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FEB/MAR 2018 issue 20

Kidz @ The Ritz. Creating magical memories for children.

The luxury parenting publication for discerning mothers living in London

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he most family-oriented of London’s luxury hotels, the setting of The Ritz is perfect, with the wide spaces of the stunning Royal Green Park on our doorstep and a variety of toy stores and family activities to delight children only a short walk away. The service is legendary and their Michelin-starred Ritz Restaurant boasts a menu sure to please even the fussiest of young diners.

We all like to think we know how to teach our children good manners, but it looks like there’s an extra layer of rules for ‘posh’ babies – according to high-society bible Tatler’s toddler etiquette guide.

The upper class publication has released a bizarre but tongue-in-cheek list of do’s and don’ts for how parents can raise their little darlings to be a highbrow child. So despite the fact they’re still in nappies, our little ones are already being judged on their manners.

Join Peter Rabbit and all his furry friends on a botanical bunny adventure this Easter at the Royal Botanic Gardens, Kew. Visitors can expect an exciting activity-packed day out with games, crafts and storytelling inspired by Beatrix Potter’s iconic tales. Children will be delighted by the exquisite illustrated world of Peter Rabbit set against the stunning landscape of Kew Gardens.

This March get ready to enjoy a fantastic shopping experience at the UK’s leading pregnancy and parenting event of the year. The Baby Show, with MadeForMums, will feature over 200 exhibitors offering an unrivalled choice of top baby brands and products all under one roof. There will also be innovative product launches and boutique, not-on-the-high-street brands.

Find everything you need for bump, baby and you - all in one place, for three days only!

Alex Lux Editor

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BABIES & KIDS PERFECT PRINT Part of the Wildlife Botanical collection, this beautiful Giraffe Art Print is the ideal gift for young animal lovers. This Beautiful botanical print will look lovely in any child’s bedroom. The open edition prints are all made to order and created to your specification and size. The art is printed on archival quality textured fine art paper using colour fast inks for superior quality. £25, www.loladesignltd.com

LEARNING YOUR ABCs run rabbit run This Mini Rodini Baby-sized bed set is made from 100% organic cotton percale with printed rabbits. The duvet cover has edge seams at opening and the pillowcase has a folded edge on the inside to keep the duvet and pillow in place while you sleep. £65, www.themodernnursery.com

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Awesome Alphabet is no ordinary children’s alphabet. It’s packed with over 50 unusual objects: an alligator balancing an aubergine and apple on its snout, a golfing gorilla, a yo-yoing yeti, a zigzagging zeppelin. Our Awesome Alphabet wallpaper makes an ideal backdrop to a child’s nursery or bedroom, giving children lots of unusual objects and animals to discover and learn. £75, www.littleletterstudio.com

TOP OF THE TREE The Mathy by Bols Tree House meets every child’s deams. A bunk bed like no other, bringing the outdoors inside, this never before seen tree house kids bunk bed is made to order and will keep your children happpy for years, nevermind hours. Even adults will enjoy climbing in this tree house bed to explore and pretend to be a child again! This treehouse bunk bed is perfect for siblings who want to sleep in the same room, or for a single child who wants to play on the bottom bunk and sleep on the top bunk of the treehouse. The perfect way to create a truly magical bedroom for your kids. Each bed is handmade to order in Belgium. £2,350, www.diddletinkers.co.uk

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We bring you a round up of exciting events and things to do with the little ones Keeping you and baby happy and healthy throughout pregnancy and birth We’ve got everything covered from kids’ fashion to top parenting tips

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Discover fun for kids, relaxation for parents and quality family time together at Country Kids Hidden away on 30-acres of farmland in the south of France, Country Kids is an ideal escape for families.

With kids clubs for every age, tractor rides with farmer Syl every morning, and date nights for mum & dad – there’s no better place to escape and reconnect as a family.

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The Baby Show 2018 Friday 2nd - Sunday 4th March 2018, ExCeL London

T THE DETAILS The advanced ticket price is £14.70 on Friday and £15.70 for either the Saturday or Sunday, while on-the-door tickets cost £20.

For more information visit www.thebabyshow.co.uk.

Opening times: Friday 2nd March: 9.30am – 5.30pm Saturday 3rd March: 9.30am – 5.30pm Sunday 4th March: 9.30am – 5.30pm

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his March get ready to enjoy a fantastic shopping experience at the UK’s leading pregnancy and parenting event of the year.

The Baby Show, with MadeForMums, will feature over 200 exhibitors offering an unrivalled choice of top baby brands and products - all under one roof. There will also be innovative product launches and boutique, not-on-the-high-street brands.

Find everything you need for bump, baby and you all in one place, for three days only!

Take advantage of one-to-one specialist advice, hundreds of discounts, plus the opportunity to try before you buy. It really is a must-attend event for those shopping for their new arrival – especially for first time parents!

Get hands-on with each product and meet product experts from top brands where you can ask questions on how a product works so you can really check that it’s right for you and your family’s lifestyle. And the show will have an enormous amount of exclusive show discounts, competitions and freebies to ensure you have your baby essentials shopping list all ticked off in no time!

Again there will be a wonderful line up of speakers on The Baby Show Stage including experts from the world of breastfeeding, sleep and nutrition. Infant researcher and founder of the Your Baby Can Learn series, Dr Bob Titzer, author and baby food expert, Annabel Karmel, breastfeeding expert, Vanessa Christie and sleeps specialist, Lucy Shrimpton and Chireal Shallow, along with a number of other top experts will be sharing their parenting know-how to make each visitor’s journey into parenthood just that bit easier!

And if you are looking for more personal and

tailored advice, you can benefit from private 15 minute appointments with The Baby Show Experts at the One To One With The Experts Area – you just need to book your appointment on the day.

And once you’ve shopped until you’ve dropped, don’t worry about all the carrying as you can take advantage of the free Emma’s Diary Collect-By-Car service where you can drop off all your purchases and continue until you’ve got a carful!

The Show will be joining forces with the NCT again to raise awareness of the help they provide to new and expectant parents. The NCT has become a lifeline to hundreds of thousands of parents over the past 60 years. They will have practitioners on hand throughout the show to offer information and raise awareness of the fantastic courses on offer and visitors can try out short taster sessions at the show.

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A colourful BRAND, dedicated to happy living

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fter brightening the lives of Parisians since 2002 with their enchanting collections for kids, French children’s brand Petit Pan opens its first London store, on the high street of Hampstead, offering a vibrant selection of baby clothing, home decor, fabrics and haberdashery, Fruit of a colourful collaboration between Belgian artist Myriam de Loor and Chinese kitedesigner, Pan Gang, Petit Pan creates poetic and polychrome collections, where childhood mixes with fizzy prints and vivid colours.

Bringing magic to everyday life Petit Pan’s baby and child clothing and accessories are defined by their playful, graphic and vibrant prints. At Petit Pan, the baby is cuddled in a soft and cosy world of blankets, pyjamas, sleeping suits and comforters.

For the home, geometrical and floral patterns meet up through a selection of cushions, blankets, bed spreads, wallpapers to brighten up every space. The brand also offers a choice of lightings, exceptionally handcrafted with bamboo and silk and hand-painted with natural colours.

For the most creatives, an addictive selection of fabrics and haberdashery can be found on the lower floor of the new store. All Petit Pan fabrics are 100% cotton, certified by Oeko-Tex to meet environmental and socially responsible requirements.

The little Magic room Perched above the store, on the first floor, is “The Little Magic Room”, a children’s room decorated and furnished in the colours and prints of Petit Pan. Featuring their range of wicker beds and cradles, and a bathroom area for bathing accessories.

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Workshops to inspire, dream & create Petit Pan is an invitation for the imagination, a place to create a colourful world of your own, whatever your age. The Hampstead store holds creative sewing workshops, open to everyone. You can book your next creative workshop on Petit Pan’s Facebook page @petitpanuk

The World of Petit Pan Petit Pan is a unique brand that magically awakens the colour of life. Offering a vibrant selection of baby clothing, home decor and haberdashery, each collection is a journey in a wonderful dreamlike world.

Petit Pan’s historical Paris flagship is located in the Marais area, and the London flagship has finally opened in Hampstead.

THE DETAILS Petit Pan London 28a Hampstead High Street London, NW3 1QA +44 (0)20 7435 3555 www.petitpan.co.uk www.facebook.com/petitpanuk www.instagram.com/petitpan

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A big day out with Peter Rabbit™ at Kew Gardens Friday 30 March – Sunday 15 April 2018

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oin Peter Rabbit and all his furry friends on a botanical bunny adventure this Easter at the Royal Botanic Gardens, Kew. Visitors can expect an exciting activity-packed day out with games, crafts and storytelling inspired

by Beatrix Potter’s iconic tales. Children will be delighted by the exquisite illustrated world of Peter Rabbit set against the stunning landscape of Kew Gardens.

Spring will be well and truly underway and the Gardens will be filled with the dazzling colour of blooming crocuses, daffodils and magnolias. The Easter extravaganza will celebrate the beauty of nature at Kew and encourage visitors of all ages to explore the wonderful world of fruit, vegetables and other edible plants, whilst learning about how they are grown.

From Kew’s beautiful Secluded Garden, visitors will follow a Peter Rabbit trail to find activity pop-ups for all ages. A trip to Mr McGregor’s

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potting shed will encourage visitors plant their very own seeds to take home and nurture. Elsewhere, youngsters can choose which Peter Rabbit character they’d like to be for the day and make some fuzzy bunny ears to match.

Around the festival hub, children and adults will also be able to get stuck into all sorts of giant food card games, while the hilarious veggie consequences workshop will offer the chance to create incredible monster vegetables. Special Peter Rabbit selfie boards will offer the chance to take fun souvenir snaps of the day out.

Visitors can also pop into Kew’s incredible Kitchen Garden nearby, to admire the amazing display of colourful fruit and veg grown by Kew’s very own kitchen gardeners. What’s more, there will be a variety of delicious Easter culinary offerings available at the festival hub, as well as Peter Rabbit gifts and goodies available in the Kew shop.

Gina Koutsika, Head of Visitor Programmes, Events and Exhibitions says: “We’re thrilled to be partnering with Penguin Ventures to produce a brand new and truly magical Peter Rabbit™ themed festival at Kew Gardens. I am sure our interactive trail and activities will delight visitors of all ages and will encourage families to learn more about the science behind the fruit and veg that Peter Rabbit so loves to eat.”

Thomas Merrington, Creative Director, Penguin Ventures says: “Peter Rabbit is synonymous with mischief and garden adventures and will be perfectly at home in the beautiful setting of Kew Gardens. We can’t wait to see young fans and their families enjoy the fantastic activities that Kew has planned with Peter this Easter.”

THE DETAILS Admission to the festival is included in the general entrance ticket to the Gardens (Adult £17.00, child - £5.00). For more details visit www.kew.org; www.peterrabbit.com

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Keep warm and look cool F

ounded by three sisters living between the UK and Australia and inspired by their love of travel, adventure and sunshine, Cocoon Child brings you the most beautiful independent brands hand-picked from around the world for the first time together in a brand new online shopping destination.

At Cocoon Child, summer is more than a season it’s an attitude and they believe that clothing that reflects sunshine vibes and positivity can do a heck of a lot for those cold-weather blues. In fact, it’s scientifically proven that the vitamin D from sunshine, even crispy cold sunshine, makes you and your kids happy, so aim to go outside and soak

“As long as they’re cocooned up there is no reason why the chill in the air should stop their fun!” up some of those chilly rays every day, even if just briefly. It’s also a misbelief that cold weather causes colds and illnesses - in fact it’s the increase of time spent inside with warm air and little ventilation that makes the exposure to germs much greater.

As long as they’re cocooned up there is no reason why the chill in the air should stop their fun!

Here is Cocoon Child’s 6 step guide to keeping warm and looking cool.

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of their long-sleeved tees like the ‘Chamonix Dreaming’ or ‘Rocky’ styles from their Parisian brand Hundred Pieces.

2. Add a warm sweater. Rylee and Cru’s loop sweater is so cosy they won’t want to take it off and Bandy Button’s chunky Woolfi sweater is the epitome of sunshine on a cloudy day.

3. The essential outerwear - The Tootsa 3-Way jacket is the perfect winter jacket. Warm, waterproof, colourful AND it converts into a gilet with 2 easy zips!

4. Their Bonnie Mob ‘Bamboo’ trousers are extra fleecy so they’ll keep those little legs toastie but a top tip - always carry a pair of leggings in case it gets too cold or they get wet, the Turtledove London leggings fold up into pocket size saviours.

5. The Veja high-top trainers with leather outer and wool lined inners keep feet so warm and cosy they have to be felt to be believed.

6. And finally a toastie head is a happy head as that’s where we lose most of our heat, so their Fallen Broken Street beanies are an absolute essential. £5 from every sale is donated to Children with Cancer UK. With Cocoon Child’s sale now on, there’s no better time for your little ones to get cocooned up and embrace the February freeze with sunshine in their pockets every step of the way. www.cocoonchild.com; www.instagram.com/ cocoon.child; www.twitter.com/cocoonchild_; www.facebook.com/cocoonchildkidswear; contact: Laura@cocoonchild.com

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A WITH SPRING MAKEOVER...

AN ART AND WALLPAPER TAKEOVER Wallpaper: Courtesan Chinoiserie Blue £80 per sqm Frederick Wimsett

Flat Space Art and Design About Flat Space Art — who are we?

Flat Space Art is at the forefront of the contemporary and modern art world. We curate and create, representing over 30 up and coming and established Artists - all of whom have already started to makes waves in the art world in terms of press acclaim and support from collectors internationally.

The Flat Space Art mission is to make collecting art accessible to all whilst also regularly showcasing represented artists at leading art and design events, vernissages and Masterclasses.

Investing in art An effective investment requires thorough planning and careful choice. Returns vary, but according to the AMR Art 100 Index, art prices have increased overall at a compound annual growth rate of 8.0% over the past 25 years. The global art market is flourishing: in 2016 the UK performed as the largest art market in Europe and the second largest in the world, reaching the total of $13.5bn closely followed by China (which has seen a 23% decline since 2014) Furthermore, according to Business Insider, investors should consider buying from emerging artists and developing market sectors: the payoff could be huge in the future.

One such emerging artist is Laura Gulshani.

With London fashion week soon approaching, Laura is a fashion illustrator who combines fine art inspirations with modern design trends to develop a unique expression of current fashion styles. Her work is marked by a vibrant use of colour, heavy brushstroke work and a focus on details. She 16 FEBRUARY/MARCH 2018

also specializes in on-site live portrait sketching for corporate and private clients. Her mediums of choice are acrylic and watercolour paints. She has been featured in publications such as A&E Magazine, FLARE Magazine and Vogue Italia.

A more established artist like landscape painter Lydia Bauman is collected by Saatchi, Gordon Ramsay, Deutsche Bank, The Dorchester Collections.

Bauman’s interest lies not in narrative but in form defined by light. She is inspired by motifs as contrasting as the cultivated landscapes of the Mediterranean and the deserts of north Africa and Australia. Although de-populated, they are marked by a structure imposed by the human hand (geometry of fields, repetition of trees and other natural elements) or by my own formal order of compositional elements, resolved usually within the square format.

How our artists have gone up in value?

At Flat Space Art we offer art sales from more than 35 fantastic and talented artists all of whom have seen significant increase in value. There are three types of artists that investors take interest in: emerging artists, who are in the initial stage of their career. Established artists, those who have already developed their recognisable style, and ‘blue chip’ – artists, who are widely known all around the world.

For instance, one of our artists, Lydia Bauman, when starting out in the 80s, most of her works sold for under £200; 25 years later, her works sell for as much as £35,000. Some of our artists have rocketed quicker than this such as Rich Simmons.

This increase in value in a shorter period of time: was much in credit to their talent.

Wallpaper: Fur Roses £80 per sqm Christian Furr

Palmtree with Shadow H 122 x W 122 cm Mixed Media £9,400, Lydia Bauman

Spruce Up Your Home The Flat Space Design Way Marco de Vincenzo SS 17 – Shoes Colour Print 17 inches x 14 inches £400, Laura Gulshani

Where to buy As well as the Flat Space Art website, we are approved dealers for Artsy, 1st Dibs and Go The List (in Dubai) and regularly hold events and masterclasses with the Soho House Group. These platforms require a world-renowned presence in the Art market of which Flat Space Art is certified of being one of the most important galleries. At Flat Space Art we give a clear route from a first-time buyer to an avid art enthusiast, on how to invest in emerging artists around the £4,000 mark, to the established artist. Each Flat Space Art artist has gone up significantly in value in the last 2 years.

Tips From The Top Like many other purchases, buying art can incur additional costs. We wouldn’t want these to take you by surprise and we do what we can to minimise them. Often, we’re able to consolidate and coordinate these extras and buy them for you at our corporate rates. The services we can provide include: valuations, insurance, shipping and transport, framing, storage as well as cleaning and repairs.

Flat Space Design - Who Are We? Flat Space Art has recently introduced a new division - Flat Space Design, welcoming you to an online homeware collection, full of beautiful pieces designed by the worlds leading artists, turning any home into a master piece.

Spring is in the air, no better time than now to spruce up your home with a new wallpaper from Flat Space Art and Design. A new concept of artist designs translated into wallpaper, an exquisite Four Part Wallpaper Collection a wonderful collaboration with exceptional artists such as Christian Furr (The Queens portrait artist), Frederick Wimsett (muralist to Kate Moss) and many other notables. Hand painted rugs, paperweights tables and chairs there is no end to where Art can be.

Our social media: Instagram @FlatSpaceArt Twitter @FlatSpaceArtUK YouTube @FlatSpaceArt Facebook facebook.com/flatspaceartuk Website www.flatspaceart.com Sales enquiries Luizagibb@flatspaceart.com + 44 (0)7979 154772

Wallpaper: Gold Cast on trees, £80 per sqm Lydia Bauman

A Fairy Tale 105 cm H x 155 cm W Acrylic Paint, Canvas £4,635, Marit Bostad

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Peppa Pig’s Muddy Puddle Walk for Save the Children 23 - 29 April 2018

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his Spring will see the return of the UK’s muddiest fundraising event for little ones – Peppa Pig’s Muddy Puddle Walk for Save the Children. Last year saw 160,000 children across the UK take part, raising an incredible £243,000 for Save the Children’s vital work, and this year the charity hopes even more people will sign up, take part and donate.

Nurseries, early years groups, families and children up and down the country are being encouraged to take part in a Muddy Puddle Walk to raise money for the international children’s charity.

Organising a Muddy Puddle Walk is a great way for your little ones to explore the world around them and jump in muddy puddles, like Entertainment One’s Peppa Pig, for a worthy cause.

Whether you splash in puddles along a trail at the park or get creative and make your own puddles indoors from paper and foil – your Muddy Puddle Walk will be a fun day to spend together that littles ones won’t forget. Raise funds in the way that suits you – help walkers get sponsored for their walk, ask for a donation to take part or even bake Muddy Puddle cupcakes to sell on the day! The money you raise will help Save the Children’s work to transform the lives of vulnerable children in the UK and around the world.

Sophie Pirouet, Fundraising Campaigns Manager at Save the Children, says: “We hope everyone will

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“Organising a Muddy Puddle Walk is a great way for your little ones to explore the world around them and jump in muddy puddles”

get outside this Spring, come rain or shine, and help raise much needed funds for Save the Children.

It’s so easy to take part and it’s the perfect excuse to explore the outdoors with your little ones. By jumping in muddy puddles like Peppa Pig and raising money for Save the Children you can help give children a brighter future.”

By taking part in a Muddy Puddle Walk and raising money for Save the Children, you can help vulnerable children around the world have a safe place to play and learn.

Sign up now at MuddyPuddleWalk.org for your free Muddy Puddle Walk Fundraising Pack full of fun Peppa Pig inspired activities to help you get started – with tips for great walks indoors and out, fundraising ideas, fun activities to get your walkers ready for the big day and at the end of the walk, there’s a free Peppa Pig sticker reward for every child.

The fundraising pack will also explain what life is like for children in different countries, helping them see how they are making a difference through supporting Save the Children.

For more information visit: www.savethechildren.org.uk

Prioritising family play time

We all know how important it is to spend time with our children, but how do we make it happen? words: Claire Spreadbury

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anith Carey, author of Mum Hacks: Timesaving Tips To Calm The Chaos Of Family Life, says: “It’s true that parents are busier than ever. The number of dual-income households today has hit a record high. However, it is essential to find time to play with your children.

“When you’re both tired and short of time after work or at weekends, it can be tempting to be concerned with finishing off other chores, before sitting down with your child to play. But while it’s true you’ll never have more hours in the day, you can prioritise the time you do have. Remember the importance your children place on spending time with you - new research from children’s activity website Kindernauts.co.uk recently revealed that

kids pick their mum and dad as their preferred playmate, over superheroes and celebrities.

“In fact, by carving out a bit of one-on-one time each day for a play activity (as little as 10 or 15 minutes), you will be making your life easier in the long-run. That’s because if you let your child decide on the activity, you will find they’ll be more cooperative in other areas of life, like homework and socialising with others.

“They will feel more secure in the knowledge there’s a time each day when they have your full attention - and won’t need to demand it in other ways, by acting up or throwing tantrums.

“Give it a try - I promise you will see quick results.”

“They will feel more secure in the knowledge there’s a time each day when they have your full attention”

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Forensic suits at the ready!

Conrad London St James launches mini-detective experience for kids

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onrad London St. James is calling on all budding crime solvers with the launch of their mini-detectives experience for families at the hotel.

Inspired by the property’s location near to New Scotland Yard, on the Victoria Embankment, Conrad London St. James is working in partnership with The Detective Project – a children’s activity company themed around the science of crime solving. Run by former Scotland Yard trained detectives and Metropolitan police officers, children will learn skills such as chromatography and finger print testing, in a dedicated crime investigation room at the hotel, whilst kitted out in forensic suits which can be taken home afterwards.

During the mini-detective experience, kids will be given a series of challenges and tasks surrounding a mock crime scene. Presented with a personalised brief, children will pull on their forensic suits before learning how to uncover finger prints using professional

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equipment such as powdering with fibre glass brushes, magnetic strips and ink pads. In addition, the minidetectives will be taught how to match and trace several types of shoe marks in order to unearth further evidence. Using a series of methods including light for latent prints and a ruler for visible marks, tread matches can be identified to help catch the culprit.

At the end of their time as an investigator, children will be given an evidence bag containing crime scene tape, pencil, pad and detective award as well their forensic suit to keep. After an exciting day, families can dine at the Blue Boar restaurant, complete with a Little Piglets menu, before sleeping soundly in the deeply comfortable beds at Conrad London St. James.

THE DETAILS The Conrad London St. James ‘Detective Project’ experience (two hours) starts from £340. The experience is bookable through the hotel’s concierge and is for residents only. The overnight ‘Mini-Detective’ family package is priced from £777 for two adults and two children.

Conrad London St. James, 22-28 Broadway, Westminster, SW1H 0BH www.conradhotels.com/london

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ASK THE EXPERT: CHILDREN AND DOGS

DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE ON GETTING A FAMILY DOG? The Dogs Trust advises on what to consider before getting a family dog. WORDS: LISA SALMON

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y children are desperate for a dog.

They’ve promised they’ll look after it and walk it, but I know I’ll end up doing it and just haven’t got the time.

It would be nice to have a dog though - what advice can you give?

Dogs Trust head of education Hollie Sevenoaks says: “Dog ownership has so many benefits, but making the decision to get a family dog shouldn’t be taken lightly as there are many things to consider.

“This should be a whole family decision as everyone has a part to play in making it a successful relationship” “Firstly, this should be a whole family decision as everyone has a part to play in making it a successful relationship. You should consider time, finances and the commitment needed to look after a dog for the average lifespan of 10-15 years. You should also research the breed and size of dog and where you 22 FEBRUARY/MARCH 2018

want to get your dog from, to ensure you’re buying responsibly.

“Do you have enough room for a big dog, or would a smaller dog suit you better? Either way dogs need a lot of care and attention, consisting of walking at least twice a day, playtime and feeding time.

“It’s also really important that your family attends positive training classes to ensure your dog is sociable and well-behaved.

“The cost of a dog varies depending on how much you pamper your pooch, but the average cost of owning a dog for a year is £1,300; this includes all the essentials such as veterinary care, food, insurance, new toys and bedding.

“Although it’s important to realise dogs are a huge commitment for the whole family, there are plenty of positives to having a family pet. Studies have shown that stroking your dog can lower your blood pressure and make you feel calmer. Another positive is teaching your children responsibility and commitment, which is always a good thing.

“So as a general rule, if you’ve considered all of these factors before making your decision, you’re already onto a winner.”

year of the dog Celebrate Chinese ‘Year of the dog’ with some canine-themed decor

Border Collie Dog Jug, Quail Ceramics, small, £15, Amara

Floral Terrier Cushion, £40, Pignut

HOW DO YOU KEEP KIDS SAFE AROUND DOGS THEY DON’T KNOW? A Blue Cross animal behaviourist explains the best ways to ensure children remain safe around a childminder’s pet.

British Bulldog with Gold Crown Ornament, £9.99, Historic Royal Palaces

Spaniel Round Dogs Bowl £19, Fenella Smith.

Treats Storage Tin, Dogs, £14.95, Annabel James

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y mum’s got a new dog and she’ll be looking after our two young children at the end of the summer holidays. What’s the best way to make sure the kids are safe in the house with the dog?”

Claire Stallard, an animal behaviourist at the Blue Cross pet charity, says: “It’s great your children will soon have a dog in their lives, but before they meet, it is a good time to make sure your mum sets down some ground rules to keep them safe and her dog happy.

“You’re right to be cautious - even the friendliest dogs can get overwhelmed, just like us.

It’s a good idea to keep the children away from the dog when he’s eating, sleeping or if he takes himself off to rest alone.

“Likewise, the dog shouldn’t be around the children when they’re eating, running around or playing enthusiastically.

“Baby gates or crates can be used for separating the dog when need be, especially when your mum won’t be able to actively supervise them all at the same time.

“Make sure your mum gives your dog a nice

chew or stuffed Kong when behind the baby gate.

This way he’ll be kept busy.

“You’ll both need to show your children how you expect them to behave around dogs. Teach them how to be gentle and calm. Dogs don’t tend to enjoy being hugged or squeezed and this can be hard for children to understand at first.

“It’s a good idea for your mum to learn the subtle behaviours her dog may show if he’s feeling a bit stressed or unhappy. This way she’ll know when he needs some time alone.

“With some rules in place, the children will really benefit and enjoy their new relationship with your mum’s dog, who’ll teach them all about compassion and responsible pet ownership. Best of all, no doubt they’ll become the best of pals and enjoy growing up together.”

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How

posh is YOUR baby?

Tatler releases the guide to toddler etiquette

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e all like to think we know how to teach our children good manners, but it looks like there’s an extra layer of rules for ‘posh’ babies – according to high-society bible Tatler’s toddler etiquette guide.

The upper class publication has released a bizarre but tongue-in-cheek list of do’s and don’ts for how parents can raise their little darlings to be a highbrow child. So despite the fact they’re still in nappies, our little ones are already being judged on their manners.

Explaining that the advice isn’t about parenting but toddler etiquette, the guide says: “To be clear, this is about toddler etiquette. Not about parenting.

Not about allowing them to grow like saplings in myriad beautiful and compelling ways. Not about showing them boundaries without compromising their human rights. Not about role modelling or unconditional love. It’s about etiquette, which is a customary code of behaviour when among other people.. so, if manners hold no sway over the way you and your toddler interact with the world, then, in a loving way, leave this page.”

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The guide includes controversial advice from writer Annabel Rivkin on the only way to deal with ‘a***hole’ toddlers. Remove the offender immediately or you are ruining everything for everyone - and putting your child in a position where, forevermore, people will say, ‘that child is such a screamer.’

She also advises against trying to show off parenting skills by disciplining them, and instead opting for a quick fix of simply taking them outside…

IN TODDLER COMPANY Hitting is never cute or fun or anything other than revolting. It doesn’t matter if it’s with an inflatable sword or a frying pan, it is not OK. And remember that toddlers enjoy nothing more than oppressive repetition, so if they hit once, they will hit 20 times.

The only thing you can do is be mortified and physically restrain.

Bedtime Make it happen, especially if you are sharing a holiday villa with other families. British toddlers are

“Remember that toddlers enjoy nothing more than oppressive repetition, so if they hit once, they will hit 20 times”

like vampires – they become unpleasant after dark.

Wardrobe crises Bizarrely, the guide also includes the proper etiquette needed to deal with disputes over the fancy dressing-up box. The magazine claims that the host child should have the first choice from the box because they must have their favourite costume. For goodness’ sake, allow the host child to wear his/her favourite’ adding ‘Would you let a complete stranger snatch your most treasured possession just to prove you are big-hearted? If you would, then seek help. “And no points if their favourite is a tiger or a pirate. If they prefer a historical figure, such as Emmeline Pankhurst or William Shakespeare, then your child is moving up the ladder. And full marks if their fancy dress of choice is any of the following: barrister, polo player, viscount.

Fine dining You’re trying to enjoy a lovely meal out but your toddler has other ideas, knocking their cutlery to the floor while attempting to eat the salt shaker. What do you do? No points for pulling out the iPad (so tempting, but remember you will have to face all the looks of disgust from the other diners) Earn points if you prepared a neatly packed bag of books, drawing activities, and games. Do not get emotional about what your toddler eats, preferably ever. But certainly not around other children. None of that appalling,

‘Look how nicely Oliver is eating his asparagus.’ Keep the beasts far enough apart that they cannot steal each other’s food and thus ignite tantrums.

IN GROWN-UP COMPANY Vigilance Remember that toddlers have a similar psychological make-up to psychopaths: they are all about immediate satisfaction and rarely consider consequences. So keep a very close eye on yours.

If they hurt themselves, or anyone else, or break things, then this is your fault. It’s all your fault.

Snubbing Don’t let your toddler be the one with selective hearing. It is distinctly unattractive and disrespectful.

Make them answer. Ignoring is different from shyness. No excuses.

Accidents It’s insane to let a newly potty-trained toddler sit on anything that may be hard to clean. Or valuable.

Or antique. It is your job to drag them to the loo at oppressively short intervals.

Busting some moves “Dancing is always brilliant” states Tatler. “ In the street, at the table, in the sitting room, in the garden or at the playground. Dancing should be encouraged at all times – it provides infectious joy.

But let it play out without drawing attention.”

To round up their dos and don’ts of toddler etiquette, the Tatler guide has a vital reminder to parents to know your audience “Many people love children. Some people don’t,” it states. www.tatler.com

Image: Ritz Carlton Hotels

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KIDZ@THE

Creating magical memories for children

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he most family-oriented of London’s luxury hotels, the setting of The Ritz is perfect, with the wide spaces of the stunning Royal Green Park on our doorstep and a variety of toy stores and family activities to delight children only a short walk away.

The service is legendary and their Michelin-starred Ritz Restaurant boasts a menu sure to please even the fussiest of young diners.

Young guests of The Ritz will remember getting dressed up and taking their first world famous Afternoon Tea with mummy and daddy or their first Ritz bathrobe and slippers, identical in all but size to that of their parent’s. A stay at The Ritz creates memories between families that will be cherished forever, rather than providing a distraction for children when travelling away from home.

To make a reservation please email reservations@theritzlondon.com or telephone +44 (0) 20 7300 2222; www.theritzlondon.com

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RoroRetreats Family Yoga Retreat May Half Term - Saturday 27th May – Saturday 2nd June 2018 Yoga Teachers Tara Fraser and Nigel Jones, Loveland Farm, North Devon

Rosie & Rowena, owners of RoRoRetreats, how did you both meet?

We first met at yoga classes in Primrose Hill, North London. We’ve done a lot of travelling together as single mums of twins and feel well-qualified to know what works as a family holiday with an adventurous twist. We have always loved active family holidays, which embrace responsible tourism, and where we can engage in our passion for yoga, trekking, camping and campervan trips How was RoRoRetreats born?

In 2013 we went with our families to spend New Year at the Kasbah du Toubkal in the High Atlas Mountains in Morocco. It’s such a spiritual place in a stunning location. We felt it would make a fabulous yoga retreat and it had the perfect studio space. We held our first RoRoRetreats Yoga Retreat here in 2014 and it has been a regular venue ever since.

What do Families get out of coming on your Family Yoga Retreats?

It’s just a lovely opportunity for families to be able to all practice yoga together, and for children to be inspired by watching their parents’ love of yoga. Also to have your children looked after and entertained while you do adult-only yoga is something we both wished was around when our children were very young. We’ve also found it to be such a bonding holiday as a family and great for kids to feel safe and explore new friendships and to have fun! One of our past guests described the Family Yoga Retreat as ‘the best family holiday I’ve ever had’, which was lovely feedback. When the kids are happy the adults are happy!

You are collaborating with the Eco-retreat Loveland Farm, in North Devon, on your next Family Yoga Retreat. Tell us how that came about.

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midst of the Hartland Peninsula. This area has to be North Devon’s best kept secret. It also has the best night sky we’ve witnessed in England, as there’s virtually no light pollution here.

With our shared ethos of sustainable tourism, Loveland Farm is simply the perfect antidote to the rush of modern life. After a few days staying in the cool and comfy Eco-Domes we were convinced that this was the perfect location for our next RoRoRetreats Family Retreat. We are delighted to be collaborating with Loveland Farm on this, their first yoga retreat.

Will you be running further retreats?

We will be running another family yoga retreat at Centro Santillan, in Spain, in May 2019. We are also hosting two yoga and trekking retreats, for just adults, at the Kasbah du Toubkal in Morocco. We also hope to be running some family workshops throughout the year. So watch this space! www.rororetreats.com

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LUXURY HOLIDAYS FOR ALL

C

onnoisseur Travel was founded in 1994.

Their efforts to strive to provide the very best and to always go the extra mile for all their clients is their company ‘Mission’. The level of success the company has achieved being evident in the many clients that choose Connoisseur Travel as a direct result of commendations made by satisfied clients who still today entrust all their travel arrangements and vacation plans to Connoisseur Travel.

Your holiday needs careful planning and consideration. Whether it’s the excitement of a safari, an adventure in South America, the mystique of the Far East or the lure of relaxation on a beach with your family, Connoisseur Travel can recommend the destination to suit you, your partner and family.

“The company’s experts will share their worldwide knowledge of destinations, climate and culture” The company’s experts will share their worldwide knowledge of destinations, climate and culture to Initially the Company specialised in weddings and tailor-made honeymoon destinations. Personal recommendations and expertise in the honeymoons market resulted quickly to bookings coming in nationwide and overseas. And, with their reputation for personalised travel planning, the Company soon expanded its horizons, providing luxury specialist worldwide travel tailored not only to honeymooners but to all discerning travellers. Over the years they 30 FEBRUARY/MARCH 2018

have developed their market for providing family holidays – from the very young to teenagers. Some of their clients are original honeymoon couples who now, with their growing families, entrust Connoisseur Travel to source and tailor their family holidays.

Being independent, Connoisseur Travel works with a carefully selected number of tour operators which enables the company to be able to offer genuine choices and unbiased holiday advice.

They will discuss your tailor-made holiday dreams with you and then produce exactly what you are looking for. Instead of a general glossy printed brochure, their website is designed to outline what they can achieve for you. They take the pain out of planning your holiday yourself, and help you realise your dream with minimum effort on your part and maximum effort on theirs!

Each and every travel itinerary they organise is unique, based on the client’s individual requirements. Their specialists are available to you before, during and after your travels, and always available to serve you exclusively. If you would like professional help planning your next holiday or trip of a lifetime, Connoisseur Travel would very much like to speak with you to offer their impartial advice on any worldwide destination.

So let Connoisseur Travel make your next travel experience one of unsurpassable ease. Their dedication and enthusiasm combined with their friendly service guarantees you the relaxing tailormade holiday you deserve!

Please call 01403 272 143; email info@connoisseurtravel.co.uk; www.connoisseurtravel.co.uk All travel is covered by fully bonded ABTA/ ATOL/IATA tour operators

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W e ndy ’ s To p 8 T i p s

for Surviving a long journey ‘Are we nearly there yet?’

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t’s true, a long journey with young children can drive you a bit mad. While you try to organise everything, your kids will be over excited and eager to reach the other end - so how can you retain your sanity?

1. Keep smiling: Let’s face it, you’re going to need patience, a sense of humour and a positive outlook to get through a long journey with young kids. Just try to relax - If you enjoy the trip, chances are your kids will too.

2. Don’t be intimidated by other passengers: The journey will be fine! Focus on your family and nobody else, because at the end of the day, that’s all that really matters.

3. Use teamwork: When you reach security have on person guide your brood through whilst the other takes the bags. Decide on this in advance so everyone knows what/who they are responsible for.

This can make things much smoother.

4. Eliminate stress: Keep a folder to hand with all your important documents and directions so you can find them easily and without unnecessary panics

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or stress.

5. Bagging it: On the plane, bring the smallest bag you can as hand luggage so you can find things quickly and easily without lugging a big heavy bag in and out of the overhead locker. If you do bring a big bag, separate contents into small easy grab bags inside. And pre-organise electrical gadgets and toiletries into plastic bags when you pack so you don’t have to rifle through your bag at security.

And of course, make sure your hand luggage size is within the airline restrictions.

6. Bribery and corruption: Don’t forget your arsenal of snacks, colouring books, pencils, little toys and other tiny treats to distract and entertain little ones en route. And then pack some more snacks. And then a few more.

7. Manage your expectations: It’s probably not going to be the most relaxing and simple journey you’ve ever taken and you probably won’t get round to reading your book. But you will get there and it will all be fine. And finally, 8. Baby wipes: You can never pack enough baby wipes. Fact.

Wendy Shand is Founder of Tots To Travel, specialists in family friendly villa and resort holidays for families with 0-5s. www.totstotravel.co.uk 0800 014 2770

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Inspired by Love

An interview with Monilo owner Monika Krauze-Bouziane You mention that you were a professional tennis player and then trained to be a lawyer, how did you get into fashion design? What made you decide to start the Business? Why Children’s Shoes?

Yes, indeed, I was a professional tennis player. I have played on the WTA tour for a couple of years but I was struggling with some serious injuries despite all the hard work and effort to stay healthy, so I finally decided that I will go back to studying.

I treat my law degree as a great foundation for my business and for my life, but already during my final years at the University I knew I wanted something more… I wanted to create. To create something beautiful and good.

After my studies I have moved to Buenos Aires for about two years, where I started my MBA…. In Spanish (!) I have only started to learn castellliano after a few months after moving there and on my second year I took on the challenge to start the studies for business management- I was sure the study would be in English, so it was really hard. I didn’t finish. I did only one semester and found out that I was pregnant. I moved back to Europe and started the most important ‘masters’ of my life – becoming a mother. However the experience in Argentina definitely helped me to be more courageous when taking the decision to start my own business.

My project started to evolve alongside the birth of my son, Adam. I wanted him to have an amazing pair of first shoes – the first ones are always special, those are the ones you keep forever– and I didn’t find what I was looking for. So I have created something that would combine my consciousness about health and a child’s healthy development and my passion for beautiful things. This is how the story of MONILO began.

Why the name Monilo?

My friend, who was working with me at the time came up with the name, which I suppose came just from my first name. I was like…. “Hmmm….

MONILO…. well… J.Lo…. Manolo…. It’s catchy and it has good company,” I thought. So it stayed.

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months and months to develop. But it was worth it.

We are so happy with it!

What inspires your designs?

Most importantly- LOVE. This is where every inspiration begins for me – from the feeling inside when you feel love and appreciation for nature, your family there are so many ways to go from there.

Then there is the love of fashion, movies, colours, animals, photography, art, architecture, streetstyle and of course people. People in general (especially kids), are a fantastic and a fascinating inspiration for me!

Which is your favourite Monilo London design and why?

A: My favourite model is definitely NEVERLAND. It is an elegant sneaker. And just as I was dreaming about it when I was scathing it- today it is my son’s favourite model.

You mention that all of your products are handmade, can you tell us where or how you source your materials?

Yes, our shoes are carefully handmade by our experienced craftsmen, who have been making shoes for kids for many years. We can definitely say, that our extended Monilo family is mostly Italian- who better to have as a partner to make shoes, right? Our leather for this current collection comes from France, from one of the oldest tanneries in Europe (est.1803) and our metal finish – the palladium and rose gold hardware- is made especially for MONILO in Italy.

Who are Monilo London’s customers?

I hope for them to be amazing people – I see conscious parents and grandparents buying my shoes for their beloved little children. I see my customers as those who appreciate a beautiful, classic design, which at the same time supports healthy foot development.

What advice would you give others considering starting their own business?

I’m going to list all those things that I have

personally struggled with but that really matter in the end: plan ahead, be well organised, know what you want and be sure of it, don’t get discouraged by others or by your own mistakes, listen to the wise and experienced but always follow your intuition as well as your passion. What is important is to never lose yourself in all of this…. So always be true to yourself and never give up but instead keep on dreaming and keep achieving your best. Oh… and calculate! Over rand over and over again!

And finally what are your plans for the future?

Most of the MONILO designs are set for now.

They will not change. We want to keep the same, beautiful, pampered designs, deeply analysed from the perspective of the morphology of the foot.

They are very classical, not too many panelsrather made from one larger piece of fine leather.

However we are looking to extend our line- we have already developed some new models that we will present in spring (moccasins, ballerinas, sandals, & soft baby shoes) and then with time we will present a cheaper line with some super proper school shoes.

After that- MONILO Décor; accessories, blankets and maybe someday a clothing line. Books with our own magical stories are also visible on the horizon.

Time will tell. The dream however is to build an amazing brand for children that will bring lots of joy to both parents and their children.

PREGNANCY, BIRTH & BABIES

– Keeping you and baby happy and healthy throughout pregnancy and birth – i mage : USIN G M IND F U L N E SS DU R IN G C H I L DBI R T H

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Welcome to the world, the new version of Baby Carrier One from BabyBjörn

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ntroducing the new BabyBjörn Baby Carrier One, and BabyBjörn Baby Carrier One Air; designed with the help of 100 real families, along with paediatricians, babywearing practitioners and medical experts. Every feature has been analysed and created for the ultimate comfort and support for both you and your baby. Perfect carrying ergonomics for hours of happy babywearing, supporting your growing baby’s neck, hips and spine perfectly, while you have your hands free.

So what’s new?

• The head support is higher and designed with a fully adjustable buckle, which gives both newborns and older babies greater neck support.

• The seat area now has an even wider maximum position with fully adjustable settings for the perfect position for your little one.

• There is less fabric between you and your baby which enhances the dreamy bonding experience and breathability of babywearing; you will be able to see and feel that your baby is sitting in a natural position, with their back in a “C” curve.

• The padding in the shoulder straps is brand new, to offer even more weight distribution across your shoulders and back, for hours of comfy carrying • The mesh used in the Baby Carrier One Air is made from a new patented fabric that’s been specifically developed to be even more breathable and feel extra soft against your baby’s delicate skin.

BabyBjorn the family-owned Swedish company, that pioneered babywearing in the 60’s, constantly works to develop and improve their products that grow with your family. As with the original One carrier, these new versions are suitable from birth all the way to three years old; carry your baby on your front close to your heart, inward or outward facing, and when they are one year old you can carry them on your back, turning the carrier with one simple movement. The new carrier is available in a variety of new colours to suit everyone.

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BabyBjörn Baby Carrier One, available in: Black, Denim Grey/Dark Grey, Classic Denim/ midnight blue, Grey/Powder Pink. RRP: £139.99; BabyBjörn Baby Carrier One Air, Mesh available in: Black, Anthracite, Navy blue, Silver, and Frost Green. RRP: £159.99

A Love Manifesto For All Mums To celebrate the launch of the new carrier and to support new parents everywhere, BabyBjörn is launching a new campaign focusing on this powerful love that comes with parenthood; it’s called; A Love Manifesto.

Meet some of our campaign champions: Cat Sims, Anna Whitehouse and Sagal Ibrahim Shire.

A LOVE MANIFESTO •`Trust yourself •`Create your own rules •`Invent your own parenting This is our Love Manifesto, dedicated to all parents. BabyBjörn have seen that unrealistic expectations and demands put a lot of pressure on soon-to-be and new ‘millennial mums’ particularly.

Many women go to the internet for help and find themselves the target of negative comments and harsh criticism for their parenting style. BabyBjorn believe that being a parent is not a competition and should be about what is real.

BabyBjörn want to put things into perspective by empowering new mums and dads to have faith in their own instincts, set their own standards and develop their own unique parenting style. The one thing that all parents have in common is the love they have for their children.

Sagal, one of our campaign champions tells us: “Motherhood is all about creating your own rules. Everything is going to be fine because it is your child and you know your child best. No one has the perfect say on parenting. You have to make up your own rules along the journey.” www.babybjorn.co.uk

Come and see us at The Baby Show, ExCel, Stand G31

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HOW TO PRACTISE SELF-CARE

As a study reveals that one in four women suffer from mental health issues during pregnancy, Liz Connor finds simple lifestyle changes to bring calm and happiness.

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ollywood rom-coms tell us that falling pregnant generally brings happy tears, excitement, and a feel-good ‘glow’ that radiates from within.

It’s no wonder then, that feeling vulnerable, anxious or overwhelmed during pregnancy can catch many women off guard at a point that is supposed to be the happiest time of their lives.

While much has been written about postnatal depression, a new study has revealed that pregnancy can be just as challenging a time for many women.

It found that one in four suffer from a mental health issue during pregnancy - before the baby has even been born.

Researchers at King’s College London found that

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when interviewed, a quarter of pregnant women had a mental illness ranging from depression (11%) and anxiety (15%) to eating disorders (2%) and obsessive-compulsive disorder (2%).

We all need time to look after ourselves, but this becomes really important during pregnancy, when you’re going through major mental and physical changes. That’s where self-care comes in - simple

“According to the Mayo Clinic, practising prenatal yoga can improve sleep and reduce stress”

WHEN YOU’RE PREGNANT change drastically. Make sure you keep the hobbies and rituals that define who you are, to help bolster a sense of self during a period of flux. Whether it’s going to see an exhibition, scheduling an evening of pampering or keeping up with a local book club, it’s important to make small pockets time for the things you enjoy.

Meet other mums Any mother will tell you, having other women on speed-dial who know what you’re going through can be a sanity-saving connection. During the later stages of pregnancy, it’s normal to feel quite isolated and even just getting out of the house can be difficult. That’s why it’s crucial to have a strong support group that can lighten the load of motherhood and ease feelings of loneliness. Look for local meetups, mother and baby groups or simply sign up to online forums like Mumsnet.

Get outside

lifestyle techniques that can help manage the symptoms of many mental health problems.

With that in mind, we’ve found a few simple and natural ways to help anyone dealing with depression and anxiety from the first to the third trimester.

Get an early night There’s no denying you always feel happier and healthier when you wake up after a restful night’s sleep. The National Sleep Foundation advises that pregnant women need a few extra hours rest at night than the average adult, and they could benefit from a few short naps during the day too.

Sleep impacts many of the chemicals in your body, including serotonin, and people who are deficient in this neurotransmitter are more likely to suffer from depression. You can help to boost your serotonin levels by making sure you’re getting between 8 and 10 hours of sleep each night during pregnancy.

It’s true what they say - fresh air is good for you.

Studies have found that spending just 15 minutes a day in nature can boost focus, ease anxiety and increase levels of the feel-good hormone dopamine.

More importantly, getting your fix of all-important vitamin D from natural sunlight can help you to sleep better at night. And the better you sleep, the better you’ll feel during the day.

“Having other women on speeddial who know what you’re going through can be a sanity-saving connection”

Practise pregnancy yoga Getting into a downward dog pose is probably the last thing you want to do when you’re six months pregnant, but according to the Mayo Clinic, practising prenatal yoga can improve sleep and reduce stress. As well as gentle stretching to relax and strengthen, a pregnancy yoga class will usually include guided meditation and breathing exercises to help calm anxious thoughts. Find a local prenatal instructor who can modify the postures to suit your stage of pregnancy and do your own research about safe and unsafe poses.

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HOW (and when) TO CHOOSE THE BEST NURSING BRA

However, soft flexible underwire can help support the breast, but this must be specifically for use in nursing bras. Also, look for a bras that come with extenders, so you can adjust it as your back size increases and decreases through pregnancy and the early weeks of motherhood, as well as thick straps to support your breasts, as they will feel heavier than normal.”

From style and comfort to finding the perfect fit, we asked the experts for their top tips.

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ust when you’re happy with your maternity wardrobe, it turns out you need a whole new nursing one (with secret panels) for breastfeeding.

While that’s not entirely true - you can totally get away with some strappy tops and button-up shirts - if you’re planning to breastfeed, you will definitely need a couple of good nursing bras, which have clasps on each side to allow for quick and easy access. But as you’ll notice over the course of your pregnancy, your breasts are growing all the time (sometimes by up to two cup sizes), so buy too soon and a nursing bra might not fit properly. We asked the experts exactly how to get fitted and when...

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What’s the difference between normal bras and nursing bras?

“There are two main differences: a nursing bra has a ‘drop-cup’ clip on the strap to allow easier access for breastfeeding, and it has no under-wiring as this could cause blockages in the milk ducts,” explains NCT senior policy advisor, Elizabeth Duff. “You usually need new bras as your breasts can grow quite a bit in pregnancy. It’s worth getting measured for nursing bras because your rib cage can also grow to make room for your baby.” Shane Duff, spokesman for Carriwell nursing bras, adds: “By using a drop-cup nursing bra, you are exposing the breast, which increases skin to skin contact with your baby. This is important for the bonding process between mother and baby.”

What should I look for in a good nursing bra?

“Comfort is the most important thing to look for in a nursing bra, as your breasts can become tender during pregnancy,” says Elizabeth. “And make sure the fastening is easy to use, as you may be holding a very hungry baby while trying to undo the clip! You will probably need to wash the bra frequently, so good-quality material is important, and think about getting a pack of two or three for better value.”

Talking of fabric, Shane notes: “A nursing bra must have the flexibility and the memory in the fabric to support the breasts as they change in size (your breast contracts after each feed and expands as it fills with milk again) but not restrict them, otherwise this can be uncomfortable for mum and lead to issues such as breast infections or even mastitis.

“It is not recommended to use a hard underwire as found in normal bras, as it can block the glands and reduce milk flow, again which can cause infection.

How soon before I’m due to give birth should I get a nursing bra and how many will I need?

“Around 37 weeks is generally the best time to get a nursing bra, because your breasts usually will have reached the size they’re going to be when breastfeeding, and if your rib cage is going to increase, it will have done so by this time,” says Elizabeth. Shane says: “Nursing bras are quite often used as daily maternity bras or at night as sleeping bras when pregnant. At six to seven months, you can buy your first nursing bra and after a month of wear, if you are happy with the size and you feel the bra is growing with you, we would suggest buying two more of the same type. When breastfeeding, you will need at least three nursing bras - one in use, one ready to use and one in the wash.”

Is it best to get fitted for a nursing bra?

“It’s a very good idea to get fitted for a nursing bra, but services vary in quality. Try to contact a local breastfeeding counsellor who should be able to point you in the direction of a good fitter,” says Elizabeth. “Chatting to other mums in your local NCT branch is another helpful source of information.” When finding the perfect fit, Shane advises: “Make sure all of your breast tissue is in the cups and that no breast tissue is ‘bulging’ under the arms or below the chest band. If the chest width is OK, there will be no marks on your skin and you should be able to fit two flat fingers under the band; otherwise it’s too tight. If the chest band rides up between your shoulder blades, you need a smaller size.”

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As the bookies take bets on what the Duke and Duchess or Cambridge will call their third baby, we take a trip down moniker memory lane. words: Chloe Kent, Press Association

ARTHUR OR ALICE? If William and Kate need ideas, these were the most E

popular names over the decades

ver since the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge announced their family’s set to expand once again, we’ve been itching to find out what the royal couple will name their new baby.

Of course, we’ll likely have to wait until the tot arrives (their third baby’s due in April) to find out but that doesn’t stop us pondering. Their first two - George, four, and two-year-old Charlotte - both have very classic names (no surprise, given their royal status!) and the new baby probably will too, but there are still numerous options.

Bookmakers William Hill has, once again, been taking bets. So far, if it’s a boy, the odds are: 9/1 for Arthur, 10/1 for Alfred, and 14/1 for Frederick (one of Queen Victoria’s sons was called Arthur, and it’s one of Prince William’s middle names, hence why it’s the bookies’ favourite). And if it’s a girl: 8/1 for Alice, 9/1 for Victoria, and 14/1 for Elizabeth.

“Queen Victoria’s second daughter was called Alice, as well as Prince Philip’s mother, William’s

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“Queen Victoria’s second daughter was called Alice, as well as Prince Philip’s mother, William’s great-grandmother”

great-grandmother,” says Lucy Toseland-Bolton, blog editor at BabyCentre.

As BabyCentre points out, Alice is one of the most enduring baby names of the past century in the UK. What better choice for a new princess than a moniker which has defined the 100 years up to her birth?

But what about the other popular options? Here’s a look back at the most-picked baby names through the decades...

1950s One of the most popular boys names in the Fifties was David, a Hebrew name which means ‘beloved’.

And let’s face it, we’ve all got an uncle or mate or two called Dave. For girls, Susan reigned supreme, another Hebrew name which means ‘lily’.

1960s Paul became very popular in the 1960s, a Latin

name meaning ‘humble’, a trait befitting a future member of the Windsor clan. Although, it’s probably a safe bet that the royal couple will not be calling any future son Paul - it’s just not all that regal. Julie was very popular for girls, a French name which means ‘youthful’.

1970s Richard became very popular in the Seventies, an English name meaning ‘brave ruler’. However, the new royal baby is highly unlikely to ever become king or queen. Once born, they’ll be fifth in line to the throne, behind their grandfather, father, and two older siblings. Sarah was also a popular choice in this decade, a Hebrew name meaning ‘princess’; very fitting indeed if the new baby is a little girl.

1980s The name Michael became a favourite choice in the Eighties, which many attribute to the influence of ‘King of Pop’ Michael Jackson. However, this unofficial monarch is quite unlikely to be a royal namesake. The name Emma was also very popular for girls, a Latin name which means ‘universal’.

Well, the royals are tasked with the duty of seeming relatable to all sections of society, so this might be a name William and Kate could consider...

1990s Thomas was extremely popular for boys in the Nineties, a Greek name which means ‘twin’. Megan also topped the baby name charts in this decade, a Welsh name meaning ‘pearl’ - but Prince Harry’s recent engagement to Meghan Markle means this one’s probably off the cards for the new royal tot.

2000s Although it’s actually quite an old name, Harry became extremely popular in the Noughties. This was likely due to the influence of the then-teenage prince Harry, who had become something of a heart-throb, combined with the Harry Potter

franchise blossoming into a staple of British culture.

The name Harry is English, and means ‘army ruler’ - a wild coincidence, considering Prince Harry’s stint in the military. That said, his name is actually Henry, with Harry being a diminutive. For girls, Olivia became very popular, an English name meaning ‘descendant’.

Present day “The name Michael became a favourite choice in the Eighties, which many attribute to the influence of ‘King of Pop’ Michael Jackson”

Ella Joynes, author of Baby Names 2018, predicts that gender-neutral names will be big this year.

“Names like Max, Alex, Charlie and Andy are all going to be big winners in the coming years, as parents move towards more fluid notions of gender and identity,” she writes. There’s also a predicted rise in feminist names. Ella believes the current political climate will be prompting expectant parents to reach back into the history of women’s suffrage for baby name inspiration.

Names also tend to cycle in popularity every 100 years or so, so keep an eye out for names that were popular during the First World War - there’s already been a large surge of Elsies and Georges (again).

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Pregnant?

Maintaining your fitness is good for you ….and good for baby too!

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taying active during pregnancy brings a raft of benefits for both mother and baby. ‘If you exercised regularly before you became pregnant there’s no reason not to continue,’ say pregnancy fitness-experts FittaMamma, ‘And if you weren’t exercising previously, now is the ideal time to make healthy lifestyle choices for both you and your baby.’

Medical experts agree that all healthy pregnant women should aim for at least 30 minutes exercise daily, ideally including a mixture of cardio fitness and strength training. If you didn’t exercise before, build up slowly but don’t be put off getting started – you’ll really see the benefits and you’ll be giving your baby the best possible start in life too.

“Pregnancy exercise should be about maintaining your fitness, rather than striving for improvement” Pregnancy exercise should be about maintaining your fitness, rather than striving for improvement but it’s all relative to your ‘normal’ fitness levels.

Expect to scale back as your bump gets bigger but for a runner this could simply mean ‘not so far and not so fast’, rather than scaling back to a walk. It’s important to listen to your body and make sure you remember the ‘Talk Test’, which basically means avoid exercising so hard you can’t talk. If you’re not able to chat, ease up, slow down or rest.

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Mirella Ingamells, fitness model & trainer

Aimee & baby Jaxon in FittaMamma ‘Fit Baby’ vests

Whatever exercise you choose, make sure you warm up before you start and cool down afterwards.

You need to gently raise your heart beat, get your blood circulating and stretch your muscles before you start your workout and ensure you cool down when you finish.

Wearing the right gear for exercise makes a big difference to your confidence and motivation, especially if you’re sporting a burgeoning baby bump in the gym. The FittaMamma maternity fitnesswear range provides the extra support you need, holding you securely like a sports bra for your bump.

FittaMamma say, ‘We designed a range of gymwear to provide support as well as style for pregnant women. We have tops that combine support and flexibility for the yoga studio and maternity fitness vests that hold you more firmly, making them prefect for running or gym workouts.

Whatever exercise you do during pregnancy, supporting and holding your bump, back and boobs is really important – it makes so much difference to your comfort and your ability to maintain your exercise routine.

Our range is designed to stretch and fit throughout pregnancy and will regain its shape after your baby is born until you’re regained your shape too. It’s ideal if you want to enjoy the extra comfort and wear your activewear everyday too.’

Clothes available from www.fittamamma.com Not sure what exercise you can and can’t do during pregnancy? Fittamamma.com is a fantastic resource for safe pregnancy exercise with workouts and videos.

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VITAMIN B3 & PREGNANCY

A study in Australia has found evidence the vitamin could help prevent harmful deficiencies of a key growth molecule in embryos.

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’ve had a miscarriage and am trying to get pregnant again. Is it true that getting more vitamin B3 in my diet may help reduce the chance of another miscarriage?

Professor Sally Dunwoodie, of the Victor Chang Institute in Sydney, led a long-term study using mice to investigate the effect of vitamin B3 on developing embryos.

Before vitamin B3 was introduced into the mother’s diet, embryos were either lost through miscarriage or the offspring were born with a range of severe birth defects. After the dietary change, both the miscarriages and birth defects were completely prevented, with all offspring born healthy.

Professor Dunwoodie says: “Under no circumstances do we want to offer false hope to families who’ve been affected by miscarriage or birth defects [but] our research provides evidence that vitamin B3 has the potential to prevent these terrible outcomes, at least in mice.

“However, we are encouraging women to follow the current recommended dose of vitamin B3 (18mg per day) when preparing for pregnancy.

“Our landmark research found that a deficiency in a vital molecule known as NAD (nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide) can prevent a baby’s organs from developing correctly in the womb in some cases. Vitamin B3 is required to make NAD and is

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“After 12 years of research, our team has also discovered that this deficiency can potentially be cured in mice, and miscarriages and birth defects prevented in their offspring, by administering the common dietary supplement, vitamin B3”

typically found in meats and green vegetables and products like Marmite.

“NAD is one of the most important molecules in all living cells. Its synthesis is essential for energy production, DNA repair and cell communication.

Environmental and genetic factors can disrupt its production, which causes a NAD deficiency. We found this deficiency can be particularly harmful during a pregnancy as it can cripple an embryo when it’s forming.

“After 12 years of research, our team has also discovered that this deficiency can potentially be cured in mice, and miscarriages and birth defects prevented in their offspring, by administering the common dietary supplement, vitamin B3.

“It’s not known how many cases of miscarriage and birth defects are caused by low levels of NAD. It’s also not yet known what dose of vitamin B3 will prevent miscarriage and birth defects. Further research in this important area is underway.”

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EATING DURING PREGNANCY RECIPE: FRENCH TOAST WITH SPICED PLUMS

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s the traditional way of making French toast is to dip bread into egg and milk, it might seem that it would be off-menu for vegans, but this alternative is surprisingly easy to create and just as scrummy,” enthuses former Made In Chelsea star Lucy Watson.

“The spiced plums really do make it, though of course, you can have it with any topping of your choice!”

Is It Safe To Eat Fish During Pregnancy?

A dietitian shares expert advice for mums-to-be who might be confused about seafood safety.

Now I’m pregnant, do I need to avoid eating fish? I can’t work out whether it’s good for me and the baby because of the omega-3 it contains, or bad for us because of mercury contamination...

Dr Carrie Ruxton, a dietitian at the Health Food Supplements Information Service, says: “Several nutrients are vital during pregnancy, particularly folic acid, omega-3 fatty acids and vitamin D. “Oily fish is the richest food source of omega-3s and vitamin D, yet many pregnant women wrongly believe eating fish could be harmful to their babies due to possible contamination with mercury or other sea pollutants.

“However, this isn’t the case, as reported in a recent study in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology. Norwegian researchers followed up 40,000 women five years after giving birth, reporting that their children’s communication skills were significantly better if the mothers had eaten seafood while pregnant.

“The only fish to get the thumbs-down for mercury levels was fresh tuna. This positive news means pregnant women can safely have one portion of salmon, trout, mackerel or herring weekly.

“For those who don’t eat fish, certain fish oil supplements are suitable during pregnancy - your pharmacist will be able to advise.

“Since other nutrients are needed to grow a healthy baby, it’s essential for women to take 400mcg of folic acid prior to conception and for the first trimester. A daily 10mcg vitamin D supplement is also recommended during pregnancy and breastfeeding.”

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Ingredients: (Serves 2) • 200ml almond milk • 2tbsp light brown soft sugar • 2tbsp wholemeal flour • 1tbsp nutritional yeast • 1/2tsp ground cinnamon • A pinch of salt • 2tbsp vegan butter • 4 thick slices day-old white bloomer bread, sliced about 2cm thick For the spiced plums: • 3tbsp vegan butter • 3tbsp light soft brown sugar • 6 large ripe plums, pitted and quartered • 1/4tsp ground ginger • 1/4tsp ground cinnamon

Method:

“The only fish to get the thumbs-down for mercury levels was fresh tuna”

1. Begin by pan-frying the plums. Put the butter and sugar in a non-stick frying pan over a high heat. When it begins to bubble, put the plums into the pan. Sprinkle over the spices and cook for four to five minutes until soft, stirring occasionally. The plums should be well coated with the glossy syrup. Remove from the heat.

2. Pour the milk into a bowl and add the sugar, flour, nutritional yeast, cinnamon and salt.

Whisk well.

3. Put a large non-stick frying pan over a medium-high heat. Put the butter in the pan and wait until it begins to sizzle. Take each piece of bread and dip both sides into the milk mixture until soaked well.

4. Add the soaked bread slices to the pan and cook for three to four minutes on each side until golden brown and crispy. Put the plums back over the heat to warm through.

5. Serve the plums on the bread, making sure to use up all the spiced buttery syrup.

This breakfast is sure to perk up your morning.

WORDS: Ella Walker

Crazy Cravings!

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ancy a seat belt? Anyone for ice cream and chilli sauce, or perhaps a tasty lump of wall? Many women experience strong cravings during pregnancy. And whether you’re pregnant or not, sometimes all you want is to eat peanut butter straight from the jar with a spoon, right? But some women’s cravings are more than just a little odd.

Designers Vicky Jacob-Ebbinghaus and Juarez Rodrigues started collecting and posting on their blog all manner of madcap stories about cravings from pregnant women. Their new book Pickles and Ice Cream brings together some of the weird, wonderful and utterly disgusting concoctions they’ve come across. Would you give any of these a try?

The spiced plums really do make it, though of course, you can have it with any topping of your choice!”

Verdict: If you love Brussels sprouts, you might be able to appreciate this as a slightly offbeat waffle topping. If not, it’s future vomit.

Hot dogs with peanut butter dip The craving of: Nikki, San Diego, California, USA Ingredients: • 2tbsp peanut butter • 1-3 hot dogs Method: Place peanut butter in a small dish. Dip

Ice cream and chilli sauce The craving of: Eunice, Roseburg, Oregon, USA Ingredients: • 2 scoops of ice cream • Sweet chilli sauce Method: Scoop ice cream into a dish, pour the chilli sauce over it.

Verdict: Horrible.

Waffles with mustard and Brussels sprouts

Feed Me Vegan by Lucy Watson, photography Mike English, is published by Sphere, priced £16.99.

Available now.

The craving of: Michele, Johnstown, Pennsylvania, USA Ingredients: • 1 egg, beaten • 1 cup all-purpose flour • 2tsp sugar • 1/4 tsp vanilla extract • Pinch of salt • 180 ml milk • 60ml sunflower oil • 4 Brussels sprouts • 1 tbsp Dijon mustard • 1 tbsp mustard Method: 1. Add the flour, sugar, vanilla extract, salt, milk and oil to the egg and beat well.

2. Pour the mixture into a heated waffle iron (this recipe makes two waffles). Cook until golden brown and crispy (four to five minutes).

3. While you are cooking the waffles, bring a pot of water to a boil. Add the Brussels sprouts and cook for five to 10 minutes until tender. Remove the pot from the heat and drain.

4. Serve the waffles on a plate with the mustard and Brussels sprouts on top.

hot dogs into the peanut butter and eat.

Verdict: The first time that being allergic to nuts will work to your advantage.

Seat belt The craving of: Patricia, Addison, Alabama, USA Method: This can be enjoyed raw in the car by simply chewing on an available seat belt. Or you can remove a seat belt and gnaw on it in the comfort of your home.

Verdict: Seat belts were invented by Englishman George Cayley in the mid-19th century. Since then, they have been used to help keep vehicle passengers safer in the event of an accident. And after tasting them, it is clear this should continue to be their only purpose.

Forever.

Recipe extracts from Pickles And Ice Cream by Vicky Jacob-Ebbinghaus and Juarez Rodrigues is published by Robinson priced £9.99.

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ASK THE EXPERT: GIVING BIRTH

HOW DO YOU USE MINDFULNESS DURING CHILDBIRTH?

Mindfulness expert Riga Forbes explains how the relaxation technique can reduce childbirth pain and enhance mother-baby bonding after birth. WORDS: LISA SALMON

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an mindfulness help when giving birth? Riga Forbes author of Mindful Pregnancy & Birth (Leaping Hare Press, £8.99) says: “The practice of mindfulness in pregnancy has been shown to benefit women amazingly well during labour, birth and post-birth.

“New US research demonstrates that women participating in mindfulness-based birth preparation courses need less pain relief, feel more empowered and able to cope in childbirth, and also have improved wellbeing postnatally, with far fewer incidences of postnatal depression.

“With less usage of drugs such as pethadine for relief of discomfort, not only are mothers more

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alert and connected with the process of bonding, but so are their babies. Results like this mean the initiation of breastfeeding and bonding can happen more easily too, which is immeasurably beneficial for both mother and child.

“In order to use mindfulness training to prepare for birth itself, it’s important to have a support system, either a course or a weekly group or a book with guided meditations which give a structured framework to practice. When we take these skills into childbirth, we can use them to help focus on breathing, explore and observe sensations in our body without reacting in fear or panic, and to use cultivation of presence during the experience of

“Women participating in mindfulness-based birth preparation courses need less pain relief”

WHY SHOULD I HOLD MY BABY SKIN TO SKIN?

birth to find more acceptance and empowerment in ourselves.

“This works at a physiological level to enable the body to relax more, which in turn optimises the brain’s secretion of oxytocin, thus supporting the birth process to unfold easily. The wonderful effects of relaxation during birth will have a

A midwife explains the benefits of mums - and dads - holding newborn babies against their bare skin.

“In order to use mindfulness training to prepare for birth itself, it’s important to have a support system” positive impact on women at many levels and will facilitate further wellbeing, for baby also, as the new motherhood phase approaches.

“Mindfulness provides a core of stability that not only helps us to address stress, but also allows us to recognise and work with the origins and triggers of stress in our lives. It’s like a wellbeing toolbox that anyone can learn and use anywhere, which sounds to me like the perfect gift for a new mother.”

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hat is skin to skin and is there any need for me to practice it with my baby once we’ve left hospital?

Midwife Jenny Lord says: “Skin to skin is the action of placing your naked baby on your bare chest after birth, and guidelines are now recommending it for all babies.

“This contact is proven to help you bond with your baby in the initial ‘golden hour’ after birth, though there are also huge payoffs to continuing with skin to skin for several weeks as you and baby settle into your home routine.

“A key physiological benefit for your baby includes building their brain. Crucially, the amygdala - located deep in the centre of the brain - goes through a process of maturation during

your baby’s first two months. Skin to skin activates the amygdala, contributing to its maturation; this is vital to your baby’s development.

“Other physiological benefits include increasing your baby’s pain threshold and reducing their stress levels.

“Extended skin to skin time can have benefits for mums and dads too. Mothers who practice it have a lower risk of postnatal depression as this technique offers another way of calming your baby that doesn’t involve feeding - you’re likely to feel more confident with your baby if you practice it.

“Dads should have a go too - fathers who did skin to skin felt consolidated in their parental role.

“Skin to skin is a natural ability every mum has and something they should strive to continue doing in the months following birth.”

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Focus on…

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tress, sleep and what you eat could all play a part in men’s fertility. The media might be obsessed with women’s egg counts, but male fertility shouldn’t be left out of the conversation. Researchers are warning men’s sperm counts are falling at such rates that humans could fall under threat of extinction in the future. After assessing 185 sperm studies, they found sperm counts among men from North America, Europe, Australia and New Zealand, seemingly halved between 1973 and 2011 (lead researcher Dr Hagai Levine is “very worried” about the implications).

So, should we be concerned? A little perspective is probably wise - other experts have noted that the Human Reproduction Update findings don’t necessarily give the full picture because, for instance, some of the older studies may have been flawed, plus sperm count studies that don’t find any significant drops may not always be published, therefore getting left out of the equation.

However, male fertility shouldn’t be taken for granted. And while, like all aspects of health, sometimes things are out of your control (and there are often things that can be done to help, if you do

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experience fertility difficulties), lifestyle factors can play a part. Here are key things to keep in mind...

Smoking “Smoking can affect your general health and fitness and so have a detrimental effect on the quality of sperm produced,” says Mr Dev Sarmah, consultant urologist at Spire Parkway Hospital in Solihull.

“There’s also the problem that [smoking] can lower levels of the antioxidants in the body that protect the sperm from attack from ‘free radicals’. Certain tests have also shown that couples undergoing fertility treatment get poorer results if the male partner smokes.” Quitting smoking isn’t easy - but there’s tons of support out there to help, including NHS Smokefree services. Ask your GP about services in your area.

Stress “Stress hormones can interfere with the hormones controlling sperm production. Research has shown that men under stress at work or home are more likely to have poor sperm quality,” says nutritionist Dr Marilyn Glenville PHD, author of Getting

“Research has shown that men under stress at work or home are more likely to have poor sperm quality”

Pregnant Faster. A balanced diet, getting enough sleep and regular exercise are all important for helping manage stress, as well as taking steps to address any particular triggers - such as issues at work, and saying ‘yes’ to everything and not leaving time to recharge. “Yoga or meditation can also be helpful, as well as seeing a counsellor, as infertility in itself can be stressful,” adds Dr Glenville.

An unhealthy diet A poor diet can impact our health in general, which may contribute to reduced fertility. A balanced diet, with plenty of anti-oxidant-filled fruit and veg, is usually the best approach.

Plus, Dr Glenville notes: “One of the most important nutrients for male fertility is zinc, needed for the production of sperm and male hormones.

Several studies have found the male sex glands and sperm contain high concentrations of zinc. Modern diets tend to be low in zinc, so make sure not to deprive yourself and opt for foods such as fish, sardines, eggs, whole grains, brown rice and nuts.”

Over-exercising “In a world where everyone is encouraged to keep fit, it may seem strange to include ‘over-exercising’ as a reason why sperm quality may be poor,” says Mr Sarmah. “However, as with everything, things work best in moderation. “It is possible excessive exercise could lower the amount of testosterone in your body - but I would not want to discourage anyone from taking regular exercise and plenty of it.” In the past, cycling has also been associated with reduced fertility in men - but there’s no clear evidence to suggest this applies to most people, and remember, it’s far better overall to be fit and healthy than avoid exercise.

Too much caffeine Sure, the health benefits of coffee regularly feature in headlines these days, but too much caffeine could still have detrimental effects in other ways. “Studies indicate that problems with sperm health seem to increase the more cups of coffee men drink a day,” notes Dr Glenville. “This may be because caffeine

has a diuretic effect and this can deplete the body of vital fertility boosting nutrients, such as zinc and calcium.”

Too much alcohol

“Studies indicate that problems with sperm health seem to increase the more cups of coffee men drink a day”

“Excessive alcohol lowers testosterone levels, and so affects both the quality and quantity of sperm. There’s also the problem that drinking too much can reduce male libido as well as causing impotences,” says Mr Sarmah. Excessive drinking can sometimes be associated with mental health problems in men too. It’s a good idea to talk to your GP, or call a mental health charity helpline, such as the Mind infoline, if you’re struggling to cope or simply want some advice about finding healthier ways to tackle life’s ups and downs.

Being overweight “Being overweight or obese can cause hormonal changes that lower the quality of sperm, and make men less interested in sex,” says Mr Sarmah.

“Very overweight men are also more likely to have problems getting an erection. It’s also true that excessive fat increases body temperature around the testes, which can also affect sperm quality.”

Poor sleep A lack of sleep can impact health in many ways, and this might include fertility. “If you are constantly tired, then your sperm count will go down,” says Mr Sarmah. “You also need to look at the reasons why you aren’t sleeping well - could it be stress or an unhealthy lifestyle? Both factors that can affect sperm quality.”

Over-heating Some studies have suggested prolonged exposure to high temperatures can have a negative impact on sperm production, leading to occasional headlines warning of the dangers of working in hot environments, using your laptop on your lap, etc. While this might be a grey area in reality, ‘prolonged exposure’ are probably key things to remember here, and if you’re concerned, have a chat with your GP.

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The Bush Theatre, London, Tuesday 8 – Sunday 13 May

ertility Fest, the world’s first arts festival dedicated to fertility, infertility, modern families and the science of making babies, will return for its second edition at The Bush Theatre, this May. Over six days, a diverse programme of events will present 150 world class artists, experts and scientists exploring the bigger picture of fertility in the 21st century through theatre, film, visual arts, literature, discussion, workshops and debate.

The festival will bring together all voices –

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whatever their sex, fertility experience or parenting stories – to explore how the human race is being made (and sometimes not being made) today, and ask key questions about fertility, science and education in 2018 and beyond.

By giving a platform to these crucial conversations, Fertility Fest hopes to encourage wider public discourse around these issues, as well as improving the emotional care of fertility patients – whatever their outcome – and the fertility education of young people.

Fertility Fest was founded by Jessica Hepburn and Gabby Vautier in 2016. Jessica and Gabby are amongst the UK’s leading patient voices on fertility, infertility and assisted conception, and together their personal experiences present two very different stories of IVF: Jessica went through eleven rounds of unsuccessful treatment; Gabby, a theatre and event producer is the mother of 3 year old IVF twin girls.

Jessica is also the host and chair of the Q&A Stage at the Fertility Show, has written for the leading fertility magazine Fertility Road and the Guardian, and appeared on the 2016 BBC Panorama documentary Inside Britain’s Fertility Industry, and the 2014 BBC Radio 4 documentary A Family Without A Child. She is a member of the UK Fertility Education Initiative.

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JoJo Maman Bebe Embroidered Blouse

Just pregnant?

6 ways to hide your bump for the first three months WORDS: Kate Whiting

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Isabella Oliver Harris Maternity Cardigan

he maternity wear experts reveal how to disguise that growing bump until you’re ready to tell. Knowing what to wear in early pregnancy, as your bump starts to grow, can be a minefield. Deviate wildly from your normal wardrobe and you risk arousing suspicion, but trying to squeeze yourself into those size 10 skinny jeans just ain’t gonna to happen anymore.

So, assuming you’re keeping it a secret from work colleagues and friends until you’ve had the all-clear at the 12-week scan, what’s the answer for achieving a transitional maternity wear wardrobe, without giving the game away? “Dressing for the first three months of pregnancy can be tricky,” admits Baukjen de Swaan Arons, founder and creative director of the Isabella Oliver maternity range.

“It’s such an exciting time, but simultaneously, there’s an apprehension to spread your happy news until you’ve had the first scan. At Isabella

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Oliver, we’re totally aware of this and design clothes that are not only suitable for burgeoning mums-tobe, but work during the first few months too.”

Here are some tips from Baukjen and Laura Tenison, founder and MD of JoJo Maman Bebe.

1. The life-saver “Before you rush out and buy maternity clothes, take a look at your current pieces and see what you can work with; a bump bandeau can hide a multitude of sins - including a fly that won’t do up!” says Laura.

Try: JoJo Maman Bebe Multi-Use Maternity Bump Bandeau, £15

2. Trusty jeans When those flies really won’t zip up anymore, and not even a bump band can hide it, it’s time to invest in some good maternity jeans.

“Don’t ditch the skinny jeans just because you’re expecting,” says Laura. “Stay true to your style, but make a few tweaks - invest in a great fitting pair of jeans with built-in bump support.”

“Our best-selling maternity denim has a builtin elasticated jersey panel, which supports and comforts a growing waistline,” adds Baukjen.

“Before you rush out and buy maternity clothes, take a look at your current pieces and see what you can work with”

JoJo Maman Bebe Multi-Use Maternity Bump Bandeau

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“Make sure darker colours are strategically placed over your tummy, the darker portion won’t draw attention to a growing bump” Try: Isabella Oliver The Relaxed Maternity Jean, £99 JoJo Maman Bebe Super Stretch Maternity Skinny Jeans, £35

3. Distract attention

4. Let it flow “Loose, flowing layers will be your best friend when disguising a bump,” says Laura. “A waterfall-style cardigan can be used throughout your pregnancy and after birth too, thanks to the oversized fit.”

“Waterfall cardigans, like our Harris Maternity Cardigan, draws the eye downwards and drape beautifully, making them a great choice for mums to be,” adds Baukjen.

Try: JoJo Maman Bebe Waterfall Feeding Cardigan, £35 Isabella Oliver Harris Maternity Cardigan, currently £44, reduced from £89

5. Turn to the dark side “Simple, classic cuts will see you through the entire nine months, as well as subsequent pregnancies thanks to their timelessness,” says Laura. “Dark colours will create less shadows for a more flattering look.”

“Make sure darker colours are strategically placed over your tummy, the darker portion won’t draw attention to a growing bump,” adds Baukjen.

Try: JoJo Maman Bebe Navy Shift Dress, currently £21, reduced from £35 Isabella Oliver Mari Maternity Top, currently £29, reduced from £59

6. The classic shirt “Blouses and shirts, like our Granville Maternity Shirt, are designed to have a billowy fit with a slight stretch, which can hide a belly,” says Baukjen.

Try: Isabella Oliver Granville Maternity Shirt, £85

Isabella Oliver Roxby Top

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“Choose styles that help distract from your midsection. Embroidery or prints confined to the collarbone area draw the eye upwards, so the focus isn’t on your growing bump,” says Laura.

“Long tops and bold prints can elongate your form and disguise your growing tummy,” adds Baukjen.

Try: JoJo Maman Bebe Embroidered Blouse, currently £14, reduced from £26 Isabella Oliver Roxby Top, currently £41, reduced from £69

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Childrens’ meal times Is Your Child’s Nursery Feeding Them Healthily?

Here’s What Parents Need To Know

Young children must eat well to flourish and avoid illnesses in later life. Lisa Salmon finds out what they should be eating.

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nsuring children eat well in their early years is key to them achieving their potential, helps prevent them becoming overweight, and reduces their risk of serious diseases in later life. And as many young children spend a lot of time in childcare or nursery while their parents work, what they eat there is crucial. That’s why Action for Children is running the Eat Better Start Better campaign, which gives guidance to people who care for under-fives on what our little ones should be eating to give them the best start in life.

Why is good nutrition so important for the under-5s?

Eating the correct balance of foods ensures young children get the nutrients they need to grow rapidly and ensures they don’t consume too much, which may lead to weight gain. Encouraging them to eat a wide variety of foods will also help them develop good dietary habits for life.

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It’s vital that more children eat well, as more than a fifth of children are currently either overweight or obese by the time they start primary school. In addition, the dental health of many young children is poor, and more than a quarter of young children in the UK may be at risk of iron deficiency, which is linked to slower intellectual development and poor behaviour in the long-term.

What is a healthy balanced diet for young children?

In recent years, changes in children’s diets have affected their nutrient intakes with some children eating foods that are low in energy, iron and vitamin A, and high in saturated fat, sugar and salt. The Eat Better Start Better guide gives information on how to limit the bad stuff, and serve the correct portion sizes for young children.

A healthy balanced diet for children aged one to four is based on these four food groups: • Potatoes, bread, rice, pasta and other starchy

“Eating the correct balance of foods ensures young children get the nutrients they need to grow rapidly”

Children playing with their food carbohydrates • Fruit and vegetables • Beans, pulses, fish, eggs, meat and other proteins • Dairy and alternatives Eat Better Start Better stresses that one of the basic principles of healthy eating is variety, as eating a wider range of foods provides a better balance of nutrients. Meals and snacks should be planned to include a variety of food and drinks from the four food groups.

How does a healthy diet for the under-5s differ from older children’s diets?

Young children are growing quickly and have high energy and nutrient requirements for their size.

They also eat smaller amounts than older children and adults, so it’s important for them to eat regular meals and snacks that contain sufficient energy and nutrients for their needs.

A low-fat, high fibre diet isn’t appropriate for young children, particularly those aged under two years, as it may not provide enough energy, fat, iron or zinc, and is too high in fibre.

Between the ages of two and five years, children should gradually move towards the diet recommended for older children and adults, with less energy provided from fat, and more fibre.

How often should the under-5s eat?

It’s important that the food and drink provided for children is balanced across each day, and that children eat regularly, with breakfast, lunch, tea, and two or three snacks provided daily.

Here’s what nurseries and child-carers should be doing Plan menus to include a variety of foods, tastes, textures and colours. This will give children an opportunity to try a wide range of foods.Plan meals and and snacks to meet Eat Better Start Better food and drink guidelines, so children will meet their nutritional requirements. Cater for the cultural and dietary needs of all children.

Introduce new menu cycles at least twice a year.

This will incorporate seasonal products and give children the chance to try different foods. Share menus for meals and snacks with parents. This can help parents balance meals and snacks with food provided at nursery.

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etting a baby make a mess at mealtimes means they’re less likely to be a fussy eater, says children’s food expert Dr Gillian Harris.

“Is it good for my child to play with food? I try to stop her doing it because of the mess.”

Dr Gillian Harris, a consultant child psychologist and expert on childhood food acceptance and refusal, says: “You are not alone - in a survey carried out by WaterWipes , 40% of parents don’t let their baby play with their food and over a third (34%) even feel stressed or anxious about it.

“Babies who haven’t had sensory food play experiences are more likely to be fussy eaters and to be worried about different food tastes”

months, as you introduce new foods to them.

“Babies who haven’t had sensory food play experiences are more likely to be fussy eaters and to be worried about different food tastes and the feel and look of different textured foods. This reluctance to touch and taste will carry on through childhood - it’s easier to desensitise a baby than it is to desensitise an older toddler or child.

“So, if you’re spoon-feeding your baby, give them a spoon of their own to hold and play with and dip in the bowl, let them put their fingers in the yoghurt, give them some soft cooked vegetables to hold and mush, or some nice squashy fruit pieces.

“And don’t be too quick to wipe their faces and hands clean, even if they’re a little worried about them being messy - distract them for a little while and then wipe later. There are also plenty of fun, simple and stress-free sensory food games that you and your little one can try out.”

“But it’s very important for your baby to interact with food, either when they’re being fed or feeding themselves, or when playing away from mealtimes. This is because babies are born sensitive to taste, touch and smell, so they’ll often overreact to new food tastes and the feel of sticky foods on their hands and faces.

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KATIE PIPER ON MOTHERHOOD HAPPINESS, AND WHY SHE REFUSED TO FEEL BAD ABOUT PREGNANCY SUGAR CRAVINGS The model-turned-philanthropist talks to Liz Connor about becoming a mum for the second time.

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hilanthropist, TV presenter, author - and all-round inspiration Katie Piper already has her hands full, but that didn’t stop her getting on board with supporting the Pampers #ThankYouMidwife campaign.

The 34-year-old has also just become a mum for the second time; she and her husband Richard Sutton welcomed baby Penelope Diane in December, a little sister for their first daughter Belle Elizabeth, now three.

Here, former model Katie, who set up the Katie Piper Foundation after surviving an horrific acid attack in 2008 and now has a string of books, TV shows and awards to her name, alongside her work as a campaigner and activist, talks to us about pregnancy, parenthood and living with purpose...

How did you find your second pregnancy - did it feel different from when you were pregnant with Belle?

“It was different first, because I’ve got a toddler running round the house, so it was a bit more full on. Also, because I’d done it once before, I was probably a little bit more laid-back than I perhaps was in my first pregnancy. So that’s nice.

“I’m really excited to be a mum again. It’s made me realise how grown up my little girl is and that she’s not a baby any more. She’s a toddler, so it will be nice to go through all those milestones again and not fret about things like, ‘When are they going to smile? When are they going to giggle?’, and just actually enjoy the moment a bit more.”

Did you keep up your fitness routine while you were pregnant?

“The first five months, I was really good, I was still running on a treadmill and doing light weights, and then that gradually changed to floor exercises. When I got to about five or six months, it got quite tiring because I was working as well. I was waking up exhausted so I stopped, based on advice from my midwife. We just got a puppy recently, so I walked the dog every day, but I wasn’t in the gym in Lycra doing dead lifts!”

Did you follow a specific pregnancy diet, or just eat what you fancied?

“All of my cravings were really sweet and sugary, so there was a lot of pain au chocolat and fizzy jelly worms, but I try to be mindful and eat the good stuff as well. I always have breakfast, a good dinner

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and a good lunch, whether I’m out and about or at work. But in the evening, [later in the pregnancy] I gorged on penny sweets and Madeira cake. I just sort of went with that, not really feeling bad about it, you know?”

How do you think marriage and having children has changed your perspective on life?

“It’s given life a whole new meaning and a whole new responsibility, so there’s a lovely feeling of stability and clarity. Particularly having [babies] because it’s become what my world is about. I imagine that feeling will get even stronger [now].”

How do you relax after a busy day?

“I’m rubbish at relaxing. Before I got pregnant, my way of relaxing and to unwind would be to go for a run! I could never meditate, I’m just not a still, calm person. I like to read and I like to write, so if I’m at the computer writing, I find that quite cathartic.

“Again, if I’m on a long flight, I love to read a good book, but when you have a toddler, you’re not really reading books - your reading the odd page and then forgetting the whole plot, and then having to read the same page 28 times!”

“I think purpose is really important. I suppose in my life, I’ve experienced losing purpose and also losing happiness, and now I would say I very much have both of them back. They are what defines us and they’re the reasons we get up and do what we do every day. People think we should strive to attain wealth or material possession, but you actually shouldn’t, because if you obtain those things without purpose and happiness, you’ll feel unfulfilled.”

Katie Piper is supporting the Pampers #ThankYouMidwife campaign. For every ‘thank you’ shared with the hashtag on social media, Pampers will donate £1 to the Royal College of Midwives. For further information, visit pampers.co.uk

“It’s given life a whole new meaning and a whole new responsibility, so there’s a lovely feeling of stability and clarity”

You’re fronting the Pampers ‘Thank You Midwife’ campaign, which aims to say thank you to the UK’s 40,000 midwives. What made you want to get involved?

“Pampers told me that when they carried out their research, one in three midwives felt undervalued and underappreciated, so straight away, I thought, ‘Well I wonder if that applies to my midwife, and the midwife who helped deliver Belle?’ I think their research shows that it’s quite a thankless task, in that you go above and beyond in your job role.

“As a mother, it’s such an overwhelming time, so you probably don’t think to acknowledge or thank the midwife. My midwife was very much part of the whole antenatal plan, the birth and in the community afterwards, and I credit my midwife for the reason I was able to breastfeed. She stayed after her shift and showed me how to get the baby to latch on.”

You’ve become a real role model - does that ever make you feel pressured?

“I think it’s a bit of a hard pedestal, in that nobody is perfect and people do get things wrong, myself included. The only thing you can be is conscious of perception and influence, and be sure of staying true to yourself.”

What is really important to you in life?

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HELEN SKELTON ON MOTHERHOOD

The TV presenter chats about family life now she’s a busy - but more chilled - mum-of-two.

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elen Skelton has kayaked the Amazon, cycled to the South Pole and completed ultra marathons - but she’s now doing her most exhausting challenge yet, as Mum to two small boys (Ernie, two, and sevenmonth-old Louis).

The former Blue Peter presenter, whose more recent TV credits include Countryfile and joining the BBC’s sports coverage line-up, has recently been living in France, while her husband, Richie Myler, plays rugby for the Catalans Dragons.

Here, the adventure-loving TV personality talks to us about how motherhood has changed her life, fitting it all in, and the advice she hopes to pass on to her sons...

‘I’m a lot more chilled’ There’s no doubt becoming a parent changes things hugely, and for Helen, 34, this has meant a shift in outlook and priorities.

“For me, I’m a lot more chilled out about stuff.

Before, I would focus on work or holidays or buying things, but all of that stuff becomes insignificant when you’ve got kids.”

Laughing, she adds: “Your priorities become a lot more mundane and humbling, I guess.”

Life with two young boys might be pretty hectic and constantly changing, but there’s one thing that won’t change - and that’s the pearls of wisdom Helen wants to pass down to her children: “You get out of life what you put in,” she shares. “My mum always says that to me.”

‘Running around after a toddler keeps me fit now!’

As anyone who watched Blue Peter when Helen was on it will know (she was a presenter on the popular children’s series from 2008-2013), she’s quite an active person. Her achievements are certainly impressive - including becoming the second woman ever to finish the 78-mile Namibia Ultra Marathon in 2009, and then running the London Marathon just weeks after.

Of course, becoming a mum has changed her approach to exercise, though it’s still important to her.

“I would like to say I still keep fit,” Helen says with a laugh. “But no - before I had the boys, I was a total gym bunny, working out five or six days a week - but now I feel guilty if I go to the gym, thinking I could be doing something with them.”

However, this isn’t to say she’s no longer fit - far from it. As Helen reveals: “To be honest, running after a two-year-old is more exercise than I’ve ever done at the gym! Yesterday we were playing dinosaurs, and I think I did 35 minutes of sit-ups!”

‘We don’t do date nights’ So are they one of those couples that schedules in date nights? By the sounds of it, not exactly...

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“What the hell is date night?!” Helen teases, laughing. “We don’t have date nights, but we love the idea of them,” she adds. “At the moment, one of us will go to an event, while the other one babysits.”

The family recently went on a road trip for 11 days around France, and Helen and Richie realised they spoke more to each other in the car then they had in months.

This doesn’t mean the experience was all plain sailing, however. “11 days driving across France probably wasn’t the smartest idea I’ve ever had with two small boys, but it was good overall.

“Nine days were great,” Helen adds with a smile, “but the last couple of days were a bit full-on!”

“Before, I would focus on work or holidays or buying things, but all of that stuff becomes insignificant when you’ve got kids”

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GRANDPARENTS LOOKING AFTER THEIR GRANDCHILDREN ADVANTAGES & DISADVANTAGES Millions of grandparents help care for their grandchildren, but there are both pros and cons to childcare in later life - here are a few of them.

“Most grandparents who help out with childcare relish the opportunity to spend more time with their grandchildren”

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Here’s what some of the grandmas and grandads that use Gransnet forums say:

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aising children can be tough - but some lucky parents have their own mums and dads to help them out.

Around nine million grandparents help look after their grandchildren, spending an average of more than eight hours a week as childcarers.

And research by the insurance company Ageas shows this saves UK parents a total of £16 billion a year in childcare costs, or £1,786 a year per family.

In addition, many grandparents are also supplementing some of the costs of raising a family for parents, by paying for some of the basics like clothing, and toys not just at Christmas and birthdays. Others even stump up for luxuries like holidays for their grandchildren.

But while granny childcare is a great help to parents, what do grandparents get out of it?

Not surprisingly, research by Gransnet has found that while one in six grandparents have taken early retirement or quit paid employment to help out

with their grandchildren, 80% of them say their sacrifice is worth it, and more than half (51%) say they’re happier now they spend time with their grandchildren.

Gransnet editor Lara Crisp says: “Most grandparents who help out with childcare relish the opportunity to spend more time with their grandchildren and find it helps them build a strong relationship with them.

“They’re also very aware of the demands on modern families - in particular expensive childcare and are for the most part happy to help out if they can.

“However, it’s clear that in some cases they feel they’re taken for granted, so open discussions should happen on an ongoing basis in order to manage everyone’s expectations.”

But it’s not all good - 17% say they’re financially unstable as a result, and a tiny 4% say they were happier when they were working.

So what are the advantages and disadvantages of grandparents looking after their grandchildren?

1. The closeness between grandparents and grandchildren - nearly two thirds (63%) of grandparents say looking after their grandchildren gives them “an amazing chance to spend time with them”.

2. Knowing that their grandchildren are with someone who loves them and being able to give their grandchildren attention their parents don’t have the time to give them.

3. Flexibility, convenience and peace of mind for the parents, who may also be able to save up because of the childcare help their parents give them.

4. Many grandparents say caring for their grandchildren keeps them fit.

5. Another advantage is grandparents being able to pass on their wisdom and experience to their grandchildren.

Disadvantages 1. Having to curtail their own plans - social lives, holidays etc to fit in with the needs of the parents/grandchildren.

2. Declining health/not as much energy to look after young children.

3. Disagreements with parents on things like discipline/screen time/food etc. However, there may be a solution to this, as when a grandparent does the childcare because both parents are working, a Family Childcare Agreement can help iron out problems before they begin, says Family Lives 4. Expectations or not being able to say no - Gransnet editor Lara Crisp explains: “Some Gransnetters volunteered or agreed to look after their first grandchild, then another arrived, then their other children had a couple, so they felt they couldn’t say no to help them out. And of course in the interim the years may have taken their toll physically too.”

5. Finding out that childcare replaces granny time.

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Keep Your Kids Safe Online

You do everything you can to keep your child safe in the ‘real world’ – why wouldn’t you do the same online? We all want the best for our children.Young people today appear to seamlessly navigate physical and online environments that may be very different to those of our own childhoods.

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lthough online developments provide opportunities – from building support networks to finding information and entertainment, they can also present dangers to children that can be difficult to spot.

It’s hard to keep up with the rapid changes of the digital world, with new apps, social networks and interactive games. This can sometimes mean that children know more about it than we do.

Cyberbullying is an increasingly common form of bullying behaviour which happens on social networks, games and mobile phones. Cyberbullying can include spreading rumours about someone, or posting nasty or embarrassing messages, images or videos. Children may know who’s bullying them online – it may be an extension of offline peer bullying - or they may be targeted by someone using a fake or anonymous account. It’s easy to be anonymous online and this may increase the likelihood of engaging in bullying behaviour.

Cyberbullying can happen at any time or anywhere - a child can be bullied when they are alone in their bedroom - so it can feel like there’s no escape.

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But even if you are not a digital expert, there are some helpful steps you can take to keep your child safe online: 1. Be as interested in your child’s digital life as you are in their school life….

Having positive conversations about the internet with your child shows you are interested in the things that they are. This will help you understand the platforms they are using and mean you can give them tips about staying safe online without it feeling like a ‘lecture’. These conversations will also build trust, allowing your child to talk to you without judgement if they ever find themselves in a difficult situation online.

2. Discuss what healthy and unhealthy online behaviour looks like Dangers can come not only from befriending strangers online, but from interactions with peers and friends of friends. Rather than give messages about stranger danger, it is more effective to talk about what healthy and unhealthy online behaviour

“It’s hard to keep up with the rapid changes of the digital world, with new apps, social networks and interactive games.

This can sometimes mean that children know more about it than we do”

looks like. This, dependent on age, might include: • Talking about sexting (sending naked or seminaked pictures) • Trolling (harassment and bullying) • Sharing personal information • Not adding unknown people to chat groups, games or friend lists • Accessing pornography and the impact this can have on skewing ideas of consent and healthy relationships • Identifying if someone is using grooming techniques with the aim to exploit or hurt someone 3. It is not all fun and games Gaming can be a great way for young people to relax, socialise with their friends and have fun.

Children can play on games consoles, apps or websites, and chat to other players or watch them play through live-streaming. But there are some dangers. And with so many games available online, it can be hard for parents to know how to keep their child safe.

Children may view inappropriate or upsetting content if they play games that aren’t suitable for their age. This could include sexual or violent material. It might be in-game content or produced by other players.

Some players can be abusive towards others or try to exclude them from the game. Some players may also hack another user’s account or try to steal and destroy their virtual possessions. This can be as upsetting for a young person as if it happened in real life.

Children may play with adults they don’t know. People of all ages play games. Some adults may exploit this and try to build an emotional connection with a child for the purpose of grooming.

Some children may find it hard to stop playing games or find that gaming is getting the way of them doing other activities.

Although sexual exploitation, online bullying and stalking affects increasing numbers of children year on year, by following the above steps you can help safeguard your child. Contact the NSPCC Online Safety Helpline for free on 0808 800 5002 for advice on how to do this.

If you’re worried about a child, even if you’re unsure call the NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000, and speak to their professional counsellors 24/7 for help, advice and support.

4. Enable your child to have digital access in the same physical space as you Being in the same room as your child when they are online not only helps you know what they are accessing, it enables you to pick up on non-verbal clues as to whether their online life is a happy and safe one. It also provides an opportunity to react to both positive and negative impacts that being online might have on your child.

Most computers and internet connected devices have parental controls available. Talk to your manufacturer or service provider to see what restrictions are available. The Apple App Store lets you turn off in-app purchases on iPads and iPhones. And Google Play lets you create a pin code that must be entered before you buy. You can also turn on privacy settings on some games to control what other users can see about your child and stop strangers from contacting them.

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Scandi slumbers with stylish nursery cots from urban avenue S

candi interior style has finally made its way to the nursery. Forget baby pinks and blues, fussy fabrics and busy patterns.

These days it’s all about neutral colour schemes with pops of colour, the occasional bold pattern to make a statement and a great variety of natural textures. Think woven rugs, wooden floors and a canvas wigwam hideout in the corner.

When it comes to nursery furniture, clean lines and effortless style are the order of the day. And, it’s goes without saying, your baby’s cot should be the undisputed highlight of the room. You want your baby to sleep like one, right? Nowhere can they do this in more comfort and in more style than in one of these Scandi-inspired cots from Urban Avenue.

For something that can be passed down through the generations, look no further than the Harrison Convertible cot from Irish designers Bunny & Clyde. Made from solid wood (there’s a choice of plain ash or a striking mix of ash and walnut) it’s handmade to order, finished with natural, non-toxic oil and exquisitely crafted.

It may seem like a long way off but this is a piece of furniture that can happily sit within your child’s room as they grow from baby to teenager. Starting off as a cot, it converts into a toddler bed before transforming into a sleek and stylish daybed, the perfect addition to an older child’s trendy pad. The Harrison has the clean design and natural textures that fit perfectly within a minimal Scandi interior.

It’s simple but striking, stylish but functional.

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Equally simple and equally versatile is the Roulotte cot. With a push handle and (lockable) wheels your little one’s bed can be easily transported from your own bedroom when it comes time to graduate to the nursery. And, as with the Harrison, the Roulotte transforms from a cot (with adjustable mattress height) to a toddler bed. It will then convert into a mini sofa, creating the perfect hangout spot for cuddly toys or a cosy space for a little bedtime reading. This cot is available in matt grey, white, teal or pink – all muted tones that will complement a minimal design.

Both of these cots have the effortless style that allows them to sit comfortably within any Scandiinspired nursery space. Their modern look and simplicity make them incredibly adaptable. They’ll keep pace with your child as they seek to be less babyish and more grown up and they’ll provide a comfortable resting place for them at every stage of the way.

But let’s not get ahead of ourselves. At the beginning, these cots will provide the perfect haven for your baby to enjoy peaceful naptime and night time slumbers. What’s more, their great functionality and undisputed design credentials make them both a practical and a beautiful choice. Don’t forgo your interior style when it comes to the nursery. Give your little one and yourself a space that you’ll love spending time in.

Roulotte Cot £795; Harrison Convertible Cot: £4,760; www.urbanavenue.co.uk

“For something that can be passed down through the generations, look no further than the Harrison Convertible cot from Irish designers Bunny & Clyde”

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YOUR CHILD’S EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Too much screen time is affecting children’s emotional development.

A psychologist gives tips on how to improve it.

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hildren’s obsession with screen time is a major bugbear for many parents although it’s not just kids who are letting tech get in the way of the rest of

their lives.

New research by the reading charity Booktrust has found mums and dads themselves are spending four times as long on screens as they are reading to their young children.

As a result, children are losing out on the bond created between a parent and child during story time - and that’s yet another blow to their emotional intelligence development.

Further studies have found children as young as three are hindering the development of their emotional intelligence - which helps manage feelings and moods, aids effective communication and protects against mental health problems - by spending too long staring at screens.

Hours spent alone playing high-tech games means chilldren are spending less time with other kids and not learning to share, communicate effectively with their peers and develop emotions.

Psychologist Dr Amanda Gummer, founder of Fundamentally Children, which helps children develop skills through play, says: “There’s a growing

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concern that the increase in remote communication hinders children’s emotional development and children today can find it more difficult to understand and manage their emotions.

“Interpersonal relationships play a huge role in the development of emotional skills and there’s a worrying trend for children to spend less time socialising with others and more time in solitary situations, so they may be getting fewer opportunities to practice those important skills.”

Gummer says the main area of concern is with very young children - if they develop a screen-based play pattern before they start school they’re likely to be less able to share and make the most of the learning available in a social classroom setting.

She says the ‘Me, Now’ generation is used to having instant gratification because their needs are often met almost instantaneously through tech play.

As a result, they may feel not getting what they want when they want it is worse than they might ordinarily have done, and this can have a negative impact on coping mechanisms.

In addition, children who are told to stop crying or behave are less likely to develop emotional intelligence than those encouraged to explore their own emotions, she says.

Gummer suggests the following 12 ways to improve children’s emotional development: 1. Talk to your children about a healthy balanced diet of play/ entertainment and agree what’s fair - then ensure everyone sticks to the rules, including the adults (using apps like OurPact can help).

2. Make it a family rule that everyone checks in their phones before bedtime, and agree a list of things that need to be completed in the morning before they get their phones back.

3. Try and keep up with the apps your children use so you can have informed conversations with them and they don’t think you’re a tech dinosaur.

4. Practice what you preach make sure you give your children your undivided attention, look them in the eye etc.

5. Be authentic - don’t try and hide your feelings.

6. Validate their emotions - “I can see you’re cross... but you can’t have another cake. What can we do to help you feel better?”

7. Encourage imaginative role play - especially with characters that have different expressions.

8. Practice making funny (emotional) faces in the mirror together and labelling the emotion.

9. Give children options for ways to handle difficult emotions (e.g. a pillow to thump if they’re angry, a quiet safe place to go if they’re scared).

10. Talk to your children about how you manage your own difficult emotions.

11. Read books with your child that include emotional storylines and discuss them.

12. Encourage children to play freely with other children - they gain a lot from mixing with a wide range of people

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ypher inspires children to learn the language of the future. Elizabeth Tweedale, the founder, has a vision, “We believe that children need to learn 21st century skills to partner with future technology.” The more we hear about AI, robots and machine learning - the more we need to nurture what humans are best at - independent thinking, creativity, caring. Cypher’s creativity and coding camps approach learning through hands-on projects that capture children’s interests, exploring fashion, art and music, linking to programming code. This unique combination helps children become future ready.

For the upcoming holiday season Cypher are running new camps with a magical theme the magic and mystery of code revealed.

Each day will explore a different mystical theme using code to bring them to life promising wizards and witches will mix magical potions, program their wands to illuminate, hunt dragon eggs and conjure up their spirit animals. Camps run in London and Harrow - with new locations signing up all the time. The next dates are April 2-6 and 9-13, May 29-June 1, weekdays between July 9-August 31.

The Cypher enriching curriculum, which goes above and beyond the computer science National Curriculum, helps your child be future ready by: • stimulating curiosity and creativity • developing 21st century skills - digital, emotional, social • nurturing confidence, collaboration, communication and problem solving • teaching the language of the future - code Cypher’s creativity and coding camps include team games, a positive balance of on and off-screen time and healthy kid-friendly snacks. www.cyphercoders.com

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Learning Your

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Our definitive guide to help you make all the right choices for your children

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here are 2,500+ independent schools in the UK which are independent of local or central government control.

Independent schools offer a wealth of facilities and high teaching standards that enable students to achieve great results year after year.

Independent schools are in the unique position to provide a truly bespoke education for your child.

Choosing the right school for your child is an important decision that takes plenty of time and research. There are a wide range of independent schools specialising in different age groups and needs.

PRE-PREPARATORY SCHOOLS (AGES 2 YEARS - 7 YEARS) Pre-preparatory schools - also called nursery schools or kindergartens - correspond to nursery and infants stages in local authority schools. In pre-preparatory schools children are taught to read, write, develop numeracy and learn to play.

Pre-prep schools are often attached to specific junior schools.Pre-prep school is the first time most children will experience education, as opposed to the daycare provided by kindergartons. Children will have to learn the basics of mathematics, science and English, and a host of other subjects. Outside the classroom, many of the children will be having their first proper experience with team sports, music and/or choral tuition, and the arts.

PREPARATORY SCHOOLS (AGES 7 YEARS -11+ OR 13 YEARS) Preparatory or prep schools, have a full range of subjects leading to admission to senior schools at 11+ or through the 13+ Common Entrance Examination.As their name implies, the preparatory schools are focused primarily on preparing boys and girls for their senior education, and the important public exams that come with it.

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Free of the National Curriculum, prep schools can differentiate their curricula according to what they think best prepares children for their later education. Most prep school children will be learning a foreign language from the very first year, and don’t be surprised to see subjects like Latin, Philosophy and Physics in the classroom, with cricket, rugby and tennis all on offer during games.

As children reach the end of their time at prep school, most will look to the Common Entrance Exam as their gateway into the senior schools. It is during this transition process that senior schools are also looking for talented pupils for scholarships and other awards, so the very able students may be asked to attend further examinations/recitals/ matches &c, depending on where their particular strengths lie.

In the state system, children are tested by the Government SATs, however many schools in the independent sector will have their own internal methods of measuring the performance of the children. There are around 499 prep schools in the Independent Association of Prep Schools, one of our constituent Head’s Associations, collectively educating over 134,000 children.

SENIOR SCHOOLS (AGES 11 YEARS -18 YEARS) Most of the pupils in independent education are in senior school, educating over 350,000 senior school students in almost eight hundred schools.

Independent Senior Schools offer approaches to education, subjects, facilities and sports unparalleled in the state sector – students can study History of Art, Government, Russian and Japanese, and try their hands at Astronomy, Ceramics or Equestrianism. They could be on their school judo or sailing team, and take trips all over the world.

Whatever your child’s particular strengths, passions and interests, there is almost certainly a school which can offer the chance to try all of them.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF RISK-TAKING IN CHILD DEVELOPMENT

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ven as a baby takes those first steps across the kitchen floor, he or she is slowly learning the benefit of careful risk-taking. It is perfectly natural for parents to want to protect their children and ensure that they have a smooth path through life, but that has to be balanced with the importance of learning how to deal with challenges and take risks safely; an essential part of a child’s journey to academic success.

Philippa Cawthorne, the headmistress at Bassett House, believes that children should be nurtured but not be wrapped up in cotton wool. They should be allowed to play and undertake activities to understand the opportunities and challenges in the world around them and learn how to be safe. For children, the best risk-taking finds its foundations in a safe and secure environment, where they are allowed to play and explore adventurously.

Play, leading to child-led, independent learning, is at the heart of the Montessori ethos that permeates Bassett House in the Early Years, giving children the opportunity to make innumerable finely-tuned decisions. There is an emphasis on independent learning, encouraging children to find things out for themselves and be responsible for their actions and belongings.

Bassett encourages the children to have a growth mindset approach to their learning, not giving up when they find something difficult to achieve; rather than say ‘I can’t do it’, they say ‘I can’t do it yet’.

It is this grounding that not only helps the pupils gain places at some of the most prestigious senior

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THE DETAILS To see the school in action, attending an open afternoon is highly recommended.

The next ones take place on Friday, 2nd March between 2pm - 3.30-pm and Saturday 19th May between 10am - 12.30pm. Please ring Thalia Demetriades on 020 8969 0313 to arrange a visit to the school.

Bassett House School 60 Bassett Road London W10 6JP Email: registrar@bassetths.org.uk www.bassetths.org.uk

schools in London but also to thrive once they have moved to their new schools.

Bassett House children, right from the start of their education in the early years, have the benefit of specialist lessons in music, games, computing, French and art and an extraordinary range of clubs and enrichment activities. In addition to this, older children enjoy residential trips where they may push boundaries and let their imaginations soar.

School clubs such as orienteering, martial arts and fencing are selected to encourage ‘thinking on one’s feet’, the development of leadership skills, team-building and active problem-solving.

Residential trips are chosen to introduce the children to new experiences, from learning how to rig and sail a boat to bushcraft activities, where children can make their own shelter, build a campfire and cook in the freedom of a wild wood.

Philippa Cawthorne believes that If we want children to have the confidence and skills to thrive in an increasingly challenging world, we need to allow them to learn how to develop their own awareness of limits and boundaries – to learn, in short, how to be take risks.

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LISA FAULKNER ENCOURAGES

The actress, mum and chef is championing the message “Look for 100 calorie snacks, 2 a day max”.

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s a Celebrity MasterChef winner and mum, actress Lisa Faulkner is more aware than most of how important healthy food is for children.

And healthy food doesn’t just mean eating well at mealtimes, it means eating healthy snacks too.

Lisa, 45, whose daughter Billie is 11, says: “I know how easy it can be to give your children snacks based on convenience, but many of them may be packed full of sugar.”

She’s highlighting a serious issue. At the moment, around half of children’s sugar intake - about seven sugar cubes a day - comes from unhealthy snacks and sugary drinks, and on average, children are consuming three or four unhealthy snacks and sugary drinks a day.

This means they’re having much more sugar than the recommended daily maximum of five cubes for four to six year olds and six cubes for seven to 10 year olds - fuelling obesity and dental decay.

Now Lisa, who’s written three cookbooks since her MasterChef triumph in 2010 and is now the partner of the show’s presenter John Torode, is supporting a new Change4Life campaign promoting healthier snacks.

Its message is that parents should ‘Look for 100 calorie snacks, 2 a day max’. Lisa says following this new tip will “make it easier for me and other parents to choose healthier snacks for our children, and to give them less often”.

Suggestions for tummy-filling snacks that would fit into the plan include a portion of homemade popcorn, an oatmeal cookie, a thin slice of malt loaf, a bowl of sugar-free jelly, one mini Babybel or a boiled egg.

these to achieve their 5-a-day. As well as giving children fruit to munch, other interesting fruit and veg snacks include things like vegetable sticks with low-fat hummus, or fruit kebabs. Eating plenty of fruit and veg isn’t a problem for Lisa and Billie.

“We’ve always eaten lots of fruits and vegetables at home - we cut up carrots and peppers to have with dips or have wedges of banana and apple with peanut butter,” says Lisa. “Because we’ve been having these healthy snacks for a long time now, it’s become my daughter’s natural instinct to choose a healthier option. As she’s growing she’s constantly hungry, so I’m very glad she enjoys fruits and vegetables to snack on.”

Plenty of fruit and veg

Balance the unhealthy stuff

The ‘100 calorie snacks, 2 a day max’ tip applies to all snacks apart from fruit and vegetables, as children should be encouraged to eat a variety of

Lisa says Billie doesn’t pester her for snacks too often, but explains: “When she does, we work to the rule of balance. So she’s allowed to have a naughtier

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“Parents should ‘Look for 100 calorie snacks, 2 a day max”

HEALTHY SNACKING Healthy special offers

“Suggestions for tummy-filling snacks that would fit into the plan include a portion of homemade popcorn, an oatmeal cookie, a thin slice of malt loaf, a bowl of sugar-free jelly, one mini Babybel or a boiled egg”

As part of the Change4Life campaign, parents will be given special offers on a range of healthier snacks, including fruit and vegetables at selected supermarkets. They can also get money off vouchers to try healthier snack options, including malt loaf, lower sugar fromage frais, and drinks with no added sugar. Parents can also download Change4Life’s improved Food Scanner app, which shows how many calories, sugar, saturated fat and salt are in popular snacks.

snack, like an iced bun for example, on one day, but then the next day she’ll have to have a healthier snack instead.” The actress - whose EastEnders character Fi Browning has just made a dramatic exit from the TV soap - stresses how important eating healthy snacks is, however time-pressed parents are. “We have such busy lifestyles these days, and it’s easy to just grab unhealthy snacks on the go.

But when many of these snacks can be very sugary, it has a real impact on our health and can make children overweight. When it comes to snacks, as a parent I’ve found that the more prepared you are, the easier it is - although I know this can be difficult. It’s really important to help children learn healthy habits and educate kids to be healthy in their lifestyles, which doesn’t just mean eating healthily but also staying active, getting out and about with them, as well as making sure they take part in after school clubs etc.”

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Losing it!

If you’re sick of your child losing their possessions, try some of these tips to help them understand value and learn to look after things.

WORDS: Lisa Salmon

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oung children losing their possessions is the bane of nearly every parent’s life.

Research has found that mums spend more than £1,500 replacing items lost by their kids between the ages of three and 10, plus nearly two days looking for a total of 483 lost items over the years.

The most common items to lose are hats, jumpers and cuddly toys, and the research by children’s label manufacturer NeatlyNamed found 62% of lost possessions such as coats, school uniform items and books, are never found again.

Around half of mothers say they’ve known their children to lose items within just 20 minutes of getting them, and 40% admit they’ve had to replace the same item repeatedly. But six in 10 mums say losing items as a child helps them appreciate the value of things later in life.

“How you deal with this when they’re very young makes it easier - or not so easy if you don’t do it properly - when they get a bit older,” says Parenting expert Suzie Hayman, agony aunt for Woman magazine.

“It’s your job as a parent to be in charge. You cannot expect a young person to manage looking after their stuff - you have to be hyper-vigilant and watch whether they drop a toy or whatever, and gradually let them understand that it’s their job to look after their stuff.”

Here are some top tips to help your kids keep tabs on their possessions...

• Get them into a routine to help them remember to put their stuff away in or out of the house.

• Put a checklist above their backpacks or even just inside it, to remind them what goes inside.

• Make sure there’s a natural consequence for losing something - replacing an item with their own money, or if they’re too young for that, perhaps missing a play date to go with you to buy another, or simply going without a coat and getting cold if they’ve lost their new one.

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possessions - ask them what they think would help them not to lose things.

• Explain value to young children, and play games where they buy things with pretend money. Suzie says: “This can be very useful with young children, because they start building up this idea of value, and that to get something, you have to give something.”

• Label everything with their full name, and keep reminding them about looking after their things.

• By the time children go to secondary school, they should be fully responsible for their possessions.

“They should realise you had to pay for it and if they lose it they have to pay for it,” says Suzie.

• Don’t bail children out if they lose things. “It seems the easy option because you don’t have an argument or tears,” says Suzie. “But what you will have is more losses, because why should they ever learn if you’re always going to bail them out? They’re always going to look to you to help because you’ve shown them you’re a sucker. That’s not a good lesson, and you’re not helping them to grow up and be responsible.”

• Come up with ideas to make sure they don’t lose things, or have them stolen. If they lose something, walk them back through when they last had it, where could it have gone, etc.

• Young children can’t be expected to be responsible when they’re little, but they can expect you to teach them responsibility.

• Teach them how to look after their possessions in the same way you’d teach them to cross the road.

“Start by holding their hand, then teaching them how to do it, then you let them have a few practice runs while you’re looking after them, and then finally you let them cross on their own,” explains Suzie.

• Rewards can be used if a child is struggling with not losing things and doesn’t lose anything for a certain period, but be careful not to reward them for simply behaving normally.

• Remember children are much less likely to lose something when they’ve paid for it themselves.