CFGC Spring 2016 Newsletter

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What’s Inside Champions for Children Benefit.................................................... 2 ADHD Tips for Parents and Caregivers............................................ 3 Why It’s OK to Apologize to Your Children...................................... 4 Donor Spotlight............................................................................ 5

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Credits Brandon Smith Editor Michele Johnsen Copywriter Andrew Stuart Champions for Children Event Photographer

contributors Alpa Patel, M.D. Director of Psychiatric Services Kathleen Welch-Torres, Ph.D. Director of Programs

Executive Staff Roy Marshall, M.P.A. President/CEO Jeff Adler, Ph.D. Director of Operations Duc Tu Director of Finance Kathleen Welch-Torres, Ph.D. Director of Programs

CFGC Champions for Children honored music legend Dave grohl and CEO roy marshall

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n audience of 300 was star-struck on Thursday, May 12th, as four teenagers from CFGC’s Sonic Teens program took the stage to perform publicly for their first time with their mentor – 15-time Grammy-winning musician and two-time Emmy-winning director Dave Grohl. They learned how to write music from Grohl while bonding with him over pizza and long chats for months in CFGC’s Sonic Teens program– a Therapeutic Creative Arts program that helps adolescents who cope with depression and trauma to overcome challenges through song writing.

The performance took place on May 12th at the Skirball Cultural Center during CFGC’s “Champions for Children” benefit, which honors community members and mental health professionals who make exceptional contributions to the wellbeing of children and families. Grohl was honored for generously mentoring the Sonic Teens – sharing not only his impressive knowledge of music, but also his passion for helping vulnerable adolescents to build self-confidence and resiliency.

“It was an honor to work with these kids and CFGC on the Sonic Teens program,” said Grohl. “It was such an incredible experience – one that proved the power of music to heal.”

CFGC’s Roy Marshall was honored at Champions for Children for his lifelong service as an advocate for mental health and for leading CFGC as its president and CEO. Marshall has been instrumental in CFGC’s growth.

Under his guidance, the agency has grown to include six facilities in the San Fernando

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tips for parents who think their child may have adhd

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ttention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in children is highly treatable.

But, many parents are reluctant to seek help. Stigma and contradictory information about ADHD medications are a few contributing factors. But it is also understandable for parents to be confused. There is a very fine line between ADHD symptoms and normal childhood energy, fidgeting and not paying attention. Here are some signs to look for if you suspect your child may have ADHD. If you are not sure, please contact a health or mental health provider for an accurate diagnosis and possible treatment.

#CFGCtips Twitter 10 Things I Never Want To Forget About Raising An ADHD Child Read more

5 Ways to Help Your Sensitive Child in a Harsh World Read more Alpa Patel, M.D. Director of Psychiatric Services

Childhood ADHD Plus Anxiety Read more

1. Your child’s teacher or after-school caretaker informs you

that your child has behavioral issues.

2. You notice that your child shows significantly greater

activity, impulsivity and inattentiveness than other children his or her age.

3. You are aware that other children do not want to interact

and play with your child because he or she is too active, impulsive or aggressive.

4. Your child has greater than average difficulty in

completing school and homework assignments.

5. You feel you are spending significantly more time and

energy parenting one of your children, as compared with his or her siblings.

Alpa Patel, MD Director of Psychiatric Services For more information about CFGC’s psychiatric services, please call 818.739.5250 | 661.265.8627 or visit our web site at childguidance.org.

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four reasons why it’s ok to apologize to your children

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arents are only human. At one time or another, we have all wished we could take back something we have said or done to our children – especially if we have been stressed, tired or emotional.

Some parents are reluctant to apologize to their children because they don’t want to undermine their positions of authority.

But the truth is, being brave and mature enough to say you’re sorry to your kids can actually make you a better mother, father or caregiver, AND it can be good for young peoples’ development.

Kathleen Welch-Torres, Ph.D Director of Programs

Here are four reasons why: 1. Owning up to our mistakes sets a good example for our children.

Modeling for children HOW to say “I’m sorry” is much more powerful than simply insisting that they do so when they make mistakes. By observing your behavior, your children learn early about empathy and how to take responsibility for their actions. When children are shown appropriate respect, they are more likely to show respect for others.

2. Apologizing teaches children that we all make mistakes. Parents appear infallible to young children. When we say we’re sorry when warranted, it teaches our young ones that no one is perfect. They learn that it is OK to make a mistake, as long as we take responsibility and make amends to those we have hurt.

3. Apologizing is an opportunity to build mutual respect and a deeper connection with your children. Parents can apologize AND take the opportunity to discuss the situation with their kids and make plans to prevent it from occurring again. This builds open and safe communication, mutual respect and understanding.

4. Apologizing doesn’t mean giving up your authority. Stepping up and saying “I’m sorry” will not indicate to your child that he or she does not need to obey your house rules and respect you. Your child still knows who is boss! When you teach your children to both give and receive apologies gracefully and sincerely, you are preparing them to form healthy relationships with authority figures for a lifetime, as well as teaching them to become better leaders themselves.

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Donor spotlight: Michael Steiner

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ichael Steiner was a winner at the Champions for Children event auction on May 12th – and, so were children and families served by CFGC. Michael made the winning bid for a signed guitar from Foo Fighters’ Dave Grohl’s Signature Collection by Gibson. Michael’s $11,500 bid finally beat out another high bidder – singer Paul Stanley from the rock band KISS who graciously said, “OK, let him have it!” The proceeds from the sale of the guitar will help CFGC provide mental health and early intervention services for children and families in need.

Michael’s enthusiasm for winning the guitar came from both family and personal experience. He knows the importance of CFGC’s work because his sister-in-law, Kelly Steiner, is a member of the therapeutic staff team that runs Sonic Teens, a Therapeutic Creative Arts program created by Dr. Brette Genzel- Derman that helps adolescents overcome mental health challenges through music expression. (Grohl worked with Sonic Teens and personally mentored the participating teens.)

“The guitar is amazing, but it’s not the real reason I wanted to contribute money to CFGC,” Michael said. “Until you care for a child with mental health issues, it’s difficult to comprehend the true impact on families. What CFGC and Dave Grohl do helps people who need it most. I was determined to win the guitar because I want to stand behind and take part in what they do.”

Michael also supported CFGC through his company, Steiner Brothers Construction, which was an event sponsor for the Champions for Children benefit. CFGC is grateful to Michael for his generous support, and we hope you really enjoy that awesome guitar!

Champions for Children (Continued from page 2) and Antelope Valleys where it serves thousands of children and families each year. By honoring Grohl and Marshall together, CFGC recognizes that enabling children to thrive is a partnership between the organization and the community.

Board Officers 2015-2016 Melissa Broadwell, Chair Matadors Community Credit Union Ken Teasdale, Vice Chair Armanino, LLP Joyce L. Barkin, Treasurer Community Advocate Deborah M. Neal, Ed.D., Secretary Community Advocate Eric M. Book Morgan Stanley Alexis Casillas Newman, Aaronson & Vanaman Linda Drescher Community Advocate Robert Garcia, Jr., Esq. Law Offices of Jeffrey C. McIntyre Janice Kyser Community Advocate Myles M. Mattenson, Esq. Rick Pearson Cresa Sari Scheer Community Advocate Bonnie Weissman Kaiser Permanente Bill Winkelmann Community Advocate

“It is wonderful to receive this recognition, but the true honor for me is serving in a position that allows me to watch children and families thrive,” said Marshall.

The event raised more than $100,000, which will support CFGC’s mission to empower children and families to achieve health and well-being through innovative mental health services and community programs.

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2016 Champions for children benefit photos

Vivian Teasdale and Ken Teasdale

Left to Right: Jason Spencer, Lindy Pearson, Rick Pearson, Eileen Martin, Scott Martin, Vicki Mongillo and John Mongillo

Left to Right: Betsy Pfromm, Roy Marshall and Ian Hunter

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hank you for celebrating the TRANSFORMATIVE power of music with our honored CHAMPIONS Dave Grohl and Roy Marshall.

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Dave Grohl and Sonic Teen

Left to Right: Brette Genzel-Derman and Dave Grohl

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Colin Hay

Sonic Teen and Dave Grohl

our continued support will prevent the negative outcomes that impact the education, health and safety of today’s youth.

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Download Your resource directory today!

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FGC community resource directories are available in English and Spanish to help families locate social services within their community.

You can view and download each directory on our website at: www.childguidance.org/resources.

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We gratefully acknowledge and appreciate our generous donors June 1, 2015 - May 31, 2016 Lauren & Herbert Abrams Donald Adler & Bunnie Blender Beverly & Jeff Adler All Action Security Ronald E Altman Hiran Amerasinghe Susan Andraus George F Anisman Susan & John Ansen Ceil Arbetman-Larkin Erica & Jose Arrendondo Jane & Daniel Auerbach Maria Avila-Gengenbacher Jodi Baer Pynes Cindy & Jeff Ballard Joyce Barkin Dave Perren Jeannie & Andrew Berger Marion Berkovitz Eunice & Jack Berman Gitu Bhatia Jen & Jeff Bianco Miriam Birndorf Roberta Bliss Beth R Bloom Tom Bogan Rosanna Bogart Julie & Eric M Book Lesley Boone Saundra Borie Eileen Borow Julie Bowen Bryan Bradley Elaine & Michael P Bridge Sophie Briggs Kitty & Bill Broadwell Melissa & Rob Broadwell Paula Bruce Nancy & Leonard Bunyan Rocio Cabrales California Community Foundation Janet & Stanton R Canter Luana Carroll Denise & Albert Cartwright Cathy & Louis Casas

Alexis Casillas & Jordan Segall CBRE Jan & Daniel Chernin Elaine Cherry Child Care Resource Center Chopra Investment Group Inc Ken Chotiner Joy Coburn Robert Cohen Wendy & Frank Collie Joseph Costa Cresa Cares Foundation Cresa Los Angeles Corp Creative Artists Agency Areta Crowell Darla K Cunningham Kita Curry Linda & Frank Damon Eleanor & Bernard Davidorf Mark DeAntonio Paul DeCrette Jennifer & Joseph DeVita Barbara Dickson Erin Dolkart Joan & Dale Donalson Patti & Ronald Donis Linda Drescher Kathleen Drummy Marilyn T Durbin Karen Dyson E-Scrip East West Bank Meg & James K Easton Nannette Edelman Roberta Effron Earl English Marsha & Ivan Faggen Arlene Feingold Sharon Feingold Deborah Feldman Gilly & Henry Fenton Maurice Fields Lee Fink Firehouse Subs Connie & Jeff Fly

William Forthman Nadia & Raymond Freed Nancy Elise Gabriel & Ichiro Sugioka Mary & James Galbraith Garai Mailing Service Inc Robert Garcia Dana Garfin Rhona Genzel Brette Genzel-Derman & Derek Derman Judy & Jack Glantz Jeffrey Glick & Denise Sinaga Debra Gold Coralie R Goldsmith Bella Goldstine Michelle Golieb Carole & Rolf Gompertz Ornella Gonzales David Gordon & Donna Schwarzbach Marla Gorlick Ben Greenberg Wendy & Robert Greene Earl Greinetz Kathy Gribin Dave Grohl Brian Gross Shirley Haiman Natalie Hall Susan Hall-Marley Randi Halpin Bette Hamer Hamer Toyota Judith Hauss Colin Hay & Cecilia Noel Olga Hayes Dalia Hayon Vikki Helperin Randee Hilborne Marion Hillman Conrad N Hilton Foundation Marsha Hirsch Deborah Hoffman Stela Hollander Devery Noal Holmes Holthouse Carlin & Van Tright LLP Helene & Burt Homonoff

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ission: CFGC empowers children and families to achieve health and wellbeing through innovative mental health services and community programs.

Harry Horowitz Eunice Horwitz Stephen J Howard Hub International Insurance Ian Hunter Scott Ingerson Johnson & Pham LLP JustGive Estelle & Lester Kahn Kaiser Permanente Judith & Jerome Kaleko Lilli Kalmenson & Sid Rosenbloom Michelle Kaplan Sue & Hal Kassner Ronna & Robert Katz Monica Kelson Lori & Carl Kent Roberta Kessler Kaye R Kiddoo Kids Charities Erica Kim Diana & Jim Klescz Paul Klinger Barbara Kostin Barbara Kramer Donna Kramer Sheryl & Gary Kramer Kroger/Ralphs Grocery Company Geraldine Kurnick Janice Hayes Kyser Marsha Lacko Margaret & Randy Lapin Hope Lash Jill Lasky Sheryl & Don Lautenschlager Elaine Lax Kathy & Victor LeBreton Cecily & Adam Lerner Michael Levine Michele Licht Steven Lipton & Robbin Mashbein Beverly Little Lofton Lockheed Martin Aeronautics Employees’ Reaching Out Club Olivia Loewy

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Lauren Lookofsky Taylor Lookofsky Chasity & John Lousteau Evelyn Lowe Kenneth Lowe Etiennette Lowen Mary Lu Steven Lutzker Minda Magero Jennifer Malins Karen & Terry Mansky Rhea Markenson Roy Marshall & Eileen Lopez Eileen Martin Steven Martin Loraine Mason Matadors Community Credit Union Myles M Mattenson Nancy & Paul McCartney Eric McClay Edward McCloskey Eva McCraven McDermott & Bull Tara McMackin Agnieszka Medina Astine & Jack Megerdichian Melaleuca The Wellness Company Huey Merchant Microsoft Matching Gifts Program Michele & Zelber Minnix Ken Mintz Babs Mondschein Vicki & John Mongillo Susan Montalvo Diane Montano Kahea Mooney Harriet Moretzsky Carolyn Morris Marlene Motkin Scott Nalin Leslie Joan Nathan Deborah & Delmont Neal Susan & Joel Nevens Marlene Newell Newman Aaronson Vanaman

Teresa Nitescu Northeast Valley Health Corp Caroline Novack NPO Solutions Deedy Oberman Scott Oross Laura & David Pair Pampered Chef Park Parthenia Ltd Michele Parrish Alpa Patel Lindy & Rick Pearson France Pelis Jennifer Vargas Pemberton Nina Perry Elizabeth W Pfromm Eli Pindler Ronald Pinkerton Beth Pontrelli Maureen Powers Patricia Rambo Carolyn Raskin Dorri Z Raskin RCA Records Nathalie Rege Alexis Richards Debra & Barry Richards Randy Rider Warren Riley Jenny Roth Madlyn Rothfield Judith Rothman Stephanie Ann Saliger Bruce Saltzer Miguel Sanchez Reggie & Joseph M Scheer Sari Scheer & Eric Frank Carole & Larry Scherzer Scherzer International Sue & Michael Schmidt Miriam Schneider James Schrage Elaine Schreiber Greg Schuman Brenda Schwartz

V Merilla Scott Heidi Segal Julie & Martin Shaperman JoAnn & Gerald Shapiro Tara Shayne Brianna Shepard Vonda & Mitchell Shepard Judy Shvartz Carol Siembieda Sandra Sigman Silva Artist Management Louise & Charles Silverberg Cristina Solanet Carol Sookman Soriano and Associates LL Erin & Paul Stanley Danielle & Keith Steinbaum Rose & Andrew Steinberg Michael Steiner Maxine Straus Irene Strauss Esta Lynn Strober Andrew Stuart Sandra Stuart Diane Studna & Mark Gottlieb Maia Suckle Target Pamela & Rodney Taylor Vivian & Kenneth Teasdale Susan & Robert Thau Lisa Thompson-Boudreau Melissa Tillman Sandy Tilsen Maxine F Tobey Judy Todd & Dan Kee Judi & Steven R Tomingas Truist Duc Tu Andrea Tufts United Way Ilene Val Essen Valerie Vanaman Pamela Vasquez Guevara Heidi Vass Donna Venezio Colleen Warnesky

ision: We envision children and families flourishing in vibrant communities.

Maria Weitz Kathy Welch-Torres & Edward Torres Wells Fargo Bank Ruth & Alan Whitman Jeffrey Wiens Simona Wildman Delia Wilkerson William Morris Endeavor Maureen Willia Sydell & David Winer Bill Winkelmann & Joann Benjamin Jan & Stephen Winston Dawn Wood Woodland Hills Private School Bobbi & Paul Woodman Ryan Wunderlich Jihoon Yoo Ruth & Fred Zeleznick

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