Title from video The MD: “There’s a temptation by clinicians to do the problem-solving with

“In my experience, moms and dads often generally react differently to certain situations. I can't count the number of times people have said something like, dad is kind of quiet, he doesn't say much, and the unspoken assumption is there's not much going on there. I'm like, no, there is a whole lot going on there, but maybe he is just not revealing it for all the world to see in realtime.”

“Another piece too is that there is a lot of work that has been done in our field about what it means to be a good parent, and asking parents what does it mean for you to be a good parent. One is being a good parent; is making good medical decisions on behalf of my child and the other is being a good parent; is making sure my child feels loved. Those are not mutually exclusive. It's not either or there's some balance there. Studies have also shown that mothers tend to be in the second group and fathers tend to be in the first group. I think there's a temptation to sort of do the problem-solving with dad and provide the emotional support to the mom.”