❖ Kendra’s Corner

Lizzo gives her oppinon on relationships

Lizzo was on the breakfast club. While there she talked about relationships, these are some things she said, that stood out to me. “ Monogamy is claustrophobic”, “ I can’t imagine being with someone for 10 yrs.”, Traditional relationships are scary”, A love relationship that’s not monogamous has no rules”.

For everyone who feels this way, everyone has their view of what they want, need and desire. However, I believe that when people feel this way it’s their way of protecting their heart, so they won’t get hurt, this is called a defense mechanism. When Charlamagne tha God said to her “ you guys might be together for 10 years” her response was “ we might”. This response lets me know that everything she said she doesn't want, is actually, everything that she desires. If she say’s she doesn’t want it, she won't be hurt if it doesn't happen. The bible say’s “ Do not rely on your own understanding.” ( Proverbs chapter 3 verse 5; New World Translation). The bible lays out what a relationship should look like and gives us rules that we should adhere to. Don’t change what you truly won’t because you haven’t found it yet and you don’t think it’s going to happen. It’s coming, just continue to work on you.

Defense mechanism:

Psychological strategies or behaviors that people may use to cope with difficult feelings, thoughts, or events.