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The View From This Side JEJ PHOTOS

AUGUST 2020

The news is out: I’m retiring! Well…sort of. Actually, “stepping back” is probably a better way to put it, and my beautiful, intelligent, talented and accomplished daughter, Brooke Eagle, is “stepping forward” to take on my role. You can read about the plans for our transition on pages 48-51. Brooke is more than capable of leading the magazine into the future, and I’m excited to remain a part of Forsyth Woman, but hand over the reins to her for the front and center position!

It’s going to be an amazing transition for both of us!

I feel very blessed to be able to keep this business in our family. Those closest to me know that I won’t be far, and will still be involved with my accounts and a few things Brooke and I will be figuring out as we go. I will also be available to Brooke and Robin as needed, as well, and of course I will attend Girls’ Night Out events, team parties, celebrations, etc. As I’ve told the Forsyth Magazines team – they can’t get rid of me that easily! We announced this news to them in early July, and they have overwhelmed me with their love and support. I am so thankful for their hard work and loyalty to Forsyth Magazines!

To say that Forsyth Woman is, and has been, my baby is an understatement (not to take away from my REAL babies – Brooke and Tanner). Countless hours have been invested in these magazines and the years have certainly flown by. It’s crazy to think that we started as a 24-page, partially black & white publication on news print paper, and have evolved

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into a 148-page, full color, gloss publication. It has been quite the ride.

Add onto that, being able to work along-side Robin, my ‘sister’ and friend of nearly 25 years, to create our sister publication Forsyth Family has also been an enormous blessing!

I want to give a huge shout out to our friend and this month’s cover photographer, Jon Eric Johnson of JEJ Photos. While Brooke is a natural in front of a camera, I have never been.

I get impatient and adopt that “Are we there yet?” mentality of a kid on a long car ride! But Jon Eric always makes things so easy and (dare I say it?) FUN! He’s a perfectionist and went above and beyond to make our shoot perfect. After all, we’ve been waiting for this cover for a long while. (We also seized the opportunity to get some updated family portraits while we were all together– Tim and Tanner were great sports, and even the puppies had a great time).

As we go through this transformation and adapt to some new norms, I’m thankful for the continued support of our advertising partners and readers! Next month, I turn this column over to Brooke, just in time for the official start of our 16th year and 192nd issue! I know that you’re in great hands, and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for Forsyth Woman.

My sincere love & gratitude to each of you!

Keela

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GREATER!

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Are you brazen enough to believe God is speaking to YOU right now through my feeble words? He’s talking to YOU, Bold One! God believes “Your future days will be greater than your former days!”

I’m not kidding!

Go with me. At one point in history, in which most of God’s People refused to risk their newfound comfort in enemy territory, a brave remnant risked everything to return to the ruins of Jerusalem. They determined to rebuild God’s House, not only in their hearts, but also literally, upon the rubble where it had stood prior to their exile. They prioritized the return to His Presence above all.

They knew the journey, the process, would be difficult and dangerous.

Yet they completely underestimated the opposition awaiting them.

When the resistance cranked up several notches, what did they do?

They did what we often do.

They quit.

Discouragement and fear are two of our greatest obstacles when it comes to completing what we start, aren’t they? Even if we know in our knower that God called us to an assignment, they’ll shut us down before we even realize we’ve gone AWOL. Discouragement eats away at our motivation; fear paralyzes us, so we either don’t act at all OR continuously react to lesser things.

God was eager to do a new work in His people. New levels of blessing and favor awaited them. He sent His prophet, Haggai, to awaken the Remnant from their spiritual slumber. The Word of the Lord jolted them to action and “…sparked enthusiasm in their hearts.” (Haggai 1:14) They got up and got to it! They feared nothing more than missing God. (LORD, let me fear nothing more than missing YOU!) God reassured them, “I am with you!” (Haggai 1:13) But as they began giving it all they had, they found their resources and abilities fell short.

They could in no way rebuild the grandeur of their former days.

Here’s the thing: God saw His People prioritize what mattered to God’s heart, and He shows us so clearly how He in turn prioritized what mattered to their hearts.

Right in their inadequacy, the LORD came to them with a Word.

(When you’ve got a Word from the Lord, IT’S ALL YOU NEED!) He acknowledged that what they could do in the flesh surely seemed inadequate. Then He promised, “If you’ll let ME breathe MY fresh breath upon you, your future glory will be greater than your former. And in this place (in YOU!), I will bring Peace!” (Haggai 2:9) Friends, these are contentious, even confusing times. Discouragement and fear take root in us before we realize it. But God is calling His Brave Ones to the front lines. Many folks, too preoccupied with lesser things, will refuse the call. Many will hide in a semblance of comfort and miss the assignment. But for those craving a move of God MOST, He beckons us to rebuild something for His Glory among the ruins of our time.

It’s terrifying. We don’t have what it takes. The opposition is brazen and loud. But if we consume ourselves with the One who is the “Repairer of Cities” and the “Restorer of Communities” (Isaiah 58:12), our Great God will do such a work in us that our coming glory will be immensely greater than our former days. He will make us a place of His Peace, His Shalom, amid the mayhem.

Are you in? Can you hear the Word of the LORD beckoning you from the discouragement and fear that seeks to destroy you? Get up! It’s time!

He’s calling, and we’re moving!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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OFFICE-BASED LASER CATARACT SURGERY

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

As the summer sunshine brings fruit to our gardens, we at Summit Eye Care are excited to share the fruits of our labor as well. Dr. Khemsara has been working diligently with his team behind the scenes to bring an improved patient experience to the communities we serve.

Wondering what all of that construction has been in the Winston-Salem office?

Soon we will be one of the few practices in North Carolina to offer office-based laser cataract surgery! Our patients will have the opportunity to enhance their vision in a calm, relaxing environment with familiar faces at their side. The new surgical suite will be outfitted with state-of-the-art equipment. Using the

LenSx, Dr. Khemsara will customize your procedure to your eye’s unique characteristics, resulting in more predictable outcomes. Argos, Alcon’s new biometer, supplies end-to-end connectivity that will help deliver better outcomes for cataract patients through a more efficient workflow and improved accuracy. With the ORA (Optiwave Refractive Analysis) technology, Dr. Khemsara has the ability to measure, refine, and verify outcomes during the actual surgical procedure, allowing him to take cataract surgery to an entirely new level. The word is out, and our surgery spots are filling quickly! Call today to schedule your consultation.

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As if that wasn’t exciting enough, we are delighted to share that Summit Eye Care of Mocksville will soon have a beautiful new spacious facility! The office will be centrally located in town and provide room for growth for us to better serve the community. While the building will be different, the exceptional patient experience provided by Dr. Laymon and his staff will be familiar. They are thrilled for the move in early 2021.

With so many things in question these days, our commitment to our patients has not changed. We are here for you. We are taking extra precautions in light of COVID-19 in both of our locations and in the planning of care in our surgical suite, which include: requiring masks, increased handwashing, and screening of symptoms for both staff and patients. We continue to work hard to make sure we bring you the most innovative and personalized care available.

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5 Ways to Make the Most of Your Empty Notebooks

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Every time I clean out my desk and drawers, I am surprised by the number of unused or half-used notebooks I have collected throughout the years and have placed in a forgotten spot. These notebooks come in different shapes, colors, and designs, but all have empty pages waiting to be filled. When this happens, my mind starts to run wild with ideas on what to do with them. Now, I know I’m not the only person with this problem. It can be hard to resist a beautiful notebook while shopping, even if you don’t need it. If you are looking for ways to fill your empty notebook pages, below are several ideas.

Empty notebooks can be turned into many things and can become filled with thoughts and individual expressions. Take a look!

1. Create Your Own Planner: An empty notebook can easily be turned into a planner. All you need to do is create your own layout by adding rows, columns, blocks, to-do lists, or whatever suits your fancy. One of the main benefits of creating your own planner from scratch is the ability to design and personalize a schedule and layout that works best for you and your needs. Think about how you like to organize your lists, schedule, etc. then transfer it to the notebook.

Also, your planner doesn’t have to be a standard planner. It can be turned into a guide for planning on a trip or a big event, such as a party or wedding.

2. Make Lists: Say goodbye to the dozen post-it notes lying around with your to-do lists on them. Identify a single notebook as the spot for all of your lists, whether it be to-do lists, needed items from the grocery stores, or things to do around the house. You can also put a creative spin on list-making. Create lists of movies to watch, books to read, places to visit. In a way, the list notebook can serve as a bucket list of things you would like to do. Lastly, use the notebook to make lists of things you want to remember when times are tough. For example, it is always helpful to reflect on things that make you happy, things you are grateful for, people you admire, self-care ideas, inspirational quotes, and favorite memories. Trust me, the list of things you could make a list for goes on and on. All it takes is a little creativity and thinking outside of the box.

3. Creative Expression: Sometimes, an unused notebook can be the best thing for your creativity. Creative expression can include doodles, writings, and songs.

It can also be used as a place to practice a new skill, such as lettering. Think of the notebook as a blank canvas. Who knows what might come out of this creative space?

4. Memory/Record Keeper: Transform the barren pages into a scrapbook of memories. A few ideas of the many things to include in your notebook: • Family history and beloved stories • Family recipes • Travel memories and mementos, such as tickets, brochures, and photos.

• Photographs • School memories 5. Vision Board: A vision board can be defined as a collage of images, pictures, and quotes representing your dreams and goals. Also known as a dream board, it can serve as a motivation or inspiration for a person. Some items to include are pictures from magazines, inspirational quotes, descriptions of your goals and dreams, and progress towards a goal. Personalize your notebook vision board just for you and use it as a safe place to plan your future.

Sometimes there is nothing better than turning a notebook into a timeless diary.

However, empty notebooks can be a great source of inspiration and creativity.

You can even turn one notebook into several different notebooks by using dividers and creating sections. Remember the main requirement though - just let your mind run wild with the endless options.

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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a college student, freelance writer, and foodie. From running around as a child with the native tribes of Panama to down-home cooking in Tuscany, Italy, my recipes will give you a taste of the world. My favorite part is seeing the smile that homecooked meals put on peoples’ faces as they enjoy the farm-fresh flavors from the very first bite. With extra inspiration by local farmers markets across the USA from Seattle, Washington to the Carolinas, the possibilities are endless. Stick around to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

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Prep Time Cook Time Total Time Servings 5 minutes

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10 cremini mushrooms, about 2 1/2 cups when quartered

1. Bring a large pot of salted water to boil.

Add in the pasta and cook according to package directions until al dente.

2 large yellow squashes, about 2 cups when sliced 4 tbsp. extra virgin olive oil 2 tsp. dried Italian herbs 16 oz paccheri pasta, or rigatoni pasta 1 cup fresh basil, lightly chopped 1 tsp. sea salt 1 tsp. black pepper

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2. In the meantime, heat up two tablespoons of the extra virgin olive oil in a large fry pan over medium heat. Add in the sliced squash and quartered mushrooms to sauté for 8-12 minutes.

Season with the Italian dried herbs, sea salt, and black pepper halfway through cooking.

3. Once the pasta is cooked and drained, add it to a large serving bowl. Drizzle the remaining two tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, then toss together.

4. Add in the sautéed vegetables and freshly chopped basil to lightly toss together one more time. Serve warm.

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T U O B A S R FRIEND

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BY JEN

At last count, anxiety was shown to affect more than 40 million adults in the US – or 18.1% of the population – and let us be honest, probably more now. Even though it’s relatively common and treatable, it can be difficult to discuss.

A few years ago, I reached out to one of my best friends to talk about my anxiety. I still remember how terrified I was – and worse? My friend was pretty blasé about what I felt was a major thing: I had been ghosting so much of our friendship because of my anxiety; I wanted to let her know why. And I remember telling her and feeling like it was this major admission, and all she said was “ok” and then moved on to talking about her latest crisis.

I tell this story not to scare you, but more to prepare you. There are a few things to think about if you’re getting ready to talk to a friend about your anxiety – or theirs:

IF IT’S YOU:

A FEW ADDS IF IT’S YOUR FRIEND:

Think about why and who

Make time

Decide whom you’re going to talk to and why you want to tell them.

If you think about your why – and the relationship you have with the person you’re talking to! – you’ll have a better plan going in. Because this is probably an emotional situation you’re getting into, you want to be as prepared as possible.

I wish I had thought about why I “needed” to tell my friend. I thought I had to because I was flaking on plans. If I had told her because I wanted her to know, then perhaps it would have gone differently. Also, had I considered to whom I was talking, I would have realized that she wasn’t the most empathetic friend I had.

Make time

Yes! This can be a spontaneous moment where everything spills out.

Anything can be! But sometimes it’s easier to at least prep your brain (and maybe your conversation partner!) for what you’re going to talk about. Think about when you want to talk to your friend, and make sure it’s at a time when you’re ready to talk and they are ready to listen. A loud bar? Probably not the best time for something important.

You don’t have to tell it all

That day when I talked to my friend, I did not tell her everything I was dealing with. It was scary enough to tell her that I was being treated for anxiety! I didn’t realize it at the time, but keeping some of it to myself was probably one of the most helpful things I did. It allowed me to realize I had a lot to accept myself before I shared with others – I was still ashamed of having anxiety, and that shame wasn’t helping anyone.

You decide your narrative – no one else. Just you.

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This one is still very valid! If you want to help a friend that is struggling with anxiety, set a specific time to talk to her. It might be a dinner or a call – be sure you’re thinking about her and not just wedging it into a busy moment.

Be open and validate her

This isn’t the time to tell her to “just relax” or “get over it.” Anxiety is real, and the best thing you can do is validate what your friend is feeling.

Diminishing her emotions helps no one. Focus on affirming how she feels, even if you don’t fully understand her. Say you are there for her, even if it’s as a listener, and mean it.

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This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

These are abridged versions of these incredible women; please find them and ask them more!

MIRANDA JONES

JENNIFER BIBB

My fiery unapologetic passion makes me, me. I admit that I am not the most learned and scholarly amongst my peers, whether it’s as an educator or a community organizer. I used to feel such shame about that, but then I realized that I am compelled to do what I do from a high calling. I realized that I don’t need the alphabet soup behind my name to do the work, and I’ll go with or without the crowd. I also realized that I couldn’t silent about the things that bother me even if it costs me.

There’s an abiding sense of right and wrong in the world, and I feel that I have an obligation to do something. I couldn’t keep quiet if I tried. Like the prophet Jeremiah said, “It’s like fire shut up in my bones.” I like to tell people, I’m still the fat kid sitting in the window of the Kimberly Park Boston projects asking God how to change the world and weeping at the same time. I grew into a black woman who wants to change the world.

I wouldn’t be me without my husband Tim and my 3 children Timothy, London and Judah. I also couldn’t be me if I wasn’t fighting injustice or serving in some way in the community.

I am truly passionate about social injustice and doing community ministry. One of the purest ministries I’m involved in right now is Streetlight in which we serve women exotic dancers around the city. COVID has put this ministry on hold but for over five years I have served in with Streetlight and met and created relationships with many women.

What makes you YOU?

What are you most proud of?

I am most proud of teaching liberation pedagogy to black and brown children. I am proud of not only being able to teach them in word, but also in deed by way of my community work that they hear about and sometimes inquire about. When they come back and “Sister, I am an activist” or they ask, “What can I do about [insert some injustice]?” that makes my heart swell. That is the apex of what I do and why I do the things I do. I hope many of them can say they were/are proud to have me as their teacher. Ultimately I am proud of the children I’ve been able to set on a journey to change the world.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

My radical faith in God and my grandmother’s words. In 2017, when she was declining due to dementia, I went to visit her. She was eating and I was telling her about some recent travail I was dealing with, hoping it would somehow get through to her on a spiritual level. She stopped eating her steak fries, looked at me and said, “You gotta big mouth but God’s got a plan” and then slouched back into her chair. That and remembering her deep love for me reminds me that I can conquer mountains.

What keeps you up at night?

How to propel my activist work for social change stays with me. How to change policy and laws. How to empower other sisters. Naysayers...if I’m being honest. My children...my beautiful black students. God talking... when he speaks, I listen. Well, sometimes.

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What makes you YOU?

What are you most proud of?

I’m most proud of the life I’ve created over the last two years since graduating college and beginning my career.

After graduating college and being a SAHM for over fifteen years, I entered the work force. I currently work in the mental health field, and I also have a wellness program in which I coach men and women and help them with inner healing. My husband and I are also Symbsis trained marriage counselors. We assist couples with premarital counseling and assist couples that are already married. We hosted our first ever marriage conference this year and it was awesome!

What keeps you going when things are tough?

My faith keeps me going! I know it sounds cliché but for me it’s not. I’ve had to truly reframe my faith in a way that helped me escape religious dogma and find an authentic relationship with Christ. My husband and I pastored a church in town for six years, and we merged our congregation with another church in town January 2019. I learned so much about my faith during those six years.

What keeps you up at night?

In my most transparent truth, currently it’s racism and how I make sure I’m doing my part in fighting the battle to end it.

I honestly haven’t slept well since viewing a small clip of the video of George Floyd’s murder. This current racial uproar has me deep in thought most days and I am truly passionate about ending racism in the church by teaching people the history of the American churches’ complicity with it.

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Ways to Support Black Women-Owned Businesses

BY TARYN JEREZ

According to the Census Bureau, the U.S. is home to roughly 2.5 million black-owned businesses. Its most recent survey shows that Black women are majority owners in over 1.5 million of these businesses, with more than $42 billion in sales. Yet, we can clearly see across industries how clearly underrepresented Black women-owned businesses are, and how much additional work they often have to go through to reach their current status. That list includes difficulty getting initial funding opportunities, limited affordable resources to grow their business in general, as well as unfair bias and discrimination.

#1 DO YOUR RESEARCH & BE INFORMED

During June, searches for “How to find blackowned businesses in your area” saw a 300% spike in the United States, according to Google Trends data.

Sure, we could say that this is just a trend right now due to the current social climate, but what if consumers made this a regular practice when using their buying power or making recommendations? A simple way to show support that can help support both small, local, and Black businesses is just starting by doing your research. Wanting to order a cake for your husband’s birthday?

Have you checked to see if there’s a Blackowned bakery in your community you could support with your order?

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#2 MAKE A PURCHASE OR BOOK A SERVICE

While we know the power of the dollar, we don’t always think about the long term effects it may have. Sometimes we get stuck in a cycle of purchasing from brands we already know and love, or the ones we continue to see on an ever circulating loop, rather than giving someone else a chance at that revenue. Challenge yourself to be more conscious about where your money is going and therefore supporting.

If you find yourself in the market for a brand photographer or a new graphic designer, give yourself that push to look at talented Black-owned brands you haven’t worked with yet. Your purchasing has power behind it, and the dollars you spend keep businesses afloat whether we realize it or not.

During a time where racial injustice and an evident lack of diversity and inclusion, along with many other issues, are being brought to light in the United States and around the world, many are trying to find even small ways to show their support and make a difference. As brick-andmortar stores are coming back from closures and even online retailers struggle with limited resources, consumers have a lot of power in making choices that can make a world of difference with their dollar!

Here are a few ways we can help support these amazing women, their families, and their businesses right now.

#3 FOLLOW, SHARE & PROMOTE ON SOCIAL MEDIA

You constantly hear people talk about being more intentional and purposeful on social media – well, now is your chance. When is the last time you took inventory of the faces you were scrolling past during your morning Instagram scroll? Do you notice a strong representation of businesses who don’t look like you? Is diversity easy to see with each passing feed? Social media can sometimes seem like such a trivial thing, but when it comes down to it, it’s a huge aspect of marketing today. Make an effort to support blackowned brands that you love by following their accounts, sharing them with your own audience, and helping promote their work and their worth intentionally.

#4 LEAVE REVIEWS

#5 SHARE THE STAGE & PASS THE MIC

We all know how important reviews are when deciding what to buy or who to purchase from! After you are a patron with a Black women-owned business, take the time to share your experience on Facebook, Google, Yelp, Etsy, or any other format. Many people’s “go-to” response for not being a consumer at more Black brands and establishments is they simply don’t know they are there or wasn’t sure what the experience would be. Reviews are powerful and give future customers and clients a clear idea of what to expect. Even if it’s been forever since you worked with a business, it’s never too late to leave a positive review! It will mean so much.

Yes, it’s important to show support in concrete ways, but think about a spotlight that is on you alone – you can do so much more by sharing it with someone. It’s not always about the purchase or financial support or knowing exactly what to do or say.

It’s about understanding the privilege that some of us have and the power in passing the mic to those whose voices aren’t heard nearly enough.

How can you show support by sharing a platform or giving it up completely at times for these businesses. How can you help another onto the platform to begin with? Think of ways you can highlight others’ voices, and you’ll realize how much stronger your own can feel as it quiets.

Head to ForsythMags.com for a list of over 50+ Black womenowned businesses across the country you can check out and support right now!

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PATRICIA NORRIS Local heroes are hard to find, especially a heroine that you do not call Mom. But Winston-Salem has benefitted from a local heroine named Patricia Norris. “Hero” is not a title that Chief Norris would claim for herself, but it fits her well. She recently retired as Chief of Police at Winston-Salem State University after almost 11 years, and before that, served as the Chief of Police for the City of Winston-Salem, the first African American to hold that honor. After 42 years of service in her hometown, her accolades are numerous, but her love of community is even more impressive.

Her strong, steady voice continued to practice community policing with an emphasis on “meeting people where they are.” This approach decreased crime rates in pockets of the city where increasing crime called attention to the need to listen to people and their reasons for problem behavior. This approach gave them a voice, and police listened. As a young girl growing up in Winston-Salem, Norris listened to her grandparents when they gave her “The Talk.”

“The Talk” for Norris, one of the first to integrate into the once all-white Wiley Middle School from Paisley, the “Black” middle school, urged her to work harder and be better than the white students, not just because she wanted to do well academically, but because she had to prove that a black student could perform as well as her white peers.

“Once the white students talked to us, they figured out that we were just like them,’ Norris recalled from that time. “The Talk” was probably quite different for the white students.

Changing schools did not present an obstacle for her.

After graduating from RJR High School, she enrolled at WinstonSalem State University.

She completed two years of college and then decided to become a police officer instead of a nurse.

At that time, all rookies had to complete public safety training, which consisted of police and fire training. The fire department, many of whom were males, doubted the ability of a female to complete the training.

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Norris, and four other women in her rookie class, graduated despite the physical hardships. Her ability to build relationships, starting in rookie training, helped her in every role in the police department, and served the students at WSSU well when they needed a hug from “Mom” and words of encouragement (with some grandmotherly advice mixed in). During her four years as the Winston-Salem Chief of Police, she mentored several female officers and made it a point to listen. She learned the first and last name and personal details of every one of the 600+ employees under her watch.

Her voice as Chief of Police called for transparent, compassionate, and community-centered service.

Our community is currently navigating through the changes that must occur for every citizen to thrive in what can grow into a more equitable and inclusive place to live. Listening to the steady voice of Chief Norris can go a long way towards helping us understand each other and find that equal playing field. Her grandmotherly advice for our community would be to, “Listen and meet people where they are. To do that, we should recognize that we are all human and make mistakes and that we all come to the table with different resources.” As a community, she urges us to action by seeking ways to build each other up and solve the disparity in resources. She recognizes the need for better public transportation as one way to help narrow the resource gap, and she urges the public to seek education on how the justice system works.

One of the most significant problems in the criminal justice system, in Norris’ opinion, is the disparity in outcomes when someone charged with a crime lacks the resources to secure an attorney on their own and lacks knowledge of the criminal justice system. These outcomes can be just as impactful as the lack of funds for medical care or proper nutrition. Her voice and message are clear. “Listen and care about your community.” Listening to her voice has changed our community!

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Get Cozy!

When you think of comfort and beauty, what do you envision? From the front door to your kitchen cabinets, think about what works for you. For me, walking into a room means finding an inviting place to sit. If there is no place to sit comfortably, I am not going to stay there very long, no matter how pretty the room is. People will use the room if it is inviting. Rooms that are lived in become more beautiful, and people feel like they are welcome.

Clients often do not realize how important upholstery is to a room. The style and scale of upholstery pieces can anchor the room and define the comfort of the space.

We typically start with a conversational group around the fireplace. Even in a very large room, we can create a sense of intimacy. In a living or family room, we select variations of color and texture to create a sense of agreement among all the different elements. We might choose the same fabric for the chairs and a different fabric for the sofa. The boldness of accent pillows, artwork, and accessories are important to perceive comfort visually.

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To decide what each room needs, we help clients think about how they are going to live in their house, so that we can utilize each space efficiently. We go beyond decorating; we want a client’s home to express who they are and how they live. This means choosing furnishings and fabrics that are not only beautiful, but are tailor-made to fit our client’s lifestyle. Many factors can influence our design choices, such as having small children, frequently entertaining guests, having pets, or working from home.

While an architect is needed to deal with structural issues, an interior design firm is needed to focus on the individual rooms. If we get the details right, the client will feel happier and more comfortable in their home. It is our job to make you feel like you never want to leave.

We want to make decisions on your home that relate specifically to you, and then you will feel completely at home in it.

When it feels like home and you have created cozy, you have it right.

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Serenity Nails

Helps You Relax & Get Pampered

BY JULIE FRITZ

There are a lot of ways you can pamper yourself, and you need to take the time to do it. One of the best ways to do that is to get your nails done. But you don’t want to go just anywhere; you need to go to a place where the environment is as relaxing as the treatment you are having. That is exactly what you will find at a new Winston-Salem nail salon called Serenity Nails.

After moving to the US from Vietnam, owner Kelly Ninh has made a career out of being a nail technician. She started working in a nail salon in 2002 and immediately began to learn as much as she could. By 2005 she had become a licensed nail technician. She has been in the business ever since. She said she tried to do other things a few times, but always came back to what she now knows is what she was meant to do. “I feel happy when I do nails, making them look pretty and helping my customers feel nice. That is why I know I was meant to do this,” she says.

Ninh is happy to bring this beautiful, relaxing new nail salon to Winston-Salem. With over 15 years in the business, she has a clear vision of what a nail salon should be. “I want people to feel comfortable here,” she says. “It isn’t too crazy or too fancy; it is relaxing, quiet, and peaceful.” And that is exactly how you will feel. This salon is beautifully decorated with a clean, crisp feel and a spa-like atmosphere. From the moment you walk into Serenity Nails, you will instantly feel at ease.

Serenity Nails offers a variety of nail care services for you to enjoy. They have manicures and pedicures, and you can choose between polish, shellac, and SNS. Polish is a good

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choice when you need a quick nail clean-up and a change of color, and shellac is a gel nail that will last at least two weeks.

SNS is a high-quality powder with vitamins and nutrients that is good for your nails and beautiful. It is especially helpful for people who bite their nails or have weak nails. SNS will protect nails and help them grow.

If you are looking for a pedicure, there are several options to choose from. While they offer a regular pedicure, you can upgrade your service three additional levels to a spa pedicure, deluxe pedicure, or signature pedicure. The 60-minute signature pedicure includes a nail cleanse, callus remover, sugar foot scrub, vitamin E mask, steamed towels, hot stone, lotion massage, and nail polish to finish. This is the ultimate experience when it comes to pedicures.

Serenity Nails also offers additional services like waxing, ombre nails, and kids’ manicures and pedicures. No matter what you come to Serenity Nails for, you will leave feeling more relaxed and more beautiful than when you walked in the door.

If you are ready to enjoy a relaxing and professional quality nail or waxing service, get over to Serenity Nails today. The salon is located at 682 St. George Square Court in Winston-Salem.

They are open Monday through Friday from 9:30 am to 7:30 pm, Saturday from 9:00 am to 7:00 pm and are closed on Sunday.

For more information or to make an appointment call the salon at 336-602-2626. You can find them online at serenitynailswinstonsalem.com or follow them on Facebook @ serenitynails2020.

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When Second Hand and Sustainable Virtually Collide: 5 Local Facebook Groups to Help Reduce Waste

BY TARYN JEREZ In more recent years, it’s become much more simple to find ways to help Mother Earth by creating more ecofriendly practices and intentional, sustainable living choices.

For some, while they know the benefits and their hearts may be in the right place, the added steps and lack of specific knowledge on how to get started can often be what holds them back. Just like any new goal or routine you’re trying to establish, one of the best ways to get started is to jump in and find a support system!

Whether you are just beginning to explore a sustainable lifestyle or challenging yourself to grow in your existing efforts, taking things virtually may be a big help!

Throughout the Piedmont Triad area, you can find several online Facebook groups created for exactly this purpose!

Each one offers a little something different but shares the same devotion to making an impact on our planet and its future through shared interests such as recycling, upcycling, second-hand finds, sustainability, and waste-free living.

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR Are you looking for other beginners to help keep you accountable in your kickoff to living more intentionally and sustainable? Some Facebook groups may be perfect for just that and even have a weekly thread filled with resources and tips you’d find valuable. Maybe you are making a distinct effort to throw away fewer items and share them with those who could give them a second life? You’ll find lots of focus on freely giving items to other community members, with some groups having multiple posts per day giving away things to avoid them winding up in landfills.

FIND THE RIGHT GROUP FOR YOU Explore some of the below Facebook groups throughout the Triad to see which ones spark your sustainable interest!

Don’t be afraid to join several at once to see which fit your needs best and have the kinds of things you’re really looking for. Remember, if you can’t quite find what you’re looking for, maybe inspiration will lead you to start your own!

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SECOND-HAND/SUSTAINABLE FACEBOOK GROUPS WASTE FREE WINSTON 1,389 MEMBERS (PUBLIC GROUP)

“This is a group for Winston-Salem citizens who are on a journey to live a more zero waste lifestyle.

A zero waste lifestyle aims to empower individuals to help the environment every day…Together we empower and encourage each other to make manageable changes each week to live more sustainably. We aim to tackle the climate crisis through positivity, empowerment, community, and daily actions making hardly any trash!”

BUY NOTHING WINSTON-SALEM 3,291 MEMBERS (PRIVATE GROUP)

“This is a place to post anything you’d like to give away, lend to, or share with neighbors as well as items you’re in search of.

This is not a space for buying or selling, but a place to give goods and services freely. Save money, reduce waste, + get to know your community.”

TOWARDS ZERO WASTE GREENSBORO, NC 51 MEMBERS (PRIVATE GROUP)

“This group is for those living in and around Greensboro, NC, interested in moving Toward a Zero Waste Lifestyle. It is a place to share ideas, local shopping tips, and zero waste issues, and begin to build a Zero Waste mindset and culture in Greensboro.

Keep in mind we are all on our own journey and in different places along the way!”

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“The purpose of this group is to post anything that you no longer need for free. It can be clothes, shoes, furniture, household items, toys, etc. Please post pictures of what you have so that other members can see. If they like it and want it, y’all can make arrangements to meet.”

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Winston-Salem Vein Specialists Explain Why You’ll Be Glad You Sought Vein Disease Treatment

BY NOVANT HEALTH VEIN SPECIALISTS

People who have had their vein disease treated by vein specialists often express how glad they are for having done so.

Their reasons for feeling this happy about their decision are instructive, and worth sharing with our readers.

Why will you be glad about vein disease treatment in Winston-Salem?

Naturally, many patients who have sought treatment from a spider and varicose vein doctor in Winston-Salem feel glad about their decision for cosmetic reasons. They no longer feel the need to hide their swollen veins beneath long pants. They no longer avoid going to the beach. They speak of feeling “free,” and “back to normal.”

Interestingly, that phrase “back to normal” also applies to many of the other symptoms of vein disease that they now feel “free” from. The underlying disease that caused their varicose veins also robbed them of energy and their ability to fully enjoy their lives. Their poor circulation manifested as swollen legs and ankles, often accompanied with chronic pain, all of which left them without the energy to do much of anything but sit on the sofa and say, “I can’t do that…my legs hurt!”

Once the vein disease is eliminated, so are these feelings. Patients speak of feeling “years younger,” because they have the energy and stamina of a younger person.

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Another reason to feel glad – you’ll feel better about yourself After treatment, when your discolored veins and lack of energy are gone on a physical level, you may find yourself feeling better on a psychological level as well. Varicose veins can take a toll on your feelings of self-confidence and well-being. Many people who “live with” them end up shunning friends and relatives and becoming reclusive, avoiding parties and gatherings at which they’d be expected to wear nice dresses or bathing suits that would reveal legs they’re ashamed of. One the best things about getting treatment is that these feelings of shame go away. As a result, your self-esteem returns, which not only makes you happy…it makes your friends happy, because they get to see you again.

If you think about it, the very act of overcoming your procrastination and getting treatment for a debilitating disease is an achievement. The alternative is “giving in to it,” and accepting that you’ll always have to live with it. So just scheduling an appointment for treatment can be a liberating experience.

Liberate yourself from your vein disease… call Novant Health Vein Specialists today Give Winston-Salem’s varicose and spider vein experts a call at 336-276-0776 or go online at salemveins.com to set up an appointment for a consultation with our area’s leading vein doctors. Allow them to explain to you the treatment options they offer, and how fast, painless, and easy they are. You’ll be so glad you did.

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The Psychology of Shopping Part 2

BY ADELE CASANOVA

Have you ever gone shopping to make yourself feel better? Well, you are not alone. Recent studies have shown that more than half of Americans admit to engaging in “Retail Therapy.” First, let’s define exactly what retail therapy means and then look at why so many of us engage in it.

Wikipedia defines retail therapy as “shopping with the primary purpose of improving the buyer’s mood or disposition.” Here are some of the motivations behind that goal.

EXPECTATION Ever notice that when you are shopping for something, you find yourself imagining how the prospective product will affect your life? How new clothes will make you look and feel, or how new electronic gadgets will help you be more tech-savvy and informed? We often shop to accommodate changes in our lives, such as a new job, a big move, or a new relationship.

We can be experiencing both excitement and anticipation, as well as anxiety. Shopping for items to facilitate these changes helps us usher in positive outcomes and ease anxiety.

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CONTROL

SHEER ENJOYMENT

Sometimes we shop when we feel that we are not fully in control of our lives. The freedom and powerful feeling of making purchases gives us that sense of control that we crave.

We can define ourselves and our environment by willfully purchasing items that we feel truly represent us. The actual act of shopping, choosing, purchasing, and taking ownership of these new items gives a sense of satisfaction.

We are making a statement of control over our lives.

Finally, there is the simple aspect of enjoying purchasing new items we know we will love having and using. We can appreciate the quality, design, and durability of items we add to our lives.

The long-term fulfillment of owning something that brings us pleasure is the most enduring aspect of retail therapy.

RECREATION Do you ever go shopping for relief of drudgery or boredom? A complete change in scenery by physically going to a mall or taking a moment to scroll through items online, shopping can be a powerful release not just from boredom, but for some, a respite from family or job pressures. The mind can go on vacation for a brief time, and the excitement of expectation or the sense of control can occupy our thought processes and bring needed emotional and mental distraction.

COMMUNITY And let’s not forget the social aspect of shopping. Just being out in public among other people shopping and enjoying themselves can give us a sense of belonging, an important aspect of our humanity. The social aspect of shopping can reduce anxiety and increase self-esteem. Sharing a shopping experience with someone whose company we enjoy strengthens common ground as we visualize our expectations together.

All of these motivations leading us to engage in retail therapy sound positive, and they are to an extent. But as with everything in life, a certain amount of moderation is wise. Chronic retail therapy begins to look and feel like an addiction. Credit card bills beyond our budget, a sense of guilt after shopping and constantly buying and returning items are all signs of excess. Instead of giving us escape, release, and control, too much retail therapy can lead to increased anxiety and debt. If you experience a strong sense of euphoria followed by a deep emotional letdown after a shopping experience, be wary of developing a compulsive buying disorder.

That being said, shopping can, and remains, a positive experience for the majority of people. Carefully thought out purchases will continue to bring us satisfaction long after the shopping trip is over. Window shopping, too, can often give us the same feelings of expectation, control, and escape that we are looking for, without breaking our budget or resulting in guilt or remorse. So, here is to happy shopping!

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How Did Your Company Handle COVID?

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Remember February? Different world: we were thinking about planting, spring – several of my friends were thinking about applying for new jobs and career paths. Now that everything is very different, we need to look at applying for jobs and interviewing in a new way.

COVID has required companies to think in a very different way: from interactions like meetings and one on ones or lunch to business trips and working remotely, companies are taking a long hard look at everything. And as a job-seeker, you should, too! While unfortunately, I’ve seen recruiters mention companies that are questioning career gaps already (global pandemic, anyone?) you as the job seeker can ask interview questions, too – remember, you still can interview them, even in a moment of economic upheaval.

Here are a few reasons why their response matters, and how you can look at their response to the question “How did your company handle COVID?” more than at surface level:

SHOWS COMPANY CULTURE

If their response is open, encompassing, and not defensive, you might be looking at an open culture, encompassing and growthfocused. The answer will indicate if they are thinking about their employees as well as new employees as part of a larger whole. You aren’t just some warm body they need to do any job – you’re part of the larger collective. Make sure you fit in the culture, and the culture fits for you!

SNACKS OVER CARE?

Company culture was fascinating before COVID – from candy “bars” to snack stations to pool tables in the office; things will be different if companies are following CDC guidelines for sanitization.

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advice seriously. When asked about COVID, if they immediately start talking about perks, there’s a concern that they might not be thinking about handling another crisis. Yes, we all hope this will be the last – and the largest one – we deal with. To not potentially prepare for another similar crisis when we have disaster plans for fires in the office is concerning.

COMMUNICATION WITH STAFF

Open communication is critical to a healthy work environment.

If you ask about their response to COVID and they clam up, get defensive or ask why you care, there might be some underlying communication issues. No one likes to talk about negative things – if you ignore them and are only reactionary to a crisis, you aren’t preparing or learning. Employees also have a right to work in safe environments, so if asking “threatens” authority and a negative reaction is given, there may be larger issues when it comes to talking about smaller things like constructive feedback or medium to large issues that HR might have to step in to handle.

SOCIAL DISTANCING?

While much of the pandemic has become unfortunately political, the CDC is overwhelmingly on board with social distancing. I’ve had more Zoom meetings, classes, happy hours, and more – if you’re interviewing in person, is there space between you and the interviewer? Are they shaking your hand, sitting close, allowing you to maintain a distance that you choose – or are you sitting at a distance that has been chosen for you? I’m not suggesting you meet in a hazmat suit, but at the same time, with so many of us caring for intergenerational families and private preexisting conditions, if there isn’t an attempt for spacing during the interview, you might want to dig deeper.

If you have the space and ability to interview them to the extent they interview you, do so! You deserve it.

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LOCAL BUSINESS RELIES ON FAITH TO WEATHER THE COVID STORM This is a reprint of a message that Fleet Feet/New Balance owner Keith Davis shared with his customer base via social media.

“On March 17, I had an all-staff meeting for Fleet Feet and New Balance Winston-Salem. We were closing the store for an indefinite period of time to weather the COVID-19 storm. At that time, we had no idea how long we’d be closing or, quite frankly, that we’d ever open again. We had been experiencing unprecedented growth to that point, and on 3/17 it all came to a screeching halt. It was not a slow-down. It was an absolute halt. Our customer experience-oriented retail model, our greatest asset, was facing a lockdown.

We had no Plan B. We were pretty much a one-trick pony (even if we did do that trick pretty well!). At the time, we weren’t yet fulfilling e-commerce orders. There was no such thing as curbside pick-up or pre-scheduled appointments. The ways we would need to evolve in order to continue to do business – none of this was even on our minds that day. We just knew this was scary and we had to act. I shared with our team a visualization that was shared with me. We had a boat and needed to cross a terribly rough, choppy sea. The boat had room for everybody but fully loaded, the boat faced significant risk of not making the crossing. There were multiple strategies, none certain or guaranteed to succeed. I could rationalize every scenario in my mind, but my heart told me there was only one way to go. We all had to get into that boat as a TEAM. Our best and only chance for success was that EVERY member of the team had to grab whatever they could to use as an oar and paddle their butts off. Nobody could just go along for the ride or we could all go down with the boat. We set off that day, as a TEAM. EVERYBODY played a role. A very few did agree to stay behind, knowing we would come back for them. But everybody who needed or wanted a seat, had one. And everybody grabbed an oar, and we worked.

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When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.

Isaiah 43:2

Three months later, I arrived at work to find an oar on my desk, which was artfully emblazoned with the words from Isaiah 43:2. Now, we find ourselves nearing that far-away shore that seemed so far off in mid-March. Our team is intact and our organization is stronger than it has ever been. We all realize this journey may not be over. We discovered more dangers than just the seas that we had to battle along the way (turns out there were some monsters in that water that we had to address too). But, we’re all here, we’re all still rowing, and I am so proud of our team. Thank you to our long-time employee, Erin Key, for her creativity in crafting this oar and marking the occasion. And thank you to my entire team - those that work for us and the many more that support us in countless ways - for grabbing an oar and rowing us to the other side.

No matter what happens from here on out, we are emboldened as ever in the Truth that we have no reason to fear and that together we can do anything.”

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THE WELLER LIFE AT HOMESTEAD HILLS

BY LORRAINE AIKEN & ANDREW PARKER

With life dramatically changing in 2020, planning for the future has become ambiguous at best. Most aspects of life have changed in some manner, but there is order within the chaos and pleasantry in the noise. People have come together with support and compassion for one another – a genuine camaraderie pivotal to experiencing the beauty of life. Homestead Hills recognizes that times have changed, but their mission has not. They are caring professionals dedicated to quality services in a community where our Members live longer, healthier, and happier lives.

THE WELLER LIFE

Homestead Hills prides itself on providing a holistic approach to retirement living. “There is peace of mind for our Members that everything is taken care of,” said Anne Letsky, one of the community’s lifestyle advisors.

Members have the freedom to create their own schedules as the community plays host each day to wellness programs, social activities, clubs, and freshly prepared dining options, all conveniently located in one place. In addition to the upscale amenities, Members have highquality on-site care available as the community offers a broad array of services, including Independent Living, Assisted Living, Memory Care, Skilled Nursing, and Rehab. Offering a full spectrum of refined amenities and innovative services, the community has continually pushed the boundaries to create a repertoire of award-winning programs. Homestead Hills has won the Argentum Senior Living National ‘Best of the Best’ Award five times for programs like J.O.Y (Joining Older and Younger social events), C.L.I.M.B. (lower body strength program), and WAVES (Aquatic Fitness for those with Alzheimer’s and dementia).

“Our lifestyle is based on wellness,” said Jay Matthews, the community’s executive director. “Wellness isn’t just working out three days per week; it consists of eating balanced meals, remaining in good physical shape, enjoying conversations with friends and receiving the care that they may require.” The community’s leadership works together to ensure that each of these pillars are accessible for Members each day.

A CULINARY CELEBRATION

At Homestead Hills, Members delight in full-service dining, which emphasizes a variety of freshly prepared meals and elegant dining experience. Meals are crafted under the direction of the community’s Director of Dining Services, Sara Aguilar, Executive Chef, Michael Nasrallah, and Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, Mary Kate Schaible.

Menu options are unique day-to-day and each meal can be customized to the Members requests. “We want Members to enjoy their dining experience and our team is happy to customize the meal to their specifications,” said Chef Michael. Chef Michael has worked with Members to build and refresh the team’s dining proficiency through his monthly community cooking demonstrations entitled the ‘Chef Michael Show.’ Each month he chooses a different theme, including a class on order customization, Halloween themed pumpkin carving, and Bourbon Heritage Month. Each day, their dining department is going above and beyond to ensure that Members are enjoying a unique variety of meals.

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SOCIAL EXCELLENCE

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 11 million, or 28% of people aged 65 or older live alone. Living alone does not inevitably lead to social isolation, but it can be a contributing factor. To ensure that Members have the opportunity to interact with their peers and neighbors according to proper social distancing guidelines, they are encouraged to participate in a full calendar of daily events.

Events include art class, bible study, choir, hobby clubs, day trips, guest lecturers, lunch outings, movie night, trivia, cooking classes, billiards, and more. Events are scheduled and prepared with the Members’ safety a priority. With an entire team of professionals dedicated to fostering the vibrant lifestyle at Homestead Hills, they’re able to combine proper safety precautions with entertainment. “I enjoy making people happy, and do it every chance I get to,” said Christie Martin, social director. “When we are focusing on our Members having a good time, the fun comes naturally.” Normally, one day each month, residents and staff participate in a ‘Signature Experience’ where each activity that day is connected to the theme through food, fitness, and fun. Recent themes have included Jekyll and Hyde, The Andy Griffith Show, and British Invasion. The Members are eagerly anticipating the return of Signature Events once safety guidelines permit!

WELLNESS

Wellness plays an integral role in the lives of residents and Community Wellness Director Meagan Isaacs is at the helm of the award-winning wellness programming. “Our Members are motivated and excited to continue their fitness journey and I have the privilege of being a part of it,” she says. The wellness team works one-on-one and in group settings with Members in classes that are held throughout the week. Personalized schedules and fitness tracts allow individuals to focus on their specific goals. Over 15 unique classes are held throughout the week, which includes Men in Motion, Sole Strength, Line Dancing, Wake Up Workout, Water Aerobics, Tai Chi, and More. These classes assist in relaxation, better sleep, standing, balance, and flexibility, all of which are important for seniors.

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A Fresh Start “Our homes are a reflection of what we love, what we believe, and who we are.

They are the backdrop to the stage of our lives, and we have the power to design the entire stage.” ~ Beth from her blog, A to Z Home Stories I think we would all agree that the year 2020 could use a fresh start. This has been quite the year and the year isn’t over! At this writing, none of us even knows exactly how school will look when it starts back this fall.

COVID 19 has played havoc with many of our schedules and things that were ‘normal.’

There are no children at our house starting back to school this fall, but I still remember when the girls were home and how excited they were to return to school. They looked forward to a new school year and a fresh start.

Sometimes that fresh start is needed when it comes to decorating your home. Maybe you have lived in your home for a long time, and you just need an update or a new look.

It is not unusual to be faced with a fresh start as a result of a job transfer, the ending of a relationship, a new marriage where merging two households is needed, buying your first home, or the need to down-size. Whatever your situation, it can be a daunting task just because there are so many options available and so many decisions to make.

Here are a few ideas to help you begin the process of decorating your home if you are facing a fresh start:

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• Decide what you like. So many times, my clients cannot tell me what they like but have little problem telling me what they don’t like. Check out houzz.com and save pictures of rooms and things you like in your idea book. This will make the pictures easy to find when you want to look at them again or show them to your decorator. Or check out pinterest.com and pin ideas to your board. By looking back at the things you have pinned, you will be able to figure out the styles, colors, patterns, etc. you seem to favor most of all. This helps you narrow down your style.

• You may get overwhelmed thinking about decorating the whole house. Set priorities and, of course, a budget. You might want to pick a room you’ll spend the most time in and concentrate on that room first.

• Not sure what size furniture you will need in your space? There are free floor plan design programs offered on the web. Using one would be a good place to start. It is important to measure your space and know what size furniture will fit before you begin shopping. Be sure to think about the traffic flow pattern in your room and arrange furniture accordingly.

• Choose an inspiration piece. This is a tremendous help when pulling your color palette together for your fresh start. I like to start with a fabric, a rug, or a favorite piece of art. Your inspiration piece will dictate the colors you will use in paint, fabrics, rugs, art, and accessories.

• My advice to clients is to use neutral colors on your bigger pieces, like a sofa or chair, and bring in your color through accessories and paint.

• Invest in a good sofa and comfy chairs. A good dining table and chairs are a must also.

These are pieces that will get the most use and you will want them to be comfortable.

• Shop for your accessories at budgetfriendly places, like consignment stores, Homegoods, Tuesday Morning, Target, Accent Prone, etc. Mix in family heirlooms.

These pieces will give personality and style to your room.

• Have fun and enjoy the process!

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T H E N E X T G E N E R AT I O N

BY DENISE HEIDEL, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

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Once upon a time, an entrepreneurial woman dreamed of starting a magazine. This woman worked hard, tirelessly investing hours into creating a magazine based on positive content and important information for the other women in her community. While she didn’t have the benefit or convenience of a Fairy Godmother, or the help of woodland creatures, this woman did have a daughter. And her daughter, sharing in her mother’s vision, became a part of the business.

If the story of Forsyth Woman was a fairy tale, it might have gone something like that….

After all, 15 years ago, the magazines were started by the hardworking and tenacious Keela Johnson, with her daughter Brooke, a 15-year-old West Forsyth High School sophomore helping from Day 1. And now, the torch is about to be passed.

From Day One, the mission of Forsyth Woman has been about celebrating women in and around Forsyth County. While the magazine’s page count, design, look, logo, and even writers have changed, that core mission has remained steadfast. “It’s a constant part of who we are,” shared Keela. “We are not, and have never tried to be, a news-oriented magazine.

People can find out the news from other sources. Our concept was to focus on positive, uplifting, encouraging stories and information relevant to the women in this community, as well as the importance of supporting local business.”

Keela continued, “The small business component is a by-product in a way. While our initial mission was and continues to be celebrating women, along the way, our whole team fell in love with small businesses. Not only because we ARE a small business, but because we got to know so many creative, passionate people in the community. The saying you see on social media sometimes that says, ‘When you buy from a local business, an actual person does a happy dance,’ is absolutely true!

We’ve seen first-hand how our magazine, through its celebration of women, has also benefited and celebrated the small business community through awareness and promotion of the ‘shop small’ movement.”

Brooke chimed in, “It’s been a wonderful mission that has truly shaped my life. From my formidable years in high school to my college years and now that I’ve turned 30, my life and livelihood have been based on the celebration of local women and the accomplishments in this community. I am so fortunate to have my mom trailblaze this path so that I could walk in it myself.”

“It’s funny,” said Keela. “September 2020 will be our 180th issue. Not to mention all the issues of Forsyth Woman Engaged! and Forsyth Community we’ve done! I’m also not counting our sister-publication, Forsyth Family since that’s always been my business partner, Robin Bralley’s baby. It’s never gotten old. But to look at the magazines from the beginning to where we are now is quite a trip down memory lane. We started as a black-and-white, 26-page publication, and today we average over 130-pages per month of an all-gloss magazine and have even gone up to 184 pages in some months. I honestly could not be prouder. It’s been a long journey, and through the process, I’ve learned so much. I’ve been able to watch our community grow and bloom through the pages of Forsyth Woman!”

“I agree,” said Brooke. “I remember being on our annual beach trip with mom’s best friends and their kids when she announced her idea to start Forsyth Woman. The idea didn’t receive the excitement that my mom had hoped for from either family or friends. But my mom is strong-willed and determined.

I think our lack of enthusiasm probably propelled her determination even more. But even with my initially lukewarm response, I’ve been a part of things from Day One, and at 15-years-old, I learned how to do magazine layout in Microsoft Publisher – something our designers think is laughable now!

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L to R: Rae’Ven, Tanner, Keela, Tim (lovingly known as Teej), Brooke and pups Ranger and Carter.

“I worked with Mom throughout high school and even had a column in the magazine during my high school days. Then I went to college and graduated from High Point University with a degree in education. I didn’t plan to work for Mom and Forsyth Woman until after a few years in the classroom. But after graduation, teaching no longer felt like the right decision. I love education and still have a passion for it, but I’ve found a way to direct that passion into the pages of Forsyth Woman. Still, working with your mom comes with a unique set of challenges, as well as blessings. Thankfully, we’ve worked together very well. We’ve had years of learning– both from one another and with one another! I could easily write 50 pages about all the lessons I’ve learned from Mom and Forsyth Woman.”

“And now, I’m turning over the reins,” said Keela. “Passing the torch is something that I’ve been mulling over for a while now. Especially with everything that’s happened in our family for the last few years. From my husband Tim’s retirement….

His stroke… My second bout with breast cancer… Losing my dad last year, who was this magazine’s biggest supporter and champion. I just know that right now it’s time. Plus, I love numbers. It’s 2020. Brooke is now 30. I’ve led the way for 15 years, and it just feels right to let Brooke take the lead now.

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take the backseat to her proven leadership. That will enable me to live out my dream: watching my daughter take the business I’ve poured myself into and turn it into her own. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, enjoying my husband’s retirement at Lake Norman and still being a part of what I love. I feel like it’s a win-win! Brooke is more than capable of taking over now. Not only has she grown up with Forsyth Woman, but she’s also grown into a model Forsyth Woman herself. It’s been such a joy and privilege to watch Brooke’s confidence blossom and her own entrepreneurial spirit grow.”

“It’s hard to believe that Mom is retiring. Or semi-retiring,” Brooke mused. “I know she’ll never quit entirely, and as weird as it may be at first, I’m very excited for her. Her passion for these magazines is legendary, and I know that even with my years of working for Forsyth Woman full-time, I have some ginormous shoes to fill. But life is short. Mom and Dad have had a rough few years, and it’s time for them to enjoy themselves.

It’s put things in perspective for all of us, and I’m thankful that they get to live out their dreams on the waters of Lake Norman.

Mom is still close enough to work and visit, and I’m honored that she trusts me with her ‘other’ baby. For those who may be concerned about Mom stepping down, please understand – all this really means is that she’s going to stop working 80 hours a week.” Brooke smiled, “She may surprise us and only work 40 hours. That will definitely cut down on a few emails.”

You can’t produce a monthly magazine for 15 years without accumulating some great Fun Facts!

“As for me,” Brooke continued, “I’m excited about this. The magazines have proven to be an asset to this community, and that’s credited to my mom’s perseverance. After all, Forsyth Woman survived the 2008 recession, two bouts with cancer, my dad’s stroke (my mom never left his side), and recently, COVID-19. We’ve been the ‘Little Engine That Could’ who just refuses to give up.”

• Fox 8 News anchor Cindy Farmer was on the very first Forsyth Woman cover – September 2005.

• Forsyth Woman Editor Kim Beane has been with the magazines since 2005, making her the longest-running teammember besides Keela and Brooke themselves.

While I’m more committed to a healthier work-life balance, I’m the daughter of two hardworking entrepreneurs. I’ve learned well, and it’s in my DNA. I’m a risk-taker, too, just like my mom. And I’m excited and eager to preserve the mission of Forsyth Woman by celebrating local women, supporting local business, and also paving the way for the next generation.”

• Forsyth Woman’s Senior Writers, Carolyn Shore, Denise Heidel, and Meghan Corbett, have the most writing seniority in the family of magazines with 14, 12, and 11 years, respectively.

Forsyth Woman can be found in hundreds of locations in and around Forsyth County, along with sister-publication, Forsyth Family. Digital editions of the magazine can be read online at ForsythWoman.com. Call 888.892.3204 or email Advertising@ForsythMags.com to learn about local advertising opportunities. Be sure to like Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Family Magazines on Facebook and follow us on Instagram @forsythmags.

• Rosey’s Review is Forsyth Woman’s longest-running column; it was introduced in July 2006, and to date, four different writers have worked under the Rosey pseudonym.

GET TO KNOW BROOKE Brooke Eagle is the new publisher of Forsyth Woman magazine! Brooke is passionate about fitness and health, and is really into CrossFit and wake-surfing on Lake Norman. She loves being a dog-mom to her one-year-old Berne-Doodle, Carter.

Brooke is also the host of the Forsyth Magazines Podcast. Since joining the Magazines full time in 2012, Brooke has become an outstanding and recognized leader in the community. In addition to her role at Forsyth Woman, Brooke has served in the following capacities: • Trellis Foundation Leadership Council Member (previously Hospice Foundation Leadership Council) 2016 – 2020

• Forsyth Family, the sistermagazine of Forsyth Woman, was introduced in November 2007.

• Forsyth Woman’s popular Girls’ Night Out has been held monthly since January 2009 and was the brainchild of Forsyth Woman Editor Kim Beane.

• In 2010, Forsyth Woman went on its very first community shopping trip: the Consignment Shop Hop. Since then, the Consignment Shop Hop has evolved into Tour de Boutique, and the magazines have taken hundreds of women shopping to local boutiques on 15 different shopping trips.

• President of Professional Women of Winston-Salem 2016 – 2017

• Forsyth Magazines has been a consistent supporter and sponsor of local community events.

• Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce Board Member 2018 – 2020; VP of Education 2019, Secretary 2020

• FW Engaged, Forsyth Woman’s bi-annual wedding publication, debuted in June 2011.

• Recent graduate of Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons inaugural class (2019-2020)

• Forsyth Community, the fourth title in the Forsyth Magazines line up, debuted in 2015.

Turn the page to see a 15-Year Photo Essay of FW as well as a small sample of the 180 covers we’ve produced over the years.

• The Forsyth Magazines logo art changed in November 2018.

• The Forsyth Magazines podcast debuted in January 2020!

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What’s in a Hug?

The Physical & Emotional Benefits of a Hug

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

The past four months of social distancing have been a hugger’s nightmare. If you are the touchyfeely type and hugging comes as natural to you as breathing, then seeing a friend and staying 6 feet away is painful and so unnatural. But why, of almost everything that I’ve had to stop doing, including getting manicures, do I miss hugging so much?

Exactly what does a hug do for the one hugging and the one being hugged? Turns out, quite a lot!

HOW DOES A HUG DELIVER SO MUCH, SO SIMPLY?

Touch is a powerful means of communication; a hug conveys the message ‘I care for you and am here for you.’ When we hug our bodies release ‘feelgood’ hormones. These hormones include oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Once these hormones are released into our bodies, we experience feelings of happiness, relaxation, improved mood, and lower levels of depression. When the ability to hug and touch is suppressed, like during the past few months, depression and feelings of separation rise. Beyond the good vibes that come with a hug, there are several other reasons to hug.

PRE-COVID STUDIES SHOWED HUGS MAY PROTECT YOU AGAINST ILLNESS

In medical studies, researchers found that hugging may reduce the chance a person will get sick (assuming you aren’t in the middle of an international pandemic). It was found that with a greater support system, you are less likely to get sick. And those with the greater support systems who did get sick, had less severe symptoms than those with little to no support.

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HUGS MAY BOOST YOUR HEART HEALTH

In other pre-COVID studies on the effects of hugging and physical touch, reductions in blood pressure levels and heart rate were found. According to these studies, an affectionate relationship, not necessarily sexual in nature, but one involving some sort of touch may be good for your health.

HUGS CAN MAKE YOU A HAPPIER PERSON

As mentioned before, hugging releases oxytocin, often called the ‘cuddle hormone,’ because it rises when we touch, hug, or sit close to someone. This hormone is associated with helping to control one’s stress level. Have you ever been so stressed that you break down, then a friend gives you a good, long hug, and oddly some of the feelings of your stressful situation feel as if they are melting away? I know I have many times in my lifetime.

HUGS ARE A WAY TO COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS

Most of our communication as humans takes place through verbal or facial expressions. But touch is another important way that people can send messages to one another. A sincere, strong handshake, which is not taking place very much these days, can convey feelings of acceptance and trust. A touch on the arm by a friend can instantly give a feeling of support, what many of us need these days.

During times of grief, a good hug can mean much more than hearing ‘I’m sorry for your loss.’

CAN WE EVER GET TOO MANY HUGS?

Virginia Satir, a family therapist, once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs a day for maintenance, and 12 hugs a day for growth.” You can deduct from that statement that more hugs are better than fewer hugs. Basically, get as many hugs in a day as you can, but if you are low on hugs, I don’t suggest you just go up and hug anyone you meet. That could go wrong quickly.

In today’s society, with so much of our communication done through technology, and the horrors of the coronavirus and social distancing, the good old hug isn’t easy to find. But if you want to feel better about yourself, reduce your stress, improve communication, and be happier and healthier, it seems that giving and asking for more hugs – SAFELY, from those within your family – is a good place to start.

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A Little Bit Southern

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Who is she? Where did she go to school, and who are her kin? A flurry of questions invited by my prospective in-laws fell flat when they learned I was an outsider born to Yankee people and raised mere miles below the Mason-Dixon line! From grandparents and parents, cousins and close friends, the phrase rang out of “bring her by.”

BOOTS WERE MADE FOR WALKING

It’s not true, though, that cowboy boots burn crossing into northern states.

Donning boots, a woman can do all the things she loves, whether it’s four-wheeling to dancing, arriving to dinner or group gatherings. The deep lined creases tell a story of walking through grassy fields, or the miles traveling to meet family, friends and work colleagues. Not long after I married my southern gentleman, I slipped into my first pair of blue Durangos. They truly are a treasure of comfortable walking!

ANCESTRAL LINE

A repairman through a family recommendation sought my address, not through a physical street and house number; instead, he inquired to the surname of nearby families. Question after question, I did not know even one name, who lived in houses 50 years ago or relatives of current neighbors. There are moments a transplant knows they are out of their element. It’s more than just living in a close-knit community over decades. Southern living includes a dynamic repertoire of family history and genealogy.

To be married to a southern man requires his wife to know an extensive list of family members and ancestors dating back several generations. Better believe more than one person will ask of his and your relations and respond in variations to “bless your heart!”

SUPERSTITIONS

How could I know minimalizing the laundry pile would cause tension among family members? It was New Year’s Day. Rather than directly telling me, a chain of events went through an ancestral line of women to my husband. Through my act, I washed down the drain every friendship and ounce of good fortune and health for the year.

I’ve learned a lot since then. Never say “thank you” for a gift of plants, whether purchased or from a backyard garden; otherwise, they are bound to die, and remember to make a cross on your windshield when intersecting a black cat!

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Cowboy boots have a distinct rhythmic pattern of three sounds, whether heard on concrete, tile, wooden flooring or boards.

Not a footwear choice for everyone; however, the excess room surrounding the digits allows the foot cushioning in the stride and flex for easy walking.

THE HEN CLUB Tim McGraw said it well, “Ain’t nothing in the whole, wide world like a southern girl!” Ask a question, and there is no hesitancy in receiving a polite, colorful expression! It’s usual to hear, “I love you” and “God bless you” after an hour-long conversation.

And, don’t worry; you will be hugged upon departing! The most remarkable aspect of southern relationships is the feeling of belonging. Once befriended, the friendship links you as sisters and opens the door to an extension of family. Even though you may not be blood, southerners claim outsiders as kin, too!

TEN-YEAR-OLD APPROVED At the age of 10, my daughter claims being southern isn’t necessarily a place or a being, but a connection. A friendly acknowledgment as strangers wave from their cars and friends greet through bone-crackin’ hugs. It is words like “sir” and “ma’am” and “I declare,” which is fun to say! And, “y’all” means everyone, and not just you! While her term for “country living” relates to back dirt roads and waving the American flag; it’s also a feeling of a sweet home!

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Making Dollars, Making $ense What Should We Be Watching?

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BY JON MARZANO, AIF®, MANAGING PRINCIPAL

At Marzano Capital Group, Monday mornings are a time for our team of advisors to sit down and discuss the economy and our allocations in client portfolios. With the speed of news dissemination, the thirst by the media for a juicy headline, and the multitude of dramatic events going on around the country, it is important to keep our eyes on what matters most for our clients. In our opinion, what matters most is a rational long-term view – period! To best serve our clients, having frequent and frank discussions about our biases and investment ideas helps keep our team aligned and helps us to make investment decisions.

The first half of this year has been the most interesting six months that I have been through. The volatility we experienced in such a short timeframe has been like no other in recent decades. Any investor in their mid-40s or younger did not have money in the markets on Black Monday in 1987, which is what I would say would most closely resembles this year’s market volatility. By now, that age group does have money invested and it hurts to go through large drops. Volatility shows us that we can be vulnerable and there are risks out there, some of which we cannot see. Hopefully, bad decisions were not made to sell out of investments when they were down in February and March. We have seen a quick 40% surge back in stock prices since then. The “indexes” are all back within “a range” of where they were in late January when the markets were hitting fresh highs.

Now to the point – one question I ask a lot of clients when I am coaching them through a volatile time is, what index are you watching? Most of the time, I get a response of “the DOW.” I have a simple thought as we move forward that I want to make sure each of you understand. If you are gauging how the market is doing by looking at the same short list index that investors did back in 1987, you may not be seeing the bigger picture. The DOW Jones industrial average is made up of 30 stocks. Those 30 stocks are all big companies, many of them well run but not nearly as diverse as the stocks represented in the S&P 500. The S&P tracks a larger group of stocks that I believe are more representative of the diversification that a person would have in their portfolios. If you have not Googled the list of stocks in each of those two indexes, please do that.

Back to the point – how the DOW and the S&P continue to recover from here may be surprising. They may not move in lockstep with each other. Which index has a larger list of companies that are “becoming” more relevant, not “were” relevant?

Past performance is no guarantee of future results.

Indexes cannot be invested into directly.

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Reuse a Kitchen, Save the Earth

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

you contact Vince and his team. They’ll visit the home and see if the job qualifies for the program. The team will then schedule a time to remove items that qualify, load them into a truck and bring them to the ReStore, where they are available for sale. The proceeds help Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County serve families with a low income with safe, affordable and decent housing.

Nick Jamison, one of the volunteers since the early 2000s and a retired director of the city Recreation and Parks Department, talks about his work as a hobby with friends more than “work.”

“We might be at a store and see a new tool and think, ‘oh this will be great for decon work! Then we’ll come in with our new tool to show everyone.’”

Picture this: You walk into your kitchen.

You’re so excited – you’ve finally chosen to do your dream kitchen remodel. New appliances, cabinets and fixtures – the works. Suddenly, you panic. This is going to be a lot of work – the exciting part, picking new everything. The less than exciting part – getting the old items removed. On top of that, you just joined this great Facebook group on being “waste-free,” and you realize that you have no idea what to do with all of your old stuff! You don’t want to just throw it out.

Suddenly this exciting remodel is overwhelming.

The program is indeed that of value. At the end of the fiscal year, the team was up to 40 kitchens. Vince recalls starting to focus energy on the decon team after being part of it for eight years. “Kitchens sell quickly in the store,” he said. “Once I realized people were always asking for kitchens, I started to call on designers, kitchen designers and studios to get a system going.”

“There is nothing greener than reusing a kitchen,” said Vince Cannino, the ReStore’s Donation Services and Procurement Director.

The “decon” team, as they are referred to, make this magic happen.

This focus is also led by Vince’s experience – he’s been writing a column on homes and living spaces for WinstonSalem Monthly for 12 years, and he knows quite a few designers and contractors in town. “Last year we had a removal, staged it in the lobby area,” he said.

“Someone hung a note on it, expressed interest and within 24 hours, we had sold it for $9,000.” Now, not all of the decon projects yield such a high opportunity, but in 2018, they did 20 kitchens and, in the last 18 months, doubled it.

The process is simple: If you’re buying or selling a home, remodeling, or looking for a change,

“We’ve gotten to the point that we can go into many kitchens at 8:30 or 9am, and be done before noon,” Nick said.

“We’ve done a condo kitchen in 1.5 hours

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“Everyone enjoys it,” he said, “It’s a way to give back, and for seniors, in particular, it’s a way to give back, stay active and socialize. All of these guys getting together to see each other, keep up with families – and to be of value.”

and had a house with two kitchens that took seven people 5.5 hours.” The team is made up of 15-18 people, all retired. Some built Habitat houses and then graduated to decon. “We’re better at taking stuff out than building stuff. There are guys in their 60s, 70s and even to their 80s working on the decon team.” The team feeling is palpable when talking to Nick – the volunteers are truly excited to be doing the work.

This process is easy on the homeowner as well – I had a chance to talk to Anne Prescott-Ramm, who had worked with the team. She was moving to a smaller house, and immediately thought of Habitat for the things that didn’t quite fit into her new home, “I have the greatest respect for their

integrity and principles.”

Aside from that respect, Anne couldn’t express enough how easy working with the team was. “Everything has been the way you’d want it to be,” she said. “They came on-time, when you called and were efficient – and so gracious.”

If you’re looking to remodel or get your home marketready – a bathroom, kitchen, interior – think about the ReStore. Not only are you providing the opportunity for someone to reuse something, but also helping Habitat for Humanity build and repair homes.. If you would like information about the Deconstruction Services offered by the Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County ReStores, contact Vince Cannino at vince@habitatforsyth.org or 336.817.8107.

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BY LISA S.T DOSS

LIP BALM The cultural knowledge of herbal lore is not entirely lost. The knowledge may still be in our genes, urging to take root and blossom. It begins by first loving the fragrance and taste of herbs. Take the interest one step further! Start drying leaves and flowers to begin making delicious teas, healing salves, tinctures, poultices and more to promote wellness!

Plants have secret names, alias’ that pass through the generations by way of stories.

Bergamot may not be a well-circulated name; however, you may recognize its other titles, such as bee balm, mountain balm, lemon balm, Indian’s plume or honey plant. For its ability to attract honeybees and soothe its stings, the Greeks added variations of the term “Melissa.” In becoming aware of its numerous titles, including, “cure-all” and “dropsy plant,” Bergamot is a remarkable, medicinal gem!

AN INSECT DETERRENT As a member of the mint family, you can easily recognize the tall bushy clumps, roughly two feet tall, and producing colors from bright red to lilac, and shades of pink and white. The deeply-veined green leaves thrive in partially shady or sun-filled locations and spread unless contained. If planted close to a patio or walking path, the sweet aroma repels pesky insects while attracting honeybees, hummingbirds and butterflies. If bothered by a bite, consider rubbing fresh leaves over the skin to ease the itching.

SLEEPY TIME SYRUP People living with insomnia may seek an alternative method to encourage sleep. The following recipe will also help calm children above the age of one.

Recipe: In a small pot, place ¾ cup of fresh, lemon balm leaves and add water only to cover the leaves.

Simmer, partially covered, until half the liquid remains.

Strain. Stir in a ¼ cup of raw honey. Refrigerate for three days. (To make a larger batch, maintain the ratio of two parts lemon balm infusion to one-part honey.)

A great additive to tea or taking one spoonful at night.

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BUG SPRAY

The cost of bug spray can be expensive, especially if you have a large household. The idea of homemade recipes may sound like a worthless enterprise until you make this one! It will change your enjoyment of the outdoors.

Recipe: While fresh lemon balm leaves are the main ingredient, consider adding basil and varieties of mint, too!

In an eight-ounce jar, pack it full! Pour to the top witch hazel extract. Allow the extraction to set for two weeks in a cool, dark location. Strain. Label a small spray bottle; then, fill equal parts of witch hazel and cool water, with room to agitate. Add one drop each of basil, citronella and lemongrass essential oils.

Shake well before each application!

Reapply after two hours. (Witch hazel infusion requires refrigeration and use within one week, while the undiluted mixture will last up to six months.

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Are you seeking a restorative, antiviral chapstick for daily use? With ample amounts of dried lemon balm and a few additional ingredients, you can easily make your own! Consider a patch test prior for children younger than 10.

Part One, Oil Infusion: In a half-pint Mason jar for ease of containment, combine a half-cup of dried lemon balm leaves with a ½ cup of melted coconut oil, ¼ cup olive oil and one teaspoon of castor oil. (Do not use fresh Bergamot! If washed, allow the plant to dry thoroughly on a paper towel for at least 24 hours; otherwise, expect mold to develop.) Screw the lid tightly and shake well. Store the jar in a cool, dark place for up to six weeks, or, a second option is to place the opened mixture in a double-boiler and heat, on low, until the boiling point.

Part Two: Homemade Balm: Warm the Mason jar infusion within a double-boiler; then, strain. Contain the new mixture within a clean glass jar. Measure out a ½ cup of infused oil, add one-ounce of beeswax and melt. Stir before including ½ ounce of Shea butter. Once liquified, remove from heat.

After allowing to cool for a few minutes, stir in 10 drops of lavender essential oil.

Carefully, pour into jars, tins or tubes, and cool until hardened (roughly four hours).

If you enjoy medicinal herbs, start searching for the recipes of medicinal salves, tinctures, teas and fragrant balms and soaps! You may discover a new therapeutic hobby!

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Lessons in Permanence & Impermanence

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Text to brother: Happy or Winky? Who flew off of the second-floor porch?

Response: Happy. Winky was murdered by Lucky.

Text to brother: Oh, right…then we tied Lucky to the doorknob to show him the error of his ways. Thanks!

An ironic name, it turns out, Happy was our resident parakeet who loved mashed potatoes and perched on our kitchen faucet waiting to catch a drip.

One day, an elderly member of our household, not exactly family, decided to treat Happy to some fresh air by taking him onto the wilds of our second floor, apartment-style porch. Sensing the possibility of sweet freedom, Happy took flight in the direction of the maples that lined our street. We walked in vain until well after dark, calling out to him, pleading with him to return. It was just a bird.

Winky soon took up residence in Happy’s birdcage. I don’t think I allowed myself to become as enamored of his antics, lest I become too attached.

I had learned that lesson and closed off a bit of my heart in the process.

However, Lucky, our honey-colored mutt with feisty, street smart savvy, was more than intrigued. Instinct getting the better of him, Lucky took Winky out with one agile air-borne leap. It was just a bird. Just another bird.

Fast-forward to the morning of Monday, April 13th, several decades later, the day after Easter Sunday. With the mighty fury of Mother Nature herself, the largest oak tree on my property was completely uprooted. It fell over my fence, striking the back porch of the neighbor behind me. While the damage was significant, we said our thanks that no one was hurt and were fortunate to have escaped a worse fate. Dawn broke as we took a good look around, zeroing in on the cleanup, the scheduling of contractors, and the back and forth of insurance claims. In the midst of the coronavirus and other, more personal concerns, we put this unfortunate and unexpected event in its right and proper place: we had it in perspective.

Later, after the adrenaline-filled flurry of task-focused phone calls, emails, and conversations began to wane, I noticed that my reason was taking a back seat to my emotion. Everything had been instantly annihilated and replaced by a ginormous gaping hole and this prostrate behemoth of gnarly roots and limbs. …it was just a tree, just a fence, just a garden my well-schooled logic scolded. With a profound sense of loss, my heart said otherwise. I had been working on that scrappy section of my old yard since late last summer, envisioning a woodland garden. My neighbors had gifted us with hostas, irises, Solomon’s seal, daylilies, Lenten roses, and on and on. It was to be my legacy garden, an ode to friendship and community.

And then I allowed “the all of it” to hit me. Every loss, regardless of how seemingly small or trivial, evokes grief, feelings of helplessness, and, underneath all of that, the crux of the matter…the sense that nothing can be counted on. I was suddenly flooded with memories of Happy, of Winky, and a thousand other things, all necessary experiences in their own way, experiences that introduced me to the inevitability of loss, to the first experiences of grief, and to that unwelcome and frightening sense of powerlessness.

In the wide span of time between then and now, I have known many losses. Death, theft, betrayal, financial insecurity, health conditions, and so on. Most of us have. I no longer fear them because I no longer cling to the illusion of permanence, the promise of security. Now, finally now, I know that love and beauty and all good things come for a time, presenting themselves to us as gifts to wholeheartedly embrace, to take into the fullness of our experience. Many are temporary. I accept the grief that accompanies their passing because I also understand this about the universe and its ways: there will always be love and there will always be beauty as long as we don’t shut ourselves down or try to dictate the terms. I cannot control how these gifts will appear or manifest in my life, but in this knowing, there is a joyful permanence.

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BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

That’s right! Just as most of us mind what we eat, it’s important to pay attention to what we drink, especially when it comes to the most important beverage to consume: WATER. Our bodies and brains are composed of more water than anything else. So not only should we make sure we are drinking enough each day, we must also be aware of the safest and healthiest waters to drink.

Spring water is among the

healthiest and most affordable waters.

It is naturally bottled at its source, the aquifer. What is an aquifer? Geology alert! An aquifer is a permeable rock that sits underground and holds freshwater, which eventually floats up to the surface.

As the water floats through the rock, it goes through a filtration process, cleansing the water and adding healthy minerals into it such as calcium, potassium, and magnesium. All these minerals are needed to build and maintain good overall health.

Because spring water is bottled at the source, it is extremely pure, unpolluted, uncontaminated, and untouched by human hands until we unscrew the cap and enjoy the refreshing drink! There are wonderful benefits that come out of drinking spring water. This refreshing beverage oxygenates your blood cells, bringing oxygen to your brain and body.

This oxygen in the blood maintains a healthy metabolism, helps your cells heal themselves, and eliminates diseases—during an unprecedented time like this, we need spring water! Spring water also balances our pH levels and helps develop strong bones and muscles.

Alkaline water. The term “alkaline” refers to the water’s pH level, which is normally 8 or 9. Alkaline water has a higher pH level than tap water and regular drinking water, which makes it so much healthier.

Alkaline water is filled with natural antioxidants that rid our bodies of free radicals that cause serious diseases. This naturally occurring beverage also detoxes our bodies and cleanses us from impurities and toxins more effectively than regular drinking water! There are several other advantages that are reported to come with drinking alkaline water on a regular basis: • Strengthens our immune system • Helps with weight loss • Helps in the fight against cancer • Is helpful to people with diabetes • Reduce symptoms of psoriasis • Lessen symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease • Good for lowering blood pressure and cholesterol

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Artesian water. This is a type of spring water that

becomes artesian when the water naturally flows to the surface of the earth without the help of an underground water pump.

Artesian water comes from an underwater well that houses the purest, freshest, and most natural water. Free from pollutants and contaminants, it is safe to drink right from the source!

Artesian water naturally contains minerals such as calcium, magnesium, potassium, and sulfur. The reported perks that come out of drinking artesian water are below: • Rejuvenation of the skin • Detoxifies the lymphatic system • Helps muscles to relax • Relieves joint pain and arthritic problems • Stress relief • Improves quality of sleep • Improves blood circulation • Relieves skin problems such as psoriasis and eczema All three types of water are sold everywhere. During the remainder of the summer, and amid a global health crisis, we need to make sure we are optimally hydrated.

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Educator Warehouse

Teachers Need Help Now More Than Ever

BY MEGHAN E.W. CORBETT

No matter what school looks like for your child this year, one thing is guaranteed: school supplies will be needed for students as well as teachers. When teachers are in the classroom, we all know how many materials they go through…and how often they are required to buy their own, as opposed to having necessary learning tools supplied. When teachers must work remotely and utilize online tools like YouTube and Zoom, they still need to print worksheets, create visual aids, assemble activities for crafts, and drop off buckets and packets of homework.

For years, this is where Educator Warehouse has come into play to save the day! “Even though our students may be learning differently at the kitchen table, dining room table, bedroom, Mom‘s office, etc., Educator Warehouse is still supplying school supplies for our teachers,” said Educator Warehouse Director Karel Chandler. “These are definitely different times, and we are trying to adjust.

We will have private shopping and limited groups, so our numbers will be much lower as to how many people we can have in the warehouse at the same time.”

Educator Warehouse helps all teachers employed in the WS/FCS system who have registered to shop through the WSFCS website (wsfcs.k12.nc.us/Page/45920). Each quarter, teachers are allowed to shop for classroom supplies using points they have been given, as opposed to their hard-earned dollars. With some teachers spending in excess of $500 of their own money on school supplies for their classrooms, Educator Warehouse strives to close this gap to allow teachers to avoid spending their personal money on paper and pencils.

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MOST NEEDED CORE ITEMS FOR CLASSROOMS: • Pencils • Pens • Colored Pencils • Mechanical Pencils • Crayons • Notebook Paper • Scissors (large and small) • Rulers • Sharpies, Highlighters, Markers • Glue Sticks, Glue Bottles • Kleenex • Hand Sanitizer

TOP 12 OFFICE ESSENTIALS: • Binder Clips • Paper Clips • Rubber Bands • Staplers, Staples, Staple Removers • Scotch Tape Dispensers, Scotch Tape • 1, 2 and 3-Hole Punch • Post-It Notes • Desk Organizers • Handheld Calculators • Jump Drives, CD Disks • Sheet Protectors • Bookends • Pencil Sharpeners

“Anyone interested in taking advantage of this incredible resource needs to make sure to register! Please make sure to go online and sign up for a time to shop if you are a teacher in Forsyth County,” said Chandler. “We are still taking in lots of donations, and if your company is having a school supply drive, that’s great!

If you have decided that you do not want to shop, we are certainly taking monetary donations, and we can do the shopping for our teachers with your money. You can also go to Amazon and have it shipped to us directly at Diggs Latham Elementary, located at 396 Hutton Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27101. I look forward to having lots of school supplies coming in this year, and we thank you!”

For more information, including how you can help through volunteering, contact Karel Chandler at kchandler3@msn.com or 336.817.1673. You can also contact Kendra at the Educator Warehouse by calling 336.671.1078 for more information about donations or volunteering. The Educator Warehouse is located at 986 Hutton Street in Winston-Salem. Hours of operation are 3:305:30 pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays and 9-11 am on the first and third Saturdays of each month. To learn more about the warehouse, visit the website at forsythedpartnership.org.

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Do you wonder what school might look like when classes start back?

The teachers and staff at Family Services Head Start and Early Head Start are getting a glimpse of what the fall might look like, by finishing up our school year this summer.

The students and parents will notice that during the summer program, a lot of things look different — such as teachers wearing masks, frequent temperature checks, and parents being asked to remain outside while teachers escort children to class. But Head Start Center Director Shelby Moody said the most important things about the Head Start program will be the same — promoting school readiness by enhancing children’s cognitive, social, and emotional development while supporting and strengthening family relationships.

“We just want to make sure that when they transition to Kindergarten, that they’re ready,” Moody said.

Family Services Head Start has received grants totaling $543,982 through the Coronavirus Aid, Relief, and Economic Security (CARES) Act to support Head Start services this summer to low-income children under the age of 5 in Forsyth County and to fund one-time actions or activities to prevent, prepare for, and respond to COVID-19.

The local funds were part of $750 million designated for Head Start programs across the nation to support preventative, preparedness, and response activities related to the coronavirus through the CARES Act. To support low-income children who have experienced a disruption of services during this time, programs will provide supplemental summer Head Start programs as they are able.

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Family Services Head Start summer programs will provide a full range of comprehensive services to the extent possible, with a focus on preparing children for the coming school year, according to Family Services Child Development Division Director Vivien Stearns.

“The Head Start summer program will provide a social and emotionally supportive learning environment and consistent daily routines to children who are entering kindergarten in the fall,” Stearns said. “It will also support children in getting up to date on the medical, dental, and other follow-up services they need to succeed in school.”

Family Services President and CEO Bob Feikema said the CARES Act funding helped provide critical support to enrolled children and families. “During this crisis, we have been able to provide crisis response to our Head Start families, including meals, mental wellness support, and connection to community resources,” Feikema said. “We have also trained all of our staff in infectious disease management as we prepare to reopen our classrooms in the fall. The health and safety of each child in our care is our highest priority.”

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Hit the Road, Plan Big, Spend Little

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

One day outside city limits can rejuvenate the soul! Whether you call it a “day trip” or “daycation,” a relatively close destination calls your name for exploration. In the great state of North Carolina, long distance driving isn’t necessary when you consider the many options ranging from national parks and waterfalls to historic towns and wineries. Before you grab water, snacks and keys, you need to plan!

NOT TOO FAR Consider a destination less than three hours away. The drive to the destination builds to the anticipation of arrival; yet, after a full day of exploration, you may have less stamina for the trip home. It’s wise to determine how much time you feel comfortable spending in the car.

Remember, the goal is rejuvenation and not highway hypnosis. Consider visiting a national forest, state park, or a wild-card, a quarry. Once you’ve pinpointed the place, start researching nearby sites and the points of interest in the town!

Tip: Keep a list of places you want to visit! If not this trip, then, perhaps next time!

SLEEP WELL Exhaustion is an essential factor. Think about the energy required before the journey begins, not after. A good night’s sleep will leave you feeling refreshed and energized to enjoy the day!

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EVERYTHING IN ONE BAG

Rather than carrying your purse, choose a comfortable bag with essential items, such as suntan lotion and insect repellant, hat and lip balm, hand sanitizer and wet wipes. Leave behind the extra bulk of a purse, especially a wallet. Travel bags have a particular purpose; therefore, take what you need!

Encourage passengers to bring along a backpack to ease your weight, or divide the burden between two adults.

EXTRAS

Getting lost or discovering a “must-see” attraction leads to an unexpected adventure. For these moments, you need to think outsidethe-box. Bring along a comfortable outfit just in case you need to change clothes, especially if considering an evening meal. A towel serves a multitude of purposes, from drying hands to needing concealment. Think carefully about footwear. Unexpected walking or standing may require a need to change into a comfortable, breathable walking shoe mid-day!

What other extras might you need without bringing too much?

SNACKS AND A PICNIC LUNCH

A selection of food is a necessity, especially on a road trip. Minimalize the cost, and consider using a small cooler to contain grapes or blueberries to fulfill a need for vitamins and fiber. Leave behind the cookies and chocolate; instead, nutritious options, such as carrots and celery, dried fruit and nuts, or make your own trail mix. Enjoying the new destination to the fullest may lend itself to a picnic lunch while saving money. Use freezer blocks to maintain the needed temperature for egg salad sandwiches or Caprese salad! Think chilled and refreshing!

BUDGET

It’s only one day; yet, you can incur a high expense if you are not careful! Pre-packing snacks, water and lunch can significantly reduce unnecessary costs.

In advance, check whether your destination has an entrance or parking fee. Start totaling the expected cost of your trip, including gas and dinner. Even a daycation has luxuries; yet, before you hand over cash or a card, have a total amount in your mind before leaving the house!

Never underestimate the power in exploring a new environment! We all need to abandon normal routines and change the scenery on occasion. Without the need for lodging, day trips are an affordable opportunity to explore while feeling carefree. Take advantage of the budget-friendly perk of leaving town for a day! Once you reflect on your first adventure, you’ll become an expert daycation traveler!

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3 Books Everyone Should Read

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

No matter what your favorite book genre is, there are just some classic books that are recommended for everyone to read at least once in their lives. These books have been described by authors and historians as ones that have made a huge impact on people, as well as, introducing new concepts, new theories, changing the way people think, and forever influencing American literature. There are many suggestions available for readers, including these three timeless books.

THE COLOR PURPLE

THE DIARY OF A YOUNG GIRL

FAHRENHEIT 451

Published in 1982, The Color Purple tells the story of sisters Celie and Nettie and other African American women, living in rural Georgia during the early twentieth-century. Walker writes the novel through a series of letters by Celie, spanning over a course of 20 years. Starting at the age of 14, Celie first writes to God then to her sister. The letters describe her abusive father and her efforts at protecting her sister from him. Later on, readers journey through Celie’s marriage to Mister, who is also abusive to her and keeps Nettie’s letters hidden from Celie. Winner of the Pulitzer Prize and the National Book Award, The Color Purple gives a powerful narrative of abuse, pain, struggle, growth, resilience, and bravery. It broke ground on these topics at the time of publishing and continues today to still impact readers worldwide.

The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank is another well-known book that has inspired many generations. During the Nazis occupation of Holland in 1942, the Frank family, including 13-year-old Anne, left their home in Amsterdam and went into hiding for the next two years. The family lives in a secret attic annex of an old office building with another family. Anne channels their experiences in her diary and gives vivid accounts of being cut off from their outside world and living in constant fear of being discovered. Readers understand the families’ time through a series of Anne’s letters, written in her diary, known as “Kitty.” Sadly, in August 1944, the families are discovered by the Nazis and deported to concentration camps. Anne was just 15 years old when she died in the concentration camp known a Bergen-Belsen.

Out of the two families, only her father, Otto Frank, survived the war. The Diary of a Young Girl is a great read for readers of all ages and is a story of survival, courage, and a first-hand account of the horrors during this time period.

However, Anne does offer humorous insights at times to lighten the book’s tone.

At the time of Fahrenheit 451’s publishing in 1953, the novel’s plot and concepts seemed very unreal. However, today, the book’s setting of a dystopian society in the distant future (sources has revealed the year of the book’s plot to be 1999) doesn’t seem too far off. Divided into three parts, Fahrenheit 451 is a story about fireman Guy Montag who is living in a world where television is king and books are about to be extinct. As a fireman, Montag’s job isn’t too extinguish fires. Instead, his job is to trace down printed books and burn them, along with the houses in which they were found.

After all, in his world, the most illegal item are printed books. This way of life is common for Montag and he doesn’t think anything of it until he meets his new neighbor, Clarisse.

Through their interactions, Clarisse shows Montag a way of life that is absent of fear and full of learning about new ideas through books instead of a television screen. Soon, Montag is influenced by those around him, including his wife Mildred, and starts questioning his way of life. He begins to realize that knowledge is being destroyed through burning books and decides to commit his life to preserving them.

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by Anne Frank

by Ray Bradbury

The Color Purple, The Diary of a Young Girl, and Fahrenheit 451 are just three of the many books everyone should read at least once. If you are interested in reading more, lists are available online through websites, such as The Library of Congress and Goodreads.com. Happy reading!

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After months of being unable to eat in great restaurants, it’s wonderful to be back in the saddle, doing what I love to do: visiting and reviewing restaurants.

This month, we visited a favorite of mine, Hakkachow Asian Eats! It was so nice to stop and chat for a bit with coowner, Jonathan Chung, and learn about how things have been going. Takeout was a huge part of the Hakkachow business model during the shutdown, and as we adjust to new ways of living post-pandemic, people continue to rely heavily on delivery and takeout as dining options. This is fine, but Jonathan and his team are excited and eager to re-welcome guests into their restaurant.

They spent their corona virus down-time wisely and productively, and now have new additions to the bar, including a new Sake menu!

Besides the mouth-watering entrees Hakkachow serves, they also have delectable appetizers and drinks, which is our focus this month.

We started with the Kobe Beef Dumplings, also known as American Wagyu Beef. These dumplings are perfectly portioned and frankly, so delicious. The beef is incredible. If you have never sampled wagyu beef, it’s a specialty that was developed in Japan where the beef is bred to include very fine marbling. The marbling creates tender, tasty beef making these dumplings full of incredible flavor since fat adds flavor. They are served with a soy-ginger dipping sauce and for those who dare… a Korean hot sauce.

Our second appetizer of the evening was Crab Wontons. Unlike many restaurants, when Hakkachow says it’s crab – it’s crab.

They don’t use imitation meat. The crab wontons were crispy on the outside and creamy delicious on the inside! They are served with a lemongrass sauce and for heat – a homemade chili oil. One bite is all it takes to understand why this is one of the most popular appetizers on the menu.

When you think of fine Asian cuisine, fries aren’t the first things that come to mind. But I encourage you to try the Kimchi Cheese Fries – especially if you like a bit of heat. A generous pile of freshly made French fries is topped with kimchi and baked with cheese. Other goodies, including roasted garlic, spicy mayo, and Siracha top this appetizer that’s made for sharing. And sharing is caring, after all! It’s a fantastic bar treat while you’re enjoying drinks with friends.

As we sampled appetizers and waited on sushi, we were introduced to three new cocktails on the Hakkachow menu: three incredible variations of the Moscow Mule. Typically made with vodka, these customized drinks are anything but typical…. But what you can expect is uniquely delicious! We tried three: The Lychee Kyoto mule that is tropical and citrusy… it is the only one made with the traditional vodka. Our second mule was a Blueberry Kentucky mule made with bourbon, and our third mule was a Cucumber British mule, made with gin. As mules are traditionally served with Ginger Beer, Jonathan shared that he has sourced the very best ginger beer on the market (Fever Tree!), and it’s served on the side for the customer to adjust to his or her taste. Each mule was delicious. We really enjoyed the variety and the precise detail that had gone into creating specialty flavor profiles.

Our sushi special was the Chef Special – a Nigiri platter that was inclusive of a California roll and nine assorted nigiri, based on the chef’s choice.

It’s always a little challenging to review sushi because of the variety and…. every time I taste something, I’m convinced it’s my favorite until I move on to the next piece. If you’re a sushi fan, you’ll love Hakkachow! They source only the freshest seafood and take genuine pride in the art of sushi-making!

Finally, Jonathan introduced us to the brand-new Sake menu. He has carefully culled a variety of authentic Sakes and boasts the largest Sake menu in the Triad. And I learned something! I did not know that Sake was rated by sweet and dry. The Sake menu includes the scale – the Sake Meter Value (SMV) – to help identify the sweeter Sake from the drier ones. The higher the number, the drier the Sake and the lower the number, the sweeter. Our group unanimously agreed with Jonathan on his personal recommendation – the 50 JDG sake. It’s a relatively good balance on the SMV that will appeal to those who don’t want something too dry, but don’t want something too sweet.

The Sake menu includes flight options for those who want to try a variety, and it also includes flavored Sake and unfiltered Sakes! The unfiltered Sakes included a Snow Maiden and Perfect Snow – both a cloudy white from the unfiltered rice component. Both of these represented opposite ends of the SMV scale for dryness and sweetness.

All in all, it was a great Rosey’s Review! And while our focus was on the appetizers and drinks, we did stay for supper, too! But we were relatively full by that point and were forced to split an entrée. You simply can’t go wrong with a traditional chicken teriyaki bowl!

Thank you again, to Hakkachow for welcoming us to your amazing restaurant and introducing us to the bar’s new options! We’ll definitely be back!

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Help! I don’t like my career anymore!

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I have had MANY careers in my 37 years on earth.

Not just jobs, careers.

Enter freshman in college Jen. Broadcast news journalism!

That’s what path I’m going into. I even had an internship that might have led to a job. But wait…I’m not loving this.

Enter sophomore in college Jen to late 20s Jen. Acting! That’s what path I’m going into, and what I got my degree in from my fancy private school with all those loans. But wait…I’m not happy also being a waitress.

Enter early 30s Jen. I’m going back to school for Art History!

After a stint working in education, I’m going to work in museums as an educator! YES! But wait…this is not something that pays well or consistently.

Enter Jen now. I’m a dual business owner and a writer…and while I draw on my other careers, I am not in any of them (and am happy about it!). Because of my rapid shifts – as well as my clients’ rapid shifts – I have a five-step process for making the career path swap down pat:

Breathe. Ok, yes, you might have spent time and money on

something you won’t do anymore. Isn’t it better to have excluded that potentially life-draining career path from your life versus finding out even next year? Better now than never, and better now than later. Congrats! You are ahead of a lot of people, promise. Take a deep breath, don’t panic and keep your eye on the prize – figuring out what next.

Control what you can. Do you know what you want to do

next? Great! Do you need more time or help to figure it out? Also great! See step one, and proceed with your what next. Don’t worry multiple steps ahead, or what I call the what next NEXT. That what next NEXT looks like this: “What if I don’t like the new job I take in this new career? What if I get too tired for what next? What happens then?” My friend, you are still in your current position, you don’t have that next job yet, why are you worrying about it? Right now, control what you can. Don’t try to fix problems you don’t have yet.

Research and meet. Whether you know what you want to do

or not, take this time to learn about options – whether they are ones you’re interested in or ones you’re looking to not include in your plans. The wide world of the internet is here for your enjoyment, yes, but also for your education! After doing some research, use LinkedIn and connect with people that are in your new field – or a field, you might be interested in – and ask for a meeting. This can be a phone meeting, coffee meeting, video chat – keep it specific and to a set amount of time. “Can we set up 30 minutes to chat about how you got to your position?” is WAY better than “Can I pick your brain?”

PIVOT! You’ve been breathing. You have your plan after controlling what you can (and breathing through what you can’t), you’ve met with people and researched…and now it’s time to make things happen! But what about all of your experience…do you lose it all?

Short answer, no – but only if you’re smart about it. Look at all of your experiences and see what you can pivot to apply to your new adventure. Using my experience as a reference point, I use almost all of it in my business life today: from the content I teach (acting) to the writing I do (journalism) to the customer service and education (museums) – I spun almost everything to connect with my work today. Stuck about how to pivot? Ask a friend. When you’re stuck in the forest it’s hard to see the trees, so take some time to spin what you can.

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The Vacation Fuss

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I know, I know. Like chicken soup and a great night’s sleep, a vacation is good for you.

Researchers tell us that a reprieve from the norm lowers our stress and our risk of heart disease while renewing our energy to achieve our goals. As an outlier, I have a confession to make: I never got what the fuss was all about.

People spend so much time thinking about, researching, planning, and, in most cases, saving up for five, seven, ten days away, hoping that all of that energy expenditure will be worth it. Sometimes it is and at other times, it’s a total bust. If you ask me, counting the months, weeks and days until vacation seems like a waste of good energy that could be channeled into the here and now.

I understand how parochial all of this makes me sound; I do. But as with all things, there is a backstory. Where I grew up, a family here or there “took a summer vacation,” but those folks were few and far between. In our neighborhood, “vacation” began the day after school let out and meant scrambling down a few flights of apartment stairs in the a.m., hitting the street all willy-nilly, then arriving back home, the worse for wear, for “supper” around 5. Moms often stood on the small back porches calling for their kids: “Freddy…

Joanna…” Our ears were attuned to these beckoning calls. It was all we knew, and for a kid like me, more fond of books, esthetics, and learning, “summer vacation” was a tedious time slot to be endured until the school bells beckoned me back to that better place of discipline, discovery, and yes, accomplishment.

I experienced a real vacation when I was in my mid-twenties. My first husband and I found a reasonably-priced, (well, okay, cheap) getaway to a yet-to-be-discovered island off the coast of Venezuela, and off we went. Talk about a new experience, a wonderful immersion

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so foreign and apart from anything I’d known!

Even so, while I’ve “vacationed” in many places domestically, as well as in Paris, Prague, and even India, I didn’t acquire the vacation bug, not then, and not ever. Chastising myself, I’ve asked: What’s wrong with you? You should be super-excited about this. Your response isn’t normal! Well, reality check: “normal” has never been on my list of personal aspirations.

I learned early and well to keep my own company in a good way, to create new and different experiences right where I am by immersing myself in rich books and beautiful magazines. I taught myself how to create the “magic” of vacation in the here and now.

And I did so based on this one pure idea: that my life is my own creation. I am responsible for making it “self-serving” in the best way: joyful, fun, quirky, harmonized, esthetically stimulating and soothing, connected with the nature around me. When I off-handedly mentioned to a retired friend, “I am never bored,” I wasn’t exaggerating because I am always working on the humble masterpiece that is my life. Is there room for a real vacation?

There is, and I occasionally welcome it, but it’s no substitute for the rewards of my real life.

As you sequester, shelter, and distance, challenge yourself to make a fuss. I mean, a big, crazy-ass, honest, raw fuss that no one else needs to understand. Use this unexpected pause to work on your humble masterpiece, to make it more of who you are. Because when you do? Every day is a bit of a vacation.

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Four Behaviors that Improve

Collaboration

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Collaboration is a coveted experience. Most of us say that we’re “good at it,” but our results often suggest otherwise. When that’s the case, we wonder what went wrong, especially since our heart was in the right place. While having good intentions is a great start, it’s not enough.

Collaboration is about “co-laboring,” which requires specific, learnable skills. It’s a give and take that’s fueled by the mutual desire to make something better or different. Whether it’s working something through with your significant other on the home front, or getting things done with your now-virtual work team, collaboration is key to effective results and sustainable relationships. As you consider the following five collaboration skills, ask yourself which ones you already do well, and which ones you may want to sharpen.

BRING YOUR “A GAME” AND A POSITIVE ATTITUDE Humility check: Collaboration is about winning together, not being right. That’s where your A Game starts and it may be a new starting point, particularly if you tend to keep a hidden score card or have a strong competitive streak.

You can create a “winning together” context by expressing your belief that together, you will arrive at a new or better solution. It can be as simple as saying “I know we can do this” and “I want to hear your ideas.” Then it’s time to bring an open mind and an open heart. The first allows for different ways of looking at things, while the second allows for the human piece, the emotion or passion the other person might bring to the table. Bringing your A Game also means contributing your skills and experiences, and encouraging others to do the same. There is one more piece to this, and it goes back to humility: it’s your willingness to say “I’m not sure,” “I don’t know,” and “I own that.”

BE WHERE YOU ARE You’ve heard it before. We all have. To really connect with a person and to understand their perspective, we need to be present to them. That means putting your phone aside, and a lot more. Being present means being able to shift to a listening mode by stilling the constant stream

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of thought that goes on in your head so that you can make room for really hearing the other person’s thoughts. Part of listening involves paying attention with your eyes to shifts in body language and noticing gestures. One way to remind yourself to stay present is to focus on drawing the other person out by asking open ended questions and simply saying “I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.”

EXPRESS WHAT YOU NEED, WHAT YOU WANT, WHAT YOU ARE ASKING FOR…AND THE WHY BEHIND IT Some of us have no problem asking for exactly what we need or want, while others are extremely uncomfortable doing so. Both can be big barriers to effective collaboration and make the process of collaborating inefficient! The key to expressing needs and wants is all about framing them in terms of “the why.” Instead of “I need that background information by Wednesday” or “Um, I will need it soon…” try “I will need that background information by Wednesday so that I can turn it over to Rhonda in time to make our Friday deadline.” Or, closer to home, “Sweetie, if you can get those groceries put away for me, I can get that pizza on the table in time for the show we want to watch.” Think about it: every need or want has a why behind it. When you make yours transparent, you make collaboration so much easier.

BE OPEN TO EXPLORING WHAT’S POSSIBLE It bears repeating: collaboration isn’t about being right. It’s about working together to achieve some “win.” That win could be identifying a new approach to a task everyone avoids or finding a new solution to an old problem. It could be creating something entirely new, or even finding a better way to communicate when everyone on the team is working from home. Remember the old adage: two heads are better than one. Everyone brings their unique experiences and perspective. In many cases, there is no single “right” way. The goal of collaboration is to seek and identify the best way, which often reveals itself through the process of collaboration.

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The Importance of Vacation for your Soul

BY TABI FALCONE

Have you ever gotten to a point in your life where literally everything that you do, and everything that happens, stresses you out? That stress could very well be your body screaming at you that you need a vacation, stat.

When you go on vacation, it’s like you get little anti-stress infusions into your soul. Even just the act of not needing to go into work for a set period of time (aka longer than a weekend) and knowing you can relax can be a much-needed stress reducer, regardless of whether or not you go anywhere.

“Staycations” (where you are using vacation time but staying at home) absolutely have their benefits as well. By going somewhere away from where you live, you get the added bonus of really feeling like you are taking a small escape from your reality One of the main benefits of going on vacation that always pops to the center of people’s minds is that you get to have fun, and you don’t have to go to work. Yes, obviously this is true – but there are so many more benefits to vacation than that. Going on vacation has actually been scientifically proven to reduce stress in people. In a world that is increasingly stressful, that is so incredibly important.

While there are some people who believe that taking a few vacations (even not using up their allotted vacation days) makes them better workers, in fact, it does the opposite. By taking time off work, you allow your brain to rest and reset – and often come back more productive than before. This

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time away can also give you a better perspective and more appreciation for what you do for a living. It’s with this thinking that some employers are actually starting unlimited vacation policies to allow employees to take time when they mentally need it.

Vacations are also incredibly important to help strengthen family structures. Take a minute to think back on your childhood. When you think of some of your happiest moments from your childhood, how many of them relate to a family vacation you took? Families make a lot of memories in their normal lives, however, there are many distractions – work, school, TV, friends, chores, etc. When you go on vacation (and make sure to set a rule reducing the amount of electronic distractions), you get to bond with your family in a different way than you do during your everyday activities. This bonding is important for increasing the strength of your relationships.

At this point in history, during a global pandemic that most of us never thought we would live through in our lifetimes, taking the time for vacation is more important than ever for our mental health. Our vacations will absolutely look different than they did before – maybe it will be at a more secluded campsite or Airbnb on a low traffic beach instead of Disney World, but taking them should be non-negotiable this year. Even if you merely do a staycation where you turn off your work for a week and relax in the backyard in a blow-up pool – taking time to reset your brain is absolutely essential for your health and for your family.

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Protein-Packed Breakfasts

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Expressions are truthful! Take the phrase, “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” In the moment of wakefulness, absent from food and water for six to eight hours, the body immediately needs vitamins and nutrients to replenish energy to focus and accomplish tasks. Beyond performance, studies link the morning meal to the body’s internal functions, such as lowering cholesterol, reducing the risk for diabetes and maintaining a healthy weight. In the fast-paced rhythm of most mornings, the body responds without nutrition. In a need to eat, is the first choice a pre-packaged, high-fat and sugared food? Still hungry? Yes! Are you ready to feel satisfied and full and nibble less?

GLUTEN-FREE OPTIONS Chia Berry Parfait: The small seeds pack a punch for wellness.

Rich in omega-3 fatty acids and antioxidants, chia provides fiber, iron and calcium. The only downfall to chia is that the seeds must soak in water and refrigerate overnight. Other ingredients include almond milk, raw honey, granola and berries. (Multiple recipes are available online.)

Blueberry Almond, Quinoa Smoothie: Described as a “superfood” for its protein, fiber, vitamins and minerals, quinoa (pronounced “Ke-No-Ah”) is a seed with a slightly nutty taste.

Recipe: Add one cup of uncooked quinoa and two cups of almond milk to a pot. Cook until boiling; then, lower heat and cover until all liquid evaporates. Fluff and wait until cooled to room temperature. Set aside.

In a blender, pour two cups of almond milk and add four cups of frozen berries. Turn off when contents appear creamy. Transition rich-blue contents to two small bowls, add quinoa and drizzle with honey and toasted almonds!

Greek Yogurt Parfait: Choose protein and probiotic-enriched Greek yogurt over brands which contain high fructose corn syrup.

Recipe: Combine one cup of your favorite flavors, which may be strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, kiwi and mangoes. Add a halfcup of frozen blueberries, two teaspoons of sugar and five or six thinly sliced mint leaves. Mix with eight ounces of Greek yogurt. If desiring a crunch, consider mixing in a cup of granola. (Read labels to choose a brand containing whole ingredients, such as raisins, seeds and nuts!) An alternative option is a whole grain, low-sugar cereal.

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OUTSIDE THE BOX Breakfast Pizza: Tomatoes have a wealth of calcium, potassium and phosphorus. Ricotta cheese offers protein and calcium, which strengthens bones.

Recipe: Begin with a slice of whole grain toast, spread part skim ricotta cheese and top with sliced tomatoes.

Avocado Toast: As a good source of dietary fiber, avocados contain vitamins A, B, C, E and K. To improve the trendy, powerhouse breakfast, add one tablespoon of chia seeds to the mashed avocado and consider sprinkling crumbled goat cheese. To aid heart health, add a pinch of red pepper flakes!

Overnight Oats: Before bed, add equal measurements (½ cup) oats and a favorite type of milk to a Mason jar. Stir in two tablespoons of powdered peanut butter, a half-mashed, extra-ripe banana. Mix well, cover and place in the refrigerator. By morning, you’ll have breakfast waiting for you!

EGGS Coffee Cup Scramble: Grab your favorite microwave-safe mug. Apply cooking spray; then, add two eggs, two tablespoons of milk and shredded spinach. Need fiber? Sprinkle one tablespoon of flax seeds. Whisk together, and microwave for 1 ½ minutes until the eggs are firm. Add your favorite cheese and enjoy!

Poached Eggs with Broccoli & Tomatoes: You could add any number of vegetables to your eggs; however, try a combination of preparing cooked broccoli (under five minutes) and whole cherry tomatoes (30 seconds in a rolling boil) alongside a poached egg.

Protein can also come from a tablespoon of sunflower, pumpkin or sesame seeds. You can consider adding a slice of flatbread or ham!

Protein-enriched breakfasts can take your favorite flavors to a new level. The trick is to learn more about flavorful additives. Kale, for instance, contains powerful antioxidants and is an excellent source of vitamin C. Goat cheese, on the other hand, is essential for healthy bones and includes a combination of calcium, phosphorus and copper. Start researching! Breakfast could become inspirational!

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Pat Adkins:

Motivating Others Through Dancing & Faith

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

For many people, passions are discovered at an early age and continue to grow throughout their lives. For some people, those passions became such a big part of their life that they evolve into a career. This is exactly what happened with Triad resident and dance instructor Pat Adkins.

“My dad, a World War II veteran with wooden legs, loved to dance and sing. When I was little, I would always dance on top of his wooden legs. He spoiled me so much and was my idol,” stated Adkins. “In 1965, I was a ballroom instructor at the Fred Astaire Dance Studio. Then I got married and had children. Once my children were older, I asked my husband if I could go back and teach.”

Upon hearing this suggestion, the only thing her husband asked was, “Can you make any money?” For Pat Adkins, the answer was “Yes,” and the rest is history. Adkins is known throughout the county as a wellknown dance instructor. She has taught classes in a range of dance styles in Winston-Salem, Greensboro, Virginia, and other areas of Forsyth, Stokes, and Surry counties for the past 33 years. Now in her 70s, Adkins doesn’t let anything stop her from her love of dancing and teaching others is her passion.

“In 1994, I taught line dancing in King. Two years later, I wanted more, so I went to work for the Winston-Salem Recreation and Parks and Forsyth Tech as a senior line instructor.”

Adkins has been given many nicknames throughout the years, including “The Energizer Bunny” and has exemplified that nickname many times. While working at Winston-Salem Recreation and Parks and Forsyth Tech, she was also working at Hanes Hosiery and beginning a catering company. After retiring from the corporate world, Adkins’ dance schedule increased, as well as her geographical area for her classes.

“I learned and taught clogging, ballroom, Zumba, shag, country two-step, country waltz, country triple-step, partner cha-cha, baton, and many others in Greensboro, Forsyth, Stokes, and Surry counties, and in Virginia. At one time, I was traveling 520 miles a week and leading 35 classes.”

After losing her husband, her son told Adkins she had to slow down. Now, she still has a full schedule, but only teaches 18 classes a week with students between the ages of seven and 92.

STILL DANCING DURING CHALLENGING TIMES

Life took a turn during a span of three years. During this time, Adkins’ husband passed away, she moved out of her house and was diagnosed with cancer. While teaching dance on a cruise in 2016, she noticed she wasn’t feeling well and went to the doctor once back home.

“They did a chest x-ray and found a mass that covered my whole right lung. In November 2016, I had rotator cuff surgery and then on March 17, 2017, I had surgery that removed my right lung. My doctor said the surgery for the rotator cuff was my warning sign for lung cancer. I chose no chemotherapy because God told me not to, and I thought my dancing days were over. But I did 30 days of radiation treatment, full power. I cried, gave up, and got mad.”

However, cancer didn’t stop her from dancing and has allowed her to inspire others to persevere through challenges.

“I’m still here. I have been through too much to give up 30 years of what God gifted me with dancing.

I have been through 18 surgeries just to continue and with a ton of supporters. I can’t tell you how many people I have been blessed with meeting and sharing my passion. I ran into a friend who is a preacher and he said I should be a preacher just to show others how much faith I have in God.” Looking ahead, Adkins’ plan is to continue dancing and inspiring others. According to Adkins, there is nothing better than the enjoyment of a person learning to dance as long as that person is having fun.

“I have never failed being able to teach a person how to dance. With my surgeries and experience, you continue to fix what breaks and know you have had help from above because all of my prayers have been answered. Recently, I spoke with a friend who had breast cancer and was in a great deal of pain. I told her about my experience and to please keep the faith. She knows the pain I have been through as well and responded with, ‘I am tough, and I’m not letting you beat me.’ When you love what you do and love God, you can accomplish anything.”

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Boost Your Immune System Stay Healthy & Avoid the Yuckies!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Boosting your immune system can help you avoid getting sick, in addition to combatting an illness you might already have. The stronger your immune system, the better your overall health. Here are some tips and tidbits to improve your immune system so you will be more resistant and less susceptible to illnesses, viruses, and diseases.

AVOID THE “YUCKIES” - A key to avoiding the “yuckies” is prevention. Careful handwashing, keeping everything clean and sanitary with isopropyl (rubbing) alcohol and wearing a mask to avoid the spread of airborne bacteria are important healthy habits we’ve heard a lot about recently.

DAILY DEFENSIVE DIET - How much quality nutritional value are you getting in your daily diet? Aiming to eat a healthy variety of fresh, organic vegetables and fruits as well as fatty fish and sources of protein is vital to staying healthy.

SUPERFOODS FOR SUPERNUTRITION - What’s the food of choice for superheroes? Why, superfoods, of course. They may not allow you to scale up walls like a spider, fly like a bird, or use time travel, but they can make you feel like a super healthy superhuman. So what superfoods should you go for? Try adding turmeric, cinnamon, ginger, goji berries, chia seeds, garlic, and parsley to your dishes.

SIP & SAVOR - Rev up your gut health and get that microbiome in tip-top shape with fermented beverages like kombucha and kefir. Get those trillions of good bacteria ready to halt any invaders in their tracks! What else should you sip? Matcha and green tea are healthy choices rich in antioxidants and other benefits. Also, don’t miss out on the health benefits of fruit and vegetable juices and smoothies. Try adding some flax, hemp, and chia seeds to your bodacious beverages that do a body (and mind) good.

GET FIT & STAY HEALTHY - In addition to amping up your nutrition, staying physically active will also help boost your immune system. Be as consistent as possible.

Commit to that daily walk or run and wind down at the end of the day with a yoga class or simple stretching and deep breathing.

STRESS BE-GONE! Destress as much as possible. Avoid arguing, declutter a messy environment, and laugh your way through life. Stress can be detrimental physically and mentally to your health and happiness. It raises your level of cortisol, which can cause inflammation and wreak havoc on your immune system. Studies have shown that the less stressed we are, the better we function, and the less prone we are to developing illnesses, viruses, and diseases.

SWEET SLUMBER - Not overdoing your caffeine content can assist you in achieving a better night’s sleep, and getting enough sleep can help your immune system stay strong, as well as recover. Research has shown that those who are sleep deprived – not getting enough shut-eye – are more vulnerable to getting sick than those who are better rested.

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

Learning how to say “No” more, so your “Yes” can make more impact!

This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

“And for that reason, I’m out.” It’s my favorite line to quote from the show Shark Tank on ABC. I’ve only seen the show a handful of times, but the line resonates with me.

I used to give my answer to things too quickly – especially my “yes.” I didn’t give myself permission to really mull over the weight of what my “yes” really meant and instead would agree to things with hesitation rather than say no with guilt. The problem here is that we all know what happens when we say “yes” to things we shouldn’t have – resentment and regret.

As a business owner stepping into motherhood with some really big goals, I don’t have time to say “yes” to things that aren’t going to push the needle forward in my business or that don’t fulfill me, and I have a feeling that you don’t either.

When I first started putting more thought into why I was committing to things, it’s like a magic wand called “boundaries” was waved, and to be honest, I immediately knew I was never going back.

IF IT’S NOT A HECK YES, THEN IT’S A NO

Hone in on your “no” and learn to embrace the freedom behind it. If you are not on fire for something, then reserve that “yes” and move on! A tough lesson to learn and embrace is that every opportunity is not your opportunity. The same is to be said about opportunities, not all being created equal either. Trust that just because something comes along that you can say “yes” to, doesn’t mean that you need to. It’s also important to remember that a “no” right now doesn’t mean that same opportunity will never come along down the road when it feels more right. Trust your gut and learn to identify how you feel before you give that “yes,” and it will become even more powerful.

ASK YOURSELF THE TOUGH QUESTIONS

It may be surprising to know that a lot of the things we give our “yes” away to are our own requests of ourselves.

We sign up for too much and often add too many goals at once. Ultimately, we put burdens on our already full plates simply because we want to achieve more. There is nothing wrong with having hefty goals and doing things to push yourself towards them. The problem is we forget to prioritize or look at the big picture to see which tasks and projects are genuinely moving us forward toward success. Take a pause as you look at your to-do list and ask yourself if these tasks are a priority and moving the needle forward. Take inventory of your planner and your calendar and ask yourself if each meeting or commitment is really important to the big picture. Then, get in the habit of asking yourself these things before you say “yes”!

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FIND COMFORT IN THAT MIDDLE GROUND CALLED “MAYBE”

Like any other new step in your business or life, it’s sometimes best to ease into things. If you identify as a chronic “yes” person, saying no to something may be a little more difficult at first. If you have a hard time deciding if something is truly a “heck yes” opportunity or request, give yourself grace and offer a “maybe” in the meantime. You may need to take additional time before providing your response on something, and that is more than ok. Allow yourself to have some privacy and head space to review the pros and cons of something and evaluate if you want to say yes or no. Your “maybe” can be a placeholder that brings you comfort in times where you really aren’t ready to respond definitively.

Your time and talent are valuable, so don’t fall into the trap of giving either away to things that don’t deserve it and aren’t in your best interest. As you begin embracing the answer “no” more, you’ll soon find it’s the game-changer you’ve been looking for! Get excited for the “yes” moments that feel good and align you with what you want most in your business and your life.

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Julia Montgomery Street A 20th Century Forsyth County Woman

BY JULIA M. FALLON

Julia Montgomery Street was born Julia Lilly Montgomery in Concord, North Carolina in 1898 to Dr. and Mrs. Samuel Lewis Montgomery. Her father only lived two more years. Her mother, Elizabeth Norris Montgomery, took the children Amy, Bays and little Julia back to the family home in Apex, North Carolina. Julia Lilly, a precocious young reader, was fondly doted upon by the extended Norris family. Her happy upbringing included playing on the farm and at home in the small, Wake County railroad town.

Julia’s mother, Elizabeth, known as Lizzie, went to Peace College in Raleigh, and Julia also wanted to attend college. Sadly, Lizzie, passed away in Raleigh in 1914, but Julia Lilly’s dream remained. She wanted to honor her mother’s memory and attend college.

Julia graduated from Apex High School. As for her siblings, her brother, Bays, fought in World War I in the Cavalry, and sadly passed away in 1925 and was buried in Arlington National Cemetery. Her sister, Amy, married and moved to Kentucky in about 1915 with her own family, and later moved to California.

Julia kept in touch with the Apex and Raleigh relatives. She had a wonderful time while attending the first two years at The State Normal and Industrial School in Greensboro. At summer school in a UNC playwriting class taught

by Dr. Fred Koch were writers:

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Paul Green (The Lost Colony author), Thomas Wolfe, Bernice Kelly Harris and Legette Blythe. College money had run out, so she taught school for a couple of years with a two-year certificate. She then returned to Greensboro to finish at the newly named Women’s College.

The administrator told her that the schools in Forsyth County paid the highest in North Carolina, so after her 1923 graduation, she got a room and began teaching elementary school in Winston-Salem.

And there, in the spring of 1924, she met the love of her life: Dr. Claudius Augustus Street, the Forsyth County Doctor. A Harvard medical school educated doctor, he hailed from Linville Falls, North Carolina. When he saw her, he said to himself: “That’s my girl.” Of course, she did not know that until later!

Julia and Claude courted as they traveled the country roads while seeing his patients and getting to know one another. After one week, they were engaged, but had to wait until the fall because Julia had made a promise to work for the Children’s Home in Greensboro for the summer. So, a simple wedding was held in Raleigh, and they started their life. She visited Linville Falls after the wedding and grew to love the mountain people, and they later influenced her stories.

The Steets had two children: Carol Montgomery Street born in 1926 and Claudius Augustus Street (Gus) born in 1928. Dr. Street studied pediatric medicine at Washington University in St. Louis. The family returned to Forsyth County for him to establish one of the first pediatric practices in North Carolina. They then moved to Oaklawn Avenue.

Julia developed many friendships through the years including Ruth Prongay.

The Prongays have remained friends through four generations with the Streets and McMillans and the Fallons. Ruth and Julia started a Birthday Club that lasted for about 60 years!

Julia wrote stories and poems for Sunday School papers and magazines as well as radio scripts. She then published her first of seven historical NC books when she was 57.

They are: Fiddler’s Fancy 1955, NC Mountains, Moccasin Tracks 1958, Cherokees, Drover’s Gold 1961 Buncombe Turnpike, Dulcie’s Whale 1963 Ocracoke Island, Candle Love Feast 1959 reissued by Old Salem Inc. in 1991, Moravian Candle Love Feast. North Carolina Parade, 1965 with Richard Walser, North Carolina stories. Judaculla’s Handprint and Other North Carolina Mysteries, 1975, NC Ghost Stories. Poetry books: Street Lights and Salem Christmas Eve.

Mrs. Street won the American Association of University Women the Best Juvenile Book of the Year: Fiddler’s Fancy, Dulcie’s Whale and North Carolina Parade.

She received the Distinguished Service Award from UNCGreensboro for preserving North Carolina history for school children. She was the North Carolina Historian of the Year-West posthumously November 1992. She enjoyed book signings near the end of her life when Candle Love Feast was reissued by Old Salem, Inc. in 1991. In later years she wrote book reviews for the Suburbanite. She attended the North Carolina Writer’s Round Table and the North Carolina Writer’s Conference. Phone calls, visits and letters were also important. And, to help the community even more, she taught writing classes at the YWCA. Most of her classes produced a published author, for which she was extremely proud!

Mrs. Street loved the people of Forsyth County where she raised her children and cats! The Forsyth County Library was dear to her.

Hobbies were painting, knitting (including hospital preemie caps), sewing and volunteering as a pink lady at Forsyth Memorial.

She was a wonderful wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother. Julia Montgomery Street – truly a 20th Century Forsyth County Woman!

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The End of the Girlboss

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

It seems to be the end of an era…or simply the evolution? Over the past few months, we’ve watched major millennial feminist movements change immensely – two that set the stage for the “girlboss” movement: The Wing and the aptly named Girlboss organization. Is this truly the end of the bubble gum millennial pink moment, or are we taking steps to make sure our social justice movements start with people and not with dollars?

Let’s look at both The Wing and Girlboss. If you aren’t familiar, The Wing, formerly helmed by Audrey Gelman, went under fire after members and workers reported allegations that didn’t align with the touted values. The company has a dozen locations and raised nearly $117 million in its four years – and amid the social justice and equality awakening (and the allegations) cofounder Gelman stepped down. The Wing was touted as a utopia for women: beautiful (and expensive!) interiors, vanity areas, and mother’s rooms. With a mission of “professional, civic, social, and economic advancement of women through community,” it seemed like the perfect place for women to stretch and grow – “seemed” to be the opportune word, as many of the allegations are true. To top it off, funding and income have dried up in a COVID world.

Switching gears, you’ve got Girlboss’s Sophia Amoruso. You might have known her from her fashion company Nasty Gal, or her autobiography #GirlBoss, or the Netflix series, or the recent women’s network she ran – and stepped down from – after COVID “decimated” revenue and “derailed a high 8-figure partnership” according to an Instagram post.

But what does this all mean? In a world of women entrepreneurs that was excited to have a few rising stars and standouts (both of these women were seen as such), what happens to the idea of hashtag girlboss when the heroes have fallen? Will millennial pink survive?

I think what we’re witnessing is not only a civil rights movement, possibly one of the largest in our time, but also a sort of reckoning of the moment. Here’s an example: right now on Instagram, there are over 20 million posts that use the hashtag “Girlboss,” and that number jumps another few million with the plural and the additions of “quotes” and “life.” That being said, we are no longer seeking brands to simply make a statement regarding equality and equity – we as a nation are asking for the receipts: board reports, employee statements, and actions.

ACCOUNTABILITY.

Do I think this ends the Girlboss moment? The one that is touted with the hustle and millennial pink, beautifully lacquered with quotes on mugs and wall hangings. Yes AND: Yes, I think the accountability that we are seeing at a high level will filter down. Folks won’t be able to “just” post something on social media without incorporating action into their daily practices. AND, I think we’re ushering in a new moment, one that asks for social justice and action from individuals, not just brands, and requires people to do the work.

THIS IS EXCITING.

As much as it pains me to hear that two accomplished women I admired for the work they did are now being asked to answer for behaviors, I’m excited to take the next steps in an intersectional world of feminism that empowers all women, not just the highly groomed and lacquered ones with pretty quotes and colors. That mission isn’t on one or two individuals that are held to unrealistic standards of success – standards that most men aren’t held to (that’s another article!) – that mission is on all of us to make a difference.

The best part? It’s up to us what we want it to look like. Let’s go.

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Can I…? A Look at Popular Social Media Challenges & Trends

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Since it began, all forms of social media have taken off and influenced the world.

Through Facebook to Instagram and TikTok, millions of people log in each day and see what is happening around the world. For many, social media is the main source of news, videos, how-to’s, books, and more. It is also the place where people can be influenced by other people’s lives and try to replicate what they see. One way for people to try and “copy” others on social media is through the various challenges and trends that have popped up online throughout the years. These videos and pictures are sometimes crazy, confusing, and can raise the question, “How do you do that?” Let’s explore some of the past social media challenges that an impressive number of people have tried.

• The Harlem Shake: I remember watching videos of the Harlem Shake trend while in college. Popular during February 2013, the Harlem Shake can be described as a dance. One person would be in the middle of a group of people going about their ordinary lives. Then, during a certain part in the Harlem Shake song by Baauer, the whole group goes wild and breaks out into crazy moves.

• ALS Ice Bucket Challenge: One of the more well-known social media challenges is the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge.

Celebrities, athletes, politicians, and more took part in raising awareness and money for ALS, which is also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. In this challenge, people would film themselves dumping buckets of ice water onto their heads and then tag others to do the same. One of the main purposes of the task was to encourage others to donate. According to the ALS Association, $115 million was raised by the challenge during the summer of 2014.

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• The Mannequin Challenge: First appearing in October 2016, the Mannequin Challenge had people standing like mannequins while being filmed with background music. It was very popular with athletes.

• Bottle-Flipping Challenge: As a middle school teacher, this competition is still around today and can be very annoying. What you do is fill a plastic water bottle partway with water. Then, you toss it with the goal of having it land right-side up. Not much to it, yet, widely famous.

• The Planking Challenge: This contest was even referenced on the T.V. show, The Office.

Originating in 2008 and becoming wellknown in 2010 and 2011, planking first started in Australia and quickly spread like wildfire through social media. All people do is lay flat on a surface, any surface, and share a picture of themselves. Let’s just say an Internet search can show some of the odder places people have planked, such as on top of store signs and on store shelves.

• The Running Man Challenge: Many people know the Running Man as a famous dance. It was reinvented in March 2016 when the University of Maryland basketball players filmed themselves doing the said dance.

The trend became a favorite among the NCAA, collegiate basketball teams, and baseball teams. In addition, the Running Man was made famous through Instagram, Twitter, and The Ellen Show.

• The Broom Challenge: Shortly before COVID-19 became the topic of discussion, the Broom Challenge was making waves on the Internet and fascinating many people. The task is pretty simple: get a broom to stand upright without leaning it against anything or anyone holding it up.

There are many theories as to whether or not the Broom Challenge is actually true or fake. One now-debunked theory, is that the broom has a low center of gravity that allows it to stand on its bristles.

Whatever caused it to happen or not, one thing is for sure: the challenge caused many people to scratch their heads and wonder how a broom stands on its bristles.

As social media continues to be present in our lives, the challenges will keep coming. Who knows, maybe a video or picture you and your friends posted of all of you doing something interesting will go viral and become the next popular trend.

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BY AMY HILL

Foodies and dining-out enthusiasts have avoided withdrawals over the last few months by having their favorite local restaurant meals delivered straight to their front doors. As a driver for a food delivery service, I have braved the outside world to deliver meals to customers throughout the COVID-19 lockdown and have lived to tell the tale.

On a positive note, the pandemic has made my job busier than ever, which is a blessing given the current state of the economy.

What used to be a slow Tuesday night is now as busy as a Friday or Saturday night shift. Unfortunately, the drastic turn from bustling restaurants to radio silence was sobering the first few weeks of lockdown. And while the lack of traffic and customers waiting in the restaurants made my deliveries faster, the novelty of new safety protocols for takeout was initially confusing and inconsistent for everyone.

Thankfully, more people are leaving home to dine out and restaurants are starting to fill up again. In spite of this, food delivery is still more popular than ever.

With over a year of experience, I’ve learned the ins and outs of what to expect from customers and restaurants, as well as how to be a better customer when I order delivery for myself.

TIPPING YOUR DRIVER – YES, PLEASE! The great thing about using apps for food delivery is you don’t need cash on hand to leave a tip for your driver. Just select a percentage or enter a custom amount to be charged to your card. Don’t feel pressured to leave a cash tip if you’ve already tipped in the app.

While this is a rare occurrence, it is a treat nonetheless.

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PROBLEMS AT PICK-UP – A SUB-PAR SUBSTITUTE?

Drivers frequently run into issues when a menu item the customer ordered is no longer available, or the restaurant has a question about how the food should be prepared. I have contacted many customers to inform them the diner is out of their favorite cookie or side item (which makes me die a little inside each time). Although it’s tempting to order your food and carry on your merry way, keep an eye on your phone in case the driver needs to contact you. You don’t want to end up with a substitute that you don’t like or wouldn’t have chosen.

UTENSILS & CONDIMENTS – DON’T FORGET!

Be sure to specify whether you need utensils or extra condiments when you order, especially if your food is being delivered to your workplace. I once delivered a piping hot plate of fajitas with beans and rice to a guy at work, only to discover that he had nothing to eat it with. Lesson learned…. Make your utensil needs known loud and clear before check-out. If you forget, contact the driver before he or she has left the restaurant to request any extras.

UPON ARRIVAL First: Help Me Find You! There is nothing that makes my life as a driver easier than a well-lit porch and a visible house number on a mailbox. To decrease the odds of your driver delivering your food to the wrong house (it happens), your house number should be easy to read from the street, especially on a dark or rainy night. Although your driver should contact you if he is unsure about where to deliver the food, some give up too easily.

Don’t worry, though - your customer rating will serve as karma, and you can contact customer support through the app if you need to.

Second: Make It Easy on Me Another way deliveries can take a nasty turn for drivers is by running into spider webs or getting stung by bees while waiting at your front door. Try to be mindful of what creatures are lurking on your porch, or which garden gnomes your driver may trip over.

Also, while I am a cat person, I love dogs, too – just not jumping all over me trying to get the Chipotle I’m holding over my head.

Third: We Deliver Food ONLY Please, whatever you do, don’t answer the door in a towel (and nothing else).

Additionally, texting your driver after the delivery and asking him or her on a date is not usually welcome (unless you’re a six-foot tall doctor who likes Mexican food and can tolerate cats, of course. In that case, feel free to text me).

FINAL THOUGHTS

For the time being, food delivery is a great substitute for a night out. It’s quick, convenient, and allows you to safely support local restaurants during these difficult times. Once it’s safe to throw caution to the wind again, however, please don’t forget about us!

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BY SARA MIGLIARESE

RELATIONSHIPS MATTER TO YOUR HEALTH & YOUR HEART America is experiencing a “loneliness epidemic.”

According to a study conducted by the National Opinion Research Center and recently referenced by the WinstonSalem Journal, 50% of Americans reported that they often or sometimes felt isolated. This figure is up 23% from data reported in 2018. Lack of companionship was reported by 45% of this sample, up by 27%. This data was gathered before the COVID-19 pandemic, which has presumably inflated these statistics due to sheltering at home and social distancing, both necessary and proactive in helping lower the spread of the COVID -19 infection.

This data matters to every American but is especially important for older adults. Loneliness impacts happiness as well as health, but even more so as we age. In the July 2020 issue of The Rotarian, the national magazine of Rotary International, an article on longevity highlighted a Harvard study that found that relationships “are the key to happiness throughout adulthood.” In addition to the emotional benefits of connections to other people, the physical benefits can be as simple as increased physical activity and as amazing as influencing factors that predispose adults to dementia. The CDC and other leading researchers in the area of social isolation are shining a light on the negative health impacts now exacerbated by losing physical connections during the pandemic. “Many people don’t realize or know that social isolation poses health risks that are comparable to smoking and being physically inactive,” said Marcia G. Ory, Ph.D., MPH, founding, and co-director of the Texas A&M Center for Population Health and Aging.

According to the CDC, stress from social isolation can manifest in a variety of ways, including: • Worrying about personal health and the health of loved ones • Changes in sleep, eating and activity habits • Difficulty sleeping that can include nightmaresand upsetting thoughts • Difficulty concentrating • Worsening of chronic health problems • Feelings of disbelief, anxiety, and fear • Increased substance abuse

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The CDC recommends several personal measures that people can implement to support themselves and lessen the stress of sheltering at home during the pandemic.

1. Take breaks from watching, reading, or listening to the news if it is consuming your day.

2. Listen to your body and take care of it. Try meditating, doing deep breathing exercises, stretching, eating healthy, exercising regularly, and getting plenty of sleep.

3. Seek help when needed, if stress or anxieties persist for more than several days.

4. Stay socially connected while physically apart.

According to the CDC, those at the highest risk for severe illness from COVID-19— and the most likely taking extensive measures to socially distance—are at the most risk for loneliness and isolation. The CDC has important information for older adults who may be at greater risk for more serious and life-threatening outcomes if they contract COVID-19. Visit the link below for a detailed list of precautions cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/need-extra-precautions/older-adults.html.

An unwanted consequence of the lack of physical activity during social isolation is the increased risk for falling. About 1 in 3 older adults fell at least once per year before the pandemic, and it is logical to foresee an increase in the number of older adults that fall and sustain serious injuries as a result of less physical activity, less social connection, and more feelings of loneliness.

Before the pandemic, many older adults were staying physically and socially active through exercise classes at YMCAs, Senior Centers, or churches. These options are not available as our community navigates the pandemic, leaving older adults to search for virtual/online options for exercising their body and their mind. Many YMCAs offer free exercise classes through Facebook for members and nonmembers, and share these links on their websites. Winston-Salem State University provides virtual fall risk screenings and virtual Otago exercise classes designed to increase strength and balance while decreasing fall risk. Contact aclfallsgrant@wssu.edu for more information.

The website below from Central Ohio Primary Care provides great suggestions for addressing fall risk during the pandemic. copcp.com/Articles/Details/54-preventing-falls-during-the-covid-19-pande If you or someone you know or love is feeling socially isolated and lonely, get connected and stay connected. Maintaining relationships during COVID-19 could save lives, especially the life of an older adult. Relationships are good medicine for heart and health.

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4-6pm, The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem (ONLINE). Be ready when auditions start up again with this great online audition skills camp for kids 12-18, taught by actor/educator Jess Barbour! Feel comfortable learning dance moves, doing cold reads, putting together a video audition and more! Cost: $125/person. www.ltofws.org/summer-camps

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 3, 2021

“TRAVEL ADVENTURE” EXHIBIT

INTRODUCING TAKE-N-BAKE MEALS

Get a restaraunt-quality meal served hot at home. Choose some of our favorites for an amazing dinner tonight!

Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. You can go ANYWHERE – over land, sea or air – in the new exhibit! Using LEGO® bricks, visitors can think creatively to plan and build vehicles to move through all kinds of terrain, including mountains, jungles, oceans and deserts…just to name a few! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. https://kaleideum.org/

AUGUST 6

FORSYTH MAGS DRIVE-THRU!

5:30-7:30pm, Piedmont Federal Savings Bank parking lot, 201 South Stratford Street in W-S. Bring your school supply donations for the Educator Warehouse and enter for a chance to win a $25 or $50 gift card to a local restaurant, boutique or salon! For more information and details, visit our Forsyth Magazines Facebook or Instagram pages.

AUGUST 10-14

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BROADWAY BEATS! ONLINE SUMMER CAMP

1-4pm, The Little Theatre of WinstonSalem (ONLINE). Set to some of the most upbeat songs from Broadway, this dynamic camp includes fun choreography, scenes & monologues, acting games and more! Sign up now for our one week, online, musical theatre summer camp for kids 11-15.

Cost: $150/person. www.ltofws.org/ summer-camps

AUGUST 11

SALEM BAND “VISION” CONCERT

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Butcher’s Pie . . . . . . . . . . . $12 with Cheddar Biscuits

Mama’s Mac-N-Cheese . . $10 60 South Salmon . . . . . . $16 o

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Whole Poulet Rouge . . . . $20 with Veggies

Soup (Quart) . . . . . . . . . . . $10 Veggie Love . . . . . . . . . . . $10

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7:30pm, Salem Square, Academy & Main Streets. Music by the Eagles, Ray Charles and Elton John, plus Harry Potter, James Bond and more.

Pre-concert music by the Salem Band Tuba Quartet. All concerts free in Salem Square, Old Salem. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site.

Established in 1771, Salem Band is the oldest, continuous mixed wind ensemble in the nation. Rain Date – August 14th. www.salemband.org www.facebook.com/SalemBandFan/

AUGUST 14-16

HAYLEY PAIGE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

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ACE YOUR AUDITION! ONLINE SUMMER CAMP

AUGUST 28-SEPTEMBER 8 BLUSH BY HAYLEY PAIGE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

SEPTEMBER 20

BEETHOVEN LIVES! SALEM BAND CONCERT

3pm, Hanes Auditorium, Salem College FAC, 500 East Salem Avenue in W-S. The music of Beethoven and his contemporaries, Haydn and Mozart, will create a program of beauty, familiarity and comfort as we explore just how alive Beethoven remains in the hearts and minds of today’s music lovers. Original works for band, a transcription of “Allegretto from Symphony No.7,” marches and a unique take on Beethoven’s 5th, “Four: On a Remix of Beethoven,” make up this exciting classical program. Established in 1771, Salem Band is the oldest, continuous mixed wind ensemble in the nation. www.salemband.org

SEPTEMBER 21-26

YOGA FOR HEALTHY AGING INTENSIVE

9am-12pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in W-S. Join medical doctor Baxter Bell and Melina Meza for an enlightening and informative program that focuses on practical strategies for a lifetime of vitality and well-being. This intensive includes expert medical information and adapted yoga postures for maintaining physical, mental and emotional wellness. Practitioners learn to set themselves up for a lifetime of healthy living; 200-hour yoga teachers have the opportunity to receive Yoga for Healthy Aging certification.

Cost: $800-$1,000/person.

SEPTEMBER 26

SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED

BY BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB

9am-12pm, Bermuda Run Town Hall Parking Lot, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. $5 per brown bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine. Proceeds go to various Davie County community programs supported by the Garden Club.

SEPTEMBER 26

HANDS-ON HISTORY DAY

11am-4pm, Historic Bethabara Park, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. Experience the tools and trades of colonial Bethabara. Try your hand at indigo dyeing, woodworking and blacksmithing. historicbethabara.org

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Conversations with Your BFF Why Is This

BY REBECCA COOPER

Person in My Life?

I recently had a long chat with a friend of mine in Virginia about a man who has been in her life in many roles, from a friend to a lover. She continues to be bewildered by why he is even involved with her, since he doesn’t seem to bring anything of significant value, in hindsight, to her existence. My friend and I share the belief that nothing is a coincidence, so everyone that crosses our path is meant for some reason. But when your heart continues to yearn for more from someone not able to give you more, why do they remain in your life, and why does God allow them to keep turning up like a bad penny? I’m so glad you asked!

A BLESSING OR A LESSON?

I have no doubt that there is a reason your heart moves toward a specific person and a reason why you get attached to certain people more than others. At my age, when I look back, there’s not one person I got really attached to who didn’t have something valuable to teach me, a lesson, or who didn’t remain in my life, enriching it, as a blessing. The ones who were a lesson were usually temporary because their ultimate job was to show me a different way and then set me free.

For myself, I can see that the stages of my life have determined what kind of people come along, just at the perfect time. I think of times when looking into the next hour was too much work, and it was at those times that my encouragers, those cheerleaders, came along and picked me up to see at least to tomorrow. They helped me see the best in me, that I was more than a particular chapter in my life.

Perhaps there are those people who are just present during a certain time when what they can impart to you on your journey is needed. They come into your life and then move along.

Knowing they aren’t meant to stay in our life forever is sometimes a hard lesson, but the essence of letting go is having faith in what is meant to be.

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FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS Many times we try to hang onto those temporary people and make them a permanent fixture in our lives, no matter how circumstances line up to remove them. We get into the mindset, like my BFF in Virginia, of why would God allow this person in my life if they weren’t meant to stay there forever?

After about an hour talking with my friend, I made the case of maybe these people are teaching us how to let go, how to detach, how to realize when someone’s part in your story is over, and have faith that the next person will add more to your life.

I truly believe that the day we meet those forever

friends or soulmates, we’ll be able to spot them from a mile away, because we finally understand the difference between, as I recently read, ‘someone who touches our hand and someone who touches our soul.’ It is the soul touchers that become our friends who share the good and not so good times, dries your tears and knows when all you need is to sit quietly and cry, with a shoulder to lean on. The older we get, the more we realize that time is precious and spending it with those who enrich our lives is where we should invest.

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