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Dealing with Fighting Children

By Tanith Carey

Sibling rivalry and rows can be one of the most energysapping, nerve-jangling aspects of parenting. Now, still in partial lockdown, I’m pretty sure you desperately need a rest from constant cries of: “Mum, he hit me!” or “She’s taken my toy!”

Stressful as it can be, it helps to remember that ALL siblings fight sometimes - it can even be a positive part of your children’s development which offers a safe training ground to learn how to deal with conflict.

Sibling conflict is a natural part of family life which can never be avoided completely because it stems back to each child’s primitive need to survive by not missing out on their parents’ care and protection.

Squabbles and explosions flare up because children are still developing control over the part of the brain that helps them manage their impulses.

In the teen years, rows can escalate further when siblings start to directly compare achievements and to define themselves in opposition to each other.

But looking at it from the point of view of children, understanding

what kids are REALLY fighting over and taking into account their development really helps.

If you introduce evidence-based parenting strategies, which are based on science, not opinion, I guarantee your kids will get on better – even if not ALL of the time.

HERE ARE MY 12 DETAILED TIPS.

You can read more in my books:

How to Cut your Child’s Hair

Lockdown locks needn’t be a disaster with these expert tutorials.

Baby’s First Haircut

This pictorial guide walks you through those first and early trims.

Trimming Long Hair

The popular Hair 101 with April shows you how.

Older Boys’ Cuts

A specialist barber guides you through a whole re-style!

Tips for Home Hair Cuts Baby & Toddler

• Ensure they’re rested/fed. • Seat in highchair with toys/ snacks. • Demonstrate it doesn’t hurt by snipping your own ends. • Be the “hairdresser” – turn it into a game.

Older Kids

• Smaller scissors make smaller mistakes. • Start clippers on higher

‘grade’ then work down. • Don’t cut, style instead.

Don’t let your child near your hair….here’s why!

Win 1 of 3 Copies of What’s My Teenager Thinking? This is a uniquely practical parenting book for raising teenagers by Tanith Carey and Dr Angharad Rudkin. Grounded in evidence-based child psychology, it shows you how to create a supportive environment, get through tough times and emerge with a mutually respectful WIN! and understanding Enter here with name & postcode by 30 June 2020.