When love hurts...

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love HURT S

Te a r s o n my p i l c aus ed by y ou. . out i f y ou c an j us t 30 day s . . .

l o w, p a i n i n my h e a r t . . Ms Fa i z a Mi r z a f i n d s c l ean out y our c l os et i n .

It's impossible to forget. Forget what is what someone will inevitably ask?Hopefully...

W ho can forget the first time that someone breaks your heart?W hen you had to swallow the cruel pill of rejection?Then finding out that in fact the reality is this, everybody has felt the cruel blow of rejection more than once in their life, and have accepted it and well moved on. Life is tough, you just gotta handle it?W hat?You couldn't even dream of the handlebarsof lifeavailable for more than half the world at any given time.

Well first things first one must always ask what the problem is, and more importantly where the problem lies. Both these factors can be different and in opposition to each other. So let's take a problem in love and start from there..anything you like said the Psychiatrist's voice which is in my head and someone I I haven't even met yet, like a fictional character who is just sweetly swish and a complete perfect initiation or prelude for what is inevitable to follow, the perfect lead-in for what is to commence.

And what is to commence - a voice has to ask this or else things get confusing in the mind's eye, you know. Well the problem is that I have just found out the boy crush I thought would one day be my boyfriend is now dating another frenemy posed as someone concerned about me to bag his friendship and then his ardent feelings for me. Let's break it down and see if this can be resolved in 30 days time?

So calm down and clear up what happened?You should ask yourself questions like this?- Did I imagine what I saw today, is my problem real or me being paranoid?Maybe they were holding hands for another reason?Maybe they are just friends?W hen facing any problem you should first identify what the problem is, to clear up the mess in your head, to help you find a solution and also to take off some of the confusion experienced especially in matters of the heart.

Ask yourself how you really feel?Are you facing up to how depressed and helpless you feel?Or maybe you are making a mountain out of molehill?Maybe it's a recurring problem because you deal with this the same way?Is there anything you can do to solve the problems or hurt you're facing or have you exhausted all options and are really stuck?

These are the questions you should be asking about your emotional state during times of a crisis or emotional heartbreak.

Can you give yourself a break?Can you afford a holiday where you can indulge your displaced emotional state? Have you got the time available to listen to some music that mirrors how you feel?Do you know how to let off steam in the gym?W hen a crisis occurs rushing to the gym to get your circulation pumping as well as a good clean could be a life saver sometimes, especially the comforting feeling of cleanliness you experience after exercise where serotonin levels are pumped up are accentuated by a clean body and the smell of perfume inside many good cleansing products such as shampoo, conditioner, moisturiser and good quality body sprays. Try something zingy and fresh smelling like products with the scent of tangerines and lemons which are in harmony with increased serotonin levels, instead of soothing camomile teas which although relax you can drag your feelings down further, unless you are livid and angry and need some much needed clarity to assess your situation and what is upsetting you.

Start a diary. For exactly 30 days write down everything you feel from start to finish. W hen things clear up you'll find it's remarkable how you feel and what you can learn about yourself by reading in hindsight.

hear t ache's 4 w eek plan....

1. iden tify th e problem 2. th in k of possible solution s 3. Start w orkin g on ideas to solve issues 4.Assess th e results of your en devour. If you are h appy con tin ue, if n ot th en m ove on .