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Do you have an Emergency Fund?

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We often hear the question “Do I need an emergency fund?” or “How much do I need to have in my emergency fund?”

Let’s first explore what an emergency fund is and why having one is extremely important. It is a designated pool of money that is set aside to protect you and your family in the event of unexpected expenses and to provide reserves for health or other family related emergencies. This fund can protect you and your family in the event of a job loss or if you are out of work for any length of time. This fund creates a cushion when major household or vehicle repairs are needed, and can even serve as a stress reducer, increasing health and well-being.

The emergency fund is not used for planned purchases, like buying house, a new car, or college education. Those funds should be saved in separate

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accounts. Also, do not treat your emergency fund like a deferred spending account! These dollars are for emergencies and unexpected expenses only.

Therefore, this fund needs to be liquid and kept in a simple savings account or money market account.

There is not a set amount for everyone, as it varies based on your lifestyle. For dual-income households, a good rule of thumb would be to have at least 3 months of living expenses stowed away.

This is the total monthly amount it takes to run the household. For single-income households, it is wise to keep closer to 6 months of living expenses saved in your emergency fund. By doing this, you can stay ahead of your regular bills and keep up with the unexpected expenses.

1. Pay yourself first.

Even once you are retired, the importance of emergency reserves still exists. There will always be unforeseen circumstances that will put you in a position to need access to cash quickly.

Content in this material is for general information only and not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. No strategy assures success or protects against loss. Investing involves risk including loss of principal.

In closing, remember these tips:

2. Be sure you have what you need and expect the unexpected so you will always be in position to respond to whatever comes your way.

3. In a society that encourages spending and to “keep up with the Joneses”, it is important to consider that the Joneses might actually be broke!!

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contents 32 COVER STORY 42 Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics: The Orthodontic Professionals

FEATURES 10 Three Veterans: Airman, Marine, and Soldier 26 Net Impact Triad Facilitate, Incubate, Accerlerate 34 Bountiful Benefits and Beauty of Adoption 38 Foods and Thanksgiving Disagreements 46 Helping Your Child Understand the Election 50

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72 My Grace-Full Life

A Change of Direction

74 Journeying with Jesus 82 Triad Moms On Main

Darn It, I’m So Thankful!

83 Kids in the Kitchen

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84 It’s a Grand Life

A Month of Thanks and Giving

88 The View from My Section: A Father’s Perspective

2020: A Time We No Longer Take for Granted

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58 Purple Feather Designs 66 Gifts of the Disabled Mind: Depression 76 Enthralling Educational Podcasts for Kids 86 A Self-Confessed Chicken Lady!

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November

and Thanksgiving always make us take pause to think of the things we are grateful for. And while it’s great to focus on gratitude this month, I contend we should always be thankful. An “attitude of gratitude” is one of my biggest life’s mantras. I am grateful for breath each morning I wake. I am grateful for the people in my life that God chose for me to love. I am grateful for sunny days, birds that grace my feeders every day, delicious food to sustain me and a home to protect me. I am grateful to live in a community such as this and especially grateful for all the folks who read Forsyth Family Magazine!

Well, the long-awaited 2020 election is upon us and I will certainly be grateful for the end of all the political ads! I know it’s a necessary evil, but I’m tired of the mudslinging. I’m ready for the country to put aside all this divisiveness and work together as humankind. I recently saw a bumper sticker that said “Humankind—Be Both!” Isn’t that the truth!!

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Here’s to being both in 2021—and VOTE, VOTE, VOTE!!

My husband and I recently checked another trip off our bucket list. Mt. Rushmore, Crazy Horse, Badlands, Yellowstone, Grand Tetons and a buffalo round-up at Custer Park. It’s amazing all you can see and do in a week: five states and 2000 miles in a rental car. Seriously though, it really was a trip of a lifetime and an overload of beauty! It was my first trip traveling through the Midwest and only made me hungry for more. Where to next?

November features the offices of Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics, an advertiser that has been with us from almost the beginning. Both my daughters have lovely smiles, thanks to them! If you’re looking for an orthodontist, be sure to check them out! Another issue filled with good things from our community!

This marks the eighth “From the Heart” I have written since COVID-19. I pray you and your family stay safe and, for now, wear a mask! And vote, did I say that already?

Blessings!

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RULES Order. Discipline. Grooming. A daily routine followed over the years quickly becomes one decade, two, and, for some, longer. As many veterans discover, the transition into civilian life requires a change of mindset. Civilians leave pathways from walking on the grass and bypass opportunities to dispose of trash. And, the most shocking truth, businesses and organizations do not work as a unit. Taking steps to acclimate occurs in small increments. Veterans engage in conversations, learning to eliminate the use of acronyms.

They find classes and join groups. Through social media, word passes around describing a Saturday morning coffee in Winston-Salem, not just for “Gulf War Veterans.” All are welcome! Founder Nike Roach, an Army veteran, shares, “Military members who transition from drill and ceremony need a new mission. Veterans find safety in numbers. Being part of a group gives each one of us purpose; otherwise, it’s easy to feel lost in the weeds without finding new troops. You realize you are the commander who needs a mission in the civilian world.” The gathering also provided Nike a chance to forge a friendship with Jesse Almanza, USMC, RET, and Kevin Doss, USAF, RET. SIGNING PAPERS Why enlist? Sometimes, the answer is a shrug or a defined desire to see the world and learn a trade. Other enlistees seek financial help to obtain a degree. As the middle child of eight siblings, Jesse Almanza decided, at the age of 17, the Marine Corps could take him far from San Antonio, Texas. The recruiter listened to one more compelling speech from a young man who sought to become a marine and scuba diver. Young Jesse signed papers, shook hands, and felt in control of his destiny. Ninety days of basic training culminated in the unexpected moment; the assignment to motor transport. By chance, was it a typo that “diver” included one additional letter to become “driver?”

ACTIVE DUTY Choosing a vocation doesn’t always mean young adults know their fate until they are “voluntold” and start living it. Orders arrived for a two-year station at Clark Air Base

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in the Philippines. Kevin Doss asked his mother to put her finger on the globe, marking the location of North Carolina; then, to place her hand directly opposite—on the other side of the world. Kevin shares, “When you grow up in a small town, it’s difficult to explain where the Philippines is on Earth.

At 18, I had to quickly learn how to navigate the military and a foreign country’s rules, while my supervisor kept saying, ‘Start thinking about your next stripe’; so, I volunteered at MEDCAPS. I saw the most horrific skin lesions and cleft palates. No one back home thought people would survive on dirt-floored grass huts. And, when the rains came, they just rebuilt [their huts].”

ONE UNIT, A TEAM EFFORT Movies and television shows, live news reports, and international conflicts collectively taught Americans about the US military. Households learned about naval vessels, the force of tanks, and specialized groups like the Green Berets and Navy Seals.

Journalists opened Americans’ eyes, who read or watched live footage from remote geographic locations like Sarajevo and Mogadishu; yet, no one knew about the elusive men and women who were Airmen, Coast Guardsmen, Marines, National Guardsmen, Sailors, and Soldiers. Each active member and veteran possesses a feeling of pride from their branch, resulting from training, the commendations and missions, and the unmistakable bonds to a second family. “In the uniform, everyone looks the same. We talk about the “independent” idea, but it’s not about individuality. There is a strong sense that I’m going to count on someone, and their life depends on my efforts,” shares Nike Roach.

“Anyone who went to combat on deployments, serving in the Middle East, Latin America, Africa, or Europe, has a vast knowledge of a global society. The experience makes us better people and delves into a greater understanding of unity, loyalty, and trust. Those character traits do not end after service is over.”

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Come to the Table

BY BROOKE ORR, MS RD LDN, ACSM-CPT

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fast-paced pre-COVID-19 lifestyle made it difficult to gather everyone at the table for traditional family meals. However, a slower pace and being at home more may not be enough to bring the tradition back. A recent survey found that 72% of respondents say they grew up eating at the dining room table, but only 48% do so today. Additionally, the couch has nearly tripled as the primary eating place (from 12% to 30%), along with the bedroom (6% to 17%). Eating on the sofa or in bed while watching TV is growing in popularity among families. Using taste, smell, sight, and sound at the same time is an effective way to turn off your brain and completely distract yourself from life’s stressors. Sophie Mort Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, says, “Eating and watching TV can offer a quick hit of dopamine, the pleasure chemical.”

Clearly, there are some positives to the occasional pizza and movie night, but making this the family norm may do more harm than good. The American

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Academy of Pediatrics and the Harvard Chan School of Public Health encourage family meals, stating that the growing body of research suggests that shared family mealtimes influence the quality of food that children and teens eat (family meals correlate with increased intake of fruits and vegetables). Many studies also found that setting these patterns during childhood and adolescence leads to more healthful meal patterns as young adults. Understanding something is good for you and actually making it a habit are two different things. The tips below may help guide you in making family meals great again!

• GET EVERYONE INVOLVED. Allow your kids to help plan menus and prepare dinner with you. This adds quality time to the process and empowers children to try new foods (it is okay to have pancakes for dinner, put some berries, Greek yogurt, and scrambled eggs on the table as well for a well-balanced meal).

•D ON’T MAKE “CLEAN YOUR PLATE” YOUR MEALTIME MANTRA. Parents are responsible for providing a balance of foods at mealtimes (a fruit, vegetable, protein, and starch); children have the right to decide which foods and how much they will eat.

•C ELEBRATE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. Research shows practicing gratitude has positive benefits on mood and general happiness. The dinner table is the perfect place to model gratitude practice for your children. Go around the table and say one thing you are thankful for that happened that day, something kind you did for someone else that day, or something someone did for you that made your day better.

•K NOW YOUR AUDIENCE. Be reasonable about the amount of time you expect your kids to spend sitting at the table. Many families find as little as 20-30 minutes is enough time to practice gratitude, share about their day, and eat their meal.

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C L U B P I L AT E S ® Provides a Safe Space for Fitness during COVID

BY JULIE FRITZ | PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM PHOTOGRAPHY COVID-19 has complicated so many parts of our daily life. One area that has been impacted severely is fitness. Starting in March, gyms had to close, and we all had to find alternative ways to stay fit. As time has gone on, and restrictions are relaxing, some people are still feeling nervous about indoor exercise. Luckily, Club Pilates in Winston-Salem is the perfect location for socially distanced fitness in an extremely clean and safe space.

Club owner Kristin Henry has such a passion for Pilates that she moved to Winston-Salem sight-unseen to bring this studio to our community. She found her love of Pilates in college. At the time, she was not only teaching yoga, but also studying Muay Thai kickboxing, acrobatics, and massage.

She was working at a gym that had Pilates equipment, and eventually, she was asked to learn to teach it. Once she tried it, she was hooked. “Pilates tied in all the things I already loved and had a passion for. The flexibility of yoga, the strength and precision of martial arts, and the alignment of acrobatics. It is an amazing, balanced, full-body workout.” Kristin is not just the studio owner; she is also the lead instructor and a master trainer.

Since Club Pilates only first opened in January, COVID has presented a lot of challenges this year. What is impressive is how Kristin has turned a negative into a positive. She knew that Pilates would be an excellent fit for people looking to get back into a fitness routine, and she worked hard to ensure that the return to fitness was done safely. Kristin said, “We did not know it at the time, but our studio was built for this. Each participant has their own station, which is 6 ft. from the next, and we were always diligent about cleaning the equipment between classes. During our closure, we increased our cleaning and safety protocols.”

There is no doubt that Club Pilates is taking COVID restrictions seriously.

They’ve added additional precautions by installing three bipolar needlepoint ionization filters proven effective for killing COVID, as well as UV air purifiers and temperature scanners, and have replaced previous cleaning sprays with a safe virucide solution. Taking a “rather safe than sorry” approach, the studio asks everyone to wear masks, scan for fever, and wash their hands upon entry. Twice a day, they fog the studio with disinfectant between classes and deep-clean the studio each night. All disinfectants are given time to settle before clients can enter.

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The Club Pilates members have been in awe of the safeguards that have been put into place to protect them. One member said, “Y’all have done a great job with the re-opening! The studio is spotless (as always!), and the cleaning measures and precautions are above and beyond what is necessary. We are all glad to be back!”

Another member commented, “I don’t think anywhere else I’ve been in WS is being as thorough protecting their staff and clientele.”

When asked what they missed about Club Pilates during the COVID closure, members had various comments for what they love most about the practice. One member said, “Flexibility! The stretches you get on the reformer are so good!”

Another member missed the “improved muscle tone and stress reduction.”

Kristin said that most of all, she missed the people. “My day is always brighter when I get to see our amazing team and members. They are such a kind and supportive group.”

Even in these trying times, Club Pilates has seen incredible success. On their 105th day in business, they had their first member hit the 100 class mark, and other members are close to achieving that goal, as well. They continue to grow and add members, both because of the fantastic health benefits of Pilates and the wonderful atmosphere this studio has to offer.

Club Pilates offers a focus on group classes geared towards beginners and bringing beginners up. They offer three levels of classes, two levels available for everyone, and one level requiring instructor approval. You can start by trying one of their free 30-minute introduction classes to give you an understanding of how the studio and equipment work. After that, you can choose to drop in for individual classes or use a monthly membership. Memberships are available with the option of four classes, eight classes, or unlimited classes per month. Right now, they’re offering 20% off for three months. Kristin wants you to know, “At Club Pilates, there is something for everyone, and no one is left behind.”

Club Pilates Winston-Salem is located at 371 Lower Mall Drive in the Thruway Shopping Center. For more information, you can call Club Pilates at 336-717-1222, or visit their website atClubPilates.com/ WinstonSalem. Follow them on Facebook and Instagram by searching Club Pilates (Winston-Salem).

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YMCA of Northwest North Carolina Continues to Find New Ways to Keep Serving In a World of New Normals, the Y is Here to Stay

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nearly half of the year, YMCAs across the state closed their indoor facilities as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic. That meant no more runs on the treadmills, pushing for an extra set of squats in the weight rooms, dropping off the kids for a quick workout in the middle of the day, or even catching up with friends in the lobby. But that didn’t stop the Y from serving our community.

And during those six months, staff at the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina found ways to serve the community during a pandemic. But they also looked at how Ys will pivot to find new and creative ways to serve members, families, and communities in the near future.

“Looking ahead, we know there is no such thing as going back to the way things were before COVID-19,” said Stan Law, President and CEO of the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina. “In a world of new normals, we’re going to have to adapt to make sure we’re still here to serve our members, their families, and the communities who rely on us the most.”

It’s no surprise that Ys would have to reinvent themselves, not only during the shutdowns, but that they would have to find ways to adapt to the new norms and practices taking place all around, when indoor gyms across North Carolina were able to reopen with some restrictions in early September.

Annual events held by the Ys have forced staff to think creatively to keep them afloat, because many of these events directly benefit the communities the Y serves.

For example, the annual Mistletoe Run on the first Saturday in December brings in tens of thousands of dollars each year to Y programs that address childhood obesity—such as summer camp, youth sports, and more. In 2019 alone, more than $71,000 was raised. The Mistletoe Run is a holiday tradition that has brought thousands of runners together from all over the Winston-Salem area and beyond, every year for nearly four decades.

And for the first time ever, the Y is hosting this race virtually. There are still the Fun Run (1 mile), 5K, and half-marathon options. But this year, runners will complete the race on their own time during the set race dates, which are Saturday, December 5th, until Sunday, December 13th, for the 37th Annual Mistletoe Run.

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“Making the race virtual for 2020 made the most sense, seeing other races across the state and country going virtual this year,” said Joe Peele, a District Vice President at the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina. “Regardless of going virtual, there’s still a great opportunity for friends and families to train together before race day.”

Currently, Ys in the area are operating with different hours and limited member capacities, both to help ensure a safe return to the indoor fitness facilities and try to limit any further spread of the disease while maintaining the highest level of cleanliness.

During the temporary closure, the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina was able to provide nearly 67,000 free meals to families from March through August at the Winston Lake and Fulton Family YMCAs. The YMCA offered Emergency Childcare to parents and guardians who worked in essential and front-line jobs.

More than 140 youth were in this service early on in the pandemic.

And as families wondered what they would do for their students in a school year filled with the uncertainty of virtual classes and making sure their children were in a safe, nurturing setting during the workday, the Y again stepped up to provide E-Learning Academies. E-Learning Academies are still going on across the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina association.

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Since March, virtual fitness classes have been available on the Y’s website and YouTube page. And to date, more than 200 virtual classes featuring instructors from the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina have been created and uploaded for anyone to enjoy in the comfort of their home—as individuals or together with family.

“Whatever the challenge or need has been this year, the amazing staff at our Ys have stepped up and gotten it done,” Law said. “In a year of challenges, firsts, and more unprecedented moments than I can think to recall, the Y still stands firm and ready in its commitment to serve.”

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TANGLEWOOD

Festival of Lights is Back to Brighten Your Holiday Season

BY TARYN JEREZ

With

over 100 displays and over 1 million lights, it’s no surprise that the “elves” at Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights have been hard at work pulling out their famous light displays as early as mid-August! The highly anticipated holiday season spectacle, sponsored

by Lowes Foods, will kick off this year on Friday, November 13th, and run through January 1st, ready for your family and friends to create some wonderful memories!

Since its inception in 1992, The Festival of Lights has continued to grow not only in popularity both near and far, but in size. When it first began, the festival was just over 1.5 miles long and included twenty to twenty-five light displays. As of today, the festival is approximately 5 miles long and now includes over 100 displays!

Many may be surprised to know that the lights are LED, creating brighter and more economically friendly displays.

Every year the team at Tanglewood tries to create

one new display to keep things fresh. It makes it a fun game for Festival of Lights veterans as they try to spot the new display each year. Without giving away too much, festival-goers may want to pay close attention as they ride down into the Steeplechase this season for a few exciting changes!

Year after year, Tanglewood continues to experience peak participation, with vehicles driving through the park from all over North Carolina and other neighboring states to see the lights.

Filled with entertainment for all ages, the festival is also a widely accessible event, with affordable admission starting at $15 for personal vehicles, and it even hosts several discounted nights where admission drops to just $5! While there are always some first-time attendees enjoying the fun, many have been coming back for years. So, what keeps bringing people back?

Brandi Chappell, Festival of Lights Manager, says, “We have such a wonderful community and coming to the Festival of Lights each year has been a family tradition for so many. What makes the Festival of Lights special is the infectious holiday spirit everyone brings

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each night. It’s the people singing along to holiday music in the car and interacting with our staff. The community truly makes the Festival of Lights a merrymaking event!”

In the midst of a year filled with change due to COVID-19, the familiarity of Tanglewood tradition during the holiday season will definitely add some much-needed comfort and excitement in 2020. “The Festival of Lights is well suited for this unfortunate situation,” Brandi shared. “All patrons will be in their vehicles and will be socially distanced from other people attending. The Gift Village will be closed this year due to COVID-19. Our maintenance staff and seasonal staff will be regularly sanitizing throughout the evenings and taking all precautions to ensure a safe event.”

As you check your calendar to plan your visit this year, the best tip the team at Tanglewood can give is to come to the Festival of Lights early in the season and early in the evening! Monday through Thursday, historically tend to be slower nights, while Friday through Sunday are extremely busy. “We truly feel that the best way to create memories at the show is to have some holiday spirit and enjoy the beauty that the lights have to offer.

So take lots of pictures with your family and friends, sing along to holiday songs and enjoy the show!”

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New Nearsighted Options for Kids

BY DENISE HEIDEL

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over 11 years, Hillcrest Vision has served people and families, caring for their healthy vision and improving overall vision health, as well as calculating the degree of far and nearsightedness.

Dr. Juawana Hall is a known, loved, trusted, and highly regarded professional in her field, and she truly cares about improving the vision of her patients.

“For kids,” shared Dr. Hall, “we’re at a crossroads with vision. Increased usage of technology has had a profound impact on nearsightedness in children over the years. Still, this year, digital education and more screen time for kids are taking a severe toll. Most eye doctors would agree that the greatest threat to children’s vision these days is nearsightedness (or myopia).

“At Hillcrest Vision,” she continued, “We are thrilled to be among the first around to offer MiSight, a revolutionary new product from CooperVision. It’s been used successfully in Canada, the UK, and even Asia for the last few years, and now, it’s available in America. The results are incredible.”

Dr. Hall explained that MiSight is a contact lens that slows the progression of nearsightedness in children. “It’s a contact lens that is specifically designed for children between the ages of 8 and 15,” she said. “The best way to explain it is that it trains the zones of the eyes and tells the eye not to elongate or grow, which is the cause of nearsightedness.”

She said, “With our kids in front of screens and computers more than ever, we’re seeing a huge increase in vision issues in this age bracket, and even more troubling is the fact that once kids in this age develop nearsightedness, the progression is staggering in this age range. During their clinical trials, the MiSight lenses were used on children between 8 and12, for six years. The progression of their nearsightedness decreased by 59%. That is huge! The benefits of that kind of decrease in vision loss cannot be underestimated, especially as children become adults.

“Right now,” Dr. Hall continued, “MiSight is only available in a contact, but it’s a daily disposable contact lens. We have not seen any issues with eight-year-olds learning how to wear and maintain the lens. We expect that in the next year or two, there may be an option for glasses. Right now— they are in clinical trials.”

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For children who may be complaining of headaches or sitting closer to screens or the television, it may indicate that vision needs to be tested. Another telling sign is when children who once loved to read begin putting down their books out of frustration.

School has been hard enough on kids in the last year, and with 65% of learning being visual, we need to do our part to make sure they can correctly see what they need to see in order to help them in school—whether at home or in the classroom.

Hillcrest Vision is located at 2431 Winterhaven Lane in Winston-Salem. Call them at 760.2020, visit them online at HillcrestVision.com and be sure to “like” them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram.

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“Patients have been very receptive and When health officials said that dental appreciative of the guidelines that we have practices could reopen with safety put in place. And they’ve been very willing measures in place, Family Dental , DDS Jeffrey M.Forsyth Gallisdorfer to do their part to keep everyone safe,” was fully prepared. she said. “We’ve been very blessed to have a staff that wants to be here for our Charlotte C. Broughton , DDS “All of us need to take the necessary patients. Our patients are our family.” precautions as recommended by health

Elizabeth D. Corbin , DDS“We feel that patients respect us and will officials, but the good thing is that in the dental world, we were already doing so let us know if they don’t feel well before many of the things are now normal Sarah E.thatSimpson , DMD coming into the building,” Dr. Broughton everywhere,” Dr. Charlotte Broughton said. said. “The mutual trust and respect “Masks, for example—we’ve been wearing between the staff at Forsyth Family Dental them for our entire careers. Having said and the patients we serve allow us to be that, we have added extra levels of here and continue working. We couldn’t protection,116 suchJonestown as asking patients to wear be actively working without everyone’s Road support and desire to be here.” masks while inside Forsyth Family Dental.”

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Buying

a home is by far one of the biggest investments you will make in your lifetime, so choosing an area and subdivision that has everything you want is important. An experienced and knowledgeable real estate team who knows the area and the reputations of local builders is very beneficial, and will serve as your guide and expert along the journey of home buying, and also save you an enormous amount of time and stress in the process. The Arbors at Meadowlark is a new neighborhood in Forsyth County, with the best of the best in local builders and Realtors from Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate ready to walk you through the process.

A Little Slice of Heaven The Arbors at Meadowlark is located off of Meadowlark Road next to the very popular Brookberry Farm subdivision. The 23.27 acres was once part of the Lyons Gray property and is now 46 lots, ranging from .24 acre to 1.80 acres. The variety of lots allows for basement or crawl space single-family homes and garden-style homes with convenient front-load garages. Home prices start in the high $400s.

The setting for The Arbors couldn’t be more beautiful, with mature hardwoods on the home sites and cul-de-sac lots, along with an elegantly landscaped entrance. Homeowners will have amenities including sidewalks, classic streetlights, manicured common areas and yard maintenance for the garden homes.

The location right off Meadowlark Road is in a rural setting of rolling hills convenient to shopping, dining and schools. The architectural and neighborhood standards are controlled by restrictive covenants and a homeowners’ association.

Now is the Time to Buy an Existing Home at The Arbors Today’s market is strong and active, prices are rising and interest rates are dropping. With new construction material costs on the rise, homes built in the past year are priced 20 percent lower than the same house that will be built in 2021. This makes the existing inventory at The Arbors a very attractive price point.

To view one of our new homes or to inquire about a custom build at The Arbors, please contact one of the team Realtors: Arlene Rouse, Mary Uren, Mary Preston Yates, Michael Ferrin, Brenda Shoaf, Kristin Wooten and Kristen Roberson. Visit www.arborsatmeadowlark.com, or call 336-779-9200.

BUILDER TEAM: Alan Fletcher Construction Inc., RL Riddle Construction, Glen Homes, LLC, Wishon & Carter Builders, Inc., Robert Wooten Dream Builders WS, QFC Inc., Alexander Building Company Inc., JK Canter Builder LLC. Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate was formed in 2004. The company is dedicated to professionalism, local knowledge and giving back to our community. Our agents continue this tradition today with the highest level of education, hard work and service to our hometown. We are full-time professionals and the leaders in our market. Local agents, local knowledge—you will find both at Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate.

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Alex Dummit, a local entrepreneur and native of WinstonSalem, decided to take a stand against the inequalities that plague her community, she had no idea that her initiative would blossom into a vibrant nonprofit in just one year.

“I grew up here. I love Winston, but too many people are alienated and denied basic resources. I wanted to empower people to take control over their own lives and communities,” explains Dummit.

This idea of community empowerment lies at the heart of Net Impact Triad (NIT), the nonprofit that Dummit was instrumental in the formulation of the initial Net ImpactTriad strategic plan ans was offered the COO position to facilitate community development and engagement. To achieve these goals, NIT is building a network of socially-responsible businesses, leaders, and nonprofits to collaborate on projects that lead to long-term change for the local community.

“As an entrepreneur and business executive, I have seen firsthand how businesses can spearhead local and global efforts towards a sustainable future,” Dummit says. “I wanted to create a space to

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support these initiatives in Winston.”

NIT has already started to engage with the local community through the “Keep Winston-Salem Beautiful” initiative. By adopting one park at Sara Lee Soccer Complex Park and a stream near the Reynolds Park driving range, NIT is already promoting environmental improvement across the city.

Most recently, NIT expanded its sustainable efforts by launching “Connect the Dots” in July of 2020 to “connect” the diverse neighborhoods of Winston-Salem. At the center of this initiative is Sam “The Dot Man” McMillan’s historic home and art gallery, which Net Impact Triad will reinvent into a sustainable community center. By partnering with local organizations, The Dot Man’s colorful home will become an interactive learning center and sustainable community garden on NW Blvd., an underserved and often-forgotten area in Winston-Salem.

The Dot Man’s legacy is not a result of his colorful home, but rather his ability to spread hope throughout the city. In this vein, “Sam [McMillan] was not just a local celebrity—he was an emblem of hope for the entire city,” Dummit states.

“He embodied the central tenets of Net

Impact, so we knew that this project was the perfect way to continue his legacy.”

Connect the Dots will also expand beyond the community center by partnering with farm sponsors to build produce trailers that serve local food deserts. These produce trailers—which will resemble The Dot Man’s colorful home to remind everyone that we are all “connected”—will make weekly trips to the farmer’s market, thus providing employment and establishing a sustainable source of income. Once the trailers leave the market, they will take the remaining fresh produce to local food deserts. In this way, the produce trailers will become a recurring food source for those with limited access to healthy options. NIT has already secured one produce trailer, so you can look for it at local farmer’s markets this fall!

“What sets Net Impact apart is the way that it harnesses the collaborative power of businesses and community members alike,” concludes Dummit. “We are a tight-knit and extremely passionate group of people who are committed to enacting real, effective change in the fight against racial and economic disparity, not just for tomorrow, but for many years to come.”

Are you interested in working with NIT? Whether you are a business looking to join our network of partners or a volunteer who wants to help us expand our community resources, we would love to connect with you! Please visit the Net Impact Triad. By joining our mission today, you will become instrumental in the future of both the Triad and the global fight against poverty and injustice.

Net Impact Triad is a nonprofit in WinstonSalem, NC, that connects businesses with the local community to create collaborative, sustainable initiatives and spearhead the efforts toward a socially just future.

To learn more about how to contribute towards their current initiatives and volunteer opportunities, please visit www. netimpacttriad.org or contact us at info@ netimpacttriad.org. Make sure to connect with us on Facebook at @NetImpactTriad.

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a space is not a simple task. It’s not just about the pieces you need to fill a room, but how they work together to make it look complete. Some people have an eye for this kind of work. At Brick & Brass Designs, their team can help you pull together the design of any space and add the details that give it that finishing touch.

asked her to help decorate her booth.

Once it was done, other stylists began to ask if she would help them, too, and soon they were asking her to decorate their homes.

Owner Alisha Snow has loved interior design since she was a little girl. Her sister, who is six years older, was in interior design school when she first became interested.

She watched her sister do projects for school, and she began to mimic her work.

Even though she found it so fascinating, she just never considered herself a creative person. That is, until she was trying to sell her first house, and she became slightly obsessed with staging it. Even though the house was in a very competitive market, it sold in less than 24 hours. She and her husband thought their next home would be forever, but she just loved designing the different spaces there, and in a year, she was ready to sell it and move on to a new project. It was then that she realized she had a calling for design.

This company is a dream come true for Snow. She still can’t believe she gets paid to do something she feels so passionate about, and that combines her passions of working with people and design. She finds her greatest joy is helping people express their style and finding the pieces that bring it together. She also loves working with all budgets. “I enjoy doing as much of the work myself as possible. I’ve learned so much about changing light fixtures and plumbing fixtures and all sorts of things that keep me from having to contract the work out and saves my clients lots of money.”

Brick & Brass Designs developed naturally as Snow began to explore projects where her talents could be used. She started with helping sellers stage homes that were not selling quickly. It went so well that every home she worked on sold quickly after staging. Not long after the staging began, a friend of hers opened Blue Rose Studio Salons in Clemmons. One of the hair stylists

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There are several design services options, including virtual design consultation, in-person design consultation, complete interior design service, and seasonal decoration service. In addition to design, they also do new construction design, where they look at the space before it’s built to make sure it makes sense, and things are where they need to be. She also still does home staging. “We will work with what you have to make the best use of the space and create the best design possible.”

Brick & Brass Designs has grown so fast that Snow had to take on some team members to keep up with the additional clients. Kristen Colfer and Ginny Whan are the co-designers on the team. Snow will be your lead designer on every project.

She has the final say with the client on every detail, but she has enjoyed having additional designers. “It is so helpful to have another set of eyes on each project and someone to bounce ideas off. You always hope you have the best idea, but you think of things you may not have thought of before by collaborating. It just makes Brick & Brass Designs a better company.”

The work that Snow does speaks for itself.

So much so that when a passerby saw her renovated 100-year-old home in East Bend, she hired Brick & Brass Designs on the spot. This client had stopped to admire the house and just happened to catch Snow, who was home at the time. Once Snow showed her around, she was convinced she needed Brick & Brass Designs to help her design spaces in her own home.

Client Jordan James raved about Brick & Brass Designs after they transformed her salon studio. “Alisha is the most personable, down-to-earth, lovely person to be around!

That, right off the bat, made me want to hire her! She worked WONDERS in my salon studio. She took literally nothing and made it amazing. She’s very careful to listen to your vision and budget concerns! I got exactly what I wanted and more! I cannot wait for her to work her magic at my house!!

Can’t recommend her enough.”

Nacole McCullough, another client, was extremely pleased with the above-andbeyond design and execution provided by Brick & Brass Designs. “Alisha is awesome!

I hired her to help me with my salon space.

She met me at the studio, boxes and clutter everywhere, but Alisha could see beyond all of that and began sharing her vision of how we would layout and design my studio. She got my style right away and ran with it. She literally brought my vision to life, but made it 100 times better than I ever imagined. This girl has the ability to completely transform any size space—it’s honestly amazing. She goes out of her way, dedicating time to making sure it’s absolutely perfect!”

If you would like to schedule a consultation with Brick & Brass Designs, you can call them at 336-972-2985 or visit their website, brickandbrassdesigns.com.

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Bountiful Benefits and Beauty of Adoption

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the age of childbearing or unable to have children? Adoption may be the answer. Adopting a baby or child can be mutually beneficial.

Not only are you giving your adoptee a much-needed home, but also a brand new life and hopeful future. The addition to your family requires long-term commitment and some other key elements, but is well worth it. As an adoptee, I can share some of my own personal story and provide a testimony of how beneficial adoption can be for everyone involved.

KOREAN AMERICAN ADOPTEE, MY STORY A proud Korean-American adoptee, I arrived at three months old via a long plane ride at an airport in Massachusetts, cradled in my new adoptive mother’s loving arms. Though I was born far across the seas in Mokpo, South Korea, I was raised by an American mother, who gave me everything she could. Even though I am not fluent in Korean, am more American than apple pie in some ways, and am just learning how to make kimchi (Korean fermented cabbage), I cherish my Korean roots. Though I often wonder about my Korean family that gave me up, I am grateful for and content with my American family and living in the States.

As a person of faith—a Christian believer—I credit God with guiding me to the right adoptive mother, family, and home. I truly believe He divinely orchestrated each and every connection, and that it is all meant to be. Though my adoptive family is small, I couldn’t ask for a more loving or supportive mother and grandmother.

Though a part of my life—my Korean family—is missing, I have been made whole again. Like many adoptees, I will conduct a search for my birth parents and other family members. I may never find them, but I will continue to pray for my Korean family across the world and hope someday to visit the place of my birth, Mokpo, South Korea, and Seoul, where I stayed with a foster family for a short time.

PLENTY OF PLAYTIME FOR KIDS + KIDS-AT-HEART Adopting the role of a parent involves learning and growth and responsibility. But, thankfully, it’s not all adulting! Enjoy plenty of playtime with your kid(s), as a kid-atheart. The more you activate a kid-like imagination, the more you and your family will enjoy life together. Learning to play benefits your happiness and your health.

So, let loose and play house, tag, and enjoy being a kid again!

RAISED WITH ROUTINES + HEALTHY HABITS In addition to adopting (a) new family member(s), adopt regular routines. Cultivate healthy habits and get rid of those that detract from your health + happiness, or that don’t make the most of your time. You are your child’s #1 role model and have an enormous influence on your child’s development and entire life. Your child is aware of your every word and every move. Be the best person you can be to help your child develop healthy habits.

Foster a healthy living environment. Take time to clear clutter, don’t let things pile up, and don’t leave the television on all day and night. Teach your family to tidy up around the house by having everyone pitch in and do house chores. Make a regular, fun event of it and use positive reinforcement. Reward cleaner-uppers with treats or goodies everyone can enjoy when they’ve completed their chores. And, who says you have to clean in silence? Whistle while you work, hum, or sing along with your fav songs!

OPTING FOR ADOPTION The benefits of adoption far outweigh the cons, but before you sign those adoption papers and welcome in your new family member(s), make sure it’s right for you and do your research. And, whether you adopt a baby or older child, you are giving an adoptee an opportunity to begin a new life and become part of a family. Share your world and experience life together!

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space. In exchange, LTWS would make its huge inventory and theatrical experience available to the school system.

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“We are ecstatic to be entering into this new collaboration with the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools,” stated Powell. “Not only will the storage space allow our technical departments the room they need for building our shows, but the new partnership means we strengthen our community relationships by going to schools and working with the many creative teachers in the schools’ drama programs. We are excited about helping them with their projects and productions.”

everyone is familiar with the old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” There’s no doubt that lemons have been abundant this year, and the performing arts organizations in our city, including The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem, have had more than their share.

Brad Oliver, Director of K-12 Arts Education and the Summer Enrichment Programs of WS/FCS, agreed. “We are very excited to have as our new partner in the Arts, The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem. This partnership will allow them the ability to have crucial storage and building space. In turn, our students and teachers will have direct access to the wonderful theatrical resources they have. It only strengthens our Theatre program.”

So, what to do? Faced with cancelled shows, classes, and camps, LTWS had two major goals: one was to keep entertaining the community. The theatre company quickly moved to online offerings, with a series of monologue and singing competitions, a 14-week theatre trivia game show that attracted state-wide audiences, a virtual 10-Minute Play Festival (produced in conjunction with the WinstonSalem Writers), and a series of virtual acting classes and camps.

The move took several weeks to complete, but the Little Theatre’s Workshop now occupies the main floor of the historic school building, which was initially built to be Hanes High School and later became Hanes Middle. Classrooms are now being used for costume and furniture storage, while the former gymnasium has been turned into a scene shop for building sets. The former chemistry lab has become the props storage room and one of the larger classrooms is now the sewing room.

The other goal was to stay afloat during the shutdown. With no income, LTWS began looking for ways to cut expenses. The largest ongoing expense was the rent and utilities for its Workshop, a building housing the theatre’s costumes, props, and set pieces, as well as everything needed for scenic and costume construction. As one might imagine, an 86-year-old theatre accumulates a lot of stuff over the decades! The company also needed more space than their location on First Street offered.

LTWS Executive Director Philip Powell reached out to County Commissioner Don Martin with a “lemonade” idea: how about a collaboration? After a series of discussions, a partnership was formed. The Little Theatre would move its costume and scene shops to the former Hanes Middle School campus, a fantastic

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“It has been a lot of work, but I’m excited about this move,” said LTWS Costume Shop Manager Tara Raczenski. “This new partnership has so much potential, not just for us, but for our customers, school drama programs, and the theatre community at large.” The costume shop houses over 10,000 pieces, including costumes for men, women, and children, accessories, wigs, shoes, fabric, and sewing machines.

Daniel Alvarez, LTWS Board Secretary and long-time volunteer, coordinated the scene shop part of the move. ““Despite the pandemic and all of the negative issues surrounding it, it is really nice to have this positive thing happen for us,” he commented. “In addition to providing us with a great workspace and the ability to further engage with our community, it is also setting us up to emerge as a fiscally stronger organization.”

While the actual move has already taken place, the theatre company looks forward to having the next few months to further organize the new space. “The goal at this point is to get everything organized so that we are prepared when we can start producing plays and musicals again,” commented Powell. “We’ll definitely be ready.”

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Foods and Thanksgiving Disagreements

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nnouncements cry out from the youngest member of the family, “Uncle John is here, and, oh, wait, Grandpa and Grandma too!

We’re halfway there. Twelve more to go!” The holiday, which aims to provide abundant gratitude and grace, also leads to grumbles over the gobbler, among other boisterous confessions. From the traditionalists to the trendsetters, everyone has an expectation of beloved tastes and foods, only experienced one day a year. With multiple guests seeking the ultimate experience, comprising mouth-watering turkey with or without gravy, sides of stuffing, cranberry sauce, candied yam soufflé, and rolls, it’s no wonder the table consumes each inch of the festive tablecloth.

Turkey

As a large and delicious bird, hunted during the autumn season in the early 1600s, the turkey became the ideal protein. Starting in 1863, President Lincoln identified Thanksgiving as a national holiday. According to a 2019 survey, 88% of Americans serve the great gobbler. Michelle Wall writes, “Growing up, mama didn’t cook a turkey because everyone seemed to prefer ham. As in-laws arrived to augment the family, we started having ham and turkey. It’s become a tradition to serve both.”

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Stuffing

Ah, to stuff or not to stuff? “My mom is distressed that I stuff the turkey,” writes Tamatha Atkins. “She believes I am going to give us all salmonella and won’t eat the stuffing; so, I make separate stuffing just for her!” For other families, there is debate over grammatical terms. Is it called “stuffing,” “dressing,” or simply “filling”?

Cranberry Sauce

The American tradition arrives at dinner tables across the nation. Chances are there will be a plate holding the jellied mass with ridges from the can still intact. Many of us remember the childhood task of slightly jostling the container, giggling to the sounds that emanated, leading to the plop!

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Despite the controversy of “having” verses “excluding,” popularity reigns over the canned whole-berry sauce.

Side Dishes

During the heightened stress of food prep across two and sometimes three days, making sure everyone’s favorite dishes are included, emotions lead to at least one confession. Martha Stevens writes, “Ah, it was a wonderful moment. In front of 15 people, my Aunt threw down her napkin, stood up, and said, ‘I know some of you don’t appreciate my creamed pearled onions, but it has been at our Thanksgiving table as far back as I can remember. And,

we’re not about to stop! I had to suffer; so, we can all suffer together.’”

Dessert After second helpings of turkey, candied yams, and one more yeast roll, deep breaths, and a 15-minute break, this course leads to a personal battle whether to pass or accept a plate of sweet potato, pumpkin, or pecan pie. “Every Thanksgiving I surrender to the foods that remind me of people I love and lost, and others that I only have at Thanksgiving,” shares Ginger Michaels. “I eat a thin slice of each dessert, because who can choose? There’s always an option for ice cream and Cool Whip. I cannot muster decisions by the end of the meal; so, it’s always a ‘Yes!’” Thanksgiving is a ritual based on the holiday family dinner. It comprises all the essential ingredients, such as the time of arrival, the greetings and conversations with family and friends, and the television programs, all planned around the evening meal. The ceremony of festive clothes on particular guests and the late arrival of others is part of the holiday’s emotional experience. Year after year, we count blessings and light candles to memorialize those missing from the day. Through symbols, predictability, and the arrival of new additions, each family celebrates Thanksgiving Day’s intergenerational gathering!

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18 years, Drs. David Chermak and John Hanson have been giving their patients a great reason to smile. Specializing in orthodontic care, Drs. Chermak and Hanson share a common vision to help others feel great about themselves, as well as to correct a variety of dental issues. Through the use of braces and other strategies, Drs. Chermak and Hanson can correct a wide variety of issues. Their office treats underbites, crossbites, protrusion, overbite, crowding, spacing, open bite and, of course, cosmetic straightening of the teeth. “It has become more important these days for young people to feel confident in their smile,” states Dr. Hanson.

Dr. Hanson explained, “Orthodontics is the engineering side of dentistry. As a former mechanical engineer, I discovered how fascinatingly complex our own bodies are engineered, including our mouths and teeth. It resulted in a major career change for me.”

“Dr. Chermak and I have devoted our careers to improving the mechanical functions of our patients’ mouths,” Dr. Hanson continued. “Oral health isn’t just about having fresh breath and a pretty smile. Dental health actually impacts the body long term. For example, orthodontic care can help improve the process of chewing and ultimately improve digestion. It’s our job to work in partnership with local dentists to help patients have the healthiest mouth possible.”

Braces are, of course, practically synonymous with the practice of orthodontics. Dr. Hanson said, “We treat patients of all ages, and often, our practice includes the use of braces. Because many adults, especially, are nervous about traditional braces, we often work with aligners to help alleviate many of the concerns and complications that can come from traditional orthodontic hardware. We don’t feel it’s the best option for young children,

as it’s more difficult for aligners to correct the bite in a growing child or adolescent.

But they are great for adults.”

He continued, “Aligners are custommade and offer more comfort than traditional braces. They are worn consistently, with the exception of eating, drinking, brushing, and flossing. It’s been a great tool throughout the years and definitely, they help our patients feel less selfconscious about the process.”

“The process,” said Dr. Chermak, “is like anything worthwhile—a process. Unfortunately, through social media, we’ve seen some extreme risks being handled with dental care. Earlier in 2020, “would be” orthodontic patients took it upon themselves to file their own teeth on TikTok videos. I confidently state, on behalf of orthodontists everywhere— please don’t. This ‘trend’ is so

dangerous. We could hardly believe it when we saw it. There is a time and a place for DIY, but your mouth is not it!”

He continued to explain, “We have gone to school for years— beyond traditional dental school, orthodontics requires an additional three years of education. These kinds of extreme DIY attempts at dental work can have catastrophic effects on the structure of the mouth. Beyond the risk of bacteria from instruments that have not been properly disinfected, damage done to the enamel of your teeth is irreversible. There is risk of infection and permanent damage that would cost thousands to repair.

It shortens the lifespan of the tooth and compromises the mouth’s overall health.”

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professional. No two mouths are the same; each is uniquely shaped and has its own unique set of challenges.

And as teeth shift for various reasons, people experience bone loss. There is no overnight fix, but the results are worth the time and the patience invested in the process.”

It’s also an evolving process.

“Orthodontics is an amazing field,” said Dr. Chermak. “In our practice, we utilize the latest technology and skills that will enable us to keep offering the very best to our patients. However, what never changes in our office is our commitment to service, excellence, and integrity. This is a very relationally-based field of medicine. We know and care about our patients. We know them as people and treat them with kindness and dignity, respecting that the work we do is designed to help improve their lives.”

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At Chermak & Hanson, the initial consultation is always free. “We want to start with a meet and greet, and gain an understanding of our patients’ unique needs and challenges. Together, we review the options, including how insurance is handled. We discuss the commitment involved by both the patient and by us as the doctors.

We use this initial consultation as a way to lay the groundwork for what is truly a partnership.

Anyone who wants to meet with us can call the office to schedule an appointment; they don’t even need a referral. We have three offices that we rotate through to make sure we are conveniently located for our patients.”

Beyond the doctors, Dr. Hanson shared, “We have an amazing staff.

Our team truly cares about the patients we treat! We look for ways to make others feel comfortable

and offer true hospitality. We don’t want anyone to feel nervous about coming to our offices! We have patients that stop by years after having their braces removed just to chat; this tells us that it’s about more than just teeth.”

Chermak & Hanson has three convenient locations: • 1564 N. Peacehaven Rd. Winston-Salem, 336-760-1491; • 3742 Clemmons Rd. Clemmons, 336-766-8244 • 524 S. Main St. King, 336-983-4551 Visit them online at smileland.com.

“We would be remiss not to address the COVID-related concerns our patients have,” said Dr. Hanson. “Our staff has always taken pride in ensuring our offices were clean, with sanitation and sterilization practices as a priority in our business. But with COVID-19, we have evaluated and made adjustments that make sense for the safety of our staff and patients in our office.

However, what hasn’t changed—and what won’t change –is our complete commitment to service and excellence.

Even with additional steps for safety, we continue to offer extraordinary care to our extraordinary patients.”

“Our patients have been so generous with their reviews over the years,” said Dr. Hanson. “We appreciate their vote of confidence and willingness to share their great feedback with others!” “ We are just getting started in our orthodontics but we’ve been seeing them for about two years now.

I like how they take their time and don’t just jump in for braces immediately. They are honest and we have been very happy we chose Chermak & Hanson for our daughter’s orthodontist.”

~Donna C.

“ Absolutely love this place and all the staff. They are very friendly and compassionate, especially if you have a child with a high anxiety level. They also have been very safe and friendly through the COVID pandemic to accommodate in such trying times.” ~Chrissy W. “This place is the best around!! The staff is super nice and friendly. Highly recommend them!!”

~Amy M.

“ We live in Atlanta, and our son was away at camp in Winston-Salem. During the course of 48 hours he had four brackets come off. He was very uncomfortable and needed orthodontic care. I called Dr. Hanson on his emergency line on a Sunday and he said he would work him in first thing Monday morning. He called immediately after the visit to give me a detailed synopsis of what he did. Wow! Thank you, Dr. Hanson!” ~DeLancy H. “ Great service & staff, really care about their patients. I’m on my third child with braces and I wouldn’t trust anyone else!” ~Patricia G.

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Helping Your Child Understand the Election

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Every

four years, people over the age of 18 are given the opportunity to vote for our nation’s next president and vice president, their state’s governor, and representatives, along with many other positions. The right to vote is a freedom that some citizens in other countries don’t have, and it is important that children learn about the value of participating in an election. Yet, the first thing is to make sure your child understands what an election is all about and why we are voting. The election and voting process can be a hard concept to grasp, no matter at what age, but with these strategies, introducing your child to the election can be easier than you think.

1

Start with the basics of voting and the reasons why we vote. Even young children can understand voting as simply being a way for people to make decisions.

Then, give voting examples that are relevant to your child’s life at their age. For example, have a vote in your family about what movie to watch or talk about what voting activities they have seen in school, such as choosing an activity or class president. The more relevant you can make it to your child, the better they will grasp the bigger picture of voting for our nation’s president.

2

As a teacher, one of the key skills I try to instill in my students is the ability to disagree respectfully. We all have our own opinions, and that is okay. What is not okay, is to argue and put someone down because they don’t share your opinion. The election season is a great time to teach and reinforce respectful listening skills and how to be considerate toward others. Again, bring this process home and try out a scenario of what disagreeing respectfully does and doesn’t look like. Also, take some time to discuss how you handle disagreements in your home and school. Lastly, talk about how adults can lose their tempers, but it is then important to apologize and learn how to manage their feelings by calming down.

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3

Help your child get excited about the election and the opportunity to vote. Take them to the polling station and let them watch you cast your vote (remember to practice COVID precautions first).

If you are voting by mail, sit down with your child and show them your ballot. Discuss the roles of each person on the ballot. When a child sees an adult take an active interest in the election, they are more likely to participate when they get older.

4

Share your beliefs and help kids form their own opinions. First, explain to them how the government works and why we elected our leaders. Then, discuss the value of each leader’s role in our country, how candidates are chosen, the debates, and the political parties. Lastly, go through the different areas of a society that people vote on, such as healthcare, and the different beliefs people can have on them. Take into account your child’s age when having these conversations. Some content and concepts younger children may not be able to fully grasp.

5

Reassure them that voting in the election is valuable even with all of the negativity surrounding the election. The media is always publishing hardto-understand and problematic stories during this time period. Help your child focus on what they need to know and areas they can help with.

The election process and voting can be confusing to understand, no matter how old you are. Having efficient and effective discussion about the election with your child can be very helpful. Just make your conversations relevant and age-appropriate. Don’t worry if your child doesn’t understand or fully comprehend. There will be plenty of time as they grow to understand more about the election process.

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Exploration

and Creativity Make Learning Fun at FCDS Forsyth

Country Day School was excited to welcome 800 students to campus on August 19 for in-person learning. With invested teachers and engaging classes on campus, students are having meaningful interactions, engaging in valuable learning, and developing essential skills for the world ahead.

Here’s a snapshot of what’s happening all over campus: PRESCHOOL Students are developing their social and communication skills through sensory play. Sensory bins—containers filled with carefully selected materials and objects to stimulate the senses of children—are hands-on tools for children to explore their world through their senses. Filled with kernels of corn, beans, rice, shredded paper, sand, water, and small toys and tools, these bins aren’t just fun, they’re an important part of any early childhood learning experience. Because of COVID-19, teachers have small individual bins in their classrooms.

LOWER SCHOOL Kindergarteners used their sense of taste to determine if there is a difference between green, red, and yellow apples. Other Apple Day activities included cooking, investigating, building apple wagons, and creating the life cycle of an apple.

First Graders are learning engineering! They built paper airplanes, made a perfect square, created tin foil people, and saved a very lucky worm named Fred.

Second Graders celebrated the end of a reading unit by wearing PJs, reading with flashlights, and munching on popcorn. The students have been choosing “just right” (not too hard, not too easy) books, building their stamina, and writing “stop and jots” (short summaries) after reading.

Third Graders developed their writing skills by adding dialogue and dynamic endings to their stories during Writers’ Workshop.

Fourth Graders created comic strips during science that demonstrated their understanding of magnetism. Once the comics were complete, they practiced their public speaking skills by presenting them to their classmates.

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MIDDLE SCHOOL This year, the Middle School introduced exciting new classes called Exploratories.

In Public Art & Storytelling, students made self-portraits as they discussed the role of storytelling in art. Students delivered handmade birthday cards they created in Serving the Community class.

The Out of the Box class designed Very Tiny Houses while discussing the environmental benefits of such a small footprint.

The excitement was palpable as students in Can’t Solve This, a game theory and design class, analyzed classic board games to determine the best strategy to win.

Creative Exploration class used flowers to make beautiful insects and arachnids out of natural materials.

UPPER SCHOOL Civil Discourse. Head of School Gardner Barrier and Lily Cochrane with the Wake Forest Center for Private Business are co-teaching this new class. It focuses on listening to understand versus listening to respond, the value of thought-provoking questions in discussion, methods of practicing self-reflection, the power in diversity of thought, and role-playing exercises around controversial topics.

Fury Broadcasting Network. Created by students to feature athletics, interview players, and live-stream games. These high school students are honing their video, editing, planning, design, and interviewing skills.

At Forsyth Country Day School, our priority is a safe and engaging learning environment that truly prepares students for what’s ahead. From the joy of playing an instrument to the discovery of hands-on science, our individualized instruction fosters curiosity and creativity— setting the stage for lifelong learning.

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The Trials of Insomnia

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The

body works to the rhythms of a clock, affecting physical, mental, and behavioral changes within a 24-hour cycle. As the mind sees the dimming of natural light, our circadian rhythm engages the brain to send signals, pulling the body towards sleep. The act of falling asleep occurs at the molecular level. A neurotransmitter travels through the nerve cells and tells the brain to turn off the switch; yet, for some, the brain cannot enter a “homeostatic sleep drive.” While it can shut the body down for a few hours, the internal alarm clock sounds to promote wakefulness.

What is Insomnia?

Insomnia is defined as “A common sleep disorder rendering three out of five people unable to fall asleep, stay asleep, and, if the body wakes, return to sleep.”

There are two types of insomnia: • Acute: The result of stress or traumatic events affecting sleep patterns for days or weeks.

• Chronic: A long-term pattern of having difficulty falling asleep and remaining asleep. While some people have a history of insufficient sleep, chronic insomnia connects to a wide range of physical and mental health problems.

It leads to anxiety and depression, substance abuse, and motor vehicle accidents.

Effects of Disordered Sleep Adequate levels of sleep are a restorative to the brain function and body. They can foster quick reflexes, clarity of mind, and boost serotonin levels, bringing about states of happiness and energy. Groups of people who habitually get too little sleep are at a higher risk of developing brain and neurodegenerative disorders, such as Parkinson’s disease, Lewy body dementia, and multiple system atrophy. When

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scientists studied patients with a REM-sleep disorder, the goal was to develop solutions for cognitive health.

Dreams and Memory Think of sleep as the body’s way to clean and offer an upgrade. The first 90 minutes provide a state of REM sleep, which means rapid eye movement, before the brain lapses into a NREM state of non-rapid eye movement. The brain, whether awake or in a stage of sleep, never stops its activity.

Through dreams, the mind can create memories from the day, while processing exchanges of communication, meaning, and emotions. It’s important to ask, “Did I dream?” and think about the vividness of dreams. Even recurring nightmares can help an individual find the right type of treatment.

The Trials of Insomnia Professionals will ask, “What have you tried?” One person may mention mediation and herbal teas, while another will claim yoga and essential oils resolved the problem. Every person’s internal clock is set differently. There are many options to substitute for prescription medications. Try a natural method. #1: Weighted Blanket This is a quilt-like blanket weighing between five and thirty pounds with beads or pellets to distribute the weight evenly within small pockets. Similar to swaddling, which is actually a form of therapy termed “pressure stimulation,” the blanket creates a sense of relaxation for those who suffer from stress, anxiety, or depression. A weighted blanket is an effective solution to improve the quality and quantity of sleep, especially if an

individual wakes due to tossing and turning throughout the night.

TIP: C hildren also benefit from using a weighted blanket. Read the weight requirements to ensure the pressure suits the age of the child. #2 Melatonin A pea-sized gland located in the middle of the brain emits a natural hormone called melatonin. As the sun goes down, this pineal gland begins to release melatonin into the blood. For those who do not produce the hormone on their own, a dietary supplement is available over-the-counter. Research shows that it may be beneficial to those with delayed sleep.

TIP: Another natural option is to try CBD capsules or gummies, which combine a full-spectrum hemp extract with melatonin. #3: “Sleepy Time” Teas Caffeine-free herbal teas often contain the same ingredients found in sleep supplements. Holding a steeping mug close to the chest, breathing in the aroma of chamomile, valerian, lavender, lemon balm, and spearmint promotes relaxation. Ingesting the tea is a pleasant way to induce sleep. Look for boxes specifically made for nighttime, which may include “Sleepy Time Extra,” “Nightly Calm,” “Sweet Dreams,” or “Bedtime Tea.” If someone you know is in need of a better night’s sleep, invest time in trying various options, or perhaps combining two.

Relaxation exercises, coupled with a natural supplement or herbal tea, can encourage the body to fall into a pattern of consistent deep sleep!

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Understanding Situational Awareness

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Imbedded

in our mindset is the worrisome mantra, “what if” that spans topics from safety and financial security to the health of loved ones, pets, and self. Asking, “What can I do?” leads to a proactive decision to invest time in the ultimate insurance policy—valuable life skills comprising security, shelter, food, water, and medical care! In any emergency, from extreme weather to a personal disaster, you have the power to take charge of your fate by making plans and taking action!

How much do you pay attention while driving or walking? Have you ever had to describe details of a situation or accident, and realized your answers weren’t very helpful? Observant individuals are not just in the field of military and law enforcement; it’s a requisite skill essential for anyone who seeks personal safety.

Practicing Survival Awareness Air Force fighter pilot and strategist, John Boyd, developed what he termed the OODA Loop, representing the words “Observe,” “Orient,” “Decide,” and “Act.” In combining observation and orientation, individuals must remain alert to, and calm when observing, events occurring close and in the distance. Factors include people, weather, sounds, smells, and the layout, including nearby exits. Research proves a person’s focus tends to narrow when stress levels and nervousness elevates; therefore, try and remain relaxed.

• Sit in locations enabling you to see the broad view of a room and exit points, perhaps close to a wall.

• Master memorization by playing the awareness game with your family. Ask questions such as, “How many staff were on the floor?” “What color shirt was the man wearing at the next table?” and “How many exits did the building have?

Everyone needs a BOB! Every situation happens in seconds. While a woman watched her child play on the community playground, she heard a child scream and saw a streak of blood. In minutes, she ran to her vehicle to return with a backpack. One quick zip opened the first-aid items, and she grabbed two Ziplock bags, marked “gloves” and “wound.” In minutes, she donned the disposable gloves and talked to the child calmly, while applying an alcohol pad and then taping gauze filled with Neosporin to the wound. Preparedness saved the day!

Rather than rely on what is in your vehicle, consider creating a BOB, (“Bug-Out-Bag,”) to survive a wide range of emergencies for the family, or just you.

A recommended list is available online. Consider adding water bottles or a water filtration container, protein bars, disinfectant, first-aid supplies, paper, a Sharpie, and basic tools, such as duct tape, a knife, a flashlight, and batteries. Think about the need for warmth by including wool blankets. Socks are a handy covering for the extremities.

TIP: Get to know your BOB. In emergencies, seekers do not want to waste time attempting to find essential items. Remember, when you use something, replace it!

• While a restaurant may appear normal, scan for usual behaviors, such as individuals who look uncomfortable, scared, or nervous; standing aloof also presents an anomaly for continued observation. Be aware of body language, such as patting or checking pockets.

• Responding to an anomaly may result in an action, such as leaving.

Starting today, be conscious in scanning rooms for entrance and exit points. Look for anomalies when you shop by observing the actions of people. Think about how you will handle possible threatening situations. As you practice, the act of the OODA Loop becomes natural.

Create a Family Plan Fires, flooded roads, power outages, delays in return flights, any situation, although temporary, can require the family to have an established plan for their children, pets, elder members, and medications. When families know the expectation, each member has a responsibility and the opportunity to work together.

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• Creating key words for communication to save time.

Furthering educational opportunities comes in the form of audiobooks, books, blogs, YouTube videos, and podcasts. Ask friends whom they might like to add to your list. Some survivalists have a blog or show every day. Check out Jack Spirko’s “Survival Podcast.” You may enjoy Lisa Bedford, who believes, “Inside every mom is a Survival Mom, whether she knows it or not!”

• Discussing evacuation plans, routes, and destinations.

Next month presents “Thinking Outside the Faucet!”

Start thinking about: • Updating contact information.

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want to thank everyone who has helped support Family Services as we continue to provide critical programs to families, children, and individuals in our community, many of whom have been directly affected

by COVID-19.

The pandemic has laid bare social and racial inequities in our community that existed long before the virus struck. These inequities fall especially hard on families with young children from communities of color and/or that have limited resources.

That’s why, in 2014, Family Services convened The Pre-K Priority, a group of representatives from twenty organizations that provide, support, or fund early learning programs in our community. Our goal is to provide every four-year-old child in Forsyth County with the opportunity to attend a high-quality Pre-K program. We have drawn on our collective experience, commissioned local studies and surveys, and examined the extensive body of research to identify how Forsyth County can achieve this goal.

At this time, further progress toward this goal requires that our local elected officials— County Commissioners, the City Council, and the Board of Education—establish a community Early Childhood Education Task Force to develop both near-term and longterm plans for increasing the availability of high-quality Pre-K programs in Forsyth County. Elected officials in other urban counties have already done this, as long as five years ago in Durham County. As a result, Durham, Mecklenburg, Guilford, and Buncombe Counties have all made significant local investments in highquality Pre-K. The Pre-K Priority considers this election year a critical time for the future of the education

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of young children in our community. That’s why we have launched a campaign to persuade our local elected officials, County Commissioners, City Council members, and members of the Board of Education, to do something that other urban counties in North Carolina did years ago: To establish a Community Early Childhood Education Task Force to develop both near-term and long-term plans for increasing the availability of high-quality Pre-K programs in Forsyth County.

You can help.

You can sign the Pre-K pledge Pre-K Pledge at prekpriority.org/#pledge. You can encourage the leadership of the organization you work for, or are a member of, to contact us to sign a Declaration of Support. You can send an e-mail, write a letter, or call an elected official to let them know that it’s long overdue for our county to formally, officially commit to developing an action plan for achieving educational equity for all our children.

If you’d like to be part of our campaign, you can join us by contacting Leslie Mullinix, Pre-K Priority Project Coordinator, at lmullinix@familyservicesforsyth.org.

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Moving Out United Van Lines, the nation’s largest household goods mover, reported the results of 6,000 postmove surveys during the pandemic months.

In October, United Van Lines said their surveys showed that while overall nationwide move requests were down during the lockdowns, moving interest in September 2020 was notably higher than the previous year – up 32% – indicating that this year’s peak moving season shifted from the Spring and early Summer.

Among leading factors influencing a move, the top four were concerns for personal and family health and wellbeing; a desire to be closer to family; changes in employment status or work arrangement (including the ability to work remotely); and desire for a lifestyle change or improvement of quality of life.

Consumer Trends Continue 2020 Shift With November, we’re nine months into a pandemic that continues to produce shifts in consumer attitudes. As our former routines are broken, new habits are already having a big impact on our lives.

Additionally of note, was more people moved away from higher density U.S. cities. At the end of August 2020, outbound move requests from New York were 52% higher than the national average. In San Francisco, outbound move requests steadily increased from 3% above the national average in July 2020 to 128% by the beginning of September.

Their impact is only expected to grow. Let’s take a moment to look at a few consumer trends this year, and what’s to come in the next few months.

The top inbound states for those who moved – and where COVID was a contributing factor in choosing to migrate – were: Vermont, North Dakota, Connecticut, Montana, Michigan, Arkansas, Oregon, Massachusetts, Ohio and Utah.

Telehealth

Virtual Dating

The pandemic forced the emergence of a broader healthcare ecosystem, specifically, one joining hybrid physical and virtual doctor’s visits, according to telehealth provider Amwell.

How did relationships fare during this year? As you might expect, there was much more virtual dating. In October, the dating app Match released findings from its 10th annual Singles in America study of more than 5,000 singles across the United States.

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In its October survey, Amwell said that 22% of consumers and 80% of physicians reported having a virtual visit this year, up from 8% and 22%, respectively, in 2019. While prior to the pandemic virtual visits were mostly for on-demand urgent care, that’s shifted to scheduled visits across all specialties.

Consumers now expect to use telehealth more often, and there’s also a growing demand for more virtual chronic and specialty care services.

In a year when to wear a mask or not might be a dating deal breaker, singles overall expressed a desire for relationships over casual dating, and for more meaningful conversations and transparency during dates.

Match also noted that the pandemic has introduced increased video dating – a new pre-date video screening stage – which has added to the courtship process. It’s helping singles save time and money by getting to know each other – leading to “kissing fewer frogs,” Match said. Of those singles who went on a video date during quarantine, 68% used video dating to determine whether they wanted to meet someone in real life.

More Paint Additionally, Amwell said for 59% of consumers who had a video visit during the pandemic, it was their first, and 91% of patients said they were “very” or “somewhat” satisfied with the visit. Consumers now expect to use telehealth more often, and there’s also a growing demand for more virtual chronic and specialty care services.

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Dutch Boy Paints released a survey in October of do-it-yourselfers’ fall home improvement plans, with results showing 84% planned to paint in the next six months, and most preferring “Earthy and Calm” colors for their projects, beating out ‘White and Clean’ and ‘Grey and Trendy,’ which were a near-tie for second place.

Deloitte said fresh food is more valued than ever, but that more than half of consumers feel stress when shopping in stores due to the pandemic.

And while price is has long been a primary driver in how much fresh food is bought, pandemic safety concerns have led to less frequent visits to stores. Safety now ranks alongside price as a top driver of whether to buy fresh.

The survey found that nearly two-thirds of consumers were unable to buy a fresh food item they wanted because it was out of stock during the pandemic. A positive trend: as shopping has moved online, more than two-thirds of consumers who drive innovation in the fresh food buying category now say they trust in-store shoppers to select the best quality fresh food items available – previously a barrier for shoppers in that category.

Saving Of nearly 1,100 surveyed from across the country, 84% plan to paint in the next six months. The top rooms they’re painting? Most said a bedroom or bathroom, followed by – in order – the kitchen, living room, and front door. It also noted that among those who plan to paint, 86% will tackle two or more spaces in their homes.

Many have taken action to increase what they can save during the pandemic. New research from Northwestern Mutual’s 2020 Planning & Progress Study released in October reveals that personal saving is up about 10 percent over 2019 – excluding funds specifically earmarked for retirement like a 401(k) or IRA.

Fresh Food Less commuting for many has meant more time to prepare fresh meals.

But retailers have room for improvement when it comes to understanding fresh food shopping micro-trends, says leading audit, consulting, tax and advisory service provider Deloitte in its The Future of Fresh: Patterns from the Pandemic survey released in October.

Nearly half of U.S. adults say they don’t have great clarity on exactly how much they can afford to spend now versus how much they should be saving for later.

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In fact, since hitting record peaks in April, the personal saving rate – the portion of monthly income households are saving – has hovered around 20%. Before the pandemic, the savings rate was about 7.5%.

Among a list of financial concerns, rising health care costs are the top worry, and nearly a third of U.S. adults say financial anxiety causes them to feel depressed at least once a month, and one fifth say it impacts their job performance. Nearly half of U.S. adults say they don’t have great clarity on exactly how much they can afford to spend now versus how much they should be saving for later, and about 20% of people say they plan their finances week-to-week or day-to-day.

How to cope with financial stress? Northwestern Mutual says that understanding your finances is one of the big keys to gaining control and taking action. A starting point: review spending habits to get a clear sense of your finances and to better manage spending behaviors.

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BY DENISE HEIDEL Brittany Freeman is a married mom of one who calls Kernersville home. With the support of her husband, Brian, and a plethora of family and friends, she launched Purple Feather Designs in January 2019. Her business is based on embracing her love for creativity and fashionable jewelry. Brittany’s “Memaw” inspired the name and much of the business’ overall message.

“My Memaw was my inspiration. She was a constant encouragement in my life. She passed away in October 2016, and almost a full year later, my daughter was born. “Memaw had given me a jewelry kit,” said Brittany. “One day, as I was looking through the kit and watching Joanna Gaines on TV, I thought, ‘I really love her jewelry!’ And I realized I could design my own. Once inspiration hit, and I began to mull ideas over in my mind, I realized how much I could do…. I loved the lightweight, leather look as well as the simplicity of the designs.

I began to put my own ideas together, and it started as something I did for family and friends. I began to play with different colors and layering looks.

My family and friends were so supportive, and eventually, I decided to start a website.”

The earrings are lightweight and certain to make people stop and ask the wearer, “Where did you get those earrings?”

“Well, they can get them at Mis Match Boutique in Kernersville or from a number of online retailers.”

Brittany shared, “Besides our third-party vendors, Purple Feather Designs are available on our website, as well as on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest. We have also launched the featured ‘Earring of the Month’ on our website! Fashionfans can make a monthly visit to see which featured earring is on sale.”

Brittany continued, “We started local, but we’ve branched out with orders coming as far away as Hawaii and Alaska! It’s so exciting for me that the legacy of my beloved grandmother lives on in my business; I’m grateful that what she inspired has been embraced by so many!”

“As the business began to take shape, I chose to name the business in honor of my grandmother— purple was her absolute favorite color, and feathers symbolize a heavenly message. She was such a positive ray of light, and the name of my business is meant to reflect that and honor her memory.”

With a wide range of collections that represent a variety of styles—there is something for everyone!

“Each collection on my website has a special meaning for me,” said Brittany. “While the business name honors Memaw, I’ve named each collection after a special girl/woman in my life—from my daughter and niece to my best friend (who is also my earring model!), and more! So my customers aren’t getting something mass-produced. They are getting a one-of-a-kind creation that is handmade with love in honor of someone near and dear to my heart.”

Each pair of earrings is handmade and can be custom-sized for the wearer. “I use vegan leather,” said Brittany, “which gives me loads of color and pattern options! And all my earrings are nickel-free and super affordable. My designs are meant to highlight the wearer’s natural beauty and help her express herself and her own individuality.”

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Working on Conversation and Listening Skills When Students Aren’t in School

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

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matter how you feel about the world’s current situation, it’s safe to admit one thing: we’re all lacking social connection.

Especially our students.

As an improv teacher and conversation coach, I know how skills can atrophy quickly when they aren’t being used. While we’re working on finding whatever the new normal is, here are a few fun improv-based activities that you can do with your students to keep their listening and conversation skills growing.

Play the Last Word

Have a student that likes to jump to answer the question before it’s even finished? Maybe they aren’t responding to the person before them, only reacting with emotion and without thoughtfulness.

Here’s an easy—and silly—game to stop that habit! Someone starts and says one sentence.

Then the next person goes, using the last word of the previous sentence as the first word of their response. For example: PERSON ONE: “I love nachos!”

PERSON TWO: “Nachos are fantastic.”

And so forth. Once you both have the hang of it, focus on the topic, so you don’t just listen for the last word. After that it becomes easy. Then try changing to using the last letter of the last word as your response’s first letter. For example: PERSON ONE: “Tacos are my favorite food.”

PERSON TWO: “Do you like cheese?”

PERSON ONE: “Everyone loves cheese!”

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What this activity focuses on is the time between someone speaking and someone responding. It gives time for thoughtfulness to occur in a response, over against an immediate reaction or desire to speak.

the student feels, you have to stick to a pattern of affirming what the other person said with a “YES,” and then adding your opinion with an “AND.” For example, if the discussion was about pineapple on pizza, it might start with:

Give a Mini “TED” Talk Got an idea worth spreading? Or a student with a hobby they love? Set up a mini TED stage—grab a round carpet or make a “stage” and deliver an impromptu talk. Remove the pressure from the actual TED stage and create a talk with 0-20 minutes of preparation.

Focus your student on being confident and inspiring—not on being perfect.

Make a mistake? Give a joyous yell of trying and keep going!

PERSON ONE: “ Pineapple on pizza is disgusting.”

Out of ideas? Think about things you can convince people to do—maybe it’s something like smiling more, drinking more water, or eating a few extra veggies. If you’d rather stick to “passions,” think hobbies: art, soccer, plants, or even the various varieties of sour candies? The sky is the limit on your TED stage! This activity plays with the idea of failure, confidence, perfection, and public speaking.

And so on. You’re not only focusing on active listening here—specifically, listening to understand, but also on having a conversation where you can hold other’s opinions in equal regard to yours. You want to avoid the word “but” that so often comes up in arguments—it will elevate your opinion and create an argument. A special note: when you say “YES,” you’re not agreeing with the other person! You’re affirming what they just said, and how they feel.

“Yes, And. . .” Conversations Start a conversation about something you have feelings about—and keep it light! Maybe: “Is cereal a soup?” or “Is a hot dog a sandwich?” No matter what

PERSON TWO: “ Yes, you think pineapple on pizza is disgusting, and I think the sweet complements the sauce.”

PERSON ONE: “ Yes, you think the sweet complements the sauce, and I think the pineapple makes the cheese weird.”

These are only a few fun activities to keep working on those social skills while waiting for the world to stop changing.

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diabetic world, comprising 34.2 million Americans, estimates that over one in ten people ring the alarm on this startling and unpublicized epidemic. Throughout November, calling attention to the condition provides an opportunity for anyone experiencing or witnessing life with diabetes to tell their stories, find others, and influence those with prediabetic conditions to seek answers!

What is Diabetes?

Blood glucose is an individual’s primary source of energy, which derives from consumed food.

As the pancreas serves to digest food, it also produces insulin to control levels within the blood. When the body cannot send signals from organ to organ, the result is a blood glucose storage, also known as blood sugar.

There are two distinct and different definitions of the two types: • Type 1 diabetes is an autoimmune disease, usually appearing during the first two decades of life. The immune system destroys cells which make insulin. As a result, the regulatory treatment, shots of insulin, helps to stabilize blood sugar levels. But exercising and other healthy lifestyle choices cannot “cure” type one diabetes.

• Type 2 diabetes is a metabolic disorder affecting the lives of over 30 million people.

While the body can produce insulin, it resists its use. Lifestyle changes, including a healthy diet and daily exercise, can improve the effects of the disease. Each person has a treatment, which may not include insulin.

Both types are severe and chronic conditions.

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Prediabetes

Family history leads to a possibility that the condition will pass from a parent to a child as early as one. Most people with higher than normal blood sugar levels and symptoms, such as darkened areas of skin, slow healing of cuts and wounds, an increase of thirst, excessive hunger, exhaustion, tingling sensations in the hands and feet, blurry vision, and frequent urination require a change of lifestyle. The onset can be gradual with mild conditions. According to the CDC, “…people with prediabetes often develop type two diabetes within five years if they do not get treatment.” Doctors of type two patients will suggest a pathway to better health, including a list of healthy foods and ways to integrate physical exercise into a daily routine. Submitting to healthy lifestyle changes can lead to normal blood sugar levels.

Living with Diabetes

No one wants to yield to the possibility that they might be living with a life-changing disease. Time passes, and the symptoms and pain continue. Admitting is half the battle; the treatment can offer relief, improved health, and a keen understanding from a diagnosis.

“I initially thought I couldn’t do certain things because of my ‘disability,’” shares Jenna Williams, who was labeled type two at age 57. “My label has brought a lot of wonderful things to my life. I learned the hard way not to take any shortcuts when it comes to my health. Through my family’s support, we all eat healthy foods and walk together. I met many great friends through lifting weights and yoga classes. I didn’t like the idea of taking medicine, but it’s helped me do the things I want to do!”

“There’s no secret to managing diabetes,” writes Anthony Anderson. “It takes commitment and resolve every day. Please don’t wait! I’ve learned that you’re either managing it or hurting yourself. That’s just how it works.

Find your motivation and run with it—focus on all the things that drive you. Change what you eat and stay consistent by being active. Medicine may be daunting, but it gets so much easier over time. It all turns into a habit and is worth it!”

This month, connect with family and friends who live with diabetes and hear their stories. In awareness, we submit to questions and discover what medical issues may make a positive change to our lives. Keep learning, listening, and finding answers!

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It’s Great To Be Back In School The COVID-19 pandemic has resulted in at least one positive thing: a much greater appreciation for the importance of in-person education.

At St. John’s Lutheran School on Silas Creek Parkway in Winston-Salem, its small class sizes, strict adherence to COVID-19 protocols, and a safenurturing Christian Environment has recaptured the value of face-to-face learning for many Pre-K thru 5th graders in the area.

St. John’s new principal, Nathan Kottlowski,

affectionately known as “Mr. K.,” jumped feet-first into his new position in July. There was no question he had his work cut out for himself in preparing for the new school year. He didn’t know when he started if children would need to learn remotely, or if they were going to come to the school. When Governor Cooper announced how schools would need to operate in NATHAN KOTTLOWSKI, Phase 2, Mr. K. began a series of Principal long days and weeks of getting the school ready for teachers and students to meet in-person.

“I am incredibly blessed and honored to be in the position I’m in here at St. John’s. I knew coming into it, there would be challenges, but with my faith and the incredible support our teachers and office staff, we were ready for the kids, and it’s great to have them here,” Mr. K said.

Mr. K., a name he acquired in his 32 years of public and private school education, is enjoying a second career, of sorts. He taught for many years within the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County school system, and after receiving his Master’s Degree in Education Leadership and School Administration, he leaped at the opportunity to return to St. John’s, where his career in education began.

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But being able to be together in a class is showing its advantages.

“Kids are resilient, and it didn’t take long for them to adapt to what is now just a normal school day,” Mr. K. said. “And with our small class sizes, they are getting invaluable support from our incredible teachers.”

While it is still out of the question to play on the playground at recess and have weekly chapel with the whole school, the students and teachers have simply adapted. Chapel is now virtual and teachers have learned creative ways to keep their classes as active as possible in the confines of the classroom. Everyone understands the importance of social distancing.

Regardless of the circumstances, St. John’s mission to Develop Minds, Serve Communities, and Grow in Faith is as strong as ever.

Community service projects are instrumental at every grade level, and while students are not actively going out into the community to serve, they are still learning the importance of giving back. ”We’re encouraging students to think outside of the walls of their homes and school,” said Tom Baldwin, Director of Admissions. “Being Christfocused, we use community service opportunities to help our kids understand that we’re all here to serve a higher purpose, which includes serving others, being good stewards of the earth and its resources, and working in groups to achieve a common goal.”

St. John’s is incredibly affordable. Classes are filling

up but there are still spaces left in some grades. To review the tuition at St. Johns go to StJohnsFalcons.org/tuition and discover how affordable it is. And if a student comes into the school now, their tuition will be pro-rated. “Even at that low price, we know tuition may still be out of reach for some people,”Baldwin said.“But there are grants and scholarships available, like the Opportunity Scholarship through the state.”

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Gifts of the Disabled Mind:

DEPRESSION

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health has always been a prevailing issue among human beings. With 2020 being such an eventful year for many reasons—a pandemic, racial injustice resulting in further violence, and economic crises—depression rates are rising. As of this year, 322 million people are suffering from depression worldwide, according to the World Health Organization. Women are twice as likely to suffer from depression as men.

Although depression is difficult to deal with and can become severe, many beautiful, practical gifts, abilities, creations, and characteristics come out of it.

“Life is meaningful” Those who are hit with depression and experience a deeper side of it become highly aware of the beauty of the world, of life. Because they have had to live life in such a heavy state of mind, they have a strong inclination towards seeking as much peace and beauty as the world has to offer. They believe that they have seen the cruel aspects of life, the world, and people, so they naturally try to balance it out by seeking out the positive aesthetics of it all as a way of healing. These individuals seem to be drawn to nature, meditation, peaceful music, and, many times, the arts (and may even have a knack for creating art!). They become more nuanced in how they view life and people. Because their mental health causes them to perceive the worst in things—which makes their life experiences more difficult—they come out of their depressive state wanting to seek the meaning of life.

Obsessiveness Emily Dickinson, still a popular poet today, dealt with severe depression and stayed obsessed with the topic of death all her life.

Such a dark theme drenched her poetic works and made her legendary. Marie Curie, another clinically depressed, but intellectually superior woman, constantly busied herself in her scientific studies, which made her a pioneer of X-ray radiation! How does this happen while such a dark cloud hovers over them? One famous by-product of depression is obsessiveness—keeping obsessive thoughts and obsessive actions at bay (especially when the person also deals with anxiety). It is a known fact that depressed individuals—especially those

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with a higher IQ—attempt to escape their depression by searching deeply within their own craft. A depressed creative person is fueled by their intense obsession with a particular idea or thing. For instance, a writer or a visual artist with depression may slip into prolonged periods of intensive work. They may write for six hours or more, or spend the entire day painting a self-portrait that captures whatever story they want to tell. However, there’s also the chance of obsessive and self-defeating procrastination before engaging in a project, or the hindering fear that one’s work may not be as great as expected. But these same obsessive thoughts can be what leads one to greatness. It’s all in how they respond to them.

Healthy perfectionism Perfectionism is another trait that stems from depression. People with depression tend to develop a fear of failure, rejection, or embarrassment, mainly because of their past experiences of not measuring up, or having been excessively praised for previous work.

Thus, perfectionism rises to the surface.

Nevertheless, being a perfectionist can be quite practical!

Depressed individuals have a strong sense of realism from life experience. Although they don’t like reality, they are acquainted with it very well. Those who are skilled at working around their depression know how to set realistic expectations, which are easier to meet, and they will go to great lengths to reduce the chances of failure.

Creativity Singers Adele, Billie Eilish, and Demi Lovato all share one thing: they have all suffered depression. But they’re all known for their amazing lyrics! Depressed individuals—especially those with artistic inclinations—find creative outlets during their episodes of depression.

Creativity is normally sparked by a strong emotion or inspiration, whether positive

or negative. Some of the world’s greatest works of art came from those who suffered from depression.

Empathy Depression gives its victims stronger empathy. Because they feel so deeply, this helps them better identify with the human condition, experiencing others’ emotions as their own, and learning to see things from all angles. This empathy affects their works, whether they be novels, filmmaking, or even journalism.

Perhaps there is a reason you’re going through this season. Depression is a serious matter, but one can learn how to thrive, despite it all!

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BY TABI FALCONE

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the holiday season is a wonderful time to spend with family, it can also be incredibly stressful. Between having to schlep across states with young kids, putting up with your mother-in-law’s comments about your decorating skill, or the monumental task of having to cater to multiple dietary needs and preferences for a large meal, it can be a recipe for disaster. Even in normal times, this can be incredibly stressful—but add in a pandemic and stress can be pouring out of your ears.

Something that everybody can agree with is that the act of traveling (as in physically moving from your house to your destination) can be varying stages of a hassle. Especially if you have children and are visiting family members who live far enough away that it’s more than a few hours’ drive, having to add this on top of your already existing holiday prep can be overwhelming. After spending hours packing all the necessary goods for your holiday (and if this is for Christmas—the presents!), and then hours in the car with your family, you then need to acclimate to a new setting with a disrupted routine.

While the refrain, often repeated, is that children thrive best on routine—let’s be honest. We ALL do well when we stick to a regular routine, especially now during a

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time when nothing seems to be within our control. In uncertain times such as now, it’s so important to cling to the things that we can control, and when adding extra stressors isn’t the best option.

So here’s the hard part: telling our extended families that we simply cannot travel for the holidays in 2020. If you have family members who are in highrisk categories, this may be easier than you realize, as they may be thinking of a way to tell you that they can’t risk any additional exposure. If you have high-risk family or not, the best course of action is always tactful honesty.

What do I mean by tactful honesty? Let’s be honest here (if you don’t mind the word-play): honesty can sometimes be a little harsh. We don’t always want to hear the full truth on the receiving end, and we certainly don’t want to hurt any feelings on the giving end—which is where the concept of “white lies” came about. There’s a happy medium, however, with being honest, but using tact instead of brutal honesty. An example would be: instead of telling your parents that you aren’t going to visit them because the thought of being stuck in the house with them for a week while they override your parenting and drive you nuts—you tell them that to keep consistency with

the kids and maintain your family rhythm, you’ve decided to stay put.

Okay, so we have handled not having to visit any relatives—what if they chose to take this as an invitation to come to you for Thanksgiving? There are three ways to approach this. First step would be if you are okay with limited visitors to take charge of the situation, and say, “Yes, we would love to have you and can host on these exact dates, hope those exact dates work for you!” This way, you can still control how long the visit is and avoid them overstaying. The second option here would be to say you would love to have them, but that it’s really important to keep the kids’ routines, so you would be happy to help them find a hotel or local Airbnb that would accommodate them during that time.

The last option is to revert right back to that tactful honesty. Explain kindly that right now, you are just not able to accept visitors (you can always use “out of state” as an excuse if you are able and willing to), but look forward to a scheduled Zoom date on the holiday in question.

Most importantly, remember that it is OKAY and perfectly normal to need to set boundaries around the holidays for your own mental health.

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Lemierre’s Syndrome:

What You Need to Know about the Disease You’ve Never Heard of

BY DEBBIE BARR with her neck beginning to swell, Meredith anxiously sought help at the walk-in clinic at her doctor’s office. Her primary care doctor took one look at her neck and knew right away that Meredith was in trouble. She had no idea what might be wrong, however.

Immediately, she sent Meredith to the emergency department at a small nearby hospital for an ultrasound of her neck.

Most

people have never heard of Lemierre’s Syndrome (LS). Most physicians have never seen, and never will see, even one case. If you’re a parent, however, you need to know about this rare, potentially fatal disease that mostly affects otherwise healthy teens and young adults, usually between the ages of 15 and 30. Even though LS is caused by bacteria that most of us carry, the disease is so rare that it’s often misdiagnosed or diagnosed too late.

That’s why knowing the signs of LS might allow you to recognize it in time to save the life of a young person—maybe even your own child.

In 2015, a 30-year-old Winston-Salem woman, Meredith Bullard, contracted LS. She credits her “rock star PCP” and the outstanding medical sleuthing of others with saving her life. This is her story.

Meredith and her husband, David, were ecstatic. After two years of disappointment and failed fertility treatments, Meredith had finally conceived, thanks to in-vitro fertilization. Now, on December 7th, 2015, through the miracle of ultrasound, they were hearing their baby’s heartbeat for the first time. At this moment, exactly seven weeks and six days into their long-awaited pregnancy, life seemed deliciously sweet.

So sweet, in fact, that Meredith paid little attention to the nagging pain in her neck that made it hard for her to turn toward the ultrasound screen.

As the day wore on, the pain got worse, and by evening, it was constant. After a miserable, sleepless night, Meredith’s “pain in the neck” was now excruciating. Enduring the worst pain she had ever known, and

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The ultrasound results were both concerning and puzzling. Meredith recalls, “The look on the technician’s face is one I'll never forget.” She was hurried on to the emergency department at a larger hospital for an MRI. The results were “code critical” and the news could hardly have been worse: there was a massive infection within a blood clot in Meredith’s right internal jugular vein, and the bacteria had already invaded her lungs, causing pneumonia.

For the next eight days, lying in her hospital bed, Meredith expected to die. Enduring what she describes as “the worst pain in the world,” she initially refused potent pain medications in order to protect the baby she and David had worked so hard to conceive. Her condition was a medical mystery. Nothing added up; nothing made sense. But finally, an emergency room doctor and a radiologist put the puzzle pieces together: Meredith had Lemierre’s Syndrome.

“I was so worried about losing the baby,” Meredith recalls.”

“I must have asked them for ultrasounds at least once every other day to check on

her. I had a team of about a dozen doctors and countless residents. I had a PICC line, IV antibiotics, blood thinners, you name it.

All but two who saw me had never heard of Lemierre’s. I remember asking when I could Jazzercise again, to which the nurse replied, ‘Baby, you’re really sick.’”

In LS, the lymph nodes in the neck become infected and blood clots form in the large neck veins. The clots break apart, carrying infection throughout the body. In the era before antibiotics, 90% of those with LS died from it. Even with today’s IV antibiotics and anticoagulant therapies, for 4 to18%, LS is still fatal. Meredith literally owes her life to the quick thinking of her primary care doctor and the ER physician and radiologist who solved the mystery. She later learned that if she had gone home after her visit to the walk-in clinic, she would probably have died that night.

Meredith's ordeal made medical history: hers was the first case report of LS in a pregnant patient following in- vitro fertilization (IVF).* After 6 weeks of IV therapy, a month of home health care, and a very carefully monitored pregnancy, Meredith was prepared when the birth-day finally arrived. But LS had one more scary moment in store for Meredith. “I knew in my gut something was wrong,” she said, “because I had arm pain. And sure enough, I had developed another clot during labor.”

Despite the clot, which meant an extra day in the hospital, the new parents celebrated the birth of their healthy baby girl, Julia.

Fast forward to 2020, both Mom and Julia, now four years old, are doing great!

Ten Facts about LS that Parents Should Know

1. Although LS is very rare, cases have been on the rise in the past decade.

2. LS usually occurs after a sore throat or tonsillitis, but sometimes it follows a sinus infection, dental infection, or ear infection.

3. First symptoms typically include pain on one side of the neck, severe sore-throat, fever, and neck swelling. Symptoms may worsen to include difficulty swallowing, chest pain, joint pain, or coughing up blood.

4. Because LS is so rare, it may be misdiagnosed as mononucleosis, flu, strep throat, pneumonia, or a viral upper respiratory infection.

5. Untreated LS can cause kidney failure, brain abscess, infected joints, meningitis, the collection of pus between the lungs and the chest wall, or other problems related to infection.

6. LS is most often caused by the Fusobacterium necrophorum bacterium. Other bacterial culprits include streptococci and staphylococci.

7. The main treatment for LS is intravenous (IV) antibiotics. Other treatments may include blood thinners or surgery to drain pus.

8. LS most often occurs at the end of winter or the beginning of spring.

9. If you suspect LS, you must act quickly. Have your child evaluated for this rare, but very serious disease.

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A Change of Direction

BY DENISE HEIDEL

I read a new Bible every year, and my new year starts over in August. Which is weird, I know. My inner-OCD really wants my annual start-over to fall on January 1. However, after years of unsuccessful New Year’s resolutions to read the Bible in a year, I realized that there’s no time like the present to read God’s Word.

August, it was. August, it is.

more in-depth complexities of God’s Holy Word. Now, I’m reading the Bible in tandem with the Believer’s Bible Commentary, as well as researching the word nuances in far more depth. It’s study time like I haven’t had since….well, I was going to say college, but the better word is “ever.” I’ve never studied this hard in my life.

This year, with a new Bible and new translation, came another change. A big one.

I stopped writing My Grace-Full Life as a daily blog. That first week was so strange; it felt weird not to write every morning because I’d been doing it for so long. I started the blog in November 2016 (happy blogiversary to me this month!), and started writing daily prayer prompts in March 2017. It was a 30day challenge that came and went, but the daily writing continued for 1264 straight days.

Now, I am only writing once a week—a blog on Fridays.

Because here’s the thing—the Bible was never meant to be a one-and-done kind of book.

There is so much depth to it. In Joshua 1:8, we are told to meditate on the Word of God both day and night. And Jesus Himself said, “It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life” (John 6:63 NKJV).

These are words that have been alive and active for over 2000 years! The words that the writer of Hebrews described as “a living, twoedged sword” (Hebrews 4:12).

It was a hard decision. But the right one. I prayed about the decision for months before it was made. I was so worried that others would think the reason for my decision was selfish—because the truth was—I quit daily writing because I needed to invest more in my own personal Bible study. I couldn’t do it all, and I needed more from my morning quiet time.

The more we read of God’s Word, the more we will crave it. The more we seek His will, the more we will be in tune and aligned with it. And for me, that wasn’t going to happen by simply reading Bible verses. I needed to get in there and do a purposeful, deeper-dive study that would challenge me, stretch me, and grow me. It’s a consuming hunger that is only satisfied with the Bread of Life and the Living Waters of Christ.

For over three years, I’ve been up and at ’em around 5:30, so I could read the Bible, write in my journal, and then—write My Grace-Full Life and have it published by 8 AM, so my MailChimp subscription could get the blog out to those who subscribe to the e-mail version. But that’s all I was doing—reading the Bible. Some may think I’m splitting hairs, but honestly—the difference has been staggering. I was struggling for months because I craved more. I wanted more time in the Word, and I wanted to get beyond the words on the page to understand the

So, I tell you all this to challenge you, too.

Get beyond the surface. Let God’s Word speak to you. It’s November, and we’re bringing 2020 to a close. There’s no time like the present. You don’t have to wait for a new year. As someone wiser than me wrote about this year, “20/20 is considered perfect vision.

Maybe God is using 2020 for us to see clearly He’s in charge and the only One who can help us!” So get into the word and let Him offer you a more perfect understanding of who He is and how much you need Him.

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MINUTE for your Minister Honey for the Soul Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Are you using your tongue and words for praise or criticism of your spiritual leaders?

Proverbs 16:24 tells us, “Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

But more often than not, the reality is we are quick to complain. “I really don’t like… dot, dot, dot (you can fill in the blank) … how long the sermon went, how loud the music was, the color of the new carpet, or even where the parking attendant directed you!

We all have our lists!

Why is it that negative comments and criticism can so easily pour from our lips, while well-deserved positive feedback is so often withheld?

How about pouring some HONEY into your pastor’s soul today! Did something in the sermon stick out to you? Was this week’s worship especially powerful? Did your kids come home with a smile- excited about a new truth they learned in their Bible story?

Celebrate these moments and encourage your pastors with good news -even when you think it’s something small.

Kind words do not cost you anything, and you may forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them for a lifetime.

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Journeying with

Jesus

BY PASTOR RON GARNER

Truth vs. Politcians When

I was a child, my mom washed my mouth out with Dial soap.

Let me tell you, I don’t recommend it. At least on the receiving end. It wasn’t the brand either. I don’t think Dove would have been an improvement.

It wasn’t for cursing. The typical old school punishment at the time. This time it was for lying. Yes, it happened more than once! I am a slow learner. You see, my mom loathed lies. She still does. And God is right there with her on this. In fact, not lying is the 9th of the 10 Commandments, depending on how you count them. Sure, it uses more legal language (“Don’t bear false witness”), but when you get down to it, it’s one and the same. If that is not convincing enough, the author of Proverbs writes, “There are six things that God hates...a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood...” Proverbs 6:16-17. You will have to read the rest of the passage to get the other four. I don’t know about you, but knowing what God hates seems more than mildly important.

But notice, lying comes before murder in that list.

So why do my mom and God have such strong feelings against dishonesty? It comes down to relationship. God yearns for us to be in a healthy relationship with Him and in healthy relationships with each other. And He knows that if we spew falsehoods, it will

poison either or both. Lying might keep marriage counselors and divorce attorneys in business, but it is the true intimacy killer.

A single lie can dismantle a lifetime of hardearned trust. So why do we do it?

I think in the case of my “Dial mouthwash” as a kid, I lied to get out of trouble. One of the two biggest reasons we fabricate falsehoods. Unfortunately, we do this way beyond childhood. And we often mislead in order to adjust someone’s perception of us, either to make us look better, or sometimes not to look as bad. Like, “I rarely drink too much,” knowing good and well that we drink to excess every weekend. Although, this might be a case where we are deceiving ourselves, which might be the most toxic lie of them all.

I believe at some level, even if we don’t follow Jesus, we know lying is wrong, if nothing else, because of the harm it causes.

So, why then do we give politicians an easy pass when it comes to dishonesty? We make jokes about it like the overplayed “How can you tell a politician is lying? His lips are moving.” We almost expect politicians to lie, as if this should be the chief skillset in their vocation. In no other profession, are we so quick to look the other way. Imagine if we moved to a new city and asked our neighbor if they could recommend a family physician. They reply, “Dr. Johnson is great

at diagnosing, but she can’t tell the truth to save her life...or yours for that matter.” (chuckle, chuckle.) I think we would look elsewhere. The same is true for a mechanic, a plumber, or for me, a pastor. We prize honesty in almost all professions, but turn a blind eye to our politicians.

So what am I suggesting? No, not a Dial dental scrub, as tempting at that may be.

But stop voting in the worst offenders. Even if they are your preferred party. I realize almost all of them do it, but some have a special affinity to abuse the truth. These are the ones that must go.

What our country needs more than ever are men and women who can speak the truth, even when it’s not in their political favor to do so. As our representatives, they have a unique relationship with us and govern in our name. When they habitually lie, that relationship is fractured in ways similar to that of a husband and a wife. But instead of leading to divorce, their continuous lying divides us as a people and damages our nation. So, instead of a bar of soap, grab a ballot! South Florida, there were two rival friend groups living in my neighborhood. If you were in one, you were the sworn enemy of the other. So, instead of a bar of soap, grab a ballot!

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Enthralling Educational PODCASTS for Kids

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Listening

to children’s programming started in the Golden Radio Era in the 1930s and continued well past the arrival of television. Kids ran home from school, eager to turn the dial and wait for the words, “It’s Howdy Doody Time! The thrill in listening to the Adventures of Little Orphan Annie, science fiction themes, such as Flash Gordon, and situational comedians like Amos and Andy. Any genre was possible, from westerns to comic book heroes, from family story hour to heroic dogs’ stories. Edge-of-your-seat entertaining maintains its popularity in the 21st century. Kids are still tuning in, engaged, and finding short, nonvisual shows entertaining and educational. Best of all—children are unknowingly practicing the skill of listening!

PODCAST PORTALS Accessing podcasts has numerous options for students.

With parental help and approval, kids can create free accounts through Spotify, Stitcher, Kids Listen, iHeartRadio, and Tune-in. Listening without interruptions may be a challenge, unless parents are willing to commit to a onetime cost or monthly fee.

Here are 20 podcasts that your child may enjoy!

• Stories Podcast: A Bedtime Story, available for free on Stitcher and iTunes Started on June 21st, 2020, “Stories” provides an original, 10 to 20-minute weekly story appropriate for all age levels. It features the retelling of classics, folktales, and international myths. Unfortunately, most podcasts begin with the introduction of a sponsor.

• The Tiny Potters: A Kid Led Harry Potter Podcast, available for free on Kids Listen Two brothers, Anderson and Addison, sought to begin a kid-themed podcast discussing the seven-book series Harry Potter. Ranging from 10 to 22 minutes, listeners, across 14 episodes, can develop new or familiar interest in minor characters, from Professor Albus Dumbledore to Hagrid’s dragon, Norbert, to magical objects, such as the sorting hat and the mirror of Erised. Afterward, listeners may start reading the series!

• The Music Box, available on Kids Listen and iHeartRadio Young music lovers will enjoy engaging in an interactive musical podcast.

Topics include classical composers, musical terms, instrumental families, and creating homemade instruments. For the past three years, each season provided ten episodes lasting approximately 15 minutes each.

• What If World, available on Stitcher Kids who ask wacky questions such as “What if a tiny dragon lived in my closet” or “What if trees went to school?” receive answers as stories.

Husband and wife team Eric and Karen O’Keeffe developed over 172 episodes ranging from 9 to 22 minutes in this popular, hilarious podcast!

• The Show about Science, available on Kids Listen Kids who love the “wondrous world of scientific research and discovery” can join Nate and his professional guests to explore curious topics about science, such as Asian carp, nanotechnology, and planetary geology. Across four years, Nate, now nine, has 82 episodes, and features science experiments on YouTube.

• Story Pirates, available on iHeartRadio iHeartRadio awarded Story Pirates as this year’s best kids and family podcast! Among the top-three favorites, the show features songs and sketches written by children. Special guests include notable names, such as Julie Andrews (Mary Poppins) and Kristen Bell (Frozen). Children can access www.storypirates.com to listen to the show, receive activities, and submit original stories.

• The Story Seeds, available on Spotify, Stitcher, Kids Listen, iHeartRadio, and more.

In February 2020, the idea was implemented to create original stories combining authors with a young writer ranging in age from six years old to 12. Each episode, ranging from 20 to 40 minutes, features the brainstorming process of writing and ends with reading.

A follow-up podcast features a 20 to 40-minute interview with every featured writer to promote books and learn more about the creative writing process.

• The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd, available on Stitcher Since November 2004, the world’s most brilliant scientist, Dr. Floyd, has offered children a perspective of people and events that shaped the world’s history. Titles include “Annie, are You Oakley?” and “All’s Wells That Ends Welles.”

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For ten minutes to an hour, thousands of podcasts are available to bring back the Golden Era of Radio. Whether she or he is holding an iPhone, Kindle, or laptop, there’s an enthralling show or story waiting to be heard! Press play!

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Out & About

BY HEATHER SPIVEY

with Carlina Classic Fair in Winston-Salem

As

we continue to live in unique times due to the pandemic, people are trying to reinvent their lives and activities to fit the new parameters of our way of living. The newly named Carolina Classic Fair had to do just that.

It wouldn’t seem like fall without local fairs and, as time went by, fairs were being canceled everywhere. States were opening up in phases which meant there was an opportunity to get creative to bring some of the fair season to the community and fairgoers.

This year was even more important to do that since it was the debut of the newly named Carolina Classic Fair.

The staff got to work, along with the steering committees to figure out how to make drive-thru food successful while incorporating aspects of the fair that would include their partners. Virtual entertainment and entries, a drive-thru ride, a drive-thru game, canned food drives and onsite music while you wait in your car were some ideas that were

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tossed around and developed. The most exciting one was the partnership with the onsite drive-in movie theatre that featured eight movies for family and friends to park and relax in the comfort of their vehicles. Of course, we can’t forget a favorite fair tradition; fireworks that concluded each night of the fair.

Guests still got to enjoy mouthwatering, fair favorites like: Sirloin Tips McBrides Concessions – candy apples, cotton candy, ribbon fries, corn dogs, fresh lemonade Chesters – gators and tators, fried gator/bacon mac & cheese Shuckers – roasted corn, hickory tree turkey BBQ - turkey legs/crack and cheese, pork chop sandwiches, Italian and Polish sausages, funnel cakes, elephant ears, fried pie and tropical fresh fruit smoothies.

“The Carolina Classic Fair’s COVID-19-

driven alternative, the drive-thru, drew more than 10,000 visitors during its four-day run and provided a welcome boost to the Salvation Army and Crisis Control Ministries heading into the holidays.

In all, more than 11,400 people attended the drive-thru,” said Cheryle Hartley, the fair director. “They purchased more than $160,000 worth of food, drinks and merchandise, contributed $2,175 in loose change to kick off the Salvation Army’s holiday kettle campaign and donated 6,475 pounds of canned food to stock the Crisis Control Ministry food pantry.

We were excited at the community response to the drive-thru and happy to see the support that the attendees gave to the charities that partnered with us.”

The drive-thru success spilled over to The Drive, the drive-in movie venue operating on the fairgrounds midway.

Two of the eight films shown during the four days of the drive-thru – “The

Notebook” on October 2nd and “Moana” on October 3rd sold out.

Those showings coincided with the evenings that offered a fireworks show.

Robert Mulhearn, fairgrounds facility manager said, “One particularly unique aspect was the fireworks, and movies were the icing on the cake, seeing hundreds of cars and families enjoy the fireworks is what it was all about.

Overall, it was very successful. We tried some new things, and we expect other fairs across the country to model what the Carolina Classic Fair presented with the drive-thru.”

The Carolina Classic Fair would like to recognize and thank their full-time staff who were dedicated and worked hard throughout the four-day event. They also partnered with Crosby Scholars who provided volunteers to run food to the vehicles. Other sponsors of the Carolina Classic Fair included Crisis Control Ministry, WBFJ, Entercom Radio, Truist Bank, 1 800 RatPack and Forsyth Farm Bureau.

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THE

Fancy Fork

SAUSAGE & THYME CHICKEN ROAST WITH PEARS

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Welcome

to “The Fancy Fork!” Your hub for seasonal produce insight and farmstyle recipes that are made to satisfy.

The featured seasonal produce for November is sweet pears, with the most beloved being the pale green Bartlett pear and the vibrantly red Anjou pears. You may notice that you rarely get an upset stomach when eating pears and that’s because they have low acid levels, making them very gentle on sensitive digestive systems. In fact, with an extensive history dating back to about 1000 B.C., did you know the ancient Greeks used sweet pears as a remedy against nausea? Originally noted as “butter fruit” for their appealing soft and butterlike texture.

However, the real question is, how are sweet pears beneficial for your health? These bellshaped delicacies not only make beautifully delicious tarts but are also highly nutritious.

With an average of 100 calories each, they are a rich source of potassium, copper, fiber, and Vitamin C. Providing both soluble and insoluble fiber, pears help promote healthy gut bacteria to get your digestive tract smooth-flowing. With immense antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties, they’ve been linked to reducing the risk of certain illnesses, such as type 2 diabetes and heart disease.

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Servings: 4 INGREDIENTS: 2 chicken breasts, about 1 lb. to 1½ lbs.

2 Italian pork sausages or cajun andouille sausages 4 figs, quartered 2 pears, quartered 1 Tbsp. fresh thyme leaves 1 Tbsp. maple syrup 1 Tbsp. extra virgin olive oil 2 tsp. dried Italian herb seasoning ½ tsp. salt ½ tsp. black pepper INSTRUCTIONS: Preheat oven to 450F. Line a 9 x 13" baking dish with parchment paper.

In the prepared pan, add the chicken breasts and sausages in a single layer. Surround the meat with the sliced pears and figs, trying to keep all ingredients to a single layer.

In a small bowl, whisk together the maple syrup and extra virgin olive oil. Generously brush the mixture onto each chicken breast, then lightly drizzle the remaining maple syrup mixture over the sliced winter fruits.

In a separate bowl, mix together the salt, black pepper, and dried Italian herb seasoning. Evenly pat each chicken breast with half of the seasoning mix.

Bake for 15-18 minutes, or until chicken is fully cooked, at 165F. Remove from the oven, then loosely tent the baking dish with aluminum foil for 8-10 minutes.

FOR SERVING: After the cooling period, slice the chicken breasts and sausages.

Transfer all the ingredients to a serving plate, then garnish with the fresh thyme leaves.

Serve immediately.

Now that you've mastered the art of cooking with seasonal pears, it's time to grab your fork and enjoy the warmth of Autumn season delights!

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Darn It, I’m So Thankful!

BY LAURA SIMON, BLOGGER WITH TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN

On

my first Thanksgiving as a wife, I decided to throw open the doors of my 900-square-foot house and make dinner for both sides of our newly-connected family. That I had never actually prepared a turkey mattered not at all: HGTV and Food Network had me convinced that this was totally feasible. And totally a good idea.

My Mom offered recipes and advice, but I opted for a turkey recipe I’d found in a cooking magazine, because nothing says “Thanksgiving Surprise” like an untested recipe. And when my Mother-in-law offered to bring a dish, I told her not to bother.

A master chef doesn’t need help in the kitchen. I had brand-new china, a floral centerpiece, and candles. I was good to go.

My mistake was the frozen turkey. I’m always just a little bit behind, and I can’t promise that I popped it into the fridge quite as early as I should have.

Consequently, when the cooking guide said the turkey should be done…it wasn’t.

Not even close. The meat on the inside of the bird had salmonella written all over it.

All the side dishes were piping hot and ready to go, so I plopped the turkey back into the oven and had an epic breakdown right there in my tiny kitchen, with my horrified brand-new in-laws looking on. All I could think about was how Thanksgiving 2005 was going to go down in history as the year the potatoes were cold.

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my turkey, and at that point, the mashed potatoes were positively frigid.

Ultimately, my dad talked me down off the ledge (actually, out of the fetal position on the floor), and we wound up cutting the cooked meat off the outside of the bird and microwaving the rest. I can’t recommend this strategy to anyone I consider a friend, but there were two Thanksgiving miracles that day: the meat that did get cooked actually tasted pretty good, and no one wound up in the hospital with food poisoning. I should have been thankful, but I was mostly sulky, embarrassed, and angry that things didn’t go just right.

The lesson I should have learned that day has taken me another decade—and three children—to begin to grasp: sometimes (always), I need to maintain realistic expectations and focus on what really matters. I tend to resemble Chevy Chase in Christmas Vacation: I build things up in my mind until I create expectations no family could ever live up to. Those expectations are not limited to Thanksgiving dinner, but they do steal my gratitude and my joy.

And so, I’ve learned to cook something simple and unpretentious—and something I’ve made before—when I’m having people over. That way, I can give my attention to my friends and not a three-course meal.

And if you come over for a playdate, my living room will look less like Pottery Barn and more like Toys R Us the evening after Black Friday. Now, when I clean for

company, I settle for “good enough” over spotless any day. My twenty-year-old self would be so disappointed. If I define my success by my expectations, I’m a complete mess.

But darn it, I’m so thankful! I’m thankful for the babies I was able to carry and deliver, who spill milk on my furniture and smear Nutella on my floor. I’m thankful for my constant fatigue and the general chaos that defines our house. I don’t like it, but I’m even thankful for the bickering and the incessant wrestling, because it means my kids have siblings to do life with, whether they want them or not. This little family, partially clothed, picky eaters that they are, is the single greatest gift I have ever been given, and I do not take that lightly. Slowly but surely, I’m learning that something doesn’t have to be perfect to be oh, so good.

This Thanksgiving, I’m in charge of the turkey again. And this time, I did the right thing: I ordered a smoked turkey that I don’t even have to cook. It just showed up on my doorstep, courtesy of UPS, bless its heart. Instead of slaving over a ten-pound bird, you’ll find me making the things I do well (you know, pumpkin pie) and hopefully, sprawled out on the couch watching football with my kids. On this day devoted to gratitude, I am choosing to be thankful for the gift that is motherhood – and all the imperfections that come with it.

I hope each and every one of you finds a way to do the same.

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St. Patrick’s Day Treats

BY KRISTI JOHNSON MARION & EMILY DODSON

Let the kids help whip up this delicious no-bake Pumpkin Spice Lush that’s yummy enough to make all fall season long. The cornucopias, also called “horns of plenty,” make a wonderful display for the Thanksgiving table that the kids will be proud of, and they will keep the kids busy while you prep the rest of the dinner! After the big turkey day is over, we often find the leftovers runneth over! Put those leftovers to good use in these Thanksgiving Eggrolls, using either mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes or even sweet potato casserole.

POST-THANKSGIVING EGG ROLLS INGREDIENTS: 1 cup Turkey 1 cup Cranberry sauce 1 cup Sweet Potatoes or Mashed potatoes 1 cup Stuffing 1/3 cup Gravy 6 Eggroll wrappers DIRECTIONS: 1. Place an egg roll wrapper on a clean surface in a diamond-shape. Spread a thin layer of cranberry sauce over it.

Then add a couple of tablespoons of sweet potatoes, then stuffing, and then a slice of turkey.

2. Fold up the bottom half of the wrapper and then tightly fold in the sides and gently roll the wrapper up, sealing the corner with a few drops of water.

Repeat with remaining leftovers.

3. In a large skillet on medium heat, Heat the oil to a bubble. Add eggrolls and fry until golden, about 1 minute per side. Transfer to paper towel-lined plate to cool slightly.

4. Serve with warm gravy as dip for the eggrolls.

NO-BAKE PUMPKIN SPICE LUSH

FRUIT CORNUCOPIAS

INGREDIENTS: 2 (11.3 oz.) packages Pecan Sandies Cookies 2 sticks Butter, melted 2 (3.4 oz.) boxes Pumpkin Spice Instant Pudding Mix 2 cups 2% Milk 4 tsp. Pumpkin Pie Spice 2 (16 oz.) containers Whipped Topping, thawed 1 cup Peca, chopped INGREDIENTS: 8 Waffle cones 1 Apple, sliced 4 Mandarin Oranges, peeled and segmented 1 cup green seedless Grapes 1 cup Blueberries DIRECTIONS: 1. Let the kids fill the cones with their favorite fruits while you prep Thanksgiving dinner!

Place on platter to serve.

DIRECTIONS: 1. Grease a 9 x13” glass baking dish with cooking spray or butter, and set aside.

2. In a large zippered sandwich bag, let the kids crush the pecan sandies with their hands or a small soup can. Add the melted butter to the bag of cookie crumbs and massage through until blended. Evenly press buttered cookie crumb mixture into the bottom of the baking dish.

3. In a large bowl, whisk together the pudding mixture, milk and pumpkin pie spice until thick, about 1 minute. Fold in one container of whipped topping and fold gently until combined. Spread evenly over the crust.

4. Smooth the remaining whipped topping evenly over the pumpkin pudding layer. Top with crushed pecans. Refrigerate until set.

Optional: For more authentic pumpkin flavor, substitute 2 boxes of vanilla instant pudding mix for the pumpkin spice pudding mix, and whisk in one-and-one-third cups pumpkin purée.

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A Month of Thanks and Giving I love this time of year! I love the briskness of the air, the falling of the leaves blanketing the ground in their glorious colors (not so much the blowing or raking, however, but I digress), the smell of wood burning coming from people’s chimneys, and the meals that always seem reserved for this time of year. Most of all, I love the gathering of family and friends coming together to celebrate the traditions of this season.

Sadly, as our daughters married and had children of their own, some of our holiday customs that have endured for 40 years changed.

From the time our first-born was a toddler, the day after Thanksgiving we have gone to Ashe County to cut down our Christmas tree.

After finding the perfect tree, we headed to Greenfield’s restaurant for a huge family-style lunch, replaced by Shatley Springs when Greenfield’s closed.

My father-in-law also introduced a new tradition more than 30 years ago, when he handed each of us a piece of paper and an envelope and had us write down what we were thankful for. For years he collected them, until one year he passed them out so we could reread what we had written over the years. It was heartwarming hearing what each had written. He collected them and then proceeded to hand us paper and an envelope to continue this exercise.

Although he passed away 4½ years ago, my husband brings paper and

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envelopes to hand out at lunch each year. We now have quite a collection.

The difference is that our entire family no longer travels to Ashe County. The long drive for a oneday adventure is just not feasible.

The mountain house needs some repairs and, with our seven grandchildren, is not large enough to accommodate all of us. We will go with our Charlotte crew, as long as the tree farms and Shatley Springs are open. I am happy that we will still have the experience with one family, but I will definitely miss seeing everyone around the table, eating, laughing, recalling different moments from years past, and writing their “thankful” notes.

In trying to come up with an idea to keep this “grateful” idea going, even though we may not be together, I saw an idea which I want to pass along to my daughters. Using a real pumpkin—or, if you want to preserve it—a fake pumpkin available at most craft stores, and starting November 1st, we will ask each family member what they are thankful for. It is good to do this when the family is all together, such as at dinner time.

Write down their responses and

name. Later, using a permanent marker, write the responses on the pumpkin, starting at the top and going around it in a circular pattern.

I like adding the person’s name after each answer. Do this every day until Thanksgiving, and then use it as the centerpiece on your Thanksgiving table. If your children join you for Thanksgiving, have each of them bring their pumpkin for the table.

It will be so much fun to read all the notes. As everyone will include being grateful for their family and friends, it is probably a good idea to write that first. There also should be no duplicates, as, surely, we have so many blessings it wouldn’t be necessary.

Among the abundance of things I am grateful for, I am so thankful to write this column every month and have readers such as you. May you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving, overflowing with blessings!

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The Gift of Fresh Eggs With names such as the Jersey giant, Russian Orloff, the Sebright, and the Sapphire Gem, hens come in an array of beautiful colors and varieties, such as powder greyish-blue, black with blue-green feathers, patterns of black and white, or shiny, sleek feathers. From calming, clicking sounds to purrs, and to the loud rhythmic cadence of laying an egg, hens can alert the flock when predators arrive, or show signs of stress by losing feathers. Indications of health come from their eggs. An oyster shell supplement ensures a hardened shell; yet, the breed determines the color of the oval protein (yolk), which may span from dark brown to tan, light-peach to white. Easter eggers, the Ameraucana and Cream Legbar, lay variations of hue in blue, pink, and green. Strong layers, such as the sweet Golden Comet, and the friendly Speckled Sussex can provide 280 eggs a year. While feeding on the occasional vegetable or fruit, chickens consume a scratch grain comprising corn, seeds, oats, wheat, and barley, and forage for grass and clover, insects and slugs. Collectively, the well-rounded diet defines the color of the yolk. Darker orange colors offer excellent nutritional value.

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Polish hens.”

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They flew into the run and started eating with the others. I have 35 now!”

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4 Guineas. You win today!”

Call it a hen party! Like-minded friends share the arrival of new additions, whether hatched or purchased, as well as helpful tips for housing, feeding, and boosting health. It is a misconception that chickens are filthy, unintelligent birds. Any neglected or unkempt animal will lead to disease or odors if their housing is not well maintained.

Some four-legged animals lick, while fowl come together to bathe.

Using their bodies, wings, and feet to move and flick sand and soil between their feathers, this social act is similar to the enjoyment of a spa treatment! Afterward, they collectively stand and shake out the dust!

Create a Clucking Call Dog lovers find their four-legged friends parting curtains and waiting by the door with happy pants and tail wags; roosters and hens, on the other hand, also can distinguish sounds and voices, and up to 100 different animal and human faces. Free-range hens will leave their weed-eating and insect consumption habits to bound, by flapping wings, flying or running, toward the call of a human, knowing treats are available in the form of lettuce, cucumber, tomato, or other in-season fruits and vegetables. It’s easy to develop a sweet relationship with the beautiful hen who chirps and follows you in hopes of receiving a treat. It’s difficult not to give her a term of endearment, a name personifying her coloring, character, or temperament!

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The male of a flock, a rooster, or also termed a “cockerel,” is recognizable by the tall, red comb on top of his head, fleshy wattle hanging below the beak, and the attractive long feathers at the neck and tail. His strut and tall stature, as well as his bright coloring, encourage the hens to follow his lead to food or away from danger. Dragging his wings and hopping forward and backward is his version of romance.

Sometimes she’ll surrender and allow a mount, or sometimes escape. Competition from other roosters may result in chasing or fighting, or a hen defending herself by plucking out a few feathers of the unwanted cockerel. Politics and strength play a vital role in every group, especially the pecking order of chickens.

To Love a Chicken Young children learn responsibility in caring for the daily needs of a flock, from offering food and water to collecting eggs. Cleaning takes place by donning gloves, wearing designated “chicken boots,” and washing hands thoroughly with every visit. With or without a rooster, the flock signifies a therapeutic routine of greetings and visitations, before closing the coop door before dusk.

You, too, can join the hen party, and add one more species to the list!

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The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective

2020: A Time We No Longer Take for Granted

BY A. KEITH TILLEY

This

is the time of year when we “formally give thanks.”

In 2020, this invokes a variety of emotions. After all, we’ve all had a challenging year in one respect or another.

This shouldn’t take away, however, from the incredible things our fellow citizens have done over this same period. And they deserve our respect and appreciation. This list is not nearly allinclusive, and yet I’d still like to recognize a few of these brave souls. Of course, we start with the front-line workers, EMTs, Medical, Police, Fire, and Rescue personnel. Then, there are the “other” front-line workers, in grocery stores, convenience stores, drug stores, that provide our necessities. And the restaurant and fast-food workers who work tirelessly, in a stressful environment, providing food for us during these times. Not to forget the Food Bank and Crisis Control Ministry workers and volunteers helping those hit hardest. The retail store workers who allow us also to purchase those not-so-necessary items and provide us a feeling of normalcy at a time that is, let’s face it, far from it. The utility workers that keep our electricity, water, and gas working consistently. The creative Netflix and Hulu teams that have provided much-needed streaming entertainment to soothe the boredom of being inside. While I’m on the subject, to those in the NBA, MLB, NHL, NCAA, NASCAR, and the NFL, who made sacrifices to play the games for their enjoyment and our entertainment, feeding our desperate sports fanatical side.

Then, of course, there are the firefighters in California and the West Coast battling the wildfires, and the emergency management teams on the Gulf Coast helping those affected by the hurricanes across those states this year.

And those who participated in “peaceful protests” to bring about positive change in our socio-economic culture and make a lasting and meaningful impact on future generations.

The scientists who are working diligently on a vaccine and therapeutics to help those affected

by Covid-19. The dedicated election poll workers who made it possible to vote under these conditions.

I’d also like to thank the Winston-Salem/Forsyth-County School System and everyone involved for their commitment to providing a quality, online education for the thousands of students in the district, and their efforts to keep them safe. A special thanks for what the school administrators, teachers, and staff did to put on a virtual high school graduation ceremony for

the Class of 2020, allowing graduates to personally receive their diplomas in a safe and socially distant environment. This made the best of a bad situation, and provided an unbelievable and yet true memory for a lifetime.

And finally, I’d like to thank my oldest son, who is also in the “essential worker” category. He’s continued to brave the elements each day throughout this pandemic, all while adhering to strict safety measures for himself and those around him. I know it’s tough on him, but so is he (tough, that is). And I’m proud of him for taking this pandemic seriously and caring about the health and well-being of his family, friends, co-workers, and the general public in the process. That says a lot about the character of a young person in these tumultuous times.

To those who’ve lost loved ones this year, my thoughts and prayers are with you as well. 2020 will be a year we will never forget.

Unique as this year has been, if we take note of The Five Givens in Life, by psychotherapist and writer David Richo, Ph.D., it might bring a sense of order within the chaos knowing they still ring true, regardless of the circumstances. “Number one, everything changes and ends. Number two, things don’t always go according to plan. Number three, life is not always fair.

Number four, suffering is a part of life, it’s unavoidable; and number five, people are not loving and loyal all the time.”

As we take in this moment to reflect on what it’s meant to us, I’m inspired by the insightful quote from the movie, Tomorrowland (Walt Disney Pictures, 2015).

“There are two wolves and they are always fighting.

One is darkness and despair.

The other is light and hope. Which wolf wins? The answer is… whichever one you feed.”

While we labor through this difficult period in our history with the pandemic and the economic uncertainty, let us feed light and hope in our life and the lives of those around us. You never know whose life you may positively impact by providing encouragement and the boost they need to persevere in their struggles and challenges ahead. They may return the favor someday.

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Community Jeff Johnson of Winston-Salem, a nurse at WFUBMC and Robert Lawson of King, NC In July of last year, Jeff and Robert stopped on Hwy 52 and pulled a woman from a crushed car in flames and saved her life. Moments after pulling her out of the car, the entire car was up in flames. They risked their lives to save another. They are great guys and so humble!

Shelley Hundley Every year, Shelley works tirelessly to collect jewelry, shoes, and prom dresses, which she provides free of charge to women attending Joy Prom. She hosts a 3 daylong event in which these women can try on dresses, have them altered onsite, and have glamor shots taken at no cost to them. The women feel like royalty and the caregivers treasure the photos because a lot of them, due to their child’s disabilities or financial constraints, are unable to have professional photos done.

The ring-leader of this event, who makes sure all the decorations are jaw-dropping, the parking, check-in, and red carpet move seamlessly, the food that’s donated is delicious, the volunteers are well prepared and that the whole event is truly spectacular for these beautiful individuals attending, is also none other than Shelley Hundley. Shelley, who is a former special needs teacher, says that when we celebrate things and make a big deal out of them, it gives them value, makes them important. Her sincere hope is that these events will make those in our special needs community feel valued and inspire them to take care of and invest in themselves, as well as boost their self-esteem.

Allan Younger - Director of the Small Business Center serving Forsyth and Stokes counties Allan is responsible for strengthening operations and services, enhancing support to small business, and providing community advocacy. His desire is to positively impact the confidence of small business owners regarding their ability to succeed. Allan not only does a great job as the center director, but he uses his own social media resources to assist people in doing business together. He is always connecting people both in person and virtually to help them grow. He goes out of his way to include a diverse perspective in his work.

He is truly a champion of small business and helping people feel empowered to take a chance.

Marrissa Joyce, Mellisa Vickers, Katie Sonnen-Lee Project Mask WS These women successfully grew an army of local sewers and then distributed these masks to hospitals, medical centers, and hundreds of frontline workers. As the pandemic began, many people wanted to help but were not sure how or what to do. The Project Mask WS team was born from 3 women who dreamt it and made it become reality. These women set up their front porches for material pick up and drop off. All organized on Facebook at first, and then a website. Entire families began to join the cause. Kids learned to sew and sewing became cool. Local sewing shops had a business boom. But most importantly, frontline workers had the masks they were so desperately in need of due to the shortage.

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Heroes

Alan Grizzard, RN Alan was a paramedic in Winston-Salem for 10 years before going to nursing school and has continued to serve the community as a RN for the last 12 years. He chose to go to NYC for three weeks at the end of March to do emergency medical relief during their peak of COVID-19 while there was still very little known about the virus. It was a very humbling experience and not something that many people, even experienced medical staff, could cope with easily. Three weeks ago, he again decided to go to San Antonio, TX to do emergency relief caring for Hospice patients in an evacuation shelter who had been displaced

by Hurricane Laura. While being away for that time, along with all of the challenges of adjusting to life during a pandemic, he managed to complete his master’s degree to become a nurse practitioner summa cum laude at the end of August.

Reverend Emily Norris

Emily Norris has worked for the past several years with the homeless community of Winston-Salem. She helped to implement Augsburg Lutheran Church becoming an overflow shelter during the winter months in partnership with City with Dwellings. She recently launched a church in Winston called The Dwelling which is a church community for those experiencing homelessness. She has made it possible for many homeless persons to obtain housing. With the help of City with Dwellings and other local companies, she was recently involved with renovating an apartment complex to provide this housing. People experiencing homelessness are near and dear to her heart.

Captain Renee Bridges Captain Renee Bridges with Forsyth County Emergency Services has spent her entire adult life serving her community from her work with Stokes county, Kernersville, and Forsyth county. Renee was one of the first female career firefighters with the Kernersville Fire Department. With an all-male department, she broke barriers and went above and beyond to better herself and her community through public education and events for fire safety and lifesaving education. She served there for 10 years. After leaving, she became employed with Forsyth County Emergency Services as an EMT. She has always had compassion for her patients and her community. Now in her 10th year with emergency services she has been promoted to Training officer. Captain Renee Bridges is again breaking barriers as she is one of Forsyth County Emergency Services first female training officers. She continues to go above and beyond for not only her community but also her coworkers.

The Winston-Salem Dash are proud to recognize these local community heroes. Each of our hero’s, highlighted here, were nominated by our fans and community members. As a small token of our appreciation for their heroic efforts they received a socially distant visit from Bolt along with a free meal courtesy of BB&T, now Truist, Wake Forest Baptist Health and Lowes Foods.

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Double the Goodness Coming in November!

BY MARTIE EMORY

The

best thing about Camel City Coffee in Winston-Salem, of course, is the amazing assortment of the finest handcrafted coffees (and teas!) in town. Shopping local and supporting a popular small business, however, is a wonderful bonus, and watching them expand is priceless!

“We added the coffee shop when we moved the bakery downtown to Fifth Street five years ago,” says Chelsea Tart, who, along with her mother, Lynn Tart, owns the shop. “Then we incorporated the coffee side—Camel City Coffee—as its own entity in February 2019. Having opened the bakery in 2009 allowed us the opportunity to grow and expand into coffee.”

Opening another new location in a challenging time might seem daunting, but Chelsea says the chance for a new downtown location basically “fell into their lap” last May, and despite Covid-19, it was an amazing opportunity with low risk.

“The new space is on the backside of Liberty Plaza and will open November 2020, and our courtyard and entrance overlook the brand new Kaleideium,” says Chelsea. “We’ve also added seating back on the patio, and we have about 12 seats that are safely distanced, weather permitting.

Our WiFI works outside also, and fur babies are always welcome!”

While good coffee always brings people together, Chelsea explains being small-business owners— especially of a coffee shop—offers her and her mom a truly exceptional opportunity to interact with the local community on a daily basis.

“The absolute best part of our job is the conversations we have each and every day with our customers, who have become our friends,” she says. “No day is exactly the same, but each day the routine is similar: We make new friends, we catch up with old friends, and we get to watch Winston-Salem evolve!”

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Skyler Brown, Adornment Photography With the cozy fall season upon us, you’ll love their new seasonal offerings of “Something Wixcked” (a cinnamon-spiced cold brew topped with pumpkin foam, making it the most festive combo around!) and “Apple of my Chai” (Made with apple, caramel, and cinnamon, mixed with steamed chai and oat milk, Chelsea says it’s like drinking an apple pie from a cup! Count us in!)

All of Camel City Coffee’s teas are sourced from Angelina’s, on Stratford Road, right here in Winston-Salem. Lynn says the staff is also working on fun new shirt designs and camper mugs that will make great holiday gifts, as well as additional gift items they plan to add, including Nomad Candles, based in Charlotte, and Tony’s Chocolonely, a slave-free, fair-trade Dutch confection company. She also expects to have bagged beans for sale again in November!

Another favorite feature of Camel City Coffee is the @joecoffeeapp, which functions as the shop’s “punch card” system, allowing customers to earn “beans” and later redeem them for free coffee.

“What’s even cooler,” says Chelsea, is that once everyone can travel wherever and whenever they like, you’ll be able to shop at any store that utilizes the app and earn beans!” (Think: earning 1,000 beans while on vacation and then receiving a free drink at Camel City Coffee when you get back home!)

The store has links to order on their Instagram and Facebook pages; you can download straight from the App Store, or even text the word “coffee” to 474747 for a link to download.

“We also run promotions exclusively through the app, and it allows for easy preordering for customers, including counter pick-up or curbside service options,” explains Lynn.

The two are also proud their espresso comes from Case Coffee Roasters in Ashland, Oregon, where the owners work with small, family farms to source organic beans – and their drip coffees are roasted in Greensboro by a wholesale roaster—also organic and fair-trade.

Come relax and greet your new day with Camel City Coffee at 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite F, Winston-Salem, NC, 336-955-2246, and at their new location starting in November, downtown at 102 W. 3rd Street. Hours are Monday through Friday, 8 a.m.–2 p.m. and Saturday and Sunday, 9 a.m.–1 p.m. Follow them on Instagram @camelcitycoffee @ joecoffeeapp.

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Abby Ross is The National Federation of Music Clubs’ 2020 National Music Week Essay Winner for the state of NC. She is the daughter of Matt and Lauren Ross of Advance, NC and a high school freshman.

Her essay was entitled “Music is a Magic Carpet Ride.”

E.J. Yaroszewski was named the southeastern regional winner of the NFMC Angie Greer Music In Poetry contest for 2020. The region includes 13 southeastern states and his poem was entitled “The Magic Ride of Music.” His parents are Joseph and Susan Yaroszewski of Advance, NC.

Jeffrey Lyons won the 2020 Carolyn Jones Summerlin Class II NC state title for hymn playing for the National Federation of Music Clubs. This is Jeffrey’s second year to win this event. He is a sophomore at West Forsyth and his parents are Mike and Karen Lyons of Clemmons.

Ryan Fussell won the NFMC NC State vocal title for the 2020 Sara Copley Moore Folk and Patriotic Singing award. She won her local division at Wake Forest and went on to capture the state title. She’s a senior at Davie High and the daughter of Matt and Alison Fussell.

Natalie Lyons is the winner of the 2020 NFMC Peggy Robinson Matthews Class III hymn playing state title for NC. She is the daughter of Mike and Karen Lyons of Clemmons.

This is Natalie’s second year to win an NFMC state title in hymn playing.

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November Calendar Events SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org. Due to limited seating capacity, pre-registration is required. A virtual option will also be available.

NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 1 HAMMERBIRD VIRTUAL 5K AND ONE MILE RUN/ WALK Your route of choice. Get dressed up in your Halloween costume to run, walk or crawl anywhere of your choice, anywhere and anytime between October 23-November 1. Support Habitat, receive one of our awesome t-shirts, a Habitat cloth mask and a bag of Halloween candy. You can also select the option during registration of having your swag mailed after the virtual race ends. Post your results and a picture of you in your running costume and tag #habitatforsyth.

Cost: $20-$30/person. www.habitatforsyth.org/event/ hammerbird-5k

NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 30 TIFFANY GLASS: PAINTING WITH COLOR AND LIGHT Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Visit Reynolda House, and experience the celebrated works of the iconic Tiffany Studios in an incomparable setting that includes the 1917 historic home of Katharine and R.J. Reynolds and a renowned collection of American art, set on more than 180 acres complete with lush gardens and soothing nature trails. The first exhibition of its kind at Reynolda, Tiffany Glass: Painting with Color and Light includes five windows, 20 lamps and displays showing how Tiffany glass was manufactured, how his lamps were assembled and how collectors today can distinguish between authentic lamps and forgeries. Advance tickets required. reynoldahouse.org/tiffany

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 3, 2021

“TRAVEL ADVENTURE” EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. You can go ANYWHERE – over land, sea or air – in the new exhibit! Using LEGO® bricks, visitors can think creatively to plan and build vehicles to move through all kinds of terrain, including mountains, jungles, oceans and deserts…just to name a few! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. https://kaleideum.org/

NOVEMBER NOVEMBER 3-6

FIDDLE & FIG CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE 403 West End Boulevard in W-S. In addition to amazing home décor and furniture, come see what beautiful Christmas décor awaits! Enjoy 25% off one Christmas item. FiddleFig.com and @fiddleandfigmarket

NOVEMBER 5 CHEERS TO BRENNER’S CHILDREN VIRTUAL KICK-OFF PARTY (see page 33) 7pm; Register, donate and more! BrennerChildrens.org/Cheers

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NOVEMBER 6

WS FAIRGROUNDS – THE ANNEX ICE RINK Scheduled to open November 6; 414 Deacon Blvd. Check wsfairgrounds.com/ice-skating/ for times and updates.

Masks required in the building at all times.

336-734-1582

NOVEMBER 7

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE Your Home Marketplace, 670 South Stratford Road in W-S. Come see what’s new in Holiday 2020 Home Décor. With 11,000 square feet, three levels to shop and more than 75 vendors, we are your one-stop holiday shopping venue. Enjoy 10%-30% off your entire purchase for the day only.

Register to win gift baskets. Doors open at 10am. yourhomemarketplacenc.com

NOVEMBER 10

GIRLS’ DAY &/OR NIGHT OUT 10am-12pm, Young Cardinal Café & Co. (424 4th Street in W-S); 5pm… until, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth (321 West Fourt Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much-needed Girls’ Day &/or Night Out. Enjoy brunch at Young Cardinal Café & Co. with $3 mimosas and $6 bloody Marys. You can also enjoy half price wine and select $5 appetizers at Jeffrey Adams on Fourth starting at 5pm. Come to one or both!

We’ll have our fabulous prize board at both locations!

NOVEMBER 10-11 LETTERS FROM HOME 10-YEAR REUNION SHOW High Point Theatre, 220 East Commerce Avenue in High Point. Experience the juxtaposition of nostalgia and music during the Letters From Home 10-Year-Reunion Show, as guests and former performers of the past 10 years join together to share music, singing, energetic tap-dancing and laughter all in honor of our nation’s veterans. Cost: $25/person.

NOVEMBER 13 - JANUARY 1 TANGLEWOOD FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS (see page 19) 6-11pm; Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights continues to be one of the largest and most spectacular light shows in the southeast. From storybook scenes to Holiday themes, over one hundred displays and over a million lights fill Tanglewood Park with the splendor and joy of the holiday season! 336.703.6400

NOVEMBER 14 TRIAD LUNGE FORWARD 5K, RUN, WALK & CELEBRATION 8am-12pm, Center City Park, 200 North Elm Street in Greensboro. Join us for the 13th annual Triad LUNGe Forward 5K Run, Walk, & Celebration!

From the 5K race to the celebration rally to the kid’s dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family. The Triad LUNGe Forward 5K Run, Walk, & Celebration will be a day of celebration and remembrance, as well as a day to take action and provide hope to those impacted by lung cancer.

However you choose to participate, your support will make an impact in the fight against lung cancer in North Carolina. Cost: $15-$35/person. triad.lungeforward.org

GREAT PUMPKIN 5K TRAIL RUN 8:30am, Wesleyan Christian Academy Athletic Complex, 1946 Sandy Ridge Road in Colfax. Enjoy the best of fall at this inperson race. Cost is $35/person. Registration is limited to 250 participants. Prizes awarded. Runners will receive a finisher’s medal and a neck gaiter, courtesy of Novant Health. Runners will be sent in waves of 50 or less; masks and social distancing are required per CDC guidelines. All proceeds benefit GO FAR. Register at https://runsignup.com/gofarpumpkin5k.

Contact jessica@gofarclub.org.

NOVEMBER 17 15TH ANNUAL WOMEN’S FUND OF WS VIRTUAL LUNCHEON Noon – 1:30pm; To register, visit WomensFundWS.org/luncheon

NOVEMBER 28

SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY Shop local and support our local economy!

DECEMBER DECEMBER 3

FIDDLE & FIG LADIES NIGHT OUT 6-8pm, 403 West End Boulevard in W-S. Ladies don’t miss a chance to shop and create your Christmas wish list! Men will have a chance to shop your wish list on December 10th at their own special event! Charcuterie, appetizers and drinks as well as a chance for prizes from the Forsyth Family Magazine prize board! Fiddle-Fig.com and @ fiddleandfigmarket

DECEMBER 5

MORAVIAN CHRISTMAS LOVEFEAST 2-6pm, Historic Bethabara Park, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. Start the holiday season at Bethabara with a Moravian Lovefeast service. Children’s Lovefeast starts at 2pm. Traditional Lovefeast starts at 5pm. Enjoy musical performances and colonial Christmas treats between services. Don’t forget to shop for unique gifts in our Visitor Center before you leave! https://historicbethabara.org

DECEMBER 5-13

YMCA MISTLETOE VIRTUAL RUN (see page 17) Learn more and register at YMCAMistletoe.org

DECEMBER 10

FIDDLE & FIG MEN’S NIGHT OUT 6-8pm, 403 West End Boulevard in W-S. Men don’t miss a chance to shop and purchase from your favorite someone’s Christmas wish list! Beer and snacks will be served as well as a chance for prizes from the Forsyth Family Magazine prize board!

Fiddle-Fig.com and @fiddleandfigmarket

*DISCLAIMER: EVENT DETAILS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE. PLEASE CHECK EVENT WEBSITES & SOCIAL MEDIA PAGES FOR UPDATES AS THE DATES DRAW NEAR.*

Mom’s Night Out HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE November 3-6

25% off one Christmas Item

Ladies, don’t miss a chance to shop and create your Christmas wish list! Men will have a chance to shop your wish list on December 10th at their own special event.

Charcuterie, appetizers and drinks!

Men, don’t miss a chance to shop and purchase from your favorite someone’s Christmas wish list!

Beer and snacks will be served.

Sponsored by: Forsyth Family Magazine Chance for prizes from the Forsyth Family Magazine prize board on Dec 3rd & 10th!

403 West End Boulevard | Winston-Salem, NC 27101 | www.fiddle-fig.com | @fiddleandfigmarket

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We are Grateful for our advertisers It’s our privilege to work with our advertising partners, who make this magazine possible. Because of their support, we are able to offer Forsyth Family as a free community resource. As you visit these businesses and organizations, please let them know you saw their ad in this month’s issue.

ACTIVITIES

Salem Gymnastics & Swim..........................53 YMCA...........................................................17

BAKERY/CONFECTIONS

Camel City Coffee........................................21 Christina’s Dessertery..................................79

BEAUTY / STYLING

Lewisville Laser............................................25 Lyndhurst Medical Spa................................53

CHILDCARE

YMCA...........................................................17

CHURCHES

Sunrise G3...................................................74

DENTISTS / ORTHODONTISTS

Chermak & Hanson.......................................5 Forsyth Family Dental..................................23 Kingery & Kingery DDS................................65 Salem Smiles...............................................51 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry...................................37

EDUCATION

Calvary Day School......................................33 Forsyth Country Day School.........................49 Redeemer School........................................27 Speak Easy Therapy.....................................65 St John’s Lutheran School...........................65

FINANCIAL

Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group........................7 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp.........47

Marzano Capital Group..................................4 Truliant Federal Credit Union.........Back Cover

WFBH Ortho..................................................2 WomanCare.................................................61

HEALTH & FITNESS

PHOTOGRAPHY

Club Pilates....................................................3 YMCA...........................................................17

HOME

Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group........................7 Brick & Brass Designs..................................61 Chris Wrights, Hunter Realty.......................85 Dero’s...........................................................41 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp.........47 Fiddle & Fig.................................................13 G.W. Smith Kitchen Studio..........................35 Home Service Toolbox.................................89 Icon Custom Builders..................................21 Inside | Out Designs......................................9 Jessica Ferris Property Advisors...................47 Phillips Ranson Real Estate Team..................9 Piedmont Sheet Metal.................................69 Porch Lady Properties..................................47 S & K Cleaning.............................................71 State Farm, Will Wilkins...............................53 Stitches........................................................67 Susan Maier-Colon, Broker..........................69 The Arbors at Meadowlark...........................61

MEDICAL

Duke Eye Center..........................................11 Hillcrest Vision.............................................67 Lewisville Laser............................................25 Lyndhurst.....................................................53 Speak Easy Therapy.....................................65

JEJ Photos...................................................81 Photo Artistry by Melinda............................85

RADIO STATIONS

WBFJ............................................................75 KISSFM........................................................99 WMAG.........................................................77

REAL ESTATE & HOUSING

Airbnb, Amy Smitherman............................47 Atlantic Bay Mortgage Group........................7 Chris Wrights, Hunter Realty.......................85 Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp.........47 Icon Custom Builders..................................21 Jessica Ferris Property Advisors...................47 Phillips Ranson Real Estate Team..................9 Porch Lady Properties..................................47 Susan Maier-Colon Berkshire Hathaway................................69 The Arbors at Meadowlark...........................61

RESTAURANTS

Camel City Coffee..................................21, 93 Christina’s Dessertery..................................93 “Glide & Dine” with Triad Eco.......................93 Hakkachow Asian Eats.................................93 Little Richard’s Smokehouse BBQ..........23, 93 Midtown Café & Dessertery.........................93 MOJI Coffee.................................................93 Mossy’s........................................................93

Nothing Bundt Cakes..................................93 Pie Guys Pizza..............................................93 Sunshine Beverage.....................................93

RETAIL

Clemmons Bicycle.......................................69 Dero’s...........................................................41 Fiddle & Fig.................................................13 Hip Chics Boutique & Gift............................25 Honda of WS.........................................35, 51

SERVICE

Alpha-Lit Triad NC........................................59 Family Services............................................55 Hayworth-Miller Funeral Homes & Crematory............................................63 Home Service Toolbox.................................89 S&K Cleaning...............................................71 Second Harvest Food Bank..........................39 The Office Nerd............................................67 The Resume Nerd........................................67 Triad Mac.....................................................89

TECHNOLOGY

Triad Mac.....................................................89

UPCOMING EVENTS

Cheers to Brenner Children’s Virtual Kick-off Party............................................33 Fiddle & Fig Christmas Open House............97 Mistletoe Virtual Run – YMCA......................17 Operation Christmas Child Collection Week................................63, 75 Tanglewood Festival of Lights......................19

Check out our online calendar @ ForsythFamilyMagazine.com for November events!

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TRUism #90

Truliant

The little things are the big things when you look back on them.

Whether planning for your financial future or for the upcoming holidays, remember that the little things make the big things happen. Truliant wishes you a safe and happy holiday season.

336-659-1955 | Truliant.org

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