Area Woman Magazine Aug/Sep '13

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Contributors Area Events Calendar The Kitchen Magician Heartland Study Club Success and Passion: The Fargo Theatre Fashion Trends: Tap Into Texture Photography We Love: Weddings Photography We Love: Children Where to Shop: Products & Services The Fargo-Moorhead Humane Society Legally Speaking: Serkland Law Firm Your Health, Your Way A Second Chance At Life Someone In Your Corner

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August-September

Who's Your HERO? Spreading the Word Walking for Mom Home Showcase: Krueger Construction Magic is in the Mixture Capturing Childhood with Rialee A Gift of Music Achieving Their Dreams 125 Faces of MSUM Studio E Encourages Creative Thinking Making Moms a Big Deal Parents LEAD On the Cover: An Outdoor's Woman with Rachel Leitch of Moorhead

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Summer The final days of

Here's to the last weeks of sunshine!

August

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“Shuffle. Play. Listen.” with Matt Haimovitz & Christopher O’Riley

Now - September 1

August 13

Paying homage to the former Moorhead Post Office, a historic building — now Rourke Art Museum.

Join us for some family fun! Giant water balloon launch, face painting, sprinkler dash and more!

Rourke Art Museum - 1st Floor 521 Main Avenue, Moorhead 218.236.8861 // therourke.org

$10 per person or $15 per person - includes supper 4:30 - 6:30 pm Schlossman YMCA 4243 19th Avenue South, Fargo 701.281.0126 // ymcacassclay.org

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Now - September 15

tHe saint JoHn’s BiBle

Renowned calligrapher Donald Jackson produced a handwritten, hand-illuminated Bible. We invite you to explore this work of art. It unites an ancient Benedictine tradition with the technology and vision of today.

Hjemkomst Center 202 1st Avenue North, Moorhead 218.299.5515 // hcscconline.org

August 7 & 14

family fun concert

Local bands will entertain families with lively music.

Brunsdale Park 1702 27th Avenue South, Fargo 701.499.6060 // fargoparks.com

August 14

“25 sHaDes of you” VenDor sHoW Check out some of Fargo’s vendors including Fargo’s newest online shopping boutique, The Black Frame.

7 - 9 pm followed by a social hour from 9 - 10 pm Hilton Garden Inn 4351 17th Avenue South, Fargo facebook.com/shopblackframe

August 17

ymca ProGram reGistration

Register for flag football, climbing clubs, youth empowerment courses, swimming lessons and more! ymcacassclay.org

August 17 - September 29

minnesota renaissance festiVal The Minnesota Renaissance Festival is celebrating its 43rd Season! Be a part of this long-standing tradition.

Festival Grounds in Shakopee, Minnesota 952.445.7361 // info@renaissancefest.com

August 21

tHe Hatter’s maD tea Party The Moorhead Public Library 118 5th Street South, Moorhead 218.233.7594 // www.larl.org

September 7

9tH annual autumn JunKfest anD flea marKet Junk Enthusiasts will find raw salvage and uniquely repurposed furniture, accessories and garden art.

Foster Country Fairgrounds, Carrington junkfest.blogspot.com // facebook.com/junkfest

September 7 - 8, 14 -15

fall ParaDe of Homes View a showcase of new homes by HBA members.

Magazines detailing each home are at Hornbacher’s on September 3.

12 pm - 5 pm 701.232.5846 // hbafm.com

August 22

cHess cluB Chess players of all ages and abilities are invited to join the Fargo Public Library’s Chess Club. An informal club open to players of all levels.

5:30 - 8:30 pm The Fargo Public Library 102 North 3rd Street, Fargo 701.241.1495

August 24 - 25

islanD ParK craft sHoW Booths of hand-made crafts, food and fun!

10 am - 5 pm Island Park 302 7th Street South, Fargo 701.499.6060 // fargoparks.com

September 13 - 15

GraPe stomP & fall festiVal Held annually at Carlos Creek Winery in Alexandria. The festival attracts over 15,000 people. Festivities include grape stomp, live bands, glass blowing and more!

Carlos Creek Winery 6693 County Road 34 Northwest, Alexandria, MN 320.846.5443 // ccwgrapestomp.com

September 14

muDman race Get filthy and have fun together - this mud race is for the whole family! Ages 8 and up.

Multiple Heat Times Buffalo River Race Park 12 Miles East of Fargo on Highway 10 mudmanrace.com

AlenDAr August 25

streets aliVe

A physical activity festival where walkers, bikers and other human-powered movement bring F-M alive!

Downtown Fargo 701.356.3132 // fmstreetsalive.org

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September 19

msum PerforminG arts: “sHuffle. Play. listen.”

Matt Haimovitz (cellist) and Christopher O’Riley (pianist) come together to play musical mind games.

Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM 1104 7th Avenue South, Moorhead mnstate.edu/perform

September 28

Come to the game for fan appreciation night & fireworks.

oKtoBerfest 2013

7 pm Newman Outdoor Field 1515 15th Ave N, Fargo fmredhawks.com/tickets

Downtown Fargo oktoberfestfargo.com

Oktoberfest is fun for all ages! From dog races to the pub crawl!

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Friday, September 6

at t h e fa rgo d o m e 1800 North University Drive, Fargo • Doors at 5:30 pm, Show at 7 pm Tickets available at inforumtix.com • 701.241.9100 • fargodome.com

ArT & musIC August 8

corKs & canVas Sample wines as you stroll through downtown businesses. Experience great artists working live!

5 pm - 9 pm Wristband: $15 Downtown Fargo downtownfargo.com/events

August 10 & 11

fiBer arts fest Two days of demonstrations, vendors and hands-on activities.

10 am - 5 pm Rheault Farm 2902 25th Street South, Fargo 701.499.6060 // fargoparks.com

September 17

Jonny lanG Fargo native Jonny Lang will release the follow up to his Grammy Award Winning 2006 album. See him live!

Doors at 7 pm, Show at 8 pm The Fargo Theatre 314 Broadway, Fargo 866.300.8300 // jadepresents.com

September 19 - October 12

“reD” By JoHn loGan “Red” is a compelling account of one of the greatest artists of the twentieth century, Mark Rothko.

4 pm Thurs. - Sat., 2 pm Sun. Theatre B 716 Main Avenue, Fargo 701.729.8880 // theatreb.org

October 27

P!nK

“Pop’s biggest spectacle,” said The Hollywood Reporter.

Doors at 6 pm, Show at 7:30 pm Tickets: inforumtix.com FARGODOME 1800 North University Drive, Fargo 701.241.9100 // fargodome.com AreAWOmAN.COm 19

Community fundraisers September 6

Wine anD WisHes “an encHanteD eVeninG” Make-A-Wish® ND invites you to join us in a night of wine tasting, hors d’oeuvres, silent and live auctions, entertainment and a special wish presentation.

6:00 pm Holiday Inn of Fargo 3803 13th Avenue South, Fargo 701.280.9474 // northdakota.wish.org

September 7

riDe tHe reD Registration is open for the 13th annual Ride the Red™ bike ride and walk for charity. All proceeds will benefit the Hospice of the Red River Valley. The event will start and end at Trefoil Park in North Fargo.

9:30 am Registration: $25 Trefoil Park 1321 Elm Street North, Fargo facebook.com/ridethered

September 8

13tH annual WalK of HoPe for suiciDe rememBrance anD aWareness The walk helps bring awareness to the issue of suicide and is a place for suicide loss survivors to meet other survivors face to face.

1:30 pm Downtown Fargo Public Library 102 3rd Street North, Fargo 701.293.6462 // myfirstlink.org

September 14

2013 farGo air museum raffle The Fargo Air Museum is raffling a 2013 Ford Mustang Boss 302 as well as other prizes. Only 3,500 tickets are being sold.

Proceeds will finance the Air Museum’s new aircraft hangar addition. Tickets can be purchased at the museum. Drawing is September 14.

Tickets: $50 Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Avenue North, Fargo fargoairmuseum.org

September 21

WalK to enD alZHeimer’s The Alzheimer’s Association’s Walk to End Alzheimer’s® is the nation’s largest event to raise awareness and funds for the disease.

It is the sixth leading cause of death in the United States.

Registration: 8:00 am, Walk: 9:00 am Scheels Arena 5225 31st Avenue South, Fargo 701.277.9757 // traie.dockter@alz.org

September 22

out of tHe DarKness With close to one million people attempting suicide annually, it is among the leading causes of death.

Registration at 1pm, Walk 2 - 4 pm Lindenwood Park - Rotary Shelter 1905 Roger Maris Drive, Fargo outofthedarkness.org

September 28

color me raD 5K If you’re allergic to the metric system, corn starch, or unbridled joy, you’d probably be more comfortable watching Matlock than at the starting blocks of this color-filled 5k. Proceeds go to MSUM. 9:00 am, 9:20 am, 9:40 am Registration: $30-50 MSUM Nemzek Hall 1711 South 6th Avenue, Moorhead colormerad.com/racemap.i

September 29

steP uP for DoWn synDrome WalK Come and celebrate the amazing accomplishments of our friends and family members with Down Syndrome and help raise awareness.

Proceeds benefit individuals with Down Syndrome, their families and healthcare professionals.

Check in: 12:30 pm, Event: 1:00 pm Duluth Entertainment Conv. Center 350 Harbor Drive, Duluth 218.722.5573 // decc.org

September 29

reD riVer Valley Breast cancer WalK The Fargo-Moorhead Breast Cancer walk is teaming up with Making Strides to bring you an even more powerful event to raise funds and awareness for those affected by breast cancer.

11:00 am Scheels Arena 5225 31st Avenue South, Fargo fmbreastcancerwalk.org AreAWOmAN.COm 21

ClAsses & WorKshoPs August 3

interior DesiGn Basics Where to begin your interior design project? Work with Cyndee Engberg to learn the steps and key considerations so that you achieve the most satisfying and individualized results for your home.

1 pm Gabberts 4601 23rd Avenue Southwest, Fargo 701.433.3899 // gabberts.com

August 12 - 15

meet tHe artist, Be tHe artist Be inspired by the artwork of George Morrison and artist/ educator Laura Youngbird, who was a student of Morrison! During this camp, you will view and talk about Morrison’s artwork and create landscapes and other artworks using many different media.

9 am - 12 pm Members $90, Regular $105 Plains Art Museum 704 First Avenue North, Fargo 701.232.3821 // plainsart.org

August 24

color tHinKinG The relationship between color and behavior is fascinating. How people are affected by different color varies from person to person but there are some guidelines that hold true. Learn more about how you can use color to advantage in your home with Jillayne Olson.

1 pm Gabberts 4601 23rd Avenue Southwest, Fargo 701.433.3899 // gabberts.com

September (Multiple Dates)

Culinary Classes

Learn how to become a master in the kitchen with culinary and baking classes at Square One Kitchens. A variety of classes are offered, including Cake Pop Class and Culinary Boot Camp. Learn useful tips and tricks and recipes from the instructors while enjoying great food! Check their website for specific dates, times and prices. Limited space.

Reservations taken online.

Square One Kitchens 1407 1st Avenue North, Fargo squareonekitchens.com

September 12

Precious metal clay Learn the basics of working with precious metal clay. It is formable, sculptable, and takes textures just like regular clay. However, it is made with 90% metal, so when fired, it comes out as a pure fine-silver object. You will be able to make an original design pendant or charm.

6 pm Plains Art Museum 704 First Avenue North, Fargo 701.232.3821 // plainsart.org

September 24

Clay for couples A unique and relaxed evening with a friend or partner! You will learn introductory clay techniques in hand building and have a chance to try out the potter’s wheel. Clay and tools provided.

6:30 pm $50 per couple, Ages 16+ Plains Art Museum 704 First Avenue North, Fargo 701.232.3821 // plainsart.org

Quotable "For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harmyou, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and find me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord. " — JEREMIAH 29: 11-14 AREAWOMAN.COM 23

THE KITCHEN MAGICIAN The Fall Home Show welcomes a home improvement expert by the hoMe buiLDer’s association

Featured speaker is Paul F. Ryan, a nationally recognized home improvement expert. Known as the “kitchen magician,” his seminars feature cost-effective kitchen improvements that will bring years of enjoyment and a nice payday when it comes time to sell. Ryan has remodeled hundreds of kitchens through his work as television show host on both the DIY and TLC cable networks, and off-camera as a licensed building contractor in the Twin Cities.

Ryan says, “People often ask how I got the ‘magician’ tag. What happened is the DIY crew coined the term after seeing so many of my clients literally spellbound at the transformation of their remodeled kitchens!”

The Home Builders Association of Fargo-Moorhead organizes the show. HBA Executive Vice President Bryce Johnson says, “We are excited to unveil the event in this new, refreshing venue. Scheels Arena is inside the hub of activity and offers consumers a convenient location to take in some wonderful seminars, and meet our building industry exhibitors.

It’s a great opportunity have experts come together in one place with easy access.”

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n this age of webinars, social media and YouTube, the Fall Home Show gives F-M area residents a chance to connect personally with home improvement experts. Now in its 24th year, the event displays a wide array of exhibits under one roof, varying from general contractors to interior designers to basement specialists. It will be Sept. 27-28 at Scheels Arena.

Lake Agassiz Habitat for Humanity will offer kids projects throughout show hours allowing children to construct projects provided by Lowe’s Home Improvement. The event’s sponsors include Budget Blinds of Fargo, Luxury Bath of Fargo and LP Building Products.

About the “kitchen magician” Ryan has been in the construction industry for over 25 years. He began at Valleyfair amusement park in Shakopee, Minn., and built everything from rides to structures. The TV gig

was happenstance: in the early 1990s, a company needed someone to host a video project who could talk about tools while using them.

Ryan was the perfect fit.

He became a household name through hosting the national cable broadcast “Kitchen Renovations” and on the popular DIY broadcast “Weekend Handyman.” In addition, he has hosted the DIY broadcast “Home Energy Savings” and TLC’s “How-2 Crew” and has appeared on HGTV and The Food Network.

Ryan’s two-second tip to those embarking on a DIY project of their own: “Have 15 percent extra in your budget for contingencies - you’ll probably need it!” he laughs. [AWM]

IF YOU GO ...

• September 27 and 28 • 12– 8 pm Friday, 9 am – 6 pm Saturday • The Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Avenue South, Fargo • See hbafm.com as the show nears for a seminar schedule, or pick up the show guide in The Forum on September 22 or at Hornbacher’s on September 23. .

• Admission is $3. Kids under 14 are free with paying adult. $1-off coupon available in show guide.

Two-for-one admission hours run 2–5 pm Friday ($1-off admission coupon not valid).

• Free parking.

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heartland study Year End Celebration of Dental Professionals by aLicia unDerLee neLson >> 5Foot20 Design Lounge

“Peter C. Lemon’s presentation reflected the commitment to excellence and service to others that our members live out in their professional lives.” — Dr. Michael Noffze The Heartland Study Club – a professional dental organization – welcomed Medal of Honor recipient Sergeant Peter C. Lemon as keynote speaker at the organization’s annual Year End Celebration, a social and dinner event held May 23 at the Fargo Air Museum.

professional lives, “said Dr. Michael Noffze, the group’s director. “He’s obviously quite a hero and we couldn’t think of a better way to celebrate the end of the academic year and kick off the Memorial Day weekend for our members.”

“Peter C. Lemon’s presentation reflected the commitment to excellence and service to others that our members live out in their

The group meets throughout the academic year and participation offers dental professionals from North Dakota, Minnesota and South Dakota the opportunity to network with their colleagues and meet all of the Continuing Dental Education requirements as mandated by State Dental Boards.

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Members were honored at the event for their professional contributions. Carrie Orn was named Clinician of the Year, Dr. Darold Opp won Outstanding New Member and Dr. Robert Bond, Dr. Terry Moe, Dr. Daren Sullivan were recognized for Excellence in Comprehensive Dentistry.

Club Membership for the 2013-2014 academic year opened on May 24.

“We have 52 members and, as far as we’re aware, we’re the largest independent dental study club in the United States,” said Noffze. “And we’re always looking to grow.”

Dentists interested in joining The Heartland Study Club can contact Dr. Noffze at 701.232.9565 or go to www.heartlandstudyclub.org for more information.

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Success and Passion at the

Fargo Theatre

emily beck grabs opportunity at Fargo’s beloved cinema by ashLey thornberg

You wouldn’t know it by her confident smile, or the sheer amount of caffeinefueled words that tumble out, seemingly all at once, but Emily Beck is a little gun shy when it comes to talking about her achievements. Achievements that are many, considering she’s barely 30 years old. But, after just four years at the Fargo Theatre, she is the new face of the iconic theatre. Beck took over as executive director in June 2011 for a number of good reasons, not the least of which is passion.

When she talks about movies and the Fargo Theatre, that initial shyness melts away. And then, it’s almost hard to get questions in—she’s just that excited by her work. “I just always wanted to work here … really passionate,” said Beck.

She knew early on that if she was going to work in Fargo Moorhead, that the Fargo Theatre would be “the one place that would be an option.”

Her passion began long before she started as the theatre’s film programmer four years ago. Spending her childhood between Valley City and Fargo, Beck was active in Trollwood Performing Arts School and holds a degree in Film History and Criticism from Minnesota State University Moorhead. In fact, she was working for another movie theatre when she wrote to the Fargo Theatre’s longtime executive director Margie Bailly expressing her love for the Fargo Theatre, and asking Bailly to “just keep [her] in mind.”

The company wasn’t hiring at that time, but Bailly kept that letter at her desk for months, and when there was an opening, Beck fit right in. “It must’ve made an impression.” Since then, she’s had plenty of opportunities to prove herself. Like many small non-profits, employees “wear a lot of hats.” As executive director, Beck’s duties range from selling popcorn to writing grants, which she does with the same fevered enthusiasm. “I love the theatre,” she said.

That’s a theme echoed by fans of the historic building. “It means a lot of different things to different people.” Beck said some come for a sense of history or to relive childhood memories. Some come get their film fix and still more come to see live music in an intimate setting. The recent addition of a second screen now allows a movie to play uninterrupted, even if there’s a live concert. This allows the theatre to book even more events. The expansion happened when Bailly was at the helm, but like her predecessor, Beck always has more plans in mind.

She is working to expand the Fargo Film Festival. In its current state, the festival is a five day celebration of all things film. It showcases local, national and international talent in seven film categories. It also digs deeper, offering presentations and panel discussions on the industry. Beck wants to take advantage of the area’s rich pool of eager enthusiasts and volunteers to expand the festival in both length and depth.

Never one to shy from multiple challenges—she reupholstered her own office

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chairs to save money—she’s also headed up a major fundraising effort.

Beck worked closely with the board of directors to successfully transition to digital projection, which is now required in order to play new movies.

Cineplexes received financial help from studios, but that wasn’t the case for smaller theatres, especially ones known for their arthouse dedication to playing foreign and independent films.

Enter Beck’s “you make it work” attitude and her ability to recognize opportunity. It was the Fargo Theatre that played the monstrously successful Iron Man movie in Fargo, which helped twofold. It introduced the theatre to a number of movie fans who tend to stick to mainstream theatres. “[Iron Man] would never be the core programming,” she said, quickly adding however, that she thinks of the theatre as a “place offering something for everyone.” And secondly, the increased revenue helped further their mission, Beck explained.

“That’s the thing about opportunity.”

Taking advantage of that opportunity presented its own challenges. They had to do some quick hiring to meet demand.

She can meet challenges like that she said, only because of some “wonderful” help. She’s quick to commend the board, staff and volunteers for whom she’s “thankful everyday.”

That doesn’t mean she never gets stressed. “There are moments where you feel overwhelmed.” When that happens though, it is the building, the industry, that bring her right back. It’s then that you find her, tucked in her favorite corner of the theatre, breathing in a favorite film. [AWM] View or share this story online at issuu.com/areawoman/docs/as13/28 AreAWOmAN.COm 29

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Color-blocked patterns and texture-rich fabrics take us into early fall displaying an artful design aesthetic. Fabrics bulk up with a have-to-touch-you interest as cooler evenings arrive.

Earthy green hues the likes of deep lichen and Linden capture our subtle side, while shades of blue cascading down the runway create a sense of vivacity and vitality. Layer in bits of dark reds and purples for added dimension.

Peplums continue to be strong in the fall. Like magic, the ladylike style makes your waist look tiny while complementing your curves. Appearing in fabrics from silks to light wools it’s all about the drape.

Drop the shoulder—the top-handled bag is back as the “I-haveto-have-one” accessory this fall. Look for it in sleek leather to lambs wool. Pair it with a mid-weight statement scarf for a finished look. [AWM]

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Where to shop:

Area Woman’s summer’s end finds Trollbeads Artisian Event! Be sure to save the date of October 18th. Come and watch as trollbeads are made in the store!

Ghosts of North Dakota chronicles abandoned places.

It’s the perfect gift for housewarming or friends and family who have re-located.

stabo scandinavian imports

three chicks boutique

West Acres Mall, Fargo stabo-imports.com 701.282.0421

Inside Baker Garden & Gift 2733 South University Drive, Fargo bakernursery.com 701.237.6255

Xperio UV polarized sun lenses eliminate blinding reflective glare, provide scratch resistance and offer UV protection. These prescription lenses will give you the best vision under the sun!

hillmer eye clinic 101 10th Street North Suite 120, Fargo hillmereyeclinic.com 701.239.9771

Stephanie Dawn is fun, functional, fresh! In a variety of colors and patterns, these bags are made for all ages.

Only at FUSION BOUTIQUE.

scheel’s home & hardware 3202 13th Avenue South, Fargo scheelshomeandhardware.com 701.232.8903

LOCAL | FRESH | NATURAL Handcrafted garden sculptures made of recycled metal & beautiful native plants! So Prairie Chic!

holland’s 1201 Center Ave, Moorhead hollandslandscapingandgarden.com facebook.com/hollandsgarden.mn 218.233.6131

In these powerful pages are the words and scriptures from Jesus Himself. Loving words of reassurance, comfort and hope.

Be aware of His presence and peace. Jesus Calling - $15.95

CenTre for hAIr & Wellness Downtown Moorhead centreforhairandwellness.com 218.236.6000

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shopping is a contact sport like football. Women enjoy the scrimmage, the noisy crowds, the danger of being trampled ... and the ecstacy of the purchase.

Whoever receives this stunning bouquet is sure to be bowled over by its bold beauty! It’s big on fun and big on flowers for only $34.99

DAlbol floWers 1450 25th Street South, Fargo dalbolflowersfargo.com 701.235.5864

Combining classic frame design with bold colors, PRODESIGN DENMARK has the perfect frame for back to school. Styles for Kids, Teens, Men and Women!

mcculley optix gallery 2553 Kirsten Lane, Fargo (Corner of 25th St & 32nd Ave) 701.373.2020

Cheryl Lee Creations® "Outrageously Unique Jewelry!"

VAVA boutique Cormorant Village, Minnesota Open Saturdays, 10-5 pm shopvava.com facebook.com/vavaboutique 218.532.2828

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The Humane Society of FargoMoorhead is primarily a pound rescue organization dedicated to rescuing dogs and cats at risk of being euthanized at local impounds.

Each year, we adopt out hundreds of wonderful pets that just need a second chance at finding a “forever” home. We have a variety of pets available for adoption, from puppies and kittens to senior pets and everything in between, and almost any breed, including purebreds. Next time you’re considering adopting a pet, please check out our shelter and consider giving a pet in need a home.

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In addition to several new income tax laws recently passed in Minnesota, a new gift tax and changes to the estate tax rules were also added, much to the surprise of most attorneys and tax advisors. Effective June 30, 2013, Minnesota becomes only the second state in the country (Connecticut being the first) to impose a state gift tax. Minnesota is now also trying to make sure that non-residents who own property in Minnesota pay state estate tax on that property.

Whether you are a resident or not, any gift of Minnesota property to any person worth more than $14,000 (the annual exclusion under federal law) is subject to Minnesota gift tax.

Minnesota does give a $1,000,000 lifetime exemption, but any gifts over that amount will be taxed at a flat rate

New Gift and Estate Tax Laws Take Effect in 2013

of 10%. This now potentially prevents people from gifting away assets prior to death to avoid paying Minnesota estate tax, which had been a common planning technique in light of the $5.25 million ($10.5 million for a married couple) federal estate and gift tax exemption that was generally sufficient to exempt the vast majority of people from federal taxes.

In addition to the new gift tax, Minnesota also made a significant change to its state estate tax rules to try capture more nonresidents. For North Dakota residents who owned Minnesota farmland or lake property, a common planning technique was to put that property into a partnership or LLC. This changed the ownership of the property from Minnesota real estate, which would be subject to Minnesota estate tax, to a North Dakota intangible personal property interest, which would

be considered North Dakota property not subject to Minnesota estate tax. Under the new law, Minnesota will disregard such entities and consider the owner of the entity to have a direct ownership interest in the Minnesota real estate that will again be subject to Minnesota estate tax. Thus, this perceived “loophole” previously available to non-residents has now been closed.

However, North Dakota residents still have a way to avoid Minnesota estate tax through gifting. Under Minnesota’s new gift tax, the gift of a nontangible personal property interest, e.g., a partnership or LLC interest, by a non-resident is not considered a gift of Minnesota property.

So, a North Dakota resident may still be able to create a partnership or LLC to hold Minnesota property, gift away the ownership interest in that entity, and not

be subject to either the Minnesota gift or estate tax.

Before making gifts, however, people need to carefully consider the capital gain issues involved.

Because any property that is gifted will not get a “stepped up” basis like inherited property does, one needs to consider the net tax effect of paying federal and state capital gain tax versus the Minnesota estate tax, which is often less. Always consult your attorney, accountant or other financial advisor before rushing into any gifting or estate planning decisions.

Tim Richard is a shareholder of the Serkland Law Firm in Fargo and has over 13 years of experience in estate planning, probate, real estate and business planning. Tim can be contacted at 701.232.8957, email at trichard@serklandlaw.com, or by visiting www.serklandlaw.com.

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“When do I need my next mammogram?”

“What are the instructions for my new medication?” “What was my blood pressure a year ago?”

For Sanford Health patients with online access, these answers and more are as close as their fingertips. Thousands across the region are now enrolled in “My Sanford Chart.”

“Patients love it.” said Dr. Heidi Twedt, internal medicine physician and Vice President - Chief Applications Officer at Sanford in Fargo.

“They’re realizing this technology offers some huge benefits.”

At any time, “My Sanford Chart” lets you: * Access your health information * Request appointments * Access test results * Request prescription renewals * Message your care team The new Sanford Health App brings these

capabilities even closer. Just add it to your smartphone for instant access wherever you go.

sent directly to her when results are available, which means no waiting for a phone call.

“These tools empower patients and bring convenience to busy lives,” said Dr. Twedt.

“Patients are also pleased to know we’ve taken great care to make these tools user-friendly, secure and available at no cost.”

“It’s great because I don’t have to wonder,” she said. “I also use the Sanford Health app, which makes all of this even more convenient.”

Cecille Hospidales has experienced the difference. Cecille and her family relocated from the East Coast to Fargo a year ago. She first heard about the online tools when she took her 8-year-old son to Sanford Children’s.

“We’d never been offered anything like this.

‘My Sanford Chart’ was a breath of fresh air,” said the 33-year-old. “It streamlines the whole process, especially the communication between patients and medical staff. To me it’s completely wonderful.”

For Cecille, a key use of “My Sanford Chart” has been accessing lab results. An email is

Whether for herself or her son, Cecille also utilizes the “My Sanford Chart” messaging capabilities. When she has questions about lab results or other parts of her care, Cecille can send a message to her care team.

“I know someone will get back to me with an answer, usually within 24 hours,” she said. “It’s also very convenient to schedule or change appointments online.”

At times, the biggest benefit of “My Sanford Chart” is the simplest: ease in accessing information.

“Sometimes I just need a memory jogger.

I can get into my chart at any time and

see the medication list, the doctor’s instructions and notes, the medical history -- it’s all there,” said Cecille.

“Ultimately ‘My Sanford Chart’ has increased my engagement and empowered me in my care.”

A healthy difference Dr. Twedt has seen the impact of “My Sanford Chart” in her own life as well as the lives of her patients. The mother of two recently completed a camp form for her daughter, including the vaccination section.

“In past years, it would’ve meant a phone call or digging through file folders,” she said. “Instead I just went to the Sanford Health app on my smartphone and all the vaccination records were right there. Convenient access to information is one of the biggest wins.”

In caring for patients, Dr. Twedt has noticed health improvements when people with chronic conditions are better able to track their lab results, take medications as directed and review care instructions. “My Sanford Chart” makes this easier.

“Tracking is important in so many aspects of health, even if you don’t have a chronic condition. Preventivecare screenings are a good example,” she said. “It’s easy to think you just had a colonoscopy a year ago when in fact it’s been five. ‘My Sanford Chart’ keeps you up-to-date and accurate.”

“My Sanford Chart” and the Sanford Health app make navigating daily life easier. Easy-to-use features help you find a doctor, locate the nearest Sanford Clinic and monitor wait times at Sanford Walk-In Clinics.

Get connected Sign up for My Sanford Chart by: * Visiting mysanfordchart.org * Talking to your nurse at your next Sanford Clinic appointment The Sanford Health app is offered free of charge by visiting sanfordhealth. org and downloading thru the App Store or Google Play.

Better health is at your fingertips. [AWM]

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a second chance aubree WiLson shares her poWerFuL eXperience What is Sister’s Path?

Aubree: Sister’s Path is a program for single mothers who have struggled with addiction and need help to get back on the right track. It is a long-term treatment where single mothers are provided with one of 12 full furnished apartments in a secured building, instructive classes, and anything else to get their families back on their feet. Sister’s Path is a program that I know personally. It helped me and my son so that we now live a productive lifestyle.

I became addicted to meth by the age of sixteen. I always thought I had control over my addiction. When I was twenty-two I gave birth to my son, and kept using drugs.

I then realized I had no control over my addiction, and if I didn’t change, I could lose my son or even my life. Sister’s Path gave me an opportunity to grow and become the beautiful woman that I knew I could be! This program gave me a second chance at living.

What makes Sister’s Path different?

Aubree: Sister’s Path is one of the treatments in the area that is a long term treatment. I feel that long term treatments are better and more effective. My personal experience on thirty day treatments is that you get the advice and programs of what you need to do to change your life, but I believe that the long term treatments give you that chance to grow and time to get started on accomplishing your goals. It’s also a longer place to stay sober, to detach from old using friends and to gain a better and strong support system of sober healthy people. I participated in this program for 19 months and learned things I needed to know in order to feel ready and graduate successfully.

What is life like while in Sister’s Path?

Aubree: This program provides the families with curfews that are suitable for the children and mothers, which helps establish a daily routine with structure. The weekday curfew during the school year is 8 pm and the weekend during the school year is 9 pm. During the summer the curfew changes to 9 pm on weekdays and 10pm on weekends. Mothers are responsible for scheduling appointments, classes and other priorities around these times. This helps the families to become more organized.

Sister’s Path provides classes that the mothers can go to, such as parenting classes. Parenting classes were held twice a week for an hour. When I attended, I learned what to feed my son and what not to feed him, ways to discipline, and how to make a structured routine that would be best for my son and me. An example that I learned was to give my child choices: when it’s time for bed, I let my son know it’s time to get ready for bed and ask him, “Do you want to go to bed right now or in five minutes?” That gives him the choice, but I control what I want to happen.

Sister’s path also offered programs that normally single

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parents couldn’t afford or didn’t even know existed. Some of the programs were swimming lessons, afterschool activities, church, drop off daycare and much more. An organization called Rape and Abuse Crisis Center had counselors that spoke to us about verbal and nonverbal abuse. There was a high percent of mothers or even the children that were abused before they came into the program. Sister’s Path had the Center offer personal counseling for those that needed or wanted it.

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someone in Their Corner LinDa Jaeger Was naMeD the angeLs in aDoption aWarD Winner FroM north Dakota She’s a woman who loves caring for others, is passionate about helping kids find loving homes, and has learned that the doors God opens are the right doors to walk through. Meet Linda Jaeger, the 2012 Angels in Adoption award winner from North Dakota.

Jaeger has spent most of her three-plus decades in social work in the arena of adoption, working with birth parents, adoptive parents, foster parents and many, many babies and children.

“After I got my social work degree from Concordia College,” she said, “I started working at Catholic Charities. Initially

I spent a few years working with family life programs and refugee resettlement and then moved into counseling with birth and adoptive parents. I spent about 20 years as an adoption worker, with 10 of those years as the adoption director after getting my master’s degree at the University of Minnesota.”

“When someone has an unplanned pregnancy and they’re struggling, they sometimes can’t see the good,” she said.

“They need someone in their corner to let them know they can do it. It’s particularly

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hard when they don’t have support. I try to help them recognize their strengths and to empower them; give them options, but never push. They know in their heart what the right decision is.”

“Parenting is the most important job you’ll ever do, and you do it without training,” Jaeger said. “When I work with clients, I try to affirm them, to let them know they can get through this difficult time. They are amazing!”

Parenting is the most important job you’ll ever do, and you do it without training.

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In 2008, Jaeger said “God opened the door” to Southeast Human Services, to work as regional supervisor for child protection, foster and adoption services. “At Southeast I provide administrative and technical support to County Social Services and other private agencies in Region V to ensure safety, permanency and well-being for children. As a federal Trainer for the Infant Adoption Training Initiative I have the privilege of traveling throughout the state educating nurses, physicians, school counselors, social workers and other professionals about adoption,” Jaeger said.

Jaeger was nominated by former Senator Kent Conrad for the national award. He commended Jaeger for her outstanding advocacy of adoption and foster care, noting that her “many years of dedication and commitment to children serve as a shining example to both the community and the nation.”

Jaeger and husband, Kevin, went to Washington, DC to accept the award last fall.

Although Jaeger admitted that the Angels in Adoption award was a once-in-a-lifetime experience, she said, “when former clients have looked me up, to tell me that their child is now 18 and doing well, and they wanted me to know, that’s the best!”

Whether spending time with her husband, Kevin, or two sons, singing for church, having coffee with friends or spending time on the family farm in the summer, Jaeger brings life, joy and laughter to many. And for those clients and staff who daily struggle with difficult decisions, Jaeger promises to always be in their corner. [AWM]

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HERO?

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he shear numbers really grab your attention: More than 151,000-pounds of donations. 3,119 individuals and agencies served. More than 36 missions. 76 tons. What on earth can these numbers have to do with a HERO?

They are the numbers that are making the difference in so many lives, from the Fargo-Moorhead area all the way to Ecuador and Nigeria. The heroic numbers are possible because of Deanna Micheli’s dream.

The Start of Something Big

More than 16 years ago, when Micheli was a nurse in Fargo, she attended a lecture; there, the audience of which she was a part was challenged to find out what they could do about still-useable waste going in to landfills. Micheli immediately thought about the surgical packs that are prepared for every surgery in the Fargo-Moorhead area and brought it to the attention of the Association of Operating Room Nurses.

While surgeons use some items from each pack, often there were many things left unused and sterile but discarded.

With the hospital’s permission and knowledge, she started gathering up these unused but still useable items (bandages, gauze, etc.) and started storing them in a garage.

With seed money from Meritcare, HERO, Healthcare Equipment Recycling Organization was born. Its mission?

To collect and redistribute donated healthcare materials to benefit those in need. It focuses on reducing healthcare costs for individuals in need of medical equipment and supplies.

The Mission

HERO is eco-friendly, protecting the environment by keeping perfectly useable medical materials from reaching local landfills as waste, and recycles those materials through redistribution.

Margot Brenna, HERO’s Communications Director, said that today, one-third of all HERO’s funding comes from individual support; the rest comes from grants, fees collected from the retail store, and sponsorship events including fundraisers and the annual HERO Bash. “There are so many people in need of all these supplies,” she said, “which would just be thrown in landfills. We work with underinsured people, and people who have no insurance— and those who just don’t have the extra money these days for the medical supplies they need.” And there you have

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some very important numbers: the 3,119 individuals and agencies served, the 76 tons of items saved from landfills.

Wonderfully, getting needed supplies is pain free. “Since we moved into our current location on 53rd Street South,” Brenna noted, “we’ve been able to set up a nice, clean store with all the materials grouped and marked with reduced prices. But if someone is having financial hardship, their fees can be reduced or waived. The numbers work like this: 50 percent of HERO’s clients pay half of retail price for these recycled items and their payment allows HERO to waive any fees or costs for those who can’t pay.”

Brenna told of a recent client—a woman who’d been wheelchair bound much of her adult life. She was fortunate to have a motorized wheelchair, but when the woman began losing her eyesight, the motorized chair frightened her. She needed a manual wheelchair but was not able to afford one (new, they can cost upwards of $1,000). Through HERO’s help, she received a recycled chair and now moves around without being scared.

Helping to Change the World

Beyond impacting local medical supply needs, HERO reaches out globally. “HERO has been involved in medical missions since it started in 1996,” Brenna stated. “We started by partnering with the FM Haiti Medical Mission Team.” More recently, HERO sent a truckload

of supplies after the earthquake. “Georgia, our Operations Manager, has gone to Haiti for the past four years as part of the team so that someone from the organization has a firsthand look at how things are going there,” Brenna said. “They’re among the biggest group we work with but, of those many agencies and missions, there are the smaller groups who come and get a suitcase of supplies to bring home to such places as Nigeria.”

What’s Next?

One of the organization’s goals is to grow these numbers even more—imagine all the landfills all over the country that received useful medical materials that could have been provided to those in need. In response, HERO has put together affordable start-up packages for communities and groups to purchase to initiate their own HERO. HERO Fargo is also looking to start satellite locations in surrounding communities. Detroit Lakes, Minnesota is the first location being explored.

But it’s not all just about those numbers.

Your area HERO also knows how to play, and this past October celebrated 16 years of operation with an open house. “It was good to show so many folks around, and to see old board members resurface and share good memories,” Brenna said.

“I’m really excited about the growth we’ve seen over the past 16 years,” Micheli said. “It is amazing how lives can be changed by recycling and redistributing items that would otherwise be sent to a landfill!” [AWM] HERO Monday-Friday 9 am – 5pm 5012 53rd Street South, Suite C Fargo, North Dakota 58103 701.212.1921 // herofargo.org View or share this story online at issuu.com/areawoman/docs/as13/56

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spreading the word Larson becoMes aMbassaDor For the March oF DiMes

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We were told our babies were very sick but they were fighting hard ...

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nnie Larson’s job is helping mothers deliver healthy babies. This year, the labor and delivery nurse at Essentia Health-Fargo has taken on a new role as an ambassador for the March of Dimes.

Larson’s own experience with the premature birth of twins led her and her husband, Brett, to volunteer as North Dakota’s Ambassador Family. The Fargo couple is helping spread the word about how the March of Dimes improves the health of babies and supports families whose babies are born premature. They share their family’s story with groups and at events, including the upcoming Black Bib Affair slated for Sept. 26 in Fargo.

Born on July 5, 2011, the twin girls arrived 14 weeks early. Aubrey weighed only 2 pounds, 1 ounce and measured 13 ¾ inches long.

Madison weighed 2 pounds, 2.7 ounces and was 14 inches long.

Complications during the birth resulted in an emergency Caesarean section. Larson ended up in the intensive care unit and the babies in the Newborn Intensive Care Unit (NICU) at Essentia Health-Fargo.

“We were told our babies were very sick but they were fighting

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hard – it was a minute by minute fight for both of them,” Larson recalls.

As a labor and delivery nurse, Larson was familiar with the sights and sounds of the NICU but she admits it was a very different experience as a mother. “A NICU journey is so emotional and overwhelming,” she says. “Nobody is ever really prepared. I know we sure weren’t.”

No one is prepared for what the Larsons faced next. Aubrey, their firstborn, was dying on the day she was born. “They did everything they possibly could but her little body just couldn’t take it,” Larson explains.

While the couple was surrounded by their families, they also turned to Collette Christoffers, who was working as the NICU family support specialist. The position, the only one in the state, is a joint effort by Essentia Health and the March of Dimes’ North Dakota Chapter.

“As we said good-bye to Aubrey, so many emotions came over us,” Larson shares. “We were sad, angry, scared and confused. I’m not sure how we could have coped with the

loss of Aubrey as well as dealing with a very sick Madison had we not experienced the March of Dimes’ NICU support program and Collette. She stood by our side from the moment that we found out that Aubrey wasn’t going to make it and through Madison’s one-stepforward, two-steps-back journey in the NICU.” During Madison’s 101-day stay, Christoffers’ support included providing a simple but encouraging calendar that marked the newborn’s milestones – many of which are unique to NICU babies -- such as the first time her parents got to hold her and when her ventilator was removed. Madison went home on Oct. 14, 2011, eight days after her original due date.

Volunteering for the March of Dimes has made Larson a strong advocate for the 1 in 8 babies who are born premature.

“I want people to know that every pregnancy is not perfect and what prematurity means – how there are constantly milestones that you have to achieve,” she says. “And I want moms to be proud to carry their babies to term. Forty weeks is a reward.”

While Larson has always felt called to be a labor and delivery nurse, her belief has only grown stronger.

“This is where I am supposed to be,” she says. “God is telling me this is who you are.”

Larson says her Birthplace coworkers know they can call her if another family finds themselves heading to the NICU or facing the loss of a baby. “I can sit on the bed, cry with them and say ‘I know what you’re feeling,’” she says. [AWM] View or share this story online at issuu.com/areawoman/docs/as13/58

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In memory of their

mothers, two area women will Walk to End Alzheimer’s

Delene

Gunders

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mother,

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Stacy Heidenreich, her parents David and GayLynn and her two children, Tyler & Hannah

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tacy Heidenreich and Delene Gunderson are coworkers at Gate City Bank, but that’s not all they have in common. Both women have lost their mothers to Alzheimer’s disease and continue to support the cause.

Heidenreich’s mother developed symptoms at only 58 years old, before her first grandchild was even born. “As her dementia started to progress, she became less and less articulate. When I showed her an ultrasound picture of her grandbaby, she simply repeated ‘Thank you’ over and over again,” Heidenreich said.

“Mom was originally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, but was later reassessed as having Pick’s disease, another type of dementia.

Pick’s disease, over time, robbed my mom of her ability to remember her family, to read, to participate in conversations or remember the plot of a movie she was watching,” Heidenreich said. “During the last years of the disease, she lost her ability to speak, walk -- and ultimately -- to swallow, which then caused her to lose her battle against dementia.”

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“Mom passed away three years ago, when she was 64 years old. Although a cure or treatment didn’t come in time for my mom, I continue to help in the fight against Alzheimer’s and dementia. I hope there comes a day where I won’t have to worry about being diagnosed – or watch one of my children battle the disease,” Heidenreich said.

Gunderson’s mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2004 at the age of 76 and passed away in January of this year. “In hindsight, of course, signs of Alzheimer’s were apparent earlier, but we attributed them to aging, and we were in

denial that Mom would ever get anything like Alzheimer’s,” Gunderson said. “Little did we know, we were embarking on a journey that would devastate my mom and our family … our lives would never be the same.”

“It’s so difficult to watch someone you love fade away right before your eyes … from merely forgetting things, to constantly repeating herself and not knowing what day it is or where she is, to losing the ability to take care of herself or recognize family members,” Gunderson said. Mom loved kids, especially babies … and in the nursing home, she had a doll she loved

to hold and sing to and she treated it just like it was a real baby. She couldn’t tell the difference.”

“If I might offer two pieces of advice,” Gunderson said, “Be educated about this disease; it will help you know what to expect. It’s still not easy, but knowing is better, I believe. And don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. There are people and organizations that are willing to help patients and their families.”

The mission of the Alzheimer’s Association is to do just that: To eliminate Alzheimer’s disease through the advancement of

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research; to provide support for all affected; and to reduce the risk of dementia through the promotion of brain health. [AWM] The Fargo-Moorhead community can contribute to this mission by getting involved in the 2013 Walk to End Alzheimer’s to be held September 21 at the Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Avenue South, Fargo. For more information, contact Traie Dockter, 701-277-9757, traie.dockter@alz.org.

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Krueger Construction on South Pond

ush, earthy colors reminiscent of a Tuscan villa combine with an open, family-friendly floor plan to create a beautiful and functional environment. Krueger Construction’s model home on the South Pond at the Preserve in West Fargo showcases the design features and great quality used by this building family in all their custom homes.

A front covered porch with square pillars holds wrought iron chairs, overlooking a poured patio area beside the garage. Stepping into the foyer, the open floor plan reveals the great room, kitchen and dining spaces in one quick glance. Natural-look wood laminate flooring is used throughout the common areas, tying the rustic theme to easy-care practicality. Cream walls finished with bull-

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nose corners create a neutral backdrop for the rich espresso finish on knotty alder cabinets and six-panel doors. Architectural arches are used to accentuate entrances to different areas of the home.

table lamps, with round linen shades with a whimsical imprint of 1908 Bois de Boulogne, add to the international flair. To the side of the fireplace, a faux suede chair offers a cozy place to relax and read.

The great room overlooks the private back yard. A large brown leather sectional sofa has throw pillows in cream and tan geometrics, complementing a tan sisal area rug. In keeping with the rustic look, the gas fireplace has a layered stone surround, but comes with an energy efficient heat pump and remote control. Above the espresso-finished mantle, an abstract in tan and greens ties in with the terracotta candleholders. Windows on either side of the fireplace add natural light through cream and tan linen window coverings. Two

To create a delightful dining area, surrounded by the back yard, green spaces and nearby playground, Krueger bumped out the exterior wall. Patio doors and windows on the sides provide a great view as well as easy access to the back yard. A bronze wrought iron chandelier with linen shades over the lights is suspended over the glass-topped bistro table. Taupe pottery dishes, fleur-de-lis metalwork accents on the wall, and a scenic view of an Italian countryside in an antiqued frame continue the country Italian theme.

The ancient stone artisans of the Tuscan region would have approved of the granite countertops in black and tan with flecks of gray and brown. Two pendants in smoked glass and bronze metals provide light to the center island, which offers seating on one side and great storage on the other. Above the sink and stovetop areas, the backsplash is a combination of ivory, brown and gray stone interspersed with ribbons of smoked glass.

Antique-finish hardware complements the naturally distressed cabinets. A built-in wine rack is tucked above the sink, and a corner step-in pantry offers four wire shelves of added storage. Indirect lighting is available both above and below the cabinets, which not only highlights the vaulted ceiling, but also the collection of pottery jars and baskets

and the architectural and decorative ironwork displayed above the cabinets.

From the kitchen, there’s quick access to the entrance of the three-stall insulated garage, which also has a floor drain for easy disposal of winter slush and summer car washes. The mud room area has a built-in bench with storage below and hooks above for seasonal gear, just across from the coat closet. Down the hall is the laundry area with a laundry sink and added storage as well as hanging racks for clothes.

Relaxation Retreat At the end of the hall, the master bedroom is created to be a secluded retreat, with a private view to the side yard. Antique quilted

ivory and tan bed linens create a serene environment, and harmonize with the taupe frieze carpet. Rustic bedside tables hold tan pottery lamps, which get a perky accent from linen bows on the round cream shades.

Above the bed, three wreaths of grapevine twigs are tied with linen pendants. A threelevel trayed ceiling adds architectural interest, while the wooden paddle fan with alabaster lights ensures a comfortable environment.

In the master bath, his and hers sinks line the one wall. A full linen closet is included on the other side of the bath. Ceramic-look vinyl on the floor and laminate countertops on the espresso-finish cabinets add to the earthy appeal. The walk-in shower has an arched entry and a built-in seat. Next door, the large

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walk-in closet is finished with two full tiers, ready for hanging clothes.

Flexible Space On the other side of the great room is a hall to two other bedrooms and bath. Perfect for guests, for children or to convert to an office or den, these flexible rooms are designed to suit the needs of the homeowner. The first bedroom on the right overlooks the front yard.

The window bumpout creates a fun window seat, tucked behind the cream sheer and linen-stripe window treatments. Here, the bed is decorated with a quilted white and taupe spread, accented with taupe and white lace pillows. A casual side table holds a little lamp, while a taupe ironwork art piece hangs above the bed. In the corner a taupe microfiber occasional chair invites an opportunity to chat.

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by the deep espresso-finish cabinets. Above the framed mirror, three frosted white glass lights are suspended on a chrome bar.

The second bedroom on this side overlooks the back yard. Again, the taupe frieze carpet creates a neutral palette for the room. White and tan geometrics are used in the bed linens, corresponding to the sheer window treatments.

Both bedrooms have two-door closets and alabaster ceiling lights.

Lots of Potential Just off the great room, are the carpeted horseshoe stairs to the lower level. Black wrought iron spindles are topped by espresso-finished banisters. The lower level has framed and insulated exterior walls, but is otherwise unfinished. Three egress windows provide lots of room to grow, with potential for two added bedrooms, a theater or media room, family room with wet bar

area, another bath and lots of additional storage space.

A quick peek in the mechanical room confirms the high quality, energy efficiency of this home. From the energy-efficient trusses that allow better insulation to the energy-efficient construction and appliances used throughout the home, this model will handily keep the winter chills and summer swelter outside.

Designed For You With over 1600 square feet of well-designed space on each floor, Krueger Construction has carefully crafted an efficient and modern home with the earthy flair of a Tuscan villa. From empty nesters to young families, this new design by Krueger Construction offers a justright answer. [AWM] View or share this story online at issuu.com/areawoman/docs/as13/66

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THE Magic IS IN THE MIXTURE and I was not interested in starting TNT unless all children would be included. So I took a leap of faith to include all children of all abilities in our programs.”

S.O.A.R. (Students of All Abilities Respected) is TNT’s afterschool program. It promotes healthy eating and includes a minimum of 60 minutes of physical activity a day. The nutrition program is aligned with the Fargo Public Schools wellness guidelines. Students are taught about healthy eating and given hands-on experience with fresh produce working in TNT’s garden. S.O.A.R. is a part of the overall fitness programs at TNT. The No Bummer Summer is an 11-week fitness camp for ages five and up that includes three hours of fitness/activity each day. The same program is offered through School Days Out on weekdays when school is not in session. The academy recently received a Carol M. White PEP federal grant of $703,000 awarded over the next three years. The grant’s goals are to improve the participating children’s Body Mass Index by 10% in those three years.

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he magic is in the mixture,” said Kim Pladson, executive director of TNT Kid’s Fitness and Gymnastics Academy.

“We serve the special needs child to the elite athlete. All children want to play and be active, we provide a place for that to happen.” TNT opened its doors in July of 2006. Since then, over 4,000 children have come through those doors, including 450 with special needs.

Kim is very proud that her gym is a community where all are welcomed and accepted. TNT is one of only two gyms in the United States that serve special needs children in an inclusive setting. Kim used the other such gym, located in California, as a model when designing the programs at TNT. Some special needs children come to the gym with their therapists and caretakers. Not only are the children moving and keeping active, but the caretakers are also learning how to adapt activities for the children.

“This population needed a voice,” said Kim. “The parents wanted more

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TNT’s competitive gymnastics teams compete at the highest levels. These athletes are in the gym practicing between four and twenty hours a week, year round. They have earned team, individual, and all-around titles. TNT is the only area gym that has a competitive boys’ program with 14 boys (ages 5-16) on that team.

“Inspiration works both ways,” explained Kim. “When a child in a wheelchair struggling to bounce on the tramp sees an athlete struggling to stay on the balance beam, that child is inspired to work harder when he realizes everyone, at every level, struggles.

The gymnast is also inspired and realizes if the special needs child can work that hard, she, too, can overcome her struggles.”

Kim, a former gymnast from Portland, N.D., was member of two May-Port High School teams that won state championships. She was working for the Moorhead Public Schools when she first became aware of the underserved special needs population. As a coach of three sports, she began to ask herself, “Why don’t all students have the opportunity to be in a gym?” From that question, the vision of TNT was born.

Kim’s vision and enthusiasm infuse every part of TNT’s space. She loves what she does and the people who work with her to bring that

vision to reality. TNT employs a staff of thirty-five, nine of whom are fulltime.

“We create a wonderful dynamic here,” stated Kim. “All staff members are also mentors. They take the time to teach and inspire. We know everything we do is for the kids. When I ask my employees who signs their checks, they better answer the children.” All staff members have extensive training.

Three of the supervisors have degrees in physical education and one has an adaptive education degree.

Kim’s husband, Mike, is her greatest supporter. Kim has also inspired her daughter, Leslie, who is finishing her degree in occupational therapy. “She is a former club gymnast who went to school in Texas but stayed connected to TNT and its mission and fell in love with the children TNT serves.

Combining her love of gymnastics with her desire to work with children of all abilities, felt exactly right to her,” explained Kim. TNT is a non-profit organization with a ten-member board of directors. All programs are fee-based. An annual fundraiser, “In Their Shoes,” is held each February.

As Kim said, “We can never fully understand what it’s like until we walk a mile in their shoes, but we can show compassion and help pave the way.”

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capturing childhood by aLicia unDerLee neLson riaLee photography

Rialee Photography specializes in images of newborns and children

Photographer Ria Czichotzki of Rialee Photography specializes in documenting the ever-changing moments of childhood, starting with newborn sessions and continuing as children and families grow.

The child-centric focus is a natural fit for Czichotzki, a wife and mother of four who also worked for seven years as a childcare provider.

“I love babies so much,” said Czichotzki. “And I feel like the newborn time is such a fleeting time. It doesn’t last for very long and there’s so much that’s special about when they’re so tiny that you kind of forget, because you’re so busy as a new parent. And I really love capturing that time for new parents.”

Czichotzki recommends that moms book a session while they’re still pregnant to ensure availability. The best time to capture the unique look of newborns is when a child is under two weeks old.

“They’re sleepy for those first couple weeks, their skin is wrinkled and their legs curl up by their tummy,” Czichotzki said. “As they get older, they get more awake and alert and they stretch out more.

Your two-month-old baby is not going to pose the same as your two-week-old baby.”

As children mature, the photo sessions get shorter to accommodate the child’s budding personality and shorter attention span.

“I can’t guarantee that they’ll stand still,” said Czichotzki, “but my camera is fast and I know what to anticipate, so that I can be ready to capture that look for parents that makes their child an individual.”

Czichotzki works with parents to create images that reflect their child’s personality and also look beautiful displayed in their home. While most parents opt for print packages and images to display as artwork in their homes, many also purchase the digital rights to their child’s images.

The rise of digital photography has brought changes to Czichotzki’s industry, but she doesn’t see it as competition, rather as a chance to share her skills with her clientele by teaching a digital photography class called PhotographerMAMA.

“I really love that people are interested in photography as an art and photography as a passion. Portraits are important, but I also like to teach moms to look for things in their daily lives that they want to remember and want to capture.”

The PhotographerMAMA class is offered several times a year – check Rialee Photography’s website – www.rialeephotography.com -- or follow Rialee Photography on Facebook for upcoming dates.

Digital photography will likely remain a parental passion, but Czichotzki stresses that, for documenting those milestone moments in a child’s life, there’s nothing quite like the peace of mind that comes from working with a professional.

“If you’re not experienced with your camera and you’re not experienced with posing or lighting you might be disappointed,” said Czichotzki. “You’re looking at your images and going ‘I sure wish I had someone who was an expert in all of those things do my photos and now I can’t go back and get that time back.’ People have commented on what a great experience it is to come in here and get those priceless images. I just think it’s a rewarding experience all around.” [AWM]

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A GIfT of musIC by caroLyn LiLLehaugen MiLestones photography

Bowman shares her gift of music with Sanford patients

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onnie Bowman is a firm believer in embracing the gifts God has given her and using them to make the world a better place. Her most recent venue for using her God-given talents is at the palliative care unit at Sanford Medical Center in Fargo where she can frequently be found playing the piano for patients and families as they move through the end stages of life.

Bowman became aware of her gift of music when she was very young. One Sunday during the worship service at the little Methodist church in Bowman, North Dakota, four-yearold Bowman listened to all of the hymns and liturgy the organist played. She turned to her Mom and said, “I would be able play all of that.” Later that same day without the aid of any written music or outside instruction, Bowman did just that. She played, by ear, the music from the whole morning’s service.

Fast forward to her college years. Bowman began her education at Jamestown College intending to major in elementary education.

After taking a break for marriage and parenthood, Bowman returned to finish her degree at Moorhead State University.

Unfortunately, she experienced a sense of confusion and ambivalence about her career choice. As Bowman describes it, she prayed for guidance and imagined an exasperated God finally getting through to her, “Honey, do what you are good at. Do what you were made to do.” That’s when she changed her major to music education, a perfect fit.

Since that time Bowman has flourished in her career as a music teacher at many area schools, most recently at Kindred Elementary where she and her students routinely “wow” packed auditoriums with incredible concerts.

Bowman loves encouraging her students to “find out what they’re good at and get out there and do it!”

In early 2012, Bowman found herself in what she describes as “a marvelously awful place.” She was in the palliative care unit at Sanford watching, waiting, and comforting her partner of 20 years, John Gassmann, as he went through the final stages of terminal cancer. One day, as Gassman’s death was clearly near, Bowman was singing for John,

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several nurses joined in. It was a beautiful experience and Bowman casually mentioned that she played piano and would be interested in helping other families in the future with her gift of music.

The staff had long had a vision of integrating more music into the care provided for patients. Martha Burns, clinical care supervisor on the unit said, “Bonnie’s offer was just the impetus we needed to move forward.” A portable piano was purchased, Bowman completed volunteer training, and the arrangement began, integrating a flexible schedule to provide music as a form of comfort for patients and families at this challenging stage.

During her times with the patients and families, Bowman asks for favorite songs. Because she plays by ear and has perfect pitch, she can play any song they request. What emerges during this time together is a unique and grace-filled experience. Once, a woman quite near death, somehow communicated to her sister that she would like Bowman to play “In the Garden.” Next, Bowman transitioned into the songs the woman had selected for her funeral and a peaceful feeling of joy seemed to envelope the woman who was just hours from death.

In another room, a man was celebrating both his 89th birthday and 69th wedding anniversary. His wife requested a favorite from their courting days, “Let Me Call You Sweetheart,” and a song from their wedding, “I Love You Truly.” In honor of his time in the armed service, Bowman also played many military and patriotic songs, and since he was a Minnesota Twins fan she played “Take Me Out to the Ballgame.” Throughout the visit, the couple held hands and the

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We all have gifts, it is up to us to find them and share them with others.

— Bonnie Bowman

family was able to take photos of this special time of respite.

Whether playing hymns for a former church musician, or waltzes and polkas for a couple who loved to dance, each experience seems to reflect the unique personality of the patient and family. The setting promotes a very spiritual situation where family members gain comfort in letting go of their loved one.

As Bowman described her role, “it is a privilege to be able to accompany someone through the dying process.” With her unique gift of music, Bowman will continue to do what she so frequently reminds her students, “We all have gifts; it is up to us to find them and share them with others.” {AWM}

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Achieving Their Dreams by susan a. stibbe >> skyLoFt photography

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ary Jean Dehne believes in young people. She believes enough that she quit her job as a Fargo teacher to help at-risk students stay in school and achieve their dreams. Dehne is the founder and executive director of the Legacy Children’s Foundation, a non-profit developed to assist diverse teens in their quest to achieve a high school diploma. She is quick to point out that the foundation began with students and continues to be student-led. It started (around her kitchen table) with three of her former students saying, “we need to do something new to motivate kids.”

According to Dehne, approximately 100 students in Fargo drop out of school every year. She and the kids of the Legacy Children’s Foundation want to do everything they can to bring that number down. They have set up an expectation/reward system that keeps students motivated. The expectations are: maintaining a 2.00 GPA, committing an hour a week to service projects, being involved in a positive after-school activity, having a clear attendance record, and remaining drug free. If these expectations are met, rewards follow.

Each student who fulfills the expectations receives a paycheck every two weeks (1/2 goes into a custodial savings account awarded with their diploma) and the opportunity to travel on summer reward trips and develop career and leadership skills. Students also have access to a mentor—an area college student who will meet with them and help with their studies.

Currently 33 students are enrolled in the program. Student eligibility is based on grade-point average, family income and personal difficulties that inhibit learning.

Regina Nyanfor, a Fargo North senior, first met Dehne as a sixth-grader at Ben Franklin Middle School. She now serves on the foundation’s board of directors. She was a project leader on the Madison School park improvement project that renovated the outdated and unsafe park in the neighborhood where many of the students live. This idea of giving back through community service is a vital component of the foundation’s mission. According to Nyanfor, each reward trip includes a service project. “We served dinner at the Southeast White House in Washington, D.C. to all the staff and interns,” said Nyanfor. Dehne added, “In the fifteen years they’ve been around, we are the first group that ever served them. The young people did everything from planning, shopping, cooking and hosting.”

These service projects are student-led with the young people setting up the meetings with community leaders and presenting the information. Nyanfor, a shy, soft-spoken young woman, has become a public speaker, something she never would have achieved without the opportunities the foundation has given her.

The Legacy Children’s Foundation board of directors consists of three high school students, one college student, one parent, and two community members. “The reason for the apostrophe in ‘children’s’ is because it is the kids’ foundation—they own it,” said Dehne. “We named it ‘Legacy’ in honor of my mother- and father-in-law, who were both educators, and my parents who cared deeply about educating young people. We want to imprint the values they taught us on to other children.”

The rewards trips always include a visit to a college or university. During Regina’s senior

year, they toured the University of Minnesota. “Really big,” said Nyanfor, a former North Dakota state track winner, whose nickname is “Jamaica.” After graduation, she decided to stay a little closer to home. She will attend NDSU, where she will run track for the Bison.

She is the embodiment of the three tenants of the foundation; honesty, perseverance and faith.

“When I say faith, I mean the first dictionary meaning,” explained Dehne. “A trust and confidence in yourself and others. That’s what we want to give to them—a strong sense of self-worth and confidence in their dreams. Every child needs to know that there is someone who cares about them, wants them to do well, believes in them and holds them responsible.”

Dehne, who receives no salary from the foundation, said, “I’ve been given abundant gifts; now it’s my turn to give back. We believe we pay our kindness forward.” Dehne and her husband, Jeff, have four children: Nathan, 26; Michelle, 23; Alyssa, 20; and Julia, 17.

The Legacy Children’s Foundation is hosting a progressive dinner and silent auction fundraiser on Monday, October 28 at First Lutheran Church in Fargo. The dinner includes ethnic food from Bosnia, Sudan, Haiti and Germany. The silent auction will feature a collection of handmade items created by the students and area artists. Tickets are $40.00 a person and available through the foundation. [AWM]

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125 FACES OF MSUM facebook Campaign honors employees; Celebrates 125th anniversary

The university is about people, faculty and staff who impact students’ lives and it’s fun to celebrate that.

— Kristi monson

f you regularly tread on Minnesota State University Moorhead soil, at some point, you will mentally compile a list of familiar faces. You may not know what subject they teach. You might not even know their names, but you will now.

As part of MSUM’s 125th anniversary festivities, a “125 Faces of MSUM” social media campaign is celebrating its employees while promoting the university’s yearlong milestone. The campaign honors 125 of MSUM’s most recognizable faculty and staff members, and can be found on the university’s official (facebook.com/msumoorhead) and alumni (facebook.com/MSUMAlumni) Facebook pages.

The Q&A style has captured the attention of Facebook users with vibrant pictures, accompanied by hilarious, sometimes inspiring answers.

Participants are asked untraditional questions, such as, “If you could choose your last meal, what would it be?” Creative and well-thought-out answers are the result. Dr. Allen Carter, professor of music, was no exception.

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“I’d start with a Bloody Mary; shrimp cocktail; Porterhouse medium; baked potato with butter, chives and bacon bits; salad, but not iceberg lettuce, the good lettuce – spinach salad; hot bacon dressing; either crème brûlée, cheesecake or a caramel sundae for dessert with Kahlua cream, straight-up, no ice, and a cup of coffee for dessert. Last meal.”

Students and alumni alike enjoy the responses, a reminder of times spent chatting with professors in the classroom and during office hours. Regina Monson, director of alumni relations, has received positive comments about the university’s campaign, and was stopped by several people at a recent Twins game alumni event.

“Right away, an alum came up and said, ‘What are you doing on Facebook? I love all these stories! I watch to see who the next person is that you’re going to feature.’”

Kristi Monson, assistant director of marketing and communications, said the personal touch works well for the university’s social media. “The reach and level of engagement spikes tremendously when a new face is featured in the campaign. The university is about people faculty and staff who impact students’ lives and it’s fun to celebrate that.”

Some humorous inquiries relate directly to notable characteristics, like Kenyon Williams’ resemblance to actors Johnny Depp and Robert Downey, Jr. “I’ve actually had kids ask if I was one or the other,” Williams said. “The rarity of having a goatee, I guess, in Fargo-Moorhead.”

Apart from promoting the school’s 125-year history, the goal of this campaign is to celebrate the faculty and staff whose hard work and dedication makes MSUM a

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welcoming community of learning and achievement.

One question garnering a unanimous reply: “What is your favorite part of working at MSUM?” Without a second thought, all interviewees said, “The students,” an answer that reflects the success of MSUM students and alumni so well.

The yearlong social media campaign continues through July 2014.

Are you wondering what other questions MSUM has asked interviewees? Visit www.facebook.com/ msumoorhead and follow them on Twitter (@MSUMoorhead) for the latest updates on the “125 Faces of MSUM.”

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Encourages Creative Thinking by beth Diane braDLey >> MiLestones photography

When Emily Williams-Wheeler says everything she does in her classes is an experiment, you might think her students are busy dissecting frogs. But if there are any frogs in her class, they are most likely made of clay. “I call my art studio a laboratory because we’re always wowed by the results of our experiments,” Wheeler said.

Her classes focus on art enrichment and creative thinking. And when it comes to the projects she assigns her students, she leaves much to their imagination. “I have a vague idea, but I don’t know where it will go. It’s very important to explore their own creativity I don’t want to direct them too much. I believe art is magic. It is amazing to watch someone creating something.

I try to make the children see and feel the magic as I do. When they do, they just beam!”

Originally from southern Iowa, Wheeler graduated with a degree in interior design from Iowa State University and moved to Fargo in 1986 with her future husband, John Wheeler, the meteorologist at WDAY. The couple has two children�Maggie, 22 and Cameron, 16.

She worked in interior design for about five years, focusing on health care facilities, schools and churches. Her first impression of the area was a little grim. “I was really thinking I’ll only be here three years, because there’s no design here,” she said. But twentysix years later, Wheeler admits she loves it here.

An art class taught by local artist Janet Flom led her back to her true passion and she spent the next 20 years as a studio artist focusing on acrylics and mixed media. Six years ago, she decided to share her talents by offering art classes to youth ages six through high school at “Studio e” located in her South Fargo home.

When kids first come to her classes, they often want to draw pictures of something that already exists like Pokemon, Wheeler said. “I don’t want anything that has already been drawn. They are frustrated at first, and once they get past that, they relax and start doing their own thing.”

“Every year we have the ‘ultimate whatever’ project,” she said. “The first year it was the ultimate tree house. The kids had to learn to draw a floor plan and read it with the basic symbols. Imagine a whole city in tree tops because they had so much fun they added many trees. They made a model of part of their project.”

Each class has just five kids and the age groups are mixed together.

“I can give them a project, and everybody attacks it in their own way with their own skill level and the results are amazing,” Wheeler

said. “This is going to be my biggest year so far.

I had to add three more classes, for a total of 12 and I have almost 40 students signed up, with a waiting list.” The cost is $16 per hour of class plus a supply fee, and the students meet once a week.

“I totally understand the difficulty that school art teachers face, like the time limits and a required curriculum,” Wheeler said. “I try and support what they do and expand on the base they’ve provided.” She incorporates some background in art history, architecture and history into each class.

The students work with clay, papier mâché, and many other materials. “We do a lot of threedimensional things, something they don’t get to do in school. They can really visualize, it helps to develop their spatial abilities. We don’t go by a curriculum; I throw some ideas out there, but it has to be something they want to do,” Wheeler said. “And the wonderful thing about my classes is there’s no deadlines, no rush.”

“I don’t have a lot of rules, but I do require good manners,” Wheeler said. She is passionate about teaching the kids to be respectful of each other and tolerate differences.

“If they can walk away with the art experience, that’s great. But if they can also learn how to treat people fairly outside the classroom, then I’ve really accomplished something.” She said, “I always get a great bunch of kids. It’s like I handpick them I get the cream of the crop as far as personality. I don’t worry about talent, I just want them to have a very positive experience.” And judging by her waiting list, it appears they do.

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Making Moms a BIG DEAL Nina flippance and the momS Club of fargo

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ina Flippance needed some gentle prodding to walk in the door of her first playdate. “I had to be persuaded,” Flippance said of that first fateful gathering with other members of the MOMS Club of Fargo-IR (immunization required). “I was intimidated by the size of the club.” Her uneasiness melted away within moments of meeting other full- or part-time stay-at-home and work-at-home moms who make up the local chapter of MOMS Club.

“There was someone like me in there,” she said. “And no matter who joins there will always be someone who you relate to. Older moms. Older kids. Younger moms. Younger kids. People who live in apartments.

People who live in houses. MOMS Club has a wide range of people with a wide range of backgrounds.”

When the non-profit MOMS Club was looking for its next volunteer president, Flippance, who grew up active in 4H and worked in daycares during college, thought she’d be a great fit. So did other members who had witnessed Flippance’s love for her own nearly two-year-old daughter and her organizational skills. “She’s organized, business- and goal-oriented and most importantly, friendly and approachable,” said Jacalyn Oster of Fargo, MOMS Club member and mom of two children.

When asked about her duties as president, Flippance

hauls out one of two huge binders that she carries with her wherever she goes. Flipping open its pages, she reads from a list of responsibilities outlined by the governing MOMS Club body who oversees the more than 2,100 chapters in the nation.

“I run meetings, act as a liaison between our group and the community, help organize activities, respond to corporate inquiries, recruit new members, and ensure we’re operating soundly,” said Flippance. “Basically, I’m responsible for our 53 members and how we operate in our community and through the international organization.”

According to its website, www.momsclub.org, MOMS Club is “a support group designed just for you, the at-home mother of today. You are interested in the world around you, want a variety of activities for you and your children, and are proud of your choice of at-home mothering for your families.” The local chapter that Flippance oversees serves West Fargo, Fargo and Moorhead. At home playdates, park meetups, library gatherings, meal deliveries to new moms, monthly business meetings and mom’s night out events are just some of the things members get to do. “We’re also required by the governing board to perform at least one service project a year,” explained Flippance. “We’ve done a March of Dimes walk and have participated in the Macy’s Letters to Santa program.”

Although Flippance has been at the helm of MOM’s Club for less than a year, members like Angela Bartsh of Fargo say her impact has been immediate. “She is organized and has a nononsense attitude. She understands that everyone has an opinion and listens to them and encourages the MOMS Club members to listen so we can make a decision as a club,” said Bartsh, mom of two. “She understands and knows that it is not just one person or a small group of people that we are trying to help but a large group of moms. She is strong and not afraid to let people know how it is going to be so business can get done.”

Flippance’s take-charge attitude is something she gave meticulous thought to and she feels strongly that MOMS Club needs a leader who is willing to encourage members to routinely

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participate in activities. “I feel like the former board was taking on a lot of work themselves,” she stated. “The new board and I are trying to get members involved and to understand that we need them.

I refuse to do it all myself. I believe our members will step up and do their part.”

It’s not as if Flippance doesn’t understand the demands of motherhood in this day and age. In fact, she feels she knows the stress and strains all too well as she balances being a wife and mother with her photography business and MOMS Club duties. And that’s precisely the reason she thinks MOMS Club is so valuable. “The biggest frustration after Adeline was born was feeling like I couldn’t do much,” Nina said. “It was torture. You have a person in the house but you can’t talk to them.”

Now Nina has lots of moms to talk to.

And it’s all due to a playdate. {AWM}

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PArenTs leAD Listen, Educate, Ask, Discuss

by Dr. sharon Query

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ave you ever been uncomfortable in starting a conversation with your child? Ever wished there was one place to go to find out some suggestions? As a parent, talking to your child about certain subjects can be difficult, but it’s not impossible. The Parents LEAD website was created to assist you in helping your kids make the right decisions.

Parents LEAD (Listen, Educate, Ask, Discuss) is a North Dakota-specific underage drinking prevention program designed to provide resources and information to parents so that they engage in age-appropriate, ongoing discussion with their children to prevent underage drinking. The Parents LEAD program was originally developed by the North Dakota Department of Transportation (NDDOT) in 2005, and was redesigned in 2011 through a partnership between four state agencies: NDDOT, North Dakota University System (NDUS) Consortium for Substance Abuse Prevention, North Dakota Department of Human Services (DHS) and North Dakota State University Extension Service. This redesign sought to provide comprehensive, research-based and age-appropriate information, tips, tools and resources to parents on how to talk to their children about alcohol. Designed to provide valuable resources to parents with children of all ages, the key component to Parents LEAD is a website, www.parentslead.org.

Parents LEAD includes tips for starting that difficult conversation, handling questions from children, and suggestions for prevention measures that are effective for children at each individual developmental stage. The program includes methods of communication for toddlers through the college/ young adult years, so families with children of all ages can prepare for educated, targeted conversations on the topic of underage drinking.

When parents visit www.parentslead. org they will have the opportunity to sign up for email communications containing content based on their child’s (or children’s) specific age and/or grade. A Facebook page and interactive blog, written by Dr. Sharon Query, 4-H Youth Development Specialist with the NDSU Extension Center for 4-H Youth Development, is also included on the website, and will allow parents to ask specific questions surrounding the topic of underage drinking.

Make sure your child knows your rules and that you’ll enforce the consequences if rules are broken. Kids are less likely to use alcohol, tobacco and other drugs if their parents have established a pattern of setting clear rules and consequences for breaking those rules. This applies to no-use rules about tobacco, alcohol and other drugs — as well as bedtimes and homework. Have clear expectations for behavior, monitor your child and implement appropriate consequences.

In setting these rules, be sure you discuss your rules and expectations in advance and follow through with the consequences you’ve set.

Don’t forget to acknowledge times when your child follows the rules!

Parents who have a warm relationship with their children while maintaining rules for behavior are teaching their children self-discipline. Parents who have rules that are too harsh or no rules at all are more likely to have children who are at greater risk for drug-taking behavior.

If you use tobacco or alcohol, be mindful of the message you are sending to your children. We may unknowingly be relaying a message that we don’t want. Avoid giving your child sips of alcohol, asking them to grab you a beer from the fridge, taking your child with you into a bar or liquor store, or asking them to pass your cigarettes. By avoiding these behaviors, you reinforce your message that alcohol and tobacco are not for children and they are dangerous for growing bodies. [AWM] For more information on the Parents LEAD project, please visit www.parentslead.org or Facebook.com/ParentsLEAD.

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An outdoors

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hunting with rachel Leitch

by JiLL n. kanDeL >> skyLoFt photography

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ome of Rachel Leitch’s earliest memories are of sitting for hours in deer stands, in the freezing cold, beside her father. Many kids would have given up. But not Leitch. “I was so excited to see everything!” she said. “I sat and looked through the tiny cracks in the boards watching. The deer were very quiet, and they’d sneak up on us. It was fascinating. I couldn’t get enough of being outside.”

Rachel Leitch

an outdoors woman

predators anymore. So hunting keeps the animal populations balanced and prevents diseases.”

Leitch a seventeen-year-old senior attending Moorhead High School lives with her mom and dad, Becky and Jay, and her twin brother, Forrest. Their home has a Northwoods theme and walls covered with mounts: white tail deer, mule deer, impala from Africa, bear, elk, bobcat, fallow deer, Himalayan tahr, caribou, wild boar from Texas and lots of fish and game birds.

Leitch is passionate about hunting, a sport which has taken her across the United States. “I grew up kind of a daddy’s girl,” Leitch said. “I guess it’s not surprising

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that I’d fall in love with hunting. It’s just a part of our family. My mom and dad went to Alaska on their honeymoon, flew out to a lake, and went ice spear fishing.

Later, when mom was pregnant with my brother and me, they went to New Zealand hunting. They hunted fallow deer, wallaby and Himalayan tahr.

“Hunting is very important,” Leitch said. “I wish people knew how much good hunting does. People often think it is cruel. But hunting is much less painful than starvation or car crashes. There aren’t many natural

Leitch went on her first hunt when she was eight years old. “Dad and my brother and I went out to Black Swamp near Barnesville on a rainy morning and we sat in a little duck boat. We were hunting duck. My brother shot one first. Then dad said, ‘Come on Rachel. You can do it, too.’ And I shot a coot. It’s not a bird that most hunters want, partly because it doesn’t taste good. I was using a Remington 870, 20-gauge, and when it kicked I almost fell out of the boat.”

“When I was younger, I hunted with a

hunting helps preserve the land. When people buy licenses for hunting or fishing the money goes into conservation programs.

crossbow,” Leitch said. “At first, I wasn’t strong enough to pull the crossbow string back, so my dad would cock it for me. One morning I was blow drying my hair for school and I heard a turkey outside.

I ran and got my dad to cock the crossbow for me and shot the turkey 15 minutes before I had to leave for school. It was my first turkey and weighed 23 pounds! We threw it in the freezer and I cleaned it when I got home that night. My dad always said, ‘If you shoot it, you clean it.’

I suppose that would gross some people out but it’s one of my favorite

hunting can make girls feel more powerful and independent.

parts about hunting. It’s really interesting.

I’ve always enjoyed anatomy and science.”

The Leitch family gives away the meat they don’t use themselves. They donate meat as well as the hides to various organizations.

“We have a big garden at our farm and grow our own vegetables,” Rachel said. “We were taught not to waste.”

“I have learned a lot of patience from hunting. And I’ve learned to really appreciate nature. I don’t take it for granted.

I’ve learned a lot about the woods and plants. I love the animals and just being outdoors. Hunting helps preserve the land,” she added. “When people buy licenses for hunting or fishing the money goes into conservation programs.”

The statistics backup Leitch’s statement.

According to the Congressional Sportsmen’s Foundation, hunters and anglers are the largest contributors to government wildlife conservation programs. Through excise taxes and license revenues, they annually provide more than 80 percent of the funding for most state fish and wildlife agencies.

President Theodore Roosevelt once said, “The encouragement of a proper hunting spirit, a proper love of sport, instead of being incompatible with a love of nature and wild things, offers the best guarantee for their preservation.”

In Minnesota alone, according to Dirk Peterson, fisheries chief for the Minnesota Department of Natural Resources, about fifty percent of their budget – or $18 million – comes from anglers who purchase a fishing license or stamps.

“We don’t hunt for trophies,” Leitch said, “Sure, we have some mounts in our home, but that’s not our motivation. We mainly hunt because we love being outdoors. I’m really very lucky. My dad is such a huge influence in my life. He was in the Navy and later on he worked as dean of the College of Business at NDSU. He’s retired now and hunting is just something we do together. I think a lot of teenagers say, ‘Oh, parents. They don’t know anything,’ but I’m just starting to realize how special and inspiring my dad and mom are. My mom was a teacher, but now she does long-arm quilting. She owns Lady Slipper Quilting here in Moorhead. Because of hunting we spend a lot of family time together.”

When Rachel’s family went to a wedding in Texas, they made it into a hunting trip. She was ten years old. “My dad and I hunted

wild boar the day before the wedding,” Rachel said. “Boar are a big problem in Texas so hunters are encouraged to shoot them. We sat in a blind, all night in the pitch dark. We couldn’t see the boar except with a spotlight. We were in coyote country and I could hear both the boar and the coyotes.

On the second night, my dad and I heard boar and Dad said, ‘You shoot it.’”

“I didn’t understand why my dad always let me shoot first, but now I know he was just giving me a chance to learn,” Leitch said. In keeping with her father’s methods, Leitch is now passing on her knowledge to her boyfriend, Seth. She is teaching him to hunt and letting him do the shooting.

“It’s almost more enjoyable to teach someone else and see them be successful than it is for me to harvest anything,” Leitch said.

In some ways Leitch is unique.

There are not a lot of girls in her high school who hunt.

There are not nearly as many female hunters as male. But Leitch is also in good company; she is one of America’s 34 million hunters and anglers. According to the yearly statistics from the most recent U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service’s National Survey of Fishing, Hunting, and Wildlife-Associated Recreation, 12.5 million people enjoyed hunting a variety of animals with in the United States and took 185 million hunting trips with a total expenditure of $22.9 billion. Leitch is obviously part of a growing and influential group of people!

Leitch has been pheasant hunting in South Dakota, deer hunting in northern Minnesota, and antelope hunting in Montana. She chose to miss her homecoming dance in favor of the antelope hunt but her scariest hunt, besides the hunt for boar, was the night she got a black bear.

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“My dad and my brother went black bear hunting near Waubun, Minnesota in 2009, and the following year my dad took me,” Leitch said. “The first night it started getting dark, and I said, ‘Dad. Let’s go. I’m getting scared.’ I don’t really like the dark, and we were in wolf country. Our base camp was about 15 miles away. Just then, we heard a branch snap. I saw a black bear coming toward me like a blur in the growing darkness. I shot it and it dropped. The bear was an average Minnesota female black, weighing 200 pounds on the hook.

There were five other hunters at the base camp that night and everyone thought my dad had shot the bear.

They were surprised that it was me. Just a little girl.

I was fourteen years old.” Leitch had the skin of the bear made into a rug which hangs above her bed.

Hunters are a part of the reason there is a healthy animal population and a growing diversity of protected habitat.

Leitch now prefers using a compound bow. “Rifle season for whitetail deer in Minnesota is only two weeks,” she said.

“Bow season is four or five months. There’s a reason for that.

With a bow, I have to get close because I have only a small target to hit on a deer. I put in a lot of time sitting in a deer stand, or waiting for a turkey. You have to wait for the animals to come to you. Patience is huge. Sometimes I sit out there every day, just waiting. I guess I enjoy a challenge.

That’s why I love the bow.”

Leitch would like to see more girls get into hunting. “I think city girls could expand their views,” Leitch said enthusiastically. “Hunting can make girls feel more powerful and more independent.

A good place to begin is to go to the local outdoor stores and talk to the experts. Start out with one thing, like deer hunting. It’s an easy place to begin because it’s local. There are public lands available around here for deer hunting.

And there are a lot of deer!”

For women with an interest in learning skills associated with hunting, fishing and other outdoor activities, BOW Workshops Becoming an Outdoor Woman are available in many states including both North Dakota and Minnesota.

These workshops are geared towards women who are

beginners and those hoping to improve their skills. The summer workshops might include classes as diverse as Beginning Archery, Basic Shotgunning, Birds and Their Nests, Introduction to Fly Fishing, Predator Calling, Introduction to Rifles, Muzzle Loading, and Canoeing.

In the winter, BOW offers a variety of workshops. Instruction and equipment is included. A wide range of workshop classes are available that have included Snowshoeing, Ice Fishing, Spear Fishing, or Crosscountry Skiing.

Currently, Leitch is spending the summer as a nanny to two children in the Fargo area. Between work and school, she also continues to squeeze in some hunting and fishing. “On one of my most recent bow hunts, last October, I was deer hunting with my dad. We were in two different stands pretty close together. A buck walked out in front of my stand and I shot him; he ran in front of my dad’s stand and dropped. Within ten minutes another buck walked out in front of my dad’s stand and my dad shot him. His buck fell right next to mine. Sometimes with bows, the deer run and you have to track them.

These two fell right there and we both got to see each other’s shots.

That was pretty amazing.”

As far as the future goes, Leitch is setting her sights high. She’d like to go into pharmacy at NDSU. She would also like to continue pursuing her love of hunting. “I’d like to go for an elk next,” Leitch said. “Last year I applied but didn’t get drawn. Hopefully I’ll get drawn this year. Someday, I’d love to go to Canada for grizzly bear hunting. Or Africa. There’s so much to see and hunt there.”

“I hope more young women will take up the sport of hunting,” Leitch said. “I hope people will put two and two together. If we didn’t hunt, animals would die from much more painful things. Hunters are a part of the reason that there is a healthy animal population and a growing diversity of habitat protected for their use.” [AWM] View or share this story online at issuu.com/areawoman/docs/as13/90 AreAWOmAN.COm 97

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