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OnThe Cover One Woman's Journey of

Love, Hope, & Leadership

at Jeremiah Program: Laetitia Mizero Hellerud

by Devin Joubert

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features Kid Co. and Work/Life 12 Exploring Balance with Emily Duma

by Paige Tollefson

26 Helping Women and

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Building Families

Christian Adoption Services

by Paige Tollefson

and Crafting a Dream 34 Cooking The Mother-Daughter Duo Behind The 1889

by Dawn Duncan

Rise - Nichole Lind 64 Onby The Devin Joubert

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wellness 42

I Was Made For 16 What Embracing Passions and

Gynecology Care You Need at Every Age

Trendsetting This Fall

by Olivia Burke of Hair Success

by Essentia Health

Refresh 40 Kitchen Family-Inspired Spaces

46 Back to School Success

Tips for Managing Mental Health, Courtesy of River Haven Counseling

44 Area Style + Shop Local

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and Grace - Navigating Family 22 Grief and Funeral Service with Colleen Lanners of Korsmo Funeral and Cremation Service

by Devin Joubert

Animal Shelter's 30 Homeward Tasha Haug Matching Pets With Loving Families

by Erin Foley

Fully Booked 58 She's

by Megan Elgin

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60 Events Calendar 62 Teacher Cadet Program Inspires Future Educators

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Watermelon Sorbet 57 Fresh

by Stephanie Disse

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OUR WRITERS

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are the voice of Area Woman Magazine.

They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue.

Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com.

PATRICE

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With a degree in journalism, Patrice continues to pursue her passion for writing by creating articles for various Midwest publications. She left behind a corporate communications job to find her own version of a perfect work-life balance. That includes spending plenty of quality time with friends and family, including her husband, children, and two young grandchildren. It also allows time to pursue her other passion for outdoor activities. Besides biking and skiing, she loves kayaking and spending time at her “Happy Place,” their cabin on Big Pine Lake in Perham.

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Megan grew up on the family farm in small town North Dakota and graduated from MSUM. She is an artist and graphic designer who loves all things creative. She is passionate about reading as many books as possible and loves discussing them with others. Megan lives in Horace with her husband and teenage son.

ERIN

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Erin is a retired business owner with a degree in Graphic Design. She lives her free-spirited, ‘Be real, not perfect.’, life in Detroit Lakes with her cat, The Dude. More often than not, will answer in movie or tv quotes and is a lover and advocate for all animals. She is an Artist for Lakeshirts and loves to garden, write, paint, and cook and bake for others. You will often find her at the local yoga studio, behind the apron, elbow deep in dirt or on the lake.

STEPHANIE

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Stephanie Disse is a Certified Yoga Teacher and the owner of Time to Fly Healthy Living. Her passion for fitness and nutrition fuels her coaching business, helping clients to develop and sustain healthy lifestyle habits. She is a native of Detroit Lakes, MN and a married mother of two, grandmother of three, and consummate adventurer!

You’ll find Stephanie cooking up new recipes in her DL kitchen, traveling around the country, enjoying live music shows, experiencing the outdoors, and spending time as a student and teacher of yoga.

PAIGE

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Paige Tollefson is a freelance writer who seeks to find beauty in the world around her. Her passions include citizen science, bird watching, taking pictures of cats, and getting lost in the woods. Find her out canoeing one of Minnesota's many lakes, flying kites with her husband, or looking at moss with a magnifying glass. She followed her heart from North Dakota to Minnesota September 2023. Though she occasionally misses the city, she's found her home in a lovely town situated amongst three major ecosystems.

DAWN

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Dawn is driven by creativity and sharing her passion for writing, art, and healthy living with the masses. She is from Fertile, MN and now calls Detroit Lakes her home, after living in Colorado several years. She's a UND graduate and lifelong entrepreneur who is also a published children's book author. You'll usually find her hiking in the woods, kayaking, sweating in the yoga studio, teaching dance fitness or spending time with her husband, Michael, and their German Shepherd, Reva.

Dawn is a writer, artist, creativity coach, and class facilitator, specializing in teaching art as therapy.

Find her at: yellowbrightinc.com or @yellowbrightinc

DEVIN

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Devin Joubert (pronounced "yo-bear") is a freelance writer and also a fiction author of all things romantic comedy, humor, and true love. Stories have always been at the center of her heart, believing they change lives.

She lives in North Dakota with her husband and mini zoo, where the prairies and forests collide. When she isn’t writing or wrangling her pets, she loves going on road tripping adventures with her husband.

You can find out more about her at lifewritingwanderlust.com

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PHOTO CREDIT Photo credit in our June/July issue story "Lotus in Bloom" goes to Sayward Axvig. website: sayward.photos

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The summer has gone by quickly and it’s time for back to school prep and a gradual shift into early fall. Here at Area Woman, we are privileged to witness many of the incredible changes in the FM area as they develop and come to fruition, including those done by innovators who provide services for women, kids, and families.

This family-centric issue is packed with stories about changemakers and opportunities that exist right here, ones ensuring Fargo-Moorhead continues to grow in positive ways and offer a constantly improving quality of life.

The idea of family runs the gamut, from traditional to non-traditional, and also includes those comprised of pets and their humans. Whatever “family” means to you, we hope that this collection of stories inspires you and provides fun ideas and inspiration on how to expand your knowledge of what is offered for you in our area.

Enjoy this last bit of summer and anticipate a beautiful autumn that’s around the corner!

[aw] Best, Dawn Duncan

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FEATURE

Being a kid is sort of like a superpower. When you’re young, you can let your imagination run wild, uninhibited by the realities of the world around you. Adventures await behind every single corner. There’s no need to worry about schedules and building careers. Little ones experiencing the vibrance of life can be one of the most rewarding experiences for a parent to witness. We all want what’s best for our kids, but the demands of adulthood can often make it difficult to engage in the ways children need.

Emily Duma knows the struggles of finding a work-life balance firsthand. Not only is she a mother of two, Emily is also the owner and fulltime realtor of Vesta Real Estate Brokered by eXp and a fitness and yoga instructor at Mojo Fit Studios. And that’s just the beginning! Emily, alongside her husband Aaron, own RiverHaven Events Center in Moorhead. Most recently, they have decided to once again seize that sense of child-like wonder and create a destination for exploration – a safe space that aims at helping children and adults activate their imaginations. This remarkable little world is KidCo.

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s i th d e t . r p a t u s d e n W rom the grou Duma f - Emily In 2020, during the beginning of the pandemic, Emily and her husband felt something was missing from their Moorhead community. Having just returned from a family trip where they were able to engage in a children’s museum with their two little ones, Emily and Aaron began to ask themselves how they could bring some of that magic home. “We really saw a void in the community in terms of not having a children's museum, or something of that caliber, in town anymore.” She referred to Yunker Farm which closed officially in 2021 much to the heartbreak of many in the F/M area. Emily, raised in Fargo, could not easily forget the connection she felt to the north-side museum. Drawing inspiration from their travels, Emily and Aaron began to build the concept of KidCo. and make their dream a reality.

other museums around the nation (as well as the invaluable input of their own children) to make their idea take shape. In March of 2023, their hard work paid off in a big way and KidCo. officially opened for business. “We love the idea of bringing parents, or just any guardian, together in a safe place that’s meant for everybody.” That’s one of the unique things about KidCo. – they want the parents to engage as well. “[T]he kids aren’t driving themselves to these places, and parents are often left on the sideline as an afterthought,” Emily states in a 2023 blog post about the children’s museum. To make it fun for everyone, big and small, KidCo. has dedicated an area for parents to get comfortable and watch their littles having a blast, but they are highly encouraged to join in on playtime.

When asked how they knew what they were doing, Emily explains they weren't provided any kind of handbook. “We started this from the ground up.” Fortunately, the pandemic provided the time necessary to create their masterplan.

Emily and Aaron used their experiences visiting

KidCo. remains a screen-free zone, something that’s become a bit of a rarity during recent years.

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engage at KidCo. will have access to the costume corner, a puppet theater, a castle with a slide and foam pit, and even the Glow Zone. Books are available for anyone hungry for a good story.

There are also instruments for the kids who are musically inclined. Most impressive, however, is Tiny Town: a multilevel structure that includes fire and police stations, a barber shop, and a bistro, and encourages children to move and run about as freely as they want. “One of our favorite parts of KidCo. Children’s Museum is that it gives kids full autonomy over their playtime.” There’s even a toddler zone, because Emily understands the need to provide a separate space to keep those extra-little ones safe. “When our daughter was really small, we just cringed watching her get trampled at other places.” If that’s something you can relate to, rest assured that KidCo. has you covered. They even provide a toddler-only, 90-minute session on Friday and Saturday mornings so that children three years of age and under can enjoy all the museum has to offer while staying totally protected.

KidCo. Children’s Museum is located at 814 Center Ave, Suite 3 in Moorhead, nestled conveniently between Hotdog! Pet Salon and Swing Barrel Brewing Co. This was an intentional choice as Emily and her husband Aaron already have roots in the area through RiverHaven. For her, watching the synergy between the two downtown areas of Fargo and Moorhead has felt like a long time coming. “It’s cool to finally see it happening.” She feels a deep sense of pride, having grown up in Fargo, and genuinely looks forward to witnessing this upward trajectory for Moorhead continue. One way she hopes to further her contribution is by expanding on the vision of KidCo. This includes taking some of the best aspects of the children’s museum and making them accessible on-the-go with the possibility of renting out STEM toys to schools or private parties. She has even considered providing consultation to smaller communities looking to work within a budget to incorporate a children’s museum of their own. “My husband specifically is from a very small town in western North Dakota,” she says. “We just feel it’s a really important and enriching part of every community to have a space to let kids be kids.”

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So how does Emily manage to find her balance between career-driven superstar and loving mother of two? That really depends. “Coffee and yoga,” she jokes. “But honestly, Google. I know that sounds cliche and silly, but my husband and I live and die by our Google calendar.” Her advice is to block the time you need for what you prioritize the most. For Emily, family supercedes all else.

She loves being involved with her children, Taj and Revel, and has even credited them in regards to KidCo's success. “We call them our Research and Development team.” As the target audience, Emily has been able to bounce ideas off of her children to help improve the experience of anyone visiting the museum. Not only are they hardworking and helpful, but teaming up as a family deepens their bonds together because the kids feel connected to what their mom and dad are doing all day instead of living in totally separate worlds.

Emily considers herself lucky, but she recognizes that her circumstances and methods may not apply to every individual situation. “I struggle with the word ‘balance’,” she says. “Your balance looks different than my balance. We’re all going to find what works for us.”

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If you’re struggling, she recommends focusing on self-care and setting clear boundaries in your professional life. “I think I’ve earned more respect throughout the years by studying [my] boundaries,” Emily says. She sees herself as a mother first and businesswoman second, but those roles can shift. Flexibility is important if you’re raising a family and growing your career all at once, but don’t lose sight of what matters most. “When work needs me, it needs me. But I try to give my kids full presence and grace when I’m there to make up for the times I’m not.” She also credits her husband for his help and his patience as they take life one day at a time. “We have a pretty diverse skill set so we’re always bringing different aspects to the table. It’s fun!” With that being said, not everyone has a partner that they can rely on.

It’s okay to reach out and explore the resources your community has to offer. There are people like Emily all around you ready and eager to lend a helping hand or provide a place where parents and children can share wonderful experiences.

Care that does

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We want kids to feel like kids, even when they’re sick, or hurt, or don’t feel like themselves.

So if you’re a parent or guardian in the F/M area with children age eight or younger, you owe it to them and yourself to visit KidCo. Children’s Museum. Their meticulously clean and well-equipped facility, friendly staff, and provided amenities are sure to delight anyone who visits. You won’t regret watching your child’s face light up with wonder and awe when they take in the playroom for the first time. You might even feel some of that magic for yourself. Grab a complimentary cup of coffee and cozy up in the sitting area, or set off on an epic adventure with your little one. Either way, KidCo will guarantee an unforgettable time you — and especially your children — won’t easily forget. [aw]

KidCo.

814 Center Avenue, Unit 3, Moorhead, MN 56560 218.284.5050 • Playkidco.com

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That’s why at Sanford Children’s, we do more for kids. From our child-friendly facilities and equipment to our specially trained providers, we know what it takes to care for kids and keep them comfortable. Whether it’s a routine check-up or a complex treatment, we’ll be there to support the whole family.

Learn more about our children’s care at sanfordhealth.org

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STYLE

Welcome to our autumn edition, where we dive deep into the vibrant world of self-discovery and seasonal trends. Fall is a time of introspection and commitment, an opportunity to align with one's true calling. Ava, a beacon of inspiration in the beauty industry, shares her journey and the exciting fashion currents setting the stage for fall 2024.

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Finding Your Path Like many of you, Ava faced the daunting question of what to pursue in life. This season reminds us of the pressures that come with deciding on a career. "Fall brings a commitment to yourself," Ava begins, reflecting on the numerous friends caught in the whirlwind of choice. Unlike many, Ava was fortunate—her parents understood her passion for the beauty industry, a rarity in a world where a traditional four-year college is often seen as the only path.

Ava's story is a testament to following one’s intrinsic calling: “I chose a career that is focused on making people look and feel good, and it is what I was made for.”

Her narrative is not just personal; it’s a rallying cry for anyone at the crossroads of career and self-discovery.

"When you find the path that best suits you, you will feel it. You will feel inspired each and every day," she encourages.

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Overcoming Challenges But what about hurdles like anxiety and financial fear? Ava advises pushing through by engaging more deeply with your work. "Doing this will give you a sense of accomplishment,” she asserts. She also highlights the importance of problem-solving and leadership in overcoming personal barriers, drawing wisdom from John C. Maxwell’s principles in High Road Leadership.

Fall Fashion Trends 2024 Turning to the lighter, more colorful side of fall, Ava guides us through the season's hottest trends.

The mood is set; it's time to explore what’s trending: • Colorful Lacquer - Bright and bold is the mantra this fall. Think high gloss finishes that make a statement, whether on your nails or adding a vibrant layer to your accessories.

• Gentle Side Parts - Move over, middle parts!

A soft side part is your new go-to for a subtle yet profound change in your look, perfect for both casual outings and professional settings.

• Soft Curls - Embrace the romance of fall with soft, free-flowing curls. This look adds a touch of whimsy and carefree elegance to any outfit.

• Innovative Hats - Hats are not just functional; they are the crowning jewel of autumn fashion. From wide-brimmed to berets, find the one that speaks to your style.

• Piggy Buns - Playful yet easy to manage, piggy buns offer a youthful twist to your everyday updo. They're fun for a day out or a quirky twist on evening attire.

• Free Flowing Braids and Crow Braids Braids continue to enchant this season, weaving simplicity with elegance. The crow braid will be a standout, offering a majestic feel to your ensemble.

• Decorative Buns - Elevate your bun with creative twists and accessories. This trend is all about making the ordinary extraordinary.

• Hair Accessories - More is more this season!

Decorative clips, bands, and pins are not just functional; they're fashion statements.

• The Leafy Cut Mullet - A versatile trend for all, the leafy cut mullet is making a comeback, blending retro vibes with modern flair.

• This fall, let Ava’s story inspire you to chase your dreams, embrace your passions, and dress boldly in the season's trends. Remember, finding what you were made for isn’t just about making a living—it’s about making a life. [aw]

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BUSINESS

Ever since she was a young girl, Colleen Lanners always knew she wanted to be a funeral director. For some, that might seem like a strange dream job to imagine as a child, but it takes a loving and special person to work in the funeral industry and it is a career Colleen is passionate about. She now works as a Funeral Director at Korsmo Funeral and Cremation Service in Moorhead. “I remember going with my parents to funerals. They were very open and didn’t hide funerals or keep them a secret. It was never made to seem like it was something bad or something to fear and so I think that fostered some of my interest in it right away. I remember going to the funeral home when one of my dad’s best friends passed. We went there and viewed the body,” said Colleen.

I went back to the U of M in Minneapolis and graduated there. I worked here under George and Ruth Korsmo for the first 10 years of my funeral service career as a funeral director. Colleen Lanners

Besides being a funeral director, she’s also a mom of two and a licensed social worker in Minnesota and North Dakota. “Since my kids have been getting older and more independent, I recently took on the role of being the sexton of the Cass County Cemetery. Springvale Cemetery is the Cass County Cemetery in North Fargo by the Air National Guard,” said Colleen. Springvale is also located by Holy Cross. Usually, the people who are buried there qualified for funeral or even burial assistance.

Even though it had always been a dream, Colleen's journey into the funeral industry was not a straightforward path. After going to school for social work, she worked for a few years before pursuing her dream of being a funeral director.

“I went back to the U of M in Minneapolis and graduated there. I worked here under George and Ruth Korsmo for the first 10 years of my funeral service career as a funeral director,” said Colleen.

Work-life balance was always important to Colleen, so when her children were young, she decided to work at Sanford as a social worker for the heart services area, so she’d have more flexibility to see her kids grow up. “For the next 10 years, until 2022, I worked there,” said Colleen.

With that extra time, she was able to watch her children at their events such as her son’s Boy Scout meetings and her daughter’s choir concerts.

When asked about what she enjoyed most about what she does, she said she loves being able to hold people’s hands and guide them through these tough moments in their lives. “I also love the connections I’ve made with people and it's not just the people I serve, like the families, but like the pastors, the ministers, the priests, and the lunch servers. I thanked God for them when I was pregnant because I gained 50 pounds with each of my kids. I remember the ladies handing me a plate of food while telling me to eat something,” said Colleen with a laugh.

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When talking about her family, she mentioned how her sister works in tax accounting and how the running joke in the family is that Colleen was “death” and her sister was “taxes.”

Dealing With Her Own Loss to Help Others Colleen lost her dad suddenly when she was 18 and it was tough for the whole community she was from because he was a well-known businessman in town. On the other side, her mom’s death was prolonged. She experienced two different kinds of loss with her parents. “Mom lasted longer than six months with lung cancer and she suffered quite a bit.” Colleen moved her mom into her home and got help from Hospice. Going through losses that were completely different was difficult for her, but this also prepared her to help families through their loss as well, as all have different experiences.

Through these unique journeys, Colleen gained a deep understanding of grief and the varying ways it can impact people. Her compassion and empathy grew, enabling her to support others facing similar hardships. Colleen's path of personal loss has given her a personalized perspective and a heartfelt desire to assist others in navigating their own grief. When talking about her family, she mentioned how her sister works in tax accounting and how the running joke in the family is that Colleen was “death” and her sister was “taxes.”

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Colleen's path has been marked by a deep commitment to guiding others through their most difficult moments. Her personal losses have shaped her understanding of sorrow, enriching her ability to provide comfort and support to those in mourning. Colleen shows how one person can have such a huge impact on another during their loss, not just through professional expertise but through genuine empathy and a listening heart. Her dedication to honoring the departed and comforting the bereaved reflects a profound belief in the healing power of compassion, making her a beacon of hope and solace in times of sadness. [aw]

Korsmo Funeral and Cremation Service 409 Eighth Street South Moorhead, MN 56560 (218) 233-1533 Korsmofuneralservice.com

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FAMILY

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When Sunny Blankinship and her husband Mike decided to extend their family by way of adoption, Christian Adoption Services (CAS) was there to guide them lovingly through the process from beginning to end, celebrating every joyous moment and offering comfort during hardship.

Sunny’s personal adoption story began unconventionally. Her hopes of welcoming a new family member were temporarily dashed just six days after bringing her adopted baby home. “We call it a ‘disrupted placement,’” she says, recounting the events of her emotional experience. “In our case, the birth mom’s family came forward and wanted to parent, and she felt that would be okay.” You see, in the state of North Dakota the adoption risk period does not end until the birth mother is seen before a judge and finalizes her decision to relinquish parental rights. What happened to Sunny was heartbreaking, but the incredible staff at CAS was by her side during every step. “I felt really lost,” she confessed. “It was really hard.”

Despite the circumstances, she maintained her faith that this was God’s chosen path. Incredibly, she wouldn’t need to wait much longer for her prayers to be answered.

“About six months later we got a call about 10:30 in the morning and I was running errands. I went over to the adoption agency because they had called and said we had a match so I wanted to go get details. That was really exciting.” In Jamestown, ND, Sunny’s baby daughter was born in 2018. She maintained a close relationship with the birth mother in a process known as open adoption. This is the type of process that allows the adoptive parents and the biological family to maintain a varying degree of contact. It allows the full disclosure of identifying information between the families, and can even be as involved as staying in touch throughout the years with photos, visits, or keepsakes for the biological mother to cherish. Sunny’s relationship with the biological mother of her daughter was so strong that she was entrusted with the adoption of the mother’s second child, her daughter’s infant sister in 2021.

Sunny and Mike (who have two biological children as well) hadn’t much considered the possibility of adopting another baby, but they trusted in their divine calling. “God has a plan. He knew these siblings needed to be together and we were the family to do it.”

Christian Adoption Services was established in 1985 and serves all of North Dakota and Minnesota with an office in Fargo and a second in Bismarck. Their legacy began with a newspaper ad offering help to expectant mothers. Sunny praises the staff at CAS for their support and professionalism when providing assistance to anyone seeking their services. “I still believe in the way they treat everyone, on both sides of the process, with respect.” Sunny’s involvement with CAS has even extended beyond her personal experience of adopting. As of September 2023, she has been working diligently as their new Development Coordinator out of the Fargo office. “We’ve never had an employee, that I know of, who has also been an adoptive parent.” She uses her experiences to follow the mission of CAS and better the lives of women in need.

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“We’re doing the work we know God has intended for us.”

To this day, the main focus of CAS revolves around offering expectant mothers the options needed to give their child a chance at life. “If your pregnancy is or it was unintended, it’s extremely important that [you] make a concrete and decisive decision about parenting or adoption,” explains Sunny. Maybe you’re feeling unsure whether you’re ready to parent, or question whether you would be able to parent at all. Guidance counselors and caseworkers with CAS are always available to provide judgment-free assistance in your decision-making process.

They will educate and empower expectant mothers in creating an adoption plan that works best for each individual case. “We want our women to decide, not slide, into [a] decision.”

The services provided by CAS are free and confidential and can be utilized during any stage of pregnancy. “We really try to work with [you] throughout the process – whether we have six months together or whether we have six hours together prior to the baby being born.” The expectant mother will have a chance to sit with a staff member and go over all the options available to her and her child, even if the birth mother is considering parenting over placing. “We don’t pressure. We will help you find the resources if you ultimately decide that parenting is the way you want to go.” After counseling, if the expectant mother chooses to create an adoption plan, CAS will provide them with a caseworker to advocate on their behalf. Adoptive families will have a separate caseworker to help ensure the process stays safe and ethical for everyone involved.

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For anyone contemplating building their family through adoption, there are some questions you should ask yourself first. “It’s really important to consider if you feel you could love and nurture a child that is not biologically connected to you,” says Sunny. “Adoptive parents who are hoping to adopt [should] really examine their motivations for adoption and remember they aren’t saving a child from a bad life.” Understanding the method of adoption is just as important. Embryo adoption is another alternative that CAS offers through established programs such as National Embryo Donation Center (Knoxville, TN) and Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program (part of Nightlight Christian Adoptions in California). “It blends the world of traditional pregnancy and adoptive families,” Sunny explains. Though CAS does not provide the embryos for this method of adoption, they will work with these other agencies to ensure the adoptive family navigates the application process seamlessly. Furthermore, if you or a loved one is considering adoption because pregnancy is not a viable option, allowing yourself time to grieve is imperative to the healing process. Emotional preparedness will empower you to have confidence in whatever decision you make. Educate yourself by speaking with other families who have chosen to adopt, reading books on adoption, listening to podcasts, or seeking resources through trusted adoption agencies.

Parents who are certain they would like to move forward should prepare themselves for an extensive and lengthy process, beginning with a thorough application and screening. The methods used by CAS for vetting prospective families will ensure the safe placement of a child in a stable and loving household. Should your application be accepted, the next step is home study orientation and training. “This is our time, as an agency, to tell [parents] what we’re about, how we do things, and then all the details about the adoption process.” Each applicant is educated thoroughly on legal issues and topics such as discussing adoption, the different kinds of adoption available, and types of adoption openness. After orientation, a caseworker will conduct visits to the prospective parents’ homes. This can often be the scariest part of the adoption process, but Sunny has some words of encouragement: “We are not looking for perfection.” Though they take all steps necessary to ensure the safety of adoptive children, staff with CAS understand that no home is perfect and will work with families on preparing their lives and households for the potential new members.

The entire application process can take around six months to be completed, and even then families who have been accepted will not be guaranteed a child. “There are not as many babies for every parent who wants to adopt,” says Sunny.

Her own story reflects the hardships that may be faced along the way. Remember that patience is a virtue. Each situation will look different for every individual. It’s okay to set boundaries with the people in your life as you navigate this monumental decision. “You can choose what you do and don't tell – it is not public record.” Don’t let the opinions of others force you into a narrative you are not comfortable with. Educate others as you’ve educated yourself and remember that this is your journey. [aw] If you’re looking to explore your options, don’t hesitate to visit the loving professionals of CAS at their two locations: • 3220 18th St S #8E, Fargo, ND 58104 or • 220 E Rosser Ave Box 149, Bismarck, ND 58501

or fill out their contact form online at:

christianadoptionservices.org 701-428-2357

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Creating a bond of companionship is made from the heart, fueled by a passion for the love of all life and the tireless drive of compassion. Tasha Haug, the Executive Director of Homeward Animal Shelter in Fargo, strives to make these connections every day, placing the right animal in the right home.

Working in the nonprofit sector for the majority of her professional career, Tasha has a Master’s Degree in Public, Human Service, and Health Administration from Minnesota State University Moorhead. “This program was an excellent foundation for my career.”

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While it is important to find the right family for animals in the shelter, it is also a balance to give the animal as many opportunities as possible to find an adoptive home. The best way is to learn about the family – their lifestyle, family members, other pets. “It’s also important to find out what type of personality they are looking for in a pet. For example, are they an active family who wants a high-energy dog? Or, are they looking for a calm, easy-going animal companion that doesn’t need as much exercise?”

Tasha started by working in support roles at a few local arts organizations in Fargo, then moved into development and fundraising work.

With a portfolio including more than 20 years of nonprofit experience, including over a decade of fundraising and 10 years of experience in grants management and event planning.

She also worked as a development officer at The Village Family Service Center for 11 years, managing annual giving campaigns and donor portfolios. “I’ve learned from every organization I’ve worked with, which led me to where I am today. I’ve had wonderful mentors and try to ‘pay-it-forward’ by helping emerging leaders in the nonprofit sector.”

“The humananimal bond is so special, although in my experience, the animal often chooses the human to be their 'favorite' Tasha’s path at Homeward began in 2016, when she began volunteering to walk and socialize person.” dogs and in 2017, officially became on staff as

Tasha Haug

“The human-animal bond is so special, although in my experience, the animal often chooses the human to be their 'favorite' person.” A family may adopt an animal with the intention of a bond with a particular family member, and the animal may decide to choose a different person as their “favorite”. Regardless of who they choose to bond with, they can form bonds with more than one person. “There is something so pure about the human-animal bond. We can be our truest selves with them, without worrying about what they think of us.”

the organization’s Donor Development Manager. In October 2019, she was named Interim Executive Director, and in January 2020 officially became the Executive Director, holding the position ever since. “I’ve loved animals all my life, and learned compassionate care of them from my mother, who was and is so supportive of my work.”

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The bond between humans and animals can be so special and unique, bringing a companionship beyond words. “Pets can be a non-judgmental listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a calming and comforting presence, and watching them play can bring endless entertainment!”

Homeward works with families of all types to help them find a companion animal. “Some animals are better suited to a family without children. For example, some may be quite timid and need a quiet household. Some dogs are so big and playful that they don’t know their own size and can be too much for small children.”

Those embracing the single life or couples without children are wonderful candidates for these types of animals. “They can give a home to an animal that wouldn’t be the right fit for a family with children.”

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“Pets can be a nonjudgmental listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a calming and comforting presence, and watching them play can bring endless entertainment!”

Tasha Haug

“My husband and I don’t have children. After a few years of apartment living, we bought our house. Shortly after moving in, we adopted our first two cats. I think they make a house a home.

After a long day, it feels so good to come home to our cats. They often watch for us out of the front window and greet us at the door. Yes, maybe they’re just waiting for dinner.”

Every animal is unique and has its own personality. While different breeds have certain characteristics, they are still not all the same. And it can take time for their true personality to come out when they move into a new home, so it is important to give them plenty of time for them to acclimate themselves to the physical space, all human and animal family members, and frequent guests. “Giving them love and time allows them to become their best self.” [aw]

Homeward Animal Shelter 1201 28th Ave. N. Fargo, ND 58102

701-239-0077 homewardonline.org

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ARTS

You never know when a lighthearted joke among friends could one day become a welcome reality. Such is the case with Family and Consumer Sciences teacher Lana Feeley.

She and her fellow teachers used to say that they wished they could start their own school, which Lana thought would be fun. As of January 2024, Lana and her daughter Addie Hovland are the duo behind The 1889, which has quickly launched onto the creative scene of the area.

Together, this mother-daughter duo, along with Lana’s mom Bonnie as an investor, apply their respective strengths in operating The 1889, which offers cooking and creativity-related classes for adults, both in private and public ticketed events. Addie moved back to Fargo from Bozeman, MT to start the business with her mother and Lana states that she was integral to the design and remodel of the space they occupy at 602 Main Avenue in downtown Fargo.

“It has been wonderful to have Addie back in Fargo,” Lana says of her daughter. “She is creative and talented.” The 1889 also has regular instructors; there are currently five who do events regularly and most are current or former teachers who not only have content knowledge but are also trained professionals in instruction.

Lana comments, “This adds to the experience here because our participants not only have fun; they also truly learn. We have had feedback from many of our class participants regarding our instructors and how helpful they are.”

...our participants not only have fun, they also truly learn.

Lana Feeley

Although Lana is from a small town in Montana, she has called Fargo her home since her college days, where she attended NDSU, earning her degree in Food and Nutrition. Following graduation, she moved to Minot, ND, where she lived for nine years. She worked for Public Health and Trinity Hospital before changing careers and becoming a teacher for Minot Public Schools.

“I returned to college to obtain my education degree while teaching under the mentorship of Merry Manson (who is not an instructor at The 1889!).” Upon moving back to Fargo, Lana taught at South High and Davies High School before leaving the classroom to work as the Business Partner Liaison for Cass County Career & Technical Education.

As her life continued to unfold and she and her husband raised their family, the countryside called for them and three years ago, they bought 10 acres outside of Fargo and built a new house.

The property allows them to keep their younger daughter Ayla’s horses. “Moving to the country has been the best change ever!” Lana beams. “We have two horses, cats, a dog, and chickens. My husband, Dan, and I enjoy life out here, creating a home and caring for our animals.” In addition, the couple enjoy travel and family time.

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Addie shares many of her parents’ interests, choosing to spend as much time outdoors as she can, being with family, and doing DIY house projects. Addie is a Davies High School graduate and attended college at Montana State University, Bozeman. After college, she stayed in Bozeman to work for Oboz, a shoe company.

Building on Lana’s food background and the overarching idea of offering something creative to the FM area public, Lana and Addie did research to understand what it would take to formulate a thriving business in the food/creative arts arena. They attended classes in Minneapolis and Denver as part of the process. “It was so much fun meeting new people,” Lana shares. “We wanted to create that same thing in our classes. There is something magical about cooking with people, whether they're people you know and love, or someone you've just met.

We have seen new friendships form, people exchanging phone numbers, people making connections - even with jobs. We ourselves have made new friends!”

The people connection is a major component of The 1889, as the company brings people together to share a common learning experience in cooking or crafting. “When I mentioned that we joked about starting our own school, we always knew we wanted people to walk away, not only with an experience, but also with new skills. We specifically designed our classes so that people would be learning on equipment you would have at home or could purchase. We also wanted an environment that's cozy and beautiful, like a home. Hopefully we achieved that.”

Community: Connection does not stop there, however, as Lana and Addie believe in being an invested part of their community and giving back. “Most recently, we have contributed to Gigi's Playhouse, Anne Carlson Center, and Miss Rodeo North Dakota. Being a new business, it can be difficult to donate. We've tried to offer space for meetings/ gatherings free of charge, provide tours for students and provide discounts when we can. We limit our donations to one a month right now.”

There is something magical about cooking with people, whether they're people you know and love, or someone you've just met.

Lana Feeley

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Looking Ahead: The future of The 1889 is something that Lana and Addie think about often and they continue to grow and refine their vision. Lana says, “It's evolved since we first opened. We are always looking for what we can do next. Right now, we have four “buckets” in our offerings: Cooking & Crafting Classes | Private Events | Space Rental | Catering. We always have our eyes on things for the future. Right now, we are considering monthly memberships and/or series memberships. We offer some special diet cooking classes (gluten free), but would love to expand more. In addition, we'd like to use our patio more, expand our youth camps and school-year opportunities (hopefully with homeschoolers), and increase our private events. Finally, I would like to bring the business to our farm in the future.”

Lana’s big dream is "The 1889 on the Farm". “I would love to have people out to our farm to ride horse, spend time with our chickens, make a meal with us in our home, and stay in our guesthouse (I've been asking my husband to build me one)."

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There's no better place to be together than around a table.

Lana Feeley

The Name and Building: The 1889 name was chosen for the State of North Dakota. “It's the year we became a community. Our mission has always been to create a community space where people can be together, off their phones, learning and spending time with one another,” Lana explains. “There's no better place to be together than around a table.

That can be cooking, crafting, or playing games.

The table (or island) is where communication occurs and community begins."

"We also have a partnership with Creative Kitchen. Almost all of our equipment comes from there. They have a rich history in our community and we're proud to use top of the line equipment from their business.”

Lana and Addie are also very proud of their brickand-mortar building. “It was built in 1879 and is the oldest brick building in Fargo. We went to the NDSU archives to research the history and we learned it has been a bank, a women's clothing store, and Wimmer's Jewelry. Maybe more – but that’s all we could find. We had fun getting down to the original hardwood floors and discovering the layers of brick that have been added to the original structure.” [aw]

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For information on classes or to book private events, contact:

The 1889

602 Main Avenue, Fargo, ND 58103 info@the1889fargo.com

701.809.5040 www.the1889fargo.com

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HOME

Words and photos

by Kitchen Refresh

There are several memories we all can conjure up when we think of personal family time and gathering as a group. As the designer for Kitchen Refresh, my memories always filter to food spreads down the center of an island or sideboard, my grandma Helen’s apple pie that none of us in the family have been able to duplicate, and an endless amount of family and friends packed in the kitchen talking over one another. No one ever wanted to miss anything, and you would…if you weren’t in the kitchen!

With summer break coming to an end sooner than any of us up North want, and school starting around the corner, let’s face it – we are heading back into the kitchen. This might include homework at the kitchen island while multitasking and making dinner, then switching gears and hosting events during the autumn months. during the autumn months. Not only should our kitchens be comfortable and functional to handle all the events that occur in this space throughout the year, but they should also be beautiful! The kitchen can become an inviting space you want to be in and spend time with our family doing anything from longer conversations to game nights.

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Many homes have well-built cabinetry, but homeowners may be simply tired of the dated doors, counters, and hardware. Kitchen Refresh is a perfect solution to continue to use what you have, but updating it, while saving overall on the project. Are you in need of flooring, a tiled backsplash, new counters, or extra storage? Well, Kitchen Refresh does it all!

Contact us for a complimentary estimate and let the Kitchen Refresh team get you back into enjoying one of the busiest areas in your home!

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HEALTH

Words and imagery courtesy of Essentia Health

Dr. Stefanie Gefroh Ellison Essentia Health-Fargo Health is a lifelong journey, and gynecology care includes more than just Pap tests. Regular visits with your gynecological provider should be part of your life, from your teens until your later years.

“I encourage anyone with female reproductive health needs to see a gynecologist, a certified nurse-midwife or another provider annually, as well as when they have any specific questions or concerns,” said Dr. Stefanie Gefroh Ellison, associate chief medical officer at Essentia Health. “I love helping my patients through life transitions from puberty to fertility to menopause and beyond.”

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YOUR FIRST APPOINTMENT

Keep up with care in your 20s and 30s

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends adolescents see a gynecologist for the first time between ages 13 and 15.

This first visit is not necessarily for a pelvic exam, but to establish a relationship and discuss any concerns about puberty.

As women enter adulthood, regular gynecologic care is essential for their health. Your gynecologist can:

“Any teenager should see a women’s health care provider if they have questions about their period, have painful or heavy periods or have no periods by age 15,” explained Dr. Gefroh Ellison. “Teens should also see a gynecologist if they are sexually active. We can answer all your questions about sexual activity.”

Gynecologists can also help those younger than 13 who have started their period and are experiencing pain or other issues.

• Answer any questions about intimacy.

• Perform testing for sexually transmitted diseases and infections.

• Assist with family planning.

• Screen for cervical cancer.

• Treat common problems such as urinary tract infections (UTIs) and yeast infections.

• Treat conditions causing pelvic pain or other symptoms that may affect your sexual or physical well-being.

According to the United States Preventive Services Task Force, all women should get their first Pap test at age 21, followed by one every three years, to look for signs of cervical cancer.

The Pap/HPV co-test is an option for women starting at age 30 to look for signs of cervical cancer or HPV infection. You can also have the HPV test alone every five years starting at age 30.

“Women should also be tested for STIs annually or as needed from the time of their first sexual intercourse until age 25 and at their discretion thereafter,” said Dr. Gefroh Ellison. “Infections are very important to diagnose and treat, as some infections can be passed along to other partners, can affect fertility or be a lifelong issue.”

When you are ready to get pregnant, an obstetrician can help with preconception care and address any fertility issues.

Care in your 40s and beyond Most women start perimenopause, the transition to menopause, in their 40s. This stage usually lasts for several years until menopause, and many women experience an array of physical and emotional symptoms as their hormones shift. Gynecology providers can help treat common perimenopause symptoms such as: • • • • • • •

Heavy periods.

Hot flashes.

Mood changes.

Night sweats.

Sleep problems.

Urinary leakage.

Vaginal dryness.

“Perimenopause can be like ‘adult puberty’ — it’s a whole new set of symptoms that are very real and can impact a woman’s daily life,” explained Dr. Gefroh Ellison. “We can help patients navigate this new journey.”

Women with an average risk of developing breast cancer should also begin annual mam-

mograms at age 40. If you’re at high risk of developing breast cancer, work with your provider to determine the best screening plan for you.

Outside of screenings, it’s recommended that women of all ages practice self-breast awareness, which is knowing how your breasts normally look and feel.

After menopause, and regardless of sexual activity in your older years, you should continue to see a gynecologist, even after being cleared from regular Pap tests.

“Ovarian cancer, vulvar and vaginal cancers, vaginal prolapse and incontinence are common concerns for our postmenopausal patients,” Dr. Gefroh Ellison said. “Around 25% of women have pelvic floor disorders, which are more common as you age and can greatly impact quality of life.”

Vaginal pain during sex is also common after menopause but is treatable. Your provider can discuss treatment options such as vaginal lubricants, low-dose vaginal estrogen therapy and pelvic floor therapy.

CONNECT WITH US Menstruation, pregnancy, sex and menopause can affect a woman’s body in different ways. If you are wondering if what you are experiencing is normal, trust the expert gynecologists at Essentia Health to listen, answer your questions and support you during your care and treatment.

“I want every person to know there are no dumb questions,” said Dr. Gefroh Ellison. “Our main goal is to help you feel heard, validated and empowered when it comes to your health care.” [aw]

Whatever your age, our gynecological providers are here for you. To learn more about our gynecology services: visit EssentiaHealth.org

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18K Pink Gold, .28ctw Diamond Tresore Stretch Bracelet ($3,530) available at GUNDERSON'S JEWELERS, 5601 28th Ave S, Fargo, ND

The Do Good Collection features four scents that also include four positive messages.

With an updated look and two new scents, each falls into one of four scent categories: be kind (fresh & clean---new scent), choose joy (woody & earthy), give grace (sweet & spicy), and show love (floral---new scent).

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FAMILY

Back to school time includes not only the close out of the fun, recreation-filled summer months, but also an onset of activity. From school lists and procuring supplies, to back to school shopping and meeting teachers, kids are faced with a tremendous onslaught of tasks to complete, even before arriving for their first day of classes.

Although for some kids this is exciting and they eagerly await the first day of school, for many children and teens, this time of year produces high anxiety and fear. Some of this may be rooted in actual situations such as bullying, poor scholastic performance in the past, or other negative experiences, but often these feelings are not necessarily based in reality. Instead, they live in the world of ‘what if’ and that, especially in kids, can be a scary place.

“This time of year, we definitely see an uptick of anxiety and depression cases in kids and teens,” says River Haven Counseling Founder, Emily Althoff, LPCC, LMAC. “We have two new service providers, [RaeAnn Dooley and Alyssa Eichhorn], who are focused specifically in this area.” She goes on to state that parents sometimes struggle to find the right balance between supporting or

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accommodating their children while still pushing them to lean into the discomfort of growth.

Because kids present anxiety and depression in their own unique ways per individual, just like adults do, it can be difficult to discern what is a proper course of action.

Emily notes that parents can be looking for signs of possible back to school anxiety and depression by noticing: – School or task refusal: A child or teen may state they don’t want to go to school or that they simply aren’t going. Also, pushing back on chores or requested participation in family activities.

– Sleep disturbance: Difficulty going to sleep or getting up in the morning.

– Nervous behavior: Showing signs of heightened anxiety in terms of speech patterns, reactions to everyday situations, and attitude about anything school-related, such as crying when talking about returning to school.

– Depression masked as irritability, particularly in boys.

– Avoidance: A child or teen may avoid tasks or events, even if they are desirable, that feel unpredictable, novice, or require significant mental effort.

“It’s hard to pick up on what’s wrong exactly,” Emily adds, “especially in kids 12-14 years of age.

We can sometimes be hyper aware of their needs and other times we may pass things off as ‘typical for their age group’ and ignore signs of more serious issues.”

Although each situation is its own and not all techniques apply to all kids, Emily notes that being aware of a few tips can greatly increase knowledge and therefore potentially ensure success as a kid returns to school to start a new academic year.

1. Make things predictable. “Anxious people hate surprises!” Emily states. “Especially in years where a kid changes schools, anxiety can run very high because of all of the unknowns that come with this.” Talking through and normalizing situations can be key for a kid to feel more relaxed about day one of school. “Kids learn in stories,” she explains, “so sharing stories about your own experiences, including past fears, can make their feelings feel much more normal to them and hopefully lessen anxiety.”

Telling a child it’s okay to feel the way they do and that everyone gets the jitters about school sometimes may lessen their fear about facing new situations. Often, doing a school tour, reviewing class schedules, or assisting with identifying peers in your child’s class can also help with finding predictability in this new experience.

2. Figure out who a child’s supports are: Talk to kids about who supports them, who makes them comfortable, and whom they can talk to about their concerns. Just like in a job where there is group orientation, perhaps set up a playdate or meetup where kids interact with others who will be in their class(es). This is a great opportunity to not only establish some familiarity before school starts, but it also is a chance to make new friends. Teachers and school staff are also valuable resources here. Find out if your child connected with any teachers the previous year and make an effort to connect with them. Sometimes a special message from a staff can go a long way with helping a child/teen feel valued and seen.

3. Schedule a fun, positive activity either just as a family or perhaps with another family or two. Make it a group outing, such as to a pizza place, ice cream shop, or recreational event and let parents and kids get acquainted.

4. Celebrate the wins! Talk to kids about how they have worked through challenging feelings. When they find positive ways to go through challenges and apply new ways of thinking, reward this through affirmations. Words go a long way with kids and they remember (acutely) what is said to them, especially criticism or praise. Make a positive impact with your words of encouragement. They may not get it “right” immediately, but each step towards better mental health is cause for celebration.

5. Find out what they ARE excited about: Ask kids what aspects of school they do like, who their friends are, and what they want to learn this year. Even if a kid only likes recess, great. Perhaps that time outside soothes them and is the highlight of the day, respite from academics.

If you continue to see signs of anxiety and/or depression in a child or teen as the school year goes on, consider seeking help. By helping them understand their emotions, they can open up to learning new coping mechanisms that are healthy and that will ground them mentally. This way, they are better equipped in the future when faced with new experiences. River Haven Counseling has highly trained staff to support your child, and you, if you encounter difficult terrain this school year. [aw]

To find out more information, visit riverhavenfargo.com or call 701-566-0204

Emily Althoff, LPCC, LMAC Owner, River Haven Counseling

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STORY

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“I could have been a Jeremiah Program mom. I

When Laetitia spoke about her native Burundian

was a single mom for 16 years, two before mov-

culture, she reminisced about the fact that it is an-

ing to the US and the rest while living in Fargo,”

chored in the certainty that collectivity is every-

said Laetitia Mizero Hellerud as she explained her

thing. “One cannot define themselves outside of

background with Jeremiah Program Fargo-Moor-

their larger human family. Such belief cemented

head campus. Her eyes sparkled with love for the

my sense of responsibility from a young age,” she

moms and children they partner with as she stat-

said. Laetitia strongly believes that taking care of

ed, “If I had known about this program, I would

your community is a duty, and joining Jeremiah

have moved anywhere in the US to be a part of

Program to support hard-working single moms

such sisterhood. Juggling a family, college and

on their journey to economic mobility was an

family is challenging. I know it because I have

easy decision.

lived it.”

Jeremiah Program’s name was inspired by the Bible verse Jeremiah 29:11. “Although The Jeremiah Program is not a faith-based organization, our mission stems from values of service and loving one’s neighbor. These values are the cornerstone of many ancient cultural beliefs, native American wisdoms and are also upheld by most holy books, if not all. The organization believes single moms experiencing poverty should not have to choose between taking care of their children and bettering themselves. “We start with reminding them that they are already great moms and the best architects of their family's lives,” said Laetitia.

Laetitia is the current Executive Director of Jeremiah Program (“JP”) and can identify with JP moms because her own journey as a single mom had been full of difficulties. She was resettled to the USA as a refugee when she was in her late 20s.

When she arrived in Fargo, she was caring for her four younger siblings and one small child of her own. “I was born in Burundi, east-central Africa, and migrated to the United States 26 winters ago by way of France, Rwanda, and Burkina Faso,” said Laetitia. “It took strength, dedication, hard work, and an undying spirit of never giving up getting where I am in life today, one challenge at a time.” Laetitia would later have another child, go back to school to earn a graduate degree, start an intercultural consulting business, and also publish a couple of books along the way. She also met her husband, Mark, a lawyer and farmer from

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Ada, Minnesota.

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"It took strength, dedication, hard work, and an undying spirit of never giving up getting where I am in life today, one challenge at a time.”

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Laetitia shared that even though most of the moms at JP might not relate to the refugee experience, most of them probably have dealt with heartache, the pain of starting over in life, and experienced the magic of not giving up. "I connect with them so naturally because I, like them, know what it takes to make a U-turn in life, no matter the reasons or circumstances and thrive as a result of hard work and support. I do believe in being vulnerable when sharing about my journey because it's easy for anyone, including JP moms, to see me in this seat as an Executive Director now, and forget that the path to get here was long and tumultuous. I am here as a result of many starts and stops over several years. I also had a village of helpers all along the way.” said Laetitia.

About Jeremiah Program: The Jeremiah Program is a national nonprofit organization that’s impacting the lives of single mothers who are college students and their children. JP has nine locations. It was founded by Michael J. O’Connell (who was then the Rector of the Basilica of Saint Mary in downtown Minneapolis) as well as other committed community members in the Twin Cities 26 years ago. “He was a visionary who saw the complex needs of single mom families in the Minneapolis area and who viewed college education as a significant lever to support them and improve their future.” said Laetitia. “JP’s mission is to disrupt the cycle of poverty for single mothers and their children, two-generations at a time.”

“

"I connect with them so naturally because I, like them, know what it takes to make a U-turn in life, no matter the reasons or circumstances, and thrive as a result of hard work and support."

Laetitia Mizero Hellerud

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JP moms and their children with Laetitia (L-R: Clisha, Laetitia, Tory)

The Fargo-Moorhead campus opened doors in

The moms who live at the Jeremiah Program

2018, although programming itself started in

campus are pursuing their education while their

2014. “We have 20 - two and three bedroom ful-

children are supported through a high quality

ly furnished apartments where moms and their

onsite early childhood education program. “Most

children live. These units are subsidized, and the

children who are born into poverty don’t have ac-

moms pay 30 % of their income. We also have

cess to quality early childhood education. When

off-campus moms in the Fargo-Moorhead com-

mothers must choose between putting food on

munity who already have safe and affordable

the table, paying rent, or fixing the car, preschool

housing,” said Shonna Severson, Program Coordi-

education isn’t always achievable. One of the

nator at Jeremiah Program.

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choice between getting ahead in life and taking care of their families' needs. Because of the partnership with JP, they can go to college, work and take care of their kids.” said Laetitia.

JP moms don’t have to work to be in the program, but most do. To be a participant in JP, one must be at least 18 years of age, have a high school diploma or equivalent, be pregnant or have at least one child under the age of five, have a commitment to attend college, and meet with a JP coach twice a month. Additionally, applicants must have at least 50% custody of their child or children and they must complete a 12 week pre-requisite course called Empowerment and Leadership.

"One of the reasons our program exists is to make sure that single moms don't have to make the impossible choice between getting ahead in life and taking care of their families' needs."

“

Laetitia Mizero Hellerud

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JP moms and staff + their children with Laetitia (L-R: Jolene, Clisha, Tory, Laetitia, Mya)

The Bottom Line

CONTACT US Jeremiah Program Fargo - Moorhead 3104 Fiechtner Drive South Fargo, North Dakota 58103 (701) 793-5616

“I go to bed every night knowing that I am truly where I belong,” said Laetitia. When asked what her favorite thing is about working at JP, she re-

day by the children in the building, the beautiful

plied, “Being part of an organization that is inter-

energy they bring, the endless hugs, and the pro-

ested in public policy and systems change is my

found interactions she has with the moms daily.

favorite part. Supporting JP families by providing

FargoMoorhead@JeremiahProgram.org www.jeremiahprogram.org/fargo-moorhead FIND US ON SOCIAL MEDIA Facebook: @JeremiahProgramFargoMoorhead Instagram: @Jeremiah_FargoMoorhead

housing, childcare, coaching, etc., is important

Twenty moms have successfully graduated from

and necessary. However, the long game leading to

college and JP Fargo-Moorhead in the six years

societal impact is in policy and systems change.

since first opening doors. Those mothers not

That's what excites me the most. We need both

only drastically improved the trajectory of their

Laetitia and the dedicated team of professionals

direct support and better systems that work for

family’s lives but are also making an impact in

at JP. Jeremiah Program and the partners invest-

all.” Laetitia also shared that she is reminded dai-

their respective communities and in the world.

ing in its mission are making a difference that

ly why she chose to be at JP. She is inspired every

Each college graduation cycle is very fulfilling for

permeates through future generations. [aw]

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Watermelon is a staple of summer fare; let’s hang onto this glorious season just a bit longer by making this light, refreshing sorbet full of juicy watermelon flavor! Add watermelon, yogur t, milk , honey, and lime to a blender. Blend until smooth. Divide out frozen sorbet and ser ve. Top with sea salt if using.

1/2 cup milk 4T honey or to taste Juice from one lime Pinch of salt (flake)

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BOOKS

There is something special about sharing books with those you love.

These are stories about family, but also those you can share and discuss with your own family from children to grandparents.

The Lost Library

by Rebecca Stead and Wendy Mass

Picture Book

Watercress

by Andrea Wang, illustrated by Jason Chin Gathering watercress by the side of the road brings a girl closer to her family’s heritage. This beautiful picture book is filled with meaning and emotion reflected by the stunning illustrations that heighten the message of understanding.

Driving through Ohio, a young girl’s parents stop suddenly to gather watercress growing wild by the side of the road. As the whole family wades into the muck to collect the muddy plants, the girl is embarrassed. Why can’t they get food from the grocery store like everyone else? But when her mother shares a story of her family’s time in China, the girl learns to appreciate the fresh food they foraged.

Middle Grade Ages 8-12

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Andrea Wang tells a moving autobiographical story of a child of immigrants discovering and connecting with her heritage. The emotions the young girl experiences will be familiar to kids who have felt embarrassment, shame and anger.

But these eventually turn to empathy, compassion and pride in her family’s culture and heritage.

In the small town of Martinville, a little free library suddenly appears overnight guarded by a large orange cat. Eleven-year-old Evan picks two weathered books from its shelves, never suspecting that they will lead to a mystery that will uncover family secrets and change his life.

Evan and his best friend Rafe quickly discover a link in one of the books to a long-ago event that none of the grown-ups want to talk about. As they start asking questions and discovering clues, the answers they find will transform the town itself.

Told in turn by Evan, a ghost librarian called Al, and an orange cat named Mortimer, this is a timeless story about choosing the life you want and the power of a good book.

Kids will get swept up in the mystery with Evan as he uncovers clues. Everyone will enjoy the quirky characters, the townspeople who come and go to the little free library, and the cat who guards the books.

Loved this?

“The Eyes and the Impossible” by Dave Eggers has a cast of animal characters that will entrance readers and a story that feels timeless.

Thieves’ Gambit

by Kayvion Lewis If your teens (or you!) are fans of “The Inheritance Games” or “Ocean’s Eleven” they will love this cinematic heist thriller where a cutthroat competition brings together the world’s best teenage thieves.

Born into a legendary thieving family, seventeen year old master thief Rosalyn Quest is especially adept at escape plans. Until her plan to run away takes an unexpected turn leaving her mother’s life hanging in the balance. In desperation, she enters the Thieves’ Gambit, a series of dangerous international heists where killing the competition isn’t exactly off limits, but the grand prize is a wish for anything in the world — the only thing that could save her mom.

When Ross meets the other competitors — including her childhood nemesis — she is instantly drawn to the smooth-talking, handsome Devroe.

But winning the Gambit becomes trickier than she imagined as she has to decide who to con and who to trust before time runs out.

As each heist gets more challenging, twists and turns keep the reader on their toes. I also enjoyed the group of friends Ross found amidst the competition.

Loved this?

If you’re looking for another thrilling mystery with family secrets and friends who come together, pick up “The Rosewood Hunt” by Mackenzie Reed.

Young Adult

Did I Ever Tell You?

Nonfiction

by Genevieve Kingston

Fiction

This extraordinary memoir tells the story of a mother’s last gifts to her daughter, and the wisdom and love she bestowed upon her from beyond the grave.

thirties now and three unopened boxes remain: engagement, marriage and first baby. Two decades after her passing, Gwen’s mother’s extraordinary efforts created a lifelong conversation.

When Genevieve (Gwen) Kingston was three years old, her mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. During the next eight years of her life, she filled a chest with gifts and letters to Gwen and her brother, Jamie, for every major milestone and birthday through age thirty. From getting her driver’s license to graduating high school, something from her mother is there to celebrate each special event from beyond the grave. Gwen is in her

A gorgeously written mother-daughter story about family and legacy. A family splintered by grief and mental illness; the story of a young woman’s navigation through both. I was riveted as Gwen opened the things her mother left her. The letters are heartbreakingly raw, honest, and so full of love I could feel every emotion through the page. As Gwen’s mother declares in a particularly powerful letter, “love is stronger than death.”

Family Family

by Laurie Frankel The one thing India Allwood knows for sure is that family isn’t always blood, but it is complicated. “Not all stories of adoption are stories of pain and regret. Not even most of them. Why don’t we ever get that movie?”

India grew up wanting to be an actor. From awkward sixteen-year-old to Broadway star to TV superhero, she worked hard to make that dream come true. Her new movie is about adoption, but it's the same old tired story of tragedy. In real life, India is an adoptive mom and she wants everyone to know there’s more to her family than pain and regret.

When she tells a journalist the truth — it’s a bad movie — a media storm has India battling accusations from every direction. Her twin ten-year-olds know they need help and who better to call than family? But that’s where it gets really messy because India’s not just an adoptive mother…

A fresh perspective on family, this is a must read for family of all kinds, not just adopted ones.

Area Woman’s resident Bookista, Megan Elgin, serves you up with books worthy of spending your entire afternoon with. Search for Megan by name on Goodreads or @meganann on Litsy and find out what she’s reading now.

Read one of these books? Searching for something new to read? Tell us what you thought by using #areawomanbooks in your online review or send me an email with requests, thoughts or questions at bookishmeganann@gmail.com.

Loved this?

For another story about a complicated family finding their way, pick up “Long After We Are Gone” by Terah Shelton Harris.

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SEPT YWCA CHOCOLATE FOR CHANGE New name, same sweet and spicy event!

YWCA’s Chocolate for Change event is sweet, spicy, and helps women and children in our community! On Thursday, September 5 from 11:00am – 2:00pm, join attendees of all ages at Delta by Marriott for lunch and all your event favorites: •Delicious desserts from local businesses abound - from tortes and cheesecake to brownies and fudge. Sample as many as you like! •Savory chili makes the perfect lunch for connecting with friends, coworkers, and neighbors. •Silent auction items and highend raffle prizes line the ballroom – with mobile bidding to keep you connected to hot items you’re hoping to buy. •Celebrity servers including athletes, television and radio personalities, local law enforcement, and many more familiar faces serving up desserts with a smile. Gather your family, friends, and

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coworkers for this fun-filled event--pop in on a quick break or stick around for a while!

Can’t attend for lunch? Order a dessert box for pick up, or shop the online silent auction starting Friday, August 30 at ywcacassclay. org. It’s more than just chocolate — with every bite, you change a life. The purchase of a ticket, dessert box, or silent auction item at YWCA Chocolate Fantasy is a special way to show your support for YWCA Cass Clay, which serves over 300 adults and children each day through shelter, housing, and supportive services. Tickets and dessert box pre-order on sale starting in late July. Online silent auction opens August 30.

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FARGO MASONIC VENDOR & CRAFT SHOW

Come to the vendor & craft show and support small businesses. The show will be from 11-3 and lunch will be served from 11-1. It all takes place at the Fargo Masonic Center, 1405 3rd St N Fargo.

TIME: 11-3 PM LOCATION: Fargo Masonic Center

1405 3rd St N Fargo CONTACT: www.fargomasoniccenter.

org, fargomasoniccenter@gmail.com

TIME: 11am to 2pm LOCATION: Delta by Marriott

1635 42nd St S, Fargo CONTACT: chocolate@ywcacassclay.org

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THE DINNER DETECTIVE FARGO

Message: The Dinner Detective invites YOU to join us for a night full of mystery and mayhem with lots of laughs along the way! Everyone is a SUSPECT and the crime could be happening right at YOUR table! No cheesy costumes, no hokey song and dance. Based on actual cold cases, prizes are available for the TOP SLEUTH. Get your tickets now before it's too late!

TIME: 6:00 PM LOCATION: Four Points by Sheraton Fargo 5064 23rd Avenue South, Fargo, ND. 58104 CONTACT: www.thedinnerdetective.com/fargo, fnd. info@thedinnerdetective.com, 866-496-0535

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F5 PROJECT FARGO GOLF OPEN Ready to swing into action for a great cause?

Join us at our Fargo F5 Golf Open and drive change one putt at a time! This charity golf tournament helps benefit the programs and resources provided by F5 Project which exists to disrupt the cycle of crime, addiction, and isolation through individualized care that fosters resilience and provides hope.

TIME: 12:00PM LOCATION: Moorhead Country Club

2101 N River Dr Moorhead, MN 56560 CONTACT: Rachael Bye

701-317-1777 or rachael@f5project.org

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August 1, 8, 15, 22 & 29

August 12

THURSDAY LEARNING GARDEN SESSIONS AT CARLSON 10 a.m.

TEA TIME BOOK CLUB 6:30 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library Garden 2801 32nd Ave. S. Contact Nancy Jones at nkjones@fargolibrary.org Aug 1 & 15 and Sept 5 & 19

BABY RHYME TIME AT CARLSON 10 a.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, ND 58103 701.241.1495 Aug 6, 13, 20 & 27 CHESS CLUB 5 p.m.

Main Library 101 4th St North 701.476.5977

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. 701.476.5980 August 13

SCHOOL SUPPLY BINGO AT NORTHPORT 11 a.m.

Northport Library 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo 701.241.1495 August 13

SCHOOL SUPPLY BINGO AT CARLSON 2 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo 701.241.1495 August 17

Aug 8, 15, 22 & 29

BEGINNER YOGA FOR ADULTS 6 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, ND 58103 701.476.5980 Aug 8, and Sept 12

TODDLER/PRESCHOOL YOGA 10:00 a.m.

Main Library 101 4th St North Children's Services at 701.241.1495 or kids@fargolibrary.org Aug 12, and Sept 9

JIGSAW PUZZLE SOCIAL 9 a.m.

Main Library 101 4th St North 701.241.1492 August 20

SENIOR BOOK CLUB 1 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. 701.476.5980 Sept 7, 14, 21 & 28

FIRST AMENDMENT FILM FESTIVAL 2 p.m.

Main Library

TEA TIME BOOK CLUB 6:30 p.m. 101 4th St North Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. 701.476.5980 August 12

SCHOOL SUPPLY BINGO 11 a.m.

Main Library 101 4th St North 701.241.1495

701.241.1492

September 22 "DAKOTA 38" DOCUMENTARY SCREENING 2 p.m.

Main Library 101 4th St North www.fargolibrary.org or www.1book1community.org Fargo Public Library events are free and open to the public. A complete schedule of upcoming events is available at all Fargo Public Library locations and on our website at : www.fargolibrary.org

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Teacher Cadet Program Inspires Future Educators

By KRISTI MONSON

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Most school districts report being significantly affected by the teacher (84%) and substitute teacher (89%) shortage. One-third of new teachers leave the profession within five years. Statewide, 6.24% of Minnesota teachers are persons of color, while 40% of students are.

“Education is in a different world right now.

We’re not seeing as many young people enter the field, and the number of people leaving the profession after teaching only a few years is staggering,” said Moorhead High School (MHS) English teacher Jim MacFarlane.

These are a few discouraging findings in the 2023 Biennial Report Supply & Demand of Teachers in Minnesota, prepared by the Professional Educator Licensing and Standards Board.

“We know many of our school partners struggle year after year to hire teachers, but we also know there is a tremendous amount of talent and diversity right here in Fargo-Moorhead,” said Keri DeSutter, a

professor in Minnesota State University Moorhead’s (MSUM) School of Teaching and Learning (STL).

MSUM has enjoyed a collaborative relationship with Moorhead schools for many years, so when the idea of grow your own programming was discussed with district administration, they were all in. Teacher Cadet training for MSUM and MHS faculty helped focus the high school curriculum.

THIS PARTNERSHIP WITH MSUM HAS BEEN GREAT. OUR STUDENTS HAVE A FIRST-CLASS EDUCATION PROGRAM RIGHT HERE IN THEIR BACKYARD. THE MOST EXCITING THING FOR ME WILL BE THE DAY WHEN OUR STUDENTS WHO DISCOVERED THEIR PASSION FOR TEACHING COME TO WORK AT MOORHEAD PUBLIC SCHOOLS. – JIM MACFARLANE, MOORHEAD HIGH SCHOOL myself and learning styles so I can better understand other students.”

The program and a practicum at Liberty Middle School solidified MHS senior Taylor Lau’s interest in education.

“It was interesting to see the different levels kids are at in sixth, seventh, and eighth grades,” Lau said.

>> Ten of the 12 Moorhead High School students enrolled in the inaugural Teacher Cadet Program.

“All the teachers who participated in the training are exceptional and I am personally so impressed with Mr. MacFarlane’s commitment to the teaching profession, the concept of growing our own teachers, and especially his interest in diversifying the teaching profession,” DeSutter said.

The Teacher Cadet Program’s goals are to address regional teacher shortages, encourage more diversity in the profession, and expose high school students to teaching careers. MacFarlane, who has a master’s degree in curriculum and instruction from MSUM, teaches the course where students earn college credits.

She will major in elementary inclusive education when she enrolls at MSUM this fall.

>> Taylor Lau says helping people understand what they don’t know is why she’s leaning toward education.

“I like MSUM’s campus, and the North Star Promise is a great financial benefit. After touring campus and hearing from current education students, it solidified my decision to become a Dragon,” Lau said.

MacFarlane says the teaching practicum is the highlight of the class, where students get in and roll up their sleeves.

Six of the seven Teacher Cadet seniors are attending MSUM in the fall, including Jacklovitch, who says the middle school gym practicum and Mr. MacFarlane confirmed his interest in a teaching career.

“This class taught me so much about being a teacher, and Mr. MacFarlane is a great role model who has shared many inspiring stories about his career,” Jacklovitch said.

After initially enrolling in the class, MHS senior Colton Jacklovitch decided last summer to drop the class, but the school wouldn’t let him.

“It was a good thing because I learned that I am passionate about teaching,” Jacklovitch said. “More importantly, I learned about

>> Colton Jacklovitch will study physical and health education and minor in coaching at MSUM this fall.

“Our kids worked with some wonderful teachers who embraced them, taught them, and helped them out of the goodness of their hearts. This year couldn’t have gone any better,” he said.

The goal of attracting more and more diverse students into the profession – and into the community – may pay off. Twenty-five students are enrolled in the program this fall.

“This partnership with MSUM has been great,” MacFarlane said. “Our students have a first-class education program right here in their backyard. The most exciting thing for me will be the day when our students who discovered their passion for teaching come to work at Moorhead Public Schools.”

If you know a student interested in exploring a teaching career, invite them to MSUM’s Become a Teacher Day on Friday, Nov. 1, 2024, to hear from current teacher education students, sit in on a class, and experience MSUM’s beautiful campus. For more information, visit mnstate.edu/be-a-teacher. ■

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“When I was an RN, I worked in chronic disease in the ICU and then moved on to inpatient dialysis and outpatient dialysis. And nobody ever gets better in those situations. You see the worst of the worst all because of bad lifestyle choices,” said Nichole Lind, nurse practitioner and weight loss coach at Fire Flight Medical Group.

One of the major health issues that people struggle with most today is losing weight. Carrying excessive weight is excruciating on the body as it causes tremendous physical stress. Nichole knows what it feels like to have gained weight and struggled to lose it. “When I went to nurse practitioner school for the three years, I graduated and had another 15 pounds to drop on top of the 10-15 I already had to lose. For years I was trying to manage my body weight. I worked out two to three days a week. I had a personal trainer. I thought I was eating the right way.”

One of her nurse practitioner colleagues began working with a Medical Weight Loss Specialist.

“I'm only five feet tall. And at the time I think I was nearing 160 pounds, which I know in the grand scheme of things that doesn't seem like a lot. When you're slight in stature and frame, however, this isn’t ideal. I was starting to experience

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shortness of breath going up and down the stairs.

My cholesterol was getting high. My skin was bad. Something had to give. I reached out to my colleague and she told me I should really try the program. So I did,” said Nichole. “In the six to seven months following the program. I lost about 35 pounds and have maintained it throughout the years,” said Nichole.

The End of Healthy Food Industry There are three macronutrients that make up the food we eat: carbohydrates, protein, and fat.

The goal is to aim at eating more complex carbs instead of simple carbs. Complex carbohydrates take a longer time to digest in your body and they are a much more stable place to get energy from than what you’ll find in simple carbohydrates, which are found in junk foods like cakes, crackers, chips, or cookies.

Another thing to watch out for is the quality of ingredients in your food and harmful chemicals, like food coloring and ingredients you can’t pronounce. “There are about 98 to 150 different additives in our food that are sugar, but they’re called something else. I follow a nutritionist on Instagram. He posted a picture of Quaker strawberries and oats oatmeal in the US and also what you get in Europe. The ingredients list in Europe was whole oats, powdered cream, dried strawberries, and sugar. Then the American list had about 30 different ingredients that you couldn't even pronounce,” said Nichole.

Some other ways to improve your health:

Learn to Read Ingredient Labels It makes you wonder if that’s contributing to weight issues for children and adults as well as children’s behavior problems. It’s actually scary because Nichole mentioned how right now in the United States, one in four newly diagnosed typetwo diabetes cases are found in kids aged 13 to 18. “In the early 1980s, type two diabetes was unheard of in pediatric patients. There was juvenile diabetes, which is like type one where their body just didn't make enough insulin for whatever reason, but not type two,” said Nichole. In short, something has caused this, and poor food quality and choices are a major contributing cause.

Be Your Biggest Health Advocate It is of great importance that you take your health into your own hands. No one else is going to do it. “I don't feel that the pharmaceutical industry or the insurance industry have your best interests in mind,” Nichole said, “I'm not saying doctors and nurses don't care because I really believe that when we all go to school, we all go into it to see people improve and to help. But unfortunately, once you get into it, after a couple of years, you really find out who is really in control. You must practice based off of what insurance companies are going to pay for. You must practice based off of guidelines. Several of those bigger entities buy their research. They're paying people to influence the research. In fact, the food industry isn't helping us either; I believe it's trying to make us fat and unhealthy.”

There are times where pharmacies have called up Nichole’s nurse to ask, ‘You're prescribing this without prescribing a cholesterol medication.’

And we had no idea why they’d be asking us that. One time my nurse finally asked, ‘Why do I need to prescribe a cholesterol pill?’ “The caller actually point-blank said it’s because we don't get as much of a reimbursement back from the insurance company, unless the two medications are prescribed together. It is all a cash cow,” said Nichole.

Another important tool to have in your healthy-living tool belt is how to read ingredient labels, because many manufacturers can put whatever they want on the front of packages for advertising.

People need to watch for the total carbohydrates in their food, since all carbs turn into sugar. It might not taste sweet when you first put it into your mouth, but when it gets to your small intestines, your body breaks it down and metabolizes it into sugar. “You’ll also want to cut added sugars. Like super sweet, ultra-processed junk like ice cream, cakes, and those kinds of options. It’s a good place to start for people. Also, beverages account for 50% of our sugar intake” Food is the genetic coding for your body, and it keeps your whole system running correctly. Your body won’t continue to work as it should if you’re eating highly processed, chemical-filled junk— it isn’t real food. “I like telling people to think of themselves as a high-performance sports car.

You're this shiny, beautiful new Corvette. The dealership says you'll go from zero to 60 in 4.5 seconds. So, you drive yourself off the lot, you're racing around town, you get up to the gas pump, and you're like, holy cow, that gas is really expensive. You make a choice and you put the cheaper stuff in your tank, but now you're not going zero to 60 in 4.5 seconds. And now your engine light is coming on, and the fuel filter is clogged. Then, for whatever reason, we can't figure out what’s wrong. You’ve put the wrong fuel into your tank,” said Nichole.

Ways to Improve Your Health: Nichole shared some tips for improving your health and mentioned her segment on KFGO which airs every Tuesday morning at 7:40 AM. It’s called ‘Healthy Me, Healthy You’ and is a quick five-to-eight-minute segment where she talks about food and nutrition or different lifestyle factors that can improve your health.

• Measure your waist. If you’re a woman, it should measure less than 35 inches. (Put the tape measure about an inch or two above your belly button. It’s the narrowest part of your waist.) If you're measuring over 35 inches, that's a big sign that you might be insulin resistant. For men, it should measure less than 40.

• Pay attention to who pays for studies.

• Look for medical providers who listen to you and who have a focus in your area of need.

• Teach yourself how to read a label.

• Eat from the perimeter of the grocery store. Stay away from pre-packaged and bar-coded foods.

• Move your body. If you sit a lot for your day job, get up and move around every hour. Set an alarm on your phone to remind you to get up and move. The more you move, it’ll add up and will help lower your insulin sensitivity.

• Ask for a hemoglobin A1C and a fasting insulin level test at your doctor's office. They will ask you “Why do you want that? You're not a diabetic.” Just respond by saying: “Yes, I understand that, doctor, but my waist measures over 35 inches and I have high blood pressure.

Plus, I don't feel well. I'm tired all the time.”

And if they fight you on it, it might be time to find a new doctor.

• Don’t just pay attention to your weight. “Your scale is like a bad person who lies to you,” said Nichole.

Nichole's journey highlights the crucial connection between diet, lifestyle choices, and longterm health. By taking control of her own health and sharing her knowledge, she inspires others to make informed choices and advocate for their well-being in a world where the food and pharmaceutical industries often prioritize profit over health. [aw] For information: FIrefly Medical Group | Nichole Lind, NP Nurse Practitioner, Weight Loss Coach nlind@fireflymedical.net 701-757-1440 | fireflymedical.net 5189 44th St. S., Fargo, ND 58104 [AW] August / September 24 :: 65

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