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you picked up this issue, you already know it’s a special one! Emily Davis, owner of Fleet Feet Winston-Salem, is on the cover and she is one phenomenal woman. I’ve considered her a role model for as long as I’ve known her. She and her husband, Keith, started this business venture more than 17 years ago, and they have always kept faith and family at the center of it. I won’t spoil the story though; you can read all about Emily, her beautiful family and her incredible business starting on page 24.

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I shared a bit of a vulnerable story on social media a few days ago, and I thought it may be appropriate to share with the readers of Forsyth Family, too. This story is about family. My mom and I, specifically. We’ve had some big struggles over the past year and a half. My decision to open a CrossFit gym and her decision to start LKN Magazine fell at the exact same time. Two MAJOR (completely unplanned) life changes happening all at once. The stress and anxiety levels were insanely high. Neither of us were physically nor emotionally able to offer the level of support to each other that we normally would have. I remember feeling so discouraged and wondering if we’d ever come out on the other side of this “rut.” I worried our relationship was permanently damaged.

I’m happy to report that we did, in fact, come out of the rut and are stronger than ever.

Our mother-daughter relationship and our business relationship are truly the best they’ve ever been. LKN Magazine is absolutely thriving, and I couldn’t be more proud of my mom.

The gym is celebrating our one-year anniversary this month, and I’m continuously blown away with the incredible community being built at Washington Park CrossFit. Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Family are growing and changing in ways I never expected. This experience has taught me the importance of following your dreams and giving yourself grace while simultaneously pushing through the inevitable hard times life throws at us. It’s also taught me the importance and value of supporting your loved ones with their dreams.

This issue of Forsyth Family is chock full of content that I just know you’ll enjoy! From recipes and restaurant features to local events and local business features…we’ve got a little bit of everything. A few highlights: • Sage & Salt Bistro (previously Willow’s Bistro) is freshly renovated and open for business!

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• November 13th is “World Kindness Day,” and we have two great articles on the topic of kindness. Check out pages 30 and 62.

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18 Why We Complain 22 City Lights Ministry: Building Life-

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46 The Plague of Perfectionism 62 Kindness: Why We Need to Pay It Forward

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5 Ways to Honor National Native American Heritage Month

by MEGAN TAYLOR

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Heritage Month is held from September 15th to October 15th and Black History Month is observed during February, but did you know there is also a month honoring Native Americans?

Throughout the 30 days of November, the cultures, traditions, histories and contributions of Native people are celebrated. Also known as Native American Heritage Month, American Indian and Alaska Native Heritage Month and National American Indian Heritage Month, this event dates back to the early 1900s.

Dr. Arthur C. Parker, a Seneca Indian, persuaded the Boy Scouts of America to start a day for the “First Americans.” This event lasted for three years until 1915 when the Congress of the American Indian Association met and called for an annual American Indian Day. The association’s president, Rev. Sherman Coolidge issued a proclamation in September of that year and declared the second Saturday of May as American Indian Day. This declaration became the first formal recognition of Native Americans as citizens of the United States. A year later, in 1916, the governor of New York made the second Saturday in May also American Indian Day. Other states followed suit, but decided to celebrate the event as the fourth Friday in September. In 1986, President Ronald Reagan created the week-long celebration from November 23rd to 30th as American Indian Week. It wasn’t until 1990 when President George H.W. Bush approved a resolution that designated the month of November to be National American Indian Heritage Month. Today,

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this month is packed full of events and commemorations. Here are some ways you and your family can honor National Native American Heritage Month.

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Visit a reservation or museum.

Throughout the United States, there are about 56.2 million acres of land and 326 reservations for various Indian tribes and individuals. While reservations are not tourist attractions due to being the home for tribes and communities, many do welcome visitors and have museums for the public. One you can visit without traveling too far is Cherokee in the mountains of NC. The Museum of the Cherokee Indian has exhibits for all ages and hosts cultural events.

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Read books and pieces of literature by Native American authors. No matter how old you are, diversifying your books every now and then is a key thing to do in order to learn more about those around you.

Spend some time this month reading some work by Native American authors.

For adults, Tommy Orange, Louise Erdrich, Stephen Graham Jones and Joy Harjo are good choices. For children, try the writings of Debbie Reese, Joseph Bruchac and Monique Gray Smith.

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Research Native American art.

While immersing yourself in books, don’t forget to learn about Native American art. American Indian artwork is created to honor one’s family and tribal ancestry. As you are researching and looking at pieces, be sure to gather information about the artist and the item’s meaning. If you are purchasing a piece, also learn about its history.

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Support a Native-owned business or brand. While supporting locally owned businesses, also consider supporting Native-owned businesses and brands. The money spent at these businesses helps their economic communities and social causes. A quick search online will show what companies are in your vicinity. You can also consider sending a donation to charities that aid Native communities and causes.

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Learn about Native American Culture. One of the biggest things you can do during this month is to educate yourself and your family about the diversity of Native cultures, Native Americans and Indigenous people throughout the world. In the United States, there are 574 federally recognized tribes with rich cultures, languages and customs. For North Carolina, we are home to eight recognized tribes – the Coharie, the Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians, the Haliwa-Saponi, the Lumbee Tribe of North Carolina, the Meherrin, the Sappony, the Occanecci Band of the Saponi Nation and the Waccamaw Siouan. By familiarizing yourself with their culture and way of life, you may just be surprised by how much you can learn about Native Americans, their cultures, accomplishments and contributions that you may not have known about before.

National Native American Heritage Month is here. Let’s make it our goal to honor Native Americans and their heritage in multiple ways throughout the month of November.

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National NACHOS Day

by TABI FALCONE

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are many foods in the world that deserve celebration – cake, ice cream, pizza, spaghetti and tacos come to mind. But nachos? Nachos live in a category all their own.

A Brief History of Nachos For anyone who has been living under a rock his or her entire life, nachos is a Mexican dish that centers around layers of cheese and other toppings served over tortilla chips. While many of us think of this as a traditional Mexican staple, it actually wasn’t invented until the early 1940s. Working at a restaurant in Piedras Negras, Chef Ignacio Anaya was asked by a group of customers to bring them a snack that they hadn’t tried before. Glancing around the kitchen, Anaya came up with the idea to cut up tortillas in triangles to fry, then top them with cheese and jalapeno peppers. After devouring the delicious snack, the women asked what it was called. As a common nickname of Ignacio is “Nacho,” they were called “Nacho’s Special.” The dish was quickly popularized all over Mexico and throughout the United States through Texas and the southwest where Mexican food is often a staple.

Although it’s unclear when the national holiday began, we celebrate National Nacho Day on November 6th every year. Unfortunately not a recognized bank holiday (sorry all, you don’t get off work or school), it is nevertheless a fun way to spend a day. Here are a few fun ways to celebrate with friends and family.

Host a Potluck Nacho Party One of the best parts of a good plate of nachos is a variety of toppings. By hosting a potluck nacho party, you can increase the assortment of toppings while simultaneously decreasing the amount of food you are responsible for preparing. As the host, you can prepare the nacho cheese (if done in the crockpot, you cut down your prep time even further) and supply the mounds of chips needed for yourself and your guests. Make sure to offer up a way to track what everybody is bringing to reduce the chances of having 10 types of beans and no salsa. An added plus to this plan is also getting to see what your friends like to put on their nachos, which likely is different from your go-to recipe.

Have a Nacho Competition In a similar vein to the Potluck Nacho Party, having a Nacho Competition decreases the amount of cooking down on your end and increases the diversity in your nacho offering. There are a few ways to organize the competition itself; perhaps the adults make the nachos and the kids are the judges. Alternatively, everybody could judge, and you can vote similarly to a chili cook off. No matter which way you decide to organize it, everybody gets to eat nachos which clearly means everybody is a winner.

Just Make Nachos!

The easiest and most classic way to celebrate, of course, is to just make and eat nachos! Easily made at home, there are infinite ways to create your own spin on this classic dish.

You can go old school with tortillas, cheese and jalapenos like the original “Nacho’s Special,” or you can give it a southern twist topped with queso, pulled pork, BBQ sauce and coleslaw. Any way you serve it, you’ll create a memorable evening for your family and pay tribute to a great dish. And, don’t forget to tag @forsythmags with how you decide to celebrate #nationalnachosday!

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AGAPE of North Carolina

Serving Children and Families Through Foster Care

by CAROLYN S PETERSON AGAPE of NC Inc. was incorporated by North Carolina area churches of Christ as a Christian social service agency to provide help to children and families through foster care. Federal data show the number of licensed foster care homes in North Carolina dropped 23% from 2021 to 2022. That means there are only about 5,500 foster homes available for the approximately 10,200 children in the state. The issue isn’t so much a sharp rise in children needing foster care, rather, it is a decline in licensed foster homes. The work of AGAPE of NC is needed now more than ever before to assist with finding and licensing foster homes to give children in need a place to call home.

Stepping Up to Help Not everyone is able financially or at a place in their lives that they can be foster parents, but AGAPE helps the communities they work in realize there are other ways to help children and

While not everyone is called or able to be a foster parent, AGAPE of NC believes all are able to help their mission in some way.

“ We believe that anyone can help in some capacity, and AGAPE wants to be a part of the solution to the foster home crisis in our state. We know that not everyone can be a foster parent, but people don’t realize they can help in ways other than fostering.

The foster care system can be confusing and hard, and AGAPE acts as a social worker for the foster parent and will fight for them,” said Kristen Loper, Social Worker with AGAPE of NC.

You Can’t Fix What You Don’t Know AGAPE of NC works to bring awareness to the general community while also forming relationships with local churches to equip them and support them as they learn how to minister within the foster care system. Recruitment of foster homes is also part of AGAPE’s focus. “ We are involved in parent recruitment and the training of foster homes. We care for our foster homes well, so these families will be able to stay in it healthily and so they last longer.

Unfortunately, 50 percent of foster homes quit within the first year, so it is very difficult to recruit and train enough families every year to replace the gap of the families that are burning out.

There can be a lot of fear and confusion about the system and its bad reputation. The stories that are told about foster care are usually the horror stories which are a very small percentage of the foster care experiences. We are working with situations that are confidential, so it’s hard to show the need accurately as there are laws that protect children and their families’ privacy. We try to combat the isolating feelings that being a foster parent can bring and wrap around your entire family,” Kristen commented.

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their foster families. “ As Christians and AGAPE, we are just encouraging everyone to play the part they can play. For some, that is fostering or respite care, and others can help by donating financially. If families can get involved in any form, they can start to see that it is not as scary as it seems. Forty-five percent of all Christians, at some point in their lives, have seriously considered foster care or adoption, but only two to three percent ever actually do it. We at AGAPE believe that there are a lot of people who have a calling or desire to foster, but because of fear and confusion and a lack of support or knowledge, most people never actually take the first steps. So, we want to remove barriers and demystify foster care to help more and more people begin to walk into something that they feel drawn towards. We desire to create radical support systems. One of the ways we do this is through our Wrap Around Care ministry. This is a team made up of four to seven committed people who can form an intentional relationship with a foster family. Each team member commits to a role – team leader, caregiver, helper and encourager,” stated Kristen.

For more information on AGAPE of North Carolina, visit agapeofnc.org; you may also contact Kristen Loper about how you can help in the world of foster care, by emailing her at kloper@agapeofnc.org.

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Why We COMPLAIN

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

“Would you stop complaining already?”

“Complaining never makes anything better.”

“Whine, whine, whine!”

“Nobody likes a complainer.”

We’ve heard these thumbs-down statements and perhaps have made a few of them ourselves. And yet, most of us complain. I do, and I sometimes get tired of hearing myself, or I’ll preface a whining complaint with “I know I’m complaining but, I can’t BELIEVE this. I am beside myself. Blah, blah, blah.”

Truthfully, a vent like this one helps me blow off steam that a meditative, deep breathing exercise might have also accomplished. Honestly, though, I sometimes feel guilty once I’m spent. Should I? Should any of us feel guilty about complaining?

I felt a wee bit vindicated when psychologist and author Robert BiswasDiener asked, “If complaining is so awful, why is it so prevalent?” The answer is that “complaining is simply expressing dissatisfaction.” I like that definition because it’s an observation, not a judgment. It invites us to consider complaining without any “stuff” attached to it. With this neutral mindset, we can better understand why we engage in a behavior that has such a bad rap.

Mental health folks observe that personality, age, tolerance for conflict, and “image” are all factors in determining how and how much we complain.

I would add “family of origin” and even “upbringing” as influencers.

Individual factors aside, you may recognize: • The Chronic Complainer – for her, complaining is a habit of mind and mouth. She always finds something wrong and can’t seem to notice a silver lining anywhere. For her, the glass is never more than half full, while she tends to ruminate and dwell on setbacks instead of steps forward. Her complaining habit may have re-wired her brain to the point that it is ingrained. Instead of feeling a sense of release or letting go after complaining, chronic complainers may experience higher stress and anxiety levels.

• The Venter – she’s the one who isn’t trying to solve anything; she just wants to be heard and to have her feelings validated, as in my personal example. Once she gets that attention, she can usually let it go.

• The Sympathy Seeker – he’s the one who wants to be heard – and often – while usually emphasizing how much worse off he is than you. It’s the “I bet you can’t top this” type of complaining that gets attention and can provoke competitive storytelling.

Remember, this isn’t about judging. It’s about understanding... and seeing ourselves.

The Upside of COMPLAINING Complaining can be a good thing. If we are complaining because we’re feeling stuck, we may be able to clarify our thoughts and feelings just by verbalizing. We might feel a sense of release (it’s off my chest), validation (I’m not crazy; he gets it!), and our listener may offer a perspective that helps us see things differently or have an insight that allows us to identify a way forward.

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The Downside of COMPLAINING Complaining can also be toxic. If we become fixated on “the problem,” we may never move toward a solution. We may find ourselves in a cycle of negativity and seek out others who are similarly stuck. The other outcome is that, besides feeling miserable ourselves, complaining may push others away, leaving us feeling lonely and isolated.

HERE’S MY TAKE: there is a place in our lives for responsible, purposeful complaining, the kind that seeks light at the end of the tunnel. But complaining that reinforces the darkness and keeps us stuck does us - and those around us - no good.

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dab in the middle of a stifling and humid July day, I decided not to go home for the holidays. Home... picture postcard perfect New England covered in a light blanket of snow and filled with Norman Rockwell-esque good cheer. Or something close. Even so, with Jingle Bells in the air, warm fires, and a much-loved family to welcome me, I decided to forego the annual holiday trip home.

I quickly texted my sister, explaining that what I most wanted was to spend time with the people who have shaped and filled my life for as long as I can remember. I wanted less frivolity and more listening. Less jolly and more genuine. Less running about, and more tranquility. I wanted to grab a peaceful, leisurely lunch out before the super-charged holiday crowds would make getting a table difficult.

•T ake care of yourself - Timeless counsel, I know. And now, as well as during the holidays, it’s important to continue those healthy body, mind, and spirit practices, so that you can be present to the joys of the season. If you need a tiny nudge, do your workout, then reward yourself with something you truly enjoy.

She got it. Immediately.

PART THREE: Living It

How about you? Are you stressing over the season that is just around the corner? I don’t want that in my life anymore, and so I’ve culled a three-part “Easy Does It” strategy for the season:

Make friends with imperfection – unlike that picture-perfect postcard, few things in real life are in fact perfect. Perfect doesn’t matter.

Remember that you cannot control everything and that it is the intention, the love, and the joy you infuse in your holiday experience that matters.

PART ONE: Planning Plan ahead – as in start right now, October. Think in terms of pacing yourself and doing a little at a time. Make a holiday spreadsheet, or buy a pretty notebook and brainstorm categories such as: • Where you will spend the holidays • Gift list and budget • Holiday hosting, menus, and recipes • Traditions to keep, refresh, or put on old • Decorating scheme/purchases to be made • Calls to make; cards to send And so on.

Focus where you need to and begin to “calendar” your prep tasks. For example, you might visit the attic or the garage and begin pulling the decorations you will use this year, then consign, donate, or store those you won’t. I do this every year, right after Halloween.

PART TWO: Nurturing • Create a holiday calm space - Maybe it’s just a corner in your sunroom, or your she-shed; a place where you can catch your breath and take in the beauty of the season privately and quietly. Fill this space, however tiny or large with the holiday decorations you most enjoy. In a small reading room, my sister displays our late mom’s 1960’s ceramic tree and ornaments handmade by her children and grandchildren.

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Practice “In the scheme of things” thinking – when you do start to fret, catch yourself and tap into perspective. Ask: “In the scheme of things, how much will this really matter?” Be willing to graciously go with the flow when the unexpected happens.

Lean into kindness – people may have a short fuse and frazzled nerves as they navigate the season. Tap into the fact that you can relate and cut them some slack!

Practice respect and tolerance – sure, it’s a whole lot easier when the people you love and care about hold the same beliefs, views, and approach to the holidays. But that’s generally not the case. I’m having a flashback from the year my stepson brought home, his then-girlfriend who insisted on bringing her own food. After a moment of thinking “What? Is she just trying to be contrary?”

I suspended judgment, took a deep breath and remembered how grateful I was that they chose to join us. Easy does it!

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Building Life-Changing Relationships

by MARTIE EMORY without a bed – and who are often sleeping on the floor. Typically, they deliver 10 to 20 beds each week.

The mobile food pantry distributes around 25,000 pounds of food each month and naturally depends heavily on volunteers. Visit their website at citylightsministry.org to find all the areas where you can get involved, from building beds or packing groceries, to assisting in the clothing closet.

Local school, church or youth groups are also encouraged to volunteer – by calling or emailing to schedule a time slot.

Focused

on “loving others where they are” since 2014, City Lights Ministry in Winston-Salem is a non-profit, evangelical Christian Ministry committed to sharing the Gospel by meeting the spiritual, physical and emotional needs of children who regularly face poverty and food insecurity.

From their mobile trucks delivering food, clothes, toys and beds, to Sidewalk Bible School and after-school tutoring, all are welcome, as the ministry works to see local children in potentially hopeless situations find a new path.

That includes showering them with a full circle of support so they can strive to be healthy, successful adults.

“As a child who went without the basic needs of life and had a single mom who struggled to raise my brother and me, it’s my passion to help children who are raised with the same situations,” says Melanie Bell, Founder and Executive Director. “I am very thankful to be part of what God is doing through City Lights and in our communities.”

Since its inception, City Lights Ministry has delivered more than 3,000 free beds to children

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Lights Community Center,” Melanie explains. “The Grace House will be just that – a home full of God’s grace for moms who have found themselves with nowhere to turn. No matter the reason, we will welcome them with grace. This home will house mothers and their children temporarily as they find a way to get back on their feet.”

She says the team looks forward to being a source of support through Bible studies, parenting classes, cooking classes, budgeting classes and many other ways they can encircle families with love and guidance.

“We need those who can help us with food drives to continue making sure children in our city eat,” adds Melanie.

“Together, we can make a difference in the lives of mothers and children, right here in our own city,” says Melanie.

While City Lights fills needs yearround, the ministry also provides 3,000 children with Christmas gifts each season – and that takes love and loyalty from as many people as possible! Individuals or groups can sponsor a child this Christmas by signing up on the website or by choosing to host a toy drive at their business or church.

The group believes by meeting our neighbors where they are and personally investing in their lives, foundations can be built that will lead to hope, a future and a better life for children in our community.

“We deliver Christmas gifts into many neighborhoods around Forsyth County, helping approximately 3,000 kids have a wonderful Christmas morning,” shares Melanie.

And, City Lights Ministry is incredibly excited to launch a new ministry in 2024!

“This ministry is called The Grace House and will be located at the City

To offer monthly financial support for The Grace House, click “Give” on the website, to launch the new ministry off on the right track in 2024.

All donations to City Lights Ministry must be shipped or delivered to their warehouse at 1600 Williamson Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27107. If you need help with furniture you’d like to donate, call 336.831.1003. Regularly needed items include pillows, twin sheets, canned foods, non-perishable food items, furniture and children’s coats. For more information, visit Citylightsministry.org.

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Emily pictured with her daughter Addison in Kenya, January 2023.

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It’s Not About The Shoes

Faith and family

by MARTIE EMORY

Faith and family – and always, always giving back – has been the guiding foundation in life for Emily and Keith Davis, owners of Fleet Feet in both Winston-Salem and Clemmons.

Thankfully, their retail business is the perfect platform to serve the community with something everyone needs – shoes!

When they started the business in August of 2006, Emily and Keith were also launching their most important venture – starting a family – and the balancing act was real! But, their steadfast faith in God kept them going – and today, daughters Addison, 16, Hope, 14, and Samantha, 8, have been a part of all their ministry efforts. “ Our kids have been to countless shoe fittings with us and have served with us in Kenya,” shares Emily. “Addison, our oldest, went with us when she was only six, and she will tell you that it changed her life.”

Their hard work and faith has also given them the foundation to establish an incredible outreach program in Kenya, that now has their whole heart.

Their next mission trip is scheduled for March of 2024. “ Selling shoes does get old!” says Emily. “We knew there had to be more than that!”

The entire Fleet Feet family discovered their “more” in Kenya – where they have served for the last nine years, building schools and churches, while working closely with International Cooperating Ministries (ICM). Their focus is empowering the youth of Kenya, and helping to “break the cycle” of poverty and homelessness that is so rampant there. “ My heart is for the teenage boys of Kenya. Many have no family structure which means they don’t know how to be responsible for themselves,” Emily adds. “They aren’t familiar with family dynamics at all. Through our mission work we aim to teach them a trade, and we strive to instill family values.”

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Emily pictured with the team of US vistors at a small village in rural Kenya.

While we routinely see homeless families and children living in shelters here in our community, in Kenya, they are simply living on the streets – even young children.

Boston Marathon Champion and founder of Transcend Academy in Cherangany, Kenya, Wesley Korir, has also worked with the Davis family during their missions. “ Emily and Keith have used their resources and business skills to invest in the needs of Kenyan youth,” Wesley shares. “They led the campaign to build a school building for Transcend, and through their contacts in the WinstonSalem community, they have opened doors for Kenyan youth at Forsyth Country Day School. They see the needs of the world, and they take action.”

Wesley Korir fitting shoes with the Mission: Feet First charity.

Addison Davis pictured with local children in front of the Transcend Academy in Kenya.

Emily tells of a sermon from their family pastor recently, noting the importance of finding a way to “do good for others” in whatever role you find yourself in every single day. That includes being strategic and intentional about how you carry out God’s mission. “ That’s the message Keith, our daughters and I hope to share most,” she says. “You can give back – even if it’s in some small capacity – through the job you find yourself in every day. It takes creativity and maybe getting outside your comfort zone.”

Since 2010, Emily and Keith have continued their Mission: Feet First initiative – for homeless and low-income school children in Forsyth County, and also for prisoners – and they have outfitted thousands of feet with much-needed shoes through the years. They also opened their beautiful Clemmons location in December of 2022.

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Learning how to make faith a large part of their business is something the Davis family works hard at every day. Fleet Feet also works with Bright Beginnings at the YMCA, and recently sponsored a 5K race for local prisoners – boosting spirits and confidence in those who may need it most.

And, the Winston-Salem community is grateful. “ Partnerships are vital for the YMCA,” says Joe Peele, District Vice-President of YMCA Northwest North Carolina.

“Partnering with Fleet Feet is natural, as we both have similar missions of helping and serving all the people in our community. Emily and Keith have set a high bar for just that – serving the community through their business. Their shoe contributions to our annual Bright Beginnings program transformed our ability to provide great footwear to hundreds of kids this year. We are so grateful for their partnership.”

John Greer of New Balance Athletics, Inc. echoes those sentiments: “One of the many things I appreciate about Fleet Feet Winston-Salem is the amount of time and energy they invest in serving the Winston-Salem community. Keith and Emily have big hearts and want to see others improve the quality of their lives. That might be by them putting on races, giving a pair of shoes or simply a big hug. Their Mission: Feet First outreach shows how much they care about the needs of Winston-Salem. I’ve spent time serving with them fitting shoes in the community, and it’s both contagious and inspiring!”

Keith Davis and the Fleet Feet team encouraging a group of local children for a Juneteenth Fun Run.

What would please Emily and Keith like nothing else is for all of us to take a moment and consider learning how we can give back through our daily jobs, as well!

Fleet Feet Winston-Salem is located at 278 Harvey Street in Hanestowne Village Shopping Center, 336.722.8477.

Hours are Monday through Friday 10:00 a.m. - 7:00 p.m., and Saturday 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. and at 6339 Jessie Lane in Clemmons, 336.293.8660. Be sure to follow them on Facebook and Instagram @Fleetfeetws. Learn more about their running gear, fit process and fitness inspiration at Fleetfeetws.com.

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Triad Area Events in November November offers a variety of interesting and exciting events for families to experience in and around the Triad. Here are some of the top offerings: KANSAS: Another Fork in the Road – 50th Anniversary Tour Bojangles Entertainment Complex, Charlotte Nov. 3, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets start at $47 Kansas, the legendary American band that has been entertaining fans for 50 years, is known for such iconic hits as “Carry on Wayward Son” and “Dust in the Wind.”

North Carolina Woodturning Symposium Greensboro Coliseum, Special Events Center Nov. 3-5, various times Tickets $20-$185 This is a world-class woodturning symposium that happens every two years. There will be 48 demonstrations, an exhibit hall of vendors and a pop-up gallery where pros will judge work by attendees.

Della Mae Yadkin Cultural Arts Center Nov. 4, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets $30 Della Mae is a Grammy-nominated all-woman string band founded by Celia Woodsmith, the lead vocalist/guitarist, and Kimber Ludiker, a two-time Grand National champion fiddle player.

Return to the Forbidden Planet Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance Nov. 9-13, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets $19-$21 “Return to the Forbidden Planet” is part “Star Trek,” part jukebox musical. This is a high-energy musical that is packed with rock ‘n’ roll classics.

Alabama: North America Tour Greensboro Coliseum Nov. 11, 7 p.m.

Tickets starting at $39.50 Alabama is a legendary country band that was formed in 1969. They achieved incredible success in the 1980s with 27 number-one hits and multi-platinum albums.

End of the Line: A Tribute to the Allman Brothers Band The Ramkat, Winston-Salem Nov. 11, 8 p.m.

Tickets $20-$40 End of the Line is the premiere Allman Brothers tribute band.

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Foreigner: Farewell Tour Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro Nov. 14, 8 p.m.

Tickets $45-$221 Foreigner’s electrifying mix of blustery blues and wellcrafted pop continues to captivate generations of music fans. Foreigner has sold more than 80 million albums and had multi-platinum success around the world.

The Threads We Follow SECCA, Winston-Salem Nov. 16-March 10, various hours Free This is a group exhibition of fiber-based works by leading artists from around the world. The artists experiment with structure and form to translate their experiences to thread, fabric and hair.

Piedmont Craftsmen’s Fair Benton Convention Center, Winston-Salem Nov. 18-19, 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, noon to 5 p.m. Sunday Tickets $13 for day pass, $20 for weekend This is the 60th annual crafts fair. The fair showcases the handwork of more than 100 fine artisans from across the U.S. They work in clay, wood, glass, fibers, leather, metal, photography, printmaking and mixed media.

Trans-Siberian Orchestra: The Ghosts of Christmas Eve Greensboro Coliseum Nov. 19, 3 p.m. and 7:30 p.m.

Tickets $49 to $109 Trans-Siberian Orchestra, with more than 10 million albums sold, has inspired generations of fans to discover the multi-dimensional art form of the rock opera.

Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro Nov. 21-26, various times Tickets start at $29 Since a two-year stay on Broadway, more than 2 million have been delighted by this heart-warming holiday musical.

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Teach Your Children Well:

Be Kind

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

When

my nephew and his wife were looking for “day care” for their twoyear old son, they knew that they wanted:

Kindness is key to all of it. It’s one of those things you recognize when you give it and especially when you receive it. But first, what is it? Traits that are associated with kindness include:

- a caring provider

- Having empathy for others

- a supportive environment

- Demonstrating good listening skills

- intellectual stimulation and enrichment

- Being “social”

- individualized attention

- Being generous

You know, pretty much what all loving parents want for their own. But these millennial professionals with goals, dreams, and strong values, wanted more: they wanted their little guy to learn cooperation, collaboration – good citizenship, you might say.

They also wanted their little guy to learn kindness.

When I read through his “curriculum” I immediately understood why they selected this particular, small, private center.

I am passionate in believing that we can do a much better job of being good citizens who practice kindness in their daily lives. That starts in the home and extends – or should extend- to school and to the workplace. It’s why I spent nearly 20 years traipsing all over the country developing the relationship and communication skills of corporate professionals.

Through that work, I saw that 99% of people have the ability and willingness to do a better job of connecting with others, of being considerate and compassionate. Well, okay, maybe 95%, but you get the point.

- Being charitable - Being helpful - Being courteous - Being caring and nurturing - Taking another’s perspective Or simply “active gestures born of warm feelings for others.” I know that some folks persist in believing that kindness is a sign of weakness.

I don’t believe this and the research doesn’t bear it out in the least.

Instead, it says that connecting through kindness is good for us: • Physiologically, kindness reduces stress and anxiety, and may also reduce inflammation • It increases feelings of happiness • Gives us more energy – sometimes referred to as a “helper’s high” • And, get this: if you do volunteer work out of a sense of true kindness, makes it more likely that you will live longer.

I am thrilled to confirm the many benefits of kindness, but that’s not the main reason that thinking about, modeling, teaching, and reinforcing kindness makes me happy. For me, having a mom who embodied kindness in the midst of much hardship and difficulty until her last day on earth, I know that it is the “right”, or best way to be in this world. I hope you don’t hear this as a reprimand or a lecture. I don’t mean it that way. Instead, I’d like to encourage a better world for all of us by living from that best place in all of us. When you consider all of this, is it any wonder that many countries around the world, including our very own, celebrate World Kindness Day on November 13th each year?

If you are on the same page, here are three “tips” that can help keep you kindness-centered: • Decide that you will be a kind person, 365 days of the year • Accept that by putting yourself out there in kindness, you will be vulnerable to push back from others • Seize and create opportunities to be kind I can’t wait to go back home during, or just before the holiday season this year. And I can’t wait to see how that grandnephew of mine is blooming in kindness.

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The Dynamic Evolution of Language:

From Pronouns to Emojis

by QUINN BARKER

EVOLUTION OF GRAMMAR RULES Pronoun Usage One of the most significant changes in the English language has been the evolution of pronoun usage. In the past, the generic “he” was commonly used to represent both genders.

However, this practice has evolved in response to a growing awareness of gender diversity and the push for gender-neutral language. As a result, alternatives like “he or she,” “they” or “their” have gained prominence, making our language more inclusive and reflective of a changing society.

Singular “They” Historically, using the singular “they” to refer to an individual with an unknown or nonbinary gender was considered ungrammatical.

However, language is adaptable, and societal progress has led to the acceptance and widespread use of this construction. This shift demonstrates the language’s ability to accommodate changing attitudes towards gender identity, reflecting a more inclusive and respectful approach to communication.

Language,

as a living and dynamic entity, evolves alongside society, culture and technological advancements. Over the years, numerous changes have occurred in grammar rules and linguistic trends, shaping the way we communicate and express ourselves. This article will explore some key transformations that language has undergone, shedding light on how these shifts have influenced our daily interactions and written communication.

Sentence Structure The structure of sentences in English has also evolved over time. Older English favored rigid sentence structures, but modern English has embraced flexibility and variety. Shorter sentences and liberal use of conjunctions and contraction have become more common, mirroring the influence of conversational speech on written communication. This shift allows for more natural and accessible language use.

Influence of Technology The advent of technology, particularly text messaging and social media platforms, has revolutionized how we communicate.

Abbreviations and acronyms like “LOL” (Laugh Out Loud), “BRB” (Be Right Back) and “OMG” (Oh My God/Gosh) have become prevalent in our everyday conversations. These shortcuts, while efficient, have also sparked debates about the impact of technology-driven language on our written communication.

Emojis Emojis have emerged as a crucial element of digital communication. These tiny pictographs transcend language barriers and add emotional nuance to our written expressions. In 2015, the Oxford English Dictionary even incorporated emojis into its lexicon, recognizing their legitimacy as linguistic tools. Emojis have

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become an integral part of our language, allowing us to convey feelings and context in ways that text alone cannot achieve.

Loanwords and Loan Phrases Globalization has accelerated the process of language borrowing. English, in particular, has a knack for assimilating foreign words and phrases into its vocabulary. Words like “sushi” (Japanese), “croissant” (French) and “bungalow” (Hindi) are seamlessly integrated into English, enriching its lexicon and reflecting the interconnectedness of the modern world. This phenomenon demonstrates how language adapts and evolves to embrace diverse influences.

Slang Evolution Informal language, such as slang, undergoes rapid evolution, largely influenced by youth culture and pop culture references. Terms that were popular just a few years ago may quickly become outdated, making it challenging for older generations to keep up with the latest linguistic trends. Slang reflects the dynamic nature of language and the way it responds to cultural shifts.

Internet Memes The internet has given rise to viral memes that often involve creative linguistic twists.

These memes can have a significant impact on language trends, popularizing new phrases or slang globally within a short period. Memes demonstrate how language evolves not only through traditional channels but also through digital culture and humor, which can spread linguistic innovations at an astonishing pace.

Language is a living entity, continuously evolving to adapt to societal changes, technological advancements and cultural influences. As demonstrated by the shifts in grammar rules, the influence of technology, the borrowing of words from other languages and the evolution of slang, language is a dynamic tool that reflects the complexities of human interaction. Embracing these changes fosters better communication and understanding in an ever-changing world, ultimately highlighting the beauty and resilience of language as it continues to evolve over time.

So, the next time you send an emoji or use a newly coined slang term, remember that you are contributing to the ongoing evolution of language, a process that ensures its relevance and vitality in the modern world.

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by DAMIAN DESMOND

HOME SWEET HOME Almost heaven West Virginia Blue Ridge Mountains Shenandoah River ~ John Denver I had been on the hour and a half ride up Interstate 81 to the northernmost part of the Shenandoah Valley plenty of other times. But, this time was different. This time involved a moving truck. My 6th grade year had ended, and I bid farewell to the friends I had made the previous six years. As much as I didn’t want to leave my house in the woods, the bike trails I had ventured on for so many hours of my life, or my best friend, Zane, I knew the move was essential for the family. Up until this point, my adoptive father was only able to come home from Washington, DC on weekends. Now, we were heading to a new home in a small town called Berryville, Virginia so that my father could be with us every evening. That was a good thing. There were other good things, as well.

We would be less than an hour from the nation’s capital which meant more trips to some of my favorite places – the Air and Space Museum, the Smithsonian and the National Zoo just to name a few.

As we headed north, the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains on our right and the Alleghenies on our left, we looked forward to a new chapter of life.

Of course, there was sadness in our hearts, but there was also hope and even a little excitement. I would be starting 7th grade in a new school – a school that happened to be a walk through a neighboring apple orchard. I’ll never forget the warm spring days when I actually walked a little slower than usual – strolling through endless trees that looked like giant puffballs of white and pink cotton candy is something that even a teenage boy can appreciate.

The town of Berryville is a very short distance to “wild wonderful West Virginia.” Over the years, one of our favorite places to visit became the town of Harper’s Ferry. It never got old going to the location where John Brown became famous and where the scenic Shenandoah and Potomac Rivers converged amongst the surrounding mountains.

Speaking of the Shenandoah River, our new home was a quick 10 minute drive from it. My father loaded my younger siblings and myself into the van, and we headed down to the river to give my mom a little peace and quiet. There, on warm days, we waded into the river through the gentle rapids, skipping stones or catching crayfish and salamanders. Other times, I would cast a line in and be delighted by the tug at the end of it as I hooked a small mouth bass.

Times were good there, and even though I still missed my old home and ways of life there, I became accustomed to and fond of my new life.

Every year, in a small neighboring town called White Post, there was a celebration called “White Post Days.” It was truly the type of event one would refer to as “a slice of Americana.” Old fashioned automobiles,

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parades, delicious foods, music and just a general sense of community and love abounded there. When the county we lived in celebrated its 150th anniversary, both my mother and I were in the play that retold the county’s history. It was my first acting experience. A couple years later, I was best supporting actor in my junior class play – not bad if I do say so myself.

Through the years, I made friends at school, joined Boy Scouts, ran cross country and attended church. Berryville was becoming more than just the town we moved to so my father could be home every night. It now held a special place in our hearts. Plus, we were still in the Shenandoah Valley, so it really wasn’t much different from where we had left.

Like all good things, our time and experiences in our little town of Berryville came to an end.

The job that we had moved there for also became the job that would cause us to leave.

The accident that almost took my father’s legs and his life would propel us southward back down the Shenandoah Valley to the farm that we had waited decades to live on. Again, I said goodbye to the people I grew to know and love and prepared myself to start my senior year in a new high school. But this time, it was in the same area we had to move from originally, so it really wasn’t a big deal.

With a few more additions to the family than we had when we moved to Berryville, we packed our things and once again hopped on I-81 South – this time with the Blue Ridge on our left and the Alleghenies on our right.

I was only able to enjoy one full year of living on the farm, but it was a year that I will always cherish.

They say home is where the heart is. Even though I’ve lived in North Carolina for the past 17 years, my heart will forever be a part of the places that I lived in the past. The 27 years worth of memories of gently rolling hills, the lazy Shenandoah river meandering through those hills and the sight of those beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains off in the distance will always be what I consider my home sweet home.

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Child Safety Series Why National Child Safety and Protection Month Matters

by TARYN JEREZ

Each month, this series will provide important facts and tips surrounding child safety in an effort to support parents and caregivers as they navigate reducing risks and creating the safest environment possible for the children in their lives.

Our littlest family members are most vulnerable to some very big risks as they are more susceptible to the dangers of accidents and abuse. November is National Child Safety and Protection month, serving as a reminder that we must be proactive in avoiding injuries and prioritize taking concrete action to protect the kids in our lives.

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This month, we’ve rounded up a top 10 list of general safety categories that every parent and guardian should be knowledgeable on so they can create effective safety strategies. #1 CHILDPROOF YOUR HOME Create a safe environment within your home and other caregivers’ homes for kids to learn, grow and thrive by eliminating safety risks.

Install outlet covers, baby gates and cabinet locks, lock up harmful substances and secure furniture like dressers or TV stands to prevent accidents or falls. #2 TEACH ROAD SAFETY Remind children about the importance of traffic rules such as using crosswalks, looking both ways before crossing the road and waiting for signals and traffic guards to give the signal that it is okay to cross. Reinforce the importance of avoiding dark clothing and wearing reflective accessories or clothing to give drivers increased visibility especially during the darker mornings and/or evenings. #3 BODY & BOUNDARIES Discuss body autonomy and the importance of respecting their own and others’ body boundaries. Make sure they understand what safe and unsafe touch is, anatomically correct body part names and what to say and how to assert themselves when something doesn’t feel right. #4 STRANGER DANGER & STRANGE BEHAVIOR Unfortunately, we have to teach kids that not all adults are safe adults. Remind them to be aware of their surroundings, not accept anything from unfamiliar grown ups and to always trust their instincts if something feels wrong or uncomfortable.

#5 CYBER SAFETY In today’s digital age, it is crucial to educate children about online safety! Teach them about the risks associated with sharing personal information online and the importance of using strong passwords. Encourage open communication so they feel comfortable discussing any concerning online experiences knowing they can reach out to you or another trusted adult. #6 BULLYING PREVENTION Discuss bullying with your child, and emphasize the importance of treating others with kindness and respect. Teach them strategies to handle bullying and unwanted behavior, such as seeking help from a grown up or teacher. Encourage them to be an advocate for others who may be experiencing bullying as well. #7 PERSONAL HYGIENE & WELLNESS Sickness can result in short term and long term health issues.

Promote good hygiene practices such as washing hands frequently, covering their mouths when coughing or sneezing, and using hand sanitizers when necessary. Reinforce the importance of using tissues and disposing of them properly. #8 EMERGENCY PREPAREDNESS Discuss emergency procedures with children using ageappropriate language that they can understand. This includes fire drills, lockdown drills, inclement weather procedures and evacuation plans. Teach them the importance of listening to instructions from adults and staying calm during emergencies.

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#9 FIRE SAFETY Teach your child about overall fire safety, including the importance of not playing with matches, lighters or electrical outlets, or handling kitchen appliances that can pose a risk without proper supervision. Establish a fire escape plan, and conduct regular fire drills at home. #10 EMERGENCY COMMUNICATION Provide children with emergency contact information including your cell phone number and work number in the event they need to alert you to something. Practice memorizing this information for kids of all ages. Be sure they understand that calling 911 or alerting authorities for any reason other than a true emergency is a crime and never something we joke around about.

Taking Action When an Incident Occurs Always have a first aid kit easily accessible as well as any important documents such as lists of medications your child is currently taking and phone numbers for contact information for pediatricians and emergency contacts. If you are unsure about the severity or care of an injury but have concern, don’t wait to head to your nearest emergency room or call 911.

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The Triad’s Holiday Family Tradition Takes a New Stage The

holidays are fast approaching, and it’s time to start planning how to make the most of this festive season. Make sure your holiday plans include the extraordinary display of dance, music and stage magic at “The Nutcracker,” a beloved tradition in the Triad, presented annually by the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA).

This year, UNCSA’s acclaimed production of “The Nutcracker” is moving locations. UNCSA will present five dazzling performances from December 7th through 10th at the Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts in Greensboro while the Stevens Center in Winston-Salem undergoes a longawaited renovation.

The performances will take place Thursday, December 7th at 7:30 p.m.; Friday, December 8th at 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, December 9th at noon and 7:30 p.m.; and Sunday, December 10th at 2 p.m.

Individual ticket prices vary by seat location, beginning at $31. But, please note, they are selling fast, so be sure to purchase yours soon at TangerCenter.com. Optional upgrades include on-site VIP parking, Lee & Wrangler Lounge access and the Tanger Center’s pre-event Prelude Dining experience for select performances.

This year, UNCSA Chancellor Brian Cole will take the podium to conduct the UNCSA Symphony Orchestra for Tchaikovsky’s cherished ballet. Cole joined UNCSA as Dean of the School of Music in 2016. An accomplished conductor, he has led orchestras and operas throughout the United States, Europe, South America and the Caribbean.

A truly impressive collaborative project, the UNCSA schools of Dance, Design & Production and Music come together each year to produce the heralded ballet.

The temporary move to the Tanger Center is a great opportunity for the university as it will provide students

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the unique experience of mounting and performing a production in a 3,000-seat, state-of-the-art venue a short distance from UNCSA. “ We are so excited to bring the special UNCSA tradition of ‘The Nutcracker’ to the Tanger Center this year,” said UNCSA Chancellor Brian Cole. “It is our great privilege to be able to provide our students with the experience of creating and performing in this fantastic venue and to reach new audiences in Greensboro and beyond.” “ The Tanger Center is delighted to host UNCSA’s production of ‘The Nutcracker’ for the first time,” said Greensboro Coliseum Complex and Tanger Center Managing Director Matt Brown. “We hope that having the school’s wonderful annual production in Greensboro at our magnificent venue will help expand the audience for this beloved community tradition.”

Debuting on December 10, 1966, at Winston-Salem’s Reynolds Auditorium, UNCSA’s rendition of “The Nutcracker” has since been reimagined, recreated and refreshed numerous times. Amid the challenges posed by the COVID-19 pandemic, UNCSA engaged in a groundbreaking interdisciplinary collaboration between the schools of Filmmaking, Design & Production, Music and Dance to create a filmed adaptation of the production. This enduring Winston-Salem tradition, which has consistently earned accolades from both critics and ardent audiences, maintains its reputation year after year. In 2023, the production will once again feature choreography by UNCSA faculty member Ilya Kozadayev and the artistic touch of guest lighting designer Penny Jacobus.

Mercedes-Benz of Greensboro and Mercedes-Benz of Winston-Salem are the presenting sponsors of the 2023 production of “The Nutcracker.”

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Unique and Charming Hostess Gifts for Your Next Holiday Soiree

by MEGAN TAYLOR

It’s

the holiday season which can mean one thing – more parties and gatherings to attend. Whether it is Thanksgiving, Friendsgiving, Christmas or another type of get-together, the next few weeks will be filled with invitations and RSVPs. It is traditional southern etiquette to never go to someone’s house empty handed. Some of the usual gifts to give hostesses are candy, candles, wine and dish towels.

However, a hostess can only have so many of those objects.

Think outside of the box these next two months and bring a unique and charming present to any event where you are a guest. A gift that is out of the ordinary shows you took the extra step and effort to say “thank you for having me.” Better yet, be sure to make that present personal for the hostess. Don’t know where to start? I’ve got a few ideas for you.

• Soap with a scent personalized to the hostess. Most of the time soap isn’t one of the first thoughts for a gift. Yet, it is used by everyone and makes the perfect one! Before purchasing, think about your host and their likes/dislikes.

Then, get a soap that fits his or her personality, favorite smells and home decor.

• Hand soap and/or lotion. Another present filled with variety.

There are so many cute sets on the market that make a quick grab and go gift.

• Pop-open cards. There are multiple sets of pop-open cards that match a person’s style. These deck of cards are similar to paper cards and have inspiring messages related to a certain topic on the inside. Topics for decks can include thoughtfulness, mindfulness, motivational and gratitude sayings.

• Cheese set complete with a charcuterie board and serving utensils. Charcuterie boards are all the rage right now, and who doesn’t love cheese?

Big or small, this gift is just right for any holiday gathering.

• S’mores kit and maker. A nostalgic gift that people can enjoy all year long and can be store-bought or homemade. In this kit, provide all the needed ingredients for s’mores: graham crackers, marshmallows and Hershey’s chocolate bars. Then, purchase small roasting sticks and an electronic tabletop burner. This idea also works for any time of sweet or salty treat combination. Soup kits with mixes and crackers is another option. Lastly, a pancake mix, bottle of syrup and bottle of jam, placed into a mixing bowl with a whisk is a crowdpleasing choice, as well.

• Puzzle. There are so many options to explore when giving a puzzle. You could get a print of your hostess’ favorite vacation spot, a beloved flower, animal, time period, etc. Puzzles are extremely customized gifts that send extra love to the party host.

• Miniature wooden games.

Checkers or chess, miniature wooden games add an extra level of fun to any event. Plus, they also provide a great source of entertainment for the host and his or her family afterwards. Dominoes is another favorite!

• Personalized stationery. The art of handwriting has never gone out of style, and this present proves just that.

Personalized stationery can either be notecards, letter paper or a notepad. Don’t forget to include a pretty pen for writing!

• A cookbook that fits the host’s style for food. Baking, cocktails, dinner recipes – there is a cookbook out there perfect for the chef.

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• A seasoning and spice collection. Not just your regular salt and pepper, oregano and rosemary, sending a seasoning and spice collection as a hostess gift will elevate dishes and meals.

While it is nice to get the everyday spices, take it up a notch and create a collection of unique flavors such as chili flakes, a Middle Eastern blend, Italian blend or peppercorns.

• Customized coasters. There is a type of coaster out there to suit any style. Whether it matches their home decor or represents their personality, coasters are a can’t miss hostess gift.

When it comes to finding the perfect hostess gift, first think about your hosts and what they enjoy. Then, go from there and personalize a gift just for them. Don’t feel as if you need to spend tons of money. $20 or less is all you need. Remember, it is the thought that counts!

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back to the Fancy Fork! Your seasonal produce insight and farmstyle recipes that are made to satisfy.

The month of November is an exciting time because the holidays and all the joy they encompass has officially arrived! All of Grandma’s nostalgic baked goods, your mom’s iconic holiday appetizers, everything warm and cozy. The holidays bring about some of the best recipes!

Now that the weather is chillier, you’ll find hearty vegetables like broccoli, Brussels sprouts, carrots, cabbage, cauliflower, celery, eggplant, hearty greens, onions, parsnips, potatoes, pumpkins, sweet potatoes, turnips and winter squashes in abundance. In the fruit aisle, you’ll find stone fruits like persimmons and pomegranates, as well as bananas, pears, cranberries, dates, kiwi and clementines.

This month’s recipe will be highlighting the powerful health benefits of carrots, and they’re ability to boost your immune system this winter season. Carrots have been studied to promote healthy vision, balance your blood sugar, balance your hormones, may lower risk of certain cancers, help with blood pressure regulation, boost brain health and may reduce risk of heart disease. In addition, the vitamin C in carrots helps your body build antibodies that defend your immune system. This vitamin C also helps your body take in and use iron more effectively to prevent infections.

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ROASTED CARROT & TOMATO SOUP (Immune Boosting)

PREP. TIME: 10 MINUTES | COOK TIME: 25 MINUTES TOTAL TIME: 35 MINUTES | SERVES: 4-5

INGREDIENTS 4 large Tomatoes, quartered 1 cup Cherry Tomatoes

2 c ups Vegetable Stock or Bone Broth 1 cup Whole Milk

4 large Carrots, chopped (about 2 cups)

1/4 cup Heavy Cream

1/2 Yellow Onion, chopped

1h ead of Garlic, slice the very top off to reveal garlic cloves

1/ 4 cup 100% Extra Virgin Olive Oil

1 tsp. Salt

1/ 4 cup Fresh Basil (or other herbs like oregano, rosemary and thyme)

1 tsp. Black Pepper

INSTRUCTIONS 1. P reheat oven to 450°F. Line large rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper.

2. A dd the chopped tomatoes, carrots, onion, head of garlic and fresh basil to the prepared pan.

3. S eason the vegetables with salt and black pepper. Drizzle generously with the olive oil. Toss all vegetables together until coated in the olive oil.

4. R oast for 25-35 minutes, until tomatoes are juicy and carrots are fork tender.

5. W hen cool enough to touch, squeeze the roasted garlic cloves into a food processor.

6. T ransfer the remaining roasted vegetables to the food processor with the broth, milk and heavy cream. (You may have to work in batches.)

7. B lend until smooth and creamy.

8. I f needed, reheat on the stovetop to desired warmth. Season with salt and black pepper to taste.

9. S erve warm with grilled cheese sandwiches. Add a drizzle of olive oil and heavy cream for garnishing. Enjoy!

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The POWER of Board Games and Critical Thinking for Children

by MEGAN TAYLOR

It’s

family game night. You and your loved ones are sitting

down for a fun version of Monopoly.

This economic-based game has your family members winning or losing money, collecting $200, buying, trading and developing properties, all with the intention of causing their opponents to go into bankruptcy. But, did you know that while playing Monopoly, your children are learning and developing necessary life skills?

Board games aren’t just for fun; they can also be useful educational tools when it comes to helping children build critical thinking skills. In addition, these tabletop games allow children to think creatively and make decisions quickly based on the information given to them in a moment.

Children are allowed to think in multiple ways about multiple choices and in multiple environments. Problem-solving, logical thinking, critical thinking and decision making are all essential skills that will help children develop in school and towards adulthood.

According to the article, “Developing Thinking Skills through Board Games” on the website Potential Plus UK, these essential skills are utilized because, through board games, children are “planning with a restrictive amount of choice, managing and prioritizing limited resources, thinking ahead, predicting what others may do, evaluating advantages and disadvantage of different moves, staying ahead while remembering and adhering to the rules, processing sets of information simultaneously, and practicing flexibility in playing the same game differently each time.”

Through playing board games, there is regular repetition and practice with memory and information processing which can lead to academic growth. In addition, children can learn about teamwork, patience and how to win and lose gracefully.

Among these skills, language development is boosted and anxiety can decrease. There are certain games that help students grow their vocabulary and spelling, as well as, reading comprehension. As for anxiety, games provide structure and teamwork with all players working towards a common goal. Conversations are formed, easing the anxiety and stress some children can feel when working with and meeting others.

Sounds like board games are a win for all!

If you would like to be strategic in planning your family game nights, there are specific games, such as the ones below, for different age groups that can develop these skills. However, any game you choose does help form these skills in one way or another.

• Settlers of Catan - This board game, for older children, pops up on multiple suggestion lists for forming essential skills. In this game, players settle the island of Catan by gaining resources, building roads and other elements of a society. Probability, decision making and critical thinking are all utilized, plus other skills. There are also junior versions of the game for younger players.

• Yeti in My Spaghetti - Geared towards younger children, Yeti in My Spaghetti focuses on growing a child’s fine motor skills, handeye coordination, visual motor and perceptual skills, attention and organization. Through this game, they are pulling strands of spaghetti out of a bowl, while trying to not let the yeti fall into the bowl.

• Guess Who? - A beloved game with many benefits for kids of all ages!

Guess Who? gives children opportunities to solve a mystery by figuring out who the person on the other player’s card is by asking questions and processing information.

• Race to the Treasure - Great for ages five plus, Race to the Treasure, allows players to design a course to the treasure before the Ogre gets to it. Basic graphing skills are put to use, as well as, organization and following instructions.

• Mancala - This two player game is 3,000 years old and has withheld the test of time. Basic math skills, logic and planning skills are practiced when players try to capture the other person’s marbles.

Classic games such as Go Fish, Old Maid, Scrabble, UNO, etc. are great options, as well. Any time a child plays a board game, learning is happening and they are growing more than we realize.

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The PLAGUE of PERFECTIONISM

by JEN OLENICZAK BROWN Perfectionism is truly the root of so many awful things.

Think about where it comes from: studies show the root cause is basing your self-worth on your achievements.

If your parents were highly critical, rigid, had high expectations, or shamed you – you probably struggle with perfectionism.

And that’s just where it comes from!

Perfectionism can hold you back immensely. The anxiety that comes in when you’re experiencing moments of perfectionism can be jarring at best and completely stop work and progress at worse. So how do we handle the plague of perfectionism in our lives? Read on for a path to get you started.

Self-Awareness Congrats! You’ve already done the first step: understanding that you don’t want perfectionist tendencies all the time. Self-awareness and practiced mindfulness can raise your understanding of your perfectionism – and when you understand it, you can not only see when and where it shows up, you can answer one of the biggest perfectionism questions: when does it help me and when does it harm me?

This question seems like it should have a black and white answer – but it doesn’t!

Looking at something as helpful or harmful, depending on the situation, is a much easier place to start than trying to get rid of perfectionism altogether. For example, there will be some things I am thrilled to tap into my perfectionism for – and others, it just holds me back.

It’s all about determining if in that specific situation – does perfectionism help what you’re trying to accomplish or do, or does it hold you back and harm progress?

Practice Makes Progress This was one of the hardest things for me to grasp: when you work on something for an extended period, sometimes frustration sets in when you’re not “nailing it” soon. Tracking progress over perfection in the situations that you’ve determined are not served by perfectionism will help you increase your skill set and make moves in the right – whatever that is – direction.

It’s important here not just to brush off and say “Yeah, yeah I have progress, whatever,” but to actively track that progress and see how far you’ve come.

Balance the Good and the Not Great Too often I see people talk about all the things they have to improve on and none of the things they already do well or are seeing improvement on.

This is a trap.

If you’re never celebrating any of the things that you’re succeeding in – how are you going to get better at the things you’re struggling with? This isn’t encouraging you to be all sunshine and

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rainbows all the time – this is encouraging you to understand that you need to focus on your “grows” – things that you need to improve on – and your “glows” – the things you do well.

An easy trick: balance this on a one-toone. Have one grow for every one glow.

That way you’re realistic and not tearing yourself down or ignoring all the progress you could be making.

Mistakes are OK This is easier said than done right? A mistake might not feel ok – but what about constructive feedback? If you get some feedback on something that isn’t quite right, how do you respond? If you find yourself getting defensive and making excuses for your feedback, you’re doing it wrong. That feedback is there to HELP you – someone isn’t pointing out your mistakes for the sake of pointing out mistakes!

Next time you get some constructive feedback, do one of two things: say thank you and digest it, or ask questions about it (if you don’t fully understand) then say thank you and digest it.

You don’t have to follow the feedback to a ‘T’ – you should appreciate that someone took the time to try to help you get better at something.

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Pit Master Tip: For this recipe, I used leftover pulled pork, but you can use beef, brisket or chicken, if you prefer. I like the thick cut cheese as it melts better while frying. I like using pico as a topper, but you can use salsa verde or anything else that you may like. All of the ingredients can be found at Food Lion.

Here’s what you’ll need: 1/ 2 pound of leftover pulled pork 6-8 Wonton wrappers ¼ cup Hot sauce ½ cup Pico de gallo

by BRIAN JARED Instagram handle @Winstonsalem_nc_bbq With fall and football underway, these make a great appetizer for Game Day!

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The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective

In letting go, we discover the truth.

by A. KEITH TILLEY

Music

has a way of touching our hearts and minds like very few other entertainment mediums. Perhaps because music allows the mind to conjure up whatever memory it chooses to associate with the melody and the lyrics. Most of us have certain songs that remind us of a particular moment in our lives, a specific event or something that stands out not necessarily because of the importance, but because of the memory it left behind. It could be the song playing in the background during the experience. For other songs, it’s not the association we have with an event or memory in our lives that makes it stand out to us. It’s the lyrics that resonate with us on a deeper, more meaningful level. I heard one such song that I can relate to not long ago, especially with being a dad.

In the song “Old Pen”

by Cody Francis, the artist gives advice, first from an old man to a young man, which is then passed on from that young man, now turned older, to another young person. The chorus goes, “Son when you grow up you’ll be fine. I know you’ve got questions on your mind. Life is gonna happen, one way or the other, whether you like it or not.

So, stop looking for the answer and you’ll find, what you’ve got.”

Having been a father for a long while now, this song resonates with me as it relates to raising a young boy into a man. As a dad, I’m programmed to constantly be teaching. Whether it’s lessons, advice, words of caution or simply how to do things, it doesn’t matter, that’s just what you do. I think it’s because a dad knows instinctively that he’s not raising a boy, he’s raising a man. So, his efforts are intended for that purpose.

Though the words in this song are simple, the advice and message are impactful in their meaning. Most older persons are wise, earned from their knowledge acquired from learning and quite simply, more experience with life itself. As we learn life’s abundant lessons often, we can’t put into words all the things we actually know about a particular experience. Yet, songs like this one, help express those lessons in the most simplistic and productive way.

In its message, we remove our eyes from the microscope and fly high in the clouds above the situation. We can see the bigger picture there, and only then can we understand what we need to do. Chalk that up to lessons I wish I’d known when I was younger.

As the old saying notes, we have trouble seeing the forest for all the trees. We’re so hung up in the details of everyday life that sometimes we lose track of what’s most important.

Which is, the moments, the people and the experiences we have every day, of which we can’t lose sight. It’s those everyday moments that shape our lives and even who we are. In the words of Adrienne Maloof, businesswoman and entrepreneur, “May you find INSPIRATION in the big picture, but may you find LOVE in the details.”

From an emotional perspective, everyone at one point or another thinks they’re the only ones experiencing a certain feeling, unique situation or thought. There’s an expression in marketing that for every one complaint from a customer, there are a hundred others that just didn’t take the time to write a letter or email. Trust me, when you think you’re alone in your situation, feelings or thoughts about something, the truth is more likely that you’re not. Sometimes, it’s as simple as knowing this truth that makes it easier to manage, overcome and resolve.

This is why I like this song, as it addresses both the emotional and the literal response we have towards things in our lives. Things are going to happen, one way or the other, whether we like it or not.

So, let’s take a moment to stop looking for the answer, and instead, see what we have that’s right in front of us. Then, use that to our benefit, to shine a light on where we go and what we do next.

Simon Sinek, a renowned philosopher of great wisdom and advice, said, “The big picture doesn’t just come from distance; it also comes from time.”

The wisdom to stop looking so hard, though, can be just the advice we need to hear.

Now, take a listen to “Old Pen” by Cody Francis, and see if you agree.

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The Richard Petty Comedy Roast – A Night Fit For The King photos by ROBERT CRAWFORD

The Rotary Club of Western Forsyth held The Richard Petty Comedy Roast on September 26, 2023 at the Benton Convention Center to raise money for the Petty Family Foundation and other worthwhile non profits.

NASCAR personalities Winston Kelley, Darrel Waltrip, Michael Waltrip, Donnie Allison, Dale Inman, Kyle Petty along with comedians Ricky Mokel, Dale Jones and Ritch Shydner with Phil Ford, Marilyn Green and Cindy Farmer all roast the King of NASCAR Richard Petty. The event was presented by Sessions Specialty Company and Lewis and Keller Attorneys. The culmination of the event was Truliant Federal Credit Union presenting Richard Petty and his daughter Rebecca Moffit, the president of the Petty Family Foundation, a Lifetime Achievement Award and Nonprofit Organization of the Year Award.

Richard Petty is the winningest name in NASCAR history, with a legacy that extends from patriarch Lee, to his son Richard, and grandson Kyle. But, success in racing isn’t the family’s only contribution to the world of sports and beyond.

Ever since he started racing in 1958, Richard would always take time after each race to sign autographs for children and adults who had stood in long lines for a glimpse of the King. It was Richard’s way of saying thanks and giving back to his fans. And, at a time when a driver’s wife quietly supported her husband behind the scenes, Richard’s beloved wife Lynda was busy helping to start the Women’s Auxiliary of Motorsports, one of the oldest charities in NASCAR.

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It is in this spirit of giving that the Petty Family Foundation was created in 2008. The mission of the Foundation is to unlock potential of those in need by providing financial support to organizations, agencies and schools who are engaged in improving quality of life for people of all ages, with a particular focus on helping children and veterans.

In that regard, The Petty Family Foundation partners with other non-profit organizations to achieve a positive, long-term impact in our greater community. Organizations who benefit by support from the Foundation include: · Randolph Community College · Victory Junction · Operation North State · Disaster and Hardship Relief · Hospice of Randolph County · Ricky Proehl P.O.W.E.R. of Play Merriam-Webster defines an icon as “a person widely admired for having great influence or significance in a particular sphere.” That being the case, there should be an image of Richard Petty next to the definition of “icon” in every dictionary.

He is an honest, down to Earth person who will spend hours at a time signing autographs, and most of all he has used his notoriety to help others, especially through The Petty Family Foundation which supports non-profit groups that serve everyone from wounded veterans to at-risk youth.

“It’s important for those of us, who can give back, do so,” said Richard.

“We made sure to instill that belief in our children”.

Richard Petty was born in Level Cross where he and his brother learned how to work on cars by helping his famous father Lee, himself a stock car champion. Then, in 1958, Lee let Richard start racing on his own, and he kept racing for 34 years.

Not surprisingly, Richard has amassed a slew of honors over the years including being a member of the first class inducted into both the NASCAR Hall of Fame and the Motorsports Hall of Fame of America. He is also the first motorsports athlete to receive the Presidential Medal of Freedom.

Petty has the most wins in NASCAR history (200), championships (7), won the Daytona 500 a record seven times, and holds the record for most wins in a season (27 in 1967).

Today, the King is a cultural icon, sporting his signature Charlie One Horse cowboy hat and sunglasses everywhere he goes. He’s also appeared on television and in films, including providing the voice of his own race car in two animated movies.

Richard put stock car racing on the map at a time when television mainly covered baseball and football.

Richard is famous for driving fast and, at age 86, he’s showing no signs of slowing down.

In fact, he is one of the busiest celebrities in the world. “He’s hard to keep up with,” said his daughter Rebecca. “Now I know how all those drivers that he beat used to feel.”

Richard Petty is a true icon, and an honored son of North Carolina.

Richard Petty is “The King.”

Damian Birkel is a member of the Rotary Club of Western Forsyth, a HarperCollins Leadership Author and Founder of Professionals In Transition® which is one of America’s oldest non-profits dealing exclusively with helping people find work and is celebrating over 30 years of service to our community.

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Savoring Tradition and Family Legacy

Little Richard’s BBQ for the Holidays

by MARTIE EMORY

As

the holiday season approaches, there’s no better way to share the love of authentic North Carolina flavors than by catering your Christmas gatherings with Little Richard’s BBQ. The mouthwatering goodness on your table is the result of generations of love and dedication to original recipes. It imparts a comforting “at-home” feeling that warms hearts.

Generations of authentic Lexington-style recipes are the heart and soul of Little Richard’s, a legacy that now thrives at five locations. Their commitment to preserving North Carolina’s culinary roots is unwavering, evident in every detail of their operation.

This dedication translates into the meticulous preparation of fresh pork shoulders, which are hickory smoked for a staggering 16 hours, using the “old-fashioned way” passed down through generations.

The story of Little Richard’s began in 1991 in Winston-Salem. Over the years, their business expanded to include Clemmons, Yadkinville, Mt. Airy, Walkertown, and the newest addition, “Bar-N-Que” on Stratford Road in WinstonSalem. Today, each Little Richard’s location is a testament to family ownership and operation, carried forward by members of both the first and second generations of the Karagiorgis family.

For a limited time, Little Richard’s is presenting their annual Holiday Special for just $100.

This package includes four pounds of BBQ, two half gallons of sides, a dozen buns, and a bottle of their signature BBQ sauce. It easily serves 10 people and is a perfect addition to your holiday dinner table. The Holiday Special is available for pick-up throughout the holiday season.

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Catering options abound, offering a variety of delights, including chopped BBQ, BBQ chicken, smoked wings, brisket, or ribs. These main courses are accompanied by a selection of classic sides that include BBQ slaw, cole slaw, baked beans, collard greens, green beans, mac and cheese, pinto beans, and potato salad.

Beverages and desserts are also available. If you opt for full-service catering, an on-site staff is available for buffet-style service (please note that there is a 75-person minimum for fullservice catering).

The holiday season is a time to celebrate traditions, and few traditions in North Carolina are as cherished as the art of barbecue. Little Richard’s BBQ has mastered this tradition to perfection, offering a holiday feast that brings families together around the dinner table.

As you savor the delectable flavors of Little Richard’s BBQ this holiday season, you’re not just indulging in exceptional food; you’re also supporting a resilient family legacy. Throughout the challenges of the past years, including the pandemic, the Karagiorgis family and their dedicated team at Little Richard’s BBQ have shown unwavering commitment to their employees and the community.

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What’s Pregnancy Like While Swimming with the Sharks...

Recovering From an Eating Disorder?

by TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN GUEST BLOGGER MICHELLE SPELL

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you ever been to a theme park and waited in line to take a character picture all to have one of your kids adamantly stay out of the picture? We had that in Epcot years ago but couldn’t understand why until we pressed the issue with our oldest son, Isaiah. His reasoning, in his mind, was absolutely logical but 100% adorable and quite funny to us!

Not Quite!

When Isaiah was young, around the age when kids start losing their baby teeth, he åapproached me with sad eyes and a trembling voice and asked me if I would ever consider getting a pool. I just thought he was asking out of sheer desire, but his sadness made me dig a little deeper. He wouldn’t reveal why he was so sad, but he was insistent that we needed a pool.

A few weeks had passed, and as we were getting ready for bed, I could hear Isaiah brushing his teeth. I popped in to see him, and that’s when he burst into tears and asked me, “If I turn into a shark, promise me you will get a pool and keep me!”

Turns out, his baby teeth had not fallen out like all his friends but rather his adult teeth grew in directly behind them, and he thought perhaps he was turning into a shark. Even after we explained to him that he would not turn into a shark, he apparently decided sharks would not be among his favorite creatures!

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Fast forward a few years and, without thinking, I signed him up for the local swim team, The Sharks. All throughout the spring, he saw the advertisements on the lake “Come swim with the Sharks!”

Apparently, he thought we had signed him up to literally swim with sharks. All summer, he thought there were sharks in the lake swimming below him. That must have been terrifying!

So, now that we know where his dislike for sharks has come from, we can laugh about it; but when we visited Epcot and Isaiah wouldn’t take the picture with Bruce, we were not so happy!

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It’s a Grand Grand Life Taking Care of Grandchildren

by SUSAN WOODALL

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while back, I was asked to stay with my two youngest grandchildren while their parents embarked on an overseas trip which had been months in the planning. I was thrilled for them and looked forward to spending half the time they would be gone caring for my little loves.

It was wonderful for my own sense of self to know that they had enough trust in my abilities that they were comfortable and confident that all would be well on the home front. My daughter left pages of notes about what they liked for lunches and dinners (helpful since their tastes seemed to change daily), their schedules, bedtimes, clothes for school (they have uniforms), the dogs’ food and medicine, money (a nice gesture, but not necessary), insurance information, etc.

My duties began when I picked them up from school. They both wanted to talk at once, so I got bits and pieces of what they each did that day. Their voices got louder as they attempted to talk over each other. Fortunately, the school isn’t too far away. After pulling into the driveway and getting them unbuckled from their car seats, they both bolted to the front door. I “pack muled” their backpacks, which I swear weighed 30 pounds each, into the house. Five minutes in the house found both of them immersed in their iPads. This gave me a chance to unload their backpacks, find the homework that needed to be done and clean out their lunchboxes (making a mental note of what was eaten and what remained in the same state it was in that

morning). Behind my back, snacks started disappearing from the pantry, so dinner was not well received. I patted myself on the back for getting them in their beds only half an hour later than when they were supposed to be there.

As a night owl, I had trouble falling asleep knowing that I had to be up by 6:45am at the latest. The seven-year-old was already awake, and the five-year-old was easy to get going. Dressed, breakfast finished, the dogs’ morning routine completed, backpacks set to go and then…? I had been so proud of myself for having plenty of time to get them to school on time, but the struggle ensued.

Suddenly, hair wasn’t fixed properly, the wrong shoes appeared, the socks didn’t feel right and the car seat didn’t want to fasten. And, though we weren’t the last car to pull in, we almost were.

The next morning showed marked improvement, though I was still way behind on sleep. I got in the pickup line earlier than usual and was surprised I didn’t have to wait long for them. On the ride home, the five-year-old said he was cold. The car was cool, but certainly not cold, so I said a quick prayer that he was okay – he wasn’t. The next several hours had him going from a fever, to his rallying like he was fine, to eventually spiking a high fever that got him to the doctor’s office as quickly as possible. He was tested for three different illnesses, but all came back negative. He got home, fell asleep on the sofa, woke up and was back to his old self. I was glad, but also, what the heck was that about?

I loved being with them, being there experiencing their day-to-day activities, making sure they did what was expected of them, though I didn’t like having to use my “Mom” voice every now and then. Watching my grandson construct amazing structures with Magna-Tiles and my granddaughter do ballet around the living room made the five days a wonderful experience – although, I could have done without the fever scare.

I will admit, it was nice to see my son-in-law’s parents take over for the next five days. I was looking forward to a long night of peaceful sleep. Unfortunately, our dog decided the wind was blowing a weird way, and she wanted me to know it by barking as loudly as she could at 7am. Oh well, sleep is overrated.

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Why We Need To Pay It Forward

by RENEE SKUDRA

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a difficult day, albeit a resplendently beautiful fall one, with autumn colors shooting their vibrant and riotous tones into the world, I felt an overwhelming sense of despair. The landlord had raised our rent almost $500/month, my Toyota had gotten smashed in a cryptic hit-and-run by an elderly woman with a beehive hairdo, the bathroom sink had decided to get stopped up once again with the bathtub joining it in unsurprising housing disharmony, and my first cousin had declared that she would never speak to me again because I didn’t empathize with her 110 degree South Florida weather. I suddenly thought about comic Robin Williams’ comment that “everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

I was part of that metric. I picked up my phone and called one of the smartest people I know – a former science professor who had been a mentor for many years. I asked if he had a solution to obviate a tidal wave of grief and anxiety and, at that very moment, I recalled a therapist friend telling me “ask for help if you need it. Don’t delay.”

I couldn’t dial quickly enough.

The advice that my teacher gave me was literally heart-stopping. “Stop focusing on yourself and lift others up.

Be that rising tide that lifts all boats and stop thinking about how you’re sinking yourself.” I suddenly felt ashamed of the pity party I was so adept at throwing myself. As serendipity would have it, I had been reading one of my favorite authors – the Victorian novelist Henry James – and was almost finished with his magnum opus “The Ambassadors.” That was despite interminable interruptions from complaining family members, the Medicare Supplement people who phoned three times every day, the dog

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who insisted on invariably walking every hour and two successive power outages which bathed my home in darkness for 13 solid hour intervals. There, on a bookmark, was something I had written weeks ago that James had said: “Three things in human life are important.

The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” I mentioned this to my professor friend who agreed with the writer and reiterated powerful words about shifting the focus on self to that of others.

I needed that push or, as some would say, the epiphany of Earth-shattering insight to change my ways. Dolly Parton had a part in that, too – her saying “if people don’t have a smile, give them yours.” I spent the next 24 hours beaming at folks, handing out compliments (but heartfelt ones), driving up to Duke Energy and Spectrum trucks and telling the employees “thank you for your service.”

I let shoppers in the market go ahead of me, paid for someone’s Starbucks latte and insisted that an apparently unhappy-that-he-couldn’t-find-parking person take the space directly in front of the Carolina Theater (even though it meant I had to walk three blocks from the only other place I located on a busy Saturday night. Even that was okay because my physician told me “you need to exercise”). Suddenly, the narrative became, thank you for the opportunity to do some walking because I needed to do that for my health.

I was finally on a psychological roll. My professor friend sent me an email: “Be an encourager. Give people treats. You know the way you give your Bichon Frise treats, just give people the equivalent in the form of psychologically supportive and empathic treats.” The minute I started to run and open doors for

others, hand out hugs, do errands for neighbors who were medically frail and housebound, my life literally changed.

I am here to testify that wonderful things happen when you circulate acts of kindness – they are magnifiers for other events.

An act of kindness sends out proverbial ripples which continue to multiply.

The Swedish blogger (Henrik) that I followed had advice that buoyed me up – let other people shine, go the extra mile, be a ray of sunshine even on your darkest day. The simplicity of the advice I had been given changed the architecture of my life. Shortly thereafter, I happened upon an article

by Jim Dodson, a local writer, who mentioned in an article – “The Kindness of Strangers” – that his father had told him “If you are nothing else in life, being kind will take you to wonderful places.”

The funny thing about spreading kindness was that my depression dissipated. Exchanging a lens of despair for one of throwing light rays at others, gave me a way of navigating a new life which leaned strongly in the direction of hope. It wasn’t even very hard to pick up the phone and call the cousin who had kicked me to the curb. When she answered the phone, I said “I know you aren’t ever going to talk to me again, but at least know that I love you a bushel and a peck.” In one fell swoop, the preexisting acrimony dissolved.

When I put out a huge swatch of wild bird seed for the local denizens (birds, chipmunks, squirrels), a passerby remarked “do you really need to do that?” I said, very simply, it seems like the right thing to do, to be kind if one is able. As the poet Wallace Stevens averred, “I go by going.” Kindness is something I plan on doing, and I’m grateful to be its vehicle whenever the opportunity presents.

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SATURDAYS THROUGH DECEMBER COBBLESTONE FARMERS MARKET

8:30am-12pm, 1007 Marshall Street in W-S. Welcome to your weekly outdoor grocer. Shop local, sustainable farmers and producers onsite with live music.

NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 9 POSTPARTUM SUPPORT GROUP

9-10:30am, Burke Street Chiropractic, 1016 Burke Street in W-S. The group will run for six weeks. Space is limited; registration required. Visit prctriad.com/events to sign up!

NOVEMBER 1

FACE TO FACE: DAYMOND JOHN 7:30-9:30pm, Wait Chapel.

This speaker forum brings world-class speakers to Winston-Salem on an annual basis. Daymond John is an entrepreneur best known for his commentary on ABC’s critically acclaimed business reality show Shark Tank, where he demonstrates his marketing prowess and business insights.

NOVEMBER 2 NATIONAL THEATRE LIVE’S THE SEAGULL 6-8:30pm, a/perture cinema.

Emilia Clarke (Game of Thrones) makes her West End debut in this 21st century retelling of Anton Chekhov’s tale of love and loneliness. National Theatre Live brings the best of British theatre to a cinema screen near you – a/perture!

NOVEMBER 3 vent details E are subject to change. Please check event wesite and social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.

CHEERS! FOR ATRIUM HEALTH WAKE FOREST BAPTIST BRENNER CHILDREN’S 7pm, The Millennium Center in W-S.

Join us for an unforgettable cocktail party with live music, interactive food stations, specialty cocktails, a silent auction and a jewelry raffle. Bring your best dance moves for our late-night silent disco! All funds raised will benefit patients and families at Brenner Children’s Hospital. Don’t miss this chance to have a great time while making a meaningful impact! Our presenting sponsor, Simply Southern, will match all donations and ticket purchases up to $150,000! To purchase tickets or make a donation, visit BrennerChildrens.org/Cheers.

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NOVEMBER 3-4 COZY COTTAGE CRAFT SHOW

9am-8pm (3rd); 9am-3pm (4th), Kernersville Community House, 405 Salisbury Street in Kernersville.

Unique hand-crafted gifts, home décor, jewelry, yard art, holiday decorations, baked goods and more. Proceeds from raffle benefit Trellis Supportive Care. Free to attend.

NOVEMBER 8 FORSYTH WOMAN MAGAZINE HOSTS GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…Bermuda Run Country Club.

Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker and have a much-needed Girls’ Night Out! As always, each attendee receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings! Subscribe to our newsletter at forsythwoman.com to make sure you never miss a GNO!

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12-4pm, Novant Health Vein Specialists, 2827 Lyndhurst Avenue, Suite 206 in W-S. Attention Winston-Salem residents! Novant Health Vein Specialists is holding a FREE vein consultation event. If you’re experiencing any of the following symptoms – leg pain, swelling, varicose veins, heaviness, itching, burning sensations, restless leg syndrome, leg cramping, muscle spasms, skin discoloration or ulcerations, our expert providers are ready to help you diagnose the level of your vein health. Our Winston-Salem clinic utilizes the latest technology, is in a comfortable setting and conveniently located, making it easy for you to take the first step towards healthier, more comfortable legs. Don’t let vein problems hold you back any longer. Get out and enjoy life again. RSVP today to secure your spot and take advantage of this incredible opportunity. salemveins.com/schedule-screening

NOVEMBER 10 RESTORATION MEDSPA 8TH BIRTHDAY CELEBRATION

1-6pm, 250 Executive Park Boulevard, #105.

Join us for fun, food, giveaways, demonstrations, discounts and much more! Visit RestorationMedSpa.com for more information.

NOVEMBER 18 MIZPAH’S JOYOUS EVE

6-8pm, Mizpah Moravian Church.

Kick off the Christmas season with Mizpah as we share Moravian history and traditions with you. You will begin in the Sanctuary and walk through the various stages learning about the Putz, Moravian stars and candle trimming. Then go outside to “our tavern” and enjoy some refreshments and treats for the kids. Keep your eyes open for surprise visitors, you never know who you might see.

DONATO CABRERA CONDUCTS THE GREENSBORO SYMPHONY

8-10pm, Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts.

Maria Valdes, soprano | Donato Cabrera, conductor Adams Short Ride in a Fast Machine Barber Knoxville: Summer of 1915 Mahler Symphony No. 4, G major. Cost: $35-$80/person.

NOVEMBER 18-19 PIEDMONT CRAFTSMEN’S FAIR 2023

Benton Convention Center in W-S.

Two-day regional consumer show. Focused on arts, crafts and gifts.

Exhibitors will be able to share their creations with thousands of potential customers in a vibrant atmosphere.

NOVEMBER 19 TUCKER’S TAP YARD FALL FESTIVAL 12-5pm, 1010 North Liberty Street in W-S.

ocal makers selling handmade items that both humans and dogs will love! Plus, live music and food trucks.

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FUTU R E E VEN TS DECEMBER 2 CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE 9am-5pm, The

Dogwood Boutique & The Dogwood in Lewisville.

Both shops will host our Christmas Open House. Join us for refreshments and specials throughout both shops. Special guest appearance, too.

DECEMBER 3

COMMUNITY CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL 5-7pm, WinMock at Kinderton. Come join the whole community at the beautiful, historic WinMock barn to start off the advent season with a fun night of fellowship! We will have plenty of vendors selling community crafts and goods, some Christmas singers and musical performances, and a short kids’ program. In addition, we will have a food truck selling meals, a bounce house for children, a family photo area and some carnival games. All ages are welcome, and there is no cost for admission.

DECEMBER 7

FORSYTH WOMAN MAGAZINE HOSTS GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…Mulberry Table (connected to Fiddle & Fig), 395 West End Boulevard in W-S. Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker and have a much-needed Girls’ Night Out! As always, each attendee receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings! Subscribe to our newsletter at forsythwoman.com to make sure you never miss a GNO!

DECEMBER 7 & 9

A CHRISTMAS CAROL 7:30-10pm (7th); 2-4pm (9th), Reynolds Place Theatre. Ebenezer Scrooge is a name everyone in London knows. It belongs to the miserable old man who loves money and hates Christmas. But one fateful Christmas Eve, Scrooge is visited by the Spirits of Christmas Past, Present and Future, who want to help him find kindness in his heart before it’s too late. A beloved Christmas classic adapted for the stage, A Christmas Carol is a holiday treat for the whole family to enjoy. ltofws.org/achristmas-carol-89!

Both shops, The Dogwood Boutique and The Dogwood in Lewisville Offering Black Friday deals throughout the day. Don’t be a turkey.

Stop by and see us!

NOVEMBER 25 HOME ALONE IN CONCERT WITH THE WINSTONSALEM SYMPHONY 7:30-9:30pm, R.J. Reynolds Auditorium.

Get into the holiday spirit with the beloved comedy classic Home Alone. Accompanied by your Winston-Salem Symphony, renowned composer John Williams’ charming and delightful score comes to life as it is performed live to the film. Home Alone is a holiday treat that promises laughter and joy for the entire family.

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