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Frightfully Good Halloween Party Ideas

by Jane Schneider

Want to Improve Your School?

by Ginger Spickler

6 Around Town Halloween fun, Step UP for Down Syndrome walk, Pelican Fest at Reelfoot Lake

10 Savvy Shopper The Art Project, Staks! Pancake Kitchen

12 One Cool Mom Laura Meanwell with Germantown Cares 14 Health Matters E-cigarettes and vaping

30 Early Years Night frights, arts & children 34 October Calendar & Events 45 Can-do Kids TED Talks Organizer Patton Orr

24 Daytripping Let’s go, Little Rock

46 Our Favorite Moments Kid funnies & photos

OUR STAFF Editor Jane Schneider Advertising Art Director Christopher Myers Graphic Designer Dominique Pere Advertising Manager Sheryl Butler Account Executive March Gates Production Operations Director Margie Neal Calendar Editor Meena Viswanathan

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24 School Notes Helping kids with time management

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EDITOR’S NOTE

FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE

JANE SCHNEIDER

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I was talking with some moms recently when the subject of happiness came up.

“Are you happy?” my friend asked. “And if not, what would you change to find that happiness?”

Her question was food for thought.

I used to think happiness was something bestowed upon us by others. But what I’ve come to realize is that happiness is an attitude towards life. We can choose to be happy; we can choose to have a joyful heart. Yet if happiness is an emotion we choose, then it helps to know what prompts it.

When Pharrell’s song, “Happy,” was dancing out of every radio last summer, it made me stop and think about what exactly made me happy. I sat down one day and drafted a list: spending time with friends, being in wilderness, exploring new places, talking to my son, savoring a meal, swimming, creating.

The next question was fairly simple, too. Did I make time for those things that make me happy? The answer: not as often as I should.

Of course, our happiness is often impacted by others. As our conversation continued, I could sense a small cloud gathering over one of the moms in our group. She’s been trying to cope with a teenager who has chronic behaviorial problems. The issues have been severe enough that his behavior has pushed people away instead of drawing them near.

Isolated and alone, her teen is struggling, which is causing her heartache. Her happiness is tied, in part, to the wellness of her son.

How can she truly be happy when one of her children is hurting?

Yet to deny oneself the opportunity to seek out happiness means you walk around with an emotional bucket that is rarely filled.

You need to be replenished to be your best self.

What you might discover in this month’s issue, with our special focus on women’s health, is how easy it is to overlook our own well-being when meeting the demands of family life. Caregiving can be an exhausting job. Too often, at the end of a busy day, you can find yourself thinking, “I took care of everyone’s needs but my own.”

Trust me, you’re not alone.

Another woman I know is currently busy caring for her six children, as well as her elderly mother-in-law. Once compliant and eager to help out with their active household, her gentle demeanor is slowly being eroded by dementia. Instead of offering to pitch in, my friend’s requests are often met with surly complaints and obstinant refusals.

“My mother-in-law is much harder for me to manage than my children ever were,” my friend confides.

But she is cognizant of her needs and took a step toward selfcare. She had heard about a book, Hope for the Caregiver by Peter Rosenberger, written by a man who has gained much insight about caregiving from having long tended his disabled wife. The book is reassuring in its tone and has helped my friend feel less alone.

My point is simply this: Happiness can be elusive; sometimes it’s up to us to determine what makes us happy and actively seek it out. Even if happiness descends briefly, it can lighten our spirit and improve our outlook on life. Happiness gives us hope.

As for self-care, October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, so I hope you’ll do the best thing you can for your health and get a mammogram.Whatever you do this month, take time to determine how to get to your happy place, and replenish yourself.

You’ll be glad you did.

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GET READY FOR SPOOKY FUN ZOOM TO ZOO BOO

Looking for Halloween adventure? Then gather up the kiddos and head out to these events for a one-of-a-kind experience.

For more Halloween Happenings, check out the October calendar. Go to memphisparent.com for a complete listing of Pumpkin Patches.

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SPINE-TINGLING PELICANS LAND SCARES AWAIT AT AT REELFOOT SPOOKY NIGHTS Fall festival celebrates wildlife

Are you an outdoor enthusiast looking to catch fall colors and watch birds wade through pristine waters?

Then Reelfoot Lake is the place to be this month, when the state park celebrates its three-day Pelican Festival on October 16 to 18.

“The Pelican Festival is an opportunity for families to observe a unique bird migrating through on the Mississippi Flyway,” notes Park Manager Alisha Weber.

“The event offers a chance to engage in watchable wildlife and photography and get interested in other outdoor hobbies such as canoeing and kayaking.”

The festival is a perfect time to see these majestic birds. Try a canoe float or pontoon excursion. Reelfoot Lake, known for harboring one of the largest populations of bald eagles outside of Alaska, is also SPOOKY NIGHTS AT SHELBY FARMS PARK Fridays & Saturdays thru October, plus Thursdays, home to thousands of white pelicans. The American white pelican dropped to almost non-existent numbers October 22 & 29 • 7-10 p.m. during the 1950s before resurging into the thousands $5-12 • Benefits Shelby Farms Park Conservancy after preservation efforts improved their numbers.

901.222.7275 • shelbyfarmspark.org/spookynights Other festival highlights include geocaching, pelican and duck decoy painting, a nature walk, art and At Le Bonheur Zoo Boo, you’ll find plenty of activities photography contest, live birds of prey show, sunrise to entertain your little ghosts and goblins, from and sunset photography, face painting, special guest creepy critters, kiddie rides, and singing pumpkins to presentation, silent auction, and vendors. haunted hayrides, virtual costume contest, and If you’re a birder, you’ll want to flock to Reelfoot Dracula’s Disco. Other highlights include a frightening Lake State Park for this fantastic family outing. forest trail, magic shows, straw maze, and of course, trick-or-treat stations. The big news: This popular REELFOOT LAKE’S PELICAN FESTIVAL tradition has expanded from six nights to eight. Don’t $10/person for guided tours. $5 each for art/photo miss out on this spook-tacular evening. contest and duck decoy painting. • Visit tnstateparks. com/parks/about/reelfoot-lake or call 731.253.9652 ZOO BOO AT MEMPHIS ZOO for pontoon & canoe tour reservations.

October 16-18, 23-25, 30 & 31 • 5:30-9:30 p.m. $15 (Advance discounts available) 901.333.6572 • memphiszoo.org Spooky Nights at Shelby Farms Park is the perfect destination for the fearless. Here you can bravely tackle the only Haunted Trail in Memphis, check out the Zombie Laser Tag course, or ride aboard a military truck and take on zombies in the new Zombie Paintball Hayride. Younger kids can join in the fun without the fright by exploring wildlife in the guided Nocturnal Nature Hike, taking the Headless Horseman Hayrides, getting crafty with pumpkin painting, and joining for Trunk-or-Treat on October 31. Come ready for a ghoulishly good time.

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GET LOST IN THE MAZE The Mid-South Maze returns to Agricenter International for its 14th season with a few new twists and turns. This year’s design features the likeness of Marc Gasol, who celebrates his return to the Memphis Grizzlies this season. With 10-acres of corn to wander through, families will have fun working together to get out of this mystery-filled adventure. The Mid-South Maze also offers free hayrides, a bonfire on Haunted Maze and Family Nights, the Jumping Pillow ($4 for all-you-can-jump), and the always popular Corn Cannon (3 shots for $1). Haunted Maze is scary and not suitable for young children. Come find your way out!

THE MID-SOUTH MAZE AT THE AGRICENTER Corn Maze - Thursdays & Fridays in October Haunted Corn Maze - Saturdays & Sundays in October Family Nights - Wednesdays in October Hours: Wednesday-Friday, 4-10 p.m. Saturday, noon10 p.m. Sunday, noon-8 p.m. Haunted Maze, 7-10 p.m.

Price: $7/adult. $5/child ages 6-12. Free/5 and under. $1 off coupons online.

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FOR THE 2015 STEP UP WALK

Want to support families who receive assistance from the Down Syndrome Association of Memphis and the Mid-South? Then take part in one of the largest disability awareness events in our region. Step UP for Down Syndrome Walk takes place Saturday, October 25, from noon to 4 p.m. at the Memphis Botanic Gardens.

The event includes a one-mile fun walk, a family picnic, a petting zoo, inflatables, and prizes for individuals and teams that par ticipate. The organization’s goal is $150,000. Help them reach that number by getting your team together or by making a charitable contribution.

STEP UP FOR DOWN SYNDROME WALK For details, call 547.7588 or email admin@ dsamemphis.org. Printable registration forms are available at dsamemphis.org.

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DEAR TEACHER By Marge Ebert & Peggy Gisler

HOW INVOLVED SHOULD I BE WITH MY CHILD’S HOMEWORK?

Whether you like it or not, you will have to play a role in helping your children manage their homework. However, the sooner you put them on the path to handling homework by themselves, the happier you both will be. Check to see if you are doing what is necessary to make your children responsible for their homework.

Here’s a checklist:

• Teach your young child how to use an assignment pad to write down each day’s homework assignment.

• Start homework at the same time every day.

• Emphasize reading and rereading directions before starting each assignment.

• Show your child how to handle difficult assignments by studying similar work in textbooks and worksheets.

• Provide help only when requested. Your child should try to do the work on his own first.

• Consider drawing up a homework contract with your child.

Visit our dearteacher.com website to download Skill Builders under the tab, Study Skills.

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THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A 504 PLAN AND AN IEP.

My third-grader has ADHD and is currently being tested to see if he qualifies for any school accommodations. What’s the difference between a 504 Plan and an IEP (Individual Education Plan) and what’s best for him?

The plan that’s best for your son depends on how much the ADHD affects his ability to complete schoolwork. Test results could show that your son needs neither a 504 Plan nor an IEP. Children who are identified under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) are eligible for IEPs; however, children who are identified under the 504 Plan are not.

To qualify under IDEA, a child must meet the criteria for one of 13 specific disability categories. Attention deficit disorder (ADHD) is not one of these categories, but your child may be eligible if he’s also affected by one of the specified conditions, which include learning disabilities and developmental delays.

Both the 504 Plan and the IEP are created by an education team.

Both plans can work well to serve students with ADHD. Both protect the rights of students with the disability and ensure that they will be learning in the least restrictive environment.

However, the 504 Plan and the IEP have unique differences. The 504 comes under Section 504 of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA).

Children are eligible if they have a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits at least one major life activity. It does not need to have an educational impact.

If ADHD symptoms substantially limit a child’s ability to learn, he is entitled to a 504 Plan and is eligible to receive accommodations that ensure academic success and access to the learning environment.

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• Children identified under IDEA with disabilities receive an Individualized Education Plan (IEP). To qualify, they need more than just accommodations; they need services related to their disability. • For students with disabilities who do not require specialized instruction but need assurance they will receive equal access to public education and services, a document is created to outline specific accessibility requirements. Students with 504 Plans do not require specialized instruction, but, like the IEP, a 504 Plan should be updated annually to ensure that the student is receiving the most effective accommodations for his/her specific circumstances. • Learn more at the Shelby County Schools Exception Children office, 416-5600.

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GET ARTS & CRAFTY At The Art Project in Overton Square

Mom Julie Dunavant was looking for a fresh way to celebrate her daughter Elizabeth’s seventh birthday. As luck would have it, she spotted The Art Project on her way to Babalu, a popular restaurant just steps away in Overton Square.

The airy art space, located adjacent to the Square’s Tower Courtyard, is stylishly designed and welcoming to kids of all ages. Dunavant shared some ideas with the staff and her daughter’s party was a huge hit. Excited 7-year-olds kept busy doing spin art and tissue paper collage, thanks to Art Project assistants who are very hands-on. “The kids loved it,� says Dunavant.

The Art Project is the brainchild of sisters Anna Vergos Blair and Katherine Vergos Riederer (Charlie Vergos of the Rendezvous is their grandfather). The two were inspired by their own children to found a kid-friendly place where creativity takes flight.

For $12, you can drop in and enjoy art free-play for an hour-and-a-half. Parents and grandparents are encouraged to participate. On one side of the room is a circular wall, lined on the inside with kid-sized easels and tables where children can sit and use paper, glue, markers, and glitter. Lots of glitter. The store’s assistants are all college graduates and many have studied art. They gladly lend a hand with suggestions and supplies to get makers started.

In the other half of the room, you’ll find tables with materials centered on a different theme each week, art books for purchase, and a snack bar. The business currently caters to children, says staffer Heather Howle, but they are planning an adult night on Wednesdays ($15 with a college ID, you craft your own project). Art classes for children and family memberships are also available. • Visit artprojectmemphis.com for details.

PARTY IN THE HOUSE $200/12 kids ($12 per additional child) for 1 ½ hour birthday party. $400/18+ kids to rent entire space The goods: Staffers organize a themed party (pirates, princesses, etc.) offering several crafts based on your child’s interests. You provide food and drink.

BREAKFAST, ANYONE?

Staks! Pancake Kitchen brings smiles to early morning diners

This new breakfast diner opened mid-September at Poplar and Perkins Extended (next to the Chili’s restaurant) and has already received rave reviews.

Step inside and you’ll find a bright, cheery place stylishly furnished with aqua booths and white chairs. But be warned, temptation lurks. There are Lemon Riccotta, Cinnamon Roll, even Birthday pancakes that come with sprinkles and a candle. If pancakes leave you flat, why not create your own omelet. There’s also French toast, salads, and sandwiches.

We like that Staks! uses locally-sourced foods, including house-cured bacon from Pocellino’s, all-natural pork sausage from Winchester Farm, and eggs from West Wind Farms. Breakfast never had it so good. • Check out our review on memphisparent.com.

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TIME FOR A CHANGE Parent advocate Laura Meanwell aims to alter school start times with Germantown Cares

By STEPHANIE PAINTER Laura Meanwell’s vacation photos reflect a woman who embraces adventure. She swam through a cave to reach a Mayan site in Belize.

She jeep-safaried in Africa and India; she even worked overseas. Yet one of her most thrilling challenges is unfolding right in her own backyard.

Germantown administrators have been busy shaping the new Germantown Municipal School district, which is centered on the slogan “Excellence. Always.” But Meanwell worries that with early start times, sleepy teens can’t learn. So she’s become a parent advocate, attending school board meetings and building coalitions with those concerned about kids’ health.

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“EXHAUSTION IS NOT EXCELLENCE” signs made, cleverly twisting the district’s slogan to “Exhaustion is Not Excellence,” a sentiment that reflects Meanwell’s spunk and conviction.

The yellow signs sprouted in neighborhoods prior to the school board’s vote on the issue.

“I didn’t find it difficult to assume a leadership role,” she reflects. “I’m a firstborn and an alpha.

But I've never had all the answers or ideas. There’s a synergy of like-minded parents who want to do the best thing for their kids, and I’m thrilled to be a part of it.”

WATCHING GERMANTOWN’S BUDGET The goal was to persuade Germantown’s school board to change the bell time for 2015-16.

Such a move would also mean changing bus schedules at a cost of $300,000.

The board voted the measure down in February. But Meanwell hasn’t given up. “We’re closely watching the city’s budget process because the budget cycle for the school district mirrors that of the city. In February, they’ll have to make solid decisions about money for start times for 2016-17. Even though the school board now says ‘Yes, we’re going to do it,’ I’m anxious.”

While the local push continues, attention to the discordance between start times and teens’ sleep rhythms grows nationwide.

JOINING THE NATIONAL CONVERSATION In early August, the phone rang and on the line was Kristin Powers, a producer with NBC Nightly News. She was planning a story on a new Centers for Disease Control report that revealed fewer than 20 percent of middle and high schools begin at 8:30 a.m. or later, a start time recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Powers asked, “If I can find a local cameraman, would you be willing to be interviewed for tonight’s broadcast?”

Meanwell was surprised. “I really couldn’t believe she was doing research and googling start times and came across my name.” She says that after her interview aired, “I got so many comments that were positive, thanking me for advocating for our children. I was able to be a voice for others who feel the same way but may be intimidated.”

Following her example, Meanwell’s son, Cam, shared his perspective as a high school student at a school board meeting. Meanwell was proud.

“I hope my boys will see that if you believe in something, it is worth standing up for.”

It turns out adventure is sometimes found where you least expect it.

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INSPIRATION BEGINS AT HOME The school bell rings at 7 a.m. at Houston High, where her two teenaged sons attend. The boys’ arise at 5:45 a.m. Studies show that sleepdeprived adolescents are at higher risk of experiencing physical and mental health issues, car accidents, and poor academic performance.

“I want the best for our kids physically and emotionally, as well as educationally,” says Meanwell. “We’re educating people about how beneficial it truly will be for our children to have a later start time.”

Laura, and her husband, Mark, face the same struggle many parents do in this tech-saturated age. “We try to help them wind down. The electronics go off at 9:30 p.m., phones go in the hallway, and we don’t have TVs in their rooms.”

Still, 16-year-old Cam finds it hard to fall asleep at that hour, battling sleep-wake cycles that shift up during the teen years by almost two hours. For 14-year-old Jeremy, it’s only slightly easier to turn out the lights.

After many difficult mornings, the former electrical engineer evolved from passive parent to dogged activist, determined to try to change school start times. Meanwell launched the group Germantown Cares to unite parents and residents behind the cause. “It was just a little grassroots effort involving a bunch of moms,” she says. Later, local fathers pitched in, helping build a websiteand write press releases. The group even had yard

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IS YOUR TEEN VAPING?

What you need to know about this latest trend

By Stephanie Painter

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emember finding candy cigarettes in your Halloween loot? After tucking that sugary cig between your lips, you instantly felt cool and grown-up. Many kids probably warmed to the idea of lighting up for real after trying that first virtual smoke. While cigarette use has declined among high school students, a growing number of adolescents are vaping instead — with e-cigarettes.

WHAT’S THE LURE? E-cigs are appealing to kids for several reasons. First, they’re inexpensive.

They also have sleek designs, special vapor flavorings like cotton candy and chocolate chip. And since e-cigs emit no smoke, they leave no smell on the breath or clothes.

E-cigarette use among middle and high school students tripled from 2013 to 2014, according to data published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the U.S. Food and Drug Administration’s Center for Tobacco Products. Findings from the 2014 National Youth Tobacco Survey show that current e-cigarette use (smoking on at least one day in the past 30 days) among high school students increased from 4.5 percent in 2013 to 13.4 percent in 2014. Among middle school students, e-cigarette use tripled from 1.1 percent in 2013 to 3.9 percent in 2014.

For a young person, e-cig usage is likely a gateway to smoking traditional cigarettes.

“I think e-cigarettes are going to cause a lot of health problems for teens and young adult users,” says Stephania Cormier, a researcher at Le Bonheur Children’s Hospital. Harmful nicotine content is just the tip of the iceberg. When an atomizer heats liquid nicotine, a vapor is produced which is inhaled by the user. Vaporized liquids create an ultra-fine mist that reaches the lower airways of the lungs.

“The biggest problem with e-cigs is that we don’t know all of the components in the vapors they’re using,” says Cormier. “The FDA hasn’t stepped in to regulate what’s in e-cigs, nor have they required labeling on what is in the vapor. Manufacturers are using flavoring agents that have chemicals that can be toxic and harmful to respiratory health.”

In one study, researchers analyzed 150 e-cig vapors and found that 50 percent contained diacetyl, a flavoring used in food products such as butter.

Inhaling diacetyl decreases respiratory function, and at high levels, leads to a severe respiratory disease called bronchiolitis obliterans, which is fatal in 50 percent of cases. In youth with asthma, e-cigs exacerbate existing problems with increased mucous and reduced airflow.

LIKE SMOKING, VAPING HARMS Cormier also conducted experiments to examine whether e-vapors worsen the severity of respiratory tract viral and bacterial infections in mice. She found exposure to e-vapors lowered immune responses. “Vapors increase the severity of respiratory disease in animals, and I would imagine it would do the same in humans.”

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to e-cigs in an effort to stop smoking traditional cigarettes. “Two interesting things occurred,” she reports. “He e-vaped much more than he had smoked regular cigarettes, and he developed a phlegmy cough that would not go away. Once he switched back to traditional cigarettes, the cough eventually went away.”

In 2014, overall rates of all tobacco product use were 24.6 percent for high school students and 7.7 percent for middle school students.

You’re likely familiar with the dangers of nicotine. E-cigs are available with zero, low, and high nicotine dosages, which can be very addictive for some users. Kids may also experience social addiction, smoking or vaping only with friends.

Regardless, talk to your teen about the risks associated with e-cigarettes.

In Tennessee, it is illegal to sell to minors, but kids can easily purchase products online. Look for vapor vials as an indication your kid is part of this growing trend.

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YOUR!BODY! AFTER!BABY Five common health problems moms experience — and how to fix them

By MARGIE SIMS

“Stay in your pajamas for two weeks a"er you’ve had the baby,” advised my sister shortly before the birth of my first child. Once you get dressed, she reasoned, everyone thinks you’re back on the job. Ten children later, that advice has proven true with every one of my births.

Obviously, post-partum problems are not usually so simple. If you’re facing some unanticipated after-birth obstacles, we’ve talked to medical staff and moms to help unravel the mysteries of what life is really like on the other side of pregnancy.

MANAGING!GUILT!&!BODY-IMAGE!ISSUES! “You just can’t know what your world will look like after the baby comes,” says 29-year-old Savannah Bur ton, mom of 12-week-old Ethan. Burton was shocked at how unrealistic her expectations really were, and the self-professing Type A says the biggest challenge was the lack of control. “I like things how I like things, but when you’re nursing a baby every 90 minutes, you realize you have to give up your ideals.”

Guilt was another concern that crept up on this Memphis mom. “I felt guilty because I missed my work,” says Burton, who confesses she had the wrong idea about what it’s like to stay home with a baby. “I thought maternity leave was going to be a break but it isn’t. There’s no schedule, no control, and you just wing it every day hoping to get to that time of night when you can lie down for a minute.” Though Burton misses her social interaction, she knows she’ll never get back time with her baby.

For mom Jen Wagner, body image is another challenge for new moms. “The whole body thing is just crazy,” says the 34-year-old mother, who has three children ages 6, 3, and 1. She notes the glam celebrity moms, who look great thanks to personal trainers, yoga instructors, and reliable childcare.

“I tell myself there is a short window when I am having babies and going through these feelings, and it is a time to embrace real life,” Wagner says, “and remember all the other things I have to feel beautiful about.”

COPING!WITH!DEPRESSION! Perhaps the most common issue new moms face is post-partum depression. Bishop urges moms to be on the alert, as all the components align to form the perfect storm. “Sleep deprivation, fluctuation in hormones, and body image issues when the weight doesn’t fall off immediately all combine, sometimes hurling a new mom into a downward spiral,” she says.

Because of the sudden change in hormone levels, it’s not uncommon to experience some sadness after the birth of a baby, but new moms should pay attention if the sadness lasts longer than a few weeks. “New moms who are overwhelmed with feelings of anxiety or despair should call their doctor,” says Bishop. Women who have been prone to depression before pregnancy are particularly at risk. “Remember, it is okay to pick up the phone and call your doctor before the first six weeks.”

The Fix: While exercise is an important part of post-partum recovery, new moms need to take it slow. “Your body is a good guide, and it is more important to stay hydrated and rested than exercise the first six weeks.”

Rest and recover is the post-partum mantra for moms. “Pace yourself, being careful not to leave the hospital too quickly or return to work or your routine too soon,” says Hinote, citing other cultures such as India where new moms don’t leave home for over a month. “Take care of your baby and let the world take care of itself.”

URINARY!LEAKING Though not always discussed in mom circles, urinary issues are high on the list of post-partum problems.

Rose, a first-time mom who had her only child in her early 30s, was shocked when just a cough or sneeze caused considerable leakage. “I had many challenges during my pregnancy, from swollen feet to sciatic nerve pain,” says Rose, a Midtown mom, “but they were all replaced by a single malady that was worse for me than any of the others: urinary incontinence.”

The Fix: “We cannot counsel enough beforehand that you have to be forgiving of body changes and grant permission for your body to be different,” says Mid-South OB-GYN Dr. Candace Hinote. Moms need to be reminded that even if that goal on the scale is reached, favorite jeans still may not fit right.

The Fix: With the guidance of an OB-GYN, Kegel “You will get to a place where you like the exercises combined with frequent emptying of way you look again but it takes time,” adds Dr. the bladder, can eventually correct the problem.

Laura Bishop, an OB-GYN with the Ruch Clinic. “Though urinary incontinence (trouble “holding “Remind yourself that your body gave you a baby, it”) and retention (trouble urinating) are both and the baby is worth it.” conditions to watch for, new moms should also call their doctor if they experience a burning M EE M M PP H H II SS PP A AR R EE N N TT O OC C TT O O BB EE R R 22 00 11 55 11 66 M

sensation when urinating which could mean a bladder infection,” adds Hinote.

VAGINAL!PROLAPSE! Perhaps an even less talked about is vaginal prolapse, a bulging or sagging of the bladder, rectum, urethra, or small bowel which is caused by weakness of the pelvic or vaginal tissues and muscles.

“No one talked to me about it,” Wagner admits, “and a week after the birth of my second child I felt a heavy feeling and noticed a small bulge when I stood. I got a mirror and immediately called my doctor in tears.” Naturally, Wagner’s OB-GYN asked if she felt depressed. “I said, ‘No, I’m happy about everything except for this bulgy, intestine thingy sticking out of me!’”

The Fix: With the guidance of her doctor, Wagner discovered two resources that helped her work toward correcting the problem. First was the instruction of physical therapist and athletic trainer, Tasha Mulligan (hab-it.com), whose passion is educating women on pelvic health and how to strengthen pelvic muscles. Mulligan’s website and DVD were pivotal for Wagner. “I am not asking women to perform tough holds, stretches, or lifts; only to look at the habits they can correct throughout their day that will make the difference in pelvic health,” says Mulligan.

Wagner’s OB-GYN also recommended sea sponges, a tampon-like product available at Jade and Pearl (jadeandpearl.com). “The sponge changed everything and since my doctor recommended it, I knew I could trust the more natural approach taken by the creators of these products.” Wagner used the sponges after both her second and third births and was delighted with the results. “It took seven months, but it did eventually correct the problem,” she says.

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LACK!OF!SLEEP Sleep deprivation is a given for new moms, but there are some small changes they can implement to set themselves up for success.

“First, moms should not co-sleep no matter how tired they are,” says Hinote. “It is a safety issue and the American Academy of Pediatrics has been very straightforward about co-sleeping. What’s more, she adds, is that since sleep is so rare with a new baby, the baby should be in its own sleeping space so that mom can relax.

The Fix: While many moms make the mistake of catching up on housework when the baby naps, Hinote urges them to instead communicate with family members on how they can pitch in.

“In the months leading up to delivery, have conversations with your spouse about, say, three things you need,” she says. If waking up to a sink full of dishes will reduce you to tears, let your spouse know. Laundry is another hot button issue that can easily overwhelm — come up with a system and ask for help. And if tripping over toys scattered around the house triggers tears, designate a basket for a quick clean up.

“It is a transition, and transitional moments are always very stressful,” says Hinote. “Celebrate the small victories — even if it’s just ‘Oh, it doesn’t hurt when I pee!’ Take a deep breath and recognize the growing pains — the discomfort is just part of it.”

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Yoga class offers camaraderie, strength, and support to women battling breast cancer

By JENNIFER WILLIAMS-FIELDS

In the past 18 months, four women within my social circle have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Each one was much younger than 61, the average age breast cancer is diagnosed.

Perhaps I shouldn’t have been surprised. Breast cancer is the most frequently diagnosed cancer in women, second only to lung cancer among cancer deaths.

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he Centers For Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that 11 percent of newly diagnosed breast cancers in the U.S. each year are to women younger than 45 years of age. That’s why the American Cancer Society recommends regular mammograms for all women beginning at age 40.

“Mammography screening can often detect breast cancers at an early stage, when treatment may be more effective and there are more treatment options,” says Sarah Bynum, communication manager for the American Cancer Society - Memphis.

Though breast cancer statistics aren’t tracked by city, Bynum says 4,770 women in Tennessee will likely be diagnosed with breast cancer this year. Of those, 890 will likely not survive.

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Nationally, 231,840 women will be diagnosed practitioner’s mood. But recent research is also with invasive breast cancer in 2015. showing that yoga helps reduce inflammation in the body. Inflammation is associated with chronic A HEALING PLACE diseases such as heart disease, diabetes, and Breast cancer survivors of all ages trickle in on a arthritis. sunny Saturday afternoon to Better Bodies Yoga In cancer patients, inflammation is a cause of on Brookhaven Circle. Many have been coming the chronic fatigue patients can experience even here for years. They appreciate the class because months after treatment has ended. it offers stress relief and physical comfort. Yoga “I always feel better after this class,” says For Cancer Patients and Support Persons was Mickey McCarley, a 14-year breast cancer created by Better Bodies owner, Karen K. Moss, survivor. “It’s not just the stress relief from class, nearly a decade ago. Moss saw firsthand the but the camaraderie of being around other benefits of yoga while helping her mother people that are going through what you are going through cancer treatment. through.”

“I was teaching and doing yoga with my mom An Ohio State University study published in all through her treatments up until the day before the January 2014 Journal of Clinical Oncology she passed away,” says Moss. “She always felt so studied 200 breast cancer survivors. The group much better after we finished each session, both was divided in two, with half participating in twice mentally and physically.” weekly yoga sessions and the other half practicing After losing both parents to cancer, Moss no yoga. The yoga group reported less fatigue began offering the free class to provide a safe and more energy than the non-yoga group after healing place for others struggling with cancer. just three months. The study also examined She says research has shown that when cancer markers that indicate inflammation. After the patients practice yoga, they feel more connected three months of yoga classes, each of the yoga to life, have more energy, enjoy a positive outlook, student’s markers for inflammation were lowered and have a greater survival rate. by 10 to 15 percent.

Now in its ninth year, the class is stronger than ever, both literally and figuratively. Moss STAYING STRONG, BEING MINDFUL says the group has bonded; they support and Jessica Frederick currently teaches the Yoga for encourage one another. Physically, yoga has also Cancer Patients class at Better Bodies. She helped them to become stronger and more encourages her students to always move through empowered. a pain-free range of motion and use as many blankets as necessary to soften the floor under YOGA BENEFITS sore muscles and bones.

Yoga has long been known to decrease stress “There is a bone pain, or an ache, that the levels, lower blood pressure, and boost a yoga Neulasta shot that is given during chemotherapy

“RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THAT WHEN CANCER PATIENTS PRACTICE YOGA, THEY FEEL MORE CONNECTED TO LIFE, HAVE MORE ENERGY, ENJOY A POSITIVE OUTLOOK, AND HAVE A GREATER SURVIVAL RATE.”

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causes, and much of that is alleviated with yoga,” says Jenny Merritt who recently completed breast cancer treatments, which included a mastectomy and reconstruction surgery. Merritt was unable to attend yoga classes but continued with a gentle yoga practice at home when able.

Frederick reminds her class to be mindful of their movements and thoughts.

She uses a lot of positive affirmations and intention-setting in her class.

“I intentionally never use the word cancer,” she says. “They know they have it.”

A SUPPORT NETWORK Students in the Better Bodies cancer class report feeling more optimistic, having less pain, being able to breathe better, feeling calmer during treatment, and being able to rely on the support network they’ve developed in class. Merritt says her doctors were familiar with yoga and encouraged her to stay as active as she could.

“Yoga was very beneficial during my chemotherapy because my muscles were getting weaker and it felt as though they were drawing up,” says Merritt. “I can't imagine not being able to stretch and loosen them up daily.”

Both Frederick and Moss keep the mood upbeat and positive for each student.

“I use a lot of humor with this group,” she says. “If I didn’t — they and me — would all walk around crying all the time.”

Laughter and positivity have also been shown to lower stress levels, again leading

to decreased inflammation in the body.

Moss says she includes the cancer support persons in her free yoga class because the disease affects everyone in the cancer patient’s life. She says attending the class with their loved one allows them to spend quality time together rather than just running to doctor appointments.

“It is a gift and a privilege to teach this group. Helping someone to feel just a little better or giving someone a little bit of hope during their darkest hours has been some of the most fulfilling yoga classes that I have taught,” says Moss.

Although breast cancer statistics may appear grim, there is good news. Bynum says the American Cancer Society currently records 3.1 million breast cancer survivors in the U. S. For students here, staying upbeat and sharing the comraderie yoga provides is another way to manage this very personal battle.

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Party Ideas

Halloween lends itself to creative fun when planning a party for little goblins. We’ve rounded up some crafty ideas to get you started.

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Dim the lights and hang floor-to-ceiling cobwebs to create an eerie setting. Plastic bats and tarantulas dangling from the web, spooky skeletons, a witch’s caldron, plenty of carved pumpkins, and a collection of scary sounds — like howling wolves and shrieking witches — can provide a festive feel.

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Get this: Drums, rattles, whistles, kazoos, blocks, and other objects kids can make noise with and play Get this: • 10+ toilet paper rolls Go! • Divide the kids into two teams. Have a designated “mummy” Go! • Give each guest an instrument and designate a parade leader. that the other children decorate. Have the child (or adult) stand still Then march around the room in a line, playing the instruments. and start wrapping toilet paper around the arms, legs, torso, and head. Be sure to leave space for eyes and nose.

Build a Frankenstein Get this: Many small balloons (blown up beforehand or blown up by the children as part of the game, depending on their age), two large Search for the Missing Zombie Parts Where has the zombie gone? Kids try to figure it out as peeled pairs of pants, two dress shirts, and two hats Go! • Divide your guests into two groups. Have each team select a grapes become eyeballs and cooked spaghetti noodles are brains.

Get this: Peeled grapes, cooked spaghetti, chilled gelatin (prepare dresser who will put on the clothing. On the word “Go!” each team ahead of time), cooked broccoli, latex gloves filled with play sand, begins stuffing the balloons into the dresser’s arms, legs, and body.

The team that stuffs the most balloons into the dresser’s clothing and other items that bring a surprise when you touch them Go! • Take several shoeboxes, toy buckets, or bowls and fill them wins. At the end, gather up the balloons and have a contest to see individually with each ingredient. Cover everything but the opening who can sit on and pop the most balloons. to the container. Let each child reach in and touch the item and try to figure out what’s inside.

Break a Pinata Get this: Halloween-themed piñata (a skull, a pumpkin), two bags of candy to fill piñata, a whiffle ball bat, a blindfold Spooky Scavenger Hunt Kids love to hunt for treasure. Use your imagination to Go! • Hang the piñata securely in a wide-open space, roughly two to come up with clever clues and places to stash the three feet above the heads of your party-goers. (The idea is to make it challenging but not too hard.) Blindfold each guest, turn him spooky loot.

Get this: Cards to write the clues on, items to hide, such around three times, and then let him start swinging. Make sure each as vampire teeth or witch’s fingers, a prize for the child has a time at bat until someone breaks open the piñata. winner Go! • Divide party guests into teams of two. Hand out a card with the first clue. Each team must figure out a riddle that provides a clue to where the loot is hidden.

Each clue leads to a treat and once there, the next clue to the next treat. The team that solves the most clues receives a prize.

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Host a Dance Party Be sure to take plenty of pictures throughout your party. Then post to Facebook or Get this: A boombox, strobe light, and a smoke machine Go! • Put a play list of spooky music together, crank up the tunes, Instagram so friends can share in the spooky and let the kids do their best to twist and shout. Hold a dance contest fun. or play Statue where kids dance to the music and then freeze in a silly position. Your play list can include these Halloween favorites: The Monster Mash, Thriller, This is Halloween, Ghostbusters, Werewolves of London, and the Purple People Eater.

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What you’ll need: Tissue paper in several colors, scissors, pipe cleaners, a headband

Step 1 Take a single piece of tissue paper and cut it in half. Fold the paper in half and half again, continuing until you’ve got a square that’s roughly 4x4 inches.

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Next, take your pipe cleaner and wrap it around the center of the pleated paper.

One end should extend one-half inch past the edge of the paper. Use your scissors to round off either end of the fan.

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With pleats facing upward, fan out your paper and gently begin to separate each layer. Pull each paper gently upward towards the pipe cleaner. When all layers have been pulled up, fluff the flower with your fingers.

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Take the flower by the pipe cleaner and attach to the headband, with the flower facing upward. Continue with each flower until the headband is covered.

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Each month you’ll find division-specific presentations designed to help you learn how Lausanne can empower your child as an individual and prepare him or her for college and for life in a global environment. Help your child start ahead, come visit Lausanne as soon as you can! Please RSVP for the above events using the Admission Calendar, www.lausanneschool.com/admissioncalendar.

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WANT TO IMPROVE YOUR SCHOOL?

Speak up and become a parent advocate

By Ginger Spickler, Memphis School Guide

Dionne Bray’s hot pink shirt is the only thing loud about her.

She is a woman of few words, and even those come out softly.

But with the help of an organizer from the education advocacy group Stand for Children, Dionne and several other moms at Vision Preparatory Charter School are learning how to use their voices. Why?

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ONE MOTIVATION: HELPING KIDS Marquita Finnie is as outgoing as Dionne Bray is unassuming, or Laura Meanwell is measured. But despite their personality differences, each mom has the same motivation — her kids. Not only do these moms want to help improve their school experiences, but they also hope to show their children what it means to stand up for something they believe in.

“Of all the things I’ve modeled for my kids,” says Meanwell, “this is one of the main things I hope they take with them.”

Back at Vision Prep, Bray stops her Stand for Children organizer after their advocacy meeting with a gentle touch on the arm.

“Next time we go to the board meeting,” she says softly, “I want to speak too.”

— Ginger Spickler is the creator of Memphis School Guide, your guide to Memphis & Shelby County K-12 Schools. • For more information on HOW TO PARTICIPATE how to get involved with education advocacy, Maybe you’re not ready to knock on doors or visit memphisschoolguide.org step up to the microphone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be an advocate. Talking with your own children about how important education is to you is an important — and vital — first step.

Participating in every parent-teacher conference shows both your kids and their teachers that you Memphis Lift plan to play an active role in their schooling.

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“Most schools also have a School Improvement Shelby County Regional Special Planning team, or a Site-Based Decision Making Education PTA Committee, both of which include parent shelbycountysepta.org representatives,” Alexander-Mitchell says. Such groups meet regularly with a team of Stand for Children administrators and teachers to make stand.org/tennessee recommendations for school programs or policies. If you’re not sure if your school has one, ask school leaders.

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AN ADVOCATE? WHO, ME? The concept of advocacy — publicly voicing your support for a certain cause or policy — sounds simple. The practice of advocating for your child’s education, on the other hand, can be anything but. You feel uncertain about the issues, or hesitant to question people you consider to be education experts. Your palms may get sweaty just thinking about speaking out publicly.

Laura Meanwell considers herself an unlikely advocate. Her group, Germantown Cares, started with just a few concerned moms who met around her kitchen table, lamenting the effects of an early school start time on their teenagers’ sleep schedules. But as word spread, she realized she’d struck a nerve, and soon, she was speaking at every school board meeting, in front of flashing cameras.

“It can be intimidating,” Meanwell says. “But it can be exciting too!”

While Laura has relied on the legal and marketing savvy of other parents in her group, organizations like the new Parent Leadership and Advocacy Institute (PLAI) focus on developing similar skills among the parents of children in struggling schools.

PLAI is the local affiliate of the national group Democrats for Education Reform.

“We’re building advocacy muscle,” says Dr. Ian Buchanan, deputy director of PLAI. The group’s Public Advocate Fellowship (PAF) takes 24 parents through an intensive 10-week course, during which they learn about the education landscape and connect with local leaders. In

addition, they receive training in communications and learn how to effectively use technology (participants also receive a stipend and laptop).

Frayser mom Marquita Finnie was a member of the first PAF cohort earlier this year.

“I have started volunteering at the school to see for myself what is going on,” Finnie says. “I’m a different person after being a part of the fellowship.”

Her experiences also led her to become a founding member of Memphis Lift, a group of parents who knocked on more than 8,000 doors in the summer heat, educating parents about what it means for their children to attend a priority school, the state’s designation for schools in the bottom 5 percent for academic achievement.

“Our children deserve a lot better,” says Kennethea Sledge, another Memphis Lift member. “Kids need someone to back them up.”

COUNTER- CLOCKWISE: LONDON LAMAR WITH CHILDREN

“They do listen to parents,” Bray says. The “they” she refers to is the Shelby County Schools Board of Education. She and her fellow parents have made several trips to SCS board meetings to advocate for policies that will help charter schools. Bray hasn’t spoken yet, but she’s stood beside other moms at the podium as they have made their cases.

SCS board member Kevin Woods agrees with Bray. “Parental advocacy is one of the most effective ways to improve schools,” he says.

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TEACHING KIDS TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS

by CHRISTA MELNYK HINES

"What are you doing?!" I say to my son. "I told you five minutes ago to get dressed. We're leaving for your baseball game!" Even in my apparent state of frustration, my 6-year-old refuses to be rushed along as he reluctantly tosses his toy plane onto the floor and slowly begins pulling one sock on and then another.

His inner clock shows no urgency. And no amount of lecturing about dilly-dallying is going to expedite my dawdler.

So begins another frantic dash out the door.

Although some of us may be inclined to consider punctuality — or the lack thereof — as a personality trait, experts say that time management is a skill that can be taught and is just as

important to academic and long-term success as learning the three Rs. "Time management skills for children are linked to 'school survival skills' when mastered young and become ingrained habits for later in life," says Stephanie Mihalas, a nationally certified school psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry & bio-behavioral sciences at UCLA. “Starting too young is never too early.”

Try these strategies to help your family develop better organization and planning skills.

“TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS FOR CHILDREN ARE USE A TIMER. Build awareness about how long it takes to OFFER INCENTIVES. complete a task. Ask your child to estimate how “Receiving more checks can be linked to a natural LINKED TO SCHOOL much time he needs to finish his math assignment reward, like time with the family, helping to and then time him. With practice, he'll start to create a meal, or play time with friends,” says realize how long each task actually takes.

Mihalas. Fewer checks results in natural SURVIVAL SKILLS” “A great tool is Time Timer (timetimer.com). consequences, like less time to play or the loss of

SCHEDULE WEEKLY FAMILY MEETINGS.

Use Sunday evenings to discuss the family’s upcoming schedule. Give each child their own calendar that they can fill out. Hang up a master schedule with each person’s activities noted with a different color marker.

The app functions as a kitchen timer, showing time in a stopwatch fashion with time remaining in red,” says Cindy Sullivan, time management and professional organization expert. “As the red shrinks you are getting closer to the end time. It works great with homework or when doing a ‘beat the clock’ to tidy up or work on other tasks.”

Timers can also work well to keep parents on track, says Jane Sosland, clinical assistant professor in behavioral pediatrics at the University of Kansas Medical Center.

“A lot of times we’ll say, ‘I need you to brush your teeth. I'll be back in five minutes.’ Then we get busy with other children,” Sosland says. Instead, use your microwave or your phone timer to help remind you when it’s time to check on your child.

CREATE A CHUNKED TO-DO SCHEDULE.

Divide the day into chunks of time on a dry erase board. For example, the morning routine might say: Get dressed, make bed, eat breakfast, and brush teeth. Your child can check off the tasks as she completes them.

a favorite TV show.

USE VISUALS.

For children who aren't reading yet, photographs or pictures can help cue them.

“I helped my son take responsibility for his morning routine as a kindergartner by drawing pictures on post-it notes of school clothes, eating breakfast, and driving to school, then stuck them on an analog clock,” says Sherlyn Pang Luedtke, author of The Mommy Advantage.

Luedtke, the mother of two, says on the day her son was still sitting in his pajamas when it was time to go, she calmly put him in the car and set his clothes and shoes next to him. “He got dressed while the car was in the driveway with the engine running,” she says.

If at first you don't succeed, keep trying. Changing old habits can take at least a month. “If a morning goes poorly, rather than being furious and upset on the way to school, try and problem solve to decide what to do tomorrow so this doesn't happen again. Maybe that means waking up a few minutes earlier,” says Sosland. Poor executive functioning can also be a sign of ADD/ADHD. If this is a concern, consult with your family physician.

Freelance journalist, Christa Melnyk Hines, is a mom of two boys and the author of Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World.

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WRITER JENNIFER (BACK) WITH HER KIDS (FROM LEFT TO RIGHT) JOHN 17, ABBY 14, DANIEL 12, MAGGIE 10, AND DAVID 18

LET’S GO, LITTLE ROCK!

Big on fun, easy on the budget

By JENNIFER WILLIAMS-FIELDS

You know Little Rock’s the capital of Arkansas, but you might not realize it’s also a great weekend getaway. Just a few hours west of Memphis, this bustling city is surprisingly clean, health-conscious, and very family-friendly.

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Pinnacle Mountain sits more than 1,000 feet above the Arkansas River Valley in Pinnacle Mountain State Park. Park facilities include playgrounds, a boat launch, canoe and kayak rentals, mountain bike trails, and 13 hiking trails. The major attraction, however, is climbing Pinnacle Mountain.

There are two trails up the mountain: the family-friendly West Summit Trail and the more challenging East Summit Trail. But don’t let “family-friendly” fool you. Neither trail is stroller or handicap accessible and even the West Summit requires hiking on uneven terrain.

For the more adventurous, take the East Summit Trail to the top. At first the East Summit seems like a normal hiking trail with a few downed trees as obstacles. However, once you reach the halfway point, you are faced with a wall of boulders you must scramble to reach the top. My older kids took turns helping their younger sibs over the boulders. Whichever trail you take, the view from the top is amazing and well worth the effort.

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Saddle up at Chief Whitehorse Trail Rides for a one-hour guided horseback ride through Pinnacle Mountain State Park. The staff is super friendly and the horses are very well-trained. Our guide even gave my kids bananas to feed to their horses at the end of the ride.

No riding experience is required, although younger children are encouraged Before hiking, we used one of the many very clean picnic areas for lunch to wear helmets. Bring your own bike helmet or use one of the stable’s. along the Arkansas Trail, part of the 71-acre Arkansas Arboretum. The Children under 6 can also double-up with an adult. Reservations are arboretum showcases plant species found across the state. recommended but not required.

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Are you a teacher? Discounts are offered on admission to all teachers with a current school ID. Cost: $10/adult. $8/ages 12 and under. • museumofdiscovery.org

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NOT YOUR MAMA’S CHICKEN

I know, you’ve eaten way too many chicken fingers already in your travels.

But trust me on this one. We were getting hungry and cranky when we stumbled upon Stickyz Rock ‘N Roll Chicken Shack. Located across from the Museum of Discovery, Stickyz is a funky little restaurant bathed in neon colors and decorated with oddly shaped tables and chairs. The menu offers more than just chicken fingers, but you’ll want to order them anyway, with tempting flavors like hard garlic, jalapeno/ginger, voodoo, and lemon pepper. Don’t forget the homemade dipping sauces.

Live music is featured nights and weekends (age restrictions apply), but for lunch, it’s very family friendly.

Cost: Varies

TAKE A DIVE

After lunch, take the bridge across the Arkansas River to the North Shore Rivewalk Park, where you’ll find the Arkansas Inland Maritime Museum.

Here, you can climb aboard the USS Razorback, the Navy’s longest serving U.S. submarine; its crew was responsible for rescuing American pilots shot down during World War II. I enjoyed the river views while my boys took the guided submarine tour. They had fun climbing up and down the sub’s narrow stairways and listening to war stories shared by the World War II veteran volunteers.

Since this is a real submarine, there are many steps and tight spaces you have to navigate. It is not stroller accessible and not recommended for children under 5. If you skip the submarine tour, you can purchase tickets for the museum only.

Cost: $7.50/adults. $5/ages 6-12. $2/museum only. • aimmuseum.org

SHOP ON

Take a stroll through River Market. This shopping mecca features antique stores, souvenir shops, restaurants, candy stores, and the Ottenheimer Market Hall for even more specialty goods and food. The day we visited, First Security Amphitheater hosted a free BMX bike demonstration that held my older boys in rapt attention.

Cost: Free

PARENT HACK I’ve taught my younger kids to place each day’s outfit in a separate, recycled plastic grocery bag when packing before a trip. This makes mornings in a hotel room much easier, as the kids can just reach in their suitcase and grab a bag complete with clothes and undergarments for the day. It not only cuts down on arguments over what to wear, but also eliminates lost socks or shoes. An added benefit, the plastic bags are a handy way to store wet or dirty clothes while on the road. — Jennifer Williams-Field

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SPICE UP YOUR PARTY

With the salty, sweet goodness of a Peanut Butter Cup Cake

By LIZ PHILLIPS One of my brothers ran cross-country in high school, which enabled him to eat three twopacks of peanut butter cups daily. How I envied him! But recently, my older son and I, looking for an idea for his birthday cake, spotted a recipe for “Peanut Butter Cup" in Icebox Cakes, a ravishing new cookbook. What luck, I’d get to indulge my sweet/salty tooth while treating his party guests.

The birthday fell at the end of an insanely busy week, so I assembled and froze the cake a week ahead. The day before his party, I transferred it to the fridge, and then, frosted it with whipped cream right before serving. At the sleepover, the air was filled with the groaning of happy but bloated preteen boys. So when they asked for more the next day, I’d learned my lesson: cut smaller slices.

Full disclosure: Icebox Cakes is by Jesse Sheehan, my husband’s old girlfriend. She’s a lovely, generous, meticulous dynamo who doesn’t look like she's ever eaten a cake in her life. But I adore Jesse, and her book is a bonanza of confections inspired by the classic made of Nabisco Famous Wafers and whipped cream. Her cakes run the gamut from lavender-blueberry to black and white malted. Because she’s a high achiever, she includes recipes for homemade wafers in flavors from chocolate to pistachio. However, I used store-bought graham crackers in mine, and you can too. It’ll still be dreamy.

PEANUT BUTTER CUP CAKE

adapted from Icebox Cakes by Jesse Sheehan; more details at jessiesheehanbakes.com

MAKE PEANUT BUTTER PUDDING (You could stop here, serve it to your loved ones, and rest on your laurels.)

1 1/3 cups/265 grams granulated sugar 6 tbsp/50 g cornstarch 1 tsp salt 3 1/2 cups whole milk 1 cup heavy cream 2 eggs, lightly beaten 3/4 cup/195 g creamy peanut butter, at room temperature 2 tbsp unsalted butter, at room temperature 1 tbsp vanilla extract Whisk together sugar, cornstarch, and salt in a large saucepan. Add the milk and cream and whisk to combine. Add eggs and whisk again, then place pan over medium-high heat, whisking constantly. When the mixture begins to thicken and bubbles start to pop on the surface, reduce heat to medium and whisk for 45 seconds. Remove pan from heat and strain the pudding through a mesh strainer into a heatproof bowl. Whisk in peanut butter, butter, and vanilla. Use it while it’s still warm and pourable.

MAKE MILK CHOCOLATE GANACHE 13 oz/370 g milk chocolate, finely chopped 1∕4 tsp salt 3∕4 cup heavy cream Place the chocolate and salt in a medium heatproof bowl and set aside. In a heatproof measuring cup, microwave the cream at medium power till bubbles form around the edges, 30 seconds at a time. Pour the warm cream over the chocolate and salt. After a minute whisk together until fully incorporated and shiny. Let come to room temperature, stirring occasionally, until it thickens.

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ASSEMBLE THE CAKE (You’ll need a box of graham crackers) Lightly coat the inside of a springform pan with cooking spray. If you’re going to freeze the cake, line the bottom of the pan with a sheet of plastic wrap. Line the sides of the pan with a 3”x29” strip of baking parchment (easier than it sounds). Spread a layer of pudding on the bottom of the pan. Cover the pudding with a layer of graham crackers. I broke the crackers into pieces to fill in gaps.

Coat this layer with ganache. Repeat layers (pudding, crackers, ganache) till you run out or reach the top of the pan. Gently cover with plastic wrap, put the cake on a plate, and refrigerate for 24 hours. ***If you plan to freeze the cake, leave it in the fridge for 24 hours, then run a knife around it and remove sides, but not bottom, from the pan. Set it gently in the freezer to solidify for a day, then remove it from the pan bottom and swathe the whole thing carefully in plastic wrap. Before serving, unwrap and thaw the cake on a serving plate in the fridge for a day.

Frost before serving.*** MAKE PEANUT BUTTER WHIPPED CREAM (Make the whipped cream shortly before serving) 2 cups heavy cream 1/3 cup/85 g creamy peanut butter, at room temperature 1/4 cup/35 g confectioner’s sugar 1 tsp vanilla extract Whip cream in chilled bowl till just thickened.

Be careful not to go beyond this to the softpeaks stage. Add peanut butter, confectioner’s sugar, and vanilla. At medium-high speed, whip till it holds stiff peaks. Use immediately.

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EARLY YEARS

“Why is that boy crying, mom?” “That lady looks mad.” “Are you feeling sad?”

Talking about emotions with our children is an important part of their social and emotional development. Labeling emotions gives kids the context and vocabulary to begin to understand their own feelings, and as well as the feelings of others, which helps them develop empathy.

But humans have also invented other ways of exploring emotions. We dance about them, sing about them, write about them, and replicate them on stage and screen. Introducing our kids to the arts opens them to infinite ways to explore the human condition.

PUT DOWN THE GADGET AND BRING ON THE ARTS

By MATTHEW TIMBERLAKE

Memphis, Theatre Memphis, the Bartlett Performing Arts Center, the Harrell Theatre in Collierville, and others stage family-friendly programs that kids will find mesmerizing.

Museums like The Brooks, Dixon Gallery and Gardens, Belz, and others plan a portion of their programming for young kids. They also provide hands-on art projects, letting children tap their imaginations and make their own version of the art they’ve seen. Venues like the Art Project in Overton Square make art-making their business, offering materials and the space for children to get creative.

MUSIC MAKING Music has been called the first abstract art form, using nothing but sound to sketch emotions. Add lyrics to the mix and music offers all kinds of emotional fruit to sample. The Peanut Butter & Jam series at GPAC is designed for children ages 3 to 7 and offers diverse content, from mariachi bands to Scottish pipers. Music for Aardvarks gives young children instruments to shake, rattle, and roll. The free programs at the Levitt Shell are family-friendly, too. And this being Memphis, you’ll bump into live music at all kinds of venues, from farmers markets and street fairs to book stores and lobbies. We’ve even got museums dedicated to telling the story of our musical roots; check out Stax, Sun, the Rock n Soul THEATERS AND MUSEUMS Museum, or Graceland.

Theatre experiences can be found all over our The good news is clear: You can’t go far in region. Browse the calendar of this magazine and this town without running into an arts experience. you’ll find plenty of choices as the fall season So put down the gadgets and bring on the arts. launches. Playhouse on the Square, Ballet WHAT WE LEARN FROM ART From the very first handprint on the cave wall to the latest show at Hattiloo Theatre, humans have long used art to communicate emotions from behind the fourth wall. Art gives us the chance to talk about, and think about, human behavior from a distance. The audience isn’t in the joy or sadness, but we can watch and learn while using our imagination. And kids love it.

In an age when images pulse seductively from electronic devices, it can be hard to break the technology spell. But taking your child to a live performance or art exhibition can be a powerful antidote.

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NIGHT FRIGHTS

Zombies, the boogieman, and blood curdling screams aren’t just for Halloween. For many kids, sleep issues can be a year-round occurrence.

By KRISTI COOK

Peaceful nights can suddenly morph into teary ones when night terrors or nightmares creep up on your child. The good news is that kids do outgrow this unsettling phase of childhood. In the meantime, pediatrician Daniel Chatham of Pediatrics East offers tips on managing these nighttime disturbances.

THE BOOGIEMAN A sobbing toddler wanting to cuddle in momma’s bed after a nightmare is almost a rite of passage.

After all, everyone knows dust bunny-breathing monsters lurk under beds and sneaky, one-eyed creatures slink in closets, just waiting for little ones to close their eyes. Overactive imaginations, horror movies, even a story on the nightly news can cause nightmares. But Chatham warns that fatigue and stress are often contributors, too.

Nightmares generally occur in the latter half of the night, says Chatham, when children wake up scared and crying. “When they’re having a nightmare, you want to get to them as quickly as possible to let them know they’re okay,” says Chatham. Because kids tend to remember at least some of a nightmare, Chatham recommends discussing the dream and reassuring your child that what he experienced isn’t real. Many kids have trouble going back to sleep and often don’t want to be left alone. It’s okay to let your child sleep with you. Or, says Chatham, “Let them have a night light or a stuffed animal to sleep with. Also, make sure there’s nothing in the room, like a shadow, that’s scaring them.”

NIGHT TERRORS While nightmares tend to happen late at night, night terrors occur within a few hours of falling asleep and come with a more dramatic presentation. “He sat straight up in bed and screamed — it was truly terror, like he was in visceral pain,” says LeAnne, mother of two, describing her son’s night terrors, a phase that

began when Reese was 2. “It was a terrible cry, completely different from any other cry.”

LeAnne says Reese was plagued with night terrors off and on for nearly a decade. Her family had to make adjustments to their nightly routines during each period.

“They would come in six- to seven-month cycles, more often than not, five or six nights a week.” As is common with night terrors, Reese’s ran like clockwork.

“My husband and I stopped going to sleep before then. We would wait so our sleep wouldn’t be interrupted.”

When night terrors occur at predictable times, Chatham says parents can try waking a child up 15 to 20 minutes prior to the expected event over several weeks, which may break the cycle. But Chatham warns that this is not always successful. And your child will likely be inconsolable, no matter what you do.

Another difference is the near inability to awaken a child caught in the grips of a terror.

While wanting to console your child is natural, Chatham says it’s best not to wake them from a night terror.

“A lot of times they’re more confused than if you let them finish and let them fall back asleep on their own.” Terror-stricken children often stare glassy-eyed, seeing nothing in front of them, and may push or thrash against parents trying to hold them. Kids with night terrors also won’t remember scary dreams, screaming, or even awakening. “If you were to ask Reese in the morning, he had a perfectly fine night’s sleep,”

says LeAnne. “He had no idea anything was happening.”

Night terrors generally have no apparent cause and no cure. While frightening to parents, Chatham says these are usually harmless, and kids eventually outgrow them by age 11 or 12. In the meantime, if you have a child who is prone to night terrors, don’t let them become extremely fatigued or stressed.

SLEEPWALKING Much less frightening (and, at times, even comical), repetitive sleepwalking affects 15 percent of children, with even more taking an occasional stroll. Chatham says sleepwalking is generally not associated with other events.

“These are the kids that just kind of get out of bed and go for a walk around the house. Every once in a while you’ll have a kid make a sandwich or get dressed,” laughs Chatham.

However, Chatham does alert parents to the possibility of sleepers wandering outside or falling down stairs. When Reese started sleepwalking in their two-story house, LeAnne put a gate at the top of the stairs. To keep him from feeling self-conscious, they blamed the dog. “We told him we didn’t really want her to go upstairs.”

Chatham adds it’s not necessary to awaken your sleepwalker. “Just make sure the environment is safe, and gently lead him back to bed.”

If there’s no self-control at home, what do you expect of her at school?

Go to TUCI.org for a copy of the Parents Guide to Kindergarten Readiness.

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OCTOBER CALENDAR 1 THURSDAY

The Pumpkin Patch. Cedar Hill Farm in Hernando, MS. Through October 31. Features a hay ride to the Pirate Ship, Corn Maize, and Pumpkin Patch, a petting zoo & pig races, hay maze, giant slides, kiddie zip lines, catch and release pond, play and picnic areas. Picnics welcome. $10/child ages 3-10. $11/person ages 11+. Extra fees for some activities. • gocedarhillfarm. com/seasons/pumpkin-patch

The Mid-South Maze. The Agricenter. Through October 31. The maze is haunted on Friday and Saturday nights. Wednesday nights are Family Nights featuring a hayride and bonfire. • $7/adult. $5/child ages 5-12.

Haunted maze: $10/person. Group discounts available. 870-6338.

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Family Campout in My Big Backyard. Memphis Botanic Garden (MBG).

5 p.m.-9 a.m. Come roast hot dogs, take a night hike, do crafts, and play until dark. As night falls, make s’mores, and then listen to stories around the campfire. Finish off with a light breakfast and scavenger hunt before leaving in the morning. $35/person. Call 636-4131 to register.

Spooky Nights. Shelby Farms Park. Through October 31. Fridays & Saturdays in October plus Thursdays (Oct. 22 & 29) from 7-10 p.m.

Features Haunted Trail, zombie paintball hayrides, zombie laser tag, harvest crafts, nocturnal nature hike, and food trucks. $5-$12. Benefits Shelby Farms Park & Shelby Farms Greenline. 222-7275.

3 SATURDAY

Fuller Fest 2015. T.O. Fuller State Park. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Festivities include 1-mile fun run and walk, car show, live music, 3-on-3 basketball tournament, and food. Free. 543-7581.

Family Days. C.H. Nash Museum at Chucalissa. Saturdays at 10 a.m. & 1 p.m. Family Day activities include touring the museum, throwing darts with an atlatl, participating in a scavenger hunt, seeing the Archaeology Lab, and creating a craft to take home. Different themes include Oct. 3: Stone Tools & Weapons/Snake Painting. Oct. 10: Music/Dreamcatcher.

Oct. 17: International Archaeology Day. Oct. 24: Sports & Hunting/ Coloring Book. Oct. 31: Trash Talks/Basket Weaving.

Free with admission. 785-3160.

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Buckman Arts Center at St. Mary’s School.

Magic Carpet: Hip-Hop Hurray with the Grizzlies Minis and SubRoy Studio. Buckman Arts Center at St. Mary’s School. 10 a.m. Children ages 2 to 8 grab their magic carpet for a Hip-Hop adventure across the globe. $5/child. Free for adults. 537-1483.

Children’s Theatre: The Tale of Peter Rabbit. Dixon Gallery and Gardens.

12:30 p.m. Hutchison School students present this Beatrix Potter classic.

Free with admission. 761-5250.

Be Kind and Courageous - The 5th Annual Children’s Ball. Children’s Museum of Memphis (CMOM). 6-8 p.m. Children are invited to dress in their best to meet Glass Slipper Princess and her Prince Charming, enjoy a carriage ride with Fairy Godmother, make a sparkly necklace, and grab a treat at the candy station. Children’s Ballet Theatre presents a special mini performance. Event requires formal attire. Must be accompanied by a parent or caregiver. $50. Reservations required. 458-2678 x221

9 FRIDAY

27th Annual Southern Festival of Books. War Memorial Plaza in Nashville.

Through October 11. Festival brings in over 200 authors, 60 exhibitors, writers’ talks and more. Come celebrate the written word. Free. • humanitiestennessee.org/programs/southern-festival-books-celebrationwritten-word 43rd Annual Pink Palace Crafts Fair. Audubon Park. Through October 11.

Fair festivities include a children’s area, arts & crafts demos, entertainment, and food. $9/adult. $3/child under 12. 636-2408

10 SATURDAY

Night Rider Family Bike Ride and Outdoor Movie. Farmington Park in Germantown. Festivities start at 5:30 p.m. Ride at 7 p.m. Decorate your bike to go around a 6-mile loop. Bring glow-in-the-dark gear, flashing lights, and a helmet. Germantown Police assist with the ride. A familyfriendly movie on the lawn follows the ride. $15. Rain date is October 17.

Register online at Germantown-tn.gov/registration

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Caterpillar Club: Bats Squeak, Owls Hoot. MBG. 10-11 a.m. Choose Tuesday or Wednesday session. Children ages 2-5 can hear stories, view nature-inspired art, and take a hike in My Big Backyard. Semester Theme: 2:08 PM The Music of the Garden - The Rhythm of Life. Also On Oct. 27 & 28: Wind Whispers, Leaves Rustle. 6-class semester fee: $75. Call 636-4122 to sign up.

Rodgers + Hammerstein’s Cinderella. The Orpheum. Through October 18.

Come see this award-winning Broadway musical. $25-$125. 525-3000.

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Paint A Pumpkin. YMCA at Schilling Farms in Collierville. 6-7 p.m.

Children ages 5 to 15 are invited to come get messy decorating their own pumpkin. $8. Reservations required. 850-9622.

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Incarnation Catholic School Saturday, October 24th from 6pm to 9pm incarnationboobash.com Live Entertainment by Kevin & Bethany Paige!

Outdoor Carnival Games Haunted House Corky’s BBQ Dinner Inline Jumping Live and Silent Auction Trunk-or-Treat Wine Pull Cake Walk, & more!

Kids Ice Cream Making Workshop. Morton Museum of Collierville History. 10 a.m. & 1:30 p.m. Children ages 6 and up are invited to come learn about the history of Collierville’s dairy industry and make ice cream, cheese, and butter. Free. Pre-registration required. 457-2650

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Reelfoot Lake Pelican Festival. Reelfoot Lake State Park in Tiptonville, TN. Through October 18. Highlights of this three-day festival include canoe floats, pelican pontoon boat tours, wildlife photography program, geocaching, a silent auction, pelican & duck decoy painting, art & photo contests, and arts & crafts. $5 entry fee for contests and duck decoy painting. Festival is free. Admission for canoe float and pontoon boat tour varies. (731) 253-9652.

World’s Hunting & Wildlife Expo. Bass Pro Shops at the Pyramid.

Through October 25. This 10-day event includes the Big Cypress National Duck Calling Championship, Super Retriever Series, the pool-diving dog competition, and the first annual Duck Dash 5K Family Fun Run/Walk.

Also features live concerts, kids outdoor day, sports celebrities, and more. • basspro.com/waterfowlexpo

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Zoo Boo. Memphis Zoo. Through October 31. Friday, Saturday, & Sunday from 5:30-9:30 p.m. Le Bonheur Zoo Boo adventures include hayrides, straw maze, and candy stations. $15 Advance discounts available.

333-6572.

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International Archaeology Day. C.H. Nash Museum at Chucalissa.

10 a.m.-3 p.m. This year’s festivities feature flint knapping and spearmaking demos, interactive dart throwing, crafts, pine needle basket weaving, short films, and more. Free with admission. 785-3160.

Magic Carpet: Featuring Japanese Dance and Tea Ceremony.

Buckman Arts Center at St. Marys’ School. 10 a.m. The magic carpet ride takes kids ages 2 to 8 on a Japanese adventure. $5/child. Free for adults.

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Junie B. Jones, LIVE at Booksellers. The Booksellers at Laurelwood.

4:30 p.m. Ages 6 and up. Celebrate Playhouse on the Square’s upcoming production Junie B. Jones the Musical with a meet and greet, games, and photos. Free. 683-9801.

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Flick-or-Treat Movie Night/Porktoberfest at the Garden. MBG. Friday, 6-9:15 p.m. Saturday, 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Kick-off for this two-day event features music by Gen2. Children’s activities include games, making spooky slime, and pumpkin painting. Dance to Thriller on the big screen and settle in for a showing of Ghostbusters. Saturday event features live music, football games on the big screen, and an opportunity to sample pork culinary creations by local restaurants. One-day pass: $10.

Additional five restaurant sampling available for $10. 636-4107

The Okee Dokee Brothers: Adventure Songs. Germantown Performing Arts Centre (GPAC). 6:30 p.m. Come early for a free party outside the GPAC Grove from 4:30-6:30 p.m. featuring hot dogs, bounce house, and make sidewalk chalk art. Then join Justin Lansing and Joe Mailander as they explore the outdoors in their American folk music. $15/person.

751-7500.

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Junie B. Jones, The Musical. The Circuit Playhouse. 10 a.m. & 2 p.m.

Children ages 5 to 11 are invited to come watch an adaptation of four of Barbara Park’s popular books, brought to life in a comical musical. $10/adult. $5/child. Reservations required. 726-4656.

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Dairy Day. Morton Museum of Collierville History. 10 a.m.-4 p.m.

Dairy Day celebrates Collierville’s dairy history with a petting zoo, live music, ice cream-making contest, and vendors. Free. 457-2650

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Step UP for Down Syndrome. MBG. Noon until 4 p.m. Features picnic, a petting zoo, games, face painting, inflatables, fun walk, and entertainment. $10. Registration required. 547-7588 Fall Harvest Festival at the Farm. Farm Park. 1-4 p.m. Festivities include live music, pumpkin patch activities, visiting farm animals, hay rides, a hay maze, scarecrow contest, horseshoes, a kiddie pedal tractor pull competition, and cooking demos. Free. 757-7378

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Autism Science Night. The Pink Palace Museum. 5:30-7:30 p.m.

A Halloween themed Science Night for families with children on the Autism spectrum. Trick-or-treat in the exhibit galleries then participate in spooky science activities. Free with admission. 636-2389.

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Scare on the Square. Historic Town Square in Collierville.

Children ages 12 and under are invited to come trick-or-treating at the shops from 3:30-4:30 p.m., then join the Junior Auxiliary of Collierville from 4:30-6:30 p.m. for games and crafts. Free. Winter coat donations accepted. • jacollierville.org

Festival of Fun and Fright. Bob Hailey Athletic Complex in Germantown.

Fairy Tale Trail from 6-8 p.m. Trail of Terror from 7-9 p.m. Little ones can visit the Fairy Tale Trail presented by Germantown Community Theatre.

Older kids walk the Trail of Terror (if you dare), presented by Houston High School’s student government. Wear your costume and enjoy carnival games, moon bounces, and concessions. No rain date. $4/person/trail. 757-7382.

CAT IN THE HAT. The Orpheum. 6:30 p.m. Children ages 4 and up are invited to and come enjoy this Dr. Seuss’ classic. Regular admission: $15.

VIP: $30. 525-3000.

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CMOM Spooktacular! CMOM. 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Festivities include ghoulish games, funny bones face painting, chilling crafts, and candy treats. Come in costume and compete to win the creepy/cutie costume contest that takes place at noon. Top three winners receive cash prizes and CMOM memberships. Two additional winners will receive CMOM memberships. $12. Includes museum admission. 458-2678.

Halloween on the Island. Mud Island River Park. 6:30-8:30 p.m.

Experience Halloween family fun at Mud Island River Park with a Haunted River Walk, costume contests, games, rides, and trick-or-treating. $5/person. For details, go to MemphisRiverfront.com

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ONGOING EVENTS

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Memphis Zoo. Memphis Zoo Takes Flight.

Through October 31. 333-6500.

Magevney House Tour. Magevney House, 198 Adams. Saturday, October 3, from 1-4 p.m.

Free. 523-1484.

Museums and Exhibits Dixon Gallery and Gardens. Jun Kaneko.

Through November 22. 761-5250.

Memphis Pink Palace Museum. On Track in Memphis. October 3-17. Model train exhibit on display at the Pink Palace Museum. 636-2362.

CTI 3D Giant Theater. Living in the Age of Airplanes in 2D. Through November 13.

Prehistoric Planet: Walking with Dinosaurs 3D. Through November 13. Humpback Whales 3D. Through November 13. 636-2362.

Sharpe Planetarium. Wonders of the Universe.

636-2362.

Lichterman Nature Center. Scarecrow Contest Exhibit. Through November 20. 636-2210.

Morton Museum of Collierville History.

“Becoming the Volunteer State: Tennessee in the War of 1812.” Through October 24.

Traveling exhibit takes a closer look at Tennessee’s role in the war and how it shaped the state. Free. 457-2650.

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Mallory-Neely House Tour. Mallory-Neely House, 652 Adams. Fridays & Saturdays, from 10 a.m.-4 p.m. $7/adult. $5/ages 3-12. 523-1484.

Freedom Award Public Forum. Temple of Deliverance. Thursday, October 22, at 10 a.m.

This annual event is an opportunity for students to interact with this year’s honorees and celebrate peers who have contributed community service. Free event, priority given to local students and teachers.

Free transportation available to Shelby County Schools System groups. civilrightsmuseum.org

CLASSES & WORKSHOPS

Open Studio. Dixon Gallery and Gardens.

Fridays from 4-5 p.m. Ages 15 and up. This summer, Dixon offers open studio time in the gardens. Walk-in program. Free with admission.

761-5250.

Kaleidoscope Club. Dixon Gallery and Gardens.

Wednesdays from 4-5 p.m. Ages 5-9. This after-school program explores a project involving horticulture, art, or literature. $12.

Snack provided. Call 761-5250 to register.

Project Wild Teacher Workshop. Memphis Botanic Garden (MBG). Friday, October 9, from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. All participants receive the Project Wild Curriculum Guide for grades K-12 and learn how the program uses science, social studies, math, art, writing, and critical thinking skills to help students understand topics. Free.

Call 636-4119 to reserve a spot.

Natural Dyeing: Color from Plants. Dixon Gallery and Gardens. Saturday, October 31, from 10:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Dye pre-mordant wool yarn using plant barks, nuts, and flowers.

Yarn provided, additional skeins available for purchase. Bring an apron and long dishwashing gloves. $50. Call 761-5250 to register.

GROUP PROGRAMS

All About Autumn Scout & Family Discovery Days.

Lichterman Nature Center. Saturday, October 3, from 9 a.m. until noon. Ages 8-13. Children participate in leaf identification, a migration station, a scavenger hunt, and also take a closer look at trees and seeds. $6.50/child or scout. $3.50/chaperone. 636-2210

HOMESCHOOL CLASSES

Homeschool Days - Art of Japan. MBG. Wednesday, October 7, from 2-3:30 p.m.

THE JACKSONS The Orpheum Saturday, October 10, at 8 p.m.

Ages 5 and up. Children will learn how to say “Domo Arigato” (thank you) for the opportunity to learn Japanese words and calligraphy, create a Japanese fan, explore the folklore and symbolism of the Japanese Garden, and participate in a tea ceremony. $5/child.

Garden admission not included. Call 636-4100 to register and pre-pay.

Homeschool Drop-in Days. The Pink Palace Museum. Gallery drop-in event takes place the second Thursday each month from 1-2 p.m.

Oct. 8: Sharks. Components include Discovery Room presentation, Gallery Touch Carts, Scavenger Hunts, and/or Discovery Days programming in the Special Exhibit Gallery.

Free with admission. Parents are required to attend. 636-2389.

FUNDRAISERS

Boo! Ball. Pink Palace Mansion. Friday, October 23, from 7:30-11:30 p.m. Dress in costume for this Halloween gala featuring live entertainment, food, and drinks. $60/person. $100/couple. Benefits the Pink Palace Family of Museums. 636-2362.

Art on Fire. Dixon Gallery and Gardens.

Saturday, October 24, from 7-11 p.m. Enjoy live music, silent auction, and food around a bonfire on the Dixon’s South Lawn. $75. Benefits the Dixon. 761-5250.

13th Annual Golf Scramble. Links at Galloway Golf Course. Friday, October 30. Registration at 11 a.m. Shotgun at noon. Features lunch from Cheffie’s, on-course contests, gifts, and an awards ceremony. $300/person. $1,200 for four-person team. Benefits The Children’s Museum of Memphis. Register online at cmom.com/events-programs/golf-tournament/

THEATRE PERFORMANCES

AUDITIONS

Return of the King. Buckman Arts Center at St. Mary’s School. Monday, October 12, at 7 p.m.

PRIZM Ensemble and the faculty from The University of Mississippi Department of Music bring this classical performance served with a side of rock-n-roll. $20 General admission. $10 for students. Children 12 and under free.

For tickets, call 596-9105.

Nutcracker and Modern Dance Auditions.

Trinity Methodist Church’s Education Center.

Saturday, October 3, from 2-4:30 p.m. Open to children ages 8 and up with classical dance experience, and for children ages 14 and up with modern dance technique background.

Both performances take place December 12.

Saturday rehearsals for Nutcracker & Tuesday rehearsals for modern dance.

Call 301-3262 for appointments.

SCHOOL PERFORMANCES

Romeo and Juliet. Offered to Shelby and Desoto County schools in October and November. Tennessee Shakespeare Company brings this 90-minute performance to entertain children in grades 4-12.

Cost: $750. Contact Cara McHugh at 759-0620 for bookings.

THE JACKSONS. The Orpheum. Saturday, October 10, at 8 p.m. This entertaining performance samples the hits made famous by the Jackson Five. Regular admission: $45.50$85.50 VIP: $100. For tickets, call 525-3000.

Ailey II. Buckman Arts Center at St. Mary’s School. Thursday, October 15, at 7 p.m. The younger company of the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater brings together young dancers with outstanding choreographers for this performance. $35/adult. $30/child. 537-1483.

Enra. Buckman Arts Center at St. Mary’s School. Tuesday, October 20, at 7 p.m. This Japanese-based group pioneers a revolutionary entertainment experience infusing projected light and images into live dance and performance. $30/adult. $25/child. 537-1483.

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Barnes & Noble Booksellers 2774 N. Germantown Pkwy. 386-2468 Tuesdays and Saturdays at 11 a.m. Ages preK-6.

Costume Story Time: Biscuit the Dog Visits. Sunday, October 18, from 3-3:30 p.m. Children ages 2-8 enjoy a special story time with Biscuit the Dog. We’re celebrating 20 years of hope for children and families affected by HIV. We couldn’t have achieved this important

Halloween Story Time. Saturday, October 31, from 11-11:30 a.m. Children ages 2-8 should come in costume to listen to a spooky story and join in a parade around the store.

The Booksellers at Laurelwood 387 Perkins Rd. Ext. 683-9801 Story time with Miss Marjorie every Tuesday and Thursday at 11 a.m.

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CENTRAL 3030 Poplar Ave., 415-2700 Gadget Lab for Kids: A Technology Learning Lab. On select Mondays (October 5 & 19), from 4-5:30 p.m. Children ages 6-12 will learn through play on one of the library-owned Kindle Fires, iPad Minis, and iPad Airs.

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International Story Time. Saturday, October 10, from 11 a.m. until noon.

Join Ms. Phyllis as we celebrate diversity through stories, crafts, and music of Mexico.

Dixon Gallery’s Art to Grow. Tuesday, October 13, from 1:30-2:30 p.m.

Ages 6-11.

Read with Me, Sign with Me. Saturday, October 24, from 11 a.m.-noon.

Family story time for deaf, hard of hearing, and hearing families in collaboration with Deaf Family Literacy Mid-South.

CORDOVA 8457 Trinity Rd., 754-8443 See and Sign a Story. Saturday, October 3, from 11-12:30 p.m.

Presenter Luna Kelondra teaches sign language and shares a story with words and sign.

Natural Tie-Dye. Tuesday, October 13, from 3-4:30 p.m. Bring a clean dry T-shirt to tie-dye using natural materials.

Drums, Drums, Hear the Drums! Saturday, October 24, from 11 a.m.-12:30 p.m. October is International Drum Month. Come to hear all kinds of drums and decorate one of your own to take home.

Happy Halloween at the Library. Saturday, October 31, from 11 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Come in costume and celebrate Halloween with a puppet show, mask-making, and trick- or-treating at the library.

FRAYSER 3712 Argonne 357-4115 National Teen Read. Tuesday, October 20, from 4-5 p.m. Read-In offers teens (for this week only) a few dollars off of a fine for every hour they read in the teen area and report about what was read.

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National Teen Week. Wednesday, October 21, from 4-5 p.m.

Fantasy Quest into the Twilight: DAY I Twilight Saga discussion (Vampires vs Zombies). Watch the movie.

National Teen Week. Thursday, October 22, from 4-5 p.m.

Fantasy Quest into the Twilight: DAY II Watch Twilight movie. Play the Twilight board game.

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Annual Pumpkin Carving Contest. Saturday, October 24, from 1-3 p.m.

Teen artists are invited to carve individually or as a part of a group and win prizes. Pumpkin and tools provided.

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Banned Book Week. Friday, October 30, from 4:30-5:30 p.m.

Discussion on teen banned books.

NORTH 1192 Vollintine 276-6631 Teen Creation Thursday. Thursdays from 4-5 p.m. Series teaches teens how to make different types of craft projects.

PARKWAY VILLAGE 4655 Knight Arnold 363-8923 Masking Tape Treasures. Thursday, October 8 and Saturday, October 10, from 10 a.m. until noon. James Harton teaches how to make animals and spooky spiders out of masking tape .

Halloween Party. Saturday, October 31, from 1-3 p.m. Come in costume to play games, make crafts, see the mini haunted house, win prizes, and enjoy snacks.

RALEIGH 3157 Powers 386-5333 Meeman-Shelby Forest. Thursday, October 15, from 10:30-11:30 a.m.

Reptile and raptor program for ages 7-11.

RANDOLPH 3752 Given 452-1068 DIY Slime. Tuesday, October 13, from 4:30-5:30 p.m. Learn how to make slime out of household products.

Happy Halloween at the Library! Saturday, October 31, from 11 a.m.12:30 p.m. Come in costume to have a spooky good time at the library.

FALL BREAK CAMPS

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The Dogs Out? Twelfth Annual Harbor Town Dog Show Twelfth Annual Harbor Town Dog Show Presented by Memphis Veterinary Specialists Presented by Memphis Veterinary Specialists All proceeds benefit proceeds benefit8 • Noon to 4 p.m.

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Fall Break Camp. Learning Arbor at Shelby Farms Park. October 12-16, from 8 a.m.-3 p.m. For grades 3-6. Explore the park, take a ride on paddleboats, discover native wildlife, learn archery, ride bicycles on park trails and more. $150. Register at shelbyfarmspark.org/camps Fall Break Fun Camp. Memphis Botanic Garden. October 12-16, from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. Ages 5-10. Enjoy garden games, outdoor explorations, hands-on craft activities, and more. $200. Call 636-4126 to register.

Fall Breakout. South Branch Library. October 12-15 & 17, from 1-3 p.m.

Features a series of games, crafts, and movies for school-aged kids.

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Art Break. Dixon Gallery and Gardens. October 8 & 9 from noon until 4 p.m. Drop in at the Dixon during fall break to explore art materials and make something unique. Free with admission. 761-5250.

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Patton Orr spearheads bringing TED Talks to Memphis

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“It was incredible to see my friends rise to the occasion and get the job done in a very professional manner,” he states proudly. “So many people commented that they were surprised such a large event was run by high school students. It’s not that surprising to me, though. MUS’s mission is the development of well-rounded young men.”

LIFE AFTER TED The idea for the event first took root two years ago when Orr’s older sister turned him on to hundreds of archived TED Talks on Two years ago, Memphis University School senior Patton Orr YouTube.

The teen quickly gained an appreciation for their short, attended his first TED Talks conference, and a fire was lit inside him. inspirational After attending his first conference in TED Talks, for the uninitiated, is a nonprofit dedicated to “ideas Canada at agemessages.

16, Orr decided it was time to bring TED Talks to worth spreading.” The talks are given in 18 minutes or less at Memphis, and the rest has been a result of his dedication and focus. conferences and independent TED events, and then released as Along with his team, Orr attributes his success to his faith. He videos on YouTube. attends Second Presbyterian Church and considers the church his The topics range widely, but Orr had one specific goal in mind second home. “The church has given me a home away from school,” after attending his first talk: Bringing TED to Memphis. he says. instilled in me the values and maturity to look on this “Memphis is the largest small town in America and there are city with“It’s compassion. It was our mission from the beginning with always special connections here,” Orr explains. “We think of ourselves TEDxMemphis to create positive energy within the city.” as a community, not a zip code. When I decided I wanted to bring Orr has been readjusting to life after TED. He spends his TED Talks to Memphis, it was because I wanted to do something freeLately, time playing golf with friends and thinking about where he’ll special for Memphis.” attend college. Orr believes it’s important for him to leave Memphis for this next phase of his life. But TEDxMemphis has proven A TEAM EFFORT the teen has suspected all along.

I discover during our interview over coffee that Patton Orr is not something “If you love Memphis will love you back. And this city like most teens. The 18-year-old holds your gaze when speaking and has a lot of love Memphis, give back.” As a final question, I ask Orr if he feels is extremely self-assured. He’s learned how to speak eloquently, has proud for havingtoorganized such an influential activity. a point to make with every answer, and stays on topic. Though barely “I’m just proud of Memphis,” he says simply and grins. an adult, I soon realize there’s no one better to represent TED’s mission.

But Orr doesn’t take total credit for organizing the day-long event, which featured 17 local speakers last month at the University of Memphis. “I’m honestly surprised I keep getting singled out,” he says humbly. “It really was a team effort of alumni, sponsors, and MUS organizers. Our main concern was making an impact in the city.”

Once Orr hatched the plan, MUS called on alum Luke Jensen, a 2007 graduate who now works at Cushman & Wakefield, to provide the teen mentorship. Also helpful was Robert Fudge, a fine arts instructor at MUS, who designed the stage and kept the program on schedule. And then there were Orr’s friends: 50 fellow students who

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