Forest Holme Hospice - Autumn Newsletter 2020

News Autumn 2020

Charity Number 1038021

Mystery Boxes Unwrapping secret surprises (page 8)

Dear Friends

Charity Manager, Anne Currie

Welcome to our Autumn newsletter.

‘Improvise, adapt and overcome!’ A quick Google search attributes this saying to both Clint Eastwood and Bear Grylls, but I heard it years ago from my brother -in-law who was serving in the Fleet Air Arm. His use of the phrase normally involved superglue, bits of recycled metal and the now, decommissioned Sea King helicopters.

A bit like the superglue, this phrase has stuck in my head for the last six months as individuals, organisations and society try to make sense of, and adapt to, the ever changing world around us. It has been hard at times, it continues to be challenging but ultimately there will be light at the end of the tunnel and we have to keep focused on that.

As you will have read both in our summer newsletter and this one, the services which Forest Holme provides to our community have had to improvise and adapt to meet the needs of patients and their loved ones during this 2

already unsettling time. The increased adoption of digital technology to address some of this need has helped to provide some comfort in lieu of nothing, but it can never replace the physical human interactions which come so naturally within palliative and end of life care.

We know that the demand on our services is increasing and will continue to do so, therefore the Charity will be financially supporting increased resources for the counselling team and also funding a part-time Advanced Healthcare Practitioner for Motor Neurone Disease, recognising that hospice care is there for everyone with life-limiting illness, not just those living with cancer. Your support has enabled us to do this, thank you.

We’d also like to extend our thanks to partners at Poole Hospital, Royal Bournemouth and Christchurch Hospitals and Macmillan Caring Locally who have all worked together over the last few months to secure some Covid-19 funding for services at Forest Holme and the Macmillan Unit, which has been helpful due to the significant impact the pandemic has had on the Charity’s fundraising activities.

Within fundraising we’ve had to

Contents improvise and adapt by repurposing the gifts you have given us to assist us in raffles and our cancelled events, but they now take the form of our Mystery Boxes. They’ve been a fantastic success, so thank you to everyone who bought one.

2. Welcome 4. In Memory 7. Christmas Draw 8. Mystery Boxes 10. Reflections from Counselling

Our Light up a Life activities are having to adapt and go online this year. This is such a special event in our calendar and we love sharing it with you all, but we’ll have to do it a little differently this year. We hope you understand and that you will still virtually join us if you can. We know it won’t be the same. But like the batteries falling out the candles into the darkness of the car park, the tree lights not switching on after the countdown and singing carols in the rain, we hope that it will be yet another memory to share with us as part of the Forest Holme family.

12. Light Up A Life / Remembrance Tree

This newsletter only scratches the surface of the number of people who have continued to support Forest Holme with their kindness in a variety of ways during this time. We are so very lucky to have you all with us. And that is the reason why, even with all the current challenges, together we shall achieve part three of the saying: overcome.

29. Small Change / Mailing List

With best wishes, Anne

13. Light Up A Life Dedication Form 14. Hospice News 15. Fundraising Thank You 18. The Big Brunch 19. Light Up A Life - Service Programme 24. Quiz & Word Search 26. Christmas Cards 28. Get Fit For Forest Holme

30. The Big Brunch 32. Recycling 33. Halloween Scavenger Hunt 34. Alive: In The Face Of Death 35. Planning For The Future 36. Save Tax When You Leave Your Legacy 38. Tree Of Celebration 3

Cancer Doesn't Care Life is a series of lessons which we can learn if we choose...but I learnt a very hard one recently, when I realised that…

Cancer Doesn't Care Cancer doesn't care' was the hook line from one of the cancer charity television adverts that I'd seen.

That phrase "Cancer doesn't care' stayed with me right throughout Christine's time of illness.

But to begin with - the eight years and eight months we spent together - her final years - began when Christine and I met online back in 2011. To me, then a man of 58, the online dating site 'Plenty of Fish' was a very alien environment and one I really didn't feel at all comfortable in. However, I wrote what I thought was an honest appraisal of myself, added a reasonably recent photograph, and posted it on that site. The first 24 hours wasn't great I can tell you.

For example, I wasn't sure how I was supposed to respond to e-mails which simply consisted of "Hi".

by David Evans

A person whom I felt so completely 'right' with, that to not fall head over heels in love with Christine was unthinkable, and' head over heels' came very quickly to us both.

And so my brief encounter with 'Plenty of Fish' dating site ended, as the very best time of my life began.

On our first date, just an evening meal at The Curlew, I was pretty much a nervous jabbering wreck, something which amused Christine for years afterwards when we recalled it! At the end of that date I thought to myself; “Well that's that, you idiot, you've blown it for sure.

She'll never want to see you again”.

In truth however, what happened was that we quickly became The following day though, on a late completely inseparable. We felt and April evening, I got a lovely e-mail, we were 'as one'. We always walked a couple of decent thoughtful side by side, hand-in-hand, and I paragraphs compiled by a lady who tell you, that simple fact (the very quickly turned into the holding of hands) is the one thing greatest love I would ever know. that I miss the most.

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In Memory The life I'd been living on my own had turned grey and bland but once Christine came into it, it was filled with brightness, colour and fresh air. The pulse - the heartbeat that our Wedding Day generated, surrounded by the loving warmth of the friends and family was our fondest memory of all, and of course it continues to be mine.

The newly married couple wanted to have a home together and so we sold up and in early December of 2018 we moved into what we proudly called 'ours'; our own marital home. However, even the day of moving in was blighted for Christine, by the fact that she'd had to attend hospital just as the move took place and once again we found we were facing a second, and this time more serious battle, against cancer.

Close to Christmas time of that year she underwent a major operation and was immediately placed back into another six sessions of chemotherapy. This was an absolutely heart-breaking time for us both and we knew that we were now fighting for survival. No need to dwell on the horrible grim details. I'll spare you, but be assured that I was in awe of Christine as she showed incredible tenacity, resolve and pure inner strength of spirit in the sheer

power of will with which she fought her terrible illness.

A short time on from Christine's diagnosis of Ovarian Cancer, I remember we were sitting in consultation with the oncologist, who casually mentioned that “we'd reached the point whereby Christine could not be made better and that any further treatment was aimed at extending life for as long as possible rather than any cure�.

And that lonesome ominous phrase echoed in my mind once again ’Cancer doesn't care'.

After that, there were a few times when we could enjoy the odd day out or even a short break away together, but it was clear that the cancer was progressing.

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She was to endure many stays in hospital trying (trying so hard) to get better and fight her way back to some kind of a state of health.

Those were hard times, hard times for us both, because I tell you, to watch someone you absolutely adore going through such treatments is both mental and physical torture of the harshest kind.

Of course, right from the beginning of our dark days, the family and the friends came together around her and touched me deeply with their open offers of assistance for us, and for myself as well as the long hours of vigil at Christine's bedside shaped my life. The absolutely exceptional palliative care team we met at Forest Holme Hospice, each and every one of them.

Each of us will remember her in our own way. But none of us will have anything but good, shining memories of her. Her smile, her gentle way and open warmth - a caring, beautiful lady of decency and compassion, understated, true and genuine of character.

Time cast its spell on Christine and she had to leave far too early.

For us as a couple, although we met later in life, we still had so many more things we wanted to do and adventures we'd have loved to The counsellor there, who in live through. Her impact on my life particular somehow reached me and continues to help me so much; was massive and indelible and my deep love for her remains absolute Fraser, the quite remarkable even though my heart is broken.

Chaplain, here with us to help us in our grief. I don't forget their She had a nice way with her, and kindness and genuine empathy she was a staunch person of strong and each and every one of you will values, principles and unshakeable receive my most heartfelt thanks as ethics, which guided her right I try to regain myself and with the throughout her all too brief life. passage of time return to a sense of stability, following my own grief. Now - I have to finally say farewell to you my darling Love, my Each of us will hold our own Christine. But ‘Cancer doesn't personal memories of Christine, care'. beit as a relative, a work colleague, a friend or as her husband.

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CHRISTMAS PRIZE DRAW 1st PRIZE

£500

2nd PRIZE

£250

5 x PRIZES

£50

TICKETS £2 EACH or £10 PER BOOK Prize drawn on 11th December 2020 Tickets also available to purchase online: https://www.raffleplayer.com/fhhc Prize fund has been generously funded by Wessex Marine

Mystery Boxes Due to the Covid-19 pandemic, we made the decision to cancel this year’s Charity Ball at Parley Manor. To recuperate some of the lost income, we decided to sell the ‘Mystery Boxes’ from the event in exchange for a donation of £10 to our work. Each box containing a prize up to the value of £50.

The boxes proved so overwhelmingly popular, we have since organised two more sales during lockdown, which has so far raised £1,600 for the charity. Keep an eye on our Facebook page for news of future Mystery Box sales.

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Mystery Boxes

Thank you to everyone that kindly donated items for the Mystery Boxes, which also included local businesses such as Tesco and Primark.

A special mention must also go to volunteer Tiff Watson (below), who has created and beautifully wrapped hundreds of boxes at home for the charity.

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Reflections from the Counselling and Melissa: “Having newly joined the service in February 2020, I was just beginning to find my place in the team when the pandemic hit Britain. Reflecting on what it has been like for myself and the counsellors over the past few months naturally brought a metaphor to mind. Starting a new job can sometimes feel like one is stepping onto a rollercoaster.

Being in a new job when Covid-19 hits is like that rollercoaster has been set on fire.”

Kathy: “We had the dilemma of how we could provide care to the many vulnerable patients and families accessing our service, as we were no longer able to offer face-to-face “All of a sudden, we were not able counselling sessions. As a team, to counsel people in the way we we decided to offer telephone have always done, we were counselling, this has proved an separated from many of our invaluable way of offering colleagues, and we could not run psychological support. For some the formal and informal groups clients this felt like a good option, that our service users find so for others, this has not felt so valuable. We quickly had to adjust comfortable. Later we were able to to using remote technology to keep offer video counselling. For many of the service running. We got the patients and families, feedback involved in supporting our frontline suggests that it is a close second to workers, and the need for ourselves face-to-face sessions. I am aware to apply the principles of self-care that meeting with a counsellor, we were teaching others, came into online or over the telephone, does sharp relief. I really felt honoured not appeal to everyone, and I to be part of a team that worked so wondered how these patients are hard to keep themselves in a coping. Because of this I developed position to be able to support a short video presentation about patients, families, carers and the psychological impact of a staff in amongst their own personal cancer diagnosis. turmoil and still be creative with what they could offer.”

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Psychology Service This aims to normalise feelings, provide information and support from a more comfortable ‘safe distance’.”

Dania: “The grieving journey in normal time can already be very complex, clients who had just started to go out and join activities had to go back and self-isolate.

Some clients with no local families or children have gone for days without talking to another person.

For elderly clients it has been difficult to manage food shopping, picking up prescriptions, etc. There was a need to keep informed by watching the news, an activity in itself that created more anxieties.

During the lockdown families haven’t been able to have a proper funeral or to get the support and physical contact from loved ones.

Speaking to people by telephone who haven’t been able to connect to a webcam, just hearing the distress or the long silences and not being able to see clients, trying to concentrate so hard on just the voice is very challenging. Some clients were interrupted during the counselling answering the door bell or children needing something or might have gone out to run an errand, effectively having counselling ‘on the go’.”

Melissa: “Even though the flames on my roller coaster seem to have gone out and the ride is levelling off, know this is not the case for

many of our patients and families.

We are seeing increased levels of anxiety and depression as people are worried about contracting the virus, the impact on their treatment, and are more isolated and cannot do the things that they enjoy. Some difficult decisions are having to be made when weighing up the risks of contracting Covid vs the risk of depression and emotional pain in self-isolation. We continue to provide support and deliver new, safe ways of offering support: group therapy online, informative and instructional videos, and looking forward when we can gradually open face to face sessions.”

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Light Up A Life Due to current social distancing restrictions, this year’s Light Up A Life event will be taking place online.

Please join us and enjoy a virtual mixture of readings, prayers, songs, poems and remembrance by visiting our website www.forestholmehospice.org.uk or via www.facebook.com/forestholme at 6.30pm on November 26th.

You will find a Service Programme for this special event on pages 19 - 23 of this newsletter and a Dedication Star enclosed.

Tree of Remembrance Each year at Christmas time, our Light up a Life appeal provides the local community with the opportunity to dedicate a star on our Tree of Remembrance.

All donations made during this appeal will support patients and families in need of our care over the festive season.

This year the tree will be located in Falkland Square in Poole Town Centre, so if you would like to make a dedication to a loved-one on a star, you can visit us in our pop-up shop situated in the new Eco Hub by the lift on the 1st floor of the Dolphin Shopping Centre.

Alternatively, you can complete the form on page 13 and your loved one’s name will be handwritten onto a Light up a Life star and displayed on the tree.

The pop-up shop will also be selling Christmas Cards, festive merchandise and handcrafted items and will be open daily (except Sundays) between 10.30am - 3.30pm from Thursday 26th November - Wednesday 18th December.

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(Your star will be displayed on the tree in Falkland Square outside the Dolphin Shopping Centre from Thursday 26th November - Wednesday 18th December 2020) (please tick below)

I would like to make a donation and enclose a cheque payable to ‘Forest Holme Hospice Charity’ for £____________ Please send me a written thank you letter for this donation Please send me an email thank you letter for this donation

Please return this form and your cheque to: Light Up A Life - Forest Holme Hospice Charity - 5 Seldown Road - Poole - Dorset - BH15 1TS 9 13

Hospice News Sandbanks Ferry have very kindly donated a book of ferry passes to our community palliative care nurse Josie (left), who covers the Isle of Purbeck.

The ferry company chose Forest Holme as its Charity of the Year and made the lovely goodwill gesture to make Josie's commute easier, as she usually has to drive the long way round.

Meet our two latest members of staff (right) at the hospice - Ken, who is training to be a GP and Tom , who has just started as our new Speciality Doctor in Palliative Care.

We were very sad to say goodbye to Rev Fraser Smith (left), from the chaplaincy team at Poole Hospital, who has left to start a new chapter in his life with his wife in Germany.

Fraser led our annual Light Up a Life event for many years and we wish him well on his new adventure.

It was lovely to welcome Joint Chief Executive, Debbie Fleming (right), of Poole and Bournemouth Hospitals to Forest Holme in July to help recognise the effort Forest Holme teams have made to continue their hospice services during Covid-19.

Debbie met with lots of members of staff, but spent a considerable amount of time listening to the experience of the Community Specialist Palliative Care team who were faced with many challenges trying to provide the best care they could for patients, and their families, in their own homes since March.

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Fundraising Thank You Congratulations to Claire Smith (left), who recently completed a gruelling unsupported ‘Jogle’ challenge from John O' Groats to Lands End for the hospice in memory of Susan Northcott.

Claire covered 893 miles in 23 days, 8 hours, 24 minutes and has so far raised over £5,000. (See our next newsletter for the full story) Following emergency surgery on her back, our End of Life Nurse Specialist Vanessa Barents (below) raised nearly £3,000 during her rehabilitation by walking up and down her stairs at home until she reached the equivalent of Mount Everest.

10-year-old Fraser Burnet (above) swam the equivalent of the English Channel - 2,817 lengths of his pool at home - and raised nearly £3,000 for Forest Holme to honour both his Daddy and Grandpa.

Roo Wilton (right) and Nina Ingham (far right) both earnt their wings recently by completing a Wing Walk, collectively raising over £3,500 for Forest Holme.

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Fundraising Thank You Poole Bay Classics (below) very kindly donated £300 to the hospice despite their annual summer event at Breamore House being cancelled due to Covid-19.

3-year-old Ellison (above) spent lockdown raising £350 by scootering the equivalent Laura Dean (right), of a marathon before whose in-laws have delivering a cake for staff. been opening their beautiful garden to the public for many years in support of Forest Holme, delivered a donation despite being unable to Vicky Cox (above, right) open the garden took part in a Barclays this year. The Virtual Relay Race and Deans have now raised £350 in memory of raised nearly £10,000 in total for the her step-mum Jane. charity.

Hayley Darmody (below, left) and all her neighbours raised £125 for the hospice by organising the Greenway Crescent Book Stall during lockdown.

Jan Reynolds (right) kindly donated a lovely Cotton Trader hamper to use as a fundraising prize.

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Fundraising Thank You

Congratulations to Nicky Edmunds (above, left), who won our £300 Trolley Dash at Sainsbury's.

Tony Smith (right) generously bought two new love seat sets of garden furniture for the courtyard garden in memory of his wife Jo. Jules Dorrington (right) sold homemade chocolate brownies and kindly bought a bird table and two feeders, plus bird food, with the proceeds for Forest Holme.

Mr and Mrs Lawson (left) very generously donated £250 as a thank you for the devoted care the hospice provided for their loved-ones.

Lynne Dinmore raised £115 for by selling beautiful handmade ceramics (right) from a table in her driveway during lockdown.

Dee Notley (left) kindly delivered a toaster, microwave, cushions, biscuits, chocolate, mugs and spoons for staff and visitors to use at the hospice on behalf of Poole Scooter Club.

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Join The Big Brunch

Host your own Big Brunch in October to support Forest Holme Hospice Spoil your work colleagues, family or friends with sausage and bacon rolls, or keep it simple with croissants, muffins and fresh fruit.

Add in tea, coffee and juice and tuck in!

Celebrate Hospice Care Week by hosting a Big Brunch

(see p30)

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Light up a Life Service Programme Thursday 26th November 2020

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Welcome Song Opening - We are here to remember those we loved who have died.

Our hearts ache, our tears flow. We feel a deep, tender wound because someone precious is no longer part of our life on earth. We grieve because of that physical absence, but we also rejoice to have known that love.

We are not alone in our grief, our tears and our memories. We reach out to one another with love, with understanding and with hope. Those we loved who have died unite us. Your pain becomes my pain. Your joy becomes my joy. Your hope is my hope. Some of us are far along in our grieving; others still experience grief so fresh and intensely painful that we feel helpless and see no hope.

Some of us have found our faith to be a source of strength; some of us are angry; some filled with guilt or in deep depression; others glow with inner peace. Whatever pain we bring to this gathering, it is pain we share.

Even as we struggle to rebuild our lives we reach out to one another in love. We will share joy as well as pain. We will share faith as well as doubt. We will help one another to grow as well as grieve.

We are not alone.

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Reading – I Am There by Iris Hesselden Look for me when the tide is high And the gulls are wheeling overhead When the autumn wind sweeps the cloudy sky And one by one the leaves are shed Look for me when the trees are bare And the stars are bright in the frosty sky When the morning mist hangs on the air And shorter darker days pass by.

Prayer

I am there, where the river flows

And salmon leap to a silver moon Where the insects hum and the tall grass grows And sunlight warms the afternoon I am there in the busy street I take your hand in the city square In the market place where the people meet In your quiet room - I am there I am the love you cannot see And all I ask is - look for me.

For Forest Holme and all who work in palliative care.

Let them shine as lights in the darkness.

For those who use their skills to tend the terminally ill Let them light up the lives of those for whom they care.

For those who support the dying and bereaved Light up their lives and give them strength.

For those who have lost loved ones and who are experiencing the darkness of grief.

Light up their lives.

In gratitude for all those whom we love and remember today.

Light up our lives and fill us with peace, love and joy.

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Poem by Sarah Blackstone Imagine if I was given one moment, just a single slice of my past.

I could hold it close forever, and that moment would always last.

There are moments I can think of that would lift my spirits every time.

The moments when you picked me up, when the road was hard to climb.

I'd put the moment in a safe, within my heart's abode.

I could open it when I wanted, and only I would know the code.

For me to only pick one moment to cherish, save and keep is proving really difficult, as I've gathered up a heap!

I could choose a time of laughing, a time of happiness and fun.

I could choose a time that tried me through everything I've done.

I've dug deep inside my heart, found the safe and looked inside There was room for lots of moments; in fact, hundreds if I tried.

I sat and thought about what moment would always make me smile.

One that would always push me to walk that extra mile.

I'm building my own little library, embedded in my heart, for all the moments spent with you before you had to part.

If I'm feeling sad and low, if I'm struggling with what to do, I can go and open my little safe and watch my moment through.

I can open it up whenever I like, pick a moment and watch it through, My little library acts as a promise I'll never ever forget you.

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The flame of the candle in our centre symbolizes remembrance. As we light our own candle in memory of our loved one, let us do so with gratitude that they lived and that we shared their life for a time.

Please light your own candles Let this tiny light also represent our own rebirth and renewal as we seek meaning in life without these we loved; as and happiness; as we look to future's promise with our surviving loved ones and share our lives.

Afterglow by Helen Lowrie Marshall I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one.

I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.

I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways, Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.

I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun; Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.

Thank you for virtually joining us and supporting Forest Holme.

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Quiz We are offering our supporters the chance to win £100 by completing our Quiz and Word Search.

Special thank you to Ashley Hooper, our regular Quiz Night quizmaster, for supplying the questions.

1.

On which island might you land at Cristiano Ronaldo airport?

2.

How many thousand miles does light travel in one second?

3.

What moved from Forest Hills to Flushing Meadows in 1978?

4.

What is the Capital of the Northern Territories in Australia?

5.

Who became Britain’s first female Black Member of Parliament in 1987?

6.

What type of foodstuff are Swedish Peanut and Russian Banana?

7.

Which actor played the title role in the 2020 film ‘Dolittle’?

8.

On a standard British Roulette wheel are the even numbers red or black?

9.

What could you buy in varieties Farmer, Butler, London and Belfast?

10.

Who is the only one of the Queen’s children not to have divorced?

11.

In which pub card game is 19 impossible to score?

12.

Which two Carols have won the ‘Rear of the Year’ award?

13.

In which British Territory could you buy a copy of ‘Penguin News’?

14.

What does the French phrase ‘Quel Dommage’ mean?

15.

Which television comedy series was set in HWD Components factory in Manchester?

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Word Search Find 15 Forest Holme related words below, which might be horizontal, vertical or diagonal or even spelt backwards.

Entry is £5.00 donation (cheques made payable to ‘Forest Holme Hospice Charity’) and please send along with your completed Quiz and Word Search answers (plus contact details) to ‘Forest Holme Hospice Competition’ by Monday 30th November. Winning entry with correct answers will be picked at random on Tuesday 1st December.

Good luck!

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Thank you to those who have chosen to support us in this way. To request your collection tin please contact our team on 01202 670644 or email fundraising@forestholmehospice.org.uk

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The Big Brunch Host your own ‘Big Brunch’ during October and help your local hospice during these uncertain times.

Hosting a Big Brunch is a great way of bringing together friends, family and colleagues, even when we're apart.

Whether it’s a quiet Sunday with freshly ground coffee and pastries, or a leisurely catch up in a restaurant with your friends, everyone loves brunching!

You decide whether it’s a socially distanced brunch for up to six in your garden, or it’s a virtual brunch for twenty on video call. Make sure that you feel comfortable and are following the latest government advice so we can all stay safe and well.

Follow our easy steps to hosting your own Big Brunch

1. Get your free Big Brunch fundraising pack Sign up online by clicking on www.forestholmehospice.org.uk/ bigbrunch

2. Choose where and when to hold your Brunch Invite friends, family and colleagues to join your Big Brunch.

Host a socially distanced brunch by holding a picnic in the park or a garden gathering with your neighbours.

Chat online through a video call or set up a WhatsApp group. You can use Zoom/Microsoft Teams/Facebook/ Skype to chat to those attending. Or simply by telephone.

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The Big Brunch 3. Decide on a menu Here are some suggestions to get you started:       

Coffee, Tea and Toast Muffins or Bagels Bacon / Sausage / Egg Sarnies Pancakes & Waffles Full English Breakfast Fruit Salad Croissants, Pastries, Scones and Breads  Yogurt with Granola or other Grains  Smoothies  Freshly squeezed Orange Juice  Cold Meats, Cheeses, Yogurt with Honey Be sure to include vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free and sugar free options.

4. Host your Brunch Don’t forget to share the fun you’re having on social media, and remember to tag us Facebook: forestholme / Instragram: @forestholmehospice / Twitter: @ForestHolme

5. Send in your donations Set up an online fundraising page on Just Giving and you can be sure that donations come straight to us, or you can pay in your money online via our website or bank transfer: Sort Code: 20-68-79 / Account No: 60408425 / Barclays Bank (Forest Holme Hospice Charity) Send us a cheque made payable to ‘Forest Holme Hospice Charity’, 5 Seldown Road, Poole, Dorset BH15 1TS Call us to pay your donation over the phone on 01202 670644 . It’s quick and easy!

Whether you give a regular donation or a one-off gift, make your donation worth an extra 25p per £1 - at no extra cost to you - by filling in our Gift Aid form.

Thank you

Bon appétit!

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Recycling Did you know we accept the following items to help support our fundraising?

Mobile phones

Postage stamps

*Please remove from envelopes

Foreign coins

Inkjet cartridges Wanted list: HP, Canon, Dell, Lexmark, Neopost and Samsung Please note that we do not accept Epson or Kodak cartridges.

Inkjet cartridges should fit in the palm of your hand.

We are now not able to recycle large toner cartridges.

Due to on-going visiting restrictions, please contact the fundraising office to arrange a time to deliver any recycling. Thank you.

Tel: 01202 670644 / Email: fundraising@forestholmehospice.org.uk

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Forest Holme Hospice Charity presents...

(Charity No: 1038021)

Halloween Scavenger Hunt

Dolphin Shopping Centre 28th – 30th October 10:00am - 3:00pm Find the Halloween painted pebbles hidden in 15 store windows across the Dolphin Centre.

Return correct entries and collect a bag of sweets.

Participants need to collect an entry form from the Eco Hub situated on the first floor of the Dolphin Centre.

Donation to Forest Holme to enter.

All entries will be in with a chance to win a Halloween Hamper the winner will be picked at random, draw will take place 30th October..

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Alive: In The Face of Death Now on until Saturday 21st November

An exhibition of selected images by internationally renowned photographer Rankin is finally open to the public at Lighthouse, Poole’s centre for the arts, six months after the venue closed in the face of the Covid-19 pandemic.

Forest Holme Hospice has teamed up with Lighthouse in Poole to hold an exhibition of selected images by internationally renowned photographer Rankin from his 2013 exhibition Alive: in the Face of Death.

In the original exhibition, held at The Walker Art Gallery in Liverpool, Rankin, best known for his glamorous portraits of celebrities and fashion icons, set out to explore and challenge our perceptions of death and ignite dialogue.

Through his lens, the stories of those touched by death were revealed and included people living with a terminal illness and those who have faced death and survived, alongside a plethora of people who work with individuals at the end of life, including Poole-based Palliative Care Specialist, Dr Simon Pennell.

The Lighthouse exhibition focuses on three themes - professional mourners, celebrity death masks and homage to the Day of the Dead in Mexico – which are powerfully and expressively explored through Rankin’s striking images.

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Planning For The Future ‘Leaving the world is just as important as entering it’ At Forest Holme Hospice we understand how important it is to take the time and make a Will to ensure that your money and assets are given to the people and causes you care about most. It’s really easy to think that you’ll get around to it one day when life isn’t quite so busy, but sometimes that day doesn’t come.

Therefore, it’s best to plan ahead and give yourself great peace of mind knowing that you have put your affairs in order. By doing this, you might also be relieving your loved ones of any added stress they may have at a very sad and difficult time. For example, did you know that if you die intestate there is a risk that your estate could end up belonging to the Government?

With this in mind, we have recently produced a legacy leaflet which helps to explain some of the benefits of making a Will, and if you choose to, the lasting impact of leaving a gift to the work of Forest Holme. As a small gesture of our thanks a metal bird plaque, featuring your name, will adorn our new Celebration of Life tree in the hospice’s garden (see page 38).

Forest Holme is incredibly fortunate to have been remembered by some of those we’ve had the privilege to care for over the years and we’d like to extend our thanks to the late Malcolm (Tommy) Thomas, his son Alan, Jackie Penny, Stuart Brooker and the late Debbie Anne Such who have recently donated a gift to us as a thank you for the comfort given whilst caring for Malcolm and Debbie.

We would like to thank everyone who has remembered us in this way as they have played a significant part in supporting the life-enhancing care given by all of the hospice’s teams to local people and their loved ones in the past, the present and for the future.

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Save Tax When You Leave Your Legacy Charities need our help more than ever before: Covid-19 lockdown and continuing social distancing rules have stopped many from raising vital funds.

So many charities are struggling now, their reserves fast running out. Legacies are the vital lifeline they need to survive in these difficult times.

Bequeathing money to a worthy cause close your heart is a wonderful act of generosity – especially now. Your kindness will be hugely appreciated by the charity and its beneficiaries.

But it pays to take expert legal advice first. There are generous tax benefits that will help your gift to go a long way (and potentially benefit your loved ones too).

Tax-Efficient Legacies

of thousands in many cases. So you’ll be able to give more of what remains in the estate to your loved ones and less to the taxman. But if you donated only 9% of your net estate to charity, this opportunity would be lost.

And here’s the tricky bit. The value of your estate will be changing as some of your assets (such as property and shares) rise or fall in value.

So you’ll need to be certain that the amount you leave to charity remains at or above 10% of your net estate if you are to benefit from the IHT reduction.

Good news – any gift you make to charity is free of Inheritance Tax (IHT). There’s no limit. You can How Much Will Be Left After donate as much as you like to Your Charity Legacy? charity and it won’t be subject to a penny of IHT. Leaving money to charity is such an emotional decision that And if you donate 10% (or more) of sometimes it’s all too easy to forget your net estate to charity, the IHT the practicalities of the process. liability on what is left drops from If you leave a fixed sum to charity 40% to 36%. (or anyone else) in your Will, then the executors are legally bound to That may not sound much of a reduction but it can save you tens pay out that money first.

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mailing list An increasing number of companies and organisations operate a match funding scheme whereby they ‘match’ charity fundraising undertaken by their employees.

This is one reason why it pays to get expert legal advice when making or reviewing your Will.

These businesses set aside money to fund such schemes and are more than happy to support their staff in raising money for charities of their choice.

Everyone else sharing in the remainder of the estate would receive their bequests from what is left afterwards (unless they too have been apportioned fixed sums). So the value of what they receive can vary, depending on what remains in the estate.

Charities need our help more than ever before: Covid-19 lockdown and continuing social distancing rules have stopped many from raising vital funds.

What if the value of your estate has fallen dramatically since you made your will? What if your savings have been depleted by care home costs or a fall in the value of your investments?

You need to be absolutely certain that what’s left in the estate will always be enough to help provide for your loved ones.

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Tree of Celebration Dedicate a leaf in memory of a loved one

For a donation to Forest Holme Hospice Charity, each leaf will be engraved with a personalised message for your loved one.

Each leaf has been handcrafted by Dolphin Marine, and secured on the tree designed and built by Elite Fabrication and Welding Ltd. Your leaf tribute will be displayed within our hospice garden for a year (from the day it is first mounted), after which you will be given the option to renew for another 12 months, or have your leaf returned for you to keep.

When visiting restrictions have eased, you are welcome to come and view your leaf and reflect in relaxed and comfortable surroundings.

To dedicate a leaf, please complete the form on the next page.

We ask for a minimum yearly donation of ÂŁ60 to dedicate a leaf which can also be paid in monthly instalments of ÂŁ5.

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Charity Number 1038021

Contact Us If you would like more information about the care the hospice provides or how to fundraise for us, we would love to hear from you.

Forest Holme Hospice 5 Seldown Road, Poole, Dorset, BH15 1TS T: 01202 670644 (Charity) T: 01202 448118 (Hospice) E: fundraising@forestholmehospice.org.uk www.forestholmehospice.org.uk Forestholme

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