Sexceptional: Teen Guide to Abstinence

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Sexceptional ! The Ultimate & Essential Teen Guide to Abstinence By Chike Akua

www.MyTeacherTransformation.com

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Other Books & DVDs By Chike Akua Words of Power, Volume 2: Centering Ourselves for Success (2020) Honoring Our Ancestral Obligations: 7 Steps to Black Student Success (2017) Education for Transformation: The Keys to Releasing the Genius of African American Students (2012) Sexceptional: The Ultimate & Essential Teen Guide to Abstinence (2012) Reading Revolution: Reconnecting the Roots (with Tavares Stephens) (2006) Words of Power, Volume 1: Ancient Insights & Modern Messages for Parents, Teachers, and Students (2005) A Kwanzaa Awakening: Lessons for the Community (4th Edition) (2004) The African Origins of Our Faith (2004) A Treasure Within: Stories of Remembrance & Rediscovery (2001) A Treasure Within: Parent/Teacher Resource Guide (2001)

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*To the Reader It is not by chance that this book has come into your possession. What you are about to read will transform your life in every way. Read and be wise, then share it with a friend.

*A scroll is a symbol of ancient wisdom. In ancient times. African scribes would write their scientific discoveries and deep knowledge on papyrus scrolls. These scrolls contained the wisdom of the ages and many still exist today. Also in ancient times, the symbol of the Udjat (Third Eye) represented deep insight. Every time you see a scroll and Udjat in this book, it contains deep wisdom and insight for you to pause and think about.

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Dedication To Rev. Christopher T. Johnson and Dr. Wayne E. Evans The two of you are treasured friends who walked with me through the challenges of living a life of abstinence before marriage. I am eternally grateful for your friendship, wise counsel, and deep insight. To my sons, Jahbari Joseph Akua and Amari Elijah Akua; Read and be wise. “Be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” You are being prepared for a mighty mission and a powerful purpose for the resurrection of African people and the redemption of humanity. The information contained in this book is a critical part of your preparation. To Willette E. Akua, my dedicated, loving, and supportive, wife of eighteen years. I am eternally grateful for your love and support from the very beginning and through the years. To Yvonne Matthews, J. Michael Washington, and Adrian Hendricks whose transformative work with young people is most inspiring.

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“Sharpen your eye and tune your ear, so you know what you see and understand what you hear.”

-Listervelt Middleton, Poet “On the Origin of Things”

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Table of Contents 8 Introduction 13 Chapter 1: Challenges and Choices 23 Chapter 2: What is Sex?: What Most Adults Will Never Tell You 29 Chapter 3 Ancient African Traditional Views on Sex 36 Chapter 4: Straight Up Lies! 41 Chapter 5: Daily Decisions, Daily Disciplines & Your Destiny 52 Chapter 6: A Message to Young Brothers 62 Words of Wisdom Treasure Hunt (Ch. 1-6) 63 Sexceptional Word Search 1 64 Chapter 7: A Message to Young Sisters 75 Chapter 8: How Images Influence Actions 82 Chapter 9: This Chapter Will Change your Life! 90 Chapter 10: This Chapter Will Change the Way You Look at Things 97 Chapter 11: The Civil War Within 106 Chapter 12: 7 Ways to Sublimate Sexual Energy 111 Chapter 13: A Final Word: The Leaders Emerge 116 Words of Wisdom Treasure Hunt (Ch. 7-13) 117 Sexceptional Word Search 2 118

Recommended Reading

119

About the Author

121

Other Materials From Imani Enterprises

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Introduction Congratulations! If you are reading this, it is because you have made the decision to consider abstaining from sexual activity until you are married or you are at least considering sexual abstinence as an option. Or you are a program director, teacher or counselor who wants to share this with young people. In my humble opinion, there are not enough young people who know that abstinence is a viable choice. The title is Sexceptional. Sexceptional is an adjective that describes “one who is willing to undertake the discipline, devotion, and determination to abstain from sexual activity until marriage.” It takes an exceptional person because there are many weapons of mass distraction and weapons of mass deception. We hear a lot about safe sex, but abstinence is, hands down, the safest alternative. But when abstinence is mentioned, oftentimes, young people are not given the tools to make abstinence work. This book is a tool box of insights and strategies. This book is, more than anything, about decisions and choices. It is a book I have intended to write for a long time because of a great deal of misinformation that young people receive and societal influences that cause confusion and lead to poor choices. This book is very user-friendly an is purposely written in a conversational voice. Each chapter concludes with questions for thought, reflection, and discussion and other activities designed to increase awareness, understanding and application of concepts so that the reader.is equipped to make informed decisions. XIIIIXIIIIXIIIIXIIIIX

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In addition, Sexceptional is culturally contextualized in its language, logic, and examples. This engages the reader at a deeper level than books that do not speak to the environment and experiences of the potential reader. The Missouri Department of Health’s guidelines were helpful in framing the structure of this book. As such, this book will demonstrate the following eight points: 1. That there are social, psychological, and health gains to be realized by abstaining from sexual activity 2. That abstinence from sexual activity outside of marriage is the expected standard for all school age children. 3. That abstinence from sexual activity is the only certain way to avoid out-of-wedlock pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and other associated health problems. 4. That a mutually faithful, monogamous relationship in the context of marriage is the expected standard of human sexual activity. 5. That sexual activity outside of the context of marriage is likely to have harmful consequences for the child, the child’s parents, and society. 6. That sexual activity outside of the context of marriage is likely to have harmful psychological and physical effects. 7. Th t alcohol and drug use increases vulnerability to sexual advances and how to reject such advances. XIIIIXIIIIXIIIIXIIIIX

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8. That attaining self-sufficiency before engaging in sexual activity is paramount. I am deeply indebted to two very dear friends: Dr. Wayne E. Evans and Rev. Christopher T. Johnson. These are two friends who walked with me during my college years when I struggled with whether to maintain abstinence. They are two of the most powerful men I know who have demonstrated discipline, devotion, and determination in so many ways. Their lives are a fruitful testament to their exceptional commitment to high standards and traditional values. As you read this, I hope you will surround yourself with like-minded friends of high character and conviction, discipline, devotion, and determination.

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sexceptional /seks sepshun al/ (adj.): a word describing one who undertakes the discipline, devotion, and determination to abstain from sexual activity until marriage.

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“Daily decisions and daily disciplines determine your destiny.” -Chike Akua

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Chapter 1 Challenges & Choices

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