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APRIL 2020 Happy April! It’s officially spring now and I’m loving this beautiful weather! As we all know though, NC weather does not respect seasons. Hopefully, the spring will prevent winter from throwing any lastminute snowstorms our way. But I love spring, and it’s always been my favorite season. I enjoy listening to the birds sing and seeing the buds on the trees. It makes me giddy with excitement!

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This is an extra-special April for my family and me as my nephew and his beautiful wife and four children are moving back to the states!

They have been stationed overseas – first in Germany and then Guam – for so long! We are elated! While their new home will be in Arizona, it’s much closer and won’t require a passport!

My great-nephews range between newborn and 14….

It will be great to see them more frequently, along with my six other great-nieces and nephews! Family is so important! I cannot wait to have my family all together soon!

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Speaking of family, I do want to share this really neat family photo. Our family has a pattern of welcoming a new baby every ten years, and somehow, they are always girls! Pictured: Kelley, my oldest niece, was born in 1980 Brooke, my daughter, was born in 1990 Alexandra, another niece, was born in 2000 Emma, my oldest great-niece, was born in 2010 My soon-to-be-youngest niece (name TBD) will be born in 2020 We also want to take a moment to thank each of you for participating in the 2020 Readers’ Survey!

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Dealing with a Hostile Ex? Blamers? Online Flamethrowers?

If you’ve got high-conflict people in your life, you’re probably no stranger to angry text messages or long, blaming emails. Maybe you’ve even been the target of a social media meltdown. The insults hurt, and when someone throws you under the bus, it’s hard not to hit back with some harsh words of your own. But experts in high-conflict communication say that’s not the best response.

While launching a kneejerk, retaliatory verbal missile of your own might make you feel vindicated for a moment, it will only escalate the conflict, which guarantees that more hurt will soon be on its way back to you. And, because you’ve now gotten down in the mud yourself, it is hard to feel good about your response—you’re better than this. But...if you don’t fight fire with fire, what can you do? You can’t ignore them, so how should you respond to hotheads, blamers, and antagonists?

Fortunately, there is a better way. It’s BIFF. BIFF is an acronym that stands for brief, informative, friendly, and firm. BIFF is a four-part way to respond to insults, accusations, and hurtful comments. A BIFF response not only puts a stop to hostilities, but also leaves you feeling good about yourself. A BIFF response is: BRIEF. When your response is brief, it gives the other person very little to respond to. So even if what you received from the other person was several pages long, it’s important to keep your response short.

Three or four sentences is usually sufficient – saying too much risks kindling an argument.

INFORMATIVE. Provide only information; keep your response void of emotion, opinion, argument, drama, and defense. In a Psychology Today article, Bill Eddy, the Training Director at the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, explained, “You don’t need to defend yourself when another person is being hostile. It’s not about you. It’s about their inability to manage their emotions and responses. Just stay focused on providing relevant information.”

FRIENDLY. Start with a friendly greeting. Show some empathy for the other person, and be sure to close on a positive, friendly note. This can have a calming effect on the other person which may help deescalate the situation. It also demonstrates that you have good self-control.

FIRM. End your note or bring the conversation to a close. The idea is to prevent the situation from segueing into an argument. If you need an answer from the other person, request a yes or no by a certain date or time, or offer two choices. Then end on a friendly note as described above.

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Be BIFF!

BY DEBBIE BARR

In his Psychology Today article, Bill Eddy described a letter from a fired employee to her former human resources manager. In the letter, the disgruntled woman made statements such as, “You had no right to ruin my career...” and “Your corrupt company will be exposed sooner or later.” She also said she had asked three times for a list of her previous job duties “and you refuse to respond.”

The human resources manager’s first draft response was defensive, saying the company had done nothing wrong. He reminded her that she should not set foot on company property and told her, “We will have you arrested if you attempt to do so.” Eddy notes that this response was brief and informative, but not friendly and firm, and thus guaranteed to trigger more hostility. The manager rewrote the letter, this time using BIFF as a guideline: Dear Roberta, I’m glad you are making progress and getting interviews. I really want you to find a company that’s a good fit for you. I am attaching a copy of your job duties. I hope that helps! Best wishes! --Jerry This letter checks all the boxes! It’s brief, informative, friendly and firm.

Very likely, it defused Roberta’s hostility and ended the conversation.

If you would like to learn more about using the BIFF method, you can enroll in an online course on the High Conflict Institute website (highconflictinstitute.com). Many courses cost as little as $20. Course topics include, How to Write a BIFF Response; Who Are High Conflict People?; Dealing With High Conflict People in Court; and Is Divorce Mediation for You? Customized training and individual consults are also available.

Reference: Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, BIFF: 4 Ways to Respond to Hostile Comments, Psychology Today.com, September 30, 2018.

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No, No, Fido!

Human Foods You Should NEVER Feed Your Dog

BY DEBBIE BARR

It’s been a long, crazy day. Finally, you sit down and flip on the TV, and there she is: the Lindor lady.

She’s about to “take a moment... to unwrap and unwind with...a milk chocolate shell with a smooth, melting center.” As her eyes close and she bites into the chocolate euphoria, you decide to “take a moment,” too. You dig through your purse until you find…not one, but two pieces of wrapped chocolate! Your dog looks up at you as if to say she needs a moment, too. So you decide to share: one for you, one for Fido.

Then you remember: chocolate is toxic to dogs! (Sorry, Fido.)

The harmful ingredients in chocolate, theobromine and caffeine, are present to varying degrees in cocoa powder, both unsweetened and sweetened baking chocolate, dark chocolate, and milk chocolate. According the Merck/Merial Manual for Veterinary Health, “One ounce of milk chocolate per pound of body weight is a potentially lethal dose in dogs.” Rule of thumb: the darker the chocolate, the more potentially toxic it is. White chocolate, therefore, is not toxic.

Every dog owner should be aware of the human foods that could be harmful or lethal to dogs. In addition to chocolate, there are at least 10 other foods that dogs should never eat:

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1. GRAPES.

7. CHERRIES.

Grapes, both fresh and dried (raisins), are dangerous to dogs. Ingesting grapes or raisins can cause sudden acute kidney failure.

Cherries are dangerous for dogs, not because of the fleshy part of the fruit, but because the pit, stems, and leaves all contain the poison cyanide. If you suspect your dog has eaten cherries, and you notice that your pet is having trouble breathing, has red gums, and/or dilated pupils, call your vet.

2. AVOCADOS. The leaves, pit, and skin of avocados can cause vomiting and diarrhea in dogs. The culprit is a toxin called persin. The fleshy part of the avocado contains less persin, but it’s still risky for your dog.

8. ICE CREAM.

Xylitol is a sugar substitute that is used in candy, gum, baked goods, and some peanut butters—so be a label reader. Dogs are the only species that is harmed by xylitol. It stimulates a rapid release of insulin that can cause hypoglycemia (low blood sugar). Signs of this can include vomiting, weakness, seizures, and coma. Xylitol can also cause liver damage.

This caveat doesn’t apply to all dogs. Believe it or not, some dogs—maybe yours—are lactose intolerant. Like many humans, some dogs lack the enzyme that allows them to digest milk, which is used to make other dairy products such as ice cream, cheese, and yogurt. If your dog is lactose intolerant, milk, ice cream, and other dairy products will cause reactions like diarrhea, vomiting, and loose stools.

4. MACADAMIA NUTS.

9. ONIONS.

3. XYLITOL.

Macadamia nuts are not fatal to dogs, but they can definitely make them sick. Ingesting macadamia nuts can cause vomiting, ataxia (lack of muscle coordination), weakness, tremors, and depression.

Macadamia nuts are the only nuts toxic to dogs.

5. RAW EGGS. Cooked eggs are a healthy snack for dogs. Raw eggs, however, put dogs, like people, at risk for salmonella.

Raw eggs also contain an enzyme that prevents dogs from absorbing biotin. Over time, this can result in a biotin deficiency. Biotin is a B vitamin that dogs need for digestion, metabolism, and healthy skin.

6. BREAD DOUGH. While bread won’t hurt your dog, raw bread dough will. In the stomach, which is warm and moist, yeast grows and ferments. The fermentation creates ethanol, which enters the bloodstream, causing intoxication, central nervous system depression, and sometimes seizures and death.

According to the American Kennel Club, “All parts of the onion plant are toxic to dogs, including the flesh, leaves, juice, and processed powders. Raw or cooked, fried or powdered, onions and the rest of the allium family (garlic, shallots, leeks, and chives) are harmful to dogs.” Eating onions and garlic can break down red blood cells and make dogs anemic. You can learn more at akc.org.

10. CINNAMON. While cinnamon isn’t exactly toxic to dogs, eating it can make your dog very uncomfortable. It irritates the inside of the dog’s mouth, lowers blood sugar, and if your dog breathes in cinnamon, it can cause breathing difficulty, coughing, or choking.

If you suspect your dog has ingested chocolate or another toxic substance, call your vet or the Pet Poison Helpline (855-213-6680).

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Keeping It Real A FANATIC’S VIEW OF RESURRECTION

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

What memories does Easter conjure up for you? I vividly remember matching Easter dresses Grandma made for Mama, my sister, and me.

I can almost smell the ham cooking before the huge family feast. And backyard Easter egg hunts were always an adventure!

Oh yeah, somewhere in all the celebration, we attended Church.

Mama insisted.

If you’d asked me, I’d have said she was a little fanatical about the whole “Jesus thing.” Seriously. She actually thought a person’s view about Jesus’ Resurrection impacted everything they believed about everything else!

(Told you she was a fanatic!)

So much has changed since then.

I’ve experienced a lot of life. I’ve attended some great schools, studied a myriad of views and worldviews. I’ve encountered gracious people from diverse cultures around the world. I’ve experienced seasons of doubt. Other times, I seemed to have the wind at my back. Through it all, I’ve learned a life-changing truth: Mama was right.

Indeed, what we believe about Jesus’ Resurrection impacts everything we believe about everything else! (Yes, I have become the fanatic!)

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If there’s no Resurrection, so much we consider vitally important really isn’t significant at all. Think about it. If there’s no Resurrection, why not succumb to every reckless, destructive urge? Why not take what I want, no matter whom it hurts? Why not live for the moment with no concern for tomorrow? None of it matters. After all, I'm just a clump of cells . . . unless there’s a Resurrection.

Why does it matter what I believe? All viewpoints are equally valid…well, except Christianity. It’s the “opiate of the masses,” Marx explained, a crutch giving false hope to naïve pushovers. In fact, Christianity is so misleading that it should be banned from society…unless there’s a Resurrection.

Who cares how I get ahead? If self-discipline and character do not serve me, I can toss it to the wind. Faithfulness in marriage?

Why? Forgiveness? Never! “An eye for an eye”, right? Get even!

Let the defenseless care for themselves. What's it got to do with me? They’re eventually going to die anyway. WE ALL ARE. Then what? Nothing! It’s all hollow, all hopeless…. …unless there’s a Resurrection.

See? Everything we believe about everything does indeed hinge on the reality of the Resurrection. If Jesus didn’t really die that tortuous death for our sake, if He did not physically rise that Easter morning, then this journey called life is ultimately pointless. But if the He did conquer death and humiliate the grave, everything changes! Resurrection means He really is who He says He is, and we really are who He says we are! If Jesus truly defeated every power by His ultimate Power, then life has purpose. I matter. What I do matters. There’s value to my living beyond what I presently see.

If the Resurrection is real, then Jesus is undeniably the Son of God, so I can believe what He says. Get this!

Christ says, when we invite Him to dwell in us, He infuses us with Resurrection power also. We endure defeated, directionless lives no more! We overcome!

I don’t know what you believe about Jesus’ Resurrection. Perhaps you have always believed it, but realize you’ve never wholeheartedly embraced its truth. Or maybe it’s all a little over-the-top for you.

Maybe you’re pretty sure that people like me take this whole “Jesus thing” entirely too seriously.

You’re probably right. I sound like a foolish fanatic...that is, unless there’s a Resurrection.

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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TIME TO GET TONED

BY KIM SMITH

So you’re going to the gym and eating right, and yet you still can’t quite get those toned abs you desire. Time to give up hope?

The professionals at Forsyth Plastic Surgery [FPS] say, “Don’t give up – we now have CoolTone by CoolSculpting.”

“Our new CoolTone machine brings the latest technology to body sculpting,” says Dr. John Fagg, one of the partners at Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “Using powerful, but safe, magnets, our CoolTone technology stimulates your muscles to strengthen and enlarge them, leading to a more toned look.”

Forsyth Plastic Surgery is the first plastic surgery practice in the area to feature CoolTone, which can not only tone abdominal muscles but also your thighs and buttocks. The machine is one of the many new technologies at The VISTA, the practice’s new center for face and body rejuvenation.

“We’ll start with whatever area you want to focus on,” says Dr. Andy Schneider, another partner at FPS. “When you come to The VISTA you’ll meet with our highly trained staff and be evaluated for this new technology. If you want to focus on the buttocks, then we will start there.”

CoolTone treatments are not painful and last just 30 minutes. During the treatments, your muscles are intensely stimulated using CoolTone’s patented Magnetic Muscle Stimulation technology. For maximum benefit, you will need to do four treatments in a 2-week period.

“Once you have your four treatments, you’ll need to maintain that tone by doing occasional treatments,” says Dr. Gil Kingman. “Nothing is permanent, so most patients will come in monthly.”

Dr. George Lawson says that CoolTone works very well with CoolSculpting. “Sometimes, we’ll start with CoolSculpting to get rid of your unwanted fat,” he explains. “And then we will move onto CoolTone.”

Some patients, however, may not need CoolSculpting and will come in primarily for toning. “It’s important to understand that this does not take the place of exercise and a healthy lifestyle,” says Dr. Leslie Branch. “But this is great technology for those areas that are just not responding to your best effort.”

Lead aesthetician Gina Racca sums it up this way: “This is not for people who are resistant to exercise, but rather for those areas of the body that are resistant to the exercise you are already doing.”

For more information, contact Forsyth Plastic Surgery’s The VISTA at 336-765-8620 and visit forsythplasticsurgery.com or thevistanc.com.

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C L U B P I L AT E S ® W I N S TO N S A L E M

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN, PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM PHOTOGRAPHY A few years ago, a friend of mine asked me to come to a fitness class with her. Classes are usually not my thing – I prefer to quietly read on an elliptical or take a dance class where I’m more playing with the music than following instructions that I might be doing wrong. I went because my friend insisted it was different and fun.

I remember leaving that one class and feeling like I used all of my core muscles at once in the best way possible – and my friend was 100% right.

That class was Pilates, and WinstonSalem is excited to welcome our very own Club Pilates studio led by Kristin Henry. I got a chance to chat with Kristin about Pilates, the new studio, and why you should give one of their free intro classes a try.

For those that aren’t familiar, Pilates is a physical fitness system developed by Joseph Pilates and focusing on the art of controlled movements that feel like a workout.

It emphasizes alignment, breathing, core strength, coordination, and balance. Kristin was practicing yoga after the end of a relationship when she first discovered – and fell in love with Pilates. “For me,” she smiled, “it combined yoga, martial arts, and gymnastics all in one place.”

After taking, then teaching, classes with another Club Pilates studio (the franchise started in 2007 in San Diego), Kristin was looking for a place to move when the time came to leave the southwest. She and her husband landed in Winston-Salem by happenstance, “We were looking for somewhere by our families, and ideally halfway between Atlanta and DC, and Winston-Salem was perfect.” The possibility turned into a reality, and the opportunity to

open her own Club Pilates became very real this past January: and at the time of our conversation, the Club was fast approaching 300 members.

“The community responded… before we officially opened, we had almost 100 members, ranging from people new to Pilates to people that had practiced before,” said Kristin, “We have more than 50 classes a week at a variety of times.” This last part is key: how often have you wanted to go to a class, but it fell smack dab in the middle of your work day? Kristin offers a studio with classes for the modern schedule — classes begin as early as 6am and run as late as 7:30pm. They also have lunch time and weekend classes available.

Pilates is one of those activities that can be done by a wide spectrum of people – I have pretty serious knee issues from older injuries and I appreciate the low impact on my knees. Don’t get nervous looking up the studio and seeing machinery, though. “The machines are there as a tool to lighten the load,” said Kristin. “It’s really up to you and your body.”

Want to see if Pilates might be right for you? Take a quick moment to check in on your posture: are you spending a lot of time hunched over at a computer? Do you worry about how your neck and back feel from driving, sitting, or even slouching all day? You could probably benefit from Pilates! “Pilates is a whole lifestyle adjustment. When you do Pilates, you do life,” said Kristin. She knows this more than anyone: the studio isn’t just an entrepreneurial venture for her and aside from being the owner, she is a master trainer, training, and mentoring all of the instructors at the studio.

If you’re interested in joining the community at Club Pilates, you can sign up for a free intro class on their website at ClubPilates.com/Location/WinstonSalem. Club Pilates is located on the lower level of Thruway shopping center near Hanes, 371 Lower Mall Drive, Winston-Salem, NC 27103. For more information, visit their website, call 336.717.1222, or email winstonsalem@clubpilates.com.

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APRIL SHOWERS BRING SPRING FLOWERS - Yes, we have heard this before.

Unfortunately for many, April typically brings lots of allergens.

Keith Biggs, OD

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.

– 1 Chronicles 16:34

Also, I am hearing something else on the news recently. 2020 is expected to be a very bad allergy season for persons who suffer from seasonal allergens. If the spring allergens are not enough, there are more throughout the year tree pollen, for example, pops up in the spring (generally in late March to April), grass pollen arrives in the late spring (around May), weed pollen is most prevalent in the summer (July to August), and ragweed pollen takes over from summer to fall (late August to the first frost). And even worse news: climate change means allergy season begins earlier and lasts longer according to experts in this field of study.

The spring season is notorious for causing people a lot of misery. Itchy, watery, and painful eyes can make the prettiest time of year the most dreaded. There is good news for those of you who suffer from seasonal allergies - relief is available.

Your eyes can overreact more than any other body part. When pollen starts falling, you probably suffer from a condition called allergic conjunctivitis or ocular allergy. It happens when something you are allergic to affects the conjunctiva, which is the membrane that covers your eye and eyelid.

The reason your eyes turn red, itchy, watery, and painful is that your immune system says, “Something is in the air, which is making me uncomfortable.” This “something” or threat is considered an allergen. Since your immune system believes it’s harmful to you, it stimulates the production of antibodies called Immunoglobulin (IgE). These antibodies are what end up causing an allergic reaction – your eyes become inflamed and irritated.

This is especially true when the pollen count is high on certain days.

WHAT TO DO ABOUT OCULAR ALLERGIES Ocular allergies pose no threat to your eyesight, and they are not contagious. It’s not like pink eye, even though the redness can appear like it. The allergic reaction can impact sufferers’ quality of life, as it causes blurry vision, constant rubbing of the eyes, redness, and just being miserable.

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To treat, make an appointment with your eye care provider. An allergy test can be performed to confirm if the problems are due to pollen and/or mold spores.

You can obtain a lot of information on the internet about how to treat allergies with items such as antihistamines, nasal sprays, decongestants, staying inside on windy days, delaying yard work when the pollen count is high, and so much more. However, when it is eye-related, see a doctor, have the allergy test, and be treated by a professional.

Summit Eye Care performs the allergy testing for patients, which helps identify the culprit causing the misery. In most cases, insurance covers the testing.

Beware that not all of the red, itching eyes are caused by allergens. Your eye care provider will make this determination and give the best guidance for treatment, whatever the cause.

Summit Eye Care is located in Winston-Salem. In addition to performing allergy testing, Summit Eye Care provides premium cataract surgery, treatment for diabetic and glaucoma patients with the latest in laser technology, in-office surgical procedures, routine eye care, including contact lens as well as specialty contact lens fittings. Our practice is the only designated Dry Eye Center in Winston-Salem, and we diagnose and treat all types of dry eye problems. Request a date for your examination today: 336-765-0960.

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GREENER PASTURES: A NEW HOME FOR ALKALI HAIR STUDIO

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

When I moved to Winston-Salem from NYC, I was worried. Not for the reasons everyone thought – I really wanted a quieter life, so I wasn’t afraid of a lack of things to do.

My real fear?

I was terrified I wouldn’t find a hairstylist.

Consider it: if you have a great hairdresser, you’re golden. Pull it back, wear it messy, do it up – healthy and happy hair can do all of this and more. I set out and went to a bunch of places, and I was always disappointed at the results and felt like I wouldn’t be at home if I had to wear my hair in a ponytail forever or go back to NYC to get my haircut. Finally, someone recommended Alkali Hair Studio, and I met Colleen, one of the amazing and talented hairstylists at Alkali.

She asked me how long I wanted to spend on my hair in the morning and what kind of upkeep I wanted – and then she cut my hair in the best style it has ever been.

And suddenly, I felt like I was finally home in Winston.

Alkali isn’t a new studio – owner and lead stylist Amber Woodall opened the space ten years ago this April, but they are moving to a new and exciting home in the not so distant future. Currently located on Brookstown and Marshall, Woodall is thrilled about the newly

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renovated and curated space on West End Boulevard. “The new location is part of a hand-picked new development project. The businesses are woman-owned, and it’s all part of bringing the building and space around it back to life,” said Woodall.

Woodall isn’t a stranger to change: Alkali started out of necessity when she was offered a position working as an educator and left her current position to have flexibility. She quickly found out that the educator’s life was not what made her shine, but was still attached to a space of her own, so she dug in and did her craft to the best of her abilities, continuing to learn and level up her skills. Time went on and she kept getting more and more clients, finally to the point of needing to hire someone.

Take this pattern growth and repeat it over ten years, and you’ve got another big move.

“I believe in the idea of curated client experience and a culture of respect and growth,” said Woodall. This client experience is present throughout the current location – everything is intentional – and will carry over on a higher level in the new location.

“I’m looking to increase that experience, keep the private atmosphere, and add to the relaxing atmosphere.” That atmosphere will only be enhanced by the development goals: plans for an integrated green space to tie the community into the space and create something more than simply a block of stores.

“Green” definitely connects with Woodall’s future goals: more space to her doesn’t just mean more stylists and a planned esthetic offering. More space means room to focus a project of lessening her carbon footprint as a salon. “That space will help us give back. We need additional space to package and ship excess color and foil.”

While Woodall sounds like an incredibly forward-thinking businesswoman, the best part is she actually is as good as she sounds.

In starting her own space, she’s been able to contribute to changing the idea that a hairstylist is more than “just” a hairdresser.

“Hairstylists need to make a good living to thrive and have a life that isn’t the bare minimum.” As a client, I can say this is reflected in the performance of her stylists – Colleen and I talk consistently about the education and growth opportunities that are offered to continuously make her an even better stylist.

After two years, I’ve managed to convert many friends and even my hard-to-please curlyhaired husband – and even one of his friends.

If you’re looking to jump on the Alkali bandwagon before they move and continue to grow, you can find them at 301 Brookstown Avenue, at 336.724.1453 or studioalkali. squarespace.com.

And, “you’re welcome” for your future great hair days.

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Gulf War & All Era Veterans

Enjoy Coffee Meetings in Hopes of Supporting One Another.

Pioneers of the Gulf War Veterans Coffee… (Left to right) Kevin Doss, USAF | Kristin O’leary, USA | Nike Roach, USA | Jesse Almanza, USMC

Support Services and programs for veterans can be hard to find or, at least, hard to attend.

Some veterans need support but may be too afraid or embarrassed to ask for it, while others simply don’t know where and when these opportunities exist. Nike Roach M.S. from Sixth Sense Health and Wellness Center and retired Marine Jesse Almanza found inspiration through Vietnam War Veteran Don Timmons of Trellis Supportive Care, to host an educational coffee meeting to support Gulf War Era veterans. This riveting meeting aims to benefit veterans that are fulltime employed, going to school and spending time with family daily. Providing them with an outlet to address essential issues, such as Gulf War Syndrome. Identifying resources to obtain information regarding their earned disability ratings. Several Gulf War Era veterans are considered part of the “Forgotten War,” and do not receive ample support, which leads to isolation.

Feeling alone can be very common among veterans, and while veterans’ issues are typically at the forefront during an election year, those who would benefit greatly from added services and benefits seem to still be waiting for any real change to be made.

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Gulf War Era veterans, unlike many Vietnam War era veterans, are parents juggling stressful career ambitions while also raising school-aged children. It is very challenging for them to find enough time to seek guidance and support from like-minded members of the community, who share a mutual sense of respect and understanding.

Events held by other organizations, such as the American Legion, Disabled American Veterans, and even Military Lodges, attract veterans who are retired and may not be employed during business hours, This makes it challenging for working veterans to attend. There is a dire gap in the community, excluding busy veterans due to a lack of flexibility, which hinders their attendance and valuable contribution to society. Their inclusion is beneficial and necessary to ensure long-term wellbeing.

All veterans will need to reenter society in a professional way and feeling alone can lead to less success in the workplace and added stress in the home. Simply finding a group for support on a regular basis can make a massive difference in the everyday lives of these veterans.

These often-therapeutic coffee meetings aim to provide a friendly and comfortable environment for veterans.

Veterans attending these coffee meets will also gain knowledge and share insights regarding events out of Congress, The U.S. President and the Veterans Administration.

A friendlier environment while meeting for a coffee has proven potential for supportive comradeship while increasing community involvement. The ongoing coffee meetings will help beat loneliness, isolation and depression. The events are held on the second Saturday of each month at: New Beginnings Church located at 4555 Shattalon Drive from 8:3010:30am. For more information, visit the website at https:// gulfwarveteranscoffee.com/.

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PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

Check out pictures from last month’s Girls’ Night Out at Butcher & Bull

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It’s always fun to see a new restaurant on my list!

Especially when the reputation of that restaurant has already reached my ears, and specifically about their incredible Brussels sprouts! As my friends know – I can practically eat my body weight in Brussels sprouts, and I had already heard how amazing they are at Sir Winston, so I arrived with high expectations!

First, we have to talk about location. Sir Winston is downtown, and for many – downtown parking is a legitimate concern. But can we say, “Hello, Valet Parking!” For those visiting Sir Winston, simply take your parking slip with you for two-hour complimentary valet service! YAY! No excuses!

Someone else has to park the car! And it’s only $5 for each additional hour after two!

So, after handing my car keys over for someone else to deal with, I joined our group inside. The atmosphere at Sir Winston is stylish and modern décor, but it’s still warm and comfortable. With a variety of tables and bistro-seating, it’s great for a cozy lunch with friends as well as larger groups!

This was actually a lunch review, which is kind of unusual. While we were there, we were invited to sample some of the super yummy signature cocktails available at Sir Winston! The first was called the IQ Salty Dog. This was a mixture of Tito’s Vodka, fresh grapefruit juice, and rosemary syrup served with a salted rim. It’s very similar to a margarita, but the grapefruit gives it a special, one-of-a-kind taste!

We also sampled the Raspberry Lemon Drop.

SweetTart fans will love this blend of tart and sweet!

Made with New Amsterdam Vodka, raspberry syrup, lemon juice, and pure sugar cane syrup – this one has pretty pink sugar on the rim! Such a lovely, girly kind of drink!

Finally – fellas, we didn’t forget you! The Sir

Winston Signature Smoked Old Fashioned

has your name all over it! This is definitely a man’s man kind of drink that is made of Woodford Reserve, sugar cane syrup, Angostura Bitters, orange peel, and so cool – it’s smoked out with flavored woodchips! It’s a statement maker!

As an appetizer while we tasted the yummy drinks, we had a dish both guacamole lovers and seafood lovers will unite over: the Lobster Guacamole! Freshly made and packed with fresh avocado, this recipe is topped with decadent lobster meat! This generous portion is made for sharing and served with a variety of ways to dip.

My personal recommendation is the plantain chips!

The guacamole was great on everything, but I just particularly loved the plantains for a different kind of flavor and texture.

Next we tasted several salads, beginning with the Gem Salad. We had ours served with chicken, though other protein options are available. These dressed greens and tomatoes were served with shaved parmesan cheese. It was an elegant and hearty salad!

The Roasted Baby Beet Salad would make Dwight Schrute proud! Served with whipped apricot goat cheese and candied pecans, the salad is drizzled with lemon vinaigrette! This salad is bursting with earthy sweetness, as well as strong, bold flavors. It’s a great salad guaranteed to be a favorite for many!

All the salads were delicious, but my favorite was the Burrata Tomatoes and Stone Fruit Salad. Who on earth thought of putting peaches, mozzarella, and tomato on the same plate?? And then, to add a pesto balsamic glaze? Mad and crazy genius! The unusual combo packs a powerful flavor punch, and the grilled crostini that it’s served with is absolutely perfect.

Moving on to main courses, we tried the

Sear Salmon with Black-Eyed Pea Ragout.

What is it about black-eyed peas? I never think of eating them, but when I do, I love them! These are delightful, and the salmon was excellent!

We also tried the Vegetarian Pimento Cheese Rueben. Where on earth was this sandwich during my 13 years as a vegetarian?? Ask for extra napkins cause it’s gonna get messy, but oh, my – what a sandwich! Made with pimento cheese (as the name implies), it’s served with an unusual sauerkraut hummus, melted gruyere cheese, and thousand island on thick slices of marble rye! For the meat lovers, you can ask for it with beef, too, but honestly – I didn’t miss a thing. De. Licious.

Creativity is clearly the name of the game at Sir Winston, and the Curried Pecan Chicken Salad Sandwich is further proof of the culinary creativity that’s going on back in the kitchen. Who puts chicken salad on raisin bread?? I’d slow-clap your ingenuity, but…. Well, I’m typing. I need both hands. But I can tell you this – I can’t wait to get my hands on another one of these! Ah-mazing!

I interrupt this entrée review to share that both of our sandwiches were served with the “Soup of the Moment.” For us – that meant Potato Leek and Cheddar Soup. As a self-professed soup connoisseur, I was delighted with the texture and flavors! The soup is ever-changing, so be prepared to be surprised!

Sir Winston

We also sampled the AJ Fisherman’s Stew.

Seafood enthusiasts will love this mix of fresh fish and shellfish that is served in a tomato-based broth!

Perfect for a cool evening or a lighter appetite!

So, now – the showstopper. Remember how I said I could practically eat my body weight in Brussels sprouts? Well, I have four words for you: Fried. Brussels. Sprouts. Tacos. Be still my beating heart; I thought I had died and gone to heaven. This crazy innovative taco is unbelievable.

A softshell tortilla is packed with fried Brussels and topped with chipotle aioli, cojita cheese, kimchi slaw, and piled with fresh avocado! I about stopped the review over this one. Seriously, my heart skipped a beat over this incredible dish! Even if you are skeptical of Brussels, this will make a convert of anyone with a healthy set of taste buds!

I honestly could have eaten another Brussels Sprouts Taco for dessert, but instead, we were served a more traditional Raspberry Cheesecake with Hazelnut. So many flavors and creamy goodness! It was a perfect way to end an amazing meal!

So, what are you waiting for? Go. Now. I mean, obviously, if you’re reading this after hours, you need to wait, but go. And be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

“Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

This Fred Rogers quote isn’t attributed to volunteers – but at the same time, it kind of is. Think of a volunteer – someone who is contributing selflessly to help something bigger than themselves. They are usually contributing to an organization in a way that is priceless – and their return? The joy and fulfillment of helping someone and their community.

With Habitat for Humanity and the Habitat ReStores, this is no exception.

In case you haven’t visited a ReStore or heard about Habitat for Humanity, they are doing great things with the lifeblood of volunteerism: the organization has over 2,500+ annual volunteers giving their time, talent and energy, all towards the mission to bring people together to build homes, communities, and hope.

Assistant store manager of the Lewisville ReStore, Kim Marshall, understands how important volunteerism is to the success of Habitat. “At the ReStores, volunteers not only provide much-needed assistance with our dayto-day operations of receiving and processing donations, they also bring an abundant spirit of supporting Habitat Forsyth’s overall mission,” said Marshall.

This spirit is often captured in the volunteers and the people that recruit them: Debbie Cesta, who is in charge of volunteer recruitment and management, feels her work is so much more than a job because of the enthusiasm and changes she sees. “I really felt like I was led here, to do this work,” Cesta said. She also spoke about the changes she saw in people after they volunteer, specifically a group of high school-aged boys from a shelter. “The difference in them when they arrived and when they left was amazing. They worked together for others.”

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Volunteer Julie Risher is a construction leader and part of the wood-working group, among other volunteer roles she fulfills with Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County, and the positive impact is also something she connects with. “I have been blessed with advantages many families have not,” said Risher, “and volunteering allows me to express my gratitude and help someone else.” And help they do: Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County has improved the place over 500 local families call home through homeownership or repairs since 1985, and they just recently added a Youth Empowerment Program (YEP!) to their training and education offerings. The new program engages underserved youth through community-based education, enrichment trips, mentoring programs, and volunteering at other local organizations.

If you’re sitting here thinking, “I can’t build a house!” just know that is what most Habitat volunteers say – until they do it and see that they’ll get really kind, patient and expert instruction from the Habitat construction staff. No experience is expected or necessary to volunteer with Habitat Forsyth and there are many options available – help build a house, help in one of the three ReStores (where gently used furniture, appliances, surplus building materials, and other items are sold at 25-75% off retail prices), or perhaps bring a dinner for student groups spending a week with Habitat on a service trip!

You’ll not only get to help but also learn new skills and meet a few folks along the way, like long time volunteer Karen Bass. “Volunteering has always been a part of my life. For me, it is an opportunity to meet new friends while helping those in my community. Since I have retired from the workforce, volunteering is a must,” said Bass. “I found a perfect fit for me at the Habitat Restore in Lewisville. There I can share my talents while making new friends and connecting with those in my community.” Aside from age restrictions (minimum 16 to help on a construction build, 14-15, and a parent guardian while volunteering at the ReStore), anyone can find a meaningful way to help in Habitat’s mission.

“The volunteers are a bright light of positivity and commitment and are essential to success,” said Kim Marshall, from the Lewisville ReStore.

“We couldn’t do it without them.”

For more information the different ways to serve with Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County visit habitatforsyth.org/getinvolved/volunteer.

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Picture Perfect & Nature Inspired With the winter we had this year, most families can’t wait to go outside. Customers ask us what advice we have for clients who want to have design work done for their outdoor living spaces. They tell us they have been contemplating – and procrastinating – this project for several years.

It appears everyone will appreciate spring this year more than ever! Fortunately, there are many exciting outcomes we can offer our clients.

Often, we start with indoor/outdoor rugs that can be added to create a splash of color, designate a space, and create warmth. Once seating areas have been defined, we move on to lighting. This is an area that is often overlooked when redoing exterior spaces, but lighting is a very important consideration when designing any space.

After all, you don’t want to retreat indoors just because the sun is setting. At our Retail Store and Design Center, we offer several lines of exterior lights, chandeliers, and even weather-friendly lamp shades. We have some of the most wonderful combinations of furniture that you can enjoy for a lifetime. With the many complete home furnishings in 20l9 that we did for clients moving here from out of state, we could start our own outdoor store!

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When it comes to furniture, “it can be a jungle out there.”

The consumer often feels that there are some options in stores, but not much information is available when purchasing outdoor furniture. At June DeLugas Interiors, Inc., we offer high quality lines of exterior furniture, in a wide range of finishes, complemented by a broad range of Sunbrella fade and water-resistant fabrics. Come in and ask for one of our designers to help you with selecting just the perfect fabric and outdoor setting for your family.

Some of our most recent homes are featured in the photos with this article. The best part of having designers help you is the enjoyment of a lifetime knowing it was time and money well spent to have your fabrics perfectly coordinated with tables and chairs, sofas, and ottomans. In a month or so, the birds will be chirping, and it will be time to get the grill out and start the outdoor fun. My daughter loves to build a fire in her backyard fire pit with friends and family. Entertaining outdoors is something we can look forward to soon. Call us for your next project, whether it is indoors or outdoors.

We will make it seamless.

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Today, homeowners prefer to treat their outdoor spaces as complete rooms and every surface can be used as design space.

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Hobbying for the Sake of Hobbying

BY TABI FALCONE

The past several years have been a renaissance of sorts for the side hustle. Hustle culture, and within it the subculture of the side hustle, has been growing exponentially in our society, which in many respects, is fantastic. If you have a dream, you should absolutely follow it and be encouraged to grow yourself and your business. On the dark side of this culture, however, is the new expectation that all hobbies should turn into a side hustle.

You begin to think: what was so wrong with just making the quilts for fun? Can I back out of this now, or would that be too embarrassing and admitting defeat? This obviously doesn’t apply to everybody, but for many people, the stress of running a side hustle can destroy the joy that is found within the original hobby.

Something that many of us today struggle with is drawing that line between hustle and fun. Not every hobby, regardless of how good you are at it, needs to be monetized. What does this struggle look like?

Having a hobby can be a huge part of a person’s self-care routine. Doing something simply for the joy of doing something can be so beneficial for a person’s health, it’s one of the first things brought up when discussing stress management.

Hobbies can be different for different people: one person can enjoy quilting, while another can find their joy in acrylic painting.

Imagine this: you make a baby quilt for a friend and present it to her at her baby shower. Several of the attendants of this baby shower come up to you after gift opening and complement your skill, ending with the comment, “You should sell these! I can definitely see these getting good money on Etsy!” While well-intentioned, this sows seeds of doubt into your brain. Why aren’t you selling them? Are you de-valuing yourself by only making quilts to give as gifts? How much money are you leaving on the table by not selling them?

Because their sole purpose is to bring us pleasure, practicing a hobby has health benefits. Some of these health benefits include lowered blood pressure, lowered rates of depression, and they can even decrease the risk of dementia, according to some psychologists. One can argue that even the hobby of reading a magazine can reduce your stress levels. Reading a novel can take your subconscious to a place of relaxation where you forget your worries. Likewise, escaping into a painting will help you forget your everyday stresses and simply enjoy what you are doing at that very moment.

So you start to sell your baby quilts online. Maybe it takes off, and you’re making several a month to sell. Except now, you find you are finding less joy in making your quilts because you’ve turned it into a second job. You go to work, then come home, and instead of unwinding with a joyful hobby, you are stressing to finish as many quilts as you can to meet the demand. You’ve effectively turned your fun hobby into another layer of stress in your life.

By feeling forced to turn our hobbies into money-making activities, we run the risk of turning these stress-reducing past times into jobs – which in turn become an added level of stress.

If you absolutely have the passion to turn your bow-making hobby into your job and you are willing to take that level of commitment on – absolutely do it, and we will cheer you on! But if you decide to keep your jewelry making to a personal level, know that that is okay, too.

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Since it’s grand opening in 2015, Aeracura Aveda Salon has become no stranger to bringing innovative style and care to Winston Salem. Over the last five years, the Aeracura team has not only continued to provide its highly trained expertise and commitment to its clients but has pushed the envelope when it comes to embracing new training and techniques to keep the level of care always rising!

Most recently, ambition and innovation came together in creating an exciting expansion with a second location, Aeracura Salon and Spa, which you can now find at 6265 Towncenter Drive in Clemmons.

PHOTOS BY SHAUN STOCKTON PHOTOGRAPHY

The brand new location is a beautiful addition to the Aeracura family, staying true to its brand roots and mission. “Aeracura is the Norse Goddess of blossoming,” says Christi Bradham, owner of Aeracura Salon. “She is a caretaker of gardens and a muse for artists. The name fits because I see this salon as a place of beauty and artistry; the colors, location, and style of the salon were chosen intentionally to reflect these elements.”

The new location is 2800 square feet of salon and spa ready to serve those community members looking to experience services that highlight their most beautiful self, while creating moments that help them embrace their inner goddess!

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Like most family businesses, Christi shared that it’s all hands on deck as they prepare for the new location opening. “My family has been working tirelessly on getting everything ready so that our guests feel as though they have walked into a whole new enchanting world! My husband Zach has been doing most of the construction, and he has poured his heart into the details to make this location feel as exquisite as our salon in Reynolda Village.”

The vision for this second location stayed true to that of the original Reynolda Village salon, with the importance of natural sunlight incorporated as much as possible. So, naturally, you can expect to walk in and be greeted by rays of sunshine throughout the space with its huge ceiling-to-floor

BRINGS OUT YOUR INNER GODDESS Through Innovative Creativity and a Brand New Location

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windows. While it may seem like just a nice design feature, “Natural light is imperative to see hair color more vividly and see the fine details in the precision of a haircut,” said Christi.

The entire Aeracura team is very excited about the new salon but also that they will be extending their service menu to focus on more spa treatments at their new Clemmons location with luxurious facials, relaxing full-body massages, waxing, and brow and lash treatments. Christi described this exciting update as “a total mind and body experience to recharge and refresh!” Timing couldn’t be better for feeling refreshed and pampered with the spring season in full swing and the start of the wedding season here.

Team members are always studying new trends and techniques while strictly using environmentally-friendly Aveda products made entirely of naturally derived plant and flower ingredients. The Aveda partnership helps Aeracura maintain zero harsh chemicals or fumes which can easily disrupt the natural and calming environment they strive to create.

One of the many things that sets the Aeracura team apart is they are heavily inspired by nature and take great pride in being artists of their craft. From their master and senior stylists, colorists, and estheticians to their makeup artists and spa coordinators, they genuinely live out the salon’s mission every day in their work by truly loving to make people look and feel their greatest!

If you are looking to learn more and experience what the Aeracura team has to offer, you can book an appointment by heading to aeracurasalon.com or visit one of their two beautiful locations: Aeracura Salon and Spa at 6265 Town Center Dr. Clemmons, NC 27012 or Aeracura Aveda Salon at 101 Reynolda Village Winston Salem, NC 27106.

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A One-of-a-Kind Adventure!

BY MARTIE EMORY If you’re searching for a one-of-a-kind treasure, you’re a true lover of fine things, and you only want to deal with the best of all experts, you’re probably already a regular client of Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques in Winston-Salem.

For buying, selling, or consigning, father and son duo Larry and Ryan Laster are the consummate professionals – with the extensive knowledge needed to back their business. Customers know, without a doubt, every piece in the store exhibits the finest quality and value. Whether you’re browsing collections of solid wood furniture, historic books, unique home accessories, traditional china and flatware, or even vintage jewelry, you’ll recognize every piece has withstood the test of time in glorious style!

For this month’s issue, Ryan introduces us to four of their current favorite treasures, each with its own unique style and significance. If you like what you see, stop by Laster’s for what is always a colorful adventure!

LOUIS GUIDETTI

“We are honored to have a collection of works by local artist Louis Guidetti,” says Ryan. “Guidetti is a classical realist painter who studied and taught at the Florence Academy of Art in Florence, Italy. After six years of study in Italy, he returned to the U.S., where he currently works out of a studio in downtown Winston-Salem. Guidetti paints just about everything from still-life to landscapes, but he is most known for his portraits and sacred works.”

THE BOOK OF HOURS

“The Book of Hours is a late medieval prayer book containing psalms and devotions for the eight canonical hours of the day,” explains Ryan. “This early religious text was able to reach an audience that had never before owned books, and for many, it was the only book they ever handled.” Most copies of The Book of Hours were produced in the 15th and 16th centuries and were passed down from

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generation to generation. The particular copy at Laster’s was completed sometime in the mid-1400s.

PETERSEN CHEST OF DRAWERS

Karsten Petersen arrived in the United States from Denmark in 1806, and set up a workshop in Salem, NC, in 1813. “At first he produced chairs, tables, and textile equipment, then he later transitioned to furniture pieces such as cupboards, chests of drawers, and other case pieces defining mid-19th century Salem furniture,” says Ryan. “This beautiful two-over-three chest of drawers was recently sold in our shop for $899. Petersen would have made this sometime in the 1840s to early 1850s, and it was constructed with solid walnut boards and poplar secondary. The rounded corners at the top -- along with the turned feet -- are representative of Petersen’s work.”

MAP OF NORTH CAROLINA

Ryan says maps have been a staple of Laster’s business for decades. “Our inventory is filled with maps from countries all over the world, some dating back as early as the 1600s. The map featured here is one of the rarer examples, as it only existed in the 1850-edition of the Mitchell’s Universal Atlas,” he explains. “This map also features the North Carolina gold region highlighted by an inset in the lower-left corner. Gold was first discovered in Cabarrus County in 1799 by 12-year-old Conrad Reed, and additional gold deposits were soon discovered in neighboring counties, resulting in a gold rush becoming a major factor in the settlement of the western parts of North Carolina.”

Find your own treasures – and savor a bit of history – with a visit to Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques at 664 S. Stratford Road in WinstonSalem, 336-765-5919, Monday through Saturday from 10 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. Follow them on Facebook for updates on estate sales and new shop arrivals, and be sure to bookmark Lastersfineart.com.

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Spring

has Sprung and So Have Allergies

BY TARYN JEREZ

The sun is shining, the temperature is warming up, the plants and trees are blooming! Spring has certainly sprung and with it, unfortunately, comes allergy season. All of those wonderful outdoor activities you’ve been looking forward to can suddenly feel plagued by not-so-nice symptoms like sinus pressure or non-stop sneezing attacks. So as you say your goodbyes to the winter season, you may have to say hello to allergy season.

WHAT CAUSES SEASONAL ALLERGIES?

While there is so much beauty to behold this time of year with fresh lawns and blooming gardens, they may be causing severe problems for those who suffer from seasonal allergies. Some of the biggest culprits in North Carolina are airborne agents like grass, ragweed and tree pollen.

Several of these tend to have their worst seasons starting in March and often going through the middle of May. According to Jamie Lagarde or Sedera Healthcare, “Once they enter our bodies, these allergens start to wreak havoc. The immune system mistakenly sees the pollen as a danger and releases antibodies that attack the allergens and release a chemical called histamine into the nose, eyes, and lungs.” While histamine is meant to harm and remove the harmful agents in the human body, it also causes inflammation which is where the allergy sufferer comes in.

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN ALLERGIES ARE STRIKING?

While many people know the symptoms of a common cold or cough, it can be difficult to determine if they are, instead, experiencing seasonal allergies. This is especially true as allergies do not always present themselves the same way throughout a person’s life. You may have not experienced any symptoms as a child or teenager, when as an adult you get hit hard each season, or vice versa. Understanding how to determine if you’re suffering from allergies is important so you can move forward with the right steps to keep them under control!

Common Allergy Symptoms: Sneezing Sinus pressure Congestion Itchy & watery eyes Coughing Weariness

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Lack of focus Restlessness Itchy rash Shortness of breath

CAN YOU MANAGE ALLERGY ATTACKS ON YOUR OWN?

If this time of year can make you or a loved one feel taken down by seasonal allergies, feel empowered knowing there are several different ways to manage them within your reach. You can take some preventive measures like keeping your windows shut during high pollen days, using a humidifier at night in your room and avoiding the outdoors when you feel allergies coming on. Depending on how severe your symptoms are, you can arm yourself ahead of time with a mix of natural remedies and/ or over-the-counter medications.

Popular Natural Remedies • Nasal irrigation using a neti pot, sinus irrigator or nasal oils • Herbal remedies like Butterbur or Quercetin • Apple cider vinegar to help the immune system and break up mucus • Essential oils like basil, eucalyptus, peppermint, and tea tree oil Popular OTC Medical Solutions • Pills/Tablets: Allegra, Benadryl, Claritin, Zyrtec, Xyzal Allergy Relief • Nasal Sprays: Beconase, Flonase, Nasonex, Rhinocort

WHAT TO DO WHEN ALLERGIES AREN’T EASING UP

If you are feeling the worst of it even after trying your hand at some preventive measures and simple remedies, it may be time to seek out guidance from a professional. You can make an allergy appointment with your physician’s office or ask for a referral to a specialist. They may do some allergy testing on you to determine which specific things you are allergic to and make sure you are using the correct medications to keep them under control. Additionally, they may move you to a prescription antihistamine or other medication to help reduce and control your symptoms. Remember to always share any other medications you may be taking at the time of your appointment to avoid any negative interactions.

Also, it’s important to remember that as often as the seasons change, so does your body and its needs. You may find that one allergy season may hit harder than another, so it may be a trial and error of care plans until you find what suits you best!

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Southwestern Chopped Chicken Salad

BY SARA WILES

Make it your main course or your side, this salad is my perfect take on a Chili’s classic. It’s got everything from fresh tomatoes (or canned works great, too!) and avocado to grilled chicken and zesty taco seasoning. Something to please everyone!

INGREDIENTS 6 cups chopped romaine lettuce 6 cups cubed, cooked chicken 1 ½ cups corn 1 ½ cups black beans, drained 2 tomatoes, diced 1 avocado, diced ½ red onion, diced ¾ cup shredded cheddar cheese 1 cup crushed tortilla chips Handful of chopped cilantro DRESSING ½ cup plain Greek yogurt 3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil 2 teaspoons honey 2 teaspoons apple cider vinegar 1 teaspoon minced garlic Juice of 1 lime ½ jalapeno, finely diced 2 heaping teaspoons taco seasoning Salt, to taste

DIRECTIONS Add all of the salad ingredients to a large bowl.

(If you are not serving right away, add the tortilla chips on last, right before serving.)

Whisk the dressing ingredients together.

Spoon dressing over salad, then give a big toss to combine. Serve cold.

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Busy as a Bee Concierge

Moving With You Through Life!

BY MARTIE EMORY

With her incredibly qualified team of contractors by her side, founder and owner Minnie Aikens has continued to grow her business – Busy as a Bee Concierge – since its opening in 2009. A whirlwind of ideas and strategies, Minnie and her tireless professionals continue to perfect their organizational skills, all with your busy life in mind!

When overwhelmed clients first enlist Busy as a Bee’s services, it’s usually because their end goal is a happy, healthy, more stress-free lifestyle, either on a daily basis or when it’s time to make a move.

“Our services give them the freedom to focus on what matters most, and to live out the lives of their dreams,” says Minnie. The concept of home organization can be life-changing.

“It allows you to have more time for family and friends, not spending that precious time looking for things,” Minnie explains. “We believe there is a place for everything in your home. By creating an efficient and focused environment, confidence is instilled in each family member to know where things are.”

RELOCATION

With relocation the largest segment of the business, the company’s Moving & Relocation Team keeps busy with the necessary tasks that come with relocating a family. Having completed moves in North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia, and Virginia, the team is focused, efficient, and personable, while accomplishing their goals: • Packing and unpacking as directed.

• Organizing rooms, closets, bookshelves, and drawers.

• Making beds with fresh linens, folding, and putting away other linens and towels.

• Closet organizing and coordination.

• Furniture staging.

• Scheduling utilities and other services to be in place when the family arrives.

“Our family recently moved to the WinstonSalem area, and between contractors, vendors, movers, and our family and career moves, it promised to be a very stressful time,” says a local professor/scientist. “Minnie and her team took so many worries off our plate! With a team of five industrious, courteous co-workers, they had unpacked every box, organized every drawer, and offered some interior design tips. Within 48 hours of the movers delivering our boxes, Busy as a Bee had some of our rooms looking like a magazine layout -- even my husband’s tool shop! I have moved many times and had no idea what it meant to have ‘professional unpackers.’ Now, after meeting Minnie and her team at Busy as a Bee, I would never move without them!”

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THE ABSENTEE HOMEOWNER

Another unique part of the business, Minnie explains the concept of the “absentee homeowner.”

“These clients may be retired but travel several months out of the year, or they split their time between homes in two different states,” says Minnie. “Our team checks their home for anything unusual or out of the ordinary, a general welfare check, to make sure everything is running as if you were still home,” she explains.

For homeowners who are away, Busy as a Bee also coordinates deliveries, installations, and manages all outside vendors such as pest control, plumbers, and cleaning services.

The satisfied client is what continues to build this successful venture!

“Busy as a Bee checks on my house when I am out of town,” says Linda, a happy client. “While making rounds during recent heavy rains, they spied pooled water on a basement floor.

She alerted me, and I was able to get a contractor out who identified collapsed drains. Without them, we wouldn’t have known, and the problem would have worsened.”

“Our experience with Busy as a Bee’s team has been nothing less than superlative,” raves traveling homeowner, Ray. “We trust Busy as a Bee with keeping our home safe and well-tended when we are at our residence in California. I travel a lot for business and drive to the house after long days and late flights.

Since we delegated the day-to-day running of our home to Busy as A Bee, I have learned to trust them to get everything done with efficiency and precision. When we return to our Winston-Salem house, we can always count on it being well-stocked, secure, and without the maintenance surprises a homeowner fears! Minnie keeps tabs on every detail, catching things we miss. Plus, every email, text, and phone message has that gracious touch that is the hallmark of a well-run service business!”

To contact Busy as a Bee Concierge for your own organizing needs, call 336310-9750, or email Minnie at maikens@ busyasabeeconcierge.com. Follow on Facebook and Twitter, and find them at BusyasaBeeConcierge.com.

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MOVING DAY WINSTON-SALEM

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

On Saturday, April 18, people will gather at Wake Forest Baptist Health Davie Medical Center in Bermuda Run to celebrate movement.

When you think of that word, MOVEMENT, what’s the first thing that comes to mind?

Maybe it’s dancing or swaying – or even something as simple to you as walking or running. Reading this, you possibly do much of your movement freely and without issue.

While every person can experience different symptoms, Parkinson’s often starts with a specific movement: a tremor in a hand, moving in slow movement, stiffness, and a loss of balance.

For Parkinson’s disease (PD), movement is also proven to help manage symptoms, and Moving Day is a celebratory event and fundraising walk that unites people living with Parkinson’s, caregivers, and loved ones. Aside from the walk, there are movement-based activities like yoga, Tai Chi, boxing, dance, and more. Folks can sign up as a team or individual, and join hundreds of other people working towards a common goal: to help beat Parkinson’s.

More than one million Americans are living with Parkinson’s, and 60,000 more are diagnosed each year. One of those people in 2006 was Diana Parrish’s husband, Bubba.

“Every year, there are so many people diagnosed,” said Parrish, “and there are so many resources available to them.” Resources that not everyone is aware of and Parrish’s goal is to raise awareness throughout the Carolinas because it’s a journey that no one needs to be on alone.

The awareness of these resources is just one of the reasons why Parrish works with the Foundation: 23,900 people in North Carolina alone are 45 and older and have Parkinson’s.

“You hear about the person that just sits

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in their recliner,” says Parrish. This is often because people are afraid to go out, get hurt, or be seen with the stigma linked to the symptoms. “And people often die from complications, not of Parkinson’s.” This often leads to a life that is less than it could be. The Foundation is working to change that with the idea of “living well” with Parkinson’s.

Aside from Moving Day, there are resources that further this “living well” mission, resources like wallet cards that say, “I’m not intoxicated, I have Parkinson’s,” because symptoms like shuffling feet and swaying can mimic intoxication, and the Aware in Care kit, useful tools and information to help a person during their next hospital visit. The kits include things like information cards, action plans, an ID bracelet, fact sheets, and medication forms.

Over the past five years, 1,540 Aware in Care kits prepared people in our area with planned and emergency hospital trips.

Beyond these resources, support has reached 3,985 people with expert care annually at the two Centers of Excellence – Duke Health Movement Disorders Center and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill School of Medicine – where two researchers received grants for their work and 685 health professionals were trained to provide better care. It seems like a lot, but the need is there for more assistance.

“There are so many ways to help out and offer time and more to the Foundation,” said Parrish, “Moving Day alone needs 75 volunteers, and beyond that, there are so many opportunities to be involved.” These range from financial support and donations, volunteer opportunities, and advisory board positions. If you’re interested in getting involved, you’ve got someone to talk to: “I want folks to reach out right to me to see how they can get involved,” said Parrish, “This job is truly my calling.”

Join the supportive community on Saturday, April 18 at WFBH Davie Medical Center from 10am – 1pm, for moving day and help the Parkinson’s Foundation reach their $80,000 goal. For more information on Moving Day, Parkinson’s, and volunteering, visit parkinson.org/Carolinas or contact Dianna Parrish at dparrish@parkinson.org.

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An Alternative Definition to Self-Care

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Self-care has been a much-discussed topic within the past few years. It can be defined as taking time for yourself and deliberately doing an activity to take care of our physical, emotional, and mental health. People are encouraged to set aside time each day, week, or month and indulge in a special activity, such as walking, reading a book, getting a facial, etc. However, there has been a discussion as to what self-care exactly means and looks like. To many people, self-care is a wonderful thing that you shouldn’t feel ashamed of, and I agree. No one is going to take better care of yourself than, well, yourself. Yet, it is also viewed as an indulgence, something out of the ordinary. But, have you ever thought maybe you are already practicing self-care every day?

In the past months, I saw a post on social media shared from a friend on Facebook from a wellness site, Nepenthe. The post stated: “self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing. It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution. It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job…or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.” As honestly brutal as it may be, it rings a bell. Self-care shouldn’t be things you get to do; it should be things you have to do to become a better version of yourself, no matter what.

Let’s start looking at self-care with another definition. These activities can become things we do in our daily lives to help ease the stress, ease the overwhelming sense that there is too much to do, and help us sleep better at night. For example, you may be stressing about organizing your closet and trying to get rid of old clothing for weeks. Turn this stress into self-care by creating a to-do

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list and accomplishing the task little by little. One day you may only have five items to get rid of – go ahead and send them to their next home before moving on. Self-care doesn’t have to be one large task every so often; break it down into little parts here and there.

Another favorite line of mine from the post is “true self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from. And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.” Be realistic and honest with yourself. Determine what priorities you want to have in your life and maybe make some sacrifices. If something gives you anxiety, deal with it, and move on the best you can. If something is hard to do, go ahead and just do it. Everyone has hard tasks in life to deal with but think about how good it feels when the hard tasks are completed. I know I feel better and more relaxed.

Self-care isn’t about treating yourself; it is about bettering yourself to achieve long-term wellness. Sometimes people think a spa day will “fix” them. Honestly, it will make you more relaxed, but your stressors will still be there. Make time each day to do something that will make you feel better and help you choose happiness. It can take only five minutes, or it can take several hours. Then, treat yourself to the scheduled self-care moments each month. Achieving and living self-care is maintaining balance and a combination of small and big activities.

The post closes with “…it means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good…It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

Can’t we all admit that is the type of life we want?

Self-care is everyday care.

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Picking

Roses for a Lifetime

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The universal symbol of love, desire and beauty can craft entire messages through one color. Whether to thrill or comfort the receiver, the rose whispers secrets to heal through ecotherapy, the mind, spirit and body!

HEALING BODY AND HEART

The rose is part of our ceremony. In stepping upon each petal, the bride receives a blessing of fertility and romance. Wildflowers are a kind gift, but roses, even just one, implies an emboldened offering from the heart. Saved petals offer fragrance long after drying. And, if the body bathes in an infusion of fresh petals, the miraculous result soothes redness, cleanses and hydrates the skin and tightens pores. As a topical or digestible, the rose has natural anti-inflammatory, antibacterial and astringent properties alongside natural oils and vitamin C. In the form of oils, water, gels, jams, teas and powders, the medicinal rose can reduce the signs of aging and lower blood glucose levels, balance hormones and cool the gastrointestinal tract.

With a wide range of benefits, a rose is the perfect addition to your landscape.

RED, PINK OR YELLOW?

Perhaps there is a feeling of intimidation to care for the queen of flowers. In meticulously choosing a location of six hours of direct sunlight and amending the soil to offer adequate draining, the ultimate challenge is in selecting the right color. In local nurseries, you’ll find a selection of potted roses adapted for your climate. If you desire a broader range of varieties, consider purchasing a bare-root plant. Although dormant, you’ll only need to keep the roots moistened.

And, witnessing the transformation of growth and buds is well worth the wait!

HISTORIC NAMING

Choosing a historic rose, such as Rosa Abraham Lincoln, the Rosa Queen Elizabeth or the yellow peace rose is a process which takes most growers roughly a decade to produce. One in 100,000 may be fortunate to receive a celebrated name; therefore, the decision to buy a hybrid rose takes a commitment of love and care!

WIDE AND DEEP

A row of roses has an eye-catching and dramatic appeal. Consider giving each plant the space of three feet

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to expand. Since the root system grows along the surface with one tap root anchoring the plant deep underground, it’s essential to dig a wide hole to accommodate growth.

Loose soil surrounding the vine or bush will ensure the rose grows to its full potential. Add a few handfuls of rocks before planting to help with draining since many plants, especially the rose, do not prefer wet feet. Organic or composted soil will ensure it has the best environment to thrive.

MULCH

Improve the health and soil temperature by adding a threeinch layer of mulch while leaving a gap around the stalk. Effectively preventing weeds from appearing, organic matter improves the quality of the soil, over time, and retains moisture. Bark pieces, shredded leaves or straw work equally well.

FERTILIZER

Kitchen scraps work best; therefore, toss out crushed eggshells and banana peels, which encourage flowering. While not everyone wants visitors to see their secrets to producing beautiful roses, take one step further to bury the peels below the surface. One tablespoon of Epsom salt to a gallon of water works great as an additive. Both options are economical compared to the packaged fertilizer specially designed for roses.

HOW MUCH WATER?

Try to avoid sprinklers which shoot water into the air. At times, it can cause fungal diseases on the leaves. The best option is to use a soaker hose weekly without the natural minerals provided through a rain shower.

PRUNING

The best time to prune is early spring, after the forsythia blooms.

The goal is to open up the center of the plant, similar to the shape of a vase. Remove thin or weak growth, crossing branches or other extensions which can cause disease through rubbing. Cut above the outward-facing eye which appears as a small bump or impending shoot or leaf. Always cut at a 45-degree angle.

Roses tend to receive more care than any other flowers in the garden.

Perhaps, the mythological store is real. The goddess of nature, Cybele, created the rose to win all competitions of extraordinary beauty. Even Aphrodite couldn’t complain too much!

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Apps to Increase Productivity When Working From Home

BY TARYN JEREZ

Working from home may seem like one version of the “being your own boss” dream, but there are definitely some unique difficulties that come with the freedom of designing your workday. While eliminating in-office distractions like water cooler gossip and the impromptu meeting room gathering, there are still a few distractions from home that can interrupt your workflow. Figuring out the things that inspire and motivate you to get your work done and the best road to productivity from home can take time and often will be trial and error as you test out different approaches.

As more job industries and employee positions embrace the benefits of working from home, the world of technology has been hard at work exploring new ways to help! Here are five apps that have created innovative and effective resources that can genuinely make all the difference in your work day!

Problem: I feel so unorganized some days!

Solution: Asana

Problem: Inspiration strikes when you’re busy doing something else.

Solution: Evernote

This project management app is compatible with both iOs and Android and the free version is super effective at keeping you organized! Asana allows you to create multiple different boards for all of your project categories and then create tasks for yourself, and even for additional team members like coworkers and contract workers. It allows you to personalize project titles, assign tasks, choose due dates and mark things as priority depending on urgency. It also keeps everything organized by allowing you to add attachments and share links right inside each task, cutting down on email communication as well.

If you are the queen of to-do lists, then Evernote is going to become your new app BFF! There are times when inspiration strikes but you’re in the midst of a meeting or getting a project completed but you don’t want to lose that moment.

Evernote can be on your mobile device right at your fingertips to jot down ideas, doodle images, attach photos or PDFs, create tasks and more. To make things easy, the app even syncs across your devices and your computer so jumping into your note can be done anywhere. Even if you’re focused on something else, those immediate ideas that break through can be added quickly to Evernote for later.

Problem: I can be busy all day without

It’s easy to get comfortable being uncomfortable in our work routines and even the outcomes. Take time to think about which problems you relate to in your work day and download the solution apps you think could really make a difference!

accomplishing anything.

Solution: Rescue Time It’s far too easy to spend an entire day feeling busy and swamped only to realize by the end that nothing on your list got accomplished. You don’t want to be busy, you want to be productive! The free app, Rescue Time, does just what it says!

The time you fear you’re losing each work day will quickly be seen through a new lens by allowing you to track which websites you spend the most time on and just how long you’re there. Taking it one step further, the app will pinpoint which hours of the day and week you are your most unproductive so you can learn from the data and make changes that makes sense for when you’re most distracted vs. focused. You can purchase the paid version to actually block the websites you don’t want to have access to during your work day for added accountability.

Problem: I use social media for work but can get lost scrolling…

Solution: BreakFree While many parents are aware of social media blocking apps, adults can sometimes get a little too glued to their phone as well.

The IOS and Android app, BreakFree not only tracks your usage of each social media app but it breaks down all of the information it gathers into a unique “addiction score.” Now you can easily see where your time is going outside of your working social media hours! The app even tells little things like how often you unlock your phone screen! If you’re honest with yourself and are serious about getting rid of distraction, BreakFree is an awesome choice to help eliminate the dreaded hours lost when scrolling social.

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Trusted Car Care & Family Values!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS Following in the spirit of George “Pat” Scarlett, who founded Pat’s Body Shop in 1964, the full-service operation on Country Club Road in Winston-Salem you now visit and rely on for every car care need, is a rich blend of family, faith, and an eye on the future.

IN GOOD COMPANY

Looking back, amid those humble beginnings in the 1960s, the community buzz was that Pat delivered top-quality auto repair, along with personal service and, above all, a guarantee you could trust. That success inspired Pat to move to a larger space on Liberty Street in Winston-Salem, and eventually the shift to the company’s current location in 1972.

With Pat’s sister, Sandra, now at the helm after purchasing the business in 1997, this perfect model of a family owned and operated business – and now one of the few woman-owned auto shops – is still known for the personal service Pat himself insisted on in those early years. Backed by a long list of loyal customers through the decades, the business is ever-growing, with something new always on the horizon!

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With so many good reasons to frequent Pat’s Body Shop & Towing, let’s start with it being a complete mechanical repair facility, housing the very latest in diagnostic and repair equipment, run by certified, factory-trained technicians who love what they do – including BMW and Mercedes master technicians. Those professionals (many are family) know their craft, and they know their cars! They also know their community and the loyal customers who recommend them again and again, and who know – as does Sandra – why the business is still thriving.

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MAKING A DIFFERENCE

Pat’s Body Shop & Towing is faith-based, pure and simple, with employees taking turns leading weekly devotion time, and they are known to accept prayer requests from customers – or anyone, really – who drops in as well.

“It’s the only reason we’ve been prosperous,” explains Sandra, who has been around the business since she was a teenager helping out her brother. “God is first.”

The true heart and soul of the family business, Sandra proudly tells that at least half of her 27 employees (many have logged a good many years with the business) call her Mama, every single day. That’s the beauty of a family-owned business that continues to treat both employees and customers – old and new – as family of their own. Sandra’s nephew, Dustin Shoaf, manages the day-today workings of Pat’s Body Shop & Towing, while Sandra stays busy with expanding newer ventures including Scarlette Productions, which inspires and promotes local recording artists, and the exciting newest family addition – Scarlette’s Performance & Recovery – which will hold its grand opening Saturday, April 11. Located on S. Main Street in Winston-Salem, the new place will offer a speed shop, performance, and recovery – with an even more expanded towing service which will include three additional tow trucks to add to the fleet of seven tow trucks at the Country Club location.

Pat’s Body Shop & Towing is also a full-service collision repair shop, and a direct repair facility for most insurance companies, and they are willing and happy to provide free estimates! Those services that are so crucial when you’ve faced an accident include collision repair, dent repair, towing, interior work, mechanical work, custom painting, and restoration. If you’re simply in search of custom interior design work, including seat repair, convertible tops, carpet, headliners, door panels, etc., this is also your destination.

Is your car or truck looking tired or worn? Their experts will give you a free estimate on a literal “makeover” for your prized automobile as well.

At the very heart of the whirlwind business, Sandra and her team know personable customer service is the key ingredient that sets them apart.

“I’ve worked in dealerships where you are just a number, you’re in and out,” she explains. That will never be the case here. Of course, the company has faced challenging times within the industry and the economy, but with hard work, steadfast faith, and down-to-earth values, the business has remained stronger than ever.

“If we had 40 customers in a week back in the early days, we felt great,” says Sandra. “Now, it’s more like 90-120 customers in a week.” Pat’s Body Shop & Towing was also voted 2019 Best Body Shop in the Triad by the Winston-Salem Journal’s People’s Choice Awards. Their 24/7 emergency towing service is one of the busiest elements of the business, and covers a wide service area.

The energetic Sandra is also known around the area as an amazing car collector. She sponsors a local Corvette Club – Generations Vette Club, she races her own cars (both drag racing and road course), and is proud of what she’s named her “Girl Cave” – the fun place where she displays her prized car collection and enjoys gathering friends and family for music events. In her “spare” time she’s also stepped back into competitive body building, a hobby her drive and determination matches perfectly!

If your car is in need of a few repairs, an updated interior, or a shiny new coat of paint, if you’re facing the less-than-pleasant results of a recent fender bender, or you want a trusted contact to have on call when dreaded car emergencies strike, Pat’s is the place for expert work and a face-to-face experience that will bring you back again and again.

You’ll most likely hear some good music, too!

Pat’s Body Shop & Towing is located at 5720 Country Club Road, Winston-Salem, 336-9453767. Visit Pats-bodyshop.com for a glimpse of all their professional services, email them at patbodyshop@aol.com, and follow them on Facebook and Instagram for business updates and events. Join the team on April 11 for the official opening of Scarlette’s Performance & Recovery at 4961 S. Main Street, where Matt Dylan and The HonkyTonk Outlaws will provide tunes for the launch of another successful venture!

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April 9th is National Library Workers Day, but what do librarians and libraries really do? As a society, we understand that libraries and those who work in them are crucial to our culture, but many people don’t know exactly why they are so important.

Libraries have been around far longer than we have. The first library was founded in modern-day Iraq in the 7th century B.C. Since then, libraries have evolved immensely, from this ancient library with approximately 30,000 titles to huge collections that include millions upon millions of books. According to the American Library Association, the largest literary collection in the United States is held by the Library of Congress at a whopping 34 million volumes.

Within these large collections to be treasured, librarians are the gatekeepers to knowledge. Librarians, however, do more than just re-stock the shelves of books that have been read and returned. First of all, becoming a librarian is hard work.

After an undergraduate degree, a Masters of Library Science degree must be earned in order to be employed as a fullfledged librarian.

Technical services are a large part of a librarian’s job as well.

Maintaining and updating databases for the book collections is a key component of keeping libraries moving smoothly.

Keeping the library’s collection up to date with the newest books and reference material is another important job – including deciding how many of which books to order, to keep on the shelves for patrons.

Dealing with the patrons themselves can almost be considered a fulltime job. Librarians are constantly asked for help in finding books based on interest, and must maintain a level of knowledge in order to assist in this. Not only do they assist in finding books and other such reference materials, they also help people use public computers, prepare resumes, and streamline other such public services.

Libraries are often considered to be the place where communities are built. If you walk into a library in any community, you can see children and adults being tutored, classes being held for seniors, people being helped with their taxes, and librarians showing the younger generation where to find their requested books about science for their school project. This sense of community to be found in libraries is so important to the fabric of American culture. Many of us have cherished memories of spending time after school with friends in our local libraries, and want to pass this on to our children. This is why librarians and the values they hold and pass on are so important.

Fully certified librarians aren’t the only people who work in the libraries and support this good work, though, and the other workers need to be acknowledged and thanked as well.

There are people who are employed by libraries to assist in checking books out and in restocking shelves. There are also countless volunteers who assist in programs that are held at libraries to enrich the community. There are volunteers who assist in funding libraries by holding library book sales, or selling books that are out of circulation and donated books online to fund new books or programs. All of these people – librarians, other employees, and volunteers – help our libraries to thrive and grow. To all of you, we say, “Thank you!”

Fun facts about the Forsyth County Library from 2018-2019 (source: forsyth.cc/library/statistics) • 1,247,245 people visited the library • 7,361 programs were sponsored by the library, and 123,024 people attended those programs • 1,858,742 items were checked out from the libraries • The Forsyth County Library system is made of 10 separate libraries

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Vulnerability isn’t Weakness

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Vulnerability – that super scary thing that so many of us shy away from because we think it makes us weak.

Or that super scary thing that so many of us don’t fully understand, and if we don’t understand it, why do it?

If you’ve spent some time listening to Brené Brown, either one of her videos or TED talks, you’ve heard a lot on vulnerability, and maybe even experienced a bit of it…maybe even begrudgingly so! You know the feeling: it’s that sense of being exposed which leads to the possibility of being attacked.

Risk is exactly that: the chance of an attack, whatever that attack might look like. Do you truly know what vulnerability looks like in you and in other people?

Physical vulnerability is easy to spot. If you have a dog, you know exactly what it looks like in animals. I remember when we got our rescue, Pickle (he was not named that when we got him). We were driving home from the meeting point after we signed all of the adoption papers, and he started trembling the moment we got in the car. We were convinced this little shaking creature would be terrified of us for weeks, and while he was excited to see our other dog (they had a home visit) he was definitely scared of us. There was little playing and a lot of shying away when we tried to sit with him. Pretty normal for a new pup, really normal for a rescue pup!

Later that night, we were going to bed. Our other dog sleeps on the bed with us, and we weren’t sure what was going to happen with the new guy. Much to our shock, we ended up with two dogs in the bed, and our little shaking Pickle? On his back, belly up, on the very first night. He trusted us not to hurt him.

Take that, and apply it to your emotions, and you’ve got the vulnerability that most of us are afraid of – being hurt, failure – and the thing we shy most away from.

Think about the last time you did something that really scared you.

Chances are it wasn’t one of those things that might kill you, but you had to expose your emotional “belly” so to speak. Think about why you were afraid and what exactly scared you.

Brené Brown says that vulnerability is “the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy and creativity” and I’m inclined to agree wholeheartedly. This is why it’s scary: because you’re probably trying something new or taking a risk in a way that you haven’t in the past. Think about those areas brought up by Brown. In order to truly experience love, you have to open yourself up to the possibility of getting hurt. Belonging is similar: you’re opening up the possibility of being left out if you don’t “fit in.” Joy falls there, too – you could also have great sadness. Courage, empathy, creativity – all of these offer the chance of amazingness and winning.

Also the chance of failure, heartbreak, and sadness, as well as defeat.

Why be vulnerable then? If we’re constantly trying not to fail, we’ll never succeed.

Think about it! You can play it oh-sosafe and never open yourself up to vulnerability! What does that lead to though? When you are “safe” and playing it safe, sure, you won’t experience hurt, heartbreak, loss, failure. You’re safe, status quo and just “fine.” The little box that you “hide” from failure might be warm and fuzzy…but do you want to stay there forever?

Probably not.

Take the risk and open yourself up to failure, loss, heartache, and sadness.

Yes, that chance is there.

And so is greatness.

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Skincare 101

BY JULIE FRITZ

The skin is the largest organ in the human body. And like all organs, it requires care and proper nutrients to stay healthy. As you get older, you have to put a little more time and effort into keeping your skin healthy. When we are babies, we start with fresh, beautiful skin, but over time things like sun and irritants can cause our skin to be damaged. Redness, wrinkles, and other signs of wear show up more and more each year. But have no fear, here are some foolproof tips to help you keep your skin looking fresh and beautiful for years to come.

EAT RIGHT

Diet matters. What we put into our body doesn’t just affect our waistline; it affects everything about us, including our skin. Eating healthy foods full of vitamins and nutrients is a great way to feed the skin you’re in. Some good choices include foods high in healthy fats and antioxidants.

DRINK WATER

Drinking water is one of the most important things we can do to keep our bodies healthy. And that goes for our skin, too. Being properly hydrated will keep your skin from being extra dry and help flush out toxins, which causes skin to be irritated.

MOISTURIZE

Another way to keep your skin looking fresh is by moisturizing daily. There are a lot of different skin types and a lot of different products on the market, so you may need to talk to a skincare professional to find out what the right choice is for your skin.

COVER UP AND USE SUNSCREEN

The medical community has learned a lot over the last several decades about what the sun can do to our skin. Luckily we are now living in a time where we know that our skin needs to be protected when we’re exposed to the sun. Even minimal amounts of sunlight can affect our skin. You should wear moisturizer daily with sunscreen in it, and protective clothing. Whenever you will be in the sun without protective clothing, you should wear an SPF sunscreen to be safe. Be sure to do your research and even talk to your dermatologist about what the best sunscreen choices are for you.

MORNING AND NIGHTTIME ROUTINE

Establishing a healthy skincare routine is essential to keeping your skin healthy. In the morning, the focus should be cleansing, moisturizing, and protecting your skin. At night, that focus should change. You will want to cleanse again, but then you want to focus on repair and rejuvenation. That can go a lot of ways, so again, do some research and talk to your dermatologist or a skincare professional about the right routine for you.

TREAT YOURSELF AND YOUR SKIN

Okay, ladies, this is the fun part. It is time to treat yourself. There are so many amazing skincare treatments that you can do at home or in a spa that will not only make your skin feel great and look great, but will also make you feel relaxed and refreshed. So if you have been thinking about trying a special skincare treatment, give it a go. We all deserve to take a little time out for ourselves and also to do things that make us feel beautiful.

Skincare is so important not only for the health of your skin, but to make you feel good in it. If you’re not in a good skincare routine yet, there’s no time like the present to get started.

You can still reverse some damage and find the healthiest version of your skin possible. And you’re worth it. So here’s to your health and your beauty and a lifetime of loving your skin.

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This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

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WHAT MAKES YOU YOU?

I used to be the product of the decisions and life experiences of all the people that came before me. Life happened to me and I was a passive viewer. At some point in my 20s, I decided to grab the bull by the horns and make this life work for me. I have never looked back.

WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?

I learned to use my brain, my intuition, and my heart together. If these three things agree, then any leap of faith that followed felt more like a step. Trusting myself was the scariest thing that I have ever done and the best thing I ever did. Becoming a mother has been the most empowering thing that has ever happened to me and I would not have figured this out without Baby Goddess.

WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH?

I force myself to zoom out of the problem so that I can see the bigger picture. Before proceeding, I always ask myself, “If my descendants were looking back at this decision, what would they say? How I can make sure that this next decision I make has a positive impact and sets them up to have good relationships, privilege and success?”

In essence, I try to look several generations into the future and leave a legacy they will be proud of.

WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

Aside from the sleepless nights of motherhood?

Nothing. I have a strong moral code and as long as I do the right thing, sleep is easy. In my former life and as a young professional, I did have pressure from an elected official “to go fix” something this person even called my chain! I stayed up late thinking about this and I decided not to, no matter the consequences - Fire me, bruh! I turned off the lights and slept so peacefully. This is how I figured out that secret to the universe.

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SHENELL THOMPSON

WHAT MAKES YOU YOU?

“Tell it like it is!” I have a knack for speaking with my face before my words are ever spoken. My facial expressions speak LOUD! I can’t fake it, even if I tried.

WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?

I remember telling my youngest daughter – it’s ok for you to quit; because there will be a time in life when responsibilities will keep you tied to things that no longer bring you joy! I took my own words and quit my job after 15 years – nearly two years later – I am still clapping!

WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH?

My faith keeps me grounded when life seems like it is spiraling; and, I’ve found spending time with a culturally component therapist (black woman) has helped me create a toolbox of skills to manage stress.

WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

The same things that kept me up 26 years ago, still make me stare at the ceiling. For 17 years, it was the fear of raising a black son. Nearly ten years later, I still worry about my son’s safety in this world.

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WHAT MAKES YOU YOU?

I’ve learned how to turn hurt, anger and frustration into a signal that I need to check in with myself, look inward, and prioritize self-care. It’s helped me learn to rest, breathe, take care of myself, and to not be ashamed of my anger but rather use it as a signal, and become a lot more self-aware.

WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?

I graduated high school at the age of 16, and my mom wouldn’t let me go away to school because I was so young. I had to learn so much through life experiences, become a sponge, and see everything as an opportunity to learn something new and grow as a young woman in business. I’m proud of learning early on that education comes in many forms and that you can be a successful business owner at any age, no matter what level of education you have.

WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH?

Grace. When things are tough, I have a harsh inner critic that tends to be brutal and unforgiving. Reminding myself that I am full of grace that not only extends to others but, most importantly, myself helps me to create space to persevere and keep going. I believe when we deeply forgive ourselves for mistakes made, that’s when we find hope to keep going. Even if it means making a few more.

WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

Definitely, my dogs. Winston the oversized Goldendoodle, and Boots the fun-sized Cavapoo. It’s the weirdest thing; it’s almost as if they can’t tell time.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

5 Ways Business Owners Can Improve Cash Flow Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP©

In business, cash is king. At Marzano Capital Group, we are always looking for ways to help our business owner clients manage the money flowing into and out of their companies. Improving business cash flow makes it easier for owners to run their business to help fund their personal and business goals. Here are five things business owners can do to help improve cash flow.

Create a Cash Flow Forecast: A cash flow forecast is a document that helps estimate the amount of money that will move in and out of your business. A rolling 12-month forecast is best practice for most companies. It will allow you to see where to expect surges in expenses and be prepared to address it.

Generate Recurring Revenue: A recurring revenue model produces predictable, stable payments with the expectation for them to occur at regular intervals in the future. If your product or service doesn’t have a natural recurring revenue model, you will need to implement a predictable sales process that produces a steady stream of new customers.

Audit Expenses: The devil is in the details when it comes to business expenses. Negative cash flow is often found in fixed assets with ongoing monthly payments, such as vehicles, business equipment, and services. As a business owner, you should perform routine audits of insurance, technology equipment, services, and other ongoing expenses to verify you’re not spending money on things that are no longer needed.

Build Retained Earnings: In accounting terms, an emergency fund for a business is called retained earnings. In the life of your business, there are going to be periods of time you are going to need cash, and bank financing may not be an option.

You will be faced with an unexpected challenge or opportunity and retained earnings, or your emergency fund will be your only source of cash.

Understand and Secure Bank Financing: A small business line of credit (LOC) is a predetermined credit limit, one that you use as you need. The biggest advantage of a business credit line is that you only pay interest on the funds you actually borrow. Keep in mind that the money has to eventually be repaid, so we advise only using this option when you are confident you will be able to pay back the funds.

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How Feng Shui Can Improve Your Environment

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Spring cleaning? Now’s a good time to redecorate and redesign your space.

Clearing clutter and rearranging furniture following the principles of feng shui can do wonders to improve where you live, help attract your greatest desires and bring in good vibes and positive energy.

Feng shui is a traditional practice that originated from ancient China, dating back to 4,000 B.C. and is practiced with the intent of bringing harmony to your life and your external environment.

Where to start? Begin at the front door (“mouth of qi”) in the entry way. Naturally, you want to welcome people (including yourself) into your home with a light, bright, clean, clutter- and debris-free space. Consider adding bright lights to this area.

As a general rule, it’s important to keep everything clean. Make your own DIY green cleaning products that are non-toxic and chemical-free so you can clean without a care. Mix together a simple solution of white vinegar, water, and pure essential oils in a spray bottle as an all-purpose cleaner. Not only does it make your environment look and feel better, it’s better for your overall health.

Doors in feng shui represent communication and your voice, so you want them to be clear and open with energy flowing, uninhibited.

Doors are considered passages to opportunities, so don’t overlook them. Keep doors open. If they squeak or come unhinged, have them fixed.

Commanding position is important in feng shui, so you take ownership of your life and are in command. With this in mind, consider the location of your furniture – your bed, desk, and stove.

Your bed symbolizes you, your desk symbolizes your career, and your stove symbolizes your wealth.

Many hours are spent in your bed and in a passive “yin” state when you are receptive to the energies around you. The placement of your bed affects you in both conscious and unconscious states of sleep. Support yourself from the back by placing the headboard against a solid wall. This gives you a sense of being aligned, grounded, and supported. If possible, keep some space on both sides of the bed, which represents the balance of your yin and yang (feminine and masculine qualities). You want to allow breathing room and energy to flow naturally.

Why use feng shui to place your desk? Placing your desk with commanding position in mind helps you lead your business forward, putting you in charge.

As with your bed, position your desk with a solid wall behind you – fortifying you, like a strong backbone. Consider placing your desk where there is a view of a window which allows you to keep connected to the rest of the world, as though providing an extra set of eyes and perspective, along with freedom to explore the world around you, not to mention letting the sunlight in. Access to natural light can do wonders

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for your mood and letting fresh air in is always a plus for breathability.

And, now – on to the kitchen!

This is where a lot of action occurs at different times of the day. We stay fueled and gain energy from our food and drink, nourishment vital to our lives. The stove represents the fire element in feng shui. When placing the stove, consider the importance of having a view of what’s going on in the kitchen.

In contrast, cooking with your back to the action can block the flow of energy and is bad feng shui. The energy of the sink (water element) and stove (fire element) can clash if placed too close together, so allow some space in between.

Consider adding a fountain to your home. Running or falling water can soothe, relax, and create a sense of peace, tranquility, and harmony. Also, water represents wealth, so you will be attracting good fortune. According to feng shui, where should you put your fountain? Try near the entry way, flowing toward the center of your home.

Allow wealth and fortune the opportunity to trickle into your life.

However extensively you decide to build or redecorate your space, feng shui can benefit your life and is worth a try.

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…But Be Realistic!

“The fact is that HGTV both helps and hurts designers. It helps show that design is more accessible, not just for the wealthy.

But also makes consumers believe that design takes considerably less money and time than it does in the real world.” ~ Maria Bayer When I begin ReDESIGNS by Ava nearly 15 years ago, I did mostly interior redesign using the best of what a client had to decorate their home. I admit the Interior Redesign service is my very favorite service that I offer. Within 3 to 5 hours, I can make a huge difference using furnishing and accessories my client already owns. Most of my business now comes from doing decorating projects and consultations. Most projects can’t be done in a few hours and sometimes take months to complete. Not long ago I made the comment to a contractor when working on a home update that I would love to have a magic wand. This client was updating furniture, bedding, window treatment, paint colors, spiffing up the kitchen and doing a bathroom remodel.

Unlike the 3 to 5 hours an Interior Redesign takes, this project took several months to complete….so having a magic wand would be wonderful! Oh….and the contractor said if I found a magic wand, get him one too!

Until HGTV hit the airwaves in December 1994, shows weren’t available for those of us who love doing projects around the house and yard. Designer wannabes had to search magazines and do things by trial and error. Now with shows like the ones on

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HGTV, it’s easy to come to the conclusion that design happens quickly, and without much effort! A show might do a complete kitchen tear-out, go to commercial, and come back to a completed kitchen. In reality, it doesn’t happen that way.

If I have control of the remote at my house, the channel is more than likely on HGTV. From experience, I know that design doesn’t happen quickly or effortlessly, and it is costly. I understand that most shows are edited to fit a time frame and have a team of tradespeople lined up to do the work. I know how important timing is and how hard it is to coordinate all aspects of the project, including the ordering and arrival of materials. Before you start a project, do your homework, get more than one estimate, price out materials, and have realistic expectations of the time frame to get the job done. Be realistic!

There are so many choices out there.

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• 12 mint leaves (optional)

Fruit layer: • 4 cups of several types of fresh fruit, cut into ¼” dice (consider using 1 to 4 of these fruits: mango, kiwi, strawberries, mandarin oranges, seedless grapes, pears, peaches, blueberries, cherries, raspberries, bananas, etc.)

Whipped cream layer: • 3 cups whipping cream, whipped to stiff peaks

Combine milk, sugar, lemon juice and oats. Mix well and soak overnight.

Dice fruit. Layer fruit, oatmeal, and whipped cream in a small drinking glass or a wine glass.

Repeat, ending with whipped cream. Garnish with fruit and mint.

Depending on size of glass used, this recipe makes 8 to 12 servings.

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A SLICE OF ORGANIC LIFE

Part 2: The Viable Possibilities of a Small Plot

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Are you dreaming of being closer to nature and yet worried that your living arrangement stifles practical goals? Whether you live in an apartment or townhouse, in the city or suburbs, your current lifestyle does not prevent you from choosing fresh and natural over pre-packaged and chemicalladen. Ready to dive into a fruitful change? You’ll be amazed at the possibilities by investing in your small plot of Earth!

The desire to develop a garden is insatiable! There is very little preventing you from getting started! All you need is creativity and in-depth knowledge of plant companions and the term, intercropping, which means growing two or more crops together to save space.

MEASURE SUNLIGHT

Natural sunlight is the one factor that will determine whether you have healthy plants and a qualitysized harvest or weak stems and stunted growth. Take a stake and place it in the ground for the location of the future raised bed.

Determine whether space offers at minimal six hours of direct sunlight.

If eight, then the placement is ideal!

RAISED BEDS

From cinder blocks or non-treated wood, you can design the shape in rectangles or triangles. The benefits of having raised beds with a maximum three-foot width require little time to water and weed.

Unlike a garden, the elevated garden remains aerated to attract earthworms and promote health for each plant. Another option is using low but wide barrels. Remember, you have to fill the container with soil.

Tip: Rather than planting in lines, consider triangles.

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THINK UP, NOT OUT

The small plot gardener needs to think methodically; therefore, think about the number of crops that can grow on a trellis, tomato cage or bamboo pole. By limiting your space, sugar snap peas, cucumbers, summer squash and zucchini are viable options. Keep in mind heavy fruit require a strong support structure. Tomatoes, for instance, need stakes to support the cage and training to ensure the plant grows straight. When harvesting, pick fruits early to prevent tearing.

SPACE

Stepping outside the box, think about how to add large pots and hanging baskets to your porch, front steps, walkways and windows. Of course, you can grow lettuce and herbs along frequently traveled pathways. In passing, you can take a minute to water, weed or pick the harvest.

Tip: Plant a small area of lettuce every three weeks to limit feeling overwhelmed.

SAY “YES” TO A FIG TREE

Against a south-facing wall, plant a locally grown fig tree. As a slow-grower, the tree is low maintenance. It requires pruning in the spring and protection during the winter months with a bucket full of leaves.

BLUEBERRY OR BLACKBERRY BUSHES

The climate of North Carolina benefits blueberry and blackberry bushes. You’ll need to plant two in sunny locations. Just ensure the hole is wide rather than deep to allow roots to spread along the surface. Don’t forget to fertilize each spring and fall! And, enjoy those berries!

COMPOSTING

With the ability to grow in containers and raised beds, you’ll need access to enriched soil. The environmental way is to start composting. You have options in style and size, affordability or DIY. As long as you balance carbon and protein-rich matter, the result will transform into “black gold.”

Carbon: Think of materials that add two-thirds of the total breathable room, such as branches, stems, dried leaves, peels, sawdust, shredded brown paper bags, shredded paper, coffee filters, crushed eggshells, corn cobs, dryer lint, dog hair and wood ash.

Nitrogen: Any matter that is natural and raw such as lawn clippings, leaves, coffee grounds. (Need one-third only.)

A homeowner’s responsibility is to turn or fluff the compost and add water. Consider placing your composter relatively close to the house. Remember, you’ll want to toss out scraps on a semi-daily basis!

WELCOME POLLINATORS

In creating a “green” yard, you’ll quickly notice the flitter and flutter of a diverse array of pollinators. Enjoy the arrival of colorful birds and hummingbirds! Throw out the welcome mat and provide lodging, washing and eating opportunities, perhaps near a window for privacy.

Tip: Start planning on extending the growing season by installing PVC pipe and five-mil plastic! Despite the small plot of Earth, you can design a colorful, inspiring haven with creativity and methodical planning!

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O P E N S I N D OW N T OW N W I N S T O N - S A L E M

BY JULIE FRITZ

Over the past several years, Andrews has been growing into his role in the local restaurant community. He and business partner Jeff Bassett opened Jeffery Adams in 2012. He then opened Andrews Farms to provide local produce for his restaurants for a true farm to table experience in 2014.

Then 2017 brought the opening of Dogwood Hops and Crops and The Trophy Room in collaboration with his friends Austin Ridge and Joe Hurdle.

And in February of this year, he opened Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. to bring something new to the table downtown. Andrews went on to say, “I love being a part of this community. Everyone in the hospitality business here cheers each other on and has each other’s back. It’s very special.”

When the space on the corner of Fourth and Spruce became available, Andrews knew it was the perfect place for a breakfast spot. But he is taking it one step further. Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. will have delicious, affordable breakfast and lunch options served all day and a full bar. He has a fantastic team in place that includes Chef David Swing and front house manager, Nick Shea. Swing is the former chef at Sir Winston and Firebirds, and Shea has been at Jeffery Adams with Andrews since day one.

The menu at Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. makes it a stand out downtown establishment. The breakfast selections give you the option of classics and specialty items. You can enjoy biscuits, Benedicts, building your own omelet, and hash browns topped with just about anything you can imagine. If you are looking for something sweet, you will want to try their French toast, waffles, and pancakes. They also have some delicious specialty breakfast items like the chicken and grits with pork rind encrusted fried chicken, chorizo, Texas Pete tomato gravy, spinach, and creamy stone-ground grits. Lunch items include fresh salads and sandwiches like the Prime Rib Sandwich with sliced prime rib, mushrooms, caramelized onions, bell peppers, Swiss cheese, and horseradish sauce.

The late-night menu will be scaled down, but have some unique items like breakfast panini sandwiches.

We all know breakfast is the most important meal of the day, but there is something really special about the classic, American take on this meal. Eggs, bacon, sausage, hash browns, and of course, in the south, grits and biscuits. In downtown Winston-Salem, there is a new restaurant taking that classic American breakfast to the next level. Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. is now open serving fresh, local, classic American breakfast dishes all day, in addition to lunch and a late-night menu.

Owner Adam Andrews is no stranger to the Winston-Salem restaurant scene. In fact, he started as a dishwasher at Town and Country in King, NC. After working his way up in that restaurant, he attended Le Cordon Bleu Institute of Culinary Arts in Pittsburgh. After graduating, he worked for one year in Pittsburg as a chef at Atrias. At that time, he heard about a job in WinstonSalem at 4th Street Filling Station. He knew it was time to come home. Andrews said, “Coming back here in the early 2000s, the growth that Winston-Salem was experiencing was so exciting.

Restaurants and nightlife were really beginning to flourish, and I wanted to be a part of it.”

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Don’t forget about the full bar that has a variety of specialty drinks to make your meal complete. In addition to draft beer, bottled beer, and a nice selection of wines, there are really great signature drinks. One of the boozy coffees you might enjoy is the Bourbon Salted Caramel made with Maker’s Mark Bourbon, caramel, and espresso. They also have some exciting bloody Marys made with a house-made bloody Mary mix.

The bar will also be open until 12:00 AM Thursday, Friday, and Saturdays during their late-night service.

If you are looking for a great new place for breakfast, lunch, or late-night eats, you have to try Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. It is located at 424 4th Street NW in downtown Winston-Salem. They are open Tuesday - Friday from 7AM-3PM, Saturday - Sunday from 8AM-3PM, late night Friday & Saturday from 9PM-2:30AM and closed Mondays.

For more information, you can check out their website at youngcardinalws.com. To see the latest things going on, follow them on Instagram at youngcardinalws and on Facebook.

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Young Cardinal Cafe and Co. is Downtown Winston-Salem’s latest spot for classic and simple breakfast and lunch. Our menu is back to the basics with modern twists and fresh ingredients. Stop by the coffee bar to have an espresso while you work on your laptop or get a table in our sit down dining room for a family brunch. We even have cocktails and late night fare for weekenders. We hope Young Cardinal becomes your new go to for breakfast, brunch and late-night.

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What to Eat When You’re Craving Candy

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Many of us struggle with overcoming those sugar cravings - you are not alone!

Sugar cravings are derived from a variety of reasons, from genetics to lack of sleep to stress, or maybe you’re simply fighting to restrain from the purely addictive nature of sugar. Time to fight back! Let’s gain control over our binges by implementing these tasty strategies that’ll help you conquer any sugar addiction.

TIP #1: EAT SATISFYING, REAL MEALS

This is a lifelong tip to stuff in your back pocket at all times, whether you’re traveling or at home. Eating satisfying, real meals will help you to control your sweet tooth by overcoming it with nutritional elements. A “real” meal can be classified as a balanced-meal with proper amounts of protein, complex carbohydrates, and healthy fats. No matter how many meals you eat throughout the day, make sure you have at least a handful of each of those categories. Slowly, you will start to notice that your sugar cravings are more manageable and sugar is less desirable.

TIP #2: LOW-SUGAR ALTERNATIVES & HOMEMADE BAKED GOODS

Instead of going cold-turkey on all sweets, try satisfying any sugar cravings with low-sugar alternatives. For instance, try replacing any high-sugar coffee drinks and/or creamers with green tea and honey. Maybe replace those store-bought muffins with homemade banana-sweetened muffins or a fruit salad. Fresh fruit is high in dietary fiber, which can help you better control your blood sugar levels and reduce cholesterol. Another tasty alternative to sweeten your baked goods is using 100% pure maple syrup and/ or Medjool dates; both are naturally sweetened and provide added nutrients. There is an abundance of healthier dessert/snack options; you just have to find one that you adore and make it your go-to!

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FOODS TO FIGHT YOUR SUGAR CRAVINGS:

1. Dark Chocolate More often than not, you’re probably craving a chocolate candy bar. A healthier choice is to choose dark chocolate that contains more than 70% cocoa. Dark Chocolate contains polyphenols that can improve heart health and contains less sugar to help you slowly break your addiction.

2. Chia Pudding Chia seeds are rich in many essential nutrients, including dietary fiber and omega-3 fatty acids. The soluble fiber in chia seeds often helps you feel fuller for a longer time period, aka preventing more sugar cravings later on. A simple chia pudding recipe is to whisk together 2 tablespoons chia seeds, 1 teaspoon honey, and 1/2 cup milk of your choice in a jar.

Cover the jar and store in the fridge for at least 2 hours, then enjoy with your favorite fruits on top.

3. Yogurt Yogurt is a creamy substitute to ice cream that is high in protein, rich in calcium, and low in sugar. Studies have shown yogurt to regulate individuals’ appetites and control their cravings for sugar over time. When choosing yogurt, search for a nutrition label that shows that it has live cultures and is free of added sugars. For a healthier dessert choice, top 1/2 cup of plain yogurt with a drizzle of maple syrup or honey. For an added crunch, add a very small handful of cacao nibs or dark chocolate chips.

4. Smoothies If your sugar craving is pretty intense, then quickly make a fruit smoothie with added greens. Power-pack your smoothie with whole fruits to retain their fiber, plain yogurt, and greens, such as spinach, kale, or collard greens. If you’re searching for any new recipe ideas, try the combination of 1/4 cup orange juice, 1 banana, 1 cube fresh ginger root (peeled), and 2 cups frozen strawberries. A tasty smoothie that stimulates proper digestion and reduces inflammation.

5. Trail Mix Trail mix can be a tricky alternative because there are many options in the grocery stores that are loaded with added sugars. If you have a little extra time on your hands, try making a homemade version that includes your favorite nuts and dried fruits. Roasted nuts contain protein, fiber, and healthy fats essential to a balanced diet. However, trail mix is typically high in calories, so it is best to stick to a serving size of one handful as a snack.

You are already on your way to beating those sugar cravings and making healthier choices!

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HOPE DU JOUR CELEBRATES

30 YEARS OF IMPACT

WITH CRISIS CONTROL MINISTRY It’s an incredible thing to think that thirty years ago, what started out as an idea to save the food pantry at Crisis Control Ministry grew into the incredible outreach program and local tradition it is today. Hope du Jour has not only continued to make a difference to the Crisis Control Ministry and the citizens it serves, but to the community as a whole by bringing people together for something we can all agree on: great food!

This year’s Hope du Jour event is on Tuesday, May 5th celebrating its 30th anniversary where participating restaurants donate 10% of their proceeds to Crisis Control Ministry, Forsyth County’s largest provider of emergency assistance. Members of the community can come out to show their support for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and dessert!

What makes this event so special you may wonder? Margaret Elliot, the Executive Director shares that “People go out just because it’s Hope du Jour! They look forward to it every year!”

BY TARYN JEREZ

When Candide Jones, then the WinstonSalem Journal restaurant reviewer, and Patti Hoffman, the Crisis Control Ministry Director at the time, came together to make the fundraiser a reality, they started with an ambitious 40 restaurants. The goal was to raise money for the food pantry while helping local restaurants increase sales on Tuesday nights, one of their traditionally lower volume business times.

Naturally, the first Hope du Jour was an immediate success and has now led to this year’s 30th-anniversary event, to include over 125 restaurants, bakeries, breweries, coffee shops, and even a few other small businesses! You can find a Hope du Jour restaurant to dine out at in Winston-Salem, Rural Hall, Walkertown, Kernersville, Clemmons, and Lewisville.

Residents of Forsyth Country who have experienced an unavoidable financial crisis such as a health issue, unemployment, or car repair are able to come to Crisis Control Ministry for temporary assistance with food, housing, utilities, and even medication. Abbey Riesett, the Special Events & Marketing Manager for the Crisis Control Ministry, shared that last year, the ministry assisted 13,902 of our neighbors with a total value of $2,921,247 through their efforts and the generosity of the community. While there are 18 employees and 202 weekly volunteers helping to change the lives of these individuals who are experiencing unfortunate circumstances, the community that comes together for Hope du Jour each year truly is part of the Crisis Control family as well!

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We’re living in a time where the false narrative that “everyone is out for themselves” rings loudly, but Hope du Jour challenges that thought and reminds us that true community exists and thrives right here!

Stephen M. Kroustalis of Plaza Restaurant continues to be part of Hope du Jour each year and shared why he is proud to take part in the event. ”I do not wish to live in the type of world where we do not look out for each other. By that, I mean not just those that are family and close to us, but also anybody that may need a helping hand. We never know what the future brings, but having a support organization like Crisis Control is of paramount importance. I am grateful to be able to do my small part in helping Crisis Control each year, as I know the cause is a worthy one.”

Other long term participants such as Village Tavern, Waldo’s Wings, Midtown Cafe & Dessertery, and Diamondback Grill have also seen the impact Hope du Jour can make and continue to take part because of it. Hope du Jour even adds a little friendly competition in the mix by presenting awards in three different categories each year. The 2019 winners were: • Largest Donation - Don Juan’s Mexican Restaurant in Kernersville (4th consecutive year of winning) • Largest Donation from a First Time Restaurant - Yamas Mediterranean Street Food • Largest Donation Increase over Previous Year - Village Tavern, Griffith Rd. location As each year’s efforts and participation continues to expand, the potential to change the lives of community members exponentially expands with it. This year you are invited to bring your loved ones to come hungry and make an impact on May 5th for the Hope du Jour 30th Anniversary Event! For a full list of participating restaurants or to become a sponsor, please visit hopedujour.org.

If you’d like more information about how you can get involved with Crisis Control Ministry or to learn about how the Ministry serves our neighbors in crisis, please head to their website at crisiscontrol.org.

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A RELATIONSHIP GAME CHANGER

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

One spring day some years ago, my then-14year-old nephew stomped into the kitchen, threw down his knapsack, and huffed his way over to the refrigerator.

“What’s wrong, sweetie?”

“My coach doesn’t like me. I have no idea why and I am going to quit. It’s not fair!”

“So you’ve hit a real rough spot and you feel like you’re backed up against a wall.”

“I just want to be able to play, Aunt Jean. I just want my chance.”

“I know… and it is so frustrating when you don’t have a clue why you’re not.”

That day in the kitchen, I was fully-present to my nephew and connected with him through empathy. I got into his teenage athlete shoes as best I could, listened to his frustration, confusion, and anger and allowed him to feel heard and understood. This moment was the “I get you” prelude to problem-solving and next steps.

Roman Krznaric, Ph.D and founding member of The School of Life in London, defines empathy as “the ability to step into the shoes of another person, aiming to understand their feelings and perspectives, and to use that understanding to guide our actions.”

For some, being empathetic when a person is filled with emotion can be a scary and confusing place. We think “I’m not really comfortable with this. What if I totally miss the point and get it wrong?” For others, empathy isn’t a welldeveloped part of our communication toolkit.

And so, well-intentioned as we may be, we rely

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on other responses. We jump to offering solutions: “Why don’t you…?” or, we minimize the situation: “It can’t be that bad…” or we dismiss the person’s feelings: “Don’t forget that the sun will always come out tomorrow.” These responses are rarely helpful. The conversation goes flat, we don’t understand why, and the other person often feels more alone and sometimes, emotionally abandoned.

Researchers tell us that we are biologically wired for empathy, as are dogs, rats, and possibly even plants. It makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint because empathy fosters cooperation, which in turn fosters survival. When we consider our own experience, it’s abundantly-clear that empathy is a relationship gamechanger. It allows us to connect on a deeper human level by taking our “surface-level nice” interactions to a more meaningful place where we engage as two people who seek to understand one another.

Nursing scholar Theresa Wiseman has identified these four attributes of empathy: • To be able to see the world as others see it • To be non-judgmental • To understand another person’s feelings • To communicate your understanding of that person’s feelings From my years of coaching employees and their managers, I know that these heavy-hitters are powerful!

They challenge our self-awareness, openness, humility, and our willingness to step into the other person’s shoes and feel what it’s like inside them. Translation: they require us to be open and vulnerable. I have witnessed many a Eureka! moment, as in “When I put aside my lens, I was able to truly see and understand why they feel and behave as they do.” Empathy goes beyond building understanding; it also builds a foundation of

trust at work and at home. Early in my marriage, my husband and I had conversations where we both felt frustrated. I’d explain a vexing situation and he’d jump into problem-solving mode when all I wanted was to be heard and understood. Now he knows that when I say, “I just need you to listen,” he gets me!

Empathy changes things between people. The good news is that if you are willing, it is a skill that can be learned, sharpened, and deepened. Consider that highlyempathic people: 1. Are curious about strangers – curiosity expands empathy because it expands our worldview 2. Listen well – to the feelings behind the words, to the body language that speaks silently 3. Open up – to reveal their own vulnerabilities and create an emotional common ground 4. Are okay with silence – allow for understanding to unfold 5. Paraphrase and summarize – engage by acting as a mirror for the other person What are your strengths and where can you build your empathy muscle?

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Get With Your Girls

BY JULIE FRITZ

Having friends is one of the best parts of the human experience. There’s something so special about sharing your life with people that you love.

These relationships can fuel your soul and fulfill your spirit. It is so important to foster them so you can bring each other joy and help each other through the hard times. In order to do that, you have to make time to get together with your girlfriends now and then.

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT

Planning a girls’ night out is a great way to spend time with your friends.

Get rid of the kids, husband, and responsibilities and spend one night just catching up. You can go and do a creative activity, grab some coffee, or have dinner. Make sure at least a portion of the evening is in a place where you can talk. Nothing fulfills the soul like a good chat session with your girlfriends.

GIRLS’ GETAWAY WEEKEND

Even though they can be a little more complicated to plan, a good girls’ weekend is well worth the effort. And there are so many options for fun things to do and cool places to go. You can go somewhere close for a quick trip, or you can fly somewhere special and truly get away. This is also a great way to catch up with friends that may not live near you. Meet in the middle and plan a relaxing trip where you can spend time resting and catching up.

MAKE THAT PHONE CALL

If one of your friends has been on your mind, it’s probably a good time to make a phone call and catch up. Often, when we think of someone, it’s our heart’s way of reminding us to reach out to them. Sometimes when you have kids or are working a lot, it’s harder to make time for those phone calls. But they are so important. Schedule them if you need to, and put them on the calendar. That way, you can make sure to fit them in.

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CONNECT WITH THE GIRLS THAT KNOW YOU BEST

We all have friends from our childhood. If you’re lucky enough to still know them, they really are the people who know you best.

Growing up with a person gives her the unique experience of knowing your family and who you were before you came became who you are now. It’s important to remember to connect with these friends to remind you of your roots and also to remind you of how far you’ve come. These can be some of the most important and fueling relationships of your life.

MAKE A FEW FRIENDS IN EACH SEASON OF LIFE

In every season of life, you require different things. That goes for friendships, too. When you’re in college, it’s a great time to make friends that are in college, too. When you’re a young professional, you want to be around people who are going through the same struggles you are. When you become a mother, having other friends who understand what being a mother is like is invaluable.

This goes on and on throughout our lives. Wherever you are in your current situation, make sure you take a good look around to find the people who can walk with you in this moment. They will become part of your village, and as you move to later phases in your life, some will stay and some will go. But they will always hold a special place in your heart for the moment in time where they completely understood you.

The luckiest people on Earth are the people who understand the value of true friendship and get to experience the love that only true friends can share. So go on, get with your girls. Love each other, support each other, and help each other grow. You will all be better for it in the end.

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Celebrate “Take our Daughters & Sons to Work Day!”

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

One of the best ways to educate our youth on the variety of different and exciting careers is by showing them these professions firsthand. This upcoming April 23, 2020, is a day celebrated across the nation as “Take Our Daughters & Sons to Work Day.” This is a day to enjoy with one’s youth and open their eyes to the different opportunities out there.

What exactly does this day mean for our youth? How was it originally developed, and what are its intentions today? “Take our Daughters & Sons to Work Day” was developed to help empower girls and boys in all sectors of society to overcome adversity and reach their full potential.

This was developed through The Take Our Daughters & Sons to Work Foundation, which creates innovative strategies and research-based activities in informal educational programs. Through its leadership, expertise, and collaborations, the Take Our Daughters & Sons to Work Foundation advocates for changes in social policy and public awareness on behalf of youth.

How does this simple day help go beyond simply “shadowing” an adult? Designed to be more than a career day, the Take Our Daughters & Sons to Work program goes beyond just watching what one’s parents do at work. The program exposes girls and boys to all aspects of what a parent or mentor in their lives does during the workday. More importantly, it showcases the value of their education, helping them to realize the power and possibilities associated with a balanced work and family life. The program also helps youth by allowing them to begin steps toward their end goals in a hands-on and interactive environment, which is key to their achieving success.

Is this celebration only limited to the single day of April 23rd? What is unique about this celebration is that it does not have to be limited to one day. The programs and activities that have been designed by the foundation can encourage scholars to begin researching possible careers much earlier than April 23rd. For educators, the foundation can help their students by creating a unique learning experience that incorporates practical applications

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of their studies (such as math, English, and science), and encouraging them to take an active role in their education. Ultimately, this program can enhance students’ interests and approaches to learning.

For interested companies, the foundation can help through a variety of ways. Firstly, the foundation has developed activities to help assist in planning a successful day. The foundation has also developed a “toolkit” for companies to use to promote the day to their employees. One thing the foundation does that can greatly help a company get started is it shows examples of how certain industries may participate in the day. For example, for those involved in the payroll aspect of a company, the foundation suggests “a member of the payroll department demonstrates how employees get paid.” Afterward, the same employee can “explain how time off is factored in (sick/personal/vacation), federal and state deductions, and savings plan deductions.” The foundation also can help an interested company by suggesting specific handouts for certain departments. Regarding the payroll example, they suggest handouts such as sample timesheets and paychecks.

How can interested parents or mentors participate if their company or workplace is not participating in this? If one is interested, the foundation has the full details about this year’s program through its website. The theme for this year is “Meet the Workplace

Superstars.” The foundation can help interested parents/mentors by showcasing the tools that will help initiate conversations with one’s daughter, son, relative, or sponsor/ mentee around work. The foundation also has created family-friendly activities that can be implemented if one is planning their own program, as well as a toolkit for parents and mentors with everything needed to prepare for the big day.

For more information, visit the Take Our Daughters & Sons to Work Foundation website at daughtersandsonstowork.org.

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Benefits of Art & Music

BY JAMIE LOBER

There are many rewards for being involved with art and music. The North Carolina Arts Council found that the arts create many opportunities for success, not only in learning, but in life. Test scores improve and drop-out rates decrease. Kids can brush up on skills like creativity, problem-solving, and collaboration. Our state is proud to have a Comprehensive Arts Education, which has the following three components: • Integration where the arts serve as a catalyst for learning across the curriculum • Exposure through artists-in-residence, concerts, performances and visits to art galleries • Arts as core academic subjects taught by licensed arts educators such as dance, theater arts, visual arts, and music There have been many studies on the benefits of music. One of the most frequently discussed is the Mozart effect, which highlights the mental influence of music. It has been found that many musicians have an unusual mathematical ability. One study compared students who listened to a Mozart sonata to students who listened to a relaxation tape and the ones who listened to Mozart performed better. Music is also linked to stress reduction. Studies compare people who underwent medical procedures where some listened to music beforehand and others did not, and those who listened to music had lower blood pressure and remained calmer.

Music can affect physical health such that people who dance have a lower risk of falling in their senior years because they will have a better gait and better balance than their peers.

Every Forsyth Woman is interested in improving wellness. Time magazine found music as an easy way to stay well. They mentioned studies about what music can do, such as: • Improve mood • Ease pain • Fend off depression • Improve post-surgery • Improve blood flow outcomes • Lower levels of stress-related • Regulate emotions hormones like cortisol • Improve sleep quality You do want to make a conscious effort to choose your music carefully as Time also pointed out that listening to the wrong music can put you in a negative mental state and make you feel angry or sad. Both singing and playing an instrument can be therapeutic. It is about finding what you like and sticking with it.

If you are thinking about kicking your heels up and going dancing, it is a great idea. It is not just about staying fit and having fun. There are many benefits to dancing, including: • Improving muscle • Stronger bones and reduced tone, strength, risk of osteoporosis endurance, and fitness • Improved general and • Making new friends psychological wellbeing • Improving heart • Better coordination, agility, and lungs and flexibility • Weight management • Improved balance and • Improved mental spatial awareness functioning • Improved • Improved self-esteem aerobic fitness and self-confidence • Better social skills

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If you would prefer to do something less active, drawing comes with many benefits and can be done with many different mediums. You may not realize all the positive things you gain from picking up a marker or paintbrush, including: • Developing fine motor skills • Increased confidence • Encouraging visual analysis • Teaching creative • Better concentration problem solving • Improved hand-eye • Helps to express emotions coordination and document memories Theater is another excellent avenue to get involved in the arts. Kids can participate in school plays and adults can join community theater programs. Some benefits include: • Compassion • Cooperation and • Tolerance for others collaboration • Problem-solving • Improved verbal and • Self-confidence nonverbal communication like articulation, voice projection, • Social awareness fluency of language and • Aesthetic appreciation persuasive speech • Appreciation of culture and the arts • Trust and risk-taking • Improved memory from • Imagination rehearing and learning words • New ideas Regardless of which art form you prefer, art and music can become lifelong pastimes and even passions that will help you and your family become more wholesome people.

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JOE CROCKER,

FORMER DIRECTOR OF LOCAL IMPACT IN FORSYTH COUNTY, NAMED INAUGURAL “RAISING EVERY CHILD CHAMPION” Family Services will name Joe Crocker, retired director of Local Impact in Forsyth County for Kate B. Reynolds Charitable Trust, as the inaugural Raising Every Child Children’s Champion for his long career serving the residents of Forsyth County and his dedication to making children’s lives better.

The award will be presented at the annual Raising Every Child benefit luncheon which will take place from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m., Thursday, April 23 at the Benton Convention Center with Master of Ceremonies Don Flow and returning Keynote Speaker Robert D. Putnam.

Tickets and sponsorship opportunities are available at RaisingEveryChild.org.

Joe joined the Trust team in 2010 to oversee local grantmaking, which focuses on improving the quality of life for Forsyth County residents with low incomes.

During his tenure at the Trust, Joe was committed to improving safety net and education services locally, while also supporting the foundation as grantmaking evolved from a charitable model to goal-oriented investments.

Beginning in 2015, Joe oversaw the Trust’s long-term special initiative Great Expectations to ensure Forsyth County’s youngest children were ready for success in school and life by the time they finished Kindergarten.

“Joe has been a constant support and an inspiring guide for all of

us working in the early childhood field in Forsyth County,” Family Services President and CEO Bob Feikema said.

Well known for his extensive civic career across the Carolinas, Joe previously served as the director of operations for the Z. Smith Reynolds Foundation, the assistant secretary for community development for the North Carolina Department of Commerce, senior vice president at Wachovia Corporation, and chairman of the board of trustees at Western Carolina University.

Joe grew up in Kings Mountain, North Carolina, and graduated from Western Carolina University with a degree in business administration.

Joe Crocker, retired director of Local Impact in Forsyth County for Kate B. Reynolds Charitable Trust, will be named the inaugural Raising Every Child Children’s Champion

Joe was also instrumental in the launch of the Pre-K Priority, an initiative convened by Family Services to improve the number of affordable, high-quality Pre-K programs available to all fouryear-olds in Forsyth County.

Raising Every Child addresses the opportunity gap in Forsyth County and provides a forum for community champions to come together and affirm their commitment to make Forsyth County the best place in North Carolina for families with young children. By sponsoring the annual Raising Every Child Champions event, you will help ensure that Forsyth County has the resources needed to make childhood well-being the rival of any city in the country.

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A Farmer’s Tale:

A Journey from Soil to Market

BY DAVID WILLARD

“No race can prosper until it learns there is as much dignity in tilling a field as in writing a poem.”

— Booker T. Washington.

“Agriculture is our wisest pursuit, because it will in the end contribute most to real wealth, good morals, and happiness.”

These quotes represent the respect and gratitude that the farmer has garnered through the years. It is an occupation born of hard work and dedication.

However, it is also, at times, a thankless endeavor that we all seem to forget the need for. Farming is a legacy that continues today, but most of the time, at a much smaller level, than in years past.

Outside of large government-controlled farms, many of today’s farmers are small, local farms that produce for the community and surrounding areas. In fact, many are represented at the local farmers markets in select locations throughout these communities.

In fact, there are numerous such farmers markets all over the country.

To examine the popularity of these farmers markets, one must just look at the number of markets that reside in states from coast-to-coast. In 2010, California tops the list with a whopping 580 farmers markets. Next on the list is New York with 461 followed by Illinois and Michigan, with 286 and 271, respectively. North Carolina comes in at number 10 on the list with 182 markets to its credit. In 2019, the number of farmers markets grew to more than 8,600 nationwide.

A recent report by the Farmers Market Coalition (FMC) stated, “Farmers markets provide one of the only low-barrier entry points for new farmers, ranchers, and food entrepreneurs, allowing them to start small and test new products. According to the 2017 National Young Farmers Coalition survey, farmers markets and CSAs (community supported agriculture) represented the marketing channel with the highest proportion of new and beginning farmers’

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— Thomas Jefferson.

“When tillage begins, other arts follow. The farmers, therefore, are the founders of human civilization.”

— Daniel Webster

sales. This support is incredibly important, as there are currently 3.5 times as many U.S. farmers over the age of 65 as there are under 35. Many successful national brands got their start at farmers markets, including Hodo Foods, Dave’s Killer Bread, and Blue Bottle Coffee.”

On this same report, the FMC reported that, “Farmers and ranchers receive only 15 cents of every food dollar that consumers spend at traditional food outlets. At a farmers market, 100% of your food dollar goes to your local farmer.” It is these kinds of statistics that make a trip to your nearest farmers market seem much more appealing than the local grocer alternative. It is, quite simply, a community supporting its own community.

Although farmers markets are becoming staples of local communities, it is the personalities and stories of the various vendors that make up these markets that this column will focus on. From the local beekeeper to the seasonal fruits and vegetable growers, this column will tell their stories, reveal their farming histories, and inform readers what led them to this world of small farming and to be a vendor in their farmers market. This feature will give a face and a voice to this growing community.

Masanobu Fukuoka once said, “The ultimate goal of farming is not the growing of crops, but the cultivation and perfection of human beings.” In a less than perfect world, not everyone is meant to be farmers. We all have our own skills and talents that add to the world we live in. However, we can all learn from the bounty we each receive when we take the time and effort to visit the community staple known as the farmers market.

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Time is Money: Hacks to Make Your Life Easier

BY TABI FALCONE As the saying goes: time is money.

Whether in business or your personal life, this saying rings true in many aspects. By saving time, you will allow yourself more time to do things that add value (financial or otherwise) into your life. Below are a few easy ways to save time on daily tasks in order to add additional value to your life.

MEAL PLANNING

The more you plan ahead, the more time you will save during the week.

Not only will this help you save actual money, the time saved by avoiding the dreaded post-work grocery trip will give you back between 30-90 minutes a day. If you want to optimize the time saving, throw meal prepping into this hack as well! By prepping all produce during one set time of the week to use for the remainder of the week, you’ll significantly cut down on your prep time at dinner time which can add more time back to your evening.

GROCERY PICKUP

Going to the grocery store can take way longer than preferable, especially if you are going during a busy time (such as Sunday afternoons). Cue the glorious wonder that is grocery pick up! Instead of creating your list, then driving to the store and spending a long time finding all the items on the list, then waiting in line to pay for said items…. You can order your groceries through your computer (or an app!) from the comfort of your bed, and then pick them up curbside. Most places will even load them into your trunk, so you don’t have to leave your car at all.

CREATE A TO-DO LIST

Taking a few minutes to write down all of the things you need to accomplish will actually save you time. By having all your tasks written down and organized, you’ll save time that would otherwise be spent thinking of what you need to do – or even worse: realizing at the last minute that you forgot to write the email you were supposed to send 6 hours previously. This hack will help streamline your thoughts and prevent forgetting things that need to be done.

HAVE LESS THINGS

This hack is simple: the less things you have, the less time you will spend taking care of them. Less toys means less time cleaning up. Less house is less cleaning time spent. It takes a lot less time to keep up a 1600 square foot house than it does to maintain a 4000 square foot house.

DELEGATE

Especially for the moms reading this: you don’t have to do everything. If you have ten things on your morning to-do list, is there anything you can delegate to your significant other, roommate, or children? You can hire help for delegation as well.

If you have the means to do so, hiring a house cleaner can be a game-changer with how much time you get back.

RE-EVALUATE YOUR LIFE

This hack may seem dramatic, but taking a step back periodically to really evaluate what you are doing is a crucial part of ensuring that you are optimizing your time as well as you can be.

There are so many time-sucks in today’s culture, it can be easy to add on a bunch of them without realizing it. By taking the time to list out what things you are committed to doing at least once a year, you will be forced to consider if they are worth the time that you are spending on them.

If they are not worth the stress added in time reduction, then scrap them and move on with the rest of your life.

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O vercoming Loneliness

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

A person can be in the heart of a massive crowd but can still feel incredibly lonely.

We live in a world where being alone is not a “good look” for anyone. Not everyone enjoys eating out alone, shopping alone, and some can barely live alone. Western cultures have led us to believe that having a group of friends around us—or sometimes just one friend—makes us look more desirable. We see movies and read books about a character who doesn’t want to “die alone.” We see the common portrayal of depressed people sitting alone in a darkened room. We even see school cliques where there is that one pouty-faced kid who is left out with nobody to interact or play with.

No matter who we are or even how many people we may know, no one is immune to feeling lonely; it creeps up on all of us like that unwanted and unexpected visitor. But be uplifted! We can all overcome feelings of loneliness—I certainly had to. I had to learn from personal experience that being alone is one of the greatest things for our wellbeing.

I experienced loneliness on a very deep level.

Not only was I physically lonely with very little to no people near me, but I dealt with emotional loneliness. I’ve always felt like the odd one out ever since middle school. I was tremendously shy and quiet, quirky, and didn’t quite follow the same trends that most of my peers did. I would get made fun of every day, and I had very little to no friends until my latter years of high school. At the dawn of my adolescence, I would experience loneliness on a surface level—feeling lonely because nobody wanted to talk to me or sit with me during lunch, gym, or just free time in class.

During my early university years, I became immersed in crowds but still felt incredibly lonely. How was this so? It was difficult for me to relate to others and vice versa; other folks had a hard time figuring me out because I was so quiet and aloof. The older I became, the more I craved deep connections over the mere idea of having people around me. I couldn’t form these connections with most

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people I encountered during my early college years, so loneliness hit me like a hard blow.

I vividly recall going back to my dorm room and weeping silently, praying for quality friendships and to be delivered from the burden of loneliness.

My prayers were answered when I found a campus organization filled with Godly young women by myself and made connection after connection and formed friendships that I still cherish today. But how God dealt with me during my season of loneliness is the power behind this story. I was going through a period in my life where I had to seriously look inward. Who am I? Why am I here? Why am I studying English? Who am I in God? How can I make God proud with who I am? During my periods of social isolation, God was intentionally setting me apart from the crowd to help me unveil myself and find strengths in being myself: introverted, observant, reflective, quirky, and submissive to God. In hindsight, God allowed me to feel the pain of loneliness because it led me to spend time with Him. During these alone times, I would talk to God, meditate, discern His will for me, and worship. My love for God quickly grew deeper and more powerful. The more quality time I had with God, the less loneliness I felt when I was actually alone. I would feel His presence and hear His voice.

It was so comforting! For me, God filled an empty space that not even the most elaborate crowd can fill. Thus, my feelings of loneliness completely diminished.

I understand not everyone has an intimate relationship with the Lord, but anyone can overcome loneliness by keeping these truths in mind: • Solitude is our greatest companion. This is when we discover ideas, talents, and practice meditation.

• Focusing inward gives us strength. This is because we learn the power behind our characteristics.

• Quality over quantity. Focus more on the quality of relationships and not on how many friends you should have.

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NATIONAL DONATE LIFE MONTH

AN OPPORTUNITY TO GIVE OTHERS A SECOND CHANCE

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

April is National Donate Life Month. As of July 2019, over 112,081 men, women, and children are on the national transplant waitlist. In 2018, 35,528 transplants were performed. Within the US, 95% of adults support organ donation; however, only 58% are actually signed up as donors. With kidney donation, 50% of kidney donors are living donors, but the kidney also has the biggest gap between the number of donors/transplants and the number of patients waiting on the list. Many of us are listed as ‘donor’ on our driver’s license, should we die, but have you ever considered being a living donor?

The average wait time on a transplant list is four years or more for most blood types, and many people have higher risks of dying on the waitlist than surviving until they are high enough on the list to receive a deceased donor organ. Living donors are the only way this statistic will ever be overcome. Living donors don’t just save the life of the patient they donate to, but they save the life of the ‘next’ person on the deceased donor list by making it that much shorter.

EDUCATION OF THE DONATION PROCESS IS KEY

No one knows the statistics of organ donation and the lives behind the numbers better than Colleen Sheehan, Wake Forest Baptist Health Living Donor Transplant Coordinator. “As the living donor coordinator, I work with the donor through the evaluation process, scheduling surgery, and following up with them after the surgery.

I am here to teach them about living donation, the benefits, risks, what to expect with the surgery. I am also making sure that the donor isn’t being pressured into doing anything they don’t want to do. All aspects of the transplant process are emotional, and all my patients, I treat my patients as if they were my family. Transparency

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Dan Driscoll, donor (left) and Matthew Errett, recipient (right).

Dr Driscoll is a local dentist and Matthew was his patient. is important with patients, sharing the good and the bad stuff even if they don’t want to hear it. My role is very rewarding, helping all involved along in the process,” said Colleen. So what is the process to being a living donor?

The process of becoming a living donor begins with an in-depth questionnaire, which is reviewed and approved by a physician. If the donor is approved, the compatibility testing of blood and tissue typing between the donor and recipient occurs. Beyond those tests is the medical evaluation which Colleen describes as ‘the best physical they will ever get.’ In the case of kidney donation, tests are run to make sure the donor has enough kidney function to live with one kidney. Nothing is left untested to make sure the transplant is safe for both the donor and recipient.

“Once all the testing is complete, we take the donor’s chart to selection meeting with the whole team sitting down and reviewing the entire donor work up to make sure it is safe for the donor to proceed. The donor and I will discuss a surgery date, making it convenient for donor and recipient, and then pre-op tests take place. At any time, the donor can change their mind; we are judgment-free. We make sure everyone knows what to expect from time in hospital, 2-3 days, for the donor, and 2-6 weeks off from work to recover. We are thorough with the donor process so there are no surprises,” Colleen commented.

As with anything in life, there are risks and Colleen shares those with possible donors. “The risks of complication related to the operation are very low with 6,867 people undergoing kidney donation last year. Overall the risks of developing kidney problems after donation are estimated at less than one-half of one percent, or 30 in 10,000 living donors. We take these risks very seriously, and the tests we do ensure low risks associated with donation,” stated Colleen.

There is no greater gift to give than a second chance at life through organ donation. For more information on donation, visit wakehealth.edu/ Specialty/a/Abdominal-Organ-Transplant-Program/Living-Donor-Program.

Potential donors can also call 336-713-5685 or email any questions to LivingDonation@wakehealth.edu.

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Novant Health recognizes the need for healthcare planning at the end of life and has a dedicated culture of Advance Care Planning called Choices and Champions™. Novant Health provides services and assistance for “making sure that patients’ wishes are known and honored so that everyone gets the care that they want – no more, no less.” Novant Health is encouraging you to pick a healthcare CHAMPION, someone who knows your needs and health goals and can express those when you can’t. They have resources to assist you in determining the best CHAMPION for you based on their ability to be trusted, committed, and available for you. Novant Health is also promoting CHOICES, choosing the level of care you are comfortable with and outlining medical decisions now. Outlining your medical choices now ensures your wishes are followed and takes the burden off of loved ones who may be called upon to speak for you. Choices may include treatment options based on your personal values, which can include choosing between multiple medical options and which treatment options you choose not to receive. It is extremely important to discuss these choices with your loved ones and your healthcare team along with documenting your choices in Advance Directives such as a Health Care Power of Attorney or a Living Will so your wishes are known and can be honored.

CHOICES & CHAMPIONS

BY SARA MIGLIARESE

April 16, 2020, is National Healthcare Decisions Day. I am sharing a story which highlights why this day is so very important but often goes unnoticed. Both of my parents lived long, meaningful lives. My mom passed away at the age of 89 years, and my dad passed away two weeks later, at the age of 88 years. They had just celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary and were as in love on that day as on their wedding day.

Losing them in such a short time span was devastating to me, my brothers and my sister, but our parents were planners and had made all of the tough decisions about health care, power of attorney, burial plans, and estate settlement. They made difficult choices early so that my family could help them pass in a peaceful, conflict-free way. This was truly a gift.

This was not the case when my husband suddenly passed away at the age of 54, a few years prior to my parents’ passing. Teddy passed away without a will and without making any choices or decisions about end of life circumstances. He was only 54 years old, so why would we need to think so far ahead or even start talking about this subject? Our family struggled to make clear, rational decisions during a very stressful and painful time in the weeks following his death. Fortunately, we were a large, loving family, and everyone pitched in the best they could to help make medical decisions and funeral arrangements, even though all of us were grieving and in shock. The contrast between the loss of my parents and loss of my husband was stark for many reasons, but one primary distinction was the lack of proper planning on our part for difficult healthcare and end of life choices. My parents had the gift of time and a long life, while Teddy did not.

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The Novant Health Choices and Champions™ navigators can assist with any of these decisions, whether you are a Novant Health patient or under the care of another healthcare provider. These navigators provide free resources to anyone who reaches out to them to help with paperwork and ensure the forms are legally binding. To schedule a free consultation with one of Novant’s Choices and Champions™ navigators, call toll-free at 1-844-677-5134.

While conversations about end of life are uncomfortable and may seem unnecessary if you are young, I can’t emphasize how wrong you might be to think that you have time to plan for this later. I thought that, too, and could have been a bigger support to my children and family if Teddy and I had made these difficult decisions sooner. A good first step is to start a conversation with loved ones on April 16, National Healthcare Decisions Day, or to visit the Novant Choices and Champions™ website. I hope you make good choices about your health on that day and every day.

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BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK “Shoo-bop-de-bop!” Do you hear that? A lot of us might consider jazz music to be “old” music. Well, it is old music! But it’s also modern and eternal, forever changing with the times. Classic jazz was created and maintained primarily by African Americans, but it’s global enough so that anyone can vibe to it. Let’s celebrate National Jazz Month by looking at some of the most influential women pioneers in jazz music. Get ready to scat!

ELLA FITZGERALD

She is known as one of the most influential jazz singers of our time. A trendsetter, Ella Fitzgerald made her singing debut at only 17 years old! It was a chilly November night in 1934 Harlem. After winning audiences over in just a week at the Apollo Theater, Fitzgerald earned the opportunity to compete in “Amateur Nights.” Although she went in with the initial intent to dance on stage, she felt quite intimidated by a competitive local dance duo, so she chose to sing instead. When she debuted her beautiful, husky vocals to the Harlem audience, everyone was captivated, and Ella walked away with the first prize award of twenty-five dollars!

That following year, Fitzgerald began performing with the Tiny Bradshaw Band at the Harlem Opera House. She met bandleader Chick Webb, and recorded multiple hit songs with them. She didn’t get public acclaim until she performed nursery rhyme, “A-Tisket, A-Tasket.” Fitzgerald took over as bandleader after Chick Webb passed.

Now, we all know Ms. Fitzgerald is known for scatting, making one’s voice sound rhythmically like jazz music. As the Swing era was dwindling down, a major change in jazz music was approaching. The bebop was making a tsunami wave across jazz music, and Ella flowed with it effortlessly. “I just tried to do [with my voice] what I heard the horns in the band[s] doing.” So, her voice became the saxophone, it became the trumpet, and it became the piano—and audiences everywhere were blown away She lived a very successful life. Her talent drover her to film, commercials, television shows, and she even took home thirteen Grammy Awards in 1967. She passed away in 1996 at 79 years young in Beverly Hills, California.

Known as the First Lady of Song, the Queen of Jazz, and Lady Ella, Ms. Fitzgerald continues to influence even current and uprising Jazz singers.

BILLIE HOLIDAY

Known as Lady Day, Billie Holiday always said, “I have to change a tune to my own way of doing it…that’s all I know.” She said that about making music and with the tumultuous life she had, she definitely knew how to make it her own. Born Eleanora Fagan, Holiday spent most of her childhood in Baltimore, Maryland. Her father, believed to be Clarence Holiday, was a successful jazz musician as well. But sadly, Billie never had her father around that much during her childhood. After her mother remarried another man and divorced a second time, she and Billie had to struggle on their own for a long time. It got so bad that Billie was left in the care of others on some days.

Through it all, Holiday found comfort in music. She would sing along with records of Bessie Smith, another black jazz musician. When she got older (in her later teens) and after moving to Harlem, New York, Holiday began to sing out in local nightclubs. She would then change her name from Eleanora to “Billie,” after classic film star Billie Dove. 18-year-old Billie was soon discovered by music producer, John Hammond, while performing at a Harlem jazz club.

Hammond soon helped Holiday get recording work done with popular bands at the time. She ended up producing hits such as “Your Mother’s Son-In-Law” and “Riffin’ the Scotch.” She soon became a mainstream success.

But, unfortunately, because of her difficult early life, Holiday would fall into drug abuse and alcohol. She got into legal trouble and even served a short prison sentence. She never recovered from these issues, which tainted her reputation. She undoubtedly lived a very sad life, yet gave us beautiful, poignant music such as “What a Little Moonlight Can Do,” “Easy Living,” and “Good Morning, Heartache.”

Music is perpetual, and what makes it eternal is what a musician puts behind it—the soul, passion, and rhythm combined.

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The Best Tips for Running & Walking

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

The sun is shining, and the rain is delivering cool, fresh air. Whether you’re enjoying the beautiful outdoors or taking the heat on the treadmill, follow these simple tips to make the most of your time.

THE DO’S AND DON’TS OF EATING BEFORE EXERCISING

Proper nutrition is the key to maintaining peak performances, strong muscles, and good health. Although you don’t want to exercise immediately after eating, not eating any food before exercising could lead you to feel more nauseous and lethargic. So, what are some options?

Try eating a lighter meal 1.5 to 2 hours beforehand, or a nutrient-dense snack 30 minutes to 1-hour prior. The essentials to a balanced diet for healthy runners/ walkers include complex carbohydrates, protein, and good fats, alongside your daily intake of vitamins and minerals.

For instance, try drinking 16 to 20 ounces of water two hours before exercise. When it comes to eating, truly listen to your body. You may feel more comfortable with a hardy, whole-grain bagel with almond butter or with a lighter bowl of oatmeal with berries for breakfast. Or switch out that almond butter with eggs! Did you know that one egg satisfies nearly 12% of your daily protein intake? For lunch, maybe try out a little lean meat or fish with brown rice and avocado. If you plan on exercising after work, but before dinner, then it is recommended you choose the quick snack option. Tasty snack choices could be a banana, lowsugar energy bar, low-fat Greek yogurt, apple slices and/or grapes. In another matter, try to avoid eating any type of legumes, lactose-rich foods, high-fiber vegetables like broccoli, and spicy foods before exercising.

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HOW TO PROPERLY STRETCH YOUR MUSCLES

Try completing each exercise below for 30 seconds to 1 minute on each leg at least once.

1. Standing Quadriceps Stretch If needed, find yourself near secured support, such as a wall. Simply begin by standing tall with your feet shoulderwidth apart. Keep back your right foot and grab it with your right hand, then gently pull towards your butt. Your knee should be pointing straight down towards the ground.

Repeat with your left leg.

2. Straight Leg Calf Stretches Reset both feet back to shoulder-width position. Then, slide your left foot back, keeping your heel flat on the ground, until you feel a stretch in your calves. Your right knee should be slightly bent and directly over your right foot.

Gently push your body forward from your hips without bending your back-leg knee. Repeat with your right leg.

3. Posterior Shoulder Stretch Reset back to standing tall position. Slowly roll your shoulders back and forth several times. Then, stretch your right arm across your body and use your left hand to gently pull your right arm towards your shoulder. Repeat with your left arm.

Complete these stretches, along with any others you find effective, to allow your muscles to feel loosened and ready to get moving!

MINDFUL TIPS TO BEGIN YOUR FITNESS JOURNEY

One of the best tips for running/walking is to focus on your own process rather than the outcome. Whether your outcome is to lose weight or break a PR, don’t allow that outcome to rule over your mind. Instead, try re-arranging that outcome to become a long-term goal.

Begin at a pace that you feel comfortable keeping for at least 30 minutes, then gradually increase your speed or add hills to your routine at your own pace. Use each day to become stronger than the week prior, learning patience and enjoying the process!

Find a workout buddy that is similar to your pace yet will push you to give your best effort towards the end. Not every day needs to be a race but learning how to self-motivate yourself when it gets hard or having someone to do the motivating for you will help you to continue to grow stronger.

Enjoy those recovery days, because they are quite necessary! Exercise breaks down muscle tissue and depletes energy stores, known as muscle glycogen. Recovery days allow the body to be replenished and initiates tissue repair. Without proper recovery days, the body will continue to break down, leading the body to become injuryprone.

Grab a friend, incorporate these simple tips into your next walk or run, and enjoy the blooming nature of April.

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What to Do When Interpersonal Communication Fails

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I coach interpersonal communication and I have made many, many mistakes, leading to multiple communication failures. From misunderstandings to dropping the ball, sometimes all the practice and coaching in the world can’t save folks from communication issues.

giving directions or information, use as few words as possible to prevent misunderstandings. Being clear and to the point is always helpful, and prevents some misunderstandings. This particular failure may lie with the other person, so remember you can only “prep” so much.

You’ve been there: you think you’ve been clear as glass. You’ve filled people in on their tasks and information. You think everyone is on the same page…and go time (whatever that means in your world and work) comes along and…everything explodes. Misunderstandings, balls have been dropped and feelings are hurt. And worse, you hear about the annoyance and frustration fifth hand – a person complained about you to another person and that other person told a friend…whew.

Ah, the emails. My email box can quickly become a hydra – I “clear” it out and poof! Three more appear for every email that I take care of.

And they are often from the same person, sending multiple emails on one subject.

How do you identify and fix interpersonal communication failures?

Here are three common failures and some tips and advice to solve the problem – even if you created it:

UNCLEAR COMMUNICATION

If something makes sense to you, there’s a big chance it does not make sense to someone else. Even if you lay things out in a way that feels 100% crystal clear, there’s a chance that the other person won’t understand you.

Best case? The person you’re explaining things to will ask you for clarification. They’ll bring up what they don’t understand and then you can clarify, leading to a healthy and comfortable conversation, which then will lead to progress forward!

Worst case? The person you’re explaining things to will not ask you for clarification.

They’ll smile and nod, and either do the job they think needs to be done, or, skip the things they don’t understand. When it comes time to harvest the work, it’s either undone, incorrect or a whole mass of misunderstandings.

To prevent this, the best you can do (and remember that nothing is foolproof!) is to ask the other person if they have any questions, and then check in after the project or initiative starts. When you’re

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TOO MANY EMAILS

Email has become a beast of a communication issue – because it’s so fast and convenient to send an email even when you’re sitting in the bathroom, we tend to over-communicate over email. This could be saying too much, having information presented in a disjointed manner or confusing the flow of conversation.

If you know this is a problem you have, and it’s you sending all of the emails, think about a summary email: be transparent with the understanding that you sent a bunch of emails. And there was a bunch of communication. So you say exactly that, and then summarize the important points in ONE email.

If it’s a problem someone else has, do the same! Send an email that essentially states that there was a lot of information and you simply want to be sure you understand everything that is being asked. Be sure to send it once (don’t add to the problem!).

THAT’S SOMEONE ELSE’S ISSUE

You’re not worried about getting this thing done because someone else has it handled…right?

Are you sure?

We’ve all been there. We don’t do something because we think someone else has it handled. Why should we do it because they have it handled, and we don’t want to micromanage anyone, right?

Problems come in when they don’t have it handled… and we get to the due date…and it’s not done.

This one is easy: confirm who is doing what from the get-go. Don’t assume – it’s not worth it.

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Make the Most of Your Herb Garden This Spring

Grow, Harvest and Enjoy Fresh Herbs!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Are you going to Scarborough Fair? Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme… Remember the traditional English folk song?

MAGICAL, MYSTICAL MEANING

Much magic and mystery have been associated with herbs. In the medieval language of flowers, sage means domestic virtue. In Shakespeare’s Hamlet, Ophelia says, “There’s rosemary, that’s for remembrance.” Chamomile represents patience, and parsley is an expression of gratitude.

HERBS IN BITES AND SIPS

Herbs are not new to the scene, but if you haven’t put them in your food and beverages yet, don’t miss out. Not just a pretty garnish, herbs are nutritious, delicious, and give your dishes pungent punch.

VERSATILE AND BEAUTIFUL

Spring is the perfect time to have an herb garden, indoors or out. Get them growing! Then, harvest your herbs and add them to your food and drinks. Herbs have many uses, and this is a perfect time to grow your own. Share them with your loved ones in a bouquet or decorate a gift with a sprig of fresh rosemary or lavender.

TIPS FOR GROWING HERBS

• Use a potting mix formulated for containers, not “garden soil.”

• Make sure herbs get enough sun and stay hydrated.

• Mulching around herbs in your outdoor garden eliminates weeds and keeps soil moisturized.

• Basil is a good basic beginner herb. Remember to trim basil from the top and trim before flowers bloom.

• Mint grows like crazy, so watch out!

• Companion planting is a good idea. Love salsa? Try growing cilantro with your tomatoes and hot peppers and your dish is ready to be made.

TIPS FOR HARVESTING HERBS

The best time to pick herbs is mid-morning when the dew has dried.

Remove wilted or dead pieces. If you rinse them, be sure to pat dry.

After harvesting herbs, you may want to air dry or oven dry them and store for future use. Some herbs such as oregano, marjoram, dill, and rosemary are best air dried, whereas others such as chives, mint, and basil do better being dried via the oven or dehydrator.

To air dry, bundle herbs together in small batches and secure with a rubber band or string. Hang them up, suspended in the air, and allow to dry several days to a week.

To oven dry, place herbs on a cookie sheet and bake at 180 degrees Fahrenheit for 2-4 hours. Herbs that are sufficiently dried will become crumbly in consistency.

Store dried herbs in airtight containers. They are typically good for around a year or so.

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USING YOUR HARVESTED HERBS

Our family has always enjoyed growing, harvesting, and then cooking or baking with herbs. Here is one of my fav recipes for an herby dipping sauce we enjoy with an assortment of fresh herbs from our garden.

HERB-ILICIOUS HORS D’OEUVRES INGREDIENTS: 1 bottle EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) 1 bottle balsamic vinegar 1 bundle of a variety of fresh herbs 2 teaspoons grated dry cheese A few dashes of ground black pepper A couple pieces of your fav bread

INSTRUCTIONS:

Collect a medley of your fav fresh herbs (e.g. chives, thyme, oregano, and basil), rinse well, pat dry, and rough chop them. Drizzle some EVOO in a shallow bowl followed by balsamic vinegar. Soak herbs in the oil and vinegar mixture. Add ground black pepper and grated dry cheese (e.g., Parmesan, Romano, and Parmigiano-Reggiano) over top.

Break out the crusty bread, dip in the savory herb mixture and delve into deliciousness with every bite.

SOOTHING HERBAL TEA

Pop a few sprigs of peppermint, spearmint, lemon balm, chamomile, or lavender (or a combination) into a mug, pour boiling water over it and let steep a few minutes. Then, sip and savor.

LOOKIN’ LOVELY LICORICE-LIKE TONER INGREDIENTS: 2 sprigs of fresh thyme ½ lemon, juiced 2 fennel bulbs, pureed ¼ - ½ cup water

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Boil fennel and thyme in a saucepan until liquefied. Remove from heat and add lemon juice. Let steep for 15 minutes. Strain and let cool. For a refreshing experience that de-puffs your under eyes, apply once or twice a day to face and neck after cleansing. No need to rinse. Keep in your fridge for up to 10 days and look and feel lovely.

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Move Over, Your Highness: Meet two of the female stars of The King and I

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN Going to the theatre for a performance is magical.

Whether you are seeing a local high school production of your neighbor’s daughter or being spellbound by a Broadway show, you’ve got to admit there’s something special about seeing real people, people you can almost reach out and touch, knock a script out of the park. It’s even more exciting when you know, or know a bit more about, the people behind the roles.

Piedmont Opera and Arbor Acres’ production of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s The King and I will be no exception. The story revolves around the unconventional relationship between the King of Siam and Anna Leonowens, a British schoolteacher brought to Siam by the King to teach his wives and children. Aside from the beloved classic songs that you probably have heard at least once (songs like Getting to Know You and Shall We Dance), the production brings two incredible women together onstage. I got a chance to sit down with Nia Imani Franklin, who plays Tuptim, and Elizabeth Pacheco Rose, who plays Anna, to get a behind-the-scenes look at these two performers. You might recognize Nia from her recent position as Miss America 2019, and Elizabeth from her starring role as Anna in Piedmont Opera’s production of Mozart’s Don Giovanni.

Nia is no stranger to the stage: this hometown girl grew up in Winston-Salem, attended UNCSA for graduate school, and then went to NYC as many artminded folks do. In NYC she competed and won Miss New York and then went on to win Miss America. And she’s just getting started. Standing on a platform of advocating for the arts, Nia created Compose Her, an initiative to help women in the field of music composition get seen and recognized.

“I was one of two women, and the only African American woman, to graduate from my program at East Carolina, and then one of two women to graduate from UNCSA,” said Nia, “It can be very lonely and isolating, and I want to look back ten years from now and say, ‘Wow, it’s changed for us.’”

Nia Imani Franklin Elizabeth, who plays Anna, the lead female role in the production, has a similar commitment in her quest to inspire women. “My daily life is all about empowering women – almost all of my students are female,” said Elizabeth. “It’s about showing up for my students.” Aside from being a seasoned performer (she’s already looking ahead to a production of Light at the Piazza this summer!), she teaches voice at Wake Forest University, is a dance instructor, and has private students – on top of all of that, she is a mom. “Teaching dance at the dance studio is the most obvious thing I should let go from my life, but it’s the thing that feeds my soul. No matter what’s happening, I go in and feel amazing after spending time with my students.”

Nia knows a bit about balancing: while her tenure as Miss America is complete, she has several balls in her court. This past January, Nia released her first mainstream single called “Earth Sun,” which is available on all digital and streaming platforms. In addition to Compose Her, she’s performing all over the place – from the National Sawdust festival in Brooklyn to an active studio schedule. Immediately following the Piedmont Opera production of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s The King and I, she’ll be off to Napa for the Festival Napa Valley, where she will mix opera arias with jazz ballads and other popular pop songs.

Elizabeth Pacheco Rose Both of these talented women juggle their active careers effortlessly. When asked about carving out time to prepare for the upcoming production, both gave an exciting inside look on how they ready themselves for such a classic production. Elizabeth said, “I start with text and the script, thinking, how can I channel Anna? I feel very connected to her as a mother and a teacher, as well as her fight for women’s rights.”

Elizabeth not only has the lead, which means countless hours of voice rehearsal, but she also spends many hours a day perfecting her British accent for the spoken dialogue.

Nia plays the role of Tuptim, which is Franklin’s debut role in a professional production. Tuptim is a young woman caught between her duty to the king and her love for another man – a role that Nia is excited to explore. “I have a lot of back and forth, and not a lot of monologues, so I’m practicing with people, like my manager, every day,” said Nia. “Doing vocal exercises, keeping healthy and staying in shape – I have to stay prayed up, for myself, and have my routines, even if that means sitting with my coffee and going through lines.”

Like the women they portray, Elizabeth and Nia are two women who are impressively qualified, very diverse, and devoted to changing the lives of women. Don’t miss them when Piedmont Opera presents Rodgers and Hammerstein’s The King and I at The Stevens Center of UNCSA on March 20th at 8:00 PM, March 22nd at 2:00 PM and March 24th at 7:30 PM. For tickets, visit PiedmontOpera.org or call 336.725.7101.

Please note: Due to COVID-19, Piedmont Opera canceled performances of The King and I. Because these women are incredible and work tirelessly, Piedmont Opera chose to run this article to continue to highlight the work these women are part of.

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Winston-Salem Dash New Logo, Same Great Family Fun!

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON As WS Dash fans enter the ballpark this year, they’ll be greeted with a team sporting a new logo. After ten years, the WS Dash organization decided it was time for a new look, so they partnered with The Variable, an awardwinning ad agency in Winston-Salem, NC, to develop a logo that reflects not only the Dash as a team but the city as a whole. CJ Johnson, President and GM of the Winston-Salem Dash, said, “When designing the new Dash logo, we felt that a classic style with some modern touches was the perfect fit for our historic, yet innovative community.”

The process of establishing a new logo isn’t one taken on lightly since it not only involves the team, but Minor League Baseball, as well as merchandising.

STARTING A NEW DECADE

The process of designing a new logo for the WS Dash started with a review of the organization’s initial branding from 2009 and a discussion on what the team wanted to accomplish with the new branding.

of everywhere we would need to swap out the logo once it was introduced. Some of the changes were fairly easy; some will continue to be updated throughout 2020. Finally, we selected an introduction date of January 15 to release the hats to the public and a separate date of March 7 to release the jerseys,” commented CJ. For those fans who have grown to love what is known as ‘Dash Purple,’ don’t fear because that is still a part of the new branding.

“Once we had established the vision of what the logo should encompass, we worked with Minor League Baseball to confirm the transition timeline and necessary steps to be ready for the 2020 season. As you can imagine, our old logo was everywhere…merchandise, signage, letterhead, advertising, staff apparel, etc.

We had to create a fairly extensive checklist

“We believe the purple is an important part of the brand we have built over the past decade.

Our new look does feature more black and white, but purple is still included in all our jerseys with a bit of a refresh, a bit lighter, which makes it ‘pop’ more on our apparel,” CJ stated. Along with the new logo comes great new gear and options for all ages.

The 2020 season begins the WS Dash’s 11th year as the city’s family fun destination on most weekends. “We have been so fortunate to have tremendous community support over the past ten years. We will welcome our three millionth fan to the downtown ballpark for Dash baseball this season, and we are closing in on one million attendees for non-Dash events. With the opening of Salem Parkway and the soon to be opened pedestrian stroll way through downtown, the ballpark will continue to be the epicenter for family entertainment for our area. It is rewarding to see that our weekly promotions such as Thirsty Thursdays, Friday Night Fireworks, Free Food Mondays, etc. have become staples for residents’ personal entertainment calendars. We are excited for the potential to build upon those signature promotions for the next ten years,” said CJ. If you are worried about Bolt having a new look, don’t be.

“I believe Bolt has a lifetime contract. He wasn’t left out of the rebranding process though. Bolt was able to get a new jersey and some new shoes out of the deal, so he is coming into 2020 looking sharp. This season looks good with some new in-game promotions, new ballpark features, including extended netting for fan safety and a whole new look for everyone to enjoy,” commented CJ. For more information on WS Dash season or tickets sales, visit wsdash. com. The 2020 season begins on Thursday, April 16.

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BETH REEVES

Beth Reeves is a professional house cleaner with Two Maids and a Mop. Beth has been with Two Maids and a Mop since it opened. She is incredibly loyal. She has struggled with her own personal issues dealing with her husband’s cancer, but she has remained extremely positive.

There doesn’t seem to be anything that can drag her down, and her enthusiastic personality is contagious!

Her customers absolutely adore her and consider her part of their family.

They call to check if she’s not there and always requests her by name.

She has never met a stranger, and her desire to please is undeniable.

COREY ROMAN

Born and raised in the great state of North Carolina, Corey Roman is a woman on a mission. Her life’s purpose is to help busy working mothers reach their full potential by regaining control of their lives and creating a work-life balance through holistic one-onone personalized coaching, empowering workshops, strategic goal setting and accountability. Corey has a bachelor’s degree in nursing and a master’s in nursing administration from UNC-Greensboro. She hosted her first annual Self Care & Wellness Conference in September of last year. This conference was to empower and inspire women of the community to take better care of themselves. A mother of one beautiful daughter, Corey now resides in Winston-Salem, where she is the owner of Special Touch Holistic Care & Educational Services. Her goal is to empower and inspire others while helping them live the life that they desire.

MARY-KATE APPANAITIS

Mary-Kate Appanaitis is a sophomore at UNCChapel Hill where she is double majoring in journalism/mass media communications as well as political science with a minor in politics, philosophy and economics. She is a former March of Dimes ambassador (she was born weighing just three pounds). Mary-Kate has been selected as one of 14 UNC students who will travel to Toyko this summer to cover the Olympic games. The interns will be housed in the Olympic Media Village, where they will be surrounded by international media professionals, giving the students a unique opportunity to network. In addition to her dedication as a student, she is a member of the UNC Dance Team known as The Carolina Girls and enjoys traveling, photography and loves her two dogs and two cats.

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MEGAN PALICKA

Megan Palicka is a stylist with Alkali Hair Studio. She has a bachelor’s degree in physics from Wheeling Jesuit University as well as a licensed cosmetologist degree from Leon’s Beauty School. In her spare time, Megan is a national-level powerlifter for Mash Elite Performance in Lewisville, a captain in the Army National Guard, an amateur autocross racer and enjoys knitting and reading.

RYLIE BYERLY

Rylie Byerly has been with Two Maids and a Mop as a professional house keeper for almost a year.

“I absolutely love what I do,” said Rylie. “I am very passionate about helping others and this is a great way to take the daily stress off of someone else! I am a high school graduate and would eventually love to go back to school for psychology. I am so thankful for the opportunities I have come across in this past year and can’t wait to see what the next year holds.

I hope to continue to make life a little brighter for someone else and make the world a shiner place!”

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

Practicing Gratitude in Your Business with Customers & Clients This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

What are you thankful for in your business?

I know it’s a simple question, but in a world where misery loves company, it can be too easy to focus on the negative and the things in our business we wish we could change. If you are the face behind a brand or helping run a small business, then, of course, you understand the daily frustrations and stressors that come with the job. I invite you to take a moment as you’re reading this and think about the customers and clients that make your business possible.

Maybe it’s an online order with a stranger behind the screen that you’ll never meet or a local repeat customer whom you enjoy chatting with at the register. When we pause to remember that these people trusting us with their time and money are such a big part of what we do, it’s a good time to think about how we show our gratitude.

MAKE IT PERSONAL

There are so many ways you can exhibit a heart of thankfulness and appreciation to those special parts of your business, but finding ways that fit both your personality, resources, and brand are all important factors! You may assume that showing gratitude to your audience needs to come with a pricey sales tag, but the truth is, some of the best forms of showing them that they matter can be inexpensive, if not completely free. Think about who you are as a brand and the things that are important to your mission and vision and how you can incorporate these things when giving thanks.

Your goal should be to have every customer your business interacts with to know they are genuinely cared about and appreciated.

After all, they are choosing you instead of the thousands of other businesses they could spend their resources with.

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YOUR WORDS MATTER

Don’t complicate things! Sometimes a simple “thank you for coming in” or “thanks for your purchase” goes a long way. We can’t expect people to assume we’re grateful for them, so saying it can really help.

Also, understand that those window shoppers or client leads that don’t necessarily equal immediate dollars in your pocket are still just as worthy of appreciation. Many times they spread the word about what you do to others who do become paying customers or continue to keep your business in mind for when they eventually do decide the time is right.

Be sure to say thank you, whether in person or over email, to both current and past customers and let them know something specific you are thankful for.

SENDING A SWEET SURPRISE

If you’ve been a rock star at giving thanks faceto-face, think about going that extra mile to send some gratitude when your customers least expect it. This can be a simple email after an event thanking them for coming by or inviting them to your next big sale. You can put together something personal

and have fun creating a client appreciation gift to send. Do you take up information like birthdays or anniversaries when working with new clients? If so, sending an inexpensive card in the mail for their special occasion is a great way to show them that you care beyond just the transaction value they provide. Think about how to add a smile to their face without going overboard on your end.

REMINDING THEM YOU CARE

Looking to make your customers repeat offenders when it comes to purchasing and booking from you?

Create a strategy led by gratitude to remind them that you’re there next time they need you. Send special promo codes and discounted offers inviting them to work with you or shop with you again.

Mark your calendar for special holidays throughout the year and shoot over some on-brand holiday well wishes in their inbox or mailbox. Do you have any special announcements for your business that your clients may be interested in or benefit from?

Create a newsletter that shares the information and lets them know why you wanted to make sure they saw it first.

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BY LISA S.T DOSS

The cultural knowledge of herbs is not entirely lost. Tea drinkers seek warmth through sips to find a remedy for the onset of an ailment or to relax. Once upon a time, herbal lore was instinctual, just like the hand wanders into a cupboard to find oregano written on a glass bottle. The basic knowledge of medicinal plants may still be in our genes, urging to take root and blossom. You, too, can appreciate the versatile quality of herbs by first loving plants, the colors or fragrance. Take it one step farther! The gardener in you can make teas, salves, tinctures and poultices to promote good health!

How often in childhood did you pluck the long-stemmed dandelions and make a wreath for your head?

Neighborhood children participated, perhaps tossing all the yellow flowers in the center for everyone to weave together. The fond memories of spring’s first flower are quite possibly viewed as a detriment to a perfect lawn. There are good reasons why you should appreciate the wickedly wonderful dandy of a flower. It is, in fact, a powerhouse of an herb! Within the flower heads are vitamins A, C and D, and high amounts of beta carotene, potassium, iron and copper.

TIMEKEEPERS AND FORECASTERS

How can a weed have magical abilities? Keep an eye on your yellow beams of sunshine. Before a rain, similar to other pollinated flowers, they close. And, notice their sunny side is only available between 5am and 8pm.

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SPRING CLEANSING THE BODY

The fiction novel, Dandelion Wine by Ray Bradbury, described the process of making dandelion wine by pouring the summer’s best into a bottle. The picking always begins in spring. Rather than wine, you can make a medicinal tea that soothes digestive ailments, boosts energy levels, eliminates water weight and bloating, and aids mineral absorption.

Dandelion-Infused Tea: After washing a handful of flower heads in cold water, place in a heated mug, and fill with boiling water. Cover and allow to steep for 10 minutes before drinking. An alternative, yet less attractive, is a pre-packaged dandelion tea. You’ll be amazed at the results!

DETOXING AGENT FOR THE SKIN

Beneficial antioxidants can help to nourish the skin by reducing fine lines.

Once made, the toner can remain in the refrigerator and applied with a cotton ball.

Day One to 14: In a Mason jar, combine a half-cup each of distilled water and apple cider vinegar. Add one handful of chopped dandelion heads and two opened teabags of green tea. Seal, shake daily and store in a cool, dark place.

Day 15: After straining the herbs, place the liquid in a clean, sterilized Mason jar. Pour only a robust green tea, without the herbs, in the new container. Add three drops of your favorite essential oil; perhaps, orange, mint or lavender. After shaking, you can begin using daily!

THE BEAUTY IN YELLOW

Of the lowly flowers, the wild dandelion arrives as a messenger to suggest warmth and longer days are coming.

The bright color can relieve stress or worries. A time when you recall holding a spent stem in your hands, closing your eyes and searching for a wish to scatter the seeds on the coming breeze. There are buzzing and flying creatures, who sometimes wiggle their appendages in excitement when spotting the pollen-laden flower; therefore, save some dandelions for the pollinators, especially honeybees!

Welcome the sight of the dandelion throughout spring and summer. Able to regenerate new blooms, the best solution is to go foraging. The outcome is a promise for wholesome good health, whether added to salad, sautéed or infused in a tea. Cheers!

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

RECOGNIZING THE SIGNS OF

Stopping is futile. Why cease the momentum when the day-to-day schedule appears normal? The mind can rationalize committing long hours to appease the ego. Some will comment that it’s their passionate nature and above standard work ethic to accept heavy workloads. It’s easy to forgo listening to the tangible warnings of digressive health. Sickness may arrive, depriving the host to concentrate and remain alert. How long can the mind ignore the signs? In time, the brain will take charge and force the mind to shut down and heal through long periods of inactivity.

Connecting numerous physical and mental symptoms often leads to one shocking prognosis, the term “burnout.” Looking back, individuals may recall family members and friends, offering warnings and gently pleading. Burn out is a condition from those who sacrifice themselves for others at a high cost. It leads to exhaustion, various forms of sickness, anxiety and the inability to cope. Doctors and nurses, teachers and police officers, military, and caregivers are just a few of the occupations which can lead to burnout.

In 1974, Herbert Freudenberg coined the phrase. He described it as “the extinction of motivation or incentive, especially where one’s devotion to a cause or relationship fails to produce the desired results.”

RECOGNIZING THE SYMPTOMS

In wearing the honorary badge of “workaholic” proudly, it’s vital to know the symptoms.

1.Exhaustion: Stress pulls on our emotional, mental and physical strength. With enough weight straining the balance, some aspects will stretch beyond the limit and break. Without energy, for instance, the body feels heavy. Internal processes, such as memory, concentration and making decisions, will result in mistakes.

2. Frustration: After enduring the internal drive to remain motivated, eventually, enthusiasm begins to waver. Perhaps, you are sleeping through alarms or falling asleep in the late evenings preventing the completion of projects and missing deadlines. The deep frustration of not maintaining and fulfilling a schedule results in negative emotions! Individuals may ask themselves, “Am I effective? Why do I feel incompetent?” Colleagues and bosses or managers will kindly acknowledge your job performance! Take the time to listen!

3. Interpersonal Challenges: Family and friends who know you well will comment that you are not yourself. Perhaps, the feeling of exhaustion and frustration affects how you communicate with loved ones and colleagues. Are you withdrawing from people or lashing out and arguing?

4. Adopting Unhealthy Habits: Everyone copes with stress differently.

Some may indulge by eating unhealthy amounts of ice cream, chocolate, coffee or junk food while others will engage in hiding alcohol bottles, cigarettes or pills in fear of confrontation.

Combining the challenges in home and work relationships, the overall feeling of dissatisfaction and unhappiness presents new problems of the mind, spirit and body.

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Maintaining chronic stress levels over time can lead to more significant health problems. Hospitalization, digestive issues, heart disease, depression and anxiety, and obesity are possibilities.

DON’T WAIT, MAKE IMMEDIATE CHANGES

Surrendering to improve your health is a positive direction to wellbeing. Similar to the onset of a cold, the body sends signals to the brain encouraging rest or the grand idea to take a wellness day off to enjoy a spa treatment. It’s essential to listen to your body! Balancing work and play are key to a happy life; therefore, find an activity to boost your spirits. Dancing or meditation, long walks or engaging in bike rides with friends will cultivate a lifestyle away from technology. Start saying “no” to weekend tasks or additional projects. Climbing the ladder can be more time enjoying life and sleeping peacefully rather than accepting a promotion.

Mental acuity is vital to every aspect of our day. In the decision to reduce hours of relaxation and sleep comes a price. The plummet into burnout doesn’t have to arrive, especially if you were once there. Every workaholic can implement three aspects today to strive for a balanced life. What are yours? Make a difference in someone’s life by calling a friend who needs to talk about the symptoms and solutions of burn out!

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When You Have To Let Someone Go

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I’ve been running a business for over seven years, and I can safely say being in charge – whether as the business owner or as someone in a leadership role – is not for the faint of heart.

It’s fantastic to choose the people you work with! You can build your team and make magic. But when someone doesn’t work out, you also get to be the person that has to let that person go.

Is there a “right” way to let someone go? It might be difficult to think about, but certain things make the firing process a bit easier for everyone involved.

When you’re reading this, don’t sit and judge your past behavior!

We’ve all made mistakes: just last year, I had to let someone go that just wasn’t fitting the culture and space of the company, and I’m pretty sure I did most, if not all, of these things very wrong.

It’s ok! Use this guide as a place to reflect on the past and move towards your future leadership skills.

RIP THE BAND-AID® OFF

When you know you want to let someone go, do it. Don’t let it linger for an extended time and stress about hitting the right timing. There is no “right” timing for letting someone go. Start the process when you’ve made the decision.

CHECK-IN WITH HR (AND LAWS)

As soon as you’ve made the decision that you’re going to let someone go, double-check with HR (if you have one) as well as any laws in your area.

KEEP IT SHORT AND REMOVE EMOTION…

A friend of mine told me that when I’m having an issue with someone or disagreement, to use as few words as possible. Fewer words, less chance of miscommunication, over-complicating, or any of the other issues that come up when we have interpersonal

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communication issues. Stay on track, to the point, and connected to your message.

The second half of this taps into the emotional side of things: chances are when you’re letting someone go, they are going to be upset. That’s inevitable. That being said, if emotions are high on one side, it’s in your best interest to keep emotion out of it. When you start getting upset for the person that is upset, you’re going to end up over-complicating it, with, as I mentioned earlier, too many words!

…BUT SHOW COMPASSION

You are not a robot. While the last tip is to remove emotion, you still need to be human. Statements like, “This was a really difficult decision” or “I would be happy to be a reference for you in the future” or “I’m sorry” can show compassion – if you mean them.

If you’re just reciting them to recite them because an article told you this is how you act like a human…it’s not going to be helpful for anyone.

TRY TO AVOID EMAIL

Yes, you can email to schedule the meeting. You can confirm it via email. Let someone go in person. Email can so often be misconstrued and tone is often misunderstood. If you can talk in person, err on the side of that – if they are a remote employee, a call is fine – but a video chat is better.

FOCUS ON YOUR FUTURE

You might do all of this and still have hurt feelings on the other side. Letting someone go is always hard, no matter what. Focus on the future of your team – you’re not firing someone just to fire someone. You know there is a better future out there for your company, and probably this employee. Focus on growth and forward motion.

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Writers Who Read Kristin Hannah Novels

Throughout the years, I have discovered the exciting and complex novels by author Kristin Hannah.

Currently located in the Pacific Northwest, Hannah has written over 20 novels that feature strong women overcoming various challenges. Previously a lawyer, Hannah has won many awards and has been placed on the bestselling list, including my favorites The Nightingale, The Great Alone, and Winter Garden.

THE NIGHTINGALE

First published in 2015, The Nightingale has risen to international success. Starting in 1939 France at the beginning of World War II, Vianne Mauriac’s husband and daughter’s father, Antoine, heads off to war. The fear of Nazis invading France is on the minds of everyone and quickly the fear becomes a reality. Vianne and her daughter must open up their home to a Nazi captain or otherwise they will be placed in danger. With a German solider living in their home, the two experience challenges and adventures they could never have imagined, a story that is much different from Vianne’s sister Isabelle.

Eighteen-year-old Isabelle is strong-willed and unaware of the terrors that a war can bring. While in Paris, Isabelle joins the French Resistance movement with the hope of fighting the Nazis. The two sisters fight the war in their own ways with two very different outcomes. Currently, The Nightingale has been published in 43 languages and is in production to become a movie. Within the novel, Hannah captures the little-known war within World War II, the women’s war and story of survival.

THE GREAT ALONE

The Great Alone is another story of survival, but instead of sisters, this novel focuses on a mother and daughter, fighting the harsh elements of Alaska.

Set in the 1970s, a time when the nation was fighting the Vietnam War, Ernt Allbright decides to move his wife Cora and thirteen-year-old daughter Leni to the Alaskan bush to get away from the harsh reality and news of the war. Ernt, a former POW in Vietnam, suffers from PTSD and can be violent at any moment with his fragile mental state, but Cora will do anything and go anywhere for the man she loves. As for Leni, the move to the last frontier is one that is hard to grasp. At first, the family falls in love with the vast wildness, but with winter soon approaching and sunlight becoming scant, Ernt struggles to maintain his composure and battle his nightmares. Over the years, the Allbright family battles their share of obstacles and challenges until one night, Leni and Cora discover they are alone and must save themselves. The Great Alone is a can’t miss story about the spirit of American pioneers and conquering one of the nation’s last frontiers.

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

WINTER GARDEN

A perfect combination of the mother and daughter story and the sister story. While Meredith and Nina Whitson may be sisters, they are as different as anything. When their father falls ill, the stay at home mom and the famous photojournalist sisters must come together to help him. Before his passing, their father has one last request for the sisters and their disapproving and uncomforting mother, Anya.

Meredith and Nina soon discover the hidden tale of their mother’s past and a love story that started in Leningrad and moved to Alaska. As additional secrets begin to be reveled, the family must rethink exactly who they are. Winter Garden comes with the tagline, “Sometimes when you open the door to your mother’s past, you find your own future.”

If you like mystery, romance, and discovery of one’s strengths blended together in one novel, books by Kristin Hannah are must-reads for you.

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7. Take time to be outdoors. Go for a walk or jog, or relax with a picnic and a novel in your favorite spot.

8. Learn a new language through free apps and websites.

Have you always wanted to learn to speak Spanish, Italian, or French? Now is the time. Apps, such as Duolingo, are free and easy to use.

Sometimes money can be tight, causing people to cut back on their spending and limit some of their usual activities.

However, this doesn’t mean you can’t still do fun things and still enjoy life while sticking to a budget. All you need to do is get creative and figure out what hobbies and activities don’t require money that you will enjoy, especially on the weekends when it can be harder to keep the wallets closed. Take a look at the list below for ideas that can be done either individually or with your family and friends.

1. TED Talks and podcasts are a big trend today and they can be inspiring. A simple search of your favorite topic, such as cooking, sports, etc. can lead to hours of listening and watching, while learning something new. TED talks and podcasts are great to listen to when cooking and cleaning.

2. YouTube also has many videos to inspire you and help you learn something. In addition, you can perfect your cooking skills or take part in a workout.

3. Host a game day or night. Pull out your beloved card and board games for a tournament. A no spend weekend is the perfect time to fill the hours.

4. Not much of a gamer? Host a movie night at home. Watch the classics or your cherished picks all weekend long.

5. Camp inside in your house or outside in your backyard.

This idea is great for any month and can be filled with memories, such as building a fort for your tent indoors.

6. Take a daycation in your town and visit some local tourist attractions, such as parks, libraries, museums, or hike the local trails.

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9. Give a friend or family member a call or write them a letter. These days, many people are accustomed to sending a text or social media message to communicate with others. Try adding a more personalized touch to your message through a phone call or letter. Take it a step further and actually go visit the person.

10. Volunteer at your favorite charity or organization. There are numerous benefits to volunteering, including the happy feeling that comes with the task.

11. Clean and declutter your house. It doesn’t have to be spring to do a deep cleaning. Then, take some time and reorganize your newly cleaned spaces.

12. Turn on your creative side and complete DIY projects.

You don’t have to recreate the Mona Lisa. Instead, grab items from around your house and let the ideas flow.

Example items include newspapers, toilet paper rolls, old books, old jewelry, and cardboard.

13. A spin on DIY projects is scrap booking. Maybe you have a stack of photos laying around that you keep meaning to put into a scrap book. Plus, as you are creating the album, you’ll be able to take a trip down memory lane and relive all the experiences.

14. Have a dance party. Crank up your favorite tunes and dance your heart out with your loved ones or by yourself.

15. Read or write. There never seems to be enough time to read a book or write in a journal.

A no spend weekend can be hard to adjust to at first, but will get easier as time goes on. Not only are these activities selfcare, they are also free and very enjoyable.

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What’s on Your

Vegan Easter Menu?

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

You love animals, consider them friends, not food, and think a plantbased diet is the healthier way to go. Whatever your reason(s) for being a vegan, your meal can be just as well-rounded as the carnivores and omnivores.

We all know that for Easter, the eggs are plentiful and many meat-eaters enjoy lamb, ham, or a roast for their special meal, but what about for vegans? Here are some vegan and vegetarian inspired menu ideas for Easter dinner. From soups and salads to super delish side dishes with veggies galore, you won’t run out of healthy, meatless options.

APPETIZERS/H’ORS DEURVES

Avoiding cheese? Try dipping your veggies, pita chips, and blue corn chips into some hummus, which is a great source of protein. Also, go for guacamole, salsa, or bean dip you can whip together in your blender.

Sweet potato fries are always a yummy option. Bring on the veggies. Whether raw crudities or sautéed, broiled, or baked, don’t skimp on the vegetables.

VEGAN 3-BEAN DIP

Ingredients • 3 cans beans (1 can each of cannellini, kidney and black beans) • ¼ teaspoon garlic powder • 1 teaspoon ground cumin • ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper (for those who like spicy) • 2 Tablespoons lemon or lime juice (freshly squeezed) • 2 Tablespoons tahini paste • 2 Tablespoons hot sauce (optional) • Salt and pepper to taste

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Directions Add all ingredients to a blender and blend until smooth and creamy. Garnish with a sprig of cilantro.

Serve with tortilla chips, blue corn chips, pita chips, and/or raw veggies like carrot sticks, celery sticks, grape or cherry tomatoes, broccoli, and cauliflower.

Recipe adapted from: veganinthefreezer.com/ white-bean-dip/

LOTS OF SIDE DISH OPTIONS

So much to choose from! Try serving potatoes with garlic and rosemary; asparagus; broccolini with ginger, garlic and soy sauce; Brussels sprouts; cauliflower rice; spiralized zucchini or beets; root vegetable medley with carrots, turnips, parsnips, sweet potatoes, and beets; green beans and garlic; curried rice or couscous; tabbouleh; pea risotto; quinoa, buckwheat noodle salad or butternut squash soup. Try beans and tofu atop a salad, in a soup, in a wrap, or as a side dish.

VEGAN POTATO SALAD

Skipping the egg salad? Go for potato salad using vegan, plant-based mayo.

Ingredients • 1.5 pounds red or Yukon potatoes • 1 cup plant-based mayo • 2 Tablespoons red wine or rice wine vinegar • 1 Tablespoon yellow or Dijon mustard • ¾ cup chopped celery • ½ cup chopped carrots • ½ cup yellow, white or red onion • 1-2 chopped green onions to garnish • 1 kosher dill pickle • Salt and pepper to taste • Cayenne pepper and red chili flakes (for fans of the spicy) Directions Boil or bake potatoes. Let cool, then chop along with other vegetables. Combine in a mixing bowl.

Put sauce ingredients in a separate bowl, stir

together, and add to vegetables. Add a few dashes of salt, pepper and/or cayenne pepper. Sprinkle with chopped green onions to garnish and serve.

Can be refrigerated for 30 minutes before serving.

Recipe adapted from: thissavoryvegan.com/veganpotato-salad/

ENTRÉE AND MAIN DISH OPTIONS

Some entrée ideas include pesto pasta with zucchini and yellow squash, veggie pizza, veggie pot pie, vegan lasagna, veggie chili, stuffed portabellas and bell peppers, tofu lettuce wraps or tacos with beans and rice.

HEALTHY VEGAN DESSERT OPTIONS

Wanting to stay sugar-free, but still enjoy a sweet treat? Gather a variety of fruits for a delicious fruit salad. Top with slivered almonds or coconut flakes, and garnish with a sprig of mint.

VEGAN MACAROONS

Ingredients • 1 ¼ cups shredded coconut flakes • ¼ cup finely ground, blanched almond flour • 3 Tablespoons solid coconut oil • ¼ cup pure maple syrup • ½ teaspoon almond or vanilla extract Directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees and line baking sheet with greased aluminum foil or parchment paper. Blend ingredients in a food processor until the thick, sticky mixture holds together.

Use a cookie scoop to create balls, then place on a lined baking sheet. The balls will increase some in size when baking, so allow enough space in between.

Bake for 13-15 minutes until slightly golden around the edges. Cool on a cooling rack about 30 minutes to 1 hour before enjoying!

Recipe adapted from: beamingbaker.com/4ingredient-paleo-coconut-macaroons-recipe-veganpaleo-gluten-free-dairy-free-refined-sugar-free/ Enjoy your meatless, dairy-free meal, and a Happy Vegan Easter!

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Something...

SPLENDID!!

BY KRISTINA EBBINK

Believe it or not, choosing a season of plays and musicals isn’t as easy as you might think… even if you’ve been producing live theatre for the community for 85 years!

The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem’s playreading committee starts meeting a full year prior to a season’s opening. They begin by considering suggestions from the community and looking at which shows have been produced recently, either by us or by other local theatres (you don’t want to hear “Not that again!”). Next, they read plays, listen to musical scores, check Broadway reviews, and start to make a list of potential shows to consider.

Then, things get a bit more complicated. In addition to making educated guesses about which shows on the list are more likely to appeal to local audiences, they also have to look at the technical aspects each show will require: what will be needed as far as set design, costumes, and props go? And, of course, they must consider the financial side of everything: what will be needed to cover venue rental fees, performance rights, music packages, and those aforementioned technical aspects? Honestly, it’s no small feat, and we’re truly fortunate to have dedicated folks on the committee who are willing to take the time to figure it all out. Finally, with as many facts on hand as possible, they start to puzzle a season together, knowing that some people like comedies, some prefer dramas, and some can’t get enough musical theatre.

The goal is always to try to provide something for everyone.

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produced, mainstage season, we’ll include four plays and two musicals.

The plays are varied: two witty comedies (Ripcord and Sylvia), a holiday romance (Miss Bennet: Christmas at Pemberley) and a scintillating mystery (Murder on the Orient Express). The musicals represent “something old and something new’’: Something Rotten! is a side-splitting musical comedy that is fresh off Broadway, where it was nominated for 10 Tony Awards, including Best Musical in 2015, and The Sound of Music is the beloved classic that opened in 1959 and won 5 Tony Awards; it’s gone on to experience multiple productions and revivals ever since.

In addition to our mainstage shows, we’ll offer two smaller-scaled productions: a compelling drama, Doubt: A Parable, as part of our Spotlight Series, and a lovely romantic comedy, Almost, Maine, as part of our Youth Production Series.

We hope you’ll come and experience the excitement of live theatre as we venture into our 86th Season this September. Visit our website to learn more about these shows and about our season memberships, which offer discounted tickets throughout the year.

Our hope is that you’ll come to a performance, knowing that a lot of time and energy has gone into bringing this show to the stage. And that as you settle into your seat, you’ll feel a little tingle of excitement as you wait for the curtain to rise, knowing that you’re about to see something… splendid.

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The Spring Within

A Perfectly-Imperfect Renewal

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

It’s spring, and we are oh, so ready to throw ourselves into the rituals of the season. Ready to sink our hands into the warming soil as we prep our gardens and window boxes for the long stretch of beautiful months ahead.

Ready to wiggle out of our jeans and into our capris as we excavate our closets, happily assigning no longer loved items into piles to sell, donate, and discard. Ready to attend to our porches and our stoops, to drag out the warm-weather-only cushions for the outdoor furniture. We are ready for it with a welcome sense of earned excitement, anticipating the season before us. Your particulars may vary, but you know that feeling.

There is comfort in these well-practiced rituals, along with intentional change.

We look for something different to experiment with in our gardens, a current style or trend to incorporate into our wardrobes, or we go all out and buy a brand new set of outdoor furniture to freshen our outdoor living spaces.

The spring season is nature’s theatre of renewal and rebirth on full display, and we are eager to relish all of it. As we settle into the season and take a closer

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look, we realize that as spring returns, it always does so on its own terms and in its own fashion, no two years exactly alike. The house finches occupy new spaces. The verbena doesn’t survive the winter, and the irises have spread into unclaimed or already-claimed territory. We humans respond in predictable ways: we adapt our expectations; we conform and comply; we rage war with nature.

However we respond, we participate in the intricate repertoire of renewal that is spring.

There is another spring, one more personal that calls us, that is always calling us, 365 days a year. It is the one that invites us into a greater expression of who and how we are, breath by breath, day by day. The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzche writes: And life itself told me this secret: “Behold,” it said, “I am that which must overcome itself again and again.”

Overcome? Seriously? I get how you may hear that as an indictment. But I don’t. I hear Nietzche’s words as a clarion call to embrace my unfolding, my perpetual renewal. And here’s the thing: this is the one place where you and I have complete control, verbena be damned! While the erratic temperatures and unexpected storms wreak havoc with our notions of the perfect spring, remember that spring does triumph: in its own, perfectlyimperfect way. We can learn from her example.

Difficulties in our own lives mess with our perfect plans. That’s when we do well to remember that “perfection” as an absolute, a magazine cover, a still life, a Hallmark movie, a gussied up social media narrative, has no place. This is life, after all.

The invitation is to allow ourselves to bloom as honestly and authentically as our courage and insight allow. And that’s the key. The idea of “overcoming” isn’t about making us wrong, bad, or incomplete. It is about recognizing that as awesome as we are, we get in our own way, we repeat our unhealthy habits, we get stuck in the same places over and over again. Much like spring, “overcoming” can be synonymous with renewal, if we allow for it.

This spring, I am opening the windows - literally and metaphorically - to invite the light into the rooms of my heart and down the corridors of my mind. I am walking, one foot in front of the other, peering into those places where I trip up, or hold myself back. Much as I attend to nature outside my door, I am attending to “nature” within: with compassion and a sense of humble partnership with life. I also know that this is no game of “win or lose,” and so I am trusting that while some seeds will take root, others will not. Some weeds will be eradicated, and others will prove harder to remove. No matter. This spring, as with every spring past and future, I plan to experience a perfectly-imperfect renewal.

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Loving These New Beauty Looks!

Get Set for Spring 2020!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Spring into spring with fresh looks that make you look and feel lovely. Why so serious? Smile, sweetie! This new season is about having fun no matter which hues you choose to accent your facial features.

Get playful and play up those peepers.

Make them pop with sweet shades of citrus (lemon, lime, green and pink), mint (greens), sunrise/sunset (gold, orange, pink and red) and blue sky (white and blue).

Or, mix blues and greens for aquamarine and experiment with a pretty, pleasing palette that’s uniquely you. Try rose, apricot, or peach shades of blush. And, give those lips a lift with more natural nudes or corals, pinks, and ravishing rose red for the romantic rebel. These beauty trends for spring are headed your way off the runway!

DO THE ‘DO FOR A FASHIONABLE YOU

Plait your hair into two low pigtail braids or try a low bun. The shaggy wavy ‘70s look and natural afro are in. The secret to achieving the wet hair look is not using water, but hair gel to slick it back. Tired of it down? Sweep those strands up into a high bun for a just-stepped-out-of-the-pool look. Embellish your pony with a black bow or some pretty pearl bobby pins.

NEON SUNRISE/SUNSET AND WATERCOLOR RAINBOW

Be an artist and try a variety of colors on your eyelids with a pretty palette of eyeshadows. Find inspiration in nature’s most colorful creations. Collect pics of sunrises, sunsets, and rainbows and layer on different shades. You can stay simple (2+ colors) or get more complex with more colors. Try bright fluorescent colors with shades that shimmer. Create an ombre and gradient effect, like a tri-color sunrise of yellow, gold, and orange moving from the inner part of the eyelid out.

CLOUDS AND STARS

Our heads may be in the clouds as we’re busy dreamin’, so why not draw on inspiration from the sky and draw on our eyelids? Feeling fanciful? Draw some fluffy clouds on your eyelids with a white eyeliner pencil atop hot pink or sky blue eyeshadow. For the starry-eyed look, use eyelash glue to adhere tiny stars around your eyes.

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PRETTY PEARLS

Your grandmother probably had a strand of pretty pearls and maybe your mom wore them, too. You can’t beat the classics, and pearls are as classy as they are classic, in addition to being elegant and refined. Not just a necklace, though. Try sticker pearls you scrapbook with on your face or in your hair.

CLASSIC CAT EYES

SHIMMERING SMOKY EYES

Give those smoky eyes some sweet sparkle with iridescent and metallic eyeshadows. Smudge on eyeliner with a kohl pencil and use black eyeshadow to accentuate the outer corners of your eyes in the crease.

PRETTY IN PINK

Retro pin-ups aren’t the only ones who wear the winged eyeliner look. Black liquid liner is back, but in contrast, so is white. Want to try something new? Go for yellow, green, or teal. If you’re not good at getting a precise point on the ends, look online for winged eyeliner tutorials. You’ll be a pro, like an MUA (make-up artist), in no time.

What’s the first color that comes to mind when you think of blossoming spring - cherry blossoms, tulips, and roses?

Shades of pink. From rosy cheeks to lips to eyes, try using the same shade of pink for a monochrome look that’s flirty and girly.

RAVISHING RED LIPS - OR GO GOTH, GORGEOUS!

Great thing about make-up and hair is that it’s not permanent. If you want to, just start over and make adjustments.

There’s no pressure to look a certain way. You call the shots on how you want to look. Exercise your imagination and experiment with your artistic license.

Celebrate the beauty of spring and celebrate the beauty of you!

Bright red lips are always in and can add punch and pizazz to your whole look! Looking for a variation on a theme?

Try a few shades darker in a burgundy or wine color that conveys drama, sophistication, mystery, and intrigue – as well as a dash of daring. Feeling bold? Go even darker.

Go Goth. Black lips are in vogue (the magazine, too).

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APRIL 4-JANUARY 3, 2021 APRIL 16-19 “TRAVEL ADVENTURE” EXHIBIT

HAPPY EASTER APRIL 2-4

FRIENDS OF THE LEWISVILLE LIBRARY ANNUAL SPRING BOOK SALE

Times vary. Lewisville Public Library, 6490 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. All funds raised stay with the Lewisville Branch Library… providing many needed items...new books, library supplies, audiobooks, DVDs, programs and much more! Admission and parking are free, and the library is handicap accessible!

APRIL 2 & 9

CODE GIRL (AGES 8-15)

6-7pm, Code Ninja, 1589 Skeet Club Road in High Point. Code Girl Workshop is for girls ages 8-15 who have an interest in computer science. The local teen organization, SMART Code of Life, will introduce girls to the Internet of Things, where all students will have the opportunity to code and make circuits as well as create programs. Cost: $10/person. bit.ly/CODEGIRL_3

APRIL 3-27

KALEIDEUM’S PEPPERCORN THEATRE PRESENTS “ALICE IN WONDERLAND” Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Journey down the rabbit hole with Alice in this interactive adaptation of Lewis Carroll’s classic stories. Audience members are invited onstage and into an imaginative Wonderland to help Alice and friends solve problems and uncover parts of their own stories. Recommended for ages 6 & up. Cost: $8 for Kaleideum members; $10 general admission. For showtimes and tickets, visit kaleideum.org/peppercorn.

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Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. You can go ANYWHERE – over land, sea or air – in the new exhibit! Using LEGO® bricks, visitors can think creatively to plan and build vehicles to move through all kinds of terrain, including mountains, jungles, oceans and deserts…just to name a few!

Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. kaleideum.org

APRIL 9

KIDS’ MORNING OUT Check website and social media for updates!

10am-12pm, Jerry Long Family YMCA, 1150 South Peacehaven Road in Clemmons. Free event! Come experience what the YMCA can offer your preschooler with multiple sports activity stations. Event geared toward ages 6 and under with the opportunity to play and experience each sport with our outstanding Youth Sports staff! Football, basketball, t-ball, soccer and even a bounce house! Attend and receive $10 off your summer sports and aquatic preschool program registration. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous Forsyth Family Magazine prize board!

APRIL 10-19 HAYLEY PAIGE

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964!

MINECRAFT EDUCATED

5:30-6:30pm, Code Ninjas, 1589 Skeet Club Road, Suite 103 in High Point. Don’t just let them play it! Enroll your kids, so they can engage with this game on an educational level. Come join us on Tuesdays this month and learn to create 3-D designs and mods and import them into your own Minecraft world. Ages 7+. Cost: $15/class. Requires a Minecraft account. Register prior to the event. codeninjas.com

WINSTON-SALEM DASH OPENING WEEKEND

BB&T Ballpark, 921 Ballpark Way in W-S. The Dash are back! The Dash’s Opening Weekend is jam-packed with fun. We offer the best family friendly entertainment in the Triad. Purchase your tickets here: bit. ly/3axw1Ie.

APRIL 17

PAINT POPS // MIXED MEDIA ART WORKSHOP

6-9pm, Awake Church, 7840 North Point Boulevard, #120 in W-S. In this workshop, professional artist Beth Glover will be equipping students them with a foundation of mixed media techniques for creating rich textures with acrylic paints and collage works. This will be a fun, hands on and engaging workshop that anyone at any skill level is welcome to attend and learn. Kids 6+ are welcome to register with a parent, or older sibling, as well! Light snacks and coffee will also be provided.

Cost: $40/person. bethglovercreates.com

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2020 MARRIAGE VISION

DoubleTree Inn, RDU Airport, 4810 Page Creek Lane in Durham. Have fun on Friday evening as we look back on the high points of our marriage and get to know each other in a fun and relaxing way. Attend three of nine workshops on Saturday that will help you meet the challenges of your marriage and assist you in creating a vision that carry you forward in your relationship.

Cost: $149. bettermarriagesnc.org

SPRING THEATRE PRESENTS “CHILDREN OF EDEN”

Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA), 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. Stephen Schwartz gives us a passionate retelling of two of the Old Testament’s most beloved tales in the form of a musical about parenthood, authority and wavering faith…not to mention centuries of unresolved family business!

Cost: $18/person. SpringTheatre.org

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Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 North Spruce Street in W-S. In this romantic musical comedy, when guys fall in love, they’ll do more than roll the dice to win their dolls!

Cost: $13.50-$25/person. ltofws.org/guysand-dolls

9am-1pm & 7-10pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. View a planetarium show and explore the night sky with hands-on demonstrations and other experiences. Explore planets, stars and distant galaxies with professional telescopes and binoculars. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. kaleideum.org

GUYS AND DOLLS

APRIL 18

SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED

BY THE BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB

9am-12pm, Bermuda Run Town Hall Parking Lot, 120 Kinderton Boulevard. Proceeds go to various Davie County community programs sponsored by the Garden Club.

Cost: $5 per brown bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine.

SPRING OPEN HOUSE

Mitchell’s Nursery and Greenhouse, 1088 West Dalton Road in King. Join us for our annual Spring Open House. Come see the wonderful color that spring has to offer.

Refreshments will be served all day and hot dogs will be served from 11am-1pm. Bring a friend and enjoy the day.

APRIL 20

WINSTON SALEM HOUSEWIVES IN THE CITY, BUNNY HOPPIN NETWORKING & GIRLS NIGHT

5:30-8:30pm, Corks, Caps & Taps, 626 West 4th Street in W-S. Shop, network and sip tasty wine and beer in one of Winston Salem’s favorite settings. facebook. com/events

WINSTON-SALEM DASH BASEBALL GAME

7-10pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Free Food Monday with the Dash: It’s the craziest deal in sports! Each ticket comes with all the hot dogs, corn dogs and French fries you can eat through the seventh inning.

The best part? Normal ticket prices apply.

Enjoy your free food and an exciting baseball game by purchasing your tickets here: mpv. tickets.com. Cost: $8-$16/person.

APRIL 22

SUSTAINABLE FUTURES: AN EARTH DAY CELEBRATION

9am-2pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Celebrate the 50th Anniversary of Earth Day with Kaleideum and the NC Science Festival! Explore a compost bin teeming with worms to learn about decomposition, view an active beehive to discover the importance of pollinators, plant bee-friendly flowers in our garden, ride a bike to generate energy and experience other hands-on demonstrations to help sustain and protect our earth. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. kaleideum.org

STATEWIDE STAR PARTY

EARTHSKILLS & PERMACULTURE IMMERSION

Wild Abundance, 65 Sanford Way in Weaverville. Earn your Permaculture Design Certificate and transform your life! This class meets one three-day weekend a month, from April-November 2020, at the Wild Abundance campus based near Asheville. wildabundance.net

APRIL 24-25

ROUNDABOUT STROLLER TOUR

10-11am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Parents and/or caregivers are invited to bring their very young learners (age 0–3 years) in stroller, front carrier or backpack for a staff-led walking tour of the Reynolda grounds. Cost: $10/person. reynoldahouse.org

APRIL 25

HOPE RUN AND FAMILY PICNIC

Visit website for possible cancellation or date change 9am-1pm, Bailey Park, 445 Patterson Avenue in W-S. We will have plenty of activities for the whole family! Funds generated from the event help Trellis Supportive Care provide unmatched, compassionate, supportive care for patients and their loved ones. Please visit TrellisRun.org to purchase tickets.

Wine Merchants WINE SHOP HOURS Monday CLOSED Tuesday - Saturday 10:00 AM to 9:00 PM Sunday 10:00 AM to 3 PM

PIEDMONT EARTH DAY FAIR

10am-4pm, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds, 421 27th Street in W-S. Enjoy great food and music, activities for adults and kids, and wonderful Earth-friendly exhibitors. This event is free, including free parking. facebook.com/events

NEW DATES EMPTY BOWLS

June 16th 5-7:30pm; 11am-2pm (17th), Benton Convention Center, 301 West 5th Street in W-S. Two opportunities to feed community lunch or dinner – you choose. Empty Bowls brings together top local chefs and artists as well as people like you to fight hunger in our community. Chefs prepare soup made with fresh, wholesome ingredients and local artists create beautiful, handmade bowls for each of our guests. Live music at both events. Dinner event will feature balloon artists, magicians and a stilt walker...plus a bar. Cost: $35 in advance; $40 day of. emptybowlsnc.org

BISTRO HOURS Dinner: Tuesday - Saturday 4:00 PM to 9:30 PM Lunch: Friday 11:30 AM to 3:00 PM Brunch: Saturday & Sunday 10:00 AM to 3:00 PM

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Conversations with Your Are You Still In Love With Your Ex or BFF With the Person You Want Them to Be?

BY REBECCA COOPER

If you live long enough, you will have an ex or several exes of some sort, whether that be a significant other or a spouse.

Once someone becomes part of your past, many times the thought of them lingers. You wonder if the relationship could’ve been saved, if there was more you could’ve done, or if you went back things could have been better. Those are just three of the 103 questions I asked myself over the years as my 20 plus year marriage receded in the rearview mirror of my life. You’ll find yourself remembering the good times, how wonderful love was when it was new, and how much you care for them. You tend to set the bad memories aside and dwell on the warm, fuzzy ones. The nights of crying just don’t fit into the narrative you want. But really, are you still in love with your ex, or are you in love with the person you wanted your ex to be? I’m so glad you asked!

WAS IT REALLY THAT GOOD?

To romanticize something or someone means ‘to make more appealing than it really is.’ Viewing our exes in an idealized way is exactly what I and many others do after a relationship ends. Think about this…it’s easier to love someone when they’re not there to annoy you. Every time you take a walk down memory lane, you tend to mold the past into what you maybe wanted, and not recall what it actually was.

SEEKING THE ‘FIX’ OF YOUR EX

There are as many studies on the subject of love as any topic out there.

Research has shown that people in love show symptoms of drug addiction like euphoria, as well as both emotional and physical dependence. The feel-good chemicals that are released when you’re falling in love are addictive. Even when a relationship is over, we are chasing that ‘fix.’ In a way, the end of romantic love can mimic the withdrawal from a drug. Revisiting the good times with your ex is like getting your fix in a very low dosage. Going cold turkey is easier said than done.

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YOU’RE BREAKING YOUR HEART OVER AND OVER So what’s the harm in romanticizing your ex? For one, those warm fuzzies make it harder to move on.

Your judgment becomes clouded… but your ex is your ex for a reason, probably many reasons. Thinking on the good times will make you miss them even more, even maybe fool you into getting back together. One way to keep those false memories at bay is to live in the moment.

Hanging on to the past has a bad habit of destroying your future.

DID YOU LIKE WHO YOU WERE THEN OR NOW?

When I think back now, I really don’t know who I was with my ex. Sure it was me, but many times I feel like I was observing my life then, not living it. I wanted to make his life perfect because that was my job, but that put me in many roles like maid, gardener, and pleaser. I put up with a lot of stuff that I wouldn’t now. Back then, I never stood up for myself, and I got hurt almost every day. Today, I am healthy mentally and know my worth and value, which is more than my ex could afford. He wanted a doormat, and I’m not that anymore.

If you find it difficult to stop before you embark down memory lane, take a breath, and really remember what your ex was like, good and bad. One day, although it may take some time, perhaps years like it did me, you will pack up those memories and say goodbye and look to your future open to all the possibilities.

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