ALL PHASE HEATING & COOLING
OCTOBER 2026
PICTURE YOURSELF
celebrating with us!
Save the date! Join the LLA team for our annual birthday celebration! Enjoy festive food, drinks, and our exclusive, event-only offers.
Friday, November 6, 2026 11:00 am - 2:00 pm
6 5 8 0 S h a l l ow fo rd Roa d , S u i t e 1 3 0 Lew i s v i l l e , N C 2 702 3 336.945-2076
www.lewisvillelaser.com
Plan For Your Future Today
REMAINING 2026 ESTATE PLANNING WORKSHOPS Oct 13th at 10:00 AM | 27th at 6:30 PM Nov 10th at 10:00 AM | 24th at 6:30 PM Dec 1st at 10:00 AM | 15th at 6:30 PM Seating is limited. To reserve your seats, please call us at (336) 406-6735 or visit our website at www.SalemEstatePlanning.com All workshop attendees receive a FREE consultation ($300 value)
1645 Westbrook Plaza Drive, Winston-Salem, NC 27103
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Features
18
STORY ALL PHASE HEATING & 18 COVER COOLING - Service for Every Season 24 One Woman’s 30 Year Journey of Gratitude Young Women in the Community: Meet Breanna Richardson 28 Exceptional 32 80’s and 90’s Trends are Making a Comeback of Northwest NC Names Donna Rodgers 40 YMCA as President and CEO 42 Avoiding the “Autumn Blues”
36
46
52
OCTOBER ‘26 6 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Every Issue 14 Getaway Guide: October’s Must-Take Day Trip 30 Nurturing New Norms: Teaching Kids How to Apologize and Mean It 40 Motherhood Unfiltered 48 It’s a Grand Life 50 The Artist’s Corner 54 The View from My Section - A Father’s Perspective
14
40 OCTOBER ‘26
8 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
48
PUBLISHER Brooke Culler • Brooke@ForsythMags.com
Y
SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Tamara Bodford
ou know what October means… it’s FAIR MONTH!
ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Robin Bralley Jennie Hess
I am SO excited to head to the Carolina Classic Fair this year! I had the pleasure of featuring Christian from the fair team on the podcast a few weeks ago, and OH BOY, do they have some fun new things lined up for this year!!! From exciting concert features to additional live entertainment walking around the fairgrounds and so much more, there’s definitely a lot to look forward to.
Photo by Jodie Brim Creative
ADVERTISING Advertising@ForsythMags.com
ICYMI, tune into that episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or our YouTube channel! Just search “Forsyth Magazines.” For this month’s cover story, I had the pleasure of being welcomed into the beautiful home of the family behind All Phase Heating & Cooling for our cover shoot, and I am SO excited about the direction they took with this feature. This is a topic I feel strongly about: a fouryear college degree isn’t the only path to a successful career... and it isn’t the right path for everyone. I think my generation really had it instilled in us by our parents and grandparents that going to a four-year college was simply the next step after high school. But the truth is, there is so much value in skilled trades, community college, certifications and other career paths that can lead to incredibly fulfilling and successful lives. And while a college education can absolutely be the right choice for many people, it’s important to look at the full picture and make a decision based on your goals, not simply because it’s what you’ve been told you’re “supposed” to do. Sometimes, the cost of student loans doesn’t necessarily outweigh the career benefits, especially when there are other paths that can lead you exactly where you want to go. Read all about this fantastic, family-owned business beginning on page 18. I hope their story encourages you to think a little differently about what success can look like! I also can’t let the October issue go to print without a mammogram reminder. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but breast cancer certainly doesn’t wait around for October. My mom is a two-time breast cancer survivor, and so is Robin Bralley, the former publisher of Forsyth Family Magazine who is still very much part of our team in different capacities as she embraces her “Mimi” life! So, consider this your sign: please, please schedule your mammogram. Early detection saves lives.
10 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
And speaking of mammograms, be sure to join us for our Girls’ Night Out event in collaboration with the Rosé at Medaloni Cellars event on October 6th! This special event is a fundraiser helping provide mammograms to underserved women in our community and is hosted by Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging. There will be a silent auction, food truck, live band and more — so grab your girlfriends and come join us for a great night out while supporting an even greater cause! We hope you’ll read this issue cover to cover. We’ve got everything from Art Around Town to Motherhood Unfiltered — just a couple of our newer column features that I’m especially excited about! There really is something for everyone in these pages. As always, thank you for reading and for continuing to support Forsyth Family and Forsyth Mags. And if you want even more Forsyth Mags, be sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook @forsythmags and tune into the Forsyth Mags Podcast! We release a brand-new episode every Thursday. Until next month,
Brooke Culler, @brooke__culler Publisher
COVER PHOTOGRAPHY Jodie Brim Creative CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS JEJ Photos Jodie Brim Creative *others credited throughout accordingly CONTENT EDITOR Meghan Corbett SENIOR STAFF WRITERS Martie Emory • Carolyn Peterson OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Debbie Barr • Elisa Coppede Suzy Fielders • Leo Jerez Taryn Jerez • Jean Marie Johnson Tanner Johnson • Keith Tilley Susan Woodall *others credited throughout accordingly GRAPHIC DESIGN & PRODUCTION Stefanie Lyons SOCIAL MEDIA MANAGEMENT Flhy Marketing / Michelle Hyatt WEB DESIGN/MAINTENANCE Next Wave Services CONTACT forsythfamilymagazine.com 888-892-3204 FORSYTH FAMILY DISCLAIMER Please note that the inclusion of stories and articles in Forsyth Family magazine does not imply endorsement of products or people. The views of the authors are presented for information and entertainment only, and may not necessarily reflect the views of Forsyth Family. Specifically, Forsyth Family in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well being with respect to any particular person. We disclaim all warranties, express or implied,including, but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. We will not be held responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any loss or damage that is caused or alleged to have been caused in connection with the use of, or reliance on, any content in this magazine. Forsyth Family reserves the right to deny any advertisement or listing that does not meet Forsyth Family standards. Submissions are welcome but unsolicited materials are not guaranteed to be returned. Forsyth Family assumes no responsibility for information, products, services or statements made by advertisers or editorial contributors. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher is prohibited. ©2007 by Forsyth Family Magazine, Inc.
VISIT
OUR NEW SHOWROOM
The Triad’s Flooring Specialist LET'S WORK TOGETHER! Whether you’re updating your home or upgrading your business, families and companies across the Triad trust Weeks Hardwood Flooring to bring new life to any space with our expert flooring solutions. Visit our website to learn how we can assist you with your next flooring project and make your home or business truly shine!
SCAN TO START A FREE ESTIMATE
office@weekshardwoodflooring.com | 336-856-0202 | 7901 Thorndike Rd, Greensboro
HALLOWEEN 5 SAFETY TIPS FACE PAINT: by D E B B I E B A R R
Whether kids’ costumes are spooky, silly or sweet and charming, dressing up to trick-or-treat is one of the great delights of childhood. No matter what they wear, kids of all ages love to have their faces painted for Halloween. And here’s the great news for parents – face painting is safer than wearing a mask. Masks can make it harder for kids to see where they’re going and make it harder to spot oncoming cars, especially after dark. That said, it’s important to ensure that the paint itself is as safe as possible. Because the paint you choose will be going on your child’s face, the ingredients really matter. Here’s why: •
•
Children’s skin is thinner than adult skin. Any chemicals in the paint might not only irritate their skin, but also be absorbed into the skin and potentially enter the bloodstream. Kids often touch their faces, rub their eyes and lick their lips (especially if they’re sampling the candy they are collecting). Paint that’s on the finger tips or on the lips increases the chances of ingesting small amounts of paint.
With these two facts in mind, the first safety tip about face paint is...
1
BEFORE YOU BUY FACE PAINT, READ THE LABEL TO FIND OUT WHAT’S IN THE PRODUCT.
Ingredients are listed in order by weight, so the first five ingredients are the most important. You can find 10 “thoroughly vetted” non-toxic face paint brands at toxicfreechoice.com. REJECT PRODUCTS THAT CONTAIN: Parabens: methylparaben or propylparaben “Fragrance” with no details (can hide chemicals) Talc Dyes not approved by the FDA: FD&C red 40, D&C yellow 5 Formaldehyde releasers: DMDM Hydantoin or Quaternium-15
BUY PRODUCTS THAT CONTAIN: Mineral pigments: mica, iron oxides, titanium dioxide Plant oils and butters: jojoba, sweet almond, sunflower, olive oil, shea or cocoa butter Natural waxes: beeswax, carnauba wax Vitamin E (Tocopherol) Rosemary extract
2
DO AN ALLERGY TEST BEFORE USING THE PAINT ON YOUR CHILD’S FACE.
It’s especially important to do this if your child has other allergies. Well in advance of painting your child’s face, or at least 24 hours ahead of time, put a small dab of paint on their arm or behind their ear. If the area swells or a rash develops, it may be wise to find a different face paint.
3
IF THE LABEL SAYS THE PAINT SHOULD NOT BE USED NEAR THE EYES, FOLLOW THIS GUIDANCE.
Follow it even if the packaging shows a picture of a child with paint around the eyes or on the eyelids! According to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA), “Even products intended for use near your eyes can sometimes irritate your skin if you use too much.” No fluorescent (“day glow”) colors are approved for use near the eyes.
4
IT MAY BE TEMPTING TO “COMPLETE THE LOOK” YOUR CHILD HAS IN MIND BY ADDING NOVELTY CONTACT LENSES – BUT DON’T DO IT!
Unless the contacts have been prescribed by an eye doctor and your child has been instructed about how to wear them, it’s too risky to allow your child to use them. If not handled correctly, “Halloween lenses,” also known as “theater contact lenses,” can result in an eye infection, a scratched cornea or another serious eye problem.
5
AT THE END OF THE DAY, REMOVE THE FACE PAINT ACCORDING TO THE PACKAGE DIRECTIONS.
Even if the hour is late, don’t let your child go to bed without removing the face paint. It could flake onto their pillow and get in their eyes during the night. (Tip: Plan ahead for removal by making sure you buy the cold cream, eye makeup remover or other recommended removal product when you purchase the face paint!)
12 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
When Service is Local, Service is Better. Why talk to a representative when you can talk to a friend? At North Carolina Farm Bureau, that’s what you get. With local agents offering competitive rates in every county across the state, it’s more than a simple transaction - it’s a relationship with someone you can trust. So pick up the phone, visit us online, or stop by your local office today to find out how helping you is what we do best.
(336) 785-3978 ncfbins.com Forsyth/Southside
1451 Trade Mart Blvd Winston-Salem, NC 27127 *North Carolina Farm Bureau® Mutual Insurance Co. *Farm Bureau® Insurance of North Carolina, Inc. *Southern Farm Bureau® Life Insurance Co., Jackson, MS *An independent licensee of the Blue Cross and Blue Shield Association
14 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
Getaway Guide
October’s Must-Take Day Trip Pumpkins, Play and Plenty of Fall Fun Are Just a Short Drive Away by S U Z Y F I E L D E R S
Fall is officially here! October brings pumpkins, Halloween and some of the year’s best family friendly outdoor adventures. For this month’s Getaway Guide, I’m featuring a destination that is a short drive from Winston-Salem and has so much to do for all ages. Kersey Valley is the perfect fall day trip for families in the Triad!
WHY VISIT KERSEY VALLEY? Every fall, Kersey Valley opens up their seasonal Maize Adventure, and the place is filled with all the perfect autumn sounds, smells and fun. In addition to Kersey Valley’s year-long attractions like Lazer Tag, Axe Throwing and Escape Rooms, Maize Adventure brings the unforgettable corn maze, a pumpkin patch and so much more.
TOP 5 THINGS TO DO AT KERSEY VALLEY’S MAIZE ADVENTURE From an abundance of corn to treetop adventures and even gem mining, this destination has enough to do that will keep everyone happy and entertained for an entire day. Here is a quick list of attractions you want to make sure to fit into your day’s agenda.
There is a variety of food and beverages available onsite, including fall favorites like fried Oreos, funnel cakes and apple cider donuts. Endora’s Brew offers hot and cold coffee as well as beer and select cocktails. Side note: Make sure to visit Kersey Valley again at the end of year for Kersey Valley Christmas, which features S’mores, Santa, the Grinch, twinkling lights, holiday train ride and so much more festive magic.
DETAILS TO VISIT KERSEY VALLEY Distance from Winston-Salem: Around 30 minutes Address: 1615 Kersey Valley Road, Archdale, NC Learn more about Kersey Valley: kerseyvalley.com Instagram: @kerseyvalley and @maizeadventure Parking: $10 per vehicle
1. Corn Maze – This massive corn maze boasts a new design every year, so there is always a new adventure awaiting. 2. Trains – There are not one but two train options! The Kersey Valley Express Train goes around the Wild West and Ghost Town; whereas, the Kids’ Cow Train Ride circles the Pumpkin Patch. 3. Adventure Playground – Not only does this space give some cool, elevated views of Kersey Valley, but it’s filled with interactive play components like rope nets, tic tac toe and a music area. 4. Corn Pit – As the name suggests, this is literally a large pit with more than 350 bushels of corn seed. While super simple, this was actually a favorite attraction for my two younger daughters. 5. Super-Mega Ride-n-Slide – Imagine a snow tube slide but without the freezing cold snow part, and that’s what this attraction is all about!
WHAT TO KNOW BEFORE YOU GO Maize Adventure is only open during the fall. The last day it’s open for this season is Sunday, November 1st. Hours for the park are Saturdays from 11:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. and Sundays 1:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. While most of the attractions are included, there are a few that cost an additional fee like gem mining and pumpkins. OCTOBER 2026 / 15
OCTOBER 2026 / 17
SERVICE for Every Season by M A R T I E E M O R Y
photos by J O D I E B R I M C R E AT I V E
OCTOBER 2026 / 19
Meet the All Phase Family
F
or Gina and Brad Rye, the combination of raising a family and owning their own business has kept them well grounded in faith – and in the importance of serving others.
Part of that faith-based guidance has also included recognizing each of their children’s strengths and allowing them to blend with the family business as they feel led.
With service as their lifelong priority, you can be assured their team at All-Phase Heating & Cooling strives to deliver the most reliable HVAC services in the area, including service and repair, installation, new construction, maintenance and indoor air quality solutions. Being there for customers is a natural extension of their personal philosophy on life!
Oldest son Evan, 23, has been working around the HVAC industry since the age of 14, but later enrolled in the N.C. State University College of Engineering, set to pursue that as a career. As it turned out, engineering studies were not something Evan enjoyed or found fulfilling, and so, the family business beckoned.
Originally from Rowan County, Gina and Brad actually met in third grade. Their journey as soulmates – and now parents of four children – took a typical turn through the corporate world up until 2013, but the two felt a different type of adventure awaited them. They moved to Kansas and then Alaska, then back to North Carolina in 2016 – opening their first HVAC company in 2017. In 2022, they sold that first company and, while touring Wake Forest with their son, Gina and Brad decided to move the family. While new to the city, they were led to the opportunity of purchasing All-Phase Heating & Cooling in the fall of 2023. While the original location is in Advance, NC which has served the community for many years, Gina and Brad have grown the business to include a second location in Winston-Salem with a team of 40 dedicated employees between both offices. “We are proud to be family owned and operated, always here to serve the community and here to treat people with the same kindness you enjoyed in the ‘good old days’ and can still find here today,” says Gina. She and Brad also firmly believe in God blessing those who spread His word, and that’s the message they live each day. “As a family unit, we teach our kids to serve every single day,” Gina adds. “We preach that they be the light and let others see God through their actions.”
20 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
“We are all for supporting young people who choose to enter a trade after high school, instead of going to college,” shares Gina. “There is a dire need for young men and women in the trades.” Son Nathan, 21, now a senior at Wake Forest, is pre-med and anxiously awaiting his acceptance into Wake Forest Medical School. “In Nathan’s case, he knew what he loved and wanted to pursue, so college was the right path,” Gina adds. Dierks, 17, currently a junior at Davie High School, has closely watched his two brothers’ journeys and doesn’t feel the college path is right for him. He currently works part time and will join the family business after high school graduation. Gina and Brad’s nephew, Landon, has also worked with the heating and cooling business for three years. Daughter Reese, 15, is just happy to be the only sister! She is an avid runner and hopes to pursue her goal of running in college. Known for professionalism, fair pricing and thorough work, the AllPhase team also believes in nurturing community partnerships and giving back as much as possible. They are active with local schools and churches, as well as groups such as the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County where they are the official HVAC vendor.
All-Phase Heating & Cooling serves Forsyth County, Davie County and the surrounding communities with impeccable customer service, knowledge and expertise. You’ll find them at 645 Blue Rock Court in Winston-Salem, NC, and at 2030 NC-801 in Advance, NC, 336.537.5047. Follow them on Facebook and Instagram @allphaseair, and learn more about their services and experience at allphaseair.com.
“The All-Phase crew showed up as scheduled and handled the removal of our old HVAC unit – and installation of the new unit – very efficiently. They completed the job easily within one day. The crew was respectful of our home and took time to cover and protect our stairs and floors. Everything was cleaned up nicely before they left. The office staff was also very helpful!” ~ Mike S. “As a real estate professional, I have used All-Phase Heating & Cooling with my clients, but this time I used them for myself! I had a problem with what I thought was my thermostat, and All-Phase came to help me within 24 hours. Their professionals were very courteous and explained everything to me. I also like that they are local!” ~ Erica L “They made me feel valued. I felt like I was their main priority and my needs came first!” ~ Salem T.
COZY SEASON IS COMING.
Before the temperatures drop, make sure your home is ready to stay warm and comfortable. Let All Phase Heating help get your heating system ready for fall. Call today to learn more about our HOME CARE CLUB Schedule your heating service today.
336-413-3718 Your comfort. Our priority.
LOCAL, INDEPENDENT & FAMILY OWNED BUSINESS SERVING DAVIE, FORSYTH & SURROUNDING COUNTIES CLICK HERE
OCTOBER 2026 / 21
Triad Area Events in October October offers a variety of interesting and exciting events for families to experience in and around the Triad. Here are some of the top offerings: Flash Point: The Civil Rights Photography of Danny Lyon Reynolda House Museum of American Art, Winston-Salem Sept. 17-Jan. 3 Tickets $18 Danny Lyon joined the movement for civil rights in the early 1960s as the official photographer of the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee. Lyon said: “My camera could be a sword for justice.” Carolina Classic Fair Winston-Salem Oct. 2-11 Various ticket prices The Carolina Classic Fair is the second largest agricultural fair in North Carolina and one of the 50 largest fairs in North America. It includes rides, animals, displays, live entertainment, special days throughout the schedule and all kinds of food.
Hops & Horn Piedmont Wind Symphony 634 W. 4th St., Suite 120, Winston-Salem Oct. 21, 6 p.m. Tickets start at $10 Part of the symphony’s intimate Chamber Series, this unique event pairs local craft beverages with the talents of the Carolina Horn Quartet. This casual, up-close performance showcases the rich versatility of wind instruments.
George Lopez Bojangles Entertainment Complex, Charlotte Oct. 2, 7:30 p.m. Tickets start at $59 George Lopez is a comedy legend and a cultural force. His groundbreaking, multi-faceted career spans TV, film, stand-up, late-night and publishing.
An Evening with John Oates The Ramkat, Winston-Salem Oct. 21, 8 p.m. Tickets start at $56 One half of the legendary, chart-topping duo Hall & Oates brings his solo tour to The Ramkat. Oates will deliver an evening of soulful storytelling, acoustic reimagining of pop classics and songs drawing from his deep passion for Americana, blues and folk.
The Great Gatsby Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro Oct. 6-11, various times Tickets start at $45 Based on the classic American novel by F. Scott Fitzgerald, this Tony Award-winning new musical is an unforgettable journey of love, wealth and tragedy that brings the Roaring Twenties to life on stage. The production features a jazz- and pop-influenced original score and spectacular choreography.
Actors From the London Stage: Much Ado About Nothing Secrest Artists Series, Wake Forest University Oct. 22, 7:30 p.m. Tickets $25 Experience the wit, romantic sparring and wordplay of Shakespeare’s timeless comedy brought to life inside Brendle Recital Hall. This touring ensemble features five elite British actors who direct themselves and dynamically play every role with minimal props and staging.
Bright Star Yadkin Cultural Arts Center Oct. 15-18, various times Tickets $25 Inspired by a true story, this heartfelt musical features a Tony-nominated bluegrass and folk score written by entertainment legend Steve Martin and singer-songwriter Edie Brickell. Set in the American South during the 1920s and 1940s, the narrative weaves an uplifting tale of love, loss and redemption.
David Sedaris: Sanctioned Shaming and Vicious Trauma Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro Oct. 28, 7:30 p.m. Tickets start at $70 David Sedaris is one of America’s preeminent humorists and social satirists. Following his trademark style of turning personal humiliation and family trauma into comedic gold, Sedaris will share unpublished stories and take questions.
Federally insured by NCUA.
22 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
OCTOBER 2026 / 23
ONE WOMAN’S 30-YEAR JOURNEY OF GRATITUDE A Long-Awaited “Thank You” to the Doctors Who Saved Her Life by C A R O LY N S H O R E - P E T E R S O N
O
n April 11, 2026, Hong Mizelle and her husband, Robert, welcomed a very special group of guests to Masterpiece restaurant in Johns Creek, Georgia. The luncheon had been nearly 30 years in the making.
After 11 days in intensive care and months of treatment, Hong was finally discharged on July 4, 1996.
Hong was there to thank the doctors who saved her life.
“I considered it my second birthday,” Hong recalled.
Her story began on April 7, 1996, only a year after she came to the United States. While driving to look at studio apartments, Hong was involved in a devastating automobile accident. Her car struck a cement utility pole, and the steering wheel slammed into her body.
BUILDING A SECOND LIFE
She remembers calling for someone to dial 911 and later trying unsuccessfully to move from the car. Then, everything went dark.
Hong awoke seven days later. She had been in a coma. Her injuries were catastrophic. Her right kidney and part of her liver had been destroyed, and a team of physicians at Dunwoody Medical Center spent approximately eight hours fighting to save her life. Dr. Melvin Abend, Dr. Howard Goldberg and Dr. Jack Cohen were among the physicians involved in her emergency care. During the difficult weeks that followed, Dr. Paul Scheinberg, Dr. Álvaro Lopez, Dr. Peter Jameson and numerous nurses and hospital staff continued caring for her.
24 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
Independence Day suddenly had another meaning.
Recovery gave Hong something she would never again take for granted: time. She met Robert while working at a coin laundry, and the couple married in 1997. The following year, they moved to WinstonSalem to be near Robert’s mother. Hong eventually joined the U.S. Postal Service, and she and Robert bought a home. In 2001, another blessing arrived…their son.
Every milestone became part of the life her doctors had made possible. Yet, one wish remained. She wanted to thank them. Dr. Abend became especially dear to her, and Hong sent him a Father’s Day card each year. The Mizelle family thanked him personally during a visit in 2008. Sadly, Dr. Abend died of cancer in 2011.
(continued on page 26)
W I N S TON S A L E M SYM P H ON Y
Family fun.
Children’s tickets just $10!
Halloween Spooktacular Sat, Oct 17 at 11:00 AM
Brendle Recital Hall, WFU
Spooky fun and musical treats from your Winston-Salem Symphony! Wear your costumes and enjoy preconcert activities in the lobby— even an Instrument Petting Zoo!
A Carolina Christmas:
CIRQUE
de la Symphonie Nov 28 at 7:30 | Nov 29 at 3:00 Reynolds Auditorium
On Thanksgiving weekend, ring in the holiday season with your Winston-Salem Symphony and the amazing acrobats of Cirque de la Symphonie! Juggling, mischief, and flying aerials to your favorite holiday tunes.
W I N STON SAL E M SYM PHONY
wssymphony.org
There’s no sound like home.
PROJECT TRIO Mark your calendars now for a fun concert for sax, bass, and beatboxing flute! Sat, Apr 10, 2027 at 11AM OCTOBER 2026 / 25
(continued from page 24)
When Hong retired from the Postal Service in April of 2025, she decided she could wait no longer. She would find the rest of her doctors.
FINDING “DR. DEEP BREATH”
Nearly three decades had passed. Some physicians had retired, others had moved and Dunwoody Medical Center no longer existed. But Hong lives by a simple philosophy: “If I set a goal, I will go!” She remembered Dr. Paul Scheinberg. During her hospitalization, Hong and her mother had created nicknames for the physicians so her mother, who spoke little English, could remember them. Dr. Scheinberg was “Dr. Deep Breath” because he had asked Hong how to say the phrase in Chinese. Hong found him on Facebook and sent a message using the nickname only he would recognize. His response arrived the next day. “WOW! Hong, thanks for your diligence in finding me,” he wrote. “I’d love to connect and catch up on the past (nearly) 30 years!” Scheinberg became the “key” doctor Hong had been searching for, helping her locate former colleagues. Dr. Goldberg was found. Dr. Lopez confirmed he would attend. Mrs. Abend accepted Hong’s invitation to represent her late husband. The reunion was becoming real. Hong created a banner reading “APPRECIATE MY HERO DOCTORS” and a display featuring 30 hearts, one for each year of life she had been given since 1996. She also prepared plaques and gifts.
Then, on April 11th, Hong and Robert left North Carolina at 4:30 a.m. for Georgia. One by one, her guests arrived. There were hugs, laughter and stories. Some of the doctors had not seen one another in decades. The physicians thanked Hong for bringing them together. “When the doctors said that because of me they were able to see each other again after decades, I knew I had done the right thing,” Hong said. “It was a win-win.” But, for Hong, the greatest gift was finally looking into the faces of those who had given her a future.
“I felt so honored and happy that I was able to thank the doctors who saved my life in person after 30 years. It was my greatest wish come true,” commented Hong. The doctors were surprised by her determination to find them. They told her she was the only former patient who had tried so hard, after so many years, to reconnect and express her gratitude. After lunch, Mrs. Abend led Hong, Robert and Dr. Scheinberg to Dr. Abend’s grave. Standing before the physician she had considered a second father in America, Hong tearfully told him about the reunion and placed a plaque beside his headstone. Her 30-year promise was complete. For Hong, however, gratitude does not end with saying “thank you.” “I’m going to live better for this life of grace,” Hong stated, “and keep paying it forward.” Thirty years after doctors gave Hong a second life, she finally told them just how much that life had meant.
26 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
the winston-salem dash & signature real estate are hosting
free movie night featuring post-movie fireworks, appearances by your favorite family-friendly halloween characters and trick-or-treating around the concourse!
friday, october 30 | 7:00pm gates open at 5:30pm scan for FREE tickets!
must redeem ticket for entry
Exceptional Young Women in the Community:
Meet Breanna Richardson
S
by A M Y H I L L
potlighting successful and stand-out women in the community is important to Forsyth Woman. With the help of LEAD Girls of NC, the Exceptional Young Women in the Community column helps spread the word about local youth and their positive impact on the world around them. STEAM LEAD Girl of the Year, Breanna Richardson, has years of experience in the program. Throughout her involvement with LEAD, at just 12 years old, Breanna has learned the importance of spreading positivity and strives to serve as a beacon of light for her peers. During her time spent in LEAD, learning about herself and her community, the importance of awareness and staying safe in today’s age of social media is just one of the valuable lessons Breanna and her fellow LEAD girls learn. In addition to general internet safety, utilizing an online presence to positively contribute to the community rather than engaging in online bullying is imperative in being a role model for other teenage girls struggling with insecurities, self doubt and the troubles that come with growing up in 2026. Because Breanna possesses a passion for LEAD, she aspires to become a LEAD Ambassador to give back to younger girls in the program, since she was once a newcomer herself who looked up to LEAD Ambassadors. If Breanna could provide any advice to her peers, she would encourage them to never give up on their goals and would remind them that they are never alone; they are loved, cared about and valuable in their community. Outside of LEAD, Breanna enjoys spending time in nature, painting and playing basketball. She excels in social studies and art in school, and hopes to one day own a successful business after attending college. A few of her favorite local restaurants are Fourth Street Filling Station and Midtown Café. Her dream vacation would be a trip to France which is a great destination for practicing her love of photography.
Learning Everyday Accomplishing Dreams (LEAD) Girls of NC is Winston-Salem’s beacon of hope for local young women as a nonprofit organization supported by dozens of sponsors and grant making organizations, including James G. Hanes Foundation, John W. & Anna Hanes Foundation, Winston-Salem Foundation, J.H. Walker Legacy Foundation and others. LEAD Girls supports girls in 5th through 10th grade through a continuum of leadership development designed to help girls Lead Self, Lead Others and Lead Change. Through our evidence-based curriculum, girls explore topics including empathy, navigating relationships with authority figures, setting goals and dreaming about their futures, and building meaningful connections with others.
28 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
Data shows that LEAD Girls are strengthening their confidence, goal setting, future planning and assertive communication skills, while building healthier relationships. They are also seeing decreases in risky behaviors and continued growth in leadership and community engagement. Over the past decade, LEAD Girls have contributed more than 7,000 hours of service to their communities. Through career, STEAM and entrepreneurship exposure, girls are discovering new possibilities and gaining the skills to shape their futures. There’s a place for you at LEAD Girls. Whether you volunteer at an event, share your expertise or lend a helping hand, your time and talents can help create meaningful experiences for girls in our community. Read more about LEAD’s mission and the programs the organization offers at leadgirls.org.
SUCCESS
EVOLVED
Her Next Flex™ is a community for women founders building a next chapter that feels aligned, expanding their circle, and defining success on their own terms. HERNEXTFLEX.COM
NURTURING NEW NORMS: by TA R Y N J E R E Z
Each month this series introduces fun and impactful healthy habits to help families with kids and teens prioritize physical, mental, and spiritual well-being—fostering a lifestyle of shared growth and lifelong wellness. Healthy habits built together are the ones that last a lifetime. How many times have you found yourself uttering the phrase, “Say you’re sorry” to your kids? Childhood is full of learning opportunities, and while these three words may help reduce conflict on the spot, it may not be the best way to teach young children how to apologize and actually mean it.
TEACHING “I’M SORRY” ISN’T THE GOAL Teaching children how to apologize isn’t just about teaching good manners, it’s about helping them navigate relationships and develop healthy emotional tools. We help kids learn to make friends, but apologizing is a lesson in keeping those friendships and showing up as a good friend. The art of the meaningful apology is about teaching empathy, understanding, accountability and more. Children, even toddlers, are more capable than some give them credit. They can realize when they’ve caused hurt and take ownership when they've wronged someone.
A SIMPLE APOLOGY VS. REAL REMORSE Showing true remorse in situations where a child has wronged someone, even over a simple argument at the park, helps them learn the effects of a true apology. Janine Oostenbroek, author of “The Emergence of Forgiveness In
TEACHING KIDS HOW TO APOLOGIZE
And Mean It
Young Children,” shared that children ages four to nine understand some of the emotional power of an apology, including recognizing that apologies can improve the feelings of the person who was hurt. They can also distinguish between a simple apology and one showing deeper remorse and even demonstrated increased forgiveness when they could detect greater remorse.
SIMPLE WAYS TO GET STARTED Here are a few ideas on how to instill the art of apologizing into your children and family.
1 MAKE MISTAKES AND APOLOGIES NORMAL Adults aren’t the only ones who can carry around an ego! Modeling being wrong, acknowledging mistakes and verbally apologizing in front of your kids is one of the most meaningful ways to teach them how to apologize. You don’t have to have a perfect script; just speak from the heart acknowledging you were wrong or could have handled a situation better.
2 TRY TO LEAVE OUT THE WORD “BUT”... Common apologies you might hear from kids can sound like, “I’m sorry for screaming, but you were annoying me” or “I’m sorry I pushed you, but you wouldn’t get out of the way.” Instead, help them learn to remove the “but” and lean into apologies that take full accountability. For example, “I’m sorry I pushed you; pushing isn’t nice.”
3 SLOW DOWN AND ASK: “WHAT HAPPENED?” When kids run up to tell on someone or you hear they did something not nice, try to ask “what happened” instead of the immediate reflex to tell them to say they’re sorry. This really helps them share not just what occurred but how they felt as well, and gives you an opportunity to ask, “how do you think that made your friend feel?” Empathy doesn’t always come naturally, so find ways to help them see other people’s points of view.
CREATING PRACTICES THAT LAST A LIFETIME Helping children learn to find meaning in their apologies is about finding the ability to repair rather than showing up on the defense. These little lessons can feel much bigger as they get older, and having the tools they need to succeed in their relationships with friends and family as well as school and work acquaintances will have them coming out on top! When we raise humans that take ownership over their wrongs, we know the practices we instilled made all the difference.
30 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
OCTOBER 2026 / 31
s d n e r T s ’ 0 9 d n a ’s
80 king a Comeback Are Ma
by E L I S A W A L L A C E C O P P E D E
W
hile fashion trends always seem to repeat themselves, when it comes to the 80s and 90s trends showing up recently, fashion is not the only area affected. Interior décor as well as lifestyle changes are also pulling from these decades, led by the young Gen-Zers. The best thing about these new/old trends is that it is a true nod to a simpler time, where life just seemed to flow. Life in both decades seemed to be so much easier than the decades after the dawn of the digital era. The 1980s, often dubbed the “Reagan Era,” was a time when everything seemed incredibly cheerful, and this reflected in the music, movies and fashion that accompanied this decade. Whereas the 1980s seemed to drip with peppy positivity, the 1990s, also known as the “Grunge Era,” was the yang to the 1980s ying. This decade was characterized by a spunkier and more edgy vibe of the GenXers who were in their prime. Before we can discuss the lifestyle choices that are beginning to pop up across the nation from both decades, let us first focus on the fashion taking over faster than a “Saved by the Bell” episode.
FASHION TRENDS #1: BUBBLE SKIRTS
Straight out of the movie Sixteen Candles, this fashion trend features a less poufy version of the popular bubble skirts and dresses worn to the prom by 1980s teens, including my own sister. The bubble skirts of 2026 offer a sleeker vibe, which helps make these skirts look more modern. These dresses and skirts, often paired with simple flats and a sleek jacket, offer a fresh look.
#2: HANDKERCHIEF TOPS AND DRESSES
This trend is something Nicole Kidman wore best and features a great look that draws attention to toned shoulders. Millennials may be the generation to wear this trend best, as Britney Spears also featured these tops in several of her videos from the early 2000s.
#3: PLATFORM WEDGES
The cult classic clothing catalog “Delia” would be thrilled to hear about this fashion trend making a reappearance! Platform sandals, wedges and even sneakers are making a huge comeback this summer. Chunky and easy-to-wear wedges were seen all over the runway during NY Fashion week and can be paired with slip dresses or oversized jeans, giving it an effortless and cool 90s feel.
32 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
HOME TRENDS
#1: BURNISHED METAL
Home décor is also taking a cue from the vibe of the perky 1980s and chill 1990s. Anyone who has been to Target recently will see that the brass look of the 1980s is back in a big way. However, this variation has a more burnished, “grunge” vibe. The good news is, if you have any old brass lamps or furniture, you can still get use out to them.
#2: GEOMETRIC PATTERNS
Full House would be proud to walk through the home furnishings catalogs of 2026, where geometric patterns are everywhere. The significant difference with these patterns, however, is that they are less primary colors like red and orange, and more pastel or muted colors, with vibrant borders and edges. Rather than wallpapering an entire room with a loud geometric pattern, consider finding a few throw pillows featuring these patterns and livening up your living space.
#3: COUNTRY CHIC
Today, this look is called “rustic” and features sturdy furniture and chairs. Several home furnishing stores feature baskets and farmhouse style dining sets for purchase. Mason jars, twine and natural fabrics are also making a big comeback, with the entire look being “handmade” and easy to replicate.
LIFESTYLE TREND
SAYING GOODBYE TO SOCIAL MEDIA
Spearheaded by Gen-Z, what is now “a quiet revolution” is happening. This group is leading an initiative to say “adios” to all the social media giants. According to the CNBC article, “A ‘quiet revolution’: Why young people are swapping social media for lunch dates, vinyl records and brick phones,” this movement has popularized as a protest in response to AI. “Account manager Matt Richards, 23, deleted all his social media apps from his phone last year and was surprised to find that his life changed for the better,” the article stated. Like most Gen-Zers and Millennials, Richards grew up using smartphones and iPads. However, he noticed that social media did not feel as enjoyable as AI entered the arena, which influenced the advertisements and lifestyle influencers which now dominated his feed. “Going chronically offline is the latest trend to grip young people and, ironically, it’s going viral on social media,” with countless TikTok videos of participants engaging in more in-person and analog activities.
Creating more choices for women
Midwifery and OB-GYN care under one roof Call us at 336-765-5470 or visit NHWomanCare.org
Novant Health WomanCare 1730 Kernersville Medical Pkwy. Suite 104 Kernersville, NC 27284
114 Charlois Blvd. Winton-Salem, NC 27103
4130 Clemmons Road Clemmons, NC 27013
© Novant Health, Inc. 2023
OCTOBER 2026 / 33
YMCA of Northwest North Carolina Names Donna Rodgers as President and CEO “Donna distinguished herself through her strategic vision, operational expertise, and understanding of the YMCA’s opportunities ahead to serve our communities,” said David Zimmer, Board Member and Co-Chair of the YMCA’s CEO Search Committee. “Her long, proven history with the YMCA is an incredible asset, and her clear vision for our organization’s future made her the right choice to serve as our next CEO.”
Rodgers becomes the first woman to serve as President and CEO in the association’s 138-year history.
WINSTON-SALEM, N.C. — The YMCA
of Northwest North Carolina has announced that Donna Rodgers has been selected as the organization’s next President and CEO, becoming the first woman to serve in the role in the association’s history. Rodgers has served as the YMCA’s Interim Chief Executive Officer since May 2026 and has been part of the organization’s leadership team for more than 22 years. Since joining the YMCA in 2004 as Vice President and Chief Financial Officer, Rodgers has held increasingly senior leadership roles spanning finance, operations, and organizational strategy. Most recently, she served as Executive Vice President, Chief Operating Officer and Chief Financial Officer. “Donna has demonstrated an extraordinary commitment to the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina, our staff, and the communities we serve,” said Ashley Kohlrus, Chair of the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina Board of Directors. “She brings the experience and leadership this role demands, a deep understanding of the organization, and a genuine passion for our mission. We are thrilled to have her lead our Y into its next chapter.” The appointment follows a comprehensive national search led by YMCA of the USA, the North Carolina Alliance of YMCAs, and a committee of YMCA board and community leaders.
During her more than two decades with the YMCA, Rodgers has helped guide the organization through significant growth, financial challenges, and major capital initiatives. She played a key role in securing $8 million in New Markets Tax Credits for a major renovation of the YMCA REACH Center at Winston Lake, managed tax-exempt bond issuances in 2014 and 2021, and led the financing and acquisition of the Robinhood Road Family YMCA during the COVID-19 pandemic. Since that acquisition, the branch has generated more than $2.5 million in operating surplus. Rodgers also helped lead the association through the financial disruption of the COVID-19 pandemic, securing more than $6 million in emergency funding to support the YMCA’s financial sustainability. She has overseen enterprise-wide initiatives involving finance, human resources, technology, and membership operations, including major system implementations. Under Rodgers’ tenure, the YMCA has experienced significant organizational growth. Since she joined the association in 2004, operating revenues have increased from approximately $25 million to $42 million, while net assets have more than doubled from $28 million to $57 million. “I am deeply honored to be selected as the next CEO of this great organization,” said Rodgers. “I look forward to working with our amazing staff team and volunteers to further deepen our impact in all the communities we serve. What a privilege to get to do this work every day – helping all people reach their God-given potential in spirit, mind and body!” Rodgers’ career combines extensive financial and operational leadership with a longstanding commitment to community
service. Before joining the YMCA, she held financial leadership positions with Gilbarco/ Veeder-Root and Greensboro Associates, Inc., and began her career with Price Waterhouse in Winston-Salem in audit and tax. A Certified Public Accountant and Certified Employee Benefit Specialist, Rodgers earned a Bachelor of Science in Accounting, cum laude, from Virginia Tech University. She was named an Organizational Leader by YMCA of the USA in 2021, served for a decade on the YUSA CFO Roundtable, and currently serves on the national YMCA Employee Benefits Management Committee. Her community leadership includes serving as President and Treasurer of the Rotary Club of Kernersville, as an Audit Committee member for the Ronald McDonald House and Forsyth Futures, and in leadership roles at Main Street United Methodist Church in Kernersville. As President and CEO, Rodgers will lead an association serving communities across eight counties in Northwest North Carolina, with a focus on strengthening the YMCA’s impact, developing staff talent, cultivating relationships with donors and community partners, engaging volunteers, and pursuing sustainable growth. Rodgers succeeds Darryl Head, who departed the YMCA of Northwest North Carolina earlier this year after two decades with the association to become President and CEO of the YMCA of the First Coast in Jacksonville, Florida. Rodgers and her husband, Brad, reside in Kernersville and have two adult children.
ABOUT THE YMCA OF NORTHWEST NORTH CAROLINA
The YMCA of Northwest North Carolina has served Winston-Salem and surrounding communities since 1888, building a tradition of enhancing the lives of people through programs and opportunities that promote healthy living, community connection, and personal growth. The YMCA movement now spans 124 countries and serves 21 million people worldwide. Learn more at ymcanwnc.org.
Thank You,
WINSTON-SALEM Commercial & Residential Electrical Services
(336) 537-3323
For decades, Winston-Salem has trusted Ogburn Electric to power homes, businesses, schools, and institutions across our community. In celebrating 70 years of service, we want to thank our team and the customers, partners, and neighbors who have supported us along the way. It has been our honor to serve this community, and we look forward to continuing the work for many years to come.
. www.ogburnelectric.com . info@ogburnelectric.com
Our $19.99 option is the ultimate pumpkin patch catch! Every Monday is FREE Cake Square Day
Visit us at local.deweys.com OCTOBER 2026 / 35
Summer Dunes Photography
20 Lessons I've Learned in 20 Years as a Parent My oldest daughter turns 20 this month, and I’ve been reflecting on these last two decades. She and her two younger sisters, currently ages three and four, have certainly taught me so much about motherhood, myself and life. Here are 20 of the many lessons I’ve learned through it all.
1
Give yourself plenty of grace. If I could choose only one piece of advice to give other parents, it’s this one. Being a parent is among the hardest tasks to take on, so don’t constantly beat yourself up over the mistakes or choices you make.
2 Anytime you feel like you’ve got
something “figured out,” life or children will quickly fix that. My children and I have been through so many medical issues (you might remember my medical questions to ask series), and just when I think I know what’s going on, it always changes.
3 Pick your battles wisely. This single
handedly will help you keep sanity, well some of it! If it won’t hurt them or someone else, the chances are it’s probably not worth the screams, meltdowns, headache or tears.
4 Find adventure in the simple activities,
outings and aspects of life. Mindset truly is important as a parent. If you reshape your thinking or at least your outlook, even when faced with the hard or challenging life events, you’ll find it makes getting through it a little easier.
5 Make time for yourself. I can’t emphasize
this one enough, especially to busy moms. You can’t help others if you are mentally, emotionally or physically exhausted. Self care is not a luxury or privilege; it is a VITAL piece of basic human health.
6 Parent the child, not the situation. For
the first 15ish years of my oldest daughter’s
36 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
Yensy Guerrero Photography
by S U Z Y F I E L D E R S
life, she was an only child. When it came to dealing with something, it seemed easy because there was only one route. Now that she has two younger sisters, I’ve found they are each very different, even in the exact same situations.
7 Trust your instincts. Another very important point that can’t be emphasized enough. If your initial gut response says one thing, always go with that. Doubt is one of the biggest “villains” in parenthood. 8 Don’t forget about your own dreams and goals. As a mom, it’s easy to get caught up in day to day life. You can still go after something you’ve always wanted to do and be a good mom. Humans are complex, and we aren’t defined by just one thing, like being a parent.
Two Decades, Three Daughters and the Lessons That Motherhood Has Taught Me Along the Way 12 It’s okay to make mistakes. No one is perfect, and that is okay, too. Seriously, really imagine how boring the world would be if everything was perfect. Those mistakes give us funny stories and learning moments. They are what truly connect us all in this crazy journey that is parenthood. 13 Embrace the chaos. Forget the balance and alignment. Yes, in some respects they are important, but they can always drive you crazy if you only strive for that. Sometimes all you can do is embrace the realities of parenthood and that it will be chaotic, often many times. It’s okay if the dishes don’t get done. Focus on what really needs to be done in that moment of chaos. 14 No two mothers parent exactly alike, and that is beautiful.
9 You can’t fix everything – all you can do is be there for them. This one seems to get harder the older they get. Problems get more complex, and a hug and bandage is no longer the solution. At the end of the day, all you can do is ensure you are there for them however and whenever they need you.
15 It’s just as easy to listen and smile as it is to judge or assume. Choose wisely.
10 Listen to the quiet for solace and for those things not being said. Make the most of those early mornings or late nights in whatever way makes sense to you. If it’s to sip coffee, then go for it. If it’s for the workout, that’s great, too. Also, it’s those quiet times together, especially for teenagers, when you can really “hear” what might be going on with them.
17 Always be authentically you. It’s hard to not get lost in motherhood and being a mom. But, no matter how much motherhood might change you, don’t forget who you are at your core.
11 Live in the moment as much as possible. When you are trying to get out the door with a cranky toddler, or two, it’s easy to forget this one. But, even in those stressful or chaotic moments, that’s when sometimes the most beautiful or meaningful moments present themselves. Equally, try to not stress about tomorrow and simply focus on today.
19 Never stop learning. Even if you don’t like traditional methods like reading or classes, there are so many ways to learn. Tune into a podcast. Watch a YouTube video.
16 Be gently honest. It’s imperative to be honest with yourself and others, but when it’s something hard to say, or more importantly for others to hear, deliver that truth gently.
18 Have fun. Play with the toys alongside your kids. Splash in the puddles.
20 Say “I love you” as often as possible and know you never need a reason to say it to your children.
Kerri Stewart
QuickBooks Certified ProAdvisor
THE STARBOARD GUARANTEE
Free initial consultation for bookkeeping
Complete, Accurate, Timely Bookkeeping & Financials
PAYROLL BOOKKEEPING QUICKBOOKS CONSULTING
336.397.4974
StarboardAccounting.com
WE’RE BACK, DEACS! TAILGATE PICKUP IS BACK AND BETTER THAN EVER Pre-order your Little Richard’s favorites and pick up from TWO convenient locations Gold Lot or Baseball Lot.
SCAN TO ORDER and for more info on our tailgate menu and packages
OCTOBER 2026 / 37
Avoiding the “Autumn Blues” by E L I S A W A L L A C E C O P P E D E
A
s the summer colors of hot pink and electric yellow mellow out to the subtle tones of burnt orange and chocolate brown, some of us get excited to pull on our sweaters and stock up on anything that involves pumpkin spice. However, for others, this seasonal change is not something exciting, but rather a time that can bring on feelings of anxiety and depression. The shift from summer to fall will signal a decline in mental well being for those individuals. Often dubbed as the “Fall or Autumn Blues,” this mental health issue can be more serious than we may understand, leading to Seasonal Affective Disorder (also known as SAD). What is Seasonal Affective Disorder? According to the Mayo Clinic, “seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that’s related to changes in seasons – SAD begins and ends at about the same times every year.” Symptoms seem to begin in late summer as well. “If you’re like most people with SAD, your symptoms start in the fall and continue into the winter months, sapping your energy and making you feel moody,” the clinic reports. What is promising is that the symptoms often resolve during the spring and summer months. As the days grow shorter, the light fades earlier which our bodies react to. This reduction in natural sunlight can strongly disrupt our own body’s natural clock; the same clock that regulates how we sleep, our moods and our energy levels. When our body cannot adjust to this change, our sleep, mood and energy become strongly affected. Serotonin decreases which is a key neurotransmitter to regulating our mood. It is vital to note; there is a difference between simply feeling a bit down and having a mental illness like SAD. According to the Mind Over Matter article, “Navigating Fall Mental Health: A Guide to the Season of Change,” it is critical to be able to distinguish having the typical “fall blues” or a more serious mental health concern like SAD. Specific signs to look out for include: “a persistent low or sad mood, feeling tired or having low energy, a loss of interest in activities you normally enjoy, changes in appetite, particularly an increase in cravings for carbohydrates, difficulty concentrating
38 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
or focusing, feelings of hopelessness or despair and, finally, increased sleep or a desire to hibernate.” Paying attention to such symptoms in yourself or loved ones can determine whether or not to consult a professional who would be able to guide you to treatments, including light therapy, psychotherapy or medications. In the meantime, there are a few initiative-taking strategies you can take to help improve your mental well being during this seasonal change.
THE SUNLIGHT IN! 1 BRING According to the article, “5 Ways to Beat
the Fall and Winter Blues,” access to light all year long is vital. “Decreased daylight triggers more secretion of melatonin, known as the sleep hormone, making us feel tired all the time and sluggish,” the article states. To get more light in your life, experts advise swapping dim bulbs for bright bulbs, like LED bulbs, which provide incandescent light with a warm glow – and avoid the clinical and sterile brightness of fluorescent lights.
CONSISTENT WITH YOUR 2 KEEP EXERCISE REGIMEN.
It is vital to continue working out during the fall and winter months, especially if these workouts can occur outside. Engaging in physical activity naturally increases your endorphin levels which can significantly improve your mood and increase your energy levels. Focus on a minimum of 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week. These exercises do not need to be at the gym either. Simply incorporating activities like brisk walking outside after dinner is a perfect way to combat the autumn blues.
ACTIVITIES THAT 3 INTEGRATE PROMOTE MINDFULNESS INTO YOUR DAILY LIFE.
By incorporating practices such as yoga and meditation into your routine, one can highly decrease stress and increase emotional well being. These types of practices encourage present-moment awareness and relaxation which, in turn, helps to quiet the mind and lower anxiety. There are several excellent books out there to help with these practices like, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment or Wherever You Go, There You Are. For the technology enthusiasts, apps like “Headspace” or “Calm” will lead to significant improvements in mental health over time.
FORSY TH MAGA ZINES P OD CAST
Listen on Spotify
Now on You Tube!
Listen on Apple Podcast
JODIE BRIM CREATIVE
NEW EPISODE E V E R Y T H U R S D AY
OCTOBER 2026 / 39
Motherhood Unfiltered: Chantae Reynolds One Local Mom. One Honest Conversation. Lessons from the Balancing Act of Motherhood, Community and Making Time for What Matters Most
by S U Z Y F I E L D E R S
this month’s Motherhood Unfiltered I nseries, I’m featuring Chantae Reynolds,
owner of JK Woodworked Creations and an ESL/Multilingual Learner teacher at Appalachian State University’s Academy at Middle Fork. From creating one-of-akind laser-cut wood projects and hosting events to supporting elementary students in developing their English language skills, she selflessly gives back to her family and community daily. Through her business, she has inspired the community to come together and support local businesses with what are known as “Cash Mobs.” These fun events are all about, “bringing people together to intentionally support local small businesses,” she shares. Her support for the local community doesn’t stop there. She recently launched Made in Winston, vendor markets she hosts throughout Winston-Salem. These events give local makers, artists and small businesses opportunities to showcase and sell their products while connecting with the community.
WHAT’S THE HARDEST PART OF JUGGLING MOTHERHOOD AND WORKING?
“The hardest part is making sure I balance work with being present for my son. Between teaching and running my businesses, my schedule can get busy, but I want to make sure I’m there for the things that matter like picking him up from school on time, attending his activities and showing up for him. It can be a lot to juggle, so I’ve learned to prioritize what matters most and give myself grace when everything doesn’t get done.”
WHAT ARE YOUR TOP THREE TIPS OR TRICKS THAT HELP YOU MOST AS A WORKING MOM? 1. Use a calendar for everything. 2. It’s okay to say no. 3. Make time for yourself.
40 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
WHAT’S ONE PIECE OF WORKING MOM ADVICE YOU WISH SOMEONE HAD TOLD YOU? “You don’t have to get everything done in one day. There will always be something on the to do list. Focus on what matters most, and know that everything else can wait.”
WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE SELF CARE ROUTINES OR ITEMS?
“I recently joined Pila Flex, and attending Pilates, barre and cycle classes has become one of my favorite forms of self care. It gives me time to focus on myself both physically and mentally. I also enjoy going to Pure Sweat for sauna sessions, spending time with friends and checking out local businesses and restaurants. And I am currently in my plant era, so taking care of my plants and adding new ones to my collection has definitely become part of my self care, too!”
WHAT QUOTE MOTIVATES YOU WHEN TIMES ARE TOUGH?
“Don’t be afraid. Be focused. Be determined. Be hopeful. Be empowered.”
IF YOU ASK YOUR CHILD(REN) WHAT YOU DO FOR WORK, WHAT IS THEIR ANSWER? “Jameson would probably say, ‘She teaches kids, makes people paint wood and likes to put me to work.’ And honestly, that pretty much sums it up!”
If you are interested in being featured in this new series or would like to submit a working mom to potentially be featured, please email me at suzyfielders@ gmail.com.
Creating
BOO tiful Smiles! . Friday appointments now available! . Invisalign treatment options available for children and adults . Affordable monthly payment with payment options . Sibling and Parent discount programs . New 3D imaging technology available for faster treatment and diagnosis
. We accept Delta, Cigna, Principal and Ameritas insurance
1063 W. Northwest Blvd. Winston-Salem, NC 27101 336-725-5757 www.SalemSmilesOrtho.com
“A HUGE shout out to these lovely people who have AMAZING food and the best staff on hand for catering my outside wedding yesterday! My 75+ guests were all raving over everything from the squash casserole to the house dressing! My farm wedding needed your southern comfort foods and we are more than satisfied with your food, setup, smiles, manners and professionalism!” - Meredith Hope Simchik
“I stopped by and picked up a chicken pie (no veggies) to fix for dinner Monday night. It was AWESOME!!! And, fixed leftovers on Tuesday night, still AWESOME! Guess what...there is a little left for tonight! Turned out to be a real bargain for two to enjoy! THANKS!!! I’ll be back! Such nice people too!” - Kim Honeycutt
Family Meals to Go. Catering for Any Occasion. Simply Southern makes dinner easy—and events effortless.
336-712-4636 | www.mysimplysouthern.com | 3570 C Clemmons Road | Clemmons, NC 27012 S TO R E F R O N T H O U R S : M O N - F R I 1 2 - 5 P M , S AT 1 2 - 4 P M OCTOBER 2026 / 41
A FICTIONAL ESCAPE: Monsters Anonymous by L E O J E R E Z
This is a monthly column featuring flash fiction and poetry curated by local author Leo Jerez. Enjoy these short yet captivating stories over a quick break at work, in the waiting room, at the school pickup line or on your commute. Featured this month: Scott Roche is an author, podcaster and publisher. His work has been published in several anthologies and magazines, as well as his own independently published work. He’s available for birthday parties, bar-mitzvahs, quinceaneras and anywhere else cake is served. A Christian and an avid fan of horror, he believes that there is beauty to be found everywhere. Frank set up the last of the refreshments and looked over what he’d laid out. He never knew one hundred percent what to provide at this group meeting, but he always tried to rise to the challenge. Satisfied he’d done his best, he went over to the rack of chairs and started to pull off the 10 he’d probably need. This space was mustier than the old church had been. That space ended up being a nonstarter for one of their newest members. She had serious religious trauma.
“No sweat, lady. I don’t care where we meet as long as we meet. You know?” Frank grabbed his bottle of electrolyte water and took a long pull. “Anyone hear from the rest of the gang?”
He’d set up about half the chairs when he heard Herb come in. “Hey, Herb. How was your week?”
Frank checked the calendar. “Oh, man. Yeah, I guess he would be. Gil should be here. He’s usually early.”
Herb filled a styrofoam cup with coffee. “Not too bad. I’m working on something new. This time I’m pretty sure it will do what I want.” He slurped the hot brew. “Darn this is good coffee. I don’t know why coffee at these sorts of things is always so bad, and yours is so good?”
Trina held up a finger. “I heard something about his tank busting.”
Frank shrugged. “Years of practice. Feels like centuries at this point.” He opened the last chair and took a seat. It groaned a little under his weight, but held well enough.
Frank looked at the door and then around the room. “Looks like it may just be the three of us this week. I invited a couple of new folks, but they may not make it. We can go ahead and get started.”
Herb slid one of the chairs back and took a seat.
As a group, they intoned. “We are not monsters. We deserve to be loved. We are enough. If others find us scary, that is a them problem.”
About then, their newest member, Trina, came in, wearing black jeans and a Rob Zombie tee shirt. She looked like the prototypical goth chick; pale skin, black hair and angst. She grabbed a red velvet cupcake and a cup of coffee and plopped down in the seat next to Herb, almost jogging his elbow. “Sorry, Herb. Hey, Frank, thanks for the venue change. I hated to be difficult about the old place.”
42 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
Trina shook her head. “No,” Herb said, “but I know Lonnie probably isn’t going to be here. He had an...incident this week, and I’m sure he’s tuckered out.”
“Man, that thing must be five hundred gallons.” Herb tsked. “I’m glad he owns his own place. There’d be no getting that security deposit back.”
Frank sat back, scratching at the scar tissue around his neck bolt. “Alright, Trina, last week you were telling us about how much difficulty you were having tracking down a new food supply. Problems with your connection at the blood bank?”
Change a girl, Change a community, Change the world! Lead Girls of NC We are building a future where girls become women who lead and are not only accepted but celebrated, transforming the landscape of leadership and the face of decision-makers at every level of communities.
Lead Girls of NC
336-893-5755
. info@leadgirls.org . 1100 West First Street Winston-Salem, NC 27101 OCTOBER 2026 / 43
919 Backyard BBQ GROUND BEEF BROTH BOWLS By TANNER JOHNSON
F
or October, I wanted to share a new recipe I’ve been seeing all over the internet that definitely hits the spot with the cooler fall air starting to creep in: Broth Bowls. They’re really simple, full of flavor and very versatile.
INGREDIENTS: Ground Beef: • 1 lb. ground beef (96/4; if using fattier beef, you’ll just want to drain the grease) • 1 bell pepper • 2 tbsp. honey • 3 tbsp. soy sauce • 2 tbsp. rice vinegar • 1 tbsp. sesame oil Broth: • 3 cups chicken broth • 1/2 cup whole milk • 2 tbsp. sriracha (less if you don’t like too much heat) • 1 tbsp. tomato paste • 1 tbsp. soy sauce • 2 tsp. honey • 1–2 cloves garlic, minced
44 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
INSTRUCTIONS: 1. Make your rice however you like. 2. Dice and sauté the bell pepper, seasoning with salt and pepper. Remove from the pan and set aside. 3. Brown the ground beef in a pan over medium-high heat until crisp. 4. Add the honey, soy sauce, rice vinegar and sesame oil. Stir until the beef is nicely coated. 1. Cook for a few more minutes, then add the diced pepper back in and stir it all together. For the broth: 1. Whisk together the chicken broth, tomato paste, soy sauce, sriracha, honey and garlic. 2. Simmer for a few minutes, about 5 or so. 3. Reduce the heat and stir in the whole milk. Let it cook for a couple more minutes over medium-low heat. 4. Add your ground beef and rice to a bowl, then pour in the broth and add whatever other toppings you desire! 5. I like to add avocado and cucumber slices. Enjoy!
For more recipes and demos, follow me on Instagram: @919backyardbbq
Halloween at Hogwarts! SATURDAY OCT. 24TH 10AM-4PM
Clemmons 336-766-0401 Mt. Airy 336-783-0227
Calling all Wizards!
Get sorted by Dumbledore, try a House Drink, & shop the Diagon Alley Local Vendor Market!
Walkertown 336-754-4495 Yadkinville 336-679-7064 Winston-Salem 336-999-8037
Join us to celebrate Ribs on Mondays for $1.25/bone.
www.littlerichardsbarbeque.com
Tues-Thurs 11:30am - 9pm Fri-Sat 11:30am - 10pm Closed Sunday & Monday
3560 Clemmons Rd, Suite B • Clemmons, NC 27012 336.893.9892 • @bekindcoffeeco
@youngcardinalws Open Daily 8am - 3pm 424 4th Street NW, Winston-Salem
336-448-5188
101 E Dalton Road King, NC 27021 @themercantilechophouse
336.937.7878
themercantilechophouse.com
336.893.7069 527 N Liberty Street Winston-Salem, NC 27101
E AT S - A L E S - S P I R I T S
Stock Up, Savor Later: Explore Our Spring Meal Options Today and Elevate Your Gathering with Catering Options Available 3570 C Clemmons Road | Clemmons, NC 27012 336-712-4636 | www.mysimplysouthern.com
151 S. Stratford Road | Winston-Salem, NC 27104 336.724.9800 | MidtownCafeWS.com
Mon-Thurs 11am-1am | Fri-Sat 11am-2am Sun 12pm-1am
www.mossysclemmons.com
6235 Towncenter Drive | Clemmons, NC 27012
PUT YOUR RESTAURANT ON THE TABLE Advertise in our Forsyth Family Dining Guide and reach thousands of local families deciding where to eat next. advertising@forsythmags.com OCTOBER 2026 / 45
Art Around Town: Artivity on the Green DISCOVERING THE ART, INNOVATION AND INTERACTIVE EXPERIENCES BEHIND ONE OF DOWNTOWN WINSTON-SALEM’S MOST UNIQUE PUBLIC SPACES by S U Z Y F I E L D E R S
In part one of this new series, Art Around Town, I discussed our newest public art installation, Invasive Hope. Now, I want to share about a place that has multiple pieces of public art, Artivity on the Green. Construction for this “art park” began in December of 2014, soon after WinstonSalem became officially known as “The City of Arts and Innovation” back in April of 2014. This makes it one of the first public art installations that marked this art focus shift in Winston-Salem. It seems like the perfect focus for part two in this series!
WHAT IS ARTIVITY ON THE GREEN?
In May of 2015, Artivity on the Green opened to the public. The revolutionary vision of this art park was to connect the arts district to innovation quarter. Bonus, it’s more than merely art to look at as several of the installations have interactive components. Art begins before you even enter Artivity on the Green as it has six red lines that lead into all the entrances of the park. In the center of the park sits 13 red towers of varying heights. The different heights actually represent the R.J. Reynolds building, now known as the Kimpton Cardinal Hotel. From April to October, they also serve as a great way to cool off since they are misting towers. On one end of Artivity on the Green sits a very unique bandstand. It’s made up of seven steel ribbons that represent the notes of a musical octave. It even lights up at night. A major “art” component of this public art space is a mural wall showcasing work by local artists. Every spring, it is repainted during the annual Concrete Canvas festival. Lastly, the land the park sits on has meaning and intention. You’ll notice there are a few grassy hills, which are meant to represent the foothills of the Piedmont where Winston-Salem resides.
46 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
WHO CREATED ARTIVITY ON THE GREEN? This project was envisioned and began as an Art For Art’s Sake (AFAS) project. It was designed by the STITCH Design Shop and built by Frank L. Blum Construction Company. Artivity on the Green was funded by the Thomas J. Regan Jr. Foundation.
WHY WAS THIS ART PARK CREATED?
Art For Art’s Sake (AFAS) shares on their website, “It brings energy back to a section of downtown that had been forgotten, with features intended to inspire visitors visually and physically.” Ten years later, it remains a top spot in downtown Winston-Salem to enjoy art, relax, cool off, hear music and so much more.
HOW CAN I SEE ARTIVITY ON THE GREEN?
You’ll find this public art park located at 630 N. Liberty Street in Downtown Winston-Salem. Learn more at theafasgroup.com.
Quality Exercise That Your Dog Deserves Melissa Harper Owner and Veterinary Technician
BENEFITS FOR YOUR DOG
• Climate controlled • Safe running environment • Full body workout • Aids in weight loss and management • Improves mental and physical vitality • Improve cardiovascular and overall health
• Obedience training • Reduce behavioral problems • Physical rehabilitation • Great for dog sports conditioning, training, and warm up • Helps develop proper gait form
(336) 390-9923 . runrascaldyroo.com . runrascaldyroo@gmail.com . @runrascaldyroo
Licensed professional clinicians providing faith-based individual, marriage and family counseling
WE'VE MOVED! Visit us at our new location: 1405 Plaza Drive, Winston-Salem christiancounseling.org | 336-896-0065 | info@christiancounseling.org • Fax • • B&W & Color Copies • • Mailbox Rentals • • Shipping Supplies • • Greeting Cards • • Notary Public • Stamps • Passport Photos
6255 TownCenter Drive, Clemmons (located next to Mossy’s)
336-712-0505
OCTOBER 2026 / 47
It’s a Grand Grand Life Responsibility and Achieving Goals by S U S A N W O O D A L L
When I was a child, I always wanted to have a dog. My sister got a parakeet when I was three and she was seven. She named him Tweety. He was a wonderful pet. He learned to talk which amazed everyone. One beautiful summer day, our sweet bird flew out an open window which my sister had forgotten to shut before letting him out of his cage. We watched him fly off while we ran outside screaming his name. Our parents, who loved this funny little bird as much as my sister and I did, took a lost bird notice out in the paper – probably figuring it was a futile attempt in finding him, but not giving up without doing something. The day after the notice appeared, our telephone rang. A woman had been outside talking to her neighbor when a parakeet landed on her shoulder and said, “whatcha doing?” Fortunately, she also had a parakeet. She managed to get back in her house with Tweety still perched on her shoulder and put him in the cage with her bird. She didn’t live that far from us, so four very happy people drove over to get him and bring him home. We had no idea how old he was when my sister chose him at the pet store, but we had him for 13 wonderful, talkative years. He was the first of many pets – fish, turtles, ducks and a bunny, until finally, I got a dog! It was the main thing I had asked for for Christmas, never expecting to actually get one. Since then, I haven’t been without at least one pup and, usually, we have two.
Looking back, I realize that my parents were teaching my sister and me responsibility. With each new pet that was brought into our home, we were tasked with their care. It was a great way to teach us lessons that impacted many aspects of our lives. In a lot of respects, today’s children have different expectations than those of my generation and even those of their parents’ generation. Life is easier in several ways and harder in others. Which, in my opinion, makes the life lessons they learn now and continue to learn as they age important. Sometimes, looking back is as necessary as looking forward. When staying with my grandchildren, there are times when I ask them to take a break from their screentime to help straighten up some things they have left lying around. They are all old enough to clear the table after eating, put wrappers in the trash and put recycling items in the bin. Their dirty clothes belong in the laundry hamper instead of on the floor. I am now finding that they are often doing these things without my asking. In seeing my grandchildren handle school, homework, activities and what is expected of them by their parents, I see them maturing in ways that will serve them well. I am proud of all their accomplishments and know they are continuing to work hard and reaping the rewards that come from it. It is my opinion that children want to have certain things expected of them. It is important for them to have adult guidance in reaching goals. They want to make their family proud of them and be proud of themselves for their achievements and accomplishments. Children thrive on praise. They need us to guide them to reach their goals. Teaching them responsibility is a great start.
48 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
C
M
Y
CM
MY
CY
CMY
K
Relax & Enjoy Your Lawn
We Offer:
Installation & Service Spring Start Up Backflow Testing Winterization SPECIAL OFFER Sprinkler System Install $
100 Off
336-462-6200 | Email: office@CarolinaIrrigation.net | www.CarolinaIrrigation.net OCTOBER 2026 / 49
“The artist must train not only his eye but also his soul.” - Wassily Kandinsky
1
3
4 2
FEATURED ARTISTS 1 Alexa Romero-Castro 3 Logan Johnson Grade 11 Grade 10 West Forsyth High Kennedy High Maria Colamarino, Art teacher Natasha Young, Art teacher 2 Victoria Alcacer Pena 4 Andrea King Grade 3 Grade 7 Griffith Elementary Flat Rock Middle Chandra McMillan, Art teacher Chrisdian Lee, Art teacher
50 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
NEVER DO LAUNDRY AGAIN. Free Pick Up & Delivery
. WINSTON-SALEM . CLEMMONS . LEXINGTON . LEWISVILLE . PFAFFTOWN
. BERMUDA RUN . ADVANCE . KERNERSVILLE . MOCKSVILLE Scan to Schedule . RURAL HALL your Pickup Today! getwoshbox.com
OCTOBER 2026 / 51
My Grandparents’ House by J E A N M A R I E J O H N S O N
black and white photo captures the image of two elderly A faded eastern Europeans – a babushka and a pair of suspenders are
signature details. My mom sits between them with coiffed hair, dark lipstick (red, I imagine) in a lovely full skirted dress with an infant in her lap. My dad, cigarette in hand, sports a crisp white shirt, tie undone. It must have been a Sunday afternoon, post church – Catholic Mass, in Latin. I don’t know if the infant in the photo was my sister or me because, by the time I found it, my mom was lost in her Alzheimer’s battle.
There’s another photo. A young child with a broad grin is playing to the camera’s lens, hugging a baby doll and proudly flaunting a grown woman’s purse. Yep, that would be me. Definitely. I didn’t know my grandparents because they passed away when I was quite young. But, even as a precocious preschooler, I knew that they looked different, dressed “funny” and spoke in a strange language that was gibberish to me. The small and whimsically charming house on the east side of Bridgeport, CT – their American dream – was a steady touchpoint during my childhood. After my grandparents’ death, my mom’s only living sister, her husband and three children and at least one dog lived on the upper floor of the house. One of my mom’s brothers, affectionately referred to as “Fat Uncle George”(to differentiate him from “Skinny Uncle George” who lived upstairs), lived downstairs and cooked for the entire household. And man, did he cook. Fat Uncle George had spent years during the Second World War preparing meals for his fellow soldiers. All we knew as kids was that he could whip up a
52 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
hearty lentil stew, savory stuffed cabbage or classic kielbasa and kraut like no one else. And, when we all “behaved,” Fat Uncle George handed out chocolates like it was Halloween. Those Sunday afternoons left us with full stomachs and the head-to-toe exhaustion that comes from simple good fun cranked up a few notches. By today’s standards, that house was tiny and cramped. But to me, it was pure magic! The witch’s hat roof style, the charming front porch for sitting and the banister. Oh, that black shiny banister! It connected the first and second floors and was ensconced in a closed hallway. As young kids, we’d launch from the top and slide all the way to the bottom, again and again and again, like a carnival ride. As we grew into our pre-teen years, that hallway became the place for private exchanges and the critical sharing of “information” by our older cousins. That house, the gathering place for three generations, mattered. All of my grandparents’ nine children were born there. Beloved pets were buried there. And, most poignantly, children and grandchildren learned the meaning of “family” there. The house is long gone now, a night fire claiming it while my aunt’s family escaped unharmed. Most of them are gone now, too.
I still remember the house number. I still remember the sights, sounds and scents. I will always remember the part my grandparents’ house played in my life story.
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2026
Grab your shopping bestie and make a day of it! Shop local. Discover new favorites. Find something special. Get a jump start on holiday shopping.
START ANYWHERE. SHOP YOUR WAY. No starting line. No complicated schedule. Just shop! Pick up your Shop Hop wristband + passport at Forsyth Humane Society. Choose your route and visit participating businesses throughout the day. Enjoy exclusive Shop Hop specials and discounts. Scan the Shop Hop QR code at checkout to check in. Check in at all participating locations for your chance to win the $800 Grand Prize!
AND THERE’S AN $800 GRAND PRIZE! One lucky Shop Hop shopper will win a custom artwork experience with local artist Elijah Kell of Kell Glass—creating a one-of-a-kind piece made just for you.
IT’S FREE TO SHOP! Advance registration is appreciated!
REGISTER + GET DETAILS Questions? Brooke Culler 336.749.1946 brooke@forsythmags.com
The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective The Secrets to Conversations That Deepen Connection by A . K E I T H T I L L E Y
Imagine this scenario – your spouse comes home from work and, immediately upon coming in the door, appears frustrated and annoyed about something. You ask them if something is on their mind, and they flood you with emotional refuse about something that happened to them at work. Your instinct is to help them resolve their issue and feel better, so you make suggestions. Unfortunately, your response backfires, and they turn on you, implying you’re not being supportive. Now you’re confused and frustrated, feeling attacked. The situation dissolves into something else entirely. Whether it’s this scenario or something like it, we’ve all been there, misunderstanding the message leading to inopportune responses. It’s not that we don’t care about each other; it’s just that our intentions and desires are out of sync. I viewed a fascinating talk by award winning author and journalist Charles Duhigg on the science behind better conversations, and it completely changed my perspective on routine interactions. Duhigg explains that whenever we speak, we’re actually having one of three distinct types of conversations. Once we figure out which one we’re in, connecting with our spouses, kids, coworkers or even a total stranger becomes a whole lot easier. The first big secret Duhigg shares is that every discussion is one of three types: Practical, Emotional or Social. A practical conversation is all about problem solving, logistics and logic. This was your position in the initial scenario mentioned. An
emotional chat is where someone just wants to vent, feel heard and have their feelings validated. This was your spouse’s position. Finally, a social interaction is about how we relate to each other, our identities and our community. The real trouble starts when two people are having entirely different conversations at the same time. As in my earlier example, your spouse came home exhausted, complaining about a tough day, while you immediately began offering advice on ways to manage the problem. They wanted an emotional connection, but you gave them a practical solution. As Duhigg points out in his talk, “If we don’t know what kind of conversation is occurring, we can’t connect.” By learning to identify these states, we can consciously shift our mindset to match the needs of the person across from us. This simple recognition helps us understand why so many of our everyday interactions feel slightly off-key. It allows us to pause and ask ourselves what the other person is truly looking for in that exact moment. Are they asking for advice, or are they just looking for a safe harbor to share their burdens? By learning to read these conversational cues, we stop accidentally stepping on each other’s toes and start moving in harmony instead. To bridge this gap in our own living rooms, Duhigg suggests we stop focusing so much on what we want to say and start looking for what the other person actually needs from the exchange. To enhance this opportunity, he recommends a process he calls “looping.” For
example, when your child or colleague tells you something important, you repeat back what you heard in your own words and then ask if you understood them correctly. This simple step has a profound effect on the conversation. It validates to the other person that you’re not just waiting for your turn to speak and that you genuinely care about their thoughts. Duhigg emphasizes this practice changes the entire energy of the exchange and builds trust, illustrating that we value accuracy over our own assumptions. Another beneficial nugget of wisdom from his research is the idea of skipping the shallow small talk and asking what he calls deep questions instead. For example, rather than asking a new neighbor what they do for a living, you might ask them what they enjoy most about their life right now or what drove them to choose their specific path. Deep questions ask about a person’s values, beliefs or feelings rather than just trading dry, hollow facts. When we display interest in who people are on the inside, it opens up a comfortable, safe space for real vulnerability. Duhigg
To comment and see more, visit theviewfrommysection.com.
1 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM 54 / FORSYTHFAMILYMAGAZINE.COM
emphasizes that this vulnerability is the secret sauce of human connection, explaining that “when we share something real about ourselves, it invites others to do the same.” It turns a boring, routine chat into a memorable, heartwarming moment of true connection. At the end of the day, making our daily conversations more meaningful does not require us to be perfect or incredibly sophisticated communicators. As Duhigg gently reminds us, “Communication is a learned skill that anyone can master.” It just takes a genuine curiosity and willingness to match the frequency of the person with whom we’re communicating. When we learn to identify what others truly need in a conversation, we stop talking past each other and start creating a real connection. Both parties are left with a more gratifying impression, a sense of being understood, appreciated and profoundly comforted. One can’t ask for more than that. Musical Selection: Misunderstood - Studio Sessions (Live) - Cory Asbury
ONE WEEK FREE TRIAL*
BUILDING CONFIDENCE AND STRENGTH IN A SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY CROSSFIT
OLYMPIC WEIGHTLIFTING
PHYSICAL THERAPY
NUTRITION
WASHINGTONPARKCROSSFIT.COM 2020 Hollyrood Street Winston-Salem, NC 27172
Have questions? Text us at 336.749.1946 Email us at info@WashingtonParkCrossFit.com
COLD PLUNGE
INFRARED SAUNA
OUR COMMITMENT
A community of like-minded people aiming to improve their quality of life through constantly varied functional fitness. @WashingtonParkCrossFit
*Free trial only available to Winston-Salem residents. If you are traveling to the area, please utilize the drop in option.
MORE TIME. LESS INTEREST.
15 months at 0% APR*
Purchases + qualifying balance transfers
Then rates as low as 11.74%–17.99% APR* APR=Annual Percentage Rate. 0% APR for purchases and qualifying balance transfers during the first 15 months. After that, the rate reverts to a variable APR between 11.74% and 17.99%. To qualify for the 0% APR during the Promotional Period, balance transfers must be posted in the first three months. Offer valid for balances transferred from non-Truliant accounts. Balance transfer fee applies.