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ON THE WAY Amendment 3: Bad for everyone but the abortion business Page 4

TO SERVE AND LIF T Generations of grace: Debutantes leading a new era of service Page 20

MINISTERIO HISPANO ¡Política en la mesa festiva: ¡Una guía para conversaciones caritativas!

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Radical solidarity

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ON THE COVER: The Blessed Mother and Infant Jesus statue at the corner of Broadway and 12th Street in Kansas City is the newest feature of an upgraded downtown presence for the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception. Photo

by Christine Alvey.

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COVER STORY Radical solidarity | Karen Ridder

October is Respect Life Month, when we look to radical solidarity to improve life for all people through personal connections.

Melissa Ohden, founder of Abortion Survivors Network; Dr. John Morris, professor of philosophy at Rockhurst University and director of the diocesan Catholic Healthcare Office; and Edie Ferrara and Mary Purnell, leaders of the Life, Mercy and Love group at St. Andrew Parish in Gladstone are all examples of radical solidarity at work in our local Church.

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On the Way | Amendment 3: Bad for everyone but the abortion business | Bishop James

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St. Mary Parish celebrates 133rd Fall Festival | Sara Kraft St. Mary Parish in St. Joseph quite likely has the longest-running festival in the Diocese of Kansas CitySt. Joseph.

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To Serve and Lift | Generations of grace | Jody Breuer Debutantes are leading a new era of service through Catholic Charities’ Our Lady of Hope Society.

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Kansas City’s oldest Catholic hospital celebrates 150 years | Marty Denzer St. Joseph Medical Center, founded in Kansas City by three Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet in 1874 and the first private hospital west of the Mississippi River, is celebrating its sesquicentennial.

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Remembering together | Allison Vrooman

In the fall of 2023, Julie Gardner was seeking a support group specifically for parents who have lost a child to suicide. Rather than joining an already established group, she was encouraged to start one.

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¡Política en la Mesa Festiva: ¡Una Guía Para Conversaciones Caritativas! | Por Leyden Rovelo-Krull

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En el Camino | Enmienda 3: Malo para todos menos para el negocio del aborto | Por Obispo Johnston

Johnston

If approved, this constitutional amendment will establish in our state the most absolute and extreme right to abortion.

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House of God | St. Mary Parish, Nevada | Ashlie Hand

and Kathryn White

For 125 years, St. Mary Parish has served and connected the community of Nevada. The parish will unveil a complete renovation of their church as they celebrate this milestone anniversary.

The Cathedral of the I mmacul ate Conc ep ti o n has been challenged with a $1 million matching grant for church renovations. The parish has collected nearly half of this amount, with a deadline of Dec. 31.

Please go to the QR code to make a pledge or cash gift matched dollar-for-dollar.

As hl ie Hand

Karen Ridder

Allison Vro o ma n

J o dy Bre u e r

Ma rt y D e n z e r

Sara Kraft

leads the Office of Communications for the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph

is a Catholic journalist, wife and mother of four in Liberty, Missouri.

is the communications specialist for the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph.

is the senior director of development for Catholic Charities KCSJ.

is a long-time writer in residence for the Catholic Key.

is a freelance writer in St. Joseph, Missouri.

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AMENDMENT 3:

Bad for everyone but the abortion business

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F ro m t h e Bi s h o p Bishop James V. Johnston, Jr. is the seventh bishop of the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph

Imagine going to the hospital for a common but serious surgery like having an appendectomy, a knee replacement, or a colonoscopy. Prior to the procedure, the hospital staff meets with you and asks you to sign a form which permits any health care worker at the hospital to perform the surgery. This would include one of the nurses or a physician’s assistant, or the pharmacist. Along with this, they ask you to release the hospital and whoever does the procedure from any liability if things go wrong for any reason, including negligence or incompetence. With your signature, you and your family would release those involved in the procedure from any lawsuit that could arise and any criminal prosecution, even in the event of your death. In such a moment, you would likely leap out of your chair and tell the hospital staff that they are out of their mind.

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Now imagine that you are a parent, and someone informs you that this can be done to your child without any notification or your consent. In other words, your child without your knowledge could have a serious surgical procedure done by someone other than a trained doctor without any fear of liability or prosecution.

If this scenario sounds outlandish, then I introduce you to Amendment 3, which will be on the ballot Nov. 5 in Missouri.

If approved, this constitutional amendment will establish in our state the most absolute and extreme right to abortion. In effect, Missourians will greatly limit their ability to regulate abortion and it will be very difficult to hold the abortion industry and Planned Parenthood responsible for medical negligence.

If the amendment is approved, we will intentionally tie our hands and give extensive freedom to the abortion industry and open the door to force us as taxpayers to pay for abortions, as they are doing to the residents of Michigan, who approved a similar proposal.

Amendment 3, as it will appear on the ballot, is deceptively written. What voters will see is an intentionally worded few sentences which benignly describe the referendum as an approval of “reproductive rights” as protected by the state. The actual text of the amendment reveals what is really at stake: it is a “Trojan horse” meant to eliminate other important rights.

Rights which, if surrendered, will be difficult to get back.

These are just the issues which affect parents, adolescent girls, women and every

resident of Missouri. The impact this would have on preborn children, who will be vulnerable to abortion all the way up to birth, including when they can experience pain, is ever more profound.

It is essential that we pray and work fervently for the defeat of Amendment 3. Plead with God to save our state from this disaster. Invoke the intercession of the Blessed Mother, especially through the power of the Holy Rosary during this month of the Rosary.

Ask our diocesan patron, Saint Joseph, for his help and intercession, too. Among his greatest acts was the defense of the infant Christ from the wicked and murderous King Herod, and we surely face another “Herod” this November.

I urge you to vote “no” on Amendment 3 and tell as many others as possible about what is at stake. October is Respect Life Month. This year it takes on an even greater importance for us all.

Visit lifeandjusticekcsj.org/ missouriproabortionballot for links to more information and resources to share with others.

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The Rosary,

BY M ART Y DENZ ER

The word “Rosary” comes from the Latin “rosarium,” meaning rose garden or garland of roses. Roses became associated with Mary during the Middle Ages, and that association strengthened over the years.

The names of two parishes in this diocese honor the Rosary: Holy Rosary Parish in Kansas City and Holy Rosary Parish in Clinton.

Dr. Bob Sexauer has attended Holy Rosary Parish in Clinton since 1985. He credits his Marian devotion partly to a Sister of St. Mary at St. Mary’s Hospital

During 40 years of teaching eighth grade religion at St. Agnes School in Roeland Park, Kansas, she tried to pass on love of the Rosary to her students.

Striving to set an example for them to “live close to Mary through the Rosary,” increased her devotion.

“The Rosary should be a personal, comforting connection with Mary and her Son, Jesus,” she said.

in St. Louis who prayed in the chapel for his mother and for him during his birth.

Bob treasures memories of praying the Rosary in Rome during a papal audience with Pope St. John Paul II, and praying the Rosary at Fatima. “I consider Fatima a highlight of my spiritual experience,” he said.

At Holy Rosary Parish in Kansas City, Julie Copenhaver’s first memories of the Rosary were of her grandmothers and aunts praying before Mass and around bedtime.

Find more Rosary devotions at catholickey.org.

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A G A R LA N D OF PRAY ERS TO MA RY

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very Nov. 2, we pause for a special day. We gath-

The Catechism of the Catholic Church, in paragraph 1032, says, “From the beginning the Church has honored the memory of the dead

Souls in purgatory can’t pray for themselves; they need our help.

This reflects the Church's belief in the communion of saints, emphasizing the connection between the living and the deceased. On All Souls’ Day, we especially remember that our loved ones might still need our prayers. We’re called to pray not out of fear but out of hope — hope that our prayers make a difference, easing their suffering, even if just a little.

All Souls’ Day also reminds us of our own mortality. One day, we, too, will face death. While this thought might be unsettling, it’s not

and offered prayers in suffrage for them, above all the Eucharistic sacrifice, so that, thus purified, they may attain the beatific vision of God. The Church also commends almsgiving, indulgences, and works of penance undertaken on behalf of the dead.”

At its heart, All Souls’ Day is about love. Love for those who have gone before us, love that crosses the boundary of death. The theological foundation of All Souls' Day is rooted in the belief that souls who die with venial sins or without full atonement for their transgressions are not yet able to enter heaven.

The Catechism (1032) references 2 Maccabees 12:46. When Judas Maccabeus found out soldiers killed in a recent battle were praying to pagan gods, he offered sacrifices in the Jerusalem Temple to atone for their sins after their deaths. This is how we understand that the faithful on earth can assist those souls still in need of purgation through prayers, almsgiving and particularly through the sacrifice of the Mass.

morbid. Instead, it’s a call to live with purpose, cherish our time and strive for holiness. Praying for the dead reminds us that this life is preparation for the next. We’re all on a journey, and All Souls’ Day invites us to reflect on that.

All Souls’ Day is about connection — the bond between the living and the dead, which isn’t severed by death. It’s about love, hope and the power of prayer. We celebrate because we believe in a merciful God who hears our prayers.

All Souls’ Day is our chance to Ma rc C a rda r o n e lla help, love and pray. It’s a day of comis the director of the passion, remembrance and hope.

Office of Catechesis and Let’s embrace it, knowing our prayers Faith Formation. can light the way to heaven.

er to remember, to pray and to hope. This is All

Souls’ Day, a time dedicated to praying for the souls of the faithful departed. But what’s the deeper meaning behind this celebration?

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House of God

By A s h l i e H a n d P h o t o s by K at h ry n W h i t e

St. Mary Parish, Nevada

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or 125 years, St. Mary Parish has served and connected the community of Nevada. The parish will unveil an impressive refresh of their church as they celebrate this milestone anniversary on Saturday, Oct. 19.

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St. Mary’s Parish church is built in the Gothic style, evidenced by the arches found in the brick exterior, which are now also mirrored by these newly painted features inside the church. The pressed tin ceiling is original to the church’s 1899 design and the tiles were manufactured by the locally based W.F. Norman Corporation, which continues to manufacture using the same process it started in 1898.

The church’s stained-glass window frames received a fresh coat of paint for a more dramatic outline against the warm neutral color of the walls. The windows were restored in the early 1980s

by Gamin Glass, which included protective plexiglass coating on the exterior of the windows.

Additional upgrades to the interior of St. Mary’s includes gold accents, the addition of symbols such as the Alpha and Omega on either side of the altar and dark outlines of the arch, window frames and molding to create more definition of specific design features.

Vivian Habjan (left), a longtime parishioner of St. Mary Parish, and Ecclesiastical Studios and Sons owner Don Wendt (right), inspect the freshly painted altar as the artisan team prepares to move it back into place at the front of the church.

Prior to the restoration, the inside of St. Mary Parish was primarily white.

With the newly painted details, certain elements are now more easily identified, such as the cross shape embedded into the stamped tin ceiling. View more before and after photos at facebook.com/ ESSKCMO. Photo by Ecclesiastical Studios and Sons

The new paint details include many Marian symbols such as the color blue and star shapes as seen in the updated apse at the front of the church. The chalice and host symbol was previously embedded into the front of the ambo; it was removed so it could reside above the altar.

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he vast majority of the more than 1.5 million people employed in the Kansas City and St. Joseph metropolitan areas work in secular industries. How is faith expressed by devoted Catholics working in our area banks, law firms, doctors’ offices, restaurants, farms or auto plants? This is “Faith at work.”

Tristan Ott Industrial leasing manager, NorthPoint Development Tristan was born into a Catholic family, regularly attended Sunday Mass and went to a local Catholic grade school and high school. He says he really embraced his faith as his own shortly after beginning engineering school at Missouri S&T. Through the grace of God manifested by amazing friends and a thriving, faithful Newman Center, he emphatically chose the lifelong journey to conform his life wholly to the Lord.

Is your Catholic Faith part of your professional identity, either publicly or privately ?

I have become known throughout my office as someone from whom people can request prayer intentions and ask questions about God and the Catholic Church. Occasionally, the Lord will put encounters in front of me in which I get the opportunity to present the Faith to my colleagues, which is an honor I strive to make myself worthy of!

W h at are som e pra c tic a l ways th at yo u i n c orp orate p raye r in to yo u r w o rkd ay ?

Before I arrive at the office, or check my email, I prioritize time for mental prayer, as without it, I would be without the rock which keeps my whole life steady! I make time each morning before work for a Holy Hour or daily Mass (ideally both), pray a daily rosary and try to offer up countless aspirations throughout the workday to maintain my interior conversation with Christ. I pray before I eat at the common lunch table and keep a crucifix hanging above my computer monitors to remind myself what is most important.

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Is there a Bible verse, Scripture st o r y, p raye r, s p i r i t u a l i t e m o r quote that you carry with you?

For years now, I've worn a scapular that constantly reminds me of my Faith. I always carry a Bible and a crucifix in my briefcase, which serve as exterior landmarks of the Faith for me whenever I am traveling. In addition, I've added a quote from Saint Thérèse of Lisieux to my email signature that reminds me that I live in anticipation of the Divine embrace that awaits me in heaven: "The world’s thy ship, not thy home.”

W h at is you r g o-to C at h olic /Ch r ist ia n / fa i t h b a s e d p od c a st , a p p, ra d io p rog ra m or st at i o n ?

Matt Fradd's "Pints With Aquinas" was suggested to me in early college, and I've been hooked ever since!

Tristan and his wife are members of Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish, where their first son was baptized last year and their next son will be baptized after he is born in early December.

R ead more from our c onver sation with Trista n at catho lickey .org.

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St. Mary’s 133rd annual

Fall Festival

By S a r a Kraft

“Everyone looks forward to it,” explains St. Mary parishioner Kay Currier. “It’s in our blood.”

On Saturday, Nov. 2, St. Mary Parish in St. Joseph will hold their 133rd annual Fall Festival. The festival will be held from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. in the Parish Hall. The first festival was held in 1891 and quite likely is the longest-running festival in the Diocese of Kansas CitySt. Joseph, and today is cherished by its 125 registered families.

In 1891, St. Mary’s held a fair from Sept. 28 to Oct. 3. The goal was to help pay for a combined church, school and rectory building.

The original property consisted of seven city lots. When purchased, there was no sewage service or electric lights available, and water had to be piped several hundred feet to be brought into the church.

“The excellent coffee which forms a feature of the dinners at St. Mary’s Fair is alone worth the price charged for the excellent meal,” boasted The Catholic Tribune newspaper on Oct. 3, 1891. There were cigars, ice cream and lemonade. Admission was 25 cents. The first Fall Festival raised $1,870, which is the equivalent of $64,636 in today’s dollars. This paid for approximately a third of the cost of the original building. The current church was built in 1912.

St. Mary’s Fall Festival Chairpersons Amy Drake and Marilyn Willis credit the success and longevity of the Fall Festival to the dedication of the St. Mary’s parishioners, both in volunteering and financial support. They also believe getting children involved continues to inspire the next generation to support the festival. There are games for the children, a silent and live auction, an Altar Society Country Store with homemade items, a quilt raffle and more.

The highlight of the event is a delicious dinner of chili, soup and hot dogs cooked by Knights of Columbus Council 571. Chili has been served as long as anyone can remember – since at least 1958, and the parish has updated offerings as tastes have changed.

The festival is specifically designed to be family-friendly and promote fellowship in addition to raising funds. Each year, a specific project is determined. This year, the parish is raising money for a parish kitchen remodel. In recent years, they have also raised money for repairs of stained-glass windows, the roof, a sacristy remodel and the bell tower.

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Radical solidarity STORY, CARE A ND E DUCATIO N LE AD TH E M ISSION TO C O N N ECT PE OPL E IN A RE SP E C T FO R LI FE AT AL L STAGE S

By K ar en R idder

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O C TO B ER I S R E S PEC T LI FE M O N TH, A TI M E W HEN W E LO O K TO R AD I C AL S O LI DAR I T Y TO I M PR OVE LI FE FO R ALL PEO PLE THR O UG H PER S O N AL C O N N EC TI O N S .

In our diocese, help is available at all stages of life from conception to natural death. The Office of Life & Justice addresses issues as wide as economic justice, immigration, mental health, the fight against assisted suicide, elder care and all issues related to birth, maternal care and the start of life.

Melissa Ohden, founder of Abortion Survivors Network. Photo provided

by Office of Life and Justice.

This theme recognizes the need for community and connection many people face in every stage of life. Debbie Sheppard, director of the diocesan Office of Life & Justice, confirms they often see the effects of this challenge.

“People suffer on their own in the darkness rather than coming to their church. These days, you can stay anonymous and get anything you want through your cell phone from complete strangers.

I wish more people asked for help from the people who love them the most,” said Sheppard.

The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops is encouraging Catholics to consider how to change that narrative. Locally, there are many ways members of our diocese are already answering this call.

SOLI DARI T Y THROUGH STORY “Every single one of us makes a difference in listening to someone’s story,” said Melissa Ohden, founder of Abortion Survivors Network (abortionsurvivors.org).

As an infant, Ohden survived a saline abortion attempt because doctors underestimated her real gestational age, and a kind nurse refused to let her die.

As she learned and then began to understand and embrace her life experience, she realized there were few resources for people like her, their families and biological mothers.

As Ohden began to share her own story more broadly, people would often tell her privately they too were survivors of abortion. Most felt very alone.

“It’s not something we talk about very much in this country. Most families don’t know there are other people who have experienced this,” said Ohden.

In 2019, Ohden founded Abortion Survivors Network — based in North Kansas City. The organization gives people living as survivors of failed abortions the resources to help overcome much of the trauma and shame associated with this identity.

“It [trauma] tends to be emotional, mental and spiritual. It comes from a place of being rejected. Babies in the womb experience the trauma their mothers go through. Survivors often experience it even if they don’t know their story,” said Ohden.

Abortion Survivors Network offers two staff social workers, online communities and other resources to help people understand and tell their own stories. They support biological moms, survivors and families of survivors.

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c ov e r s to ry The chapel at St. Mary’s Medical Center in Blue Springs. Photo by Ashlie Hand.

“It is transformative. I think people would be surprised how many [survivors of abortion] don’t have anyone to talk to and need support. Little moments people take for granted are the biggest change makers. That is radical solidarity,” said Ohden.

Dr. John Morris, director of the Office of Catholic Healthcare.

Photo by Allison Vrooman.

SOLI DARI T Y I N CARE Catholic health care is still Catholic in Kansas City. That’s the number one message Dr. John Morris works for and wants people to understand.

“Catholic health care started out of the earliest days of Jesus and the disciples healing people. We continue in that tradition,” said Morris.

As a professor of philosophy at Rockhurst University, Morris has a special expertise in bioethics. He studied the area because he saw many of the Church’s moral positions were under attack when he was in college.

“I saw bioethics as an avenue in which I could help the Church,” said Morris.

A decade ago, Prime Healthcare Services purchased both St. Joseph’s Medical Center and St Mary’s Medical Center. As a condition of the sale, then-Bishop Finn required a contractual promise the hospitals would remain true to their Catholic roots.

It has been Morris’ job since then to help ensure this solidarity.

Morris became a liaison between the hospitals and the diocese on medical ethics issues in his role as the director of the Office of Catholic Healthcare for the diocese. Officially, he represents Bishop Johnston on the hospital governing board and makes sure the health care offered at the hospitals stays distinctly Catholic.

Morris says people are often surprised at the kind, positive relationship the diocese and the bishop have with the hospitals in all aspects of life care. An example of that care is the annual pastoral visits Morris initiated with Bishop Johnston to the hospitals. Morris believes these visits are part of what has created a stronger solidarity between these two Kansas City hospitals and the diocese.

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“Sometimes, when Catholic hospitals get bought by non-Catholic entities, they keep the name but start doing stuff that’s not Catholic.

It’s a scandal to the community. It causes doubt. I try to tell people, here in Kansas City it’s different. I am there. These hospitals are authentically Catholic and trying to carry on the legacy of the founding sisters,” said Morris.

Both hospitals have a senior care focus which naturally includes end-of-life issues. Morris makes sure patients can connect with Catholic Hospice and chaplains are on hand to provide pastoral care and anointings.

“Much of health care is science first. We focus on helping people in need first. We are holistic in that approach. Our mission is to always care even when we can’t cure. Everyone in the hospital is a minister.

We are here to minister to people in need,” said Morris.

S O L I DA R I T Y T HR O UGH E DUCAT ION Radical solidarity that supports life must be solidly supported in the local parish. That’s the belief of Edie Ferrara and Mary Purnell, who lead the Life, Mercy and Love group at St. Andrew Parish in Gladstone.

Both women have been involved in respect life issues and initiatives for decades. They changed the name of the Respect Life group at their parish to “Life, Mercy and Love” a few years ago because they wanted to make sure people know a respect for life encompasses all life ages and stages.

“We wanted to emphasize the fact that protecting life is from womb to tomb,” said Ferrara.

The women work primarily to educate. Purnell offers a weekly informational article for the church bulletin.

Ferrara started an education day for eighth graders in the Northland to learn more about Right to Life issues.

They also regularly have education days at the parish.

“I’m really happy to say our group is growing. When I started a few years ago, we had six. Now, we have 26. A lot of the new people are worker bees with phenomenal ideas,” said Purnell.

The group has also experienced the importance of embracing radical solidarity on the ground level. They had the opportunity to respond to a parishoner’s call for helping a young co-worker considering an abortion. They agreed to pay the mother’s medical bills. She chose birth and adoption instead of abortion.

“We helped save a life. It makes you work harder to know you actually experienced the result of what you were working toward,” said Ferrera.

WHAT ABOUT I VF ?

Many married couples who eagerly desire to have children struggle with infertility. Some are tempted to turn to in vitro fertilization (IVF), which involves bringing egg and sperm together outside the womb. The Church teaches that this method of reproduction is immoral because it separates the procreation of the new human life from the unitive embrace of the parents. In addition to being expensive, IVF often generates “surplus” embryos which end up being preserved and, in many cases, destroyed.

The Church encourages medical professionals to assist couples by using ethical means of helping them conceive, many of which are more effective and have a higher success rate than IVF. For more information about local resources that can provide ethical means of helping couples conceive, please contact the FertilityCare™ Center of Kansas City at fertilitycarekc.com.

“We helped saved a life.

It makes you work harder to know you actually experienced the result of what you were working toward.”

Edie Farrara (l) and Mary Purnell (r), leaders of the Life, Mercy and Love ministry at St. Andrew Parish in Gladstone. Photo

by Ashlie Hand.

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Longevity

Is there a recipe for long-lasting marriage?

Each year, our diocese celebrates golden wedding anniversaries.

An average of about 100 couples observe this achievement with Mass at the Cathedral, including a special blessing from Bishop Johnston. Fifty years are no small feat. This is a significant achievement, as it requires years of effort to remain faithful to the commitment and covenant of marriage.

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by Dino Duran d o, Director of the Office of the Domestic Church and Discipleship Fittingly, the grace of the sacrament of marriage works precisely to this effect. “This grace proper to the sacrament of Matrimony is intended to perfect the couple’s love and to strengthen their indissoluble unity … Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another’s burdens, to ‘be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ’ and to love one another with supernatural, tender and fruitful love.” (CCC 1641-42) This grace accompanies a new model for marriage described by Saint Paul in Ephesians 5 where he introduces the revolution that Christianity brings to the institution of marriage. Husbands and wives are to submit to one another “out of reverence for Christ.”

Meaning they live for each other in service, laying down their lives for one another after the model

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instructive. For those seeking longevity, do the opposite. Live your commitment, be faithful and resolve differences with respect and grace.

Marriage is a risk and it takes both spouses’ effort and cooperation with grace to make it last.

Counseling and other support from the community is often needed. The sacrament comes with a promise that God will be faithful as well. It comes with a promise that God will be faithful as well. This covenant reality of marriage means that God has promised to provide the grace and means for each Christian marriage to last “until death.”

Fifty years (or more) is possible with grace (God’s part) and the dedication and fidelity of the spouses.

Photo by Allison Vrooman

When we hear about people celebrating 50 or more years of marriage, it is common to hear people say things like, “They got lucky,” or “That’s because they are soulmates.” A recent national survey found that more than 90 percent of single young adults look to marry their soulmate.

Psychologist Scott Stanley observes, “(A) soulmate is someone for whom you would not have to make major compromises,” with the expectation that “your soulmate will make you feel happy” and will be “easy to love.” This is a completely unrealistic and even inhuman way of looking at the relationship of marriage. And this soulmate approach frequently leads to disastrous results.

The State of Our Unions Survey (2022) found “that husbands and wives across America following the soulmate model were twice as likely to divorce in the near future, compared to those following the family-first model.” What is this family-first model? It is the view that marriage is more than merely a romantic arrangement, it is a shared mission to raise children together. This approach is founded upon the approach to marriage as service towards the other. Spouse, children, even grandchildren come before oneself in this approach, which requires self-donation, fidelity, sacrifice and forgiveness.

and pattern of Christ’s life. This is a radically new way to live marriage, and it is only possible with the help of grace.

In recent years, it has become less common for marriages to last a lifetime. While the divorce rate has frequently been cited at 50 percent, it has never really been that high. That figure came from an estimate from the 1970s and the rate only got to 40 percent in the 1990s. The rate is much lower today, and is even lower among those with religious conviction.

The three most common reasons for divorce today (cited as reasons when filing) include “lack of commitment” (75 percent), “infidelity” (60 percent) and “arguing and excess conflict (58 percent). This list is highly

Dino Durando is the director of the Office of the Domestic Church and Discipleship. He and his wife Cathy have been married for 26 years and have 10 children and one grandchild.

WHAT WOULD AMENDMENT 3 ACTUALLY DO? the facts

1. Put women at risk 2. Prohibit any regulation of abortion 3. Shield negligent health care professionals 4. Permit abortion even when the preborn child can feel pain 5. Eliminate parental notification or consent 6. Allow abortion at any time for any reason 7. Open the door to taxpayer-funded abortions

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Friday, October 18 Will you say yes to supporting the 11 seminarians of the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph?

Join us for a one-day online fundraising challenge!

Receive video updates and testimonials from Conception.

Connect with us for prayer throughout the day.

Conception Seminary College is proud to serve our home diocese in the formation of these 11 seminarians and many upstanding alumni throughout our history. Will you join us for a Day of Giving in support of our work and their discernment to serve the diocese?

Learn more at www.conception.edu/pfp

Religious Jubilee Anniversaries (2023-2024) On Sept. 8, Bishop Johnston hosted a celebration of consecrated life in special recognition of religious sisters in the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph who are marking milestone anniversaries in their religious vocations. Please keep these special women in your prayers.

75 YEARS Sister Marie Madeleine Shonka, SCL

70 YEARS Sister Mary Jo Heinlein, OSB Sister Dawn Vercellino, OSB

65 YEARS Sister Loretto Marie Colwell, SCL Sister Mary Loretta Luse, OSF Sister Mary Janette Munsterman, OSF Sister Joy Ann Wege, OSB

60 YEARS Sister Gonzague of St. Chantal, LSP Sister Ramona Varela, OSB

50 YEARS Sister Sarah Schwartzberg, OSB Sister Pat Nyquist, OSB

25 YEARS Sister Lucia Anne Le, OSB

On the weekend of October 12 -13th, we begin our 2024-2025 Annual Catholic Appeal, “Sharing the Joy of the Gospel.” We ask all the faithful of our diocese to share the fruits of their good life by giving a gift to help fund ministries, services, programs, and offices that are vital for advancing the Joy of the Gospel.

Supporting the ACA helps provide the necessary resources that are so important for the Church to grow, and to accompany others into life in Jesus Christ. Please prayerfully consider making a gift to the Annual Catholic Appeal today.

O To give a gift or make a pledge to the P Annual Catholic Appeal (ACA) go online and visit: W W W. K C S J C A T H O L I C . O R G Also, while there, please take the opportunity to listen to this year’s ACA audio message.

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Politics at the holiday table A guide to charitable conversations F R IE N D S , T HE E L E C T ION IS C OM IN G U P, A N D T HE PASS I ON FOR POLIT IC S IS THR I V I N G ! W HI LE M AN Y T H IN K IT ’S B E ST TO AVO I D T HE SE TOPIC S DURIN G TH A N KS G I V I N G , W HY N OT T URN IT INTO A N O P PO RT U NIT Y TO BRIN G TH E FA M I LY C LO S E R TOGE T H E R? AS T HE O L D SAY I N G GOE S, “ E N L A ME SA Y E N E L JU E GO, SE C ON OCE AL CA BA L L E R O.” S O, LE T ' S LE ARN H OW W E C A N HAV E HE A LT H Y POLIT ICAL C O NV E R SAT I O N S WH ILE E N JOYIN G O U R T U R K E Y A N D TAM ALE S! Every year, my husband’s large extended family gathers at his parents’ house. Over the years, I've learned some valuable lessons on how to talk about politics without ruining the party. Here are my tips for having charitable conversations: 1. Respect above all, just like our abuelos taught us!

In our culture, respect is fundamental. Political beliefs are an expression of our faith and values. But they are not who we are, nor are they our most profound identity. Remember that you are talking to your family, not strangers on the internet. Keep a kind and respectful tone, as if you were talking to your santa abuela. It's not about changing anyone's opinion, but about understanding each other better.

2. Be a well-formed and informed Catholic!

We know there are many news sources, from Univision to CNN in Spanish. But don't stick to just one source. Research independent news sources and learn about what the Church says on these matters to form your own opinion! When talking about topics like immigration or climate change, use real data, not just what you heard on TV. Remember, information is power, so use it wisely!

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3. Be open-minded, like when you first tried a habanero pepper!

Being open to new ideas doesn't mean you'll change your way of thinking, but it does mean that you're willing to listen. In our culture, we value communication and dialogue. Actively listen to your uncles, cousins and grandparents. You might learn something new or better understand why they think differently. The diversity of opinions can be as rich as the diversity of our holiday dishes!

4. Be a good guest/host: know when to change the topic!

Sometimes, it is best to avoid politics and enjoy the food and company. If you find the conversation is getting more heated than chiles rellenos, suggest talking about something lighter. Remember that these gatherings are about celebrating our family togetherness and our culture. There are so many wonderful things to talk about!

5. Use humor, our best secret weapon!

If things get tense, a good joke can save the day. Humor is an important part of our culture and can help ease tensions. Laugh at yourself and the situations, not at people or their beliefs.

6. Focus on what unites us, not what divides us!

At the end of the day, we all want the best for our families and communities. Talk about the values we share: hard work, family and our Catholic Faith. These are the things that really matter.

Look, family and politics are important, but our family togetherness is even more important. Let's use these conversations to grow together, not to separate ourselves. Remember if Jesus could navigate a dinner with Judas, he will certainly give you the grace to navigate hot topics at your family gatherings!

Have a happy Thanksgiving filled with love, laughter and charitable conversation!

And don’t forget to save me some flan.

By Le y d e n Rove lo - K r ull Director, Office of Hispanic Ministry

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Generations of grace: Debutantes leading a new era of service

Prayer to St.Jude Most holy Apostle, Saint Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the Church honors and evokes you universally as the patron of hope. Please intercede on my behalf. Make use of that particular privilege given to you to bring hope, comfort and help where they are needed most. Come to my assistance in this great need that I may receive the consolation and help of heaven as I work with my challenges, particularly (here make your request). I praise God with you and all the saints forever. I promise, blessed Saint Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, to always honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to greatly encourage devotion to you. Amen.

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Hope Ball 2024 Catholic Charities’ reimagined Hope Ball, formerly known as the Celebration of Hope Gala, was a resounding success last April! The event featured exceptional food, a lively dance floor, and record-breaking fundraising but the true heart lay in its unique impact — bringing together generations of Catholics in a shared commitment to faith and service. A highlight of the evening was the launch of the Our Lady of Hope Society.

Our Lady of Hope Society Created for Kansas City’s young Catholics, the society’s mission is to support Catholic Charities of Kansas City-St. Joseph through volunteering, food collection, service projects, and fundraising. The Our Lady of Hope Society is open to all high school-aged Catholics and meets monthly on Sunday nights, providing a space for Catholic youth to engage in service, build friendships, and grow in their Faith. These experiences strengthen their bond with the Church and empower them to become leaders in their communities. In their junior and senior years, students may be nominated as a Debutante or Gentleman of Hope Ball.

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2024 Debutantes and Gentlemen The members of the inaugural 2024 class of Debutantes and Gentlemen were honored with a blessing from Bishop Johnston and presented with an Our Lady of Hope medallion. Many students described the experience as the “highlight of my year!” and expressed deep appreciation for Bishop Johnston’s Mass and recommended the Debutante and Gentleman experience to their peers. For many, Hope Ball marked a pivotal moment in their spiritual journey, transitioning from learners of faith to active participants in the Catholic mission. The impact of the Our Lady of Hope Society extends beyond its members, inspiring a ripple effect throughout the community and even encouraging parents and grandparents to deepen their faith and commitment to service. Building on this intergenerational faith, Catholic Charities is excited to introduce the Guardians of Hope.

Guardians of Hope This adult group includes members from the Catholic Charities Board of Directors, parents of past debutantes and community leaders committed to faith-based service. The Guardians play a crucial role in providing leadership and financial support, ensuring the mission and values of Catholic Charities are passed down through generations.

Their involvement enriches the experience for everyone, creating a supportive community that spans all ages.

by J o dy Bre u e r Senior director of development Catholic Charities of Kansas City-St. Joseph The Guardians of Hope induction ceremony with pinning will take place on Oct. 28, featuring a private Mass with Bishop Johnston at Our Lady of Ephesus Chapel at The Catholic Center. During this ceremony, parents, grandparents and community leaders will pledge their support for guarding the hope within and the fundraising efforts for Hope Ball 2025. This launch serves as a powerful reminder of the collective responsibility to nurture the Faith of young people and support charitable efforts within the community.

You’re invited As Catholic Charities prepares for Hope Ball 2025, we invite you to save the date for March 29. This year’s event promises to be even more interactive, offering an opportunity to meet Kansas City’s finest young Debutantes and Gentlemen, as well as expand the mission to serve and to lift others out of poverty into the dignity of self-reliance.

Looking ahead, the future of the Our Lady of Hope Society and Hope Ball is bright. We envision a growing network of young Catholics who are not only strong in their Faith but also equipped to lead others in service. With each passing year, we will deepen our impact, creating lasting change in the lives of those we serve.

If you are a high school student or know someone who might be interested in joining the society or becoming a Debutante or Gentleman of Hope Ball 2025, please scan the QR code to download the Our Lady of Hope Society information packet. We look forward to welcoming you into this vibrant community of faith and service.

See you at the Ball!

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STAY IN THE GAME A I D E N LOV E D BA LLS AS A TOD D LE R . H E E N JOYED K I C K I N G A N D R UN N IN G. H IS PARE N T S T H OUG HT IT W O U L D B E F UN TO SIGN H IM UP FOR SOC CER .

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The next year, he begged to play again. Of course, why not? So fun!

Throughout elementary school, the family DID soccer. Sometimes, it seemed like a lot, but it was great for Aiden. It kept him physically fit, and he really was pretty good at it. Quickly, Aiden was in high school. He tried out for the team and made it! Of course, he made it!

That was great! He was thrilled. This was what they’d been working for, as maybe he’d even get to play in college.

The next day, Aiden’s parents were surprised when he walked in and sat on the couch immediately after school.

“Don’t you have practice?” his mom asked.

“I have so much going on right now. I’m not going to practice anymore. I promise I’ll make it to the game on Thursday, but practice is just too much. I made the team, Mom! Isn’t that great? Thanks for all you did to get me there, but I’m good. I can make these decisions on my own now,” said Aiden.

Um, what? Yeah, no parent in their right mind would let that slide.

If Aiden starts skipping the practices, his soccer career is doomed.

Even if he DOES continue to go to the games, he’s not going to be much of a player anymore. How long will he stay on that team? Not an option. We all know that.

And yet, when it comes to the Faith, so many parents — including sometimes myself — allow this exact kind of thing.

We bring our kids to religious education classes. They like it when they are young. It gives us a break. We want them to get first sacraments. Then what? They reach high school. There’s so much going on. They are confirmed. They can make these decisions for

themselves now, right? They still go to Mass on Sunday. That other stuff — the “practice”-type stuff — just doesn’t seem to matter that much anymore. It’s easy to skip.

If you know intuitively that skipping practice will lead to a poor outcome for Aiden's soccer career, then what do you think that same kind of thing does to your child's faith life?

In our diocese, Bishop Johnston has moved the age of confirmation from ninth to sixth grade. But don’t be fooled into thinking that simply means your child is able to “make the team” at a younger age. It means we are, as parents, to recognize the sacraments are simply ONE step on the journey our children take from birth to adult Christian life. They need to stay on the path the whole way.

This is new. It requires a new way of thinking. I’ve taught Confirmation and youth programs for years, and my mind-set has to change, too. We’ve been saying, “Confirmation is not Catholic graduation” for years, but in practice, it just keeps ending up that way for far too many young people. Bishop is telling us that needs to change.

Your parish might not be prepared. The programs might not be there — you may be tempted to say, “I’ll just try to make these things happen at home.” Don’t. Your church is your team, and your child belongs on that team. The team practices together. This is important. This matters.

See, Aiden’s parents know he really DOES love soccer. They love it, too. They know he’s young — too young really to know how to do this thing called life on his own. So, when he announces he’s skipping practice, with the belief that he has better things to do, his parents take the only sensible action. They give him some choice words, march him out to the car and then drive him themselves to practice, with an apology to the coach in hand.

I mean, that’s what I would do, and if soccer is too important to let a kid decide about on their own, shouldn’t church be, too?

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By Sara Kraft “Liturgical music is important. People don’t go home humming the homily,” explains Tom Smith. Pastoral musicians Bill McMurray and Tom Smith have a combined 125 years of liturgical music experience and continue to play at parishes in St. Joseph. Both name Saint Cecilia, the patron saint of music, whose feast day falls on Nov. 22, as the patron saint of their ministry.

Bill and Tom met sitting next to each other at the 1967 National Liturgical Week sponsored by the Liturgical Conference in Kansas City. This began a nearly six-decades-long friendship and musical collaboration that continues to this day.

Bill grew up in the Cathedral of St. Joseph. He started volunteering to play organ at Mass at age 13. At that time, the Mass was still partly in Latin. He also helped start an adult choir at the Cathedral in 1968. After attending the University of Kansas, Bill joined the staff at the Cathedral of St. Joseph in 1972. When Bill left full-time music ministry for the insurance business in 1978, his friend Tom was hired. Tom has been playing at the Cathedral for 46 years now.

Tom started playing for Masses as a sixth grader. He fondly recalls the summer before his freshman year of high school when he began riding his bike to play weekday Masses at Redemptorist Parish in downtown Kansas City. Later, as word got out, he began to substitute elsewhere. He later joined the army and played in the army band before joining the Cathedral of St. Joseph in 1978. Tom retired from full-time music ministry in 2016, but he continues to volunteer to play one Mass a weekend at the Cathedral.

Throughout the years, both have continued their music education and are members of the American Guild of Organists.

Part of the job of a musician is evaluating music. Bill always tries to ask three essential questions before selecting a piece of music.

“First, is it good music? Second, does it fit the liturgy? Third, does it speak to the people where they are?” If the answer to any of these questions is no, then the piece should not be played, he explains.

Despite retirement from full-time ministry, both still enjoy playing and teaching the next generation of musicians.

“I love music, and I love the Faith,” explains Bill. “I hope I can inspire others to do the same.”

With more than 125 years of combined liturgical music ministry experience, Tom Smith (seated at the organ) and Bill McMurray have shared their time and talent with parishes in St. Joseph and Kansas City since they were teenagers. Photo provided by Bill McMurry.

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Elijah: The persevering prophet

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assassination, but he always delivered God’s message of hope and healing.

Elijah humbled himself enough to stand in a dark cave while waiting for a word from the Lord. In the confines of God’s Mountain, Mount Horeb, Elijah listened for the movement of God in his life.

Elijah's ministry and response included his steadfast belief in God’s love, mercy and grace.

First Timothy 6:11-12 encourages us to “fight the good fight of the faith,” holding firm to what we have been taught. Believe in eternal life, a cherished promise to all who have hope.

He did not hear, experience or perceive God in the violence of an earthquake, nor the turbulence of high winds, nor the streaks and rumblings of thunder and lightning. (1 Kgs 19:9) Elijah heard God’s word in the stillness and silence of his meditative moment with God. Elijah was a prophet assailed by those who resented his corrections, his challenges and his call for courage and fidelity in the sight of God. Somehow, Elijah understood the dynamics of suffering that produces endurance, and endurance that leads to character, character that produces hope, and hope which strengthens us to persevere through it all. (Rom 5:3-5) The Cambridge Dictionary defines perseverance as “a continued effort to do or achieve something, even when this is difficult or takes a long time.”

Elijah is dubbed the “persevering prophet” because he was able to overcome fear, death threats, ostracism and even loneliness or depression in carrying out the will of God. Elijah is one Old Testament prophet who faced desolations of every kind, yet found true consolation in the reward of the fiery chariot and whirlwind that took him to heaven at the completion of God’s work.

We may not be given a ride on a fiery chariot, but we can be assured that God will bless us with a reward appropriate to our service, trust and obedience to him.

Elijah encourages us to pray always for the grace of perseverance so this charism of faithfulness and persistence of effort might become our true virtue. By his example of humility, obedience and total trust in God, God developed within Elijah a persevering spirit: a true willingness to carry out God’s

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TH E HE A RT A N D S OUL OF E LIJAH ’S WALK WIT H GOD WAS HI S Z E A L F O R M ISSION ARY W ORK AM ON G THE P EO PL E O F I S R A E L . WH E RE IS YOUR H E ART AN D SOUL IN YOU R I M M E D I AT E STOM PIN G GROUN DS? ARE YOU U S IN G YO U R M E D I TAT IVE M OM E N T S WISE LY? He has no book in the Bible attributed to him, but he is renowned as one of the most significant of the Old Testament prophets, second only to Moses. He was a man of spiritual integrity and courageous action.

Elijah came onto the biblical stage (9th century BC) during a time when Israel was facing turmoil: political challenges from authorities in high places, social and spiritual pervasions that overruled Jewish worship with the worship of Baal and other false gods.

The story of Elijah’s service to God is found from 1 Kings 17:1-7 through 2 Kings 10-12.

Elijah was a moral leader who believed in God and acted on behalf of God’s message of reconciliation and revival. He was also a man who suffered the misfortunes of depression and fears due to threats against his life. Elijah ran from his enemies, hiding in caves to avoid

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¡Política en la Mesa Festiva: ¡Una Guía Para Conversaciones Caritativas!

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Amigos, ya vienen las elecciones, y la pasión por la política está en auge! Aunque muchos piensan que es mejor evitar estos temas durante el Día de Acción de Gracias, ¿por qué no convertirlo en una oportunidad para unir más a la familia?

Como dice el viejo refrán, “En la mesa y en el juego, se conoce al caballero”. Así que, ¡vamos a aprender cómo podemos tener conversaciones políticas saludables mientras disfrutamos de nuestro pavo y tamales!

Cada año, la numerosa familia extendida de mi marido se reúne en la casa de sus padres. A lo largo de los años, he aprendido algunas lecciones valiosas sobre cómo hablar de política sin arruinar la fiesta. Aquí les comparto mis consejos para tener conversaciones caritativas: 1. Respeto, ante todo, ¡cómo nos enseñaron nuestros abuelos!

En nuestra cultura, el respeto es fundamental. Las creencias políticas son una expresión de nuestra fe y nuestros valores, pero no son quienes somos ni nuestra identidad más profunda. Recuerda que estás hablando con tu familia, no con extraños en internet. Mantén un tono amable y respetuoso, como si estuvieras hablando con tu santa abuela. No se trata de cambiar la opinión de nadie, sino de entendernos mejor.

2. ¡Sé un católico bien formado e informado!

Sabemos que hay muchas fuentes de noticias, desde Univisión hasta CNN en español.

Pero no te quedes con una sola fuente. Investiga fuentes de noticias independientes y aprende sobre lo que dice la Iglesia sobre estos temas para formar tu propia opinión. Cuando hables de temas como la inmigración o el cambio climático, usa datos reales, no solo lo que escuchaste en la televisión. Recuerda, la información es poder, ¡úsala sabiamente!

3. Mente abierta, ¡como cuando probaste por primera vez el chile habanero!

Estar abierto a nuevas ideas no significa que cambiarás tu forma de pensar, pero sí que estás dispuesto a escuchar. En nuestra cultura, valoramos la comunicación y el diálogo.

Escucha activamente a tus tíos, primos y abuelos. Quizás aprendas algo nuevo o entiendas mejor por qué piensan diferente. ¡La diversidad de opiniones puede ser tan rica como la diversidad de nuestros platillos navideños!

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4. Sea un buen invitado/ anfitrión: ¡sepa cuándo cambiar de tema!

A veces, lo mejor es evitar la política y disfrutar de la comida y la compañía. Si ves que la conversación se está calentando más que los chiles rellenos, sugiere hablar de algo más ligero. Recuerda que estas reuniones son para celebrar nuestra unión familiar y nuestra cultura. ¡Hay tantas cosas maravillosas de qué hablar!

5. Usa el humor, ¡nuestra mejor arma secreta!

Si las cosas se ponen tensas, un buen chiste puede salvar la situación. El humor es una parte importante de nuestra cultura y puede ayudar a aliviar tensiones. Ríete de ti mismo y de las situaciones, no de las personas o sus creencias.

6. Enfócate en lo que nos une, no en lo que nos divide Al final del día, todos queremos lo mejor para nuestras familias y comunidades. Habla sobre los valores que compartimos: trabajo duro, familia, y nuestra fe católica. Estas son las cosas que realmente importan.

Mira, la familia y la política son importantes, pero nuestra unión familiar es aún más importante. Usemos estas conversaciones para crecer juntos, no para separarnos Recuerda que, si Jesús pudo navegar una cena con Judas, ¡te dará la gracia para navegar en temas candentes en tus reuniones familiares! ¡Que disfruten de un feliz Día de Acción de Gracias lleno de amor, risas y conversaciones caritativas! Y no olvides guardarme un poco de flan.

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ENMIENDA 3 Malo para todos menos para el negocio del aborto P o r el O b ispo Ja mes Johnston

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magina que vas al hospital para una operación común pero grave, como una apendicectomía, una prótesis de rodilla o una colonoscopia. Antes de la intervención, el personal del hospital se reúne contigo y te pide que firmes un formulario que permite a cualquier trabajador sanitario del hospital realizar la intervención.

Esto incluiría a una de las enfermeras o a un auxiliar médico, o al farmacéutico. Junto con esto, te piden que eximas al hospital y a quien realice el procedimiento de cualquier responsabilidad si las cosas van mal por cualquier motivo, incluida la negligencia o la incompetencia. Con tu firma, tú y tu familia eximirían a los implicados en el procedimiento de cualquier demanda que pudiera surgir y de cualquier acción penal, incluso en caso de fallecimiento.

En un momento así, probablemente saltarías de la silla y dirías al personal del hospital que están mal de la cabeza.

Ahora imagina que eres padre o madre, y alguien te informa de que esto se le puede hacer a tu hijo sin ninguna notificación ni tu consentimiento. En otras palabras, tu hijo, sin tu conocimiento, podría someterse a una intervención quirúrgica grave realizada por alguien que no sea un médico capacitado, sin temor a responsabilidad ni a ser procesado.

Si este escenario te parece descabellado, te presento la Enmienda 3, que estará en la papeleta electoral del 5 de noviembre en el estado de Missouri.

Si esta enmienda constitucional es aprobada, establecerá en nuestro estado el más extremo derecho al aborto. En efecto, los residentes de Missouri van a limitar grandemente su habilidad para regular el aborto y será muy difícil responsabilizar por negligencia médica a la industria del aborto y a Planned Parenthood.

Si se aprueba la enmienda, ataremos nuestras manos intencionalmente y daremos amplia libertad a la industria del aborto y abriremos la puerta para como contribuyentes nos obliguen a pagarlos, como lo están haciendo con los residentes de Michigan, quienes aprobaron una propuesta similar.

La Enmienda 3, tal como aparecerá en la papeleta, está redactada de forma engañosa.

Lo que verán los votantes son unas pocas frases redactadas intencionadamente que describen benignamente el referéndum

como una aprobación de los “derechos reproductivos” protegidos por el estado.

El texto real de la enmienda revela lo que realmente está en juego: es un “caballo de Troya” destinado a eliminar otros derechos importantes. Derechos que, si se ceden, serán difíciles de recuperar. Éstas son sólo las cuestiones que afectan a los padres, a las adolescentes, a las mujeres y a todos los residentes de Missouri. El impacto que esto tendría en los niños antes de nacer, que serán vulnerables al aborto hasta el nacimiento, incluso cuando puedan experimentar dolor, es cada vez más profundo.

Es esencial que oremos y trabajemos fervientemente por la derrota de la Enmienda 3. Ruega a Dios que salve a nuestro estado de este desastre. Invoca la intercesión de la Santísima Madre, especialmente a través del poder del Santo Rosario durante este mes del Rosario.

Pide también a nuestro patrono diocesano, San José, su ayuda e intercesión. Uno de sus mayores actos fue la defensa del niño Cristo del malvado y asesino rey Herodes, y seguramente nos enfrentamos a otro “Herodes” este mes de noviembre.

Te insto a votar “no” a la Enmienda 3 y a informar al mayor número posible de personas de lo que está en juego. Octubre es el Mes del Respeto a la Vida. Este año adquiere una importancia aún mayor para todos nosotros.

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Kansas City hospital retains its Catholic spirit for 150 years

By Mar t y Denzer P ho t o s c o ur t esy of St. Joseph Medical Center

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ounded in Kansas City by three Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet in 1874, and the first private hospital west of the Mississippi River, St. Joseph Medical Center is celebrating its sesquicentennial. Numerous health care advances, relocations and normal staff attrition have occurred over the years, but one thing has never changed: St. Joseph continues to serve the community with a Catholic spirit.

The St. Joseph Medical Center campus includes the hospital, celebrating its 150th anniversary in Kansas City in 2024, as well as other medical offices and a community center.

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The chapel at St. Joseph Medical Center features the rose window installed in its original location in 1915.

In the early 1870s, the burgeoning city at the confluence of the Missouri and Kaw rivers was filthy, rowdy and perilous for most of its 50,000 residents.

In 1873, a young physician, J.D. Griffith, arrived in Kansas City.

A year after starting his own private practice, he realized a hospital was necessary and knew whom he wanted to run it — the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet. Several sisters had come to Kansas City in 1866 at the invitation of Father Bernard Donnelly to start a girls’ school. Griffith, a non-Catholic who admired their work, approached Father Donnelly for assistance in inviting them to start a hospital.

The sisters responded that they were on their way.

Griffith and some associates had purchased the vacant Waterman home on 7th Street and Pennsylvania for $490 in back taxes. St. Joseph Hospital opened on Oct. 15, 1874, rapidly gaining a reputation for quality innovative care. Dr. Griffith served as chief of staff until his death in 1924, and the hospital expanded, both in size and services.

By 1898, the hospital had expanded to 150 beds, and all who needed help were admitted, regardless of their faith or whether they could pay or not. Only maternity, chronic and contagious diseases and insanity cases were refused.

The sisters decided to institute a two-year nurse education program rooted in the principles of Florence Nightingale. The school of nursing started in 1901, graduating 17 new nurses in 1903. Today, the degreed nursing program is under the auspices of Avila University, founded in 1916 by the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet as St. Teresa College.

By 1910, the location was no longer practical, and the surrounding neighborhood was increasingly industrial. The sisters wanted to build a new hospital in the city’s center, at Linwood and Prospect.

The sisters and their allies pushed through the skepticism surrounding the move and, in 1915, the cornerstone was laid. The X-shaped construction allowed windows in every room for natural light, while sun porches on each floor offered fresh air. A statue of Saint Joseph stood near the front entrance, and a stained-glass rose window graced the chapel.

St. Joseph Medical Center and its nursing education program were created by the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet, whose spirit and heritage continues today in its mission of caring for the community.

The Hyperbaric chamber is used to maximize the body’s healing potential. This state of the art technology is used at St. Joseph Medical Center to treat wounds.

The six-story, 250-bed hospital officially opened May 10, 1917.

Alongside modern fixtures — kitchens on every floor and electric ceiling fans in the operating rooms — the building had maternity facilities, and by 1967, 52,000 babies would be born there.

Following World War I, the 1918-20 influenza pandemic killed millions, and just as Kansas Citians were catching their breath, smallpox swept through. St. Joseph student nurses helped nurse the sick.

The hospital survived the Great Depression, turning a profit while staying updated with the latest equipment and services.

Before health insurance, hospitals were used for rest. If ordered by a physician, no questions were asked. That changed in 1938, when St. Joseph Hospital became the first in Kansas City to join the new Blue Cross and Blue Shield plan.

In 1967, the hospital celebrated its 50th anniversary in its second location. The sisters loved the hospital, but the writing was on the wall. Several hospital staffers were killed during gang initiations and parking lot car break-ins. Then, in 1968, Kansas City was engulfed in rioting after Martin Luther King, Jr., was assassinated.

When calm returned, the sisters decided to relocate. But how and where?

They decided to build at Interstate 435 and State Line Road, near Avila College and the nursing program.

Ground was broken in 1975, and the new hospital was ready for occupancy in January 1977.

The statue of Saint Joseph, the rose window and the chapel cornerstone from the first hospital were brought to the new hospital, which was dedicated March 19.

Today, the campus is home to St. Joseph Medical Center, other medical offices and a community center where it continues its long tradition of providing high quality, compassionate care. Its Catholic heritage and the spirit of its founding Sisters continue today in its mission of caring for the community. Visit stjosephkc.com to learn more.

BISH OP JOH NSTON will join the St. Joseph Medical Center community in celebrating its 150th anniversary on Oct. 15.

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Remembering together

By A l l i s o n Vro o ma n

“ T HE C L U B T HAT N O ON E WAN T S TO BE LON G TO” — A T I T L E C O I N E D BY FAT H E R JOSE PH CISE T T I WHEN TAL K I N G A B O U T A SUPPORT GROUP FOR PARENTS W HO HAV E LO ST A CH ILD BY SUICID E .

On the first Tuesday of each month, this group meets at St. Therese Parish in Parkville to support each other, pray together and share memories of their children.

In the fall of 2023, Julie Gardner was seeking a support group specifically for parents who have lost a child to suicide. Rather than joining an already established group, she was encouraged by Father Cisetti to start one. He sent contacts her way and, within a matter of weeks, the inaugural meeting took place.

The mission of the group is to support, meet the needs of, and walk with other parents through grief and pain, as well as to uplift, encourage and cheer on their successes and healing.

“This group is specific to parents because our grief is different.

We bore our children. They are part of us. And in losing part of yourself, you have to figure out how to move forward, how to breathe,” shared member Lorie Sage.

The meetings begin by lighting a unity candle that is centered on a table decorated with flowers and framed photos of the members’ sons and daughters. They pray a remembrance

litany and each parent lights an individual candle as they pray for their child by name.

The group shares updates, confides in each other, and asks for support and prayers. Amid the somber tone in the room, laughter is present as the members form a bond that feels as if they have known each other for a lifetime.

“It is a great support system, a great time to pray together and remember our children, share stories about our lives with them,” Gardner shared.

The group receives discussion topics, articles and videos to reflect on together, plus other resources from the diocesan mental health ministry.

Each meeting ends with the Chaplet of Divine Mercy.

There are approximately 15 members in the group and an average of eight at each monthly meeting, all having heard about the group through word of mouth.

“I don’t want people to hide. I want them to know that there is help,” Sage said, emphasizing the need to spread the word about this resource.

FOR M ORE INFORM ATION, email Julie Gardner at jmgardner8@gmail.com.

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All are invited to attend the 2024 Red Mass on Sunday, Oct. 25 at 6:30 p.m. at St. Ann’s Catholic Church in Prairie Village, Kansas, to pray with and for those who work in the legal profession. Visit clgkc.com for details and registration.

Bringing comfort to the sorrowful through legacy planning

By S a r a Kr aft

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“Assets need to be handled in a way to make legacies easier,” explains attorney Arman J. Partamian. In a manner, this is a spiritual work of mercy, bringing comfort to the sorrowful. “People work their whole life to build savings, buy a house, and build wealth.

They want these assets to care for themselves and their children,” he adds.

Partamian, a native of St. Joseph, earned his Juris Doctorate degree from American University in Washington, D.C., and has been practicing law since 2001 in various forms. In 2021, Partamian opened his law practice, Partamian Law, in St. Joseph.

His practice focuses mainly on wills, trusts and estate planning.

He and his wife Catherine have five children. In 2009, Partamian converted to the Catholic Faith.

In addition to his law practice, Partamian enjoys teaching and is the RCIA coordinator at the Cathedral of St. Joseph.

“I really like working with families and individuals to set up a legacy for families,” he explains. “There are so many different things to consider. One really needs professional advice.

Sometimes, solutions can be simple, and other times they are more complex.

Everyone should have a plan. A plan is very important work because litigation is both expensive and stressful.” A plan provides an important source of comfort. This type of work allows Partamian to ease the burden that families face at a traumatic time. In addition, he helps clients ensure that their wishes are fulfilled and that they can bless their heirs in the way they most desire. This allows his clients to continue to contribute to the corporal good of their families from beyond the grave.

Partamian believes our Catholic Faith should inform the way all of us practice our chosen profession and really all of our interactions. “The Catholic Faith should influence every part of your life,” explains Partamian.

This means examining what to charge. As an employer, this also means examining how he treats his employees, the compensation provided and other ways he provides for needs. It also may mean not taking a case depending on the situation even if it involves a nice fee.

“As a lawyer, people are trusting me to represent them in a fair and just way and to ensure their wishes to the best of my ability,” he adds.

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St. Joseph Parish, Trenton celebrates

150 years

By A l l iso n V r o o man

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t. Joseph Catholic Church in Trenton, Missouri, has served the faithful community of the Grundy County area for 150 years.

Bishop John Hogan was the first Catholic priest to celebrate Mass in Grundy County, holding services in the homes of parishioners.

The first mention of a Catholic presence in the county was recorded

by Bishop Hogan in January 1868, as he wrote: “Having strapped my baggage to my horse’s back, I set out for home, traveling at a slow gait to the neighborhood of Princeton where I stayed at the house of a Catholic settler overnight and celebrated Mass the next morning. At Edinburg, I likewise stayed with some Catholic settlers that I found there, saying Mass for them and baptizing their children the next morning.” (On the Mission, 195-196) In the fall of 1872, Father James J. Kennedy organized the plans for the church’s construction and the newly built Gothic-style wooden structure, which sat on the corner of Chestnut and West 14th streets, then was dedicated two years later, in September 1874. It cost approximately $4,000, with an additional $1,000 for the organ and vestments.

Four years later, six acres of land was purchased in the southern part of the town for a cemetery.

The original church building was replaced in 1920 by one built at the corner of Prospect (now Crowder Road) and Chestnut streets. At the time, Father Henry Tierney was the pastor of various churches in the area, traveling between the towns in a horse-drawn buggy. Because of the distance, Mass was held at St. Joseph Parish every two weeks, rather than weekly.

The present-day church building, located on St. Joseph Street, held its first Mass in January of 1966. Much of the interior work was completed by Father Francis Russ and the parishioners. The women of the parish helped furnish the church hall and kitchen through the success of numerous bake sales.

In 1988, Father Orlis North, through the generous hands of many faithful donors, raised funds for the addition of the sacristy, meeting room, bathroom and storage closet. Some years later, in 1993, Father Joachim Schieber, OSB suggested the construction of an education center that would provide more space for parish dinners and gatherings.

Bishop James Johnston celebrated a Votive Mass on Sept. 6, 2024, to commemorate the 150th anniversary of the first consecration of St. Joseph’s Parish. A reception followed in the parish hall.

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Bishop James Johnston, pictured with Father Ken Criqui (l) and Father William Fox (r) celebrated a Votive Mass on Sept. 6, 2024, to commemorate St. Joseph Parish’s 150th anniversary.

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I NVE ST ING IN YO U T H I NVE ST ING IN T H E C O MMUN I T Y “ IT ’ S O U R PA R I S H. OUR ROOT S ARE VE RY DE E P. WE J U ST WA N T I T TO BE A BE T T E R PL ACE ,” E M PH ASI ZED R O B I N C O M E R O F ST. PAT RICK CAT H OLIC CH URCH I N NO RT H K A N SAS C I T Y. Robin and her husband, Frank, have been members of the Diocese of Kansas City-St. Joseph for their entire lives: growing up, getting married and raising a family in the Northland. They became parishioners of St. Patrick in 1990 and enrolled their oldest child in elementary school there the following year.

During the 27 consecutive years of their children learning at St. Patrick and St. Pius X High School, Robin dove into a multitude of volunteer roles at the schools and parish. She has been a substitute teacher, a basketball and volleyball coach, a youth group and field trip chaperone, a coordinator of sports banquets, a member of the PTO board and charter member of the Columbiettes and a photographer for sacraments happening at the parish. She was also a starting member of the Catholicity team at St. Patrick. This group worked to integrate the Catholic Faith more deeply into the school by arranging a crucifix to be hung in every classroom and planning an annual Last Supper re-enactment.

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One of the most notable volunteering efforts that both Robin and Frank can be credited for is the institution of Boy Scout Troop 1096 at St. Patrick Parish. What began as a small pack of five Scouts and five adults in 2008 has resulted in a current count of 26 Eagle Scouts and significantly more general members. This group was also one of the first to welcome girls, starting Troop 7096 in 2019.

A large-scale service project is one of the final quests a Boy Scout must complete before earning Eagle Scout status, Scouting’s highest rank. Many of the Eagle Scouts from Troops 1096 and 7096 directed their projects in service to St. Patrick Parish and School.

In 2018, James Moloney VI completed his Eagle project, the addition of a Marian Grotto on St. Patrick’s campus. He commissioned Robin to sketch a modern design and Frank worked with the manufacturer to see to its completion. This project was fully funded by parishioners’ donations of their time and money.

Along with serving the parish community through many Eagle Scout projects, the troop has also been a source of new families joining the parish and some even the Catholic Faith.

While Frank and Robin no longer have children in the troop or school system, they continue to be involved with Scouting and other volunteering within the parish. As Frank put it, “If we all do a little bit, then one person is not doing a lot. One person truly does make a difference.”

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Respond generously to the global Church on World Mission Sunday

By Cat ho l ic Key staff In his annual letter to the diocese, Bishop Johnston urges all brothers and sisters in Christ to participate actively and respond generously to the call of World Mission Sunday on Oct. 20.

The second collection on World Mission Sunday directly supports seminaries, future religious sisters, catechists, Catholic schools that provide essential education, and health care centers that provide essential care in more than 1,150 mission territories across Asia, Africa, Latin America, the Pacific Islands and the Middle East.

“Our contributions and prayers on World Mission Sunday support the Church’s vital work of evangelization, inviting all to experience the joy and hope found in Christ,” says Bishop Johnston.

R E A D B I S H O P JOH N STO N ’S F U L L L E T TE R at kcsjcatholic.org.

LE A L A CA RTA C O MP L E TA D E L O B I S P O J O H N STO N en español en kcsjcatholic.org.

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When Missourians head to the polls on Tuesday, November 5, we will be asked to vote “yes” or “no” on Amendment 3. Pro-abortion advocates seek to amend the Missouri Constitution and legalize abortion throughout ALL stages of pregnancy. Amendment 3 goes too far. We are asking all people of faith, those who value women’s health and the sanctity of life to VOTE NO on Amendment 3 this November. Empower women to choose life and safeguard preborn babies from this dangerous initiative.

WHAT IT SAYS: 1. This Section shall be known as “The Right to Reproductive Freedom Initiative.”

2. The Government shall not deny or infringe upon a person’s fundamental right to reproductive freedom…including but not limited to prenatal care, childbirth, postpartum care, birth control, abortion care, miscarriage care, and respectful birthing conditions.

WHAT IT DOES: THREATENS PARENTAL RIGHTS

By using “person” instead of adult or woman, anyone under the age of 18 could have an abortion or make any other reproductive decision without their parents’ consent or notification.

MISLEADING

3. The right to reproductive freedom shall not be denied, interfered with, delayed, or otherwise restricted unless the Government demonstrates that such action is justified by a compelling governmental interest achieved by the least restrictive means. Any denial, interference, delay, or restriction of the right to reproductive freedom shall be presumed invalid.

Referring to “miscarriage care” promotes the myth that a “right to abortion” is necessary to preserve care for miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies. This is false. Catholic hospitals have always provided comprehensive miscarriage care and will continue to do so regardless of the outcome of this petition.

4. Notwithstanding subsection 3 of this Section, the general assembly may enact laws that regulate the provision of abortion after Fetal Viability provided that under no circumstance shall the Government deny, interfere with, delay, or otherwise restrict an abortion that in the good faith of a treating health care professional is needed to protect the life or physical or mental health of the pregnant person. ...

Current Missouri laws* require abortion providers to explain procedure risks and ensure access to hospital transfer if needed and to administer medication abortions in person in case of complications for the woman. These health and safety standards could be seen as an “interference” or “delay” and be eliminated, making it even less safe for women seeking an abortion.

8. For purposes of this Section, the following terms mean: (1) “Fetal Viability”, the point in pregnancy when, in the good faith judgment of a treating health care professional and based on the particular facts of the case, there is a significant likelihood of the fetus’s sustained survival outside the uterus without the application of extraordinary medical measures. *Missouri Revised Statutes, Sections 188.010 - 188.375 **Based on Doe v. Bolton

PUTS WOMEN AT RISK

ALLOWS FOR ABORTIONS IN THE SECOND AND THIRD TRIMESTER

This amendment allows abortions at any time to protect not only the physical, but also the mental health of the woman. This means that a health care provider could justify a late-term abortion due to a woman’s “emotional, psychological, [and] familial” concerns**. An abortion provider would decide when a baby could survive outside the womb, leaving no clear protections for preborn children.

For more information, please contact The Diocese of Kansas City - St. Joseph Office of Life & Justice (www.lifeandjusticekcsj.org) Deb Sheppard, Director: sheppard@diocesekcsj.org | Chelsea Voboril, Program Coordinator: voboril@diocesekcsj.org

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