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Issue 18 Feb/March 2024
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Kink and Desire SEXUAL AND REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH FAQ's ONLY
Glynis McGee
Ngazibini BooiPhakoane
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Deemitry Nzama
Hey EAtM fam! Can you imagine what Eve would have felt like in the Garden of Eden? Surrounded by temptation, curiosity, and desire – sounds like the perfect setup for our latest issue, right? Issue 18 is all about diving into the depths of sexuality, exploring desires, and embracing the kinky side of men. But it’s not just about pleasure; we're also shedding light on important topics like women's hair loss and alopecia, because every aspect of our identity deserves acknowledgment and understanding. As we delve into these discussions, let’s not forget to keep the spirit of community alive. Winter is the season for Cum Coffee with Eve, where we gather around warmth and conversation. And as the flowers bloom in spring, mark your calendars for Eve's Chardonnay – because what better way to welcome the season of renewal? Amidst all the excitement, let’s also take a moment to send love and support to those affected by conflict and displacement. Together, we can create a space where love, understanding, and acceptance thrive. Here’s to a happy and fulfilling journey ahead.
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Page 11 : Alopecia Hairloss and how to care for you Page 12: A More Pleasured You How to get your groove back . Page22 : Men and their kinks Discovery for some staple for others.
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CONTENTS
Page 6: Sexuality and Sexual Play
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SEXUALITY AND SEXUAL PLAY
Whether we're exploring new fantasies, experimenting with sexual play, or simply reveling in the beauty of desire, let us navigate this journey with curiosity, respect, and a deep appreciation for the richness of human experience Sexuality refers to a complex aspect of human identity that encompasses a person's sexual orientation, desires, attractions, behaviors, and relationships. It's a fundamental part of human nature and can encompass various dimensions, including biological, psychological, social, and cultural factors. Sexuality is not limited to sexual behavior but also encompasses emotions, feelings, fantasies, and expressions of intimacy and connection. Sexual play, on the other hand, refers to activities or behaviors that involve physical or emotional stimulation with a sexual component but may not necessarily lead to intercourse or reproduction. It can include a wide range of activities, such as kissing, touching, caressing, mutual masturbation, roleplaying, and exploring fantasies, among others. Sexual play is often a way for individuals to express intimacy, pleasure, and desire with themselves or with consenting partners. It can be an important aspect of sexual exploration, expression, and satisfaction within relationships.
Exploring Desire: Desire is the spark that ignites the flames of passion within us. It's the magnetic pull that draws us towards certain people, experiences, and fantasies. Understanding our desires requires introspection and self-awareness. What turns us on? What fantasies do we find exhilarating? By exploring our desires with curiosity and openness, we can cultivate a deeper understanding of ourselves and our needs. with love,
SEXUALITY AND SEXUAL PLAY Embracing Sexual Play: Sexual play is the canvas upon which we express our desires and fantasies. It encompasses a wide range of activities, from sensual touching and kissing to more adventurous explorations. Sexual play is a space for creativity, experimentation, and mutual pleasure. It's about letting go of inhibitions, embracing vulnerability, and surrendering to the ecstasy of the moment. Navigating Consent and Boundaries: In the realm of sexual play, consent is paramount. It's the cornerstone of ethical and respectful interactions. Consent means freely and enthusiastically agreeing to participate in sexual activities, without coercion or pressure. It's important to communicate openly with partners, establish clear boundaries, and respect each other's comfort levels at all times.
Fostering Intimacy and Connection: Sexual play is not just about physical pleasure—it's also a pathway to deeper intimacy and connection. It's about sharing moments of vulnerability, trust, and mutual pleasure with a partner. By cultivating open communication, trust, and empathy, we can create meaningful and fulfilling sexual experiences that nourish our souls as well as our bodies.dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Nam commodo molestie lectus, vel dapibus leo fermentum non. Praesent turpis ex, lobortis at quam sit amet, pretium aliquam dolor. Sexuality is a journey of exploration, discovery, and selfexpression. It's a journey that invites us to embrace our desires, celebrate our uniqueness, and connect with others in meaningful and fulfilling ways. .
Stealthing is Stealthing refers to the non-consensual act of removing a condom during sexual activity without the awareness or consent of the other person or people involved.
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Love When There is an STI It is estimated that 13.7% is the prevalence rate of the South African population living with HIV – It was estimated in 2021, 8,2 million adults aged 15 – 49 years of age making that an estimated 19.5% of the population. (These stats come from 2021) You can overcome the stigma attached to living with an STIs, by learning the facts. Keep informed about changes, treatments and continue to be informed. Knowledge is power.
STIGMA Eliminating the stigma – As a result of STI’s, we have lost PLEASURE In it’s essence. We need to eliminate the stigma attached to HIV and other STI’s. Equalise and call for a plural, all-inclusive approach to HIV prevention and the stigma attached to pleasure. Educators in the adult industry need to connect and equalise. We need to put a stop to framing specific identities as high risk populations and push knowledge and educate on safe and good sex. Understanding GOOD SEX is knowing SAFE SEX. We aspire to acknowledge this on an everyday basis. Pleasure is arguably the reason people have sex and yet HIV prevention programs rarely consider offering workshops, education in schools, companies no longer have Health Days, testing is not deemed a necessity., and knowing your status leaves people with a stigma and that in turn places a stigma around pleasure. Regardless of your relationship with it, sexuality plays a huge part on who we are as humans. Sex should be a source of pleasure, connection, and so much more. Sexual shame causes sexual blocks and stops us from enjoying sex or intimacy. Shame is deep rooted and stems from different sources.
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ALOPECIA
Alopecia areata: Alopecia is the medical term for bald. Areata means patchy. This patchy baldness can develop anywhere on the body, including the scalp, beard Alopecia areata may occur on your scalp and in some cases, your eyebrows, eyelashes, and face, as well as other parts of your body. It can also develop slowly and recur after years between instances. When hair loss involves all the hair on your body, the condition is called alopecia universalis. When your hair does grow back, it’s possible you might experience hair loss again. The extent of hair loss and regrowth varies from person to person. There’s currently no cure for alopecia areata, but there are positive things you can keep in mind about the condition and your outlook. There are also treatments that may help your hair grow back more quickly and that can prevent future hair loss, as well as unique ways to cover up the hair loss. Resources are also available to help you cope with stress that can be related to hair loss. There’s no known cure for alopecia areata, but there are treatments that you can try that might be able to slow down future hair loss or help hair grow back more quickly. The condition is difficult to predict, which means it may require a large amount of trial and error until you find something that works for you. It’s also important to remember that treatment isn’t always successful. Some people may continue to have hair loss, even with treatment.
*THIS IS NOT MEDICAL ADVISE. PLEASE CONSULT A MEDICAL PRACTITIONER.
HAIR LOSS
Alopecia areata is an autoimmune condition. An autoimmune condition develops when the immune system mistakes healthy cells for foreign substances. Normally, the immune system defends your body against foreign invaders, such as viruses and bacteria. However, if you have alopecia areata, your immune system mistakenly attacks your hair follicles. Hair follicles are the structures from which hairs grow. When the follicles become smaller and stop producing hair, it leads to hair loss.
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Traction alopecia can happen to anyone who wears their hair pulled back tightly, whether in braids, dreadlocks, or a ponytail. It can also occur when tight headwear is used in the same way every day. Repeated strain on the hair follicles can pull out strands of hair and even damage the follicles.
TREATMENT
Topically You can rub medications into your scalp to help stimulate hair growth. A number of medications are available, both over the counter (OTC) and by prescription: Minoxidil (Rogaine) has OTC availability, and while it’s commonly used, it is not FDA approved for alopecia areata. Before applying it to areas such as the scalp, eyebrows, and beard, you should speak with a healthcare professional. There’s only evidence that it’s useful for people with limited alopecia areataTrusted Source. It generally takes about 4–6 months, or longer, Injections Steroid injections are a common option for mild, patchy alopecia to help hair grow back on bald spots. Tiny needles inject the steroid into the bald area. Oral treatments Cortisone tablets are sometimes used for extensive alopecia, but due to the possibility of side effects, you should discuss this option with a doctor. Oral immunosuppressants, like methotrexate and cyclosporine, are another option you can try. They work by blocking the immune system’s response, but they cannot be used for a long period of time due to the risk of side effects, such as high blood pressure, liver and kidney damage, and an increased risk of serious infections and a type of cancer called lymphoma.
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exual wellness refers to the overall state of physical, mental and social well being, culminating to individual sexual health. Sexual wellness encompasses areas such as sexual knowledge, talking about consent, satisfaction and the prevention of sexually transmitted infections; to discuss contraception and reproductive health openly. There is an increased awareness in sexual wellness and sexual health and the mindset of education in a sexual diverse society, A rise in sexual disorders and diseases are discussed openly and the changes in sexual health products have been made more accessible and easier to discuss.
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Since the Covid 19 pandemic, people have been staying home more, this has influenced the sexual wellness market. With this has come a surge of online sales, people are paying more attention to sexual health and investing in understanding sexuality and sexual health as an entire entity. Not sure where to start. Here are a few apps you can try out. Ferly Rosy Lover The Sex Ed All of these are sexual wellness platforms that are informative and educational. Download the apps and get yourselves into the groove of embracing your personal wellness for 2024.
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alking dirty to your partner is an age old trick and gets loads of people turned on. You can build it up as you go along …”hmmm I love it when you etc… embellish it with pride and wisely chosen words you never thought would fall off your tongue, but will certainly be a pleaser.
Shallowing Shallowing is the tantalising sex act to dive into 2024. Move over intercourse, we are delving into waters less travelled and diving into the sex act of shallowing. Shallowing is a form of sexual play that involves lightly stimulating the entrance of the vagina. Outercourse, if you will… Shallowing is done during a hot session of steamy foreplay or a solo session. Just lightly enter the vagina with the tip of the penis or finger or using Ambi by Lovense. Not quite your clitoral vibrator. Hovering just over the entrance of the vagina, which is packed with specific nerve endings that intensify women’s pleasure. These nerve ends also stimulate lubrication in the vagina, certainly pushing women over the edge of the waterfall (pun intended). Sticking to the theme of focusing on external stimuli to intensify our sexual pleasure in 2024, erotic playlists are going to be all the rage.
Flirting Never stop flirting with your partner, regardless of the length of time you have been together. Flirting is beneficial for your sex life, in essence it helps partners feel more desirable. Pay compliments, while you’re busy on the job. boost their self esteem and it can be a bit of a turn on for you too. Remember, stunning and sexy lingerie goes a long way too. Did you ever stop at the traffic light and glance at the car next to you? Pull back your shoulders and lower your eyes, and look at them long and hard. You are never going to see that person again, or the chances are slim. But you will drive away with a smirk on your lips. To be honest, flirting is the most essential aspect of self we must never lose. Empower yourself with some lingerie, your personal secret, it boosts your ego. And YES! we must have some sense of ego, for oneself.
Edging Edging has been around for quite some time – I think more people practice when flying solo. You can take stretch your orgasm out for as long as you want to. It takes practice and involves hi levels of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching a climax. Stop stimulation before you reach that level of climax. Stop and feel how everything pulses. Keep going. Stop and start, a little further or deeper. Using a clit pump or full vagina pump is a sexy addition to the experience – your pumped clit will be engorged with fresh blood and sensitive – Pump, engage, pump and stop. You can engage the pelvic muscles, pulse them; not moving your body. Hmm – yes this is as delightful as it is beneficial.
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REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS Reproductive rights allow people to make educated choices about their bodies and lives.
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Food and desire share an intricate bond, intertwining the senses in a delightful dance. From the sizzle of a steak on the grill to the aroma of freshly baked bread, food has an uncanny ability to awaken primal desires within us. It tantalizes our taste buds, igniting cravings that go beyond mere sustenance. Think of the seductive allure of a decadent chocolate dessert or the intoxicating aroma of a simmering curry – they evoke not just hunger, but a deep yearning for indulgence and pleasure. Moreover, the act of sharing a meal can foster a sense of intimacy and connection, further fueling desire. Whether it’s a romantic dinner for two or a lively gathering with friends, breaking bread together creates a bond that transcends the physical act of eating. Food becomes a vehicle for communication, a conduit for expressing love, passion, and longing. In this way, the relationship between food and desire goes beyond the plate, weaving a rich tapestry of sensory experiences and emotional connections.
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Men and their Kinks Men and kinks? Yes!
Men love their kinks! Men love sex toys as much as women. Not only that, but men are exploring their sex toy fun more and more. And there are so much more that men are exploring.
Urethral Sounding. Is a kink, it involves inserting a sounding rod (long, thin rod) made of stainless steel, into the urethral opening. Slowly becoming a more popular pleasure aspect, we are no longer cringing at the idea of something heading its way up the “head” of our penis! In a sexual or kink setting, sounding is purely for pleasure. The urethra has a ton of nerve endings than can trigger in intense amount of pleasure when stimulated properly. If the sound goes deep enough, it is even possible to stimulate the prostate, or “P” spot as it is often referred to. That is when it is really good. Carefully now! The urethra crosses through the prostate gland on its way to the bladder. This is the prostatic urethra.
The prostatic urethra is the portion of the urethra that traverses the prostate. It originates in the region of the bladder neck, courses roughly 2.5 cm inferiorly, and terminates at the membranous urethra
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More men love anal penetration than we care to acknowledge, and has become rather, the norm for men. A refreshing change. Gay or straight these two things are not mutually exclusive, one does not automatically predict or determine the other. Regardless you can still enjoy a wonderful thing called, “ass play”, and, more than you realise, for straight men to. There is an entire market for anal toys marketed specifically for men. Take advantage of these. Good anal play begins with a very good anal toy.Begin your anal journey with some research. Get a good quality toy, nothing cheap, or plastic or gel. Choose high grade silicone. Your consultant will advise. Non porous items like glass or stainless steel are superior. (I happen to love glass). Not only in quality, you are able to take them to new levels of anal play. Temperature play is a good start. It’s important to note that not all bum fun involves a penis. Butts feel the same regardless of your sexual orientation. Which is good for everyone. A heads up (pun intended) – An ass is not a vagina and cant be treated like one. A vagina lubricates itself. While a lube is an optional choice in vaginal sex or play, it is an essential in good, healthy bum fun. Choose a good lubricant. There are anal lubes specifically made to regenerate, to add a dose of healthy guava bark to ensure that you keep bacteria at bay, and the list goes on. Ball Stretching
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BALL STRETCHING A lot of people have this misconception that testicular/ball stretching is a technique to enhance the size or volume of testicles, not quite true! Testicular stretching is an holistic technique that has been known to improve the serum levels of testosterone naturally. There is also ample data to support that testicular stretching when performed regularly can also lead to testicular enhancement. But! It is a ridiculously delightful aspect of play and pleasure. Whether you are looking for something silicone, metal or leather. To be weighted all day or not. Its highly rated in the pleasure zone. Oxballs Squeeze is by far the best beginner ball stretcher. It packs the right balance or ball tugging and will have you feeling rather loving, titillating your senses as to what is yet to come. Excuse the pun. Ball stretching is arousing on every level. The feeling of the balls stretching is unique, the all day tug is a turn on. There is not enough out there to encourage men to explore this very arousing level of pleasure. Frankly, I prefer the metal stretcher. Comfortable to wear, the weight adds to the pleasure, and eye candy, mind you. Bigger bulge effect.
When you have stretched balls, the mechanism is prolonged because there is just more space for semen to travel.
METAL BALL STRETCHERS After using your fair share of silicone ball stretchers, you’ve decided to go all-in on ball stretching. Metal ball stretchers are the way to go for long-term to permanent low-hanging testicles. While metal ball weights can look painful and intimidating, they’re surprisingly easy to use, comfortable, and pleasurable. PLUS, you can even stack them together for more weight! Interesting Factors of Ball Stretching One of the best effects of ball stretching is a prolonged orgasm for a man. It’s basic biology: the orgasm lasts as the semen travels through the balls and penis. To do that, your scrotum must contract first. When you have stretched balls, the mechanism is prolonged because there is just more space for semen to travel. Not only that, but a longer scrotum can’t contract easily, which puts a tingling pressure on your whole genitalia. The pressure and tug last for much longer than usual, which leads to very long-lasting orgasms.
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