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contents 32 COVER STORY 36 Fiddle & Fig Creating Home

FEATURES 8 Keeping Safe While Trick or Treating 14 Fire Prevention Week...

Be Prepared!

20 Home Sweet Home 40 Easy Ways to Spruce Up Your Home 44 Chimney Fire 911 52 Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons 2021 54 Care for the Senior Canine

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IN EVERY ISSUE 62 My Grace-Full Life

A Lesson on Humility from Ruth

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64 Journeying with Jesus 68 Triad Moms On Main

Apple Picking Farms near the Triad 71 Kids in the Kitchen

Treats for a Haunting Halloween at Home

72 It’s a Grand Life Manners, Please

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74 The View from My Section: A Father’s Perspective

This One’s for You! 78 Dining Guide

Triad Eco Tours Adventures: “Glide & Dine”

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58 Raising Lifelong Learners 66 Making the Most of a Fall Nature Walk 76 Fred G. Crumpler, Jr., Esquire The Man Who Changed the Justice System and Many Lives Along the Way 80

How to Raise a “Boss”

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October!! One of the best things about living where we live is the change in seasons. And as much as I love summer, by now, we are all usually ready for a break from the heat! Ready to welcome pumpkin spice and the beautiful color of the changing leaves. It will be strange not attending the Dixie Classic Fair this year, which would have been its inaugural year as the “Carolina Classic,” and going to the WBFJ Christian concert on Crisis Control Ministry’s free-admission-for-5-cans-night. But wait! Our creative friends at WS Fairgrounds have come up with a drive-thru fair night from Oct. 1st-4th! What?!? Yes, a free-admission drivethru with food vendors and other fun options, as well as continuing the tradition to donate food to Crisis Control Ministry! Check it out on page 47 and CarolinaClassicFair.com - One of the things I have been most impressed with during this pandemic is our ability to adapt! Think of how many businesses/organizations have found creative solutions to stay safe and still survive!

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October is our annual Fall Home Issue and features Fiddle & Fig, a brandnew store that will also house a wonderful new event space called “Gather.”

You will be blown away by all their wonderful items to make your house a home! Morgan and Jamie are two dynamic ladies, and I can’t wait for you to meet them! Morgan is married to my daughter’s husband’s brother and I am thrilled for them to make their debut in Forsyth Family Magazine!

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Keeping Safe While Trick-or-Treating

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Halloween may look a little different than before, thanks to the COVID-19 pandemic. We will probably be more careful when trick-or-treating, getting candy from others, and going out in groups. Yet, many of us still hope for a somewhat normal Halloween. Whether you go trick-or-treating this year or next, it is important to be safe. Here are 14 tips to do just that.

4. Another costume tip is when you are buying Halloween makeup or paint. Always check to make sure it is nontoxic and doesn’t cause an allergic reaction. It may be best to test a small area of skin before applying it in large amounts.

1. A favorite part of Halloween is dressing up in a costume. However, there are a few things to do to make them safer. First, decorate your costumes, candy bags, flashlights, and other items with reflective tape or stickers. Other options include carrying glow sticks. Light-color costumes also work best.

6. When crossing the street, make sure to look in all directions before walking. Keep your electronic devices away. Always walk on sidewalks or facing traffic. If possible, use crosswalks and traffic lights for guidance.

2. Wearing the right size costume can make a world of difference. Baggy materials or outfits can cause people to trip and fall.

3. Try to avoid full-face costume masks as much as possible. Instead, use face paint or makeup. A full-face mask can limit a person’s view of their surroundings. Now, if you are going out during a COVID Halloween, a face mask will be more than likely a part of your costume, but at least it won’t be a fullface one.

5. Always remove the makeup or paint once your family is home and before going to bed.

7. An adult should always accompany a child trick-or-treating and crossing a street. A good rule of thumb is for children 13 years or younger to be with an adult. It is up to every parent or guardian to determine the best age for letting their children go out on their own. If they do go alone, agree on a specific time for them to return home, as well as a route of the houses they will be visiting.

8. To avoid confusion, it may be best to have a route already planned out for the entire family. Always be sure to stop by the houses of people you know and feel comfortable with visiting.

9. Review with your children the tips of trick-or-treating in well-lit areas, sticking with others, and never entering a stranger’s home or car.

10. W atch for cars and teach your child never to dart out in front of, or behind, a car.

11. I f you drive throughout neighborhoods where there may be trick-or-treaters, be sure to slow down and stay alert. Take extra time when coming to a stop, as well as pulling into driveways and backing out of them.

12. J ust as electronic devices should be put away for walkers crossing the street, they should also be placed in a secure spot while driving. Any distraction can cause problems for a driver.

13. Always drive with your headlights on, no matter how early in the evening.

Your headlights will work as a signal to oncoming traffic and people going from door to door.

14. T his trick has been passed down for many years. Don’t snack on your candy until you get home and can inspect it. For example, there may be loose wrappers that may raise caution signs or a chewy candy could be a choking hazard for younger children.

Halloween can be a fun night for all, but you must do it safely. When in doubt, always err on the side of caution, especially when celebrating during a pandemic. Happy Trick-or-Treating!

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MIKE SILVER for DISTRICT COURT JUDGE

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is a big election year. We all know there is a significant national election to consider, but what about the local elections that can change the way our community runs? It’s essential to be informed about everything you vote for, so you can vote for your values across the board. One of the local races on the ballot this year is for Forsyth County District Court Judge. Deputy Commissioner Mike Silver is one of the candidates running in this race.

What Is A District Court Judge?

District Court Judges are elected judges that hear civil, criminal, and juvenile cases. They must reside in the district they are elected in, serve four-year terms, and voters elect them in their district. According to the NC State Constitution, these judges have to be attorneys, though they can’t practice law privately during their term.

Mike Silver wants you to know that he is ready to take on this elected position’s responsibility and brings the right experience for the job to the table.

Raised and Educated in NC Mike Silver was raised in Durham, NC. His parents grew up in Hollister, NC, his mother on a sharecropping farm and his father in a very rural area. They moved to Durham before he was born, looking for more opportunities. Mike went to public schools in Durham through high school and then attended North Carolina A&T State University, where he graduated with a Bachelor of Science degree in elementary education. He spent the next year teaching 5th grade in High Point, NC. During that

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time, he saw the hardship of the students in the classroom and wanted to aid families and children’s lives on a larger scale. It was then that he decided to go into law.

He returned to school and earned his law degree from North Carolina Central University School of Law and a Master of Public Administration degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

President of Grant Programs and Partner Relations for The Arts Council of WinstonSalem and Forsyth County. They have two children, six-year-old daughter Miriam Rose and one-and-a-half-year-old son Israel Ceozey, whom they enjoy raising in WinstonSalem, which he describes as “a wonderful place to raise a family.”

Community Involvement

There is no doubt that Mike Silver has a record of experience that speaks for itself.

In 2007, Mike and his wife Dara moved to Winston-Salem. After interviewing with DAs offices in several areas, he knew that Winston-Salem would be the best place for him to make a difference in the community and grow professionally. And that is what he has done. His record of service is incredible.

He has worked with organizations like Big Brothers/Big Sisters of Forsyth County and the YMCA. He has also served on several boards and committees. He feels his calling is to help youth understand that there exist opportunities that they may not see and prevent them from ending up in his courtroom. Silver said, “If I can help a child learn to make good decisions and understand the consequences of bad decisions, I can keep them from ending up in the court system. So much of my work revolves around this theory. In my work with The North Carolina Domestic Violence Commission, the Forsyth County Juvenile Crime Prevention Council (JCPC), and my volunteer work at Ashley Elementary and Carver High School, I focus on this. It is what I believe can bring the most change to the lives of people in our community.”

Mike and his family love being a part of this community. His wife, Dara Silver, is the Vice

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Blossoming in the Midst of a Storm

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

On

the eleventh of March, breaking news reached the televisions of millions worldwide that would change society as we know it.

The World Health Organization officially declared the coronavirus outbreak a global pandemic. Early morning lines wrapped around the grocery parking lots, and our family members’ smiles were now being covered. While life was being tossed a curveball, these Forsyth County residents were determined to swing hard in the coming months to help one another. Businesses like Joyce Farms opened their doors to the public, as grocery stores were rampaged and meat was scarce.

THE UNEXPECTED GUEST Only one week away from their planned April wedding, the NC Governor had just ordered a statewide lockdown to be in place by evening the next day. “Josh and I have said from the beginning that no matter what happened, it would always be about each other and us getting married,” said Nancy. Scratching their original plans, they gathered immediate family members for an intimate wedding at their venue by that same evening.

They both agreed that even though their plans were a little derailed, they still “felt so much peace and joy in being able to still have [their] ceremony.” As an only daughter, and with plans to celebrate with 300+, they joked, “COVID wasn’t on our guest list but showed up anyway.” ~ Josh & Nancy S. THE BEST SURPRISE As quarantine orders were “restricting” life’s daily routines, Catherine and Ben were met with another surprise that made fighting through the coronavirus madness worth every early morning grocery run and those extensive sanitary wipe-downs. Life was being made! Not only were they now expecting a child, but they were also being faced with the objective of moving and having to plan emergency surgery within weeks apart. As Catherine craftily puts it, “what a year this week has been.” However, “through all of this, [I have] learned what truly matters most.” She is grateful to have seen the “world slow down a bit,” and experience the strength behind Americans when they come together to support each other. ~ Catherine C. A BREAKFAST CEREAL “BIRTHDAY CAKE” SPECIAL Cynthia was in mid-preparation for her daughter’s second birthday party when the quarantine orders began rolling in like hotcakes. Speaking of cakes, Cynthia was met with closed bakeries and already

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raided grocery aisles with her daughter’s birthday only days away. Determined to make her birthday as special as she could, she creatively stacked breakfast cereal bars with peanut butter “frosting” and garnished with sprinkles. And her daughter thought it was fantastic!

Cynthia expressed, “I’ve been reminded during this season that we can always provide ample resources and experiences for our child and other loved ones, but what makes them truly alive and grow in ways that matter most is simply the time we spend with them.

Even something as silly as watching my child happily eat a breakfast bar ‘birthday cake’ showed me the importance of cherishing each day for what it’s worth.” ~ Cynthia P. A PASSION PROJECT Rather than just re-posting about the current world dilemma on social media, Hannah decided to step up to the plate and take action to make a positive impact. With a lifelong dream of owning a clothing and jewelry business, she decided it was time to start small by handcrafting earrings to raise money for the International Justice Mission and the Innocence Project.

However, she wanted her business to be more than just selling beautiful products; she wanted it to be “a place of encouragement for absolutely anyone,” extending hope in the midst of chaos. ~ Hannah E. PLAN C After months of planning their dream wedding, COVID left Stephanie and Timothy with slim pickings. Timothy’s parents were not about to leave this exciting memory behind and started revamping their backyard with DIYs. Within 24 hours, they had transformed a typical backyard into a beautiful, intimate ceremony location.

The happy couple thought, “It looked just as good as, if not better than, most actual wedding venues!”

Following the NC Governor’s ordinance limiting groups to 10 people or less, they sent a mass e-mail to the original guest list, inviting them to participate in a drive-by celebration after the ceremony. Not expecting many to show, Stephanie and Timothy walked out their front door to find a line down the neighborhood street. “It made the day that much sweeter and us feel so loved! In hindsight, we wouldn’t change it, and it ended up being the sweetest day,” said Stephanie. ~ Timothy & Stephanie A. Each one of these inspirational storytellers concluded that their faith was the ultimate guide to sustain them through it all.

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Fire Prevention Week... Be Prepared!

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

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all know Smokey the Bear’s famous saying, “Only you can prevent wildfires.” While there are still elements out of our control sometimes, as human beings, there are things we can do to help prevent any type of fire, whether it be outside or inside. October 4th through the 10th is “Fire Prevention Week.” This week is designed to spread information on how to be safe and how to try and restrict fires.

Created by the National Fire Prevention Association, the theme for 2020 is “Serve Up Fire Safety in the Kitchen.” In fact, according to the week’s website, cooking is the number one cause of home fires and injuries. No matter how old you are, everyone could use a reminder about ways to prevent fires from happening, and what to do if they do occur. After all, it has probably been less recently than you think when the fire dog and firefighters stopped by your elementary school classrooms.

Here’s a quick refresher.

• Create a fire escape plan with your family members or roommates. This plan should include how to safely get out of your home in less than two minutes in the event of a fire. A few things to consider when designing your plan: there should be two escape routes from each of the rooms in your house; if you see smoke, stay low to the ground; decide where to meet everyone outside, and never go back in for anything; and lastly, once a fire starts, you have less than two minutes to get out. Once you have your plan, practice at least twice a year to make sure everyone knows what to do.

GENERAL TIPS:

• Always remain in the room where there are lighted candles. Extinguish the flames before leaving the room or switch to flameless candles.

•E nsure smoke alarms are working on every level of your home, inside bedrooms, and common areas. Always test the alarms each month to ensure they are working correctly. If not, replace what is needed.

•S moke alarms should be at least 10 feet from the kitchen. Too close to a heat source can cause a false alarm.

•T here are smoke alarm options for those who are hard of hearing or deaf.

• Other habits to include when practicing with your family are to always close the doors behind you when escaping a fire; test door handles to see if they are hot before opening and to “stop, drop, and roll” if your clothes catch on fire.

• Store matches and lighters in a safe, preferably locked, place, and keep away from children.

• Check all cords in your house often and replace any that have been frayed.

In addition to general precautions you can take, you can also prevent fires from happening in everyday activities, such as cooking.

COOKING: • Always stay alert when you are using the oven or stovetop.

• Check your food often and use a timer when simmering, frying, grilling, boiling, baking, or roasting.

• Stay in the kitchen at all times.

• Move anything that could catch fire away from the oven or stovetop. Items could include towels, oven mitts, etc.

• Clean your burners and oven regularly. A buildup of food and grit could cause a fire.

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HEATING: •A ll flammable items, such as paper, clothing, or rugs, should be at least 3 feet from a heater, stove, or fireplace.

•P ortable heaters and fireplaces should always be watched when in use. Before leaving a room, extinguish them.

• I f you are using a space heater, make sure it is on ceramic tile or another non-flammable surface. Never place it on cloth objects. In addition, purchase models that shut off instantly if the heater falls over.

•K eep children and pets away from heaters, fireplaces, stovetops, and ovens. You can purchase a safety gate for this purpose.

Encountering a fire is one of the things we prepare for and hope never happens to us. However, it is also best to be prepared in every way you possibly can.

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Gifts of the Disabled Mind:

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

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meeting an exceptionally intellectual individual who is creative, inventive, empathetic, and undoubtedly impactful in their work, but has intense difficulty with reading, recognizing letters and numbers.

Approximately 40 million adults are dyslexic. Dyslexia is a learning difference that causes difficulty in reading, writing, and working with numbers. When it comes to looking at letters on a page, dyslexics describe what they see as the letters and numbers “bouncing around” and flipping upside down. Their condition also makes it difficult to recognize the shapes of letters, so they do not perceive words and numbers the same as non-dyslexics.

But it does not end there.

There are many forms of dyslexia: dyscalculia—difficulty learning or understanding math; dysgraphia—difficulty writing or forming letters; dyspraxia—a speech disability that affects the ability to pronounce words correctly. Some of these exist alongside dyslexia, if not independently. People who grow up dyslexic suffer a great deal, especially in the conventional world of academia. It is later, down the line, when they eventually discover the extraordinary abilities they possess because they have dyslexia!

Here’s how dyslexics can thrive in the world.

DYSLEXIA

Peripheral vision This type of vision refers to a strong perception of what we see on the sides while looking straight ahead (for instance, looking straight ahead at a bookshelf while also noticing your handbag right next to you). Common dyslexic folks may not be able to focus on the center image too well, but they have a vivid perception of what they see around that central image. This may even happen when they read. They have an uncanny gift of seeing the picture— or abstract idea—as a whole, then putting together the details. They draw connections between ideas very well, which makes them excel at mechanics, mathematics, electronics, design, and computer science.

It is a known fact that over 50 percent of NASA employees are dyslexic! Many other dyslexics have artistic abilities, such as sewing and making clothes from scratch, stage production, drawing, and painting.

Pattern recognition Another strength for dyslexic people is their heightened ability to learn visually. When looking at textbooks at school—science books, especially—they normally have difficulty deciphering the text, but use their

intuition and strong analytical skills to perceive the patterns of charts and graphs and to interpret them as “books.”

Some dyslexics confess that in lieu of actually reading the text, they learn to memorize the shape of letters, thereby discerning the words. They are abstract thinkers and learners and comprehend the idea and concept of things, rather than merely labeling words or concrete facts. Some even comprehend novels by finding ideas through dialogue or a theme throughout the book. This skill helps them view life and situations from multiple perspectives…perhaps this is where their strong empathy skills come into play!

Empathy Dyslexics are strongly empathetic and can put themselves in other people’s place and feel their emotions as their own. Their empathy is a product of their struggles in schools that implement conventional learning styles, dealing with a learning difference, and not feeling “up to par” with their classmates. They can relate to people who may feel like “outcasts” for any reason, because they have felt the same.

Internal drive Dyslexics know they must work harder than those without dyslexia to get on the same level as their peers, if not higher. Many of them eventually learn the gifts of their brains, which they have because of their condition. When they learn to tap into their unique abilities, they exercise them while growing determined to be exceptional and influential in whatever career field they choose. Even when they feel accomplished, they will still have that natural internal drive that makes them want to continue growing and learning.

Dyslexia is not a disability, but more of an ability. Conventional doesn’t have to be the way to go with these folks, but helping them learn how to work around their shortcomings and use their natural talents comes with great reward and prosperity!

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RESURRECTION DAY

BY JAMIE GADSON

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was sitting at the table. I wanted to be in a quiet space because I knew he was in one of his moods. I thought that if I just removed myself, he would not take it out on me. The children had gone upstairs and I was downstairs by myself sitting at the table.

When he came into the room, I could feel his energy, but I said not a word. He sat down beside me. I could feel his eyes beaming at me, but I was not going to stir him up. He looked at me with all the anger that was in his heart and said, “I’m sick of you.”

Then he pushed me onto the floor — in my own kitchen — and he climbed on top of me and placed both of his hands around my throat and began squeezing and shaking.

I was in shock. “Why? Why would you do this to me?” I thought. “Don’t you love me? Why would you hurt me?”

As I looked at his eyes, piercing through me, I thought, “The first time he did this, he released already. Why hasn’t he released me yet?” Then I thought, “He’s going to kill me.”

I told myself, “I’ve got to fight back this time.” I began swinging and hitting him in the face. Scratching his face. I knew he would let go, but he did not stop. He just locked in even tighter and continued to shake.

I felt my hands fall to the floor and everything went black.

I didn’t know, but he took my body and drug it through our kitchen and laid my body in the garage next to my car.

I wasn’t aware of what was happening.

When I finally came to — when I finally opened my eyes, which I could barely do, I heard my children screaming — all three of my sons — I could hear their feet running back and forth and screaming, “What’s wrong with Momma? What’s happening with Momma?”

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I could hear them, and I knew I had to tell them something. “They think I’m dead. I have to tell them I’m OK.” I opened my mouth to speak, but nothing came out but mumbles. I could hear it in my own ears, but it didn’t make sense. Why couldn’t I talk? Let me get up off the garage floor and let them know Momma’s OK. But my body was dead weight. I couldn’t move my arms. I couldn’t move my legs. “What’s happening to me? I have to let them know I’m OK.” So I’m lying there moaning, probably making it even more terrifying for them.

Then my father — I heard my father come in — and he placed his hand on my shoulder and said, “It’s gonna’ be OK, baby.”

I stopped moaning. I stopped thrashing around. I just lay there — finally in a place of peace.

I went to the hospital. My children didn’t recognize me, because of the blood in my eyes and the heaviness on my heart. I was numb. I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t know how to put the pieces of my life back together. But someone told me I might want to look into counseling, and I found Family Services.

And I go, and here are all these people who are so willing and so open to say, “I can help you. I can give you some tools. I can point you in the direction to put all these pieces back together.”

There were these advocates who brought hope, and there were these other survivors who are sharing their stories, and I could speak to them and ask, “It happened to you, too?

And you’re OK? You’re not crazy? I’m not crazy?”

It let me know that it is possible to survive after trauma. I didn’t think it was possible.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Jaimie Gadson was assaulted in Winston-Salem on April 3, 2017, a day she now refers to as her Resurrection Day. A little more than two years later, after hearing her powerful testimony, The Alliance for HOPE, which helps start Family Justice Centers around the country, flew her out to San Diego to share her story at its national conference. Jamie’s story of survival was met with thunderous applause and a standing ovation. Jaime is now working with Family Services to promote Domestic Violence Awareness Month and help bring a Family Justice Center model to Forsyth County.

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TOGETHER WE WILL RISE. “Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. As a child, I witnessed it in my home. I am a survivor, and you can be one too.”

Family Services Catrina Thompson, Chief of Police

For 115 years, Family Services has been improving the lives of children and families in Forsyth County by ensuring their safety and well-being. Last year, the WSPD reported nearly 7,000 incidents of domestic violence as our staff and volunteers handled nearly 2,000 Crisis Line calls. With COVID -19, abused women and children are now literally trapped at home with their abusers.

At Family Services, our work often deals with the most difficult human circumstances imaginable. So while we’re unable to gather this October for our annual fundraising event, we ask for your support as we RISE together to support survivors during Domestic Violence Awareness month. Join us at RiseForsyth.org.

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We

hope you will enjoy our biannual home edition! Because we know that home is where the heart is, we

dedicate every April and October issue to hometopics. Since home is where we spend time with family and make memories, we love sharing tips and advice from the experts with our readers! We hope you will enjoy the October Home Edition and find great tips that you can use!

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with the Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem

BY ADELE CASANOVA

Fall

has arrived! Now, not only can we can experience crisp, cool mornings and the colorful turning of the leaves, we can safely get out and enjoy the Fall Parade of Homes presented by the Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem (HBAWS), a showing of beautifully designed new and remodeled homes. The Parade of Homes is free to attend and geared toward the whole family as a fun and educational experience. Dates for the Fall Parade are Saturday and Sunday, October 10th and 11th, and October 17th and 18th, from 11:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Current President of the HBAWS, Chris Thompson of Thompson Building Group, LLC, welcomes visitors to the event, “This year’s Fall Parade of Homes tour is your chance to view cutting-edge quality products and exceptional services by our associate members that can be incorporated into your remodel or the design of your future home.”

Sponsor of this year’s Fall Parade of Homes is BB&T, now Truist, Nathan Myers, Truist Senior Vice President, Triad Commercial Real Estate Leader, remarks, “Truist is a proud affiliate member of the Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem. We truly appreciate its dedication and efforts to promote quality, professionalism, and advocacy for the local and state housing industry.”

Darlene Saunders, Executive Vice President of the HBAWS, is excited to present the Fall Parade of Homes. “The annual Fall Parade of Homes continues to provide an opportunity to see the very best in residential construction, including new designs, products, and services in today’s new homes. With the current historic low-interest rates and limited home inventory, it is a great time to purchase your new home.”

New this year, the Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem is providing virtual tours in addition to the traditional Parade of Homes open house this fall.

The builders wanted to make their homes available for anyone unable to, or uncomfortable with, viewing the homes in person. You can view the 3-D Matterport Tours of the Parade homes from the comfort of your own home! These virtual tours will be available via the Fall Parade of Homes website www.paradeofhomesws. com, as well as the mobile app: Triad Fall Parade of Homes. Both resources provide contact information for our Parade builders as well as information about each Parade home.

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Throughout the two weekends of the Parade, Saunders says, “We appreciate all the efforts of our Builders, Realtors, and attendees in following CDC guidelines and protocols when the homes are open…no more than ten are allowed in a home at one time…everyone is asked to maintain social distancing, wear face coverings, use hand sanitizer, etc. As with any public space, these safety precautions are in place for everyone’s benefit.”

As you enjoy the Parade of Homes, you may wonder how the home construction industry has been affected by Covid-19. Ron Ricci, of Ricci Builders and Management, summarizes, “Covid-19 has had an unusual effect on the construction industry. People are realizing that they either need to upgrade their surroundings, add office or workspace, or perhaps build a new home that has better space utilization. Increased building material prices due to shortages and high demand, and the subsequent increase in building costs, do not seem to deter the consumer from choosing smaller projects and entry-level homes, but are, in fact, impacting high-end homes and remodels, as well.

In the end, particularly once a vaccine for Covid-19 is produced, we will all have a better appreciation of how important our homes are to daily life.”

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Be sure to include this year’s Association House in your tour, built by the Veritas Group, Inc, dba Veritas Construction and listed by Blue Door Real Estate Group of Wilkerson ERA. The Association house is in Briarcliff Village and includes a custom trim package, heavy moldings, coiffured ceilings, and built-in shelving, as well as a bonus room, covered back porch, customdesigned master closet, and modern finishes throughout. Each year, a portion of proceeds from the sale of the Association House benefits HBAWS operational expenses. It contains wonderful extras, as HBAWS members provide donations, products, and services in the building of the house.

Visitors to the Parade will have the opportunity to fully experience all the design and decorating elements that have been carefully incorporated into the chosen homes. Susan Carson, Interior Designer at Susan Carson Associates, Inc., remarks, “The biggest trend—your home is now a destination. It is not just a place to live, but now a SAFE place to work, exercise, study, shop, and play.

People are asking for combinations of spaces to gather and quiet places to work or study. People are asking for low maintenance in all materials. As interior designers, we provide multifunctional spaces with high-performance materials and see emerging trends of mixing metals, as well as using warm gray or taupe with accents colors.”

To plan your tour, please visit paradeofhomesws.com to view the list of properties, links to the builders’ web sites, and interactive/ printable maps. Consider installing the Fall Parade App on your phone. Or, for more information, contact Darlene Saunders, Executive Vice President, HBAWS 336.464.8000 darlene@hbaws. org, or at 336-768-5942. Visit hbaws.net. HBAWS is located at 220 Charlois Blvd. in Winston-Salem.

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Growing and Serving in Our Community

BY JULIE FRITZ

Winston-Salem

is in the midst of a hot real estate market. Interest rates are low, and homes are selling quickly. That is one reason why Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group decided to bring an office to our community. They recognized Winston-Salem as a pillar community in the Triad and knew they wanted to be a part of it.

A History of Excellence For the last 23 years, brothers Brian and Stan Holland and partner Brian Mason have been building a company with a culture of excellence. What started small has grown to have a sizable Eastcoast presence from Delaware to Florida.

National Sales Manager Emily A. Farley brings a strong female presence to enhance the founders’ work, encourage diversity, and continue growth toward excellence. She believes in a work-life balance and knows her strength is to grow the company by assisting team members in finding their strengths. She said, “I believe that it is my calling to help find and develop the strengths of team members. The key to this is to know every individual and find what drives them.”

Atlantic Bay Mortgage has a clear mission and works hard every day to fulfill that mission in every way possible. The mission is as follows: “Atlantic Bay is a mortgage lender where the genuine care and consultation of our clients is our highest mission. We pledge to provide the finest personal service to our clients, who will enjoy the entire mortgage process and become a client for life.”

The Winston-Salem branch is led by Natalie Dillard. She has been working in the mortgage industry since 1993, and was recruited to be the producing sales manager for the Winston-Salem branch in December of 2018. She has worked in the office here since it opened in April of 2019. She spoke about not only what this company can do for their clients, but how well they treat their team.

“This is a wonderful place to work, and the company supports us all.

The culture they create is essential and ensures you enjoy coming to work every day.”

Products and Services Atlantic Bay is a correspondent lender that works specifically with residential mortgages. They can help you secure the right mortgage for your primary home, secondary home, or rental property. They can even help you finance your home improvement and renovation.

Their suite of products includes conventional, FHA, jumbo, renovation, USDA, and VA loans.

An Incredible Team Ready to Meet Your Needs What sets this team apart is the outstanding support this group provides. They continuously strive for excellent customer service, and since they are a locally based branch office, they’re in touch with this community. Their platform is efficient and timely, they

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underwrite upfront, and they genuinely care about their clients and the clients’ needs.

The Winston-Salem team consists of 5 mortgage bankers.

• Natalie Dillard, Producing Sales Manager • Mark Leclear Sr., Mortgage Banker • Suzanne Buchanan, Mortgage Banker • Brad Pryce, Mortgage Banker • Melanie Troutman, Mortgage Banker • April Tilley - Transaction Coordinator Ready to Serve and Grow in This Community Atlantic Bay takes pride in serving the communities they work within.

Through their “AB Cares” program, they donate time and money to charities that benefit their communities. One charity they have a strong connection with is the “Roc Solid Foundation.” Roc Solid works with families affected by childhood cancer. They build playsets for these families to provide a sense of normalcy and play during a stressful time. You will also see their ready bags, which include everything a family might need when unexpectedly admitted to the hospital, being provided to families during their initial diagnosis at the Pediatric Cancer Center at Brenner Children’s Hospital.

Atlantic Bay is ready to grow in our community. They are ready to take on new clients, expand their partnerships with realtors, and hire new team members. If you are looking to secure a mortgage or are working in the real estate or mortgage industries, Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group wants to show you how they can work for you.

Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group is located at 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite 540, in Winston-Salem. For more information, you can visit their website at atlanticbay.com. If you are ready to personalize your experience, reach out to the Winston-Salem team today at 336-283-7172. They are prepared to quickly and efficiently walk you through the mortgage process and help you find the right products and services to meet your needs.

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Toni Phillips Toni grew up in nearby Mocksville, NC, watching her parents renovate a farm built in 1889, possibly leading to her love of homes with a history. “Early on, I developed an appreciation for historical homes and neighborhoods in Winston-Salem, NC. I love the potential of homes that have historical charm. I also lived abroad in small European towns and love the walkability of downtown neighborhoods. I found that the West End area of WinstonSalem was a natural fit for me to live in and love. My husband and I renovated a 1920s quadraplex in downtown; that was my introduction to renovation/restoration, which led me into real estate sales in 2007,” Toni commented. With her husband, daughter, son, cat, dog and three chickens, Toni definitely has a lot on her plate, just like her partner Kristin Ranson.

Kristin Ranson Kristin is a native of Winston-Salem, NC and has lived in Ardmore since the early 1990s with her husband and two daughters, now in college. “My skill set was developed at Champion Athleticwear, selling features and benefits of products consumers love. Moving to real estate, in 2005, was a natural for me, letting me continue to observe and promote how features sell homes. Toni and I are always looking at how a house ‘lives’ or functions. We believe in being up front and straight with buyers and sellers. Part of our job is helping our clients discern their home’s best points, and also areas that could use some sprucing up. As a part of that, Toni and I have a designer, Marcia Wood, of InsideOut Designs, on hand to help showcase the best attributes of a home. Marcia helps us pick new paint colors, work on landscaping, and arrange furniture, among all the areas she can help clients with,” explained Kristin.

The Duo at Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate Taking on an Active Market for You

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

Never

underestimate the power of a woman to get things done. The only thing better than one woman taking on a task is two, partnering to complete a mission. In 2010, Toni Phillips and Kristin Ranson formed The Phillips Ranson Team at Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate, realizing they could accomplish more working together. For the past few years, The Phillips Ranson Team has been the #1 producing Team.

Kristin and Toni are well aware of the hectic pace of life today, since they both are busy wives and moms. In fact, it was trying to get a life/work balance that brought these two together.

Before Kristin and Toni partnered, they would rely on each other to handle any clients’ needs when one was out of town. “We began helping each other when one would take a vacation or be away. As we did this, we could see that we did a better job for the client working together. Rather than have someone cover for you, we share and have input with all of our clients,” said Toni.

While both ladies found themselves in real estate, each came to the table with different perspectives and interests that led them to their careers.

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You Never Get a Second Chance to Make a First Impression “When we have an appointment with a seller and observe the property that is to be sold, based on our observations, we discuss trends, first impressions, and how those affect pricing. We all love the little things we have in our house, from collectibles to family photos, although, when selling, you need to make your home a blank, but comfortable canvas for anyone looking at it. To that end, should the seller request, we can bring Marcia Wood of InsideOut Desgins in to give our sellers ideas of possible paint colors, flooring, and any other changes that might make your house more appealing to possible buyers,” Toni stated. Making improvements doesn’t only happen inside a home.

“At InsideOut Designs, Marcia added, we handle the design aspects of interiors, exteriors, and the whole home, involving remodeling and new construction, as well as landscapes. As an interior designer, with my own clients, I want to create a comfortable and functional home, dealing with everything from window treatments to planting a garden. In my work with Toni and Kristin, we are the perfect professional combination; one of the best real estate teams in our area with a design firm that can handle your interior design and landscape changes, before or after the sale. Oftentimes, a property needs a little tweaking; perfect except for a little help here and there.”

If you are interested in buying or selling a house, the partnering of The Phillips Ranson Team with InsideOut Designs is the place to start your journey.

For more information, visit camelcityproperties.com or call 336354-5052. You can contact Marcia Wood with InsideOut Designs at InsideOutDesignsNC.com or call 336-723-6000. Also follow both on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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Built on a Foundation of Trust

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Every

construction company follows the same basic formula. There are rules to be followed.

Processes. Permits. Subcontractors. The way homes are built and renovated isn’t exclusive, but the difference between companies comes down to one significant factor—trust.

Since 2005, ICON Custom Builders has specialized in the art of trust in home renovation and custom builds. Owned by Chuck Hicks, the business model specializes in service geared toward innovative solutions and strategic partnerships with the homeowners.

Project and Design Coordinator, Katherine Yeager, shares about the ICON difference. “We have a dynamic team,” Katherine said. “Chuck is an extraordinary visionary who has empowered our team to do what is right in the industry and for our customers. In my two years with ICON, I’ve learned how relational this business truly is. We do far more than renovations and builds—we become partners in a shared vision by families who are investing in their homes. It’s quite a humbling experience.”

“At ICON Custom Builders,” Katherine continued, “We can do any home renovation, but we have developed a reputation for the work we do on older homes. We have worked on some magnificent homes throughout the Triad, including homes in West End and Buena Vista. These are homes that have longevity and history in the community. We help restore them and bring them up to current safety codes while maintaining the character and integrity of the homes. In some cases, we are working with homeowners who have lived in their houses for decades, with countless memories contained within their walls…. And in others, we’re working with new homeowners who are ready to make their own memories and put their own special signature on the property.”

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At ICON Custom Builders, communication is key. As such, they have a unique team that includes an in-house architect, in-house carpenter, designer and project managers.

“We each bring our own expertise to the business,” Katherine shared. “For instance, in my role, I serve as a liaison between the company and the clients—offering design service, of course, but also ensuring their comfort and happiness throughout the process. I help guide them and facilitate decisions that work for their personal style and the direction of the décor.”

“Additionally, we have our project managers on job sites every day, serving as the orchestra conductors to make sure everything comes together in a timely fashion with detailed attention to quality throughout the process. Everything about this team is fluid, and I’m so thankful to be a part of it. We genuinely care about the families we work with, and given how often we return to homes for additional work, our clients trust us to be respectful of both their homes and their dreams.

And to do that—it takes trust. Trust between our team that we’re all working towards the same goal. And trust between our clients that we recognize their unique and personal needs.”

Call ICON Custom Builders at 336.306.9055 or visit online at www.ICONCustomBuilders.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram and Houzz.

“ The work always exceeds our expectations and desires. ICON always gives a fair estimate and is willing to let me ‘make changes’ as we go, without raising the price tremendously. The crews of men and women are always very nice, respectful not only to me but to my home. We have several other projects planned ahead, and I would not even consider anyone else but ICON.”

~ D. Fenwick

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How to Stay Market-Ready:

Tips from Jessica Ferris JEJ PHOTOS

BY DENISE HEIDEL

One

of the most stressful aspects of having a home on the market is making sure it’s in pristine condition every day. You need to have your home ready to vacate at any point when you get the notice that someone wants to see the house…. But you also have to live there! How do you manage to stay market-ready when you’re busy living life? Local real estate professional, Jessica Ferris of Jessica Ferris Property Advisors / Keller Williams shared some great tips!

It Starts with Being Super Disciplined “After getting the house ready, maintaining perfection is a challenge that many families struggle with,” said Jessica.

“After all, we’re busy! We may have the house on the market, but we have places to be and things to do! But a few simple steps added to the daily routine can help. I always recommend that my clients make it a habit to turn the lights on, open the blinds, and make sure the clutter has been put away every time they leave the house. Those three simple things alone are huge!”

Natural Light Sells a Home Jessica explained, “There’s something about natural light that draws a buyer in. Even older homes that need cosmetic updates show well if they have great natural lighting. So if you’ve got it – flaunt it! Fling those curtains open and make sure the blinds are open to allow the natural light to show off your home in a powerful way!”

Be Ready to Go It’s Saturday morning, and you’ve just got the call! No one has eaten yet, and now, there’s no time! What do you do?

Jessica has a great tip for those scenarios: “Proactively plan for the scenario and have a few grab-and-go lunches in the fridge that you can throw in a bag for an impromptu picnic at the park! You don’t want to mess up the kitchen to fix something before a possible buyer comes to take a tour. Being proactive will be something you’ll be glad you did. And your little ones may love the idea of an impromptu picnic so much, you may end up with a new family tradition!”

Hide ‘n Go! “One thing I always recommend to my sellers,” shared Jessica, “are those pretty and inexpensive whicker cylinder

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baskets with a lid. You can get them at Target. Buy one for each room, and that way, when you get the call for a showing, you can throw stuff in the basket quickly to be put away later.”

Be Secure at a Moment’s Notice “Thankfully, we have people we trust going into the house. They are fully vetted, and we know who they are, where they work, and how to contact them. However, things happen. If you’re concerned about expensive belongings, either put them away or lock them up – especially jewelry and valuables.”

Be Open to Feedback “Personally, I always screen the feedback on the homes I sell,” said Jessica.

“The feedback is designed to help give constructive feedback so that the sellers can be informed about why their home may have been passed over. We take it very seriously, and we encourage homeowners to take the feedback with an open mind.”

Stay Up-to-Date on Repairs “As a realtor, one of the things I offer my clients is a Home Warranty during their time on the market. This way, they have an affordable option with only a $75 deductible they need to pay for repairs. After all, no one wants to spend a lot of money on the house they are trying to emotionally detach from…. And wouldn’t it be horrible to have the HVAC system go out mid-summer or winter while you’re in the middle of trying to sell? A potential buyer might be excited about it, but no seller wants that expense!”

It’s All About Communication “There is no hard and fast rule about how much notice a seller gets,” said Jessica. “Two to four hours is common, but it’s not always the case.

Sellers can stipulate that they need 24 hours’ notice. And I’m okay with my clients changing that daily – especially if they have a housekeeper coming on a certain date, family in town, etc. And let’s be honest, during COVID-19, we just need to give a little more grace – there are children being homeschooled now, parents working from home, and many other circumstances we might not be aware of.”

Stay Safe Showing Your Home During COVID “I provide all sellers with hand sanitizer and masks to keep on the front porch,” said Jessica. “This ensures that anyone who enters their home for a showing takes requested precautions. I also recommend that the seller leave Clorox wipes at the front door if they prefer all knobs to be wiped down as a showing-realtor leaves the property. And some sellers even ask for the lights to be left on at the end of a showing, preferring to turn them off themselves when they return home. Communication is key during COVID so your realtor knows a seller’s preferences and everyone can feel safe and comfortable.”

Being on the market doesn’t have to be stressful! Utilize some of Jessica’s tips, or better yet – call her! Let her tell you in person!

Whether you’re shopping for a home or trying to sell one, contact Jessica Ferris at Keller Williams Realty Elite, located at 280 Charlois Boulevard in Winston-Salem. Call 336-602-0969. Visit online at JessicaFerrisRealty.com.

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Getting a Handle on

Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing

BY DENISE HEIDEL / PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

If

you think that all cabinet pulls and handles are created equal—you need to visit Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing. The decorative hardware and plumbing options are endless, with price ranges that can accommodate any and every budget. Lest you feel that you may be overwhelmed by the process, meet John and Tammy Parks—the owners of Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing—who are happy to guide their customers every step of the way. John is the mastermind of the business, and equipped with his technical expertise, coupled with Tammy’s creative background in design, they have pulled together a dynamic business that is a thriving asset to builders, architects, interior designers, and homeowners alike!

“John started the business in 2018,” shared Tammy. “However, his expertise in the industry goes back decades. He learned the ins and outs of hardware and plumbing by working his way up from an entry-level position, all the way to an executive vice presidency. No one knows this business like John, and once we started to see the business need, I left the corporate world to join him full-time. My official capacity is ‘Chief of Everything In Between,’ and my focus is more relational and behindthe scenes.”

“However,” she continued, “I cannot emphasize enough about how many options there are! John loves to educate people on their choices! Between John and our associate, Emery Cornatzer, there are over 80 years of experience here! The wealth of knowledge is staggering, including such a strong familiarity with brands from yesteryear. They’ve even been able to match up hardware from the 1920s for restoration projects!”

“Plus, the showroom features everything—from knobs, pulls, handles, sinks, tubs, vanities, even to lighting, and fireplaces,” Tammy said. “We also have a full selection of smart technology door locks and innovation in kitchen faucets, which have been growing in popularity this year.”

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In addition to the options featured, the store features brands that are not available in the box stores. “In fact, the box stores only have access to about 10% of what is actually in the market,” Tammy explained. “We also have in-house cad software that will enable us to show a customer how hardware will look on their cabinets. It’s an added benefit that you won’t find in a box store.”

She continued, “We have a genuine enthusiasm and love for this business. We work hard to stay up-to-date on all the industry trends, plus we have great relationships with our vendors. Because of our in-house expertise and resources, we can help our customers identify the priorities in their budget and match them to the perfect hardware and plumbing.”

Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing not only offers a dynamic showroom to explore, and in-house expertise to guide, but they are a very community-minded business.

Tammy shared, “John spent many years as a volunteer EMT, and was also a scoutmaster. I’m actively involved with the Community Design Studio as a board member and I’m also involved with “Women Who Care.” I am also currently serving as the VP of Education at the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce. We love being involved in the community, and part of our company mission is to foster the interest of the next generation. We’ve been working with West Forsyth High School to provide internship opportunities, especially as the demand for skills tradesmen continues to rise!”

Be sure to stop in for a visit. Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing is located at 130 Stratford Court, Suite C (behind Piedmont Federal and across from Thruway). Call the store at 336.829.5763 or visit online at ParksDecorative.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram, Houzz, and Pinterest. Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing is a member of the Decorative Plumbing & Hardware Association and the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce.

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For

Morgan Holt and Jamie Lapp, entrepreneurship wasn’t a matter of if, but only a matter of when.

They both had a deep love for home décor and gathering together with their families and friends—and both were decidedly determined to find a way to embrace that drive. However, it wasn’t until a family connection united them that they found a common love which would enable them to form a partnership based on their shared passions.

Morgan shared, “I got to know Jamie through my brother, and as our families began to spend more time together, Jamie and I bonded quickly.”

Jamie agreed, “My daughter’s relationship with Morgan’s brother introduced our families. We were living in Pennsylvania at the time, and whenever Morgan and her family came to visit, I was excited to show Morgan around!

She shared my love for shopping and home décor, and I enjoyed taking her to my favorite stores. We discovered that we have the same style and similar taste in decor.”

At the time, though, joining together as business owners with their husbands still wasn’t on the radar. But a series of events ultimately culminated in an opportunity. “My husband and I were in Dallas for a conference,” shared Jamie. “The conference was hosted by the ‘Half-Time Institute,’ for those of us at the mid-point in life who were exploring the options of how to spend the next stage of life. While we were there, I visited Joanna Gaines’ store, Magnolia, and was immediately taken with the experiential charm of the store and grounds. My husband encouraged me to explore the idea of opening my own retail space.

And then, shortly after that, Morgan called.”

Morgan proposed the idea of opening a retail business together. “Jamie was a little hesitant because it would mean a move for them,” recalled Morgan. “But she promised that if I found the retail space, she would consider it. And two weeks later, I found it.”

GREG & JAMIE LAPP Morgan definitely possesses an entrepreneurial spirit, but she also loves her job of 6 years as a civil litigation and personal injury lawyer with Holton Law Firm in Winston-Salem. And as it turned out, her role as a lawyer served her well as she began to make plans with Jamie. Morgan shared, “I draft and review contracts and leases frequently, and I’m also experienced in business formation and the ins and outs of commercial renovation projects. I got to know Joe and Jodi Williams of LMI Builders when they renovated our office on Fifth Street in 2016. In early 2019, I told Joe I was looking for retail space. He recently had discovered the perfect location.”

“So I called Jamie, and she agreed to come and visit the space.

Everything fell into place from there. We decided to name our store Fiddle & Fig because we both purchased Fiddle Leaf Fig Trees around the time we decided to pursue the business, and often discussed their particular, but simple, requirements; but then—COVID happened.”

Jamie continued, “My husband and I made the move to Winston-Salem, knowing that we had a tremendous opportunity to create something special. Our initial plans were to open the store in the Spring of 2020, but after COVID created havoc for everyone, we instead focused on creating an online store for local pick-up. In a way, the delay actually helped us. It forced us to stay focused, generate more online and word-of-mouth support, and take our time getting things ready for the space.”

“Now, we are even more excited to welcome everyone in October. The delay has helped us prepare, and this is not just a store—this is an experience.”

“It absolutely is an experience, and while we are not exactly like Magnolia,” Jamie said, “They have offered a lot of inspiration for how we’ll do things. One of the things I love about Winston-Salem is its similarities to my hometown of Lancaster, PA, and there’s nothing like Fiddle & Fig in the area. You might be able to find something like it in Charlotte, but this is definitely a new thing for Winston-Salem.”

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“Plus,” said Morgan, “We are working with LMI Builders and without them, this wouldn’t have been possible for us. Joe and Jodi have been instrumental in much of the revitalization in Winston-Salem. From the work they did at Incendiary Brewing Co. and Cugino Forno, Wake Forest BioTech Place and Bailey Park Amphitheatre, Bookmarks of Winston-Salem, to the very law office in which I practice—the Williams’s have a true heart for the success of the community. We have been working with them on this new space and are excited to share it with Winston-Salem and the West End. We’re going to have ample parking and the almost 3-acre property will be a place to come as a family; mom can shop while dad and the kids grab some snacks from Lavender & Honey and hang out on the grounds. Plus, we have some other great things that will be happening too, including Food Truck Fridays and community dinners with our neighbors and other local businesses.”

Jamie said, “Although the retail space for Fiddle & Fig is the biggest part of the business, our vision didn’t end there.

Morgan and I both love the art of hospitality. We have a designated space called “Gather by Fiddle & Fig.” Gather is a little over 1,000 sq. ft. and will be available for rent for those seeking to host anything from a baby or bridal shower to a corporate meeting or dinner. The space will be furnished with tables, chairs, and we will have a small kitchen for those who want to bring food and drinks in for their event. Event décor can also be rented from the store.”

“Beyond event rental, we’ll also be utilizing the Gather space for classes,” said Morgan. “We’ll be hosting wreath making, floral arranging, and hair and make-up tutorial classes, all taught by local businesses. We’ll be sharing more about our classes on our social media channels.”

“And there’s no one we’re more enthusiastic about recommending than our soon-to-be-neighbors, Lavender & Honey Kitchen and Alkali Hair Studio. Lavender & Honey features amazing heirloom recipes. You aren’t a Winston-Salem resident until you’ve had a Lavender & Honey cinnamon roll.”

“We hope to be an inspiration for growth and community—for our staff, customers, and Winston-Salem as a whole,” said Morgan.

“While I will continue with my legal career, Jamie will oversee the day-to-day operations of Fiddle & Fig along with our team.”

“We want our community to come here to gather and embrace their own homes through the help of Fiddle & Fig,” said Jamie.

“Morgan and I are two moms who simply love to make our home life memorable and inviting. And our inventory makes it easy for anyone to do the same in their own home. Our store is full of home accessories and furnishings that are neutral, and we offer the occasional pop of color. This strategic method enables people to truly tailor their purchases to fit their own signature style and décor—as well as repurpose it when it’s time for a fresh new look.”

“We hope you’ll stop by! We’ve been eagerly waiting to welcome Winston-Salem as a part of our Fiddle & Fig family.”

Fiddle & Fig is located at 403 West End Boulevard in Winston-Salem. Call the store at (336) 283-9220 and visit online at www.fiddle-fig.com. Fiddle & Fig’s new location includes neighboring businesses Lavender & Honey Kitchen and Alkali Hair Studio. Look for announcements about Food Truck Fridays, Community Dinners, and other events for the whole family to enjoy! Be sure to like Fiddle & Fig and Gather on Facebook and follow them on Instagram - @fiddleandfigmarket & @gather.wsnc.

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Easy Ways to

Spruce Up Your Home

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

It

happens to us all. Every now and then, we feel the need for a change in our living space. We get tired of looking at the same furniture rearrangements, wall colors, and decorations. The hope of making a switch and getting ideas on what to do from DIY sites can be motivational. When it comes to the reality of actually doing a home make-over, it can be more of a hassle. However, there are stress-free small ways to spruce up your home without having the help of an HGTV DIY team, including the ones below.

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If you are looking for some new artwork, turn your own photos into posters. A simple Google search will show you the stores in your area that print pictures in a poster size. Looking for an extra touch, add a frame to them.

Decorators have lived by the rule of displaying accent pieces in odd numbers. For example, your kitchen counter may hold five knick-knacks, instead of four or six. This tip is pleasing to the eye and gives more attention to the individual items.

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Hang a mirror in every room, when possible. The addition of a mirror can lighten up a space, but it needs to be placed on walls that are perpendicular with, or next to, windows. Never hang a mirror across from a window, because this will create too much light in the room.

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One way to make a room feel smaller than it truly is can come from low or dark ceilings. If a ceiling is built low, paint it a lighter color and hang curtains higher than the windows. Your eye will be tricked into thinking the ceiling is higher.

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For larger areas, such as countertops, always keep the décor to a minimum.

Don’t overload it with small items or knick-knacks. This can create a cluttered feeling.

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Never place a bed along the same wall as the door. According to Feng Shui, having a bed in this position will fill your head with energy when you are supposed to be resting.

Speaking of Feng Shui, here are many guidelines to follow to add more peace, energy, and comfort to your house.

• Your stove is the most valuable possession in your home. It brings good fortune and should be kept clean and grease-free.

• Declutter your entryway, so you aren’t overwhelmed every time you walk in the door. Trunks, closets, and shelves can be a huge help in moving the clutter out of sight.

• Empty spots can be easily filled with a plant, which in return, will bring happy energy in.

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Rugs can be a benefit for any type of room, especially in kitchens and bathrooms. Sometimes these two rooms can be on the older side, but a rug can bring warmth to the space.

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Bathrooms should not be overlooked.

Paint the walls warm colors, add accessories, such as candles, fluffy

towels, chunky soap bars, and more to create a spa-like atmosphere.

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Move around your accent pieces and knick-knacks often. This is one of the simplest ways to make a décor change. Mix and match items between rooms and seasons.

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Another thing to mix and match are textures. Pillows, throws, and accessories of different textures can create intriguing visual effects and layers in a room.

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Paint and repaint walls, baseboards, doors, windows, and furniture. This is another easy tip to make a change in your home. It is inexpensive and can bring a new look to an area. Don’t be afraid of color of all sorts—neutrals, light colors, and dark colors. However, always test a sample of a new paint color before using it all over.

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Add a pop of color to the back of your shelves and in your closet.

If you are not looking for a color overhaul, this tip is a great way to add color without much effort.

A change in your home can be nice every now and then. It doesn’t have to be a big update, because a little can go a long way with these easy tips.

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ENERGY EFFICIENT UPGRADES:

Appliances and HVAC Systems

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

With

our fingers crossed, most of us extend daily appreciation to our microwaves, ranges, refrigerators, and other appliances surviving without substantial repair costs, or even failing.

The high expense of replacing each unit is never convenient; yet, the monthly and annual savings can be significant!

Large Appliances Technology extends to appliances, too.

Refrigerators have accommodating options, from crisper drawers to glass windows and cameras. Phone apps and “memo” options help shoppers reduce over-spending while having access to the grocery list with one touch of a button!

Non-energy-efficient appliances are hungry for energy. Each energy-starrated appliance in your home adds to the overall savings.

TIP: U pgrading appliances should include preparing for the unexpected event— power outages. The comfort of your family is worth upgrading to a gas range, and may lead you to consider to a gas fireplace, dryer, or tankless water heater.

TIP: H olidays are a prime time to purchase large appliances. Discounts in buying multiple units, as well as the option for rebates are available.

Homeowners also should access their utility service provider to learn whether rebates apply to energy-star certified purchases.

HVAC Systems Homes that have a 15- to 20-year-old HVAC system are no longer efficient by today’s standards. Technology improves units each year with innovative solutions, including options for solar and geothermal power. Today’s shoppers can find “smart thermostats,” remotely connected to apps through a smartphone. Just imagine regulating heating and cooling to specific rooms, or before you wake up or arrive home from work. Through sensors created from ductwork dampers, rooms with minimal traffic can receive less energy until needed.

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Professionals will gladly assess your home to suggest the right unit for your living space. Sometimes homeowners do not realize their HVAC system was improperly sized, and this results in excessively high monthly bills. With a new energy-efficient system, the savings can range from 20 to 50% Ceiling Fans Paddling air to circulate the room is more than just a summer requirement, ceiling fans are a necessary tool year-round. Costing cents per day to power, fans encourage an even distribution of air throughout your home and trigger the air conditioning or heating unit to shut off. Do you have a hot kitchen situated to receive southern light—consider adding a ceiling fan! This is an easy solution to ease the comfort of food preparers and dining experiences.

Tankless Water Heater Many homeowners who own a traditional bulky storage tank can transition to a tankless unit offering water on demand. The compact unit, occupying a fourth of the space, uses high-powered gas or electric burners to heat water before channeling to a faucet. While set-up and installation of a tankless unit require a professional, homeowners can depend on a 20-year life expectancy and 34% savings, while adding value to the home.

Upgrade Plumbing Fixtures Investing in modernized faucets, showerheads, and handles in popular choices, such as brushed nickel, bronze, and antiqued copper, adds instant aesthetics and value to the home. When perusing the vast selection of environmental-friendly options, consider the following information: • A low-flow aerator is a small device that attaches to the head of the faucet. It can adjust the flow of water without impacting the pressure. Consider buying “low-flow” faucets and showerheads. The environmental impact will be to save four gallons per minute, offer less strain on the water heater, and save families approximately $145 in electric power and $90 in gas annually.

• Toilets before 1992 used roughly four to seven gallons of water with each flush.

The term “Energy Star” identifies energy-efficient appliances, while “Water Sense” is a label indicating the appliance meets water-saving criteria. The new highefficiency toilets move waste by water velocity, while using 1.28 gallons per flush.

A family of four saves roughly 15,000 gallons and $120 per year.

TIP: Identify a leak by adding one drop of food coloring to your toilet’s tank. Wait ten minutes to determine if the dye arrives at the bowl. To fix this problem, replace the flapper.

Energy efficiency begins with certified fixtures, heaters, and appliances. The saving continues in our lifestyles, such as choosing to run laundry and dishwasher loads at full capacity, and turning off the faucet when brushing teeth. Think about the aspects of not using power, perhaps by adding a clothesline to your yard or porch, or making laundry soap. Every green effort is a movement toward a cleaner environment!

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Chimney Fire 911

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

During

chilly nights, it becomes routine to gather tinder and kindling, and strike the match to start the initial spark. Gazing at the dancing flames soothes the mind, relaxes the body into readiness for sleep. Without an inspection, layers of hardened creosote coat the inside pipes and the chimney liner. The deposits can plug dampers and potentially, the chimney cap. As these thicken, a gummy, foul-smelling, corrosive substance detaches and falls to the fireplace floor, leaving behind the combustible remnants.

Some individuals claim the sound begins as a rumbling that grows louder, while others hear nothing. Witnessing the effects requires homeowners to stand outside and see the flames shooting out several feet above the chimney.

Households cannot depend on smoke alarms to sound.

Creosote eventually burns away, reducing flames to smoke, which exits through the chimney. Will one member hear the crash and encourage family members to leave at once? Any household that uses a fireplace can experience a chimney fire, including new homes! You can save the family from a devastating experience by scheduling annual, professional cleanings.

The Service of a Chimney Sweep In researching a professional who can remove creosote, clean smoke ducts, dampers, flue pipes, chimney linings, and fireboxes, homeowners will want a CSIA certified company with credentials to evaluate and maintain flue linings and venting systems, and perform necessary repairs. The modern-day sweep includes the use of brushes and vacuums, cleansers, and cameras to ensure the fireplace, chimney, and caps are structurally sound for proper draft and flow. Whether the chimney is old or new, an annual inspection and cleaning can create a feeling of security each time a fire is lit.

Safety Practices In the United States, approximately 25,000 house owners incur over 125 million dollars in property damage annually from chimney fires. As fire causes cracking, warping, or melting of the masonry or metal within the walls, sparks and embers often escape to other areas in walls, roofs, or attics, and spread throughout the house, putting lives at risk.

1. WOOD CONDITION AND TYPE MATTERS: Since the culprit often is a build-up of creosote, homeowners should care what type of wood enters the firebox. For kindling, use sticks or branches. Crumpled newspaper or pinecones work quite well for tinder. Never use cloth, glossy paper, or cardboard, which may include chemicals which can release toxins. Always use seasoned hardwood (note: pine is NOT a hardwood!) which has had time to dry for a minimum of six months. Greenwood is often heavy, due to its high moisture content, and rarely has cracks. If burned, the unmistakable sound of sizzling, loud pops, flying sparks, and significant smoke indicate it’s not ready. For ultimate safety, consider purchasing a particular gadget called a wood moisture meter!

2. OPEN THE DAMPER: One mistake in the excitement of enjoying a fire is not remembering to pull down on the metal plate, called the damper. Shine a light up into the flue. When not in use, the damper should remain closed. Without a place for the smoke to travel, it will consume the main house.

3. INSTALL A CHIMNEY CAP: All chimneys need a protective covering designed from steel or copper mesh to protect against animals, debris, rain, and downdrafts. Caps prevent a term called back puffing, which means smoke reenters the chimney and seeps into the home.

4. EXTINGUISH A FIRE WHEN UNATTENDED: Fireplaces, such as wood, gas, and pellet stoves, can heat the home safely due to the locking mechanism of metal or glass doors. Without the added protection, fires require extinguishing by spreading out the wood and embers with a fire poker and allowing them to settle. Sodium bicarbonate, known as baking soda, and flour are effective powders to smother fire.

5. THE ASH BUCKET: The residue ash is misleading. Even after two days, glowing embers remain embedded in the pile.

The use of seasoned, dry wood is equally as important as removing the ash. Always use a galvanized or metal bucket free of holes or rust. Never place the contents in or near the house and always away from anything combustible, especially leaves. Use ash in your garden by digging a hole and covering it with soil.

Call a professional chimney sweep service today! Ensure every night is safe rather than full of panic, a call to 911, and evacuating loved ones and pets!

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Tech Minute from Mike

BY MIKE MILES IT DIRECTOR, CONNECT TECH INC.

5 Security Tips for WFH:

Many of us have found that working from home (WFH) is the new normal.

This comes with lots of challenges—on top of figuring out on-line school for your kids, you also have to learn how to be your own IT department. Here are 5 ways to help make your new home office space more secure….

1. Do not mix work and personal accounts Separate your work and personal accounts for online activities by using different e-mail addresses.

If you already have a work e-mail address, use that for work apps and sites. Only use your personal e-mail address for non-work-related activities like YouTube, surfing the Web or playing games. Make a clear distinction between work and free time.

2. Use a Virtual Private Network (VPN) Your work network and your home network should not be mixed.

When you are not physically at your company’s office, always use a VPN to separate the two networks.

This will keep the networks and the data you are viewing protected.

Although VPNs do not guarantee 100% protection from hackers, they do decrease the risk exponentially.

Many companies have their own VPN for employees to use when they are working off-site. If your company does not, you can explore different VPN applications.

“OpenVPN” is a great free open source app and “IP Vanish” is a lowcost VPN option.

Keep in mind that if you are using your company’s VPN, there is a record of what sites and

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searches are conducted while you are connected.

3. Practice basic cybersecurity Hackers and scammers are eager to take advantage of the new WFH chaos. Properly managing your security should limit their ability to facilitate a number of illegal activities, including using false identities and bank fraud.

Using basic cybersecurity practices will go a long way in protecting yourself and your company. Start by setting up a password manager like “Dashlane” or “LastPass,” using 2-factor, or even multifactor authentication for important accounts, and installing anti-virus software. Never post your personal information online, and, do not share your passwords—even with friends and family.

If you are helping your kids with home-schooling, teach them the basics of cybersecurity, too. You can even encourage your kid’s schools to make cybersecurity part of their curriculum.

4. Take control over your personal data There is no way around it: Whenever you go online, you risk sharing your personal information. Check your (and your kids’) apps to verify their privacy policies will not compromise your personal information. Many apps offer free services in exchange for sharing your data. Be sure to avoid these at all costs. It is better to pay a few dollars a month for a value-added service than to compromise your personally identifiable information.

Check the settings for individual apps, business and recreational,

to see what sharing you can limit.

Make sure no social media account profiles are set to public.

5. D on’t be a Phish Though not directly related to WFH, everyone should understand the basics of preventing e-mail and phone scams. Phishing e-mails may legitimately look like they are from a company you know and trust.

They could appear to be from a credit card company, a social media site, a bank, or any number of online stores. They often use scare tactics to trick you into opening an attachment or clicking a link.

Some examples of phishing e-mails may include: • Saying they’ve noticed suspicious activity on your account; • Saying you must confirm personal information; • Wanting you to click on a link to make a payment; • Claiming there’s a problem with your payment information; • Congratulating you on being their newest winner.

E-mail spam filters will prevent most phishing attacks from reaching your inbox. But hackers are good at getting around security measures. Stay safe by practicing these habits: • Back up your data. Backups should not be kept on your computer or network drives.

• Protect your accounts with multifactor authentication (MFA); this makes it harder for scammers to access your accounts.

• Protect your computer and your mobile phone with security software, and update it regularly.

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Provides Teletherapy to Continue Speech Services During The Pandemic

BY JULIE FRITZ

Speech

is one of the most valuable tools we have as humans. We use our voices to express our feelings and communicate our needs. However, there are times when that tool doesn’t function as well as it needs to, and that is where speech pathology can make a huge difference.

SpeakEasy Therapy has been providing speech-language services in our community for the last ten years, and now they’re adapting to continue that care through a pandemic.

Julie Casey has over 23 years of experience as a speech pathologist. She started her career working in public and private schools. In 2009, she found herself in a situation where a declined school enrollment had the potential to affect her position. She spent the next year analyzing the Triad’s needs regarding speech to see if she could go out into the community independently and provide needed services. She discovered a need in the preschool-age population that was under-served at the time and was thrilled to make this change in her career. By 2010, she found that the preschools and daycares in which she worked needed speech pathologists on an even greater level than she could manage alone, so she began to build the team that became SpeakEasy Therapy.

For the last ten years, SpeakEasy has visited daycares and preschools to screen and work with children from 18 months to five years old. They would also partner with parents and childcare providers to meet the child’s needs by training these adults to continue the care between sessions. Most of their patients would typically be discharged as children entered the public school system at age five, where public school speech pathologists would be available.

Then came the pandemic. This new world we’re living in has changed how daycare centers and preschools can allow speech therapy to be provided to their children. Unfortunately, because of COVID-19-related regulations, speech pathologists have been unable to enter many of these facilities since March of 2020, despite the children’s continuing needs. This concern got Julie Casey to consider how to still provide for children’s needs during this time.

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As one might imagine, wearing a mask and practicing social distancing can significantly affect the ability to provide traditional speech therapy services, but telehealth has become the answer. Therapy sessions on the Zoom platform had not been provided on a widespread basis in the past in the profession, and insurance wasn’t sure how or if they would cover it. But as telehealth became our society’s new normal, and with the provision for training on teletherapy for her team, Julie and her providers realized that teletherapy is not that different from a traditional instruction method. It’s just another delivery system. It’s challenging to provide speech therapy when the speech pathologist or child is wearing a mask, because many therapy techniques require visual and auditory cues provided by the speech pathologist. The teletherapy platform allows her team to deliver the services mask-free and provide quality sessions, so children can continue to receive and implement the skilled interventions that they are used to receiving from these clinicians.

One of the best facets of SpeakEasy Therapy is that they don’t just treat the child’s speech needs, they have a desire to partner with, and support, families with needs that may go beyond just speech. Their team understands special needs and the impact they can have on family life. The team works with various children, from those who have mild speech differences to children with more impactful developmental delays. These speech pathologists support families as they move through the referral process with everything from helping to make outside referrals to just providing a listening ear. They are grateful for the opportunity to serve in this capacity and believe it is God’s blessing to their team to have the chance to encourage parents’ attempts to help their child, listen to families’ concerns about the next steps to take, and develop relationships with families that will help these children to be the best communicators they can be.

Parent Michelle Barson shared thoughts from her family’s experience and the transition to virtual sessions. “Our family has worked with SpeakEasy since my son, Beckett, was two

years old. We quickly found the best fit for our family to do private and public [school] speech therapy. We have done two private sessions a week almost since we began with SpeakEasy and wouldn’t have been able to do so if they weren’t so great to work with.”

“While my son was in preschool, Julie would come and meet with him there. He has gone to two different schools, and both administrations and teachers have LOVED Julie and are impressed with the way Beckett loves to see her, and how much he improves by working with her.”

“When the pandemic hit, I was panicked. I didn’t know how I would keep up my son’s language skills. Julie proposed doing speech therapy via Zoom. At first, I was hesitant. I couldn’t figure out how virtual speech would ever work for our then five-yearold. Julie convinced me to try it just one time, and we did...and it was awesome! I had no idea a little kid could focus and engage with a therapist over the computer. In fact, his focus has even improved! The best part is, it doesn’t seem to have impacted the personal relationship the two have built over the years.”

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Julie Casey, Melinda Cottonaro, Katie Morin, Brandi Sacrinty, Lauren Matthews, and Mandi Watson can provide various services, including speech & language screenings, evaluations, and speech therapy. Typical speech therapy may focus on speech sound production, receptive (how a child understands), and expressive (how a child expresses his thoughts and needs) language skills, or stuttering. With public education now occurring in most homes, parents may be noticing speechlanguage problems with their school-age child that they had not noticed in the past, but now, with increased difficulty for their children to have access to a public school speech therapist, they have become more apparent. With the addition of teletherapy services to their repertoire, SpeakEasy Therapy can provide additional types of services that may affect schoolage children. Many families are reaching out for assistance to increase their child’s phonological awareness skills (connecting and manipulating letters and sounds) and auditory processing skills, in addition to the skill needs mentioned above. SpeakEasy Therapy can fit the bill. All services are available for children age two years through school age.

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Walmart announced in July it will close its stores on Thanksgiving Day for the first time in more than 30 years. Dick’s Sporting Goods, Target, Kohl’s, Best Buy and others have followed suit – with some stating it’s the least they can do to thank employees for their dedication throughout the pandemic.

Earlier Holiday Promotions Additionally – retailers are expected to continue a trend of holiday promotions throughout the fall. As of this article’s writing (early Sept.) – the July 2020 Amazon “Prime Day” was postponed. Amazon said it will happen, but a new date had not been announced. The online retail behemoth is expected to begin launching Black Friday deals in late October.

Target noted that it will “stretch out the savings” noting 2020 isn’t a year for crowds, and holiday deals will start in October.

Looking Ahead: The 2020 Holiday Season Yes Virginia, it’ll be a holiday season like no other. Mostly because nobody’s sure what to expect.

But it will happen, albeit, amid continuing uncertainty about when timelines may return to normal. It’s hard to say what the pandemic’s full impact will be on this most sociable time of year – known for its fevered shopping, one-of-a-kind events, parades, parties, family gatherings and Santa photos.

As evidenced by concepts like the reverse Christmas parades planned in some cities, in which the public drives by floats parked in place, preparations are being made to ensure some traditions can be recognized safely.

Many retail experts are saying to buy early this year. A surge in virtual shopping is anticipated, but the unpredictable nature of buying has given retailers pause. Inventory planning for stores is hard this year, and retailers may be more conservative with inventory planning, because no one is quite sure what to expect yet in terms of sales – and they don’t want to have lots of leftover inventory to mark down later. Retailers also face the prospect of, if they cut back, shortages for the most sought after items.

And remember, if you’re shopping online, definitely consider how long presents will take to ship.

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Even Santa is training for a safer holiday. According to Business Insider, while enrollment at the United Kingdom based Ministry of Fun’s Santa School is down by half this year, it’s working to reassure the public that visits can take place and close contact can be avoided, and that shields and masks will help make visits safer. Their training puts Santa about six feet away from children, whom he sends off with contact-free giveaways.

Here’s a few other examples of what to expect this holiday season.

Holiday Escapism We are apparently, very ready for the Christmas season. Longing for it has been a mini-trend this year since lockdowns started in March.

Since then, telltale signs like families re-hanging Christmas lights, radio stations playing Christmas music, the Hallmark Channel’s “We Need a Little Christmas” movie marathon – and even Burger King’s #wrapup2020 commercial with a location already decked out in Christmas lights – were cited as proof by the New York Times in August that we’ve been looking forward to the holidays as a refuge.

Thanksgiving Day Doorbusters Retailers large and small have already been rewriting their playbooks, leaning into safe shopping by adapting to the new normal. But don’t look for doorbuster sales to happen the same way this year.

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Google reported in July that 53% of shoppers this season noted they’ll choose to shop at stores that offer contactless options.

Additionally, 47% of planned shoppers said they’ll use options to buy online, pickup in store, or pickup curbside.

Retailers are becoming more equipped to deal with consumer safety touch points. In August, the National Retail Federation (NRF) said in The State of Retail Payments study, that 67 percent of retailers surveyed now accept some form of no-touch payment, and that includes 58 percent that accept contactless cards that can be waved past a card reader or tapped on the reader, up from 40 percent last year, and 56 percent that take digital wallet payments on mobile phones, up from 44 percent.

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2019, the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce, in partnership with the Clemmons Community Foundation and a team of hardworking council members, launched the Leadership LewisvilleClemmons (LLC) program. Generous sponsorship from Novant Health, Marzano Capital Group, Allegacy Federal Credit Union, and Wells Fargo made it all possible!

Additionally, the first year program featured a dynamic inaugural of professionals who were bold enough to take a leap of faith into uncharted territory. Their invaluable input has made it possible for the program to grow and improve for future classes.

While the 2020 program did come to a bit of an abrupt end thanks to COVID, the program was still well received, and those who participated have proven to be enthusiastic supporters and advocates, including several who have since joined the planning council.

And now, we’re planning for the second year! After careful consideration, the LLC Council decided that the wisest course of action will be to delay the second year start date until January 2021. Every program day will be designed with the hope of meeting in person, with an appropriate amount of social distancing. But, a Plan B option is being developed in the event the program needs to go online.

This program is an important part of our community. It is designed to help those with a vested interest in Lewisville and Clemmons to understand the ins and outs of the communities and develop key leadership skills. Another primary objective is to grow the community network.

Registration for Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons 2021 is now open; the application can be found at TinyURL.com/ ApplyLLC2021. The cost is $675 to Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber members and $800 for non-members. Tuition is inclusive of training and interactive programming for each day, leadership assessment tools, and a graduation reception.

There is a $50 application fee. The application period will close on November 13th, and applicants will be notified by November 30th about their placement in the program.

Questions about the program can be directed to Denise Heidel at Denise@LeadershipLC.com. And if your business is interested in sponsoring Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons, please reach out to Meika Imes at Meika@LewisvilleClemmons.com.

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Care for the Senior Canine

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day with a four-legged friend is a gift of time. By the first birthday, a playful ball of energy is equivalent to a 15-year-old; after three years, she’ll reach the human age of 28. The methylation-based formula is a useful tool to evaluate anti-aging interventions. Six marks the beginning of the senior years, when weight becomes a factor to measure age.

According to the equivalent age of humans, a Boston terrier, a small breed, adds four years per calendar year, a golden retriever increases by six years, while a Great Pyrenees’ age escalates to nine.

rice. Older pets require readily digestible foods that offer different calorie levels and anti-aging ingredients.

Health Profile As years blur from one to another, dogs can show symptoms of age-related problems, such as a loss of hearing, declining vision, reduction in mobility, and cognitive impairment. An excellent way to understand your dog’s health is to schedule annual exams, including investing in lab work. From the initial baseline, screening offers a comparison to alert us to the identification of changes that may require treatment or further testing.

TEN CALENDAR YEARS: Small dogs, equivalent to 56 human years; medium weight, age 60; and large breeds, age 66.

EIGHT CALENDAR YEARS: Small dogs, equivalent to 48 human years old; medium weight, 51 years old; and large breeds, 55 years old.

Body Map The beautiful long, silky locks of border collies, cocker spaniels, English setters, and various breeds of sheepdogs and terriers have a downside. They can conceal developing cysts, tumors, and skin conditions. Without shaving, you will need to rely on your sense of touch and carefully watching whether your canine begins to start chewing or scratching a specific area.

Create a 3-D drawing of your fourlegged friend to indicate regions of known lumps, suggesting size, and coloring if possible.

Bringing specific areas to your veterinarian’s attention can start a paper trail or the beginning of immediate treatment.

Weight and Exercise Your dog’s weight connects to mobility.

Extra pounds on a six-year-old canine creates added stress on their joints and internal organs, and presents risk for various health problems, including skin infections, heart disease, immune suppression, diabetes, orthopedic, and arthritic disorders. Dietary changes can impact longevity; therefore, begin by minimizing daily food portions and eliminating table scraps. Rather than offering prepackaged treats, provide nutritious foods, such as blueberries, mashed sweet potatoes, unsalted peanut butter, apples, and white

Join in the regimen of exercise by adopting a daily routine of walking. Find safe walking trails not too far from home, and dog parks, which allow canines to run freely while meeting new friends. Large breeds are susceptible to arthritis and hip dysplasia.

Maintaining an ideal body weight coupled with an active lifestyle can minimalize health problems.

Behavioral and Cognitive Changes Hide and seek is an insightful game to play inside and outdoors with your pet. The activity, while fun to be “found,” measures acute hearing and vision. In the senior years, owners may notice her barking at an invisible object, appearing lost, pacing, and no longer responding to visitors, or verbal commands.

The condition is “canine cognitive dysfunction,” similar to the human version of Alzheimer’s. Studies suggest a well-balanced therapeutic dog food with omega-3 fatty acids; interactive games, like puzzle toys and food-dispensing balls; and plenty of walks to promote mental stimulation. Since there is no single solution for a complex disease, caregivers must continue to make adjustments.

FIFTEEN YEARS: Small dogs, equivalent to 76 human years; medium weight, age 83; and large breeds, age 93.

Senior Years The human-animal bond is ever-present from puppyhood through the trials of old age. Similar to an elder member of the family, our four-legged friends cannot thermoregulate changes in temperature and occasionally have bathroom accidents.

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Soothing Remedies for Children

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of young children need fast-acting, natural remedies to heal the coughs and irritations that sometimes can lead to infections. While practicing prevention is a smart action, there are also practical tricks to help kids stay healthy or recover quickly!

HUMIDIFIERS

A cool-mist humidifier is a parent’s number-one solution to keep dry skin, croup, sinus infections, colds, and upper respiratory tract infections at bay. The disadvantage of frequent cleanings and refills is well worth the effort! Newborns and toddlers who sleep with a humidifier are much healthier and spend less time at a pediatrician’s office.

icy pops may not give children essential vitamins and minerals; yet, they will aid their intake of liquids. Stock up! Keep a few extra boxes in supply. You’ll be thankful!

CHAMOMILE AND PEPPERMINT TEA

Natural, ancient medicines, specifically herbal teas, have beneficial value to breastfed infants age six months or older. Chamomile tea has calming properties for colic, while peppermint eases upset stomachs and gas. When giving tea to an infant, use no more than a teaspoon in a medicine dropper between feedings to ensure the baby continues to breastfeed.

TIP: S ome brands offer tanks that run for 20 hours without a refill, while others include attractive perks, such as a starry night-light.

STEAM BATHS

A seal-like cough, often diagnosed as croup, is an instantaneous sound of alarm and heartbreak. One solution is to give your little one a warm, not hot, bath. The effects of steam will help soothe inflamed airways and decrease mucus buildup. And, continue to hydrate.

OATMEAL BATHS

Say the phrase “bath time,” and most toddlers will divest themselves of their clothes before reaching the bathroom.

Twenty minutes of soaking in an oatmeal bath can ease the redness and pain from diaper rashes or eczema. Simply grind one cup of oats into a fine powder and swirl the contents into warm water; or, you can buy pre-made oatmeal packets.

CALMING EFFECTS OF LAVENDER

“Safe and gentle,” “soothes skin,” and “aids sleep” are all appealing phrases, especially if the body wash or lotion features lavender. The herbal aroma has magical effects, from fostering sleep to soothing skin allergies, such as diaper and skin rashes.

TIP: Be forewarned! Not thoroughly washing your hands after application will lead you to succumb to dreamland.

MENTHOL RUBS

Mentholated vapor rubs are still on the market. Today, various brands offer a chest rub for kids. Most contain camphor, menthol, and eucalyptus oil to provide relief from coughs and congestion. Rather than apply to the chest, take a small dab and apply it to the feet.

KEEP A SUPPLY OF ICY POPS

If hydration equals health, during the winter months the one food that eases thirst is an icy pop. As an inexpensive solution,

SMOOTHIE SENSATIONS

“How can I get my 18-month-old to eat more vegetables?” Picky kids require creative and sneaky recipes. Try blending fruits and vegetables into a smoothie. As a result, children receive vitamins, minerals, fiber, and protein from the process. Some recipes: • 8 oz. milk, 1 banana, 1 tsp. peanut butter, and ice.

• ½ cup of low-sugar yogurt, 1 banana, 3 strawberries, kale, and ice.

TIP: Jessica Seinfeld, the author of the cookbook, Deceptively Delicious, promotes ingenious ingredients to encourage kids to eat healthy foods.

FRUIT VERSUS BREAD

One of the first snacks children consume regularly is some form of bread. Animal crackers are self-contained and do not create a mess if dropped; however, think outside the box and consider other types of snacks, such as grapes, apple, orange, or banana slices. You can even try dehydrated apple slices for a ninemonth-old.

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Raising LIFELONG Learners

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curious child has a wealth of provocative questions, seeking to know more about the world. Stepping only five steps beyond the door allows children to follow the path of ants, or watch a salamander quickly scurry past, or a patch of dirt surrounded by grass, or clouds re-form into new shapes. As parents, we want children never to stop wondering about the Why and How as lifelong learners!

Create Guidelines for Routines Fostering opportunities for self-sufficiency begins at toddlerhood. In a world of substantial options, kids need less direction and more guidance. Start a morning routine that establishes daily procedures. In time, children can answer the question, “What do you do next?” Parents who teach expectations defining morning and bedtime routines, a clean room, and personal responsibilities ensure that a child will be an independent, contributing member of the family.

weather, the pathway of streams to oceans, beneficial bugs, and why some animals are not friendly. Take the conversation one step further and visit the local library. Librarians will be happy to meet you and recommend age-appropriate books on a wide range of subjects.

The Need for Science Not every question under the universe has an answer. It’s perfectly acceptable for parents to say, “I wonder that too!” Science-friendly homes think critically, ask questions, wonder, experiment, fail, and keep trying. The artist and inventor, Leonardo da Vinci, is an ideal example of trial and error. To better understand the human body, he delved into physiology and anatomy by taking notes and drawing pictures in notebooks. In wondering if people could fly, he spent hours watching and illustrating the flight patterns of birds, studied biomechanics, and designed the first airplane. But without the technology of one essential part, the engine, da Vinci never knew if his ideas were a success. He is among thousands of curious people who asked questions and kept trying!

TIP: B uy a kid-friendly, battery-operated, digital clock with multiple alarm settings. Kids can show responsibility for waking, arriving at breakfast, and preparing for bed. Without directing children’s movements through constant, exhausting reminders, parents can focus on personal objectives.

TIP: Give your child a drawing notebook to sketch pictures of nature, include notes or questions. Buy two. Sometimes science-minded souls need another person to talk through ideas.

Offer Opportunities for Learning Every moment, either on wheels or foot, can be a teachable moment. Break the distraction of a radio or nature sounds, and talk about what is right in front of you. Think about what you know about light and sound waves, the reason for

TIP: Children can experience stories or audiobooks up to two levels above their age or grade recommendation. The Magic Treehouse series emphasizes historical events and people through fiction for children age six to ten. Introduce these high-interest books to your four or five-year-old!

TIP: Great science-themed kits are available for young children to receive exposure to the world of magnets, microscopes, biology, paleontology, engineering, and chemistry, to name a few.

Delve into Various Mediums Coloring books have a distinct educational value in developing most fine motor skills; yet, finger paints, play dough, and Legos also offer diverse, open-ended, and interpretive creativity. It’s okay when the sky is green, and the grass is purple. Artistic endeavors display great feeling and expressive emotions. Pretend play, using sheets and pillows, crayons and cardboard can create an original universe, making perfect sense to a child. Just ask the question, “Tell me about your picture or structure,” and sit back and listen, while interjecting questions.

TIP: Hand your child four items, such as a plastic cup, a piece of paper, a crayon, and a straw, and see their imagination take over. Thinking outside the box is a well-needed skill, especially as children start thinking critically!

TIP: Proper terminology gives an object a name. It’s vital for parents not to limit children’s vocabulary. Any child can learn words, with exposure, a clear understanding of the definition, and practice; therefore, start introducing new terms.

Resources are available to parents who reach out to local publications and librarians, early-childhood teachers, child-centered museums, online websites and even other moms and dads. Making connections will help your inquisitive child get out into the world and expand their individual experiences!

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Dog Collars, Leads, and Injuries

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

As pressure is exerted upon the neck, the result impacts:

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soft sounds of snoring coming from the dog bed only require one shake from the lead to cease. In seconds, the relaxed four-legged friend is alert and bounding excitedly to the front door. Of course, she knows the routine. A good “Sit” results in the clip of the carabiner to the collar, preceding the words, “Good girl!” Dogs with owners unprepared for animal instinct lunge forward and sometimes force the owner to match their same speed as in pursuit of a squirrel. Another gut reaction occurs as the Alpha pulls back on the lead while disobeying the command, “Sit!” Unbeknownst to the owner, repeated jerking on the collar can result in a long-term medical injury to the thyroid glands and tissues surrounding the neck.

INFLAMED HORMONE GLAND

Knowing the anatomy of a canine’s neck will aid dog owners to understand the repercussions of each tug. Behind the collar is the thyroid, which encompasses large regions of the left and right side of the trachea. Why is this gland important?

In regulating metabolic rate, it also produces hormones to control the heart, muscles, digestive functions, brain development, tissues, and bones.

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TIP: Check the tightness of the collars.

You should be able to put two fingers underneath the band.

• the thyroid. After repeated incidents, white blood cells can no longer heal inflammation and bruising, which leads to a term called “low thyroid.”

The body will no longer secrete the hormone, thyroxine, leading to the inability to control the metabolism.

Excessive weight gain then links to hypothyroidism.

The goal of training is to ensure your dog understands the rules and stays in step with you. The following suggestions should aid owners in gaining more control, while ensuring the safety of non-dogfriendly strangers.

• blood flow to the eyes and ears.

If restrictions occur regularly, such as with every walk, they can cause swelling, and eventually, irreparable damage to the organs and appendages.

• Allowing a dog to walk several feet ahead leads to pulling; instead, he or she should stay on your right side. Try increasing speed and then slowing down; you’ll notice whether your dog will remain in sync.

• the trachea. Injury leads to a honking cough and sounds or snores when sleeping.

• At every stop sign, make your dog sit.

Choose a hand signal that suits your comfort level. As you meet people who are not comfortable with dogs, the intimidation factor drops when dogs immediately sit at a stop.

• the nerves of the forelegs. In an attempt to make the ache feel better, dogs will start licking their paws.

INVESTING IN SAFE COLLARS AND LEADS

The options for buckle-type dog collars include every possibility, from thickness to color, and from soft to more abrasive styles, such as the choke and prong. Comparison shopping helps dog lovers understand the variety of materials and choose the best option for the “fur kid” and walker.

One popular option to gain control, while eliminating the action of pulling and jumping, is a vest or strap harness. Easy to click on and take off, the padded straps extend over the breast and underneath the front legs.

Rather than the attaching at the neck, the harness controls movement from the body—an ideal option for training puppies or walking multiple dogs.

TIP: Indoor dogs can take a break from wearing collars and harnesses.

Hang them up near the lead to ensure accessibility as needed.

DOG TRAINING

• Long walks are great for dogs and owners, but also allow her to run and socialize with other animals.

Dogs that pull need to release pentup energy.

EXPLORING THE OUTSIDE WORLD

A canine has roughly 300 million olfactory receptors, compared to humans with a mere six million. The nose of a dog can analyze smells at approximately 40 times greater sensitivity. As your four-legged friend and you stroll through neighborhoods, parks, and fields, keep in mind the need to offer “sniff breaks.” If your dog remains mostly in the house and back yard, the world outside those perimeters offers new tantalizing experiences. Every day provides an opportunity to practice the bond between canine and Alpha, and reduce tugs and pulls!

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A Lesson on Humility from Ruth

BY DENISE HEIDEL

When

you think of people from the Bible who put on a spirit of humility, few wore it as well as Ruth. I love the story of Ruth and Naomi. Ruth’s words always move me and challenge me—“Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you” (Ruth 1:16-17).

Ruth seemed to instinctively know how to have humility in relationships. Even 1000+ years before Paul wrote Philippians 2:3, Ruth seemed to embrace, “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”

And that is not something that comes easy for us. Don’t believe me? Then you’ve clearly never watched a group of kindergarteners line up for recess. It’s a mad rush of who gets to be first. Most people feel like they have to “Look out for #1!” (And incidentally, if you ever say this phrase in front of me, I will likely bristle—it’s one of my biggest pet peeves.)

Depending on our life circumstances, we may feel that we only have ourselves we can trust…. And that attitude doesn’t translate to loving others as we love ourselves…it translates to “push others down and claw your way to the top, no matter who you step on in the process.” There’s not an ounce of love or humility in such an action.

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But when we take Jesus’ command to love God with our whole heart first—and love others as ourselves (Matthew 22:37-39)— humility finds a beautiful and comfortable fit.

Why does this matter? Because we can’t have successful relationships without humility.

Whether it’s with a spouse, parent, sibling, friend, colleague, whomever—to have relationships built on trust and respect, and most of all love, there must be a humble spirit, willing to put others ahead of ourselves.

Just as Ruth did for Naomi. She left her own family behind…her entire way of life…and chose to put Naomi’s needs above her own.

She chose to love Naomi as she loved herself.

And if you don’t think God notices that sort of selflessness, think again. Ruth’s actions led to a marriage to Boaz, and her great-grandson would be King David, and we know Who is also part of David’s lineage —Jesus. Ruth’s actions put her in the very family tree of Jesus, and what an incredible honor! If you’ve read for a while, you know I don’t subscribe to “prosperity preaching,” but God wants to bless those who are humble! Not necessarily blessings of a financial kind, but, Jesus said, “Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted” (Matthew 23:12). Ruth’s life is a testimony to that truth.

And now, let me close with a question—when you look at Ruth’s example of humility in her relationships, how do your own relationships measure up?

MINUTE for your Minister Masks July 2020

Long

before the days of “COVID-19” being a daily part of our household vocabulary, I can remember wearing masks to church. Not the ones made of fabric, but the one with the “painted smile” when my heart was breaking; or the “I’m good thanks, how are you?” one, when was definitely NOT good; or “Yes, I can help with that” when I already have more on my plate than I can possibly handle. I’m sure you’ve worn these masks too, but as a pastor’s wife the expectations to have the perfect family, marriage and ministry made the masks seem endless. The pastor’s wife “SHOULD” take meals to the sick, speak at the ladies’ events or better yet plan them, staff the nursery, teach in the children’s ministry, welcome new visitors, and sing on the praise team. Never mind that her husband is the extrovert in the family, and she gets nauseated for a weeks before a public speaking event, or that organizing is NOT her spiritual gift. These voiced or un-voiced expectations bring out the masks I’ve learned to wear through the years. Coming from this pastor’s wife, please see the real me behind my mask and let me feel safe enough to leave my mask at home or better yet throw it away.

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Journeying with

Jesus

BY PASTOR RON GARNER

When

I was a kid living in South Florida, there were two rival friend groups living in my neighborhood.

If you were in one, you were the sworn enemy of the other. So even if Tommy, a neighbor, was in my class, had similar interests to my own (riding bikes endlessly up and down our street, while discussing “Pitfall Harry” strategies) and was even a close confidante back in 1st grade, he still was a persona non grata. A life-giving friendship that could have seen us both through the turbulent days of middle school and the roller coaster of high school fizzled before it even began. Why? He was on the wrong “team.”

I am now squarely in my middle-aged years and look back to this time with some nostalgia, but with even more relief. Glad the adolescent angst is in my rearview mirror. Yet I have come to realize that, much to our society’s detriment, we carry forward some things from adolescence, despite the fact that they (in my case, for example) should have been shelved long ago with my swatch watch and “jams” (yes, I am a child of the 80s).

Mirroring my childhood neighborhood, the divisions continue. In this adult version, we have the conservatives and the liberals. To be on one side means that we are the sworn enemy of the other.

And from each perspective, why wouldn’t we? From the conservative’s angle, the

liberals are bent on destroying everything that America holds dear, from its foundational institutions to its traditional Judeo-Christian moral roots. From the liberal’s view, the conservatives are propping up these antiquated institutions and laws that are by their very nature unjust, oppressive, and antithetical to the teachings of Christ. What exacerbates polarization is that Jesus’ followers on each side can quote Scripture to solidify their position. The result? An “Us vs.

Them” mindset. Essentially a grown-up version of my “hood.”

In this edition, each rival side has its own media sources; its own leaders; obviously, its own parties; and as much as it pains me to admit it, its own churches. This last one I find deeply disturbing. In John 17:21, Jesus, with divine foresight, sees the day where his followers would be at each other’s throats. He prays that we (his future disciples) “would be one as He and the Father are one.” Please understand this is not a prayer for absolute conformity, in which we all (have to) agree on everything from our politics to our fashion. That is symptomatic of a shortlived cult, not a two-millennia movement that has transformed our world. Instead, Jesus’ petition is a plea for his followers to imitate the relationship of the Holy Trinity. And how is that relationship best characterized? By an other-centered

love—John 17:26. A love that is simply focused on the other rather than the one in the mirror.

What if Christians took Jesus’ words here seriously (I know, a novel thought) as we near the election? How might we live differently in our “neighborhood”? How about just this one: Refuse to consider a fellow Christian our enemy no matter what label they wear or others assign to them.

Jesus makes it very clear there is no “us” vs. “them.” There is only one Universal Church and every Jesus follower, no matter what his or her political ideology, is our brother and sister. In Christ, there is no “wrong” team. Period. Don’t let the media or even a fellow pastor tell us otherwise. If Christians just embraced this one biblical concept, how different our “neighborhood” could look! Christians, instead of often leading the bitter name-calling polarization, could actually model reconciliation.

Had I only crossed “enemy lines” and reached out to Tommy, not only might I have made a lifelong friend, our childhoods might have been enriched.

My fellow Jesus followers, it’s not too late for us! Invite a fellow Christian from a different political party for coffee and listen. Not only might we make a friend, but we might also grow to be a little more like Christ.

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Apple Picking Farms near the Triad

BY KATIE MOOSBRUGGER, CO-FOUNDER OF TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN

Apple picking is always a fun adventure for families, and a great way to spend an afternoon outdoors. Triad Moms on Main pulled together a list of favorite orchards around the Triad, or within a three-hour drive, that would make for a fun day-trip excursion. Always be sure to call each venue and confirm that the apples are ripe for picking before you visit. Also, be sure to check operating hours, as many are closed on certain days of the week. The apple season typically runs through early November, but some farms finish the season earlier than others. Enjoy!

Apple Hill Orchard Website: applehillorchard.com Address: 2075 Pleasant Hill Avenue, Morganton, NC 28655 Phone: (828) 437-1224 * Orchard includes a cider mill, a country store, and a bakery Bee Sweet Orchards Website: beesweetorchards. com/fruit-schedule.html Address: 2229 Pannel Rd Reidsville, NC Phone: (336) 427-6933 * Offers Red Delicious and Golden Delicious apples Billy Laughter Orchards Website: visitnc.com/listing/ yXhT/billy-laughter-orchards Address: 111 Tullahoma Farms Lane, Hendersonville, NC 28792 Phone: (828) 685-3241 * Once there, you’ll also find great Fall Harvest decorations such as pumpkins, Indian corn, winter squash and gourds.

Coston’s Apple House/Coston Farm Products Website: costonfarm.com/ nc-apples-pumpkins Address: 3748 Chimney Rock Hwy., Hendersonville, NC 28792 Phone: (828) 685-8352 * Visit the farm to find everything you need to decorate for the fall season, including pumpkins, gourds, corn shocks, hay, and Indian corn. You can also find other unique decorations in their

gift shop, as well as seasonal treats in their bakery!

Creasman Farms Website: facebook.com/ CreasmanFarms Address: 280 Bent Arrow Lane, Hendersonville, NC 28792 Phone: (828) 685-7728 Grandad’s Apples N’ Such Website: grandadsapples.com/ fresh-apples Address: 2951 Chimney Rock Road Hendersonville, NC 28792 Phone: (828) 685-1685 * Galas are available for picking!

Their corn maze is currently open, and all other children’s activities (barn- yard animals, a cow train, a jump pillow and an apple cannon) will follow CDC guidelines.

Historic Orchard at Altapass Website: altapassorchard.org Address: 1025 Orchard Rd, Spruce Pine, NC 28777 Phone: (828) 765-9531 * Also offers storytelling, checkers, and dancing.

Justus Orchard Website: justusorchard.com Address: 187 Garren Road, Hendersonville, NC 28792 Phone: (828) 974-1232 * Tour the orchard, visit the ducks in the pond as well as the farm animals, let the kids take a ride on the Cow Train through the orchard, and don’t leave without a stop at

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its bakery or Apple House for pre-picked apples, honey, jams, jellies and preserves, and other homemade goodies.

Levering Orchard Website: leveringorchard.com Address: 163 Levering Lane, Ararat, VA 24053 Phone: (276) 755-2224 * Bring a lawn chair and enjoy their outdoor theatre (although shows are geared more toward adults) Millstone Creek Orchards Website: millstonecreekorchards. com/u-pick-fruit Address: 506 Parks Crossroad Church Road, Ramseur, NC 27316 Phone: (336) 824-5263 * Reservations are required for U-Pick. More information on their website.

Skytop Orchards Website: skytoporchard.com/ skytoppickingschedule-page.htm Address: 1193 Pinnacle Mountain Rd, Flat Rock, NC 28731 Phone: (828) 692-7930 * In addition to a long list of apple varieties, the orchard offers panoramic views, orchard ponds with ducks and geese, a barnyard area with sheep, goats, chickens, turkeys, peacocks, a bamboo forest to explore, and lots of picnic areas.

Stepp’s Hillcrest Orchard Website: steppapples.com Address: 221 Stepp Orchard Drive, Hendersonville, NC 28792 Phone: (828) 685-9083 * Farm includes a five-acre corn maze, apple cannon, and a nature trail. Check opening dates with the farm before heading out! Tractor pulls and apple cannons only available on weekends.

Stoney Hollow Farm Website: stoneyhollowfarm.org Address: 944 Ollies Creek Rd., Robbinsville, NC 28771 Phone: (828) 735-2983 * Visit their store for a variety of produce, flowers, jams, antiques, and locally crafted items. And then relax in their rocking chairs or stroll their gardens!

Windy Hill Orchards Website: windyhillorchards.com Address: 176 Windy Hill Lane, Ararat, VA 24053 Phone: (276) 251-5222 * To find this farm, do not use GPS. Use directions from the “Contact” page on their website.

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In & About

BY HEATHER SPIVEY / PHOTOS BY CHASE VADEN, SECOND HARVEST FOOD BANK OF NORTHWEST NC

with Second Harvest Food Bank in Winston-Salem

In

these uncertain times, many of us are getting creative, as we have had to adjust or completely reinvent our lives to work our way back toward some semblance of the lives we experienced before COVID. It’s been the same for organizations, and Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest NC is no exception. Their annual Farm-toFourth fundraiser is usually an in-person event showcasing fabulous produce from local farms prepared by the area’s top chefs. Hundreds of guests, seated together at long community tables running down the middle Fourth Street in Downtown Winston-Salem, gathered to enjoy a delicious four-course meal.

Although such a large gathering wasn’t possible this year, local farms and chefs joined by faithful sponsors were determined to support the mission of Second Harvest and its Providence programs. Despite the challenges these farms and chefs are themselves experiencing in the face of the pandemic, Farm-to-Fourth At-Home served up an extraordinary menu for touchless, drivethru pick-up. It was a sold-out affair, and the event, which was held on Sunday, September 13th, raised more than $80,000 to support Second Harvest’s continued strong emergency response efforts—all while ensuring that everyone remained safe.

A live-stream broadcast allowed patrons a “look behind the scenes” and way to connect with the inspiring energy of the event, once they returned home. The broadcast was also a

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great opportunity to showcase the wonderful event sponsors and chefs, including Lowes Foods, the presenting sponsor for the event.

Other new and returning sponsors were Truist, Garner Foods, Hanes Brands, Allegacy, Rob & Holly Stowe, Parsec Financial and Raffaldini Vineyards.

Participating restaurants included Providence, Spring House, Quanto Basta, The Porch Kitchen & Cantina, Alma Mexicana, Canteen Market & Bistro, Six Hundred Degrees Live Fire Kitchen, Roosters - A Noble Grille, The Katherine Brasserie, and Bobby Boy Bakeshop.

Heather Martin, Senior Director of Strategic Partnerships at Providence, said, “During these unprecedented times, we felt it important to find a way to come together, even if virtually, as a community and share a good meal for a great cause. Food insecurity in our community has never been greater, and the work of Second Harvest Food Bank and Providence has increased substantially to meet this demand. This reinvented event allowed us to remind our community that we are here for the long haul to serve our neighbors in need, while giving them a direct (and delicious!) way to support our work.”

Second Harvest Food Bank is planning to host their Farm to Fourth event around the same time next year; fingers crossed for it to be in person!

A fundraiser to feed neighbors in need!

St. Patrick’s Day Treats

Treats for a n e e w o l l a H g n i Haunt at Home

BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION & EMILY DODSON

In this wild season of sickness and caution, many might choose to celebrate Halloween at home this year. Make these artsy treats together with your family and fill their Halloween season with such spooky bites and fun and they won’t feel that they’ve missed out on a thing! Mummy Pizzas for lunch and Graveyard Mousse Cups will help them get their creative juices flowing and feel like it’s also craft time!

MUMMY PIZZAS INGREDIENTS: 16 Black olive slices or mini-pepperoni slices One-third cup Pizza sauce 1 can Crescent roll dough, refrigerated 8 Mozzarella cheese slices DIRECTIONS: 1. Heat oven to 375° and lightly spray a baking sheet with cooking spray.

2. Roll out the crescent roll dough and separate into 4 rectangles, pressing seams together and cutting them into equal halves. If using a crescent dough sheet, cut into 8 equal rectangles. Once on baking sheet, press the rectangles out slightly. Bake about 8-9 minutes until light golden brown and remove from oven.

3. Spread about 2 teaspoons of pizza sauce on each dough rectangle. Cut a mozzarella slice into 8 strips and place criss-cross atop the dough rectangle to resemble mummy bandages. Add 2 olive slices or pepperoni slices for eyes.

4. Pop them back in the oven for 2-3 minutes until cheese melts. Serve warm!

PEANUT BUTTER MOUSSE GRAVEYARD CUPS INGREDIENTS: 1 cup Peanut butter 1 cup heavy Whipping cream 2 heaping Tbsp. Cream cheese 2 Tbsp. Powdered sugar 1 tsp. Vanilla pinch of Salt Chocolate chip cookies Chocolate fudge sauce Milano-style or rectangle-shaped cookies Small black “writing” tube gel Icing DIRECTIONS: 1. In a mixing bowl, blend peanut butter, half the cream, cream cheese, vanilla, sugar and salt. Once blended, mix in the rest of the cream.

2. In another bowl, break up the chocolate chip cookies into large chunks. Use two cookies per graveyard cup.

GUMMY WORM CHILLERS INGREDIENTS: Hawaiian Punch – Green Berry Rush Lemon-lime soda Gummy worms Muffin tin Twizzlers, green and orange, optional DIRECTIONS: 1. P lace 2 gummy worms into each muffin tin compartment and fill until just covered with Hawaiian Punch.

Freeze for 2-3 hours.

2. F ill a glass ¾ full with Punch and the rest with lemon-lime soda.

3. D rop in the frozen ice worms.

Garnish with additional worms dangling out of the glass, if desired, and serve immediately. Drink with a Twizzler straw for extra fun!

3. For each cup, place cookie chunks into the bottom and top with mousse, then drizzle with fudge sauce. Repeat theses steps, so there will be two layers of cookies, mousse and fudge sauce.

4. Use the writing-style gel icing to write “RIP” on one end of a Milano-style or rectangleshaped cookie and stand in mousse, surrounded by chocolate sauce and a few cookie crumbs as a tombstone.

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Manners, Please Long,

long ago, when I was a child, many things were instilled in my sister and me that I try to use today—“try” being the operative word. Some days are harder than others when people you deal with don’t play by the same rules. What am I referring to? In one word—manners. My parents taught us the importance of being kind, respectful, and mannerly. These same ideals should still be in fashion and taught from an early age.

The dictionary defines manners as: “Ways of behaving with reference to polite standards; social comportment. A person’s outward bearing; way of speaking to and treating others.” During this l-o-n-g pandemic, I have seen people being kind and respectful, and others being just the opposite.

Young children often need gentle reminders. A “What’s the magic word?” often gets the “please” and “thank you” you’re hoping to hear.

Other times, it takes a more pointed nudge with a “What do you say to (enter name) for (enter reason)?”

Dealing with unmannered adults, however, is a different story.

The past several months have been difficult for most people.

Sometimes, as adults, we don’t realize the effect it has on children.

A change of normal routine is definitely a cause for stress.

Suddenly, children are no longer going to school, seeing friends,

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having play dates, going to the park, attending birthday parties, going to the library or their favorite fast-food place, etc. Many of them, even when the reason for the change is explained, do not understand why they can’t see their friends or why they rarely leave their homes. After a few weeks of this, it is no wonder that manners and respect start to fall by the wayside.

Children often parrot their parents’ or other adults’ behaviors. I have found myself complaining out loud about how people have forgotten how to drive. Fortunately, I am alone when I am spouting off, but I can imagine a child picking up on my frustration and mimicking it when annoyed. This is the time to emphasize respect and manners and set an example for our youngsters.

It is important to correct them at the time of their infraction. It is one thing to gently remind them to use the polite word in front of others. It is quite another to berate them. When observing children acting in a disrespectful way to someone, embarrassing them will not improve the situation. Taking them out of the room, explaining why their behavior or actions are unacceptable in a calm and quiet voice, will go further in making your

point by showing them the respect you expect them to show others.

Children who have had months of alone time may forget how to treat their friends when they can finally get together again. It may take several reminders of the need to share toys, games, art supplies, and, yes, even their snacks. They are used to having everything to themselves, and, though they may love seeing their friends again, they may love playing their video game alone even more. In this case, you may spend a lot of time refereeing, finding things they can do alone while being together, and realizing you may need to plan for short visits to begin with.

Good manners taught at an early age will serve our young people well throughout their lives. It is important to remember, when you’re having a difficult day, are at your wit’s end and about to blow up at the next person for no reason, to do what my mother said to me, “count to 10, take a deep breath and mind your manners.”

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The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective

This One’s for You!

BY A. KEITH TILLEY

I feel like I need to depart from my usual source of creativity, and for this moment right now, I am compelled to reach out to you personally.

Someone told me something recently that I think was spot on.

They said, “We’re all in this together, but we’re not all in the same boat.” Think about that for a moment. We’re all sharing in this collective experience with its challenges and obstacles, except we’re not all seeing it from the same perspective.

After months of insulating my son from most of what’s happening in the world around him, our family finally sat down one day, and I outlined just how different things are right now, depending on where you are. I explained that although everyone is having to make sacrifices, expend effort in order to keep each other safe and well, not everyone is sharing in the same experience. I continued with some examples, such as the ER doctors exhausted physically and mentally from all the sickness around them, and their efforts to tend to those sick patients. The family who just months earlier was making their summer camp plans and suddenly, out of nowhere, it seems, they experience an unexpected job loss in the middle of a pandemic.

They’re now in a place they never imagined they would ever be, and they’re scared. The single person trying to make it on his or her own, working “essential” jobs just to pay the rent—except one of those jobs suddenly is shut down.

Now, they don’t have enough money to cover the bills next month, and they’re afraid of being evicted. On the flip side, there are college students enjoying spring break on the beaches of Florida, among other places, seemingly with no sense of concern at all about catching the virus. There are adults and families taking vacations, dining out, and being the lifeline to keep small businesses afloat by continuing to use their services. Different individuals, families, adults, and children living totally different lives within the very same existence.

For those whose jobs are still intact, whose families are well, whose only complaint is the inconveniences they have to endure when they go to the market, or what they aren’t able to do because of shutdowns, rejoice at this moment! Rejoice

in the fact that your inconveniences aren’t life-threatening, or financially devastating. Rejoice in the blessing that you can go to bed each night relaxed, knowing tomorrow’s going to be okay.

For those that are hurting, you’re who I’m most concerned about. I know you’re dealing with things now that seem overwhelming, possibly because they are. You go to bed afraid and you wake up worried. You went from thinking about vacation plans to wondering how you’re going to make it to the end of the month. If you’re an essential worker, you’re worried if you’ll get sick, and if so, if you’ll be okay, and if so, what happens then, because you’ve missed work and therefore you can’t pay your bills. If you’re elderly in a nursing home, you’re struggling with isolation and the inherent depression that soon follows, wondering how long it will be before you see your loved ones in person again. Teachers uncertain how to navigate these new waters, while trying to stay well and keep your students and families well in the process, I’m concerned about all of you.

The challenges are enough on their own to deal with, but, more importantly, I’m concerned about your emotional state of mind. I want you to know that if it seems like no one notices, no one realizes what you’re dealing with, understand that someone does, and that’s me and I’m not the only one. I see you. I want you to be okay. I want you to know you’ll get through this. The answers aren’t always clear at the moment, but eventually, they appear when the timing is right. I want you to hang on. Take each day and, if necessary, do just what you have to do to make it through that day, and don’t let go of the hope you have for the future. This challenge is now; it’s not forever. You don’t need to figure out how to solve your problems for a lifetime, just for this moment.

Reach out to others, those you know, and for services you never thought about before. Do whatever you have to do to get yourself through this. Those same waves that are beating you now will lift and guide you to shore eventually. But only if you keep paddling. You’re not alone. With the dawn of each new day, a new opportunity arises that can CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Your sun WILL rise again. May God bless you and your family.

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“Creativity is intellegence having fun.” ~ Albert Einstein

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There was one particular case that Fred worked on that would have a major impact on the criminal justice system.

The case of Henry Alford established the Alford Plea, in the early 1970s, where a criminal defendant can enter a plea agreement, in which he/she does not admit guilt, but still acknowledges the prosecutors have enough evidence to convict if the case went to trial. An Alford Plea is treated like a guilty plea. Henry Alford pleaded guilty to second-degree murder on Fred’s advice to avoid the death penalty; however, the case would go all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court, where it was upheld and since then, an Alford Plea has been recognized among all 50 states.

But where his peers saw a well-known, experienced, formidable attorney, family and friends knew that Fred was still a farmer on a tractor, full of stories to tell and wisdom to share.

It’s a Wonderful Life Beyond his time in the courtroom, Fred spent many a day finding new adventures, and for the last 35 years of his life, his partner was wife, Marsha.

Fred G. Crumpler, Jr. Esquire The Man Who Changed the Justice System and Many Lives along the Way

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

We’d

like to think that when we leave this world, we depart it better than we found it, having made an impact either personally or professionally. Rarely do many of us impact both aspects of our lives in such a way as Fred G. Crumpler, Jr., longtime Winston-Salem attorney, who passed away in January 2020; but then, much of everything about Fred was rare.

From Simple Beginnings to the Supreme Court Fred was born in Danville, VA, on January 8, 1931, and grew up on a farm in Germanton with a mother who instilled in him the importance of an education, which he took to heart.

“After Fred graduated from RJ Reynolds High School, he attended Appalachian State before entering the Air Force. While in the Air Force, Fred took an aptitude test and found he had an interest in law, leading him to attend Guilford College on the GI bill, and WFU on a scholarship. Fred worked at a law firm in Rockingham County before returning to Winston-Salem and establishing his own practice,” said Marsha Crumpler, Fred’s widow.

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“We met,” recalled Marsha, “when he was handling a legal matter for me.

From early on in our relationship, life with Fred was magical.

He had a ‘planned spontaneity’ to him.

Our first date was him flying us to Madison, NC for breakfast. Fred had a love of flying and throughout our life together, we also enjoyed hiking, riding horses, and hunting. We particularly loved sailing and had many adventures on the water. He definitely broadened my horizons with whatever he suggested, like flying to Ocracoke for a picnic.”

Fred always had a love of animals with horses, donkeys, llamas, geese, ducks, goats, and his special companion, Jackson, a German Shepherd.

“Fred and Jackson had a bond like I’d never seen.

Jackson never left his side over the years and as Fred’s health declined, they seemed to get closer. One day, while I was out, Fred and Jackson took a walk down the driveway and on the way back to the house, Fred fell.

It was getting dark and cold.

As I pulled in the driveway, I saw Fred, with Jackson curled up by his side,” Marsha said. Fred’s love of animals became a passion when he met Lori Shore-Smith, a local animal advocate, as she sought his counsel for issues involving Animal Control.

Lori recalls, “When Fred worked with me and others on issues we were having at Animal Control, his passion for animals came to life. After getting to know him and Marsha, they had always loved their animals, from horses to dogs, but he really found a cause he could rally many in the community behind; Fred had such respect in our area that it didn’t take much to get people on board and make major changes. Over the years, Fred became a source of wisdom, advice, and encouragement. I would drop by the farm to see Fred and Marsha, just to talk and hear his stories and one thing you knew, was, he loved Marsha the way a woman wants a man to love her. He never lost his love for her or for life; Fred was a true Southern Gentleman, and I loved him like he was my second father.”

Checking All the Boxes Those who knew Fred throughout his life knew he didn’t leave things unfinished; if he wanted to do it, he did it, whether that was in the courtroom or in his relationships. Marsha observed, “Fred believed in living life to the fullest and I was fortunate to live my life with him. He dealt with cancer as he did everything… head-on, and in the last days, he chose quality of life over quantity. A few times, including in a plane crash, Fred skirted death, but nothing stopped him. After his passing, I received letters from people he had helped along the way, and they shared how he impacted their lives. I had no idea to the degree that he made a difference in this world. We did everything we wanted, the way we wanted…together. At the end of life, how many people can say they ‘checked all the boxes’? Fred could say that, and the world is better for him being in it.”

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“Glide & Dine”

BY DENISE HEIDEL

There’s

been a great secret in the Triad since 2013. But, some secrets are made to be shared, and certainly, Triad ECO Adventures is one of those! Locally originated, locally owned, and locally operated

by Hal Boyle and his amazing team! Triad ECO Adventures specializes in outdoor exploration of the City through segways, paddleboards, electric bicycles, and trolleys.

“The City of Arts and Innovation is indeed a City to be discovered,” said Hal. “Whether you’re visiting, a new resident or you’ve lived in the community all your life – there is a ton to learn about the Triad. Our tours are designed to be enjoyed by couples, families, bridal parties, corporations, and basically, anyone looking for a bit of adventure! We love showing off our City, and we specialize in giving local and not-so-local tourists a new way to get a taste of Winston-Salem,” shares Hal Boyle, the Tribal Leader of TEA. And such is a perfect segue into the “Glide & Dine” adventure offered by Triad ECO Adventures! “We have partnered with some of the great local restaurants in the downtown area,” said Hal, “We love our friends at Jeffrey Adams, Young Cardinal, Camel City BBQ, Art of the Taco, and more! Those who are interested in the ‘Glide & Dine’ option book their tour with us, and we make the reservations at the restaurant of their choice!

Halfway through, our tour guide drops them at the restaurant of their choice and then returns to finish their tour. It’s a great break and gives everyone a chance to catch up mid-journey!

“It’s really that simple,” Hal explained. “We take care of the fun while the restaurant takes care of the food! It’s up to the tourists to supply the conversation!”

Those who have participated in the “Glide & Dine” experience love it! Hal said, “Though COVID has impacted our business, we’ve figured out that people are looking to get outdoors.

They want to experience some fun, and we’re thankful that we can still offer that. Our tours can accommodate up to 16, but we’re currently limiting tours to six for the sake of social distancing.”

If your family or group is interested in scheduling a “Glide & Dine” tour, visit TriadECOAdventures.com. As we move into colder weather, be sure you dress accordingly! “If you tend to get chilly,” said Hal, “We always recommend bringing gloves and a scarf. It can get a little breezy on a segway!”

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How to Raise a “Boss”

BY BROOKE ORR MS RD LDN, ACSM-CPT

Halloween

has included costumes, Jack-olanterns, tricks, and treats for thousands of years. In our culture, these pillars of the ancient holiday represent fun; however, they were originally believed to be necessary items to keep evil at bay.

Some historians suggest that costumes were originally used on Halloween to scare away or blend in with evil beings that came to visit on this day each year.

Lanterns were used to light the darkness, and treats were carried and handed out to avoid being the recipient of a mischievous trick. Fast forward a few thousand years, and you will see that most people are no longer afraid of evil spirits, anciently believed to haunt the night. Now the biggest fright of Halloween seems to be whether the sugary treats will lead our children to childhood obesity. The American tradition of children trick-ortreating seems to have parents on edge, with thousands of articles on the topic, ranging from what to give out instead of candy to how to avoid tantrums when rationing a child’s well-earned candy loot.

Hopefully, the following facts will ease your anxiety and lead to a stress-free Halloween this year. Your family doesn’t celebrate Halloween? No problem, this information applies to Thanksgiving, Christmas, birthdays, and any other events that involve the availability of high amounts of sugar-rich foods.

Studies from as early as 1939 show that when children are given autonomy to choose how much and which foods to eat, the majority will intuitively meet their

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growing body’s nutrient needs. Many pediatric experts consider Ellyn Satter, Registered Dietitian and Family Therapist, as the childhood feeding expert. She is best known for her “parents provide/ child decides” mantra for mealtime success. Ellyn Satter says, “Children who have regular access to sweets and other forbidden foods eat them moderately.

Children who don’t have regular access load up on them when they aren’t even hungry.” Read below for tips from Ellyn Satter and other dietitians on guiding children into a healthy relationship with their bodies and ALL foods.

•C ommit to the goal of having your child manage his or her own treats.

•K eep your interference to a minimum.

•A void assigning value or your personal feelings to the treats, ex., “I wish I could still eat candy and not gain weight,” “I feel sick just watching you eat that much candy,” etc.

•W hen your child comes home from trickor-treating or any event where they are given sweet treats, let them lay out their treats and explore.

•E ncourage them to tell you which pieces excite them most and why.

• L et your child eat as much of it as they want on day one of receiving the treats and the day after.

•E ncourage your child to pay attention to the physical sensations in their bodies.

Use non-judgmental questions like “what

do you notice when you eat different colors of the same candy—does it taste different? Do you feel more energetic after treats, and if so, what does it feel like when your energy runs out? “ • Do a mindful eating experiment with a treat; you can find guidance to lead this experiment at psychcentral.com/blog/ practicing-mindfulness-with-chocolate/.

• Have your child put the treats away on day three and only bring them out at meal- and snack-times (allow your child to choose a couple of small pieces at meals for dessert and as much as they want at snack-time).

• If your child follows these rules without sneaking or begging, let them keep managing the treats; if not, you take over for a day or two and then give your child another try at self-management.

When dealing with kids and high-sugar treats, remember to make room for excitement while the treats are new and then transition to structured consumption at sit-down meals and snacks. Remember that during this period of extra treats, the parent is still responsible for choosing the rest of the food that goes on the table.

Most importantly, have fun. Children like to explore, so encourage them to be curious (without judgment) about foods—how they taste, how they make their bodies feel, how the food is made.

Curiosity without judgment is key to raising children to become the “boss” of their bodies.

ELLIOTT HOLT

Happy 3rd birthday to a spunky monkey!

Ginger Hendricks Thank you for your 10+ years of service to our community as Bookmarks first Executive Director! Enjoy spending more time at home with Dalton and Monroe!

Susie Marion Happy 70th Birthday Sweet Susie!

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ACTIVITIES

Salem Gymnastics & Swim..........................67 Sunflower Extravaganza – Kersey Valley........7 YMCA...........................................................61

BAKERY/CONFECTIONS

Christina’s Dessertery..................................79

BEAUTY / STYLING

Lewisville Laser............................................57 Lyndhurst Medical Spa................................53

CHILDCARE

YMCA...........................................................61

CHURCHES

Sunrise G3...................................................64

DENTISTS / ORTHODONTISTS

Ardmore Dentistry.......................................59 Chermak & Hanson.....................................15 Forsyth Family Dental..................................51 Kingery & Kingery DDS................................67 Salem Smiles...............................................53 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry.....................................9

EDUCATION

Calvary Day School......................................57 Forsyth Country Day School.........................59 Redeemer School........................................17 Speak Easy Therapy.....................................49 St John’s Lutheran School...........................49

FINANCIAL

Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group......................25

Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp.........31 Truliant Federal Credit Union.........Back Cover

HEALTH & FITNESS

Club Pilates....................................................3 YMCA...........................................................61

HOME

Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group......................25 Brick & Brass Designs..................................29 Chris Wrights, Hunter Realty.......................41 Dero’s...........................................................35 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp.........31 Fiddle & Fig.................................................21 G.W. Smith Kitchen Studio..........................41 Home Service Toolbox.................................43 Icon Custom Builders..................................29 Inside | Out Designs....................................27 Jessica Ferris Property Advisors...................31 Parade of Homes.........................................23 Parks Decorative Hardware & Plumbing......33 Phillips Ranson Real Estate Team................27 Piedmont Sheet Metal.................................43 Porch Lady Properties..................................31 S & K Cleaning.............................................45 Stitches........................................................45 Susan Maier-Colon, Broker..........................45 The Arbors at Meadowlark...........................29 Weedman....................................................33

MEDICAL

Duke Eye Center............................................5 Hillcrest Vision.............................................69

Lewisville Laser............................................57 Lyndhurst.....................................................53 Speak Easy Therapy.....................................49 WFBH Mammography...................................2 WomanCare.................................................61

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POLITICAL

Mike Silver, District Court Judge.................11

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REAL ESTATE & HOUSING

Airbnb, Amy Smitherman............................31 Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group......................25 Chris Wrights, Hunter Realty.......................41 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp.........31 Icon Custom Builders..................................29 Jessica Ferris Property Advisors...................31 Parade of Homes.........................................23 Phillips Ranson Real Estate Team................27 Porch Lady Properties..................................31 Susan Maier-Colon Berkshire Hathaway................................45 The Arbors at Meadowlark...........................29

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RETAIL

Clemmons Bicycle.......................................67 Dero’s...........................................................35 Fiddle & Fig.................................................21 Hip Chics Boutique & Gift............................17

SERVICE

Family Services............................................19 Home Service Toolbox.................................43 S&K Cleaning...............................................45 Second Harvest Food Bank..........................13 The Office Nerd............................................69 The Resume Nerd........................................69 Triad Mac.....................................................77

TECHNOLOGY

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UPCOMING EVENTS

Carolina Classic Fair Drive-thru....................47 Forsyth Humane Society Virtual Furr Ball........................................55 Sunflower Extravaganza – Kersey Valley........7 Second Harvest Food Bank Virtual Food Drive....................................13

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