A Man's Journey Wisdom for my Son
For You Son Rites of passage have all but been lost in many Western cultures. Sharing insights and wisdom from those who have come before has been the foundation for young men for centuries. Like many rites of passage however, this practice is slowly disappearing. You my Son are moving from being a Boy into being a Man and my heart swells. In an effort to share what I have learnt with you, I have taken insight from other men and my own life lessons and included them in this book, a personal gift from Me to You. This book gathers up thoughts so you may reflect and keep them close as you journey on the road to becoming the Man I know you are destined to be.
The father who does not teach his son duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them ~ Confucius
You do not need approval from any other person to be Yourself
You have one life. Be the unique person you are and who you wish to be. Do not seek out the fleeting or ill-advised approval of others. Consider advice and feedback, but live to be yourself and pursue your dreams, for you only live this life once. Play to your strengths. Your foundation is believing in your convictions, in who you are and doing what is right for you and not what the crowd says you must do, or become. In what you alone determine!
believe in, and be, yourself
You will feel bad, sad and even angry at times. Remember that emotions pass happiness and sadness.
You are an intelligent young man. When it comes to making decisions in life, avoid make decisions out of emotions. Wait....and never force a decision. Throughout your life, don't take anything too seriously. Don't take any ONE thing too seriously. You will always be You...you will always be what you are. Take that with you throughout your life as a man.
Pedro Zaragoza CEO RightHand Synergy, Inc
Do not take yourself or any one thing, too seriously and live lightly!
Insight from other successful men...
Throughout life we are presented with options: Forks in the road that may lead down minor or major life changing events. Every experience we navigate in our lives is an opportunity to learn and grow. Inevitably some of our decisions will be sound while others will be poor - that's simply the way life unfolds! It's natural behavior to shrink from our failings and focus on our successes; however, in my experience true leaders of men take responsibility for all their actions. Strive to be a man, surround yourself with men and women of strong character and success will surely follow.
Marc Hertz CEO GlycoRegimmune, Inc
A real man is not defined by the heroism he displays or a long list of successes, but rather by the manner in which he carries himself through success and adversity and the lessons he learns from both
One cannot consent to creep when one feels the impulse to soar ~ Helen Keller
Success comes from the understanding that transformation is not about changing what is, but creating what isn't ~ Mteto Nyati
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm - Ralph Waldo Emerson There is only one proof of ability - results. Men with ability in action, get results - Harry Banks Some Think, Some Do Some Both, But Few
think BIG, bright Goals
take Enthusiastic Action
Be grateful for, and positively Harness, your Sexual Energy
You must be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Don't use words or thoughts carelessly For neither can be retrieved ~ Anon
A wise man sees his life in Perspective
Treat others with kindness. There is no value to being rude or superior. Your greatest gifts will come from those you Love, so treat them with gentle hands and give of yourself. Learn to listen to what others are saying, really hear what they are saying. First look to understand, then later be understood. You will get in return what you give to others. By seeing others differently, they will start to see you differently. The quality of your life is a reflection of the state of your mind. The state of your mind is a reflection of how you feel. How you feel, is an emotion that sits inside your physical body so take extraordinary care of it. Drink water, exercise daily and eat healthy.
be Fit and Healthy
A new Attitude invariably creates a new result ~Anon
insight from other successful men... Becoming a man is an awesome, and sometimes difficult, adventure. I remember a time once when I was out riding my bike; riding down a very steep hill, coasting really fast without any effort, the wind blowing my hair back. It felt great. I looked over on the other side of the road and saw a man riding up the hill working hard just to keep moving and for a moment I thought, 'poor guy is working so hard and my ride is so easy and feels so good!'. As I continued to sail down the hill, I realized... yes he was working harder and going slower, yet that challenge was making him stronger, heart pumping - all the things I wanted to get out of a ride - he was getting. I was just riding along "feeling good". The lesson was this, difficulties and effort can sometimes be better for you than ease and comfort.
Steve Fabry CEO Compendia, Inc
There are three things that I can share that will help you be an extraordinary man and live and extraordinary life.
Learn that love is when you stop keeping score Embrace Truth & Responsibility: Think about what you do and always be responsible for your actions. Understand the implications of your actions on you and others. Life's mistakes are where we truly learn. Think about what you say and remember that the greatest thing about telling the truth is that you never have to remember what you said! Know Yourself: Knowing yourself best and better than anyone else in your life will take you far. This will impact your life personally and professionally more than most accomplishments in life. Being a man is truly a journey about knowing yourself and what you want. Be happy, and change other people's lives. Understand Love: The greatest definition that I have ever been given was when I was learning what it meant to be a man. Love is when you stop keeping score. It took me many many years to understand it. When you do, you will be further along than nearly any other man you meet.
Michael Slater CEO Nik Software, Inc
learn to be still, connect with the Quietness of the Universe
All of man's ills stem from his inability to sit quietly in a room alone Anon
Trust that inner voice
Connect to the Source that created All
There are only two ways to live your life.
Live a life of Balance
One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle Albert Einstein
Go quiet Reflect See that you are part of a divine plan Connect to that quiet place And be You
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.â€? ~ Charles R Swindoll
Insight from other successful men...
As you know, I'm not so far in age from you. I'm writing this from age 27, quite a few but not that many years your senior. I can tell you very clearly, that it feels like only yesterday that I was your age and entering into manhood. Although my life has changed significantly from when I was your age, I know many people who haven't changed much at all...other than their looks...their state of mind and maturity are similar to the way they were back then. Let me share with you why.
As you grow older and as you become a man, you will see that life doesn't just automatically change. There isn't a special "age" where we immediately switch into a new person. There is a constant evolutionary process that we go through into manhood and the decisions we make each and every day shape today and the rest of our life. It is all about the energy you put into it and living a life of true integrity throughout. No shortcuts. Just true energy from within.
CEO Online Guru, Inc .
Your mission at your age is to learn what it means to be a man. On the way always strive to learn: about yourself, your world and try to also take some time to learn about spirituality. It can also be said that life can be divided into stages. In the stage of childhood a person is taken care of by others. In adolescence a person learns to take care of themselves. It is in this stage that responsibility develops and in the years ahead you will be doing more and more things for yourself that others used to do for you. When this stage is complete you will be ready not only to look after yourself, but also to take care of others and in this, true manhood can be found. In taking care of others, with love and compassion, life's greatest rewards can be found.
Austin Blue President Spectrum Aeronautical, Inc
be a life long learner
Read and put good stuff in your mind, eventually good stuff will come out
love and teach your son
Come to the edge, he said. We can't, we are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. We can't, we will fall. Come to the edge, he said. And they came. And he pushed them. And they flew. - Guillaume Apollinaire
I will be here for some or most of your journey... yet as nature intends, I will miss and not be here for some of your adventure. But never forget the absolute love I have for you and how thankful I am for the joy you have brought. As your father, I love you more than words will ever express.
I want you to know that this moment and process is important. If there are only two lessons I can share, then these I give to you after much reflection.
First, do what you say you will do. That is all. Do this for yourself and for others. Remember to always keep your word. Wisdom is worth more than wealth and your word is beyond measure. Second, life is an adventure. This is the start of your journey. Don't look back and keep a smile on your face. The adventure means you treat yourself gently and do not live with regrets. Take challenges, risks and make mistakes. Live life as if you are a hero in your own personal adventure, for in truth it is. Be kind and gentle to those around you on your path. Adventures are to the adventurous and keep this spark of excitement throughout your years.
I have seen how blessed you are and how people are attracted to you. Be thankful for this gift and never abuse the trust others naturally place in you. Never forget the absolute love I have for you and how thankful I am for the joy you have brought.
Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing at all ~ Helen Keller