A FORCE OF CAMEROONIAN MEDIA
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Hi and welcome.
I started the year reflecting deeply on things, and even though I have always been a very reflective person, in recent times, it has become even more intense. All of a sudden, things are not at all surface level anymore.
I have wondered about delayed gratification, being persistent, and seeing no or few results. I have recently spoken to a lot of people weighed down by their seemingly “low optics"—people who are doing great things in their corners and are “not seen” or so they think because the noises around have "drowned or are drowning them. " I don’t have the answers they are looking for, but I know something about persistency and showing up every day prepared, and I offered that to them.
Our cover personality is resilient and defies odds; Joan Ngomba has done pretty well for herself in the media industry. She’s not your regular conventional one; she's totally different. Her approach is bold and daring and has no holding back, and somehow she’s forged a path for herself. She got her major break as the entertainment editor and the earliest VJ for Pulse. ng TV, where she got her first BBC feature for one of her shows then. She has constantly rolled up her sleeves and gotten to work. She is doing what she knows to do best, and she’s succeeding at it. Meet Cameroon's finest Joan Ngomba in this edition.
Joan Ngomba - a Force of Cameroonian Media Skincare
Per usual, we have fashion, beauty, and lifestyle tips for you. From how to style a common versatile piece to work to products' life cycles and more, you are in for a treat. The recipe in this edition is straight from Vanessa Detokunbo Bello’s kitchen, and it’s a must-try, easy, and yummy.
Olajumoke Olarewaju (PhD) explores grief in this edition, and it’s not in the common way we know—it's grieving as a result of life passing by. It’s a refreshing perspective and a must read. Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo is back talking about discernment and how it can be life-changing.
My ‘currently loving’ is packed in this edition, and I especially have one for you to check out. Learn about VOCE (check voce.style to get a first look and try out). As always, it’s a packed edition, a labour of love.
Don’t forget to read, enjoy, and share. See you in the next one!
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Creative Team
Editor in Chief- Olamide Elemdee Olarewaju
Photography - Jodeph Esaka, Unsplash, Chinedu Adiele
Visuals Editor- Oludemilade Aremu
IT - Solan Moor
SM - Omotolani Odumade
Contributors - Gbenga Samuel- Wemimo, Kunbi Sijuwade Esq, Hajarat Usman, Olajumoke Olarewaju (PhD), Danielle Ekezie, Vanessa Detokunbo-Bello
Spotlight House of DOT: Nigerian Craftsmanship, Sophisticated Playfulness
TO WEAR JEANS
are a versatile wardrobe staple almost everyone owns; they’re easily the most owned piece of clothing globally, so why not incorporate this piece seamlessly into even the trickiest work-inspired look?
Wearing jeans to work, as easy as it seems, might actually be tricky to style; you should aim to stay professional, as you wouldn’t want to be under- or overdressed in them. Anything overboard can easily be tacky, and you
Note that you should only wear jeans to work if your office dress code doesn’t frown at it. Even on a casual work Friday, there are still ways to
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These are the perfect styling tips to help you rock jeans for work:
1. Wear Dark Tones/Washes
It’s best to wear dark-wash jeans if looking to style for work. Light and medium washes often look too casual for work. Choose jeans with a uniform wash and free from any form of embellishments (unless it’s for the office party!).
2. Style jeans with boyfriend blazer
A well-tailored jacket will add a hint of professional va-va-voom to your denim-detailed getup. A welltailored blazer gives an impression of ‘meaning business'; when worn with the right kind of jeans, it will be effortlessly chic.
3. Wear jeans with classic cuts
Wear jeans in classic cuts to the office. Opt for wide-legged trouser-type jeans since they are sewn in the shape of dress trousers. Boot-cut and skinny jeans could work as well. Avoid anything excessively tight-fitting to prevent it from appearing overly provocative or unsuitable for a professional setting.
4. Pair jeans with a classic button-down shirt
To bring a work-chic theme to the look, pair jeans with a button-down shirt. Collared button-down shirts are the trademark of traditional office wear, so this works perfectly.
5. Pair denim with pumps
To create a business-like appeal, switch the flats/ sneakers for a pair of pumps. A closed-toe mid-heel pump will make your jeans look much dressier and smarter. Don’t go all out in towering heels or glittery sandals, as those may look unprofessional.
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YOUR PERFECT GUIDE TO
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These three quick tests help you know it’s time to toss your products.
The Colour Test - If your liquid foundation turns more orange than usual, then it’s oxidizing. This happens when it's exposed to air over time. When this happens, it may be time to let it go.
The Smell Test - If products like lipsticks smell waxy or stale, or mascaras smell like chemicals or are generally unpleasant, then it’s time to toss them into the bin.
The Texture Test - If your liquid product separates, is clumpy and gritty, and won’t mix after a good shake, then it’s mostly time to dump it in the trash.
You should know that wet products can easily attract and become a breeding place for bacteria, while cream products can go easily rancid. Powder products are less hospitable to bacteria, so they can last a little longer.
Generally, this is how long products should last for:
Liquid Foundation & Concealer - 6-12 Months
Mascara - 3-6 Months
Liquid Eyeliner - 3-6 Months
Cream Blushes - 12-18 Months
Powder and Powder Blushes - 24 Months
Lipsticks - 12 - 24 Months
WHEN DISCERNMENT IS KEY Faith & Divinity
By Gbenga Samuel Wemimo
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cripture repeatedly warns us about the danger of bad counsel. The Bible reveals this in the story of Ahithophel, a man whose counsel carried such weight that it was regarded as though one had inquired at the oracle of God (2 Samuel 16:23).
SHe was esteemed, trusted, and relied upon, not only by David but later also by Absalom. Yet, despite his reputation, he became a part of an evil conspiracy. When Absalom rebelled against his father, David, the conspiracy gained strength, and the people increased continually with Absalom (2 Samuel 15:12). In the midst of that uprising, Ahithophel joined himself to Absalom.
Then the report reached David: “…Ahithophel is among the conspirators with Absalom…” (2 Samuel 15:31). The presence of Ahithophel in Absalom’s camp meant strategic advantage because his counsel was powerful, persuasive, and influential. But David didn’t panic or try to outmanoeuvre Ahithophel by human strategy. He simply prayed, “…O LORD, I pray thee, turn the counsel of Ahithophel into foolishness” (2 Samuel 15:31).
That prayer reveals a vital truth: no matter how intelligent a counsel appears, if it’s aligned against God’s purpose, it can be defeated. This is why discernment is essential for leaders. Not every voice around leaders is sent to help. Some counsellors present themselves as wise, but their intent is to mislead, divide, and destroy.
They push out the good, speak against the righteous, and attempt to plant ideas that weaken what God is building. But they’re not beyond the reach of divine judgment. The Lord can expose them, silence them, and turn their wisdom into foolishness.
As Christians, we must understand and take advantage of our authority in Christ to affect nations and their leaders, families, and destinies. Therefore, always pray with understanding that those in authority may be guided by truth, surrounded by righteous counsel, and strengthened to fulfill God’s purpose. Pray that the Spirit of God will continually grant them discernment to identify and prevail over deceptive agendas and walk in the wisdom of God. Praise God! Be sober, be vigilant, because your adversary the
devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8).
In Luke 13, a woman who was bent double came into the synagogue; the Bible says for eighteen years she couldn’t straighten up herself. But Jesus knew her problem was spiritual. So He said to those present, “… ought not this woman, being a daughter of Abraham, whom Satan hath bound, lo, these eighteen years, be loosed from this bond on the Sabbath day?” (Luke 13:16).
Who could have thought it was a spirit of infirmity that held her bound? Medical doctors would have been trying to find out what happened to her bones, muscles, tendons, or ligaments—carrying out futile tests. But Jesus discerned that it was a spirit of infirmity.
It’s important that you’re spiritually discerning; be spiritually minded. You have the Holy Spirit living in you; He’s the Spirit of knowledge. Through the revelation and enlightenment He brings to your spirit,
You can know the truth about any situation. He’s the Spirit of truth, and part of His ministry in your life is to guide you into all truth. That way, you can always tell what’s behind a particular problem or situation.
It’s also not enough to simply know what’s behind the problem or that a case is spiritual. Learn from what Jesus did; the Bible says, “And when Jesus saw her, he called her to him and said unto her, Woman, thou art loosed from thine infirmity. And he laid his hands on her, and immediately she was made straight and glorified God” (Luke 13:12-13). Hallelujah!
Jesus said the woman was bound by the devil, and if His diagnosis was wrong, His prescription or response would have yielded no result. Jesus always interpreted and dealt with issues from the spiritual standpoint. Likewise, you must be spiritual and spiritually minded. Listen to the Spirit of God, study and meditate on the Scriptures, and pray often in the Spirit, and your spiritual alertness and sensitivity will be at their peak always.
That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and
revelation in the knowledge of him (Ephesians 1:17).
“Revelation” in the foregoing verse is the Greek word, “apokalupsis,” which means an unveiling. “Knowledge," on the other hand, is the Greek word "epignosis," which means a full discernment, an accurate knowledge of God.
The Amplified Classic Translation makes it a lot clearer. It says, “[For I always pray to] the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, that He may grant you a spirit of wisdom and revelation [of insight into mysteries and secrets] in the [deep and intimate] knowledge of Him” (Ephesians 1:17). There are mysteries and secrets about life, and the anointing and wisdom of God are in you to guide and give you insight into these mysteries and secrets of God.
Psalm 25:14 says, “The secret of the LORD is with them that fear him….” Life for us isn’t a mystery anymore, because the Holy Spirit is in us, and part of His ministry in us is the unveiling of truth. He grants us spiritual understanding. We know why things are the way they are, and we always know what to do through the Spirit (John 16:13).
For example, earlier in His ministry, the Lord Jesus met Peter cleaning and mending his net after a fruitless fishing expedition. He requested to use Peter’s boat to preach, and when He was through, He asked Peter to launch into the water for a great haul of fish. Peter recalled how he and his colleagues had toiled all night to no avail. But at the word of the Master, he let down his net, and sure enough, it was the catch of his lifetime (Luke 5:1-8).
Jesus knew where the fishes were. That’s spiritual insight and understanding. He’s the creator of all things. He knows the mysteries and secrets of life. He knows where the businesses are. He knows where the money is. He knows what ideas to give to you to take your ministry and work to the next level. Trust Him with your life. Make knowing Him more and keeping His Word your greatest passion. Through that fellowship, He’ll keep unveiling Himself and the greater mysteries of the Kingdom to you. This is God’s desire for you: that you function with the Spirit of wisdom, expressed in full discernment and accurate knowledge of Him.
About
Gbenga Samuel Wemimo, GSW as he's fondly called by all, is a man after God's own heart. He lives, eats and breathes the consciousness of the love of the father and sees only testimonies of his love. He is the founder of Pneuma School of the Supernatural and Bible (PSSBC) college, Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo Ministry International (GSWMI) with diverse and different ministries under it that spans the Globe.
GSW is a kingdom influencer, his daily teachings on social media, continues to be inspiring and impactful to millions of lives worldwide, his work is bringing the living waters to the heirs of salvation all over the world.
Currently Loving
FCo Selects
By Olamide Olarewaju
n this issue, I am sharing things that currently ground my day and make a cute little difference in my day-to-day. Some clear my mind and give me little pockets of breath as I navigate multiple businesses while still trying to stay creative and alive…in Lagos.
IMy DKNY Jenny Tote
A gift from my aunt years ago, but it recently made a comeback, and it’s now my almost daily go-to. The best part about this tote is how spacious it is. I throw everything possible in there. I like that it’s black, has the sleek DKNY monogram fabric, and has a long enough strap. I just love how easy it makes my life. When I have to take my MacBook with me, it goes in! I absolutely love it.
My La Taverna Sourdough Bread
I know, this is almost a constant part of my mornings now. I happened upon La Taverna sourdough bread, and for someone who isn’t a bread lover, I was shocked to get hooked on it. I especially like it because it’s a healthy option, so my breakfast is usually that with sides of egg cups and some fruits. It’s a constant thing I’m currently loving, and I have been for a minute. back in this edition!
(voce.style)
I have a new obsession with this app that helps you visualize your clothes before you buy. I think it’s set to be a game changer. Though currently in the super early stages. I had a chat with the founder and creator, Lindi, and got to try it and absolutely love it. I uploaded my images and was able to see what the piece I chose would look like on me! I got an image and even a video! (walking the runway). You should try it especially if you have a fashion business!
Cerave SA Smoothing Cream
I use CeraVe foaming cleanser, and I have for years now, but this smoothing cream really improved the texture of my skin. It was a random gift that I decided to take and use on a trip, and it was so good and fragrancefree. It instantly hydrates and feels smooth against my skin without being oily, and in less than a week, a few days actually (I am not kidding), I saw noticeable changes in my skin: the texture was better, my skin was
Knightsbridge Lemon Instant Tea Drink
This refreshing tea is everything yum. I take it hot or cold, and it hits the same every single time. I happened on this tea a long time ago—as a matter of fact, my mum introduced it to me; she thought I would love it. She wasn’t wrong. It’s one of the things I take first thing in the mornings when I am trying to start my day slowly. I scoop a few tablespoons of the granules and add boiling water, let it sit for a bit, and sip on it slowly. It is refreshing. Some evenings, I take it cold when I need a zing. I currently have a stash of the peach flavour from my cousin, and I am sorted for a minute.
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Shopping
A Guide to Conscious Curation and Heritage
The current shift in Nigerian fashion to intentionality is exciting. It is touching on longevity and heritage and is somewhat artisanally inclined. It is not in any way shabby. We are moving away from fast fashion fixes. It’s time to celebrate our textile heritage without letting up on present silhouettes. Love it!
We are exploring asooke in more exciting styles, Adire in bold designs, juxtaposing colours like we didn’t think was possible until now. It’s the perfect time to curate a timeless and fun wardrobe, and these pieces should be on your list.
Obome Akwa-Ocha Coat
This coat is custom hand-dyed in FashionandCoCO’s marbling print, and at least 6 stripes were combined in different handwoven designs to make the coat. It is fully lined and belted and would make a timeless piece for any wardrobe anywhere in the world. There’s no limit to styling it. Made from handwoven Akwa-Ocha, loosely translating into “White Cloth," synonymous with the people of Anioma (the Igbo-speaking part of Delta) and worn on special occasions.
is bathed in wax and then crumbled to create the veiny details seen on it. Because the design is handmade, no two of these are the same. Matching sets are in and are going nowhere soon. This one uses Funtua fabric from Northern Nigeria. It is breathable, gentle on the skin, and generally has an easiness to it. Also, each piece can be styled separately.
Atali skirt
This skirt is understatedly gorgeous. It features a flirty side high slit and soft fringe at the bottom. The yellow Akwete, an intricately handwoven fabric from Abia State, and the Emmy kasbit woven details make it a timeless keep. There are no limits to styling this seemingly simple piece.
Ure Woven Skirt
This skirt is in but will also be around for a while. Though made with a blend of cotton and rayon, this Hertunba piece in any colour is a versatile one. The skirt has a dramatic drape to the asymmetrical shape that stands out and pairs easily with almost anything: tank tops, bralettes, shirts, and so on. The styling is limitless.
Hertunba Ure skirt
Emmy Kasbit-Atali Skirt
Joan Ngomba
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CREDITS
Photography - Jodeph Esaka
Makeup - Vanessa Ndukong
Hair - Serian Beauty Hair
Styling - Joan Ngomba’s Wardrobe
Creative Direction - Olamide Olarewaju
Location - City Boy Studio, Buea
Cover Story
Joan Ngomba is one of Cameroon’s most influential media personalities. With over a decade of experience under her belt. She is a visionary, award-winning journalist in entertainment and African celebrity culture. From getting profiled on a BBC Africa feature in 2016 for her popular ‘Joan on Sex’ show on Pulse TV, where she was also the celebrity editor, producer, and red carpet host, before then, she created E-Rap-up, the first urban entertainment show on Biscon World Television. Joan has come a long way.
She is known for her work as a TV presenter, executive producer, and event host. She began her career as a radio broadcaster at Ocean City Radio, Limbe, in 2008, before moving to Lagos, Nigeria, in 2009, where she worked with Biscon World Television and later Pulse TV. Today, she easily sits at the top of the Cameroonian media landscape, a transformation that feels both inevitable with the work she’s put in and definitely profoundly earned. Her love for fashion has seen her consistently on the top 10 list of the most stylish media personalities in Cameroon, landing her fashion and beauty partnerships.
In the last few months, Joan has hosted The Cameroon International Film Festival, the CAMIFF Closing Gala, The Cameroon International Music Festival People’s Choice Awards, the PANACHE D'OR Beauty Awards 2025, and Miss Orangina 2025, to name a few. For someone who told herself, "I can’t MC events," hosting gigs has really been the “thing that has turned her career and reputation around."
After a few years in Lagos, where she refined her craft as a writer, red-carpet host, producer, and more, she returned to Cameroon with a mission to professionalize the narrative. In 2016, she fully
launched her own network, DcodedTV Studios, airing on VOA and two other local TV stations in Cameroon, having continuously built this platform while in Lagos. She continues to explore a partnership with Nikki Heat Entertainment, producing shows like “Freaky Table," “Street Ball Banter," and “Word Association with DCODEDTV," while maintaining her status as an award-winning blogger and red-carpet authority.
Whether she is championing the Cameroonian talent, navigating the complexities of fashion on the red carpet, sharing the deeply personal chapters of her journey into motherhood, or speaking up against female discrimination while supporting internally displaced persons in Cameroon, Joan remains the media diva who refuses to be pigeonholed.
In this exclusive sit-down for Fashionandco, Joan shares her decade-long journey and where she is currently at…
1. You are widely recognized for your standout red carpet presence. For you, is fashion an armour, a marketing tool for your DecodedTV brand, or just a form of self-expression? How do you balance being a serious media executive with the visual demands of being a stylish media personality?
Joan - Fashion is definitely a form of self-expression for me. As a media personality, I understand the importance of visual storytelling, and my style is an extension of that. It's not just about the clothes; it's about the confidence and energy I bring to the red carpet. I see it as a way to own the moment and connect with my audience.
As for balancing the serious side with the stylish side, I think they're not mutually exclusive. My style is a reflection of my personality, and being authentic is key to my brand. It's about finding that sweet spot where professionalism meets personality.
2. Joan, you gained recognition in the Nigerian media space before returning to Cameroon to DecodedTV, which you continued to build while in Nigeria. Many would have stayed in the comfort of an established market, but you chose to go build from the ground up at home. When did you realize your influence was better served as a pioneer in Cameroon than as a player in Nigeria?
Joan - For me, it was never about being comfortable; it was about creating impact. I realized my experience in Nigeria was valuable, but my passion was to build something meaningful back home. It wasn't about being a pioneer; it was about bringing value to Cameroon and Cameroon’s show business.
When I saw the gaps in our media landscape and thought, 'I can make a difference here,' that's when I knew it was time to bring DecodedTV home. It's been a journey, with so many challenges, but I'm loving every bit of it as I go along.
3. Tell me about hosting/MCing some of the biggest events in Cameroon, which you felt you couldn’t do at a point. How has that helped your journo career?
Joan - Hosting the biggest and most-watched entertainment award show in Cameroon—the CANAL D’OR Awards—twice and in front of the First Lady, Madam Chantal Biya, has taken my reputation as an English-speaking TV presenter and media personality to a whole new level. Francophones, who make up 2/3 of my country’s population, now know who I am and accord me the respect and opportunities I deserve.
I also hosted the launch of the Crédit Communautaire d'Afrique Bank (CCA Bank) headquarters in 2025, one of the biggest privately owned banks in the country, alongside a media icon, President Tchop Tchop, and when I tell you my contact list changed, I’m not even playing!
The short of the story is that me hosting events - film festivals, award shows, weddings, book launches, etc. has catapulted my career and exposed my company to many more people in and out of Cameroon.
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4. DecodedTV has become a powerhouse in Cameroon. Coming from a heavy digital content writing, producing, and VJ background at Pulse Nigeria, how did you navigate the unique challenges of the Cameroonian media market? What "Nigerian grit" did you bring with you, and what did you have to unlearn to win over your local audience?
Joan - Navigating the Cameroonian market was a whole vibe, honestly. I brought the Nigerian grit of hustle and adaptability, but I also knew I had to unlearn some things. Understanding our local nuances, embracing our unique cultural flavour, and being authentic were key. We focused on creating content that resonates with Cameroonians, and that's what won us over. I truly believe that what really clicked was showing them that our showbiz can be portrayed in a more modern way, and it can be seen globally with top-notch production. We gave them a glimpse of what's possible, and they loved it.
That said, Decoded TV Studios continues to produce television content many didn’t think they needed until it appeared on their timelines. I created game shows like “Word Association” with celebs and delved into my passion for football by creating “Street Ball Banter” to interact with football fans at local joints in towns.
These shows have brought the local audience closer to me and the studio. I lend my voice to organizations and institutions that support children and the girl
child in various fields of life. For example, through “The Auntie Felicia Foundation," we were able to send close to 100 children to school last academic year.
Every Christmas, for the last three years, my friends and I have poured our support into a small orphanage in a village in Buea, where we donate food, toilet items, medicine, and finances for education to children there. All these things have been so fulfilling.
5. As the biggest TV personality in your country, arguably, you merge Cameroonian culture and global media trends. How do you use your platform (and your wardrobe) to elevate Cameroonian identity without losing that "pan-African" appeal that made you a household name across the continent?
Joan - Ahhh, I'm humbled. 'Biggest TV personality in Cameroon' is huge; I'm just one of them. I think it's also about balance. I use my platform to showcase the best of Cameroonian culture, from our fashion to our people and to our stories, in a way that feels authentic and modern.
My wardrobe's a mix of traditional touches and global trends – it's about telling our story in a language that resonates across Africa and beyond. DecodedTV is all about celebrating our uniqueness while being a part of the larger African narrative. We vibe with our local audience but also connect with the continent.
6. Being a media entrepreneur comes with a specific kind of pressure. You aren't just running a business; you are setting the stage for the next generation of Cameroonian creatives. What is the hardest part of being "Joan Ngomba" that people don't get to see?
Joan - Honestly, it's the weight of responsibility. I think about the young creatives looking up to me, and I want to make sure I'm setting a good example. It's not just about me; it's about paving the way for them. The hardest part is the pressure to always be 'on,' to always have the answers, and to balance my own dreams with the expectations of others. But what people don't see is that I also have days where I don't have it all figured out. I just try to stay true to myself and keep pushing forward.
7. You've been open about your decision to embrace motherhood before the age of 40. In an industry that often demands women choose between their "peak" career years and their personal lives, how did you arrive at the clarity that was the right time? Has becoming a mother changed anything for you?
Joan - For me, it was about balance. I wasn't going to put my life on pause for anyone, not even my career. When I got pregnant, it felt like the universe was telling me to slow down and prioritize. Becoming a mom to my daughter, Talia, has been a game-changer – it's like my purpose shifted. I'm more focused, more driven, and more me. I don't see it as choosing between career and personal life; I see it as having both, just differently. My daughter's my motivation to keep pushing and also to enjoy the ride.
8. With all you've achieved so far, what does success look like to you now?
Joan - Success now? It's about impact and legacy. I want DecodedTV to be a household name, not just in Cameroon but across Africa.
I want to see more young Cameroonians telling their stories, showcasing our culture, and owning their narrative. And personally, I want to be a mom who's present, loving, and maybe even doing a few more things I've got on my bucket list. Success is about leaving a mark but also enjoying the journey.
Life Series
GRIEF HAS CHANGED THE WAY WE BEHAVE
By Olajumoke Olarewaju (PhD)
think one of the strangest things about grief is that sometimes it does not look like crying. It looks like sleeping all day because being awake feels expensive. It looks like overworking because silence is too loud. It looks like buying clothes you do not need because for five minutes, the package arriving feels like hope.
Sometimes it looks like laughing too hard at an Owambe. Or avoiding calls. Or scrolling endlessly at 2AM. Or becoming obsessed with productivity because if you stop moving, you might finally feel everything. And honestly, I think many of us are grieving right now, not just people but realities.
Especially as Nigerians, grief has become woven into ordinary life. We are grieving kidnappings that no longer shock us the way they should. We are grieving children stolen from schools while trying to learn. We are grieving the horror of watching videos circulating online, terrified schoolchildren, abducted people pleading for help, and families begging strangers on the internet to care.
Recent attacks in Nigeria have left dozens of children missing yet again, reopening wounds many Nigerians have carried since Chibok. We are grieving a country where people now whisper “God Abeg” before entering buses or traveling home. We are grieving trust in systems, in leadership, in safety, in the promise that if we work hard enough, someday things will soften. Instead, every week feels like another “breaking news” notification carrying somebody’s tragedy.
Fuel price.
Exchange rate.
Another kidnapping.
Another video.
Another family shattered. At some point, your body just says, “Omo… I cannot shout.”
And that is the difficult thing about modern grief: life does not pause long enough for us to process any of it.
The bills still arrive.
Your boss still sends a “gentle reminder."
Nigerian parents still ask when you are getting married as if the economy itself is not fighting for survival.
Someone is still posting soft life content while you are trying not to lose your mind in traffic on Third Mainland. So instead, many of us adapt. We become emotionally creative.
Some people become hyper-independent.
Some become numb.
Some become “strong friends.”
Some disappear into church.
Some disappear into hustle culture.
Some suddenly cannot rest without guilt.
Some use humour for everything because if we do not laugh, ah… we may actually cry in public.
And Nigerians? We are Olympic-level jokers.
We can turn national frustration into memes in under six minutes.
NEPA will “take light” , and somebody will tweet, “Country bad but God badder.”
There is always one uncle saying, “At least we are alive,” while generator fumes are slowly repositioning everybody’s lungs.
Humour is one of our oldest survival tools. But beneath many of these behaviours is something deeply human: coping.
Behaviour is often communication. Even the behaviours we judge in ourselves.
That irritability? Maybe exhaustion. That emotional distance? Maybe fear of more loss. That inability to rest? Maybe survival mode. That constant need to stay online? Maybe loneliness. That need to “always have it together”? Maybe a lifetime of believing vulnerability is unsafe.
Grief changes behavior because grief changes the nervous system. It changes how safe the world feels. It changes what the body expects from tomorrow.
And if we are honest, many Nigerians have been functioning in chronic emotional survival mode for years. This is why compassion matters now more than ever, not the Instagram-quote version of compassion but the real kind.
The kind that says:
“Maybe this person is carrying something invisible.” “Maybe I am carrying something invisible too.”
Because not all grief comes with condolences.
Some grief comes with Japa plans that failed. Or unpaid salaries. Or burnout. Or infertility. Or migration loneliness.
Or watching your parents grow older while you are still trying to become financially stable. Or realizing the version of Nigeria you dreamed about may not arrive in the way you imagined.
And still somehow, we wake up.
Still show up.
Still send “Have you eaten?” texts. Still dance at weddings. Still buy aso-ebi that we cannot afford. Still say, "We thank God," with the last strength in our chest.
There is something profoundly beautiful about that too.
So how do we cope without losing ourselves?
Not perfectly. Not aesthetically.
Not with one influencer shouting about discipline at 5AM. But intentionally.
Sometimes coping looks like naming what hurts instead of pretending you are “fine.”
Sometimes it looks like therapy. Or prayer. Or community. Or rest without guilt.
Or logging off because your body was never designed to absorb endless tragedy in HD. Or saying, “I genuinely cannot do this today.”
Sometimes, healthy coping is simply becoming curious about your own behavior instead of being ashamed of it.
Why am I reacting this way?
What am I avoiding?
Why does rest make me anxious?
Why do I feel guilty when things are finally calm? What kind of care do I actually need?
These questions matter because awareness interrupts autopilot.
And maybe that is where healing begins, not in becoming unaffected, but in becoming honest.
I do not think grief ever fully leaves us. I think it changes shape. I think we carry it differently over time. I think some days it sits quietly beside us, and other days it knocks everything over in the kitchen.
But I also think Nigerians are deeply adaptive people. Soft, resilient, funny, exhausted people, trying to survive hard things without becoming hard ourselves.
So, if you have felt more anxious lately, more tired, more emotional, more avoidant, more sensitive, more withdrawn, more angry, or more “not like yourself,” maybe pause before judging yourself.
Maybe ask instead: “What has my body been trying to survive?”
That question might change everything.
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BRAIDS ARE HAVING AN
It-Girl Moment
(TIPS BEFORE YOU BOOK THAT APPOINTMENT)
Braids are totally having a moment right now. A casual scroll on your Instagram and Pinterest feeds will attest to this. They are also back more stylish than ever - because let’s be honest, braids have always been the GOAT of protective styling.
Whether you are leaning towards The Fulani Braids or the Short Bob French Curls braids, The BOHO, The Twists, The Knotless, The Jumbo Cornrows and many more. Braids are back and in new exciting and intricate ways. Let’s just say this protective style is one of the hottest (if not the hottest) right now.
If you need a sign to book your braider’s appointment, this is your reminder, plus you get tips to keep it in top shape till your takedown day. No matter what types of braids you decide on, there are things you need to put in place to get the most out of them:
QUALITY HAIR EXTENSION
This matters a lot. Opt for original human hair extensions so you are assured of long-lasting and non-frizzy hair. They also come easier to tend to, so your hair doesn't end up in a tangled mess after a few days. Also make sure your braider is experienced. By all means avoid packing products (gels, etc.) into your hair. This reduces the life span of your braids.
THE NIGHT ROUTINE
Make sure to secure braids in a very loose bun or pony and pack them into a silk or satin sleep cap. Never sleep on cotton pillowcases without securing them if you don’t want to wake up to frizzy hair after a short while.
DON’T IGNORE YOUR SCALP
Avoid heavily greasing/oiling your scalp to avoid product buildups. This will shorten the lifespan of your braids. Instead mist your scalp with a lightweight mix of leave-in conditioner and water and a few drops of your favourite essential oil. Lock in moisture with a light oil like jojoba.
FRESHEN
If your braids are still new after a few weeks, then freshen them by using a good foaming mousse, then wrap your hair tightly with a satin scarf and blow-dry on low heat for a few minutes to tame flyaways and refresh your braids!
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WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT GUT HEALTH
THE GUT
It’s the gastrointestinal (GI) tract, the long tube that starts from your mouth and ends where food leaves your body. It is a “food processor” as well as a home to the gut microbiome, aka millions and trillions of fungi, bacteria, and viruses collectively. This also means the gut has a mix of good and bad bacteria that all have their own functions.
Apart from it being the food processor, some of the things you feel start from the gut (it’s not called a "gut feeling" for nothing); the anxiety you feel before a big moment, the sometimes unsettling feeling in your stomach, and so on happen because the gut is connected to the brain through a nerve pathway called the "brain-gut axis."
Over 80% of the body’s serotonin (happiness/emotional stability hormone) is produced in the gut. Because the gut is sensitive to daily habits, it is worth noting to pay attention to it daily in all the seemingly simple ways.
HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR GUT DAILY
Maintaining your gut is important for your general well-being. This doesn’t necessarily mean taking expensive supplements or some special foods. It mostly just requires daily habits to help it function optimally. It has to form a lifestyle/way of life so, over time, it comes naturally, daily.
If you ignore your gut health, the damage may appear with signs like chronic constipation or diarrhea, which may be a signal of gut inflammation. Food intolerances and serious acid reflux as well as unexplained weight fluctuations and so on.
Before now, conversations around health focused on common issues and, more recently, weight management. In the wake of more people learning more about their health and getting in tune with their bodies, the conversation is moving more towards gut health.
People have come to realize how important gut health is to general well-being - think energy levels down to even ‘simple’ things like skin health. Everything goes back to the gut. i.e., your digestive system.
This article will attempt to break down the science of gut health and translate research into practical wisdom tailored for everyday living.
There are a few habits you may want to adopt for a healthier gut:
Eat your food a little slower and make sure to chew food completely because digestion starts from the mouth with the saliva.
Aim for 7-8 hours of quality rest at night to repair the gut while you sleep. This also helps to lower your cortisol (aka stress) level.
Avoid stress. Research shows chronic stress alters the stomach environment by reducing blood flow to the digestive organs, which ends up weakening the gut lining.
Eat healthier. Opt for complex carbohydrates and whole unrefined foods that give the gut the fibre it needs.
Cut out refined sugar, fast food, and highly processed food that poisons the good bacteria in the gut and feeds the harmful ones; this may lead to inflammation.
HOW TO KNOW YOUR GUT IS FUNCTIONING WELL
Consistent bowel movement. When you can go once or twice daily seamlessly in a few minutes without using laxatives, without straining, and without any pain.
Energy. When you don’t suffer constant fatigue. A healthy gut absorbs minerals and vitamins that fuel it so your energy level isn’t abnormally depleted.
No unexplained rashes. When your skin looks healthy and radiant. Your skin mostly reflects how your gut feels, so if you notice unexplained acne or eczema, your gut may be trying to tell you something.
No abnormal bloating or gas. While it is normal for the body to produce gas as bacteria ferment food, a healthy gut will handle this naturally. If you eat and immediately your stomach is bloated and gassy, then your gut may be signalling something.
Disclaimer: The information in this article is based on personal research and for informational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet or health regimen.
Eats
CREAMY TOMATO PRAWN SPAGHETTI WITH GARLIC BREAD
By Vanessa Detokunbo-Bello
Sometimes after a long week, you just want something quick, comforting, and full of flavour. This creamy tomato prawn spaghetti with garlic bread is one of my favourite Saturday night go-to meals.
It's simple to make, ready in no time, and perfect for those evenings when you want a homemade dinner without spending hours in the kitchen.
Ingredients
Pasta
• 400g spaghetti
• 300g king prawns
• 1 tbsp olive oil
• 1 onion, diced
• 3 garlic cloves, minced
• 400g chopped tomatoes
• 150ml double cream
• Salt, pepper, parsley
Garlic Bread
• 1 baguette
• 75g butter, softened
• 3 garlic cloves, minced
• Dried parsley (optional)
Directions
1. Mix butter and garlic, spread on baguette, and bake at 180°C for 10–12 minutes.
2. Cook spaghetti according to packet instructions.
3. Fry onion in olive oil for 5 minutes. Add garlic and cook for 1 minute. Stir in chopped tomatoes and simmer for 10 minutes.
4. Add cream and prawns. Cook for 3–4 minutes until the prawns cooked through.
5. Season with salt and pepper.
6. Toss spaghetti through the sauce and garnish with parsley.
7. Serve with garlic bread.
VDB/ creamy pasta
House of DOT
NIGERIAN CRAFTSMANSHIP, SOPHISTICATED PLAYFULNESS
I Spotlight
f you catch yourself on Instagram doing a double take at a chic, playful, embellished box bag; gravity-defying or candy-themed heels; and a standout playful mix of colours on accessories, you might have found House of DOT.
DOT handmade leather goods are pristine, sophisticated, unique, and playful all at the same time. From her bold bags, some named after your most fashionable icons like the SJP (Sarah Jessica Parker) bags, the Manhattan bags, and other unique studded designs, the sophisticated playfulness and African craftsmanship DOT brings are absolutely refreshing.
Founded by the super creative Dorothy Ughenu, Lagos-based House of DOT debuted at the inaugural Lagos Fashion Week in 2011, growing from there to make a name as the artful leather goods brand.
At the heart of this is a fresh new collection from the brand FANCY. The FANCY Collection, born from gratitude and a desire to equip women for world domination, stands out.
“The FANCY Collection was inspired by gratitude, the word 'fancy,' and my need to give us (women) the right shoes for world domination. The late Marilyn Monroe said it best: Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world. Ughenu shares.
In her words, "Fancy" means highly decorated, elaborate, or special. In leather parlance, it refers to decorative hardware or embellishment. The conventional shoes come with decorative hardware and basic heels. I wanted a break from the basic and conventional. I flipped the script and decided to make the heels ‘the fancy’- the decorative element. Each pair of shoes is named after my long-time friends and day-one clients. It was my ode to them for supporting me through it all.”
House of DOT consistently bridges the gap between rebellion, unconventionality, playfulness, and pristine craftsmanship. The designs are conversation starters, very African in origin with a cosmopolitan outlook; since their inception, they have evolved beyond a local darling. Beyond being a fashion accessory brand, they create with the belief that style should be individualistic, fearless, and deeply exciting.
In Ughenu’s words, “The brand's foremost objective is to celebrate and present its love of high fashion, African heritage, and a distinct and unconventional design aesthetic in an exciting and innovative way to a global audience."
Since its inception, House of DOT has received international recognition. It hit the global stage early on as a handpicked designer for the prestigious Selfridges/Ndani pop-up in London. Today its unique aesthetics continue to transcend borders, having been showcased at numerous high-profile exhibitions featured across a wide range of media, including film and TV series, print magazines, and digital platforms.
Explore the collection and find them on:
Instagram: @dotltd TikTok: @dotfashions Snapchat: @dotfashions
SIMPLE SKINCARE ROUTINE FOR THE MODERN MAN
Skincare
You are a busy man, but you want better skin and generally to look better? You also want the glow and healthy skin you see on Instagram. Yes, it’s achievable. We know you can’t commit to the 10-step skincare routine, and that’s ok because there’s something for you.
You should know that skincare requires basic maintenance and consistency. It doesn’t at all need to be complicated, and we will get you started on a 3-step (yes, 3-step) routine that will take your dull skin to healthy in a short time.
STEP 1. CLEANSE (Mornings and Nights). Clean skin is the first step you need before any other thing can work, so you need to get a gentle
facial cleanser, nothing harsh or chemical-laden, so you don’t strip the skin of moisture. Wash your skin using the cleanser to get rid of dust, oil, and debris in the morning and at night.
STEP 2. MOISTURIZE.
This is very important. You should never skip hydrating your skin on a daily basis. Apply a lightweight moisturizer after washing your face just so your skin stays nourished. Skipping moisturizer may damage your skin barrier in the long run.
STEP 3. PROTECTION.
How do you protect your skin? By wearing sun protection. So you can protect your skin from sunburns, aging, and so on, wear an SPF 30 or higher
after moisturizing so your skin stays protected from harmful UV rays. You may even pick a moisturizer with SPF so you get 2 steps in 1.
That’s all you need to get started on your journey to healthier and visibly clearer skin. If you need a reminder, then keep these products on the bathroom shelf so they are visible and within reach to help you stay consistent.
Disclaimer: The details in this article are for informational purposes only. They are not professional advice. Please consult a licensed dermatologist or aesthetician before trying any new treatment.
Fashion&Co Quiz
ARE YOU A TIMELESS CURATOR OR A TRENDSETTER?
Instructions: Answer each question, choosing the option that best reflects your preferences. Tally your answers to see your result
1. When you walk into a store. Which section are you drawn to first?
A) The classic staples like blazers, crisp button-downs, and dark denim.
B) The "New Arrivals" wall with the latest styles and bold colours
C) A mix, but I usually grab a statement piece to pair with jeans.
2. How do you view a "must-have" item that everyone on social media is wearing?
A) I wait a few months to see if it actually sticks around.
B) I buy it immediately so I don’t get left out.
C) I look for a more affordable or subtle version of it.
3. What is the biggest priority when you are buying a new outfit?
A) Fabric quality and how long it will last.
B) How well it will photograph and if it’s in vogue.
C) Whether it fits my current wardrobe rotation.
4. How often do you clear out your closet?
A) Rarely because my clothes stay in style for years.
B) Anytime, especially if I haven't worn it in six months; it’s out.
C) Annually, to donate pieces I no longer reach for.
5. How would you describe your colour palette?
A) Neutral: I like black, white, navy, and brown.
B) Bold: I love bright neons, trending patterns, and eclectic mixes.
C) Balanced: A solid neutral base with a few seasonal pops of colour.
6. What is your go-to outfit?
A) Tailored trousers, a simple tee/shirt, and loafers.
B) Whatever silhouette is currently in.
C) A reliable pair of jeans and a top that reflects my mood that day.
This fashion personality quiz is designed to help you figure out if you are devoted to a forever closet or love the thrill of the latest trend.
Answer these questions to see where you belong on the fashion spectrum.
7. How do you feel about fastfashion hauls?
A) I avoid them; I prefer to buy less and buy better.
B) They are my main source of style inspiration and clothing.
C) I do them occasionally for budget-friendly fun pieces.
8. What is your goal when getting dressed in the morning?
A) To feel polished, puttogether, and appropriately dressed for the setting.
B) To express my current mood and stay ahead of the fashion curve.
C) To look good and feel comfortable without overthinking it.
Style Result
Mostly A’s: You are a timeless curator. You value longevity, quality, and sophistication. You likely have a "uniform" that serves you in almost any situation.
Mostly B’s: You are a trendsetter. You view fashion as an art form and a fleeting moment. You love the excitement of change and keeping your look fresh and modern.
Mostly C’s: You are a Modern Classicist. You appreciate the foundation of timeless style but aren't afraid to sprinkle in current trends to keep your wardrobe feeling relevant and dynamic.
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at the end to reveal your vibe.
10 impactful quotes on sustainable and ecofriendly fashion from leaders, activists, and designers across the globe.
"Waste isn't waste until we waste it."
– will.i.am
"Fast
fashion is like fast food. After the sugar rush, it just leaves a bad taste in your mouth."
– Livia Firth
"One day we'll wake up and green will not be the new black; it will be the new invisible. Meaning, no longer will "sustainable" be the exception... it will be a matter of course."
– Summer Rayne Oakes
""Cheap fashion is really far from that; it may be cheap in terms of the financial cost but very expensive when it comes to the environment and the cost of human life."
– Sass Brown
"There is no beauty in the finest cloth if it makes hunger and unhappiness."
– Mahatma Gandhi
"Realize the political power of your money and spend it with the brands you know are treating their workers and the environment in the best possible way."
– Lily Cole
"Buy less. Choose well. Make it last."
– Vivienne Westwood
"The most sustainable garment is the one already in your wardrobe."
– Orsola de Castro
"Sustainability is not an end goal; it's a journey."
– Eileen Fisher
"Demand quality, not just in the products you buy, but in the life of the person who made it."
– Orsola de Castro
Disclaimer: These quotes are for inspirational purposes and do not originate from our magazine. All intellectual property remains with the respective designers and original publishers. We do not claim ownership and are not liable for any copyright issues or legal disputes arising from their use by third parties
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