Marriage—A Profound Mystery

by Matt Jensen

“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the Church” (Ephesians 5:31-32).

Family is the most important unit in society and the Church. Societies and churches are made up of families. Marriage—the covenant bond between one man and one woman until death—is the most important unit of the family. Without biblical marriage, families derail from God’s good design. When families derail, societies and churches derail. There is much at stake here!

Women have an indispensable role in this task (1 Corinthians 1:11-12). Finally, marriage is a supremely intimate relationship. It’s described as being naked and unashamed (Genesis 2:25). To know and love another completely in a physical and spiritual sense. To be one in communion even as you are one in union. This is the marvelous intimacy of a godly marriage. Paul can only call it a mystery! This mystery calls us to action.

A man must leave his father and mother. Not in an absolute sense, as if he can’t have anything to do with them anymore. It means that he leaves the authority of his parents’ house to become the head of a new family. This doesn’t exclude seeking advice, but much damage is done when a man slavishly follows the wishes of his parents to the detriment of his own family. Likewise, a woman is to leave her parents, and the two are to hold fast to one another. The moment you say, “I do,” your relationship with your spouse becomes your highest priority, second only to your relationship with God. It’s more important than your relationship with your work, parents, or even your kids. This is what it means to leave and hold fast to your spouse.

Not unhitching himself from the Old Testament, Paul quotes Genesis 2:24, saying, “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” The context of Genesis 2:24 reveals some important things about marriage.

First, God made man and woman in His own image (Genesis 1:27). Maleness and femaleness are not fluid. They’re not socially constructed. Maleness and femaleness are God’s chosen way of manifesting His own glory in and upon human beings. Secondly, woman was created as a suitable helper for man (Genesis 2:23). The task of filling and subduing the earth was primarily given to man; thus, the responsibility falls more heavily upon his shoulders. However, man can’t do it alone.

The staggering mystery and dignity of marriage is that it “refers to Christ and the Church.” It’s not merely for human flourishing. It’s a picture or living representation of the relationship between Christ and his Church. Christ was born, lived, died, and rose again for his Church. He enters an unbreakable covenant with Her sealed with His own blood and merit. The marriage has been established (union), and life with Christ has begun (communion). Christian, Christ knows everything about you and loves you! You may be reading this because you’re interested in marriage, but if you don’t know Christ, that needs to be your top priority. Knowing Christ is not the means to a good marriage. Marriage—as wonderful as it is—points to something greater than itself—a union and communion with God that is not ‘til death do us part. Death only ushers in the eternal celebration (Revelation 19:6-9)! Repent and believe the gospel.