Energi Magazine - Issue 16

ISSUE NO. 16 // DECEMBER 2021

EVERYTHING IS ENERGI

5 Gifts For The Spiritual People In Your Life

THE ENERGISER WITH CHRIS LEE What's In it For You?

DECEMBER READING WITH INTUITIVE GODDESS PRIYA ALI

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Table of contents 04

Editor's Letter

05

Affirmations

06

Crystal Gifts for the Holidays

10

Decorate Your Home For the Holidays with Grace and Ease

12

Poem by Chelsey L. Stailing

13

Monthly Movement

16

What's In it For You?

22

The Energiser with Chris Lee

30

5 Gifts For The Spiritual People In Your Life

34

Navigating through Change Amongst the Family

36

December Reading with Intuitive Goddess Priya

A LETTER FROM THE EDITOR Dear Readers,

Can you believe it’s December? 2021 is coming to an end and like many of us do, I have been reflecting on the past year. What a year it has been. I don’t know about you but for me, it has been a year of learning or at the very least a humbling reminder. Practicing things like patience, kindness and understanding have been a big part of the past year. In many ways I was forced to sit with myself and look inward for no reason other than there was nothing else to do. While I will admit the growing process is not always an enjoyable one, I can honestly say I have learned a lot about myself over the past year. I have also been reminded of the value of being around the people you love.

I encourage you to look at how far we have come. Be proud of yourself. Be thankful for the family and friends you get to see. Be aware of your growth over the past year. Be the energy you wish to see in the world. Wishing you and your family a blessed, safe and joyful holiday season. Talk to you all next year!

With love and light, Aria

It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving

Mother Teresa

Affirmations Giving

My heart is open in all of my experiences

I create and maintain balance within me

I give freely to myself and others

I give from a place of love, joy and honesty

Giving without expectation feels light

I honour the gifts given to me daily from Source energy

Crystal Gifts for the Holidays

By Andrea Sipcic It is so often that we get stuck on what to gift some people for the holidays. We usually aim to buy them something they will find useful or that will be beneficial to them in some way. Considering that in terms of ‘stuff’, many people have more than they need. What would be better than something that would be beneficial to their well being, on all levels? Crystals are an amazing gift to give so many people in your life. It also expands the gift options significantly, as there are now so many crystal based goods available.

Raw and Tumbled Crystals As simple and natural as it gets, these are a true crystal fan’s go-to. They can be placed pretty much anywhere and come in so many different shapes and forms. For some people who prefer the purest, most untouched crystals, the raw versions would be for them. Others who prefer more of a polished, ‘clean’ look would likely opt for tumblers, spheres or towers. Regardless, I find this option to be most suited for those who genuinely love and appreciate crystals.

Decor Items For those who prefer to jazz it up a little, the following are just a few ideas, with most offering some form of functionality. These are also great options for people who prefer to have their crystals blend in a little more with their surroundings: Agate coasters Crystal book ends Crystal gem tree (or bonsai gem tree) Crystal candle holders Selenite tower lamps Crystal wind chimes Crystal soap dispensers Crystal diffuser bottles

Crystal Jewelry From bracelets to rings to earrings to necklaces, there’s plenty of versatility here as well. There are smoothed, spheric beads or faceted ones to choose from, amongst other variations. For the men in your life that like to wear necklaces, for example, a pendant of Tiger’s Eye or Obsidian are great options.

Crystal Water Bottles Not just for water, these gems are so impactful, as people would use and benefit from it everyday.

Knowing you can change the energy of the water they’re drinking, this is an amazing way to positively impact someone’s health and well being while gifting something that’s also beautiful to look at.

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December is a packed month of festivities.

Various cultures and religions are in celebration mode. It is a time of family and close friends gathering. As we gear up to enjoy many activities we want to begin by adorning our homes.

Some families now connect to celebrate more than one tradition, culture and religion in a home. For me growing up, there were two cultures and two different religions. The food was Indian inspired and the decor was styled with a German touch.

Planning to Decorate Around Your Home Keep It Simple: When decorating, try not to overwhelm each space. Whatever your preference is you can opt for specific areas, or all around your home. Usually the popular ones are outdoor urn, front door, living room, dinning room.

Front Entrance: If space allows, you can have a vase with holiday greens such as pine and even add some eucalyptus for that powerful, holiday fragrance when you first walk into the home. If you want more colour you can add picks of holiday balls or red branches.

Pillows and Throws: Adding a plaid pillow, tree motif, chunky knit or faux fur (to mention a few) is a fun, easy and stylish way to create a festive feel in your living room.

Kitchen and Bathroom: Add scented holiday hand-wash soap such as Fraser fir or orange.

Trees: The selection for styled trees are in abundance, from slender, taller, full and short, as many people are living in smaller spaces. If you are thinking about putting a tree in your home, decide where your tree is going and what size suits the space well.

Decor: When taking out your holiday decor don’t feel you need to use everything; maybe think of a theme you would like this year to be. It can be based on colours or on a style such as woodland.

Candles: They play a very important role in many of the festivals, and they bring sparkle and joy.

Either battery operated, which can be placed in more places and don’t release toxins, or real ones that bring in that warm, cozy feel.

Table tops: Whether it’s a buffet or sit down, a centrepiece is a lovely way to add some holiday splash to your dining experience. Winter solstice is all about lights with it being celebrated on the shortest day of the year. You can begin with a runner and add some whimsicalness to your winter table by suspending pine and berry clippings in a variety of glass bottles filled with water. Place tapered candles into the bottle openings to create a serene, illuminated centrepiece.

Positive Energy: Keep your home grounded. This allows the space to swish away any negativity that can arise. Flowers and spices such as cinnamon are advantageous. You can boil or diffuse cinnamon, orange and/or cloves. Have sage and crystals such as clear quartz around to uplift the space. Make writing a letter of intention part of setting up and place the letter somewhere such as under the carpet or in the bottom of a drawer. (Eg. This holiday season I want to feel ______ in my home.)

Wishing you all a very happy holiday season!

Be kind and be humble because when you help the world the world helps you Chelsey .L.Stailing

Monthly Movement By: Tanya Mouland

Heart Meridian The heart is in constant communication with the brain (via electrical messages) and all the muscles and organs of the body, nourishing every cell (via blood and oxygen needs).

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the heart meridian belongs to the element Fire and is associated with joy and laughter. When it is balanced, the heart, our emotional centre, provides us with clear insight and guides our actions and communication.

Signs that the heart meridian is out of balance · Sleep challenges (inability to fall asleep, excessive dreaming, restless sleep, night sweats) · Speech problems · Tip of the tongue is red · Sadness · Feeling cold · Sense of disconnection · Dull complexion · Heart palpitations Tracing the Heart Meridian Tracing means to run 2-3 fingers along the meridian, either gently touching the body/clothing or close to the body.

Meridians run bilaterally. Do one arm and then the other. ** Only run the heart meridian from top of the arm TOWARD the tip of the baby finger. Never run it from the finger to the top of the arm.

1. Gently place 2 or 3 fingers at the starting point of the meridian, in front of the armpit.

2. Trace down the inner side of the arm.

3. Continue tracing down over the outside of the wrist.

4. Trace along the inside of the baby finger to the inner tip.

5. Repeat 3-6 times.

Note: this technique and information is for educational purposes. This is in no way a diagnosis or prescription for any reader.

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What’s In it For You? By: Priya Ali

There are times when we are giving something and it is clearly obvious that we are expecting something in return. If your hairdresser gives you a haircut, they expect you to give them money. If a student gives a professor an essay, they expect to get a grade, preferably a good one.

If a dog performs a trick or follows a command, they expect to receive a treat or praise.

There are other times when we are giving something and it is not so obvious that we are expecting something in return. If we go out to the movies with a friend and they forget their wallet, we may loan them the money to get them into the theatre. Maybe we don’t want to go in alone and we give the money to get the company of our friend. A little girl asks a little boy in her class to give her his snack. He gives her the snack because he has a crush on her and wishes to get her attention or affection in return.

There are other times when we are giving something and we are oblivious that we are getting something in return. If a lady is walking on the street and sees a homeless man and gives him money because she feels just awful about his situation, though she may be helping this man, she is also giving herself some relief from her own discomfort over his situation. If a grandpa brings a bagful of candy over every time he visits his grandkids because it makes them happy, even though his doctor asked him not to, he is giving the candy to experience the happiness he can take credit for.

I am not judging any of these examples for their rightness or wrongness, but merely raising awareness to the fact that we do receive something in exchange for what we participate in. In some cases, what we get from what we receive can be unhealthy, toxic and even abusive.

Knowing what you are getting out of a situation, interaction, relationship or energy exchange can empower you and allow you to decide if what you’re getting or how you’re getting it is really worth it.

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The Energiser With Chris Lee By: Aria de Lima I was raised in a very Christian household and I was always taught anything that didn’t have to do with church, anything that was spiritual, was from the devil. So that was pretty much the way I grew up looking at things. That all changed for me because of a car accident I was in where I sustained a traumatic brain injury in 2007. After the accident I went through the recovering phase and there were two things that I noticed. That’s when I became aware of the law of attraction, I became aware of emotions and I knew that emotions play a bigger role than we think that they do. That was when I learned about a thing called EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. I also began noticing intuitive abilities, which kind of created an internal conflict for me because being intuitive or as some people say, psychic, that is something from the devil being raised in a strict Christian household. It created a conflict and it made me question things. If I have been this loyal servant of God all this time, why would I suddenly after this brain injury start having intuitive abilities? It just didn’t add up for me.

Depending on how you look at it, things either went really downhill or really uphill from there as far as my spiritual journey.

That was the beginning of the end of my relationship with the church. Having people that were part of the church that I was close friends with and having them know. All of these things started to happen around the same time. Being able to talk to spirit, understanding emotions, becoming intuitive, becoming a healer, I learned a healing modality called tappology and EFT. That combined with my intuition and my emotions really allowed me to do some amazing things.

People having their arthritis go away, helping people clear the negative emotions that come along with things like fibromyalgia or even having a miscarriage. All of these things have emotions, very strong emotions tied to them and clearing those emotions was helping people to get better all around. Even physical things were going away, back pain, and things like that.

So in the eyes of a lot of the people at church, I became a witch doctor. People would joke around behind my back and say, ‘Chris is a witch doctor.’

Just because I was able to help a couple of people feel better. That gift kind of became a scarlet letter.

People from the church were kind of like ‘I don’t know what he’s into or what he’s on but leave him alone.’ At the same time, because of having a connection with spirit, I started having conversations and realizing that religion was more so about indoctrination and education than actual connection with God. Most of the time I would get information while I was sitting in church. Initially, without being aware of it, being able to tune into people’s energies that were close by. I could feel the energy.

Another thing that I very rarely talk about is that on this journey, first it was the intuitive abilities and then there was a connection with what is called the underworld that I did not realize I had the ability to do as well.

One of the things that really stuck with me, and I didn’t get it until years later was when I had a conversation with God. In that conversation God told me that I don’t need a church to be close to him. We are connected, we can never be separated, we are one. At the time, that didn’t resonate with me but as I began to travel down this road, that began to resonate with me quite a bit.

My daughter, when she was a kid, we lived in a really big house and her room was way on the other end of the house. At night she would always come running to our bedroom and she would say she’s having nightmares and stuff. But the look on her face, as a parent, you know that this is more than just being scared to be down there. There’s something else going on. So I switched spots. I let her sleep in my bed and I slept in her bed for a few nights. I felt the hairs on the back of my neck stand up on the second night and there was a spirit there.

So I started talking to the spirit and we had a conversation. You know, ‘Why are you here? What do you want?’ The spirit was my next door neighbour’s mother. She had been murdered in the house. What I’ve learned is, when a person passes on from this realm, they can kind of get stuck because they’re living on a plain where time and space don’t matter. My neighbour was in his 60’s at the time, so his mother had been roaming the area for over 50 years looking for her son. So we had a conversation. I told her that my daughter was not her son and that her son was grown and all this

time had passed. After that the spirit never came back but even that created more questions in my mind. Like, ok what the heck is going on here?

Because like I said, the way I was brought up, this is evil. I spoke to someone at church and they said, ‘no you weren’t talking to the spirit of your neighbour’s mother, you were talking to one of the demons. The devil sends them to trick you.’ So in my mind it was still kind of creating a conflict.

One of the main things that helped resolve that conflict was actually meeting Priya Ali in 2010 in Vancouver at Law of Attraction facilitators. Priya is super duper connected. Being close friends with her over the years, especially early on, really helped me to navigate through that and understand that this is indeed something that is normal and that there are those of us that are connected to spirit in that way. I think the first time I went to visit Priya, we kind of did some work around that. We spoke to some other relatives of mine that had passed on and that went a long way towards making me feel better.

But initially, excuse my language, I was scared shitless.

I don’t feel like I was afraid of the spirits but talking to spirit kind of freaked me out and just the fact that I was able to tune into that energy.

What really really scared me was that I didn’t know about the murder until I asked. When I was talking to the spirit I asked her name and she told me her name. I had spoken to my neighbour and initially he was like ‘ummm, I don’t know what you’re talking about.’ But then later on he was like, ‘we need to talk. Ya that’s my mother.’ When he was six or seven years old they had a party at the house, things got out of hand and she ended up getting murdered. He was telling me how he misses her and thinks about her everyday and sometimes he could feel her presence. But he wasn’t tuned into spirit like that so he just said he could sense her presence.

Again, it was kind of a mixed bag because he was happy to get a message but it also made him kind of shy away from me as well.

Getting information and having it come true [can be kind of freaky]. I had worked at AT&T for like 12 or 13 years and I got this message. I just kept getting a number in my head and the number was 531. I was looking up what that means in the angel book and all this stuff and a few months later I found out that my job

was offering a buyout and I was ready to go. And I was just curious and I asked “when’s my last day?” and the lady said “oh your last day will be May 31st.” I thought, there’s the 531, I get it now!

That buyout was really important because my job was so intense that we didn’t get very much time off but the buyout was my pay for the rest of the year, one year’s salary and my leftover vacation. That gave me the cushion to launch everything. The number started popping up in my head in November and I didn’t get that phone call til April. For months I’m like, what is this 531? 531! I was looking for it everywhere.

My daughter has been developing the gift as well, having really good insight and perception and occasional visits from the spirit world as well. She actually came to me one day in the middle of the night. She came to me and got me out of bed and was like ‘there’s someone here.’

So we kind of sat and talked and had a conversation about it, and since then we have had conversations about it. I think because of my experience and my abilities, she was more comfortable with it. One of the biggest things I had to learn being an intuitive and a parent was if I get information, don’t judge the information.

If someone is not feeling well, if they are feeling anxious or depressed, I can usually pick up on that information. As a parent, sometimes you can see things coming and if there’s no danger involved you kind of let it kind of play out.

Sometimes you just got to trust spirit. I’ve learned to, as a parent and just in life when you have intuitive abilities, take people at their word, even if you think that they’re lying, because the thing that I’ve learned is, if there is something where I have an attachment to the outcome, then my intuitive feelings could be off.

The times when I’m really really on is when I

don’t have any attachment to the outcome.

Sometimes you have to learn to separate what’s ego and what’s actual intuitive information.

[When I feel someone is lying,] most of the time I leave it or try to find a different way to get to the same thing. I’ve learned that we all have an inherent protection mechanism where we try to protect ourselves and save ourselves from being embarrassed or being humiliated or being shown up or even sometimes from vulnerable moments. Sometimes there’s a way to get there without calling them out. Part of it for myself, is balancing or finding the best way to call them out.

She [my daughter] is one of those people that’s judgement free. A lot of times, we have really really really open and vulnerable conversations about things. I opened up and told her about my experience as a youth. She opened up about some things that she had experienced that I was unaware of. Because of our connection to the spirit world, we were able to do a lot of healing work for generations in our family through her and I talking to each other, from me having conversations with my mom, my grandmother and different relatives. As with many families, every generation seems to have had someone who experienced some type of abuse. Mostly sexual abuse, some physical abuse, some verbal abuse but that was an energy that we had been carrying for generations. I don’t know that we’ve totally gotten rid of it but we’ve cleared a lot of that energy that comes along with that. The energy of most of those experiences carry the vibration of shame.

I kept quiet for a while [about my gifts] because the first few people I told, it was not a good conversation. After that, I kind of kept that to myself and a lot of that stuff I still do keep it to myself. I do intuitive readings but I don’t tell people that’s what we’re doing. I kind of just say ‘it seems like this or that is kind of going on’ and then we talk about it. I don’t brand myself as intuitive though. Only for a select few that are open to it, I will call it an intuitive reading. I grew up in Detroit. I was a hip hop head growing up. Between having the knowledge that I do of emotions and spirit and things like that, I’m careful about what I listen to. Having a daughter also really has an influence. With Spotify, all the music ever made is available so all the music of my childhood is there. There’s been so many times where I’ve gone back and said ‘oh I remember that album!’ Then I go back to the

album and I’m like ‘Oh! No! No! No! No!’ I grew up on Ice Cube and N.W.A. I was listening to this song that I used to like when I was a teenager and the song is by N.W.A and they talk about picking up a hooker, having sex with her and then killing her. I was just like ‘...what!’ But I had never really thought about it. I liked the beat, the rhymes, but I never really thought about it and now 20 years later I’m listening to this thinking ‘oh my god I can’t believe I used to ride around and play this all the time.’

that was having a great time listening to Bieeiber, now I’m playing this rap and he’s like ‘GRRR.’

There’s a Japanese doctor and scientist, his name is Masuru Emoto, and he has done extensive research on water and how water carries a vibrational frequency. He did experiments where he played different types of music or said different types of words over water and looked at the molecules. It was amazing how the high vibrational words like love and hope and healing, had very pretty crystal formations, whereas words like stupid or hate or things like that turned out just like blobs. It was interesting that he did that with water. Our bodies are made up of 80 percent water. So you could come to the same conclusion that the same effect that the music and the words had on the water have the exact same influence on us because we’re 80 percent water.

It’s something right now especially in the African American community where a lot more people are on board with crystals and energy healing and stuff like that than there were before. I’ve actually heard a couple of artists mention things in their songs about spirituality or crystals and things like that. It seems to be that society wise and music wise too, that we

I used to be a DJ. I used to do weddings and parties and school events and stuff. This was before any of my spiritual awakening but I started to notice the effects that different types of music have on people and how it would change the mood of the party. I was DJing a party for an elementary school and we were playing pop songs and then the kids wanted to hear some rap songs. It changed the entire vibe of the event. What really drives the point home is, a kid that was dancing and twirling when I was playing Justin Beiber now he wanted to hear a song called ‘Stanky Legg.’ So this kid walks up to me and balls his fist and he says, ‘EH MAN! PLAY THE STANKY LEGG! I WANNA HEAR THE STANKY LEGG!’ I was thinking, wow, this kid

The two things I’ve been listening to a lot lately are jazz and a lot of world music. I’ve been listening to a couple of artists from Africa and you know, this is funny because I feel like her music is not necessarily for me, but I’ve been listening to a lot of MIA. Especially a lot of her old stuff.

seem to be headed in totally separate directions. There are the people that get made fun of all the time for being “woke” or kind of having that connection with spirit. Then there is also music wise…and I hate to use this as an example but it’s the only thing that comes to mind, but things like what happened at the Travis Scott concert a few weeks ago. You have an artist or a group of artists that have all of this cult imagery in their music and videos and things like that. I don’t necessarily have a problem with that, it’s just that I can feel the ill intent. I don’t know if it’s the artist doing it or someone behind the artist but it’s something that is there.

The subconscious mind is so impressionable

and you get that many people somewhere and you show them these images and they’re all on the same vibrational wavelength, people are influenced to do things they wouldn’t normally do that might be harmful. It seems like those are the two totally different directions that people are moving in.

So [my most recent book] is my second book and it covers some of the same subject matter as my first book from 2012, which chronicled my recovery from my brain injury in depth. This new book talks about addiction and it’s kind of a play on words because in the past I’ve dealt with addiction to opioids and alcohol and food, but the real addiction was my toxic mindset. That was the real addiction. This book chronicles my journey to becoming the most authentic version of myself. The addiction was not actually the problem, the addiction was a symptom and what needed to take place was for me to become the most authentic version of myself. I was in relationships and friendships that I didn’t like, I was heavily involved in a religion that I didn’t even believe in, and I had a job and career that I hated. I was a fake it til you make it kind of guy and after the accident I didn’t have the brain capacity to fake it anymore. So it kind of chronicles that and my upbringing. For example, chapter one starts with me sitting in church at the age of seven and hearing the preacher say

'sex is only for people who are married. If you’re not married and you’ve had sex before, you’re going to feel the full wrath of God.’ I was sitting there thinking, I didn’t mean to have sex, I didn’t even want to have sex, someone else made me do it. That was kind of a starting point at a very early age of being confused about who or what God is. I was wondering if God was going to kill me. As a kid, being molested, that wasn’t anything I had asked for, that was just something that happened. In the book of bible stories, I was seeing unfaithful people getting their head chopped off, getting eaten by animals.

I thought that’s what was going to happen to me at some point.

At the same time, where I was living in Detroit was going through a transition. All the white folks were being terrorized and getting chased out and replaced with different people. As a kid, I thought all of this was part of my punishment from God. That carried on into my adult years with my addiction and then I talk about various events that led to the spiritual awakening and the emotional healing that took place that healed those addictions. The book also has a tool box, a list of tips and tricks that helped me and that people can use to help themselves get on the right track.

I went through a process where I wrote the book in just a few days believe it or not. I got the initial manuscript out in the first few days and then for some of the passages I went and rewrote them and added stuff. I would say the most emotional part was writing about the death of my father because it was still so new. When I started the book, he had passed about a year prior. Recounting some of the abuse stuff was painful and uncomfortable but the chapter about my Dad’s passing was the most difficult because of us having kind of a complicated relationship.

It’s interesting because you’ll have someone in your life where you think, this person really grates my nerves but then when they’re gone it’s like ‘oh man.’ Plus it’s your parent, so that makes

it tough too, whether you were close with them or not, you know.

There was a revolving cast of people [in the spiritual journey for me.] One of those people was my driver after the accident. I had had a seizure and had my licence taken away for six months, so I had a driver that would drive me to therapy and physical therapy and all that stuff.

He was just considered a common man. You know, he retired from the assembly line at the plant. At the time I had all these different therapists and specialists I was seeing and I ended up getting the most out of my conversations with this “common, unlearned” man. He was someone who had practiced sobriety for like 30 years and at that particular point, that was something I needed. The thing that I learned from him and so many other people was that these people aren’t necessarily going into these situations knowing what the outcome is going to be. They know what they want, they know what they believe and they know what they believe in so they rely on that to kind of get them through. That was probably one of the biggest lessons. What’s helped the most a lot of times is having someone around with a listening ear that can listen without judgement.

To me, and it could be because I’m a man, but to me, women are way way way more open to this and to some of the suggestions.

The other thing is that women are, to me, more open to change than men are. So I could say something to a female client, she may or may not like it but she’ll think about it and later on she’ll say, "ok I’ll try."

However, it’s been my experience that men are immediately more defensive. What happens with my clients is we are more than likely going to hit upon that one thing you don’t want to talk about. You might come to me and say you are sabotaging your relationships or your business is failing or you just don’t feel good. Being an intuitive I know that usually what comes out of their mouth is about five percent of what’s really going on. For men, when you hit on that one thing they don’t want to talk about, that’s when shit gets real.

I was working with a guy and he was working in sales and wanted to do better in sales and his issue was that growing up he

saw his mother being beat by his father. That affected his self esteem which in turn was affecting his sales. When I brought that up, when that came up intuitively, he did not want to touch that. So I was limited as far as the assistance I could offer him because the thing came up and he didn’t want to talk about the thing so we had to kind of just leave it where it was.

There’s another wrinkle too. This wrinkle is the amount of pride that men of colour tend to have above caucasian men. Working with caucasian men and working with men of colour are two totally different things. The caucasian men that I have worked with are generally a little more open to hearing things and a little more open to change. For men of colour who are maybe feeling marginalized or have experienced some bad things in their life, their pride is something that they really hold on to because in some cases a lot of men feel like that’s all they got, their image and their pride. When I was taking the classes and stuff and I was working with the “gurus,” what I found out was…and I had to be open enough to accept this, when you go through a training and they say do this, this, this and that, a lot of people of colour aren’t there yet. They may not be able to make this big giant leap so you have to do baby steps.

I would say, for me, what breaks it down is showing the ugly parts of my own story as well as results from healing. Also, something that I always stress when talking to men of colour is, we are influencers. Whatever work that we do, whatever healing that we do for ourselves, we are not only healing ourselves, we are healing our significant others, our kids, our nephews and nieces and whoever else we come in contact with. Healing is not just for us and really, healing is all about letting go. Whatever it is you can let go of, even if it’s just a teeny tiny bit, you’re switching up the energy and you’re letting something else in.

The belief system has a lot to do with a lot of different things. With a belief system we have the things that we believe and then there’s the things that have been our experience. You keep repeating this stuff

and believing this stuff and watching this stuff and that becomes a part of your beliefs because a belief is really just a thought you think over and over again until you believe it’s true.

The number one tip I would give someone is change your focus. My go to questions are, how would I rather feel in this moment?

What would it take to make me feel better in this moment? That kind of helps to switch my focus up because naturally we get stuck in these mindsets of this is going to happen, that’s going to happen, this is going to suck. Even if you’re not mentally in a place where you can switch it up and think the opposite, I tell people, ‘just be open to the possibility that it might be better than you think it’s going to be.’

FIVE GIFTS FOR THE SPIRITUAL PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE BY:PREMADASA GANGADEEN

It would be fair if you interpreted the title of this article to be a quick shopping list of things to go and get in order to please or impress a spiritual person in your life, particularly if such a person is rare and unique in your family or social circles. If this is you, do not despair, for there will be some suggestions to consider. On the topic of consideration, let’s assume that we ALL are spiritual people with varying degrees of awareness on how ‘spiritual’ we actually are. As our life unfolds and we act or react to it, so often a lesson or an opportunity to take a deeper dive into self-awareness comes. As we personally explore these events, we may develop a simple approach on how to meet these moments when they come up again so as to serve us in the most efficient, joyous and loving way possible. Spirituality is both expressed and gleaned as these moments arise throughout our lifetime so it may be best to simply enjoy the process in the moment and consider that to serve the spirit is one of the greatest things to both give and receive.

Present - This is a powerful word with many overlapping principles on the path toward greater spiritual awareness. Most holidays or special occasions are observed between people with the exchange of presents - a thoughtful gift usually tailored for the recipient. It makes the giver feel good and if they are really tapped into the person they are giving something to, the recipient will also feel good. This is a beautiful thing as it provides the space for mutual love and joy. While gifting during these times may seem like solely a material pastime, remember that in terms of the 5 layers or koshas according to Yoga philosophy, the outermost layer has to do with material existence and each subsequent layer becomes less material and more subtle toward the spiritual core of our essence. If you were to flip the material meaning of present to simply being present, this is among the greatest of gifts that you could offer anyone because you are now willing to share space and/or expend the precious and seemingly finite resources of time, attention and energy to that person. You are investing in their spiritual progress when you support them with your unwavering presence. Being present is the expressway to spiritual awareness and/or awakening.

Breathe - The breath is the link between the body and the mind. Practice some form of pranayama to help establish a healthy balance between your body and mind so when you want to be present for someone, the peaceful easy feeling that pranayama yields can easily exude in the space of your meeting and hopefully be supportive to the one you are meeting. Learn additional pranayama techniques and then share them with the one you are meeting, for two people experiencing the peaceful, easy feeling that pranayama yields is better than one!

Learn to meditate - This is the greatest tool for overcoming the various distractions that tend to muddy the mind. Having a clear mind makes the task of being present for yourself and others so much easier.

Once again, assuming that we all are spiritual people, there is no telling what effect you may be having on another in your shared lives together. Perhaps meditating together will not only help you both be more present to yourselves, you could be fostering a burgeoning community of like-minded people and there is nothing more fulfilling than the feeling of belonging to something special, which feels good and is helpful for many others.

Discover what inspires the spiritual people in your life - The more that we tap into the source of their inspiration, the greater our sense of intuition becomes as we in turn become more relatable to those people. When we foster inspiration/intuition in ourselves and others, there becomes a wider field of relationship with a lesser sense of separation. Practice this step often and see what unfolds for you and the other person in terms of realization. Foster and share moments of inspiration to cultivate a deeper intuitive connection to others.

Become a steward for another’s spiritual practice - This is known as Karma Yoga, the most potent and common expression of Yoga. The path of selfless service or Karma Yoga is available to all and requires no training, only the purity of heart. We set about supporting others with their spiritual practice by doing our best to remove any distraction or obstacle for one to be able to practice. What is practice? It could be worship, meditation, pranayama, Yoga postures, reading spiritual and inspirational texts - anything which brings about a state of being present in truth, consciousness and bliss.

Most importantly, have fun! It isn’t hard to play; we make it hard on ourselves to go and play. When we can induce and claim responsibility for our own joy, the feeling of lightness which comes with it is bound to influence someone else, and if we can effectively bring lightness to others, this is the greatest gift that we can channel into the here and now. To serve others, give yourself the gift of Yoga to then share the experience of Yoga with love for all.

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Navigating through Change amongst the Family

Usually it is said that our family knows us best. This means they know our patterns, tendencies, habits, flaws and traits. We have also developed with them (and

BY ANDREA SIPCIC them with us) different patterns, As we are creating and dynamics and even coexperiencing our own changes dependencies that have served us within ourselves, depending on the to maintain relationships and depths and extremes, some can at connections with them, albeit times seem uncomfortable, sometimes unhealthy. From this overwhelming or tumultuous. we generally know what to expect Going through and adjusting from them and them from us, for through this is enough in itself; the most part. We tend to look at now we add life - work, routines, things based on past experiences deadlines, peers, bills, school, and patterns from people and romantic life, friends, children and relationships and from there of course, family and all its anticipate and create our dynamics and differences. experiences.

Now when we look at bringing change or any type of pattern interruption, things can get stirred up and go in many different directions. Each of us that is a member of a family plays a role in the whole picture, almost like a puzzle. Change a piece of the puzzle, and you can affect the whole puzzle and enforce other pieces to be rearranged. So changing yourself can inevitably create some sort of change within your family dynamic. This is most often change that is needed, potentially breaking old, flawed and unhealthy patterns, dependencies and even illusions.

With this introduction to change, most often there are two general ways things can go in - family members either embrace and follow suit, or they resist and insist on the old ways. Of course the latter is the most challenging to navigate through, but it is also where the most focus and insistence from you, for you, that’s required. This is because it can be very easy, especially in the beginning stages of change, for us to be swayed into old patterns, cycles and what is easy (especially for those we love) if we are not focused and diligent. Sometimes keeping ourselves in old patterns serves others to feel better, but in an unhealthy way, or fulfills some sort of void for others or for a relationship, or even for ourselves.

So it is very important to know which direction you are wanting to go in, what changes you want to make and maintain, and keep in mind that to do so can seem a little tough and as mentioned, can be met with some (or a lot of) resistance. It is up to you to stay in your own lane, knowing what you want and need for you, as you can not control your family members and how they react/respond to you and the changes.

easier to flow through, with the main reason being that the other/s are already open and willing to change and taking steps in that direction. I found there was more peace within dysfunctional relationships, much less resistance to moving forward together and more acceptance of the new me, with it more so being embraced rather than rejected and resisted.

I had some very established, unhealthy dynamics within my family relationships and myself that I have been navigated through. I found at the beginning stages it was so easy to turn back to old patterns for various reasons - it was easy, familiar and maintained some unhealthy dependencies which even at times gave me a sense of importance and belonging. I would also easily lose my focus as to where I wanted to go when I gave too much attention to what others were doing in their own unhealthy roles. I would then slip right into my own and from there we could maintain the relationship and ‘connection” we knew so well, however dysfunctional it was. Not knowing what my new relationships with my family would be like scared me, and from there I was hesitant to There are of course at times when make permanent changes. Moving other family members are also on though, I knew I wanted to navigating through their own make changes for myself and knew changes. So now we are dealing some of my family relationships with more new, changing puzzle had to change. I figured as I pieces that we have to navigate changed the chance of not really through together and establish having much of a connection with new patterns, connections and family members was there. I also dynamics. From my own knew though, that I just had to experience, I have found this much trust that whatever relationships

came from the new me, would be better than the unhealthy ones I had at the time. So from there I decided to follow through with where I wanted to go for myself, maintained myself there as best I could within family interactions and minimal attention to the old, unhealthy patterns demonstrated by others. I found as I stayed more and more consistent with this, others started to follow suit. It was

almost like being a leader and I found I was even more respected.

It took knowing what I wanted for me, staying focused and in my own lane and remaining determined no matter what anyone else was doing.

December Reading with Intuitive Goddess Priya As the year comes to a close, the Guides are bringing you a message pertaining to a loyal heart. As we come to year end, we sometimes feel compelled to give up on things, relationships or dreams that have not shown up the way we wanted them to. The Guides are encouraging you to stay loyal in your heart. When you are truly connected to your heart, you will be acting from a place of love, light, authenticity and detachment.

For some of you, the Guides encourage you to carefully contemplate what it is that you are remaining loyal to. Be discerning and take the time to become laser aware of what is actually true for you and true to you. Take your time through grounding and centring yourself while ensuring you are connected to Source energy when allowing this awareness to present itself to you.

For some of you, this message is coming to appeal to you to be loyal to others from your heart. This means remaining loyal not because of what they can do for you, but from a place of love and respect. For those of you questioning the loyalty of someone in your life, the Guides are sending this message as a sign that you can trust that they are.

As we move towards the end of the year, the Guides wish for you to have the strongest connection you can to your own heart. Cherish yourselves as your Spirit Guides and higher selves do.

Wishing you a year end filled with joy, peace and abundance, Intuitive Goddess Priya

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