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Exalte 2014 Volume 6

Summer FASHION

INSPIRE

Out of the

DARKNESS Dealing with a Different kind of Death

Publisher Kymberly Soulé Kymberly@ExalteMagazine.com

Associate Publisher Mike Soulé

Contributors Tambra Carter Desha Ringe’

Graphic Design Kymberly Soule’ & Desha’ Ringe Graphics@ExalteMagazine.com

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On the Cover: Elle Photography—Photographer Fashion - Ruby Blue - Semmes, AL On Location at Ruby Blue Boutique

In this Issue Out of the Darkness

The Red Eyed Tree Frog

Glamorous Summer

The Colors of Fashion

The Art of Imagination

Healthy Foods

Editor's Letter

As I look around in the world, I see COLORS everywhere. I am sure you do too. If you don’t, take time to look at the rich and beautiful colors that surround us all.

Did you know that every color represents some type of Charity, Cause or Awareness?

It is absolutely amazing if you do a search on awareness ribbons. This might not mean anything to you now...but, it will mean something very quickly if any of these causes every affect you. Like me for example, Lymphoma is Lime Green! Really? Why would the color that represents something that I am passionate about be Lime Green? I like Pink, so why couldn’t it be Pink? That is because as you all know Breast Cancer is Pink. Awareness of the Pink Breast Cancer Ribbon is very well known because it affects so many people. I think that having color awareness ribbons is something that gives people hope, the feeling that they are not alone and unity in the community. I pray that you never have to claim an awareness color ribbon, but I am sure that someway in your future you will be affected by one.

Take time to notice the ribbons and research what they stand for. Our Colors of Fashion Awareness Calendar will be out soon and it has been an honor and pleasure to work with so many people that represent so many causes.

Take time to see the Colors around you. Maybe even say a small prayer when you can to the unknown person that might be suffereing with that color.

Show the World your Colors!

God Bless You Kymberly Soule’ Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.

Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

James 1:2-4

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Healthy Eating Roasted Cauliflower 1 medium head of cauliflower, trimmed and cut into florets 3 large cloves of garlic, minced 1/4 cup olive oil 2 tablespoons lemon juice 2 tablespoons grated Parmesan salt and pepper to taste

1. Heat oven to 450 degrees 2. Combine cauliflower and garlic in a large bowl 3. Drizzle with olive oil, lemon juice, salt, and pepper 4. Transfer, in a single layer, to a large, rimmed baking sheet 5. Roast at 450 for 25 minutes, stirring once 6. Sprinkle with cheese

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. .with a Bit of Cheating Peanut Butter Balls 1 cup of sugar 1/2 cup dark corn syrup 1.2 cup white corn syrup 2 cups of crunchy peanut butter 4 cups of rice cereal

1. In large sauce pan, stir the sugar and syrups together over medium heat 2. Remove from heat, and quickly add the peanut butter, stirring until the mixture is fully combined 3. Add the rice cereal and mix well 4. Shape the mixture into palm-size balls with your hands 5. Transfer to wax paper to set 6. Store in an airtight container up to 2 weeks

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TIP: put the balls on sticks, and decorate with frosting to make pops!

Red Eyed Tree Frog The Red-Eyed Tree Frog is not endangered, however the rainforest habitat is shrinking due to a mixture of deforestation, and environmental issues. The Red-Eyed Tree Frog (Agalychnis callidryas) is commonly known as the “monkey frog� for its jumping abilities. It is a relatively small amphibian, measuring no more than eight centimeters. The male is usually about two and a half centimeters smaller than the female. A colourful amphibian, it is most recognizable by its bright green color and red eyes. Its other markings include blue and cream coloring around the groin and rib areas as well as its orange feet. However, this color pattern is developed with age; the younger Red-Eyed Tree Frogs are mostly brown. Their lifespan in the wild is usually around five years. Red-Eyed Tree Frogs have many characteristics to accompany their climbing habits.

Their long limbs allow them to climb and swim with agility as do the sucker pads on the bottom of each digit. The skin on their stomachs is a lot thinner than the skin found on their backs which is more resistant and thick. They have long sticky tongues to help them latch onto their prey for an easier hunt. Red-eyed tree frogs are popular pets. Although they are not considered endangered at this time, they have been trapped extensively for sale in the pet trade.

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The Taboo of Suicide

If I were to ask you what’s more common in the U.S., homicide or suicide, what would you say? Homicide is certainly a lot more prominent; it’s constantly in the headlines and in our public consciousness. But the fact is that suicide is more than twice as common as homicide. The numbers for 2010, the most recent year for which we have data, show there were roughly 38,364 suicides in the U.S. and roughly 16,500 homicides. So why don’t we hear more about suicide? In part because it is a very different type of tragedy. Murder represents a fractured promise within our social contract, and it’s got an obvious villain.

Suicide represents –- well, what does it represent?

It’s hard to say. It carries such a strong taboo that most of us just don’t discuss it much. The result is that there are far more questions about suicide than answers. Like: do we do enough to prevent it? How do you prevent it? And the biggest question of all: why do people commit suicide?

For many years, the suicide rate has been about 4 times higher among men than among women. In 2010, men had a suicide rate of 19.9 per 100,000 people, and women had a rate of 5.2. Of those who died by suicide in 2010, 78.9% were male and 21.1% were female. In 2010, the highest suicide rate (18.6) was among people 45 to 64 years old. The second highest rate (17.6) occurred in those 85 years and older. Younger groups have had consistently lower suicide rates than middle-aged and older adults. In 2010, adolescents and young adults aged 15 to 24 had a suicide rate of 10.5.

You can get Help... www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org Call 24/7 1-800-273-8255

by: Kymberly Soule’ A normal day...What’s your normal day like? June 18, 2008 my normal type of day was being on the boat in the water with my family and friends. My normal changd forever when I got a call on our way home from a perfect day on the water to tell me that my father, who was my best friend had committed SUICIDE !! How could this be? How could I not have been there? Why didn’t I know he was hurting that bad to take his own life and leave my mom and family without him forever? My Dad wasn’t a depressed person, he didn’t live a life plaqued with anything that would have ever let us know he would have done this. He was in the hospital for 3 weeks for an entirely different medical issue that I believe started this downward spiral. Being in the hospital for 3 weeks scared him and led to anxiety which got the best of him. The medical professionals that were taking care of my Father found it easier to give him enough medicine to not only calm him down but leave him in a sedated state most of the time. At the time of my fathers departure from the hospital he was told he couldn’t stay on the prescribed dosage of anxiety medicine due to only having a single kidney. They would need him to detox off this high dose by using an NEW anti-depressant. Crazy? Yes, Why would they get him so addicted to something and then make him wean himself off of it . I will never forget how I felt when he started this detox process. He said, “this isn‘t going to be easy” and as you can tell it wasn’t. It was 5 days later that he took his own life. I will never forget that day and all of the days since then without him. I think the biggest thing that was a challenge for me was knowing that this happneed right underneath our noses. We might have seen all the signs or taken them more seriously if we had the awareness we have now. I know that we can’t change the past but I will continue to spread awareness with hopes of a brighter future. Please don’t just assume that Suicide is only for a certain type of person. Remember that if you are hurting there is always a brighter day tomorrow, even though it may not seem like it. The way that the Dr. described my Dad’s feelings must have been like having blinders on. He couldn’t see anything except that he thought we would all be better off without him. Boy was he wrong...but he just couldnt see it. I pray that everyone looks for the signs all around them so they don’t have to suffer a tragedy like this. It could be a friend ,stranger in the car next to you, person in the park or family member who could secretly be struggling deep inside and want help but too afraid to ask. God is Always Good and he always will take care of us if we have Faith and Trust in him...

by: Kimberly Manley

When I was 17 years old, my dad committed suicide. That day, my world changed forever. I can remember the days after it happened; I just felt numb and went through all of the motions but at the same time didn’t really have any emotions to show. I was at a loss for words. As the weeks and months went by I finally got a grip on my reality of it all. I was a daddy’s girl who no longer had her dad. How was I going to go on without him? I missed our talks and his always famous jokes. He was the best joke teller of all time. He knew how to make me laugh in a split second and all of that was gone forever.

There are often times look back to see why I didn’t see the writing on the wall about how he had become. I knew his health was deteriorating and personally/financially he was not happy. He had worked his entire life and his health now prevented him from doing that. The times I did question him, he would just smile his smile and twinkle those blue eyes and tell me everything was ok and I had nothing to worry about. But he was my dad, how could I not worry? As I have gotten older, I still look back to say, what if?

The truth is I really don’t know. I, as a child, would have never imagined that my Dad would commit suicide. But that’s just it, I don’t know if anyone ever knows. If I have learned anything from this, if your gut tells you there is something more, go that extra mile to be there for that person. You never know what demons and problems any one person is dealing with. So love with all you have and never pass a person on the street without a smile to them. It may just save their life and lift them up that day.

Warning Signs of Suicide These signs may mean someone is at risk for suicide. Risk is greater if a behavior is new or has increased and if it seems related to a painful event, loss or change.

Talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself.

Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.

Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.

Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.

Talking about being a burden to others.

Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.

Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.

Sleeping too little or too much.

Withdrawn or feeling isolated.

Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.

Displaying extreme mood swings.

Additional Warning Signs of Suicide Preoccupation with death.

Suddenly happier, calmer.

Loss of interest in things one cares about.

Visiting or calling people to say goodbye.

Making arrangements; setting one's affairs in order.

Giving things away, such as prized possessions.

A suicidal person urgently needs to see a doctor or mental health professional.

In an emergency, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Anyone who is among the living has hope.

Ecclesiastes 9:4

by: Danielle Strickland Our wedding day on April 8, 2006, was everything I had dreamed of since I was a little girl. Our friends and family had gathered to celebrate our love for each other and the hope of a bright and wonderful future together.

Little did I know that in four short years that dream would be shattered, by the death of a man I loved with all my heart. On April 25, 2010, I received a phone call that would forever change my life. My husband was in the emergency room with an apparent self- inflicted gunshot wound. I rushed to the hospital praying all the way for God to please spare his life and that whatever had caused him to do this could be fixed. When I arrived at the hospital he was still alive but he was on life support. I was told there was nothing that could be done to save him and he would not be able to sustain life much longer. I had enough time to say my last good-bye and then he was gone forever. My heart was broken and I felt at times it would never heal again. The pain and despair was unlike anything I have ever experienced in my life. At times, the hurt and sadness seemed almost unbearable.

Now four years later, I have come to realize that the loss of a loved one has to be one of the strongest and hardest emotions a person has to endure, there is no easy way in which to lessen the pain. I was told that time is a factor that helps us heal our broken heart, but I also know with that healing, scars will remain as a reminder of our loss. The grieving process is complicated, I have felt and sometimes struggled with so many different emotions; anger, fear, sadness, despair, isolation, loneliness and depression. Death can make you question your faith or draw you nearer to God. Death can tear families apart or draw them closer and more willing to be the support we each need. There are times your emotions vacillate from anger, to guilt, to sadness, to isolation, to darkness, all in a matter of minutes. Death by suicide makes it even harder, because so many are reluctant to talk about it or simply avoid the subject. And sometimes we struggle with what to tell to others because we are unsure of how our love one will be perceived. I don’t want my husband to be judged or thought to have committed an unforgivable sin because I know in my heart, God welcomed him home. Jason’s death has drawn me closer to God and to family, and given me a better sense of what God has planned for me in life. God wants me to continue to be active in Jason’s son life and to continue to be his mother and be the role model he needs in his life, so he can fulfill what God has planned for him. Grieving so much of the time is a solitary journey, only you know the pain in your heart from the loss of your love one. Only you can mourn the silence in your life that was once filled with joy. We all must mourn and rebuild of lives and as we do some may find an unexpected gift along the way, we may form a special bond with others who have survived the journey of grief. Gradually, we find comfort as we begin to understand that others have made a similar journey as we have and as time and acceptance comes, we begin to realize that we will one day be able to smile again.

by: Tambra Carter Four years ago this month, I lost my brother. Lost him forever. He had been hiding for years right in front of us and then he really did hide out long enough that there was no going back. He drank himself to death, six months before his 50th birthday. Tony was my only sibling. Tall, blonde, blueeyed, handsome, athletic and had a genius level IQ. He had the world in the palm of his hands, where did it all go wrong? He graduated high school top of his class, with a perfect score on the ACT and offers of scholastic scholarships to several colleges. He choose to go to Mississippi State and earn a Me-chanical Engineering degree. But instead of going to class he was partying and drinking all night with fraternity brothers. After he flunked out, my parents made him move back home and go to work. He worked hard labor for a year and was ready to give college another go but much closer to home this time. He made straight A’s for 2 years at the University of Southern Mississippi, then just quit. He had found a good paying job with NASA and was engaged to his long time girlfriend on the coast. All seemed to be going well. Until a few years go by and his girlfriend leaves him because of his heavy drinking, the NASA site closes down, and Katrina hits. Katrina destroys not only his home but washes everything he owns away. He is only left with the clothes on his body. He moves into a FEMA trailer in a makeshift town where he was working. I invite him to stay with me often but he makes excuses and backs out at the last minute. He calls, very drunk, incoherent, mumbling stories I have already heard a dozen times. The FEMA camp closes down after two years and he has to move. He rents a house, but we never find out were. He doesn’t come to visit, even for Christmas. Then he stops answering his phone. Months go by, no word. And then the phone call no parent ever wants to get happens. He is alive, but not for long. He had barricaded himself in an apartment filled with hundreds of empty alcohol bottles. I suspect he had lung cancer from the multiple pack a day cigarette habit or liver failure from decades of heavy drinking. All of his organs were failing fast. We will never know. I knew he hated hospitals. Our mother died young. She had been in and out of hospitals our entire life. He had wanted to die alone and not in a hospital. I don’t think suicide was a choice he made, but rather a choice he happened onto when his pain was greater than his ability to cope. People who turn to suicide are in physical, emotional or spiritual pain.

I don’t think they seek death. Instead, they seek escape, so that their identity and intelligence can survive. My solace is that in his few remaining belongings were photos of me and my boys and a bible. God bless you Tony! Rest in Peace. Nine months before my 50th birthday. Your favorite sister, Tammy

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