forsythmags January 2020 | 125

SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING

11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

Learn more at PWWS.org.

JANUARY 1-FEBRUARY 14

SILVER PEN SCHOLARSHIP COMPETITION Homestead Hills Retirement Community, 3250 Homestead Club Drive in W-S. The scholarship is hosted through Homestead Hills retirement community and only local students can win! To apply, write a 1,000-word essay on the following topic: Discuss an accomplishment, event or realization that sparked a period of personal growth and a new understanding of yourself or others. $3,750 in prizes available! For more information and to apply online, visit: www.silverpen-slc.com

JANUARY 2-12

JANUARY JUBILEE SALE Simply Sterling & Company, 5275 Robinhood Village Drive in W-S. Fancy name for major inventory reduction!

Come out Monday-Saturday 10am6pm, and take advantage of some great savings on your favorite collections!

JANUARY 4

4 FREE CLASSES FOR YOGA DAY 9am-1pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Special one-day discounts! Class size is limited. Register and reserve your space in class using our app or at www.sunriseyoga.net.

Bring some friends and enjoy free yoga classes, tea and snacks and a trunk show with Twisted Friends Tie Dyes.

Purchase our new student special intro. offer of 30 days for $25 and be entered in to a raffle to win a prize!

Inclement weather make-up date is Saturday, January 11th.

JANUARY 4-5

BREAKING UP CHRISTMAS FEATURING THE NEW SMOKEY VALLEY BOYS Historic Earle Theatre, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy. The Breaking Up Christmas tradition was embraced by the musicians of Surry County and surrounding area. Folks went from house to house, dancing and playing music during the holidays. Join us as we continue this holiday tradition with the first of two old-time dances. Cost: $10/person. www.surryarts.org

JANUARY 5

HAPPY NEW YEAR OPEN HOUSE 1-4pm, The Barn at Reynolda Village, 106 Reynolda Village in W-S. Start the New Year off with a visit to The Barn at Reynolda Village to learn more about hosting your wedding, corporate or social event there! We’re offering our Open House attendees a special $200 off your wedding package booking fee, if contracted by January 20th. reynoldabarn.com

126 | ForsythWoman.com

JANUARY 10

WORKSHOP // WATERCOLOR ABSTRACT FLORALS WITH ARTIST BETH GLOVER 6-8:30pm, Awake Church, 7840 North Point Boulevard, #120 in W-S. In this workshop, professional artist Beth Glover will be teaching the fundamentals of watercolor, including the types of washes, how to mix watercolor pigment and how to create beautiful pieces with a just one brush, watercolor paint and paper. We will also learn how to paint playful and vibrant floral pieces.

If you have been wanting to learn watercolor, this will be the perfect class to jump in and get your brush wet! This will be a fun, hands-on and engaging workshop that anyone at any skill level is welcome to attend and learn. Kids 6+ are welcome to register with a parent or an older sibling. All supplies are included in ticket price. Light snacks and drinks will also be provided. Join this workshop to learn how much fun watercolors can be!

Cost: $30/person. www.bethglovercreates.com/ workshops/watercolor-abstract-florals

JANUARY 10-12

BLUSH BY HAYLEY PAIGE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional inhouse alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

JANUARY 11-12

WINSTON-SALEM SYMPHONY: BELA FLECK Times vary, Stevens Center of the UNC School of the Arts, 405 West 4th Street in W-S. In these can’tmiss concerts, Fleck joins the orchestra to perform his Second Banjo Concerto. Purchase tickets at wssymphony.org or call 464.0145. Cost: $24 and up.

JANUARY 12

KIDS’ AFTERNOON OUT! 1:30-4pm, Fairgrounds Annex Ice Rink, 414 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Get ready for some icy fun at the Fairgrounds Annex Ice Rink! Mention you’re there for the FF Magazine Kids’ Afternoon Out and get FREE admission; $3 skate rental for kids & $5 skate rental for skate helpers. Youth hockey and group lesson personnel will be on hand to answer questions. Concessions will be available for purchase. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous Forsyth Family Magazine prize board!

JANUARY 13

SENSORY FRIENDLY MONDAY 9am-12pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and sensory processing differences can have an interactive and enjoyable learning experience in a comfortable, accepting environment. Offered once a month, Sept-May, on members-only Mondays when museum attendance is generally light. You don’t have to be a member to attend, but admission or membership is required. www.kaleideum.org

JANUARY 14

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…, Village Inn Hotel & Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy an authentic Mexican taco bar for just $10/person as well as $7 drink specials including a coconut snowball martini and a chocolate martini. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

BRASS FACULTY AND WATSON BRASS IN CONCERT 7:30pm, Watson Hall, 1533 South Main Street in W-S. Join the Watson Brass, UNCSA’s faculty brass ensemble, as they perform a variety of solo repertoire and works for brass quintet. The program will feature a premiere of a student composition written for the Watson Brass.

Tickets are $20/person; $15/student.

CELLO STUDIO IN RECITAL 7:30pm, Watson Hall, 1533 South Main Street in W-S. UNCSA offers many opportunities each year for students to strengthen their skills in music performance, including events such as the Cello Studio Recital. These concerts allow students to demonstrate their knowledge of the repertoire and become confident and comfortable in front of audiences.

Free; no tickets required.

JANUARY 16

JANUARY 25

WINE DINNER 7pm, Sir Winston Wine Loft & Restaurant, 104 West 4th Street in W-S. Enjoy a four-course dinner paired with eight wines prepared by Chef Andre Jones.

Cost: $75/person. Limited to 50 people; reservations required, please call 722.0795. sirwinstonrestaurant.com

JANUARY 18

DROP-IN SNOW GLOBE WORKSHOP 10am-2pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Create a magical winter wonderland in a jar! Fill it with snow, snowmen and other winterthemed materials. Cost: $4(+tax) per snow globe. Museum admission not included but required. www.kaleideum.org MINDFULNESS MEDITATION WORKSHOP WITH GWEN MCLAUGHLIN 2-6pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Experience the benefits of meditation (no previous experience necessary). It decreases muscle tension and headaches, builds confidence, enhances the immune system, reduces emotional stress, may reduce depression, anxiety and high blood pressure, improves sleep and increases moment to moment awareness.

Cost: $50-60/person. sunriseyoga.net/yoga-workshops/ CUSTOMER APPRECIATION DAY Camel City Boutique, 5009 Country Club Road in W-S. A fun-filled winter wonderland! We will have snacks, giveaways and a special sale!

Gifts with purchases and a free gift for the first 20 $25 sales.

JANUARY 21 & 25

PRESCHOOL SCIENCE: “OUT OF THIS WORLD” 10-11:30am (21st); 10:15-11:45am (25th), Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Suit up for a galactic adventure as we explore the universe and beyond! We’ll travel to the stars and back as we learn about our solar system, hunt for moon rocks and craft really “spacey” creations.

Ages 2-4 with an adult caregiver. Members: $8 per adult/child pair; non-members: $10 per adult/child pair (includes museum admission). Register at www.kaleideum.org.

JANUARY 24

MAKE & TAKE VALENTINE’S HOUSES 10am-4pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Get a jump on Valentine’s Day, and get in the spirit by making fun, love-themed decorations!

These would make a perfect gift for a loved one or friend. Included with admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

DR. MARTIN LUTHER KING READ-IN DAY 10am-1pm, Donald Julian Reeves Student Activities Center. Join us in celebrating Dr. King’s legacy and promoting his messages about civil rights, literacy and the importance of community service. Children between the ages of four to 11 will be paired with a college volunteer (Reading Buddy) that will guide them through different interactive activity stations. Each child who attends the event will take home at least one age-appropriate book and one new civil rights-themed book.

Snacks and refreshments will be provided.

Every child must be registered by a guardian prior to or on the day of the event: tinyurl.com/ youthregistrationmlk2020.

WINSTON-SALEM SYMPHONY: CONCERT FOR COMMUNITY 3pm, Wait Chapel, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The Symphony and Youth Symphony combine for a side-by-side performance with more than 120 musicians!

This concert is free. www.wssymphony.org FROZEN FAMILY FUN NIGHT 6:15-8:15pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Create snowy crafts, enjoy sweet treats, enter to win exciting door prizes and meet two very special guest princesses… and maybe even a funny snowman, too! Preregistration required for children and adults at www.kaleideum.org. Members: $10/person; non-members: $12/person.

JANUARY 25-26

SAM BUSH Historic Earle Theatre, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy. He’s released seven albums and a live DVD over the past two decades. In 2009, the Americana Music Association awarded Bush the Lifetime Achievement Award for Instrumentalist. Punch Brothers, Steep Canyon Rangers and Greensky Bluegrass are just a few present-day bluegrass vanguards among so many musicians he’s influenced. Cost: $45/$65/$75 per person. www.surryarts.org

JANUARY 28

JAZZ ENSEMBLE: LATIN JAZZ NIGHT 7:30pm, The Ramkat, 170 West 9th Street in W-S. Our award-winning Jazz Ensemble, directed by Ron Rudkin, will perform a rousing repertoire showcasing the intersection of Latin American culture and jazz music. Tickets are $20/person; $15/student.

Wine Merchants WINE SHOP HOURS Monday CLOSED Tuesday - Saturday 10:00 AM to 9:00 PM Sunday 10:00 AM to 3 PM

BISTRO HOURS Dinner: Tuesday - Saturday 4:00 PM to 9:30 PM Lunch: Friday 11:30 AM to 3:00 PM Brunch: Saturday & Sunday 10:00 AM to 3:00 PM

JANUARY 31-FEBRUARY 2

SAREH NOURI BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

Vin205.com 205 S. Stratford Rd. Suite N Winston-Salem, NC 27103 (336) 765-8175 January 2020 | 127

201 Media . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Accent Prone . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Air by Alkali . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Alexander’s Automotive . . . . . . . . 107 American Moving & Hauling . . . . . 73 Best 4K9 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Brookridge Retirement . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Brookstown Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Budget Blinds . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Busy as a Bee Concierge . . . . . . . . . 99 Butcher & Bull . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55 Carolina Characters . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Carolyn’s Baby Cakes . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Castle Lights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Chermak & Hanson . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Christina’s Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . 103 Chrystal Yates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Clemmons Bicycle . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Clemmons Country Store . . . . . . . 111 Crosby, The . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 128 Crossfit Polydamas . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Crystal Cleaner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Cuppa Love Teas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Dawson Tree Service . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Dress for Success . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Duke Eye Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Emerson Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 FA Madden Painting . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Family Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Farrago . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Forsyth Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . 69 Fraleigh’s Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71

Gifts & Paper on Plaza . . . . . . . . . . 71 Goin’ Postal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Goldman Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Grassroots Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Grille at the Glen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 Habitat ReStore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 Hair By Alkali . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Hair Zoe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 HakkaChow . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Halo Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Hauser Rental . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Hawthorne Curve . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Hillcrest Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Hip Chics Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Home Maids Services . . . . . . . . . . 109 Homestead Hills . . . . . . . . . . . 29,121 Hotel Indigo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 iHeart Radio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 Inner Strength Pilates . . . . . . . . . . . 53 Jeffrey Adams on Fourth . . . . . . . 131 JEJ Photos . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Jodie Brim Photography . . . . . . . . . 99 June DeLugas Interiors . . . . . . . . . . 37 Kingery & Kingery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Kortney Beam Designs . . . . . . . . . 123 Laster’s Antiques & Fine Art . . . . . 117 Laundry Matters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics . . . . . 21 Little Theatre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 Liv for Sweets . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .123

Liz Fit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Marzano Captial Group . . . Back Cover Massage Envy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Medi-Weightloss . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Moji Coffee + More . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Mountain Valley Hospice . . . . . . . 107 My Grace-Full Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Nitsa’s Apparel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 Novant Health Vein Specialists . . . 63 Nu . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Office Nerd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 One Crafty Miss . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Paparazzi Hair Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 Pat’s Body Shop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Photo Artistry by Melinda . . . . . . 121 Piedmont Advantage Credit Union 83 Piedmont Federal Savings Bank . . . 3 Professional Women of Winston Salem . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Providence Restaurant . . . . . . . . . . 69 ReDESIGNS by Ava . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 Restoration Med Spa . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 Rodan + Fields, Kelley Carnall . . . 122 Rosie’s Hallmark . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Salem Detailing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Salem Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . 55 Salem Smiles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Salemtowne Retirement . . . . . . . . 25 Sapona Bar & Grille . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Second Harvest Food Bank . . . . . . . 43

Sharon Reid, DDS, PA & Tyler Wynne, DDS . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Simply Southern Cuisine . . . . . . . . 93 Simply Sterling & Co . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Singing Bird Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Sir Winston . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 Sixth Sense Health & Wellness . . . . 4 Social Southern Kitchen . . . . . . . . . 47 Starboard Accounting . . . . . . . . . . 115 State Farm, Kendall Bodford . . . . 123 Stitches . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Stoked Wood Fired Pub . . . . . . . . . . 47 Summit Eye Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Swanky & Swag Boutique . . . . . . . . 5 Torque Performance . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Trellis Supportive Care . . . . . . . . . . 45 Triad Mac . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Trophy Room . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Twin City Fashion Week . . . . . . . . . . 8 Two Maids . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 Village Inn Event Center . . . . . 75,128 Vista Realty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 Wake Forest Baptist Health . . . . . . . 2 Wayne Collins Electric . . . . . . . . . . 117 WFBH Cosmetic & Plastic Surgery . 65 WFBH Outpatient Imaging . . . . . . .87 Wine Merchants . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 WomanCare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 Young Cardinal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Your Home Marketplace . . . . . . . . . 57

Premier full service venue with 9 banquet rooms featuring the Crystal Ballroom, as well as onsite catering, and event planning.

141 Guest Rooms | AAA Diamond Hotel and Event Center | Free wi-fi | Swimming Pool | Flat screen tv

lroom VillageGraInn Center nd BalEvent

Crosby, The Premier full service venue with 9 banquet rooms featuring the Crystal Ballroom, full onsite catering, event planner, ceremony and reception location 141 Guest Rooms | AAA Diamond Hotel and Event Center | Free wi-fi | Swimming Pool | Flat screen tv

Onsite pub and restaurant Open 5pm until 10pm, Monday through Saturday

336.766.9121 | info@TheVillageInn.com | www.TheVillageInn.com | 6205 Ramada Drive, Clemmons, NC (Located off I-40, Exit 184) 336.766.9121 |

info@TheVillageInn.com |

www.TheVillageInn.com

128 | Ramada ForsythWoman.com 6205 Drive, Clemmons, NC (Located off I-40, Exit 184)

iHeart Radio

January 2020 | 129

Conversations with Your BFF What Is the Best Thing to Say When Someone Tells You They’re Getting Divorced?

BY REBECCA COOPER

Much like the actual divorce statistics, about 50-60% of my friends, as well as myself, are divorced. I clearly remember when each of my friends told me their marriages were over; the conversations on my own separation and divorce are burned into my memory. But are there right and wrong comments to make when you’re told by a friend they’re getting divorced? I’m so glad you asked!

There are definitely do’s and don’ts when it comes to discussing divorce with a friend…

DON’T SAY

DO SAY

nothing

‘I’m sorry.’

Sometimes knowing what to say escapes you and so you take the route of ignoring the elephant in the room. If you know about your friend’s decision to divorce, then she probably knows that you know, so go ahead and acknowledge it. Making a tough situation more awkward by discussing the weather or trivial topics is not going to help either of you.

Divorce, like marriage, is a life-changing decision, involving many emotions, so it’s okay to acknowledge all that divorce entails.

By saying, ‘I’m sorry. How are you doing?’ you are saying that you sincerely care for your friend, and everyone wants to know they are loved.

‘What happened?’

‘I’m here for you if you need me.’

Divorces are multifaceted and rarely can be attributed to one thing.

Usually, as in my own situation, circumstances started piling up until that final straw, and recounting all that transpired wasn’t something I wanted to get in to. A nice, neat summary is impossible and not something your friend wants to share, so best not to ask.

Your friend needs to know whom they can turn to if they need a shoulder to cry on. If your friend takes you up on your offer, you will probably learn more than you ever wanted to know, so keeping everything confidential is important. However, do not extend an ear to listen if you have an urge to share details with others.

‘You two weren’t right together anyway.’

‘I hope you are both doing okay.’

I heard this many times, and although the intent was to make me feel that I have more to offer than my spouse recognized, in return, it questions your choice of a mate from the get-go. At one point in your friend’s life, she loved this person, the soon to be ex-spouse, feeling that this was ‘the one’ for a lifetime. It doesn’t help knowing that your bestie never really was all that keen on him and could see divorce was coming a mile away.

‘I saw your ex out the other night with a girl half his age looking like a model.’

At the time of divorce, most women are experiencing low selfesteem and the last thing we need to know is that our ex is dating someone younger and a dead ringer for Cindy Crawford (back in the 1980s). Keep any interactions with your friend’s ex to yourself.

Some divorced people may disagree with me, but I never wanted my friends to feel like they had to take sides. Remember, the ex-spouse is hurting, too, and expressing concern for all involved is okay to do. This kind of goes out the window if the reason for the divorce is some sort of abuse (that’s another topic), but if you were a friend before the divorce, there is no reason you shouldn’t be one now.

nothing Getting back where we started with saying ‘nothing.’ Never repeat rumors about the ex-spouse. And even if you’ve seen something with your own two eyes, keep it to yourself. No good can come of it with anyone involved.

Separation and divorce are hard times to get through. You feel alone and pretty much a failure, but with close friends who are there for you, tears flow and turn into brighter tomorrows with deeper friendships, knowing who you can count on when times are tough.

130 | ForsythWoman.com

farm fresh meets sophisticated dining

MONDAY Half price beer (all drafts and all bottles) TUESDAY Half Price Wine by the Glass WEDNESDAY Half price Whiskey and Bourbon THURSDAY $3 Off Martinis SUNDAY $5 Absolut Pepper Bloody Marys & $4 Mimosas

321 WEST FOURTH STREET | WINSTON SALEM | 336.448.1714 | WWW.JEFFREYADAMSWS.COM

COMING SOON Jeffrey Adams on Fourth Trophy Room Young Cardinal (formerly Hutch & Harris)

thetrophyroomws.com | 336-955-1463

dogwoodhopsandcrops.com January 2020 | 131

Marzano Captial Group

Let’s create a vision for your financial future!

336-766-0464 · marzanocapitalgroup.com

WEALTH MANAGEMENT · RETIREMENT & INSURANCE PLANNING · EXECUTIVE & EMPLOYEE BENEFITS · 529 PLANS FOR COLLEGE Securities offered through LPL Financial Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Independent Advisor Alliance, a registered investment advisor. Independent Advisor Alliance and Marzano Capital Group are separate entities from LPL Financial.

132 | ForsythWoman.com