Of course these kinds of concerns are on your mind.

This is one of -- if not the most significant -- moment of your life so far. It would be disconcerting if you weren’t ruminating on these questions and concerns.

Rather than diving directly into the specifics/logistics of what’s on the horizon over the coming weeks and months, I think there’s actually a better place to begin.

Whenever we’re preparing for a truly significant event, whether that’s a critical but challenging conversation or an exploration of how to proceed with a particularly important decision - it can be incredibly helpful to start not at the beginning of this situation, but at the finish line.

Let me explain by asking a few different questions:

1. How do you want to be remembered by your kids when you’re gone?

2. What are the qualities you hope they use to define the relationship you shared with them?

3. What‘s the nature of the impact you hope to make on the adults they become and the lives that they will ultimately live?

* Better yet, you can use the journal with these prompts at the end of this eBook