Forsyth Family January 2013

Complimentary January 2013

Twin City Youth Soccer Association More Than Just a Soccer Club BIRTHDAY BONANZA I PULL-OUT “2013 CELEBRATE LIFE” CALENDAR

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contents features

Account Executives Tamara Bodford / Kelley Carnall / Adele Casanova Jennie Hess / Teresa Hodge / Heather Spivey Brooke Johnson

4 The View from My Section…

Is it Time to Hit Reset?

30 Students Discover Their Potential at Forsyth Country Day School

10 Tracy’s Little Red School House Offers Fitness for the 12 Chow-Chow The Great American 32 YMCA Entire Family Put-On/Golding Farms

14 Your Pilates Place: A Place of Strength & Healing

16 Feel Good Friday at Forsyth Medical Center

18 Seasonal Affective Disorder: Treatment & Coping Strategies

40 Birthday Bonanza 2013 46 Being Prepared for Food Allergies

60 Wake Forest Literacy Program Recognizes Student Reading Achievements

22 New Year’s Resolutions – Made to be Broken?/CareNet Counseling

24 Stress..Wreaking Havoc on Our Bodies/Locke Chiropractic

27 COVER Story: Twin City Youth Soccer Association

Hey, kids! Our newest writer here at Forsyth Family is Raven the horse (see his article on page 70).

Raven is also hiding somewhere in the pages of this issue – see if you can find him! We’ll reveal his location in next month’s issue!

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New Year, Forsyth County & Friends! Don’t you just love the thoughts of a new year? A clean slate so to speak, full of possibilities…ready to write new experiences on and make new memories! We have an exciting year ahead of us here at Forsyth Magazines. Beginning with our February 2013 issues, Forsyth Family and Forsyth Woman Magazines will have a new look, with full gloss pages and perfect binding. Be sure to let us know what you think!

Happy

The January 2013 Birthday Bonanza issue features our annual pull-out calendar. It’s a great place to mark all the birthday and other celebrations for the coming year. Celebrating life is what we are all about, and the good stuff that makes our lives richer.

We have some great content this year, featuring some wonderful cultural celebrations. Our family will be celebrating a big birthday with our oldest daughter this year, as she turns 21. Life for her is about to get real busy as she begins nursing school at ECU, but she is certainly up for the challenge! We couldn’t be prouder of her and know that she will make an amazing nurse!

What a fun way to kick off our 2013 issues with Twin City Soccer Youth Association on our cover! You’d be hard pressed to find a family in this town that hasn’t been involved with soccer in some form or fashion. It’s a great sport, and teaches a lot more than just the game of soccer.

Wishing everyone an amazing year ahead!

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The View from My Section...

Is it Time to Hit Reset?

By A. Keith Tilley

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a New Year! That’s right, time again to make resolutions that you may or may not keep past February. On the brighter side, it’s also a good time to reassess various aspects of what is taking place in your life. Financial experts advise it’s time to review your portfolio from the previous year and rebalance your investments. Health and Fitness professionals say it’s time to remove those excess pounds added during the holiday season and make a commitment to get fit and live healthier in the New Year. Many take this opportunity to join a club, take a class to learn a new skill, or volunteer at a local agency or their child’s school. Regardless of whether any of these examples fit your situation, one thing is for sure, a New Year provides all of us an opportunity for a fresh start.

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We all have things or situations we’ve experienced, where we wish we could go back and hit the reset button and do all over again. Perhaps differently, either completely or at least partially different, based on what we learned the first time around. The New Year is a good time for this type of self-evaluation to take place. As in the words of Jim Rohn (American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker), “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”

This is a time of reflection, and also a time to reevaluate. It’s a prime opportunity to consider making changes and think about what you would like to do differently, going forward. For example, there could be 4 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

things you wish to do in your career that just need the right push or the right time to get you started, and this could be it. There may be time spent with your spouse or loved one that you would like to improve on and enhance further. Sam Keen (author, professor and philosopher, who also served as a contributing editor for Psychology Today magazine), is quoted as saying, “When it comes to love and relationships, we come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” You might also decide you would like to spend more quality time with your children by selecting certain activities that you can all enjoy together. The activities you choose are not as important as the time you spend with them, as emphasized in this beautiful poem displayed in the Louisiana Children’s Museum in New Orleans. It states, “I tried to teach my child with books; he gave me only puzzled looks. I tried to teach my child with words; they passed him by often unheard. Despairingly, I turned aside; ‘How shall I teach this child?’ I cried. Into my hand he put the key; ‘Come,’ he said, ‘PLAY WITH ME!’” By choosing the New Year to hit your “reset button,” you are taking the initiative to create your own changes and improvements to your life and lifestyle. And the nice thing about this timing is, you have a frame of reference to go by to see precisely how well you did by year’s end. Just think about it. What is going on in your life at the moment that you would like to affect differently? Try to think in terms of specific things you, personally, can alter in one way or another. Is it family, career, relationships (on all levels), finances, or an important project you’ve wanted to complete for some time now? Whichever you choose, now is a great time to start modifying and enhancing those important areas of your life. If you’ve been looking for some type of inspiration to make this happen, let the New Year be your motivation. In the words of Flora Whittemore, who, at over one hundred years old, is considered Caribou County, Idaho’s oldest living citizen, and one who certainly ought to know, “The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.”

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So You Think You Know...

Jury Duty

By Ron Spivey

you went to the mailbox and received a summons for jury duty in the State Courts at the Forsyth County Hall of Justice. Receiving this notice produces anxiety for some, concerns about inconvenience for others. I’ve found that upon further reflection, most jurors quickly realize that their jury service is one of the great honors and duties we have as citizens of this remarkable country. I always ask jurors to consider their service from the reverse angle: If you had something important happen in your life, requiring participation in a civil or criminal trial, you would hope that 12 fair and reasonable people would take a little time out of their schedule to listen to your case.

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Did you ever wonder how your name was selected for service on the appointed day? At least every two years, a Master Jury List is prepared by a Jury Commission, which is comprised of three private citizens in Forsyth County. The names on the Master list are drawn randomly by a computer from the names of registered voters and those who have driver’s licenses in Forsyth County. Citizens are allowed to serve only in the county in which they reside.

The jury summons has an individual juror number and a telephone number, so that you, as a potential juror, can call the evening before your scheduled service to confirm that you will be needed. Most every day in the Hall of Justice, there are numerous courts that may need jurors for jury trials, both in Superior and District Courts. Those courts notify the jury clerk at the end of the court day about their need for jurors the next day, and the jury clerk can then determine the total number of jurors that will be needed. The message that the jury clerk places on the voicemail will direct that number of jurors to appear the next morning for service.

So, what happens when you arrive? If you park in the designated lot, your parking voucher will be validated by the jury clerk and you will not be charged for parking. Upon arrival to the 4th floor jury pool room, the jury 8 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

clerk will check jurors in, and all of the jurors will view a 15-minute video about jury service in North Carolina. You might hear additional comments from the Clerk of Court, perhaps a judge, and then you will receive your oath that officially makes you a member of the jury pool for that day. At this point, you might go to a courtroom quickly, or you might have to wait in the jury room. Why? Because some of the courtrooms are in trials that are not quite finished, some courtrooms are completing non-jury matters (which resolve more cases more quickly than a jury trial) prior to calling their next case for jury trial. More often than you would think, both civil and criminal cases end up resolving or settling without a jury trial, just as the jury is being called to the courtroom. Even though you may never get to know it, the act of simply sitting in the jury room ready to serve will often make cases resolve short of a jury trial. A criminal plea or civil settlement may take only a few minutes, where a trial may take an entire day or many days, or even weeks, depending upon the subject matter.

Jurors in North Carolina receive compensation for their services. This compensation is not meant to replace income, but to help defray expenses, like lunch. Jurors receive $12 for their first day; $20 for days two through five; and if the trial is longer than five days, then, starting on day 6, the jury compensation rises to $40 per day. In Forsyth County, jurors serve for one case or one trial, whichever is longer.

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Tracy’s Little Red School House

By Meghan E.W. Corbett

are times when it can be easy to question why certain things happen to certain people; people who are loving and kind, but are dealt a hard hand in life. There are almost always programs to assist those in need, with caring people available to help as much as they are able; but sometimes those places are crowded, or do not offer the kind of one-on-one attention someone may need, or even the services that will eventually make a difference. And sometimes, well-known organizations branch out to satisfy these needs in a way that answers all of our questions about humanity.

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In 1936, six blind individuals were hired by The Lions Club in an effort to open the doors to employment for the visually impaired through Industries for the Blind (IFB). Today, IFB is the largest employer in the United States of people who are blind. The IFB mission reads: “Winston-Salem Industries for the Blind provides opportunities for persons who are blind or visually impaired in need of training, employment and services. We believe that all persons who are blind or visually impaired have the right to succeed in every area of life.”

In its continued effort to satisfy this mission, IFB has opened Tracy’s Little Red School House to serve as an extension of its existing programs and services. IFB also operates a Community Low Vision Center, so there is now a campus of services available for people in the larger community who are blind or visually impaired.

“The schoolhouse is especially important, as the state of North Carolina has made cuts to some of the existing orientation, mobility and independent living skills training, so IFB is filling some important gaps,” said Jenny Viars, Program Coordinator for A Brighter Path Foundation and one of the lead people for IFB’s Student Enrichment Experience, held year-round at the School House. “The schoolhouse is an important independent learning resource for adults and children who are blind or visually impaired, as well as for their families. With the facility, we are able to provide vital independent living skills, peer support and extracurricular activities. For our Student Enrichment Experience (SEE) programs and summer camps, students must be in kindergarten through 12th grade; art and cooking classes are open to any adult in the community with a visual impairment.”

Viars has seen firsthand how truly life-changing the experiences of those involved can be, and that only encourages the expansion of the facility and

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what it can offer to those in need. “In previous years, our SEE summer camp onsite activities were restricted to one room; therefore, the divided age groups had to meet on different days,” said Viars. “Now, all campers can be onsite at the same time, providing essential peer interaction for all ages. We were also able to greatly reduce the number of offsite activities, giving greater attention to independent living skills, such as cooking, Braille and cane skills. One young student made noticeable leaps in his cane skills, thanks to the one-on-one training from Dr. Gloria Kirby-Green; he was more than ready to enter kindergarten in August with excellent navigation abilities. The schoolhouse has also enabled us to host an after-school program for SEE students. Independent living instructor “We believe that all Jill Wilson is helping students learn to navigate the kitchen, from choosing persons who are recipes to grocery shopping to food blind or visually preparation. One teenage student impaired have the right to succeed in recently made meatloaf to take home for her mom’s birthday; she looked up every area of life.” a recipe online, bought her ingredients at the grocery store and chopped and prepared each ingredient.”

For the adults, “cooking classes and art classes are open to those who are blind, both IFB employees and community members,” said Viars.

“Six adults are taking a pottery class in the schoolhouse art room this fall, and the next cooking class session will start in January, with two students already signed up. We will also soon offer woodworking classes taught by woodworker and blind IFB employee Tim LaCroix.”

With help from the community in the form of volunteers and donations, the schoolhouse will continue to be a vibrant and integral part of IFB and the blind community.

Tracy’s Little Red Schoolhouse is located at 7730 North Point Drive in Winston-Salem. For more information, call 336.245.5669; email Jenny Viars at jviars@wsifb.com, or visit www.abpfoundation.org/tracys-little-red-school-house.html.

Donation checks should be made payable to “A Brighter Path Foundation” and designated for Tracy’s Little Red School House programs. More information can also be found at www.abpfoundation.org.

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Chow-Chow The Great American Put-On

By Carolyn S. Peterson

you grew up in the South, or, more specifically, “in this neck of the woods,” you no doubt have had your share of chow-chow, sometimes referred to as the “Southern twist on relish.” This Southern tradition, although not originated in the Triad, has definitely been perfected in the Winston-Salem/Clemmons, NC, area, through Golding Farms Foods and their making of Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow.

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We Relish Our Ingredients Chow-Chow’s ingredients, to the average lay person, are nothing special for the most part: cabbage, peppers, onions. But something very special happens when those everyday items are combined with a secret spice recipe. Chow-Chow varies from state to state, region to region, so you need to be on the lookout, because not all chow-chows are created equal.

“Much of the quality of Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow depends on the cabbage. To get a crisp head of cabbage, it’s important that it be grown where the days are warm and the nights are cool, so the cabbage contracts. During the day, the sun heats the cabbage, causing it to expand, and then with low temperatures at night, the cabbage contracts, drawing the layers in, leaving a firm head of cabbage, perfect for our chow-chow. From there, we only use the freshest ingredients and then add our seasonings, which are what sets our chow-chow apart from other choices the consumer has,” said Tony Golding, owner of Golding Farms Foods. That recipe for Mrs. Campbell’s ChowChow has not changed in the 58 years that it has been made, originally by Bretta Campbell, who, along with her husband, John, ran their chow-chow business until Golding bought it in 1972. You’d think that would pretty much sum up all the information you’d need on chow-chow, but not so fast…

we have done all the work with the chopping of the cabbage, peppers and onions; all you have to do is try it with your favorite dishes,” stated Teresa Smith, Marketing Manager of Golding Farms Foods.

“Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow is the foundation from where Golding Farms Foods grew, and we are very proud of the product, and of how our customers continue to love it generation after generation. We have grown from chow-chow to making items from salad dressing to steak sauce, honey, mustards and more, and with our customers’ continued support, we have only just begun,” stated Tony.

Much More Than a Plate of Pintos’ Best Friend If you are over a certain age, when you think of Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow, in your mind you see a big plate of pinto beans with chow-chow alongside. But as the years have passed, although the integrity of the recipe has remained the same, the uses have not. “On the label of Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow, we have the slogan ‘The Great American Put On’. Basically, you can literally put chow-chow on everything from hot dogs to omelets, to salads; but you can also use our chow-chow as an ingredient. There’s nothing like tuna salad with chow-chow in it,” Tony commented. So it goes without saying, that where Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow is concerned, you need to think out of the box, or more like “out of the jar,” for its many uses. “On our web site we have many recipes with Mrs. Campbell’s Chow-Chow in them. With its all natural ingredients and low calories, our chow-chow is the perfect condiment and ingredient. If you think about it, 12 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

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Your Pilates Place: A Place of Strength & Healing

wounded soldiers. The staff at Your Pilates Place are strong believers that movement heals. Besides exercise classes, they also offer a number of healing techniques, including posture therapy, body alignment bodywork, as well as relaxing massage.

Posture Therapy

By Kristi Johnson Marion article is the final in a series about my experience at Your Pilates Place. When I began, I had never taken a single pilates class. It conjured visions of superstars working out, but I had no real understanding of the fitness philosophy of pilates. As a mother of two, I had let my own fitness needs slide to the back burner... and it was obvious.

Early in 2012, with a New Year's resolution to exercise more and a budget, this had become my year of Groupon and Living Social fitness finds. I tried hot yoga, cross-fit boot camp, zumba, a couch-to-5k running program. All of these workout programs certainly had benefits, but pilates “clicked” with me and is a fitness philosophy that I have most benefited from.

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I began my pilates experiment at Your Pilates Place three and a half months ago. I have since grown stronger, lost weight and even more inches through toning, and have moved up to more advanced pilates classes. I am thrilled with the new strength, flexibility and stamina I've gained in only a couple of months.

I supplemented my workouts with the couch-to-5k running program, for which my pilates training really gave me a leg up, especially in the core work and stretching the group does after a run. My daughter was so interested, she began taking their “Duets” pilates class with me (see the article in our December issue entitled: “Teaching our Daughters that Strong is the New Beautiful”). I feel that I am setting a good example while spending healthy quality time with my little girl.

Your Pilates Place is also a place of healing. The founder of the Pilates fitness discipline, Joseph Pilates, developed pilates as rehab therapy for

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The mission of Your Pilates Place is not only to be a source for empowering bodies, but also to heal. Owner Laura Shelton is one of two Egoscue method-trained therapists in the state. The method was developed by physical therapist and best-selling author Pete Egoscue. After a body alignment assessment, which includes photos that are then plugged into a special computer program that shows the misalignment of your body, then, by using the Egoscue therapy system and her vast knowledge of anatomy, Laura designs a customized at-home menu to improve posture and reduce pain, and to bring the body back into alignment Body Alignment Bodywork “Structural Integration” achieves body alignment by using slow pressure to manipulate muscle and connective tissue, with movements by the client to achieve access to the origin point of the muscle.

Thomas Myers, the founder of Structural Integration, explained that our bodies develop “common strain patterns” in response to “poorly designed cars, desks, telephones, etc.,” and individual strain patterns from injury, surgery, birth, as well as our body's response to trauma. “A gesture becomes a habit, becomes a posture, and eventually lodges in our structure.”

While this therapy is called Structural Integration “massage,” it is not your typical relaxing spa massage experience. I received almost immediate results from my Structural Integration bodywork sessions with Laura. My left shoulder was significantly lower and rolled back, compared to my right shoulder, and my left hip was also dropped a couple of inches. Laura explained that this is often called “baby imprint,” resulting from carrying my two precious babies on my hip around and up and down the stairs of our two-story house for six years. This led to chronic pain in my shoulder blade area. Since I

began regular pilates practice, following my Egoscue exercises at home and two Structural Integration sessions, my right shoulder is now lower, equal to, and balanced with my left shoulder, and my elevated right hip has dropped to bring my pelvis back into alignment. It is difficult to remember the last time my “knots” in my shoulder blade area even came to mind.

Relaxation Understanding that relaxation is a vital part of staying healthy, Your Pilates Place also offers relaxing massages. Owner Laura Shelton is a licensed massage therapist. On staff is also Licensed Massage Therapist Donna Moore, who has been practicing for six years. I was impressed at how she “read” my body when I walked into the room and pointed out areas of my body that needed work without me even telling her “where it hurts.” Donna's specialty is myofascial massage and neuromuscular massage techniques; getting the adhesions in the body “unstuck.” It was one of the best massages I have had and the heated massage table was a soothing added bonus on a cold winter’s day! Donna also works in conjunction with a local chiropractor, but since coming to work with pilates clients, she said she has been “impressed with the calves of pilates clients,” both by their strength and flexibility. For a unique spa massage experience, try their amazing steam canopy massage!

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2 tablespoons olive oil 1 jar Mrs. Campbell’s Chow Chow Mountain Ridge® Honey

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1 ½ cups water

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Method Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

Season the inside of each chop with salt and pepper.

In a sauté pan on medium heat add the olive oil and brown both sides of each chop, and remove to a plate.

In the same pan sauté both sides of the apple slices, and remove to a side plate.

Prepare the stuffing mix by boiling the water in a sauce pot, then remove the pot from the burner, add the butter, stuffing mix and Mrs. Campbell’s Chow Chow, stir to incorporate. Let set 5 minutes.

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Stuff each chop with stuffing mixture and place on a baking pan.

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Roast in a 350 degree oven, until 155 degrees is registered on an instant read thermometer, about 45 minutes. Glaze each chop with a generous dollop of Mountain Ridge® Honey after removing pan from the oven.

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Feel Good Friday at Forsyth Medical Center

By Meghan E.W. Corbett There are many types of cancer that touch millions of people every year, and those who suffer from this disease typically have only one thing on their minds…is it treatable?

The treatment period can be long, and many patients find themselves feeling very isolated and alone, which is why one breast cancer survivor decided to do something special. “It all started in January of 2003, when a breast cancer survivor, Frankie Denton, and two friends, Kathy Warf and Debbie Gough, wanted a way to pass on all the care and love that Frankie had received undergoing her cancer treatment,” said Diane Boomershine, Feel Good Friday Coordinator. “Feel Good Friday is the one time a month that cancer patients, families and caregivers can come together to share their experiences, get pampered, listen to great music, eat good food and just let loose and forget their troubles/diagnosis and treatment plans. Many individuals create an extended family and just see each other this one time a month to get updates and share in services. The atmosphere is happy and therapeutically un-medical! You can feel the love and support once you walk through the doors, and people leave feeling energized.”

Boomershine has seen all sides of this wonderful event, both as a participant and Coordinator. “I am an ovarian cancer survivor and attended my first Feel Good Friday in 2010, walking away just in awe of all the love and care I received from strangers,” said Boomershine. “I recently took over as the Volunteer Coordinator in September of 2012. Frankie had done such a wonderful job for years, but she wanted a break; plus, it was time for her to pursue other talents and obligations. Of course, she didn’t want this program to end and was looking for someone to take it over. My life situations were changing, and it was a perfect opportunity for me to step right in without so much as a speed bump with the program.”

After 10 years of monthly gatherings, Feel Good Friday has really grown! “Through the years, this program has outgrown several locations within the medical facilities and had to move to larger areas to accommodate it,” said Boomershine. “Volunteers and participants have come and gone, ranging from 10 to 150 people. It started out with just a few snacks, and now it is a whole smorgasbord of food. It just happens to fall into place each month someway, somehow; it is magical! We are always looking for individuals to volunteer, particularly for crafts, cutting hair, chair massage, or anything else that falls right in line for this type of program. Also, anyone wanting to make donations of door prizes can drop them off anytime at the resource center/volunteer desk.”

Some volunteer to make a difference because they know someone with cancer, but others have an even greater reason.

“A lot of my family had cancer, but [Feel Good Friday] became even more meaningful after I was diagnosed,” said Martha Isenberg, volunteer and breast cancer survivor. “I think it really has grown and changed through the years.”

Many of the volunteers have stories similar to Martha’s, and the friendships they have created have lasted for years.

“I have introduced many people to Feel Good Friday,” said Callie Carter, volunteer with Hospice, as well as a caregiver for cancer patients. “It gives them space to come and activities they can do. I believe that grief shared is grief divided, and this gives them a place to share.”

Perhaps the best part of Feel Good Friday is that it is open to anyone 18 years old or older who has, or has had, cancer, as well as family members and caregivers. It is a free event that takes place the first Friday of every month from 10 a.m.–2 p.m. at the Derrick L. Davis Regional Cancer Center, located behind Forsyth Medical Center.

“Cancer patients are so beautiful in so many different ways,” said Judy Dobson, cancer survivor and volunteer.

“This is my other extended family!”

For more information, including how to give back or volunteer, contact the Volunteer Coordinator at 336.718.5729, and ask about how to help with Feel Good Friday.

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Seasonal Affective Disorder: Treatment & Coping Strategies Signs & Symptoms: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a cyclic, seasonal condition, which means signs and symptoms are present only during a particular season of the year, and then go away. Most of the time, the signs and symptoms of SAD appear during the winter and recede during the spring and summer. But there are some exceptions to the rule. Some people have worsened signs and symptoms of depression in the spring. Other people experience periods of mania or hypomania—a less intense form of mania—during the summer. Characteristics of mania may include persistently elevated mood, hyperactivity and inflated self-esteem.

If you’ve been through two annual cycles with the following signs and symptoms, you MAY have Seasonal Affective Disorder: Depression Loss of energy Anxiety Irritability Headaches Increased sleep Loss of interest in sex Overeating, especially foods high in carbohydrates Weight gain Difficulty concentrating and processing information Seeking Medical Advice: Most people experience some days when they feel down. But, if you feel down for days at a time and life seems to be losing its pleasure, see your doctor or mental health care provider. This is particularly important if you notice that your sleep and appetite are affected—most certainly if you think about suicide. It can be difficult for doctors to diagnose SAD, because other types of

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depression may mimic SAD. Diagnosing SAD depends on whether: You've experienced depression and other signs and symptoms of SAD for at least two consecutive years, during the same season each year.

These periods of depression have been followed by non-depressed seasons.

There are no other explanations for the changes in your mood or behavior.

Like depression, it’s often possible to successfully manage SAD. Treatments may include: Light therapy. This can be a treatment for people with winter depression. In light therapy, you sit a few feet from a special lamp, that’s 10 to 20 times brighter than ordinary indoor lights, for 30 or more minutes each day, usually in the morning. You can do other activities, such as reading or eating breakfast, while sitting in front of the light. Light therapy is easy to administer and has relatively few side effects.

Medication. Your psychiatrist or doctor may prescribe an antidepressant in combination with light therapy, or, as an alternative, if light therapy isn’t working.

Psychotherapy. Psychotherapy helps you identify and modify negative thoughts and behaviors that may play a role in bringing about signs and symptoms of SAD. You and your psychiatrist or psychologist may also talk about ways to reduce stress in your life.

Coping Skills: Some things you can do on your own can help you cope with seasonal depression. The following suggestions may help you better manage SAD: Increase the amount of light in your home.

Open blinds, add skylights and trim tree branches that block sunlight.

Walk outdoors on sunny days, even during winter.

Exercise regularly. Physical exercise helps relieve stress and anxiety, which can accentuate SAD. Being more fit can make you feel better about yourself.

Learn ways to better manage stress.

If possible, take winter vacations in sunny, warm locations.

Participate in community support groups.

On-Line Resources: Mental Health America: www.mentalhealthamerica.net National Alliance on Mental Illness: www.nami.org National Institute of Mental Health: www.nimh.nih.gov American Psychiatric Association: www.psych.org American Psychological Association: www.apa.org For more information, help and/or assistance: The Mental Health Association in Forsyth County, Inc. 1509 S. Hawthorne Road Winston-Salem, NC 27103 (336) 768-3880 www.triadmentalhealth.org Source: Seasonal Affective Disorder, Mayo Clinic On-Line, www.mayoclinic.com

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By Patrick Markwalter, MD (Staff Radiologist, Triad Radiology Associates) Enabling Your Doctor to See Inside You. For years, one of the main quandaries in medicine has been, “How can we figure out what is going on inside a person, short of peering inside of them on a surgery table?” The breakthrough that first began to answer that question came in the late 1800s with the discovery of x-rays and the birth of medical imaging. Fast forward to 2013. The past century has seen the development of a vast array of imaging techniques, including computed tomography (CT), ultrasound and magnetic resonance imaging (MRI).

What is MRI and What Can it Do for me?

An MRI scanner uses a strong magnetic field and radio waves to produce a signal from tissues in the body, which is picked up and sent to a computer to make a picture. The majority of this signal comes from water, which is plentiful throughout the soft tissues of the body.

MRI uses this advantage over other imaging techniques to look for areas of the body where water content or flow of water is changed due to inflammation, degeneration, infection and even tumors. MRI can also image a patient in any plane imaginable and accomplishes all this without the use of ionizing radiation!

What is an Open MRI? Traditional MRI machines have long had a reputation for being a challenging place for some patients, due to the long tube which

patients have to enter for the exam. Open MRIs were introduced to be more patient-friendly, by having opened sides and increased visibility.

The problem with these early units was one of physics. When you made the MRI open, it reduced the magnetic field of the machine.

These “low-field” magnets created images that weren’t as sharp as their high-field cousins, and the exams also took longer.

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After years of research and refinement, the problems with “low-field” MRIs were solved by the creation of high-field open MRIs, as represented by Hitachi’s flagship high-field Oasis Open MRI. This magnet has a number of advances and advantages over other magnets including: A High-Field Magnet – The past generation of open MRI scanners only offered “low-field” magnets, measured at 0.7 Tesla or less. The Hitachi Oasis boasts a magnetic field of 1.2 Tesla, allowing quicker imaging, with better differentiation between tissues, allowing doctors to more confidently diagnose your problem.

Truly Open Design – Unlike “short-bore” or “wide-bore” systems in which the MRI tube is merely shortened, the MRI tube on the Oasis has been replaced with an 82cm-wide patient table (the largest in the industry), with another rounded portion above the patient and 270 degrees of open space all around the patient.

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New Year’s Resolutions – Made to be Broken?

by Cecilia Marshall, Ph.D.

Sometimes resolutions are based more on what others expect than on our own gifts and goals.

an old saying: “Rules are made to be broken.”

So, it seems, are many New Year’s resolutions.

Do a quick word association. What terms come immediately to mind when you think of “New Year’s resolutions”? The following list was gleaned from friends, family and co-workers: diet . . . budget . . . exercise . . . list . . . broken . . . forgotten. Add your own thoughts to this list. If your list is similar, you may NOT be anticipating this familiar ritual with the joy and gladness that attends other holiday activities.

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Really, when was the last time you actually felt excited about your New Year’s resolutions?? Some reasons are obvious: the decorations have been put away; the celebrations are winding down; the bills are coming in; the gray skies of January and February are looming. There are other, less obvious, reasons that New Year’s resolutions can be problematic.

They make us feel bad about ourselves . . .

New Year’s resolutions rarely, if ever, celebrate our strengths and gifts.

They are usually focused on our weaknesses and remind us painfully of what we have failed to do in the previous year.

They are often unrealistic . . .

Instead of reflecting creativity and imagination, they set forth goals that “should” be accomplished rather than those that actually “could” be accomplished.

There are too many of them . . .

There is a tendency to inventory our shortcomings and resolve to fix them all in the next twelve months. This is generally impossible!

Instead of making a list, consider developing a “roadmap for success.” It may include goals, plans, ideas and resources. It may be written, drawn, illustrated, or simply imagined.

Take some time to reflect – Put the pencil down. Take time to count your blessings and feel thankful for some things you have enjoyed or accomplished during the past year.

Include your strengths – Think of what you do well—your gifts and abilities—and imagine how you would like to use them in the coming year.

Use your imagination . . . and your senses – Go beyond what you will “do” and imagine some things you want to hear, see, feel, taste and touch. They may be as simple as hearing the voice of a friend more often, or as expansive as planning a trip to swim with the dolphins!

Have some fun – Share your ideas with family members. Try “brainstorming” some outrageous ideas (backyard campouts, dinner by candlelight, adopting a whale!) before settling on your final plans.

Small is beautiful – Try making your plans for the year imaginative rather than burdensome. If you make a list, keep it small. If you set goals, make sure they are doable.

Think about how you will feel this time next year when you reflect on the roadmap you are making now. If thinking about it makes you tense or anxious, you may need to go back and revise your roadmap. If you can imagine yourself this time next year looking back and feeling fulfilled and satisfied, then your roadmap is in good shape and you are ready to begin your journey into 2013. Bon Voyage!

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Stress...Wreaking Havoc on Our Bodies

By Dr. Jonathan Locke there is one thing we can never eliminate from our lives, it would be stress. We can, however, reduce the effect stress has on our lives.

Stress is usually viewed as a “negative concept that can have an impact on one’s mental and physical well-being.” With responsibilities as mother and father, responsibilities at work and home, and time commitments with sports and school, it’s no wonder we feel pressure from nearly every aspect of our lives. In saying that, we find that stress can, in fact, be caused by our lives.

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As we begin to look at stress, it is unclear whether stress is a cause, an effect, or some mechanism connecting the two. Stress can be identified as anything that moves the body away from homeostasis. Homeostasis is equilibrium, or a steady-state condition. It is an “organism’s optimal condition for living.” Internal and external stimuli continually cause a body to waver around a homeostatic balance point.

The central nervous system (brain and spinal cord) plays a fundamental role in regulating stress. The brain recognizes a stressor and sends a neural response down the spinal cord out to particular glands in the body. The glands, in turn, release stress-related hormones. The adrenal glands are one of the major glands responsible for making stress hormones that are released into the blood stream. One of the major stress hormones released by the adrenals is cortisol.

Cortisol’s primary function is to increase blood sugar, suppress the immune system, and aid in fat and protein metabolism. It also decreases bone formation. Cortisol has been shown in studies to increase collagen loss in the skin, increase blood pressure, increase the chance of miscarriage, and contribute to obesity. Cortisol is a necessary hormone, but elevated levels wreak havoc on the body. Studies at Wake Forest University show higher stress levels encourage higher levels of visceral fat.

Additionally, stress has been linked to increased risk of heart attack and stroke, increased anxiety and depression, increased likelihood of infertility, accelerated aging process, slower wound healing, and weaker immune response.

Cortisol is higher within the first couple hours of waking up. Caffeine increases cortisol levels. So, that morning cup of “joe” may extend the cortisol

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levels you experience each morning. Having more body fat regenerates more cortisol. We have already established that cortisol attributes to weight gain. Therefore, the more stressed you are, the more fat you store; the more fat you store, the more stress hormones you naturally release. It’s a vicious cycle!

Thankfully, stress and cortisol’s damaging effects can be moderated.

Easy ways to battle stress and cortisol are: get plenty of sleep, focus on the positive, get into a ritual of giving, proper nutrition, proper spinal function, and exercise. In fact, exercise done three days per week has been shown to be better than antidepressant medication!

Additional ways to reduce stress are through biofeedback and mental focus techniques. Simply put, the magnitude which we view a stressor dictates the response of the circumstance.

Meditation, prayer, and relaxation techniques help to refocus our mind and bring the body back toward homeostasis. Our nervous system recognizes and regulates all stress responses. If our nervous system is interrupted in its normal communication process, how can it properly regulate and transmit the correct hormones in response to the stressors? Getting your spine and nervous system checked is of vital importance.

Chiropractic is the healing art that ensures proper spinal function and proper nerve communication.

Only a chiropractor is trained to ensure your nervous system can function the way it was intended to function. If your nervous system is affected from spinal dysfunction, the other stressreduction techniques will have minimal impact.

There is no ONE way to reduce stress. We must use a multi-directional approach to modulating stress’s negative effects on our lives and bodies.

I hope the information provided here gives you the ability to reduce stress and increase and improve your life.

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By Carolyn S. Peterson the viewpoint of a casual bystander, Twin City Youth Soccer Association (TCYSA) may appear to be “just a soccer club,” providing an organization for children and youth to participate in the sport of soccer. But there is much more to this soccer club and its foundation of “fun, character and respect” than meets the eye.

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A Simple Concept with Life-Long Results Twin City Youth Soccer Association (TCYSA) was formed in 1988 with the purpose of “developing, promoting and advancing youth soccer in the Winston-Salem, NC, area, allowing players to develop to their highest potential.”

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On the surface, the mission of TCYSA is simple, but at the core of the organization is a commitment to lifelong results. “TCYSA is made up of three SELECT divisions (Youth Academy, Challenge and Classic), a RECREATION division and other programs, such as camps, TOPSoccer and additional training programs. We are a diverse program, involved in many areas in our community, but we keep our focus on what we refer to as ‘The Twins Way.’ Our partnership of players, parents and coaches believes that everything we do should be fun, respectful of the game and those involved, and lead to the building of good character for all who participate,” said Scott Wollaston, Executive Director of TCYSA.

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For a non-profit organization like TCYSA to grow and thrive, the people behind the scenes need to have a passion for not only their jobs, but for the purpose of their organization. Scott Wollaston, a native of Pennsylvania, played soccer growing up, eventually playing Division 1 soccer at Elon University. “After knee injuries ended my playing career, I became involved in coaching youth soccer in the Burlington and Greensboro area.

Through relationships, I made my way to WinstonSalem and the Twins about seven years ago, and have had the incredible opportunity to be a part of the tremendous growth of the club, and now serve as the Executive Director, with a fantastic group of people who each have their own unique story of how they have landed in this area coaching youth soccer,” Scott commented. It’s the passion and love for the sport that permeates the staff at TCYSA and makes Scott’s job as Executive Director a little easier.

It’s the People behind the Scenes Who Make a Difference “Currently on staff we have 5 full-time coaches, 4 full time administrators, 50 part-time coaches and between 150–250 volunteer coaches, in addition to 11 Board members that oversee the club. With the grueling schedule that comes along with soccer, there’s no doubt that our coaches do what they do for the love of the sport, and to make a difference in the lives of our players and their families. We have great people in place within TCYSA, including Directors of Coaching that carry some of the highest licenses available, so delegating responsibilities and letting the staff do what they do best is easy. Our volunteers, since many are parents of players, have a vested interest in seeing the program grow and become the best it can be,” stated Scott. And grow the program has, by leaps and bounds, over the past 6 years with the construction of BB&T Soccer Park in 2006.

Setting the “Goal” High, Achieving More Than Just Scores It’s with those core beliefs of “fun, character and respect” that TCYSA has grown to 2500 families strong across their divisions. “Soccer really took off in the Triad, especially in Winston-Salem, with our 2005–2006 season, when we had 650 kids registered to play in our entire program. By the 2011–12 season, we had 2300 kids in the program, with the numbers continuing to grow.

Our recreational division has players, ages 4–12 years old, and is managed and coached completely by volunteers, including older Twins players, WFU students and parents. This is where kids play ‘just for fun,’ learning the basics in a very positive environment. Soccer is a sport where kids can become involved as young as 4 years old, helping them to get off to an active start in life,” Scott said.

From the recreational division, TCYSA expands into its Select Programs (Youth Academy, Challenge and Classic) which is for 8–18 year

olds, with try-outs and a higher level of competition with each advancement in the division. “Unless you have a kid involved in TCYSA, you may not know of the high level of soccer play and competitiveness that we have in this area. We are fortunate to have a great relationship with Greensboro United Soccer, where our elite-level high school-aged players participate in the NC Soccer Fusion. Our u18 NC Soccer Fusion US Development Academy Boys’ team finished 3rd in the country this past summer (competing against Major League Soccer clubs), and many of our girls’ teams have finished as North Carolina State Champions over the past few years. Another partnership that we are very proud of is with WFU and the coaches and players there. WFU Women’s Soccer Coach Tony DaLuz, along with Men’s Assistants Will Clayton and Dane Brenner, are active in TCYSA, and our players attend their games and act as ball boys and girls. The knowledge and skills that kids can learn from these great coaches are something that many kids would never get to experience,” commented Scott.

Beyond the partnerships that TCYSA has with local schools and coaches, the facility of BB&T Soccer Field is one like no other in this area.

A Field of Dreams In 2006, through the capital campaign, “Winning Goals,” money was raised by corporate sponsors and families to build the BB&T Soccer Field, located off of HWY 158 in Advance, NC. “The addition of BB&T Soccer Park has been a great asset in bringing events to the area, annually attracting over 15,000 visitors and generating more than 2,000 hotel room nights for our community through its soccer tournament series. Along with enjoying competitive soccer at a pristine facility, visitors patronize a variety of businesses by dining in our restaurants, shopping in our retail stores and exploring our attractions. These activities have a huge economic impact on our community,” said Rich Geiger, President of Visit WinstonSalem. Even as great as BB&T Soccer Field is,

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Scott Wollaston can see expansion in the future.

“We will continue to improve the quality of the facility and look to attract new events and sports to the Park to positively impact the community,” Scott stated. Along with the unlimited possibilities that come with a great facility and staff, are the countless lives of kids and families that can be touched.

TCYSA – A Positive Experience for Your Family These days in the news, you hear so much about the negatives associated with many youth sports. From parents yelling from the sidelines to fights with coaches, kids’ sports have gotten a bad image. “Through TCYSA we, as coaches, have a great opportunity to impact the lives of not only our players, but our families, too.

Since soccer is a team sport, players and their families really bond, and when there’s a need, there’s an outpouring of support. From hospital visits to delivering meals, when there’s been a tragedy in a family, our players, staff and families step up. It’s during these times that you realize that at TCYSA there’s so much more going on than soccer,” commented Mark Simpson, Boys Director of Coaching. A few former players can attest to what they took away from their time as Twins players.

Anna Naples, a former TCYSA player and now freshman at Campbell University, also on their women’s soccer team, said, “Throughout my time with TCYSA, I learned the essence of perseverance, work ethic and respect.

Without these three things, I would’ve struggled in many areas of life.” Luciano Delbono, also a former TCYSA player and now a senior on the WFU men’s soccer team, recalled his time in the Twins: “Teamwork, honesty, hard work and

thinking outside the box are just a few aspects that were taught to me through TCYSA, which easily translate into daily experiences, including the work force.”

Where No One Is Left Behind TCYSA believes that no kid who has a love for soccer should be left behind, whether for financial concerns or physical or mental challenges. Bill Butler, TCYSA bookkeeper commented, “The club has made a concerted effort through its financial assistance program to allow families in need to still participate. Each year we host the ‘Twin City Field and River Run’ and ‘Golf for Kicks’ events to raise all the money for our financial assistance program. We’ve been able to award over $50,000 to families over the past 2 years.” Through the TOPSoccer program, players with physical or mental challenges have the opportunity to play soccer by working with a Twins Buddy (current Twins player). “It is inspiring to see these athletes (some even in wheelchairs) get the opportunity to participate in a sport that they normally don’t have the opportunity to, and see our Buddies’ hearts open up to these young athletes. It’s lifechanging,” commented Scott Wollaston.

For those involved in TCYSA, from Scott Wollaston to the staff and coaches, soccer is much more than just competition and winning.

As Scott stated, “In the end, most kids won’t remember what you said to them, but they’ll remember the way you made them feel.

At TCYSA, we want our players to take away from their experience lessons that will carry them throughout their lives.”

For more information on TCYSA, visit www.twincitysoccer.com.

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Forsyth Country Day School is conveniently located on an inspiring pastoral campus just outside the Winston-Salem city limits. Please visit the campus, and you will discover polite, well-dressed, articulate students who care about, and are respectful of, each other.

in 1970 by a group of local individuals who saw a need for better educational opportunities, Forsyth Country Day School is an academically rigorous place where each child has individual instruction to reach his or her full potential.

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A private, independent school for students from pre-school through 12th grade, Forsyth Country Day School is progressive in its approach to education and exceptional in its results. With small class sizes at the core of the curriculum, teachers at Forsyth Country Day School can focus on what they do best: teaching that helps every student excel in college and life.

“Parents like us have seen incredible results from Forsyth Country Day School time and time again. Results like that don’t happen by chance,” parent Greer Cawood said. “It’s hard to pin down all the reasons why Forsyth Country Day has been so good for our family. One central reason is the teachers. The faculty is incredibly talented and pride themselves in providing customized teaching for every student.”

“The school offers a good balance of high educational standards, but in a warm and caring campus environment,” she said. “Our whole family loves it there.”

For those who are intellectually bright, but may need to learn in a different way, Forsyth Country Day School offers its Johnson Academic Center to assist students who have dyslexia, other learning differences, or may simply need short-term help. Additional student services available on

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the Forsyth Country Day School campus include preschool and afterschool care, SAT preparation, college counseling and tutoring every day.

Forsyth Country Day School also offers Advanced Placement (AP) courses right on campus.

There’s more to Forsyth Country Day School, however, than classroom instruction. Forsyth Country Day School students and their families embrace a code of honor and ethics which fosters a positive, supportive, family-like learning atmosphere. The school also offers a wide range of athletic opportunities, including multiple sports opportunities available to every student, scores of student service clubs, arts and cultural events, and a wide range of other co-curricular enrichment activities.

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YMCA Offers Fitness for the Entire Family

By Elisa D. Wallace don’t have to be an athlete or super-competitive to be physically fit,” said Laura Blackwell, Associate Wellness Director of the William G. White, Jr. YMCA. Blackwell, who has been at the non-profit for three years now, has worked with countless families, helping them get a fitness plan in place through youth wellness programs available at the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina.

The YMCA also hosts special wellness events for the community, such as the upcoming Healthy Kids Day in the spring.

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The Associate Director works hard each day to find a way to help people of all ages find a wellness plan that will work for them.

“I actively work in community programs at local elementary schools and also facilitate an ongoing weight-loss study for adults,” she said. “Each day is different and exciting, which is one of the things I love about working for the Y.” Still, Blackwell’s main passion and focus is working with the area youth. “I love to see the excitement in a child when they work hard to accomplish a goal, when they gain self-esteem, and when they discover what they are passionate about.”

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Considering the New Year as an excellent time to kick-start a fitness plan, Blackwell advises families to look into joining the 12-week physical activity and nutrition program called “Healthy Fit and Strong.” The program is aimed at helping families find ways to live healthier together.

“Through this 12-week program we have seen families grow together, kids’ self-esteem soar and new friendships be made.”

Each class consists of a one-hour structured exercise class twice a week. Since children need to be active at least 60 minutes a day, it is vital that they have a variety of ways to do so. From traditional activities, such as outdoor games, sports and rock-wall climbing, to interactive gaming, the program features a variety of ways to get children moving. The program also offers nutrition lessons, geared towards families, once a week for 12 weeks. “We even have our own cooking classes, where families can make healthy snacks together!” said Blackwell.

For the adults of the family, simply leading by example is the main way to promote healthy living for all family members. “The YMCA also offers a lot of options for adults, such as water fitness, boot camps, personal training and group exercise programs,” Blackwell said.

“I have found that families are more likely to come to the Y on a regular basis when everyone in the family has something that they enjoy doing.”

Fulton Family YMCA Wellness Director Jordan Lloyd couldn’t agree more. “For a family that is trying to get into fitness, one of the most important things…is to find something you enjoy doing.” Lloyd, who, like Blackwell,

has been with the nonprofit for three years, focuses more on helping the adults of the family find a fitness plan that can work for them. “Whether it is finding a specific group exercise class, playing a recreational sport, such as racquetball or basketball, or finding an outdoor area to just walk, the activity must be enjoyable for you to be successful in your fitness journey,” Lloyd ended.

Another avenue that Lloyd recommends to adults is to sign up for a program such as personal training, a unique boot camp, or the “Get On Your Weigh” weight-loss program. The Y will also offer the free weight-loss program, Transformation Triad, in partnership with WXII News 12, in the early part of 2013.

The entire staff at the Y enjoys helping

“For a family that is members find an activity they can be passionate about. Yet passion isn’t the only trying to get into fitness, thing families need in order to make a fitness plan work. “Parents and kids have to make one of the most fitness a priority within the family,” said Lloyd. “If it is not a top priority in your important things…is to schedule and life, you will simply not see the benefits.”

Setting up a specific schedule on a find something you family calendar is one way to hold all members accountable for meeting their enjoy doing.” fitness goals.

The bottom line is: In order to make a family fitness plan an attainable achievement, each family member must be fully involved and committed. “The family needs to know that this is a lifestyle change, not something you can do for a few months,” said Lloyd. By taking this first step with the YMCA, families are on their way to living not only a healthier, but ultimately happier life. “It truly is more important than just losing a few pounds,” said the Director, “it is about living a long life with your family for years to come.”

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start of a new year is a great opportunity to make big changes.

It seems as though everything comes to a halt during the holidays to make time for shopping, wrapping and celebrating the season, so when it is all over, take advantage of all those new “For Sale” signs and see what’s available in your price range.

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This time of year is perfect for home buying and selling. “Most people don’t want to have their homes on the market during the holidays, because they are not as ‘show ready’ as they would like during November and December,” said Susan Maier Colon of Prudential Carolinas Realty.

“Holiday decorations, family and friends, cooking and presents, make for more clutter; and the stress of having showings and trying to sell the house makes the holidays difficult on a seller. In addition, there are fewer people buying during the holiday months; however, those who continue to house hunt during the holidays are typically very motivated buyers with specific timeframes in mind.”

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Because the market is tricky, it is extremely important to have an expert like Susan to guide you through the search. Few real estate agents know an area as well as she knows Winston-Salem. “Being born and raised in Winston-Salem, I ultimately had this desire to move away and discover the ‘outside world,’ said Susan. “After moving away and significant travel, I was drawn back to Winston-Salem in 2006. I truly believe that our city has so much to offer to anyone. We are a well-kept secret, for now, and the quality of life, caliber of people and amount of activities that are available in Winston-Salem are unbelievable for a city of its size. I feel blessed to be from here and even more blessed to have found my way back!”

Real estate is an investment that can be extremely lucrative, if made carefully, and no one can assist you in that decision better than Susan.

“It is an unbelievable time to buy in Winston-Salem,” said Susan.

“Prices are so reasonable and appraisers are conservative, so you don’t have to worry about overpaying, and the market is still favoring buyers (for the time being)! Winston-Salem is a growing city with a great quality of life and cost of living, and investing in the real estate market now is a smart move.”

While many people are still concerned about the market, it is comforting to realize what positives have come from the previous uncertainties.

“The market is stabilizing,” said Susan. “I don’t ever see the days of the bubble coming back, but that’s all right because that mentality wasn’t healthy, and it wasn’t stable. What we want to see is housing prices that aren’t decreasing, buyers that are able to make a wise investment in their futures, and sellers that have the means to sell their homes and move onto future properties. Interest rates are at record lows, buying is cheaper than renting in most cases, and if anyone is in a position to buy right now, they should take advantage of this opportunity before it’s gone!”

Winston-Salem is the kind of place that outsiders think no longer exists.

A place where people help each other, make honest livings and believe in hard work. There are real estate agents who just see dollar signs and try to talk buyers into deals they are not ready for, but Susan Maier Colon is not one of these agents. Growing up in this area has taught her how to be successful while making sure that every one of her clients is making the right decision. “If you are a first-time homebuyer, there is no better market, and I truly mean that,” said Susan. “One thing many buyers don’t realize is that loans are readily available with a 3.5% down payment, and even less in certain cases. Most of my first-time homebuyers have a lower mortgage than what they were paying in rent!

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Birthday Bonanza 2013

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the days go by and the years pass way too fast, it always seems as if another birthday is upon us. And when that birthday happens to be for one of our children, well, that makes it even more special! As parents, we are then celebrating the one day our lives changed forever! This is the beginning of a new chapter, and the passing of milestones both good and bad; before you know it, her “terrible twos” move on to the “terrific threes” and someone’s truck obsession turns into a new playmate—dinosaurs!

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So, no wonder as parents we fret and worry and try very hard to make our child’s birthday the greatest day ever! We want to hold on to those fleeting memories as long as we can, and we want our child to look back on his or her birthday parties with sweet remembrances.

When we are trying to plan a party, it can sometimes seem overwhelming.

Who is the right person to call for a cake, for a pony, for a hayride, or a bouncy house? Where did I last see that ad for a bubble machine?

Well, here at Forsyth Family, we have a handy calendar to keep all your important dates in one place, along with a great list of resources to help you when planning your next celebration! Being organized is half the battle! So grab your Sharpie marker and list all the dates your family has to celebrate, and you’ll be off to a great start to making 2013 a year to remember!

Below is a list of the Top 5 themes for boys and girls, and also a list for parties that can be for either one. Remember to keep the planning simple, so you can enjoy your time with your child and family, because in the end, that is what they will remember—a special day with family!

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So, now that you have some ideas about what you might like to do when your child’s birthday rolls around, remember to use our handy pull-out guide, and let the party planning begin!

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my son Evan’s 3rd birthday party, I was overwhelmed by—and not sure what to do with—the number of gifts he received. Around the same time, my family began volunteering with a great local organization, Foster Friends of North Carolina.

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Through Foster Friends, we learned that many kids in foster care are forgotten on their birthdays, in part because the Department of Social Services doesn’t provide funds to pay for birthday parties or gifts. In addition, these kids are separated from their biological families, and the experiences that led them into foster care often involve some form of loss, trauma, or maltreatment. I’ve heard from social workers that having their birthdays forgotten is especially difficult, given the level of challenges and losses these children have experienced already.

Spreading the Joy of Birthdays to Kids in Foster Care

By Guest Blogger for TriadMomsonMain.com Christine Murray

Some foster families and placements do celebrate their foster children on their birthdays. Others would do more if they had the resources to do so.

And, unfortunately, some of these placements simply don’t do anything for the kids in their care. For example, we learned from Foster Friends about a girl in a foster home whom no one told “Happy Birthday” until one of her schoolteachers did so midday.

Do a family volunteer project. Make part of your family’s birthday celebration traditions a volunteer opportunity related to the Evan’s Wish Birthday Program. For example, you could come to the Foster Friends office and spend some time putting together Birthday Wish Packages, or you could do a family craft to make handmade birthday cards for children in foster care.

Through more conversations with Foster Friends, we decided it was time to take action and spread some of the joy of birthdays to kids in foster care. We were honored, and a bit embarrassed, when the folks at Foster Friends shared with us that they were naming the program after our family.

But, that was the birth of “Evan’s Wish,” and we’re so excited now to see the program come to life.

Request donations, instead of birthday gifts.

Consider requesting that guests at your child’s birthday party bring a donation to the Evan’s Wish Birthday Program in lieu of gifts. On the birthday invitation you may write: “Gifts are by no means necessary, but any gifts will be gratefully received on behalf of Foster Friends of North Carolina.”

You can provide a link to the Evan’s Wish Birthday Program web-site on the invitation, so your guests can learn more about the program.

Through the Evan’s Wish Birthday Program, children in foster care in the Piedmont Triad will be eligible to receive one of two “Birthday Wish” packages that will provide them with either the supplies for a birthday party or with a personalized recognition package.

We hope that local families will consider ways to spread some of the joy of their own kids’ birthday celebrations to kids in foster care through the Evan’s Wish Birthday Program. There are several ways your child can share his or her birthday celebration with local children in foster care through this program. Some of the ideas for doing so include the following: Reuse party supplies. If you have extra party supplies left over after your child’s birthday party (either unused or in good enough shape to be used again), donate them to the program. This can include such things as gift bags, decorations and extra tableware. This is an environmentally-friendly way to reuse items that you may otherwise not ever use again

Donate extra gifts. If your child receives more birthday gifts than you know what to do with, or some of the gifts she or he receives are not in line with your child’s interests or developmental stage, consider donating any excess gifts to the Birthday Wish Warehouse.

This is a great way to “re-gift” items that you will not use.

Donate new party supplies. While you are shopping for birthday party supplies, purchase an extra set of items, such as invitations, plates, napkins and decorations. These items can be donated to the program.

Thank you for considering ways that you might help support this program!

For additional info, visit http://www.fosterfriendsnc.org/evans_wish_birthday_program.asp.

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not to upstage her. Marelis had 15 damas and 16 caballeros, some of them dear friends since preschool,decked in shades of purple to match her dress. While the program of the Quinceañera varies among different countries, some having more religious significance than others; for example, most consist of a grand entrance by the honoree with her father; a formal toast; the “first dance” of the girl with her father; the “family dance,” usually a waltz; a dance to a modern song chosen by the Marelis and her court of honor began learning their dances six months in advance, holding around 30 rehearsals in all. “Marelis was born in the U.S. Until

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preparing for her Quinceañero, she danced like a gringa—an American.

Her cousin, Pedro, from Puerto Rico, visited us this summer and was instrumental in helping her to choreograph her court’s partner dances that included salsa, merengue and reggaeton rhythms,” said Mariseli.

The Quinceañera chooses the recipients of candles for the “Lighting of the 15 Candles,”—small candles she lights and gives to those unsuspecting friends, family members and teachers who have been a positive influence, or “light,” in her life. She then gives a speech after giving each candle, thanking the recipient and explaining how they helped shape her life.

Marelis gave three of her 15 candles to her cousins and maternal grandparents as they participated in the event via Skype (online videoconferencing) from Puerto Rico and Texas. She also gave candles to her uncles, Maritza and Pablo, and her paternal grandparents who participated in the event.

The “Changing of the Shoes” is sometimes performed, in which the father removes his daughter’s flat shoes and replaces them with a pair of high-heeled – shoes, symbolizing her transition to “Don’t let anyone look down on you womanhood, “as well as her finding balance in her future life and walking the because you are young, but set an path that God has planned for her,” said example for the believers in speech, Rafael, her father.. The “Presenting of the in conduct, in love, in faith and Ring” to the Quinceañera by her parents,

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Latino cultures, a girl’s 15th birthday is truly a reason to celebrate. In most cultures, the celebration is called the Quinceañera (one who is fifteen years old); it is also sometimes called a Fiesta de Quince Años, Fiesta de Quinceañera, or, in the case of Marelis Pérez-Hernández of Winston-Salem, who is of Puerto Rican heritage, a Quinceañero. The celebration is a rite of passage in the form of a religious ceremony, followed by a formal ball, marking the birthday girl’s transition from childhood into womanhood, with gifts presented to her from her family to equip her in her next phase of life.

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The celebration is usually lavish, often equal in scale to a large wedding, costing the parents thousands of dollars and requiring several months of planning. The event often begins with a religious ceremony, usually at a church, and then the reception follows elsewhere. “For us,” said Mariseli, mother of Marelis, “Marelis’ Quinceañero was not only about her fifteenth birthday, but it was also about her commitment to God, and Pastor Juan Suárez made their ceremony touching. Since most of our guests are not Latino and had never even heard of a Quinceañero, it was an opportunity to share our Puerto Rican heritage with them and make them feel a part of it.”

Therefore, the family decided to have the ceremony and reception at the same location in the Millennium Center in Downtown Winston-Salem, to make it more convenient for guests to attend the entire event.

The honoree, la Quinceañera, wears a special, usually brightly-colored ball gown—Marelis’ purple ball gown was her Quinceañero gift from her maternal grandparents. The Quinceañera may choose to have a Court of Honor—male attendants, or caballeros, and female attendants, damas, who wear coordinating colors, but not as bright as the Quinceañera, so as 46 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

in purity.”

for the Pérez-Hernández family, was a “promise ring,” that she will “remain true to God until the ring is replaced by a wedding ring,” explained Mariseli, just as is the ritual of the crowning of the Quinceañera with a tiara by her mother, symbolizing that “she is God's princess,” before she is then presented with a Bible by her brother, Andrés.

Marelis’ Quinceañera was full of personalized details, from the hand-embellished invitations to the painstakingly handmade orchids for the bouquets and Puerto Rican cake made by Marelis’ paternal abuela, or grandmother. “Marelis’ Quinceañero was truly a labor of love,” said Mariseli, with tears in her eyes. “You could sense all the love we were giving our child, and so did the guests.” The family was honored to receive many letters and words of thanks from their guests, thanking the family for the blessing of including them and helping them to gain a greater appreciation for Hispanic culture.

Latina Celebrates Her 15th Birthday

Photos by Foto Ramit

By Kristi Johnson Marion

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Bar Mitzvah: A Jewish Coming of Age Celebration

By Kristi Johnson Marion

a cultural birthday and religious rite of passage, boys at 13 years old (and girls at 12), are deemed old enough to be held accountable for their actions and religious obligations. Becoming a Bar Mitzvah literally means, “Son of the Commandment.” Prior to a child reaching Bar or Bat Mitzvah, the child’s parents are responsible for the child’s actions. In addition to being considered accountable for their actions from a religious perspective, those who are B’nai Mitzvah (plural) can now participate in certain religious rites and rituals, and may lead prayer and other religious services in the family and community. They can then take part in a minyan (prayer quorum), as well.

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The Bar Mitzvah ceremony formally marks the child’s assumption of his obligation to observe the Commandments and represents an affirmation of his Jewish identity and heritage. The actual ceremony and party of Bar/Bat Mitzvah can vary somewhat among temples and families.

Jeff and Vivian Smith attend Temple Emanuel, a Reform Jewish synagogue in Winston-Salem, with their sons Adam and Justin. Justin recently celebrated his Bar Mitzvah in September, 2012. In the case of Justin’s Bar Mitzvah, Rabbi Mark Strauss-Cohn worked with the family to be sure that the event focused on the child and the religious rites. While the party afterwards was certainly fun, it was not the emphasis.

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through the 5th grade, where students learn the tenets of the Jewish faith, the history and language of their people. A year out from the chosen Bar Mitzvah date, the student works with the rabbi and tutors to learn how to chant the Hebrew prayers and his/her portion of the Torah and Haftarah, which is a reading from the Israelite Prophets. Prior to the Bar Mitzvah, those involved take part in rehearsals. “By the time his Bar Mitzvah came, he was so well-prepared that he wasn’t nervous at all,” explained his mother. “He was just excited and proud.”

The Presenting of the Tallit The Tallit is a prayer shawl worn for the first time on the occasion of the Bar Mitzvah. The Tzitzit, or fringes, represent the 613 commandments, and also that “We must remember to take care of our community, especially the ‘fringes’—the needy,” said Justin's mother, Vivian. Justin's Tallit was presented to him by his paternal grandparents. During the ceremony, Justin read the prayer on this Tallit before putting it on.

The Shabbat Service The Jewish religious service is an expression and renewal of the Jewish people’s covenant with God. The service began as Rabbi Strauss-Cohn and Justin led the congregation in psalms, readings and blessings. The focal point of the service is the reading of the Torah, the handwritten scroll that contains the Five Books of Moses.

The ritual of L'dor V'dor, “from generation to generation” represents the passing of the Torah from one generation to the next. While standing at the bimah (altar), Justin's grandparents passed the Torah to his parents, who then passed it to him. Then, for the first time, Justin was allowed the honor of carrying the Torah. The scroll is large and enclosed in an ornate cover and dressed with a shield and crowns. “The Torah is heavy,” explained Justin’s father, Jeff, “because our obligations to follow and teach the Torah to our children are heavy responsibilities.” Each week of the year, a predetermined portion of the Torah is read aloud to the congregation; this same portion will be read on this day in synagogues throughout the world. For Justin’s sermon, he chose to focus on our relationship and responsibilities with respect to animals, as found in that day’s portion of the Torah. During the Shabbat, several friends and family members are called up to recite an Aliyah, blessings read at the beginning and end of each section of the Torah.

The Party After the ceremony, a Kiddush luncheon is served. Justin's Kiddush was prepared by many friends and coordinated by dear friend Galit Yosipovitch.

The Bar Mitzvah party took place at Pinebrook Country Club. For many years, Pinebrook Country Club was the only venue in the area that allowed Jewish celebrations to be held. The chef at Pinebrook surprised the family with a noodle kugel, a traditional Jewish celebration treat. No Bar Mitzvah or Jewish wedding would be complete Grant Blair Idlewild Photography without the Hora, or Jewish chair dance. The honoree is lifted up while sitting in a chair and paraded about the dance floor. The meaning is most likely derived from early customs of carrying royalty in chairs above the crowds.

“Justin was just beaming with pride all day for all that he had accomplished.”

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Faith &Family Love Talk for Families One of the signs of a healthy family is open and meaningful communication. Good questions are the beginning.

QUESTION #4 If you had a magic wand and could change anything in your life right now, what would it be?

Talk with your family about the above question and statement during dinner at home, quiet moments in the evening, just before bedtime, in the car or on vacation and jumpstart your family communication!

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Submit your responses by Friday, January 11th.

Send in your guess as to where he recently visited to robin@forsythfamilymagazine.com

Congrats to our December issue winner, Alex Hudson. He correctly guessed that Jesus was at the corner of Cherry St. at First Presbyterian Church in downtown Winston Salem.

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Faith &Family CALENDAR – JANUARY 2013

By Tami Rumfelt

JUST PERFECT one of our weekly WBFJ “Cici’s Pizza Pledge” deliveries, I met the cutest little girl. It was a first-grade class, so I’m guessing she was 6 or 7. She was clearly of Hispanic descent, with caramel-colored skin, big walnut-shaped brown eyes and silky black hair that was pulled up into two high pigtails. At one point during our time in her classroom, she walked up to me and looked up as if she had something to say. I crouched down so she and I would be at eye-level, at which point she turned her head to the side and pulled her hair back to show me something. At first, I thought she wanted to show me her earrings, but I quickly realized that she was actually showing me the tiny pink hearing aids that she wore in her ears.

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I wondered why the first thing she wanted me to know about her was that she had hearing aids. Did they make her feel special? Even though some would call her difference a disability, was the fact that she is different something that made her feel important?

It makes me sad to think that some day, probably sooner than later, another child will tease her about her hearing aids and she will no longer be excited to show them to new people. Unfortunately, the day is probably coming when she is embarrassed by, and not proud of, what makes her different.

How about you? We know for sure that each one of us was created individually and uniquely. Do you try to hide the things that make you different, or do you celebrate the things that make you, YOU? God created you this way because He has plans for your life that no one else can fulfill. The Bible tells us that God’s strength is made perfect in our weaknesses! (2 Cor 12:9) So, if you’re feeling self-conscious about something, if you are wishing that you were a little less different and a little more like everyone else, ask God for a glimpse of how He might be planning to use you…weaknesses, differences, and all…to bring Him glory.

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By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville is it about road construction zones that make people forget the rules of the road, not just common sense rules, but actual traffic laws? At the end of the road on which we live, a detour has been posted. I’m not exactly sure what the state has in mind for this intersection, but for the time being, traffic has a slight detour that costs about less than a half of one tenth of a mile and probably ten seconds. So it’s really not much to complain about or stress over. But evidently, I see things differently than some of the other drivers.

It appears that because the traffic pattern has shifted, stop signs no longer have the power and authority they did before. Numerous times, I have entered into this particular intersection, only to escape certain maiming and devastation from another driver who must have now seen their stop sign as a polite suggestion, to which they give little regard. My last incident was just this morning. Knowing from experience that some other cars are being controlled by street zombies, I cautiously entered the intersection just in time to see the gleaming grill of a Sherman tank, also known as a Ford Expedition, bearing down on my driver door. The terrible visual was then complemented by an ear-piercing screech.

At first, I thought it to be from the tires of my aggressor, but the soreness of my throat later proved to me it was me, screaming out of sheer panic.

Somehow, the mighty beast sliced by me without making contact. Regaining my composure (though maybe not my proverbial bowels) I looked out my

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Driving Etiquette window to see the pilot of this death machine extend his arm out of his window and begin to wave at me.

“How nice!” I thought. “He must have realized his error in judgment.” It would have been a respectable act of contrition if he had used more than one finger in his gesture. That, and the little “fish” (ICTHUS) emblem mounted on the back hatch was a vision that burned into my mind.

As is common for me, I began to reflect on this event to see if I could discern it to be some teachable moment. First off, I remembered the words of my driver’s ed. teacher from some thirty years earlier: “A turn signal won’t turn a car, and a stop sign won’t stop a car.” True, that! Then I began to recall my tactical driving skills I had learned from courses I took as a firefighter and paramedic. Those may have instinctively come into play and helped avoid a catastrophe. Then I just started to get mad, especially since this vehicle had a symbol affixed that conveyed the notion that the occupant was a brother in Christ.

“How dare he act as if I did something wrong; I had the right of way! And a Christian at that! I ought to chase him down and. . . .”

That's when it hit me. The words that a wise man named James once wrote to several groups of people flooded my mind. “My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry (James 1.19).” With that, I regained my composure and thought I might calmly speak to this driver if I could get a chance, but my plans for holy dialogue were intercepted by another, a state trooper who also witnessed the incident. The last I saw of them, they were beginning to converse with one another, though my suspicions are that their words may not have been too holy.

Maybe I did learn something from this incident. I discovered that words and instructions taught years ago still have relevance to my life today. Mostly though, I realized that maybe what James was saying is that sometimes, when we feel our ire starting to flare, the etiquette of being slow in our response allows the situation to be resolved in a much better way. I am sure that the trooper was able to remedy the offensive driving behavior better than me.

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My Radical Rescue

was a celebration after my last chemotherapy treatment. Tammy and my son, Robby, and I had gone on a Jeep Jamboree. It was an amazing fall day in October—the brilliant fall colors had come to the mountains around Murphy, North Carolina. Then my world changed forever in the blink of an eye. Standing at the back of my Jeep, handing my son a root beer, I heard the cracking of stones under tires, and I looked up to see a unmanned Jeep bearing down on me with no place for me to go. I got my right leg up on the bumper of my Jeep, but my left leg didn’t make it.

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I’ll spare you most of the gory details, but the Jeep that hit me had a tubular front bumper, and ours was flat, so it crushed my left leg just below the knee like a ball and pestle. A compound fracture that would leave me in a wheel chair for a couple of years, with two surgeries and the loss of my fibula bone. There were about forty people in the Jeep Jamboree white team, and they all came running at the screams (mostly mine, honestly). They rolled the Jeep back off me and I tumbled to the ground. I immediately realized I was in serious trouble. Hurt badly, way back in the mountains, knowing I wasn’t getting any medical attention anytime in the near future.

I did what my heart led me to do, cry out for Jesus, and there will never be another doubt in my mind that He will come in a big way when you need him. He came and He gave me this incredible hug and he held me until the ambulance came in what took about an hour, I believe. Naturally all those people were trying to comfort me and make sure I didn’t go into shock. The poor man who had left his Jeep out of gear without the emergency brake on was pleading with me to forgive him. Cursed with Joe Biden disease (I’ll laugh at anything), I asked him, how was his insurance? That took the edge off the crowd (he must be OK, they thought, if he’s laughing).

I will never forget, when the ambulance drivers arrived and gave me morphine, I really didn’t feel a bit better—in fact, I wanted my Jesus hug

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back, and I have ever since. There is a place, when you know you are in the everlasting arms, that brings a peace that truly is without understanding. Knowing what that actually feels like is a precious, precious memory. The EMTs put a blow-up sort of splint around my left leg, and off we went to the Murphy hospital, about a thirty-minute, very bumpy (which hurt) ride.

When we arrived, the nurse began to attend me, and they took an x-ray with my leg still in that blow-up splint. When the ER doctor came in, he began to let the air out and the nurse stopped him and said, “Don’t you want to have a look at that x-ray before you open that up? Mr. Dilmore just finished his last chemo treatment this week; in fact, there was a Navy combat doctor who came in yesterday and offered his services if we had any trauma victims this weekend; would you like me to call him?”

He went over and looked at my x-ray and said, “Yes, you had better call him.”

Talk about Jesus to the rescue!

No doubt that Navy surgeon saved my leg; anyone reading this would have to see it was no coincidence that this doctor happened to be in Murphy, NC, that day and had already come in and offered his services. When that doctor arrived, he took command, and it was clear he knew what he was doing. “Nurse, start Mr. Dilmore on a such-and-such drip, so many cc’s, STAT! Mr. Dilmore, I understand you have had a little to eat in the last six hours, so we are going to do an epidural, but you won’t remember a thing. That was the last thing I remember. That Navy surgeon did put my leg back together, and in a way that truly amazed the doctors at Baptist Hospital.

When I woke up I remember asking Tammy, “What floor of this hospital am I on?” She laughed and said, “Floor? You’re in one of the three rooms.” She also explained that the doctors at Baptist Hospital had asked that I be rushed back to Winston-Salem, so I was quickly wheeled into another ambulance, and off we went to Winston Salem—about a three-

hour ambulance ride, but this was a movie flight. Yes, when I got in the ambulance I saw a TV mounted to the roof and I asked if we could watch a movie. They didn’t have any aboard, so we stopped at a convenience store to buy one. Tammy was following us in our Jeep and she couldn’t figure out why we were stopping, I’ll never forget her reaction when they told her they were stopping to get me a movie: “That is soooo Robby.”

We arrived back in Winston-Salem around one in the morning, I think. Tammy had called ahead and to have our Sunday school class praying for me. I was more than shocked to see a large number of our class there to meet the ambulance. As a testimony to Jesus’ love for me that I’ll never forget, the nurse attending me in the ER there at Baptist said, “You must go to that Calvary Baptist Church.” I asked how she would know that and she said, “When one of you shows up here you bring a crowd.”

They were there then and a few months later they built a wheel chair ramp on my house. It’s really hard to explain how humbling all this was. I was a baby Christian at the time and had never really lifted a hand to help anyone in such a way; the thought would have never even crossed my mind. Mike Ham, the teacher, was standing at my back door and I rolled over and asked him what I had ever done to deserve such kindness. Mike told me something I will never forget. He said, “Robby, you have no idea what a joy it is to be able to help you, it’s something we live for. Most people won’t let us help them and when they won’t let us help, they rob us of the blessing.”

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Being Prepared for Food Allergies Makes for Fun and Safe Meal Times

By Suzy Fielders

parents have trouble getting their children to eat meals, but some parents have issues with the food itself. For children with food allergies, seemingly harmless foods can lead to much more than a stomachache. In order to stay safe, it is vital that parents, family and friends of children with food allergies be informed of the symptoms and treatments of allergic reactions. Below is some information to help families stay safe, but not miss out on enjoying meal times and tasty food.

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Unlike food intolerances and celiac, food allergies can cause severe and even life-threatening reactions, so it’s imperative to know how to treat those reactions quickly. Symptoms of allergic reactions vary from mild symptoms, like rashes and hives, to severe reactions, such as trouble breathing and loss of consciousness. In order to diagnose a food allergy, an allergist must conduct skin prick tests and blood tests. If a family has a history of food allergies or a child’s had multiple illnesses, then it is a good idea to request allergy testing.

According to The Food Allergy & Anaphylaxis Network, FAAN, 90% of food allergies can be attributed to these eight foods: milk, egg, peanut, tree nuts, fish, shellfish, soy and wheat. There is no cure for food allergies, so avoidance is the only option. In some cases food allergies can be outgrown, especially dairy, but often times peanut, tree nut, and shellfish allergies are lifelong.

How does one avoid allergens in order to stay safe?

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what foods will be there and if the allergy-inducing foods will be kept separate from the other food. Unfortunately, in children with severe food allergies, cross-contamination can easily trigger an allergic reaction.

When going out to eat at restaurants, make sure to notify the waiter about the food allergies and have him/her ask the chef if there are any ingredients in their entrée that might include the allergens. Additionally, numerous not-so-obvious ingredients contain food allergens, so it is bestpractice to read food labels prior to a child eating the product.

The most important thing to remember is always to be prepared for a reaction. Every child with allergies should have an action plan from their allergist, which covers what symptoms to look for and what medications should be administered. Benadryl is most frequently used in controlling mild reactions and in severe reactions is used with an EpiPen. EpiPens are self-injectable devices that contain epinephrine and are ideal for severe allergic reactions. Not all symptoms are immediately present upon initial contact with a food allergen; in some instances symptoms can take up to two hours to appear.

If a child has an anaphylactic reaction, including facial swelling, difficulty breathing, or an EpiPen was used, then immediately call 911.

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part of the annual Skip Prosser Classic, the Wake Forest Athletic Department teams up with Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools for a Literacy Program each fall to promote reading among local fourth graders, and honor Coach Prosser’s life-long commitment to literacy. Since Wake Forest Athletics kicked off the inaugural Skip Prosser Classic in January 2010, thousands of local students have benefited from the Literacy Program.

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Coach Prosser began his coaching career at Wake Forest in 2001 and led the Demon Deacons to the NCAA tournament in each of his first four years. He had served as the head coach at Xavier University for seven seasons prior to coming to Wake Forest. Coach Prosser died in the summer of 2007, but leaves a strong legacy of achievements in the community, both on and off the basketball court.

In addition, Coach Prosser was an avid reader who expressed how important it was to read to all of the student-athletes who played for him throughout his coaching tenure. It was instilled in him by his mother, Jo Prosser, who was a teacher throughout her career. The Skip Prosser Classic itself is an annual men’s basketball series between Wake Forest and Xavier University that will take place until 2020.

Under the Literacy Program, fourth graders representing more than two dozen local elementary schools are challenged to read at least twenty books between early October and mid-December. Each student who qualifies receives a free ticket to a Wake Forest basketball game.

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commitment to reading,” Wake Forest Assistant Athletic Director for Marketing and Promotions Mike Odom said. “13,472 local students have participated in the Literacy Program since its inception, and more than 4,000 of them have read at least 20 books, qualifying them to be ‘Deacon Champions.’ We are glad that Coach Prosser’s dedication to learning will live on through this program.”

As part of the Literacy Program, teachers will be recognized at the upcoming Wake Forest vs. Xavier basketball game on January 2, and students will be honored at the Wake Forest vs. Boston College game on January 12. Like Wake Forest, Xavier implemented a similar literacy program in the Cincinnati area elementary schools. For 10 years from 2010 until 2020, the location of the Skip Prosser Classic will alternate between Winston-Salem and Cincinnati.

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Lessons Learned Forsyth “Who Mental Health Association Talk on October 3rd, 2012 (1st in a Series of 2 Articles)

By William Satterwhite, M. D.

are you and what have you done with my brother?” were the first words out of our youngest child’s mouth at the age of 8 years old, when she first saw her oldest sibling, 19-year old Brad, as we rendezvoused with him at our hotel room in Washington, DC., on July 28, 2007. Brad was just finishing a Davidson College Summer Program in Washington, D.C., and our whole family had arrived to visit Brad and move him back to Winston-Salem, and then on to Davidson for his sophomore year. Though I was the physician, our 8-year old daughter, Anne, was the first to recognize that something was terribly wrong. That moment was the beginning of our journey down a very unexpected path. A little over 48 hours later, in the wee hours of the morning, we admitted Brad to the Behavioral Health Unit at Forsyth Medical Center. He was manic, and soon was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. It was without a doubt the saddest day of my life. When we finally got him settled in the double-locked ward, with clothes that had no strings and shoes that had no laces, we returned to our car in the parking lot just before sunrise, and we wept. I have never cried so hard for so long in my entire life. I still cry when I think of it.

Many of you have also experienced similar heartaches, either because of your own mental illness, or that of a family member or close friend.

Mental illness can be so hard to deal with for everyone, as we were to soon learn. Brad stayed in the hospital for about a week and was started on several medications to slow down the racing energy center of his mind. He sat out the upcoming fall semester from Davidson, while his sister, Sarah, went on to Davidson to begin her freshman year, now without Brad there. With a mix of joy and trepidation, Brad returned to complete his sophomore and junior years. During that time, he managed, but it was hard for him. The college years are by nature a time of transition and instability, which can challenge even those with a most stable life and mind. When he began his senior year, we felt like he was a little bit out of sorts, but good enough to return. Unfortunately, by mid-October, he had slid into a deep depression.

He returned home again, where the year was spent doing intensive therapy and treatment. It was a long, slow climb out.

Since 2007, my wife, Katie, and I have grown in many ways. We have grown closer together as a couple. We have grown in our Christian faith. And we have grown in wisdom, as it relates to mental illness. Now I’d like to share with all of you some of the lessons learned and the wisdom obtained over the last five years, beginning with thoughts for

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family members and friends of those with a mental illness: Lesson #1: When a mental health crisis comes to you or a family member, don’t hide it. Don’t let shame motivate you into hiding the crisis that is occurring. People can’t help you if they don’t know about it. For us, when we arrived home from the hospital at daybreak on August 1st, 2007, we looked at each other and said, “What do we do now? Do we tell people?” We quickly said, “We are absolutely going to tell people, because we need help!” And so we emailed our Sunday School Class at First Presbyterian Church. We told our friends and neighbors and our colleagues at work.

We needed help and we knew it. This crisis and, indeed, your crises, are too big to handle by yourself, too large for you to “go it alone.” We need help, if for no other reason than that life goes on parallel to any crisis you may have—there are other family members who need you; there are jobs where you must be present. By not hiding, we were free to be who we were in our pain and sorrow; we did not suffer in silence and we did not suffer alone. Suffering in silence will erode you from the inside out. And, guess what? People reached out and helped. Friends carpooled our children who needed rides. Many prayed with us and for Brad. We had so many people sign up to bring us meals that we didn’t cook a meal for over 70 nights in a row. That was very helpful.

Additionally, another larger reason you don’t want to hide a mental health crisis is because hiding a mental health issue also perpetuates the prejudice and the stigma that enshrouds mental illness in a unique way that doesn’t occur with other major illnesses, like cancer or diabetes. Lesson #1: Don’t hide it. The love and the help you will receive is worth it. The decrease in the stigma is worth it. Again: Don’t hide it.

Lesson #2: When you stop hiding, you start helping others, too. One of the amazing things we have learned over the last five years is that if you don’t hide a mental illness issue, if you go public, eventually you will begin to help others who are in crises themselves. I cannot tell you how many times over the last five years people have knocked on our door, often in tears, saying, “I am so sorry to bother you, but I need help, and I didn’t know where to turn or who to go to. So I came to your door because I knew you’d understand; I knew I could talk to you.” And we say, “Come in, please.

It’s no bother. It’s what we do.” As you tell others, people will come to know of your struggles and trials—as well as your victories and successes— and they will seek you out. As you are open with

the difficulties you are experiencing and open with the needs you have, people will come to help you and to comfort you. As you receive help and comfort, you are now able to share that with others in need. There is a flow here. “We comfort others with the comfort we have received.”

Lesson #3: Having a mental illness is NOT a failure of moral character.

Let me say that again: Having a mental illness is NOT a failure of moral character. If someone is severely depressed and cannot get out of bed and can’t seem to find a job, they are NOT lazy! If they could get out of bed, they would. Lying in bed all day, day after day, isn’t actually all that fun.

Try it sometime. Try lying in bed without watching TV, going on line or reading. It is enjoyable for about 3 hours, then it gets boring and frustrating. The same can be said for those who are suffering from a mental illness and can’t get out of bed, or can’t go look for work, or aren’t responding to you in the way they used to. They really can’t help it. They don’t want to be stuck where they are any more than you want them to be.

When someone is in the throes of a mental illness episode, they need your love and acceptance and a helping hand to get them the medical, spiritual and emotional help they need to recover. So, you don’t sit and do nothing and leave them in their misery, but instead you love them in tangible ways, in ways that they can receive. For example, some of my friends who didn’t even know Brad called up the house and took Brad out to Starbucks on numerous occasions when he was in a deep depression.

Another friend arranged for Brad to “volunteer” for the Grounds Crew at Wake Forest University, where the loving members of the Grounds Crew took him in, didn’t ask any questions and told us, “We will treat him like our own son.” At that moment in time, Brad hadn’t shaved in 9 months.

He had a beard that rivaled Santa Claus, and I don’t think he even said one word to these workers for the first week he was there. Yet they loved him in

the tangible way of providing something for him to do for five hours every day. That was such a gift.

Additionally, don’t shame someone who is suffering from a bout of mental illness or berate them. If their conduct or behavior is out of bounds or out of control, you do have to deal with that. There are definitely consequences to some behaviors, and violence or abuse should never be tolerated in the name of love. In fact, sometimes the true and loving thing to do is to move someone out of the home into a safer or medically more intensive environment so that they can get better. That is OK. Often there are times when the loving thing is to say, “No,” to bad behavior and to set boundaries.

And, still under the heading that a mental illness is not a failure of moral character, family members of those suffering from a mental illness typically must forgive the mentally ill person. I know that this may sound strange to some of you, but forgiveness is the key to freedom, joy, and peace, even in hard times. I know many stories of people’s marriages, finances, and families that have been severely injured by someone going through a serious mental illness episode, and I don’t mean to downplay how difficult and devastating that can be. However, someone suffering from anxiety, or depression, or schizophrenia, or bipolar disorder really doesn’t want to have that condition any more than someone wants to have cancer, or diabetes, or crippling arthritis, or a major stroke. They are not having any fun, either. There are many times they say and do things they would not say and do if they were healthy and well. And while there often are consequences and decisions that must be made following harmful actions or behaviors, forgiveness is still called for and is the only way to get yourself, your family, and that person to a place of peace, and joy and freedom. Forgiveness is key.

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ONE FORSYTH FATHER

By Michael W. Johnson

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so, winter is upon us. The clothes get bulkier, the days shorter and the activities for the children get pulled indoors. As a rule, I layer my two-year old son like lasagna, with a onesie, turtleneck, sweater, hoodie and parka before we venture out anywhere. He is shaped like a stiff lower-case “t” as we make our way around town. The slides, swings, jungle gyms and ball fields have all been abandoned temporarily, and so we are typically headed for some improvised indoor activity. There are some of the typical indoor spots around town that cater to the young ones, but they lose a little luster if visited too much.

shoe, right mitten, white sweater, or any number of other discarded pieces to the puzzle. I have sometimes gotten him dressed complete with shoes and socks, set him in the living room, gone to fetch whatever I am wearing, and come back to a partially disrobed baby. He is quick and immodest about it all.

And so, like my friends who are also stay-at-home parents, I get a little ingenious with how I entertain my offspring during the winter months.

My son and I are well acquainted with a wide range of books and educational apps, and perfecting our dance moves; however, we have been known also to engage in odd combinations of retail visitations.

You can find us exploring the mall, bookstores, hardware stores, or grocery stores on any given weekday. As for the latter, I find that I reason aloud with my toddler about needing the most inane things from a particular grocery store so I can have an excuse to be in and amongst their aisles. “So…son…looks like Dad’s gonna need some chocolate-covered dried cranberries at some point and ehm… you can never have enough blue tortilla chips, so let’s go!”

All the world seems to get slower in the winter, and I am no exception.

Primarily I think my brain has temporarily frozen over. It could be that I am a parent of a toddler, and so this sort of thing just happens to all parents, but I am convinced that as the mercury drops, so does my IQ and level of concentration.

My boy is never fooled by my justifications for the grocery visits, but keeps quiet about it, since there is usually some kind of treat awaiting him. Most grocery stores seem intent on feeding into my son’s love for small lollipops, tiny sugar cookies, or wacky erasers you can stick on your thumb, all free of charge.

And there must be some truth to the notion that as the years progress our internal thermostat gradually gets lower. On the wintry days, I am always eagerly and sensibly prepared for staying warm; however, since my toddler is, well, a toddler, he would prefer to be underdressed at all costs. I am what you would refer to as a “hunter and gatherer” in the winter, as one who forages the home landscape for my baby’s left

On a recent day, my son and I were playing on the living room rug, when I breathed deeply and pondered for a moment on the neighbor who was clearly burning an inviting fire in their hearth. It thrust me into a gentle somber scene of a log cabin, a deep snowfall, gentle rustling of threadbare trees and hickory smoke. The scent had a rustic feel to it, but also something I couldn’t quite place. I dismissed it and went on playing whatever form of Robot Spacewar Animal Sound Color Alphabet game we were engaged in at the moment and went to the kitchen a full 20 minutes later to discover the origin of the smoky aroma. It was in fact the once-full saucepan, with what was no longer boiling water for pasta, but was dry as a bone and crackling away.

I actually like the idea of pulling in things closer to home, nesting and huddling against cold winds, frigid temperatures and the occasional infection of cabin fever. But don’t worry; in the spring, I shall rise again and bloom as the dad who conquers all and has his act together…if I can ever find my keys and wallet.

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From the Horse’s Mouth

By Raven*

*Raven is leased by Kim Beane and owned by Michelle Hargreaves at Hidden K Stables.

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from the ground, lik e fingers, or like M r. Snuffleupagus. orangutans also ha (Rhinos and ve prehensile lips, but I consider horse above these animals s in a class – plus, we are muc h better looking. Co beauty and grace of mpare the horses to rhinos, wi th their fat, stumpy what amounts to a bodies, and giant overgrown toe nail curving out of and orangutans, wi their heads, th their red, moth-e aten fur and creepylong arms.)

Next is the esopha gus and stomach, and due to our anato area, horses cannot my in this vomit – so what go es in the front end out the rear end (h has to come eh-heh). And while horses cannot actua regurgitate, we have lly perfected the unive rsal gesture of disgu Equines are vegans with a spoon!) and st (gag me , primarily eating sa can easily open ou lads, in the form of r mouths, roll our ey and grain. As graz tongues out and pu grass, hay es , hang our ers, we eat small am t a hoof half-way do ounts of food at a tim wn our throats. If a throughout the day does this in your dir e, all ho rse ever (when not interrup ection, do not misi ted by humans or nterpret it as a com or the like – but I dig m ou nta pli in m ent. lio ress). Our favorite ns Moving down the lin grasses include clo alfalfa, or bluegras e, we reach the sm ver and s when we can get all intestine, which ca 70 feet long (I’d ha it. We also love gia n be 50te to meet one of the placed out in the fie nt haystacks se lds, and diligently in a dark alley – ee the pla ce that most of our nu eat toward the cente k!) and is (see photo), searc trients are absorbed rs of them hing for the treats intestine appears, . After that, the lar hidden inside. On at ge was the lucky winn a len gth of up to 24-28 one occasion I er of a secret spy de feet. Due to the tw turns in this section coder ring that I fou ist s , middle – I was quite and foo d can sometimes ge nd in the pleased, and did a t stuck, which is ca impaction. When little dance, Gangna lle thi d celebrate! s an oc cu rs, it’s a true medica m style, to can develop into co l emergency becaus lic and lead to death e it . One of my oldes Horses also enjoy horse I used to live t friends, a fruits and vegetables with named Merlin, , es die pe cially apples and ca d of colic a few ye Apples are the pin I was heartbroken. ars back – nacle of horse delig rrots. hts, so if you are ev mood to make a ho er in the rse happy, an apple A He althy Weight will do it. One tim approached me wi e a lady th a Granny Smith ap ple an d a Red Delicious “Which one do you A healthy body we apple. prefer, Raven?” sh ight increases the e asked. I stared at quality and length I looked around su ho rse, so there are “b he of life for a r, and then spiciously. Was I ody scores,” rangin on Ca nd g id fro trick? The answer, Camera? Was this m or 0no 9, t to the show whether y are in a healthy we of course, is BOTH a ight range. Human – I prefer BOTH ap ALL apples. As for ch s art oft s en as ple gu use these s. ides to increase or I prefer non-fruit treats, pe decrease food. A ppermints are the but butterscotch pie us ua bo lly dy m ind sc os ore of 1-2 t-l ica oved, tes an underweight ces are also a top horse, while a body choice. Horses are motivated (who isn ind ica te sc foo so ore m dof 7-8 may eone has been dip ’t?), and sometimes ping into the swee the crackle of cand sends us right over A score between 4t feed a bit too muc y wrappers the edge of the Cliffs 6 is just about perfe h. of Insanity, blindly ct, and just to give volunteering for wh ballpark, I probably yo u atever preposterou a we igh ab out 1,100 pounds s trick or task will of the treat. of about a 6 (but I and have a body sc ensure delivery am big boned, so ore it’s really probably than that). a little less The Horse Digest ive System So, as you humans embark on your an The horse digestiv nual dieting ritual, e system begins wi co nti nu e on we horses will th as the we m alw ou front teeth to clip off th, where we use ou ays have: eating all food and our inside r day long, every da to be too jea lou y. Try not tee s. th to have prehensile lip grind it up. We als s that allow us to gr o asp small pieces of grain or food t humans are alway s going on diets in of their unbridled gr January (as a result eed over the previou s quarter, justified supporting the holid as ays, naturally). I he ar bits and pieces conversations aroun of d the barn about die ting – most people go to a place in Flo apparently rida called South Be ach to diet in a Zone person named Jenn with a y Craig who is a W eight Watcher. Ho other hand, do not rse s, on the diet (at least not vo luntarily) – we eat and love it. all day long What Horses Eat

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iTalk

By teen columnist Isabella Migliarese

back at the past year for me is like trying to watch a movie that can’t quite decide if it’s a comedy, a tragedy, or even a western! It was a bumpy ride that I traveled through completing freshman year in high school—from family visits in Seattle and Texas, to the loss of my grandmother, and finally to my sophomore year at Reynolds. One reason for this bumpy year may be that I did not have a clear list of written goals to try to accomplish. My “mental” list included the goals of obtaining a driver’s permit, traveling to colleges and improving my grades. I met most of these goals to a degree. Looking ahead to 2013, I plan to approach the year a little differently! It is time for a written, tangible list of New Year’s resolutions for 2013. A goal or resolution that is written down is more like a plan, and less like a daydream.

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To start my list, I picked out 3–5 general categories that impact my happiness, health and personal growth. The categories included academic success, overall health, community service, relationships with family and friends, and driving.

Everyone’s list of goals will look different and should reflect their aspirations for the year. Some teenagers might add success in sports, success in music and art, or even competing in a triathlon. My mom would like me to add the

category of “keeping the house clean,” but that is not a goal I can typically achieve!

Armed with my list of categories, I proceeded to craft at least 1–2 goals for each area, including the “what,” “how,” and “when” details to make them easy to measure. The “what” portion of the resolution is an objective event or accomplishment; the “how” is the method or process needed to make progress toward each goal; the “when” is a target date for competition, or at least reassessment and revision of the goal. Here’s what one of my resolutions looks like: Academic Success What – Making the A/B honor roll.

How – By not procrastinating. By studying and completing my homework before I get too tired and become less motivated.

When – The next two quarters of the school year.

I plan to review my list once a month and revise the goals that need adjusting, and hopefully add new ones as the year progresses. I will probably spend most of my energy on my driving goal to start the year. Maybe I will reconsider adding a “clean room” goal later in the year! I’m looking ahead to a smooth road through 2013. I hope all the families in Forsyth County had a wonderful holiday break!

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By Heather Spivey in early November, running all the way to January, we see these unusual-looking trucks around town: leaf vacuum trucks that suck up the neighborhood fall foliage that residents take to the curb. It’s a pretty neat service the city offers, and the trucks are quite nifty, too, especially to our 5-year-old son, who has been enthralled with these trucks since he was 2. When he started Kindergarten this year, he was so disappointed that he missed pick up at our house—but I surprised him by snapping a few shots of the collection process.

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There are typically 3 city workers per truck, each with a specific duty. There is a giant black hose and trailer that attaches to a dump truck; one of the workers navigates the hose, sucking up and crunching the leaves. The other worker continuously rakes the leaves towards the hose and the other worker is driving the truck. It takes good team work to perform these tasks efficiently.

You may notice sometimes just the vacuum device sitting on the side of the road and wonder, “Where are the trucks they were attached to?” The trucks have gotten so full they need to go dump their leaves and come back. But where are they taking these leaves?

Being the devoted mom, I have followed the trucks per my son’s request and found that they go to a transfer station near the Fairgrounds. This transfer station only accepts leaves from the city sanitation crews during the leaf season—it is used as a temporary holding site for the collected leaves on the northern side of the city, according to the City of Winston-Salem. The leaves are then transferred to the Reynolds Park permanent site, where they are recycled through a natural organic process into leaf mulch. The mulch is available for use by the City of Winston-Salem and is also offered free of charge to citizens. Be sure to check out the times the leaf mulch is available on the city’s website.

So, the next time your little one is curious about something, my advice is to just go with it. In this case, I learned a lot about our city workers and city services, and in the process satisfied our son’s curiosity as well.

“Out and About” in Winston-Salem

November 16th the 7th annual March of Dimes Signature Chef’s Auction was held at the Embassy Suites in downtown Winston-Salem.

There were around 350 guests who gathered to enjoy the local flavor, prepared by many of our fabulous chefs from 1703, Diamondback Grille, Finnigan’s Wake, Foothills Brewery, Five Points, Firebirds, Milner’s, Fourth Street Filling Station, Meridian, W-S Prime, Spring House, Dinners on the Porch, Piedmont Club, 2520 Tavern, Village Tavern and dessert by Dewey’s. The chefs also generously donated wonderful packages for the live auction.

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March of Dimes Signature Chef’s Auction The Honorary Co-chairs were CEO Steve Williams,

By Heather Spivey

WilcoHess; and Steve Hall, CEO of Lowes Foods; Sara-Peyton McCormick was the Event Chair. The 2012 Ambassador Family was Linwood and Ceci Davis. They shared their personal story about their daughter, Caroline’s, premature birth and how the March of Dimes funding led to advancements in care for premature infants.

As guests enjoyed the fabulous array of foods and cocktails, they mingled through the silent auction that was provided by many of the local establishments. The event raised approximately $127,000 for the greater Triad Division of March of Dimes.

The March of Dimes helps moms have full-term pregnancies and healthy babies. 2013 is a special year for the organization, as they celebrate their 75th Anniversary.

More than 4 million babies are born in the United States each year and the March of Dimes has helped every one of them through research, education, vaccines and breakthroughs. For more information on events with the March of Dimes, visit www.marchofdimes.com

If you would like to have your event in an upcoming issue,please contact Heather Spivey at heather@forsythmags.com January Issue 2013 • 73

Small Stories for a Big World

By Kim Underwood wedding-ring hand is also my throwing hand. One day, while playing dodge ball with Sparkle Girl and Doobins in the front yard, my wedding ring shot off the end of my finger when I threw the ball. As it happened, I saw the ring fly through the air and land in the grass a foot or so from the rock border that separates the garden from the grass.

My

Well, that was lucky, I thought. I could have had no idea where it flew. But I know exactly where it is. I took care not to take my eyes off the spot as I told Sparkle Girl and Doobins what had happened and walked over. What I expected to be a straightforward rummage in the grass turned up nothing. Hmmm. A more thorough search that included Sparkle Girl and Doobins proved no more successful. Rats.

The search party soon grew to include Garnet and our next-door neighbor, Scotty. The radius of the search grew well beyond the area where it seemed reasonable for the ring to be. I got a rake and raked. Still nothing. Eventually, the search party dispersed.

For the next few days, I would periodically go back out and look around for a while. When mowing day came, I pushed more slowly than usual, keeping an eye just in the front of the mower in hopes of spotting the ring glistening in the sun before I ran over it and the ring shot into the sky, landing who-knows-where? I didn’t spot it. Nor did I hear the sound of the blade striking metal.

I ordered the new ring a half-size smaller. As the days passed, I thought about it less and less, although I did wonder from time to time whether it might show up one day. When I worked for the

newspaper, I once wrote a story about a woman who was reunited with her wedding ring years later when the people who had bought the house from the woman and her husband came upon it while doing some landscaping.

Doobins likes to make things and, one day, he made a long plastic-link chain by stringing together a number of shorter Lego chains. Sometimes, he would twirl it so that it would wrap around his index finger. Even more fun was twirling it in a space-guzzling way that inevitably led to some other family member complaining that he was going to hit somebody with that if he wasn’t more careful. Either way, it proved to be a most-satisfying accessory.

Spotting him carrying it as he headed toward the front door one day, Garnet said, “Don’t take that outside. You might lose it.”

“No, I won’t,” he said. When he came back in, he no longer had the chain. As we searched the front yard, I thought maybe this would be the day that my errant wedding ring would show up. It wasn’t. No chain either. The chain was long enough that I thought, surely, it has to turn up when I mow the grass. Either I will find it before I run over it or I will see it shoot into the sky. Nope.

Not long after that, the dryer started eating way more socks than it usually does. It could be a coincidence but I can’t help thinking that seeing what the lawn got away with gave the dryer ideas: “If the yard can get away with absconding with Doobins’ chain, what’s to stop me from stealing some of those delightfully colorful socks that Sparkle Girl just got?”

Nothing, apparently.

Kim Underwood can be found online at www.hisdogness.com

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The Artist’s Corner

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1 Julianna Costa, 10th Grade, RJ Reynolds School Teacher: Phil Benenati

2 Katie Thomas, Jefferson Middle School Teacher: Allison Pegram quote for this issue

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4 Drew Brownlee, 5th Grade, Rural Hall Elementary School Teacher: Henri Moss

Asian Creations

By Emily Eileen Carter the rich comfort foods of the holidays, you might be ready for a change. Why not start a new year's tradition to stretch your cooking repertoire by creating these Asian dishes in your own kitchen?

These flavorful dishes are a twist on traditional cooking and will start your New Year with a bang!

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SOBA NOODLES WITH BROCCOLI AND CHICKEN 6 oz. uncooked soba (buckwheat noodles) ¼ cup rice wine or dry sherry 3 Tablespoons soy sauce 2 Tablespoons rice vinegar 1 teaspoon honey ½ teaspoon crushed red pepper 2 Tablespoons vegetable oil, divided ¼ pound chicken breast tenders, cut into 1-inch cubes 1½ teaspoon sesame oil 2 cups quartered mushrooms 2 cups broccoli florets 1 cup red bell pepper, cut into strips 1 Tablespoon ginger, chopped finely 1 garlic cloves, minced Directions: 1. Cook noodles according to package directions.

2. Whisk rice vinegar and next 4 ingredients (through red pepper) in small bowl, set aside.

3. Heat 1 Tablespoon vegetable oil in a large nonstick skillet on medium-high heat. Add chicken and cook four minutes or until done.

Remove chicken from the pan, keep warm.

4. Heat remaining vegetable oil and sesame oil in the pan and add mushrooms and remaining ingredients. Stir-fry 4 minutes or until broccoli is tender.

5. Return chicken to the pan, stir in rice vinegar mixture from step 2, and cook 1 minute or until thoroughly heated.

6. Serve over soba noodles.

ASIAN FRENCH FRIES WITH PEANUT SAUCE

By Kat Bodrie 1 package extra-firm tofu 4 Tbsp. cornstarch 5-6 Tbsp. vegetable oil 3 Tbsp. peanut butter 9 Tbsp. skim milk or soy milk 3 tsp. garlic powder 3 tsp. soy sauce 3 Tbsp. chili sauce or ketchup 3 dashes chili flakes Salt and pepper to taste Directions: 1. Press tofu for 15–30 minutes between two paper towel-lined plates, using cans to weigh down the top plate.

2. Cut tofu into rectangular strips: ½ inch wide, ½ inch deep, and 2 inches long.

3. Toss tofu in cornstarch, coating evenly. Add more cornstarch if needed.

4. Heat oil in a wok or large pan over mediumhigh heat.

5. Fry the tofu in batches, making sure all sides are lightly browned.

6. Drain fried tofu on paper towels.

7. In the meantime, heat the peanut butter and milk over the stove or in the microwave, stirring well.

8. Add the seasonings. You can use more to taste. Mix well. Serve warm.

½ lb. ground pork ¼ cup scallions, finely chopped 2 Tbsp finely chopped red bell pepper 1 egg, lightly beaten 2 tsp ketchup 1 tsp yellow mustard 2 tsp Worcestershire sauce 1 tsp light brown sugar 1½ tsp kosher salt ½ tsp freshly ground black pepper ¼ tsp cayenne pepper 35 to 40 small wonton wrappers Water, for sealing wontons 3 to 4 Tbsp vegetable oil, for frying 1 cup chicken stock, divided Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 200 degrees F. 2. Combine the first 11 ingredients in a medium-size mixing bowl (pork through cayenne). Set aside.

3. To form the dumplings, remove 1 wonton wrapper from the package, covering the others with a damp cloth. Brush 2 of the edges of the wrapper lightly with water. Place ½ rounded teaspoon of the pork mixture in the center of the wrapper. Fold over, seal edges, and shape as desired. Set on a sheet pan and cover with a damp cloth. Repeat procedure until all of the filling is gone.

4. Heat a 12-inch sauté pan over medium heat.

Brush with vegetable oil once hot.

5. Add 8 to 10 potstickers at a time to the pan and cook for 2 minutes, without touching.

6. Once the 2 minutes are up, gently add one third cup chicken stock to the pan, turn the heat down to low, cover, and cook for another 2 minutes.

7. Remove wontons to a heatproof platter and place in the warm oven.

8. Clean the pan in between batches by pouring in water and allowing the pan to deglaze. Repeat until all the wontons are cooked. Serve immediately.

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January Calendar of Family JANUARY THROUGH JANUARY 12 DINOSAURS! SciWorks. By popular demand, your favorite prehistoric reptiles are BACK! Immerse yourself in an exhibit featuring animatronic models of T-Rex, Stegosaurus, Triceratops and many more! These robots move with incredibly life-like motion as they roar, feed, fight and care for their young. Note: There is a $1 surcharge for both members and non-members. Visit HYPERLINK "http://www.sciworks.org/"www.sciworks.org for more information.

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JANUARY 9 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-12pm, Kernersville Family YMCA, 1113 West Mountain Street in Kernersville. Grab a friend and the kids for a morning of fun and play at the Kernersville Family YMCA! Activity stations, free play, bounce house, arts and crafts, games and facility tours available. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board drawing which will include a special drawing for a 3-month membership! Sponsored by Forsyth Family Magazine and Kernersville Family YMCA.

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1-2pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio. We are offering a free class once a month to everyone in the community. This is a perfect opportunity for those who are brand new to yoga to find out what this is all about! No pre-registration necessary - just show up. We encourage participants to bring non-perishable food items donation for the Clemmons Food Pantry. 778.1233

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JANUARY 5 “A FAIRY TALE SERIES” PRESENTED BY W-S FESTIVAL BALLET

JANUARY 14 FORSYTH PIECERS AND QUILTERS GUILD MEETING

11am-12:30pm, Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 N. Spruce Street. This one act production of Jack and the Beanstalk, The Three Little Pigs and Hansel and Gretel is designed specifically for the delight of young people! A parade of characters and special themed activities are planned prior to each performance for photo and autograph opportunities. Cost: $12 Regular; $40 Family Fun Pack; $10 Student Rush (15 minutes prior to show with student ID). 747.1414

JANUARY 6-MARCH 30 TWO PAINTY LADIES Angelina's Tea Shoppe, 125 S. Stratford Road. Tea and Talent at Angelina’s Tea Shoppe. Enjoy paintings by Rose Ann Wade and Laura A. Reynolds. Reception February 9th from 2-4pm. 768.4112

JANUARY 8 IMPRINTS SCHOOL CHOICE FAIR (see pg67) 10am-12 noon St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, Calhoun Room, 520 Summit Street If you're the parent of a preschooler in Forsyth County, you're probably wondering which elementary school will be the best fit for your child. Imprints has the answer!

FREE event but please register at www.ImprintsForFamilies.org

6:30-8:30pm, Parkway Presbyterian Church, 1000 Yorkshire Road. "Modern Fabric Group Therapy" will be presented by former quilt shop owner Karen Gray. She will be discussing her process for selecting a color palette for New Sewing Pattern concepts. Karen will share a trunk show of her projects. 724.9509

TEACHING THE WORLD TO SING 7-9:30pm, First Presbyterian Church, 611 Oakhurst Street in Kernersville. All over the globe, Sweet Adelines International choruses are joining together to teach the world to sing. As a member, you too can experience the exhilaration of performing and singing with GTSC. Any woman of average singing ability, with or without vocal training, will find a part that fits her voice range with the help of the chorus’ musical leaders and director(s).

706.1209

JANUARY 15-FEBRUARY 5 COMMUNITY GARDEN MENTOR TRAINING 6pm-9pm, Forsyth Cooperative Extension, 1450 Fairchild Road in W-S. Train to become a mentor to a community garden. The goal is to match people who have practical, hands-on vegetable gardening experience with gardening groups in order to help support community gardens in Forsyth County. 703.2850

JANUARY 16 WINTER WALK 11am-12pm, Arboretum at Tanglewood Park, 4201 Manor House Circle in Clemmons. Toby Bost of Bost Consulting and former Arboretum Director will lead us in an informative walk through the Arboretum, identifying different trees and some shrubs. He will be discussing the attributes of each tree or shrub and how they are significant having winter interest in your home landscape.

703.2850

JANUARY 19 ASTRONOMY OBSERVATION 6:30-8:30pm, SciWorks. Join Forsyth Astronomical Society for an observation in the SciWorks parking lot. Admission is free, and telescopes will be provided. Visit www.sciworks.org for more information.

JANUARY 20 THE SACRALITY OF SOUND IN HINDUISM: A WORKSHOP WITH TANISHA RAMACHANDRAN 3:30-5:30pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio. The multi-sensory dimension of Hindu religious worship (puja) is apparent from amalgamation of smells, sights and sounds that saturate your senses. This workshop will examine the importance of sound in Hindu worship and discuss the relationship between sight, sound and posture.

Cost: $25 (or $20 before 1/13). 778.1233

JANUARY 26-MARCH 30 AFRICAN AMERICAN SCIENTISTS AND INVENTORS EXHIBIT SciWorks. Modern versions of the discoveries and inventions of these well- and lesser-known African American innovators will be on display, as well as graphics panels with information about each of the featured scientists. Visit www.sciworks.org for more information.

JANUARY 27 KEVA BUILDING CONTEST 2pm, SciWorks. Who can build the tallest KEVA structure (that STAYS standing!) in a given time period? We’ll find out! Join us for some construction fun and a chance to win great prizes. Visit www.sciworks.org for more information.

JANUARY 29 MS EDUCATION LINK EVENT (see ad pg 7) 6:30pm, Bleu Restaurant & Bar. Light meal served. Share information about multiple sclerosis (MS) and learn about a prescription treatment option and connect with people in your community living with MS. Space is limited. Please RSVP by calling 1-800-973-0362

JANUARY 31 FORSYTH COUNTRY DAY SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE (see article pg30) 9am

GIRLS' NIGHT OUT 5pm…until! Five Points, 109 South Stratford Road. Calling all brides! January’s Girls' Night Out is designed especially for you! If you are recently engaged, stop by to receive TWO extra tickets for our prize boards as well as our newest issue of Forsyth Woman Engaged! Also, the first 10

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Events SUNDAYS FITPRAISE 2:30pm, Women's Wellness & Fitness Center in W-S. Workout to contemporary Christian music with devotion and prayer! Designed for women of all ages and fitness levels. Participation is FREE and open to members and non-members. Call 760.0030 for more information.

MONDAYS GTC OPEN REHEARSALS 7-10pm, First Presbyterian Church, 611 Oakhurst Street is holding open rehearsals. Part of Sweet Adelines International, a highly respected worldwide organization of women singers, GTC’s members share a love for singing a cappella music in the barbershop style, and we are committed to advancing the musical art form of barbershop harmony through education and performance.

No cost to visit; membership dues upon acceptance.

Contact Cindy at 706.1209, or visit www.goldentriadchorus.org.

MONDAYS & TUESDAYS SHAG LESSONS 7pm. Shag Lessons with Vicky Chambers. Contact Vicky at 989.0156 for more information.

FOURTH TUESDAYS NEWCOMERS & NEIGHBORS OF W-S 10-11:30am, Trinity Presbyterian Church, 1616 Bolton Street. An opportunity to meet people and learn about the area. Interest groups include Book Group, Lunch Bunch, Bridge, Cards, Crafts, Dinner and Wine Groups. You do not have to be new to the area to join. Free initial meeting; $35 annual dues. Call 245.8046 for information.

WEDNESDAYS HULA HOOP FITNESS CLASS 6:30-7:30pm, Women's Wellness, 690 Jonestown Road.

Hula hoop cardio classes called "Hoopdio" are all about having FUN while you tone your entire body. Try yogainspired stretching, strength training and hooping with a weighted hoop. No gym membership required, designed for beginners and beyond. Monkey Hooper Hoops are provided and also available for purchase. $10 per class or $35 per month. Contact Monica at 414.5316, or visit www.monkeyhooper.com for more information.

SECOND AND FOURTH WEDNESDAYS MOPS – MOTHERS OF PRESCHOOLERS SUPPORT GROUP 10am-12pm (2nd Wed.), 5:30-7:30pm (4th Wed.), Olivet Moravian Church, 2205 Olivet Moravian Church.

Initial meetings are free. Dues are $25 per semester.

Contact Lorie 406.8031 for information.

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1 Man Maintinence........................................34

Home Instead ..................................................1

Salem Smiles Orthodontics .............................9

A Step Ahead...................................................6

House Matters ...............................................79

SanDesigns ...................................................79

Ballet & Performing Arts Centre .....................13

Ian’s Body Works ...........................................23

SciWorks.......................................................41

Bermuda Run Country Club............................39

Joel Coliseum Annex .....................................44

Bobby Spivey’s Notary Service ......................79

K&W Café......................................................77

Bridal Show at the Ballpark ............................61

Kilwins ..........................................................19

Brookstone Technology Services....................68

Launch Media & Marketing ............................78

Busy as a Bee Concierge ...............................36

Linda K. Showers...........................................79

CareNet of North Carolina ..............................22

Locke Chiropractic .........................................25

Steve Davis Photography ...............................44

Carpoozi cafe & squeeze................................77

Logan HVAC ..................................................37

Stitches.........................................................36

Casanova’s Confections.................................23

Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates.................31

Stratford Landscape Supply ...........................35

Cash Lovell Stables & Riding Academy..........41

Mac & Nelli’s ................................................77

Sunrise United Methodist Church...................54

Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics ..........................Inside Back Cover

Masterpiece Makers ......................................41 Minglewood ..................................................69

Prudential Carolinas.......................................38

Children’s Museum .......................................41

Mirror Image Cleaning Services ....................36

Tanglewood Pharmacy ...................................19

Children’s Theatre..........................................44

Mix It Up .......................................................77

Chris’ Lawncare .............................................39

Monkey Hooper .............................................44

Chrystal Yates/Broker.....................................79

Moonlight Designs ........................................68

CoCreative.....................................................69

Moore Self Storage........................................35

Cookies + Cream..........................................44

Nationwide ......................................................6

Dawson Tree Service......................................79

New Town Bistro ............................................77

Dr. Harry Aylor...............................................31

Novartis...........................................................7

Express Oil ......................................................5

Ogburn Stables Ranch ...................................44

University Dental Associates ..........................13

Forsyth Country Day School.............................9

Omega House Family Restaurant....................77

Wake Forest Athletics ....................................61

Forsyth Family Summer Camp Expo ..............63

One Shot Photography ...................................75

WBFJ 89.3 ....................................................55

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Paul’s Cycling & Fitness................................11

Fresh Air Carpet Care.....................................69

Pine Brook Country Club ................................59

God Encounters .............................................83

Prints Charming Photo Booth.........................44

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Golding Farms...............................................15

Richard Spainhour, Family Entertainer............41

Greensboro Coliseum ....................................65

Roger Marion Automotive ..............................23

WS Dash .......................................................41

Hayworth Miller Funeral Home.......................57

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Heavenly Cheesecake’s by Becky.....................6

Salem Gymnastics.........................................13

Your Pilates Place ..........................................15

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The Mental Health Association of Forsyth County ..........................................67 Tina S. Merhoff, DDS .....................................21 TJ’s Body Shop .............................................68 Triple Threat of Winston-Salem ..................9, 41 Twin City Soccer............................................26

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