Forsyth Woman - April 2019

April 2019

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Piedmont Federal Savings Bank

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Aeracura Salon

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Trellis Supportive Care

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Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics

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April 2019

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COVER STORY Piedmont Federal Savings Bank: A Century Focused on Customer Service!

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RiverRun International Film Festival Military Child Appreciation Month Build Your Own Fan Club Keeping Behind the Joneses Serving Something Beautiful How Introverts Can Enjoy Parties More

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Twin City Fashion Week

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Jon Eric Johnson Photography

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IN EVERY ISSUE

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Dear June…

Keeping it Real ReDESIGNS

by Ava Making Dollars, Making $ense

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W ters Who Read Hustle & Heart Recipe Women on the Move To Your Health Constructing Dreams Business Bulletin Board

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Calendar of Events Conversations With Your BFF

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Restoration Med Spa

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The View From This Side APRIL 2019 April – already?!?! But here we are! So much is going on and time is flying by.

I have to first thank everyone for your prayers, emails, and cards. Tim is still recovering, but working hard in physical therapy and doing beautifully! And I was finally able to start my radiation treatments so, needless to say, we have plenty of appointments to keep track of. But we both have exceptional medical teams and are very grateful! We are also so thankful for your continued prayers for both of us!

We are super excited to feature our friends at Piedmont Federal Savings Bank on the cover of this month’s issue. Their Front Inside Cover ad (page 2) is a beautiful view of downtown Winston-Salem from their fabulous office on Stratford Road.

It’s absolutely stunning, and of course – these are such special people. You know how we love supporting local, and this organization is a prime example of how impactful local business is to our community.

Speaking of local – don’t forget to support local this Easter! From your Easter dresses to your Easter portraits to Easter lunch reservations, our local advertising partners can help you out!

We are also super excited about a new advertiser in our magazine – The Office Nerd Virtual Assistant. This is our very own, Denise Heidel. Many of you know that Denise worked for us full-time until 2017 and has continued with us as a writer ever since. By starting her own business, Denise is going to be more available to us, and we are so excited about that! Her article can be found on page 62.

I have to take a moment to brag too… we have an article in this month’s issue about my niece, nephew, and their children, on page 24. We miss them like crazy, but we are so proud of them. Please read our special shout out about Carrie and Miles!

We hope to see you on April 9th at GNO! We’re going to be at Village Inn Event Center’s Crosby Pub and that ALWAYS promises to be a great GNO experience!

All the details can be found on our GNO ad on page 27.

As always, your loyalty means the world to us! We are so blessed by you, and it’s an honor to be a part of your lives each month. Thank you for reading, and please let our advertisers know you saw them in this month’s issue! Please make sure their advertising dollars – which make these free publications possible each month – are being well-spent!

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Duke Eye Center of Winston Salem has been serving patients in Forsyth and the surrounding counties for more than 20 years. A well-established eye care center, it is known for comprehensive eye care, including treatment for corneal disease, cataracts, glaucoma, dry eye, and eyelid and facial cosmetic surgery.

To better serve patients and meet the needs of the rapidly growing region, Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem continues to expand by adding new providers and services.

Not only is Hidaji committed to his local patients, he has a passion for fighting blindness around the world and has spent time abroad volunteering for Healing the Children NJ, Project Orbis and World Cataract Foundation. These organizations provide critical medical care to children around the world that they otherwise are unable to obtain.

He recently completed a mission trip with Healing the Children in the Dominican Republic where 25 strabismus surgeries were performed.

NEW PEDIATRIC SERVICES

“Being able to donate my time to help these children is highly rewarding. When I am abroad on a mission trip, I am able to focus on helping children that may not have had a chance at treatment. It reminds me of why I became a doctor in the first place,” said Hidaji.

Faramarz Hidaji, MD serves as the first pediatric eye care provider at Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem. He is a fellowship-trained, board-certified pediatric ophthalmologist treating patients with strabismus, pediatric lacrimal disease, ptosis, retinopathy of prematurity (ROP) and pediatric cataracts.

He also sees adult patients requiring oculofacial plastic surgery for upper and lower blepharoplasty, brow lift, ptosis repair, tumor removal and eyelid reconstruction. Hidaji is a diplomate of the board of integrative holistic medicine.

He joins Duke from Visionary Eye Care, PC, where he was the Medical Director for 17 years.

Hidaji uses each interaction with a patient as an opportunity to make a positive difference in his or her life. “It is an honor to serve the Forsyth community, work alongside leaders in ophthalmology at Duke, and maintain the reputation of excellence in patient care,” he said.

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PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

AN EVER GROWING VISION!

In September, a new cornea and cataract specialist, and an oculofacial plastics specialist will join the practice to further expand eye care services in the region.

Carol Ziel, MD, glaucoma specialist and medical director for the practice, says that the growth of Duke Eye Center provides better access to specialtytrained ophthalmologists in the WinstonSalem area. “We are proud to serve our community and offer treatment for common to complex eye diseases,” said Ziel.

One of the top eye centers in the country, Duke Eye Center is ranked #6 by the US News and World Report Best Hospitals survey. Duke eye care providers offer the

best-in-class care. Patients and their families receive prompt, effective treatment at the earliest possible stage of their illness, in order to prevent -- or halt -the progression of blinding eye diseases.

Duke Eye Center of Winston-Salem is located at 1340 Creekshire Way, Suite 100, learn more about them at dukeeye.org, or call 336-768-3240 to schedule an appointment. Office hours are Monday through Friday 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. Visit duekeye.org for more information about our providers and services.

Dukeeye.org | 336-768-3240 1340 Creekshire Way | Winston Salem, NC 27103

Serving Forsyth for more than

20 years

Pediatric services now available!

Treatment for children and adults • Strabismus • Retinopathy of prematurity (ROP) • Pediatric lacrimal disease • Pediatric cataracts • Ptosis

Upper and lower eye lid surgery FARAMARZ HIDAJI, MD Pediatric ophthalmologist Oculofacial specialist

• Brow lift • Ptosis repair • Tumor removal

Duke Eye Center

Our expert eye care specialists provide the latest treatment strategies personalized to your needs.

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Glaucoma specialist Cataract management

Cornea specialist Cataract management

WILLIAM B. RAFFERTY, OD Optometrist Dry eye treatment

CAROL J. ZIEL, MD

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APRIL 4-14

Celebrating its 21st season, the RiverRun International Film Festival will take place April 4-14 and will feature screenings in Winston-Salem and Greensboro. The 2019 Festival will feature a wide variety of features, documentaries, shorts, and animation in competition programs, as well as many films in non-competition sections.

In April 2018, RiverRun was named by Moviemaker magazine as one of the “Top 50 Film Festivals Worldwide Worth the Entry Fee.” More recently, in January 2019, USA Today named RiverRun one of the “10 amazing film festivals worth traveling for.”

“Our 2019 RiverRun International Film Festival features a diverse collection of more than 170 films from nearly four dozen countries across the globe,” said RiverRun Executive Director Rob Davis. “Each of these films is reflective of our mission to engage our audiences in an exploration of new and divergent cultures and perspectives through the art of film.”

RiverRun will kick off Opening Night with two films on Thursday, April 4, both presented

by PNC Bank. The first film is “Ode to Joy,” where Charlie (played by Martin Freeman) suffers from a narcolepsy-inducing affliction, especially if a situation is a joyful one. He develops a range of tricks to deny himself pleasure, but all of that is put to the test when he falls in love. Morena Baccarin and UNCSA alum Jake Lacy also star in this endearing comedy based on a radio story from “This American Life.”

The second opening night film is “This Changes Everything,” giving an inside look at the topic of gender disparity in Hollywood, featuring accounts from well-known actors, executives, and artists in the Industry including Sandra Oh, Natalie Portman, Cate Blanchett and many more.

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“RiverRun believes in not only preserving the cinematic experience by bringing unique, independent films that would rarely be seen on the big screen to Winston-Salem, but even more, in highlighting diverse viewpoints to open lines of communication throughout our community,” said RiverRun Program Manager Mary Dossinger. “We believe in pushing boundaries, highlighting new cinematic forms and providing a platform for filmmakers to connect directly with their audiences and have important conversations about our world and the human experience.”

Included in the non-competition lineup this year is a six-film Spotlight: United Artists Centennial.

Founded in 1919 by four of the most popular Hollywood figures of their time – Charlie Chaplin, Douglas Fairbanks, Mary Pickford, and D.W. Griffith, their goal was to retain more creative control with their film projects. During the last century, United Artists has maintained a position of producing and distributing prestigious and commercially successful films, including the hugely popular James Bond franchise. As part of the 2019 Spotlight, on April 12, RiverRun will screen a restored version of “Dr. No,” the first James Bond film, which set the standard for the franchise.

The Festival will close on April 14 with “Bathtubs Over Broadway,” presented by the Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts. Late Night comedy writer Steve Young has stumbled upon some vintage records that opened the door to a hilarious, hidden world of entertainment. Bizarre cast recordings revealed full-throated, Broadway-style musical shows about some of the most recognizable corporations in America. David Letterman, Chita Rivera, and Martin Short offer insights, among others.

For more details about the films and to purchase tickets, please go to riverrunfilm.com.

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GET CAMERA-READY FOR ANY EVENT

BY DENISE HEIDEL

GRADUATIONS (VARIOUS DATES IN MAY AND JUNE)

Graduation signifies a completion, but it’s also a time for a new beginning. And a new beginning needs the confidence to step out in style with a great new look. Whether it’s a high school graduate stepping into higher education, or a college graduate stepping into the American workforce – graduation is a great time to embrace a new style. Plus, hello! Mom is going to have a camera.

She will demand photos.

WEDDING SEASON (ANY TIME!)

Whether you’re a guest, a part of the bridal party, or the bride or groom – getting wedding day hair is essential! The talented team at Paparazzi Hair Salon can do elaborate updos that are elegant and timeless, or soft, romantic styles. Either way – the bride, the groom, and the bridal party can feel exceptional on an exceptional day!

Owner Bobbie Skinner shared, “We love helping our clients get ready for special events or milestone moments. It’s an honor to help someone feel their best on special days or even days when they just need a pick-me-up!”

Springtime is full of fun, exciting opportunities!

There’s a host of reasons to be camera-ready!

And Paparazzi Hair Salon is there to help for any occasion.

TAX DAY (APRIL 15, 2019)

Okay, so this was probably not an occasion that most people associate with a new haircut. But hey – it works one of two ways. It’s a great way to reward yourself if you’re enjoying a nice refund.

Or it’s a great way to console yourself if you’re not.

Either way – you’ll feel better.

EASTER (APRIL 21, 2019)

Easter is a great time for everyone in the family to get freshened up for their annual family pictures!

Whether it’s time to get some highlights for mom, a trim for dad and the boys, or maybe a more grown-up haircut for the girls… The whole family can be camera-ready just in time for Easter Sunday!

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MOTHER’S DAY (MAY 12, 2019)

A Paparazzi Hair Salon gift card is a gift you know Mom will love! It fits every size, and you don’t have to worry about picking out the wrong color! She can do that herself during a consultation with Bobbie or any of the amazing stylists at Paparazzi! She will love it! Especially if you couple her new hairstyle with dinner plans at her favorite restaurant (she’s going to want to show off that new look!).

PROM (VARIOUS DATES IN APRIL AND MAY)

Updos, updos, and more updos! When it comes to prom, girls all over the Triad can make a statement with a fabulous updo from the talented staff of Paparazzi Hair Salon. Prom is not a time for boring hair.

As spring is in full swing, make sure you book an appointment with Paparazzi Hair Salon so you can be camera-ready for all the special memories to be made!

Paparazzi Hair Salon is located at 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court in Clemmons.

Call them at 893-7169. Visit online at PaparazziHairSalon.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram!

Walk-ins are welcome!

Paparazzi offers many specials, including Manly Mondays and WOW Brow Wednesdays.

Check out their website, PaparazziHairSalon.com to learn about other special offers and also book your next appointment online!

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Laser Cataract Surgery Glaucoma Treatment • Diabetic Treatment Multifocal Lens Implants • General Eye Exams

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INSURANCE  GOTTA LOVE IT!

BY KATHY BOLLING, PRACTICE ADM.

Thirty-two years ago, I began a career in ophthalmology. Everything was simpler then: handwritten charts, two main phone lines, and patients signed an insurance form on their way out. EVERYTHING HAS NOW CHANGED! There are many lines to be answered, records are electronic (but we continue to generate a lot of paper), and insurance is anything but simple.

Ophthalmology is the ONLY medical specialty which deals with two types of insurance—Medical and Vision. If seeing an eye care provider, one might ask why all expenses would not be covered under the “Vision” plan? Good question, but that is not the way it works. I will make an attempt to differentiate the two from information I have obtained over the years.

The portion of the exam to obtain a prescription for glasses (refraction) was included in the reimbursement from insurance companies many years ago. However, the medical insurance companies decided that this part of the exam is not necessary when it comes to treating “eye diseases.”

Reimbursements were decreased and “Vision” Insurance plans such as Superior, VSP, Spectera, etc. were developed. Now we have “medical plans” and “vision plans.”

This would not be an issue for eye care providers or patients, except for the fact that the Vision Carriers’ claims cannot be filed to cover the routine eye exam on the same day as a “medical” problem claim such as diabetes, glaucoma, dry eye, infections, etc. is being filed. This means the patients must make two appointments – one for their medical and one for their routine appointments – on different days. Medical claims involve copayments and sometimes deductibles. Vision plans often just have a copayment.

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TIPS FOR ENSURING THE CORRECT FILING & PAYMENT OF BENEFITS:

1) Bring all insurance information to the appointments. Include both Vision and Medical cards and any necessary paperwork.

2) Make it very clear what your goal is for the visit. If the visit is about receiving a prescription for an updated pair of glasses and/or contact lens, let the receptionist know. If the visit is about your red, itchy, irritated eyes, the visit will be filed as medical and no “routine” care will be given on that visit.

3) Do not “change” the reason for the visit. You cannot change the purpose of the visit in midstream or dispute the insurance coverage when it is determined there was a deductible or high copayment. At that point, it is too late to reverse the claims.

4) Prior to visits, determine if the provider’s office is on your insurance provider roster. If there is a question, please call the provider’s office to inquire. Give all the information. For example, your medical insurance may be Insurance XYZ Company, but the vision carrier may be Insurance ABC Company. Both pieces of this information are required for the provider’s staff to dispense correct information. Just because the provider is in-network with Insurance XYZ, he/she may not be for Insurance ABC. Insurance is complicated and can be a challenge, but with a little prior planning, it can be navigated with success. Remember, the providers do not make the insurance rules. The carriers create the guidelines; and physicians and their staffs interpret and adhere to the best of their ability.

Summit Eye Care is happy to assist anyone with their eye care needs and will make every effort to collect the correct payable benefits for our patients.

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MILITARY CHILD APPRECIATION MONTH THANKING OUR LITTLE TROOPERS FOR THEIR SERVICE

BY ASHLEY BLUE

The entire month of April marks a huge celebration for US military schools and bases all across the country. Back in 1986, Department Secretary Caspar Weinberger established the entire month of April to be deemed as “Month of the Military Child.” This time is dedicated to acknowledging not only the hardships and trials, but also endurance and strength that military children display. So, this month let’s focus our attention and appreciation towards the little ones that show the most bravery through their sacrifice on the home front.

I was given the opportunity to talk with an amazing military spouse and her boys about their personal experiences of struggle and triumph while growing up military. Carrie Jennings is eleven years into her parenting journey raising her four boys Ryan (13), Levi (10), Rhys (6), and Liam (3).

Being a fellow military spouse and a new mom myself, it was an honor to learn their stories while also truly insightful to view this journey from the children’s perspective. They helped paint a real picture of what they actually experience while navigating through military life.

DEDICATED FROM THE START

Eleven years ago, Carrie and her husband made the huge life altering decision for him to join the military. At the time Ryan, their oldest, was only three years old. “We didn’t give much, if any, thought to the challenges of raising a family in the military lifestyle. Of course, we didn’t know where we were going, but we were excited for the possibility our children would do more and see more than we did growing up.” This statement alone is a true testament to the life that military children get to experience. But even though there are some incredibly amazing opportunities that come along with growing up as a military child, there are also many challenges to combat.

Carrie, her husband, and little Ryan were super excited to embark on their new journey so many years ago. Fast forward eleven years, three additional little boys and three duty stations later, the family has a brand new seasoned perspective on what it means to grow up as a “military brat.”

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BATTLING THROUGH STRUGGLES

Military children are faced with intense hardships such as separation anxiety, deployments, frequent moves and loss of friends, along with constant readjusting and adapting to the new. These types of situations could occur multiple times within their childhood. Carrie’s younger three boys were born into this life, making it their norm. But Ryan actually still has memories of being back in their hometown close to family, which he misses. “My brothers and I agree that one of the hardest parts of being a military kid is when we or our friends move away. Moving is rough, especially when we move overseas and we might have to go without most of our stuff for a few months. TDYs/deployments are tough, too.

For us and for mom and dad.”

CELEBRATING THE VICTORIES

Even though there is a huge amount of opposition that these children face, these struggles inherently engrave in them an incredible amount of strength, astonishing endurance, and insightful optimism as a result.

Levi mentioned, “We love getting to see new places. We love getting to experience new cultures, food, music, and trying to learn a different language. We also love meeting people and making new friends, even though they might eventually move away.” Ryan added, “But that just means there’s a high probability we might know someone wherever we may go in the future.”

HEART TO SERVE

Perspective such as this is priceless. The Jennings boys have learned the art of seeing the best in things and enjoying wherever life might take them. This is a golden lesson that will inevitably stay with them throughout their entire lives. All thanks to Carrie and her husband’s selfless act of service to our country.

Thank you to Carrie’s husband for your service. Thank you, Carrie, for your service. And this month most of all, thank you, Ryan, Levi, Rhys, and Liam, for your incredible service and endless sacrifices that you make for our country every day.

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$25 SWANKY & SWAG Teresa Cope

$25 GIFTS & PAPER ON PLAZA Chris Kares

$25 KIM TAYLOR & CO. Jane Hixon

INNER STRENGTH PILATES PRIVATE SESSION Claudia Jokinen

1/2 HOUR MASSAGE AT FARRAGO Norene Swing

$25 GIFTS & PRODUCTS AT FARRAGO Donna Callas

$25 WINE MERCHANTS Cindy DeBruhl

$25 RESTORATION MEDSPA Jan Merritt

$25 THREE BULLS AMERICAN STEAKHOUSE Katina Monroe

$50 NITSA’S APPAREL Linda Hammett

$25 FOOTNOTE COFFEE & COCKTAILS Gail Hairston

$25 MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE Dedra Chamberlain

$25 PROVIDENCE RESTAURANT Marion Tyson

$25 MAC AND NELLI’S Shannon Harper

$50 PAPARAZZI HAIR SALON Robin Kincain

BUDGET BLINDS WINDOW TREATMENT Belinda Johnson

$25 URBN GRL

PHOTOS BY CAROLYN PETERSON

Debbie Wilkins

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$25 ACCENT PRONE Lynn Pace

$25 SIMPLY STERLING Velma Lockhart

MYSTERY PRIZE Glenda Todd

Village Inn Event Center

Tuesday, April 9th • 5pm - until…

6205 Ramada Drive, Clemmons, NC (Located off I-40, Exit 184) Reservations Recommended

$8 Burger Bar

Crosby Pub & Restaurant

DJ

6 Drink Specials

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ROSEY’S REVIEW

BY ROSEY

1000 Glen Day Drive, Clemmons, NC 27012 336.712.1010 | SalemGlen.com

T H E G R I L L E AT T H E G L E N When you’re looking for an exceptional, high-quality dining experience, look no further than Salem Glen Country Club. But don’t let the name fool you! You don’t have to be a club member to enjoy an elite, high-quality dining experience. My friends and I were invited to sample the menu for ourselves, and it’s a meal not to be forgotten! From the gorgeous dining room that overlooks the greens, to the fireside table in the Bear’s Club, every detail was well-orchestrated.

The Grille at the Glen concept was created and is managed by Uptown Hospitality Group, a local consulting company from Clemmons along with Salem Glen owners Darren and Kris Mangus. In the spring, outdoor dining will be magnificent since the views are spectacular!

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We started our meal with a SKILLET BAKED MAC ‘N’ CHEESE. But don’t assume anything by the name…

The traditional notion of “mac ‘n’ cheese” has been taken up several notches. As our photographer, and my dear friend Melinda noted, “This is grown up Mac ‘n’ Cheese.” This classic comfort food is made with cavatappi pasta instead of the traditional elbow pasta of our childhood. And there’s nothing that’s originated from a box in this dish! The cheesy goodness comes from a scratch-made Bechamel sauce and freshly grated cheddar cheese. The whole dish is topped with breadcrumbs and scallions, then baked. It’s a fantastic dish to share, but with add-ons like fried chicken or buffalo chicken, you could easily turn this into a meal.

Our second appetizer was the SEARED AHI TUNA. This tuna is so fresh, you’d swear you were dining beside an ocean. The rich flavor is divine. This is another appetizer that can be ordered as an entrée, and if you love fresh Ahi tuna, you’d be making a great choice.

The Ahi Tuna is crusted with sesame seeds and served with pickled ginger, wasabi, soy sauce, and crispy wonton chips.

For our entrees, we started with a personal favorite… an ANGUS FILET. Y’all know by now that I’m a steak girl, and I have strong opinions about great steak. This didn’t disappoint in the slightest. A tender cut of filet was served with a delicious Bordelaise sauce. The sauce just enhances the flavor of the beef and is incredible.

We also tried the MESQUITE GRILLED PORK CHOP. This generous portion of pork chop is cooked with the bone in, which just adds to the richness of the flavor. It was seasoned with mesquite seasoning, as well as a honey BBQ sauce. It was a sweet and savory combo that was second to none!

Absolutely delicious!

Monday – Tuesday: 10:30 AM – 5 PM; Wednesday - Thursday: 10:30 AM – 9 PM; Friday: 10:30 AM – 10 PM; Saturday – Sunday: 10 AM – 5 PM

Our third entrée was the PAN FRIED CHICKEN MARYLAND. Whoa.

This was a version of chicken that I’d never had before, and it was exceptional. The chicken breast was incredibly tender and served with strips of country ham. Peas garnished the entrée, and the whole thing was topped with white gravy. It’s Southern Grandma cooking at its best. And though the chicken is fried, it’s not a greasy dish.

The vegetable of the day during our meal was GRILLED ASPARAGUS. It was perfectly grilled and served with a lemon zest, which really enhanced the flavor of the asparagus. Well done, Salem Glen!

We loved it!

We wrapped up our meal with a little something from the bar, and two desserts. First up, the HOT WHITE RUSSIAN. This chocolate mocha coffee is made with Kahlua, Absolut vodka, and freshly made whipped cream. It was a warm something on a chilly March evening that could be enjoyed on any evening as a great way to wind down.

Our side dishes for the evening were MASHED POTATOES, and all entrees are served with a fresh vegetable of the day. The Mashed Potatoes were my favorite kind – red mashed potatoes with the skins. I love the texture combination of a creamy mashed potato and the skin. Delicious!

Our first dessert was CRÈME BRÛLÉE. There’s something about this classic dessert that just speaks to everyone, but I have to say – this one had one of the best layers of burnt sugar I’ve ever had on a crème brûlée. You know how sometimes, the sugar is so thin? This was thick and robust, and since that burnt part is my favorite part of the dessert, it was extra delicious! Plus, a generous helping of fresh strawberries added to the sweetness!

We also sampled the COCONUT CAKE. Y’all, I just love a good coconut cake. It was topped with freshly made whipped cream and served over a ribbon of strawberry sauce.

It was incredible and just as a side note – the leftovers were a wonderful (albeit not the healthiest choice) breakfast the next morning! YUM! Dinner at Salem Glen Country Club is wonderful thanks to the ambiance and evident pride in the culinary arts. It is a great place to go celebrate an anniversary or birthday, entertain friends, or just because it’s Tuesday. Make plans to visit soon, and be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Landscapers and homeowners often choose to plant the variety of English lavender along walkways, within rock gardens, and in containers to accentuate the beauty of the color purple.

As a tall, fragrant plant reaching a minimum of 24 inches in height and width, it thrives in zones five through eight where the temperatures are both hot and relatively dry. Like many herbs, harvesting lavender can occur at any point during the growing season. Cut the stem at least three inches above the ground. Beyond a sleep aid, lavender is an amazing herb to be enjoyed all year long!

AN EDIBLE FLOWER

It is rare to connect lavender to culinary dishes; however, you can wow family or an upcoming dinner party by creating a unique dessert infused with lavender.

The process requires you to pour two tablespoons of lavender for each cup of boiling water or milk. Allow the contents to steep for 30 minutes. After straining, consider using the infusion to make lavender crème brûlée, cheesecake, or scones.

HOME PHARMACY USE

As a versatile flower, lavender’s medicinal benefits are well-known.

In addition to soothing the nervous system and aiding sleep patterns, the plant has protective effects to kill bacteria, ease pain and accelerate healing, as well as treats burns, acne, and moisturize the skin. Try infusing the herb in a tea, vinegar, or alcohol.

Promoting Relaxation: In a twoinch stainless-steel tea ball infuser, mix the dried contents of mint leaves, lavender, and chamomile in equal amounts. Allow to steep in hot (not boiling) water. Add honey for taste.

Air Freshener: On the stove, simmer lavender and citrus peels in a pot of water.

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Herbal Body Care: Cut a 14-by26-inch rectangle of flannel cotton.

Sew two and a half edges together, creating tight overlapping stitches.

Turn it inside out and pour one cup of dried lavender with three to four cups of uncooked rice (it should be flexible, not full). Then stitch the opening closed. This heating pad only requires three minutes in the microwave to ease sore muscles or cold feet. (It also make a nice handmade present family and friends will value and use often.)

Additionally, sewing smaller bags containing herbs can successfully replace dryer sheets.

Tincture: Similar to the practice of canning, sterilized conditions are vital to your success. You will need a pint jar with a screw-top lid, 1 cup of fresh herbs or ¼ cup of ground dried herbs, and 1 pint of brandy or vodka with a minimum of 80 proof to prevent mildew from forming in the bottle. After filling your jar, make sure there are no bubbles. Store in a dark place and shake regularly. After one month, strain using muslin cloth or cheesecloth to filter out the stems and flowers. Press to remove all the oils. Pour liquid into a bottle of dark glass, label, and store in a cool, dark location for a maximum of five years. Add the tincture to a bath or use as a skin toner.

Various combinations of herbs remedy cold and flu symptoms (thyme, echinacea, and mint), or soothe an upset stomach (dill and peppermint.)

Every small glass bottle of lavender contains the essence of a summer past. Upon unscrewing the lid, the sweet fragrance may tickle the nose. It is much more than a pretty flower or a sleep aid. Try new possibilities, whether it is a culinary use, medicinal benefit, or unique craft. With a multitude of purposeful applications, it is practical to start growing your own and adding another glass vial to your kitchen cabinet collection.

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Grand Entrance Do you have your favorite movies that you can watch over and over? I do and a few of them are: The Proposal, Something’s Gotta Give, Under the Tuscan Sun, and Too Close for Comfort. Can you figure out why I like these movies? Well, it is the houses. With the dozens of times I have watched these movies, I see something new about the houses each time that I did not see the last time. None of them have the same look. The Proposal is more rustic with heavier furnishings and earthy colors, while Too Close for Comfort is staged in California and the kitchen is what I like best, with a group of windows across an entire wall for the view. The actress works with a contractor throughout the movie to create an add-on to her home for a larger kitchen. She also owned a bakery which made you believe she loved cooking.

I had a client come in one time and tell me she wanted her house to feel like the movie Something’s Gotta Give, so I researched it and watched it so I could feel what she was feeling. We understood, and her house turned out so lovely. It was a new house and starting from scratch to create the mood was interesting and not that hard. Again, the kitchen had a lot of action. In the movie, the kitchen was classic black and white. The living room stayed with soft blues and creams. Since it was a set in the Hamptons, there were many beach reflective items, such as artwork and accessories. But the furnishings were soft and relaxing.

Under the Tuscan Sun is indicative of the name and all of us can imagine Tuscany. The actress went on a trip to Italy and ended up buying an old house to fix up and live there.

She redid the old house and made the group that did the construction her family and once again, the kitchen showcased her cooking and sharing her home with friends and her new family.

The point in watching movies that reflect home styles is to find inspiration in what you are about to do to your home. These days, most of us have seen homes and rooms on the internet that create interest for us. Clients will send me files they have created of looks they like. All of this helps me create a home that will be classic for a long time for them.

With each of these movies, I always felt good at the end as well, and I think it was because you would get the feeling that family and friends were very important, and they are.

God Bless,

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Keeping It Real THESE BONES TALK!

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

I looked pitiful, pathetic. God’s Word in my mouth sounded absurd, completely delusional, in light of every dire prognosis in front of me.

Honestly, I felt as if my words mocked the indescribable pain wracking my being. My mind fought consuming fear like I had never faced.

Still…we declared the outrageous Word of God, non-stop, though nothing of my story was aligning with my confession of Faith… …until it DID! God not only carried me through that hellish season, He healed my bones so supernaturally that it confounds every doctor involved to this day! They all admit that they have never seen anything like it. My surgeon travels nationwide to teach this very specialized surgery, and he tells about this “star patient,” his worst case who recovered far beyond his patients with significantly less trauma. From a medical standpoint, my catastrophic injuries made no sense, but my incomprehensible miracle didn’t either.

My husband was right! My once shatteredbeyond-repair bones talk! They unashamedly testify that there is NO ONE like the Lord! And when God knitted my bones back together, He put fire in them! I am not who I was; He made me better than before! I will spend the rest of my days declaring God’s Greatness!

My mind races back to this morning two years ago (March 4). I readied to speak at a conference about “The Power of Prayer,” not knowing that in hours, my whole life would literally be pulled out from under me.

I suffered an inexplicable fall, which inflicted catastrophic injuries. No part of it made sense. Doctors said my whole left side looked as if someone had violently slammed porcelain china onto concrete, shattering it into a thousand pieces.

I lay in the hospital for seemingly endless days while experts tried to figure out who could put me back together. As they operated to retrieve the fragments, it was obvious that those bones were crushed beyond repair. The structure had been obliterated. My ability to walk normally was now obliterated, too.

There, amid that mayhem, my husband began doing the strangest thing. He began speaking to my shattered bones. In that hopeless moment, he declared God’s Word over me. It sounded absolutely ridiculous. But I repeated with him: “ALL MY BONES will say, ‘LORD, who is like You!’” (Ps. 35:10) My better half reminded me that God has a Word for every wound. He said: “If we speak God’s Powerful Word into your bones now, they will testify of Him later.” In other words, “Your bones will talk!”

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I don’t know what seeks to swallow your hope, or how long you’ve endured the weightiness of it. It likely feels absurd to speak God’s Word into that desperate place. But hear me. The more ridiculous it seems, the more powerful it is.

We must become comfortable with uncomfortable. Let’s stop worrying about how our Faith appears to others who have no power to change our situation. Your surrender will look ridiculous to the world… but your miracle will, too!

Speak to that depression, that fear and doubt, that irreconcilable relationship. When you believe God more than you believe anything else, His all-powerful WORD is kryptonite to that thing seeking to overtake you. That’s the key that unlocks the door…when you believe GOD more than you believe anything else!

Now excuse me while I go run on the treadmill!

These bones not only walk without a limp; they RUN strong! These bones talk! They testify that My God still does miracles so great! There’s nothing my God cannot do…and not just for me, but for YOU, too!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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BEFORE AFTER

AFTER

BEFORE

Use What You Have Decorating

Style is not about the latest trend; it’s about making the most of what you have. ~ Barbara Berry I have often said that by adding one new item to my home, I am inspired to clean and rearrange. It does take me more time to clean my own house than it takes most people to clean theirs because I am constantly thinking about how things can be used differently….a gift, but also a curse. The gift is that I have an avenue through Interior Redesign to use the talent God has given me to help others feel better about their homes, using their ‘stuff.’ The best part? I love my job! The curse is that my mind never shuts down; I am constantly decorating and redesigning.

By using your ‘stuff,’ an Interior Redesign can give you a whole new look.

SO HOW DOES A REDESIGN WORK?

• I consult with my client to see how the room is used, how many people need to be seated and where the husband sits to watch TV, where the wife sits, etc.

• The room is cleared of accessories, art, and furniture…leaving the largest pieces of furniture in the room.

• A focal point is established and architectural details are taken into consideration.

• The home is shopped for possible accessories and furniture.

• The furniture is placed in the room creating conversation areas and allowing plenty of space for traffic flow.

• Lamps are placed to provide adequate lighting.

• Artwork is hung.

• Green plants are placed to add color, height and texture.

• The icing on the cake….placement of accessories completes the room.

It doesn’t matter how expensive or trendy your ‘stuff’ is, or even if everything matches, by reusing and repurposing, an Interior Redesign is affordable decorating at its finest. Before you go shopping for something new or for something you love but doesn’t fit your décor, shop your home; make the most of what you have.

Redesigns by Ava is available to help you with an Interior Redesign, a remodel or update, paint or fabric consultation or if you just need a plan to help you ‘jump start’ a decorating project. Call to schedule an appointment.

A Recent Thank You Note From a Client: “Mere words do not seem adequate to say thank you for what you have done for us. Our house is a home because of your guidance.

I was paralyzed with indecision at furniture stores but with my “Ava map” it was fun instead of scary. If not for you, I’m sure my husband and I would be sitting in lawn chairs watching a TV sitting on a milk crate. Your gift of redesigning is truly a gift from God. Thank you for being generous with it.”

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2. They want a fresh, designer look but haven’t been able to create it.

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COMMUNITY JOINS TO LOWER EUTHANASIA RATE

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON, PHOTOS BY DESILU PHOTOGRAPHY Many times we can do more when we join together with those whom we share a common passion. Such is the case for Forsyth Humane Society (FHS) and Forsyth County Animal Shelter and their combined effort to care for the animals who are at the shelter. As of January 2018, FHS assumed care of the cats and dogs at the county shelter, overseeing intake, sheltering, care, fostering, and adoption. One of the goals of this undertaking is to increase the save rate for the animals at the shelter from 36% to 90% by the year 2023. Sarah Williamson, Executive Director of Forsyth Humane Society, said, “We began an informal dialogue with Forsyth County leadership about ways we could work together to increase the save rate at the shelter.

It is increasingly common in the country for the government agency that typically runs an open admission shelter to partner with a 501 (c)(3) animal welfare agency. That was where our partnership began.” And so far, FHS is making great strides in the save rate in just a year!

ADOPT, FOSTER OR TRANSPORT

In just a year, the save rate has gone from 36% to 71%, an accomplishment due to several things falling into place. “The difference-makers this past year were our foster program and our initiative to transfer or transport animals to other rescues. We host between 300-500 animals in foster homes every month. These fosters offer an animal love in a home environment and free up kennel space in the shelter for the next animal who needs the space. Fosters buy us time and space, as well as provide terrific notes on the animal’s likes and dislikes, so when that cat or dog is up for adoption, we can make the best match for them,” said Sarah. Beyond the fostering, about 300 animals each month are transferred to other rescues in the country.

“We work with about 50 breed-specific rescues up and down the east coast, humane societies, and SPCA shelters in PA, DE, MD, and DC. These rescues and shelters find the animals their forever homes, and again, we open up much-needed kennel space for the next animal in Forsyth County who needs it,” Sarah commented. Of course, adoption is the goal for all the animals at the shelter. Even with the programs in place, achieving a 90% save rate by 2023 is still an ambitious goal.

EDUCATION ON ANIMAL OVERPOPULATION IS KEY

“Closing the gap between 71% and 90% will likely happen in smaller and harder-won increments. We plan to work with our community to increase awareness around the need to trap, neuter, and return community/feral cats. We are also working hard to increase awareness about the need to spay and neuter your animals and to ensure those surgeries are affordable and accessible. Helping people who need to rehome their animals do so without bringing animals into the shelter is also an important step. We are fortunate to live in a community of engaged and generous animal lovers!

You can adopt. You can donate supplies. You can volunteer. You can foster.

You can give financially. We’re asking for all who support a save rate of 90% in Forsyth County to embrace #savefursyth on social media and in their place of business. Post a picture of your animal and include #savefursyth!

Spread the word!” Sarah stated.

One of FHS’s biggest fundraising events is coming up on Saturday, May 4th with the 4th Annual Mutt Strut 5K presented by Bob King Automotive Group. “The Mutt Strut 5K is a fun time in Lewisville, NC. This is family and dog-friendly USATF sanctioned race with proceeds benefitting Forsyth Humane Society.

“FHS is fortunate and proud to be working in coalition with more than ten other animal welfare agencies in Forsyth County to achieve a 90% save rate.

It is possible with the great community we have to make a difference in the lives of more cats and dogs than ever,” said Sarah.

For more information on Forsyth Humane Society, visit forsythhumane.org.

To register for the Mutt Strut, go to forsythhumane.org/muttstrut.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

Things to Consider Before Applying for Social Security Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP®, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

Social Security may seem like a relatively easy program to navigate, and in many ways, it is. The application process for retirement benefits is quick and straightforward, and there’s little you need to do after you’ve applied, aside from keeping your bank account and address information current.

Having said that, there’s more to Social Security strategy than you may think. The wrong moves could cost you tens of thousands of dollars in potential benefits. Below you will find the three most common mistakes you can make when comes to claiming your Social Security benefits.

YOU EARN TOO MUCH

It is easy to underestimate how much of an impact Social Security taxes can have on your retirement. An important, but often misunderstood, factor is your provisional income. Your provisional income determines whether you will be taxed on your Social Security benefits, as well as how much you owe. The IRS defines provisional income as the sum of your adjusted gross income, non-taxable interest and 50% of your Social Security benefits. If your provisional income is above certain income thresholds, you may be taxed on up to 85% of your benefits.

PICKING THE WRONG CLAIMING STRATEGY

For many retirees, Social Security is the only guaranteed, inflation-adjusted pension-like income they’ll have, and an imperfect claiming strategy can cost tens of thousands of dollars over a lifetime. Picking the best claiming strategy is difficult since you need to factor in your unique financial situation, your individual life expectancy, and you need to focus on which strategy will potentially net you the most over your lifetime.

RELYING ON THE SOCIAL SECURITY ADMINISTRATION (SSA) FOR ADVICE

By law, SSA employees are not allowed to give you advice on when to claim your benefits or how to claim them, but they are supposed to give you the advantages and disadvantages of filing strategies. They are not trained to give specific individual advice. Here is the kicker: If an SSA representative gives you bad advice, and you follow it, you cannot seek remuneration from the SSA. Determining when to start your Social Security benefits is a complex and personal decision. We encourage you to research your options before you apply for benefits. As a service to the community, Marzano Capital Group will be hosting a free Social Security Workshop with Social Security Expert Warren Coble on April 9th and 11th at our office in Clemmons. If you would like to attend, please contact our office today at 336-766-0464 or amcgilvary@marzanocapitalgroup.com.

There is no assurance that the techniques and strategies discussed are suitable for all investors or will yield positive outcomes.

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Writers Who Read Christian Inspiration

Everyone has times in their life where they have struggles. We have our good times and our bad times.

Sometimes during those moments in life, it helps to look towards inspiration and a higher power. The selections below offer advice and guidance on situations, such as marriage, disappointments, and motivation.

KEEP SHOWING UP: HOW TO STAY CRAZY IN LOVE WHEN YOUR LOVE DRIVES YOU CRAZY

by Karen Ehman

Writer Denise Heidel knew the power of this book before it was even released. As a member of the launch team for the novel, she stated, “It is going to be a lifeline for many frustrated women who are ready to give up on their vows.” Keep Showing Up gives a Christian perspective on marriage and encourages readers to look at marriage and themselves from a Biblical point of view. Ehman provides readers advice on how to let God change husbands and wives in their marriage and overcome the habits and characteristics of our loved ones that drive us crazy. In addition, she shows how the disagreements can actually bring a couple closer to each other and closer to God. “This is a great read for any woman no matter what season of marriage, and honestly, I think it’s a great book for single women, too.

I found several takeaways that will benefit me in other situations,” said Heidel. “Karen’s writing style is funny and relatable. She is totally transparent and in the process, gently applies wisdom and experience to the common frustrations that come with married life.”

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RESHAPING IT ALL: MOTIVATION FOR PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL FITNESS

by Candace Cameron Bure Author Candace Cameron Bure is mainly known for her role on Full House and popular Hallmark channel movies; however, she has become well-known for her Christian faith and healthy lifestyle. In her book, Reshaping It All, Bure helps readers change their habits and lifestyle to one that is healthier and more faith centered. Also, she provides guidance on how to make wise choices and understanding the full potential that God has given them. Readers can relate to Bure’s own struggles in life and see the struggles through a biblical perspective. Once done with the book, you will walk away feeling motivated to maintain a healthier, faith-filled lifestyle.

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IT’S NOT SUPPOSED TO BE THIS WAY: FINDING UNEXPECTED STRENGTH WHEN DISAPPOINTMENTS LEAVE YOU SHATTERED

by Lysa TerKeurst

Most people have moments where they wonder about God’s timing and the situations that are occurring in their lives. In her book, TerKeurst looks at the question, “What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable, His lack of intervention hurtful, and His promises doubtful?” During our lives, there are times we are caught off guard, and there are times that leave us lost and disillusioned. Throughout her disappointments, TerKeurst has learned that disappointments can actually be “divine appointments our souls need to encounter God.” Readers gain insight and lessons into how our faith can help us through these tough times. In addition, readers are given advice on three strategies to conquer our enemies, as well as learn how to not panic when we are given more than we think we can handle. It’s Not Supposed to be This Way was also suggested by Denise Heidel. “This was my first book of 2019 and it was a game-changer. When it comes to disappointments, Lysa TerKeurst is a survivor.

She has experienced the highs and lows of life; she uses her experiences and heartbreak to show others how to lean on God no matter how painful our circumstances,” Heidel stated.

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A CENTURY FOCUSED ON CUSTOMER SERVICE!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY

The small gathering of savvy local businessmen who opened Piedmont Federal Savings Bank in 1903 would be enormously proud of the 2019 version of their company, and its ever-enduring commitment to serving the local market with the same passion those original founders so richly embraced over one hundred years ago.

A steadfast initial mission to “help individuals and families achieve the dream of home ownership and build financial assets” still rings true, and although Piedmont Federal has expanded across the Triad through the years, it has remained a trusted source for local families and business owners – whom bank employees are proud to know, and call, by name!

From home loans at every life stage, to savings plans for college and retirement to integrated account services for small businesses, the Piedmont commitment is the same.

As the oldest financial institution founded in Winston – and still in existence – Piedmont Federal’s team knows customer service will always be the heart and soul of its continued success, and that commitment to customers is absolutely front and center in the roles of every team member.

Chief Marketing Officer Ginger Salt calls impeccable customer service the “chief” attribute of the business, and the first line in every job description, whether employees are directly serving customers, or supporting the efforts of other employees.

“As a senior management team, customer service is our top priority – both internally and externally – and it guides both our decisions and our strategy,” she explains.

To better understand Piedmont Federal’s commitment to customer service – and just what makes their strategies successful – take a look at their “Top Ten” ways to focus on each and every customer – and why this established savings bank is a perfect match for you and your family.

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Top 10 Ways Piedmont Federal Focuses on Customer Service 1. Excellent customer service is their #1 responsibility as described in every job description, from the company’s CEO to each member of their support staff.

2. Exploring “What Does Extraordinary Customer Service Mean?” is part of every new hire’s detailed orientation – and is delivered by Piedmont Federal President, Mike Hauser.

Skills such as active listening, responsiveness, and intelligent problem solving are taught from day one.

3. Customer service is an important element in every employee’s performance review. An entire set of values in the review, under the heading “Mindset of Customer Service,” speaks to direct and honest communication, a strong sense of duty, and timely response to problem resolution. Superior customer service is simply expected of all employees – and to both internal and external customers.

4. Customer-centric technology is a top priority, and Piedmont Federal invests in technology that helps their customers. From CardValet®, which allows customers to control their debit card usage (turn it on/off and set limits), to depositing checks through their mobile phone, and person-to-person transfer capabilities, Piedmont is focused on increased day-to-day convenience, more options, and greater efficiency.

5. Piedmont Federal also has a Customer Bill of Rights, which outlines their accountability to customers in detail.

6. The bank’s loan officers are engaged in the loan process from start to finish, side-by-side with customers from origination through loan closing, and beyond. Loans are closed at the Piedmont branch where the customer began the loan – which adds a level of security and satisfaction for each client.

7. The team communicates with its customers regularly to ensure they are happy with their accounts, their banking needs are being met, and they have all the necessary information to make the best financial decisions to match their goals.

8. Relevant products and services are provided for consumers. Through conversations with customers, small business owners and operators, focus groups, and other local consumer research, Piedmont has gained an understanding of what folks need and value so products and services are tailored according to those needs.

9. Piedmont Federal is proud to offer a straight-forward approach – you won’t find rows and rows of fine print or a “bait and switch” mentality here – just honest efforts to ensure customers understand exactly what they are getting.

10. As a customer of Piedmont Federal, you’ll soon discover you are so much more than a number. They offer direct access to local resources.

Translation: you won’t be transferred to multiple departments and your issue will be handled by a real live person! Even in non-customer facing roles, management members incorporate the tenants of superior customer service in everyday interactions. Those positive results keep Piedmont Federal relevant, compliant, and high-performing – a culmination of carrying out the company’s mission, vision, and values!

Piedmont Federal Savings Bank’s home office is located at 201 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, 336-770-1000.

Learn more about their services at piedmontfederal.bank.

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Whether a branch needs promotional items and branded materials for an event, or customer insights in the market, Chief Marketing Officer Ginger Salt and her team are there to help.

Internally, they may create presentations, produce flyers, conduct focus groups or develop a branch optimization plan. Their other customers include the organizations Piedmont supports in our communities. Contributing financially, through volunteer efforts, or a combination of both, they are committed to helping our neighbors. You’ll find the Piedmont team teaching financial literacy classes, walking in charity events, and sponsoring art competitions in local schools.

For Chief Risk and Compliance Officer, Sandra Gaskell, customer service translates into making sure that Piedmont Federal adheres to regulations to protect customers and the bank. By ensuring compliance and managing risk, Piedmont maintains its reputation and perpetuates trust in the community. Sandra is also committed to finding ways of unburdening customers with the complexities of bank regulation, while still achieving compliance. She also oversees vendor management (selecting reputable vendors to assist with product/ service delivery), monitoring customer privacy, and business continuity (ensuring the bank can function and serve customers during an emergency.)

Chief Human Resources Officer, Filomena Wampler, and her team work to provide superior customer service to Piedmont Federal’s employee base.

Human Resources is responsible for hiring employees with proven customer service abilities, and building quality teams within the bank. They have maintained a culture of fairness and respect among staff, with an opendoor policy that provides guidance and advice to employees, while realizing the importance of exceptional benefits and a positive work environment.

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Names, Titles of Ladies on the Cover (L to R) • Sandra Gaskell-Chief Risk and Compliance Officer • Ginger Salt-Chief Marketing Officer • Filomena Wampler- Chief Human Resources Officer Other members of the Management Team: • Ric Wagner-Chairman of the Board and Chief Executive Officer • Mike Hauser-President and Chief Operating Officer • Mike Shelton-Chief Financial Officer • Neal Parnell-SVP, Products

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GNot IVING FEEDBACK: the Cringe-Worthy Kind

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Giving feedback can be terrifying. While it’s a necessary skill to be a good leader, people tend to freeze when they have to give feedback – and forget to make the feedback useful. Even when the feedback is useful, people taking it on the other end might get upset, defensive and even argumentative if the feedback is delivered in a way that’s…less than ideal. Even if it’s delivered in the best-and-most-research-forward way possible, who knows how the person on the other end will receive that feedback?

While we can’t control the way anyone responds to our communication style, we can control our own manner of communicating. By preparing yourself to give feedback, you can deal with what comes up in the moment with (a bit more) ease. Here are three filters to apply to your feedback to set it – and the person receiving it – up for success in both work and personal situations:

BE SPECIFIC

When you’re giving feedback, you need to make sure it’s clear, concise, and to the point. Saying something is ‘wrong’ isn’t helpful if you want the person receiving the feedback to make a change. A good way to look at the specificity of feedback: first, say it out loud and see if it makes sense. Then, ask it some questions. For example: You need to do better with your work.

Yes, it makes sense – first test passed! Second test. What does ‘do better’ mean? Is ‘your work’ specific? Will the person getting the feedback understand what they need to do better with? Is it all of their work, or just some of it? The more specific YOU are, the better they can target what you want them to target.

BE TIMELY

Are you giving feedback on something that just happened or something that happened months ago? If it’s something that happened a while ago and you’re only now getting around to giving feedback, chances are the other person won’t remember what the issue was, or they’ll think you’ve been harboring resentment about this ‘thing’ that you’re giving feedback on.

On top of that, a 2011 study published in Frontiers in Human

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Neuroscience shows people given immediate feedback perform better than those who receive delayed feedback.

Timing matters.

If too much time has passed and it hasn’t happened again, no matter what that ‘it’ is, move along. If you can’t, think about why you’re still thinking about it: does it affect you? Does it matter?

If it’s something that happens often, giving the feedback in close proximity to the occurrence will generally have the best result.

When you’re considering timeliness, also look at the larger picture. Are you giving the feedback on a day when you know that person is struggling? Or a day when you know you don’t have the most patience? There might not be a perfect time to give feedback – just aim for a better time than one where everyone is feeling less than great.

IF YOU HAVE A SANDWICH, REMOVE “BUT”

Quite a few people use a sandwich technique to give feedback – they stick a compliment on the other side of criticism, hoping to soften the blow. This is actually a pretty great strategy IF you remove one little word: but.

The word ‘but’ elevates one thing over another – for example, if you were to say, ‘Tina I think you’re doing a great job with your reports, but you need to put more effort into the customer’ you’ve elevated the criticism over the compliment, essentially negating what you did to ease someone into getting a critique.

When using this sandwich method, you can accomplish the original goal by substituting AND for BUT – you’re then equalizing the two statements, making the compliment as important and valuable as the feedback. Saying ‘Tina I think you’re doing a great job with reports and you need to put more effort into the customer’ makes both parts of the sentence balanced.

We generally view feedback as something at work – these tips can be used to give personal feedback to friends and loved ones just as much as they can be used in the office. Good luck and remember: watch that “but.”

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BUILD YOUR OWN FAN CLUB Seven Key Behaviors to Develop Successful Personal Attributes

BY ADELE CASANOVA

You may ask yourself, “Do I need my own fan club?” The answer is yes!

Everyone thrives with a base of friends and acquaintances who admire and respect them. Your fan club is the network of family and friends in your life who support you through positive feedback. The more genuinely you serve them as a respected, trusted friend, the more they can support you in return.

As we each work to develop our own unique self-identity, we base it partially on the ways others acknowledge us. We want to be accepted and taken seriously. To do that we need to develop attributes like honesty, respectability, integrity, and sincerity.

To develop these attributes here are seven key behaviors to practice in your daily interactions with others:

RECOGNIZE OTHERS EQUALLY

Make the assumption that everyone has something of value to offer and show that you are willing to listen and acknowledge individuals equally. This is particularly important in group settings where unequal respect and attention to others will be obvious. Striving to make a person look and feel accepted in front of others by acknowledging his or her importance is a key practice in developing respect of others.

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LISTEN EFFECTIVELY

DELIVER ON PROMISES

Listen carefully when others are speaking.

Lend your full attention. Focus on them, using direct eye contact, with an open mind ready to absorb what they are telling you. Don’t catch yourself only thinking of your response instead of carefully evaluating what you are hearing.

Practice a brief pause before responding.

Consider the other person’s statement fully.

Your responses will be more thoughtful, and you will experience fewer regrets over possible misinterpretations or thoughtless remarks.

It is easy to make promises off the cuff during a conversation, but be aware that even what you may think is an insignificant promise, can be something meaningful to the other person.

Repeated breaking of your word on small, or big, promises creates a lack of credibility that can be hard to rebuild.

ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY

Choose carefully with whom you share your personal woes, and judge wisely how much you reveal about your personal life. We all need a special friend we can confide in when life seems difficult, but broadcasting family or financial problems to everyone you know can be an unpleasant burden.

No whining, making excuses or shifting blame to others. If you make a mistake, admit it right away and express sincere regret. The longer you wait to acknowledge an error on your part, the more difficult it will be to eventually do so.

People are generally more willing to forgive when a mistake is admitted to honestly, with regret, than if something is covered up or if blame is shifted. You will feel relieved and everyone will be positioned to move past it.

AVOID GOSSIP

Nothing can discredit you quicker in the eyes of others than gossiping about your friends or family. The number one rule to remember if you are tempted to engage in gossip is, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Of course, you would not want to be the subject of gossip! Be wary also, of those who gossip, or speak critically of others, as they very well may not prove to be reliable people with whom to associate.

PROTECT YOUR OWN PRIVACY

BE AVAILABLE TO OTHERS

When your friends or family face a true crisis or illness and they reach out to you in need, be available. This is when it really counts in establishing genuine empathy and caring for others.

By practicing these behaviors, you will become known as a person of sincerity.

These behaviors will encourage you to live with integrity, staying true to yourself. You will become to your friends and family someone to admire, trust and respect. You will build your own fan club!

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NATIONAL ALCOHOL SCREENING DAY

BY JAMIE LOBER Sponsored by Screening for Mental Health, National Alcohol Screening Day is held annually on the Thursday of the first full week of April. This initiative of the National Institutes of Health has been educating, heightening awareness and referring people to treatment for alcohol dependency and abuse issues since 1999. Many people have turned to alcohol over the years as a result of environment, genetics or both. Sometimes stressful events or bereavement can lead someone to pick up a drink, which can quickly turn into a dependence. You can take an anonymous and confidential screening test in person or in the comfort of your home by going to howdoyouscore.org.

Alcohol dependency can range from mild to severe. For many it can spiral out of control and they may or may not even realize there is a problem. If you can relate to any of the symptoms below, or can identify them in friends or family, take advantage of the screening test available to you.

• Irritability or mood swings • Making excuses for drinking, such as needing alcohol to relax or handle stress • Isolating from family or friends • Drinking alone or keeping your habit a secret • Feeling hungover when not drinking • Changes such as friends or appearance • Short-term memory loss or blackouts • Choosing drinking over other responsibilities The Foundation for a Drug-Free World defined alcoholism by the presence of 4 symptoms: • Craving • Loss of control • Physical dependence such as having withdrawal symptoms when not drinking • Tolerance or the need to drink more in order to get high The screening test will ask questions such as how often you have a drink containing alcohol, how often you have 6 or more drinks and how often you have not been able to stop drinking once you started. It covers whether you have been unable to complete expected tasks as a result of your drinking, if you have ever felt guilt or remorse from drinking, injured someone as a result, or have forgotten things as a consequence. If friends or loved ones have expressed concern about you, it is also a good idea to take a screening test to see where you stand.

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Try to avoid being in denial if you have a drinking problem. It can be easy to rationalize your behaviors by becoming defensive and blaming a person or situation for your need to consume alcohol. The reality is that you put yourself at risk for both short-term and long-term health consequences such as: • Slurred speech • Shifts in mood • Visual impairment • Temporary coordination problems and memory loss • Damage to regions in the brain that can affect the body’s communication pathways • Increased triglyceride levels, putting you at risk for heart disease and diabetes • High blood pressure • Liver cirrhosis • Pancreatitis • Nerve damage Of course you also put yourself at risk for a DUI. Once you have taken the screening test, it is a good idea to sit down and have a serious discussion with your doctor. Treatment is very individualized and can range from attending Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for support and suggestions all the way to a medical-supervised detox.

Withdrawing from alcohol can be difficult and dangerous without the help of a healthcare provider so you do not want to take that journey on alone. Once you complete detox you may enter a rehab program that can be inpatient or outpatient, depending on your needs. Meetings such as 12-step can help ensure that you sustain your recovery. While it may not be a pleasant topic to talk about, it is important that you take advantage of April 11 being National Alcohol Screening Day and use it as a building block for a healthier and safer future.

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BY VONDA HENDERSON

Meet Lauren Sephton. Lauren was born in Phoenix, Arizona, but moved to Winston-Salem with her family as a young child. She graduated from West Forsyth High School and is currently a junior in Liberty University’s online degree program focusing on digital marketing/advertising with an emphasis in the food industry. When she’s not in the kitchen developing or testing new recipes or innovative variations to traditional Southern dishes, she helps her parents with their business endeavors.

Lauren shared that she spent the majority of 2018 developing recipes, testing, and selecting which ones to include in her first cookbook, Farmers Market to Family Gatherings. She had a willing group of taste-testers in her family and friends. She trimmed the total number of recipes from 100 to the 50 featured in her cookbook, which is now available for purchase. Lauren also took the photos of her completed recipes and they look delicious. In addition, all the produce photos are from local NC farmers markets, plus one of her brother fly-fishing at a local lake.

The cookbook is designed in meal sections – breakfast, lunch & dinner, and dessert. Some of the recipes included for breakfast are Lavender Cinnamon Apple Twists or Herb, Spinach, & Kale Quiche; for lunch/dinner, Sweet Potato & Quinoa Autumn Salad or Rosemary & White Bean Chicken Pot Pie; and for dessert, Mixed Berry Oatmeal Cobbler or Raspberry Yogurt Cheesecake, and for a beverage, Lavender Hibiscus Lemonade. Makes you hungry, right?

Lauren credits her mom as an inspiration and encourager for her creativity in the kitchen. Thinking outside the box to develop new tastes to traditional Southern dishes or unique recipes is something she enjoys. Lauren shared that she’s mostly self-taught, using the trial and error method on the dishes she prepares for her family. She is inspired by foods mentioned in the Bible: honey, olive oil, organic seasonal fruits and veggies. Her goal is to promote allnatural, organic foods without artificial ingredients.

“Once you have a traditional home cooked dish, you just can’t go back to fast foods,” explained Lauren. “The meaning behind my blog/business name, BrightMoment, is to encourage people to use each day to make a positive

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impact in others’ lives. Put a smile on your face, and their faces, bring people together, and create meals that are healthy and enjoyable. Forget about electronics at the dinner table and visit family and friends. Sharing a meal is a wonderful way to catch up with what’s going on in everyone’s life. I always enjoyed family dinnertime and remember that even though my parents worked full time, they made time for family dinners. That made a lasting impression on me and I want to share it with others.”

Lauren learned about cooking from observation, watching her grandmother and mom prepare dishes. “I would repeat the recipes and Mom would help me with them when I was younger,” Lauren shared. “I would try to put a different spin on dishes with different ingredients.

Conscious of health, I began creating menus with wholesome ingredients. When asked for the recipe, my usual response was ‘I just added a little of this and that.’

Eventually, I was encouraged to start writing recipes. In this cookbook, I hope to take readers on a journey through our local farmers markets by incorporating organic fruits, vegetables, fresh herbs, spring greens, and local farmraised meats to promote a healthy lifestyle.” Lauren does not use butter in any of her recipes; she uses 100% extra virgin olive oil instead.

You can purchase her cookbook, Farmers Market to Family Gatherings, online from her website (abrightmoment.com) in either e-version or softcover versions. Lauren hopes to have the cookbook available in local shops in the near future; check her website for coming news about places to find the cookbook.

Grab an apron, get out the measuring cups, and open Farmers Market to Family Gatherings to prepare a great meal for yourself and your family!

Follow Lauren on social media. Visit her blog (ABrightMoment), Facebook or Instagram (@ BrightMomentCo), or her website (abrightmoment.com).

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Welcome to The VISTA

BY KIM SMITH

The empty lot next to Forsyth Plastic Surgery on Maplewood Avenue is no longer empty. Construction equipment, concrete and reinforced steel now occupy the site, and by September it will all come together in the form of The VISTA by Forsyth Plastic Surgery.

“This is a very exciting project for us,” says Dr. John Fagg, partner at Forsyth Plastic Surgery. “It represents a major investment not only in our practice, but in the entire Triad community. We are building something truly unique for this community, and look forward to sharing The VISTA with our current patients and many new patients in the future.”

So what is The VISTA? “The VISTA is a center dedicated exclusively to the non-invasive aspect of plastic surgery,” explains Dr. Andy Schneider, another partner in the practice. “This part of plastic surgery has really boomed in the past decade, and we now have patients who might not be ready for surgery, but want everything else. So they come in for Botox, a chemical peel, a laser procedure or something like CoolSculpting. None of these require any significant recovery and patients can go right back to work.”

The VISTA will be a high end, relaxing space where patients will have access to all of the non-invasive procedures offered at the practice.

“We wanted to create something very special for our clientele who appreciate that their care will always be under the direct supervision of board-certified plastic surgeons.” Notes Dr. Gil Kingman from FPS. “That is why in the logo it says The VISTA by Forsyth Plastic Surgery. We will be supervising the staff closely, just as we do now.

Our patients appreciate that we closely monitor everything and only seek out the most tried and tested procedures.”

While The VISTA may seem like a new spa in town, it is much more and much different.

“Our goal was not to make just another med-spa,” says Dr. George Lawson, one of the five board-certified surgeons at the practice.

“But rather to have a full aesthetic center that only offers proven procedures under our supervision. There is nothing quite like this in the area, and we look forward to serving our patients in this incredible new space for many years.”

So what will The VISTA by Forsyth Plastic Surgery offer?

“We will have CoolSculpting, the world’s number one fat-melting non-invasive technology, along with our lasers,” explains Dr. Leslie Branch of the practice. “Our lasers remove tattoos, get rid of unwanted hair, destroy unsightly veins, and smooth the skin. We will also have MiraDry in The VISTA, which permanently reduces underarm sweating. Of course, there is also Botox and the many fillers we have for adding lost volume to the skin.”

In addition, The Vista will offer professional skin care and chemical peels by the head aesthetician at FPS, Gina Racca. Under her supervision, it will also offer skin rejuvenation with micro-needling and procedures utilizing Platelet Rich Plasma, or PRP. “We will also have our professional, medical grade skin care products,” says Gina, who also notes that it will offer Latisse for eyelash growth and thickening. “We are constantly evaluating new products and technology, so I expect that we will always be introducing new and exciting things at The VISTA.” Although the VISTA by Forsyth Plastic Surgery will not open until the fall, you can follow its progress at forsythplasticsurgery.com.

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The Health Benefits

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BY DENISE HEIDEL

“The cat could very well be man’s best friend but would never stoop to admitting it.” ~Doug Larson Cat people know the following is true even if they never read further than this sentence.

Having a cat (or cats) is good for your health.

And it’s not just a matter of opinion. Science is now backing this truth up as a fact. And universally, all those who have been termed “crazy cat lady” are vindicated. Consider the following: • The sound of a cat’s purr is calming and lowers blood pressure.

Holding a cat close enough to feel his purr is relaxing. And because a cat’s purr is indicative of their contentment, it helps people feel calm and content.

• Scientists say that petting a cat releases oxytocin, which is the hormone that reduces stress. When stress is lowered, people can experience a lower blood pressure. In fact, the Journal of Vascular and Interventional Neurology published a report that stated that cat owners had a decreased risk of dying from a heart attack or stroke.

• In addition to relaxing, the companionship of cats cannot be underrated. Because loneliness is tied to various health issues, a cat’s company can help alleviate those feelings of isolation.

• For children who were exposed to cats in their first year of life, they are less likely to develop allergies later. Which is great considering that so many blame cats for allergies. Scientists have determined that a cat’s presence may help the immune system develop in a healthy, normal manner rather than overreacting later to other stimuli.

• Cats help you sleep better. For those who snuggle with their kitties, 41% of those who were evaluated by the Mayo Clinic Center for Sleep Medicine reported better rest.

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• Cats help their owners get through difficult times of loss and grief.

Those who are in mourning report better coping skills when they can spend time with their cat.

• Studies have also shown that people who have cats are more likely to have college degrees and higher levels of education. The assumption behind these findings is because cats are generally self-sufficient and require less attention, their owners have more time for academic pursuits.

• Cats are better for your finances than dogs.

The care of cats is less than their canine counterparts, making them a more affordable pet for those on a budget.

• Fellas – a cat can improve your dating life. Research has determined that an overwhelming majority of women – 90% – perceived men who had a cat (or cats) as being nicer than those without.

• If having a cat isn’t an option, even watching videos of cats playing can have a positive impact on health.

Cats are wonderful pets that give their owners great joy. It’s nice to know that they also improve our quality of life in addition to all the marvelous ways they keep us entertained.

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Memorable Kentucky Derby Winners

BY VONDA HENDERSON

The first Saturday in May. A special day. Why? The Kentucky Derby runs the first Saturday in May and has since 1875. The Derby is the longest running sports event in America. The athletes who run the Derby are magnificent as a whole, making those who stand out in this field of champions unique in their own right. Those who make their run for the roses have only one shot at the prize. Who are some of these standouts? You likely already know their names.

SECRETARIAT

Winner of the Kentucky Derby and the Triple Crown in 1973, Secretariat is a legend. He was the first Triple Crown winner after a 25-year gap, winning the Belmont Stakes by 31 lengths. His owner, Penny Chenery, also broke tradition; she was the first woman to join The Jockey Club. Secretariat, known to many as Big Red, was known to pose for pictures. When he won the Derby, his speed around the track increased with every quarter mile unlike more horses, who start fast and then slow as they traverse the track. The movie based on his career is unique in that even though the outcome of each race is well documented, viewers still find themselves on the edge of their seats cheering him on. The credits show photos of the actual people in his life and Penny had a small cameo spot in the crowd reaction when he won the Triple Crown. Secretariat set the standard high for all the racehorses that followed him.

SEATTLE SLEW

Seattle Slew won the Derby in 1977. His name was derived from terms and tools used in the logging industry. The 10th horse to win the Triple Crown, he had an undefeated record at 9-0. Seattle Slew overcame several obstacles on Derby day – he walked past the band just as they began playing at full volume which startled him

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and the crowds were intense to the point that he kicked the walls of his stall. However, he regained his composure to win. He and Affirmed (both Triple Crown winners) raced later in their careers, Seattle Slew won . . . again.

CALIFORNIA CHROME

Known as ‘the people’s horse,’ California Chrome won the Kentucky Derby in 2014. He was named American Horse of the Year in 2014 and 2016. His winnings are over $13 million and given the low cost for his breeding, the return on investment is amazing. His original name was Junior until his owners put names in the hat and had a waitress select one. At the Derby, one of his saddlecloths was misspelled as ‘Califorina Chrome’ – his owners saw that as a good luck symbol and requested the same spelling at the Preakness and the Belmont.

AMERICAN PHAROAH

The Triple Crown winner in 2015, American Pharoah is a 5th generation of Secretariat. He won his Triple Crown after a 37-year drought. To keep him calm, he usually raced wearing earplugs, so he might not have heard all the cheering as he crossed the victory line. His short tail was caused by another horse, who bit off a chunk of it. No matter, he became a winner and since his name was misspelled when submitted, we may all forget the correct spelling for “pharaoh.”

Who will win the Kentucky Derby for 2019? Who knows, but it will be a spectacle worth watching – from the hats, to the mint juleps, to the bright silks, and those amazing thoroughbreds! There’s nothing else like the Run for the Roses – the Kentucky Derby!

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BY KATIE MARSH

When spreadsheets make you happy… When pivot tables make you excited… When writing social media marketing plans keep your creative juices flowing… When setting up databases, making forms, designing PowerPoints, and creating processes make you giddy with delight – then it’s safe to say it. You’re a nerd. And for Denise Heidel, self-proclaimed nerd, all that (and more) is true.

When that self-realization is combined with an entrepreneurial spirit and a genuine love for small business – you have The Office Nerd.

“I have wanted to do this for a very long time,” said Denise.

“After much prayer and discussion with my husband and my mom, I decided it was time. I have a great love for small businesses and the local, shop small movement. Our community is amazing, and I love the entrepreneurial drive that resonates so deeply in Forsyth County. If my skills can help another business be successful, then I’m successful, too!”

Denise brings over 25 years of experience to the table.

Her menu of services includes: • Social media management • Database work • Writing, including web copy and blogging • PowerPoint presentation design • Process development • Project management “I have been working with social media pages since 2008 when I started two Facebook pages on Hollywood History’s Golden Era,” said Denise. “Those pages were a hobby, and while I enjoyed them, I eventually shut them down because moderating discussions from 7,000+ people became too time-consuming. But they gave me the experience I needed to understand how to build a successful Facebook page and Instagram page.” Denise has put those skills to work for various businesses in the community, as well as promoting her own daily blog, My Grace-Full Life.

Beyond social media, Denise loves a good spreadsheet. “Be still my beating heart,” exclaimed Denise. “I love to create databases in Excel or Google Sheets. There are so many creative ways to use Excel. I think most people underestimate how much fun it can be!

“And PowerPoint,” she continued, “Nothing canned will ever leave my computer. I am a bit obsessive about making PowerPoint presentations look a certain way. I custom-design every one I create, and love doing it.”

Denise is also a skilled listener who can hear the description of a project, and then run with it. “My mental wheels immediately start going,” said Denise. “I’m all about ‘work smarter, not harder,’ and so I will look at a project from several angles to determine the best solution for a project. And as most anyone would agree, there’s always room for improvement. Things evolve, and technologies change. Sometimes what worked great may work even better with a minor tweak. I’m always on the lookout for the best solution to a problem.”

The Office Nerd Virtual Assistant is based in Clemmons, NC. Visit TheOfficeNerdNC.com to get all the details. Denise can be reached via email (Denise@TheOfficeNerdNC.com) or phone (336.413.7610).

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Denise Heidel Reviews for The Office Nerd Virtual Assistant: “Denise is very creative, detail-oriented, quick to offer helpful suggestions and has a great attitude! She has completed several PowerPoint presentations for me, and I’ll never use anyone else.

Her work is over-the-top fabulous!” ~Jackie Ireland “I have worked with Denise on many projects. She is extremely efficient, detail oriented and knowledgeable. I would highly recommend Denise to anyone looking to grow their business.” ~Ginny Chase “I have recently hired Denise to help me with marketing tools, admin help, social media, etc. She is incredible! It is so invaluable to have someone who works similar to my style, and she and I just ‘click.’ [I] could not be more pleased!!” ~Chrystal Yates, Chrystal Yates Residential Real Estate “Denise joined our writing team in 2008 and little did we know when we brought her on the team how big a role she would end up playing.

Denise is the most organized person I’ve ever known in my life. She is a motivated self-starter who just gets the job done. She has streamlined our editorial processes, set up systems and databases that are vital tools to our organization, and she’s planned a number of hugely successful events for us. Denise is also a senior writer for our team, and we frequently call on her to handle cover stories and work with a number of our advertising partners.” ~Keela Johnson, publisher of Forsyth Woman

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Providing Opportunity for all Forsyth County’s Children to Succeed

BY FAMILY SERVICES

All children in Forsyth County deserve the opportunity to succeed in school and in life.

High-quality Pre-K programs help children enter kindergarten ready to achieve socially, emotionally, and academically. Extensive scientific research and economic analysis over the past forty years have shown high-quality Pre-K programs to be wise investments that close educational achievement gaps and improve health and well-being far into adulthood.

The first five years of life are critical for the construction of the physical architecture of the developing brain. Because brains are built in stages, with more complex structures built on simpler structures, it’s crucial to get the early years right. Think of building a house: before framing the walls, a foundation has to be poured.

Before wiring the house, walls and floors need to be built. Our brains are also built in sequence, and early childhood is about laying a solid foundation to serve as a base for later development. But children can’t build strong brains by themselves—they need positive, nurturing relationships with trusted caregivers to support their development. High-quality Pre-K programs provide an enriching environment that stimulates brain development, promotes learning, and fosters the social-emotional stability that is a prerequisite for success in school and later life.

Dr. Kenneth A. Dodge knows this better than most. He is the Pritzker Professor of Public Policy and Psychology and Neuroscience at Duke University, and the founding and Emeritus Director of the Duke Center for Child and Family Policy.

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When Family Services asked him to be the keynote speaker for this year’s “Raising Every Child” benefit event on May 22nd and 23rd, he didn’t hesitate. As this year’s speaker, Dr. Dodge will talk about his groundbreaking research involving more than 1 million North Carolina children born between 1988 and 2000. The study was featured on dozens of local, regional and nationwide news outlets, including NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, that the benefits of quality pre-kindergarten do indeed last a lifetime. There is no “fadeout.” In fact, results show less grade retention, fewer special education placements and gains in reading and math that are measurable at least through the end of 8th grade.

We hope you will join us as we learn from this nationally respected researcher who has concluded that that the more North Carolina invests in quality Pre-K education, the better our children will fare. A limited number of tickets are available at RaisingEveryChild.org. In addition to hearing from Dr. Dodge, you will learn more about Forsyth County’s Pre-K Priority, PreKPriority.org—a movement led by a group of 60 early childhood development professionals who have come together during the past five years to make high-quality Pre-K programs available to all four-year-old children in Forsyth County.

Forsyth County is poised to provide affordable options that will allow all families the opportunity to enroll their four-year-old children in a high-quality Pre-K program. To offer options responsive to the needs and preferences of families, our current Pre-K system will require improvements in quality, added capacity, the alignment of program models, and the establishment of a central administrative structure to ensure uniform practices.

The time is right.

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Keeping Behind the Joneses

BY TABI FALCONE

Financial freedom is the goal of most adults, though it seems to be an elusive beast to chase. While financial freedom has many different meanings to many different people, the overall gist of it is not to have to worry about money or how to pay your bills. In a 2017 study by CareerBuilder, 80% of working American households considered themselves to be living paycheck to paycheck. While there are many systemic changes that need to be made in order to improve this number, there is one thing that households can work on within themselves to help: stop trying to keep up with the Joneses. This is in no way placing blame on hardworking families for not being able to meet their living expenses, but is more a helpful suggestion towards the struggling middle class.

Housing is usually one of the biggest expenses in a household.

The rule of thumb is to spend 30% of your net income or less on your housing costs – rent or mortgage. Before you take this advice blindly, however, consider your other monthly expenses.

If you have children in childcare, you may need to lower that percentage, as we all know childcare is often more costly than owning a home. When you go house hunting, sit down and figure out your budget before you get a preapproval letter or speak to a realtor. When you are figuring out your budget, also take maintenance into account. Will you truly use all the rooms you are buying? How much will it cost to heat and cool the house? Are you going to clean it yourself or are you planning on hiring a cleaning service, and how much will that add to your monthly budget?

These are all things to take into consideration before jumping into a large home. According to US census results, the average household size has shrunk, but the average house size had grown from 1,660 square feet in 1973 to 2,467 square feet in 2015. The necessary space per person hasn’t changed, but our perception of how much space we truly need has changed. While tiny home living is very much not for every person, we can all benefit from a little modesty and simplicity within our housing.

Similar to housing, American cars have gotten bigger and bigger over the years, although the average household size has shrunk.

School drop off lines are filled with 3 row SUVs carrying one or maybe two kids. Walking hand in hand with the increased size of cars are all the upgrades. You can now get cars that will park for you, while playing a movie and heating your butt. While this technology is certainly very innovative and “cool” for lack of a better word, is it necessary? In addition to that, is it necessary to buy a brand new car? It is a well-known fact that new cars depreciate as soon as they are driven off the lot, so why put that extra money to waste when you can get a used car that is often just as good or better for thousands less? In the same manner as preparing to purchase a house, a car budget should be figured out prior to applying for a loan or showing up at the car dealership.

How many of us have been influenced into making a large (or even small) purchase based upon the spending decisions of our friends and families? The thinking being that it makes relative sense: if we gauge ourselves to be in the same economic class, and they can afford a new SUV, then obviously we should be able to afford a new SUV, right? The comparison game never goes well in this instance. We can never know exactly what other people’s finances look like, and is it really more important than your emotional wellbeing to show off these status symbols? Financial stress can take a huge toll on our mental and physical health. We should never sacrifice our health in order to feel like we are keeping up with our peers. Our own happiness should lie within how we feel about ourselves, not how we are perceived by others. If you’re looking for some more financial peace of mind, living within or beneath your means can significantly reduce your stress and increase your overall happiness.

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As a woman with children who works in a corporate workplace, I find myself saying “yes” to much more than I should. A combination of liking to be busy, enjoying many different hobbies and activities, and a deep desire to prove myself in both the workplace and as an involved mother has proven to be detrimental to my well-being – and I know I’m not alone in this. There has been a large focus of late on the importance of knowing when to say no to certain things, so I decided to give it a try for the month of November this past year. My rules were to keep any previous engagements I had already agreed to but to say no to any additional projects outside of work.

Working a full-time corporate job, on top of writing part-time, selling my artwork on the side, and raising two elementary school-aged small humans, my life is already busy to begin with.

November is the beginning of the big holiday season which can often add layer upon layer of added responsibilities and expectations onto our lives, and I was no exception. Within a four week span I was asked to and ultimately said no to: teach an art class in Greensboro, lead a girl scout troop in an art project, as well as additional PTA volunteer opportunities. On a normal day these three things are absolutely activities I would happily sign up for, but there is a big reason I chose November as the month of NO: it is already so incredibly busy. I had a craft show previously scheduled almost every weekend, in addition to seasonal work deadlines for my day job, and prepping for the holidays which included family visiting from out of town.

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Had I said yes to the art class in Greensboro I would have lost at least four hours with my family on a Friday night (which is a sacred evening in our home – we celebrate every Friday with pizza and movies), not to mention the time it would take to plan the class and prepare the materials. When I broke down what I would make from this class, was it worth my time and most importantly was it worth the time lost with my family? While I love doing volunteer work and teaching children about the love of art, was it worth the lost time with my family when we were already so busy this month to volunteer with the girl scout troop? Was this something that could be done another month?

(Spoiler alert: I rescheduled that one for February and it was not a big deal at all, although it made me feel uncomfortable to have to counter offer another date). Our PTA has hundreds of members, surely me saying no to a volunteer opportunity does not mean that nobody else will be able to sign up. The world will not stop turning if we don’t say yes to everything.

To be completely honest with you all, I was not as successful at my month of no as I wanted to be since I had already signed up for so much before the month began, but the failures that I did have taught me about what not to do in the future. I should not have said yes to four craft shows in one month; this was a strain on myself, my business, and my family. Now I know my limits on how many weekend obligations I can reasonably sign up for without becoming spread too thin. Something I have implemented since this experiment is blocking out free weekends where nothing can be scheduled, and sticking to that plan. Another interesting effect I noticed within this experiment was how uncomfortable I was at the beginning with saying no, and how that has gotten easier the longer I have been doing it.

Not only has it been easier since the beginning of November to say no to things, I have also stopped explaining my reasoning as often. No is a complete sentence; you do not need to justify your reasons to anybody except yourself.

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SERVING SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL

BY GWEN FRISBIE-FULTON

The word around the kitchen is that Chef Vanessa is strict and no-nonsense, maybe even a bit of a taskmaster. But after each Providence Culinary Training graduation, the graduates line up to hug her and thank her warmly... every time.

“I knew nothing about cooking,” Vanessa Lanier confesses, remembering back 11 years when she was a student herself at Second Harvest Food Bank’s Providence Culinary Training. “I had cooked for my family, but I had no skill worth mentioning to anyone. Chef Bacon was the only teacher in the program then, and he was sure I was going to cut myself with a knife. But through the program, I found something that I was decent at. Something that could make me happy.”

Vanessa learned about Providence Culinary Training (PCT) when she was searching for a plane ticket home. Originally from Barcelona, she had just left a controlling marriage, one where she couldn’t drive, couldn’t write a check.

“I thought to myself what am I going to do? I don’t know anyone here. This country is so big; it is going to eat me alive.”

People in crisis—whether they are leaving an abusive relationship, living in unstable housing, coming out of prison, or struggling in poverty— have to focus on their immediate needs. So much of time and energy is put into navigating the small details—how to get the children off to school, make your bus connection, negotiate a payment with the landlord—that planning for your future seems to be forever put on hold.

Vanessa was busy trying to start over in a new country with two young daughters. “I was suffocating in isolation, but I knew something had to give. I didn’t know how to make that happen— the program at Providence gave me a blueprint for success, and I said, ‘Yes. Yes, I can do this.’”

And do it she did. After graduating from PCT, the program placed her in an internship at a country club in Greensboro. From there she successfully launched a culinary career in local country clubs, learning the ropes and eventually becoming an Executive Chef.

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However, perhaps as a manifestation of divine care and direction, she returned full circle to Providence.

Today, Chef Vanessa is the Executive Chef for both Providence Restaurant & Catering and for Providence Kitchen. Graduates of PCT can go on to work under Vanessa as part of a two-year residency program designed to fine-tune their skills and build their resumes. To date, the culinary training program has helped more than 700 individuals reach their goal of sustainable employment; in 2018, 66 more local residents earned their Chef Coats, just as Vanessa did over a decade ago.

“Being back here, I can offer the blueprint now.

I am the boss, but I am also you.”

Vanessa deeply understands the hardship and trauma that so many Providence students face. She refers to the program as not only job training, but as a place for healing. From case management to internships to connections in the culinary field, Providence is unique in the support it offers its students.

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“We are not just going to teach you how to cut a carrot. We are going to teach you how to budget, how to interview, how to access a counselor or a pastor or a community,” says Vanessa, as she helps put dishes into a bussing tray.

“People come here with real needs,” she continues. “We are telling someone to focus on their mirepoix, but they may be trying to figure out where they are going after work... how to get home or if they even have a home. At Providence, we can take some of that burden; help them plan for their future as they figure out today.” [Mirepoix is a mixture of three or more chopped vegetables, including onion, carrots and celery that forms the aromatic base for a wide variety of savory dishes.]

Since its beginning, Providence has been a place for fresh starts, where passion meets purpose and we are serving something beautiful.

“I used to wonder if there was a place for me at this table, but my story is not unlike other peoples’ stories. I found a path.” Vanessa smiles, smoothing her Chef Coat emblazoned with the Second Harvest and Providence logos.

We cannot wait to welcome you into our home for an inspirational evening of fine food, lovingly prepared by staff, graduates, and students of Providence.

“Now I can tell others: All of this belongs to you.

That is the news of the day.”

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• Discuss with your child how they plan on reaching those goals.

Talk about the costs of the things they want. Start small. List the steps. Ask questions: “What are some fun ways you can earn money towards your goal?” or “How long do you think it will take to earn $5?”

themselves through pictures. This lets future savers creatively share their own thoughts and visions around the many aspects of money.

Parents then become better prepared to talk with their children about money and the power of saving. By staying true to the credit union philosophy in an engaging way, we can set our young members on an early path to financial well being.

• Keep the board in a place where they will be frequently reminded of the goals they’ve set. For example, place it in their room or even on the kitchen fridge. Soon they’ll be associating the things they want with smart money management.

A collage is a great project for children who’ve been asked to think about money and what it means to them!

• Update the board! Once simple and short-term goals have been set, move on to a 2nd iteration with even bigger or more long-term goals. This ensures that their money management skills will continue to evolve over time.

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goals and are a powerful visual reminder to keep them on track.

• Gather your supplies. Collect magazines, photos, glue, stickers, scissors, markers, and poster board to start. Then direct your child to select images that involve money and spending. What is it they’d like to save for? What would they buy now if they could? Make it fun! Let your child pick out whatever images they like. Vision boards are great for getting children to think through

• Open a savings account and once your child earns money, deposit it accordingly. Add a tracker on the board to monitor progress. For a basic savings account, stop by Piedmont Advantage Credit Union or visit pacu.com. Encourage and nurture these positive behaviors.

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Overcoming Complacency

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

So, we have a tree with a fair number of branches. Each branch signifies definitive life experiences that shaped that tree and brought forth bountiful fruit. But somewhere during the growth process, we noticed that this tree’s growth has stunted and is no longer producing branches. And when this tree doesn’t produce branches, no new fruit is coming forth. The tree starts to look barren, as though it’s reached the farthest it’s going to grow and produce.

This is what complacency looks like.

Complacency is a hindrance and limit to our full potential. Many people settle for a complacent lifestyle because it’s easier to lean toward a familiar life than one that requires the cost of their comfort zone every day. We become complacent for so many reasons, but there are ways to overcome it so we can pursue life to our fullest quality.

WHAT CAUSES COMPLACENCY?

Resistance to change. If there is one thing in life that remains constant, it is change. Change is unexpected, unpredictable and intimidating, but it can also be exciting and the greatest thing for us. We cannot control how change comes about or what kind of changes they may be, but we can control how we respond to those changes. In times like these, it’s all about choices: we can resist the change and risk coasting in a static position, or we can allow that change to be our sail and redirect us into our destiny. There is a quote I encountered recently from an anonymous source, “What if everything you are going through is preparing you for what you’ve prayed for?”

Entertaining naysayers.

Ahh! Don’t we just love those folks who “claim” that we can’t fulfill a certain dream or bring a vision into fruition? A lot of times, many of our naysayers are right in social or kin circles and it cuts the deepest when they deny our capabilities. If

we don’t have enough confidence in ourselves and if we are not careful of how we respond to such negativity, we could subconsciously end up living our lives to please those who doubt us. This can lead to complacency because for us to resist walking down the road that will lead us to our ideal lives, we could ignore every obstacle or opportunity that will take us to the next tier of greatness.

We end up staying in the “expected zone” and this is not what we want.

Fear. Fear of rejection, fear of embarrassment, fear of failure, and even fear of success can keep us complacent. Fear of failure may keep us from dreaming too big and lead us to aim for more realistic, predictable feats. Fear of rejection could make us second guess that career opportunity that will possibly be our greatest milestone of development. Whatever our grandest fears are, they are likely keeping us residing in a cozy, cushy home located on Safety Avenue. It’s time to pack our things and move out.

Our pattern of thinking. Our minds can be our deepest trap sometimes. We can become so fixated on our personal routine of waking up at the same time, going in and out of work, picking up children, cleaning the house, and making dinner. People wired for structure and routine risk growing complacent because they likely want a life they can control and predict.

They’re afraid of having a life of spontaneity that controls them. Where do we cut the seemingly endless cycle of routine?

FROM COMPLACENCY TO ELEVATION

What is it you really want to do? Make your vision or goal your motivation. Understand that your passions will cost you your comfort zone so being stationary won’t actualize your visions. Put your wisdom into action. It’s good to have wisdom in our minds, but we won’t see desirable results until we operate in that wisdom. Don’t let fear jeopardize your greatness. Fears are designed to be overcome. Fear is like a bully that taunts us daily because it’s so threatened by our greatness. Break from your daily pattern and take calculated risks.

Challenge yourself to do something new every single day. This makes you more comfortable with change.

Embrace change! Because it only expands horizons and makes you more well-rounded.

Complacency happens when we feel like our visions are bigger than ourselves, but we are more than worthy of manifesting them.

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April

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

The Perfect Month To Curl Up With A Book!

What better season than spring to dive into your favorite book while celebrating your love of reading? From across the nation, all will salute the month of April with their favorite book, during “National Library Week.” The nationwide celebration begins on April 7th and runs the entire week until April 13th.

First sponsored in 1958, National Library Week is a national observance sponsored by the American Library Association (ALA) and libraries across the country. The first week of April is a time to celebrate the contributions of our nation’s libraries, as well as librarians. It also is the week chosen to promote library use and support. Libraries of all kinds—from school, academic and public—are encouraged and excited to participate.

What types of activities occur during this week-long celebration of literacy?

There are a variety of activities including: Monday, April 8: State of America’s Libraries Report released, including Top Ten Frequently Challenged Books of 2018.

Tuesday, April 9: National Library Workers Day, a day for library staff, administrators, and friends groups to recognize the valuable contributions made by all library workers. #nlwd19 Wednesday, April 10: National Bookmobile Day, a day to recognize the contributions of our nation’s bookmobiles and the dedicated professionals who make high-quality bookmobile outreach possible in their communities. #BookmobileDay2019

Thursday, April 11: Take Action for Libraries Day, a day to speak up for libraries and share your library story. #MyLibraryMyStory What are some ways for your own family to celebrate? All are welcome to join the celebration by heading over to the local library this week. Each library will have a different type of celebration. Make the trip an event for the family by allowing plenty of time to enjoy activities. Another effortless way to partake in the celebration is to encourage children to take part in their own school library celebrations. April also happens to be “School Library Month.”

“School Library Month” is the American Association of School Librarians’ celebration of school librarians and all of the wonderful programs offered to students. Every April, school librarians are encouraged to host activities to help their school, as well as local community, celebrate the vital part a school library program has in promoting learning. The 2019 “School Library Month” theme is “Everyone Belongs @ Your School Library.” The 2019 spokesperson for the month, is “Captain Underpants” creator, Dav Pilkey.

Pilkey himself knows firsthand how learning can be transformed through a local school library. The author and illustrator told the AASL (American Association of School Librarians) that, “Growing up with learning challenges in school after being diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia, I’ve been fortunate to have had the encouragement and support of my parents who helped me to associate reading with fun.”

Pilkey went on to say that, “I have fond memories of going to the library with my mom who had a radical idea—she let me pick whatever book I wanted to read. I read lots of books and magazines that made me laugh out loud, which led me to discover many other books in different genres.” This radical idea is probably what led to Pilkey’s success at creating the widely popular, graphic novel series of “Captain Underpants.”

Thanks to the hilarious plotline and eye-catching illustrations that each book provides, the series is loved by children who may not gravitate to traditional chapter books.

The beloved author ended with, “Over the years I’ve had the privilege to have met many committed librarians whose passion and dedication to literacy is life changing. I’m honored to be this year’s AASL ambassador for school libraries and an advocate for everything they do to make the world a better place.”

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How to Have a Day Based on Being Rather Than Doing

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON Most people, including myself, measure days by what we get accomplished. I keep my ‘To-Do List’ in my daytimer (yes, I am old-fashioned and like to put pen to paper when I jot down all I need to get done in a day’s time). It’s the satisfaction of checking each item off; the more check marks, the better the day went. Many times, those things we get done bring us praise either intrinsically or from outside sources. Either way, we feel good.

But then there are those days I call ‘Not So Good Days of Doing,’ when from the moment your feet hit the floor, you are already behind, possibly from being a bit over confident in squeezing 25 hours into 24. On those days, how do you handle the lack of check marks? I know if I have to write an errand or something I wanted to do on Monday on Tuesday, I tend to beat myself up. So it is safe to say that when I don’t get enough done, and many others join me in this boat, I didn’t do the day well enough, but is that a healthy and good way to measure life quality? The answer is ‘no.’

What if you and I just ignored the urge to check out the check marks on our to-do lists at the end of the day? Just set the daytimer or iPhone notes aside and reflected on how we were that day…how we felt and how others seemed to feel around us rather than what we accomplished. Would the quality of the day and of our life change?

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The best way to begin this life overhaul is with an ‘attitude of gratitude.’ When we blow through a day focused only on what we need to get done, we can miss the moments that touch our souls.

By taking a few minutes before heading off to work or taking the kids to school, to just ‘be’ you can set the tone for a calmer day. Five minutes with yourself, whether that is spent in prayer, meditation, or just watching the bird at the feeder, you focus on the world around you and the little things that make life the wonderful journey it is. After those few minutes, or longer if you have that luxury, do check-ins with yourself throughout the day just to keep your mind right.

If you find yourself falling back into checking your list constantly, stop and reign in that habit. This isn’t easy at all, but the more you realize you are falling back into the ‘doing’ focus of the day and not the ‘being’ focus of the day, the more likely you are to be able to stay and reside longer in the ‘being.’

Many therapists and psychologists suggest that we be mindful of the beauty around us. Acknowledge that you appreciate the birds, the daffodils blooming, and sunrise or sunset of the day. By taking in the beauty of the world around you, you are more likely to lower your blood pressure, breathe and calm your thoughts.

Beyond maintaining an attitude of gratitude, you can also reach out to others, offering a kind word or support not because it was on a list, but because you were inclined to do so from your heart.

Nothing makes you feel better than bringing a smile to someone else’s face. The server who waits on you at lunch may be battling many things in life, just like you, so just saying, ‘You’re doing a great job’ and leaving a dollar or two more in your tip can go a long way. And what exactly did that moment connecting with another human cost you? Five seconds and $2.00 to make another person’s day is a small investment with a huge return.

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This change from ‘doing’ to ‘being’ won’t happen overnight, so don’t be too hard on yourself.

Recognizing the problem is the first step to healing.

The good news is, from that awareness, even if we slip, there is growth from the good days of being that helps us if we go back to doing. If you need a plan to get yourself on the path of being, there are a few universal suggestions…

The first step is to be more conscious, at day’s end, about how you are living your life, regardless of the things you do or do not get done. Reflect, learn and grow from the hours you experienced.

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Next, well, you have to do something. This goes against everything written here, but you will have to do something by prioritize the living, being component of each day over the doing.

Finally, try writing a to-be list instead of that to-do list with things like: I will be mindful. I will be happy. I will be loving. I will be calm. I will be healthy.

All will lead to you being awesome in mind, body, and spirit.

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Interpreting Your

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BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

ROLL OVER AND WRITE

Most dreams are interesting, but not all can be remembered. The best way to tap into your dream recall so you can interpret dreams later on is to write them down right away; in other words, roll over and write them down as soon as you wake up.

SYMBOLIC AND METAPHORIC

Many dreams are symbolic and contain a greater metaphoric meaning. Often they reflect what goes on in our waking lives, including our successes and struggles. Some dreams can be prophetic, such as an observation or a warning that gives insight into what may actually have happened, might happen or could happen in the future.

ROLE OF THE SENSES

Dreams can play in our sleep like short videos or even feature films. They can be highly engaging for all of our senses and can feel like real experiences. Sometimes we remember every detail; other times only bits and pieces are recalled. Sometimes dream impressions are so clear that we can even remember the exact words, dialogue, monologues, raw feelings, and sensations.

LIFE REFLECTIONS FOR YOUR LIFE

TEST OR PERFORMANCE TAKING

– Another very common dream may find you struggling through a test or performing in front of an audience. This dream might tap into real-life stress, fear of failure or performance anxiety in your waking life.

FLYING AND FALLING - Flying can be exciting,

enthralling and exhilarating and might signify reaching new heights and making progress as you chart your path - or it might be quite frightening, especially if you have a fear of heights. This supernatural power could cause to you to feel almost invincible, like Super Woman!

Recording and interpreting your dreams (nightmares included!) can give clues about your deepest inner thoughts.

Dream assessment can initiate soul-searching to discover strengths and weaknesses and to better understand emotions you’re not consciously aware of. Dreams can be a window into your deepest feelings, hopes, and fears.

On the other hand, falling can represent a fear or anxiety about something in your present circumstances that isn’t going well or that you feel alone or isolated about. It might suggest that you need a new approach or that you should ask for help and support from others. While flying you may feel accomplished, but you might also recognize the risks involved which leave you vulnerable to falling.

Dreams are a well-known way to jumpstart your creativity.

They often inspire writers, musicians, and inventors. Even Einstein is said to have based his theory of relativity on insights that came to him during childhood dreams. Keeping a dream diary can foster a healthy awareness which can be good for your health, as well as generate new ideas and increase your creative thinking.

NUDITY - Another familiar dream of finding yourself unclothed or naked in your dreams may represent feeling vulnerable and insecure.

This dream might tap into feeling scared, unsure or uncomfortable about subconscious shortcomings and limitations that could prevent you from being at your best and achieving your utmost potential.

FIVE COMMON DREAM THEMES AND THEIR INTERPRETATIONS BEING CHASED - This common dream may symbolize avoiding something you need to work on or confront.

The dream could also suggest you may be trying to hide something about your life, such as a childhood trauma or failed relationship. Maybe you’re hiding from your own feelings and that’s preventing you from living life to the fullest.

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DEATH OR DYING – At one time or another, almost everyone has a dream about death or dying. This dream could reveal anxiety about the unknown or the future. It could suggest fear that something in your life might be taken away, that a hoped-for opportunity may not come to pass, or that a once-open door may now be closed.

Keeping track of your dreams and interpreting them can be a fascinating process that adds deeper awareness and insight as you learn and grow. Although mysterious, dreams may reflect core needs and desires of your heart, so enjoy the process!

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“Tidying Up with Marie Kondo”

AND WHY AMERICA IS SO OBSESSED

BY TARYN JEREZ

If you’ve turned on Netflix in the last few months, you may have borne witness to the widespread cultural phenomenon also known as “Tidying Up with Marie Kondo.”

If your familiarity isn’t due to the Netflix original series, perhaps you were one of the original fans before this undertaking to unclutter took place. Originally published in Japanese in 2014, the author and encourager of a more simplified life, Marie Kondo, was added to the New York Times bestseller list and sold over 3 million copies of her book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. One simple question is at the helm of what has been coined, The KonMari Method™ and that is “Does this spark joy?”

Each couple who appears on the home improvement style show asks this question to every item in their home. Should the answer be “yes,” the item returns to a (hopefully) more tidy space in the house, but if the answer is “no” then out it goes to either be donated or tossed out with the rubbish. Both the homeowners and the audience are guided

by Marie to reevaluate and de-clutter our spaces with only the things that bring feelings of joy.

So what is it about this cheerful, petite woman from a distant country and her housekeeping mantra that’s got Americans so transfixed? In a country that has been known to embrace excess in everything from the size of its houses and vehicles to the population’s diet, where is the connection?

WE CRAVE THE ABILITY TO RECOGNIZE JOY

Regardless of home size or level of tidiness, one of the more recurring themes in the couples’ lives on the Netflix original was that of feeling overwhelmed. There is so much on people’s plates nowadays - regardless of life stage - that you can often find yourself simply going through the motions. The question, “Does this spark joy?” is so much more than a deciding factor to keep or toss an old t-shirt.

The desire to hit the pause button and stop going through the motions to take inventory of what we fill our lives with is something

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that can benefit us in so many ways. Learning to recognize when the answer is “yes” and figuring out what joy really looks like can help to avoid and remove the aspects of your life that not only don’t bring joy, but reduce it.

WE NEED MORE GRATITUDE IN OUR LIVES

According to The KonMari Method™, “It is a state of mind – and a way of life – that encourages cherishing the things that spark joy in one’s life.

Belongings are acknowledged for their service – and thanked before being let go, should they no longer spark joy.” This method of showing gratitude is not only put into action for the items in the home but to the home itself when Marie enters the residence and begins the purging process.

As you get older, life begins to get filled up with obligations, experiences, relationships and even stuff. It’s easy to overlook the things that can mean so much to us, but due to the hustle and bustle of life, be taken for granted. Showing gratitude and acknowledging what you have to be thankful for, can be a life changer in your mindset. If you are saying goodbye to something, such as clutter or an ended relationship, having a moment of thankfulness for what it brought you can bring healing. When acknowledging the gratefulness for a career or a treasured friendship, it can bring joy in itself and allow anxiety to lessen.

WE CAN FIND REAL POWER IN LETTING GO

The honest truth is that having the power to change something feels good. While Marie Kondo seems to be spending an awful lot of time helping curate mess free homes, it’s more than that. It’s about helping families feel like they have power over their space and their lives. She does this through letting go of things that don’t capture their greatest joy and she does it very well. The reminder the show provides, that each of us has the power to “clear out” the clutter and the noise that is taking over our lives, genuinely needs to be heard. When you make the decision to remove certain things from your home or your heart, there is a sense of empowerment there that we all need.

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BY CAROLN S. PETERSON

As the days get longer and warmer, there’s no better way to enjoy time outdoors than riding a bicycle. Whether through your neighborhood or on a trail, bike riding is one of the best exercises you can choose for yourself or your family. If you are a new cyclist or a seasoned one riding since you were a child, Clemmons Bicycle is your go-to place for all things bicycle!

CYCLING ENCOURAGES A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE

Our modern-day bicycle has come a long way, as has the reason people ride.

The bicycle’s history dates back to 1817 in Germany and was initially a way of transportation in everyday life. Today, although some still commute on their bike, bicycling has become a great recreational activity. In the past 25 years, biking has become a great way to spend time with family and friends. Travis Beane, owner of Clemmons Bicycle, said, “The local cycle scene is wide open for all levels of riders. At Clemmons Bicycle, we work hard to provide a wide range of cycling products and services. We specialize in customer service. We listen, educate, and help customers find the right style of bicycle that fits their needs. We carry the largest, most diverse selection of bicycles, parts, clothing, and accessories in the Triad. We keep over 200 bicycles from 12 different manufacturers in stock at all times.” Not only can Clemmons Bicycle help you find the bicycle perfect for you, but they can get you involved in bicycling.

“Our weekly ride schedule starts in April. We host a Monday Beginner Mountain Bike Ride at Tanglewood Park, a Wednesday Road Ride, and a Saturday Morning Road Ride, both starting from our shop’s parking lot. This year I also plan to host a weekly Family Fun Ride in Clemmons. Once the weather starts getting nice, our cycling calendar fills up. There is something going on just about every day after work and especially on the weekends. We support 25-35 cycling events each year in our area,” Travis commented.

FAMILY FUN

In the 13 years since Travis has owned Clemmons Bicycle, his life has changed, and the cycles have evolved along with him. “As the dad of a two- and five year-old, everything has changed. It’s not just about bicycles and me anymore. My weekly schedule has changed from talking and riding bikes, to now taking the kids to daycare and kindergarten in the mornings and showing up for dance, soccer, and T-ball. I used to ride around 200 miles a week with the local cycling groups, but now I focus more on riding bikes with my family in the evenings and weekends. I’m carrying a larger selection of kids and family cycling products, too, from bikes to clothing and accessories,” stated Travis.

With the right equipment and a few pointers from Clemmons Bicycle, cycling on your own, with your family or in a team can be a great and rewarding experience. Once you get the right equipment, it is inexpensive and promotes a healthy and active lifestyle leading to a lifetime of enjoyment!

For more information on Clemmons Bicycle, call 336-766-5564 or visit clemmonsbicycle.com for a list of activities and products available. Hours of operation: Monday-Friday 10 am- 6 pm and Saturday 10 am - 2 pm.

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Shopaholics Anonymous

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Shopping is a fun activity. We get a buzz when we see a sale and purchase a fashionable outfit for ourselves, expanding our wardrobe and making our personal style more dynamic. We want to look and feel good right? But, of course, there’s an invisible line that many shoppers unknowingly cross and soon their financial health is affected, and their lives start to change. Shopping can easily become highly addictive—much like drinking alcohol and working overtime—many of us know that. But not everyone knows the steep impact compulsive shopping can have on a person’s mental, emotional, financial, physical health, and even relational health.

WHAT CAUSES PEOPLE TO BECOME SHOPAHOLICS? Shopaholism, as I like to call it, has a psychological basis. When someone

discerns a void in their life, they engage in certain tangible behaviors to fill that void. Depression, feelings of loneliness, and inadequacy can lead one to shop compulsively—that is, if they value material things and see that as personal validation.

Consumerism is another strong contributing factor. We live in a consumer culture

that dangles supersized “deals and steals” over our heads everywhere we look— television, radio, billboards, internet, even ads on our smartphone apps! We are bombarded with the exclamatory “You can’t miss this offer, only available for a limited time” sales pitch. It’s seemingly inescapable. Our culture glorifies endless shopping because “there will always be something to purchase.” The nature of Western society has a way of making us natives feel like we don’t have enough, or what we already have is not good enough. So, as a result, we are taught that shopping is a social norm and a “need” that must be fulfilled which is true but what our culture doesn’t seem to propagate is responsible shopping.

WHAT DO THEY LOOK LIKE?

Some of the many signs of a shopaholic: • Hiding credit card bills, shopping bags, and receipts so nobody knows just how much they’ve shopped and spent.

• Feeling euphoria when shopping and buying.

• Buying what they don’t need.

• Holding back shopping details—they may say that they went shopping but lie about how much they’ve spent.

• Shopping when feeling angry, anxious, depressed, and lonely to elevate their mood—even if they experience those feelings daily.

• Impulsive shopping—not looking at price tags or calculating the amount in their shopping cart.

• Shopping and buying so often that it affects their daily obligations such as school and work.

DANGERS OF BEING A SHOPAHOLIC? Decline in financial health. Long-term shopaholics

will find themselves consumed in debt because they tend to spend money that can be used for monthly payments. Their discipline and motivation to save money wavers and they feel a need to spend instead on tangible items and in many cases, they overspend.

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Strain in relationships. Poor financial health is the number one reason why married people go their separate ways. If one is a shopaholic, they are likely causing their finances to weaken, especially if they are shopping without the spouse knowing. Trust between spouses is weakened as well because shopaholics keep their purchases hidden.

Compulsive shopping also increases anxiety and causes shopaholics to seek validation by means of materialism and may have an endless need to impress others with their nice things.

BUYING LESS—BREAKING THE HABIT!

No addiction is too great to overcome. If you’re a shopaholic or know someone who is, take heed to these tips: • First, admit that you have a shopping addiction and that you need help. If you want to be realistic in ending this habit, you must be realistic with yourself.

• Get an accountability shopping partner. Find someone you know, and trust, who will be hard on you and keep you from spending recklessly. It also helps to have someone who is financially savvy to help you shop responsibly.

• Pay in cash. Credit card shopping causes us to spend more because we don’t “feel” our money; we don’t see our money declining. A small, plastic card won’t give us that same visual and we end up spending more because of that.

• Buy what you need and hold back on what you want.

• Seek professional counseling or visit a support group.

We can all find a healthier way to shop less and still feel satisfied!

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN Small talk is bad for you.

I’m half kidding.

In 2010, research showed that small talk was associated with lower life satisfaction. Makes sense, doesn’t it? If you’ve been networking once or twice, you’ve probably discussed the weather or your awkward weekend more times than you needed to. It’s unsurprising that a paper

by Psychological Science suggested that small talk was associated with unhappiness.

The reason I’m half kidding? A new study by the same researchers could replicate everything about the study except the negative associations between small talk and life satisfaction. Matthias Mehl, the University of Arizona professor in charge of both studies stated, ‘…people who are more satisfied with their lives have more substantive conversation.’

While small talk isn’t bad for you, meaningful talk is better for you and your wellbeing.

How do you make this happen in a networking situation where you’re meeting people for potentially the first time, and you not only have to leave a great impression but also your business card, and hopefully get a call back for some kind of interview or collaboration, and you don’t want to tell them too much because that would be weird, right and what if you can ONLY talk about the weather and (GASPING FOR AIR) there’s SO MUCH PRESSURE?!

Small talk isn’t as hard or awful as people make it out to be – and there are a few key things you can immediately do to improve both how you feel about it and to dig into some more meaningful, and still safe for work, topics.

AUDIENCE FIRST

If you don’t think about WHO you’re talking to, you’re not going to be able to talk to them. You don’t have to do a quick Google stalk on everyone in the room before you say hi, but you do need to know who might be there. Is this personal or professional? What do you want from these people? What might they want from you? Are they looking to hire people or date people? Is it a work event, a conference, a bar, a meetup? Dig in to the audience to see WHO they are, and what they might WANT out of the situation – as well as what you want. For example, if you’re going to a professional networking situation and you want to meet people that might help you find a job, or give you a job, you’re going to look at the situation far differently than if you were to head to a girls’ night out.

ELEVATOR PITCH

The phrase ‘elevator pitch’ originally came from the idea of introducing yourself or what you do in a short amount of time – usually the amount of time you spend in an elevator traveling from floor to floor.

This actually sounds terrible: imagine being on an elevator ride and spending that amount of time word-vomiting at someone who you are, what you do and why they should care.

Instead of ambushing someone with your words, think first about that audience. Let’s use the situation of going to a potential networking event for a new position – some of the people there work at companies you’d like to interview with. You craft your elevator pitch FOR those people – and think about why they might care about meeting you.

Saying, ‘Hi, I’m Jen, I’m looking for a new position in sales’ might be a nice way in – also, simply saying ‘Hi, I’m Jen’ and going right into my next tip might be your winning combination if the above statement sounds terrifying…

LISTEN AND ASK QUESTIONS

A recent study by Harvard University Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience Lab showed that when people are talking about themselves, the pleasure areas of the brain light up – comparable to the stimuli of good food, sex and cocaine.

Aside from this being a topic in itself, asking someone about their day and truly listening, and asking more questions out of curiosity, generally results in those small talk conversations making a move to the meaningful. For example, asking someone what they do, and then listening for bits of information that are interesting to you that you can further question them about will lead to a more substantial conversation.

If someone talks about how their day was full of a lot of change and adventure, you might ask what kind of adventure (or change, depending on which one interests you more!). By actively paying attention to the person talking, you’re giving yourself information to be curious about – and questions that you can ask to learn more. If someone leaves a conversation with you feeling great, they will associate those great feelings with you!

These are only a few tips to get your small talk game off the ground and out of the clouds. Stay tuned for more on making the most out of small talk. So how are you today?

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Drought-Tolerant Plants for Zone 7

BY LISA S.T. DOSS After spending months reviewing seed catalogs, I find it a pleasure finally to see flats of potted flowers ready for planting and available for purchase. There is an immediate impulse to fill a cart with poppies, coneflowers, verbena and many other spring favorites; yet, we should heed one warning. In April and May, the last worry in a gardener’s mind is the effects of high humidity and stretches of time without precipitation. One solution is to consider planting one of the many drought-tolerant perennials!

BLACK-EYED-SUSAN

As a relative of the sunflower, the Black-eyed-Susan has yellow petals which spread out from a dark seed-core. Beneficial to insects, butterflies, birds, and bees, it stands tall, between 24 and 36 inches, and produces flowers all summer long. Once established, be aware, the Black-eyed-Susan can spread by either seed or division.

BLANKET FLOWERS

Gaillardia is a slow-spreading garden flower which blankets an area through reseeding from mid-summer through fall. Similar to a daisy in appearance, the paintbrush colors are yellow at the tips and gradually change from orange to red at the center. A mature plant reaches up to 18 inches in height and can tolerate partial shade.

(Plant Stress Tip:) Ever wonder why you have newly potted flowers that die within a month? It’s important to check the health and growth of all new plants frequently. Consider inserting a stake in the ground, especially if you have a large garden. Take notice of the signs of stress, such as brown leaves or a lack of growth. Some plants may need immediate attention and care!

COREOPSIS

Also known as tickseed, the bright petals range in color from red, pink, and white, to yellow. While resembling a daisy, the distinct feature of the 33 species is its dark brown center. Care is easy. Only cut back the deadheads at midsummer to encourage the production of new flowers through the early fall. Check the label. Not all coreopsis are perennials.

(Planting Tip:) The phrase “well-drained” soil has little to do with placement. For instance, sloping soil most likely contains clay, which will result in a highly stressed plant.

The goal of drainage is for the roots to stretch without sitting in water. Determine how to change sandy or claybased soil by amending it with soil conditioner. Add a few handfuls of rock to the bottom of the hole; then, surround the plant with enriched soil. Don’t forget occasionally to add sources of minerals, such as a banana peel or crushed eggshell on the surface. Compostable items aid in enriching the soil and fostering health in all plants.

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LAVENDER

Recognizable for its tall stems that end in a cluster of purple and fragrant flowers, lavender is a preferred plant for landscapes, walkways, and gardens. One alluring feature is “hardiness,” which means it will grow in a multitude of conditions; however, it thrives in warm temperatures, dry conditions, and well-drained soil.

CONEFLOWERS

Similar in appearance to an inverted daisy, coneflowers have petals that may be purple, white, or tangerine-orange in color, leading to a dark-seeded center. Growing up to four feet in height, the coneflower, also known as the medicinal herb, echinacea, enjoys full sun to part shade, attracts butterflies, and flowers all summer long.

PERENNIAL VERBENA

Verbena is a shrub; however, it also is a plant with small tubular flowers that grow in a cluster, reaching a maximum of one-foot tall. While purple and red are standard colors, unique hybrids appear in white, pink, and a striking magenta. It thrives in a location of great warmth and direct sunlight.

(Watering Tip:) Before planting, think about how you water. Is it through a hand-held hose, sprinkler, or slow-drip irrigation system? The means of watering will significantly affect where you choose to plant, and ensure all potted plants or seeds thrive in the best environmental conditions.

WILDFLOWER GARDEN

Most drought-tolerant plants are ideal for a wildflower garden; therefore, consider adding companion perennials with similar soil conditions, such as poppies, Queen Anne’s Lace, Rosemary, sedums, and yarrow. This prime location should be away from the road and not frequented by people.

Enjoy the wild space and allow nature to take over at least one area of the yard!

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Spring’s Budding Beauties Bring Busy Butterflies & Bees

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

With spring’s arrival, the outdoors are calling. Sunny, blue skies beckon and set the scene for vivid, colorful flowers. Shrubs and trees are busy beautifully burgeoning, budding and blooming to grandly announce that spring is in the air. Go for a stroll or a drive, and you can’t miss out on nature’s simply splendid scenery.

SPRING’S SPLENDID SCENERY

Planting native plants can help attract bees to your garden. Some possible bee magnets include bee balm, goldenrod, purple coneflower, cosmos, lobelia and everyone’s favorite, lavender. It seems that bees are most drawn to violet and to flowers with cool hues since they provide the most nectar.

BEAUTIFUL BUDDING BLOOMERS

WELCOME POLLINATORS TO YOUR SPRING GARDEN

Southern gardens boast such beautiful bloomers as dogwoods, forsythia, magnolias, hydrangeas, crepe myrtles, and camellias. Pretty in pink, frothy billows of early blooming cherry blossoms appear, and dogwoods follow as graceful pink and white clusters of clouds. And we can’t forget that other harbinger of spring – the redbud - which is often intertwined with sweetly fragranced purple wisteria.

When these budding beauties are covered with blossoms in early spring, their honeyed nectar attracts the sweet tooth of butterflies and bees. As more people become aware of the dwindling bee and butterfly populations, a fresh surge of interest in “pollinator gardens” has arisen, and the redbud, crabapple, and cherry are appreciated for their role in sustaining these populations.

Watch out for pesticides that can kill our helpful pollinators. Reduce and even opt out of pesticide use, switching instead to natural, non-toxic alternatives. Try encouraging beneficial insects for pest control. Before reaching for an insecticide, relax and even welcome some plant damage as larvae munch through leaves before turning into dazzling butterflies. Set aside some parts of your backyard as a safe haven for pollinators. Include nesting habitat, water resources and whenever possible, native plants to provide plenty of nectar and pollen.

Native plants help provide food and shelter for wildlife and pollinators.

They don’t need much if any, fertilizer, and they often need less water to thrive than nonnative plants.

BUSY BUTTERFLIES

POLLINATOR GARDEN CHALLENGE

Like hummingbirds, butterflies are on a constant search for nectar to stay nourished and sustained. Butterflies are attracted to colors, especially flowers that are orange, pink, red, yellow and purple, and they seem to be especially drawn to masses of flowers grouped together in similar shades.

Butterflies love to sunbathe on stones and reflective objects in your yard that are flat enough for landing and soaking up the sun. Warmth from the sun’s rays permeates through their wings and transfers to the rest of their body.

BUZZING BEES

Busy buzzing are the bees, who are prime pollinators. What would life be like without honey? But bees are responsible for producing many other foods we enjoy, too, like coffee, cocoa, blueberries, avocados, and apples. In 2017, the Center for Biological Diversity reported that nearly half of the bee population is in critical decline and that 25% of the bee populations could become extinct. The list of foods we could lose if the bee population continues this decline is disturbing. Given this fact, what could be better than encouraging bees to visit our own spring gardens?

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North Carolina is home to 13 known species of bumblebees and 174 species of butterflies. You can show your passion, dedication, and commitment to these pollinators by getting your garden certified as a Pollinator Friendly Garden. The Million Pollinator Garden Challenge is a “partnership between conservation organizations, gardening groups, volunteer civic associations and participating federal agencies to inspire people and organizations to create more pollinator habitats.”

Simply click millionpollinatorgardens. org/ to learn more about their goal of increasing the number of pollinatorfriendly gardens and landscapes in your own back yard.

SEE SPRING!

Be sure to take a springtime stroll through the magnificent Reynolda Gardens at Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem, head to your local parks in Forsyth County, drive around the state and picnic and hike through the mountains to make the most of this glorious spring in North Carolina!

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The Value of Financial Education for All “I am definitely a better saver and I understand how loans work.

This makes me think twice about what I spend and the loans I agree to take on. Having financial literacy has decreased my stress level because I am able to make informed and smart decisions when it comes to money spending,” according to Valentina’s experience.

And Kianna agrees. ” I am now able to properly save and spend money that I get. I fully understand that I gain interest on money that I put in my savings. I am a much better saver than I was before these Center For Smart Financial Choice classes. Overall, I am not as stressed as I was before.” These two college students are talking about the financial education they received through classes with CFSFC. The Center for Smart Financial Choices (CFSFC) is the only non-profit organization in the Piedmont Triad region whose mission is entirely financial education. CFSFC focuses its time on “teaching financial education through personal interactive programs to enable individuals to make better financial decisions now and in the future.”

In the seven years we have been operating, CFSFC has provided this education to over 14,000 teens and young adults and over 3,000 adults by meeting people where they are in life and providing workshops through employers, non-profit organizations, high schools, colleges and individually.

WHY IS FINANCIAL EDUCATION SO IMPORTANT?

Financial literacy is a growing and alarming problem in the U.S. According to the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority, 63% of Americans are categorized as “financially illiterate.” The issue has become so important that in 2004, Congress passed a law citing April as “Financial Literacy Month.” In the legislation, the U.S. Senate said the initiative was needed to “raise public awareness about the importance of financial education in the United States and the serious consequences that may be associated with a lack of understanding about personal finances.”

Financial education is a core life skill for thriving in modern society.

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need to know how to budget and make wise financial choices for everyday living.

MONEY EQUALS CHOICES . At CFSFC, we do not tell students to save their money just to get rich and travel the globe. We teach them that saving money allows them, not their financial situation, to be the primary drivers of their lives. We teach them that by changing small money habits today, the future grows wider and wider, bringing with it the freedom to focus on things that really matter and that bring meaning to our lives: family, relationships, education, new experiences, giving back, etc.

HOW CAN PARENTS BE INVOLVED IN HELPING THEIR CHILDREN LEARN ABOUT MONEY WHILE THEY ARE STILL YOUNG?

It is vital that families begin talking about money while children are young to help them be ready for the challenges they will face as adults. Make it simple and age appropriate.

• Show them an ATM machine and explain how you have to put money into your account from working so you can have cash when you need it. Bring them inside your financial institution for a tour and to take some of the mystery out of what happens there.

• Use going to the grocery or retail store as way to show them how much things cost, to compare prices and when older, what discounts and clearance items are all about.

• Involve your children in budgeting by planning a family activity that will require them to give up something like a trip to McDonalds or the movies to save for an activity that will leave a memory.

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

How to Get Customers to Leave Rockstar Reviews With 3 Simple Questions This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Here are your three questions to get you the rockstar reviews your business craves: Question #1: What was the problem that you were facing?

Question #2: How did you use me to solve that problem?

Question #3: What did life look like afterward/what did success look like after?

These questions will help turn a review from “I really enjoyed working with Leslie at Downtown Florals, her work was beautiful” into something like this:

Have you ever sold something to a customer and had that happy dance moment where you knew you had made their day? They absolutely loved it, expressed gratitude and were so happy to have found your shop or website! And when that customer left, that’s where the conversation ended.

You work really hard and when you have a great customer experience like that, why shouldn’t it live on longer than in that one moment?

How do we capture that feeling of gratitude from a thankful client? How do we showcase that excitement from a customer when they receive their product? The answer is through customer reviews and testimonials!

So, why not let our customers speak for us?

If you’re like most consumers in the world, you’ve been to Amazon.com to make a purchase. What’s the first thing we do after looking at the price of something? We check the reviews! Why? Because we trust other people’s opinions. We want to know what their experience was like to help determine if it’s worth our time and money. When you ask customers to write a review or share a video testimonial, your goal should be to have those words influence others to buy and support your business.

While it’s one of the most underutilized resources small business owners lean on, it also has one of the biggest bangs for your buck! A powerful customer review is an opportunity to showcase what choosing your business really looks like!

If you’ve tried asking a great customer for a review in the past only to be told “no problem” but never heard back, don’t take it personally! Everyone gets busy and sometimes when they sit at the computer to send you something they simply don’t know what to write or how to talk about their experience with you. This winds up in what we’ll call “review abandonment.” Let’s stop that from happening in your business!

There’s a quote that I love to share with fellow business owners that says, “Your brand is what people say about you when you’re not in the room.”

Lucky for you, there are a few simple questions to help you curate some amazing feedback from your own clients and customers.

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“I am new to the area and couldn’t find a florist in town that offered custom design and delivery. I found Downtown Florals and worked with Leslie to create a beautiful bouquet of flowers based off of my mother’s original wedding bouquet. It came out absolutely beautiful and she had it delivered the very next day without any upcharge. My mom was so touched and loved her special delivery. I’m so glad I found my new go-to florist with Leslie!”

See the difference a few guiding questions can make? Which review would make you want to purchase from Leslie and make you feel like you trusted her services?

Remember, once you implement these questions into your review process, you’re helping to take the thought out of things for your customers and make leaving feedback quick and pain-free for them. More importantly, you’re helping guide them into crafting the kind of message that will ring loud and clear with potential customers and highlight your work! This helps guarantee that they are capturing the kinds of reviews that make your business shine!

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Lemon Chicken Orzo Soup

BY SARA WILES

As we head into the warmer months, soup may not be what is at the forefront of your recipes, but wait! How about Lemon Chicken Orzo Soup. The citrus provides the fresh spring feeling your taste buds are yearning for but can still warm your bones on those chilly nights.

This recipe has all the components of a creamy soup (without the cream) and can be easily tailored to your dietary needs. Simply use a gluten free pasta if needed or even a whole wheat option if you’re looking to prepare for your summer bod.

INGREDIENTS

DIRECTIONS

1 tablespoon olive oil 3 carrots, peeled and diced Half of 1 onion, diced 3 cloves garlic, minced 8-10 cups chicken broth 1 cup orzo pasta 3 cups cooked chicken (I used a shredded rotisserie chicken) 3 eggs Juice of 3-4 lemons 1 handful of fresh spinach 1 ½ teaspoons salt Fresh ground pepper Fresh dill to taste

Heat a large soup pot over medium heat.

Add olive oil, carrots, onion and garlic. Sauté until fragrant and tender, about 10 minutes.

Whisk the eggs and lemon juice together in a small bowl. Slowly add a ladle of the soup mixture into the egg mixture. Add your warmed egg mixture back to the soup pot slowly and stirring constantly.

Add the broth and bring to a simmer. Add the orzo and cook for a few minutes until softened. Stir in the chicken and remove from the heat.

Finish by stirring in spinach, salt, pepper and dill.

Season to taste.

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CARLENE KELLY

Carlene Kelly is a speaker, writer and director. Her new book, Pray Like a Pro is to be released

by Christian Faith Publishing in the Spring of this year. She co-wrote and currently directs two fictional four-act musical dramatic works entitled “The Lost Shepherd” and “Stix and Stones” that have been performed live in Winston-Salem at Central Triad Church during the last 10 Easter seasons. This Easter, there will be nine live performances of “Stix and Stones” beginning on April 5th at 7:30pm.

GINNY CHASE

Ginny Chase recently joined the team at Right at Home In Home Care & Assistance. Prior to joining Right at Home, Ginny was the director of the LewisvilleClemmons Chamber of Commerce. During Ginny’s six years at the Chamber, she was able to double the size of their membership and helped grow Clemmons Community Day into an annual event attended by thousands of community residents. She brings her interpersonal skills to her new position handling community relations for Right at Home.

Right at Home In Home Care & Assistance provides non-medical home care and assistance to seniors and disabled adults in the Piedmont Triad area. In Ginny’s free time, she spends time with her husband, two sons, and enjoys running and cooking.

MEGAN LYON

Megan Lyon has been able to create and grow a successful business in WinstonSalem over the past three years by connecting with local businesses and events with social media, all while working a full-time job, part time job, planning for a wedding and making time for family and friends as well as enrolling in nursing school. This past year, she realized that no one in town offers that “total package” at an affordable cost. After a few years on her own, she partnered with Lindley Battle Photography, a lifelong friend, to offer businesses a “Social Media + Content Creation Package.” She authentically loves this city and wants to take weight off of business owners’ shoulders by running their social pages. She treats her accounts as if they are family and genuinely enjoys doing everything she can to showcase what makes each business special within this community. Megan loves hiking, backpacking and anything outdoors, especially in the mountains. Turning off her phone for a weekend in the woods is her ultimate getaway, but while she’s in town, she enjoys quality time with friends and family over a great meal and a glass of wine.

ADELE CASANOVA

Adele Casanova has returned to the Forsyth Magazine team as a writer and account executive. She worked with the magazines from 2007 through 2014, all while running her own businesses. Adele has a 25-year history as an entrepreneur in the Triad. She worked as an independent speaker and trainer in the mid-to-late 90s conducting workshops for many companies in business communication skills and professional image. Adele started and ran Casanova’s Coffees and Fudge in Winston-Salem and Lewisville for 11 years before selling it to one of her loyal customers. Adele is a licensed esthetician and ran her own skin spa in WinstonSalem until retiring from working full time as a business owner. She loves having time now for gardening, traveling, reading and volunteering for local non-profits.

Having been a small business owner, Adele has great respect for other small business owners and loves to showcase their successes in the magazines. She loves to write and has been published in several triad magazines over the years.

She has two wonderful grown children and especially loves spending quality time with them. She is also the author of the upcoming book, “Old is the New Sexy!”

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BY ALI HARTMAN, DPT GUEST WRITER WITH SARA MIGLIARESE

THE EQUESTRIAN ATHLETE: MORE THAN MEETS THE EYE For many, the words “equestrian” and “athlete” are not often thought of together. Even for myself, as someone who began riding competitively at a very young age, I never thought of myself as an “athlete.”

It was a word I reserved for friends who played basketball, soccer, or lacrosse. While I always knew in my heart that riding was a sport, I never embraced the idea that I was truly an athlete that should be training my body and my mind every day to compete. It wasn’t until I was recruited by the University of South Carolina to ride on their equestrian team that I experienced a shift in mindset – that I realized that equestrians ARE athletes. After living through the true athlete experience for the first time in my life, I was astonished at how transformative it was in my performance in the arena. Once I began physically training my body, I was not only stronger in the saddle, but my mental game was better than ever. My endurance to keep going at long competitions was better, and I had a change in my confidence that was evident to not only my friends and colleagues, but the judges as well. From that moment on, I was determined to shift the narrative – to empower my fellow equestrians to view themselves, and treat themselves, like the true athletes they are.

No matter the sport, the best of the best not only spend hours practicing and developing their skill set but also spend a great deal of time on the various other components that play into their preparedness.

While there are many areas equestrian athletes should be developing inside and outside the arena, here are four that often get overlooked:

Strength & conditioning programming:

Replicating the exact motor patterns and muscle groups utilized in the saddle is quite challenging.

However, no matter how many times you get to the barn in a week to ride, a targeted supplementary strength and conditioning program can do the equestrian athlete a world of good. Focusing on selected functional movement patterns and muscle groups that we utilize while riding and addressing asymmetries can carry over to improved performance in the saddle. It can also have a significant impact on a rider’s mental game. It doesn’t take much – two sessions a week of 15-30 minutes of targeted strengthening with particular emphasis on core stability, dynamic hip, and leg strengthening, and parascapular (muscles between the shoulder blades) strengthening using functional movement patterns can provide a world of difference.

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Optimal nutrition: It is quite common for us to

OBSESS over the quality of our horse’s food. But often, we forget the importance of putting highquality food into our own body. Grabbing some fast food on the way from school/work to the barn can quickly become the norm. But we have to remember the old adage – “garbage in, garbage out.” If we want to maximize our mental clarity during our rides, then it is important that we put high-quality fuel, and sufficient hydration, into the engine. Focus on increasing consumption of the “good stuff”– lots of fruits and veggies, plenty of water, and less processed foods.

Sufficient, high quality sleep: Sleep is when our body recovers from the day-to-day stress that we put it under, and also when all of the new motor patterns, skills, and information we have learned gets solidified by our nervous system (aka, sleep is when the information we take in during a day TRULY gets “learned”). Cutting down on sleep time not only negatively impacts our health, but it robs us of the ability to solidify all of the new skills and motor patterns we are mastering in the saddle and doesn’t allow our body to completely recover from the day’s efforts. Shoot for 8-9 hours of good quality sleep per night for the average teenager or adult equestrian.

Mental game: Much like physical training, the

best athletes spend dedicated time working on their mental game. Using strategies like positive self-talk, visualizing, and even breathing/mindfulness strategies that help clear your mind and focus can be incredibly useful tools when tackling a challenge or heading into competition. Like any skill, these tactics take practice. Try setting a goal of two to three 10 minute “mental game” sessions per week to help you prepare to handle anything that comes your way on show day.

Embracing an athlete mindset can mean something different for everyone, and there certainly is no “right” or “wrong” way to do it. But finding what works for you, and recognizing that you ARE an athlete, is a worthwhile effort. Keep us posted on your progress by using the hashtag #youAREanathlete and #DavieCountyEQathlete so we can follow along on your journey and contact us at Pro-Activity.com or email ahartman@proactivity.com with any questions you may have about becoming the best athlete you can be!

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The Vampire’s Guide to the

Health Beneıts of Garlic

BY DENISE HEIDEL

While garlic plays an important role in the kitchen across a myriad of cultural cuisines, it’s more than just delicious and a way to ward off unwanted vampire visits. But for the health-conscious vampire, they value and appreciate all the nutritional benefits that come from garlic. At least for humans.

• Add pressed garlic to butter that you use on toast, potatoes, or even a piece of chicken or steak.

BENEFITS OF GARLIC

• Press fresh garlic into your salad dressing or vinaigrette

Garlic helps improve your skin. Because garlic helps clean the body from the insideout by removing toxins, skin is healthier!

Two cloves of garlic every day with a glass of warm water is a great body cleanse!

Want to avoid a cold or flu? Make sure you take your garlic! Those same two cloves a day for better skin will also help offset infections in the body and boost the immune system. Garlic has antimicrobial qualities, and it helps treat infections, including colds and flu, because the garlic increases the activity of immune cells and stimulates white blood cells.

While garlic has a reputation for creating stinky breath, the irony is that garlic helps prevent tooth decay and treats oral infections. It can be used to help treat periodontitis, oral thrush, or sores caused by dentures. And while we don’t associate garlic with fresh breath, a garlic-based mouthwash can help fight cavity-causing bacteria.

Garlic is also good for the heart. The antioxidant component helps lower cholesterol, which benefits the regulation of blood pressure and blood sugar levels.

Maximum benefits for the heart come from raw garlic consumption overcooked.

Studies have also shown that garlic helps to prevent cancer. A sulfur compound found in garlic has shown to decrease the growth of cancer cells. Its impact has been studied on various cancers including brain, esophagus, skin, breast, lung, stomach, liver, colon, bladder, and prostate cancers. While patients should always talk with their doctor about these things, studies have shown a positive impact in these situations.

USAGE AND WARNINGS

If the idea of eating raw garlic cloves on a daily basis is less-than-appealing, there are some ideas to incorporate it into your diet in a more delicious way.

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• A brave individual may also find consuming crushed garlic goes down easier when it’s coated with honey.

• Make a garlic tonic with chopped garlic, and equal parts honey and apple cider vinegar. Let it stand in the pantry for a week, shaking daily. Strain, then take a tablespoon every day to boost your immune system.

• If you suffer from stomach ulcers, have hemophilia, or have issues with digestion, talk to your doctor.

• Garlic can also interact with certain medications, including birth control.

• If you’re pregnant or nursing, discuss with a doctor.

GROWING GARLIC

Now that you know all the benefits of garlic, it may be tempting to plant it in this summer’s garden. But alas, garlic is best planted in mid-autumn. But once planted, it’s among the easiest thing you’ll grow. Plus, with a long shelf-life, one season’s growth will likely last a year!

Garlic is a natural remedy that has been used for thousands of years around the world. While some side effects include bad breath and body odor, the benefits cannot be ignored.

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Plants & Berries

SAFE FOR FORAGING

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Along back roads, walking trails, and woods, and close to home in your backyard is the fruit of temptation. Whether you know its name or not, coming across a plant with wild fruit invites two questions: “What is it?” and, “Is it safe to eat?” Knowing the identifying properties of common and poisonous berries continues to be a useful skill.

While technology has boosted awareness of plants through apps, the golden rule still stands: “Never eat anything that you cannot identify.” Let us begin by focusing on safe native wild berries and plants.

Blackberries: Many wild berries are not safe to eat; however, wild blackberries, strawberries, and blueberries are both recognizable and safe.

The distinct characteristic of the blackberry is the broad, jagged green leaves and red branches.

Berries ripen in August and offer strong antiviral properties. They are great for a sweet snack or made into jams, jellies, preserves, cobblers, pies, and wine. Watch out for the thorns!

Tip: Do NOT believe a berry is

safe if you see an animal eating it.

Dandelion: Turn the bright

yellow flowers immersed in your green lawn to an advantage.

High in vitamins A and C, and beta carotene, dandelions can be eaten raw, cooked, or brewed to make dandelion wine.

Surprisingly, dandelions are rich in vitamin A and nutrients such as calcium, protein, and magnesium.

Daylilies: The most common,

safe, wild daylily is bright orange, leafless, and possesses flowers with six petals. Unlike the tiger lilies or Easter lilies that are toxic, the shoots of the daylily are safe, whether raw or cooked. Just slice the six-inch sprouts of the plant right above the soil level; they will regenerate from the roots in early spring. Chop and add to a stir-fry or pasta meal.

Elderberries: As a member of the honeysuckle family, wild elderberries are a culinary delight and a medicinal secret, soothing flulike symptoms. Eating them raw is not wise; however, cooked, the berries are safe to add in desserts. As a shrub extending to ten feet in height, it has seven main long, round leaves with jagged edges. The flower blossoms in Spring and produces

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clusters of white flowers often resembling an umbrella. The harvest occurs in late summer as the flowers turn dark purple and begin to droop. Remember, ONLY the flowers and berries are edible! (Consider planting an elderberry shrub in your yard!)

Grapevine Water: Growing near riverbanks, wild grapevines are a thirsty forager’s most significant find. Including the grapes and the leaves, even the contents within the vine are safe to consume. Cut through one end of a vine, and be prepared to fill a container with grapevine water, a pure, viable source of water discovered by the Native Americans.

Muscadines: It is essential

to recognize the characteristics of a safe plant. Moonseeds, for instance, while native, are TOXIC and are similar in appearance to a grapevine. The shape of the leaves is one distinct feature; the Moonseed vine does not have zig-zagging edges like the muscadine. It also possesses a non-peeling bark. Once the blackish-purple muscadine grapes appear, it is time to harvest.

Harvesting Responsibly:

Another rule of thumb is only to take what you need. Do not strip a wild plant. You are not the only one who may find it useful.

Remember, the insect and bee population, as well as birds, may thrive on its nectar. Additionally, make sure the plant can thrive once you have gone.

Take an Interest in Unknown Plants

If you enjoy leisure walking trails surrounded by nature’s natural flora, consider carrying a pair of small pruning shears or scissors, a paper bag, and a breathe-through bag, such as one of burlap, to contain samples.

Taking a few pictures of the full plant or shrub, the leaves, the stems, and flowers will also aid in the mystery of identification.

Beyond foraging for fruit, roots, leaves, and plants, mere curiosity can support your knowledge; therefore, look around perhaps up trees, and especially straight down. It’s a special moment when you can share honeysuckle or wild strawberries with a likeminded and curious friend or child. He or she will be eager to learn the useful skill of foraging and become more aware of native plants.

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THE APPEALING PORTICO The definition of a portico is a structure consisting of a roof supported by columns or piers, usually attached to a building as a porch. While rarely termed the elegant title of “portico,” we often use direct descriptions from covered porch and front door entrance to breezeway. Beautiful in appearance due to its steepled arch and linear sleek lines in the form of pillars, and without the requirement of walls, the portico is a cost-effective addition to add both curb-appeal and a fundamental need for protection against the elements.

BEAUTIFYING THE FRONT DOOR ENTRANCE

Choices arrive in creating a complementary architectural design to enhance the home’s natural beautify. The design does not necessarily include columns, posts, or pillars, another type of entrance uses brackets to fasten wooden beams to the wall of the exterior house. Termed a “roofed porch,” it provides a pleasing connection to shelter visitors awaiting entrance.

The process begins with knowing your home’s architectural style. Use magazines or websites to find a house similar to your own, which matches the pitch of your roof.

Then, you can compare the varied styles of arches to determine which design may accentuate the residence while meeting your visual expectation. A professional builder can add fascia details such as brick or stone to construct your ideal remodeling project. Additional suggestions may be upgrading from a concrete stoop and steps to exterior tile, slate, brick, or stone veneers. Pillars also can be creatively constructed by combining wood and stone or other variations. The roof, as an attractive feature, may differ from the primary material. Copper, aluminum, or steel roofing materials will aid in making the structure stand out.

Tip: Add stakes to mark the visual

perimeter of your new porch and steps.

Consider removing shrubs, trees, or other costly obstructions in advance, if possible, to maintain your budget. In the completion

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of the project, determine if you will need a new walkway or to shift a flower garden. To not disrupt the growing season, consider the timeliness of starting a large project.

THE COVERED BREEZEWAY

The idea of using a row of covered columns dates back not to the ancient temples found in Greece and Rome, but is fashioned from the town’s marketplaces.

The long covered airy breezeways still offer relief from the sun. In maintaining the definition of a portico, the breezeway is a desirable structure to join buildings through a roofed, open-sided area. It offers shelter while offering a traveler privacy and separation from the main building. Creative people may intend this structure to adorn a garage or lead to a greenhouse, or private quarters.

To anticipate the types of problems you may experience, again, place stakes in the ground. Then assess the breezeway in the morning, afternoon, and evening hours. Problems may arise from needing shade or promoting sunlight.

For instance, eastern exposure in the

morning coupled with southern exposure through the afternoon may accentuate light and heat, especially during the summer months. Lattice is an attractive addition to a breezeway and perhaps as a tool to encourage vines to grow. For areas which lack light, consider using skylights or solar powered lighting as a resourceful solution.

CREATIVE CONSTRUCTION OPTIONS

Not defined by size or specific materials, the portico, in essence, is a porch attached to a building. There are varied ways to create a spacious location beyond the door of your home. If you are wondering how to beautify the space outside your basement door or side door, consider adding an arched portico or breezeway. If extending the roof, you may want to hire a professional. With experience in building a covered porch, a builder can offer suggestions, define a plan, maintain a budget, and construct the porch of your dreams!

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The Fascinating Lives of Hummingbirds: Time to Feed Them!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

IT’S APRIL, AND THE HUMMERS ARE BACK!

After traveling 500 miles from southern Mexico, they’ve finally arrived in our yards and gardens! Known as “flying jewels,” these tiny colorful creatures are a joy to watch when their iridescent plumage shimmers and shines as it catches rays of sunlight.

HELP HUMMERS REFUEL AFTER THEIR LONG MIGRATORY JOURNEY

They may be tiny, but they require a lot of food for fuel. From sunrise to sunset, hummingbirds must eat constantly. With fast breathing, fast heart rates, and high body temperature, they require a steady intake of food and have to gain at least half their body weight each day to replace the calories they burn up.

If food is plentiful, they will happily consume up to three times their body weight daily. Hummingbirds eat up to 8 times per hour, but each feeding session lasts only about 30 seconds to 1 minute.

FOOD FERVOR & SAFE NECTAR RECIPE

Surprisingly, hummingbirds eat pollen, tree sap and insects, as well as nectar and sugar water. Making your own sugar water is easy, but always follow these few basic rules to be sure the nectar is safe: never use distilled water, artificial sweeteners, or brown sugar, and above all, never add honey or red food dye. Keep the feeder clean and replace the nectar once a week when the weather is cool.

Replace the nectar every other day or even every day once it gets really hot outside. It’s simple to make a safe hummingbird nectar: mix 1 part sugar with four parts cane sugar. Bring to a boil, cool and fill the feeder. Store extra nectar in the refrigerator for up to two weeks.

RAVISHING RED ATTRACTS HUMMINGBIRDS

Hummingbirds are visual creatures, relying on bright colors to locate their food instead of relying on their sense of smell. Hummingbirds are easy to attract with the color red, so choose a red feeder

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with decorative red accents. A hummingbird-friendly habitat includes a water source plus a variety of flowering shrubs, herbs and vines that provide safety, shade, and food.

FAVORITE FLOWERS

For natural sources of nectar nourishment, opt for brightly-colored, tube-shaped flowers, such as Columbine, Daylily, Bee Balm, Lupine, Hollyhock, and Foxglove.

Other flowers known to attract the hummingbird population are Beard Tongue, Catnip, Butterfly Bush, Desert Candle, Iris, Flowering Tobacco, Petunia, Soapwort, and Verbena.

HUMM . . . SO, WHY ARE THEY CALLED “HUMMERS?”

Hummers make a distinctive humming sound as they rapidly flap their wings anywhere from 50 to 80 times per second. They make other sounds, too, from a quick series of common calls described as “chee-dit” to chirps, buzzes, and whistles.

AWESOME AERIAL ACROBATICS

Flit, from Disney’s Pocahontas, is the perfect name for a hummingbird since hummingbirds flit fast in every direction. They fly upside down and backward and can hover in midair while flapping their wings in a shallow figure-8 pattern.

AMAZING ANATOMY

These tiny birds weigh less than an ounce and are only about 2 inches long. They have slender, tapered beaks that can dip into tubular flowers like honeysuckle. The hummingbird’s feet are not used for walking or hopping, but for perching. Their heart rates can be around 1260 beats per minute, and they are rapid breathers, breathing about 250 breaths per minute.

RANGE AND LOCATION

There are over 300 species of hummingbirds, 12 of which spend their summers in North America and their winters in the tropics. They are found in the western hemisphere, from southeastern Alaska to southern Chile. The most common hummingbird east of the Mississippi is the Ruby-Throated Hummingbird (Archilochus Colubris).

BOLD BRAVE BIRDS

Hummingbirds are often territorial and have been known to chase each other, as well as sometimes even chasing hawks away from their homes and habitats.

Watching these zippy, agile tiny birds go about your garden and fuel up at your feeder(s) can be a richly rewarding experience, bringing you much joy and amusement. Do all you can to help prepare for their spring arrival. Early April is a good time to put your hummingbird feeders out for early migrants. Enjoy these special birds’ company as spring unfurls its full natural beauty.

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Parkinson’s Disease: Why Awareness Matters

BY DENISE HEIDEL

This April is Parkinson’s disease Awareness Month and for the 60,000 people who will be diagnosed this year, this diagnoses brings with it a lot of misunderstanding.

While Michael J. Fox has brought much awareness to the disease since he made his condition public in 1998 (he was diagnosed in 1991), there still lingers much uncertainty about Parkinson’s disease.

Diana Parrish, the Community Development Manager for the Parkinson’s Foundation, shared, “Parkinson’s disease carries with it a great misunderstanding and feelings of isolation. Because of certain side-effects, people may incorrectly make assumptions about what is wrong with a Parkinson’s patient, and rather than risk embarrassment, many PD patients isolate themselves.”

It’s a sad reality for nearly one million Americans living with Parkinson’s disease, including the estimated 24,000 living in North Carolina. And it’s far more than hand tremors. In fact, some people with Parkinson’s don’t even have tremors. Because Parkinson’s disease isn’t diagnosed through a blood test, misdiagnoses are common. Yet, it’s the second most common neurological disease, right behind Alzheimer’s.

Some of the signs of Parkinson’s disease include: • At-rest tremors are the most well-known sign of PD, but not all tremors are caused by Parkinson’s disease.

• Masked face is a common indicator of PD and is one of the primary reasons PD patients withdraw.

People assume their serious, almost blank look is indicative of anger, depression, or even drunkenness – not realizing that it’s a side effect of PD. • A soft or low voice becomes common in PD patients; they are often not even aware that they are speaking so softly and grow frustrated when other people can’t hear them.

• Loss of smell is common for PD patients and may impact taste buds when foods can no longer be smelled.

• Stiffness in body, arms, and legs are indicators of PD and create problems for patients who are trying to move or walk.

• A change in handwriting seems an odd diagnosis, but for PD patients, their handwriting often becomes smaller, with letters crowded together.

• Troubled sleep is an indicator of PD, especially with jerky movements, and dreams that are acted out. PD patients often have trouble determining if dream experiences are real or not.

• Dizziness or fainting may occur in PD patients, especially as they sit down or stand up.

• Constipation is a problem for PD patients, especially when they succumb to sitting still and do not invest in movement.

• Stooping, hunching over, leaning, and slouching are all side effects of PD. • While many of these indicators are vague and can mean a lot of things, for those who have multiple signs, they should schedule an appointment with their doctor.

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The Parkinson’s Foundation is doing its part to bring awareness to the Triad. Diana said, “We know many of these patients lose their confidence, and the mental toll that Parkinson’s disease has on a person is very real and very troubling. That’s why awareness is so important. While we want to help fund research projects, it’s important to note that for those who suffer from Parkinson’s disease now, it’s about quality of life, and helping them through physical therapies and movement. It’s about continuing to engage them and give them a feeling of purpose.”

And Diana knows better than anyone. Her husband was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in 2006, and she understands first-hand the hardships that PD patients face, as well as the challenges their caregivers experience.

“I understand how tempting it is for a PD patient to stay home and become isolated,” Diana continued. “But studies have shown that Parkinson’s disease patients benefit from movement. The impact of movement isn’t just physically beneficially – it’s emotionally and mentally beneficial.”

With that in mind, the Parkinson’s Foundation will host the 2nd Annual Moving Day Winston-Salem event to encourage movement and continue to raise awareness of this misunderstood disease. “We hope the community will rally with us on April 27th,” said Diana. “We have to help others learn that quality of life can exist in spite of their diagnosis.”

The Parkinson’s Foundation offers many resources for the Parkinson’s community. Call 1.800.4PD.INFO (1.800.473.4636) to learn more, including details about local resources.

Contact Community Development Manager, Diana Parrish, to donate or learn more about Moving Day Winston-Salem at 919.241.8888 or email DParrish@Parkinson.org to learn more.

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In such an outgoing society where parties are one of the top pinnacles of enjoyment, it can be hard for introverts to mold themselves into partygoers when they really prefer to stay home, either alone or with a very few intimate friends. For the classic introvert, staying in is a party in itself! There are many introverts who are invited to join parties they somehow cannot refuse, but there are several ways to cope with the discomfort that a crowd filled with novel faces brings.

BRING SOMEONE YOU KNOW.

Do you have an extroverted or even an ambiverted, friend who you feel comfortable with even in crowded places? Bring them along for social support (chances are, they have a stronger desire to attend a social event themselves)!

Introverts have a strong distaste for small talk; unfortunately, parties tend to thrive on small talk.

Your friend could help break the ice and start conversations in which you can easily slide into when you feel ready. And speaking with your first peer will likely warm you up to speaking to even more people, with or without the social support of your friend.

WEAR YOUR FAVORITE OUTFIT.

It’s a known belief that we become what we wear and how we style our hair. What kind of ensembles make you feel your most beautiful? Wearing your favorite outfit—along with your best perfume— will give you the confidence to enjoy a party. Make sure to dress comfortably and bring an extra pair of shoes if needed (should you want to dance!).

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DANCE TO YOUR FAVORITE SONG.

A person’s favorite tune always puts them into a good (dancing) mood and dancing to it, whether alone or with someone else, will relax your mind and elevate your mood even more. Any anxiety or discomfort will drizzle away with each step you take.

Dancing at parties may even have others mistake you as an extrovert!

SOCIALIZE!

This may be the last thing an introvert wants to do at a party but bear in mind that parties are social events.

Parties are designed for socializing, and it’s nearly impossible for anyone to go to a party without exchanging five words with someone, even if you’re asking someone to pass the salsa! But engaging with people one by one will build you up socially.

Survey the crowd and pick up vibes from other people before speaking to them. Do you see anyone you know?

Speak to them first and start a friendly conversation with another person.

This doesn’t have to be some tedious so-let’s-talk-about-the-weather small talk, so feel free to ask open-ended questions about things occurring in the present moment (“How did you find out about this event?”).

VOLUNTEER TO HELP SET UP, SERVE, & CLEAN UP.

For an introvert, having something tangible to do gives them something to focus on other than the growing crowd at a party. So, helping to set up the venue will prepare them for the night ahead, and serving will help elicit friendly conversation and promote warming up to strangers. Serving food and drinks will help you to walk out into the crowd with a purpose, and you also don’t have the pressure of staying in the crowd because you must get back into the kitchen to bring out more food!

FIND A QUIET, CALM PLACE OF REFUGE.

Parties are draining for introverts. There are moments when they need to find a quiet place in the venue to decompress and refresh their minds before joining the scene again. So, find a calm, vacant area—or as vacant as possible—such as a quiet corner where less people are, a restroom, an empty table, or you can step outside if there are less people out there.

Just because you’ve been invited to the party, doesn’t mean you have to stay the entire time.

You can leave whenever you begin to feel drained – your host or hostess will understand. Or you can let them know upon arrival that you won’t be able to stay the whole time, and that way they will know in advance and will not be alarmed when you suddenly have to leave. Remember these pointers when you attend your next social!

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The Unique Purposes of Rocks & Stones

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

For thousands of years, humans forced or moved one of Earth’s most plentiful resources – rocks were the means to change our standard of living. Curiosity, trial, and invention created cement, building materials, a statue, or an attraction. Across time, individuals had the titles of builder or architect, landscaper or artist; today, those titles suit the homeowner, who continues to seek ways to use rocks and stones purposefully. In the season of outdoor projects, you may be looking for a decorating, eyecatching idea to add to your yard or garden. The answer may be in rocks and stones!

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A ROCK AND A STONE?

The cohesion of solidified minerals such as quartz, feldspar, mica, amphibole, olivine, and calcite that form a mass is a rock. Although the words themselves are interchangeable, rocks can be rough and smooth; but only a stone can fit inside a pocket.

ROCK PATHWAYS

Similar to the shapes of clouds, rocks and stones catch our attention. We happen upon them in our wanderings, and discover once in a while, the coloring or form is the only reason needed to transfer it home. You, too, may be a collector of stones.

When a few rocks become a pile, one solution is to create a pathway.

Tips: Organize your stones into piles according

to thickness. Consider whether you want a natural pathway covered with moss and other types of creeping perennials, or one secured in concrete.

Ensure the dirt is removed well below the grass line and leveled flat. Add a layer of rocks to encourage drainage before placing handfuls of soil on top before adding each stone. Creeping perennials need very little depth and water. Choose the most massive stones for your pathway and smaller stones for decoration.

THE STONE WALL

The dry stacked stone wall is both a successful and attractive building technique. While it does not take a professional to level the ground, add a bottom layer of small stones, and begin the task of layering two similar-sized flat rocks for a thickened solid wall. The total number required may change your overall dimensions.

Tips: How-to-videos will assist in offering useful

tips in preparing the wall, needed and helpful tools, maintaining a straight line, and stacking advice.

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THE DRY CREEK

An accumulated amount of small to semi-heavy stones can comprise a decorative design in your yard, especially for areas of barrenness or where drainage is needed. By planting perennials to suit either drought or wet locations, you will add splashes of color.

Tips: Before starting, consider the width and

the depth of your creek. A broad “u-shape” is best, lined with thick plastic sheets. Test your creek by watching a bucket of water flow over the rocks. Low areas may change your desired course unless you alter the depth of the creek bed to force the flow in a different direction.

A dry creek can incorporate striking features such as a small pond, waterfalls, or a design of “S-curves.” Plan well!

TOWER OF ROCKS

Stacking objects in a conical form is a natural curiosity. From an early age, children test their ability to balance and use hand-eye coordination to counterbalance stones. You, too, can create a tower of rocks with the aid of a drill, a rod of rebar, and a diverse grouping of stones. As a decoration, the structure could be a simple attraction in a flower garden,

THE PERSONALIZED ROCK PICTURE

Large rectangular stone chards with one perfectly round and flat stone comprise the pieces to create a picture of the sun. You, too, may have segments in hopes of creating a dragonfly, footprints, a letter, or number.

Arranging the rock pieces among other stones or in concrete are two options.

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Pour concrete until it reaches ¾ full within the mold. Use a trowel to smooth and eliminate air bubbles. Quickly transfer the design picture starting from the center and working outward.

With a plastic drop cloth, cover the stones for 24 hours; then, remove the mold to allow the concrete a week to cure before arranging the stepping stones in the garden.

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Children of Vietnam

BY NANCY LETTERI

COV serves to be carefree, full, happy, and prosperous. He wants them to be blessed with good fortune in life. You can see Ben make this pledge to Kiss a Pig at youtube.com/ watch?v=NH2tUfJ0lDU. The cyclists will pedal from Hue to DaNang through the coastal countryside, over the challenging Hai Van Mountain Pass (about 1,640 feet above sea level) and ending by crossing over DaNang’s famous Dragon Bridge. After the ride, cyclists will be able to visit with some of the children and families receiving support. Although the trip is quite an adventure, the financial goal is critical as the children depend on this event to fund the programs that help them every day.

Once again, Ben Wilson, Founder of Children of Vietnam (COV), is leading a group of dedicated cyclists to Vietnam on March 26 through March 28 to raise funds for impoverished children. Ben, who is in his mideighties, and his team will be pedaling nearly 100 miles over three days demonstrating their passion to give these children a helping hand so they can join Vietnam’s growing economy.

The goal for the event, which is called “Cycle Out Child Poverty in Vietnam,” is to raise $140,000 which will be used to provide wraparound services for poor, disabled and ethnic minority children.

“Children are the foundation of the world actually,” says Ben. “No matter where they are, they are learning, have dreams and wishes, and concerns and desires to be something significant. That is our focus to give them this opportunity.” COV has been operating in Central Vietnam for 20 years with the belief that children are particularly vulnerable with little control to influence their environment, especially those living in poverty. COV’s mission is to create pathways out of poverty for disadvantaged children by addressing the multi-dimensional causes of poverty in partnership with their caring families and communities. The well being of children today and their ultimate development into productive and contributing adults is the foundation upon which poverty is alleviated for the next generation of children and the world society as a whole.

To provide inspiration, Ben is hearkening to the Vietnamese traditional Lunar Calendar. 2019 is the Year of the Pig, and Ben will Kiss a Pig in Vietnam and in the US if the $140,000 goal is reached! Like the traits of the pig in the lunar calendar, Ben wants the children and families

To make a donation so that Ben will Kiss a Pig visit the website (cov-cycling-out-childpoverty-2019.causevox.com/).

To learn more about COV’s life-changing programs contact Nancy Letteri at nletteri.childrenofvietnam@gmail.com

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SOLIDARITY CYCLE-THON BY KEY CLUB The members of the Reagan High School Key Club all have dreams and this year they are hoping to help children halfway across the world reach their dreams, too.

They are joining Children of Vietnam’s Cycling Out Child Poverty in Vietnam by organizing a solidarity Cycle-thon in support of the international team lead by Children of Vietnam Founder, Ben Wilson.

The proceeds of the Cycle-thon will be donated to Children of Vietnam to help poor children reach for the stars. This will be the third year the students will be working with Children of Vietnam. The Key Club will assemble approximately 40 members and over the course of two hours pedal their hearts out on stationary spin bikes. They hope to raise $2,000.

For more information about the Reagan High School Key Club contact the Club’s advisor, Rebecca Martin @ remartin@ wsfcs.k12.nc.us. To donate to the Key Club’s cycle-thon go to the website (cov-cycling-out-child-poverty-2019. causevox.com/rhskeyclub).

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APRIL 6

CRAFTHALF DAY 7am-4pm, Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. During NC Beer Month, Foothills Brewing, OrthoCarolina & Junction 311 Endurance Sports have combined efforts to produce the region’s best endurance event celebration – created for & with the running community & the WinstonSalem community at large.

Craft beer & food available for purchase. facebook.com/ events HIGH 5 AT HANGING ROCK 7:30am-3pm, Hanging Rock State Park in Danbury. This is a challenging 10+ mile outdoor adventure that showcases the natural beauty of one of the best state parks in North Carolina. All proceeds will benefit Hanging Rock & Pilot Mountain State Parks.

Registration is $30. Find registration options & all the information you need about the event are on our website at: high5athangingrock.com VINTAGE MARKET HOSTED

BY KÖRNER’S FOLLY 10am, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville.

Join us for a 40+ vendor outdoor market featuring the best area dealers of vintage clothing, retro items & handmade & locally produced goods with food trucks on the lawn at Körner’s Folly Historic House Museum. Admission to the market is free, but regular Historic House Tour admission applies. kornersfolly.org

APRIL 7

TWIN CITY COMIC CON 2019 10am-5pm, The Millemmium Center, 101 West 5th Street .

Annual celebration of comic books & pop culture returns with dealers, artists, writers, publishers, music, art & a fun costume contest! Cost: $5/ person. ssalefish.net/twcc

FAMILY FIRST WORKSHOP: CARDBOARD CITYSCAPE 2-4pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road.

Grades 1-6, registration required. Inspiration from the urban landscapes on view in Hopper to Pollock to build your own cityscape sculpture from cardboard.

Cost: $15/pp; $10/members.

Materials are provided.

NATIONAL BEER DAY Foothills Brewing, Downtown Brewpub, 638 West 4th Street in W-S. Join us for National Beer Day! We will have a surprise beer that day plus three special cocktails featuring our Foothills Beer!

APRIL 9

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT! 5pm-until…, Crosby Pub & Restaurant, 6205 Ramada Dr. in Clemmons. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY & have a much need Girls’ Night Out. $8 burger bar & $6 drink specials! Reservations recommended. TONS of prizes & giveaways!

APRIL 10

KIDS’ MORNING OUT! 10am-12pm, TRU Taekwondo Center, 5065 Country Club Road in W-S. Free event.

Come see all TRU Taekwondo has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations.

There will be games, treats, fun, a Taekwondo demo, giveaways & more! Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

ST. LEO CATHOLIC SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE 11am-1pm, St. Leo Catholic School, 333 Springdale Avenue in W-S. Triad-area families have entrusted St. Leo Catholic School to deliver rigorous academics affordably for 65 years.

Parents are invited to drop in during that time. stleocatholic.com

APRIL 11

AAA PRESENTS TRAIN TRAVEL THROUGH THE CANADIAN ROCKIES 6:30pm, Bermuda Run Country Club, 324 Bermuda Run Drive in Bermuda Run. RSVP to AAA is required for this special travel event. Learn about Rocky Mountaineer: Their world-class service, beautiful journeys through Western Canada’s snowcapped mountains & the regionally inspired cuisine.

OPENING DAY WITH THE WINSTON-SALEM DASH 7-10pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. The Dash are back for their 10th anniversary season at BB&T Ballpark! The Dash’s opening weekend is jam-packed with fun. We offer the best family friendly entertainment in the Triad. Cost: $8-$16/person.

FRIENDS OF THE LEWISVILLE LIBRARY ANNUAL SPRING BOOK SALE Lewisville Library, 6490 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. A multitude of choices for the book lover…new & old...history, politics, religious, biographies, fiction/novels, romance, action & adventure, westerns, travel, cooking/baking, fashion, decorating, financial, science fiction, fantasy, poetry, art, self-help, mysteries, satire, drama, science, math, series, crafts, children’s, teens, young adults as well as for adults! Saturday is “Bag of Books for Only $5 Day.”

APRIL 12

REYNOLDA READ-ALOUD: BIRDS 10-10:30am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Join us for storytime for pre-readers at the museum! In this storytime program for pre-readers, we will read children’s books together & participate in activities that relate to the stories. Contact Julia Hood, manager of school & family learning, at 758.5599 or hoodje@ reynoldahouse.org with questions.

Free; registration required.

BREWS & BUBBLES 7-10pm, Greensboro Science Center, 4301 Lawndale Drive in Greensboro. Taste a variety of beers & enjoy a sampling of science as you tour the Greensboro Science Center’s aquarium, museum & zoo!

This adult-only (ages 21+) event offers an assortment of drinks, hors d’oeuvres & entertainment in an awesome atmosphere. Cost: $45/ person. greensboroscience.org ROBERT EARL KEEN 8-11pm, The Ramkat, 170 West 9th Street in W-S. Robert Earl Keen will be performing. Cost: $25/person. theramkat.com

APRIL 12-13

SPRING FLING 3-8pm (12th); 9am-4pm (13th), B C Brock Gymnasium, 622 North Main Street, Highway 158 in Mocksville.

Presented by the Davie Craft Association. Local artisans; florals, crochet, knitting, soaps, jewelry, baskets, woodworking, painting & more. The village café will be open during all show hours. Bake shop offering homemade cookies, pies, bread & cakes.

APRIL 13

EASTER EGG HUNT 10am-12pm, Reynolda Church, Village Campus, 2200 Reynolda Road in W-S. Egg Hunt begins at 11am. Two bounce houses, Touch-a-Truck & 10,000 eggs!

WALK TO END ALZHEIMER’S & THE LONGEST DAY EXPO 10am-12pm, GTCC – Greensboro Campus, 3505 East Wendover Avenue in Greensboro. Attendees will have a chance to hear from top team captains, get equipped with valuable resources & materials, & network with other supporters from their area. Light refreshments will be served. There is no charge to attend the event, but RSVPs are encouraged by registering online at tinyurl.com/ALZExpo19

PIEDMONT EARTH DAY FAIR 10am-4pm, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds (Enter Gate 5 from Deacon Street), 421 27th Street.

Music! Food trucks! Activities for kids & adults! The entire event is free & open to the community. Enjoy great food & music, activities for adults & kids, & wonderful Earthfriendly demos & workshops...all while learning about how you can support a greener city. Rain or shine! peanc.org/EDF DÉJÀ VU PROM 8-11pm, Paul J. Ciener Botanical Garden, 215 South Main Street in Kernersville. It’s your second chance to have your prom. This event is for adults 21 & up. Prom attire is required, but the decade is your choice. Dress shirts, ties, suits are all appropriate for male attire. No jeans, t-shirts or rubber flip flops allowed. We will have a DJ playing all your favorite music from the 80s, 90s & early 2000s. Beer & wine bar is available. ID required to purchase alcohol. Cost: $30-$50/person. kernersvillemuseum.org HOPE RUN & FAMILY PICNIC Bailey Park, 445 Patterson Avenue in W-S. Activities will include: 5K run/walk, stroller mile, dash kids dash, face painting & balloon artist for the kids. Families will enjoy a fun-filled day in a family-oriented environment with their children & friends. Cost: $10-$40/person.

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REYNOLDA CHURCH CLEMMONS EASTER EGG HUNT WITH 10,000 EGGS 10am-12pm, Jerry Long YMCA, 1150 South Peace Haven Road in Clemmons. Reynolda Church Clemmons will host a free event that will include an Easter Egg Hunt with 10,000 eggs, a “touch a truck” area, face painting, crafts, games, giveaways, bouncy houses, food trucks & more!

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FREE FOOD MONDAY WITH THE DASH 7-10pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. It’s the craziest deal in sports! Each ticket comes with free hot dogs & French fries until 8:30pm. Also, free corn dogs will be served while supplies last. The best part? Normal ticket prices apply.

Cost: $8-$16/person.

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SPRING BREAK DRIVER’S EDUCATION CLASS 9am-3pm, Greenbriar Driving Academy, 1605 Westbrook Plaza Drive, Suite 403 in W-S. Class will cover the 30 hours of instruction, & students will receive their six hours behind-the-wheel training schedule by the completion of class. Please visit greenbriardrivingacademy.com to enroll or learn more.

Cost: $450/person.

APRIL 20

SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED

BY BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB 9am-12pm, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. $5 per brown bag or equivalent size box. Cash only.

Rain or shine. Proceeds go to various Davie County community programs supported by the Garden Club.

SCIENCE EXTRAVAGANZA! 10am, Greensboro Science Center, 4301 Lawndale Drive in Greensboro.

Robots, nano stations, outdoor fun & mascots – our day of science samplers has it all! Must-see science stage shows will feature science favorites, from frozen flowers to hair-raising electricity & elephant toothpaste! Science Extravaganza activities are free with Greensboro Science Center general admission or membership. greensboroscience.org

APRIL 22

FILM: RAIN THE COLOR OF BLUE WITH A LITTLE RED IN IT 7-8:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. As we remember musical icon Prince three years after his passing, join us for a screening of a unique film inspired by his blockbuster movie “Purple Rain.” Admission is free. moa.wfu.edu

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AUDITIONS: DAS BARBECU 6:30pm, The Little Theatre of W-S Offices, 419 North Spruce Street in W-S. Roles are available for three women & two men (ages 20-50). Please see website for details: LTofWS.org SECOND HARVEST’S ANNUAL EMPTY BOWLS 5-7:30pm, Benton Convention Center, 301 West 5th Street in W-S. Enjoy a simple soup meal provided by our area’s top restaurants & select a pottery bowl – handcrafted & donated by area artisans – to take home as your gift for supporting healthy, hunger-free communities. Stop for lunch on April 24th anytime between 11am & 2pm. Both events will feature live entertainment & a fantastic silent auction.

Cost: $35 in advance; $40 at the door. emptybowlsnc.org

The NEW Mac & Nelli’s 2019 Mac & Nellis Spring Forward With Mac & Nelli’s New Look New Chef New Menu New Social Media

APRIL 27

TUXEDO TROT 8-11am, Greensboro Science Center, 4301 Lawndale Drive in W-S. This family friendly 5K & Kids’ Fun Run raises critical funds to help save endangered African penguins. Dress in your best penguin-themed apparel us for a morning full of fun to support our feathered friends! tuxedotrot.com.

Cost: $35/person.

CHICK-FIL-A FOUR PACK NIGHT W/ THE DASH 6-9pm, BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Best entertainment deal in the Triad! For as low as $32, fans can receive tickets to the Dash’s game on Saturday, along with four Dash hats & four chicken sandwich vouchers redeemable only at the Chick-fil-A at Thruway Shopping Center. This deal must be purchased in advance by calling 714.2287. milb.com

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Accent Prone. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Aeracura Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 American Custom Leather. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 124 American Heart Association . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 American Moving & Hauling . . . . . . . . . . . . 83

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Camel City Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 Carolina Characters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 124 Carolyn’s Baby Cakes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Castle Lights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Chermak & Hanson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Chest Caddy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Christina’s Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Chrystal Yates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Clemmons Bicycle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101 Clemmons Rotary Club . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 Crossfit Polydamus. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 Crystal Cleaners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125

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Easy Senior Solutions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Emerson Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111

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HakkaChow. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Hauser Rental . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Hillcrest Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Hip Chics Botique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Homestead Hills . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 House Matters Lawn Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101

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Kim Taylor & Co. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61

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Laster’s Antiques . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Little Theatre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Liz Fit Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 124 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

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Village Inn Event Center . . . . . . . . . . . . 27,107

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Wayne Collins Electric . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101 WFBH Outpatient Imaging . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 WFBH Cosmetic & Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . 73 Wine Merchants . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 126 Winston-Salem Dash. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 WomanCare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75

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Conversations with Your BFF

BY REBECCA COOPER

What Do Parents & Grandparents Do When They Disagree on Parenting?

The role of a grandparent is very special in a child’s life.

Some would say that role is to spoil the grandchild, taking them for ice cream for no reason, letting them stay up past their bedtime or buying things that mom and dad said ‘no’ to. In a perfect world, grandparents make life easier for parents and both are appreciated for the roles they have in a child’s life. But often the old school way of parenting practiced by the grandparents clashes with the ‘new and improved’ style used by the parents, and this can lead to some heated discussions and hurt feelings. So how do parents and grandparents work together to raise a child in a nurturing and loving environment with respect? I’m so glad you asked!

Problems usually arise when the parents feel that the grandparents have interfered, intruded or undercut what the parents have said or done, or when the grandparents feel that the parents have forgotten to take the feelings of the grandparents into consideration. Here are some tips to help keep either from happening.

ASSUME THE BEST OF YOUR PARENTS

If you feel like your parents are stepping on your toes, start by assuming that they have good intentions in their actions. They may just be unaware of the boundaries they are crossing. Maybe they are unsure of their role or what you need from them in that role. Help them feel included, important and needed in the family.

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DON’T CRITICIZE OR JUDGE

The number one rule of thumb for grandparents is, above all else, don’t criticize. As a grandparent, try and think back when you were raising your child.

Did you like to hear from your parents, ‘You know honey, back in my day, we didn’t….’? No one likes to feel judged on their parenting choices and it can make for a tense relationship. Imagine feeling like every time you are with your child and grandchild that you are watching them like a hawk for something to go wrong. That’s not good. That takes the fun out of enjoying family time.

LET THEM KNOW WHEN A BOUNDARY HAS BEEN CROSSED

There’s nothing wrong with letting grandparents know when they have overstepped a boundary. If they give unsolicited parenting advice, you can say, ‘I appreciate your concern and expertise. I will definitely ask you if I need help.’ Or ‘I know you may see this situation differently, but I’d appreciate you following the way I do it on this one.’ Set boundaries early so they understand that they have a role and a way to contribute, but just not in EVERY situation.

UNSOLICITED ADVICE IS RARELY APPRECIATED

When a grandparent gives unsolicited advice or opinions, it is rarely seen as productive; it is often heard as criticism.

If you have a big concern and you feel that you must voice your opinion, then it is best, as the grandparent, to ask permission, using tact and timing in expressing your concerns.

THE WORST PLACE TO BE IS STUCK IN THE MIDDLE

Don’t let the grandkids put you on one side and the grandparents on the other. Kids love to pit parents against grandparents.

Kids may paint a picture that is pretty bleak when they can’t get that new video game, but remember that the parents have the say so in what is allowed or not allowed in their home. As a grandparent, you can have empathy, but stay neutral.

HONEST COMMUNICATION IS KEY

Be clear, honest and thoughtful about what the role of the parents is, as well as the role of the grandparents. Some grandparents are of the mindset that they have done their job of raising kids and they are good with babysitting once in a while. Then some may want to attend every recital or soccer game on the schedule, then share where the kids could improve in their abilities. With upfront and honest communication on roles and expectations, things will go much better for all.

TRUST IS A MUST!

If you are a grandparent and you don’t agree with what the parents are doing, as long as there are no health or safety concerns, trust them. Getting in the middle of how your child and his or her mate are raising their kids will only cause problems. The world has changed since you raised your children and your ways may not work well today.

In the end, whether you are the parent or grandparent, work to make the dynamic of the two roles work for the best interest of all involved, especially the grandchildren.

If you live down the street or hours away, make sure you find ways to make everyone a part of each other’s lives and recognize boundaries before you cross them.

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