CONFIDENCE IS The Magazine
Issue 1 | May. 2021
Debut Issue
Gospel Phenom, Author Newlywed
Big Bold "SINGLE IN DA'CITY" Dating in New Orleans The Male Perspective
The Dressing Room with Adrienne Shanelle
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Mrs. Kierra Sheard-Kelly Mother's Day F I B RFeature: OMYALGIA Miesha Weaver
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Mother's Day Feature
CONFIDENCE IS SINGLE DOES NOT EQUAL STRUGGLE
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Miesha Weaver
MOTHER, AUTHOR, ACTIVIST
INTERVIEW
BY DANA HAMMOND
It’s a pleasure to have this opportunity to be up close and personal with A Mother of your Caliber that happens to be “single” as of the date of this Magazine issue. Who is Miesha Weaver? We want to know the lady, the legend. What or shall I say who inspires you? I'm always asked that question. I am inspired by people with a story. I'm different. I don't really look up to people. People who have overcome something. To be hit with something and overcome that, That to me is motivation. As a single Mom, we're often portrayed as a "Struggle Story" but that's not the case. All of us out here are not Struggling. We're out here going to school, running businesses, we are not All struggling.
How do you do it? Balancing Home 3 superstars, Work, & Entrepreneurship. Do you take the time to wind down?
It's a challenge and they say you make time for what's important to you.
I am a planner. So, I
take my Sunday to plan out my week, my month, my year. Planning is very important for Success. Sunday is my "Jesus and Rest" Day.
MIESHA WEAVER SINGLE NOT EQUAL STRUGGLE
You are in your children’s schooling and district leadership. Tell us about your involvement and your future plans. We want to be sure to support your efforts. Absolutely. I have always been involved with My kids because I think it's important that the teachers see a face they shouldn't when there's a problem. I've been room mom, team mom, in a program building relationships. This past year with Covid and the injustices that we face, my kids seeing it on that level. I don't think no child had ever seen it on that level and to see them impacted on that level. Made me think about what can I as a Mom to show my kids I'm fighting for them and that I can provide a world that I want for them. I started looking around for opportunities to get involved. After much thought and research, I realized that the local school board was ALL Male. I ran for office and won within a 1 percent voting difference. My opponent and I are still friends to this day. A Black, Single Mother nearly won office in the Pre-Dominantly Caucasian School System.
You are the mother to a young black man in 2021. Tell us about the conversations that you have with him in light of the situations involving people of color. My conversations with my son are different because he is somewhat of an "old soul" He is very mature. He's thinking ahead. Setting a foundation in Faith. My children know to pray, they know scripture. Our faith plays a big role in that. Trials come but they also know how to get through the trials. My son says I am extra because I'm overprotective of him. Just for the same reasons, there are thing s that he is not allowed to do and He sees. It is sad that we have to teach our kids another set of rules. Now we have a whole new set for rules for being black.
If you could speak to a young lady who has children and is single. She feels hopeless and helpless. What would you say to her? God gives us what we can handle. You would not be in that situation if God had not allowed it, therefore you can handle it.
Ok I am an advocate for Self Esteem and Confidence.. hence the name of this Magazine... tell us something Unique about you that no one knows and they would be completely surprised by. I have gone skydiving. I am afraid of heights but I took the leap. It was so liberating. It's like I let the load of the world out in my scream....Once I did that it felt so good.
Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy schedule to chat with me. I look forward to hearing your response to all of these questions if you choose to answer them all. They are optional not mandatory, just what I wanted to inquire about.
INTIMATE ESSENTIALS
by: Brad & Latoya Cheathon Every couple has a story.
It’s not always a story of happy moments, happy memories, or happily ever after. Sometimes it’s angry arguments, ugly crying, and feeling a loss of hope that it will ever change.
When you’re faced with yet another conflict with your partner, what do you do? How do you turn the situation around?
According to the Gottman Institute,“Sixty-nine percent of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems. All couples have them.” https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-conflict-solvable-vs-perpetual-problems/
We have to recognize that in each relationship, there are two different people, from two different households, with two different perspectives on a lot of things- and we’re trying to do life in the same space. So naturally there’s going to be conflict. But sometimes it’s okay to agree to disagree. Agreeing to disagree can be challenging, though, because as humans, we all want to feel heard, understood, and validated by our partners. ….And, we pretty much want them to agree with us, if we’re honest. However, sometimes they just can’t agree with us because we have fundamentally different views on things, and completely different personalities. So many couples spend hours, days and months arguing over surface-level issues and principalities that are statistically shown to be unresolvable.
And that’s where we come in. We are Brad and LaToya Cheathon, and we are a husband and wife team and our business is The Couples Wellness Spot. Brad is a Certified Life Coach, and LaToya is a Relationship Coach, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in working with couples. Together we provide 2-on-2 Relationship Coaching services to couples across the country, as well as weekend retreats for groups of couples or individual couples. Our focus is to help partners get deeper, down to the emotional needs underneath those surface-level disagreements. We help them transform their relationship using activities and conversations designed to strengthen intimacy, improve conflict resolution, and build connection.
Each month, we will be right here, providing Confidence Is... readers with practical tips, communication skills, and conflict resolution tools for your toolbox. Just like in our coaching sessions, it’s nice to be able to give both perspectives on topics, since we will be writing together. So, whether you are the person who wants to keep talking during an argument, or the one who prefers to “keep the peace” and avoid conflict altogether- we have something for you. You can learn more about our story, and even take our “What’s Your Conflict Style” quiz at www.thecoupleswellnessspot.com. We are looking forward to sharing our lived and learned experience with you all to help you on your relationship journey.
The Dressing Room WITH ADRIANE SHANELLE
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Before Our motto is a busy mom on the go. Her go-to outfit is a T-shirt, tights, and flip-flops. She struggles with finding outfits for engagements. But today all of that changes
You must be ready to step out of your comfort zone. You never know if you don't try. To ensure that your outfit fits properly you start with the correct foundation also known as Shapewear. A Good bra is imperative to define your waist and curves.