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Lif e

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Crushing Your Goals

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Doing It My Way

Wedding Do’s & Don’ts

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Why We Celebrate the Fourth of July & Labor Day

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Summer Reading List

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The Do’s & Don’ts of College

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Our Daughter’s Next Step

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Smart Packing: Mastering Not Over-packing

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Summertime: Time for Family & Friends

Q&A with Michael Anderson

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Inviting God Into Your Summer Schedule

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Fix One Thing & Break Another

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What My 2 Year Old Taught Me About Faith

Food

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Texas Brisket

72 Perfect Veggie Burgers

73 Southwest Turkey Burgers

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Outdoor Eating Safety Tips

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Summer Cocktails

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Sweet ‘n Sour Garden Collards

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Prosciutto Lamb Burgers

How Stress Is Affecting Your Life

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The Coffee Diet

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Recommitting To Your Fitness Goals

Summer Hair Trends To Try

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Summer Makeup Trends To Try

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Maintaining A Manicure

92 Summer Beauty Buys

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Sweat Proof Makeup

Fas h i on

98 Summer Bathing Suits For Each Body Type

100 Four Classic Wardrobe Essentials

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Finding Your Style

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HE WEEK leading up to the publishing of this magazine, up until now, have been difficult for me. In both a panicking, I can’t do this way, and a, I’m getting better and stronger way. I hadn’t been sleeping the 7 hours that I need (yes, if I sleep anything less than 7 hours I seriously turn into a gremlin), and I was a couple of articles short. My InDesign file became corrupt and wouldn’t open, (thank God my roommate came through and was able to find an older version on my computer), and just today, InDesign crashed on me before I was able to save the work I completed on a few pages, and wouldn’t upload! Let us just say, this week has not been the best. I wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and hibernate; I was not having any of it. Then I decided last night that maybe I should just stop worrying about the publication for a while, go to sleep, and restart today.

It made me think about the many times we start to panic, only to realize we needed to stop for a minute and reset.

I am an ambitious person. I have a timeline of milestones I want to accomplish;

so, for someone like me, it’s hard not to panic when my timelines starts to go a drift. I get so caught up in the things I’m passionate about that I don’t listen to my body. I often miss the cues when it’s telling me to slow down, take a break, and reset. Though I am getting better at this, I’m still a long way from mastering it.

One of my goals this summer is to take it easy. Though we don’t know how long we have in this world, we need to remind ourselves that if we rush through life panicking and trying to find the next big thing, we’ll miss all the little moments that matter. This summer I challenge you to take some time for yourself, spend more time with God and your family and friends. Enjoy every moment, for time is too valuable to waste it worrying about things that don’t matter.

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C r u s h i n g Yo u r Goals By: Dawn-Michelle Lewis Goals – they come in all shapes and sizes. Some days my biggest goal is getting out of bed and putting on a pair of pants. Other days, I want to get up and be able to put on a smaller pair of pants. People set goals in varying degrees for business and personal reasons. Even if your goal is the same as someone else’s on paper, you determine whether your goals are achieved.

The first step to achieving anything in life is motivation. Before you can set goals you have to be in the right frame of mind. Not being where I want to be is my biggest motivation; my secondary motivation is proving people wrong. Every person who tells me I’m not good enough, strong enough, thin enough, smart enough, or just not enough adds fuel to the flame. I already know what will happen if I give up. So, why not stick it out and find out what will happen if I don’t? Once you find your motivation, define your goals and get SMART: •

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Specific – Questions to ask yourself are who, what, when, where, and how. Also, if you need more fuel in your motivation, why.

Measurable – You need to be able to track your achievements.

If you can’t track it, how do you know if you’re any closer? “Time Bound” goals are helpful here.

Attainable – If you aren’t setting attainable goals, you are setting yourself up for failure.

Relevant – Seemingly obvious, but often forgotten. Will your goals help you push your overall aspira-

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tions forward?

Time Bound – Give yourself a deadline! This will add to your motivation, and help avoid procrastination. Make sure it’s within a realistic, “Attainable” amount of time.

Now you are ready to create a vision board, this is a visual collection of everything you’d like to achieve along with deadlines. Vision boards are best for ultimate goals – the end result.

These should be inspirational pictures and phrases that remind you of why you originally started your journey.

Being able to visualize your goals helps keep them in sight, literally. Motivation is the key!

With your motivation and SMART vision board on hand, next is the game plan.

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List your goals in a positive way.

For example, “I want to lose 50lbs because I’m fat,” is negative.

Think about the benefits: “I want to lose 50lbs so I can be more active and feel more comfortable in clothes.”

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Prioritize your goals. Will achieving one goal help you attain another?

Give yourself smaller, SMART weekly goals to work toward your ultimate goal. Smaller goals help bigger ones seem more attainable and much less scary.

Find support and make yourself accountable! You don’t have to do things alone. Find people who have similar goals or people who will check up on you and your progress.

If things don’t go as planned, you can always try again. Failure is not the worst thing in the world. Giving up is.

Giving up means an end. There’s no harm in trying. ■

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.” – William Edward Hickson

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D o i n g I t My Way By: Denalda Jones Growing up in a home with a mother who was the queen of cooking, especially southern cuisine, I learned very quickly that I had no skills in the kitchen. None. Not one.

Having observed both of my sisters move about the kitchen with ease, as they honed their culinary skills in the preparation of simple to not so simple meals. I elected to do what I did best and that was to evade cooking at all cost. My idea of lending a hand consisted of being the food sampler and the one who scrubbed the pots and pans. Once I got married and was responsible for planning and preparing meals for my new husband, reality set in. Help!

Those of us who lack culinary skills find ourselves feeling guilty and helpless, especially when the holidays roll around, and you have been elected to host the dinner at your home. In some cases panic sets in because the food critics of the family will arrive armed with their discerning taste buds. There is a mad dash to order your meal from the nearest restaurant or local grocery store, but you discover you have waited too late. Needless to say, we often commit an even worse offense, that of failing to think outside of the culinary box.

In today’s world of television chefs and online recipes, it’s fairly safe to say that help is just a click away. You may be surprised when you find yourself cooking just like your mom, your grandmother, your aunt or even a top chef.

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One simple thought to keep in mind, use whatever recipe you want, but make it your own. Bottom line, choose what works for you and make that your go to dish.

If your family is anything like mine, traditional southern dishes are the staples at any family gathering. A traditional meal is not a meal unless there are collard greens, made from scratch cornbread and macaroni and cheese. Who has the time or energy to chop, dice, grate, or mix for hours on end? No one has to know you took the shortcut and used store bought products that taste like you had been in the kitchen cooking for hours.

Another particularly southern tradition is that you must cook with butter, oil, or fat. Although it is true those particular ingredients may add lots of flavor, a more healthy option will do the same. For instance, try using fat free milk instead of whole milk in your macaroni and cheese recipe.

You will discover the same smooth, creamy texture and rich flavor.

The only real tenet to observe is to do what makes sense.

Cook what you like, eat what makes you happy, taste as you go, tweak when it’s needed and learn from your mistakes.

Lastly, if your critics have anything to say about it, politely remind them they have the choice to dine at their home or at a nearby restaurant. ■

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We d d i n g D o’ s & D o n’ t s By: Jenika Gonzales

Summer Wedding Season is upon us! Cue the cocktail dresses and spiffy bowties.

Let’s all raise a glass to toast good times and unforgettable memories alongside our closest friends and family members. Before you bust out your dancing shoes, here is a quick overview of the Do’s and Don’ts of proper guest etiquette.

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RSVP on time. As a rule of thumb, you should always try to your best to send in your response no later than 3-4 weeks before the wedding date. That way the couple has enough time to plan ahead with the caterer.

If you have children, reserve a Sitter and a backup in advance.

Be present and attentive during the ceremony; the bride and groom want you to remember this day too!

Check out the couple’s wedding website. Most wedding websites have fun and helpful details, such as, the proper dress code, wedding registry, and nearby hotel accommodations.

Send your gift in the mail if possible. It saves the couple the hassle of packing up or unpacking big boxed gifts at the end of the night.

The exception to this is if you are giving a monetary gift.

Let the couple know about any specific allergies or dietary needs in advance. If they did not ask you in advance, plan on eating a big meal prior to attending so that you don’t go hungry.

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Be a team player; use that photobooth, grab that favor, be the first one on the dance floor! Sometimes, just letting the couple know how much fun you’re having can make all their stressful planning worthwhile.

Respect the bride and groom’s space. If you see they are busy eating, do not interrupt to say hello.

This may be their only chance, tonight, to sit down and enjoy some private time.

Comment on elements and details that make the wedding unique to the couple. It makes all the difference to them that you noticed!

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Forget to RSVP, or RSVP and not show up. Even worse, don’t include an extra guest on the RSVP that was not originally included; 5 out of 2 guests attending, really?

Bring the kids along, unless they are specifically named or “& family” is listed on the invitations.

Bust out your phone or iPad to try to get the perfect picture. They have hired a professional photographer to capture these special moments (and it isn’t Y-O-U).

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Wear all white. This should be a given, unless it is otherwise stated on the reception card or wedding website. Do not wear white, ivory, off white, etc. or you will spend your night dodging dirty looks from the MOB (Mother of the Bride) and MOH (Maid of Honor).

Bring a gift without reviewing the wedding registry or asking a family member/fellow guest if the couple is actually receiving gifts. Some couples opt for guests to donate to a Honeyfund or a charity close to their hearts in lieu of gifts.

Try to say a quick “Hi” or check in with the bride or groom before the ceremony. Unless you are in the bridal party, you do not belong in the bride’s room before she walks down the aisle!

Overdrink. Keep the champagne flowing and the good times rolling; but, remember to pace yourself throughout the night.

Compare the wedding to another fabulous fete (especially another friend’s). Every detail is unique to the specific couple so it’s hard (and unfair) to compare the two side by side. ■

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Why We C e l e b r a t e t h e Fo u r t h o f Ju l y & L a b o r D ay

The Story of the Fourth of July The Declaration of Independence: We celebrate American Independence Day on the Fourth of July every year.

We think of July 4, 1776, as a day that represents the Declaration of Independence and the birth of the United States of America as an independent nation. But July 4, 1776 wasn’t the day that the Continental Congress decided to declare independence (they did that

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on July 2, 1776).

It wasn’t the day we started the American Revolution either (that had happened back in April 1775). And it wasn’t the day Thomas Jefferson wrote the first draft of the Declaration of Independence (that was in June 1776). Or the date on which the Declaration was delivered to Great Britain (that didn’t happen until November 1776). Or the date it was signed (that was August 2, 1776).

So what did happen on July 4, 1776?

The Continental Congress approved the final wording of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776. They’d been working on it for a couple of days after the draft was submitted on July 2nd and finally agreed on all of the edits and changes. July 4, 1776, became the date that was included on the Declaration of Independence, and the fancy handwritten copy that was signed

Summer 2016 | Life in August (the copy now displayed at the National Archives in Washington, D.C.) It’s also the date that was printed on the Dunlap Broadsides, the original printed copies of the Declaration that were circulated throughout the new nation. So when people thought of the Declaration of Independence, July 4, 1776 was the date they remembered.

In contrast, we celebrate Constitution Day on September 17th of each year, the anniversary of the date the Constitution was signed, not the anniversary of the date it was approved. If we’d followed this same approach for the Declaration of Independence we’d being celebrating Independence Day on August 2nd of each year, the day the Declaration of Independence was signed!

How did the Fourth of July become a national holiday?

For the first 15 or 20 years after the Declaration was written, people didn’t celebrate it much on any date. It was too new and too much else was happening in the young nation. By the 1790s, a time of bitter partisan conflicts, the Declaration had become controversial. One party, the Democratic-Republicans, admired Jefferson and the Declaration. But the other party, the Federalists, thought the Declaration was too French and too anti-British, which went against their current policies. By 1817, John Adams complained in a letter that America seemed uninterested in its past. But that would soon change. After the War of 1812, the Federalist party began to come apart and the new parties of the 1820s and 1830s all considered themselves inheritors of Jefferson and the Democratic-Republicans. Printed copies of the Declaration began to circulate again, all with the date July 4, 1776, listed at the top. The deaths of Thomas Jefferson and John Adams on July 4, 1826, may even have helped to promote the idea of July 4 as an important date to be celebrated. Celebrations of the Fourth of July became more common as the years went on and in 1870, almost a hundred years after the

Declaration was written, Congress first declared July 4 to be a national holiday as part of a bill to officially recognize several holidays, including Christmas.

Further legislation about national holidays, including July 4, was passed in 1939 and 1941.

Labor Day Observed on the first Monday in September, Labor Day pays tribute to the contributions and achievements of American workers. It was created by the labor movement in the late 19th century and became a federal holiday in 1894. Labor Day also symbolizes the end of summer for many Americans, and is celebrated with parties, parades and athletic events.

Labor Day, an annual celebration of workers and their achievements, originated during one of American labor history’s most dismal chapters.

In the late 1800s, at the height of the Industrial Revolution in the United States, the average American worked 12-hour days and seven-day weeks in order to eke out a basic living. Despite restrictions in some states, children as young as 5 or 6 toiled in mills, factories and mines across the country, earning a fraction of their adult counterparts’ wages. People of all ages, particularly the very poor and recent immigrants, often faced extremely unsafe working conditions, with insufficient access to fresh air, sanitary facilities and breaks.

As manufacturing increasingly supplanted agriculture as the wellspring of American employment, labor unions, which had first appeared in the late 18th century, grew more prominent and vocal. They began organizing strikes and rallies to protest poor conditions and compel employers to renegotiate hours and pay. Many of these events turned violent during this period, including the infamous Haymarket Riot of 1886, in which several Chicago policemen and workers were killed. Others gave rise to longstanding traditions: On September 5, 1882, 10,000 workers took unpaid time off to march from City Hall to Union Square

in New York City, holding the first Labor Day parade in U.S. history.

The idea of a “workingmen’s holiday,” celebrated on the first Monday in September, caught on in other industrial centers across the country, and many states passed legislation recognizing it.

Congress would not legalize the holiday until 12 years later, when a watershed moment in American labor history brought workers’ rights squarely into the public’s view. On May 11, 1894, employees of the Pullman Palace Car Company in Chicago went on strike to protest wage cuts and the firing of union representatives.

On June 26, the American Railroad Union, led by Eugene V. Debs, called for a boycott of all Pullman railway cars, crippling railroad traffic nationwide. To break the strike, the federal government dispatched troops to Chicago, unleashing a wave of riots that resulted in the deaths of more than a dozen workers. In the wake of this massive unrest and in an attempt to repair ties with American workers, Congress passed an act making Labor Day a legal holiday in the District of Columbia and the territories. More than a century later, the true founder of Labor Day has yet to be identified.

Many credit Peter J. McGuire, cofounder of the American Federation of Labor, while others have suggested that Matthew Maguire, a secretary of the Central Labor Union, first proposed the holiday. aLabor Day is still celebrated in cities and towns across the United States with parades, picnics, barbecues, fireworks displays and other public gatherings. For many Americans, particularly children and young adults, it represents the end of the summer and the start of the back-to-school season.

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Sources: The Story of the Fourth of July (http:// www.constitutionfacts.com/us-declaration-of-independence/fourth-of-july/), Labor Day (http://www.history.com/topics/holidays/labor-day/holidays/labor)

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Summertime: T i m e fo r Fa m i l y & Friends By: Sheralyn Y. Woodley

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There are four seasons: Winter, Spring, Summer, and Fall (Autumn). Summer is a time for relaxation and it allows people to spend more time outdoors.

Everyone that was in school, students and instructors, can have their long vacations and breaks. Memorial Day, the last Monday of May, is the unofficial start of summer and Labor Day is the unofficial end of summer. It is the warmest, and in some places, the hottest season of the year. It also has the longest days of the year. The summer season is from June to August in the northern hemisphere and December to February in the southern hemisphere.

Summer is one of the most popular seasons for weddings. The month of June got its name from the Roman goddess Juno, queen of the gods and patroness of wedding and marriage.

Additionally, there is more ice cream sold during the summer months than any other season.

With all of that being said – it is a prime time for friends and family to spend time together. Vacations are being researched and planned throughout the other seasons and taken during the summer months. Especially if the parents work in the education industry and/or their children are in school.

Many industries shutdown their factories and businesses during the summer, so that their employees can take time

off (vacation) and maintenance and repairs can be done to the facilities.

Sports are big during this time; summer leagues are in full force, basketball season ends in June, and baseball is the major sport being played. However, almost every sport can now be played in the summer and people take advantage of the many options.

One of the major things that happen during the summer is that families and friends get together for food and activities. You do not really have to have a reason or a formal invitation. It is the time where you just look in the refrigerator, freezer, and pantry, to see what you can grill or cook, and you have a get-together. Family and friends have cookouts in their backyards and parks all during the week. Many people try out new recipes and foods.

Summer is a time to “pluck or gather fruit.” Therefore, it is known as the time of fruit. “Now just as David happened to have passed the summit of the Mount of Olives, suddenly Mephibosheth’s servant Ziba met him, accompanied by a couple of saddled donkeys loaded with 200 loaves of bread, 100 clusters of raisins, 100 pieces of summer fruit, and a skin of wine!” II Samuel 16:1, 2 International Standard Version “Then the iron, the clay, the bronze, the silver, and the gold

were broken in pieces together and became like chaff from a summer threshing floor that the breeze carries away without leaving a trace. Then the rock that struck the statue grew into a huge mountain and filled the entire earth.”

Jeremiah 40:10, 12 International Standard Version. Summer is time of reflection and memories. During this season, we must take time to recall all of the blessings that God showed them during the other seasons. “As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease.” Genesis 8:22 As stated before, summer is the time when people are the most sociable. It is a time to build up, strengthen, and renew relationships. So much time is spent outside, which means we spend time with more people in our neighborhoods, our churches, our community hot spots, and so on. Summer is a time to have fun! God wants us to have fun and to be happy. Use this summer to create memories, show love to family and friends, encourage someone, and remember, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22 Tree of Life Version ■

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Summer Reading List

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Modern Lovers

By Emma Straub

Homegoing

By Yaa Gyasi

The Girls

By Emma Cline

Fervent

By Priscilla Shirer

The Assistants

By Camille Perri

The Career Code

By Hillary Kerr & Katherine Power

Rich and Pretty

By Rumaan Alam

Imagine Me Gone

By Adam Haslett

Here Comes The Sun

By Nicole Dennis-Benn

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T h e D o’ s & D o n’ t s o f C o l l e g e By: Sierra Jones

It’s time, you’re finally heading off to college! Maybe you’re already there; whatever the case may be, there are five Do’s and Don’ts that I think every college student should keep in mind, on their journey away from home. As a college student myself, I have found all of these very helpful: Do: Plug In/Network (Church & School) College is filled with many choices, especially when it comes to decisions regarding freedom. There will be many unexpected hills headed your way.

Having a solid spiritual foundation is key to making it through college.

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dedicate time to reading your Bible or even streaming a church online. I will admit that in the beginning of my own transition to college, I enjoyed having the choice not to go to church. I soon found that the storms of life started hitting me much harder. With that being said, I got together with friends, prayed, and we worked to build each other up with words of encouragement. We find time for what is important to us, so definitely plug into positivity through church and prayer.

Everyone has heard, at least once in their life, “It’s not what you know, but who you know”. It was not until later in college that I realized this was a false statement. The saying should instead be rephrased to “It’s not who you know, but who knows you”. It is important to invest time, while in college, to get to know people who will be beneficial to you and you to them.

Never assume that a person does not have something to offer, just because you may not be in the same college of education. That nurse may be able to help a student of yours find an internship later down the line. Same idea goes with clubs and organizations.

The worst that could happen from joining a club is you meet someone

new. If you do not think your school has any place for you to plug in, create it. Universities are very open to starting new clubs that would spark positive student involvement; just shoot an email to your advisor or university club organizer.

Do: Find Your Homework Environment It is Saturday night and you have an assignment due the following day. You grab your computer, jump on your bed, and begin working diligently. twenty minutes later you find yourself slouched and ready for bedtime. We have all been there in one shape or form. Having the right work environment is extremely important. It prevents distraction, promotes motivation, and best of all it gets the job done. Set yourself up for success by trying different environments. See if your library offers private study rooms, go out to a nice lawn with some shade, or maybe drive out to a local hipster coffee shop.

This simple study change broke my procrastination habit.

Do: Make Time to Go to Free Activities Free is Key! Universities are constantly having different events jam packed with free activities. They usually have the events posted throughout the dorm and sometimes outside. You are paying so much money to go to the university, so you might as well get something out of it. Often times these activities include food, to attract people, and trust me it tastes better free!

Do: Go to the Gym If you have not heard about the “fresh-

Summer 2016 | Life man 15” you have now. As mentioned before, you have so much freedom when you go away from home. This includes your eating habits. Eat healthier, go to the gym, or do both. If you are not too much into the idea of going to the gym, check to see if your university offers different classes such as Zumba.

Working out can be a lot of fun and a positive stress reliever.

Do: Take Mental Health Days Take care of yourself. I say this with the utmost importance. College is a lot of fun; but, it can be very exhausting if you do not take the time to rest. Rest mentally, physically, and emotionally. I am not saying to ditch an entire week, but do give yourself permission to rest a random day in the month.

I recommend everyone, both guys and girls, take a day to get a pedicure; especially if your classes are far, or you are in sports.

This simple break could give the extra motivation you need to keep going.

Plus, it feels nice to have someone else massage your feet.

Don’t: Isolate Yourself If you are a shy person, it is completely understandable that you do not want to go up to complete strangers to introduce yourself; but this does not mean you have to isolate yourself. Instead, make yourself available to be greeted.

There were many times when I, and a group of my friends, invited people over to sit with us. Vice versa, if you are outgoing, invite people who seem to isolate themselves out for some food.

Isolating yourself prevents networking and could hinder you from some positive relationships. If this is your first time away from home, it is a guarantee that you will be home sick. It is normal

and it is much more doable if you do not lock yourself in your room while playing Adele songs. Trust me, you are one of many college students going through the same thing.

Don’t: Procrastinate Unless you enjoy the feeling of stress, which I am 99.9% sure you do not, I recommend you break the procrastination habit. College is all about time management. It prepares you for your future career and allows you to have a better schedule to do other things outside of homework. It makes a huge difference. Going back to “making time for Sunday church”, if your assignments are due Sunday, you will find it

harder to go. Another useful strategy is talking to your given counselor about your schedule. They “work for you”, so they will try to work with your schedule as well as your personal interests. If you do not speak up, they will never know there is an issue. If you are not a morning person, avoid the early classes.

My first semester I only went to class Monday, Wednesday, and Friday; yes, it is possible. This will free up your schedule to get work done before the weekend.

Don’t: Be the Dirty Roommate “If you wouldn’t do it at home, don’t do it here”. This only applies if you are

not necessarily a “clean person”. Take showers; yes, some college students forget. Clean up your toothpaste, wipe up your hair, keep your laundry in a basket, find time to wash, create a bathroom cleaning schedule (if you have roomates), wash YOUR OWN dishes, and take turns taking out the trash.

Things do get hectic throughout the school year; so, take into consideration your roommates schedule. However, do not allow yourself to be run all over. If you have, any issues with your roommate, for anything, do not send a text to them. Texting can often lead to misconstrued messages and in this case, that person still has to come back to the room. That also goes for leaving sticky notes. Talk it out that way you can actually hear the tone and see the body language.

This is also key to having a healthy roommate relationship.

Don’t: Spend Money If You Don’t Have To (Books, clothes, keys…etc.)

This sounds like common sense, but what is common is not always commonly found. By this, I mean every university has fees for even the smallest of things. Saving money should be a priority, so always be certain before you whip out the cash. For example, my freshman year I (and by “I”, I mean my parents) spent about $60 dollars on books for a class I was about to start.

Long story short, those books looked nice collecting dust on my desk that semester. When you start class, stay after to talk to your professors and see what books you really need. Some books may be available online for free, for rental, or maybe your roommate purchased the book and it’s collecting dust on his/her desk (cough cough).

Save money by going to the mall less.

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Deliberate Magazine | Life Turns out my roommates wear around the same size as me, so if I needed a going out dress I would simply ask them (Always ask). Buying a suit can be expensive especially for a one-time use, for guys this tip is just as helpful.

Another aspect that many universities enforce is a passkey to get into the dorm. If you forget yours, there will usually be a fee for getting in. Again, SAVE MONEY. Get to know your roomies, the people in your hall, as well as the people in the building. You would be surprised at who comes to the rescue to save you some money. Another helpful point is storage. If you plan to store your things, see if others that you trust will help spilt the cost for the summer. Lastly, check for free supplies.

As I mentioned before, free is key! My university adds credit to my account that enables me to some free printing.

Anything helps.

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Don’t: Bring Everything from Home I learned this one the hard way. I was so excited to have my “own place” that I felt the need to bring everything! I forgot I had roommates, and really did not take into consideration the space that I actually had. On top of that, I had forgotten that at the end of each year I had to move it all out. Whether you are taking the stuff to storage or moving it back home, it can be a lot.

Not to mention that move out week is usually during finals week. With that being said, do not make things harder then they need to be. Don’t hoard stuff, be willing to throw things away. Chances are you will probably buy other things wherever you choose to attend.

Don’t: Give Up On Scholarships The “Golden Age” to qualify for most scholarships will be during your Junior and Senior year of high school, but that does not mean you have to give

up on the search. One of the biggest struggles/stresses you will come face to face with on a monthly basis will be financial. Often there are many outside costs such as books, housing, and meal plans to consider. When you enroll in your university, seek advice from your given counselor about the scholarships you qualify for. Personally, I found scholarships through clubs I joined, jobs I acquired, and the college of my degree. Another major source I go to on a monthly basis is an app called Scholly. In an article written by Michael Schramm published in USA Today College, 24-year old Christopher Gray founded Scholly as a way to help others find scholarships after he earned his degree through $1.3 million in scholarships. The app is a onetime payment of $2.99 to access thousands of scholarships. It is my go to app because it saves time, is not limited to just high school, and best of all it saves a whole lot of money. ■

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Our Daughter’s Nex t S t e p By: Shalonda Haywood

Who would have thought it would all be so quick? The day you watch your child walk across the stage to receive the certificate that says he or she has completed high school. Deep down inside you’re wondering what’s the next step or destination for your child, you’re proud and nervous all at the same time.

Parents begin with the milestones of their child graduating from pre-school, kindergarten, middle school, and then high school. At each milestone parents are proud of the accomplishments.

However, the sentiments and emotions always take over when we think of the upcoming milestone. The milestone I am now facing is college. Of course, every parent’s dream is for their son or daughter to go to college after high school and you try your best to prepare them. It seems that one minute they’re freshmen in high school and the next minute you’re having them apply for college. Getting accepted into college and applying for scholarships was only part of

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the preparation for us. Our daughter also had to prepare for and take the SAT, which is a very important examination for students applying for college. Letters of recommendation were requested from those who knew our daughter Tonique’s character, accomplishments, and why she deserved to be admitted into the school she was applying for.

The most difficult thing for us, during our daughter’s senior year, was keeping her focused. She started to get comfortable with her grades because she has always been an A/B student. During the middle of her senior year, we noticed our daughter began losing her focus. The A’s turned into B’s and she seemed ok with it. She was a varsity cheerleader for the school, which required her to travel a lot. Cheering at all the games was taking up a great deal of her study time. We had several conversations with her about if she couldn’twith her regarding extra-curricular activities and remaining focused. If

she could not maintain both, she would have to quit cheerleading.

Just like all teenagers, there is always an excuse when they are slacking. From the words of my daughter, “Senioritis is real” and during senior year students are usually focusing on what’s next rather than staying focused on the what’s now.

Our goals were to keep her focused and make sure she continued to push herself.

We knew her academics would help get her into college and qualify her for scholarships. We are not one of the fortunate families that could pay the full tuition for our daughter to go to college. So, the higher her GPA, the better the chances were of her receiving a scholarship.

We had her research the schools she wanted to attend. After finding the school she wanted to attend.

Once a school was selected, she started to inquire about the schools reputation and history from those who had

already attended. Before finalizing her decision, she had the privilege of touring the school’s campus, which helped her to confirm her decision to pursue her degree at Grand Canyon University. Although I am excited that our daughter is starting the next chapter in her life, the mommy in me wants her to stay. I know that all the talks we’ve had about making the right decisions and linking up with the right individuals, will help her to stay focused. I am confident that she will go far and exceed her own expectations; not only because she has her

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family’s support, but also because she has been raised to put God first in her life and stay prayed up.

Along with preparing her for college, we also had to prepare her to be a responsible adult and how to deal with some of life’s everyday situations. I do believe it is very important for our teens to enter adulthood knowing how to manage their time and money. Time and money management were two of the most important things we wanted our daughter to learn. Proper time management will be necessary in

order for her to make it to school on time and complete/turn in assignments.

Tonique was very dependent on us to make sure she was up on time and checking to see if her work was turned in before the due date. Managing money is important for the simple fact that college fees can be expensive. The more knowledge she has about managing money the more beneficial it will be for us as parents. Many teens get to college and don’t think about the expenses and the money given for them to make it while in college.

So we wanted Tonique to

be prepared and know the importance of managing her money and saving her parents from being in debt.

Even though my husband and I both have degrees that we received later in life, I would like to see my daughter far exceed our accomplishments as a teenager. My husband and I have always told our kids the reason we push them is not for us, but we want to see them accomplish more in life than we did. I did not have the support system that my daughter has had throughout her life; so I constantly remind

her of how blessed she is.

She was given an important message from a coworker of mine; I would love for her to hold on to it as motivation.

The statement he made to her was, “You have finished one destiny, you’re headed to another, but it’s the Journey that counts”. ■

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If you’re like the majority of women, you try on several pieces of clothing based on the weather and your mood. This can cause you to over pack. You can’t predict your mood days in advance; however, you can look at the forecast and plan your outfits based on the activities you will be doing.

While having your clothes packed in a bag, two, or three is nice, it’s not so nice to haul two or three 50 pound bags at the airport, or packing them in the car. To ensure you’re satisfied with your outfits and not hauling multiple over-weight bags, follow these tips on smart packing for your next summer vacay or weekend getaway!

1. Get the right suitcase. Are you going for a week or two, or to the nearest beach town for the weekend? Wherever you’re going make sure you have the right suitcase and bags. Weekend trips don’t need the large rolling suitcase so opt for the carry-on weekend bag or duffel.

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3. The Four-Shoe Rule. Yes, there is a shoe rule, for those of you who were unaware. To be honest, I wasn’t aware of it until I started researching. You may ask, what are the four shoes you need to pack? You only need to pack a versatile pair of sneakers, pointed toe flats, dressy heels, and a pair of wild card heels.

For the sneakers you want to go with a neutral color like white or black depending on the colors you will be wearing on the trip. Pointed flats can easily be dressed up or down, for when you’re not in the mood to wear heels. The heels will be your security blanket in the case you’re going to a fancy restaurant, an event, or if all your girlfriends are opting for heels. Lastly, your wild card heels will be your fashion statement. For example, those suede ankle booties that look great with everything in your closet.

4. Be smart with your toiletries. If you can put the product in a travel size container that is the best option. Your goal is to fit your toiletries in a medium sized clutch or make-up bag.

This means you don’t need to pack every piece of make-up or jewelry. Be smart and make sure any liquids are secure, so they don’t explode or leak on the other items in your bag.

5. Pack it all smartly. Just because you trimmed down the amount of items in your bag doesn’t mean you should throw it all in the suitcase and close it up. Pack everything smartly. A great way to fold your clothes it the rolling technique, or check out how to fold your clothes the KonMari way. Some other tips to ensure everything fits perfectly in your bag are: 1) put your shoes in a shower cap so they don’t stain or dirty your clothes, 2) if you have a floppy hat stuff it with bulky items, and 3) use plastic grocery (or dry cleaner) bags to help prevent creases in silk dresses.

Lastly, when planning your outfits beforehand make checklists, pack flexible clothing, and wear the bulkiest clothes while traveling. May all of us gals and guys master the art of packing smart and save the hassle of hauling heavy bags! ■ Sources: PureWow’s 5 Tips for Not Over-Packing for a Long Weekend & Bustle’s 8 Ways to Not Overpack for Vacation, Because You Really Don’t Need All That For Just One Weekend.

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gospel music and songs such as Gospel Melody by Destiny Child. Behind the harmonizing girl group is their manager Michael Anderson. He has a decorated background in music and has helped mold Auburn Road into who they are today. Paulson, Martin, and Brown have their dreams set high and their eyes on the prize as they hope, within the near future, they will be walking across the stage at the Grammy’s to accept their award for ‘Best New Artist’. If you are not familiar with their music, you can check out their freshman EP “Fancy.” Read on to hear more from the girls and how Auburn Road came to be.

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AP: I got to where I am in my career by starting with an interest in singing when I was 7 years old. After singing lessons over the years, it became my passion. Meeting our manager Michael and starting Auburn Road turned my passion into a real career.

respected.

PM: It sounds cheesy, but honestly, I got to this point through hard work, dedication and of course our manager Michael’s help.

Music demands a lot from you, so staying in the right mindset and working on it every day will get you far.

The most difficult part of being a girl in a country band is dealing with many non-believers. In the country world right now it is very hard to make it as a female, let alone as a female group. The country radio is dominated by males and there are tons of people that claim women will never make as much money as a male artist; we also have people that like to say women are just the tomatoes in a country salad, they are not as important as males. Since there are so few females on the country radio we have to prove ourselves everywhere we go.

KB: Today I’ve gotten where I have in my career thanks to my amazing parents, my grandmother, and our manager Michael.

These four have been very supportive of me since the beginning and have believed in me; even through times where I didn’t believe in myself. I am so incredibly grateful for the sacrifices they have made so I can follow my dreams and I don’t know what I would do without their love and guidance.

DM: Did you always want to sing or did you have another career in mind?

AP: I’ve always wanted to sing ever since I was a little girl. However, down the line I do want to own my own business.

PM: I have ALWAYS wanted to sing.

When I was 5 years old I told my mom that I was going to be a Country Star and/or a Broadway Star.

KB: I have always wanted to be a singer since I can remember. From watching Hannah Montana and Hilary Duff perform, the life of a singer seemed so glamorous and exciting. You get to do what you love every single day! But it wasn’t really until Auburn Road that I actually realized that this dream of mine could become a reality.

DM: What are the most fulfilling and the most difficult parts of being a girl in a country band?

AP: The most difficult part about being a girl in a country band is being a GIRL. Country radio hasn’t been accepting of female country artists for a long time now.

The most fulfilling part is knowing that we can change that. We can be the first girl group on the country radio that will break the cycle and maybe even begin a new era in country music where female artists are

PM: The most fulfilling part of being in a country band are seeing the affect you have on people. Being on stage is an amazing feeling; but, knowing that you can change and/or help someone’s life through your music is pretty incredible.

KB: One of the most fulfilling parts of being a girl in a country band is having the ability to act as a voice for young women and to be able to contribute to a community of strong women who deserve to be heard. Right now women are scarce in country music, so the fact that I get to be apart of something that is working to change that is fulfilling in itself.

However one of the most difficult parts of being a girl in a country band is the fact that women are so scarce in country music.

For example, it has been said that “women are the tomatoes in a country salad” implying the idea that they are irrelevant and unnecessary to country music. This obviously is not the case but the fact that we as women have to fight for our right to be heard is difficult enough.

DM: How do you manage your personal, social, and educational life?

AP: Managing my personal, social, and educational life as a teenager while pursuing my career has not been easy. When it comes to my personal life, I found a way to continue to do the other passion I have, working out, almost every day. I’ve found a good balance between the two and I prioritize my music, but the gym is definitely a passion that I am happy I haven’t had to give up. When it comes to balancing my social life with music, it’s a bit trickier. Friends start drifting away because you don’t have much time to hangout with them, and sometimes they just don’t understand why. I will always have

my close friends because they understand why I can’t go out and do whatever I want, whenever I want. I’ve finished high school with a good GPA so for now I don’t have to worry about my educational life; however, down the line I will be taking online college classes.

PM: What social life, LOL? This group has pretty much become my whole life. However, I’m home schooled through a charter school so I can still have a good education.

My mom wouldn’t let me be in this group if I didn’t have good grades.

KB: It can be tough to manage your social, personal, and educational life all while still working for your dream; but, it’s not impossible. Education has always been very important to me and as a result of that I have attained grades of nearly all A’s my entire life. As far as personal and social life goes, of course there are some people who just don’t get it. They don’t understand why you are dedicating so much of your time and effort to this thing they don’t necessary deem important, and when you come across those people the best thing for both of you is to go your separate ways. The people you surround yourself with plays a big part in whom you are as a person and if you have the right support system behind you, as I do, anything is possible.

DM: What keeps you motivated on tough days?

AP: On tough days, I like to look at how far we’ve come. I look at the fact that we put in so much work and we’ve gotten some incredible results from it. Then I can think about the future and the fact that if I continue to put the work in, we can build amazing careers out of this. My motivation on tough days is knowing that all of the hard work will pay off in the end.

PM: Honestly, I keep myself motivated by looking at my goals every day. I have sticky notes and a few lists hanging around my room full of goals for my future. We also have dream boards in our rehearsal space.

I remind myself everyday why I’m doing this because it’s very easy to give up if you don’t know what you’re working towards.

No one said that being successful was easy so the best way to get through hard days is to remind yourself of your motive.

KB: Tough days come and go, but when they come I think about why I love to sing.

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Deliberate Magazine | Cover I think about that feeling I get when I’m on stage and the power I feel when I have a mic in my hand. Some days I have to step back, think about the situation I’m in, and remember why I started singing in the first place. Selftalk is very important too. Don’t tear yourself down especially on the tough days. Sometimes all it takes is a little confidence in yourself and your ability.

DM: Even though you are still only teenagers, what do you think is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life so far and how do you integrate that lesson (or lessons) into the things you do now?

AP: The biggest lesson I have learned working with the girls and Michael is that there are billions of people with talent. You have to be willing to work harder than anyone out there, because talent can’t always separate you from others. You have to consider every single factor and find a way to stand out with your work ethic and determination.

PM: I have learned a lot over these last few years; but one of the best lessons I’ve learned was the importance of having healthy self-talk. Like you said I am only a teenager and being a teenager often comes with self-doubt.

It’s important to always believe in what you’re doing and stay confident, don’t let those demons in your head rule you’re self-talk. You won’t get far if you beat yourself up every time you make a mistake or if you continue to focus on your failures. Acknowledge you messed up and move on; you have to become more positive in the way you think. I use this lesson every day. I try to make sure that my self-talk doesn’t become negative and/ or unproductive by being nicer in the way I speak about myself.

KB: Being a teenager I still have a lot to learn; but one thing I have learned so far is that confidence is key. Deep inside when you feel beautiful you shine on the outside and when you show confidence in your talent you can affect people in whatever you choose. Having personally struggled with that, being a 17 year old girl and all, I can now recognize the power of confidence in oneself and how it can change your life.

DM: What projects or goals are you working on right now?

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much as we can, travel, and take as many meetings as possible. We want to gain experience, even if we do some small gigs, or take meetings that turn into nothing. We need to experience what it’s like to work hard. That way when we go on a real tour, we’re fully prepared.

PM: Personally, I’m working on becoming a stronger artist. We are always working to become a better group but my personal goal this year is to become a better singer and writer.

KB: Right now Auburn Road is working on writing new music and traveling to get our music heard. We are going to Nashville this June and we couldn’t be more excited!

Our goal is to tour as much as we possibly can and have as many people as possible hear our music.

DM: Name five songs and artist currently in your favorite music playlist?

AP: Favorite songs: Slow Dancing in a Burning Room by John Mayer, Things That Matter by Rascal Flatts, Cry Me a River by Justin Timberlake, Un-Thinkable

by Alicia Keys, and Colder Weather by Zac Brown Band.

PM: Carry on My Wayward Son – Kansas Thy Will - Hillary Scott The Stranger - Billy Joel Cake By The Ocean – DNCE Cry Me a River – Justin Timberlake KB: The top five songs in my playlists always change, they never stay the same!

Right now my top five would include: Daddy’s Lessons - Beyoncè, The Fighter - Keith Urban ft. Carrie Underwood, Tennessee Whiskey - Chris Stapleton, Hair - Little

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DM: What advice would you give to other young aspiring singers on getting in the business and following their dreams?

AP: My most important advice to any aspiring artist is: be ready to work. There’s a big difference between being a “singer” and being an “artist”.

If you really want to make it in this business you have to know that it’s much more than just singing. There are hundreds of details to being a great artist and that’s what we’re learning about right now.

PM: I would tell them to make sure that you really want to do this, because it’s a lot of work.

It requires more from you than you’d think; music wants all of you so you have to be prepared to give it everything. But also know that when you put in the work you get amazing results.

As far as dreams go, you’re never too old or young to follow your dreams. You can be anything you want to be and do anything you want to do as long as you put in the work and believe in yourself.

KB: Whatever you do, don’t give up and don’t loose sight of your dreams. Know that anything is possible with enough faith, prayer, and dedication as long as you are willing to put in the work. You don’t always need to “skip a step” I promise that the long way around can prove to be more beneficial.

Keep your feet on the ground, stay humble, and never loose that spark in your eyes and fire in your heart. Do what you love and have fun. ■

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DM: What is your background?

MA: I was born and raised in Sacramento CA, son of William and Barbara Anderson, brother to Kelli and father, to the best 14 year old on the planet, Christian Anderson. In terms of music I started playing, what used to be my father’s trombone, when I was in the fifth grade. I played that thru high school, where I would also play in the drum line during marching season. I started playing piano around age 16 added the bass somewhere after that, I have been hooked ever since.

DM: How did you get started in the music/entertainment business?

MA: Sacramento was and still is one of the best-kept secrets in the music business, in terms of talent that comes out of that city.

From acting to sports and music, there is a TON of talent that still comes out of the Sacramento area.

And back then - I didn’t know it at the time - I was amongst some of the elite of my era. There were guys like Derek D.O.A. Allen

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– who toured as the bass player for Janet Jackson on her Rhythm Nation Tour and went on to produce hit records for Smokie Norful, and many others that taught me everything about getting into the music business as a young musician. Things like: how to carry myself, what chords I might need to pull out of my back pocket when I got into a creative jam and most importantly when to just shut up and listen! LOL. The late Robert Brookins, who gave me my first Musical Director gig, to my mentor Jay King, from the classic R&B group Club Nouveau, taught me most of what I know to this day about the business side of music. Additionally, he gave me the opportunity to get my leadership chops together while working on some of the artists that he manages like Karyn White and Cameo.

DM: What client experiences are you most proud of ?

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Road. They have responded pretty well to most every challenge that I have put in front of them. Only time will tell how great they will become. But when I was Musical Director for the R&B group Jagged Edge we performed on the Tonight Show with their single ‘Where the Party At’ and they went on to sell just under 2 million records. The year I played with Christina Aguilera – ‘Genie in a Bottle’ went number one for six weeks; ‘What a Girl Wants’ also went number one for six weeks and she went on to win the Grammy for best new artist that year selling 10 million records. Most people will never know that, or even associate me with their success, but it’s still kind of cool to know that I and the other musicians and dancers played a significant role in some of that success.

DM: Who are some of your most notable clients?

MA: Some of my most notable clients would include:

Christina Aguilera, Jessica and Ashley Simpson, Aaron Carter, Jagged Edge, Chris Brown, Ricky Martin and the now defunct American Idol television show where I worked on two projects for seasons 5 and 8. I also had the privilege to work on a commercial with Darth Vader himself James Earl Jones and blues legend Taj Mahal.

DM: Who is your role model or has inspired you in your life and why?

MA: Wow… I have different role models and inspirations for different parts of my life. For example, The late champion Muhammad Ali was and is my role model for my manhood at large – the courage that he had to summon to become the first three time world heavyweight champion and to literally face down the US government for what he believed in is something I think most people – espe-

Summer 2016 | Profile cially the younger generation - still don’t fully understand how significant it was.

The guy who made me want to be in the music business was Prince. With his most recent passing it took me back to the beginning of why I wanted to be in this crazy business in the first place.

Prince made it ok for young African American kids like me to do something that wasn’t the ‘same old same old’ – to color outside the lines, or just use what ever colors you wanted to. You have to remember, in the 80s this cat was wearing makeup, skimpy clothes, playing incredible music that went from Rock to Funk to Jazz and was hanging out with of some of the most beautiful women in the world – yea…

Sign me up coach!!! LOL But then there was my mother, who because of a serious injury that she had while teaching elementary school, lived with some sort of pain everyday. But, she made up her mind to go back to college in her 30’s to get a degree in education.

She never let her discomfort be the reason she couldn’t or wouldn’t do something. Even later in life, as she battled colon cancer, you would have never known she was facing all of the challenges that that horrible disease brings. My mother had a quiet strength that still inspires my sister and me to this day.

DM: Tell me about a project or accomplishment that you consider being the most significant in your career.

MA: One of the most profound moments of my career was after I had been in the game for about ten years or so and I was going

thru a slow period with work - I looked at my resume and noticed that I had been able to do some cool stuff but I wanted more. I called my mom who was, as most moms do trying to soften a hard spot in my life saying ‘maybe this is it baby and you should come home for a little while’ but I looked at my resume as I was talking to her and I told her that I was looking at the evidence that it wasn’t. I get off the phone with her, I go in my room and get on my knees and told God that I was ready to go to the ‘next level’. I prayed a very specific prayer – so that I would be able to recognize when He had answered it. The prayer was that I wanted to play with someone so big that all I had to do was say their first name and people would know whom I was talking about. Three months later I was playing with Christina Aguilera – she goes on to sell 10 million records. And to this day I can say Christina to anyone anywhere and they know whom I am talking about. God sure does answer prayer doesn’t He? DM: What three things do you need to be successful in this job?

MA: 1 - Thick skin – because you are going to hear ‘no’ far more than you will hear ‘yes’. 2 - The ability to recognize and strengthen your weaknesses – because it is those things that can become the undoing of the things you are good at.

Number 3 - Be flexible to change because things hardly ever go according to plan.

If I could add one more to the list of ‘needs,’ find a way to laugh while you are

going after your goals and take plenty of pictures. You are going to have to remind yourself why you wanted to do this in the first place, when the tough days come.

DM: What’s the next skill or knowledge set you want to add to your repertoire to make you a better musician/ producer/promoter, and why?

MA: This might seem strange but I would like to get better at listening. I always say a singers/musicians best tool is their ear; but it also applies in business. You have to be able to ‘hear’ what people want, but also what is missing in the proverbial ‘music’ so that you can hopefully bring something to the table that is fresh and excites your audience. So much so, that they want to trust you and give you their money. Oh, and maybe blow fire or juggle swords, LOL. DM: What makes you laugh?

MA: When my mother passed away I wrestled with that loss for a long time. But, the thing that brought me out, of what I guess could be called a depression, was that I made a promise to laugh out loud everyday for the rest of my life. It started with watching the movie ‘Kings of Comedy’ literally everyday. But I make time to laugh with my family all the time – even those that live in other parts of the country via private Facebook chats or Skype. And now that I manage three teenage girls I find myself laughing hard at things that happen when we are together traveling or in the studio.

DM: What project(s) are you currently working on?

MA: Currently I am focused on managing and producing Auburn Road. A country/ pop trio of young singers that - I think will be at the forefront of the next wave of talent out of Sacramento and the country music world DM: What is the one accomplishment you are most proud of ? Why? MA: Hmmmm…. That’s a bit of a tough question actually. Because beyond being the father of my son – who is my GREATEST accomplishment, I have been blessed to be a part of some really really cool stuff that might not have the same cachet as say a Christina Aguilera which is certainly one of the biggest gigs that I played as a musician and has provided me a certain amount of ‘credit’ in certain circles. But some of the things that I am most proud of are things that no one but a select few will ever really know about.

For example, I was the bass player in a 4-piece rock band called Ashbylicious during the hip hop/rock era that was considered to be one of the best up and coming bands in Hollywood of the time. The things that I learned during that time in my life are things that are still guiding principles that I still live by and I still teach to the young musicians that I have the pleasure of guiding now. ■

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I nv i t i n g G o d I n t o Yo u r S u m m e r Schedule By: Elizabeth Petters A few nights ago I met my two best friends for dinner at a local café. We were there for three hours, talking about hopes, dreams, expectations and perfection. I sat there drinking in the beauty of their company and the vulnerability of our conversation.

As the sky darkened and we began to yawn, we decided it was time to go.

So, we all got out our calendars to plan our next dinner. We were only able to find two dates, that worked for all of us, out of the entire summer. We were booked solid with all of the events that other people were cramming into their summer schedules; weddings, baby showers, graduation parties, and BBQs. It is only June, but summer had already gotten away from us.

and reading on the porch. I love the chirping birds and warm sunshine, but most importantly, the flip-flops. Summer is a time of letting go and breathing deep. When I step out of my front door each morning and feel the sun on my skin and smell the sweet air of summer, I cannot help but smile and be thankful for the beauty all around me.

Oh how I love summer. I love the BBQs, trips to the beach, iced coffee,

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But I am busy. My schedule is crammed full of events that I am sure will make this summer the best one yet. Summer whispers to us “just be” while simultaneously screaming at us to do something. I have found that my favorite moments of summer are the ones where I find rest, even if it’s only briefly.

ship him. During the winter I cling to God as I navigate the depression that descends on many of us when the days are dark and the trees are bare. I find myself seeking Him at every turn, knowing full well that that is the only way I will make it through. But then, there is summer, sweet summer. Summer comes to us warm and gentle. All that I have needed I can find in summer, so, I throw myself into event after event and iced coffee after iced coffee and sometimes I forget who is preserving my life.

The test of our faith is how we react in both the bad times and the good times.

I have come to a place in my life where I cling to Christ in my hard times (It wasn’t always that way, but that’s a different story). I still have emotions, I still get angry and sad; as a matter of fact,

Summer 2016 | Faith God usually hears about it in deafening tones. But, I cling to Him. His ways are higher than mine. But the good times leave me feeling like I have everything under control. My perfectionist little brain can check off all the boxes, sit down with a glass of lemonade, and cruise right along through life. I throw God on the back burner until I have a crisis, then I give Him my attention again.

Summer is a wonderful time, and I have found that people are much happier in the summer. The days are long, the air is sweet, and who doesn’t like flowers everywhere? I find myself in moments of deep awe at this world that God has created; but then, someone hands me a hot dog and an iced tea

and I have forgotten. Enjoying summer is important; summer was made just for that, a break from the chaos and rest for the weary. Yet, we cram it so full that the rest is few and far between.

When I was in college, I worked at a summer camp one summer. This was a sleep away camp; so, all summer I slept in a cabin with 10 other girls. Breakfast was at 8am and activities filled the day; so, by lights out at 10 I couldn’t keep my eyes open. If I wanted some time to myself I had to make the time. I began waking up at 5:30am and running before settling on the step outside my cabin with my bible and my journal.

At first I was miserable and exhausted dragging myself out of bed with the sun, but after about a week I began to

feel something shift in me. I was happier, I had more energy for the day, and I was calmer (a massive plus for someone with constant anxiety).

Running for me is a way to connect with God. It’s the only time in my life where I feel I really listen. I leave my ear buds at home and it’s just us. With all the wonderful business summer has in store for many of us, it is freeing to find those things that bring us right to the feet of Jesus. Get up early, drag a lawn chair into your backyard and sit with your coffee, listening. Find those moments to step away from the craziness and to rest in the presence of Jesus, to breathe deep his grace, and bathe in his peace. ■

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Fix One Thing & Break Another

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ue to the change of seasons, drastic temperature changes, dust, wind, and pollen, I ended up with a sinus infection.

I was given a prescription to help with all of, or at least some, of my symptoms. I was feeling so bad that I was seeking any relief that I could find; I just wanted to feel better.

I wanted to be able to function because I had so many things to get done.

After contacting my doctor, I was given several prescriptions that would help with my symptoms and help me feel better. After taking my medicine the next morning, I began to feel better gradually during the day, and could tell that something good was happening. I went through my normal routine the best that I could and prepared myself for the evening and eventually bedtime.

Everything was going quite well.

Around 3:00 a.m. (The time God wakes you up to pray and talk to

By: Sheralyn Woodley you), I was wide-awake until 5 in the morning Long story short, when I went to go look at the side effects, of the medication I was given, the first effect listed was “difficulty falling asleep”.

For the next 10 days, in order to fix one thing, I had to deal with another. How many times have we prayed and asked God to fix something?

However, when He does, we realize the answer can appear to be worse than the actual problem. If you are in His will and ask Him to direct you in every decision you make, you will feel at ease and peace when the times comes to make a final decision. It does not mean that the decision will be easy. However, it does mean that you will have His help, comfort, and guidance during the decision process.

We know when a relationship is not good or beneficial for us, and we know that something must be done about it because it is affecting our relationship and walk with

Christ. However, when the person or persons are not in our life we feel lonely, and a void is left that feels like it will never be filled again.

We’re filled with endless questions on whether we should make the hard decision or if we are willing to ignore it for temporary comfort. In the midst we forget to ast the most important question of all, “What is the will of God for my life?”

The medicine ordeal that kept me up for 10 days, averaging two to two and a half hours of sleep per day, finally ended. There were not many people that knew what was going on because I had family and a few great friends that made sure I was covered, functioning, checked on, and talked to while driving from place to place. It definitely was not a pleasant 10 days. Nevertheless, being sick was not pleasant either. To fix one thing, I had to break another, but it was worth it in the end! ■

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Wh a t My 2 Ye a r Ol d Ta u g h t Me A b o u t Fa i t h By: Adonis Lenzy The other day my Church held a baptism service at the lake. We had an awesome time and afterwards several of us stayed in the lake and played around.

I had my two-year-old daughter with me and she was having a blast. At first I thought she would be scared but she wasn’t. I began to throw her up in the air and then catch her. She enjoyed that so much that she just kept saying, “Do it again”. She wasn’t afraid at all, in fact, she just kept on laughing.

dreams and plans for your life; even when they seem overwhelming.

Sometimes God will give you a dream that is greater than the current ability within you. It can be overwhelming as you stand where you are, looking out at all the possibilities that could be. It might even be scary as you size yourself up to the bigness of your dream. This is a moment in your life in which you

doubt require a huge step of faith from you. You can’t stay where you are and reach your dream at the same time.

Take a step of faith and your ability to accomplish the dream will grow. Don’t stay put, whatever you do, keep moving forward. Face your fear of the unknown head on, launch out and expect the best. Give up comfort and embrace what is to come.

This is not a set up for your failure, but a set up for God to get all the glory. When He brings you into your dream, you will know that it had nothing to do with your education, bank account or charisma; but everything to do with His Goodness, His Mercy and His Grace.

When others applaud your success, it will be easy for you to say, “Look What The Lord Has Done”.

As I thought about it more, there was not one ounce of fear in her whatsoever. She wasn’t concerned with whether or not daddy was going to catch her; now was she bothered by any potential dangers that could have presented themselves. The Bible talks about having a child-like faith.

Truly I say to you, unless you repent (change, turn about) and become like little children [trusting, lowly, loving, forgiving], you can never enter the kingdom of heaven [at all]....

Matthew 18:3 (AMP) Lately, I’ve been challenged to trust God more than ever with my life, family and future. I can easily relate to my daughter being thrown up in the air,being totally out of control and having nothing to do with the end results.

All she knew was that her daddy was going to catch her.

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will have to learn to trust. God knows the end of a thing from the beginning.

If He put the desire in you, then He knows you have what it takes to accomplish it.

It’s so easy to stay put on the shore of comfort instead of stepping into the ocean of the unknown. If you are ever going to live your dream, it will no

Make a change today and start trusting God like never before. Trust Him that everything is going to be OK. Trust Him that He is going to catch you. Quit focusing on things that could go wrong and start envisioning things going right in your life. He will no doubt come through for you, and when He does, you can say what my little daughter kept saying to me that day at the lake; “Do it again”.

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Outdoor Eating S a fe t y T i p s May through September are the months that we spend time having picnics, eating outdoors, and having family gatherings. They are also the months that there are increased risks of food poisoning and individuals not practicing correct food safety procedures.

In order to be safe this summer, practice these simple tips to keep your food safe and your outings cheerful and fun.

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Wash hands before and after handling food.

Clean the surfaces you work and eat on often.

Make sure your cooler is clean and sanitized before putting food in it.

Use hand sanitizer and disinfecting wipes often.

Keep raw meats, poultry, seafood, eggs, and ready-to-eat foods separate.

Prevent cross-contamination.

Marinate foods in refrigerator or cooler.

Cook food to proper temperature

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Pack food in well-insulated cooler with plenty of ice and keep temperature below 40° F. Transport cooler in the back seat of an air-conditioned car instead of hot trunk.

Don’t leave food outside in hot weather (90° F or above) for more than one hour.

Keep hot food hot; food needs to be at 140° F or hotter to prevent the growth of harmful bacteria.

Keep cold food cold; cold water cannot keep foods cold enough to be safe.

Eat take-out foods such as fried chicken or barbecued meat within two hours of pick-up or buy ahead of time and chill before packing in the cooler.

Keep foods covered to prevent contamination by insects.

Follow the 2-hour rule; don’t leave perishable food unrefrigerated for more than two hours.

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Summer Cocktails THE DAIQUIRI If you’re a fan of sugar, lime, and rum, the Daiquiri will hit the spot!

Sip on this rum filled cocktail by the pool, beach, or at your local bar!

COSMOPOLITAN This pink drink is the gals favorite. Whether your out with your girlfriends or with your significant other, ladies (or gentleman), this pink drink known as the “Cosmo” will hit the spot. Just don’t have one too many!

It’s summer time and having a nice hand crafted cocktail always makes fighting the heat easier. Whether you’re a champagne kind of person or rum, these cocktails will be the perfect addition to your summer!

PIÑA COLDA No one can go wrong with this classic summer drink! It’s creamy, boozy, and has coconut! Start cutting your pineapple and blend this Piña Colada!

BLOOD ORANGE MANHATTAN Whether you’re in Manhattan or not, this blood orange Manhattan is just the right amount of citrus! If you’re a bourbon fan and want to mix it up, the Manhattan is the way to go!

CHAMPAGNE COCKTAIL For all you champagne lovers here’s a change from your regular flute of champagne or bottomless mimosas.

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Sweet ‘n Sour Garden Collards

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1 tablespoon olive oil 4 slices bacon, cut into small pieces 1 medium onion, chopped 1 bunch collards, trimmed, ribs discarded and thinly sliced 4 sun-dried tomatoes, chopped 2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper

Directions:

In a saute pan on medium heat, add the oil, bacon and onions and cook until the fat has rendered, the bacon is crisp and the onions are tender.

Add the collards and sun-dried tomatoes to the pan and continue to cook until the greens wilt, about 2 minutes. Add in the balsamic vinegar and season with salt and pepper, to taste. Transfer to a serving bowl and serve immediately.

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Homemade Cannoli

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2 pounds whole milk ricotta cheese 1 1/2 cups powdered sugar, plus more for sprinkling 2 tablespoons chopped candied orange peel 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 16 cannoli shells Mini chocolate chips, for garnish

Directions:

Special equipment: cheesecloth and a large piping bag fitted with a large tip Place a piece of cheesecloth in a strainer and hang it over a bowl. Add the ricotta to the strainer and cover it with a bit more cheesecloth. Place a small plate over the top of the ricotta and weigh it down with a large can of tomatoes or anything heavy. Let it strain in the fridge overnight.

In a large bowl, add the

strained ricotta, powdered sugar, candied orange peel and vanilla. Stir everything so it’s all well mixed.

Add the filling to a large piping bag fitted with a large tip. Pipe the filling into the cannoli shells and dip each end in the mini chocolate chips. Sprinkle over some powdered sugar. Serve right away for best-tasting cannolis.

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Prosciutto Lamb Burgers

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1/2 cup plain dried bread crumbs 1/4 cup chopped fresh flat-leaf Italian parsley 1 large egg, lightly beaten 2 tablespoons whole milk 1/2 cup grated Pecorino Romano 1/4 cup chopped sun-dried tomatoes 3/4 teaspoon salt 3/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

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1 pound ground lamb 6 large slices prosciutto, sliced medium-thin (for wrapping the burgers) 1/4 cup olive oil Fresh basil leaves, for topping each burger Fresh tomato slices, for topping each burger Extra-virgin olive oil, for drizzling Balsamic vinegar, for drizzling

Directions:

n a large bowl combine the bread crumbs, parsley, egg, milk, cheese, sun-dried tomatoes, salt, and pepper, Stir to combine. Add the lamb and stir until incorporated. Divide the mixture into 6 (1-inch) thick burgers.

Place the slices of prosciutto on a cutting board or piece of parchment paper. Place 1 lamb burger in the center of each slice of prosciutto and wrap the prosciutto around the burger.

Place a large, heavy skillet over medium heat. Add the

olive oil and heat for 2 minutes. Place the lamb burgers, prosciutto-covered side down in the pan and cook over medium heat until the prosciutto is golden, about 6 to 8 minutes. Turn the burgers and finish cooking, about 6 to 8 minutes more.

Remove the burgers from the pan and place on a serving platter or individual plates. Top each burger with 2 to 3 basil leaves, 1 to 2 slices of tomato, and a drizzle of extra-virgin olive oil and balsamic vinegar. Serve immediately.

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Texas Brisket

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6 pounds beef brisket 1 tablespoon yellow mustard 1/4 cup dark brown sugar 3/4 cup paprika 2 tablespoons chipotle chili powder 1/4 cup black pepper 2 tablespoons garlic powder 1/4 cup salt 2 tablespoons onion powder 1 tablespoon cayenne pepper

Directions:

Trim the fat cap on the brisket to about 1/4 to 1/8 of an inch. Coat the brisket with a light coating of the yellow mustard. Mix the sugar and spices together to form the rub for the brisket. Apply the rub to both sides of the meat.

Place the brisket in a preheated 194 to 205 degree F smoker until the meat reaches an internal temperature of 185 to 195 degrees F, about 1 1/2 hours per pound.

Once the internal temperature is reached, remove the brisket from the smoker and allow it to rest for at least 30 minutes before slicing.

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Perfect Veggie Burgers

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1/3 cup quick-cooking barley 3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 1 small onion, chopped 1 small stalk celery, chopped Kosher salt 2 cloves garlic, chopped 5 tablespoons barbecue sauce 1 medium carrot, finely grated 1 cup canned pinto or black beans, drained and rinsed 1/3 cup breadcrumbs 1/3 cup walnuts, chopped 2 teaspoons soy sauce 2 large egg whites 2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley 6 soft buns, split Onion rings, for topping

Directions:

Prepare the barley as the label directs. Let cool completely.

Heat 2 tablespoons olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. Add the onion, celery and a pinch of salt; cook, stirring occasionally, until golden, 12 to 14 minutes.

Add the garlic, 3 tablespoons barbecue sauce and the carrot; cook, stirring, until the mixture dries out slightly, 1 to 2 minutes. Transfer to a food processor and let cool completely.

Add the barley, beans, breadcrumbs, walnuts, soy sauce, egg whites, parsley and 1/2 teaspoon salt to the food processor. Pulse until finely

ground with some chunks.

Form into six 4-inch-wide, 1/2-inch-thick patties and place on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Cover and refrigerate until firm, 1 to 4 hours.

Preheat the broiler. Heat the remaining 1 tablespoon olive oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat. Working in batches, cook the patties until golden brown, about 6 minutes per side. Meanwhile, place the buns, cut-side up, on a broiler pan and broil until toasted, 1 to 2 minutes.

Serve the patties on the buns; top with the remaining 2 tablespoons barbecue sauce and onion rings.

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Southwest Turkey Burgers

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8 slices turkey bacon or turkey bacon with black pepper or applewood smoked bacon 1 1/3 pounds ground turkey breast, the average weight of 1 package 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped 1 large shallot or 1/4 red onion, finely chopped 2 tablespoons chopped fresh thyme leaves or 1 teaspoon dried thyme leaves 2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro leaves, optional parsley may be substituted 1/2 small bell pepper, green, red or yellow, seeded and finely chopped 1 serrano or jalapeño pepper, seeded and finely chopped 2 teaspoons, 2/3 palm full,

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ground cumin Directions: 1 to 2 teaspoons cayenne hot 1. Chop your garlic and veggies. sauce, several drops (recom- 2. Cook bacon in a large nonstick mended: Tabasco) skillet over medium high heat 2 teaspoons grill seasonuntil crisp. Wipe excess grease ing blend (recommended: from pan and return skillet to Montreal Steak Seasoning by heat.

McCormick) 3. While bacon cooks, combine Vegetable oil or olive oil, for turkey meat, garlic, shallot drizzling or onion, thyme, cilantro or 1/2 pound deli sliced pepper parsley, bell pepper, serrano or jack cheese jalapeño pepper, cumin, hot 4 crusty kaiser rolls, split pepper sauce, grill seasoning or 1 cup sweet red pepper salt and pepper. Divide mixture relish, found on condiment into 4 equal mounds then form aisle - pepper jelly may be meat into patties. Drizzle patsubstituted ties with vegetable oil to coat.

Red leaf lettuce Cook in skillet over medium Spicy O-nuts, recipe follows high heat for 5 to 6 minutes on

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slices for each patty, as you like.

Pile cooked cheeseburgers into buns. Spread sweet relish or jelly on bun tops and set red leaf lettuce into place, using the relish or jelly as glue. Top cheeseburgers with 2 slices of cooked, crisp bacon or turkey bacon and lettuce. Then serve with tortilla chips, tossed salad and/or spicy o-nuts.

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How S t r e s s I s A f fe c t i n g Yo u r L i fe By: April Oleson Stress can sometimes be avoided, but often times it becomes a part of our daily lives. You always hear, “Don’t stress out. Everything will work out the way it should”, but how does stress affect us physically? I will be the first to admit, I stress out more than I should.

My husband and those around me will tell me to chill out and relax, but by the end of the day I am once again stressing out.

Stress is a major part of our health issues in today’s society. Some of the ways it affects our bodies is as follows.

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complex regional pain syndrome Alcoholism, suicide, drug addiction, tobacco addiction, and other harmful behaviors

Here are some interesting facts about our body and stress as well.

Fact #1: It doesn’t matter if it is a big stress or a little stress. No matter how big the situation is, your body is still affected by the stress that comes in your life. It also doesn’t matter if it is ten times a day or once a day, stress affects your body just the same.

Fact #2: Stress can change people. Stress causes “Cortical Inhibition”. Stress affects a small portion of your brain causing you to not act the same way you would if you weren’t stressed putting you in a different state of mind.

Fact#3: You can become numb to the stress in your life. Just because you get used to the stress in your life doesn’t mean you aren’t being affected by it and it isn’t damaging your body.

Fact #4: We can control our response to stress.

When stress comes along, we need to try and be positive. I know sometimes that is a lot to ask but there are times that stress will come in and we can’t control that. So when stress comes to our lives, we should be greeting it as a challenge. Try not to let it ruin your day.

Fact #5: Handle the stress as it comes: Don’t worry about the stresses that come into your lives in the future.

Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring enough worries of its own. Matthew 6:34 NIV If you feel like the stresses of life become too much to handle, go find a stress reliever. It could be as simple as going to a yoga class or something more creative. For me, art is my stress reliever. I will sit down and draw a picture or color in a coloring book.

Whatever your form of stress relief, make sure you find one that will help reduce the effects on your body. ■

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COFFEE DIET By: Michele Smarty

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Summer 2016 | Health Do you know, only a single cup of coffee can help you lose more weight than any supplements can?

Coffee is a mind-blowing and a fantastic drink. Many Americans love to drink coffee because of its essential nutrients and some health benefits. People like to have a cup of coffee to enjoy its refreshing taste whereas; it can also help you to excrete out some exhausting fats from your body.

Here, are a few easy tips to quickly lose weight with a simple coffee diet.

Lose weight with a simple coffee diet: Coffee is the most exotic and naturally brewed drink ever. You can even make it at home by simply using espresso makers. It helps to lose weight and to burn the extra fat and calories from your body. Everyone wants to look beautiful, slim, and smart. Coffee helps to provide you a pretty perfect body and also contributes to keep the body in a perfect shape. Leading to reduce extra weight from the body.

Consumption of caffeine is a healthy addition to your weight loss diet.

Coffee can burn nine calories within an hour instead of using supplements.

Supplements can help you to reduce weight. But do you know how much

these supplements are dangerous for you? Supplements only reduce weight just for a limited time, and the usage has different vigorous side effects. It can harm your skin by giving you dark circles, acne, pimples, and marks that can create hormonal disorders.

But, coffee is one of the best beverages that most of the doctors recommend.

In the US, coffee is the only prescribed beverage that is beneficial for all those patients who have cardio and liver health disorders. Coffee has numerous health benefits. It can negate various benefits and quickly help to lose weight.

Quality coffee contains an enormous amount of antioxidants.

Coffee increases the metabolism rate 3-11%.

It enhances the speed of fat burning from 10-29%.

It helps to boost the energy level.

Follow the given tips and lose an enormous amount of fat from your body.

Start your morning with a sugar-free cup of black coffee.

Go for a walk and regular exercise.

Have another cup of black or simple coffee in your breakfast.

Use coffee in various forms like pills, energy drink, and tea, or food items.

Increase your coffee intake while on work.

After coming back from work, have a yoga exercise and a cup of coffee to relax your body.

Make it your daily routine.

Drink at least 5-6 coffee shots per day Black Coffee: Coffee has various types, but black coffee is the most known category. Black coffee is a stimulant-induced. It contributes to control weight and boosts your metabolic system. It keeps you active and helps to burn fat and calories. It can increase your metabolism by stimulating your brain. It facilitates to pull out the fatty cells from your body.

It provides an enormous amount of powerful antioxidants and also provides essential nutrients to the body. The morning coffee shot raises the heart pumps that boosts your energy level and helps you in exercise. It also helps to improve your immune system and cures many cancers.

In addition, coffee intake lightens up the lipolysis process in your body, which contributes in removing the fatty acids from the blood stream of a body. It will happen when your body is turning around the fats into energy by only taking 4-5 coffee shots daily. â–

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R e c o m m i tt i n g To Yo u r Fitness Goals By: Sherisse’ D. Woodley

It has been six months since the New Year started; and by this time, people have already fallen off their routine of working out more often and eating healthy. Sometimes it’s our lack of motivation. Other times it is the fact that our schedules became so hectic that we couldn’t find the time to fit in our daily workout, or meal prep for the week. It happens to the majority of us and that is fine. What isn’t fine is when we think we’ve drifted so far from our routine that it is useless or impossible to get back on track.

The first thing we need to remember is that staying fit, eating healthy, and making healthy decisions for our body takes time, dedication, and patience.

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is the case; however, for most of us it takes months to notice a difference in our bodies.

Recommitting to your fitness goals does not have to be hard. The best way to get back into your groove is to take it one day at a time, and go at a pace you are comfortable with. A common misconception is that we must spend hours upon hours at the gym, daily, doing endless cardio. Cardio is good for you; but, so is hitting the weight room and pumping iron. However, what we really should focus on is our nutrition.

Managing one’s nutrition makes more of a difference then some people realize. Now, I am not saying you should go vegan or do a caveman diet for a month or two. Believe me, crash diets

will not help you keep the weight off, or stay toned, in the end. Think of improving your nutrition as a life-style change; rather than a short-term diet that you will toss out once you reach your fitness goals. Think of “slow and steady wins the race.”

So, how do you get into your groove and recommit to your fitness goals?

Here are some tips to help you out.

1. Schedule it. If you are like me, and like everything you have to do to be in the calendar, this task will come easy for you. To clarify, just because you have “Gym” schedule on your calendar at 7:30 p.m.

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I don’t go to the gym on Friday because I have plans. Scheduling your workouts in your calendar makes you accountable; it also prevents double booking, which can result in you blowing off the gym multiple times a week.

2. Follow Your Schedule. Now, I know I just said adhering to a specific time is not mandatory; what’s important is that you go on the scheduled day. If you continue to schedule your workouts weekly, but never go, what good is step one? Make sure you get up and go to the gym. You don’t have to stay there for over an hour; but, starting somewhere will lead to your success!

3. Get a gym partner. Working out is always more fun when you have

a buddy. Having a workout buddy makes it easier to achieve your goals. You both will cheer for and encourage the other to make better decisions and get to the gym. Also, seeing your workout buddy do an extra rep or hold their plank longer will give you healthy competition; which leads to better results overall.

Next time you’re going to the gym, or performing any sort of exercise, see if you can bring a friend.

4. Write down your goals. Writing down your fitness goals and tracking your progress will help encourage you to stay on your fitness journey. Sometimes the scale does not tell the whole story; make weight and measurement goals, track them weekly to see what works and what does not.

5. Mix it up. Doing the same workout each day or week can get boring and old, fast! Try changing it up every once in a while; this will keep you focused and excited to workout. Try a workout class one day, go hiking the next, etc. There are so many activities you can do, at the gym and outside that can make your fitness journey fun and exciting!

6. Reward Yourself. Remember, not every reward has to be food. If you have lost a certain amount of weight or went down a dress size, reward yourself with a new dress.

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Summer Hair T r e n d s To T r y By: Lizandra Mercado

If you want to make sure you’ll have the hottest hairstyle and the best “on fleek” makeup this summer, then you’ve come to the right place. Just keep reading! Today’s topic is all about the trendiest beauty looks and how you MUST try them this summer.

Wet Look Locks- This look is a strong sexy statement. It’s extremely effortless and the best part is that almost everyone can pull off this look. Whether your hair is short, long, thick or thin, trust me you can rock this hairstyle!

Here’s the trick: Start with wet or dry hair. Use a paddle brush to brush all of your hair straight back and out of your face. Apply gel or paste to the roots and front hair line only. With a comb, begin gently combing gel through rest of the hair and repeat until it is evenly distributed throughout hair. Seal and Spray with your favorite Hairspray.

Texturized Ponytail- Keep your hair look relaxed and youthful this summer.

For a modern, but still fun way to wear the classic ponytail hairstyle, tease your hair to add instant texture and volume.

Randomly curl pieces of your hair and comb them out, this will help to add shape to your waves. Then, gather all of your hair at the nape of the neck and tie with an elastic band. Lastly, take a strand of hair from the back of

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the ponytail and wrap your hair around the band, pin with a bobby for a soft sophisticated look.

Braids- By far, braids are the biggest summer hair trend of 2016! It makes sense, since braids keep hair out of your face. They are the alternative to the high pony or topknots, and they can be just as chic! What I love about braids is that they are of all shapes, lengths and volume. My favorite style of braid at the moment is the twin French braids, or also known as “Boxer” braids. So many Celebs are wearing braids this season and so can you.

Give it a try!

Tousled Waves- Get gorgeous tousled waves this summer and show off this glossy hair trend! This is my go-to hair for summer, I love how easy and effortless this hairstyle is, it’s perfect for beach days or even an evening dinner party.

For head turning voluminous locks that scream “BABE” the key is large, soft and smooth waves. Start of with a fresh blow fry, curl your hair with a large

curling iron or wand, twisting your hair around the barrel creating full waves.

After curls have cooled down, gently comb through them with a paddle brush or your fingers this will create a soft and natural look. Then, polish off the look with shine serum or sea salt spray to lock in the look.

Hair Accessories- Leave it to hair accessories to give your whole outfit some extra charisma this summer and there is so much to choose from! As a hair and makeup artist, this has definitely been one of my favorite trends this year! Whether it is one of my brides, using a floral head crown, on her special day; or another client just wanting to change things up for the day. By adding a headband or pieces to their hair, they can add that special touch. This look has quickly become popular this season; so, the next time you are going out, be bold and go for a beautiful hair accessory; you’ll love the look! ■

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S u m m e r M a ke u p T r e n d s To T r y By: Lizandra Mercado

Dewy skin- Fresh, dewy skin is a staple this season. Who doesn’t want to look glowing this summer? The best way to achieve this look is to use a beauty oil and pair it with a really good quality highlighter to enhance your radiance. So, if you are “strobing,” keep it up!

Bushy Bold Eyebrows- Thin brows are out and BIG, BUSHY, BOLD brows are in!!! I’m not sure about you, but I am loving this new trend. In my opinion, eyebrows can either make or break your face. So, be extra careful when it comes to grooming your brows. The less you pluck and the more natural, in size and shape, you keep them, chances are they’ll frame your face better.

FACT: Thick eyebrows make a face look younger.

Flushed Cheek- Move over contouring because there’s an easier makeup trend this summer! This season is all about natural, flushed cheeks that will make you look as if you spent a day out on the slopes. I like this look applied just past the front of the apples of the cheek. To find this placement, simply look into a mirror and smile. The part of the cheek that’s most forward when you smile should be right beside your nose. Apply your favorite blusher just past this spot and blend up along the

cheekbone. Be careful not to go as far up as the ear or hairline, use the temples as a guide.

Minimalist Makeup- Words like “bare,” “glowing,” “soft,” “natural,” and “real-looking” best describe the trend for skin in 2016. The idea of this look is to only use makeup to conceal flaws and define features, rather than to completely transform your face, especially if you plan to be out in the sun on the beach this summer. The key is using as few products as possible, to create a look that is fresh. Cosmetic brands all over the world are responding to this trend with Lighter Foundations, BB and CC Creams, Tinted Moisturizers, Sheerer lip glosses and new products to accentuate the cheekbones and brows. So, even when women want to have this “no makeup” look, they still feel more comfortable wearing some makeup, and they can, they just need to have the right products in their makeup bags. My tip to best achieve the “I woke up like this” look is to make sure you have a skincare regimen that will help keep your face looking healthy and bright!

Cat Eyes- The cat eye makeup trend is a retro look inspired by generations of iconic women and this vintage look is only becoming more and more popular. The bold and beautiful cat eye is still being highly used in fashion shows

and in everyday use. One of my favorite makeup looks is a winged cat-eye with a bold red lip; it’s classy glamour!

If you aren’t a fan of bold lips and are looking for something softer, try pairing this eye trend with a nude lip and keep the drama solely on the eyes. It takes a bit of prepping and practice to perfect your wings; but, here are a few tips to help you get started.

1. Prep your eyelid- swipe a nude eye shadow on your lids to take away any shine or imperfections.

2. Outline- with a pencil eye-liner outline the top of your eyelid, this will help you when it comes time to add liquid liner and will also make it easier to prevent any mishaps.

3. Liquid Liner- trace the pencil liner with liquid liner, the liquid liner is crucial for the desired look; use quick and swift movements to create a checkmark like line towards your eye crease.

4. Curl Lashes- use an eye lash curler to curl your lashes. You want your eyelashes to look as long as possible for this look.

5. Mascara- load on the mascara, adding several coats!

6. Clean up- use a Q-tip to erase any mistakes along the way. ■

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Maintaining A Manicure By: Alexa Keough

Manicures are one of life’s little luxuries.

For a half hour, you can sit back in a posh chair, be waited on hand and foot (literally), and get your nails painted without the fumes or mess of a DIY job. Life’s not always as smooth as a pair of acrylics, though, and sometimes that shiny new manicure can get ruined before the drive home is over. Even after they’re under UV light, new nails can be delicate and chip at the drop of a hat–even if you’re careful, mistakes can still happen. To make your manicure last as long as possible, check out the tips (tips–get it?) below!

Avoid The Heat Sorry if this means you’re canceling your post manicure spa day sauna plans, but high temperatures will send your nail polish into fits of crimping. Avoid being in the sunlight (think like a vampire) and maybe don’t use the stove for dinner. It’ll take at least a day or two for them to really harden, so if you absolutely need to operate an oven, maybe wear gloves or oven mitts for protection. Heat causes the enzymes in the polish to denature, which is why you get that runny, wrinkly “coming apart” effect if you expose them.

Skip The Hand Sanitizer Wash your hands with soap instead of

hand sanitizer. You should be doing this anyway, but it’s extra important with a manicure. Hand sanitizer is a toxic cocktail of chemicals on the best of days, and it’ll erode your polish in an instant. It’ll dry out both your hands and your nails and ruin your topcoat–it’s practically suicide for your skin. Wash with a gentle hypoallergenic soap so it doesn’t eat through the manicure or hurt your palms.

Don’t Soak Your Nails Ask your manicurist not to soak your nails before painting them. It’s a technique usually used to soften cuticles, but it can have negative affects on the manicure. It causes the nails to absorb water and therefore expand, so when they dry out, your manicure won’t “fit you”, which can cause all kinds of issues. If you absolutely must have them soaked, ask the salon for cuticle oil instead, which isn’t as inflammatory to the cuticles.

Avoid Matte Polish If you’re going on vacation or need to pick up the kids, a polish with a sheen is your best bet. Matte polish chips a lot easier then creme ones, and it’s more difficult to touch up at that. Save the duller hues for a night out–their time will come! ■

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Neutrogena Shine Control Primer $14

L’ORÉAL Voluminous Volume Building Waterproof Mascara $9

Too Faced Born This Way Concealer $28

L’Oréal Paris Pure-Clay Mask $13

Touch In Sol Chroma Powder Lip Tint $20

Not Your Mother’s Beach Babe Soft Waves Sea Salt Spray $6

Paula Dorf Perfect Color $32

Milk Makeup Lip Marker $20

Living Proof No Frizz Humidity Shield $22

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S we a t P r o o f M a ke u p by: Sherisse’ D. Woodley

With the temperature getting high, one of the many things that suffer is our makeup. The last thing anyone wants is to be outside and soon realize your eyebrows, yes most of us girls either draw them on or enhance them, or eyeliner or any of your makeup is sweating off your face. Now I’m not saying you need to go out and buy all your makeup waterproof; but, there are some other ways to ensure your makeup looks the same as it did when you walked out the door.

During the hot months of the year, I usually opt for matte foundation and sheer foundation for cold months.

One or two things you want to invest in buying are setting spray and translucent powder. Your face is more oily than it would be in the winter, being able to apply translucent powder here and there and setting spray before and after applying your makeup will keep your face from looking like a mud slide gone wrong.

Here are some tips on how to keep your foundation from sweating off your face, mascara and/or eyeliner from running down your cheeks, and the eye shadow that you spent precious time applying from creasing thirty minutes after you walk out the door.

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Setting Spray Like I mentioned before applying setting spray before, and after your makeup, will keep your makeup look fresh and prevent it from melting. Try Urban Decay’s De-slick Makeup Setting Spray for $30. (This is an animal cruelty free product).

Primer Apply primer on your T-zones to keep shining at bay. Try Smashbox’s silicon-based primer for a pure silk texture! What makes this product even better is that it contains SPF 20 protection and is only for $42. (Make sure to add it to your eyelids to keep your eye shadow from creasing).

Conceal If you have a blemish(es) you wish to cover up apply a matte concealer before applying your foundation. The last thing you want is a blemish showing up because the one thing that was concealing it melts off like a lava cake.

Try Lancôme’s Effacernes Waterproof Protective Under eye Concealer for $30.

Foundation I’m forever loyal to NARS foundation, maybe, it’s lightweight and I have the option of choosing sheer for cold-

er months and matte for the hotter months. If for some reason you’re not a fan of NARS or looking for something new Estée Lauder’s Double Wear StayIn-Place Foundation is the way to go for $37.

Eye Shadow Primer Even though you applied primer on your eyelids, it’s also important to apply eye shadow primer if you’re going to apply eye shadow. So lather that primer on and may your eye shadow be as gorgeous as you! I personally use E.L.F eye primer (and it is animal cruelty free!), but Too Faced Shadow Insurance for $20 is a great option as well!

Loose Powder or Translucent After applying liquid products, dab (don’t drag) loose powder on your face.

This will help set the foundation and concealer, as well as, give you a less shinny look throughout the day. I like keeping either my powder or translucent powder in my purse that way, when I start to become shinny I can apply a little. For loose powder try NARS ‘All Day’ Luminous Powder Foundation SPF 24 for $48, and for translucent powder try Urban Decay’s De-Slick Mattifying Powder for $32. ■

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Summer Bathing Suits Fo r E a c h B o d y T y p e Busty

Some of us were blessed more than others, and finding a top that is the perfect fit can be difficult!

Tops that lift and support should always be an option over stringy tops.

ASOS FULLER BUST Exclusive Deep Plunge Swimsuit DD-G $32.35

Athletic

String bikinis will be your new best friend this summer! They will help shape more curves on your athletic body leaving you feeling like sexy and confident!

Victoria Secret Double-banded Bikini with Banded Sunkissed Halter $21

Petite

Heavy padded tops on a petite figure can go south in many ways.

To highlight your best features opt for bathing suits with ruffles, embellishments, and/or triangle tops. Just don’t go overboard on the ruffles the last thing you want to look like is a over decorated wedding cake.

Monki Ruffle Bikini $41.00

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Curvy

You’ve got the classic hourglass shape. Finding a bathing suit that both highlights your curves, but is not over revealing can be a task on it’s own. Try this bathing suit out and others similar to it!

Swim Sexy The Icon Black High Waist Bikini $43.40

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Fo u r C l a s s i c Wa r d r o b e E s s e n t i a l s by: Khiamma Ptah

Everyone’s closet looks different, as our clothing is a reflection our unique interests and personalities. In addition to the diverse pieces in our collection, there are four essential pieces everyone should keep in their wardrobe to make putting together that outfit of the day quick and easy.

Leather Jacket The leather jacket is one of my favorite staple pieces to own, as it literally looks good with everything. It adds that rocker-chic edge to any casual day outfit and is easily transmittable into eveningwear. On a chilly night out, throwing a classic black leather jacket over a party dress for that night of dancing, or over a dinner dress for that romantic

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date will keep you feeling warm and looking chic.

Boots The best kind of shoe to wear all day without having to change back and forth from heels to flats are boots. A signature boot has the ability to look good with any outfit choice; whether it be a dress or a tee and jeans combination. Having a good pair of sturdy and stylish boots makes stomping the pavement and traveling around town easier with its show stopping practicality.

Casual dress Having a simple dress that can be dressed up, down, or worn as is, is one of the most valuable pieces you

can own. Sometimes we just need something to throw on with a jacket and a pair a shoes before heading out the door; dresses makes that process instant.

Jeans I have to admit that everyone needs a good pair of comfortable jeans that fit like a glove. A pair of denim jeans whether they’re ripped, high-waisted, printed, vintage, etc. will be your go-to when putting together outfits for each and every season. Denim has the ability to look good on everyone and owning a signature pair is essential. ■Image: 2leave.com

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Finding Yo u r S t yl e by: Khiamma Ptah Style is something you acquire by experimenting with looks you find compatible with your personality and sense of self. For some having style is natural, but for others it can take a lot more time and effort to put together a chic look. Here a six steps to guide you on your journey to find your personal style.

Do Your Research If we’re not constantly surrounded by fashionable people it may be hard to tell what’s becoming popular.

Just because you’re not in the loop doesn’t mean you can’t be a fashion forecaster.

You can do some research by simply looking up the newest trends online through blogs, online magazines (such as Deliberate Magazine), fashion-based Youtube channels, and runway shows from the current season. Once you’ve gained some knowledge on what’s popular in the past, present, and future you can begin picking some looks to replicate.

Get Inspired Sometimes we just don’t know what to wear, and the styles you’ve been experimenting with have become too repetitive. This is when you look to some of your favorite fashion bloggers, designers, Instagrammers, etc. that you’ve acquired through your research.

Sometimes scrolling through a fashion-forward feed can give you that extra push to try something new.

Start Shopping Now that you have an idea of what you like and how you like to style yourself, it’s time to add some new pieces to your wardrobe. Once you get that leather jacket you’ve always wanted, or those pair of boots you’ve been eying, your style will start to become more unique and tailored to you. Know that you don’t have to wear off-therunway pieces to look stylish, so start off at affordable places like: Topshop, Zara, Asos, and so on. They ar are all good places to search, for

those clothing items you’ve been wanting.

Have Confidence Having the confidence to stray from the norm and actually wear those pieces in your wardrobe that make you stand out is not something you become comfortable with overnight. We’ve all been there when we purchase a dress looking to wear it on a night out without actually going through with it. This is the time to put on that fashion-forward dress that’s been hiding in your closet and take it outside. You have to be unafraid of other people’s thoughts and wear what you like to wear. It’s uncomfortable at first, but you’re sure to be surprised by how differently you will carry yourself when wearing something you’re in love with. Especially when you get those unexpected compliments!

tures. It’s good to document those times in the outfits you love, whether it’s a casual outing at the park or a full on photoshoot. You’ll feel amazing when you post those pictures on your preferred social media platform or even a Blog. You may even become an inspiration to those who are in the position you were in not too long ago.

Share Your Secrets Speaking of being an inspiration to others, share the tips and tricks you’ve acquired on your journey to finding your personal style.

People will always want to know how to style something in a particular way or on a budget. So, they’ll appreciate you sharing your experience.

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