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One woman’s amazing story of her struggle with suicide. Pg. 40

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etter from the

editor.

I write more articles than I care

or another, the pains of this world have

to count every month. However, no

beaten them down. Have you added

matter how many stories I write,

to that pain? Sure, maybe you haven’t

there’s always one that I take on

directly added to that person’s pain,

as my pet project. I devote myself

but what about someone else? Have you

entirely to that article. I interview

ever said something that might have hurt

numerous sources. I try and find out

someone more than you realized? Maybe

everything I possibly can about the subject.

it’s not something you said; maybe it’s

This month, that article is our article on

something you didn’t say. Oftentimes,

suicide, “Out of the Darkness.”

people who are suicidal are dealing with

Buffy Riddering shared her incredible tale of her struggle with suicide. Her first

loneliness and depression. A few simple, kind words may save a life.

attempt was when she was 8 years old. Can

As our world becomes busier and

you imagine that? 8 years old! When I was

more hectic. As we become more and

8, my only problem was that I wanted to

more divided over issues. Let’s not forget

stay up until 9 p.m. Imagine dealing with the

that we’re all in this together. We are

issue of ending your life before you can even

all united by the simple fact that we’re

do multiplication.

living and dying together. Stand together

The knowledge that people face this issue at such a young age shocked me. I hope it shocks you too. This is a tragic thing to learn. Nobody is safe from the pain of suicide. Whether you’ve had to conquer those hopeless feelings, are dealing with it right now or you’ve felt the pain of losing someone to suicide, the simple fact is that it has effected all of us in one way or another.

Do me a favor: Remember this fact. Every year, there are almost one million suicide attempts in the US. So, next time you’re at West Acres, take a seat on one of the benches.

Look at each and every person that walks by

and let’s love each other.

andrew@fmstride.com

MARCH 2013 Stride Magazine is published 12 times a year and is free. Copies are available at over 1,000 FargoMoorhead locations along with digital versions at www.fmstride.com.

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you. The chances are that some of them have had thoughts of ending their life.

The reasons behind those thoughts vary significantly but the one main reason that is common among all suicidal people is that they want their pain to end. For one reason

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Russ Drake uses an ‘old school’ mentality for training.

That’s right, he makes his clients go streaking through the streets just like Will Ferrell does in the Old School movie.

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ARTICLE BY

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K, we’re obviously joking. His ‘old school’ approach basically means that his clients can expect and will see results. This personal trainer at Valley Fitness and Magnum supplement distributor, asks his clients to leave all outside influences at the door and come mentally ready to push the limits. Drake asks that they never walk away from the gym thinking they could have given more. Drake summed up his love of fitness and healthy quite well. “It has always made sense to me and because of that I have been able to help others break it down and understand it.” This old school trainer shared his tips with us.

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Fitness Tip Make fitness a lifestyle choice before deciding on “lofty” goals. If you don’t make fitness a lifestyle, inevitably you won’t achieve the lofty goals you set.

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The Magnum supplements, which Drake sells, are made up of pure products and have no filters to ensure the best absorbance possible and that no money’s wasted.

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RED I P S N I d BE n a D ON A E R »

Old fashioned squats: The squat works your legs and glutes as well as assist in strengthening your core.

Legs

The weighted incline crunch: This ab exercise works every portion of your abdominal region during each crunch.

ABS

I do cardio three to four times per week for a minimum of 30 minutes per session. Cardio should be done early in the morning or later in the evening so any excess calories you may be storing from your day are burned off.

Cardio

appropriate supplementation, get plenty of sleep, maintain a proper training schedule and eliminate stressful forces from your life.

Discipline: Have the discipline to make the decisions that will move you closer to your fitness goals.

Dedication: Maintain proper nutrition, utilize the

through all the necessary hoops to achieve your goals.

Block out the negativity and maintain the faith to achieve your fitness goals.

Desire: Have the desire to follow through and to jump

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Snacks: Cottage Cheese, Magnum protein shakes and fruit.

Dinner: Green vegetables with chicken or fish.

shake.

Post-Workout: A piece of fruit with a Magnum Protein

Preworkout: Plain Multi-Grain bagel and a Magnum > protein shake.

> Lunch: Chicken or lean fish with broccoli.

toast with avocado spread and the appropriate Magnum Supplementation.

> Breakfast: Four egg whites/one yoke, one piece of Ezekiel

Meals

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a healthy conversation with

By Kylee Seifert Photography By J Alan Paul Photography

superwoman

DR.

When life gives you a full healthy plate, eat it up and then bike it off in your office over lunch and breaks. At least, that’s what Dr. Marie Moeckel has resorted to. One thing is for certain, this Superwoman doesn’t make excuses when it comes to fitting exercise into her schedule.

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esides being the new

her until she was in dental school to

an injury and began cross training

owner of Moeckel Family

jump on the workout bandwagon.

with swimming and biking. Her

Dentistry, wife, mother

Her father-in-law would invite

cross training evolved into a love

to two young boys and

her on runs and she remembers

for triathlons, which she avidly

triathlete, she makes time for

thinking, ‘He's like 60 and he can

participates in today.

friends and family, oh, and she even

run and I can't!’ She was then asked

maintains a healthy diet. While you

to run a 10k with a friend. She

Aside from maintaining a healthy

think she possesses supernatural

thought, 'what the heck' and began

diet, a healthy family and a solid

powers, Dr. Moeckel said the

training. She began by running

training schedule, she is a new

secret is to, "surround yourself with

one mile, then two, eventually five

business owner and a dentist, never

an amazing team of people.”

and to top it off, she ran the entire

skips out on her training schedule

length of her first 10k.

and even makes time for her family

She's a great advocate for proving

and friends. To say the least, she's

that fitness can become part of your

Being the addiction it is, she

a fantastic multi-tasker. She even

life at any stage. She didn't grow up

continued on with her fitness

rode her bike and ate while we sat

competitive, nor did she grow up a

endeavors

half

down for a chat with her. Who do

hardcore athlete, instead she was

marathon. She never intended to go

you think felt lazy during that one?

considered the brainy kid. It took

beyond running until she ran into

and

raced

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Dr. Marie Moeckel We convinced this Superwoman to put down her cape for an afternoon and spend some time with Stride.

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Superwoman

the conversation

demonstrated her time saving abilities during the conversation as she rode bike in her office. Her staff is planning on getting a small trampoline in the basement for her to use on lunch breaks.

What is your favorite part of participating in a triathlon?

Training. It gives me a reason to keep going. I have a racing season, an off season and a ramping up season. It keeps me focused. I train January through April. Once racing season starts I switch training up a bit.

I love biking. Biking makes me feel like a kid.

Getting on there (the bike) and going super fast. I love swimming, training wise. It also makes me feel like a kid. I am a horrible swimmer. I’m working on it. But there is a moment in the race where you

What motto do you live by?

know you’ve got it. I made it through this and that

“Losers find excuses and winners find a

and I’m almost through the finish line and I’m going

way.” My son makes excuses for everything.

to make it.

“Mom, I can’t do this because of this or I can’t do this.” There is an excuse for

“If you aren’t eating right or sleeping, you might as well not workout.”

everything if you look for it. If you are trying to get something done, you find a way to get it done. I never think about how not to get something done. That’s where having a good team of people comes in handy. I always find a way.

What is the key to staying healthy with such a busy schedule?

Eating! Eating is the most important thing… and sleeping. If you aren’t eating right or sleeping, you might as well not workout. It is just going to negatively effect you. We (her and her husband) subscribe to emeals.com and I am so excited about that. It is so easy and we don’t have to think about it.

What is your workout schedule like?

My goal is to swim three days a week, bike three days a week and run three days a week.

I just started getting into weight training and training at the Power Center at Sanford.

They make me work hard and do things that I don’t always want to do. I enjoy doing brick workouts. I like getting one long workout

We basically stick to clean eating. I don’t do vegetarian because I would never get enough protein. It’s more so that we don’t eat processed things. I make natural food and use natural seasonings. My weakness is when I don’t have time to do something, I will go eat out and because I’m so busy I don’t like to eat all the time. I drink a lot of Boost.

in one day. I’ll go and bike, swim and run for awhile to get it all in.

How do you maintain a healthy family?

My husband! We’ve been very blessed. We have kids who are reasonably good and we have great grandparents. We moved home to be closer to them. We do what we can but accept that we can’t do everything. My kids

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go to day care, go to school and have after school care. We have our time with them and when we have our time with them, that’s what’s going on. When you go home, you go home and when you’re working, you’re working. We minimize what we try to do at home. We’ve been doing everything for so long and it’s so nice to finally not have to do so many things. It’s about finding ways to not do so much at home.

Talk about your motivation.

I tell people I’m going to do things, so I have to. The more people you tell, the more you have to make sure you do it. I hold myself accountable for that. My husband knows I’m a racer, my boys know I’ve always been a racer and they would be confused if I didn’t. I know when I am not working out.

My husband has gotten to a point where he knows when I’m working out and when I’m not. He says, “If it’s between you working out and not working out, I’m going to get you out the door because you after your workout is much better than you not working out.” It just becomes a way of life. You can’t function without it.

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2) Add “potting mix,” not plain soil from your yard. Your soil needs to drain well.

GROW Kids who help grow a garden are more likely to sample the produce.

Whether you start seeds now and plant your own garden later this spring or buy your fruits and vegetables at a grocery store or farmers market, plan to include a variety of colors in your menu.

Scientists are regularly reporting new health benefits associated with fruits and vegetables.

People who eat more generous amounts of

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om, I’m growing corn, strawberries, tomatoes, pumpkin and cabbage in my garden.

Farm-fresh fruits and vegetables are good for my pet,” my daughter said as she showed me her computer game. She was 7 at the time. I waited for her to decide what outfit her virtual pet dog should wear for the day.

“Fruits and vegetables are good for you, too,” I replied.

“I can save money by growing my own fruits and vegetables,”

she noted as she read some tips in the online storybook.

“You’re really growing a rainbow of colorful produce.

You already have red, orange, yellow and green ones. Are there any seeds for purple fruits or vegetables?” I asked.

“No, but you can buy plums at the store. Look how big that green cabbage is! I’ll try to harvest it!” she exclaimed as she manipulated the computer mouse and inspected her garden.

to a Container Garden the container to a better place.

3) Choose seeds or plants. You can start your own seedlings in egg cartons or even an old cake pan. Fill the container with potting soil, add seeds and cover with about half an inch of soil. Cover with a clear plastic bag, place in a warm, sunny area and water regularly. When the seedlings have four or more leaves, they are ready to transfer into the final pot.

6) Add enough water on top of the soil so it begins to leak out the bottom.

4) Find a sunny spot for your container. If your plants aren’t doing well in the spot you chose, move

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5) Water often and fertilize according to the directions on the fertilizer container. Container gardens need to be watered more than regular gardens, ideally at least once every morning.

ARE YOU EATING A RAINBOW? As you may remember from grade school, “Roy G. Biv” is an acronym to help us remember the colors of the rainbow: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet. Try to eat from the spectrum of colors every day. For more information, see “What Color is Your Food?” available at www.ag.ndsu. edu/pubs/yf/foods/fn595.pdf. For gardening information, visit www.ag.ndsu.edu/horticulture

Grilled Foil-wrapped Vegetables -3 medium onions, peeled and quartered -4 c. water -1 bunch broccoli flowerettes -2 small yellow squash, cut into 1-inch slices -1 red pepper, cut into ½-inch strips -Lemon juice (2 Tbsp. total) -Pepper and salt (regular or seasoned salt) -Butter (3 Tbsp. total) Makes six servings. Each serving has 120 calories, 6 grams (g) fat, 14 g carbohydrate, 4 g fiber and 180 milligrams sodium.

Prepare vegetables as described. In a saucepan, boil water and then add onion pieces. Allow the onions to cook for three minutes and then drain thoroughly. Divide all vegetables into six portions and place on pieces of heavy aluminum foil. Sprinkle each portion with 1 teaspoon of lemon juice, and dash of pepper and salt. Top each with 1½ teaspoons of butter. Wrap packets tightly and grill over hot coals for about 30 minutes. (You also can cook this recipe in a preheated 375 F oven for about 20 to 30 minutes, until vegetables are tender.)

OUR EDITOR, ANDREW JASON, BREAKS

DOWN

HIS

SECOND

MONTH OF TRAINING FOR THE MARATHON

You sick of running yet? I hope not because you still have a lot of miles to put into training before you’re ready for the marathon. By now, most intermediate training plans should have you running around 15-20 miles every week. Those miles can take a toll on your body. There are some important precautions that you can take so you don’t find yourself sidelined by a pesky injury.

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I realize I stressed this last month as well but it’s very important that you purchase quality running shoes.

A general rule is that you want to replace them every six months or every 400 miles.

Listen to your body though. It’ll tell you when to replace your shoes.

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You don’t have to run everyday of the week to train for a marathon.

My program only has me running two days a week. The more miles you put in running, the more likely you are to injure yourself. Having that extra time in between runs allows your muscles to recover. However, make sure you’re doing plenty of cross training like swimming, cycling and jumping rope. Only running three days a week isn’t going to do you any good if you’re sitting on the couch the other days.

Questions?

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TELLS

YOU

HOW TO AVOID INJURIES.

By Andrew Jason

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One of my problems is that I’m impatient.

On Sundays when I’m doing my long runs, I don’t like to waste an hour and a half of my day off so I try and do my run as quick as possible.

This is a sure fire way to injure yourself. When I start increasing the speed on the treadmill, I have to tell myself to slow down. You’re going to get the same endurance running at a slower speed. Try and increase your speed on shorter runs.

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I am rarely held up by injures. I credit much of this to the fact that I give myself plenty of time to warm up and cool down before and after a run. It’s important you don’t shock your body by jumping into a run. I try and walk briskly for five minutes before running. After a run, I try and walk a minute for every mile I’ve ran. For example, if I ran seven miles, I will walk for seven minutes to cool down. It’s important that you give your muscles and heart time to recover.

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Running in the winter can be a dangerous chore. Be extra careful when you’re braving the weather outside. Especially be careful on turns. Those are often the times that you can wipe out easily. They sell running cleats that are great for running in the winter. They will give you plenty of extra traction. You can purchase these from Beyond Running in downtown Fargo.

Feel free to e-mail me at andrew@fmstride.com.

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Month Two

Jamie Krabbenhoft’s Story Stride reader, Jamie Krabbenhoft shared her story about training for the Fargo Marathon.

I am preparing for my first full marathon! My journey has been a long and hard one. I started training for what I thought would be my first full marathon back in 2010. Unfortunately, my running (and my life) came to a screeching halt when I was bucked off a horse I was training and broke two vertebrae in my back. I was told I was very lucky that the compression fractures didn’t sever my spinal cord. I spent over a year in braces and physical therapy. I started and stopped running more times than I can remember because of the pain.

I would lose hope for a while, but then the desire to run would come creeping back. It took almost three years, but I am now in the middle of a full marathon training program again, the pain is tolerable and I am more than a little excited to cross that finish line in May! Because my running was taken away from me and I had to fight to get it back, I now truly appreciate each time my foot hits the pavement. That’s my story, see you at the finish line!

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DANA CIRKS with

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By Kylee Seifert

Triathlete, Dana Cirks, knows you can’t outrun, outbike or outswim a nasty diet. As a fairly athletic adult, he used to think he could eat anything he desired. Until he started packing on pounds that were not in his benefit. He decided it was time to find a better way to fuel up in order to maintain the stamina and strength he needed.

He did his research and now follows a diet that has allowed him to dominate his age group in many races he’s participated in.

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“While racing in a triathlon in Bemidji, I recently had a crown put on my tooth. While swimming I felt something hit my lip when I was breathing only to realize later it was my crown being blown into the lake. This was the first time I won my age group therefore I had to pose for a picture after the race…with no front tooth!”

Trivia Time...

All of the following are true about Triathlete, Dana Cirks, except...

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A. He was able to bench press 465 lbs. and squat 650 lbs. during college.

B. He has always maintained a healthy diet. e page to see rn th the u C. He was the smallest kid in his class growing up.

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and the answer is....

If you picked “b,” then you were correct.

Dana Cirks’ list of accomplishments is impressive but he didn’t start correctly fueling his body for optimal health until just a few years ago. As a MSUM Dragon football player, he was a strong power lifter but could barely run half a mile. In 2005 a friend asked him to join him for a triathlon, Cirks had to inquire what a triathlon was. After almost falling dead on the shore after the swim portion of the race, he swore off triathlons for life. Then the adrenaline of crossing the finish line kicked in and he was hooked. Thirty plus triathlons and a half IRONMAN later, Cirks is in the best shape of his life and credits much of it to his healthy diet. Follow along to snag some nutritional tips from a runner, swimmer and biker all in one.

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Motivation I refuse to be the guy that says, ‘I can’t do that anymore’

grain foods with a lot of fruit. I avoid saturated fats as much as possible.

Hydration Water with electrolytes. I try to drink consistently on the bike as it is hard to drink while swimming and water stops can be far and few between on the run.

FRS drinks (an all natural sports drink used for elite athletes) for long workouts because they provide me with antioxidants to help sustain energy.

because of my age. I want to be as fit or fitter when I’m 70.

I use this time, especially biking and running, to get a lot of thinking done. With my busy life of being a father of three boys and having a full time job, it is sometimes tough to find the time to sort out work and family.

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Dana’s Daily Diet Breakfast Oatmeal and yogurt or a fruit smoothie. I will often sprinkle in some protein powder in them.

Snack 1 Yogurt with walnuts mixed in.

Lunch A dry turkey sandwich while getting a bike ride in over lunch.

Snack 2 Kefir cultured milk smoothie and a banana (I tend to carry one on me when I’m biking.)

Dinner Chicken breasts (prepared various ways) with rice pilaf, or baked salmon. I generally avoid condiments and keep my dinner the lightest meal of the day.

Power Snacks FRS drinks, Cliff Bars, Pomegranates and Hammer Gel.

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This is a community affair and Courts Plus couldn't be more excited to invite men, women and children of all ages to their new and renovated facility. “We wanted to give our members a club to be proud of and to have a portion of the club open to the community… to turn it into almost a hybrid of a community center,” explained Sales Director, Mike Peschel. The $4 million project funded by Fargo Parks has created an environment striving to offer a sense of community to the FM area.

a warm welcome Members and non-members enter into a warm and

inviting renovated entry way. They can scan their entry card here or pay for a day pass. The play area is $2 per day for unlimited play for kids, non-members can pay $7 for a daily use pass and it’s $5 for kids under 17, this includes group exercise classes.

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Photos by Andrew Jason and Lacey Finke

By Kylee Seifert

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The newest addition to the FM area improving fitness, health and community.

sweat sanctuary Courts couldn’t be more excited to liquid recovery Stop by the new smoothie

bar to grab a delicious refreshment and enjoy it in the newly remodeled lobby area. Or sip it while browsing through their new 'Pro Shop,' which offers stylish tennis and athletic gear.

kids zone The club has extensively

expanded on their children’s facility. Their new playground, interactive gaming room and birthday rental room allows for a much more active childcare center and helps veer away from TV watching or excess napping.

Courts Plus is located at 3491

University Dr. S, Fargo, ND. To find out more about the new upgrades go to courtsplus.org.

now offer three fitness rooms. Two of the rooms housing their group exercise classes, and one devoted to cycling. This new group exercise room features beautiful windows and a sound system that will add intensity to any of the 85 to 90 group exercise classes they are now offering per week.

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Credits: Artistic Director: Kylee Seifert Assistant Artistic Director: Andrew Jason Photography by: J. Alan Paul Photography Hair by: Stacey Costain; Tousled Hair Studio Makeup by: Nicolette Rose; Kiss N’ Makeup Men’s clothing - A.K.A, Strauss Clothing Women’s clothing - Proper & Prim and One World Imports Text by: Kylee Seifert

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Photoshoot Location: Fargo Country Club

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“The Intimidation”: Sweater: Ben Sherman, Pants; Halsey, Shoe; Wolverine Ole D: Shirt; Stone Rose Lena Lovebug: Dress: One World Imports, Stella Blue Cookie: Dress: One World Imports, Alythea

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Meeting ACT ONE, Scene 1: The D and Lena The happy couple, Ole to set up two of Lovebug, have decided date. They have their friends on a blind the Fargo Country planned a full day at fun, food and Club to enjoy a date of they say their drinks. They enter and s her friend s!”Cookie sweetly greet hello’ “ s to shake with a hug. Ole D reache The (self“ his friends hand, while goes in for a proclaimed) Intimidation” blind date. pound of approval of his

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t and a ne 3: Putt, Put ACT ONE, Sce Hole in One girls play the crew. The r fo e m ti k ea Br about golf and giggle a game of mini r the while waiting fo their cute dates the locker . Meanwhile in boys to change Ole D an midation”gives ti In he T “ , om ro lls Ole game plan. He te earful of his s date, y impressed hi D that he clearl nds she obviously fi Cookie, and how . him irresistible

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g by 4: Muscles Roastin ACT ONE, Scene the Fire a love , the crew enjoys Later in the lobby nt ma ic played by the ro ballad sang and t help but melt g can’ Ole D. Lena Lovebu by to her eyes. Over as Ole D gazes in oudly pr The Intimidation” the fireplace, “ scles, f his bulging mu flexes to show of er than e is nothing sexi knowing that ther head. s hi s bigger than a man with bicep cides turned off but de Cookie is quickly g he d chance thinkin to give him a secon ous. may just be nerv

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Cookie: Proper & Prim: Top; English Rose, Skirt; Jealous Tomato “The Intimidation:” Shirt; 7Diamonds, Jeans; Citizens of Humanity, Shoes; Bed Stu Ole D: Sweater; Ben Sherman Lena Lovegood: One World: Dress: Pink Owl

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Ole D: Shirt; Stone Rose, Jeans; 7 for all Mankind, Shoes; Bacco Bucci Lena Lovebug: Proper & Prim: Dress; Lush Cookie: Proper & Prim: Dress: Ark & Co. “The Intimidation”: Shirt: Stone Rose, Pants; Howe, Shoes; Florsheim

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2: Chivalry ACT TWO, Scene Does It? Still Exists‌ Or s arrived, As dinner time ha rther Cookie is even fu r date as he surprised by he t her chair neglects to pull ou s the time to and instead take on his bros. call and check in

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Ole D: Navy Blazer; Howe, Pants; Citizens of Humanity, Shoes; Bed Stu Lena Lovebug: Proper & Prim: Skirt and Blazer; Olive & Oak Cookie: Proper & Prim: Dress; Lush “The Intimidation”: Shirt; Robert Graham, Jeans; 7 for all Mankind, Shoes; Wolverine

ACT TW O, Scene 4: Cookie Intimidati Overcome on s The mome nt of tru th has ar Cookie is rived and fed up w it h “ T h and his c e Intimida ocky way tion” s. Much to Intimidati “ T h e on,”Lena Lovebug a surprise, nd Ole D Cookie tak ’ s e s on e his cheek solid str ike for and hits right on the least, target. To “ The Intim say idation’ game plan s”locker was tosse room d out quic the crew kly. At le looked sty ast lish durin despite th g the date e ending results.

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ANDREW JASON

BY J. ALAN PAUL PHOTOGRAPHY BY

PHOTOS

BUFFY RIDDERING wrapped her sweatshirt around her neck and began to pull tight. She pulled until she could feel the oxygen stop flowing to her brain. The pain was finally ending. This was what she desperately wanted.

However, she soon began to panic. She loosened up on the pull of the sweatshirt but it was still too tight that it was restricting her airway. She desperately clawed at the sweatshirt, trying to relinquish its unrelenting grip.

She eventually was able to pry it off. She gasped for air as blood and oxygen started to flow to her brain. That was the first time Riddering attempted suicide. She was 8 years old.

Disclaimer: This story has a happy ending.

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A suicide is enough to ruin any childhood and it came close to ending Riddering’s. After her mom’s death, her dad married a woman who ended up being an abusive stepmother.

Between the abuse and dealing with her mother’s death, Riddering had many demons to face.

“I just didn’t feel like life was worth living,” Riddering said. “I mean, what’s there to live for? In my eyes, there was absolutely nothing. My dad wasn’t giving me the attention I needed. My stepmom was telling me every single day that she didn’t love me… I really didn’t feel like I had any support and I didn’t see any reason to live because life was a bunch of trouble.”

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Life Worth Living

Riddering attempted suicide several times. She cut her wrists on her last attempt. This landed her in a psychological treatment center. However, that wasn’t the end of her struggle. To find the roots of Riddering’s story of conquering suicide, you have to go back to when she was 4-years old and her mom had committed suicide.

Riddering shares the story of almost one million Americans who attempt suicide every year. What’s worse

is that, according to the American Association of Suicidology, North Dakota has the 14th highest suicide rate with 15.8 people out of 100,000 committing suicide.

While each situation is different, Riddering’s mentality of not seeing a better option is a common one for people who are suicidal.

According to Nadine Hillesheim, a therapist at The Village Family Service Center, someone who is suicidal only wants to escape the pain.

“It seems to be a type of tunnel vision where suicide looks like the only option and they stop seeing the alternatives because they’re so focused on this being the thing that will end their trouble,” Hillesheim said.

That tunnel vision is made worse by the fact that suicide is still sometimes considered a taboo subject. Oftentimes, people are reluctant to talk about their problems because there’s a stigma out there that says it’s bad to receive help for mental health problems.

“A lot of people are struggling horribly but can’t get past the ‘oh God, it’s terrible to go and get help,’’’ said Hillesheim. “They’re then left fumbling on their own and struggling for help more than they have to. Therapy isn’t the magic cure but if you’re all wrapped in your head and you can’t even see the solution because of tunnel vision, therapy can certainly help with that.”

This is a problem that many health care officials have recognized. Stephanie Goetz recently founded the Stephanie Goetz Foundation, an organization dedicated to getting kids the mental health care they need. She decided to start this organization after her brother committed suicide at the age of 19.

“There’s such a stigma (around mental health care) and I think it’s huge because it’s intangible because we can’t test for someone who has depression…” said Goetz. “What we’re hoping to do is to say that it’s OK to go get help. It’s OK to say, ‘I’m not feeling as strong as I could be right now.’”

Riddering eventually realized she needed that support system.

38,364 Number of suicides everyday in the U.S.

14 North Dakota has the 14th highest rate of suicide of any state in the US.

10 Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the US.

959,100 The estimated number of suicide attempts every year in the US.

The Village: The Village is dedicated to improving the quality of life of people in FargoMoorhead. They provide numerous services for those going through tough times. At The Village people are able to see a therapist and seek help. thevillagefamily.org

Stephanie Goetz Foundation: News Anchor, Stephanie Goetz, has recently founded the Stephanie Goetz Foundation to make sure kids can access the mental health care they need. stephaniegoetzfoundation.org

Firstlink: Firstlink is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline for North Dakota and Clay County. People may contact this line anytime of the day by calling 211 or 701-235-SEEK. They will then be able to speak to specialists and Firstlink can inform them of resources available to them. myfirstlink.org

Prairie St. Johns: Prairie St. John’s offers needs based assessment 24/7. These assessments are free and confidential. For more information, people can call their 24/7 phone line at 877-333-9565. prairiestjohns.com

At the time, Riddering’s childhood seemed to last forever and while she was desperately looking for a way to escape the pain, she finally has. Through the power of self-affirmation, counseling and time, Riddering has started a new life for herself. She has a short but important message for her younger self.

Throughout her youth, Riddering felt alone. She didn’t have the support system that is necessary for someone who is suicidal. The only time she ever received the attention she needed was when

“It does get better”

she saw her grandma. Unfortunately, Riddering only saw her two weeks a year. However, for those two weeks she felt loved.

When Riddering was 25, she made a very hard decision but one that would change her outlook on life.

“I no longer associate with my stepmom and family. That was incredibly hard. Of course, I miss them and as many bad days as

“It’s weird how the mind works Once you

there were, there were good days too, although they were few and far in between… I’ve learned to forgive them too because when you forgive the people who hurt you, it heals you.”

put positive thoughts in it consistently.

While Riddering seeked out help and therapy, she has recently found support and comfort from

It’s amazing

another resource that many people would not

how things

think about.

around you can change.”

Her father-in-law died in 2011 and Riddering went to a medium to connect with him. This

peaked her interest in pursuing mediumship. After reading “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay, Riddering has developed a method of positive affirmation. She will repeat positive affirmations all day long. Since beginning this practice, she has noticed a change in her life for the better.

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And it has gotten better for Riddering. Much better. Today she works for the Cass County Social Services as a secretary and is actively pursuing a career as a medium. Because of a new outlook on life, Riddering’s life has purpose and happiness. Her story has a happy ending but unfortunately there are thousands of lives that don’t have happy endings.

Riddering has advice for those who are still struggling with suicide.

“Once I realized it was up to me I changed my actions. If there was someone in my life who was consistently hurting me then I need to not be around that person… I found counseling is so important because getting those negative feelings out of your body is so important…

Every single person has problems. Different perhaps, but every single person has problems. To realize that you’re not alone and that you can make it better was huge for me.”

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