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features 6 Fire Prevention Week and Safety Tips

8 Help for Children of Abuse – The Dragonfly House

10 Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa Attends International Conference

12 Costumes, Props, and the Imagination of a Child

14 Brenner FIT Teams up with the YMCA to Tackle Obesity

20 Salem Smiles Orthodontics Introduces New Invisalign iTero Scanner

24 Good Mornings!!!

26 The FCDS Advantage: When a Good School Isn’t Good Enough

32 Trustient 34 11-Book Series Inspired by Love of Family & Pets

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40 Fall Parade of Homes 42 Brad Bullard: New West Forsyth Varsity Baseball Coach

44 The Feeling Friends: Feelings are Our Friends

46 75 Years of Helping Babies 48 Scare Up Some Fun For Everyone at Sciworks This Halloween!

60 Dr. Rob Peters: Senior Pastor, Calvary Baptist Church

62 201 Media Celebrates 4th Anniversary

64 Literate Girls 68 Spooktacular Tricks & Treats: Recipes for a Fabulous Halloween!

70 The Power & Beauty of Friendship!

76 What Does School Time Mean to Mothers?

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October 2013 Fall y’all! It’s that wonderful time of year with perfect temps and beautiful fall flowers. The Dixie Classic Fair is in town and fall festivals abound! I don’t enjoy the fair in the same way I used to, but it’s still a must event for me. Hope to see you there Wednesday night, October 9th. It’s Lowe’s Foods night and you can get in free with a donation of five Lowe’s Foods brand items (see calendar on pg. 57)—not to mention the amazing FREE Mandisa concert brought to us by WBFJ!

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This October, I’ll be celebrating another wonderful milestone.

25 years of marriage to the love of my life! I must say I feel incredibly fortunate and proud at the same time to be able to make this claim! Even in the best of relationships, marriage is not always easy. It takes work…hard work and dedication. It takes two people working together with common goals. There’s no room for being selfish, and especially if kids are involved.

Our family recently lost a couple that I credit with setting a wonderful example for us early on in our marriage. Uncle Melvin and Aunt Betty McPeak of Wytheville, Virginia were two of the sweetest people you’d ever meet. Their 60+ years of love for each other and for their children set the bar high. We are both far from perfect, but I like to think we are perfect together! So Tim, I thank you for being the perfect guy for me and can only pray that we will be blessed with as many years together as they had!

Our October cover celebrates another very significant anniversary: congratulations to the YMCA of Northwest NC as they celebrate their 125th anniversary. Their presence in this town speaks for itself. If you are not already involved with the Y, I say do yourself a favor and check it out, they truly have something for everyone!!

Blessings!

Robin Bralley

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By Heather Spivey important to remember fire safety prevention every day and have a plan of action in place for your family or co-workers in case of an emergency.

Schools and businesses conduct fire drills, and you should consider doing these things at home.

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October 6–October 12 is Fire Prevention Week and is dedicated to reminding folks how critical it is to plan and prepare, so you don’t fall victim to a fire and devastation.

There are reminders that help keep you and your family fire-safe: • Smoke alarms—change batteries every time you change the clock (2x a year).

• Create an escape plan from your home, and practice it.

• Know the location of fire exits at your office or school.

• If you are in an office building or live in an apartmentand smell smoke or see fire and don’t hear the building’s fire alarm, pull the nearest alarm.

• If there is a fire, always keep your body low.

• Remember to turn off space heaters and keep them at least 3 feet away from anything.

• Make sure you have convenient access to your fire extinguisher and that nothing will prevent you from getting to it in an emergency.

• Place tot-finder stickers on your bedroom windows to indicate children are there.

Common sense can help prevent accidents from occurring. Monte Cockerham and Kevin Shore at the Winston-Salem Fire Department’s Arbor Road Fire Station shared some helpful reminders that are important for home and business.

“During this period leading up to the holidays, it’s important to check extension cords to make sure they are in good condition, and to make sure that they’re able to handle the load of lights, decorations and other devices. Many times the combination of all of these things on a single cord or outlet may result in an overload and a fire hazard. Also, fire extinguishers should be serviced annually, and check those smoke detector batteries—it might just save your life.”

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Help for Children of Abuse

By Susan Woodall child abuse have on children, their families and society through immediate, coordinated, childfocused services, education and advocacy.”

should be a time of innocence, protected from the evils found in society. Unfortunately, too many children have their innocence and trust taken from them through mental, physical and/or sexual abuse. Though in many cases the scars left are not physically visible, they are deep, and the healing process takes time, compassion and therapy with trained professionals. The lengthy process of a criminal investigation may add even more trauma to an already fragile child and other family members. The Dragonfly House was established to be an advocate for child victims of these heinous crimes.

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“In Japanese culture, the Dragonfly is a symbol of hope, strength and courage—things that The Dragonfly House offers to each child of abuse,” states The Dragonfly House website. “The Dragonfly House Children’s Advocacy Center’s mission is to reduce the devastating long-term effects that all forms of

The concept of The Dragonfly House began in the fall of 2009, bringing together people from different agencies and disciplines. The goal was “...to make the process of investigating child abuse in Davie County less traumatic for the child victim,” said Brandi Reagan, executive director of The Dragonfly House.

A plan for a child advocacy center soon came to fruition and grew to include Davidson County. After a few more changes during the years, The Dragonfly House split from the domestic violence agency, moved to a larger facility, added additional staff, increased services offered, included Yadkin County to the service area, and became a fully functioning non-profit organization in July of 2012.

“This work is not easy, and there are struggles and times of heartache among each of us as we see the pain and suffering of our most innocent beings,” said Reagan. “In order for us to be successful, we need a strong and dedicated team of professionals who have the best interests of children at heart and who are committed to work together in support of each other and in support of the system that has been put in place to protect our children. As we face increasing numbers of abuse allegations, we strive to continue improving ourselves and our services, to always be the best for the families we serve."

The Dragonfly House offers a broad spectrum of services and works with boys and girls from birth to age 17 who have disclosed abuse or where physical, sexual or mental abuse or neglect are suspected. Aid has also been provided to children who have witnessed a violent crime. Some of the services provided by The Dragonfly House include: forensic interviews; medical examinations (certified child abuse examinations); family and child advocacy; mental health treatment; coordinated care and case services; community outreach; and multidisciplinary team development and case review. The Dragonfly House is committed to being involved for the life of the case and sometimes beyond, as warranted by therapy treatment. All services are offered free of charge as long as the child needs help.

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As a non-profit and with government funding through grants always subject to cutbacks, the need for donations and community support for this extremely vital agency is needed. Not only monetary gifts, but other items are always appreciated. “Every child that receives a medical exam gets a blanket and T-shirt to wear during the exam that they get to keep (thus eliminating the need for paper gowns and disposable sheets),” said Reagan. “We also offer snacks and juice to all of the children that come into our office for services or for therapy. There are various household supplies we need just in daily operation, [such as] blankets, individually wrapped snacks and Capri suns, Lysol/Clorox wipes, toilet paper, Swiffer cloths (dry and wet), hand sanitizer, etc. We try to update our website as we know we are in need of items. [Also], we are in need of nurses as volunteers to assist our physician during medical exams two days per week, [and] we need volunteers who are interested in helping us execute our fundraising events.”

The Dragonfly House will hold three fundraising events this year along with its annual letter/pledge campaign. The “Bake a Difference” 1st Annual Baking Competition to benefit The Dragonfly House will be held November 16th at Twelve West Main in Thomasville from 1–3 p.m. and is open to bakers and the general public.

The need is great, and the statistics are frightening—one in four girls and one in six boys is sexually abused by his or her 18th birthday. The median age for reported sexual abuse is nine years old. As many as 60% are abused by people the family trusts. Most child For more information on victims never report their abuse.

The Dragonfly House’s services, As The Dragonfly House says, to make a donation, or to “It shouldn’t hurt volunteer, please visit the website to be a child.”

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Attends International Conference Fall

is upon us, and just like the explosion of color bursting into nature, the same is happening in hair color trends for the new fall season.

In September 2013, salon owner Jennifer Hutchins of Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa attended the Behind the Chair Color 2013 show with some of her staff members. The convention, held in Nashville TN, hosted 2000 participants for an exclusive three-day hair color conference.

Attendees arriving from all over the globe were there to watch and learn about the newest trends in hair color placement from the top 10 elite educators in their field. Kim Vo, Ian Michael Black (Aveda), Christopher & Sonya Dove, Dimitrois Tsioumas (Goldwell) were just a few of the educators sharing the color and color placement trends you will see making headlines in salons all over the world.

Goldwell Hair Color took the stage first to kick off the conference, introducing nine new looks that clients will be sure to love. The Goldwell artistic team unveiled cool, neutral and warm reds, blondes and brunettes—something for everyone.

“The brilliant shine and rich tones for fall are amazing,” Jennifer Hutchins said.

“During the fall and winter months you want color to be rich and saturated, giving life back to your hair from the pale, faded color that summer tends to leave behind.” Color placement is definitely changing as we approach a new year. Gone are the days of stripy highlights and

that look of “Wow, she needs her color done!”

The trend with all the artistic teams participating at the conference was centered on layering multiple colors to give clients a seamless look that creates depth and dimension.

The crowd oohed and ahhed as the hottest applications allowed hair color to be applied with an airbrush. Airbrush has been used for years in the beauty industry, initially with nails, followed by airbrush tanning and makeup. In the new hair placement, only Goldwell Hair Color Elumen has the correct consistency needed to utilize the airbrush technique, giving Goldwell elite status in this application.

Goldwell Hair Color has set the bar very high in the hair color world.

As an Aveda Concept salon, Jennifer and her team were thrilled to see Ian Michael Black, the Global Artistic Director of Aveda Hair Color, present an amazing showcase of styles and trending looks.

THE “in” look for fall 2013 is seamless color transition, and boy, did Aveda deliver! Vertical highlighting will become a thing of the past. The Aveda team took hair color to a whole new level with the new horizontal dimension, or the “shine-line.” Color is simply what you see, WHEN and HOW light is reflected. The artistic color team at Irvin Roberts Salon & Day Spa can deliver such looks as pictured here.

After an exciting conference in Nashville with the most elite hair color artists in the world, Jennifer and her team are ready to transform your hair into the kind of hair that will be sure to turn heads—and even make a few people jealous. Call Irvin Roberts Salon now to schedule your reservation for November for the newest airbrush hair color.

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Costumes, Props and the Imagination of a Child By Lisa S.T. Doss is the imaginative holiday where children have the opportunity to choose who they want to be for one night. Princesses, pirates, ladybugs, superheroes and gypsies will flood our neighborhoods with great excitement. The children are able to transform themselves into a thrilling role and portray that character. Who lies behind the mask is a secret, which makes dressing up so much fun.

For parents and even grandparents, November 1st presents an opportunity to expand the educational development of a child. The post-Halloween sale will offer the remaining discounted costumes to either establish or enhance your child’s dress-up closet. Costumes and props can offer an understanding of the real world, solve problems and foster socialization situations.

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A costume transports a child to another place where he or she can create an environment, behave and communicate as the character would.

Portraying a pirate, a child will create a tone of voice and include specific terms in his or her play. On the other hand, a superhero would speak with authority, move with coordination, and treat those he or she rescues with kindness. Self-confidence will be noted as your child actively shows strength in climbing the mast, or leaping over tall buildings with a single bound. Role-play uses improvisation, which requires children to have an awareness of how various characters act and relate to others. “Both of my boys absolutely love costumes,” shares Patricia Martin. “When they were young, I had a costume bin in the toy room. Now, the bin has expanded to four. Two are filled with helmets, swords and shields, which are played with a lot. I didn’t pay much for the costumes. The best deals were found a few days after Halloween or at yard sales. I found a Jedi cloak on Pinterest. The boys helped me cut, pin and sew. It was a great family project.”

Non-defined objects such as cardboard boxes or tubes, blankets, pots and pans, and oven mitts often times serve as the most wonderful props for a child’s imagination. A block could become an ice cream cone, a ship, or a sandwich. This form of symbolic play helps expand a child’s abstract thinking and problem-solving abilities. “My two-year old daughter likes to take the laundry basket and walk around with it over her head. She

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giggles when I ask, ‘Where are you?’ In her mind, she is invisible.

My four-year- old son enjoys his capes and swords, and often plays a soldier on a mission. I love that he isn’t sitting down in front of the television; instead, he is solving problems and communicating ideas, especially when our neighbors come over to play,” says Charlotte Daniels.

Who are your child’s role models? Television and the interests of peers play an important part, but so do the professions of parents and community members. Teachers, soldiers, nurses, police officers and grandparents are viewed as idols. Children want to take charge and be responsible; therefore, he or she will take on many adult roles, which will encourage a real-world understanding. It is fascinating for most parents to watch their children engage in “playing house.” Viewpoints of job, people within the workplace and home responsibilities are portrayed honestly. If you have the opportunity to participate in one of your child’s make-believe games, allow him or her to direct the action. By assisting to expand on the story, parents are improving a child’s ability to extend his or her viewpoints. Asking open-ended questions will allow children to remain in control and in character. Parents can also help children act out their fears, dreams and stories.

Whether you have a “treasure chest” or “dress-up closet,” children would love to have a key place to find unique items such as capes and costumes, hats and other accessories. Most likely, grandparents would enjoy establishing their own chest of make-believe, or assist in creating or improving her grandchild’s collection.

As adults, we remember one of the most exciting aspects of a long-ago childhood as having the ability to dream and pretend. With little and young people, adults find themselves sitting on the floor, rolling, crawling and stretching. Play is hard work. Together, they can separate themselves from technology and focus on spending an unstructured time together, communicating and playing. The physical play will burn energy and require either a nap or food; so, grab a few stuffed animals to join in the celebration of an afternoon snack and juice. It’s tea party time! A beaded necklace and hat will be wonderful props for such an important occasion.

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Brenner FIT Teams up with the YMCA to Tackle Obesity Children’s Hospital and the William G. White Jr. Family YMCA are excited to announce the opening of Brenner FIT at the YMCA. This healthy-living education center includes a teaching kitchen and classroom to provide community-based programming, health education, research and outreach to assist families in their effort to live healthier lives.

Community members are invited to join us for hands-on cooking classes, parenting seminars, health and nutrition programs and much more.

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You want to be healthy… we want to help. The Brenner FIT team is excited to meet you and help with your efforts toward establishing healthier habits. To get involved in our regular programming, please visit http://www.brennerchildrens.org/Pediatric-Obesity/.

aren’t living a healthy lifestyle.”

Together with the YMCA, Dr. Skelton seeks to help families become healthy and fit. Healthy lifestyles, For more information about Brenner FIT at the YMCA, including fitness, nutrition free Brenner FIT Kohl’s Family Collaborative classes, and and balanced living, can keep registration, please call Sara Ebbers at diabetes, high blood saebbers@wakehealth.edu.

“Obesity has become a national epidemic,” pressure, high cholesterol Dr. Skelton said. “Nearly a third of children in the and other high-risk medical conditions at bay. Brenner FIT staff members United States are either overweight or obese, and in some areas, nearly specially design programs to encourage family involvement in all stages 50% of children have fallen victim to this epidemic,” he said. “Despite of obesity prevention. decades of research into the genetics of weight control, there isn’t one clear answer as to why this is happening. Many changes have occurred in This teaching facility is the result of a strong partnership between Brenner our environment: restaurants, neighborhoods and even within our families. FIT, Wake Forest Baptist Health and Brenner Children’s Hospital, The Simply put, we have more food around us, and most of this food is not YMCA of Northwest North Carolina and the North West Area Health healthy. It is easy and often quicker to pick up take-out, and we eat these Education Center. “We dreamed of bringing research-proven obesity foods in greater quantities. Second, we aren’t as active as we used to be. interventions to the community,” Skelton said. “It is vital for families to Combining more calories coming in (and those calories are not very establish a foundation of healthy living, and for research-proven healthy to begin with) with less calories going out, we have a perfect information to reach families where they live, not just confined to the storm for childhood obesity.” doctor’s office. When I shared the Brenner FIT vision of building relationships with our patients and families outside the walls of the However, combating childhood obesity is not easy or simple to fix, he hospital, our partners rallied.” Within a year, this shared vision was made added. “This is a complex problem—there isn’t just one cause, so there a reality. With generous private donations for the construction of the isn’t just one solution,” Skelton said. “Much work needs to be done in physical space, and ongoing support from “Kohl’s Cares For Kids” for prevention, public policy, neighborhood planning, marketing of foods, programming, Brenner FIT at the YMCA will open this October. farm subsidies, research and education. We need healthy foods to be cheaper. We also need schools, work places and neighborhoods to Our programs emphasize basic principles, such as eating together as a incorporate physical activity into everyday living.” family, including five fruits and vegetables into meal planning, and living active lifestyles. These basic principles are the foundation of healthy So what can parents do? The most effective place to start is with your living, and if learned early, increase the likelihood that children will stay fit family, according to Dr. Skelton. and active into adulthood, according to Dr. Skelton. To increase access to “Most research has shown that if families decide to make changes, and better nutrition and physical activity, the new teaching kitchen is located make them together, they can improve their weight and health,” he said. within the William G. White Jr. Family YMCA. This state-of-the-art “Even if others in the family do not have a weight problem, even if no one wellness and fitness center provides the perfect location for a communitydoes, these changes will help. Millions of people with high blood based effort to address pediatric obesity, and the YMCA is an excellent pressure, diabetes and heart disease are at a ‘healthy’ weight, but they partner in this endeavor, says Dr. Skelton.

Brenner FIT is directed by Joseph A. Skelton, M.D. M.S., a nationally recognized obesity expert. All programming in the new education center will be designed and taught by Dr. Skelton’s team.

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Free Brenner FIT Classes Join the experts from Brenner Children’s Hospital for these FREE Brenner FIT Kohl’s Family Collaborative classes. Registration is required. Unless otherwise noted, classes are held at Brenner FIT in the William G. White Family YMCA, 775 West End Blvd., Winston-Salem.

Community Open House

Learn to Cook a Balanced Meal

Thursday, October 17, 5:30 – 7:30 pm

Tuesdays, October 22, November 5, 12, and 19, 5:30 – 6:30 pm

We invite you to celebrate the opening of our new teaching kitchen. Brenner FIT staff will be on hand to answer your questions about our community programming, and a variety of our favorite fall recipes will be available for you to sample.

Picky Eaters

Recipe: Tomato and Shrimp Pasta During this hands-on cooking class, your family will prepare a balanced meal and learn how it meets Brenner FIT recommendations for a balanced plate. Mature children are welcome with parental supervision.

Wednesday, October 9, 5:30 – 7 pm Are issues such as picky eating, food variety, refusal to eat, overeating, and portion size affecting your relationship with your toddler or young child? Join our dietitian and counselor for helpful tips.

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Tuesday, October 15, 6 – 7:15 pm Topic: Encouragement vs. Praise

Tuesday, November 19, 6 – 7:15 pm Topic: Arguing Discover how to replace punishment with respectful and effective tools to help bring more joy into parenting. Each month, a different parenting topic is discussed. Classes are taught by certified Positive Discipline parent educators from the Brenner FIT program.

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By A. Keith Tilley

I enjoyed soaking in the moment as well, as it reminded me of my much here’s a new term I’ve heard coined recently called “Older Parent younger days. In between my Families.” Technically, they reference those parents that have children reminders for him to hang on while in their 40s or 50s. I had my first child at 37 and my second child at tightly, I thought about how 40 years old. So I figure if I’m not in this group, I’m very close to being nice this was. Soon he would inducted. Interestingly enough I’ve been so busy these last fifteen years be starting middle school raising my boys with my wife that I never really thought that much about and entering the notorious being older than the typical moms and dads. Even though at school pre-teen and teen years. If he functions and recreational league events I do tend to be the “older” parent was anything like his older there, no one has ever made me feel old or out of place. I’d like to think this brother, I knew these is because I look so young for my age; but, unfortunately, since my hair moments would be fewer started turning prematurely gray in my late twenties, I’ve always looked and farther between. As older than my real age. children naturally progress through these stages of Even though my societal influences are minimal, other factors are surely their lives, they become more prevalent when it comes to having children later in life. The most obvious being sheer energy. There’s no question, after you pass age 30 this more and more independent, and subsequently have less aspect of your life begins to diminish slowly with each passing year. This makes it more difficult to wrestle or piggy-back your child around the house time for mom and dad. It’s unfortunate, but necessary in order for them to grow and mature. For them it’s a time of continuous for any considerable length of time.

“At the top of the list, I think, is that change, both physically and in their micro world. It’s However, despite this disadvantage, there you should have a better understanding also a time of change for mom and dad as well, when are also advantages to being older. At the by this time of what’s most important those precious moments of the past turn into tumultuous top of the list, I think, is that you should in life. You know how quickly time moments of teenage rebellion, as they struggle with have a better understanding by this time passes, so you take every opportunity to raging hormones and the trials of learning to become of what’s most important in life. You know appreciate each moment and milestone adults. Those days were on the horizon, I was sure, but how quickly time passes, so you take with your children along the way.” for now it was a simpler time and one where he every opportunity to appreciate each genuinely appreciated me being there with him. And I moment and milestone with your children along the way. One such example could truly appreciate the value of the moment as well. took place this past summer when I took my youngest son to the park to In conclusion, I can’t say as I mind being an “older parent,” even though walk around and enjoy the swings. We just happened to have the park all to I haven’t really experienced it any other way to make a reasonable ourselves that day, and so he asked if I would swing alongside him. I comparison. But if the current trend continues, it seems apparent there will thought, why not, I haven’t done this in years. So we started out slowly and be more and more of us out there. This will put an interesting spin on the began to pick up momentum with each pendulum swing. He, of course, term “typical family” in the years to come. I have no problem with that, was advancing much faster than I was and began taunting me that I wasn’t because in the end I wouldn’t change a thing. keeping up. So the competitive nature in me became sucked into the challenge as I began to put more energy into it. It wasn’t long before I was swinging in tandem right alongside him. He was having a great time feeling Please send your thoughts and comments the wind blowing his hair and the adrenaline rush that comes naturally with www.theviewfrommysection.com each downward pass.

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to get them to move in the desired direction. But Invisalign treatment allows you to eat any foods during treatment (traditional braces have many food restrictions), make it easier to brush and floss without additional equipment and you also look great, even during treatment!”

Introduces New Invisalign iTero Scanner morning sickness, and she thought it was a breeze to get the scan done.”

By Meghan E.W. Corbett of the best ways to judge the quality of any business is to pay attention to how that business evolves with the changing needs and/or wants of its customers. Some businesses ignore the changing demand and eventually go out of business, while others work hard to remain in front of the newest trends, techniques and technology.

One local business that is successfully providing the newest in dental technology is Salem Smiles Orthodontics.

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Salem Smiles recently introduced a new Invisalign iTero scanner for those patients interested in this less-invasive form of teeth straightening. “Invisalign treatment has improved drastically in the last five years, adding the use of digital models and scans to make more accurate aligners,” said Owner Dr. Sarah Shoaf. “By using the iTero scanner, we can send all the information to start an Invisalign case digitally via the web, so we don’t have to worry about models being lost in the mail, or the transit time to get the models to the Invisalign office to begin work on the case. Instead of 30–35 days from the time of the records until the start of the case, we can now have cases begin in two weeks. The accuracy of the scan is also much better than an impression, so the resulting aligners fit better and allow the teeth to move more quickly.

Besides the fast turn-around time for Invisalign, the scanner is also a lifesaver for those patients who have a tendency to gag with impressions. The wand is used just over the teeth, so it is much easier for patients to have more accurate models made without the prospect of gagging. The patients we’ve used it on so far have raved about the ease of the scan compared to regular impressions. We even used it on a woman who is newly pregnant and having problems with

To understand how Invisalign works, it is best to first understand the process required to straighten teeth. “To make teeth move, you need a gentle, constant force to stimulate the bone and move the

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teeth,” said Dr. Shoaf. “In traditional braces, the wires provide the force against the brackets bonded to the teeth to move them.

With Invisalign, a clear aligner covers the teeth in plastic. By using computer-aided design, the Invisalign people follow the prescription written by the orthodontist to move the teeth in particular ways. The best way to describe Invisalign is that you go through a series of aligners, each moving the teeth one step closer to the desired position, much like ‘Claymation’ moves the characters one step at a time. The flexible plastic provides the force to push the teeth into the correct alignment, so both Invisalign and traditional braces accomplish the same goal of pressure on the teeth

Many people, especially adults, decide against teeth straightening due to the look and hindrance of braces. Invisalign offers a solution to this problem to many patients. “When Invisalign began, it recommended that only ‘simple’ cases be attempted with the treatment—the ideal being someone who had braces in the past, but didn’t wear their retainers and now experienced some mild relapse. With the changes and improvements in Invisalign throughout the years, almost all cases can be done with Invisalign, except those with impacted teeth. Now, after examining a patient, I may recommended traditional braces for certain cases, because I know the traditional braces will allow that particular case to move faster than Invisalign treatment of the same case; but most cases are treated faster with Invisalign than traditional braces. That is why the initial consultation to determine your malocclusion and goals for treatment is so crucial in every orthodontic case.

Our initial consultation is free, so it is just the cost of your time to learn what you need and the cost/payment plan for treatment.”

Another remarkable feature of Salem Smiles is the great lengths taken to help patients financially.

“We take all kinds of insurance and will work out easy payment plans for our patients,” said Dr. Shoaf. “We want everyone to be able to afford a great smile! In these days of high unemployment, making a great impression at interviews is crucial, so having a great smile that you’re proud to show off will only increase your confidence! We also have a staff that is mostly bilingual Spanish/ English, so we can easily work with our Hispanic patients in either language. I also worked for almost 20 years as part of the North Carolina Center for Cleft and Craniofacial Deformities Clinic at Wake Forest Baptist Hospital, so I am very comfortable working with special needs children and those with craniofacial problems such as cleft lip and palate.”

If you are considering Invisalign for yourself or someone in your family, let Salem Smiles show you how easy it is to beautify your smile with their new Invisalign iTero scanner.

Salem Smiles Orthodontics is located at 1063 West Northwest Boulevard in Winston-Salem. For more information, visit the website at www.salemsmilesortho.com, or call 336.725.5757.

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Calculating Costs Novant Health Financial Navigators Help Patients Better Understand Costs Before Treatment Occurs , gasoline, groceries – we’re all used to knowing the cost of everyday items before making a purchase. So why should medical care be any different?

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That’s the opinion of Novant Health, which launched its free financial navigator program in December 2011 to help patients learn in advance what their out-of-pocket charges will be for a surgery or imaging procedure based on their specific insurance information. This service is available for procedures performed at any Novant Health facility, including Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center, Novant Health Medical Park Hospital and Novant Health Breast Center.

“Today’s insurance plans are confusing,” says Brian Pearce, director of centralized patient services for Novant Health outpatient imaging centers in the northern coastal region, which includes Forsyth County. “With multiple levels and tiers of coverage, it can be difficult for patients to know what’s covered and what’s not. And that’s where we can help.”

Here’s how the process works. Patients call the toll-free hotline at 1-888-277-3901, Monday through Friday, 8 a.m. to 6 p.m., and provide the navigator with their five-digit procedure code, which they get from their doctor, as well as their insurance information and the name of the facility at which the procedure will be performed. Voicemail is also available for after-hours calls.

Then, the navigator contacts the insurance company to determine the patient’s specific coverage allowances, deductible terms and co-pay amount. Results are relayed to the patient within 24 hours, although most calls can be completed while the patient is on the phone with the navigator.

“But instead of giving you an estimate or a cost range, we’re able to tell you exactly what your out-of-pocket costs will be,” says Whit Hall, area marketing manager for Novant Health Imaging in the greater Winston-Salem market. “It takes a lot of the guesswork and anxiety out of the healthcare process.”

It can also help reassure patients who may otherwise put off needed tests or surgeries for fear they’re too expensive. One woman who called the hotline after her son’s doctor told her he needed an electrocardiogram (EKG) and X-ray was concerned she couldn’t afford the procedures. But within minutes, the navigator was able to determine that insurance covered both procedures at 100 percent, with no out-of-pocket costs to the family.

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Good Mornings!!

By Cecilia Miller Marshall, Ph.D.

the school year gets underway, conversations in my office often turn to mornings. The most frequently mentioned topic when I ask about the challenges of the coming school year is “getting up in the morning”! Even children (and adults) who are “morning people” often have difficulty with getting going at 5:00 or 5:30 a.m. in order to meet an early school bus. Imagine the dilemma of those (including the writer of this article) who are not natural early risers! The truth is, whether we are “larks” or “owls,” we all have to get up in the morning.

How we manage it is the real choice we have.

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Any teacher will tell you that a child s morning sets the tone for the whole day. Mornings are definitely both the most challenging and the most important part of the day. So how do we have “good mornings”?

Unfortunately, there is no “magic formula” for good mornings—wouldn’t that be too easy!

Each family must determine what makes a good morning for each member and for the group as a

whole. Fortunately, there are some specific things that families can do to develop the morning routine that works best.

• Be realistic. If your child or children are not natural early risers, recognize that just the act of getting out of bed can be quite a challenge. In many families, some arise easily and others with more difficulty. Mornings can’t be a “one size fits all” affair, even though that would be a lot more convenient! Some children get up well; others need a very loud alarm clock; and some need an individualized reward program to get going in the mornings.

• Talk about it. Good mornings don’t just happen. They require planning and intentionality. Make good mornings an important family agenda; talk about how to make it happen; celebrate successes; and revisit the issue often to make adjustments. One problem I often see is a lot of talking about how bad mornings are with little conversation about how to make them better.

• Take time. Good mornings take time. It is often better for parents to plan to get up a few minutes early (no matter how painful this may be!) than to grab those extra minutes of sleep.

Rushing tends to have negative consequences for everyone, and the tension it generates is very contagious.

• Have fun. Do what? Although it may seem to be a contradiction in terms to have fun making “good mornings,” creativity is a good antidote for tension and anxiety. Add something “off the wall” to your morning routine—sing a tune, dance a jig, have pizza for breakfast! Enthusiasm and positive attitude can be just as contagious as tension and anxiety.

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The FCDS Advantage: When a Good School Isn’t Good Enough “We are on the path to something truly remarkable.” - Vincent M. Stumpo, Ph.D. months into his tenure as Headmaster of Forsyth Country Day School, Vincent M. Stumpo, Ph.D., has laid out a bold new vision for the 43-year old independent school.

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“I was drawn to Forsyth Country Day because I saw a very good school that has the potential to be truly great,” Dr. Stumpo said. “It has the best academic metrics of any school in the area, a great faculty, and a sense of community positivity unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.”

The school already trumps national, state, and even the best local public schools on objective academic achievement measures, such as SAT, ACT and Advanced Placement (AP) scores. In addition, it features a low teacher/student ratio of 8:1 and an average school-wide class size of 12.

“We are starting at an enviable place,” Dr. Stumpo said. “But when it comes to educating our children, we only get one chance. We have to do it right, and being good isn’t enough in today’s world.”

With the relentless growth of new technology and an increased global willingness to relocate for opportunity, the world has gotten much smaller, more globally diverse, and far more competitive than it was when today’s parents were going to school and applying to college.

“The world is more interconnected than ever before, and today’s students have a greater need for high-level, essential and transferable intellectual skills, if they are going to compete in a global economy. They are no longer competing with just the kids across town or in another part of the state,” Dr. Stumpo said.

“They are competing with the finest students from the best schools in the world.”

The daunting world of college admissions is just one example of what today’s students face.

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into the college of his or her choice,” he said.

“In the past five years, colleges have become increasingly selective, and the trend isn’t likely to reverse itself.”

Acceptance rates at every school in the prestigious Ivy League but Dartmouth decreased in 2013, with Harvard University accepting a mere 5.8 percent of its applicants and Yale University accepting just 6.8. Closer to home, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill saw admission rates drop precipitously from 31.4 percent in 2011 to 25.7 percent in 2012, the most recent year for which data is available.

“We have to prepare our kids to succeed in this kind of challenging climate, against competition from across the globe, where students in other countries, quite candidly, are often better prepared academically than American students,” he said. “In order to do that, we have to take a long, hard look at what we’re doing now, and ask how we can improve. Frankly, our kids deserve no less.”

In order to prepare Forsyth Country Day’s students for success, Dr. Stumpo has one simple goal: to provide one of the finest collegepreparatory educational experiences not merely in the area, or in the state, but in the nation.

“It’s a lofty goal, but it is vitally important,” Dr. Stumpo said. Recently, the FCDS Board of Trustees approved a three-component plan, one which fosters even greater academic excellence, enriches the school’s global focus with expanded foreign language, history and cultural offerings, and emphasizes the development of good character in a family-centered community of learners.

“Given the exceptional nature of what we’re proposing, and the unparalleled program we will be creating, we want to do all we can to make the Forsyth Country Day School experience available to more people in the Winston-Salem

area who have what it takes to succeed and want to compete on a world-class stage,” Dr. Stumpo said.

To that end, FCDS will launch a merit-based Community Scholarship program for the 2014– 2015 academic year.. Three main factors will be taken into account when determining scholarship awards, the most important of which is high academic achievement. The second factor is good character, and the third is: “What else can that student bring to our community of scholars?” Dr. Stumpo said. “Is she a great leader? Is he a talented artist? Is he committed to community service?” One factor that will not be considered is the family’s ability to pay.

“These scholarships will be completely meritbased,” Dr. Stumpo said.

“We are on the path to something truly remarkable,” Dr. Stumpo said. “It’s not going to be an easy road to traverse, but we have confidence in our abilities, belief in the importance of our mission, and absolute faith that we can achieve our goal. It’s a very exciting time at FCDS.” Doug Constable, Chairman of the FCDS Board of Trustees, concurred. “Dr. Stumpo’s leadership has already begun to shape an incredible future for FCDS and for every student it serves.

We hope that our new Community Scholarship program will make a world-class Forsyth Country Day School education a reality for many more talented students in the local area.”

Interested in learning more about Forsyth Country Day’s merit-based Community Scholarship program? Please contact Cindy Kluttz, FCDS’s Director of Admission and Financial aid, at cindykluttz@fcds.org, or call 336-945-3151, ext. 340, to reserve a space for the November 16 merit scholarship test date.

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YMCA of Northwest North Carolina The Y: More than a Gym By Carolyn S. Peterson

YMCA makes support and opportunities available that allow people and communities to learn, grow and thrive. For 125 years, the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina (NWNC) and its 17 branches, along with YMCA Childcare Service and YMCA Camp Hanes, has been a valuable member of our community, offering fitness, child care, swim lessons, youth sports and numerous other programs, but the YMCA is about much more than what you think is behind its doors. “At the Y we have a saying, ‘When you’ve seen one Y, you’ve seen one Y,’ meaning that no Y is like another. Although all YMCAs share the common mission of ‘Helping people reach their God-given potential in spirit, mind and body,’ our services to members and the community are tailored to the

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needs present [in,] and relevant to, a specific area. In our efforts, we focus on providing an array of services and support to people of all ages, abilities and interests. Most people associate the Y with the service that it provides, or has provided, them. For some we are after-school care, for many we are their fitness facility and to others we are summer camp for their children, but our outreach into the community through our members and others goes far beyond what you may think,” said Curt Hazelbaker, President and CEO, YMCA of Northwest North Carolina.

Front Cover Photo by One Shot Photography. Pictured on cover: YMCA of Northwest North Carolina President & CEO Curt Hazelbaker and Chief Volunteer Officer Linda Wood

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The YMCA of Northwest North Carolina’s commitment to our area has three main pillars to support its core mission: youth development, healthy living and social responsibility, each occurring by nurturing the potential of every youth, teen and adult, improving the community’s health and well-being, and providing opportunities to give back to, and support, those in the community.

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As the YMCA looks to their 125th anniversary and beyond, they know the importance of evolving with the times and knowing the needs of the members and their communities. “At the Y, we focus on creating good, quality experiences for all ages. Through our programs we strengthen our community by developing the potential of children, promoting healthy living and fostering a sense of social responsibility, each [program] addressing a community’s needs in a proactive way. With our long history in the community, the Y is able to convene community leadership and grow philanthropic support to have a greater impact on issues in the community at the present and those in the future,” Curt commented.

Youth Development: Never Too Young to Learn At the Y, the belief is that no child is ever too young to be given the opportunity and guidance to learn; values and skills learned early are the building blocks to a healthy life. “There’s no doubt that youth development begins with motivating children and teens to recognize their full potential through gaining self-confidence and an understanding of core beliefs of honesty, respect and responsibility for one’s actions and life. Youth and teens learn values and positive behaviors and are encouraged to explore their talents and interests in a supportive environment. Each program helps kids to establish relationships with their peers and build skills that can lead to better health. From childcare to youth sports, our staff and volunteers help kids to understand who they are, where their talents lie and what they can achieve,” Curt said. Some of the most valuable and formative time during a child’s or teen’s life is the summer months, when they are away from the classroom. “During summer vacation, students lose an average of one month of learning, with lower-income students losing even more than that. By keeping our summer camps engaging, with activities like a reading time and other education-based learning, they grow their knowledge, and we can change those odds significantly. Many times a child’s success in school or even graduating is tied to things out of their control, but through working with local schools, we can help close the education achievement gap to keep kids learning after the school day ends,” stated Curt. The Y is committed to the belief that confident, healthy kids grow up to be successful adults, so offering comprehensive programs for children, birth to 18 years of age, helps them to connect to those around them and their community.

Healthy Living: Mind, Body and Spirit “Being healthy is about more than just the physical activity of working out. Having a truly healthy life means striving for spiritual, mental and physical well-being and balance. The YMCA is a place where youth and adults can work toward achieving that balance by learning a new skill and connecting with friends through the many programs offered at the Y. We all want to be healthier, through our daily choices that we make, but going it alone is hard. Healthy lifestyles are difficult to maintain without a supportive environment. At the Y, we offer the support, motivation and knowledge needed to make those important changes in one’s life. From nutrition classes to helping those who are dealing with chronic illnesses, like heart disease, cancer and diabetes, the Y’s prevention and wellness programs make a difference in lives.

LIVESTRONG at the YMCA is a wellness program for cancer survivors, and the YMCA Diabetes Prevention Program is in place to help those who are pre-diabetic, by combining exercise, dieting and individual counseling.

Having a support system in place when you are trying to lose weight or deal with a health problem is important, and programs atthe Y give you that support and encouragement when you need it most. Within the ‘healthy living’ pillar of our view of the YMCA’s future, the Y hopes to help reduce the youth and adult obesity problem that we have today. Two in three adults and one in three children are overweight or obese. By introducing ‘Healthy, Fit and Strong’ programs, we can increase the physical activity and educate families about the importance of nutrition and also help adults take control of their health through obesity prevention and intervention programs. At the Y, we believe it’s not necessarily about the activity you choose, as much as it is about the benefits of living healthier, inside and outside,” said Curt.

Social Responsibility: A Foundation of Giving Back At the foundation of the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina are staff members and volunteers who understand and have a passion for giving back, monetarily and of their time. Social responsibility is about responding to issues and concerns that influence our community, and the volunteers at the YMCA have seen first-hand over the years the difference the YMCA can make. Linda Wood, YMCA of NWNC Chief Volunteer Officer, began her volunteering after her daughters had had a great experience one summer at Camp Hanes. “My daughters, who were 13 and 10 at the time, had had a wonderful and positive time at Camp Hanes. After they shared with me all that they did and what an impact it had on them, I filled out a comment card giving my feedback, and at the bottom was a place to check if I would be interested in becoming a volunteer. I was at a time in my life when I could give back, so I volunteered. I am now the Chief Volunteer Officer and have served on several boards within the YMCA. When we as a Board began focusing on the Y’s future, we looked at what are the needs of our members and our overall communities and

know that the Y is for everyone, and in an effort to make the Y accessible to all, no one is ever turned away due to financial issues.

YMCA of Northwest North Carolina President & CEO Curt Hazelbaker and Chief Volunteer Officer Linda Wood at the Champion Field under construction at the Fulton Family YMCA. The land was recently donated to the Y by Hanesbrands Inc.

how can the Y and our services meet those needs. We identified youth development, healthy living and social responsibility as areas where we could have the most impact. In doing so, with each Y and the community it serves, it is critical to understand what programs best help to strengthen the area. Our goal is not to just make promises about what we can do, but to deliver on those promises for personal and social change. As a volunteer-based organization, our people get behind the YMCA and establish strategic goals and policies, using our resources to carry out those goals, and monitor how decisions are affecting our members and communities on a whole. The Y doesn’t exist within the walls of a building, but out in the community, where we can have an impact on those who can be helped by what we do and the causes we support,” commented Linda. Those who work either on staff or as volunteers at the YMCA

“The generosity of others is at the core of the YMCA’s mere existence as a nonprofit organization. Each year we have our Annual Giving Campaign, which provides us funds to offer scholarships to those who need financial assistance.

It’s only through the support of our hundreds of volunteers, public and private donors, that we are able to support and give back to those communities that we are in place to serve. An important YMCA principle is that our programs and services should be for everyone, bringing a community together. To that end, those who come to the Y through financial scholarship or aid have the same privileges as members who pay the full fee. The funds raised in a certain community remain in that community to help those who would like to be a part of the Y,” Curt stated.

To bring about meaningful change, individuals and families need ongoing encouragement and tools. The YMCA of Northwest North Carolina is in place, day-in and day-out, providing the resources the communities they serve need, addressing social issues and helping find ways to improve lives. As Curt Hazelbaker said, “We work to make sure every child, adult, family and community has what they need to achieve their full potential.”

The future of the YMCA is bright. Not only is the Y expanding its work in the community, the footprint is growing, as well. The YMCA of Northwest North Carolina has signed a 10,000-square-foot lease agreement to open an express branch in Wake Forest Innovation Quarter, the fast-emerging hub for innovation in biomedical science and information technology.

For more information on the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina and the locations, services and activities in your area, visit www.ymcanwnc.org.

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By Justin Cord Hayes need to find your aging parents or sick child a home care provider, not a paper pusher. Unfortunately, many caregivers become, by default, just that. They have to spend an inordinate amount of time filling out reams of paperwork, and no matter how conscientious and caring they may be, they can’t possibly devote their full attention to caring for your loved ones.

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Trustient, a provider of home care and medical staffing, is different. Those you love will benefit most from its unique business model. Trustient caregivers document their time and nursing notes electronically via a GPS-enabled, HIPAA-compliant mobile application. “This allows our caregivers to provide a more robust document supporting the care they provide in about 15 percent of the time it takes our competitors to do it the old-fashioned way, on paper,” says Trustient President and CEO, Bradley Watson.

In other words, your acutely sick child or geriatric parents will get the most attention possible. In addition, clients can access a caregiver’s schedule in real time through the company’s website and communicate directly with Trustient management or the caregiver. “Our caregivers have much more time available to do what they are supposed to be doing, which is taking care of the client,” Watson says.

Not only does the Trustient operating model allow its employees more time to focus on caregiving, but it also provides transparency for clients.

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With one call or log-on, you will know that your loved one’s caregiver is doing his or her job properly. “That’s very important,” Watson says, “because healthcare is unique, in that the person paying for the service is not usually the one receiving the service.”

Trustient offers in-home aide, companion, sitter, respite and private-duty nursing to clients throughout the Triad. Some clients are nearlyindependent geriatric patients who require assistance with dressing, bathing, cooking and light housekeeping. Some are chronically ill children who rely on ventilators to breathe and who require round-the-clock nurses.

Trustient works tirelessly to provide families with as much normalcy as possible, regardless of how much care their loved ones require.

In addition to home care, Trustient also delivers top-quality medical staffing. It provides doctor’s offices and hospitals with per diem, contract, temporary-to-permanent and permanent-placement services. For both aspects of its business, Trustient looks for the best employees and ensures that they remain peak performers. “We look for employees with experience, compassion, a sense of urgency and a servant’s heart, but the most important things we seek are clinical skills,” Watson says. “We use rigorous online assessments prior to hiring and ongoing, in-person competency evaluations performed by our Director, Clinical Services.

Even though Trustient prides itself on its use of technology to monitor care, to reduce caregivers’ paperwork, and to keep its employees striving to do their best, the company never loses sight of the basics. “The basics matter to us a lot,” Watson says. “We are available, possess a sense of urgency and have an unsurpassed ability to staff clients.”

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No company can promise 100 percent staffing, he explains. Watson uses his twelve years in the business to estimate that the average for most companies is around 88 percent. Trustient, by contrast, staffs requests 96 percent of the time.

So, whether you’re in need of a caregiver for your mom or a licensed nurse to fill in at your office, Trustient should be your first choice. “No company around will work like Trustient to make sure our clients are happy and staffed appropriately with competent caregivers,” Watson says. “Our philosophy is to earn your trust through our service.”

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I remember his old weight bench in our living room and his evening runs after work. He wasn’t fanatical about it, but incredibly disciplined and consistent. Without even knowing it, he was setting a positive example for me that has made me who I am today.

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11-Book Series Inspired

by Love of Family & Pets years ago, sisters Morgan Orr and Penelope (Penny) Orr Spry were faced with a twofold tragedy involving a type of information void. Their father had died suddenly and their mother, who was suffering from dementia, was unable to assist with any of the countless tasks that needed immediate attention. The sisters were at a loss as to where to find financial and personal information, and what steps needed to be taken first.

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Determined not to put their own children through such a challenging situation, Morgan and Penny began working together on getting their own affairs in order. “We just wanted to make things easier for our own children, but we soon realized what we were doing could be helpful to so many others,” explains Penny. The idea grew into the first book being published in the Wise Up! Life Organization Series—Organizing Your Final Wishes.

Morgan recounts, “Once we had written Final Wishes, the ideas for more books to help others just kept coming.” Those ideas have led to the publication of five books in the Life Organization Series— Organizing Your Final Wishes, Organizing for Disasters, Organizing the Birth of Your Child, Organizing for Hospital Visits and Organizing Important Dates.

While writing the Life series, Penny was struck again by tragedy with the loss of her beloved black lab, Watson, due to an information void.

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“I was out of the country for two weeks for business and had hired a pet sitter to care for Watson,” Penny says. “Upon returning home, I found the pet sitter had become ill and hired someone else to care for Watson, but didn’t communicate the need for his medications,” Penny explains with great sadness. Two weeks later, Watson passed away.

Once again turning pain into a positive, Penny and Morgan wanted to keep other pet owners from suffering such a tragedy. “After seeing Penny’s heartbreak, and having my own passion for animals, I suggested to Penny that we expand our organizational series to include pets,” Morgan says. And the Wise Up! Pets Series came to life—Organizing the Care of My Dog, Organizing the Care of My Cat, Organizing the Care of My Small Pet, Organizing the Care of My Bird, Organizing the Care of My Fish and Organizing the Care of My Reptile.

Each workbook provides a guide for gathering vital information needed to be prepared for anything, by using a fill-in-the-blank format. Penny states, “We wanted the books to be easy to use and result in all information being available in one convenient place.”

While researching the books, the sisters found other “how to” guides for accomplishing the same goal, but not a single book that provided the space to accurately capture your information in a logical format.

Are you ready to Wise Up and be prepared for life’s many challenges? The eleven-book series is available for purchase at wiseupworkbooks.com.

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Kersey Valley

By Justin Cord Hayes attacked Farmer Joe? It’s up to you to find out as you and your little ones straddle the line between lost and found in the Kersey Valley Maize Adventure.

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Since 2001, the company best known for having one of the state’s—in fact, the whole country’s—best haunted attractions has offered a tamer, but equally enjoyable, alternative for families. You say your children would forget their potty training if exposed to the realistic horrors of Kersey Valley Spookywoods? Don’t worry. They will thoroughly enjoy Kersey Valley’s corn maze.

which to solve the mystery. If you go to all the punch stations, you’ll likely complete the maze in about an hour. After you complete the maze and solve the mystery, your little ones will receive a sticker patch proving to the world that they are crackerjack investigators. Most likely, if you ask nicely, moms and dads, you can get one, too. And, sshh. Don’t tell anyone, but you can download an app from maizeadventure.com that will help you if you get totally lost.

Like nearly every event or attraction at Kersey Valley, the Maize Adventure is accessible to everyone. “We have something for everyone, from strollers to wheelchairs,” Wohlgemuth says, “because everything we build we try to make accessible for wheelchairs and strollers.” Even Fido is welcome! Leashed dogs can walk with you through the maze, and water will be available for parched pooches.

“The Maize Adventure is all about families, young families,” says Kersey Valley, Inc., President Tony Wohlgemuth. “We call them starter families.” The theme of the Maize Adventure is FSI, or Farm Scene Investigation.

Your mission, if you and your young investigators choose to accept it, is to meander through the cow corn (corn more likely to be used for animal forage or ethanol than for human consumption) and solve the mystery of what happened to Farmer Joe.

A neophyte might look at an aerial photo of the maze and wonder how long it would take to create something so complex. The answer is, “Not long at all.” A tractor equipped with a GPS cuts the maze in about five hours. “We cut the maze at night when it’s cool,” Wohlgemuth says.

“We don’t need to see where we’re going since we’re using the computer to guide us.”

At the start of the maze, you’ll receive a punch card. Along the twists, turns and doublebacks, you’ll find six punch stations at which you’ll encounter both card punches and clues with

Visitors to the Maize Adventure also can experience other, child-friendly activities, such as a ride on the cow train or a snack of kettle corn. In fact, Kersey Valley offers activities for children

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throughout the year: summer camps, field trips, and an educational program called Bee Educated, which features a massive (and safe) walk-through beehive.

Wohlgemuth has come a long way from when he started Kersey Valley Spookywoods in 1985, at the age of 15. Yes, 15! His father arrived in North Carolina from Switzerland before Tony was born.

The elder Wohlgemuth intended to grow a Christmas tree farm. Then, as the trees began to grow, he moved back to Switzerland and tasked teenage Tony with taking care of the burgeoning forest.

Tony Wohlgemuth and some of his friends started a haunted attraction in an old farmhouse on the family’s property. It became very popular.

While musing over how to expand his attraction, Wohlgemuth walked by the grove of towering Christmas trees. Aha! Spookywoods was born.

“In the end, the trees paid off the farm,” Wohlgemuth says, “but as a haunted attraction.”

Kersey Valley Maize Adventure is open Saturdays from 12 p.m. to 6 p.m. and Sundays from 1 p.m. to 6 p.m., through November 2. Kersey Valley has many attractions and events. The entertainment complex is in Archdale, N.C., off of Interstate 85’s 113A exit. The street address is 1615 Kersey Valley Road. For more specific directions, or to learn more about Kersey Valley’s attractions, log on to www.kerseyvalley.com.

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett year, the Home Builders Association of WinstonSalem (HBAWS) organizes a multi-day event to showcase the newest and greatest in home construction available, and this year is certainly no different! The 2013 Fall Parade of Homes kicks off on October 12th and promises to offer inspiration for every area of home design.

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“The Fall Parade of Homes is a free event that provides the public a preview of the best of the best in new home construction,” said Jerry Herman, Executive Vice President for the HBAWS. “The Fall Parade offers local builders a venue to showcase high-tech, quality products and exceptional services to local consumers. It features the latest trends, innovative products and neighborhoods in the new construction market. [For those not necessarily in the home building market, the parade offers] creative solutions and innovative features for current home remodeling projects.”

This year, the Parade features new and classic neighborhoods. “There are some new neighborhoods and also some neighborhoods that haven’t been in the Parade in recent years,” said Herman. “The Fall Parade of Homes offers a good mix of custom homes and spec homes, with options for new homebuyers, as well as those looking for additional space for a growing family.”

One of the most valuable features on the parade is the presence of the homebuilders. “Consumers will be able to meet face-to-face with professional builders and trade representatives to ask questions and gain valuable information,” said Herman. “This level of personal interaction can help homeowners understand the value of building and the ease of remodeling when working with professionals in the home building industry.”

In many cases, new innovations can cost less, as they use more durable products that last longer and may cut energy bills for the home. “Technology is always improving, changing the way to build better homes and the products used in those homes,” said Herman.

“The parade is a great time to see houses in different stages of the building process and learn about new state-of-the-art features.”

Year after year, the professional builders involved in the Parade work around the clock to show all they have to offer potential clients. The Parade encourages this friendly competition with a judging component 871 Osprey Ridge Road - Brookberry Farm during the event. “The public will benefit from the competition, as 2013 Fall Parade Association Home builders go over and beyond to show their best for possible award recognition,” said Herman. The winner will be announced Tuesday, October 15th, at the Golden Home Awards.

This year’s sponsor is also a great resource for anyone looking to build or remodel a home. “BB&T has been a long-time member and is sponsoring the Fall Parade of Homes for the second year,” said Herman. “They work very closely with both general contractors and the public to supply individualized financing solutions.”

The annual magazine that accompanies the Fall Parade will be available at each home on the tour for tour-goers to pick up and keep for future reference. “The magazine provides information about builders, homes and includes a list of trade vendors for each entry,” said Herman. “Ask for your free magazine at the first home you visit!”

The 2013 Fall Parade of Homes takes place Saturdays and Sundays from 1–5pm from October 12th–20th.

To see a map of the homes on the Parade, visit www.paradeofhomesws.com. For more information about the Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem and its members, visit www.hbaws.net.

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BRAD BULLARD: New West Forsyth Varsity Baseball Coach

By Justin Cord Hayes Bullard was named varsity baseball coach for West Forsyth High School’s storied program in June, but he has been a Titan since his teens. He wore West Forsyth’s green and gold when he himself was a center-field-playing student who helped take his team to the State Championship in 2002, his senior year.

Unfortunately, the Titans lost that battle to Fuquay-Varina.

Nonetheless, that Titan team could boast of a 27-4 record, the best in the school’s history.

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After graduating from West Forsyth and earning a degree in business management from UNC-Charlotte in 2006, Bullard tried sales. But in his heart, he was still a Titan. At loose ends, he called his coach, Randy Pope. “I realized how much I missed baseball and working with kids,” Bullard says, “so I called Coach Pope and we talked about me returning to West Forsyth to teach and coach.”

By 2007, Bullard officially was again a green-and-gold Titan. He was a right-hand man for his former coach until Pope announced his retirement. Some forty coaching hopefuls went after Pope’s position.

After all, West Forsyth nearly always competes in the conference championship and often stretches its post-season even farther. It’s a storied team.

The 2013 Titan team amassed a 23-7 season, and the Titans were one victory away from playing in the Class 4-A Western Regional semifinal series. Thus, Bullard will take over next year for a team that still has many of its best players from 2012. All eyes—green, gold, and otherwise—will be on him. And added to that pressure is the fact thatBullard is taking over for his former coach, a man who led the Titans for fifteen years.

“He has left big shoes for me to fill,” Bullard admits. “But I plan to continue to maintain everything that he has done and also keep upgrading our facilities.”

Bullard intends to make weight training a priority for his team. “Weight training helps with hitting power, arm strength, and speed. Stretching, lifting and agility also help keep the players healthy throughout the whole season.”

He also knows that being a coach is about more than just making sure his young players can do impressive bench presses. “I want my players to focus on ‘ABC,’” Bullard says. “‘ABC’ stands for academics, baseball and character. My staff and I will emphasize how important it is to maintain high academic standards, doing the right things on and off the field, and also preparing for a successful baseball season.”

That’s a lot of responsibility, but Bullard’s past as a center fielder surely will help him. Baseball fans know that center field is one of the most challenging positions on a team. A mix of speed and missilelobbing accuracy is necessary, and the center fielder is his team’s commander in the outfield. Dozens of disparate decisions must be made in a flash. A mistake can mean outfielders get hurt running into each other in pursuit of a fly ball. Or, it can mean a mistimed throw to the infield that allows the other team to score a run.

The one-time center fielder is up to the challenge of continuing to bleed green and gold as a once-and-future Titan. One part of his legacy will be a scholarship to honor his former teammate and friend, Erik Walker, who died in a drowning accident in 2006. The scholarship will go to a deserving senior baseball player each year. “I hope to leave a legacy of someone who always did things the right way and had good relationships with his players,” Bullard says. “We are all in this business because we love the game of baseball and love working with kids.”

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75 Years of Helping Babies

By Maureen Elrod

Our

third child, Byron Daniel Elrod, was born on July 12, 2012, and since that day nothing has been the same in our lives. My pregnancy was wonderfully uneventful and even easier than the previous two pregnancies. All of the prenatal screenings came back perfect, the 20-week ultrasound showed a healthy and very active baby boy and the pregnancy smoothly moved towards the July due date. And right on schedule, a few days before our due date, we went to the hospital to give birth to our newest little man. It wasn’t until seeing him for the first time in the operating room that we realized something was not right. And then, that hint of hesitation and concern in the voice of the doctor when he asked my husband a simple yet unforgettable question, “Has anyone talked to you about the size of his head?”

To which my husband replied, “No, is something wrong?” From that point on, our journey with Byron was nothing short of life-changing. It was an emotional rollercoaster of shock, hope, devastation, faith and peace.

While I was in the delivery room, it was first thought that Byron suffered from hydrocephalus—fluid in the brain, a serious but treatable condition.

However, as the hour progressed, and by the time we left the recovery room, we knew, and felt, that something was very, very wrong with our precious newborn. Immediately, Byron was transported to Brenner Children’s Hospital for more testing and to be cared for in their NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit). By 10 p.m. that night, we were told that Byron had a brain tumor on his brain stem, causing the hydrocephalus, as it grew in his brain during the latter part of the pregnancy.

“The grief that comes with losing an infant is unimaginable and unrelenting...”

On July 13, Byron, at one day old, had a six-hour brain surgery to reduce the swelling and biopsy the tumor.

That was the last true medical procedure Byron had, and the remainder of his eight-day life was spent in the loving, caring and amazing hands of the NICU nurses, our family and friends and us. Byron’s tumor was known as PNET tumor, an aggressive tumor that in

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conjunction with his age provided us no viable medical option. He couldn’t survive with it and there was no way to remove it safely. It had been a miracle that he had even survived this long. So, we decided to spend our time, whatever we had of it, enjoying our family of five, showering our little boy with love and being together as much as possible. We changed his diapers, the kids bathed him, we sang to him, we kissed him constantly, we changed his outfits—we were a family. Byron died in our arms on July 20th.

With all of that being said, we look back on our week with our son with utter joy and complete love. His entire life was spent inside the NICU, and we shared his whole life with the nurses and the palliative care team. They became our family and loved Byron as much as we did. For the eight days we had Byron in our world, we simply loved him, held him, kissed him and brought him into the life of our other two children as much as possible.

He may have been only here for eight days, but it was a magical eight days.

Medically, Byron was dealt an unfortunate fate. There was nothing that could have been done to save his life, nor do we believe early detection would have changed his fate. But since his death, we have met many people who have lost newborns, from a grandmother approaching us about her baby dying hours after birth to a young couple who had recently lost an infant. And for many of these families, there is the hope that early detection or medical advancements could save future babies from a similar death.

The grief that comes with losing an infant is unimaginable and unrelenting, but it is one that can be avoided for other families, and that is the hope we carry in our hearts and the hope that is supported by the March of Dimes.

With a mission of preventing birth defects, premature birth and infant mortality, the March of Dimes carries out this mission through programs of research, community services, education and advocacy. For 75 years, the Foundation has thought of the wellbeing of babies everywhere. Established in 1938 by President Franklin Delano Roosevelt, in its early days, March of Dimes funded the development of the first safe and effective polio vaccines, before turning its mission to improving the health of babies. Today, the March of Dimes is still hard at work to prevent the epidemic of premature birth, birth defects and infant mortality which affects nearly a half million babies every year. For the latest resources and information, visit marchofdimes.com or nacersano.org. Find us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter.

We are honored to serve at the Ambassador Family for the 8th Annual Winston-Salem March of Dimes Signature Chefs Auction on Friday, November 15, 2013. For more information on the Chefs Auction and to see how you can get involved in this gala event, featuring the area’s finest chefs, please call 336-231-3765, or visit www.marchofdimes.com/NCWSChefs.

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Scare Up Some Fun for EVERYONE at SciWorks This Halloween!

By Ally McCauley in Winston-Salem will offer a variety of Halloween activities on Saturday, October 26, promising plenty of fun (and maybe even a few chills) for people of ALL ages! The museum opens at 10 a.m., and visitors will have the opportunity to explore all of the indoor and outdoor exhibits, including the exciting new Take Flight traveling exhibition which is devoted to the creative exploration of flight through paper airplane launchers, a Hoverport, rocket launchers and much more.

SciWorks

The Halloween fun begins at 3 p.m. with a trick-or-treat event. Last year’s Trick-or-Treat with the Dinos was so popular that the staff is bringing it back—even though the dinosaur exhibit has since gone “extinct.” Children can trick-or-treat throughout the museum and collect candy and novelty items from 3 to 5 p.m. Costumes are encouraged (but not required), and the event is recommended for ages 3 and above. Trick-or-treating is included with museum admission (and free for SciWorks members).

The evening’s activities begin at 6 p.m. with a family-friendly Halloween Rock Laser Show in the planetarium. Halloween Rock features fun laser images set to classic chart-toppers like “Monster Mash,” “Ghostbusters,” “Bad Moon Rising,” and more. Following the family-friendly show is one for older audiences—the Nine Inch Nails Rock Laser Show at 7:30 p.m.

The show includes many of the band’s most popular songs, such as “Head like a Hole,” “Closer” and “Wish.” Tickets for laser shows are $6/person per show, or visitors can enjoy both shows in the same night for $10/person. Doors open 30 minutes before the first show, and seating is on a first-come, firstserved basis. (Exhibit galleries and outdoor parks will be closed.)

At 8:30 p.m, SciWorks invites teens and adults to join them for a fascinating 90-minute presentation entitled “Science of Paranormal Investigating.” Members of the Carolina Paranormal Society will explain the technology and techniques they use to study paranormal phenomena. Those who desire a more in-depth experience can also take part in a hands-on, late-night workshop which will involve four separate one-hour investigations at different locations on the SciWorks campus. CPS leaders and workshop participants will collect data with a variety of instruments, including infrared video cameras, digital cameras and camcorders, electromagnetic field detectors (EMFs), digital thermometers and voice recorders. The late-night workshop is limited to 40 people and is not suitable for children ages 10 and under. Teen participants (ages 11–17) must be accompanied by a parent or guardian. Tickets for the presentation are $25.

Tickets for the “full package” (presentation and late-night workshop) are $60. To purchase tickets, visit www.ncparaventures.com.

SciWorks, located at 400 W. Hanes Mill Road in Winston-Salem, is open Tuesday–Friday from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.; Saturday from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.; and Sunday from Noon to 5 p.m. For more information about all of SciWorks’ events and exhibits, visit www.sciworks.org.

New ‘Take Flight’ Exhibit Opening October 1

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FREE Event! Come see all Salem Gymnastics has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations. Each adult also receives 4 tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings.

Drawings for lots of door prizes!

KMO Prize listing from September event at the Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem Two tickets to Spookywoods – Ina Jonbert

$20 Frogurt Gift Card – Jessica VanDusen

$25 Irvin Roberts Gift Card – Raquel Kelly

2 rounds of golf at Pine Brook Country Club – Beth Johnson

Buckhead Betties Tote – Brianne Daub Mattress Cleaning $95 value – Kim Hall 4 tickets to WFU Football game – Allie $25 Omega House Gift Card – DeAnn Osborne

$25 Simply Southern Cuisine Gift Card – Hope Scofield 4 tickets to Children’s Museum of WS – Sarah Care Webkinz – Ashley Toner

Two riding lesson at Cash Lovell – Marla Barbot

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Ages & Stages Social Media Guidelines for Our Schools By Elisa D. Wallace

gone are the days of waiting for the morning newspaper to arrive to deliver a daily dose of news. Second by second, minute by minute, social media websites around the world are rapidly delivering information to everyone and anyone. From current political news to celebrity fanfare to what someone’s best friend wore to school that day, today every child is now susceptible to limitless information.

And, considering that this information often is unfiltered, the effects can be incredibly damaging. From websites such as the mega-successful social media giant known as Facebook, young adults now find themselves the target of a new bully on the block.

The cyber bully.

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With children at recordbreaking rates committing

suicide thanks to this new “bully,” it’s vital that parents and educators take a stand against this misuse of social media. Curious to find out where our area school systems stand in regard to the use of social media? Forsyth Family decided to do their own research into what social media policies are in place. We may not be able to rid the entire web of this type of bullying, but, at the very least, we can begin to safeguard our children from this bully in our educational environments.

Forsyth County Schools According to the Forsyth County School System website, it is the “mission of Forsyth County Schools (FCS) to prepare and inspire all students to contribute and excel.” With this said, FCS has strict guidelines for students and teachers regarding social media use.

Specifically, all members working within the FCS school system must adhere to the following guidelines. They must: • Use digital devices, networks and software in school for educational purposes and activities.

• Keep personal information (including home/mobile phone

number, mailing address, and user password) and that of others private.

• Show respect for themselves and others when using technology, including social media.

• Give acknowledgement to others for their ideas and work.

• Report inappropriate use of technology immediately.

Guilford County Schools Similarly, the Guilford County School System has a policy with strict rules for use of social media websites. However, this school system does now allow students to use Youtube and other social media websites which were earlier banned from use. “We need to teach people how to use these tools wisely and teach them how to use them well and not just shut everything down,” Guilford County Schools Chief of Staff Nora Carr said.

In the end, it is vital that we all pay close attention to what is going on regarding social media within our own school system. Through holding up strict guidelines, we could potentially stop cyber-bullying from ending in tragedy.

Screen Media’s Impact on Your Child’s Health: When Media exposure has also been shown to impact our youth’s view of alcohol and tobacco use. Exposure to smoking and alcohol use in the Less is More! media is linked to a three-fold increase in experimental behavior. Movies you ever noticed how a 15-month old can easily operate her parent’s phone (often better than the parent herself)? Or, how your teenager disappears after school to play video games, promising to get to his homework “later”?

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have also been shown to have the largest effect on influencing children to start smoking (more than friends, family and school!).

These are signs that more interactive, outdoor and free play activities may be in order!

There are also multiple studies that show an association between increased fear and anxiety in children with exposure to violence in media.

Kids often will have nightmares, or have difficulty sleeping after watching violent content.

The American Academy of Pediatrics discourages the use of television and other media devices for children under 2 years of age. Research shows that until 30 months of age, children obtain no real value from any screen media. Children this age benefit much more from social interactions with other children and adults than from screen time. Caregivers should provide interactive and free play with creative problem-solving for this age group.

For older children and adolescents, it is recommended that they spend no more than 1–2 hours per day on screen media. Essentially 100% of homes have a television and 43% of those homes have the television on all, or almost all, of the time. It is important to set limits for media use in the home. Discuss the specific amount of time they can have and then let them decide how to use that time each day.

Several studies have demonstrated that media screen time can have a negative impact on your child’s overall health. For instance, some parents believe that televisions in the bedroom help their children go to sleep.

However, this is actually associated with less and poorer-quality sleep.

Also, television has been found to have a dose-dependent relationship between its use and obesity. This means the more time spent on sedentary and passive activities (like watching TV), the less time is available for more active ones. Some children often snack while watching television, leading to an increase in mindless eating and in calorie consumption.

They also view many commercials for foods that are unhealthy and then try to persuade parents into buying them. Interestingly, some research even suggests that children aren’t allowed to be “bored” enough throughout the day, consequently limiting their creativity. The amount of constant stimulation from various media sources doesn’t give kids’ brains time to relax, which interferes with their ability to turn on and organize more creative processes.

Children and adolescents who are regularly exposed to violence through media have been shown to be more desensitized to it and react less negatively toward witnessed violent behavior.

How can you help your children develop positive media habits?

• Set limits for time spent on media/screen time.

• Be selective about what you allow your children to watch.

• Watch television or play computer games with your children. Don’t miss the teachable moments that some shows will offer.

• Keep television sets out of bedrooms, turn the TV off during meals and limit the amount of time it is on in the background.

• Set a good example by limiting the amount of TV you watch and limit mindless viewing.

• Allow your children to be “bored” some of the time, so they can come up with their own creative play.

These small steps can make a big difference in how the media affect your child and your family. You’ll be amazed at what children discover when screen time is exchanged for creative play!

Margaret Silkstone, MD October Issue 2013 • 53

Penmanship – A Lost Art

By Lisa S.T. Doss

the technological advancements of e-mail and text messaging, few expect to find a hand-written letter, especially in cursive, in the mailbox. How many people do you know who can write in cursive? Personally, the elders in my family have the most beautiful penmanship. Women whose education did not surpass the eighth grade continued to maintain the art throughout their lives. There’s something personal about applying ink to stationary and sending it forth through the US Postal service. I often sit privately and hold the hand-written pages devouring each word. The sentiment is personalized and valued.

Educational curriculums have replaced penmanship classes with keyboarding, and soon paper and pencils will be replaced with computers.

While technology continues to make our lives easier, is the art of cursive writing and penmanship worth eliminating? No.

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Through the decades, teachers influenced the value of particular subjects and skills. Once, it was considered important to have pride in one’s penmanship and signature. Now, less than two-thirds of our citizens are able to read and write in cursive; a statistic that will dramatically increase in the next half-century. If education devalued the practice of penmanship as early as second grade, students who were then in their developmental stages now possess a rudimentary style of writing that could be confused with that of a second grader. Furthermore, America is limiting our nation to be educated in one style of writing, print. Consider all of the situations where cursive writing exists. Will our young adults be confused in the work place, unable to read a memo or have difficulty writing essay-based standardized tests? Museum documents and historical texts will have to be translated into print. Through the technology of e-readers and i-pads, schools will soon retire the book and the pencil, and make a mandatory transition to computers. Schools are now in the process of using the monies earmarked for textbooks to supply a computer for each student.

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sweeping changes occurred with the implementation of phonics to Whole Language and spelling to Inventive Spelling, or “words their way.” In recent years, the Common Core of Standards was adopted by 46 states as an educational guideline, which has made keyboarding and computer classes a priority.

With the blessings of dexterity, all young children can learn to write.

Developmentally, third grade is a wonderful age to begin teaching a child cursive. When education presents gaps, it is the parents who need to take the initiative and supplement instruction. By starting with small shapes, controlled within wide lines of a piece of paper, students can grasp the uniformity of keeping the letters the same size. Color pencils will help to make the endeavor fun. Repetition of tracing letters and practicing words is an effective way to teach cursive. It is a tradition worth fighting to preserve.

For those artistically inclined, older students may appreciate learning the art of calligraphy. Artists tend to be more patient about the details in their work and have a great appreciation of other artistic forms. Not all educational activities need to be completed with the help of a computer.

Brainstorming and note-taking are practical activities that can help improve penmanship. Practicing is the answer. Even adults have noticed a deterioration of their own handwriting since technology has become a replacement for old-fashioned applications of pen to paper. Returning to old habits will help children of all ages and adults become writers again, in addition to developing the beauty of a non-rushed written hand.

The National Postal Museum in Washington DC has an extraordinary gallery that offers visitors the importance of hand-written letters in our history. The documents are well preserved, and express the emotions of people living in difficult moments such as war, families separated by continents, and the correspondence of celebrated people and presidents.

We all have our own museum of saved items. I have a hatbox full of pictures and letters, cards and notes of a fondly remembered past. Many of the letters come from dearly loved family members who have died.

By having their distinct words hand-written on paper, it has given me a sentimental keepsake. I cannot see the same value in an email or text message. The preservation of handwriting is a reminder that many of our own childhood objects will soon be labeled as “old-fashioned.”

Teaching our children is the only way to preserve the past.

Dr. David S. Chermak • Dr. John C. Hanson Orthodontics for Children & Adults

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Question #78 If our house were on fire and everyone (including pets) was safe outside and you could safely retrieve one personal item, what would it be?

Talk with your family about the above question and statement during dinner at home, quiet moments in the evening, just before bedtime, in the car or on vacation and jumpstart your family communication!

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Faith &Family CALENDAR – OCTOBER 2013

By Tami Rumfelt

Ebenezer WHO? old hymn Come Thou Fount contains a line which has always confused me.

It goes, “Here I raise my Ebenezer...”

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What’s an Ebenezer? Are we talking about the old tightwad from A Christmas Carol?

So, I did a little digging and it turns out that the word Ebenezer is found in the Bible in 1st Samuel, Chapter 7. Samuel was a prophet and leader of the Israelites during a time of great tribulation for the Jews, much of it brought on by their own disobedience. He gathered his people and told them to give up their false gods and sincerely repent for straying from the Lord. The people prayed and fasted and Samuel asked the Lord to restore and protect them.

The Philistines, who were the Israelites arch enemies, found out that all of Israel was gathered in one place in prayer and figured that was a good time to launch an attack. However, God protected the Israelites and divinely intervened on their behalf, keeping His people safe.

So no one would forget God’s miraculous intervention, Samuel erected a large stone at the place where all of this happened. He named the stone Ebenezer which means “Stone of Help” as a reminder that Lord always helps his people.

How has the Lord helped you? Was there a financial blessing that came along at just the right time?

Maybe it was the way He protected you from harm or healed an illness. Or, perhaps it was His peace and presence you clearly felt in a time of trouble. I’d encourage you to learn from Samuel and think of ways you might “raise an Ebenezer” of your own to mark the occasion. It could be as simple as keeping a prayer journal, writing a poem, planting a tree or painting a picture. By doing so, the next time life gets tough, you’ll have a reminder of God’s never-ending faithfulness.

For more devotions from Tami, visit her website: www.tamiwithani.com

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OCT 4-13 Location: Dixie Classic Fairgrounds (Winston-Salem) WBFJ will once again be broadcasting at the fair! Stop by the gazebo and play Plinko with a purpose, check out the Swifty Swine Swimming & Racing Pigs and grab some food from the Munchie Wagon!! 336.777-1893

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Women Of Faith Conference OCT 11-12 Location: Bojangles Coliseum (Charlotte) Theme: “Believe God Can Do Anything” Guest Speakers: Liz Curtis Higgs, Max Lucado, Lisa Harper, Ken Davis, Shelia Walsh & Angie Smith.

Musical Guests: Third Day & CeCe Winans.

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Jeff VanVonderen OCT 12, 9:00AM-5:00PM Location: WSFirst (Winston-Salem) Jeff VanVonderen of A&E’s “Intervention” is a highly sought after speaker and consultant for his skills and understanding in the areas of addiction, family systems and recovery. 336.759.7517

Fall Fair @ Alpha Acres OCT 5 - NOV 2, 10AM-6PM

Blood Drive OCT 12, 8:30AM - 1:00PM

Location: Alpha Acres (Yadkinville) Activities include: Hay Rides, Corn Maze, Pumpkin Patch & much more! Fall Fair @ Alpha Acres is open every Friday & Saturday Alpha Acres is a ministry of the Winston-Salem Rescue Mission.

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Location: Hope Community Church (Winston-Salem) Sponsored by the Northwest North Carolina American Red Cross.

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LifeChain 2013 OCT 6, 2:00PM

Location: First Christian Church (Kernersville) Barbecue Dinner', Silent Auction, Live Music & more! Proceeds: Next Step Ministries is a safe house for women, providing services to domestic violence victims and survivors. 336.413.7054

Location: Hanes Mall Blvd. (near Kohl's Winston-Salem) LifeChain is an annual nationwide peaceful pro-life demonstration for the unborn.

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Mandisa / Brandon Heath OCT 9, 7:30PM Location: Dixie Classic Fair (Winston-Salem) Everyone is encouraged to bring 5 cans or 5 boxes of non-perishable Lowes Food brands and receive free admission into the fairgrounds and the concert!!

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Jim Cole OCT 11, 3:00, 5:00, 7:00 & 9:00PM Location: Dixie Classic Fair (Winston-Salem) 336.777.1893

National Christian Apologetics Conference OCT 11-12, 9:00AM-5:00PM Location: First Baptist Church (Indian Trail, NC) Theme: “Reason For Hope” Guest Speakers: Josh McDowell, Norm Geisler, Richard Howe, William Dembski, Frank Turek & many others!! Presented by the Southern

“Unmasked The Violence” Fundraiser OCT 18, 5:30PM

CROP Hunger Walk OCT 20, 2:30PM Location: Lawrence Joel Veterans Coliseum (Winston-Salem) Proceeds to benefit Crisis Control Ministry, Sunnyside Ministries & Church World Service.

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NeedToBreathe OCT 20, 7:00PM Location: Ziggy's (Winston-Salem) A portion of the proceeds to benefit Palmetto Medical Initiative. 336.722.5000

ST. JOHN’S LUTHERAN SCHOOL CARNIVAL OCT 25, 5-7:30PM St. John's Lutheran School, 2415 Silas Creek Parkway. Join us for a community carnival with food, games and loads of activities for the kids. Entrance is free; you may purchase tickets for games and food at the door. www.stjohnsfalcons.org June Issue 2013 • 57

Musing About…

By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville

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something you may not know about me. I haven’t always been a pastor. No, I’m not talking about the time I was a child or teenager, I am referring to my life in the “working world.” Ordained ministry isn’t my second career, it is actually my third. I used to be a paramedic in Cabarrus County, then I left that to become a firefighter with the Charlotte Fire Department. (Please don’t say that I am still fighting fire, I have heard that way too many times). Often people ask me if I miss being a fireman. Only when I think about it, smell smoke, see the flashing lights on the big red trucks, or hear those sirens wailing (oh, how that is still music to my ears!)...okay, enough reminiscing.

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Having been a fireman, I, of course, have seen the movie, Backdraft, to the point of ad nauseam. Not that it is that great a movie or all that realistic (Hint, Hint...it’s not.), but there are certain things that still draw me back to it.

Believe it or not, one of the things that I look for each and every time I watch it is just a piece of the background. It was probably part of a real fire station which they used to film the movie.

The item I am referring to is a large sign that hangs in the kitchen of the story. If you blink you’ll miss it, but on it read these words, “Chicago Fire Department—150 Years of Tradition Unimpeded by Progress.” The first time I noticed that sign, I laughed out loud

(that’s LOL for the younger readers). Now, I still snicker at it, although I am acutely aware that it is a sad reality for so many areas of life.

Benjamin Franklin is credited with the old adage that says something like, “The only things that are certain in life are death and taxes.”

Well, I believe Mr. Franklin missed another inevitable—change. Like it or not, change happens—and there is nothing you can do to stop it. We may be able to delay it for a period of time, but change can only be kept at bay for a short while. What needs to be at the forefront of our minds when we encounter the inescapable specter known as change is, how are we going to respond to it?

In each of my professions, I have witnessed change on almost a daily basis. I have experienced the fragility of life succumbing to death, the tragic transformation of exquisitely designed buildings into heaps of embers and ash, and the destructive division of a community of faith over music styles. Yep—change happens. But once again, how are going to respond to it?

It seems that some feel it is their God-given purpose in life to preserve the past without any regard for the present, much less the future.

Evidently, “new” is somehow a four-letter word for them. The mantra that rallies them to arms is “If it was good enough for my grampy, it’s good

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enough for me (and you, too)!” I wonder, if their house were to catch fire, would they want one of those new and modern fire trucks to roll up, or have a bunch of neighbors running to the scene with buckets?

Then again, those who tout that new is best obviously used Windows 8! (If you don’t know to what I am referring, be thankful). New isn’t always an improvement. The best changes usually come about from learning from the past.

As I grow older, it seems that old menace of change has gone into overdrive. I am reminded of its presence in my life every morning when I look in the mirror (either that, or I have somehow acquired a defective mirror. Nah...just wishful thinking there). While I could allow this fact to plummet me into despair, I choose not to, because while change may happen, God is even Lord over it. So, Change, who’s going to get the last laugh?

Sorry, but I have one more thing on the subject of change (and about another sign, too!). These words, taken from 1 Corinthians 15:51, were displayed as a needlepoint wall-hanging in a church nursery: “We may not all sleep, but we will all be changed.”

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Dr. Rob Peters: Senior Pastor, Calvary Baptist Church United in Faith to Reach a Growing & Changing Community

By Carolyn S. Peterson

a rich history dating back to 1919, Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, NC, has been a fellowship with a heart for reaching a growing and changing community, both locally and globally; and now, under the leadership of Dr. Rob Peters, the church looks forward to continuing the simple message of God’s love.

“God’s world is a wonderful creation, and people are people, no matter where they are. We all have the questions of ‘what’s my purpose in life,’ ‘how do I make my life work with family and relationships,’ and ‘how do I find things that fulfill me in the way God created me’? God’s word has answers to all of those questions, and to many more that people worldwide and around the corner face which are found in a relationship with Jesus Christ,” said Pastor Rob.

With

A Good Foundation to Grow On Pastor Rob’s journey to the pulpit of Calvary Baptist Church began in a close-knit family grounded in a deep faith. “I was born in Augusta County, VA, and raised in Cleveland, TN, as a middle child with two sisters and Godly parents. While studying accounting at Tennessee Tech, I had an overwhelming sense of God’s calling on my life to enter the ministry. Two weeks after completing my accounting degree, I entered Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, TX. While in seminary, I worked for the accounting firm of Ernst & Young and served in a variety of leadership positions at Sagamore Hills Baptist Church in Fort Worth, then served as an Associate Pastor at First Baptist Church in Dallas, TX.,” Pastor Rob recalled.

Following the planting of a church in North Atlanta and during completion of his doctoral degree, the Peters family moved to Weston, FL, where Pastor Rob served for over 13 years as the Senior Pastor of First Baptist Church, growing the church from 300 attendees to more than 3000 members. But Pastor Rob and Wendy, his wife of 17 years, began feeling the guidance of God to make a change in direction and ministry to their lives, leading them to consider a move to Zurich, Switzerland, with their three children, Anna Grace, 12, John, 7 and Liam, 2. That was when Calvary Baptist Church began their 18-month pastor search, involving 146 candidates.

“My experience of managing a large church with many cultures and my accounting background prepared me for the complexity of addressing the needs of a congregation of Calvary’s size, as well as the many ministries that Calvary is involved in locally and across the world. The staff at Calvary and I are excited about initiating programs and instilling renewed vision into the various ministries. There is a partnership at Calvary amongst the staff with a belief that we all are laborers in the field, as the Scriptures say, no matter whether we come in at the first hour or the last. The Lord owns the field, and we are all servants for His kingdom,” stated Dr. Rob. It’s the role as servant and teacher that Pastor Rob believes is at the root of his calling.

“I help people learn how to confidently read Scripture and apply it to their lives.

Sharing the Word at Calvary means that I preach 4 times each Sunday in three different locations, including videotaped messages. The focus of the ministry at Calvary is living in the Truths of the Scriptures, which have spanned across generations. To reach the people on our street or a world away, you have to realize that there isn’t just one way to worship; God’s Word can be shared in a skyscraper to a tent in Africa. People are people, and the eternal Truths of the Scriptures, and how they can apply to daily life, have always been, and will always be, the focus of Biblical teaching,” Dr. Rob commented.

For more information on Calvary Baptist Church and service times and locations, visit www.calvarynow.com.

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to deliver a quality product, one must first use quality tools and understand every aspect of the process. “The best editing in the world is meaningless if you don’t first have good camera shots to work with,” said Hall. “I love capturing the emotion and spirit of my client—be it a bride or a business owner, sharing their passion for their company. I believe video tells a story in a way that no other medium can. It can relive a precious moment for years to come. I have never heard someone say they were sorry they captured their event on video.”

C e l e b r a t e s 4th Anniversary

By Meghan E.W. Corbett years ago, nearly a decade of dreaming became reality for Matt Hall when 201 Media Productions officially opened for business.

During the past four years, Hall has made it his mission to continue dreaming up ways to keep his business at the forefront of media production.

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“When the company began, we offered mostly wedding videography, with a few corporate shoots here and there,” said Hall. “We have dramatically increased our work with small businesses by

Once Hall mastered the videography element of his business, he knew he wanted to offer more to his customers. “201 Media has been successful because we’ve always looked for ways to better serve our clients,” said Hall. “We have never forgotten that our clients drive our business, not the other way around. We take time to develop partnerships with businesses and look at the long-term relationship, instead of just focusing on the project at hand. We look for ways to help our clients grow, because we know that as they grow, they will need

vividly. Those memories will be lost as VHS and tapes are phased out.”

Memories can fade as time goes by, but photography and video can last forever. It is important to capture those memories as extensively as possible, so they can be shared for generations to come. “If someone is unsure of whether they need a videographer for their event, I would tell them that the day will be a blur,” said Hall. “The execution of the day is often so overwhelming that, without video, they miss all the little details that they'd planned. They forget to notice the detail of the table centerpieces or the warm glow of the candles. There are aspects of the day that they physically miss, like the expression of the groom when the bride enters or the dancing steps of the

“Memories can fade as time goes by, but photography and video can last forever.” creating web videos and commercials for both television and social media use. We have expanded our event services to include photography, DJ and photo booth—offering a complete media package for any social event. We have also added media conversion services. There are many more places that I want to see it go, but I’m proud of how far we have come. I have been most surprised by the number of people that don’t know anyone else that does video production. I’m glad to be able to bring these services to the Triad.”

Like all successful businesses, 201 Media Productions never cuts corners. Hall believes that

our services even more. By expanding our event service offerings, we make utilizing media more convenient for event planners. Incorporating DJ, photo booth and photography simplifies the process and allows them to focus on other things and leave these details to us. [We also added] media transfer to bring another service to our business clients, but that has evolved to include a great number of clients wanting to transfer personal media as well.

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Literate Girls

By Susan Ott, Member, The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem

am I so stupid?” Seven-yearold Sandra cries and says she doesn’t want to go to school. She struggles over her homework and doesn’t want to pick up a book to read. Her classmates call her a “dummy” when she makes mistakes trying to read aloud in class. Sandra is too shy to tell her teacher that she doesn’t understand what’s on the blackboard or in her books. Her parents can see that she’s struggling, but they think she just needs to work harder.

Sandra is quietly failing.

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school. Parents shouldn’t hesitate to approach teachers with their concerns about their child’s reading and writing.

The Augustine Project for Literacy, an outreach ministry of St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, is an intensive reading program for low-income children. To meet the specific

Parents are not always aware that girls with reading problems are often overlooked in the classroom. Even though learning disabilities affect both sexes equally, boys are referred for reading help two to four times more often than girls.

Boys often act out in the classroom and are easier to spot. Girls keep their difficulties to themselves.

Children do not outgrow reading problems; 57% of children with learning disabilities leave school without a diploma. If they are not reading well by third grade, they are more likely to drop out of school or fail to graduate on time. Academic failure and teen pregnancy are strongly linked.

“Parents should educate themselves to know earlywarning signs of a potential reading problem in its earliest stages. They should know who is at greatest risk. The sooner help comes, the better. You don’t want to let a difficulty become a disability,” said Mrs. Henri Brown, director of the Augustine Project. “In simpler terms: Catch it early.

Catch her up. Don’t wait,” she advised. A few signs might be the inability to sound out words, reading haltingly, taking too much time with homework, and reluctance to go to

needs of girls, the Project started the Literate Girls program with the help of grants totaling $38,000 from The Women’s Fund of WinstonSalem. Literate Girls includes: free one-toone in-school tutoring for economically disadvantaged girls ages 7–18; intensive, 60-hour training for volunteer tutors; and

publication of an informational brochure, Quietly Failing. At the end of the 2012–2013 school year, the Augustine Literacy Project had 85 tutors serving 92 students. The Project is about to release a brochure specifically designed to help parents identify potential reading problems. The next Augustine Project volunteer training session is October 14–18.

For more information on resources for dyslexic children, or on becoming a tutor, contact Mrs. Henrietta Brown at 723-4391, email her at augproj@gmail.com, or visit the website, www.augustineproject-ws.org.

This year, The Women’s Fund will celebrate $1,000,000 in grants they have awarded to innovative projects like Literate Girls. Since 2007, the Fund has awarded grants to Forsyth County projects benefitting women and girls, in areas such as health, financial planning, teen pregnancy and self-esteem.

The 8th Annual Women’s Fund Luncheon, themed “One Million in Change,” will be held on Wednesday, November 13, from 12:00 to 1:30 at the Benton Convention Center. The Women’s Fund will announce the 2013 grant recipients as voted on by the membership.

Wanda Stark of WXII will be the emcee. The keynote speaker will be Gail Perry, national expert in nonprofit fundraising and creator of the Fired-Up Fundraising™ system. Tickets for the “One Million in Change” luncheon are $25 and may be purchased on the Women’s Fund website, https://womensfundws.org, starting in early October.

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Should We Choose Our Child’s Friends?

By Katie Moosbrugger of Triad Moms on Main mom always said you “lose” your child once they start school. You’re not always there to steer your child through life decisions after you kiss them goodbye and send them off. You hope they play with the kids you know who are nice, but we also know that’s not always the case.

My

This often makes me wonder if it’s a good idea to help choose your child’s friends. As adults, we pick our own friends all the time. And our kids do, too. But as parents, is it possible to pick and choose your kids’ friends? By doing so, could we help them navigate around the ones we think might cause hardship? Should we even try? And if so, are we just asking for trouble?

In the first five or six years of our child’s life, we’re usually the “friend picker” for our child, whether we realize it or not. As new moms, we hang out with our “new mom friends” who have babies the same ages as ours. Our kids tend to grow up with our friends’ kids—sometimes taking vacations and trips together—so by the time they’re walking and talking with each other, they’re already fast friends.

Then we choose a preschool. Lots of times that choice is dependent on where our friends send their children. But if that’s not the case, we often organize playdates with the children of other preschool moms we’ve befriended, and not necessarily the same “Johnny” or “Susie” our child happens to play with every day in class.

Or we coordinate summer camps, sleep-overs, weekends, pool

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memberships, after-school activities, Girl and Boy Scout troops, etc., with our friends and their kids. Again, all with people we choose to be with, and not necessarily whom our kids choose to be with.

Of course, a lot of this happens naturally, especially when our kids are really young. But it’s not always so easy to have this control once our children reach elementary school.

In my children’s short time at school, I have already seen the emergence of cliques, “mean kids,” and at times have heard about hurtful incidents. I’m guilty as charged when it comes to disagreeing to playdates if my motherly instinct tells me the outcome may not be good. And I sometimes find myself continuing to steer my children in what I think is the “right direction” regarding friends, even though I know I can’t continue to do this.

Of course, we all want our children to be kind and respectful to everyone, and to have as many friends as possible. But can we go so far as choosing their friends? Does that even work? And if so, is that a good thing?

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Spooktacular Tricks & Treats: Recipes for a Fabulous Halloween!

By Sara Stanley

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the cool weather creeps in, we are reminded that Halloween is just around the corner.

October 31st brings one of the few holidays that children and adults seem to enjoy equally. Dressing up in costume, face painting and wigs… all in the name of “trick or treating,” in hopes your costume will warrant an overfilled bag of candy at the end of the night. Enjoying this marvelous holiday doesn’t end, once you are past the age of door-to-door trick or treating. With our decorating tips and Halloweenthemed treats, you’ll be sure to please the little ghosts and goblins as well as your adult partygoers. After all, you’re never too old to enjoy this spooktacular holiday!

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Halloween decorations can get pricey and timeconsuming to put up. Try these ideas which will be easy on your budget, and the kids will love helping you put these together!

Spider Ice Cubes: All you need are spider rings, (which can be found at the dollar store). Put these in ice cube trays, add water and freeze. Your end result will be a great addition to any punch or witches’ brew!

Witch Toothpicks: Dress up your ordinary toothpicks with cutout paper in the shape of witches’ hats and witches’ feet. A simple and easy way to add a touch of Halloween to any finger food.

Glow in the Dark Slime: A perfect goo for all your goblins to play with! It’s easy to make by mixing together:

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1 4-oz bottle of clear or blue gel Elmer’s glue mixed with 1 cup of warm water, and stir in 2–3 tablespoons of glowin-the-dark paint and green neon food coloring, In a separate bowl, mix together 2 teaspoons of Borax and 1/3 cup of warm water.

Slowly add the Borax mixture to the glue mixture. You will not need all of the Borax.

Keep adding until you have reached your desired stiffness.

DIY Halloween Lanterns: Super easy and very cute, these lanterns are created by using bright green, orange, and white plastic cups. Turning the cups upside-down, use a blank permanent marker to draw ghoulish faces on each cup: Frankenstein on the green cups, Jack-O-Lantern faces on the orange, and ghost faces on the white. To add light to your lanterns, you can purchase the electric votive “candles” from the dollar store. This cheap little trick adds the light you need without melting the cup!

Candy Corn Pumpkins: Not good at pumpkin carving!? No fear, we have the perfect solution for you! Draw a line to mark 3 equally divided sections on your pumpkin and use colored spray paint to cover each section. The bottom will be yellow, the middle orange (or you can leave the natural color of the pumpkin) and the top section will be white.

Once they are dried, you will have a candy-corninspired pumpkin to display. The best part is there

To go with your fabulous new décor, you will need some Halloween finger foods perfect for your “fright night” party. These recipes will have all of your vampires licking their fangs for more!

Bandaged Fingers: Use cut hotdogs and crescent roll dough to make the traditional “pigs in a blanket.” When wrapping the hot dogs, use smaller strips of dough layered to look like a bandage. Add a card next to the plate to alert your guests that these famous old treats have a new name: “Bandaged Fingers”! You can even add blood dipping sauce (ketchup) on the side.

Skeleton Cookies: Think gingerbread men are just for Christmas? Think again! Break out those old cookie cutters and make a batch of gingerbread men. To give them that Halloween flair, use white icing to draw a skeleton design on the baked cookies. This even looks great with cat-shaped cookies, too!

Boo-rific S’mores: For a Halloween twist on this popular dessert, dress up your s‘mores by using ghost- or pumpkin-shaped peeps instead of regular marshmallows. If using an open flame isn’t an option at your party, you can always prepare these in the microwave, or package the single-serve ingredients in individual bags for your guests to take home as a party favor!

Frightful Fruit: Looking for a healthier treat that will still keep the kids smiling? Draw Jack-O-Lantern faces on tangerines or clementines for a healthy Halloween snack.

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The Power &Beauty of Friendship!

By Heather Spivey

I was a little girl, I loved looking at my mom’s high school yearbook. She was very active in clubs at school, Editor of the yearbook, cheerleader & Homecoming Queen. I would often picture my mom with all of her friends, doing the things high school girls do. She talked about them often, and I knew the core group that made up these 12 young women.

The bond they had was solid and steadfast.

When

After graduating in 1962, many of them participated in each other’s weddings and relished in the excitement at the birth of their children.

As their lives got busier and took them in various directions, a natural distance began to occur in many of the friendships. But they could always pick up where they left off with phone calls, and any gap in time was never awkward.

I was a little envious of this bond, because I knew that what they had was rare and unique. They proved the solidity of their friendships once again 8 years ago in 2005, when one of the 12 was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer. This woman, who happens to be my aunt, was in for the fight of her life. She not only got the grimmest of news, but her mother (my grandmother) was in the final stage of an 18-month battle with multiple myeloma, a blood cancer.

As my Aunt Carol prepared for an aggressive innovative surgery, her friends were constructing their plan of action as well. The group met, and they decided to plan monthly gatherings alternating at each other’s homes. Their sole purpose initially was to support and impart strength to Aunt Carol—who lost her mother the day of her major surgery. Sharing stories and meals, they found comfort in each other’s words and homes.

Aunt Carol was soon able to participate in the fellowship that was essentially designed for her. Her fight would continue, and some days would be more challenging and painful than others, but she was not alone.

Her family, as well as these 11 women, would never let her feel like she was fighting alone.

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I have been fortunate to join in on occasion when these high school women get together—Vickie probably likes it most, because she doesn’t have to wash as many dishes when I’m there. I love hearing their stories— it’s as if no time has passed. They talk about things from making pound cake to grandchildren, to ex-husbands (I can say no more), to mutual acquaintances, to traveling, to how my mom is the only one who still works full-time, to Dot’s homemade cherry ice cream, to Gwen spending time at the beach and Betty Sue canning and freezing vegetables.

Others have had struggles throughout this reconnection period as well.

Nancy lost her 4-year old granddaughter to a rare heart disease 2 years ago. The friends, never wavering, were there to lift and support their friend, who was crumbling inside from the devastating loss. They are also each other’s cheerleaders, as they are all very proud of Penny, who has lost 20 lbs. and is still losing.

They plan their monthly gatherings a year out, everyone inking it in and surely never wanting to miss one without an exceptional reason. They pull out their I-Phones, as Linda the master coordinator sends out reminder emails about who is to bring what and where they are meeting. Martha is the photographer of the group, capturing memories of these forever friends who reconnected for a friend in need.

These women have proven that, by forming friendships in elementary school (where most of these began), through raising children and now grandchildren, anything is possible.

Enjoy the journey, ladies—you all are a fabulous group of women and I am proud to know and love each and every one of you as my mom’s sisters at heart!!

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Small Stories for a Big World

By Kim Underwood a long time, I pictured Sparkle Girl growing up to be an artist just like her mother. She clearly has a gift, and, ever since I have known her, she has been drawing pictures that make people smile.

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Lately, though, I have taken to imagining her growing up to own her own bakery. A while back, Sparkle Girl decided that she wanted to take up baking. She went right to it in a serious way. She would look through magazines and cookbooks and pick out the recipe that looked as if it would be the most fun to make next. One day, she might choose lemon cupcakes with lemon icing. Another day, it might be French macaroons.

I was impressed by the fact that she was ambitious, and, if something didn’t turn out, it didn’t derail her enthusiasm. She might try the recipe again the next time she baked, or, if some other recipe that she had discovered beckoned, she would move on to that. This year, when she asked what kind of cake I wanted her to bake for my birthday, the wonderful German apple cake with streusel topping that she had made was still fresh in my taste buds’ memories, so I asked for that.

Sparkle Girl has also started fixing meals for the family from time to time. All the baking and cooking got me thinking about the day, years ago, that Sparkle Girl announced, as we headed to a diner for supper one night, that she thought it would great to own her own diner some day with pictures of her hanging on the walls. In keeping with my tendency to take notions to the extreme, I was soon talking about menus illustrated with her picture, and pictures of her on vinyl chair backs, and pictures of her, in black and white, on the sheets that you hand out with crayons for children to color while they wait for their chicken nuggets to be served.

When Sparkle Girl learned that I planned to bring up that story in print, she asked me promise to make sure that everyone knew that she was really young when she imagined that and that now that she is 14, she most would certainly not dream of suggesting such a thing. It would be best, she said, if I made that point twice.

I bring up the story not to embarrass Sparkle Girl’s present-day self, but because I wonder whether, one day, the “Sparkle Girl Diner” or the “Sparkle Girl Bakery” will open and we will look back and say, “Huh. Who knew when we were having fun that day when you were 7 that this day would come?”

If I ever had a pile of extra money—no sign of that happening at the moment—I would open a place down the street from the “Sparkle Girl Bakery” called “Bob’s House of Pimiento Cheese,” even though my name isn’t Bob, because I think a place that specializes in pimiento cheese should exist, and that “Bob’s” is the best name for it.

In recent days, Doobins has been thoroughly enjoying watching a cable television show about the people in a bakery in Hoboken, New Jersey, who make elaborate custom cakes that cost at least $1,000 and may cost up to $8,000. Doobins gets quite involved in the process and offers crisp observations. He hasn’t started baking himself yet but—who knows?—maybe one day, they will go into the bakery business together. After stopping off at “Bob’s House of Pimiento Cheese” for a sandwich, you can walk down the street to their bakery and pick up a flaky croissant or a cake that looks like the Leaning Tower of Pisa.

Remember, though, don’t expect to find any pictures of Sparkle Girl on the wall.

Kim Underwood can be found online at www.hisdogness.com 72 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

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Family Fun at the Oktoberfest Block PartyBy Lisa S.T. Doss accommodations inside the restaurant for babies and toddlers. In addition to high chairs and booster seats, a changing table can be found in both the men’s and women’s restrooms, which can make the difference for an enjoyable dining experience with the entire family. various North Carolina towns, families are filling city streets to engage in fall festivals; however, the children too often are unable to participate in activities or games on their distinct level of entertainment. On Saturday, October 19, the River Ridge Tap House of Clemmons is excited to announce its first annual Oktoberfest festival. Catering to families, an autumn-themed event will have children dancing to the music and enjoying the many activities and rides available. By mid-afternoon, beer aficionados will be appeased with food, the wide-selection of seasonal beers, and live entertainment during its “Oktoberfest” celebration.

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At 11:00, the block party kicks off with special activities and games ready to excite children of all ages. Children can enjoy demonstrating their artistic talent in painting a pumpkin or boarding a wagon for a hayride in a face-painted disguise. The choice may be difficult, but boys and girls can mask their faces with interesting designs, such as a tiger or cat, pumpkin or ghost, to name a few.

Siblings or friends may enjoy playing a fun, competitive game of corn hole, or form a new friendship during a moonwalk experience in the bounce house.

Before engaging in even more activities, children will want to take advantage of the options for food.

While a popcorn machine will be present, hamburgers and hotdogs are available, as well as a fireside chicken stew after 4:00 pm. Families may enjoy a meal from the family dining room or year-round patio. Kid menus offer handmade pizza and all-time favorites like grilled cheese and chicken tenders.

All entrees can be ordered as a small portion to suit young children and seniors. Dads and moms will be pleased to find many

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Patrons of the River Ridge Tap House may recognize the men and women attending to the children’s stations. While employees, Kenya Barnes and Kelly Forrester are also independent business owners and will have stands to share samples with the community. Mary Kay and neighboring businesses Simply Tart, Steel Roots Hair Salon, Invio Consignment Shoppe, the Computer Shop, and many others will offer interesting demonstrations, samples and giveaways at their booths.

Partygoers can find samples of apple cider, or go glamorous by having feather extensions added to their hair. RRTH will inform visitors of their catering services and private second dining room, reserved for family events and parties. The River Ridge Tap House welcomes local businesses. Please contact the restaurant at 336-712-1883 if your business is interested in becoming included in this unique advertising opportunity.

After 3:00 pm, the Oktoberfest theme continues in the afternoon with a partnership of food and beer. Kadie Edwards shares, “Our chefs are creating an Oktoberfest Beer Cheese to use as a dip or a topper on the bratwurst. Staff have carefully selected beers that will pair well with our chicken stew, barbecue and bratwurst,” all cooked on the fire pit from 4:00 to 7:00 pm. After a full day of great foods, craft and Oktoberfest selections, prizes and giveaways, and a DJ, the 8:00 hour introduces the Greensboro cover band, the Mulligans.

The bar is an atmosphere-enriched room for patrons who enjoy the pleasure of sitting at the bar, on the patio by the fire-pit, or at tables large enough to comfortably seat six. The River Ridge Tap House is more than just a place for beer enthusiasts. This locally owned establishment accommodates families for its spacious seating, kid menus, and options to welcome families and parties in their private second dining room. On Saturday, October 19th, the Oktoberfest block party celebration will be a great event for the community to see what the River Ridge Tap House can offer, especially to families.

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What Does School Time Mean to Mothers?

By Suzy Fielders

that summer is officially over, and school is well underway, we pose the question—how do moms feel about this? Suddenly houses that were filled with children and plenty of noise become very quiet for moms. Many moms realize they now have significantly more free time on their hands.

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Mothers always are so busy that any free time is always a great thing to have. Many moms love how much easier it is to get house work and errands done when the children are in school. Emily King has been a stay-at-home mom in the triad for 10 years and takes full advantage of the school-day time. She knows, like many moms, “it’s easier to get the house cleaned and run errands, such as grocery shopping, getting the oil changed in the car, and helping my husband with his business or yard work” when children are busy at school. Another helpful attribute of back-to-school time for her and other expectant mothers is that it allows them to get some rest. Emily says, “Lately I have been trying to catch up on rest and take a cat nap while I can before this baby comes in the fall.” Any mom knows that once a baby is born, there is very little rest, so catching extra sleep is a perfect idea!

Another great opportunity school time presents moms is the chance to do things for themselves. Every mom needs some time to herself and to do what she loves, and this is the ideal time to do so. For instance, Katie Jones, a local stay-at-home mom, uses her free time to “read a good book or visit with friends.” Katie also says, “I had to look into a hobby for just myself. I took up sewing, which everyone loves. It is wonderful to be able to take on new hobbies and learn new things while the children are at school.”

Volunteering is an excellent way to fill the time and help others in the process. Some mothers, like Katie, volunteer at the schools. Today’s teachers and office staff have so much to do and very little time to do it. Parent volunteers are invaluable to schools, as they can help fill in the gaps when things need to be done. It also gives moms the ability to be more involved in their child’s school, which in turn leads to more involvement in the children’s lives. Another option is to volunteer at local hospitals or organizations within the community.

Something else moms can do is go back to school themselves. Diane Blevins Smith did just that and was able to get her Bachelor’s degree in psychology while her kids were at school. Diane says about going back to school, “I decided it was something I wanted to do for myself, once my children started school.” In addition to going back to school, she also competed in two bodybuilding/ fitness/figure contests and in an MS150 bike ride. This was no easy feat. As she mentions, “That took up quite a bit of my time, as it involved lifting weights four times a week and doing cardio six times a week while adhering to a six-meals-a-day nutrition plan.”

“Back to school” can also take on a new meaning when children are going away to college. Parents then find themselves as “empty nesters,” and this transition can bring about a completely different set of emotions. Diane says, “When I did feel out sorts was when both the children completely moved out of the house within two months of one another.” Lynda Hooks Culler describes this transition by saying, “When I became an empty-nester I can only describe it by saying the silence was deafening. I stayed busy to avoid the silence.”

There are so many things to do in Winston-Salem and in life that moms should make sure to take advantage of their new free time, now that the kids are back in school. Whether the time is used for cleaning, running errands, volunteering, earning a degree, exercising, or finding a new hobby, it ultimately is an investment into building yourself as a person.

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“Out and About” in Winston-Salem

Dress for Success Winston-Salem at the Winston-Salem Open

By Heather Spivey Thursday, August 22nd, Dress for Success Winston-Salem was excited to participate for the 2nd year in a row as the charity partner for the Winston-Salem Open Ladies’ Luncheon. The event was held on the 4th floor of the Deacon Tower, attracting ladies from near and far—all with a shared passion for tennis and supporting the local community.

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A festive brunch with mimosas started the morning as the ladies mingled and prepared to enjoy a spectacular fashion show. The clothes for the show were provided by Mainstream Boutique, Gusto, Champion and Nitsa’s. The Varsity Women’s Field Hockey Team from RJ Reynolds High School were the models for the fashion show. Local vendors included Amani Children’s Foundation, Mainstream Boutique, Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem and several vendors from Wake Forest Baptist Health.

Two clients of Dress for Success Winston-Salem also participated in the fashion show, with clothing that was generously donated from K. Leigh’s Plus Size Boutique and CeCe’s Boutique, both in downtown W-S. One of

the clients shared her inspiring experience on how Dress for Success Winston-Salem helped change her outlook on life and her journey towards job security.

Local Fox 8 television anchor Cindy Farmer was the emcee for the program and former tennis champion, Mali Vai Washington , from Ponte Vedra, Florida, was the Co-MC. (Mal reached 11th-ranking World Player in 1992 and remains very active in charitable activities).

After a fun-filled morning of food & fashion, the ladies were ready to sit back and watch an action-packed afternoon of tennis.

The event was sponsored by the three presenting sponsors of the WinstonSalem Open: BB&T, Champion and Flow Automotive, as well as Wake Forest Baptist Health.

If you would like to have your event in an upcoming issue, please contact Heather Spivey at heather@forsythmags.com October Issue 2013 • 77

The Artist’s Corner

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1 Magdalis Pena, Hall-Woodward Elementary, 3rd Grade Teacher: Joanna Smith

2 Relief Sculpture Group Project, Meadowlark Middle School Teacher: Heather Dutton

3 Elizabeth Anthony, Reynolds High School, 11th Grade Teacher: Phil Benenati

4 Kinza Branch, East Forsyh High School, 11th Grade Teacher: Molly Peterson quote for this issue

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Spooky Halloween Cooking with Kids

By Kristi Johnson Marion

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October, that time of year we break out the spooky recipes for parties, play dates and school lunches. Here are some cute recipes to make with your kids that aren’t too gory or candy-covered!

By Kristi Johnson Marion

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Mummy Dogs & Web Dipping Sauce

By Kristi Johnson Marion 10 hot dogs 1 8-oz. tube of refrigerated crescent roll dough mustard ketchup Directions:

Roma or Red Delicious apples (or other very red variety) white mini-marshmallows Tootsie Rolls (original brown, or green Fruit Tootsie Rolls) white frosting (or peanut butter, or honey)

Directions: 1) Slice the apples in half (stem to base), then into ½-inch slices. These will be the “lips.”

1) Preheat oven to 375 degrees.

2) Spread the frosting (peanut butter or honey) onto one side of each apple slice.

2) Roll out crescent roll dough and press together the perforations, forming one rectangle of dough. Slice the dough into thin strips.

3) Slice Tootsie Rolls in half (brown or green fruit). These will be your “rotten” teeth.

3) Wrap the hot dogs in the dough strips, crisscrossing some and leaving some hot dog showing, particularly one end, which will be the mummy “face.”

4) Place on baking sheet and lightly spray dough with cooking spray.

5) Bake for 13–17 minutes or until dough is golden brown.

6) Using mustard, draw features for the mummy face on the bare hot dog end.

7) For spooky dipping sauce, fill a bowl with ketchup and draw a bulls-eye of circles on top with mustard.

8) Using a butter knife, put the knife in the center of the smallest circle and pull out toward the edge of the bowl. Continue this step a couple of inches over and repeat until mustard looks like a spider web.

4) Line mini-marshmallows along the spread, placing two of the Tootsie Rolls in the line.

5) Place another apple slice on top to act as the “upper lip.”

6) Tip: To keep the apple slices from oxidizing (turning brown) before serving, soak them in water with lemon or lime juice (1 Tbsp. juice per cup of water) for 3–5 minutes. Note that this will add a tartness to the flavor, so don’t over-soak!

Witch Finger Cookies

By Emily Dodson 1 cup butter, softened 1 cup powdered sugar 1 egg 1 teaspoon almond extract 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 2 cups all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking powder 1 teaspoon salt ¾ cup almonds 1 tube red decorating gel Directions: 1) In a mixing bowl combine butter, sugar, egg and extracts.

2) Beat together with an electric mixer, gradually adding flour, baking powder and salt. Continue to beat as you add these.

3) Chill dough for 20–30 minutes in the refrigerator.

4) Preheat oven to 325 degrees and grease baking sheets.

5) Remove dough from the refrigerator and have kids use wax paper to shape small amounts into thin finger-shaped cookies.

6) Instruct kids to squeeze along the finger dough at tip and near center to look like knuckles, using a fork to crisscross if a wrinkled-finger look is desired.

7) Press an almond into the end of each cookie to look like fingernail.

8) Bake 20–25 minutes until cookies are golden in color.

9) After cookies have cooled, remove almond and squeeze red gel under fingernail indentation; replace the almond and cause gel to squeeze out around fingernail.

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October Calendar of Family Events OCTOBER 1 “TAKE FLIGHT” EXHIBIT OPENS AT SCIWORKS 10am-4pm, SciWorks. The Take Flight Exhibit is devoted to the creative exploration of flight. Visitors of all ages can try their hands at the paper airplane launchers, the hoverport, the rocket launcher and other flight experiences. 714.7109

Winston-Salem Walk to Cure Diabetes October 26, 2013 Wake Forest's BB&T Field 499 Deacon Boulevard Winston-Salem, NC

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OCTOBER 1-29 LITTLE CREEK FALL SOCCER

8-10pm, Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 North Spruce Street.

Told from the viewpoint of the vampire himself, the audience comes to understand Dracula’s undying love for Mina, spanning centuries and continents. Cost: $23.50/person; $20/children, students and seniors; $10/student rush. 747.1414

4:30-5:30pm, 610 Foxcroft Drive in W-S. Little Creek Recreation Center is starting a free, five-week soccer program for ages 4-12. Sign up is required to participate.

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OCTOBER 6 FAMILY FIRST WORKSHOP – FELT BIRD WORKSHOP

OCTOBER 1-31 PUMPKIN PICK HAYRIDE (See ad pg9) OCTOBER 2 GROWING BLUEBERRIES IN THE HOME LANDSCAPE 11am-12pm, Arboretum Office at Tanglewood Park, behind the Manor House. Bill Colvin, extension master gardener volunteer, will discuss how to grow blueberries successfully. Preparing the soil, needed amendments like fertilizer, how many shrubs you need, pruning and harvesting will be discussed. 703.2850

OCTOBER 4 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH DAY OF UNITY 12-1pm, 1200 South Broad Street. The Day of Unity is a commemorative celebration honoring survivors and victims of domestic violence homicide. Local survivors will join us to share their experiences. 722.8173

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OCTOBER 5-6 W-S FESTIVAL BALLET PRESENTS EXPANDED BALLET “DRACULA”

3-6pm, Reynolda Gardens of Wake Forest University. Join us for an open house to celebrate the anniversary of the conservatory and greenhouse complex. Light refreshments included. 758.3485

PILATES FOR PINK 5-7pm, Inner Strength Pilates, 4983 Martin View Lane. Learn how Pilates can help benefit those affected. 100% of any donations received will go directly to our local Komen Foundation. 813-5320.

THEN SINGS MY SOUL 7-9pm, Triad Baptist Church, 1175 South Main Street in Kernersville. Our community together in song! A community choral conducted by Dr. Rick Hendricks and special guest Mercy’s Well will perform to benefit The Shepherd's Center of Kernersville. 996.6696

OCTOBER 4-5 HILLSDALE UMC CONSIGNMENT SALE 9am-12pm, Advance. Consign or shop for gently used clothes, accessories, toys, books, games, baby equipment and furniture. For more information, please visit hillsdaleumc.com or email angelap@hillsdaleumc.com.

OCTOBER 5 HEAVENLY HARVEST 11:30am-3:30pm, New Vision Baptist Worship Center.

Free family/community carnival. Puppet and reptile shows, bounce house, live music, door prizes including Wake Forest tickets, clowns, free hot dogs, cotton candy, popcorn and more!

2-4:30pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art. Find many feathered friends in the fine and decorative arts of Reynolda House, then create your own fabulous bird ornament out of colorful felt. Cost: $8/members; $10/nonmembers. Art materials are provided. Registration required as class enrollment is limited; call 758.5599.

OCTOBER 7 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 9:30am-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics Sports Center, 4870 Country Club Road. Come see all Salem Gymnastics has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations. As always, each adult receives four tickets for our fabulous prize board drawings! 765.4668

OCTOBER 8 GIRLS' NIGHT OUT 5 pm…until! Westbend Vineyards and Brewhouse, 5394 Williams Road in Lewisville. Grab a friend, neighbor, coworker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Just $20/person includes heavy hors d'oeuvres and two drink tickets for beer or wine; or skip one and enjoy drinks or food for only $10/person. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Sponsored by Westbend Vineyards and Brewhouse, Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Woman Engaged! See you there! 866.901.5032

OCTOBER 9 FAIR FOOD DRIVE 11am-9pm, Dixie Classic Fairgrounds, 421 West 27th Street. Bring five Lowes brand non-perishable food items to the Dixie Classic Fair, and get free admission into the fair for that day only. Donations go to Crisis Control Ministry's food pantries. 724.7875 etc. 1040

OCTOBER 10 LEWISVILLE LASER ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION 5-8pm, Lewisville Laser and Aesthetics. Lewisville Laser would like to invite you to our anniversary celebration!

We will be offering discounts and freebies. 945.2076

OCTOBER 11-12 WOMEN OF FAITH Times vary, Bojangles Coliseum. You’ll hear stories that strengthen, practical Bible teachings that can transform your everyday living and experience authentic praise and worship with music. Tickets start at $49. 888.493.2484

HOLY FAMILY CHURCH FALL BAZAAR 4820 Kinnamon Road in Clemmons. 31st annual bazaar loaded with fall and Christmas items, hand knitted items, garden and yard art, unique one-of-a-kind hand painted children's and adult furniture and bake sale. Lunch served.

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OCTOBER 12 & 13, 19 & 20 FALL PARADE OF HOMES (see ad pg40-41)

1:30pm. Benefits Crisis Control Ministry, Sunnyside Ministry and Church World Service. Free, but donations requested.

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OCTOBER 17 COMMUNITY OPEN HOUSE BRENNERFIT

OCTOBER 22 BOOKMARKS PRESENTS LEMONY SNICKET

(see ad pg15) 5:30-7:30PM, William G White YMCA

HOME FREE 12-1:30pm, Bridger Field House at BB&T field.

Cost of Event: Tickets are $50 or Tables are $500 for 10 people Home Free is the annual benefit to end domestic violence in Forsyth County. Cost: $50/person. Call 778.7053 for tickets. www.homefreenc.com

OCTOBER 18 THE CAROLINA SUMMER MUSIC FESTIVAL: A BOUQUET OF MUSIC 3-8pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art. The Carolina Summer Music Festival returns with a bouquet of chamber music both traditional and contemporary.

Celebrated songs about nature and flowers by Schumann and Schubert will evoke particular blooms. Cost: $8/members & students; $18/non-members. 758.5150

ZUMBATHON FUNDRAISER

6:30-7:30pm, Wait Chapel, Wake Forest University.

BookMarks and WFU host Lemony Snicket, on tour for his new book, “When Did You See Her Last?” Send questions for Lemony in advance to info@bookmarksnc.org. Tickets available at www.bookmarksnc.org. Book signing after the event. Cost: $15/person or $25 with book/person.

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OCTOBER 23 CINEMA UNDER THE STARS PRESENTS “E.T.: THE EXTRA-TERRESTRIAL” (1982)

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Weekly Dining & Drink Specials:

9-11pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art. Summer heralds long, lazy evenings and large, ambitious movies. Co-presented by the School of Filmmaking at UNCSA. Cost: $5/person – cash only. 758.5150

OCTOBER 23-37 HALLOWEEN WEEKEND AT OLD SALEM

7-10pm, Village Inn Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. 100% of the proceeds will go to early detection, treatment and finding a cure for breast cancer through Susan G. Komen NW NC. This three-hour dancefitness party will feature over a dozen certified Zumba Instructors, DJ with club lighting, refreshments, vendors, raffle and door prizes! Cost: $15/advance; $20/door.

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7-8pm, Hanes Auditorium, Salem College Fine Arts Center.

BookMarks and the Salem College Center for Women Writers host Lee Smith, award-winning author of the novel Guests on Earth. Event is free, but premier reception with book signing tickets available for $65. 747.1471

OCTOBER 19 FORSYTH COUNTRY DAY SCHOOL ADMISSION OPEN HOUSE (see ad pg27)

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RESEACH FOR A CURE LUNCHEON 11am-2pm, Center United Methodist Church, 1400 Center Road in Yadkinville. The Breast Cancer Research Foundation of the Triad will sponsor a luncheon, silent auction, Yo Yo Quilt Raffle and entertainment by The Enon Boys. All proceeds benefit cancer research at WFUBMC. Cancer Survivors honored. Cost: $12/person. 469.0131

OCTOBER 19 & 26 REYNOLDA SKETCH 10am-12:30pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art. Reynolda Sketch is a series of workshops for art students in 7th-12th grades who are interested in improving their artistic skills. Each 2.5-hour session focuses on a different aspect of art-making. Cost: $25 members/ $35 non-members. All six classes $125 members/ $175 for non-members. 758.5150

OCTOBER 20 BRIDAL SHOW AT THE BB&T BALLPARK BB&T Ballpark, 951 Ballpark Way. Meet great wedding vendors who can help you plan your dream wedding.

Admission for two is $24 at the door. Register online and save 50% with promo code FALLINLOVE at TinyUrl.com/OctBridalShow. Send questions to Denise@ForsythMags.com.

CROP HUNGER WALK 2:30-4:30pm, Corpening Plaza, 231 First Street. Join more than 2,000 walkers to help raise awareness and money to fight hunger locally and globally. Registration starts at

OCTOBER 25 SALEM ACADEMY FALL VISIT (see ad pg45) 5-7:30pm, St. John's Lutheran School, 2415 Silas Creek Parkway. Join us for a community carnival with food, games and loads of activities for the kids. Entrance is free; you may purchase tickets for games and food at the door. www.stjohnsfalcons.org

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Tuesday Wings Wells & Wine Night!

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OCTOBER 26 ANNUAL FLY-IN THE SPIRIT OF AVIATION: THE NEXT GENERATION 8am-4pm, Sugar Valley Airport, 249 Gilbert Road Mocksville. Explore opportunities for youth and adults in aviation. Airplanes on display, presentations include WINGS credit programs, Civil Air Patrol (CAP) programs, remote control airshow, music, food, fun and young eagle flights.

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TRICK OR TREAT AT SCIWORKS 3-5pm, SciWorks, 400 West Hanes Mill Road. Dress up in your Halloween best and trick-or-treat throughout the museum! Included with museum admission (and free for SciWorks members). 714.7109 ROCK LASER SHOWS IN SCIWORKS’ PLANETARIUM 6-8pm, SciWorks, 400 West Hanes Mill Road. Familyfriendly show featuring classic chart-toppers like "Monster Mash,""Bad Moon Rising" and more! Cost: $6/person per show, or enjoy both shows for $10/person. 714.7109

NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 2 KERSEY VALLEY MAIZE ADVENTURE 12-6pm, 1615 Kersey Valley Road in High Point. Maize Adventure is the most famous corn maze in NC that is the perfect way for your family, school, home school or church group to experience a day of camaraderie and fun!

Cost: $10.95+. 431.1700

Check out our website for a complete Calendar Listing! www.forsythfamilymagazine.com

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Friday Night Music for October: October 4 - Jamie Carroll October 11 - Evan & Dana October 18 - Mezza Voce October 25 - The Mulligans

Live Music on Extra Special Nights: Thursday October 3 Evan & Dana - 6:30 - 9 pm Wednesday October 9 Jerry Chapman - 6:30 - 9 pm Thursday October 24 Katelyn Marks - 6:30 - 9 pm Keep up with our events on FaceBook!

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Imprints.....................................................69

River Ridge Tap House...............................75

Irvin Roberts Salon & Spa ..........................11

Roger Marion Automotive ..........................63

Braincore Therapy......................................23

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Brenner Fit.................................................15

JDRF Walk to Cure Diabetes.......................80

Salem Academy.........................................45

201 Media.................................................62

B Bonefish Grill.............................................75

Bridal Show at the Ballpark ........................49

Salem Gymnastics.....................................33

Brookstown Technology Services, LLC .......73

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Salem Smiles Orthodontics .......................18

Busy as a Bee Concierge ...........................71

Kersey Valley Maize Adventure...................37

SciWorks ...................................................48

Kersey Valley Spooky Woods .....................73

St. John’s Lutheran Church and School ......61

Kersey Valley Zip Line ........Inside Front Cover

Stitches .....................................................38

C C3 Fitness .................................................33

Sunrise United Methodist Church...............58

CareNet Counseling ...................................24

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Carrabba’s Italian Grill ...............................75

Last Resort, The .........................................75

Chamberlain Place Apartments ..................23

Susan Maier Colon - Prudential Carolinas ..43

Launch Media............................................71

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Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics ...............55

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics .....................49

Tanglewood Stables .....................................9

Chris’ Lawncare .........................................43

Locke Chiropractic .....................................19

Tart Sweets ..........................................11, 75

Christina’s Dessertery................................75

Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates ...............9

Ten Little Monkeys .....................................23

Christmas Toy Drive.....................................7

Thruway Center..........................................37

Cornerstone Health Care ............................21

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Tina S. Merhoff & Associates ...............25, 61

Couture Eyewear ........................................13

Mac & Nelli’s ............................................81

TJ’s Body Shop .........................................63

meg brown home furnishings.....................45

Triad Lawn & Landscaping..........................38

Minglewood ..............................................61

Triple Threat School of Dance, Music, Acting ............................................33

D Danielle Kattan - Cakes, Pastry Cuisine ......21

Moonlight Designs ....................................69

Dragonfly House ..........................................8

Moore Self Storage....................................63

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Fall Parade of Homes.................................41

New Pyramid Builders................................39

Financial Pathways.....................................47

Novant Health - Forsyth Medical Imaging........................................Back Cover

Forsyth Country Day School.......................27

Trustient.....................................................32

V V’s Barbershop ..........................................35

W Walk for Wishes.........................................18

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Goin’ Postal ...............................................73

Old Salem .................................................17

Which Wich? .............................................75

Old Vineyard Behavioral Center ..................13

Will Wilkins - State Farm Insurance............18

Omega House Family Restaurant................75

Winston-Salem Cleaning Service...............67

One Shot Photography ...............................28

WomanCare ...............................................21

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Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem, The.......65

Hidden K Stables .......................................71 Hillsdale Real Estate Group ........................39

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Hip Chics ..................................................35

Phoenix Grille ............................................75

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Home Instead ..............................................3

Piedmont Diaper Bank................................49

YMCA........................................................31

Honky Tonk Smokehouse ...........................75

Pine Brook Country Club.....Inside Back Cover Portrait Gallery, The ...................................67 Postal Annex..............................................11

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