The Art of Healthy Self-Talk: Drama Redesigned

THE ART OF HEALTHY SELF-TALK

By Dr. Jody Janati

”We Don’t See Things as They Are; We See Things as We Are” ~Anais Nin

“YOUR PERSONALITY CREATES YOUR PERSONAL REALITY” ~JOE DISPENZA

“WHAT WE SEE DEPENDS MAINLY ON WHAT WE LOOK FOR” ~JOHN LUBBOCK

“The things that break your heart, often fix your vision”

“EXPECTATION LEADS TO FUTURE RESENTMENT”

Awareness = Change

ARE YOU MINDFUL

OR IS YOUR MIND FULL?

What is the Best Vitamin for a “Drama Free� person?

B1

What are the Underlying Components of • Stress • Anger • Fear •

Hurt = Past Thoughts Worry = Future Thoughts

“Worrying IS USING your imagination to create something you don't want”

REACTIVE & CREATIVE Consist of the same letters

Will you REACT [cause & effect] -orCREATE [cause the effect]

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

CTRL + ALT + DEL CONTROL YOURSELF

ALTER YOUR DELETE THINKING NEGATIVITY

Listen and silent

“HEAR” AND NOW

“I’m figuring it out…”

“Control Your Emotions or They Will Control You” ~Chinese Proverb

“anger is one letter short of danger�

Don’t should on yourself

REDUCE RESISTANCE Eliminate these words and Create Your “Master Peace” SHOULD NEED TO NOT HAVE TO

SHOULDN’T STOP OUGHT TO DON’T

When You Argue with Reality, You Lose; But Only 100% of thE TIME� ~Byron Katie

“What You Resist, Persists” ~Carl Jung

IT IS WHAT IT “IS”

Issue

Solution

Two Visions = Division

“Worrying IS USING your imagination to create something you don't want.”

DRAMA REDESIGNED

BE EASY WITH YOURSELF

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“Let’s see if I can…”

“Might I be able to…”

“I’d like it if I could…”

“Am I able to…”

“The solution I want is…”

“Suppose I do this” “Would I rather x or y” “I want us to…”

“Perhaps I could…”

“Can I agree to…”

“Would I be willing to…”

“Maybe I could…”

“Is it possible for me to…”

“Have I considered” “The outcome I would like” “I would like to…”

“What do you think I should do first?”

“It might be in my best interest to…”

“What are my choices here” “What would help my situation?”

“One option I might want to consider is…”

“How do I want to be treated?”

“What will it take for me to…?”

THINGS ARE WORKING OUT FOR ME

What do you stand “For”

want

don’t want

“CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGS AND THE THINGS YOU LOOK AT CHANGE” ~dr. Wayne Dyer

“YOUR FOCUS DETERMINES YOUR REALITY” ~STEVEN SPIELBERG

WE ARE ALWAYS ONE CHOICE AWAY FROM creating A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LIFE!

ARE YOU OFFERING A “PIECE OF YOUR MIND” OR “PEACE OF MIND”

MOVE FROM “YOU STRESS” TO EUSTRESS

FEELING + Need MAY

Are you chasing pleasure or running from pain?

I have to…

I choose to…

I get to…

PERSPECTIVE CHANGES EVERYTHING

IF YOU REARRANGE THE LETTERS IN “DEPRESSION” YOU GET “I PRESSED ON”

What if failure was just feedback?

TURN YOUR MELODRAMA INTO A MELLOW DRAMA ~ Ram Dass

IMPOSSIBLE

I’M POSSIBLE

opportunity is‌ No where

BREAKDOWN OR A… BREAKTHROUGH

NO! TRY NOT! DO OR DO NOT, THERE IS NO TRY ~YODA

I’VE DECIDED

False Evidence Appearing Real F & @ %

E V E R Y T H I N G

A N D

R U N

F A C E

E V E R Y T H I N G

A N D

R E C O V E R

BE A VERB & GET UNSTUCK Stuck: “My communication in this group is poor.”

Unstuck: “How might I communicate more effectively?”

Stuck: “My decision needs to be made by tomorrow."

Unstuck: “What is my process for deciding?”

Stuck: “That event was a big failure.”

Unstuck: “How did this event end up failing?”

Stuck: “My reaction was inappropriate.”

Unstuck: “How should I react in the future?”

Pain & Pleasure

WHAT ARE BASIC MOTIVATORS?

MOVE TO “Why DON’T I?” Victim Thinking “Why Can’t I?”

FEED THE GOOD WOLF

Positive Pivoting It feels good to…

I like to…

I enjoy it when…

I am abundant.

I am healthy.

I am figuring it out!

A BELIEF IS JUST A THOUGHT YOU CONTINUE TO THINK…

[-] TOLERATE [-] Problem Have to Defensive Control Need Demand Resistance Force Fight Debate Destructive Repel Superiority React Hero Self-Centered Control Negative Deny Attack Emotional

[+] ALLOW [+] Solution Choose to Collaborative Balance Feeling Request No Resistance Face Unite Dialogue Constructive Attract Equality Respond Humble Higher Purpose Empower Positive Consider Concede Not Emotional

WHAT IS LIFE?

The words or phrases that come to mind, which best capture my life are: ¤ As I think about it now, my life is like: ¤ My life feels as though: ¤ My life is similar to: ¤ My life reminds me of: ¤ I might compare life to:

Are You Hiding From Happiness?

WHY? WHOWHY? CREATES YOUR THINKING?

“My boss is ruining my life…”

“My mom is driving me crazy…”

REVIEW YOUR THOUGHTS “When I think the thought

“

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my thoughts and behavior towards this person become “

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We are all

“response-Able”

I Am Sorry Please Forgive Me Thank You I Love You

HO’OPONOPONO PRAYER

Move On… Let It Go… Get Over It… Life Goes On… It Is What It Is… And So It Goes…

Put It In The Past…

What’s Done Is Done…

Art of FORGIVENESS

APPROPRIATE WAYS TO APOLOGIZE -“I’m sorry. I didn’t realize that I hurt you. Please forgive me.”

-“My mouth just engages before I think sometimes. I’m sorry.”

-“I apologize. I’m having a bad day & didn’t intend to hurt you. I am sorry.”

-“I’m sorry. What I said/did was mean and I can see it hurt you. Please forgive me.”

-“When we disagreed, I should have kept my cool. Please accept my apology.”

-“Everything happened so fast. I realize I said some things I shouldn’t have in the heat of the moment. I am sorry.”

-“I’m sorry for xyz. I would prefer that we focus on the future rather than the past; is that okay with you?”

-“In hindsight I believe I sounded angry? Please know I was trying to be clear and my intention was not to hurt you.”

GO. BE. LOVE. THE WORLD NEEDS YOU.

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