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Vestos – Calendar Part 2 5

Behavior on Onah of Separationu

Behavior on Onah of Separation There are 2 general halachos to follow: Separation

Bedikah

Behavior on Onah of Separation Separation Throughout the onah of separation: Marital relations are forbidden

Praiseworthy to refrain from: Sleeping in one bed Affectionate touch

Behavior on Onah of Separation Bedikah Time of bedikah On Veses Hachodesh and Veses Haflaga – preferably soon after time of day that the flow upon which the current Veses is based began. It can be done later on, but before the end of the onah.

On Onah Beinonis – at end of day, shortly before shkiah.

Behavior on Onah of Separation Bedikah Forgot to do bedikah:

Veses Hachodesh and Haflaga

Onah Beinonis or Veses Kavua

She is permissible once onah is over

Must remain separated until bedikah is done

Behavior on Onah of Separation Leaving on trip Leaving on trip close to onah of separation Husband should avoid leaving on trip the day following an onah of separation due to his obligation to be intimate with his wife before he travels If he needs to travel and will miss instance when obligated to provide tashmish:

Halachically permitted

Preferable

Tashmish after bedikah

Appease wife to absolve him of obligation and instead share external gestures of love

Consult with Rav what to do

After Dates of Anticipation Pass

After Dates of Anticipation Pass Pregnancy test If a week passed after final onah marked on calendar and she hasn’t gotten period yet, suggested to take pregnancy test

Home pregnancy test can be bought in any pharmacy

If test comes back negative Doctor should conduct a more reliable test and look into reason for the delay in her period

Pregnancy and Nursing

Pregnancy and Nursing From what point is woman halachically considered pregnant?

Starting from 90 days after mikvah night

Pregnancy and Nursing When is woman halachically considered nursing?

She is considered to be mesulekes damim for 24 months post birth even if not actually nursing

If underwent c-section consult Rav regarding status

Pregnancy and Nursing Miscarriage Miscarriage

If woman had a miscarriage chas veshalom after 40 days of pregnancy

She is considered to be mesulekes damim for the following 24 months afterwards

Pregnancy and Nursing What mesulekes damim means practically Pregnant

Nursing

She shouldn’t bleed at all

Likely to receive period even while nursing

If she sees blood, she should consult doctor

Even when considered mesulekes damim, she still calculates vestos from flows she has during this time

Pregnancy and Nursing Two practical applications for woman who is a mesulekes damim: She doesn’t establish a Veses Kavua even if she gets 3 consecutive periods that follow a certain pattern

She doesn’t keep dates of anticipation based on flows from before this status

Example: If she saw blood during third month of pregnancy, she needn’t keep dates of anticipation in fourth month

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos Defining day and night Night onah

Day onah

From sunset to sunrise

From sunrise to sunset

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos Determining the onah of sighting If she sees blood by day but suspects it began already during the night: It is considered to have started by day If clearly evident that began by night: Consult Rav

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos Determining the onah of sighting She spotted during day and flow began that night: It is marked based on when flow began

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos Determining the onah of sighting What types of bleeding are marked down?

Period

Blood found on bedikah

These aren’t marked down: Stains

Medical examinations

Birth

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos Additional bleeding after short while If she bled again not long after original sighting Within seven days of original flow’s beginning: Second bleeding is not marked

Onah Beinonis

Veses Hachodesh

Veses Haflaga

30th day from original flow

Date of original flow

Haflaga number is counted from newest Hefsek Taharah

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos Additional bleeding after short while If she bled again not long after original sighting After seven days from original flow’s beginning: Second bleeding is marked

Onah Beinonis

Veses Hachodesh

Veses Haflaga

30th day from second bleeding

Dates of both flows

If she made Hefsek Taharah between the flows, the second flow creates additional short haflaga number

Additional Halachos Regarding Vestos A short flow If a woman had a short period that began in one onah and finished in the very next onah

Consult Rav The required separation may apply for additional hours in the second onah in addition to the entire first onah

Additional Types of Cycles

Additional Types of Cycles Veses Haguf If there is a specific and clear symptom that seems directly synchronized with the period: Consult Rav whether she should anticipate menstruation and perform bedikah the next time she experiences the same symptom This does not include the sensitive emotional state that can surface due to hormonal shifts If the symptom and period are in separate onos – consult Rav

Additional Types of Cycles Veses Hakefitzos If her period began 3 times on account of specific activity:

E.g. physical exertion or eating spicy food She must perform bedikah every time she does that activity Rav should be consulted to ascertain status

Additional Types of Cycles Medications that affect menstrual cycle If a woman takes medications that regulate her period: Her expected period is based on the medication’s schedule is marked as time of separation

The other dates of anticipation calculated from previous flows: Consult Rav whether they must also be kept

Veses Kavua

Veses Kavua Introduction

How is a Veses Kavua established?

Veses Kavua Introduction A uniformity, progression, or pattern in the periods can potentially establish a Veses Kavua Sometimes it takes four periods to establish a definitive Veses Kavua

Nowadays Although it isn’t common for women to have a fixed cycle, one should pay attention to notice if any patterns occur temporarily, and if they do, consult Rav how to proceed

Veses Kavua Introduction

Veses Kavua Lechumra

This means that she follows the stringencies resulting from having a Veses Kavua but not the leniencies

Veses Kavua Paying attention How do we stay on the lookout?

After a few periods have passed, look at the chart and check if any of the columns look like a pattern

Haflaga number

Date of month

Day of week

Veses Kavua Fixed Veses Hachodesh Example of Veses Kavua based on dates of the month: Her flow began on the same date of the month (and same onah) three months in a row

Night/Day

Date

Day

‫ד' תשרי‬

Day

‫ד' חשון‬

Day

‫ד' כסלו‬

Veses Kavua Fixed Veses Haflaga Example of Veses Kavua based on haflaga numbers: Her flow began three times in a row with equal intervals of onos:

Haflaga number 52 52 52

Veses Kavua Veses Hasirug for day of week Sirug “Alternating” It begins consistently at the same time, yet it alternates according to a pattern and doesn’t occur every single instance of that time arriving

An alternating cycle is only definitively established after four instances By the third instance it is established “lechumra”

Veses Kavua Veses Hasirug for day of week Example of alternating cycle based on day of week: Every fourth Thursday is an “alternating” cycle — one week yes, then three weeks no

Night/Day

Date

Day of week

Day

‫ו' תשרי‬

Thursday

Day

‫ד' חשון‬

Thursday

Day

‫ג' כסלו‬

Thursday

Day

‫א' טבת‬

Thursday

Veses Kavua Veses Hasirug for day of month Example of alternating cycle based on day of month: Every other month on the same day of month is considered “alternating” — one month yes and one month no

Night/Day

Date

Day

‫ד' תשרי‬

Day

‫ד' כסלו‬

Day

‫ד' שבט‬

Day

‫ד' ניסן‬

Veses Kavua Veses Hadilug When period “skips” in equal increments either forward or backward For example: every month it skips one day forward, or two days backward

A “skipping” cycle is only definitively established after four periods By the third period it is established “lechumra”

Veses Kavua Veses Hadilug in days Examples of skipping in days of month: One day forward

Two days backward

Date

Date

‫ד' תשרי‬

‫י' תשרי‬

‫ה' חשון‬

‫ח' חשון‬

‫ו' כסלו‬

‫ו' כסלו‬

‫ז' טבת‬

‫ד' טבת‬

Veses Kavua Veses Hadilug in onos Examples of skipping in onos: One onah forward

Three onos backward

Date

Night/Day

Date

Night/Day

‫ד' תשרי‬

Night

‫ז' תשרי‬

Day

‫ד' חשון‬

Day

‫ו' חשון‬

Night

‫ה' כסלו‬

Night

‫ד' כסלו‬

Day

‫ה' טבת‬

Day

‫ג' טבת‬

Night

Veses Kavua Veses Hadilug in haflaga numbers Examples of skipping in haflaga numbers: Three onos

One onah

Haflaga number

Haflaga number

50

50

53

51

56

52

59

53

Veses Kavua Veses Hadilug backwards Veses Hadilug can also be established when periods skip backwards in equal increments:

Haflaga numbers

Date

Night/Day

50

‫ד' תשרי‬

Night

49

‫ג' חשון‬

Day

48

‫ג' כסלו‬

Night

47

‫ב' טבת‬

Day

Veses Kavua Distant haflaga numbers that were never canceled Distant haflaga numbers that were never canceled could combine

The three instances of 80 could combine to establish Veses Kavua even though there are many smaller numbers interrupting between them

Haflaga number

Haflaga number

Canceled

80

48

X

X

58

58

X

X

47

47

X

80

56

X

X

54

80

X

35

Canceled