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ne of my funniest memories of our newlywed time was when Clay and I were going through marriage counseling. It was with dear friends of ours that we love and admire. We laughed and cried, and those times together were some of our most cherished moments as a newlywed couple. However, my sweet friend would always make a point to tell us every session, “Remember, divorce is not an option. You don’t throw around that word at all in your marriage, because it is not an option.” I, with my rose colored glasses on, would giggle and hug my man even tighter. I would think to myself, now why would we ever say or do such a thing? We are soulmates. We are madly in love with each other. We finish each other’s sentences. There is no one in the world I would rather spend the rest of my days with. Fast forward 15 years, four kids, in-laws, and careers--THANK the good Lord for training from Mike and Myrna!! Life and marriage is hard! There have been so many times we could have thrown in the towel. Thankfully, we both cling to the truth that Jesus died for all the wrongs, ugliness, laziness, bitterness, betrayals, resentment and the list goes on. For that reason alone, we can rest easy. ) _MLLQVO Q[ QVKZMLQJTa JMI]\QN]T IVL ÅTTML _Q\P M`KQ\MUMV\ 4QNM TWVO UMUWZQM[ IZM KZMI\ML More importantly is a marriage built around Jesus--it’s all of that and so much more!
Melissa Radke Luke Tarbutton
To those planning their wedding day or celebrating 50 years of marriage--may God continue to watch over your marriage and bless the days to come.
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WEDDINGS 2016
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10 HOME TOUR 14 LIFE & DESIGN 16 BURLAP & BESTIES 18 {DIY} 20 IN THE KITCHEN
38 FASHION 40 STRETCH MARKS 42 SOMETHING ABUNDANT 44 WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS 46 WEDDING IDEAS
56 NEWSWORTHY 58 CHAMBER NEWS 60 PRESERVING HISTORY 62 IN THE KNOW
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26 MARRIAGES 28 WEDDING PLANNING 30 PLANNING TIPS 32 LOCAL FINDS 34 YOUR BIG DAY
50 PRETTY BABIES 52 LOOK AT ME 54 CHILDREN ARE INVITED
SPORTS & OUTDOORS 66 NATURE'S EYE 68 FITNESS 70 TACTICAL 71 TROPHY ROOM
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Guide for Furnishing a New Home Entry Checklist: If space permits, it’s nice to have a narrow console table that serves as a catch-all when entering the home. 5 console table 5 lighting 5 art 5 runner
Living Room Checklist: When planning a living room, focus on the foundation first, then layer in the accessories. 5 seating (sofa, accent chairs, ottoman, etc.) 5 coffee table 5 side tables
Kitchen Checklist:
5 media center
No kitchen is created equal, and no kitchen should be treated that way. Depending on the size of the kitchen, consider adding a rolling cart if the kitchen is not equipped with an island.
5 area rug 5 lighting 5 art
5 kitchen table/chairs
5 throw pillows
5 bar stools
5 window treatments/hardware
5 kitchen counter accessories
Dining Room Checklist:
Master Bedroom Checklist:
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To achieve symmetry, center the bed on the back wall and flank the bed with matching nightstands and table lamps. A bit of symmetry can bring calmness to a space. 5 bed
5 table lamps
5 dining table
5 bedding
5 dresser
5 dining chairs/bench
5 headboard/footboard
5 art
5 area rug
5 nightstands
5 window treatments/hardware
5 lighting 5 art 5 window treatments/hardware
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Guest Room Checklist: In order to make guests feel at home, stick to the essentials and keep the clutter to a minimum. 5 bed 5 headboard/footboard 5 bedding 5 nightstands 5 table lamps 5 art 5 window treatments/hardware
Hello. I’m Claire, an interior stylist living in Austin, TX with my husband, Parker. I’m the blogger and business owner behind Claire Brody Designs. I specialize in providing unique and one of a kind spaces on an affordable budget.
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written by Melissa & Tiffani
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HOSTING 101
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osting overnight guests in your home can be a bit overwhelming. This is true if you are a newlywed hosting those in-laws for the first time or a more seasoned host having friends from out of town for the weekend! Here are a few things you can do to get you on the right track and earn major brownie points with anyone you have staying with you.
Welcome your guests with a nice tray on their bed. .QTT RIZ[ _Q\P \PMQZ NI^WZQ\M KIVLa IVL ILL I NM_ JW\\TM[ WN _I\MZ along with a magazine and some small snacks. You never know when your guests might need a little snack, and this will help them not feel awkward asking for one or rummaging through your pantry looking for something to eat. Don’t have a tray? Use a small shelf in your guest bedroom or a basket on the dresser.
Customize chalkboard signs in your guest bedroom to your guests. ?ZQ\M \PMU I N]V VW\M WZ TM\ \PMU SVW_ PW_ M`KQ\ML aW] IZM \W PI^M them there. We have a print with our Wi-Fi password framed on the shelf. This has been very handy since it is long and complicated! We searched “Wi-Fi Password Printable Free” in Pinterest and found lots of options to choose from. There are other free guest bedroom prints available as well. The Wi-Fi print I used can be found here: http:// ___ MTMOIVKMIVLMVKPIV\UMV\ KWU _X KWV\MV\ ]XTWIL[ Elegance-and-Enchantment-WiFi-Printable.pdf
Let’s face it, we’ve all been in a shower and realized we didn’t bring soap or maybe we forgot our toothbrush! Well just in case your guests do that, be ready for them! ?M ][ML I TIZOM \QMZML \ZIa _Q\P ^IZaQVO [QbM[ WN UI[WV RIZ[ NQTTML with toiletries in the guest bathroom. You could use a smaller basket on the counter or even an empty drawer. Just be sure your guest knows they are welcome to use it all.
Party Tip: Fresh flowers are always fun and d help your house feel welcoming, whether you’re having overnight guests or dinner guests. Pick your own or purchase a bunch from any local grocery store and place them in vases or pitchers to sit on side tables or a night stand!!
Melissa is a housewife who loves her husband and son, Ben and Ty, more than anything else on earth. In a previous life, she was a CPA. Her passion for serving Jesus took her and Ben to Africa for two years where, among other things, she learned she can never pack too many crafting supplies. If you want to see a happy girl, give Melissa an old piece of furniture and a paintbrush then stand back and watch the magic happen. /// Tiffani Brantner is a part-time nurse and student, a constant crafter, party-thrower, "idea-comer-upper", and a richly rewarded wife and mother to Jeff and Cullen. Call her to come and get your old junk, she LOVES it! She'll turn it into something beautiful, create a theme, throw a party around it, and invite you as the guest of honor. You can reach Tiffani day or night at tifandmel@gmail.com.
written by Majal Minguez
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Do-It-Yourself
DIY WEDDING GIFT:
HIS. HERS. THEIRS.
ROMANTIC MASSAGE OIL • 15 drops Young Living Ylang Ylang essential oil • 10 drops Young Living Jasmine essential oil
COLOGNE FOR HIM: • 15 drops Young Living Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood essential oil • 10 drops Young Living Idaho Blue Spruce essential oil <J[X >WLSI
PERFUME FOR HER:
• 10 drops Young Living Geranium essential oil
• 10 drops Young Living Ylang Ylang essential oil
• 5 drops Young Living Myrrh essential oil
• 5 drops Young Living Clary Sage essential oil
• 5 drops Young Living Black Pepper essential oil
• 5 drops Young Living Lavender essential oil
• Sweet Almond oil
• Sweet Almond oil
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ESSENTIAL OIL WORKSHOPS: INTRODUCTION TO ESSENTIAL OILS – 2IV 2IV ! .MJ .MJ ! IVL .MJ I\ " XU
MAKE AND TAKE: HEALING OILS OF THE BIBLE – 2IV IVL .MJ I\ XU
MAKE AND TAKE: EMOTIONAL TRAUMA CLEARING – 2IV IVL .MJ I\ XU
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Contact Majal at WhollyMerry@yahoo.com or 936.634.4282 to register for the workshops. For more information, follow her on FB at “WhollyMerry - Majal Minguez�. All workshops are held at Oil Drops DIY shop at 911 Ellis Avenue in Lufkin.
Majal Minguez and her family live in Lufkin. Her youngest son in on the Autism Spectrum. In their journey to recover him from Autism, the family has learned that detoxifying his body and their house are major pieces of the puzzle to Autism Recover.
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Ty and Stephanie Shafer are excited to announce that Shafer Funeral Home will now be serving Luf kin and the surrounding East Texas community. The Shafer’s share, “We are focused on the overall experience of the funeral service and will be there for the family before, during and after the service. We pride ourselves on providing personalized service WR HDFK IDPLO\ DQG FDWHULQJ WR WKHLU VSHFLÂżF QHHGV ´ 7KH\ DUH ORFDWHG DW 1RUWK -RKQ Redditt drive on Luf kin’s west loop. They have a full-sized chapel with two state rooms, along with a large family lounge to better serve the community. Ty’s lifelong dream has been to open his own funeral home. He pursued his passion by JUDGXDWLQJ IURP WKH 'DOODV ,QVWLWXWH RI )XQHUDO 6HUYLFH LQ 6LQFH 7\ KDV EHHQ VHUYLQJ (DVW 7H[DV IDPLOLHV GXULQJ WKHLU WLPH RI ORVV 2Q 6HSWHPEHU WK KH PDUULHG his wife Stephanie, a fellow Lufkinite, who graduated from Angelina College with a 5HJLVWHUHG 1XUVH OLFHQVH 6KH KDV VHUYHG /XI NLQ DQG WKH VXUURXQGLQJ FRPPXQLWLHV LQ various health care settings and now enjoys working as a traveling nurse. Ty is a current member of the Lufkin Lions Club and Ty and Stephanie both currently serve as youth sponsors at Luf kin’s First Christian Church, where they are members. In their spare time they can be found at estate sales, garage sales and auctions in the East Texas area. While serving the many families of East Texas, Ty has developed a deep understanding of their unique needs, and feels the best way to meet them is through exceptional service and reasonable prices. He wants families to understand that funerals do not have to be as expensive as they are. In addition to traditional funeral and cremation services, they offer pre-arranged funerals and accept pre-needs from other funeral homes. To better serve our diverse communities, they also offer bilingual services. Throughout his journey in the funeral business, Ty has discovered one of the best ways to serve families is by having exceptional staff with the passion to serve. Their handpicked staff members are not only great at what they do, but also truly care for families as if they were their own. The community is encouraged to come by, have a cup of coffee and enjoy fellowship with the Shafers and their staff.
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Kellsey Smitherman Saltzman wearing Badgley Mischka photo by Jenni Blackledge
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COMMUNITY : Marriages
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Advice
“‘Love’ has to be a commitment of the will. Early on you think you need to change your spouse, but then you realize you just need to accept them for who they are. In fact, their differences help stretch you. Marriage exposes your selfcenteredness, even through the years you are just peeling back the layers like an onion. As a young married man you want to be right, but as an older man you just want to be happy. So just learn to love your spouse for who they are. It may be you that needs to change! We have discovered that you must make your relationship a priority – above your job and even the kids. You cannot take your relationship for granted. Your spouse is your greatest gift in this life. There is no greater blessing than having someone to walk with through life. So live each day with that in mind. Even after 31 years, you have to give it attention. As empty nesters, we are spending more time together – doing things we couldn’t do when the kids were at home. We have loved getting to go on trips to New York City and San Francisco.”
“When I married Jansen on August 3, 1974, I saw marriage as a sacred commitment and couldn’t wait to start our life together. He was finishing his second year of medical school and I had recently graduated from Colorado State University. I was on board and ready for the good, the bad….. and the nitty gritty. But looking back I realize that we couldn’t begin to know where this journey was going to take us. No young couple can. It became more and more evident to me as time went on just how much courage it takes to be in a marriage. It is the most intimate relationship we will ever be in and “core issues” must be faced to take a marriage to the next level. As each year passes, I become more and more aware that a successful and meaningful marriage isn’t because a couple is lucky or because they picked the perfect match. It is because of HARD WORK and dedication to the big picture. It is hanging on for dear life when we find ourselves going through a dark and difficult time. We were blessed with six children in 9 years. Tragedy struck on April 3, 1996 when, after 22 years of marriage, our second oldest, Scott, died at the age of 17. There is nothing to prepare a couple for the loss of a child. It will test you in a way you could never imagine. Again, looking back, I am so thankful we survived such a crisis. During that time we rarely were strong at the same time. We had to pretty much take turns being strong for each other. It tested every moral fiber of our being. Our marriage being our touchstone took on a whole new meaning. The couples who are “meant to be” are the ones who have gone through adversity and come out stronger than before. “
Darryl & Amy Smith, 31 years of marriage
Dr. Jansen & Patricia Todd, 40 years of marriage
“We have four children, so our thought processes are constantly on our children. We have to work to remember to find time for our relationship. Don’t ever take your relationship for granted. It is special and sacred. Marriage is a give and take thing with each other. Learn to always think about your spouse and do nice things for them, big or small. Also find a strong church family and pursue your faith together.” Sarah & David Ash, 25 years of marriage
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rom flowers and cakes to catering and specialty beverages, your local Brookshire Brothers is your one-stop location for your wedding planning needs. Not only do our florists create beautiful arrangements and bouquets to match any décor, but our cake decorators design and assemble everything from specialty cupcakes and groom’s cakes to elaborate multi-tiered wedding cakes. The catering department is also available to prepare delicious hot and cold hors d’oeuvres, lunches, and dinners with buffet or plated service available for 50 – 500 guests. To top it all off, our specialty beverage department can assist you with ordering any beer or wine needed for your reception.
Stop by our booth at the 2016 East Texas Bridal Fair on January 10th at the Pitser Garrison Convention Center in Lufkin and let our experienced experts help take away the stress of planning your special day!
Helpful Dos and Don’ts of Wedding Planning: DO: Book EARLY >MV]M[¼ IVL ^MVLWZ[¼ calendars fill up quickly during busy seasons such as May, June, November, and December, so be sure to contact them early once you have your wedding date chosen!
DO: Have a realistic budget and work within your budget Throwing a great reception does not have to break your wedding budget. Be realistic about the cost and availability for special requests or outof-season items (especially ÆW_MZ[ 5W[\ KI\MZMZ[ IVL vendors will be able to give tips for keeping costs down or suggesting other options that work within your budget.
DO: Choose what YOU like
DO: Have a plan for bad weather
Talk to your caterer about [XMKQÅK Q\MU[ aW] _W]TL like to have at your reception and build the menu from there. Don’t be pressured to choose something you really don’t want (or to omit something that you do).
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DON’T: Get bogged down in the details and forget to enjoy your day Congratulations and best wishes as you plan not only for your special day, but for your marriage!
COMMUNITY : Planning
Tips
Financial Advice for Newlyweds!
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fter all the excitement from the wedding settles down, it’s time for the newlyweds to start settling in to their new life as Mr. and Mrs. Of course, this means coming together financially as well. Whether you are joining your bank accounts, setting a budget, or dealing with insurance policies, money can often be a stressful subject for newlyweds. However, with some sound financial advice and clear goals, you and your spouse can navigate this part of your marriage smoothly. We had some of our local financial advisors give us some of their best tips for newlyweds.
“It’s always a good idea to let your insurance agent know you’re updated marriage status for several reasons. First, regarding your auto insurance, if the husband is under 25 years old, he gets a better rate if he is listed as married on his policy. Similarly, if the wife is under 21 years old, she gets a better rate if she is listed as married on her policy. In my opinion, the most important reason to notify your agent regarding marriage status is to set up an appointment to purchase life insurance. After marriage, your life insurance needs usually change drastically, and the younger you purchase the life insurance the less M`XMV[Q^M Q\ _QTT JM -^MZa aMIZ aW] _IQ\ \W X]ZKPI[M KW^MZIOM \PM UWZM M`XMV[Q^M Q\ OM\[ I[[]UQVO aW]¼ZM insurable!” – Kurt Morgan, Texas Farm Bureau Insurance
“As you start talking about your finances, be sure to cover these areas: • Separate or joint checking/savings accounts — ;WUM KW]XTM[ KZMI\M RWQV\ KPMKSQVO IVL [I^QVO[ accounts, others keep everything separate and still W\PMZ[ NQVL I UQLLTM OZW]VL ¸ RWQV\ IKKW]V\[ ITWVO with smaller, separate accounts. There’s really no one “right” way for everyone, but whichever method you choose, make sure you’re both aware of where your money is, how it can be accessed, and by whom. • Debts — Both you and your spouse may be bringing in debts, such as student loans or credit cards, to the marriage. You don’t necessarily have to do everything possible to get rid of these debts immediately, but you should set up reasonable payment plans that will allow you to lower your overall debt load so you can free up money to invest for the future. • Spending and saving — Newlyweds are often surprised to discover how different they are from each other in the area of spending versus saving. You don’t have to try to radically change each other, but you both need to be aware that your spending and saving decisions now have greater consequences than when you were both single. To illustrate: If one of you is more of a spender and is used to running up big credit card bills, these actions can clearly affect both of you. To avoid problems of this type, you will need to communicate clearly with each other.” – Vince Treadwell, Edward Jones Financial Advisor
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Welcome Your Guests to
East Texas Eastt Texas is a warm and welcoming location for wedding guests. s There are many great ways to add a local touch to your y wedding. Here are a few ideas to get you started: • Atkinson Candy • Big Thicket Brewery Beer • Rattlesnake Ranch Pecans • Mahattan's Salad Dressing ct • Confections or Grandough Cookies S • Sweets from Shelley's Bakery • MarTeres Almond Tea
"We created welcome baskets for hotel rooms of out of town guests. We included a map of Lufkin, popular attractions, a Texas shaped cookie and a bottle of water with our monogram. Guests took home a jar of local honey." – Claire Brody, Life & Design
"You could give local honey, blue bonnets and a little hand towel with pine trees or a deer silhouette." – Tiffani & Melissa, Burlap & Besties
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HELPFUL HINTS No doubt that every bride and groom have some advice to share after planning and experiencing their big day. Learn from the wonderful ideas of others and the not so good ones, as well!
Big Day “Have a personal attendant. This is a girl who is with you and your bridesmaids during the entire wedding _MMSMVL 0MZ RWJ Q[ \W PMTX aW]Z LIa be as perfect as you’ve dreamed and to do the things that you (and your bridesmaids) simply cannot. I know it sounds selfish, but it’s not. As The Bride, you have planned this day for months and you can’t make sure that every detail happens. You and your bridesmaids are trying to get ready for pictures and the ceremony. Your parents IZM TQSMTa \ISQVO KIZM WN Ă…VIT LMKWZI\QWV[ payments and getting themselves ready. Your coordinator or planner is trying to make sure everyone is in the right place at the right time. As tasks IZM XTIVVML IVL ]VM`XMK\ML \PQVO[ come up, it is a huge help to have someone available to help make your day happen! If you choose the right person, (someone who is always ready and willing to help and who you would trust with your life!) you’ll be so glad you did. Be sure to make her feel as valued and important as she is. I PIL JZQLM[UIQL[ WV [\IOM QV Ua _MLLQVO J]\ ZMITTa OQZT[ [\WWL Ja my side that day. Having a personal attendant was one of the best decisions I made for my wedding day!â€? – Courtney Mendoza, Married 1 year
“A wedding doesn’t have to break the bank to be beautiful and memorable. Be creative. Incorporate friends and family. Borrow items if possible. Keep it simple. Personally, I would rather spend the bulk of my money on a fantastic honeymoon. We didn’t have much money to spend on a wedding, so we came up with some good solutions. I borrowed the perfect wedding gown for me. Some of my family members made the flower bouquets and boutonnieres, baked and decorated the wedding cake (which looked professional), prepared the food for the reception, and my uncle married us. It was a very sweet, beautiful, and meaningful wedding. My two regrets were, I didn’t have a wedding coordinator to help oversee the process or a great photographer to capture all the special moments and lasting memories. A good wedding coordinator would have reduced my stress level, so I wouldn’t have had to run around getting last minute things ready.� – Bonnie Rhome, 5IZZQML aMIZ[
“Growing up, I never imagined planning a wedding would be stressful. I thought it would be so much fun! While it was fun, it was also very overwhelming at times. Almost every person will have a different opinion on every little part of your big day. What did I take from this? It’s not their big day, it is a day for you and your best friend! I got swept away in the opinions of others and trying to make it easier for them when it was my day! Also, if people offer to help... LET THEM! Our wedding was honestly more than I ever could have asked for, and it was all because we had such wonderful friends and family who truly stepped up to make all our dreams come true! But always remember it is okay to tell them if you don’t like something. Again, it is your wedding! You only get married once, and it is a day you will look back on for the rest of your TQNM -VRWa Q\ JMKI][M Q\ \Z]Ta OWM[ Ja faster than you could imagine! My embarrassing moment? My wedding planner suggested a game on the dance floor‌ Spin the bottle. Whoever the bottle landed on had to go dance in the center of the circle. The horrific moment happened when \PM JW\\TM [\WXXML WV Ua aMIZ WTL 2Z bridesmaid who was very scared to dance by herself ! I went with her, and when we went to back up to our spots as we finished, I tripped! I can’t even begin to tell you how hard I tried to catch my balance. Didn’t happen. I busted it in front of everyone - in the middle of the dance floor! It was such an embarrassing moment, and one I thought I’d never live down. Now I look back, and it’s quite funny! Biggest day of my life and I fell! (And no adult beverages were involved!)â€?
š:MUMUJMZQVO JIKS aMIZ[ I\ Ua sweet and simple wedding, I can only think about how handsome my husband looked, feeling God’s presence throughout the ceremony, and thinking about ALL we were going to do for God together. Now that’s the most important part of the wedding, right? Of course it is- but the other details of the wedding? Hmmm...If I could change anything or do something LQNNMZMV\' <PM KWTWZ[ <PM \]` <PM honeymoon! What was I thinking? Peach and light blue!! Yikes! (Well, it _I[ ! Q\ _I[ WS \PMV J]\ TWWSQVO at pictures...oh my goodness!!) Ohand letting my husband choose the KWTWZ WN \PM OZWWU[UMVŸ[ \]`M[ TQOP\ blue! Ha! And my poor bridesmaids! Please- allow your bridesmaids to choose their own dress! Now- what about the honeymoon? Being short on funds, we decided to R][\ OW \W /IT^M[\WV VW _WZZQM[ _M would still have a fantastic trip! Wrong!!! My advice? Always check the date of your wedding to make sure it’s not the week of spring break for ->-:A [\]LMV\ ]VLMZ \PM IOM WN to be traveling to the same place AND same hotel as you are. After 2 evenings of all-night parties outside our room, fire alarms going off, and giving up 2 days to track down and confront the hotel manager to get our money back so we could leave- we finally found a quiet hotel for the rest of our trip. Redo? Yes! Find a way to go somewhere amazing! (You may never get the opportunity again- make some amazing fantastic memories!)� – Tammy Jo Willmon, 5IZZQML aMIZ[
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his November I had the honor of giving the toast at my Meridith’s wedding. Meridith is my cousin….though she’s more like a sister in that we fight like there’s no tomorrow, borrow each other’s clothes and don’t return them and somehow, and inevitably, end up on the same cycle. It was one of the sweetest weddings I’ve ever been to or maybe it was just the way they looked at each other. My duty – other than doing the brides hair which is STRESSFUL – was to write the toast. The picture attached is even of the moment she joined me for some live singing of our favorite song. It was awesome! (FYI: I’m a killer toast writer. And I can be purchased for parties and bar mitzvahs.) Here’s what I said…to my Meridith…on the happiest day of her life: The definition of harmony is the sounding of two or more musical notes at the same time in a sound that is pleasing and desired.
octave,” - if you’ve ever said those things you are doing Aural Theory.
But here’s the interesting part that UQOP\ UISM W]Z NIUQTa R][\ I _MM JQ\ different than most: We harmonize. Meridith took it, too. She passed the Now we don’t harmonize a little. For ÅZ[\ \QUM 1V NIK\ [PM XZWJIJTa ¹VMZLMLº instance, we don’t sing along to a song 1 PI^M Ua *IKPMTWZ¼[ LMOZMM QV >WKIT out so much in it that she tutored people. and occasionally slip in an alto part. Performance and I still had to look that That’s the difference in Mer and me. Oh no! We straight up harmonize. up. Why? Because I failed Aural Theory She could always hear the lovely things Have you ever been in Cheddars when three times. One. Two. Three. Aural that I couldn’t. And that’s what I want one of us has had a birthday? You Theory is the ability to hear something \W KMTMJZI\M UW[\ QV \PM VM`\ NM_ UQV]\M[ should. It’s glorious. We each take a and name it. For instance when you of this toast. Meridith’s ability to be part. My mom will take an alto line listen to a beautiful piece of music and everything I never could be. and Meridith will slip into that high you love how the melody dips down tenor and then the Queen of Parts – you might say, “I love it when it goes One of the most beautiful things in Melba White – will slip in on those low into that minor right there,” or “Listen music is the harmony. VW\M[ <PMZM [PM Q[°R][\ TQSM +IQ\TaV \W PW_ +MTQVM ,QWV KIV R]UX \PI\ Trust me, even if you don’t know music, Jenner…bringing up the bass. there have been times when you’ve But not me. I never sing parts. I might heard a harmony line and it’s moved WKKI[QWVITTa J]\ ! \QUM[ W]\ WN 1 you to tears. You don’t know why and sing the melody line. Why? Because I we don’t really understand how, but can’t hear parts - not like Meridith harmonies do that. They coincide - they KIV ?M¼^M IT_Ia[ RWSML IJW]\ Q\ meet up - at a crucial moment to create About how much my dad spent on my a lovely sound. That’s my relationship education and I still can’t hear a part. with the bride. 7Z \PMa¼TT [Ia ¹<PI\¼[ R][\ 5MTQ[[I¼[ Music is important in our family, and 5MZQLQ\P IVL 1' ?- 47>- 5=;1+ We love to sing it. Dance to it. Buy tickets to go hear it. Rock out to it like only two middle aged white women in I .WZL -`XMLQ\QWV IVL _M KIV XZM\\a much sum up any particular season of our life with a song.
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way of always getting the solos.” But I think it’s because I can’t hear the beautiful parts like Meridith can. And so, for all of my life Meridith has been my harmony. The beautiful part. Not the lead.
Not the big huge power ballad solo. The quiet, steady, sneaks up on you and blows you away harmony line.
Meridith, tonight my toast is to you. And I want you to know there is no one who has provided me with more melodious moments in my life – than you.
She has harmonized with me through [WUM WN TQNM¼[ UW[\ LQNNQK]T\ IVL RWaW][ moments. When I brought Rocco Cooper PWUM NZWU \PM PW[XQ\IT IVL PM _W]TL R][\ not stop crying and I couldn’t bond with PQU IVL 1 _I[ M`PI][\ML [PM \WWS PQU and loved him and rocked him to sleep every night. And I would hear her sing \W PQU )VL 1 _I[ RMITW][ WN PW_ [WUMtimes she could also sing the lead.
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We have harmonized at bedsides and gravesides, bathtubs and baby bottles. She’s played harmony and I’ve played the lead and that’s how it’s always worked. It makes her feel comfortable to know that if people are going to throw tomatoes, they’re going to hit the lead singer. And I’ve always felt comfortable knowing that if I needed support, she was the voice beside me.
And I’m sorry for trying to get you to go WV 0ITTW_MMV I[ -TNIJI R][\ [W 1 KW]TL go as the pretty witch, and I’m sorry that I sung Popular to you for two straight years because I said it depicted our lives so well. (Please no one Google the lyrics of that song, it makes me look really bad.)
I’m sorry for pantsing you that one time in front of Buddy Timme and you cried in the bathroom for an hour. I’m sorry for convincing you to let me KWTWZ aW]Z PIQZ W]\ WN I JW` \PZMM \QUM[ in one night.
There are more things - as you so eloquently remind me from time to time - but I’d like to take this time to tell you that I Many, many nights after The Bachelor love you. You are not my cousin, nor have _I[ W^MZ _M¼L \]ZV \PM <> WNN X]\ \PM you ever been. I’m so happy for you and Blue Bell back in the freezer, and she’d Jake. You are stunning tonight. Everyone slip on her shoes and coat and leave my I know and everyone I have ever known house. I’d pray, “Where is he, God? What and loved would be so proud of you right is he doing right now? Because there’s no here in this moment. And so no matter one better than her. And if that idiot on what life throws at you, no matter how the Bachelor can find love, there better you ever feel about yourself at any given be some left over for Meridith.” And then, moment or if I scoot you over and tell 5MZQLQ\P R][\ TQSM \PM PIZUWVa TQVM WN aW] aW]¼ZM [\IVLQVO QV Ua TQOP\ R][\ SVW_ any great piece of music, it snuck up on that YOU, Meridith Ann, are the prettiest aW]° JMKI][M PIZUWVa Q[ _PMV I\ R][\ line in any song. \PM XMZNMK\ UWUMV\ \PQVO[ R][\ QV\MZ[MK\ and God makes something beautiful from what could have been so plain. When he takes an ordinary line and adds color to it. When he takes a birthday song in Cheddars and makes a family moment out of it.
Melissa
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Melissa Radke is married to the best looking man in town, whom she affectionately refers to as The Attorney General. They have two children, Remi and Rocco; you have probably seen their picture in the Most Wanted list at your local schools. She loves movie popcorn, telling her friends what to do with their hair and being the center of attention. You can find her anytime at melissa@lufkin.org or Chik-fil-A. You are encouraged to ask for her autograph. In fact, she insists.
written by Angie Nichols
LIFE : Something
Abundant
One and Only “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.� Deuteronomy 6:4
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am both fascinated and captivated by weddings. They are usually dreamy and romantic. I’m such a sucker for love. I always cry. There is also great people watching at weddings, too. Some of the most deliciously awkward moments I’ve M`XMZQMVKML QV ZMIT TQ^M IK\QWV _MZM I\ weddings. The stakes are holy and high, so humans often humiliate themselves under the pressure.
tying her to a tree. “The blackening of the bride� as they call it, supposedly reveals that if you can handle this you can handle anything, including marriage. When I visited West Africa, I learned it is customary for the brides of the Fulani people group to run away from their weddings, often a number of times, and then wail and scream as their grooms bring them back.
Recently after teaching a Bible study We’re all familiar with the traditional based on the ancient Jewish wedding “something old, something new, some- and its implications for Christ’s bride thing borrowed, and something blue.� in the current generation, a woman in *]\ aW] UQOP\ VW\ JM I_IZM R][\ PW_ attendance taught me about a more much wedding traditions vary between modern Jewish wedding custom. I fell in generations, cultures, religions, and love, full swoon. She said it is customary [WKQIT KTI[[M[ .WZ M`IUXTM QV ;_MLMV in many Jewish wedding ceremonies for it is traditional for the groom to disappear \PM JZQLM IN\MZ [PM RWQV[ PMZ OZWWU Israelites into the Promised Land. during part of the ceremony. Then all under the wedding canopy, to walk Jericho, a city known as the key to the land, was protected by a massive wall. the unmarried young men are allowed around him seven times. When there seemed to be no way to kiss the bride. A pre-marital ritual in parts of Scotland includes the bride’s The tradition of the bride circling her in, and impossible to conquer, God friends covering her with sour milk, husband-to-be is reminiscent of the commanded the Israelites to walk garbage, and other gross stuff and then Biblical story of Joshua leading the around the wall seven times. A miracle
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occurred upon their obedience. The walls crumbled and the Israelites were able to take the city. The wedding tradition of seven circuits symbolizes the bride’s power over her groom. By encircling him with love and affection, placing him in the center of her attention, and the anchor of her new life as a wife, she pierces his impression of impenetrability and crumbles his defensive emotional walls. With these circles, the bride is creating an invisible protection around her husband; QV\W _PQKP [PM _QTT [\MX \W \PM M`KT][QWV WN all others. For the LORD has created a new thing on the earth: a woman encircles a man. Jeremiah 31:22 God created marriage and performed the first wedding. God is love. He is romantic from alpha all the way to omega. “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
the only way to ever after eternal life. “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.” Songs 4:9 Only you can give your heart, tell your story, present your offering, and fulfill your call...to an audience of One. The One and Only I Am. Flawless one, make yourself ready. The wedding is announced. Your invitation’s ILLZM[[ Q[ :M^MTI\QWV !"!
The Wedding of the Lamb Place: At the glassy sea Date: Soon. TBD by the Father RS VP: One
Since Adam and Eve’s Eden garden event, M^MZa _MLLQVO [aUJWTQbM[ \PM RWQVQVO WN \_W lives into one and provides a sacred and holy WJRMK\ TM[[WV" <PM [\WZa WN \PM ;WV WN /WL who came down from His heavenly throne, to woo and rescue His wayward Bride. He WNNMZML 0Q[ XMZNMK\ TQNM QV M`KPIVOM NWZ aW]Z broken one. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Ephesians 5:25-27 At the heart of the matter, a bride is the chosen one of her one and only husband. As the bride of Christ, you can be assured you are the one who wholly won His holy heart...simply by believing upon Him as
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Angie Nichols is the founder of Something Abundant Ministries, serving women through worship, ministry, and Biblical teaching and the author of Something Abundant: growing from a child of God to the bride of Christ. Her passion is for women to know the beauty of an abundant life knowing Christ as Bridegroom. She is married to Chris and they have one daughter, Mycah. For more information, to read Angie’s blog, or book speaking events visit: somethingabundantministries.org
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wedding is all about two people beginning their lives together. There are a million ways to have a beautiful wedding, but there are very few ways to personalize it to the couple's story. Take the time to really think about what makes the bride and groom special. Is there a special hobby, interest, color, or family story. Let all those little details of the couple's story unfold during the wedding.
Julianne Favors | Photo by Beth McElhannon Photography
"Julianne had a blue heart that we stitched underneath her dress. John's dad, Julianne's Grandpa (Dr. Bob Rhodes), passed away in his sleep on April 20. He was 89. Some of our best friends had given Julianne and Dallas an engagement party on April 4th, and Papa wanted to say a few words at the party!! Julianne was so nervous about him talking...a little afraid of what he was going to say...but Papa got "his way" and grabbed the microphone from Bryan Harkness to say a few words. He talked of his love for Julianne and of the first time he met Dallas! It was a very sweet talk and at the end, he said, "The most important thing in this life is to love and be loved in return." We all missed him so for the wedding, but a few weeks before Julianne asked about getting one of Papa's dress shirts so we could cut a heart out of it and stitch it to her dress. We found a blue shirt and his initials were on the front pocket. That's what we used, and it was a very special moment for her and for all of us. *After the wedding, we actually had Papa's notes that he had scribbled out in long hand for this talk. Julianne has framed it, and it's hanging in their new home." - Julie Rhoades, Mother of the Bride "I just loved the details from this wedding, from little 'yay' flags for the send off, to a copper mail box for the cards, to super unique big bloom peonies." - Sarah Williams, Silhouette Studio "Fireworks are my favorite thing to have seen at a wedding." - Jenni Blackledge "One of the sweetest things I have seen at a wedding is a groom serenading his bride." - Anna Dean
OTHER IDEAS: • Provide tissues or monogram hankerchiefs for "Tears of Joy." • Make custom place cards that double as the party favor. For instance, a thin cut piece of wood that can be used as a Christmas ornament. • Make a donation to a charity in honor of each guest.
Meredith & Jerry Fehlker | Photo by Anna Dean Photography
Regan & Brett | Photo by The Silhouette Studio
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ll brides want their guests to enjoy the wedding day. Friends and loved ones play a huge role in the wedding day.While you’re celebrating your spouse, talking with family and friends, and dancing the night away, don’t forget all the little ones you invited, too! Here are some ways to make sure the kiddos have a blast during the wedding (and mom and dad will appreciate them too!).
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“In God We Trust” Stickers After an overwhelming show of support from Angelina County’s citizens, the City Council approved placing “In God We Trust” stickers on each of the city’s police cars. The Supreme Court, the Governor, and the Attorney General all agreed upon the legality of this act. As deputies in Lufkin realized what was happening in our nation, they asked to place the stickers on their own cars. County Sheriff, Greg Sanches, and the Sheriff’s department placed a notice on Facebook to see how the community would respond.
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BUSINESS : Newsworthy "In God We Trust" Stickers /// Continued
“It was overwhelming throughout Angelina County that citizens were in favor of putting the ‘In God We Trust’ stickers on our patrol cars. On the day the decision was made in Council, people showed up in numbers waiting for it to be approved. Even Pastors from our area showed up to give support.�
“It’s our national motto, our history, our heritage, and part of our nation’s foundation. Our deputies put their lives on the line every day for the safety of \PM KWUU]VQ\a <PQ[ R][\ [PW_[ \PI\ people still believe in God and in our deputies and officers. They believe that their safety is also important.�
Now that the City of Lufkin has approved the sticker, other surrounding counties are petitioning for the same thing. Many have already started placing the stickers on their patrol cars.
Lufkin’s Assistant Police Chief, David Thomas, also shared his thoughts on the history behind the phrase and the meaning of the sticker.
The red “In God We Trustâ€? sticker was designed by Real Graphics of Lufkin and has been placed on every county deputy car. Even the Fire Department is displaying the sticker on their vehicles. To Greg ;IVKPM[ Q\Âź[ UWZM \PIV R][\ I [\QKSMZ J]\ a demonstration of faith and support for those who serve our area in uniform.
“’In God We Trust’ became the United ;\I\M[ VI\QWVIT UW\\W WV 2]Ta ! shortly after our nation led the world through the trauma of World War II.The words have been used on U.S. currency [QVKM IVL \PM [IUM QV[XQZQVO [TWOIV is engraved above the entrance to the Senate Chamber as well as above the Speaker’s dais in the House of Representatives. In
both war and peace, these words have been a profound source of strength and guidance to many generations of Americans. The City desires to display this patriotic motto in the Council Chambers and on Emergency Services vehicles as a way to solemnize public occasions and M`XZM[[ KWVNQLMVKM QV W]Z [WKQM\a <PM goal of the Lufkin Police Department is for the citizens of Lufkin to know that W]Z W‍ٝ‏KMZ[ IZM XZWNM[[QWVIT IVL PWVWZIJTM men and women with or without the decal on the car.â€? The Police Department does not make any profit on the decals, and they are now standard issue on the Department’s vehicles. If you would also like to show your support, the “In God We Trust Stickersâ€? are available at Real Graphics and Grizzly’s.
(Special Thanks to Sheriff Greg Sanches and Asst. Police Chief David Thomas for their contributions to this article.)
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BUSINESS : Chamber
News
The Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce recently held a Ribbon +]\\QVO KMZMUWVa NWZ <PM .W` ,MV =X\WV ;\ ! Ashley Green, Candi Pickens and Maribel Ribera welcomed sponsors, Chamber members and guests.
The Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce recently held a Ribbon Cutting ceremony for the Accolade Hospice Room at Stallings Court 0MIT\P :MPIJQTQ\I\QWV 6 - ;\ITTQVO[ ,Z ! ! )KKWTILM 0W[XQKM ;ITM[ -`MK]\Q^M 2IKSQ :IUQZMb IVL ;\ITTQVO[ +W]Z\ ,QZMK\WZ WN Business Development Amanda Badders, Administrator Justin Eastepp, IVL )LUQ[[QWV[ +WWZLQVI\WZ >ITMVKQI *Ia[QVOMZ _MTKWUML [XWV[WZ[ Chamber members and guests.
The Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce recently held a Ribbon +]\\QVO KMZMUWVa NWZ 8QVMa_WWL[ 0QLMI_Ia *ML *ZMISNI[\ +W]V\a :WIL ! ! ___ XQVMa_WWL[PQLMI_Ia KWU Innkeepers Robert and Ann Johnson welcomed sponsors, Chamber members and guests.
The Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce recently held a Ribbon +]\\QVO KMZMUWVa NWZ ,MZUI\WTWOa )[[WKQI\M[ WN 6IKWOLWKPM[ 6WZ\P ;\ ;\M QV 6WZ\P >QTTIOM 5IZSM\ ! ___ dermatologynac.com. Michaela Overturf, MD, and her staff welcomed sponsors, Chamber members and guests.
Luf kin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce held a ribbon cutting ceremony for Moe’s Southwest Grill.
Luf kin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce held a ribbon cutting ceremony for Chala Sports & Family Chiropractic.
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BUSINESS : Preserving
History
Richard DeWitt Purchases Hotel Fredonia
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ichard DeWitt first visited The Fredonia Hotel as a child, and the impression it made on him stayed with him throughout his life.
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BUSINESS : In
the Know
LOCAL NEWS & LEGISLATIVE UPDATES TRENT ASHBY| TEXAS STATE REPRESENTATIVE
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to make local decisions about what works best in their communities as it pertains to setting their own individual academic calendars. Several weeks ago, I wrote about how \PM <M`I[ )OZQK]T\]ZM +WUUQ[[QWVMZ _I[ planning on raising fees for certain cost recovery programs administered by the <M`I[ ,MXIZ\UMV\ WN )OZQK]T\]ZM <PM[M programs are critically important to our state and they help our agriculture industry and rural economy thrive. At a recent Senate hearing, Commissioner Miller outlined why he felt these fee increases were necessary, and while I do have a better understanding of his position, I still believe raising fees by over $21 million in this biennium is unnecessary as there are other options available. The rising costs will negatively impact economic growth and will ultimately be borne by consumers. Numerous legislators from around the state have voiced concerns, but Commissioner Miller has decided to move forward with the increases, which will take effect on January 1st. While he
has the constitutional authority to make this decision, I disagree with it, and I believe Q\ Q[ IV Q[[]M \PI\ \PM <M`I[ 4MOQ[TI\]ZM _QTT certainly take another look at when we ZMKWV^MVM NWZ \PM VM`\ TMOQ[TI\Q^M [M[[QWV If you are in need, please know that my WNNQKM Q[ IT_Ia[ R][\ I XPWVM KITT I_Ia and we always appreciate your input and are ready for the opportunity to help you navigate state government. Please do not PM[Q\I\M \W KWV\IK\ ][ I\ ! WZ QN _M KIV M^MZ JM WN assistance, and remember that our door is always open.
The Clardy Family | (L to R) Luke, Gus, Judy, Travis, Leah, John, and Blake Clardy
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ach year Judy and I love watching the Nacogdoches Nine Flags Christmas Parade from our balcony, but this year I got a different perspective as the Grand Marshall which was great! Over the holidays, as Judy and I reminisced, we loved to count the many blessings we have received. We are delighted with the special blessing in our lives of the marriage of our oldest son, Blake, to his lovely Leah. We RWaN]TTa _MTKWUM I LI]OP\MZ \W W]Z NIUQTa WN NW]Z [WV[ 1 IU JTM[[ML J]\ IT[W P]UJTML Ja \PM \Z][\ and responsibility given to me to serve as state representative for Cherokee, Nacogdoches and Rusk counties. It challenges me every day to endeavor to listen more carefully, seek greater wisdom, and to lead more boldly. Thank you to all who have offered encouragement, prayers and kind words of support. From our family to aW]Z[ 2]La IVL 1 _Q[P aW] I 0IXXa IVL 8ZW[XMZW][ 6M_ AMIZ QV
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PLACES & FACES : The
Lufkin Dream Center Christmas Eve Feed
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in East Texas 66 NATURE'S EYE | 68 FITNESS | 70 TACTICAL | 71 TROPHY ROOM
SPORTS & OUTDOORS
NEIGHBOR ENVY There’s nothing quite like the feeling of pulling up at camp with a mature buck in the back of your truck.
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SPORTS & OUTDOORS : Nature's
Neighbor Envy /// Continued
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`KMX\ UIaJM _ITSQVO ]X with a gobbler slung over your shoulder, or stepping out of your boat with a wet retriever at your side and a limit of mallards in hand. There’s also nothing quite like the feeling of watching your neighbor do all of those things while you sit empty-handed, wondering why the grass is greener on his side of the fence. Making the transition from M`XMZQMVKQVO VMQOPJWZ MV^a aW]Z[MTN to becoming the one to be envied is simpler than you may think. Most likely you already have an idea of what you want your property to be. Maybe you’ve envisioned it
as a wildlife haven or as a weekend getaway spot for the family. You can see the potential everywhere you look, but are unsure how to make the vision a reality. You need a plan. AW] VMML [WUM M`XMZ\ IL^QKM IVL maybe even a helping hand. A well-constructed management plan is the first and most critical step in realizing your property’s full potential. Management plans can encompass anything from wildlife habitat, to timber, to livestock. To construct a good management plan, first define your short-term and long-term goals and then outline the management activities needed to achieve them. Your plan should
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be built around your vision, so you need someone who understands you and what you want to write it. Your management plan will be the basis for everything you do to manage your property. It will serve as a guide to keep you focused on your ^Q[QWV I [KPML]TM \W UI`QUQbM aW]Z efficiency, an instruction manual for management activities, and a resource for valuable knowledge. Once you have a solid plan, the rest will fall into place. This is the key to unlocking your property’s full potential and making your neighbor wonder why the grass on your side of the fence seems so much greener.
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Strict Vs. Kipping Pull-ups
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pullups are important is that they are functional. No firefighter has ever kipped themselves into the window of a burning building. Strict pull-ups are supreme and should be developed before adding the dynamic movement of the kip. Kipping pullups are primarily used for metabolic conditioning and should not be used for developing strength. They are highly technical, very powerful, and brutal anaerobic training. They are the sprints to our upper body. While the actual movement of the kipping pull-up may not directly carry over into everyday life, the stamina it develops will. A firefighter will also need that stamina and endurance to [I^M TQ^M[ ?PMV M`MK]\ML KWZZMK\Ta
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Denise Wright doing strict and kipping pull-ups
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SPORTS & OUTDOORS : Tactical
AIMING FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE Couples shooting is one of the best ways to unify two people in their relationship. When you spend time together with no television and no interruptions, you’re able to stay focused on each other. It builds a stronger connection that only you two have together. There are many different types of shooting available to couples out there.
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ne type of couples’ shooting that truly builds togetherness is Skeet shooting. This is a shotgun style of shooting where a small clay target known as a “pigeon” is launched into the air from a machine. With this style of shooting you have a few different \aXM[ aW] KIV OW _Q\P <PMZM Q[ R][\ ZMO]TIZ WTL <ZIX _PMZM you have 25 targets and 25 shots. Then you have others that change things up. Skeet has multiple targets from different stands. Then there are sporting clays and five stand. This style of shooting can provide hours of fun and recreation for a couple. Another type of shooting is mainly a competitive style of shooting. There are many organizations that hold different shooting competitions not only across the state, but across the country. A couple could travel to any state IVL NQVL I KWUXM\Q\QWV TWKI\QWV .W]Z 0 ..) 6:) IVL 1,8) IZM R][\ I few of the organizations that hold competitions. The main style of shooting that I suggest for couples is defensive shooting. The only thing that makes your home a safe place is you. Learning to defend your spouse and your family is an essential tool that every one should learn. To do this as a couple not only secures your family, but also builds a much OZMI\MZ \Z][\ JM\_MMV XIZ\VMZ[ \PIV VWZUIT M`\ZIK]ZZQK]TIZ IK\Q^Q\QM[ Here at Perfect Shoot we not only support shooters, but we instruct them. We offer a home defense course where every member of your family is encouraged to participate. We will instruct you in the best way about the most effective use of all the firearms that can defend your home. That is _PMZM \PM UIRWZQ\a WN PWUM LMNMV[M KW]Z[M[ _QTT TMI^M aW] _Q\P \PI\ knowledge. This is good to have, however here at Perfect Shoot, we like to go above and beyond. After you receive instruction on the range, our instructor will accompany you to your home and show you the best way to defend your home. Your home is your castle; you are the only thing making it secure.
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SPORTS & OUTDOORS : Trophy
Room
Send a photo of your trophy hunt & information to photos@tjmag.com. Submissions are free of charge.
Devin Trotti, Sam Shupak, Ben Stokes, Jeff Brantner, Carter Willmon, Brandon Schmidt, Nolan Collins, and Britt Williams. Mixed bag of 48 ducks on Public Hunting Ground in North Texas.
Jeremy Johnson. 9 pt, score 157. Bow kill. Bullard, TX.
Devin Trotti, Ben Stokes, Carter Willmon, and Brandon Schmidt. 16 Geese and 10 ducks in a field in South Western Oklahoma.
Ainsley Stuck, 9 yrs old, shot her 1st deer while hunting with her dad, Jason Stuck, on family land.
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Payton Foster’s 8pt Mills County buck.
Dr. Kerry Evans Kansas Mule deer