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Coping through crisis

IS IT TIME TO FIND YOUR TRIBE?

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Joy GIFTED GODDESS

SEPTEMBER 2020

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Take a deep dive into this months Gifted Goddess interview as Sam Higgins talks leadership, Covid, and mental health

â€œTo live your truth fiercely is the greatest gift you can give yourselfâ€?

Welcome! from our fierce founder

elcome to our September issue of Fierce Truths Magazine! With the energy of Libra overshadowing this issue, you’ll be taken on a journey of interpersonal connection, relationship, and balance. Prompting you to focus on how we as individuals can collaborate together instead of experiencing the separateness we can often feel from each other. You’ll be taken on a journey to discover your own version of joy and shown ways to tap into your own creative expression and how your life can be a reflection of that. And if you are feeling a little

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disconnected… You’ll get the down low on how to meet your soul tribe so you can always have people in your life that get you! In this issue will also tackle the big subject of coping with mental health through crisis and what it can mean to be a leader throughout our current world climate. Especially as you read the amazing Gifted Goddess interview we have for you this month. You’ll be inspired to recognise how your life has prepared you for this moment and how you can turn that around to make a difference in the lives of others. Our intent with every issue of Fierce Truths Magazine its to deliver you spiritual-self-development-in-abox. Hoping that one or more of our articles will be that missing piece you need to remember how extraordinary you are and how incredible your life can be. Then when you are ready to dive in a little deeper into your own soul growth. You can unlock your own purpose and get clear about the magic you are meant to bring to the world by diving into our Passion. Purpose. Pathway online course. This month is set to deepen the relationship you have with yourself and others in our life. Whether that be with an intimate partner, friendship tribe or family, because building community around us is the fabric of human beingness So sit back and enjoy our September issue!

With fierce love,

Kim Bleeze Founder and CEO

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Letter from Founder Meet our founder Kim Bleeze

Kickstart Your Mornings How to start your day with a boost

Contents Check out whatâ€™s in our issue!

Finding Your Creative Groove Set your creativity free

Editing Team Meet our editing team

Our Fierce Experts Who are our fierce experts?

Feeling Disconnected? Tap into tribe

Fierce Fitness Health and fitness

Our Gifted Goddess Meet Sam Higgins

Radical Thinking Re-think your way into joyous living

Coping Through Crisis 19 Struggles of mental health

Earth Whisper Words of wisdom from the Earth

A Recipe for a Joyful Life 23 Tips for living in joy

Wild Living Sauerkraut Recipe Nourish yourself

The Relationship Quandary 27 A conscious relationship series

With Love From the Afterlife Spirit, soul, and psychic advice

Beauty Below the Surface 33 Rachel shares her self-love journey

Numerology Read your numbers for this month

Healthy Boundaries 35 How to introduce boundaries

Horrorscopes and Stars What do your stars say?

Amethyst 37 Our crystal of the month

You Are Invited Are we looking for you?

The Editing Team Creative Director and Writer

Director of Operations

Kim Bleeze

Nikki Bowler

Communications Manager and Editor

Writer

Scott Grasso

Elizabeth Vigar

Graphic Designer

Thank You! To our Editing Team and our Fierce Experts for all their hard work!

Andrew Karabatos

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Feeling Disconnected? It might be time to

Tap Into by Meg Crawford

Tribe

Because it ’s never been so important to build community, a former lone wolf shares her top tips for finding crew I’m all about tribe – unabashedly – and I have a number of them too. For starters, I’m a sober woman, a practicing witch and a dyed-in-the-wool Richmond supporter. I’m also fortunate to have family and pals I love dearly. All of these connections make my life rich, and bring me meaning and purpose. However, I haven’t always felt this tapped in. Towards the end of my drinking I was as isolated AF. I was bored to bits and my life extended no further than work and the local. No wonder I was lonely – it’s difficult to commit to doing anything when you’re permanently hungover.

Since pulling the pin on drinking, I’ve watched my life unfold in ways I couldn’t have anticipated, but in almost all of these developments, there’s been an aspect of community. Undoubtedly, while we’re in the thick of a pandemic, there are some practical limitations on how we can build community, but it’s not impossible. I know from experience, feeling isolated does me no favours, so, right now, I have to try a little harder. With that in mind, here are my primo suggestions for finding your peeps and getting connected.

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Meet

Sam Higgins Our gifted goddess by Kim Bleeze

We all have an inner light to shine. One that has the potential to create a positive impact on our little version of the world. Yet, we often may find ourselves shying away from that truthful part of ourselves. Choosing instead, to remain hidden and only dreaming about our dreams rather than daring to make them come true. Then there are those fierce women in the world who understanding their worth, their drive, their passion and see it as a non-negotiable. Taking a leap of faith with both feet first and going after what calls to their heart, instead of allowing their fear to be in the driver’s seat. It will be those women whose inner light shines naturally brighter and for no more a reason than choosing to know courage and own their fierce truth. They dare to follow their dreams and in doing so, become a beacon of hope and inspiration for others whom they touch along the way. These are our Gifted Goddesses. Women just like you and me who dared to follow their calling and leap with both feet, intuitively following their souls’ path and saying yes to where their intuition guides them. These women not only live with passion and purpose, they use it to create a massive impact too. I trust you will be as inspired by their stories as we are and for this month’s issue, let us introduce you to Sam Higgins. Sam is a voice hearer, CEO of AwakenHQ, and creative heart-driven entrepreneur, who has a passion to help speakers share their message to the world. Here is what she had to say.

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anyone tonight. Or no way I can go do a content video or effectively run this team meeting or give so and so feedback about their work. I could still be worthy and valuable and have an important place inside this company or with this family or this community.

KIM: If everyone reached a more accepting place like that, how do you believe that would then affect mental health and peoples’ struggles?

The second is really teaching emotional intelligence and we don’t. Emotional intelligence, relational communication, how to understand your boundaries and communicate that to another person. How to hear where they’re at in their emotions and not take it on as blame or judgment for yourself, and then react out of that. How to hear wherever they’re at, whatever they say and go understand them from a place of empathy. Saying “It sounds like there’s a lot going on for you right now.” When I went into rehab in 2010, I was at a point of complete collapse and surrender in my life. And I had to make that really difficult decision to go into rehab for 10 weeks. In that 10 weeks I learned some of the most valuable things I ever learned in my whole life. One of those was a series of trainings that are called DBT (Dialectic Behaviour Therapy). It’s designed for people that have borderline personality to equip their concerns. They were teaching it in this rehab for women because they

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Sam: I think it would be huge. Belonging is one of our greatest human needs and it can be a needy feeling. Like we need to present an illusion of who we are to the people that know us, trust us, care about us, love us. So in order to preserve belonging we often sacrifice ourselves. Our own truth, our own feeling, our own darker emotions, our own darker needs or self-expression. If we’re in pain, we don’t want to let anyone know so we’re not a burden to them. But we also don’t want to let anyone down. So that it that first piece, that identity and the linking of capacity and worth.

found a lot of the similar underlying chaos and disorder impacted addicts. Someone who spent my whole life in education was like: “Why on earth did we not learn this in primary school?” And that toolkit changed my life. I would prescribe that for all kids in every primary and high school. I think we would see radical transformative shift inside one generation.

KIM: What’s the vision for your work now that you’ve stepped into this space aimed to help people with mental health struggles? Sam: My vision is to support individuals and community leaders. Whether that’s families, organizations, or companies to relate to their humanity differently. We’re building an online membership that has a lot more collaborative focus. We’re really looking at the holistic impact of how people work and live by looking at your mind, body, heart, and your social relationships. How aligned do you feel to your meaning? For me there is always a spiritual element underlying it. And one of my favourite insights is, if you’re looking at the world and you’re asking one of these four questions… 1. Who am I? 2. What is my place in the world? 3. What the fuck is going on? 4. How can I help? If you’re asking any one of those questions, you’re on a spiritual quest and I literally don’t care what answer you come up with. It doesn’t need to have a god or a divinity. It can be very conventional and physically focused on the aspects of your friends, family, or life. It doesn’t need to be esoteric or mystical in any form. If you’re asking those questions, that search for meaning is spiritual. You can come up with a completely atheistic answer to it and it’s still spiritual. So you know it’s to support the spiritual emergence of stronger cultures around our humanness. It’s working with leaders, it’s building communities, it’s supporting people to work together. If we shift our culture towards this,

the final piece is really that we would stop deifying the experts. During my own, we’ll call it the dark night years, no one had a better answer about me in my life than me. But when I fully embrace that for myself, what I need to extend it out to every other person is that I do not have a better answer for them than they have themselves. We can have our own domains of expertise and passion and research, but there’s a point where we are not the expert that everyone should always listen to. We need to be cultivating the ability to discern, to think, to help people check into their own truth and their own sense of their own personal story. Their constellation of values, meaning, relationships and life direction. Like, “Where do I want to go?” What’s their choice based on? Their own life and intention? I’d rather teach people how to think, than teach them what to think, if that makes sense. Our culture has become so fixated on “Let me teach you the correct thing.” It’s at a very deep level of empowerment, the deep nurturance of each person’s sense of self control over their own power, their own ability to choose. I think that’s so important. It’s not like all the experts are bad they’ve all got it wrong. It’s that we as a population, when we need support, we want someone else to hold all our power and fix us. I’ve done that too. Sometimes we don’t necessarily have the capacity; we are quite vulnerable in that space. I would like to think that I’m going to see someone who understands and respects my vulnerability, and takes the time to teach and educate me and show me what’s important about the issue. We don’t have necessarily the bandwidth to solve everything

KIM: When you finally embarked on your own personal healing journey, were there certain steps that you took? Or did it just unravel for you? Sam: I think there are definitely key decision points that I reached, key learnings or moments where things shifted, and a new awareness would drop in. I first started hearing voices

in 2007 and I’ve been clean from drugs since the end of 2010. So I can identify huge changes in the years since then, but there are definitely big milestones. The first one was sometime through 2009-2010, before I went into rehab, where I got clear with myself on the self-awareness that what I was doing was damaging me. Like you can be an addict and know, but not face it. There’s a point of facing it and bringing the selfawareness that leads to a new choice. I sat without awareness for literally 18 months before I actually went into rehab. So that’s trying to be clean, trying to do better, trying to say no. Having a detox, or a short period of abstinence, and then getting sucked back into it before realizing how fully out of my depth I was. So firstly, I got clear. Like this isn’t working, I’m really hurting myself right now. But not only that, I’m hurting everything I want for my future. It’s not just about right now, as painful as that is. I’m shutting down my hopes and dreams and the person I’d wanted to be. I’m giving up on her right now because of this. And I’m not okay with it. There’s a choice point where you’re not okay. Then there’s another decision point, which is when I decided to go into rehab, which was when I sort of half-assed around getting help. I had an addiction counsellor and I’d done a few other things that I could conveniently fit into what I was already doing in life. Then there’s a moment of like: “I can’t half-ass the asking for help, I have to take 10 weeks out of my life.” Every day for six weeks before I went into rehab, I had to call the centre and say I still want to come in. I had to commit, and I had to commit to going into rehab over Christmas. How disruptive that would be for my mum and my family. And everyone would know and be talking about it. I had to surrender those parts of me and my ego, that thought I could keep pretending. That first year clean was also one of the worst years of my life, and I was so depressed and physically healing. I had no motivation, no ability to work, I’d put on so much weight because of the antipsychotics and the medication I was on. I had so many days I didn’t care if I lived or died, and slept 16 or more hours a day. If I could have slept 24, I would have.

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Coping Through Crisis by Lisa Westgate

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Covid and the Struggles of Mental Health

any of us right now are feeling overwhelmed, stressed and, particularly for Victorians, a little like a caged lion. We have every right to. This year, the globe has been swept by waves of fear, trauma and distress. It’s only natural for us, as humans, to respond to this feeling of being under threat. The threat or danger response system in humans is built in. We have an entire system of neurological networking that kicks into action when we are feeling unsafe. You may have heard of the “fight/flight/freeze” response. This is part of the neurological response. This clever body system was “designed” for short-term threats, like being chased by an animal with large teeth when we ventured out of our caves. We also have strong evidence that a prolonged threat response is detrimental to many other systems in the body. When you are under a perceived threat, blood is shunted away from digestion and high-level brain functions for more base level, survival related concerns. Blood goes to the legs (to run away from the threat) and the basic

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functions of the brain take charge. In a modern-day crisis, such as a pandemic, we feel these changes in our physiology reflected in our psychology. We may experience a loss of appetite or conversely, comfort eating. A drop in libido and a concurrent craving for connection. Connection is one of the “Six Core Human Needs”, based on the work of Abraham Maslow. It is my opinion that our deeply ingrained requirement for connection is at the root of the distress many are experiencing currently. Whether physically isolated as an individual, a family unit or a geographical area, it is our perceived lack of, or restriction of, our ability to connect that people are finding particularly challenging. A common question that is being asked currently is “How can I feel better?” Firstly, let’s appreciate these are unique circumstances. Most of us have never experienced anything like this in our lifetime, and therefore have no prior strategy to call

Let’s also acknowledge that however people are responding to their current circumstances, they are doing the best they can, with the resources (both internal and external) they have available to them. Next, understand that no two people will behave the same way and therefore there is no room for judgement of others. The good news for you is that we as humans have also been given choice. It may not feel like it at the moment, but we have choice over some very important aspects of our lives that can heavily influence how we traverse these challenges.

We have choice over our words. The words we use towards others externally and the words we use towards ourselves internally. Language has power. How are you using your power? In “A Return to Love” Marianne Williamson says: “Thought is Cause, experience is Effect. If you don’t like the effects in your life, you have to change the nature of your thinking.” And, “A Course in Miracles” (a spiritual guidebook) says that there are only two emotions, love and fear…that fear is the absence of love, the way darkness is the absence of light…that all loveless emotions (like anger and jealousy) are a product of fear. We can choose our words from Love or from Fear. There is a lot of fear around at the moment. Perhaps some of those responding from fear are unaware they have a choice. Let us meet them with love, compassion and kindness.

We have choice over our actions. Behaviour is a fabulous indicator of emotional state. More than that, behaviour can determine emotional state. Even in Stage 4 restrictions, we are able to spend time outdoors in fresh air with our bare feet on the ground. This practice, known as “grounding”, is accepted now, even by many in traditional mental health roles such as psychology as having a positive effect on mood. Looking after our physical body through good nutritional choices, mindful breathing techniques, regular movement however gentle, and limited screen time has profound effects on our mental health. Our mental wellness does not only exist between our ears. Wellness is a full body endeavour. We have choice over our thoughts. As Martin Luther King Jr said, “Darkness cannot drive out

darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.” This author takes the liberty to extend, similarly, fear cannot drive out fear, only gratitude (a love-filled emotion) can do that. You may be familiar with a gratitude practice. The idea is that at a set point of the day, typically morning or evening, you commit to paper an itemised list of things you are grateful for. In the world of Positive Psychology there is much research around the benefits of a gratitude practice. I encourage you to take gratitude beyond a practice and implement a gratitude “filter” in your mind. Think of it like a sieve that all your thoughts, observations about the world and feelings must pass through. When you first begin, you may find that some thoughts slip through and avoid the sieve. Notice how these ones make you feel as opposed to ‘filtered’ thoughts. With Martin Luther King Jr’s wisdom ringing in our ears, pushing down negative thoughts and feelings doesn’t erase them. Flooding your mind and body with gratitude and loving kindness is far more powerful. Reinforce the “good”. You may have heard a life coach somewhere say “Where your focus goes, grows” or something similar. This is amplified in the echo chambers of social media. Seek out the feelings you want to be feeling, the thoughts that empower you, the people that inspire you. Then you will begin to feel more confident in exercising your choices in how you feel, think and behave.

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on when looking for how to respond.

Earlier, it was stated that everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have. This includes you. Be proud of you. Be gentle with yourself. All things are temporary.

Meet Lisa Lisa Westgate is the Founder of Freedom Mindset Training. An inspirational Speaker, Trainer and Best-Selling Author on topics of Mental Health, Personal Evolution and NeuroLinguistic Programming.

Changemakers: IWD Edition and Lisa’s e-book “3 Keys to Outgrow Trauma: An Alternative Perspective from Lived Experience” are available at www.lisawestgate.com Fierce Truths Magazine

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Recipe for a

Joyful Life by Andrea Martell So here we are in the 2020 twilight zone. We’re wondering what the hell has just happened, how did we get here and how did we land in this crazy? See, we have all been busy and distracted with making ends meet and doing all the things we have to do. Looking after health, family, home, careers, relationships, finances and holidays etc. etc. The Universe has said “Enough! Time to pay attention to our inner world, time to sit, time to listen, listen within.”

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We all just got thrown into an involuntary life coaching session. Many of us are kicking and screaming, saying that we didn’t ask for this. But this is the perfect time to become aware of what we haven’t been acknowledging. Where have we been lying to ourselves? What have we been doing that hasn’t been in service to ourselves? What are the human constructs we have created that don’t align with the human condition and nature? Imagine a pond with a lot of sediment, debris and sticks at the bottom. These have fallen in over the years and gradually sunk to the bottom, so it’s really dark and murky underneath. You wouldn’t know it though. On the surface the pond is pristine with fresh clear water. No one would ever question that the pond needing cleaning, and there was no reason to suggest that was necessary. So what has happened now? The pond has been stirred up by a whirlpool. All the gross stuff at the bottom is rising up, becoming visible and messing up the once clear pond. It’s a strong whirlpool and it can be difficult to anchor ourselves. If we try to resist the tide of water, we will be knocked over. Welcome to 2020.

system (RAS), which controls focus and alerting us to help us get what we want. It’s a huge part of the quantum science behind the Law of Attraction. ACTION: Take a moment and think of three things you are currently grateful for. Better yet, write them down, allowing yourself to really feel gratitude as you contemplate. Notice the internal sensations as you feel gratitude for these things.

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Cultivate Courage

The world and the future of humanity feels like it’s at a tipping point right now. We are in dire need of solutions and new ways of bringing these into fruition. As humans we have a core role to play. These times call for greater emotional resilience and flexibility. I’m proposing that we do this through embodying Joy. Those who embody Joy are confident, self-loving and accepting. They know their own worth, are strong and uphold their own boundaries. They excel, shine and inspire by being an example to others. We need Joy-embodied humans more than ever. Below is a recipe containing five key actionable ingredients to be and apply Joy, enthusiasm and emotional resilience to our world.

Gratitude is the attitude of Joy Gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps us feel more positive emotions and relish good experiences. It improves our health and assists with dealing with adversity. It changes our physiology and the feel-good hormones in our bodies. It also activates the reticular activating

The quickest way to grow and upgrade ourselves is to get outside our comfort zone. Doing the things we have fear around builds confidence, self-esteem, resilience and flexibility. When we do things that create discomfort, we are teaching our neurological paths that these things are safe. It prevents us from entering into the sympathetic nervous system state and also changes our beliefs about what is possible. ACTION: Start with something small that you are resisting due to the unpleasant feelings that arise. Acknowledge those feelings, and remember to breathe. Of course, you can check in with your doctor or counselor to make sure that this is right for you. Then, feel the fear and do it anyway. It may be easy to overanalyze the results; however, repetition is key to training our bodies that we are safe in this new action. So look for opportunities to do this thing numerous times. Gradually it will becomes easier as you are upgraded to the new You, Version 2.0.

Feeling feelings Emotional resilience involves getting comfortable with those unpleasant emotions and learning how to work with them. Anger, sadness, fear and guilt are all part of the human experience. We can learn to tap into their roots and actually begin to enjoy the wisdom of what they have to offer. Allowing and being ok with these emotions is like giving ourselves super powers. There is immense Joy in knowing we can survive the depths of our despair and hopelessness. Sitting with intense feelings and coming through the other side is a powerful and transformational gift that life has to offer us.

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The Relationship Quandary At some point in our life, we’ve all been there right? Navigating the ups and downs of an intimate relationship and doing the best we can to create harmony and lasting connection. Sometimes we get it right, sometimes we don’t. Either way, each experience with a partner or potential partner can bring us an assortment of lessons, learnings, love and yes sometimes, heartbreak. Each month we will bring you conscious and authentic conversations with singles and couples alike. Discussing with them the answers to some of those important relationship questions we’ve all potentially asked at some point. “How we should communicate?” “What makes a relationship successful?” “What is key to lasting relationships?” “What does love mean?” “What should I look for in a relationship?” “How do I communicate what I want?” Intimate Relationships are an imperative aspect of emotional and mental wellbeing in human and spiritual development. So take a journey with us each month to see how others are navigating the relationship quandary.

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Meet Sam & Daniel Chantè Samantha and Daniel Chante are both extraordinary heart-centred humans making a difference in the world, and in each other’s lives. Through sharing their thoughts and deep understanding of relationship, connection and love, they show us that communication is always key to a lasting relationship.

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Kim: How long have you both been married? Daniel: Five years. It’s odd for a husband to remember that one isn’t it! [Laughter]

Kim: Did you go into your marriage with expectations? Daniel: None at all. It was actually seamless. Literally, the whole relationship has been seamless. Sam: At first when I first met Daniel, I said to him “I’m going to marry you.” And he looked at me and he said “I don’t want to crush your dreams but we’re not going to go down that path. I’ve been married before, let’s just start off as friends and if it morphs into something better, fantastic.” Daniel: We built a friendship, and the first thing I did with Sam was show her my values, and I was transparent on every part of my life. And I gave her every option to walk away. So it just morphed into a relationship and then I was trapped into marriage. [Laughter] Sam: It was a surprise wedding. I didn’t know I was getting married.

Daniel: So in 2015 we were on one of our own tours we run. Just by chance her mum and her brother decided to come on the tour, and I had in my head that I wanted to marry Sam in Israel. I just felt that I wanted it to be the most raw and real version of true love, and our wedding day was the most perfect day you could ever imagine.

Kim: What has marriage been like to navigate? Sam: I love it. I’ve learnt so much more about myself as an individual, but also as a wife to my husband. I teach all about relationships and I thought I’d mastered it. That is incorrect. In our marriage it’s taught me so much, and Daniel is a very supportive and understanding husband. He is so transparent with me which I actually found a little bit challenging at first, but now I absolutely love it and admire that about him. He has an understanding of the feminine energy and how we are as women. He supports me in every way possible. I have total freedom. Daniel: As I said, the friendship is the biggest thing. We do everything together and we’re eight years down the track. Our marriage actually gets stronger. Sam: We actually live on the road, so we have really learned to respect each other’s space. Even though we spend most of our days together, I’ll still go off and do my things and Daniel will go off and do his things. We really get each other. Daniel: We’re very independent in our own relationships and our communication is outstanding, always has been. We have breakfast, lunch, dinner together, and we communicate over that on everything. Most relationships are not a relationship, they’re an ownership. Sam has free will to do anything. If I can’t trust her there is no relationship. The key thing in any relationship is; if your intention for the other person is just to be happy, then no terms and conditions apply. When you do that, you’re actually of service to that person consistently without it being a task and it just becomes a natural basic instinct. And that’s what we actually have with each other, that’s what makes it work.

Kim: Are you always in tune with each other? Daniel: I’d say yeah, we do have disagreements but as I said before we communicate extremely well. So sometimes we might have a disagreement and we need that time out, so we’ll take it. It’s time to absorb what we what we’re going through and then we’ll come back later and have a proper discussion about it and then finalize it. We don’t like things dragging on. Sam: I said to him at the very beginning: “Babe, for me, I need you to come to me if I’m doing something inappropriate or it’s leaving a bad feeling with you.” I said “because if I’m not aware of it, I can’t heal it, I can’t change it, and I am a woman that loves to grow into the best version of herself.” Daniel: It’s more of a prevention over cure model. I’d rather

bring something up you know, and it might sting a bit, but I’d rather bring it up early in the piece and get over it. Than it just go to crap.

Kim: When you’re going through, and you’ve probably answered this a little, but when you’re going through a difficult time how do you come back to a place of love and balance with each other? Sam: That’s so easy. Daniel: Yeah, Sam is very loving, and for my childhood I struggled with that sort of thing because it was quite a challenging childhood. So Sam has brought that to the table with me. Sam: When we come to an agreement and both understand where we’re both at within ourselves. Allowing him to have freedom in his thoughts and his words and his thinking, all that kind of stuff. You come together so easy. Just because he doesn’t agree with me doesn’t mean that that he’s not the person for me. It just means I need to respect that part of him. Things might get heated, so we go off and do our own thing and then come back together and we just we just look at each other and go “okay well that’s your opinion” and he says “that’s my opinion” and then I’ll just sit with him. We just don’t hold on to it. Daniel: No matter what happens we always align back to our values, that’s what actually holds it together.

Kim: What makes a relationship successful? Sam: [Laughter] Communication, intimacy and always focusing on moving forward. And having those outcomes that you want to achieve together. Because if you don’t have that you’ve got nothing to strive for, the relationship just becomes dead. Daniel: I’ll add one thing to that. As adults we become too serious, I’m probably the most sarcastic pr*ck out there. But inside me, my intention is; I make my wife smile every day. We laugh our guts out together like two little cheeky kids all the time. We do that a lot and I want to bring the fun element into it and that’s what I’ve done. I think life should be fun. Sam: I’ll just quickly add to that. I also believe it’s about respecting each other as individuals, and respecting the space. That Daniel’s so comfortable in his skin and I’m so comfortable in my skin. As individuals we’re very strong people and that’s really helped as well. Because I know in a past relationship where I was not so confident in me as an individual, it caused arguments. Now, I’ve done so much work on myself and learned how to respect Daniel as my husband, and giving him that freedom to do what he needs to do to grow within himself. That’s so important and Fierce Truths Magazine

True Beauty is Found Below the Surface Rachel Smith Shares Her Journey of Self-Love Rachel Smith’s issues with her body image became serious when, at 14, she developed Anorexia Nervosa. As an impressionable teen, she witnessed how addiction and mental illness could disempower her loved ones, and during school, she had been a victim of bullying and suffered through various controlling relationships. These circumstances made Rachel feel a desperate loss of control over her life that she would do anything to reclaim. Even though she was fit and active, her eating disorder was a way for Rachel to create more control in her life. She needed to control what she did and did not eat, and what she weighed. Rachel eventually learned that she would never feel satisfied with how she looks on the outside until she healed her wounds on the inside. To find a place of self-acceptance and to understand that beauty comes from within is often a difficult journey for both women and men. We are saturated with images of airbrushed models that can easily make us feel inadequate. This can make us obsess over our physical appearance and can create a detachment from our inner beauty or soul beauty. The truth is, we are all beautiful. And when we can love ourselves and accept ourselves as we are, our inner beauty shines through our eyes and smile, attracting all those who meet us. Rachel has found this to be true through her learning experiences. Coming from a privileged upbringing, Rachel says that people

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often assume that you are immune to difficulties. Having material needs met, or going to a good school, does not mean that you aren’t vulnerable. It can be very lonely when everyone around you believes that you are ok when you aren’t. Rachel is 5’10” and, at her worst, she weighed only 46 kilos and her severe weight loss was causing many issues that were having a devastating effect on her health. “I had scabs on my back, and I had to get 4 new teeth because the enamel came off, and my hair was falling out. It’s a miracle I have 3 kids now because my periods stopped.” Rachel dealt with a lot of selfloathing because she wanted to be something other than what she was. She wanted to look like other girls whom she was physically incapable of looking like. It didn’t matter how much weight Rachel lost, she never felt like she was good enough. Looking in the mirror became a heartbreaking activity, and it has taken Rachel years to find a place of self-acceptance.

“I’ve finally realised that skinny doesn’t equal healthy.” Now when Rachel looks in the mirror she feels proud of her body, but it’s not easy. Every day she has to be conscious of her self-talk and make sure she stays on a positive path. The path to healing sometimes needs others to accompany us on it. For Rachel, she needed a psychologist, naturopath, dietician, and numerous fitness experts to help her. Dealing with serious body issues is not easy to get over. Often, we need help. Rachel says that it’s ok to have bad days, but what matters is that you don’t let yourself stay stuck in those moments for too long. Be kind to yourself, believe in yourself, and know that you are worthy of

love just the way you are. Rachel is proud of herself for learning to not take life so seriously anymore. She can now be in the moment with others and enjoy laughter, which helps her to remember to prioritise what matters. Finding the courage to accept herself the way she is has given her the confidence to follow her dream of becoming a radio announcer. So instead of worrying about what size clothes she wears, Rachel asks herself different questions and encourages all people who struggle with their weight and body image to do the same. “How are my energy levels?” “Am I happy?” “Does my skin look good?” “Am I sleeping well?” Once you can truly love yourself for all the unique reasons that make you a wonderful human being, you will naturally see yourself as a more beautiful person. To do this, we all have to change our priorities and work on things that make us feel good about who we are. As Rachel says, health, family, laughter, and being able to be yourself, that’s what matters. Being real means not being ashamed of your battles and being honest about them, with yourself and others. This shows strength and vulnerability, which are both beautiful. “You have to love every part of who you were, and look back and love every part of you through every stage. I send love to the young girl who didn’t love herself. I send love to that Rachel and every Rachel that I’ve been. That brings peace to the Rachel I am now.” It all comes back to self-love. Practice these three powerful affirmations every day to help you build self-love and acceptance. “I believe in myself. I love myself. I am worthy.” Written by Elizabeth Vigar

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Healthy Boundaries Why they are important, and how to introduce them into your life now!

id you know that establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is an essential part of creating healthy relationships and looking after your mental health? It is such a vital ingredient in making sure we feel happy and comfortable. But there are those of us who have no idea what healthy boundaries are, and even fewer of us who know how to properly implement them. Setting personal boundaries is what will help protect you from situations that have the potential to cause you harm, be it physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. When your boundaries are solid, and you have a clear idea about your limitations, it makes it easier to recognise when something happens that doesn’t align with your values. It is impossible to establish personal boundaries when you are unsure of where your lines are or if they have even been crossed. Have you ever sat down with yourself and delved into your feelings? What is most important to you? What causes you stress? What is acceptable? What won’t you tolerate? For some of us, we pretend that we don’t have certain limitations because we worry that they will be unacceptable to others. This results in us experiencing situations that can hurt us. Do you sometimes experience feelings of guilt or resentment with others? This could be a sign that you are not honouring your own unique set of values. Instead, you may be trying to adhere to someone else’s.

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If you are like me, you may fall into the category of “people-pleaser.” This will give you a predisposition to avoid being direct, for fear of causing confrontation. You might suffer from feelings of guilt, doubt, and fear when you think about revealing your true feelings. Unfortunately, when we are disingenuous about what is important to us, we are bound to confuse people and cause misunderstandings. This can lead to conflict, which is the exact thing you were trying to avoid anyway! As you can see, boundaries are not just about having healthy relationships with the people you encounter. Personal boundaries are also about the relationship you have with yourself. Honouring what matters most to you, and refusing to compromise on that,

says to others (and yourself) that you value yourself and have high self-esteem. By being honest and direct with others about where you stand shows them that you respect yourself, which will help them to respect you, too! Once you have established what your boundaries are, now is the challenging part. You have to consistently follow through with consequences when your boundaries are violated. This is sometimes difficult and often leads to unwanted compromise. Learning how to feel comfortable saying “NO” is a crucial step in being open, honest, and direct with those around you. Put yourself first and prioritise your feelings. This is not a selfish act but an act of self-care. Often, we question ourselves and it

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makes it very hard to say “no”. But you will find that when you start expressing yourself this way, people will feel safer with you because they will understand your limits. This will improve your relationships, not only with romantic partners but also with your family and co-workers, too. But what do I do if I know my boundaries have been violated? You are not responsible for how people respond to your boundaries. You are responsible for communicating your boundaries honestly and respectfully. If a person chooses to get upset because of it, they are the one who is responsible for that. It’s often the way that toxic people who exhibit controlling, abusive, or manipulative

behaviour will disrespect and test our boundaries. When this happens, you must summon your inner strength and remain firm. Do not waver, do not apologise. You are entitled to set personal limits that protect your wellbeing. Trust your instincts. Always. It all boils down to good communication. Setting boundaries does not instantly happen. It’s a skill we learn and it takes a lot of practice before it feels natural and easy to recognise when our boundaries are being crossed. Always be forgiving with yourself and look for support when you need it. Sometimes just being able to talk about your feelings will give you the clarity, courage, and strength to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. The better you get at it, the

more you will encourage people into your life who will appreciate you for who you are. And it will be easier to say goodbye to those who don’t.

In a Nutshell: •Honour your limits •Focus on your feelings •Respect your own needs •Don’t compromise •It’s healthy to say “No” •Trust your instincts •Be assertive •Find support Written by Elizabeth Vigar

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Clear Your Mind, Engage Your Intuition with

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Amethyst

Amethyst, which has been called one of the “Master Healing Crystals of Spirituality,” can be useful in many ways. Its’ ability to connect you deeply with your Third Eye Chakra and Crown Chakra means it is a powerful aid with all troubles associated with the mind. Amethyst, admired for 37 Fierce Truths Magazine

its connotations of nobility, comes in many shades of purple, ranging from a milky pale lilac to a dark, deep grape with red highlights. Keep one of these precious gems close to you to guide you through mental distractions and difficulties and help you on your path of spiritual awareness.

Being so closely associated with all elements relating to the mental sphere, Amethyst is the perfect stone for learning how to open your third eye and listen to your intuition. All of us have an “inner voice” that keeps us in alignment with our destiny and protects us against what does not serve us. For some of us, our intuition is strong, but for others, we need help to pay attention to our spiritual side. Amethyst helps you to quieten your mind, facilitating relaxation, rest, and meditation. This helps us to journey through life at a higher frequency and deepens our connection to self. Once you can develop a connection with your Third Eye Chakra, you can allow your intuition to be a strong and protective guiding force in your life. When we listen to our intuition, we are trusting in our ability to move in the direction of happiness and self-love.

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Ways to Use an Amethyst Place an Amethyst stone under your pillow or near your bed to help give you peaceful dreams, and keep nightmares away. Wear a piece of Amethyst to promote clarity of thought, inspiration, and to keep negative thoughts at bay. Keep a stone in your office to combat tension and stress and to facilitate better concentration.

The Potentian Health Benefits of Amethyst Amethyst is a notoriously sobering stone that can serve as your personal warrior. By keeping one close, it can help to soothe the mental, emotional, and psychological pain associated with trauma, stress, anxiety and addictive traits. Furthermore, by helping you channel your intuitive powers, and creating the right energetic field, amethyst will promote healing on a deep and personal level. Governing the realm of the mind, Amethyst can help with headaches, stress and also relieves tension. It can help you to communicate better and increase your feelings of self-worth. Spiritual practitioners claim that Amethyst can also have great physical benefits. It is said to potentially strengthen the immune system and reduce chronic pain.

How to Look After Your Crystal The best way to maintain and maximise the powers of your crystal is to recharge it under the light of a full moon. First, wash it under cool running water and place it under the moonlight for a night. This will restore all of its natural energy. You could also try smudging your Amethyst with Sage. Burn a smudge stick and allow the crystal to be bathed in the smoke, while you visualise any negative energies disappearing. Losing sight of who we are and living in self-doubt may make it impossible for you to feel confident in yourself and to love yourself first and foremost. Amethyst is said to clear your mind and bring you back to yourself, enabling you to connect with your intuitive self. When we feel confident to listen to ourselves, we will know what we need to be healthy and happy in life. This will help us to overcome our obstacles. Written by Elizabeth Vigar

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Creative Groove And Learn to Express Yourself Freely

Slowing down and finding you have more time on your hands can create feelings of anxiety and uncertainty, especially when you were not expecting a change to your routine. For many of us, we have been spending more time at home lately, not able to do the activities we usually would enjoy. The extra time at home can give you a golden opportunity to reflect, get in touch with yourself, and enjoy some time and space to get your creative juices flowing. The act of being creative can serve you in so many positive ways, that there was never a better time to explore your potential. When our lives are busy, we simply do not have the opportunities to think about what creativity means to each of us. The truth is, we are all creative beings. Learning how to channel your creativity and find a way to express yourself will improve the quality of your life immensely. The action of being creative decreases stress and anxiety, thereby encouraging more positive emotions. Nothing compares to the feeling of pride when something you have done or created is acknowledged and appreciated by others. Creativity can improve your ability to think in a non-linear way. It enables you to see more options so that you can become better at problem-solving. This is a skill that will come in handy in all aspects of your life. Creativity teaches us that “failure” is okay, and a natural part of life. It is the process of trying and enjoying new things that is important. This helps us to develop our confidence and resilience.

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On the flip side, a lack of creative expression in your life can lead to feelings of rage, grief, sorrow, shame and judgement. It’s almost like we each have a creative volcano inside of us that needs to release regularly, otherwise, we can stagnate and feel blocked. Some of you might be thinking, “But I am not a very creative person”. The thing is, creativity is not just about being able to draw well, or taking painting classes, or writing poetry. There are many ways to explore and express your creativity in your day to day life. Many of which you might already do! Choosing what to wear is expressing creativity. Enjoying your home space and decorating is a way to express your creativity. Cooking is a very creative process, as is gardening. Then when current events allow, hosting a party or organising a function is an expression of your creativity. Travelling can be a very creative experience. Learning how to recognise how you are already creative in your life, and continuing to enjoy and make regular time to do more of the creative activities you love, will help you to feel happier and more fulfilled.

Some simple ways to welcome more creativity into your life: • Prepare for future travels – travelling is a great way to inspire you and see life a little differently. • Take a walk – This simple act can increase your mindfulness

and open up more space for creative thoughts. • Take up a new hobby – Regularly try new things, but don’t force yourself. A hobby should be fun! • Be open to new possibilities – Practice being aware of what is around you and look at things from different angles. • Develop your curiosity – Enjoy learning about new things, ask questions, and explore. • Accept your mistakes – Even the great Masters make mistakes. Accept that mistakes are a part of life and represent learning opportunities, not failures. • Set realistic expectations – Start small, and don’t expect perfection overnight. Creativity is a journey, not a destination. • Practise! - You will feel proud of yourself when you become aware of how you improve. • Don’t give up! – Working on something will give you a sense of achievement that is wonderful for your self-esteem. Creativity is a choice. It requires you to put your thoughts into action and produce something. Without action, your thoughts stay in the realm of your imagination. Trust in yourself, and your ability to live a more productive and creative life. You will be amazed at what you will achieve. Written by Elizabeth Vigar

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R A D I C A L

H I N K I N G

By Scott Grasso

Re-Think Your Way Into Joyous Living Hello family! I am delighted to share my experience with you about making healthy changes regarding how we think about ourselves, others and the world. There has never been a greater need for selfaware, empowered sisters and brothers who are radiating their light and love in the world.

my needs met. I am stupid, bad and wrong. I don’t deserve to be happy, joyous and free. This is pure self-loathing, and often triggers a powerful Victim Mentality.

L ast month, we considered the radical idea that we behave badly when we are triggered by two core fears:

Yikes! Could you ever imagine consciously teaching this stuff to your children? Yet my inner critic Phyllis often whispers these terrible untruths to me, without my even being aware of it. I still struggle with a small and ugly nugget of self-loathing that rears its’ ugly head periodically when I feel threatened.

1. Fear that we are going to lose what we have. 2. Fear that we are not going to get what we want. I also suggested that you name the negative dis-eased voice that may be in your head. Mine is Phyllis. Now I’d like to continue our

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self-examination. In addition to the fears listed above, many people also have two hideous negative core beliefs that trigger even more dis-eased thinking and isolating behaviour: 1. There’s not enough: Not enough time, love, money, sex, food, recognition, attention, work or prosperity. This is called a Deprivation Mentality. 2. I’m not enough: Even if there was enough, I am not worthy to have

Where do you experience these core beliefs in your life? Write them down, sit with them for a few days, and then reflect on them

sex, recognition and safety for everyone. 3.And what if you ARE enough? What if you are the precious child of a loving Universe? What if you DO deserve your fair share?

“What if there IS enough? What if you ARE enough?”

again. You can also share this with a trusted friend or advisor. I find that speaking about these core beliefs, even out loud to myself, can provide clarity and often takes away a lot of their power.

The response: Practice contrary

thinking.

If these toxic fears and core beliefs resonate with you, I have some good news. Once identified, they can be replaced. To begin the process, ask yourself: 1.What if your core fears and beliefs are incorrect? 2.What if there IS enough? Enough time, love, money, fulfilling work,

Integrating radical new thinking into our dis-eased minds can take some time. For me, I sat in meditation with these new questions for a couple of weeks. Then I began to experience a warm, golden glow that seemed to surround my icy, closed heart. “Well,” I reflected, “If the thoughts in my head are dis-eased and there really is enough, and I really am “enough”, then I probably need to discard those old ideas. I need to stop listening to Phyllis.” From that first awakening, I began to practice actively choosing what I wanted to believe. With help and repeated practice, I gradually threw out the old fears and deprivation ideas and adopted an abundance mentality.

Don’t react: re-think.

Congratulations! You’ve made a great start on radically re-thinking your interior world. Problem is, there are still people in your lives who installed or reinforce your old core beliefs and fears. Or you hang out with people who also share the same old ugly truths. So you are going to get triggered by their words and actions, or unbalanced by their fears. When this happens, it is so important not to react. I suggest counting to ten and asking for a “grace moment” from your guardian angel or spirit team. A “grace moment” is that sacred instant between your triggered fear reaction and a more considered response that is based on your new abundance beliefs. When confronted, always pause and breathe. Tell your version of Phyllis to go back into her caravan for a time out.

Here’s an example; you have a family member who always complains about how she never has enough money. She loves to whinge, and is convinced that she will never find a way to feel secure and happy. What do you do? Here is an opportunity to re-think your old programming and to respond with love. Say something like: “You know, I have the same core fears too. But I’m finding that the more I stop and reflect, I realise that I can choose to believe something different. What if this is an abundant world that is filled with possibilities? I’m choosing to believe that it’s my birth right to be happy and secure.” When that new positive energy is released in you, just watch for the surprising results that follow! Our words are just like spells – so be very careful about what you are saying to the Universe. If you say that you are small and unworthy of love, the loving Universe will deliver that experience to you. Because that is what you chose. It’s the spell that you cast. Instead, use words that express your highest desires. How about: “I am the beautiful child of a loving Goddess. I choose abundance in all areas of my life and welcome assistance in living joyously.” Try it! You don’t even need to really believe it. Just having the willingness to say the words can change things for you.

Keep the focus on you.

It’s so easy to get drawn into other people’s drama. To experience that rush of the anger drug, and to feel triggered to point the finger at others and proclaim your righteousness. As a total buzz-kill, I am routinely reminded that: “When I am perfect, only then I can judge and criticise others.” Grrrrr. But, it is definitely my experience that you will have so much more peace and contentment in your life when your keep your “helpful” opinions and thoughts to yourself! Namaste.

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EARTH By Renée McCready Lady Pachamama, Earth Wisdom Keeper

Emergence of the Inner and Outer Ecology In last month’s edition, I discussed Nature as our Evolutionary Home. It included a ritual to help you reawaken your connection to nature. Each month I plan to help you add to your earth wisdom toolkit, with empowering ways to experience your relationship to the natural world. Most humans have become disconnected from ourselves, our bodies’ innate knowledge and our physical environment. We see ourselves as separate, or even superior to other environments. But what if there is no separation?

What if there is only one ecosystem? An ecosystem is made up of multitudes of biomes, interconnecting each and every living thing through an unseen interface or energetic continuum. This interface is constantly in a flow state of reorganizing the disorganized on both a macrocosm (largest) and microcosmic (tiniest) level.

“Humanity is an aspect of the diversity of the natural world, but no less or more important than any other child of nature.” What if humanities agreed-upon collective role is to be a steward of earth? And what if the disconnection we feel from ourselves is a result of the loss of our part in this self-regulating system?

What is a “biome” or a “life zone”? This is a community of living organisms that is constantly adapting and supporting its’ habitats and the networks of life that exist within it. There are two main categories of biomes that exist on earth from a macrocosmic level; terrestrial and aquatic. These include the types of biomes known as deserts, forests, grasslands,

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savannas, tundra and freshwater environments. All of these biomes hold all the dynamic interweaving and intricate balance of life. They are inclusive of the microbiomes that live in the air, soil, trees, plants, seeds, animals, inside and on our own bodies. We can also entertain the idea that biomes of thought, ideas, sound, dream, time, space and spirit also exist. At a cellular level we are made up of the same material as other life forms. From the smallest microbial cell, to the dark matter that is in and around us, to the fabric that makes up stars and even galaxies.

All living things depend on the microscopic world What if your gut microbiome was connected to the microbiome of the earth’s soil? Humans developed in close contact with soil as their physical basis for living. Soil provided shelter, water as well as food for daily life. In the old ways, we had

WHISPER Similarly, plants are coated in bacteria and fungal microbes on their leaves and roots. Wild animals take “dust baths” that effectively bathe their skin in soil bacteria that help to keep them clean.

The question is: How can we begin to create the right relationship between our inner biome and our outer biome? How can we re-establish a healthier ecology and thus create awareness of our part in the greater ecosystem of life?

a deep sacred respect for the land, soil, plants and elements. We interacted with them constantly. We also had a tenderness and admiration for the water, fire, soil, microbes, air, plants and animals. We believed that they were sentient beings much like ourselves. The intestinal microbial community represents an ecosystem of a trillion microbial cells, made up of bacteria, fungi and microbes. We have evolved alongside microbes for millions of years. You are first exposed to microbes when you pass through your mother’s birth canal. There is even evidence that suggests that babies may come in contact with some microbes while inside the womb. So we inherit the primordial microbiota from our mothers, grandmothers and further on the matrilineal line. Microbial vertical transmission extends back to our much earlier ancestors including our plant and soil ancestors. We all share the same primordial ancestor called “LUCA” (The Last Universal Common Ancestor ). A single-cell, bacterium-like organism thought to be the first life on earth.

This is a big question. My advice is to start small. This will create an opening to larger action and a deeper understanding of the universal law – “As within so without, as above so below.”

“Poor diet, over processed foods, environmental factors, living in urban landscapes, detachment from nature and antibiotic resistance amongst other things has lead to a disconnection and disregard for our original microbial ancestors, the intrinsic link between our soil heath, our connection to the earth and our own digestive health.” One of the best methods I find to help my students understand this relationship is through ancestral food-ways. For example, making sauerkraut is an old-world technique that requires us to tend to our relationship with our food. We use our hands, our energy. We invite our own body’s microbiome and that of our own environment, biome or “life zone” to interact with the plants and vegetables. This assists the breaking down and fermentation process to take place. It also encourages us to be present, as you’re creating life-giving food, to feed yourselves and your loved ones. It’s an opportunity to give thanks to the plants, vegetables, and healthy bacteria that will help your gut health flourish. We also honour the wild ways of the soil and elements that grew the plants for you to eat.

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With from the

Afterlife Spirit, Soul, and Psychic Advice

with Kim Bleeze

Spirit are always there. Are you listening? There are many ways to experience spirit. We can hear them, we can see them, we can feel them, and we can simply know that they are there. How they choose to come through will depend on them. And how you receive or perceive that information will depend on you and your natural spirit-speaking abilities. Because yes, you have them too. If you think back far enough, maybe you can recall an experience you even had with them when you were small. I did. But it wasn’t until I was in my 30’s and discovered the existence of spirit that I realised what those early childhood experiences actually were. I recall many times very vividly and let me share one with you. When I was young, perhaps around 5 years old, I used to have sleep over at my grandparents’ place. There was a room at the back of the house that I would sleep in. When I think back to it now, I have the vague memory of being scared to go to bed at night. I remember lying in bed as this little girl and being terrified of the dark around me. Not because I was scared of the dark, well, I don’t think I was. But because of the things I thought I was sensing in the dark with me. I remember I would pull the blanket high over my head, sink as deep into the mattress as I could go, and just hide. I would then often have the experience of something sitting or lying on the bed. Right on top of the blanket. Back then I remember believing they were skeletons. I used to fall asleep a terrified little girl, too scared to uncover my head in case they got me. While I can have a giggle about it now, back then it definitely wasn’t funny at all! I had many experiences over the years. But to be honest I just thought there was something wrong with me, that I was weird and strange. I wasn’t until I stepped into my first spirit and psychic development class that I began to see the truth. That all those experiences had been spirit and that the existence of an unseen world around us was in fact very real.

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I wonder, if you were to think back over your life, if you would recognise moments where you may have seen into this unseen world yourself, the spirit world. I am sure you probably have and how do I know this? Well, the spirit world is our home and that was pretty much where we were hanging out before we were conceived. In those early years after we are born, we stay extremely connected to our spirit roots. This connection will remain strong in some people all throughout their life. For others, it will simply slip into the back of their awareness and remain buried with all the other childhood memories suppressed over the years. Maybe to be unlocked later on, like it was for me, or maybe not. We all have our own path to unfold. However, we are living in a time when more and more people are starting to awaken to this innate connection to the spirit world. Because guess what? They want us to know they are here with us, and they love us so very much. I feel it every time I connect to them, a love so powerful and so strong I never feel alone. And you don’t have to be a medium like I am to have this experience. We all can, and they want us all to. So I can pretty much guarantee they are trying to get your attention in some way. We just don’t always listen or know what to look for. Maybe I can help.

Here are a couple things to look out for: 1. Do you glimpse flutters of movements out of the corner of your eye, but then when you look there is nothing there? Yep, it’s spirit. 2. Do you ever hear your name getting called when you are alone? Sometimes it might even sound like someone you know? Yep, it’s spirit. 3. Do you occasionally feel a cool breeze or tingles on your skin, or maybe what feels like you are getting touched? Yep, it’s spirit. 4. Do you often get what sounds like ‘fuzzy white noise’ in your ears, or a tingling, or any other weird sound? Yep, it’s spirit. 5. Do you ever have the sense of a deceased loved one in the room with you? Or perhaps hear their voice in your head? Yep, it’s really them! 6. Do you dream of your deceased loved ones? Or have any other strange encounters in your sleep? Yep, it’s spirit. 7. Do random ideas, messages, or visions just ‘pop’ into your head giving you that answer that you’ve needed for you or for someone else? Yep, it’s spirit. Knowing spirit enriches our life in a way I don’t think anything in this world can do (I’m biased of course!). There are many ways they will make their appearance known to you. The more that you are open to experiencing them, the sooner you can begin to let them in. And if you are doubting yourself? Just remember, you were born for it.

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Numerology With Stephanie McKinnon

September 23-09-2020 – October 22-10-2020 Numerology is the study of the sacred numbers in your life. In this column, I want to educate and empower you to understand your own life. I will draw your awareness to characteristic traits and patterns, as well as, highlight aspects or events that will be played out with every month’s themes as you move throughout your life. All this is revealed through the numbers in your date of birth. This is known as your life path number. You will also discover your personal year number, understand the current year theme of 2020 and the current theme of each month. All this will give you a bigger picture or overview of how or what your current cycle and month means for you. Current Energy Themes of 2020 2020=4 – This is the universal overall theme, and here are the traits that you will experience this year: 2020 is a year that we are given the opportunity to rearrange our personal values. Universal laws will be seen and felt. The theme touches in areas of security and this will affect work, finances, relationships, home, family, friendships. Health and emotions will also be touched. It is a year for us to be personally responsible in all matters of our lives.

Be aware of what is known as the “shadow you”. This may be traits or patterns within ourselves that we can ignore or be completely unaware of. However, we will need to accept, own or face these at some point in our lives. The 2020 shadow patterns will show up as moments of: Insecurity Instability Being rigid, stubborn, dictatorial, overbearing or lazy September 2020

Truth, justice, law, and order will be highlighted within our world.

September is the 9th month, so it will share an energy of transformations and the closing of chapters.

A year for us to get back to what really counts. For some, releasing false beliefs will appear quite challenging and testing at times.

September is the time for you to walk your talk. Hence, follow through on all matters of your heart and everyday life. This is a time to reflect and learn from your past by applying these learnings into your everyday life. Be willing to learn as you move through what can feel like unchartered waters. Align with your positive principles. There is a critical opportunity for you to forgive yourself

It shares a theme of internal and external reorganizational work.

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Overall Month Theme & Pattern for 23- 08-2020 – 22- 09-2020

This is a brilliant time to get your life in complete order by consciously aligning with your values and integrity. We are currently moving through a great gateway of transformation at this point in time. We have reached a point of no return in the way we perceive and do things across the board, from our self-identity to matters of the heart, emotionally, physically, and psychologically.

or others of any earlier hurts. This will enable you to move forward with inner peace. October will highlight your understanding of what truly matters to you, helping you to re-establish your connection with yourself and your loved ones. The energy of karmic lessons and debts will be felt and seen inside our current global conditions. Surrendering your attachments to outcomes will serve you well. This is a positive time to bring your ambitions and inner pioneer to the forefront. Keep your eye on your goals. Be careful not to abuse your power or take shortcuts to achieve your desired targets. There is a conscious awakening within, and this will either be subtle or a big bang.

Remember, everything you do and say has a ripple effect in our world. Do not be selfish, sarcastic, or greedy through your insecure moments. This will not serve you well. Remember, you are more than capable of overcoming any challenges that you face. With some courage and willingness to step out of your comfort zone, victory can certainly be yours. This is a wonderful time of awakening. So be sure to ask yourself: “How can I support myself better?” Be aware of this month’s Shadow theme. Patterns seen or felt could include: The rebel within expressing itself in areas where might feel you are being controlled. Being insensitive, aggressive, arrogant, and strongly opinionated. Feeling impatient, pushy and selfish.

Below is your guide for your life path and your personal year. Please note, if you are life path of 9 and in a personal year of 7, read both to get your personal forecast. Then consider the 2020 theme and the current month’s theme. Life Path Number This is calculated with your date of birth. Start by adding up the individual numbers within your date of birth. Then, keep breaking them down untill you have a single digit. The exceptions are the numbers 11, 22 and 33. To put it simply, your life path is an important piece in the puzzle of your life. It is the main theme that you walk and grow through in your daily life. Below is an example breakdown of a Life Path. This example is based on Elvis Presley. Elvis’s Date of Birth is 08/01/1935 0+8+0+1+1+9+3+5=27=2+7=9 So Elvis’ life path number is 9. Personal Year Your personal year is calculated by adding the numbers of the date and month of birth together with the year of your last birthday. So if your last birthday was in the previous year, then you use that year. Your personal year goes from birthday to birthday. Then continue to break down the numbers until you get one digit. The exceptions are the numbers 11-22-33. Personal year is the theme you learn and grow through this year, in conjunction with your life path theme. So if Elvis was alive this year, we would calculate this as 08/01/2020, then break it down to a single digit. 0+8+0+1+2+0+2+0 =13=1+3=4. Elvis’s personal year would be a 4. Fierce Truths Magazine

Relationships, interpersonal connection, balance, equality, fairness and justice will be the themes for us to work with as we move into the time of Libra between the 22nd September and the 23rd October 2020. Libra is an air sign, cardinal and masculine in its energetic expression. It is ruled by Venus; the planet of love, beauty, relationships, peace and harmony. The air nature of Libra is intellectual and related to social connections and interaction, communication, the law.

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WHAT’S HAPPENING WITH THE PLANETS

Libran energy represents the laws of civilisation and peace keeping. It is also intellectual and social. Society needs rules to maintain justice, equality and fairness. Peace keeping and diplomacy will be very prominent to avoid confrontation. We will be prompted to look at both sides of a situation to find middle ground. However, Libran energy can also stir up trouble in its own way and will also provoke a good debate or argument, taking all our strength to remain impartial. Our ability to make comparisons and to think in relative terms will be tested, with the ultimate goal of looking for the most harmonious or right way to conduct our lives. This is a time of idealism with high expectations about how things should be done. As a leadership sign, Libran energy, combined with Venus, will provide the opportunity to combine communication and socialisation to see the beauty in others. However, the challenging side of Libra can be quite judgemental and negative towards those who do us wrong or put us to shame. So at this time, it’s important to remember not to judge others and to look for the reasons behind a particular behaviour or action of the people around you. The month of Libra will show us that our personal ideals around balance, peace, harmony, justice

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and fairness are not necessarily the same as others. This will prompt us all to focus on how we as individuals can cooperate and collaborate to find the middle ground for everyone. In keeping the balance, this energy is connected with looking for the win/ win for everyone in all situations. The Moon, planet of emotions, intuition, the subconscious and soul memory begins in the complimentary position of Sagittarius. This focuses our emotions on knowledge, personal philosophy and truth. Between the 24th and 26th September, the Moon will move into Capricorn beside Jupiter, Saturn & Pluto in Capricorn. This energy will challenge our ideals around initiative and leadership, showing us the bigger picture, on a personal and global level, to create fairness and justice for all. Between the 26th and 29th September,

the Moon in Aquarius magnifying innovation, unconventional change and politics. This Moon will highlight any imbalances and bring them to the surface for humanity to reassess. When the Full Moon peaks in Aries at 7:06am on the 2nd October, emotions will be centred around the Self, goals and desires, leadership and initiative. This is a time to focus on the Self and where you stand in your relationships across the board. The Aries Full Moon opposing the Sun in Libra will bring in the balance for making decisions and looking at “What’s in it for me.” On the 7th October, when the Moon moves into Gemini, the energy will be positive and focused on communication on all levels in relationships. At this time, it’s important to remember that everyone is focused on their own

At 6:31am, on the 17th October, the New Moon in Libra lines up with the Sun in Libra. This brings with it an energy that is centred on deep emotions and love on all levels. It is starting a new lunar cycle around emotional definitions of love, peace, harmony, fairness and justice. This is an interpersonal energy and this energetic frequency is calling for deeper contemplation in these areas of your life. When Mercury moves into Scorpio on 27th September at 5:41pm, communication, thoughts and ideas will be drawn to dive deeper. This deep and intense energy is connected with death and transformation, manifestation and connecting with all resources to achieve your goals and desires. When Mercury starts its Retrograde transition between the 13th and 15th October for the following three weeks, this energy will intensify. Working with Jupiter, Saturn and Pluto in Capricorn, this energy will be powerful and karmic. Lessons will be brought to the surface personally and globally. What you resist, persists; so going with the flow will help to focus and reassess the way forward. It’s time to think outside the square. Venus, ruler of Libra and the planet of love, beauty and material possessions moves into Virgo on the 3rd October at 6:48am. This energy brings our attention to every relationship we participate in. In Virgo, Venus helps us to analyse and identify what works and what doesn’t in our daily lives. Focusing on self love and supporting the people in our family, workplace and in society to do the same, will help as we navigate both positive and challenging times. This will also intensify as Mercury in Scorpio heads Retrograde. It’s important to take the time to stop and smell the roses, in order to discriminate on how we show up in our relationships on all levels. Jupiter, Saturn and Pluto in Capricorn will amplify the bigger picture on authority and responsibility. This will prompt us all to determine what is no longer serving us, so we can take the initiative to move forward to focus on manifesting material desires. Mars, the planet of goals and desires remains Retrograde in Aries for this month. Sitting in direct opposition to Libra, the Universal mirror will be reflecting both what we want and what we don’t want. Whilst the atmosphere for making plans and executing them can feel like it is challenging us with the potential for emotional frustration, it is also delivering valuable lessons around the Self, decision-making and balance. Mars is calling for us to dig deep and really define what we truly want, and what actions we are prepared to take to achieve our plans

for the long term. Jupiter, the planet of expansion, wisdom, education and benevolence will remain in Capricorn this month. Jupiter will challenge us to take the appropriate self responsibility to learn and expand in the areas of career and interpersonal relationships. Remembering and acknowledging the wisdom how far we have all come will serve well with growth, business and career decisions. This highlights the direction for us all to expand on further.

perspectives. Home and family will be amplified and potential challenges can arise when the Moon moves into Cancer on the 10th October. Make the most of this opportunity to sit on the fence to reassess how balance and fairness can create peace and harmony for everyone. The Moon moving into Leo on the 12th October will connect with the heart chakra, creating the right atmosphere for self love.

Saturn, the ruler of Capricorn and the planet of career, status, authority, responsibility, business, finance and karmic lessons, heads direct between the 28th and 30th September. This shift in Saturn can feel like the floodgates have opened. It is calling for us to really focus on our own personal authority, karmic lessons, business, finance and career choices. Having an understanding of our previous karmic lessons will help us to embody our personal wisdom and how we can collectively make decisions to move forward. Focus on these areas with that sense of taking control of our own paths. Working together will help us to achieve the bigger picture of a world that we are all striving to achieve. Uranus, the planet of innovation, technology and unconventional change remains Retrograde in Taurus this month. The foundations and structures of society, politics, money and finance are undergoing radical changes. This is challenging the traditions that we have taken for granted, leading to breakdowns for breakthroughs. It gives us the opportunity to identify how this can be leveraged to work differently as we move forward. Neptune, the planet of spiritual connection, influence of the masses and imagination remains Retrograde in Pisces this month. In the dignity of its ruling sign, Pisces, Neptune is calling us to release ourselves from the illusions of the past by encouraging us to use our imagination to determine our own personal and spiritual truth. Pluto, the planet of transformation, regeneration and all that lies beneath the surface heads direct in Capricorn between the 3rd and 6th October. This will pull back the curtain on responsibility, authority, finance, status and karmic lessons globally. It will help us to reflect inward in order to understand our own power and control, so that we can continue to grow in more productive ways for the good of all. As we draw to the close of Libra for 2020, we are given the opportunity to finally reflect on all that was in the areas of relationships, peace, harmony, equality, balance, fairness and justice. On the 23rd October 2020 at 10:00am, we move into the energy of Scorpio. Scorpio is the most powerful energy in the Zodiac and we will be drawn to dive deeper into our understanding and application of transformation and regeneration, along with manifestation, resources, depth and intensity. Fierce Truths Magazine