Introduction to Teaching

Introduction to the World of Teaching

Section 1

First Meeting With Chosson

Structure of the Meeting

1: First meeting

Getting acquainted

Introduction

Arrangements

Proper outlook

Motivation

1: First meeting

Getting Acquainted Getting to know the chosson

1: First meeting

Getting Acquainted Introducing yourself

Your name

Number of years married

How many children

Where you live

Your professional training

1: First meeting

Getting Acquainted Chosson introducing himself

Ask thoughtful questions

Display interest and initiate conversation

In casual and relaxed manner

Getting Acquainted

1: First meeting

Examples of topics to discuss: What’s your name?

Where are you from?

Where will you be until the wedding?

Tell me a little about your upbringing

When and where is the wedding?

Be considerate if the chosson is shy and not ready to share so much

1: First meeting

Introduction Basic introduction to learning together

Introduction

1: First meeting

Presenting the three general topics

Halachos of Taharas Hamishpacha

Shalom Bayis

Marital Intimacy

Introduction

1: First meeting

Steps of the learning

Learning the material together Independent review from the booklet

2

1

Filling out worksheets and charts

Written test to receive certification of readiness for marriage

3

1: First meeting

Introduction Important points about the learning

Tailored for the couple

Halachic standard

Engaging lessons

Stay in touch

Introduction

1: First meeting

Ethics of Chosson Teacher

Making him feel comfortable

Being open to questions

Explaining well

Two-sided conversations

Being available

Arrangements

1: First meeting

Learning arrangements

Timing of lessons

Punctuality

Payment

1: First meeting

Proper outlook Topics of discussion: It’s not good for a person to be alone The Jewish view on marriage Marriage brings a person to fulfill their life purpose The couple unites as one unit You’re getting married to give and not (just) to get

Motivation

1: First meeting

Practical facts about marriage Central points: Good vs. bad marriages

2

1

33% Pulling through

Three thirds-of-the-pie

What factors make the difference?

3

33% Divorced

Motivation

1: First meeting

How to change our preconceived notions and mindsets

Study

Effort

Thinking patterns Knowledge

Application

Behavior patterns