Darling Kingston April-May 2014

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EMMA BURSTALL The Darling Girl of Kingston

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A FRESH LOOK at Spring-Summer interior trends

MID-LIFE DATING Ready for new beginnings?

GARDEN TIPS Success with climbers

SPICE UP YOUR EASTER Recipes for a fabulous feast

FERTILITY HELP with Chinese medicine

TUTORING takes a holistic approach

LIVE LIFE on the funny side WOMEN MEAN BUSINESS

Are women saving our high streets?

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editor’s letter

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Welcome Spring!

W Cover: emma burstall Photography: Annie Armitage

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Publisher Darling Magazine UK Karine Torr Editor Marja-Leena Toseland All Enquiries 07802 949836 Email kingston@ darlingmagazine.co.uk Contributors Lyndsay Russell, Paul Mendelson

hat a joy to see the flowers in the parks again and to watch the boats practising for our famous “Head of the River”.

I feel re-energised as soon as the sun is out, and eager to get on my bike. Cycling around Kingston is such a relief from queuing for car parks or looking for a parking space. But it’s not for the faint-hearted, and you have to be careful out on the roads as we’re still desperately lacking in safe cycle routes, especially in and out of the town centre. A recent survey suggests improvements may be on the way!

This issue’s Inspiring Woman is Kingston writer Emma Burstall, author of the bestselling novel ‘The Darling Girls’ – appropriately enough! Look out for great nutritional advice from Hilary Davies, tips from our gardening mentor Valerie McBride-Munro, and the latest interiors trends from Ann Jackman and Seriously Sofas. Find out what Funny Women are all about, how tutoring can help any child to fulfill their potential, and how women are saving our high streets. And for you singles out there – with spring in the air – some tips on dating! Don’t miss out on a chance to win tickets to see “Translations” at the Rose Theatre. And there’s much, much more – enjoy the read! So until June, when you can indulge in our Summer issue of great holiday reading!

Photography Annie Armitage annie@anniearmitage.com

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Design Anu West info@apila.co.uk

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Inspiring Woman – Author Emma Burstall Are women saving our high streets?

Why women are paid less Schools in the news Rock On, Kingston!

Feeding children and teenagers Cook's corner Easter recipe Tutoring takes a holistic approach Live life on the funny side Fertility and Chinese medicine Dare you date as a forty-something?

On the scene Rose Theatre competition A fresh look at Spring-Summer interiors Make your space work hard for you Make your home a haven Success with climbing plants What's on? Diary of upcoming events Bridge – the joy of Stayman Lyndsay Russell's Point of view darlingmagazine.co.uk | april–may 2014

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The Original Darling Girl of Kingston

Successful author and mother of three, Emma Burstall

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s a journalist by background you’ve written for some big name newspapers like the Independent on Sunday and the Guardian. What made you want to jump into the world of fiction and write your first novel?

I’d always wanted to write novels, ever since I was a little girl and used to sit at my parents’ kitchen table penning lengthy and no doubt incomprehensible stories about fairies and knights! But for a long time I was so busy studying, then building my career and raising a family, that I didn’t have the time – or headspace – to write.

To be honest I was a little intimidated too. Having read English at University and studied many of the ‘Greats’, I felt anything I produced couldn’t possibly measure up and it would be presumptuous even to try.

But twenty years in journalism knocked that out of me and when I entered my Forties I thought – it’s now or never! If I don’t give it a go I’ll never know if I can do it.

Where did the idea for “Gym and Slimline” – your first novel – come from?

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Believe it or not, my inspiration came from the gym on Richmond Road in Kingston.

I joined when my youngest was about six weeks old and soon became friends with some great women there. It occurred to me that a gym would be an excellent

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setting for a novel with a diverse group of women who attend for their press-ups and Pilates classes, and meet up for coffee and a chat afterwards. Also, gyms are places where we go to improve ourselves, yet we’re also confronted with the reality

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of who we are, so there’s plenty of scope for soulsearching.

Your second book “Never Close Your Eyes” was published only a year after your first book and your latest novel “Darling Girls” in 2012 and you are now working on your fourth!

That’s amazing and must have been hard work whilst juggling a family with three children and a husband with a demanding career too – Emma is married to Kevin Maguire, political journalist and Associate Editor at the Daily Mirror – How do you manage it all?

It was hard when I started my first novel because I was working as Features Editor of a women’s magazine and my youngest was still quite small. I used to come home after a long day in the office, get him to bed and begin scribing. I wrote a lot at weekends, too – I think he watched rather too much TV! Now, though, I write full-time and fit my work round his school hours. There are distractions though – like phone calls and emails, my older student son (now 22) popping in and out. Not to mention my very necessary jogs in Richmond Park with friends. But when I’m in the writing zone I generally manage four or five hours a day. Writing is mentally quite exhausting so that’s usually enough.

Readers always want to know who’s behind the fascinating storylines. What makes you tick and what are your passions?

People make me tick and I love meeting new people from all walks of life. Aside from writing and reading, I enjoy cinema and theatre, travelling, socialising with friends – and spending time with my family of course.

You were born in Kingston and returned here again after a stint in Devon where you first embarked on journalism as a fresh Cambridge graduate. What is it about Kingston that made you settle and raise a family here?

We have the best of both worlds here – lots of open space and easy access to Central London. I had a happy childhood and remember cycling round Richmond Park and visiting places like the Maze at Hampton Court, Ham House and Teddington Lock.

We spent quite a lot of time in the Natural History, Science and British Museums, too. I wanted my children to enjoy the same experience. There are also great schools and shops, GP surgeries and libraries in Kingston – and lovely people. What’s not to like!

What advice would you give the aspiring writers thinking about writing their first novel?

Just do it! It’s no good thinking about the wonderful novel you want to write. You need to put the words down on paper – remember you can always go back and change them later. The hardest part was having the confidence to make a start. At first all I had was a few thoughts.

Then one evening I sat down and wrote my first paragraph. Soon I had a page, then a couple of chapters – and I was off. Try to write every day, even if it’s only a paragraph or two.

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business

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Are women saving our high streets?

A special report by Darling Editor Marja-Leena Toseland

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hile online shopping is wreaking havoc on traditional businesses, the high street is making a comeback thanks in particular to women entrepreneurs.

A recent news feature by the BBC’s Home Affairs Editor Mark Easton of thousands of shops in Britain has revealed a dramatic change in the character of our high streets. Of the businesses set up in the last two years, 50 percent are led by a woman.

That is more than double the figure for firms established more than 20 years ago, fewer than a quarter of which have a woman at the helm.

Inspired by Mark’s report, which

was sent from the ancient market town of Helmsley in North Yorkshire, we set out to discover whether his analysis was also true here in Kingston.

'It's true that many more women are getting into business and joining the entrepreneurial ranks,' says Liesl Smith, Head of Media at the Federation of Small Businesses (FSB). 'There can be absolutely no doubt that we are seeing a big increase in the numbers of women running services for women on the high street and that must be a good thing.'

The FSB data shows that women opening High Street businesses tend to be better educated than their male counterparts – a significantly higher proportion have a degree. And, on average,

Clarence Street in Kingston

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they borrow less to set up their company than men - £18,700 compared with £28,800.

Perhaps the biggest driver for the move towards women shopkeepers and traders has been the expansion of online shopping.

Traditional stores selling basic commodities have struggled to compete and many have gone out of business, including some big chains.

In their place have opened outlets that offer high levels of customer service, experiences that are often impossible to provide on the Internet.

The past few years has seen an explosion in the number of nail bars, beauty salons and hairdressers on the high street - businesses often run by women principally for women.

‘After 20 years in fashion retail I opened my shop in 2003, packing it with gorgeous shoes and handbags. I worked hard through the recession and was chosen by Drapers Inspiring Independents as one of the best boutiques in Britain. Three years ago I grew the business with stylish clothing

by Danish designers, which is flying. Now I’m growing online business while always working to keep my lovely regulars happy.’

Sarah Taylor from s h o e s a t l a s t

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81 Maple Road, Surbiton KT6 4AW www.shoesatlast.com

existing women owners to grow.

Initially there were just 12 Women in Business Specialists and now we have over 200.’

Julie Eltham from The Athena Women’s Network: ‘I run 8 women’s business networking groups in SW London, including Wimbledon. I am constantly amazed and inspired by how women communicate in business and are able to manage their kids, homes and various enterprises all at the same time.’

Sarah Taylor

‘In my view, women do well in business by being more in touch with the needs of the common consumers, who seek variety, quality and value of money’. Trisha Kelly from The Healthy Cook Company, the award-winning, female-run, free from bakery and café specialises in gluten-free bread, baked goods and celebration cakes for all dietary restrictions.

Trisha Kelly, The Healthy Cook Company, 32 Old London Road Kingston, KT2 6QF www.healthycookcompany. co.uk Louise Keenan from Natwest in Wimbledon Business Centre: ‘Natwest have a Women in Business proposition which was born in 2007 to support women in setting up businesses and encourage

Home Instead provides care to older people at home. ‘Having been a daughter experiencing poor care for my own parents, I know and understand what families need for their loved one companionship, continuity, trust, reliability and two way communication.’

Claire Jefferies from Home Instead www.homeinstead.co.uk

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‘I have been an architectural interior designer for 6 years with a design practice called Absolute Abode, based in Wimbledon. The key to success is having absolute passion for your business. I believe in doing everything with excellence and integrity, and spending time with my clients to really understand what they want to achieve in their homes’.

Kirsty McMorron of Absolute Abode Design www.absoluteabode.com ‘As a woman running her own business I am all for ‘Girl Power’.

It is no secret that women are fantastic multi-taskers and those skills extend to balancing the books, nurturing our staff, marketing our brands and caring about our customers. And we still manage to clean the house!’

Clare-Marie Jones clare@claremariejones.com Party & Events Florist ‘I have 24 years experience in the beauty industry and opened Serenity Salon in Kingston 10 years ago. I believe women offer a unique perspective in business because their female customers are more comfortable when they are dealing with other women. This is particularly true for my line of business where the personal touch and understanding of the customer’s needs is so vital.’

Yolanda Gonzalez Serenity Salon www.serenity-salon.co.uk

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careers

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THE REAL REASON

women are paid less than men

by Anne Williams

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t's startling that, in spite of over 40 years of equal pay legislation, statistics still show that women are paid less than their male counterparts. £5,000 a year less on average or up to 31% less according to the Office for National Statistics.

You might think that this shocking pay gap is caused by women taking career breaks or choosing to go part-time after having children. In fact, the disparity sets in well before that.

The Higher Education Careers Services Unit has revealed that female graduates' starting salary is typically £3,000 less than male graduates with the same degrees.

Why is that? Heather Jackson, CEO of the Women's Business Forum says: "This is not about women lacking confidence.

This is about them valuing themselves less than men.

They are willing to accept less pay for the same work as men, who will negotiate upwards".

Other experts also suggest that the real reason women are paid less than men is that they are

more reluctant to ask for a pay rise, bonus or promotion, for fear of seeming pushy. They wait for opportunities to come to them, thinking that their hard work will speak for itself. True, it's a generalisation, but it's all about mindset.

So often we underestimate our abilities and overestimate the challenge or perceived threat facing us. If you go to your boss armed with information about your achievements and pay rates in comparable organisations, you might find that he or she thinks your pay request is perfectly reasonable.

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schools in the news ........................

Guinness World Record for Kingston Grammar School

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he President of Guinness World Records, Mr Alistair Richards, came to KGS to present the official certificate for the World Record for most players in a hockey exhibition match, with 134 qualifying participants.

The record was set during the School’s 48-hour hockey marathon, a continuous match held last October, during which over 830 players took part, with helpers and supporters taking the total number of volunteers involved to over 1,000.

Players came from among the pupils, staff, parents, friends and alumni of the School, including a number of Olympians, and from several local hockey clubs and schools. Generous support was received from corporate sponsors – Investec, Ten Pin, Grange Hotels, Lodge Bros, The Pro Shop and b1Creative. In the end the Grey Team won over the Reds by 703 goals to 699.

We raised an incredible £28,000 to be shared by the School’s campaign for the redevelopment of its playing fields and Leukaemia and Lymphoma Research.

Guinness received some 60,000 claims last year for new world records, about 4,000 of which were accepted.

Mr Richards had been particularly impressed by the

way the KGS effort had been so inclusive, bringing in competitor schools and local clubs, and the way it had brought the best out of all of them, not only for our own development appeal but for a major charity. In the words emblazoned on the certificate: ‘We were officially amazing’.

Kingston schools talk youth mental health at STEM4 STEM4, the Award winning Wimbledon charity supporting teenage mental health, run a Student Conference “MW=MC” or ‘Mental Wise means MentalCred’ on March 7th at Hollyfield School. Coombe Boys, Holy Cross School, Malden Oaks, St Phillips School, Southborough Boys' School, The Hollyfield School and Tolworth Girls' School took part.

STEM4 provide education on early identification and intervention on four commonly occurring mental health issues in teenagers. The conference enabled students to increase their awareness of mental health issues, spread these messages and become ambassadors in their schools. This helps to make their schools more mental health friendly and reduce stigma.

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struggling to cope with the number of referrals. It is therefore more important than ever that students and schools are able to recognise problems early and to be innovative and creative in their responses.

Young people benefit from high levels of emotional resilience to negotiate the challenges they face in the modern world and this concept is promoted through STEM4 education. Openness in schools is an important factor in their success at managing problems when they arise.

STEM4 focuses on eating disorders, anxiety and depression, self-harm and addiction, introducing lots of practical advice and tips on how teenagers can identify the conditions early together with techniques to combat these debilitating conditions, including the ‘four steps to change’. For more information visit: www.stem4.org.uk

music

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Rock On, Kingston!

Jim Hawkins, the driving force behind Kingston’s Rock Choir chats to Darling Editor Marja-Leena Toseland

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t’s a chilly Tuesday evening and as you enter the Kingston All Saints Church, a wall of ‘Something Inside So Strong’ hits you in the solar plexus. Sopranos, altos, basses (yes, with a few precious men), 6 part harmonies – it’s all there in various shapes, sizes and ages.

You have entered the domain of Rock Choir! It’s thrilling, with a gospel feel set to some of old favourites Rescue Me, How Deep Is Your Love, Don't Let The Sun Go Down On Me and I Say A Little Prayer – it’s really transporting.

Jim Hawkins Choir Leader: “Rock Choir is the biggest and most popular contemporary choir in the UK today. It is open to all with no audition and offers the opportunity to sing pop, motown, rock and feel good classic hit

songs with others in a relaxed, friendly, fun environment led by a professional choir leader. The choir started in Farnham, Surrey in 2004 by Caroline Redman Lusher and now boasts over 17,000 members UK-wide!

The two Rock Choirs in Kingston (over 200 singers, mostly female), meet on a Tuesday evening in The All Saints Church, Market Place, and most importantly, on the door step of local pubs The Druids Head and O'Neils, two of the regular post-rehearsal meeting places.

Exciting local events have included, The Kingston Big Sing with Ken Burton, Christmas parties for the local MENCAP Seekers Group, grand performances at the All Saints Church and as part of the Kingston Summer Festival. On a grander scale Kingston Rock Choir have recorded at Abbey Road, sung at Wembley Arena, Wembley

Stadium, Hammersmith Apollo, a sold out O2 arena, The Tower Of London to set a Guinness World Record and at The Southbank as part of a national choir festival.

They are scheduled to return to the world famous Abbey road Studios in April this year and you can find their recordings online at: www.rockchoir.com More information on www. james-hawkins-music.co.uk If you don’t fancy a choir but are interested in ‘Finding your own individual voice’ try Elaine Hallam’s weekly courses in Kingston and other areas: www.singersandsongs.com Other local choirs include: The Landmark Singers, Vocality, Teddington Choral Society, Singing it back and Canbury Singers.

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Feeding children and teenagers changing their diets can have a great impact

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s parents we all want our children to be thriving with vibrant health, full of boundless energy for all their pursuits and maximum concentration so their sponge-like brains can soak up and retain the abundance of information coming their way.

Sugar: The absolute most important time for your young ones to avoid sugar is at breakfast. So instead of cereals or toast and jam aim for eggs anyway you like except fried, avocado and chicken or cheese and tomato on wholegrain toast, even a chicken leg and an apple while running for the bus.

In reality we have concerns: my child seems too tired, hyper, grumpy, fussy with food, too spotty or pale, too many tummy aches or headaches, too easily upset, too itchy, overwhelmed with stress of exams, another cold?

Fats: Essential fats are vital for brain, visual, immune and cognitive development. Recent research has shown that only 22% of children get adequate amounts of essential fats. So let’s make that oily fish exciting!

Try putting it in paella or kedgeree or a mild fish curry or make fish cakes or even fish balls that you can cook in a tomato sauce just as you would with meat balls.

So what do young people need eat to become the best versions of themselves? This is a HUGE subject and is a large part of my clinic work. Here are my top tips of essential dietary musts: Water: Essential for energy and concentration and so many vital functions in the body. If your child drinks a large glass of water very first thing in the morning this can help to reset their thirst and hence encourage them to drink more water throughout the day.

Protein: Way too often in my clinic I see children and teenagers who just aren’t eating enough of this vital food which can contribute to a myriad of health issues. I like to make life as easy as possible for people and the great news is that if you follow my ideas to decrease sugar and increase fats you’re half way

there with incorporating more protein.

Contact Hilary for recipes, ideas and inspiration. Mention this article when booking your consultation to receive 10% reduction in fees. You can contact Hilary at: hilary@thenutritionkitchen. tv 07983 565 242 www.thenutritionkitchen.tv

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Cook's corner Raw Chocolate Brownies These gorgeous little sweet treats couldn't be simpler - and they're good for you! They're perfect for a snack or a desert with Greek yoghurt.

500g of dates. Medjool are best for their texture and taste 250g of pecan nuts or walnuts 2 - 3 tablespoons of raw cacao powder. You can use cocoa powder if you need to but the taste and nutrition benefits won't be quite the same.

2 tablespoons of maple syrup. This is optional and you can replace with sweet freedom or agave though take care as theses can be very sweet!

Method: Whizz the nuts in the food processor until they form a rubble. Add the dates, blend again then add the cacao and maple syrup.

Place the mixture in a baking tray and put in the fridge for 3 - 4 hours or in the freezer for 1 hour.

Store in the fridge - if there are any left!

by Hilary Davies at The Nutrition Kitchen www.thenutritionkitchen.tv

Pork Belly Vinha d’alhos This recipe is a variation of one of the most popular Goan dishes ‘Vindaloo’- The Pork Belly Vinha d’alhos.

A bit spicy but you can add as much or as little chilli powder as you want.

1kg short belly of pork (boneless) 100ml sunflower or any vegetable oil 4-5 chopped red onions 5 sprigs chopped coriander for garnish Paste 1" stick of cinnamon 3 cloves 3 tsp Kashmiri chilli powder (or red chilli powder) ½ tsp turmeric powder ½ tsp Garam masala powder 4 tsp chopped garlic 1 tsp coriander powder 1 tsp cumin powder 50 ml white vinegar 2 tsp chopped ginger salt, to taste 1 tsp sugar

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Seared Sesame Salmon, Black Treacle and Lime Dressing 4 Portions of salmon 170g each 6 tablespoons of sesame seeds 4 pak choi 1 red pepper 1 packet of bean sprouts 250g ¼ bunch of coriander, chopped 3 limes zest and juice 2 tablespoons black treacle 100 ml extra virgin olive oil 50ml sesame oil 2 tablespoons sweet chilli sauce Method: Place the sesame seeds onto a plate and press the salmon presentation side down onto them.

Cut the pak choi lengthways in half, wash well, place the flat edge on a board and slice in 3 mm slices, de-seed the pepper and also slice finely.

In a bowl place the lime juice and zest, half of the chopped coriander, oils, treacle and sweet chilli sauce, mix well.

Heat a frying pan, add a little oil and place the salmon in the pan sesame seed side down, turn over when golden brown seal the other side and then place onto a tray and bake until cooked in an oven approximately 5-6 mins at 180C. Fry the pak choi and pepper in a little oil, add the bean sprouts. When cooked, drain and split between 4 plates, place the salmon on top of this and then drizzle the dressing over the fish. By Chef Paul Bellingham at Warren House www.warrenhouse.com

Method: 1. Burn the hair on the pork belly skin, wash and dry with a kitchen cloth. Cut the belly into 4 equal-sized pieces.

2. Grind ingredients number 5 to 16 into a smooth paste and rub it on the pork belly.

3. Take a large oven proof pan with lid.

4. Heat 100ml oil in the pan and sauté chopped onions until they start to colour.

5. Add the pork belly with the paste and cook for 5 minutes on a high flame.

6. Reduce heat and cover the pan with a tight fitting lid once it starts to boil.

7. Pre-heat oven at 230C. 8. Cook for 10 minutes, stirring occasionally to prevent the sauce from sticking to the bottom of the pan, check seasoning and tanginess of the vinegar, add more if required.

9. Add 150 ml water and bring the sauce to boil again. Cover with lid and put in the pre heated oven for 3 hours.

10. Once cooked let it cool down. It can be stored in the refrigerator for up to a week (please add water to the pan when reheating)..

Enjoy it with some steamed Basmati rice, a chilled glass of beer or a glass of Rioja. By Executive Chef Deepinder Sondhi at Roz-Ana, www.roz-ana.com

Spice up your Easter

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with my easy North African Lamb and Couscous Feast This will serve at least six.

Shopping list: whole shoulder of lamb (about 2kg) small jar of harissa paste dried rose petals 600ml natural yoghurt lemon romano pepper 400g couscous 1 medium onion fresh mint 1.5 litres of chicken stock (two stock cubes will do) mixed selection of melon zest of an orange chocolate fudge brownie mix or ingredients for own recipe

Method: As an easy starter to this meal arrange slices of mixed melon on a small plate and tear some fresh mint leaves then twist lightly with pepper. This is a lovely, light, refreshing beginning to this fabulous feast.

Spread the Harissa paste all over the lamb and place in a warm oven. Start at 180C for half an hour then loosely cover the meat with foil and reduce the heat to 140C and cook for 4 -5 hours basting occasionally.

For the couscous, first finely chop the onion and fry gently in large pan with a lid on a low heat for about 10 minutes until translucent. Add the couscous, pour in the stock and gently heat until it starts to bubble.

Remove from heat, replace lid and leave for five minutes. Stir and add more liquid if too stiff. Deseed and finely chop the Romano pepper and add. You can also add some fresh herbs if you like. Put to one side.

mint, juice of the lemon and salt and pepper. Cover and keep in the fridge until serving.

When the meat is ready, remove from the oven and let it rest at least half an hour in a warm place. Pour the meat juices into the couscous – this will add bags of flavour and really brings it together. Season the couscous to taste and fluff up with a fork.

Carve the lamb (be generous, it tastes so good!) serve on top of the couscous and gently drizzle with the yoghurt dressing. For that final ‘restaurant’ touch sprinkle dried Rose Petals (available from Waitrose) all around the edge of the plate. Drinkswise I suggest a good glass or two of New Zealand Pinot Noir from Central Otago.

For your dessert how about making the ultimate chocolate extravagance? If you are pushed for time to make your own brownies from scratch you can always use a mix for Chocolate Fudge Brownies (Betty Crocker does an excellent one) at the mixing stage add the zest of a fresh orange. Then cook as per instructions. This is a truly indulgent dessert you can serve with a scoop of ice cream. www.neilhennessyvass.com

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Tutoring takes a holistic approach

by Millie Govekar

compatibility. Are you, your child and the tutor on the same wavelength? Do you have common goals?

Does the tutor provide a service that is tailored to your child’s style of learning?

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hen it comes to our children’s education, most of us take the responsibility seriously: we want the best for them and we will do whatever it takes.

Tutoring no longer has the negative association with ‘being no good’ at a subject, but is being increasingly seen as a positive enhancement to a child’s learning. Moreover, a personalised approach helps develop skills in individuals to enable them to overcome difficulties in their learning, so that they achieve great results in their schoolwork, exams and life in general.

What should you look for in a tutor?

The first thing to establish is

There are many tutors and tutoring agencies that simply work with pupils in fairly large groups, doing paper after paper without actually teaching.

who struggle with their work, but also for those who need to be stretched in their thinking, so that they reach their full potential. Someone who feels happy in his/her learning will want to learn more. This leads to success in all areas, not just in their schoolwork. Furthermore, this confidence allows them to take calculated risks thereby increasing their chances of

Most pupils need an explanation of the ‘whys’ and ‘hows’ so that they not only learn what method they should use to solve a particular problem, but they also understand the reasoning.

The best tutoring aims to provide an individual, holistic approach, to complement the work done in schools, because sometimes that is not enough.

Many children need a one to one teaching and learning environment where they feel it is ok to make mistakes. In this way pupils can overcome their fear of learning and lack of motivation and be inspired to develop a sense of worth by raising their self-esteem.

Tutoring is not just for those

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Live life on the FUNNY SIDE

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ynne Parker is the founder & executive producer of Funny Women, the UK’s leading female comedy community, helping women to perform, write and do business with humour.

How sad it would be to go through life without seeing the funny side. Most of us enjoy a good laugh and in business humour sells. Anybody who can pack a punch with a quip here and a joke there, is sure to up their game in the presentation stakes. Plus the adrenalin rush you get when a punchline is shared is a real confidence booster.

Laughter increases endorphins – which release a response to pain, stress, shock, surprise, excitement, consumption of spicy food and orgasm! This also increases your production of serotonin, the brain chemical that keeps your neural pathways working effectively.

There is also a scientific reason why women approach humour differently: “Women take significantly longer than men to

decide whether or not they find something funny…” says New Scientist. We quite literally have more going on in our prefrontal cortex than men so take longer to ‘process’ information – we are so busy multi-tasking mentally it takes us longer to get the joke! This also explains why we can talk about ten different things at once!

So how can you find your funny female? I take my workshop participants through a series of mental warm ups that help them to switch off that demon inner editor and think in the moment. We expend so much mental energy thinking about what we’re going to say before we even say it when the first thing that comes into your head can often be the most appropriate, humorous and memorable.

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Dare you date as a forty-something?

by Marja-Leena Toseland

D

ating seems like the only road out of the land of singles, and for the forty-somethings, it's a road filled with potholes.

Dating is often, especially for divorced women, fraught with complication, anxiety and worry. Looking for second-time love when children are a first priority is a challenge. Trying to meet people in bars and clubs can feel like a younger person's game, especially when you need a single friend and a babysitter to get there. But nor does everyone feel that they will find love on the web.

Despite the many difficulties involved, many forty-somethings manage not only to enjoy dating but to achieve their goal of finding a long-term committed relationship.

Some meet a new partner by following the tried-andtested advice to get involved in volunteer activities, college classes, or community groups. For others, the road

It seems so much easier for men to have more free time after separation whilst it's often their exes who are left juggling work and children most of the time.

The media tends to portray dating as something for the young and lovely, and many middle-aged men and women feel they don't measure up. They may have neglected their physical appearance while devoting time to family and career and interpret wrinkles, thinning hair, and other signs of ageing as proof that they'll never attract a partner, which in turn becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

It may be a little unrealistic to expect to pick up where you left off, if you are dating again after the end of a long-term relationship.

To experience the excitement of a young-adult romance again I’m sure tops every singleton’s wish list, but is that a realistic expectation?

to success begins with an exercise programme or a new hairstyle to improve their self-image. More and more of us are giving online dating a try.

And for the adventurous, a metropolis like London offers numerous opportunities to meet other singles – singles parties and bars that attract a more mature clientele – some well known for their relaxed atmosphere where anything is possible if you are up for it.

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A fresh look at Spring-Summer interiors with design expert Ann Jackman

Ann Jackman Interiors Solutions for the contemporary home and garden

neutral with splashes of colour. We’ve created fantastic individual schemes, as seen below, for clients who prefer not to be surrounded by colour. For 2014 Farrow & Ball and Little Greene have both produced more shades of grey in their paint collections so there’s a fantastic choice of paint and paper for all tastes.

What’s new? Colour is back!

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fter the dismal winter I’m delighted that the new collections are the most vibrant we’ve seen for years. Whether you want lots of colour or prefer to add bright new accents to a neutral scheme, a single room facelift or a whole new interior, there’s something right for you.

Floral inspiration …

The top fabric houses are using floral designs in wonderful ways, with bright colour and bold images.

And modern florals are printed digitally, so we can create an up-to-date look that’s miles away from our traditional idea of floral designs.

Check out Osborne & Little, Designer’s Guild and House of Hackney for the most vibrant, unusual patterns, and for highly patterned fabrics in upholstery see Timrous Beastie’s fabulous sofa for Ercol. Keep a scrapbook of ideas to inspire you at home.

…and monochrome

In fact you’re still on trend without colour: interiors are following the catwalk fashions this season with black and white – timeless, chic and sophisticated.

But monochrome doesn’t need to be cold: to soften the look I’d suggest using a soft grey paint on the walls, as shown in this dining area, adding additional warmth with wood floors, furniture, and accessories.

Making it personal My approach is to help you express yourself through design and colour: to focus on what works for you, your home and family. That might be a dramatic scheme with trend-setting, clashing florals or a softer approach using key colours or florals specially chosen for your cushions or feature walls.

I’ll work with you, using my expertise and contacts to create a tailor-made design solution that’s right for you and your budget, so do get in touch.

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Make your precious space

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orget that uncomfortable, unattractive futon from your student days (and nights) – today’s sofa beds are stylish and functional.

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There are many options with removable arms, so access problems are overcome.

SIZE This depends on your space, but also on the type of guests you have. If you have couples staying over, opt for a minimum of 140 cm x 190 cm mattress. If your guests are mostly singles (a baby-sitter or your child’s sleepover friend) a smaller 115 cm mattress will work. Mattress widths typically range from 80 cm to 180 cm.

USE How often will it be slept on? For an every day sofa, support is your main consideration. The occasional use mattress is perfectly acceptable for one or two nights use at a time. However, if it is to be slept on for long periods at a time an ‘all the time’ or

‘regular use’ sleep option is the answer. It is essential to test out the various options before you buy just as you would with a traditional mattress.

EASE While traditional sofa beds with removable base/ back cushions and fold-out mechanisms are still the most prevalent, there are many other options available. You’ll be amazed at how easy the ‘up and over’ bed mechanisms are to operate.

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ith interest rates still at a record low, and with signs of a real recovery on the horizon, there couldn’t be a better time to add value to your home. It could be that loft or basement conversion you’ve always dreamed of, an open plan living space, or simply using skylights to let the summer sunshine in.

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Success with

Climbing plants

by Valerie McBride-Munro

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sing climbing plants in your garden is a wonderful way to exploit a vertical surface. A word to the wise though – you must fully understand exactly how a plant hangs on so that you provide it with perfect support.

Why do plants climb?

Climbing plants are the lazy, impatient, opportunistic members of the plant world.

Weavers and twiners Winding plants twist their stems around a structure. As I’m the queen of trivia, did you know that the runner bean winds anti-clockwise, whereas honeysuckle and hops are happy lacing their way clockwise? Don’t try and change this natural orientation, as the plant will sulk and will probably peg out.

on your clematis. Here it’s the leaf stalk or petiole that does the twisting.

A typical twiner is the wisteria. However, the older the plant is, the sturdier the stems become, so if you don’t provide it with a suitable framework to twine around (either horizontal wires or sturdy arch or pergola) then it will latch itself around something unsuitable such as your telephone or television aerial cable and pull them off the wall.

Stickers

In both these examples, you will need to give them something more slender than trellis to attach themselves to – bean netting, chicken wire or other open weave mesh will work well.

The most common plant in this group is ivy, where it produces adventi-tious roots from its stem to allow it to adhere onto a wall. Another more decorative sticker is the climbing hydrangea, which is an extremely useful plant for a north-facing wall.

For both, no support is needed – just place close to the wall or fence and the plants will do the rest.

Grappling hooks Instead of using the plant stem to do all the hard work, other plants will hang on using their own version of a grappling hook.

The first is a tendril, which looks like a coiled spring, used by sweet peas and passionflower.

You’ll find the second ‘grappling’ hook method

© 2014 Valerie McBride-Munro Auntie Planty is a qualified horticulturist.

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What's on?

Valentina Paglia - an Italian contemporary painter and sculptor Exhibition at Cafe at Court Farm Gallery, Old Kingston Road, Worcester Park, KT4 7QH Until Wed 30th April www.kingstonarts.co.uk Hetty Feather by Jacqueline Wilson at the Rose Theatre Sat 5th - Sat 19th April www.rosetheatrekingston.org Time to Talk With Jennifer Saunders at the Rose Theatre Mon 7th April at 5:30pm www.rosetheatrekingston.org Beer festival Fri 11th and Sat 12th April At 1st Hook Scout HQ , Verona Drive, Surbiton Time: Friday 6-10pm, Sat 12noon 4pm, and 6pm - 10pm Volunteer run festival - all profits to charity. Food available at all sessions.

Live music at evening sessions.

Cost: £5 entry includes Programme and Commemorative Glass.

In aid of Breast Cancer Campaign www.hookbeerfest.org.uk Surbiton Scottish Country Dancing St Mark’s Church Hall, Church Hill Road, Surbiton KT6 4UE Every Thursday, 7:30-10:30pm Kingston Orpheus Choir perform Mendelssohn’s Elijah Sat 12th April, 7:30-9:30pm St Andrew’s Church, Maple Road, Surbiton KT6, www.kingstonarts.co.uk Kingston Jazz Society - Great Jazz, By George (Richard Pavy) The Druids Head (upstairs), Market Place, Kingston KT1 1JT Tue 15th April, 7:45-10:45pm www.kingstonarts.co.uk EASTER ACTIVITIES/EVENTS: Spring into the Lamb Fair Sun 13th April At The Lamb, 73 Brighton Road, Surbiton, 1pm-6pm Home made local crafts, activities for

the kids and fabulous food.

Easter egg hunt, Easter cookies to decorate, masks to make and try your hand at flower arranging. Free entry.

In aid of IYAF www.facebook.com/madeinSurbiton Easter Holiday Activities for children At the Landmark Arts Centre in Teddington, Wed 9th - Wed 16th April To book visit www.landmarkartscentre.org Easter Egg Hunt in Claremont Park Claremont Road, Surbiton Sat 16th April, starting times: 11am, Noon and 2:30pm Organised by Yorda Adventures, a local charity, Entry £3 per child or £5 to include a face-paint. http://www.yordaadventures.co.uk Cadbury Easter Egg Trail Ham House, Ham Street, Ham, TW10 18th, 19th, 20th and 21st Apr 2014, 10am-5pm Cost: £3 per trail plus admission www.nationaltrust.org.uk/ham-house or www.eastereggtrail.com Easter Egg Hunt - Heal's Store Kingston 49-51 Eden Street, Kingston Upon Thames, KT1 1BW Wed 19th March, all day. Free. www.heals.co.uk/kingston The Children’s Trust Easter Fair Easter Egg hunt and a Spring farm with rabbits, guinea pigs and chicks.

The Children’s Trust, Tadworth Court, Tadworth KT20 5RU 12-4pm, free for under 16s, adults £3 www.thechildrenstrust.org.uk Translations by Brian Friel at the Rose Theatre Tue 22nd April - Sat 3rd May www.rosetheatrekingston.org Comedy at the Landmark Top-class stand-up comedy – a fundraising event Thurs 24th April at 8pm www.landmarkartscentre.org Kingston Jazz Society - Guest recital:

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Just Friends (Alan Barnes) The Druids Head (upstairs), Market Place, Kingston KT1 1JT Tue 29h April, 7:45-10:45pm www.kingstonarts.co.uk Youth Photographic competition 17th Feb - 4th May At YMCA LSW, St James House, 9-15 St James Rd, Surbiton Open for everyone under the age of 18. Explore your community in the YMCA LSW photography competition Whether you're a budding professional photographer or mobile phone snapper with a good eye for a picture, you are invited to take part in our annual competition. This year’s theme is: My Community – Beyond the Surface Free to enter, open to anyone under the age of 18 who lives, studies or works in the Boroughs of Kingston, Merton or Richmond www.ymcalsw.org/Sites/room/pages/ photocompetition Music in New Malden Guildhall School Cantata Project New Malden Methodist Church, High St. Sun 11th May, 3:00-4:00pm, Free www.newmaldenmethodistchurch.com Teddington Artists’ annual exhibition of paintings, prints, jewellery and ceramics The National Physical Laboratory Atrium, Teddington Sat 10th - Sun 11th May, 10am-6:00pm www.teddingtonartists.co.uk Horrible Histories - Ruthless Romans at the Rose Theatre Tue 20th May to Sat 24th May www.rosethreatrekingston.org The Gruffalo at the Rose Theatre Tue 27 May to Sun 1 Jun www.rosetheatrekingston.org The Enormous Elephant Run in aid of the David Sheldrick Wildlife Trust The Windmill, Windmill Road, Wimbledon Common, SW19 5NR Sat 7th June, 11am-4pm To register and for more information www.runforelephants.com

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Bringing nature’s energies into our homes

By Alessandro Ferullo, Qi Gong teacher and wellness practitioner

THE JOY OF STAYMAN With Darling’s Bridge Guru Paul Mendelson American Sam Stayman did not invent the eponymous convention, a British guy did. Sadly, the American’s talent for promotion meant that it is his name which is long remembered, even if his convention is sometimes not…

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Here, bidding 2y as a weak take-out is not nearly as good as finding the 4-4 spade fit and, although East-West should really compete (West should probably double for take-out), if left to play in 2z, you should make it.

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point of view ...............

Is it hot in here

or is it just YOU?

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pring is in the air… so do a piece on chatup lines, instructed my Editor. In the age of Facebook, texting, and Tinder, did they still work? Seeking an answer for Darling, a geriatric, digitally challenged gang of us headed to the river bars on a Saturday night.

“Fat Penguin!” blurted out my brave friend Jenny to a good-looking man ordering a whisky.

He looked at her, insulted and rather bemused.

“I just wanted to say something that would break the ice,” she explained, fluttering her eyelashes and

By Lyndsay Russell

“Michelle Stevens” “D’you live in Kingston?”

“Yes” “Are you free this Saturday?”

“Yes” “Can we meet then… or have a drink now?”

Silence, as the question permeated her pretty little brain cell. The pregnant pause felt like the full nine months. She shifted awkwardly. We all shifted awkwardly. Now it was becoming two weeks overdue…

Finally, Matt looked up from his board and smiled charmingly.

“There is no wrong answer.” She laughed. Bingo!

Encouraged, Gill turned to a stranger beside us and asked his favourite pick-up line. Good girl.

He grinned like a naughty boy.

“I like, ‘Hi, is your man still giving you a hard time?’ Thing is, all girls have man trouble. So she’ll either demand how you know, or think you’ve met before and feel flattered you’ve remembered. Either way, you’re talking!”

flicking back her hair in a perfect demonstration of female multi-tasking. Slowly, the joke dawned on him.

“Good one. Okay, would you like some in a drink?” he retorted cutely. It worked. Too well. We’d lost a top researcher in 7 seconds flat.

Gamely, Matt volunteered next. With a clipboard in hand, our Man In Bandana approached a miniskirted high-heeled blonde and said seriously, “Hi, I’m doing a survey for Darling Magazine.”

“Could I ask your name?”

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“It’s pointless to be so calculating,” said a passing waitress. “If she doesn’t fancy you, it doesn’t matter what you say.”

Really? Trained in balanced reporting, I enquired about the reverse.

“If the guy with a really lousy chat up line was gorgeous? Would it turn you off ?”

“Yes, absolutely.” She insisted sniffily.

“Okay. What if it was George Clooney?”

She pondered.

“From him, I would accept ‘Do you come here often?’”

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