HANUKKAH EDITION
KISLEV 5784 | DECEMBER 2023
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4 | Rabbi Ari Lucas The Might and the Light 5 | Lina Shuster Helping to illuminate the world 6 | Rabbi Sara Blumenthal Friends in faith: Building community across traditions 7 | Cantor Joel Caplan Keeping in balance 8 | Susan Werk Diminish the darkness on Hanukkah 9 | Geula Zamist Focused on the gifts in front of us 10 | Andrea Malmud Be on the lookout for ‘Glimmers’ 10 | CAI Caring Committee 10 | Create for a Cause 12 | Shani Drogin Reflections from my first-time trip to Israel 14 | A gift to last for generations 15 | Sydney Berkowitz Bat Mitzvah reflections: Standing up to the challenge 16 | Sisterhood Nes Gadol Haya Po — Miracles are happening here 18 | Men’s Club Lots going on with Men’s Club 20 | Israel Committee Bringing Israel to CAI 22 | Environmental Committee Opportunities to do mitzvot for the environment 24 | Tzedek Initiative Social justice advocacy and activism 26 | Welcome New Members 26 | Advertise/Subscribe to the Voice 28 | Thank you to our larger community! 29 | Interfaith Peace Doves Back Cover | Stronger together — CAI is sharing our light, hope, and Jewish pride (video)
RABBI ARI LUCAS
The Might and the Light
In the wake of the tragedy of October 7, Israel thought to delay the beginning of Daylight Savings Time. Their thinking was that Israel had experienced enough darkness, and the best thing for morale was to preserve whatever additional minutes of light they could this year. That’s the Jewish spirit — to do whatever we can to bring light to the darkness. As we now approach the darkest time of the year, we’re commanded to do a simple but profound act of lighting candles. The Hanukkah candles are not intended to light up our homes, but instead represent the light we intend to share with the world. It’s part of our commitment to “publicize the miracles” of Hanukkah to as many people as possible. Hanukkah celebrates two miracles — the military victory of the Maccabees over the Greeks, and the miracle of the oil lasting eight nights when it should have only lasted one. Put simply, Hanukkah celebrates the might and the light. These two miracles represent two dimensions of Jewish existence — two axes around which Jewish peoplehood and history revolve. One dimension is physical. It concerns our bodily safety, wellness, and integrity. The other is spiritual. Neither is sufficient without the other. Both are necessary for Jewish continuity. If the Maccabees had not won the war, Jewish history would have ended 2,000 years ago and our spiritual teachings would have no container to be passed on through the generations. There wouldn’t be a nation whose people speak the language of the Torah, nor a scholarly culture that expands the hermeneutics of the Talmud — there would be no Rashi, no Judah Halevi, no Henrietta Szold, no David Ben-Gurion, no you, no me. But without the light of the menorah, we might have survived history, but without the content and distinctiveness that defines Jewish civilization — there would be no Shabbat, no shofar, no huppah, no shiva. 4
Hanukkah, Kiel, Germany, 1931. Rabbi Dr. Akiva Posner and his wife Rachel lit the menorah and placed it in their window opposite the Nazi flag. On the back of her photograph Rachel wrote the following: “‘Death to Judah’ so the flag says, ‘Judah will live forever,’ so the light answers.”
We tend to think that body and spirit are two separate domains. We go to the gym to improve one, the library or synagogue to improve the other. The truth, however, is that the two domains are interrelated. Exercise, diet, and physical wellness have an impact on our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being; prayer and intellectual stimulation have positive outcomes for our physical health. The Jewish people are entering another dark time in which we are asked to endure feelings of insecurity because of our Judaism. The war in Israel echoes the battles of old — in which Israel fights to preserve its distinctly Jewish identity while surrounded by those who would happily see it disappear. The best thing we can do this season to fight antisemitism and antiZionism is to light Hanukkah candles. In the face of terrorism, antisemitism, extremism, and hate, we have the audacity to light a candle and proclaim that our light will not be extinguished. Perhaps you’ll consider lighting an extra set of candles this year — because the Jewish response to darkness has always been
more light. Our candles represent hope and continuity. They are a symbol of our distinctiveness as a people and our commitment to sharing our gifts with the world. This Hanukkah, we will once again honor the might that we must use to protect our family and the light of our Judaism that makes this world a brighter place to live. Both are necessary for our people’s continuity. May this be a season of might and light for us and the entire Jewish people everywhere. Happy Hanukkah.
Rabbi Ari Lucas is senior rabbi of CAI. “Sunlight, ordinarily the source of clarity, here causes the confusion and unease traditionally associated with darkness. The luminosity of the sky becomes unsettling, making the empty darkness below even more impenetrable than it would seem in a normal context.” — Lucy Flint, Guggenheim.org René Magritte. The Empire of Light. 1953-54, The Guggenheim, New York.
LINA SHUSTER
Helping to illuminate the world It has been 52 days of struggling to find the right words to describe what I have been feeling and thinking. I have heard and read so many eloquent speeches that my words just don’t seem to be right. I have watched, listened, reposted, donated, and rallied. My family immigrated to the USA in the summer of 1991 to escape antisemitism, all the while not knowing anything about Judaism other than the fact that we were Jews by ethnicity. At the age of 13, I made a decision to attend a yeshiva to learn what being Jewish is all about. I was the first person in three generations in my family to come back to our roots. My family followed on this collective journey of rediscovery while actively pursuing the American dream. About 10 years ago, I noticed a significant shift in our culture; it seemed the old antisemitic rhetoric started to become more prominent as waves of propaganda were rising. I joined the field of Jewish professionals because this was my way of paying it forward, my way of doing something, however small, to ensure our collective Jewish future. The last 52 days have been a source of uncertainty and pride. The last 52 days highlighted the importance of belonging to the Jewish community. Our very own CAI community has been shining bright through this dark time, and as we approach Hanukkah, I hope and pray that our collective light of unity, faith, and engagement pushes out all the darkness of this world once and for all. My thanks to each and every one of you for coming to shul, for giving of yourselves through the volunteer work you continue to do, and for your generosity. Thank you for helping me find the inspiration to get through the last 52 days. Keep spreading your beautiful light to help illuminate our world.
Lina Shuster is executive director of CAI.
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RABBI SARA BLUMENTHAL
Friends in faith: Building community across traditions Last month, I had the privilege of participating in an interreligious service for peace at Caldwell University. Muslim, Catholic, and Jewish faith leaders were invited to share a prayer and piece of Scripture from their tradition as part of the service. It was beautiful to see so many students, educators, nuns, and other religious leaders of different faiths come out to pray together in the middle of the day. One particularly moving and peaceful moment occurred when four Sisters from St. Aloysius walked up one by one to a table with a globe on it, each one with a candle in her hands. When she arrived at the table, she gently put down the candle on a different side of the globe while a song about light and peace played. It was done with such reverence and love. We prayed for peace in five languages and four religious traditions, sending the message that whatever our religious or cultural or political differences, we all connect on this undying hope that peace is possible. That is the introduction the organizer of the service gave: Peace is possible, and prayer can change the world. I was struck by her conviction in a world that seems so very distant from the world in which we want to live. But being together there with our brothers and sisters in faith, I felt uplifted by our communal prayer and fellowship. It was a balm for my soul in this very dark time. Especially now, I am grateful for our friends and partners in other faith communities here in West Essex. We are fortunate to have such a warm group of interfaith clergy who are invested in building community across traditions and standing together in solidarity. The West Essex Ministerial Association held a gorgeous interfaith Thanksgiving service at which Rabbi Lucas gave the address. With a rise in both antisemitism and Islamophobia, it 6
Rabbi Blumenthal at Caldwell University on November 29.
is all the more heartening and critical to pray and break bread with people of other religious traditions. The more we know and understand our neighbors, the more they know and understand us, and the stronger we all become in fighting the forces that seek to destroy us. Let us work together to spread more light and understanding this Hanukkah as we proudly express our Jewishness. Wishing us all a peaceful, bright Hanukkah. Chag Hanukkah Sameach!
Rabbi Sara Blumenthal is assistant rabbi of CAI.
CANTOR JOEL CAPLAN
Keeping in balance
Friends — I write this as, God willing, 12 more Israeli hostages are to be freed today from their Hamas terrorist captors. Since the horrible pogrom-massacre on October 7, many of us have been living in a fog of grief, sorrow, fear, and rage. Not only because of what happened then, but what has happened since then — in the Middle East AND also around the world, here in America, on our college campuses, and even here in little ol’ Caldwell. As Rabbi Lucas has said in his sermons, there’s an unending barrage of news, media, videos, arguments, and more. But it doesn’t help to be sad and scared all the time. There is good — a lot of good — around us as well. How do we keep in balance? Acknowledge the awful stuff, but not drown in it? I don’t have any easy answers. Yet here are three thoughts: 1) I can never do enough, but doing something helps — even if it’s only a drop in the bucket. Writing that email. Making that call. Giving yet again. Did it matter if we stood with 290,000 others on the National Mall in Washington on November 14? I’d like to think so. On our bus, returning from the rally, I quoted Tovah Feldshuh quoting Golda Meir to our members. Tovah said, “As Prime Minister Golda Meir said, ‘Some people love you, and some people love you and show up.’ You show up and that makes all the difference.” 2) There’s a new movie out, “Maestro,” about Leonard Bernstein. My teacher, Dr. Joshua Jacobson, director of the Zamir Chorale of Boston, has sent out the following quote many times in response to horrible news: “This will be our reply to violence: to make music more intensely, more beautifully, more devotedly than ever before.” — Leonard Bernstein
I’m the cantor, so it’s no surprise that I agree. Making music helps a bit. Does it bring a hostage home? Does it help defend Israel against our enemies? Not directly. But it does help me keep going.
3) Our son, Ilan, relayed this exchange with his six-year-old daughter, Arden: (At dinner) Me: Arden, what did you learn in school today? Did you learn how to fix the world? Arden: No. Me: Bummer. Arden (clarifying): I LIKE the world. We need to keep seeing the good, even as we fight the evil. Every morning at minyan, we say, “המחדש בטובו בכל יום תמיד מעשה בראשית/ God, in goodness, renews Creation every day.” May we keep seeing that goodness, and may that help with our balance.
Cantor Joel Caplan
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SUSAN WERK
Diminish the darkness on Hanukkah Some people have come to me with concerns regarding the nature of our Hanukkah observance this year. How can we have festive gatherings, they ask, given the horrific events of October 7 and its aftermath, especially with so many of the hostages still in captivity. And how can we confidently fulfill the mitzvah of pirsum ha’nes and place our Hanukkiyah in the window for all to see when we are so painfully aware of the rise in antisemitism? These are not easy concerns to address, but one thing I am certain of: We must allow the lights of Hanukkah to do their job: to diminish the darkness of December, especially of this December. When asked what their favorite Jewish holiday is, many children answer: Hanukkah! We might think it is the gift-giving that so delights our youngsters, but I’ve observed that the presents, fun as they are, are not the chief reason for the holiday’s popularity. The kids associate Hanukkah with festive gatherings, happy time with family and friends, singing and lighting lots of candles, eating tasty latkes, and — a fun game involving a spinning top! Celebrating Hanukkah with party and play is, for all ages and stages, at the heart of the holiday experience. What would the celebration of Hanukkah be without the squeals and giggles of children spinning the dreidel, claiming their winnings in gilded chocolate gelt? At CAI, there is a tradition in the Religious School and in our Hanukkah Shabbat children’s services to do the “Great Dreidel Spin-off.” The contest has two parts: 1) to see whose dreidel spins the longest and 2) to see whose dreidel lands on the highest value (the value of the letters, from lowest to highest, is: gimmel, hay, nun, shin). We also get moving and have a great time with the famous Hanukkiyah candle relay race. Playing these and other games add to the spirit of fun and celebration. But this Hanukkah, when there is so much pain and sorrow for those in Israel and whose 8
hearts are in Israel, how can we “play” or even celebrate with joy? We should remember the messages that Hanukkah so dramatically brings us. When we observe the holiday, we are acknowledging and celebrating the miracles of survival and perseverance, specifically against a backdrop of oppression and violence. When the lights are kindled, we are reaffirming our faith and our pride in being Jewish. When we place our Hanukkiyot in the window, we are not just feeling that pride and faith, we are proclaiming our right and joy in living as Jews. This is why it is so gratifying that some of our non-Jewish neighbors are intending to show solidarity with the Jewish community by adding Hanukkah decorations to their homes. What a beautiful gesture! Let us embrace our Jewish pride, celebrating Hanukkah for all to see. Let’s not dim the light by diminishing our celebration — let’s add light through acts of kindness, mitzvah projects, signs of Jewish strength and pride. Each time the dreidel spins, we think of the miracles that befell us and still surround us, the blessings that enhance our lives and that make us grateful. Even in — maybe especially in — these dark times, let us illuminate our days, passing the shamash from one to another to kindle a Hanukkiah of humanity sparking encouragement, hope, and love.
Susan Werk is education director of CAI.
Abby Meth Kanter with CAI ECC children during a Grandfriends event on December 6.
GEULA ZAMIST
Focused on the gifts in front of us “If I could jumpstart every child’s life…, I would engage in one-on-one conversation, listen with all my being to whatever the child says, and continue to dialogue for as long as the child engages.” — Ann Lewis Benham The words of Ann Benham were shared with the ECC faculty during a recent professional development workshop. The day of learning was titled “From Home to School, From Strength to Strength.” Educators from three other early childhood programs in the Greater MetroWest area joined us to discuss ways to deeply engage our children and their families. When we take the time to give children our undivided attention and listen carefully to what they are saying, they begin to understand they are in a trusting relationship. At the workshop, in addition to learning from our presenters and reflecting with the other teachers, we also heard from a panel of parents. The parents shared what they appreciate in the school their children attend and the different ways the home-school connection affects their lives. The day of learning was followed a few weeks later by another workshop on “Notetaking and Observation.” Teachers learned how to do the observations necessary to create the deep connections and what to do with those observations. After getting guidance on what to listen for, we practiced making meaning of what we are seeing in our classrooms. Each team of teachers shared stories from their students and worked together to develop curriculum to scaffold on the stories that are emerging in their classes. Both of these learning opportunities for the faculty are based on the values that are so central to our school. Now, more than ever, we work hard to clear our minds from all that is around us and stay present and focused on the gifts that are in front of us. Our children show us so much, give us so much, and inspire us so much. The Reggio
Judy Zaks with a CAI ECC child during a Grandfriends event on December 6.
Emilia approach to education reminds us that every child is a constructor of knowledge. Loris Malaguzzi, who founded the Reggio approach, said, “Observe carefully what children do, and then, if you have understood well, perhaps teaching will be different from before.” (When you are reading this article by the light of the Hanukkah candles, I will be in the Malaguzzi Center in Reggio Emilia, Italy, on a study tour. I can’t wait to share all the excitement with the teachers when I get back.)
Geula Zamist is director of CAI’s Lerner Early Childhood Center. —MEMBER OF CONGREGATION AGUDATH ISRAEL—
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ANDREA MALMUD
Be on the lookout for ‘Glimmers’
Shalom Chaverim. We have experienced feelings of fear, anger, grief, hopelessness, as a sense of darkness fell upon our beloved Jewish community on October 7. I would like to offer you a tool that can help bring healing to our hearts even in small ways: Identifying “Glimmers” in our lives. Unlike “triggers,” which evoke negative feelings of previous trauma, Glimmers are moments that make you feel joy, peace, or gratitude that bring a smile to your face. Once you train your brain to be on the lookout for Glimmers, you will find more and more of them, bringing a measure of comfort and strength. I suggest you write down these moments on paper so they don’t disappear. As always, feel free to contact Jewish Family Service of MetroWest or me for support or information.
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May each candle on the menorah bring a glimmer of light to each of our souls.
Andrea Malmud, LCSW, is the Zeller Family/JFS Social Work Consultant. CAI CARING COMMITTEE Do you need help getting to the doctor or running errands? Would you like to attend Shabbat services or events at the synagogue but don't have a way to get there? Are you temporarily unable to cook meals due to an injury or illness? Are you unable to leave your home and would enjoy visitors during the day? Our Caring Committee Volunteers may be able to help you. If you have a need that we may be able to help with, please email the Caring Committee at caringcommittee@agudath.org or leave a message on our confidential voicemail at 973-226-3600, ext. 142, and our coordinator, Cheryl Bernstein, will be back in touch with you.
SHANI DROGIN
Reflections from my first-time trip to Israel *This article was originally written in July 2023 More than a few congregants were shocked to hear that as my husband and I prepared to take part in Jewish Federation of Greater MetroWest NJ’s Centennial Mission to Israel last summer that it would be our first trip to Israel. We were thrilled to be among the 500 participants from across the Greater MetroWest region to together celebrate our community’s 100-year anniversary and Israel’s 75th birthday. We were divided into smaller cohorts on several buses, and we were fortunate to be assigned to a bus that included long-time CAI congregants David and Paula Saginaw. David had just completed his exceptional three-year term as federation president, and Paula may very well be the best-traveled federation mission participant — at 47 missions (and counting)! What an incredible learning opportunity it was for Louis and me to share in this experience with them and many other CAI congregants, including Ira Steinberg, who chaired the mission, along with his wife, Amy. I am proud to report that CAI had 45 congregants on the mission across various buses, and we all had a chance to connect as a group during the week. One of the highlights was celebrating the bar mitzvah of Jason Kupferberg with Rabbi Lucas at the Kotel in Jerusalem! On our second day, we had the opportunity to slow down a bit (and I do mean a bit; the federation plans a very full schedule every day!) and have lunch at a winery in the Golan Heights. Paula asked me how it was possible that this was my first time traveling to Israel, given my considerable involvement in our Jewish community in New Jersey. I explained it this way: I have never struggled with my Jewish identity. I have always felt connected to the Jewish people and our struggles, as I witnessed my Holocaust survivor 12
grandparents rebuild their lives and do their part in building a vibrant Jewish community in Cleveland. I clearly understood my responsibility to participate as part of a thriving Jewish community. I wasn’t searching for “more.” But having said that — I must admit I simply didn’t know what I didn’t know. Though I had been told many times, I couldn’t imagine how much a trip to Israel would strengthen my connection to the Jewish homeland and deepen my commitment to supporting the State of Israel. I had not personally recognized the acute importance of building strong Jewish communities within Israel and in the Diaspora, so that these bonds can sustain Israel and the global Jewish population. During the week of the mission, federation leaders needed to adjust plans as there was a military operation in Jenin (in the West Bank) while we were scheduled to visit Kibbutz Erez near the Gaza border. This military operation resulted in the deaths of 12 Palestinian militants and one Israeli soldier. The federation team seamlessly rerouted our itinerary that day, and we had a meaningful visit with our partner communities at a safe distance from any military activity. This quick pivot in our plans gave me a new perspective on the way Israelis live their lives, constantly adjusting to threats from enemies, yet with a perspective of resilience. Friday morning, we were scheduled to participate in a wreath-laying ceremony at Mount Herzl (Israel’s version of Arlington Cemetery) that included a talented female soldier leading us in “Hatikvah” and in “Hallelujah” by Leonard Cohen. Rabbi Lucas had the honor of leading the entire community in the Yizkor prayer during this moving ceremony, which was scheduled for 9 a.m. The funeral for the Israeli soldier who had fallen in Jenin was at 10. Needless to say, the increased hostility and loss of lives made the day even more somber. As part of the architecturally stunning design of the Herzl Museum, the interior contains Jerusalem stone bricks that serve as a poignant reminder of the cost of Israeli independence. The names of each fallen soldier and the date and year in which they
lost their lives are engraved on the bricks. Unfortunately, many more bricks are waiting to be engraved. As we toured the gravesites on our way to Yad Vashem (Israel’s Holocaust museum and remembrance center), all the mission participants were outside in time to witness three Israeli helicopters fly overhead as part of the funeral service and as a tribute to the young life lost in defense of Israel. Our tour guide constantly reminded us to shed our “North American lenses” when learning about living in the Middle East. In that moment, regardless of the “lenses” we had arrived in Israel with, we could all appreciate the immense loss felt by the family of the fallen soldier and the empathy felt by an entire country that knows this could have been their own son or daughter. This is a people who recognize that every day and every year, they must and will continue to sacrifice the lives of their children in order to maintain freedom for the Jewish state. When you take part in a mission, you have opportunities that are not available to other tourists. Hearing President Herzog address the Greater MetroWest group was one of the many special moments of the mission. He impressed upon all of us that there are 15 million Jews in the world, seven million in Israel, seven million in North America, and only one million more scattered around the world. It falls upon us, the Jews of North America, to support those living within Israel — those who are willing to sacrifice their young people, so that we can have a nation to always “return” to. I have attended many Shabbat and High Holy Day services and have heard Rabbi Lucas and Rabbi Silverstein speak with passion from the bimah about how our support for the State of Israel is so important for the country’s survival. But I had never been there to feel it firsthand. Fortunately, brilliant minds in the Jewish community have known this for a long time, and there are many programs, like Birthright Israel and Root One (through USCJ), that spend so much energy and money to make sure that young Jews experience Israel. Thankfully, federation leaders think it equally important to support travel to Israel by “older”
Jews as well and worked tirelessly to plan this inspirational trip. We all are better served by experiencing Israel firsthand.
Shani and her husband, Louis, in the Old City of Jerusalem.
I just didn’t know what I didn’t know. I needed that experience for myself. It took my traveling to Israel, at 50 years old, to build a meaningful connection to the country that will always welcome me. It was an experience that will remain with me for the rest of my life. Louis and I are looking forward to our return trip and sharing this marvelous country with our three children. *Since October 7, I think about the Jerusalem stone bricks inside the Har Herzl museum every day. I am devastated as I imagine the number of additional bricks that will be engraved with the names of the fallen soldiers as a result of the massacre and subsequent military operations necessary to retrieve the hostages and dismantle Hamas.
Shani Drogin is the CAI Board of Trustees counsel.
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A gift to last for generations Hanukkah is the story of miracles long ago. Miracles happen daily at CAI because you and other congregants rise to the call throughout the year with generous donations. What happens when you’re no longer here to make those gifts? Who will keep the flame burning, keep the miracles coming? The answer is simple – YOU – through the CAI Legacy Circle. This group of forward-thinking congregants care deeply about the future of Agudath Israel. Each of them has made a gift through their will or other plan to ensure that the synagogue remains a vital place to pray, learn, and gather. You can join them! Making a legacy gift to CAI sends a powerful message to your family and friends about your values, and it’s a gift that doesn’t cost anything
during your lifetime. It’s for the future, yet we’ll celebrate you today and every day for your generosity. We invite you to join the CAI Legacy Circle and light the synagogue’s path forward. Contact any member of the legacy team for information. Wishing you and your family a warm and peaceful Hanukkah, Your CAI Legacy Circle Committee, Steve Fichtenbaum, chair Shani Drogin, Arthur Franklin, Daniel Goldin, Burt Henry, Michael Lowenthal, Jonathan Mehl, Ronna Scheckman
CAI LEGACY CIRCLE MEMBERS* Anonymous (3) Cindy and Neil Goldstein Renee and Joel Reiser Hope and Paul Aronoff Marsha z”l and Burton Henry Nogah and Bruce Revesz Arlene and Mel Berkowitz Ruth Jaffe and Paul Horowitz Marilyn Rose Gail and David Black Natalie James Marian Rothenberg Stanley G. Blank Shai Kartus Jiji Paula and David Saginaw Miriam and Matthew Block Esther and Harry Kartus Margie and Larry Samuels Phyllis and Barry z”l Bochner Gail z”l and Max Kleinman Ronna and Rob Scheckman Stephanie and Alan Bonder Sasha and Matthew Koff Rachel and Paul Scherzer Susan and Gary Botwinick Larkey Family Barbara Kaplan Sebiri Joan Bronspiegal and Stuart Amy and Scott Lewin Harriet Sepinwall Dickman Amy and Bill Lipsey Michelle and Adam Shandler Nancy and Cantor Joel Caplan Linda and Michael Lowenthal Rita and Rabbi Alan Silverstein Greta and Ira Cohen Debbie and David Lurie Caryn and Brian Snerson Judy and John Craig Etta and Froman Mehl Randi and Murray Spiegel Beth and Robert Daniel Michele and Jonathan Mehl Susan and Elliot Stupak Jilana Dellal Marsha and Michael Messer Bea and Nat z”l Taubenfeld Shani and Louis Drogin Carol R. Morman Sandy and Jim z”l Weintraub Diane B. Edelson Nancy Heller Moskowitz Melissa G. and David S. Weisman Jenique and Eric Edelstein Helaine and Michael Mund Nathan Weisman Susan and Steven Eisen Meryl Natter Susan Werk Karen and Ted Eisenberg Rebecca and Eric Nelson and Family Jody and Rabbi Steven Wernick Linda and Leslie Elfenbein Karen Hauss Nerfli Lea Whitney Mark M. Englander Jayne and Victor Nhaisi Maxine z”l and Herb Wolf Marjorie and Norman Feinstein Carol and Harris Nydick Allison and Robert Wright Joyce and Steve Fichtenbaum Marjorie Nydick *Confirmed Legacy Circle Members as of Donna and Arthur Franklin Mindy and Alex Opper December 3, 2023 Phyllis and Marvin z”l Friedman Deborah and Stuart Rabner Robert E. Friedman Hilary and Howard Rabner Joyce and Lee Gladstein Michele and Larry Raiken 14
SYDNEY BERKOWITZ
Bat Mitzvah reflections: Standing up to the challenge
Sydney Berkowitz
(Middle photo) The Legacy Circle Board in the Sanctuary Promenade. (Bottom photo) Members of CAI’s Legacy Circle Committee (from top left): Burt Henry, Arthur Franklin, Steve Fichtenbaum, Daniel Goldin, Jonathan Mehl, Shani Drogin, and advisor Esther Kartus
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On November 18, I came to the Torah to celebrate my Bat Mitzvah. I had been working toward that date for a year, and I never imagined that what happened could happen. In the middle of the Torah service, a police officer came in and alerted Rabbi Lucas that there was a bomb threat in the shul and we all had to exit immediately. In that moment, every emotion and question possible filled my head. Were we safe? Would I be able to finish my Bat Mitzvah? Ironically, one of the key messages of my d’var Torah was that I look forward to a world of peace with our neighbors, much like Jacob and Esau healed their relationship later in life. Now, in the middle of my Bat Mitzvah, at my own shul, our safety was threatened. How can we achieve peace if I can’t have the freedom and safety to celebrate one of the biggest events of my life? Looking back, while this threat to our safety was terrifying, my Bat Mitzvah was the most incredible and special day. In the midst of my sadness and fear, my family, friends, and community showed me unbelievable support and love. It was this support and love that gave me the strength to pull myself together and finish the service. I will admit, when we were first evacuated, I kind of wanted to forget it all and go home. But as we danced in the parking lot and sang songs and prayers together, I felt real pride to be Jewish. I have always attended a Jewish school and a Jewish camp and had Jewish friends. My Jewish identity was not something I thought about or had to defend. It is kind of sad that it was on my Bat Mitzvah, of all days, that my Jewishness was challenged and threatened. But it is this challenge and the strength it took me to stand up to that challenge that I will always remember and take with me as I enter my Jewish adulthood. Sydney Berkowitz of Livingston is the daughter of Ellen and Jonathan Berkowitz.
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SISTERHOOD
Nes Gadol Haya Po — Miracles are happening here Despite the pandemic restrictions, continued concerns about Covid, RSV, and the flu, our Sisterhood has indeed performed miracles — bringing back together more than 200 of us over the past two-and-a-half years. It was exciting to see more than 40 women and their daughters participate in Sisterhood Shabbat on November 11, including many first-timers. On November 29, Joel Chasnoff, author, comedian, cook, and expert on Israel, spent the whole day at CAI, cooking, teaching, and entertaining. His insights and discussion about Israel were most welcome and needed. New opportunities to connect, see friends, and meet CAI women of all ages are on the horizon: January 6: Second Annual Cook-off: Kugel. Volunteer to make your favorite dairy or pareve kugel or come and feast on samples made by CAI mavens. Contact Shira Kelmanovich at shira.kelmanovich@gmail.com to participate. January 18: Sisterhood members are invited to join Susan Werk and CAI high school students as they pack post-abortion care kits. Information will follow on how to support this effort through an Amazon wish list, or contact Sharon Hammerman at sfhammermn@aol.com. February 11: In the morning of Super Bowl Sunday, come make your own pickles with Jeffrey Yoskowitz, coauthor of “The Gefilte Manifesto: New Recipes for Old World Jewish Foods” and founder of Gefilteria, based in Brooklyn. A fun time for all ages. Contact Rebecca Glass at rebglass@gmail.com for more details. March 14: Women’s Night Out with wine — spirits to lift your spirits — refreshments, mahjongg, and other games. April 17: Women and Finance. Come learn from certified financial planner Janna Rosenberg from Merrill Lynch. This program will be held off-site; location and registration information 16
will be available soon. May 17: You Are Not Alone — a mental health issues discussion with Andrea Malmud, CAI’s JFS Zeller Family Social Worker. This program, to be held off-site, is dedicated to the memory of Gail Kleinman, a well-respected social worker who advocated for this important program to be offered through Sisterhood. Gail knew the program was being planned; we deeply regret she is no longer with us. Please consider a donation to Torah Fund, which supports the five educational institutions that train the future professional or lay leaders of the Conservative/Masorti movement. Happy Hanukkah and New Year! Sharon Hammerman is president of the CAI Sisterhood.
MEN’S CLUB
Lots going on with Men’s Club The Men’s Club has been having a great year. About 20 people lent a hand to put up and take down the sukkah. Spirits in the Sukkah, run by Joseph Shumofsky, was a fantastic event, with 50 people in attendance. On Mischief Night (the night before Halloween) we organized a group of men to “patrol” the synagogue to make sure no mischief is done. About 20 participated, and luckily there were no incidents. The Men’s Club is making available “We Stand With Israel” lawn signs. Congregants can pick one up in the synagogue office. They are free, but the suggested donation is $18, which will go to the federation’s Israel Emergency Fund. You can make donations (or pay for any Men’s Club events) at our PayPal or via Venmo (@Mens_Club_CAI) or bring a check made out to CAI Men’s Club to the office. On Sunday, December 17, the Northern NJ Region of the Federation of Jewish Men’s Clubs will join other Jewish groups at the annual Jewish Community Night with the NJ Devils at the Prudential Center in Newark. (The holiday will be over, but there will be a hockey-stick menorah on display as well as musical
entertainment.) Purchase tickets at fevoenterprise.com/event/Federationjewish. The annual Men’s Club blood drive will be held Sunday, January 14; please sign up in advance for this mitzvah. The NNJ region’s 2023 Man of the Year Celebration, honoring each Men’s Club’s “Man of the Year” and “Youth of the Year,” will be held Sunday, January 21, at 1 p.m. at Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael in Springfield. Our Man of the Year is Jonathan Mehl, who has served as CAI Men’s Club president for more than five years, guiding us through the pandemic and leading the reengagement. We are proud to announce that Max Raymond is our Youth of the Year. To sign up, contact Jonathan at jmnjesq@gmail.com. Our Texas Hold ’Em event on Tuesday, January 30, at 7 p.m. will include a dinner catered by Holy Schnitzel, followed by the games. Even if you do not play poker (a beginners’ table will be available for those who want to learn), come for the food, beverages, fun, and camaraderie. Contact Arthur Bocian at anmnb2@aol.com or you can sign up at the PayPal link or Venmo. Jonathan Mehl is president of the CAI Men’s Club.
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ISRAEL COMMITTEE
Bringing Israel to CAI
Dear CAI Family, I must say thank you! Thank you for all your support during these difficult times. When I took on the role of Israel Committee chair, the main responsibility was to re-imagine our Israel Walkathon and celebrate Israel at 75. We soon realized there was more to be done, so we held “Israel at a Crossroads,” with Rabbi Silverstein discussing the judicial overhaul that was causing so much protest throughout Israel and the Jewish world. We focused on the positives and the steps we could take as American Jews engaged in Israeli concerns. We had almost made it through the Tishrei holidays when our world came crashing down on October 7. The joy of the holiday season turned to horror as we learned of the atrocities that were committed. We recognized the enormity of Hamas’s crimes and the hard-tofathom denial of much of the world. As a community, we came together for our Israel weekend and walk. We sang together in a spiritually uplifting Shabbat with Rabbi Josh Warshawsky, ending with a joyous concert. We had so many participants for our walkathon we ran out of shirts! We peacefully walked through our towns and Grover Cleveland Park, where
random visitors cheered us on. We raised enough money to send meaningful gifts to the emergency funds of the Jewish Federation of Greater MetroWest NJ and Jewish National Fund and to the Conservative/Masorti synagogue in Ashkelon. In November, we again heard from Rabbi Silverstein, who had been in Israel when the attack occurred and who shared his experiences and reflections. More than two busloads of CAI members traveled to Washington to rally in support of Israel and against antisemitism and to cry out to bring the hostages home. It was inspiring to be with almost 300,000 Jews and Israel supporters from around the world. We concluded November with a day with Israel expert Joel Chasnoff, who shared Israel through food and his stories and reflections. Joel is known as a comedian, but he broached serious topics, including the current situation. The Israel committee will continue to work to bring Israel to CAI. If you would like to get involved, please contact me at sbonder@agudath.org. May this Hanukkah bring us the light we need to heal our souls as we go from strength to strength. Stephanie Z. Bonder is chair of the CAI Israel Committee.
Stephanie Bonder during the March for Israel in Washington, D.C., on November 14.
Thank you to Jerusalem Restaurant for donating the kiddush food for CAI’s 20th Annual Israel Walkathon.
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ENVIRONMENTAL COMMITTEE
Opportunities to do mitzvot for the environment
In Pirkei Avot, we read that Rabbi Tarfon said, “It is not incumbent upon you to finish the task, but you are not free to desist from it.” The Environmental Committee invites you and your family to take advantage of opportunities here at CAI to help protect and sustain our environment: Recycling — Bring your used printer cartridges, CFL bulbs, and used batteries to the synagogue and place them in the collection point, a bin under the stairs leading to the Religious School. Every Friday, congregant Gerry Buchoff takes the items to be recycled. (A second bin is planned for small electrical appliances to be recycled.) Sustainable kiddush — CAI has begun adding more vegetarian options to our kiddushes for Shabbat and yom tov celebrations and is using compostable plates, cups, and cutlery — not plastics. You can use disposable, compostable (not plastic) tableware and utensils in your homes; purchase them at local shops and online. Our gatherings don’t have to result in
more plastic being added to the landfills. Save money on your energy bills — Rebates are available that can substantially reduce home energy costs. For example, you can transition to energy-saving LED lights and solar panels. Check with your electric power provider (PSE&G or Jersey Central Power & Light FirstEnergy Corp.) to learn what is available from them and check with solar companies. They will be happy to help you make changes to save energy. Free of charge: Seed and plant exchange — The Environmental Committee encourages all gardeners, farmers, and those who love vegetable, fruit, flowering, and other plants to contact Michael Brown at michael858791@gmail.com. This project will provide you with free seeds and/or plants for you to cultivate and/or the opportunity to share any “extra” seeds and plants you have with other CAI congregants. A project to benefit both you and the environment. Tu B’Shvat Seder — On Wednesday, January 24, the Environmental Committee will hold a celebration of the Jewish New Year of the Trees. To get involved, contact Debbie Arbit or Randi Brokman. We welcome your ideas for sustaining our environment. Contact Environmental Committee cochairs Harriet Sepinwall and Mark Lipsy. Harriet Sepinwall is cochair of the CAI Environmental Committee.
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TZEDEK INITIATIVE
Social justice advocacy and activism The Tzedek Initiative at CAI was formed in the aftermath of George Floyd’s murder in May 2020 with the aim of pursuing and promoting social justice and racial equality through listening and learning, community building, and advocacy and activism. Our working groups focus on specific issues. The Reproductive Rights group meets regularly to plan events and share information on this important issue. On Thursday, January 18, 7-9 p.m., we will host, along with CAI teens and Sisterhood, a program to assemble after-abortion care kits for clients of a local provider. You can purchase items on our Amazon wish list and/or come and help pack the kits. Contact Natalie Peck or Susan Werk for information. The Voting Rights group presented the League of Women Voters’ “Why Voting Matters” program at James Caldwell High MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR. DAY OF SERVICE The Tzedek Initiative and Social Action Committee will sponsor its annual Martin Luther King, Jr. Day of Service project on Sunday, January, 14, and Monday, January 15. In collaboration with the Facing Racism group at the First Presbyterian Church at Caldwell, we will collect food items for the 7th Street Bistro in Newark. For information on volunteering or donating, contact Karen Eisenberg or Stacey Lewis.
School last June. We will schedule it again there next spring and at West Essex High School and other area schools. Montclair’s League of Women Voters invites those who are interested to train to be presenters. Membership is not required; retired teachers are welcome. We work with the League to ensure our efforts are nonpartisan. Contact Karen Eisenberg to get involved. Members of the Educational Inequality group have been tutoring low-income students from the greater Montclair area, either virtually or at Montclair Public Library, through the Succeed2gether organization. To become a tutor, go to succeed2gether.org. To participate, contact Leah Sterman-Kabrt or Sue Goldberg. We hope to reactivate the Civil Engagement group to participate in Braver Angels, an organization uniting people across the political divide. In early 2024 (date TBA), we will sponsor a screening and discussion of “The Price of Silence: The Forgotten Story of New Jersey’s Enslaved People,” a two-part documentary that shows the lasting impact of slavery on the African-American community. We welcome all participants and are always looking for new ideas. To learn more, go to our page on the CAI website or contact Debbie Rosen, Debby Miller, Morris Lewis, or Ruth Jaffe. Morris Lewis is the cochair of the Tzedek Initiative.
Members of the Tzedek Initiative during a meeting in CAI’s sukkah in October (left), and preparing food for Juneteenth Shabbat in June (right).
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WE EXTEND A WARM WELCOME TO OUR NEWEST AND RETURNING FAMILIES AS OF DECEMBER 1, 2023 Dee Abrams Benjamin & Stephanie Akselrad with Annabelle Ami Blumenthal & Michelle Mikelberg Blumenthal with Alexis and Brenden Guy Chayoun & Jodie Dratch-Chayoun with Asher Giovani & Beth Ann Cohen with Harry and Madelyn Rob & Becca Cossin with Gabe and Max Daniel & Yuan Elmowitz with Sophia and Bader Sagi Fainshtain & Sarah Drill Fainshtain with Carmel Jeffrey & Lisa Gates with Elijah Doron Grosman & Karen Secular Stuart & Suzanne Hermans with Ella and Alexandra Sharon Holinstat Howard and Victoria Kahn with Lillian and Avah Tracy Lerda and Poppy David & Lindsay Manevitz with Wendy and Danielle Mark & Arlette Manevitz Judy McHugh Jack & Robyn Mehler with Skyler Jessica & Mark Melendez with Lola, Gemma, and Dax Steve Perlman Joseph Phillips & Adi Horovitz with Laila Darrell Rigel & Beth Hollander Rigel Adam Rubin & Laura Newman Rubin with Mila and Romy David & Barbara Schlachter David & Brooke Schwerin with Hunter and Harper Jeffrey & Diana Squires with Jordana and Lia Aaron & Jenna Zablow with Mason and Leo
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“THE GREATNESS OF A COMMUNITY IS MOST ACCURATELY MEASURED BY THE COMPASSIONATE ACTIONS OF ITS MEMBERS.” — Coretta Scott King
Thank you to our larger community! On Hanukkah we light candles to commemorate a miracle. This year, because of the support from our larger community, the light of the Hanukkah candles also reminds us of the light we share. Many religions share the act of bringing forth light as candles are lit for different ceremonial practices — a common thread that serves as a reminder that we are in this together. Thank you to our friends and neighbors, the members of the West Essex Ministerial Association, and our first responders. May we continue to bring forth the light within each other’s lives. Modeled after what was done in Randolph, NJ, Samantha Fliegler and Debbie Rosen (from our Agudath Israel community) and Tracy Voca and Monique Joseph (from our Caldwell community) are partnering to launch a Blue Light Campaign to raise awareness to fight hate and antisemitism. You can pick up a blue light at the synagogue. Please place it in a visible window to show your support for the Jewish community. 28
Dear God, Thank you for all creation. In the spirit of all teachers of peace who inspire the many faith traditions, help me and all the people of the world learn how to replace hate, war, oppression, and division with love, peace, forgiveness, freedom, and reconciliation. Help us embody Your love in our relationships with our family and friends, strangers — even our enemies. We commit ourselves to these sacred tasks throughout our lives. Amen
Opposite page (Top right) Cantor Joel Caplan and Bishop Warren Harper of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in North Caldwell (Bottom) Susan Werk, Reverend Thomas Dente of Notre Dame Church, Rabbi Ari Lucas, and Allison Pienciak, religious education assistant at Notre Dame Church
(This page) Doves created by the parishioners of Notre Dame Church in North Caldwell and presented in solidarity to CAI and the Peace Islands Institute.
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