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GROOMING TIPS FOR THE GROOM Looking fabulous on your wedding day is a fundamental key to life-long happiness. The wedding pictures will last more than one lifetime, and the opportunity to plan for a picture perfect day is YOURS! Delux caught up with Tami Scott, a renowned St. Louis Wedding Stylist extraordinaire, and got for a few tips. “First of all, don’t look for hair styles or make up applications that are completely different than what you would normally want to look like. The best way to think about this is that you will want to look like yourself, only absolutely perfect. Keep your hair type in mind. If you get frizzy in the humidity, or go flat in the heat, pick a style that will accommodate your hair and weather conditions. And don’t forget to consider make up if you are having an outdoor wedding!” For the grooms, put aside your masculine pride and make way for some metro-sexual indulging.

1. Schedule a haircut with a unisex salon about a week before the wedding. You might even try a different stylist – one who can work with your hair texture, skin tones, facial features, and individual style. 2. Fresh, clean, ‘MAN-icured’ nails are extremely important. It will enhance the features of your wedding band in the close up shots. 3. Consider teeth whitening treatments about a month before the big day. Professional whitening systems through your dentist’s office can run about $500. If you choose the home whitening kits, make sure you understand the do’s and don’ts of the treatment. For example, no red wine an hour after home application. 4. Get your skin looking the very best with a three-step cleansing system for the weeks leading up to your big day. Wash, tone, and moisturize! Consider a facial the week of your nuptials. You’ll look fresh and renewed. 5. Shave on the morning of your wedding! The best way to get a clean shave is to apply a super-hot towel to the face to soften the hairs. Layer on the shaving cream, and then shave in the direction of the hair growth, using a new razor.


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CAKED -UP Your guests want to see three things: The bride, the ambiance, and the cake! Your wedding cake will oftentimes sets the mood for the reception. Trends ranging from modern, sleek, square tiers to whimsical Dr. Seuss-esque shapes add a dimension of the couple’s personality like no other wedding detail can achieve. With an average cost of $2 – $15 per slice, it’s easy to get lost in pricing a wedding cake. The devil is, of course, in the details. The wilder & crazier the cake, the more expensive it will be., a fantastic St. Louis dessert blog, gives us some great wedding cake tips. “One great way to stretch your wedding cake dollars is to get a smaller presentation cake and have a few multi-layer sheet cakes

in the back. Most bakeries will happily accommodate this. That saves money AND time, as they can be pre-cut.” Most bakers will work with your budget, especially if you order early and try to avoid last-minute changes. “St. Louis has a lot of great bakeries like Cravings, Sugaree, and The Cakery for traditional cakes. Then you have the new cupcake craze, so look to your favorite cupcake places too, like Whipt, Jilly’s or Sweet Art. And now some people are dumping traditional cake altogether for what they really want, like candy or chocolates. “Oh Shelia” makes great custom chocolate boxes,” says St. Louis blogger Show Me the Sugar. Whether you opt to do a non-traditional dessert tray in lieu of the tiered cake, a French croquembouche, a macaroon tree, or just go all out wild with crazy cupcakes, take the display into serious consideration. Little details, like stand decoration, will become much more important when the wedding photos surface. Also consider the lighting too – add a pin spot light for the cake table. Give your cake or desserts lift with a cake plateau and make sure the linens on your cake table ‘pop’ as well.

In the 1600’s, the tradition was to have two cakes – one for the bride and one for the groom. The groom’s cake was rich and dark while the bride’s cake was simple and white to represent purity. That tradition has come full circle, and in 2012, we’re seeing AMAZING groom’s cakes that reflect the uniqueness of the groom. The groom’s cake, a special cake for the groom, is often served at the rehearsal dinner. It can also be served at a bachelor party or at the wedding itself at the cake, dessert, or Grooms table. “Sugaree Baking in Dog Town did our wedding cake and groom’s cake, and we were very pleased. Their smooth butter cream frosting was great. We still order smaller versions from time to time!” a friend at One of the most exciting days of wedding planning for every couple is the cake tasting day! As you choose flavors and frosting, keep in mind the reception site and where your cake will be stored before the reception. The evening ends on a sweet note with the wedding cake, so remember…taste is EVERYTHING! DELUX-MAG.COM | 23


the dress It is THE dress. THE walk down the aisle. THE moment all eyes are on the bride. THE captivate audience of loved ones. THE small gasps from the audience. THE words, "I've never seen a more beautiful bride." THE dress is no small matter. Wedding dress choices are as varied as the brides who choose them. This is your opportunity to let your individual style shine. So no worries! The most important thing is to remember that you want to look your very best, so choose a style that is flattering to your shape. Whether you want glam or fairytale; vintage, urban, rustic, or bohemian garden chic… If you can dream it up, it exists in some form or fashion that is accessible to you, and works with you. We asked REAL brides about their experiences finding the perfect dress. Dr. Heather Rand was married in September to her soul mate, Charles Rand. They reside in Nashville, but came to St. Louis, Heather’s 24 | DELUX Magazine

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hometown, for the wedding and planning. “Let’s see, I was forced to wait to try on any dresses until mom, Dara (sister) and I were in the same city!” said Heather. “We went during the week between Christmas and New Year’s, which was also the week before our engagement party so we were doing double duty. The goal for the week, since I had to go back to Nashville and Dara to New York, was to find my dress. Dara and I had been having phone meetings to look at dresses online before then and to pick some shops to try on dresses when I got to St. Louis. Online we looked at dresses from EVERYWHERE!! At first searching for what kind of dress I wanted then for the dress. We used,,,, ... just to name a few. This was tough because I wanted to be able to try on the dresses we saw but couldn’t. The search for wedding dress stores in St. Louis then became the next big item to figure out. I eventually made some appointments at Clarice’s Bridal and another place, and then we did a stop by Brides by Demetrios--gorgeous dresses! But, needless to say we still hadn’t felt like we had found THE ONE! I don’t recall us going to too many places, but I believe among the few places we went, I tried on at least 40 dresses, which was crazy! Our last appointment was at The Enchanted Bride in Olivette. I was a little nervous, as I am not a lace person, and there were a plethora of dresses seen from the window with lace. But, we went in for our


appointment and started looking. We saw a few dresses that were nice, but as we were walking around, a dress that had just been placed on the mannequin caught our eyes. IT WAS BEAUTIFUL!!! I don’t know who saw it first, but it was the goal from that point to find that dress. I tried it on and it was the first dress to bring tears to our eyes! IT WAS PERFECT!” April Amos is getting married this fall to her perfect match, Kenny Powell. She found her perfect dress! “Basically, I told myself from the beginning that if I saw too many dresses, I’d never find “The One.” So I started at Town and Country Bridal in Plaza Frontenac with all pre-conceived notions pushed aside. I chose what I thought I wanted and then let the consultant choose a few for me. All in all, I tried on 8 dresses in two sessions! It was easy once I tried on the first three (hate the lace, love the neckline, too heavy/too light) - then we narrowed it down to the exact necklines, fabrics and “simple vs. fancy” when it came to detail. It was a really wonderful experience doing it that way! I ended up “saying YES to the dress” at Town and Country Bridal in Plaza Frontenac.” April says, “My advice: don’t try on more than 10 dresses. Once you do that, you eliminate the possibility of finding your dress, and secure the possibility of searching for a dress that doesn’t exist, i.e. “The Perfect Dress.” Once you start to mix and match, you may want to consider a custom design (if you have the budget!)”


Food, glorious food! From backyard vintage intimate gatherings to destination weddings, the food is king of this lifetime celebration. Of course, there's much more to the reception than the food. But right now, we 're dishing up what some of St. Louis's top chefs and catering pros have to say about the wedding reception trends. story: leneia weston

“I love the new trend of themed food stations at weddings,” says Chef Brian Hale. “The cocktail reception weddings with heavy passed hors d’oeuvres and food stations are sheik. From the cold station with canapés to the Asian, or the Southwest, or the chef making flambé or food to order, it’s awesome. Guests are forced to mingle, too. And it gives your guests choices.” This tapas-style reception is great if your guests have the myriad of eating habits that keep popping up, as well. The vegetarians, pescetarians, vegans, lactose free, gluten free, just-eat-something-and-smile guests will find something they can truly enjoy, and not endure the “singled out” feeling of the veggie plate that happens so frequently in banquet settings. International street food and global cuisines are the hot topics for the themed stations. Brides and grooms are even using food trucks at their receptions! Stations are also a fantastic way to have some fun with the menu, and deliver some surprises to your guests. Savory cupcakes are a revelation, and will enamor your guests with presentation and tastiness. Think: mini meatloaf with whipped mashed potato icing, or lasagna cups. They offer exciting, different, and innovative foodstuffs with a homey flavor profile of familiarity creating the perfect duet of something old and something new. The plated dinner, though traditional, always remains the ultimate statement of grace and elegance. Multiple courses and phenomenal service add touches of sophistication. Chef Carlos Snipes, a St. Louis native, and formerly of The Crowne Plaza in Clayton, is currently at the St. Regis in Houston at the Galleria. “Plating style really makes a difference,” says Chef Snipes. “You can take a basic menu and make it fantastic with a bold 26 | DELUX Magazine

presentation. For example, at St. Regis, we place the protein in the center of the plate instead of the side. Everything is worked around the center, and it looks incredible. Everyone always raves about the plating at St. Regis.” “Make sure you meet the chef prior to the tasting to talk about what you like and what you don’t like, and discuss your vision of the wedding. What are your wedding colors? I can use that information when we work through the menu for the tasting. Keep an open mind, and let the pros get to work for you. At the tasting, know your group. Some couples play it too safe, so let the experts do what they do and help guide you with choices that will make a great impact. Think outside the box to make the meal memorable.” If you’re working with a smaller budget, but still want to pack a powerful punch with your reception, Chef Hale suggests working closely with the chef to make great choices. “Buffets are less expensive than a plated dinner,” says Chef Hale. “Consider what you’re asking for. If you want caviar, think about what has similar impact, but use a less expensive ingredient. Instead of Chilean Sea Bass, use salmon in the same presentation.” “People love buffets and hors d’oeuvres,” says Chef Snipes. Giving your guests choices is the key to making certain they’re sated and raving about your fabulous party. Work

with your catering manager to maximize the floor layout, and setting up multiple buffet stations if you have a large number of guests can be crucial for a great event flow. The dessert portion of the reception is gaining momentum, and quickly becoming the highlight of the evening. There are a myriad of things to do outside of the traditional wedding cake. “Mini desserts and dessert displays instead of cake is really popular,” says Chef Hale. “And if you really want to cut a cake for the reception, use the Groom’s cake for the pictures.” “Candy bars. I’m all about the candy,” jokes Chef Snipes. Candy bars are fun and can offer an aesthetically pleasing variety to the standard dessert line up. Individual wedding cakes at each reception table for guests to self-serve are also something to consider. It’s another way to get guests mingling and peeking at each table’s cake. And if they’re all different flavors, it will be fun to share across the tables! No reception is complete without giving the bar the once-over. An absolute-must: signature cocktails in your wedding colors. It’s the final opportunity to make a definitive statement at your wedding reception. And use the bar as a muse for food display ideas! Anything served in a shot glass is an instant hit. Go crazy! Have fun! It’s YOUR night!

the decor Your wedding decor is the voice of your wedding. Your decor and how it made yourguests feel is one of the most direct elements of your wedding that will directly reflect on how your friends and family remember your wedding. How your room looks will affect how the food tastes, the mood during your first dance and how you will feel watching your friends enjoy your special day. This orange and fuchsia design speaks to a bride and groom with a fun bright spirit. Dancing orchids cascading into the sky, give a grand burst of color and life to the design. Bench seating and rectangle tables speak to the closeness they might feel to their friends and family. The modern menu cards keep the fun vibe going easily and draw the eye to the beautiful linens and the pretty accent pieces including the fuchsia pillows. Candle light and custom lighting treatments in a stunning white tent with beautiful chandeliers help carry your guests through every mood from romantic to energized.


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rachel + jermal


Jermal – 36, Attorney for Seward & Associates (Owner) Rachel – 29, Community Affairs Manager for Wells Fargo Advisors Reside in South City (Holly Hills) Years known: 2.5 The Meeting. Introduced by a mutual friend during the Young Zoo Friends’ annual Zootini event in November 2009, Jermal knew they would be seeing each other again. “She thought we would like each other…and she was right! [laughs]” The Proposal. They spent the weekend on South Beach in Miami in February 2011. After Jermal had some ‘delayed complications’ with the reservation, they ended up having lunch on the patio at the Beacon. “After the room was ready, Rachel noticed champagne chilling on the credenza and guessed that it was a surprise I had been working on. I told her they must have known we would have something to celebrate and got down on one knee.”

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The Plans. “Jermal and I are both planners, so wedding planning was actually very easy. Instead of a big wedding party, we only had a Best Man and Maid of Honor, which made everything run much more smoothly.” The Wedding. The wedding was October 15, 2011. The weather was perfect for a small, outdoor ceremony at the top of Art Hill in Forest Park. “I got dressed at the Four Seasons and then I rode to the park in a vintage Rolls Royce.” The ceremony was immediately followed by a champagne reception with hundreds of cake pops. Close friends and family gathered later in the evening for dinner in the wine garden at Copia Urban Winery. The Future. They plan to stay and grow their family in St. Louis City. “Our families are both here and we love this city and want to remain a part of its revitalization.”




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Lauren + curran


Curran – 27, Manager & Co-Owner of the Apartments at Pershing/ Apartments at Clara Lauren – 24, Leasing Agent at the Villas at Brentwood Reside in the Delmar Loop Years known: 4 years The Meeting. They both worked at the Shakespeare Festival in Forest Park, where Curran had small part in Richard III. “I came in to get fitted for my costume and thought she was so gorgeous – and so did the rest of the guys. None of us knew her name at first, so we called her ‘green boots’ because she wore these green rubber boots backstage [laughs].” The Proposal. “After eating dinner with Curran’s parents in Clayton, he noticed they were out of coffee. He told them that we would go to the store, but on the way back he detoured to Forest Park, where they were building the set for the next Shakespeare in the Park. He claimed he wanted to see the set and walked me all the way backstage to the bench where we would flirt during the show two years prior. It was so humid and hot that I didn’t notice that Curran was wearing a ridiculously heavy jacket. [I was] complaining about the weather when told me to ‘sit down and shut up!’ [laughs], and got on one knee. He said ‘I’m not a religious man, but that loving you is my religion and I want to spend the rest of my life with you, my best friend’.” The Plans. The wedding planning was a tenuous balance of budgets. “My parents were paying for the wedding of their fourth girl while

this was the first wedding of their first born son for Curran’s parents. In the end, it was a beautiful balance of simple elegance, but mixed with that extravagant Indian flare. We had numerous parties to accommodate Indian customs as well as my own American ones, and everyone navigated the differences in cultures with excitement and grace. The Wedding. The gorgeous ceremony was held in the Statler Room at the Renaissance Hotel. “A monk from my high school, who I’ve known since 12, married Lauren and I, while the guests threw Rose petals on us as we walked out.” “The reception was so much fun! Curran and I had a dance off and we did a Soul Train line [laughs].” The Future. “Lauren and I are in the process of looking for a house in the U-City/Clayton area. Kids can wait while we thoroughly enjoy each other [laughs]. Marriage has been fun, and the best part about it is that we are still learning things about each other.”



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SamUEL+ TabETHA PHOTOGRAPHY- Raquita henderson Samuel & Tabatha Pittman Sam – 34, Application Engineer at Dynetics. Tabatha – 34, Human Resources Specialist at Valeo Reside in Downtown Detroit, Michigan Years known: 5 The Meeting. “Tabatha and I crossed paths initially through MySpace back in 2007.” Sam, born and raised in STL, was in Michigan, while Tabetha lived in Ohio. “It wasn’t digital love just yet, but we definitely liked communicating.” Months later, they decided to meet in Cincinnati at a local mall. “Tabatha looked damn good and had a beaming smile when I met her in person that day [laughs]!” By the time they finished strolling through the mall, shutting down a restaurant, and nearly getting kicked out the parking lot in the wee hours, they parted ways excited about the meeting. The Proposal. Sam proposed on Tabatha’s birthday March 11th, 2011. “I was ready for Tabatha to be stuck with me for life [laughs].” He picked her up in a new Cadillac Escalade for dinner at a Cuban place called Vicente, in downtown Detroit. Her son, along with a group of her close friends, was waiting at the restaurant, unaware of the surprise proposal. “The DJ was like ‘Will Tabatha Campbell please report to the DJ booth?’ and I looked around and Sam was like, “Babe, he’s calling you! [laughs]” With the help of the DJ and the restaurant staff, Sam proposed in front of everyone. “[With] a dance floor spot light on me, Sam walks out and says, ‘Babe, you know I love you!’…” The rest is history.

The Plans. “Tabatha was a mild Bridezilla but I’m sure I had some King Kong days as well [laughs].” Planning a wedding from out-of-state and coordinating things financially during a recession made for some stressful periods but they made it happen. The Wedding. The venue was Windows On Washington on December 31st, 2011. “The day went by fairly quickly for the most part. Captured In Frames filmed us throughout most of the day which turned out to be some of our best money spent beyond the traditional photography. The same-day edit we watched during the reception was something unique [that] not many people had experienced at a wedding.” They decided to capture most of their photography beforehand, in which they saw each other prior to the wedding. “The wedding ceremony and reception went well, not perfect, but it didn’t matter. It was a beautiful day.” The Future. “Beyond Amare [Tabatha’s son, 12], we definitely plan to have more children in the future.” Continuing to reside in downtown Detroit, they are building upon their professional and social success. “Sam is starting his Masters of Engineering in Robotics and Autonomous Vehicles at University of Michigan and I’m graduating this month with my Bachelor’s in Human Resources. We want to stay financially grounded, educationally prepared, and God-centered in all that we do.”



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Getting Fit 4 the Big Day We all want something toned

Pills…crash diets…starving – all the things that we desperately do trying to get into shape. Whether it might be toning up your arms or simply dropping those extra ten pounds that you picked up in the last year or so, we all have a picture in our head of how perfect we want to look on our wedding day. “I only drank water, exercised on elliptical for 30 minutes, and light weight lifting,” newly-wed Kristy Bush, a Saint Louis native, explained. She also said that she began her twice-a-week work out seven months before her wedding date to give herself a realistic goal for obtaining her goal. While some work on trying to fit just right into the dress of their dreams, others simply tone for self-satisfaction. Believe

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it or not, many men work on their body tone just as much as women. Men do it for the pure self-satisfaction of looking nice and fit in their tuxedo. “I worked on my arms and chest more than anything,” said newly-wed Darold Bush, a Clarksville, Tennessee native who now resides in Saint Louis. “Some men won’t admit it, but looking their best on their wedding day is just as important as it is to the bride.” Leon Waters Sr., a personal trainer and CEO of Fresh Water Corporation, chimes in. “It is all about drinking plenty of water, eating right and working out on a day to day basis.” Getting fit for our wedding day is very important to all of us – you just have to make sure to go about it in a healthy manner. Get a personal trainer. Go on a healthy diet. Also, remember to be realistic with your goal, time, and dedication, and you’ll be successful.

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When Open Bars Lead to Open Doors

Introducing the wedding party! So we’ve got the happy couple, the bridesmaids, and our groomsmen. We’ve got a ceremony, followed by a reception, but what comes after, well who knows. Now weddings are notorious for bringing the unlikely and unknown into a similar circle for one night, in a kind of “anything goes” atmosphere. So before you walk down the aisle, as a bride, groom, or wingman, here are some tips on how to make this one night only experience not be your “something borrowed” for life. If you are the bride and groom, congratulations! You’ve found the ying to your yang and you are ready to spend the rest of your lives in a monogamous, committed relationship together. Did we scare you yet? Don’t be! Because now, with all the different advanced methods of birth control, you can unwrap your groom and still not worry about getting pregnant until you are ready. Some of the newest forms of birth control are called long-acting reversible contraception (LARC), that provide some of the most effective birth control without any sort of user action. It is a small t-shaped piece of plastic called an intrauterine device (IUD) that is inserted into your uterus and keeps your man’s soldiers from storming your castle. LARCs are long lasting, some for up to twelve years even! And when you’re ready to start increasing the size of your family, you can have the IUD removed at any time. The IUD is

effective immediately after insertion, so when should you get it? We recommend anytime before the honeymoon lovebirds. For our bridesmaids and groomsmen, the only thing you should be stressing about that evening is your toast because with all the quick and easy forms of birth control out there, safe-sex should be a no-brainer. For those of you looking for the “something new” in your life, here are some great quick forms of birth control that are party-ready that you can use to make sure you don’t end up with “something blue” at your next check-up. If you’ve got time before the wedding, there is the pill, the patch, the ring, even the shot, which is just what it sounds like, a shot or injection that will keep you from getting pregnant for three full months. But on the night of, your best form of protection against sexually transmitted infections as well as pregnancy is going to be wearing a condom, which either partner can bring to the party. So although a wedding is a celebration of one couple’s commitment to each other, it does not mean they’re the only ones allowed to get lucky that evening. So have fun, and be safe. For more information on forms of birth control or getting tested for STI’s, visit www. or call 1-800-230-PLAN (7526). DELUX-MAG.COM | 51

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DR.MAKEBA MORING The doctor of the future will give no medicine, but will interest her or his patients in the care of the human frame, in a proper diet, and in the cause and prevention of disease. DELUX Do I have to become a vegetarian to be healthy and drug free? The human body is primarily that of and herbivore, meaning it is naturally designed to best digest and absorb a plant based diet, our bodies do not have the ability to assimilate meat the way that carnivorous animals do. We don’t have strong stomach acid to kill the bacteria in meat and our digestive tracts or 3 to 4 times longer than those of meat eating animals. By having a long digestive tract the meat lingers in our systems. The meat petrifies (rots) and Parasites survive and become active. This causes a disease friendly environment. While it is understandable that everybody will not become vegan it is also important to understand how flesh behaves in the


human body and the necessity to limit meat consumption in order to live a relativity healthy lifestyle. DELUX Will I get enough protein on a vegan diet? As long as you are eating a properly balanced vegan diet that includes nuts, seeds, and beans you almost never have to worry about a protein deficiency. A vegan balanced diet very easily gives you sufficient protein. DELUX I love meat, how do I get that taste eating vegetarian? There are a zillion and one vegan and vegetarian recipes out there! Research your favorite dish on goggle but type vegan by it and you may get the same dish prepared without meat that is healthier for you with the same taste. Better yet, buy my book that is soon to be released and is loaded with delicious vegan recipes. DELUX What can I do to lose weight naturally? Change your diet and lifestyle. Try weaning yourself off fast, junk and animal foods. If this is too difficult for you to do on your own come see a trained nutritionist like myself who can help you thru the process and give you a reasonable guided program that works. DELUX I heard that colon irrigations are really helpful to your health, is that true? Absolutely, Colon irrigations have been around for thousands of years. Why? Because they work! The colon, stomach and, small intestines are where most of your

immune system is and when it is clogged so is your health. The clean colon is a major key to vibrant health. DELUX What do you think about natural childbirth? I highly recommend it! The best way to conceive your child if you are healthy is by natural childbirth, check with your doctor early to see the possibility of conceiving completely naturally. DELUX Where are you located? Fisher Wellness Center, 11634 West Florissant Saint Louis, MO, 63031. My contact number is 314398-8676, or Makeba Moring, PhD is a Holistic Doctor and Nutritionist. Doctor Makeba has lived and studied holistic healing worldwide .Dr, Makeba has always been intrigued with the body’s amazing power to self heal. While on this journey to discovering the secrets of how to live a healthy, long, and natural life, Dr. Makeba became a vegan at the age of sixteen. She also moved out of her hometown Atlanta GA. where she was raised to Ghana, West Africa with her father where she learned about herbal remedies and nature lifestyle. Later she moved to Israel where she furthered her education in holistic healing, midwifery, Colon hydrotherapy, and natural lifestyle. Makeba became a trained Midwife, Nutritionist, Holistic Doctor and eventually became a co-supervisor at a very well known Holistic Clinic in Beersheba Israel, Everlasting Life (Which helped clients overcome degenerative illnesses thru raw food nutrition).


Men’s fashion trends are greatly different to women’s. They exist, yes. But their cycle moves much slower. Nowhere is that truer then of men’s suit trends. While there are distinct styles of suits that feature amongst 2011’s fashion trends I should note from the get-go that they’re not unique to the year – in fact, many of the key looks you’ll find in this guide will still be in-fashion come 2012 and beyond. Which is a great

get the look thing – it means you can afford to spend more on a suit thus buying a quality piece of workmanship that you’ll still be able to wear for many a year to come. The same can’t be said of most fashion trends. While suiting and formal-wear trends for men aren’t seasonal (unless, of course, you’re talking about the weight of the cloth) and play out over several years, 2011 and 2012 continue the dominance of two

qualities that any modern suit you invest in should aspire to have: Classicism & Masculinity But what styles, cuts and cloths should you be looking for? READ MORE AT WWW.DELUX-MAG.COM

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Happily Ever After beau路ty [byoo-tee] noun, plural -ties. The quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest).

Your wedding gown seeks to accentuate the beauty that is lives within you. Explore your inner and outer beauty on your wedding day with an alluring, radiant, chic, and absolutely stunning gown. Make your day beautiful.

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C h o o s i n g a w e d d i n g v e n u e ca n b e a h u g e pa i n b u t i t i s a ls o a b i g d e a l. Lo cat i o n p l ays a k ey facto r i n t h e c o h e s i v e n e s s o f t h e c er em o n y a n d t h e r e c e p t i o n w h e t h e r yo u c h o o s e t o h av e t h e v en u e s s e pa r at e o r t o g et h er. P r i c e i s a ls o a b i g facto r i n d e t e r m i n i n g t h e p er f e c t l o cat i o n . As i d e f r o m t h e o bv i o u s facto rs , yo u ' l l a ls o wa n t to i n q u i r e a b o u t i n-h o u s e e v e n t p la n n i n g, o u ts i d e cat er i n g, va let pa r k i n g, h a n d i ca p ac c ess i b i l i ty , ac c o m m o dat i o n s f o r ov e r n i g h t s et u p, o u t d o o r s pa c e, e tc. St . L o u i s h as a n o u ts ta n d i n g o f f er i n g fo r v en u e s d e s i g n e d w i t h w e d d i n g s li k e yo u rs i n m i n d. C h e c k o u t t h i s li s t o f D el u x To p 5 D est i n at i o n s fo r yo u r u lt i m at e w ed d i n g! story: philip blanks

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Lumier Place Lumiere Place Casino & Hotel, one of St. Louis’ hottest hot spots, is also the go-to destination for your luxurious wedding. Featuring several different spaces to choose from, HoteLumiere can satisfy everything from a small, intimate ceremony to an elusive, grand ballroom reception. Lumiere also offers their own professional planners for your convenience to help uncover the wedding of your dreams – and with an All Star catering staff on hand as well, your wedding planning just got that much easier. And don’t forget about your bachelor/bachelorette festivities. Lumiere Place Casino keeps the slots rolling and the shots flowing throughout. Guys can enjoy eats and drinks at the Stadium Sports Bar while the ladies can enjoy signature cocktails at the Globar – or even some mischief in the spacious hotel rooms. With suite packages to cover all your party needs, Lumiere Place Casino and Hotel has just officially become your ultimate wedding experience. Lumière Place Casino and Hotels 999 N. 2nd St. St. Louis, MO 63102 314.881.7777 66 | DELUX Magazine

Neo on Locust has quickly become St. Louis’ most sought after indoor and outdoor private event space. Easily accommodating to over 400 guests, Neo on Locust is ideal for entertaining large, extravagant weddings. Located on what was once known as “Auto Row” in the 1920s and 30s, this building was once home to the Mississippi Valley Motor Company, the distributor of the first Oakland Pontiac automobile in St. Louis. Pretty dope for a wedding venue right? Aside from the history aspect, Neo features two different event spaces – the Neo Room and the Oakland Room. The Neo Room, located on the fourth floor, can accommodate up to 500 guests and offers a breathtaking view of downtown St. Louis. The Oakland Room, located on the first floor, features floor to ceiling windows, while accommodating up to 300 people. Offering premium bar service and a list of preferred caterers, such as Orlando’s and River-City, Neo on Locust proves to be one of the leaders in wedding excellence. Neo on Locust 2801 Locust Ave St. Louis, Mo. 63103

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Tucked away in the historic South side of the city, Bevo Mill is adding a touch of elegance and flare to your wedding with their elaborate, distinctive and traditional architecture, dating back to the early 1900s. Constructed by August A. Busch, Sr., the main dining room in Bevo Mill was used by Mr. Busch many times as his own private dining room. Going through an extensive restoration period to become the most sought venue in St. Louis, Bevo Mill has the staff and flair to turn your event into the moment of a lifetime. Offering a generous listing of cuisines to choose from for you dinner guests, Bevo Mill is the perfect location to host not only your wedding, but also your bridal shower and your rehearsal dinner. Bevo Mill 4749 Gravois Avenue St. Louis, MO

palladium Originally built as the official laundry facility for the first municipal hospital in the late 30s, the Palladium has gone through a drastic rehabbing to become one of the most elusive, extravagant private event spaces in downtown St. Louis. Accommodating up to 400 guests seated and 700 guests for a standing reception, the Palladium is just huge – period. This venue is going to be your one-stop shop for all your wedding event needs, from the caterer to the security! Their world-renowned culinary staff creates an innovative cuisine experience that features hot and cold hors d’oeuvres, an extensive list of stations including Asian, Italian, and seafood, as well as several options for a sit-down dinner. The in-house event planners can also help you determine the best option for you. It’ll be guaranteed one the best experiences of your life – besides saying I do. Palladium 1400 Park Place St. Louis, MO

the golf house The golf isn’t just for golfing – it’s for romancing and dancing! The clubhouse at the Forest Park Golf House features 10,000 square feet of pure pleasure, easily accommodating up to 250 guests. With panoramic views of the golf course, floor-to-ceiling windows, a vaulted ceiling, a dance floor, and a covered veranda, the clubhouse is definitely the place to treat your guests to an outstanding time! The clubhouse also features a team of event planners and culinary professionals available to help turn your dream wedding into a reality. Whether you’re looking to have a breathtaking outdoor ceremony, or experience a voluminous, gala type of affair, the Forest Park Golf House is going to be your place of choice. Forest Park Golf House 6141 Lagoon Drive St. Louis, MO DELUX-MAG.COM | 67

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The Black Reprotory THEATRe remarkable, delightfully entertaining. one actress. 16 roles. a tug of war between hardship and hope. No Child, the one woman play is written and performed by Nilaja Sun, and is a tour-deforce exploration of the New York City public school system, in which Sun fearlessly transforms with rapid-fire precision into the teachers, students, parents, janitors, security guards, and administrators who inhabit these schools. The story lends itself over the period of six weeks as Miss Sun is teaching the 10th grade class a play. YES, THIS WOMAN DOES ALL CHARACTERS/ROLES

HERSELF!! PHENONOMAL!! Miss Sun was a positive role model for these students so as the play progresses you see these kid’s attitudes progress through past present and future as one woman struggles to engage and inspire seemingly forgotten students. The pressing issues that come up throughout the play revolve around classroom management, sex, race, violence, language, self-esteem, and community, along with many others. It’s amazing that one woman could provide this much insight into the power that is the classroom. Anyone who wants to make a positive difference should see this play with an open mind on shaping the future.

method that she conveys a vivid anger about the way these kids are treated without turning the play into a screed. From its title on, she’s indicting President Bush’s vaunted No Child Left Behind program, the underfunded, “accountability”-happy initiative that mainly gets in the way of preparing these kids for life..” It’s a delicate way for Sun to show us the face, and the discouraging mantra, that enlightened New York has presented to these kids for their entire lives. And At one point, the janitor quite casually notes that the school is only an eighteen-minute subway ride from 59th Street, one of the wealthiest neighborhoods in the country.

About the Play & performer Nilaja Sun: No Child, brings to life more than a dozen students and teachers in a beaten-down Bronx high school. Nilaja worked as a teaching artist at the perennially troubled Martin Luther King Jr. High School. This is her fictionalized account of getting some extremely skeptical tenth-graders to learn, rehearse, and perform Our Country’s Good, Timberlake Wertenbaker’s play about prisoners in Australia who put on a show. The kids—black, Latino, Asian, you name it—often yammer away on alternating lines. That word accountable is one of the keys to the show. It’s a measure of Sun’s graceful

This play tells us something vital about our world. For tickets, call The Black Rep Box Office at (314) 534-3810, MetroTix at (314) 534-1111, or online at Or for more information, including information on ticket specials, visit MAY 14TH-APRIL 1ST, 2012



BUCKHEAD Buckhead is no longer the epicenter of Atlanta's once buck-wild nightclub scene , and that's the way most residents like it. Although we're still waiting on the ritzy Streets of Buckhead development, the area has long been among the top shopping destinations in the Southeast, with its two high-end malls and countless swanky boutiques and salons. And Buckhead has more luxury hotels and restaurants than anywhere else in Georgia - if that's your thing.

Things to do in Buckhead Drink cocktails/eat charcuterie at Holeman & Finch The glassed-in bar area is a proper setting for the glorious cocktail creations at H&F, because some nights it seems the drinks should be put in a case and studied by future generations. (We’re partial to the rye’n’-bitters-fueled Awry One, but try ‘em all.) The drinks pair wonderfully with its selection of fat-flecked meats. Don’t visit LEGOLAND Discover Center at Phipps Plaza without a kiddo The $15 million, 35,000-square-foot interactive attraction plays by the same rules as Chuck E. Cheese’s and doesn’t permit adults without a child. (It does plan to hold occasional “adult nights” in the future.) Go to the Museum of Contemporary Art of Georgia MOCA GA turns 12 this year (although it’s been in this space just since 2007), and you can celebrate by supporting this nonprofit that houses more than 600 works by 200-plus Georgia artists in its permanent collection. (It’s $5 admission for nonmembers, but artist’s talks are free.) Run the AJC Peachtree Road Race on July 4

This city tradition starts at Lenox Square mall and it was until recently the largest 10K in the world (damn you, Toronto!). Still, 70,000 people registering for 60,000 spots is nothing to sneeze at. Celebrate America’s birthday by getting sweaty and cramping up, like everyone else does. Watch the car porn at Lenox Square mall’s valet stop This is self-explanatory, but, seriously, take you and your Dodge Neon to the mall, bring a bottle of water and folding chair, and take Instagram shots of the most outrageously sweet line of autos this side of a car show. Read at the Buckhead Branch Library If for no other reason, because it qualifies as a gem of modern architecture. Designed by locals Mack Scogin and Merrill Elam and seemingly covered with slate fish scales, it’s been a pilgrimage spot for aspiring architects since opening in 1989. Act fancy and have afternoon tea at the swanky St. Regis According to the hotel, you can “celebrate the arrival of spring during a St. Regis Atlanta Afternoon Tea experience.” With that many capital letters and the word “experience” tacked on, how could it not be divine? DELUX-MAG.COM | 71


monica campana living walls Living Walls, The City Speaks, is an annual conference on street art and urbanism that began in August 2010 in the city of Atlanta. The artwork of 36 influential street artists from around the world flooded the streets of Atlanta as part of a coordinated effort to engage the public via street art. Along with changing the urban landscape, the Living Walls conference set out to highlight a number of problems facing the city. Living Walls did not just showcase art, but also built a platform for much-needed dialogue in the city.

ers, etc), people who actually interact with space, and people who spend their time in discourse about public space all under the same roof. “Our intentions are simply to broadcast to the attendees a wide spectrum of ideas about public space, hoping that everyone leaves the event looking at the city, its walls, and how we interact with space differently� says founder Monica Campana.

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while the ranks of hoodie wearers are legion, the hooded sweatshirts worn by everyone from Rocky Balboa to Ted Kaczynski to Sarah Palin suffer an identity crisis. Is it a source of casual comfort, a criminal's cloak or as recent protests over the death of Florida teen Trayvon Martin would suggest, a symbol of social injustice? The answer, it seems, depends on the wearer. Martin, 17, was wearing a hoodie when he was shot and killed by George Zimmerman in February. Police said Martin was unarmed, carrying a bag of candy and iced tea as he returned to a gated community in Sanford, Fla. Zimmerman, who called in a suspicious person complaint to local police, claims he was acting in self-defense and has not been charged in the case. A public outcry over the handling of the case has led people to act: Several local churches held "Hoodie Sunday" services at which attendees wore hoodies in support of Martin and his family. Million Hoodie Marches cropped up in cities around the country. Members of the Miami Heat, as well as other celebrities, tweeted images of themselves wearing hoodies. Politicians wore hoodies to work, including Rep. Bobby Rush, D-Ill., who was escorted from the House floor Wednesday for violating the dress code. Meanwhile, Fox News Channel commentator Geraldo Rivera apologized Tuesday for using language suggesting that Martin's hoodie was as much a factor in his death as Zimmerman wielding a gun. The Martin case may have put hoodies in the hot seat, but the ubiquitous garments already had a sullied history. "They have taken on a significance that for whatever reason is associated with something bad," said Deirdre Oakley,

associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University who noted that students of all types wear hoodies on campus. "This is reflective of negative sentiments toward the youth culture, and it gets exaggerated based on the person's race and the person’s gender." A lot of criminals do wear hoodies, but then so do a lot of celebrities. Hoods provide an easy cover for anyone hoping to obscure his or her identity. One of the most well-known hoodie-wearing criminals is Ted Kaczynski, the "Unabomber," who appeared in a much circulated forensic sketch wearing dark classes and a hoodie. Kaczynski is serving life in prison without parole for a 20-year mail bombing campaign. When hooded garments first surfaced in ancient Rome, they were purely functional, said Sarah Collins, associate chairwoman of fashion at SCAD Atlanta. "Hoods were for protection from the environment," she said. Then in the late Middle Ages, hoods took a turn. "They added extensions to the hoods that were purely decorative," Collins said. The hood had begun to shift from protective garment to style statement. In the early 20th century, hoodies became a sportswear staple worn solo or as one-half of a track suit. As the decades wore on, they popped up in less expected places -- as part of punk culture in the 1970s and as a costume worn by the fictional Rocky Balboa in the 1976 movie about a working-class boxer. In the 1980s, hip-hop culture, both real and fictionalized, co-opted the hoodie, which has been worn by rappers ranging from Ice

Cube to Vanilla Ice. And last year, former vice presidential candidate Sarah Palin posed for the cover of Newsweek in a gray button-up hoodie. Hoodies don't discriminate, but people do. And Americans are a little behind in our hoodie hang-up. British politicians singled out the garment years ago for its mixed message. While former Prime Minister Tony Blair supported banning hoodies in public, current Prime Minister David Cameron called for hoodie understanding, making the point that wearing a hoodie is a way for British youths to become invisible in a dangerous environment. But Martin supporters argue that a black male wearing a hoodie is more marked man than mystery man. "When it is worn by black men ... it becomes a garment that is the equivalent of a mask worn by someone who is probably up to no good," said Nathan McCall, a lecturer at Emory University who teaches a course on African-American images in the media. This image, he said, is a stereotype dating back to slavery of black men as the black brute, a menacing figure always stirring up trouble. "That image was developed then, and it has continued to evolve so that now it is so entrenched in our society that everybody is affected by it, including blacks," said McCall, who has attended several hoodie rallies. "I see all of this as challenging the stereotypes. It is a challenge to society to look at its contradictions." story: nedra rhone DELUX-MAG.COM | 73

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WHY NOT TO COMPARE YOUR WEDDING TO THOSE IN MOVIES We all want the perfect marriage. We dream of having the perfect relationship with the kind of romance that we read about or see in movies. Sometimes, when we see a happy couple, we look at them and say, “I want what they have.” One thing I find in marriage is that we cannot compare the relationship we have with our spouse to the relationship of another couple. Comparisons like these only lead to frustration and unnecessary criticism. When it comes to our own marriage, we know what is going on inside and out. We see the positives, but we also see the negatives. Oftentimes, what we feel we know about another couple’s relationship, especially with regards to marriage, is really only half the story. We see outward appearances, the part of their relationship that they wish to make public. Oftentimes, if we were to take a closer look at a seemingly perfect couple, we would begin to see flaws, tiny

cracks and fissures in their relationship, just like the kind that may be evident in our own. Just as no one human is perfect, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. We can have a great marriage, a happy marriage, and a healthy and stable marriage. We can have a marriage that we adore and are content with despite its flaws, just as we love the flawed person who we married. Unfortunately, we can also have a bad marriage, a disregarded or disrespected marriage. We can have a broken marriage, or a marriage lacking commitment. In all honesty, we can have whatever kind of marriage we desire, as long as we work with our spouse to achieve our goals. One thing to remember is not to compare. We are all different , and therefore it is only natural that each and every marriage is going to be different. It is great to look at a happy couple and say I want to be like them, but the comparison stops there. We must define happiness within the confines of our own marriage, not by the standards of others. Ask yourself these simple questions. What makes us great as a couple? What changes in our relationship could bring us more happiness? We are all capable of having the kind of marriage we dream about. We just have to reach out and grab it. Just like anything in life, the end result we are looking for can only be achieved by the hard work it takes to get there. What kind of marriage do you want? Is it the kind of marriage that you have? DELUX-MAG.COM | 77


its a delux life GENTLEMEN'S CLUB REVIEW Its your last night. enjoy this moment ...savor in it... beacause its your farewell... just kidding... well delux magazine staff was "forced" to go out and review the areas top gentleman's clubs... here are the results... PENTHOUSE | 1401 Mississippi #18 Sauget, IL. Over 120 gorgeous ladies grace three stages. The center stage at The Penthouse Club often features two or more seductive entertainers. Enjoy a beverage from the central ice bar, to keep your spirits ice cold. Penthouse offers bottled beer, mixed drinks and a full list of wines and champagnes. They also offer bottle service, so if you want to relax with friends and a bottle of your favorite spirits, they can cater to all your needs. The Penthouse Club has four relaxing luxury suites. Two of which have a private television and X-Box game system. These suites come with lighting and sound control along with your own private server. There is plenty of room to entertain several people in our two large suites, while the other two suites are designed for a more intimate occasion. You can always relax at The Penthouse Club with one of their TLC Ladies. Oh did I mention about THE VIP?! #winning

LARRY FLINT’S | 5420 Bunkum Rd Washington Park, Illinois 62204 The Hustler Washington Park location is a vast, pulsating, fully nude establishment that has plenty of room for any size birthday or bachelor stags and will have you screaming for more. Specials ring out on both tantalizing shifts from dance’s to drinks, as well as a wide array of sumptuous finger foods and light menu items reserved for that growling stomach. And let us remind you about the many, periodic appearances by many of your favorite pornstar lovelies, as they wag their wares across this great country of ours. VIP Suites are also available to keep you clocked-in to a party that doesn’t end tell you throw in the towel! Compute these amenities with a full service, on site Love Boutique and a massive parking area in which to stash your chariot and you have ingredients of a party with your name on it. Let’s face it, Larry knows what you want!

BOTTOM’S UP | 307 Jefferson Street (109 South 3rd Street Rear)Brooklyn Descreetly tucked away in Brooklyn Il, The STRIPCLUB is know for one of the craziest, most vicious, boxer tearing, shot taking “BACHELOR LAPDANCE” routine in America. Bottoms up is always a fan favorite. If you want to see some TRINA/ NICKI MINAJ thickness... Bottoms Up is your destination. Features: Beer and/or Wine Only, Full Bar, 21 and Over Only , Couple Friendly, Lunch / Sandwiches, Dinner / Full Menu, Pool Tables, DJ, Bikini Dancers Only, Topless Dancers, Nude Dancers, Topless Lap Dances, Nude Lap Dances, Private Lap Dance Rooms, VIP Room, Shower Shows


THE ULTIMATE BACHELOR PARTY GUIDE The renowned bachelor party could be the most anticipated night of a man's life, with the exception of his wedding day, of course (smirk). But it's not only one more night of pure debauchery before marriage for the groom-to-be, but rather a night for all men to be -- men. As Best Man, you want this to be a night for all to remember -- oh, and for the guy getting married to enjoy as well. preparations Planning the night is probably the most important step -- this is where all the plans are laid out for the magic to happen. The guest list In order to ensure that you’re not forgetting anyone important (or inviting others who didn’t receive an invitation in the mail), plan the guest list with the groom, or at least have him scan the list himself beforehand. Include the groom’s best buds, relatives, and others that just have to be invited out of politeness. Since his Amish cousin Jeb and uncle Leo may be present, plan the night by going to a restaurant or starting the night out with cocktails at someone’s house. Once they’ve said their goodbyes, proceed with the rest of the festivities. Then come the girls. Now the essence of a bachelor party is that there are no girls. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a few of those wild female friends you’ve all had a good time with, for good measure. I’m not talking about inviting the fiance’s friends -- in no way should the female guests be associated with the fiance -- this cannot be stressed enough. Invite some party girls who have no relation to your everyday crowd, the girls who always want to be around for a good time. If you don’t know of any, just call them up at 976-WILD. Where you’re going This usually includes a strip club, a strip joint, oh, and did I mention a gentleman’s club? The night could also involve a restaurant, a casino, his favorite bar, and you may want to cap off the night at a hotel room (the best of the best) or rented penthouse, unless someone is brave enough to offer his pad. Transportation It’s important to know where the party is headed all night, in order to arrange how you’ll get from place to place -- no designated drivers allowed. Rent a limo for your buds so that no one has to worry about how much they drank, and the only concern is whether or not the champagne is still flowing.

You’ve got the people; you’ve got the places -- what’s next? Extra expenses Since you’ll probably be a loud and obnoxious bunch, forewarn the kind management at each establishment that you’re holding a bachelor party, so they won’t be surprised when your friend starts approaching all the women in the joint to give them a little spanking. Once you arrive at each party spot, give whoever’s in charge a little extra coin for special treatment. This includes your limo driver for the evening -- do it before the night begins. Also, make sure to set aside some money in case you’re liable for any extra costs, like if you trash a hotel room (your friend putting all his dough in Candy’s thong does not count). Food and drink If you’re spending most of the night at a hotel room or apartment, make sure you have enough food and alcohol to keep everyone smiling. You don’t need an elaborate meal; just finger food and plenty of bubbly. extra, extra! Make it a night he’ll always remember Besides making all the arrangements for the bachelor party, you can give the groom something special to remember the night by. No, not a stripper’s phone number, but a video montage of his dating past or of his life, for example, that you can show to everyone at the party. You don’t want to wave around a video camera all night during the stag party (at least not once it becomes X-rated), but you can take some pictures of the night. This can be useful as collateral for when you want a special favor from your buddy. Just have fun This is a night for the guests too, so once all the arrangements are done and the party is in full gear, kick back and enjoy the festivities. The only thing left to worry about is how much fun the night will be, and how you’ll explain those lipstick stains on your collar when laundry day rolls around. more inspiration For some inspiration while arranging the party, check out these classic guy flicks: The Hangover 1 or 2 -- Vegas baby, yeah! Babies, sex, and the boys. Need I say more? Bachelor Party -- See Tom Hanks in one of his earlier roles, as the groom-to-be whose bachelor party is full of hookers, drugs and all things ‘80s. Very Bad Things -- Check this out to see what to avoid -- if the title is any indication, you do not want the bachelor party to end up like this. Jerry Maguire -- Take a look at the video montage of Jerry’s exes at his bachelor party. Remember, the bachelor party is not supposed to make the groom get cold feet, or think twice about getting married for fear of missing the single life, but that doesn’t mean he can’t get one last taste of it. DELUX-MAG.COM | 79



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In this romantic comedy, a writer finds out the hard way about the consequences of walking a fine line between fiction and real life. Harper (Taye Diggs) is an author whose first novel is soon to be published, just as he’s been asked to be Best Man at the wedding of his friends Lance (Morris Chestnut) and Mia (Monica Calhoun). Harper is suffering a worse case of publication-day jitters than most authors, and with good reason: much of his book has been drawn from real life, and he’s afraid that his friends and family will spot the sometimes unflattering literary versions of themselves. What’s worse, Mia and Harper had a fling years ago, and their affair made it into the book; Lance doesn’t know, and Harper would just as soon he didn’t find out before the wedding. But one of the bridesmaids, Jordan (Nia Long), has gotten hold of an advance copy of the book. Since Jordan works as a television journalist and devotes her life to digging up dirt on people, Harper is convinced that she’ll spill the beans and spoil his friends’ big day. The Best Man was the debut film for writer/ director Malcolm D. Lee; Spike Lee served as producer.

A man who’s uncertain about the biggest step forward of his life steps back to take a look at his younger days in this comedy/drama. Roland (Taye Diggs) is a few hours away from getting married, and he is starting to have second thoughts; as much as he loves his fiancée, he can’t stop thinking about Tanya (Tamala Jones), his first serious girlfriend in high school. Roland is hanging out with his two best friends, whom he also first met in school, Mike (Omar Epps), a solid regular guy, and Slim (Richard T. Jones), a flashy personality who plays pro basketball in Europe. They talk about the old days and flash back on growing up in Inglewood, California (nicknamed “The Wood”) in the 1980’s, when Run DMC and Eric B & Rakim were the happening sounds, and guys used to argue over who was hotter, Vanity or Apollonia. At the last minute, Roland takes off, wanting to pay Tanya a visit, and Mike and Slim are determined to track him down and make sure that he gets to the altar on time. The Wood was the debut feature film for writer/director Rick Famuyiwa, whose first short subject, Blacktop Lingo, won an enthusiastic response at the 1996 Sundance Film Festival.

Two guys find out the hard way that sneaking into the wrong party can cause serious problems in this comedy. Jeremy Klein (Vince Vaughn) and John Beckwith (Owen Wilson) are a pair of longtime friends who work for a law firm, helping contentious couples mediate their divorces. Their job has given them a cynical attitude about marriage, and as a hobby each weekend the two make a point of crashing weddings reception, where they load up on free food and booze and try their luck at seducing the bridesmaids. When William Cleary (Christopher Walken), the nation’s Secretary of the Treasury and a possible candidate for the Presidency, announces his daughter is to wed, the nuptials are billed as the social event of the year, and Jeremy and John decide they must attend the reception. However, John makes the mistake of falling head over heels for Claire (Rachel McAdams), the bride’s sister, while Jeremy attracts the attentions of a woman he’d prefer not to be involved with, and soon their romantic peccadilloes get them in very hot water.


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DELUX Volume 3 Issue 4  

Lifestyle | Fashiuon | Music | Art + Culture