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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR.......................................................6 CONTRIBUTORS............................................................................7 PAST EVENTS.................................................................................9 FASHION Fashion Forward: Recover in Style...................................... 10 SYRACUSE EATS Thai Thai Cuisine................................................................... 14 WOMEN IN HISTORY Randi Bregman...................................................................... 16 SPECIAL FEATURES State Fair honors opiod victims........................................... 18 Emme at Go Red for Women............................................... 24 Glitz, Glamour and Goblins Gala........................................ 35 FOR A GOOD CAUSE Help Restore Hope Center................................................... 20 WBOC LEADING LADY Jennifer Nadler...................................................................... 27 ON THE COVER Tiana Mangakahia, SU Basketball....................................... 30 HEALTH & WELLNESS Reproductive Health Clinic: The latest breast cancer screening options..................... 36 St. Agatha foundation celebrates 15 years

of supporting breast cancer patients............................ 38 Fitness Forum: The ltruth about sugar.............................. 40 Self-care: An open letter to survivors................................. 44 INSPIRE Stephanie Piston.................................................................... 46 Bryn Lovejoy-Grinnell.............................................................. 50 Tula Goenka............................................................................... 54 UPCOMING EVENTS................................................................. 56 MOVERS AND SHAKERS......................................................... 58

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LETTER from the Editor

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ctober is usually our “Pink” edition, but I thought it was important that we devote some space this month to another public health crisis that actually affects more women.

While one in eight women will face a breast cancer diagnosis, one in four—some studies say as many as one in three—will be abused by a partner.

And while October is traditionally recognized as Breast Cancer Awareness Month, it’s also National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

As a general rule, I don’t include outside content in the magazine—we have enough great contributors that we don’t need syndicated articles. But I received this column a few months ago from Dr. Buck Blodget, a chiropractor who became an author and motivational speaker after his daughter, Jessie, was murdered when she was 19 by a friend. In the wake of her death, Dr. Blodgett founded The LOVE>hate Project (light.org). Parts of his letter really resonated with me, particularly his title: “Is It Time to Treat Violence Against Women as a National Emergency?”

So I wanted to share his letter with you here and encourage you to watch out for your sisters, your daughters, your friends, yourselves: help is a phone call away.

IS IT TIME TO TREAT VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AS A NATIONAL EMERGENCY?

By Dr. Buck Blodgett Each day in the United States women are victims of all types of violence at the hands of men – murder, domestic abuse, sexual assault – yet too often as a nation we take little or no notice.

But on occasion, for some of us, the violence hits home and can no longer be ignored. My daughter, Jessie, was 19 when she was raped and murdered in our home by a friend. Her death left me stunned, shocked and filled with anguish, yet also inspired me to do all I can to prevent such horrors from happening to others in the future.

During her brief life, Jessie developed a strong social conscience. Ironically, her biggest cause was women victimized by male violence. Her legacy, The LOVE>hate Project (www.ligth.org), is dedicated to ending violence against women and inspiring people to choose love over hate.

Essentially, we would like to see violence against women treated as the national emergency it is. Sadly, not only has male against female violence been going on since the dawn of mankind, but often the attacker is a spouse, boyfriend, ex, or someone close.

Nearly one in four adult women have experienced severe physical violence from an intimate partner in their lifetime, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The CDC also reports that 16 percent of women have experienced some form of contact sexual violence from an intimate partner, such as rape, sexual coercion, and/or unwanted sexual contact.

And 10 percent of women report they have been stalked by an intimate partner.

(Men can also be victims in these situations. For example, the CDC reports that one in seven adult men have experienced severe physical violence from an intimate partner.)

Certainly, violence against women is a large societal problem that won’t easily be solved, but here are ways to begin the process: • Encourage victims to break the silence. Most victims of sexual violence never tell anyone. Instead, they keep a dark secret that haunts them, hurts them, erodes their faith in humanity, ruins their faith in men, renders some suicidal or depressed, kills their happiness and self-esteem, and leaves them incapable of having a trusting relationship with a soul mate. One of the core messages for LOVE>hate is this: It’s OK to talk about it. In fact, it’s required for healing.

• Be aware of the message you convey at home. For men especially, it’s important to realize that how you treat women in your home sends a message to your sons. For both parents, it’s important to talk to sons about how they should treat women and girls.

• Hold people accountable, but consider the importance of forgiveness. One thing that many people struggle to understand is that I chose to forgive Jessie’s killer. I realize that’s difficult to comprehend, because so many people in the same situation likely would seek revenge rather than offer forgiveness. For me, this was important as a way to show that hate would not win out over love. But don’t misunderstand. Even though I chose forgiveness, I also wanted Jessie’s killer held accountable for his actions. I knew how sick and dangerous he was, and that he could never be allowed the freedom to harm anyone again.

The bottom line is that it’s too late for Jessie, but not too late for millions of girls and women – if we educate, motivate and inspire people to end the violence.

My question is: How many more Jessies will there be before we get the job done?

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233 (TTY 1-800-787-3224).

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CONTRIBUTORS This month, we asked our contributors: What do you love about fall in Central New York?

Angela Antonello

Carol Radin

Fall foliage, hot cider, tradition, cozy sweaters and snuggling — there’s nothing quite like fall in Central New York.

Apple picking brings it all together for me. A drive on Route 20’s rolling hills, surrounded by fluorescent reds and yellows on the trees, and moseying through orchards on a crisp sunny day, reaching up for the highest apples. I go a few times a season, for each latest variety of apple — my favorite is Macoun. Barbecue or warm apple fritters at one of the picnic tables with miles of hills in view is a nice bonus!

Nichole A. Cavallaro Going to Abbotts’ Farm in B’ville and buying their pies!! "Fruits of the Forest" is my favorite.

Christie Donato The weather outside is just right for a good hike, and with the leaves changing colors it's just the absolute best time to be outdoors.

Jamie Jenson Nothing beats the colorful foliage.

Alicia Madonna I'm sure like many others, I love EVERYTHING about the fall. It is by far my favorite time of year. What I love to do most though is curl up in a comfy sweater with a good book and a cup of coffee on a chilly, overcast fall day.

Steven J. Pallone Yes, the leaves are pretty, the air is crisp, and there's pumpkin spice everywhere, but to me nothing exemplifies fall quite like a fat CNY squirrel.

Alice G. Patterson The best part about fall in CNY is the crisp air, all of the beautiful trees and the sound of huge flocks of migrating geese.

Heather Shannon For me, apple picking. Nothing like a fresh crisp apple right from the tree.

Megan Sheehan I could go on for hours about fall. I love the temperature and how comfortable it is to be outside. I love the variety of local farms to visit with fresh produce, veggies, animals and activities. I love the colors and how the air smells crisp. I love apples, cider, beers, wines and the crickets outside of my window.

You could say I have an addiction to fall.

Maureen Tricase There is so much to love abut fall in Central New York: fall photo sessions at Plumpton Farms, fall leaves, ripe apples, pumpkins, hay rides, trick or treating, cider and donuts!

Correction: In last month’s edition, we incorrectly identified one of the women in the photo that accompanied our For A Good Cause feature on the Syracuse Sounds of Music Association, and we misstated the positions of both women. Pictured were Donna McCann, president of the board, and SSMA Board Member Andrea Callarco. We regret the error.

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WISE recently announced that its annual symposium would be rebranding as PowerUP. The new venture includes the same focus on women entrepreneurs and leadership as WISE, with more of an emphasis on philanthropy.

The American Heart Association hosted its annual Go Red for Women Handbags Helping Hearts event on Sept. 12. Hosted by Stickley, Audi & Co., the event gave attendees the chance to bid on chic handbags filled with luxury items and gifts, while also helping a great cause and getting lifesaving information about the number one killer of women: heart disease.

The event raised $20,000 for Go Red for Women.

Syracuse Fashion Week took place Sept. 12, 13 and 14. The show featured designs from The Changing Room, Floridella, Michelle Darin, Midnight Sun, NY Optometrics and more. Photos by Dennis Fernando Photography.

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fashion forward Fashion for women undergoing chemo

Recover in style

By Angela Antonello

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s a 30-year veteran in the salon and fashion industry, many women have shared their struggle to feel beautiful during their cancer treatments. Common concerns were the need to still feel beautiful, feminine and radiate while dealing with the possibility of hair loss. Chemotherapy treatments have side effects that leave you far from feeling your best. Having the “look good, feel good” philosophy certainly can help boost your self-esteem, but taking back control of your beauty routine can really give you the confidence and comfort you need during and otherwise unpredictable time.

Let us help you take charge of your recovery in style!

1. Head shape becomes just as important as the shape of your face.

• Unlike in clothing, where we often stay away from pleats or gathers, they pair perfectly on a head scarf or chemo cap. If you have a smaller head, pleads can create the illusion of volume, which is often helpful to give you just the balance you need.

• Place your hat or scarf higher or lower on your forehead depending on your face shape. For a low forehead, wear your headwear slightly higher. If you have a high forehead, experiment with covering half with the border of your scarf or hat.

• You will want to choose a scarf that comes down low enough, so that it covers your natural hairline.

• If you like to wear earrings, be sure your earlobes are not covered, although you may wish to cover all or just part of your ears depending on what feels comfortable.

2. Choose colorful headwear and play with different textures and fabrics, too.

• Bright colors not only lighten up your face, but your mind, too.

You will feel more energized when you choose a certain color.

Pink is certainly pretty, but have you thought about a nice emerald green? Both blue and green hues help minimize any redness you may be experiencing with your complexion.

• Try a hat or scarf with a print or pattern to make your outfit more exciting. Always choose a print with lighter color accents to brighten up your eyes and your skin.

• Texture and fabrics are important, too.

Silk: Can be worn in all seasons, most delicate, can be hard to maneuver.

Chiffon: Low slippage, sturdy. Dressier look than cotton. Easy to wash and wear.

Cotton: Cool, lightweight, soft, breathable, does not slip and retains sweat.

Cashmere and Wool: Lighter weight wool scarves are a must have choice for cooler climates.

3. Experiment with makeup • Brighten up your eyes. Using a brightening concealer under your eyes, then working it into the corners and the innermost part of your lids can make a world of difference.

• Invest in a tinted moisturizer. The easiest way to even out your complexion while giving your skin the moisture that it desperately needs is with a tinted moisturizer. Choose an organic formula with plenty of SPF since your skin will likely be extra sensitive after chemo or radiation.

• Pucker up! If your lips are feeling dry and neglected, try a natural scrub to exfoliate any dead skin to leave

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your lips feeling silky smooth. Try a tinted balm for natural look or choose a lip color a few shades brighter for a pretty more dramatic glow.

4. Create your signature look and don’t forget to accessorize.

• Turn your hat or scarf into a trendy accessory simply by accessorizing it.

• You can use earrings, a necklace or even a vintage brooch.

• Choose colorful, larger, more striking accessories to turn your wrap or hat into a real fashion item.

• Play with bold earrings and big necklaces to really make a statement.

It’s so much more than just fashion and beauty. It’s a focus on self-confidence and self-love. Having a way to control your appearance and look good while you’re going through something so devastating is so important and most of all knowing you are not alone. SWM Angela Antonello owns Fashion Rescue 911 Fashion Truck & Boutique, located at 52 Oswego St., Baldwinsville; (315) 857-6690. Hours are noon to 7 p.m. Wednesday and Thursday, noon to 6 p.m.

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I want people to eat Pad Thai and love it, and eat Thai food and love it and then think ‘I want to go to Thailand.’” – Jenny Bassett

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exy crab.

Now that I have your attention, please ignore my classic eye-catching tactic to discover one of the newest eateries in town.

(More on the covetable crustacean later). One of my favorite things about Syracuse is that you don’t have to go very far to get something different and unique to eat. Our food scene is ever growing, expanding, and making us explore our horizons and push boundaries. Speaking for myself, I am not much of a traveler; I haven’t been to very many places.

I have hovered around the East Coast and down to the home of cartoon mice and snowbirds. I am grateful to be able to have world cuisine at my fingertips despite this. And it just so happens, Syracuse is the proud owner of a new spicy spot.

Jenny Bassett and her daughter, Cake, have just opened their own taste of Thailand. Thai Thai Cuisine opened its doors in March of 2019, though their journey began years ago. The two are from Bangkok and made their way to Oregon in 2003, where Jenny’s mother, father and sister all manned a Thai restaurant. Starting young in the family business, even at 14, Cake helped and worked alongside her grandmother in the kitchen.

“I always washed dishes in the back, and I helped her cut stuff and I learned from there,” she said.

Her love of snow, season changes, and some friends brought Jenny and Cake to Upstate NY. “I like the rain, the winter,” Jenny said. “I [went] to Ithaca to work at the Thai restaurant for seven months then I moved to Syracuse.”

From here, between the pair, they have been a part of nearly every Thai restraint in Syracuse. Learning, growing, and improving, Jenny decided it was time for her family to come back together under one roof. Almost more importantly, she wanted to create a truly authentic Thai cuisine experience. She wanted to really capture and share the traditional, authentic way to prepare and serve Thai cuisine.

“When you go to a Thai restaurant, they try to make it American style. My mom has been cooking more than 20 years, so that’s why we try to make real Thai style,” she said. “I want to make it the right way.”

It was frustrating for Jenny to see incorrect recipes and nontraditional dishes go mainstream.

“You can go to YouTube, and they say it’s Pad Thai but it’s not.,” Jenny said. “So I want people to eat Pad Thai and love it, and eat Thai food and love it and then think ‘I want to go to Thailand.’”

Though they can all do each part of restaurant life, Jenny is the owner and operator, Cake helps her mom out, and waits tables, and Jenny’s brother, Boyd Thongmee is the main chef. They have a staff of about six.

There are parts of the Thai Thai menu that haven’t been seen in Syracuse before — family recipes Jenny gets directly from her mother.

“I bring her recipes from Oregon to here, from Bangkok to Syracuse,” Jenny said.

For example: The sexy crab roll, which is served with a delicious sweet and sour sauce along with an exciting twist. The sauce is set on fire.

“That’s why it’s sexy! Sexy hot!” Jenny said.

Jenny is exceedingly proud of her culture and her recipes and already has repeat customers and visitors from distances to come try out her food. The prices are affordable with a delicious menu filled with specials. If you’re concerned about the level of spicy, they do have a fivepepper hotness rating and will customize your order for you.

While Jenny is thrilled to have customers who come so often she can predict their orders, she invites those who haven’t stopped in to come try the food.

“I want people to try something new,” Jenny said. “Give us a chance.”

Their recipes aren’t necessarily a secret but Jenny says if you want it, you’ve got to go ask her mom for it. She’s not squealing. SWM Thai Thai Cuisine is located at 3138 Erie Blvd E. Syracuse, and open split hours from 11:30 a.m. to 3 p.m. and 5 to 9 p.m. Monday to Saturday and noon to 9 p.m. Sundays.

Photos by Steven J. Pallone

Pictured far left to right: Sea World Curry, Mango Cashew Delight (with Thai Iced Tea) and Avocado Curry.

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SPECIAL FEATURE Overdose Awareness in Central New York

State Fair honors opioid victims

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omeone dies every six hours from a preventable overdose in New York State. In the U.S., 197 people die from an overdose every day. According to the Centers for Disease Control, the total of 68,557 people who died last year in the U.S. from an overdose is a decrease for the first time in a decade.

On Friday, Aug. 30, the second annual Light a Lantern for Overdose Awareness Vigil was held at the New York State Fair.

Those who have lost a loved one to overdose decorated a lake lantern in the victim’s memory for display at the vigil memorial at the New York Experience Field.

This year’s vigil was held in memory of Dennis Katz, who passed away from an accidental overdose June 2 at the age of 31.

The memorial was held as part of Stomp Out Stigma Day at the Fair and was hosted this year by Central Region Addiction Resource Center, a program of Madison County Council on Alcohol and Substance Abuse, Inc. Sponsors included Central Region Addiction Resource Center, Prevention Network of CNY, HEAL Onondaga, and ACR Health.

Featured speakers included Syracuse Mayor Ben Walsh and Katz’s mother, Mary Hall. On-hand support was provided by

members of parent grief support groups 607 and 315 Healing Hearts, and meditation-based substance abuse recovery group Refuge Recovery Syracuse.

The vigil began at 7:45 p.m. with the arrival of families, friends, and supporters. Opening remarks were made and the crowd was encouraged to shout out together “Stomp Out Stigma” for the entire fair to hear.

Mayor Walsh expressed his condolences to the families.

His message to those in recovery from substance abuse was to “Stay strong. Syracuse is here with you. It is my privilege to help you.”

The mayor also acknowledged first responders including the Syracuse City Police and the Syracuse Fire Department. Hall gave a heartfelt speech of love and remembrance of her son Dennis, who she described as “creative, caring, with an infectious laughter and great sense of humor.” Katz was a sponsor and a mentor to newcomers at a variety of local recovery support meetings.

A moment of silence followed and at dusk 180 lanterns were released into the water. SWM

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FOR A GOOD CAUSE Liberty Resources Help Restore Hope Center

Liberty Resources Help Restore Hope Center Sara Haag, MSW, Divisional Director

Tell me about the Help Restore Hope Center.

How was it started? How are you funded?

The Help Restore Hope Center is a domestic violence, rape crisis, and victim services program based in rural Central New York, proudly assisting survivors as they transform their lives in our home communities of Madison and Chenango counties. It is a program of the non-profit Liberty Resources, which is headquartered in Syracuse. Liberty Resources employs more than 1,400 professional staff providing shelter, treatment, assistance, counseling, and support to nearly 18,000 individuals and families in two states.

The Help Restore Hope Center is sort of an unsung hero in the field of survivor services, quietly helping individuals rebuild their lives for the past 30-plus years. It all began around the time that a societal movement of empowering survivor women was occurring, around the late 1970s or early ‘80s, when a group of concerned citizens saw a community need and decided to rise to that challenge. Liberty Resources is the perfect agency to support that venture with such a huge scope of services to many different populations.

What areas do you serve?

While we are experts on our home communities, we will strive to help anyone that reaches out to us. Any survivor of domestic violence,

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sexual assault, or other crimes is free to make contact with staff through our 24/7 toll-free hotline at 1-855-966-9723. Staff will ask the caller where they are located now and/ or where they wish to receive services.

They will also ask some questions to seek to understand the best way to help the caller. Generally by phone we are able to provide information and referral, counseling, safety planning, and help connect to other related services.

When did your locations open?

The program in Madison County is one of the oldest domestic violence programs in New York state, with more than 30 years of service to our community. Liberty Resources is currently celebrating 40 years of service to the Madison County community where this program started!

The program in Chenango County is newer. There we have been helping survivors in the rural Norwich area for three years now.

Why did Liberty Resources think it was necessary to provide something like Help Restore Hope in your area?

Liberty Resources’ roots as a human services agency are in Madison County and we got our start due to the need that existed for battered

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Helping restore hope to those suffering from domestic, sexual or other violence. women. Women and children needed assistance. It was clear that this was an issue that really needed to be addressed. A group of very dedicated citizens came together to form what is now our program.

We are so thankful for those citizens that helped this program get a solid foundation. Some of our founders and retired employees are still active as volunteers, and we are so grateful for them and what they have given to our clients over the years!

What kinds of services do you provide?

A variety of support for the survivor that ranges from short term assault care in the hospital through the Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) program, to identifying safe housing, to domestic violence advocacy, to therapy and support groups, to longer term holistic therapy healing through our trauma-informed survivor workshops.

We are caring for the whole need of the individual as they heal and re-take their power. Services provided are free and confidential, as well as voluntary/self-determining. All initial service access is through the hotline as point of contact.

Our in-person response is limited to our home service area communities of Madison and Chenango counties, but we will strive to help and/or refer to programs that are closest to where a survivor is at the moment.

The survivor may self-determine and select services that align with their needs. They may choose to receive help as they need it, when they need it. Services are provided without discrimination. A survivor truly can be anyone — from any walk of life. There is no “typical” survivor.

The programs assist not only women and children, but also men, non-binary individuals, and transgender individuals, too.

How do you advocate for survivors?

We believe every survivor is unique, and we strive to support them on their own path. One of the first things that our new advocate staff learn in their on the job training is that while there are roadmaps for how one can advocate for our clients, no two clients are exactly alike, and needs can change over time. Advocacy can look like helping a mom obtain an order of protection and helping her figure out what to expect, or meeting with a scared individual in a hospital or police station who was just victimized, talking with a caller to the hotline about their safety planning, meeting with a family who is looking for safe shelter, and so on. The opportunities to help as plentiful. One of the best parts of doing this work is when you get to see a client transform their life. We get the best thank you cards and phone calls to help remind us of why this work is so important. It is deeply satisfying to have been a helping part of someone’s journey.

How do you support victims?

By empowering them and putting them in the “driver’s seat.” We are literally trying to restore hope. Survivors self-select services and family or friends can make what we call a suggested referral, staff can offer advice on how to present hotline information to a loved one that you have concern for.

One of the hallmarks of an abusive relationship is the loss of survivor’s “power.” That can happen a lot of ways — it can begin with losing the ability to make one’s own choices, for example, an abuser wants to make them for the survivor. We begin with helping the

survivor regain their decision-making ability fully. The Help Restore Hope Center’s logo is a butterfly — because we are in the business of helping survivors to transform their lives, much like a butterfly does. We help them spread their wings when they are ready, without judgement. This is critical, because nationwide most survivors will attempt to leave an abusive relationship an average of seven times before they are able to be successful.

Support might look like a first-time caller talking with an advocate, who gets to know them as a person, listening to their experience(s).

They will then ask them some basic questions about what their support needs are. Questions like, where are you right now, are you safe at this moment, and what do you need? Seeking to understand the nature of the issues the survivor has is how we get to the heart of what they need. There are things that we can help with over the hotline: safety planning, information and referral, for example. Longer term support like in-person advocacy in the court system or individual/family therapy referrals can be made so that the survivor feels like they have opportunities for help when they are ready to accept it.

You’re in an area with a number of colleges (Colgate University, Cazenovia College, SUNY Morrisville). How do you work with students to raise awareness about dating and domestic violence?

The program has some incredible funding to work with college students, who can traditionally be at a higher risk overall. This opportunity allows for us to co-locate a specialized advocate on the college campuses in our home communities. The advocate has office hours for each campus and meets with both students and staff/faculty. This advocate wears a few hats in their work — they might do a bit of training with residence life, athletic teams, and administration to help them receive the latest information on intervention and prevention for that population.

They might also advise staff. They also are a listening ear for students that are struggling with these issues and may be a point of contact to our full range of survivor services, too. They also help coordinate and participate in campus activities and awareness events that correspond to what they do. It really is an amazing opportunity to support college campuses in a unique fashion.

How do you educate people on domestic and dating violence?

Twice a year we hold a coalition meeting where we openly invite the community to learn more about these issues. Most of our outreach efforts are focused in the national awareness months. The majority of what we do is direct service, helping 600 to 800 individuals annually in our home communities.

The advocate team is very active, tabling and sharing information about our services as much as possible. We love to be invited in to staff meetings, presentations, fairs, and really any chance to share awareness of these issue and how the services can help. The Help Restore Hope Center is also a part of a variety of coalitions that focus on these issues at a national and state level.

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FOR A GOOD CAUSE Liberty Resources Help Restore Hope Center

Liberty Resources Help Restore Hope Center from page 21 How has the #MeToo movement and subsequent fallout affected your work?

I believe that the #MeToo movement has brought a heightened level of awareness to the work that has really empowered survivors not to feel alone. General media coverage of the issue(s) nationally has helped the public perhaps to better understand some of the issues that can impact survivors. It also helped raise awareness to the issue that survivors are not just women — they are also men, non-binary, youth, and transgender individuals. Locally, our staff saw an uptick in the number of assault cases; we theorize survivors saw the disclosure of the experience of others, and possibly it helped them to come forward and seek help on their own journey of healing.

Why is the work you do so important?

I believe this work is an incredible opportunity to help those in their highest moments of need. For example, one of the first client families I met on the job taught me the value of why this work we do is so necessary. She was a struggling momma who had recently gotten out of an abusive relationship with her small children. I will never forget the little boy in particular. Big curious eyes and a mop of curly hair on his head. The very best thank you I’ve received to date was our last meeting with the family. The little boy and I played blocks while the momma met with her advocate to do some discharge planning together.

The boy looked up at me with the sweet eyes of a child that had really

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been struggling, with wisdom that far surpassed his age, and who maybe didn’t fully understand things but knew that his momma had been hurting. And when we were cleaning up the toy blocks together right before the family was to leave, he just sort of stopped, looked at me, and said, “Thank you.” Not always do we get a moment like that, so it’s very meaningful when it does happen. More often than not, the staff of this program is planting seeds with survivors for when they are ready to heal and take action.

The work we do is so important because often we are helping folks who otherwise fall between the cracks. Sometimes they struggle in silence to cover their bruises, sometimes they are scared to have a voice. Maybe they fear something happening to them or their children, if they receive help.

Is there anything I didn’t ask that you think people should know?

The Help Restore Hope Center’s website is a great resource online at HelpRestoreHopeCenter.org and you can like us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter to see our latest news! Our website will list events and information for National Domestic Violence Awareness Month throughout October. We’re always seeking volunteers, and have an application on our website for those interested. If you or someone you love needs survivor support, our toll-free, 24/7 hotline is 1-855-966-9723. SWM

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SPECIAL FEATURE Emme Go Red for Women

Supermodel Emme will be keynote speaker at Go Red for Women luncheon

By Sarah Hall

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familiar face will take the stage at the Go Red for Women Luncheon and Festival of Red later this month.

Syracuse University graduate and supermodel Emme will be the keynote speaker for the event, which takes place from 10:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. Thursday, Oct. 24, at the Nicholas J. Pirro Convention Center at Oncenter, 800 S. State St., Syracuse. The luncheon program starts at noon.

The American Heart Association started the international Go Red for Women campaign in 2004 as a way to raise awareness about the prevalence of heart disease in women. Cardiovascular diseases, including stroke, claim the life of a woman about every 80 seconds. The campaign aims to share health facts to save lives — about 80 percent of cardiovascular disease is preventable.

The Go Red for Women campaign brings together thousands of women working to lead healthier lives and build healthier communities.

Its aims are to: • Provide women with opportunities to prioritize and take charge of their own health • Build communities that support and provide access to healthy choices • Demand equal access to healthcare for all women and their families • Increase opportunities for women in STEM for future generations The Go Red for Women Luncheon and Festival of Red is the movement’s main annual event. In addition to raising funds for the American Heart Association, the luncheon includes stories from survivors, opportunities for networking and advocacy and an empowering environment focused on eliminating a top killer of women.

This year’s event features a keynote address by former Syracuse Woman Magazine cover woman Emme, a positive body image advocate and supermodel. Emme, twice named to People Magazine’s 50 Most Beautiful People list, was the first celebrity advocate to speak before a Congressional subcommittee in Washington, D.C. to increase public awareness of eating and body image disorders. She is a cancer survivor, a spokesperson for Revlon, a mom and a longtime advocate for body positivity. She is also a graduate of Syracuse University and works with the SU fashion design department on the Fashion Without Limits program.

Go Red for Women is nationally sponsored by CVS Health.

Local sponsors are Life is Why sponsor St. Joseph’s Health, along with Syracuse University, Bristol-Myers Squibb, Stickley Audi & Co., Wellcare, Kinney Drugs Foundation, Wegmans and media sponsors 93Q, Eagle Newspapers, Syracuse Woman Magazine and NBC3, CBS5, CW6 and CNYCentral.com.For more information about the Go Red for Women luncheon or to get your tickets, visit syracusegored.heart.org. SWM

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Soul of a Survivor

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ooking back at her 13-year old self, who had endured repeated sexual assaults by a family relative, Jennifer Nadler now reflects, “At the time, I think I made the decision to put it aside. What I didn’t realize was that I couldn’t move forward until I could move through the pain.”

It took her over ten years to come to that realization, after high school years of honor roll and softball, graduation with bachelor’s and master’s degrees from Le Moyne College, and marriage to her high school sweetheart. Despite all that was good in her life, she sank into a depression that she overcame only with years of support and therapy.

Although her journey at that point was very personal and painful, Jennifer has since tapped into her struggles and reached out to other survivors of sexual assault. Jennifer now offers support through her motivational speaking presentations and her Center for Creative Arts and Healing, where people can actively begin the process of selfdiscovery that might help them heal from their own traumas.

It was not until Jennifer reached adulthood and started her teaching career, in classrooms with 12- and 13-year olds, that things began to unravel.

“There were all these triggers, but I didn’t know what the source of the unease was,” she recalls. She was having panic attacks, going straight to bed after work, abusing alcohol. Finally she took a leave of absence and underwent in-patient therapy in a hospital. While there, she found the strategies most valuable to her were group therapy and art therapy.

Her drawings, in particular, revealed images that surprised her.

“I had no idea what was inside of me!” she says.

She also came away with a guiding insight from her group leader: “We all have the answers within ourselves.” Jennifer has since realized, “If people have space, quiet, and support, the answers reveal themselves when they’re ready.”

Actually, Jennifer created her first motivational presentation when some of her own answers revealed themselves. While listening to a recording of a favorite band, she sensed the music’s connection to her own life, and started creating a PowerPoint of words and images. Then in a brave step forward, Jennifer asked a Le Moyne criminology professor if she could make the presentation in class. The class was engrossed with Jennifer’s message. The professor connected her to Vera House, where she made additional presentations. Motivational speeches for the National Organization for Victim Assistance (NOVA) and the U.S. Military followed. As of today, Jennifer has taken her multimedia presentations to over a dozen states, as well as Europe and the Middle East.

While Jennifer gained confidence in her speaking ability, she wanted to do more. Thinking back to the support groups that had made a difference in her own life, she thought, “It would be awesome if I could do that for others.”

Shortly after her 40th birthday, Jennifer, with help from her husband, John, started the Center for Creative Arts and Healing, located in Armory Square. In what she describes as a “healing place to create and grow,” Jennifer offers facilitated support in talk groups and art groups. One option, for instance, is an eight-week creativity course in which people explore issues of concern in their lives through drawing, painting and collage.

In a typical group session, participants begin with a general “howam-I-doing?” followed by a brief meditation, and finally a session of creating artwork. Jennifer finds that crayons are an engaging, nonthreatening way to begin, although chalk, paint, and other materials are also available. Jennifer herself likes collage and she loves vibrant colors.

The art sessions are quiet, as concentration is important.

“It’s really good to be with yourself,” Jennifer says.

As participants finish, Jennifer asks reflection questions.

“People want to share,” she says. “Some people are proud of what they’re creating. And some people will offer what they see in someone else’s picture.”

Since Jennifer understands that “there’s going to be some discomfort,” she makes sure participants feel it is okay not to share, too.

To get a sense of each client’s needs, Jennifer has an initial consultation.

Recently, queries have come from people with other life-changing issues like loss or identity change, so Jennifer has broadened the focus of the groups. Due to rising interest, she is starting a monthly group for parents of special-needs children, a Body Image/Disordered Eating Support Group, and a weekly support group for teenagers.

Jennifer will be the first to tell both clients and psychologists that the Center’s support strategies are not to be considered a replacement for professional therapy. What she does provide is a safe space for peers to come together and share difficult experiences through spontaneous creative expression. It is the kind of safe space where Jennifer herself once confronted her struggles, and where she can now affirm her sustaining message: “You are not alone. It was never your fault.

Healing is possible.” SWM For more information, contact Jennifer at creativeartsandhealing@gmail.com or (315) 552-0617. Her website for motivational presentations is thevoiceofasurvivor. wix.com/Jennifer.

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COVER story Tiana SandraMangakahia Sabene

Getting #TOUGH4T

TIANA MANGAKAHIA, SYRACUSE UNIVERSITY WOMEN'S BASKETBALL PLAYER AND BREAST CANCER WARRIOR

By Megan Sheehan

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f you have not yet heard the name Tiana Mangakahia, get ready.

Said to be the top basketball player (player period, between both men and women) at Syracuse University, Tiana is a woman with goals, records, and success on her mind and in her future. Tiana will no doubt be in the WNBA before you know it.

But it wasn’t such an easy start. Hailing from Australia, Tiana went right into professional basketball after high school.

“I decided to play one year professionally in Australia,” she said.

“After that year I was going to go play again for another team but Hutchinson Community College in Kansas offered me a full ride to go there.”

Playing professionally, however meant Tiana was no long considered amateur and wasn’t actually allowed to physically play or the school would end up with some hefty violations. Tiana stayed with the school and was able to practice with the girls. By the time sophomore year arrived, she finally got some court time. Tiana was not able to play in actual games, but she was able to participate in scrimmages.

This is when she would be seen and get her shot at a Division I school. Tiana received offers from Oklahoma State, Nebraska, Virginia Tech, University of Southern California, University of Massachusetts, and of course, Syracuse University.

“I felt like the [basketball] program was a better program than the others,” Tiana said. “Growing up when I’d watch basketball on TV, I always saw Syracuse so I decided to come here.”

The question remained, however: Would Tiana get to play?

SU Women’s Basketball Coach Quentin Hillsman broke the news in August of 2017: The NCAA ruled Tiana three years eligible.

“I had to pay back the money to my team that I played for, I had to write in letters, get receipts, appeals — it was a lot of work.,” Tiana said.

“But it was definitely worth it.”

Tiana could finally play alongside her team in games.

And she flourished. Tiana is a four-time ACC Player of the Week, she’s broken the ACC Tournament record for assists, and she is the fastest player in program history to score 1,000 points.

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Growing up, when I’d watch basketball on TV, I always saw Syracuse, so I decided to come here.”

— Tiana Mangakahia

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Getting #TOUGH4T from page 26 This bird took off. The draft was on the table for Tiana. By April, she had to decide what she was going to do.

“I didn’t like where I was seeded on the mock draft,” she said. “It was second round. It wasn’t where I wanted it to be and I figured having another year at Syracuse would help me get it to first round, top 5, top 10. That’s the main reason I decided to stay another year.”

It turned out to be the right decision. Tiana graduated from SU and is on her way to getting her master of science degree in sport venue and event management while continuing to play.

THE FIGHT OF HER LIFE

Life, however, has a way of throwing you a curveball when you least expect it, and Tiana was about to find that out.

In May of 2019, Tiana found a lump in her left breast. At first, full panic didn’t set in. She went to the student health center at SU, where she was told the lump might go away on its own. If it didn’t, she was instructed to come back in two weeks.

It didn’t.

Instead, the lump grew. Tiana now needed an ultrasound, a mammogram, and then a biopsy. At 8:30 a.m. Tuesday, May 18, Tiana got a call from the doctor. He told her she had stage 2 invasive ductal carcinoma. At first, she was stunned. She didn’t understand what the doctor meant.

“I was confused, because I would expect him to just say that I have breast cancer,” she said.

Once the truth sunk in, Tiana started making calls — to her best friend, her parents, and Coach Q. Her parents wanted her to come home to Australia. But Tiana wanted to stay in Syracuse—she could get excellent treatment here, and she felt it would keep her life as normal as possible during treatment.

“Staying here makes me feel more part of the team,” she said. “I feel like if I were to go home or be anywhere else I wouldn’t feel as close to the team as I do now. So it’s been good staying here.”

Being the fighter she is, Tiana was ready for battle straight away.

She began treatment on July 5 with her family by her side. Between her parents and five brothers, she’s had family rotating in and out of the States consistently to keep her from facing any of her treatment alone.

And Tiana admits that the treatment can be rough.

“I feel tired, and a bit down emotionally for about four days. I get a shot once a month which makes me emotional,” she said. “I don’t like being sad so I try to be not sad. But that shot makes me so mad!

I’m laugh crying.”

Despite the weeks of treatment, counseling, hormones, sickness, fatigue, emotional shifts and having to put her passion on hold, Tiana considers herself blessed.

“Everyone is different when it comes to cancer,” she said. “Some go [to treatment] every day. I’m once every two weeks so I’m lucky.

I’m blessed. I get a couple days sick and then I’m good. It’s not sick, sick, sick every day.”

A NEW PATH

“Now I want to help get the message across more about breast cancer awareness and how it’s really important for people to understand what other people go through,” she said, “not even just for cancer but in everyday life.”

She remembers how upset she was the day she was diagnosed.

“The day I found out, I went to Tops and my cart rolled off,” she said. “It almost hit somebody, and if that person had yelled at me or if that person had said something mean to me, I probably would have just broken down and cried. It makes me think, you just never know what someone is going through.”

That moment and the lack of reaction from the fellow shopper really stuck with Tiana.

“I’d kind of like to get into speaking about what people go through,” she said.

The outlook Tiana possesses is inspiring. She claims she wasn’t fully able to accept her diagnosis or really grasp it at first. Yet she’s living it and already planning on how to help others who may go through a similar journey.

“Everything happens for a reason,” she said. “I think there was a reason for this. I know it sucks. I feel like maybe in the future it will help me speak to younger people who go through trials and hard times.”

Tiana believes this experience—which she calls “one of the hardest times ever” in her life—was meant to point her life in a different direction.

“I feel like there’s a different path for me, not just basketball,” she said. “And I never knew what I wanted to do other than basketball.

This is definitely something that I can see myself doing, as far as being an advocate.”

That doesn’t mean she’s giving up on basketball. She expects to be back to training with the team in January of 2020. Her most recent ultrasound (as of Sept. 6) shows that her treatment has been successful so far; her doctors plan to keep her on the same plan through midOctober, followed by surgery in November.

When she beats cancer—and she has no doubt that she will—Tiana knows just how she wants to celebrate.

“I want everyone to be there when I ring the bell. I want all of my brothers there,” she said. “That day will be a good day.”

Tiana thanks her team of doctors, Dr. Tucker, Dr. Kirschner, and Dr.Kort, as well as Dr. Partridge of the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute. She’s also grateful to the people in the Syracuse community who have sent her messages of support.

“It makes me think about my decision coming to Syracuse and how amazing it’s been throughout this situation,” Tiana said. “Just thanks to everyone for their support in Syracuse: the community, the school, the program, just everybody. I feel like I couldn’t have asked for more support. Everyone has been there for me.”

She hopes they’ll be there the day she returns to the basketball court.

And if she had her pick of opponents?

“UConn,” she said. “I want to play against them so bad. We’re going to be so good. I’m so excited. I can’t wait.” SWM

This detour has really given Tiana perspective. It’s given her another goal in life in addition to being a professional ballplayer.

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SPECIAL FEATURE Glamour, Glitz and Goblins Gala

WOC to host inaugural Glamour, Glitz and Goblins Gala Oct. 25

By Christina Hallford-Moynihan

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he Women’s Opportunity Center (WOC) is hosting their first ever Glamour, Glitz and Goblins Gala from 7 p.m. to midnight Friday, Oct. 25, at the Holiday Inn Electronics Parkway. Proceeds benefit WOC of Syracuse, which provides training and employment services to men and women who have been out of the workforce for any amount of time.

If you haven’t heard of the Women’s Opportunity Center (WOC) in Syracuse, you may be missing out. “[At] the Women’s Opportunity Center… [I have] the opportunity to work with people that struggled to find their voice, learning that they have the power to change their path,” said Amy Canavan, a Career Development Life Coach with the organization.

Amy wishes she had known about the program and opportunities sooner. Her husband was the displaced homemaker in her family, needing to take care of their son who required extra care. When the time came to return to the workforce, he needed to renew his job skills. Had they known about the Displaced Homemakers Program, the struggle for him to reenter the workforce after a long absence would not have been as difficult.

“Since joining the WOC and sharing my husband’s story, our staff has worked hard to raise community awareness on what our program has to offer the community on a larger scale,” she said. “No one should struggle to find help that way again.”

The WOC provides several work readiness programs to help displaced homemakers attain the skills they need to return to the workforce.

The nonprofit serves individuals who have been home taking care of the

home and family, as well as men and women who have lost their main source of income due to separation/divorce, widowhood, the disability of a family member that requires care, job loss, single parenting etc.

They have several programs, services and workshops available such as One on One Professional Development Life Coaching; LEADS CNY, which focuses on developing customer service skills; BOAT (Business Office Administration Training) primarily working on typing, software familiarity and project management skills; as well as other workshops catering to Time Management, Business Etiquette, Public Speaking, Introduction to Bookkeeping, Professional Social Networking and several more. These programs can be invaluable when returning to the workforce after a long absence.

The mentorship, support and training the WOC provides the skills necessary to become financially independent or to contribute to the household in a financial capacity. If you find success through the WOC but find yourself in a situation where you could use their help again, you are always welcomed back. For more information on WOC please visit http://www.womensopportunity.org All of these programs will be supported with the Gala on Oct. 25.

The event will consist of a cocktail hour, vendor fair, silent auction, dinner and dancing and is being sponsored by Advanced Atomization Technologies and One Group. Tickets are $125, and are available on Eventbrite: https://bit.ly/2JOixgN SWM To volunteer, advertise or donate, contact the WOC at (315) 446-0550.

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Health & Wellness Women's Reproductive Health

Here are the latest in breast cancer screening options

By Heather Shannon, MS, CNM, NP, MPH

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ost everyone knows October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Many of you reading this article can say you know someone who has or had breast cancer. Each situation has its own story with triumphs and despairs that makes their experience unique and personal. We have seen many public service announcements and promptings by our health care providers to “get screened” and “protect your health.” However, what does that mean? I would like to expand on that a little more and review the types of breast cancer screenings available today. According to the National Breast Cancer Foundation, Inc. (NBCF), in a woman’s lifetime, 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer. In one year, approximately 252,710 women will be diagnosed and approximately 40,500 will die. To break it down further, every two minutes a women will be diagnosed, and every 13 minutes a woman will die from breast cancer. In men, approximately 5,470 will be diagnosed and approximately 460 will die annually. For the good news, more than 3.3 million breast cancer survivors are alive today.

Knowing your risk factor(s) is key. You cannot prevent breast cancer, especially if you have a family history. However, scientists know that maintaining a healthy weight, staying physically active, eating a healthy diet of fruits and vegetables, limiting alcohol intake, and no tobacco smoking will reduce your risks (NBCF). These variables, you can control. However, genetics, you cannot.

We know that early detection is the best strategy to prevent breast cancer related deaths. So what can you do? A self-breast exam (SBE) once a month. It is very easy to perform and partners are helpful in finding abnormalities. I routinely tell my patients that your breasts belong to you and it is very important to be familiar with them and

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know where each lump or bump you might feel is located. Fibrocystic breast changes and fibroadenomas, benign breast lumps, are very common and becoming familiar with yours is important. If you find a lump, contact your health care provider for a clinical breast exam and additional screening tests (mammogram, breast ultrasound, MRI). Keep in mind that 8 out of 10 lumps are not cancerous (American Cancer Society, 2019) and always call you provider if you have concerns.

What are the additional testing available today (ACS)?

• Mammogram: A low dose x-ray to look for changes in breast tissue, like calcifications and masses. Mammograms can find breast cancer at an early stage, but cannot prove (diagnose) it is cancer.

There are two types: 1) digital mammogram are two X-ray images (2D) recorded and saved on a computer; 2) breast tomosynthesis or 3D mammography is multiple low-dose X-rays of the breast that are configured into a 3D image, making it more clear to see abnormalities (about 40 percent more accurate). You need to check with your insurance for details about coverage.

• Breast Ultrasound: Ultrasonic images of breast that can detect fluid-filled cysts and solid masses. Ultrasound aids in further assessing mammographic changes or women with dense breasts.

There is no radiation exposure.

• Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI): Uses magnets to take pictures of the breasts that are hard to see with other imaging tests. MRI is used when someone has been diagnosed with cancer or with a high risk for developing breast cancer. MRI is not recommended for routine screening, because it could miss some cancers that mammograms detect. There is no radiation exposure.

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To learn more about these tests and newer experimental breast imaging tests, go to cancer.org/cancer/breast-cancer/screening-testsand-early-detection/experimental-breast-imaging.html.

When should you start screening? The American Cancer Society, National Comprehensive Cancer Network and US Preventative Services Task Force, provide recommendations for screening that include mammogram and clinical breast exam. Because there are differences in recommendations, it is important that you decide, with your health care provider, which option is best for you.

In conclusion, if caught early, breast cancer can be successfully treated. Be your own advocate. Know your risks, perform your breast exam regularly and keep up with your imaging. Be one of those success stories! SWM

BREAST CANCER SCREENING RECOMMENDATIONS FOR WOMEN AT AVERAGE RISK American Cancer Society

National Comprehensive Cancer Network

Informed decisionmaking with a health care provider ages 40-44 Every year starting at age 45-54

MAMMOGRAPHY Every year starting at age 40, for as long as a woman is in good health*

U.S. Preventive Services Task Force

Informed decisionmaking with a health care provider ages 40-49 Every 2 years ages 50-74

Every 2 years (or every year if a woman chooses to do so) starting at age 55, for as long as a woman is in good health Not recommended

CLINICAL BREAST EXAM Every 1-3 years ages 25-39

Every year starting at age 40

Not enough evidence to recommend for or against

* 3D MAMMOGRAPHY (BREAST TOMOSYNTHESIS) MAY BE CONSIDERED.

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BREAST SELF-EXAM PATTERNS UP/DOWN

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References: American Cancer Society: https://www.cancer.org/cancer/ breast-cancer/screening-tests-and-early-detection/american-cancer-societyrecommendations-for-the-early-detection-of-breast-cancer.html; National Breast Cancer Foundation, Inc.: https://www.nationalbreastcancer.org/whatis-cancer; table adapted from Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation, Inc.: https://ww5.komen.org/BreastCancer BreastCancerScreeningfor WomenatAverageRisk.html.

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Saint Agatha Foundation celebrates 15 years of supporting breast cancer patients

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his fall Saint Agatha Foundation will honor the legacy of its founder, Laurie Mezzalingua, with a gala to build on its success supporting thousands of Central New York breast cancer patients.

“The Promise Continues” gala will be held Oct. 24 at the Marriott Syracuse Downtown to raise funds to expand the foundation’s footprint while increasing awareness of its mission. Honorary co-chairs of the event are Juli Boeheim, of the Jim and Juli Boeheim Foundation, and Dr. Santo DiFino, a retired oncologist and breast cancer survivor.

Mezzalingua was diagnosed with breast cancer and bravely fought for 11 years before passing away 10 years ago at the age of 41. While fighting her own battle, she became an advocate for others fighting the disease. As she realized firsthand the economic impact breast cancer had on patients and their families, she established The Saint Agatha Foundation to provide financial assistance for medical and personal bills, as well as household expenses, for the uninsured and underinsured. The foundation also covers a wide array of personal expenses from gas and grocery cards to utility and household bills while patients are undergoing treatment.

“Knowing Laurie personally was a gift,” Juli Boeheim said. “Her openness and care for others allowed her to connect with other patients and see the reality of the disease through their eyes. She wanted to help every breast cancer patient become a fighter, free of the financial hardships that could detract from their recovery.”

According to the American Cancer Society, a woman living in the United States has a one in eight lifetime risk of being diagnosed with breast cancer. It is estimated that in 2019, 268,600 new cases of invasive breast cancer will be diagnosed in women. However, the disease is not limited to women; 2,670 new cases will be diagnosed in men.

For over the past decade, Saint Agatha Foundation has helped over 6,500 breast cancer patients by providing grants of over $11 million to 17 agencies, hospitals and social services throughout six counties in Central New York. In 2018 alone the foundation assisted 750 individuals and their families.

Since Mezzalingua’s passing, her mother, Kathleen Mezzalingua, has run the foundation, keeping her promise to continue her daughter’s mission.

“It has been an honor to carry on Laurie’s vision for the past 10 years,” Kathleen Mezzalingua said. “My daughter asked me to ‘help women and men who cannot afford their disease so they can focus on their treatment and healing without the added burden of worrying about their finances.’”

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On Oct. 24, The Promise Continues will help to continue this promise.

“As a professional, I saw firsthand the impact breast cancer had on my patients, both physically and emotionally,” Dr. Santo DiFino said.

“With Saint Agatha’s support, my patients could focus on one thing: their own healing. Their financial challenges could be put in the hands of Saint Agatha.”

Tickets and sponsorship packages are available for purchase at saintagathafoundation.org. SWM ABOUT SAINT AGATHA FOUNDATION Saint Agatha Foundation was founded by Manlius native and breast cancer patient Laurie Mezzalingua in 2004 to provide support, comfort and care to other breast cancer patients in the area. Saint Agatha Foundation helps individuals—particularly the under-insured and uninsured—in the Central New York area by providing financial assistance to cover a range of costs for treatment and recovery.

Saint Agatha is the patron saint of breast health. For more information, please visit saintagathafoundation.org.

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The truth about sugar

By Christie Donato

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ctober is the month of apple pies, cider donuts, fancy seasonal lattes (you know the one) and lots of candy, which is why this month I’m writing about sugar. For those of us who struggle to reign in our sweet tooth under normal conditions, the next couple of weeks can be especially challenging. Halloween is just around the corner, and sugar just seems to be everywhere. By now it’s common knowledge that drinking sugary beverages and eating foods with added sugar is not great for our overall health. According to the American Heart Association, diets high in added sugar are “linked to increased risks for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes and inflammation in the body.”

Despite knowing this, it can still be hard to turn down a sweet treat.

Afterall, most of us have been trained to think of dessert as a reward for either doing something good or for making it through a bad day.

Added sugar has become such an issue that more and more people are partaking in sugar cleanses in an attempt to rewire the brain to stop sugar cravings. Eliminating sugar from one’s diet is almost a Herculean task, yet I know so many friends and acquaintances who partake in some kind of sugar detox regularly, usually lasting about 10 days in total.

Almost everyone I spoke with who has engaged in a sugar cleanse agreed that giving up sugar is really difficult at first but feels amazing once you get past the second or third day. “I find that my brain goes a little haywire 48 hours in from the complete lack of sugar,” says Vanessa Vache of New York City. “So I always plan to have Day Two fall on a day when I don’t have too much going on.

It’s around the midpoint of the detox when you start feeling like a superhero.” This sentiment was echoed by everyone I spoke with, who said they felt more productive and focused and had better selfesteem overall. “The thing is, it’s hard to sustain,” admitted Lindley Huynh of San Francisco, who is not currently on a sugar detox, but has been toying with the idea of giving up sugar, dairy, coffee and alcohol. “I can’t bring myself to start something I’m not ready to succeed at.”

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Going completely sugar free looks fine on paper, but is it actually feasible for the long-term?

Caroline Dooner, teacher, podcast host and author of “The F*ck It Diet,” is a tireless advocate for ditching the restrictive diets and switching to engage in intuitive eating, a more mindful way to get healthy.

“When we restrict calories or carbs, our body will wire us to crave them more, which is why many/most/all diets and detoxes end in some kind of binge. Not always right away... but eventually,” Caroline says. As for that incredible feeling everyone who gives up sugar is always talking about, she says that “...in the beginning, restricting can make you feel a bit euphoric. When we have less calories to run on, it can make our adrenaline higher. Without quick and easy fuel (carbs) you get quick and easy stress hormones. This can almost feel like a drug high... but it will also eventually wear off. And when it does, that’s usually when the binges happen.”

Does this mean that she wants us to eat all the sugar we want all the time? Not exactly. “I think it’s totally possible to change your palette to enjoy less sweet foods,” Caroline says. She just wants us to quit the extreme diets and make a plan for healthy eating that you know is actually attainable. To this point, Caroline says, “I am someone who used to think that I had a sugar addiction (I was dieting nonstop during that time!) and now am positive that I don’t. I can take it or leave it, I occasionally crave it, but will stop when I’m full.”

And as it turns out, sugar isn’t “just as addictive as cocaine,” as many of us have been told. In the article “Sugar Addiction: the State of the Science”, published in the November 2016 issue of the European Journal of Nutrition, researchers reviewed literature surrounding sugar addiction in humans, and ultimately concluded that there was “little evidence” to back up this claim. The results showed that, “addictionlike behaviors, such as bingeing, occur only in the context of intermittent access to sugar.” So maybe letting ourselves off the hook once in a while to enjoy a chocolate peanut butter cup or two isn’t what’s throwing off our diet but is instead part of an overall healthier mindset. In fact, having a little candy this month might help us to crave it less in the end. SWM

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Open letter to survivors

By Nichole A. Cavallaro

Dear Survivor, You have endured so much. You have seen and felt so much of what most of us have not seen or felt. I know you still have memories from what you went through. I can see them in your eyes sometimes when you go quiet, or change the subject, or get irritable. I know you don’t mean to get irritable. I know you remember what you saw, what you felt, what you heard. Every detail is still imprinted on your mind that you hardly show anyone or talk about. It’s a private piece of you that I know you keep hidden well. So well, in fact, that you’d never even know you went through anything.

I know that, for me, it’s hard to say things to you about it. Or even relate. I struggle with how I would say anything to make it better or what I can do to steer your attention from it. Sometimes I go quiet.

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I change the subject. I get irritable. I don’t mean to get that way.

I just wish I could have saved you from what you experienced. I wish I could have been there for you more, and is now even enough?

I can’t handle you with kid gloves but sometimes I think your heart needs that. And I want to hold the part of you that still hurts, and still goes there.

I am certain that your survival mode is definitely like an armor you have now. It’s like a shiny shell of strength to protect the person inside. I wish I had that armor sometimes. I wish I had your strength.

Your self-made, protective shield of bravery is a one of a kind!

You are much different now. You are more careful, more aware.

You have felt the delicacy and fragility of the human experience,

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understood the human capacity for pain, and the amount of strength we all need to preserve and salvage what we can of it. You have seen people love you and people leave you for various reasons over how you’ve had to live, in order to survive. You know who your real friends are… and who you should keep at a safe distance.

There are many of you survivors all around me. Older ones, young ones… very little ones. Just when I think I am a strong person, I see you and I am immediately humbled. Humbled by your happiness; your smile through the pain; your laughter to feel fun again. I am, and forever will be, impressed by your resilience and valor.

And I know you. You will roll your eyes at my words. “Hero?” you think and laugh. “I am not a hero. I didn’t save anyone.”

But you did, I argue. You saved yourself and continue to do so — every day. You saved yourself, so you could be there for your loved ones, for your students, for your parents, for your pets… for me to write about your experience here.

I don’t think you know how astonishing you are. How fantastically valiant you have become. How important you are to me and to others.

Please believe my words when I write that each day you face is a victory because you are my favorite success story.

Sincerely,

Me.

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STEPHANIE PISTON

From victim. . .

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ever ask Stephanie Piston why she didn’t leave her abusive ex-husband sooner.

“I hated that question,” Stephanie said. “Hated it, hated it, hated it.”

Stephanie was married to a man who physically and emotionally abused her, forced her to have sex with other men for money, engaged in unprotected sex with strippers, sexually assaulted her and controlled her financially.

But she stayed married to him for nearly five years. Making the decision to leave, she said, was something she had to do on her own, and there were a lot of factors that went into it.

“Why didn't I leave sooner?” she said. “It wasn't my time.”

It took a miscarriage, nearly two years of therapy and a mountain of debt, but Stephanie finally escaped the relationship — but not without a multitude of scars.

“It’s an infection you never get rid of,” she said. “You can suppress it. You can deal with it.

But it’s always a part of you.”

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When the relationship started, Stephanie and her then-boyfriend were living separately—she was in Queens and he was in Binghamton. “He was still on his best behavior,” she said.

Two years after they started dating, the pair married, and that’s when the bloom fell off the rose.

But Stephanie said it didn’t seem like abuse — not right away. She compared it to putting a frog in a pot of boiling water.

“I put that frog in the pot of hot water, the frog is going to jump out to save its own skin,” she said. “Put that frog in a pot

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to survivor. of cold water and slowly turn up the heat. Frog's not going to jump out because it becomes accustomed to it until the frog is dead and floating backwards.”

By the time she understood how bad her situation was, she felt stuck. Then in 1992 she had a miscarriage. It was a wakeup call. “I was going through a hellish time,” she said.

Stephanie started going to a therapist to help her deal with her grief. Over the course of the next two years, working with the therapist convinced her that she had to get out of the marriage.

“So I kind of always thank that little soul for saying, ‘Okay, I came.

I visited you,’” Stephanie said.

“I always wonder what could have been, but then I realize it wouldn't have been a good thing...

Because I probably would have stayed and I'd probably be dead, or that child would be dead.”

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Her family was stunned to learn of the abuse. “’Why didn’t you come to us sooner? Why didn’t you say something sooner?’” Stephanie recalled them asking. “You have to understand, there's 16 years between me and my youngest sister, and 18 years between me and my youngest brother. I wasn't going to bring that to their doorstep.

I did not want to put anybody else in danger.”

She realizes now that shame also kept her from reaching out.

“It's embarrassing to say I need help,” she said. “Because they said, ‘Well, we’re not sure if you really should have married him.’”

With the help of friends,

Stephanie moved to Syracuse, where she met Ed Piston. Ed, too, was going through a divorce.

“We just kind of healed each other along the way,” Stephanie said.

The pair married in 1999 and had two children, Zach and Kaitlin. While Stephanie has a good life now, she knows she’ll never fully escape the one she left behind. She went through a very dark period when her kids were little.

“It was get up, take the kids to daycare, come home, crawl back into bed, covers over your head and just pray,” she said. “And you'd always get the question, do you want to hurt yourself?

No. But if I went to sleep and never woke up again, that would be okay, too.”

Stephanie was diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which is common in victims of intimate partner violence — one 1999 study found that as many as 63.8 percent of IPV victims later received a PTSD diagnosis.

She’s open about her diagnosis and how she’s struggled in the wake of her experience.

“Healing is not linear,” she said.

“You can't go A-B-C-D-E to healing. You can go A to Z to X to J to K. You're going to be bouncing all over the place.

And it comes in its own time.”

It’s taken a lot of time, a lot of soul-searching and a lot of therapy for her to get to a place where she could consider herself a survivor instead of a victim.

“I'm not afraid to talk about it,’" she said. “And I'm not embarrassed by it anymore,

because it wasn't me. It was him.

It's his poor choices, not my choices. It's his attitude, not my attitude. I don't blame me anymore. I blamed myself for a long, long time.”

For her own sake, Stephanie has chosen to forgive her abuser.

“I forgive him for what he's done, but I can't forgive him for who he is now,” she said.

‘I AM ENOUGH’

Stephanie knows she’s one of the lucky ones.

“I got the right help at the right time,” she said. “But the other thing too is I have very good medical coverage. I have a co-pay and I can get my medications relatively inexpensively.

A lot of people don't have access to that, and that's a crime.”

Until others get the same coverage she has, Stephanie sees it as her responsibility to advocate for other survivors of abuse — and to do what she can to prevent abusive behaviors.

For nearly 30 years, Stephanie has been involved in the Order of DeMolay International, a fraternal organization dedicated to building character and leadership skills in young men ages 12 to 21 and its sister organization, The Organization of Triangles. She uses her position there — and the respect she’s gained with the teens involved — to talk about intimate partner violence and to encourage kids to engage in healthy behaviors.

“I talk about it all the time,” Stephanie said. “They're willing to come to me and talk to me.

It's the perfect target age, and if you even get a handful of them

to listen to me, they're going to take it back to their peers.”

New York was the first state in the DeMolay organization to adopt the domestic violence awareness program, as well as a bullying and suicide awareness platform, though other states have now picked it up. It’s also the most comprehensive program in the country, requiring additional training beyond what the programs in other states do.

“With these organizations, we're trying to teach these kids to think on their own, stand on their own two feet, be independent, and just kind of guide them,” Stephanie said. “You hope that you guide them in the right way, that they'll take those lessons with them.” And in Stephanie’s experience, those lessons do stick.

“A lot of [former participants] say to me now that are adults, ‘You were right. And I listened.

And I won't put up with [abusive behavior]. I am enough,’” she said.

It’s a lesson it took Stephanie years to learn, and she hopes others in her position are able to pick up on it sooner. The only way they can, she said, is if more people are aware of what may be going on behind closed doors.

“Everybody looks the other way because ‘it's a private matter,’” she said. “But 1 in 4 women, 1 in 7 men, will experience intimate partner violence.

It’s not a private matter anymore.”

That’s why Stephanie tells her story, over and over again.

“Every victim should have the opportunity to become a survivor,” she said.SWM

Do I think about my ex-husband sometimes? Yeah, in a nightmare.

But it doesn’t consume me anymore.”— Stephanie Piston October 2019

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BRYN LOVEJOYGRINNELL VERA HOUSE ATTORNEY

If we could have a community of lawyers who all responded to people with trauma in a sensitive and thoughtful manner, it would be amazing.” — Bryn Lovejoy-Grinnell

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By Sarah Hall

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ryn Lovejoy-Grinnell is often surprised at how many people she encounters who don’t realize they’re being subjected to interpersonal abuse. “[They] came in for a divorce and they started talking and you realize, ‘What you just described is abusive,” said the family law attorney. “’I'm here for a divorce, but we're going to need to do supervised visits because my husband has hurt my kids before.’ ‘Everything has to be in writing because my partner calls me terrible names and threatens my life.’ I was just amazed at the number people who didn't even identify domestic violence as an issue.”

Bryn has always specialized in domestic violence cases, but now it makes up her entire caseload. Bryn started as Vera House’s in-house counsel last November.

Shifting the balance of power

Bryn’s position was created thanks to a five-year grant from New York State Office of Victim Services. While attorney John Cerando has provided pro bono services for other legal work (contracts, subpoenas, human resources work, etc.), Vera House has never had an attorney on staff to provide help to clients.

“What victim service agencies have been saying for a long time was, ‘We need money for an attorney,’” Bryn said. “’We have advocates, we have shelter. But what we really need is attorneys to represent our clients.’"

Some of Vera House’s clients do have access to attorneys — some have one provided through Hiscock Legal Aid or Assigned Counsel, while others can afford a private attorney. But many fall somewhere in between. “[The income qualifications for an assigned attorney are] much lower than what the people [make] who can actually afford a lawyer,” Bryn said. “If you go to a lawyer's office, they're going to ask for $2,000 for the $5,000 as a retainer fee. Someone who's making $30,000 a year doesn't have that money to put it down.”

That’s where Vera House’s Legal Project comes in. They provide representation in matters of divorce, child support, spousal support, custody, visitation, Family Court Orders of Protection and campus discipline, particularly Title IX proceedings.

Clients can connect with Bryn at any point in the legal process.

“Sometimes people come in before they've done anything, maybe before they've even left,” Bryn said. “[Or] people have already filed something on their own, and then they have a court date coming up. Maybe they've even gone to one or two court dates and they go, ‘Wait, I need a lawyer.’”

Sometimes Bryn will consult with people once to lay out their options. But she said victims especially benefit from having an attorney.

“Victims of domestic violence in particular have usually experienced emotional abuse, verbal abuse, gaslighting, being made to think that they're crazy,” she said. “They have believed their abusers’ lies.”

But having someone in their corner who has gone through the legal process before gives them back a sense of power.

“Having an attorney who can say, ‘I've been here before, and we're going to stand up to that,’” Bryn said, “that's pretty powerful.”

A better option

Bryn’s entire career has centered around working with victims of domestic violence. An Ithaca native, she graduated from Harvard University, then returned home to attend law school at Cornell.

“I worked with some fantastic mentors at the law school, who pushed me even more in the direction of public interest law and child advocacy,” she said.

Realizing that not many attorneys specialized in domestic violence, Bryn decided that was the path she wanted to follow. As it happened, just when she had passed the New York State Bar Exam and started looking for a job, her dream position became available: there was an opening at Hiscock Legal Aid in their dedicated domestic violence project.

“I completely lucked out and got my dream job from minute one,” Bryn said. “There was a great sense of community and a lot of cooperation and shared workload.”

After eight years, in order to broaden her skill set, Bryn spent two years in private practice, first at Melvin & Melvin, PLLC and then at Bousquet Holstein PLLC, to get more experience in higher income divorces. But the majority of her workload still focused on domestic violence cases.

That resume made her the obvious choice when Vera House received the grant from the Office of Victim Services.

“I’ve been here since November, but I’ve been representing domestic violence clients my whole law career,” Bryn said. “It’s really powerful to have someone come in and say, ‘I don’t have any options,’ and have them leave going, ‘I have a plan, there’s hope and I can do it.’”

Breaking the cycle, a little at a time

Bryn can’t help every victim on her own, however. Vera House contracts with a list of attorneys who also provide representation to clients. But she’s also working to help lawyers and law students better understand domestic violence.

“There's unfortunately a number of attorneys in our community who will still say things like, ‘Why didn't she leave?’ ‘What's wrong with her?’’” she said. “These things are victim-blaming and don't evince a real understanding of the dynamics of domestic violence.”

In May, Vera House hosted a training for attorneys on traumainformed legal work. Sixty lawyers attended — a full house. Bryn said the organization will host another in November, which she hopes will bring in other community members, as well.

“If we could have a community of lawyers who all responded to people with trauma in a sensitive and thoughtful manner, it would be amazing,” she said.

And, obviously, Vera House works with more that just lawyers.

“Our prevention classes are trying to talk to even with little kids — you deserve to be safe,” Bryn said. “And we're hoping for a world free of violence and abuse. That's what we're working toward every day.”

Will we ever get there?

“I hope so,” she said. “I've had the experience of working with women who said, ‘Every relationship that I've ever known was abusive.

Every woman I've known has been hurt by her male partners, and I'm going to show my kids something different.’ That’s real change, and that's how you break that cycle.” SWM Vera House’s 24-hour crisis line is (315) 468-3260. If you need an attorney, contact the Legal Project at (315) 425-0818 or email legal@verahouse.org.

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TULA GOENKA

Would Playboy ever put a woman who’s had breast cancer surgery and silicone implants because of it on the centerfold? Most of the Playmates have silicone implants, but they don’t have them for the reason that I have them.”—Tula Goenka

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ula Goenka was 44 when she got her breast diagnosis. It was 2006, and Tula, a professor in the Television, Radio and Film department at Syracuse University, said there wasn’t a lot of online support — social media had not yet taken off — and there weren’t nearly as many support groups as there are today.

“It was a very singular experience for me, I think,” Tula said.

“You know, you just sort of had it and then you sort of went on with your life.”

But a cancer diagnosis is never really that simple, and Tula’s experience was no exception. After a diagnosis, Tula explained, things move quite quickly.

“You’ve just been told you have breast cancer, and then you’re like, ‘What?!’” she recalled. “And then it’s like, ‘OK, what kind of breast cancer?’ And then it’s, ‘OK, we’ll just take out the lump.’ And that’s all they were going to do with me— they were just going to take out the lump. ‘You’ve got the best type of breast cancer’ — that’s what they told me — ‘and you’ll be fine.’”

After Tula’s lumpectomy, however, the doctors couldn’t get clean margins, so they couldn’t be certain they had removed all of the cancer.

That, coupled with the fact that her tumor was estrogen-based and could come back at any time, was enough for Tula to make the decision to have a double mastectomy.

Life marched on for Tula. A year after her surgery, she and her husband divorced. Her two children, who were quite young when Tula was diagnosed, grew up. But Tula did not put her cancer experience behind her.

“It changed my life completely, as it does anyone who’s been through it,” Tula said.

Around 2009, Tula said she walked into the lobby of the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse and saw a poster advertising an upcoming speaking event featuring Christie Hefner, then chairwoman and chief executive officer of Playboy Enterprises and daughter of the magazine’s founder, Hugh Hefner.

Tula is passionate about women’s rights, and many in the Newhouse community were curious as to how she would handle this visit.

“Different people — faculty, staff, and students came to me and said, ‘Are you going to protest?’” she said.

Tula neither attended nor protested the event, but it did impact her.

“It really got me thinking at that point,” Tula said. “Would Playboy ever put a woman who’s had breast cancer surgery and silicone implants because of it on the centerfold? Most of the Playmates have silicone implants, but they don’t have them for the reason that I have them.”

Tula realized she could use her background in television, radio and film to do something impactful for breast cancer survivors.

“I’m in a very fortunate place — I’m an activist,” she said. “I’m a filmmaker very much involved in justice and human rights issues, so now I can use my body and the bodies of others to tell the story of breast cancer survivors.”

Tula is telling that story through the Look Now Project: Facing Breast Cancer, a photography exhibition and multimedia installation. Last year, Tula launched the exhibition at the Point of Contact Gallery on West Fayette Street, where she presented portraits of 44 participants, including herself, who have survived or are living with breast cancer.

Twenty-five of the participants, including two men, were willing to take two photographs that hung next to each other in the exhibit.

In one portrait, they were fully clothed. The other was a photograph of their torso, their bare chests exposed. The other participants’ chests were also photographed, but Tula honored their request to remain anonymous. Cindy Bell, herself a breast cancer survivor, served as the project photographer.

“What we did was reclaim the centerfold,” Tula said. “Because we have 44 people who’ve been through breast cancer on it.”

The exhibit, Tula said, was just one part of a multi-layered project.

This October, she has moved on to phase two, a documentary theatre piece called Tit Bits, where a panel of people — breast cancer survivors and their families, as well as renowned plastic surgeons who specialize in breast reconstruction, will tell their stories.

Tula is working on the project with writer Nancy Keefe Rhodes, with whom Tula has previously worked, including on the catalog for Look Now, and Kyle Bass, the associate artistic director of Syracuse Stage.

Tula said she had always wanted to do a performance piece, something along the lines of Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues.

She said society has sexualized women’s breasts, and her piece is about reclaiming the word “tits,” one of the seven words that’s forbidden on broadcast television, but she also wants to help answer one important question: What does it mean to have had breast cancer?

“I really just want to break the silence of breast cancer,” Tula said, “and have people understand what a patient goes through, and for somebody who’s going through it, to provide support for them and make them aware of the different choices they have.”

Tit Bits will be held in the Joyce Hergenhan Auditorium in Newhouse 3 on Syracuse University’s campus on October 24 and 25 from 7-9 p.m., and on October 26 from 2-4 p.m. It is free to the public. SWM

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UPCOMING SWM Events Wednesday, Oct. 2

Thursday, Oct. 10

Wednesday, Oct. 2

Friday, Oct. 11

WBOC Educational Program When: 4:30 to 6:30 p.m.

Where: SKY Armory,

351 S. Clinton St., Syracuse What: “Uncover the Hidden Roadblocks to Success,” with Workplace Psychologist,

Executive Coach and Business Owner, Dr. Christine Allen.

Cost: $10 for members, $25 for non-members Info: wboconnection.org/event-3523722?CalendarViewType= 1&SelectedDate=10/11/2019 Bistro Night What: 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: SKY Armory,

351 S. Clinton St., Syracuse What: Enjoy First Wednesday's Bistro Night at SKY Armory, where we've created

a cozy, casual atmosphere to meet friends, network, and enjoy fresh

cocktails, light fare, and live music. Reservations not required.

Cost: See site for more details Info: skyarmory.com Friday, Oct. 4, Saturday, Oct. 5, and Sunday, Oct 6

Baldwinsville Ghost Walk When: 6 to 10 p.m.

Where: Baldwin Canal Square,

Delio Street, Baldwinsville What: The Ghost Walk tour stops at 8 historic Baldwinsville landmarks around the

center of the village where participants can watch as professional actors

portray ghosts from B'ville's past telling spooky stories of their own demise.

Cost: $15 Info: eventbrite.com/e/baldwinsville-ghost-walk-2019-tickets-65133082804? aff=ebdssbdestsearch Saturday, Oct. 5

Syracuse Cider and Doughnut Festival When: 3 to 9 p.m.

Where: Syracuse Suds,

320 South Clinton St., Syracuse What: Part bar hop, part sweet celebration! Featuring eight bars and restaurants,

premium hard cider and 3,000 custom doughnut creations.

Cost: $17 to $25 per person Info: eventbrite.com/e/syracuse-cider-doughnut-fest-tickets-68017844203?aff= ebdssbdestsearch Tuesday, Oct. 8

Civic Social Club meeting When: Noon Where: Barbagallo’s Restaurant,

6344 E. Molloy Road, Syracuse What: Lunch of choice is served with dessert at a cost of $20 followed by

a speaker and/or entertainment (guitarist Jerry Cali). All welcome.

Cost: $20 Info: Mary Jo Roberge at (315) 451-3203 Wednesday, Oct. 9

The Strengths of Successful Leaders When: 8:30 to 10 a.m.

Where: OneGroup Center,

706 N. Clinton St., Syracuse What: Attendees will explore the leadership profiles that lead to success and

address the unique challenges facing leaders in Upstate NY. Cost: $15 for CenterState CEO members, $25 for non-members Info: lmetot@centerstateceo.com

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2019 Speed Networking When: 8 to 10 a.m.

Where: TERACAI,

217 Lawrence Road E., North Syracuse What: Bring your business cards and be prepared to engage in small group

dialogue while building relationships with other CenterState CEO members.

Cost: $15 for CenterState CEO members, $25 for non-members Info: lmetot@centerstateceo.com Syracuse Snarl When: Doors open at 7 p.m. Show starts at 8 p.m.

Where: Landmark Theater, Syracuse What: Halloween fashion show Cost: $20 to $25 Info: CNYTIX.com Wednesday, Oct. 16

2019 Excellence in Healthcare Awards When: 5:30 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Embassy Suites by Hilton Syracuse Destiny USA,

311 Hiawatha Blvd. W., Syracuse What: This awards-recognition event will honor those individuals and/or

organizations that have a significant impact on the quality of health care

and services in our communities.

Cost: Up to $640 Info: cnybj.com/2019-excellence-in-healthcare/ Wednesday, Oct. 16

WBOC Member Connections Breakfast When: 9 to 10 a.m.

Where: Market Diner,

2100 Park St., Syracuse What: Come and learn about all the benefits available for our WBOC members.

Take this opportunity to meet other members in a small group setting.

Cost: Free to attend; just pay for breakfast Info: wboconnection.org/programs Thursday, Oct. 17

Business After Hours and Member Showcase When: 5 to 7 p.m.

Where: Athletic Apex Health Clubs, Destiny USA.

10334 Destiny USA Drive, Syracuse What: Network with business leaders at one of the newest athletic facilities

in town.

Cost: $15 for CenterState CEO members, $25 for non-members Info: bsavicki@centerstateceo.com.

Thursday, Oct. 17

Tully Hill 29th Anniversary Celebration Dinner When: 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: Tully Hill Treatment & Recovery,

5821 State Route 80, Tully What: Proceeds from the evening support the Tully Hill Foundation in

providing the best in patient care for substance use disorder treatment.

Cost: $400 and up Info: (315) 696-6114 or lflynn@tullyhill.com

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Pop-Up Dining When: 6:30-9:30 PM Where: SKY Armory,

351 S. Clinton St., Syracuse What: Each month SKY Armory hosts a Pop-up Dining with a fresh, local menu

paired with a wine brand. Come early and enjoy pre-event cocktails!

Dinner starts at 6:30 pm. This month's event will feature California's

Wagner Family Wines.

Cost: $45 Info: skyarmory.com Saturday, Oct. 19

Annual Masquerade Gala When: 6:30 p.m. to midnight Where: Embassy Suites by Hilton Syracuse Destiny USA,

311 Hiawatha Blvd. W, Syracuse What: Come out for a great cause and enjoy a glamorous evening event.

With your support Shades of Inspiration have been able to provide a

24-hour hotline, personal one-one and group support sessions,

attend doctor appointments or just to talk and be an emotional support.

Cost: $60 Info: eventbrite.com/e/annual-masquerade-gala-tickets-69310213715?aff= ebdssbdestsearch Saturday, Oct. 19, Sunday, Oct. 20, Saturday, Oct. 20, and Sunday, Oct. 27

Zoo Boo When: 10 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Where: Rosamond Gifford Zoo,

1 Conservation Place, Syracuse What: The zoo will become a kid-friendly haunt with themed treats,

creepy-crawly animal encounters, keeper talks, games, and temporary

tattoos. This “kooky not spooky” events provides Halloween fun without

fear. Wear your costumes and bring your treat bags.

Cost: $8 for members (zoo admission free; advance sale tickets available

for members only). Non-Members: $8 per child, in addition to regular

zoo admission. Non-members may only purchase tickets at the ticket

booth on Zoo Boo days.

Info: http://syracusezooevents.org/event/zoo-boo Saturday, Oct. 20

Ms. Orange Fan Luncheon When: 10:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m.

Where: The Oncenter,

800 S. State St., Syracuse What: This ladies-only event features autograph and photo opportunities with

the team and a fun player auction that gives attendees the opportunity

to sit with their favorite player or coach. Proceeds support Make-A-Wish

Central New York. All seating reservations must be made by Oct. 11.

Cost: $75 to $1,500 Info: Visit cny.wish.org, (call 315) 475-9474 or email info@cny.wish.org.

Wednesday, Oct. 23

WBOC Connections Meeting When: 9 a.m.

Where: Community Room,

225 Wilkinson St. Syracuse What: Hosted by a WBOC member, Connections are open to members

only. The hostess describes her business in a Spotlight during

the monthly Educational Program.

Cost: Free Info: wboconnection.org/programs

Wednesday, Oct. 23

Disability Mentoring Day When: 7:40 a.m. to 2:30 p.m.

Where: Pascale's Catering @ Drumlins Country Club,

800 Nottingham Road, Syracuse What: Disability Mentoring Day is an international event under the umbrella of

the American Association of People with Disabilities in collaboration with

the Office of Disability Employment Policy.

Cost: Free Info: eventbrite.com/e/disability-mentoring-day-syracuse-tickets 70044824957?aff=ebdssbdestsearch Friday, Oct. 25

NightLAB: Elements of [Fe][Ar] When: 6 to 9 p.m.

Where: The MOST,

500 S. Franklin St., Syracuse What: Join us for an evening exploring chemistry, from crazy concoctions to the

brain chemistry that causes you to fear heights, spiders, snakes and more.

Costumes highly encouraged — prizes will be awarded! Must be 18+ to

attend with valid ID. Cost: $12 for MOST members; $15 for nonmembers Info: most.org/learn/nightlab/ Saturday, Oct. 26

Syracuse Catholic Women’s Conference When: 7:30 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Where: The Oncenter,

800 S. State St., Syracuse What: Join with women across the diocese to hear wonderful speakers, be inspired,

pray, visit diocesan tables and vendors, enjoy a meal with your sisters in Christ.

Cost: $55 to $70 Info: eventbrite.com/e/syracuse-catholic-womens-conference-2019-tickets 68208749205?aff=ebdssbdestsearch Monday, Oct. 28

Sustainable Energy Expo When: 8 a.m. to 5:30 p.m.

Where: Sheraton Syracuse University Hotel & Conference Center,

801 University Ave., Syracuse What: A professional business event designed to provide engineers, contractors,

developers, architects, energy consultants, bankers and others involved in

the building trade an opportunity to learn about the latest advances in

non-fossil fuel energy solutions and how they can be integrated into new

and existing building projects.

Cost: $75 Info: sustainableenergyexpo.org/attendee Tuesday, Oct. 29

2019 Economic Champions Luncheon When: Noon to 1:30 p.m.

Where: The Oncenter,

800 S. State St., Syracuse What: Each year this event celebrates the region’s outstanding businesses and

organizations as Economic Champions. Nominations for 2019 are open!

Please submit by Oct. 4.

Cost: Member ticket : $65 per person; Member Table of 10: $650.

Non-Member: $75 per person; Non-Member Table of 10: $750 Info: lmetot@centerstateceo.com Tuesday, Oct. 29

"No Tricks, Just Treats" Kids Halloween Bash When: 5:30 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: 5996 E. Molloy Road, Syracuse What: Bring your little ones dressed up in costume for a fun,

safe, indoor Halloween bash. Moms and dads get in free.

Cost: $10 per kid Info: eventbrite.com/e/no-tricks-just-treats-kids-halloween bash-tickets-71532859709?aff=ebdssbdestsearch

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movers AND Shakers Syracuse resident chosen as 2019 WellCare Grand Champion of Central and Western New York

American Heart Association announces first Go Red for Women Lifestyle Change Award

Do you know someone who has made changes to live a hearthealthy life? The American Heart Association is working to celebrate individuals who have made a positive impact on their health with the Lifestyle Change Award.

The Lifestyle Change Award, sponsored by Wegmans, honors someone who has made significant, positive changes in an effort to live a longer and healthier life.

Nominations can be submitted by friends, co-workers or relatives.

Individuals can also choose to nominate themselves. Nominations are due by Friday, Oct. 4.

The winner will be chosen based on criteria including physical activity, eating habits, managing heart-related risk factors, lifestyle change and impact on others.

The winner will then be recognized at the Go Red for Women Luncheon on Oct. 24 at the Nicholas J. Pirro Oncenter Convention Center.

The nomination form can be requested by emailing GoRedSyracuse@heart.org or calling Go Red for Women Director Trina Tardone at (716) 713-3066. Completed nominations can be emailed to GoRedSyracuse@heart.org, or printed versions may be mailed to: Attn: Go Red for Women American Heart Association 2 Clinton Square, Suite 305 Syracuse, NY 13202 Go Red for Women is nationally sponsored by CVS Health and locally sponsored by Life is Why sponsor St. Joseph’s Health and Lifestyle Change Award sponsor Wegmans.

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WellCare Health Plans, Inc., a local Medicare Advantage health plan, announced Barb Genton of Syracuse as its 2019 Grand Champion of Central and Western New York at the New York State Fair. WellCare created the competition five years ago to honor individuals who help older adults in western and central New York live better, healthier lives.

Genton was presented with $10,000 for the charity of her choice, SAGE Upstate, an organization that promotes the well-being of older gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people and allies in central New York. She was the chosen as the Grand Champion after the community voted on five WellCare Champion finalists.

Genton, a breast cancer survivor and an advocate for the LGBTQ community, has encouraged countless older adults to live their most genuine lives. Her work as a leader and volunteer for SAGE Upstate has allowed the group to expand from one small office to their current location, which holds as many as 30 programs each month focused on health and wellness programming, support groups, social activities and education for healthcare providers about the needs of older LGBTQ people. Genton also has been an active volunteer with the Susan G. Komen Foundation since and before her own diagnosis.

WellCare Champions are CNY residents who are examples of how one person can make a difference in the lives of older adults.

The Champions program complements WellCare’s commitment to making a difference in communities by honoring individuals who share WellCare’s goals of improving the quality of life and maximizing access to services for seniors and people with Medicare.

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