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Emergency Help and Support, Numbers

Alcohol Drug Mainline 0800 787 797 Alcohol Drug Maori Line 0800 787 798 Alcohol Drug Pacifica Line 0800 787 799 Alcoholics Anonymous 0800 229 67 57 AIDS Hotline 0800 802 437 Asthma Respiratory Management 07 577 6738 Breast Screen Aoteara Free: Age 45-69 0800 270 200 BOPSASS (Bay of Plenty Sexual Assault Support Service) 0800 227 233 Cancer Society Tga 07 571 2035 Café Youth Health 07 378 3895 Children's helpline 0800 WHATSUP 0800 9428 787 Citizen Advice Bureau 0800 367 222 Cot Death (sudden infant death support) 0800 16 44 55 Depression Helpline 0800 111 757 Diabetes Helpline Tga 0 7 571 3422 Epilepsy Association of New Zealand Inc 07 579 6091 Epilepsy Help Line: 0800 374 537 Family Violence Information Line 0800 456 450 Family Planning Tga 07 578 8539 Family Works 07 575 9709 Gambling Crisis Helpline 0800 654 655 Grandparents Raising Grandchildren.

021 2255108 Gender Bridge Inc (transgender support) 0800 844 357 Grief Support Services 07 578 44 80 Healthline (open 24/7) 0800 611 116 Healthline 0800 611 116 Kids line (Kids up to 14yrs) 0800 543 754 Lifeline New Zealand 24hr 0800 543 354 La Leche (Breastfeeding Support) Tga 07 544 9817 National Cervical Screening Programme 0800 729 729 Narcotics Anonymous 0800 628 632 Nemms Needle Exchange Mt Maunganui 07 575 5922 NetSafe 0508 638 723 Open Home (Child, Family Support Foster Care) Tga 07 579 2840 Parent Help 0800 568 856 Prisoner Aid/Rehabilitation offender/family Turangi 07 386 8246 Pregnancy Counselling Service 0800 773 462 Prostate problem support line 0800 477 678 Plunketline 0800 933 922 Quitlin 0800 778 778 Relationship Services 0800 735 283 Rural Support Trust 0800 787 254 Samaritans (open 24/7) 0800 726 666 Suicide Crisis Helpline (open 24/7) 0508 828 865 Shine Domestic Violence helpline 0508 744 633 Shakti Ethnic Women’s Support 0800 742 584 Sexual Abuse Centre (Rotorua) Inc 07 348 1555 Stroke Foundation 0800 787 653 Tauranga Living Without Violence 0800 577 003 Tauranga Moana Victim Support 0800 842 846 Te Whare Oranga Wairua Maori Women’s Refuge 0800 733 843 Telefriend Sight Loss Peer Support 0800 100 051 Toughlove 0800 868 445 Union of fathers (separation and support) 0508 22 5532 Victim Support 0800 842 846 Women’s Refuge 0800 86 733 84 Tga 07 541 1911 What’s Up (Age 5-18) 0800 942 878 Western Bay of Plenty Ostomy Society Inc, help line 07-5737443 Youth line Phone Counselling 0800 376 633

Emergencies: Mobile Phone Report Traffic Incidents Fire, Police, Ambulance

* 555 111

Medical: Accident & Healthcare (Tga) Hospital (Tauranga)

07 577 0010 07 579 8000

Tauranga Police Station: Monmouth Street Tauranga 07-577 4300 Mount Maunganui Police Station: Salisbury Avenue 07-575 3143 New Zealand Police - Greerton, 244 Chadwick Rd 07-578 3460 Papamoa Police Station: 530 Papamoa Beach Road 07 572 2440

Bridge Lessons - beginners - starting Thursday 9th March, evenings, Mount Maunganui Bridge Club, 60 Golf Road. For details see our website www.mount-maunganui.bridge-club.org or ring for further info, Anne on 07 572 5522 or 021 08295766 or Bren on 0272 560774

Moon Phases Tuesday 02nd May 2017 First Quarter

Wednesday 10th May 2017 Full Moon

Thursday 18th May 2017 Last Quarter

Thursday 25th May 2017 New Moon

SEASONS

Summer December - February Autumn March - May Winter June - August Spring September - November MONTHS OF THE YEAR January 31 Days February 28 Days March 31 Days April 30 Days May 31 Days June 30 Days July 31 Days August 31 Days September 30 Days October 31 Days November 30 Days December 31 Days February 29 Leap Year Every Four Years 0100 = 01am 0200 = 02am 0300 = 03am 0400 = 04am 0500 = 05am 0600 = 06am 0700 = 07am 0800 = 08am 0900 = 09am 1000 = 10am 1100 = 11am 1200 = 12 o clock (Mid Day) 1300 = 01pm 1400 = 02pm Eg: 1415 = 2.15pm 1500 = 03pm 1530 = 3.30pm 1600 = 04pm 1645 = 4.45pm 1800 = 06pm 1700 = 05pm 1900 = 07pm 2000 = 08pm 2100 = 09pm 2200 = 10pm 2300 = 11pm 2400 = 12 o clock (Midnight)

CC’s MAY HOROSCOPES Aries 21 March –20 April This is a time that you may need to make changes in your life. You are ready for challenges. Your attitude needs to stay positive to accomplish your goals.

Move forward with caution the time is right.

Taurus 21 April -21 May You seem to have plenty of work around you at the moment. However you do need to know when to say enough and take a break. You may be dealing with past actions putting them in place in your life.

Gemini 22 June - 22 July Take a step back and look rationally at your life. Your out goings may be more than your incoming. A Tidy up is needed. Time to focus and get your plans working. Little by little is good, take careful steps, there is no rush.

Cancer 22 June - 22 July Energy may come and go some calm and quite time won’t do any harm.

Obstacles keep crossing your path. It may not seem you are gaining ground.

Keep positive and moving forward it will soon fall into place.

Leo 25 July - 25 August You have a strong care for others. Watch that you don’t take too much on and run yourself low. Take some time to think about your own personal life and goings on. You have good judgement but be aware as there may be challenges on your path to walk.

Virgo 24 August– 25 September This month brings opportunities with plenty of success and possibilities.

Choose wisely and don’t forget to focus on family matters which are easily put aside. Push all the boundaries this could be a good month for you where you reap the benefit of your efforts.

Libra 24 September - 25 October This is a month where you may not be in the right frame of mind to make the correct decision. If possible put things aside until you feel time is right. Start planning and make that desire for travel happen.

Scorpio 24 October - 22 November Your social life is busy and you may find yourself looking at alternative life styles with new friends with new ideas. Getting the right balance of work and play may tend to be a bit difficult.

Sagittarius 25 November - 21 December You are a person who take risks. With positive thinking you can go a long way. A domestic decision needs your attention, you may become a sounding board for a family member. A weekend away with friends would be good for you.

Capricorn 22 December - 20 January Think carefully before you enter into or sign any contracts. Keep your ears open to good advice Assistance arrives from unexpected places that will help you with dealings with money. Stay positive with challenges.

Aquarius 21 January - 19 February Family is important to you at this time. Take some time out of the pressures in life and let yourself relax and unwind. Personal relationships need your attention. Time to clean up a few issues that are hanging around you. Time to stop sweeping things under the mat.

Pisces 20 February - 20 March Don’t let opportunities pass you by, being in the right place at the right time will benefit you. Romance is in the air for some Pisces. Take a chance and see what develops.

Bay of Plenty Sexual Assault Support Services (known as BOPSASS) BOPSASS is a free 24 hours service in the Bay of Plenty for adults, teenagers & children who have been sexually assaulted.

We have staff based in Tauranga and Whakatane. If you would like to talk to one of our nurses or counsellors about what has happened to you, and what we can do to help you, then please

contact us. We know it takes courage to ask for help.

You are not alone. 0800 227 233 … 27/7

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DISCLAIMER: All efforts have been taken to see that all information within this News Letter is

correct. No responsibility will be accepted for any inaccuracies, misuse or misinterpretation of wrongful information. All information given and provided should be used as a guide only .

DISCLAIMER (Daylight Saving Times R included) Time tables are a guide only.

All efforts have been taken to see that these times and tides are correct.

No responsibility will be accepted for any inaccuracies or misuse or wrong information.

Hello Everyone … Editor’s Blurb

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Well we have had some rather challenging weather to cope with. A special thought goes out to the Edgecombe community that have had extreme flooding damaging many family homes and personal belongings.

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Cindy CC’s News Letter Phone: 021 501 200

Just a wee reminder to not forget Mothers Day 14th May. It’s not all about the gifts, its about spending valuable time together. A mum would far rather have your time than you spend money you don’t have. Clear your calendar for mummy time.

It’s the start of Winter 01st June, don’t get too down on the thought of this it’s only three months and we will be into spring. Just a reminder do a check on your electrical gear, check the cords and see heaters are clean from dust. Always place heaters in a safe place when using them.

The Shortest Day 21st June only a few weeks away Take care everyone …. Until next month

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Daylight Saving Ends 02nd April 2017 …... Daylight Saving Starts 24th September 2017

Public Holidays/Other 2017

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School Term Dates 2017 Primary, Intermediate Secondary

New Years Day: 1st Sunday January New Years Day: Observed 2nd Monday January New Years Day: Day After NY 3rd Tuesday January Waitangi Day: Monday 6th February 2017 Term1 Autumn 01st March 2017 Monday 30 January 2017 St Patrick Day 17th March (Not a Holiday) 2017 And Tuesday 7 February Daylight Saving Ends 02nd April 2017 Thursday 13th April 2017 Good Friday: Friday 14th April 2017 Easter Day Sunday 16th April 2017 Term 2 Easter Monday: Monday 17th April 2017 Monday 01st May Anzac Day: Tuesday 25th April 2017 Friday 07th July 2017 Mothers Day 14th May (Not a Holiday) 2017 Term 3 Winter 01st June 2017 Queens Birthday: Monday 05th June 2017 Monday 24th July 2017 Shortest Day 21st June 2017 Friday 29th September 2017 Spring 01st September 2017 Daylight Saving Starts 24th September 2017 4th Term Labour Day: Monday 23rd October 2017 Monday 16th October 2017 Summer 01st December 2017 20th December 2017 Longest Day 22nd December 2017 Secondary & Composite Christmas Day: Monday 25th December 2017 Boxing Day: Tuesday 26th December 2017 Wednesday

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Anniversaries / Symbols

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Gender Signs

First Anniversary Cotton ♂ male ♀ female Second Anniversary Paper Third Anniversary Leather ⚦ transgender, transsexual, alchemical Fourth Anniversary Fruit & Flower symbol for iron or crocus of iron Fifth Anniversary Wood ⚲ neuter, eunuch Sixth Anniversary Sugar ⚪asexuality; genderless; betrothed.

Seventh Anniversary Wool (⚨ ⚩ alchemical symbol for iron) Eighth Anniversary Pottery Sex Relations Signs Ninth Anniversary Willow Tenth Anniversary Tin ⚤ heterosexual Eleventh Anniversary Steel ⚢ lesbian, female homosexuality Twelfth Anniversary Fine linen & silk ⚣ gay, male homosexuality Fourteenth Anniversary Ivory ⚥ bisexuality Fifteenth Anniversary Crystal Twentieth Anniversary China ⚧ transgender sexuality, hermaphrodite Twenty-Fifth Anniversary Silver/Coral (in entomology).

Fortieth Anniversary Ruby two men holding hands Forty-Fifth Anniversary Sapphire two women holding hands Fiftieth Anniversary Gold Fifty-fifth Anniversary Emerald Marriage Status Signs Sixtieth Anniversary Diamond ⚭ Married ⚮ Divorced ⚯ Separated Seventieth Anniversary Platinum

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Sold Your Home Now Avoid Post Move Clutter 1. Unpack And Set Up One Room At A Time You might feel like you have to get everything done at once, but that will get you frustrated in a hurry.

Remember to take it slow. Unpack one room at a time, such as a bedroom. Place the bed, dresser and other basic furniture in the room. Add heavier items such as free-standing wardrobes only if the remaining space will permit them. This avoids wasting time removing items from the room after unpacking. This also allows you to see what the room needs to complete the décor, such as curtains, rugs, mirrors and other items. Set up a consistent pace and stick to it.

2. Use What You Already Have Too Fill the New Space Wait to go shopping for new things until after you unpack for at least a couple of weeks. You may have items in boxes that will fit the new space you have in home. No one wants to buy more of what they already have, so unpack all those boxes before you do any shopping.

Dressers, beds, cabinets and more can be reused in your new home. A fresh coat of paint and perhaps new hardware can make old furniture look new again.

3. Organise Your Storage Sometimes you just have too much stuff. Not every new home will accommodate all of your belongings. Be sure to organise your storage spaces in way to maximize the amount of belongings you can store. Extra furniture, seasonal clothing, holiday items and more can be stored until needed. This reduces clutter around your home. Your new space will feel comfortable and less stressful.

4. Have a Garage Sale After a few months of living in your new home, consider having a garage sale to dispose of items you no longer use. Get rid of all the old junk that’s just taking up space. This could include electronics, lawn equipment, seasonal clothing, furniture or other items. The money can help offset the costs of living in a new home. Hosting a garage sale is a great way to get rid of clutter. If there are items that go unsold at the garage sale, there is always the option to donate unused items. Consider tossing old junk or clutter that is altogether useless. Also try selling your stuff online. It’s a great and easy alternative to a garage sale.

Phone 0800 22 28 24 for a free consultation if you need a hand.

Adoption When we talk about Adoption from the adoptee’s perspective, we are talking about abandonment and loss. In her book “The Primal Wound” Nancy Newton Verrier describes the separation of mother and child at birth as profound and the effects for the child as being life-long.

The Adoptee is in effect, severely traumatised at birth. The double whammy is that this trauma is not acknowledged by the new parents or society at large. This leaves the adoptee with a huge internal conflict in the early years of life. The adoptee “feels” like something is profoundly wrong but is told by everyone around them that everything is fine. On top of that there is often a message that one should be so very grateful to have been saved from a potentially terrible life.

All in all the adoptee is faced with trauma, conflicting messages and internal conflict during the most important years of brain development.

I am an Adoptee who can tell you first hand that the effects of adoption are life-long. I have tried to ignore or deny the feelings of loss and grief that I experience every day. This was crazy making.

I have also found that even the most caring and empathetic non adoptees often just don’t get it.

For this reason I have started a support group for adoptees here in Tauranga. There are lots of us. I was adopted in 1969 and that year alone over 4000 other babies were adopted.

Come and share your adoption story and listen to others.

We meet every second Thursday at 6 pm Oyster Catcher room, Arataki Community Centre Zambuk Way Bayfair.

Contact Scott 0275656459

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“Before you put on a frown, make absolutely sure there are no smiles available.” » Jim Beggs Wikihow.com our mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer. —— William S. Burroughs Become the designer of your life live your dreams.

“It doesn’t matter where you are, you are nowhere compared to where you can go.”– Bob Proctor If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living. -Gail Sheehy “Accept responsibility for your life.

Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. Jimmy Dean “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” ― George Bernard Shaw

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A guy walks into a bar and sees a beautiful woman sitting alone.

He says, "Can I buy you a drink?"

She replies, "Yes, but it won't do you any good."

Later he asks, "May I buy you another drink?"

"Yes," she responds, "but it won't do you any good."

After a few drinks, he decides to ask her to his apartment.

Again, she replies, "Yes, but it won't do you any good."

In his apartment he turns to her and says, "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I want you for my wife."

She replies, "Ohhhhh, THAT'S a different story!! Bring her on out!!!"

What is the meaning of etc. - end of thinking capacity When I see ads on TV with smiling, happy housewives using a new cleaning product, the only thing I want to buy are the meds they must be on.

An exasperated mother, whose son was always getting into mischief, finally asked him "How do you expect to get into Heaven?"

The boy thought it over and said, "Well, I'll run in and out and in and out and keep slamming the door until St. Peter says, 'For Heaven's sake, Dylan, come in or stay out!'"

My wife had her driver's test the other day. She got 8 out of 10.

The other 2 guys jumped clear.

A young man and his date were parked on a back road some distance from town. They were about to have sex when the girl stopped. “I really should have mentioned this earlier, but I’m actually a hooker and I charge $20 for sex.” The man reluctantly paid her, and they did their thing. After a cigarette, the man just sat in the driver’s seat looking out the window. “Why aren’t we going anywhere?” asked the girl. “ Well, I should have mentioned this before, but I’m actually a taxi driver, and the fare back to town is $25…”

Cheddar Carbonara INGREDIENTS

salt 1 lb. spaghetti 8 oz. bacon, cut into 1/2”slices 2 Eggs, room temperature 2 egg yolks, room temperature 1 1/2 c. grated white cheddar 1/2 c. grated Parmesan Freshly ground black pepper 2 tbsp. Freshly Chopped Parsley In a large pot of salted boiling water, cook pasta according to package directions.

Drain, reserving 1 cup pasta water, and return to pot.

In a separate bowl, combine eggs, Cheddar, Parmesan, 1/2 tsp salt, 1/2 tsp black pepper and mix well with a fork. Set aside.

In a large skillet over medium heat, cook bacon until crispy, 5 to 7 minutes. Using a slotted spoon, transfer bacon to a bowl without draining the fat. Return skillet to medium heat and add 1/2 cup pasta water. Turn off heat.

Drain pasta and add to skillet. Stir in cheese mixture and parsley, tossing with tongs to evenly coat the pasta and prevent the eggs from scrambling.

Add additional pasta water to make a creamy sauce.

Before serving, mix in parsley. Garnish with bacon and serve immediately.

How to be safer … Know your limits All drug use brings a risk of harm. Before heading out, know your limits and plan your night. Know how you are getting home, or where you are staying. It is a good idea to be with a group of people you know and trust when going out. Make sure at least one person remains sober in case things go wrong. Alcohol can stop your body from regulating temperature, and people have died from falling asleep outside on a cold night after drinking too much.

Eat a healthy meal before drinking and make sure food and water or non-alcoholic drinks are available where you are going. Other tips include: ►alternate alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks ►count your drinks ►be cautious about accepting a drink from strangers ►avoid drinking games ►set limits about how much you will drink and stick to them.

For more information go to https://www.drugfoundation.org.nz Family violence is a crime. It is not a private matter.

People in violent relationships often cannot help themselves.

They need your help.

In an emergency dial 111 and ask for the Police. Your call could save a life. Ignoring family violence could result in serious injury or death. Nearly half of all homicides in New Zealand are related to family violence.

I thought a thought.

But the thought I thought wasn’t the thought I thought I thought.

If the thought I thought I thought had been the thought I thought, I wouldn’t have thought so much.

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Mount Maunganui Main beach with its beautiful white sand is one of the most popular places for bathing under the sun. Surfers and boogie board riders out riding the waves. Mount Maunganui life savers are on duty watching over the crowded beach through the summer ensuring the safety of people. National surf lifesaving competitions and Volley ball competitions bring huge crowds to the beach in the summer months There is parking the full length of the beach and in the busy season it can be hard to find a park. Across the road are cafes offering many different food choices, coffees and refreshments with, a Copenhagen ice-cream store in walking distance. A short walk from the beach and you can enjoy shopping in downtown the Mount with many food / dinning outlets and boutique shops to choose from.

D Moore

Moturiki Island … Walk over to Moturki Island there are rocks to climb on and there is a blow hole at the far end which can be spectacular with the high tide. Take the camera and take panoramic shots of the coastline of Mount Maunganui Main beach.

There are two choices of beach in Mount Maunganui, we have the Mount main beach and then on the other side of the township we have Pilot Bay which is family friendly frequently without the waves. Pilot Bay has a lot of boat activities and welcomes the cruise ships. This brings a huge crowd to the beach with their fish and chips or home cooked food to watch cruise ships come and go, and taking the opportunity to get that one off photograph of spectacular sights.

It has a board walk which you can walk from Mount Pilot Bay wharf to the Mauao.

The evening sights are spectacular with the sunsets.

Pilot Bay is just a 5 min walk into downtown the Mount.

If anyone has photographs you would like to share in The Bay of Plenty InfoPac email to the above address

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Welcome back to another edition of Fire News. It has been a couple of months since our last correspondence. Over that time we have farewelled summer and welcomed in Autumn. The new season has brought with it, increased rainfall and the region has been subject to severe weather. It serves as a timely reminder to encourage our readership to ensure you have provisions in place should a civil emergency require you to evacuate your homes or be cut off from utilities such as water or power. More advice on this can be found at getthru.govt.nz ……………………………………………

The Fire Service has been kept busy providing aide with particular reference to the Edgecombe evacuations, Cyclone Debbie and the previous heavy rainfalls. These days the role of the Fire Service extends far beyond fire and as such will be renamed Fire and Emergency New Zealand on the 1st July 2017. This will reflect our greater role within the community and mark the amalgamation of the New Zealand Fire Service, the National Rural Fire Authority, 12 enlarged rural fire districts and 26 territorial authority rural fire authorities. All the information around this can be found at fenzproject.co.nz Day light savings recently rolled over which annually serves as a reminder to not only reset your clocks but to check that your smoke alarms are clean, working and to replace batteries on battery reliant alarms. Checking your alarms takes less than a minute. These instruments are your only voice in a fire should the worst happen. They detect a fire before it can develop into a significant blaze and they provide early warning to allow you to escape safely. If you have not already done so, check your alarms now. If they are looking worse for wear do not hesitate in replacing with a 10 year, long life photo-electric smoke alarm. This is the type of alarm that we recommend. A shock fact from the NZFS homepage - in all the fatal house fires we attend, 80% do not have working smoke alarms. I can recall house fries that I have attended where significant damage has occurred and during clean up smoke alarms have been found still in their packet or with the batteries removed.

You can imagine the bitter sweet hindsight of knowing that your house fire was preventable. Working smoke alarms save lives.

You may have recently seen the social media hype around the Fire Services latest initiative, Escape My House, an interactive gripping immersive experience that takes place inside a real house fire. It utilizes virtual reality (VR) and is a New Zealand first in innovation. You will experience first-hand the speed and devastation of fire from you smartphone or laptop. View it at h t t p s : / / w w w . e s c a p e m y h o u s e . c o . n z ……………………………… . . .

We recommend it be used by adults and children over the age of twelve years.

Stay safe out there.

SFF Josh Bishop Senior firefighter, Kawerau Fire Station New Zealand Fire Service DDI: (07) 323 1077 MOB: (027) 7228 626 Fax: (07) 323 1078

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Just like talking about sex won't make you pregnant, talking about death won't make you dead!

From the time we are born we are all dying, everything that lives must die - we plan for births and marriages and other significant events in our lives but most of us don't give our departure from this earth much thought.

Gail Mc Jorrow, author of NZ's best-selling Funeral Guide - 'Better Send Off' has now made it easy for you with her one-stop shop funeral website and book. The website is a first for NZ and has all the information you will need to learn not only how to save thousands of dollars on a funeral but also all sorts of ideas on how to personalise a funeral as well as leave a 'green' footprint website www.bettersendoff.co.nz $29.95

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Small but perfectly formed reads just arrived at the library.

Ethics Leading the charge that is most ideal for falling down the back of the couch cushions is Gregory Beabout’s Ethics: The Art of Character. Gregory helps readers answer old chestnuts such as; “What kind of person am I?” and “What should I do”. It is suggested you read and find out.

"What shouldn't you do" should be the theme of the next book: Ice Storm deals with the unpleasantness of the methamphetamine epidemic currently awash in New Zealand. Christina Stroud's selection of true stories from the frontline of the meth scene is "hard-hitting yet empathetic". Tools and strategies to combat the addictiveness surrounding meth is heartening.

Muck Diving by Nigel Marsh is an enlightening journey in to the underwater world of small undersea critters. It separates your nudibranches from your crabs with 352 gloriously-illustrated mucky shots! [hint muck = sandy or silty ocean floors]. Great for all the divers in the community, with most images from Southeast Asian/Australian destinations. These and many other larger books are now free for loan at your library. See you soon!

Paul Cuming | Collections Librarian, Tauranga City Libraries www.tauranga.govt.nz Council www.tauranga.govt.nz

Tauranga Library Monday - Friday 9.30am - 5.30pm … Wed late night 9.30am - 7.00pm Saturday 9.30am - 4.00pm Sunday 11.30am - 4.00pm Mount Maunganui Public Library: Mon-Fri 9:30am - 5pm Sat 9.30am-1.30pm 398 Maunganui Rd, Phone: 07-577 7177

Mount Maunganui Toy Library, Incorporated, Phone: 07-572 5228 Papamoa Public Library, Library, Public Toilets Opening Hours: Mon-Fri 09.30am-5.30pm, Sat-Sun 09.30am-4pm 15 Gravatt Rd, Papamoa 3118, Phone: 07 577 7177 Papamoa Toy Library: Inside the Papamoa Library Complex 15 Gravatt Road, Papamoa, Phone: 07 575 3011 Greerton Library: Mon-Fri 9:30am – 5PM Sat-Sun 09.30am-4pm 139 Greerton Rd, Phone: 07-577 7177

The Mobile Library The Mobile Library visits 43 stops on a fortnightly cycle. There are over 3,500 items to choose from The Mobile Library will bring any item from the Catalogue to your stop, for a Hold fee of $1 for an Adult, or 50c for Child or Teen.

Mobile Library Timetable May 2017

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Daylight saving has ended and it’s time to get your winter coat, electric blanket and heater from out of the cupboard.

But just like summer, winter brings its own unique set of fire dangers.

Follow these fire-safety tips to help keep you and your family safe and warm.

Fireplaces & chimneys • Clean chimneys and flues before your first fire of the season.

• Always use a fireguard or spark-guard with open fires.

• Never throw rubbish into the fireplace – particularly batteries and aerosol cans.

• Ashes can take up to five days to cool – always empty fireplace or wood burner ashes and ashtrays into a metal bin and pour water over them before disposal.

Before going to sleep, make sure your fireplace fire is out.

Electric blankets

Worn and old electric blankets can cause an electric shock, fire and possibly even death.

• At the first sign of wear have your electric blanket checked by a qualified electrician.

• Replace your electric blanket every five years with newer heat protected models, which are safer.

• Don’t place heavy objects on the bed while the blanket is on.

• Make sure the blanket is always flat on the bed and that controls or cords are not twisted or caught between the mattress and the base of the bed. Twisted cords are a common cause of electric blanket fires.

Roll your blanket when you store it for the summer. Don’t fold it.

Heaters & clothes dryers • After kitchen fires, fires involving heating and drying are the next most common reason the Fire Service is called out.

• Remember the heater-metre rule – always keep furniture, curtains, clothes and children at least one metre away from ……... . heaters and fireplaces.

• Don’t store objects on top of your heating appliance.

• Never cover heating appliances.

Don’t overload clothes dryers and clean the lint filter after each load cycle.

Portable LPG gas heaters

• When using gas heaters please take a few moments to consider the following safety precautions – they may save a life.

• Make sure the ceramic heater element is not broken or chipped and that the element guard is in place.

• Check to see that the hose is in good condition and doesn’t show any signs of damage or wear.

• If the heater does not light straight away, turn it off and then try again. Don’t let the gas build up before trying to relight it.

• Always have fresh air coming into the room where a gas heater is in use.

Have your heater serviced every 12 months.

Keep matches and lighters out of reach from children. Teach kids they are tools not toys, and they should not play with them.

Do you have a fire extinguisher?

Is your house number clear to read so that emergency services can find your home easily?

Children’s Nightwear – New Fire Hazard Labelling Whatever nightwear a child is wearing, fire is still a serious risk. Children should stay at least one metre away from the heater or fire.

Parents can choose safe nightwear for their child, but no clothes are fire-proof. When looking for safe nightwear, parents should choose the size that fits snugly. Baggy or loose nightwear can catch fire more easily.

Around the fire or heater

If a child is wearing high fire danger nightwear they should stay far away from the fire or heater. But even a ‘low danger’ label doesn’t mean there is no danger. Nightwear that say ‘low fire danger’ can still catch fire if the child is too close.

If there are young children in the house, parents should put safety guards around the heater or fire. Parents should teach children the ‘metre from the heater’ rule and watch that children don’t sit or walk closer than a metre to the heater or fire. http://www.consumeraffairs.govt.nz/mediacentre/wordofadvice/2008/20080616.html For more information on fire safety http://www.fire.org.nz/Fire-Safety/Pages/Fire-Safety.html Sudoku Answers

CC’s Prop Hire CC’s Props has a range of props that will enhance a theme for your event. Depending on the prop they stand 6ft and look absolutely fabulous. Bookings are required to secure the props for your event Just a few of many …. Hollow drums are also available.

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CC’s Bay of Plenty InfoPac, Phone: 021 501 200 —...— Email: ccsbopinfopac@gmail.com According to Roimata Minhinnick, Maori traditionally used the island for gathering Titi (Mutton Bird) and fern roots. Finfish, crayfish and shellfish were harvested from the surrounding moana.

Motuotau Island may also have been used for storing food as kumara pits can still be seen.

Ocean Beach from Mauao, Mount Maunganui (c1915-1920).

Photo: Tauranga City Libraries.

Motuotau Island (Mount Maunganui) Many years ago, the beach in front of Motuotau (Rabbit Island) was the scene of a massacre. Confiscated from local iwi after the 1864 Battle of Gate Pa, the island was returned and then later purchased by the Crown. Today the island is a wildlife sanctuary and home to 600 little blue penguins Motuotau Island, Mount Maunganui. Photo: Paul Cuming.

A small island located off Mount Maunganui's main beach, Moturiki Island has been the site of Moturiki Pa, Moturiki Quarry, Marineland and Leisure Island. Today it is a protected reserve and home to a wide variety of wildlife which includes a colony of little blue penguins.

Read about Moturiki Island Timeline: at http://tauranga.kete.net.nz/tauranga_local_history 1961: Moturiki, Mount Maunganui c1940s: Parts of Mount Maunganui campground looking toward Moturiki by Alf Rendell

Motiti Island is located off the Bay of Plenty coast of New Zealand's North Island. It is 21 kilometres (13 mi) north-east of Tauranga and 9.4 kilometres (5.8 mi) north -east of Papamoa. There were 18 homes occupied by 27 people on the island in the 2006 Census.[1] A relatively flat island covering some 10 km2 (3.9 sq mi), it is composed mainly of Miocene volcanic rocks, overlaid with more recent sediments in the south.[2] The principal activity on the island is agriculture, with a developing avocado plantation.[3] Most residents and visitors travel to the island by air.

Motiti Island, From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motiti_Island

Rangiwaea is accessible from Matakana at low water. It consists mainly of horticultural blocks run by the Maori owners.

It is of similar geological formation to the “bulge” of Matakana. The marae on Rangiwaea are Rangiwaea (Whanau a Tauwhao) and Oponui

Matakana Island (Tauranga) Mauao in the foreground with Matakana Island behind Matakana Island protects the sheltered waters of Tauranga’s inner harbour.

It extends for some 25 kilometres from the narrow and less used northern entrance opposite Te Kura a Maia, Bowentown Heads, to the south-eastern entrance to the port of Tauranga opposite Mauao (Mount Maunganui).

Matakana Island

The main island is divided into two parts. An elevated area of fertile soil where most of the inhabitants live bulges out into the inner harbour opposite the Omokoroa peninsula. It is protected from the sea by the long, low, sandy part of the island, which has supported a forest of exotic pines since the 1920s.

Tauranga libruary Local History http://tauranga.kete.net.nz/tauranga_local_history

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Walking the Mauao is a must do for anyone visiting Mount Maunganui The views are spectacular. Totally worth the climb to the summit There are many tracks, if you are up to a bit of a hike or a gentle stroll.

Important information No rubbish bins: so please keep Mauao tidy by not leaving any rubbish behind.

No Toilets: so do make a toilet visit before you start your walk. Toilets are opposite the boat ramp at Pilot Bay Gates: leave all gates as you find them. (open a gate close the gate) Vehicles: are not allowed except for maintenance and emergency purposes only.

Emergencies: in the event of an emergency dial 111.

Mauao Historic Reserve is administered by local Iwi; Ngai Te Rangi, Ngati Ranginui and Ngati Pukenga in the form of the Mauao Trust.

The Base Of Mauao is beautiful whatever the weather or time of year with beautiful scenery with seats along the way to sit and enjoy the views. Walking Time: 3.4km (Base track: 45 mins) Mount Maunganui Summit Track The 4 wheel drive track starts at the end of Pilot Bay on the western side of Mauao giving you views to the west (To summit: 40 mins) You have choices of down the steps on the Waikorire track which is reasonably step or back down the 4 wheel drive track onto the Oruahine track to the right with northerly views …

Waikorire and Oruahine tracks start from the ocean side of the base track. Follow the boardwalk in front of the surf club. The Oruahine track ends part way up the 4WD track. Turn left onto the 4WD track and continue to the summit, or turn off the 4WD track onto the Motu Kauri track, then turn left at the lookout intersection to go to the summit.

Katikati is about an half hour drive north of Tauranga, it is well known as the Mural Town with a variety of paintings displayed on the buildings that tell some of the history of the early Irish settlement. There is a beautiful display of hanging baskets along the main street which brightens up the town.

The continual growing of this wee town has plenty to offer visiting people with their cafes, shops, walkways and parks and public artwork. Take a stroll through Haiku pathway a great place for a picnic with family and friends. In close proximity of Katikati there are hot pools, bird gardens, Naturist Park, the Quarry park and many walks to enjoy the native bush and views over the harbor. Short drives north of Katikati is Bowentown, Waihi Beach, Waihi and Paeroa.

Enjoy a ride on a heritage train with Goldfields Railway.

Journey between Waihi and Waikino at the eastern end of the spectacular Karangahake Gorge (E: info@waihirail.co.nz) .

Walk or cycle the tracks and enjoy the rock formation, flowing river and native bush and birds.

Katikati Mural Town

Katikati Haiku Walkway

Take a day trip to visit The Martha Mine which is situated in the Waihi township (tours are available) There is so much to see and do in the Bay of Plenty area.

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Emergency Services Call 111 Give good clear Information and stay on the line

IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO ASK FOR HELP IF YOU NEED HELP YOU MUST ASK FOR IT …

IT’S NOT OK …

HELP STOP THE CYCLE OF ABUSE.

We equip people with the skills needed to participate fully in society. This includes support in living independently, getting around, usi technology, continuing to read and communicate, being socially active and staying in or looking for work.

Call us on 0800 24 33 33

Mount Maunganui R.S.A. CHESS Mount Maunganui RSA, 544 Maunganui Rd 7:30pm onwards tournament games New Zealand Chess Federation Inc "includes casual chess" School Term Mondays (excl. public holidays) 6pm-7:30pm includes established teaching program and games

Tauranga RSA, Greerton 1237 Cameron Road, Tauranga Fridays 5pm-7pm, "casual chess" longer if necessary for longer games.

Regional website: www.westernbopchess.weebly.com/

PHONETIC ALPHABET Alpha Bravo Greerton Markets Last Saturday of each month Greerton Hall 8am - 12noon 027 9082952 Charlie Delta Moggies Market 2nd Saturday of each month Katikati Memorial Hall Please Echo Maketu Flea Market 3rd and 5th Sunday of each month Maketu Village Green Email me Foxtrot changes Red Square Market 2nd Friday of each month Downtown Tauranga Golf to these Car Boot Sale Evans Road Community Church 3rd Saturday of each month.

Market dates Hotel Thankyou India Lions Bethlehem Market Historic Village, 1st/3rd Sunday each month 8am-12noon Juliet Cambridge Farmers Market Victoria Park, Cambridge ... Every Saturday 8am-12 noon Kilo Te Awamutu Twilight Farmers Market, Selwyn Park, Every Thursday 3.30pm-6.30pm Lima Frankton Market, Commerce Street, Frankton, Every Saturday 8am-1pm Mike November Hamilton Farmers Market, 204 River Road, Hamilton, Every Sunday 8am-12noon Oscar Omokoroa Lions Market 2nd Sunday of each month 9am-noon Western Avenue, Omokoroa Pappa Katikati Plant and Produce Market Every Friday 4pm -6pm A & P Showground's, SH2, Katikati Quebec Romeo Tauranga Farmers’ Market Each Saturday from 8am-12pm Tauranga Primary School, 5th Avenue Sierra Rotorua Night Market Tutanekai Street, Rotorua, Every Thursday 5pm-9pm Tango Soundshell Market…Lakefront, Rotorua 9am to 3pm… telephone Liz or Gordon 07 3325782 Uniform Victor Thames Market Pollen Street, Thames, Every Saturday 8am-12noon Whisky Peace Park Boon Street Whakatane 2nd & 4th Thursday till April X-ray Matata Reserve Main Road Matata 3rd Wednesday of every month. Site booking essential Yankee Gate Pa Car Boot Market by Tauranga Girls’ College. 934 Cameron Road 1st Saturday each month Zulu Tamahere Country Market St Stephens Church, Tamahere Hamilton, Every 3rd Saturday

Market Dates

Papamoa Lions Market. 2nd & 4th Sunday of each month , Papamoa Sports & Rec, Parton Road, Papamoa.

Mount Maunganui Farmer's Market Every Sunday from 9am-1pm Phoenix car park, Mount Maunganui Tauranga South Community Patrols Car Boot sale, Greerton Village School 8am.3rd Saturday of the month Whakatane Sunday Market Every Sunday. War Memorial Hall carpark 8am 1pm. Carol 027 3844 026.

The Taupo Market Riverside Park Reserve, Redoubt Street, Taupo, Every Saturday 09am-1pm Raglan Creative Market Old School Arts Centre, Stewart Street Raglan, 2nd Sunday each month 10am-2pm Waihi Beach Fresh Produce Market Community Centre, Waihi Beach, 2nd & 4th Sunday each month, 9am-11am The Little Big Markets, Corner Matai Street & Maunganui Road, 9am-2pm, 1st Saturday each month The Little Vintage Markets, Astrolabe Brew Bar, Maunganui Rd, Mt Maunganui 9am-3pm, 3rd Sunday each month Waihi Lions Market Memorial Hall, Seddon Street 3rd Saturday of the month.

Te Puke Creative Market, Memorial Hall Te Puke 1st Saturday each month 9am till 12.00 ‘Merivale Monthly Market Day’ Have a FREE stand to sell your stuff in Merivale. First Saturday of every month outside the CHIRP ‘Redezine’ store at 5 Merivale Road. Ph Judy, ph. 022 681 9867.

."Urban Gallery (ex Cargo Shed) 10 Eden Crescent, Brookfield, Tauranga. Fri, Sat, Sun 10am-4.00pm"

After Suicide Support Group.

Violence

‘Choice’ So many ideas, thoughts and pain

Many people believe that Domestic violence is only physical abuse. However, Domestic violence takes many different forms. It may also be psychological, sexual, financial or spiritual violence.

can spring out of this word when you have lost a loved one to suicide. At our ‘After Suicide Support’ group we talked about ‘choice’ in the context of ‘what now for our present and our future?’ “Saying the words I have some choice in how things go for me now is easier said than done” was one comment that got a lot of nods. Having the idea expresses an intention and that’s a good place to start. Just recognising that there are choices is another starting place. Perhaps ‘choice’ is something about steering yourself in directions that you somehow know serve you better. You might have a day where you know an afternoon on the couch under a rug is what you need—even though someone else might have other ideas for you; you get to make this choice. Or you might not feel like going to that dinner even though you know it would be good to go.

Sometimes the choice is between feelings and knowing and sometimes choices need a plan around them to make them possible….. “I’ll go to that dinner but take my own car so I can leave when I’m ready”.

Our group meets monthly, phone 578 4480 or email support@griefsupport.org.nz.

Physical Violence includes hitting, pinching, spitting, slapping, pushing, punching, kicking, burning, stabbing, strangulation, suffocating & shooting. It may also include threats to cause harm.

Psychological Violence (sometimes referred to as emotional or verbal abuse) includes put-downs, name calling, jealousy, harassing, screaming, using degrading language, insults, criticism, harming pets or animals, isolation from family and friends, and threats to leave the relationship or to commit suicide if the victim does not co-operate Sexual Violence includes unwanted touching or sexual activity, raping and forcing victim into unwanted sexual practices. It may include control over birth control, forced pregnancies or abortions and transmission of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD)

Financial Violence occurs when an individual uses finances to

control another individual. This could include forcing a person to hand over all or part of their salary or by denying someone access to their own finances, making victim ask or beg for money, forceful removal of money from victim

Spiritual Violence occurs when an individual uses religious or spiritual matters to control another, such as forcing another to follow a particular faith or give up their religion or justifying their violence as religiously and spiritually acceptable

“Good Grief” Time…how long does grief take? There are plenty of expectations about this, most of which aren’t particularly helpful to those grieving. ..………

Let's check out some of the common ‘myths’ about this. Myth: A grieving person should be over their grief after two weeks.

Reality: There is no definite timeline for grief; it may take weeks, months, years or a lifetime to process a loss. How long depends on the person, the situation and the type of loss.

Myth: The grieving person should definitely be "over it" within two months. Reality: There is no definite timeline for grief.

Myth: Grief declines over time in a steadily decreasing fashion.

Reality: Grief is more like a roller coaster ride with up times and down times. Myth: Once over a loss, the grief is never experienced again. Reality: A place, a smell, a song, or a special date may trigger the old memories. Grief may be experienced again. Myth: Grief ends after the funeral. Reality: Many people believe that life should return to normal after the funeral service. However, this may be the start of the .grieving .process as the shock and numbness give way to the reality of the loss. Myth: Grief eventually ends. Reality: In time most people learn to live with the loss.

(Taken from http://dying.about.com/od/lossgrief/a/ griefmyths_3.htm ) Grief Support Services is a local agency offering free counselling to individuals and families affected by loss and grief.

We also run an After Suicide Support Group.

For information or to make an appointment phone us on 578 4480. www.griefsupport.org.nz support@griefsupport.org.nz

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Alcoholics Anonymous and the Serenity Prayer:

Robbing that child So last month I was talking about getting teenagers to do jobs around the house. ‘Yeah good luck’ many people said. Sadly every parent that lets their kid off from contributing to household functioning is robbing that child the opportunity of learning how to share the load, how to work as a team, and is making problems for their offspring’s future partner.

How many times have you heard women complain about how useless their husband is? Often that uselessness is the responsibility of the mother in law, for they would do everything for him. Yes sometimes the wife is the useless one as well, so no, you are not getting away with that.

So learning to do jobs DOES start at home and they DO start young. Usually between about 3 years and 6 years of age, your kids really want to please Mum, or to help Dad. Our kids at that age LOVED helping me wash the car, and I was in the doghouse if I washed the car without one child in particular.

Yes sometimes it was easier and quicker to do it myself…….but it doesn’t help the child if you do it and don’t expect them to help. So let’s look at a couple of ideas Washing the car with Dad is a great way to connect with your child, and even if the car wash is patchy, live with it!! You may direct them to the easier jobs…..’Darling just do the wheels and Daddy will do the high sides of the car’ And then don’t have a meltdown if they turn the hose on you, expect it and laugh at it when it happens……my now teenagers know that revenge is a dish best served cold…….but don’t take that too seriously, remember age appropriate behaviour for adults, so that kids can understand With Mum during the day…..’Mummy is going to hang the washing out come and you can pass Mummy the pegs’ and then of course getting the washing in helping Mummy fold the washing or carrying the clothes hangers if the washing is going straight on the hangers. When all the washing is in ask them to put the pegs in the bucket, or ice cream container that you use to store the pegs……or are you a parent who just throws pegs on the ground….to be run over by the mower?!

Yes doing a chore with your child is often harder than doing it yourself, however in the long run it is not doing you, your child, or the relationship with their future partner because by then you will be like the mother or father in law that produced adults that are useless Have a good Month Donald Welsh, Parenting Coach

P.E.T (PATIENTS EMERGENCY TOILETRIES) CHARITABLE TRUST INC provides PERSONAL CARE PACKS of Toiletries to Tauranga Hospital Patients admitted under Emergency situations.

~ Aprox 7500 bags have now been given FREE to patients during the past 4 years this trust has been operating.

If a child gets admitted a Mum, Dad or carer can also have access to a pack. Items 'lurking' in your bathroom cabinet that you have collected from holidays or airlines? or maybe you are a local hospitality provider that has surplus items you would like to donate to this Charity?

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change Courage to change the things I can And wisdom to know the difference.

This prayer is said at the start and the end of most AA meetings. It has been around for many many years and was adopted by AA in the 1940's. How can such a simple prayer be helpful to an alcoholic? I can only share from my own experience, but this prayer has got me through some really tough times when I could have drank to block out the pain I was experiencing. It is so simple and also easy to remember, a bonus for me as my memory is shot at the best of times. I have said it over and over like a mantra sometimes just to keep me present to stop my fears about the future and fretting about the past. It makes me stop and pause, if even just for a minute, which will often keep my anxiety in check.

Look at the words...so much depth for a three lined prayer.

Serenity, Acceptance, Courage, Wisdom. Often I find that the higher my expectations are, the lower my sense of serenity and acceptance is. So it gives me time to pause and reflect Do I want to accept this situation? Do I have the courage to change it? And do I have the wisdom to know the difference.

The serenity prayer is not about doctrine or dogma, it is a life skills prayer, that we can apply and use in all aspects of our lives.

When first coming into AA and saying it we are accepting our powerlessness over alcohol, with the courage part, we can step into healing and sobriety, and the wisdom part is where we look at what parts of our lives we can and cannot change at the present moment.

Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no dues or fees for AA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. AA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses or opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics achieve sobriety.

There are meetings daily in the BOP area Phone 0800 229 6757 or www.aa.org.nz

*Motel sized: *Shampoo/Conditioner *Combs *Toothbrushes/toothpaste *Bodywash *Razors *Pens Collection points are: ►TODD GOWER (principal sponsor of the trust) ►EVES REALITY (all offices) ►BAYFAIR CHIROPRACTIC (648 Maunganui Rd) ►CC’s BAY OF PLENTY INFOPAC (610 Maunganui Rd, Mt Maunganui)

Chris Bishell (Principal Trustee) Ph: 575 9066 or 0274300988

Diabetes Nurse Educator is offering FREE clinic appointments to anyone living with diabetes or pre-diabetes who may need support or advice.

Contact Debbie and Diabetes Help on 07 5713422.

Clinics at Hairini Family Health Centre and Bongards Pharmacy Greerton by appointment only

WAVE (Women Against Violence Education) All people in Aotearoa have the right to live violence-free, but for many women in relationships this right is denied. The WAVE programme involves weekly 2.5 hour group sessions for a period of 8 weeks, which provides women with a supportive and understanding environment in which to share their experiences. It also provides a forum for women to learn about all forms of domestic violence and their impacts and about the positive action women can take to improve their situation. It is a Family Court approved programme Family Works on 07 575 9709 4 May – 22 June Time: 9.30am– 12.00pm (Noon)

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The Waikareao Estuary walk is a mix of sealed footpath, boardwalks and gravel, it is a great experience being approx. (2 hours, 10.00kms) Pushchair friendly (but it is a board walk so will be bumpy), Wheelchair no. Many bikers and runners use this track so be aware that they will approach from behind and in front of you. All dogs should be on a leash and under control.

Coach Drive Park is the one and only toilet on this walking track. The Waikareao Estuary is best started at Otumoetai keep to the left and follow the estuary all the way. It is a round trip through the tidal mangrove and marshland along with the native bush and birds and then a walk by the motor way to Chapel Street.

WHAKATANE

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You can finish off your walk at the cafes with refreshments before going back to your car. This can also be walked from the opposite direction being an individual choice.

Kaiate Falls known as (Te Rerekawau Falls) is roughly a 30 minutes' drive away from Tauranga with several water falls to view. Walk through native bush and enjoy the spectacular views of Mount Maunganui and the Port of Tauranga. Reasonably easy walk but can be slippery in places.

Water tumbles down cascading over the rocks in one, two and three tier water falls which make for good photography opportunity's.

This hidden gem has a water hole where you can relax, picnic and swim enjoying a 15m Waterfall among the puriri and kohekohe trees The walking track is a round trip returning you back to the car park. (Time: 1 hr return steep in places, some steps, moderate walk 5/10) Warning: the car park has been known for theft from cars, so don't leave valuables in your car. Unfortunately there are a few opportunists who will relieve you of your valuables while you are away enjoying your walk.

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