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Fall is one of my favorite seasons. This month launches us into all the fun fall holidays with all the beautiful decorations and leads us into the festivities to come. The weather gets a little nicer, and there is less humidity with cooler evenings. Many people enjoy bonfires and cookouts in the backyard. In the more rural areas, the smell of smoke and dry rub permeates the cool night air. Getting together with family and friends around the firepit is a beloved fall tradition. And, of course, getting to go to the pumpkin patches to pick out our favorite to carve!

The highlight of October is our spectacular autumn colors. Our region is blessed to have some of the most colorful deciduous trees on the East Coast. The red of the maples, the orange and brown of the oaks, the yellow of the birch and walnut trees, and the various color shades of countless shrubs make October foliage viewing truly special.

And October produces some of the most beautiful skies of the year. The striking blues and grays balanced against a hazy white create the perfect canvas to highlight a wide palette of fall colors. Enjoy the October skies and stop to smell the leaves and pumpkins.

October always brings more awareness to women’s cancers and other illnesses. They come to mind in a more prominent way, which usually leads me to make all of my annual appointments for checkups and physicals during this time. I want to send special prayers out for all who are going through cancer…the survivors, the fighters, and in memory of the ones who fought so hard yet lost their battles.

I would also like to ask everyone to pray for our soldiers in Afghanistan. May God bring them through it and back home to their families safely.

Melanie Denney-Haas Publisher, Owner

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A Moment of Pause

32 BOLD AND BEAUTIFUL

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4 PUBLISHER’S LETTER

33 SOUTHERN STYLE

55 HARTS OF TEAL

from Melanie Denney-Haas 10 CONVERSATION COVER

Behind the Scenes of Our Cover Shoot

Red Lips for Autumn

Designs from Kali Handcrafted 34 WIG MAKING 101

with Gretchen Evans

Golden Honey

Kimberly Airhart and Andrea Sisler 58 AN EASY, AT-HOME WORKOUT

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Fayette County’s Lynn Black 13 SCHOOL SPECIAL

The Bedford School Arts

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How Do You Carve?

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New Releases this Fall 16 INKY BRITTANY

Communication Change Agent 18 MAGICAL MALDIVES

Tropical Bucket-List Get Away 22 ARTIST SPOTLIGHT

Vintage Vixens Rock On

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Candy Apples

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Owner Steven Stinchcomb, and his family before him, has lived on the land for decades, planting, maintaining, and enjoying the scenery he and his family have cultivated for generations. The geese and other critters on the farm add to its character—and helped a bit with our photos…

Blue Fern owner and designer Lori Duncan worked her magic again for us, styling cozy, picnic-for-two scenes while Stephen Wilson of South Atlanta Photography lined up the shots with idyllic romantic lighting and angles. There are so many nooks and secret pathways at Turnipseed that we had a few runner-up photos we wanted to share with you here!

Mr. Stinchcomb offers regular art classes at the farm and allows photographers from all over to use the land for portraits and more for an hourly fee. For more info about Turnipseed Farms call (404) 889-5418, or visit Turnipseed Nursery Farms on Facebook.

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When asked what represents a true Southern woman, many can agree that the traits a Southern lady carries include being considerate, sweet, and a genuinely caring person with a little side of spice to liven things up! They are quick to lend a helping hand wherever needed, but often never ask for or want the spotlight for doing so. When you meet Lynn Black, it won’t take long to realize she is the essence of just that. She loves her family, gives back to her community, is a selfless friend, and follows her dreams, living life with no regrets.

Lynn has lived in Fayetteville since 1976, watching it grow from a tiny Southern hometown to an extension of Atlanta. “It’s changed from a sleepy town to a meg-opolis,” she shares. She still loves the area and gets excited as she reminisces on her time over the years where she built a life with her husband, raised her daughters, and shares memories with her grandkids.

Lynn is a world traveler who has visited all 50 states and seven continents. “It’s always been a goal of mine to travel to all 50 states, and I was fortunate enough to add all seven continents to that as well!

I never thought it would be possible, but five years ago my daughter called and said, ‘Let’s go to Antarctica!’ and next thing I knew we were on a plane, visiting an amazing place.” Her favorite place she has visited is Churchill, Manitoba, where she took a guided tour and got up close and personal with polar bears in their natural habitats. “It was incredible!”

She has volunteered with Fayette Senior Services for 13 years, playing a major role in their growth as an organization over the years.

She is currently teaching an adult Sunday school class at Clairmont Presbyterian Church, guiding adults in their spiritual journeys. She also has volunteered with AARP Tax Services for 19 years.

The love she has for her family is obvious. Her eyes glow when she shares stories about her late husband David who was pastor of Fayette Presbyterian Church for 23 years. She gleams with pride when she shares about her two daughters, Dawna and Susanna, and you can’t put into words the excitement she portrays when she talks about her grandchildren, Zoe and Eddie. Lynn is one who will always make a friend wherever she goes and will make you feel as if she has always known you.

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THE BEDFORD SCHOOL:

"IT WORKS!" A LEARNING DISABILITY is generally defined as a cognitive dysfunction, frequently hereditary in nature, characterized by the inability to deal with written symbols, despite conventional instruction, adequate intelligence, and socio-cultural opportunity. Some of the characteristics include short attention span, distractibility, variability in performance, reading, spelling, writing or math disabilities, poor organizational skills, and slowness in finishing work. Some specific diagnoses include dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, central auditory processing disorder (CAPD), nonverbal learning disability and Asperger’s Syndrome.

THE BEDFORD SCHOOL IN FAIRBURN is the premier school on the southside for children with language-based learning disabilities such as dyslexia.

The school’s mission is to maximize the potential of children with learning differences and develop foundations for success with small classes (3–12 per class), a structured, multisensory approach and a highly-trained, dedicated staff. Bedford currently serves 150 students in grades 1–9 and an additional 60 students in Squirrel Hollow Camp. The 45-acre campus includes an academic building, gym, soccer field, Challenge Course, outdoor classroom, and a pool.

Bedford has sports teams in soccer, basketball, volleyball and track and field.

Squirrel Hollow Camp summer program offers academic tutoring and recreation to students who need an academic boost in the summer; a student does not need to be enrolled in Bedford to attend the summer program. Students receive tutoring in reading, math and written expression and participate in recreational activities.

The Bedford School is a member of GISA (Georgia Independent School Association), GAPSEC (Georgia Association of Private Schools for Exceptional Children), LDA (Learning Disability Association of America) and IDA (International Dyslexia Association).

For more information about The Bedford School, Squirrel Hollow Camp, or learning differences, visit www.thebedfordschool.org or call 770-774-8001.

The Bedford School just celebrated 35 years of making a difference in the lives of children who learn differently and their families. The school was started in 1985 by Dr. Betsy Box who also pioneered the Dyslexia Program at Woodward Academy. Dr. Box currently serves the school as the Director of Admissions. The Head of School, Jeff James, has served the school since 1985 as a teacher, coach, Counsellor, Headmaster, and now as the school’s leader. Allison Day, Assistant Head of School, has also played an integral role for over 25 years.

Former student, Jennifer Davis LeCaros, has enrolled her daughter in first grade at Bedford. She said, “Piper started first grade at The Bedford School this morning. This school is so special to me, Mike, and my parents. I attended in elementary school, and it played a huge role in my education and shaping who I am today. It’s hard to put our excitement and gratitude for this school into words.”

After attending Bedford, students have the skills to be successful in a traditional setting. The Bedford staff works closely with parents to help determine the best academic setting, whether public or private. By this time, the student has the skills necessary for success but may benefit from accommodations such as untimed testing or a note-taking buddy. Most students go on to college or other post-high school programs.

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How do you carve?

Is it silly or scary? Traditional face or intricate design? Do you freehand or use a pattern? Either way, it’s the messiest fun you’ll have this fall (kids or no). And the roasted pumpkin seeds you’ll have after… What a treat!

Unless you’re really practiced at carving or have an innate ability with Halloween artistry, just download and print a pattern from one of many online pumpkin pattern sites (pumpkinpile.com is a great one!), and attach it to your pumpkin. Using a toothpick, poke small holes all the way around your design to transfer the pattern onto its face. So easy!

Pro Tip: Soaking your carved Jack-o’lantern in a mixture of bleach and water helps preserve it for a longer time on the porch!

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Dahlia Lighthouse returns to the secluded family home of her true crime–obsessed family upon the death of her father, only to discover that someone has already been buried in his grave— her twin brother who disappeared when they were only 16. Dahlia wades through her own horror and grief to find the answers for which she’s been searching for a decade.

Harlem Shuffle Colson Whitehead Historical Fiction

Cloud Cuckoo Land Anthony Doerr Literary Fiction

A triple timeline tale from the Pulitzer Prize–winning author of All the Light We Cannot See, Cloud Cuckoo Land tells the story of four characters amid siege in their own times and how each relates to the story of Aethon, miraculously preserved through generations, while showing the interconnectedness we share as a human race.

Set in New York City in the 1960s, Harlem Shuffle tells of the struggles of one man, fighting against his past while fighting for his future. On the outside, Ray Carney is an upstanding member of the community, selling quality home furniture, but his crooked past seeps into his life more and more causing him to question if he can manage his double life.

True Raiders: The Untold Story of the 1909 Expedition to Find the Legendary Ark of the Covenant Brad Ricca Nonfiction This real-life version of Raiders of the Lost Ark tells the true story of Monty Parker and his secret 1909 expedition to find the Ark of the Covenant. The book is the first retelling of the adventures of the eclectic group that set out on the journey of a lifetime.

Eight Perfect Hours Lia Louis Romance Two strangers, stranded by a blizzard, spend eight wonderful hours together—until the roads clear the next morning and they go their separate ways. Noelle and Sam are positive they’ll never see each other again, but fate has other plans.

We’re giving away a signed copy of Mary Katherine Backstrom’s Holy Hot Mess to one lucky reader! Follow us on Instagram and look for the post for a chance to win!

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Inky Brittany Information Architect

By Kim Antell

advances in technology, she has begun translating the raw visuals she creates during meetings into digital versions for entities to share with their clients and staff.

Brittany’s goal is to be efficient in getting the visuals to her clients quickly. “This is how we stay on the sharp edge of communication,” she adds, “by reinforcing these shared visions or action steps.”

“The reception to it has been phenomenal,” she adds. “I’ve been in rooms and in high level conversations that I never dreamed of.”

She’s done work for Michigan State University’s public health department addressing the concerns of Flint, Michigan, and meeting with the doctors who have been on the front lines of the Flint Water Crisis. She was also invited to work for the Keurig/Dr. Pepper merger twice, presenting to their HR contingent and scribing for their sustainability advisory council.

While the “art” is the first thing you notice

upon seeing Brittany Curry’s work, she sees herself as a communication designer and graphic facilitator more so than an artist. “My magic is not in being able to draw pictures, it’s in being able to listen to the threads and the main themes in really complex layers of information.”

Always a doodler, drawer, and writer, Brittany Curry has found a way to utilize her artistic skills to increase visual communication not only in rights and welfare circles but in public health and corporate settings as well.

Brittany simultaneously listens to and draws out the live notes of any meeting, creating a visual story to capture the highlights. And with

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With a background in communication and rhetoric, Brittany’s first job was in the field of developmental disabilities as an advocacy coordinator representing the interests of those who may not have had another advocate in their lives. In that work, she met people who had been using visual imagery for the last several decades to engage people through their planning meetings, she says. And her work in helping people with disabilities have communities and have friends and get jobs is what opened up the doors for graphic facilitation as a job for her.

“Visual representations cut through language and communications barriers; it builds a bridge.”

“I love seeing this field grow and blossom. The media that we’re using in it is new, but the practice is as old as time, using pictures and symbols to communicate.”

Through being known in the advocacy network, Brittany says, the requests for her work started to grow. “It started off like everybody,” she says, “as a little side hustle.” But by around 2015, she began to get hired and paid for her work as a graphic recorder and facilitator. Every chance she had to be in a room full of people and create visual communication live, she took.

Brittany’s work has been used to earn grant money, to help those with disabilities get the attention of their care providers, and even to move into their own homes. Healthy Savannah (focused on obesity reduction, food access, transportation) contacted her in 2016 because they had the opportunity to submit a visual with their grant application, and Brittany created a visual that helped the organization earn the $60,000 grant. It put her on the radar of the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, where she was put on the national campaign in Savannah, Phoenix, and New Orleans, propelling her brand, InkyBrittany, into national recognizability.

There is a worldwide community of people creating visual representations and an international professional association for graphic recorders called International Forum of Visual Practitioners (ifvp.org) of which Brittany is a member. As demand increases, Brittany hopes to expand InkyBrittany into a larger company. Check out her work on Instagram and Facebook @InkyBrittany, and online at www.inkybrittany.com.

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The trip is long, but traveling on Qatar Airways, but connecting via their hub in Doha makes the journey pleasant. After arriving in Male, the capital of the Maldives, the butler from the St. Regis takes you to their seaside reception, where you relax and have a light bite and refreshments before boarding the seaplane, for the 45-minute trip to the private island. Once in the air, you begin to realize that this part of the world is not only remote, with no major landmass in sight, but that this geographically spread-out country is an amazing collection of islands and atolls set in the amazing waters of the Indian Ocean.

Landing (in the water) at your hotel, you immediately begin to feel the busy day-to-day pressures lift from you.

Seeing the incredible beaches and water up close, you realize you have arrived in paradise. Time to begin enjoying your vacation!

After a brief check-in dockside, your butler takes you in a golf cart to your villa over the water. The island is only nine acres, but it has a massive over-water spa, five restaurants, a water sports center, gym, and an assortment of activities, ensuring that you will never be at a loss for something to do—that is, if you want to do something more than sit on the beach, swim, and read a good book.

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The over-water villas are everything you could hope for, including an infinity pool, outside shower, and hammocks. But most importantly, you are perched over the amazing water that’s just waiting for you to put on your bathing suit and jump in.

During the week, in addition to swimming and relaxing, you can bike ride, enjoy the over-water hydro-spa, do yoga, snorkel, scuba dive, and look for whale sharks (the largest fish species but not a man-eater) and giant manta rays. Sunset in the over-water restaurant known as The Whale Bar, shaped like a whale shark, is breathtaking.

The pallet of colors of the sunset rivals the watercolors in the day.

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The Vintage Vixens

And Linda says that having been a booking agent for so many years led many potential members to her through word of mouth. “People contacted me: ‘I heard you’re putting a band together!’”

Vintage Vixens’ current members have been playing chart toppers from the 1960s (with some early ‘70s thrown in) together for three years now, says Linda. And each member brings her own talent and vibe to the stage. “We have a blast!” she adds.

And the ladies truly look the part.

They shop for vintage clothing, shoes, and accessories to bring out their inner (“dignified,” says Linda) hippies for the full experience. “We wear a lot of tiedye, things with fringe, a lot of jewelry. We all do our own individual thing, but we all look like a throw-back to the ‘60s,” she says.

ROCK ON

By Kim Antell

It’s never too late to have a new dream career, or to make it a reality.

Entertainment booking agent Linda Walker had such a dream. And five years ago, she began to make it a reality. “You have to follow your dreams,” says Linda. “It’s never too late, and you are never too old.”

Nearing her seventieth birthday, Linda purchased her drummer husband bass guitar lessons for Christmas, and he suggested they take lessons together. A very busy lady, she initially had “no interest whatsoever,” but upon his insistence, she relented and fell in love with playing the bass. She excelled in her lessons, began searching YouTube, and taught herself songs she loved in her youth. A child of the ‘60s, Linda, understandably, was drawn to rock and roll.

“I want to put a band together,” she told herself in a moment of revelation. So she started advertising to find band members. “I wanted it to be all women. I thought that would make us more unique, and we would stand out from every other excellent local band out there.”

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The fun and eclectic group has even come up with their own flower-child monikers. Linda (a.k.a. “Starshine”) is, of course, the bass player and band leader.

Carol “Moonchild” Petrovich, who’s been with Linda since day one, rocks the drums and is the band’s social media guru. Amy “Gypsy Wolf” Smith is on lead guitar and vocals, and Vanessa “Harmony” Simon sings lead vocals.

Last but not least, Janet “Wildflower” Eller plays the keyboard. “A lot of the songs of the ‘60s have horn parts, and a good keyboard player has the ability to synthesize those parts into her keyboard,” explains Linda, “so by adding a good keyboard player, it gives us much more dimension to the songs we can properly play.”

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Vintage Vixens keeps a full calendar of shows.

Thanks to Linda’s background as a booking agent, she keeps them busy with at least one show every week. They’ve played everything from fairs and festivals to theaters and private events. They entertain with Motown favorites, hits from The Beatles, Rolling Stones, and more. Linda’s most memorable show was being the opening act for Three Dog Night in Hiawassee. The girls blew the crowd, the main act, and their promoter away with their performance, though they purposely avoided playing any Three Dog Night songs. Linda says Danny Hutton raved to her about their set afterwards and told her he was glad they didn’t play any of their songs lest they steal the show!

The most rewarding thing for Linda is seeing a mix of generationions enjoying timeless music, but especially when the older crowd is up out of their seats and dancing. “It just warms my heart, you have no idea!” says Linda. “The joy of being able to make someone else happy is indescribable.”

You can catch a Vintage Vixens show in the next few months in the Atlanta area...just follow them on Facebook to keep track of where the ladies will be next! FB: @VV60sand70s

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Living in Fayette or Coweta County, Georgia, chances are high that your life has been touched in one way or another by The Walking Dead. It’s also possible that over the past decade of the show filming in the area, you've run into one of the cast members (lucky you!) while out getting your coffee or even buying dog food at the pet store. It’s even more likely that you’ve crossed paths with a crew member and didn’t even know it.

Julia Hobgood, who’s been an associate producer on the show since 2018 and assisting for years before that, is one of those people. She’s been loving life in Fayette County for six years, so she sat down with Southern Woman to talk about working on the show and the impact it’s had on her life.

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“Ironically, I had just started watching TWD a month before I got the interview,” she recalls. “Before that, I thought it was just some zombie show!”

Initially, Julia was hired as an office production assistant during the show’s fourth season, but at the wrap party in November of that year, after working on the show for only three months, Julia’s boss recommended her to Greg Nicotero to work as his producer's assistant.

“Greg’s been a producer on The Walking Dead since the beginning,” she explains, “but the capacity of his creative directing/producing development was not in as high a gear back then. He was head of KNB EFX and was getting a lot of help from [his staff in] L.A. He might have needed [an assistant] sooner, but it was the first time that he really couldn’t do without. It was getting harder and harder for him not to have someone on the ground here.” Julia was up for the task and graciously accepted the position.

“In film school, they want to believe that if you set the right boundaries, you’ll never have to do anything that you don’t want to do like running to get the dry cleaning or whatever, menial tasks,” she describes. “But you’re never going to build trust with someone if you refuse to do stuff like that. Because what they need help with is support, and if you’re not supporting them in those ways, why would they think you could support them in any more meaningful ways?”

“Boundaries are good,” she continues, “and if you’re at their house all day folding their laundry and doing dishes, that’s obviously not what you signed up for. But errands and stuff like that totally make sense.” In addition to signing for packages and other chores one might expect from an assistant, Julia was assisting Greg on the show. She took notes in meetings, sat in on phone calls, and typed out script breakdowns, and worked as Greg’s right-hand woman for the next three seasons.

Originally from Fayetteville, North Carolina, Julia attended the University of North Carolina School of the Arts. Her first work on a film was an internship on the 2013 film Are You Here with Owen Wilson and Zach Galifinakis. “It was a lot of fun,” she remembers, “but they kept me in the office a lot.”

Meanwhile, her film school friend, Emma, had gotten an internship in the props department of The Walking Dead (TWD). And Julia was still in North Carolina setting up interviews for jobs when she “hit a roadblock,” she says.

She cancelled all her upcoming interviews and decided to take a step back to figure out what she wanted to do next. After a couple weeks of downtime, she got a call from an excited Emma who had given Julia’s information to the production coordinator for TWD. Before Julia even hung up the phone with Emma, the show was calling her and scheduling an interview for the next day.

From there, things happened very quickly. Julia drove to Georgia for her interview, and within just a couple of weeks, she was moving to Georgia.

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Deeply immersed in TWD culture, Julia admits to not fully understanding the scope and reach of the show she works on. “I still don’t think I do.” she laughs. “It was hard to know from the inside how big it was going to be, or how big it already was. By the time I signed on, even as a P.A., we were already breaking records for the most watched premiere; we had over 18 million viewers for the season five premiere (domestic, AMC). The next biggest show after us was around 10 million. It’s astronomical.

It’s insane. It’s quantifiable, but it almost feels like it’s not because it’s such a huge audience.”

At the beginning of season nine, Greg called Julia and told her he had spoken with showrunner Scott Gimple, and the two had decided they wanted Julia to be an associate producer, coordinating the special effects makeup department in an administrative capacity, scheduling, and more. Because of the work she had put in

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previously, she was retroactively credited as an associate producer for half of season eight as well. "It was a wonderful feeling for my work to be recognized on TWD. During the same time, Greg brought me into the fold to develop Creepshow with him which broadened my horizons and opened the door for creative producing."

Creepshow, which Julia co-executive produces along with Greg and Brian Witten, is a continuation of the 80s movies. “The movies are older, and they’ve aged. But because the series is newer—and it’s Greg—I'd have to say it’s scarier. He does some pretty creepy stuff,” she laughs.

“He is definitely a great person to collaborate with and work with, and he really has been such a blessing,” she adds. “It’s so wonderful working with him. He's really good with wanting your opinion and having respect for it, but also sticking with his own. If you have a perspective he hasn’t thought of, he’ll take it into consideration.

He’s truly a collaborative artist. It’s really great to work with him.”

Greg is equally thrilled to be working with Julia. “I consider myself honored to have been able to collaborate with a woman as talented as Julia,” he says. “I feel like, on our journey together, I am able to learn as much from her as I teach. It is one of the best working relationships I’ve had in my nearly four decades in the industry.”

Julia says she gets mixed reactions in town when people find out where she works. They’re either asking her if the explosions they heard last night in Senoia was the filming, or they’re somewhat starstruck and love the show and have a personal anecdote to share with her.

“People think it’s so glamorous, but the long hours are not glamorous,” she says. “Don’t get me wrong...there are parties and premieres and all that, but ultimately, there are grueling hours, and blood, sweat, and tears. It’s a really taxing industry. But the people who are in it for the long term get so much satisfaction out of their work being watched and appreciated. It means the world to artists for anyone to come up and say, ‘Oh my gosh, I love that show’ or ‘You changed my life.’

Most of the glamour is in the premiere parties, she says, adding that she’ll never miss one if she doesn’t have to. “It’s like a big reunion and everyone gets dressed up, and the red carpet, and the lighting, and the press… They’re so much fun!”

After next March, when The Walking Dead is done filming and the final wrap party is a wrap, Julia plans to continue working on Creepshow, which will keep her in the area, since filming is in Atlanta, and there may be other (undiscussable) projects in the works. She says, “I'm at a point now where I’m trying to look at what I want to do in the next five to ten years. I have the opportunity to take a step back and look at what I've done and where it can lead me and begin to make intentional decisions about the future of my career and juggling that with my personal goals to include family.”

She’s also got a handful of hobbies (watercolor, martial arts, and gardening, to name a few) to keep her busy, and a bold, bright filmmaking future ahead of her.

The Walking Dead final season, which premiered on August 22, is on Sunday nights on AMC, and Creepshow: Season 3 is airing this month on Shudder.

The Joseph Sams School, located in Fayetteville, Georgia, is a nonprofit organization dedicated to the education and life skills development of children and young adults who are intellectually, physically or developmentally challenged.

For the past 34 years, the school’s annual Dinner, Dance & Auction has served as a way to raise both awareness and funds to support the school’s mission, programs, and most importantly, their precious students.

The school, now in its 38th year of operation, currently serves children and young adults from birth through 22 years of age from 8-10 different Georgia counties. For more information on the school or how to get involved, contact us at

770-461-5894 or visit www.josephsamsschool.org.

The Joseph Sams School would like to thank our 2021 “Joy in the Journey” virtual event supporters!

Thank you for being a part of The Joseph Sams School family, and allowing us to serve the very special children and young adults of our community. We greatly appreciate your generosity!

– The students, Staff and Board of Directors

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Joy in the Journey Sponsors

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Amy Dixon, Paraclete Realty Dr. & Mrs. David Goodman Lawson, Beck & Sandlin Kevin & Anne Miller Luke & Ellen Nichol Kevin & Sarah Purcer Dr. & Mrs. Jim Sams Joe & Cynthia Saracino SRC Ventures, Ralph & Summer Costley The Scarbrough Family The Women’s Specialists of Fayette

Explore the Journey Sponsors

Chris & Lori Barnett Tom & Mary Ann Crofton Thomas Faulkner, M.D., AME First Georgia Physician Group at Shakerag, Dr. Lisa McMath & Dr. Nicole Kearney Allen & Julie Harp Dr. & Mrs. Douglas Kallis Parker Hudson, LLP Mr. & Mrs G. Wayne Hillis, Jr. DeVaughn & Joanna Pettit Dr. & Mrs. G. Anthony Slagel Navigate the Journey Sponsors

Blalock Heating and Air Clay Boyles Frank & Anna Burns Joseph DeVeau, M.D. Brad & Kristen Gosdin Reid & Margaret Hankley Greg & Trennon Harrell Andy & Beth Killebrew Alice Mallory Jon & Amy Murray McGriff Insurance, A Division of Truist Peachtree Pediatric Dentistry, LLC Kaye Pendley Drs. Rod & Tina Robinson First Georgia Physician Group, Dr. Harry Snapperman Southern Crescent Women’s Healthcare

Join Me on the Journey Sponsors

Regis & Lana Carr Chapman Drug Company Ted Colbert Derbend Asset Management First Georgia Physician Group, Dr. Charlotte Grayson Mill Pond Gardens Nursery Christina Muntzel Troy & Carmen Neal Dr. & Mrs. Ferrol Sams III

Sanford Law Firm, P.C. Trinity Air Tommy & Vicki Turner Worrell Wealth Management Auction Item Donors

A Friend of the School Amy & Jeremy Dixon Amy & Jon Murray Andy Evans Anna & Frank Burns Ashley & Jim Sams Audrey Pearson Autrey’s Armory Beth & John Wilker B Hoppe Designs Big Red Oak Plantation Brannon Antiques Brooke Byers Brush Beauty Bar Carmen Patriarca Carrie & Mark Gallacher Cherry & John Byrd Cynthia & Joe Saracino Dana & Fletcher Sams Danielle & Matt Clements Ellen & Luke Nichol Faith Anderson Fletch Sams Jonathan & Erin Strack JSS Art Department Julie & Allen Harp Kale to the Chef Kaye Pendley Kelly & Doug Kallis Kristen & Brad Gosdin Lana & Regis Carr Luxor Fine Jewelry Margaret & Reid Hankley Marie & Jim Sams Mary Ann Crofton McGriff Insurance Mill Pond Garden Nursery Mucklow’s Fine Jewelry Nancy & Phil Binkow Rod & Tina Robinson Sally Goza Sara Kate Otero Sarah & Kevin Purcer Sharon Kator Southern Stems Sugaroots The Skin Society Tracey Burnette Wayne & Kaye Hillis

Circle of Hope

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Anderson Environmental Mr. & Mrs. Mike Aviando Mr. & Mrs. Gerald Barnett Ms. Sara Barnett Mr. & Mrs. Chris Barnett Mr. & Mrs. Scott Beaumont

Mr. & Mrs. Clay Boyles Mr. & Mrs. Regis Carr Mr. & Mrs. Mike Coppolino Mr. & Mrs. Danny Ferrell Mr. & Mrs. Mark Gallacher Dr. Sally Goza Mr. & Mrs. Greg Harrell Dr. & Mrs. Doug Kallis Mrs. Alice Mallory Mr. & Mrs. Tom Meagher Mr. & Mrs. Jon Murray Mr. & Mrs. Luke Nichol Dr. Michael Obenshain & Shelly Culp Mr. & Mrs. Blair Pritchett Drs. Rod & Tina Robinson Mr. & Mrs. Mark Robinson Mr. & Mrs. Paul Rozeman Dr. & Mrs. Jim Sams Hon. & Mrs. Fletcher Sams Mr. Mrs. Jim Sams, Jr. Dr. & Mrs. Zane Scarborough Mr. & Mrs. Jonathan Strack Mr. & Mrs. Steve Tibbetts Auction & Sponsorship Committee Lori Barnett

Amy Dixon Julie Harp Kelly Kallis Sarah Purcer Cynthia Saracino Dana Sams Marie Sams Tina Scarbrough Special Thanks

Amy Dixon Billy Johnson Brandy Sympreux Brooke Byers Carrie Kleppe Designs Dana Sams Ellen Nichol First Georgia Physician Group JSS Board of Directors JSS Staff Julie Harp Katie Robinson Kristen Gosdin Lori Barnett Lucy’s Market Marie Sams Mark Robinson Mary Ann Crofton Minuteman Press of Fayetteville Misty Lackey Positive Press Sally Goza Stephen Walker The Swingin’ Medallions Tito’s Handmade Vodka

Bold and Beautiful

Red inspires confidence, power, and poise all in one. And after a summer of barely-there makeup, deep burgundy, rich berry, and power-red lips are making a comeback this fall! Another trend?

Glitter and gloss on top!

Here are a few to try!

Reddish Brown Lancôme L’Absolu Rouge Drama Ink Liquid Lipstick: All day wear with a semi-matte finish in a warm reddish brown.

True Red Maybelline New York Color Sensational Matte Finish Lipstick in Rich Ruby: A true red with bluish undertones in a creamy matte formula.

Beautiful Berry Charlotte Tilbury Matte Revolution in The Queen: Sophisticated and saturated in a unique bullet shape for precise application.

Lip Topper Urban Decay Hi-Fi Shine Ultra Cushion Lip Gloss in Star Stunner: Hydrating and sparkly with a luscious vanilla-mint flavor.

“There is a shade of red for every woman.” ~Audrey Hepburn

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Southern Style

BY: MICHELLE DENNEY

Fall is here, y’all! Cooler weather, festivals and fairs, and of course football!! Time to bring out and start wearing your favorite fall pieces from your wardrobe. Terracotta, a light peachy orange, is popular this fall. Swipe on a peachy lip and grab a cute hat and get going!

This month, we have partnered with a great boutique that customizes hats and bags!

Kali Handcrafted Fashion is an online store based in Newnan, Georgia. The owner, Perla, loves everything about fashion and is passionate about helping others and making an impact. After her last trip to Nicaragua, she decided to use her entrepreneurial spirit to help the indigenous communities from Mexico to Colombia. Kali Handcrafted’s super cute matching hats and bags are perfect to take you into fall! You can find them at kali.handcrafted.fashion on Instagram.

As we all know everything around us is crazy right now! At least we can look sharp while enduring the craziness!

Browse more from Kali Handcrafted Fashion on their website and social media.

kalihandcraftedfashionstore.com

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WIG 101 making

with Gretchen Evans

By Kim Antell Have you ever thought about what it takes to make a wig? How do all of those thousands of little hairs get put into the right places, going the right directions, and are all the right color?

Wig making is more an art form than you may realize.

Gretchen Evans has been designing and creating wigs for 16 years. These days she primarily makes wigs and facial pieces for the film and tv industry, but she has experience with wig making of all types, from theater wigs to medical wigs.

Gretchen has a Master of Fine Arts in wig and makeup design from the University of Cincinnati. She was initially interested in special effects makeup, but she says, “When I learned the wig making aspect of it, I knew that was what I was supposed to be doing. I picked up on it naturally and that’s what I’ve been doing ever since.”

She started with theater wigs at the Cincinnati Playhouse and worked with the Utah Shakespearean Festival before eventually moving to New York and building wigs for Broadway. In between, she worked in a medical wig studio and learned the intricacies of designing for those with medical hair loss.

Because medical wigs fit onto the scalp, the materials used are different for comfort, she says, whereas a wig for theater fits onto hair.

A patient is fitted for a wig and chooses a color and style, and then an artist like

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Gretchen adds customizations like tweaking hairlines and adding highlights or root color.

“It’s a much faster process than getting something that’s fully custom-made,” she says. “They come in and like a week later they'll pick up their wig.”

For someone going through chemo, that quick turnaround can make all the difference in confidence and appearance. Building a custom wig typically takes over 100 hours of labor, Gretchen explains, and can cost up to $4,0006,000. Often, those diagnosed with cancer want something quickly, so Gretchen works with clients to help them find a ready-to-wear wig that she can customize to look more natural in less time, since waiting for a fully hand-tied wig may not be ideal. “They are wanting something to get them through it to feel semi-normal.”

She has also done a few pieces for women who have alopecia. “I try to keep my prices lower for people who are not in the film industry because I know they can’t afford what these huge productions can afford,” says Gretchen. Another less expensive option Gretchen suggests that takes less time is using a wig with wefted hair in the back, but the top is hand-tied.

“In traditional wig making versus factory wig making, there’s a lot more detail that’s put into it,” she explains. “Hair direction can be completely mimicked—like if they have a cowlick—and you can’t necessarily get that with a wig from a medical studio or a website.” The investment makes more sense, she says, for people who know their whole life they won’t have hair, or they know they’ll be wearing the wig for a long time.”

Gretchen moved to Georgia five years ago because her husband is from here, and the local film industry has provided her with plenty of work. She has created wigs for the first three seasons of Stranger Things; American Crime’s Lily Taylor; Dennis O’Hare’s long balding wig in American Horror Story, season 3; Birds of Prey’s Jurnee Smollet; and Angelina Jolie in Marvel’s Eternals.

Gretchen teaches virtual and in-person wig making classes locally for all levels of wig makers from learning fundamentals to advanced knotting, creating realistic parts and crowns.

She also teaches foundation making and even building facial hair for film and tv.

While some of her students are in the film industry, many of them are women who suffer from hair loss and want to learn to make repairs on their own, she says. Visit imakewigs.com for more info on taking one of Gretchen's classes.

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B

eginning a conversation with Rhonda Thayer with the hum of a sewing machine in thebackground, you immediately realize that you are speaking with someone very special.

Rhonda is a caretaker, always doing for others and finding creative ways to give back, so it comes as no surprise that she has started a business designed to support others in need. Dottie’s Designs officially opened (right before Covid) as a way to earn money for her two favorite charities, Missions in Action and Hero Rescue.

Named after her mother, Dottie, who was incredibly talented in her crafts, Dottie’s Designs is Rhonda’s business that specializes in custom embroidery and oneof-a-kind gifts. After caring for her father and grandmother, Rhonda also took care of her mother during the final stages of Alzheimer’s until she recently passed away.

Giving a portion of all proceeds to one of the two charities, Rhonda loves being able to make a difference.

Hero Rescue helps dogs in need find forever homes. She is currently fostering a tiny chihuahua who initially needed medical attention but is now ready for a family.

Rhonda was able to create a basket full of hand-crafted goodies to auction off to assist with the medical bills for little Bernardo.

Her other passion, Missions in Action, has been supporting the people of Honduras for over 20 years and has become a labor of love for Rhonda, alongside her childhood friend. After a visit in February 1998, board members of M.I.A. decided to make a true commitment to help locally, person to person. At that time, children were seen wearing rags for clothing and running barefoot, and the board members wanted to physically help in whatever way they could. Missions in Action continues to work with local communities to find people who are in desperate need of assistance. They have been helping families in Honduras in whatever capacity is needed— building homes, supporting school sponsorship programs, and empowering ladies in the area.

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people couldn’t get to their jobs, which affected entire families. Rhonda says they saw a difference in the children especially; they got thinner and thinner.

Thankfully, Rhonda says that things are starting to open up again recently, and people are allowed back to work.

The sewing center in the community will be a way that ladies can help provide food for their families. Rhonda recently raffled off a basket of items she had created to collect money for helping one particular lady they had met in the Honduras community. Miss Roxanne is a caring and generous older lady who is always helping others. With the proceeds, they were able to purchase a sewing machine and supplies for Miss Roxanne, even taking her to the local market to purchase fabric. The following day, they had sewing class to teach Miss Roxanne and another lady the basics of sewing. Seeing the impact on helping one person at a time is amazing.

Rhonda and others have provided sewing machines and sewing supplies as well as teaching ladies the skillset to use them. Honduran mothers are then able to sew uniforms, which are mandatory, for the children to attend school. Some ladies have been creating beautiful purses which are then brought back to the U.S. to sell so that the proceeds can go back into their community.

With these funds, they have been able to provide breakfast and lunches for the school children. Because the schools are so far away, the children must be able to afford lunch since they will not be able to go home to eat.

Helping the ladies develop a way to earn money has touched Rhonda’s heart and has given her a passion to want to do more. The ladies there put in a hard day of labor for a mere 14 or 15 cents per day, but learning a new trade opens up lots of opportunities for them, as well as providing clothes for their families.

Rhonda lights up when she speaks about the programs that help the families in Honduras, describing those she has met over the years on trips to assist. “The people are so giving and generous. When one person begins a project, everyone wants to jump in and help,” she explains. Covid has had a tremendous impact on the community there, and Rhonda says they need our help more than ever. The transportation in Honduras is all public and consists of drivers with a pickup truck stopping along the way for people to hop in the back.

Once Covid hit, all transportation was prohibited and

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Here at home, Rhonda creates custom layette sets for babies and has recently done creative collections such as animal themes on bibs, booties, hooded towels, rattles, and blankets. She also designs beautiful beach bags, towels, and adorable stuffed animals, among other things. She sells them on her social media sites and at local craft fairs. Rhonda has a servant’s heart and is always finding new ways to give back and provide real assistance to those in need.

Visit Dottie’s Designs on FB and IG to see how you can help out or purchase some of these adorable custom creations.

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Candy apples Who remembers working so hard to eat those candy apples at the county fair?!

It’s that time of year again, for the fair and the apples. The best part about making and eating them at home is you probably have a knife on hand to slice through that hard candy shell. So save your smile and slice into one to savor that tarty sweet treat!

Small to medium apples Lollipop or Popsicle sticks 1/2 cup light corn syrup 1 cup water 3 cups sugar Food coloring Candy thermometer Wash and dry the apples, remove stems by twisting, and firmly insert sticks. Bring sugar, corn syrup, and water to a boil over medium heat in a large saucepan (300 degrees on a candy thermometer). Remove mixture from heat and stir in food coloring.

Swirl the apples until coated and place on a cooking spray–covered piece of parchment paper to harden.

Tip: If your apples came from the store and not the orchard, dunk them quickly in boiling water to remove the wax coating or your candy will not stick.

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creating the perfect

FALL CENTERPIECE

You can create a stunning pumpkin centerpiece in a matter of minutes following a few simple instructions! The beauty of this centerpiece lies in its versatility… With pumpkins and gourds available in a variety of colors, choose one that matches your theme or decor. Here, a simple white pumpkin allows the colorful array of succulents to be the focus. Hollow out a medium sized pumpkin (we suggest a shorter, squatter one with a flat top), and line the inside with cellophane. Drape moss from the garden center or craft store around the edges. Layer small pebbles in the bottom of the hole for good drainage. Succulents can be expensive and are delicate, so make sure to fill the center with a good succulent

potting mix. Select a good variety of colors and textures when choosing your filler plants for visual interest. Tuck extra bits of moss, acorns, or colorful stems and berries in the empty holes after you’ve arranged your plants. Finally, place your centerpiece on a bed of leaves and surround with smaller pumpkins and gourds— you can add height variation by hollowing some of the minis and filling with a single succulent! When the season is over, simply pull out your plants, place them in another container, and throw your used pumpkin into the compost! Give it a try and tag us with your creations on Instagram @southernwomanmagazine!

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veryone wants to stake a claim on this classic Southern dish, from folks in Brunswick County, Virginia to those in Brunswick, Georgia...with the possibility of roots as far away as Braunschweig in Northern Germany (both U.S. locations are named after the German Duchy of Brunswick-Lüneberg, after all). A Brunswick, Georgia plaque claims the stew was first made on St. Simons Island in 1898, while an alternate

story tells of its creation on a hunting expedition by a legislator’s chef in 1828 in Virginia.

Brunswick stew has always been a “use what you have on hand” concoction, which explains why the original recipes often used squirrel, rabbit, and even opossum. Today’s versions are more grocery store friendly, incorporating pork, chicken, and beef. But, hey, if you’re all the way Southern at heart and want to make it the way your granddad made it, you do you! Add in the beans and corn, tomatoes and barbecue sauce, and you’ve got yourself a meal (or five or ten, if you have Tupperware and freezer space)!

Pssst…. Miss Scarlett’s cornbread recipes are the perfect compliment to a great Brunswick Stew! Check them out on page 50!

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In a large skillet over medium heat, melt the butter. Add the chopped onion and cook until the onion is translucent; add the garlic and cook for 1 minute longer.

Place the onion mixture in the slow cooker along with the potatoes, lima beans, corn, and 2 cups of chicken stock.

Cover and cook on LOW for 4 hours, or until the vegetables are tender.

Add the remaining ingredients to the slow cooker. Cover and cook on LOW for about 30 to 45 minutes longer.

STOVETOP

In a Dutch oven over medium heat, melt the butter. Add the chopped onion and cook until the onion is translucent; add the garlic and cook for 1 minute longer. Add the potatoes, lima beans, corn, and chicken stock.

Bring to a simmer. Cover and cook on low heat for about 30 minutes, or until the vegetables are tender.

Add the remaining ingredients and bring to a simmer. Cook over low heat, uncovered, for about 15 to 20 minutes.

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PIC-NIC is a luxury pop-up picnic company. Essentially, you can request a pop-up picnic anywhere you’d like. Customers simply go online to order a picnic service by ‘checking out’ as if they were purchasing something online—just like the Amazon shopping cart. Then, your individual PIC-NIC artist gets right to work. We handle it all for you! We set up the gear, take it down, order flowers, provide the cutlery, create a custom VIP welcome sign, secure food, photography and even offer live music.

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Prior to launching PIC-NIC, I spent more than 15 years building celebrity brands. I helped build and manage brands like the Aflac duck, restaurant brands for Gordon Ramsay and Bobby Flay, the hotel of Caesars Palace, Nobu Hotel, and so many more.

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And I left a company I truly loved. My world stopped. For the first time, I questioned everything. I questioned all notions of success. If our lives are made of puzzle pieces, my entire puzzle was shaken. All the major parts that once fit so perfectly together…all seemed to move at once.

Many people talk about how hard the pandemic was...and believe me it was.

But if it gave us anything, it gave us all permission to question everything and to live life with abandon. Throughout most of my life, I had tried to give my cares to the Lord, but not my career.

That was the one thing I felt I needed to strive for, work for, and build. In pursuing the deepest desires of my heart, I’ve worked tirelessly for nearly two decades and invested hundreds of thousands to attend the best schools to achieve my dreams. But now, there I sat. All of my striving, trying and achieving in pieces—with a new baby.

What now?

I wrote my heart’s deepest desires on a sheet of paper, put them in a small jar and lit them on a fire. It was an act of symbolism; I watched as they became ashes before a living God and said a prayer of surrender. “God take it. This piece is finally yours. I just want to follow you. Show me the way.” Over

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several days of peaceful quiet, clarity started to come with nudges in my spirit. I asked myself practical questions like, “Well, what has the Lord given you the ability to do?”

Build brands, I thought. So, I asked the Lord to show me what to build and fuel what would be pleasing and useful in his sight. I stood with my toes in the water of Santa Rosa Beach, Florida (many of you might know it as Scenic Highway 30-A). I asked, ‘What would life look like if I went all in on Faith?” And PIC-NIC was born.

Our tables offer so much more than the opportunity for beautiful people to take beautiful pictures. We believe our Rambling Tables are opportunities for healing, restoration, and re-connection. After all, there is nothing more human than breaking bread together. And in the end, what do we really have? We have relationships and memories.

Our deepest desire is that these tables would not only be used for pleasant parties, but they would also become an easy invitation platform —to invite that estranged family member back to the table, to have a meal with someone on the other side of the aisle, or expand the diversity of thought, race, and conversation in your circle.

We currently offer services in Atlanta, Savannah, Alys Beach, 30-A, Santa Rosa Beach, Florida, Nashville, France, and Lake Geneva, Switzerland. On occasion, we do have customers who request we travel to different states to help them celebrate. We’re really proud of the fact that we are the first international pop-up picnic company. We aspire to become a household name and we’re scaling quickly. Part of our growth is due to our expansion model. We seek people who share similar values and work ethic. Then, we enable them to own and operate a picnic business in their local market, leveraging the PIC-NIC brand. It’s a triple win. We create business owners in the local community, we foster more sales for the local chefs/florists and PIC-NIC receives a small portion to keep fueling our vision.

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In fact, several of our PIC-NIC market owners are either veterans or military spouses. They are highly capable individuals that may not find comparable work in their local community. We’re always on the lookout for the right market owners to join our team—helping further fuel the PIC-NIC mission.

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Finally, the candles melt as the lights go out, because we believe PIC-NIC will curate conversations that are so meaningful, the lights will go out and the tables will continue to ramble on.

Each PIC-NIC is comprised of carefully curated materials from around the world. We have selected pieces from places like Casablanca, Morocco, and Normandy, France.

We offset some of the luxurious materials with handcrafted elements to deliver a boho-chic vibe. Not by accident, each of these locations reflect our beliefs. Morocco is a global hub for community trading and Normandy is a hallmark of Freedom—both tenets that ground the very impetus of luxury pop up picnics.

Southern women have been portrayed in movies, music and novels as being strong-minded and unafraid, tough as nails, God-fearing, charming, and hospitable. Perhaps this story attempts to capture some small essence of that: a woman, nearly 40, first baby, and the courage to start all over in a pandemic.

More importantly, our greatest hope is that this story reminds you of the strong Southern Woman you are. Feeling a nudge? It’s time for you to get to goin.’

The most important lesson I’ve learned is that it doesn’t always have to be “faith over fear,” meaning, one choice or nothing at all. Feel the fear. And do it anyway. Ramble on and book your PICNIC at www.pic-nic.com or see more of these on Instagram, Facebook and TikTok: @picdashnic.

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Whewwww, this heat is thick! With any luck, cool weather is just around the corner. At least I hope so! In honor of the leaves changing and the temp dropping, we are cooking up some cornbread. I’m not talking about the sweet cake type cornbread, but good ol’ Southern cornbread. We’re even gonna fry some. You can’t get more Southern than that!

Granny’s Cheese Cornbread is a recipe I got from my children’s great-grandmother 45 years ago.

It’s great for dinner with a bowl of beans and just as good the next day for a quick snack!

Broccoli Bread makes you think you're eating a little healthy! Ahh, who you fooling! It’s broccoli, cheese, and butter. You can’t get any better than that! A family staple, I think I got it from a friend at church many years ago, and kids love it!

shopping lis t 1 lb. package dr y pinto beans Fresh garlic Buttermilk cornm eal mix

Oil

Crisco Onion Buttermilk Butter Frozen corn Cheddar cheese Salt

Pepper Frozen or fresh broccoli Eggs Jiffy mix

The third recipe is just your “Plain Old Cornbread” which is what we grew up on. I don’t know Mayonnaise about you, but when I was growing up we always had some kind of bread on the table. Either homemade biscuits, cornbread, or plain old white loaf bread! My mother always cooked our favorite meal on our birthday. My birthday is in September and my favorite meal was and still is pinto beans, fried potatoes, collard greens, and cornbread! You can’t forget the hot pepper sauce, chopped onions, and of course a jar of Chow Chow to go on top of the beans! Mom would fix a pot of dried beans every week. Pinto, Great Northern, navy, or large butter beans… we would have at least one of them each week. We don’t have this meal once a week any longer, but when I do fix it everyone shows up, and believe me all my grandkids love beans and fried potatoes!

You don’t have to have a cast iron skillet for these recipes but the plain old cornbread is best when it is cooked in one. And a medium, eight-inch skillet is really a must for any Southern kitchen.

I have to admit that Fried Cornbread was an afterthought, but as soon as I did I decided it had to be in here! It is so easy to make for just a couple! This cornbread will make you smile and undoubtedly say ‘Yummm!’

So here you go, four recipes for four totally different cornbread and a bonus pinto bean recipe. You can probably feel my excitement just reading about these recipes. I guess I get kind of giddy when it comes to these old tried-but-true foods. I hope you enjoy these as much as we do. Just a little comfort food for the soul!

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3 cups buttermilk self-rising cornmeal 1 16 oz. can creamed corn 1 small onion, chopped ½ cup mayonnaise About 1 cup buttermilk or milk (you might need a little more) 4 cups shredded cheddar cheese Preheat the oven to 350F. Mix cornmeal, creamed corn, onion, mayonnaise, and buttermilk.

Pour half into a buttered 9”x13” baking dish.

Sprinkle 2 cups of cheese on top of batter then pour the rest of the batter on top of cheese evenly.

Top with the remaining cheese.

Bake for about 40 minutes.

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2 cups self-rising buttermilk cornmeal ¾ cup buttermilk Heat oven to 425F. Mix cornmeal mix and buttermilk. If it’s too thick, add a little more buttermilk.

Pour into an 8” cast iron skillet coated with Crisco and bake about 30 minutes until brown on top.

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cornbread 1 cup self-rising buttermilk cornmeal mix ½ cup buttermilk or milk ¼ cup chopped onion ¼ cup frozen corn 3 Tbsp. oil Mix cornmeal, buttermilk, onion, and corn together. (If it’s a little dry, add a little more milk. If it’s a little too wet, add a little more cornmeal.)

Heat a nonstick skillet with oil and drop a large spoonful of mixture into the oil, making a small cake.

Cook over medium heat till brown, flip and cook until both sides are brown and crispy.

Place on a wire rack so they don’t get soggy. You can always leave the onion or corn out or use one or the other.

It’s good either way!

This will make about six or seven cakes.

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If you’ve never cooked dried beans then it’s time you did! There’s something therapeutic about picking through dried beans to get out rocks and “bad” beans. So ditch the can and try your hand at dried with this recipe. Freeze any leftovers to make your next pot of chili.

Broccoli BREAD Dried Pinto Beans 4 eggs Small onion, finely chopped 2 cups sharp cheddar cheese 2 cups chopped frozen broccoli, thawed and well drained 1 box Jiffy mix 1 stick butter, melted in a 13”x9” baking dish Preheat the oven to 400F. Mix eggs, onion, cheese, and broccoli well.

Add Jiffy mix, mixing well. Spread onto the melted butter in the baking dish.

Bake for 30–35 minutes.

Note: You can use fresh cooked broccoli.

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1 lb. package pinto beans or other dry beans 3 cloves fresh garlic Small piece of ham or bacon 3 tsp. salt 1 tsp. pepper Pick through the dried beans to remove any rocks or dirt. Rinse several times.

Place beans in a large pot and cover with about 6 cups of water.

Add garlic and the ham or bacon if you have it—it won’t be the end of the world if you don’t!

Bring to a boil and turn down to a simmer.

Simmer for about an hour and add 3 teaspoons of salt, and at this time you can smash the garlic into the beans.

Continue to cook for 45 minutes to an hour, until done. I always take about five beans out and taste them after they’ve cooked for about an hour and a half to see how much longer they need to cook.

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Healthy Honey The best honey you can use is the honey gathered closest to where you live!

Because the pollen to make the honey comes from local plants and flowers, there’s evidence that eating this honey will reduce allergy symptoms for you and your family. Honey also contains tons of antioxidants and is antibacterial.

Plus, properly preserved honey—sealed and free of any humidity—never expires!

Homemade Cough Remedy 2 Tbsp Honey 2 Tbsp Apple Cider Vinegar 2 Tbsp Fresh Lemon Juice 1/2 tsp Ground Ginger 1/2 tsp Cayenne Pepper 1/2 cup Water Mix the cayenne pepper, ground ginger, honey, apple cider vinegar, fresh lemon juice, and water in a jar with a lid.

Shake the jar to mix the ingredients well.

Take 1 teaspoon at a time to soothe sore throats and coughs.

Repeat every couple of hours, or as needed. Store in refrigerator. Shake again to mix well and eliminate any settling that has occurred prior to using.

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When Andrea Sisler was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer in February 2020, she prayed to God, asking for someone who had walked this walk to come into her life.

Her prayers were answered when she was introduced to Kimberly Airhart, the sister of a family friend, who had also been recently diagnosed with ovarian cancer.

Andrea Sisler (standing) and Kimberly Airhart in the pollinator garden at Cole Family Plaza at Piedmont Fayette Hospital. Photo/Jared Wright.

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Andrea was in Senoia and Kimberly was in Mississippi, but the two spoke on the phone sharing information, tips, encouragement, and prayers. And when Kimberly moved to Fayette County in April 2020 to be closer to family during treatment and recovery, she already had a friend nearby. It made going through cancer treatment during a pandemic a little easier because there was someone who understood the challenges.

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“The COVID-19 pandemic started in March and we were forced to go through much of our treatment and hospital stays on our own,” says Andrea. “My husband spent the night in his truck in the

parking lot of Piedmont Atlanta Hospital, just so he could be close.

It was not the way things would normally have gone, but we didn’t know any different.”

Kimberly, her husband, and their five children moved to Georgia in April, one month before her surgery. There was obviously a lot for the family to process, but she felt like they were in the right place. “My brother had settled here and my parents were talking about moving here, so it felt like God was orchestrating it and putting us where we needed to be.”

After both women completed their treatment and recovery, they felt they both had a larger purpose: raising awareness about ovarian cancer and raising funds for research into early detection.

Despite having no prior knowledge of staging a 5K fun run or launching a non-profit organization, the pair formed Harts of Teal in April 2021 and started telling their story and planning for an event in July 2021.

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“We hoped for 75 to 100 runners to help us raise a few thousand dollars,” says Kimberly. “Instead, we had 546 participate in the event. We were blown away to have raised $70,000 but, more importantly, I think we also raised awareness.”

The pair connected with individuals and groups throughout the area in the weeks and months leading up to the event. One connection was with The Thomas F. Chapman Family Cancer Wellness Center at Piedmont Fayette. The cancer wellness program at Piedmont is the region's leader in providing comprehensive, complementary cancer services and programs to anyone affected by cancer at any phase in his or her journey. In addition to receiving support from several teams from the hospital at July’s event, the Cancer Wellness Center expressed interest in Andrea and Kimberly starting an Ovarian Cancer Support Group this fall.

The explosion of teal coloring took the shape of wings prompting the race organizers to believe it was God’s way of saying he was at the event. Photo/ Taisley Weston Photography.

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“The goal is to inform the community, educate women, and help with awareness and research,” says Andrea, who added that she told her oncologist, John McBroom, M.D., to give out her number to any patients diagnosed with ovarian cancer who needed to talk to someone.

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“It’s a club you never wanted to be in, but that support is vital,” adds Kimberly.

Approximately 21,000 women will receive a cancer diagnosis in 2021, and nearly 14,000 women will die from the disease. The signs and symptoms of ovarian cancer are often overlooked because they are very non-specific. Some symptoms are bloating, weight gain around the belly, nausea and vomiting, and early satiety. These general symptoms are some of the reasons why ovarian cancer is often not caught early. Screening tests, such as a Pap test or HPV test aren’t effective tests for ovarian cancer.

The disease is often caught through imaging or a blood test, which often isn’t reliable at early stages.

Both Andrea and Kimberly had the sense that something wasn’t right with their health. They urge women to maintain their regular appointments with their physicians and gynecologists and be persistent if things don’t improve. Detecting ovarian cancer as early as possible is vital. The American Cancer Society states that when ovarian cancer is found early, 94 percent of patients live longer than five years after diagnosis.

Unfortunately, 85 percent of the time ovarian cancer is found it has already progressed to stage 3 and stage 4.

When 2020 started, Andrea or Kimberly didn’t know each other, but by the end of 2021, the duo have started planning for their second run, have launched a non-profit and a support group, and are successfully raising awareness about the signs and symptoms of ovarian cancer.

To learn more about Harts of Teal, visit hartsofteal.org. To learn more about Cancer Wellness at Piedmont, visit piedmont.org/cancer.

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Alethea Pavel, ion an RN in Radiat Oncology, and oncology nurse navigators Karen ine Bouwman and Ela ed Harbin represent e Piedmont Fayett Hospital at the Harts of Teal Family Fun Color Run. Photo/ Taisley Weston Photography.

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Fall is upon us, and whether your kids are still in virtual school or you’re still at home with the littles, it can become quite the challenge to transition into this next season prioritizing your health and fitness. I’ve been there. Too much to do and not enough time to do it. The kids need something all of the time. Point blank, when you do get a moment to yourself all you want to do is lay there.

Besides, who has time to go to the gym to get in a good workout???

The good news is you don’t have to go to the gym to get in a good workout!

You can workout in the privacy of your own home. Don’t think it’s worth your time? Would you like a magic pill that can help reduce your stress, give you more energy and help you fit into your clothes better? Surprise! It’s not a magic pill: The solution is exercise! Trust me, not only do you need a moment to yourself, your family will be much happier when you get that time. Below are a few excuses I’ve debunked in hopes that you’ll be one step closer to giving yourself the time you absolutely need and deserve!

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The EMOM Workout

Set your timer to ring every minute. Complete the sequence below, rest for the remainder of your minute and repeat for a total of 10 rounds.

When you’ve completed all 10 rounds, finish out with high knees for your final burner! Remember to modify if you need to. You can always take out the jumps and do your push-ups on your knees or the wall.

Pop Squat (Set of 7) Stand with your feet shoulder width apart. Slowly lower one hand towards the floor keeping your chest up. Jump up to bring the feet together and repeat, lowering the opposite hand.

Slow Push-ups (Set of 7) Place your hands on the floor and get into a plank position. Keeping your body tight, slowly lower your body to the floor (count of 2) and pop up back to the top (count of 1).

Reverse Lunges (Set of 7) Place both feet flat on the floor and stand up tall. Bring your right leg back into a lunge position and back up to the starting position. Repeat on the left side. That’s one. If you’d like to kick it into high gear, you can take out the rest in the middle and lunge from side to side.

Christina Alyson Maldonado is a certified fitness instructor who enjoys helping others to learn practical ways to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Christina’s battle with postpartum weight gain led her to make necessary changes that have produced sustained results and the creation of the FitMomATL programs.

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Embraces the Mess If you’re in the market for a new internet best friend, Mary Katherine Backstrom is your girl. She’s real, she’s honest, and she’s unapologetically messy.

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“I am all about mess, and being honest about mess.”

“My writing developed when I became a stay at home mom and I was unable to work,” she says. Years ago, suffering from depression, she started a blog that connected her to others and gave her a feeling of community. “That was the first time I considered my writing a true gift because it did something positive for me. And from there I started dreaming about everything that was possible with writing.”

MK, who has struggled with her relationship to religion, strives to use her writing, blogging, and videos to change the perspective and to open up conversations. “What I’m hoping to do is show that there’s a type of Christian, a type of person of faith, who loves people exactly where they are and doesn’t expect them to change in order to be loved. I’m still working through a lot of the 'church hurt’ that I experienced growing up, but I want people to see me and they see love and they see Jesus. I am trying to figure out how to get that message out there. That you can come and you can hear about my faith and not be afraid that I’m going to condemn you for being different and not being on the same journey as me.”

Anxiety, depression, and other mental illnesses are discussed frequently on MK’s pages. She says that the church she grew up in didn’t see mental illness as something needing to be seen by a physician. “I believe in the power of prayer,” she assures, “but I also believe that God sends miracles to our planet in the form of physicians and nurses and medicine.”

Those moments in life we all have when we’ve spilled something on our shirt before a meeting, or accidentally ordered the wrong thing from Amazon, or our zippered purse rips our dress up the front in the middle of the store… She’s accomplished all those things and shares them regularly, hilariously, with hundreds of thousands daily, live online.

Mary Katherine has made a whole career of being relatable on social media. And the Alabama-born-and-raised blogger encourages her audience every day to live life on life’s terms and to embrace the messiness that comes with it, all while keeping her faith in the forefront.

MK, as she’s known to friends and family, lives in Hunstville, Alabama, with her ER doctor husband, Ian, and their two kids, Holland and Ben. She created the popular blog Mom Babble, has written for the Today Show, landed on Ellen for hugging a complete stranger due to “Christmas spirit,” and has roughly 120 million views on Facebook alone.

In addition to all that, she’s just coming off a book tour of her new release Holy Hot Mess: Finding God in the Details of this Weird and Wonderful Life, in which she shares her successes and failures, fears and faith.

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“What God’s done in my life in my late 30s… I guess I can’t rule anything out, cause I never saw this coming!”

Recently, MK went live on Facebook, in the middle of the week, in the midst of excited posts promoting her new book, to cry and talk to her followers candidly about her struggle with depression. “I think it’s so important for people to know the truth behind social media that instead of a whole slew of highlight reels, there’s an actual person who has struggles and success. Because it’s so easy to buy into this narrative that everything is better for somebody else.”

“I have to remind myself that if all people are seeing is my highlight reel, then I’m contributing to that lie” she adds, “so I push back against it, and sometimes I have to check myself.”

The “Lie of Curation” she refers to in her book is something she battles constantly. Mary Katherine follows many other “hot mess mom” blogs, and she occasionally finds herself questioning them, and herself, in their authenticity. “It’s something that we all get caught up in. It’s like, at this point are we all just pretending to be messes? What about this is real?”

Her first “messy” viral video was three years ago. “I just opened up my makeup bag that’s just full of busted blush containers, eyeshadow that’s like three years old, melted lipstick, and it was just relatable; and that’s when I realized that people aren’t just looking to be entertained. They’re looking for relatable stories. And I loved that. It became an easy way to tell a story. If I didn’t have time to write, then I could just hop online and share it in five or ten minutes. And my audience appreciated it. It was a fun way to connect.”

“I struggle with anxiety which feeds into self doubt, so the nature of viral posts is good and bad,” she says. “It feeds the ego. You love it, and you love that success, but on the other hand you think, ‘This is it. I’ll never be funny again.’”

These days, her videos go viral every couple of weeks and she’s grateful for the exposure, though it can be tiring. “It’s almost like I feel like I have to carry that momentum in order to keep moving at all. You do it once or twice, and then you feel the pressure to keep it up. At first it was so much fun, and now I try not to look at the numbers because they stress me out,” she laughs. “I get in my head a lot about it, but that’s just my anxiety that I deal with. I talk about it candidly on my page.”

MK shoots a majority of her videos in the car. “Oh, yes,” she laughs. “I hide from my children in the car.

Sometimes I’m just in the driveway and I’m not even coming or going! I do actually have an office. Before it was like, ‘I’m going to take a trip to Target, but also since I’m an influencer and this is my job now, I should probably do a video and connect with my audience, but where am I going to do that?’ If I’m inside doing anything, they’re going to be a part of it.

There is a level of authenticity that I’m ok with, but my child pulling down his pants or yelling at me or me trying to discipline in a gentle and kind way is not something I want to do on live tv. I’m not a Kardashian.

The car is just so quiet, and the lighting is so good because there’s so much sun.”

(I should mention that during our interview, MK’s children were in and out of the room asking her for things and needing her hugs. So very on brand, MK.)

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She’s never liked the “influencer” term and admits that it makes her a bit uncomfortable, but she’s embraced it and hopes to use it in a positive way. “I am an influencer, but I hope that I’m an outlier.”

Ultimately, she says, she’ll be happy when her internet fame runs its course. “I won’t be sad when my ability to make money on Facebook goes away. I’m benefitting from it, but the whole culture is not good for us as a society. If it means losing my income for the whole thing to go away, I’ll be ok with it. Hopefully, I’ll establish myself as an author and a speaker and I can continue to work, but if not, I was happy as a mom when this thing started, and I’ll be happy as a mom when it’s over.”

MK has another book, focused on joy and rejecting comparison culture, in the works that’s set to release next year. Learn more about Mary Katherine on her website holyhotmess.com.

“Mary Katherine poured her heart into this book, just like she does with everything else. She has a tremendous love of life, love of others, and love of Jesus that shines in everything she does.” ~Blogger Amy Weatherly

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Crush on Velvet The luxurious, rich velvet trend of autumn is making us rethink our decor once again.

It’s available in every color you can imagine—not just the usual sage green and navy blue—but this russet orange sofa is the ONE. Paired with trending round, tufted, pintuck and pleated throw pillows and chunky knit throws, it’s the softest place to land this fall.

Don’t be afraid to mix up colors! We’ve got a huge crush on the rose hue of these pillows! You’ll be seeing it in curtains, comforters, headboards, and armchairs that add a soft touch to your bedroom or living space.

Another thing we’ve noticed is that new designs with the classic fabric are modernized with metal. The dark bronze of this sofa’s legs adds to its elegance while keeping its lines clean and minimalist.

Try Benjamin Moore Earthly Russet (217310) if you’d rather have the season’s popular color on your walls than on your furniture. It pairs well with rich cream and slate gray accents, and we’re positive you can find some velvet cushions in those shades.

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Welcome to my favorite time of year! The smell of mulling spices and pumpkin spice in the air. College football season is in full swing. You can actually have people over for bonfires and S’mores! Does it get any better? It does—you can start putting your pumpkins out!

I have a love affair with pumpkins. The more unusual they are, the better. Gladiator, Warty Goblin, Polar Bear, Cinderella, Crystal Star, I could keep going. They start being added to my home in the first part of September. I thought it was just me. Nope, I am not alone. September is by far my busiest month. Hay, corn stalks, gourds, and pumpkin adorn all of my outside space.

If you are tackling your porch yourself, I have a few suggestions for you. First, remember texture is your friend. Look for different types of pumpkins.

Even if you would like to use all of the same color, find ones with different textures and shapes. Second, use something to raise your pumpkins up.

You can use a hay bale, an interesting chair, stool, or bird bath to name a few. Pick something that reflects your space. Lastly, don’t limit your display to just pumpkins. Add in mums, corn stalks, and gourds. Trust me, this will make a difference!

Enjoy this magical season, and decorate your space to inspire conversation and relaxation.

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SNICKERDOODLES Ingredients ½ cup unsalted butter ½ cup sugar ⅓ cup light brown sugar tightly packed ¼ cup pumpkin puree 1 large egg yolk ¾ tsp. vanilla extract 1 ½ cups all purpose flour 1 ½ tsp. pumpkin pie spice 1 ½ tsp. cinnamon ½ tsp. baking soda ¼ tsp. cream of tartar ½ tsp. salt Topping 1 ½ tsp. cinnamon ½ cup sugar

Instructions Combine butter, sugar, and brown sugar, and stir until well combined. Add pumpkin and stir well.

Stir in egg yolk and vanilla extract.

In a separate bowl, whisk together flour, pumpkin spice, baking soda, cream of tartar, and salt until well combined.

Gradually add dry ingredients to wet until ingredients are well combined.

Cover cookie dough with clear wrap and place in the refrigerator to chill for at least 45 minutes.

Once the dough is nearly finished chilling, preheat the oven to 350F (175C) and line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. Prepare your cinnamon-sugar by whisking together 1/4 cup sugar and 2 tsp. ground cinnamon in a small bowl.

Remove dough from the refrigerator and scoop into 1 1/2 tablespoon-sized balls. Roll briefly between your palms until smooth, and then roll through cinnamon-sugar and transfer to the prepared cookie sheet, spacing at least 2" apart.

Bake cookies for 10–12 minutes. Keep your remaining dough refrigerated while cookies are baking, and do not place cookie dough on a hot baking sheet.

Allow baked cookies to cool completely on the cookie sheet before enjoying.

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APPLE CIDER Pour a large bottle of apple juice in a large saucepan. Pour one cup of mulling spices (I prefer Williams Sonoma’s) into a piece of cheese cloth or mulling spice ball. Set on low heat and simmer for a couple of hours. Ladle out into your favorite mug. If you are in the mood, add your favorite adult beverage. You won’t regret putting in the time to make this yourself. Your house will smell like fall... enjoy!

This is a fun and simple craft for fall that my thirteen-year-old daughter helped me with. I got all of the supplies from Walmart and a stick from my yard. Pick three of the wood crates from your local Walmart. Choose whichever Waverly Inspirations Chalk Paint colors (usually on the same aisle) that fit your space. Apply the paint. When it is dry, apply a coat of the Waverly Inspirations Matte Varnish. This will protect your cute project from the outside elements. When each one is totally dry, use wood glue to attach your stem to the top of each crate. Have fun using these on your porch for the fall season.

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While most people’s yards look a little bedraggled in the “dog days” of late summer and early fall, Barbara Anderson’s garden bursts into bloom with heat-loving, drought-tolerant plants that provide color and sizzle throughout the hottest months of the year. Barbara and her husband, Keenan, have lived in Fayetteville for 27 years and have gardened at their present home for 19. The home came with a nicely landscaped pool and entertainment area, but the rest of the mostly-wooded two acres did not offer much interest. Over the years, the couple has added their personal touches to liven up the entire backyard, creating a welcoming and comfortable slice of paradise for family and friends.

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To say that Keenan is a “handy man” is an understatement. He has built multiple structures in the garden to make the space more functional and fun.

When their two children were small, Keenan built them a charming playhouse.

Both kids are grown now, and the playhouse has been repurposed into a large storage shed that holds gardening and pool equipment.

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Near the pool, Keenan added a bathroom that can be accessed from outside, as well as an outside shower stall.

Because he loves to grill, Keenan built a grilling patio, with an overhead awning for shade and comfortable seating for people to relax and chat while he grills. During the pandemic shutdown, Keenan built a new three-car garage that is fully integrated into the space. He and Barbara built walkways and stone walls, connecting the new garage to the outside entertainment area, and moved and added plants to soften the look.

Barbara has an eye for color and design. Wherever you look, you will see a pop of bright color provided by blooming perennials, containers filled with annuals, and whimsical garden art.

Her workspace, where she keeps her tools and garden supplies, is hidden behind mature shrubs and a vinecovered arbor, but is still a charming space. Here, Keenan built Barbara a small garden shed with fence panels to house her most used tools.

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Some “bullet-proof” perennials Barbara loves that bloom profusely throughout the sunny areas are ‘Limelight’ hydrangea (Hydrangea paniculata); ‘Pugster’ butterfly bush (Buddleia), a new variety of dwarf bush that comes in blue, white, and amethyst; and Rockin'® Playin' the Blues® Salvia, a new variety of salvia that blooms continually, is fragrant, grows fast, and attracts pollinators.

Throughout her garden you will find masses of orange black-eyed Susan (Rudbeckia). For her containers, Barbara uses Angelonia and Dragon Wing® begonias because they can take the brutal late summer heat. In her shady areas, Barbara has planted azaleas, oakleaf hydrangeas, and large hostas.

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Get expert advice and help with a plan from the professionals at locally-owned nurseries. They want you to be successful and know what will work in your garden.

To keep from being overwhelmed, start at your back door—the place you can see from your window or where you spend your most time outside. Planting in the areas you see every day will bring you daily joy.

A couple of well-placed bird feeders will provide hours of entertainment.

Place feeders where you can watch birds’ antics from inside your house or on your patio.

For a shady garden, utilize the dappled sun areas at the perimeter (the dripline) of the trees. Many sunloving perennials will thrive at the edges of the tree line.

One of Barbara’s newest projects was tackling the tiered garden beds around her mailbox.

This area was a particular challenge since it sits in full sun and also attracts heat from the asphalt street. Barbara solicited the help of Robbi Martin and staff at Art of Landscaping who filled the beds with heat and drought tolerant plants—lavender, Agapanthus (Lily of the Nile), lantana, prostrate rosemary, and ‘Pugster’ butterfly bushes. The beds attract butterflies to the area for her neighbors to enjoy and help welcome those lucky family and friends who visit the Anderson’s garden paradise.

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Cutting Gardens and the Slow Flower Movement Photos by Bonnie Helander and Kristen Lindsey

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Kristen and Austin Lindsey like to

pause sometimes, take it slow, and

enjoy the wonders of nature they see all around them on their eight-plus

acres in a rural section of Newnan.

They live next door to Kristen’s

grandmother and her parents who,

along with her aunt, taught Kristen the pleasures of gardening.

Both Austin and Kristen have busy careers. Kristen is a dental hygienist in Peachtree City, and Austin is a home remodeler. While they love their day jobs, their eyes light up when they talk about their other passions.

Austin is a true craftsman who designs wood-fired pottery and is in the process of building an authentic anagama kiln, an ancient type of wood-fired kiln used in Japan as far back as the fifth century.

Kristen grows and sells seasonal, fresh-cut flowers to local vendors, including the Funky Shack Mercantile and Flower Market in Tyrone. She is part of the growing slow flower movement that encourages people to purchase cut floral bouquets that are locally-grown, seasonal, long-lasting, and grown using non-toxic organic pesticides (only sparingly as needed).

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During a visit to Scotland in 2018, Kristen became obsessed with European cottage gardens, and the blooming dahlias she saw just blew her away. She decided to try her hand at growing a cutting garden.

The 2020 pandemic gave her and Austin the opportunity to refashion an old dog kennel and run on their property into a fenced cut flowers and vegetable garden.

Kristen learned all she could about the slow flower movement, purchased seed and began planting rows of flowers that could be cut for sale to local wedding event planners and florists.

Debra Prinzing, who coined the phrase “slow flower movement,” and wrote the definitive book on the subject, Slow Flowers: Four Seasons of Locally-Grown Bouquets from the Garden, Meadow and Farm, writes, “Slow Flowers reflect life lived in the slower lane.” Slow flowers are not shipped from afar where workers are exposed to unhealthy pesticides and spraying practices. Slow flowers are planted with respect to the environment, are picked in season near peak bloom, and last longer in the vase.

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Kristen’s signature flowers are sunflowers and dahlias. Both have huge, stunning blooms that

become the stars of any arrangement. “People

are often intimidated by dahlias,” says Kristen.

“They are such luscious, exciting flowers that

bloom until the first frost. They are part of the ‘cut-and-come-again flowers’ that will give you rewards all season.” Other flowers Kristen includes in her garden (or plans to include

during expansion) are foxglove, zinnia, Nigella (Love-in-a-Mist) cosmos, salvia, amaranth, strawflower, Queen Anne’s lace, salvia,

Echinacea (coneflower), Rudbeckia, Shasta daisy, peonies, roses, and lavender.

According to Kristen, if you want to start a cutting garden, plant flowers that bloom during different times of the year—early to late spring, summer, and fall. Succession planting is the key to ensuring you have flowers to cut throughout the whole growing season. Plant not only flowers with spectacular blooms, but also filler plants that serve as an accent to your signature flowers. Fillers can be herbs with fragrance or interesting foliage, like mint or basil, or evergreen plants and grasses. Use a variety of annuals, perennials, and herbs in an arrangement. Don’t forget to add interesting natural elements like a twisted branch or dried seed pods for added appeal.

Kristen is amazed at the feeling you get when you start a plant from seed and watch it grow

into something beautiful, part of God’s creation. “I didn’t imagine how it would feel to have a

garden. I feel so peaceful. It

Homemade Floral Preservative to Keep Cut Flowers Fresh in a Vase Mix together: 2 Tbsp. fresh lemon juice 1 Tbsp. sugar 1/2 tsp. household chlorine bleach 1 qt. warm water

is miraculous and fills you up.”

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Compiled by Lori Duncan, Owner, Blue Fern in Newnan This month, we wanted to go with a modern/classic take on this stunning blue! Blue is always a classic and popular color, but a bluegreen feels a little more exciting and different. Paint Moscow Midnight on an accent wall or the entire space. Decorate with hues of blue and green with a bit of rose and white thrown in. These furnishings and decor give that modern and classic feel, without being too trendy. Try to find and use those pieces that you never tire of.

Don’t be afraid of color because life without color is boring!

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Black: Architecture in Monochrome $15.99; amazon.com Plant Tribe: Living Happily Ever After with Plants By Igor Josifovic & Judith De Graaff $35; urbanoutfitters.com The Gucci Mane Guide to Greatness By Gucci Mane Urban Outfitters $28; urbanoutfitters.com

GEORGIA_VINTAGE_COMPANY, INSTAGRAM MODERN

22” BLUE MONGOLIAN PILLOW - Z GALLERIE $134.99; zgallerie.com

NATURAL TEAK WOOD BOWLS WORLD MARKET From $13.48; worldmarket.com

GLOSSY COBALT BLUE PAGODA BAMBOO MIRROR $337; wellappointedhouse.com

BUNNY THE FRENCHIE DOG - Z GALLERIE $78.99; gallerie.com

LAMPS PLUS, CONNIE 360 LIGHTING, BLUE MARBLE USB TABLE LAMPS $139.99 for pair; lampsplus.com

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