Forsyth Woman - December 2017

December 2017

B.E. Healthy • Keeping It Real • Recipes • Rosey’s Review • Style File • Dear June

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Festivity and Over Indulging

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10 Tips on How to be the Perfect Party Hostess

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Faith in Humanity: Why We Help Others When Tragedy Strikes

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DIY Girls’ Night Ideas that Won’t Break the Bank

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Cheers to the Holidays: Favorite Drinks of the Season

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Ways to Make 116 8Gooey Butter Cakes

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COVER STORY! Mainstream Boutique: A Perfect Fit for the Body & Soul!

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Keeping it Real: A Wonder-Full Life

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Dear June: How Do Designers Come Up with Their Ideas?

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Style File: How to Avoid Wearing All Black

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ReDESIGNS by Ava: Need a Little Christmas…

Right This Very Minute?

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Crazy Perfect Life: How to Give Gifts Without Spending Money You Don’t Have

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To Your Health: What Happens To Your Health Over the Holidays?

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Constructing Dreams: Let There Be Light!

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Recipes: Hot Chocolate

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The View From This Side DECEMBER 2017 The calendar says November, but I’m already in January!

Don’t get excited – I haven’t figured out how to build a time machine or discovered any time continuum… such is the world of publishing. Our calendars never sync up to the normal ones. However, let me step back a few weeks and say, “Merry Christmas!” I truly hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday season together!

I hope you use the magic of this time of year to make memories that will last a lifetime and that you will cherish every moment!

You may be wondering why on earth I’m already in 2018!

As I explained, it’s just the nature of the beast for what we do, but the other part is due to the overwhelming popularity of our seasonal magazine, Forsyth Community!

The 2017 issue was in such demand, we ran out! We had to move our print deadline up a full month to keep up with the expectations of our readers, and I’m delighted with the issue we’ve produced. Check out the Facebook page (Forsyth Community) to learn where you can pick up the 2018 edition.

There’s also a first milestone we’re celebrating this month – the first full year of retirement for my husband, Tim! I’m not quite ready to join him, but boy am I enjoying his retirement as much as he is! I’ve gotten spoiled with homemade breakfast every morning, and he’s got dinner made almost every night.

Not to mention, we’ve started a new exercise regimen that gives us quality time together while doing something good for ourselves. We are walking and, if you can believe it, jogging regularly. We both feel better and the time is well spent. He’s been a great influence on me, and (I hope) I’ve been a great influence on him.

It’s great to discover new things to do together in this season of life.

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MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

I would like to take this opportunity to wish all the readers of Forsyth Woman and their families a very Merry Christmas. This is a time of reflection for the many blessings we have, and this past year has brought many wonderful things for Summit Eye Care.

We wish to give thanks to the Optometric Community for embracing Summit Eye Care over the past years. We are thankful for the continued referrals and for the relationships which have been developed. We are also very thankful to the primary care physicians who have continued to partner with Summit Eye Care.

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I am so blessed to be able to offer the most up-to-date services to the patients who come to me on their own or who are referred to me from their eye care providers and primary care physicians. Thank you for allowing Summit Eye Care to be a part of your eye care family and allowing us to assist in the care of your patients. I look forward to seeing you all next year.

Merry Christmas and May God Bless you and yours in the coming year.

The Christmas season is once more upon us It is the beginning of the bustle and rush.

Presents to be bought and parties to attend Wishing folks Merry Christmas again and again.

Snowflake cards to be mailed Out I go at 5 AM to the big sale.

We go through all the motions and smile Hurried and weary all the while.

Is this what we should be doing this season?

Or should we stop and remember the reason?

Let’s stop for a moment to reflect over the year Giving thanks for our family and friends that we hold dear.

Not just for December and the Christmas season Let’s all remember and give thanks for the real reason.

Poem by Kathy “Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord.”

Luke 2:11

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Festivity and Over Indulging

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

One of the first pursuits we engage in during a festive holiday is to place our spirit and hearts in the lavish experiences of celebration. In the season of overwhelming stimulus of light and song, good company and joy, temptations arrive in the one means we often find difficulty resisting - food and drink! After a year of patiently awaiting our favorite dishes and desserts, homemade cookies and drinks, how can we simply deny our palate the joy of such wonderful tastes and “Have a Holly Jolly Christmas”? By understanding the psychology of brain chemistry and desire, the solution to curbing an appetite is not without challenge. A good plan must prevail. As the expression goes, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

BRAIN CHEMISTRY AND FOOD

While no one may be watching the extra helping added to your plate, or the secret desire to consume a hand-full of home-baked cookies, there is a metabolic response connected to your brain that is aware of your needs. Signals are continuously sent to encourage hunger, and even weight gain despite your careful calorie restrictions. We already know those particular ingredients which encourage cravings or induce negative consequences. The mind may say, “It’s okay to keep eating.

You are enjoying it; please do not stop!” And, of course, it is hard to resist “highly palatable” foods high in sugar, fat, or salt content, promoting emotional comfort and physical pleasure from the first bite.

A SENSIBLE EATING STRATEGY

Since it is important to understand those urges of persuasion, awareness is the first step to creating a sensible eating strategy. While selfdiscipline is a requirement, you cannot doom your need to celebrate by creating unrealistic expectations; instead, consider a plan that allows you to balance eating without overindulging.

1. Plan Ahead: The biggest challenge is within your own mind.

Simply ask the host in advance what foods will be served at the dinner party. By reducing the risk of unhealthy selections, eat a healthy meal in advance; therefore, you can focus your efforts on the gathering and conversation rather than the need to snack on sugary foods.

Tip: Start eating meals on a dessert plate to encourage smaller portions, and vow to not return for a second helping.

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2. In Lieu of Food: In planning a special gathering with friends,

it is wise to suggest engaging in a physical activity such as walking downtown or going ice skating. Every activity does not require you to sit and occupy your time with food and parties.

3. Fruits & Vegetables: While the staff room may be filled with wonderful cakes, pies, and cookies, take the time to bring in a fruit or vegetable platter as a welcomed substitute. Replacing temptations with healthier options is a must. The same strategy can be applied in your kitchen and living room. Allow guests the choice to eat holiday fare with a fruit or vegetable tray. When the only option is sugar, the temptation is, indeed, greater!

Tip: Prepare a snack for those moments when your hunger pains

are greatest, such as 11:00 am or 3:00 pm, and especially during long shopping sessions!

4. Water! Water! Water!: Dehydration often manifests itself as

food cravings. If you’re drooling over the dessert table, drink a glass of water and wait a few minutes before grabbing a plate. Most often, the craving will subside.

5. Making One to Two Promises: In knowing our bodies and their reactions to sugar, caffeine, and alcohol, it is a positive step forward when we can create promises. One or two, only; otherwise, additional promises may not be worthy to follow. Amanda Wells writes, “I look at the events I have and always eat something healthy before I leave home. My one guideline is following the two bites or slice rule. I am not disciplined enough for just one cookie or more than two bites of a dessert.”

6. Self-Praise and Exercise: Most of all, be compassionate with yourself. With every effort that is positive and healthy, be sure to offer self-praise and reward. This includes time for yourself to enjoy a brisk walk, an afternoon bike ride, or a hot bubble bath. By taking the emphasis off food, the blessing of the season can be found in other rewarding comforts!

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Bringing Down the Risk

BY SARAH FEDELE

Before Amy’s major lifestyle change four years ago, her blood pressure was what is known as pre-hypertensive. “My blood pressure was always on the borderline at 130 to 140 over 90,” shares Amy Anselmo of Winston-Salem. “I did not go on blood pressure medicine, because what I really needed was a whole lifestyle change to live healthier,” noted Amy. Her mother and brother also fought high blood pressure, and so did both of her grandfathers.

When she was pregnant, Amy’s blood pressure threw more obstacles her way.

“I was often at the doctor’s office for 2-3 hours for my regular pre-natal check-ups.

My blood pressure was extremely high during the regular BP check and they wouldn’t let me leave until my blood pressure returned to a safe level. I would have to lay on my left side at the doctor’s office until my BP finally came down,” shared Amy. After giving birth to a very healthy and happy daughter, Amy gave birth to a stillborn child. “I pretty much let myself go after that. I didn’t want to put up the fight for myself any longer, considering I had been overweight most of my life,” she said. One Saturday afternoon around 2pm, her daughter Sophie wanted to go for a walk in the park, but Amy went back to bed. “My mom came over, opened the curtains and blinds and said I needed to get out of the bed for my daughter.

So, I did. I realized I needed to survive for Sophie. She needed me to be there for her as she grew up. So, I got up that day and every day after!” Later, Amy was also blessed with her son, Michael.

Through eating a heart-healthy diet and getting active, Amy has lost 120 pounds and has been able to keep it off for three years. With the help Fleet Feet No Boundaries program, Amy has completed two 5k training programs and has crossed the finish line of nine local 5K races!

“When you buy your first size medium shirt ever and you’re running/walking in a race the next day to help fight childhood obesity, which you’ve battled your whole life – the feeling is just amazing,” said Amy with her contagious smile.

“I’m not done yet,” smiled Amy. “I still fight to fit exercise into my life every day.

Getting active as a working mom with two very busy kids can be tough. Little things, like even walking the field with some of the other baseball moms while the kids are at practice helps.” Amy also still battles to lower her cholesterol.

In 2016, Amy was selected as a Forsyth County Go Red Woman. Since then, she has been involved with the American Heart Association, sharing her story and inspiring other women in Forsyth County to make healthier choices, and to put their health first. Today, her blood pressure is normally 120/70 – one risk factor that she can happily check off her heart-healthy list.

High blood pressure is sometimes called “the silent killer.” One in every three adults in the United States has high blood pressure.

But, with accurate and regular self-monitoring, the effects of high blood pressure may be detected and treated, saving lives.

Uncontrolled high blood pressure is often the first domino in a chain or “domino effect”

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leading to devastating consequences like stroke, heart failure, heart attack, vision loss, kidney disease, and more. A simple blood pressure check is the first step to stopping the domino effect.

Novant Health and the American Heart Association have joined together to focus on making a community impact in the blood pressure of Forsyth County residents this year. The goal of engaging 5,000 people with Check. Change. Control. in Forsyth County will have a significant impact on the health of our community.

The focus of the program includes developing positive selfmonitoring habits, sharing tools and tips to improve blood pressure, and reducing this risk factor for heart disease and stroke by dropping BP levels to a healthy 120/80.

Get your blood pressure checked today and track your BP for free at heart.org/CheckItTriad. Use code: CCCNH to get personalized tips on how to better control your BP. It is mobile friendly and will send you a notification when it is time to recheck your BP.

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There’s No Need to Stress Over Holiday Entertaining

BY BRIDGET KOCHERSPERGER

The holidays will soon be here, and while time with family can be a source of great excitement and fun, the stress of planning and entertaining can be overwhelming. The team at Dream Dinners has learned a few stress-free holiday entertaining tricks over the years. The national meal assembly company, with a location in Clemmons, has spent the last 15 years helping families spend more time together around the dinner table by providing meal prepping alternatives to moms across the county.

Dream Dinners co-founder and president Stephanie Allen honed her entertaining skills as a successful caterer for years before founding Dream Dinners in 2002. Her knack for entertaining hasn’t waned. She invites friends to her home and before people know it, there is a spread of food that could feed an army.

How does she do it? She says an event’s success hinges on leaving the stress behind when her guests walk through the door.

“Guests can pick up on a host’s mood quickly,” Stephanie said. “If a host is stressed, guests can’t really relax. I do as much as possible in advance so that when my guests are in my home, I’m spending my time listening to their stories, laughing and sharing a delicious meal together.”

Guests sometimes swear she’s hiding a team of chefs in the kitchen to help her prepare.

Stephanie said there’s no need for extra help because she swears by three key elements to ensuring a successful, non-stressful holiday gathering: preparation, flexibility and focusing on people. You barely ever catch her in her kitchen during a gathering. She spends her time socializing and making sure glasses are filled.

“For me, it also helped to acknowledge what typically stresses me out,” she said. “I used to constantly worry about running out of ice, and I didn’t like to scramble with my makeup when company was arriving. So now, I always delegate the ice to a willing guest and I’ve formed the habit of getting ready first, followed by touching up the house and finishing the food prep.”

Here are Stephanie’s top 10 tips for relaxed entertaining: 1. Plan a doable menu. Avoid too many laborintensive recipes. Keep it simple and easy to prepare. If you can, choose menu items that can be made ahead, like soups and stews.

Quiches and tarts freeze well, and can be made well ahead of time.

2. Do the work ahead of time. Two to three days before the event, clean the house, shop, prepare the food, and set the table and the beverage station. Set out your serving platters and serving ware, and label what will go in them, too. Then, stack them out of the way until you’re ready to dish up the meal.

3. Keep décor simple.

Fill glass bowls and containers of varying shapes and sizes with vintage ornaments or twinkle lights It’s easy and beautiful.

4. Create a cozy ambiance.

Appeal to the senses with music, soft lighting and candles.

Burning a lovely scented candle in the bathroom is always a nice touch.

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5. Give yourself a buffer of time. Aim to be ready about an hour before guests arrive so you can relax and welcome them without a sense of hurry.

6. Delegate jobs in advance. Anticipate your needs and get commitments from helpers before you’re in a last-minute stressful bind. Accept offers from guests to pour water or help transfer food into serving dishes. If they’re willing to bring something, assign them a course!

7. Consider serving dinner as a buffet. Once the buffet is set, you can enjoy the party you worked so hard to create. Just be sure to pull the buffet away from the wall. This allows your guests to serve themselves from all sides of the table, and prevents lines from forming.

8. Be flexible and don’t sweat the small stuff. Invite people about an hour before you anticipate serving the meal. Once they arrive, there’s no schedule – just enjoy the moment. If guests arrive late, food can be held on low for a bit.

9. Focus on the people. The most important thing is the guest. This means putting relationships above tasks. Don’t fuss about your messy kitchen or begin loading the dishwasher while guests are still with you. It can all be done later.

10. Most importantly, laugh and have fun. If you’re having a good time, most likely, so are your guests!

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Being No[bel]

BY BRITTANY ORIE

When you think of the word, “noble,” what are some synonyms that ring in your mind? Selfless? Principled?

Virtuous? What about exceptionally humane or remarkable? Would you say embodying these traits may lead one to win a Nobel Prize? It just so happens that there are many famous women of our time who exuded the greatness, brilliance, and confidence to win Nobel Prizes in various fields.

Here are some noble women who have transcended their barriers to leave their unique mark.

NOBEL PEACE PRIZE

Malala Yousafzai fought for the struggle of girls’ education. She is fiercely passionate about the suppression of children and young people and believes that all children have a right to have an education.

Malala was only 15 years old when she received the Nobel Peace Prize for standing up for her convictions. She is a leading advocate for girls’ rights and shares her uplifting life story in her memoir, I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban.

NOBEL PRIZE IN CHEMISTRY

Marie Curie is known for her and her husband’s groundbreaking discovery of the elements radium and polonium.

She was inspired by the discovery of radioactivity in 1896 and wanted to discover the elements and minerals that made it possible.

Along with her husband Pierre Curie, they extracted radium and polonium and concluded that those elements were the catalysts of radioactivity! Soon after receiving the Nobel Prize, Marie produced radium as a pure metal, confirming that it was an actual element. With her influence, radium became important in the medicine field where they were used to treat tumors.

NOBEL PRIZE IN LITERATURE

Doris Lessing’s novels are characterized

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by life in the 20th century, behavioral patterns, and historical events. Her gift of captivating readers with intellectually written novels and touching characters earned her a Nobel Prize in literature. The Golden Notebook was one of the legendary works that brought her to such an achievement. The novel focused on a woman’s psyche, political ideas, and sexuality. She made her mark with her timeless, innovative stories.

Svetlana Alexievich has a way of combining reporting and novel writing to depict life during the political regimes in the Soviet Union. She is known for composing “documentary novels” from the voices of real people. This unique juxtaposition helped her win a Nobel Prize in literature mainly because she used real people to captivate her audience. One of her most famous works is titled Voices of Utopia.

Toni Morrison’s ability to depict African-American life in a way that feels so realistic to the reader won her a Nobel Prize in literature, being the first black woman author to accomplish the feat! Her writings are soaked with passion, pain, hope, faith, integrity, and strength. Morrison paints and develops her characters in such a way that the reader becomes attached and empathizes with them. She also helps us understand her characters on a human level and, ultimately, understand humanity better.

She continually wears praise for her intriguing and poignant works such as The Bluest Eye, Song of Solomon, and Beloved.

Huerta Muller is another Nobel Prize winner who poetically captures humanity in a vulnerable, relatable way. Some of her works are fused with characters living under a dictator who strikes fear and isolation in their hearts. She pulls from her personal experiences of oppression and steeps them into her fictional stories, making them feel more real and impactful.

These women all had a mission to make a positive, lasting impact on the world by using their gifts. They weren’t afraid to follow their convictions and aspirations and stayed motivated. None of them probably expected to receive such accolades for their work! Perhaps they were just driven, passionate, and wanted to give the people something beautiful and lasting. So, no matter what your niche is, you can always use your talents, convictions, passions, and courage to leave your mark. Who knows, maybe you’ll be a future Nobel Prize winner?

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The Value of Consistency

BY DENISE HEIDEL

CONSISTENCY, THOU ART A JEWEL. ~ATTRIBUTED TO SHAKESPEARE Aesop’s fable, “The Tortoise and the Hare,” is a story normally reserved for children. It tells the story of a slow, but steady, tortoise and an arrogant rabbit who were in a race. The moral of the story, as we all know, is that slow and steady wins the race. Time after time, the tortoise consistently maintained his pace and in the end, beat the over-confident hare.

The keyword is consistency. Routine. Expectation. Steadfastness.

Stability. Predictability. And maybe, sometimes a little bit boring.

It’s easy to take the consistency of the familiarity for granted, but how many of us crave the routines of home the first time we move away? How many of us depend on the regularity of payday? How many of us trust in the constant routine of daily life – from sun up to sunset, from season to season. Pretty much everyone, right?

Consistency is a great asset from which we can all benefit – both personally and professionally. Consider the following:

Some other inspirational quotes about consistency: “Consistency is the true foundation of trust. Either keep your promises or do not make them.”

– Roy T. Bennett “It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.” – Anthony Robbins “Consistency is an under-appreciated inspirational quality. It’s that ability to conduct yourself in a consistent, reliable manner that others will respect and appreciate.” – Del Suggs, Truly Leading: Lessons in Leadership

1. Consistency gives a framework for measuring and analyzing. For example, consistently documenting our daily food intake or financial spending can identify patterns that show what is working and what is not. From that consistent documentation, we can make changes that yield positive outcomes for our overall health, as well as our wallets.

2. It establishes a sense of accountability.

That consistent reliability sets a standard upon which relationships grow, and trust is established. Forging accountability and knowing it can be depended upon is something that simply cannot be undervalued.

3. Consistency adds credence to your words. When someone says one thing, but they do another, they aren’t considered trustworthy. Their words aren’t taken seriously. However, when words and actions are consistently parallel with one another, then they have more value and meaning. Such consistency secures your reputation for integrity.

4. It’s an important branding tool. When customers grow to expect consistent service, brand loyalty is established. It’s easier to grow a business when people know what to expect.

5. On a similar note, that same branding tool philosophy can apply to parenting. When we establish consistent rules and consequences, our children know what to expect.

6. The routine of consistency can help establish good habits and eliminate bad ones. By consistently applying healthy routines, long-term benefits are realized.

There’s a lot to be said for consistency. This often undervalued characteristic is actually a very valuable asset overall.

Look for the consistency in your life… and appreciate it.

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“Consistency is the belt that fastens excellence in position.

If you don’t do it repeatedly, you’ll not excel in it.” – Israelmore Ayivor, Let’s Go to the Next Level “Your consistency says a lot about your commitment.” – Rasheed Ogunlaru “It’s not what we do once—it’s what we do once a day…day in and day out…every day that brings lasting change into our lives.” – Toni Sorenson “Trust is created over time with consistent actions.” – Bruce Rhoades “Actions become very effective when they meet the habit of consistency.”

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10 Tips on How to be the

Perfect Party Hostess

We are in December and it’s officially the holiday season and that means holiday decorations, seasonal cookies and, of course…parties! It’s not a holiday season without tons of fun celebrations, cookie exchanges and cocktail parties.

I’m sharing my top 10 tips on how to be the perfect party hostess no matter what type of party you are hosting!

1. MAKE SURE YOU PREPARE AHEAD OF TIME.

This is the most important tip I can give you. My mom is the ultimate hostess and has taught me to prep, prep, prep so that you have hardly anything to do when the actual party is taking place.

For example, lay out all of your trays and serving dishes before the party starts, make dishes ahead of time so all you need to do is heat them up, prepare the drinks ahead of time, and get the tables set the day before.

2. RELAX.

If you are comfortable, chances are your guests are comfortable, too. If you are walking around stressed about the drinks not being cold enough, people will start to notice that and feel uncomfortable. Take a breath and know that it’s a party and it’s meant to be fun. Things will go wrong and that’s okay. Also, make sure you sit down at some point during the party to mingle and enjoy yourself.

3. OFFER A SIGNATURE COCKTAIL.

If you are serving alcohol, instead of spending tons of money and offering a full bar, offer beer and wine and then one signature cocktail for guests. People usually have one of the cocktails and then spend the rest of the night drinking beer or wine.

4. IT’S BETTER TO HAVE TOO MUCH THAN TOO LITTLE.

My worst nightmare is running out of food or drinks. Make sure you have plenty of food by counting the number of guests you’re having and then adding a few, just to be safe. You never know who will bring another guest!

5. THINK ABOUT A DESSERT BAR.

One of my favorite things to do as a hostess is to have a full dessert station (yes, I have a massive sweet tooth). The holidays are all about indulgence and why not indulge in some sweet treats? To make it easier on yourself, ask two of your friends to bring a dessert and then have a couple there that you’ve prepared. People love to sample so make sure you have dessert plates big enough.

6. THIS MAY SEEM OBVIOUS, BUT BUY EXTRA NAPKINS.

I’ve been to one-too-many parties where we’ve run out of napkins and I’m awkwardly in the kitchen grabbing a paper towel. Especially when I am using paper napkins, I always allow four napkins per person. Think about: one drink napkin, two for dinner and one for dessert.

7. DRESS COMFORTABLY.

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do is to wear uncomfortable heels that have you limping around all night.

8. PLAY A GAME.

Even though we are adults, who doesn’t love games? I like to offer the option of playing a game. I usually choose a shorter trivia game where people can team up. Then the winning team receives a prize which can be as simple as a bottle of Prosecco or a festive kitchen towel for each person.

9. THINK ABOUT DOING ALL HEAVY APPETIZERS.

I love to serve a bunch of appetizers instead of a main meal because, let’s be honest, who doesn’t love the appetizers more than the entrée?

Make sure to choose more hearty options, too.

For example: bacon wrapped scallops, caprese skewers, buffalo chicken sliders, crab cake sliders, cheese ball, charcuterie platter, and flank steak skewers.

10. OFFER TO-GO BOXES FOR PEOPLE AS THEY LEAVE.

I order some cheap but cute brown boxes online and try and get people to take some food home with them. Trust me, guests will say yes to that!

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Listen to Your Body!

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

How often do you use the expression, “My body is screaming at me?” Every day, our amazing bodies sends thousands of messages to various cells, organs, and systems to keep it functioning. While we may verbally express our exhaustion, headache, back and foot pain, the action of stopping and

When you listen

resting is not respected until the inevitable happens. The body begins to lose its strength and the result is either an injury or sickness. In a society where the expectation is to go and push forward, we rarely take time to give our body what it needs to regain strength. It’s time to surrender to its needs. If we must keep going, preventative care measures require time to stop, listen, and act!

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One of the most important requirements of well-being is sleep. Without this routine, the initial symptoms of unusual hunger, increasingly frequent anger, problems concentrating and processing information, and feeling lethargic can promote an energy crisis. We may start eating poorly; yet, the chronic fatigue and perhaps a “crash” may be the body’s way of saying, “We need an intervention, now!”

JOTTING DOWN NOTES

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In making a call to your primary care doctor, this first step acknowledges care for yourself and your well-being. The question will be asked, “How long have you been experiencing insomnia or interrupted sleep?” One solution is to start keeping a small notebook handy. Prior to writing your entry, always include the date, and any recollection of details such as a time when you went to bed and woke up. If you can estimate the hours of sound sleep, this detail will help your practitioner. These little notes can help your doctor know a timeline, and can influence greater questions.

Could your sleep be affected by stomach pain, back pain, or worry?

Sometimes we need to find out why certain symptoms are present!

DEFINING SELF-CARE PRACTICES

As women, we take great care of our face, hair, hands, feet, and dress with our need for color or comfort. In the meticulous needs of our outer appearance, our minds overlook what cannot be seen. There is a feeling of guilt when productivity results in action and movement. Our minds truly scream to surrender to those feelings of relaxation and sleep, and sitting still and resting for a mere 20 minutes. Do you find you can hear your body clearly when you are at peace with yourself?

While not all the practices may work for you, it is important to discover a method which allows you to take time for your body, mind, and self.

Tight Shoulders and Back Pain: A hot shower or bath can loosen those tense muscles. Take it one step further and find a posture which allows you to relax and breathe. Use breathing to soften and ease your shoulders, back, and mind. One activity is to start with your toes and make your way up to your crown, focusing on each part of your body and questioning how it feels. Research meditation practices or yoga. Both can promote a holistic feeling of well-being.

Overeating: We find comfort in the act of eating. It could be defined as sweets or salty foods, or meals which result in second or third helpings. We need to ask ourselves, “Why?” Is it stress or anxiety, tiredness or boredom? When we notice patterns, change can happen. Ask yourself, “Will this food sustain me or result in hunger?” Start thinking about fruits which can be chewed or peeled, such as grapes, oranges, or bananas. Try drinking water before meals. Perhaps you need a distraction; therefore, consider taking a walk outdoors.

When was the last time you pampered yourself? Sometimes, pampering is defined as sitting still, going to bed early, or changing your routine. In the need for self care, we can open our minds, connect with our bodies, and respond with the word, “Yes!” It’s time to act, and please our vessels with kindness, attention, and love!

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A WONDER-FULL LIFE

BY KAYLYN LANIER

Christmas!

I truly adore absolutely every aspect of it: the family gatherings, the traditions, the decorations, the music, the movies (Hallmark Channel, y’all!), the food…EVERYTHING. In fact, that one month of December just cannot contain my entire love for it all. The Christmas bells ring out loud all year long in my playlist, I promise you! Some folks might say I have a problem. I say they just don't understand.

Speaking of Christmas movies, "It’s a Wonderful Life" is one of my favorite films, a classic, all the way from "George Bailey, I'll love you till the day I die" to "Merry Christmas, Bedford Falls!" (And everything in-between…

I can quote it!) It not only takes us back to a simpler time, but also inspires us to reflect on our own lives. (If you somehow have not yet seen this masterpiece, consider this your spoiler alert!) The story follows one man’s life from childhood to adulthood when, on one Christmas Eve, a crisis overwhelms him. Shaken, he begins to think it would be better if he had never been born, that his family and friends would be better off without him. Suddenly, mercifully, an angel steps in to show him just what his wish would actually mean. When the man realizes how rich his life already is, the crisis is resolved.

Happily-ever-after!

Movies make happy endings look so easy, don’t they? Crisis dissolves into celebration in two hours flat, wrapped up like a gift under the tree. “If only,” right? I don't know where these words find you today. I have no idea what crisis may be attacking you during this holiday season. You may be alone, or wishing you were. You may be reading

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this article in a hospital waiting room.

You may have no idea what havoc the new year will bring…or you see it all too clearly. Like George Bailey, you may think everything would be better off without you. But I am here to tell you that whatever your crisis is, it doesn't define you. Don't you dare buy into the lie that you are worthless or that things are hopeless.

As much as I love all things festive, the truth is, glitter and traditions tend to fall pretty short when we need a sense of worth and hope. We must remember THE reason for the season: a baby born two thousand years ago in a shabby little cave. He wasn't just any baby.

This child was Jesus, the Son of God, born into the world to bring HOPE, JOY, PEACE, and LOVE…not just to the

world, but to you! Yes, YOU! Don’t miss the wonder of it all. Jesus was born for you. You are so precious to God that He did not send a mere angel to you to simply show you a possible life. He sent His very best, His All, His SON for you, to GIVE you Life! What a gift, yours for the taking!

So, as the holy-day season swirls around you, whatever it brings…stop.

Take a minute. Recognize the beauty in your life. Discover all the blessings around you. I promise, they are there, because Jesus is. You matter to Him. You are special to Him. He is a wonder, and because of Him, we truly have a Wonder-FULL life!

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Where Sushi’s Popularity is on a ‘Roll’

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

The rise in popularity of Japanese food these days is evident, not only across the country, but in our own city at Hakkachow Asian Eats, a restaurant that has become, since 2014, the go-to spot for Asian food. With the recently expanded sushi menu, as well as Poke bowls, customers are finding new reasons to love their favorite restaurant.

FRESH INGREDIENTS MAKE THE DIFFERENCE

Hakkachow Asian Eats is a family affair, owned by the Chung family, with son, Jonathan in the role of business development and kitchen manager, as well as creator of new dishes. As a world traveler, Jonathan brings new ideas to the kitchen with innovative and different flairs to Asian dishes you may and may not be familiar with. But no matter the dish, Jonathan focuses on the importance of using the freshest ingredients, especially when it comes to sushi. “Our dishes are inspired by the places I have visited in Hong Kong, China, Thailand, and Korea, as well as family recipes. I like to travel and when I do, I try things that I think may be good additions to Hakkachow’s menu, bringing those ideas back and putting a special and different touch on them.

Focusing on the freshest of ingredients is my priority in the kitchen and what makes for good sushi is having access to the freshest fish possible. At Hakkachow we have very high standards, in our customer service and the dishes we offer. There are days when I do not like the fish that comes in that day and I reject it and that particular fish isn’t available on the menu because of that.

Striving every day for the highest in quality is hard, but we believe it sets us apart in what we do,” Jonathan said. Offering customers Asian cuisine such as Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Thai and Korean, is just the beginning for Hakkachow.

FROM WHAT YOU EXPECT TO THINKING OUT OF THE BOX

Jonathan knows that many customers are drawn to the more traditional dishes, those timeless classics like Tso Chicken, Mongolian Beef, Spring Rolls, Lettuce Wraps and Crab Wontons, but he also wants to be the place customers choose to maybe try something completely out of the box in Asian cuisine. “Some of our customers first visited because they knew about our

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daily specials, like our sushi happy hour, 4-6 pm, bar top only, with highlighted sushi each day, and our Sunday sushi BOGO, plus we were voted Best Asian Restaurant 2017 and runners-up for Best Sushi Restaurant 2017 by the Winston-Salem Journal readers. I want to give customers the opportunity to explore new tastes and that is one of the focuses of our expanded sushi menu. We are known for our sushi, but we have added new combinations of sushi. Rolls are very popular now and people want to try new ones, so we have added new rolls to address those who want to try something new. We also believe that presentation is important, so our dishes look as good as they taste because of the creativity of our head sushi chef, Ken Simlamany,” commented Jonathan.

A completely new take on sushi is Poke bowl, which you may not know about or have even experienced.

Poke, pronounced ‘po-kay’, is a raw, marinated fish salad, tossed over rice and topped with vegetables and Asian sauces, popular in Hawaii. “With Poke bowl, we hope to give our sushi-loving customers another option to enjoy. The marinades for the fish in a Poke bowl range from a traditional mix of soy sauce and sesame oil to more creamy and spicy Japanese sauces. Poke is a natural progression from sushi and we hope will bring in customers looking for something different,” Jonathan stated. Beyond the new sushi items and Poke bowls, Hakkachow is also expanding its sake offerings.

“Sake, rice wine, is something that we want to become known for by adding more imported Japanese sakes, as well as more flavored sakes encouraging our customers to perhaps try it for the first time. Much like wine, sakes range from dry to sweet and can be paired with food. With our signature cocktail and wine selections, expanded menu and sake, I want Hakkachow to be known as a great place to have Asian food and try new things,” said Jonathan.

Hakkachow Asian Eats is located at 615 St. George Square Ct., just off Hanes Mall Blvd. in Winston-Salem, NC. Hours of operation: Mon-Thurs 11:30 - 9:30 pm; Fri 11:30- 10 pm; Sat 12-10 pm; Sun 12- 9 pm. For more information, visit Hakka-chow.com or call 336-893-8178.

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Dear June…

How Do Designers Come Up with Their Ideas?

Our inspiration for Christmas this year was “An Artful Christmas” because we are always looking for art for our clients. It is a hard job to always find just the right piece for a freshly finished room, so it became our theme for Christmas. One of the artists suggested the title of “An Artful Christmas” and we loved it.

We began in early July by asking four very talented local artists that we work with if they would be interested in participating in this event. I decided on a color theme of red, teal, and green plaid. I purchased items at the Atlanta Gift Market to reflect this idea, including beautiful new ribbon to decorate the tree. The artists, Sherry McAdams, Margaret Harrison, Gail Morris, and Carol Willis, graciously agreed to bring their art and to be our guests for our Christmas Open House. We also asked them to paint canvases in a variety of sizes to hang on the Christmas tree. We gave the artists color suggestions that would complement the color theme. I am sure paint was flying in their studios in July as they prepared for the November open house! We were thrilled when the artists began to bring in their mini canvases! Not only were they beautiful, but who wouldn’t love looking at art on a tree? The small pieces of art can be hung anywhere or be used in a vignette setting, on a bookshelf or a side table.

We planned this event the same way we would plan someone’s home. We started with a visual inspiration and strategically planned the event. Additionally, thoughts had to go into marketing. Brochures were printed to distribute at our Parade of Homes Event in October to 4,000 guests. An ad was created for the Winston-Salem Journal, and of course, we advertised through our social media sites, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter. One of the artists asked if she could provide art painted especially for our Winston-Salem Parade of Homes Showcase. We were excited to feature her work at our Platinum Award Winning house. The owners bought some of the pieces and many visitors asked if the paintings were available for purchase. I have no doubt that the art made our Showcase even warmer and more welcoming.

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BY ROSEY

One of the best parts of being a restaurant reviewer is discovering hidden gems in the community. This month, I’m delighted to share a new favorite with our readers: The Cotton Mill Lounge.

Tucked away at the Brookstown Inn, The Cotton Mill Lounge is full of ambiance and the character one associates with a historic property. It pays homage to the original roots of the building, and though its proximity is near the hustle and bustle of downtown, it’s a perfect place to escape our modern day busyness and simply unwind. The décor is charming, and you’ll love being in such a quaint and quiet space. But we’ve come for the food, and that brings me to the best part of all – a kitchen bursting with delicious creativity.

We met Catering Manager, Ali Utley, as well as her husband and head chef, Paul Magee. Together, this dynamic duo are setting a very high bar for excellence in catering and fine dining in WinstonSalem! The Brookstown Inn has been offering in-house catering since 2015, but outside catering is also an option. If you are planning an event or wedding, you should definitely consider the culinary experts at THE BROOKSTOWN INN’S COTTON MILL LOUNGE. Because The Cotton Mill Lounge is not a full-service restaurant, and they specialize in both catering and smaller bites, I was offered a different kind of sampling. It was a great change, and we thoroughly enjoyed every bite (I mean, minute) of our time at The Cotton Mill Lounge.

First up… Hello, WINE AND CHEESE! Wine and cheese are offered nightly to Brookstown Inn guests. Whether you’re a guest or not though, you can certainly make your way over to The Cotton Mill Lounge for an assortment of cheeses and unwind with a glass of your favorite wine.

My friends and I were offered a lovely MIXED GREENS SALAD to start. A mixture of baby greens and baby arugula, this salad was topped with heirloom cherry tomatoes and marinated cucumbers. The salad was topped with a housemade CITRUS MARINADE DRESSING. But the two superstars on this salad were COLD PICKLED CAULIFLOWER and HOUSE MARINATED OLIVES.

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Let me start by admitting – I really don’t care that much for cauliflower. But if I’m offered Cold Pickled Cauliflower again, get out of my way. That was absolutely divine. Crispy cauliflower with a blend of flavors that were tangy, bold, and crunchy, without dominating the salad.

It was a delicious addition.

As for the House Marinated Olives...

Well, I can honestly say, I’ve never met an olive I didn’t love. So, when I learned that the olives were marinated in-house with their own mix of seasonings, I was excited. A variety of olives adorned the salad plate and the taste was brilliant.

Honestly, some of the very best olives I’ve ever enjoyed!

Our entrée for the evening was a RACK OF LAMB. Perfectly portioned, this rack of lamb could easily be an appetizer, but for our purposes, it was a perfect meal.

Our lamb was paired with a bordelaise demi-glace with currants, and served over MASHED POTATOES and CHAR-GRILLED SUMMER SQUASH. The lamb was cooked medium and was so tender and flavorful. There was a slight sweetness that accompanied it, thanks to the seasonal currants that added a burst of flavor and a pretty red color to the plate. Ali shared that the small, appetizer size of the rack of lamb is often referred to as a lollipop. It was a great portion for smaller appetites or an elegant reception!

The mashed potatoes were exactly the way mashed potatoes should be: creamy and rich. And the char-grilled summer squash was perfectly cooked so that it wasn’t soggy, but retained both firmness and flavor.

We wrapped up our meal with HOUSEMADE FRENCH VANILLA ICE CREAM WITH A BLUEBERRY MINT CONFITURE AND CHOPPED PISTACHIOS. The ice cream was so delicious, and the sweetness of the blueberry mint confiture was creatively paired with the slight saltiness of the pistachios. Decadent.

Whether you just want to escape for a small bite, or you’re looking to feed a guest list, consider The Brookstown Inn’s Cotton Mill Lounge. Be sure to tell them Rosey sent you! You just might see me there!

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FAITH IN HUMANITY: WHY WE HELP OTHERS WHEN TRAGEDY STRIKES

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

The year 2017 has been one for the history books. This year has been full of hurricanes, horrific mass shootings and bombings, and historic earthquakes in California and Mexico. However, one thing has remained the same throughout the year. Whenever disaster strikes, people come to the rescue and offer their assistance to others. Why did people from across the nation come to help Houston residents after Hurricane Harvey? Why did people shield strangers from gunfire in Las Vegas? The answer is because we are all humans and know it could have easily happened to us.

Researchers have discovered that many of the helpers have suffered and survived the same or similar disasters themselves. There is a human desire to help those who are suffering and a psychological need to find meaning in a disastrous event. People are either glued to their televisions or springing into action to give back. People want to understand why an event happened and how they can help “fix it.” When a person volunteers or comforts people affected by a tragedy, they are psychologically being extrinsically and intrinsically motivated. In their book, Social Psychology, authors Elliot Aronson, Timothy Wilson, Robin Akert, and Samuel Sommers explain that altruistic motives – motives that are selfless and done out of the concern for others – are the reason why people help in their communities while fulfilling a social-psychological need every human being has. Basically, everyone has an internal desire to do good in the world.

In addition, different areas of a person’s brain are affected and trigger a feeling of compassion. Research shows that the amygdala, a structure located in the limbic system of the brain, is put into use when a catastrophe happens and a person’s body is trying to figure out how to deal with the emergency. For example, at the Route 91 Harvest Festival shooting in Las Vegas, once people heard gunshots, they began to run and duck. Their body goes into the fight or flight mode and reacts to the situation. The same happens when people see disasters on television. Their body is giving the victims sympathy and compassion and their mind is trying to understand what they are watching unfold. People will also ask themselves how they would survive that horrific event, and what they would they do if they were put in that situation. Lastly, psychologists have found that when a person sees others overcoming adversity, they become more confident in their ability to succeed. This action is known as vicarious reinforcement.

We also live vicariously through disaster victims and their pain by feeling sad and empathetic towards them. When a person sees another human being harmed, their brain will react in a similar way as if it was them being harmed. The theory of mind comes into play and a brain’s cortex will start analyzing others’ behavior. We remember the times when we were affected by pain and how we felt during that time. Then, our brain takes that memory and lets us reflect on how the victims might be feeling at that moment.

The next time a tragedy strikes and your body goes through all of the psychological effects, think about how you can make a difference. It is important to find a productive and valuable way for you to assist others. Think about your abilities and the best way you can be helpful. Some ways to give back are through donating money or supplies to volunteer agencies, such as the Salvation Army, the Red Cross, and FEMA. Other options include giving blood, hosting a blood drive, or fundraiser for the victims. If you are interested in going to the disaster area, always make sure you are working with a relief organization and follow their agency’s or disaster area’s guidelines for volunteering. Sometimes only first responders are allowed in the location before volunteers are able to come.

Unfortunately, no one can predict when the next tragedy will strike.

But we can predict that there will be people stepping in to assist others. As Mister Rogers once said, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

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If you’re not quite there in a relationship, keep these ideas in mind for your future significant other. Document as you date, and later when you’ve found the one – you’ll have a keepsake that will be as special on your 50th anniversary as it was on your first day of forever.

In addition to these questions, consider adding the following while you’re dating: 1. How do you feel when you’re with him or her?

2. What makes them different from your last boyfriend/girlfriend?

3. What is the first gift they gave you? What was your reaction?

4. How often do you daydream about him or her?

5. What is your boyfriend/girlfriend’s idea of a perfect date? BONUS NOTE: Make a note so, at a future time, you can create that for them and remind them that they described their perfect date so many years earlier!

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Falling in love is such a wonderful feeling. Everything is new.

Everything is exciting. Everything sparkles and shines. It’s a Nora Ephron movie starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan.

Fast forward a couple of years. Life happens. Romance gets back burnered. Diapers need changing. Dinner is burning on the stove.

And what used to feel like a fairy tale now feels like a fairly dull and dreary routine that is more like Bill Murray’s ongoing, never-ending cycle of “Groundhog Day.” Sometimes, we need a reminder of what it was to fall in love with our significant other. With half of all marriages ending in divorce, those who are committed to making it last may need to reflect on the past and remind themselves why they chose the one they’re with.

Journaling the early days of your relationship may be just the key to helping you remember.

So if you’re already in a relationship, and things are feeling a little blah, put pen to paper and answer the following questions: 1 How did you meet?

2. What was the first thing you noticed about your spouse?

3. Where did you go on your first date?

4. What was the first thing you laughed about together?

5. What were some of the personality traits you first admired?

8. How does your significant other make you feel loved?

9. How did you know he or she was “the one”?

10. Do you have a song? Why did you choose it?

11. Do you remember when your spouse proposed?

12. How did you feel on your wedding day?

13. Of all the memories you share, what is your favorite?

6. How has your spouse grown/ changed over the years?

14. What quality (qualities) makes your spouse different from anyone else in the world?

7. Do you remember the first time you said, “I love you?” Write down the moment.

15. If you could give your spouse anything in the world, what would it be and why?

Whether you’ve been together so long that it’s hard to remember life without them… or you’re just starting out… relationships take effort. The movies make them look easy. Embrace the one you love and remember that true love is worth fighting for. Some of your best ammunition for keeping love thriving, even in difficult seasons, will come from your memory bank.

Make sure the arsenal is full.

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Wake Forest Baptist Health Outpatient Imaging

TURNING 40?

MAKE IT COUNT!

BY MARTIE EMORY

Think about the following statistics and you’ll see why it’s never been more urgent that women embrace the age of 40 as the point to begin annual mammography screenings: One in six cases of breast cancer occurs in women ages 40 to 49, and the incidence of breast cancer doubles in women ages 40 to 44, compared to those ages 35 to 39.

While you’re celebrating the milestone #40 birthday, remind yourself that although many insurance companies suggest having a mammogram only every other year, the American College of Radiology still maintains guidelines that include a baseline screening at age 40 for women with normal risk factors, and mammograms every single year after that. News from the medical world tells us that early detection equals far better treatment options, and with their program More@40, the team at Wake Forest Baptist Health Outpatient Imaging wants to make 40 the number that saves lives!

This dedicated team performed over 11,000 screenings last year alone. Most recently, in celebration of National Mammography Day, they provided 23 local women with a mammogram they could not have otherwise afforded. They were also one of the first centers in the area to offer 3D mammography, the gold standard for early breast cancer detection which provides 3D images of breast tissue in onemillimeter slices. Not only does this technology more accurately identify abnormalities, it also lowers the need for additional imaging and lessens the incidence of false positives. Wake Forest Baptist Health Outpatient Imaging has also conquered the “I’m too busy” excuse offered by so many women; their practice offers convenient evening and Saturday appointments for mammography screenings, making it easier than ever to schedule a convenient mammogram.

To reach women throughout the community with this potentially lifesaving message, Wake Forest Baptist Health Outpatient Imaging began to promote their More@ 40 program this fall with events designed to educate and encourage women to spend a precious few minutes of their

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time to care for themselves.

Events such as September’s Rose at Medaloni Cellars and The Perfect Fit Party -- an event co-hosted with Soma Intimates, leaders in lingerie options for post reconstructive surgery patients -- were created to raise money for the 3P Fund (that’s short for Positive Pink Power!) to offer free mammograms to women in the area who might not have the necessary resources available to them. Those events, paired with efforts during October’s National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, have Wake Forest Baptist Health Outpatient Imaging heading towards a wonderful new year in 2018, with more in store for their More@40 message.

“I’m always impressed with how community-oriented Brenda Bronk, WFBH Imaging marketing manager, and her team have been,” says Brooke Eagle, Associate Editor of Forsyth Woman. “The magazine has partnered with them for years for an annual fundraising event to support their 3P Fund, which pays for underserved women to have mammograms. Their team has a true passion for promoting breast cancer awareness in our wonderful community.”

Approximately one in eight women in the United States will develop invasive breast cancer during their lifetime, but the death rate for women under age 50 has decreased, thanks to earlier detection and heightened awareness.

If you are 40 and have not had your first mammogram, now is the perfect time to schedule, before year’s end! Mammograms, including 3D, are covered by most insurance companies as part of your preventive care.

For more information on the More@40 program or to schedule a mammography screening at Wake Forest Baptist Health Outpatient Imaging, located at 265 Executive Park Blvd in Winston-Salem, call 336-765-5722, or visit them online at WakeHealth.edu/imaging. Hours for 3D Mammography are Monday through Friday 7 a.m. – 7 p.m. and Saturdays from 8 a.m. – 2 p.m.

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How to Avoid Wearing All Black

BY MADISON SKAKLE

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in a wardrobe rut? Do you always wear the same thing? Do you always reach for the black clothes? It’s time to try something new! Do not be scared to go out of your fashion comfort zone because it’s a rewarding and fun zone to be in. Take some inspiration from the following fashion tips!

1. CHOOSE A NEW NEUTRAL. Black is not the only neutral color in existence. You can make any color neutral with how you style it. For example, leopard can be neutral. Pair a leopard-print pencil skirt with a bright blue top and don’t be afraid to go bold. Leopard can be paired with any pop of color or you can keep it conservative and wear leopard with other neutrals such as taupe, gold, black or brown. And yes, gold is a neutral, too!

2. WEAR ALL COLOR INSTEAD OF ALL BLACK. Yes, I said it. You can wear all color and you won’t burst into flames. If you’re scared to wear all red, wear all navy blue or all white. Wearing the same color from head to toe helps elongate the body and create vertical lines. Give it a try because trust me, you’ll love how you feel and look!

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A pop of leather (aka texture) can totally change your look. Adding a different fabric to another adds a different dimension and intrigue to your outfit. You may say to yourself, “I would never wear leather pants,” but the second you bring them in and try them on with the rest of your wardrobe, wow, a whole new world has been opened up.

4. MIX & MATCH YOUR PRINTS.

It’s not as hard as it seems to successfully mix and match prints without looking like your grandmother’s quilt. Just pull out patterns that are similar sizes with one clear accent color as the theme through all of them.

5. ACCESSORIZE TO YOUR HEART’S CONTENT.

If you ask me, you can never add too many accessories to an outfit. However, try to keep your accessories in the same color-way and feel. Pair gold accessories with a brown purse instead of a silver metallic purse.

6. AMP UP YOUR ATHLEISURE WEAR.

Athleisure is basically your nicer workoutwear. It’s a trend that has been here for a couple of years and isn’t going anywhere.

You can dress up your athleisure wear by wearing something other than tennis shoes – like some cute flats or block sandals. Add jewelry and a hat and you’re good to go!

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Well Beyond Beauty

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Thinking about choosing the perfect gift for someone special, or dreaming about something on your own beauty and wellness wish list? Look no further – Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics has just the unique, personalized gift you’re searching for. Dr. Leigh Summer and her team are happy to help you choose just the right treatment or service to give (or keep for yourself!) this holiday season. And you can always pick up a gift card with no expiration date to use any time.

Here a just a few suggestions...

Baby Foot™ goes well beyond a traditional pedicure.

The procedure removes dead skin layers in a safe, simple treatment, rejuvenating and softening tired feet using multiple extracts found in nature (sage, chamomile, lemon, and more). Our feet typically get minimal attention; why not give them some much-needed babying?

Lash Lift is a new favorite amongst Lewisville Laser clientele.

In a 45-minute treatment, you’ll have curled, lifted, and tinted eyelashes that last up to eight weeks. No need for eyelash curlers or messy mascara. The vegetable-based dye helps thicken delicate eyelashes for a fuller, lusher appearance.

With the holiday party season ahead, it’s a perfect gift!

Speaking of eyes, Real Brows® is a new method of enhancing the eyebrows for a full, natural appearance. The colors are created individually for each client to ensure a natural look, and the process is terrific for filling in sparse eyebrows or creating an entire eyebrow. Maintenance is minimal, with touch-ups every six months to a year.

Interested in regaining your skin’s youthful glow?

Dermaplaning may be just what you’ve been looking for. The process exfoliates the face, removing dead skin cells as well as facial ‘peach fuzz’ with minimal downtime and no harsh chemicals.

Micro-needling is a powerfully effective means of targeting large pores, aging skin, and/or acne scars, and can be used for any skin type. The process can be completed in about 30 minutes, with only a few days of redness at the treatment area. The procedure stimulates the skin’s production of new collagen, creating healthier skin.

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics also offers laser hair removal and electrolysis. As the region’s only fullservice hair removal provider, Dr. Summer and her team can help you decide on the procedure best suited for your skin type for optimal results.

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Many other skincare and wellness options are available at Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics, including Botox®, SculpSure®, Kybella®, and more. Consultations are free and always encouraged at Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics, to ensure that the treatments selected achieve the very best results for you.

And be sure to check out their special events offered throughout the year, especially the ‘Big Event’ held in the fall. With vendors, food, wine, and the deepest discounts of the year on favorite products and services, it’s always a great evening.

Give Dr. Summer and the team at Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics a call to schedule your consultation, or stop by the office for a gift card or treatment for your someone special. Contact them at 336.945.2076 or visit their website for additional information (lewisvillelaser.com). Their office is located at 6580 Shallowford Road, Suite 130, Lewisville. Office hours are Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, & Friday 8:30 - 5:00pm; Wednesday 8:30-6:30. You can also follow Lewisville Laser on social media (Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram).

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SANTA’S FAVORITE STOP FOR HOLIDAY GIFTS! 110 Oakwood Drive Winston-Salem, NC (across from Thruway Shopping Center) | 336.448.1485 Holiday Hours: Monday - Friday 9:30am - 7:00pm | Saturday 10am - 6pm | Sunday 12:30pm - 5pm

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A PERFECT FIT FOR THE BODY & SOUL!

BY MARTIE EMORY

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Building a business that has become a place for women to feed their souls – while dressing for the times of their lives – has been a dream come true for Mainstream Boutique owner Anitra Mitchell. After celebrating the Winston-Salem store’s fifth anniversary this past fall, the sky’s the limit for a future of bringing her own brand of love and camaraderie to every customer.

“Over the next five years, I hope we are still empowering women to go out and put their stamp on the world,” says Anitra, who balances a whirlwind life of family, faith, and fashion, all with a smile and a kind word.

A SHOPPING DESTINATION

So much more than earrings and a brand new outfit, at the heart of Mainstream Boutique is a true desire to lift women up and embrace both their inner and outer beauty.

“I pray each morning that we are able to build women up so they can go into the world and make a difference,” says Anitra. “If they happen to purchase an outfit along the way, that’s great.

If not, that’s fine, too.”

At Mainstream Boutique, you’re not simply flipping through clothing racks, hoping for a great find, but you’ll be treated to as much personal styling as you’re comfortable with, and always an encouraging word when something is a fabulous fit. This is a team that wants every one of their customers to leave looking their best, and feeling like they just went shopping with their closest friend. Catering to young women, mothers, and grandmothers alike, Anitra is loyal to what each generation of her client base wants, not to particular brands.

Whether it’s the latest super cozy pull-over, completely irresistible lounge pants, stylish boots, or inspired jewelry pieces (think Blessing Bracelets or Whispering Prayer bracelets), there’s something here for every taste. If you’re like most of us, you’ll also be taking home the cutest new travel cup or witty cocktail napkins, as a little indulgence for yourself!

FAMILY TIES

“When we started out, we were in our basement, and I look back six-and-a-half years later and think, wow, what a ride!” says Anitra. “God truly put us where He wanted us to be.”

This past fall Mainstream Boutique celebrated its fifth anniversary, just off Stratford Road on Oakwood Drive, where they are blessed with 10 wonderful employees. Six equally amazing employees make up the Mooresville location, under the management of Anitra’s mother and business partner, Charlotte Parris. Everything about Mainstream Boutique is a family affair.

You may even find Anitra and Brad’s two boys, Cooper and Turner, at the boutique.

“I love spending my days in the WinstonSalem location with the women in my community, while my mother, Charlotte, feels the same way about styling the women of Mooresville,” explains Anitra. “I handle the buying for both stores while my husband, Brad, is the man behind the scenes who actually runs the business,” she says, noting that Brad often jokes to their two sons that he works for their mom. “That couldn’t be farther from the truth!” says Anitra.

“Without him being the mastermind behind the actual business side we would not be here today.” Their parenting is definitely a tag-team effort, via rotating schedules with boutique travel and a home office where they often catch up on work together late at night.

TRENDING NOW

Keeping their inventory fresh and on trend is easy says Anitra because she works with so many amazing companies, but the true challenge of running a successful boutique is being able to bring customers what they want to see, and having a feel for which trends will be a hit in Winston-Salem.

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“I love to work with the women who enter our doors because I can get real feedback on what they like and don’t like,” says Anitra. “By early last spring I knew velvet would be a huge trend for fall, so I brought in a few pieces in July to test the waters.

Even in the heat, this trend was flying off the racks, so I immediately increased my orders to keep up with the demand of our customers.”

As a savvy businesswoman, Anitra also knows the importance of weighing what’s most important to her customers right now. Comfort and style, for example, were not always as crucial as they are today.

“I have to think, while I’m working away at home in my leggings and cozy sweater, how happy I am the fashion industry has figured out that women find comfort and style both very important,” she says, also admitting she went for years without wearing denim. “I couldn’t bring myself to spend the money on premium denim that still may not offer the comfort I was looking for. That has changed! We now carry the most amazingly comfortable denim, and women of all ages and sizes can’t get enough of it!”

THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR

As the crazy month of December rolls in, Anitra says she loves the special “buzz” in the air as customers search for the perfect gift for someone they care about: a snuggly sweater, a statement necklace that can fit with nearly every wardrobe, or even a gift certificate, are top picks.

“I absolutely love working in the store during the holiday season (and every other season!)” says Anitra, because it’s often a time her regular customers – despite busy schedules – end up finding special items to treat themselves.

“When they feel guilty for not keeping focused on their holiday to-do list, I often remind them they probably don’t get out much to do something special for themselves, so it’s good to throw in a little self-pampering, too.”

ALWAYS IN TOUCH

Every business owner knows how quickly social media changes direction, and how effective it can be in today’s retail market. Anitra and her staff know their customers have unlimited resources to choose from when shopping for clothing and accessories.

“Through social media, we are able to show in real time some of the many new items that arrive at the shop daily,” she explains. “Since there’s no way our customers can get here to see every arrival, we do Facebook Live videos a few times a week, and we have attracted customers from all across the country.” Customers see this as a much more individualized way to shop online, seeing the details and color options of the latest arrivals up close. For the Mainstream team, it’s a real benefit to show their customers how to style new pieces in a variety of ways.

“If a customer lives far away or simply can’t make it to the store, we also schedule private virtual shopping experiences!” says Anitra, with outfits pre-chosen beforehand, based on the client’s requests.

That simply makes Mainstream Boutique the best of both shopping worlds!

Visit Mainstream Boutique at 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite D, Winston-Salem, NC, for some of your best holiday shopping, and see why you’ll find yourself becoming a regular there in the coming New Year.

Holiday hours are Monday through Friday 9:30 a.m. – 7 p.m., Saturday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. and Sunday 12:30 p.m. – 5 p.m. Reach the shop at 336-448-1485 and follow these amazing ladies and their love of fashion on Facebook and Instagram. Visit the Mooresville location at 126 Mooresville Commons Way, Suite C in Mooresville, 704-662-9306.

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THE GIFT OF LESS STRESS

BY MICHELLE MELTON, FAMILY SERVICES

What if we could give the perfect gift to ourselves and others this holiday season? What if we could give the gift of less stress?

Let’s be honest. We all want the holidays to be happy – perfect even – for everyone. We expend enormous amounts of energy, time, and emotion trying to meet many seasonal demands: baking, cleaning, shopping, attending parties, over-extending our calendars and our financial resources.

4. Reach out. Faith communities offer social events and opportunities for volunteering that can help you avoid isolation and loneliness, and lift your spirit.

5. Build in time to de-stress. Take a breather. Watch what you eat. Allow time for self-care. Exercise. Stick to your mindful practices when you need them most.

6. Stick to a budget. Make a plan before you go gift and food shopping. Decide in advance what you can afford to spend.

Then stick to your budget. Avoid the post-holiday stress over finances and start the new year on strong footing.

7. Acknowledge your feelings. It’s normal to feel sadness when missing loved ones, grieving over a loss, a divorce, or a disappointment. Express your feelings in loving ways.

You don’t have to force yourself to be happy, just because it’s the holiday season.

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“The expectations that we place upon ourselves can often lead to increased feelings of stress and depression,” says James Mitchell, a licensed therapist at Family Services who specializes in relationship stress and communication issues, grief and loss, anxiety and depression, issues from childhood, and adjusting to life changes.

Despite our best efforts, feelings of sadness, anxiousness, fatigue, irritability, hopelessness, physical complaints, and the constant dread of everyday situations may persist.

James says expectations can be rooted in a variety of sources, including family dynamics, childhood experiences, or the need to cope with an emotional hurt or a conflict.

“Sometimes talking with a therapist who will listen and who will look for ways to approach challenging situations can help people feel safer and stronger, and regain a sense of control,” says James.

“Cultural messaging also leads us to believe that we must meet certain expectations in order to be happy or help others around us to be happy,” he adds.

Family Services’ highly qualified, professional therapists provide effective services for a wide range of life concerns and challenges in a confidential, respectful and collaborative environment.

Lisha Méjan agrees. As a Family Services licensed therapist who works with individuals who also experience mood disorders, trauma, difficulty adjusting to divorce, adoption, or life challenges, Lisha notices how women typically bear the brunt of holiday expectations in their choice to equate happiness with what is portrayed in marketing, and the unrealistic scenes in social media.

“All of us need help from time to time. There’s no greater gift than helping each other build on individual strengths to improve overall well-being and the quality of life,” Lisha says.

SIGNS OF TOO MUCH STRESS

“We’re busy people anyway,” says Lisha. “Then, we add to the normal demands of work, parenting, and relationships layers of holiday demands until the stress reaches its peak and it becomes too difficult to stop or regroup.”

In an effort to compensate or cope with the overwhelming feelings, many will turn to alcohol, overuse medication, or retreat in isolation, while others will over-eat, over-spend, over-socialize, and over-extend.

“None of these are healthy solutions,” says Lisha.

THE GIFT OF LESS STRESS

Since we know that stress will continue to be a companion to the holiday season, James and Lisha suggest preparing for it and offer some practical tips that can minimize stress and help us enjoy the holidays even more.

1. Identify what you really want from the holidays. Can you still have that family feeling by visiting people separately when schedules don’t align? Will the kids appreciate a cup of cocoa and a board game more than a formal sitdown dinner?

2. Be realistic. It’s okay to change traditions or rituals of the past in order create new ones that better reflect changing family dynamics or long-distance relationships.

3. Delegate or share the responsibilities. Identify ways in which others can contribute to the overall holiday experience.

Others are probably feeling holiday stress and depression, too. Sharing the load can bring relief to everyone.

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Family Services therapists have master’s degrees in social work, counseling, and/or marriage and family therapy and are licensed in the state of North Carolina. They accept Medicaid and many private insurance plans, and offer services on a sliding scale fee to individuals and families who live or work in Forsyth County. Fees range from $11 to $120, based on household income and size of your family. Call 336.722.8173 to set up an appointment, or visit familyservicesforsyth.org to meet the Family Services therapists.

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DIY Girls’ Night Ideas that Won’t Break the Bank

BY TARYN JEREZ When we’re juggling more things than we can count and life gets a little crazy, sometimes the best fix is a good old-fashioned girls’ night out!

Then again, how about a girls’ night in for a change? If given the chance to ditch the heels and the glass of wine that costs more than an entire bottle from the store, count me in! Spending a night together with your favorite women and getting to enjoy more intimate time together while cutting some of the cost sounds like a win-win! Who knows? You may even decide to never go out again with some of these DIY Girls’ night ideas!

FONDUE NIGHT

Forget about the Melting Pot – you can throw a fondue night at home for twice the fun and half the price. First, decide if your fondue will be sweet or savory or even both! You can grab delicious and simple recipes online for chocolate, cheese, and broth based fondues. Next, create a list of dippers for guests to bring. Giving in to that sweet tooth with a chocolate fondue night? Toppings like marshmallows, brownie bites, fruits and pretzel rods work great. If you’re set on cheesy goodness, then various kinds of fresh bread, apple slices, meats and veggies all do well. You can send a sign-up list out over email or a group text and see who’s bringing what. Open a bottle of wine and set out some plates and skewers to dig in together and try one of everything.

PAINTING PARTY

Over the years the popular franchise, Painting with a Twist, and other businesses like it have continued to grow in popularity by hosting paint & wine nights for women. While these places are a ton of fun to try, if your friend circle is a crafty one, invite them to a paint party at your place! Everyone brings a canvas size of their choosing from their local craft store and a few acrylic paint colors to chip in. (Be on the lookout for the canvas sales at Michaels and A.C. Moore where you can grab a

five or ten pack of canvases for a steal!) You can paint the same thing or guests can choose something of their own. Just print out example images from online for them to follow, or they can bring their own if they like. Set out a few water cups, paintbrushes and a plastic tablecloth and everyone can gather around the table to paint. Get some music going and get in touch with your artsy side!

WINE AND CHEESE TASTING

Feeling fancy? You don’t have to be a sommelier to host a good wine and cheese tasting. You can pick up your favorite bottle of wine, a cheese that pairs well and invite your girlfriends to do the same. Set up a few nice wood cutting boards or some fun serving trays to place out for the cheese and have wine glasses at the ready! Check in with your guests ahead of time to make sure you have a variety of white, red and rosé in attendance, as well as a few different members of the cheese family. Add some fun competition to the evening by having everyone vote on their favorite bottle of the night! Supply a baguette and some crackers and you’re ready for a great night of girl talk.

MOVIE NIGHT AND POPCORN BAR

Looking for a traditional route for an evening with the girls? Grab a rental at your local Redbox for a dollar and invite everyone over for a movie night. If you’re hosting, make a few large bags of popcorn while others can contribute a topping of their choice like M&Ms, Reese’s Pieces, sprinkles, marshmallows, etc. to create a popcorn bar. You can even bring out some bacon crumbles, parmesan cheese or garlic for a more gourmet take on the classic movie theatre treat. Before the movie begins, place individual bowls of popcorn out for each guest and friends can dress up theirs with their favorite toppings! The whole evening can cost less than one ticket out at the theatre!

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Need a Little Christmas…

Right This Very Minute?

“A little smile, a bit of love from someone near, a little gift from one held dear, best wishes for the coming year… these make a Merry Christmas! ~ John Greenleaf Whittier Christmas is a time of joy, peace and goodwill.

Too often the planning and the preparation can be intimidating and overwhelming and, instead of Christmas being a blessing, it is more of a burden.

It is easy to feel stressed before the first Christmas carols are sung with all the season’s activities before you. A few tips to help you, and me, enjoy the ‘most wonderful time of the year’: • Take a few minutes each day and remind yourself of the reason for the season.

Christ’s birth is why Christmas is celebrated.

• Do Google searches on some of the things used to decorate for the season: poinsettia, mistletoe, candles, Christmas tree, Advent wreath, Santa Claus, etc. You might be totally surprised to learn why these are symbols of the holiday.

• Make a list and check it twice. You may need to shorten your gift list, simplify your decorating, stay within your budget and learn to say ‘no.’

For weeks now I have been looking through Southern Living Christmas books, visiting websites and flipping through current magazines trying to get myself in the spirit of Christmas. No matter how soon I start thinking and planning, Christmas is here before I know it and the pressure is on.

Hurry, hurry, hurry… I need a little Christmas… right this very minute!

Like you, my schedule is busy and there’s not always time to do extra. I still want my home to look festive and to create the wonderful atmosphere of the holidays. Above all, I want to celebrate the things that are truly important: family, friends, giving, and most of all, the reason we celebrate – the hope and the wonder of Jesus Christ’s birth, life, death and resurrection.

“Haul out the holly; put up the tree before my spirit falls again. Fill up the stocking, I may be rushing things, but deck the hall again now. For we need a little Christmas right this very minute, candles in the window, carols at the spinet. Yes, we need a little Christmas right this very minute.”

This familiar song (written by Jerry Herman for the show “Mame” in 1966) makes me feel like I am already behind before I get started… so much to do!

I do think, as a woman, you may feel like it is up to you to make the “spirit” of Christmas happen for your family and you can get caught up in all you have to do. Those are my feelings exactly!

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• Don’t hesitate to ask for help. When others pitch in and help, family celebrations will be fun and more relaxing for everyone.

• Stick with the ‘tried and true.’ A holiday dinner party may not be the best time to try a new recipe.

• Cultivate joy. Take time in the midst of all the holiday activity and pause to take in joy by simply looking around you and becoming more aware of your surroundings.

• Sing the music of Christmas.

Even if you don’t think you can carry a tune, you can sing along when you hear a carol played on the radio or hum along when you are out and about shopping and hear the holiday music being played. “Music is a tonic for a fatigued intellect and a stressed spirit.”

• Give thanks for all you have because it is a gift from God. There are many others who have needs…..look for ways to help someone who may be in a difficult place this season.

• Cultivate kindness and thoughtfulness. A little courtesy and a smile can brighten another person’s day.

May these ideas help you to feel less stress as you prepare to celebrate with your family and friends. Thinking of all this season means in our lives, we all “Need a little Christmas” and can give a little Christmas every day of the year.

Merry Christmas to you and yours!

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2017 Holiday Gift Guide Aeracura Salon Experience the holidays from head to toe with the limited-edition comforting aromas of ginger and ginger lily.

Candrima™, which means “moonlight” in Sanscrit, refers to the moon-white blossoms of ginger lily. Mixed with the traditional scent of vanilla, it becomes a spicy, yet comforting aroma. It’s the perfect blend for the holidays!

Retail price $49. Located at 101-A Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem.

446.448.0792. See ad on page 59.

Farrago Love your melon! And encourage others to love theirs this holiday season. A great gift that gives back with every purchase! Located at 6301 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. 336.946.9128. See ad on page 129.

Mainstream Boutique Stuff their stocking with style! Mainstream Boutique of Winston-Salem not only offers unique and affordable clothing and accessories, but also a great selection of gift accessories. Consider the critter mittens as an adorable option she’ll love! Open seven days a week. Located at 110 Oakwood Drive in Winston-Salem (Across from Thruway Shopping Center). 336.448.1485. See ad on page 52.

Honda of Winston-Salem Give a gift of performance and freedom with a bike from Honda!

Honda of Winston-Salem offers performance and freedom for both experienced and beginner enthusiasts. A beginner bike should be fun to ride, and the CRF50F is a blast. Powered by a smooth, easy-tocontrol 49cc four-stroke engine, it’s built tough, too! Located at 591 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. 336.765.0330. See ad on page 15.

Lamberti’s Salon & Day Spa A gift certificate from Lamberti’s Salon and Day Spa is one you’ll love to give, and one you’ll hope to receive! Choose from a specialized package, or customize your own. Pair your gift with specialty soaps, lotions, and bath products from the spa boutique. Located at 50 Miller Street, Unit D in Winston-Salem. (across from Publix) 336.723.0791. See ad on page 13.

Penny Lane Boutique As a small business, Penny Lane Boutique values the importance of giving back. To that end, they have partnered with Oak River Company, an organization that gives back to local communities.

Located at 6311 Stadium Drive, Suite B in Clemmons (between Lowes Foods and K-Mart). 336.661.8336. See ad on page 49.

Fraleigh’s Boutique Who needs to wait for the rain? The wine umbrella is a cute, fun way to ‘un-wine’ with friends at the end of a long day. Today’s forecast is, after all, a 100% chance of wine! Retail price $19. Located at 2626 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons.

336.766.7440. See ad on page 115.

Eye Candy By Brandy Buy a gift card and get a second for half price! A gift for them and a gift for you! Located at 1401 Millgate Drive in Winston-Salem. 336.777.1700.

Simply Sterling & Co. It’s your story... tell it like it is with a little license from Waxing Poetic’s charming collection. Retail pricing starts at $24. Located at 5275 Robinhood Village Drive in Winston-Salem. 336.896.0077.

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Windsor Jewelers From the Legends Collection, the Naga Brushed Kick Cuff available in 18k Yellow Gold with diamonds, brushed silver with gemstones and brushed silver with 18K gold and gemstones.

Pricing starts at $1,595. Located at 526 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

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Mainstream Boutique Give the gift of style with a gift certificate to Mainstream Boutique. It’s the perfect gift you know they will love! Located at 110 Oakwood Drive in Winston-Salem (Across from Thruway Shopping Center). 336.448.1485. See ad on page 52.

Mellie & Emilia Handmade style is a perfect gift! Local NC artist, Jennifer Cashel’s beautiful bags are a unique and stylish gift any woman will love. Located at 365 Peters Creek Parkway in Winston-Salem. 336.930.5303. See ad on page 69.

Kim Taylor & Company Fleet Feet Sports Wear your faith! Eternal Apparel: Tanks, short sleeve, long sleeve, 8 different inspirational biblical sayings. Inspired by the Holy Spirit, designed by Fleet Feet Sports owner, Emily Davis. Located at 278 Harvey Street in Winston-Salem. 336.722.8477 See ad on page 21.

Holiday shopping is more fun with champagne! Choose from a huge selection of gift ideas for everyone on your shopping list! Special shopping days on December 7th from 5 - 9 PM (the Annual Holiday Open House) or December 15th from 9 11:30 AM (the Annual Holiday Champagne Breakfast).

Follow us on instagram @kimtaylorco. Located at 153 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem (next to Midtown Cafe & Dessertery). 336.722.8503.

Still Life Market The Milkhouse blend of waxes is simple: pure beeswax and natural soy wax from soybeans grown in America’s Midwest. No artificial dyes are added, and there is no lead in the wicks. And with over 52 different scents to choose from (including cup o’ joe, barn dance, and laundry day), there’s a favorite fragrance for everyone on your gift list. Plus, the Milkhouse blend of waxes offers a safe, clean-burning alternative to traditional paraffin candles. Located at 6499 Shallowford Road in Lewisville (across from the Lewisville library). 336.946.1135. See ad on page 105.

Inner Strength Pilates Hip Chics Boutique It’s no wonder the Barefoot Dreams® made Oprah’s Favorite Things list! Be cozy for Christmas and snuggle in the world’s softest and most luxurious pajamas, knit cardigans, and wraps. Located at 2668 Lewisville Clemmons Road in Clemmons. 336.766.8122. See ad on page 43.

Choose a gift certificate with Inner Strength Pilates for Christmas! Services include Pilates, Massage Therapy, Barre Classes, and Esthetic Services! Visit our location at the Harper Hill Commons at the corner of Country Club and PeaceHaven Roads or at www.InnerStrengthPilatesNC.com or by calling 336.813.5320 See ad on page 107.

Windsor Jewelers From designer Roberto Coin, the necklaces, bracelets, earrings, and rings of the Princess Flower collection are handmade in 18k yellow gold with and without diamonds. Pricing starts at $840. Located at 526 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. 336.721.1768.

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Gifts & Paper on Plaza Entertain for the holidays without worrying about chipping your good china! The festive Melamine dinnerware looks just like ceramic, but this shatterproof dinnerware is durable, BPA-free, and dishwasher safe. The subtle, textured design and organic shape look great on any table -- indoors or out! Located at 3301 Healy Drive in Winston-Salem.

336.768.9909. See ad on page 117.

Grassroots Aveda Body Mist sprays make a great gift for anyone on your list (even yourself!). Nourish your skin and feel refreshed with Aveda’s limited edition shampure and beautifying aroma body mist.

Retail price $30. Located at 3283 Robinhood Road in Winston-Salem. 336.774.4777.

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Recently, I was shopping for holiday gifts and enjoying it. Everyone around me was in a good mood and when I passed other shoppers, people smiled at me. There was holiday cheer in the air and festive music played in the background.

I found myself standing in the check-out line behind a woman who had a huge pile of items to buy. Her shopping outing had clearly been successful.

“I’m sorry you got behind me,” she said to me, “This is going to take some time.”

“It’s OK,” I said, “I don’t have anywhere to be. It looks like you did pretty well.”

We both just laughed.

A few minutes passed and the woman turned to me and explained how she has to buy presents for everyone in her family. She went on to tell me what a hardship it is for her immediate family.

They don’t make the kind of money her extended family members make but still feel the need to buy gifts for everyone.

“It’s a strain on us,” she said, “And we pay for it the rest of the year.”

I didn’t know what to say.

I just smiled and told her the gifts she picked out looked very nice.

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How to Give Gifts Without Spending Money You Don’t Have

BY DARA KURTZ

Later that evening, I found myself still thinking about my conversation.

Do a lot of people feel obligated to purchase gifts they can’t afford? I would never want anyone to feel like they “have” to buy me a gift. In fact, even thinking about this makes me feel uncomfortable.

I recognize every family has its own holiday traditions. When it comes to gift giving, it would be awkward to be expected to give gifts, like the woman I met, and feel the financial burden. If you find yourself in this situation, there are many ways you can give gifts that are meaningful but are a little easier on your pocketbook.

Making a donation to a charity, in honor of someone, allows you to give any amount of money you desire. Often, the charity will notify the person you listed on the donation form. This is a

great way to help an organization, have a gift to give, and stay within your budget. It’s a win-win for everyone and also super easy.

Homemade items are another way to manage your holiday spending. Taking the time to make something yourself is lovely and thoughtful.

You can always give the gift of your time. An offer to babysit, drive carpool or do chores for someone is a great way to give a gift without having to spend any money. Type up a certificate listing the specifics and put it in an envelope for the recipient to open.

Make your holiday season about the people in your lives, not the gifts you feel obligated to buy. Give what you want to give, but think twice about buying items you can’t afford.

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BY SARA MIGLIARESE

WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR HEALTH OVER THE HOLIDAYS? Most women in Forsyth County experience a love-hate relationship with the holiday season.

We love candle-light dinners with family, giftgiving with friends, decorating our homes, and celebrating the joys of this special time of year, just to name a few of the heart-warming reasons we look forward to the time of year between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Eve. What some of us “hate” are the negative changes in our physical, and sometimes emotional, health that result from the hustle, bustle, and tussle of our holiday habits. So, what are the most common health issues that happen during the holidays?

3. Exercise! Don’t make more time in your busy schedule by sacrificing exercise.

In an online article by Dr. David Samadi, the five most common health ailments for Americans include the following:

8. About 12,000 people end up in the emergency room due to holiday-related accidents. Many of these are decorating-related! A friend of mine fell off of a dining room table last year trying to decorate her chandelier. This changed her physical capabilities for months to follow. Get help decorating…the top of the tree will be fine without that extra garland and your roof may not need that plastic Santa unless you have help placing it there.

• Overeating and weight gain • Drinking too much alcohol • Too much stress • Accidents • Lack of sleep Let’s talk about how to deal with each one of these. I personally have experienced 4 out of 5 of these (I’m not a big drinker, even at the holidays) and have a goal to apply the 5-Ps approach to saying healthy this year over the holidays. “5-Ps” stands for the saying, “Proper planning prevents poor performance.” A friend of mine uses this approach for almost every large task that faces her and I have also heard this used as an “old military” approach to being ready for whatever might happen in life (or in battle).

So, a 5-Ps plan for staying healthy this holiday season could include these steps: 1. Drink a glass of cold water before each meal; this curbs the appetite.

2. Avoid emotional triggers that cause overeating (get some support from friends or family who can help you identify these triggers and talk to you about what to do when they occur).

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4. Try to avoid using alcohol as a way to deal with stress; 40% of people use the holidays as an excuse to drink – don’t be in that group!

5. Limiting alcohol can improve sleep, help you maintain weight, and feel less depressed 6. Drink more water – less alcohol!

7. To avoid stress, get organized! Try to delegate, avoid over-committing, and get your sleep and exercise!

9. It goes without saying not to drink and drive. But I am saying it anyway.

10. Sleep! Most people need 7-9 hours of sleep each night. You can’t really catch up on lost sleep, so get organized, plan ahead, and turn off those electronic devices 30-60 minutes before you want to fall asleep.

While some of this advice is easier said than done, why not try the 5-Ps plan this holiday season and get started on getting organized. Don’t wait until the holidays to try and exercise, get your recommended hours of sleep, avoid or deal with stress, eat healthy, and drink less alcohol. Getting into those good habits now will make it easier to maintain them over the busy holiday season. Happy holidays and stay healthy!

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Holiday Giving

BY MADISON FREDERICK

I know you must be thinking that this article will be about all the wonderful opportunities we have to give to those less fortunate during the upcoming holidays. This is the time of year when our hearts are the softest. We are touched by holiday magic and we love to give.

But this article is about another type of giving…. the giving of time. No, not to volunteer in our communities or churches, but the giving of time to our children’s relatives, aka the in-laws. The “giving” up of time with our children and grandchildren is NOT heartwarming for us. The “giving” up of treasured traditions because the family has expanded is NOT our idea of holiday fun!

I think everyone has either gone through these circumstances, or has listened to a close friend lament while going through them. The in-laws quickly become the outlaws during a holiday season. Everyone can play nicely with each other until November and December roll around. Then it is subtle (or, sometimes, not so subtle) warfare.

In some situations, this is complicated by distance. However, even if one family lives nearby the children, and the other side of the family lives a great distance away, things still get tense when holiday plans are made. Why is it so difficult during the holidays?

Most children are taught to share with their very first toy grab. We try to model that behavior in our lives as we raise them. But at Christmas, we are grabbers! We want to grab as many special moments as we can for ourselves.

We go to great lengths to make plans ahead of time and get on “their” calendar so we can be assured of sharing special events and getting our time with them.

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This is a nightmare for our adult children.

Most often they love the family’s traditions.

Or if they don’t, you already know the ones they hate, way before grandkids come along!

If your son is in a committed relationship, he must honor his partner’s feelings. If your daughter is in a committed relationship, she must honor her partner’s feelings. As with the Biblical character of Ruth, our child chooses to become a member of another family. Most of us understand and appreciate that, but wait a minute. When does he (or she) stand up for our side of the family?!

See how quickly that feeling creeps in? It is an emotionally-charged struggle to share holiday times and traditions with in-laws and extended families.

“It’s only because we love them so much and we never get to see them.” That is the battle cry of mothers and mothers-in-law. But we must remember not to make it a battle.

Because if we do, the casualties, most often, are loving familial relationships.

And the wounded…. our children.

Just as when they were toddlers, we must model sharing behaviors. But this time, it is much harder. That is why we have a lifetime of strengthening experiences to help us accomplish it. We mustn’t grab; we must give.

We are mature enough to see the big picture, aren’t we? Yes, try to maintain your long-range perspective. If it helps, don’t even think about “the other family,” just concentrate on YOUR time with the kids. Think of it as something you are doing for your child.

You are “giving” to him/her the gift of a stress-free, no-tension family holiday.

That is truly a gift he will cherish.

It is the “gift” that keeps on giving since he/she is learning to once again model a behavior. So even your grandchildren, or future grandchildren, will thank you for setting a pattern of holiday giving and sharing.

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Diet Center of Winston-Salem

Helping You Commit to a Healthier New Year

BY DINAH SHORE MYERS I DO NOT BELIEVE IN NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS!.....I do believe in making commitments and fulfilling commitments. The greatest commitment we can make, other than our faith, is a commitment to taking care of ourselves. Are you willing to commit to a healthier body weight in 2018?

We spend countless hours, either in stores or online, shopping to find the perfect gift for someone, so why not give yourself a gift – the gift of health.

Take time for yourself, “shop” for yourself, “shop” for the right foods, “shop” for the right choices, and soon you’ll be “shopping” for a new wardrobe. For many of us, caring for others is a priority in our lives, whether we are caring for spouses, children, other family members, or even coworkers! It is hard to be our best if we are not happy with how we look or feel. Carrying around 10, 20, or more extra pounds is a drain on our self-esteem as well as our energy level. Especially in the holiday season, it is so easy to put ourselves last on the priority list. We hear and read a lot about “finding balance” in our lives, which we all can agree is a great concept! But how is that possible when we are pulled in so many directions? The digital age and electronics were supposed to make life easier but in reality, we are each more accessible at all times than ever before and we open the door for constant demands of our time and attention. Don’t fight it! Use these digital assistants to block out time for selfcare. Put the phones on the “do not disturb” setting and take some time to recharge mentally and physically. Even five minutes of peace and quiet can rest our minds!

As we move into a brand new year, consider making a commitment to a new, healthier you! Set a goal to achieve a healthy body fat level. Make a plan that contains action steps to achieve that goal. Inaction results in no change!

Achieving a healthy body fat level means skipping the fast food meals, saying “no thanks” to desserts, choosing water instead of soft drinks (diet and regular), getting off the sofa, and MOVING your body. Love yourself enough to “just say no” to foods with empty calories. Walk your dog!

Wash your car! Get moving and burn those extra fat pounds. Use the activity tracker on your smartphone to see the steps add up each day. Set timers to prompt you to stand up and move.

Put the digital assistants to work for you instead of you being their puppet! Use that fitness center membership.

Take your children on a hike.

Meet friends for a walk in the park. Prepare a menu for the week and cook enough

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food to have a nutritious meal for lunch. You know my motto: Preparation prevents desperation. Changes are rarely easy but we must take small steps to change our old habits. Work your plan every day, complete your action steps, and you will achieve your goal.

Maybe you are like me. I knew all the right things that I had to do to achieve and maintain a healthy body fat level, but it was just easier to keep putting off making the necessary changes. Last year I became a Diet Center client, along with my friend Ann, and we made a commitment to ourselves and to each other to get the excess weight off. We made a plan and worked the plan according to the Diet Center programs. Even though I now own Diet Center of Winston-Salem, I am a successful client! Embarking on a weight loss journey for anyone is never easy, but the Diet Center programs, with individual counseling, make the journey a lot more bearable and definitely successful. All of our team members have been on the journey themselves.

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Grassroots – Making the Holidays Even Merrier By Giving Back

BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT

The holidays are here! This is such a magical time of year full of festive decorations, delicious seasonal comfort food and fun holiday parties and celebrations. Whether you have an office party around the corner or are hosting a Christmas party at your home, you will want to look your very best – Grassroots is the place to go to give you just the right look for all the festivities!

Besides the right look, Grassroots offers limited edition gift sets full of Aveda products for everyone on your list. “Our Aveda gift sets are only offered during this time of year to provide value pricing on your favorite products and gifts,” said Co-owner Jennifer Couch. “We have limited edition products with the aroma Candrima, which has an uplifting aroma of ginger lily and ginger. Our gift sets start at $19 and go up to $60. At Grassroots, our focus with Aveda gift sets is to help our guests find the perfect gift to give anyone on their holiday list. We have gift sets with special products only available during the holiday season, or we can put together as a set anything the guest wants to give. Guests can come by anytime to work with our guest care team to help them find the perfect gifts this holiday season.”

Grassroots will host a special VIP event on Thursday, November 30th which will include special promotions for all who attend. Everyone is invited! Those who are not familiar with Aveda products can learn all about them at this event.

“Aveda is a plant-and-flower-derived product line that is recognized by PETA as animal friendly,” said Couch. “Our aromas are naturally derived and not synthetic, they are manufactured by 100% wind energy and they give back to communities around the world, as well as protecting wildlife.”

The focus on giving back is not just apparent in the product line the stylists at Grassroots use, but also in other

charitable causes to which they dedicate themselves. This year, Grassroots is adopting a family for Christmas through Brenner Children’s Hospital. “Crystal Trent, one of our stylists, is a volunteer at Brenner’s,” said Couch. “Her daughter, Mollie, is a former patient, and she wanted to give back the way that people gave to them during their time at the hospital. We are adopting a family with three children – all little boys ages 2, 10 and 15 – for the Christmas holiday. The 10-yearold is a newly diagnosed cancer patient at Brenner’s. We will be providing gifts for the children per their wish lists and a Visa gift card for the parents for meals or whatever they need. We will be accepting monetary donations for the family in the salon through December 15th. Also, during the week of December 4th, 10% of all product sales will go to the family.”

So, if you need the perfect gift for someone on your list, a new ‘do for an upcoming event or to spread cheer through charitable giving, Grassroots is the place to be. Make sure to call for an appointment early as the holidays tend to get booked up quickly!

Grassroots will be closed Thursday, November 23rd and Friday, November 24th for Thanksgiving, as well as Monday, December 25th for Christmas.

For more information, visit the website at grassrootssalon. com or give them a call at 336.774.4777.

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Salem Smiles Dedicated to your happiest smile!

BY MARTIE EMORY

At the popular Winston-Salem orthodontics practice, Salem Smiles, it’s a team effort by caring, trusted professionals led by Dr. Sarah C. Shoaf, DDS, MEd, MS, Diplomate of the American Board of Orthodontics. We caught up with Dr. Shoaf to catch a glimpse of her journey to this point, and to see what makes Salem Smiles so special.

FW: What led to your interest in dentistry and then orthodontics?

Dr. Shoaf: When I was in PA school I did a rotation with children affected by

congenital anomalies, and I was fascinated by the cleft kids and children with craniofacial issues. While in dental school, I was already determined to study orthodontics so I could be on a cleft palate-craniofacial team to help this group of children.

FW: When you returned to Winston-Salem in 1992 to practice orthodontics, what was it like coming back to your hometown?

Dr. Shoaf: I was so lucky! When I was looking for a position as a craniofacial orthodontist, the N.C. Center for Cleft and Craniofacial Deformities team associated with Wake Forest Baptist was looking for an orthodontist. Going back to my old stomping grounds was enticing, plus I am a diehard Wake Forest sports fan, so the thought of returning to Winston-Salem and being able to go to games was appealing!

FW: How has your varied background given you better insight with your patients?

Dr. Shoaf: The combination of medicine (BA-Physician Assistant), education (MEd), genetics (MS) and dentistry (DDS) has led to an interesting practice.

My medical background not only gives me the confidence to treat disabled patients, but it also introduced me to Dental Sleep Medicine. I now provide oral sleep appliances for referred patients with sleep apnea. I’m the Forensic Odontologist for Northwest N.C. and provide services to the Medical Examiners to identify bodies and testimony for bite mark cases. I have taught classes for EMTs, Highway Patrol officers, nurses, and hygienists on dental forensics.

FW: What are some of the best new technological advances in orthodontics?

Dr. Shoaf: I love the oral scanners and 3-D printers. Not only do they allow our assistants more time with patients, but they also decrease dust in the office, eliminate physical storage of models (they are all stored in the cloud as computer files, which can be recalled for printing), and let us avoid putting “goo” in patient’s mouths to gag them! We use the iTero Element scanner to make the “impression” and then send the information electronically to our EnvisionTec 3-D printer to make plastic models. We like this system when we take braces off, as it allows us to not only make the retainers over the plastic models, but we give those models to the patients to keep. If they lose or break a retainer and bring the unbroken plastic models back, we have a substantial discount (almost 70% off!) for replacement retainers.

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FW: As a member of the first East Coast training class on Invisalign, what was most exciting about this new innovation?

Dr. Shoaf: When Invisalign first started, it was geared towards adults, and only for very minor tooth movement.

With its constant updates, Invisalign has become a viable solution to almost all types of malocclusions, for growing children as well as adults. We think Invisalign is a “kinder, gentler” way to move teeth, and it eliminates the hassles of foods you cannot eat, as well as the “tinsel teeth” look, which can be important to dancers, thespians, and musicians.

Movement is in graduated increments, so we only need to see patients once every two to three months. We have college students who see us before and after each semester to continue treatment without coming back for monthly adjustments.

FW: What would be the one phrase you hope former patients use to describe Salem Smiles?

Dr. Shoaf: I love my smile – I love my orthodontist! With our advanced scanners and treatments, we are able to take on patients with disabilities who would not be candidates for regular braces due to choking hazards. We are a warm, friendly office, and mindful of patients’ time. We keep very close to appointment schedules.

You can reach Salem Smiles, located at 1063 W. Northwest Blvd in Winston-Salem (just off Reynolda Road), at 336-725-5757, and online at salemsmilesortho.com. Practice hours are Monday through Thursday 8 a.m. – 5 p.m. (closed for lunch from noon – 1 p.m.) and the office opens from 8 a.m. – noon on Fridays for billing and scheduling.

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From the Winston-Salem Time Traveler The Place Where Time Stands Still

BY MOLLY GROGAN RAWLS

Time stands still sometimes at the Central Library. You wouldn’t think that was the case, with the daily rush of customers to claim a computer or check out the latest eBook or best seller.

But on the second floor of the new Central Library, in boxes of black and white photographs, brides are young and radiant, freckled children show toothless grins, businessmen look dapper in suits and freshly cut hair, moms adorned with hats, gloves and stylish dresses gather at an afternoon tea, and families turn out in their Sunday best. Not only do people fail to change, but the downtown streets are crowded with shoppers and our once-favorite stores, such as Sears, Penney’s, Bocock Stroud, Arcade, L. Roberts, Ideal, Montaldo’s, Frank A. Stith, and Thalhimers still stand on W. Fourth Street, beckoning shoppers to enter and browse.

No, you haven’t entered the Twilight Zone, and you’re not caught in reruns of “Leave it to Beaver” or “The Andy Griffith Show.” Residing within the North Carolina Collection is the library’s photograph collection, the visual memory of Winston-Salem and Forsyth County, and a tangible reminder of the people, places, and events that define our history.

The photograph collection, or photo archives, consists of photographs from mainly seven sources or contributors.

Five collections derive from former local newspaper photographers and an editor, namely Frank Jones, Jim Keith, Bill Ray, Tom Pitts, and Bill East. Another collection, primarily photo negatives, came from Coppedge Studios, and the remaining images were donated to the collection from a variety of individuals and other sources.

A few of the images date to the very early days of Winston and Salem, showing dirt streets with buggies and wagons pulled by horses. Streetcars circle the Forsyth County Courthouse which was situated across the street from the Winston Town Hall. Most of the businesses surround courthouse square and houses are mingled among small tobacco companies, churches, boarding houses, cafes, stables, and other institutions necessary to late nineteenth and early twentieth century life.

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As Winston and Salem grew closer physically, they united governmentally to become Winston-Salem, and the hyphenated city’s boundaries stretched

in all directions. Schools, theatres, grocery stores, drugstores, clothing stores, and service institutions took their places on the streets. Automobiles and buses replaced streetcars and horsedrawn buggies. Stables gave way to automobile service stations. Smaller tobacco companies were purchased by larger tobacco companies and farmers brought their tobacco to town to sell, and then spent some of their earnings in hardware stores to outfit their farms and their families.

The twentieth century brought change in the form of newer and taller structures, plus expanded services for a larger population. Banks, hospitals, recreation venues, welfare services, industries, and transportation took shape and grew.

Photographs show Baptist Hospital in the early days as a single building, then with additions that eventually expanded to a campus of buildings. Smith Reynolds Airport began as an airstrip called Miller Field and grew along with Piedmont Airlines.

A photograph is worth a thousand words, and even better, a photograph makes history come to life. When we talk about tobacco wagons loaded with tobacco on the street, we can see the line of tobacco wagons on the dirt streets beside the tobacco warehouses. When we read about the reservoir that burst in 1904, we see the massive concrete structure with one side missing and the crumbled concrete pieces strewn by gushing water.

When we talk about places that recall special memories, such as Crystal Lake or the Winston Theatre or Ernie Shore Field or the Dixie Classic Fair, we see them in photos as they were and as we remember them.

While the photograph collection is not open to the public for browsing, many of the collection images can be viewed on the library’s photo website, digitalforsyth. org. Individuals can also contact the photograph collection librarian, Molly Grogan Rawls (rawlsmg@forsyth.cc), to inquire about particular images.

Thank you for reading the Winston-Salem Time Traveler column. Please continue to follow the time traveler website to see more photos and stories about WinstonSalem people, places, and events.

By Molly Grogan Rawls, author of the Winston-Salem Time Traveler website.

Contact Molly at mollygroganrawls.com or winstonsalemtimetraveler.com.

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Cheers to the Holidays: Favorite Drinks of the Season

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

HOT CHOCOLATE:

Whether it’s grandma’s recipe or Swiss Miss, everyone has their favorite version of this classic holiday sweet beverage. The origin of hot chocolate dates back to the Aztecs when cocoa beans were used as currency and food. The beans would be made into a cold chocolate drink and flavored with wine and chili peppers. There was nothing sweet about this version. Once cocoa beans were brought to Europe in the early 1500s, the beverage was first served in Spain and took on the more traditional sense of hot chocolate we know today. The Spanish turned the chocolate drink hot and sweetened it and there were no chili peppers. It took over a hundred years before hot chocolate spread throughout Europe. In the 1700s, it arrived in London. The English started adding milk to the chocolate and using it as an after-dinner beverage. Since the 1700s, hot chocolate has made its way across the world and is consumed in multiple variations. In Latin America, the popular treat is known as a spiced chocolate para mesa; in Italy, cioccolata calda is a very thick version; and in Spain, the drink is called chocolate a la taza. The version we gulp in the United States is actually a thinner consistency than hot chocolate in other parts of the world.

HOT APPLE CIDER:

There is nothing better on a cold December day than curling up with a cup of hot apple cider. Also referred to as sweet cider or soft cider, apple cider is the more common name for the liquid in the United States and parts of Canada. Researchers have found evidence of apple trees growing along the Nile River, dating back to 1300 B.C. It is believed that Egyptians fermented the fruit for alcoholic beverages, which many people did in early history. This changed in 55 B.C. when Romans sailed to the British Isles and fell in love with the apple cider drink. Quickly, it was consumed throughout the Roman Empire and Europe. Apple cider came to America through the colonists. Apples were easier to grow in New England than the grains and barley needed for alcoholic beverages. During this time, many people only associated apple cider as being a type of beer that was full of nutrition and safer to drink than most available sources of water.

Even children got in on the action and drank applekin – a less-alcoholic version of the beverage. This popularity continued until Prohibition caused many of the cideries to close down. With the removal of alcohol, people began heating the beverage thus giving us today’s hot apple cider. Some will still consume it cold, but mainly during the holiday, the beverage is warmed or mulled.

HOT BUTTERED RUM:

More of an adult beverage, hot buttered rum is a combination of rum, butter, hot water or cider, a sweetener, and spices. The specialty drink, also known as a hot toddy, comes from Europe. For centuries, Europeans have used hot, spiced alcoholic beverages to warm themselves during the winter months. Rum is mainly produced in the Caribbean and Latin America. In 1655, when the British Royal Navy captured Jamaica, the sailors replaced brandy with rum. It arrived in America with the colonists, who started distilleries in New England. As for hot buttered rum, New Englanders began adding rum into traditional drinks made of sugar or honey, boiling water, and spices, such as a hot toddy. After this conversion, this seasonal favorite was born and made different from the hot toddy by having a butter added to the recipe. Who doesn’t love butter in anything?

As you enjoy the holiday season with your family and friends, try adding one of these beverages to your gatherings and events. You can’t go wrong with any of them. All of the drinks are flexible and can be custom-made to your own liking.

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Last month, I wrote an article on the popular treats of the holiday season. Now, let’s find out how our favorite drinks of the season originated. Popular beverages include hot chocolate, hot apple cider, and hot buttered rum. The cold weather of this time of the year makes people want sizzling drinks that warm them on the inside and bring back memories of past Christmases. So, sit back, pour a seasonal beverage in an adored mug, and learn about the origins of our favorite holiday drinks.

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Nostalgic for a Change

BY BRITTANY ORIE

Nostalgia happens when we’re casually shopping at Wal-Mart and that good ole, decades-old song comes on, reminding us of childhood pleasantries. It happens when we engage with a throwback movie marathon that reconnects us with our high school years. But as peaceful as nostalgia may be, can it sometimes be a negative thing? And if it is negative, how do we turn it around and make it positive?

Most of all, how can we use nostalgia to create a happier future for ourselves and others?

Just like the songs we heard from our childhood remind us of happier times, there are certain events that can also trigger negative emotions we felt from our past. For instance, working with a critical supervisor at work may trigger memories of being bullied at school years ago. That person may end up visiting her past, experiencing all the feelings of insecurity and depression.

This is when nostalgia can have a negative effect on us. If we’re not careful, this kind of nostalgia can negatively affect our present and our futures also. But there are ways to use any negative experience from our past and make something beautiful out of it.

How exactly does “bad nostalgia” help us give to others and create a more positive future? First, we should realize that pain can be the birthplace of passion. This means that going through something major can make us passionate about a certain thing.

For example, say someone went through childhood being adopted several times. This experience may have been very difficult for that person and made her feel unwanted for a while. But throughout the years, that pain from such an experience morphed into a passion. Now she is fiercely passionate about children and desires to give them a loving environment. She may do this through opening a foster home, teaching elementary students, or simply by working at a daycare!

Another way to use our “bad nostalgia” as a way to bless others is to look at a negative experience and think, “What can I do to make it so that others won’t suffer the way I did?” A good visual of this will be getting turned down for a job we strongly desired.

This may stick with us for months. But there’s a way to use this disappointment to help others: helping people build resumes, working with human resources to help people find jobs, and coaching them with interviewing techniques. Surely these things will help others land that “dream job.”

“If I survived this, so could you.” When we really think about it, this statement taps into “bad nostalgia.” Say someone has been through a season of poverty, depression, or an illness, but overcame those mountains and is now leading a healthy, successful life. She can use what she’s been through to encourage and uplift other women who are going through the same thing. We go through things for other people,

not only for ourselves. Our situations don’t happen to us, but they happen for us and they help us become a beacon of hope for those who truly need it.

On a larger scale, we can use our “bad nostalgia” to make a vast difference in the world. Maybe someone who overcame an abusive relationship is motivated to launch a non-profit that caters to battered women all across the globe. Or a person who empathized with the poor and hungry in third-world countries is inspired to travel and become a photojournalist, or create documentaries so their voices can be heard. Or somebody who grew up being teased for her weight is moved to invest in a national fitness company.

These are just a few examples of how our bad memories can actually be used for worldly good!

Nostalgia, whether positive or negative, has an impact on how we view our past, live in the present, and invest in our future. No matter if we tap into it just to reconnect us to our childhood when the present gets a little overwhelming, or if we’re looking at how we can morph personal trauma into positive change, nostalgia can benefit us—and the world—richly, if we handle it with care.

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

LET THERE BE LIGHT! Whether you plan to build or buy a home, remodel a room or seek ideas to expand your “green” footprint, we are all in the beginning stages of constructing our dreams. Each month, this column will invite you to look beyond the usual ideas and consider alternative, cost-effective and eco-friendly options. With so many topics to explore, from top to bottom, room to room, inside and out, the goal of a vision is to take a firm step forward, and begin living the dream.

During the darkest days of the year, we especially rely on natural sunlight to boost those winter blues. Self-consciously, the family gravitates towards the one room that fosters a feeling of warmth and light in the hope of finding comfort and good company. And what becomes of the rooms that feel dark and cold? Artificial lighting is accepted to perform a necessary action such as washing and drying laundry, entering a closet or pantry, or washing hands or putting away dishes; yet, we rarely linger and enjoy those rooms. When the addition of a window is not possible, the solution is to look skyward, and consider adding skylights or solar tubes to specific rooms in your home. Viewed as a luxurious amenity, the right skylight can be placed anywhere to change a room’s value.

SKYLIGHTS

An alternative source of natural lighting, skylight pours light in from the roof. In a variety of sizes and widths, a skylight provides 30 percent more natural light than a vertical window. In fact, it will make a room appear larger. The benefits include both reduced heating costs and lighting costs during the day, and the solution to the summer months is to choose one with a manual or electric black-out shade. Homeowners can select from two types: 1. With a fixed skylight, the window cannot be opened.

2. Ventilating skylights offer the option of opening either electronically or manually to increase air flow. In a room with excess moisture or heat, such as a kitchen or bathroom, perhaps, a ventilating skylight might be appealing.

In adding a skylight to a bathroom, dining room, bonus room, or entryway, homeowners will discover a change of habit by turning a darkened room into a space of great enjoyment.

SOLAR TUBES

You already may be familiar with solar tubes, possibly knowing them as “sun tunnels” or “light tubes.” Constructed from sheet-metal with a weather-proof plastic globe, the 10 or 14inch diameter tube channels light from the roof down through a diffuser in the ceiling. While the tube acts similar to a continuous mirror, the outpouring of light immediately alters a room, whether it is a bathroom, closet, hallway, or any room in the home, with

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bright sunlight. Just imagine providing natural light from the second floor to the main level. Providing a source of light is possible with a solar tube. Recommended as a DIY project, the Energy Star qualified solar tubes are certified as water tight and maintenance free.

SOLAR LIGHTS

Technology has offered a means to combine sun-power in exchange for lighting up the night. We have invested in solar lights to brighten our walkways, driveways, and yards; yet, we can also remove our electric exterior lights and replace them with an LED solar powered light bulb. It can be installed in any light fixture or lantern, and shine, upon condition, for up to seven hours. This particular light would become a comfort during an emergency situation, and especially a power outage. Continue to watch the improvement of solar LED light bulbs. Today’s bulbs will continue to improve in the years to come!

It is a natural reaction to enter a room and flip a switch for a roomful of fluorescent light. With natural lighting options, however, you will discover this action may soon be unnecessary.

We can learn to become dependent on nature’s gift of natural sunlight, and benefit from saving energy and money.

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HOLIDAY SHOPPING AT

BY DEBBIE LINVILLE

Penny Lane, formerly located beside the Clemmons Library, was a perfect spot to find repurposed furniture, unique chalk painted pieces, and even take a painting class, but in response to the continual request for women’s clothing through the years, owner Chris Hambrick made the transition to a women’s boutique in 2015, and moved to the current location the following year. “It was the right move, at the right time,” shared Chris. Based on the steady stream of customers that came into the shop during our 45-minute interview, it was obvious she was telling the truth! There is one remnant of the original Penny Lane - chalk paint and milk paint for furniture makeovers, but clothing and unique gift items make up the bulk of the boutique offerings. When asked what makes Penny Lane the perfect shopping spot for the holidays, special occasions, or “just because,” Chris stated the following:

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Top Ten Reasons to Shop at Penny Lane:

1. FRIENDLY & HELPFUL STAFF

Chris and her partner, Paige, know that it is “the experience a customer has in the boutique” that keeps them coming back. Exemplary service is key! At Penny Lane, customers receive attentive service by highly knowledgeable staff members who can expertly assist in putting together the perfect outfit for any occasion.

2. MODEST PRICING ON QUALITY MERCHANDISE

Chris and Paige comb the market, always on the lookout for “what’s trending,” to bring fashion-conscious customers a wide range of price points on quality clothing, accessories, and shoes. For example: Oak River leather bags, Umgee and Piko dresses, Matisse leather boots, and KanCan jeans.

3. LOCALLY OWNED

Penny Lane is an independently owned and operated boutique, which means the creation of jobs in the community, and ensuring tax dollars stay close to home. Research shows that shopping small (business) means almost half of each purchase is circulated within the community, as compared to about 14 percent at chain stores.

4. PERFECT FOR THE LADIES (& HUBBY, TOO) Whether customers are looking for a fun outing with their daughter, mother, best girlfriend, or out of town guest, a shopping excursion at Penny Lane is the perfect choice!

On occasion, husbands or significant others arrive with an Instagram screen shot, or magazine photo of their loved one’s desired item in hand, knowing the Penny Lane staff will be able to help them select that “just right” gift.

5. PERSONALIZED SERVICE & FREE GIFT WRAPPING “Y’all are so nice here!” is a commonly heard phrase in the boutique by customers who receive one-on-one assistance to find essential wardrobe pieces that help create the desired fashion statement - simple elegance, shabby chic, casual, trendy, Bohemian, artsy, or something in between. Not only is Penny Lane “the place” for fabulous clothing, shoes, accessories, and gift items, but they gift wrap any purchase for free.

6. UNIQUE GIFTS

Whether shopping for something out of the ordinary for a special teacher, granddaughter, coworker, neighbor, friend, or personal retail therapy, the extraordinary selection of creative gift options at Penny Lane has you covered. Can’t decide? A gift card is always a great choice. Current best sellers: • Swig stemless wine cup • OneFURall pet candles (air neutralizer) • Charles River fleece pullovers • Rewined candles (repurposed wine bottles) • Canvas earrings • PuraVida (waxed strips) & MudLove (clay) bracelets • Oak River totes • JoJo key rings (handcrafted from 100% recycled keys).

7. CREATIVE MERCHANDISING & FUN ATMOSPHERE Found displays are a throwback to Penny Lane’s roots as a repurposed furniture store and provide a charming backdrop for clothing, shoes, accessories, and gift items. Creative arrangements of the boutique’s merchandise in old cabinets, reclaimed shelving, and one-of-a kind distressed furniture pieces affords shoppers a fun shopping climate. Couple the lively browsing atmosphere with Open House specials and quarterly “Big Sale” wine and hors d’oeuvres events and you have a Penny Lane shopping extravaganza!

8. CONVENIENT LOCATION

Located in the heart of Clemmons, the boutique is conveniently accessed from I-40 and Hwy 421. The regular customer base lives in Forsyth and adjoining counties, but there are loyal clients who routinely travel to Penny Lane from Charlotte, Raleigh, and beyond to check out the latest in women’s apparel, accessories, and specialty gifts.

9. INCREDIBLE CLOTHING FOR ALL STYLES, SIZES, AND AGES

Teens, moms, grandmothers, curvy, and plus sizes will find exactly what they are looking for at Penny Lane.

From intimate wear (cammies and bralettes), leggings, tops, tunics, and dresses, to pants, vests, jackets, and sweaters, customers are guaranteed to find a wide variety of fashionable options. Accent pieces, modish scarves, trendy shoes, stylish boots, and incredible statement jewelry provide the perfect accompaniment for any outfit and occasion.

10. BEST KEPT SECRET IN CLEMMONS Until now… Stop by today and see what’s new! You can also check out the latest arrivals on social media: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, and the Penny Lane website. New items are posted continually and inventory is regularly updated.

Order online, message or email to inquire about an item, or take advantage of the extended holiday shopping hours (month of December only): Mon., Tues., Wed., Fri.: 10:00a.m. - 6:00 p.m.

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Penny Lane Boutique is located at 6311 Stadium Drive, Suite B in Clemmons.

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BY MARTIE EMORY

Masters of Holiday Shipping!

You’re probably starting to notice that those amazing holiday gifts you’ve bought for friends and family come in all shapes and sizes.

Some are well-suited for a pretty gift bag – especially if they are going under the tree. But some have to travel, as in packaged and shipped to land safely under someone else’s tree, and that’s where the folks at Goin’ Postal in Clemmons step in to become your new best friends!

What’s in your beloved packages will only make memories and deliver love if they arrive safe and sound. We all need a helping hand this time of year, and that’s where owners Vic and Shirley Bragman and their friendly staff take over. Along with their customer service specialists – store manager Priscilla Surratt and seasonal assistant Missy Robertson – Vic and Shirley are experts at helping you find the most efficient way to ship your treasures, and they offer some definite tips for mailing during the holidays.

• Lessen your holiday stress by shipping early. It’s really that simple, and it’s also less expensive because you’ll have time to utilize U.S. Mail (complete with tracking numbers that Goin’ Postal will email you once they’ve created your shipping label) or FedEx or UPS Ground, not the more costly Express Shipping.

• At Goin’ Postal you have the luxury of choosing between multiple carriers: Parcel Post, Priority Mail, FedEx Ground and Express, UPS, and DHL International. Come by or call with the measurements of your package and the recipient’s zip code, and their staff will find the safest and most economical shipping option.

• The store sells all sizes of shipping boxes, and colorful mailers for every special occasion, including oversized options for hard-to-fit toys, artwork, or even a Christmas bike! If one of their in-stock boxes isn’t a perfect fit, they are happy to make a custom box to keep your items protected.

• Handling fragile items such as glass or pottery pieces is their specialty, and they take extra care, wrapping each item securely, and double-boxing if necessary.

Their ultimate goal is the shipper’s peace of mind!

• Forgot to add a personal note with your gift? Pick up a holiday card from Goin’ Postal’s display of Leanin’ Tree greeting card designs to add to your package while you’re here. From humor to holiday scenery to religious sentiments, these cards are the perfect finishing touch.

• A gentle reminder: Be sure you have your recipient’s complete address and zip code before you come in, and also include your complete return address on the package – clearly written to distinguish it from where the package is headed.

• Even amid the holiday madness, your kids can take a break, too, and color at the Goin’ Postal kids’ table, while you take

care of the final details of your shipment to out-of-town family.

• Want to be sure your gifts arrive by Christmas Day? Send first class mail by December 19, Priority Mail by December 20, and Express Mail by December 22.

The U.S. Postal Service recommends even earlier deadlines for military deliveries and international mailings. For FedEx Ground, the last day to ship is December 15, and for FedEx Express, December 22.

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Carole Beverly:

The Journey, From the Mountains to the Mission Field

BY VONDA HENDERSON

About the Author:

Carole Beverly shares her journey with her husband Bernard Beverly on the mission field in The Journey, From the Mountains to the Mission Field. They and their three sons spent 26 years as missionaries, primarily in the Philippines. Carole begins her remarkable life story with the background of each of their families, highlights of their childhood experiences, their courtship, early marriage and their ultimate call from God that led them to the foreign mission field.

Carole is now working on two additional books. Through the Valley is the working title of her next book about helping those who find themselves in caregiver roles to be encouraged. She also has a novel planned, tentatively titled The Penny Postcard, set in the World War II era and how the difficulties and experiences impacted the lives of a young couple. The Penny Postcard is inspired from a family story that is featured early in The Journey.

Inspiration:

Carole was encouraged to share her family story of life on the mission field for a number of years before she began gathering their experiences into book form. Thankfully, she ignored her initial skepticism about why someone would want to read about their lives and decided to move forward with sharing what life on the foreign mission field was like for her, her husband, and their sons. Her book is filled with the power of faith and prayer, as well as the adjustments (some humorous, some unexpected) needed to adapt to life in a foreign country.

About The Journey, From the Mountains to the Mission Field:

It’s easy to assume that life might be challenging for those on the foreign mission field; however, for those called, it is also an adventure unlike any other. Carole provides insight from her family’s perspective in a series of short stories woven together to present lives spent in service and on a mission to leading others to God. Learning to communicate in another language is just one of the many tasks required to interact and become accepted in another culture. As Carole shared in her early days on the mission field, simply preparing meals presented its own hurdles.

Some fruits, such as durian, which in her words had a hideous odor, were an acquired taste which she came to enjoy. Other native dishes, not so much. And early in her life, Carole would never have pictured herself on a cross-country journey through the Philippines on the back of a motorcycle.

Adjusting to the local animal life was another story in itself. As Carole shared, “Every missionary has a snake story.” Her description of one incident in particular, being chased by a snake and then chasing that same snake, creates quite a visual picture. Who won in the end?

Learn how her family and the other missionary families they worked with introduced Christianity in the face of perils they never expected. Their faith is an inspiration. Their story is remarkable.

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Where to find The Journey:

About The Journey, From the Mountains to the Mission Field, published

by Christian Faith Publishing in July 2017, is available from Amazon. com, Barnes&Noble.com or wherever books are sold. It is also offered in electronic format. You may also contact Carole via her publication specialist (Laura@christianfaithpublishing.com). Carole is available for speaking engagements at churches, women’s events, conferences, etc. within Forsyth County and throughout the southeast. You can also view the book trailer on YouTube. Be on the look for other future books from Carole.

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No one should have to go through the treatment required to battle cancer.

It can be painful, exhausting and rob you of certain features you’ve grown accustomed to having…like beautiful hair to brush and style. While it may not sound like much to some, for many battling cancer, losing their hair takes away something personal that is hard to live without. The daily reminder in the mirror leads many to seek wigs or other types of head coverings to feel a little bit more like their old selves again, but many wigs available are just not good enough…that’s where Christal Schanes hopes to make a difference!

“I studied visual arts at Illinois State University and double majored in costume design,” said Schanes. “In the costume shop is where I became exposed to hair and makeup. I graduated with my master’s degree in wig and makeup design at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA) in 2003. I began teaching full time at UNCSA in 2012 while remaining a great part of the entertainment industry. I teach classes in entertainment wig building and more recently added a medical wig building class. With great support from the Dean of the School of Production & Design, Michael Kelley, I developed my Medical Wig Class in partnership with the Derrick L. Davis Cancer Center. I pair up their clients with my wig builders and, together, we build custom, highly realistic wigs for the medical clients.”

Quality wigs are extremely expensive and time-consuming to make, so finding a realistic wig at a price the average person can afford is nearly, if not completely, impossible. Christal knows what a truly quality wig is from her work as an Emmy-winning hairstylist in the hair department of “Saturday Night Live.” She knew she could help others using her experience by starting what she calls MEDwig, a UNCSA-affiliated business. “I am dedicated to finding a pathway of sustainability for providing cancer clients free, realistic custom wigs, so they can feel like themselves again in hopes to have a strong recovery.

For many women, their hair is a key to what makes them feel like themselves. Being able to provide an extremely realistic, full custom wig allows them the privacy to deal with hair loss at their own pace. My wigs are entertainment style fully

hand-tied wigs, redesigned to suit the needs of the medical client. My wigs cost $3,500 within the entertainment market and take 70-100 hours to build; every hair tied by hand. I have never felt comfortable charging a medical client knowing what a physical and financial burden the treatment alone is. This is the drive behind my mission to provide medical clients FREE custom wigs at the production quality of an expensive entertainment wig.”

Beyond the time and customized style of each wig, Christal is able to incorporate the patient’s own hair into them. “I fit each client with a temporary wig the day of the first consultation and make alterations for fit, cut and style,” said Schanes.

While the endeavor to create MEDwig is a big undertaking, Christal is confident that she has the right people around her to make it all work! “MEDwig is modeled after my classroom experience,” said Schanes. “I am able to provide job opportunities for my students and community members to better the quality of life for the well-being of those who suffer from cancer. I intend to incorporate a ready-to-wear wig, hairpiece and toupee line, as well as making readily available, extremely high quality, raw virgin hair through an e-shop and storefront here in Winston-Salem. Medical prosthetics will be integrated by year two and the integration of technology to refine the accuracy of both medical wigs and prosthetics by year three. At MEDwig.org, you can read up on the background of the business and who I am. I also have a section on a MEDwig program called ARTgather which is an artist awareness fundraising campaign. Please contact me at christalsmedicalwigs@gmail.com for more information or inquiries.”

Because MEDwig will rely on the generosity of others, as well as the dedication of Christal and her team, fundraising is essential. It is the only way MEDwig will be able to provide these entertainmentquality wigs completely free to their clients. Donations are encouraged to help Christal help others through this selfless work. Christal plans to open a brick and mortar location in January of 2019. Until then, please visit MEDwig.org or email Christal at christalsmedicalwigs@gmail.com for more information.

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Hot Chocolate Sipping on a mug of hot chocolate is one of my favorite winter to-dos.

I love how it warms you up from the inside out and, unlike coffee, I can drink it any time of day without having to worry about being able to fall asleep.

I’ve even invested in a hot chocolate maker to ensure my hot chocolate is perfectly mixed and the perfect temperature! If you are a hot chocolate connoisseur like me, you may need to invest in one of these. They are seriously awesome.

I bought mine off e-Bay years ago, and it’s called Mr. Coffee’s CoCo Motion Hot Chocolate Maker. You

actually have to buy them used – if you can even find one – because they don’t make them anymore.

For the past few years, a hot chocolate bar has been a staple at our family’s Christmas Eve gathering. These are so much fun to create and can certainly be done with or without your “professional” hot chocolate maker.

A few tips: • Use whole milk (or almond milk, if you don’t do dairy). Mixing hot chocolate with water doesn’t give you that rich, delicious flavor like milk does.

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• Set out several topping options for your hot chocolate bar.

Crushed peppermint, whipped cream, chocolate chips, white chocolate chips, etc.

• For an adult-only version, try adding a shot of peppermint schnapps or peppermint vodka to your hot chocolate.

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With December, comes parties. Lots of parties! And while they are oh-so-much-fun, they can often be a challenge when it comes to maintaining a healthy lifestyle. This month, I am sharing a few tips to stay at least somewhat healthy during this holiday-partyseason.

1. If it’s a potluck type gathering, bring a healthy dish! This way you know there will be at least one thing healthy for you to eat. Consider hummus and carrots, fresh fruit, or guacamole and cucumber slices.

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2. Do not arrive starving. Doing so means you are much more likely to eat everything in sight.

Especially if it’s an event that is hors d’oeuvres only and not a dinner. Eat a healthy snack (or even a meal) beforehand, depending on the type of event.

3. Stay hydrated! Before, during and after the party.

If you did end up overindulging, it’s even more important to drink a ton of water at the end of the night as well as first thing the next morning.

4. Choose your beverages wisely. If drinking alcohol, consider wine or a light beer versus a sugary mixed drink or a heavier craft beer. I personally prefer red wine (especially this time of year) because I tend to sip on it slower than a white or sparkling wine. If you aren’t partaking in alcoholic beverages, consider sticking to water or something like a flavored carbonated water versus soda or sweet tea.

5. Get in a good sweat session! Do this the day of or the following morning, but do not misunderstand—this sweat session isn’t so that you can “earn” the food you’ll eat that night nor is it to “make up” for all the food you may have eaten the night before. It’s simply a good way to keep your body moving and get those endorphins we all love!

6. Choose foods higher in protein and avoid the starchy foods. Aim to fill your plate with protein, veggies or fruit (if available) and skip the bread.

7. Indulge… a little! Have a couple of bites of your favorite not-so-healthy dish. By avoiding it all night, you may feel the need to overindulge later (this overindulging could take place that night or even a few days after!).

8. Step away from the food table. Make it a point to move yourself and your conversations to a different area than right beside the food and drinks. It’s so much easier to mindlessly eat (and drink) when it’s within easy grabbing distance.

And the most important tip of all, if you “mess up…” don’t beat yourself up about it! I’m sure you’ll have plenty of holiday party opportunities and you can aim to do better at the next one. Enjoy your holiday parties!

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Holiday Mishaps: When Things Don’t Go as Planned

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Often during the holidays, we picture a perfect family gathering or party with friends, where everything goes exactly as planned.

We imagine a Norman Rockwell Christmas Eve and Christmas day.

However, sometimes life throws a curveball and our ideal Christmas can turn into something resembling a Griswolds’ holiday.

Holiday mishaps happen to everyone and can end up being great memories to look back on. Although they might not be too funny at the time, they can bring lots of laughs for years to come.

My family has had their share of funny Christmas stories. From finding our dog on top of the table, eating 16 gumdrops from our gingerbread house when she was a puppy, to numerous Christmas trees falling to the ground, recalling these stories always make the corners of our mouths turn upward. Another favorite tale is while my family was at a school event, my dog somehow got into the teachers’ presents sitting on the floor. She managed to remove all the Hershey’s kisses from the bags, unwrap them (wouldn’t you love to watch her do that?), and then proceed to eat all of the chocolate. Let’s just say there was a surprise waiting for us when we returned home. Lastly, one of my relatives recalls the story about their family’s tradition of eating cheesecake crescent rolls during Christmas. However, one year the dish was accidentally made with garlic crescent rolls. To this day, they still chuckle at the mistake.

Other common holiday mishaps are family photos gone wrong, thinking a Christmas sweater is ugly when it wasn’t meant to be, or gifting the incorrect present to someone.

It is important to remember there are tips for when things don’t go as planned. Read below whenever holiday mishaps and stress get to you.

• Keep your expectations reasonable and be flexible. If your quintessential Christmas morning of opening presents, drinking hot chocolate, and listening to Bing Crosby sing on the radio turns out to be a morning of kids unwrapping all of their presents at once and bowls of cereal with the dog barking in the background, know that is okay. Don’t beat yourself up and make unrealistic expectations. Holiday moments are more meaningful if you remember to actually enjoy them.

• Give yourself a break and let your family and friends help out.

Cramming all of the cooking in, beating the crowds shopping for last minute presents, and staying up past Santa’s visit wrapping gifts can take a toll on a person. It can also eliminate the holiday joy they feel. Make the holidays a family event and get everyone involved. Let your kids pitch in with the Christmas dinner or send your husband to fight the rush at the grocery store. In addition, having everyone’s help gives you more time to make those special memories. Lastly, create a schedule and to-do list for everything that needs to be accomplished.

However, forgive yourself and

let go of your guilt if you don’t finish everything you put down for the day, week, or even holiday season. This is where setting your priorities comes into play. Consider what is most important for you, your family, and friends. Is it necessary to go caroling in the neighborhood? Do you need to make a 12-course meal for Christmas Eve? Or will your family still have a great holiday with pick-up food? Don’t sacrifice time with loved ones just to outdo yourself.

The holidays are a time for fun, family, friends, and love. When a mishap happens, just sit back, relax, and remember nothing is ever perfect. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

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BUDGET BZZZZZ End of the Year Financial To-Do List

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

It is hard to believe it is already the end of another year! Where did the time go? For some people, there are certain things they must do at the close of a year.

Some will write their New Year’s resolutions or look at what they’ve accomplished. However, one thing everyone needs to do is analyze their budget, spending, and saving habits.

Before the year ends, it is important to see what worked in your budgeting method and what didn’t. First, look at the method you used and ask yourself: was I able to easily track my income, savings, and expenses? Did this method allow me to budget my finances as I wanted? Next, analyze your income, savings, and spending patterns throughout the year. What trips did you take and when?

Was there a month with more expenses than others?

Taking the time to understand these patterns will give you a baseline to start your budget for the new year. You’ll be able to plan on what months might be more expensive, where you spent unnecessary money, and where you might be able to save more. This practice lets you plan ahead for upcoming bills at the beginning of the year.

For example, winter is coming, which can mean potential expenses in preparing your home to be energy efficient in the cold months. Also, create a strategy to pay off any debt in the new year. If you noticed your budgeting method had flaws and there are areas of improvement, this gives you the chance to make the changes or change your method altogether. Find what works for you and your family!

Don’t forget to give to charities or make other financial contributions before the clock strikes midnight on December 31st. During the final month of the year, many people will donate to their favorite non-profit, because you can deduct this from your current year taxes. Other financial contributions to consider are giving to an individual retirement account (IRA) and any 529 college savings plan. For IRAs, you have until you file your tax return next spring to allot money to the account; however, 401(k) contributions need to be made in the same calendar year to be deductible. Another tip from financial planners is converting money from a traditional IRA to a Roth IRA. You’ll get a lower tax rate on the taxes you’ll pay on income; just make sure the conversion is done by December 31st. Lastly, 529 college savings

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plan money is tax-free when used for eligible educational expenses. Some states even have additional tax benefits for the plan.

Speaking of taxes, April 15 will be here before you know it. Now is the time to organize your finances and ease the burden of tax season. Begin with setting up your system for gathering all needed information for tax season. Find any needed receipts, review your withholdings, plan for estimated taxes, and create an account on IRS.gov.

Finally, use up any flexible spending account (FSA) money for health care expenses. Order new glasses or contacts, schedule preventative appointments, etc. If you don’t use all your funds, most of the time, they won’t transfer into the next year. Some companies do offer a grace period, but this is rarely seen.

Now, that you’ve done all the hard work for this past year, the start of the new year will be a breeze! Beginning with January 1st, make a commitment to stick with your budget. Remember to always save and spend money in the most profitable way possible. Be specific with your finances and stay accountable. If you are unsure of how to start, there is no shame in taking baby steps. Your cash flow will thank you.

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Home Libraries

BY VONDA HENDERSON

If you’re a reader, you likely have a few bookcases in your home. Anywhere books gather, that’s your home library – whether a lone bookcase, multiple bookcases, or a dedicated room. Bookcases filled with books give a home a comfy vibe, especially if there’s a chair deep enough to pile into for an afternoon of reading with a good cup of coffee or tea. Now, that’s a good day!

The private library of George Lucas is at his Sky Walker Ranch and features a glass-domed ceiling. A research library, it is available for use by filmmakers (but by appointment only).

Some home libraries are so vast they rival most people’s actual houses. Some are architectural treasures on their own, never mind that they hold huge numbers of books. Let’s take a peek at a few notable home libraries.

Richard Macksey’s home library holds 70,000 volumes. They appear to be everywhere in his home – on shelves, on tables, on the floor. His library is one of the largest private libraries in Maryland.

Just a short drive down I-40, a visit to the Biltmore Estate is breathtaking from start to finish, from the home to the greenhouses. What a masterpiece. The library is in a class by itself with the two-story impact as you enter, holding an estimated 22,000 books.

Karl Lagerfeld’s Paris library holds an estimated 60,000 volumes, many with an art or fashion focus. Contrary to books shelved vertically, books in his library are stacked horizontally in minimalist-inspired bookcases. For the topmost books, rather than wheeled ladders, there’s a catwalk. Getting to the bottom book in a stack must be a fun endeavor.

In contrast to the grandeur of the Biltmore library are the photos of Donald Judd’s library. A renowned minimalist artist, his library appears more like a warehouse with simple straight lines, no frills whatsoever. Very stark.

Diane von Furstenberg, the well-known designer of the wrap dress, has an art deco inspired library. The primary focus of her collection is fashion, no great surprise. Books are shelved from floor to ceiling; to reach the high shelves, there are four wheeled ladders available.

The Admont Abby Library in Austria holds 70,000 volumes. With painted ceilings and shelves painted white with gold trimmings, its photos make it look like it belongs in a grand palace.

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Nigella Lawson, a London television personality and food writer, owns another focused library. Her floor to ceiling library contains about 6,000 food-related books.

Jay Walker, the inventor of Priceline.com, has a 3,600 square foot library known as The History of Human Imagination. Along with 30,000 books, there are artifacts from history, and works of art. Multiple staircases of unique design allow access.

Back to reality. Those libraries are fantastic to be sure, but your own library is special as well. Why? Because it’s filled with books that you and your family enjoy. Perhaps your child’s favorite childhood book (a Golden book or Goodnight Moon for instance), a dog-eared book that’s been read so many times it’s coming apart, and a family Bible with your family tree started generations ago. It’s your personal library that you’re building.

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Our “Must-Sees” for the Newest Issue of

BY MEGHAN CORBETT

Last month, we unveiled our winter edition on Forsyth Woman Engaged!, and like we say every time we show off a new issue, this one is gorgeous and not to be missed! Whether you are planning a wedding or not, there is so much valuable information in this issue that can be useful for many types of events that may be in your future.

Below are some of our favorite features of the latest issue, and we hope you love every page as much as we do!

1. The 1, 2, 3, 4, FIVE stunning real wedding features! There is no shortage of photos…each feature showcases four pages of photos, as well as handy lists of vendors that will give you the information you need to compile your dream team for your perfect day!

2. Our “Five Things to Do After the Engagement” article which will give you a fool-proof list to keep you straight when your head is still up in the clouds after the proposal…we’ve all been there!

3. Bridezillas…know one? This article is a unique and hilarious read that will hopefully deter any future bridezillas from showing their true selves!

4. Remarkable talent at every page turn. Seriously, for a seemingly small town, WinstonSalem and the surrounding areas pack a major punch of talent when it comes to special events.

We, at Forsyth Woman Engaged!, are so honored to show off all these vendors can do and hope you will let them know where you found their information!

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5. New, fresh ideas! There is so much tradition with weddings, and that is wonderful, but there is always room for something new. When we say “new,” we don’t mean it has to be trendy and overdone…be creative, and make your day your own in a way that people will remember!

This issue is full of ideas like food trucks and create-yourown-bridesmaid-bouquet class… even an up and coming venue on wheels! It is a great resource for some fantastic and memorable ideas for your big day.

6. Our celebration section is such a fun part of the magazine because we get to introduce you to some of our favorite couples…recently engaged and/or recently married lovebirds fill these pages, and we hope you will consider submitting your own family members and friends when their time arrives! If you or someone you know is recently engaged or married, we would love to include them in the next issue! Email your photos to brooke@forsythmags.com.

Don’t forget to pick up your copy and copies for your family and friends – all distribution locations can be found at forsythwomanengaged.com. Just click on “Find A Copy” in the “About” drop-down menu.

Enjoy and happy planning!

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“It’s the only professional Christmas light display presented locally in the Greensboro area,” said Eddie McLaurin, owner of McLaurin Farms. “As a special treat, children can have their photo taken with Santa, and there’ll be hot chocolate and apple cider for mom and dad.”

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This year’s drive-through display will feature more than 800,000 lights, bringing to life reindeer, elves, Christmas trees, and characters from the Land of Misfit Toys. Seasonal music will accompany the light show which begins at 6pm and runs until 9pm each night.

“This year we also offer a hayride tour of the light show where folks can get a real close-up look at the display by riding down a lighted trail,” said McLaurin.

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Busy-ness vs. Productivity

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Being busy means doing stuff. Being productive means getting stuff done.

There’s busy. And then, there’s spinning your wheels. Being busy does not equate to being productive and learning the difference is a life skill that can carry one very far. And in our culture, a long to-do list is basically a badge of honor. But how do we go from being busy to being productive?

First, we have to identify the time wasters.

It’s no secret that social media channels, like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat all take a toll on the clock. A quick “check-in” can suck minutes and hours from the day. A 2017 study reported that the average American spends over two hours a day looking at social

media. Let that sink in. Two. Hours. Almost 10% of your day down the social media drain. If we factor in six hours of sleep per night, that’s 20% gone. And what do you have to show for it? Unless you’re a social media manager for your employer, probably not much.

Beyond social media, other time wasters include online shopping, gaming, and obsessive email checking. It’s not that these are bad things, but it’s easy to lose track of time while doing them. Then, there are things like sitting in unproductive meetings, being disorganized, and allowing constant interruptions to your day. All these things take a toll on time management, and thus negatively impact true productivity. Sure, you’ll be busy. But you won’t be getting much done.

Time suckers identified, it’s time to transition from busy to productive. Consider the following tips and tricks to move your time from managing you… to you, managing your time.

1. USE A PROJECT MANAGEMENT SOFTWARE.

Asana.com has a free program that is easy to use and tasks can be set to repeat on a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly or even periodic basis. Imagine making a to-do list once, and knowing that every time you click check – the item regenerates itself for the next time it needs to be addressed.

If you’re a chronic list maker, this is your new best friend.

2. LOOK AT EVERY PROJECT THROUGH THE LENS OF “WORK SMARTER, NOT HARDER.”

Rather than doing things “because this is how we’ve always done them,” consider steps that may offer the same result with fewer steps or resources. Quality isn’t compromised, but efficiency is improved.

3. FOCUS ON THE DETAILS, BUT DON’T GET BOGGED DOWN

BY THEM.

If minute details matter in the grand scheme of things, yes – they warrant your attention. However, choose your battles. Focusing on nitpicky details that are only relevant to you will waste precious time in your quest to be productive.

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4. PLAN AHEAD. Decide your route and don’t tackle projects by the seat of your pants. There’s a reason successful businesses operate with a business plan. It’s an outline of the process to get from startup to successful operation.

While not every task requires a multi-page game plan, any task is better managed when there’s an idea of how to get from A to Z.

5. DON’T BE AFRAID OF “NO,” AND USE “YES,” SPARINGLY. We live in a society where we feel guilty to say no, but the truth is – sometimes, no is the best answer. You can’t be all things to all people all the time.

6. BE STRATEGIC AND EMPLOY “WAIT AND SEE.” You don’t have to jump on every brand new greatest-thing-sincesliced-bread-idea. Remember the QR Code phase? Many businesses jumped on that technology-bandwagon and found it was short lived. Take your time to see if the next greatest thing really is the next greatest thing.

7. DELEGATE. This is a hard one, but looking at the expertise and resources that surround you can truly add to your productivity. If you have a spreadsheet you need to do, but pivot tables aren’t your thing, ask someone who can help you get started. What may take you three hours may only take someone else 30 minutes! Use your resources and ask for help!

But make sure you watch and learn so you know for the future!

When it comes to productivity, it’s not a matter of being a harder worker or a busier person. It’s a matter of organizing responsibilities efficiently. And besides – doesn’t it feel great to check things off the list?

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Just Doodle It

BY BRITTANY ORIE

Are you a doodler? What about your child or spouse?

Here’s what our most prominent doodles may reveal about our personalities and intentions.

WHY DO WE DOODLE?

Most of the time we’re just prompted by sheer boredom.

Our brains have a constant need to be stimulated, especially when we’re sitting still doing nothing. Our minds also lead us to productivity when there is too much stagnation around us. Sometimes doodling is the most convenient option when we’re bored at work, home, school, or if we have a big, scary project at hand.

But do we ever think about what our doodles really mean?

Flowers. When someone’s notepad is scribbled with abundant flowers, it means she is very sociable, family-oriented, and has a pleasant personality. Flowers likely mean that the doodler admires nature and sees the beauty of it.

They are generally happy people who want the best for everyone.

Arrows. One who draws arrows is ambitious and futureoriented. This person is determined to reach the goal to which the arrow is “pointing.” It is likely these goal driven people doodle arrows because their calling in life is always on their minds.

Clouds. If the clouds are white and fluffy, this person is likely a daydreamer who feels a sense of freedom, or longs for freedom. But if the clouds appear stormy, this person may have difficulty coping with a problem.

Geometric shapes. Means that one is very organized, practical, and seeks solutions to difficult situations.

One who doodles three-dimensional cubes is very efficient and seeks structure in their life. One who doodles triangles tends to be aggressive and willing to accomplish whatever goals you have in life.

Faces. This can signify multiple things. If the person doodles a good-looking, happy face, it means they naturally see the good in others. If it’s a strange, unattractive face, they probably don’t trust others enough. If the doodled face is comical, they are either humorous, entertaining, or desire to be the center of attention.

Stick figures. These doodles reflect someone who is in control of their emotions and has an ideal image of themselves in mind. It is believed that highly successful people draw stick figures because they have a vision of who they want to be and are focused on their life goals.

Hearts. The person who continuously doodles hearts has love on the brain! They are either in love with someone, longing to be in a relationship, or just a loving person in general.

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Zigzags. These sharp doodles reflect an energetic thinker who is very proactive. It could also mean that the doodler has aggressive, masculine characteristics (whereas soft, curvy doodles reveal a romantic, feminine approach to things).

Houses. Someone who doodles a house has a need for security. A neat drawing of a house suggests that the person feels happy and secure at their home. A messy drawing of a house possibly means the person has an unstable household.

Spider webs. This can symbolize someone who feels trapped in a situation. It can also mean that the doodler wants to entice someone into a sticky situation or relationship.

Names. If the person doodles her own name, she desires to be the center of attention. Doodling someone else’s name more than likely means she has someone special on her mind or it can mean that the doodler is bothered by someone else.

Stars. Stars indicate that the doodler is optimistic and looks forward to things. If she sketches clusters of stars, she’s likely to be a fierce romantic. Large, bold stars indicate that the doodler has a definite goal in life and is determined to accomplish that goal (maybe she doodles arrows, too!). If the doodler scribbles asymmetrical stars, she is likely to have an energetic personality.

Look at your Post It slips in your workspace. Do you see any random doodles whatsoever? What about your child’s notebook? What do those doodles reveal?

Boredom or something more meaningful? Maybe doodles aren’t so pointless. Maybe they reveal a little about what lies in our subconscious minds.

But just remember to drop that doodling pen and take advantage of life!

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A COLLEGE NURSE PRACTITIONER

BY MALLORY HARMON

Feet shuffled along a narrow line of stomped-smooth snow.

Gloved hands held handkerchiefs to noses or guided small children. The sun’s rays filtered through icicles which hung from lampposts and touched the faces in line, promising a day of relief from a bitterly cold night.

Standing by the window in her office at Covenant College in Georgia, College Nurse Practitioner Tina Holt recalled the years she cared for people who had no health insurance and little access to any type of health care. She remembered working at the Health Mobile and a time when she stuck her head out of the door of the tractor-trailer-sized health unit and called for the next patient. The line shifted forward slightly, and laughter could be heard from a family towards the start of the line. A father held a small girl in his arms, while a teenage boy told a story to the little girl, making her giggle through intervals of weak coughing.

Tina warmly greeted and ushered in a thin man with bags under his eyes, wrapped in an oversized winter coat. She knew this patient from his previous visits to the Health Mobile. His name was Mr. Labosky, and he had hyperthyroidism, a condition that she has been helping to subdue for some time. After checking Mr. Labosky’s progress and making sure there were no new symptoms, Tina bid him farewell. Next, she called in the family of four.

The family had been sharing a cough for some weeks now. The two-year-old little girl, Lana, seemed to be having a pretty hard go of it. After examining them for the possibility of pneumonia, Tina prescribed medicine to the three older family members, and Lana was placed on the examining table for her turn. After careful inspection, Tina discovered that Lana had undiagnosed asthma which had been exacerbated by the cough. Tina prescribed steroids and an emergency inhaler. She instructed the parents to keep Lana’s nose and mouth covered while outdoors. As Tina opened the van door and said goodbye to the family, the crisp sunlight split into the warm interior of the van, making her blink.

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Quickly, Tina was pulled back into reality at Covenant College. Snow was piling up on the windowsill outside, but there were no patients at her door, yet. It was early morning at the end of Christmas break. Students who had caught colds and the flu from younger siblings over the break would soon be fighting their way into her office to receive care. Much had changed from her time in the Mobile Health Unit, but some things would always stay the same – as long as she was a nurse practitioner that is.

Tina’s morning at Covenant College passed with a storm of email responses and Flu-Shot-Week promotions; she was also director of Health Services, a full-time job in and of itself. Her coworkers, three counselors, a nurse, a secretary and a few work-study students, filtered in and out during the day. Tina wrapped and supplied crutches for a twisted ankle, stemmed a bloody nose and prescribed antibiotics for a cold, all before her lunch break.

She remembered her two years in the Urgent Care at Hamilton Medical Center in Dalton, Georgia. It was there she learned to suture lacerations. However, this skill wasn’t in high demand in a college setting and, if a situation occurred, she would bandage the wound and refer the student to the emergency room. Tina missed the high intense pace of that type of health care, but was also grateful for the ability to re-enjoy college life surrounded by students, staff and faculty, who were in need of her presence at the school.

Tina Holt had gotten to know many of the students at Covenant College as well as the staff and faculty. She had been enveloped in a unique community unlike any she had experienced during her time in the Urgent Care and the mobile health unit. In some ways, life was less severe here. However, with her responsibilities as nurse practitioner and Health Services director, she would see a dozen students on a daily basis and was instrumental in keeping a community of more than 1,200 people healthy.

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8toWays ake Make Gooey Butter Cakes

BY MADISON SKAKLE

My most requested recipe throughout the entire year: Gooey Butter Cakes. There is something so addictive about these buttery, gooey treats. The good news? They are so simple to make and can be made in countless variations, depending on what mood you are in!

Gooey Butter Cakes originate from St. Louis and always consist of a buttery crust with a cream-cheese gooey layer on top. You will find lots of different recipes online but I think this one is the best:

BASIC GOOEY BUTTER CAKE RECIPE CRUST: • 1 box yellow cake mix • 1 stick butter, melted • 1 egg, room temperature

FILLING:

• 8oz block of cream cheese, softened • 3 eggs, room temperature • 1 tsp vanilla • 1 stick butter, melted • 16 oz powdered sugar

DIRECTIONS:

1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour a 9 by 13 inch pan. Set aside.

2. For the crust, combine all ingredients until mixed well. I usually do this step with a wooden spoon.

Press crust mixture into bottom of the greased pan.

Set aside.

3. For the filling, beat the cream cheese until soft and fluffy. Add in the 3 eggs and vanilla and beat well.

Slowly add in the powdered sugar and beat until creamy. Stir in the melted butter until just combined.

Spread filling on top of crust.

4. Bake for 45 minutes. It will still be slightly gooey but that’s what you want! Let it cool for 30 minutes before digging in.

Nutella Gooey Butter Cake: add one jar (yes, a whole jar) of Nutella to the filling and beat with the cream cheese. Also add another egg to make it a total of 4 eggs. The rest of the recipe stays the same.

Peanut Butter Chocolate Gooey Butter Cake: This is my personal favorite. Switch out a chocolate cake mix for the yellow cake mix. For the filling, add ½ cup of peanut butter and beat with the cream cheese. Additionally, add 1 egg to make it a total of 4 eggs. I usually have to bake for 50 minutes.

Pumpkin Gooey Butter Cake: Instead of a yellow cake mix, use a spice cake mix.

For the filling, add ½ cup of pumpkin puree and beat with the cream cheese mixture. When you add the powdered sugar, add ½ teaspoon cinnamon and ½ teaspoon pumpkin pie spice. The rest of the recipe stays the same.

Lemon Gooey Butter Cake: Add ½ cup fresh lemon juice and 1 tablespoon lemon zest to the filling mixture. Once gooey butter cake is baked and cooled, sprinkle powdered sugar on top of the bars. This will give them a traditional lemon bar look.

Chocolate Chip Gooey Butter Cake: Swap out a chocolate fudge cake mix for the yellow cake mix. Add mini chocolate chips in the last step of the filling mixture.

Bake as directed.

Sweet Potato Gooey Butter Cake: In the filling mixture, beat cream cheese with ¾ cup baked sweet potato. Beat until no more lumps of sweet potato exist in the mixture. When adding the powdered sugar, add ½ teaspoon cinnamon and ¼ teaspoon nutmeg. Bake as directed.

Double Chocolate Gooey Butter Cake: Use a devil’s food cake mix instead of yellow cake mix. For the filling, add in 1/3 cup cocoa powder when you beat in the powdered sugar. It’s optional to add mini chocolate chips, too, for extra chocolate power. Bake as directed!

There you have it – eight ways to make gooey butter cakes! I would recommend trying the basic version first and then you are ready to start experimenting.

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The arrival of December stirs an inner desire to follow a ritual of rites, symbolism, and activities. Many will confess that traditions such hanging exterior lights, decorating the tree, and writing Christmas cards begin on approximately the same day year after year. If you have ever wondered how our traditions arrived and continued throughout the centuries, each story is unique to our celebration and history.

THE WINTER SOLSTICE

The word “solstice” is derived from two ancient words combining the name of the sun god, “Sol,” and the word still, “stice.” When the sun stands still on the shortest day of the year, it’s known as the winter solstice. In the ancient days, the solstice celebrated both the end of the harvest, and the sun for winning over the darkness of winter. Yule logs were used, and feasts were planned. On December 25th, a holy day, the Romans celebrated the birth of the unconquered sun. By the fourth century, Christians accepted the day of December 25th as the birth of Christ.

LIGHTS

In the December darkness, outdoor Christmas lights arrived in 17th century Germany. From a distance, the glow of light was seen in tree branches. With the effort of binding small candles to sturdy branches with either pins or melted wax, onlookers could witness the first lighted Christmas tree. Candles also were brought indoors, placed on window sills to signify the household was Christian, and to welcome others who might be interested in worshiping together. In 1880, the first electric light was introduced. Ten years later, Thomas Edison altered his invention to reveal a string of Christmas lights, but it took decades for the lights to be affordable.

GIFT EXCHANGE

Many interpretations can be linked to the idea of gift giving on December 25th.

During the winter solstice, the celebration of feast and trading gifts such as candles, or fruits and nuts, was established to bring good fortune in the new year. The belief of a gift exchange was not fully adopted by Christians until the Victorian era.

SAINT NICHOLAS

Indeed, a Christian priest in the fourth century, named Saint Nicholas, was known to give generous gifts by night to the poor. Hoping to help three daughters of a poor Christian man, he left gold in wet stockings hung to dry by the fire in payment for their dowries. St. Nicholas became the patron saint of many diverse groups, namely the one of children, and has been a beloved title since the 1400s.

The representation of a large man in green or scarlet robes lined with fur was presented in 16th century England, and his name was converted to “Santa Claus” in the American press in 1773.

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AN ACCIDENTAL ADVERTISEMENT?

In 1955, Sears incorrectly ran an ad encouraging children to call the US Continental Air Defense to tell Santa Claus what they wanted for Christmas. Colonel Shoup ordered his staff to give the children updates on Santa’s flight. “NORAD Tracks Santa” continues via an iPhone app.

CHRISTMAS CARDS

Sir Henry wondered how the Post Office could benefit “ordinary people.” In considering creating Christmas cards, he asked his friend, John Horsley, to design pictures for a threepanel card. In 1843, 1000 cards were sold for a shilling. As printing methods improved, the popularity for sending cards also grew.

ROLLO THE RED NOSE REINDEER?

The story of Rudolph the red nosed reindeer could have been named Rollo or Reginald, and was created in 1939 to sell coloring books.

JINGLE BELLS, A THANKSGIVING SONG?

In the 1850s, James Lord Pierpont wrote a song for his Boston Sunday school class. It’s hard to imagine that the wonderful tune Jingle Bells was originally written for Thanksgiving.

HESITANT TO PUBLISH

In 1922, Clement Clarke Moore, a classics professor, wrote a Christmas themed poem to celebrate the honorary day. If it wasn’t for his personal chauffer, “’Twas the Night Before Christmas” would not have been included among our favorite forms of literature.

Beyond its success, it took 15 years before Moore admitted to writing it.

SPREADING CHRISTMAS CHEER

A powerful presentation was given to the people in the form of a story, A Christmas Carol. Not only does it include the importance of kindness and charity toward all humanity, but it also described the customs of gift giving, decorating, sending cards, and the Christmas feast in good company. This message continues to warm our hearts and further those ever important “classic” traditions.

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Is Love Blind Sometimes, or Are We Just Desperate?

BY OMAR & CHRISTIE Most adults try their best to make good decisions in life. We realize that life is a series of choices which eventually results in positive or negative consequences. As careful as we try to be, we sometimes make poor choices and suffer the negative consequences.

This is true when standing in front of the refrigerator at midnight trying to talk ourselves out of that pint of Ben and Jerry’s after a stressful day at work. It’s fairly easy to recognize that the better choice than chocolate ice cream at midnight would be a glass of milk or a few grapes. Recognizing the best choice in almost any kind of decision-making process, from deciding on a midnight snack to choosing whether or not to honk at the driver of the truck that cuts us off in traffic, is almost always more difficult under stressful situations. One of the most important, and sometimes stressful, choices women make is choosing who to date.

So, if this is such a crucial decision, then why does it appear that some women are blind or desperate when picking their Mr. Right?

or blind decisions about who to love, and as a result, have some unhappy trails to navigate. If we all recognized the “warning signs” that trouble looms ahead in a relationship, why would we continue down that bumpy road? The answer might be that love is blind (and or desperate). We just love everything about our new boyfriend. We love his sense of humor, his good looks, his taste in music, and the way he makes us feel like the only woman in the room. Our family and friends just hate our new boyfriend. They dislike his cockiness, his lack of filters, and the way he makes them feel like they are not even IN the room. Many times, our family and friends care so much about hurting our feelings that they never share their concerns until after the eventual breakup. “We never really liked him,” is the first phrase out of their mouths once we break the news to them that Mr. Right was really Mr. Wrong. Maybe Mr. Right looked so much better to us than to everyone else because we were lonely, stressed, emotionally vulnerable, or because he looked like Ryan Reynolds and the sex was so good that it trumped all of the red flags. Some women may recognize the red flags, but think that they can live with the warning signs or change the undesirable behaviors.

Not that everyone chooses poorly. Some women fall in “love at first sight” and this choice leads to a lifetime of happiness. But as statistics surrounding divorce would suggest (it seems to be a 50/50 proposition), some people may make rash, desperate,

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So, in this example, love is not only blind, it is also desperate. Desperation can stem from poor self-esteem or lack of confidence or hope that someone else is out there for us, that really is a Mr. Right, versus a Mr. Right Now. While family and friends are often on target with their opinions about boyfriends, they may not always be right.

And sometimes they may be biased by beliefs or values that we do not mutually share. They may not like our new boyfriend because of cultural, ethnic, or religious differences, or because he doesn’t fit into their social circle. Everyone has opinions. Sometimes they share them with us and sometimes they hold them in, but the ultimate choice on who to date is ours. Trusting in our ability to make clear and thoughtful dating decisions depends more on our own emotional health and past dating experiences, and less on someone else’s opinion of who we should date. Life is full of choices and we can choose to sleep with Mr. Right, Mr. Wrong, or the dog.

Merry Christmas! Here is to choosing wisely this Christmas on which boyfriend to unwrap for the holidays!

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From Book to Movie

Nancy Naigle’s Christmas Joy Novel

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Nancy Naigle, USA Today bestselling author, recently settled into her new home and is enjoying exploring the heritage and arts that abound in our area. She’s lived in this area for the past three years, but just recently found her spot to call home for herself and her four-legged family of animals (a pig, horse, and dogs). You may remember her recent book review (Until Until Tomorrow Tomorrow) in the A Novel Idea column. To recap, Nancy has several series in print – The Adams Grove series, The Granny Series (co-written with Kelsey Browning), The Boot Creek Novels, and several standalone novels. Her novel, Christmas Joy Joy, is being produced as a Hallmark movie for 2018. Plus, her novel, Hope at Christmas, is also going into production for another Hallmark Christmas movie next year.

Christmas Joy centers on Joy, a career-minded executive from a small town. “I always saw myself as a big-city girl similar to Joy,” Nancy explained. Joy is re-introduced to childhood memories, the value of keeping in touch with family, and the things that keep you grounded.

She learns that being busy can mean missing out on moments that are important to her, as well as enriching the lives of others.

Nancy is thrilled to have one of her books (and now the prospect of two) made into a Hallmark Christmas movie; however, she really does not know how they found her novels. “I was at a party and one of the guests mentioned that maybe one of my books might be made into a Hallmark movie,” she said. “Maybe that’s where the idea originated.

I never expected one of my books to turn into a movie. It’s all very exciting and opened up doors for more interest in my writing.”

Once the initial contact was made, her literary agent got a movie agent involved and now the movie is in the beginning stages of production.

The script based on her novel is being written at present. Once the cast, location, and dates are selected, Nancy will be on set for the filming. Hallmark has their filming process down to a science; typically a film is shot in a three-week period.

In addition to the movie options, Nancy is also writing a novelization of another Hallmark movie, Christmas in Evergreen. She received the script in November for the film that will air this December. The release date for the book version will be later in 2018. She’ll be creating the backstory and book based on the movie script for Hallmark Publishing.

She also has several other book ideas that she’s mulling over for them.

Her next Christmas themed book, Dear Santa, is planned for release in October 2018 via St. Martin’s Press. Nancy also shared that she is finishing up book seven in the Adams Grove series, titled Porch Swings and Promises.

Nancy’s books are available wherever books are sold (Amazon. com, Barnes & Noble, independent bookshops, etc.). Her books are also available in e-versions as well as audio. Nancy is available for speaking engagements, festivals, and book club events. If your plans take you to Asheville on April 13-14, 2018, stop by the Turning The Pages Booksigning held at the Hilton Biltmore Park Asheville and meet Nancy. Check her website (nancynaigle.com) for other events and book news. Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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AMBER PATEE ADAMS Amber Patee Adams is a producer, director and choreographer with a background in ballet and film.

A native of Winston-Salem, she holds a special place in her heart for what she refers to as the “arts city” of North Carolina. She founded two arts-based nonprofits – Cape Fear Dance Theatre and Dock Street Productions.

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Identifying a Control Freak (And How to Tell if You ARE the Control Freak)

BY DENISE HEIDEL

CONTROL FREAK: noun. A person who feels an obsessive need to exercise control over themselves and others and take command of any situation.

Sound familiar? Maybe a little too familiar? Raise your hand if you think this might be you. Control freaks are those who, by nature, do not easily delegate tasks. The need to manage situations, even people, is almost, if not outright, compulsive in nature. It’s something people joke about it, but it is a very real thing and one that isn’t easy to conquer.

Because the root of being a control freak is anxiety.

It’s a fear of something going wrong that will have catastrophic consequences. The anxiety manifests itself through criticism, micromanagement, judgment, and a certainty that there’s only one right way to do something.

Some of the characteristics of control freaks include: 1. An attempt to change other people in an effort to “help” them or direct them in ways that will make them each a “better person.”

2. Unreasonably high expectations of others.

3. Passive-aggressive behaviors that are designed to “punish” offenders until they surrender to the control freak’s way.

4. An obsessive need to present oneself in a specific way to make others think higher of them; an inability to demonstrate any flaws or weaknesses.

5. Information is as necessary as air. A control freak cannot handle being left in the dark on any detail.

6. Perfectionism in any and all things, without any gray area or room for error.

7. A compulsion to have things done in a very specific way or pattern.

8. An assumption that no one can accomplish a task without the control freak’s intervention or input.

9. A refusal to delegate, or if they do delegate control freaks will usually step back in and end up doing the task themselves.

If you were nodding along, thinking, “Yes, that’s me,” take heart. There are some suggestions coming your way. If you were picturing someone in particular… well, you could leave this article out for them to find, but chances are good it would go over their head. Many control freaks don’t realize they are one.

But if this describes you and you want to do something about it, consider these steps: 1. Awareness is the first step in overcoming any problem. Recognizing, and moreover, owning, some of these issues will be the first step.

2. Make notes when you catch yourself being a control freak. What emotions are you feeling?

Are you particularly stressed? Ask a friend for brutal honesty and feedback (but be prepared for the critique!).

3. Instead of focusing on what may (or has) gone wrong, take a deep breath and identify what went right. Focusing on the positive will help soften the critiques of the negatives. But avoid saying “but.” Simply acknowledge the positive and try to leave it at that. Unless the task at hand is life-threatening, ask yourself if the negatives are really worth the fight.

4. Breathe. Again, unless you’re dealing with a life-threatening situation, ask yourself this question before you respond or react: “Will the world collapse if this is isn’t done this exact way?” Very few of us could answer yes to that question.

The tendency to be a control freak is one that has deep, strong roots. It’s not an easy battle to overcome, but we all have a choice in how we respond to others and circumstances. Let your next deep breath be the first of many as you relinquish control and trust that the world will keep on spinning.

CONFESSIONS OF A SELF-PROFESSED CONTROL FREAK:

I, Denise Heidel, am a control freak. I wrote this article knowing the reality of this struggle… these characteristics are very real. My family and friends know it as my “shove over and let me drive” mentality. It’s extremely difficult for me to relinquish control. My need for perfection is both unrealistic and unattainable; it’s a daily fight to remember that truth. For those of you who identify as a control freak, I feel your pain.

And know how very hard this is to overcome. But it is possible. I haven’t perfected it, but I’m getting better.

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Do you remember when…? This question can be followed by many answers. For example, one could say do you remember when a loaf of bread cost a dime? Or do you remember when Duran Duran was the most popular band of the decade? Let’s take a look back at the last thirty years of the 20th century.

1970’s

Historians have often referred to the 1970s as being a “pivot of change.” Social movements from the 1960s carried into the next decade. For the first five years, the United States was still fighting in Vietnam until the fall of Saigon and the unconditional surrender of South Vietnam on April 30th, 1975.

In 1974, President Nixon resigned as president. His resignation came while he was facing impeachment for the Watergate scandal.

Clothing was influenced by the popular styles of celebrities, musicians, and hippies.

Flower prints, bell-bottomed pants, leisure suits, and turtle necked shirts took over. Also, platform shoes were the chosen shoes by people of all ages and could be worn with any type of outfit.

The Beatles disbanded in 1970 and Elvis Presley passed away in 1977. However, funk, experimental classical (think Pink Floyd) and hip-hop music become popular. Research shows that Led Zeppelin was the most successful musical group of the decade.

Star Wars, Jaws, Saturday Night Fever, and The Godfather captivated movie-goers in theatres nationwide. On television, more urban and edgy sitcoms replaced the rural wholesome stories of the 1960s and more females become main characters as seen in The Mary Tyler Moore Show and Wonder Woman.

Also, minorities took on a bigger role in shows including Soul Train, Sanford and Son, and Good Times.

1980’s

Advances in technology, laissez-faire capitalism, the Reagan Boom, and the final years of the Cold War are just a few ways to describe the 1980s. This decade created more jobs and economic expansion than any other decade before it. In the last half of the ‘80s, the Internet and the concept of the World Wide Web was born.

Nintendos, Walkmans, and VHS tapes were commonplace in almost every American home. The Berlin Wall fell and the Reagan Administration lead a war on drugs.

Like the decades before, the fashion of the 1980s varied. At the beginning, styles of the 1970s were still seen, but by the end, heavy metal outfits were popular.

Clothing and looks included teased hair, ripped jeans, neon clothing, headbands, jumpsuits, leg warmers, and shoulder pads. Thanks to the film, Top Gun, Ray-Ban Aviator sunglasses and aviator jackets were widely worn.

In 1981, the novel idea of a non-stop music channel was launched on television.

Named MTV, this station has made a huge impact on pop culture and the music industry. Historians refer to television of the ‘80s as being transformational with the beginning of prime-time soap operas, children’s cartoons, and an expansion of T.V. talk shows. People were glued to their televisions each week to find out what was happening to the Ewings on Dallas or the Carringtons on Dynasty.

Popular movies included the famous Brat Pack films, such as The Breakfast Club and Pretty in Pink. Other box-office successes were the Back to the Future films, E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial, and Footloose. One thing people will always remember about the 1980s is its music. This was the decade when Michael Jackson, Madonna, Prince, and Duran Duran hit the airwaves. Songs were created out of the genres of hard rock, rap, heavy metal, and hip-hop.

1990’s

The last decade of the 20th century is known for the rise of multiculturalism, the creation of the euro, and the grunge scene. There was Operation Desert Storm, the death of Diana, Princess of Wales, and the dissolving of the Soviet Union.

In 1994, the North American Free Trade Agreement (NAFTA) was enacted, the Columbine massacre occurred in 1999, and the well-known words “you’ve got mail” were heard among thousands of AOL email users.

In the ‘90s, people wore stylish and comfortable clothing. The unkempt grunge look was mainstream by 1992 and casual chic was also common. T-shirts, jeans, hoodies, and recycled styles from past decades were popular. Every woman wanted the famous “The Rachel” hairstyle from Friends, while guys wanted the curtained haircut.

As for the decade’s music, it was a wide range of R&B, teen pop, grunge, punk rock, and electronic dance music. People loved Nirvana, Green Day, and boy bands, such as NSYNC. On the small screen, The Cosby Show, and Beverly Hills, 90210 memorized the nation. And let’s not forget the white bronco chase that led to the trial of the century, the O.J. Simpson murder case. On the big screen, Titanic, Forrest Gump, and Disney films become cultural phenomena.

The 1990s ended the 20th century on a high note and set the path for the beginning of the 21st century and beyond. Every now and then, it is always nice to take a walk down memory lane.

After all, sometimes, remembering the past can be a blast.

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Christmas Trees

Memories of Yesteryear Christmas trees – every one is special. Whether it’s a skinny tree that looks like a twig, a Charlie Brown type of tree that has sprigs of greenery hanging on for dear life, a Griswold version of a mammoth tree that sure didn’t look that big in the field, a tabletop tree-like presentation, or an outright ‘no greenery here,’ all synthetic fiber optic tree suggestion, each Christmas tree has its own charm. And, no matter what type it is, it’s your Christmas tree!

When did people get the idea to bring a tree into their home to decorate for Christmas? Probably much further back in history than you might expect. Germany is credited with having Christmas trees in homes in the 16th century.

Fast forward to the mid-1800s. Queen Victoria’s husband, Prince Albert, decorated their Christmas tree with candles, fruit, gingerbread, and all sorts of sweets. By the 1850s, decorations had gotten much more ornate and miniature musical ornaments and furniture were included, along with jewelry, dolls, and other toys. In the late 1800s, retailers sold Christmas ornaments, although most folks continued to use homemade decorations.

European trees were generally small (around four feet), while in the United States, bigger was better, and having to trim the tree just to get it into the house was common.

In the 1920s to 1940s, getting a Christmas tree usually meant going out and cutting down a tree to haul home a few days before Christmas. Most people didn’t water the cut trees so they didn’t last very long.

To keep the tree upright, many times the tree was nailed to a cross board and that was simply nailed to the floor. No worries about trees falling over!

Decorations were pretty sparse – popcorn strung together with needle and thread served as garland. Pinecones used as ornaments or paper, homemade ornaments were common. A linked length of colored paper loops might serve as another style of garland.

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BY VONDA HENDERSON

Remember those big bulb Christmas lights in all sorts of colors? If one went out, they all did. Compared to the dainty white twinkle lights so popular lately, they are huge. Did you have bubble lights on your tree? Those gained popularity when they were introduced in 1946 and were a little finicky. They had to be kept vertical to work correctly.

By the 1950s, Christmas trees looked very different. In 1953, Lionel introduced the idea of the train set running around the family Christmas tree and it took off. Nothing said homey like a little choo-choo train traveling around the family tree. As for the tree, well, green might be nice, but a few cans of fake snow added so much to the wintry wonderland look of snow-covered tree branches. It was either flocking or icicles. Remember icicles? They couldn’t just be thrown on the tree. No, they had to be placed in small groups all over for a balanced look after everything else had been put on – lights, garland, and decorations.

All that, peeking through shimmery gauze, was quite pretty.

On the other spectrum, did your family have an artificial tree? Many did and still do today. Real trees are messy and since they stay up for longer periods of time, require regular watering to keep them fresh. Enter the alternative – the silver tinsel tree introduced in 1955. That silver tree that looked so futuristic (think George Jetson’s family tree) with its very own color wheel that changed the tree from red, to blue, green, and yellow as it slowly turned to its own humming noise. And now, we’ve evolved to fiber optic trees of every size, from desktop, tabletop, to floor models.

At least their changing colors are built into the trees now and not an added component.

Whatever kind of tree you and your family select, enjoy decorating it in your own unique way. Perhaps you like the nostalgic type of tree with all kinds of ornaments, a themed tree for your favorite sports or a color specific tree to blend with your décor.

No matter what, just enjoy the time together getting it ready to celebrate once again with those you hold dear to your heart. Merry Christmas to all!

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cup and wait for the conversations.

Souvenir mugs are popular, too. It is a nice way to brag about your travels or your adventures. (You’ve been to see HAMILTON! How did you get tickets?)

Now that we are fully into the cold weather/hot beverage season, I have made a discovery. Truly, it is a psychological insight to human behavior and emotion.

It may be the key to unlocking that annoying personality trait you cannot understand or put your finger on in friends and family.

Are you ready for this significant insight? A person’s coffee/ tea mug is a key to their personality and outlook. Bam! There it is! And now that we are squarely in gift-giving season, one can observe even more of this phenomenon. It is no secret that the popularity of coffee shops and tearooms has been on the rise. Everyone from high school students to senior citizens frequent these cafes and gathering spaces.

But what is their vessel of choice for their elixir?

We’ve all seen people with just a plain Styrofoam cup. That says the drinker is not fancy and doesn’t care to pay $5.00 for a cup of coffee. Usually these are the hardcore black coffee purists – just give them the hot dark liquid and keep the refills coming. They are not trying to be cute or hip. They just need their java.

There are some conservation-minded folks who will show up at the coffee shop with their own earthenware mug. This lets folks know they are practical, and a conscientious citizen of the planet. There are those who go to pricey coffee shops (ahem…Starbucks) just to leave carrying the iconic cup. This says I am with it and cool.

Some of us put a great deal of thought into our mugs. We choose teams, slogans, or symbols that represent what we value. Often these folks will enter into a conversation with a total stranger based on the sentiment written on their mugs. In this case it is a sure way to combat loneliness at a coffee shop. Sip from a thoughtprovoking

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Then there are the expensive stainless steel mugs which say, “My owner is cool.” You know the ones…..the indestructible, insulated ones. It makes you think that the folks who use these must have sleek, modern kitchens and use Alexa to make coffee in the mornings. Their owners often enjoy their cup of joe after running or working out and almost always enter the coffee shop in their workout clothes just to prove it! AND, it says that the owner needs to have an insulated cup because he is too busy to get refills.

Boomers, on the other hand, usually have time to nurse a cup of coffee and get a warm up when it is needed.

Whether we are retired or not, we have earned the right to be a little more mellow with our coffee time. A favorite coffee fashion of my generation is a mug with an adorable grandchild on it, or one that simply states “Nana.”

Goodness, we flaunt that type of mug!

What can you do with this brilliant insight I’ve shared with you? Use this information for gift-giving season. A gift of a coffee mug is always welcome, even if the person has a dozen at home. It is nice to have a new one and especially one with a personal message (#1 Teacher, etc.). Fill the mug with candy, coffee pods, pencils, or even socks (your person can be warm from head to toe!!!). Enjoy giving your friends new coffee cups with the sentiment that YOU choose. Such a fun way to get a point across!

Enjoy your holidays and drink plenty of coffee!

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CHRISTINA SORIANO: DANCE & DEMENTIA

BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION

Most of us need less medication and more movement in our lives.

Christina Soriano, Director of Dance and Associate Professor of Dance at Wake Forest University, regularly teaches modern dance, improvisation and dance composition to undergraduates. She has also been involved in three scientific studies that look at the ways improvisational dance can help the mobility and balance of people living with neurodegenerative diseases and uses that knowledge to teach movement classes to older adults living with Parkinson’s and mild cognitive impairment.

The results from this work prompted Blue Cross Blue Shield of NC, the National Parkinson’s Foundation, the Winston-Salem Arts Council and, most recently, the National Institutes of Health, to support the expansion of research conducted by her and Dr. Christina Hugenschmidt of the Wake Forest School of Medicine in 2017, so that more Forsyth County residents could benefit from the program, and the results could be empirically documented and replicated in other communities.

Christina’s mentor, Dr. Glenna Batson, is a renowned dance researcher, somatic expert and a gifted physical therapist. When they worked together in 2010, Glenna was faculty in the Physical Therapy Department at Winston-Salem State University (WSSU).

Christina’s work with dance and neurodegenerative populations began with her invitation to join Glenna’s WSSU-funded study as the interventionist in a small pilot study looking at the benefits of dance in the Parkinson’s community.

“I learned so much from that first study and have been so fortunate to continue pushing the research further,” said Christina. “Glenna’s initial support and her tireless efforts in this space have changed my trajectory as an artist, researcher, teacher, and mother. I’m so grateful to work with neuroscientist Dr. Christina Hugenschmidt and the Sticht Center for Healthy Aging and Alzheimer’s Prevention now. In our work together, we agree it is critical to have Wake Forest students involved because they are hungry for the ways their science education and dancer-identities can join. Plus, my students are going to be future leaders that will help make policy decisions about available resources for aging populations. As an artist and researcher, I want to contribute to society’s healthy aging as we live

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As an artist, I want to help be part of the solution to create more opportunities for creative aging.”

Christina Soriano and Christina Hugenschmidt are also both very involved in the annual symposium: Wake Forest’s Aging ReImagined, which brings together the work of artists, community members, and scientists around the topic of Healthy Aging. Next year’s symposium will be on May 3 and 4, 2018.

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ESCAPE THE MUSEUM: CENTRAL AFRICA 10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. This student-curated interactive exhibit explores the traditional arts of Central African peoples while also serving as the setting for a series of puzzles similar to an “escape room” game. Visitors to the exhibit can use cryptic clues and notes found in the text to solve the puzzles in a specific sequence, ultimately revealing the solution to a mystery. The museum is open Tues.-Sat. (10am-4:30pm). (Please note that the museum will be closed July 31st to September 4th for renovations).

VIENNA: A CITY OF CULTURE & CONTRAST 10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. Vienna, Austria is a renowned icon of world culture, the birthplace of classical music and a sophisticated example of a planned urban environment. This exhibit, based on WFU student research conducted in the city, explores the social geography of Vienna and the inherent tensions between the urban elite, the city government’s historic program of social housing and the diverse cultures of its residents.

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CAROLING FRIDAYS 2:45-3:15pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Join friends old and new in the Reception Hall of Reynolda to sing along with Christmas carols played on the Aeolian organ, led by museum staff and special guests. Free with museum admission. www.reynoldahouse.org/holidays

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TWEETSIE CHRISTMAS Tweetsie Railroad, 300 Tweetsie Railroad Lane in Blowing Rock. Celebrate all of the joys of the holiday season when the park transforms into a winter wonderland for Tweetsie Christmas. Enjoy a train ride through an enchanted land of twinkling lights, visit with Santa, see Christmas shows, pick out a Christmas tree and more. Limited number of tickets are available.

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WINTER EXHIBITIONS Elberson Fine Arts Center, Salem College, 601 Church Street in W-S. Art exhibits by Paul Travis Phillips, Scott R. Sanders and Marta Blades.

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HOLIDAY PLANT SALE 10am-5pm, Reynolda Garden, 100 Reynolda Village in W-S. A variety of holiday plants, including cyclamen, poinsettias, bulbs and Christmas cacti will be available for sale in the Reynolda Gardens greenhouse. http://reynoldagardens.org/events/ holiday-plant-sale/

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Come hear the Körner’s spin on the classic 1820s poem by Clement Clarke Moore; fun for children of all ages and the young at heart! The Puppet Show is followed by a visit from Santa. Parents, bring your camera for this great photo opportunity! Tickets are $5/person, limited in quantity and frequently sell out. Visit www.kornersfolly.org to purchase tickets.

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CHRISTMAS AROUND THE WORLD CONCERT 2:30-2:45pm, Walkertown Branch Library, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown. Join Patience Reich and friends on a musical journey around the world. Explore Christmas customs and the stories behind songs we sing. This year, we’ll be exploring Austria, Brazil, Lebanon, Japan, Serbia, Italy, South Africa, the United States and many more. This event is free and open to all. www.forsyth.cc/library/ Walkertown/default.aspx

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BRUNCH WITH SANTA AT BB&T BALLPARK 10:30am-2pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Families are invited to come to BB&T Ballpark and enjoy a festive brunch in the Flow Club. Seating times are available.

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DEAR SANTA 5:30-7:30pm, Providence Restaurant, 5790 University Parkway in W-S. Join us to celebrate Christmas with a breakfast buffet at dinner and pictures with Santa! We are also partnering with Kaleideum, so each child’s ticket comes with a free pass to Kaleideum.

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TOURS: A 1917 CHRISTMAS 2-3:30pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. A century after the first Reynolda Christmas, we invite you to see Reynolda like no other time of year – decorated according to Katharine Reynolds’s instructions and brought alive through festive stories told by a costumed butler, nurse, party-goer and a school teacher.

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DECEMBER 9

A KERNERSVILLE YULETIDE 10-10:15am, Kernersville Moravian Church, Körner’s Folly and Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden, 504 South Main Street in Kernersville. Are you looking for a new, festive holiday tradition? As you stroll down South Main Street, stop at the Kernersville Moravian Church to listen to music of the season, shop for Christmas gifts and visit the traditional Moravian tavern.

SANTA IS COMING TO MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE 10am-12pm, Mainstream Boutique of W-S, 110 Oakwood Drive. Bring your camera, kids and friends to Mainstream Boutique to spend time with the best Santa in town!

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GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT CHRISTMAS PARTY 5-9pm, The Historic Brookstown Inn, 200 Brookstown Avenue in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy a local jazz trio, hors d’oeuvres and a cash bar.

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Tickets are $20/person in advance; $25/person at the door. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Earn and extra prize ticket for every $5 donated to The Salvation Army.

DECEMBER 14-15

PHIL VASSAR & KELLIE PICKLER “A CHRISTMAS TOUR” The Robert L. & Elizabeth S. Cole Auditorium & Community Center, 1042 West Hamlet Avenue in Hamlet. Two country music icons will perform.

DeWitt Season ticket holders use their tickets for entry, but single show tickets are available for $45-$50 each. Call 910.410.1691 for ticket details, or visit the box office at the venue. http://richmondcc.edu/about-us/cole-auditorium

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DECEMBER 15-16

KÖRNER’S FOLLY CHRISTMAS BY CANDLELIGHT 5-9pm, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. To experience Körner’s Folly decorated from floor to ceiling in holiday lights, garland and décor is a real treat, and in the evening, it becomes even more magical!

This special holiday event feature self-guided tours of the house beautifully decorated in the evening hours. Cost: $8-$12/person.

Tickets are nonrefundable and the ticket dates are nontransferable.

DECEMBER 15-17

HOLIDAY LEGGING GIVEAWAY Mainstream Boutique of W-S, 110 Oakwood Drive. Join us for our annual holiday legging giveaway! Spend $25 or more and receive a pair of our specialty leggings for yourself or to give to a friend. This is always a popular event, so don’t miss out. While supplies last. You can also mark off those last few gifts!

DECEMBER 17

PLAY: A CHRISTMAS MEMORY 4-5pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. For the 31st consecutive year, actress Robin Voiers stars in a one-woman adaptation of “A Christmas Memory.”

Advance reservations are recommended at reynoldahouse.org/holidays.

Cost: $15-$20/person.

DECEMBER 19 & 21

SALEM BAND CONCERT: “LESSONS & CAROLS” 7:30-9pm, New Philadelphia Moravian Church, 4440 Country Club Road in W-S. Join Salem Band and guest narrator Reverend Lisa R. Schwartz for the story of Christmas with a mix of sacred and secular music of the season in a lovely new venue decorated for Christmas! Enjoy pre-concert music by Salem Saxophone Quartet. Participate in your community with holiday sing-alongs and donations to our annual charity partner, Sunnyside Ministry. Plenty of free and close parking available. www.salemband.org

DECEMBER 23-24

KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY ANNUAL HOLIDAY CHAMPAGNE BREAKFAST 9am-12pm, Kim Taylor & Company, 153 South Stratford Road in W-S. Join us bright and early for delicious champagne mimosas and poinsettias!

We will also have yummy breakfast goodies and great giveaways! www.kimtaylorandco.com

FAIRY HAIR Mainstream Boutique of W-S, 110 Oakwood Drive.

Want a little sparkle in your hair? Fairy Hair will be available to get you in the holiday spirit. Best to make an appointment, but walk-ins may be taken.

Call 448.1485 to schedule. All ages are welcome.

WAKE UP MR. SCROOGE 6:30-8pm, Pinedale Christian Church, 3395 Peters Creek Parkway in W-S. Annual community performance featuring music, dance and drama by students of The Enrichment Center. This year’s show is a holiday story with heart and hope – Wake Up Mr. Scrooge! Admission is free; donations will be accepted. A light reception will follow the performance. www.enrichmentarc.org

NEW YEAR’S EVE 2018 CELEBRATION Village Inn Hotel & Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. Get your New Year’s Eve 2018 bubbly on at the Village Inn Event Center!

Enjoy 15,000 square feet of party space, two bands, three DJs, hors d’oeuvres from 8:30-10pm, party favors and noise makers, countdown and champagne toast at midnight. Doors open at 8pm; full cash bars! Cost: $35-$159.99. www.TheVillageInn.com December 2017 | 143

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1502 Fabrics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51

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Accent Prone. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 Aeracura Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Alexander Motors. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 All Things Basementy!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133 American Custom Leather. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 American Heart Association . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 American Moving & Hauling . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Amy Lynne Originals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95

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Bark of the Town . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 Bloomday Granite & Marble . . . . . . . . . . . . 147 Brick Masonry. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Brookstown Inn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Budget Blinds. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Busy as a Bee Concierge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Butler Lighting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71

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Carolina Characters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Carolyn’s Baby Cakes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Castle Lights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Chermak & Hanson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Chest Caddy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Christina’s Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Chrystal Yates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83,141 Clemmons Bicycle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Crystal Cleaners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140

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Dahlia’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Dalton’s Crossing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 Davie Flooring. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 Davie Tavern . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Dawson Tree Service . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Dental Center of the Carolinas . . . . . . . . . . . 81 Diet Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 Dream Dinners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Dr. Williams Dinner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 148

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Emerson Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135

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FA Madden Painting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Family Services. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 Farrago . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 Fitness Edge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Five Points. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Fleet Feet. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Flow Motors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Forsyth Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Forsyth Woman Resort Trip. . . . . . . . . . . . . 145 Fraleigh’s Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115

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George K. Walker Florist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Get Vocal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 Gifts & Paper on Plaza . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Goin’ Postal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Goldman Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 grassroots . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Grit Performance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123

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Hakka Chow . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 Harry Kahuna’s Tiki Grill. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 Hauser Rental . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 Hillcrest Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Hip Chics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Honda of Winston-Salem . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Hospice & Palliative Care Center. . . . . . . . . 117

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iHeart Radio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 137 Inner Strength Pilates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107

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Jeffrey Adams on Fourth . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 Jenn Church . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 June DeLugas Interiors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37

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Kortney Beam Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140 Kyle Duncan Photography. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115

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Lael Building Group . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 Lamberti’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Little Theatre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

ReDesigns by Ava . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Restoration Med Spa . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 Rodan & Fields . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140

M Mac & Nelli’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 142 Mainstream Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 Mary’s Professional Cleaning . . . . . . . . . . . 101 Massage Envy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 McLaurin Farms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Mellie & Emilia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 Midtown Cafe & Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . 33,81 Mountain Valley Hospice. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123

N Natural Green . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 Nitsa’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 Novant Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 Nu Expression . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Nutcracker. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2

O Our Wig Boutique. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140

P Paparazzi. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Patricia Justice Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Penny Lane Boutique. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Photo Artistry by Melinda. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 Piedmont Advantage Credit Union . . . . . . . 93 Piedmont Craftsmen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Piedmont Federal Savings Bank. . . . . . . . . . . 7 Precision Decorating . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Prints Charming Photo Booth. . . . . . . . . . . 117 Professional Women of Winston-Salem . . . 85 Providence Restauant . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87

S Salem Detailing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Salem Gym & Swim . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Salem Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 Salem Smiles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Sharon Reid. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Simply Sterling & Co. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Singing Bird Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 Smokin’ Harley Davidson. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Southern Signature Properties. . . . . . . . . . . 99 Starboard Accounting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Still Life Market . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 Stitches . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Style Encore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Summer Family Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101 Summit Eye Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

T Tre Nonne . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Triad Eye Docs. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 Triad Mac. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 Triple J Manor House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115

U United Way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23

V Village Inn. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Vow to be Different . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140

W Wayne Collins Electric . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 WFBH Imaging . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 WFBH Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 Windsor Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Wolf & Sons Window Washing . . . . . . . . . . 141 WomanCare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17

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BY MARK MATHOSIAN

CATCHING APPLE FEVER

A SERIOUS CASE OF IPHONE X SHAKES! Have you ever wanted a product so much you camped out all night in front of a store? I never did. Well, not until recently. I must admit, I got caught up in the Apple iPhone X frenzy. I was ready for an upgrade and decided it had to be an iPhone X (pronounced ten). This is the ten-year anniversary edition of the iconic iPhone from 2007. I never owned the first edition so I was determined to own this one.

After all, Apple’s Tim Cook calls it “the future of the smartphone.”

Daniel Morack & José Diaz were first & second in line for a new iPhone X.

Daniel Morack’s home for two nights in front of the Greensboro Apple store.

The line in front of the Greensboro Apple store eventually wrapped around the block.

The author holding an Apple iPhone X on its first official day of release.

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Preorders opened at 3:01 AM ET on October 27, 2017. Retail sales began November 3rd, first come, first served. The catch for preorders was that quantities were limited. At 3:01 AM you were competing with millions of other anxious buyers worldwide. I set my alarm for 2:30 AM and by 2:45 AM I was at the computer ready to log on to Apple’s website. Unfortunately, I didn’t get through until 4 AM. My order processed and I received a message saying an iPhone X would be delivered December 11-18. For me that was unacceptable so I devised a plan. I would be one of the first in line at the Greensboro Apple store on November 3rd.

I arrived at 2:45 AM and the line wasn’t too big, I headed to the end.

There I met five young men. They were Vietnamese and said they flew in from Vietnam to buy an iPhone.

When I showed astonishment, they laughed and said they were kidding. I asked how many people were in front of us and was told “You are number 50.” I thought to myself, “No way am I going to get a phone.” I headed to the front of the line to check it out.

By the front door was a tent. Inside was Daniel Morack, a 24-year-old Apple fan from Charlotte who thought his chance to get a phone was better here. “I knew they would let you line up earlier here than in the malls in Charlotte,” he said. While living in his tent Daniel survived on “non-perishable foods including chewy bars, fruit and cereal.” Daniel had been there since Wednesday afternoon and by the end of this morning he would have spent a total of 38 hours at the Apple store. He was actually the first person in North Carolina to get in line.

Next to Daniel’s tent was a bundled-up man sitting in a folding chair and a young girl wrapped in a colorful blanket.

The man was José Diaz, a Realtor from Aguascalientes, Mexico, in town visiting family.

The young lady was his elevenyear-old niece Evelin. Evelin was the youngest person in line that morning, a fact she happily reported to me. “How long have you been here?” I asked José. “Since four o’clock yesterday,” he said proudly.

I sat next to José and we chatted. José said he had two chairs in front of the store.

He intended to sell one spot to someone further back in the line. He asked how much I thought he could sell the spot for. “Let’s think about this,” I replied. Preordered iPhones were selling on eBay for about $1400 or more. I suggested selling the number 3 spot for $400. The logic being, a person fortunate enough to get inside could buy two phones. The seat would cost $200 per phone, a reasonable expense for someone yearning to buy one.

While talking, José said he was craving for a cup of coffee. I had a thermos of coffee in my car and offered to get it. When I returned José quickly downed a cup and I poured him another.

When he was done he looked at me and said, “I am giving the seat to you. You can get your phone today.” Needless to say, I was surprised and grateful. I also felt guilty, but not enough to go back to my spot in the line. At about 6:30 AM Apple employees gave us drinks and snacks, and by 8:00 AM we were inside. I bought one phone figuring someone in line could buy the other. Sales were orderly and by 9:30 AM, I was on my way home, iPhone X in hand. Daniel and José also bought phones and were happy campers. When I got home I took a long nap and later set up my phone. I am happy to report I love the iPhone X.

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Dr. Williams Dinner

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